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The Conscious Love Show

English, Cultural, 1 seasons, 63 episodes, 4 days 2 hours 31 minutes
Each week we explore the nuances of the crazy dating world and how to create a conscious relationship from within it. I’m sharing true to life insights and experiences from my journey and how I’ve created the loving and committed partnership I have today. I answer your questions and have live discussions with members of the community so I can support you in your specific situation and I bring in experts and people who know they’re stuff so we can all learn from their perspectives. Thanks for taking a look and I hope you feel supported and loved as a part of The Conscious Love Show Community.
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How to Become Attracted to Healthy, Secure, and Consistent Men After a Dramatic Dating History

In this empowering installment, join Shane as we explore the transformative journey of discovering How to Become Attracted to Healthy, Secure, and Consistent Men After a Dramatic Dating History. Whether you've experienced heartbreak, inconsistency, or uncertainty in your romantic past, this episode is your guide to breaking old patterns and fostering a deep, conscious connection with partners who embody stability and emotional security. Tune in for expert advice, personal anecdotes, and actionable tips that will empower you to redefine your relationship choices and cultivate a love that is not only passionate but also grounded in health and security. Don't miss this essential episode on conscious love and the path to a fulfilling, lasting connection!
28/11/20231 hour 57 minutes 36 seconds
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Be Where Your Feet Are: the secret to life and love

Grab your FREE TICKET to the Healthy Love Show here!   I am thrilled to extend a heartfelt invitation to The Healthy Love Show: How to Get Ready Emotionally, Physically, & Spiritually for Juicy, Connected Love, where I'll be joining a panel of over 30 esteemed experts for an enriching journey toward fostering deeper, more fulfilling relationships. Throughout the 5-day summit, you'll gain exclusive access to renowned experts in the field, including distinguished names like Ken Page and Alison Armstrong. These experts will offer invaluable insights and practical guidance to help you prepare emotionally, physically, and spiritually for deeper, more connected relationships.   Click here to grab your Free Ticket while they're still available.    Podcast Description:  In this week's episode of The Conscious Lo
21/11/20231 hour 56 minutes 30 seconds
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How the Things We Avoid Become the Ceiling on What’s Possible for Us

In this thought-provoking episode of the Conscious Love Show, delve into the profound exploration of "How the Things We Avoid Become the Ceiling on What's Possible for Us."  This episode unravels the intricate dynamics of our subconscious choices and the impact they have on our personal growth and fulfillment. Discover the hidden barriers that often arise from avoidance and learn how these unaddressed aspects of our lives can inadvertently set limits on our potential. In this episode, Shane shares real-life stories to shed light on the transformative power of confronting the uncomfortable and embracing vulnerability. Join the enlightening conversation as Shane guides you through practical strategies to identify and overcome the self-imposed ceilings that may be hindering your personal and relational evolution. Gain valuable insights into the psychology of avoidance, and unlock the doors to a more authentic, expansive, and conscious love. This episode promises to
14/11/20231 hour 52 minutes 59 seconds
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You are Unconditionally Supported by the Universe, and here’s how...

In this week's episode, we embark on a journey of understanding the profound support that the universe offers us in our quest for conscious, loving relationships. Join us as we delve into the spiritual aspects of connection, trust, and surrender, and learn practical tools to tap into this boundless support. Discover how aligning with the universe's energy can lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships and a profound sense of purpose. And how you are always supported in creating what you believe no matter how "good" or "bad" that belief might be. Tune in for an episode that will awaken your soul to the limitless possibilities that await in the realm of conscious love.  And as always, sending love to you wherever you are in your journey. 
07/11/20231 hour 53 minutes 10 seconds
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How to Keep Your Heart Open in Hell

In this powerful episode, we delve deep into the art of resilience and maintaining an open heart, even in the most challenging circumstances. Join us as we explore practical strategies, heart-centered practices, and inspiring stories that will empower you to navigate life's darkest moments with grace and love. Discover how to find light in the midst of darkness and cultivate a spirit that not only survives but thrives. Tune in for an episode that will touch your soul and leave you with a renewed sense of hope and possibility.  
31/10/20231 hour 56 minutes 45 seconds
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The Parallel Realities of Self: Navigating Yourself to the Most Fulfilling Possible Reality

How does one truly find love in this crazy world?   Many people have answered this question with different methods and strategies and if you've tried them, they've likely failed you time and again. Because this question isn't strategic, it's spiritual.   In this episode, I'm addressing this question from a spiritual perspective, honoring the truth of who we are and our true creative ability.  It's not for the feint of heart, but if you have an open mind, this episode might change your life forever...    
24/10/20231 hour 50 minutes 18 seconds
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What Men Really Want: An Inside Look With Lindsey Marie Barber

In this INTERVIEW with life coach Lindsey Marie Barber, she shares her take on men after years of working with them intimately. If you want the inside scoop on any of the topics below, then you won’t want to miss this … What do men really WANT? What are men hesitant about or fearful toward in relationships? The real reason why men GHOST! What challenges do men face in communicating? How are men just like women in their deepest DESIRES? How are the stories you tell about men blocking you from love? Why are we attracted to certain men and not others? How can we truly FORGIVE and why is this so important You can find Lindsey on her website and even book a free 30 min coaching session with her on Or, check her out on Instagram @lindseymariecoaching
17/10/20231 hour 30 minutes 54 seconds
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Where are All the Good Men and Why Can’t I Find Them?

Wondering where all the good men are?  I have the answer.  After coaching women for the greater part of the last decade, I can't tell you how many times I've heard the phrase, "There are no good men out there!"  And yet, just last week I was at the wedding of a great man, who at 35 years old is committing his life to the woman of his dreams and they are building a home and family together.  So the fact remains that good men are out there, they just seem to be hard to find.  So where are they hiding? In this episode I'm telling all.  Are you ready to hear the answers?
10/10/20231 hour 45 minutes 26 seconds
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The Healthiest Way to Heal from Heartbreak, Let Someone Go, and Move On!

We've all been there, devastated by the loss of someone we love and finding it impossible to see a future without them.  Some of us have been stuck in this for more than a decade and in truth, there are some people who never recover from it.  But others are able to move through it quite quickly and even come out better on the other side of it.  In truth there are two ways of going through this and while neither of them are particularly fun, one leads to a bright future with more love in it and the other leads to someday repeating the pattern all over again.  In this episode, I'm breaking down the healthy approach--how you can consciously let go of someone you once loved, heal from the loss, and become better than ever before.     
03/10/20231 hour 56 minutes 52 seconds
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WORTHINESS! The #1 Quality You Need to INVITE LOVE Into Your Life!

You are WORTHY! You are worthy of the juiciest life and love that you can imagine and then some! Today's episode is a reminder of that for you.  This episode is all about revealing the most critical prerequisite to manifesting your deepest, most heartfelt desires. You can have them. You deserve them. In this episode, let me show you how!  Enjoy <3 
26/09/20231 hour 52 minutes
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Letting Go: The special SUPERPOWER that you didn’t even know you had...

What if you could feel completely at ease, comfortable, and safe inside your own body no matter what was going on around you? What if you had a way of showing up to all your life circumstances feeling confident in yourself, great about who you are, and optimistic about what is possible? That's what I'm offering in today's episode.  It's a practice I've been deeply working with for the last year that has completely changed my life.  This has allowed me to take on new levels of relationship, career, health, and family while easily managing my anxiety and feeling confident and optimistic throughout. This one is a life-changer and I am excited to share.    
19/09/20231 hour 51 minutes 50 seconds
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Surrendering to Change and Allowing it to Bring Your Dreams to You

Nobody likes change...  Is that the truth?  Or is it a limiting perception we've developed based on fear?  Things that change in our lives are always changing for the better but our limited perspectives don't always allow us to see that.  Often, we fear the very thing that is bringing us everything our heart's desire and we do everything we can to stop it from happening. In this episode, I 'll share how you can work with change to navigate the flows of life and allow them to bring you to everything you've been dreaming about.  
12/09/20231 hour 52 minutes 35 seconds
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Why Men Ghost and Stop Calling

To answer some of my most asked questions, I'm doing a deep dive on what happens for men and why they suddenly seem to lose interest, disappear, and ghost without a word. Bringing back one of my most popular episodes from several months ago, we explore the process of a man's development to undo his toxic, non-committal programming and become ready for conscious love.  A must listen.  Enjoy <3     
05/09/20231 hour 44 minutes 23 seconds
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Things that Men Say That Confuse Women With Ishmael Gomez III

The confusion stops HERE! Join me as I interview relationship and personal development coach, Ishmael Gomez III as we unveil clarity around the many things men say that confuse women!!! Ismael has a number of years of experience and between the two of us, and being men ourselves, we've heard and/or experienced it all.  You'll get a better understanding of why men DO and SAY the things that they do. This will help you to understand where your partner is really at in your relationship, what men are looking for when dating, what pushes guys away, how to know if he's REALLY into you and so much more...  Trust me, you won't want to miss this conversation!  <3 Shane
29/08/20231 hour 36 minutes 4 seconds
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The NaturalTimeline of a Conscious Relationship

When is it time to have "the talk"?  How do you know where this relationship is going or when you will get there?  What is a realistic timeline to expect to move into deeper levels of commitment with someone and how do you know if this relationship is actually going there or not?  These are the questions I'm answering in today's podcast.  As we discuss the natural timeline along which a conscious relationship unfolds, you'll be able to identify which stage you are in if you're currently dating someone and know exactly what the next steps are for you.  If you're single and searching, you'll be able to create realistic expectations and navigate future relationships from a place of clarity, personal empowerment, and confidence. Having a clear picture of a realistic timeline, knowing what should be happening and when, will take all the guess work out of dating and let you know exactly where you stand with someone.  Enjoy :)    
22/08/20231 hour 58 minutes 24 seconds
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How to Stop Obsessing in the Early Stages of Dating

We've all done it.  We meet someone, we like them, we get attached, we start dreaming, we start trying to make them ours, and we do all this before we even truly know if we want them or not.  When we struggle being alone and feel a scarcity around the potential for love, we respond to that by having unrealistic expectations for ourselves, others, and relationships as a whole.  This causes us to act out in desperate or unattractive ways and ultimately destroy the opportunities of love that do come into our lives while simultaneously limiting and the quality and quantity of love interests available to us. If you want to succeed in love, you have to stop doing this and in this podcast, I'm going to tel you how :)  Enjoy! 
15/08/20231 hour 42 minutes 16 seconds
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Do You Hate Men? here’s how you know...

Do you hate men?  Or if you're a man, do you hate women?   Your answer may be an immediate yes or no but in my experience, this conversation is much more nuanced than that just that immediate answer.  We've all had so many experiences with the opposite sex, beginning with our parents and continuing throughout all of our relationships in adolescence and adulthood.  And the truth is, whether you recognize it or not, you've probably built up some resistance and resentment against them and in the right situation, this can definitely manifest as hate. In this episode, I'm going to help you discover if you've been carrying any unconscious resistance toward the opposite sex, show you what that is creating in your life a a result, and help you understand the steps to heal so you can have a deep loving relationship with the partner of your dreams.  This is a good one ;) let's dive in!     
08/08/20232 hours 13 minutes 37 seconds
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The 3 Types of Men You Will Encounter in the Dating World

In today's episode, I'm breaking down the 3 types of men you will encounter in the dating world.  Of these 3, only one shows real potential for a conscious relationship while the other two will only lead to disappointment and frustration.  In this episode, I'm sharing who these guys are, why they are the way they are, and what to do when you meet one of them.  Enjoy!  
01/08/20231 hour 54 minutes 1 second
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Confronting Narcissism in the Modern Dating World

The term narcissist is something that we hear a lot and it is usually involving a great deal of pain.  The narcissist has become the boogeyman in the modern dating world and is often used as a catch all phrase to describe someone with inconsiderate, harmful, or abusive behavior but what is a narcissist really?  Where does narcissism come from?  And why is it so pervasive in our culture?  These are the questions this episode of the conscious love show seeks to offer.  Through this episode, you will gain a deeper understanding of what narcissism is, where it comes from, and how to deal with a narcissist without becoming disempowered by them.  I hope you enjoy this powerful episode of The Conscious Love Show! 
25/07/20231 hour 59 minutes 18 seconds
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The Spiritual Process to Manifest Love

Manifestation is not about what you do, it is about who you are. But in a world that is moving at a fast pace and constantly pressing us to move faster, most of us are so busy doing things that we're not even connected to who we are.  This makes love impossible. In today's episode, I'm breaking down the spiritual process to manifest love.  This process doesn't require dating apps or proving yourself to people who don't respect you.  It's simple, relatively easy, and your only opponent in this process will be your own fear.  Yet, people who have the courage to walk this path will experience an abundance and joy in life like something you've never known. Enjoy today's episode!     
18/07/20231 hour 54 minutes 30 seconds
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The Incredible Power of Equality

The 3 Secrets to Manifesting Authentic Love | FREE WORKSHOP! This Saturday, 7/15 at 12 PM ET | Click Here to grab your Free Ticket now :)     This episode is about magic!  There is something truly magical that happens when you stop relating to others from a place of better than or less than and you begin to see yourself and everyone as equals.  I know this sounds incredibly simplistic and you probably think you already do this but I promise when you listen to this podcast, you will be surprised!  In this episode, I'm breaking down the way our egos maintain distance with others to keep us safe and how this is largely accomplished by placing yourself either above or below others in your own mind. And I'm also sharing how to break this insidious habit and what happens when you do!  Enjoy <3   Music Credit: Corporate Upbeat | Corporationby Alex-Productions | Music
11/07/20231 hour 52 minutes 34 seconds
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The Only Two Ways to Get What You Want From Life...

When it comes to love, money, or anything else, there are really only two approaches to  getting what we want from life.  One is to try to take it through force or manipulation and the other is to give so much of yourself to life that life returns the energy you've invested tenfold.  Most people live in a force/manipulation model and, in this episode, I'm going to share why that is and where that ultimately leads.  When we step into giving ourselves fully and completely to life, we can receive everything that is meant for us and, in today's episode, I'm going to help you understand what that really looks like and how you can do that for yourself.    Music Credit: Corporate Upbeat | Corporationby Alex-Productions | Music promoted by
04/07/20231 hour 30 minutes 18 seconds
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You don’t want a relationship, you want an expanded experience of yourself...

The desire to love and be loved is one of the most universal human experiences and, at it's core, it is a very good thing.  But in our chaotic world, where so many of us struggle with worthiness, and we carry these heavy wounds from our past, this pure and beautiful desire has been distorted into a craving that reinforces our lack of worth and disconnects us from love rather than bringing us closer to it.  We imagine that the right person will make everything better but this is a trick of the ego and not true.  When we bring our wounding to relationships, those relationships can only reflect those wounds.  It's not really a relationship you seek, it is a feeling of being worthy, lovable, alive, and passionate and when you feel like this, love is never far away.  The goal is not to find someone to make you feel better, it is to learn to live fully alive and embodying a state of love.  In that state, everything you're looking for will find you. I hope you enjoy th
27/06/20231 hour 32 minutes 55 seconds
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The Most Essential Transformation Needed to Create True Love

Whenever I have a client or a program graduate who is highly successful in their life and love, I always like to ask what it was that made the difference for them. I always want to find out, what was the actual shift that you needed to have to experience the results you've created?  And over the years, I've noticed a very clear pattern.  In fact, every single one of them give me some variation of the same answer and I know exactly what that answer is because it's the same thing that happened for me.  If it wasn't for this one shift in how I felt about myself, I never would have had my wife fall in love with me because I just wouldn't have been ready for a woman like her. Want to know what it is, or even better, has it happened for you yet?  Well I'm not gonna give it to you that easily but in this episode, I'm going to tell you exactly what that shift is and break down the detailed steps to creating this shift in yourself.   Music Credit: Corporate Upbeat
20/06/20231 hour 36 minutes 12 seconds
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Generational Trauma and navigating the world we’ve inherited

Trauma goes deeper than most people think.  Because even if you came from a good home and a good family, you were born into a traumatic world.  We've inherited a world of trauma, a world with a history steeped in war, conflict, and survival of the fittest and when we experienced this world as helpless, innocent children, it was deeply hurtful to us and we built big walls of protection around ourselves. Modern dating culture is a side effect of this generational trauma and what we experience in dating is the result of millions of traumatized people, most of them not even aware of their need for healing, desperately trying to feel better and feel more love while simultaneously being terrified of intimacy.  This is an impossible situation and it's lead to a divorce rate above 70% and millions struggling with self-worth and loneliness.      In this powerful episode, I share how to navigate this impossible situation.  I speak about being a beacon of light in a world of dark
13/06/20231 hour 49 minutes 13 seconds
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What is Healing and Why is it Important?

Have you ever felt that no matter how hard you try to improve your love life you still hit a wall?  Like no matter what you do or what you say or how hard you try, you are still going to get the same results and there's nothing you can do about it. This is the experience that many of my clients are feeling when they come to me and please know that I've been there and I know exactly what that feels like.  And in the many years I've been doing this work, I come back to it time and time again that anywhere we feel blocked or stuck, we are experiencing a past trauma that we are unable to move forward from, and it is limiting our future. Most people think if they just try a little harder or do it a little better or a little differently they can solve all of their problems but I promise you, this idea is a fallacy.  When we are blocked by traumas that are held in our body and subconscious mind, there is no amount of just trying harder or doing better that will solve it. We m
06/06/20231 hour 34 minutes 25 seconds
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The Amazing Energy that Men ALWAYS Respond to...

As a follow up to last week's episode, I wanted to speak into what actually works!  Last week I shared how not to chase a man, how to maintain proper power dynamics, and how to give him space to prove himself to you and while this was all SUPER important, I couldn't help but feel that something was missing.  I told you a lot about what NOT to do but not so much about what you should do. Truth is, it takes more than keeping a high standard.  A high standard with harsh/critical energy will make a man feel defeated and unworthy.  But a high standard with tenderness, warmth, and nurturing will make a man feel like superman, and if you want a man to fall in love, you want him to feel like superman with you.  In this episode, I complete the conversation by sharing the amazing energy that men ALWAYS respond to and by bringing this energy to him, you will have him responding to you!      
30/05/20231 hour 33 minutes 37 seconds
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Never Chase a Man: Managing the surprising power dynamics in early dating

In today's episode we explore the one simple rule: Never Chase a Man.  Easier said than done of course, especially when men can be so avoidant and it would be so easy to just give a nudge in the right direction and get things moving.  Still, when you take the lead and start trying to push the relationship forward, you are causing him to lose attraction and never be able to see you as the women he wants a lifetime commitment with.  In this episode, I share how he needs to see you and think of you to be ready for real commitment and I guide you in the personal growth steps you need to take to be ready to receive the man who will pursue you like you always dreamed someone would.   
23/05/20231 hour 39 minutes 35 seconds
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Projection Makes Perception: How we see ourselves is how we see the world

In this episode, I'm speaking into an idea that comes from A Course in Miracles: Projection Makes Perception In this one idea lies both our greatest strength and our greatest weakness.  This is the power we have to create a life unimagined!  To transcend our current reality and experience a life far beyond anything we previously thought was possible.  To create deep love, infinite abundance, immense joy, and the freedom to be and do what is truly in our hearts. This idea also contains our ability to never realize any of this--to maintain our current experience of life and repeat and recreate these experiences over and over again.  All of this is within your power and in this episode, I'm sharing how to direct your power to the places that will be most rewarding and most fulfilling in your life.    
16/05/20231 hour 45 minutes 15 seconds
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How to Leverage your Spiritual Power to Manifest Love

In today's episode, we look at the principles of manifestation and what is required from us to truly manifest a loving partnership in our lives.  We look at why manifestation doesn't work and what prevents people from being able to access this power and explore the true process of manifestation and how to implement it in our lives.  I also share specific practices that you can use to move out of fear and into love which is the foundation for being able to manifest more love and loving experiences in your life.    
09/05/20231 hour 47 minutes 48 seconds
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I Want What’s best For You: the ultimate relationship mindset

In this episode, we explore how the mindset of wanting what's best for the other person makes you most receptive, available, and attractive for love.  We discuss how to remain empowered while wanting the best for someone else and how that enables you to get what's best for you also.  Includes an interesting discussion about men being overly sexual in early stages of dating in the Q and A section.  
02/05/20231 hour 22 minutes 26 seconds
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Why Men Disappear, Ghost, and Stop Calling (the REAL answer)

In this podcast episode, I'm addressing the #1 most commonly asked question I get from my listeners: "Where the hell did he go?"  Sometimes it's only after a first date and you never hear from him again.  Other times, after several weeks of great connection, he out of nowhere decides he's done and conveniently forgets to inform you of this.  You call, you text, and no answer.  He's gone.  A particularly frustrating one is after a session of passionate love making, you feel that you've really made a deep and lasting connection but the next day, he acts like it never happened or worse, doesn't act like anything because you never see him again. And those guys who have the audacity to call 3 months later and try to catch up like everything is good (eyeroll). Yes, there is no more infuriating and despicable male behavior than the way they disappear without a word, without even enough care to acknowledge the time you've spent.  I've heard your pain and your hea
25/04/20231 hour 42 minutes 42 seconds
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Understanding Masculine and Feminine Energies, Polarity, and their Toxic Aspects.

I've been geeking out on this topic ever since my discussion with Liz last week and in this week's episode, I'm sharing some of my deepest insights on this topic and how we can leverage these energies within ourselves to become more attractive and magnetic, to find the right partner for us, and to heal everything that is unhealed within us.  I really enjoyed this episode and I know you will too.  Thanks for listening! 
18/04/20231 hour 54 minutes 31 seconds
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Embodying Feminine Energy to Attract a Masculine Partner with Liz Haber-Zambrano

In this very special session I have the opportunity to interview my dear friend, mentor, and coach Liz Haber-Zambrano.  Liz has been a part of my life for over a decade, she is a beautiful lady, full of insight and wisdom, and someone I am honored to have on the show.  In this episode, we have a very in depth discussion about what it means to embody a feminine essence and how that creates attraction with the Masculine.  We discuss the cultural and societal dynamics that impact this and we discuss the individual journey of healing and growing into authentic partnership.  This was a discussion I thoroughly enjoyed hosting and was even quite enlightening for me.  I know you'll enjoy it too!   
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I like you, I want you, I love you but that doesn’t make this a Free Ride

Most of us have been afraid to let someone know how we truly feel about them and we've acted out in all kinds of crazy ways because of this.  Playing hard to get, not calling or texting when we want to, sometimes we even encourage them to date someone else just to hide the fact that we really want them to date us.  And the reason for this is that we've associated authenticity with a loss of power.  We feel that to be honest with them is to lose a benefit in the relationship.  Today's episode is about undoing that.  It's about bringing authenticity and clear communication back to our love lives without diminishing our power.  If you want to know how to be clear and honest about your true feelings while creating mutual respect in the relationship and setting it up for long term success, this episode is for you!    
04/04/20231 hour 49 minutes 37 seconds
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What Demonstrates Real Potential (And What Destroys it!)

In today's episode, we explore 2 very important questions: 1. How do I know if there is real potential with someone I'm dating? 2. What happens in my relationship with them that destroys that potential or prevents the relationship from working out.  After receiving thousands of questions from my community, I realize that so many of them center around these two things.  I met someone and it was going so well, then it fell apart.  What the hell happened?  And in today's episode, I'm doing my best to answer that!  I'm covering how you know that someone you're dating isn't wasted time but actually someone worth investing in and what might happen as the relationship deepens to destroy what was once possible for you.  Thanks for listening, enjoy!  
28/03/20231 hour 40 minutes 21 seconds
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We Attract (and are attracted to) our Greatest Opportunities for Healing

You've had some pretty BAD relationships haven't you?  Liars, cheats, narcissists, the freaking worst!  But what if these "bad" experiences weren't as bad as you thought they were?  What if you invited this toxic person or this damaging relationship into your life to give you an opportunity to heal something?  We all have challenging experiences, especially in relationships!  But when we understand what these experiences are for and we learn how to find their benefit and extract the essential lessons from them, they elevate us to a new experience in our lives. They invite us into a new paradigm of who we can be and from that place, what we attract and what we're attracted to changes. This episode is sharing some of the most essential lessons about the journey to love.  Enjoy it and share it with a friend!   
21/03/20231 hour 40 minutes 22 seconds
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How to Have ”The Talk” Without Feeling Needy or Desperate

This episode is a deep dive into all the nuance of having "The Talk". If you're wanting to know where this relationship is going, how they really feel about you, and what you can expect from them long term, this episode is like a cheat sheet for all of those questions.  We explore finding clarity on what to say and how to say it, being vulnerable and also empowered in your approach, regulating your own emotional experience of anything that might happen in the conversation, and healing any shame you have around your needs and wants in a relationship so you can feel deserving of the things you're asking for. This "talk" can be the most difficult part of navigating a new relationship so don't feel alone in this process.  Listen to this episode to get your mind and heart in the right place and be ready to create the connection you truly desire most.   
14/03/20231 hour 41 minutes 33 seconds
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Situationships: How to let go of what no longer serves you

Ever been in a situationship?  Of course you have!  Contrary to popular opinion, these are not bad, wrong, or even a mistake.  They are highly relevant experiences in your journey to love that allow you to transform yourself within the context of relationship and come into a greater experience of personal worth and value. It's not about judging these relationships or yourself for being in them but truly understand what this relationship was for, the purpose it served in your life, and being able to recognize when it's run it's course and extract the value from it.  When you do this, every "situationship" you find yourself in will be short lived, incredibly valuable, and accelerate your journey toward the right person.  When you don't know how to do this, these relationships become highly destructive and crushing to your worth and value. I hope you enjoy this exciting discussion as we break down the situationship and how to use it to empower yourself and accelera
07/03/20231 hour 33 minutes 54 seconds
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The Single Most Attractive Quality that a Human Being can Embody

Want more people to find you sexy?  What to turn more heads when you walk into a room?  Want others to feel the desire to be closer to you and go deeper with you?  Want a promotion at work?  In this episode, we are exploring the single quality that can make all of these things possible.  This is the quality that all dating articles unanimously claim is the most attractive and the single most important thing for people to experience from you in dating.  To have long term respect and appreciation in a relationship, this quality cannot be missing.  And yes, even at work, this quality will get you a promotion, even over someone more qualified than you!   It's a relationship skill and a life skill and to learn what it is and how to access it more often (even all the time) check out this week's riveting new episode!   
28/02/20231 hour 38 minutes 36 seconds
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Navigating the 4 Dimensions of Human Experience: How to end your suffering and live a bold and inspired life.

Did you know you're a 4 dimensional being?  It sounds weird when we say it like that but the truth is we all occupy 4 dimensions of experience at all times: Body, Mind, Emotion, and Spirit. The problem is, to a large degree, we are not present to these different dimensions of our experience.  We instead experience ourselves as an isolated body, having complex thoughts and emotions, with little real connection to anything spiritual (as much of a nice idea as it might be) and this is the source of all of our suffering.  We don't know ourselves as we truly are and we don't have access to the fullness of ourselves. My work over the years has been to have people gain more access and balance within these different realms of our experience and as we do, we experience more freedom, confidence, aliveness, and personal power.  The ability to create or manifest the life you are seeking will come from knowing yourself more fully and having more access to the deepest aspects of you
21/02/20231 hour 30 minutes 6 seconds
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Accessing Empowered Brainstates to feel Connected, at Ease, and bring forth your Best Self

Did you know that throughout the day we transition through many different brainwave states?  From sleeping, to waking, to working, to relaxing, all of these activities require different levels of brain activity.  The sad truth is that most of us live in a consistent state of fight or flight (survival) throughout most of our waking hours and this activates stress hormones in the body which cause us to act out in irrational ways and bring our worst to every day situations.  In love and dating, being in a state of fight or flight will have catastrophic results!  And that's whether you're in a committed relationship or just getting to know someone.   In this episode, we explore the different brainstates and how to maintain a regulated system that feels great in your body and allows your most beautiful qualities to shine through with no filter.  
14/02/20231 hour 36 minutes 10 seconds
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The Holy Relationship: A union based in wholeness

In this week's episode we are exploring the maximum manifestation of love we are able to experience in our human lives: The Holy Relationship.  Most human relationships are what Shane refers to as ego-entanglements, which are basically manipulative arrangements made through the ego to have it's perceived needs met.  These are castles made of sand that eventually wash into the sea because they aren't founded in anything real.  The Holy Relationship is a representation of true love.  In this episode, we learn what that relationship is and understand the process of growing into it.   
07/02/20231 hour 31 minutes 50 seconds
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The Most Important Decision you will ever make...

The most important decision you will ever make is not the person you will marry, the career you choose, where you live, or how you spend your time.  It is a decision that literally defines every aspect of your life and determines the quality of your life and love in every aspect.  Want to know what that decision is?  Well this week's episode is an in depth exploration into that question.  Strap in, because this one is a big one! 
31/01/20231 hour 34 minutes 51 seconds
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The Lessons of Love: How to elevate yourself into the loving partnership you’ve been waiting for.

This episode is a deep dive into the lessons of love and the journey through them.  Each experience we have, positive or negative, is shaping us for the love and partnership we are seeking.  On the journey, our role is to consciously go through each experience and learn the lessons as they are presented and as we do this, we are accelerated towards love.  This conversation is a personal favorite and one of the most important to creating a conscious relationship.   
24/01/20231 hour 43 minutes 4 seconds
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Why Men Commit and Why They Don’t with Michael Desanti

In this special interview, I have my dear friend and colleague Michael Desanti joining me for a conversation where we dive into the psyche of men and why they do and don't commit. Michael is a men's success coach and has worked with thousands of men around the world.  He is the co-founder of The Vital Guide, Author of the book New Man Emerging, and creator of the Find Your Tribe program.  It was such a pleasure having him on the show and I so enjoyed our discussion.  I hope you'll appreciate this interview and the wisdom he shares about a man's journey to become ready for commitment.  Order his book New Man Emerging on Amazon and learn more abut his work at    
17/01/202355 minutes 24 seconds
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Your Past: The only obstacle to everything you desire

In this episode, we explore how our past experience shapes our thoughts, feelings, and the way in which we see ourselves. This then determines what we believe is possible for us, what we are willing to go for in life, and where we hold back.  The possibilities for your future are only as big as your belief in yourself is and that belief comes out of your identity, which was shaped by your past.  Join us for a riveting discussion on how past experience determines the possibilities for our future and how we can release our limiting identity to make space for a life and love that we formerly did not even think was possible. 
10/01/20231 hour 30 minutes 55 seconds
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The True Path to Love in 2023

For those who want to start the year off right!  We're looking at what leads to love and what doesn't.  What are the thoughts, feelings, and approaches that streamline love coming in to your life and what is it that slows you down or makes you miss it all together?  How can you maximize your possibility this year to live in love and invite in all the amazing experiences and opportunities that come with it?  That's what this episode is all about!  Enjoy
03/01/20231 hour 25 minutes 5 seconds
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Setting the intention for Love and bringing in the New Year with Shane Kohler

In this week's episode, we discuss the process of setting intentions from a grounded, connected, and spiritual place so that they have the highest likelihood of coming true.  We talk about how to relate to our intentions and how they help us grow and for those who are seeking love, we discuss how to position yourself so that your intention for love is likely to come true in 2023.  We also have a great discussion about overcoming anxious attachment in the Q and A section.   
27/12/20221 hour 20 minutes 29 seconds
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Help! I can’t meet any good people!!! What should I do?

For anyone who's struggling to find the right person, especially during the holidays...   In this episode, we explore what to do when hitting a wall in dating.  Instead of continuing to force what's not working, how do we redirect?  Where do we put our energy and focus?  And how can we be confident that love is on its way to us without constantly trying to meet someone new?  This is a powerful lesson around managing your own energy and raising you vibe without getting off track for the love you're dreaming about.  
20/12/20221 hour 26 minutes 57 seconds
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Vulnerability: The Gateway to Love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore the importance of vulnerability in healing and attracting love.  We learn what vulnerability is, what it is not, and how it shapes the way we see ourselves and relationships.  We see how it is essential to our healing and vital to creating love.   
14/12/20221 hour 26 minutes 57 seconds
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I Want What’s best For You, the ultimate relationship mindset with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore how the mindset of wanting what's best for the other person makes you most receptive, available, and attractive for love.  We discuss how to remain empowered while wanting the best for someone else and how that enables you to get what's best for you also.  Includes an interesting discussion about men being overly sexual in early stages of dating in the Q and A section.  
06/12/20221 hour 17 minutes 17 seconds
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Belief Systems, Behavioral Adaptations and Payoffs--the addictive cycle that keeps your from love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore how belief systems form in early life and then perpetuate themselves throughout our lives.  We see how many if not all of what we "choose" is less of a choice and more of a reaction to our beliefs.  We see that these reactions take us away from love and everything we want in life and how if this cycle is not interrupted, we will isolate ourselves from love.  We also work with some amazing questions in the Q & A portion.  Enjoy! 
29/11/20221 hour 29 minutes 32 seconds
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Letting go of Instant Gratification and Opening Up to True Love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore the dilemma of needing to escape our bad feelings and run toward good ones.  We discover why this dilemma is so disempowering, how it perpetuates the experience of unworthiness, and how to regain our power while caught in this trap.  We also explore themes like what makes someone really want you and how to protect yourself from manipulation. 
22/11/20221 hour 24 minutes 57 seconds
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How to Heal Your Relationship to Men with Emily DeBouver

In this episode I bring my friend and fellow coach, Emily DeBouver, in for a fascinating conversation about healing your relationship to men.   In this episode, Emily shares about growing up with an abusive father and how that shaped the way she saw men, the journey she had to go through to heal from this, plus so many fascinating insights and tools that she uses to serve her clients.   I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I enjoyed my conversation with Emily.  Connect with her on IG: @em.debouver and TikTok: @em.debouver   
15/11/202240 minutes 49 seconds
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How to Create More Confidence and Become More Attractive with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore what confidence is, why it's important, how to create more of it, and how it relates to attractiveness.  What's great about this episode is we explore all the things that make up attraction that are not superficial and actually have way more power to create magnetism in dating.  Also includes an interesting discussion about attraction and masculine & feminine energy in the Q and A section.
09/11/20221 hour 7 minutes
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Distinguishing ego thought from higher intuitive thought and learning to receive guidance through it with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore the two ways we can process information, through our conscious, physical mind and through our intuition, we understand the purpose and place of both, and uncover how to rely more on intuition in the places where it really matters.   We also go into an in-depth discussion on narcissism and healing through narcissistic abuse during the Q and A portion. I hope you enjoy this value-packed episode!      
01/11/20221 hour 9 minutes 8 seconds
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Learning to let all things be as they are and deal with them on that basis with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore the simple yet profound principle of becoming really clear about the reality of a situation and then dealing with it on that basis only, rather than allowing our future projections or fantasies to color the picture.  We also explore how to create clarity in the early stages of dating when you don't know where you stand and how to prevent our past trauma from limiting our future. 
25/10/20221 hour 5 minutes 51 seconds
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Developing Trust to Find Love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore trust as a prerequisite to creating love.  It is through learning to trust that we are able to release everything that doesn't serve us and accelerate our way toward love.  It is our lack of trust and all the ways we overcompensate for it that get in our way and derail our journey.  
19/10/20221 hour 9 minutes 20 seconds
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The Real Way to Manifest Love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore the true process of bringing love into your life.  What does it mean to manifest love or anything for that matter?  Can we really do it and if so, how?  All of that explored in this episode plus major pitfalls that disrupt our manifestations! 
11/10/20221 hour 10 minutes 12 seconds
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Being a High Value Partner and Attracting High Value in Return with Shane Kohler

Exploring how we present ourselves as "high value" in the dating world and how doing so will attract the quality of relationship that we are looking for. 
04/10/20221 hour 4 seconds
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Working with shame and understanding how it shapes our relational experiences with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore how shame is formed early in life, how it takes shape throughout our life, and the impact this has on our relationships.  We explore how to work with it to experience more authenticity and confidence in who we are, which ultimately leads to more success in our love lives.    
27/09/20221 hour 4 minutes 32 seconds
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How to Work Miracles in your Love Life--transforming fear to love with Shane Kohler

In this episode, we explore how to navigate the difficult emotional experiences in dating in a way that leaves us feeling empowered, positive about who we are, and optimistic about the future--being aware of the fear when it arises and learning to release it and have it be replaced by love.  To the degree that we can do this, we grow toward love and invite more of it into our lives.  
20/09/202245 minutes 59 seconds