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U Up?

English, Social, 1 season, 562 episodes, 4 days, 11 hours, 24 minutes
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U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @uuppod on Instagram.
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The Curse Of The Cool Girl

This week, J&J are finding the balance in a few debates, from ideal thermostat temps to awkward callouts. The first email asks if there’s a limit to how much an ex is brought up during a date. Jared and Jordana don’t initially agree and weigh both sides of the conversation. Next, in a segment sponsored by Netflix, they get a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission that's out to motivate other listeners to make a move. The second advice email is looking for the line between going for what you want and seeing what the person you’re dating is willing to do. There could be truth to “If he wanted to, he would,” but doesn’t that go both ways? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about being overly communicative, being put in an awkward situation pre-date, and disagreeing about the best sex you’ve ever had. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/22/20241 hour, 10 minutes, 16 seconds
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Why Being Mad About A Wasted Relationship Isn’t Helping You

J&J are jumping right into this week’s Sunday Special, kicking off with an “Icky or Picky?” about a delayed Hinge response. Our listener’s match explained that he took so long to get back to her because he only likes to focus on one match at a time, but she can’t decide if it’s unfair of her to be put off or if that was indeed too much too soon. Then, they get an email from a listener struggling to forgive herself for giving her ex a second chance despite problematic circumstances. J&J discuss who she's really mad at and what needs to change so she can move on in peace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/19/202426 minutes, 36 seconds
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A Friends-To-Lovers Story Gone Wrong

We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late 30s looking for long-term love and frequently finding short-term romance. He’s been quick to cut things off once he realized he and his dates weren’t looking for the same thing, but is he missing out on great experiences by doing so? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about sleep farts, childhood homes, and splitting the check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/15/20241 hour, 4 minutes, 11 seconds
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My Husband's Ex Is Being Petty. Can I Be Pettier?

This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until his ex made a film about “the ups and downs of ‘young love’” based on their former relationship. She confronted her about the film and, when the ex claimed it was more about love in general, she asked for tickets. Her friends are egging her on to attend, but would that be petty? Next, we hear from a 35-year-old woman struggling with the men she’s meeting on the apps. She finds them all so…boring. She asks J&J a series of questions to adjust her approach (i.e. Should she lessen her expectations? Are these incompatibilities a deal breaker?), but they feel like she’s sidestepping an obvious factor in her problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/12/202448 minutes, 26 seconds
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Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?

Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/8/20241 hour, 7 minutes, 43 seconds
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Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey

This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/5/20241 hour, 13 minutes, 35 seconds
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Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?

Is it petty or prudent to use your life experiences with others in your life’s work? What if you’re one of the biggest pop stars in the world? Before dissecting listener emails, J&J dish first thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album, “The Tortured Poets Department.” The first email comes from a listener disputing her latest breakup after her ex questioned whether they truly had long-term compatibility. To her, you have to invest in a relationship first in order to build compatibility, so she leaves it up to J&J to chime in and decide. The Awkward Encounter gave us all the ick. Then, the next email is from a listener who can’t decide if she should follow her heart or the advice of her loved ones. She’s seeing a friend of a famous rapper who flies her out and makes her feel special, but her family disapproves and wants her to come down from cloud nine. Is there a chance for something real to blossom with a lifestyle like his? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about picky eaters, invasive date questions, and threatening to break up after an argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/1/20241 hour, 16 minutes, 51 seconds
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The Situationship Cycle ft. Dulcé Sloan

This Sunday Special is a full debrief as Dulcé Sloan (@dulcesloan) joins J&J in the studio, catching them up on the dating stories she’s telling publicly for the first time, why she doesn’t call romantic interests by their names, and what she’s learned looking back. She takes us back to the time she was seeing “The Mechanic,” breaks down what they had and why it went on for so long, and confronts Jared about what he's looking for. You may know her as a comedian and host of The Daily Show, but Dulcé is also Jared’s friend and ready to be yours too with her new book, “Hello, Friends! – Stories of Dating, Destiny, and Day Jobs”. For more of her dating stories and lessons learned in life, get your copy of Dulcé’s book here: https://amzn.to/44gUGxW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/28/202438 minutes, 12 seconds
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Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?

J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/24/20241 hour, 39 minutes, 6 seconds
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Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?

Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/21/202441 minutes, 2 seconds
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I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!

Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/17/20241 hour, 38 minutes, 9 seconds
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Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?

Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/14/202435 minutes, 28 seconds
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Are Some Women Doomed To Be Alone Forever?

Before we dive into another peak dating season, it’s time to ask yourself what you want and why you need it. In today’s episode, we hear from a few listeners going through frustration and anxiety, but first, you’ll never guess what Jordana has to do. Then, J&J hear from a 32-year-old listener who is convinced that at this point, she and other women are doomed in today’s dating society. Jared levels with her, but before we let her take everyone down too, our hosts discuss the importance of what you want your story to be. The Awkward Encounter is a confusing situation phoned into our hotline. Aligned with second-guessing from the previous two, our next emailer is dating someone, but she’s not sure she made the right call backing out of a date if it would mean meeting some of his family members. Does that mean they were taking the next step, or is she making a movie night more than he meant it to be? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a third-wheeling puppy, revealing a potential deal breaker before the date, and lifestyle changes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/10/20241 hour, 28 minutes, 36 seconds
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Can You Be Partners In Love And Business? ft. Nick and Elyse Oleksak

Can a couple be successful in a professional and personal relationship? We’re finding out with this Sunday Special’s guests Nick and Elyse Oleksak, known for bringing their business Bantam Bagels to Shark Tank and selling for millions. The episode starts with learning how our guests came to know Jared, then J&J delve into their success and how the inner workings of their business played a role in their relationship. How do they turn off work mode and incorporate date nights? Has business been beneficial to their marriage dynamics? And what the f*ck happens if they were to split? Nick and Elyse open up about the personal elements behind the personas that made a life-changing deal. For more about our guests, read “A Shark Ate My Bagel,” by Elyse Oleksak (@elyseoleksakofficial), available here: https://amzn.to/3QaN6PR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/7/202443 minutes, 1 second
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Is It Just Me Or Is The Dating Pool Polluted?

Spring is here, but while we’re waiting for the weather to catch up, we’re discussing early dating to get you back out there. An email from last week about accidental sexts reenters the chat when our first email asks about strange messages from men on dating apps. Are there really that many creeps out there, or is she doing something to attract them? The Awkward Encounter is more of a reassurance ask about where a situation left off. The next email comes from a man who met a woman IRL. He’s not attracted to her now, but she seems cool and he saw an old pic of her, so would it be wrong to date her with a secret mission of turning her into his physical type? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about first date convenience, refollowing an ex on IG, and body counts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/3/20241 hour, 34 minutes, 6 seconds
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Feng Shui, Dating Intentions, & Jared’s Sh*tty Energy ft. Jeannette Cieszykowski

Spring cleaning time is here, so we’re heading into April ready to clean out, refresh, and reinvigorate our mindsets with the help of one of our listeners! Jeannette Cieszykowski, Feng Shui consultant and owner of Elemental Clarity, reached out to Jared after hearing a Benefits episode about how his apartment was holding back his dating life. This Sunday Special, she joins J&J to talk about feng shui, the energies we hold in our homes, and how simple changes could help us succeed in our dating intentions. Learn more about Jeannette's work at elementalclarity.com or follow her on Instagram @elementalclarity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/31/202452 minutes, 50 seconds
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What Is The Right Way To Compliment A Man?

It’s the Wednesday before the big weekend – Jordana’s birthday getaway and Jared’s time to shine as his brother’s best man. Before diving into the episode, they tease what they’re anticipating ahead of their travel days, then spill into Jared’s TikTok encounter and the big debate going on with Oversharing. The first email comes from a divorced listener feeling insecure about blame her ex-husband placed on her when it came to words of affirmation. Now that she’s in a new relationship, she wants to do better, but how do men like to be complimented in the first place? The Awkward Encounter validates a recent “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a surprise strand of hair. Next, the “Are We Dating?” submission may be a case of overthinking a man’s removal of Bumble. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” featuring texts about a strange favor, women with successful careers, and recovering from sending a sext to the wrong person. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/27/20241 hour, 31 minutes, 13 seconds
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Erotic Energy, Rethinking Infidelity, And Psychotherapy ft. Esther Perel

Dreams are coming true today– Jordana’s #1 guest, mental health icon, and host of “Where Should We Begin?,” Esther Perel is making this a standout Sunday Special. We get started with the existence of situationships, spill into her findings about eroticism and sustaining relationships, plus the universe affected when an affair occurs. The episode ends with a listener's email about a devolving sexual connection with her boyfriend, leading to her finding something unsettling from his past relationship. Should she confront him with what she found? J&J ask how Esther would advise, and you may be surprised to hear her answer. Find Esther Perel on Instagram @estherperelofficial or listen to her podcast, Where Should We Begin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/24/20241 hour, 4 minutes, 1 second
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The Worst Kind Of Rematch on Hinge

Spring is in the air, and we’re ready to welcome all the fun that comes with more sun and warmer weather. Before diving into emails, J&J both have exciting plans to come, plus they receive another listener’s wedding invitation! Next, they hear from a male listener who just got stood up on a second date but met someone new while he was waiting. His original date ended up reaching out, so does he owe her another shot or would it be OK to call the girl he ended up meeting instead? The Awkward Encounter is why you never go back for seconds on Hinge if it didn’t work out the first time. Then, the “Are We Dating?” submission comes from a divorcee exploring the dating world. Her email stumps Jared because it’s a bit of a role reversal from what we usually hear, so J&J need your help landing a decision. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about seating choices, smelly genitals, and a potentially common risk when dating a teacher. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/20/20241 hour, 5 minutes, 42 seconds
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A Message To Cheaters

If you’ve cheated or been cheated on, this Sunday Special is for you. Before diving in, Jared has some pre-wedding thoughts as we get closer to his brother’s big day. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about removing social media posts with your ex. Is that an unspoken rule of breakups, or is it OK to let posts of your past stay up? Next, we hear from a listener who’s just cheated and come back to the wreckage his ex left at home after she found out. He asks Jared and Jordana how he can apologize and what next steps he should take from here, but they think he’s missing something if he truly wants to change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/17/202441 minutes, 36 seconds
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AITA For Thinking You’re Full Of Sh*t?

Nature is healing this week! Jordana is tan and refreshed from her trip to St. Kitts, JetBlue made amends, and Jared brought gifts for himself! Next, a new listener intrigued by an AITA about lying to have sex with someone wants J&J’s take on consent and morality. The Awkward Encounter leads to impromptu dramatic performances. Then, J&J answer a listener email in Better With Age segment sponsored by Lee. Our 29-year-old listener has been hit hard by her breakup and, despite her ex being the issue, can’t see herself finding love again. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about TikTok pranks, free drinks, and chin hairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/13/20241 hour, 28 minutes, 1 second
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SOS: I've Invested Too Much In A Dead-End Situationship To Walk Away

We’re getting to the bottom of an on-again, off-again relationship in this Sunday Special! One of our listeners, Natalie, knows she’s dating a man she’s been seeing since September, but he keeps backpedaling on the seriousness of commitment. They’re in their 40s, she knows what she wants, and he claims to care for her, so what is the hold-up? When she listens to our podcast, some of Jared’s answers resonate with the way she perceives this man to be, so she wants answers from Jared and a reality check from Jordana. Is he just not that into her, or does he just need some more time before he gets tired of playing games? J&J give her some perspective to see a future for herself on the other side of this relationship, and help Natalie draft a text to follow up on their most recent hangout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/10/202449 minutes, 32 seconds
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If It’s Giving Boyfriend, Just Say That

J&J have a lot to discuss this week! Jordana is finally about to get her vacation fill, but it’s going to take a JetBlue flight to get to her destination. Then, Jared retells the story that his followers (and Jordana) were convinced was a meetcute, and explains why it wasn’t a romcom setup in his mind. Plus, after meeting Rob at his Boston show, Jared gives an update on our SOS caller. Next, he and Jordana are asked about the rules around your parents’ involvement in your dating life. Should you wait for labels or a certain time to let them know you’re seeing someone new? The Awkward Encounter proves that some men never change. Then, we receive an “Are We Dating?” submission that ends with J&J drafting a text for our listener. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about dating types, app omissions, and a pet portrait. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/6/20241 hour, 23 minutes, 29 seconds
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Is Jared Just Like The Bachelor? ft. Joey Graziadei

This Sunday Special is a birthday gift to Jared! Joey Grazadei, the Bachelor and the internet’s newest boyfriend, is in the studio and ready to face Jordana’s questioning. We get asked endlessly about the two types of men, so we’re putting Jared and Joey to the test. Is a single man ready to get married pretty similar to a single man seeing how it goes, or are there questions to emphasize any polarizing differences? We’re pulling back the curtain and breaking down the perfect Bachelor image to see who the real Joey is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/3/202458 minutes, 25 seconds
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When To Walk Away From The Person You’re Dating

The Worst Month of the Year is wrapping up, but before it ends, we’ve got a lot of off-air moments to recap from the past week! Since last week’s recording, we surprised Jared with his apartment tour, hosted our first mixer, he had back-to-back sold out NYC shows, and now his birthday has finally arrived. Then, we hear from a listener who needs Jorge’s perspective on a guy she’s dating. Is she only uncertain because she’s used to dating Jareds? The Awkward Encounter is encouraging more listeners to join in on our dating challenge. Next, there’s an update to the “Are We Dating?” email from Valentine’s Day. The 95% girlfriend heard our advice, acted on it, and let us know what happened next. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker? about a black eye, Valentine’s Day card, and yet another story about peeing in weird places. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/28/20241 hour, 22 minutes, 23 seconds
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How To Break Up Like A Gentleman

Hopeful season is on the horizon, but for now, J&J are getting you through the bleakest part of winter with another Sunday Special! The episode kicks off with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a V-Day breakup. Is it automatically petty to break up with someone on Valentine’s Day, or was our listener within reason? Next, J&J hear from a listener whose biggest issue with her talking stage is the repeated breaking of her boundaries. Is her perspective skewed from being recently out of a long-term relationship, or is this guy being f*cked up? J&J read the texts and weigh in on why these red flags should be a deal breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/25/202429 minutes, 51 seconds
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Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?

It’s the Worst Day of the Year, which happens to be the day Jared Freid was born! The episode starts with reflecting on Jordana’s unhinged rant that gave today its special name and how he feels entering his personal new year. Then, Emma Willmann, host of Ask Men Anything, returns and shares revelations she's gained as a lesbian questioning men on everything. Next, they hear from a listener in need of guidance on an internal debate. After having sex with the guy she’s been dating, he casually mentions being queer, and she wonders why he would not be direct about such a big part of his identity. Is it internalized homophobia making her question a non-issue, or was there a better way to go about this conversation? Jared, Jordana, and Emma debate all sides of a relatable issue in today's modern dating world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/21/20241 hour, 11 minutes, 21 seconds
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I Hate My BF’s Therapist

Still in awe of Tracy Chapman’s reemergence at the GRAMMYs, J&J’s pre-show talk spills into the start of this Sunday Special. Next, they jump into “Petty or Prudent?” about blocking your ex after a breakup text. Do you owe them a chance to respond, or nothing at all once a breakup is done? Then, a listener explains why her boyfriend seeking therapy is a growing problem for her and their relationship. What’s appropriate to share with your partner from sessions, and when is it OK to push back on what you’re being told? It’s his therapist she has an issue with, but J&J have a bone to pick with him too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/18/202430 minutes, 10 seconds
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V-Day, TikTok Backlash, And Where The Single Men Are

Happy Valentine’s Day! Today’s episode has something for everyone – lovers, new listeners, singles, and anyone struggling in a situationship. J&J have a dating challenge to share, but first, Jared kicks off with a pep talk for anyone alone on Valentine’s Day. Then, Jordana speaks on TikTok coming for her over last week’s Pookie and Jett debate. Next, a listener is starting to get back into dating, but just isn’t feeling it. Does she just need more time to get the spark back, or is there a deeper issue at play? The Awkward Encounter is an all too common issue of being on a date that isn’t a date. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about your SO misspelling your name and thinking your friend is hot, and pranking a SO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/14/20241 hour, 38 minutes, 18 seconds
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Bland DMs: Why You Might Be The Problem

As Valentine’s Day gets closer, we’re anticipating make-or-break reveals hitting a high, but there’s a silver lining: J&J explain why this V-Day is perfectly placed for single people in 2024. Next, they dive into “Icky or Picky?” about a lackluster conversation starter in the DMs. Then, the episode ends with an email about how to get a could-be relationship out of a weird place after the holidays. Communication isn’t what it was in December and our listener isn’t sure she can get them back on the right track without using “masculine energy,” but does that really matter? J&J read the texts she shared and weigh in on where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/11/202444 minutes, 23 seconds
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Get Pookie TikTok Away From Us

J&J are back in the studio and Jared is in a mood. He reads the DM that’s been stewing in his mind before they look into TikTok’s new favorite couple. Jordana unleashes her thoughts on Pookie and Jett Puckett, but Jared’s opinion changes mid-conversation. Then, the first email is spiraling over a guy she likes still being active on the apps. If they’ve had two good dates, then what the f*ck is he doing on Bumble? The Awkward Encounter comes with excuses, but J&J are not having it. Next, they read an “Are We Dating?” submission that meets the definition of complicated. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a family death, fitness accessories, and nicknames. Credit: TikTok @campbellhuntpuckett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/7/20241 hour, 14 minutes, 44 seconds
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Icks Are Ruining Dating ft. Jay Shetty

Are too many icks and options stopping you from finding love? Jay Shetty, host of the On Purpose podcast, is back in the studio with hot takes on today's dating cruxes. J&J dive into the parts of Jay we have yet to know, from his favorite drinking game to his bad days. Plus, having sat down with everyone from Kobe Bryant to Kendall Jenner and Michelle Obama on his own show, he shares insights from some of his most famous guests. Jared, Jordana, and Jay find common threads connecting their lives, and end the episode with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a quiz our listener had to pass to be asked out on a date.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/4/202449 minutes, 13 seconds
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Failures Make You A Better Dater

We’ve finally made it to the end of January, but Jordana can’t get into this week’s dating topics until she addresses the change on Jared’s face. Plus, J&J give updates on what’s going on in their lives. Then, #DatingTok is bringing up doubts for our first emailer: is it the man’s job to confirm a date the day-of, and what does it say about her if she doesn’t hold dates to social media’s current standard? The Awkward Encounter is a piss-take memory from being stuck on the road with a new boyfriend. The second email is about falling for a guy back home when the circumstances can only make it complicated. J&J talk through whether liking someone is enough of a reason to go for it in spite of the odds. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about briefly leaving a date, not sharing food, and photo IDs. Photo Credit: Phil Provencio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/31/20241 hour, 25 minutes
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SOS: Does My Ex Want Me Back Or Is She Messing Around?

We’re overdue for an SOS episode so this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Rob, one of our listeners, to talk through his current situation with an ex. He takes us through their dating timeline, the breakup, and how, two years later, she started to come back into his life via social media. Now, they’re on friendly terms, but what is this all for? To build a friendship? Reignite their relationship? And, most importantly, why is he playing along? J&J push Rob to figure out what he wants, call out the grey areas in this situation, and tell him what he needs to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/28/202452 minutes, 9 seconds
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What’s Wrong With Settling?

It’s a debate day in the studio this week! Winter freeze is in full effect, and J&J are coming in hot with reality checks about settling and where you may stand with your situationship. The first emailer is wondering whether she should stop trying to date new guys and seriously consider settling for her high school ex. J&J play out the scenario of reaching out to an ex with the intention of rekindling. The Awkward Encounter shines a light on a weird moment that led to great sex. Then, J&J take the first submission for our new “Are We Dating?” segment. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about bad breath, a gross habit, and a lame first date move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/24/20241 hour, 18 minutes, 31 seconds
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The Hard Truth About Getting “The Ick”

January is slowly trudging on and J&J are already counting down to one month from now–the Worst Day Of The Year. As Jared’s next birthday creeps closer, he’s finally feeling age catch up with him. Then, a listener has a philosophical question made for the U Up? Podcast: what is “the ick” and where does it come from? The episode ends with an email about a Hinge match that went from interesting to way too intense in a matter of messages, and we have the DMs to prove it. J&J read the messages and have a request for the listener's match. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/21/202439 minutes
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How Much Does Your Past Impact Your Dating Future?

This week, J&J are coming in hot with a debate on the difference between “seeing” someone and “dating” someone. They put dating stages on a scale of 10 and, as the singleton of the studio, Jared calls it like he sees it. Next, the first emailer is preparing to meet someone from her boyfriend’s past and needs help on how to deal. But, should someone he slept with once before they met even matter? The Awkward Encounter involves a red flag revelation of a first date’s past. Then, another listener needs some clarity on dating etiquette. Is it customary to watch what you order when you aren’t the one paying, or is your date’s spending none of your concern? The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about kissing on the first date, men following thousands of women on Instagram, and texting patterns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/17/20241 hour, 41 minutes, 17 seconds
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Beware Of Breakup January

It’s un-cuffing season and we’re talking all about whether or not it’s time break up. J&J start with a preview of their upcoming travel plans — milestone birthdays and wedding speeches are already in the works — followed by a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a hot moment gone cold. Then, they hear from a 27-year-old listener who’s concerned that she and her boyfriend are less and less involved in each other’s lives after 7 years together. Is it a case of the seven-year itch, or should their differences be taken as signs that they should break up? Jared and Jordana put themselves in her shoes and raise some important points to coax her out of her own head. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/14/202434 minutes, 2 seconds
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Are You Dating An Aidan Or A Mr. Big?

J&J are back in the studio for their first recording of 2024, starting with a New Year’s Eve recap and their own thoughts on Jared’s post-date episode. They hear from a listener who is five years into a dead-end relationship and in need of a breakup plan. How do you spot a “sunk cost” in your own relationship? The Awkward Encounter is a leftover from the holidays, featuring a cringe-inducing moment with a guy and his mother. The next emailer is happy in her relationship, but is having trouble getting “what if’s” about another guy out of her mind. Is there a secret to getting over your own “Mr. Big” when you’re with someone new? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about foot preferences, STD tests, and impatience on a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/10/20241 hour, 20 minutes, 50 seconds
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How I Got Engaged After 6 Months Of Dating ft. Rosebud Baker

J&J are solving couple's conundrums in today’s Sunday Special. Comedian Rosebud Baker joins the pod and gives a breakdown of the reveal that led to being engaged within 6 months, having COVID while pregnant, and how she always knew her husband would make a good dad. Then, they play a new game called “Couple’s Court” to give ruling on a sleepover issue in a listener’s relationship. They both have the same side of the bed, so isn't it only fair that they trade off when they sleep at each other’s places? The episode ends with an advice email about struggling with the stability of a relationship when you’re used to toxicity. Is it too good to be true, or is our listener settling for what's right rather than what's right for her? Rosebud relates and weighs in with J&J about codependency, healing, and the red flags they see in the email. @rosebudbaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/7/202445 minutes, 18 seconds
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Did Jared Find Love On His Blind Date?

J&J are back with a very exciting episode to ring in the New Year. Jared breaks down how he was feeling before, during, and after his blind date with a U Up? listener and how it has made him reevaluate his post-date process. Then, his date Nora joins the show to give Jordana all the details from her POV. Later, Jared rejoins the convo to review The Seville as a first date spot and chat with Nora about how he could improve his first date skills. Jared and Jordana wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about table manners, lying about what you’re looking for on the apps, and birthday surprises. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/3/20241 hour, 30 minutes, 44 seconds
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Rizz, Sober Dates, And Dating In 2024

J&J are saying goodbye to 2023 with today’s Sunday Special and, from Oxford’s acknowledgment of “rizz” to Taylor Swift’s TIME honor, they’re starting off with big moments of this year. Next, they discuss dating predictions for the new year before diving in to the advice email. Our listener told her BF that she wants to be engaged by the time she turns 30, but now that the year has arrived, she’s not sure she’s ready after all. How does she talk to her SO about it without setting off alarms about second thoughts? J&J talk through the situation, the anxiety she’s experiencing, and how she should talk to her boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/31/202347 minutes, 7 seconds
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It’s The Week Of Nothingness

Twixmas time (the days between Christmas and New Year’s–it’s a thing) is here, and J&J are winding down 2023 with a regularly scheduled episode. The first email is about a compromise issue: our listener’s love language is quality time, but her husband spends several hours gaming. J&J, with input from our producer Jorge, debate whether this falls under a hobby or an addictive habit, and what it could be a red herring of. The Awkward Encounter is a gross memory with a sweet ending. Then, the second email is riddled with guilt after our listener snooped through her husband’s phone and found something she didn’t like. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about momma’s boys, weird outfits, and ordering for your date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/27/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 47 seconds
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Toxic Exes, Moms, And Ruining Christmas

‘Twas the episode before Christmas and in the spirit of holiday fun, Santa Claus and Mama Elf are stepping into the studio to do this one. They kick off with a talk about Christmas traditions and funny tales from the past, then it’s time to put some toxic exes on blast. There’s a round of “Petty or Prudent” about an ex’s gift for sale, but how does that compare to what he did to make her bail? The episode ends with a special segment called “Naughty or Nice” that serves as a lesson for overbearing moms to think twice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/24/202336 minutes, 38 seconds
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Who Won The Date With Jared?

 J&J are switching things up for this episode because Jared has a date with a listener and, in this episode, they figure out who that will be. They start with the top date contenders, as decided by the Betches office, and narrow down the prospects. Then, they get back to solving dating with an email about trying to date in the same small town as an ex. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about using a Tide Pen on a date, the mention of “the one that got away,” and an unsolicited sexual audio message. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/20/20231 hour, 27 minutes, 34 seconds
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Rejections Are Good For You

It’s time for another Sunday Special and the senioritis of 2023 is hitting. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup over religious differences. Then, J&J respond to an email about overcoming the sensitivity around rejection. Plus, they get the rundown on why TikTok is talking about Zach Braff being a terrible date and give their takes on the story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/17/202335 minutes, 23 seconds
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The Problem With Playing It Cool

J&J are ready to dive into another episode, but first, they have a very New Yorker debate and give a preview of the “Win A Date With Jared” submissions. Next, the first emailer has a conundrum. Guys see her as a “cool girl,” which is great, but she’s not too cool for a relationship. How can she overcome that placement in their minds? The Awkward Encounter is what happens when one person tries to force romance. Then, the second emailer is reeling from a breakup while battling a diagnosis. Was her ex wrong for breaking up with her while she’s sick? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about saying “ILY” early on, OnlyFans models, and appearance modifications for men. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/13/20231 hour, 39 minutes, 48 seconds
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Should I Be Cleaning My Boyfriend’s Apartment?

This Sunday Special is all about settling debates between couples, but first, there are some clarifications to set about the eligibility to win a date with Jared. Jumping into the episode, J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about baths. Then, a listener writes in about a tiff with her boyfriend. She hangs out at his place more than he comes to hers. He raised the issue that she isn’t contributing to the upkeep of the apartment, but does she have to if she doesn’t live there? Jared and Jordana talk through their dilemma, from how the argument was handled to getting down to the true issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/10/202346 minutes, 26 seconds
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You Want To Be The Prize, Not The Pick Me

Before J&J can solve dating, Jared explains how he ended up in a Turkey Trot and on “Celebrity Row” in MSG. Then, the first emailer has her eye on a cute guy she’s sharing a ski house with, but the friend group already has plans to set him up with someone else. Should she still make a move or back off? The Awkward Encounter is a take home tale about a bad date. The second emailer doesn’t care to be engaged right now, but she really wants the ring. J&J extract the big issue behind the ring request, and it all has to do with The Reveal. The episode ends with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/6/20231 hour, 28 minutes, 31 seconds
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Crystals, Spells, And WTF Is Up With Jared ft. Kelley Knight

It’s our first Sunday Special of December, and Jordana gifted Jared a tarot reading to kick it off. Kelley Knight, owner of Modern Mystic Shop and recommended tarot reader of the Girls Gotta Eat hosts, joins J&J to read what’s happening with Jared. Guided by questions from Jordana, Kelley pulls cards that predict Jared’s love life. Plus, Kelley pulls an interesting set of cards regarding someone from Jared’s past. @kelley__knight, @modernmystic_shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/3/20231 hour, 2 minutes, 50 seconds
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Your Words Are Like Spells: Cheating, Standards, and Situationships

Now that we’re heading into December, J&J are ushering in F*ck It Season with this week’s episode. The first emailer likes the guy she’s seeing, but after posting him in a Facebook group, she’s a little freaked out. How much weight should she give to strangers in the “Are We Dating The Same Guy” space? The Awkward Encounter is a reminder to up your standards ahead of a first date. Then, the second emailer is stuck in an addictive situationship. J&J give her advice on breaking the cycle before ending the episode with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/29/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 42 seconds
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The Love Of Your Life Is A Teammate, Not A Goalpost Ft. Vir Das

We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. He walks J&J through his background from India to Nigeria to the US, and how he ended up in comedy. Then, Vir shares the relationship obstacles he overcame, why meeting his wife pre-fame was a key to their bond, and his thoughts on arranged marriages. @virdas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/26/202340 minutes, 45 seconds
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‘Tis The Season For Hometown Hookups

It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are ready for the holidays to hit full swing. They kick off with a flashback to high school days. The first emailer asks if he’s a f*ckboy, causing Jared to do some self-reflection. Then, the Awkward Encounter goes from a funny story to an off-the-rails comment that leaves Jordana choked up. Next, an emailer needs to know if she’s got a real shot with her best friend ahead of their return home for Thanksgiving. The episode ends with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/22/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 53 seconds
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SOS: Insecurities Are Cockblocking My Dating Life

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the pod to talk out their issue. This Sunday, Rianna joins J&J to explain how hard dating has been since she returned to the apps for the first time since college. Is it because she’s gained weight? Is it her new city? J&J help her identify non-issues, address a bigger problem they’re foreseeing, and give a homework assignment to get over her dating slump. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/19/202330 minutes, 48 seconds
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Thanksgiving Prep: Is It Too Early To Invite My SO?

It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer wonders if she and her BF are really on the same page about their future, or if his jokes are meant for more than a laugh. Next, J&J take on a mini-lightning round about how to prepare for your first Thanksgiving with your SO or handle the tough questions from your family post-breakup. Then, the second emailer doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with her BF’s family, but he feels a type of way about that. Jared and Jordana debate who is in the right before the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about body odor, eating etiquette, and bad breath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/15/20231 hour, 26 minutes, 53 seconds
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6 Years, 500 Episodes, And More Dating To Solve

It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the studio celebrating the latest milestone and reflecting on the last 6 years of solving dating on this podcast. They reflect on how they got here, the best and worst guests, and their most personal episodes. Plus, they play back “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” segments from years past and guess where they stood. The episode ends with J&J sharing what they want for the pod's future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/12/202357 minutes, 14 seconds
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When The Honeymoon Phase Ends, What’s The Next Step?

J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonders what experiences are needed to get her to an engagement. Jordana shares how she and her husband made it past that point, and what hesitations she sensed from the email. The Awkward Encounter is more unhinged than hazardous. Then, another listener is unsure if she should compromise plans with her besties for an important night to her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about bringing up an ex at awkward moments, a SO’s closeness with their ex, and lacking a taste for adventure. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/8/20231 hour, 33 minutes, 21 seconds
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Jared VS Jorge: Is Jared Really 10% Away From All Men?

It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to find out if men think differently when they’re in a committed relationship versus holding single status. Jared and Jorge face off for a series of questions as Jordana puts them to the test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/5/202355 minutes, 10 seconds
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Is Caspering The New Ghosting? (Debating This Year’s Spookiest New Dating Terms)

It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop quiz on spooky season dating terms. Then, a listener asks how he can get his long-distance girlfriend to communicate more. J&J discuss what this could mean for his relationship. The Awkward Encounter involves coworkers too close for comfort and reminds Jared of an awkward encounter of his own. Next, a newly single listener wonders how and when she should address her baggage. Her last relationship ended with infidelity and a divorce, but does every date need to know? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about food gifts, calling someone “hot,” and using group pics on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/1/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 34 seconds
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How Honest Should You Be During A Breakup? Ft. Sam Morril

It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, J&J are joined by comedian Sam Morril. He talks unhinged exes and shares a recent text exchange with someone from his past. Then, the trio play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about appetizers on a dinner date. The episode ends with an email asking for validation on a breakup. A listener thought she did her due diligence in breaking up with her ex, but after time had passed and she ran into him, he accused her of not being honest enough because she found a new relationship soon after. Should she have mentioned her crush, or does it not matter if the relationship was on its last leg? Jared, Jordana, and Sam discuss. @sammorril Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/29/202356 minutes, 33 seconds
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Dating Is So Much Easier Now That I’m Married

Something major happened and J&J are kicking off this week by announcing the news! After Jordana spills what’s new, a listener writes in asking about how much having a “type” hurts her chances of finding a true match. Then, J&J switch things up from an ordinary episode and make an awkward request. The episode ends with a visit from Jaz Zepatos, a member of the Betches team. She talks to Jared and Jordana about her open relationship, from how it came to be to how she continues to maintain a strong marriage. @jaz_zapp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/25/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 21 seconds
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Dating When You Don’t Want Kids ft. Girls Gotta Eat

Today’s Sunday Special fits double the podcasts into a bite-sized episode as Jared and Jordana reunite with Girls Gotta Eat podcast hosts, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine. With one host single and the other in a relationship, they discuss their experiences dating in NYC and LA, and the DM slide that led to Ashley’s relationship. Then, J&J ask how not wanting kids has affected dating including when and how this decision is addressed and the stigmas surrounding women that don’t want kids. @girlsgottaeatpodcast, @rayna.greenberg, @ashhess Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/22/202345 minutes, 35 seconds
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The Problem With Dating Dog People

In this week’s episode, J&J settle a few doggy debates among our listeners. Is it worth telling a SO that you hate their dog? Would sharing joint custody with an ex hurt your dating life? Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter turns out to be pretty wholesome. Jared and Jordana also hear from a listener dealing with ghosting regret, but they think she’s ignoring part of the picture. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about asking your ex for a post-mortem favor, stealing groceries, and social media stalking ahead of a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/18/202359 minutes, 6 seconds
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It’s Not Your ADHD, You’ve Got Dating App Fatigue

J&J are back for a Sunday Special and, while the weather is shifting, some things never change. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about what happens to sex toys after a breakup. Then, we hear from a listener about a classic issue: dating app fatigue. She’s stuck in an up-and-down cycle of being on and off the apps and, while she’s self-aware that this might be affecting her dating success, she feels like this is an individual problem. Jared and Jordana share a reality check, hard truths, and assurances about this listener’s situation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/15/202327 minutes, 11 seconds
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Bumble’s New Update: Isn't This Just “Love Is Blind”?

A lot has changed since J&J were in the studio a week ago: Jared and Jordana had a first in their friendship, someone wasn’t happy about Jared’s Benefits episode, and Bumble added a new approach to dating on the apps. The first email is about backing out of a talking stage after Jared’s voice gets in her head. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes in hot. Then, the second emailer questions how she can get her boyfriend to spend quality time with her outside of dates. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a date night don’t, recycling sexts, and lying about your age. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/11/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 30 seconds
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37, Single & Gay ft. Emma Willmann

This week, J&J are joined by comedian, Emma Willmann! They start with talking about the stereotypes between straight and gay relationships, how she and Jared became friends, and what her new podcast, Ask Men Anything, is all about. Then, a listener wonders whether it’s why people keep asking, “How are you still single?” As a 30-something, gay man, is this meant to be a compliment or a red herring? Jared, Jordana, and Emma discuss. @emmawillmann Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/8/202346 minutes, 7 seconds
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Why Does My BF Keep Backing Out Of Plans?

J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared feels garbage about a post-show interaction with fans in Atlanta and Jordana recalls humbling experiences from the early days of Betches and U Up? Live. The first email is a commitment conundrum that one listener is having with her boyfriend. Why does he keep agreeing to plans only to back out last minute? The Awkward Sexual Encounter blows in more ways than one. Then, the second email questions how logical it would be to continue pursuing a relationship with a man 7 years older and much further ahead in life. J&J end with a round of “Red Flag, Green Flag, or Gold Flag?” about living situations, date preferences, and celebrations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/4/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 12 seconds
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My Interracial Relationship Isn’t An Insult ft. Nimesh Patel

It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Nimesh Patel stops by the pod. J&J engage Nimesh in a “Petty or Prudent?” debate about answering your SO’s ex on their behalf. Then, Nimesh shares his experience with interracial relationships before they dive into a lightning round about interracial dating questions sent in from Instagram. @findingnimesh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/1/202346 minutes, 51 seconds
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Introducing: Ask Men Anything with Emma Willmann (Ft. Jared Freid)

There’s one question that has stumped our universe for centuries: Why do men? Emma Willmann is on a quest to find out the answer in this podcast from Betches Media. Each week, Emma is inviting some of the funniest and most interesting men she knows into the studio and pulling from the Ask Men Anything inbox to ask your biggest, weirdest, and most pressing questions of earth’s most mysterious beings. Check out a preview from Jared's episode here, and then go over to the Ask Men Anything feed to hear the rest of their conversation. Tune in every Tuesday and subscribe now so you don't miss an episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/28/202327 minutes, 54 seconds
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Can You Be Old-Fashioned In A Modern Dating World? Ft. The Golden Bachelor

J&J have the honor of sitting down with Gerry Turner, the Golden Bachelor, himself! But first, Jordana is catching us up on married life in the ‘burbs and Jared is excited to see Huntington firsthand. The first email asks whether wanting to be “virtually courted” is holding her back on the apps. Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of firsts. The second email is from a listener who just heard from her cheating ex after almost a decade. Is she right to feel upset? J&J wrap up with an interview with ABC’s first Golden Bachelor where he shares his red flags and dating rules, then plays a round of “Red Flag, Green Flag, Gold Flag”. @goldengerryturner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/27/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 32 seconds
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And Just Like That, We’re In A New Season Of Love

Seasons are changing, and so are dating norms! This Sunday Special, J&J kick off with excitement about what’s to come–cool weather, new reality dating shows, and Halloween. What Jared feels for football is what Jordana feels for Bravo shows, but with the latest Summer House drama, she’s noticing a new pattern amongst love stories playing out on reality TV. Then, they discuss an email about catching feelings ahead of a 3-week international trip. How soon is too soon to suggest a European getaway? J&J discuss how to decipher heightened senses from true feelings, and if our listener should go with her gut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/24/202339 minutes, 40 seconds
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You Can’t Find A Date Because You’re Missing The Point

Fall is officially days away, and J&J are predicting a shady season ahead. They take a trip to Plug City before reminding single listeners what the goal for meeting IRL should be. The first email retells a bad date, wondering when and how she could’ve left early. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of sweat. Then, a listener needs tips on how to tell her husband he’s a bad kisser after 7 years of marriage. Is it too late for her, or can she teach him how to improve? The episode ends with a new game of “Red Flag, Green Flag, or Gold Flag,” in anticipation of the Golden Bachelor on ABC. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/20/20231 hour, 1 minute, 33 seconds
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Surviving Your Family Trip As “The Single One”

J&J are ready for another Sunday Special, and we’re starting off with a “Petty or Prudent?” about an invoice being sent after the breakup. A listener scratched her ex’s car while they were together, and offered to pay for it then, but her ex didn’t ask for the cash until they were over. Who is in the wrong? Then, an email comes in asking how to handle a big family trip after a breakup. J&J give tips on how to get around grandma’s persistent questions and the stress of being single again when your family thought you would be next to be engaged. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/17/202329 minutes, 33 seconds
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How To Tell If It’s A One-Sided Setup

J&J are back in the studio and it’s Jordana’s birthday eve! Before they jump right in, Jared shares a recent text exchange between him and a woman he dated years ago so Jordana can give her impartial opinion. Next, they read an email questioning why a neighbor gave his info and expressed interest if he never intended for anything to happen. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets messy. Then, the second emailer is trying to get out of the “family zone” with her best friend’s brother. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram Stories, wedding dates, and stealing date ideas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/13/20231 hour, 20 minutes, 29 seconds
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Nothing Good Comes From Keeping Your Ex Around

This Sunday Special has Jared heated! The episode starts with a “Petty or Prudent?” submission about an ex’s mom asking for her gift back. Then, a listener reaches out about a difficult choice: should she marry her boyfriend who could give her the life she wants, or should she give life a second go with her ex-husband? Jared and Jordana talk through the messy situation, including a message directly to one of the people involved–and it’s not the listener. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/10/202333 minutes, 13 seconds
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My Boyfriend Doesn’t Want Kids, But He’s A Father

Before solving dating again, J&J are catching up after a short break. Jordana gives the rundown of her week in Italia, and Jared talks about the big star he got to meet after his Netflix debut. The first emailer is debating whether they should use dating business cards to market themselves to potential singles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets too hot to handle. Then, the second emailer wonders what say she has in her boyfriend’s lack of involvement in his toddler’s life. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about height, holding hands on a first date, and STI test results. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/6/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 45 seconds
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Sometimes, You’ve Got To Take The “L”

We’re ushering in September with a Sunday Special, and J&J are dubbing fall as the better season to be in the dating game. We know all too well that communication is a core element in dating successfully, and this episode focus on getting lost in translation. They play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a misplaced passport. Then, a listener questions if she’s been doing dating all wrong after she called out a fizzled dating prospect, and he fired back. If it seems like they both ghosted, who's at fault? Jared and Jordana read the texts and take sides. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/3/202331 minutes, 55 seconds
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Lightning Round: How Do I Know If They’re “The One”

Jared and Jordana are celebrating summer’s end with a Lightning Round episode, but first, Jordana has a surprise for Jared. Still reeling from his special’s Netflix debut, Jared shares his appreciation for the outpouring of support he’s received from all of you. Then, J&J get back to saving dating with a range of topics from sex talks and whether you should be dating at all to long-distance relationships and how to keep cultural differences from impacting your parents’ first impression. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/30/20231 hour, 20 minutes, 9 seconds
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Does Cheating Once Make You A Cheater For Life?

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week, they’re starting with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that pissed Jared off the more he thought about it. Next, an emailer asks if she should be worried about the past indiscretions of a guy she’s seeing. Can a cheater be reformed or is she at risk of the same fate? J&J discuss her worries, red flags, and how to address the elephant in the room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/27/202329 minutes, 26 seconds
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Who’s Responsible For Texting After The Date?

J&J are back in the studio and, this week, they’re both on a high! Jordana is fresh off her biggest move to date and Jared is mere hours into his Netflix debut. The first emailer is questioning whether his ghosting habit got him banned from Hinge. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a case of mistaken identity. Then, our second emailer wants to start a family in the next few years, but her boyfriend is a few years younger and unsure of where he's at. Should a mismatch of timelines be an immediate deal breaker, or is there time to figure things out? The episode ends with a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about overzealous pickup lines, canceling a date due to a cold, and helping with a move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/23/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 23 seconds
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My Exes Don’t Exist To Me Ft. Sasheer Zamata

Comedian and actress Sasheer Zamata joins J&J for this Sunday Special. She and Jared both released comedy specials this month, so they trade insights from the comic’s perspective. Then, Sasheer shares elements of her comedy background. Next, they play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about exes’ pics on dating apps, keeping gifts, and returning cards. Guest: Sasheer Zamata, @thesheertruth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/20/202340 minutes, 1 second
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The Unspoken Rules Of Arguing With Your SO

This week, we’re talking big life moments professionally and personally! Jordana is officially a homeowner and moving into her new house. Meanwhile, Jared is showing up on Netflix streams worldwide. Then, our first email asks about etiquette in couples’ quarrels. Is it a red flag to curse at your SO in the heat of the moment? The Awkward Sexual Encounter will have you wary of nosy neighbors. Next, our second emailer needs clarity on whether she’s really met her match or if the little things are worth a deal breaker. The episode ends with a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about song lyrics, wingmen, and love letters.  Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo 24/7 line for Emotional Abuse: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a volunteer Crisis Counselor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/16/20231 hour, 17 minutes, 44 seconds
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Should I End My Situationship Before It Gets Serious?

This Sunday Special marks the start of a big week for the OKPs! We’re only a couple days away from Jared’s special release on Netflix. Plus, our new game has J&J reflecting what kind of person they become post-breakup. They jump into a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about giving your ex a joke gift. Then, a listener worries that her current situation is setting herself up for heartbreak. Should she call it quits while they're still having fun, or is it possible to avoid catching feelings? J&J discuss her predicament and how they would handle it. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/13/202333 minutes, 21 seconds
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Does A Small Age Gap Still Make Me A Cougar?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are clearing the air about age gaps. Is it only weird if the woman is older? After hearing from an “old soul” and another listener worried she’s a cougar-in-training, they share their take on the dating trope. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter leads J&J into a debate about intimacy. Then, one listener asks about a setup technique going around her inner circle. The episode ends in a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about approaching someone at a library, routine pickup lines, and doggy dates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/9/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 58 seconds
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How Petty Are Exes Allowed To Be?

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and Jared and Jordana are jumping right into our first round of “Petty or Prudent?” with a submission about selling your ex’s stuff. If your ex never came back for their belongings, at what point would it be OK to get rid of their stuff? Next, an American listener writes in about her current situation with an Australian SO. Where he’s from, they don’t DTR, but isn't the “talk” necessary to establish whether they're on the same page? J&J discuss what they would do if they were in her shoe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/6/202328 minutes, 18 seconds
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Can A Relationship Ever Survive A “Break”?

J&J are settling into a change of pace, whether it’s walking in the suburbs versus a city, or having to let go of their expectations for this summer. Jordana is moving again, but it’s not the big move, so she has another one coming. Meanwhile, Jared is easing into the last couple weeks before he enters the Netflix realm. Then, one listener had a deal breaker when her potential SO didn’t have her back. Was it too much to ask before they were in a relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter ends with a messy finish. Next, a listener asks for help as her relationship is spiraling. J&J wrap up with a round of Thirsty or Nah about texts after a first date, the cute guy at your local yoga studio, and a barista making a move. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/2/20231 hour, 25 minutes, 26 seconds
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Is It Fair To Ask Your Partner To Subsidize Your Dreams?

We’re getting serious about the future in today’s Sunday Special, but first, Jordana’s brother came up with a new game for the pod, “Petty or Prudent?” Then, a listener writes about the financial fear threatening a happy future with his girlfriend. He chose a career path that would afford a comfy life for his future family, while she chose to pursue her passion even though it doesn’t pay well. Will a future together come at his expense? Is it even OK to question this? J&J talk through both sides. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/30/202337 minutes, 44 seconds
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How Do I Get Over A Breakup If Nobody Was The Villain?

J&J have a lot going on, but they’ll always make time to solve dating! Jared is beaming as we get closer to his upcoming Netflix special, and Jordana is caught in the throes of buying a home. Next, a listener needs help getting over a breakup from a loving relationship that just wouldn’t work. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes as a shock. Another listener questions whether she’s being too sensitive about her boyfriend’s playful comments. Then, they finish with a round of Thirsty or Nah, presented by Stanley, all about selfie likes, dancing at the club, and buying drinks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/26/20231 hour, 31 minutes, 26 seconds
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Can You Really Be Friends With An Ex? Ft. Robyn Schall

J&J are joined by Robyn Schall, comedian and host of the “Call Waiting” podcast, to talk about what it’s like to get feedback from your exes. She and Jared go way back to their early days of comedy, and Jordana admits to finding Robyn to be an enigma of positivity. Everyone has a raving review to share about her–even Robyn’s exes! They find out why she decided to call 4 exes on her podcast. Then, they listen in on Robyn’s call to an ex she had no contact with for 7 years. He’s credited with causing her biggest heartbreak.. but is it possible that the breakup acted as a catalyst to her career? Plus, J&J consider what it would be like to get a call from their own exes. Can you imagine? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/23/202336 minutes, 35 seconds
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How Bad Were Jonah Hill's Texts Really?

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, but first, Jared has big news! Then, J&J give their takes on the trending buzz around Keke Palmer and Jonah Hill’s respective relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rescue and a tip for a simpler way to dabble with BDSM at home. Next, we hear from a listener who just had another male coworker confess his feelings for her. Is it possible for straight, single men to befriend women without wanting more? The episode ends with a round of Thirsty or Nah, a new game in partnership with Stanley, about Close Friends stories, tricking someone into texting you, and buying Taylor Swift tickets for a first date. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo10:28 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/19/20231 hour, 18 minutes, 9 seconds
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Some Dishonesties Are More Dangerous Than Others Ft. Dr. Drew

In this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Drew, one of reality TV’s favorite experts and dating pioneers. They interview Dr. Drew about his expertise in both relationships and addiction, including how addictive tendencies can manifest in love and sex lives. Why are women more prone to love addiction, and what drives a sex addiction? Plus, Dr. Drew shares his theory on why more young men are dropping interest in dating. The episode ends with Jared, Jordana, and Dr. Drew lending advice to a listener that just found out her boyfriend kept his nicotine addiction a secret for the past year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/16/202358 minutes, 50 seconds
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I’m Single And Happy, But Should I Try Dating Anyways?

This week, J&J are talking about how to be happy while single, an awkward first time hookup and how to get back into the dating world when you’ve never really had to be in it. Before diving into emails, Jared gets excited about summertime in NYC before the second half goes by, and Jordana recaps a Fourth of July weekend with the OG Betches. Then, we hear from a new listener that’s started questioning and comparing her single life. If everyone’s wondering why she’s still single, should she be doing something about it if she doesn’t have an issue? Brace yourself for the kind of Awkward Sexual Encounter we all feared would be our first. Last, we hear from the friend of a newly divorced man whose phone call preference is hurting his dating game. Is he doomed in the digital dating generation? J&J finish up with a round of Flip or Flop about a date follow-up, making plans and nicknames. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/12/20231 hour, 7 minutes, 41 seconds
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Enough With The Beige Flags

We’re back for a Sunday Special, and J&J can’t believe it’s already July. Jared is waiting for the weather to be good enough to fit his summer vibe, and Jordana has a light month ahead. After talking about being late on the trends, they hop onto the topic of beige flags. Are they a TikTok trend, here to stay or just not necessary? Then, a listener early on in a relationship is concerned that his girlfriend’s constant asks for assurance and compliments are pushing him to be someone he’s not while also disregarding what he wants from their relationship. Are her insecurities his responsibility? Jared and Jordana weigh both sides of his issue and offer advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/9/202326 minutes, 52 seconds
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Your Issue Isn’t Your Baggage, It’s How You Address It

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after wrapping the U Up? Live tour, and Jordana’s feeling sick. But, marriage is in sickness and in health, so her tale of a trip to the ER with Mike at her side highlights how different we become when one SO is sick and the other is playing caretaker. Then, after a former match's words got back to him, Jared disputes the real reason he unmatched. The first email comes from a listener who noticed past emailers might consider him a major red flag. He’s 37 and his longest relationship was only 2 months. Should he lie about his dating history for a better chance at finding the one? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a very cheesy Netflix and Chill tale. The second email is about a road rage incident that brought safety, security and serious anger issues into question. The episode ends with a round of Flip or Flop about texting, testing your date, and being too attached to your SO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/5/20231 hour, 8 minutes, 32 seconds
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You’re Putting Too Much Pressure On The Penis

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and J&J are joined by sex expert, podcast host and author, Dr. Emily Morse to discuss her new book, “Smart Sex.” While learning more about her new book, Dr. Morse shares the nuances and negotiations of sex, along with how you and your partner can get what you want. Next, Jared and Jordana ask questions sent in by you about mismatched libidos, performance issues and navigating intimate conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/2/202352 minutes, 2 seconds
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What’s An Appropriate Age Gap?

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week’s conversations have everything to do with age, sex and a special message for Nick Viall. Jordana asks Jared what’s his age limit for dating and hookups. Next, our first emailer wants to know if she’s in the wrong for turning down dates once she’s not sexually interested. Could she create a romantic connection and focus on sex later? The Awkward Sexual Encounter inspired a new career for Jared. Then, a new divorcé writes in wondering whether he should reach out to former flings now that he’s ready to seriously date again. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the line between creepy and cute, bad pickup lines and love bombing. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/28/20231 hour, 20 minutes, 30 seconds
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Husband Or F*ck Off: What Happened Next?

J&J kick this Sunday episode off with an update from a fan favorite SOS episode, so you’ll want to listen to “Husband or F*ck Off” from February 19th to get caught up! Our listener lets us know what happened with her dream job and her SO since we last spoke, and it was more than we could have imagined. Next, we get a deal reveal from a listener in Sweden. She hears from a past hookup annually, but he doesn’t make any moves. Does he want to sleep together again, or is this just a running joke with no satisfaction? Jared and Jordana analyze the text exchange and guide our listener on what to do next. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/25/202342 minutes, 18 seconds
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How Long Should I Wait For Him To Propose?

J&J are back in the studio and with summer wedding season in full swing, they’ve got some tips for all the single wedding-goers out there. Jared ended up at the “discards table” last weekend, and he tells us why he wears his discard-badge proudly. Next, we hear from a listener whose long-term boyfriend agreed to get engaged by the end of the year… but not knowing when her ring will come is driving her crazy. How long should you wait for him to finally propose? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for anyone planning to gather around a bonfire this summer. We hear from a listener whose sleep habits are being affected by his girlfriend’s late-night snacking needs. Finally, they close things out with a new game called Flip Or Flop, presented by motorola. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor motorola! Reimagine the possibilities of what a flip phone can do and check out the new motorola razr+ now at motorola.com/us Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/21/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 36 seconds
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You’re Wearing The Wrong First Date Outfit Ft. Liza Lieberman

This week, J&J are joined by Betches’ favorite stylist (and Jordana’s BFF) Liza Lieberman for the Sunday Special. Before getting into your questions submitted via Instagram, they debate the influences of fashion on dating, and Liza shares lessons learned from her first date outfits worn at the start of her serious relationships. Next, they take on your questions ranging from first date outfits to hatfishing, whether Matchmaker Maria’s “Green Theory” really works and how comfortable you should be getting once you’re already in a relationship. They end the episode with a date outfit makeover of first date outfits worn by Liza, Jordana, Jared and submitted by you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/18/20231 hour, 13 minutes, 3 seconds
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Announcement: Subscription Update!

The U Up?: With Benefits subscription is getting a glow up! Go to subscribe.betches.com and sign up for the annual subscription before the end of July to lock in the promotional rate. (If you're already subscribed on Spotify, our old platform is getting phased out, so act fast and don't miss an episode!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/17/20232 minutes, 32 seconds
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What’s A Socially Acceptable Way To Ghost?

This week, J&J are decompressing after spending the past weekend at different weddings. They dish out their views on the perfect reception, Jordana confesses an embarrassing moment she had, and Jared feels the pressures of being a great brother and best man for his brother’s upcoming “I Do's.” Next, a listener writes in wondering how to save her relationship. It’s important to her boyfriend to have a partner that can keep up with his social justice interests, but if her heart isn’t in it, will their demise be her fault? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken wedding hookup. Then, another listener emails wants to know how to kindly reject matches on the apps. The episode ends with J&J playing a new game called “Express Your First Date Thoughts.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/14/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 1 second
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Rejection Isn’t Always As Deep As It Feels

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week starts with an update from our 5/14 episode! A lawyer crushing on her colleague, but unsure if their differing sexualities, longtime friendship or distance between them would be issues, took their advice and reports back. Next, a listener reaches out with a deal reveal that’s still bothering her a month later. If everything seemed fine and they both want to be in a relationship, does that mean she was the problem? J&J discuss the confusion, pain and lessons hidden in the fine print of rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/11/202329 minutes, 3 seconds
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What Are The New “Love Languages?”

In this week’s episode, J&J are reflecting on how their realities fits into the lives of their loved ones. Jordana realizes her nieces and nephews will eventually learn she’s not “Auntie JoJo” to the public and, during a reunion with his high school lacrosse team, Jared noticed he was the only single, childless alum in attendance. Next, they catch up on new love languages and discuss a Bumble match using pop culture to vet her dates. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a memory between college sweethearts. The second email asks for advice on living with your SO. Lastly, the episode ends with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about misleading job titles on the apps, celebrity crushes, burping and J&J share their own faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/7/20231 hour, 26 minutes, 46 seconds
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What’s The “10-Monther” Timeline?

It’s time for another Sunday Special and this week starts with Jared sharing more about his Euro trip… from hotel preferences to a w/Benefits tease about his dry spell. Next, a listener shares her concern over whether Jared’s so-called “10-monther timeline” is becoming her reality, or if she and her boyfriend are in it for the long haul. She has professed her love — and he hasn’t — but she’s still convinced that she sees it in his actions. So, how does she tell if he’ll come around or if the end is near? J&J break down the telltale signs of when all isn’t as it seems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/4/202332 minutes, 37 seconds
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Scandoval And The Audacity Of Men

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after weeks of travel and touring to talk about the word on everyone’s minds and TVs: Scandoval. Jordana gives Jared the highlights of the Vanderpump Rules finale and reunion, and they debate the toll of being cheated on in such a grand scale. Then, they jump into an email about a guy having a great time seeing a fellow grad student, but he’s about to move across the country for 5 months. Is it fair to bring titles into play, or should they put a pause on the relationship potential between them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter pulls the plug on the breakup sex that could’ve been. Then, our second emailer shares a bizarre request from a one-night stand. J&J finish with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about a shitty date, manners when you meet the parents, and settling the debate on whether a S.O. should take an upgraded seat when flying as a couple. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/31/20231 hour, 30 minutes, 30 seconds
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Heather McMahan’s Guide To Relationships

J&J are back with a Sunday Special and, this week, they’re joined by comedian Heather McMahan. Heather and Jared have only known each other digitally until this point, so the trio kick off with a discussion about online energy vs energy IRL. Next, they dive into a problem commonly hidden in the fine print of some relationships: how do you address a shift in your friendship when one of you is no longer single? Our emailer has happily been in a relationship for over a year, but as it continues to progress, she’s noticed one of her friendships regressing. Jordana and Heather are both married, so they’re able to delve into how their friendships transitioned over the course of their relationships, while Jared is able to give the perspective of the single friend. Plus, as a bonus, you can catch J&J on Heather’s podcast, “Absolutely Not.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/28/202352 minutes, 1 second
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How Do I Know If I'm Ready To Date Again?

As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, this week’s emails focus on how you view yourself playing a role in your relationships. First, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who’s a few months into being single again. She started off feeling single and free, but day by day, loneliness has crept in and made her feel like she’s not meant to be single even though she’s not ready for a relationship. Next, our Awkward Sexual Encounter is a tale that will be stuck in our minds for eternity. Our final email comes from a woman concerned about her partner’s body image issues taking a toll on his mental health and their relationship. J&J close with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about peeing in public, ChatGPT texts and voice memos in the DMs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/24/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 3 seconds
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Is He Self-Sabotaging Or Does He Just Not Like Me?

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and this week, Jared and Jordana hear from an emailer confused about where she stands with a guy she’s dating. He went out with coworkers and invited her to join, but because she’s in the middle of a move and has a busy week coming up, she chose to stay home. First, he’s understanding, and suddenly, he’s calling it all off. So, what just happened? Do people in the early stages toward a relationship have to accept every invitation, or is the issue with his anxious approach? J&J add an additional perspective on their situation, and where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/21/202328 minutes, 57 seconds
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Why Can’t I Make It Past A 3rd Date?

This week, Jared and Jordana are recording from home and they kick off with the joys and goals of being moderately effective, from daily living to dating. Then, they dive into hurdles in your dating life and those around you. Our first emailer noticed her dating life tends to die around the 3rd or 4th date, and Jared is able to share hesitations he’s had with getting into somewhat serious territory. The Awkward Sex Encounter is a treat for pet owners. Then, our second emailer hates her best friend’s boyfriend, but given that it’s not her relationship, does she have the right to do anything about it? J&J end with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about social media etiquette, keeping gifts from an ex and sentimental details your first date might be keeping from you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/17/20231 hour, 37 minutes, 22 seconds
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Is Lust Worth Risking A Friendship?

J&J are back with a Sunday Special. This week, our email is about a friendship that spans nearly a decade, beginning at law school and still going strong between two busy lawyers in different towns. Our emailer is a queer woman whose interest in her friend has intensified recently, but is lust worth risking her friendship? Her friend is a straight man with a history of dating women that don’t look like her, so has he ever even considered the thought? Jared and Jordana help guide her through the next steps to breaking down the platonic barrier without throwing out her friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/14/202333 minutes, 38 seconds
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Is Being Exclusive Different Than A Relationship?

Jared and Jordana are discussing the stages of relationships this week, from starting out to starting families, and what that means for your dating life. Before jumping into advice, Jared’s date gets postponed for an indisputable reason, so he and Jordana discuss the best excuses to back out on short notice. Next, our first email is about the talk before “The Talk,” the stop in between casual dating and “DTR.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter will make you think twice about what you bring to sleep over for the first time. Then, our second emailer is ready to become a parent, but wonders if becoming a single mom will ward men off from wanting to date. J&J end with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about tracking down a ghost, keeping used condoms and using AI to write sweet messages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/10/20231 hour, 28 minutes, 54 seconds
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Is He That Busy Or Am I A Benchwarmer?

Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re kicking off with a chat about the subtle yet surreal reminders of being all grown up. Jordana is finding these more as she settles into suburban life, and Jared is prepping for a royal stint in Europe. Then, they share a listener email about being in limbo with a busy lawyer early on. Has he lost interest, or is he just busy? Jordana understands the direct approach in getting clarity, while Jared breaks down why that tactic was averted. They give advice on how to get out of this stalemate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/7/202339 minutes, 22 seconds
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Getting Your Situationship To The Next Level

This week, J&J are diving into the hurdles holding back your situationship from evolving into a relationship. Our first listener found a spark in a former high school classmate, but she’s fresh out of a long term relationship. Will time bring them together or fizzle out the chance of a flame? The Awkward Sex Encounter is a moment more wholesome than horrifying. Our next listener admits she may have shared too much with her friends, accidentally swaying them into disapproval of the guy she’s dating. Jared and Jordana end with a round of Red Flag or Dealbreaker about an ex climbing the family tree, greeting cards and being a little too direct in dating app DMs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/3/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 44 seconds
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Is It Okay To Play Games In Some Dating Scenarios?

In this Sunday Special, J&J hear from a male listener who’s grown confused and frustrated with being branded as a “good guy” from dates that have dumped him. He’s divorced, in his mid-thirties and ready to find love but wonders what about him is “too much of a good thing.” Should he change who he is, or hold back from his dates? Jared has had this problem in the past, and Jordana understands the struggle of turning down a good guy if the connection doesn’t feel great. Listen in as our hosts come together to find a common ground to help the good guy get a good ending. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/30/202338 minutes, 26 seconds
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Why Do I Keep Getting Textzoned?

This week’s episode is full of common dating faux pas and how to steer clear, from the matches that only text but don’t really talk to guys unwittingly becoming the subject of an invasive TikTok trend. Jared and Jordana give great advice on easy mistakes to make and necessary boundaries to have with new matches. Plus, brace yourself–this week’s Awkward Sex Encounter is a spring break classic. J&J finish with a round of Faux Pas or Nah featuring diplomatic duties, fake teeth, and not-so-little white lies. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/26/20231 hour, 3 minutes, 44 seconds
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We Matched, We Connected, He Canceled

Picture this: you match with someone cute on an app, have great conversations and agree to go on a date… but on the day of, they cancel. Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener decipher what went wrong before the first date that never was. Did he foresee a disconnect, or did she misinterpret a message? J&J break down the text exchange and talk navigating the road to a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/23/202332 minutes, 56 seconds
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Does Your Parents’ Opinion Of Your S.O. Actually Matter?

J&J break down Jordana’s recent move to – gasp – the suburbs! The first emailer is weighing whether the potential hurdles of different religious backgrounds is worth falling further in love, or if her current happiness isn’t worth the future risk. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter will change the way you look at lube. Then, J&J reassure a listener who confessed their love but didn’t get the response they’d hoped for. The episode closes out with a round of Sweet or Corny covering dating firsts. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/19/20231 hour, 19 minutes, 33 seconds
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Behind The Scenes Of A Set Up By Jordana

Jared and Jordana are joined by a surprise guest on this week’s Sunday Special. Julia, a Betches team member and friend (you may know her as Adam Pally's fake fan), gives the run down on a guy Jordana set her up with and where they stand now. Why would he reach out again just to change his mind after she made it clear she wanted a relationship? Where do his actions cross the line when it comes to set ups by a friend? J&J get extra personal with their advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/16/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 54 seconds
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Am I A Rebound Or Is He Ready To Move On?

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana cover dating advice we’ve all needed through the stages of starting out to getting serious. The first emailer has first date jitters so intense, the solution is borderline self-sabotage. The Awkward Sexual Encounter served up secondhand embarrassment when they broke the rules of a one-night-stand. Our next emailer is ready to take their relationship to the move-in level, but would ending a roommate-ship ruin a friendship? J & J close out with a few rounds of Faux Pas or Nah? about dating app moves, selfie-obsessed partners, and rebound red flags. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/12/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 39 seconds
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How Much Does Your Resume Matter On The Apps? Ft. Jesse Metcalfe

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener about how much your resume matters on the dating apps. Is judging someone by their job title or alma mater shallow or valid? Later, Jesse Metcalfe joins the pod to talk about his new movie On A Wing And A Prayer and break down his dating history. J, J, and J answer an email about a guy who led the emailer on for months, only to reveal his feelings once she was already in a relationship. Is this just an ego trip or does he actually want to make it work? Plus, Jesse shares his best advice for a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/9/202341 minutes, 11 seconds
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Am I Insecure Or Is He Being Inappropriate?

This week’s episode is the “mean with purpose” special, starting with a story about a recent unhinged DM Jared received. The first emailer asks if her insecurity is making her a bad girlfriend after her boyfriend told her he was going to help a friend’s friend make an “Only Fans-ish” website. If he’s not getting paid, what does he even get out of this favor? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an elaborate sorority house seduction. J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny or Sweet about pet names, moms, and snack preferences.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/5/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 37 seconds
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The Dating Mistakes Everyone Makes

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about whether or not bachelor and bachelorette parties are on their way out. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana their opinions on a Reddit thread asking men “What mistakes do single women who want a serious relationship make?” Are any of these mistakes valid? Or are these posters bitter guys who just got dumped? Plus, they talk about how men view sex through the lens of the recent “Sex Week” on The Bachelor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/2/202355 minutes, 34 seconds
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Blindsiding Is A Spectrum Ft. Rebel Wilson

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a deep dive into Jared and Mike’s snacking habits. The first emailer asks how to get over her fear of being blindsided in a new relationship after her last one ended suddenly. Should she open up to the new guy about how she’s feeling? Later, J&J are joined by their favorite fan Rebel Wilson to talk about her new dating app Fluid and play a round of Faux Pas or Nah. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/29/20231 hour, 34 minutes, 14 seconds
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SOS: Can We Be Just Friends If We Made Out?

J&J are back with another SOS episode, and this week they’re joined by Alysha to figure out whether or not she’s just friends with the guy she’s been going on dates with. After a few makeouts, he asked her to help set him up with a mutual friend but then invited her to go on vacation for his birthday. So what does he want out of this relationship? Does she even know what she wants? Plus, Alysha shares her pet peeve as a flight attendant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/26/202349 minutes, 2 seconds
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The Betchelor Crossover: Love Is Blind Eps. 1-2: The Beginning

No you didn't press play on the wrong podcast, Jared and Kay are covering Love Is Blind Season 4! Every single week on the Betchelor podcast, you will be hearing their thoughts on the pods and what comes after. For this special crossover episode, they covered episodes 1 and 2. They give their first impressions on all the pod people, and predict what is to come. You don't want to miss it. For more Love is Blind episodes every week, head over to the Betchelor podcast and follow @thebetchelor on Instagram and Twitter to stay up to date on all reality tv! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/24/20231 hour, 7 minutes, 51 seconds
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Am I More Invested In The Relationship Than My BF?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start by breaking down a recent Raya experience that started from Jared’s love of complaining. Is it time for him to delete the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a spit take. Later, an emailer asks if she should move to be closer to her boyfriend or move on after the financial conditions of the move changed. Is him being unwilling to help with rent a sign she needs to end it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny Or Sweet about first date flowers, dating app openers, and forehead kisses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/22/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 1 second
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Does Swiping Count As Cheating? Ft. Adam Pally

J&J are back with another Sunday Spesh and this week they’re joined by comedian and actor Adam Pally. They start with a chat about his new movie Who Invited Charlie? and the story about how he met his wife. Then they dive into an email from a guy who claims he found the one but can’t stop swiping on the apps. Is there any justification for this behavior? Can he still redeem himself in this relationship? Plus, Adam shares nuggets of wisdom from 13 years of marriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/19/202356 minutes, 37 seconds
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Why Are Situationship Breakups So Painful?

On this week’s episode, Jared starts with a story about being on his phone at the bar. The first emailer asks how she can slow down the pace of dating. How can she get out of the cycle of going from first date to “Willy Wonka grandparents” with the guys she’s dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes back to haunt the emailer years later. Later, a listener asks why situationships breakups are so painful, even if the relationship is short-lived. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about lap-sitting, getting recognized from the apps, and using ChatGPT to hack dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/15/20231 hour, 48 minutes, 19 seconds
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Why You Should Have A Roster Ft. Violet Benson

J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversation about why Violet doesn’t sleep with anyone unless they’re in a relationship and how she frames that conversation to keep the ball in her court. Later, an emailer writes in to ask what to do after snooping on her boyfriend’s phone and finding suspicious messages with a woman on Instagram. Should she feel guilty about reading his DMs? Is he on the verge of ending the relationship anyway? Plus, Jared, Jordana, and Violet break down the best way to confront him about what she saw. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/12/20231 hour, 2 seconds
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The Problem With #DatingTok

J&J are coming in hot this week with a lot to unpack. First, they break down the recent Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal and what people’s reactions to it say about them. Then they dive into a recent New York Times article all about #DatingTok. How is the virality of these bad date videos affecting the power balance in dating? And how is what Jared and Jordana do on the podcast any different? The Awkward Sexual Encounter takes place at a grandmother’s house. Later, an emailer asks how she can avoid losing herself when she moves in with her long-distance boyfriend. J&J finish the episode with a new game called Sweet Or Corny, presented by Angie’s BOOMCHICKAPOP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/8/20231 hour, 27 minutes, 45 seconds
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SOS: How To Make First Dates Feel Less Like Interviews

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they get their first SOS call from a male listener. Danny joins the pod to ask how he can make first dates feel more flirty and less like an interview. Is a kiss necessary to bring the romantic vibes? How much planning is too much planning? Plus, Jared and Jordana give him some questions to use on his next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/5/202340 minutes, 22 seconds
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Breadcrumbing, Cookie-Jarring, & Cobwebbing: Dating In 2023

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker scenario from Jared’s own dating life. Then, they get into a recent New York Times article about modern dating terms. J&J dive into the definitions and admit which ones they’ve done themselves. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost and found condom. Later, a listener writes in asking if she was love bombed after the guy who was actively pursuing her changed his mind once she was interested. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about showing up to a date sweaty, becoming exclusive, and deleting the dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/1/20231 hour, 33 minutes, 12 seconds
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Is It “Limerence” Or True Love? (Oversharing Sneak Peak)

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/limerence Does love at first sight really exist? And what’s the difference between love and limerence? On this excerpt of the latest Oversharing podcast, Jordana and her sister Dr. Naomi Bernstein have a conversation about the concept of limerence and why romantic obsession doesn’t always lead to lasting love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/28/202322 minutes, 33 seconds
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So Jared, Why Do Men Say Things They Don’t Mean?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and Jared is in the hot seat this week answering an email about why men say things they don’t mean. But first, they analyze the “bangers” of Les Mis through the lens of modern dating. Then, they dive into the email from a listener about a guy who said all the right things only to ghost a few weeks later. What went wrong? And why do men allude to future plans they don’t intend to keep? Plus, they give advice on what you should say to a “we should” guy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/26/202344 minutes, 13 seconds
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Lightning Round: Do Men Hate Situationships As Much As Women?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round Episode, and this week they start by discussing the highs and lows of Jared’s 38th year and revisiting the infamous clip that made his birthday The Worst Day Of The Year. Then they jump right into your questions submitted via our Instagram story with topics ranging from how men feel about situationships to talking about STIs before a hookup to trying to get romantic with a coworker. Plus, they talk about the difference between “the chase” and playing games. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/22/20231 hour, 32 minutes, 31 seconds
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SOS: Husband Or F*ck Off

J&J are back with another SOS call from a U Up? listener on this week’s Sunday Special. Nicole joins Jared and Jordana to decide whether she should prioritize her new relationship or her career. They talk through the pros of taking the dream job and moving away vs staying in her current job and with her boyfriend of 6 months. Will she end up resenting him if she doesn’t take this opportunity? Should he know for sure if he wants to marry her by now? Plus, Jared proposes a few romcom endings. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/19/202339 minutes, 11 seconds
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How Much Can You Embellish On Your Dating App Profile?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s Dad’s birthday party plans and how everyone goes a little crazy this time of year. The first emailer writes in about a guy who put a fake story on his dating app profile. He doubled down on the lie during their date but later called to admit that he stole the story from a friend. Should she go out with him again? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a wild night in Vegas. Later, a listener asks how to deal with her and her boyfriend’s different views on drinking. Her boyfriend and his family are big drinkers but heavy drinking makes her anxious and emotional. Is this lifestyle difference a deal breaker? J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive drinks, fake teeth, and single pillow households. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/15/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 24 seconds
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Valentine's Day Dates: The Archive Dive

As a special gift this Valentine's Day, J&J are diving into the archives and revisiting our Valentine's Day episodes past. In these throwback clips, Jared and Jordana talk through their Valentine's Day plans from 2019, 2020, and 2021 and give advice on navigating Valentine's Day at different stages of a relationship. Plus, they break down how to spice things up in the bedroom on Vday without feeling awkward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/14/202345 minutes, 41 seconds
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Nothing Happens When You Least Expect It Ft. Jay Shetty

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” and his journey from monk to best-selling author and podcaster. Then, they answer an email from a listener wondering which side of dating TikTok to listen to. Should she treat dating like a job to find a relationship or will it happen when she least expects it? Plus, J,J, and Jay talk about how absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/12/20231 hour, 3 minutes, 5 seconds
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Was Your DTR Talk Too Vague?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The first email comes from a listener in situationship limbo. How can you get to the next step of a relationship if neither of you have time to really hang out? When are relationships supposed to go from “me” to “we”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise visitor. Later, a listener asks if it’s normal to feel embarrassed about a past rejection. Does she need to tell her new boyfriend how upset she was about her last breakup? J&J finish the episode with a game called Who Comes First? presented by Bumble. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/8/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 46 seconds
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Do You Need To Be Single To Work On Yourself?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breakup with a younger guy. Things were progressing well until a few months in when he revealed he was scared to get into a serious relationship and needed time alone to work on himself. Is this a legit excuse? Jared and Jordana break down what she should’ve done differently and why you should negotiate like Judge Judy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/5/202341 minutes, 35 seconds
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What Counts As Cheating?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Later, a listener asks if she’s a cheater after a steamy dance floor moment on vacation. Does she need to tell her boyfriend about it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mid-date haircuts and pizza syllabi. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/1/20231 hour, 26 minutes, 10 seconds
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SOS: Blindsided By A Breakup

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on what to do if he reaches out again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/29/202342 minutes, 45 seconds
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Is Ambition A Valid Reason For A Breakup?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a repeat offense. Later, a listener asks if she has to justify her texting style to guys who interpret her slow responses as lack of interest. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive tabs, dog behavior, and fart etiquette. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/25/20231 hour, 26 minutes, 22 seconds
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Why Can't I Commit To A Fifth Date? (Jared's Oversharing Therapy Session)

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. Plus, they talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months.  Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/24/202334 minutes, 9 seconds
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The Problem With Being Comfy

We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/22/202344 minutes, 59 seconds
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How To Revive A Dating App Match

J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a series of unfortunate events in Jared’s least favorite place. Later, an emailer asks how to get her husband to improve his hygiene. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about familiar faces, coupons, and “breast friends.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/18/20231 hour, 26 minutes, 10 seconds
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Don’t Fall For A Selfish Apology

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explains the most annoying parts of what he’s doing. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/15/202333 minutes, 2 seconds
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How Much Does Sexual Chemistry Matter?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discovery. Later, a male listener who keeps getting the “you’re so great, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection” text after first dates writes in to ask what he’s doing wrong. Is his problem that he’s actually being *too* romantic? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about shower frequency, middle names, and date plans (or lack thereof). Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/11/20231 hour, 21 minutes, 8 seconds
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Playing It Cool Is Overrated

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy without making it weird for their friend group? Plus, J&J explain the problem with being the “cool girl.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/8/202335 minutes, 34 seconds
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How To Be More Charming

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the internet? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very oblivious emailer. Later, an emailer asks how to handle taking out her Invisalign liners on first date. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the Batmobile, subtle insults, and bad cooking. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/4/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 17 seconds
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You’re Not Annoying, He’s Just An Asshole

J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal about a miscommunication early in a relationship. The emailer explains that the guy she’s been seeing stopped communicating with her after she made a joke about having another date. When she calls him out on it, he comes back with a lot of excuses, including misunderstanding her joke. How much do his excuses matter? Was her joke really the problem here? Plus, Jared and Jordana critique her original call out text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/1/202346 minutes, 50 seconds
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Make Your Dating Life About You

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. Then, they talk about why it’s so hard to keep dating momentum going during the holidays. The first email asks how to get to a first date when you’re not on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a broken table and an attempted robbery. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about happy places, cousins, and ferrets. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/28/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 31 seconds
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What Does Emotional Availability Actually Look Like?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, we know). This week’s emailer asks how soon is too soon to talk about mental health in dating after a guy asked to reschedule their second date due to an episode of depression. Is she wrong to be turned off? Plus, Jared and Jordana talk about what real emotional availability and vulnerability looks like. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/25/202233 minutes, 54 seconds
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Does Splitting The Check On The First Date Mean He’s Not Into It?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single people “safely” flirting with other non-single people when their significant others aren’t around. Is this type of interaction as harmless as it seems? They finish the episode with a round of holiday-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog holiday cards, ugly Christmas sweaters, and NYE kisses. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/21/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 38 seconds
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To Play Games Or Not To Play Games

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/18/202240 minutes, 13 seconds
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How To Ask For More Romance In A Relationship

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sexting, and dad-speak. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/14/20221 hour, 28 minutes, 9 seconds
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Was He Using Me Or Did He Just Change His Mind?

J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they ask the listener to think about whether or not she actually wants to date this guy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/11/202235 minutes, 52 seconds
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Are You Too Picky Or Not Picky Enough?

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on your list? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about kids' toys, sharing beers, and roommate situations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/7/20221 hour, 30 minutes, 4 seconds
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How Gender Norms Are Hurting Your Sex Life Ft. Emily Nagoski

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all the stories the emailer is telling herself and advises her on how to have a conversation with her boyfriend about it. Plus, they talk about how the cultural scripts we’re given based on gender are getting in the way of our sex lives. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/4/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 58 seconds
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Do I Need To Live In A City To Date?

This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later, an emailer asks how she’s supposed to date while living in the suburbs. Should she lie about her location on the app to get more matches? Is she better off trying to meet people IRL? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mixing up dates, changing the subject, and bathroom talk in a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/30/20221 hour, 22 minutes, 32 seconds
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How To Deal With Weird Texts From An Ex

Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ex talking about “their song” and then his engagement photos with his new fiancé. J&J break down why he might be sending her these things and tell her what she should say to cut off this weird behavior. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/27/202229 minutes, 21 seconds
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Sliding Vs. Deciding

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksgiving Eve. The first emailer asks how important a sense of humor is to a relationship. The guy she’s seeing checks a lot of boxes, but is it doomed if she cringes at his jokes? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another almost fairytale in the streets of Rome. Later, a listener asks if you have to live together before getting married. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about biking manners, bad breath, and art gallery etiquette. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/23/20221 hour, 24 minutes, 5 seconds
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Do You Have To Like Your S.O.’s Friends?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. This week’s emailer asks how to move forward after one of her boyfriend’s friends called her a 3/10. Should her boyfriend “dump” him as a friend? Do guys even have friend breakups? Jared and Jordana unpack why he would say that and how to handle him going forward. Plus, Jared shares a story where he offended a friend with a joke about sixes. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/20/202253 minutes, 43 seconds
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The Anniversary Episode

It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/16/20221 hour, 45 minutes, 59 seconds
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Can Family Dynamics Be A Deal Breaker?

We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/13/202236 minutes, 58 seconds
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Why Won’t My Friends Set Me Up? Ft. Fortune Feimster

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jordana gives some potential reasons they’re not telling him, and Jared breaks down how his attitude toward dating might be playing a role. J&J are joined by Fortune Feimster to finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about exes on Instagram, Hinge profiles, and the wrong times to bring up your mom. Big Steve Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-passing-of-big-steve-bouncer-at-comedy-cellar?member=2[…]campaign=p_na+share-sheet&utm_medium=sms&utm_source=customer Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/9/20221 hour, 51 minutes, 53 seconds
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Do You Have To Reply To A Breakup Text?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/6/202253 minutes, 18 seconds
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Why Doesn’t He Ask Me Any Questions?

Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break down what it means when people say they’re “so single.” The first emailer asks if a guy not asking any questions about her is a reason to end the relationship. J&J rephrase her email to help her see this situation clearly. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some improper condom disposal. Later, a listener asks why old situationships pop back up once you get into a relationship. What are they hoping to get out of this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mice, cash gifts, and cheating friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/2/20221 hour, 22 minutes, 49 seconds
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Why Do Men Make Promises They Can’t Keep? Ft. Delaney Rowe

J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the meanest comments they’ve gotten online. Then they dive into Delaney’s dating life and how her career has impacted it. In the spirit of spooky season, they answer an email asking whether or not it’s ghosting if both people stop texting. Is “ghosting” overused in general now? Plus, Delaney asks Jared why men make promises they don’t intend to keep. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/30/202252 minutes, 30 seconds
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Is “He’s Just Not That Into You” Still Accurate?

On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. The first emailer asks if “He’s Just Not That Into You” holds up in 2022. If the guy she hung out with once wanted to see her again, wouldn’t he just make a plan? What do people actually mean when they say “if he wanted to he would”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for sports bar hookups. Later, a listener asks how to recover from the first fight with her boyfriend. They made up, but she’s still feeling self-conscious in the relationship. Is this just the end of the honeymoon phase? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about “crepe-fishing,” flossing, and concert etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/26/20221 hour, 27 minutes, 33 seconds
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How To Talk About Money With Your S.O. Ft. Ramit Sethi

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with a conversation about Ramit’s work with couples to change their mindsets on money, and he gives an exercise for couples to open up the conversation about their finances. Later, they answer an email from a listener wrestling with an income difference in her relationship. She’s moving in with her boyfriend who makes $300k more than her, and she can already feel the resentment building. How should she handle his snarky comments? Plus, they talk about how important non-monetary contributions are to relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/23/20221 hour, 6 minutes, 25 seconds
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Am I Giving Up If I’m Not On The Apps?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwaukee. The first emailer asks if she’s gotten too comfortable being single after a friend told her she feels like she’s giving up. Does she need to put herself out there more or should she continue focusing on herself? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a “king size” man and a CPAP machine. Later, J&J listen to a voicemail asking how to approach dating apps when you definitely don’t want kids. Should she avoid guys whose profiles say they do want kids? Is she too worried about wasting her time? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nosey friends, football obsessed boyfriends, and couples costumes.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/19/20221 hour, 17 minutes, 37 seconds
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Stop Romanticizing Your Ex

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences trying to be friends with exes and how that idea changes as you get older. Then, they dive into the email detailing a listener’s relationship with her ex from college. They broke up but stayed in touch through their friend group, and they eventually ended up in the same city again. When she told him she was thinking about getting back together, he said he wanted to stay friends, but now that she’s dating someone else, he tried to make a move. Why is she so committed to being friends with this guy anyway? Plus, J&J discuss the hard truth behind every breakup and the problem with romanticizing your exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/16/202238 minutes, 34 seconds
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Do Guys Care Less Once It’s Official?

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her family dynamic with 9 siblings. Jared updates Jordana on his dating goals from his latest U Up? With Benefits episode. The first emailer asks if guys care less once the relationship becomes official after noticing her new boyfriend has been putting in a lot less effort. Should she “match his energy” or speak up about her annoyance? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a Lizzie McGuire style escapade. Later, J&J read an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over exes who seemed to disappear after the breakup. She’s in a happy relationship, so why can’t she stop trying to keep tabs on them? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about missing teeth, bluelight glasses, and dating app openers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/12/20221 hour, 33 minutes, 5 seconds
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Should I Reach Out Again If The Timing Wasn’t Right?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emailer sends in screenshots of the very nice breakup text she received after two great dates. He didn’t want to keep dating because he was moving but told her to let him know if she was ever in his new city. Fast forward a year, and she’s moving there for work, so should she ask him to grab a beer? J&J break down all the possibilities she should think about before she reaches out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/9/202234 minutes, 4 seconds
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Lightning Round Part 2: Embracing Disappointment, The World’s Saddest Pep Talk, and Romantic Coffee Dates

This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park City. Then they dive right into the second half of your Lightning Round questions about everything from moving in with your long distance S.O. to making a coffee date actually feel like a date. Plus, Jared gives the world’s saddest pep talk. Detours include planning where Jared would move for a date and Jewish mom erotica. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/5/20221 hour, 30 seconds
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Will Losing Weight Fix My Relationship?

J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jordana’s days as a babysitter in the city. Then, they dive into the email from a listener whose husband wants her to lose weight. They’ve both been on their own health journeys, but she’s healed her relationship with her body and he’s still struggling. After he revealed he prefers a thinner body type than hers, she asks if she should try to lose the weight for him. Would that solve any of their issues in the long run? Plus, they talk about the best way to address it without putting him on the defense. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/2/202234 minutes, 12 seconds
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Lightning Round Part 1: Adam Levine, Standing Out On Dating Apps, & Living With A Disgusting

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Jared’s adventures in Buffalo and the recent cheating accusations against Adam Levine. Then, they get into your questions ranging from how to stand out on dating apps to how to meet people IRL as an introvert. Plus, they discuss the old line that “the best relationships are when the man loves the woman more than she loves him” and give advice for disgustings cohabitating with non-disgustings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/28/20221 hour, 21 minutes, 2 seconds
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What Should You Expect When Visiting A Long Distance Fling?

Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long-distance situationship. They go into what you should expect when you’re taking a chance and getting on a plane to meet up with someone. The first night of her visit went great, but the next night felt off and he made excuses to not see her again before she left. She says she got the ick after he needed too much reassurance that she liked him, but J&J aren’t sure that’s the full story. They break down the games he’s playing and why this trip was a little weird from the start. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/25/202239 minutes, 44 seconds
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How Much Time Do You Need Between Relationships?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by Jared’s mom. The first emailer writes in to ask if she’s jumping into a commitment too quickly after a long term relationship ended. Should she stick with her goal of staying single for at least a year even if she really likes the guy she’s seeing? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves way too much tongue. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s smoking habit. She wasn’t bothered by him smoking weed before they lived together, but now she’s majorly turned off. How much can she expect him to change his lifestyle? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about backhanded compliments, early “I love you”s, and plumbing problems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/21/20221 hour, 33 minutes, 31 seconds
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Are You Dating Like You’re In A Relationship?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a male listener who keeps finding himself in the same dating situation. After about two months of dating someone, he gets a text saying he’s a really nice guy, but they don’t see it going anywhere romantically. Jordana gives the honest version of these texts that he’s not getting. Is there anything he should do differently or is this just a normal part of dating? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss the ways men and women break up differently. Subscribe to our channel on YouTube! www.betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/18/202237 minutes, 49 seconds
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How To Avoid Dating App Burnout

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion about happy birthday etiquette and. Then, J&J discuss a New York Times article all about dating app burnout and how to avoid it. Have dating apps done more damage than good over the last ten years? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very large man in a very small bed. Next, they answer an email from a listener asking if how her boyfriend talks about his exes is a red flag. Is it possible that all of them really are “crazy” or does he just not want to talk about it? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about checking yourself out in the mirror, liking friends on dating apps, and keeping the Christmas tree up year round. Link to the article: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html?smid=url-share Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/14/20221 hour, 25 minutes, 11 seconds
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How Secure People Respond To Rejection

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how people with secure attachment styles respond to rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/11/202240 minutes, 4 seconds
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How To Take The Pressure Off Of Your Dating Life

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a chat about the start of fall (aka hookup season), Jordana’s birthday plans, and her gift to all of you. The first emailer asks if she should go out with a guy who previously canceled their first date because he decided to be exclusive with someone else. Should she still go out with him if she feels like his second choice? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a one night stand gone wrong. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks how to handle birthday gifts in a new relationship. Does she have to buy him the gift he’s been dropping hints about? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sleep routines, and poop stories. Check out the brand new U Up? YouTube channel by visiting: betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/7/20221 hour, 30 minutes, 20 seconds
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Are Work Crushes Hurting My Love Life?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks why she keeps falling for her long distance coworkers. She explains that she quickly hit it off with a coworker she only knew via Zoom, but he ended things after she visited him in his city to meet IRL. Now, she feels herself falling into the same pattern with a different coworker. Should she go for it? Is there a deeper reason she’s in this situation all over again? Jared and Jordana break down where she’s being too hard on herself and what she should do differently this time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/4/202230 minutes, 20 seconds
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“The Rise Of Lonely, Single Men”?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Charleston and Jared’s side hustle as a bachelorette party planner. Then, they talk about an article that exactly 3 people sent to Jordana called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a barnyard bang. Later, a listener asks if her f*ck buddy of 5 years could possibly turn into a real relationship. Why does she suddenly want something more with this person? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about screenshotting selfies, holding hands with your mom, and surprise condoms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/31/20221 hour, 32 minutes, 25 seconds
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Can You Trust A Drunk Text?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out by planning Jordana’s trip to Charleston. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana how much she should believe drunk texts from a guy saying how much he likes her. Are drunk texts sober thoughts? Does it matter that he’s followed new girls on Instagram since they met? They finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle to the tune of the Full House theme song. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/28/202235 minutes, 1 second
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Should I Join A “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook Group?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about a recent date Jared went on where he might be the red flag. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook pages popping up in many cities. Are these groups empowering for women or a slippery slope? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is less than eye-deal. Later, a listener writes in about her fiancé’s underwhelming proposal. How can she ask him to make up for it without seeming like she’s not excited to marry him? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cockroaches, bad manners, and going barefoot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/24/20221 hour, 24 minutes, 39 seconds
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How Much Vetting Is Too Much Before A First Date?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jordana’s dorm mistakes and the vulnerability of being a little clueless. The emailer sends in screenshots of a text exchange where a guy vetted her by asking about deal breakers before the first date. If someone gives an extensive list of deal breakers before a first date, is it even worth it to go? J&J discuss what you actually need to know about someone and how much texting is too much before a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/21/202240 minutes, 9 seconds
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Would You Want To Be On A Singles List?

On this week’s episode, Jared is back from his French adventure and ready to give Jordana the full recap of the trip and responses to his social media coverage. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on a “Singles List” she encountered at a recent wedding. Is it a fun way to meet people or is it a little presumptuous of the bride and groom? The listener forgets her underwear in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. The next email asks how to deal with snoring in a relationship. Are the listener and her boyfriend doomed to sleep in separate bedrooms? Would that even be so bad? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about scary movies, duvet covers, and handshakes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/17/20221 hour, 34 minutes, 47 seconds
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Do You Actually Want To Know Why They Ended It?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they’ve got the screenshots from a listener who’s confused by the lack of communication from a guy she’s dating. He told their mutual friends that he’s into it, so why won’t he initiate any texts even after she brought it up? Is she confused about whether or not he likes her or does she just not like him? J&J translate the texts to what the emailer and this guy would say if they were both being completely honest. Plus, they talk about how there’s two sides to every date and why “I don’t know why” is the most annoying excuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/14/202243 minutes, 34 seconds
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Am I Trusting My Gut Or Being Judgemental? Ft. Zoey Deutch

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how every family has a “lazy one” and why they need a travel agent. The first emailer asks how to trust your gut on whether or not you like someone. She lists several reasons she doesn’t think they’re a match, but is she being too judgmental? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual accessory. Later, a listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend never had a “hoe phase.” Do men even think about dating phases like that or is he trying to warm her up for a breakup? J&J advise her on how to address it with him which leads to a conversation about “relationship talk” and emotional maturity. Finally, Jordana is joined by Zoey Deutch to chat about her new movie “Not Okay” and play around of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying on your profile, seeing ghosts, and ordering off the kids’ menu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/10/20221 hour, 27 minutes, 25 seconds
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Stop Worrying About The Friend Group

J&J are fresh off the flight from the U Up? Live show in Chicago and ready to solve dating with another Sunday Special. The listener writes in about a situationship with (debatably) 22 years of history. She explains that they didn’t want to date long distance, but now that they’re finally going to be living in the same city, she’s not sure what to expect. Should she be worried that things will move too quickly since they’ve known each other for so long? Plus, J&J talk about how they might not know each other as well as they think. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/8/202235 minutes, 33 seconds
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What’s The Right Texting Ratio?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” The first emailer asks how often she should be initiating text conversations with guys she’s dating. Is 60% of the time too much or is she just overthinking all of this? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost sacrilegious. Later, a hotline caller asks how to non-awkwardly break out the lube during sex with a new partner. Do guys care about this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about condom disposal, posing nude, and profile photo faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/3/20221 hour, 4 minutes, 48 seconds
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Can Height Be A Deal Breaker? Ft. Patti Stanger

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation about what has changed about dating over the course of Patti’s career and being “dickmatized.” Later, they answer an email from a listener who’s having a hard time being attracted to her boyfriend because of his height. Should she try to overcome her own insecurity of feeling “huge” next to him? Or is feeling this way a deal breaker? Jared, Jordana, and Patti all share wisdom from their mothers and reveal their own superficial deal breakers. Plus, Patti takes a turn solving dating for Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/31/202250 minutes, 13 seconds
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Can I Ask My BF To Clean Out His Following List?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vacation can turn you into a monster. The first emailer writes in to ask how to deal with her fiancé continuing to follow women from before their relationship. She says she trusts him, so is her “ick” valid? How much can she negotiate his following count? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate bathroom break. Later, a listener emails in about her pattern of getting cold feet in long term relationships. Is she wasting their time or is this a normal part of dating? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about white lies, well done steak, and gifts from exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/27/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 19 seconds
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Do Men Avoid Hookups To Avoid Blame?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for 5 years. Now they’re finally living in the same place, but they’ve only managed to get together twice, both with no kiss. Did they miss their dating window? Or is he just more interested in making friends in his new city? Plus, they discuss the person you go on one date a year with because you don’t trust your former self. J&J finish the episode with a new rap jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/24/202228 minutes, 55 seconds
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It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ring when she knows she won’t be getting engaged for at least a year. J&J explain how social media plays a role here. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about promotional pens, sleeping habits, and dating app photos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/20/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 51 seconds
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Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/17/202237 minutes, 34 seconds
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What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the third date. Was the kiss more meaningful than either of them are letting on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an accidental AirPlay. Later, a listener asks if it’s possible to be too in control in her dating life. Looking back on her last relationship, she realized that she was the one initiating all of their next steps. Did she miss a red flag that he wasn’t bringing up these conversations? What do men actually mean when they say they’re not ready for a relationship? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about close friends lists, group chats, and lookalikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/13/20221 hour, 33 minutes, 40 seconds
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How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/10/202237 minutes, 46 seconds
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Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turned off by guys who go to therapy. Does being in therapy mean they’re not ready to date? Are they bringing it up to be vulnerable or because they saw a TikTok saying that women want to date guys who go to therapy? Later, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about messy cars, dating profile updates, and gift shopping. Link to the How I Met Your Mother video from today's email: HIMYM Crazy/Hot Scale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/6/20221 hour, 23 minutes, 5 seconds
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“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing

J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some tough love and translate exactly what he means by “I like you as a friend.” Plus, they talk about how to approach dating when you’re feeling extra lonely and listen to a listener’s jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/3/202228 minutes, 58 seconds
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Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties. Later, an emailer asks how to get over the ick in a relationship. How can she kindly get her girlfriend to stop using baby talk? Is baby talk actually the problem here? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about manipulative behavior, video texting, and post-sex peanuts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/29/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 38 seconds
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How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she wants to hear? Plus, they talk about how to spot guys who give convenient answers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/26/202228 minutes, 19 seconds
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How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Below Deck. Later, a hotline caller asks what guys think when you block them. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about holding hands, post-sex hygiene, backpacks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/22/20221 hour, 19 minutes, 5 seconds
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Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?

It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/19/202244 minutes, 9 seconds
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Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-opener. Later, an emailer asks if her idea to hand out flirty business cards is dumb or genius. Will she come off as confident or desperate? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about elevators, name mix ups, and restaurant tips. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/15/20221 hour, 29 minutes, 32 seconds
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Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/12/202235 minutes, 17 seconds
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What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or is he jealous of her success? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Faux Pas canned cocktails, all about disappearing dates, unsolicited advice, and going barefoot in the airport. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/8/20221 hour, 28 minutes, 49 seconds
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Vague Questions Get Vague Answers

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook up regrets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/5/202235 minutes, 56 seconds
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How To Do A Mini Reveal

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not having more sexual experiences before they settle down? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about ball scratching, happy hour, and elaborate jokes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/1/20221 hour, 18 minutes, 13 seconds
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How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/29/202228 minutes, 56 seconds
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What’s The Right Answer To “How Are You Still Single?”

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jared’s upcoming Ted Talk and our new segment for the live tour called “Set U Up?”. The first emailer asks how she’s supposed to respond when dates ask “how are you still single?” Jared explains why guys ask this question, and Jordana shares her past anxiety about it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very confused sister. Later, a listener writes in about how her TikTok following is ruining her dating life. Is there a way to explain this part of her life to guys without turning them off? Or are male TikTokers her only options? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about crying, comfort water bottles, and ice cream eating methods. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/25/20221 hour, 32 minutes, 4 seconds
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How Do I Stop Comparing Myself To My Boyfriend’s Ex?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener whose boyfriend drunkenly told his friends he was relieved that she wasn’t as hot as his ex. After looking up his ex on Instagram, she started feeling insecure, and her boyfriend didn’t help by overcompensating. Can their relationship move past this? Is he ready to be in a new relationship in the first place? Plus, Jared gives a definitive ranking of the Kardashian family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/22/202245 minutes, 33 seconds
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Is The Saying “When You Know You Know” Actually True?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of the best day of the year for a birthday and how the internet can be a fickle friend. They read a follow up from the listener who wrote in on May 8th, 2022 about Tony the contractor which leads to a discussion about women making the first move. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a wet pair of trousers. Later, an emailer asks if she did herself a disservice by throwing out her old pros and cons lists about her current relationship. Is needing to make a pros and cons list in the first place a bad sign? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about peeing after sex, customer service voices, and sharing medical records. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/18/20221 hour, 17 minutes, 50 seconds
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Is This A Red Flag Or Am I The As*hole?

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they start out with a chat about the summer dating season. Next they listen to two new listener jingles which leads to a conversation on how “Les Miserables” is a f*ckboy story. Later they introduce a new segment called The People’s Courtship where Judge J&J will decide who is wrong in a dating situation. This week a listener called the hotline to ask if it was weird for a guy to bring her “grocery store flowers” on a first date. Plus, they talk about how judgmental is too judgmental when it comes to dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/15/202234 minutes, 7 seconds
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When Does A White Lie Become A Regular Lie? Ft. Rebel Wilson

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about how to keep dating momentum going while you're traveling for work. The first emailer asks about the difference between taking things slow and getting strung along. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a condom balloon. Another emailer asks how much white lies matter after her boyfriend lied to her about going to a strip club. Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by U Up? With Benefits subscriber Rebel Wilson to talk about her dating life and her new movie “Senior Year.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding etiquette and recycled playlists. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/11/20221 hour, 33 minutes, 19 seconds
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How To Take The Hint After Shooting Your Shot

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and her almost contractor to decide whether or not he’s interested in her. Should she shoot her shot one more time or is a "k" text the kiss of death? Later, J&J introduce a new segment called Rate My Date where they review creative date ideas submitted by listeners. This week’s submission is a triple date straight out of a fever dream. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/8/202231 minutes, 38 seconds
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Dating Before & After College

Jared and Jordana are back with a very special episode recorded from the Pizza Hut struggle bus in Athens, GA. The first emailer asks how to deal with her boyfriend’s controlling mother. Should she take out her nose ring to please her? Is the nose ring really the issue here to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a pet octopus. In the next segment presented by Pizza Hut, J&J answer a listener voicemail from the Hut-Line to solve some college dating struggles. The caller asks how she should address moving from college to the real world in her relationship. Is it better to leave the college bubble single? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cult leaders, ear wax, and pet tarantulas. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Whenever you’re riding the Struggle Bus, order Pizza Hut for carryout or delivery at pizzahut.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/4/20221 hour, 25 minutes, 59 seconds
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“The Ultimatum” Review

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reviewing Netflix’s newest dating show “The Ultimatum.” They break down why they think each person is actually on the show and how fear of commitment and fear of loneliness come into play. Later, Jared and Jordana explore why marriage isn’t as enticing for men as it is for women and whether or not any of these people are old enough to get married anyway. Plus, they play two new U Up? Jingles submitted by listeners. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/1/202250 minutes, 16 seconds
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How To Weed People Out On The First Date

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Dallas and a discussion about how Jared’s feeling now that he’s a year out from his breakup. The first emailer writes in about how she always has a good time on first dates, and it leaves her (and her dates) feeling confused about whether or not they have a connection. Can you be too good at first dates? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a steamy bar bathroom encounter. Later, a listener asks if she should finally meet up with a guy she’s been texting since November 2020. Is it possible for the connection to live up to her expectations? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Ohio, dating app openers, and homemade bidets. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! (Use presale code BETCHES when checking out to get them before everyone else) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/27/20221 hour, 27 minutes, 26 seconds
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You Can’t Hack The Dating Apps

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they answer an email from a guy who has been disappointed by his recent dating experiences. He says he’s looking for a relationship, so where are all the women supposedly looking for commitment? Is he just coming in too hot with what he’s looking for? J&J show him how he’s going about this the wrong way. Plus, they explain how to show you’re looking for a relationship instead of telling. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/24/202236 minutes, 7 seconds
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The Key To A Better Dating Life Is Your Life Outside Of Dating

IRL Spring is officially here, and Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s move and a very exciting U Up? Live announcement. Jordana does a dramatic reading of a text a listener sent to our hotline instead of sending to their ex, and Jared helps to analyze it. The first emailer asks how to not get too excited about every dating prospect when she feels like she doesn’t have many options. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a “wrong hole” situation. Later, a listener asks what she should do about her boyfriend not being supportive of her desire to drink less. Is this a sign that they’re just not the match? Finally they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about sales calls, honeymoon crashers, and Chipotle orders. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! (Use presale code BETCHES when checking out to get them before everyone else) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/20/20221 hour, 32 minutes, 54 seconds
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Does Being "Adventurous" Mean Putting Up With No Effort?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special, but first they listen to a couple jingles created by listeners. Then, the emailer writes in about a “bizzaro” story of being stood up for a first date, and J&J break down the texts in completely accurate accents. Should she believe his unlikely story? And how can she avoid situations like this in the future? Plus they discuss why you have to embrace being a pain in the ass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/17/202248 minutes, 3 seconds
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Is It A Good Sign If A First Date Lasts a Long Time?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a very exciting Betches announcement plus discussions about Jordana’s love of moving and Jared’s Deux Moi fame. Then, they break down some of Jared’s recent dating app dilemmas and talk about how dating apps are like being at a party where half the guests are on shrooms. A massage goes terribly wrong in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they think of marathon first dates. If her date had a good enough time to stay for 6 hours, why wouldn’t he want to go on a second date? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthday dinners, being “gross,” and holding on to old clothes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/13/20221 hour, 30 minutes, 28 seconds
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Are Men Intimidated By Women’s Success?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week the emailer asks if she’s too independent to be in a relationship. She explains that things often fizzle after guys see her house and make comments about how much money she makes. Are men really intimidated by women’s success? Plus, they discuss how to convey that you’re willing to change your priorities for a relationship without sounding despy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/10/202241 minutes, 35 seconds
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Better App Conversations Come From Better Prompts

Jared and Jordana are reunited in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start out with a recap of Jordana’s honeymoon and a few luxury lounge complaints. Then, Jared fills Jordana in on everything that’s been happening in his dating life, including redownloading the apps and getting tired of them again all in a 3 week span. Later, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about grocery shopping, self-help books, and unconventional pajamas. Plus, they listen to some of the jingles submitted by audience members. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/6/20221 hour, 33 minutes, 45 seconds
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Men Picture The Breakup, Women Picture The Wedding

On this week’s Sunday Special, the emailer asks Jared and Jordana to help her understand what’s happening with her “best guy friend” who said he wanted to try dating her but kept canceling their dates. Is there any truth to their romance or is she just prematurely writing the “Our Story” page? J&J give her a reality check and discuss whether or not men and women can actually be friends if they’re attracted to each other. They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about headphone etiquette and dating app pictures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/3/202234 minutes, 46 seconds
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The Upside Of A “Failed” 3-Monther

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with an email from a listener who doesn’t know how to tell her boyfriend that she used to hook up with her coworker. Does he really need to know or is ignorance bliss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves canine voyeurism. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks why she can’t seem to get past the 3-monther. Finally, J&J wrap up the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Plan B, abs, and potentially armed robbery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/30/20221 hour, 3 minutes, 12 seconds
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Is Ghosting Ever Okay?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they answer an email from a listener who wants to know if we’ve created a whole other monster by shaming f*ckboys. She tells a story about how a guy she’d only been going out with for a few weeks asked her on a date to break it off. Did he really think this was better than just sending a text? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about mediocre dating app prompts and dating outside your city. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/27/202231 minutes, 43 seconds
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The Only Dating Rules That Matter Are Your Own

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s honeymoon plans and their favorite jingles. The first emailer wants to know what the “bare minimum” actually is, and J&J craft an elaborate metaphor comparing dating to apartment hunting. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a stinker. Later, an emailer asks how she should handle her boyfriend delaying the engagement ring shopping appointment. Is it still romantic if she has to bug him about it? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about hairstyles, Apple Watch interfaces, and packing for vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/23/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 33 seconds
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Temporary Relationships: Every Man’s Dream?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to date seriously when you travel for work. The emailer submitted screenshots with a guy she was seeing while living in his city for 13 weeks, and it’s pretty clear he’s not interested in extending her stay. How should she bring up her work situation to avoid guys who only see her as a short term hook up? Plus, Jared shares his experiences dating when traveling all the time. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about name mix ups and the future of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/20/202236 minutes, 17 seconds
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Is Instagram The Ultimate Relationship Test?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a story about how Jared accidentally ended up on a 2-on-1 date. The first emailer asks if she should break up with her boyfriend or Instagram after a fight over him not posting her to his account. Would his response have been better if she expressed her concerns differently? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a goose-fueled romcom. Later, a hotline caller asks why women always want to change men. Is he going to have to give up his video games no matter what? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about couples trips, Hinge locations, and credit card roulette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/16/20221 hour, 20 minutes, 25 seconds
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Is Sliding Into The DMs Less Creepy When Women Do It? Ft. Taylor Tomlinson

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by comedian Taylor Tomlinson to solve dating and chat about her new Netflix special. They start out with a discussion about Taylor’s dating life, mental health journeys, and hate mail. Later, they answer a listener's email about men’s lack of planning skills. Can he really not make a plan or does he just not want to? Plus they discuss whether or not “if he wanted to, he would” is an empowering point of view. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/13/202249 minutes, 28 seconds
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Is Going On Dates The Same As Dating? Ft. Sebastian Stan & Daisy Edgar-Jones

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s friend’s wedding and a discussion about how men and women look at life stages differently. The first emailer asks if she’s wrong to be turned off by her matches asking for a FaceTime or phone call before the first date. Is this the new normal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some unwanted help from the caller’s mom. Later, a listener asks how to go from first dates to dating. Can you really progress a relationship when you’re only seeing each other once a week? Sebastian Stan and Daisy Edgar-Jones join J&J to chat about their new movie “Fresh” and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about burner phones and food sharing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/9/20221 hour, 24 minutes, 53 seconds
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Is Timing a BS Excuse?

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she went on a date with while visiting a friend in the city where she plans to move. After a couple weeks of non-stop texting, he sent a text saying he didn’t want to keep talking until she moved. Is it really about timing or was he just not feeling it? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about serial killer jokes and texting chemistry. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/6/202234 minutes, 37 seconds
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Closing The Sexting Gap

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jared’s birthday reflections and why he doesn’t want to “do drinks” anymore. The first emailer asks how she should tell her boyfriend about her nose job. Will it impact how he sees her? Next, J&J are closing the sexting gap with some help from the sext-y nurse from our February 16th episode. Later, a guy writes in asking how to stop feeling threatened by his girlfriend’s exes. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cold sores, the “talking” stage, and going to hell. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/2/20221 hour, 22 minutes, 58 seconds
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Is The Instagram Follow A Big Deal In Dating?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she almost overlooked on the apps because of his “weird” profile, but she was pleasantly surprised by how much she liked him. After their 5th date she suggested he follow her on Instagram since she would be leaving town, but he declined. Is this a red flag? Is he self-conscious about his own profile? Plus, they discuss how she should address it. They finish the episode with a Breakup Breakdown featuring the voicemail story of a listener who was dumped via the Golf Channel. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/27/202236 minutes, 38 seconds
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How Do I Stop Being A “Cool Girl”?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by discussing Jared’s plan for the worst day of the year (AKA his birthday) and his recent foray into van life. Then they discuss the Netflix documentary “The Tinder Swindler” about a man who fooled his Tinder dates into giving him thousands of dollars and what these extreme circumstances can teach the average dater. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nosey little brother. Later, a listener asks how to stop being a “cool girl.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker (including our very first voicemail submission!) about guys trips, sports superstitions, and living without wifi. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/23/20221 hour, 39 minutes, 7 seconds
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Does Acting “Coupley” Actually Mean Anything?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Fuckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she met before the holidays. He acted very “coupley,” but a few weeks later, he bailed on their plans and her friend saw him on a date with another woman. Jared and Jordana weigh in on which of his actions actually mean something and give her advice on how to deal with the “we should” kind of guy. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about how much you owe someone after a first date and sweaty sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/20/202236 minutes, 48 seconds
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Winter Dating Pep Talk

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are talking all about how to keep dating fun in the winter. The first emailer asks if it’s worth it to date now or if she should just wait until spring, and J&J give her some tips to spice up her swiping routine. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very sexy nurse. Later, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she’s not comfortable with him using her phone all the time. Is she right about it being an invasion of privacy? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthdays and cat dads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/16/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 31 seconds
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Can We Still Be Friends If He Wants To Hook Up With Me?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with Jared’s love letter to Tom Brady. Then, they break down the texts between a listener and her guy friend. They went on a date, but both agreed they were better off as friends. So why is he now calling her a GILF (grandma I’d like to f*ck)? J&J discuss his motivations and how she should move forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/13/202234 minutes, 42 seconds
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Valentine’s Day Lightning Round: Embrace The Cliché

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round episode, and this time it’s all about Valentine’s Day. They answer 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers and break down exactly what you should do for Valentine’s Day whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between. They walk us through whether or not you should try to “Define the Valentine” around February 14th, and how to go about it if you do. Plus, they discuss why you should lean into the clichés of the holiday and the gift that every guy wants. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Thanks to our presenting sponsor, Harmless Harvest! Grab your big spoon and try Harmless Harvest today. Check out SpooningSeason.com to improve your spooning skills and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/9/20221 hour, 9 minutes, 59 seconds
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“And Just Like That...” Season Review

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are talking all about the first season of And Just Like That. They start out by discussing the glossy legacy of the original Sex and the City and how the creators betrayed its true fans. Where were all the brunch table dating breakdowns? Then, they talk about Carrie and Big’s relationship and how the message was bad for its young, single viewers. Plus, they give their opinions on each and every character. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/6/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 8 seconds
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Will Men Settle Down With Literally Anyone If The Timing Is Right?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s entry to TikTok and how it differs from Instagram. Then they chat about a long-awaited first date that Jordana set Jared up on. The first emailer asks if the classic Sex And The City quote comparing men to cabs is accurate. Do men actually end up with the first woman that comes along when they decide they’re ready? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a game of musical bunkbeds. The next emailer writes in about how her relationship with her “work husband” is impacting her dating life. How can she back away from this relationship without affecting her work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about cheapskates and open relationships. Thanks to our presenting sponsor Impossible Foods! Visit ImpossibleFoods.com to get with Impossible today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/2/20221 hour, 38 minutes, 29 seconds
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Does Anything Justify Not Texting Back For Over A Week?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about Jared’s favorite sandwich in LA and how to date someone with a heavy personal life. The emailer writes in about a guy she really likes except that he routinely takes over a week to respond to her texts. When she called him out on it, he revealed that his mom is dying and that’s why his communication has been slow. Can she pursue this relationship without compromising on what she wants? Later, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about whether or not you should tell on a cheater and unfortunate dating app prompts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/30/202227 minutes, 57 seconds
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How NOT To Do Long Distance Relationships

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of how Jordana’s husband feels about her most recent U Up? With Benefits episode. Then, they talk about a full-blown presentation someone DM’d Jared to try to set him up with her friend. Should PowerPoints be a requirement for a fix up? J&J go over each slide to tell you exactly how to make a presentation for your own friends. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a visit from a raccoon. Later, a listener asks how she should deal with her boyfriend not wanting to sext while they’re doing long distance. Is it a deal breaker if she won’t talk about it? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about fantasizing to Instagram pics and COVID comfort. Thanks to our presenting sponsor Impossible Foods! Visit ImpossibleFoods.com to get with Impossible today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/26/20221 hour, 30 minutes, 1 second
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West Elm Caleb Is Everything That’s Wrong With Modern Dating

Jared and Jordana are back with an emergency Sunday Special all about West Elm Caleb, a New York guy who’s blowing up on TikTok for ghosting, love bombing, and sending unsolicited dick pics. Maddy gives the timeline of how this all started, and Jared and Jordana discuss the extent of his offenses. Does he really deserve all of this public shaming? Plus, they talk about how the power dynamics on dating apps play into these issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/23/202247 minutes, 35 seconds
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Stop Judging Yourself So Much When Dating

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the most annoying person on vacation and Jared’s conflicted feelings about dating apps. The first emailer asks how to navigate the early stages of dating a sober person. Should she address it before planning the first date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was thwarted by a full moon. Later, a listener asks how to deal with their partner being a workaholic. Is there room for compromise or are they just not the match? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about leftovers, white lies, and Jared’s alleged doppelganger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/19/20221 hour, 34 minutes, 4 seconds
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Can Awkward Sex Be A Deal Breaker?

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana answer an email from a listener asking if her situationship fizzled because of an awkward sexual encounter. They went on four good dates, but when they finally had sex, it was a letdown. He started being distant afterwards, so she texted him to ask what was up. J&J break down the texts to try to figure out what happened here. Was it really about the sex? And does it really matter either way? Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about dating rules and dog pics on dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/16/202234 minutes, 6 seconds
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Is It Normal To Have FOMO When You’re In A Relationship?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about how we’re all living in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what it takes to really be excited for a first date. The first emailer asks if she’s crazy for wanting to marry her first serious boyfriend. Is FOMO from her single friends a sign that she needs to date around more? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very needy puppy. Later, an emailer asks how to make it clear to her guy friends that she’s not romantically interested in them. Are they even her friends in the first place? Finally, J&J give justice to The Original Cottage Inn and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birth control and dating app ghost writers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/12/20221 hour, 22 minutes, 6 seconds
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It’s Okay To Admit You Don’t Want Something Casual

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she’s seeing casually. They talked about making plans for the weekend, but he wasn’t sure of his schedule and said he would let her know. When she didn’t hear from him she assumed he just wasn’t interested, but when he reached out later, she gave him a piece of her mind. Is she wrong for expecting him to follow up on plans even though they were keeping it casual? Plus, they discuss why pretending you don’t care doesn’t work. They finish the episode with a game of J&J’s Final Say to settle the debate on parental approval for moving in together and bad dating app profiles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/9/202227 minutes, 20 seconds
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Is It A Red Flag If My Boyfriend Stays In Touch With His Ex?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about their New Year’s resolutions. Then, they answer an email regarding a TikTok that lists questions you should ask on a first date to avoid wasting time. Do those questions actually help you get to know someone? Is anything really a waste of time in dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a chicken suit. Later, an emailer writes in about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s ex. Is an ex ever calling just to “catch up”? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about never-nudes, first date hygiene, and chain restaurants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/5/20221 hour, 34 seconds
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Is It Possible To Separate A Potential Love Interest From Their Income?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about money and dating. First, they answer an email from a listener who makes ten times more than her boyfriend. Should she decline his offers to pay for dates? Then, Jared and Jordana are joined by Kurt and Steven, the stars of Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer, to discuss the new show and how much money matters when it comes to love. Finally, they debate some unpopular opinions about jobs, money, and dating multiple people at once. Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer premieres with a two-hour event on Thursday, January 6 at 8/7 Central on FOX Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/2/202244 minutes, 19 seconds
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What Does “Settling” Actually Mean?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by reflecting on this year of the pod. The first emailer asks if she’s being too picky or not picky enough when it comes to dating. Should she swipe right on fewer people or give those matches more time to develop a connection? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing condom. Later, a listener asks if guys like her less because she offers to pay for dates. Is it a turn off to men? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about masturbation, shirtless selfies, and New Year’s Eve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/29/20211 hour, 8 minutes, 12 seconds
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Why Do Some Women Reject “Sweet” Guys?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about being single around the holidays. Then, they dissect the breakup texts between a listener and a woman he went on two dates with. Why would she keep flirting with him after saying she doesn’t want to go out again? Plus, they discuss why she says he’s too sweet for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/26/202128 minutes, 15 seconds
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Jordana’s Wedding: A Dramatic Reading (U Up? With Benefits Excerpt)

As a special holiday gift, we present to you an excerpt from Jordana’s wedding, as read by J&J on the latest U Up? With Benefits. To hear more, subscribe now on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and check out the episode entitled “Jordana’s U Up? Themed Wedding”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/23/20219 minutes, 35 seconds
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Does Every Situationship Deserve A Breakup?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion of Jared’s first appearance on @deuxmoi and how men approach commitment differently than women. Then, an emailer asks how to break up with someone she’s never even met. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a fast and furious adventure. Later, a listener writes in about a situation with her long distance boyfriend who doesn’t want to move to be near her. What does his resistance mean for their relationship? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about SAT scores and love languages. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/22/20211 hour, 24 minutes, 42 seconds
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Why Does He Keep Texting Me Without Planning A Date?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener submitted screenshots from a guy who rescheduled a date because he was sick. He kept the conversation going for a while but eventually left her on read. Why would he put in the effort to keep texting her to ghost later? Should she ask him what went wrong? Finally, they play a new game called J&J’s Final Say where Jared and Jordana weigh in on Instagram polls about bringing your S.O. home for the holidays and using dates to move on from a break up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/19/202132 minutes, 2 seconds
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Does It Matter How Many People They’ve Slept With Before You?

On today’s episode Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s new favorite first date spot and Jordana’s first date shirt. The first emailer asks if the number of people you’ve slept with matters in a relationship. Should she be concerned if her boyfriend initially lied about his “body count”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unexpected guest. Later, an emailer asks how she should approach dating while freezing her eggs. When should she bring this up to guys she’s dating? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about French kissing and car decorations. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/15/20211 hour, 9 minutes, 39 seconds
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All Too Well (Taylor’s Version) (J&J’s Version)

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about Taylor Swift and the ten minute version of All Too Well. Jordana shares how her own dating experiences have informed her perspective on the song, and they discuss the nuance that is missing from the Jake Gyllenhaal conversation. Plus, they talk about how failed 3-monthers can actually make you a better dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/12/202136 minutes, 1 second
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Jared Reviews Jordana’s Wedding

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s wedding and her feelings about being married. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a trip to the emergency room. Later, a listener writes in asking if guys are no longer approaching women in bars post-lockdown. Is this a new trend in the dating world or are these guys just not into her? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Photoshop and charcuterie boards. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/8/20211 hour, 15 minutes, 13 seconds
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Do I Really Need My Stuff Back From My Ex?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff back from her ex. What is his motivation to hang on to these things? And what items should you just let go of in a breakup? Plus, they discuss how the reasons for a breakup get spun by each side of the relationship. Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries about fish pictures and goat DNA. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/5/202133 minutes, 12 seconds
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You Are Your Explore Page

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for swiping left based on height. Should she stick with her preference or try to be open in case she misses out on a great match? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roommate that didn’t realize what she was walking in on. The next emailer asks how she can make it clear that she’s networking and not flirting with men she meets at events. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding dates and meeting the parents. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/1/20211 hour, 6 minutes, 19 seconds
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When To Take The Loss In Dating

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was the f*ckboy in the situation and whether or not the guy’s response was justified. Is it ever okay to send a Venmo request for a meal you originally agreed to pay for? Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries featuring overly sexual and overly earnest prompt responses. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/28/202133 minutes, 55 seconds
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The Pros & Cons Of Meeting On The Apps

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post articles about “golden penis syndrome” and divorce rates among couples who met on dating apps. Then they discuss the new Hinge voice recording feature and whether or not they would use it on their own profiles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves shower sex and a flooded pool table. Then they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about your location, dog Instagram accounts, and bedtime routines. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/24/20211 hour, 24 minutes, 58 seconds
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How To Handle A Breakup With A Coworker

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break up on her birthday, he’s been completely avoiding her at work and making things uncomfortable. How should she reach out to him to end the awkwardness? Plus, they discuss his motives for ignoring her. Finally, they play Sunday Swiping Scaries with dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/21/202132 minutes, 2 seconds
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Lightning Round: Thanksgiving Invites, Holiday Gifts, And Nosey Family Members

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about dating during the holiday season with topics ranging from buying gifts to dealing with nosey family members. Plus, they discuss deciding where to spend the holidays when you’re in a relationship, keeping dating momentum going during the holiday season, and tips for bringing someone home for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/17/202159 minutes, 43 seconds
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How To Stop Wasting Time On People Who Aren’t Making You A Priority

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling because he’s busy and exhausted. Will he want to date when the time is right or is he just looking for a hookup? Later, J&J play a new game called Sunday Swiping Scaries where they discuss dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers and decide whether to swipe right or left. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/14/202140 minutes, 21 seconds
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Do Exes Always Come Back? Ft. Ricky Velez

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first emailer asks if walking away to get a guy to commit ever works. Does it actually mean anything when guys come back? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a misplaced piece of gum. Another emailer asks if being disinterested in sex is a sign she should end her long term relationship. Finally, J&J are joined by comedian Ricky Velez to discuss his new HBO special and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about concerts, creepy exes, and TSA pre-check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/10/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 18 seconds
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When Should Couples Start Mixing Finances? Ft. Berna Anat

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start with a discussion about how Berna ended her long-term relationship and how they mixed and unmixed their finances. Then they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend is resisting starting a savings account with her. Is his hesitation about his relationship with money or his relationship with her? Plus, they discuss how money is tied to our emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/7/202148 minutes, 44 seconds
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Is Dating Easier For Men?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is easier for guys. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is too close to his mom. Will she ever be his go-to for advice and support? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a hat-fish situation. Later, a listener asks how seriously she should take other women’s warnings about a guy she went on three great dates with. Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about seat belts and Androids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/3/20211 hour, 33 minutes, 57 seconds
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The Best Way To Approach Failed Situationships

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costume plans. This week’s emailer asks if you can set your standards too soon. In her relationship with a self-proclaimed avoidant dater, she tried to call him out for keeping her at a distance and asked if he saw their relationship getting more serious. It didn’t go as she hoped, and now she’s wondering how things would’ve gone if she had waited to set her standard. Plus, they discuss why people date with no purpose in mind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/31/202134 minutes, 36 seconds
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What Is “The Reveal”?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The first emailer asks if “we weren’t exclusive” is the new “we were on a break.” Is exclusivity a technicality? And are there different expectations for people you meet IRL versus on the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken disaster. Later, a listener asks why she feels the need to “win” the break up with her ex. Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog dads, mama’s boys, and wine etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/27/20211 hour, 28 minutes, 58 seconds
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How To Cut Ties With The Guy In Your DMs

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or just being friendly. J&J dissect their texts and DMs to decide. Should she make a move? Plus they discuss why men love vague relationships and what they get out of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/24/202127 minutes, 8 seconds
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How To Talk To Your S.O. About Sex

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates to dating. The first email is from a listener who wants to know how to get her boyfriend to put in more effort in bed. How should she bring this up to him in a constructive way? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nose bleed and an unfortunate roommate run in. Later, a listener asks if she should get back together with her ex. Is getting back together ever a good idea? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cringe-worthy hobbies and third wheels on the first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/20/20211 hour, 15 minutes, 52 seconds
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How To Write An Effective Standard-Setting Text

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever worth it to “chase” someone. After three dates, she felt like his communication became inconsistent and he always had excuses to not meet up, so she sent a text to set her standard. Jared and Jordana debate the effectiveness of her text and analyze his response. Should she keep pursuing this guy? Plus, they discuss why guys don’t take the out when you give it to them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/17/202140 minutes, 24 seconds
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What Are The Signs That You’re In Love?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The White Lotus. The first email is from an admittedly analytical listener asking how you actually know when you’re in love. Could research ever find you an answer? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a close call with a friend’s parents. Later, a friend group asks how to deal with making more money than most of the guys she ends up dating in their small hometown. How should they talk about money with their dates? And how should they handle men who are intimidated by this wage gap? Finally they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about siblings, private social clubs, and LinkedIn stalking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/13/20211 hour, 30 minutes, 45 seconds
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When Is It Okay To Have A Serious Conversation Over Text?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communication. After a girl he was newly seeing started texting him a lot, he asked to dial it back, but her reaction was not what he expected. How should he have handled this situation? Plus, they discuss when, if ever a text is better than a phone call for a serious conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/10/202130 minutes, 11 seconds
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How Dating Buzzwords Might Be Hurting Your Love Life

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at using dating apps. The first emailer asks what the difference is between love bombing and the honeymoon phase. Does love bombing always have to be toxic? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an OB/GYN in training. Later, an emailer asks how to deal with going out with her friends and getting more attention from guys than they do. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about first date selfies, indigestion, and rule followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/6/20211 hour, 25 minutes, 46 seconds
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Am I The F*ckboy?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckboy, she doesn’t believe the romantic things he says when he comes back into her life, but she continues to hook up with him anyway. Is she leading him on now? Plus, J&J discuss relationships that drain your dating battery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/3/202118 minutes, 54 seconds
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Would You Really Want To Know Why Someone Broke Up With You?

Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on December 8th. The first emailer asks how much information is too much in a breakup. Is it helpful to give someone the specific reason you’re ending a relationship or is it just cruel? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blow job mishap. Later, a listener asks how she should balance wanting to date with loving her consistent routine. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about business dinners, Kim Kardashian, and shower schedules. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/29/20211 hour, 3 minutes, 9 seconds
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How To Confront Your S.O. About Sketchy Texts

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s phone. Should she be concerned by this message? How should she bring this up to him without breaking the trust in their relationship? Plus, they discuss how to deal with his potential reactions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/26/202120 minutes, 41 seconds
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How To Know If You’re A Rebound

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email asks how to know if you’re someone’s rebound. If they constantly bring up their ex, does it mean they’re not over them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual request. Later, a listener asks if a guy she’s seeing is doing too much too soon. Is he weird or is she just not into him? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaccination cards and Instagram pictures. U Up? Live is coming back this winter for a one-day show on December 8 in New York City! Tickets are available for pre-sale starting September 22nd. Visit betches.co/uuplive21 and use code BETCHES between now and Friday before tickets are made available to everyone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/22/20211 hour, 16 minutes, 50 seconds
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Are Different Political Views A Deal Breaker?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating. They start out with a conversation about how heightened political differences have manifested on dating apps. Then they answer an email from a listener about a guy she’s been seeing who has different opinions on heavy topics like guns. Do their differences mean they’re doomed? Plus they discuss how you should broach conversations about these topics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/19/202135 minutes, 38 seconds
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Can I Be Confident And Insecure At The Same Time? Ft. Violet Benson

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How should she express interest outside of texting and social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very hot car. Later, they answer an email from a listener asking how to be vulnerable with her partner about her insecurities. Finally, J&J are joined by Violet Benson, host of Too Tired To Be Crazy, to discuss her dating life and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about roommates and squatty potties. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/15/20211 hour, 18 minutes, 15 seconds
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What Does A F*ckboy Get Out Of Being Friends?

Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met last October. At first he says he didn’t want a relationship and she was fine with that, but they continued to hang out and hook up. Eventually they have a DTR talk and he says he can see them dating in the future, but he needs to figure his own life out. Is he a f*ckboy for giving her hope for the future? Or should she have taken him at his original word? Plus they discuss how to know what being in love feels like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/12/202134 minutes, 15 seconds
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What To Do When You Let Your “Crazy” Show Too Soon Ft. Giannina Gibelli

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she’s not physically attracted to him. Can attraction grow over time? Is it a deal breaker if it doesn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a bloody nightmare. Later, an emailer asks if she can recover from letting her “crazy” show too soon. Should she address it or just move on? Finally, J&J are joined by Love Is Blind star Giannina Gibelli to chat about life after the show and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about making plans, serial daters, and wedge salads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/8/20211 hour, 19 minutes, 39 seconds
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How Long Is Too Long To Wait For A Text Back?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign. Do long messages make up for taking 48 hours to respond? Are these long waiting periods okay at any point in a relationship? Plus, they discuss what enthusiasm actually looks like over text. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/5/202130 minutes, 15 seconds
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Should I Accept A “Hangout” Date?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana’s feelings on the first Betches baby. A listener emails in asking if you can be too busy to date. Is it even worth it to schedule a date two weeks away? Or does she need to reprioritize? The awkward sex story involves a misplaced naked man. Later, an emailer asks how to go back to “real” dates after you’ve done a “hangout” date. Is there a more serious version of the hangout date? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leaves them asking, “How many plants is too many plants?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/1/20211 hour, 13 minutes, 30 seconds
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What You Should Ask Yourself Before You Break Up Ft. Logan Ury

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share more wisdom with Jared and Jordana. They start out with a discussion about post-pandemic dating from Logan’s research at Hinge and how it might be different from what “shot girl summer” predicted. Then, they discuss why we often look over the consistent, “nice” person and tips for going on dates the right way. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who isn’t sure if she wants to stay with her boyfriend of 5 years, and Logan gives advice on how to know if you’re settling or not. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/29/202148 minutes, 23 seconds
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Lightning Round: Dating In The Age Of Social Media

Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers and give real solutions to all of your social media issues, from how to craft the perfect DM to when to make your relationship Instagram official. Plus, they discuss which social media behavior should be a red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/25/20211 hour, 9 minutes, 29 seconds
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Does Playing Games Ever Work?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a guy she had been dating for about 3 months. They met through mutual friends, but he was sketchy about her meeting his other friends. After an awkward situation where neither of them made the move to say hello in public, she decided to call it off. Did she overreact? Or did the situation prove that they’re looking for different things? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/22/202124 minutes, 18 seconds
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Why Would He Act Like My Boyfriend But Not Want To Date?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener for our newest segment, F*ckboy or Nah? Does honesty make someone exempt from f*ckboyhood? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a mystery for Jared and Jordana to solve. Later, they answer an email about money etiquette when on vacation with your boyfriend’s family. Should you make an effort to pay for something or enjoy the hospitality? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about moms on Facebook and Close Friends on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/18/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 7 seconds
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Can You Set Your Standard Too Low?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app went well, but the second date was rescheduled and the third was canceled. She sent a text setting her standard for following through on dates, and they ended up deciding to take things slow and keep it casual. Over a few weeks of being friends with benefits, his communication gets more and more inconsistent, and he ultimately tells her they can’t hook up anymore. Why would he want to end a casual but consistent hookup? Plus, J&J discuss the expectations in a casual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/15/202127 minutes, 54 seconds
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How To Date Multiple People At Once

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks how to juggle dating multiple people at once. When does she have to choose one guy to focus on? Does she need to tell them she’s dating around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a dangerous food fetish. Later, J&J answer another email from a listener asking how she should bring up that she’s unsure about having kids. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about poetry, social media comments, and picky eaters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/11/20211 hour, 14 minutes, 28 seconds
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When Is It Time To Block Someone?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener shares screenshots from her FWB who won’t take a hint that she’s no longer interested. Did she lead him on? How can she cut ties without feeling guilty? Plus they discuss the female version of a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/8/202124 minutes, 7 seconds
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What Does Being A F*ckboy Actually Mean?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What is a f*ckboy anyway?” J&J break down what actually makes someone a f*ckboy and where a lot of people get the definition wrong. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an infection in an unexpected area. Later, an emailer asks how to break off a relationship with her professor without getting anyone in trouble or impacting her grades. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about unconventional living situations and going viral. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/4/20211 hour, 14 minutes, 47 seconds
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Your Love Language Is Whatever You’re Getting The Least

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they answer an email from a listener who asks how to get more words of affirmation from her husband. Is it annoying for her to keep asking? Plus, Jordana shares a similar issue she had with her fiancé and how she dealt with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/1/202126 minutes, 12 seconds
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Is Cheating Always A Deal Breaker?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change one of her Hinge prompts. Will some guys always try to make it sexual or is her prompt putting out that vibe? A listener’s romantic vacation goes to sh*t in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend of 10 years cheated on her. Can they still make it work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leads to a conversation about bedroom decor, weight loss, and outfit choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/28/20211 hour, 25 minutes, 9 seconds
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How To Date In Your Twenties Ft. Dr. Meg Jay

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is still up in the air. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/25/202150 minutes, 51 seconds
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Why Am I Offended If I Don't Even Like Him?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be more independent from his family? And is it rude to ask to spend less time with his family? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram hashtags, former friends with benefits, and unread text messages. Get the brand new "IRL Summer" hat by going to: shop.betches.com/collections/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/21/20211 hour, 38 seconds
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How To Know If The Timing Is Off Or If They're Just Not That Into You

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/18/202127 minutes, 29 seconds
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Lightning Round: Your Summer Dating Questions Answered

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/14/20211 hour, 23 minutes, 14 seconds
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What To Do When You Catch Feelings And They Don’t

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she was seeing long-distance for about two months. It was supposed to be casual, but she caught feelings and his reaction was confusing. If he says he didn’t want to end things, why would he still be using Tinder? Can she still bring this up even if they haven’t put a label on it? Plus, they discuss what it actually means to use someone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/11/202123 minutes, 22 seconds
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Why Don’t My Friends Like The Guy I’m Seeing? Ft. Iliza Shlesinger & Margaret Cho

On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’ concerns about a guy she’s seeing. Why won’t they elaborate on their warnings? And should she give him a chance to explain himself? A listener’s fiancé confesses a dirty little secret during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Then, a listener asks if you can get back together if the breakup was for mental health reasons. Should he reach out or let it go? Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by Iliza Shlesinger and Margaret Cho to chat about their new movie Good on Paper and the real-life story behind it. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker inspired by the movie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/7/20211 hour, 27 minutes, 44 seconds
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Am I Settling Or Did I Just Find The Right Person Early? Ft. Lori Gottlieb

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what type of relationship issues Lori sees in therapy and how COVID has impacted them. Then they get into Lori’s book Marry Him and what you should actually look for in a long-term partner. Later, they answer an email from a listener who is anxious about planning a future with her boyfriend. Is it normal for her to feel she should date around more? How can she stop feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? Plus, they discuss how our pasts play out in our dating choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/4/202136 minutes, 17 seconds
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How To Tell If A F*ckboy Has Actually Changed

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer an email from a listener asking if a f*ckboy can change his ways. Does him not wanting to hook up mean he’s more into her or less? The Awkward Sexual Encounter almost ended with penis surgery. Then (content warning) at around the 49 minute mark, a listener shares a story about being harassed by a stranger and asks how to turn down men when they hit on you in public. What should you do to stay safe in this situation? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about pregnancy paranoia and unexpected erections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/30/20211 hour, 24 minutes, 10 seconds
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Am I Being Avoidant Or Do I Just Not Like Him?

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks because he never wanted to sleep over. Did she end it too soon? Or did she never really like him in the first place? Plus they discuss miscommunication when it comes to dating expectations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/27/202127 minutes, 33 seconds
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How To Keep Your Summer Fling From Fizzling Ft. Jared’s College Ex, Ashley Bisman

On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she try to keep in contact while she’s out of town? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a dinner disaster. Later, a listener asks how to deal with being stereotyped by people she’s dating. Are stereotypes the real reason this guy doesn’t want to take her hiking? Finally, Jared and Jordana are joined by Jared’s college ex and author Ashley Bisman for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about multi-level marketing companies and Shrek. Check out Ashley's brand new book: Chasing Butterflies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/23/20211 hour, 16 minutes, 44 seconds
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Should I Call Out A Breadcrumber?

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are you also a breadcrumber for continuing the conversation? Plus they discuss how to take control of your dating life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/20/202122 minutes, 3 seconds
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Is It Weird To DM Someone If You Didn’t Match On The Apps?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a listener's email about sliding into someone’s Twitter DMs. Can Twitter DMs be used for dating like Instagram? What should she say to make her move? An emailer finds a surprise in her sink during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, a listener asks how to compromise on decor when moving in with your significant other. What can differences in decor style tell you about a relationship? Finally, J&J end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about phone contact names for parents and bumping into dates while they’re on other dates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/16/20211 hour, 20 minutes, 34 seconds
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Is Infidelity Inevitable? Ft. Dan Savage

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage. They start out with a discussion of how Dan’s advice has evolved over the past 30 years and his thoughts on monogamy. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose ex-boyfriend left her for the same woman they had a threesome with. How should she approach threesomes in her current relationship? Plus, they discuss how to develop trust and boundaries in an open relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/13/202155 minutes, 33 seconds
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Do I Have What It Takes To Have A Hot Girl Summer?

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about the world opening back up when you’re single versus when you’re in a relationship. Then they read a break up contract sent to a listener by her now ex-boyfriend. Can you take a long-term relationship back to a short-term relationship? How do finances play into a breakup? A listener learns about blue balls in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, J&J answer an email asking exactly how to have a hot girl summer. Finally, Dylan Hafer, host of Betches’ new podcast Pop Alarm, joins J&J for a round of celeb-inspired Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/9/20211 hour, 20 minutes, 42 seconds
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Why Do Exes Come Back Pretending To Want Friendship

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. This week’s emailer wants to know if her ex actually wants to be friends or if there’s another reason for him staying in touch. Is it ever a good idea to stay friends with an ex? J&J break down why he’s holding onto the friendship and what she should do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/6/202124 minutes, 35 seconds
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Lightning Round: Dating App Pictures, Bad Kissers, And Emotionally Slutty Boyfriends

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round, answering 20 questions submitted by our Instagram followers with topics ranging from first date conversations to spicing up long-distance relationships. Plus, they discuss the best pictures to use on dating apps and how to correct someone’s kissing style. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/2/20211 hour, 48 minutes, 7 seconds
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Are Personality Types Relevant In Dating?

J&J are back with another Sunday Special all about personality types and how they factor into dating. They answer an email from a Type A listener with a Type B boyfriend who doesn’t know how to deal with their differences. Do these personality types actually determine compatibility? Do opposites attract or are their differences in cleanliness and punctuality a deal breaker? Plus, they discuss how to assess which qualities are most important to you in a partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/30/202120 minutes, 15 seconds
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How To Hit On Someone Without Being Creepy Ft. Camille Kostek

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a pep talk for going back out into the world. Then they answer an email from a listener who doesn’t know if she should ask someone out at their workplace. Is there an appropriate way to show someone you’re interested without making them uncomfortable? A listener gets an unpleasant surprise during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they weigh in on an email from a listener wondering what it means for her relationship that she actually enjoys dating long distance. Finally, J&J are joined by Wipeout Host Camille Kostek for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about skincare, unconventional living situations, and Instagram captions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/26/20211 hour, 14 minutes, 10 seconds
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Is Alcohol F*cking Up My Dating Life?

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reading texts from a listener who thinks she might have ruined her chances with a dating app match by drunk texting him. The emailer describes her previous pattern of drinking too much and scaring guys off with her drunk texts, but she got it together during quarantine and finally feels ready to get back out there. That is until a night out with her coworkers. How should she address the drunk texts? And should she tell him she’s working on her relationship with alcohol? Plus J&J discuss when it’s time to talk to a professional. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/23/202131 minutes, 8 seconds
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Dealing With A Breakup

J&J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s relationship status. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a 69 gone wrong. Later, they answer a listener email about a guy who wants to be in a one-sided open relationship. Is it a red flag that he wants her to sleep with other people? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaping, voice messages, and airport hygiene. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/19/20211 hour, 36 minutes, 15 seconds
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How To Tell Your Best Friend You Have Feelings For Them Ft. Tinx

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, LA, and San Francisco. Then they dive into Tinx’s dating life and her Box Theory about the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating. Later, they answer a listener’s email asking if she should tell her best friend she has feelings for him, and Tinx shares her personal experience of falling in love with her best guy friend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/16/202154 minutes, 41 seconds
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Will My Relationship Survive After The Pandemic?

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman who unmatched him on Raya. The first email asks how to deal with going back to the office when her boyfriend wants to continue their nomadic pandemic lifestyle. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves three condoms and a dog. Later, J&J try to figure out why a guy bailed on a listener in the middle of their first date. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Chick-Fil-A and a recycled pick-up video. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/12/20211 hour, 6 minutes, 12 seconds
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A Matchmaker’s Guide To Finding Love Ft. Matchmaker Maria

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into matchmaking and how she applied her matchmaking strategies to meeting her own husband. Maria breaks down how the matchmaking process works, the types of guys who hire matchmakers, and how men and women differ when it comes to matchmaking. Later, Maria explains when to have sex with someone new using her 12 date rule, and they answer an email asking about how to set up your friends the right way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/9/202157 minutes, 46 seconds
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Is Faking An Orgasm Anti-Feminist?

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is it ever okay to fake it? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost too gross to believe. Later, an emailer asks J&J to sort out her boyfriend’s shady phone behavior. Is it always a bad sign if your S.O. doesn’t want to share their passcode? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about someone’s history of cheating and peeing in cups. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/5/20211 hour, 13 minutes, 15 seconds
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Not Everyone Who Doesn’t Want To Date You Is A F*ckboy

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener received some very lengthy text messages from someone she was dating essentially saying, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Does his long explanation and apology mean he is being genuine? Or is he just like other guys who run at the first sign of a serious relationship? Plus, they discuss what actually makes someone a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/2/202129 minutes, 41 seconds
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How To Have Casual Hookups Without Feeling Disrespected

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email asks how to have casual relationships without feeling disrespected. Are they always just about 2AM booty calls? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bed wetter and an early morning streak across a college campus. Later, a listener writes in hypothesizing that you shouldn’t date someone who’s new to your city if you’re looking for a serious relationship. How should someone who just moved to town position themselves if they are looking for something serious? Finally, they finish the episode with a new segment called What Would J&J Say? to ghostwrite a listener's text to her ex-boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/28/20211 hour, 20 minutes, 44 seconds
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Is My Coworker Flirting Or Just Being Friendly?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in wanting to know if her work crush is flirting with her or just being friendly after their first Zoom meeting felt more like a first date and he offered to help her move. Should she make another move after her initial ask for drinks fell through? Plus, they share their general advice for navigating romantic relationships at work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/25/202137 minutes, 27 seconds
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What You Should Know Before You Pay For Dating App Features

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you look desperate. Would you be turned off by someone sending you a Hinge rose? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter is surprisingly nutritious. Later, an emailer writes in asking how to find an “ass-smacking nice guy” after not feeling the sexual chemistry on first dates. Is there a middle ground between the guy who’s too shy to make a move and the guy only looking to hook up? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about verified check marks and Alexa devices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/21/20211 hour, 17 minutes, 14 seconds
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Is He Bad At Planning Or Does He Just Not Care?

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling their dates. The emailer thinks the chemistry is there but worries he’s only looking to hook up. How many chances should you give someone to schedule a real date? Should she give him another chance if he reaches out again? Plus, they discuss how to know if a guy is taking you seriously. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/18/202129 minutes, 59 seconds
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Are You Setting Your Standards Or Avoiding Rejection?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quarantine. An emailer sends in a screenshot of a dating app conversation where she sets her standards of looking for a relationship, but she isn’t sure if the response is sincere. At what point does the “what are you looking for?” conversation actually matter? During the Awkward Sexual Encounter, a listener gets nostalgic about a water bed mishap. Later, an emailers asks for advice on how to handle meeting her boyfriend’s parents when they’re already biased against her for her age and ethnic background. How should her boyfriend be responding to this situation? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about Cheesecake Factory and first date locations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/14/20211 hour, 5 minutes, 56 seconds
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How To Spot a Lazy Dater Before You Get In Too Deep

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seeing. A listener writes in after her DTR conversation with a long-distance romance did not go as she hoped. Was she reading the signs all wrong? Plus, they talk about the clues that someone is a lazy dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/11/202127 minutes, 25 seconds
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Lightning Round: Dating App Tips, F*ckboy Streaks, And Running Into Exes

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our usual email format, they answer 20 questions with topics ranging from how to get excited about using the dating apps, to running into exes, to how to get your S.O. to go to therapy. Plus, they give their best tips for moving in with your partner, making a dating app profile, and reaching out to a fling that ended because of the pandemic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/7/20211 hour, 14 minutes, 26 seconds
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Why Do People Still Get Married?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to your S.O.? Plus, J&J talk about the benefits of marriage today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/4/202131 minutes, 5 seconds
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How Long Should It Take For Them To Say “I Love You”?

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another emailer asks for advice on getting back together with an ex whose family doesn’t like her, but J&J see some bigger problems with the relationship. Finally, they finish up the episode by playing Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about zodiac compatibility and LinkedIn affairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/31/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 17 seconds
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Am I An As*hole If I Keep Hooking Up With Someone Who Has Feelings For Me?

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty call without addressing his feelings? Plus, they talk about the best way to be honest about your intentions for a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/28/202127 minutes, 49 seconds
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Can You Call Dibs On A Dating App Match?

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another listener asks about girl code surrounding dating app matches. Is it fair to be mad at your friend for going out with a guy you matched with first? Finally, they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about dog custody battles and bad tattoos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/24/20211 hour, 21 minutes, 1 second
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How Many White Lies Make A Red Flag?

Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/21/202127 minutes, 8 seconds
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Do I Really Want To DTR Or Is It Just Relationship Anxiety? Ft. Victoria Justice

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than your average sex-scapade. Another emailer writes in for advice on how to tell her boyfriend that he’s not invited to her family vacation until he puts a ring on it. Do you need to be engaged before introducing your significant other to your extended family? Finally, they close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breakers all about trust with special guest Victoria Justice to discuss her new movie Trust, out March 12th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/17/20211 hour, 13 minutes, 45 seconds
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How To Ask For What You Want In Bed Without Offending Your Partner Ft. Dr. Emily Morse

On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their partner. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she and her boyfriend will ever be sexually compatible if they weren’t on the same page in the first place. Then another emailer asks how to deal with a clueless sexual partner, especially when he shows no interest in offering her pleasure after he orgasms. They close the show with a conversation about giving directions to someone and not just expecting them to anticipate your needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/14/202157 minutes, 38 seconds
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Should I Wait To Break Up Until It’s More Convenient To Move Out?

Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a UTI and a stained toilet. Another emailer asks how to break up with her uncommunicative boyfriend after moving in together. Is it ever worth staying in a relationship if you can't afford your apartment lease on your own? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, which leads to a conversation about whether or not you should tell your partner when someone else hits on you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/10/20211 hour, 4 minutes, 55 seconds
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How Do I Know If The Person I'm Dating Is Ready To Move On From Their Ex?

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/7/202135 minutes
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How To Apologize To An Ex You Treated Poorly

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/3/20211 hour, 21 minutes, 15 seconds
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Is It Ever Worth Trying To Make It Work With a Bad Communicator?

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/28/202118 minutes, 3 seconds
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How To Set The Expectation That You Won’t Be Hooking Up Before A Date

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/24/20211 hour, 25 minutes, 35 seconds
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How To Get A Straight Answer About Why Your Fling Suddenly Ended

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/21/202128 minutes, 8 seconds
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Can I Ask My Partner To Pay More If They Make More? Ft. Mike Johnson

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/17/20211 hour, 26 minutes, 56 seconds
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How Do I Tell My New Partner About My Food Issues? Ft. Aleen Dreksler

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/14/202150 minutes, 45 seconds
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What Are The Valentine’s Day Expectations In A New Relationship?

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/10/20211 hour, 7 minutes, 5 seconds
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How To Not Die Alone Ft. Logan Ury

On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/7/20211 hour, 5 minutes, 28 seconds
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Is There A Way To Salvage A Relationship With Very Different Marriage Timelines?

The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/3/20211 hour, 6 minutes, 28 seconds
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How Many FaceTime Dates Equal One IRL Date?

This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/31/202136 minutes, 17 seconds
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How To Get Your Parents To Stop Pressuring You To Date

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/27/20211 hour, 19 minutes, 17 seconds
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Everything You Need To Know About Dating With Herpes Ft. Erica Spera

This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/24/20211 hour, 3 minutes, 48 seconds
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Should I Tell Him I Snooped On His Phone If I Didn't Like What I Saw? Ft. Stephen Colletti & James Lafferty

J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/20/20211 hour, 25 minutes, 47 seconds
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Does An Expensive Date Imply That He Wants A Relationship Or Sex?

The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/17/202132 minutes, 30 seconds
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Is It Normal To Keep Track Of Every Date You’ve Been On?

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/13/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 20 seconds
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How To Spot An A*shole Who’s Pretending He’s a Nice Guy

This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/10/202120 minutes, 40 seconds
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Is There Ever A Chance A Long Term Hook Up Can Turn Into A Relationship?

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/6/20211 hour, 10 minutes, 18 seconds
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Is It a Bad Sign if He’s Saying He Doesn’t Want to See Me Until the Pandemic is Over?

This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices