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The Hardcore Self Help Podcast with Duff the Psych

English, Health / Medicine, 1 season, 402 episodes, 4 days, 14 minutes
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This is a podcast dedicated to answering your questions about mental health, anxiety, depression, relationships, sex, and life WITHOUT psychobabble BS. I am Dr. Robert Duff, a psychologist from Southern California, but I'm also a regular dude who legitimately wants to help out. I wrote the best selling books Hardcore Self Help: F**k Depression and Hardcore Self Help: F**K Anxiety. Those are available at http://hardcoreselfhelp.com
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397: What Kind of Therapy Is Right for Me?

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we dive deep into a listener’s question about finding the right therapy for a variety of complex mental health issues. This 29-year-old woman is struggling with childhood trauma, mental health challenges such as anxiety and depression, and relationship issues. She is also seeking guidance on possible autism/ADHD symptoms and needs help navigating the overwhelming array of therapy options available. We explore the IPA framework (Immediacy, Problem, Approach) to help her and others identify the most suitable types of therapy. Additionally, we discuss the different types of therapists and their qualifications, the importance of cultural competency, and practical tips for finding a good therapist using various resources. This episode is a comprehensive guide for anyone looking to start their therapy journey. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode397 Support for today’s episode comes from OneSkin. I’m really excited to share OneSkin’s products with you because I’ve seen great results myself. Their topical supplements are scientifically proven and free from over 1,500 chemicals and preservatives that can cause irritation, making them perfect for sensitive skin. Just cleanse, pat your skin dry, and apply their OS-1 Face, Eye, Body, or Shield products twice daily. They fit easily into your current skincare routine. Founded by an all-woman team of scientists, OneSkin’s products target cellular senescence, a key hallmark of aging. Their OS-01 peptide has been shown to reverse skin’s biological age by reducing senescent cells by up to 50%. For a limited time, you can try OneSkin for 15% off using the code DUFF at oneskin.co. 
5/17/202449 minutes, 28 seconds
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396: Her Doctor Failed Her - Privacy for Youth in Psychiatry, Suicidality Assessment, and Advocating for Your Past Self

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you. A listener who survived a suicide attempt at 13 is considering reaching out to the pediatric psychiatrist who assessed them during their hospitalization. They feel that the presence of medical students during their assessment was inappropriate and impacted their honesty. They're seeking guidance on how to provide feedback and advocate for their younger self.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode396   Links:   https://www.nami.org/advocacy/   https://www.patientadvocate.org/   ---   Ready to release your stressors and find a safe space to talk? Try BetterHelp, an entirely online therapy platform that fits your schedule. Fill out a brief questionnaire to get matched with a licensed therapist, and switch therapists anytime for no extra charge. Get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff  
5/10/202422 minutes, 24 seconds
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395: Overcoming Agoraphobia, Common Exposure Mistakes, Amygdala Reactivity, and More

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle a profound listener question that may resonate with many of you.   A listener struggling with agoraphobia seeks guidance on overcoming their anxiety and finding motivation to pursue exposure exercises. They’ve been working with a therapist and taking anxiety medication but feel stuck. We explore the complexities of agoraphobia, the importance of prolonged exposure, and strategies for building motivation and support.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode395 ---   Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin’s peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.    
4/26/202427 minutes
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Episode 394: Finding Focus with ADHD & The Surprising Upside of Missing Medication

Hello, friends!   In today’s episode, we tackle two thought-provoking listener questions that may resonate with many of you:   Cymbalta Conundrum: A listener shares their experience with Cymbalta, a medication prescribed for panic disorder. They noticed feeling amazing on days they forgot to take the medication, leading them to wonder if they truly needed it. We explore the concept of conditioned compensatory response, the effects of medication on the body, and the importance of gradual tapering.   ADHD Focus Struggles: Another listener struggles with focus and motivation despite trying various medications and strategies. We discuss the complexities of ADHD, the importance of environmental adjustments, and techniques like mindfulness, Pomodoro intervals, and accountability to improve focus and productivity.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode394   ---   Take care of your social battery with BetterHelp! Their online therapy platform offers flexible scheduling and matching with licensed therapists. Get 10% off your first month with the code "duff" at http://betterhelp.com/duff  
4/19/202429 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 393: When to Say I Love You & Numbness in Face After TBI

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we explore the deep and complex emotions involved in expressing love within romantic relationships and the challenging path to recovery following a severe traumatic brain injury. We kick off with a question about the appropriate timing for saying “I love you” in a romantic context, especially considering cultural differences and personal challenges such as being on the autism spectrum. Our listener’s journey brings forward the importance of understanding personal feelings and the unique dynamics of each relationship. We then shift to an inspiring yet poignant story of miraculous recovery and the persistence of hope. Another listener shares the journey of their mother’s recovery from a severe traumatic brain injury resulting from a car accident. While her recovery has been astonishing, they grapple with the lingering issue of facial numbness. This story highlights the incredible resilience of the human body and spirit, the complexities of the brain's healing process, and the necessity of advocating for comprehensive care that addresses all facets of recovery. As we navigate these profound topics, remember, whether it's about expressing love or facing the aftermath of a traumatic event, the journey is deeply personal and filled with opportunities for growth and understanding. As always, you can send your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode393 --- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.
4/12/202425 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 392: Helping a Friend with OCD & Being Controlling After Moving In

Hello friends! In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Harm OCD and Supporting a Friend: A listener shares their concerns about how to best support a friend struggling with harm OCD. They've noticed their attempts to help by offering reassurance or checking things for their friend might actually be counterproductive. We dive into the nature of OCD, the impact of well-meaning actions, and how to genuinely support someone without reinforcing their compulsive behavior. Finding Balance Amidst Life's Transitions: Another listener talks about the challenges of transitioning to a full-time job and living with their partner after college. They've found themselves clinging to rigid routines that have begun to control their life, seeking advice on how to break free from these patterns without losing their sense of stability. We explore the importance of flexibility, communication, and self-awareness in navigating these significant life changes. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode392 ---- Are you trying to find the perfect balance between social activity and recharging your batteries? Therapy can help! Try it out with BetterHelp at http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.
4/5/202428 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 391: Panic Disorder & Caregiving for a TBI

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two interesting questions that delve into the heart of mental and emotional challenges many of us face. First, we explore the complex world of panic disorder through the eyes of a 24-year-old graduate student grappling with severe panic attacks. Their story illuminates the physical and psychological intensity of panic disorder, revealing how it transcends mere stress or anxiety to significantly disrupt daily life. We dissect the cycle of fear and avoidance intrinsic to panic disorder and discuss the critical importance of specialized care and therapy in navigating this condition. Next, we turn our attention to the challenges faced by caregivers of individuals with dementia resulting from traumatic brain injuries (TBI). One listener shares the struggle of balancing caregiving with personal self-care, seeking resources and support to manage this demanding role. We offer guidance on finding online and in-person resources, emphasize the importance of self-care for caregivers, and encourage seeking professional help to ensure both the caregiver's and the loved one's needs are met. As always, you can send your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode391. --- Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.
3/29/202433 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 390: Gender Identity in Therapy & Standing Up to Mom

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Dealing with Hurtful Family Comments: A listener is troubled by their mother's deeply hurtful comment, suggesting they have been a source of stress since birth. We explore the emotional impact of such comments, consider the role of health issues in behavior, and discuss strategies for coping and moving forward. Navigating Identity and Therapy: Another listener, a closeted trans man, shares their experience of coming out to their therapist and the mixed responses received. We delve into the importance of understanding and navigating gender identity within therapy, especially in conservative environments, and ponder whether seeking a gender specialist, in addition to their current therapist, might be beneficial. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode390 ---- This episode is sponsored by Babbel, the language learning app that's as close as you can get to immersion from your own home. Designed for real-life conversations, Babbel is backed by science and makes learning new languages practical and enjoyable. I've even used my Spanish skills from Babbel in a real client meeting! Get started with Babbel and enjoy 55% off your subscription by visiting babble.com/duff. Conditions apply. Exploring what truly matters to you can be transformative, and therapy can help. BetterHelp provides convenient, online therapy to fit your life. Start with a questionnaire, match with a licensed therapist, and switch anytime. Focus on what makes you happy with BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff.
3/22/202435 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 389: Am I Bugging My Therapist? & Abusive Ex Using Kids Against Me!

Hello, friends! In today’s episode of the podcast, we dive deep into two incredibly relatable listener questions that touch on emotional and psychological challenges many of us might face. Our first discussion revolves around the complex emotions of worrying about one’s therapist. One listener shares their concern about being a burden by repeatedly discussing the same issues, particularly body dysmorphia, fearing it might negatively impact their therapist. We unravel this common fear, emphasizing the nature of therapy and the professional capacity of therapists to manage their own feelings and support their clients effectively. In our second exploration, we address the heart-wrenching situation of a listener navigating the aftermath of an abusive marriage, particularly the impact on their children. This listener’s struggle with their ex-partner’s manipulation and its effect on their relationship with their children brings to light the challenges of co-parenting and protecting one’s mental and emotional well-being during such turbulent times. We offer insights into seeking support, understanding the dynamics at play, and strategies for maintaining a healthy relationship with one’s children amidst external pressures. As always, your thoughts and questions are invaluable to us. Reach out via [email protected] or explore more resources at http://duffthepsych.com/episode389. Your journey is important, and we’re here to support you every step of the way. --- Breathe Easy with Air Doctor: Spending most of our time indoors means we're often exposed to more pollutants than outside. Air Doctor's air purifier, featuring an UltraHEPA filter, captures over 99% of airborne particles, even those as small as .003 microns, ensuring your indoor air is cleaner and healthier. Try it risk-free for 30 days and get up to 40% off at airdoctorpro.com with promo code DUFF. Nourish Your Skin with OneSkin: Combat dry, aging skin with OneSkin's peptide-powered products, including their moisturizing body lotion and the innovative OS-01 SHIELD SPF. Address skin issues at their root with a 15% discount using code DUFF at oneskin.co.
3/15/202433 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 388: Building Emotional Intelligence & Partner is Afraid of Pictures

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we dive into two listener queries that shine a light on the complexities of emotional experiences and relationships. First, we explore the journey of someone grappling with childhood emotional neglect, unpacking the long-term effects of growing up in an environment where emotions were disregarded and undervalued. Our listener shares their struggle with feeling emotionally disconnected and their quest for a path toward healing and emotional awareness. Then, we shift gears to discuss the challenges faced by a couple when one partner feels uncomfortable with being photographed. This scenario opens up a dialogue on insecurities, the significance of memories captured in photos, and the importance of understanding and respecting each other’s boundaries. As always, you can send me your questions at [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode388. --- Feeling overwhelmed by the never-ending to-do list? Discover how to prioritize what truly matters with BetterHelp. Their convenient, flexible online therapy helps you allocate time for what's important, letting you focus on happiness. Start today at betterhelp.com/duff and get 10% off your first month. Prioritize your well-being with BetterHelp.
3/8/202424 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 387: Should I Still Talk to My Ex?

Hello friends! In this episode, we delve into a deeply personal and complex question that touches on the lasting impact of past relationships, the nuances of friendship, and the boundaries within a current, happy marriage. A listener shares their experience of not being able to stop thinking about an ex, despite being happily married and having no desire to rekindle a romantic relationship. They discuss the significance of this past relationship during a pivotal time in their life and ponder whether they should attempt to cultivate a friendship or strive to move on completely. We explore the importance of acknowledging the role this person played in their life, while also considering the potential implications for their current relationship. The conversation includes practical advice on navigating these feelings, communicating with both the spouse and the ex, and setting healthy boundaries. We also discuss the potential for "relationship drift" and the importance of being honest with oneself about the true motivations and possible outcomes of re-establishing contact. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode387. ---- Discover healthier snacking with Chomps’ tasty meat sticks, packed with protein and free of unhealthy additives. Enjoy 20% off your first order with free shipping at chomps.com/duff, and make better snack choices with their humane, responsibly sourced meat in nine delicious flavors.
3/1/202423 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 386: Starting Dating in 30s & Navigating BPD in the UK

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and impactful listener questions, uncovering layers of self-discovery, acceptance, and the ongoing journey towards healing and love: Embarking on a Journey of Self-Discovery and Love: A 32-year-old male shares his transformative journey from battling addiction and isolation to embracing therapy, wellness, and the realization of his deep desire for love and intimacy. Facing fears of rejection, exploring his sexuality, and stepping into the dating scene, he seeks guidance and affirmation that it's never too late to find love and form meaningful connections. Navigating Mental Health Challenges in the UK: A listener from the UK expresses frustration with the mental health support system, revealing a recent diagnosis of BPD after years of being treated for depression. Despite facing suicidality and feeling abandoned by the healthcare system, they search for hope and strategies to cope with the intense highs and lows of BPD, highlighting the urgent need for compassionate and effective mental health care. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode386. --- BetterHelp: Navigate the complexities of relationships and dating with BetterHelp. It’s not just about couples therapy; individual therapy can significantly enhance your dating journey, improving communication and self-awareness. Start your journey with BetterHelp online, tailored to your schedule, and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff. Dive into therapy designed for you, because understanding yourself is the first step to connecting with others. Babbel: Kickstart your language learning journey in 2024 with Babbel! Whether refining conversational skills or mastering pronunciation, Babbel’s 10-minute, expert-crafted lessons pave the way to fluency in just 3 weeks. Embrace a new language with tools rooted in real-life situations, and get 50% off a lifetime subscription at babble.com/duff. Let’s learn together and make language barriers a thing of the past.
2/23/202434 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 385: Obsessing Over New Relationships & Recovering from Sexual Assault

Hello, friends! In today’s episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Navigating Romantic Relationships and Self-Esteem: A listener seeks advice on managing the anxiety and self-doubt that accompany new romantic relationships. We discuss the concept of "correct rejections" and explore strategies for nurturing a healthy sense of self-esteem, such as focusing on personal growth and savoring moments of joy. Overcoming Trauma and Self-Doubt: Another listener shares their struggle with self-doubt stemming from a traumatic experience. We emphasize the importance of self-compassion and challenge the stigma associated with seeking help. We discuss the benefits of therapy and self-help resources, as well as the empowering nature of setting challenges and connecting with others. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode385 ---- OneSkin: OneSkin's skincare products, developed by Ph.D. level scientists, simplify your routine and reduce skin's biological age with their proprietary peptide OS-1. Use code "DUFF" at oneskin.co for 15% off. AirDoctor: AirDoctor's air purifier removes 100% of particles as small as .003 microns, circulating air in 600 square foot rooms four times per hour. Use promo code "DUFF" at airdoctorpro.com for up to 40% off.
2/16/202426 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 384: All About Depression

Hello friends! In today's in-depth episode, we embark on a comprehensive exploration of depression, a condition that's far more complex than the occasional sadness or the transient moods we all experience. Our journey aims to shed light on the multifaceted nature of depression, affecting individuals across the globe in myriad ways. We delve into the clinical aspects, the personal stories, and the common misconceptions surrounding this pervasive mental health condition. We start by breaking down the very concept of depression, moving beyond the simple definition to uncover its roots and how it impacts the human experience. Through the lens of the DSM-5, we explore the criteria for diagnosing Major Depressive Disorder, highlighting the diversity of symptoms and the profound effect they have on individuals' lives. Our discussion takes a personal turn as we examine the experiences of James and Ellie, two hypothetical cases that illustrate the varied manifestations of depression. James, with his outward success masking an internal struggle, and Ellie, facing overt challenges in her transition to college life, offer insights into the silent battles many face. Addressing common misconceptions, we challenge the stigmas associated with depression, emphasizing its complexity and the fact that it's not a sign of weakness, nor is it something one can simply "snap out of." We also touch upon the idea that depression can affect anyone, regardless of how "good" their life may seem. As we move towards solutions, we discuss the treatability of depression, underscoring the effectiveness of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. We emphasize that for those facing this condition, there is hope, and a multitude of resources available to support their journey towards recovery. In closing, we reaffirm the importance of understanding, empathy, and support in the battle against depression. We encourage our listeners to reach out for help, to engage in conversations about mental health, and to seek the resources necessary to navigate this challenging yet treatable condition. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode, including links to resources and further reading, at http://duffthepsych.com/episode384. ---- Sponsored by BetterHelp: In my journey to enhance my relationships, I've found therapy invaluable for navigating the complexities of connections with others. BetterHelp offers online therapy that's tailored to your needs, allowing you to work through relationship challenges with a licensed therapist from the comfort of your home. Start your journey towards healthier relationships and get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff. Sponsored by Chomps: If you're like me and snacking is your Achilles' heel, Chomps is the game-changer you need. Their meat sticks are not only a healthier snacking alternative but are also packed with protein and come in delicious flavors like taco, made from high-quality, sustainably sourced meat. Take advantage of 20% off your first order plus free shipping by visiting chomps.com/duff.
2/9/202437 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 383: Alternatives to Adderall & My Therapist Talks Too Much!

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that I'm sure many of you will find relatable and insightful. Navigating Therapy with a Talkative Therapist: One listener shares their experience with a therapist who often overshadows the session with personal stories, leaving them feeling unheard. This is particularly challenging as the listener is dealing with a controlling spouse with dementia. We explore the importance of feeling heard in therapy, the role of therapist's self-disclosure, and the value of assertiveness in therapeutic relationships. We also discuss the concept of transference and how it can impact therapy sessions. Considering Alternatives to Adderall: Another listener seeks advice about a close relative looking to taper off Adderall, which they've been dependent on for managing ADHD. We discuss the complexities of ADHD diagnosis and treatment, delve into the pharmacology of Adderall, and explore its side effects and potential for psychological dependence. Additionally, we examine Provigil (Modafinil) as an alternative, highlighting the differences in abuse potential and side effects. We also touch upon other medication options like Strattera, Intunive, Clonidine, and Wellbutrin, and emphasize the role of therapy and coaching in managing ADHD. As always, your questions and stories bring a depth of understanding to our discussions. If there's something on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at [email protected]. For full show notes, please visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode375. --- This episode is brought to you by Babbel, the science-backed language-learning app with quick, 10-minute lessons tailored to your level. Get 55% off your subscription at babbel.com/duff and start speaking a new language in as little as three weeks. Rules and restrictions may apply. This episode is also sponsored by BetterHelp, the convenient online therapy service. Reflect on your strengths and build on them with a licensed therapist, tailored to your needs and schedule. Visit betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month and start celebrating your progress.
1/26/202433 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 382: Changing Name at Work & Dealing with Emotional Numbness

Hello friends! In today’s episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that touch on deeply personal experiences and emotional challenges: Exploring Identity Through Name Change: Our first question comes from a listener who has recently undergone the significant process of legally changing their name, a journey often intertwined with gender identity and personal transformation. We discuss the complexities of introducing this change in a professional setting, especially in environments where such changes might not be widely accepted. We explore strategies for communicating the change, dealing with potential challenges, and staying true to one's identity. Confronting Emotional Numbness: The second question addresses a concerning experience of emotional numbness, where even significant life events fail to elicit expected emotional reactions. We delve into the concept of anhedonia, its connection to depression, and the possible causes of this emotional disconnection. Practical advice is offered on how to reconnect with emotions, including mindfulness techniques, behavioral activation, and the importance of considering physical health factors and professional help. As always, your questions and experiences enrich our discussions and bring valuable insights to our community. If there's a question or topic on your mind, don't hesitate to reach out at [email protected]. For full show notes and more resources, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode382. ---- Discover healthier snacking with Chomps' tasty meat sticks, packed with protein and free of unhealthy additives. Enjoy 20% off your first order with free shipping at chomps.com/duff, and make better snack choices with their humane, responsibly sourced meat in nine delicious flavors. Breathe easier with AirDoctor's air purifiers, independently tested to remove 99.99% of airborne allergens and pollutants. Get up to 40% off at airdoctorpro.com using promo code DUFF, and transform your indoor air quality with their efficient, high-capacity filtration.
1/19/202434 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 381: Is it Impossible to Thrive as a Therapist & Long-Distance Driving Anxiety

Hello friends! In today's episode, we delve into two compelling listener questions that many of you might find relatable: Confronting Career Anxiety in Private Practice: A newly licensed listener, transitioning from a non-profit agency to private practice, shares their struggles with the unpredictability of work and income, leading to increased anxiety. They contemplate returning to a full-time job, questioning the future of their career in mental health. We discuss the common challenges faced in different work settings, strategies for managing career uncertainty, and ways to find a fulfilling path in the mental health profession. Navigating Highway Anxiety with a Unique Twist: Another listener, who enjoys driving but experiences anxiety on long highway trips, seeks advice for their unusual situation. Despite a well-managed health condition and ruling out vision problems, this anxiety poses a significant obstacle, especially for family commitments requiring long travel. We explore potential triggers, the importance of understanding anxiety's impact, and practical tips for gradually overcoming this specific driving anxiety. As always, your questions are the heartbeat of our show. Feel free to send your thoughts or inquiries to [email protected]. For full show notes and more insights, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode381. ------ If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.
1/12/202433 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 380: Dopamine Misconceptions

Hello friends! In today's enlightening episode, we delve deep into the intricacies of neurotransmitters, specifically dopamine, and their impact on our behavior and mental health. We also touch on trichotillomania and the role of medications like Wellbutrin in treating such conditions. Demystifying Dopamine and Serotonin: We kick off by addressing a common oversimplification in the world of mental health. Dopamine and serotonin are often reduced to mere 'happiness' and 'reward' chemicals in popular culture. We explore how these neurotransmitters are far more complex and play a variety of roles in our body, from movement and mood regulation to learning and memory. Understanding Neurotransmitters: What exactly are neurotransmitters like dopamine? We explain their crucial role in brain communication and their diverse functions. We also discuss other key neurotransmitters such as serotonin, acetylcholine, epinephrine, norepinephrine, GABA, and glutamate. Dopamine's Role Beyond Pleasure: Moving beyond the 'feel-good molecule' tag, we delve into dopamine's involvement in anticipation of rewards, motivation to pursue goals, and its critical role in learning and habit formation. Impact of Modern Habits: How do activities like scrolling on social media, playing video games, or watching TV series influence our dopamine levels? We discuss how these activities engage our brain's reward system and the concept of negative reinforcement in avoiding stress or emotional discomfort. Trichotillomania and Dopamine: Addressing a listener's specific concern, we explore trichotillomania, a complex mental health condition involving recurrent hair pulling. We examine the potential roles of dopamine, serotonin, glutamate, genetic factors, and environmental influences in this disorder. Wellbutrin - A Closer Look: What about medications like Wellbutrin? We clarify how Wellbutrin, or bupropion, an NDRI, differs from other antidepressants and its effectiveness in treating depression, aiding smoking cessation, and its potential implications in treating trichotillomania. Final Thoughts and Recommendations: We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of seeking professional advice for personalized treatment plans, especially for conditions like trichotillomania, and encourage listeners to keep sending their thoughtful questions and topics. As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode380 ---- The new year isn't all about change. Keep and build upon your progress with the help of a licensed therapist through BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff
1/5/202426 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 379: My Word for 2024 Is...

Hello, friends!  In this episode, I will be wrapping the year up by reflecting back on 2023 and my word for the year, which was "Identity." I talk about what I learned and explored this year and then I tell you what I have chosen as my word for 2024. It should be a fun one! Take care of yourselves, and I will see you in 2024! --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.
12/22/202331 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 378: Emotional Immaturity & Making Friends After Bullying

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we delve into two very relatable and poignant listener questions that highlight the complexities of personal relationships and social anxiety. Navigating Emotional Maturity in Relationships: Our first discussion revolves around a listener's five-year relationship with her boyfriend. She's passionate about personal growth but finds her boyfriend, though professionally driven, lacks emotional maturity in their relationship. We explore the challenges of addressing emotional immaturity in a partner, the balance between accepting inherent personality traits and fostering growth, and the importance of direct communication and understanding in nurturing a healthy, supportive relationship. Coping with Social Anxiety and Jealousy in Adolescence: The second question comes from a 13-year-old listener in the UK, grappling with feelings of jealousy and social anxiety. They talk about the challenges of making friends, the impact of bullying, and the complexities of navigating friendships with older peers. We discuss strategies to manage social anxiety, the significance of self-reflection, and the importance of recognizing one’s value in friendships. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode378. ---- Air Doctor is an at-home air purifier that filters out nearly 100% of particals as small as .003 microns. It is whisper quiet and super easy to use. If you suffer from horrendous allergies like me, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to $300 off! If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.
12/15/202332 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 377: Preparing for Couples Therapy & Managing Depersonalization and Derealization

Hello friends! In Episode 377, we tackle two profound listener questions that shed light on unique mental health and relationship challenges. Our first discussion revolves around a listener gearing up for couples therapy. They share their apprehension about conveying years of experiences within the confines of therapy sessions. We explore strategies for effective communication, the importance of preparation, and utilizing therapy as a starting point rather than a complete solution. The conversation also touches on the usefulness of additional resources like therapy workbooks and individual therapy in enhancing the couples therapy experience. The second question comes from a 23-year-old male experiencing derealization, depersonalization, and occasional panic attacks. These symptoms make him feel detached from his environment and himself, as if living in an unreal world. We dive into understanding these phenomena, identifying possible triggers, and discussing various coping methods. These include sensory grounding techniques, mindfulness practices, and the potential roles of therapy and medication in managing these dissociative experiences. Your questions continue to add depth and insight to our discussions on mental health. If you have any questions or topics you'd like to share, please send them to [email protected]. For full show notes and additional resources, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode377. --- The holiday season can be rough. If you need extra support to get through it, consider trying online therapy with BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff If you are looking for a brain reset and the normal avenues of therapy and medication aren’t doing it for you, consider doing at-home ketamine therapy with Mindbloom. Head over to http://mindbloom.com/duff and use to code duff for $100 off!
12/8/202338 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 376: Absent Father Issues & Being a Young Manager

Hello friends! In today's insightful episode, we delve into two intriguing listener questions that touch upon deeply personal and relatable topics. First, we explore the lasting impact of growing up without a father. One of our listeners shares their lifelong struggle with the absence of a paternal figure, revealing how it shapes their relationships and fears about parenting. We discuss the complex emotions tied to this experience, including the search for paternal qualities in partners and the challenges it brings. The journey of understanding and healing from such a deep-rooted issue is unpacked, offering perspectives on self-reflection, therapy, and personal growth. Our second question shifts focus to the challenges of young leadership. A listener in their early 20s, already in a management role, grapples with being taken advantage of due to their age. They seek advice on asserting themselves and managing a team with more life experience. We dive into the nuances of assertive communication, the balance between firmness and collaboration in leadership, and the importance of self-confidence, irrespective of age. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode376. --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off.
12/1/202337 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 375: Anxiety About Nose Job & Privacy In Telehealth Therapy

Hello friends! In today’s insightful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that delve into personal struggles and the complexities of therapy in the modern world. Our first discussion revolves around a listener's internal conflict about undergoing a nose job. They share their long-standing desire for this procedure, influenced by cultural norms and compounded by severe anxiety. We explore the importance of understanding the underlying reasons for wanting cosmetic surgery, the impact of cultural pressures, and strategies for managing anxiety related to such a significant decision. The second question opens a window into the world of telehealth therapy and the challenges of maintaining privacy in less traditional settings. A listener shares their experience of feeling uneasy about the lack of privacy during their online therapy sessions. This concern leads us to discuss the crucial aspects of privacy in therapy, the legal and clinical implications, and the importance of addressing and resolving such concerns with your therapist. As always, you can send me questions at [email protected] and find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode375. --- If you are looking for a product that not only helps to hydrate your skin but can actually reverse signs of skin aging, check out http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF for 15% off. The holiday season can be rough. If you need extra support to get through it, consider trying online therapy with BetterHelp. You can get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff  
11/17/202330 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 374: Persisting in a Broken World & Recognizing Narcissism in Yourself

Hello, friends! I hope you're all managing to keep your spirits up. In today’s thoughtful episode, we tackle two profound listener questions that may resonate with many of you: Contemplating Narcissism and Self-Improvement: A listener is troubled by the possibility of being a narcissist, an idea suggested by their ex-partner. They're engaging in therapy and self-help but wrestle with the question: Are they truly non-empathetic or just struggling with poor coping mechanisms? We explore the characteristics of Narcissistic Personality Disorder, the journey of self-awareness, and the importance of recognizing and addressing negative behaviors. Seeking Purpose Amidst Global Turmoil: Another listener shares their struggle to find the motivation for personal improvement in a world filled with conflict and despair. How can one persist in therapy and self-care when the future seems so uncertain? We discuss the significance of hope, the resilience of humanity, and finding personal value in the face of global challenges. Your stories and questions are what make this podcast a rich community. If something's on your mind, drop me an email at [email protected]. For full show notes, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode374. Remember, while the podcast can offer guidance, it's not a replacement for professional help. Stay tuned for more, and take care of yourselves. --- If you are feeling DRY like me these days, check out OneSkin. Their revolutionary peptide moisturizer helps to not only hydrate your skin, but also eliminate the senecent cells that contribute to aging. Get 15% off at http://oneskin.co and use the code DUFF at checkout. I have been LOVING CoPilot. They are an amazing fitness app that pairs you with a personal trainer to create customized workouts to meet your goals whether you work out at home or in the gym. Get a 15-day free trial with an actual personal trainer at http://go.mycopilot.com/duff
11/10/202331 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 373: Overcoming Overthinking

Hey everyone! Hope you're finding moments of peace amidst the chaos. Today's episode peels back the layers of anxiety that can really twist our brains into knots. We're responding to a heartfelt question from a listener who's finding themselves in a tangle of overthinking, especially when it comes to new relationships. Unraveling the Anxiety Knot: We've all been there, so let's talk about overthinking, anxiety, and how they team up to throw us for a loop. I'm rolling out some practical tips that come from both personal battles and professional strategies to help ease that mental gridlock. Mindfulness: More Than Just Zen: We're distinguishing between kicking back for relaxation and the active practice of mindfulness. It's all about focusing your thoughts, not just deep breathing. I’ll guide you on how to navigate through your brain's maze and dodge those cognitive booby traps. Self-Compassion: Your Secret Weapon: It’s super important to remember to be gentle with yourself. Struggling with overthinking is common, and it's okay not to have all the answers. Keeping busy can be a good distraction from ruminating thoughts, and sometimes, a little distraction is exactly what we need. Don’t shy away from asking for an outsider's perspective. Friends, family, or a therapist can provide that valuable reality check. Big Picture Perspective: Keep in mind, this too shall pass. The worries that seem mountainous today are often just pebbles on the path of life. Life's a wild ride, and it's not meant to be spent in a constant state of worry. You're capable, and you've got a whole community here rooting for you. Got a question you're itching to ask? Drop me a line at [email protected]. And for a deeper dive into today's topic, check out the detailed show notes over at http://duffthepsych.com/episode373. Stay safe, and see you in the next episode! --- If you need an amazing gift that will make everyone ask where you got it, check out the wide variety of unique products over at http://uncommongoods.com/duff 
11/3/202331 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 372: Finding Balance in College & Spending Addiction

Hello, friends! Hope you're all doing splendidly. Today's episode dives into the nuances of financial anxieties and the challenges of managing impulsive shopping habits. Two heartfelt listener questions guide our discussion, shedding light on personal struggles and the broader societal context: Tackling Shopping Habits & ADHD: A loyal follower from Vermont expresses concerns over her shopping habits, leading to financial difficulties, accentuated by her newly diagnosed adult ADHD. We delve into the difference between compulsive shopping and anxiety-driven financial behaviors, offering clarity and understanding. The profound influence of ADHD on financial decisions: a look into impulsivity and executive dysfunction. Addressing societal pressures, the modern capitalist world, and their impacts on our financial stresses. Strategies for Financial Well-being: Exploring actionable steps to regain financial control and establish a balanced relationship with money. Emphasizing the importance of budgeting and planning to avoid impulsive bill payments and purchases. Techniques to curb immediate spending impulses and create a waiting period before making purchases. The value of community support, accountability, and journaling for self-awareness and reflection. The potential for therapy to understand and address deep-seated beliefs and behaviors about money. Remember, seeking balance and understanding in our relationship with money is a journey, not a destination. Taking proactive steps, seeking support, and focusing on self-awareness can pave the way for healthier financial habits. As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode372 ---- If you are looking for a brain reset and the normal avenues of therapy and medication aren't doing it for you, consider doing at-home ketamine therapy with Mindbloom. Head over to http://mindbloom.com/duff and use to code duff for $100 off! The holiday season is rapidly approaching and if you are looking for a unique gift for someone that is difficult to shop for, look no further than Uncommon Goods. Head over to http://uncommongoods.com/duff for 15% off!
10/28/202333 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 371: Is This Cheating?, Annoyed at Phones, & Meds Before Therapy

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well. In today's insightful episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions that touch on feelings of regret after a relationship and the challenges of adapting to a technology-driven society: The Complexities of Relationships & BPD A 27-year-old male grapples with feelings of regret after rekindling a relationship with an ex-partner diagnosed with BPD. We discuss the intricate nature of relationships with individuals diagnosed with BPD, emphasizing understanding, compassion, and communication. Highlighting the importance of self-awareness and personal boundaries when navigating the potential of re-entering a relationship. Shedding light on the challenges of revisiting past connections and the role of personal growth and change. Navigating a Technology-Driven World A listener shares their post-pandemic struggles with adapting to a world where mobile phones dominate social interactions. We explore the societal shift towards digital interactions and the challenges of feeling disconnected in an ever-connected world. Addressing feelings of annoyance with public cell phone usage and ways to reframe our perspective for better adaptability. Questioning medical advice and advocating for the importance of therapy as an initial treatment approach. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode371. --- If you are in the market for a product that actually heals your skin at the molecular level to reverse signs of aging, check out OneSkin. Use the code DUFF at http://oneskin.co for 15% off! And if you would like some assistance in helping your brain act more like a friend and less like a cat that's annoyed at you, try professional therapy entirely online with BetterHelp. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off!
10/20/202332 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 370: Unusual Response to ADHD Meds & Safer BDSM Practices

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is well. In today’s enlightening episode, we delve into two insightful listener questions that touch on ADHD medications and the world of BDSM: The Nuances of ADHD Medications A concerned friend notices that their peers, after starting ADHD medication, exhibit what seems to be exacerbated symptoms. We delve into the complexities of ADHD medication, understanding its effects, and the importance of individualized treatment. Exploring the balance of neurotransmitters, the potential for overstimulation, and the common trial-and-error phase of medication adjustment. The importance of observation, empathy, and open communication when approaching friends or loved ones about potential medication side effects. Journeying through BDSM Interests from Childhood to Adulthood A listener shares their deep-seated interest in BDSM activities from an age as young as six, raising concerns about their adult relationships and personal safety. We explore the broad scope of BDSM, its misconceptions, and the importance of self-awareness and education in safely navigating the BDSM community. Touching upon the potential overlaps between Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA) Autism and BDSM tendencies, and the significance of therapy in understanding oneself better. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode370  ---- If you are looking for expert training, accountability, and a real person to help you achieve your fitness goals, check out CoPilot at go.mycopilot.com/duff for a 14 day free trial and a real personal trainer to get your started. The holiday season is rapidly approaching. If you are in the market for unique gifts that are handmade or sold by small businesses, check out Uncommon Goods. They are an awesome marketplace with everything from bar equipment to crafts, to mugs, to jewelry. Head over to http://uncommongoods.com/duff for 15% off your next gift.
10/13/202338 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 369: Avoiding Depression Relapse & Questioning Parenthood

Episode 369: Navigating Personal Struggles & Motherhood Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today’s episode, we delve into two deeply personal and powerful listener questions: 1. A 26-year-old woman shares her journey from the depths of a severe depression to her current stable and fulfilling life. Despite her progress, she grapples with anxiety about possibly regressing into her past depressive state. We explore the resilience of overcoming challenges, the changes that occur within us as we grow, and the power of reflection and gratitude in maintaining mental health. 2. A single mother of two confronts the painful reality of potentially repeating the patterns of her own tumultuous childhood. With raw honesty, she reveals her struggles with emotional, mental, and occasional physical abuse towards her children. In response, we discuss the profound challenges of motherhood, the potential for growth and change, and the importance of seeking resources and support. Resources Mentioned: Child Welfare Information Gateway A comprehensive resource hub offering assistance on various topics, from adoption to strengthening families. National Parent Helpline A platform that provides support to parents and caregivers. They offer a directory of parent resources by state. For more detailed information and links, please visit the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode369. As always, if you have questions or topics you’d like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. --- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you find yourself stuck in a rut, consider enlisting the help of a licensed therapist online. Head to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month!
10/6/202330 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 368: How to Overcome Anxiety About Flying

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today’s episode, we take a deep dive into a pressing concern from a listener who's experiencing heightened flight anxiety, especially after a recent panic attack. Having flown multiple times without issues, the sudden resurgence of this anxiety, coupled with the responsibility of traveling with her two kids, has intensified her worries. We discuss the nature of panic attacks, the paradox of fearing anxiety itself, and the importance of anchor thoughts. By understanding the physiological similarities between anxiety and excitement, one can redirect their focus to positive anticipations. We also emphasize the pitfalls of safety behaviors and the significance of relying on support systems, even those onboard. Lastly, we highlight the importance of self-compassion, preparation, and recognizing one’s resilience in facing such challenges. Additionally, we touched upon the value of grounding techniques like box breathing, the potential of distractions, and the concept of transforming anxiety into excitement using anchor thoughts. We also explore the idea of viewing each phase of the flight as milestones rather than triggers. As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode368. Links mentioned: Pilot walks you through the sounds of a plane Mel Robbins discusses her strategies for overcoming plane anxiety
9/29/202329 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 367: Preventing Age Discrimination and Promoting Longevity

Hello, listeners! I hope you're taking care of yourselves and finding moments of joy. In today's episode, we deep dive into a comprehensive question from one of our loyal listeners. This listener shares their journey, from discovering our podcast through a Men's Health article on mental health to now being engrossed in Dr. Becca Levy's book "Breaking the Aging Code." The core of their question revolves around the challenges the aging population faces, particularly concerning mental health. They highlight the troubling fact that the majority of mental health providers do not accept older patients on Medicare and express concerns about receiving appropriate care as they age, especially without having a family advocate by their side. Our discussion touches upon the age bias prevalent in the medical community and the importance of proactive health measures, both mentally and physically. We delve into the effects of cardiovascular health on cognitive abilities, the significance of continuous learning and social interactions, and the role of stress in aging. Furthermore, we emphasize the importance of advocating for oneself, understanding the intricacies of Medicare, and the potential benefits of seeking younger medical practitioners who may have a fresh perspective on care. Thank you for consistently sharing your thoughtful questions. They add depth and perspective to our conversations. If you have questions or topics you'd like us to address, please reach out to [email protected]. Don't forget to check out the detailed show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode367. ---- This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you would like an outlet for your relentless thoughts, try out talking to a licensed psychotherapist entirely online. Head to http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off! 
9/22/202336 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 366: Explaining My Polyamorous Relationship & Supporting a Partner in Grief Over a Pet

Hello, everyone! I appreciate your attention and hope you are doing well. In our first segment, we dive into a topic that's close to my heart - the evolution of my own marriage into a non-monogamous, polyamorous relationship. I unravel the intricacies of non-monogamy, elucidate the various terminology surrounding it, and give an insight into my personal journey of 'opening up'. If you're curious about polyamory, its various facets, or simply want to understand what it means to navigate such a relationship, this segment offers a comprehensive overview. The next question touches upon a sensitive yet universal theme: grief. A listener reaches out, concerned about her partner's impending loss of his beloved cat, Jimmy, who has been a steadfast companion through some of life's most challenging moments. We discuss the profound impact pets have on our lives, the unique grief associated with their loss, and strategies to navigate this emotional terrain, especially when mental health challenges are at play. As always, your stories and questions provide invaluable insights, making every episode a journey of discovery. If there's a topic or question you'd like addressed in future episodes, please send them to [email protected]. For a detailed breakdown of today's episode, check out the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode366. ---- If you are looking for a quick and simple skin care routine that targets aged cells to promote longetivity that is backed by science, check out http://oneskin.co and use the coupon code DUFF for 15% off. For many people, therapy and traditional medications are not enough to truly help their depression and anxiety. Luckily there are other options, such as Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine treatment. Get $100 off your first series at http://mindbloom.com/duff and use the code DUFF at checkout.
9/15/202347 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 365: Getting Autism Diagnosis as an Adult & Living with Partner's PTSD

Hello, all! I hope that you are staying healthy and safe. In this episode, I cover two very interesting questions. In the first, someone has been through almost every treatment for depression and anxiety under the sun, yet they still struggle. Their therapist suggested that they may be on the autism spectrum and the person is wondering whether it would be useful to get an evaluation. We discuss the potential benefits as well as how to go about finding (and affording) an evaluation. Next, someone has PTSD from their partner's PTSD reactions. Their partner is a war veteran with multiple brain injuries and the question-asker is wondering how they can stay afloat mentally when their partner does not get help. We talk about ways to avoid codependence, how to establish boundaries, and when to call it quits. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode365 ----- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Rather than letting your thoughts stay swirling around in your mind, get them out by talking to a licensed therapist. Try BetterHelp today and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff Also, don't forget to check out my new shop. I'm putting out new designs all the time including this awesome mug:
9/8/202325 minutes, 53 seconds
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Episode 364: PTSD with Psychosis & Body Dysmorphia Cured by Loss

Hello, friends! I hope you're treating yourselves well. In this episode, I dive into two compelling listener questions that touch on complex emotional states and mental health diagnoses. First up, we discuss what it means to be diagnosed with PTSD with "schizophrenic episodes." If you've ever been confused by mental health jargon or diagnoses, this segment will provide some clarity. We'll break down the DSM criteria for PTSD and explore the possibility of psychotic symptoms within the framework of trauma. Our second question is a deeply emotional one. It's about the sudden disappearance of body dysmorphia and low self-esteem following the death of an abusive parent. Can such a significant life event dramatically shift one's self-image? We'll delve into the complexities of grief, closure, and self-perception in this intriguing discussion. As always, your engagement keeps this show going. Send your questions to [email protected] for a chance to be featured in future episodes. For full show notes, head to duffthepsych.com/episode364.
9/1/202334 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 363: Treating a Phobia of Wasps & Adjusting to Moving in With a Partner

Hello, friends! I hope you are treating yourselves well. In this episode, we dive deep into two thought-provoking listener questions. Our first discussion revolves around a listener who's grappling with a profound fear of wasps, known as spheksophobia. This phobia has had a significant impact on their quality of life, especially during the summer. We delve into the nature of specific phobias, their prevalence, and debunk some common misconceptions about wasps. Moreover, we explore potential strategies for addressing and managing such fears, emphasizing the role of exposure therapy and the significance of understanding one's fear hierarchy. The second question opens a window into the world of a couple navigating the challenges of moving in together. One partner has relocated from a cherished home, and both are experiencing the typical growing pains of cohabitation for the first time. We discuss the importance of communication, curiosity, and compromise in this new chapter of their relationship. By establishing routines, rituals, and shared spaces, they can create an environment that feels like home to both, while also setting aside time for individual activities to foster a deeper bond. Your questions always bring valuable insights to our conversations. If there's a question or topic on your mind, feel free to send it over to [email protected]. For full show notes, head to http://duffthepsych.com/episode363. ---- If you are looking for an air purifier that is powerful enough to circulate the air in your room four times per hour and can eliminate airborne particles as small as 0.005 microns, be sure to check out Air Doctor. Right now, you can get 40% off by using the code "duff" at http://airdoctorpro.com    Life doesn't come with a road map. Whether it is navigating changes in your relationship or figuring out how to use exposure to conquer your anxiety, BetterHelp may be just what you are looking for. Get professional help conveniently and quickly plus 10% off at http://betterhelp.com/duff 
8/25/202338 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 362: PMDD Treatment & Dealing with Scary Ex

Hello, everyone! I hope you are doing super well. As always, I really appreciate your attention. A special thank you to everyone that has left feedback for me about the show. Very helpful. In this weeks episode, I tackle the following questions: Could my symptoms be PMDD and if so, how do I get help? What can I do about my ex that is spreading harmful lies about me? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode362 ---- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you could use the support of a therapist to help you navigate life's challenge. Check out BetterHelp and get connected to a licensed therapist quickly, entirely online. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. This episode is also sponsored by OneSkin. If you're like me and would like a simple skincare routine that is backed by clinical research, then OneSkin is for you. Visit http://oneskin.co and use the code "duff" for 15% off. 
8/11/202332 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 361: Health Anxiety Rabbit Holes & The Psychology of Weight Loss Drugs

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions. I have successfully been treated for cancer, but I can't stop looking at research and personal accounts online for fear that it may come back. How can I stop? How do weight loss medications like Ozempic help reduce the psychological addiction to food? Please give me feedback on the show at this link: https://forms.gle/TGx4puKucMJKjSNz7 As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode361 --- Today's episode is sponsored by Mindbloom. Get $100 off your first at-home ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the promo code duff.
8/4/202338 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 360: How to Survive Starting Fresh & Resources for an Overloaded Parent

Hello, friends! I hope you're staying safe from the heat and generally taking good care of yourselves. Today, I have two awesome listener questions. The first comes from someone that left her job as a teacher because she was burned out. However, now she finds herself in a difficult situation without insurance or a longterm steady income. I provide advice regarding resources for inexpensive and free therapy. I also talk about different resources available to someone in a situation like this and explain how Maslow's heirarchy of needs explains why the person should focus on basic needs before trying to answer big questions about their life and sexuality. The second question is from a mother with two autistic children and a mother with dementia. She is looking for advice about how to take care of herself without abandoning her family. I provide a variety of ideas for resources that would allow her to have more help and freedom. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode360
7/28/202338 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 359: Wife Obsessed with Phone & Does Ketamine Rewire Your Brain?

Hello, friends! I hope life is treating you well. In today's episode, we're going to dive into two more insightful listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener who's struggling with their spouse's constant engagement with their phone. The impact is such that it seems to supersede any conversation or interaction they might have. They even go so far as to joke that they might be better off texting their spouse, despite being in the same room. We'll delve into this challenge, discussing potential strategies for addressing screen-time issues within relationships, communication tactics, and steps to reclaim mutual attention and presence. Our second question is from a listener navigating the complexities of depression and anxiety treatment. They've been considering ketamine therapy and have concerns about its application, specifically the difference between IV and oral administration, potential lasting effects, and the overall experience. They're particularly interested in hearing about personal experiences with ketamine therapy, including potential side effects and long-term benefits. We'll unravel the science behind ketamine treatment for depression and anxiety, exploring the potential pros and cons, the lasting effects, and the considerations one should have in mind when deciding on this treatment approach. As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode359. ---- Sponsor: This epsiode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Life doesn't come with a guidebook, but you don't have to go it alone. Enlist the help of a licensed therapist entirely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff
7/21/202331 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 358: Binge Eating and Goal Setting

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing fantastic.   In today's episode, we delve into the following awesome listener questions:   Our first question comes from a listener who has been dealing with a challenging relationship with food. They described waking up each day caught in a cycle of remorse over their previous night's eating and anxiety about what the new day will bring. They also mentioned the negative impact this issue has on their relationships and social life. Although they've begun therapy, their current therapist has admitted this specific problem is outside of their expertise. Together, we'll explore this struggle, discussing possible steps toward understanding and addressing problematic eating habits and how to find the right professional help to navigate this journey.   Our second question is from a loyal listener who's been with us for three years. They're struggling with setting long-term goals due to anxiety. They aspire to move overseas with their partner in the next 5-10 years but are being held back by worries such as the stability of their relationship and financial concerns. We'll unpack the complexities of setting long-term goals while dealing with anxiety, offering strategies to establish realistic objectives without feeling overwhelmed, and ways to manage the uncertainties that naturally come with future planning.   As always, I appreciate your questions and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode358. ---   This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you are looking for some assistance in finding your direction in life, consider enlisting the help of a licensed remote therapist at http://betterhelp.com/duffthepsych  
7/7/202334 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 357: Getting Off Antidepressants & Feeling Sexy With Partner Again

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great. In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener who's considering whether to continue their journey with antidepressant medication. They've been told by their doctor that most people stay on these medications for life, but they're not sure if this path is right for them. They're grappling with how to gauge if the medication is still necessary or if their mental health has improved enough to consider discontinuing it. We will delve into this complex issue, discussing ways to assess the effectiveness of antidepressants, the potential risks and benefits of long-term use, and how to make informed decisions about your mental health treatment plan. Our second question is from a long-time listener who has been struggling with feeling comfortable during intimate moments with their partner. Despite feeling sexy when alone, the listener finds it challenging to relax and enjoy intimacy with their partner, possibly due to a decade-long journey with infertility and miscarriages. Now surgically sterile, the listener is looking for ways to reclaim their sex life and feel comfortable in their own skin during intimate encounters. We will explore ways to navigate this emotional terrain, discussing how past experiences can impact present relationships and strategies for fostering healthy and satisfying intimacy. As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode357. --- This episode is sponsored by ONE SKIN. If you are looking to reverse the impact of aging on your skin, check out this simple skincare product developed by several PhD-level scientists. Get 15% off your order at http://oneskin.co with the offer code DUFF!   
6/30/202328 minutes
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Episode 356: Schizophrenia Without Medication and Building Self-Confidence

Hello, friends! I hope you're all doing great.   In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions:   Our first question comes from a concerned parent whose son was diagnosed with schizophrenia eight years ago. At the time, they didn't agree with the diagnosis due to a variety of circumstantial factors, but now they recognize that their son does indeed have schizophrenia. They are seeking guidance on how to help him understand his condition and learn to manage it without relying on medication. They also ask for recommendations on therapists who specialize in non-medication treatment options. We will navigate this sensitive topic, discussing ways to approach the conversation and exploring non-medication treatment strategies for schizophrenia.   Our second question is from a listener who's been struggling with assertiveness and self-respect, often prioritizing others' needs over their own to avoid conflict. This listener also has ADHD which exacerbates the issue, making it challenging for them to communicate effectively during moments of conflict due to executive functioning overload. They seek advice on accepting their shortcomings, cultivating self-love, and prioritizing their own needs without fear of pushing others away. We will discuss the importance of setting boundaries, effective communication strategies, and ways to build self-respect while managing ADHD.   As always, feel free to send your questions to [email protected]. You can find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode356. -----   This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine therapy. Get $100 off your first treatment at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout.   This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp. Take control of your mental health with the help of a licensed therapist, completely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff.  
6/22/202338 minutes, 11 seconds
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Episode 355: ADHD vs Bipolar II & The Spiritual Consequences of Suicide

Hello, friends! I hope everyone is doing well. In today's episode, we dive into the following awesome listener questions: Our first question comes from a listener whose partner was diagnosed with ADHD in childhood. They're now wondering if they might also have Bipolar II, as they experience random bouts of depression and "good days" that may potentially be hypomanic episodes. The listener questions if these mood swings could be catalyzed by situational factors or if they are indeed random. We'll unpack the complexities of distinguishing between ADHD and Bipolar II, discussing the different symptoms, overlaps, and possible courses of action to consider. Our second question comes from a listener who's been grappling with deep existential thoughts about the concept of the "soul," particularly relating to individuals who die by suicide. They wonder about possible repercussions in potential afterlife scenarios, despite not being particularly religious. They ponder on possibilities like reincarnation, memory erasure, or even punishment. In response to this question, we'll delve into the intersections of spirituality, mental health, and coping with such existential concerns, while emphasizing the importance of empathy and compassion in our understanding of such tragic events. As always, if you have questions or topics you'd like discussed on the show, please send them to [email protected]. Be sure to check out the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode355.
6/16/202329 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 354: Disclosing BPD in Relationships & Boyfriend Too Close to His Mother

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle two great listener questions about relationships. The first one comes from someone with borderline personality disorder who would like to figure out if and when they should reveal this to potential partners. The second question comes all the way from Columbia and features someone who is concerned about how enmeshed her boyfriend is with his mother. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode354  ---- This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. If you are looking for support and perspective, fill out a quick questionnaire at http://betterhelp.com/duff to get quickly matched with a licensed therapist and receive 10% off your first month!
6/9/202325 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 353: Childhood Concussion & Boundaries with Friends

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well.   Our first question comes from a listener who reached out to express their appreciation for the show, my course, and books. They share a childhood experience of being in a dodge car accident where they were hit from behind, resulting in a significant lump on their head and feelings of sickness and disorientation. They recently heard me speak about frontal lobe damage and its potential effects, which resonated with them. They also suspect they may be undiagnosed autistic. They are concerned about the possibility of having sustained a brain injury and whether an MRI at their current age (31) would reveal any long-term effects. This uncertainty has brought up feelings of betrayal and neglect. I provide insight into the likelihood of detecting an old brain injury on an MRI and offer guidance on the next steps to gain clarity and peace of mind.   Moving on to our second question, a listener in their late twenties shares their struggle with assessing whether to judge people based on how they treat others or solely on how they treat them. They describe ending relationships with men who exhibited disrespectful behavior towards other women, as well as navigating concerns about a close platonic female friend who has made questionable moral choices. They ponder whether to judge people based on their life choices or patterns, and if it's necessary to align values with others or accept them as they are. I delve into the complexities of these situations, emphasizing the importance of personal boundaries, unconditional positive regard, and self-reflection in determining how to approach relationships.   As always, I appreciate your support and engagement with the show. You can send your questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode353.   --   This episode is sponsored by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine treatment. If you are struggling with depression and anxiety, try ketamine treatment from the safety and comfort of your own home and get $100 off at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code duff at checkout.
6/2/202330 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 352: How to Stay Focused - 20 Tips

Hello, friends! It's been an interesting week for me, which I address at the start of the episode. From there, I share with you a previous episode of the show that I wanted to make sure that you've heard! This is all about staying focused. It's a great episode for anyone that might struggle with ADHD or simply has trouble concentrating from time to time. Here are the tips I cover: Limit distractions Adjust your space - physical and digital Do NOT multitask Practice mindfulness meditation frequently Journal/Plan every day Check your planner at least 3x per day Set yourself up with an outline before leaving a task Keep a notebook nearby for impulsive thoughts that can wait Force yourself to prioritize If you take it out, put it back Don't procrastinate - if it takes less than a minute do it (unless you're in the middle of something else) Keep a place for your small things Make a mise en place for your workplaces Use neutral inputs to satisfy your attention hunger (white noise etc) Take breaks for movement Abort when you're in to deep Work in shifts Don't use your partner as a coach Use the solution that works, whether it's perfect or not Study yourself This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Don't forget to take care of yourself, so that you can keep being a great support for others. Try online therapy and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode352  
5/26/202351 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 351: Preemptive Grief & Triggered by Anger

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. No ads today, but I have two awesome listener questions.  First, I tackle a question from someone that feels the end of their relationship is inevitable due to moving to another state and they are already struggling with feelings of grief. The second question is from someone with a background of trauma that wants advice about how to deal with their friend's angry outbursts. I hope you enjoy!   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode351  
5/19/202323 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 350: Daddy Issues & Severe Social Anxiety

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. Special shout out to the moms out there this week! In this episode, I two awesome listener questions.  Our first question comes from a listener who has been enjoying the podcast and requests an episode focused on "daddy issues." They express curiosity about the causes and potential solutions surrounding this concept. In response to this inquiry, we will delve into the complexities of "daddy issues," examining various contributing factors and discussing potential strategies for healing and personal development. Moving on to our second question, a long-time listener writes in for the first time, sharing their ongoing struggle with severe social anxiety. They describe how their anxiety often leads to dissociation during conversations, causing them to make impulsive decisions to end interactions prematurely. Despite trying conventional treatments such as CBT, exposure therapy, medication, and group therapy, the listener feels disheartened by the lack of progress and wonders if there are other options available. We'll explore alternative approaches and offer insights on how to navigate social anxiety in a more empowering way. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode350 ----- Today's episode is brought to you by Mindbloom, the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for depression and anxiety. You can get $100 off your first treatment at http://mindbloom.com/duff with the code "duff". 
5/12/202332 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 349: Compulsive Lying and Protecting My Sister From Our Mom

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer two listener questions.   The first question is from a listener who has been with her boyfriend for over 10 years, but suspects he is a narcissist and compulsive liar. She believes that a car accident at 17, which resulted in physical injuries as well as a TBI, may have stunted his development. The listener is struggling with her boyfriend's lying behavior and wonders if he's lying about their relationship too. She asks how to deal with the lying and gaslighting, and how to tell if her boyfriend's love for her is genuine.   In the second question, a listener shares her concerns about her younger sister's emotional development, given their mother's unpredictable and intense reactions to normal child behavior. The listener worries about her sister's mental health and emotional growth, and wants her mother to be more gentle and understanding towards her. However, the listener is struggling with confronting her mother due to past fear of her reactions. She asks for advice on how to approach the situation.   As always, you can send your questions to [email protected], and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode349.   -----   This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Don't lose yourself in the shuffle. Get linked up with a licensed therapist completely online and get 10% off your first month at http://betterhelp.com/duff 
5/5/202332 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 348: ChatGPT for Mental Health and Productivity - My Best Tips

Like most of the world, I have been obsessed with AI tools such as ChatGPT. However, I think they are more than a gimmick. I have been using them every single day to help improve my work and personal life. In this episode, I walk you through the ways that I use ChatGPT and other AI models and I also provide you with some ideas about how you can use them to improve your own life and mental health.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode348   This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp - if you are in a position where you put yourself last and other first, you may be at risk of burnout. Get the help and perspective that you need from a licensed professional at betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off. 
4/28/202351 minutes, 38 seconds
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Episode 347: Contamination OCD vs COVID Safety & Violated Consent in a Relationship

Hello, friends! This one is a bit of a doozy. Please be aware that the subject matter is somewhat more intense than other episodes recently. In this one, I tackle the following listener questions: Should I get treatment for my excessive concerns about germs and contamination? How can I re-engage socially with the continuing concerns about COVID-19? My partner violated my consent and sexual boundaries repeatedly, but they seem sorry and I still love them. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode347 --- Sponsors: This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom - try at-home Ketamine therapy on your terms and get $100 off your first treatment at mindbloom.com/duff with the promo code duff. This episode is also brought to you by Air Doctor. If you are in the market for an amazing air purifier, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code duff for a whopping 40% off!
4/21/202332 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 346: Electroconvulsive Therapy vs Ketamine. Which is better?

Hello, friends! In this episode, I tackle one awesome question from a listener. This person has treatment resistant depression and bipolar. Their mania is well-controlled, but they need a higher level of treatment for the depression. Their psychiatrist suggested either ketamine of electroconvulsive therapy, so in this episode, I break down everything you need to know about these treatments.   As always, you can send me questions to [email protected].  
4/14/202327 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 345: Bipolar Meds for Life & CBT Is Not Working

Hello, friends! I hope that you are taking good care of yourselves. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following amazing listener questions: I am stable on bipolar medications, but I hate the side effects. What can I do? My CBT therapy just seems to worsen my mood. How can I make it more helpful? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] ---- This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. Get affordable counseling from a licensed therapist completely online at http://betterhelp.com/duff 
4/7/202337 minutes, 52 seconds
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Episode 344: My Self-Therapy Protocol

Hey, friends! This episode is a little different. Rather than taking listener questions, I decided to share something that is working really well for me. I take you through a five-step process for doing what I like to call "self-therapy." This is usually done while I am in the car or walking the dog. I highly suggest you also talk out loud to yourself like a weirdo. FYI: The website is still under construction. It broke badly and we need to rebuild it. It should be up and runing again soon. In the meantime, if you'd like to send me a question for an upcoming episode of the show, please shoot an email to [email protected] --- This episode is brought to you by AirDoctor. AirDoctor is an amazing air purifier that works quickly enough to circulate the air in an average room four times per hour. It also traps particles as small as 0.003 microns in size. Head over to http://airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to 40% off (A value of up to $300).
3/31/202329 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 343: Communicating While Dissociated & Masturbation Causing Bad Things

Hello, friends! Huge apologies - the website is currently down. I hope that it is up again soon! In this episode, I answer the following questions: I dissociate whenever I try to talk about my feelings. How can I overcome this? Bad things seem to happen after I masturbate. Am I causing bad things to happen? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode343 (once the website is back up). ---- Sponsor for this episode is Betterhelp. If you are like the individuals in this episode and could use some help with personal exploration, try professional therapy done completely online. Head over to betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month. I mention a resource for looking at spurious correlations in the episode. You can find that at https://www.tylervigen.com/spurious-correlations  
3/24/202333 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 342: Alternatives to Hospitalization & Thyroid and Mental Health

Hello, everyone. I hope you are treating yourselves well. Q&A episode this week featuring the following great listener questions: I have had severe depression and suicidal ideation for the past 25 years and nothing is working. Aside from going into the hospital or an IOP program, what can I do? Can you talk about how the thyroid is related to mood and mental health? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode342 No sponsors this week, so be sure to go check out my author page to find more resources!
3/17/202330 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 341: Reporting Abuse of Teen & Raising Therapy Rates

Hello, friends! Short and sweet Q&A episode here. Before jumping into the questions, I share a couple strategies that are working well for me right now. Then, I cover the following questions: As a teenager, will my therapist have to report if I tell them about my parents abusing me? I am a therapist and found a new position that will allow me to make a better living, but it means my fees will increase. How can I deal with this? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode341 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
3/10/202330 minutes, 53 seconds
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Episode 340: OCD vs Psychosis & Finding a GOOD Therapist

Hello, friends! I hope you enjoy this awesome Q&A episode featuring the following listener questions: Why do my intrusive thoughts from OCD seem to impact the environment, such as the television? How can I find a therapist that is awesome like you? I am on my fourth try with no luck. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode340 ----- This episode is brought to you by Mindbloom and Air Doctor. Mindbloom provides innovative at-home ketamine treatments, which can be extremely helpful for those with anxiety and depression. Their research showed that 89% of over 1,200 participants saw improvement after just two sessions. Head over to mindbloom.com/duff and use the promo code DUFF for $100 off your first six-session program. Air Doctor is an at-home air purifier that filters out nearly 100% of particals as small as .003 microns. It is whisper quiet and super easy to use. If you suffer from horrendous allergies like me, check out airdoctorpro.com and use the promo code DUFF for up to $300 off!
3/3/202340 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 339: Can’t Find a Job With My Degree & Emotions Stuck in Therapy

Hello, everyone! I hope that you are staying safe out there if you are in an area with wild weather conditions. I am having a very cozy weekend. This week, we have a Q&A episoed with the following: I spent years obtaining my degree, but I can't find a job that utilizes it. What can I do? I want to feel more in therapy, but I can't access the emotion. How can I move forward? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode339 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
2/25/202329 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 338: Postpartum Mental Illness and Postpartum Psychosis

Hi, friends! In this episode, I do a deep dive into postpartum mental illness including baby blues, postpartum depression, and postpartum psychosis. This was requested by a number of listeners due to the Lindsay Clancy case, which I discuss briefly in the episode.  Please be aware that I do discuss topics such as infanticide, suicide, and the specific case of Lindsay Clancy. However, I do not go into details of what happened and there are no explicit descriptions. As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode338  
2/17/202330 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 337: Losing a Friend & Father with Brain Injury

Hello, everyone. Short and sweet Q&A episode here featuring the following: I made a mistake and lost my friend of 20 years. What can I do about the loneliness and hopelessness I feel now? My husband had a brain injury when out daughter was young and now she does not want to be around him because of his behavior. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode ------ This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
2/10/202331 minutes, 24 seconds
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Episode 336: Ghosted by Children & Grieving in Secret

Hey, friends! I hope that you are doing well. For this episode, we are back to the usual Q&A format with a ltitle less intensity than last episode. Here is what I cover: What can I do about my adult children that have completely ghosted me? How can I tell me partner that I'm still grieving my ex that died? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode336. This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and Mindbloom. Magic Mind contains a magical combination of 12 active ingredients, scientifically designed to improve energy, improve focus, decrease stress, and improve mood — all things that combined, improve your productivity. Get 40% off your subscription at www.magicmind.co/duff with my discount code DUFF20. Mindbloom is the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for people looking for a new way to treat their anxiety and depression. They combine science-backed medicine with a guided treatment plan that is both affordable and fast-acting. Right now, Mindbloom is offering listeners $100 off their first six session program when you sign up at mindbloom.com/DUFF and use promo code DUFF at checkout.
2/4/202334 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 335: I Hope This Reaches You...

Hello, friends. Something a little different today. No intro or sponsors. Just a frank response from me to someone that feels that their best option is to stop living. Someone wrote in who is imminently suicidal. Therefore, the contents of this episode might not be appropriate for everyone. Please keep that in mind. You are not alone. http://duffthepsych.com/emergency http://duffthepsych.com/suicide
1/27/202323 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 334: Letting Go of Control & Drinking on Meds

Hey, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you here featuring the following questions: How can I let go of control when I don't like the way other people do things? Is it dangerous to take more medications for my depression while I am drinking alcohol? What other options do I have? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode334   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
1/20/202331 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 333: Finding Better Partners & Eating Disorder Recovery

aHello, everyone! I hope you are staying safe and dry(ish) out there. In this episode, I address the following: How can I find better partners when I tend to find people with the same personality types? How can I work on me eating disorder while working from home? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode333 Don't forget to check out (and review) my new book of dating and relationship questions!   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Mindbloom. Mindbloom is the leader in at-home ketamine therapy for people looking for a new way to treat their anxiety and depression. They combine science-backed medicine with a guided treatment plan that is both affordable and fast-acting. Right now, Mindbloom is offering listeners $100 off their first six session program when you sign up at mindbloom.com/DUFF and use promo code DUFF at checkout.
1/13/202334 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 332: My Word for the Year!

Hello, everyone! Happy new year! In this episode, I review my personal progress and challenges over the past year, reveal my word for the year of 2023, and talk about my approach/focus for the upcoming year. Enjoy! As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode332 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you could use some help easing into the new year, match quickly to a licensed therapist and work with them on your schedule, completely online. Visit http://betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month.
1/6/202334 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 331: Recovering From Brain Injury & How to Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself: How can I recover my memory following a trumatic brain injury? How can I stop making myself anxious and depressed by comparing myself to other people? Don't forget to take a look at my new book of questions including the following one that I include in the episode: What things were and were not talked about in your family of origin? This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and BetterHelp. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
12/16/202238 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 330: Agoraphobia Exposure & Fixing a Dead Bedroom

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Back with another Q&A episode this week featuring the following questions submitted by listeners like you: What steps can I add to my exposure ladder for agoraphobia to stop having so many panic attacks in public? How can I work on the lack of sex in my marriage? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode330   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.
12/9/202240 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 329: Turned On by Therapy & Accelerating the Therapeutic Relationship

Hello, everyone! Exciting news. My new book, 500 Questions for Dating, Relationships, Romance, and More is out! I talk more about it at the beginning of the epidode, but I really think that it will serve as a useful resource to many of you. Orders are shipping quickly right now, so there is plenty of time to get it before the holidays if you're into that kind of thing. Anyways, I have an awesome Q&A episode for you today featuring the following listener questions: Is it weird to be turned on and want to masturbate after therapy? How can I get therapy moving faster? Does it make sense to give a new therapist a document of information? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode329 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Uncommon Goods and Roman Swipes. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff. Roman Swipes are convenient, over-the-counter wipes that are clinically proven to help you last longer in bed. Try Swipes today with a special offer just for listeners of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with 20% off your first order. Visit getroman.com/DUFF or 20% off.  
12/2/202238 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 328: Antidepressants Causing Self-Harm & Rock Bottom in 50s

Hello, friends! Hope you are enjoying some time off with loved ones or some quiet time on your own. Here are the question I cover in this episode: I think antidepressants are causing me to self-injure due to being numb. What should I do? I have hit a rock bottom in my mid 50s including divorce, losing my job, and a DUI. How do I survive? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode328 Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and Uncommon Goods. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3-way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.
11/25/202235 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 327: How to Stop Cheating & Feeling Bad About Weight Comments

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I tack the following listener questions: How can I stop myself from cheating like I have in my past two marriages? What can I do about feeling bad when people comment on my weight loss? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode327 Make sure you're on the email list for freebies, inspirational emails, and important updates: http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and BetterHelp. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
11/18/202234 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 326: Reducing Alcohol Use & Clutching to a Dying Relationship

Hello, beautiful people. This is another Q&A episode of the podcast featuring the following questions: How do I know when I enjoy alcohol too much? Why did I push so hard to keep a relationship that wasn't good for me? As always, you can send me your questions for the show to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode326   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Uncommon Goods. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Uncommon Goods is here to make your holiday shopping stress-free by scouring the globe for the most remarkable and truly unique gifts for everyone on your list. To get 15% off your next gift, go to uncommongoods.com/duff.
11/11/202236 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 325: Abuser in the Hospital & Crying During Arguments

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode. Just over 20 minutes. No sponsors. Just some Q&A goodness featuring the following questions: Why don't I feel sad that my abusive father is in the hospital? How do I stop crying when I have arguments? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode325 If you have not yet, please subscribe to the newsletter at http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe
11/4/202222 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 324: Answering PERSONAL Questions About Me

Hello, all! This week, since it's my birthday week, I am taking it easy and having some fun with the show. As a lot of you know, I've been working on a collection of questions and prompts for dating, relationships, sexuality etc. So, today I am answering some of those questions from my own perspective. Enjoy! This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Roman Swipes and BetterHelp. Roman Swipes are convenient, over-the-counter wipes that are clinically proven to help you last longer in bed. Try Swipes today with a special offer just for listeners of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast with 20% off your first order. Visit getroman.com/DUFF or 20% off. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
10/27/202248 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 323: Generational Trauma & Motivation to Find Work

Hey, everyone! Thanks for your patience in waiting an extra day for the show this week. Seems like everyone is having a weird week, myself included. Mercury must be in reverse cowgirl again or something. ANYWAYS! Here are the questions covered in this episode: How can I help my parents heal and set boundaries without ruining my own mental health? I am losing energy and motivation to search for jobs. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to the show to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode323 This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp head over to http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of online therapy!
10/22/202225 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 322: Stopping Self-Injurious Behavior & Trichotillomania

Hello, all! This is a really interesting episode, in my opinion. That's due to your awesome questions! Here's what I cover: When I get angry, I headbutt things, which has given me black eyes. How can I get help? What is trichotillomania and how can you work on it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode322 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
10/14/202235 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 321: Asking My Wife to Get Help & Codependency With My Kids

Hello, friends! After being a Stuffy Duffy last week, I am back with a new Q&A episode. Here are the questions I cover: My wife is struggling with depression and asking for a divorce. How can I ask her to get help? I am distraught when my kids have trouble. How can I be there for them without being consumed by their issues? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode321 This episode is brought to you by my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. I just reduced the price from $300 all the way down to $50 or payments of $15. Now is the time to take your life back from anxiety. With hours and hours of comprehensive video lessons, you can start your anxiety recover journey today.
10/7/202231 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 320: Caregiver Pressure & Antidepressants for Concussion

Hello, all! Short but sweet episode this time covering the following: What can I do about my fear of dying and leaving behind my paralyzed husband? Is it normal to use antidepressants after a concussion? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode320   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
9/23/202225 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 319: Medical Clearance for Job & Exposure for Medication Phobia

Hello, all! In this episode I tackle the following topics from listeners like you: My friend is a pilot and is worried about getting therapy because of medical clearance issues. What can they do? I have phobia of medications and injections. How can I use exposure therapy in a situation like this? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode319   If you find that you could use some help with problem solving in your life, you might benefit from individual therapy done securly online. Check out http://betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Quickly match and switch therapists at any time. 
9/16/202238 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 318: Feelings for Someone Outside of Marriage

Hello, all! This is a short and sweet episode. It's been busy week and it is positively hot as BAWLS right now. So, I take one question. I also ramble a bit about some of my frustrations with neurology at the beginning. Here's the question I cover: Is it normal to have feelings for someone else when I'm married? What should I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode318 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
9/9/202230 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 317: Oversharing in Therapy & Losing Friends in Relationship

Hello, all! Short and sweet episode this week featuring the following questions: Is it possible to overshare about your trauma in therapy? How can I stop losing friends when I'm in a romantic relationship? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode317  
9/2/202228 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 316: Frustrated Therapist & Codependency

Hello, friends! Great episode for you today featuring questions that are follow-ups on previous questions. Here's what I cover: My therapist seems to get frustrated and angry when I'm suicidal. What can I do about this? How can I maintain my self-concept in relationships? As always, you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode316 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Magic Mind and BetterHelp. Magic Mind contains a magical combination of 12 active ingredients, scientifically designed to improve energy, improve focus, decrease stress, and improve mood — all things that combined, improve your productivity. Get 40% off your subscription at www.magicmind.co/duff with my discount code DUFF20. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
8/26/202237 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 315: How to Feel Less Numb & Letting Go of Old Therapist

Hello, friends. I hope you're taking good care of yourselves. Here are the questions that I cover in this episode: I can't feel emotions. How can I start feeling things? I keep in touch with my old therapist still. Is that holding me back? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode315   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi and Audible. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
8/19/202241 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 314: Communicating with Autistic Partner & ADHD Shame

Hello, friends! What a week. I'm alive and well, but unfortunately things have been a bit heavy over here. I start off with a little personal update and then into the following great questions: My partner is autistic and talks constantly about her trauma. It's too much for me. What can I do? I am a woman with ADHD and have shame and anxiety because of it. How can I rebuild my self-concept? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode314 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Organifi. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.
8/12/202243 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 313: How My Year is Going So Far

Hello, friends! This is a simpler check-in episode. I update you on what has been going on in my life - particularly this wild week. I also revisit my goals that I outlined for the year and reflect on what has stuck, what has faded, and what I'm okay moving on from. Hope you enjoy!  As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to [email protected] and find show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode313 Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Organifi. Organifi is a line of organic superfood blends that offer plant-based nutrition with high quality ingredients and less than 3g of sugar. Go to organifi.com/duff and use code DUFF for 15% off any item in the store.
8/6/202239 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 312: Co-Parenting with Abuser & Therapeutic Alliance

Hello, everyone! I hope you've had a great week. Back at you with an awesome Q&A featuring the following questions: My ex-wife was emotionally abusive and controlling to me. We share children and she is constantly belittling me when we interact. What can I do? My psychologist does not seem to be trying very hard in sessions. How can I fix things? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode312 - This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
7/29/202237 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 311: Overcoming Procrastination & Love Languages

Hello, friends! I hope you are staying cool and hydrated if you are in one of the major heatwave areas! In this episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions: How can I stop procrastinating on household tasks, homework, and my job?  My partner said he can't fulfill my love language. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode311   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
7/22/202241 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 310: Genetic Testing for Antidepressants & Hating Sex in Marriage

Hello, all! This is a really interesting mix of questions. So stick around until the second one to hear me dish out some tough love. Here are the questions covered: Are we able to do genetic testing to tell which antidepressants will work for an individual? I hate having sex with my husband. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode310   If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
7/15/202233 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 309: Abusive Marriage & Cutting Off Mother

Hello, friends. In this episode, I answer two questions that encompass difficulties within family relationships. Here are the questions: My wife belittles me and makes me feel terrible constantly. What should I do? I'm thinking of cutting off contact with my mother, but I also have a lot of empathy for her. How should I proceed? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode309 No ads today, but please take a moment to leave a review of the show!
7/8/202238 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 308: Anger After Suicide & Restarting Medication

Hello, all. A big content warning for this episode, the first question deals with suicide and has a bit more detail than other questions I've answered on the show. It's a very worthwhile question and a great topic to discuss, but I just want to make you aware of that. Here are the topics covered in this Q&A episode: I saw my elderly father kill himself and I am so angry at him. What can I do? My friend stopped medication for anxiety and depression, but she is thinking about starting again. What else can she do to help herself out? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode308.  This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR and BetterHelp. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout! If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
6/24/202237 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 307: How to Set Boundaries & Overcoming Sexual Abuse

Hello, all! In this episode, I take on two really good listener questions. The second one mentions sexual abuse of a child, but there are no details shared. Here are the questions covered: How can I start to set boundaries with loved ones when it feels so hard? How can I improve my sexual relationship with me husband after I have experienced childhood abuse? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode307 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
6/17/202236 minutes, 38 seconds
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Episode 306: Getting Partner Back & Bipolar in College

Hello, all! This is a great Q&A episode featuring the following questions from awesome listeners like yourself: My partner left due to me not pursuing her enough. Does it make sense to try to get back together after some time? I had to leave college due to bipolar. Should I go back to the same school after stabilizing?  As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode306 - This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
6/10/202241 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 305: Overthinking & Embarrassment

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a great week. We are back to the Q&A format this week with the following questions: How can I overcome my tendency to overthink constantly? Why do I get extremely embarrassed so often in social situations? What can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode305 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MUD\WTR. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout!
6/3/202241 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 304: Duff the Wife Returns!

Hello, everyone! In this epidode, my beautiful wife, Joelle, comes back on the show for a quick chat about life. We sat on the couch and had a cozy talk about all sorts of topics. I hope you enjoy! As always, you can send me questions to future episodes to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode304 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Policygenius. Policygenius is your one-stop shop to find and buy the insurance you need. They are not an insurance company, but rather a marketplace featuring the best options for you. Head to policygenius.com and answer a few questions. In just minutes, you can compare personalized quotes from top companies to find your lowest price. You could save 50% or more on life insurance by comparing quotes with Policygenius.
5/27/202249 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 303: Decreased Sexual Performance & Trouble with Exposure Work

Hello, all! Straight forward Q&A this week with the following awesome listener questions: I used to be able to have sex numerous times consecutively, but ever since a panic attack, I havet been unable to. What is going on? I am having trouble doing my therapist's exposure activities due to panic attacks. How can I do better? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode303 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
5/20/202230 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 302: No Intimacy in Marriage & Lost in Life

Hello, friends! I hope you're doing well. After a very gross story at the top of the episode, I get into the following questions: What can I do about decreased intimacy in my marriage? I am too depressed to do anything what can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode302   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and MUD\WTR. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. MUD\WTR is a coffee alternative consisting of organic ingredients lauded by cultures old and young for their health and performance benefits. With 1/7th the caffeine of coffee, mud gives you natural energy, focus and more without the jitters and crash. Right now, you can get 15% off your first purchase by going to mudwtr.com/DUFF and using code DUFF at checkout!
5/13/202237 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 301: Car Crash Amnesia & Husband Suddenly Wants Divorce

Hello, everyone! I hope you're having a great week. Just a nice straightfoward Q&A for you today featuring the following questions: After 12 years of a great marriage, my husband had a sudden realization that he wants to leave. What can I do? My mother was in a terrible car crash and is afraid of remembering what happened. Is that a possibility? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode301 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
5/6/202233 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 300: How to Ask for Help & Emotional Literacy for Men

Hello, everyone!  Episode 300!! Holy moly. Thank you so much for sticking with me on this ride. I appreciate your trust and attention so very much. This episode is much like any other. A solid question and answer featuring the following: How can I ask for help as an 18-year-old guy? My relationship failed due to my inability to communicate my feelings. How can I improve? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode300 Policygenius is your one-stop shop to find and buy the insurance you need. They are not an insurance company, but rather a marketplace featuring the best options for you. Head to policygenius.com and answer a few questions. In just minutes, you can compare personalized quotes from top companies to find your lowest price. You could save 50% or more on life insurance by comparing quotes with Policygenius.
4/29/202236 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 299: Overcoming Victim Mentality & Cognitive vs Physical Anxiety

Hello, friends! I hope you've had a really good week. My week here has been pretty good. As I mention in the episode, I didn't really plan anything good for the 300th episode of the show, BUT I wanted to open things up to you all. If you have written in a question or heard a question from the show that caused you to make a change in your life or there is a follow up story to your original question, I'd love to hear it. Shoot me an email to [email protected]! Anyways, here are the questions that I cover in this episode: Why did nobody tell me that there is mind-based and body-based anxiety? I have experienced a lot of mistreatment and discrimination in my life. This has led to a victim mentality. How do I get myself out of the victim mentality and start taking ownership of my life? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode299 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and BetterHelp. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up! If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
4/22/202236 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 298: Emotional Burnout as a Therapist & Seven Years of Loss

Hello, friends! I hope you have had a wonderful week. For today's episode, I answer the following awesome listener questions: I am thinking of going into clinical psychology, but as a sensitive person, I am afraid of emotionally burning out. What can I do to avoid this? I have lost someone every year since 2015. How can I get back to a normal life with so much loss? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode298   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Ana Luisa and Audible. Ana Luisa make beautiful gold jewelry including chains, statement necklaces, earrings, and rings. They have TONS of different options at price points starting as low as $39. Right now, you can treat yourself and a loved one with Ana Luisa’s Buy One, Get One 40% OFF sale! Go to shop.analuisa.com/duff to claim this offer now! Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
4/15/202235 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 297: Quarterlife Crisis & Being the Family Therapist

Hello, everyone! Thank you for your patience on this one. Had to take a couple extra days so that I didn't lose my mind with work. This episode features the following questions: After college, I don't know what to do with my life and find myself depressed. How can I move forward? My family expects me to be the peacekeeper and therapist. How can I set better boundaries? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode297   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
4/10/202234 minutes
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Episode 296: Constant Paranoid Thoughts & Dealing with a Toxic Workplace

Hello, all! This before I get into the questions this week, I talk a bit about my personal situation. Unfortunately, I had a breakup with a partner of mine and I share some of the realizations that I had in the process as well as my protocol for making it through this sort of hardship. After that, I jump into the following awesome listener questions: I have had bipolar I for a long time, but started getting a new symptom of paranoid thoughts over the past few years. Why might this be happening? My workplace and coworkers are toxic, but I am a non-confrontational person. What can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode296 This episode is brought to you by Ana Luisa Jewelry and Policygenius Ana Luisa has amazing quality gold jewelry at affordable prices. Perfect for Mother's day or any time you want to spoil a loved one in your life (including yourself). Right now, Ana Luisa is doing a buy one, get one 40% off promotion. Check it out at https://shop.analuisa.com/duff Shopping for insurance can be a confusing nightmare, but with the licensed experts at Policygenius, it doesn't have to be quite as scary. They work for you, not the insurance companies, to help gather the best options at the best price points. Head over to http://policygenius.com and answer a few questions to get your free quotes today!
4/1/202246 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 295: Dating After Abuse & Healing from Cheating

Hello, friends! I hope that you are caring well for your hearts this week. It's wild out there. Here are the questions I cover in this week's episode: My history of sexual abuse makes dating complicated. How can I move forward? My husband cheated on me but doesn't want to do couples therapy. How can I stop resenting him? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode295 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Athletic Greens and Betterhelp. Athletic Greens simplifies your routine with nutritional supplements you need everyday. Containing a multivitamin, probiotics, immune support, adaptogens and more to support your gut, health, energy, immunity and healthy aging. Athletic Greens is giving listeners a FREE 1 year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase. All you have to do is visit athleticgreens.com/duff. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
3/25/202233 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 294: Spouse Doesn't Want Help & Depressed About the World

Hey, everyone. I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. In this episode, I start with a moment of vulnerability about my life lately. That is followed by these two great questions sent in by listeners like yourself: My wife has had anxiety for years but does not want to get help for it. What can I do? I have a perfect life, but I remain depressed about the world. How can I cope? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode294 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Acorn TV. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
3/19/202239 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 293: Therapist on Dating App & Cannabis Use Disorders

Hey, friends! I hope you're having a great week. This is a very interesting episode with the following questions: I am attracted to my therapist and saw her on a non-traditional dating app. When I brought this up, she refused to talk about it. What should I do? How should cannabis use disorders be handled when there are also mental health issues? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode293 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
3/11/202247 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 292: Reacting to My Partner's Sexual Past

Hello, friends! This is a short and sweet episode where I answer the following question: I recently learned of my partner's previous threesome. I can't stop feeling disgust and anxiety from it, even though I know that's not fair. How can I deal with this? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode292   This episode is sponored by Athletic Greens. With Athletic Greens, all you need is one scoop per day in a glass of water to take in 75 high-quality vitamins, minerals, and other nutrients. Head over to athleticgreens.com/duff to get a free 1 year supply of vitamin D and 5 travel packs along with your first purchas!
3/4/202229 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 291: Teen Suicide Contagion & Trauma Dissociation

Hello, everyone! Pretty heavy episode this time. Nothing graphic, as usual, but I decided to tackle some tricky questions. Before hopping into the questions, I share a quick tip about managing the news cycle during this really intense time. Here are the questions covered: My kid's school had two people die by suicide this year. How can I talk to them about it and should we switch schools? I was abused as a child and have trouble remembering it without dissociating. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode291 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by EveryPlate and BetterHelp EveryPlate delivers pre-portioned ingredients and easy-to-follow recipe cards right to your door, so you can spend less time prepping and cooking, and spend more time enjoying good food. Right now, you can try EveryPlate for just $1.79 per meal by going to everyplate.com and entering code duff179 at checkout. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
2/25/202242 minutes
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Episode 290: Intrusive Thoughts of Harming Family & Ruminating About Therapy

Hello, friends! I hope you are all doing well. In this episode, I start off with a quick update about my experience so far on Lexapro (escitalopram), an SSRI medication for anxiety. After that, I jump straight into the following super interesting questions: I have OCD with intrusive thoughts about harming my loved ones. What can I do about this? I ruminate about therapy constantly, having imaginary conversations in my head. Is that bad? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode290 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV and Audible. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up! Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
2/18/202239 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 289: Self-Disclosure in Therapy and Suicidality vs Intrusive Thoughts

Hey, all! Nice Q&A episode for you here. The second questions talks a bit about suicidality, but nothing too graphic. Very interesting stuff. Here's what I cover: How do you feel about therapists self-disclosing in therapy? Should I be concerned about my passive suicidal thoughts or are they just intrusive thoughts? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode289 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
2/11/202233 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 288: Confidentiality for Minors & Physical vs Mental Issues

Hey, everyone. Short and sweet episode today featuring the following questions: I am a minor in therapy. What can my therapist share with my parents about self-harm? How can I tell the difference between a physical issue like hypothyroidism and a mental health issue like depression? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode288   No sponsor this week, so please check out my recent book, 500 Journal Prompts! 
2/4/202228 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 287: Doubting Your Own Trauma & ADHD Misdiagnosis

Hello, friends! This episode features two questions related to trauma. There is nothing violent or explicit described, but both questions do involve childhood abuse. Just be aware. Here is what is covered in this episode: I sometimes doubt that my trauma ever happened and use self-harm as a way to remind myself that it did. What can I do? I have several psychiatric disorders and my psychiatrist wants me to be evaluated for ADHD. How can I tell the difference between ADHD and symptoms caused by my other issues? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode287   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
1/28/202239 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 286: Anxiety About Time Off & Erectile Dysfunction

Hey, friends! I hope that your week has been great. I want to give you a big thanks for listening to the show. I really appreciate you. This is a question and answer episode where I tackle the following: How can I get over my anxiety about having unstructured time off from work? I have erectile dysfunction with my new partner and my doctor thinks it is psychological. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode286   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Chomper Labs and BetterHelp. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
1/21/202242 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 285: Grief and New Relationships & Secondhand Trauma

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a fantastic week. Unfortunately, omicron has found its way into the Duff household, but alas... the show must go on! I have a great Q&A episode with the following questions submitted by listeners like you: My wife died two years ago, and I am still completely closed off to romantic connections. What can I do? Is it possible to be traumatized by hearing about something bad happening to someone else? As always, you can send questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode285 ------- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible and Chomper Labs. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free. Chomper Labs believe that everyone has a right to quality affordable oral care and specialize in custom made night guards for teeth grinding. Right now, listeners of the podcast can get $15 off their first night guard plus Free 3 way shipping with code DUFF. Just visit chomperlabs.com/DUFF.
1/14/202247 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 284: How I am Approaching This Year

Hello, friends! Haven't talked in a little while. I hope you have been enjoying yourself. I am back this week with a new episode. This time instead of a Q&A, I am going to be talking about how I am approaching the year. I go through a LOT in this episode, come hang for about an hour and listen to me ramble.  Show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode284 And if you want to send me a question for a future episode, shoot me an email at [email protected] ------ This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
1/7/202257 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 283: Meth Addiction Guilt & Depression When Everything is "Fine"

Hello, all! Great episode here for you today thanks to a couple awesome listener questions. If you haven't yet gotten a copy of my 500 Journal Prompts book, it makes a perfect little stocking stuffer. Check it out! Here are the questions from this episode: My sister is depressed, even though nothing is wrong with her life and I'm frustrated by it. What can I do? Due to my addiction to methamphetamine and heroin, I feel like I don't deserve to get better. Should I feel this way? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode283 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Acorn TV. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
12/17/202144 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 282: Getting Over Ghosting & Exercise Induced Anxiety

Hello, all! Hope your week has been phenomenal. I appreciate you all! In this episode, I tackle the following questions: I was recently ghosted after talking to someone I met on a dating app for a few weeks. Why is it affecting me so much and what can I do about it? How can I get over my exercise-induced anxiety and heart palpatations? As always you can find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode282 and send your questions to [email protected] ---- Sponsor: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
12/10/202140 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 281: Passing on Trauma & Caregiver Burnout

Hello, friends! Thank you to all of you that have been sharing the podcast as part of your Spotify Wrapped posts. Amazing to think that I've been a significant part of your year. I appreciate you so much! In this episode, I tackle the following questions: I've worked through most of my trauma, but issues still arise in my relationship from time to time. How can I avoid passing these issues down to my young child? I work with severe populations in a healthcare setting. I feel like I could be experiencing caregiver burnout. Is this possible and what can I do about it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and get the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode281 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Ritual and Skylight Calendar. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off their first three months. Visit ritual.com/DUFF and turn healthy habits into a Ritual. With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.
12/3/202148 minutes, 11 seconds
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Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions: I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do? Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.
11/27/202137 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 280: Low Libido & Relationships Cause Sadness

Hello, all! If you spent some time off from work and/or with loved ones over the "holiday", I hope you have really enjoyed yourself. I'm incredibly grateful for you all. In this episode, I tackle the following awesome listener questions: I have a much lower sexual drive than my spouse and she thinks I don't find her attractive because of it. What can I do? Every time I'm in a relationship, my mental health crumbles. Why? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes to this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode280 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and Skylight Calendar. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. With a mission to connect loved ones, Skylight Calendar displays your family events on a simple, touchscreen device. Now, as a special offer, you can get $10 off your purchase of a Skylight Calendar when you go to skylightframe.com/calendar and enter code HARDCORE at checkout.
11/27/20210
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Episode 279: I Don't Deserve to Get Better & Fixing Relationship During a Break

Hello, all! Apologies in advance for my croaky voice. My voice is totally shot from the week, but I do my best to give you responses to the following awesome questions: I have brought about my own problems and don't feel that I deserve to get better. How do I approach this seemingly insurmountable problem? My partner and I are on a break to work on ourselves after suffering a number of losses and a terrible year overall. How can I make this work? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode279 -- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
11/19/202137 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 278: Sexual Advances From Therapist & Depression That Doesn’t Go Away

Hello, friends! After a quick update about the whole Thanksgiving situation at my kid's school, I dive into the following amazing questions: My previous therapist was sexually inappropriate. How can I trust therapists again? My depression doesn't go away no matter what I do and I'm not making progress in therapy. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode278 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Acorn TV. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
11/12/202140 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 277: Co-parenting Problems & Disappearing Depressed Partner

Hello, friends! In this episode, I start with some concerns from my personal life that tie into some social psychology concepts before jumping into the following questions: Co-parenting with my ex is difficult given our difference in opinion about discipline. How do I stop our interactions from driving me crazy? My partner retreats and can't feel anything when he is in a depressive state. What can I do to make him know that I'm here for him? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode277 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and Ritual. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off their first three months. Visit ritual.com/DUFF and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.
11/5/202149 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 276: Wife Doesn't Care Anymore & Healing Hurts Too Much

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this Q&A episode today. I take the following questions: What can I do when it feels like my wife doesn't care about me anymore? Is there a point where the cost of healing just isn't worth it? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and get show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode276 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Seed Health and Felix Gray. Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic. Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges.  
10/29/202145 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 275: Suck at Meditating? Listen to This!

Hello, friends! I have a really cool episode for you today. Meditation is a tool that I use often and is one of the most important things in my personal mental health toolkit. But for a lot of people, meditation just doesn't do the trick. Or it's too hard. Or it's actually scary. In this episode, I share my best tips for meditation. I hope to get you to loosen your interpretation of meditation and the high expectations you put on yourself.  Have a listen and let me know what you think! As always you can send me questions for future episodes to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode275 ----- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp and MasterClass. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
10/22/202155 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 274: Can't Talk About Feelings & Feeling Like a Bad Person

Hello, all! I hope that you are having a great week. I got a great episode for you here with the following questions: How can I get help for my depression when I can't talk about my feelings? How do I stop feeling like such a bad person all the time? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode274 --- Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
10/15/202146 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 273: Recovering from a Disaster & Overcoming Codependency

Hello, friends! Got a nice Q&A for you today with a little rambling at the top. Here's what I answer: My son went through a horrific tragedy. How can he move forward? How can I avoid being so desperate for love? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode273 ---- Want a website, but have no idea where to begin? Turn to AI to create a unique website in minutes for you from the ground up. Bookmark.com has the world's first Automated AI system to make website building effortless. Use code duff at checkout for 15% off. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
10/8/202142 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 272: Explaining Mental Health to Your Partner & Getting Out of a COVID Rut

Hello, all! So... I'm an idiot and had to record this episode twice. Oops. BUT I'm super glad to be releasing this. I answered the following awesome questions in this episode: I have depression, OCD, PTSD, etc. and I have no idea how to explain all of this to my partner without overwhelming them. What do I do? How can I get out of my pandemic rut when I have lost my zest for life and school? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode272 ---- Advertiser: Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic.
10/1/202136 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 271: When to Take Suicidality Seriously & Scared of Losing Dream Job

Hello, friends! This episode is a nice Q&A with some great listener-submitted questions. The first one involves some discussion about suicide. Although nothing graphic, just be aware of that. Here are the two questions I cover this episode: I have had thoughts of suicide for a long time, but have never made an attempt. How do I know when to take the thoughts seriously? I am making mistakes at my new job and it's making me anxious and giving me insomnia. This is causing me to make more mistakes and I'm afraid I'm going to lose my job. How can I break this cycle? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode271 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by MasterClass and BetterHelp. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.  
9/24/202145 minutes, 11 seconds
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Episode 270: The Problem with Mental Healthcare & Overlapping Diagnoses

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer a couple listener questions that are less about direct advice and more about general questions in the field of mental health and psychology. Here's what I cover: Why are there so few mental health providers and why are waitlists so long? Does it make sense to have multiple overlapping diagnoses? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode270 ---- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
9/17/202139 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 269: Repressed Childhood Trauma and Long-Distance Relationship

Hello, friends! In this episode, I have a Q&A featuring the following questions: How can I continue to work on my longtime childhood trauma when I don't remember a lot of my past? Do I have a chance of getting back in my long-distance relationship even though I'm pursuing a Ph.D.? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode269 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Seed Health and Acorn TV. Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
9/10/202134 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 268: My Lovely Wife Returns

Hello, friends! On this episode, I had my wife back on the show. We just chilled on the couch and had a nice wide-ranging conversation about our lives right now, where our relationship is at, and even some of our pet peeves with each other. Enjoy! Send me your questions for future episodes to [email protected] and don't forget to check out my new book of 500 journal prompts! ----- MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass. Green Chef is an awesome USDA certified organic meal box that delivers healthy meals with simple step-by-step instructions straight to your door. They have options for paleo, vegan, or simply balanced living. I really enjoyed making their Mozzarella Chicken and Linguine. For $100 off including free shipping, head over to greenchef.com/duff100 and use the coupon code duff80.
9/3/20211 hour, 4 minutes, 11 seconds
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Episode 267: Moving Forward From Trauma & Relationship Boundaries and Expectations

Alright, everyone! Another great Q&A for you featuring the following questions: How can I move past my traumatic history of bullying and parental violence? What is the difference between a friendship and intimate relationship? Don't forget to get your copy of 500 Journal Prompts for Mental Health, Creativity, and Personal Exploration!  As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode267 ------- If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Seed is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic.  
8/27/202137 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 266: Developing Social Skills & Alternatives to Therapy

Hello, friends! This is a straightforward Q&A with the following questions: How can I work on my social skills as a socially anxious introvert? What can I do about my depression when I can't afford traditional therapy? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode266 ------- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
8/20/202141 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 265: Why Am I Attracted to My Doctor & Dealing with Jealousy in Relationships

Hello, friends! Looks like I have a bit of a cold, so bear with my voice and breathing in this one. Got a great Q&A with the following thought-provoking questions: I don't have many friends and find myself becoming attracted to my doctor. Is there something wrong with my relationship? How can I deal with my jealousy and insecurity in relationships? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode265 --- This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Michel Thomas and Acorn TV. Michel Thomas breaks down the barriers to learning new languages. The audio-only language learning method that works with how your brain naturally learns, retains, and retrieves information, Michel Thomas offers a range of courses covering a multitude of languages. Start your language journey with 25% OFF at michelthomas.com. Simply use discount code DUFF at checkout to claim25% OFFany Michel Thomas course. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
8/13/202136 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 264: Addressing Self-Harm as an Adult & Depression Tips

Hello, friends! Hope you are well. Cruising along over here. Super ready for a relaxing weekend. In this episode, I tackle the following questions: I self-harmed (cut) when I was young and I still struggle with different forms of self-harm. Is therapy still an option? What can I do to feel joy again when my depression is strong? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode264 ----- Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
8/6/202143 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 263: Treating Family Members & Sibling Mental Health Fears

Hello, everyone! At the start of this episode, I give a quick little ramble about a case that I'm working on to talk about some of the nuances with conservatorship and trying to help someone that can't care for their own needs. That's about the first 10 minutes. After that, I hop into the following questions: My family thinks I should be able to fix them since I'm studying psychology. What should I do? My sibling is afraid of having the same mental illness as me and our parent. How can I help? As always, you can send your questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode263 This episode is brought to you by: CozyEarth is the best source for super cozy, temperature regulating bamboo sheets. If you hate sleeping in hot weather like I do, check out cozyearth.com and use the coupon code DUFFPODCAST for a whopping 40% off!  If you would like to learn a new language in the way your brain actually likes to learn, check out Michel Thomas. Michel Thomas allows you to be the third person in a relaxed conversational language class. No drills or homework, just natural learning at your pace on the go. Get 25% off at michelthomas.com with the coupon code DUFF!
7/30/202130 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 262: Feeling Bad for Wanting Attention & Diagnosis as a Crutch

Hello, all! So just a little heads up. I'm super annoyed because in this episode, there were a couple undesirable sounds including a loud as cricket that wanted to ruin my life and also a rattling microphone that was being dramatic whenever I slightly bumped it. Aside from that, it was a great episode that covers the following questions: I love my partner, but I crave attention from others. Why am I this way and what can I do about it? I may have borderline personality disorder, but don't want my diagnosis to be a crutch. What can I do to live a normal life? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode262   This episode is brought to you by ACORN TV. Get thousands of hours of new, enthralling content from the UK and beyond for a fraction of the cost of other streaming services. Head over to acorn.tv and use the coupon code duff for 30 days free!
7/23/202139 minutes, 11 seconds
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Episode 261: Relationship Separation Anxiety & Anger at your Therapist's Diagnosis

Hello, friends! Another Q&A Episode for you today featuring the following questions: What can I do about my separation anxiety every time my partner leaves? Why am I so mad at my therapist for diagnosing me with an eating disorder? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode261   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by BetterHelp. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. BetterHelp has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month.
7/16/202135 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 260: Loss of Appetite with Anxiety & Battling with a Negative Body Image

Hello, all! I hope you're taking great care of yourselves. Been a busy busy week over here in DuffLand. In this episode, I cover the following awesome listener questions: How can I overcome my lack of appetite due to anxiety? What can I do about my negative body image? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] you can also find the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode260   This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Audible. Audible is the leading provider of spoken-word entertainment all in one place, where you can find the largest selection of audiobooks. Sign up now by heading to audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500, and receive your first 30 days for free.
7/9/202140 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 259: Supporting a Grieving Parent & Returning to Work After a Mental Health Break

Hello, friends! I hope you are taking great care of yourselves this week. To be honest, I've seen a lot of people having a bit of a hard time. If you are in this camp, I see you! This episode features the following amazing listener questions: My mother-in-law's son just died by suicide. How can I best support her? I am hoping to return to work after taking a break due to severe mental health issues. How can I make it work? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and see full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode259 This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Better Help and Cozy Earth. If you are in a mental health slump, consider reaching out to a licensed professional to help. Better Help has a large counselor network and you can begin chatting with someone very quickly. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Cozy Earth manufactures the world’s softest bedding, guaranteed. Using responsibly sourced bamboo, they make sheets, duvet covers, comforters, pillowcases, and more. They also make it super easy to try out their products with a 30-day free trial! Right now they are offering my listeners an incredible 40% off via their website, cozyearth.com, with code DUFFPODCAST
7/2/202147 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 258: Rapid Fire Q&A Part 2 - Coping with Emotional Content, Relationship Expectations, and more!

Hello, friends! Back with part 2 of the rapid fire Q&A. There were so many awesome questions on my original post that I couldn't stop with one episode. Here are the questions I cover: Hi Duff, you’ve touched on this before but… have you ever come across anyone stuck thinking they have reached their maximum potential in life/not sure where to go from their current spot in life, and is there anything you could offer from a physiological perspective to overcome this? Currently feeling like I will be forever stuck in this moment and moving forward seems nearly impossible. (Sorry in advance if the question doesn’t make sense) How does one get over the expectation of being in a relationship? Like you grow up watching relationships and relationships but like...what if it doesn't happen? Should it happen? Also...how can one finally let go of what their parents didn't do while one was growing up...  How can you learn to accept compliments and not be awkward? I also talk a bit about my own strategies for combatting the darkness that can come with working in a heavily emotional field. As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected]. Ads: This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Seed Health and MasterClass. Seed Health is a microbial sciences company pioneering applications of microbes for human and planetary health. Their flagship product Daily Synbiotic provides a broad-spectrum, 2-in-1 probiotic + prebiotic to help aid digestion and improve gut health and beyond. Start a new healthy habit today. Visit seed.com/DUFF and use code DUFF to redeem 20% off your first month of Seed’s Daily Synbiotic. MasterClass gives you the chance to learn from the world’s best minds – anytime, anywhere, and at your own pace. Check it out now and get unlimited access to every MasterClass. and as a special offer for listeners, you get 15% off an annual membership! Go to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off MasterClass.
6/25/202146 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 257: Rapid Fire Q&A - Making New Friends, Seeking Good Advice, Panic or Heart Attack, and More!

Hello, all! In this episode, I am doing some rapid fire question and answer from a prompt that I threw up on Instagram. Please enjoy!  If you have a question for the podcast that you'd like me to consider, please send it to [email protected] and don't forget to use the search bar on duffthepsych.com if you want to see whether I have covered a specific topic in the past.  Ads: Felix Gray manufacture the Blue Light glasses that started it all. Get yourself a pair of glasses made for the 21st century and designed for modern, hardworking eyes.  Go to felixgrayglasses.com/duff for the best Blue Light glasses on the market and receive Free Shipping, Free Returns, and Free Exchanges. Acorn TV is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. Escape to Britain and beyond without leaving your seat and try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to acorn.tv and using the promo code duff when you sign up!
6/18/202151 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 256: Trauma Misconceptions and Posttraumatic Growth with Dr. Laura Copley

Hello, friends! This episode is a re-post of an interview I did a couple years ago with the amazing Dr. Laura Copley. Dr. Copley is a trauma specialist and talks all about PTSD, trauma misconceptions, posttraumatic growth, and gives you some practical tools to use if you encounter trauma in your life.  She's doing a bunch of cool stuff including online courses, which you can learn all about over at lauracopley.com As always, you can send me questions or topics to [email protected] and also please let me know if you'd like me to start doing interviews again!   This week's sponsor is BetterHelp. Enlist the help of an experienced mental health professional securely online and start communicating in under 48 hours. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff!
6/11/202153 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 255: St. John's Wort for Depression & Sleep Anxiety After Flu

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. Enjoyed making this episode for you. The questions here have somewhat of a theme. Here are the questions I take: I don't have access to psychiatry in my area. Can I use St. John's wort to treat my depression? I live in a place where mental health is taboo. How can I improve my anxiety around sleeping without treatment? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode255.   Ads: If you are looking for some support as you try to get back to some semblance of normal life, you may benefit from the help of a licensed counselor. Check out Betterhelp.com/duff and take charge of your mental health today with 10% off! The eye strain from being on screens 24/7 is much harder to avoid these days. Be nice to your eyes with some stylish blue light filtering glasses from Felix Gray at felixgrayglasses.com/duff.
6/4/202145 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 254: Reliving Trauma Through Avoidant Personality Disorder & Desperation, Parenting and Life with Major Depressive Disorder

Hello, all! Hopefully you are doing well and sleeping better than I have been recently. Yikes. This episode is another Q&A with some awesome and vulnerable listener-submitted questions. Here's what I cover: Why do I keep gravitating toward media that reminds me of my trauma? I feel like a failure of a mother due to my depression. What can I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and find the show notes for this episode at duffthepsych.com/episode254   Ads: If you are in the market for a probiotic, I highly recommend Seed's 2-in-1 probiotic and prebiotic. They are a science-driven company that makes capsules that actually survive the trip to your gut to help with everything from digestive health to skin problems. Visit seed.com/duff and use the code DUFF to get 20% off your first month! I love Audible. I listen to audiobooks constantly, especially while I'm doing other activities like washing the dishes or scoring assessments. With Audible you get one credit per month to get any premium title from the next mystery best-seller to the latest from your obscure romance sub-genre author. You also get full access to the entire Plus catalog any time. Try Audible for 30 days FREE at audible.com/duff or text duff to 500-500!
5/28/202142 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 253: The Impact of Misdiagnosis & Recognizing Depression

Hello, friends! After a little (big) ramble about the hardest part in my job as a neuropsychologist, I answer the following questions: Can bipolar misdiagnosis make symptoms worse? Can bipolar be managed without medication? Why can't I study or get out of bed at all? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode253   Ads: If you are a lover of learning anything and everything like me, you should check out Masterclass. Learn anything from negotiation to gardening to mindfulness from word-class instructors. Head over to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off an annual subscription.  For many of us, TV is a safe haven, but we are running out of new stuff to watch. AcornTV is the place for shows from the UK and around the world. They upload new episodes constantly, so you'll never get bored. Head over to acorn.tv and use the code "duff" for 30 days free!
5/21/20211 hour, 5 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 252: Divorcing Someone Who is Depressed & Going Back to College After 30

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover: My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm? I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252 Ads: If you would like a little extra support as you try to do the best you can in your life, consider enlisting the help of a professional counselor by visiting betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month! I have been on screens WAY too much over the past year. If you're like me and have felt additional eye strain, problematic sleep, or other issues from excessive screen use, it might be worth giving blue light filtering lenses a short. Felix Gray started making stylish and comfortable blue light lenses over 5 years ago and they remain one of the best out there. Check their products out at felixgrayglasses.com/duff!
5/14/20210
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Episode 252: Divorcing Someone Who is Depressed & Going Back to College After 30

Hello, friends! After a long ramble about some terribly nerdy stuff, I get into two really good listener questions today. Here's what I cover: My spouse claims that I am the cause of their depression and we do not have a good relationship. Would divorcing them cause too much harm? I am back in college as a 30 year old and feel out of place. What should I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode252 Ads: If you would like a little extra support as you try to do the best you can in your life, consider enlisting the help of a professional counselor by visiting betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month! I have been on screens WAY too much over the past year. If you're like me and have felt additional eye strain, problematic sleep, or other issues from excessive screen use, it might be worth giving blue light filtering lenses a short. Felix Gray started making stylish and comfortable blue light lenses over 5 years ago and they remain one of the best out there. Check their products out at felixgrayglasses.com/duff!
5/14/202137 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 251: Work Burnout Trauma & Adult Autism Suspicions

Hello, all! In this episode, I answer two questions submitted by awesome listeners like yourself. I hope you enjoy and that you're taking great care of yourself. Here are the questions: Can you get PTSD from severe work burnout? What should I do if my therapist doesn't believe that I might by autistic? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode251 Ad: If you are in the market for a probiotic/prebiotic, please check out Seed. Not all probiotics are treated equal and they know their stuff. Through diving into the scientific research, they have created a product that actually helps. Head over to seed.com/duff and use the coupon code DUFF for 20% off your first month.
5/7/202140 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 250: The Ethics of Placebo & Coping with Career Grief

Hello, friends! Straightforward Q&A for you today. Here's what I cover: My grandma is taking a supplement that is clearly just placebo. Is this okay? Is it normal to feel grief at the end of a career? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out duffthepsych.com/episode250 for full show notes.  Ads: If you are looking to make improvements in your life, consider enlisting the help of a licensed professional. Betterhelp has a massive network of licensed counselors that are only a message a way. Get started and 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/duff TV is a lifesaver these days, but if you are only seeing American shows and movies, you are missing out. AcornTV has a huge library of shows from the UK and beyond featuring actors you know and love. They upload new content every week, so if you are in the market for some beautiful, compelling entertainment, check out acorn.tv and use the code DUFF to get 30 days free. 
4/30/202137 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 249: Feeling Bad About Feeling Good & Suicide Jealousy

Hello, all! Please excuse my mistake with the episode number. Bah! I also was perhaps a little delirious, but that just adds to the flavor... right??  In this Q&A, I answer the following: Every time I do something for myself, I feel guilty about it. How do I stop this pattern? I felt envy when I heard about someone that lost their life to suicide. Should I feel bad about that? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and stop by duffthepsych.com/episode249 for full show notes! Sponsors: I love Masterclass. If you are like me and always have to be learning something new, you should check it out. You can learn everything from gardening to persuasion to mindfulness all from world class experts. Head over to masterclass.com/duff for 15% off! If you've ever been put off by the intimidation of yoga, you should have a look at Bulldog Yoga. They have classes for every ability level that fit within your schedule and feature awesome playlists. Check them out at bulldogonline.com and use the code DUFF for a free month AND 50% off your first paid month. 
4/23/202136 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 248: Getting Personal Responding to My Own Journal Prompts

Hello, everyone! In this episode, I sit down and have a go at my own journal prompts from the 100 Free Journal Prompts on my website. Some of my responses are entertaining and straight forward... others get pretty personal. Hope you enjoy! As always, you can send me questions or topics for the show to [email protected]. Don't forget to get your free 100 journal prompts at duffthepsych.com/workbook!  Sponsor: Get the benefits of yoga without the intimidation and enjoy some nice tunes while you're at it. Listeners of the podcast get a free month AND 50% off the first paid month at bulldogonline.com with the coupon code DUFF.
4/16/202155 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 247: Health Anxiety During a Pandemic & Suicidality in Children

Hello, friends! Got another Q&A episode for you. The 2nd question in here could be potentially triggering to some, so please be aware of that. It doesn't go into anything explicit, but the topic is something that some may be sensitive to. Here's what we cover: How can I use exposure to treat health anxiety during this pandemic? My friend's 6-year-old child has suicidal thoughts. How can I best support them? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode247 If you haven't yet picked it up, I have a new 100 journal prompts freebie available at duffthepsych.com/workbook.   Advertisers: Step up your cozy with some premium cooling bamboo sheets from Cozy Earth. Podcast listeners get an insane 40% off right now by using the coupon code DUFFPODCAST at cozyearth.com! If you are working toward some mental health goals right now, consider enlisting the help of a trained mental health professional with Better Help. Podcast listeners get 10% off at betterhelp.com/duff.
4/9/202141 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 246: Are Trauma Details Necessary in Therapy & Supporting Someone with BPD

Hello, you beautiful people! Today I have a question and answer episode with two great questions sent in by listeners like you. Quick update before that. I'm current working on a Hardcore Self Help workbook for anxiety. You can get the 100 journal prompts from that notebook as a freebie for signing up at duffthepsych.com/workbook! Here are the questions: I have come to realize that I've been abused but it's hard to talk about. Do I need to share exactly what happened in therapy? I have a friend with borderline personality disorder and I also have BPD. How can I best support them when they are upset? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode246 Sponsors: Invest in yourself by enjoying yoga made fun. Bulldog Online pairs great playlists with easy to follow yoga videos. Use the coupon code DUFF for one free month AND 50% off your first paid month at bulldogonline.com If you are all about that cozy life and want some smooth, cooling, bamboo sheets to slide into after a long day, check out cozyearth.com they are offering an INSANE 40% discount site-wide. Use the coupon code DUFFPODCAST at checkout.
4/2/202139 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 245: Working Through a Complicated Break Up Alone & Confidentiality in Therapy

Hello, friends! Got a Q&A for you today that is actually just one two-part question. Stay tuned next week for a freebie update! Here's two-part question: I'm going through a breakup in a complicated long-term relationship, but I can't talk to people honestly about it. What can I do? Will a therapist report me for being a sex worker? As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode245 Sponsor: Visit bulldogonline.com and use the code DUFF to get one FREE month of yoga plus 50% off your first paid month. Bulldog Online is all about taking the intimidation out of yoga and replacing it with fun and good tunes. Check it out today!
3/26/202130 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 244: "Accidental" Overdose & Becoming a Psychologist with Bipolar

Hello, friends! I hope you're having a really good week. This is a Q&A episode with two really important questions. The first one talks about a suicide attempt in a non-graphic way. I wanted to let you know that off the bat so you can be aware going into it. Nothing intense or visually striking, but potentially triggering nonetheless.  Questions for this episode: I had a suicide attempt that everyone thinks was an accidental overdose. Do I need to tell my family the truth? I have severe bipolar 1 and I have always wanted to become a psychologist and do therapy. Is this possible? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and if you'd like to see the full show notes head over to duffthepsych.com/episode244 Advertiser: Bulldog Yoga Online takes the intimidation out of yoga and replaces it with fun and great music playlists. Use the coupon code "DUFF" at checkout to get 30 days free and 50% off your first paid month at bulldogonline.com!
3/19/202141 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 243: Exploring Bisexuality in Marriage & Postpartum Anxiety During COVID

Hello, friends! Sorry in advance that the audio is a tiny bit blown out in this one. Hopefully you don't notice, but something weird was going on with my audio interface.  ANYWAYS... got a great episode here for you today. Two questions that I felt somewhat underqualified to answer, as a man, but they were too good not to share. The questions are: I am realizing that I am more gay than I thought. How can I explore this in the context of my long-term heterosexual relationship? Between a new baby and COVID, my anxiety is getting terrible. What can I do? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and if you'd like to see the full show notes, check out duffthepsych.com/episode243!
3/12/202132 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 242: Not Getting Better Fast Enough, COVID Financial Worries, Working on Yourself During Breakup

Hello, friends! In this episode, I take a few shorter questions covering some amazing topics such as: Will my psychiatrist or therapist drop me for not getting better fast enough? What can I do about financial and job insecurity during COVID? How can I balance working on myself and giving space during a break from my relationship? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and if you'd like to see full show notes check out duffthepsych.com/episode242 Ads: Head over to betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of licensed professional mental health done securely online.  If you are needing some vitamin D in your life, check out AmpHuman's D+ lotion at amphuman.com/duff and use the coupon code DUFF15 to get 15% off!
3/5/202142 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 241: Coping with Loneliness & Negative Self Perceptions and Insecurities

Hello, all! Hope you're happyish and safeish out there. This is a two-question Q&A episode featuring the following: I've tried just about everything to help myself but the pandemic is making it impossible to improve my loneliness. What can I do? I'm worried about my boyfriend looking at hotter women on social media. What can I do about this insecurity? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and view the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode241 Sponsors: Amp Human is a human performance company dedicated to helping athletes at all levels unlock their limitless potential. Their latest innovation D+ Lotion is a first-of-its-kind gel-based lotion that delivers vitamin D directly through the skin. Visit amphuman.com/duff and use code DUFF15 to get 15% off D+ Lotion today. Bulldog Online is about taking the intimidation out of yoga and replacing it with music, smiles and no judgment with online classes available on demand. Visit bulldogonline.com to try your first 30 days for free and use the code DUFF to claim an additional 50% off your first paid month!
2/26/202140 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 240: What I've Been Up To Lately

Hey, friends! This is just a casual episode of me sharing about what I've been up to lately. It's a big ol' ramble about many topics including: My experience with the COVID vaccine What my newest project is What my days look like right now Balancing work, work, work, and life What I'm doing for fun Next week will be a Q&A episode, so please send me your questions to [email protected] And if you have a moment, please go check out the Giving Voice to Depression podcast!
2/19/202146 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 239: Collective PTSD, No-Showing Therapy, Caregiving with Anxiety, Depression Options

Hello, friends! This week, I have another rapid-fire Q&A for you. I took some questions from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group and tackled them one by one without any planning or outlining. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions covered: How do you feel about people using the term "collective PTSD"? What can I do when I always get scared and cancel therapy sessions? Are medications always necessary for severe depression? How can I be a caregiver with anxiety? As always, you can send me your questions or topics for the show to [email protected]  Sponsors: Magic Spoon has great tasting, nostalgic cereal that is actually healthy. Try a sample pack at magicspoon.com/duff and use the code "duff" for $5 off! Amp Human is changing the game of vitamin D supplementation with their D+ topical lotion. Check them out at amphuman.com/duff and use the code duff15 for 15% off D+ lotion!
2/12/202152 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 238: Support Group Problems & Grad School Doubts

Hello, everyone! Hope you're treating yourselves well this week. I have a great Q&A for you with the following questions: I have had trouble with support groups. The competition to be the "sickest" makes me feel worse. Am I doing something wrong? I am having doubts about whether I should be in my graduate school program. What should I do? As always you can send me YOUR questions to [email protected] and check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode238 This episode is brought to you by Listenable. An awesome audio learning app that you will love. Check out their site and use the code DUFF for 50% a one year membership! This episode is also brought to you by Betterhelp. Talk to a licensed professional counselor online from anywhere in the world. Get help quickly at betterhelp.com/duff
2/5/202152 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 237: 20 Tips to Help You Focus

Whether you are diagnosed with an attentional disorder like ADHD or you are just having a hard time focusing right now, I have 20 real tips that will help you focus more and stress less.  This episode is brought to you by Word Forest. Check them out on the App store or Google store for a relaxing and mentally stimulating word puzzle game. Full show notes available at duffthepsych.com/episode237
1/29/202158 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 236: Mental Health within Couples & Coping with the Winter Blues

Hello, friends! In this Q&A, I tackle two interesting listener questions relating to couples who both go through dips in their mental wellness at the same time, and coping with the winter blues and what you can do to help yourself feel better! Today's Sponsor is Word Forest, a fun and relaxing word finding game on the Apple and Google App stores. If you have a question for the podcast, send it over to [email protected] Full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode236
1/22/202133 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 235: My Wife Gets Real about Psychiatry Frustrations

I have to be honest with you all that this is not the most inspiring episode of the podcast. There is a lot of venting of frustration and fears. We also talk about suicidality, so please be aware of that. It's always important to me that we are REAL on this show. It would be unfair of me to give you the impression that the mental health system is perfect. As someone who works in the field and as a family that has been in the thick of navigating it, we definitely have some frustrations. In this episode, we talk about operating with the current state of the world, Joelle's recent voluntary psychiatric hospitalization, and how we have had to try something like 6 or 7 times to find a psychiatrist to help with Joelle's meds. Despite the frustrations discussed, there are some good takeaways. Joelle is currently much more stable. She is no longer in her deep depressive episode and is no longer suicidal. We are currently finding a balance in our life that is working really well. If you have questions or suggestions for future topics, please send them over to [email protected] and if you would like to learn more about my clinical services, head over to robertduffphd.com
1/15/202157 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 234: Getting Through a Breakup

Hello, friends! Happy New Year - welcome to the first episode of 2021! This is an episode inspired by a single question relating to breakups! Talking from recent experience, I offer my best advice to help get you through and process the emotional turmoil that can come with a breakup. If you'd like to suggest a question or topic, shoot me an email to [email protected] Sponsor for this episode is Better Help. Check them out and get 10% off!
1/8/20210
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Episode 234: Getting Through a Breakup

Hello, friends! Happy New Year - welcome to the first episode of 2021! This is an episode inspired by a single question relating to breakups! Talking from recent experience, I offer my best advice to help get you through and process the emotional turmoil that can come with a breakup. If you'd like to suggest a question or topic, shoot me an email to [email protected] Sponsor for this episode is Better Help. Check them out and get 10% off!
1/8/202135 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 233: Rapid Fire Part 2 - Pandemic Alcoholism, All or Nothing Thinking, Bad Pharmacies, and More

Hello, friends! Today I am doing a continuation of the last episode. I'm not at the part today, but I am at home cracking away at the Facebook questions in rapid fire fashion. Hope you enjoy! Here are the questions that I answer: How do I find a middle ground between 100% positive and 100% negative? What's the plan for getting back to normal alcohol consumption after higher use during the pandemic? How do you get professional help when you're too depressed to ask for help? What should I do about inappropriate pharmacy staff? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and be sure to check out the online course if you haven't at kickanxietycourse.com Advertisers: Join the over 1,000,000 people taking charge of their mental health with the help of a licensed professional at betterhelp.com/duff and get 10% off your first month.  Skip the grocery store crowd and get healthy food and wellness products delivered directly to you at discounted member prices at thrivemarket.com/duff
12/17/202046 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 232: Rapid Fire Q&A - Sleep Apnea, Dating After Abuse, and More

Hello, everyone! Today's episode is a less prepared version of Q&A than I usually do. The house was a little chaotic, so I took a microphone and recorder to a local park, had a seat, and spontaneously answered some of your questions. All of the questions from today's episode come from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Sponsors: BetterHelp is online counseling with a licensed professional counselor done securely online. You can choose from text-based messaging, weekly video, or phone sessions. Better Help has a wide range of expertise available and they make it easy to switch providers if you don't hit it off with the person you are matched with. Head over to betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month. Green Chef is an awesome USDA certified organic meal box that delivers healthy meals with simple step-by-step instructions straight to your door. They have options for paleo, vegan, or simply balanced living. I really enjoyed making their Mozzarella Chicken and Linguine. For $80 off including free shipping, head over to greenchef.com/duff80 and use the coupon code duff80. 
12/10/202049 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 231: A guided meditation to get you through 2020

Hello, friends. In this episode, I walk you through a calming meditation to help you get through the rest of the year. It has been designed to help you reconnect to the things that keep you going! We are going to discover the positive flip side to our frustrations and use that as a focal point to rediscover our motivation. There will be ad breaks in the main episode, but the full uninterrupted version is available for free here on the website at duffthepsych.com/episode231   Advertisers: Head over to betterhelp.com/duff to join the over 1,000,000 other people taking charge of their mental health with a licensed counselor online.  If you're tired of streaming the same American TV shows over and over, check out Acorn.tv and use my promo code duff.
12/3/202030 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 230: Distancing Yourself from Family & Grieving for a Much Loved Pet

Hello, friends! This is a Q&A episode with two super important and interesting listener questions relating to coping with grief after losing a much-loved support dog, and being able to successfully distance yourself emotionally from family. Stay safe Sponsors: Elite MD CBD has one of the best CBD products that I've used (truly). Check out their sleep tincture at elitemdcbd.com/sleep and use the promo code HARDCORE20 for 20% off and free shipping. If you could use a little extra support, reach out to a licensed professional counselor QUICKLY at betterhelp.com/duff and get 10% off your first month.
11/26/202031 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 229: Never Setting Boundaries & How Much Better is Enough?

Hello, friends. This is a super interesting Q&A which answers two important listener questions. The first relates to never setting personal boundaries, putting everyone first before yourself, and the second tackles the difficult question, how much better is enough? As always you can send me your questions or topic suggestions to [email protected] and full show notes are at duffthepsych.com/episode229  Sponsors: Orgain is an awesome clean protein and health product company. I really like the flavor of their Grass Fed Clean Protein Shakes. Check them out at tryorgain.com/duff Thrive Market is a members only online market with a HUGE range of foods to fit any diet. They also have great home, bath, and wellness products. Get a free gift with your trial subscription at thrivemarket.com/duff
11/19/202031 minutes, 6 seconds
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Bonus Episode: Top Mental Health Tools with Himalaya

Hello, all! Bringing you a little bonus episode today. I recently teamed up with Himalaya to create a full audio course all about top mental health tools that you can use to improve your life. Check out himalaya.com/duff and use promo code DUFF for your first 14 days free! Whether you want to improve your emotional intelligence, your critical thinking skills, or you just want to level up in your career, Himalaya Learning offers the best audio educational experience, designed to inspire your ambition and build your skills on the go. Award-winning podcaster Tim Ferriss, marketing guru Seth Godin,the New York Times bestselling author Malcolm Gladwell, Tesla CEO and entrepreneur Elon Musk, and “Divorce Court” judge Lynn Toler, are just a few among the 150+ world-class instructors ranging from Ivy League professors to Nobel Prize winners featured on the platform, in partnership with Big Think and other thought leaders. With an extensive library of audio courses designed to fuel your personal and professional growth, Himalaya Learning unlocks the world’s greatest minds and brings their priceless wisdom and insights straight to your ears.
11/15/202024 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 228: Roommate with BPD and Connecting to Others Again

Hello, everyone! This is a Q&A episode for you with two similarly themed questions having to do with relationships with other people. Here are the particular questions asked: I feel bad about moving out due to my roommates borderline personality disorder. What can I do about this? How can I connect to people again after getting out of an abusive relationship? As always, you can send me questions or topic suggestions to [email protected]  Sponsors: Check out Himalaya Ashwaganha on Amazon and get 20% off your first order using the promo code "SELFHELP20" If you have treatment resistant depression, head over to greenbrooktms.com/duff to see if TMS treatment could be an option for you.
11/12/202040 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 227: Reaching Out for Help with Depression & Coping with Suicidal Thoughts

Hello, friends! A Q&A episode for you this week with some really vulnerable questions. Here are the questions asked: I think I have depression, but don't know how to reach out. What can I do? I don't self-harm anymore but still have suicidal thoughts. How can I make them go away? As always, you can send me questions for the show to [email protected] Sponsors: Greenbrook TMS is a great organization providing a powerful FDA approved therapy for treatment resistant depression. Check out greenbrooktms.com/duff for more information. EliteMD CBD sleep tincture has been working wonders for me as I try to get my sleep patterns in check. Check them out at elitemdcbd.com/sleep and use coupon code hardcore20 for 20% off and free shipping!
11/5/202044 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 226: 32 Things in 32 Years

I just had a birthday and I decided to do something a bit silly. In this episode, I am running down 32 things I've done in my 32 years on this earth. It's not all bragging! You'll learn a few interesting things about me and my experience. I greatly appreciate you. Thank you for being there for another trip around the sun. Sponsors: Orgain - Awesome protein/nutritional shakes and other nutritional products. Head to tryorgain.com/duff BetterHelp - Online counseling made easy. Head to betterhelp.com/duff
10/29/20201 hour, 17 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 225: Auditory Hallucinations & Hitting a Roadblock with Depression and Anxiety

Hello, friends! This is a fascinating Q&A that answers a question relating to something we call non-clinical auditory hallucinations. In other words, hearing something that isn't actually there. I also offer advice on what you can do when you've hit a roadblock with your depression and anxiety. Enjoy! Check out my new website at http://robertduffphd.com If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to [email protected] This episode was brought to you by Thrive Market. Head over to http://thrivemarket.com/duff for a free gift with your trial membership!
10/22/202028 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 224: What's Working for Me Right Now

Hello, friends! Today I have a looser episode structure for you. Simply me sitting and talking to you about a few things that are working for me right now. They are super random, but all represent things in my life that are helping me get through. In no particular order they are... White boards Boundaries Waking up early Coldbrew Verbal journaling Exercising Audiobooks Having grace with myself Timing activities PBAP See. Told you they were pretty random. I think you'll find some helpful tips in here though. Let me know what you think!  If you have a question that you'd like answered or a topic for a future show, shoot me an email to [email protected]
10/15/202040 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 223: Episode 223: Is Hypnotherapy Valid? & Family Drama During the Holidays

Hello, friends! Bit of a short episode today, but great questions nonetheless! I also mention that I've been putting out more great content on Youtube and for my mailing list. Make sure you check those out as well if you can't get enough great mental health info!  Here are the questions covered in this episode: Does hypnotherapy work? What can I do about my family issues during the holidays? As always you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected]  This episode is sponsored by Himalaya ashwagandha. Use the code SELFHELP20 at checkout on Amazon to get a hefty discount! 
10/1/202026 minutes, 33 seconds
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Episode 222: Moving Through Crisis w/ My Wife Joelle

Hello, friends. A lot of you have been asking to an update from my wife, Joelle. Today, I have her on the show to talk about what led up to her recent mental health crisis and how things have progressed since that time. She has undergone six ketamine infusion treatments, started with a psychiatrist, and started with a new therapist. We talk about all of these things and she does an amazing job of making visual metaphors for the ways in which she is changing. Enjoy! This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Check out betterhelp.com/duff to get 10% off your first month of professional online therapy.
9/24/202054 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 221: Priced Out of Therapy & Living with a Traumatic Past

Hey, all! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions after rambling at your in a semi-lucid loopy tired state for a while. Here are the questions covered this episode: What concrete work can people do to move on from trauma? What can you do when your therapist prices you out? As always, you can send me your questions for the show to [email protected] This episode is brought to you by BetterHelp. Go to betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of professional online therapy.
9/17/202042 minutes
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Episode 220: I Don't Want Kids & Can I Call Therapist Between Sessions?

Hello, friends! Just a nice Q&A episode for you this week. Thank you all so much for the outpouring of support and care after the last episode. Things are definitely improving around here. Expect an update on our life soon! For today, here are the questions covered: I have been struggling between therapy sessions, but don't want to bother my therapist about it. What can I do? Should I go to therapy since I don't want to have kids following the death of my mother? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] and if you'd like to learn more about all that I do, check out duffthepsych.com/starthere This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Check them out for sustainable organic groceries delivered straight to your door! Go to thrivemarket.com/duff for a special gift along with your trial membership!
9/10/202036 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 219: Getting Real and Personal About Crisis Options

This is an interesting episode. I honestly don't know if I'll keep it posted forever. It has been an exhausting and scary week. So I turned on the mic and just got real with you. My wife is struggling with her mental health and we have had to navigate the options for more intensive treatment, which has been extremely frustrating. I talk about inpatient hospitalization, residential programs, partial hospitalization, intensive outpatient programs, and more. Basically, I ramble about what we are going through as a family for almost an hour. It's raw and it's real. I hope it helps you feel less alone. 
8/27/202048 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 218: Lifestyle and Habit Changes for Anxiety

Hello, friends! I hope that where ever you are, you are not absolutely melting from heat like I am. Even if you are, go chill in the air conditioning and settle in because this episode's a long one.  In this episode, I share the audio from THREE whole lessons of my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. These lessons talk all about structural changes to your life that you can make and habits that you can build to further support your anxiety conquest. Since each lesson is over 20 minutes, this episode clocks in at well over an hour. If you love what you hear, please check out the online course that it came from at kickanxietycourse.com This episode is brought to you by Better Help. Visit betterhelp.com/duff for 10% off your first month of online professional counseling.
8/20/20201 hour, 19 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 217: Communication and Active Listening Tips

Hello, all! Thanks for having some patience with the lack of an episode last week. I think it was worth it because this is a packed episode. In this week's episode, I dive deep into my favorite tips and techniques to make you a better communicator and a better listener. In the field, we call these "active listening" techniques and they are the fundamental techniques that all therapists learn to help people open up and trust them. Here are the tips covered: You have more than one shot. Pay attention to emotional state. Listen before speaking. Nonverbal behaviors. Open-ended questions. Restatements. Reflections. Silence. I think you'll get a lot out of this episode!  Please continue sending me your questions and episode ideas to [email protected] This week's sponsor is Raycon. Check out their awesome wireless earbuds at buyraycon.com/duff
8/13/20201 hour, 5 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 216: Long Distance Fiance & Bedtime Adrenaline Surges

Hello, friends! I hope that you're staying healthy and relatively happy out there. In this episode, I've got the following awesome questions for you: My fiance and I are stuck on different continents due to COVID. What can I do to deal with my sadness? I get rushes of adrenaline and panic attacks when moving around in bed at night. Why and what can I do? Don't forget that you can still get the entire Kick Anxiety's Ass course for just $75 instead of $300. Head over and check out some free lessons! This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Go to thrivemarket.com/duff to get a free gift with your risk-free membership.
7/31/202035 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 215: Depression Motivation Exercise, Abusive Ex

Hello, friends! This episode is a question and answer show with a couple really great ones: How can I remember what brought be joy before depression? Should I stay away from me ex who was abusive to me? As always, please send in your questions for the show to [email protected] This episode is brought to you by Raycon. I'm loving their new Everyday E25 earbuds. Check out buyraycon.com/duff for 15% off your order.
7/23/202031 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 214: Mask Anxiety and Medication Considerations

Hello, friends! This is a nice little Q&A episode featuring the following two questions: What can I do about my severe anxiety reaction when wearing a mask? Should I be taking psychiatric medication for my symptoms? No sponsor this week, but don't forget that my comprehensive anxiety course is still available until this pandemic is done.  If you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to [email protected]
7/16/202031 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 213: My Wife and I Talk Quarantine Hobbies and Poly Relationships

Hello, everyone! I think you will really enjoy this episode. I sat out in the back yard with some candles, twinkle lights, and a couple glasses of wine with my lovely wife, Joelle and just talked. We really didn't have an agenda, so you are getting a normal raw convo between us. We ended up talking about a variety of topics including Joelle's new embroidery hobby and my new gardening hobby. We also discuss our poly triad relationship, which didn't end up lasting, Joelle's own identity exploration, and why WE work as a couple. It was such as pleasure to sit down and share these snippets with you all.  This episodes sponsor is Thrive Market. Check out thrivemarket.com/duff for $20 shopping credit!
7/10/202055 minutes, 28 seconds
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Episode 212: Unhooking from Thoughts Meditation

Hello, friends. I asked on social media whether you'd prefer a Q&A or a guided meditation and the overwhelming answer was a guided meditation. I get it. We are STILL in uncertain and difficult times. I know that I'm dealing with my fair share of haywire thoughts. So, the purpose of this meditation is to help you get on a little better terms with your thoughts using the visualization of a snowglobe. Enjoy! Please continue sending me your awesome questions and content suggestions to [email protected]!
7/2/202020 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 211: 10 Common Thinking Traps

Hello, all! This episode features a re-release of one of my favorite episodes of all time. I go through 10 of the most common thinking traps. Also called cognitive distortions, thinking traps are patterns of unhelpful thinking that we all fall into at times. For those with mental health issues, they can become quite common. If you are interested in getting the free eBook based on this, head over to http://duffthepsych.com/subscribe  Next week will most likely be another Q&A, so keep sending me your awesome questions to [email protected]
6/25/202041 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 210: Helping Depressed Friend, Questioning Your Gender Identity

Hello, friends. I have a Q&A for you today. Please enjoy and stay well. Here are the questions covered: How can I help my (teen) friend at school who seems to have depression? I am questioning my gender identity. What should I do? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] Today's episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Check out thrivemarket.com/duff to get up to $20 in shopping credit toward your first order. 
6/11/202032 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 209: How to Get the Most out of Therapy

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 74, in which I dive deep into 10 tips that you can use to get the most out of therapy. This is great advice whether you are a therapy newbie, a seasoned veteran, or still thinking about whether therapy is for you. Here are the tips I cover: You don’t need to impress your therapist Don’t lie to your therapist Don’t be afraid to get emotional and let it out Challenge your therapist and correct them If it’s not working, say something Find someone you are comfortable with Get therapy sooner Take notes and journal Do the homework and practice the skills Talk about the relationship between you and your therapist during session As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass course remains open until the quarantine is over (it isn't).
5/28/202043 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 208: Trouble With Video Therapy, Second Language Anxiety

Hello, friends! Quick reminder that easing of COVID-19 restrictions does not mean that the pandemic is over. For the sake of at-risk people like me, please continue being smart.  That said, this episode is a 2-question Q&A covering the following: I feel like I'm getting less out of video therapy. What can I do? I have massive anxiety speaking my 2nd language about certain people. How can I become less anxious? As always, you can send me questions, topics, or feedback to [email protected]
5/22/202034 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 207: Still Working During COVID, Avoiding Group Therapy

Hello, friends! This is a nice and easy two-question Q&A episode. I hope you're all taking great care of yourselves and staying healthy. I'll be back next week with another episode! Here are the questions covered this week: I am required to work in the office during COVID and I'm having a hard time. What can I do? I'm anxious about having to do group therapy. Should I avoid it? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] If you haven't yet, make sure to check out my comprehensive online course at http://kickanxietycourse.com This episode is brought to you by Thrive Market. Go to http://thrivemarket.com/duff to learn more.
5/14/202032 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 206: Dr. Lindsay Weisner on Destigmatizing Teen Suicidality

Hello, friends! This episode features an interview that I did with clinical psychologist Dr. Lindsay Weisner. We talk about many things during the interview, but Dr. Weisner's main goal is to destigmatize the conversation surrounding teen suicidality. Listen to learn more about why and how. This episode is brought to you by Gravity Blankets. Head over to gravityblankets.com and use the promo code "DUFF" to get 20% off your first weighted blanket order! Check out the full show notes, including all of Dr. Weisner's links at duffthepsych.com/epsiode206
5/1/20201 hour, 1 minute, 20 seconds
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Episode 205: More Personal Reflections from Robert

This is another episode in which I turned on the mic and sort of just rambled. I talk about life during quarantine, I talk about my new poly relationship, I talk about how my house is now stuffed to the gills with people and animals, and I talk about how we are all collectively having a hard time focusing. This is a low-key direct from my heart to your ears type of episode. If it bores you to sleep... you're welcome for the sleep! This episode was sponsored by the Savvy Psychologist podcast. If you are looking for short digestible bites of mental health and psychology information, give them a try!
4/23/202037 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 204: Dr. Drew Anderson on Staying Afloat During COVID-19

Hello, friends! This is a great interview with Dr. Drew Anderson, a licensed psychologist specializing in assessing and treating eating disorders, body image disturbance, and the psychological and medical problems associated with these things. Keeping with the COVID-19 focus, we chat about things you need to look out for with regard to disordered eating behaviors when you're in quarantine, as well as things anybody can do to help regulate themselves and stay afloat as well as possible during this period.  As always, you can send me questions or suggestions for future episodes to [email protected] Our sponsor for this episode is the awesome Gravity Blankets. Check them out and get 20% off your first order by using the promo code "DUFF"! As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until quarantine ends.
4/16/202052 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 203: COVID Q&A - Abuse in Isolation, Missing Touch, Dreading Going Back to Normal

In this episode, we are continuing the trend of focusing on content related to the COVID-19 pandemic and quarantine. However, this week, we are getting back to the normal Q&A format. Here are the questions that are covered: What do I do about being stuck with my abusive mother during quarantine? I'm enjoying quarantine. What can I do about my dread of going back to normal? How can I deal with missing physical touch during quarantine? As always you can send me questions for the show to [email protected]. This episode is sponsored by Lionrock Recovery. Check out lionrockrecovery.com/duff for more info about their confidential online treatment programs for substance use. Don't forget the Kick Anxiety's Ass course will remain open until the end of quarantine before I close new enrollments.
4/9/202032 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 202: A Quick Coronavirus Pep Talk

This is a much shorter episode than usual. I just wanted to stop in to give you some words of encouragement and just a little bit of advice. You are allowed to be human and we will all get through this together.  As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course enrollments are extended until the quarantine period is finished. Now is the time to invest in your mental health at a hugely discounted rate. Learn more at http://kickanxietycourse.com
4/2/20209 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 201: Managing News and Media Intake

Why hello, everyone. I hope you're quarantine is slightly less maddening than mine... I will likely be putting out episodes that are directly or indirectly related to our collective experience of the covid-19 pandemic for a while. Today's episode is an entire module from my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is have extended enrollments in until this pandemic has chilled the heck out. This is module 8: The World Is Crazy.  There are three lessons covering ways to better manage the flow of information from news and social media. There is so much information and so many updates right now that it's easy to fall into a pattern of compulsively checking your phone. I hope this helps This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp. They are a great option for finding support while you are stuck in your home. 
3/26/202051 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 200: A Guided Relaxation for Coronavirus (COVID-19)

Hello, friends! Well. Things have changed drastically since the last podcast episode. I was thinking about doing something special for episode 200, but since all of our lives have been consumed by this pandemic and the quarantine efforts, I thought it would be most helpful to do something related to that. In this episode, I give you a few of my thoughts about how to best get through this time and then guide you through some visualization and breathing to help you let go and get some much needed rest. I truly hope that it helps a bit. 
3/18/202029 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 199: Health Anxiety with Dr. Gordon Asmundson

Well well well... I definitely did not plan to release this podcast on the week that we find out the world is rapidly approaching a global pandemic, but here we are. In this episode, I speak to guest, Dr. Gordon Asmundson, a psychologist, professor, and author, all about health anxiety. Just as a heads up, we do not talk specifically about COVID-19 or any other Corona viruses in this episode. Rather, this is a subject that many have requested. I will likely speak more about COVID-19 and more about health anxiety in general in a future episode.  Check out Dr. Asmundson's book, It's Not All in Your Head on Amazon! And don't forget that you have just days left to hop on the massive Kick Anxiety's Ass course discount before enrollments close entirely. 
3/12/202049 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 198: Finding the Right Online Therapist, Help with Grief, Family Gathering Anxiety

Hello, everyone! Another Q&A episode for you today. Don't forget that the Kick Anxiety's Ass $75 sale is still going on for a couple weeks before new enrollments close. Check it out if you haven't yet. Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do when therapy apps don't have male providers in my state? How can I deal with the grief from losing my mother? How can I feel less anxiety at my partner's family gatherings? As always you can send me your questions and suggestions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode198 Lionrock recovery is the sponsor for this episode. Please have a look at their site if you or someone you love needs to change their use of alcohol or other substances.
3/5/202033 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 197: Personal Updates from Robert

This episode is a little different. Rather than doing a Q&A, interview, or deep dive, I just wanted to sit with you for a while and give you some updates on where I'm at in life. I'm a real person, just like you. That the whole point of this Duff the Psych "mental health for real people" thing. So, I want to talk with you about my unexpected career changes, what's going on with my kids, how my relationship is going, and just let you in on the guy that you listen to each week. Hope you aren't bored out of your mind! As a reminder, the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still going with the massive price drop down to $75 or $25 monthly. Check it out now while you still have the chance!
2/27/202039 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 196: Switching Therapy Types, Managing Child's Outbursts, Fixing a Relationship

Hello, friends! This is a nice Q&A episode with questions covering a variety of topics. Hopefully I do a decent job responding despite my sleep deprivation and loopiness!  Here are the questions I cover: Is it okay to switch to a different type of therapy as you progress? How can I intervene and better manage my 11-year-old's extreme behavior outbursts? How can I avoid becoming my mother and ruining my relationship? Don't forget that the massive price discount on the Kick Anxiety's Ass course is still on! Check it out at http://kickanxietycourse.com As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected] 
2/20/202041 minutes, 24 seconds
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Episode 195: All About Exposure for Anxiety

Hello, friends! This is a re-release of episode 98, which is an episode that I refer back to quite often on the show. I talk about the concept of exposure as it relates to anxiety and take you through different techniques for lowering your sensitivity to anxiety. This is must-know information for those that are serious about taking their lives back from anxiety. I also discuss an immediate change to my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. The price has been drastically reduced from $300 to $75! Enrollment in the course will be closing on 3/15/20 so that we can revamp the course and add even more awesome features.  In this episode, I also talk about my blogpost to help you find a therapist, which can be found at duffthepsych.com/findatherapist.
2/13/202042 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 194: Postpartum Anxiety, Traumatized by a Thought, Avoiding Activities

In this episode, I take the following awesome listener questions: What can I do about my postpartum anxiety and emetophobia? Can you be traumatized by a thought? Is it okay to avoid activities sometimes due to anxiety? Please continue sending me your amazing questions to [email protected] For access to the bonus question, check out my Patreon. This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.
2/6/202039 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 193: 500 Days of Meditation with Cheryl B Engelhardt

This is a very interesting interview with Cheryl B. Engelhardt, who is a government scuba diver turned pop artist turned film composer turned meditation music maker. We talk about her life, struggles with panic attacks, and how starting a daily meditation practice helped stop them in their tracks. We also talk about her new album, Luminary, which is available now!  Enjoy! Next week will be a Q&A episode, so send me your questions to [email protected] and if you're interested in checking out my other podcast, about my life and family, have a look at my Patreon.
1/30/202054 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 192: Blood Phobia, Chronic Suicidality, Helping a Partner to be More Supportive

Hello, friends! Excited to bring you this new Q&A session with three awesome questions (plus one bonus question for Patreon).  Here are the questions covered: What can I do about blood, injury, and injection phobia? How can I change my chronic suicidality? How can I make my partner more supportive? As always you can send me questions to [email protected] This week's sponsors are Openfit and BetterHelp
1/23/202050 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 191: Dr. Mandel on Ketamine Nasal Spray vs Infusions for Depression

Super excited to present this episode to you. I had Dr. Steven Mandel on episode 137 of the podcast to talk about the amazing and life-saving treatment of Ketamine infusions, which have been shown to be an incredibly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, and trauma that doesn't respond well to other treatments. In this episode, we talk more about the difference between these IV infusions of Ketamine and a new player in the game, Ketamine nasal spray. Recently, an Esketamine nasal spray called Spravato was approved by the FDA for use in individuals with treatment-resistant depression. We explore what this means for your treatment and for your wallet. This episode of Hardcore Self Help is sponsored by Future.
1/16/202055 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 190: Ketamine Risks, Hoarding, ACT Therapy

Hello, friends! Super happy to bring you this question and answer episode. You'll have to excuse my congestion. The plague continues in the Duff household. If you'd like to get a 4th bonus question, check out my patreon at http://patreon.com/duffthepsych Here are the questions covered this week: Should I be worried about the risks of Ketamine infusions? How can I help my mother stop hoarding? What is Acceptance and Commitment Therapy? As always, if you have questions or topics to suggest, send them over to [email protected] and stop by my start here page to learn more about what I do!
1/9/20201 hour, 31 seconds
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Episode 189: Leaning Into Depression with My Wife, Joelle Duff

This episode is an interview with my wife, Joelle Duff. This is technically the first episode of our new Patreon exclusive Duff Family Podcast, which from here on will only be made available to patrons. That doesn't mean that she will never be on HCSH again, but if you want episodes each month, you'll need to head over the check out the Patreon.  In this episode, we sit down on the couch together on New Years Eve 2019 to talk about this past year. This has been a rough one for us, and particularly for Joelle. She has had a severe bout of depression this year that really made things difficult for her. Instead of fighting it, she decided to try something different and lean into what her body was telling her. That meant more rest, alone time, etc. It also meant that she was able to recover enough energy to do some amazing stuff like get a dream job and continue being a fantastic mother, wife, and creative partner. Thank you so much for spending the end of this decade with us. I'm bringing the fire into 2020, so be ready. Please go show Joelle some love on twitter and instagram!
1/2/202048 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 188: A Guided Meditation to Let Go of 2019 and Move Forward into 2020

It's been a hell of a year and I think a lot of us could use a breather. In this episode, I take you through a guided meditation to help you get through the holidays, drop your baggage from 2019, and move confidently into 2020. Let's do this.
12/19/201943 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 187: Making Doctors Take You Seriously, Catching Emotions in the Moment, One-Sided Sexual Relationship

You guys seriously have the best questions. In this episode, I answer these three: How can I get my doctors to take me seriously and not blame everything on anxiety? What can I do about my one-sided sexual relationship? How can I catch my strong emotions in the moment. HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT!! I have started a Patreon. There are several tiers that you can choose to support my mission to spread mental health content for real people. If you choose not to support, no hard feelings and absolutely nothing will change regarding the free content you get. But if you do choose to help out, there are some amazing bonuses such as... Additional mental health videos Bonus podcast questions An exclusive Duff family podcast ASMR videos Guided relaxations Live streams Birthday shout outs And more...
12/12/201945 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 186: Healing Together with Figs O'Sullivan

This episode is a fantastic interview with master couples therapist, Figs O'Sullivan. We spoke together about many topics related to discord in relationships. Figs believes that many of our issues within relationships come from our deep need for belonging and attachment. Rarely are arguments really about the surface level issue. Once we can admit to being wounded together. We can begin to heal together. Figs has an app and online course available at empathi.com/go And if you use the coupon code "hardcore self help" you get 50% off!   I also have a couple sales going on. If you use coupon code "anxiousaf" you can get 30% off my ugly holiday sweaters and other designs in the Duff the Psych shop. You can also get the Kick Anxiety's Ass course for 50% off through the end of the year. Click here or use the coupon code "holidayhalf". 
12/5/20191 hour, 54 seconds
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Episode 185: All About Impostor Syndrome

Hello, friends! Today we are tackling a single subject. Something that has been requested numerous times by you guys. That subject is impostor syndrome. In this episode, I will talk about what it is, why we tend to have it, and hopefully give you some tips that can make it impact you less. It's been a stressful week, so before we dive in I invite you to take a few breaths with me to help center ourselves. If want to learn more about me, check out http://duffthepsych.com/starthere Send me your questions and suggestions to [email protected]   Today's sponsor is Kencko organic instant smoothies! Check them out at http://kencko.com and use coupon code DUFF for a nice discount!
11/21/201936 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 184: Daydreaming, Abusive Mother in Law, Scared to Call in Sick

We are back again with a new Q&A episode! I'm sure you guys missed these over the past few weeks. A few really great questions in here including: Is my excessive daydreaming bad? What can I do about my boyfriend's mother mistreating him? Why am I so scared to call in sick at work? As always you can learn more about me by going to duffthepsych.com/starthere and if you have questions or topic suggestions, send them over to [email protected]. This week's sponsors are: Creating Better Days CBD products. Use promo code SELFHELP at checkout for 20% off. Warby Parker
11/14/201948 minutes, 28 seconds
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Episode 183: Life Coaches, My History, and Future Directions of Psychology with Mxiety

Hello! I am back from vacation and wishing I never left! In all seriousness, I had a great time. But now I'm back with another great episode for you. This episode is a recording of a live stream that I did on Mxiety's Mixer stream. She interviewed me and we cover a lot of ground. Included in the topics we discuss are: The origin of my professional style Why I think a lot of mental health content is inherently unempathetic Resisting the lies anxiety tells you How I feel about life coaches The "end goal" of CBT treatment Interesting future directions in the field Mxiety is part of an amazing group of streamers that talk openly about mental health. Please go and support her at the following links: Her Mixer page. Her Twitter. Her website.
11/7/20191 hour, 10 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 182: Spooky Psychology Experiments

Hello, friends! Happy Halloween! This is a re-release of an episode I did a couple years ago. Humans are amazing creatures, but we also have a dark side. In this episode, I dive into some of the social psychology experiments that help us understand some of the not-so-great sides of humanity. AND I do all of it in a dramatic reading voice with eerie music in the background. Enjoy!
10/31/201923 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 181: Multiple Sclerosis and Mental Health with Dr. Meghan Beier

This is a great interview with rehabilitation neuropsychologist, Meghan Beier, Ph.D. While she focuses mainly on individuals living with multiple sclerosis (M.S.), we cover a lot of topics that are applicable to anyone living with a chronic illness. We discuss the mental health and cognitive impacts of chronic illness as well as navigating issues such as family and finding providers that "get it". Is there a topic you'd like me to interview someone about or cover on my own? Shoot me an email to [email protected]
10/24/201946 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 180: All About Sleep 2.0

Hello, friends! There are several episodes of the podcast that I refer back to constantly. Episode 26, where I talk all about sleep is one of those. I talk about it in other podcast episodes, I talk about it with my patients, and I talk about it with people in my daily life. It turns out that at 180 episodes of the podcast so far, episode 26 is kind of hard to find. A lot of podcast players only keep the most recent 100 episodes. So, I'm re-doing it. This is not a re-release of that episode, but a re-recording of it with some new thoughts added in.  In this episode, I talk about why sleep is important for memory, health, and mental health. From there, I talk about important sleep hygiene tips that will help you get better sleep. If you have any trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode is for you! If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them to [email protected]! Sponsors for this episode are Creating Better Days CBD products (coupon code SELFHELP) and Warby Parker!
10/17/201949 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 179: Talking Sex with Alison Leigh

Hello, friends! In this episode, I talk to licensed psychotherapist and sex advisor, Alison Leigh. Alison specializes in helping people in relationships overcome barriers to happiness and fulfillment, which often involves looking at the sexual relationship. In this interview, we talk about common barriers to intimacy, the impact of stress on relationships, and some strategies that she uses with her clients to encourage intimate connection. It was a good episode and I hope you enjoy it! As a reminder, my comprehensive online course to help you take your live back from anxiety is $200 off up until 10/15/19, so act now if you want to take advantage of this offer. Use the coupon code "five" at checkout, or simply follow this link to the course page. This episode is brought to you by Creating Better Days CBD products. Creating Better Days has a wide range of pure CBD and full-spectrum products to help you with stress, sleep, and pain. They submit each batch of their product to independent lab testing and provide the results to you so you can know exactly what you're getting. For 20% off your first purchase, head to creatingbetterdays.com and use the coupon code SELFHELP.
10/10/201944 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 178: Bad Enough for Therapy, Anxiety Nausea, Depression in Relationship

Hello, everyone! Happy to bring you another great question and answer episode today. Before that a quick announcement. October is my birth month and this year marks 5 years since starting the Duff the Psych brand. I'm so excited to continue this journey with you all and feeling immensely grateful. So all this month, I will be doing giveaways, freebies, discounts, and special events. Follow along on my Facebook page to get notified about all the good stuff coming up! The first exciting announcement for this month is that I will be temporarily providing a $200 discount on my Kick Anxiety's Ass online course until October 15th. That means that you can get the entire 10-module course for just $100, which is honestly an insane value. Use the coupon code "five" or follow this link to check it out! Anyway, here are the questions I answer in this episode: I feel like my issues are not bad enough for therapy and I should just suck it up. What can I do to start getting over it? How can I help my severe anxiety and nausea that starts in the early morning? My friend's boyfriend has depression and has become distant. What should she do? This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats! Check out more about their amazing 7-day retreats in Jamaica, which are fully legal and exceptionally well-reviewed! As always, you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected]
10/3/201949 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 177: Research-Informed Parenting with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo

This episode features an interview with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo. In her own words, "I don’t have much in the way of parenting instinct but I make up for it with outstanding research skills." Interestingly, by way of analyzing the research on parenting and starting her own podcast, she has been able to develop a true intuition and ease for parenting. Jen has a blog and podcast called Your Parenting Mojo that looks to the research to answer questions like "How do you parent a highly sensitive child" or "How do you use non-violent communication with kids?" This episode is an interesting one because we actually dive deep into problem solving some issues I was having with my own kids at the time. I actually held off on releasing this for a while because I felt like I may have been a bit defensive or negative. Jen was awesome though. Funny enough, the issues that we talked about are largely non-issues now just a couple months later. Kids amirite? Some links: First off, go check out Jen at https://yourparentingmojo.com/ She also talked a bit at self-determination, which you can learn more about at http://selfdeterminationtheory.org/theory/ Finally, she referred to Parentifact, which you can see here: https://www.parentifact.org/   Next week should be another Q&A, so if you have questions for me, please send them to [email protected] or head over the duffthepsych.com and see the contact page.
9/26/20191 hour, 11 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 176: Healthy Gaming, Processing Trauma, Social Anxiety

Hello, friends! In this episode podcast, I do a little Q&A with some really awesome questions. For one reason or another, I also felt a little silly so have fun with my rambles and random laughter. Here are the questions that I cover: How can I make gaming a healthy part of my life and not let it interfere with more important things? What does it mean to "process" trauma? What can I do about my postpartum social anxiety? As always, you can check out the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode176 and you can learn more about me at duffthepsych.com/starthere. If you have questions, send them over to [email protected]. This episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast is sponsored by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. MycoMeditations provides a legal means of experiencing the transformative and healing properties of the psilocybin mushroom. They provide 7-day retreats in Jamaica that involve guided psilocybin treatments, group processing, massage, accommodations, and authentic Jamaican cuisine. Learn all about MycoMeditations at their website or on episode 171 of the podcast, where I interview their founder.
9/19/201947 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 175: LGBTQ Health Disparities with Dr. Perry Halkitis

This was a fantastic interview with public health psychologist, Dr. Perry Halkitis. We talk about disparities in health and mental health treatment for LGBTQ individuals and how they have changed over the years. He also shares some information about his own unique personal and career path. Unfortunately, my side of the audio is a little blown out, but Dr. Halkitis sounds great and I think that his message was too good to not share with you all. I think it's well worth a listen.  Full episode show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode175 Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. They provide legal 7-day retreats in Jamaica that use the psychedelic psilocybin compound to help you work through significant mental health issues. For more information about MycoMeditations, check out their website or listen to episode 171 of the podcast where I interview their founder. 
9/12/201951 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 174: Driving Anxiety, Overly Affectionate Mom, Helper Burnout

This is a really great question and answer episode. If you hear some crickets chirping in the background, that is because it's hot as balls outside, even at 11pm and there was no way I was about to record with the window closed. Here are the questions that I cover: How can I address my anxiety about driving on the highway? What do I do about my husband's overly affectionate mother? How can I prevent burnout as a mental health professional? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode174 This episode is brought to you by Better Help and Warby Parker
9/5/201948 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 173: Tiffany Jenkins on Mental Health and Addiction

This week I have an incredible and inspiring interview with Tiffany Jenkins. Tiffany is a wife, mother, author, content creator and a recovering addict, she’s the face behind Juggling the Jenkins and author of “High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addicts Double Life”. She described this episode as a free therapy session, which I take as a compliment. I think you will really enjoy this interview. Full show notes available at duffthepsych.com/episode173 If you'd like to learn more about me, check out duffthepsych.com/starthere Next week should be a Q&A, so please send your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected]
8/29/201953 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 172: Overcoming an Affair, Recalling Trauma, Bringing Parents into Therapy

Hello, friends! This is an awesome Q&A episode where I take three great listener questions and try my best to offer some helpful advice. Here are the topics covered: Do you NEED to recall trauma in order to move past it? Why would my therapist want me to bring my mom into session? How can I move past the ghost of my past affair? As always, you can send me your questions or suggestions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode172 This episode was brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats and BetterHelp!
8/22/201946 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 171: Psilocybin Mushrooms for Mental Health with MycoMeditations

This is a special episode. I was approached by a company called MycoMeditations that wanted to sponsor the podcast. They actually were very persistent and approached me a few times about it because they were really interested in the opportunity to speak with you all. MycoMeditations is a company that hosts retreats in Jamaica that use the psilocybin mushroom, also known as the magic mushroom. It's an often misunderstood substance that research has shown to be an effective way to reduce the impact of treatment resistant mental illness such as depression and anxiety.    Since this is a topic that is somewhat sensitive (psilocybin is not legal in the US), I wanted to do things a little differently. Rather than just running a short ad, I wanted to have the opportunity to dive deep and fully explore the issue. So this is a sponsored episode. MycoMeditations did pay for this interview spot, but I am approaching it just like all of the other interviews that I do on the show so that you can be appropriately informed and make your own decisions.    My guest for this episode is Eric Osborne, who is the founder and head facilitator of MycoMeditations. He has a very interesting background in that he is a wild mushroom expert and mycologist. This enables him to approach things from a very unique angle, which you will hear in the episode. Rather than administering the mushroom in it's raw form, he uses a process to make measured capsules of it to have better control of the dosage.    I really hope that you enjoy this episode. It was very interesting for me. Please have a look at the full show notes at duffthepsych.com/episode171 and reach out to Eric if you have any questions after listening!   Check out MycoMeditations at their website to learn more!
8/15/20191 hour, 14 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 170: Sexless Marriage, PTSD in Literature, Health Anxiety

Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. These cover a range of topics including health anxiety, PTSD in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage. As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode170
8/8/201944 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 169: Mental Health and Spirituality with Dr. Anna Yusim

This episode is a super interesting interview with psychiatrist Dr. Anna Yusim. She is a practicing psychiatrist from a family of hyper-rational mathematicians. She was never spiritual or religious. However, about 10 years ago, she started to experience things that she could not explain and began to develop an interest in the intersection between spirituality and psychiatry. If you know me, this is not in line with my view of things, so I thought it would be super interesting to have this interview with someone who sees things from a different perspective.  Full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode169 and please continue sending your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected]
8/4/201954 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 168: My Counselor Died

Hey, everyone! This episode is missing some of the normal bells and whistles that you are used to. No intro music. No disclaimers or fancy editing. I am currently out of town and my remote desktop failed me, so I don't have access to my normal episode template. In this episode, I take one really good listener question about whether it's strange to feel upset about their counselor dying and what they can do about comparing future counselors to their last one, since it was a good experience for them. As always, you can send your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected] and find the full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode168  
7/25/201923 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 167: Posttraumatic Growth with Dr. Laura Copley

This is a fantastic interview with Dr. Laura Copley, a trauma specialist, who focuses on posttraumatic growth and resilience. We go through many important facts and misconceptions about trauma. We talk about the difference between resilience and posttraumatic growth. We even dive into a couple exercises that people currently contenting with trauma reactions can use to start living life on their terms. If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them over to me at [email protected]!
7/18/201951 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 166: When to Move On, Pregnant with an Eating Disorder, How Long Therapy Takes

Hello, friends! This is a Q&A episode in which I tackle the following: When is it time to move on from my boyfriend that just recently broke up with me so that I can "find myself"? What advice do you have for someone that is pregnant with an eating disorder? How long will it take for therapy to help with my borderline personality disorder? As always, you can send me questions and topic suggestions to [email protected] Full show notes also available at duffthepsych.com/episode166  
7/11/201943 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 165: Letting Go of Shame with Dr. Suvrat Bhargave

This is a really nice interview with psychiatrist Suvrat Bhargave. We talk about lessons that he has learned in his practice including how to let go of shame and why you don't need to hit rock bottom to have important moments of insight. He is very personable and cares about meeting people where they are at rather than speaking in jargon and working hard to seem like the expert. He challenges the stereotype that psychiatrists are unapproachable and only want to focus on medication management. Full episode notes available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode165 Next week is another Q&A episode, so send your questions or topic suggestions to [email protected]
7/4/201958 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 164: Boundaries vs Manipulation, Moving with Mental Illness, Helping Family Understand

Hey, all! On the last episode, I had my wife on to answer your relationship communications. We got SO many awesome questions that I wanted to tackle some more on the podcast today. This is a solo Q&A episode and I take questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Here are the questions I address: What can I do about my family that doesn't understand my anxiety? How can I tell the difference between reinforcing boundaries and being manipulative in my relationship? I'm about to move and I'm freaking out. What can I do? Full show notes are available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode164 and if you'd like to send in a question, shoot me an email at [email protected]
6/27/201947 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 163: Duff the Wife and I Talk About Communication

In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy! Next week will be another Q&A, so send me your questions to [email protected]. For full show notes, visit http://duffthepsych.com/episode163
6/20/201956 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 162: Depersonalization, Family Communication, Planning with ADHD

Hello, friends! It's very very hot over here this week, but I still decided to lock myself in my office without a fan and record this Q&A episode! There are three really great (and different) questions that listeners sent in, and I try my best to give some helpful advice. The questions are: What can I do to make my family member understand my past alcoholism? How can I plan and execute my days better when I have ADHD? What can I do about my chronic depersonalization and dissociation? As always, full show notes are available at duffthepsych.com/episode162 and you can send me your questions to [email protected]
6/13/201959 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 161: The Reality of Being a Therapist with Quinn Gee

This week, I have the amazing Quinn Gee of Magnolia Mental Health back on the show again. She is a "unicorn" in the mental health field. As a black, gay, female therapist, there are many people out there who really benefit from her perspective. She's also really good at her job. As such, she is BUSY. No, I mean BUSY. She puts my work ethic to shame. Unfortunately that also comes at the cost of her own well-being, which she is working on. In this episode we talk about the realities of being a therapist. We also brainstorm ways that she can take better care of herself for the sake of her own health and for the sake of her clients. It's a really interesting insider peek at those of us that work in helping professions and I think you will enjoy it. Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions and topic suggestions to [email protected]
6/6/20191 hour, 3 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 160: Erectile Dysfunction, Internet Exhibitionism, Strong Emotions

Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics including: How can I fix my stress-related erectile dysfunction? Is my desire to show off my body online bad? How can I better manage my strong emotional reactions? For full show notes, be sure to stop by http://duffthepsych.com/episode160 and check back next week for an interview episode! Please send any questions or topic suggestions to [email protected].
5/30/201952 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 159: How Your Brain ACTUALLY Learns with Dr. Jared Cooney Horvath

This episode is an awesome conversation that I had with educational neuroscientist Dr. Jaren Cooney Horvath. We talk about common misconceptions about the brain, how it actually works, and what that means for learning information or trying to teach other people information in effective ways. He has a new book called "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Insight from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick", which I highly suggest checking out! Next episode will be a Q&A, so please continue sending me your questions and potential topics to [email protected]
5/23/20191 hour, 15 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 158: Improving Self-Concept, Going Back to Work, Abandoned by Therapist

Hello, friends! We have a nice question and answer session for you today. Please be forewarned that one of the questions mentions the topic of suicide, so if you are particularly vulnerable to that topic, feel free to skip question #2. Here are the questions covered: How can I go back to work after having panic attacks due to a medical procedure? How can I improve my self-concept? What can I do about my therapist moving offices? Next week should be another awesome interview. In the meantime, please keep sending me your questions and topics to [email protected]
5/16/201952 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 157: Unfu*k Yourself with Gary Bishop

Hello, friends! This episode features an interview with the author Gary John Bishop. He wrote the best seller Unfu*k Yourself and juuuust released a new book called Stop Doing That Shit.  We had a great conversation about what people can do to start moving forward with their lives and we even dive into the personal story behind why Gary started making this type of content. Please stop by and check out Gary's stuff at https://garyjohnbishop.com/
5/9/20191 hour, 9 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 156: Drug-Induced Psychosis, Distance Jealousy, Dealing with Loneliness

This episode is a straightforward question and answer episode. Not too much preamble in this episode, just straight to the nitty gritty. As always, if you'd like to learn more about me and what I do, check out http://duffthepsych.com/starthere And if you have questions or topics for a future episode, send them over to [email protected]
5/2/201943 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 155: Jonah on Electroconvulsive Therapy for Depression

This is a super interesting interview with Jonah, who was kind enough to get very person in discussing his experiences with Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). ECT is a safe, but sensationalized, treatment for depression that does not respond to typical treatments such as medication and therapy.  Jonah is also a transgender man who happens to be in a committed polyamorous relationship with two other men. All of these aspects are intertwined in Jonah's story.  Next week will be another Q&A, so be sure to send me your questions to [email protected] Full show-notes available at http://duffthepsych.com/episode155
4/25/20191 hour, 6 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 154: Emotional Cheating, Hypomania, Boundaries in Supporting, Mood Disorder

This is a special Q&A episode in which I pull questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. If you aren't yet a member, request access at http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp I took four questions from the group that cover a wide variety of topics. I think you'll really enjoy this one. As always, you can send me your questions and topics to [email protected]. See you next week for an awesome interview episode!
4/18/201949 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 153: A Guided Relaxation About Letting Go

I think that a lot of you need to hear this episode. It's simply me talking with you a bit about the topic of letting go, especially of things that you don't have control over, and then guiding you through a forest visualization to help you relax. No ads or interruptions in this episode. Just sit back, pop in some headphones, and bliss out. Music in this episode is:  Rushing Stream.mp3 by acclivity 20071104.forest.04.binaural.mp3 by doboride
4/11/201941 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 152: Managing Toxic Family with Dr. Sherrie Campbell

Today's episode is an interview that I did with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Her specialty is helping people recognize toxic family members and work to productively cut ties with them and thrive in the aftermath. We get into some really interesting content including how to recognize when a family member is toxic and Dr. Campbell's deeply personal experiences that have driven her work.   I wanted to let you guys know that in addition to the audio, we also have full blog posts and show notes for each episode on my website. For instance, the episode last week about productivity tips is a full-fledged blog post in itself that you could easily read through if you forget some of the tips. This is something that I've been happy to hire an assistant to help out with. So make sure you stop by duffthepsych.com/episode152 to see the full notes for this episode.   As always, send me your questions and topics to [email protected] and don't forget to review for a chance to win free access to my online course!
3/28/20191 hour, 4 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 151: My Top Productivity Tips

We are doing a bit of a deep dive episode this week. I wanted to share with you my 10-11 best tips for staying productive even when you don't feel like it or may struggle with disorganization. We talk about many different personal tips that work well for me as well as universally good ideas when it comes to productivity and getting stuff done. Next week's episode will be an interview, but be sure to send your questions and topics for future episodes to [email protected]
3/21/201957 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 150: Tech in Mental Health with Abhishek Chandra from Spring Health

This episode is a wide-ranging conversation with Abhishek Chandra, a co-founder and CTO of Spring Health, which is a comprehensive mental health benefit for employers that goes beyond the traditional employee assistance program. We talk about the role of tech in mental health including machine learning, genetic testing, and online therapy. It's really interesting stuff! Next week should be a normal Q&A, so send your questions and topics to [email protected]
3/14/201955 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 149: First Panic Attack, Confronting Family Abuser, Repairing vs Calling Off an Engagement

This week's episode is a question and answer session. I cover three awesome questions that cover a variety of important topics. As always I'm impressed by the bravery in posing these difficult questions and I hope that I do a good job of being sensitive AND realistic in my responses. Here are the questions: How can I manage my anxiety after I had my first panic attack? How can I deal with my abuser, who is also my father, when he wants to stay at my home? Should I continue pushing or call of my problematic engagement? As always, I would greatly appreciate a share or review of the podcast and if you have questions or topics that you'd like me to cover on the show, please send them to [email protected].
3/7/201936 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 148: Dan Fields from Save it for the Show

Hello! In this episode, I interview a friend of mine, Dan Fields, from the Save it for the Show podcast. I thought this would be an interesting episode because it's essentially just me talking to a friend of mine about life on the internet, creating, modern mental health, families, working from home, and all sorts of other topics. I hope you enjoy! Next week will be a question and answer episode, so be sure to send me your questions to [email protected]
2/28/201953 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 147: Nocturnal Anxiety and Panic

Welcome, everybody! Today's episode is going to focus on a single topic. I have gotten a lot of questions recently about nighttime anxiety and nocturnal panic, so today we are going to focus on things that you can do to help you get a little bit better sleep and some relief from that nasty anxiety that can pop up during the night. Thank you to our sponsors for this episode, Open Fit and Daily Harvest! Text the code DUFF to 303030 for a free 30-day open fit trial or use the code DUFF for 3 free cups in your first Daily Harvest Box! If you have questions or topics for a future episode, please send them to me at [email protected]
2/21/201940 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 146: Duff the Wife Valentine's Special

Hello, everyone! Super excited because this week I have my beautiful wife, Joelle Duff on the podcast again. You always have such great feedback when she's on the show and it's honestly just nice to have a good excuse to sit and talk with my favorite person. We talk about her getting back into her career after taking a mental health, baby, life-clarity break. We talk about communication in our relationship. We talk about harnessing the power of bipolar and planning for the inconsistencies. We talk about a lot of awesome stuff. You'll love it. Next week will be a normal Q&A or single topic episode, so shoot me your ideas to [email protected]
2/14/20191 hour, 1 minute, 43 seconds
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Episode 145: Bipolar Barbie

Hello, friends! This week, I have an interview with the wonderful Bipolar Barbie. She is a mental health advocate from Australia. In this interview, she describes her experiences with bipolar and talks about why she is passionate about being a mental health advocate. We cover topics from her first manic episode during law school to the importance of medication in her journey. I think you'll really enjoy this one. Congratulations to the winner of this week's free book, @kellydutrisac! If you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me. I pick one winner each week.  If you have a question or topic for a future episode, send it to [email protected]
2/7/201949 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 144: BDSM after Trauma, Slipping Back into Depression, Supporting a Partner with PTSD

This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised. I forgot to announce it during the episode, but this week's free book winner is @inkblot_ace on twitter. Congrats! If you want to win a free print copy of one of my books, simply share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me! Here are the questions I cover in this episode: What can I do when I feel myself slipping back into depression? Are my BDSM fantasies unhealthy given my trauma history? How can I support my partner with severe PTSD? As always if you have questions or topics that you'd like to submit, just send them over to [email protected]
1/31/201930 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 143: When Life Gives You Parkinson's with Larry Gifford

On this episode, I have an interview with Larry Gifford from the When Life Gives You Parkinson's podcast. He was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's disease at age 45. This was a serious curve ball for someone with a spouse, a child, and a blossoming career in radio. We talk about his show, coping with a Parkinson's diagnosis, honest conversations with family, and misconceptions about Parkinson's disease. As a reminder, if you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just like @passtlivess did this week, share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me! I'll pick one each week. Next week should be another solo-show. If you have a question or topic that you'd like discussed on the show, send it to [email protected]
1/24/201949 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 142: Fundamentalist Religion, Parenting with Mental Illness, Panic Disorder

Hello, friends! I have a Q&A episode for you today. This is an extra special episode for a couple reasons. First off, I'm starting a new weekly tradition. If you share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me, you might be selected to win a free copy of one of my books! Second, my nearly one-year-old kiddo, Leo was very present in this episode. I had to squeeze in the recording between other appointments, so you hear some babbling and such in the background. In terms of the questions, here what I covered: How can I move on from the guilt caused by ending family relationships due to an extreme fundamentalist upbringing? How can I balance significant psychological issues and still be a good parent? What can I do about my recurrent panic attacks? As always, if you have a question for the show, please send it to [email protected]
1/17/201931 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 141: You Might Die Tomorrow - Kate Manser on Mortality Awareness and Living Better Today

Hello, all!  This was an episode that was supposed to air a while back. I postponed it due to a shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline night club in Thousand Oaks. I felt that the topic just wouldn't be appropriate for that day.  However, now that we are in a new year, it's the perfect time to think about your values, your goals, your aspirations, and how to live better in the now. That's exactly what we talk about in this interview. In this episode, I interview Kate Manser from You Might Die Tomorrow about the concept or mortality awareness and how that can be used to help you make decisions and appreciate the present. As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and if you like what you've heard, please rate or share the show on social!
1/10/201943 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 140: Making New Year Goals That Make Sense

This is a short and sweet episode that I recorded before leaving for an end-of-year vacation with my family. We talk about making goals for the new year.  At the end of the year, many people start thinking about goals and resolutions. I see absolutely no problem with that. However, it's important to try to do them in a way that sets you up for success rather than failure. Here are a few quick tips: Establish goals as part of an overall year-end review. Keep your goals reasonable. You can also include larger overall aspirations, but use those as guiding lights rather than attainable goals. If you have too many goals, or goals that are too far from your starting point, you can set yourself up for success and continue the negative feedback loop. Subdivide your goals into small manageable steps. Even if you're not starting with your full capacity in any given goal, you are still doing more than you did before. Start small and build from there. 2018 was a great year and I'm so pumped to knock 2019 out of the water. Thank you so much for all of your support, and for contributing your questions to the podcast. This would not be possible without you. Please continue sending me your questions, feedback, and ideas to [email protected].
1/3/201922 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 139: Neurofeedback, Low Motivation, Knowing if Therapy Works

The last episode of 2018! Wowwwww. It's been an awesome year and I thank you so much for all of the support, attention, and of course questions. I thought that I would end things strong with a nice Q&A episode. Here are the topics covered: What is Neuroptimal (neurofeedback)? How can I help myself when depression steals my motivation? How do I know if therapy is working? I am so excited to get back into the swing of things in January. Please keep sending me your awesome questions and topic requests to [email protected]!
12/20/201847 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 138: Jamie Shares Her Personal Experience with Ketamine Treatments

This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long struggles with anxiety and depression. Jamie is someone who has put in the work. She has tried numerous medications and therapy, but nothing seemed to stick until Ketamine. She describes going into the first infusion suicidal and coming out with hope for the future. Powerful stuff.  Please say hi to Jamie... On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thegloomyoptimist/ At her website: http://thegloomyoptimist.com   And as always, you can find the full show notes for this episode at http://duffthepsych.com/episode138
12/13/201852 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 137: All About Ketamine Treatments with Dr. Steven Mandel

Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that very few people seem to talk about. To me this is a shame. It's amazingly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, PTSD, and bipolar.  In the interview, we talk about why Ketamine works, what an actual session looks like, and how it is a very low-risk procedure. We also address some common misconceptions and even get into the nitty gritty of cost/feasibility. Please share this episode with your friends, families, and networks. This is the first of a two-part series. Next week, I will be sharing an interview with an individual who describes their personal experience and amazing benefit from Ketamine treatments for depression. I should note that I have no personal stake in the Ketamine Clinics. I simply believe that it's a treatment that should gain more exposure.
12/6/201844 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 136: Overcoming Self-Sabotage in Relationships, Fear of Wrists, Decision Paralysis

Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awesome questions that I cover on today's episode: How can I break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt in my relationship? How can I overcome my fear of wrists? How can I better decide what activities to engage in at home and stop getting paralyzed? As always, you can send me questions to [email protected] and check out the full show-notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode136
11/29/201844 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 135: How to Survive the Holidays

Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love! http://duffthepsych.com/episode85
11/21/201829 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 134: Kati Morton - Youtuber, Author, and Therapist

Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out. In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help. I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December! 
11/15/201838 minutes, 47 seconds
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Too Close to Home

The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.
11/8/20186 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 133: Spooky Mental Health Treatments From History

I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one. Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to [email protected] and the full show notes for this episode are available at duffthepsych.com/episode133.
11/1/201842 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 132: When to Stop Taking Meds for Anxiety

Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.   This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at duffthepsych.com/episode132, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much!   As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at [email protected]
10/25/201839 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 131: Supporting a Reluctant Partner

In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issues going on? I give my perspective on this question and also spend some time defining bipolar disorder. Enjoy! For full episode notes, check out http://duffthepsych.com/episode131 and if you have a question or suggestion for the podcast, send it over to [email protected]
10/18/201828 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 130: Complex PTSD

In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm going to try this for a few weeks and then ask for your opinions. Today's episode is all about C-PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder. See full show notes at http://duffthepsych.com/episode130 If you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the show, send it over to [email protected]  
10/11/201834 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 129: All About Dementia

In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function. I go in-depth and cover the following: Dementia terminology What kinds of dementia there are How to get a diagnosis Managing difficult behaviors Support available for caregivers If you have a suggestion for a future deep dive topic or have a question that you'd like me to answer, send it to [email protected]
10/4/20181 hour, 2 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 128: Making Friends, Avoiding Stress After Concussion, Advice for Future Therapists

Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation. Here are the questions I cover: How can I make friends when my depression gets in the way? Should I be avoiding stress rather than exposing myself? What advice do you have for a future therapist? As always, you can send your questions for the show in to [email protected]
9/27/201838 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 127: Duff the Wife Back Again!

Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation! We talk about all kinds of stuff including: Our life and recent move Changing psychiatric meds Parenting with anxiety How I keep work at work As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to [email protected] 
9/20/201847 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 126: Anxiety Exhaustion, Explosive Anger, Mending a Relationship

Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week: What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety? How can I deal with my explosive anger? How can I mend the relationship with my step-daughter? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected]
9/13/201836 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 125: Too Broke for Therapy, Anxiety Meds Don't Work, Pressure to Have Kids

Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast player you use, so you never miss out.  Here are the questions for this week: How can I get help when I can't afford therapy and I don't have insurance? What can I do when my emergency anxiety medication doesn't work? I feel pressured to have kids. What should I do about it? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected]
9/7/201834 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 124: Gender Dysphoria and Sex, Increasing Klonopin Dose, Options to Keep Living

Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it. Here are the questions: As a transgender male, how can I cope with my dysphoria while having sex with my partner? Should I increase my dose of Klonopin or change medications for my anxiety? I feel like I don't have any reason to live. What else can I do? As mentioned in the podcast, check out http://hardcoreselfhelp.com for my audiobooks! If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to [email protected]
8/30/201833 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 123: Porn and Depression, Panic Disorder, Fleeting Suicidal Thoughts

Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today: Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life? How can I deal with my constant panic attacks? Should I talk to my therapist about new fleeting thoughts of suicide? As always, you can send me your questions for an upcoming episode to [email protected]
8/23/201835 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 122: Anxiety Procrastination, Supporting Suicidal Friends, Loving with Borderline

Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has paid off. THANK YOU! Here are the questions covered this week: How am I supposed to show my partner love when I have borderline personality disorder? How can I best support my suicidal friends? How can I stop procrastinating and stick to habits with anxiety? As always, please keep sending me your questions to [email protected].
8/16/201836 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 121: Death Anxiety, Regret, and the Therapeutic Relationship

Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot. On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, you will no longer be able to buy the course!! Get on it http://kickanxietycourse.com Here are the questions answered in this episode: How do I get over my anxiety about death? What can I do about my crippling regret? I feel attached to my therapist. Is that bad? If you have a question for a future episode, please send it to [email protected]  
8/9/201839 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 120: Addressing an Awkward Situation with Therapist

It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at http://kickanxietycourse.com If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You can check out a bunch of free lessons from the course before you decide. I think you are going to get a lot out of it. In this episode, I answer one listener question about what to do when you are uncomfortable with your therapist walking behind you to their office at the start of session. We should be back to regularly scheduled programming next week. Until then, keep sending me your questions to [email protected]
8/2/201812 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 119: Dealing with a Toxic Mother

Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd!  This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A tough one, but a really important topic. Next week will be one more short episode and then we will be back to regularly scheduled programming. Keep your awesome questions coming! Send them to [email protected]  
7/26/201810 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 118: Parenting with Borderline Personality Disorder

Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass.  In this episode, I take a question about parenting with borderline personality disorder. Full show notes can be found at http://duffthepsych.com/episode118   If you want to send me a question for a future episode, please send it to [email protected]  
7/19/201812 minutes, 33 seconds
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Episode 117: Too Depressed to Start Therapy

Hello, friends! For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course. For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option for me, since I'm too depressed to do regular in-person therapy? If you have a question for me, be sure to send it to [email protected]
7/12/201818 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 116: Communication and Support with Duff The Wife

Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and supporting one another in a relationship where one partner has significant mental health challenges. We bring our own personal experience into it and keep it super real. I hope you enjoy it.  Just a reminder: You have until 7/9/18 to enter the Kick Anxiety's Ass giveaway. Good luck! 
7/5/201851 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 115: When the World Is Too Much

This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the news and the state of the world. It can be exceptionally hard for someone with mental health issues to know what to do when the state of the world becomes overwhelming. I hope the thoughts that I present here help. Here are a few tips: 1. Realize that no matter WHEN you hear about news or how much you worry about the event... those have absolutely no bearing on the fact that the event happened. In other words, the events are happening whether or not you already know about them.  2. Regulate your flow of information. Consider waiting to "plug in" to the world until you've gotten ready for the day and consider unplugging for at least an hour before you go to sleep.  3. Fight back against the false sense of immediacy that anxiety gives you. 4. Remember that you are allowed to feel, but not taking care of yourself may limit your ability to help or make a difference. 5. Taking good care of yourself allows you to funnel energy into action, which can make you feel less helpless.  Quick update: HUGE giveaway going on right now at duffthepsych.com/giveaway   Thanks!
6/28/201826 minutes, 3 seconds
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Episode 114: School Anxiety, Disclosing Mental Illness to Partner, Ending Therapy

Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first:  1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here: https://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/Hardcore-Self-Help-F-k-Anxiety-Audiobook/B00S8U7PKW 2. There are three free lessons from my course that you can check out without any signups required at http://kickanxietycourse.com Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my intense anxiety and stomach pain when I have to go to school? How can I go about telling my new romantic partner about my mental health issues? When is the right time to stop therapy? As always you can send me questions to [email protected]
6/21/201842 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 113: Polyamory, Family Issues Due to Bipolar, Living with a Disability

Hello, friends! This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates: I changed the free preview content that is available on http://kickanxietycourse.com. Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breathing strategies, and thinking traps. Good stuff. The audiobook for F**k Anxiety will also be new and improved probably near the end of next week. I'll update again when the changes are processed. Here are this week's questions: My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me? How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar? What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected]
6/14/201832 minutes, 52 seconds
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Episode 112: The Psychology of ASMR

In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make those videos. For almost 6 years, in fact.  I talk about what ASMR is and give examples from different videos. At the end, I even give you a bonus ASMR audio sample recorded by yours truly. Enjoy!  Here are the videos that I used samples from: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WVyPFXdn0ME ASMR 1H OF TAPPING NO TALKING! more than 1 hour! by Chiara ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9h94cOlXFRc ASMR 1 Hour Tapping | No Talking by ASMR Glow https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOfN9ZOGXcA ASMR Purely Close Up Whispers | Ear to Ear by LauraLemurex ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X6-vAoDz008 ASMR Dmitri Talks about a Dream - Soft Spoken Voice by Massage ASMR https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xrKbOF3vHo8 Cranial Nerve Test with Pat LaFontaine & Dr. James Kelly by brainline https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OgzmbwRNfmA Asheville Mall Manicure Nail Buff, Great Gift by Ask Asheville https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZDZuaQ05Xso OLD ~ Cranial Nerve Examination Roleplay by Cutebunny992 Binaural Dual Trigger Sounds ASMR by me https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xEyR5dCQs60 [ASMR] Hearing Test Nurse (Soft Spoken) by GIBI ASMR
6/7/201843 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 111: Repressed Memories, Processing Loss, and Depression at 15

Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;). Here are the questions that are covered in this episode: Are repressed memories real and what should you do about them? How do I know that I've fully processed recent losses in my family? How can I get help when I'm 15, depressed, and embarrassed? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] And be sure to check out my new online anxiety course at http://kickanxietycourse.com  
5/31/201839 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 110: Dr. Skye Stifel Answers Your Child Questions

This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and adolescents. Good stuff! Please head over to http://kickanxietycourse.com to learn more about my 10-week intensive anxiety bootcamp!  As always, please send me your questions for future episodes to [email protected]  
5/24/201849 minutes, 29 seconds
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109: Family Doesn't Support Therapy, Facing Rejection, Making Friends

Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode.  Hey, if you are interested in taking your anxiety from a 9 to a 3 and taking back control of your life, be sure to follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and on facebook at http://facebook.com/duffthepsych because I will VERY soon be opening up pre-orders for my 10-week online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. Stay tuned. Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my step-mother who does not support me being in therapy? How can I make friends in college? How can I build a thicker skin in the face of rejection? If you have questions for a future episode, please send them on over to [email protected] 
5/17/201830 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 108: Quinn Gee on Being a Therapist and Black Mental Health

Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got into therapy, her own identity development, what it's like being a therapist, and some concepts related to black mental health. It was a great talk.  Next week should be a regular question and answer episode, so send your questions to [email protected] Be sure to show Quinn some love at: http://twitter.com/cuntrycounselor https://www.magnoliamhealth.com/  
5/10/201858 minutes, 41 seconds
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107: What If Depression Doesn't Go Away?

In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't put a dent in it, you may have "treatment resistant depression". It can be extremely frustrating to fall into this category, but I want to reassure you that there is still hope. In this podcast, I talk about different options and techniques that can be used to move past resistant depression.
5/3/201839 minutes, 35 seconds
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106: Sakinah on Severe Mental Illness and Advocacy

Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental illness. It was also a very authentic picture of how you can persist and do cool things like a podcast interview in the context of your mental illness. Sakinah second guessed whether the interview was good quality because she was just coming off of an episode and felt that her thoughts were scattered. Regardless of this, I think that she did an amazing job and serves a a great model of having mental health issues AND kicking ass. Enjoy! If you have any suggestions for topics or potential guests, send them over to me at [email protected]
4/26/20181 hour, 5 minutes, 29 seconds
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105: Different Types of Therapy

Hey all! This is a deep dive episode that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one, but I describe some of the types of therapy that you are most likely to encounter including: Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Dialectical Behavior Therapy EMDR Family Systems Therapy Integrative or Eclectic Therapy Therapy is effective. Many people don't understand how talking with someone can help, but it does. The research is good on therapy outcomes, which is why insurance companies continue to cover it. Please continue sending me your questions to [email protected], especially questions about kids for my upcoming episode with a school psychologist. 
4/19/201844 minutes, 33 seconds
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104: Dr. Andrea Letamendi on Comics and Psychology

Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts. We had a broad conversation about these topics, her background, and the field of psychology in general. I hope you enjoy! Please send me your questions about children for an upcoming episode where I will enlist the help of a school psychologist to answer questions about kiddos. You can send them (and other questions) to [email protected] Please show Dr. Letamendi some love on twitter at http://twitter.com/arkhamasylumdoc and visit her website at http://underthemaskonline.com    
4/12/20181 hour, 3 minutes, 58 seconds
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103: Flashbacks, Borderline vs Bipolar, Pressure to Have Sex

Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health.  I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTunes OR share the show with your friends this week.  Here are the questions covered in this episode: How to I get over traumatic flashbacks when it has been over a year? Do I have borderline personality disorder or bipolar? Should I feel pressured to have sex? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected]
4/5/201833 minutes, 16 seconds
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102: Dr. Ron Holt on Coming Out Safely as LGBTQ

Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and a variety of other topics such as tips for coming out safely.  Please check out Ron's work at http://twitter.com/drronholt and at http://drronholt.com Next week will be another question and answer episode, so be sure to send your questions to [email protected]
3/29/201844 minutes, 50 seconds
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101: Work Boundaries, Autistic Burn Out, Social Memory

Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another interview as well with an awesome guest. Here are the questions that I tackle this week: What should I do to have a better work-life balance when my colleagues work all weekend? Why do I have a great memory for school, but a terrible memory for social information? Is stimming a valid coping strategy for fatigue and burnout as a person with autism? If you have a question for the podcast, shoot me an email to [email protected] or go to http://duffthepsych.com/contact
3/22/201832 minutes, 9 seconds
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100: Special Episode - Me Interviewed as a Guest!

Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation about all kinds of stuff. Honestly, I wish we had another 2 hours to talk. Let me know if you'd like to hear a part 2 in the future. Super huge thanks to Dan for volunteering his time to this episode. I also just wanted to say THANK YOU. This has been a really special project and I'm proud of what we've created here. I can't believe it's been 100 episodes. I am so honored and thankful for your support.
3/15/201859 minutes, 35 seconds
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99: Erez Sheck on Bipolar, Bullying, and Social Media

Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bullying, bipolar, being a gay man, hospitalization, and social media. It was a great conversation!  Please show Erez some love on twitter at: http://twitter.com/erezsheck and check out his website at: https://www.theshekcheck.com/ Do you have a guest that you would love to hear me interview? Let me know! Shoot me an email to [email protected] This episode was brought to you by Sudio. Check out http://sudio.com for some awesome Swedish-designed bluetooth headphones. Use the offer code SELFHELP for 15% off! 
3/8/201854 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 98: All About Exposure for Anxiety

This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content for the module on exposure. I have also been frustrated by people that I see in my clinical practice who have gone through years of therapy for their anxiety, but never engaged in exposure treatment for their anxiety. Research indicates that exposure is a vital component of successful anxiety treatment. It's about facing your anxiety head on and teaching your body to stop reacting so strongly to it.  In this episode, I talk about exposure in general and then break down two methods for gaining exposure and increasing your tolerance for anxiety. If you'd like to submit a question for a future episode, send it over to [email protected]
3/1/201837 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 97: Finding a Male Role Model, Discussing Trauma, Hydrocephalus

Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out https://goo.gl/Q5excs and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase.  This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice progressively died as I recorded the episode, so you get croaky Robert again. Great variety of questions this time including: How can I find a positive male role model for my boys since their father died? Should I talk about my trauma in therapy even though I haven't spoken about it for 30 years? Has my history of hydrocephalus affected my speed of thinking? How can I improve? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] Thanks!
2/22/201838 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 96: Moving, Tolerating Insecurity, Anxiety Procrastination

Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Look forward to that. This episode is a question and answer episode with questions from my private Hardcore Self Help facebook group. If you aren't a member yet, go to http://facebook.com/groups/hardcoreselfhelp and request access! Here are the questions: How can I prepare for a big life change? How can I get over my relationship insecurity? Is procrastination related to anxiety? If you have questions that you would like me to answer, please send them to [email protected]
2/15/201838 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 95: Moving on from Trauma at 66

Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience! Keep sending me your amazing questions to [email protected]  
2/8/201813 minutes
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Episode 94: Should I Have a Relationship with My Abusive Parent?

Hello, everyone!  Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taking great care of yourself. If you want to send me a question, please do so at [email protected]
2/1/201814 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 93: Dr. Amber Baker Answers Anxiety Questions

Hey, friends! I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different host. I think she knocked it out of the park. Be sure to stop by the following links to show her some love and say thanks for doing such a great job. https://twitter.com/DrBakerPhD http://www.gofriendyourselfdoc.com/ https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/go-friend-your-self-with-dr-baker/id1266870594?mt=2 Please keep sending me your questions to [email protected]. I'll be doing mini episodes for the next two weeks and then I should be back at it with normal episodes. 
1/25/201846 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 92: Burn Out Prevention, Vertigo Anxiety, Signs of a Good Guy

Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, which I explain at the top of the episode. Here are the questions for this week: How can someone with anxiety/depression prevent burnout? Is it possible to overcome anxiety without medication, especially with vertigo? I've been burned before, but I want to date again. What are the signs that I'm dating a healthy/good guy? As always, you can send me your questions to [email protected]  Thanks!
1/18/201838 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 91: The Wife Part 2

My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy!  Next week will probably be a normal episode, but after that there will be some mini-episodes and guest spots, as I go on paternity leave. Definitely keep sending me your awesome questions to [email protected]
1/11/201858 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 90: New Year Reflections

Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know what your hopes for the year are!  If you want to send me a question for a future episode, you can reach me at [email protected]
1/4/201828 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 89: A Guided Relaxation for the Holidays

I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to help you de-stress and relieve some of the stress that often accompanies the holidays. Give yourself the gift of relaxation. Put in some headphones. Chill with me. I got you.  No episode next week. Back at it the week after. Keep sending me your questions to [email protected]   Background music credit: https://cctrax.com/cousin-silas/landscapes
12/21/201725 minutes
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Episode 88: Recognizing Abuse & Raising Children With Mental Illness

Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though. In one of the questions, I reference a video with Kristen Bell, which you can check out at: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mYUQ_nlZgWE In the other, I reference the cycle of abuse image, which you can see here: http://teaminfocus.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2014/01/Cycle-of-Abuse.png Here are the questions: How can I help my children, who are starting to show signs of depression and anxiety, when I can't even help myself? How can I recognize and move past abuse when I'm unsure about whether I have been abused? As always you can send your questions in to [email protected]
12/14/201729 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 87: Surviving Disasters

Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continues on. Decided to do an episode with some of my tips for getting through disasters like this including: Understanding stress vs anxiety Prepping to avoid freezing Mental rehearsal Importance of rest Focusing on what you DO have control over Mindfulness in disaster situations Finding comfort in the small moments Keeping routine where you can Talking about event without re-traumatizing Processing your feelings Getting help Managing social media consumption Not sure what format next week's episode will be, but please feel free to keep sending your questions over to [email protected] and be sure to check out the info for my upcoming course at duffthepsych.com/course
12/7/201735 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 86: Too Nervous to Call Therapist, Phobia of Vomiting, Depression in High School

Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this potential book in stores. That's a bucket list item of mine and I'm excited to keep you updated in the coming weeks/months.  Here are the questions for this episode: How can I get help when I'm too anxious to call a therapist? How can I get over my fear of vomiting? How can I get through high school when I have been depressed for years? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected]
11/30/201743 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 85: How to Survive the Holidays

The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season.  If you have other tips that work well for you, please share them with my on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych and I will RT them for my audience! 
11/21/201729 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 84: Triggers and Trigger Warnings

This is a deep dive episode where I spend the entire time talking about one topic of interest rather than taking questions from the audience. In this episode, I cover something that I've been meaning to talk about for a while, which is the word "trigger" and the term 'trigger warning". I cover what the term "actually" means, where it came from, and my mixed feelings about the way that trigger warnings or content warnings are used these days. A the end, I also give some practical tips for when social media becomes too triggering. Next episode will be either an interview with Brent Williams, who wrote the Out of the Woods graphic novel that I review here or just a regular Q&A. Please keep sending me your awesome questions to [email protected]
11/9/201731 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 83: Bipolar Depression, Firing a Bad Therapist, Forgetting Family Members

Thanks for having some fun with me for the Halloween episode last week. This one will be a regular Q&A episode. I wanted to give a quick shout out to my buddy Speeks Geak for hooking me up with the new intro and outro beat. Check him out over at: https://twitter.com/SpeeksGeak909 In this episode, I cover some great questions on a variety of topics. Here is what I cover: What is bipolar depression? How is it different than "regular" depression? How should I tell my therapist that I don't want to work with them anymore? How do I get my files from them? What can I do about my grandparent with dementia not remembering their spouse? As always you can send me your questions to [email protected] and follow me on twitter at http://twitter.com/duffthepsych
11/2/201738 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 82: Spooky Psychology Experiments

This week we are doing something a little different. I wanted to get into the Halloween spirit, so today on the podcast, I tell you the story of 4 spooky psychology experiments that reveal the darker side of the human condition. 
10/26/201721 minutes, 32 seconds
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