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English, Investigative journalism, 1 season, 57 episodes, 1 day, 5 hours, 48 minutes
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Welcome to SiblingsToo, the podcast about Sibling Sexual Abuse, the hidden taboo, hidden in society and in families. Sibling Sexual Abuse is thought to affect as many as 1 in 5 families. Your Host is Nancy Morris, a psychology researcher and sibling sexual abuse survivor, #SiblingsToo creates a voice for sibling sexual abuse and brings research and information to surivors and their families.
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Ep.56 - The Next Phase of the #SiblingsToo Podcast

So much is going on! Here's a quick update about the SiblingsToo Podcast and the work going on behind the scenes.
6/27/20244 minutes, 59 seconds
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Ep.55 - A Family Journey Toward Justice and Healing after Sibling Sexual Abuse Disclosure (Part 2)

In a deeply moving follow-up to Episode 54, Heather shares her experience of confronting sibling sexual abuse within her family. The shocking revelation by Heather's daughter, Brooke, and the subsequent turning point—with her son admitting guilt—paints a raw and honest portrait of a family navigating the darkest of times.   In the wake of Brooke's disclosure and the admission of sibling sexual abuse by her brother, Heather and Brooke face the arduous task of giving their impact statements for court, forced to give words and voice to the profound emotional toll the abuse has inflicted. As we listen to their statements and this follow-up discussion, we delve into the critical moments from the day Brooke courageously spoke up, through the family's initial reactions, to the ongoing legal proceedings that ripple through their lives. Heather's unwavering support for her children, her advocacy for appropriate justice and rehabilitation for her son, and the perseverance to heal as a family are all laid bare in this candid discussion.   Key Takeaways:   *   Brooke's impact statement reveals years of suffering due to sibling sexual abuse, including mental torment and confusion about her sexuality. *   Heather struggles with dual advocacy, seeking justice for Brooke while ensuring her son receives adequate treatment and rehabilitation. *   The family undergoes immense emotional turmoil, with both children experiencing psychological breakdowns and hospitalizations after disclosure. *   Heather's faith plays an integral role, granting her the strength to support her family through their darkest period. *   The family's experience underscores the necessity for better handling of sibling sexual abuse cases within the legal system and broader societal change.   Notable Quotes:   *   "My innocence was ripped from me due to his poor self-control and decisions and it wasn't fair." - Brooke *   "My son destroyed our family bond, broke our family apart and caused what has felt like a death of both of my children." - Heather *   "Trying to find a way to mostly advocate for the victim, my daughter, what she had been through, her feelings, five years of dealing with the abuse..." - Heather *   "As much as we were trying to help both of our children, life had just become a disaster." - Heather *   "I want people to know that certain things you feel have broken you to the core sometimes build you up to become that much stronger." - Heather     Timestampts 1:24 Brooke's impact statement   5:48 A Mother's Plea for Justice and Healing   9:52 A Mother's Struggle With Sibling Sexual Abuse   13:27 Concerns Over Sex Offender Treatment and Sentencing   19:03 A Family's Crisis of Disclosure and Sexual Abuse   25:59 The Overwhelming Nature of Navigating the Judicial System   27:01 Finding Strength in Faith During Family Crisis   30:05 Strength, Self-Care, and Family Resilience   35:34 Families Embrace Healing and Advocacy After Trauma       Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/9/202437 minutes, 24 seconds
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Ep.54 - A Family Journey Toward Justice and Healing after Sibling Sexual Abuse Disclosure (Part 1)

In this profound episode of the #SiblingsToo podcast, we are introduced to Heather, John, and their daughter Brooke, a family united by the turmoil of sibling sexual abuse and united in their journey toward justice and healing. Heather and John, parents grappling with the revelations of their son's actions toward his sister, embody the resolve to advocate for both their children amid an undeniably complex emotional landscape. Brooke emerges as a beacon of courage and a voice for survivors, sharing her experience with clarity and a hope to inspire change.   Episode Summary:   The SiblingsToo podcast embarks on an emotionally charged dialogue as we delve into the critical issue of sibling sexual abuse and its ramifications on the family unit. This episode welcomes Heather, John, and Brooke, who bravely share their family's tumultuous journey after Brooke's disclosure of her older brother's sexual abuse towards her. Their story sheds light on the under-recognized epidemic of sibling sexual abuse and the journey towards justice and healing. Heather reveals the omnipresent danger technology poses in our children's lives, especially with the ease of accessing potentially harmful content like pornography. John shares his paternal struggle, anchored by his commitment to both his children, while Brooke illuminates her personal evolution, from survivor dealing with blame and shame to advocate for awareness and prevention. Together, they explore the complex intersection of familial dynamics, mental health, technology, and societal norms that often converge in cases of sibling sexual abuse.   *   The episode opens with Heather expressing concern for the overexposure of today's youth to content beyond their mental processing capacity. *   The family discusses the influence of pornography on their son's behavior and the importance of open dialogues and preventative measures in family settings. *   A powerful perspective shift occurs as Brooke underscores the necessity of reclaiming one's power as a survivor, advocating for both victims and abusers in the quest for healing.   Key Takeaways: *   Children are being exposed to more content, such as pornography, than their brains are ready to handle, influencing behavior in harmful ways. *   The challenge of advocating for both the survivor and the abuser exists within the same family, emphasizing the unique dynamics present in sibling sexual abuse cases. *   Parents should consider contracts, monitoring, and conversations about internet safety as preventative measures against the dangers of unfettered technological access. *   Brooke, as a survivor, aims to push for educational change within the school system, advocating for personal space rules and anti-grooming information. *   There is a possibility for family healing and reunification post-disclosure, with the prerequisite of respecting the survivor's timing and comfort.   Notable Quotes:   *   "Children are seeing more than their brains are ready to handle." - Heather *   "You should always hand the shame back to the abuser because if you don't, you're thinking it's your fault." - Brooke *   "We need open conversations...educate our children more so on dangers of family. A family makes you feel uncomfortable. People need to know not to be scared to come forward." - Heather *   "It's a sticky situation...it's totally upon Brooke on how she feels." - John *   "Everything will be fine... eventually you will [find your voice] too." - Brooke   Engage with the full episode to join Heather, John, and Brooke on their compelling journey through the complexities of sibling sexual abuse. Their heartfelt narrative and insightful reflections promise to enlighten and encourage listeners navigating similar paths. Stay tuned for more eye-opening content from the #SiblingsToo podcast.     Timestamps:  0:00 The Family Confronts Sibling Sexual Abuse and Seeks Healing   4:09 The Impact of Pornography on Youth Behavior   7:59 Family Struggles With Teen's Secret Addictions   12:07 Protecting Children from Technology's Hidden Dangers   16:45 Confronting the Reality of Sibling Sexual Abuse   21:15 Praising Courageous Parenting and Judicial Intervention   22:34 Debating Age Restrictions for Technology and Pornography Access   24:16 Debating Cell Phone Use in Schools   27:32 Healing and Advocacy in Teen Mental Health   29:44 Empowering Youth with Body Safety and Anti-Grooming Education   31:58 Addressing Mental Health in the Judicial System   36:42 Parental Conflict in Advocating for Both Victim and Perpetrator   38:32 Addressing Pornography's Impact on Youth and Societal Norms   41:05 Family Healing and Advocacy After Abuse       Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
5/2/202444 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep.53 - Decca Aitkenhead - A Journalist's Journey of Reporting on SSA

In this powerful and thought-provoking episode of the #SiblingsToo podcast, Decca Aitkenhead and host Nancy Morris delve into the underreported and deeply complex issue of sibling sexual abuse (SSA). The conversation provides an insightful exploration into Decca's journey to write a major article for The Sunday Times in the UK, addressing a subject that often goes unnoticed by the public and media alike. With a commitment to shedding light on this taboo topic, Decca and Nancy discuss the obstacles and responsibilities that come with bringing such personal, intimate stories to a wider audience.   The episode reveals the troubling silence surrounding SSA in mainstream media and highlights the urgency of informing parents, families and, importantly, society about SSA and how it can impact all of our lives. Decca shares the emotionally charged process of listening to survivors' experiences, the challenges in reporting on a subject with significant legal and social implications, and the overarching goal of sparking a national dialogue that can no longer be ignored. Insightful, raw, and unwaveringly honest, these show notes invite readers to fully grasp the magnitude of the problem and the need for immediate attention and action.   About the Guest: Decca Aitkenhead is an award-winning journalist known for her role as the chief interviewer of The Sunday Times in the UK. With a career spanning three decades, Aitkenhead has become one of the leading names in journalism, interviewing a diverse range of prominent figures from the fields of politics, sport, culture, media, and the arts. Her expertise and dedication to uncovering compelling human stories have positioned her as a respected voice in the British media landscape.   Key Takeaways: The 'ick factor' and legal complexities contribute to the collective media silence on SSA. Parents and families must be aware of the dynamics within their household to prevent and address abuse. Survivors of SSA carry the emotional burden of their experiences, with disclosure often leading to a tumultuous yet liberating journey. The debate on terminology (perpetrator/victim versus child who harmed/child who was harmed) reflects the struggle to adequately frame and respond to SSA within society.   Notable Quotes from Decca: "Even more crucially, you could argue you want parents of children in their care today to read this article and think, 'Christ, I mean, there's no reason to think that couldn't happen in our family. I should be paying attention'." "It's the absolute ick factor journalists don't want to cover this story. It's kind of grim. People don't want to think about it." "The product of the school of thought, which feels that we must recognize that they were all children, and to some extent, they're all victims, is that they don't want to use the word perpetrator and victim." "If one parent reads this and pays attention and it means that it doesn't happen to their kids, then maybe that really is the ultimate change in this situation."   Resources: The Sunday Times article - www.thetimes.co.uhttps://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/revealed-the-hidden-crime-of-sibling-sexual-abuse-z05cf0l8r More on Decca - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Decca_Aitkenhead     Tune in to this significant episode of #SiblingsToo featuring Decca Aitkenhead, for a deep dive into sibling sexual abuse's harsh realities. Do not miss the full discussion for a comprehensive understanding and join us as we continue to bring light to these critical and pressing matters in upcoming content.   Chapters:  0:01:25 Decca's motivation to write about sibling sexual abuse     0:04:49 Legal implications and challenges of reporting on sibling sexual abuse     0:07:11 The silence surrounding sibling sexual abuse speaks to societal stigma     0:11:11 Challenges faced by victims in telling their stories without a criminal conviction     0:16:27 The awareness and resources on sibling sexual abuse have increased in recent years, indicating a potential tipping point.     0:22:16 The process of researching for the article involved speaking with academics, professionals, and individuals with lived experience.     0:27:43 The privilege and responsibility of telling these stories     0:37:04 Parents need to be aware and talk about sibling sexual abuse.     0:43:25 Sibling sexual abuse should be seen as a public health issue, not just a criminal justice issue.     0:48:48 Simple steps parents can take to protect their children.     0:54:19 The potential impact of the article on survivors and their healing process  
3/21/20241 hour, 3 minutes, 9 seconds
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Ep.52 - Adam, a perpetrator of sibling sexual abuse, shares his story (masked voice)

In this episode of the #SiblingsToo Podcast, Adam bravely shares his story as someone who caused harm to a sibling. He discusses his upbringing, the influence of pornography, and the progression of his actions towards his sister. Adam reflects on the impact of his behavior and the legal consequences he faced. The conversation explores the challenges of navigating the criminal juvenile justice system and the hope for healing and growth. Adam's message to others who have caused harm is that they are not alone, and that healing is possible.   About the Guests: Adam admits to perpetrating sexual harm towards his sister. He is navigating both the therapeutic process and the juvenile justice system in the United States. Although specifics about his history and achievements are not disclosed to protect both his and his siblings' anonymity, Adam's participation in the podcast signifies his intention to contribute to the dialogue around sibling sexual abuse and his personal journey towards understanding and rehabilitation. His voice has also been altered.   Brad Watts, a long-standing friend of the #SiblingsToo podcast, is a therapist specializing in sibling sexual abuse. He is an author, having penned the book "Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide to Confronting America's Silent Epidemic". He regularly conducts training throughout the United States to educate and inform others on this issue. Brad provides his expertise to the discussion with Adam, offering insights into the therapeutic aspects surrounding such cases.   Episode Summary: In an eye-opening episode of the #SiblingsToo podcast, host Nancy Morris engages in an intense and revealing conversation with two guests: therapist Brad Watts and Adam, someone who has acknowledged causing sexual harm to a sibling. The discussion delves into Adam's personal reflections on his actions, the family dynamics, and the resulting implications within the justice system. The episode presents a juxtaposed narrative of regret and healing, secrecy and disclosure, challenging societal perceptions of sibling sexual abuse.   Initially, Adam recounts his childhood experiences, including how early exposure to pornography influenced his behavior. The conversation then progresses into Adam's acknowledgment of the harm caused to his sibling and the subsequent emotional and legal fallout. The episode also highlights the stigma associated with sibling sexual abuse and the varying paths of healing for both the harmed and the one causing harm. Therapist Brad Watts provides a professional lens, contextualizing Adam's experience within broader themes of treatment and recovery from sexual abuse.   Key Takeaways: •    Adam's early exposure to pornography planted the seeds leading to sibling sexual abuse, a common factor in such cases. •    Exposure to media portraying the consequences of sexual abuse prompted Adam to cease the abusive behavior and reflect on the gravity of his actions. •    Adam experienced significant legal repercussions and family upheaval, with a lasting impact on his future opportunities. •    The podcast emphasizes the complexity of healing for both survivors and perpetrators, as well as the important role of therapy and family support. •    The episode underscores the importance of open dialogue and the need for society to address sibling sexual abuse with compassion and understanding.   Notable Quotes: •    "This is a secret I was going to keep to my grave, and I feel bad for that. That was really... I can't even describe how I feel about it. Just disgusted." - Adam •    "And so I think it is important for it to come out so that there can healing begin." - Adam •    "If you've got this big, huge wound, which is definitely SSA, just putting an ace bandage over it...eventually without disinfecting it... it's not going to be cleaned and healed, it's going to get gangrene, it's going to fester." - Adam •    "My goal is to live a normal life, buy a house, get married, have some kids." - Adam •    "Sometimes it's going to hurt a lot before the healing happens." - Adam   Resources: Brad's book – Sibling Sexual Abuse: A Guide to Confronting America's Silent Epidemic" is available online at your favorite retailer.   We hope this episode provides you with insights into the rarely spoken-about issue of sibling sexual abuse and the multifaceted effects it has on the involved individuals and their families. Please join us for the full episode to understand the complete narrative and stay tuned for more enlightening content from #SiblingsToo podcast.   Chapters: 0:00:00 Adam expresses his remorse and disgust for his past actions 02:00 Introduction of Adam and the importance of hearing from those who have caused harm 04:09 Description of Adam's family life and homeschooling 07:22 Adam's exposure to pornography at a young age through a friend 10:37 Adam's addiction to pornography and constant search for access 12:20 Adam's realization of his addiction to pornography 13:15 Adam's realization about his actions and access to porn 15:56 Normal roughhousing turning into manipulation 17:23 Brad asks about the reaction to the wrestling 20:02 Nancy asks about ongoing manipulation to keep the secret 21:41 Adam's realization of the consequences and discovery of masturbation 24:59 Adam's threats of suicide 26:48 Adam's conversation with his father and disclosure to the authorities 28:07 Adam apology to his sister 28:48 Adam's mom wants to take his sister to therapy, causing tension 29:27 Adam is taken to his grandpa's house and can no longer live at home 30:30 Adam discusses getting a lawyer and court proceedings 32:41 Adam acknowledges the potential long-term effects on his sister 35:24 Adam expresses his willingness to apologize and show love 36:18 The non-linear process of healing for survivors 38:01 Adam explains the limitations on his career choices due to his charges 38:30 Nancy and Brad discuss the need for a treatment-focused approach instead of a criminal justice approach 39:45 Brad emphasizes the importance of training for professionals handling these cases 41:18 How others might perceive Adam's past actions 42:01 Nancy asks Adam about his response to people who think he should pay the price for his actions 44:43 Adam expresses his understanding that the impact of his actions will stay with him forever 46:13 Nancy shares her emotional response to Adam's story and the conflicting feelings she experienced 46:57 Nancy discusses the two paths that survivors and those who commit sexual harm may take 47:27 Brad shares his thoughts on supporting both survivors and those who commit sexual harm 49:43 Nancy asks Adam about his plans for the future and his feelings of hopefulness 54:16 Adam discusses the importance of sharing his story and letting others know they are not alone 55:23 Adam uses a wound analogy to explain the importance of addressing and healing from sexual abuse  
3/14/202455 minutes, 53 seconds
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Ep.51 - The Making of 'Breaking the Silence' with Teagan McLaren

In this remarkable episode, we are joined by the brilliant Teagan McLaren who brings a profound sense of connection through her music. The conversation revolves around the liberation that comes from expressing ourselves and the encouragement Teagan's latest song provides to those who are navigating their own challenging experiences. The exchange highlights the transformative power of sharing our stories and the emotional resonance that music, like Teagan's, can deliver.   From the rich conversations that led to the songwriting process to the meaningful interactions with fans, this episode dives into the making of Teagan's song "Breaking the Silence." Highlighting significant discussions around sibling sexual abuse (SSA) and the universal theme of overcoming trauma, the episode carries an inspiring message of hope and empowerment. Teagan's insights bring depth to the understanding of how music can be both a personal cathartic journey and a catalyst for broader societal awareness, encouraging us to voice our stories to enact change.   Key Takeaways: - After meeting Teagan McLaren at a networking event in 2019, Nancy commissioned her to craft an uplifting song that would connect with and inspire listeners, especially those affected by sibling sexual abuse and other traumas. From that meeting came "Breaking the Silence" which captures personal narratives and the struggle to overcome silence. - Despite not having experienced sibling sexual abuse personally, Teagan drew from her own life traumas and empathic understanding to create a song that resonates. - The song's universal appeal lies in its ability to capture the essence of shared human experiences, encouraging listeners to break their silence and join a collective wave of awareness. - Teagan hopes the song will empower individuals to speak out, move forward from their past traumas, and realize that they are not alone in their experiences.   In this episode: 0:00:00 Teagan wants people to feel connected and empowered by her song. 0:01:12 Nancy shares her first impression of Teagan's music and their initial meeting. 0:03:02 Nancy commissions Teagan to write a song for the #SiblingsToo podcast. 0:04:24 Teagan starts writing the song, focusing on the theme of breaking the silence. 0:09:33 The stop-start process of completing the song was beneficial for Teagan's songwriting. 0:11:47 Teagan's empathetic nature allows her to connect with the emotions of others' stories. 0:13:21 Teagan connects her personal experiences with trauma to Nancy's story 0:14:11 Nancy discusses the importance of breaking the silence and how it can help others 0:16:50 Teagan shares a story of a friend who opened up about their trauma after hearing the song 0:18:11 Nancy talks about the impact of the song and how it resonates with survivors of different traumas 0:20:06 Teagan expresses her struggle with performing the song live and finding the right delivery 0:23:32 Nancy praises the lyrics of the song, particularly verse three, and its message of letting go of self-blame 0:25:26 Teagan discusses the creative choices she made in the song to emphasize certain lyrics 0:26:04 Nancy discusses the commonality of trauma and the impact it has on individuals. 0:28:10 Nancy asks Teagan what she would like to see the song achieve. 0:29:07 Teagan hopes the song will encourage people to speak up about their experiences and seek support. 0:29:59 Nancy and Teagan discuss the importance of connecting with others through music and how it can help people feel less alone. 0:30:58 Teagan explains her approach to songwriting and how she aims to create songs that resonate with a wide audience. 0:32:33 Teagan shares a personal story about a song she wrote that had a different meaning for someone else, highlighting the power of interpretation. 0:35:10 Nancy expresses her appreciation for the song and how it helps her communicate her experiences to others, including her husband. 0:36:32 Teagan shares her hope that the song will resonate with and help others who have experienced trauma. 0:37:27 Nancy thanks Teagan for her work on the song and believes it will be well-received by her audience. 0:39:53 Breaking The Silence – full version   Notable Quotes:   - "It's so liberating to feel like you're not alone, to know that you're not alone." - Teagan McLaren - "It's all about breaking the silence about sibling sexual abuse." - Teagan reflecting the podcast host's mission - "I barely remember before the walls were built." - A key lyric capturing the impact of traumatic experiences - "I'm breaking the silence coming off of my island and joining in the rising tide." - Lyrics symbolizing the act of reaching out and healing - "Too long I blamed myself... nothing I could have done would have changed a thing." - Expressing a turning point of self-forgiveness in overcoming trauma     Resources: - Teagan McLaren's website: [www.teaganmclaren.com](http://www.teaganmclaren.com) - Lyric video of Breaking the Silence on YouTube - https://youtu.be/ZA90ZNSpSwI?si=fOqmPhDXqglnSiiX   About Teagan: Teagan McLaren is a talented singer-songwriter known for her heartfelt music and captivating melodies. With a knack for crafting songs that resonate with listeners' emotions, Teagan's original music often reflects the lived experiences of herself and those within her circle, including friends and family. She has a history of engaging audiences with not only her music but also the stories behind her compositions. Teagan's approach to songwriting demonstrates a deep level of empathy and understanding of various life experiences, giving her the ability to connect with her audience on a personal level. As an advocate for speaking up and addressing personal and societal issues through her art, Tegan's music embodies the powerful act of breaking the silence on difficult subjects.   We encourage everyone to listen to the full episode to experience the full depth and impact of the conversation with Teagan McLaren. Stay tuned for more powerful and enlightening content from this series that sheds light on important issues and the healing power of sharing our stories.     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
2/22/202442 minutes, 54 seconds
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Ep.50 - SSA Prevention and How To Get There

Nancy Morris is the host and driving force behind the #SiblingsToo podcast and research project. With a dedicated focus on raising awareness about sibling sexual abuse (SSA), Nancy is not only a survivor but also an advocate and activist in this niche domain. Her work involves engaging with professionals, academics, and the society at large to advocate for factual discussions around SSA, aiming to dispel myths and bring about change in narratives concerning this sensitive topic.   Episode Summary: In this compelling episode, Nancy doesn't hold back on what needs to happen next in the trajectory of sibling sexual abuse awareness and the practical steps forward in prevention efforts. She highlights the importance of societal discourse as a catalyst for change, much like the conversations which shaped public understanding of sexual abuse in other community segments like as the church and sports teams. Nancy discusses the pitfalls of misinformation and dramatization in media while championing a shift towards more responsible journalism regarding SSA. The episode underlines the vital role of advocacy in maintaining momentum in the conversation around sibling sexual abuse and educates on the important differences between SSA and other forms of sexual abuse, insisting that understanding these can aid in prevention.   Key Takeaways: Sibling relationship significance - The crucial role of fostering healthy, lifelong sibling relationships from an early age as a potential preventative measure against SSA.   Reducing recidivism misconceptions - Understanding that sibling perpetrators often do not repeat behavior outside the home or later in life can help tailor prevention and intervention strategies.   Stigma and reporting - Minimizing societal stigma is key to encouraging open discussions and effective reporting of SSA instances.   Parental influence and strategies - Parents must be equipped with strategies and resources to create safe spaces for difficult conversations and minimize potentially harmful behaviors long before they happen.   Society and policy influence - Among other things, changing society's perception from a criminal to a health-centric view of SSA can influence political will and lead to more supportive policies.   Notable Quotes: "We need the same attention on sibling sexual abuse, and I think we're right there right now." "The sibling relationship is the longest lasting relationship in our life." "The differences between sibling sexual abuse and other forms of child sexual abuse make sibling sexual abuse much more preventable." "Every day that we're not moving this conversation along is another day where children are impacted by SSA."   Resources: www.SiblingsToo.com Join Nancy Morris as she eloquently unfolds the complexities and the urgently needed dialogues on the prevention of sibling sexual abuse in the latest SiblingsToo episode. Stay tuned for more episodes that promise to be just as enlightening, with discussions designed to foster a deeper understanding and provoke actionable change within families and the wider community.     TIMESTAMPS 0:00:00 - Introduction to the SiblingsToo podcast and research project 0:01:11 - Need for society to have conversations about sibling sexual abuse 0:02:53 - Raising awareness and dispelling myths about SSA 0:04:38 - Importance of preventing SSA and supporting survivors 0:09:23 - Key factors in SSA that make it preventable 0:14:09 - Perpetrators are less likely to repeat the behavior 0:15:11 - Example of a lack of coping strategies 0:15:50 - The impact of SSSA on perpetrators 0:16:44 - Stigmatization of survivors and the need for understanding 0:17:56 - Breaking down barriers to reporting and understanding the perpetrators 0:19:17 - The dual role of parents and the importance of open communication 0:20:29 - Creating a safe space for children to discuss difficult topics 0:21:31 - Prevention through educating parents and adults 0:22:21 - The goal of promoting open conversations and seeking help 0:23:56 - Defining the gray area and understanding acceptable behavior 0:26:16 - The role of society in addressing SSA head on 0:29:44 - Considering SSA as a health issue 0:30:53 - Lack of health-centric approach to adult to child abuse 0:31:25 - Importance of political will to drive change 0:31:54 - Opportunities for proactive prevention through education and support 0:32:59 - Creating a positive environment for children 0:33:39 - Urgency to move the conversation along for prevention 0:34:25 - Continuing the conversation on interventions and adult survivors  
2/7/202436 minutes, 14 seconds
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Ep.49 - SiblingsToo with Anais Van Vliet | The Impacts of SSA on non-abused, non-abusive siblings

In this revealing episode of SiblingsToo, Nancy Morris shines a light on the impacts of sibling sexual abuse on others in the family. Joined by Anais Van Vliet, a driven PhD candidate, they dissect the complexities surrounding non-abused, non-abuser siblings in environments marred by such trauma. Anais, blending her personal history and academic prowess, explores how these siblings navigate the tumultuous aftermath of abuse.   Anais reveals that siblings, while not direct victims or perpetrators, also endure profound psychological impacts from the abuse occurring within their family unit. With meticulous research on behalf of these often silent witnesses, Anais strives to advocate for more inclusive services that address their unique healing journeys. Their work emphasizes the critical nature of the sibling bond throughout life and its potential role in fostering early disclosure, supporting survivors, and facilitating healing.   Join us for the entirety of this powerful episode to uncover more about the unseen struggles and necessities of non-abused, non-abuser siblings in the wake of sexual abuse within families. Stay tuned to #SiblingsToo for more compelling discussions that bring to light crucial aspects of sibling sexual abuse and its impact on family dynamics.   Key Takeaways: Sibling sexual abuse has far-reaching impacts, not only on the direct victims and perpetrators but also on other siblings within the family unit. Non-abused, non-abuser siblings may experience similar psychological outcomes to direct survivors, including guilt, shame, and trauma responses. These siblings exhibit unique support needs that are currently underserved by existing family-focused interventions in the wake of sexual abuse. The sibling relationship can play a protective role in the context of abuse, as siblings may contribute to early disclosure, interruption of abuse, or ongoing emotional support. There is a pressing need for research and advocacy to address the gaps in services for non-abused, non-abuser siblings and to ensure they are seen and heard within therapeutic environments.   About Anais: Anais Van Vliet is a dedicated PhD candidate at McGill University with a focus on social work. They have a substantial background in clinical support, providing assistance for various life challenges. Anais underscores their professional expertise with personal motivation, being a sibling of intrafamilial child sexual abuse survivors. Their research delves into the experiences of non-abused, non-abuser siblings within these households. Complementing their personal insight, Anais' professional journey includes advocacy for often overlooked communities impacted by sexual violence, policy-oriented research, and the provision of clinical support and services.   Professional bio and contact info Anaïs Van Vliet is a PhD candidate in Social Work at McGill university. Their doctoral research focuses on siblings of child sexual abuse survivors; their experiences and support needs surrounding sexual abuse in their family. This research is funded by the SSHRC Doctoral scholarship. More broadly, Van Vliet's academic research and social work practice centers on the voices of often forgotten victims of sexual and gender-based violence.  They are currently looking for research and advocacy collaborations and can be reached at [email protected].   References: Link to Carmit Katz's bio Prof. Carmit Katz | The Bob Shapell School of Social Work (tau.ac.il)  (https://en-socialwork.tau.ac.il/profile/carmitkatz)     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
1/25/202453 minutes, 49 seconds
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Ep.48 - Where The Stories Go – How we are using the anonymous stories shared with the #SiblingsToo Project

In this episode, Nancy Morris expresses her gratitude to the individuals who have contributed their stories to the #SiblingsToo story database. She emphasizes the importance of these stories in conducting research, informing policymakers, and reducing the stigma surrounding sibling sexual abuse. Nancy explains the process of compiling and analyzing the stories, highlighting the themes that emerge and the impact they have on professionals and society as a whole. She also discusses her ongoing collaborations and the upcoming book she is working on to share the realities of sibling sexual abuse with society.   The #SiblingsToo Project collects anonymous stories from survivors, perpetrators, and other family members affected by sibling sexual abuse. The stories are used for research, informing policymakers, and reducing the stigma surrounding sibling sexual abuse. Narrative analysis is conducted to identify themes and provide a deeper understanding of the experiences of those affected by sibling sexual abuse. Sharing stories can be a healing process for individuals and contributes to the broader conversation about sibling sexual abuse. The #SiblingsToo Project aims to ensure that the topic of sibling sexual abuse remains in the public consciousness and leads to meaningful changes in policies and societal attitudes.     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
1/11/202416 minutes, 7 seconds
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Ep.47 - A New Resource for Social Workers with Dr. Sophie King-Hill

In this episode Nancy is joined by Dr. Sophie King-Hill to discuss her creation of a mapping tool that is used to aid thinking for professionals while they plan for what interventions will be necessary for the families they are working with. Dr. Sophie King-Hill is an academic in the Health Services Management Centre at the University of Birmingham in the UK. Her research specialism encompasses sibling sexual abuse as well as sexual behaviours and first point assessment in children and young people. Sophie also has an interest in policy implementation, transfer and success frameworks and evaluation strategies.   In this episode: The voice that is missing from the SSA conversation A mapping tool for Practitioners that need support Getting a deeper look at many levels Future goals for the mapping tool Upcoming research A shift is coming         Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
11/16/202330 minutes, 23 seconds
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Ep.46 - #SiblingsToo Update from Nancy

So, what's been happening since the last episode? And what's coming in the new season of the #SiblingsToo podcast. In this episode, Nancy reflects on the progress made since the #SiblingsToo International Awareness Day and discusses the increasing conversation and energy getting the word out about sibling sexual abuse. She emphasize the importance of driving awareness and educating parents, family members, and those who have caused harm. Nancy also mentions upcoming changes to the podcast, including new guests such as various academics, professionals and survivors of sibling sexual abuse. She plans to explore solutions and interventions for families enduring SSA and address the language issue that seems to be difficult for everyone to get comfortable with. The new season of the #SiblingsToo Podcast will be released in late October. Quotes: "The awareness day added energy into the conversation on an international basis." "Sibling sexual abuse is very different from other types of child sexual abuse...one of the key differences is the impact it has on the whole family." "The new season of The Siblings Two Podcast is going to be distributed on a more regular basis." "One of the subjects we're going to dive into is the whole conversation about what do we call this thing?"    
8/24/202313 minutes, 21 seconds
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Ep.45 - Disclosing Sibling Sexual Abuse as an Adult with John

In this episode Nancy is joined by John. John is in his fifties, lives in the United Kingdom and has recently reported incidents of sibling sexual abuse to the police where he lives. John is in the legal process so his voice and name has been altered to protect his anonymity.   In this episode: Contacting the local police Off to a bad start but seeing progress The family dynamic growing up What happens if I speak out? The signs of abuse Having a safe space The next steps for John     Have you registered for the #SiblingsToo Day event yet? What Every Parent Needs To Know About Sibling Sexual Abuse is on Saturday, 15 April 2023, across the globe  www.SiblingsToo.com/events   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo 🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
4/6/202352 minutes, 43 seconds
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Ep.44 - The Wonder, a movie review

In today's episode, Nancy shares her views on the 2022 movie, The Wonder, starring Florence Pugh, Tom Burke, and Kila Lord Cassidy. Though very well acted, an apparently gratuitous backstory of sibling sexual abuse once again demonstrates a lack of understanding in media of what SSA really is and its true impacts. When advocates are trying to right the wrongs of misinformation and myths associated with SSA, this film certainly doesn't help that effort. Have you registered for the #SiblingsToo Day event yet? What Every Parent Needs To Know About Sibling Sexual Abuse is on Saturday, 15 April 2023, across the globe  www.SiblingsToo.com/events Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo 🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
3/30/202316 minutes, 9 seconds
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Ep.43 - #SiblingsToo Day on 15 April

The plans and video recordings for the upcoming #SiblingsToo day on 15 April are coming together. In this episode, Nancy shares further details of the event, the speakers, and some of the information every parent needs to know about sibling sexual abuse. For more information and to register, just go to www.SiblingsToo.com/events Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo 🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
3/23/202320 minutes, 51 seconds
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Ep.42 - Handing The Shame Back with Gloria Masters

In this episode Nancy is joined by Gloria Masters, author and advocate for adults who have experienced child sexual abuse.   She speaks from sixteen years of lived experience and has managed to turn the corner of healing into giving back. She does this through highlighting the issue of child sexual abuse to help other survivors. She has published her second book Flightpath to Healing – A Guide for CSA Survivors, and is also the Founder and CEO of Handing the Shame Back Foundation.   In this episode: Gloria's childhood experience Commonalities among SSA survivors The Book: On Angels Wings, My Flight From Trauma to Grace Writing and releasing The Book: Flightpath to Healing, A Guide for Child Sexual Abuse (CSA) Survivors Do not compare Handing the shame back Advocating for others     Connect with Gloria: https://gloriamasters.com Podcast: https://handingtheshameback.buzzsprout.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/handingtheshameback/ Linkedin:https://www.linkedin.com/in/gloriamasters16handingtheshameback16nonprofit/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HandingtheShameBack/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/HandinShameBack Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@handingtheshameback   Foundation: https://www.handingtheshameback.org/      Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
2/27/202350 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep.41 - Surviving SSA - A Husband's Perspective

In this episode Nancy is joined by Steve to give his perspective on what it is like to be the partner of a sibling sexual abuse survivor. Steve's partner is Jane Epstein. Jane is an SSA survivor, speaker, author, and advocate for the prevention of sibling and child-on-child sexual abuse and trauma.   In this episode: Feeling disconnected Hearing the news that your wife was abused by her brother Working through the issues Riding the waves of emotions Growing as a partner and an individual Sometimes it can be a lot  Having empathy Supporting a survivor     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
12/22/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 17 seconds
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Ep.40 - Building Resources and Support for Sibling Sexual Trauma with Brandy Black

In this episode Nancy is joined by Brandy Black. Brandy is the Founder of the siblingsexualtrauma.com website and one of the founding members of 5WAVES.org   In this episode: The origin of the sibling sexual trauma website Searching for information and support Developing the website, becoming a resource and support for others Finding the right words Brandy's family journey The formation of 5WAVES   Resources: https://www.siblingsexualtrauma.com https://www.5waves.org https://www.mosac.net https://www.taalk.org https://www.rainn.org https://www.stopitnow.org https://www.whatsok.org       Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
12/1/20221 hour, 51 seconds
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Ep.39 - The Connection Between Trauma and Chronic Pain with Maria Socolof

In this episode Nancy is joined by Maria Socolof. Maria is a chronic pain researcher, author and a sibling sexual trauma survivor.   In this episode: The onset of Maria's pain Say "I let go..." Learning about trauma and pain Feeling the mind-body connection Remembering the past Validation and knowing your truth The words we use are important   Resources: https://healingfromchronicpain.com   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
11/16/202259 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ep.38 - PEOPLE Magazine Is Onboard, But It’s Not Enough

In this episode Nancy comments on three PEOPLE Magazine articles related to Sibling Sexual Abuse that were published on Oct 19th 2022.   In this episode: A brief overview of the articles featuring the stories of Jane Epstein, Brad Watts and Hope Sittler. Raising awareness of the facts and data No villains, but many heroes The impact on society An ask to share     Resources: #SiblingsToo – www.siblingstoo.com to leave your anonymous story of SSA   Jane Epstein, Sexually Abused by Her Brother as a Child, Is Voice for Other Survivors of Sibling Sexual Abuse - https://people.com/health/jane-epstein-sexually-abused-by-brother-as-child-survivors-sibling-sexual-abuse/   When a Sibling Sexually Abuses a Sibling: What to know - https://people.com/health/when-a-sibling-sexually-abuses-a-sibling-what-to-know/   When a Child Sexually Abuses a Sibling: A Mother’s Story - https://people.com/health/when-a-child-sexually-abuses-a-sibling-a-mothers-story/   5WAVES – www.5waves.org   Sibling Sexual Trauma resource site – www.siblingsexualtrauma.com Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo    
10/24/202216 minutes, 57 seconds
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Ep.37 - It Is Not Your Secret To Keep with Carole Brooks

In this episode Nancy is joined by Carole Brooks. Carole is a Sibling Sexual Abuse Specialist, Lived Experience Consultant, Advisory Board Member & CSA Spokesperson.   In this episode: Survivor and advocate  Opening Door documentary The importance of speaking out Carole's story Disconnecting from feelings and needing a sense of control Confrontations Taking legal action Getting well The life-changing turning point Living an authentic life What needs to happen next     Resources: Opening Doors – Speaking Out About Sibling Sexual Abuse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HD_ac_WwDO8    Getting It Right – the professional response to adult disclosures of childhood sexual abuse https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vn-p2dJbVAk&t=138s   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story  
9/26/20221 hour, 7 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ep.36 - Sibling Sexual Abuse, The Silent Epidemic with Jane Epstein

In this episode Nancy is joined by Jane Epstein. Jane Epstein is a speaker, author, and advocate for the prevention of sibling and child-on-child sexual abuse and trauma. 5WAVES is a collective voice promoting Worldwide Awareness, Voice, Education and Support around Sibling Sexual Trauma   In this episode: Jane's TEDx experience Coming out of dark places Breaking the silence Jane's family dynamic So what do we do? The effects ripple throughout the family What is coming up next for Jane Jane's personal growth     Jane's TEDx talk - Giving Voice to Sibling Sexual Abuse: https://youtu.be/0X5TvYrHxTA Connect with Jane: https://www.complicatedcourage.com Other Resources: https://www.5waves.org   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
8/29/202240 minutes, 43 seconds
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Ep.35 - A Conversation with Hope Sittler, A Parent coping with Sibling Sexual Trauma  (Part 2)

In this episode Nancy is joined by Hope Sittler. Hope Sittler is a Mom coping with Sibling Sexual Trauma and an advocate for parents of Sibling Sexual Trauma. She is also a Founding Member of 5WAVES. 5WAVES is a collective voice promoting Worldwide Awareness, Voice, Education and Support around Sibling Sexual Trauma   In this episode: Part 1 (Episode 34) A mothers intuition Getting each family member the help they need Working with Child Protective Services   Part 2  Feeling alone Finding support The voice is getting louder   Connect with Hope: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hope-sittler-2176a1231/   Other Resources: https://www.5waves.org https://www.siblingsexualtrauma.com     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/9/202236 minutes, 44 seconds
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Ep.34 - A Conversation with Hope Sittler, A Parent coping with Sibling Sexual Trauma  (Part 1)

In this episode Nancy is joined by Hope Sittler. Hope Sittler is a Mom coping with Sibling Sexual Trauma and an advocate for parents of Sibling Sexual Trauma. She is also a Founding Member of 5WAVES. 5WAVES is a collective voice promoting Worldwide Awareness, Voice, Education and Support around Sibling Sexual Trauma   In this episode: Part 1 A mothers intuition Getting each family member the help they need Working with Child Protective Services   Part 2 (Episode 35) Feeling alone Finding support The voice is getting louder   Connect with Hope: https://www.linkedin.com/in/hope-sittler-2176a1231/   Other Resources: https://www.5waves.org https://www.siblingsexualtrauma.com     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/9/202239 minutes, 54 seconds
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Ep.33 - A Mother Speaks about the Sibling Sexual Abuse in Her Home

* This episode is currently unavailable *   On this episode Nancy is joined by Jane, a parent that has the personal experience of dealing with Sibling Sexual Abuse in her own family. Jane shares about the effect this has had on the kids, her partner and herself as parents and the family as a whole.   In this episode:  Sharing at a professional conference The fear around full disclosure Being mindful of the survivor and the one who caused harm When parents are unsure about contacting social services Growing a thick skin Talking to youth about sibling sexual abuse     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
4/26/20220
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Ep.32 - How Sibling Sexual Abuse Impacts the Family with Peter Yates (Part 2 of 2)

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Peter Yates.  Peter a qualified social worker with over ten years’ experience of child protection and holds a PhD from the University of Edinburgh. His ESRC-funded PhD research project looked at social worker decision making in cases involving sexual behaviour between siblings. His interest in this subject grew from four years’ work with Lighthouse, a specialist Barnardo’s service working with children who display harmful sexual behaviour. He has published several articles on the subject of victim crossover and risk assessment and on the subject of sibling sexual abuse. Peter is the co-author of Allardyce, S. and Yates, P. (2018) Working with children and young people who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour, Edinburgh, Dunedin Academic Press, which has been receiving some very positive reviews. Peter has presented at national and international conferences and seminars on the subject of children who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour and sibling sexual abuse. He had extensive experience of programme development, and his current role is Programme Lead for Social Work at Edinburgh Napier University.   In this episode: Part 1: Peter's professional experience The difficulty of defining Sibling Sexual Abuse Harmful vs. Abusive Could the definition of harm belong to the victim? Engaging Social Services Understanding social workers The person, the behaviour Part 2: Prevention The grey area Frames that influence parents and social workers   Connect with Peter: https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-yates-95541ab7/   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
3/28/202226 minutes, 59 seconds
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Ep.31 - How Sibling Sexual Abuse Impacts the Family with Peter Yates (Part 1 of 2)

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Peter Yates.  Peter a qualified social worker with over ten years’ experience of child protection and holds a PhD from the University of Edinburgh. His ESRC-funded PhD research project looked at social worker decision making in cases involving sexual behaviour between siblings. His interest in this subject grew from four years’ work with Lighthouse, a specialist Barnardo’s service working with children who display harmful sexual behaviour. He has published several articles on the subject of victim crossover and risk assessment and on the subject of sibling sexual abuse. Peter is the co-author of Allardyce, S. and Yates, P. (2018) Working with children and young people who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour, Edinburgh, Dunedin Academic Press, which has been receiving some very possitive reviews. He has presented at national and international conferences and seminars on the subject of children who have displayed harmful sexual behaviour and sibling sexual abuse. He had extensive experience of programme development, and his current role is Programme Lead for Social Work at Edinburgh Napier University.   In this episode: Peter's professional experience The difficulty of defining Sibling Sexual Abuse Harmful vs. Abusive Could the definition of harm belong to the victim? Engaging Social Services Understanding social workers The person, the behaviour   Connect with Peter: https://www.linkedin.com/in/peter-yates-95541ab7/   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
3/23/202254 minutes, 25 seconds
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Ep.30 - Breaking the Silence that is Keeping Sibling Sexual Abuse Quiet with Fleur Strong

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Fleur Strong. National Project Manager, RCEW National Project on Sibling Sexual Abuse. Fleur has experience working with children who have been sexually exploited and has also worked in a rape crisis centre.   In this episode: It's a vast problem, and everyone is silent Why sibling sexual abuse is not acknowledged Front line professionals know there is a problem It's nuanced and multi-layered Networks are building It's not your shame to carry The power of the data     Additional Information UK National Sibling Sexual Abuse Conference for Frontline Sectors 2022 Post-conference information pack https://www.sarsas.org.uk/conference-information-pack/ Pack includes: Full recordings of all seven conference sessions – individually packaged and on YouTube Three *new* information/training films developed by our project (one for adult survivors, two for professionals) and now on YouTube Information and links on working with children harmed by sibling sexual abuse; children who have harmed their siblings; affected families; and, adult survivors of sibling sexual abuse Information on further training on sibling sexual abuse and Harmful Sexualised Behaviour     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
2/27/20221 hour, 11 minutes, 48 seconds
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Ep.29 - Sibling Sexual Abuse Offenders, Survivors and Their Families with Brad Watts

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Brad Watts. Brad is a Licensed Professional Counsellor and Certified Sex Offender Treatment Provider, who primarily works with  sex offenders, sexual abuse survivors and their families.   In this episode: The silent epidemic Defining Sibling Sexual Abuse When sibling sexual abuse occurs and it is not addressed Long term impacts on the offender Silence exacerbates the trauma for all family members Myths of Sibling Sexual Abuse Why the lack of disclosure?  What needs to happen in society?   Connect with Brad: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brad-watts-47407618b/ Get the book: https://bradwattslpc.com     Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
2/17/202245 minutes, 4 seconds
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Ep.28 - Sibling Sexual Abuse – a discussion with Kami Cotler (Part 2 of 2)

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Kami Cotler. Kami is best known for playing Elizabeth Walton on the iconic TV series, "The Waltons". Kami is now an educator with over twenty years of experience working at different levels of the education system.  In this episode: Part 1 (Ep.27) Kami’s path as an educator Differentiating sibling sexual abuse from natural curiosity Shame in the survivor and the perpetrator Feeling empowered and having a voice  What role can schools play? Part 2 (Ep.28) What needs to change so teachers can have the tools they need? What if sibling sexual abuse “hit the media”?   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
2/7/202220 minutes, 53 seconds
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Ep.27 - Sibling Sexual Abuse – a discussion with Kami Cotler (Part 1 of 2)

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Kami Cotler. Kami is best known for playing Elizabeth Walton on the iconic TV series, "The Waltons". Kami is now an educator with over twenty years of experience working at different levels of the education system.  In this episode: Part 1 (Ep.27) Kami’s path as an educator Differentiating sibling sexual abuse from natural curiosity Shame in the survivor and the perpetrator Feeling empowered and having a voice  What role can schools play? Part 2 (Ep.28) What needs to change so teachers can have the tools they need? What if sibling sexual abuse “hit the media”?   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
2/7/202239 minutes, 3 seconds
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Ep.26 - A Family's Healing Journey with Brad Watts, Certified Sex Offender Treatment Provider

On this episode, Nancy is joined by Brad Watts. Brad is a licensed professional counsellor, certified sex offender treatment provider at Hallmark Youthcare. Nancy and Brad have a great discussion about the journey of healing as a family and as individuals after abuse has been discovered.  In this episode: The family's journey after the abuse has been discovered The process of healing - what therapy looks like Reacting to the discovery of abuse Conflicting stories, who to believe? The abuser has damage as well Helping to facilitate open discussions Re-building trust The importance of the family dynamic in moving forward Coping strategies What healing looks like for the parent(s) & family An abusers path of healing  Why is sibling sexual abuse not talked about more? Normal curiosity or abuse? There is hope   Connect with Brad: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brad-watts-47407618b/   Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
6/11/202050 minutes, 9 seconds
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Ep.25 - Update and Covid Concern

On this episode Nancy shares an update regarding where she, and the podcast have been over the last few months. Nancy also shares some warning signs regarding sibling interactions and behaviour to be aware of during this time.    Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/25/20209 minutes, 53 seconds
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Ep.24 - Keyboard Courage Is Crap

On this episode Nancy shares about an experience she had after leaving a comment on a post of a 'meme' regarding sexual abuse and the effect it has on survivors.    Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
10/31/201913 minutes, 11 seconds
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Ep.23 - Chris' Normal Reaction To An Abnormal Situation

On this episode Nancy is joined by Chris. Chris is a survivor of sibling abuse behaviour and shares her story of how the behaviour has impacted her life, how healing is a work in progress and what the future looks like moving forward.   In this episode The terminology surrounding sibling abuse behaviour and its impact Its not always good guy, bad guy like the movies The harm of her abuse A work in progress Injury is injury regardless of intent A normal response to an abnormal situation Where does the narrative around sibling sexual abuse need to go?   * The name and voice of the guest has been altered to protect her identity and respect her privacy.    Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
7/30/201934 minutes, 7 seconds
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Ep.22 - Buy Me A Coffee

On this episode Nancy has a quick update on the scheduling of the podcast as well as an easy way to support the podcast and the #SiblingsToo project.  Nancy would also like to recognize and thank all the people who have shared their story on the website. Thank you for contributing, you are seen, heard and believed!    Would you like to support the #SiblingsToo Podcast --> buymeacoffee.com/siblingstoo   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
6/27/20198 minutes, 26 seconds
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Ep.21 - What Parents Need To Know

On this episode Nancy talks about what parents need to know about sibling sexual abuse and some of the unfortunate facts that support the current statistics. This episode highlights the importance of being educated about sibling abuse and sibling sexual abuse. In this Episode:  The definition of sibling sexual abuse Sibling abuse or violence 2.2 million children being abused by a sibling Frequency and type of abuse  Long-term consequences Parents often normalize sibling abuse The risks of not reporting abuse  A guide for parents   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
6/13/201915 minutes, 39 seconds
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Ep.20 - Looking Back and Looking Forward

On this episode Nancy looks back over the past couple of months to review what she has learned, expectations for the future as well as an invitation for listeners to join Nancy on the podcast for an interview. Survivors, perpetrators or family members who have experienced SSA   play an important role in helping us to get the word out further and let others know that they are not alone.  Other great potential guest would be professionals in the medical field, psychology, social services, criminal law and mental health fields that work with people who experience SSA.  If you are a host, or know a host of a podcast that has a show that is  complimentary to the subject matter discussed here, reach out to Nancy to discuss possible collaborations.     🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/30/201920 minutes, 35 seconds
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Ep.19 - It's Time For My Story

The #SiblingsToo project exists because it is time for people to be able to share there story and bring light to sibling sexual abuse. On this episode it is time for Nancy to share her story. She shares what she recalls happened years ago, as well as how some of those events may have impacted her life. Nancy also shares what she has come to understand through her own work with her psychologist and what her hopes and aspirations are for the future for herself and the #SiblingsToo project.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
5/16/201931 minutes, 33 seconds
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Ep.18 - Therapy and Mindfulness with Patricia Downing - Part 2

On this episode (Part 2 of 2) Nancy is joined by Patricia Downing - Integrative Psychotherapist.    Nancy and Patricia discuss mindfulness and how it can be used to support individuals.    Patricia Downing is a Integrative Psychotherapist and Mindful Practitioner who has worked with therapy clients since 2005 and is accredited by the British Association of Councillors and Psychotherapists. In 2012 she earned her certificate in Mindfulness based Cognitive Therapy.  Patricias has experience working with a range of services that includes: primary care counselling student counselling trauma services  sexual assault and abuse disordered eating      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story    
5/2/201929 minutes, 55 seconds
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Ep.17 - Therapy and Mindfulness with Patricia Downing - Part 1

On this episode (Part 1 of 2) Nancy is joined by Patricia Downing - Integrative Psychotherapist.  Nancy and Patricia discuss therapies and how they can be supportive in exploring sibling sexual abuse and its impact on an individual or a family.   Patricia Downing is a Integrative Psychotherapist and Mindful Practitioner who has worked with therapy clients since 2005 and is accredited by the British Association of Councillors and Psychotherapists. In 2012 she earned her certificate in Mindfulness based Cognitive Therapy.  Patricias has experience working with a range of services that includes: primary care counselling student counselling trauma services  sexual assault and abuse disordered eating    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
4/18/201941 minutes, 10 seconds
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Ep.16 - Q & A

On this episode Nancy answers some questions she has received regarding #SiblingsToo and sibling sexual abuse.  If it is such a predominant issue, why don't we hear about it more? How can i begin the healing process? What can I do to help?      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
4/4/201915 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ep.15 - Call For Guests

On this episode Nancy talks about how there have been a number of people who have reached out to ask how they can support the #SiblingsToo project even though they have not been directly effected by sibling sexual abuse. A great way to support is to be a guest on the show or refer someone who you know who will tell their story and allow others to learn from their experiences. We would love to hear from you if you are a: survivor perpetrator member of a family where abuse has been present  social worker psychologist professional researcher law enforcement member lawyer addictions councillor  media representative    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
3/21/201911 minutes, 19 seconds
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Ep.14 - Are You A Survivor?

On this episode Nancy talks about the importance of the use of our words. The words we use and the story we share determine our life experience. The stories we create with our words are fundamental to our sense of identity which impacts our emotions and behaviours.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
3/7/201916 minutes, 39 seconds
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Ep.13 - Shame

On this episode Nancy talks about the emotions, feelings and thoughts associated with shame that adult survivors of sibling sexual abuse feel and the factors that make those feeling worse.      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
2/22/201916 minutes, 41 seconds
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Ep.12 - Forgiveness Part 1

On this episode Nancy shares about what forgiveness is, what it is not, and some steps you can take to possibly get closer to forgiving those who have done harm or abused you. Forgiveness is not about giving someone a pass, or condoning the behaviour, it is about giving yourself freedom from the emotional pain.      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
2/7/201911 minutes, 55 seconds
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Ep.11 - A Family Affair

On this episode Nancy talks about the importance of how the behaviour of a family contributes to the occurrence of SSA and their response to SSA occurring contributes to the long-term impacts on both victim and perpetrator.  There are many family factors that seem to impact the likelihood of SSA occurring. Understanding these factors within your own family may create opportunities for your intervention.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
1/24/201912 minutes, 39 seconds
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Ep.10 - Looking In - An Outsiders Perspective - Part 1

This episode does not feature any experts, or people who have had  personal experience with sibling sexual abuse. This is a conversation between two members of the #SiblingsToo production team to give you the outsiders perspective and to shine a light on how important raising awareness for this project is.   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
1/10/201922 minutes, 21 seconds
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Ep.9 - Giving A Voice To Sibling Sexual Abuse

One of the primary objectives of #SiblingsToo is to normalize the conversation of Sibling Sexual Abuse so that survivors and even perpetrators can come out from the shadows and speak their truth. On this recent media interview Nancy shares about the SiblingsToo project, how important it is to start having this conversation and the impact it can have.      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
1/3/201912 minutes, 4 seconds
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Ep.8 - Carmen Baru - The Law and Sibling Sexual Abuse - Part 2

On Part 2 of episode 8 Nancy and Carmen discuss more specifically the laws in relations to Defamation.  Carmen Baru is a Civil Litigation Lawyer in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. On part one of this episode Nancy and Carmen discuss the Criminal and Civil Law as it relates to Sibling Sexual Abuse.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
12/27/201840 minutes, 9 seconds
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Ep.8 - Carmen Baru - The Law and Sibling Sexual Abuse - Part 1

Joining Nancy is Carmen Baru, a Civil Litigation Lawyer in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. On Part 1 of this episode Nancy and Carmen discuss the Criminal and Civil Law as it relates to Sibling Sexual Abuse.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story
12/20/201835 minutes, 32 seconds
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Ep.7 - Nancy Currie - The Relationship Between Abuse and Addictions

On this episode, Nancy and Nancy Currie explore the relationship between being an abuse survivor and addictions to substances and processes. They speak about abuse in general, as well as sibling sexual abuse specifically.  They also share some updated research and give valuable tools and resources that you can use if you are in need.  Nancy Currie is an Internationally Certified Alcohol and Drug Councillor with 30 years of experiences working in treatment centres all over the world.     🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
12/13/201834 minutes, 7 seconds
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Ep.6 - What Survivors Say

In this episode Nancy shares some quotes and talks about the themes that she is seeing in the anonymous stories that have been submitted on the Siblingstoo website. This is a unique insight into how the survivors were feeling at the time of the abuse and how they feel now. "I didn't know what was happening..." "I would tell my parents and they wouldn't believe me..."   🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
12/7/20189 minutes, 32 seconds
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Ep.5 - Why Do We Even Talk About It?

Sibling Sexual Abuse is rarely heard of, we do not read about it in the newspaper, hear about it on the radio or hear people talking about it in public. When we begin to talk about something that has been hidden, we can begin to create positive change. In this episode Nancy highlights what happens when we continue to keep subjects like Sibling Sexual Abuse swept under the rug.       🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
11/29/201811 minutes, 40 seconds
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Ep.4 - Defining Sibling Sexual Abuse

What is the difference between Sibling Sexual Abuse and human curiosity? Is the motivation of both people involved important to take into question?  On this episode of #SiblingsToo, Nancy talks about how to define Sibling Sexual Abuse and peels back layers on the many factors that play a role in applying this definition.  - - - - - - - - There have been dozens of anonymous stories submitted via the #Siblingstoo website, thank you to everyone for sharing and getting involved!      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
11/22/201820 minutes, 39 seconds
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Ep.3 - Why Didn't You Tell Anyone?

On this episode Nancy discusses the question that is often heard by victims of any kind of sexual assault, "Why didn't you tell anyone?..." Nancy breaks down some of the factors of consideration of being a victim of sexual assault, why they may choose to not report it and  especially when it is a child who is abused by a sibling.      🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
11/2/201817 minutes, 26 seconds
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Ep.2 - When Siblings Discuss Sexual Abuse

What does a conversation between siblings about Sibling Sexual Abuse actually sound like?  In this episode, we have the very rare opportunity to listen in on a phone conversation between a sister and her two brothers. Margaret recalls incidents from her youth where her older brother Dennis assaulted her. This is the first time the siblings have come together to have this discussion. *Please Note* To protect the innocent, actors have been used to replicate the transcript of the actual phone conversation.     🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
11/2/201849 minutes, 42 seconds
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Welcome To #SiblingsToo

Welcome to SiblingsToo, the podcast about Sibling Sexual Abuse, the hidden taboo, hidden in society and in families. Your Host is Nancy Morris, a psychology researcher and sibling sexual abuse survivor. SiblingsToo creates a voice for sibling sexual abuse and brings research and information to surivors and their families.    🖥 To connect with #SiblingsToo go to: Siblingstoo.com 📲 Facebook: fb.com/siblingstoo ➡️ Would you like to anonymously share your story of Sibling Sexual Abuse? Click Here ---> Share My Story .
11/2/20185 minutes, 40 seconds