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You Are Not A Frog

English, Finance, 1 season, 234 episodes, 6 days, 20 hours, 56 minutes
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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you're really good at what you do but you've noticed that you're starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you've spent years working towards. Here's the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don't have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again. Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it's like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she'll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.
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Why Loneliness Can Kill, and What to Do About it

Research shows that loneliness could be as detrimental to our health as cancer, and it’s not an issue affecting older people, but those in their teens and 20s. This episode offers practical steps to help you create more healthy, high-quality connections in your life.LinksThe dangers of loneliness – TEDx St AlbansDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" CourseWake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.🚨 Escape the urgency trap! Get your most important work done and find the time to enjoy your life
5/20/20241 hour, 1 minute, 44 seconds
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How to Set a Boundary No-one Can Break

Get more control over your time by clearly defining and enforcing your personal boundaries. Discover why it feels like people overstep them, and what to do when that happens.LinksDownload the THRIVE Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" CourseWake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.
5/13/202413 minutes, 27 seconds
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What to Do When a Colleague isn’t Pulling Their Weight

When someone on your team isn't pulling their weight, it's not only demoralising for the rest of the team, but detrimental to the person in question. If performance management isn’t put into practice, workplaces can become toxic, which can hamper performance and lower job satisfaction.High-functioning teams enable everyone to speak up, challenge each-other, and share their mistakes and learning. And it all starts with giving feedback.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMentioned in this episode:🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" CourseWake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.Take our quiz, and receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist
5/6/202451 minutes, 35 seconds
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Too Busy NOT to Pause

If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break?LinksHow to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171Download your THRIVE Week PlannerDownload your Overwhelm SOS guide
4/29/202419 minutes, 18 seconds
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How to find your voice

Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effectively.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Increase Your Confidence and Impact – Episode 198, with Dr Claire KayeWhat to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects – Episode 97, with Dr Joanna BircherHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75, with Annie HanekomMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz, and receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode PlaylistWork Well Webinars Find out more about our new Join the Spring season of our Work Well Webinars⭐️ Work Well Webinars
4/22/202453 minutes, 18 seconds
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Only You Can Choose Your Next Move

Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints.Download the Thrive Week PlannerDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte HousdenLife’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209, with Dr Sarah GouldingHow to Have More Impact with Less Effort – Episode 159Mentioned in this episode:Work Well Webinars Find out more about our new Join the Spring season of our Work Well Webinars⭐️ Work Well Webinars
4/15/202421 minutes, 6 seconds
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How to Make a Difficult Decision

Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Download your free Overwhelm SOS guideJoin the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupThe Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s bookHow to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri StevensonHow to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones
4/8/202444 minutes, 10 seconds
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What Happens When You Stay Too Long

It's easy to get comfortable in a role for too long, even when it's clearly time to move on. So how do you know when it’s time? And how can you make sure you’re moving forwards, not moving backwards?⭐️ Work Well Webinars If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”People in roles they don’t really want to be in end up underperforming, and can start to feel bitter and resentful. This frustration can leak out and affect coworkers and even family members.But there are some key questions you can ask yourself that will help pave the way for the next chapter in your career.Listen to this episode toLearn how to recognise when it's time to move on from a job or situation that no longer suits youDiscover how to view such changes as graduations rather than failures or lossesUnderstand how to maintain your self-esteem and relationships when making big changes in your lifeEpisode highlights[00:02:26] What else have you stopped doing?[00:03:57] Leaving well[00:05:29] How to not stay too long[00:08:45] Getting rid of the fear of the future[00:10:31] lSet a time limit[00:12:22] Focus on your North Star[00:13:25] Change just one thing[00:15:29] Throwing the toaster away[00:17:10] Balance advice with intuitionResourcesDownload your free Overwhelm SOS guideWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob BellHow to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina ScullFinding Your North Star – Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook groupEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work...
4/1/202420 minutes, 21 seconds
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How Money Holds Us Back

It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toLearn how our narratives about money can influence our actions and happiness, and how changing these narratives can free up creative energy.Understand how to disentangle our sense of self from our relationship with money, leading to a life that flows more naturally.Discover how acknowledging that money has no inherent power can shift our perspectives and affect our personal and professional development.Episode highlights[00:02:57] Our response to money[00:05:47] Money stories on a global level[00:09:25] Our individual money stories[00:13:20] The "lack-of-funding" problem within the NHS[00:16:29] The "time is money" story[00:19:31] Excavating your own money stories[00:21:52] Projections of money meaning[00:25:22] Selfishness and self-image[00:31:53] Healing unhelpful money stories[00:34:22] Tackling our projections head-on[00:43:25] Dealing with money conflicts[00:48:02] Money as an expression of appreciation[00:51:20] Every big change begins with a big lie[00:54:57] Agnes' top tipsAbout the guestAgnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives.Website&nbsp;LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;FacebookResourcesWatch the video version on YouTubeHow to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career&nbsp;– Episode 142, with Dr Tommy PerkinsDefining Your Own Success in Life&nbsp;– Episode 107, with Dr Claire KayeDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.<a...
3/26/20241 hour, 53 seconds
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Beware Your Kindest Colleagues

What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?⭐️ Work Well Webinars When we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from itIn this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for.Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.🤔 Take Our Quiz & Get a Personalised Episode Playlist Listen to this episode toHandle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support youFind friends who can give you an unbiased perspectivePinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutionsEpisode highlights[00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues[00:04:50] Our colleagues are human[00:11:38] You're all in the same boat[00:14:24] Knowing what you want[00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas[00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled[00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong pathResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDownload your free Overwhelm SOS&nbsp;guideFinding Your North Star&nbsp;– Episode 208Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it&nbsp;– Episode 177Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils&nbsp;–Episode 56Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work Well Webinars Find out more about our new <a...
3/19/202423 minutes, 24 seconds
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Smashing the Gender Pay Gap for Women in Medicine

Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive.⭐️ Work Well Webinars Listen to this episode toLearn about the efforts being made to address the gender pay gap in medicine and the progress that has been made so farUnderstand the concept of the authority gap and its impact on women in various fieldsGain insights into the importance of supporting and empowering women in the workplace and taking collective action to challenge cultural norms and inequalitiesEpisode highlights[00:05:23] Follow-up on the gender pay gap report[00:08:12] Addressing sexual misconduct in medicine[00:09:56] Expectations of women in medicine[00:14:17] The authority gap[00:16:33] Finding allies[00:20:42] Systemic failures leading to women not being heard[00:24:08] Everyday misconduct[00:26:27] Jane's story[00:30:07] The benefits of a non-linear career[00:37:09] The importance of authenticity and kindness[00:37:51] Sponsorship over mentoring[00:38:35] Maternal guilt[00:42:28] A letter to Jane's younger selfAbout the guestProfessor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;TwitterResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK)More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Be a Professional Woman&nbsp;– Episode 41 with Dame Jane DacreThe Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine&nbsp;– Episode 158, with Professor Chloe Orkin and Dr Nuthana BhayankaramHow to Be a (Happy) Working Parent&nbsp;– Episode...
3/15/202446 minutes, 32 seconds
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How to Tell People What You REALLY Think

Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.Listen to this episode toLearn about the three core conditions for effective conversationUnderstand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationshipsDiscover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflictsEpisode highlights[00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean[00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work[00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people[00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset[00:22:10] Saying what you really mean[00:27:27] Identifying your emotions[00:31:01] When to ask for help[00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback[00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback[00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant[00:48:53] Lasy's top tipsAbout the guestLasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.Website&nbsp;|&nbsp;LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck&nbsp;– Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-JonesHow to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour&nbsp;– Episode 192 with Dr Chris TurnerWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened to&nbsp;– Episode 180 with Tom DillonDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Mentioned in this episode:Take our quiz, and receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!<a...
3/12/202452 minutes, 57 seconds
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Why Setting Goals Alone Won’t Help

We often set goals in the belief they’ll make us happier. But setting goals alone might not be enough to truly help us&nbsp;thrive.In&nbsp;this quick dip, Rachel discusses why that’s the case, and offers a different approach to finding satisfaction and success.⭐️ The Trouble with Wellbeing Webinar It all begins with a shift in focus from goals to desires. Instead of starting with specific goals, we should first identify what we truly desire and what our basic needs are. This helps us align our actions and routines with what truly matters to us.Life’s too short to not love what you do, and vice versa. So it’s time to look at our own desires and needs, ask “What truly matters to me?”, and determine whether they’re aligned. Doing this will move you closer to a more fulfilling and satisfying life.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now Listen to this episode toStop starting with goals and focus on your desires and needsLearn about the four elements of your North Star and how they can guide youUnderstand the problem with outcome-based goals and why process goals are more effectiveEpisode highlights[00:01:31] Stop starting with goals[00:03:27] The four elements of your North Star[00:05:13] Figure out your "why"[00:06:01] Making space for your needs[00:08:30] THRIVE Week Planner[00:13:09] The problem with outcome-based goalsResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do&nbsp;– Episode 209Finding Your North Star&nbsp;– Episode 208Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work Well Webinars Find out more about our new Join the Spring season of our Work Well Webinars⭐️ Work Well Webinars
3/5/202420 minutes, 3 seconds
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Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do

There are times working in medicine or other high-stress jobs, when you feel trapped and unhappy. And maybe you’ve told yourself you have no other option but to stay put. These “shoulds” can come from societal expectations or the idea that you’ve put so much into your job already that it would be silly – or even irresponsible – to quit now.These myths and pressures keep us feeling stuck, and prevent us from exploring alternative possibilities within or outside of our current field.This week, Rachel is joined by Dr Sarah Goulding, who breaks open those myths, and shows how we can uncover new possibilities. It all starts by recognising we’re not defined solely by our roles, and embracing the idea that it's okay to change and to pursue work that aligns with our strengths and passions.Sarah also has a set of self-coaching questions that can help us discover what we’re going to do with our “one wild and precious life”.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to find a way of working that doesn't harm your well-being and allows you to be passionate and energetic in and out of workExplore the myths and societal pressures that keep us feeling trapped in our current careers and learn how to break free from themGain valuable insights into the importance of reflecting on your skills and experiences to uncover new career possibilities within or outside of medicineEpisode highlights[00:03:17] The job-for-life fallacy[00:07:53] Toxic expectations of gratitude[00:09:57] Availability bias and the sunk cost fallacy[00:15:41] Reinventing yourself[00:18:05] When's the right time to make a change?[00:20:55] Satisfaction outside of work[00:21:20] Your one wild and precious life[00:26:14] 2,000 weeks left[00:27:46] Taking imperfect action[00:31:16] Career crafting[00:33:26] Self-coaching questions[00:38:42] Crafting your joyful career path[00:45:36] The "I will be happy when..." myth[00:47:10] Sarah's top tipsAbout the guestSarah is a Career Coach for Doctors, passionate about the power of finding your place to thrive. She has 7 jobs, including GP; educator; mentor; and Head of Development at the Joyful Doctor.Website&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeWhy We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’&nbsp;– Episode 112, with Dr Sarah GouldingFinding Your North Star&nbsp;– Episode 208Bringing Your Best Self to Work&nbsp;– Episode 67, with Dr Sarah GouldingDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these...
2/27/202452 minutes, 35 seconds
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Finding Your North Star

We’re all seeking the perfect job or career path that will bring us happiness and fulfilment. But while we’re focused on achieving success, we can overlook the bigger stuff – and it’s possible that our current career trajectory might not take us there.That’s why we need to find and then follow our North Star. Finding it starts with prioritising four fundamental needs: feeling fully human, deep connections, meaning and purpose, and growth and learning. By aligning our goals with these needs, we can find true fulfilment.⭐️ Book Your FrogFest Ticket Now In this quick dip episode, Rachel outlines how we can understand what makes us feel alive, cultivate meaningful relationships and activities, and embrace continuous growth in all aspects of our lives.If we carry on putting achievement ahead of our own needs – especially if we’re doing so to please someone else – we may end up feeling empty and unsatisfied.But by tapping into those four fundamental needs, we’ll find ourselves on a path to a more fulfilling and balanced life.Listen to this episode toDiscover the four fundamental needs for true fulfilment in lifeLearn practical steps to align your goals with these fundamental needsUnderstand the consequences of prioritising achievement over fundamental needs and how it can impact your well-beingEpisode highlights[00:03:48] What are you aiming for?[00:06:06] The first core need: physical wellbeing[00:06:51] The second core need: Connection[00:08:00] The third core need: Meaning and purpose[00:08:43] The fourth core need: Learning and growth[00:09:42] The fifth element: A need to achieve[00:10:57] Your north star[00:12:07] Self-awareness[00:14:49] How do you need to live?[00:16:30] Don't get pulled southResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeDefining Your Own Success in Life&nbsp;– Episode 107, with Dr Claire KayeHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’&nbsp;– Episode 196, with Charlotte HousdenHow to Reconnect With Your Purpose in Life&nbsp;– Episode 94, with Dr Richard PileDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Join FrogFest, our one-day conference for busy people in high stress, high stakes jobs who want to beat burnout and work...
2/20/202423 minutes, 12 seconds
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How to get moving again when you feel stuck

We all experience moments of feeling stuck. Sometimes we have the motivation, but something’s in our way. On other days the simplest things can feel like pushing a boulder up a hill. Now matter how competent we know we are, that feeling of inertia can wreak havoc on our self-confidence. If we’re going to get unstuck and move forwards, we first need to find out what’s blocking us.The solution is to take a conscious leadership approach. This means shifting our mindset and becoming more aware of our reactions and thought patterns. By recognising when we’re “below the line” and stuck in victim mode, we can consciously shift “above the line” and take control of our actions and reactions.This week, Rachel is joined by executive coach and conscious leadership expert, Nicola Rylett-Jones. Nicola offers practical steps you can take today to embody the role of a conscious leader – even if you don’t consider yourself as having a leadership position.Living below the line makes us feel frustrated, demotivated, and without the ability to make progress. It can also make us less effective leaders and colleagues, more prone to agitation. But by becoming more aware of our triggers, we can work better together with less effort.Listen to this episode toLearn practical steps to overcome feelings of being stuck and gain control of your actions and reactions.Discover how to shift your mindset and become more aware of your reactions and thought patterns.Find out how to embody the role of a conscious leader, even if you don't consider yourself in a leadership position.Episode highlights[00:04:19] How we demotivate ourselves[00:09:38] Conscious leadership[00:14:58] Becoming unstuck[00:29:16] Getting a different perspective[00:34:00] Worrying[00:36:16] Tackling anxiety around complaints[00:38:44] It's time to take action[00:46:17] Guilt as a motivator[00:57:18] Nicola's top tipsAbout the guestNicola Rylett-Jones is a senior leader who has held both regional and national Director roles with some of the UK’s most prestigious organisations. She is currently a Trustee and Deputy Chair of the Institute of Leadership, executive coach and relationship manager for the Welsh Government’s Accelerated Growth Program, and chair of two leading marketing organisations.Website&nbsp;|&nbsp;LinkedInResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubePassing the Naughty Monkey Back&nbsp;– Episode 65, with Dr Amit SharmaHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People&nbsp;– Episode 75 with Annie HanekomConversations Which Will Get You Unstuck&nbsp;– Episode 95 with Annie HanekomDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Apply for Nicola’s Conscious Female Leadership programme<a...
2/13/20241 hour, 8 minutes, 18 seconds
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The Most Powerful Question You Can Ask Yourself About Your Work

If you were in a life-or-death scenario and the only path out was over hot coals, would you take it? Of course. But when it comes to situations that are making us uncomfortable or even miserable, we seldom want to experience that discomfort to get to what we know will be better for us.In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores the importance of considering the long-term impact of our work, and offers a single question you can ask yourself right now, to discover what you really want to do with your one wild and precious life.If you’re on a burning platform or in a situation that could get worse, you can make a change – even if it's a small one. Any change can help you break free from the status quo.Listen to this episode toDiscover the importance of considering the long-term impact of your work on your well-being, mindset, character, and relationshipsLearn practical steps to recognise short-term discomfort, assess risks and benefits, seek external perspectives, and take action towards positive changeUnderstand what happens if you ignore the impact of your work, and how to create a fulfilling work life by addressing this problemEpisode highlights[00:02:12] Walking across hot sand[00:04:20] The burning platform[00:06:46] What is your work doing to your mind, your character, and your relationships?[00:08:14] Should I stay or should I go?[00:09:19] Where to go for guidance[00:10:07] Taking actionResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Live With No Regrets&nbsp;– Episode 123 with Georgina ScullHow to Say F**k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters)&nbsp;– Episode 130 with Jon C ParkinShould I Stay or Should I Go?&nbsp;– Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-BarnesDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work Well Webinars Find out more about our new Join the Spring season of our Work Well Webinars
2/6/202412 minutes, 2 seconds
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How to Feel Confident in Any Situation

If you’re in a job where you use your brain a lot, it can be easy to feel disconnected from your body and emotions. This in turn can lead to a lack of self-awareness and even difficulty in expressing yourself. That lack of awareness changes how we outwardly express ourselves, even in ways we’re not aware of.But by becoming consciously connected with our body, we can get a bit more control over our thoughts, feelings, and behaviours, and over how others see us.This week, Rachel is joined by coach and trainer Helen Leathers, who shows us how our posture, our movements, even the way we dress, can affect not only our mood, but how we’re perceived at work. She also shares a practical exercise that can help us cultivate stillness, so we appear more confident and open.It’s natural for those of us in cerebral jobs to see the body as just a vessel for the brain. But if we disconnect for too long, we can find it harder to tap into, understand, and express difficult feelings like stress and overwhelm.But there are simple things you can do to reconnect with your body, to literally shake off those negative feelings, and to “fake it ‘til you become it”.Listen to this episode toLearn practical steps to cultivate self-awareness and express yourself more effectivelyDiscover how becoming consciously connected with your body and emotions can lead to positive changes in your lifeUnderstand the practical applications of embodiment, and separate it from the pseudoscienceEpisode highlights[00:04:50] Consciously connecting body and mind[00:13:28] How posture and movement affects how we're perceived[00:16:34] Fake it 'til you become it[00:17:41] How we dress is a signal to our body[00:19:52] Embodiment and overwhelm[00:28:08] Acknowledging where feelings sit in our body[00:32:37] Shake it off[00:38:58] Does it matter where in your body you feel something?[00:43:35] Helen's embodiment tipsAbout the guestHelen Leathers is a transformational coach with expertise in helping people use their body to access thoughts and emotions. She helps women who feel lost or overwhelmed to find their way in life again, and teaches doctors coaching and communication skills.Website&nbsp;|&nbsp;LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;YouTubeResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeTiny Habits, Big Changes&nbsp;– Episode 2, with Dr Katherine HickmanWhat Happens When We’re Really Listened to&nbsp;– Episode 180, with Tom DillonDoctors’ Transformational Coaching Diploma&nbsp;–&nbsp;Use the code FROGSPAWN for an exclusive discountDownload the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.Enjoyed this...
1/30/202450 minutes, 16 seconds
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How to Get Out of a Toxic Shame Spiral

We all experience shame from time to time, but when it becomes toxic, we can end up in a shame spiral from which it's difficult to escape. When we’re called out on something about which we feel shameful, it can make us defensive. And so often, no-one can punish us as harshly as we punish ourselves.In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her strategy to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindset; by sharing our shame, taking some perspective, and seeking support from others. She unpacks her SHAME model that was inspired by a recent spiral, which is a simple five-step framework for working through the sensations of shame and finding a way to be kinder to ourselves.Shame doesn’t make us better people – it only makes us harder on ourselves and leads to us being defensive. So this episode offers a chance to break free of that spiral, remember that we’re human, and remind ourselves we’re doing our best.Listen to this episode toDiscover how shame can impact our internal mindset and contribute to burnoutLearn about the complex nature of shame and how it shows upExplore strategies and techniques to break free from shame spirals and cultivate a healthier mindsetEpisode highlights[00:02:09] What's on your pop bottle label?[00:03:14] When our actions clash with our values[00:07:30] What our ingrained stories tell us[00:13:20] Share your shame[00:14:35] Hang outwith useless friends[00:15:37] Awe[00:16:42] Multiple identities[00:19:17] Empathy and understandingResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video version on YouTubeHow Do You Say No When Someone Might Die?&nbsp;– Episode 193Why Can’t I Say No?&nbsp;– Episode 163How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout&nbsp;– 152 with Sandy MilesHow to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim&nbsp;– Episode 92 with Dr Caraline Wright &amp; Dr Lizzie SweetingTara Brach leads a Guided Meditation: The Practice of RAINDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:FrogFest – March 2024 Join our one-day conference for busy people in high stress,...
1/23/202424 minutes, 30 seconds
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Getting a Breakthrough by Using Your Right Brain

When we’re presented with a difficult problem, naturally we use logic and reasoning to solve it. But some problems – like stress and burnout – can’t be solved with logic alone.The left hemisphere is the area of the brain focused on tasks, logic, and problem-solving. But the right hemisphere deals with relationships, connections, and new perspectives. It’s also visual and metaphorical, so it can help us see problems in a different way. So our right brain can help us live more easily with problems that can’t be solved by the left.This week, executive coach Yda Bouvier explains how introducing visuals can activate our right brain and give us new perspectives and insights, which can help us understand complex issues, improve problem-solving, and enhance our connection with others.Over-relying on our left brain can leave us struggling with complex relationships, focusing too much on threats, and making it harder to adapt. But by incorporating more visuals and movement, we can tap into the power of our right brain and unlock new insights and possibilities.Listen to this episode toLearn how using the right brain can help us manage high-stress jobsDiscover how visuals, metaphor, and movement can activate the right brain and give us new perspectivesUnderstand the role of the right brain in problem-solving, intuition, and dealing with complex situationsEpisode highlights[00:02:55] The right brain[00:05:28] Left brain vs right brain[00:08:41] Yda's journey[00:10:47] Are we usingrelying too much on our left brain?[00:15:08] The impact of switching to right-brain thinking[00:18:02] How does the right brain help solve wicked problems?[00:22:40] The left brain and the ego[00:25:27] Making practical use of the right brain[00:30:22] Left and right brains in relation[00:32:52] The power of metaphor and images in communication[00:44:05] Exercise: What to do with a big problemAbout the guestYda Bouvier is an executive coach with 15 years of experience helping individuals and teams navigate challenges and develop their potential. Yda has a background in strategy consulting and holds a degree in physics. She is the author of the book "Leading with the Right Brain" and is passionate about incorporating right-brain thinking into problem-solving and decision-making processes.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWatch the video versionHow to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About&nbsp;– Episode 106, with Dr Caroline WalkerHow to Feel Happy, Calm, and Connected&nbsp;– Episode 170,Dr Giles P Croft withLeading with the Right Brain&nbsp;–&nbsp;Yda’s bookDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these...
1/16/202451 minutes, 26 seconds
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The Three-Step Plan for Getting Your Sh*t Together

So you’ve got a problem, maybe a relationship issue at work or difficulties managing your workload. You’ve talked it with friends, but the solution won’t present itself. Often the problem isn't that we lack solutions, but rather that we haven't fully understood what the problem is in the first place.In this quick dip episode, Rachel shares her three-step model to help you identify and address the real problem you’re facing. It involves recognising we have choices, embracing our human needs and limitations, and thinking differently.If we keep doing what we've always done, we'll continue getting the same results. But changing our mindset can give us confidence and the ability to approach situations from a fresh perspective.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to identify and solve the underlying problems that are driving you mad and hindering your progressLearn why focusing on resilience alone might not address the real issues causing stress and underperformanceExplore a practical model that will help you make the right choices, embrace your human needs, and think differently to achieve better outcomesEpisode highlights[00:01:15] What's the real problem?[00:03:21] Making the right choices[00:04:28] Be human[00:05:01] Think differently[00:05:22] Putting the three Cs into practice[00:09:31] What language are you using?[00:11:21] The Shapes ToolkitResourcesWatch the videoTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Be REALLY Productive… Without Losing the Plot&nbsp;– Episode 190 with Graham AllcottHow to Know if You’re Being “Resilience Victim Blamed”&nbsp;– Episode 145How to Say No and Deal with Pushback&nbsp;– Episode 1252 with Annie HanekomDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Learn everything you need to run a thriving GP practice Apply now for the Medics Money GP partnership course, starting in February.
1/9/202413 minutes, 53 seconds
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How to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation

Faced with a difficult situation, we often ask the question “should I stay or should I go?” It could be about work, a relationship, or something more personal. We all face this question at various times in our life, and it can be overwhelming to make a choice when we’re scared of the unknown.This week, we’re revisiting&nbsp;a discussion with Corrina Gordon-Barnes, about how to tackle the decision-making process. Instead of relying on traditional methods like pros and cons lists or seeking advice from others, Corrina suggests a different approach, which involves noticing the difference between facts and thoughts, and recognising when we have the power to leave rather than simply tough it out.When we keep ourselves trapped in the limbo of indecision, when we’re neither fully committed nor able to make a decisive choice, this can leave us frustrated and angry. Those frustrations can boil over into our home and work lives, or make an uncomfortable situation even worse.But by taking a moment to reflect on our current situation, we can start the process of questioning and gaining clarity, therefore revealing the choices we do have.Listen to this episode toLearn how to make difficult decisions when facing a dilemma of staying or leaving a situation, whether it's work, relationships, or friendshipsUnderstand the importance of questioning your thoughts and beliefs that may be causing stress and hindering decision-makingDiscover a fresh perspective on decision-making and a simple technique to gain clarity and make informed choicesEpisode highlights[00:04:13] The importance of belonging[00:06:42] Making a difficult decision[00:13:31] Separating fact from thought[00:16:26] Counteracting the "That's just the way it is" story[00:21:57] Questioning your stories[00:28:58] Acceptance[00:33:05] Shoulds[00:35:36] You have a choice[00:44:33] What are the consequences of not doing what we "ought"?[00:49:03] Corrina's top 3 tipsAbout the guestDr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerDownload the&nbsp;Zone of Power handoutMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to take control of your thoughts&nbsp;– Episode 32, with Corrina Gordon-BarnesDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.The Work of Byron...
1/2/202454 minutes, 13 seconds
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What Shame Made Me Do

If you have a high-stakes job like medicine, shame can show up in unexpected and unwelcome places. Doctors have incredibly high societal expectations, with constant pressure to be invulnerable. It’s time to challenge these unrealistic expectations and foster an environment that supports doctors in their vulnerability.This week, we’re featuring one of our most popular and impactful episodes from 2023 to help you identify and combat shame. In this episode, Dr Sandy Miles discusses the impact of shame on doctors and how we can address it by changing the toxic stories we tell ourselves.We all make mistakes, but shame keeps us from being objective and fair, leading us feeling like we’re inherently bad or wrong. Finding ways to be kinder and more supportive to ourselves will help not only our wellbeing, but will brighten the lives of those closest to us.Listen to this episode toDiscover the powerful impact shame has on us, and how our wellbeing and professional identity can be affectedExplore the different ways we respond to shameLearn how to create a healthier and more supportive environmentEpisode highlights[00:04:37] What is shame?[00:11:56] How identities are tied to shame[00:15:16] How people respond to shame[00:17:40] How to respond to shame[00:26:43] Shame and perfectionism in healthcare[00:31:31] How to overcome maladaptive perfectionism[00:34:22] Fostering a growth mindset[00:36:44] How to combat shame[00:47:01] Where to find help[00:48:40] Sandy's top tips for deadling with shameAbout the guestSandy Miles is a practising GP and a medical educator. She is also the co-founder of Acacia Retreat, holding bi-annual retreats for doctors feeling overwhelmed. Passionate to help fellow medical professionals, Sandy has written several research articles about shame and maladaptive behaviours in the medical industry — such as perfectionism in healthcare workers.Sandy gained her Bachelor of Medicine from the University of London and then earned her Master of Science in Medical Humanities from King’s College London.Twitter&nbsp;|&nbsp;FacebookResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim&nbsp;– Episode 92, with Dr Caraline Wright &amp; Dr Lizzie SweetingThis is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor,&nbsp;by Adam KayBooks&nbsp;and&nbsp;videos&nbsp;from Brene BrownShame and MedicineShame in Medicine: The Lost Forest, a 10-part documentary podcast produced by the NocturnistsShame and MedicineMindset: Changing the Way You Think to...
12/26/202354 minutes, 27 seconds
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How to Survive the Holiday Season

The Christmas season can be a time of stress and disappointment, especially when our expectations don't match up with reality. We can find ourselves dealing with difficult family members, feeling overwhelmed with work and family obligations, or experiencing a general sense of dissatisfaction.But there’s plenty we can do to make the festive period more enjoyable and less overwhelming.This week, we’re revisiting a previous conversation on the podcast, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes. In her chat with Rachel, you’ll learn how to turn expected disappointments into a game of bingo, set realistic expectations, and exercise some self-compassion.By taking proactive steps, we can create a more positive and fulfilling Christmas experience.Listen to this episode toLearn strategies to cope with the expectations and negative experiences that come with the holiday seasonDiscover the concept of playing "Christmas Bingo" to approach disappointments with humour and acceptanceGain insights on how to navigate triggering situations and avoid falling into familiar patterns of conflictEpisode highlights[00:03:59] Christmas disappointments[00:09:02] Christmas Bingo[00:13:30] What you can do to avoid disappointent[00:16:19] Playing out the old dances[00:21:33] Your zone of power[00:27:15] Lowering your expectations[00:39:20] Self-compassion in the face of disappointment[00:43:39] Hunt the Pony[00:44:51] Handling regret[00:49:22] Corrina's top 3 tipsAbout the guestDr Corrina Gordon-Barnes, CPCC, coaches new managers in time management and giving effective feedback. She’s passionate about seeing workplaces where colleagues speak honestly, give and receive feedback gracefully, and act with integrity. She believes these environments make it much easier to be innovative and effective, hit deadlines, and create the most powerful impact.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerShould I Stay or Should I Go?&nbsp;– Episode 89 with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive&nbsp;– Episode 88 with Rob BellDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected]<a href="http://www.shapestoolkit.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
12/19/202354 minutes, 43 seconds
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How to Increase Your Confidence and Impact

If you're like most people, you'll have experienced moments when your confidence wavers, leaving you unsure of yourself and holding back from reaching your full potential. But what if there was a way to increase your confidence and make a greater impact in your personal and professional life?This week, Dr Claire Kaye joins Rachel to explore the power of confidence and how it influences our lives. They dive into the common challenges we face when it comes to confidence, whether it's feeling underconfident, lacking self-belief, or dealing with the negative self-talk that holds us back.But this episode isn't just about identifying the problem – it's about finding practical solutions. Claire and Rachel discuss strategies to boost your confidence in a genuine and authentic way, helping you navigate through life's uncertainties and excel in various areas. They emphasise the importance of knowing yourself, understanding your values, and embracing vulnerability as a pathway to personal growth and success.If you're tired of letting self-doubt hold you back, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable tips to help you increase your confidence, impact, and overall fulfilment.Listen to this episode toLearn practical strategies to boost your confidence and make a greater impact in your personal and professional life.Explore common challenges related to confidence, like feeling underconfident, lacking self-belief, and dealing with negative self-talk.Discover how to be more confident in an authentic and genuine way, without resorting to acting or disingenuous behaviour.Episode highlights[00:03:16] Confidence and positive outcomes[00:07:28] What a severe lack of confidence can do[00:10:12] What is confidence?[00:15:55] What makes people lose their confidence[00:21:39] Building your confidence[00:24:44] Fear of failure[00:30:33] How environment affects confidence[00:34:01] Comparison[00:40:14] Tackling your inner critic[00:49:43] Claire's 10 top tips for building confidence[00:52:03] Where to find ClaireAbout the guestDr Claire Kaye, an executive career coach who specialises in career development and perimenopause and menopause in the workplace. She works with women who are experiencing symptoms of the menopause and helps them find ways to thrive while maintaining their careers and personal lives.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesDownload your copy of the Stress Curve graphTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Deal With Your Inner Critic&nbsp;– Episode 197The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)&nbsp;– Episode 117, with Dr Claire KayeHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive&nbsp;– Episode 88, with Rob Bell<a...
12/12/202355 minutes, 17 seconds
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How to Deal With Your Inner Critic

We can learn how to say no to other people, but often don’t say no to ourselves or to our inner critic who’s always telling us we can do more or be better. We become our own worst enemy when it comes to setting boundaries and prioritising our own needs. This is why we need self-compassion, and to overcome the toxic self-talk that often fuels our negative self-talk.In this quick dip, Rachel will help you name the critical voice and acknowledge its presence, explore the underlying triggers and needs that contribute to self-criticism, and treat yourself with kindness and understanding, just as you would a close friend.When we pay too much attention to our inner critic, we risk feeling more stressed, putting strain on our relationships, and overall negatively impacting our wellbeing. So it’s time to challenge that negative self-talk and replace it with compassionate. No only will it benefit you, but it’ll benefit those close to you, too.Listen to this episode toDiscover the impact of toxic self-talk and how it affects our relationships and self-perception.Explore the importance of self-compassion and its role in enhancing relationships and personal growth.Gain practical tips and techniques for dealing with your inner critic and cultivating self-kindness.Episode highlights[00:01:52] Toxic self-talk[00:04:11] Self-compassion[00:04:57] Shame[00:05:57] Boss bitch[00:09:12] When our amygdala goes too far[00:10:04] Motivating with the stick, not the carrotResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum&nbsp;– Episode 174, with With Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’&nbsp;– Episode 196 with Charlotte HousdenThe Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)&nbsp;– Episode 117, with Dr Claire KayeDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Learn everything you need to run a thriving GP practice Apply now for the Medics Money GP partnership course, starting in February.
12/5/202313 minutes, 38 seconds
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How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’

Do you find yourself trapped by the expectations and pressures of what you think you “should” be doing? Is there a voice in your head, berating you for not living up to their standards? If so, you might be experiencing the tyranny of the shoulds.You’re not alone in feeling overwhelmed or uncertain. But it turns out that hearing others' stories can help you realise that your struggles are common. Also, if you rely on others for feedback it’s important to know whom to ask and when, so you don’t end up with an over-eager cheerleader or someone who’ll burst your bubble before its time.In this episode, Charlotte Housden discusses her research on successfully navigating change and how we can escape that nagging, finger-wagging presence we all have from time to time.That voice of doubt and fear can trap us in a cycle of unhappiness and unfulfilment. It might mean we miss out on opportunities for growth, personal development, and finding true satisfaction in our lives and careers. But by remembering that you are not your thoughts, you can start to free yourself from the tyranny of the shoulds.Listen to this episode toGain insights from interviews with 108 people in 27 countries on successfully navigating change in life.Understand the importance of hearing others' stories, and how it can make you feel less alone.Get the resources you nee to facilitate and sustain change.Episode highlights[00:06:50] The importance of knowing you're not alone[00:09:27] Stories and consequences of change[00:11:14] How to give feedbgack[00:17:15] Delaying gratification on a new project[00:18:59] What to do when you feel you need to change everything at once[00:23:46] Job crafting[00:25:51] The shift in the psychological contract[00:29:10] The tyranny of the shoulds[00:33:39] Midroll[00:36:12] The three musts[00:37:39] You are the sky. Everything else is just the weather[00:40:32] You are not your thoughts[00:43:42] What most medical students aren't taught about their own thoughts[00:47:51] What doctors need to make it to the top[00:50:11] The key to greater productivity[00:52:50] Charlotte's top tipsAbout the guestCharlotte is a chartered coaching psychologist helping individuals to navigate their organisations and careers. She has interviewed 108 people in 27 countries identifying how they successfully navigate change and is the author of&nbsp;Swim Jump Fly: A Guide to Changing Your Life.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:What Happens When We’re Really Listened to&nbsp;– Episode 180, with Tom DillonHow to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim&nbsp;– Episode 92, with Dr Caraline Wright &amp; Dr Lizzie SweetingJob Crafting for Happiness&nbsp;– Episode 144, with Kirsten Armit, Dr Colin Lindsay, and Dr Daljit HothiSwim Jump Fly: A Guide to Changing Your Life&nbsp;– Charlotte’s bookCharlotte’s&nbsp;<a...
11/28/20231 hour, 1 minute, 12 seconds
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Am I Burning Out?

If your job is demanding, jou've probably wondered at some point if you're burning out. The constant stress and pressure in health and social care especially can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. But ignoring the signs of burnout can have serious consequences, affecting not only our performance but our wellbeing and our relationships too.In this quick dip episode, Rachel introduces the Stress Curve and how it can help you recognise if you're nearing burnout. She explains the different stages of the curve and provide practical steps you can take to prevent burnout and perform at your best. It's about finding what works for you and making small changes that add up a big impact.Listen to this episode toRecognise the signs of burnout and its consequences, so you can prioritise your wellbeing and relationships.Learn from real-life experiences and to prevent burnout, tailored to the unique challenges faced by people in healthcare.Discover the stress curve model as a tool to assess your current position and make small, impactful changes to improve your wellbeing and performance.Episode highlights[00:01:43] Check your battery level[00:02:43] Symptoms of burnout[00:03:47] The stress curve[00:05:59] Not enough pressure to perform[00:07:29] Dropping off peak performance[00:08:26] Early signs of burnout[00:09:18] Take a snapshop [MIDROLL][00:10:26] Where are you on the stress curve?[00:13:01] What factors are contributing to how you feel?[00:13:32] What are your early warning signs?[00:15:38] What small steps can you take?[00:17:14] Stay in your zone of powerResourcesDownload a copy of the graphWatch the video to see the graphTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout&nbsp;– Episode 188 with Nick PetrieEmbrace Your Capacity, Not Your Limits&nbsp;– Episode 176 with Dr Sarah CoopeIs it ‘Normal’ Not to Cope?&nbsp;– Episode 143Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Yerkes–Dodson lawEnjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Work Well Webinars –...
11/21/202319 minutes, 15 seconds
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How to Manage Your Energy if You're a Highly Sensitive Person

Managing your energy can be a challenge at the best of times. But if you’re a highly sensitive person, you might be more prone to burning out due to your unique traits and the demands of your work.Being highly sensitive doesn’t mean being touchy, but having a high degree of empathy and a particular way of processing sensory input. That means it might take longer to recover from a tricky situation like a conflict with a colleague, or witnessing something traumatic at work.The key to managing energy as a highly sensitive person is to understand and embrace your sensitivity, and put strategies in place to protect and replenish your energy.This week, Rachel talks with Dr Becki Taylor-Smith, an anaesthetist and coach who specialises in helping highly sensitive individuals discover their superpowers.Around 1 in 5 people has high sensitivity. With this higher degree of empathy often comes the need to help people, which is why there may be many more people in medicine who identify as highly sensitive.People who identify as highly sensitive make great leaders, but can be reluctant to step forward. So without support or strategies in place to help them harness their abilities, teams can miss out on the unique abilities they have.But by setting small boundaries and incorporating self-care activities into their daily lives, highly sensitive people can be supported and encouraged to thrive in their own careers, and lead others.Listen to this episode toLearn how to manage your energy effectively as a highly sensitive person in high-stress jobs.Discover strategies to prevent burnout and overwhelm while still making a unique difference.Understand the traits of highly sensitive people and how to embrace them as a superpower in leadership and teamwork.Episode highlights[00:04:22] Traits of highly sensitive people[00:09:10] How to tell if you're a highly sensitive person[00:11:07] When being highly sensitive can be a superpower[00:14:08] Highly sensitive people as leaders[00:20:58] The ABCs of managing your energy[00:27:38] How to protect yourself and your energy[00:32:12] Avoiding burnout due to sensory overload[00:35:37] How to support highly sensitive people[00:39:26] Becki's top tipsAbout the guestDr Becki is an anaesthetist and coach supporting sensitive professionals caring for people and the planet to rediscover their joy and make their difference without burning out.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Thrive in a High-Stress Job When You’re Neurodivergent&nbsp;– Episode 179 with Matthew BellringerAre Your Tiny Traumas Building Up to Burnout?&nbsp;– Episode 182, with Dr Claire PlumblyDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Download Becki’s free guide to using your sensitivity as a superpower<a...
11/14/202344 minutes, 42 seconds
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How Do You Say No When Someone Might Die?

Saying no and setting boundaries are core to avoiding burnout. But if saying no might put a patient at harm – or worse – what can you do?In this quick dip episode, Rachel explains the concept of core and flex boundaries along with core and flex consequences. Core boundaries are non-negotiables that we always enforce, rather than preferences we’d like to enforce but can be flexible around.Key to this approach is also recognising the short- and long-term consequences of saying no.By not setting boundaries or saying no when we need to, we risk damaging our relationships and neglecting our own needs. This can lead to regret, unfulfilled goals, and negative effects on other people who rely on us. But by setting rigid and flexible boundaries, we can get closer to a healthy work-life balance, and keep our priorities and commitments in tact.Listen to this episode toDiscover how to set boundaries and say no in challenging situations, ie when someone's life might be at stake.Understand the concept of core and flex boundaries and how they can help in decision-making.Learn about the short-term and long-term consequences of setting boundaries and saying no, and the importance of considering them when making decisions.Episode highlights[00:03:43] Introducing core and flex boundaries[00:04:55] Core boundaries[00:06:21] Flex boundaries[00:09:26] What happens when core boundaries are in conflict[00:11:34] Short-term consequences[00:12:34] Long-term consequences[00:15:59] Core and flex consequences[00:17:59] Hierarchy of boundaries[00:19:40] Putting this into practiceResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerHow to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1&nbsp;– Episode 169How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2&nbsp;– Episode 171The Problem with Boundaries&nbsp;– Episode 161Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Sign up for our FREE masterclassTake back control, set boundaries that stick and help your team beat burnout for good.
11/7/202322 minutes, 46 seconds
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How to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour

Interactions between team members can have a big impact on performance and outcomes. Disrespect and hostility can create a threatening environment and hinder collaboration and productivity. In a medical setting, it could literally be a life-or-death situation.The Civility Saves Lives movement aims to raise awareness about the importance of behaviour and promote a culture of civility. By showing respect and support towards each-other, teams can enhance their performance, deliver better outcomes, and provide a healthier and kinder path towards personal growth.In this episode, Dr Chris Turner, co-founder of the Civility Saves Lives movement, demonstrates how we can create an environment where civility is valued, information is freely shared, and everyone feels empowered to contribute. By taking the time to show respect – and to address disrespect without offering judgement – we can make a positive difference in the workplace and improve outcomes for teams and patients.Listen to this episode toUnderstand the importance of civility and its role in improving team performance and patient outcomes.Learn about the effects of incivility on individuals and their ability to think and perform under high-pressure situations.Find out about the origins of the Civility Saves Lives movement, and its impact on behaviour in healthcare.Episode highlights[00:01:32] Meeting Chris[00:02:21] Civility Saves Lives[00:10:50] The minimum unit of performance is the team[00:13:32] Setting an environment for people to speak[00:16:25] What happens when we're scared of being wrong[00:23:40] How hostile behaviour impacts teams[00:25:45] How rudeness affects trust[00:27:22] We don't go to work to be unpleasant[00:31:21] Knowing that someone's got you[00:35:15] How to give feedback[00:49:44] Curiosity's role when giving difficult feedback[00:55:08] How to avoid the drama triangle[00:59:09] Understanding cultural context[01:01:52] Accepting uninvited criticism[01:04:23] How to take difficult feedback[01:06:15] The act of saying sorry[01:09:39] Chris' top tipsAbout the guestChris is a consultant in emergency medicine at the University Hospital of Coventry and Warwickshire. He co-founded Civility Saves Lives with Joe Farmer, a grassroots organisation dedicated to raising awareness of the impact of behaviour on performance.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Twitter&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People&nbsp;– Episode 75, with Annie HanekomHow to Have Crucial Conversations&nbsp;– Episode 85, with Dr Ed PooleyDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.When Rudeness in Teams Turns Deadly&nbsp;– Chris’ talk at TEDxExeter<a href="https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/32733343/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
10/31/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 13 seconds
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The Real Reason Other People's Boundaries Make Us Cross

When someone else sets boundaries, do you feel able to do the same, or do you resent their ability to say no? Often, our anger towards others' boundaries comes from our own unmet needs and desires, and what presents itself as resentment is actually envy.Guilt, shame, and fear often prevent us from expressing our own needs, which just compounds those negative emotions. Without shifting our mindset, we can end up adopting a victim mindset and feeling even more trapped.In this quick dip episode, Rachel describes how we can identify our underlying needs, find ways to express them, and take small, practical steps towards getting what we want, even if it feels unattainable.Listen to this episode toLearn how to navigate boundaries and handle feelings of resentment when others say no to you.Understand the difference between anger and envy, and how envy can reveal what you truly want.Pick up strategies for identifying your own needs, expressing them to others, and finding ways to meet them.Episode highlights[00:02:12] Envy[00:05:47] What is your underlying need?[00:06:43] What happens when we make ourselves the victim[00:07:55] Questions to ask yourself[00:08:54] What is stopping you from meeting your needs?[00:10:01] If you could wave a magic wand[00:11:40] Expressing your needs to othersResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWhy Can’t I Say No&nbsp;– Episode 163How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong&nbsp;– Episode 179How to Say No and Deal with Pushback&nbsp;– Episode 125, with Annie HanekomAtlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené BrownDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Sign up for our FREE masterclassTake back control, set boundaries that stick and help your team beat burnout for good.
10/23/202315 minutes, 16 seconds
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How to Be REALLY Productive... Without Losing the Plot

Productivity and time management are difficult at the best of times. But when your job directly affects people’s lives, it can be tricky to make time to get organised, so that we have control over our days, and our inbox isn’t overflowing.What we need is to manage our attention and make space for what matters. In this episode, Rachel is joined by productivity expert Graham Allcott. Graham shares ways we can prioritise and delegate tasks, make dedicated time for deep work, and get on top of our todo list rather than feel crushed by it.Cluttered inboxes and disorganised days can lead to more stress, which can impact your work as well as your coworkers’. So listen to this episode for actionable strategies that will help you start each day with more focus, and less overwhelm.Listen to this episode toImprove your productivity without striving for perfection.Manage your attention and prioritise tasks, especially in high-stress jobs.Learn how to implement a weekly review to stay organised and in control.Episode highlights[00:04:38] How to Stop Messing About on Your Phone[00:06:52] Managing attention for people in high-stress jobs[00:08:12] Introducing the second brain[00:08:54] Structuring your day[00:11:25] Making space for what matters[00:13:42] Weekly review[00:15:32] The second brain in more detail[00:18:20] What app should I download?[00:19:40] Inbox Zero[00:23:53] Good messaging hygiene for teams[00:26:02] How psychological safety can help when your team is stuck[00:27:59] Team dynamics around timings and deadlines[00:29:31] More email etiquette[00:31:44] CORD model[00:35:35] The end of your todo list[00:38:29] Graham's three tipsAbout the guestGraham is the author of the best-selling book&nbsp;How to Be a Productivity Ninja, and the founder of Think Productive, a company that helps teams and individuals get a better handle on their time. Graham also hosts the&nbsp;Beyond Busy&nbsp;podcast and writes a newsletter to help busy people rev up for the week ahead.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerThink Differently About Your To-Do List&nbsp;– Episode 153How Safe Do You Feel at Work?&nbsp;– Episode 70 with Scott ChambersHow to be a Productivity Ninja&nbsp;– Graham’s first bookInbox Zero&nbsp;– the original method by Merlin MannThe CORD productivity modelGraham’s Rev Up for the Week email newsletterBeyond Busy&nbsp;– Graham’s podcastDownload the...
10/16/202342 minutes, 34 seconds
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What Will Your Future Self Thank You For?

We’ve all had weeks where our schedules are packed tightly and there’s no time for ourselves, leaving us exhausted and overwhelmed. The problem is we often make commitments for our future selves without thinking about what might be on their plate in the future.In this quick dip episode, Rachel uncovers ways we can make space for the the big and important things in our lives, set rules and boundaries to prevent over-committing, and creating space to cope with challenging times ahead.Not everything that comes out of the blue is a bad thing. But when we over-book ourselves and neglect our own needs, we risk leaving ourselves unable to really enjoy the fun things that unexpectedly come our way, or cope with the tricky things.Try taking a moment to consider what your future self will thank you for. This will help you say no to those extra commitments, and practice more self-compassion.Listen to this episode toLearn how to stop over-scheduling so you can create space for yourself and avoid burnout.Understand the importance of setting boundaries and making rules for yourself to prioritise your wellbeing.Discover a form of self-compassion in advance.Episode highlights[00:01:19] A piece of long-term homework[00:02:06] Looking backwards[00:03:01] Writing a letter from your future self[00:03:43] Fear of missing out[00:06:34] Looking after our future self[00:08:22] What rules would your future self like you to understand?[00:09:12] When were you overstretched?[00:11:30] Make some space for what's coming up[00:12:02] Putting self-compassion into practiceResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerThink Differently About Your To-Do List&nbsp;– Episode 153How the Enneagram System WorksDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!
10/9/202314 minutes, 3 seconds
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Surprising Ways to Avoid Burnout

Do you give yourself permission to rest? If you’re like many people in caring professions, you worry that taking time out to look after yourself means not spending that time helping others. That thinking may have got you to your position now, but is it serving you, or is it time to update your operating system?The problem with rest is that we often confuse it with inaction. But rest from work doesn’t have to mean rest from activity. As this week’s guest, Nick Petrie discovered, for high achievers, rest could be going to the gym or Argentinian tango. Nick’s research shows that the way to beat burnout is not to stop doing things altogether, but to find things you love to do, but that are entirely outside of your sphere of work.Choosing what you do outside of work needs to be done with care, however. If you’re used to working in a fast-paced and competitive environment, a gym where everyone’s visibly pushing themselves to beat their neighbour might not give you the release you need.But engaging in activities or hobbies that give you a complete break from work and allow you to reconnect with your body and emotions could be instrumental in preventing burnout.Listen to this episode toDiscover surprising factors that contribute to burnout.Hear examples from high-performing people about the patterns and correlations of burnout across different fields.Find out how people successfully manage burnout by finding activities that let them switch off and recharge.Episode highlights[00:04:41] Correlations of burnout[00:15:23] Opposite worlds[00:22:46] The risk of finding a world not opposite enough[00:26:22] Six types of opposite world[00:28:47] More correlations of burnout[00:32:31] Sharing in others' experiences[00:36:07] Creating mechanisms for yourself[00:38:11] The burnout curve[00:41:35] Allostatic overload[00:43:25] Three degrees of burn[00:46:08] Catching the warning signs in yourself and others[00:49:11] Nick's top tipsAbout the guestNick Petrie is a researcher and speaker on leadership, resilience and burnout prevention. Nick helps organisations prepare for the future by creating solutions that help leaders be more adaptable, resilient and strategic. He holds a Masters degree from Harvard University and is the author of the book&nbsp;Work Without Stress: Building Resilience for Long Term Success.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set Boundaries&nbsp;– Episode 181How to Avoid Burnout on Repeat&nbsp;– Episode 160The Truth About Burnout&nbsp;– Episode 25Nick’s LinkedIn posts on burnout<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/presence-mind/202010/what-does-allostatic-load-mean-your-health" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
10/2/202357 minutes, 20 seconds
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Stress vs Overwhelm – And Why You Should Know the Difference

We all get stressed or overwhelmed with our daily responsibilities from time to time. But we’re not always good at telling them apart. And this is important, because the way out of overwhelm is different form the way out of stress.Stress is caused when the demands on us outweigh the resources we feel we have to cope. Overwhelm happens when high amounts of stress make us feel like we can't cope with our lives' demands. The way out of overwhelm is non-doing, resting, and letting our nervous system settle down.Prolonged stress and overwhelm can lead to burnout, which just puts more stress on our nervous system, and makes it harder for us to function. In this quick dip, Rachel offers practical advice to help you take care of yourself, recognise overwhelm, and give yourself the time you need to rest.Listen to this episodeTo learn the difference between stress and overwhelmTo discover the benefits of non-doing and how it can help you overcome overwhelmFor practical tips on reducing overwhelm in the futureEpisode highlights[00:03:19] Mindful play[00:05:03] The F**k it mindset[00:06:58] What will future me thank me for? (midroll)[00:08:16] Permission to stopResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:How to Say F**k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed&nbsp;– Episode 130 with John C ParkinThe Perils of Perfectionism&nbsp;– Episode 22 with Nicky OdgersWhat to Do When You are Overwhelmed&nbsp;– Episode 132 with Gerrie HawesHow to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People&nbsp;– Episode 75 with Annie HanekomAtlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené BrownDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!
9/25/20239 minutes, 58 seconds
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How to Cope With Your Kids’ Anxiety, Your Colleagues’, and Your Own

Confronting anxiety is easier said than done. It’s hard enough with adults, but with children it’s even more tough. Anxiety keeps us safe, but often we over-predict that something bad will happen and under-predict our ability to cope. The key is to learn how to manage anxiety before it becomes a problem.This week’s guest is educational psychologist Nicky Odgers. She specialises in working with kids who are feeling anxious about attending school. A lot of what she helps kids with applies to adults&nbsp;– things like mapping thoughts and emotions to physical sensations, replacing negative thoughts with more realistic ones, and practicing techniques to help us relax.Anxiety can interfere with our lives and become a problem if it goes unaddressed. Naturally we want to avoid things that cause us anxiety, but this stops us from learning that we can cope and that the terrible thing we fear may never happen.Listen to this episode toLearn about anxiety in children and teenagers, and how it can manifest as school avoidanceGain insight into how anxiety affects adults, including healthcare professionals, and how to manage it effectivelyUnderstand the thought patterns, physical sensations, and behaviours associated with anxiety, and how to address them to prevent avoidance and build coping skillsEpisode highlights[00:03:46] Epidemic of anxiety[00:09:21] Anxiety as pathology[00:14:00] Thoughts, feelings, physical sensations, and behaviours[00:20:54] Safety behaviours[00:23:26] When is it right to step in and offer help[00:29:18] Anxiety in healthcare[00:31:47] How to persuade someone their fears are unfounded[00:34:35] Mind-reading[00:41:03] Teaching people to solve problems[00:45:14] Worry time and worry monsters[00:47:14] Distracting yourself from worry[00:48:24] Helpful safety behaviour[00:49:52] Helping anxious people[00:52:48] Neurodiversity and autism[00:55:58] Nicky's tips for managing anxietyAbout the guestNicky Odgers is an educational psychologist with a particular interest in school anxiety. She helps parents and schools to support children and young people to feel less anxious about attending school, to better manage their emotions, to develop their confidence, to initiate and sustain positive relationships and be more successful in their learning. LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode 22: The Perils of PerfectionismEpisode 181: Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set BoundariesSchool Anxiety Support for Parents&nbsp;– Facebook groupNicky’s&nbsp;information and resource for parents and schools about school anxiety and EBSADownload Nicky's free handout for children, young people, and parents<a...
9/18/20231 hour, 2 minutes, 38 seconds
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Don't Wait for Tomorrow to Improve – Take Control Now

Do you find yourself thinking "it will be better tomorrow", or believing things will improve in a few months' time “when x happens”?In this quick dip episode, Rachel reveals how waiting for outside events to occur leads to more problems – because even when tomorrow comes, we’re still the same person facing the same challenges as we were yesterday.This mindset can lead us to looking for partial solutions which ultimately keep us from solving our bigger problems. But by focusing on our zone of power, we can reclaim agency over the things we can change, instead of waiting on events we can’t control.If we don’t try and take control, we can end up in a continued cycle of waiting for tomorrow to come. This leads to more stress, burnout, and exhaustion becoming the norm. But when we’re in our zone of power, we’ll find it much easier to deal with what today and tomorrow has in store.Listen to this episode toChallenge your "it’ll be better tomorrow" mindsetLearn practical strategies for creating urgency and focusing on your zone of powerKnow when to wait and see, and when to take actionEpisode highlights[00:02:18] Making it better now[00:03:13] Going down the vortext of busiyness[00:04:20] Urgency to change[00:05:59] What is the burning platform?[00:07:26] Be in your zone of power[00:08:25] If I could wave a magic wand[00:09:36] Ignore things for a period[00:10:38] Watchful waiting[00:12:01] Take actionResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:What Happens When We’re Really Listened to&nbsp;– Episode 180, with Tom DillonHow to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong&nbsp;– Episode 179Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Take our quiz And receive your personalised You Are Not a Frog podcast episode playlist!
9/11/202317 minutes
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Is it You - or is it Menopause?

One way or another, menopause affects everyone at some point. If you’re not experiencing symptoms yourself, you almost certainly know or work with someone who is. That’s why understanding its effects and being able to offer support and compassion is so important.Women going through menopause can experience a wide range of physical, psychological, and hormonal symptoms. These symptoms often go unnoticed or ignored, which can impact confidence and increase anxiety. Lack of confidence or temporary difficulty in making decisions can lead to organisations losing talented, experienced women who thought they were experiencing cognitive decline. By perpetuating the stigma and embarrassment around menopause, we prevent women from seeking help and support.But there are resources and solutions available to help women manage their symptoms and continue to thrive at work - and Dr Claire Kaye joins us this week to talk through what we can all do.It starts with becoming more aware of the symptoms of menopause and recognising when they’re affecting us or our colleagues.If you’re looking for support with menopause, lifestyle changes like sleep hygiene, exercise, and nutrition can help. There are also medications available, but coaching can have a huge impact.We can educate ourselves and others about the symptoms and resources available, and seek out support from in-house Menopause Ambassadors, as well as support groups. If you’re experiencing menopause or perimenopause, coaching and medical support is available.Listen to this episode toUnderstand more about the physical and mental symptoms of menopause, and how they can affect people's work and personal lives.Learn about the importance of awareness, education, and support for people going through menopause, especially in the workplace.Discover resources and strategies for managing menopause symptoms, including lifestyle changes, medication, coaching, and group support.Episode highlights[00:03:14] What is the menopause[00:12:18] What can women do to help themselves?[00:18:35] Caring for yourself[00:30:12] Is it a midlife crisis?[00:32:14] What we tell kids about the menopause[00:33:49] Invisibility[00:37:19] Claire's tips[00:45:46] Rachel's tipsAbout the guestDr Claire Kaye, an executive career coach who specialises in career development and perimenopause and menopause in the workplace. She works with women who are experiencing symptoms of the menopause and helps them find ways to thrive while maintaining their careers and personal lives.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesBalance: free menopause and perimenopause symptom tracker appTHRIVE Weekly PlannerMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)Episode 124: How to Change When...
9/4/202350 minutes, 51 seconds
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Why You Don’t Need to Earn Your Rest

So many of us are caught up in a vortex of busyness. We end up working harder and harder without doing anything that re-energises us, all because we feel like we have no other choice.As healthcare professionals, we feel like rest is a reward for good behaviour, but it's a basic human need, and a professional responsibility. Why? Because rest makes us better at our job, and – frankly – we deserve it.In this quick dip episode, Rachel explores ways we can give ourselves permission to rest and remind ourselves that it's not something we need to earn. When we give ourselves that space, our wellbeing and productivity will improve.Nobody else is going to give us the time or permission, so we need to do this for ourselves. It will inevitably come with some guilt, but we can acknowledge that, then put our own wellbeing first and make it a professional priority.Listen to this episode toLearn about rest and how it affects our brainsUnderstand the different zones that we operate from, and how they impact our performanceGet tips on how to prioritise rest and make time for it in your daily lifeEpisode highlights[00:02:22] What happens when we rest[00:04:34] Threat zone, drive zone, and rest zone[00:06:04] If we fail to rest[00:07:18] Why we find it so hard to rest[00:08:30] Giving ourselves permission[00:11:23] SummaryResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerRachel’s previous Facebook Lives:What puts you into the corner?What to do if you get ambushed in a meetingMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis&nbsp;– Episode 167Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Episode sponsorBennison Brown: specialists in mortgages for healthcare workers
8/28/202314 minutes, 2 seconds
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Are Your Tiny Traumas Building Up to Burnout?

For people in caring professions, trauma can be something we experience on a regular basis. an event doesn’t have to be earth-shattering to be traumatic, and if we let those “little T” traumas build up over time without addressing them, we can find ourselves in a constant sate of fight, flight, or freeze.When stress and trauma accumulate over time, we can minimise what triggers us and downplay our experience. Each time we do, we deplete our battery, pushing it from the green zone of calm and energy, to the amber zone of fight-or-flight, and if we’re not careful, into the red zone where accessing empathy and compassion – and even good decision-making – is much harder. This is often when burnout appears to come “out of nowhere”.But there are ways we can disrupt the burnout pattern, and tap into our nervous system to help us in those moments when we’re triggered.Listen to this episode toUnderstand the impact of “little T” traumas on our nervous system and how they can accumulate over timeLearn about the importance of recognising and prioritising self-careHear practical tips on how to recharge and avoid burnoutEpisode highlights[00:03:49] Big T and little T traumas[00:06:35] Impact on the nervous system[00:08:51] Normalising stress and overworking[00:09:58] Giving ourselves space[00:11:04] How housekeeping can help with our stress response[00:14:27] Saying no to avoid burnout[00:15:20] Functional levels of IQ[00:17:15] Where is your battery level?[00:20:34] Burnout and trauma[00:25:05] Defining boundaries[00:28:33] Emails[00:30:33] Minimising trauma[00:32:46] Self-help strategies[00:38:08] The red zone[00:42:11] Finding safety[00:43:39] Claire's top tipsAbout the guestDr Claire Plumbly is a clinical psychologist specialising in trauma, anxiety and burnout. Alongside her online therapy practice she creates engaging short-form videos on improving your mental health. She regularly runs online workshops for overcoming stress, procrastination and unhealthy boundaries.LinkedIn&nbsp;|&nbsp;Facebook&nbsp;|&nbsp;Instagram&nbsp;|&nbsp;YouTube&nbsp;|&nbsp;TikTok&nbsp;|&nbsp;WebsiteResourcesThe Inner Consultation: How to Develop an Effective and Intuitive Consulting Style, by Roger NeighborCan't Even: How Millennials Became the Burnout Generation, by Anne Helen PetersenBurnout: Solve Your Stress Cycle, by Emily and Amelia NagoskiHuberman Lab<a...
8/21/202350 minutes, 47 seconds
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Get Some Air Cover to Help You Set Boundaries

We’re not just service providers – we’re carers and helpers. This can make it hard to set boundaries and prioritise our workload. What we need is air cover.By working together with your colleagues, you can create agreements about what to say yes and no to, and hold each-other accountable.And you can also seek out peers outside of work, so you can share your dilemmas and feel less alone. If we keep silently struggling with saying no or setting boundaries, we can start feeling burnout, which can affect our judgement.In this quick dip, Rachel explains how we can get some protection at work, and ask our peers outside of work for support.Listen to this episode toUnderstand the concept of air cover and how it can help with setting boundaries and prioritising workloadLearn about how shared accountability and informal networks can help give us air coverGet actionable steps for finding and using air cover to make saying no easierEpisode highlights[00:02:16] We're trying to solve the wrong problem[00:03:49] What happens when we want to say "no"[00:06:36] Legal air cover[00:06:58] Finding air cover in accountability[00:09:03] Air cover from informal networks[00:12:12] How air cover helps to cope with fear[00:12:44] Air cover against complaints[00:14:41] Action pointsResourcesMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 161: The Problem with BoundariesEpisode 125: How to Say No and Deal with PushbackTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? ****Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Episode sponsorBennison Brown: specialists in mortgages for healthcare workers
8/14/202317 minutes, 3 seconds
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What Happens When We’re Really Listened to

Do you ever feel like you're just not being heard? Or like you’re under pressure and no one understands how much you’re juggling? Especially in high-stress careers, few of us have the chance to truly be listened to – and coaching can help with that.Coaching isn’t therapy or listening to someone else’s advice. It's about exploring solutions yourself, with guidance. Coaching gives you permission to take a tricky situation and ask "If this were different, what would I notice?".Coaching allows you to “think to the end of your thoughts”, with someone who listens and asks really effective questions.Better still, by adopting a coaching mindset, you can help your teams solve problems using the skills and knowledge they already have.If you’ve felt burnt out, ignored or resentful, help is at hand. This week, transformational coach, trainer, and author Tom Dillon joins Rachel to explore how different coaching approaches can help you reclaim your agency, think more clearly, and act positively.Listen to this episode toLearn about the benefits of coaching, including how it can transform your life and provide a space for thinking and explorationUnderstand how coaching differs from therapy and mentoring, and why coaching is a valuable tool for healthcare professionalsDiscover different coaching approaches, like the person-centred and solution-focused approaches, and how they can be used to help you generate options and make your own decisionsEpisode highlights[00:02:46] What haas coaching ever done for us?[00:05:30] Coaching vs therapy[00:07:12] The power of being listened to[00:10:51] Hearing back what you've just said[00:12:43] The person-centred approach to coaching[00:14:29] Are doctors good listeners?[00:16:27] The solution-focused approach to coaching[00:23:57] When negative beliefs prevent us from imagining solutions[00:29:42] Cognitive behavioural approach[00:31:50] Somatic approach to coaching[00:34:09] Neuroscience approach[00:39:48] Gestalt coaching approach[00:45:17] Coaching "the uncoachable"[00:48:25] Taking a coaching approach[00:53:00] Work with Tom[00:53:21] Your Coaching JourneyResourcesYour Coaching Journey – Use the code FROGSPAWN for a 20% discount on Tom’s courseConnect with Tom via LinkedInFree coaching provided by the NHSEpisode 163 – Why Can’t I Say NoEpisode 67 – Bringing Your Best Self to Work, with Dr Sarah GouldingEpisode 63 – How to Survive Even When Times are Tough, with Dr Caroline WalkerDr Jill Bolte Taylor – The 90 second life cycle of an emotion
8/7/20231 hour, 1 minute, 7 seconds
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How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong

Have you ever had to do something you didn't want to do? Maybe it was a task at work, a favour for a friend, or a chore at home. It can be frustrating and draining when it seems we have no say in our actions. It can make us feel powerless and stressed out. And that's not good for our work quality or our well-being.But is that true? Do we really have no choice at all?In this Quick Dip, we share how to use power language to set boundaries and take back control of your life. Keeping your work and life balance in check can be hard when you feel like your freedom is taken away. You will learn seven simple words to help you regain autonomy.Learn how to set boundaries through your language. If you want to know how to regain control of situations that drain you out, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what it means to give over connecting.Discover the importance of autonomy in motivation.Learn the seven words that will help you take back autonomy.Episode Highlights[00:37] Connecting with People Who Drain You[03:05] Taking Back Autonomy[04:55] The End Goal[05:24] Even If[07:42] Causing Inconvenience[08:30] Power LanguageResourcesDrive&nbsp;by Daniel H PinkMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 74: Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed PooleyEpisode 153: Think Differently About Your To-Do ListEpisode 161: The Problem with BoundariesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here&nbsp;to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? ****Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:Episode sponsorBennison Brown: specialists in mortgages for healthcare workers
7/31/202311 minutes, 8 seconds
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How to Thrive in a High-Stress Job When You’re Neurodivergent

In the words of today’s podcast guest, “Everyone can benefit from neurodiversity”. But how much do you understand about the way it impacts you and your colleagues?Neurodiversity can be a real strength in high-stress roles like medicine. Different ways of thinking can allow us to cope with high pressure situations, handle complex information, and perform brilliantly in ways that others couldn’t.But it also offers us challenges, both when it comes to managing our own needs but also in supporting those around us. A great example is “masking”, where people try to hide elements of themselves in order to “fit in” with those around them. It takes a huge amount of energy, and can take a significant toll on our mental and physical wellbeing.You might have a diagnosis of something like ADHD, ASD, or dyslexia, or know a colleague or family member who does. But even if you don’t, all of us benefit from understanding more about different ways of thinking and seeing the world, and knowing how to support each other better using our unique strengths and talents.In this conversation, we hear from neurodivergence coach and facilitator Matthew Bellringer who unpacks the terminology in a brilliantly clear way. He shares how you can make the most of the advantages of neurodivergence in you and your team, as well as dealing more effectively with the challenges it brings so we can support each other better.Listen to the episode if you want toUnderstand the terminology of neurodiversity and how it can benefit individuals, society, and organisationsLearn about the unique strengths and challenges that come with neurodivergence, and how to capitalise on those strengths while mitigating the costsDiscover how masking and camouflaging can take a toll on the mental and physical wellbeing of neurodivergent individuals, and how to work towards expressing oneself and one's experiencesEpisode highlights[00:03:25] Neurodiversity and neurodivergence[00:06:59] Twice-exceptional people[00:10:55] Neurodivergence and empathy[00:12:32] Superpowers vs mutant powers[00:15:51] Hyperempathy[00:18:42] Masking[00:21:13] Themes that show up for neurodivergent people[00:27:20] Neurodivergence, health, and lifestyle[00:30:07] Addiction and compulsion[00:33:00] Helpful coping mechanisms[00:35:10] When your zone of genius is outside of your role[00:38:00] How neurotypical people can help the neurodivergent[00:41:23] Get curious about your needs[00:42:32] Neurodivergence and leadership[00:43:22] Advocating for yourself[00:44:27] Seeking diagnosis and supportAbout the guestMatthew Bellringer helps people with neurodivergent traits to develop their strengths and deal more effectively with the costs. In his work, he frequently encounters frustration and anxiety as common experiences for neurodivergent people in high-stress jobs.LinksConnect with Matthew via LinkedInCurious Being&nbsp;- Matthew’s community for unconventional people who want to make the world a better placeWork with MatthewDelightful Dissent&nbsp;– Matthew’s podcast exploring assumptions<a href="https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/thrive-planner" rel="noopener...
7/24/202355 minutes, 17 seconds
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Why You Should Expect Pushback and What To Do About It

It's a fact of life that we can't please everyone. That's why one of the hardest things to do is say no and try to keep everyone happy with our decisions. Even if it's against our will, we try to give a piece of ourselves to everyone. The thing is, that takes a toll on us until resentment builds up in our hearts. So, how do you expect pushback while staying firm with your decisions?In this Quick Dip, we explore the topic of pushback, how it affects our emotions, and why we should expect it. We lay down tips on removing guilt from receiving pushback and handling other people's reactions. It's one thing to expect pushback but another to deal with it. The first step is to accept the fact that there's somebody that will always oppose your views and decisions.Stand your ground firmly but compassionately. If you want to know how to expect and deal with pushback, this episode is for you.&nbsp;Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the power of expecting pushback.Find out how resentment builds up and its consequences.Discover the best ways to deal with pushback.Episode Highlights[00:29] On Pushback[02:26] Expecting Pushback[03:39] How Resentment Builds Up[04:35] Expecting Feedback[05:07] How to Deal with Pushback[07:34] Hunting for the Grain of Truth[10:32] Setting Boundaries and Expecting PushbackResourcesThink Again by Adam GrantMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 125: How to Say No and Deal with Pushback with Annie HanekomEpisode 161: The Problem with BoundariesEpisode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala HijackBeat stress at work with our Zone of Power Bitesize Pack!THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected]<p...
7/18/202313 minutes, 10 seconds
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Embrace Your Capacity, Not Your Limits

High-stress and high-performance professions like healthcare often push people beyond their limits. When this happens, stress and burnout are often the unfortunate consequences.In this episode, Dr Sarah Coope joins us to discuss how to avoid burnout by embracing your capacity. She delves into finding your optimal stretching point for each of your limited resources. Sarah also examines the nature of our fear of saying no. And we explore the consequences and benefits of managing and maintaining your capacity.If you find yourself stretched too thin, then this episode is for you.&nbsp;Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand your limits and capacity.&nbsp;Discover how to shift your mindset and avoid burnout.&nbsp;Learn how to embrace your guilt.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[10:30] Shifting Your Mindset to Embrace Your Capacity[19:30] Saying No to Avoid Overstretching Yourself[28:30] Identify Your Optimal Stretching Point[38:30] Managing Emotions and Language Usage[44:20] How to Deal with the Guilt From Saying NoResourcesIndistractable: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir EyalConnect with Sarah on LinkedIn | TwitterEpisode 99: How to Deal with Criticism When You’ve Reached Your LimitEpisode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala HijackEpisode 171: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No ToolkitReach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training<a...
7/11/202353 minutes, 6 seconds
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How To Influence Without Getting Frustrated

You have brilliant ideas and solutions that can make a difference in your work. But how do you get others on board with them? It can be hard to convince others when they have different views and opinions. The thing is, you can’t change someone’s mind without knowing where they are coming from and what matters to them. You have to face it with confidence, grace, patience, and, sometimes, acceptance.In this quick dip episode, we talk about how you can influence anyone by understanding yourself and them. We then discuss the impact of focusing on your zone of power and the importance of conflict and disagreement.Find out how to tackle any challenge with skill and insight. If you want to know how to influence others gracefully, this episode is for you.&nbsp;Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what things are inside and outside your zone of power.Learn how not to get stressed when influencing people.Discover why you can’t control influencing someone.Episode Highlights[00:28] Circle of Influence[02:30] What You Have Control Over in Influencing[03:09] The Zone of Power[04:35] Focus on Action[06:51] What is Behind Conflict?[07:51] How to Influence People[10:55] Focusing on Your Zone of PowerResourcesThe Five Dysfunctions of a Team: A Leadership Fable by Patrick LencioniMore episodes of You Are Not a Frog:Episode 23: How to do conflict well with Jane GunnEpisode 122: How to be Happy at Work with Sarah MetcalfeTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.Mentioned in this episode:Episode sponsorBennison Brown: specialists in mortgages for healthcare workers
7/4/202314 minutes, 29 seconds
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What to Do When You Can Never Do Enough as a Working Mum with Corrina Gordon-Barnes

On this episode of You Are Not a Frog, our guest, Corrina Gordon-Barnes, joins us to discuss the challenges working mothers face in traditional family units. The conversation sheds light on the value of self-compassion, learning to navigate negative emotions, and striking a balance between work and family life. This episode is for everyone involved in parenting, not just mothers. It’s not just women who experience mum guilt!For a new perspective on mum guilt and actionable advice for a healthy balance between career and family life, don't miss out on this invaluable conversation with our guest, Karina Gordon.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Recognise and navigate feelings of shame and mum guilt in your parenting journey.Discover the role of self-compassion and reparenting in achieving a balanced life.Understand the impact of societal norms and social media on our emotional state as parents.Episode Highlights[03:39] The Challenges of Motherhood and Mum Guilt[07:50] The Impact of Perfectionism and Shame in Parenting[12:06] Challenges and Mum Guilt in Parenting[21:08] Understanding Shame and Overcoming Negative Emotions[29:57] Challenges and Strategies for Working Moms[40:56] Coping with Guilt and Shame in the Work-Life Balance Struggle[48:16] Top Tips for Overcoming Mum Guilt and ShameResourcesSolve for Happy by Mo GawdatConnect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | ​Twitter | LinkedInWant to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes:&nbsp;Episode 121: How to Be a Happy Working Parent&nbsp;Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot&nbsp;Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;We’re releasing a FREE mini-series this May and June about how healthcare teams can set better boundaries and love their work! Check it out here:&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter:<a...
6/27/202354 minutes, 20 seconds
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Do I Disappoint Myself Or Others?

Disappointing ourselves and others is an awful feeling highlighted by guilt and shame. It can often lead us to act out regretfully as we attempt to mask it. Out of fear of its consequences, we resort to tiptoeing around others. This is most common in the medical field, where people tend to prioritise the needs of other people before their own. It could be why you may have difficulties saying no to people.&nbsp;In this quick dip episode, I will dive into how you can deal with disappointment. Learn to understand your needs and take action. Understand it's okay if you can't do everything or please everyone.If you’re a doctor struggling with stress because you are afraid to disappoint yourself and others, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover the source of your disappointment.Learn how to overcome your fears by saying no.&nbsp;Explore the benefits of prioritizing your needs above others.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[00:00] The Fear of Disappointing Others[02:08] Sources of Disappointment[7:14] Consequences of Self-Disappointment[11:01] Prioritize Yourself and Your NeedsResources:Learn 8 ways to set boundaries without stress with our Just Say No ToolkitSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Join our free Masterclass for Leaders in Healthcare on June 20, 2023: "Know Your Limits, Claim Your No” Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
6/20/202315 minutes, 26 seconds
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How to Survive a Toxic System - on Both Sides of the Pond

Does it feel like you're in a toxic work environment and can't get out? Too many doctors — both in the UK and elsewhere — find themselves in a whirlwind of work. There's always more to do, and you don't want to imagine the consequences of what happens if you fail. There seems like there's no way out, but the truth is, you always have a choice.In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Dr Dike Drummond and I dive into a topic that affects many industries but is particularly prevalent in healthcare — surviving and thriving in a toxic work environment without burning out.If you’re a doctor stuck in the whirlwind of your toxic work environment, this episode is for you.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn what you can change in a toxic work environment.Discover ways to improve how your career serves you.Find out how doctors can care for themselves and why that helps them do their job better.Episode Highlights[00:00] Doctors as Coal Mine Canaries[13:41] How Profit Creates a Toxic Work Environment[23:34] How Doctor Training Creates a Toxic Work Environment[30:49] You Always Have a Choice[40:02] Change or Leave Your Toxic Work Environment[52:13] Bureaucracies Always Add More Work[54:48] Drummond and Morris’ Three Top TipsResourcesSign up for our free webinar on June 20th Free Masterclass For Leaders In Healthcare with Dr Rachel Morris&nbsp;Download our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkit!Visit The Happy MDListen to the Physicians on Purpose PodcastGet Dike’s booksReach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Shapes Toolkit TrainingTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: <a...
6/13/202358 minutes, 4 seconds
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How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2

Life can seem full of threats and stresses we face daily. As high-stress professionals, these types of situations are a part of daily life. All of this can place a great mental load on our brains and trigger our amygdala to not always respond in the best way.&nbsp;That's why it's important to learn how we can reduce these threats and manage our stress. The question now is how can we do this?Picking up where we left off, this quick dip episode dives into the last four factors of the SCARF Model. We learn more about tips and techniques that can help minimise threats and improves our response. Reward yourself and develop habits that can help you feel certain, in control, and supported even amidst all the stress.Learn how to better manage your stress and respond to difficult situations. Avoid an amygdala hijack when you listen to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what 'C,' 'A,' 'R' and 'F' stands for in the SCARF Model.Discover how being friends with everyone can lead to less stress and a better work life.Listen and learn how you can apply the SCARF Model in your work and personal life.Episode Highlights[00:44] What ‘C’ Stands For in SCARF[03:20] The ‘A’ in SCARF Model[04:34] The Power You Hold[06:26] The ‘R’ Stands For…[07:31] Everyone is a Friend[09:41] The ‘F’ in SCARF[10:55] Applying the SCARF Model[12:35] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack With HelpResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Episode 169: How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1Learn about the SCARF Model by David RockLearn more about your Zone of Power&nbsp;Book a call and reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
6/6/202314 minutes, 43 seconds
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How to Feel Happy, Calm, and Connected

Our conditioning has trained us to rely on the egocentric left brain. We often overthink things, even when we have no control over them. But what if we didn't have to accept that this is simply how our brains work?This week, Dr Giles P Croft joins us to discuss his experience of having a TIA that caused his left brain to stop functioning properly. Giles shares what it’s like to access his right brain freely without any worry in mind. We discuss how our thinking left brain often gets in the way of us staying in the present moment. We also lay down simple ways to get reacquainted with our right brain.Don’t miss this episode and gain wisdom on how to be happy, calm, and connected.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how the left brain has evolved to dominate our thinking.Discover how the left and right brain consciousness works.Find out simple steps to get more connected with your right brain.Episode Highlights[03:44] Giles’s Background and Experiencing a TIA[10:17] How He Was Feeling the Entire Time[12:16] We Allow the Left Brain to Dominate[16:00] The Divided Brain[19:34] The Power of Now[23:38] Become Aware of Our Thoughts[30:17] How the Right and Left Brain Works[32:34] Tips on How to Get from the Left to the Right Brain[39:21] Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff[44:10] Facing Stress and Challenges[50:57] Giles’ Top Three TipsResourcesConnect with Giles: Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | YouTube | TwitterWellbeing Wednesdays: Website | Apple PodcastsTwo Brain FactsJill Bolte Taylor: My stroke of insightThe Divided BrainWhole Brain Living by Jill Bolte TaylorThe Power of Now by Eckhart TolleDon't Sweat the Small Stuff . . . and It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Power-Regret-Looking-Backward-Forward/dp/0735210659" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
5/30/202354 minutes, 57 seconds
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How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1

Criticism and feedback are fundamental to growing as an individual and professional. However, often, our brain perceives such conflicts as a threat. The amygdala acts upon this and kicks in our survival instincts. As a result, we check out and shut down to protect ourselves.&nbsp;How do we avoid acting from this place of fear and focus on working toward developing ourselves?In this quick dip episode, we uncover the overarching principle of the amygdala. We discuss how to avoid an amygdala hijack and how not to operate from our threat zone. We have a choice around how we perceive and respond to triggers. We introduce the first principle of the SCARF Model and how to get over it.Learn how to minimise threats for yourself and others. If you want to know how to avoid an amygdala hijack, this episode is for you.&nbsp;Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why avoiding amygdala hijack increases performance and happiness.Discover the idea of Civility Saves Lives.Discover the 'S' in the SCARF model.Episode Highlights[00:28] Avoiding Amygdala Hijack[02:55] Civility Saves Lives[04:16] You Have a Choice[07:37] The ‘S’ in SCARF Model[08:38] Becoming Aware of How You Display Status[10:05] Getting Over Status[10:51] Being in a Higher StatusResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Ep 167: Why We Become Terrible in a CrisisCivility Saves LivesLearn about the SCARF Model by David RockTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
5/23/202312 minutes, 19 seconds
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How to Do Something Different in Your Career

This week, Jo Watkins, co-founder of The HOW People, joins us to explore entrepreneurial possibilities for doctors without leaving their day jobs. We talk about what holds us back from pursuing a business idea and how you can get started on this journey. We also discuss honing the transferable skills you already have to discover what you'd like to try.If you want to start doing something different in your life and career, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover your 'why' in life and business.Understand why you learn most by failing.Recognise and hone your transferable skills as a professional and entrepreneur.Episode Highlights[04:50] The Beginning of Jo’s Entrepreneurial Career[07:56] Worrying about the Unknown in Business[10:56] Honing the Skills Within[14:21] What Hinders Our Transferable Skills[17:41] Think about Your Why[20:00] Learning by Failing[25:21] Jo’s ‘Why’[30:32] Putting Boundaries in Place for Your Business[33:51] How to Manage the Reality of Running a Business[38:33] Getting Advice from People Who Have Done It Before[42:37] Unrecognised Transferable Skills of People in High-Stress Jobs[47:26] Making Time for Exploration[49:53] Jo’s Top Three TipsResourcesConnect with Jo Watkins: Website | Instagram | Email | LinkedInBook a 4D Coaching and Mentoring session with Jo.Help inspire the next generation of awesome humans with The HOW People.&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
5/16/202355 minutes, 45 seconds
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Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis

As a medical professional, facing high-stress situations every day might make you think you can handle anything. But the truth is, decisiveness isn't always what you want when things go wrong. Not every crisis is the same. Sometimes, the best course of action is to take a step back and come back to the crisis later.In this quick dip episode, we uncover why we become terrible in a crisis, even as healthcare professionals. We explore how we typically react to stressful situations and their consequences. Then, we discuss strategies to ensure you've left the stress zone before you handle your crisis. It all begins with self-awareness and self-apprehension.Before anything, it's crucial to take a pause. If you want to know how to develop good crisis management skills for yourself and others, this episode is for you.&nbsp;Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover why being in our stress zone makes us terrible at dealing with crises.Learn the best course of action when you're backed into the corner.Find out how to make your own amygdala hijack rescue pack.Episode Highlights[00:29] Dealing with Crises as a Healthcare Professional[02:42] Why We Become Terrible in a Crisis[03:25] Four Choices When You are Backed into the Corner[04:39] The Amygdala’s Job[06:19] You are Responsible for Your Reaction to a Crisis[08:23] How to Deal with Being Backed into a Corner[10:56] Knowing What’s Urgent and What’s Not[12:16] Get Out of Your Stress Zone[16:44] Investigating the Stories in Your Head[18:20] Making Your Own Amygdala Hijack Rescue PackResourcesEpisode 157: The Power of Pressing PauseHow to Say No ToolkitTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
5/9/202320 minutes, 52 seconds
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Are You Ok?

How often do you answer honestly when asked are you ok? Many people often say I’m’re ok even when you really aren’t. In truth, we aren’t ok. In today’s world, you’re faced with high-stress jobs, societal pressure and the uncertainty of the new normal. As we come out of the recent crisis, changed and unsure of who we are, it’s harder than ever to be ok.You have to recognize and accept when you’re not ok. In this episode, James Spice joins us for a conversation about what it means to be a human being who isn’t really ok. He asks the real questions that can help us become more aware of who we are and how we really feel. With his simple tools and strategies, you can learn to cope with not being ok and find out who you are after you’ve drastically changed from before.If you’re ready to accept that you’re not ok, you can learn what to do next when you tune in to this episode of Your Are Not a FrogHere are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the impact of the recent crisis you and the world have gone through.Discover the new you in the new normal with the help of some great guide questions.Find out the next steps to take towards being ok.Episode Highlights[02:51] How the World Makes It Difficult to Be Ok[07:25] Who Are You In the New Normal?[13:37] It’s True, People Aren’t Ok.[16:16] The Rule of Thirds[20:31] Deciding What To Do To Be Ok[26:13] Recognising Your Values and Emotions[31:55] Shifting Into The New Normal[37:22] Living With Intention[40:47] How The Past Crisis Changed People[46:09] Taking the Steps To Be Ok[52:09] James’ Three Top TipsResourcesMen Are from Mars; Women Are from Venus by John GrayMyer-Briggs Type IndicatorInsights Discovery&nbsp;Connect with James Spice: LinkedIn | Website | EmailReach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Shapes Toolkit TrainingTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave
5/2/202354 minutes
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What’s Your Flight Plan?

Do you ever feel like someone else is running your life? Do you find yourself just following a set of instructions in everything you do? Without realising it, we often permit other people to control our lives. It's like living a life we don't enjoy on autopilot without questioning it The thing is, it's not too late to design your own flight plan. You have the power to take control and lead the life you want to live.In this quick dip episode, we highlight the importance of designing our own flight plan. We explain why working happier with your best interest in mind is the true key to success. You only have one life, and it is fully yours. Don’t let others take control of your happiness and success. Follow what it is that your heart truly wants.If you want to design your flight plan and start taking control of your life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Uncover why working harder doesn’t lead to happiness.Know what it’s like to take control of your time and your work.Learn how to design your flight plan.Episode Highlights[00:28] Your Flight Plan[02:45] How Do You Want to Live?[04:03] Happiness Leads to Success[05:33] How to Become Happy in Your Journey[08:28] Take Control of Your Life, Work and Time[10:55] Getting Close to Your Ideal LifeResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
4/25/202312 minutes, 22 seconds
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How to Stay Calm through Complaints (Even When It’s Personal)

Can you keep cool when you receive a complaint about your work?Complaints are part and parcel of every profession. No matter how common they may be and how hard you work to avoid them, the anxiety that you’ll get one is always there. It’s even more nerve-wracking if you work in healthcare. Often, complaints come with threats of referral to a professional regulator. All of a sudden, your career might be on the line.This week, Dr Annalene Weston of Dental Protection Australia joins us to discuss how to stop taking complaints personally. We talk about the thought process that comes with patient complaints and discuss strategies on how to depersonalise and best deal with them.If you want to know the mindset shift that will change how you deal with complaints., listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the root of practitioners’ fear of receiving a complaint.Find out how you can shift your mindset around getting complaints.Discover the value of support when dealing with complaints inside and outside your control.Episode Highlights[04:41] Getting More Complaints in Healthcare[10:19] Getting Affected by Complaints Even When You’re Not at Fault[13:39] Fear of Complaint[18:42] Mindset Shift around Getting a Complaint[25:15] Understanding It from the Patient’s Point of View[34:21] Being Right vs Being Good in a Relationship[38:49] Dealing with Things Outside Your Control[43:20] Getting Struck Off[45:36] What Helps When Dealing with Complaints[53:42] How to Depersonalise Complaints[57:57] Annalene’s Top Three Tips in Dealing with Complaints[1:01:04] Forgive YourselfResourcesDental Protection AustraliaConnect with Dr Annalene Weston: LinkedIn | TwitterEpisode 78: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep1: Preparing to Fail Well with Drs Sarah Coope, Annalene Weston and Sheila BloomerEpisode 80: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep2: What to Do When You Make a Mistake with Drs Clare Devlin and Dr John PowellEpisode 82: Complaints and How to Survive Them Ep3: Surviving the Process with Drs Jessica Harland, Caroline Walker, and Heidi MounseyFrederik Imbo: How not to take things personally | TED TalkGetting to Yes by Roger Fisher and William UryDownload our free ‘Just...
4/18/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 39 seconds
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Why Can’t I Say No

Too often, we say yes to every request and every demand, even when it's not what we want. It's not about people-pleasing. It's about your values. But ask yourself, is it worth it? Is sacrificing your peace and well-being a worthy cost of validating your internal dialogue?&nbsp;In a world that applauds the grind, learning to say no will keep you grounded. Setting boundaries helps you care for yourself. When you care for yourself, you can look after others to the best of your ability.In this quick dip episode, we uncover the root of the problem of our struggle with saying no. We flesh out the people-pleasing tendencies and internal shame around setting boundaries. Your value does not equate to how hard you work and how much you give yourself to other people. Set yourself free from the internal stories and scripts you’re telling yourself. Once you do, you can get clear on what truly matters.If you want to know how to start saying yes to yourself, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Uncover the two myths about people pleasing.Discover the heart of why we struggle to set boundaries and say noLearn strategies that will help you start saying no without guilt and shame.Episode Highlights[00:00] On People Pleasing[00:58] Why We Struggle to Say No[04:31] Feeling Shame in Setting Boundaries[07:05] How to Start Saying No[10:55] Your ValueResourcesEpisode 152: How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and BurnoutEnneagram Personality TestDownload our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkitTHRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
4/11/202314 minutes, 1 second
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How to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear

How do you make decisions? Is it from a deep place of knowing and intuition? Or is it merely out of fear?&nbsp;Making big decisions (or even small ones) can understandably be stressful and anxiety-inducing. But being stuck in fear-based thinking is a prescription for misery - and for living a life doing stuff you don’t actually want to do.&nbsp;This week, Henri Stevenson, Executive Coach and Shapes trainer, joins us to discuss how to stop making decisions based on fear and anxiety. We break down how many of us fall into this pattern and then share simple strategies to get our egos out of the way and base our thinking on&nbsp;freedom and love.If you want to stop making decisions based on fear and live in alignment with what you REALLY want, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how to tell the difference between decisions made from intuition versus fear.Learn how to stop making decisions purely through fear of complaints or criticisms.Find out why being self-indulgent is anything ‘but’.Episode Highlights[05:41] Henri’s Journey to Finding a Different Operating System[10:40] What Ego Is[14:18] Why We Pay More Attention to Fear-Based Thoughts[19:11] Investing in Your Self-Growth[25:05] The Bottom Line of Self-Indulgence[36:52] How to Decide From a Better Mental Place[38:18] How to Get Over a Fear Hump[39:44] Techniques to Overcome Fear[43:33] What to Do When You’re Completely Overwhelmed[48:33] Practising Self-Compassion[49:53] Henri’s Top Three TipsResourcesConnect with Henri Stevenson: Website | LinkedInEpisode 126: Using Nature to Answer Your Big Questions With Henri StevensonMy Stroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor, PhDDownload our free ‘Just Say No’ toolkitFind out more about how you can come to our 2023 Off Air Off Grid Retreat!&nbsp;Sign up for Henri's one-day Nourish Retreat happening in PAUS. Cambridgeshire on the 29th of June 2023!THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up
4/4/202354 minutes, 7 seconds
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The Problem with Boundaries

We need boundaries. In fact, you might have already set some of your own. But ask yourself: how often do you let those boundaries crumble?It’s not unusual for professionals in high-stakes industries to give in to other people’s demands, even if it means losing the boundaries they set. That’s not healthy — so why do we do it?In this Quick Dip, we explore the challenges doctors and other professionals face when trying to enforce their boundaries. The problem isn’t in knowing when to say no or what boundaries to put up. We delve into various real-life scenarios and discuss how power language can help reinforce boundaries effectively.Stay tuned to this episode if you want to know the problem with boundaries and how to overcome it.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the importance of power language.Learn how to embrace consequences and regain control.Discover how the amygdala can undermine your boundaries.Episode Highlights[00:28] Boundaries for High-Stress Professionals[02:42] The Consequences of Boundaries[03:55] Embracing Consequences and Regaining Control[05:49] The Amygdala and its Role in Boundary Setting[08:46] Problems that Crumbling Boundaries Cause[09:15] Boundaries are Set for Good Reasons[10:19] Being in Control[11:28] Know Why You’re Setting the Boundary[12:27] Power Language[14:12] Bearing the Consequences[16:17] Boundaries Have a ReasonResourcesJust Say No ToolkitWe Can Do Hard Things Podcast with Glennon DoyleTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
3/28/202317 minutes, 19 seconds
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How to Avoid Burnout on Repeat

No one wants to burn out. When you experience burnout, you might find yourself thinking much more slowly and your productivity drops. Many high-stress professionals often feel guilty and ashamed for struggling with burnout. Unfortunately, the demanding and high-stress environment these days makes burnout much more likely to happen again and again. So what can you do to avoid experiencing burnout in the future?In this episode, Dr Claire Ashley joins us for a conversation about the very real issue of burnout. We talk about what happens in our brains during burnout. She dives into the 12 stages of burnout and how we can use to recognize when we’re starting to burn out. Find out what you can do so that you can go back to work and how you can change things so you’re healthier and less likely to burn out all over again.If you want to avoid burnout from repeating, listen to our full conversation in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out how guilt and shame can become weapons that lead you to burn out.Understand the twelve stages of burnout and recognize if you’re experiencing burnout these days.Learn great tips to prevent burnout in the first place and make sure it never happens again.Episode Highlights[03:38] Claire’s Experience with Burnout[05:12] Why Burnout Happens[09:21] Guilt and Shame as Weapons Against You[19:58] How Burnout Affects Work[24:22] Breaking Out of the Burnout Cycle[27:40] The Twelve Stages of Burnout[31:29] Burnout Treatment and Prevention[35:32] Seeking Help[39:25] The Change You Can Control[48:44] Top Tips From Claire and RachelResourcesAssociations of physician burnout with career engagement and quality of patient care: a systematic review and meta-analysisTara Brach on Real But Not True: Freeing Ourselves from Harmful BeliefsYou Are Not a Frog Episode 112: Why We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’ with Dr Sarah GouldingLaura Hyde FoundationConnect with Claire: Instagram | Website | Do Yourself No HarmJoin Claire’s Facebook group, The Burnout DoctorCheck out the Faculty of Medical Leadership and Management Conference for Rachel’s panel discussion on job crafting.Register for the free upcoming training, If I Don’t Do It, No One Will: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Limits for Leaders Who Do It All on March 27.<li...
3/21/202353 minutes, 14 seconds
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How to Have More Impact with Less Effort

What criteria do you use when prioritising the tasks on your to-do list? Do you just put them in the order you get them? Maybe you pick the ones that seem the most urgent?Here’s an alternative: do the ones that are the easiest first. Not everything worth doing needs to be difficult!In this quick dip episode, we talk about the reality of our limits. In a high-stress job, getting everything done in one day is nearly impossible. And that's okay! What's important is putting your focus where you can be most effective. You may have heard of the urgent-important matrix for prioritising, but we're taking it up a notch using the impact-effort matrix. We will teach you how to define the impact you want to create and acknowledge the reality of the effort needed to make that impact.Stay tuned to this episode if you want to know how prioritising your life might require completely different criteria from what you thought.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why prioritising your tasks based on impact and effort can help you be more effective.&nbsp;Discover how to direct your focus towards things that are easier to do.Understand that you have limited time and energy. Don't waste them on things that won't make you happy or don't make much of an impact.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[00:30] Know Your Limits so You Can Focus[03:41] What to Focus On[05:30] Define Your Impact[08:30] The Reality of Effort&nbsp;&nbsp;[09:48] The Effort Impact Matrix&nbsp;[10:57] #1 High Impact and High Effort Tasks[12:41] #2 High Impact and Low Effort Tasks[13:18] #3 &amp; #4 Low Impact and High Effort Tasks&nbsp;[14:08] Rethink Your PrioritisingResourcesEffortless: Make It Easier to Do What Matters Most by Greg McKeownHere are a couple of You’re Not a Frog podcast episodes to check out:&nbsp;Episode 106: How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About with Caroline Walker&nbsp;Episode 129: How to Cope with Trauma on the Frontline with Dr Caroline Walker&nbsp;&nbsp;Episode 153: Think Differently About Your To-Do ListEpisode 156: How to Change Your Life in 12 Minutes Per Week THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these...
3/14/202316 minutes, 23 seconds
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The Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine

Professor Chloe Orkin &amp; Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram of the Medical Women's Federation join us in this episode to discuss sexism in medicine. We share first-hand experiences and explore why it remains a glaring issue today. We then discuss some strategies for action and what we can do to improve things.If you want to know what the glass ceiling, glass cliff, and glass slippers are and how to avoid them, listen to our entire conversation in this You Are Not a Frog episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:How does sexism manifest in the medical world?Learn the barriers to progress for medical women.&nbsp;Discover what we could do on an organisational and individual level to advocate for equality.Episode Highlights[04:01] Sexism in Society[06:48] Medical Women's Federation[08:18] The Growth of Representation of Women in Medicine[10:22] Working in a Male-Dominated Hierarchy[15:33] On Speaking Up[17:44] Barriers to Progress for Women[23:06] Why Women Don’t Apply[25:38] Women’s Household and Professional Roles[31:10] What We Could Do on an Organisational and Personal Level[38:02] How to Deal with Blatant Sexism[44:01] The Work the Medical Women’s Federation Does[45:11] Chloe and Nuthana’s Top Three TipsResourcesMedical Women’s Federation: Website | Instagram | Twitter | FacebookThe Medical Women PodcastBritish HIV AssociationConnect with Professor Chloe Orkin: Email | TwitterConnect with Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram: Email | TwitterRegister for the upcoming MWF Spring Conference 2023: ‘Empowerment: Driving Change and Development in Medicine,’ which will be held virtually on March 17. This conference is open to anyone interested in equity in medicine. There will be a recorded copy, too, for those who want to catch up afterward. Registration fees: Members: £20, Non-Members: £35, and Students: £5.THRIVE Weekly PlannerRegister for the free upcoming training, If I Don’t Do It, No One Will: The Ultimate Guide to Loving Your Limits for Leaders Who
3/7/202348 minutes, 14 seconds
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The Power of Pressing Pause

When you're dealing with a stressful situation, your first instinct might be to act immediately to solve it. Unfortunately, acting immediately often means you don't think your actions through. Acting rashly can worsen the situation, making it even more stressful. Fortunately, there's a better way to respond to stress. All you have to do is take a few seconds to press the pause button.In this quick dip episode of You Are Not a Frog, you'll discover the power of pressing pause in the middle of a stressful time. Rachel shares some of her own difficult experiences and how pausing could've helped her react better. She talks about how our brains can respond to stress and what we can do to ground ourselves and go back to rational human thinking. Face stressful situations as the person you want to be when you use the power of pressing pause.&nbsp;Discover how pausing can help you deal with stress when you take a moment to pause with us and tune into this quick dip episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how much time you need to pause and deal with stress.&nbsp;Learn how you can ground yourself back into your parasympathetic nervous system.Find out what the four Ps are and how you can use them to make a plan to pause.Episode Highlights[00:36] Backed Into the Stress Zone[05:22] Taking Seconds to Hours to Press Pause[07:53] Getting Back Into Your Parasympathetic Nervous System[10:11] Getting Enough Pause Time[12:09] The Four Ps PlanResourcesDr Jill Bolte Taylor Ted TalkPrint or save a Pause Button to help you pause when facing stressful situations.Use our You Are Not a Frog CPD Reflection Forms to make your pause planEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
2/27/202316 minutes, 18 seconds
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How to Change Your Life in 12 Minutes Per Week

For high-stress professionals like us, one of the biggest obstacles to making a change in our lives or pursuing our great ideas is time. You might feel overwhelmed by the change you want to make or afraid of what other people would say. It's your choice not to let these reasons stop you from changing your life.Robbie Swale changed his life by using 12 minutes of his week. He joins us in this conversation to discuss an amazing realisation he had: you can achieve so much by taking a little bit of your time. He discusses the challenges of nurturing your great ideas and how to overcome those obstacles. Robbie also dives into the four phases of creating something new and the importance of starting.Don't let your great ideas go to waste. Learn how to change your life in 12 minutes when you tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out the main excuses your mind can come up with and learn how you can overcome them.Discover how small and steady can help you win the race and achieve great things.You have more time than you think — enough time to start changing your life this week!Episode Highlights[03:15] Robbie's Journey of Great Ideas[08:42] Doing the Same Thing, Differently[12:13] Great Ideas VS Criticism[17:31] The Power of the Tortoise&nbsp;[25:59] Practice Makes Better Relationships[29:30] Breaking Down Career Change[33:41] Keep Going[36:50] Managing Time for High-Stress Professionals[39:21] Getting Started[41:51] Executing Your Great Ideas: Just Start[45:20] Robbie's Top Three Tips to Start Changing Your LifeResourcesCheck out the Shapes Toolkit for training tips to help manage stress and overwhelm.12-Minute Method Series by Robbie SwaleBook 1: How to Start When You're StuckBook 2: How to Keep Going When You Want to Give UpBook 3: How to Create the Conditions For Great WorkBook 4: How to Share What You've MadeSmart Passive Income Podcast with Pat FlynnSeth GodinYou Are Not a Frog Episode 154: How to Fix Your Broken MeetingsThe Tim Ferriss Show<a href="https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/eat-pray-love/"
2/21/202347 minutes, 49 seconds
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The One Thing You Can Do For Your Well-being

As healthcare professionals, we know what we need to do for our physical and mental well-being. So why aren’t we doing it?Often, the first thing we give up when we get busier is something that makes our lives happier. We've normalised giving up our basic needs to make room for productivity. No one bats an eye at it anymore. But is living your one shot at life like this really worth it at the end of the day?In this quick dip episode, we talk about the one thing you can do right now for your well-being. The biggest barrier to well-being is not knowledge; it’s setting aside time to do it. It will feel uncomfortable, but we don’t have to give up the thing that makes us happy to make room for busyness. Otherwise, you’ll find yourself burned out before you realise what’s happening.If you want to know how to start prioritising your well-being as you get busier in life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand how not to fall into the bottom of the vortex of busyness.Learn the five (or eight!) ways to well-being.Start doing the one thing you need for your well-being.Episode Highlights[00:33] The Biggest Barrier to Health and Fitness[02:03] Vortex of Busyness[04:03] Stress and Burnout[05:05] Ways to Well-Being[06:22] The Three Types of Life[08:19] The ONE Thing You Can Do Right Now for Your Well-BeingResources5 Steps to Mental WellbeingTED Talk: The new era of positive psychology | Martin SeligmanTHRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected]: @drrachelmorrisFind out more about our training<a...
2/14/202312 minutes, 5 seconds
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How to Fix Your Broken Meetings

Whether we like it or not, meetings are essential in running an organisation. But when was the last time you attended a&nbsp; meeting without feeling bored? Meetings are supposed to help us get work done more effectively. It's an opportunity for us to raise issues and make important decisions. But despite their importance, very few of them are done well. How, then, can we transform our meetings from bad and boring to helpful and interesting?Dr Carrie Goucher joins us in this episode to discuss the basics of a good meeting. She also explains how to disagree with other people in meetings while maintaining good relationships. Then, we lay down simple and practical actions making meetings shorter, more productive, and better.If you want to know how to start running engaging and effective meetings, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how to plan meetings beyond just hygiene factors.Discover how to engage and encourage people to speak their minds during meetings.Find out the best way to run an effective meeting.Episode Highlights[04:16] How Carrie Got into Meetings[06:07] Planning Beyond Hygiene Factors[09:57] Carrie’s PhD in Meetings[15:02] How to Encourage People to Speak Up&nbsp;[21:42] Addressing Hierarchy[24:58] Disagreeing without Criticising[29:13] ‘Yes, but…’[34:04] How to Run a Meeting[38:53] The Four Quadrants of a Meeting Documentation[42:17] How to Run a Meeting with Time Constraints[45:11] How to Share Information in an Engaging Way[48:56] Carrie’s Top Three Tips for Running Good Meetings at WorkResourcesTake an off-grid You’re Not a Frog retreat with us this coming May. Get a special discount when you book before February 10th.&nbsp;&nbsp;Get 25% OFF of&nbsp;FewerFasterBolder’s Meeting Leaders E-Course! FewerFasterBolder's Free Resources&nbsp;to downloadFor people changing meetings across a whole department or organisation - listeners can express interest for&nbsp;Meeting Pioneers cohort from March 2023 hereDownload FewerFasterBolder’s Invitation Template and Capture Canvas here for FREE!THRIVE Weekly PlannerConnect with Carrie: FewerFasterBolder | LinkedInEnjoyed This...
2/7/202352 minutes, 8 seconds
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Think Differently About Your To-Do List

Do you constantly feel guilty about unfinished tasks at the end of the day? Do you keep finding yourself wanting to improve how you manage your time?Your to-do list is not a fixed and immovable bucket. It’s a river of opportunities that you have a choice and control over. How would you choose what things to fish out of this river wisely?In this quick dip episode, we discuss shifting our mindset about our to-do list from a bucket to a river. We only have a limited amount of time in the world. Instead of trying to do the impossible of managing our time, we need to start learning how to manage the opportunities we take. We have the power to choose what we take out of that river. So think differently about what you want to pull out, and choose wisely.If you want to know how to think differently about your to-do list, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand why it’s impossible to manage time.Learn why you should think differently about your bucket list.Start applying the Four F’s Method in your life.Episode Highlights[00:29] Four Thousand Weeks[02:37] Think Differently About Your To-Do List[03:55] The Problem with Thinking of Your To-Do List as a Bucket[06:21] Shifting Your Mindset About To-Do Lists[07:26] How to Choose What to Pick Up Out of the River[08:06] Four F’s Method[15:31] Choosing WiselyResourcesFour Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman&nbsp;&nbsp;OLIVER BURKEMAN: 4000 weeks…it’s all we got in this lifetime, folks! From the Wild with Sarah Wilson Podcast&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;Books by Marshall Goldsmith&nbsp;Episode 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life with John C. ParkinEpisode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. ParkinTHRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your CPD workbook for...
1/31/202316 minutes, 41 seconds
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How Perfectionism and Shame Lead to Stress and Burnout

Why is it that doctors work themselves to the point of burnout and stress and making themselves sick? In a system that seems to demand perfectionism in healthcare workers, medical professionals aim for impossibly high standards. What happens when they can't meet the standards they set for themselves?Dr Sandy Miles joins us in this episode to explore the concept of shame and how we respond to it. She also explains why shame breeds perfectionism in healthcare workers. After explaining the concept of shame, we also share practical, actionable tips to overcome shame and have a healthier response to it.&nbsp;If you want to know how shame fosters perfectionism in healthcare workers, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:What exactly is shame, and how does it manifest in our daily lives?&nbsp;Learn common responses to shame and how to overcome it healthily.&nbsp;Understand why shame causes perfectionism in healthcare workers.Episode Highlights[03:31] Introducing Sandy[05:21] Defining Shame[12:28] How Identities Are Tied to Shame[15:39] 3 Ways People Respond to Shame[18:07] How to Respond to Shame[27:19] Shame and Perfectionism in Healthcare Workers[32:17] How to Overcome Maladaptive Perfectionism[36:49] What You Can Do Today[44:51] Recognize What You Can Control[47:35] Sandy’s AdviceResourcesTake an off-grid You’re Not a Frog retreat with us this coming May. Get a special discount when you book before February 10th.&nbsp;&nbsp;Can’t make it in May? Dr Sandy recommends the Acacia Retreat in September.&nbsp;You're Not a Frog Episode 92: How to Avoid Becoming the Second Victim with Dr Caraline Wright &amp; Dr Lizzie SweetingThis is Going to Hurt: Secret Diaries of a Junior Doctor by Adam KayBooks and videos from Brene BrownShame and MedicineShame in Medicine: The Lost Forest, a 10-part documentary podcast produced by The Nocturnists&nbsp;&nbsp;&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerConnect with Sandy: Twitter | <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/sandy-miles-4552a294/" rel="noopener...
1/24/202353 minutes, 54 seconds
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Embracing Your Limits in a Limitless System

Everyone praises those who work hard — so it’s not unusual for people to think that it’s good to push your limits and do as much as you can.But what’s the best thing to do when you’re tired and exhausted? Should you see how far you can go, or take a break?In this short episode, we discuss embracing our limits as a choice. With so many things out of control, we need to discern when to take a rest because work will never stop for us. We also discuss how you can start to recognise warning signs. Remember, people don’t go from okay to complete burnout overnight, it’s a long process.If you want to know how to embrace your limits and live a happier life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Why do we need to embrace our limits and take a break more often?How can we recognise our limits and take action before burnout forces us to stop?&nbsp;Understand that we don’t need to feel guilt and shame about our limits.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[00:28] Learn to Embrace Your Limits&nbsp;[02:27] You Always Have a Choice[03:18] How to Recognise Our Limits and Take a Break[07:18] The Guilt Around Rest[09:21] Learn to Recognise Warning Signs[12:30] How to Embrace Your LimitsResourcesJoin us for a 3-day Off Air-Off Grid thinking retreat on the 2nd - 5th May 2023Episode 88: How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
1/16/202314 minutes, 18 seconds
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How to Get People to LOVE your Ideas

Convince change to happen.You've got great ideas for change. It's just a matter of putting these plans into motion. However, change needs to be something where everyone works together. You can't just tell someone to do this or that. Because of this, change can be a challenge. But don't let this discourage you! With the right message and space for a conversation, you can convince the people around you to make change happen.In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Toby Moore joins us for a conversation about communicating ideas and convincing people to change. We dive into creating a message that connects with people. You'll find that sharing what you want, why you want it, and how you'll do it can become a call to action. Discover how you can put your great ideas into motion through conversation and a better communication strategy.Don’t stop your ideas from changing the world! Tune in to this episode to find out more about convincing your audience.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the importance of structuring your&nbsp;what, why,&nbsp;and&nbsp;how&nbsp;to create a convincing messageFind the language that helps your audience understand, believe, and connect with you.Learn how you can have a call to conversation with your audience.Episode Highlights[03:15] Change for People[06:40] Elements of a Better Communication Strategy[11:13] Starting With Your&nbsp;What&nbsp;and&nbsp;Why[16:43] Connecting Your Reasons[19:28] Understand, Believe and Take Action[24:19] Using Lived Experiences as a Better Communication Strategy[27:49] The Importance of Structuring Your Message[34:01] Overcoming Objections[40:36] Top Three Tips to Encourage ChangeResourcesStart With Why&nbsp;by Simon SinekMAKE IT: How to Work with Clarity, Confidence and Creativity&nbsp;by Toby MooreSign up now and join our free online&nbsp;Anti-Challenge Challenge&nbsp;this January!THRIVE Weekly PlannerJoin the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors&nbsp;here!Reach out to Rachel at&nbsp;[email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your&nbsp;CPD workbook&nbsp;for this episode.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:&nbsp;@Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter:&nbsp;@DrRachelMorrisEmail:&nbsp;[email protected] out more about our training&nbsp;here.
1/9/202343 minutes, 37 seconds
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When Working Harder Doesn't Work

How have you been living your life so far?&nbsp;Most of us have worked hard all our lives to be successful. Whilst hard work is commendable, it can start to define your life. Instead, how about we try to work happier so that we can find fulfillment in everything we do.In this quick dip episode, Rachel talks about what to do when working harder isn’t working anymore. She explains why working harder is actually counterproductive and why it can fail us. Rachel also shares simple but powerful tips to flip your mindset and adopt a healthy work ethic. Work hard at your job, but work twice as hard in looking after yourself. That is how you can create a life worth living.If you want to know how to work happier instead of harder, tune in to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover why working hard is failing you instead of leading you to success.Learn why you should write a ‘to be’ list instead of a ‘to do’ listUnderstand the importance of embracing your limits.Episode Highlights[02:53] Working Hard in High-Stress Jobs[04:15] Why Working Harder is Failing Us[06:55] Guilt from Not Working Harder[10:44] Focus on Working Happier, Not Working Harder[12:16] Flipping the Mindset[13:11] ‘To Do’ List vs ‘To Be’ List[16:29] Recognise Your LimitsResourcesThis Is Going to Hurt&nbsp;(TV Series 2022)Four Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanCheck out more You Are Not a Frog episodes about how to say ‘no’ and prioritise powerfully here:Episode 54: How to work more flexibly, without the stressEpisode 105: The Simplest Way to Beat Stress and Work HappierEpisode 109: Is It Possible To Have Fun At Work?Episode 122: How to be Happy at WorkEpisode 125: How to Say No and Deal with PushbackEpisode 134: How to Tell People What They Don’t Want to HearEpisode 135: How to Escape the Urgency TrapEpisode 141: You ChooseEpisode 145: How to Know if You’re Being ‘Resilience Victim Blamed’Join You are Not a Frog’s January Anti-Challenge!Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly...
1/3/202317 minutes, 33 seconds
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Best Bits of 2022: Stress and Worry

The stress and worry we felt during the pandemic didn’t disappear in 2022. As medical practitioners, having a myriad of problems and uncertainties on our plate has simply become part of the job. But after over a hundred episodes, our conversations here at You Are Not A Frog have shown that we can make choices that help us to cope with and even overcome stress, anxiety and worry.&nbsp;So let’s wrap up another fantastic year by rediscovering the best bits of our podcast episodes on stress and worry. We revisit our favourite conversations on breaking the anxiety cycle, doubts and fears, and the power of ‘f**k it’.Happy Holidays, dear listeners! Let’s end this year and start 2023 right by learning how to beat burnout and work happier.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Listen to the most talked-about YNAF episodes.Rediscover tips and tricks for living a healthier and happier life.Recount simple techniques for dealing with work-related burnout.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[02:01] Episode 119: Dealing with Stress and Worry&nbsp;[04:10] GROW&nbsp;[09:23] Breaking the Anxiety Cycle[12:21] Episode 106: Worrying Is Not Caring&nbsp;[15:30] Learn to Let Go&nbsp;[18:14] Episode 105: Don’t Believe All Your Thoughts&nbsp;[23:53] When Your Doubts and Fears are Valid[28:14] The Default State[31:59] Finding Calmness[33:14] Episode 130: The Power of “F**k It’&nbsp;[37:08] Thinking Is the Problem[41:42] Release All Attachments ResourcesJoin our January 2023 Anti-Challenge. Sign up here!&nbsp;Check out the full interviews of the episodes we featured today!Episode 119: How To Improve Your Mental Health In 10 MinutesEpisode 106: How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry AboutEpisode 105: The Simplest Way to Beat Stress and Work HappierEpisode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters)10 Minutes to Better Mental Health by Lee David and Debbie BrewinTHRIVE Weekly PlannerShapes ToolkitPermission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for DoctorsSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episode.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
12/27/202243 minutes, 25 seconds
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Best Bits of 2022: How to Build Confidence

As trained medical professionals, we are confident about our technical skills and our ability to work harder than most professions. But are we truly confident and happy about our lives and careers? Every day is a whirlwind at our workplace, and we need to learn how to build confidence, take a step back and be compassionate to ourselves.Every day, we can learn something new. Not just about the technical aspects of our work, but also about ourselves, our emotions, and well-being.&nbsp;In this episode of ‘You Are Not a Frog’, Rachel brings you this year’s best bits of the podcast on self-confidence and creating a life you’ll never regret. We look back on people pleasing, taking criticism, imposter syndrome, and self-coaching!&nbsp;Don’t miss this episode and step into 2023 with an improved mindset on confidence!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how to gain confidence at work and listen to constructive criticism.Learn how to redefine your beliefs and be more honest with yourself to find peace and happiness.Go on a self-development journey through self-coaching.Episode Highlights[02:02] Episode 110: How to Stop People-Pleasing[08:01] How to Build Confidence and Take Criticism[10:16] Episode 112: Rethinking Imposter Syndrome[13:46] How to Accept Growth and Imperfection[19:51] A New Definition of Imposter Syndrome[21:05] Episode 115: How to Find Peace and Happiness[33:11] How to Be Honest[35:55] Episode 117: How to Build Confidence Through Self-Coaching[41:48] Stop Being Confused[43:13] Episode 123: How to Live Without RegretsResourcesJoin our January 2023 anti-challenge! Every day, we're going to share a simple activity to make your life less challenging. Sign up here!Check out the full interviews of the episodes we featured today!Episode 110: How To Stop People Pleasing And Absorbing Other People’s Angst&nbsp;Episode 112: Why We’re Ditching the Term ‘Imposter Syndrome’Episode 115: How To Find Peace And Happiness, Even In A Life You Haven’t ChosenEpisode 117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do It Well)Episode 123: How to Live With No RegretsTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
12/20/202251 minutes, 54 seconds
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How to Deal with Xmas Disasters and Other Disappointments in Life with Corrina Gordon-Barnes

Do you look forward to Christmas holidays or other family celebrations only to be disappointed that reality is not what you had hoped it would be? Or has life not worked out as expected, and you're struggling with regrets and disappointment? How do we deal with feeling disappointed, especially with the upcoming holidays?In this 2022 Christmas Special of You Are Not A Frog, executive coach and relationship expert Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to explain several approaches to dealing with life's disappointments. She builds on her years of experience as an executive coach and relationship expert to share the value of self-compassion and give simple tools we can use to turn disappointment into a learning experience. If you’re perpetually being disappointed every holiday season, this episode might be for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the value of self-compassion to overcome being disappointed.Find out why bad experiences can actually be good motivators.&nbsp;Get practical tips on how to handle disappointment (and other negative emotions!)Episode Highlights[06:02] Disappointed During Holidays[17:43] Practising Your ‘Scripts’ and ‘Dances’[20:59] The Power of Requests[29:38] Handle Expectations, Prevent Being Disappointed[35:34] Embracing Feeling Disappointed and Negative Emotions[40:43] Finding Self-Compassion[44:56] The Value of Regret[51:19] Top Three Tips to Handle Being DisappointedResourcesFind out more about our next Off Grid retreat.Get access to webinars designed for leaders in health and social care fields to help their teams deal with stress, overwhelm and heavy workloads here.&nbsp;Download our FREE 'How to retreat when you can't go on retreat recipes'Listen to Corrina’s previous episodes:&nbsp;Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Corrina Gordon-BarnesHow to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob BellThe Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward by Daniel PinkLearn more about Corrina’s work on her website.&nbsp;Connect with Corrina on her LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training <a...
12/13/202254 minutes, 36 seconds
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How to Know if You're Being 'Resilience Victim Blamed'

What is your first thought when you think of the word ‘resilience’? For many professionals and organisations, this means becoming superhuman — someone who can do anything despite the stress, heavy workload, and emotions. Not only is this perspective wrong, but it’s also impossible!We’re all human. So why do we expect perfection?In this episode, Rachel dives into the concept of resilience victim blaming and how you’re led to think it’s your fault when you can’t perform superhuman standards. Resilience is about choices and shifting how you respond to situations. You have a choice, even if you don’t think so now. In fact, you may even need to make tough decisions for the sake of your well-being. If you want to know how to become more resilient and prioritise choices for your welfare, stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the true meaning of resilience.Discover how to thrive in your workplace and take back control of your life.Overcome learned helplessness by choosing for yourself.Episode Highlights[00:29] How Time Affects Well-Being&nbsp;[03:39] You Can’t Wait Around for Systemic Change[04:52] How to Thrive in the Workplace[07:00] The Choice to Overcome Learned Helplessness&nbsp;[11:06] How to Prioritise ResourcesLost to the NHS: a mixed methods study of why GPs leave practice early in EnglandThe Chimp Paradox by Dr Steve Peters&nbsp;Check these You’re Not A Frog episodes that cover time management and prioritisation:&nbsp;Episode 69: Make Time for What MattersEpisode 74: Managing your Time in a System Which SucksEpisode 93: How to Delegate, Do It, or Drop ItEpisode 115: How To Find Peace And Happiness, Even In A Life You Haven’t ChosenEpisode 123: How to Live With No RegretsEpisode 125: How to Say No and Deal with PushbackEpisode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters)Episode 138: How to Balance Life and WorkTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training...
12/6/202213 minutes, 37 seconds
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Job Crafting for Happiness

How do you feel about your job? Do you enjoy all aspects of your work? Do you sometimes wish you could make it better? The demands in healthcare make it almost impossible to remove the constant pressure surrounding the job. What follows risks burnout. But with the right combination of resources, support, and an innovative mindset, employees can craft jobs in ways that will make them feel happier at work.In this panel discussion episode of You Are Not a Frog, we ask Kirsten Armit, Dr Colin Lindsay, and Dr Daljit Hothi at the FMLM International Healthcare Leadership Conference 2022 to speak about how to craft jobs to suit employees better. We discuss the evidence-based actions and changes you can take to fine-tune your job. Plus, we share simple actions organisations need to do to help others do the same.If you want to find out what job crafting means, stay tuned to this episode and learn how it can help you feel more positive about your work!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn about the Job Demands-Resources Theory.Discover how job crafting helps employees avoid burnout and feel better at work.Find out how to craft jobs at an individual and systemic level.Episode Highlights[05:38] Job Demands-Resources Theory[09:00] What Work Engagement Means[12:35] The Impact of Investing in People's Jobs[16:21] What is Job Crafting?[20:56] How to Implement Job Crafting[26:23] Job Crafting Supports Employee Well-Being and Productivity[33:53] How Leaders Can Help their Teams with Job Crafting[37:08] Job Crafting at a Systemic Level[42:06] What to Do When there are Limited Resources Available[45:01] Top Three Tips to Promote Job Crafting at WorkResourcesFMLM International Healthcare Leadership Conference 2022Get in touch and download our brochure here.Episode 131: What To Do If You’re Stressed AND BoredConnect with Kirsten: LinkedIn&nbsp;Connect with Dr Colin: LinkedIn&nbsp;Connect with&nbsp; Dr Daljit: LinkedInFind out more about the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.&nbsp; &nbsp;Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: <a...
11/29/202247 minutes, 11 seconds
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Is it ‘Normal’ Not to Cope?

We often think stress and burnout are normal. However, anyone who has experienced extreme pressure can tell you that too much stress is bad for our health and performance. Our physiological reactions to stress are normal. Despite this, we continue to blame ourselves if we cannot cope with it.In this quick tip episode, Rachel shares how doctors and other individuals in demanding jobs see stress as ‘normal’ and how it impacts our health. When you’re burning out, stop blaming yourself and start being compassionate. If you want to know how to cope with stress and burnout in the normal and human way, stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how we get ‘normal’ wrong.Understand how stress and burnout affect us.&nbsp;Learn how to cope with stress and burnout the normal way.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[00:30] The Current State of Healthcare Professionals&nbsp;[02:52] Stress and Burnout: Common But Not Normal&nbsp;[07:40] How We Usually Respond to Stress and Burnout&nbsp;[13:43] What Is Normal? ResourcesPhysician Burnout - Who Will Save Us? by Dr Dyke Drummond&nbsp;Are You Too Stressed to Be Productive? Or Not Stressed Enough? By Harvard Business ReviewDownloadable Stress Curve WorksheetTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
11/22/202217 minutes, 50 seconds
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How to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career with Dr Tommy Perkins

Many professionals in high-stress careers can find themselves working long hours every day and not growing wealthier. No matter how much you do or how many hours you add, you find yourself trapped in a cycle of work and finances. Getting out of this trap is difficult when you don't know the financial decisions you need to make. You'll find practical steps on controlling your finances so that they don't control you: earn more and spend less.Dr Tommy Perkins joins us for a conversation about money and career. He answers your questions about what you can do to stay financially stable. We talk about why people make unusual financial decisions and what motivates a person to spend. He also gives insightful tips and tricks to save and set aside money for your wealth and financial safety.Find out how to make the financial decisions you need in your life without worrying about money when you tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover the greatest influence on your financial decisions.Find out how you can grow your wealth with Tommy’s saving tips and tricks.Learn how you stay financially safe even when facing difficult times.Episode Highlights[00:45] Why We Choose To Spend[05:22] Tommy’s Experience With Debt[12:33] Emotional Money[19:14] Tips and Tricks for Saving[23:48] Financial Emergency Buffer[28:30] Balanced Decision Making[32:42] Spend Safely and Wisely[36:17] Breaking Out of The Work-Money TrapResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Episode 50: Freeing Yourself From the Money TrapLearn more about how you balance your career and financial decisions at Medics Money and get a copy of their ebook.Medics Money Podcast on iTunes, Spotify, and Google PodcastsEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
11/15/202248 minutes, 29 seconds
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You Choose

Do you sometimes find yourself thinking that you don’t have a choice? Your circumstances and obligations seem to prevent you from taking any course of action except for one. But the thing is, we always have a choice. We choose all the time. Life is made up not of the big choices we have to make but of the little, compounding choices we make on a daily basis. So what choice will you make today? You choose.In this You Are Not a Frog Quick Dip, Rachel delves into choice. She shares the one thing healthcare professionals get wrong about choice and why we find its concept difficult. She discusses the concept of the Zone of Power and how it can help us assess what's in and out of our control in making choices. At the end of the day, we only have one wild and precious life — it's your choice how to spend it.If you want to know how to begin making choices with unclouded acceptance, tune in to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover what it means to live a wild and precious life.Learn how to get out of the victim mentality that we don’t have a choice.Understand the concept of the Zone of Power.Episode Highlights[00:29] You Choose![01:36] Making Choices[04:17] Living a Wild and Precious Life[06:14] What Healthcare Professional Get Wrong about Choice[07:34] Recognising Your Zone of Power[09:02] Choice and Losses[09:36] Embracing Serenity[10:44] Why We Find the Concept of Choice Difficult[12:56] Regrets of the Dying[14:33] Zone of Power ExerciseResourcesYou Choose! by Nick Sharratt and Pippa GoodhartThe Summer Day by Mary OliverThe Choice by Edith EgerLoss and Gain by John Henry NewmanYou Are Not A Frog Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina ScullRegrets of the Dying by Georgina ScullStay within your zone of power through the Zone of Power handout.Join the Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly Membership Programme for Doctors here!Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris Twitter:<a...
11/8/202215 minutes, 56 seconds
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How to Stop Emotional Eating, Eat Better and Feel Better with Dr Matthea Rentea and Keri Williams

We're all guilty of eating our feelings from time to time. It can happen to anyone for any reason — a bad day at work, a stressful time at home, a plan falling short. We start emotional eating because eating is an inherently satisfying activity—and it must be! You feel good when you eat things you like. However, the problem arises when this is our only coping mechanism for dealing with difficult situations. Learning how to stop emotional eating can help us break or prevent unhealthy eating habits.&nbsp;In this episode, Keri Williams and Dr Matthea Rentea talked about the causes of emotional hunger and how it affects our mood and hormones. They also discussed their inspiring weight loss journey and explained why diets don't always work. Finally, they imparted tried-and-true advice on how to stop emotional eating.&nbsp;Don't miss out on this episode if you're looking for the most practical ways to manage binge eating and experience consistent weight loss!&nbsp;3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover a critical step on how to stop emotional eating.Find out why stress drastically increases weight gain.Learn simple steps to eat and feel better.Episode Highlights[06:43] Issues with Returning to Work[10:18] The Benefits of Being Off Work[14:14] How to Regain Confidence[19:17] What to Do When You’re Back to Work[21:41] Sharing Your Situation[26:46] Acknowledge Your Skills[31:33] Nipping Stress and Burnout in the Bud[35:27] How to Avoid and Prevent Burnout[42:15] Top Tips for Going Back to WorkResourcesSign up for our FREE webinar 'How to cope when a doctor dies by suicide'. FREE webinar for doctorsSustainable Weight Loss: The School of Sustainable Weight Loss. You Are Not a Frog is proud to be an affiliate of the school, meaning we receive a small commission if you sign up through our link and you also get a 10% discount! We’re thrilled to be supporting Keri and Matthea in this important work.Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia NagoskiAtomic Habits by James ClearConnect with Keri: Website | Instagram | Linktree | Youtube&nbsp;Connect with Matthea: Email | Instagram | Linktree&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorris" rel="noopener...
11/1/20221 hour, 1 minute, 16 seconds
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If it Didn’t Hurt, There’d Be Something Wrong

Learning to manage your emotions is a crucial skill. No matter the situation, letting your emotions get the best of you doesn't typically end well. However, that doesn't mean we should shut our feelings down. Instead, it's best to identify and analyse them first, then take action.In this quick episode of You Are Not A Frog, I discuss difficult, negative emotions and how to handle them. We tackle what these emotions are and understand why we get them. I will also give tips on discerning whether you need to act or can safely ignore them.&nbsp;If you're struggling to manage overwhelming negative emotions, this episode is for you. 3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand negative emotions and why you feel them.&nbsp;Know how to deal with guilt.Learn when to act on your negative emotions and when to ignore them.Episode Highlights[01:46] The Price We Pay[03:12] Pain as Warning Bells[04:46] Not All Negative Emotions Warrant Action[08:04] Dealing With Guilt[09:24] Understanding Negative Emotions[10:46] Discerning When to Act or Ignore Negative EmotionsEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.ResourcesThe Happiness Trap: How To Stop Struggling and Start Living by Russ Harris&nbsp;Connect with Rachel: LinkedIn | Twitter | EmailTHRIVE Weekly Planner
10/25/202215 minutes, 21 seconds
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How to Balance Life and Work

Does having a healthy work-life balance seem so unattainable that you’ve given up trying to acheive it? Work takes up most of our time, leaving only spare time for our other commitments. Maybe you have tried doing everything at once, only to end up resentful. This may be because you’re aiming for the impossible.&nbsp;Dr. Claire Kaye joins us in this episode to discuss why we should never aim for work-life balance, and why you should aim for life balance. We talk about the importance of prioritizing your needs and the things that give you joy. We also teach you practical ways to cope with burnout and create balance in all aspects of your life — career, socials, family, well-being, and hobbies.If you want to know how to get the life balance you need (and desire), stay tuned to this episode.3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why achieving a perfect work-life balance will always fail.Learn how to do a life audit to work out your priorities.&nbsp;Get useful tips to cope with burnout and overwhelming situations.Episode Highlights[03:58] Life Balance[07:51] Different Definitions of ‘Balance’[11:50] Building Your Priority List[18:36] Find What Gives You Joy[22:05] Managing Your Energy[23:13] Work-Life Equation[27:45] Prioritize Yourself[30:53] Coping With Burnout or ‘Unbalanced Life’[34:48] Doing Reality Checks[40:35] Helping Others ‘Get Unstuck’[42:46] Top Tips for Life BalanceEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.ResourcesGet access to webinars to help your team deal with workload and beat feelings of stress and overwhelm designed for leaders in health and social care here.&nbsp;Listen to previous episodes with Claire:How To Change When Change is ScaryThe Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)&nbsp;Defining Your Own Success in LifeTHRIVE Weekly PlannerLearn more about Claire’s work on her website.Connect with Claire on her Instagram, Facebook, and email.
10/18/202246 minutes, 17 seconds
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Shark Music

Rachel gives a quick tip on facing shark music in this short episode of You Are Not a Frog. She shares her experiences of anticipating the worst-case scenario. She talks about why we hear 'shark music' in the first place and shares two quick steps you can take to stop it. It's time to stop assuming the worst and enjoy your life without shark music playing in the background.Tune in to this episode to hear Rachel’s quick tips on expecting the best and getting rid of your negative assumptions — the imaginary sharks!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn where shark music can come from and what might trigger it for you.Understand why we assume the worst in different situations.Find out how you can beat the shark music by assuming the best.Episode Highlights[00:28] What It Means to Hear Shark Music&nbsp;[04:35] Assumptions of Sharks[07:42] Assuming the Best[09:06] Triggers of Shark Music[10:52] Stopping the Shark Music&nbsp;ResourcesJaws theme song by John WilliamsJaws (1975)Download our free Overwhelm SOS toolkitFeeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
10/11/202211 minutes, 33 seconds
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How to Choose Joy, Even When Life Sucks

In this episode, Angela Deutschmann joins us to talk about how to experience joy despite the challenges of the healthcare profession. Being in a high-stress job can make you mistake happiness about external things with internal joy.&nbsp;Angela talks about how to reprogram your unconscious mind and find joy and satisfaction in your everyday life. She also discusses the difference between caring for and carrying out other people's suffering.If you want to rekindle your joy within and learn how to become joyful whatever the circumstance is, then listen to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out the difference between happiness and joy.Discover tools that will help you care without carrying.Learn how to reprogramme the stories you’ve created in your unconscious mind.Episode Highlights[05:51] Angela’s Work around Joy[07:56] The Difference Between Happiness and Joy[11:27] Finding Joy in Adversity[12:52] Caring vs Carrying[15:03] Tools to Help You Care without Carrying[19:18] Working on the Programming of Your Mind[23:21] The Most Common Programmings People Have[25:18] Coping with Reprogramming Your Defence Mechanism[28:55] The Danger of Blame[30:43] The Process of Reprogramming[39:14] Creating a New Reality[43:23] Where the Analytical Part Comes in[49:27] How Long Reprogramming Takes[53:27] How to Choose Joy over SufferingResourcesAngela will be delivering a live full-day event in London on 26 November 2022 covering all these concepts on Joy – and more! Join her for a life-changing day. Click here to RSVP for the event.Download our Overwhelm SOS ToolkitGet a copy of the Overwhelm Buster ToolkitThe Happiness Equation by Neil PasrichaCollections of Meditations by Joe DispenzaEnneagram Personality Profiling ToolConnect with Angela on her website, Instagram, or LinkedInSubscribe to The Joy Studio and visit their Facebook page.&nbsp;Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your...
10/4/20221 hour, 14 seconds
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How to Escape the Urgency Trap

In this short episode, Rachel talks about becoming more productive in life and work by escaping the urgency trap. She discusses the principles of the Urgent-Important Matrix and how it can help us assess the urgency and importance level tasks. She then shares how to begin doing gradual deep work towards a bigger goal.If you want to know how to escape the urgency trap and become more productive in life and work, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn about the concept of the urgency trap.Identify tasks you should focus on using the Urgent-Important Matrix.Find out the power of doing deep work.ResourcesDownload our Overwhelm SOS ToolkitDeep Work by Cal NewportFeeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEpisode Highlights[00:40] On ‘Managing’ Time[02:13] Urgent-Important Matrix[03:57] Urgency Trap[06:27] Navigating the Urgency Trap[08:57] The Power of Deep Work[10:41] Doing Deep WorkEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
9/27/202212 minutes, 34 seconds
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How to Tell People What They Don’t Want to Hear

In this episode, Jane Gunn joins us once again to share her advice on how you can say no. Most people don’t want to hear rejection. Jane talks about what you can do to avoid triggering others with what you say. Avoid a cycle of conflict by taking your time to respond and not react. She also discusses the many fears you might have as a professional saying no. Learn to set your boundaries and maintain them when you know how to say no.If you’re worried about how your refusal or rejection might cause conflict, then listen to this episode and learn to say no.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the importance of a clear and thought-out message when you are saying no.Learn how you can create a psychologically safe environment where you can say no without fear of judgement.Find out what you can do when someone isn’t happy with your refusal.Episode Highlights[05:42] Hearing Both Sides[09:26] Strong Perceptions[15:18] Problem-solving Process[20:32] The Principle of Self-Determination[24:16] Clearly Saying No[30:37] Standing By Your Values and Virtues[35:57] Opening Up Conversations[41:25] Psychologically Safe Environments[48:09] Responding to Unhappy Reactions[50:45] Making Asking Easier[01:01:29] Jane and Rachels’ Top TipsResourcesDownload our Overwhelm SOS ToolkitListen to more episodes from the You’re Not A Frog Podcast:&nbsp;Episode 123: How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina ScullEpisode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. ParkinsOther You Are Not a Frog episodes with Jane GunnEpisode 23: How to Do Conflict Well with Jane GunnEpisode 37: How to Manage Conflict During COVID with Jane GunnEpisode 96: How to Deal With Difficult Meetings with Jane GunnRegrets of the Dying by Georgina ScullF**ck It by John ParkinConnect with Jane on her website or through her email.&nbsp;Learn more about Jane’s 6-week course about mediationReach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions?...
9/20/20221 hour, 4 minutes, 23 seconds
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But is it a Tiger?

In this episode, Rachel talks about how you can distinguish the tigers in your life and better understand why we respond to them in the first place. She shares the four common immediate responses and how they often put us in a mindset for bad decisions. Whenever we meet a threat or irritation, we need to step back and ask, "is it a tiger?"If you would like a quick tip on staying calm in the face of irritations and make better decisions even in the heat of staring down a tiger, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the three types of threats that affect us — and which one is the tiger.&nbsp;Learn to distinguish what matters and understand our core boundaries.&nbsp;Discover how you can make better decisions independent of your reaction to tigers.Episode Highlights[00:28] What are Tigers?[03:35] The Three Types of Threats[05:45] How Tigers Affect Us[07:23] How to Distinguish Tigers[10:40] Which Tigers Matter?[11:48] Key TakeawaysResourcesListen to more episodes from the You’re Not A Frog Podcast:&nbsp;Episode 130: How to Say F**k It and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (Even about Stuff That REALLY Matters) with John C. ParkinsEpisode 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life. With John C. Parkin &nbsp;Download our Overwhelm SOS Toolkit &nbsp;Feeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
9/13/202216 minutes, 15 seconds
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What to Do When You are Overwhelmed with Gerrie Hawes

Gerrie Hawes joins us in this episode to discuss the suffocating feeling of being overwhelmed, but also how to deal with it. She shares why it's important to enjoy work and how you can take control of your happiness to do so.&nbsp;Learn from Gerrie what you can do when you realize you are overwhelmed. She shares how you can create a happier and more optimistic workplace for your team.If you’re feeling overwhelmed and want to learn what you can do to feel better, tune in to this episode that’s just for you!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand why it’s alright to pursue your happiness.Follow Gerrie's step-by-step instructions on how you can overcome feeling overwhelmed.Learn how optimism can bring about a happier work day.Episode Highlights[04:50] Overwhelming Work[07:02] Letting Yourself Enjoy Work[10:45] Feeling Overwhelmed[20:31] The Big Picture: Aiming For Happiness[28:43] Moving Towards Happiness[32:17] How You Can Start Becoming Better[37:14] Delaying and Delegating[45:24] Recap and Final Tips from GerrieResourcesFeeling overwhelmed right now? Download our Overwhelm Buster Toolkit here.Get a copy of the Virtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitFeeling overwhelmed? Reach out to Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerSign up to get your CPD workbook for this episodeConnect with Gerrie Hawes on LinkedInEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
9/6/202252 minutes, 8 seconds
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Summer Replay 2022 Episode 5

Are you facing a challenge at the moment, or feeling like you could do with some guidance when it comes to choosing your direction? Then our final Summer replay is for you. Discover the power of self-coaching, including the framework and questions to guide you on your self-coaching journey.&nbsp;Episode 117Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Sign up here for a free self-coaching toolkit!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.The Self-Coaching Workbook by Dr Karen CastilleThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen CoveyYANAF Ep 62: Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen CastilleVisit Dr Claire's&nbsp; Website, or follow her on Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook and Twitter.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles. Have any questions?Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
8/30/202252 minutes, 47 seconds
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Summer Replay 2022 Episode 4

Ever feel like everyone around you is a highly-skilled, super competent professional - and you’re just winging it? Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. Listen to today’s replay to find out why calling it “imposter syndrome” isn’t always helpful - and what you can do instead.&nbsp;Episode 112Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Check Dr Sarah’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to WorkRead about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan&nbsp; and Jodi-Ann BureyGrab a copy of The 6-Minute Success JournalVisit Sarah’s website or follow her on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles. Have any questions?Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training <a href="http://www.shapestoolkit.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
8/23/202245 minutes, 30 seconds
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Summer Replay 2022 Episode 3

Are you feeling frustrated, resentful or fed up with work - but not sure if you want to break up with your career entirely? In this replay, Dr Pauline Morris shares how to cultivate a healthier relationship with your work, starting by understanding what you really want and need from your work.Episode 91Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Ten Coping Strategies for Physicians by Dr Pauline MorrisLearn more about Dr Pauline’s programs: Doctors Caring for DoctorsConnect with Dr Pauline: Facebook | Twitter | LinkedInFor more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles. Have any questions?Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.Find out more about this episode here: https://youarenotafrog.com/summer-replay-episode-3/
8/16/202248 minutes, 7 seconds
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Summer Replay 2022 Episode 2

In the second of our Summer replays, join Corrina Gordon-Barnes to learn how to make better decisions by taking a different perspective; the key to creating more fulfilling relationships; and how to stay in your “Zone of Power” when it comes to the big decisions in life.Episode 89Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Check Corrina’s previous episode on You Are Not A Frog:E32: How to take control of your thoughts with Corrina Gordon-BarnesThe Work of Byron KatieStay within your zone of power through the Zone of Power handout.​​Visit Corrina’s website or follow her on Instagram, ​​Twitter, and LinkedIn.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles. Have any questions?Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.Find out more about this episode here: https://youarenotafrog.com/summer-replay-episode-2/
8/9/202251 minutes, 40 seconds
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Summer Replay 2022 Episode 1

We’re kicking off our summer replay series with Dr Richard Pile, and his take on how to reconnect with your meaning and purpose in life. In this conversation, he shares why finding fulfillment can play a critical part in your well-being - and shares a brilliant framework to help you work out your own purpose.Episode 94Podcast linksSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsSign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better, and beat burnout.Create your ideal week using the THRIVE Week Planner!Books to help you find your purpose:Fit For Purpose by Dr Richard PileDrive by Daniel H. PinkThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry by John Mark ComerIkigai TribeWellbeing For Real Life Podcast with Dr Richard PileConnect with Richard: Twitter | YouTube | WebsiteFor more updates and episodes, visit the You Are Not A Frog website.You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.Find out more about the episode here: <a href="https://youarenotafrog.com/episode-89/" rel="noopener noreferrer"
8/2/202246 minutes, 37 seconds
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What to Do if You're Stressed AND Bored

We all know the overwhelm that comes from working in healthcare. But we often overlook the toxic combination that is stress and boredom. This happens when we choose to play it safe and instead ditch things that challenge us.Growth and development are keys to a thriving and well-lived life. When we enable ourselves to learn and grow, only then can we become happier, more successful, and more fulfilled.In this episode, Rachel discusses how to address and navigate the toxic combination of stress and boredom in the workplace. She talks about the role of learning in living a self-actualised life. Rachel also shares some recommendations you might find helpful for learning.If you want to learn how to make learning a habit in your life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out the consequences of indulging in the toxic combination of stress and boredom.Learn ways to fit growth and development into your schedule.Discover the impact of prioritising self-development on your well-being.Episode Highlights[03:03] The Toxic Combination of Stress and Boredom[08:17] Throwing Learning Out of the Window[18:53] #1: Follow Your Interests and Develop Your Strengths[21:25] #2: Work Out What You Need Right Now[21:29] #3: Look at Ways of Learning that Also Hit the Five Ways to Well-being[24:34] #4: Determine How You Learn Best[27:26] #5: Find Ways to Use Your Right Brain[32:15] How to Find Time for LearningResourcesFREE Summer Holiday Working Survival GuideFive ways to mental wellbeingFree to Focus by Michael HyattEffortless by Greg McKeownThe Shardlake Series by C.J. SamsonHilary Mantel’s booksMartin Seligman: The new era of positive psychologyEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
7/26/202236 minutes, 13 seconds
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How to Say F**k it and Become Ridiculously Relaxed (even about stuff that REALLY matters) with John C Parkin

Healthcare professionals and people in demanding careers often accept stress as a way of life. However, unchecked stress will someday lead to burnout and create more problems for everyone involved.Our bold solution to this relentless problem is to start becoming obsessed with relaxation! We all know we need to calm down and relax, but how many of us actually do it?&nbsp;John C. Parkin joins us today and encourages us to say 'f**k it' more in our lives! Not everything is important, and sometimes we try too hard to live up to society's excessive expectations. John shares how overcoming stress and setting boundaries often results in overthinking and feelings of guilt.Let’s learn to finally prioritise relaxation in our lives and see how much better we become through it.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover the power of saying ‘f**k it’.Learn how to say ‘f**k it’ — even in situations that matter.Understand the importance of relaxation and why it should be a daily priority.Episode Highlights[05:07] How John Discovered the Power of ‘F**k It’[09:23] You Can’t Solve Stress with Thinking[14:14] How to Practise ‘F**k It’[16:07] How to Say ‘F**k It’ When It’s Hard&nbsp;[26:22] The First Step of ‘F**k It’[31:57] The Obstacle to Setting Boundaries and Overcoming Stress[35:06] How to Start Relaxing[41:52] How Relaxation Can Help You[50:08] The Power of Affirmations&nbsp;[59:13] John’s Top 3 Tips for RelaxationResourcesSign up for the FREE Summer Holiday Working Survival Guide!Find out how to ‘Relax Very Quickly’ for FREEYou Are Not A Frog Ep 15: Eff It Living. An evidence-based way to beat stress and change your life with John C. ParkinConnect with John: The Fuck It Life | LinkedIn | Twitter | EmailF**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way by John C. ParkinAll the books in the&nbsp;F**k It&nbsp;seriesStroke of Insight by Jill Bolte Taylor: Book | TED Talk&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter:<a href="https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorris" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
7/19/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 2 seconds
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How to Cope With Trauma on the Frontline

Have you seen stuff at work that has affected you deeply? Do you sometimes wonder if keeping calm and carrying on as usual is possibly not the best thing to do?Working on the frontline comes at the expense of many things, physically, mentally, and emotionally. However, this should not be the case. We need to take time and be kind to ourselves in these situations before we could go out and do our jobs.Dr Caroline Walker joins us again in this episode to discuss how trauma affects healthcare professionals working on the frontline. We talk about some steps we can take to help ourselves and each other process traumatic situations in healthy ways.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out what things cause a trauma response in us.Learn the difference between a normal acute trauma stress response and PTSD.Discover the three things you should do immediately following any traumatic event.Episode Highlights[05:31] The Inherent Trauma in the Field of Healthcare[10:05] Trauma in the Professional vs Personal Life[12:08] Normal Trauma Response[14:58] Coping with Repeated Trauma[17:15] Recognising Trauma[21:49] Trauma Processing[22:56] Normal Stress Response vs Acute Stress Reaction vs PTSD[24:50] How Trauma Is Treated[27:01] Other Reactions from Traumatic Events[28:26] Tips on Dealing with Traumatic Situations at the Time and After[32:42] The Role of Team Debriefing[35:04] Connecting with Your Normal Support Network[38:57] How to Give Yourself Permission to Thrive[41:06] Caroline’s Top Three Tips for Coping with TraumaResourcesSign up for our Permission to Thrive FREE WEBINAR to learn how to thrive at work, even in a demanding job!Permission to Thrive CPD Monthly MembershipResilient Team AcademyConnect with Caroline: The Joyful Doctor | Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedInThis is Going to Hurt&nbsp;SeriesThis is Going to Hurt by Adam Kay4000 Weeks by Oliver BurkemanTED Talk: Oliver Burkeman: How to stop fighting against time.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn:...
7/12/202242 minutes, 54 seconds
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After Burnout: Planning a Working Life You Want with Dr. Katya Miles

While taking time away from work, you may realize that your career path is not what you wanted it to be. You might find that many things need to change in order for you to pursue your ideal life. Fortunately, returning to work can be your opportunity to make changes in your life. Have the intention to take the steps to avoid burnout and live out your ideal life.In this episode, Dr. Katya Miles and Rachel continue their talk about what you can do after returning from a break at work. You might find that with proper planning and intention, your return is just what you need to start making some changes. From self-care to checking in, you can take this opportunity to live your ideal life and career.&nbsp;If you want to find out more about planning a working life you want, listen to this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how planning and being intentional can keep you on track to your ideal life and career.Learn how self-care doesn’t benefit only you, but the people around you as well.Discover the opportunities that your time away, and your return, can create for you.Episode Highlights[04:58] Planning Ahead[10:35] What You “Should” Do[12:43] Self-Care for Others[16:50] Opportunities In Returning to Work[20:15] Little Changes[23:15] Career and Life Check-Ins[28:25] Incomparable LivesResourcesLearn to beat stress and work happier with the Shapes Toolkit. Learn to use the toolkit with your team by joining the Resilient Team Academy.Sign up and use the THRIVE Weekly Planner to plan out your ideal working weeks.Find out more about Rachel’s business Wild Monday.You Are Not a Frog Episode 123:&nbsp;How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina ScullThe Summer Day by Mary OliverConnect and learn more about Dr. Katya MilesLinkedInThe Working Well DoctorE-mail
7/5/202232 minutes, 40 seconds
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After Burnout: Going Back to Work with Dr Katya Miles

When major issues occur in your life, it’s often necessary to take a break and deal with them, and of course there’s also the other reasons we take significant time off work - maternity or parental leave, taking a sabbatical or taking a career break.&nbsp;Whatever the reason for being off work, being off for a prolonged period can lead to a loss of confidence and anxiety when you are finally able to return, which may cause you to worry that you’re just going to slip back to where you were….In this episode, the first in our series about ‘What to do after burnout’, Rachel talks with Dr Katya Miles about how to return to work after a long absence and how to thrive again. They explore the fears and doubts people often face and how to overcome them.&nbsp;You’ll learn Katya’s tips on how to regain confidence and prevent burnout happening all over again.If you want to find out how to thrive in your work again, this episode is for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the common struggles with returning to work.Find out how to overcome these fears and regain your confidence.Discover ways to prevent stress and burnout from reoccurring.Episode Highlights[06:43] Issues with Returning to Work[10:18] The Benefits of Being Off Work[14:14] How to Regain Confidence[19:17] What to Do When You’re Back to Work[21:41] Sharing Your Situation[26:46] Acknowledge Your Skills[31:33] Nipping Stress and Burnout in the Bud[35:27] How to Avoid and Prevent Burnout[42:15] Top Tips for Going Back to WorkResourcesShapes ToolkitFind out more about the&nbsp; Resilient Team AcademyMore episodes on burnout:Ep 25 - The Truth about BurnoutEp 64 - What to Do When You're Out of FuelEp 83 - The Ups and Downs of Being a Man-FrogMore episodes with Katya:Ep 72 - Working well - from anywhere!Ep 79 - How to Give Yourself Permission to ThriveConnect with Katya: Email | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedIn | TwitterJoin Katya’s Newsletter - Thrive Well News.Register for the Burnout Remedy CourseThe Working Well Doctor&nbsp;<a...
6/28/202245 minutes, 48 seconds
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Using Nature to Answer Your Big Questions With Henri Stevenson

Many of us spend most of our days within the four walls of our home and workplace. With everything we have to do, it seems challenging to set aside a few minutes out of our indoor spaces. But when you find the time to connect with nature, you might discover new perspectives and insights into your life.Henri Stevenson joins us to talk about the ways connecting with nature can shift our thinking and open up new solutions. We discuss the differences in our thoughts and feelings when we're in nature versus within artificial walls. She shares her stories of finding metaphors for life situations reflected in nature and what she learned from them. Henri reminds us that sometimes, the solutions to our problems may show up in quiet spaces when we take a few moments to connect with nature.Curious about how to take time to learn and connect with nature? Learn how and much more when you tune into this episode!3 Reasons to Listen:Find out the importance of taking some time to relax and take your thoughts on a walk.Learn to connect with nature in a way that fits your life (even if you only have 5 minutes!).Discover different perspectives on your life with the help of nature.Episode Highlights[05:33] How Henri Learned to Connect With Nature[08:41] Stepping Out of the House and Office[09:48] Bringing Your Thoughts Into Nature[14:40] Life Lessons From Nature[17:09] The Seasons of Life and Nature[19:28] Finding Meanings[22:34] Learning in Relaxation[25:50] The Outside VS Office Perspective[28:45] Where to Connect with Nature[31:29] Setting Aside Time for Walk[36:54] A Long Retreat Into Nature[41:26] Henri’s Final AdviceResourcesHenri is also running a one-day thinking nature retreat in Hertfordshire this July.Join us in connecting with nature during our September Retreat. Reserve your place here.Beat stress and work happier with the Shapes Toolkit. Use the toolkit with your team by joining the Resilient Team Academy.Find out more about Henri Stevenson on her websiteWanderful: Human Navigation for a Complex World by David PearlPodcast Street Wisdom by David PearlYou Are Not a Frog Episode 15 with John C. Parkin talking about his book, F**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way&nbsp;Grounded: How Connection With Nature Can Improve Our Mental and Physical Well Being by Dr Ruth AllenBirds songs from the RSPB Nature Reserve<a href="https://youarenotafrog.com/episode-117/"...
6/21/202244 minutes, 38 seconds
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How to Say No and Deal with Pushback

In this episode of You Are Not a Frog, Annie Hanekom guides you through how to say no and deal with the inevitable pushback. She shares the importance of language — are you using pain language or power language? We’ll also be discussing how to employ power language to set boundaries and how to use your values to get over the pain of saying no.If you also struggle with saying no and dealing with pushback, tune in to this episode to know how you can set boundaries, enforce them and make your work life happier!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand why saying ‘no’ is a kindness — even if people are put out by it.Discover the difference between pain and power language.Learn how to set your boundaries and deal with pushback.Episode Highlights[06:02] The Universal Challenge of Saying No[09:52] Benefits of Saying No&nbsp;[11:24] Why We Struggle with Saying No[16:24] Using the Pause[23:47] Practical Prioritisation[31:59] The Power of Language[40:00] How to Deal with Pushback[48:58] Top Tips on How to Say NoResourcesSign up for our FREE webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback.Resilient Team Academy&nbsp;Connect with Annie: LinkedIn | EmailEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
6/14/202254 minutes, 9 seconds
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How to Change When Change is Scary

Change can definitely be scary. However, it doesn’t always have to be a difficult and terrifying experience. Dr Claire Kaye is back on the podcast to talk about change. Whether you dislike change or thrive on it, her insights and enlightening tips will help you make the most of the changes in your life.Are you undergoing a difficult change right now? Learn more about how to change when change is absolutely scary in this episode of You Are Not a Frog.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why your approach to change, whether you hate it or love it, can define your experiences.Discover opportunities and gifts from experiencing change.Learn how you can persevere through and embrace changes in your life, no matter how impossible it seems.Episode Highlights[06:00] How to Approach Change[07:42] Enforced VS Created Change[10:45] How to Face Barriers in Change[14:03] The Process of How to Change[19:16] Going Through the Five Stages[22:13] Leading Change[26:32] Coping With Change: Finding Opportunities[28:50] The Consequences of Staying Still[32:25] How to Change: The Starting Line[47:13] Claire’s Top Tips on How to Change[49:24] Making Space for ChangesResourcesSign up for our free Video training series about how to say no and set boundariesSign up for our free Webinar about how to prioritise powerfully, say no and deal with pushback&nbsp;117: The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do It Well)Ep 107: Define Your Own Success In LifeEp 71: Create a Career You’ll LoveEp 123: How to Live with No RegretsRegrets of the Dying: book and podcast by Georgina ScullStages of GriefPositive Intelligence (PQ)The Iceberg is Melting by John KotterEssentialism and Effortless by Greg McKeownConnect with Dr Claire Kaye: Instagram | Facebook | <a href="https://twitter.com/drclairekaye" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
6/7/202253 minutes, 4 seconds
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How to Live With No Regrets with Georgina Scull

Do you truly know what it means to live a life without regrets? Too often, we get stuck chasing dreams that aren't even our own or don't take action to improve our lives because we're hoping for something better.If you only had a year left to live, would you really be spending it at the office?Georgina Scull joins us in this episode to talk about what she learned from writing the book, Regrets of the Dying: Stories and Wisdom That Remind Us How to Live. She shares the three common regrets of people dying: not being able to make other people happy, living up to other people’s expectations, and trying to rewrite history. We walk you through practical steps you can use to reflect on your inner desires and live a meaningful life.If you want to know how to live a life without regrets, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[05:30] The Story Behind Regrets of the Dying[10:04] How Georgina Changed Herself[15:33] The Need for Change&nbsp;[17:31] Learning from Others&nbsp;[22:28] Three Common Regrets&nbsp;[28:03] Living for Yourself[30:55] Sorting Out Priorities[40:04] You’re in Charge[46:57] Three Lessons from the Book&nbsp;[50:42] Getting Out of a RutResources:CSign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritising, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.Connect with Georgina: LinkedIn | TwitterRegrets of the Dying by Georgina ScullWant to have a taste of the book before purchasing it? Listen to Georgina’s podcast, Regrets of the Dying.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoy This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/&nbsp;Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: [email protected]
5/31/202255 minutes, 20 seconds
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How to Be Happy at Work with Sarah Metcalfe

Joining us to talk about finding happiness in your workplace is Sarah Metcalfe. The founder of Happiness Coffee Consulting shares the importance of being happy at work to reduce workplace stress and perform better. She gives her top tips on simple things you can do to pursue happiness and share it with others. In a high-stress job like medicine, choose happiness and spread it.If you want to learn more about how and why we should be happy at work, tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Get to know the positive effects of happiness and positivity in the workplace.Learn how results and relationships can help you be happy at work.Find out how you can be a leader who leads your team with happiness.Episode Highlights[05:18] Happiness in Purpose[08:16] Searching for Happiness at Work[13:49] The Difference Between Well-being and Happiness[16:39] Finding Happy Times[23:00] The Happiness Effect[29:41] Reflecting Happiness[35:43] Leading With Happiness[42:58] Choosing to Be Happy[49:53] Toxic Bosses[51:58] Sarah’s Top Three Tips for Happiness in the WorkplaceResourcesSign up here for our FREE new mini video series for healthcare professionals about prioritizing, raising confidence and falling in love with what they do.More about Shawn AchorProfessor Jochen Menges Ted Talk on overwork and burnoutAdam Grant's Ted Talk on languishingNHS Trust Study on Happiness and Health OutcomesBroaden and Build Theory of Barbara FredricksonThe (Un)Happy Planet Index by Nic MarksGrab a copy of Sarah’s Happiness at Work Cheat Sheet to create a happier and more successful organisation.Contact Sarah on LinkedIn | email&nbsp;Learn more about Happy Coffee Consulting on their websiteSign up and get the You Are Not a Frog downloadable CPD reflection formEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
5/24/202255 minutes, 4 seconds
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How to Be a (Happy) Working Parent with Corrina Gordon Barnes

In this episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to discuss the common struggles of working parents and the things we need to unlearn. She shares how to take radical responsibility as a parent and delegate responsibilities from housework to emotional load. We also teach you how to stay in your zone of genius and accept help when you need it. It’s time to live a life you love and enjoy, even amidst all your responsibilities!If you’re struggling to balance work and parenting, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how to let go of unhealthy thoughts and behaviours like parenting guilt, rescuer tendencies, and gender normative expectations.Discover the importance of delegating housework and the family’s emotional load.Understand how staying in your zone of genius can make you happier.Episode Highlights[04:55] Introducing Corrina[07:54] Struggles of Working Parents[13:04] Differences in Becoming a Parent[16:03] How to Manage Parenting Guilt[19:04] Balancing Responsibilities[26:28] Delegating at Home[30:42] The Dangers of Being a Rescuer[35:30] Why You Need to Have a Coach Mindset[38:35] How to Have an Easier Life as a Working Parent[40:35] Why It’s Important to Stay in Your Zone of Genius[45:37] Corrina’s Top 3 TipsResourcesTake part in our survey all about saying no.Connect with Corrina: Website | Instagram | ​Twitter | LinkedInWant to learn more from Corrina? Listen to these previous You’re Not a Frog Podcast episodes:&nbsp;Episode 104: How to Cope with Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot&nbsp;Episode 89: Should I Stay or Should I Go?Episode 32: How to Take Control of Your Thoughts&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level by Gay Hendricks&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
5/17/202248 minutes, 1 second
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Making Online Meetings Work with John Monks

Are you sick of spending all day in front of your screen? While it is convenient to conduct online meetings, it can also feel tiring not meeting people face to face. But love them or hate them, online meetings are here to stay. We need to find ways to make them work.John Monks joins us to discuss designing better online meetings and interactions. We discuss how to create online meetings that energise and infuse rather than demotivate. We also teach you why simple exercises on limits and boundaries in these interactions can improve problem solving and creativity.If you want to know how to make the most out of online meetings, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn tips for engaging people in online meetings.Discover tips and exercises for making every minute of online workshops valuable.Understand the future of work meetings.Episode Highlights[06:24] Online Meetings as a Norm[09:06] How John Began Improving Virtual Meetings[13:19] Recalibrating Curve’s Course about Facilitating Online[16:14] Different Forms of Online Meetings[20:19] Tips on Engaging People in Online Meetings[25:38] The Difficulty in Achieving Equal Participation[28:29] Making Every Minute Valuable[31:35] Setting Constraints[35:41] Failsafe Exercises for Engaging Interactions[38:27] Exercises for Solving Problems and Issues[41:46] Meeting Approach and Format[47:55] Making the Most Out of Breakout Rooms[52:11] Online versus In-Person[56:52] Diversity and Inclusivity in an Online Work Setup[59:53] John's Top Three Tips for Getting Better Online InteractionsResources.PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy for your organisation.CurveCloser Apart by John Monks and Lizzie ShupakSlackWhatsAppSocial Physics by Alex PentlandDownload a FREE COPY of Curve’s Remote Workshop Planning Canvas here!TED Talk: David Grady: How to save the world (or at least yourself) from bad meetingsLearn more about Karim Benammar’s works hereMiroMURALHarvard Business Review PodcastConnect with John: LinkedInTHRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This...
5/10/20221 hour, 3 minutes, 48 seconds
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How to Improve Your Mental Health in 10 Minutes with Dr Lee David

What do you tend to do when you're feeling overwhelmed by negative thoughts or stress? Most of us want to "fix" negative emotions – but this approach usually makes it worse! Dealing with negative emotions isn't always about fixing them; sometimes, acknowledging and recognising them is enough. Handling your mental health matters isn't always a long, drawn-out process. Our guest for this episode shares how you can start managing negative thoughts and feelings — in as little as 10 minutes!Dr Lee David joins us to discuss practical tools for managing our negative emotions healthily. She shares the GROW model, which anyone can perform in just 10 minutes. We also talk about how labelling your experience through words and images can help organise your thoughts. Lee also shares how to be actively compassionate towards ourselves. Your mental health matters; working on your mental and emotional health for a few minutes daily can do wonders.&nbsp;If you want to know how to manage and address your mental health matters, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why trying to fix negative emotions is counterproductive.Discover how to manage your mental health matters in as little as 10 minutes.Understand the importance of self-compassion and taking action-based compassion.Episode Highlights[05:15] Introducing Dr Lee’s Book &nbsp;[08:32] How Does Cognitive Behaviour Therapy Work?&nbsp;[10:49] How to Deal with Negative Thoughts[15:23] Why You Can’t Fix Negative Thoughts[21:21] Observe and Label Experiences&nbsp;[28:04] Recognising Your Wise Self[35:41] How to Apply the GROW Model[41:58] How to Help Children[48:26] How to Be Kind to Yourself[52:19] Lee’s Top TipsResourcesWe’re opening our Resilient Team Academy this June. Register here to support your teams for resilience, well-being, and productivity without burning themselves out.PCNs and other organisations can get a special discounted rate at the Resilient Team Academy! Find out more here.10 Minutes to Better Mental Health by Lee David and Debbie BrewinThe Chimp Paradox by Dr Steve PetersDare to Lead Podcast with Brené BrownThe Gifts of Imperfection by Brené BrownConnect with Dr Lee: Website | Facebook | Twitter | LinkedIn | Email ([email protected])&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these...
5/3/202256 minutes, 6 seconds
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How to Manage Upwards (and Sideways)

Every workplace has a hierarchy. Whether you are a trainee, a colleague, or a boss (or all three!), the hierarchy can influence everything from everyday working practices to relational dynamics. However, sometimes, it can feel much harder communicating upwards than down. Factors like fear and under-confidence can lead you to speak up less and be more hesitant to discuss issues. But building trust, and putting your voice out there will benefit your team as well as you.Today, we have two guests on You are Not a Frog: Dr Claire Edwin and Dr Keerthini Muthuswamy. They talk about their experiences working within a hierarchical system as junior doctors and share what they have found to be essential if you want to build trust and foster good relationships with your seniors, your juniors, and your peers.&nbsp;If you want to know how you can build trust and influence your workplace, and manage upwards and sideways this episode is just for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out why a hierarchy can be both a help and a hindrance.Overcome the barriers set down by hierarchies to influence your workplace for the better.Learn how to approach conversations and which questions you can ask to build trust and good relationships with your colleagues.Episode Highlights[04:56] The Impact of a Title[07:08] The Impact of a Hierarchy[09:58] The “I’m Just a Trainee” Mentality[14:46] Build Trust and Influence[18:24] The Real Problem[27:46] Asking and Conversing[36:21] What Creates Good Working Relationships[43:57] Relationships and Influence[46:12] Kit and Claire’s Top Three Tips for Managing Horizontally[48:01] Rachel’s Top Tips for Managing Upwards and SidewaysResourcesBecome a member of the Resilient Team Academy this June. Find a community of leaders and help your team thrive.Check out the Shapes Toolkit for resources that can help you thrive in your workplace.You are Not a Frog Episode 102: Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word.Learn more about Red Whale Lead, Manage, Thrive! CoursesGetting to Yes: Negotiating Agreement Without Giving In by Roger Fisher, William Ury, Bruce PattonInfluence Without Authority by Allan Cohen and David BradfordLearn more about the Cohen and Bradford Influence ModelKeerthini Muthuswamy: Twitter | email | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementClaire Edwin: Twitter | email | LinkedIn | Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementEnjoyed This...
4/26/202251 minutes, 34 seconds
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The Surprising Power of Self Coaching (and How to Do it Well)

Some problems are a breeze to solve, but others can leave you dithering for ages. Ignore them for too long, and they’ll catch up, but face them without planning, and you won’t progress. However, what you may not realise is that can find the solution within yourself.In this episode, Rachel talks with Claire Kaye about self-coaching. They explore the framework and questions to guide you on your self-coaching journey. You’ll learn Claire’s tips on gaining confidence, control, and success in every aspect of your life.If you want to learn how self-coaching can empower you in your life and career and how to do it successfully, this episode is for you!3 reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn the right questions to ask yourself when practising self-coaching.Discover how to assess your emotions and what to do when you’re stuck.Learn how to solve problems with the 3 R’s.Episode Highlights[05:10] Self-Coaching for Career Development[08:01] How to Change Your Approach to Work[11:18] The Definition of Coaching[16:09] Asking Questions and Reflecting[27:13] Solving Problems with the 3 R’s&nbsp;[30:48] Staying in Your Zone of Power[33:34] Silent Coaching Exercise[41:29] What to Do When You’re Stuck[51:54] Some Resources[54:05] Claire’s Top Three TipsResourcesSign up here for a free self-coaching toolkit!Connect with Claire: Website | Instagram | LinkedIn | Facebook | TwitterThe 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen CoveyYANAF Ep 62: Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen CastilleEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect With MeHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.
4/19/202256 minutes, 7 seconds
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What I Got So Wrong About Mindfulness and How it Might Transform Your Life

This week, Steve Pratt joins us to discover the benefits of mindfulness. We talk about how mindfulness is used to be able to live happier and less anxious. We also teach you how you can develop mindfulness practices and incorporate them into your life.ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leadersListen to a previous episode on mindfulness with Graham Lee&nbsp;Try out the Headspace app&nbsp;Get the book by Mark Williams Mindfulness: An Eight-Week Plan for Finding Peace in a Frantic World&nbsp;[5:46] Steve’s ExperiencesSteve has been a GP appraiser for 35 years, both as a managing partner and now a mentor for other GPs on the fellowship scheme.He spent 25 years teaching evidence-based medicine.[9:34] How To Be Less Stressed And Burnt OutMindfulness is not just about becoming more resilient, although it is part of resilience courses.Tune in to learn more about how to be less stressed or less burnt out in the full episode![17:02] The Skill Of NoticingThe act of noticing the chatter is the work. All you have to do is bring your attention to something specific.Mindfulness is noticing that something is happening but choosing to remain direct.[19:11] Choosing Where To Focus Your AttentionIt’s up to you to choose where to focus your attention.Train yourself to recognize what's going on in your body.[25:59] How Mindfulness Practice Changes Your BehaviourMindfulness gives you the skill to quickly get better information from your body.Eventually, you'll react differently to stressful situations.[35:12] Stress Equals Resources Minus DemandsSteve believes that we should do things that work and have evidence backing them up.Mindfulness practice has strong evidence behind it. It's not "woo-woo".[42:54] Mindfulness Practice In Daily LivingYou can practice mindfulness at any time, such as when brushing your teeth or while driving to work.Instead of taking 20 minutes to scroll through social media, you can spend it in meditation.You can try out other mindfulness skills if you don’t develop a formal practice.Steve recommends doing a formal MBSR course. For now, listen to the full episode to try out a three-part breathing space!Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
3/29/202253 minutes, 42 seconds
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How to Find Peace and Happiness, Even in a Life You Haven't Chosen

Do you ever find yourself questioning whether you’re on the right path? Or maybe you’re struggling to find meaning in what you do? So many of us feel like we are stuck in a neverending climb in our careers. Whenever you get to a point like this, it may be time to re-assess and reprioritise your life.&nbsp;When faced with unwanted events, go back to your ‘why’ to discover how you can change your circumstance or perspective.Dr Maddy Du Mont joins us in this episode to discuss how her COVID-19 experience changed her life away from clinical practice. Although difficult at first, her reprioritisation made her feel free and at peace. She shares questions that will help you find clarity on your priorities.&nbsp;Change doesn’t require a life-changing event, nor does it have to turn your life upside down. It be can just simply changing your mindset and feeling at peace with your decisions.If you want to know how to find peace and happiness in your life, stay tuned to this episode.ResourcesConnect with Maddy: WebsiteGet in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022Learn Brooke Castillo’s Self Coaching Model. You can also learn more by listening to her podcast, The Life Coach School.&nbsp;Take these free assessments over at Values in Action. You can also profile your personality with 16 Personalities.You can find Brene Brown’s various books here.&nbsp; &nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[04:17] How Maddy Coaches People[06:53] How COVID-19 Affected Maddy[12:37] How Weakness and Illnesses are Connected[18:04] We Need to Be Honest With Ourselves[23:13] What Drives You?&nbsp;[28:56] How to Prioritise[32:29] How Priorities Guide Decisions&nbsp;[36:54] Finding the Truth in Your Story[38:11] Change Doesn’t Always Require Difficult Events&nbsp;[42:00] Change Doesn’t Need to be Drastic[43:35] Maddy’s TipsEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: http://www.shapestoolkit.comRachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/&nbsp;Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: <a href="mailto:[email protected]"...
3/22/202247 minutes, 14 seconds
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How to Get an Appraisal That Doesn't Suck

Doctors and healthcare professionals are so busy that they would rather do other things than spend hours working on their appraisals. However, appraisals are a vital part of your medical career. This process allows you to reflect on your past experiences and figure out how to move forward.&nbsp;Dr Susi Caesar joins us to talk about how you can elevate and enjoy your professional life with annual appraisals. She shares the purpose of appraisals and how they can help you choose the best way forward in your career and personal life. Dr Susi also gives her top tips on what you can do to make this process more meaningful.If you want to know more about appraisals and how you can benefit from them, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the purpose of appraisals and why you need to take part in it.Get tips on how you can make a good appraisal.Find out how your appraiser can help you identify problems, solve them and plan for the future.ResourcesGet a FREE CPD Reflection Form when you sign up!Are you a doctor who enjoys teaching, training and coaching? Send a message to [email protected] to join our team of doctors for our resilience program.Find more about appraisals and revalidation with the GMC and NHSRegister for the RCGP Conference 2022Research by Sarah Marwick in 2017 about red flags of doctors in need of supportTime to Think by Nancy KleinTop Tips to Make the Most Out of Your Appraisal by Dr Susi CaesarContact Dr Susi Caesar via email or on LinkedInEpisode Highlights&nbsp;[05:55] About Appraisals[11:45] The Misunderstanding About Appraisals&nbsp;[14:25] How to be a Critical Friend[19:46] The Importance of Communication Skills[24:49] Efficient Documentation&nbsp;[33:57] Catching Red Flags[39:52] Burnout Among Doctors[42:51] Dr Susi’s Tips for a Good Appraisal[48:55] Choosing Your Appraiser[51:24] Dr Susi’s Final Tips for the EpisodeEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/Find out more about our training here: <a href="http://www.shapestoolkit.com" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
3/15/202254 minutes, 56 seconds
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What to Do When a Junior is Badmouthing Your Colleagues

Dr Ed Pooley joins us in this episode to discuss what we should do when we see inappropriate behaviour like badmouthing. He shares how we can manage difficult conversations with the intent of helping others. We also discuss the importance of recognising triggers through the SCARF model.ResourcesGet in touch and book a slot with us for live program courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Autumn 2022, with only a few openings left for Spring 2022Learn more about Dr Ed Pooley on the Ten Minute Medicine website and Facebook.Join the FB Group about difficult conversations in medicine.David Bradford and Carole Robin wrote the book https://connectandrelate.com/, inspired by their legendary Stanford Business School course Interpersonal Dynamics.&nbsp;Dive deeper into the SCARF model with The Handbook of NeuroLeadership by Dr David RockHero on a Mission by Donald Miller. &nbsp;Looking for advice on a dilemma? Email us at hello@you'renotafrog.com.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[04:16] Why Tough Conversations are ToughEven if you know what the right thing to do is, it’s often still difficult to manage a tough conversation.&nbsp;We often already know what to do but don't know how to do it.Reporting these behaviours is inappropriate and rooted in your sense of right or wrong.[11:41] How to Confront Difficult Conversations&nbsp;We make excuses to avoid addressing issues and difficult conversations.There’s always a reason for people’s behaviour.Remember that it’s not about being right or wrong.[19:16] Helping Others and Assume Good Intentions&nbsp;Assuming the reasons behind people's actions can push them further away.Instead of judging people, learn to ask if they’re struggling.When you confront someone, don’t assume that their actions are done with ill intent.[23:41] Recognising the Chimp StateIt’s hard to have difficult conversations when people are in their chimp state.Recognise your own responses so you can see them in others too.Your actions may trigger other people’s chimp states.&nbsp;The SCARF model explains triggers, and stands for status, certainty, autonomy, relatedness, and fairness.&nbsp;[31:49] Value People’s AutonomyAutonomy is related to people’s control over their environment or position.&nbsp;Frame your intentions into a request.Be neutral, clear, and non-confrontational.&nbsp;[37:03] Be FairFind out whether your feeling of unfairness is grounded in reality.&nbsp;Don't fall into over-generalisation of beliefs.&nbsp;Give others autonomy by asking how the situation can be made fairer...
3/8/202247 minutes, 9 seconds
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Why We're Ditching the Term 'Imposter Syndrome'

Everyone’s experienced self-doubt at some point. However, downplaying our accomplishments and skills might lead to negative self-talk. That's not to say questioning yourself is completely bad — sometimes it can spur you to improve!ResourcesSign up for the Resilient Team Academy to join a supportive and thriving community of leaders.Listen to Episode 67: Bringing Your Best Self to Work with Dr Sarah GouldingRead about Stop Telling Women They Have Imposter Syndrome by Ruchika Tulshyan&nbsp; and Jodi-Ann BureyKnow more about Brené BrownConnect with Corrina Gordon-BarnesGrab a copy of The 6-Minute Success JournalCheck out Sarah’s websiteFollow Sarah on Twitter, Instagram, YouTube, and Linkedin.Episode Highlights[03:46] The Imposter SyndromeMany people today use the phrase 'imposter syndrome' without much thought.&nbsp;Impostor syndrome can make you feel like a fraud.[08:37] Take a Break&nbsp;Professionals who work in high-stress environments are more likely to be harsh on themselves.[11:03] Imposter Syndrome and Gaslighting&nbsp;Find out why someone supposedly has imposter syndrome — it may be a more significant problem than you expect.The problem may be systemic.Telling someone that they may be experiencing imposter syndrome can be a form of gaslighting.&nbsp;[13:47] How Self-Doubt Can Help YouSelf-doubt is healthy when you associate it with a growth mindset.&nbsp;We are human — expect mistakes. We can, however, grow and change.[21:14] Spotting Unhelpful ThoughtsNo one has everything figured out.Examine your thoughts and decide to be kinder to yourself.It's crucial to share your thoughts with others and reflect.[24:59] Leadership and Vulnerability&nbsp;It's helpful for leaders to reveal their vulnerabilities.&nbsp;Leave a job when your unique abilities and talents aren't a good fit.[31:36] The Need For Supervision&nbsp;Medical professionals have access to many coaching programs, but rarely use them.&nbsp;Coaching programs do not tell you what to do; they encourage you to determine what is most important to you.[35:45] Self-Compassion&nbsp;Imagine yourself speaking to a loved one. Consider what you would say to them if they were in a similar situation.You are worthy of self-compassion.[39:39] Change The
3/1/202248 minutes, 20 seconds
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What to Do When You Start to See Red?

Do you find yourself stuck in a pattern of aggressive conversations in certain situations? Do you ever wonder why those conversations trigger you? It can be hard to understand what's happening when we're feeling in what he calls a ‘red state’. Identifying the feeling is the first step in mindfulness practice; we need to recognise our red emotional states to move away from them.Graham Lee joins us in this episode to discuss our emotional states and apply simple mindfulness techniques to get out of a red state and into a green one. Most conflicts are rooted in unmet needs. When we admit those needs, we can instantly change relationship dynamics! Graham also shares insights on what to do during stressful situations where your emotions cloud your judgement and thinking.If you want to use mindfulness practice to be more aware of your emotions even during difficult situations, then stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how we can categorise our emotional states to be more effective in our conversations without triggers.&nbsp;Learn how to shift from a red state to a green state through mindfulness practices.Understand how our secondary and primary emotions relate to unmet needs.ResourcesConnect with Graham: LinkedIn I The Awareness Partnership&nbsp;Looking for relationship therapy? Check out books by Harville Hendrix&nbsp;Breakthrough Conversations for Coaches, Consultants, and Leaders by Graham LeeHelp your team cope better to feel calmer and work happier with https://www.shapestoolkit.com/. We are now open for Summer 2022 and Autumn 2022 bookings! We also have a few slots left for Spring 2022.THRIVE Weekly PlannerEpisode Highlights[05:22] Introducing Graham[10:08] How Can Emotional Awareness Change Conversations[15:15] Mindfulness Practices Even During Stress[23:45] How to View Emotions and Our Needs[29:14] The Importance of Acknowledgement&nbsp;[32:53] Practical Techniques&nbsp;[36:03] Be the Observer[39:11] Observe First Before Anything Else[44:42] Graham’s Tips&nbsp;[52:37] What to Do When Someone Else is RedEnjoy This Podcast?Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, do not hesitate to write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and submit them for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorris"...
2/22/202255 minutes, 43 seconds
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How to Stop People Pleasing and Absorbing Other People's Angst

Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray join us to discuss how our core beliefs shape the way we respond to situations. When taken too far, empathy and helping people can be a big cause of stress. In addition, we also talk about we can learn to reframe and reassess their core beliefs.&nbsp;If you want to know how to help people without absorbing their emotions, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Understand the connection between people-pleasing and stress triggers.&nbsp;Discover how to care less about what others think, so you can do a better job and feel fulfilled.&nbsp;Learn techniques like shadow work and develop a beginner’s mind for a happier life.&nbsp;ResourcesConnect with Dr Karen: LinkedIn I Twitter &nbsp;Connect with Chrissie: LinkedIn I Bell Lane Physiotherapy&nbsp;Develop resilience with Resilient Practice! You can also follow them on Facebook and Twitter.&nbsp; &nbsp;&nbsp;How to Rise: A Complete Resilience Manual by Dr Karen Forshaw and Chrissie Mowbray&nbsp;Episode 10: What We're Talking About When We Talk About Compassion Fatigue With Rachel Otzelberger&nbsp;Registration for Summer 2022 is now open at the Shapes Toolkit. There are also a few slots left for Spring 2022.&nbsp;Get your free THRIVE Weekly Planner!Episode Highlights[05:29] What’s Happening in the Healthcare Industry?&nbsp;[07:42] How Core Beliefs Affect Us[09:34] What Really Causes Stress&nbsp;[12:34] How We Develop People Pleasing&nbsp;[15:42] How to Respond to Complaints&nbsp;[19:33] Stop Absorbing People’s Emotions[25:36] How to Turn Empathy to Compassion[29:24] Link Between Triggers and Shadow Work&nbsp;[31:57] How to Know What You Need to Work on&nbsp;[33:54] Develop a Beginner’s Mind[36:02] How to be Free from Triggers&nbsp;[42:27] How to Do Inner Work&nbsp;[45:29] Chrissie and Karen’s TipsEnjoy This Podcast?Post a review and share it! For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or<a...
2/15/202249 minutes, 56 seconds
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Is it Possible to Have Fun at Work?

When was the last time you had fun at work?&nbsp;Dr Kathryn Owler joins us in this episode to discuss the importance of having a fun mindset at work. She shares her fascinating research on the characteristics and traits of people who enjoy their current jobs. We dissect the common themes these people have in finding success in their careers.If you want to start adopting the mindset people who have fun at work have, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn what it means to have fun at work.Discover the mindset and the things people who have fun at work do.Find out how you can attain a ‘lighthearted sense of enjoyment’ in your work life.Episode Highlights[05:07] Kathryn’s early work experience[06:55] Feeling Stuck and Unhappy[08:51] On Having Fun at Work[15:14] Taking Fun into Any Workplace[17:27] Secrets to Having Fun at Work[20:00] Taking Action&nbsp;[22:55] Kathryn’s Definition of Fun[24:52] Being in the Flow[27:28] The Notions of ‘Joy’ and ‘Fun’[29:36] Connection and Fun at Work&nbsp;[35:31] Being Successful While Enjoying Yourself[38:31] Changing Your Mindset and Taking Action[44:11] Kathryn’s Coaching Experience[46:52] Kathryn’s Top Three TipsResourcesGet in touch and book a slot with us for live programme courses of the Shapes Toolkit. Bookings are open for Summer and Autumn 2022, with only a few slots left for Spring 2022.&nbsp;Connect with Dr Kathryn Owler: LinkedIn | The Happiness at Work CoachGet a FREE copy of The Happiness at Work Coach’s The Three Simple Steps to Enjoying Any Job here!Get access to the THRIVE Weekly Planner!&nbsp;Enjoy This Podcast?Learn the fun mindset to master your destiny and thrive even in the most difficult situations. If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review and share this with your friends.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts, or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel...
2/8/202249 minutes, 49 seconds
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What We Wish We'd Learnt at Med School

Dr Ed Pooley and Dr Hussain Gandhi join us to discuss critical management skills they wish they had learned at med school. We also talked about how you can develop these practices now.ResourcesEisenhower Matrix and Ike AppFree to Focus by Michael HyattDr Ed Pooley’s Ten Minute Medicine website, Facebook and FB GroupDr Hussain Gandhi’s LinkedineGPlearning's website, Facebook and YoutubeTHRIVE Planner: https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/thrive-plannerEpisode Highlights[04:25] About Dr Ed and Dr GandhiDr Ed Pooley is a communications trainer.Dr Hussain Gandhi is a GP partner trainer, PCN clinical director, and owner of eGPlearning.[05:54] What Gandhi Wished He Knew in Med SchoolLearn to say no.Delegate and prioritize.[07:56] Ed’s Top Med Career TipsYour job doesn’t define who you are.Build habits that stick.[10:02] Why It’s Hard to Say NoPeople in healthcare often say yes.Saying yes is easier than 'no'.You end up putting other people's needs first.[16:08] How to Say NoShift your mindset from ‘you won’t’ to ‘you can’t'.When you say no,&nbsp; discuss why and alternative options.Give yourself time to think.[19:32] Learn How to DelegateUnderstand what you need to do and what others can do.Group less urgent tasks. Do them all at once.Have systems and processes that everyone knows.[24:28] Lacking The Power to DelegateShare with your organization the difficulty to delegate.Take control of what you can.Sit down and break down the task.[28:04] Giving Yourself PermissionThe hierarchy can be limiting.The medical education system makes it challenging to separate school and work.&nbsp;It's crucial to speak up and breach the hierarchy.[37:12] Ed and Gandhi’s Final AdviceArgue with a child. Say no without saying the word 'no'.Use the Eisenhower Matrix. Ask someone else to do the same and compare lists.Ask yourself whether or not what you’re doing contributes to your goals.Enjoyed This PodcastWrite a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook: https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group:<a...
2/1/202242 minutes, 59 seconds
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Defining Your Own Success in Life

We all have our own take on what success looks like. Throughout our careers, we’ve conditioned ourselves to work extra hard to get to where we want to be, but many professionals who have reached high levels of success seem to be unhappy. Is this really what success looks like?&nbsp;There is no one definition for success. We’re all different — from our talents and skills down to the priorities we have and the trajectory of our careers. You have the freedom to define success on your own.In this episode, Dr Claire Kaye joins us to talk about the importance of honesty and clarity in defining our own success. We may think that achieving certain goals will make us happy, but evidence shows us it’s the other way around. It’s only when we’re happy that we can be successful. We also discuss how to overcome common barriers to our happiness and success such as fear, guilt, and uncertainty.If you want to know how to live a happier and more successful life, stay tuned to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how to redefine success on your own terms&nbsp;Find out how you can prioritise your own happiness&nbsp;Learn about the common blocks we have around change, and how you can alter your mindset.&nbsp;ResourcesConnect with Dr Claire Kaye: LinkedIn | Website | Facebook | InstagramWe are now working with GP fellowship programs, trainers, and groups to help people feel happier! Bookings are now open for Autumn 2022 and a few slots are left for Spring 2022.&nbsp;You're Not A Frog Episode 71: Create a Career You’ll Love with Dr Claire KayeYou're Not A Frog Episode 88: How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob BellFour Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman&nbsp;The Happy Secret to Better Work by Shawn AchorThe Happiness Advantage by Shawn AchorGet access to the THRIVE Weekly Planner to design your ideal working week!&nbsp;Episode Highlights[04:39] How Does Dr Claire Define Success?&nbsp;[09:33] Success and Passion&nbsp;[12:12] Why It’s Important to Find Happiness First[16:11] It’s Not About the Goal[23:16] How to Plan Your Success[28:57] How to Stay on Your Plan&nbsp;[32:11] Common Blocks Towards Success[36:27] Change Your Mindset&nbsp;[37:47] Change is Not Failure[44:59] What to Do When You’re Overwhelmed[48:26] Find Clarity&nbsp;[51:59] Dr Claire’s Top Three TipsEnjoy This Podcast?For more updates and episodes,...
1/25/202253 minutes, 35 seconds
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How to Stop Worrying When There’s a Lot to Worry About

In this episode of YANAF, we’re talking about worry and anxiety, particularly rational worry and anxiety. You know the phrases, don’t worry, it’ll probably never happen, or ‘It’s not like anyone’s going to die!’ – well what do we do when bad things may well happen, or people’s lives and livelihoods are genuinely at risk? How do we stop ourselves from becoming overwhelmed with anxiety then?To explore this, we’re joined by Psychiatrist and therapist Dr. Caroline Walker to talk about how to stop ourselves from feeling overwhelmed with worry even in the midst of worrying times. Even though we might not be able to control what’s going on in the world, or even just our families or workplaces right now, one thing we do have more control over is how we deal with ourselves when we start feeling anxious or dwelling on unhelpful thoughts (even if they may be very rational). We can also stay focused on the present where everything is OK now.&nbsp;We talk about how worry can be helpful when it spurs us into action but when it’s overplayed can cause us distress and actually make the bad things MORE likely to happen as we can’t think straight or perform as well when we are in our sympathetic fight flight or freeze zones. We share some simple techniques you can use to reduce your anxiety which you can use anywhere EVEN in difficult times.&nbsp;So listen to this episode if you want to find out:Why do we need to be ‘more gazelle’Which emotions your anxiety may be masking and why this matters ANDHow to get yourself out of the vicious cycle of rumination and worryResourcesPermission to Thrive MembershipYou Are Not A Frog Episode 15: Eff-It Living with John C. ParkinFour Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanThe Joyful DoctorCaroline Walker’s emailEnjoy This Podcast?If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, then do not hesitate to write a review and share this with your friends.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: <a...
1/18/202245 minutes, 4 seconds
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The Simplest Way to Beat Stress and Work Happier

In this episode, Dr Giles P. Croft joins us to discuss how stress starts with our thoughts and emotions. He talks about how the mind works and its tendency to create narratives and predictions that stress us out. We also delve into the importance of allowing ourselves to calm down and letting go of the things we can’t control.Episode Highlights[05:20] Past YANAF Episodes with Giles[06:46] Where Does Stress Start?[14:00] How People Work the Same Way[18:58] What to Do About Valid Fears and Thoughts[24:35] Our Default State[28:44] How to Calm Down[32:03] Context Changes Our Thoughts&nbsp;[35:31] What Thoughts Do We Ignore or Listen to?&nbsp;[42:13] Stress Less[52:34] Practical Tips from GilesEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here:Rachel’s LinkedIn.: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/&nbsp;Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: [email protected] LinksSign up for our FREE webinar on Learn how to thrive at work, even in a demanding job on January 19, 2022 at 8 PM UK time!YANAF Ep 46: Default to HappyYANAF Ep 55: The One About AlcoholSign up for our FREE Permission to Thrive webinar!&nbsp;THRIVE Weekly PlannerThe Master and His Emissary by Iain McGilchristPsychology Has It Backwards PodcastWhy Zebras Don't Get Ulcers by Robert M. Sapolsky&nbsp;Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver BurkemanLearn how to stress less with Giles’ free 4-step process! &nbsp;Connect with Giles: Website | Facebook | LinkedIn | <a...
1/11/202259 minutes, 4 seconds
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How to Cope With Nightmare Relatives and Colleagues Without Losing the Plot

Holidays and celebrations often come with their own set of obstacles and difficulties. Our idea of a perfect holiday never happens because our own assumptions and unrealistic expectations get in the way and lead to an environment filled with conflict.In this special Christmas episode, Corrina Gordon-Barnes shows us the groundwork for setting a peaceful and successful holiday season while navigating difficult relationships with relatives or colleagues.&nbsp;She guides us through taking off the expectation of a perfect holiday with our family and facing reality in ourselves and others. Corrina talks about the ways you can act within your zone of power to resolve conflict. She also walks us through what we can do during difficult gatherings and how to shift routine actions to create different outcomes.It’s the season for countless gatherings and reunions. Tune in to improve your strained relationships with relatives and co-workers through empathy and letting go of past assumptions.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how to make people meet your wants and needs without resorting to manipulation.Discover how to reframe your assumptions and biases about yourself and other people.Find out how to recognise when you’re being difficult and what you can do to resolve the conflict.ResourcesCheck out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Get in touch by sending an email: [email protected] with Corrina Gordon-Barnes: Website | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedInSolve for Happy: Engineer Your Path to Joy by Mo Gawdat: Amazon | WebsiteCheck out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctorsFind out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks, and workshopsJoin the Shapes Collective Facebook group:Rachel’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/Rachel’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrRachelMorrisRachel’s email: [email protected] Highlights[05:42] Corrina’s Background&nbsp;[07:18] Celebrating the Holiday with Difficult Family Members[09:54] Facing Reality Without Lowering Your Expectations[13:57] Dealing with Teenagers and Tablets over Christmas[16:01] How to De-escalate Uncomfortable Conversations&nbsp;[19:31] What to Do When Their Answer Is No[21:21] How to Keep Your Boundaries&nbsp;[23:34] Expecting the Pushback and Having Empathy Without Being Patronising[29:10] Dealing with
12/21/202155 minutes, 3 seconds
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How Not to Settle for the Way it's Always Been Done

We’ve got a lot to handle in the medical field — irate patients, pressure to succeed, and who knows what else? But sometimes, the problem is the system itself. We can’t allow ourselves to grow comfortable in a toxic environment. Look around and see where you can create a change for the better.In this episode, Dr Abdullah Albeyatti talks about improving your life and career by making changes and taking risks. He also explains why settling for what is familiar could be slowly ruining your life and how you can avoid this situation. Finally, he shares his top three tips to become a changemaker in your field.&nbsp;If you want to start doing things to create a change and take more risks, then this episode is for you!&nbsp;3 Reasons to Listen to This Episode1. Learn when you need to stay or leave your chosen career2. Discover why taking risks can make you happier&nbsp;3. Uncover Dr Abdullah’s top three tips to create a change &nbsp;ResourcesPermission to Thrive CPD membershipConnect with Dr Abdullah - LinkedIn | InstagramMedicalchain and myclinic.comOur Iceberg is Melting by Dr John Kotter and Holger RathgeberDownload the Thrive Week PlannerEpisode Highlights[6:20] How Abdullah Overcomes Challenges[7:42] The Biggest Barriers[9:59] Why People Hate Change[12:16] The Feeling of Failing[16:33] Try and Realise[19:48] Bringing in the Lean-Agile Mindset to Doctors[24:18] On Limitations and Failure&nbsp;[28:25] How Abdullah Maintains His Tenacity&nbsp;[30:34] Knowing What Battles to Pick&nbsp;[33:06] On Where to Start&nbsp;[39:48] Enjoy the Journey&nbsp;[47:36] Pursue What You Love[49:10] Three Tips to Create a ChangeEnjoy This Podcast?In today’s high-stress work environment, you may feel like a frog in boiling water. The pan has heated up so slowly that you didn’t notice the feeling of stress and overwhelm becoming the norm. You may feel that it is impossible to survive AND thrive in your work.&nbsp;Frogs generally have only two options — stay and be boiled alive or jump out of the pan. Fortunately, you are not a frog. You have many more options, choices, and control than you think.Learn to master your destiny and create a change so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!Here’s to surviving and thriving inside and outside our work!
12/14/202153 minutes, 12 seconds
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Why FAIL is Not a 4-Letter Word

Drs Claire Edwin, Sally Ross, and Taj Hassan join us to discuss how we can manage and deal with our failures more effectively. We explore the idea that rather than doing something wrong, failure is an opportunity to really grow and learn both as individuals, as leaders and as organisations. In any situation, it’s important to remember that we’re all human. It’s okay to be honest with ourselves and each other about our mistakes - after all, vulnerability is not a sign of weakness.&nbsp;If you want to know how to change your mindset around failure, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:49] About our GuestsDr Claire Edwin works at the National Medical Director Clinical Fellows and NHS England in the faculty of medical leadership and management.&nbsp;Dr Taj, a previous president of the Royal College of Emergency Medicine, is currently involved in international work in Pakistan.&nbsp;Dr Sally Ross has extensive experience in military and various leadership training events.[07:20] What are Micro Failures? Micro failures are often small things you miss that you think don’t have a consequence.&nbsp;No one can operate perfectly all the time.[10:16] How Sally Views FailureWhen things go wrong, embrace it as an opportunity to learn.&nbsp;Sally shares that her military training helped her develop the trait of failing fast.&nbsp;[12:40] High Expectations and Failure for Medical ProfessionalsThere are higher expectations and demands for medical professionals.&nbsp;It’s okay to not be perfect all the time.&nbsp;[15:33] How Leaders Should Handle Mistakes Basic errors come in different forms that usually arise in the heat of the moment.&nbsp;Failure to build consensus, communicate, and engage could ripple down to more serious errors.[21:45] Importance of Honesty, Trust, and ConsistencyAs a leader, understanding how mistakes were made in forming a conclusion is important.Being honest about your failures isn’t about talking about them everyday.[24:35] Why We Judge Ourselves Based on Our Failures Being a perfectionist can make our judgements harsher.&nbsp;Due to underfunding, medical practitioners are pushed to explain why their patients need to wait.[29:35] Toxic Trio Leading to FailureFailures are often brought about by lack of prioritisation, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.[31:12] The Danger of People-PleasingSally addressed an issue at her workplace that might have painted her as a ‘bad guy’.[34:17] Cultivating Healthy Work CulturesTaj practises zero tolerance for people being rude to his staff members.Being upfront to impolite patients is his way to avoid any escalation.&nbsp;[37:52] Facilitating Learning from FailureWhen people fail, they should have the chance to express it.ResourcesLearn more about ENLIGHTENme which aims to build a strategy to support an emergency care strategy and leadership development for low resource countriesConnect with Dr Claire: Faculty of Medical Leadership and ManagementConnect with Dr Sally: Spire Healthcare | <a href="https://wessexfacilitation.com/" rel="noopener...
12/7/202152 minutes, 9 seconds
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Making Helpful Habits Stick

Sheela Hobden joins us to discuss how we can harness the power of checklists to create a routine! When people fail to reach their goals, they often just stop trying or feel a lot of shame. Be realistic and learn to encourage yourself by taking on a range of targets instead of one. Sheela also recommends creating identity-based goals to ensure that you keep building your new identity even after completing certain milestones. Start small, and eventually, you’ll see these good habits stick!&nbsp;If you want to know how to create helpful habits to change your life, stay tuned to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:31] Why Routine is ImportantOur brain loves routine because of its certainty.&nbsp;The model notes that when our routines change, there will be a threat response.&nbsp;[08:24] Free Your Mind with ChecklistsDon’t underestimate checklists.&nbsp;Your brain can think of a few things all at the same time.&nbsp;[13:54] Build a Habit through Routines The more you practice your routine, the more it becomes a habit.&nbsp;Anchor a new habit on something else you’re already doing.&nbsp;[20:00] Don’t Underestimate Small Changes Create significant changes in your life with small changes every day.&nbsp;Create a range of targets instead of just one goal.[23:14] Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Routine?&nbsp;Remember that the things you choose to do are ingrained in what you want in life.&nbsp;Simple actions can lead to contentment and happiness.&nbsp;[26:46] Time, Generosity, and Purpose&nbsp;When you keep yourself too open to choices, you can become paralysed.&nbsp;Be kind to your future self and plan the best choices for them.&nbsp;[32:34] Create Good Routines at Work Emails and notifications are common distractions at work.&nbsp;Don’t tackle a challenging task when you don’t have the energy for it.&nbsp;[37:42] The How and Why Behind Tasks&nbsp; Working out the hows of a task helps you identify ways to make it easier.&nbsp;ResourcesConnect with Sheela: Bluegreen Coaching I Facebook I Twitter I Youtube I LinkedIn I EmailYou’re Not a Frog Podcast Episode 45: Rest. The Final Frontier with Sheela Hobden&nbsp;Mood MeterFree to Focus by Michael Hyatt&nbsp;You can also check out Michael Hyatt’s free course here!&nbsp;Checklist Manifesto by Atul Gawande&nbsp;<a...
11/30/202145 minutes, 3 seconds
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Dealing With the Guilt of Not Being Okay

Dr Nik Kendrew unravels why we experience overwhelming guilt when bad things happen to us. He also shares some tips, techniques, and resources to cope with difficult times and circumstances. Apart from this, Nik talks about the significance of scheduling our entire day to do important things. Finally, he discusses why setting boundaries is necessary to maintain our sense of self.If you want to learn how to stop feeling guilty when uncontrollable things happen to you, then stay tuned to this episode!&nbsp;Episode Highlights[6:10] About the Boggle DocsNik hosts the Boggle Docs. He gets to invite guests and talk about popular TV shows or movies portraying medical issues.&nbsp;[9:43] Dr Nik, the 100th Episode’s Guest Nik was invited over for the 100th episode because he was the podcast's first guest.&nbsp;[13:16] Nik’s Heart Problem On his way to work, Nik suddenly had difficulty in breathing and experienced terrible chest pain. A paramedic immediately came to his aid and found he was experiencing Atrial Fibrillation.&nbsp;[16:56] After the Incident Nik just felt awful for letting people down even though they told him to rest.&nbsp;Guilt means feeling sorry for something we did or did not do.&nbsp;[18:31] The Feeling of Guilt Among DoctorsNik felt guilty for things he could control.&nbsp;What you feel during stressful situations is a normal physiological response.&nbsp;[19:41] Give Yourself a Break If you’re not doing what you’re supposed to do, you feel responsible for the people who are left to pick up the pieces.&nbsp;[20:51] Gaslighting in Health Care Service The health care service is already on its knees before the pandemic.&nbsp;When COVID-19 happened, primary care had to change drastically.&nbsp;[23:43] How To Cope With Stress and Pressure When times are tough, it helps to take it one step at a time and keep going.&nbsp;[27:03] Why Stay In the Present Staying in the present teaches that there is calm within you.&nbsp;[29:04] Substitute Stress for Happiness Others say they’ll only be happy if they get to complete their goals.&nbsp;However, there will always be something in our lives that will be unfinished.&nbsp;[29:55] Why Achieving Your Goals Would Not Make You Happy We are preparing ourselves for failure by setting unachievable goals.&nbsp;[34:08] Focus On What’s Important When you block off time to do something, it takes away stress because you know there’s a plan.&nbsp;[39:27] Set Your Boundaries When you are in stressful situations, focus on things you can change.&nbsp;Listen to your body. It will enforce its limits.&nbsp;ResourcesCheck out our Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors.Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training, talks and workshops.Sign up here for more free resources.Join the Shapes Collective FB group.Become a member of the<a...
11/23/202148 minutes, 32 seconds
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How to Deal With Criticism When You've Reached Your Limit

Dr Sarah Coope joins me to talk about the workload of medical professionals and the benefits of setting boundaries while dealing with criticisms amidst the global pandemic. We discuss the three elements of the Drama Triangle and ways to navigate or avoid them reliably. As we dive deeper into their conversation, we emphasise the art of saying 'No' through acknowledging our limits.&nbsp;If you want to take the first step in recognising your limits, handling criticism better and setting proper boundaries, tune in to this episode.Episode Highlights[04:43] The Overarching Challenges Brought by the PandemicThere was and still is much grief, trauma, guilt, and moral injury for doctors.[06:46] Most Impactful Messages from the Podcast Amidst COVIDDr Caroline Walker shared a fundamental key message: ‘It's okay not to be okay’.[09:55] Criticism and Over-responsibility[13:03] Setting Boundaries around ResponsibilitiesWe need to make peace with our limits.&nbsp;[17:23] Should-ing and Ought-ingWe often take criticism personally because it targets our deepest insecurities.[20:26] Hippocratic Oath ShamingOverdoing your duties circles back to the saviour-rescuer.[22:29] Our Core Self-BeliefsAwareness allows us to introspect about the roots and rationale behind our self-beliefs.[25:29] Being in the Victim ModeWe often try to control too much of what we can’t control.[27:08] On the Dangers of ResilienceResilience training is about learning what you can do for yourself.[28:21] Getting Out of the Victim MentalityWe always have a choice, but every choice has unique consequences.[31:00] On Self-SabotageStay in your zone of power and leave the rest of the things you have no control over.[33:23] Tips on Saying ‘No’Give yourself a pause before deciding to say 'Yes' to something.&nbsp;[37:09] Say ‘No’ to the Task, Not the PersonSet a boundary, but remain connected by saying ‘Yes’ to the person.[38:19] What Leaders Could Have Done DifferentlyTell teams that it’s okay to set boundaries and to look after themselves.[42:38] Having a Sense of Pace and BalanceRecognise that the journey is a marathon, not a sprint.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Sign up now for the Shapes Toolkit Programs to help you take control of your workload, feel better,...
11/16/202144 minutes, 23 seconds
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How to Delegate, Do it, or Drop it with Anna Dearmon Kornick

Anna Dearmon Kornick teaches us strategies for managing time and determining when to delegate. She also explains why time management is heart management. When you get clear on your vision, goals, and values, you can do more of what matters to you.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[08:48] How to Have More Control in Your DayMentally walking through your day allows you to anticipate problems in advance and come up with solutions.&nbsp;When you know your schedule, you can also give your breaks a purpose.&nbsp;[13:02] How to Manage Admin TimeThe most effective meetings have agendas and a step-by-step flow.[15:26] Creating an Agenda Checklist for Admin TimeCreating the sequence of tasks in your agenda mostly depends on personal preference.One thing that might help is the time management technique called ‘Eat that frog,’ where you start your day by doing the toughest or most important task.&nbsp;You can also try the 15-minute rule.&nbsp;[19:03] Set Expectations with Your AgendaSet expectations with others who may want to steal your attention during admin time.Admin time needs to be protected to serve its purpose.[20:54] Combating DistractionsWe have been conditioned to respond anytime someone reaches out.To combat this, have a notepad to write down the ‘shiny things’ that derail your focus.[24:37] The Importance of DelegationUnderstand the process required to complete a task and give the person what they need to succeed.The best way to delegate is to capture the steps into a workflow.&nbsp;[28:58] Creating a WorkflowUse language that the person you delegated will understand.Make sure there are no gaps and room for assumptions.&nbsp;[32:23] Learning Period in DelegationMistakes will be made when you delegate.&nbsp;Think of the worst thing that could happen in your workflow. Then, come up with a safety net for the person to take on the task.[34:43] Delegating Outside WorkWhat home and personal activities you can outsource to get your time back?[39:13] Determining What to Keep and What to DelegateZero in the activities falling in your zone of genius.[43:40] Spending More Time in Your Zone of GeniusThink hard about what things you should be delegating.This passion and proficiency lens opens up awareness about how you spend and how you want to spend your time.[45:52] Top Three TipsCreate a vision for the future and the life you want.Set goals.Articulate core values.&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD...
10/5/202150 minutes, 18 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: The One About Alcohol with Dr. Giles P. Croft

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favourites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week….The one about alcohol with Dr Giles P Croft. In it we discuss a book I read last summer (by a pool in Italy!) all about the toxic effects of alcohol and why almost every story we tell ourselves about why we need it is, in fact, wrong.&nbsp;That said, I’ve still been enjoying the odd glass of fizz (or two) on my hols (this year sadly confined to the UK). But it’s good to stop and reflect on why many of us feel the need to drink to excess and to discuss how it is possible to cut down our drinking, or stop altogether&nbsp; - without missing it (and that’s the great part!)Listen to this episode here if you’d like to get a fresh perspective on alcohol and what it really does for you.&nbsp;Grab a cuppa, get the deckchair out, relax and enjoy!Find the original episode shownotes hereFind more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
8/31/202143 minutes, 55 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: Productivity Hacks for a Calm, Effective Life with Dr. Gandalf

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favourites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week…. Productivity hacks for a calm, effective life with Dr Gandalf. Many of you will know Ghandi from his fabulous eGP Learning podblast and he’s full of useful advice and simple time hacks that you can put into action right now. In this episode he shares his top time saving tips and looks at how we start to take control of our time. &nbsp;Listen to this episode here if you’d like to try a different way of doing things next time you’re at work.&nbsp;Grab a cuppa, get the deckchair out, relax and enjoy!Find the original episode shownotes hereFind more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
8/24/202145 minutes, 52 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: How to be an adult with Ebonie Allard

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week….How to be an adult with Ebonie Allard. I LOVE this episode with podcaster and master coach Ebonie. She’s got a very different take on life and offers a new perspective about how to be more you (even as an adult!). We’re talking about understanding ourselves more so that we can really thrive in life, ditching the expectations of others, and fully owning our choices in life.&nbsp;Listen to this episode here if you’d like a fresh perspective on what it means to thrive as a grown-upGrab a cuppa, get the deckchair out, relax and enjoy!Find the original episode shownotes hereFind more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
8/17/202140 minutes, 18 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: Treat Others How THEY Would Like to Be Treated with Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week… Treat others how THEY would like to be treated with Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour. We had great fun recording this podcast - looking at how we’re all very different and respond in totally different ways.&nbsp; We may think we’re being helpful to others but if we assume that other people think just like us, we often get things very wrong and end up putting our foot in it!&nbsp;In this episode, we look at the different social styles people may have and the importance of treating people according to THEIR personal style - not ours! This will help our relationships no end - both inside and outside work. Listen to it hereGrab a cuppa, get the deckchair out, relax and enjoy!Find the original episode shownotes hereFind more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
8/10/202155 minutes, 40 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: How to Do Conflict Well with Jane Gunn

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favorites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week….how to do conflict well, with Jane Gunn. This episode really changed the way I think about disagreement and interpersonal conflict. We’re all capable of having difficult conversations with patients and clients so why do we find it so hard to do it with each other?&nbsp;In this episode, Jane offers some fantastically helpful insights into conflict and offers some top tips about how to start to have these conversations - and stop conflict escalating into a nightmare situation.&nbsp;Listen to this episode here if you know that there are some issues that you have been sweeping under the carpet that you know you really need to address…Grab a cuppa, get the deckchair out, relax and enjoy!Find the original episode shownotes hereFind more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
8/3/202140 minutes, 18 seconds
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Summer Replay Series: Eff-It Living with John C Parkin

Over the summer we’ve curated a series of past You Are Not A Frog episodes to help you reflect, take stock, and to help you get some headspace as you prepare for what’s bound to be a busy and challenging Autumn.&nbsp;These episodes are some of my personal favourites and I’m so pleased to be able to share them again.&nbsp;This week… Eff it living. This was one of the very first YANAF episodes I recorded. I’m talking with John C. Parkin about his life mantra - the clue is in the title! Whilst it might seem to be a bit dismissive, this philosophy is based on some ancient principles which might just help ease some of the stress and anxiety we experience. And it certainly helped me on holiday when my family were driving me mad…..find out more by listening to the episode here. Caution - this episode does contain swearing!Find the original episode shownotes here Find more episodes hereFind out more about our training programmes here
7/27/202145 minutes, 11 seconds
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How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive with Rob Bell

This week, Rob Bell, Speaker and New York Times Bestselling Author joins us to discuss the perils of the saviour complex and why we try to keep on hustling, even when we’re miserable.Highlights[04:40] What Rob Has Been Up to During The PandemicRob started to do things on Zoom and discovered new ways of doing things.[07:25] The Apocalypse&nbsp;The word ‘apocalypse’ is often associated with disasters or ‘the end of time’.But it’s actually an old Greek word that means ‘revealing’ or ‘disclosure’ of what is.[9:50] Working Within the SystemBeing part of a system can influence how you see the world.&nbsp;[11:13] Second NaiveteThis is the ability to see something as if you’ve never seen it.&nbsp;It is also similar to being childlike, which is different from being childish.[12:45] The Two Columns of SystemsOne column is for what can be talked about. The other is for what can’t be talked about. &nbsp;[14:48] Death by Letting GoLetting go of the saviour complex entails a good kind of “death”.[20:21] Saviour vs. Helping EnergyThere’s a difference between saviour energy and helping energy. The former bears a heaviness at the soul level.&nbsp;[26:19] Dealing With AngerWhen you’re being attacked with anger, the first thing to do is to feel your emotions.&nbsp;Rob invites us to adopt trans-rationalism.&nbsp;[42:39] Impulse Vs. FormImpulses are things that make you feel alive when you do them.&nbsp;These can take different forms.[47:17] Feeling Happier and Being Part of Something Bigger Than YourselfSometimes you can’t help a broken system from within.&nbsp;You may have to leave and build from the outside.&nbsp;[56:06] South StarThe North star includes things and people that inspire you.The South star signifies frustration, anger, and exasperation over some things.&nbsp;[1:00:35] Rob’s Tips to Let Go of the Saviour ComplexMake peace with your limits.Set up your life with integrity and be present in what you’re doing.&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksCheck out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!Beat burnout, take control over your workload and work happier with the Shapes Toolkit Training Programs.Rob: website | The...
7/20/20211 hour, 8 minutes, 47 seconds
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Complaints and How to Survive Them E5: What Should I Do When I Think a Complaint is Unfair? and Other Questions with Drs Sarah Coope, George Wright, Samantha White, and Andrew Tressider

Drs Sarah Coope, George Wright, Samanta White, and Andrew Tressider join us in this episode to discuss how you can adjust your perspective about complaints and how to deal with them. We also tackle unfair or malicious complaints and how you can cope with them.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[07:07] How to Respond When Someone Wishes to Make a ComplaintThank patients for the feedback.Some patients may only be looking for acknowledgment.[12:59] Should You Display Your Complaints Policy?Displaying your complaints policies helps patients.[15:50] How to Handle Complaints When They’re UnfairBuild rapport. The conversation follows after.Let facts speak for themselves. Avoid being defensive.[19:51] Learning to Not be DefensiveHear the whole story.Acknowledge, Apologise, Ask, Answer, and Act.[26:59] Calming Down During Intense SituationsPlant your feet.Get your spine comfortable[29:49] How to Handle Malicious ComplaintsShare your burden.&nbsp;Ask what the client wants to accomplish.&nbsp;[35:36] The Five Agreements from Toltec WisdomBe impeccable with your words.Take nothing personally.Make no assumptions.Always do your best.Be skeptical, but listen.&nbsp;[37:40] How to Depersonalise ProblemsHave someone support you.Identify the source of your complaint.[44:49] Emotional Occupational Hazards in HealthcareTime plays a significant role.&nbsp;Be kind to yourself.[50:18] How to Handle Complaints during the PandemicBe straightforward.Discuss handling pandemic-related complaints.[59:47] Supervising Trainees Dealing with Their First ComplaintsCreate a safe space for trainees.Be in the right time and space when talking to complainants.&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksSign up for our FREE live webinar where we teach doctors some practical strategies to help with challenging times.&nbsp;Check out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!E78: Preparing to Fail WellE80: What to Do When You Make a MistakeE82: Surviving the Process<a href="https://youarenotafrog.com/episode-84/" rel="noopener...
7/13/20211 hour, 10 minutes, 41 seconds
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How to Have Crucial Conversations with Dr Ed Pooley

Dr Edward Pooley joins us again to teach us how to communicate well. He discusses the three strands of communication and explains how to be aware of them. We also share frameworks to help you navigate difficult conversations.Highlights[05:58] Three Strands of CommunicationIt’s not only what you say, but also the emotion and identity.&nbsp;Try not to start talks when you’re irritated or frustrated.&nbsp;Think of how your conversation will make the other person feel about themselves.[09:49] About RantingA rant is a one-way method of communication.&nbsp;Your message may be correct, but the other person won’t receive it well.Instead of laying blame, ask them about their observations of the situation.&nbsp;[12:49] Giving Better Feedback&nbsp;When systems no longer work, it’s crucial to implement change.Instead of pointing out what’s wrong, suggest solutions for improvement.[16:17] Risks of DepersonalisationDepersonalising can get the message across, but leave emotion behind.You may not offend other people, but you may also not convince them.Pair depersonalisation with emotion to deliver authentic communication to your team.&nbsp;[21:00] Expressing Your EmotionsUse “I” statements to express how you feel.Your thoughts aren't emotions. Tap into your feelings and express them.[21:56] The CORBS ModelMake your feedback clear, owned, regular, balanced, and specific.[24:35] Difficult ConversationsThe term ‘feedback’ tends to put people on high alert. Reframe it to a ‘conversation.’We tend to adjust to soften the blow to avoid upsetting other people.&nbsp;Practise ‘and’ statements to avoid wobbling during difficult conversations.[28:10] Learning ConversationsYou may have a skewed perspective. Seek to understand the bigger picture.[32:54] Communication in HealthcareWe often assume we are good communicators unless told otherwise.If you assume you’re a good communicator, you won’t seek improvement.[34:07] Having Difficult ConversationsYou can become a good communicator and handle difficult conversations with ease.Frameworks help you navigate these conversations.[41:25] Tips on Dealing with Conflict and Being a Good CommunicatorFind a way to communicate issues to prevent them from becoming bigger.&nbsp;Be aware of the bigger picture.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to ThriveTen Minute Medicine<a...
6/29/202143 minutes, 59 seconds
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Complaints and How to Survive Them E4: Creating a Workplace Where it's OK to Fail with Prof Susan Fairlie and Dr Jane Sturgess

Prof Susan Fairley and Dr Jane Sturgess join us in this episode to discuss how to create a workplace where you can handle difficult conversations and not shy away from failure.Episode Highlights[07:07] The Workplace and the IndividualThere should be a system at work that allows other people to challenge someone who is not doing the right thing.[10:08] Improving the System on an Organisational LevelThere needs to be an expectation of making communication easier and more respectful.[14:22] Get Juniors to Speak UpCalling each other by first names reduces the hierarchy between colleagues.[19:22] Having Difficult Conversations and Reducing DefensivenessSometimes, the kind thing to do is to have a difficult conversation with a colleague.When a leader doesn't listen up, the members will not be able to speak up.[22:57] How to Face Difficult Conversations for LeadersRemove the emotion and listen to the content.Seek coaching and psychological supervision.[26:47] Helping a Person Receive FeedbackH3: head, heart and hand.POIPS: permission, observed, impact, pause and solutions.&nbsp;Advocacy-inquiry: understanding the other person’s opinion before intervening with your own perspective.&nbsp;[32:17] Incident ReportingInstitutions that report incidents have lower risk and better safety outcomes.&nbsp;[39:27] Good Practices in Speaking Up and Providing FeedbackStaff that feel valued, engaged, safe and empowered to speak up and have difficult conversations directly correlates with patient mortality.[42:24] Addressing Issues Around Incident ReportingThe first issue is not recognising a problem as significant enough to need reporting.The second issue is it takes time to write an incident report.[47:14] Building TrustEvery gesture and action we take speaks volume.[51:41] How to Start Speaking UpHaving a coach, clinical supervision and mentor is powerful.Unless you practise something, you won’t get good at it.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or TwitterPodcast LinksPermission to Thrive CPD membershipMedical Protection, Dental ProtectionComplaints and How to Survive ThemE78: Preparing to Fail WellE80: What to Do When You Make
6/22/202155 minutes, 1 second
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The Ups and Downs of Being a Man-Frog with Dr Chris Hewitt

Joining us in this episode is Dr. Chris Hewitt who also uses the metaphor of a man-frog in coaching professionals to have a better work-life balance. Chris talks about why we find it so hard to recognize burnout. He also shares his top tips and practical strategies to address work dissatisfaction.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover different solutions for when you feel like a man-frog in a pan of slowly boiling water.Find out why it’s so tricky to recognise burnout.Chris shares his top tips to help a man-frog to improve their work situation.ResourcesCheck out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!The Joyful DoctorOther You Are Not A Frog Episodes:&nbsp;Episode 74 - Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley&nbsp;Episode 75 - How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People with Annie Hanekom&nbsp;Connect with Chris on LinkedIn to know more about his Project Man-Frog!Time to Think: Listening to Ignite the Human Mind by Nancy Kline&nbsp;Coach Yourself to Success by Tom PrestonTrusted Coach Directory: Coaching DirectoryIf you want to know more about Dr Chris and his on the Project Man-Frog, you may connect with him on LinkedIn.Enjoy This Podcast?For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
6/15/202148 minutes, 48 seconds
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Complaints and How to Survive Them E3: Surviving the Process

Drs Jessica Harland, Heidi Mounsey and Caroline Walker join us in this episode to discuss how to survive the process of receiving and going through a complaint.Episode Highlights[11:12] Why Don’t We Talk About Complaints?So much of a health professional’s self-esteem is based on their career.[13:47] How People Feel When They Make a Mistake at WorkDoctors often feel guilt, shame, anger and frustration.&nbsp;[16:42] How to Cope When You Make a Mistake at WorkOpenly share and talk about complaints.&nbsp;[19:17] Miscommunication and ComplaintsMany complaints are a result of miscommunication.[21:39] Differences in Handling ComplaintsIt's easier to handle an objectively written complaint about systems and processes.[27:09] The Importance of PerspectiveIt helps to depersonalise the complaint.[33:30] How to Look After YourselfTake a break to help you cope.&nbsp;Keep an eye on the basics.[37:12] Stop Fixating on MistakesBe kinder to yourself.[42:47] Practical Advice for Through a Complaint[48:22] Three Tips for Surviving While Going Through a ComplaintEnjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to Thrive CPD membershipMedical ProtectionDental ProtectionNHS Practitioner HealthCOVID 19 Supporting Doctors Series with Dr Caroline Walker:E27: On stress and anxietyE28: Dealing with sadness, anger and griefE30: Moral injury hurtsE33: On expectationsE36: COVID fatigueE43: COVID boredomE63: How to survive tough timesComplaints and How to Survive Them Series:<a...
6/8/202153 minutes, 24 seconds
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When Soft and Fluffy Met Coronavirus with Steve Andrews

Steve Andrews joins us to share the five important questions that will help you check in with your colleagues, rather than check up on them. Through these five questions, leaders can find out how their people really are, help them to solve their own problems and communicate empathy and support.&nbsp;[05:00] Rebuilding the NHS after the COVID CrisisSteve likens the recent COVID crisis to circumstances after the Second World War.Listening to the workforce and taking care of their psychological well-being is essential.[08:28] Why Compassionate Leadership Is ImportantFear generates particular knee-jerk reactions and anxieties where people are quick to make decisions.When you start to explore the art of medicine, you will be concerned with how you can collaborate with colleagues and other teams.[12:08] Stopping the Command/Control Leadership Model from Coming BackEvidence shows that compassionate leadership worked well during the COVID pandemic.Steve hopes that this becomes the driver to make compassionate leadership the norm.[13:24] Checking Up vs Checking InChecking up means that you’re asking someone if they’ve done a particular task.Meanwhile, checking in means that you’re asking about the well-being of the person.[17:42] The 5 Questions of Compassionate LeadershipQuestion number 1: How are you doing?&nbsp;Question number 2: How is your team doing?Question number 3: How are your colleagues doing?Question number 4: How can you help them?&nbsp;Question number 5: How do I serve you?[29:52] Results from Asking the Five Questions&nbsp;Steve shares that other hospitals in the UK picked up the five questions.&nbsp;Eventually, they became a training program.These questions emphasise connection, coaching, listening, and serving.&nbsp;[33:09] Who Can Use the Five Questions?Steve uses these questions to start conversations with people.&nbsp;The questions became a movement instead of just a tool.[36:12] Making a Difference with PTSDSteve has a portfolio of personal messages and gratitudes for using the five questions.People find value in using the 5 questions to form connections.[39:08] Tips on Using the 5 QuestionsKnow that you’ve asked a fundamental question.Don’t give yourself tasks that are too big.Give yourself time.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to ThriveThe Joyful DoctorHeadspace<a...
6/1/202143 minutes, 22 seconds
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Complaints and How to Survive Them E2: What to Do When You Make a Mistake with Drs Clare Devlin and Dr John Powell

Do you live in fear that you’ll make a mistake at work? When it does happen, do you find it hard to cope and move forwards?Doctors and other professionals are also human — making mistakes is normal. Knowing this, however, doesn’t take away the stress that comes with going through a complaint or investigation. Since we know that we’re bound to make a mistake at work, what matters is how we respond to them. To maintain our well-being throughout our career, it’s crucial to know how to handle mistakes.In this episode, Drs Clare Devlin and John Powell join us to discuss the proper way of responding to professional mistakes. We talk about why doctors have a hard time whenever they make a mistake at work. Clare and John also share valuable advice on minimising negative consequences and getting a good outcome for you and your patient.If you want to learn a roadmap for what you should do you make a mistake at work, then tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn why many doctors don’t know how to respond when they make a mistake at work.Find out how to combat defensiveness and effectively communicate with a patient after a complaint.Clare and John share their top tips on what to do when you make a mistake at work.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[06:55] What Happens When Doctors Make a Mistake at Work[11:03] The Dos and Don’ts&nbsp;[16:36] How to Communicate with Your Patient[24:10] About Defensiveness[30:59] Getting Good Outcomes[36:59] The Lack of Education About Handling Mistakes[41:05] The Best Time to Seek Support[49:43] Top Tips on What to Do When You Make a Mistake at WorkResourcesSign up for our Permission to Thrive CPD membership!You Are Not A Frog Episode 78 - Complaints and How to Survive Them Series 1: Preparing to Fail Well with Drs Sarah Coope, Annalene Weston and Sheila BloomerGet legal, mental, and emotional support if you’re a member of Medical Protection or Dental Protection.&nbsp; &nbsp;Visit General Medical Council UK’s website for guidance and other medical resources.&nbsp;Reach out to Clare through Medical ProtectionConnect with John: LinkedIn
5/25/202158 minutes, 49 seconds
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How to Give Yourself Permission to Thrive with Dr Katya Miles

This week, Dr Katya Miles returns to talk to us about spotting burnout and giving yourself permission to thrive.Episode Highlights[05:53] Overcoming PerfectionismWe need to embrace learning through making mistakes.We often beat ourselves up even if nobody else knows the right thing to do.[11:37] Factors That Lead to BurnoutMany professionals in high-stress jobs think that stress is normal even if it’s not.Learn your personal red flags.&nbsp;[16:29] Warning Signs of BurnoutWe stop doing healthy habits.We turn to unhealthy coping responses.Be mindful of the reasons behind our unhealthy practices.Having accountability helps in embedding healthy practices in our lives.&nbsp;[23:43] Why It’s Difficult to Give Ourselves Permission to ThriveIf your identity is so linked with your job, self-care is more difficult.We don’t reflect enough on the fact that we are all finite resources.[33:34] Give Yourself Permission to ThriveHave honest conversations about your struggles.Reflect by journaling, creative pursuits, or being in nature.Think about the consequences if you don’t give yourself permission to thrive.[38:51] Drive Zone, Threat Zone and Soothe ZoneWe spend most of our time in the threat or drive zone.Resting improves cognitive performance and overall well-being.[41:32] Katya’s Top TipsGive yourself permission to thrive.Try to deliver on what you need at the moment.Develop the habit of looking after yourself.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to Thrive membershipShapes ToolkitStress curve worksheetYou Are Not A Frog Episode 57Connect with Katya: Website | Email | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedInMedworld <a href="https://www.medworld.com/articles/working-well-dr-katya-miles-and-the-working-well-doctor" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
5/18/202143 minutes, 53 seconds
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Denial, Displacement and Other Ways We Neglect Ourselves with Dr Andrew Tresidder

Dr Andrew Tresidder joins us to talk about denial, displacement and other ways medical practitioners and other professionals in high stress jobs neglect themselves.Episode Highlights[04:46] Burnout Among Health PractitionersMedical and health professionals don't understand health as a holistic concept.The health industry workload gets heavier every year.[07:23] Neglect Syndrome'Fine' means being fearful, insecure, neurotic, and emotionally imbalanced.Most people's first response to psychological needs is denial.All effects are avoidable.[10:05] The Pillars of Well-BeingWell-being has five pillars: a social connection, taking notice, being active, learning, and giving.Andrew shares a sixth pillar: receiving.A relationship is about being energised or calmed by others.[13:03] What Stress Can Lead ToStress can lead to exhaustion and increased adrenaline.Practitioners need to know this isn't mental illness but exhaustion.Neglect makes people work harder to compensate.[15:39] Factors of NeglectIt's easy to say that we need to manage our well-being.If we overwork ourselves, our performance gets worse.Improving well-being requires changing the workplace environment.[20:11] Why Resistance ExistsDoctors and health practitioners often sacrifice themselves to help others.Health professionals are still human.[22:58] Insight DeficitInsight deficit occurs when you think you're invincible.Exhaustion is normalised.[26:17] How to Gain Better HealthMedical education should include health and burnout avoidance.The sympathetic state activates our fight or flight response.The parasympathetic state is rest.[33:50] Rest Is ImperativeDecompression from the alarm phase is difficult.Create a habit of rest and permit yourself to relax.Before helping others, help yourself first.[40:50] Andrew's Tips for Health and Well-BeingValue quiet time, reflect on your values and take care of yourself.Preempt neglect to avoid burnout.Learn to ask for help and do it early.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or TwitterPodcast LinksHealth and Self Care: Inner Balance for an Effective Life by Dr Andrew TresidderThe Somerset Emotional Wellbeing PodcastDare to Lead by Brene BrownYou Are Not A Frog...
5/4/202145 minutes, 52 seconds
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Tech Tips for Happy Hybrid Working with Dr Hussain Gandhi

Dr. Hussain Gandhi, or Dr. Gandalf of eGPlearning, joins us in this episode. He is a GP, PCN director, and host of the eGP Learning Podblast that shares deep dives into health tech for primary care. He shares his tech and time hacks for hybrid working to survive and thrive in the new virtual environment.If you want to find out how to improve your hybrid working experience, then tune in to this episode![07:40] Dr. Gandalf’s Top Three Hacks for Hybrid WorkingUse a password locker to safe-keep all your different combinations&nbsp;Booking online meetings save time and effort.&nbsp;Be sure to move around when you have loads of meetings. Don’t sit all day long.&nbsp;[24:11] The Key to Good Lighting and Audio During MeetingsGood lighting makes you look engaged and keeps you awake. It’s best to use natural lighting.&nbsp;Use a headset or good audio so noises like high pitches or whines will not interrupt others.&nbsp;Use a post-it with a note ‘look here’ for your cameras.[29:30] How to Use Keyboard Shortcuts for MeetingsLearn how to mute, unmute, raise your hand, on/off your camera during meetings.If you’re the host, learn the keyboard shortcuts such as ‘mute all’.&nbsp;[31:45] What Are Hybrid Meetings?Hybrid meetings combine online meetings and face-to-face meetings at the same time.[42:25] The Ideal Number of People in Chat RoomsThe best number is six people, whether face-to-face or online.&nbsp;[46:11] On Breakout Rooms and Things He Would Change&nbsp;Establish ground rules from the start.Breakout rooms are challenging for hybrid meetings.[48:56] Last Bits of Advice on Hybrid WorkingHave some time for yourself to refresh and rest&nbsp;Establish boundariesHave space between your virtual self, work-self and home-self.ResourcesFind out more about the Resilient Team Academy for Busy Leaders.You Are Not A Frog Episode 16 - Productivity Hacks for a Calm and Effective Life with Dr GandalfConnect with Dr Hussain Ghandi: Twitter | LinkedIneGPlearning: Website | YouTube | Podcast | TwitterThree simple steps to not take a bad day home (The Third Space), a TEDx talk by Dr Adam FraserFree to Focus: A Total Productivity System to Achieve More by Doing Less by Michael HyattEnjoy This Podcast?For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on <a...
4/27/202153 minutes, 45 seconds
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How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People

In this episode, Annie Hanekom chats with Rachel about how we need to step out of the drama triangle to have a better and healthier relationship with our colleagues.Episode Highlights[04:28] Enneagram Type 2 or The RescuerIn its simplest form, an Enneagram is a profiling tool.[06:09] The Rescuer in Its Truest FormType 2s or The Rescuers are motivated by the need to feel accepted, loved and included.[08:24] What Becomes Problematic in Being a Type 2Helping for too long might form resentment and impatience.Inherent in the term ‘The Rescuer’ is a sense of superiority for those who do the rescuing and inferiority to those who are being rescued.[12:00] Understanding the Drama TriangleThe whole drama triangle and sliding between the roles of rescuer, victim, and persecutor is a confusing slippery slope.Our behaviour is a reaction to the kind of role we assume or assigned to us.[18:39] How to Recognise the Role You’re TakingCreate pauses in your day-to-day schedule to give yourself some ‘me time’.You’re giving yourself a new sense of clarity.[24:04] Pausing and Taking ControlWhen we’re busy, we fall into the default of assuming these roles.When we find peace in our minds, we can take control of what’s taking place.[27:36] Stepping Out of the Drama Triangle&nbsp;Acknowledge the role you’re assuming in the drama triangle.Look for other options and shift the roles.[27:36] Taking the Coaching ApproachYou’re helping the person sort out their problems and not taking their problems as your own.[33:27] Language and Shifting RolesWe can change our roles for the better with the language that we use.Using power language can empower you and puts you in a position of choice.[41:29] Shifting the Mindset in Tricky SituationsTaking a pause will be helpful in tricky situations.Refrain from assessing and doing a deep reflection when we are unhappy because it won’t do well.[45:19] Getting into That Coach RoleThey’ll form a habit of asking themselves about their options rather than taking the role of the victim.[50:40] Annie’s Tips to Get Out of the Drama Triangle&nbsp;Acknowledge what you’re going through. Give yourself time to process things.Don’t beat yourself up.Watch your language.Before you give advice, ask the other person what they think.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Podcast LinksVirtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitResilient Team Academy for Busy LeadersYou Are Not A Frog Episode 65&nbsp;with Dr Amit
4/20/202154 minutes, 35 seconds
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Managing Your Time in a System Which Sucks with Dr Ed Pooley

Dr Ed Pooley joins us to share his take on time management techniques for busy individuals.Episode Highlights[05:38] The Importance of Maturity and Exploration in MedicineEntering medicine later in life can give you more experience under your belt.Ed also thinks it’s important to explore different processes outside of medicine.He examines what processes work and applies these in his practice of medicine.[10:33] How to Manage Competing DemandsReflect on three types of demands: value demands, internal failure demands and external failure demands.[18:11] Time Management Techniques on a System LevelPersonal time management techniques are essential not enough. You also need to have a systems approach.Recognise the system you work in and make adjustments for better results.[21:46] Quick Ways to Address Internal Failure DemandsGP setting: move from siloed working to outcome-based working.Meetings: do most of the work beforehand and use the meeting to discuss key points.Don’t use meetings as a proxy for team cohesion.[26:00] Time Management Techniques for the WorkplaceAllow yourself to rest from working during your free time.You can see what each person needs to make their day better in terms of time management. By doing so, you’re able to work in a happier environment.[30:43] On Affecting Change as a DoctorBeing in medicine becomes your identity. And so, when we struggle with things like time management, it becomes an identity threat.Instead of complaining about someone’s work, approach them and discuss the problem.[35:05] Improving Workplace CommunicationMake SMART objectives SMARTER.The additional E stands for emotion. The R stands for rationale and review.[41:44] How to Voice Out Your ConcernsInstead of criticising, ask exploratory questions.[46:29] Ed’s Top 3 Time Management TechniquesThink of the time before thinking about the task.If you’re struggling with completing tasks, break them down into task management, attention management, knowledge management, and system management.You have four options: do it, delegate it, defer it or delete it.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksVirtual Fatigue Buster ToolkitYANAF Episode 69YANAF Episode 70<a...
4/8/202152 minutes, 22 seconds
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EASTER REPLAY: What we're talking about when we talk about compassion fatigue

We're having a short break over Easter but I wanted to share one of our earlier episodes with you again. This was recorded and released long before the COVID pandemic but I think it's never been more relevant than now.&nbsp;In this episode (originally released on 12th November 2019), Rachel is joined by Agnes Otzelberger, a trainer, research and activist with a special interest in what happens when we tire of ‘doing good’.We chat about what can happen to carers, healthcare staff and humanitarian workers when they become overwhelmed and burnt out by the magnitude of the needs and the suffering of the people they are dealing with on a day to day basis. We discuss how the symptoms affect us and ultimately can make us disillusioned and can end up with us leaving our job or becoming ill.This has traditionally been known as ‘compassion fatigue’ but the surprising thing is that neuroscience has shown that compassion fatigue doesn’t actually exist – what we end up suffering from is ‘empathic burnout’ or ‘fatigue’. When we hear other people suffering, the empathy area of our brain is activated – the same bit of the brain that experiences physical pain.Fascinating research has shown that whether we suffer from empathic fatigue or not depends on which part of our brain we are using to process the things we see and hear. Buddhist monks who are able to access the ‘compassion’ area of the brain through the ‘empathy’ area in response to suffering seem to be immune from empathic fatigue.Agnes shares the research and reading she has been doing around this topic, discusses the treatments and strategies to prevent it, and shares some simple tips and methods for avoiding empathic fatigue and protecting us from its toxic effect.This podcast is a must for those who have ever felt that their compassion has just run out…Podcast linksDownload our free Virtual Fatigue Buster Toolkit&nbsp; www.thegoodjungle.org Agnes’s websiteBlog on compassion fatigue https://www.thegoodjungle.org/blog/2019/4/9/burning-out-for-people-and-planet-4-dangerous-self-care-mythsHow Can I Help, Ram Dass and Paul GormanStanding at the edge, Joan HalifaxRAIN meditations at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/Contact Agnes [email protected] Good Jungle Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/thegoodjungle/Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at...
4/6/202148 minutes, 25 seconds
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How to Find Your Tribe: The PMGUK Story with Dr Nazia Haider and Dr Katherine Hickman

Do you feel lonely and isolated at work? Do you feel as if you have no one with whom to share your issues? Are you looking for your tribe—your community of like-minded individuals?We sometimes separate our professional lives from our personal lives and are totally different people at home. It can be challenging to share your concerns with colleagues but there’s value in sharing vulnerability. Building friendships and having peer support at work is also beneficial to our performance and overall well-being. During this time of limited social interactions, having a strong and supportive work community may keep us from feeling alone. Beyond this, sharing your vulnerabilities creates a culture of acceptance and support.&nbsp;Dr. Nazia Haider and Dr. Katherine Hickman join us on this episode to discuss the importance of a work community. We talk about the inspiring stories from the online community they created, the Physicians Mums Group UK (PMGUK). Nazia and Katherine also share their tips on how to increase connections and find your own tribe at work.If you want to know how to create a network of supportive colleagues and feel more connected, then tune into this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Hear the inspiring stories from the Physician Mums Group UK online community.Learn about how to get support and find your own community of peers online or offline.Find out Nazia and Katherine’s top tips on how to increase connection, kindness and support in your life.ResourcesCheck out our Permission to Thrive membership so we can help you thrive at work and in life!You Are Not a Frog Episode 2 - Tiny habits, big changes, with Dr. Katherine Hickman&nbsp;To join PMGUK, check their admin page.&nbsp;Physician Mums Group UK WebsiteResilient GP Facebook groupFrontline Counselling - Trauma Informed CounsellingContact Naz or Katherine at [email protected]&nbsp;Connect with Nazia: LinkedInConnect with Katherine: Twitter | LinkedIn
3/30/202138 minutes, 13 seconds
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Working Well - From Anywhere! with Dr Katya Miles

Have you ever wondered why you feel so exhausted even if you’ve just been at home all day?&nbsp;If your someone who works from home a lot more than ever before, feeling tired is completely understandable. Before the pandemic, ‘work’ and ‘home’ didn’t often go together. But now, working well from home is expected of us.However, it’s difficult to fulfill that expectation without wearing ourselves out. That’s why it’s important to create healthy boundaries between our work and home life. By doing this, working well from home might just get a bit easier.In this episode, Dr Katya Miles joins us to discuss how to work well from home by creating healthy boundaries. She shares how to be more productive by using the third space hack and taking breaks. Katya also talks about how to be more active and better connect with people in the workplace.If you want to learn about working well from home and achieving a better work-life balance, then tune in to this episode.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out Katya’s top tips for working well from home.Discover what the ‘third space’ is and how you can recreate it in your own homes.Learn about the importance of taking breaks and being more physically active.ResourcesContact us to find out more about the Shapes Toolkit resilience training for late spring and summer 2021!You Are Not A Frog Episode 57 - Exercise Is Fertiliser for Your Brain with Michael LedzionConnect with Katya: Email | Instagram | Facebook | LinkedInThe Working Well DoctorHow to Work Well from HomeGet Katya’s FREE How to Work Well from Home ebook!Three simple steps to not take a bad day home, a TEDx Talk by Dr Adam FraserThe Fitness Marshall on YouTubeThe Fitness Marshall’s 4-minute Poker Face Dance Workout &nbsp;Health and Safety Executive guides for display screen equipmentWHO | Social determinants of mental health 2014&nbsp;WorkLife with Adam Grant
3/23/202143 minutes, 16 seconds
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Create a Career You’ll Love with Dr Claire Kaye

This week, Dr Claire Kaye joins us to discuss how we can find the career we love. We share tips and talk about networking, diversifying and overcoming career challenges.&nbsp;Episode Highlights[04:16] Claire's Career Journey on How to Find a Career You LoveAs a GP trainee, Claire knew that she didn't want to be doing clinics nine times a week.Claire went on to other areas of education. Listen to the full episode to learn more about Claire's thoughts on taking opportunities and putting yourself out there.[9:25] Following Your Interest vs Your PassionKnowing where your interests lie open up doors.&nbsp;Work out which of your skills gives you joy or motivation. Then, find a career that provides both.[13:36] NetworkingWhen you're contacting people, ask for advice.&nbsp;Networking is a conversation or a chat, not an interview.It's important to stay motivated when connecting with others. Sometimes, you don't get a good lead.[18:33] More Tips on Connecting with PeopleFind out who the person is and see if you can establish a connection.&nbsp;Think of the conversation as having a chat with a friend.&nbsp;People appreciate being listened to and to reflect on stuff.[20:30] More Tips on How to Find a Career You LoveTo know how to find a career you love, start with the little things.Take any opportunity as they come.&nbsp;Watch people that inspire and motivate you. Try to emulate that.&nbsp;You can't become an expert without practice.&nbsp;[23:34] The 'Yes, But' BlockWe all have a 'yes, but' block.&nbsp;What's important is getting out there and getting better.Don't be afraid of making mistakes. You learn a lot from failing.&nbsp;[28:04] On Transferable SkillsYou don't know how to find a career you love because you may feel like you have no transferable skills.&nbsp;Doing something different with your current role expands your horizons.&nbsp;The answer to how to find a career you love simply lies with doing what you love.[37:01] Final Thoughts and Top TipsTo answer how to find a career you love, Claire restated the three R's: reflect, reinvent, rebuild.&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksConnect with Dr Claire Kaye: Website | LinkedIn | Facebook | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drclairekaye_executivecoaching/" rel="noopener...
3/16/202141 minutes, 42 seconds
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How Safe Do You Feel at Work with Scott Chambers

This week, Scott Chambers joins us to talk about psychological safety in teams.Episode Highlights[11:29] What Does Low Psychological Safety Look Like?Difficulty collaborating is because of low psychological safety.People in low safety environments can exhibit unresponsiveness.We always want to be heard, but we don’t always listen.[14:52] How to Improve Team DynamicsWe need to create a space that acknowledges the instinct to be defensive.Then, help people go beyond this initial reaction.At the heart of a safe environment is the assumption of positive intent.[16:38] Assume Positive IntentOur body naturally identifies threats, but it can misidentify helpful things.Practice seeing positive intent in others.It helps if teams work as a group to resolve disputes.[22:10] Trust and Psychological SafetyTrust exists between two entities based on individual relationships.&nbsp;Psychological safety, on the other hand, is a systematic relationship. &nbsp;[28:44] What to Do as a LeaderIf you feel you’re surrounded by yes-men, step back and invite ideas.As a leader, your job is to ask good questions and genuinely listen.Develop your listening skills by summarising what you hear.[32:41] What to Do as a Team MemberIf you’re a team member, you can change the culture with vulnerability.Vulnerability means admitting your mistakes to solve them.[37:05] Change the CultureThe more people can freely admit and laugh at their mistakes, the better your team performance will be.Change the culture and make vulnerability a habit.[40:41] Does Safety Decrease with Hierarchy?Seniors and bosses hold power even if they don’t realise it.Leaders need to be more welcoming of people and their feelings.[42:56] Safety Is Not ComfortPsychological safety is not comfort.What you want is a safe and uncomfortable environment.It’s only while we’re uncomfortable when we can trigger the vulnerability.[44:36] Scott’s Top TipsCatch yourself whenever you feel defensive or afraid to speak up.&nbsp;Lead with vulnerability.&nbsp;Seek positive intent.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksThe Fearless Organization by Amy Edmondson.3GHR — Management Leadership Coaching &amp; Management TrainingFollow 3GHR: <a href="https://twitter.com/3ghr" rel="noopener...
3/9/202147 minutes, 38 seconds
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Make Time for What Matters with Liz O’Riordan

Do you feel like you’re constantly chasing your tail in everything you do? Have you ever felt like you’d be more productive and successful if you just had more time? With so much on our plates, it seems like the only option is to sacrifice quality time with our loved ones and for ourselves. But if you’re stressed and overwhelmed, fret not! There are ways to find the time, feel calmer, and present not only at work but also at home.This week, Liz O'Riordan joins us to share productivity life hacks. These have helped her transform how she approaches work. Now, Liz can spend quality time with her family and enjoy life. In this episode, she teaches us how we too can achieve this.If you want to learn some new life hacks, beat burnout and work happier, then tune in to this episode!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn a simple technique to get you off your phone and to spend quality time with your family instead.Discover how you can reduce your stress and the overwhelming feeling that comes with an overflowing inbox.Find out why you need to focus on a daily highlight before you do anything else.Enjoy the Podcast?In today's high-stress work environment, you may feel like a frog in boiling water. The pan has heated up so slowly that you didn't notice feeling stressed and overwhelmed has become the norm. You may think that it is impossible to survive AND thrive in your work.&nbsp;Frogs generally have only two options — stay and be boiled alive or jump out of the pan. Fortunately, you are not a frog. You have many more options, choices and control than you think.Learn to master your destiny so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. If you enjoyed today's episode of You Are Not a Frog Podcast, then hit subscribe now!Post a review and share it! If you enjoyed tuning into this podcast, do not hesitate to write a review and share it with your friends.For more updates and episodes, visit the You Are not A Frog website. You can also tune in on Google Podcasts, Apple Podcasts or Spotify.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group, where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles.Have any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-Morris&nbsp;Twitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our training here.&nbsp;Here’s to surviving and thriving inside and outside our work!Rachel
3/2/202142 minutes, 2 seconds
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Staying Positive Through COVID – Getting Back to Basics with Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee

Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee discusses how we need to get back to basics to make sure we're&nbsp;supporting ourselves and others in these uncertain times.Episode Highlights[05:01] What We Have To Be Positive About In 2021The vaccination program rollout is something to be excited about.Amrita is also hopeful about Joe Biden’s presidency.&nbsp;She concentrates by minimizing peripheral noise.[07:30] Importance of Embracing Negative Emotions&nbsp;Emotions are not binary.&nbsp;Negative emotions sometimes have lessons to offer.Allowing yourself to feel the moment can fill you with some hope for the future.[14:32] How to Hold On to PositivityRecognize that the emotions we’re feeling are different from what we experience in a pandemic-free world.Get back to basics.Think about the things you can control.[19:14] Going Back to BasicsDetermine the coping strategies that helped you.Understand that this, too, shall pass.We are all facing the same pandemic, but we experience it differently.&nbsp;[26:04] Building a Positive MindsetPractice optimum support by communicating your love languages.Engage in positively-based psychological processes like gratitude, journaling, connecting with others, and learning.Move away from toxic things.[42:27] Top Tips to Get Through the Next Few WeeksConnect with yourself, and communicate it to those around you.Don’t be scared of your negative emotions.Look forward to things.&nbsp;Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up&nbsp;for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective&nbsp;Facebook group.Find out more about our training&nbsp;here.Email Rachel&nbsp;or reach her on&nbsp;LinkedIn&nbsp;or&nbsp;Twitter.Podcast LinksPermission to ThriveSign up for the&nbsp;Vortex of Busyness&nbsp;handoutFind out about Ami's work at her&nbsp;website hereYou Are Not A Frog&nbsp;Ep. 35&nbsp;You Are Not A Frog&nbsp;Ep. 56&nbsp;Humankind&nbsp;by Rutger BregmanThe Happiness Lab&nbsp;with Dr Laurie SantosThe 5 Love Languages&nbsp;by...
2/9/202145 minutes, 25 seconds
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What to Do When You’re Out of Fuel with Dr Jess Harvey

This week, Dr Jess Harvey joins me to share her experience with burnout. We also discuss how you can take care of yourself and top tips for burnt out professionals.Episode Highlights[04:02] Jess’s StoryJess gets injured or something goes wrong with her body when she’s stressed.By the end of her medical school, she developed an eating disorder.Because of her condition, Jess couldn’t run anymore.Running is her coping mechanism. Being unable to run got to her, so she started eating again.During GP training, she caught a rare eye infection and missed 2 months of work.[12:22] The Importance of Rest and RecuperationJess became a partner in 2017, and her responsibilities increased. She had a stress fracture in her foot and had to wear crutches for four weeks.After a case with a young girl, Jess started to second-guess herself. She also kept everything inside to avoid being a burden.Jess realised she was burnt out, likening herself to a bucket of water full of holes.Rest is essential for the body.[25:13] What to Do When You’re Burnt OutThere’s a stigma around stress where people think they should have coped better.Burnout allowed Jess to check in with herself.Think about how you feel physically. Do you have enough energy?If you’re not sleeping well, what is keeping you awake? What can you do about it?Look at your stress levels.[30:54] How Micro Doses of Stress Pile UpSmall doses of stress can eventually become too much.Our stress and lifestyle choices all pile up.We should accept that we are fallible as humans.[38:47] Changing How We Deal with OurselvesIf you’re tired, don’t force yourself to keep going.We spend a lot of energy at work making sure our colleagues are fine.But we never look at ourselves, so we struggle even more.You are your most precious resource.[45:20] Top 3 Tips for ProfessionalsBe vulnerable.Check in with yourself.Be kind to yourself.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksLeah Gilbert Performance + WellbeingFeel Better, Live More with Dr Rangan ChatterjeeMore Than a Woman by Caitlin MoranConnect with Dr Jess Harvey: Email | Instagram.Find out more about the <a...
1/26/202149 minutes, 12 seconds
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How to Survive Even When Times are Tough with Dr. Caroline Walker

This week, Dr Caroline Walker joins us on another episode of the COVID-19 Supporting Doctors series to share key strategies you need to learn to keep going through the crisis.Episode Highlights[00:56] Our Prospects in 2021Everyone is excited to leave 2020 behind.COVID-19 is still present despite the promise of vaccines.We are experiencing an acute stress response due to scary, threatening or difficult situations.[04:28] Pacing OurselvesPeople are too tired to keep going.We need to pace ourselves.It may be hard to take some time off, but we have to look after ourselves.[07:33] Self-Care BasicsStart with the simplest things.Drink water.Eat, sleep and rest well.Do deep breathing exercises.Your self-care methods should be sustainable for your lifestyle.[11:46] Importance of Breaks and Boundaries&nbsp;Limit your social media exposure.Don’t worry about missing the news.Learn to set boundaries.[16:10] Learning to PrioritiseSet your emails or phones off at certain times.Learn to do your tasks in batches.[20:07] Staying ConnectedTalk and catch up with people who are important to you.Check on your team regularly.[24:50] Planning and Setting GoalsYou need to plan and design your life.Permit yourself to pursue things that are important to you.Ask yourself questions to guide you towards your goals[31:18] Culture of RushingCaroline recommends the concept of underscheduling.It’s normal to be overbooked, but it is not sustainable nor healthy.When we keep rushing, we lose so much joy and meaning in our life.[36:28] Strategies to Keep You Going ForwardStay alive and survive, especially during these times.Breathe slowly.Stay connected with others.Stay within your zone of power.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksMake Time by Jake Knapp and John Zeratsky5 minute team check-in and COVID team wellbeing toolkitEssentialism by Greg McKeowneGPlearningHeadspace<a href="https://www.calm.com/" rel="noopener...
1/19/202145 minutes, 32 seconds
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Self-Coaching for Success with Dr Karen Castille, OBE

Have you ever felt stuck and wish you knew what to do next? Many people with high-stress jobs find themselves with competing priorities and too much to think about and do. You may have considered getting a coach, but what if you don’t have the time and resources? When you want to find clarity and be more happy and successful, know that you can actually do it yourself through self-coaching!Dr. Karen Castille joins me in this episode to discuss her book on self-coaching. She shares powerful questions to ask yourself which will jumpstart your self-coaching journey. She also talks about the importance of developing this vital skill and crafting powerful life questions. Before we close the show, Karen gives her top tips for self-coaching.Don’t miss this episode if you want to learn how you can find clarity and achieve success through self-coaching!Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Learn how self-coaching works and how you can fit it into your weekly schedule.Discover the power of crafting your own life questions.Find out why getting advice from other people often doesn’t workResourcesThe Self-Coaching Workbook by Dr Karen CastilleFind out more about the Permission to Thrive CPD club for doctors hereFree to Focus by Michael HyattZen Tennis by Dr Joseph ParentThe Inner Game of Tennis by W. Timothy Gallway&nbsp;The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay StanierYou Are Not A Frog Episode 54 with Dr Surina ChibberKaren’s websiteConnect with Karen: Twitter | Email | EmailImplementing change in the NHS: Effects of clinical leadership on performance improvement, Karen’s DBA thesis
1/12/202143 minutes, 58 seconds
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The Self-Help Book Group on Happiness with Dr. Nik Kendrew

You Are Not A Frog regular Nik Kendrew joins me to discuss the concept of happiness. We also talk about perfectionism and fear. At the end of the show, Nik and I give our top tips to being happier by living in the present.Episode Highlights[6:04] Learnings from The Midnight LibraryWith everything that happened, we get reflective and think about how things could be different.&nbsp;Accept and appreciate what you have.Happiness is the things that give you meaning, purpose, and satisfaction.[12:52] Height and Depth of HappinessHeight of happiness refers to your peak or happy experiences.Depth of happiness is about the things we put around us, like our deep connections and life purpose.[21:27] Where is Happiness Dependent On?Happiness depends on your resilience, coping mechanisms, belief, meaning, and purpose.Negative experiences have a profoundly positive effect on our lives.[26:06] Nik’s Passion for MediaThere is no guarantee Nik would have been happy if he got the presenter job.He loves where he is now. Nik is involved in every stage of the production process.[30:01] Perfectionism and Getting Things DoneFear can hold us back. People use perfectionism to cover up their fears.Waiting for something to happen won’t get you anywhere.&nbsp;[31:43] How to Create a Good Mindset Without Going Through a CrisisBe kind.Don’t give up on your dreams.Live in the present.Appreciate the little things.[37:18] Top Tips to Live Life in the PresentHave some space for yourself and share it with others.Don’t waste your time on things you don’t want to do.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Get our special Beat Stress and Thrive E-Course For Health Professionals Christmas 2020 offer.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.ResourcesYou Are Not A Frog Ep. 17You Are Not A Frog Ep. 49The Midnight Libraryby Matt HaigReasons to Stay Alive by Matt HaigHappier by Tal Ben Shahar<a href="https://www.thehappymovie.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"
12/15/202039 minutes, 12 seconds
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Creating a Workplace that Works with Dr. Sonali Kinra

Dr Sonali Kinra joins us in this episode to discuss why people leave their jobs and how to prevent it from happening. We talk about the importance of culture in the workplace and its role in creating an environment that makes people want to stay.Episode Highlights[05:12] Why Good People LeaveThe GMC report ‘Caring for Doctors, Caring for Patients’ discusses the ABC of well-being&nbsp; - autonomy, belonging and competence.Attrition happens at transition periods.[07:48] What Culture Is and How to Create One in Stressful JobsA good workplace culture includes good communication, engagement, transparency and a feeling that we are in it together. It makes a job doable.Support your colleagues.[12:08] How Culture Helps in Coping with WorkloadCulture impacts how the workload is shared.Communicate your struggles to find an effective or efficient way to do things.&nbsp;[18:12] Sonali’s Advice to Keep People in Their JobsHer top advice is to cultivate a friendly and inclusive culture.Create ways for people to access coaching.Look into broadening your horizons to attract people into the profession.&nbsp;[26:08] Strength Finding and Job CraftingLook into your strengths as individuals and as a team.Make the job fit the person and not the other way around.Be inclusive.[37:44] Top Tips for Organisations and ProfessionalsFor organizations: Communicate, be transparent, and don’t leave anyone behind.&nbsp;For individuals: Consider coaching to talk about your career.Ask the organization about building a job around you.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Get our special Beat Stress and Thrive E-Course For Health Professionals Christmas 2020 offer here&nbsp;Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes of Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksBeat Stress and Thrive Course for Healthcare ProfessionalsYou Are Not A Frog Ep. 54 with Dr Surina ChibberYou Are Not A Frog Ep. 53 with Dr Abubakar Mohammad &amp; Dr Aigbokhai OhiwereiCaring for Doctors, Caring for Patients by Professor Michael West and Dame Denise CoiaThe Coach in the Operating Room by Atul GawandeConnect with...
12/8/202043 minutes, 21 seconds
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A Social Dilemma? with Dr James Thambyrajah

Social media is known for its benefits in creating and maintaining connections. It’s also designed to provide us with information—often too conveniently—in just one click. Because of this, it's only natural that we keep on using it, without realizing we're glued to our screens longer than we ought - or want -&nbsp; to be.In this episode, Dr. James Thambyrajah joins us to talk about social media's subtle yet profound effect on our daily lives. We discuss the perils of being unaware of how our online decisions are influenced and James shares his insights on how we can improve how we stay informed and inform others.Tune in to this episode if you want to learn more about how to go beyond your digital echo chamber.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Discover how social media affects our online decision-making processes.Learn how screen time impacts your mental health and well-being.Identify some tips on how to solve this social dilemma.Resources'Skin Lesions: What’s the Diagnosis?' by Dr. James ThambyrajahThe Social Dilemma on Netflix&nbsp;Indestructible: How to Control Your Attention and Choose Your Life by Nir EyalDad Tired Podcast Episode: Developing A Tech Plan For Your Family by Jerrad Lopes featuring Arlene PellicaneGuides by the Royal College of Paediatrics and Child HealthGiveawayStart Stop Continue giveaway https://www.shapestoolkit.com/stop-start-continue&nbsp;Podcast linksCheck out our Black Friday Offer for the Resilient Team Academy here&nbsp;Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about hot topics and regularly post interesting articlesContact RachelLinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected] out more about our training here&nbsp;
12/1/202050 minutes, 48 seconds
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Bullying in the Workplace with Dr Adam Harrison

Bullying doesn’t just happen in the schoolyard — it can happen anywhere, even in the workplace. Workplace bullying and harassment can adversely affect an employee's health, career and performance. Overcoming bullying should never be the victim’s burden; thus, knowing how to support victims may alleviate the situation.In this episode, Rachel chat’s with Dr Adam Harrison, a general practitioner, medical leader, and barrister, shares his experience as a victim of bullying and how he conquered his fear of bullies . He also talks about the ‘bystander effect’ and how you can support victims of workplace bullying to combat this issue.Tune in to the full episode to understand workplace bullying and the ways to overcome it.Here are three reasons why you should listen to the full episode:Find out how humiliation and bullying affect the professionals who experience itDiscover how to be resilient in the face of workplace bullying.Learn how to settle cases of workplace bullying.ResourcesThe Real Price of Incivility by Chris WhiteheadThe Price of Incivility by Christine Porath and Christine PearsonGoogle’s Search Inside Yourself Leadership InstituteThe Five Dysfunctions of a Team by Patrick LencioniDealing with—or Reporting—“Unacceptable” Behavior by Mary Rowe, Linda Wilcox and Howard GadlinEpisode HighlightsBullying in the Medical FieldAdam shares stories about a medical student being humiliated by a consultant and his own experience being bullied.He has a list of eight things that stuck with him after that experience.Traditional medical training may be the problem because historically, it has been based on behaviours that can be seen as&nbsp; bullying.Adam’s 3 Tips to Combat Workplace Bullying and HarassmentTry to de-personalize the situation.Find support within the team.Learn to become more assertive and influential so that you can confront your bully and persuade them to stop.Podcast linksCheck out our Black Friday Offer for the Resilient Team Academy here&nbsp;Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articlesContact RachelLinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected] out more about our training...
11/24/202043 minutes, 52 seconds
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Fertiliser for Your Brain with Michael Ledzion

This week, Michael Ledzion joins us to discuss the cognitive benefits of exercising. We talk about how you can start making small changes in your routine that count in massive ways.Highlights[04:28] Introducing MichaelHis social enterprise, Sports for Schools, arranges athlete visits to schools.They inspire children to be resilient and engage in physical activity.[06:39] Making Exercise Fun for KidsMost children don’t do enough physical activity because we don’t give them space to do it.To get your kids to exercise, he recommends inviting their friends along.[10:13] Activity and ProductivityWhen you do physical activity, you produce brain-derived neurotrophic factor (BDNF).It is like having fertiliser for the brain because the growth factor grows cells.[14:22] Exercise and CreativityCreativity is key to memory.Memory strength is a function of repetition, intensity and a strong connection between neurons.BDNF helps in connecting neurons together.[17:28] Aerobic Fitness&nbsp;Research suggests that aerobic fitness is the most valuable routine.Moderate to vigorous exercise has the most significant effect on BDNF production.[22:08] Why We Don’t See the Importance of Physical ActivityMichael believes the school system has made a mess of physical education by having targets and exams.The focus on exams has resulted in a lack of education about the benefits of movement.[26:27] Advice for People Who Work Long HoursBuild a routine.Start small.Plan your week.Delegate to free up time for exercise.[33:56] Advice for EmployeesIf you want to perform better at your job, be more physically active.Several studies show that physically fit people earn 20% more.Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up here to receive a link to the episode workbook and CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about hot topics and post interesting articlesFind out more about our resilience training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast linksMichael Ledzion's LinkedInSports for Schools websiteGet Active by Sports for SchoolsClubblySpark by John Ratey<a...
11/17/202039 minutes, 53 seconds
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Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils

What could be harming you when it comes to spending time with very nice people? Why does this week’s guest stick a picture of a chimp to her computer monitor? And what is the question we should ask ourselves before we say yes to an invitation?This week’s episode is a retrospective on what the first lockdown and subsequent ways of living and working have taught us about the importance of connection.With working practices limiting direct contact with other people as part of the COVID crisis, finding ways to connect with your colleagues may need a little inventive thinking, Jo and Rachel offer some great tips on this.The key to getting these strong connections is finding common ground, offering feedback, self disclosure and vulnerability.&nbsp;A good friend at work can really help you see things differently when you are overloaded with stress and your inner chimp is likely to escape - take a listen to understand how Jo uses the chimp metaphor in a very real sense as a flag to her colleagues!Not all connections are equal, some can drain your energy more than you realise.&nbsp;Our connections are categorised into one of 4 groups, our VIPs give us energy, whilst Very Nice People (VNPs)&nbsp; tend not to reflect that energy back to us.&nbsp;Making sure you find enough time with the right people is really important. And that may mean learning to say no to some invitations. Jo offers some great advice here including to ask yourself; if you say yes to this, what are you saying no to?Top tips on maintaining better connections:In work:&nbsp;Have connection at the forefront of your mind. Change your route, plan a coffee break, keep your door open.Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable, people will trust you more.In life:Take a look at who your VIPs are and make sure you’re spending enough time with them.Our Stop Start Continue checklist can help you assess how strong your connections are (amongst other things)- you can download your copy of the checklist here.&nbsp;Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Podcast Links:Contact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected]
11/10/202044 minutes, 31 seconds
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The One About Alcohol

Dr Giles P Croft is back to chat with Rachel about his experiences of an unplanned (but surprisingly great) year of sobriety following a revolutionary read he was recommended. You might remember Giles from episode 46, where he talked about how as humans, we naturally default to happiness.Well, one of our other defaults can lead us to distractions when our thinking is crowded or overwhelming, and yes - you guessed it, alcohol is one of the biggest tools people in high stress jobs use to self soothe and take our thinking offline.We’ve been raised with images and impressions that alcohol is a cure-all - bad day? Alcohol! Something to celebrate? Alcohol! End of the day? Alcohol!&nbsp;No wonder we don’t always pay conscious attention to alcohol’s impact on our lives.The book that created such huge paradigm shifts around alcohol for first Giles and then Rachel is This Naked Mind by Annie Grace. A myth busting, non-judgmental (and sometimes humorous) look at alcohol in modern life.Giles explores some of the ways we can learn to listen to ourselves when we might normally and instinctively turn to alcohol. Switching off our thinking isn’t something we’re used to doing, but reaching for a drink as a tool to switch it off is much more ingrained in us.&nbsp;Discovering the power and capability you have within yourself when you learn this art can be an enlightening experience - as Giles testifies!If you feel that alcohol is causing problems in your life, then please get help. There are services listed in the resources below.Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Podcast Links:Contact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected] Giles on twitter @gilespcroftContact him here https://gilespcroft.com/Check out Giles’s YouTube ChannelConnect with Giles on Facebook.Connect with Giles on LinkedIn.For more information and sources of support for alcohol addiction please visit the NHS live well website here&nbsp;
11/3/202046 minutes, 7 seconds
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How to Work Flexibly, Without the Stress

In this week’s episode, Rachel and Dr Surina Chibber share what they have learnt from years of flexible working to help you become more successful and less stressed (and guilt ridden) in your approach to this style of work.Surina is a portfolio GP and co-founder of My Locum Manager which specifically helps GPs manage the tasks that come with flexible working more easily.&nbsp;There are a lot of reasons people choose to explore flexible working, from embarking on parenthood to career diversification. Surina reminds us flexible working can be great, but will increase stress as a result if you’re not prepared.&nbsp;Working across a number of roles may require you to take on additional tasks such as marketing, tax returns, administration or professional training.&nbsp;Where your working week may start to overwhelm you, it can be really useful to write a ‘to-be’ list instead of a ‘to-do’ list to check that what you’re doing corresponds with your life desires and values.Surina reminds us to be in the moment instead of focusing on “I’ll be happy when…”Sometimes your time spent doing what you love creates a return on investment that you didn’t expect. Remember, the journey is the reward.By looking at what it is you want to achieve from flexible working, you can plan your time and resources to work towards this successfully and happily. One of the best things both Rachel and Surina advocate is getting a coach or mentor (or several!) to learn from and guide you to success.Their top tips are:Surina:Understand what you enjoy.Set boundaries over what is your work time and what your working week looks like.Surround yourself with people who are doing different things in their space, learn from them.Rachel:Get the help that you need and pay for it if neccesary!Ditch the guilt.Do fewer things but better.Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. Download Surina's popular e-book from MyLocumManager for locum GPs hereYou can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Podcast Links:Contact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected] Locum Manager a powerful platform for GPs who work flexibly. Whether you are working as a locum GP or creating a portfolio career, MLM will help you schedule all upcoming work direct to your smart phone calendar, easily invoice and pension and simplify all your tax return. Being a member of My Locum Manager provides you with...
10/27/202043 minutes, 53 seconds
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How to Be More Anti-Racist

This year, the issue of racial discrimination is forefront in our minds. It exists in every profession and every walk of life. It exists in ways we don’t always realise.&nbsp; It has raised many questions. It has created a sense of discomfort. And it isn’t going away.The subject of racism comes shrouded in societal shame. It’s time to shake off that shame and ask a few questions - or let You Are Not A Frog’s Dr Rachel Morris and Dr Abubakar Mohammad, GP and Wessex RCGP Executive board member ask them for you. This week they’re joined by their guest, Dr Aigbokhai Ohiwerei, a GP in Fareham and Whitely.They ask; what’s in a name, what is racism, how do I speak up with confidence when I see injustice and why have people found speaking up so hard?Abu and Aigbokhai share how these issues have affected them and some of their colleagues and give some great examples of how combatting racism doesn’t have to be combative. It is in fact, more about choosing to speak up or through the right channels when you see or hear an injustice.The team offer some great ways to challenge and question:Can you write your name for me to help me pronounce it correctly to patients?When you say (example “You’re a foreigner though!”), what do you mean by that?When you hear someone misappropriate a term, or use a stereotype - gently explain how that is inferred as a racist statement (we all have done this without being aware - let’s help each other!)If you don’t feel comfortable talking, write an email or speak to someone who can share your voice.Personal and societal change are big subjects and may make us uncomfortable with what we’ve witnessed previously or left unchallenged BUT the greatest thing we can do is listen from these experiences and learn how to make our practices, businesses and workplaces happier, harmonious and more equal.&nbsp;As a final thought and a direct quote, “It’s more powerful when you are in a position of privilege to speak up.” If you’re in a position of privilege, imagine just how much positive change you have the power to invoke.&nbsp;If you want to hear the further two episode in this series of three episodes commissioned by Wessex RCGP Faculty, please visit their websiteUseful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Podcast Links:Contact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @[email protected] Abubakar MohammadInstagram @Dr.Abu.MDr Aigbokhai Ohiwerei - <a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
10/20/202055 minutes, 48 seconds
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A Year of the Frog

The week’s episode is a special one as the Frog celebrates a year of podcasting! So this episode turns the table as YANAF regular, Dr Nik Kendrew, puts the spotlight on Rachel. They talk about everything from what this experience has taught Rachel, to the power of ‘F**k It’, how Nik’s inner chimp attacks in the supermarket &amp; one guest’s squeaky bum time!Rachel wanted to share the conversations, ideas &amp; experiences she encountered through her work with a wider audience to help more people than she was reaching through her courses.Through the podcast she’s enjoyed learning as much from her guests as you have, from conflict management to equality in the workplace it’s been an eye opening year of conversations.For a podcast series that’s dedicated to helping doctors, healthcare professionals &amp; executives in high stress jobs. Nik notes that as well as being very busy, some of these jobs can be very lonely places &amp; Rachel’s been really pleased to hear how many people have fed back the recurring phrase “it makes me feel like I’m not alone”.It’s perhaps no surprise that the most popular episode this year has been on COVID fatigue with Dr Caroline Walker. During the COVID crisis, this podcast has been a great way to reach out to and connect with people when stress, loneliness, fear &amp; uncertainty have been prevalent across all sections of society and industry.&nbsp;Sharing stories is often one of the most helpful things for all of us to feel less alone in moments of difficulty or uncertainty. Nik shares a really poignant example of how sharing our stories can help others and save lives.So as a sign off to a great year of episodes, Rachel is inviting you to help shape future Frog episodes. What would you like to hear more about and what more can we do to help you realise that you are not a frog? You can get in touch using the links below.Useful Tools &amp; Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection &amp; to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;Looking for resilience training for your team your CCG or GP Training Hub? Find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work.&nbsp; &nbsp;For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website&nbsp;Sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work&nbsp;Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Download the free ‘Stop, Start, Continue Checklist’ tool hereContact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris&nbsp;Twitter @DrRachelMorris<a href="mailto:[email protected]" rel="noopener...
10/13/202043 minutes, 19 seconds
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How to Stay Calm and Focused in the Face of Uncertainty

This week Rachel is joined once more by Dr Caroline Walker, otherwise known as The Joyful Doctor to look at what on earth has happened over the past 6 months and what we can anticipate in the coming months.It’s fair to say that we’re currently in an adjustment phase, learning how to work and live to the current rules, anticipating changes to these rules and processing this seismic shift from how our lives used to operate.We’re seeing burnout from overwork, anxiety over the uncertain future and a general sense of grief and loss.It’s common for people to vent their anger towards those they feel safe with.&nbsp;We’re being asked to do more than ever and we need a plan to manage this. Consider the example of a professional footballer. If they were asked to play for 3 hours instead of 90 minutes what would they do? Devise a break plan, factor in more nutrition, add more to their team and so on. When we have extra pressure applied, what are we doing to make sure we can cope?There are things that will be out of your control right now, so Rachel and Caroline give a reminder about the ‘Zone of Power’ and how this powerful tool can bring you a sense of calm and empowerment.One ultimate top tip from Rachel and&nbsp; Caroline; Learn to leave things unfinished.This sounds unlikely but they present a good argument for its benefits.Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsLooking for resilience training for your team, your organisation or your CCG or GP Training Hub? Find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work.For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website https://youarenotafrog.com/Sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work&nbsp;You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Podcast Links:Download the free ‘Stop, Start, Continue Checklist’ tool hereDownload a free handout about how to stay in your Zone of Power The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisContact Rachel&nbsp;LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-lMorris https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/Twitter @[email protected]<a...
10/6/202041 minutes, 19 seconds
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Freeing Yourself from the Money Trap

When we’re starting out in our careers, there’s a lot to remember, to consider and a lot that we’re not prepared for.&nbsp;For doctors, dentists, lawyers and many other high stress professional jobs, we’ve undertaken years of training and yet, we’re (mostly) unequipped to deal with how to manage the money we start making once we qualify .Joining Rachel in this week’s episode is Dr Tommy Perkins, as well as being a GP Partner, and father, Tommy is one half of Medics Money. Medics Money is an organisation specifically aimed at helping doctors make better decisions with their finances. It’s run by Tommy and Dr Ed Cantelo who is not only a doctor but a qualified accountant.When Tommy left medical school he carried with him £85,000 of student debt - what a way to start your career! With no understanding of how to manage finances, this debt was a big burden but it also inspired Tommy to look at how to manage finances, manage tax, and how to use his money to work for him and pay down his debt.&nbsp;Money and happiness, much like money and tax, do not exist in a linear relationship. Learning about the relationship between money and tax is something you can be taught, understanding the relationship between money and happiness is something you can only find by understanding your own values, and what’s important for your own happiness.A great way to get this understanding and start to take control is by preparing a&nbsp;PDP (Personal Development Plan) for your finances, much like you would write a PDP for your professional life.&nbsp;When you’re writing your&nbsp;PDP, don’t think of it as just about money, but consider what your priorities in life are so that you can put plans in place that will make you feel good, like Tommy’s debt pay back plan. We can avoid facing up to our financial situation, but it feels good to have a plan that puts you back in control.Tommy’s two most important suggestions areWork&nbsp;you can maximise your income; for example by sorting out your tax code, tax reimbursements, child benefit, etc.Minimise your expenditure.Tommy’s top tips are:Get financial advice from specialists in your profession.Do a budget!Make a financial PDP.Create an emergency fund.Want to make sure you’ve reflected on what the recent lockdown has taught you about what’s important in life? What makes you happy? What you’d gladly see the back of? Download our free.&nbsp;Start Stop Continue Checklist tool&nbsp;here&nbsp;Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here&nbsp;to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;Looking for resilience training for your team, your organisation or your CCG or GP Training Hub? Find out more about her&nbsp;online and face to face courses&nbsp;for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work.&nbsp;For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website&nbsp;https://youarenotafrog.com/Sign up to our mailing list&nbsp;here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work&nbsp;You can also join the&nbsp;Shapes Collective Facebook group&nbsp;where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting...
9/29/202043 minutes, 1 second
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The Self Help Book Group No 2 with Nik Kendrew

Do you sometimes sacrifice your health and happiness for work? Are you unsure of why you do it, or what you can do?It’s a surprisingly common trait amongst doctors and other busy professionals to believe that you’re indispensable. In truth, we know that whilst what we do is important, if we don’t look after ourselves and take time out when we’re unwell, we’ll be out of action for much longer.This week Rachel is joined by You Are Not A Frog regular, Nik Kendrew. Last time Nik joined us, we discussed a book that has helped him in his professional life as a GP, trainer and partner as well as his personal life. Nik’s back this week to talk about another brilliant book and to share what insights and learnings he’s gained from it.Between this and Nik’s previous guest appearance on YANAF, he’s had some personal battles to deal with, including an emergency trip to hospital just as he was due to start a shift as duty doctor (yes, the ambulance took him away in front of the waiting patients!).This was a serious moment for Nik, yet whilst he was in Resus, he found himself texting his future appointments, offering reassurance that he’d definitely be there. Fortunately, the health professionals got tough with Nick and instructed a 2 week rest period.Nik’s condition is now well managed and he’s even back to some of the physical activities he enjoyed previously, but there has been a big paradigm shift for him along the way.Rachel and Nik explore why we, particularly as professionals, deny our health concerns and what advice we’d offer a friend who found themselves in a similar situation to Nik.The book Jog On, by Bella Mackie transformed Nik’s personal and professional outlook along his recovery journey. Bella’s story takes us from her marital breakdown and peak of sustained anxiety to a place of personal happiness by discovering exercise.Nik had to return to some uncomfortable memories with this book, but also some great successes as well as making a big mental shift - that exercise is something to be enjoyed, not doggedly pursued for ‘personal bests’!&nbsp;In finding what you enjoy, you’re more likely to gain huge mental health rewards and stick at this as part of your regular self care routine. It’s really important to be aware that the image of the ‘super-fit’ doesn’t always mean happiness. Happiness comes from doing what you enjoy, and if you can find a regular (and even mindful) form of exercise you’ll gain an improved state of mind.Don’t forget that our BRAND NEW membership for busy leaders who want to get productive and thriving teams in the new ways of working is only open for a short time longer. If you’re interested, then check out the Resilient Team Academy.&nbsp;&nbsp;Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.&nbsp;Looking for resilience training for your team, your organisation or your CCG or GP Training Hub? Find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work.&nbsp; &nbsp;For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website https://youarenotafrog.com/Sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work&nbsp;You can also join the <a...
9/22/202043 minutes, 47 seconds
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Looking After Your People Through COVID and Beyond

We may be returning to something of a more normal working life, but there is still a lot of change ahead of us and we face continuing challenges both in our day to day work and leading our teams.Some of our greatest challenges exist around communication - with teams that may be split between being able to meet in person and those working remotely, communicating with your team where there may be uncertainty and the lack of creative thinking that often can occur in team meetings where you can quickly get ‘group think’.Joining Rachel this week are not one, but three guests - her ‘go-to’ gang, or as she describes them - her ‘wise guys’!We talk about how we and our teams have responded during the different stages of the crisis and reflect on what this has taught us.&nbsp;Ultimately, the key to looking out for and after your teams is to communicate, communicate, communicate.&nbsp;Our top tips are:Find new and creative ways to communicate.Remember to look forwards, not just review the past.Informal chats for mentoring can be transformative, whether you lead that person or not.Run a Stop Start Continue on your remote working strategy.It’s really important to look after yourself too, don’t discount the value in finding your own mentor. Your team is likely to have some great problem solvers, reach out to them when you need inspiration. And finally, remember that it won’t be like this forever - even if at times we feel stuck and can’t see an end to this.And if you’d like to join our BRAND NEW membership for busy leaders who want to get productive and thriving teams in the new ways of working then check out the Resilient Team Academy. &nbsp;We’ll give you all the tools and resources you need to have transformative conversations, run better meetings, and use a simple coaching approach to empower your people. You’ll receive the Shapes Toolkit Core training and all the material will be delivered direct to your inbox in short, bitesize chunks. We’re only open to new members until 22nd Sept so you need to be quick! &nbsp;Useful Tools and Resources:Sign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsLooking for resilience training for your team, your organisation or your CCG or GP Training Hub? Find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work. &nbsp;Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here&nbsp;For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website https://youarenotafrog.com/Sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work https://www.shapestoolkit.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitYou can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articles24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.<a...
9/15/202049 minutes, 23 seconds
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How to Have a Courageous Conversation

Just before lockdown, Rachel recorded this episode that specifically deals with helping individuals and teams manage those difficult conversations that arise during change, conflict and crisis. And it’s fair to say that as we continue, or return to work in our changed world, these conversations have become crucially importantRachel talks with Beccie D'Cunha, founder of Courage Lab, about the conversations that we avoid and the conversations we really need to have with our colleagues, teams and managers. They can be described as difficult conversations, but we can redefine them as courageous conversations - because ultimately it takes courage for both parties to listen and be heard.Beccie helps leaders and teams to have these conversations. Where there is conflict around performance, difficulty with change or challenges with strengths or differences, she mediates and gives people the tools they need to bring about healthy dialogue that leads to resolution.Beccie’s top three tips to having courageous conversations are:Do your prep. Work out what you want to get out of the conversation? What are the pros and cons of having the talk?Take the risk to be honest and vulnerable with your feelings.After we’ve shared, be prepared to hear the response, and listen out for how the listener is feeling as well.Podcast Links:Get the Busy Leaders Guide to Getting a Resilient Team mini-video series here.Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy membership for busy leaders. Sign up here to receive CPD form downloads for each podcast.Beccie D'CunhaBeccie has relaunched her brand and website since this podcast was recorded and now has a new company name! Contact her here [email protected] @BeccieDCunha&nbsp;Twitter @becciedcunha&nbsp;You can find out more about Beccie's work at her new website where you can also sign up to receive receive her&nbsp; newsletter and get a free Guide to Building Team Resilience During Uncertainty www.couragelab.coRachel MorrisContact Rachel [email protected] Twitter @DrRachelMorris LinkedIn @Dr-Rachel-MorrisFind out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors and other professionals on surviving and thriving at work - the Shapes Toolkit training hereYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool hereFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website https://youarenotafrog.com/Sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work&nbsp;You can also join the <a href="https://www.facebook.com/groups/2212687302308522/"...
9/8/202039 minutes, 57 seconds
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Default to Happy

In our first podcast back after the summer break, Rachel talks with Dr Giles P Croft about his take on how to beat stress and burnout. Giles&nbsp; is a psychology graduate and former NHS surgeon who stepped aside from clinical practice for a decade to explore a number of career paths, including health informatics, cycling journalism, public speaking and high street retail with his wife.He is now back in the healing profession, tackling the root cause of chronic mental stress and its many harmful effects by helping clients reconnect to their natural, inbuilt state of health. He lives and works in the Brecon Beacons National Park with his wife and 6 year old daughter.As human beings, we are designed to default to a setting which is at peace and happy. The problem is that so often our thinking gets in the way of this, causing feelings which make us feel that something is dreadfully wrong.&nbsp;Whilst feelings can be a useful indicator light to what’s going on with our thinking – they are rarely ‘ the absolute truth’ .Giles believes that if we can just stop trying to ‘do stuff’ to make ourselves feel better, and just leave ourselves to default to our innate factory settings, and live in the present, we will feel- and think much better, and our stress will disappear.&nbsp;We chat about how to avoid secondary suffering by layering unhelpful thoughts on top of events and talk about the ‘soft flute of intuition’ which will help tell us what we really need in any given moment.&nbsp;Giles’s top 3 tips are:Ask yourself ‘where are my feelings coming from right now?’Look at your hands regularly to stay in the present moment. The present is all there isGo back and listen to the podcast again – change comes through insightSign up here to receive a link to the CPD form downloads for each podcast which you can use for reflection and to submit for your appraisal. https://www.shapestoolkit.com/podcast-CPD-formsYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here and you’ll also receive the Busy Leaders Guide to getting a Resilient Team which is launching on 8th Sept.&nbsp;Contact Rachel at [email protected]&nbsp;Find out more about the Resilient Team Academy membership for busy leaders. https://www.shapestoolkit.com/rta-waitlistWe are sending out a regular email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for professionals working throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksFollow Giles on twitter @gilespcroftContact him here https://gilespcroft.com/Check out Giles’s YouTube Channelhttps://facebook.com/drgilespcroft<a href="https://linkedin.com/in/drgilespcroft" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
9/1/202046 minutes, 15 seconds
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Rest. The final frontier

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Sheela Hobden, Professional Certified Coach, wellbeing expert and fellow Shapes Toolkit facilitator. We talk about why rest isn’t just important for wellbeing, but important for productivity and creativity too.&nbsp;As doctors and other professionals, we can think that rest is just for other people, that we are superhuman and that we just need to keep going until we have just finished…. (fill in the blank). The reality is that our work is never done and if we wait until a convenient break in our schedule to rest and recharge then we’ll never take a break.&nbsp;We discuss tips and strategies for planning short and longer breaks and Sheela shares with us her top summer 2020 holiday survival tips:Take time out (clear your physical space of work clutter, use voicemail and out of office)Go tourist – rediscover where you live with new eyesCatch some rays – make the most of the early mornings and light eveningsHave a plan B (for when rain or other stuff stops play)Go funny – laughing is ALWAYS good for youConnect with other (a staple on this show!)We’ve put together a summer survival toolkit full of hints and tips from our favourite wellbeing experts, GPs, leadership specialists and coaches. You can download it here.&nbsp;You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/stop-start-continueWe’re taking a dose of our own medicine and are going to take August off (we need it!). So do check out our back catalogue of podcasts over the summer – there are some gems there! A good summer listen would be How to be an Adult, or Eff it Living ). Thank you SO MUCH for your support over the last year – the podcast has been a great success and we couldn’t have done it without you! We’ll be back on 1st September.We are sending out a regular email with new resources, tips and useful content especially professionals working throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here&nbsp;You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksRest: Why you get more done when you work less by Alex Soojung-Kimm PangPositive Psychology in the Pandemic – a 60 second lecture from Martin SeligmanWe Will Get Through This Michael Bungay Stanier podcastFollow Sheela on twitter @wellbeing_champFind out more about the Shapes Toolkit training hereHere’s Sheela’s website&nbsp; <a href="https://www.bluegreencoaching.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
7/28/202042 minutes, 11 seconds
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How to ACT Instead of Stewing on Your Thoughts

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Shani Langdon, a Clinical Psychologist specialising in mindfulness-based approaches. In this episode we discuss Acceptance and Commitment therapy a powerful way to deal with emotions and move forwards in our lives.&nbsp;Shani is an ACT practitioner and we discuss the three stages, firstly how we can choose to fuse with our thoughts and fully integrate and identify with them or choose to let them go, secondly how we can help ourselves accept the feelings that may be there without trying to change anything. Finally, acting consistently with our values allows us to take action rather than just stewing in our own thoughts.&nbsp;We chat about the importance of approaching thoughts and feelings with curiosity rather like David Attenborough examining a new species of insect, and how mindfulness techniques can help with this, help us feel grounded and also help increase our self-compassion.Finally, we discuss Russ Harris’s (author of The Happiness Trap) FACE COVID principles developed during the COVID crisis that help us to focus on what’s in our control, acknowledge our thoughts and feelings and open ourselves up to committed action.&nbsp;You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/stop-start-continueWe are sending out a regular email with new resources, tips and useful content especially professionals working throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here&nbsp;You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksShani’s website which has a resources page with links to support on offer during the COVID crisis, and details of upcoming courses which she runs with Elinor Brown is:www.beinghumantogether.co.uk&nbsp;Find Shani on LinedIn&nbsp;https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-shani-langdon-a656a1107/Follow her on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/being.human.together/Russ Harris' website with details of his FACE COVID offerings (on the home page), books, courses and other resources:https://www.actmindfully.com.auThe ACBS website for lots more information about ACT:https://contextualscience.org/Find out more about the Shapes Toolkit training hereYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/stop-start-continueYou can download our Thrive Week Planner here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/thrive-plannerGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - <a...
7/21/202040 minutes, 36 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors. COVID boredom – What Should We Do?

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.This is the sixth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors and other professionals working on the frontline keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.&nbsp;In this episode we discuss COVID boredom – yes it’s a thing and yes, it’s possible to be totally bored even while busy. We talk about the factors that are increasing our boredom and think about what we can do to avoid making drastic and rash changes that won’t help.To combat boredom, we need to connect more to our meaning and purpose in life. Getting busier and busier won’t help, sometimes we need to dig down deeper and stay in the present moment rather than just distracting ourselves with less than helpful coping strategies.&nbsp;Changing things up a bit – even just changing your environment or what you eat every day can be helpful. We all need to grow and develop so finding something that offers a challenge can be the best way to beat boredom, be it learning a new skill, taking a course or just doing something outside our comfort zone.&nbsp;Our top tips are:Caroline:Connect to your meaningConnect to your purposeRachel:Stay in your zone of power – work out what you have control overKeep learning and challenging yourselfDon’t throw the baby out with the bathwater!Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @joyful_doctorYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here.Podcast linksFind out more about my new membership for managers, the Resilient Team Academy launching in September. Join today as a Founder Memberhttps://drchatterjee.com/how-to-work-less-and-get-more-done-with-alex-pang/24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/777257999463566/BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeingThe NHS Practitioner Health Programme - https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool hereYou can <a href="https://www.shapestoolkit.com/thrive-planner" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
7/14/202034 minutes, 47 seconds
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Ask the Frog – What Will You Stop Start Continue After Lockdown?

&nbsp;In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie, GP and Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course presenter. We chat about lockdown, what’s we’ve hated about it, how it’s affected us but also the things that we’ve learned about ourselves, our families and our work.Many of us have found we’ve had more time and space as activities have been cancelled, many of us have found that we have no time and space at all (depending on our home circumstances) but it’s fair to say that most of us have struggled with the lack of contact with people. We discuss how this lack of informal interaction can erode relationships with work colleagues as we’ve lost the small check ins which mean we can trust each other more and sort out small issues with minimal fuss.&nbsp;We talk through the Stop Start Continue model where we learn lessons from what’s gone on and plan how we’re going to do things differently.Jamie’s top 3 tips areTake stop start continue seriously and invest time in thinking about itWrite it downCollaborate – talk it through with friends and colleagues.&nbsp;You can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here&nbsp;We are sending out a regular email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube hereSign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2q&nbsp;Podcast linksYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here&nbsp;You can download our Thrive Week Planner hereThe Ruthless Elimination of Hurry John Mark Comer Book&nbsp;Get the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat hereView our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health ProgrammeSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and...
7/7/202045 minutes, 42 seconds
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How to Be a Professional Woman with Dame Jane Dacre

&nbsp;In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dame Jane Dacre, Ex-President of the Royal College of Physicians, Consultant Rheumatologist, Author of the Gender Pay Gap in Medicine Report and President of the MPSWe talk about the gender pay gap, why it has happened and what effect this has on us. Being a professional woman in medicine (and other professions) is easier than it used to be but there’s still a lot of inequality in the system.&nbsp;We talk about the societal expectations that there are on women and the micro and macro changes that people can make both in their own lives and in the system. Changing the system makes it better for EVERYONE. As doctors and professionals, we’re not necessarily expected or trained to change the system, but we need to look up and operate at a higher level. Jane talks about the need to stand back and think about how we can all do things in a better way. &nbsp;‘Isn’t it time you became a full-time skiver rather than a part-time matryr’. This was said to Jane when she was training, and it had a huge effect on her. This prompted her to make changes in her life. We chat about how we can be patronised by all sorts of people (including John Humphries!) and how to respond by calling it out with zero tolerance.Jane’s top tips areBe assertive without being strident or aggressive&nbsp;Hang on in there – it will all be alright in the endIf you don’t make mistakes you don’t learn.Find a non-confrontational way to fix systems that are unhelpfulRecognise change happens slowlyEncourage women to step upYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here&nbsp;We are sending out a regular email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here&nbsp;You can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Sign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here&nbsp;https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2q&nbsp;Podcast linksGender pay gap in medicine interim reportFollow Jane on Twitter&nbsp; @DacreJaneYou can download our Stop Start Continue Checklist tool here&nbsp;You can download our Thrive Week Planner here&nbsp;View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service -...
6/30/202039 minutes, 27 seconds
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Leading With Tough Love with Gary Hughes

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Gary Hughes, author of the book Leadership in Practice, blogger, educator and facilitator who is a Practice Manager by day.We chat about how leadership in the COVID-19 crisis has had to adapt, and the different roles that a leader has had to take. Whether you are leading an organisation, a small team or even just working in a group of colleagues, compassion, kindness and clarity has never been more important.We talk about the three phases of the response to any crisis – the preparation period, the active period and the recovery period. People’s behaviours can be very different through the three phases varying from kindness and support to disillusionment, fatigue and let’s face it, some plain old bad behaviour!Setting clear boundaries, and knowing a clear vision for yourself, your team and your organisation is key. There is also a need to be fair and lead by example.&nbsp;Gary’s top tips for leading through into the recovery phase are:Get clarity on where you are heading – and communicate this to the teamReflect what you want to stop, start and continue (get our stop/start/continue checklist tool here insert link)Work out what else you need for the journey ahead – learning? Skills? Resources?We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube hereSign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here&nbsp;https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2qPodcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitFind Gary on LinkedIn&nbsp;Check out his latest blog here&nbsp;https://www.linkedin.com/posts/gary-hughes-b9070625_leading-the-recovery-from-a-crisis-weve-activity-6680877420448489472-CVhWThe BPS Psychological Needs of Healthcare Staff as a Result of the Coronavirus Pandemic article and resourcesView our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing<a...
6/23/202039 minutes, 39 seconds
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How We Show Up Through the Lens of the Enneagram, with Annie Hanekom

In this episode, Rachel chats with Annie Hanekom, Leadership and Team Facilitator and Coach and Certified Enneagram PractitionerWe chat about the Enneagram – an ancient way of understanding ourselves, our personality and our responses to others. This has been a very powerful way that people have understood themselves and others over hundreds of years which has enjoyed a resurgence recently. We discuss why it can be such a powerful tool for self-awareness and chat about the insights it can bring – on a really deep level.&nbsp;Health warning! Remember – the enneagram is a lens of looking at the world. No model is absolutely true but models can be helpful!We talk about the 9 different enneagram types and how each type may be responding in the Coronavirus crisis. We explore the key areas for development and what the opportunities are now for each type to live life in a fuller and more meaningful way.&nbsp;Annie’s top tips to get more self-aware are:Take the time to notice what your instant reaction to something is...interrogate what’s really going on.Ask, is this the most useful thing I could do?Then ask, what’s a better way to respond?You can watch this podcast episode on YouTubeSign up for the Preparing for Life After VTS for GP Mums: Getting the Balance Webinar here -&nbsp;https://event.webinarjam.com/register/31/k3r5li2qWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereView our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinarPodcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://www.shapestoolkit.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitConnect with Annie on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/annie-hanekom-99591b/Contact Annie [email protected] 9 Enneagram info&nbsp;Podcast The Road Back to You – all about the different Enneagram types. https://www.theroadbacktoyou.com/podcast24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeingThe NHS...
6/16/202058 minutes, 18 seconds
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How to Be an Adult with Ebonie Allard

Something a little different this week -we’re going back to an interview that was recorded just before the COVID crisis hit us.&nbsp;In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ebonie Allard, an award-winning life and business coach, author of Misfit to Maven: The Story of AARCH to AAHH and host of the popular podcast ‘Adulting with Ebonie’We chat about how to live lives that feel as good on the inside as they look on the outside which includes taking just the right amount of responsibility for yourself and for others. We discuss the control problems that people in high stakes, high stress jobs often have – either taking too much control or not enough control and think about the core values that will help us to filter all our decisions and determine what our success is in life.&nbsp;Once you know what your core values are, it becomes much easier to decide what to say ‘yes’ and what to say ‘no’ to.&nbsp;Ebonie’s three top pieces of advice are:Become curious about stuff in your life – without judgementGet clear on what you actually want. What are your needs? What are your desires?Know your BATNA (Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement). What’s your next best option if Plan A doesn’t look like it’s going to work…?We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat hereListen to Rachel’s interview on ‘Adulting with Ebonie’ here https://adultingwithebonie.com/the-one-about-fight-or-flight/Here’s Ebonie’s podcast https://adultingwithebonie.com&nbsp;Find out about Ebonie’s work here https://ebonieallard.com&nbsp;Follow Ebonie on twitter&nbsp;Misfit to Maven: The story of AAGH to AAHH book&nbsp;View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://www.shapestoolkit.com/support-your-team-webinar24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service - https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing<a href="https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/"...
6/9/202040 minutes, 42 seconds
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How to Manage Conflict During COVID with Jane Gunn

This week Rachel is thrilled to welcome back Jane Gunn – lawyer, mediator and expert in conflict resolution who has been known as the Corporate Peacemaker. This episode is for you if the thought of addressing a difficult issue with one of your colleagues send you running for the hills…When the Coronavirus crisis first hit, we collectively started to behave a bit better – give each other a break and make allowances but as time has gone on, our old ways of behaving coupled with anxiety, uncertainty and stress may well have made old issues raise their ugly head (a bit like Christmas with the relatives which has gone on a bit too long!).&nbsp;In this episode, Rachel and Jane talk about why this has started to happen and discuss what can happen if conflict is left to fester. Often conflict which hasn’t been addressed escalates quickly and Jane shares the ladder of escalation steps which help to explain what’s going on. We talk about how you get off this ladder with simple techniques for having important conversations, the importance of listening and of really trying to dig down into the real issue.&nbsp;We chat about the importance of having an easy to follow process in an organisation that doesn’t rely on grievances but instead empowers people to have these conversations early and how modelling vulnerability as a leader can make this possible.&nbsp;Jane’s top tips for managing conflict are:Take the time to write down what you want to say and what you really want before you have the conversationListen to and be honest with yourself and othersTry to de-escalate as much as possible (make a molehill out of a mountain!)We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Podcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitContact Jane at [email protected]://www.janegunn.co.ukYou can access Jane’s 10-part video series from my renowned “Solved By Midnight” programme’ here http://janegunn.co.uk/managing-conflict-in-times-of-change-challenge-crisis/Civility Save Lives TED Talk Dr Chris Turner - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4RUIhjwCDO0View our recent Shapes Webinars on how to support your teams through the COVID crisis and sign up for the forthcoming webinar here https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/support-your-team-webinar&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.BMA Wellbeing Service -...
6/2/202047 minutes, 19 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors. COVID Fatigue – What’s Going on, and What We Can Do About it

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.This is the fifth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors and other professionals working on the frontline keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.&nbsp;In this episode we discuss COVID fatigue, how many of us seem to be more tired than we would expect – even though we’re going to bed at a reasonable hour and may have more opportunity than usual for rest. This fatigue is caused by many factors which include our background anxiety and stress, the fact that it’s harder to interact regularly with those people who re-energise us and also the fact that doing things virtually can be completely draining.We chat about strategies to look after ourselves, our families and colleagues and discuss practical things you can do which will make a difference.&nbsp;Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @joyful_doctorWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/free-team-wellbeing-toolkitYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here.Podcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat&nbsp;24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group&nbsp;Shapes for Doctors Website http://www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website http://shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourceshttps://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/podcast-CPD-formsFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts&nbsp;Sign up to our mailing list for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;You can also join the <a...
5/26/202035 minutes, 16 seconds
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The Power of the Positive with Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Amrita Sen Mukherjee, a portfolio GP with a special interest in occupational health, a Next Gen GP lead and the RCGP First5 Wellbeing lead as well as mother to two small children.&nbsp;We talk about the power of positivity and how this works during difficult times such as those we are experiencing right now. Ami is undertaking a Masters in Positive Psychology and we discuss some of the positive psychology principles and research around how this can help us.&nbsp;Keeping a list of things we are grateful for, creating an album of meaningful photos and reflecting on why they are meaningful are two ways in which we can increase our positivity – which the helps to re-wire our brains.&nbsp;We discuss the importance of accepting what we can and can’t control, the importance of autonomy and purpose in our lives and chat about the small and practical changes we can all make to increase these elements in our work and home life.&nbsp;Ami’s top tips:Plan positivityDo team check-ins regularlyRemember the basic stuff – it’s OK to laugh.Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Access the free Shapes Webinar ‘How to support your team through the COVID crisis without trying to fix it for everyone’ here - https://shapes-toolkit.mykajabi.com/support-your-team-webinarWatch Ami and Rachel’s FMLM webinar on wellbeing here https://www.fmlm.ac.uk/resources/webinar-maintaining-your-wellbeing-through-covid-19Contact Rachel – [email protected]&nbsp;Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here.Podcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here.Follow Ami on twitter @YourwellbeingDrHere’s her website https://yourwellbeing.doctor/Get in touch with her [email protected] hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook group - https://www.facebook.com/groups/777257999463566/Shapes for Doctors Website http://www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website http://shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisBMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;<a href="https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/" rel="noopener noreferrer"...
5/19/202040 minutes, 45 seconds
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Treat Others as They Would Like to Be Treated. Top Tips for Dealing with Stress in Others

This week Rachel chats with Gitanjali Trevorrow-Seymour A self confessed neuroscience nerd, Gitanjali is on a mission to liberate our brains. As The Possiblist Coach she increases her client's resilience, confidence and impact; liberating them from overthinking so they are empowered to see what's possible. She is also the Founder of the leadership development company, High Definition You. If you’d like to see the slide on social styles then why don’t you watch this episode on YouTube? (insert link)In the COVID crisis you may be trying to be kind and make allowances for people, but it’s hard! We chat about how we can all act in stressful situations – becoming an ‘uber’ version of, if we’re honest, not always our best selves.&nbsp;Gita uses the social styles model to talk through a simple way of thinking about how we behave and respond to others in our teams and families. Some of us assert our opinion more easily than others and some of us are able to control how we express things and are perhaps more task focussed than others. This shows up in how we interact – and crucially how people clash under pressure.We discuss the different styles and chat about how we can change our own behaviour to get the best out of people.Gita’s top tips are:Be kind to yourselfCreate some time to reflect on yourself and how you are experienced?Seek out some feedback from others about how you are experienced by themWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here (where you can also see the social styles slide)Podcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat hereWebsite: http://highdefinitionyou.com&nbsp;For personal self coaching tips go to: http://highdefinitionyou.com/videos To be the first to know about what's coming up next from Gitanjali go to: http://highdefinitionyou.com/waitlist&nbsp;Gita is launching a brand new group coaching programme – find it here&nbsp;https://highdefinitionyou.com/80daysregister/To get weekly top tips and inspiration go to: https://highdefinitionyou.com/yesplease/&nbsp;LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/linkinwithgitanjali/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gitanjali_hdyou/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/highdefinitionyou/24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.<a href="https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeing"...
5/12/202055 minutes, 47 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: Great expectations? Why We Expect Too Much of Ourselves and How to Give Ourselves a Break with Dr Caroline Walker and Dr Rachel Morris

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.This is the fourth in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.&nbsp;In this episode, we talk about the unrealistic expectations we have of ourselves right now. Perhaps we think we should be doing more to help? Improving ourselves? Doing that CPD we’ve never got round to doing? Spring cleaning the house or making our garden perfect? Yet many of us are finding that we’re just not able to do all this right now and our productivity seems to be lower than we’d like.This is OK.We need to adjust our expectations of ourselves (rather than ‘lower’ them)As doctors, we are so often driven by our need to ‘do’ and our need to help. We judge our worth by what we’ve achieved and so when we feel uncomfortable emotions such as anxiety or sadness we turn quickly to action to ‘fix’ the problem.&nbsp;Caroline and Rachel chat about the need for self-compassion and about how to recognise the emotions we are feeling. We discuss the vital question we need to ask ourselves ‘What do I need right now’ and also chat about how we can find it hard to receive help and compassion from others.&nbsp;Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @joyful_doctorWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Podcast linksGet the COVID Team Wellbeing Toolkit which includes instructions on how to run a team check in chat here24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook groupThe Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com&nbsp;Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website www.shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/&nbsp;The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisBMA Wellbeing...
5/5/202038 minutes, 15 seconds
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How to Take Control of Your Thoughts with Corrina Gordon Barnes

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Corrina Gordon Barnes, a Certified Professional Coactive Coach (CPCC), facilitator of The Work and trained teacher.We chat about how, during the coronavirus crisis, some of our thoughts and ways of thinking can be causing us needless suffering. Corrina has discovered a practice called ‘The Work’ which has been transformational in her life and now uses this approach to help people question their thoughts and limit the suffering that they may be experiencing as a result.&nbsp;So often in our lives we are plagued by thoughts of ‘it shouldn’t be this way’, ‘it’s not fair’, ‘they should do this or that’. Corrina explains why arguing with reality is never successful and talks us through the simple yet profound process that can free us from these anxious thoughts.&nbsp;Corrina is facing the loss of her grandmother and we use the work to talk through this scenario; she also shares how this process has helped her to come to terms with the loss of her baby son Alfie over the last couple of years.We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube herePodcast linksFind out more about Corrina’s work here https://corrinagordonbarnes.com&nbsp;Here’s Byron Katie’s website all about The Work https://thework.com&nbsp;BMA Wellbeing Service https://www.bma.org.uk/advice/work-life-support/your-wellbeingThe NHS Practitioner Health Programme https://www.practitionerhealth.nhs.uk/Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articlesFollow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk &nbsp;
4/28/202042 minutes, 39 seconds
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Get Off Your Phone! How to Limit Your Social Media and News Consumption to Beat Stress and Anxiety

In this episode, Rachel is joined again by Dr Katherine Hickman, GP, mentor and Tiny Habits Coach and Respiratory Lead in Yorkshire.&nbsp;In the midst of the COVID crisis, many of us are glued to the latest news, constantly on Facebook or WhatsApp replying to colleagues, friends and family and, to be, honest, some of it isn’t that helpful in terms of keeping well, reducing our stress and staying calm through the crisis.&nbsp;We talk about how to use the Tiny Habits behavioural change approach to help us to limit the amount of time we spend consuming news and social media and to stop us automatically checking our phones whenever we have a break in our work, or if our attention is wandering.&nbsp;To change a habit, we need to start small and make it easy. We discuss some quick wins such as growing a tree on your phone, activating the Facebook timer and also turning off all your notifications and putting your social media apps all together in a folder a long way from your home screen.&nbsp;If you want to know more about the Tiny Habits approach, then do check out Episode 2 of You Are Not A Frog, where Katherine shares even more about this approach.&nbsp;We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Podcast linksTiny habits: The small changes that change everything BJ Fogg bookBMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programmehttps://www.katherinehickmancoaching.com/about&nbsp;Follow Katherine on twitter @kchickmanSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join the Shapes Collective Facebook group where we chat about the hot topics and regularly post interesting articlesFollow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk...
4/21/202044 minutes, 13 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: Moral Injury Hurts with Dr Caroline Walker and Dr Rachel Morris

Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker, The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors &amp; host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.This is the third in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.In these difficult times, Caroline &amp; Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game, stay focussed &amp; resilient.&nbsp;In this episode, we talk about moral injury - the distress we feel when our actions (or lack of them) violate our moral or ethical code. Doctors are already being asked to work in ways that are alien to them and may feel quite wrong. We have been trained to care for the patient in front of us, and it becomes hard when we have to make difficult decisions which have a huge impact.&nbsp;We chat about the sorts of moral injury that frontline workers may experience, the role of ethical guidance and individual decision making and discuss the sorts of symptoms you may experience if you are suffering from moral injury.&nbsp;Connecting with others, having regular check-ins, not neglecting the basics in caring for yourselves and your teams are ways to help prepare for what may come. If you are suffering, speaking to other people, making sure you don’t do this alone and getting the professional support and advice you need early will help.&nbsp;Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @joyful_doctorWe are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Podcast links24 hour support for NHS staff: Call 0300 131 7000 between 7am and 11pm or text FRONTLINE to 85258 24/7.Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook groupThe Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com&nbsp;Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website www.shapesfordoctors.co.uk/podcasts/&nbsp;The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisBMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health ProgrammeSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor
4/14/202034 minutes, 6 seconds
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Caring for Ourselves Whilst Coping With Loss with Dr Jonathan Griffiths

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Jonathan Griffiths, a portfolio GP from Nantwich who is also a blogger, a TEDx Speaker and Primary Care Adviser to the STP.&nbsp;In this episode, we talk about Jonathan’s experience of losing his young son to a rare haematological condition and his journey of a slow recovery following this huge loss. We chat about the need to be kind to yourself, know your limits and boundaries and how to return to work when the time comes.&nbsp;We talk about how we can apply the lessons Jonathan learnt during that time to our experiences in the Coronavirus crisis and we discuss the enormous power of exercise in helping us cope with stress, anxiety and a whole other range of emotions.Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;We are sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch the podcast on YouTube herePodcast linksRead Jonathan’s blog www.drjongriffiths.wordpress.comHis TEDx talk is at https://youtu.be/-BfcvI49GCwTwitter @drjongriffithsConnect with him on linkedIn http://linkedin.com/in/jonathan-griffiths-13623473Coronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook groupShapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk&nbsp;BMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health ProgrammeSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work. You can also join my Facebook group The Shapes Collective hereFollow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other...
4/7/202043 minutes, 39 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: How to Deal With Our Sadness, Anger and Grief Through the Crisis with Dr Caroline Walker and Dr Rachel Morris

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined again by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast.This is the second in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors.In these difficult times, we're working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.&nbsp;In this episode, we talk about the sadness and sense of loss that we are all feeling at the moment. Grief brings with it many different emotions and reactions – from shock and denial through to extreme sadness and anger. Many of us are experiencing a lot of these emotions right now and IT’S OK AND NORMAL to feel like this.&nbsp;When we suppress our emotions for too long it can be bad for us. We discuss how to release the emotions in a healthy way which doesn’t catch anyone in the crossfire and how accepting what we are feeling and making allowances for others to feel that way too is crucial in times like these. Our top tips are:Caroline&nbsp;Feel the emotionVent your anger healthily and safelyShare your sadness with others – we’re in this togetherRachelGive yourself time and space to allow yourself to experience the emotions and let them settle.Make room for joy in your life – even when it’s hard out thereMake extra allowances for yourself and othersDoctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @joyful_doctorWe’re sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up hereYou can watch this podcast episode on YouTube here&nbsp;Podcast linksCoronavirus wellbeing support for doctors Facebook groupThe Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com&nbsp;Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk&nbsp;Tea and empathy Facebook groupThe Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisBMA Wellbeing Service&nbsp;The NHS Practitioner Health Programme<a...
3/31/202043 minutes, 42 seconds
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COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: How to Manage Our Stress and Anxiety Through the Crisis with Dr Caroline Walker and Dr Rachel Morris

In this special episode of the podcast, Rachel is joined by Dr Caroline Walker – The Joyful Doctor. Caroline is a Psychiatrist, therapist, specialist in the wellbeing of doctors and host of The Joyful Doctor Podcast. This is the first in a new series of podcast episodes and videos – COVID-19 Supporting Doctors: How to manage our stress and anxiety through the crisis.In these very difficult times, Caroline and Rachel are working together to bring you as much support as they can. We’ll be tackling various different topics as they emerge in order to help doctors keep their head in the game and stay focussed and resilient.&nbsp;In this episode, we talk about the huge amount of anxiety that doctors are experiencing right now and recognise that this is normal. We chat about the different sorts of threat that we are all experiencing and how we can make things worse for ourselves if we get into particular patterns of thinking.&nbsp;We discuss some of the ways in which we can proactively manage our anxiety and stress, and suggest tips and techniques which will make a practical difference wherever we work.&nbsp;Finally we share some books, resources and website which we think will be useful. This is an ongoing project so we’d love to hear what would be helpful to you. Please contact us if you have any comments or suggestions or have any useful resources to share, or just want to say hello! &nbsp;Doctors – we need you more than ever. Keep up the good work. Keep your heads. Keep caring.&nbsp;Contact Rachel – [email protected] Twitter - @DrRachel MorrisContact Caroline – [email protected] Twitter @@joyful_doctorWe’re going to be sending out a weekly email with new resources, tips and useful content especially for doctors and healthcare professionals throughout the COVID-19 crisis. If you’d like to receive this and other resources about thriving at work then please sign up herePodcast linksWatch the video on YouTube https://youtu.be/j2LQEpJPfcMThe Joyful Doctor Website www.joyfuldoctor.com&nbsp;Shapes for Doctors Website www.shapesfordoctors.comYou Are Not A Frog website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk&nbsp;The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisThe Power of Vulnerability TED Talk by Brenee BrownBMA Wellbeing ServiceThe Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme for Confidence, Success and Happiness by Prof Steve PetersCalm appHeadspace app<a...
3/24/202045 minutes, 43 seconds
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Getting into the Flow with Richard Husseiny

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Richard Husseiny, an ex-olympic strength and conditioning coach and the founder of the conscious life collective, an alternative framework for wellbeing.We chat about his experiences working with Olympic athletes and the techniques they use to control their stress before the big event. Mild stress helps our performance to increase but pretty quickly our performance peaks, too much stress and our performance starts to dip. Activating the parasympathetic nervous system through simple actions such as breathing exercises can be incredibly helpful for bringing us back into a high-performance state.&nbsp;We talk about the concept of flow – the extraordinary state where time may stand still or speed up, we have adequate challenge and are being stretched and we are totally absorbed in what we do. This is linked with wellbeing protective factors – learning a new skill is a great way to get into flow. If you experience flow regularly then life satisfaction goes up and things are much better.&nbsp;We discuss strategies to get into flow more regularly and Richard gives his top 3 tips to stay resilient and manage stress. These are:Access breathing techniques&nbsp;Focus on your deep work without interruptionWork out what is it that you actually WANT to do and eliminate the non-virtuous guiltPodcast linksSign up for the Beat Stress and Thrive online course and community herehttps://www.husseinyperformance.comFollow Richard on twitter @richardhusseinyBounce by Matthew SyedThe Breathing App Edward SternWhen the body says no: The cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabriel Matehttps://www.flowgenomeproject.com&nbsp;https://powerspeedendurance.com&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for...
3/17/202041 minutes, 16 seconds
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The Truth About Burnout with Dr Rachel Morris

In this episode, Rachel talks about the worrying statistics about burnout and exhaustion in doctors and discusses some of the reasons why burnout is on the increase.&nbsp;There are some uncomfortable truths about burnoutDoctors are not immune – in fact perfectionist tendencies and increased engagement with their jobs make them more prone to burnoutIn the ICD 11 codes, the WHO have newly classified Burnout Syndrome as caused by a toxic workplace culture and unmanaged stress&nbsp;No-one else is going to take control for you – you have to make changes yourselfRachel talks about strategies to prevent stress and presents a crucial mindset shift that is needed in order to beat burnout. Getting mastery of our jobs and the tools we need to stay resilient is the first step. We also need to get a supportive community around us to challenge us and help us to think issues through.&nbsp;Finally, we need autonomy in our work life, and the ability to take control over our wellbeing, our stress and our time. Time is a big issue - we often feel we don’t have enough time to do everything that is required of us, let alone find time to plan how we will make changes, so Rachel provides a helpful tool – the Thrive Week Planner which you can download to help plan what a good working week looks like in which you can thrive.&nbsp;We’d love you to join the Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe Rachel’s brand new online course and membership community for doctors under pressure which will help you to do all of this. This special offer is for a limited time only – the community is open for new members until 17th March 2020&nbsp; (if you have missed this offer, sign up to the mailing list to be the first to know about future course and community intakes and events). Find out more details about the Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe herePodcast linkshttps://www.gmc-uk.org/-/media/documents/caring-for-doctors-caring-for-patients_pdf-80706341.pdf&nbsp;https://bjgp.org/content/bjgp/69/684/e507.full.pdf&nbsp;Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown&nbsp;The online course and membership community&nbsp;Beat Stress and Thrive TribeFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving...
3/10/202041 minutes, 8 seconds
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At What Cost? with Laurence McCahill

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Laurence McCahill, co-founder of the Happy Startup School, an alternative business school and thriving community of entrepreneurs that put happiness before profits.We chat about the importance of knowing what we really want before setting vision and goals. What would life be like if we designed how we want to live and then created careers that work around this?&nbsp;We discuss how to create your ideal working week. Download my free ‘Thrive Week’ tool in the podcast links below. By getting real about how much time we are spending on certain things and making some difficult decisions that will help us feel less overloaded. One of the questions we should ask ourselves whenever we are exploring a new opportunity or asked to take on new work is ‘at what cost?’ – and remember to measure this not just in monetary terms but in terms of energy, enjoyment and fulfilment.&nbsp;Podcast linksDownload our free Thrive Week tool to help you design your ideal week.http://www.thehappystartupschool.comContact Laurence at [email protected]&nbsp;The online course and membership community Beat Stress and Thrive TribeSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website You Are Not A Frog Podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.co.uk &nbsp;
3/3/202040 minutes, 49 seconds
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How to Do Conflict Well with Jane Gunn

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Jane Gunn, a ex-lawyer, mediator, trainer and expert in resolving conflict in the workplace. Jane is known as the ‘Corporate Peacemaker’ and works with GPs, doctors and professionals in other organisations and partnerships.&nbsp;We talk about why we delay or deny conflict and the problems that we can cause when we sweep stuff under the carpet for fear of addressing issues. We discuss how it’s useful to have a ‘conflict resolution’ strategy hard baked into the organisation or the partnership agreement so that things are addressed quickly without having to go through HR, so that there is an obvious process that can be followed.&nbsp;Often conflict escalates because we don’t take the time to listen to the other person and really understand where they are coming from. Jane talks about a simple process to help us bring up an issue – say how you feel, explain the potential impact …then shut up and listen! When we truly understand where the other person is coming from, often the solution becomes obvious and we can move forwards. Knowing what the conflict is really about and what need the outcome to be is also helpful.Podcast linksGood to Great by Jim CollinsGetting to Yes by Fisher and UryThe 5 Dysfunctions of a team: A leadership Fable by Patrick LencioniHere is the link to Jane’s website www.janegunn.co.uk&nbsp; and mini video series www.janegunn.co.uk/solved-by-midnight/ &nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesTo let me know the 2 things that keep you awake at night please click here&nbsp;Find out more about the Beat Stress and Thrive online course and communityFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.shapesfordoctors.com/podcasts/ and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or <a href="https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-rachel-morris/" rel="noopener noreferrer"
2/25/202040 minutes, 39 seconds
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The Perils of Perfectionism with Nicky Odgers

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Nicky Odgers, an Educational Psychologist, an ex-teacher and one of her go-to people for practical and sound advice!We chat about how a fixed mindset can impact us, from increasing perfectionism to a fear of failure which can paralyse us, stop us from giving our best at work and can be incredibly stressful. We chat about how this fixed mindset may have come about – particularly if you grew up in the 80’s or 90’s, and we discuss how we can foster a healthier growth mindset in ourselves and others.&nbsp;Whilst no-one wants to be criticized or to fail, this is where real growth occurs for us and we talk about how to take failure as ‘feedback’ and why, if you’re not failing at something regularly, you might not be developing at all.&nbsp;Podcast linksCarol Dweck TED talk&nbsp;Mindset: Change the way you think to fulfil your potential - a book by Carol Dweck&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesTo let me know the 2 things that keep you awake at night please click here&nbsp;Here’s some more information about the Beat Stress and Thrive Tribe!&nbsp;For more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.shapesfordoctors.com/podcasts/ and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.shapestoolkit.com
2/18/202041 minutes, 25 seconds
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Help! I’m turning into a Monster at Work, with Dr Riaz Jetha, Dr Jamie Wyllie and Dr Jo Scrivens

In this ‘Ask the Frog’ episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Riaz Jetha, Dr Jamie Wyllie and Dr Jo Scrivens, some of the Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course authors and presenters.&nbsp;We chat about how the pressures of our duty doctor days can turn us from rational human beings into monsters, where our inner chimp is let loose and we end up behaving in a manner which surprises even us.&nbsp;We discuss simple techniques to help manage our chimps and our behaviour and talk about how important it is to give ourselves space, to show compassion to ourselves and others – treating people as human beings rather than just another demand on our time.&nbsp;Connecting with others during the day, taking regular breaks and seeing what small things we can re-order in our work can help, as well as recognising that managing our own emotions is part and parcel of being a healthcare professional.&nbsp;Podcast linksThe Chimp Paradox: The Mind Management Programme to Help You Achieve Success, Confidence and HappinessLeadership and Self-Deception: Getting Out of the Box, the Arbinger InstituteDr Riaz Jetha on LinkedInPlease can you do me a quick favour…I’m developing my brand-new course and community ‘Beat stress and thrive, the online course for doctors under pressure’ which is launching in March. So that I can make the course as good as it can be, I’d love to know what two work-related things keep you awake at night. Please let me know your answers here&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
2/11/202033 minutes, 4 seconds
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A Creative Solution to Stress with Ruth Cocksedge

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ruth Cocksedge a Practitioner Psychologist who started her career as a mental health nurse. She practices in Cambridge and has a particular interest in EMDR for PTSD and creative writing as a way to improve mental health and wellbeing.&nbsp;We chat about EMDR and how it can help with PTSD, and discuss some antidotes to anxiety and stress such as mindfulness and self-compassion. So much of how we feel is a result of our own self-talk and learning to be kind to ourselves and treat ourselves how we would treat our best friend will help alleviate anxiety.&nbsp;We discuss how Ruth discovered creative writing as a way to good mental wellbeing and her journey into teaching creative writing for wellbeing. Learning and playing is one of the ways to wellbeing and anything which helps us get into flow and express what we are thinking and feeling can be extremely powerful in relieving feelings of stress and anxiety.&nbsp;Ruth’s top tips:Be kind to yourselfRecognise you are humanTreat yourself how you would treat your best friendExtra info:Ruth plans to run a Creative Writing for Well-being group for six weeks in the Spring. This will run on a Saturday morning or an evening for 2 hours in Cambridge, start date to be confirmed. Course aim: to improve the well-being of participants by giving them opportunities to write creatively and develop their ability to express themselves in writing, for enjoyment, personal development and to tell their stories.&nbsp;Do email Ruth for more information and to express an interest.Podcast linksMindfulness meditations from Jon Kabat-Zinn https://www.mindfulnesscds.com&nbsp;Breaking and mending by Joanna Cannon https://www.amazon.co.uk/Breaking-Mending-doctors-stories-compassion/dp/1788160576/&nbsp;Find out more about Ruth http://www.cambridgecbt.com/our-therapists/ruth-cocksedge/&nbsp;Contact Ruth [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up to hear about new episodes of the podcast and for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.shapesfordoctors.com/podcasts and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
2/4/202034 minutes, 44 seconds
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Burgers, Busyness and Business with Tara Humphrey

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Tara Humphrey, Founder and CEO of THC Primary Care and host of the podcast ‘The Business of Healthcare with TaraHumphrey’We chat about the main mistakes GPs and other professionals make when trying to run a business, either trying to do everything themselves or not paying enough attention to the business side of things. Even if we don’t run a practice, many of us are self-employed and are running ourselves as a business!Time is often our limiting factor and there just isn’t enough time to get everything done that we need to. This can be profoundly frustrating and lead to all kinds of stress. Tara chats about the need for strategic planning both in our own lives and for our businesses and partnerships and how setting goals not just for the day but the next 90 days can be vital. We also discuss how getting help can be a life-saver, be it admin support or coaching to help you set priorities.Tara’s top tips:Write down your priorities for the next 90 daysPlan your day before you start workBlock off time to do things that refuel youAsk for help when you canPodcast linksContact Tara [email protected]’s website can be found here: https://www.thcprimarycare.co.uk/Here is the link to all Tara’s Business of Healthcare Podcast episodes:http://thebusinessofhealthcare.libsyn.com/Find THC on twitter: @THCPrimarycareAnd linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tarahumphreythc/Read our blog where we share leadership insights on how to improve the delivery of yourprojects: https://www.thcprimarycare.co.uk/blogAnd listeners can sign up to our newsletter and we’ll send them the blog and podcast each week along with more in-depth insights and advice designed to improve business and project performance: https://tarahumphreyconsulting.us13.list-manage.com/subscribe?u=805734b0b541a7d55f8e6c712&amp;amp;id=db44a86c96Essentialism by Greg McKeown https://www.amazon.co.uk/Essentialism-Disciplined-Pursuit-Greg-McKeown/dp/0753555166Eat that Frog https://www.amazon.co.uk/Eat-That-Frog-Important-Things/dp/1444765426Amy Porterfield podcast on boundaries https://www.amyporterfield.com/2020/01/296/The Boy, The Mole, The Fox and The Horse by Charlie Mackesyhttps://www.amazon.co.uk/Boy-Mole-Fox-Horse/dp/1529105102Sign up to hear about new podcast episodes and get your downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website <a...
1/28/202043 minutes, 9 seconds
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Help! Work is Taking Over My Life, with Dr Jamie Wyllie

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie for another Ask the Frog episodeWe chat about what happens when work starts to seep into every aspect of our lives. How to create a ‘third space’ between work and home so that we get ourselves out of work mode to be fully present in parent / partner / friend mode.&nbsp;We think about what we can do to stop ourselves obsessing about unfinished work and how perhaps the ‘inbox to zero’ mindset can be unhelpful when this just might not be possible.&nbsp;Finally, we talk about how taking control over aspects of our time such as doing our best work at our best time and scheduling in work catch up time that is under our control just might help us to feel freer and get a better quality of life at home.&nbsp;Podcast linkshttps://ideas.ted.com/never-take-a-bad-work-day-home-again-using-these-3-steps/The pomodoro technique https://francescocirillo.com/pages/pomodoro-technique&nbsp;Starving the Anxiety Gremlin bookSubmit your questions for ‘Ask the Frog’ to [email protected]&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
1/21/202035 minutes, 15 seconds
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The Self-Help Book Club - First Edition, with Dr Nik Kendrew

In this episode, Rachel is joined again by Dr Nik Kendrew, self-confessed self-help bookaholic to chat about books and apps that have made an impact on their lives recently.&nbsp;We chat about how reading self-help books sometimes gets a bad press and how we, personally get an immense amount of value from them. Amongst other recommendations, Nik talks about ‘The Little Book of Resilience’ by Matthew Johnstone and the effect that this book has had on him, from understanding how we all put on a ‘show face’ to taking hold of the principle that ‘It’s OK to not feel OK’.We also talk about the enormous pressure that GPs are under and the importance of looking after yourself, seeking help where necessary and identifying some of those thoughts we believe are facts but are, in fact, just thoughts after all.&nbsp;Podcast linksThe Little Book of Resilience, Matthew JohnstoneHeadspace App&nbsp;https://drchatterjee.com/blog/category/podcast/&nbsp;Stress Proof: The ultimate guide to living a stress free life Dr Mithu StonroniFollow Nik on Twitter @nikkendrewFor help and support for GPs https://gphealth.nhs.uk&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
1/14/202045 minutes, 3 seconds
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Productivity Hacks for a Calm and Effective Life, with Dr Gandalf

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Hussain Ghandi aka Dr Gandalf, GP, PCN Director, creator of eGPLearning&nbsp; and host of the popular eGPLearning PodblastWe chat about how to be more efficient and effective by making those tiny, incremental changes which, when added up will save us a whole heap of time. We delve into Ghandi’s daily routine to find out how he can fit so much in and discuss simple productivity hacks that GPs, doctors and people in other busy jobs can use – no tech needed!Ghandi shares his top 3 tips for GPs: Do the biggest and most unpleasant tasks first, batch up your tasks so that you do the same things at the same time and – the quickest and easiest to do – turn off your notifications! This helps you to avoid the trap of multitasking (or attention diversion as it’s otherwise known).&nbsp;Podcast linkshttps://egplearning.co.ukDr Rachel Morris video interview about resilience on the eGPLearning podblastFollow Ghandi on twitter @drgandalf52 @egplearninghttps://hbr.org/2019/11/how-remote-workers-make-work-friends&nbsp;https://calendly.com&nbsp;https://todo.microsoft.com/tasks/&nbsp;Ike to do app&nbsp;The Miracle Morning: The 6 habits that will transform your life before 8am bookSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
1/7/202046 minutes, 21 seconds
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Eff it Living. An Evidence-Based Way to Beat Stress and Change Your Life with John C Parkin

In this episode, Rachel is joined by John C Parkin, author of the bestselling F**k It: The ultimate spiritual way, to talk about the powerful philosophy behind the F**k It mentality, and how using it can make our lives better.&nbsp;We chat about how the phrase F**k it is so powerful as it helps us form a bridge from our left brain to our right brain to access the very powerful, creative aspects of brains – the part of ourselves which lives in the present and helps us to truly relax. We discuss the concept that one of the reasons why we feel so stressed is that we attach too much meaning to too many things (what other people think of us being a prime example). When we relax, others relax and we get better outcomes in both work and life.&nbsp;We discuss how the F**k It principle might help busy doctors even with things that matter very much and how a bit of self-coaching (anabolic coaching – you heard it here first!) can help us to get some perspective, work out what really makes a difference in life, move forwards and take action to overcome stress and overload.Podcast linkshttps://www.thefuckitlife.com&nbsp;Follow John on twitter @thefuckitlifeF**k It: The ultimate spiritual way book&nbsp;The Effect of Swearing of Strength and Power Performance, Keele Universityhttps://www.facebook.com/thefkitlife/Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
12/17/201945 minutes, 51 seconds
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Help! My Senior Partner is a Jerk, with Dr Jamie Wyllie

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jamie Wyllie co-author and presenter of the Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course.This is an ‘Ask the Frog’ episode where we chat about a question that we are often asked by GPs – how do I influence someone who is set in their ways, resistant to change and autocratic? We discuss the need to get on the same branch as them, to recognise what their thoughts and feelings are and ultimately, understand what their needs are.&nbsp;We discuss what it is to be a partner (not just in the legal sense of the word) which includes creating a shared purpose, the right to say no, joint accountability and absolute honesty – something that, if we are honest, very few of us really achieve. We talk about ways to improve relationships in the team and the fact that only thing we have full control of is ourselves.&nbsp;Please click here for a free download of cringe-free activities to develop your team - for use in partnership meetings and away days.Podcast linksPlease click here for a free download of cringe-free activities to develop your team - for use in partnership meetings and away days.The Five Dysfunctions of a Team, Patrick LencioniStewardship: Choosing Service Over Self-Interest, Peter BlockSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
12/10/201937 minutes, 36 seconds
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Yes You Really Do Need Friends at Work and Other Life Hacks, with Dr James Thambyrajah

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr James Thambyrajah, a portfolio GP and the outgoing South West Thames Faculty RCGP First5 lead.&nbsp;We chat about how James approaches his work, and the difference in outlook between newly qualified GPs and those of us who are in their mid or late career.We talk about healthy ways to approach our work and the importance of maintaining a good life – work balance, making time for what is important.&nbsp;Mental health problems and burnout are also prevalent in First5 GPs and we talk about how a supportive peer group can help in dealing with the stress. We discuss how work can become bearable when we have good connections at work and how we can build these connections even in the midst of a busy schedule.&nbsp;Since recording this podcast, James and his wife have had a new baby – congratulations James!Podcast links:Follow James on twitter @JThambyrajahRCGP First 5 https://www.rcgp.org.uk/first5&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
12/3/201936 minutes, 4 seconds
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When Doctors Lose Someone They Love, with Dr Jo Scrivens

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Jo Scrivens, Portfolio GP, Cambridgeshire LMC member and Red Whale Lead. Manage. Thrive! Course co-presenter.&nbsp;We chat about what happened when her Mother died following a diagnosis of cancer. Jo speaks about how this affected her, how she coped with going through the diagnosis and treatment process with her family and how she managed her family and work whilst this was all going on.&nbsp;We talk about the relief she felt when a Macmillan nurse told Jo she would treat her as a relative and not a doctor, and discuss how important it is to be able to be in the role of a friend or relative and not a member of the medical profession when you are coping with losing a loved one.Jo shares some of the books and other resources that have helped her and shares some insights she gained about herself and the dying process.Podcast linksThinking Out Loud: Love, Grief and Being Mum and Dad, Rio FerdinandOption B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience and Finding Joy, Sheryl SandbergResilient Grieving, Lucy HoneSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
11/26/201940 minutes, 46 seconds
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The Magical Art of Reading Sweary Books with Dr Liz O’Riordan

In this episode, Rachel is joined once again by Dr Liz O’Riordan, the ‘Breast Surgeon with Breast Cancer’, TEDx speaker, author, blogger, triathlete and all round superstar who has been nominated for ‘Woman of the Year’. She is also an BMA Award-winning co-author of ‘The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take control’.We chat about the many books in the F**k it genre of books, particularly the ones by Liz’s favourite author Sarah Knight. We chat about how these books have been so helpful as they highlight how we all waste a whole load of time and energy caring what other people think of us and worrying about the wrong things, which in turn wastes emotional energy and doesn’t contribute to our happiness at all.&nbsp;We discuss how to change your mindset so that you can let go of the things you really can’t control and chat about how once you’ve let go of your attachments to certain things, it becomes a lot easier to move through life lightly and with less stress.&nbsp;*Please note that as you can imagine, this episode contains some swearing.Podcast linkshttp://liz.oriordan.co.ukhttps://twitter.com/Liz_ORiordanThe Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take controlThe Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k, Sarah KnightCalm the F**k Down, Sarah KnightF**k It: The Ultimate Spiritual Way, John C. ParkinSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at <a href="http://www.shapesfordoctors.com/" rel="noopener...
11/19/201941 minutes, 5 seconds
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What We’re Talking About When We Talk About Compassion Fatigue with Agnes Otzelberger

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Agnes Otzelberger, a trainer, research and activist with a special interest in what happens when we tire of ‘doing good’.We chat about what can happen to carers, healthcare staff and humanitarian workers when they become overwhelmed and burnt out by the magnitude of the needs and the suffering of the people they are dealing with on a day to day basis. We discuss how the symptoms affect us and ultimately can make us disillusioned and can end up with us leaving our job or becoming ill.&nbsp;This has traditionally been known as ‘compassion fatigue’ but the surprising thing is that neuroscience has shown that compassion fatigue doesn’t actually exist – what we end up suffering from is ‘empathic burnout’ or ‘fatigue’. When we hear other people suffering, the empathy area of our brain is activated – the same bit of the brain that experiences physical pain.Fascinating research has shown that whether we suffer from empathic fatigue or not depends on which part of our brain we are using to process the things we see and hear. Buddhist monks who are able to access the ‘compassion’ area of the brain through the ‘empathy’ area in response to suffering seem to be immune from empathic fatigue.&nbsp;Agnes shares the research and reading she has been doing around this topic, discusses the treatments and strategies to prevent it, and shares some simple tips and methods for avoiding empathic fatigue and protecting us from its toxic effect.&nbsp;This podcast is a must for those who have ever felt that their compassion has just run out…Podcast linkswww.thegoodjungle.org Agnes’s websiteBlog on compassion fatigue https://www.thegoodjungle.org/blog/2019/4/9/burning-out-for-people-and-planet-4-dangerous-self-care-myths&nbsp;How Can I Help, Ram Dass and Paul GormanStanding at the edge, Joan HalifaxRAIN meditations at https://www.tarabrach.com/rain/&nbsp;Contact Agnes [email protected]&nbsp;The Good Jungle Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/thegoodjungle/&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at <a...
11/12/201948 minutes, 25 seconds
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Making Change Happen in a World Full of NoNos, with Ben Gowland

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Ben Gowland, Director of Ockham Healthcare and host of The General Practice Podcast.We chat about why changes work or fail -&nbsp; it’s often dependent how we do the change rather than what we are trying to change, so how we make changes is a really important part of how we run our practices.&nbsp;We talk about the best approach to change and discuss how John Kotter’s book suggests starting with a focus on the problem, helping colleagues to see the reason that the change is needed and creating a sense of urgency. We discuss why GPs can so often neglect to see the need for change and talk about how to create a common narrative around what needs to change.&nbsp;Podcast linksThe General Practice Podcasthttps://ockham.healthcare&nbsp;Follow Ben on twitter @BenXGowlandOur Iceberg is melting – John KotterThe Model For Improvement https://improvement.nhs.uk/documents/2142/plan-do-study-act.pdf&nbsp;Sign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources about thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
11/5/201935 minutes, 30 seconds
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Emotions and Vulnerability, Friend or Foe? with Dr Haidar Al-Hakim

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Haidar Al-Hakim, the Third Eye Doctor, Podcaster, Speaker, Opthalmologist and author of the book Physician on Fire.We chat about emotions and vulnerability, are they helpful or not, and why we sometimes find it so difficult to understand what we really need, and who we really are. We discuss the importance of finding someone who really gets you, who you can talk things over with and some strategies to get back to ourselves.&nbsp;*Caution, this episode contains some strong languagePodcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourceshttps://www.thethirdeyedoctor.co.ukPhysician on Fire bookSurgical Spirit Podcasthttps://www.thenarrativeinitiative.com/about-us&nbsp;Follow Haidar on twitter or LinkedInFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
10/29/201929 minutes, 33 seconds
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Why Saying Yes is Far More Dangerous Than Saying No with Dr Katie Bramall-Stainer

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Katie Bramall-Stainer, CEO of Cambridgeshire LMC, GPC and BMA Council member and one of Pulse’s Power 50 GPs.&nbsp;We chat about her journey as an activist in helping make GPs lives better and discuss how things can go wrong so quickly when we try to be too nice and too helpful.&nbsp;Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesFollow Katie on twitter and LinkedInCambridgeshire LMCFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
10/22/201937 minutes, 43 seconds
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Making Small Changes to Get Great Results with Dr Rosanna Hunt

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Rosanna Hunt a Psychologist who works with NHS Horizons.&nbsp;We chat about how their team absence rates were far too high, so they decided to try to improve the wellbeing of their team using 30-day sprints and quality improvement processes. They did one small action at a time and measured the effect. They reduced sickness rates from 15% to just 3%.The results were surprising, and we discuss the small changes you can make within your team to get the same results.&nbsp;Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesRosanna’s NHS Horizons blogThe Warwick-Edinburgh Mental Wellbeing Scales15 seconds 30 minutes QI intitiativeFollow Rosanna on twitter @rosielhuntFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
10/15/201934 minutes, 11 seconds
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Creative Career Management with Dr Adam Harrison

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Adam Harrison, Portfolio GP, Vice Chair Notts LMC and dual-qualified Medical Barrister&nbsp;We chat about his career journey, how he diversified and found a varied and fulfilling career. We talk about the importance of networking, as many of the jobs we have done weren’t advertised. We talk about how to find these jobs using tools such as LinkedIn and good old-fashioned email and phone calls.Finally, we discuss the power of coaching and how this can transform your career and outlook on life.&nbsp;Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesNotts LMC Portfolio Plus https://www.nottinghamshirelmc.co.uk/gp-workforce/resource/gp-portfolio-plus/&nbsp;LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/dradamharrison/Follow Adam on Twitter https://twitter.com/FutureLeadersh2&nbsp;
10/8/201933 minutes, 43 seconds
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How to Survive the Really Tough Stuff with Liz O'Riordan

In this episode, Rachel is joined by award-winning Dr Liz O’Riordan, the ‘Breast Surgeon with Breast Cancer’, TEDx speaker, author, blogger, triathlete and all-round superstar who has been nominated for ‘Woman of the Year’.&nbsp;We chat about what it’s like to receive a devastating diagnosis as a doctor and how hard it can be to be a patient. We talk about our own unrealistic expectations and knowing your own limits. We also chat about how our expectations of ourselves are very different if we have to take time off for other health-related reasons such as stress or depression.&nbsp;Liz shares how she coped when things got really tough and gives some great, practical advice.&nbsp;Since this podcast has been recorded, Liz has been awarded first prize at the BMA Medical book awards for her book co-authored with Trisha Greenhalgh ‘The Complete Guide to Breast Cancer’. Congratulations Liz!Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourceshttp://liz.oriordan.co.ukhttps://twitter.com/Liz_ORiordanThe Complete Guide to Breast Cancer: How to feel empowered and take controlFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
7/19/201942 minutes, 12 seconds
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Tiny Habits, Big Changes, with Dr Katherine Hickman

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Katherine Hickman, GP working in Bradford, Respiratory Lead and Tiny Habits® Coach. Katherine has been through her own episode of stress and burnout and we talk about how she got through and changed her life by using the ‘tiny habits’ technique.We explore about how these tiny habits can produce huge changes and talk through how you can start to use this technique to help make changes in everyday life, and even at work.Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourceshttps://twitter.com/kchickman BJ Fogg Tiny Habits® TED talkAbout KatherineThe Pomodoro techniqueThe forest apphttps://www.headspace.comKatherine’s coaching page5 day free online coachingFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
7/17/201936 minutes, 31 seconds
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Your Passions May Not Be What You Think They Are, with Dr Surina Chibber

In this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Surina Chibber, Portfolio GP, Red Whale GP Update Presenter and co-Founder of mylocummanager.com who was named as one of Pulse Magazine’s ‘Rising Stars’ last year. We talk about how the journey Surina has been on from locum GP to the founder of tech company, what she’s learned along the way, and the surprising truth that sometimes we find our passions as a result of following our interests, not following our passions. We chat about how to develop your skills in other areas and how GPs can make their lives easier and their jobs more fulfilling.Podcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourceshttps://mylocummanager.comhttps://www.gp-update.co.uk/coursesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
7/17/201931 minutes, 16 seconds
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When Doctors Get Ill, with Dr Nik Kendrew

For this episode, Rachel is joined by Dr Nik Kendrew GP Partner, Red Whale GP Update presenter and GP media guru.We chat about what happens when we get ill and discuss why is it that we are so slow to recognise when we shouldn’t be at work? Why do we find it so hard to take time off and why do we find it so hard to admit when we’re not really coping?Follow Nik at @nikkendrewPodcast linksSign up for downloadable CPD reflection forms plus more tools and resourcesThis is going to hurt: Adam KayRed Whale GP Update CoursesFor more episodes of You are not a frog, check out our website www.youarenotafrog.co.uk and sign up to our mailing list here for loads of useful resources and tools for thriving at work.&nbsp;Follow Rachel on twitter @DrRachelMorris or LinkedIn and find out more about her online and face to face courses for doctors on surviving and thriving at work at www.shapesfordoctors.com or for other organisations at www.wildmonday.co.uk
7/9/201943 minutes, 15 seconds