tl;dr JoEllen Notte is here to help us explore depression, relationships, and how depression and mental health can impact sex and desire, plus connecting during a pandemic. Explore More Summit is happening NOW! Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com and register. We've got Pleasure Mechanics, Rachel Cole, Prentis Hemphill, Andrea Glik, Jennifer Mullan, Kai Cheng Thom, and so many others. Don't miss it! Patrons

tl;dr Jaclyn Friedman on believing women, what happens when we disclose our trauma, and why our PERCEPTION of who is a victim impacts how we view all victims. We're talking about her new book with Jessica Valenti, "Believe Me". Explore More Summit is happening NEXT WEEK. Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com now! Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a bonus chat between Jaclyn Friedman and I on Tina Horn's fantastic essay spea

tl;dr Leonore Tjia on highly sensitive people, relational work, and why modern mental health models are inherently anti-erotic. Explore More Summit registration is OPEN. Grab your free ticket by registering today for this free, entirely online conference that happens April 20-29th featuring 28 delicious, timely, intimate talks. Head to exploremoresummit.com now! Finally, Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week you get to hear a private conversation Leonore and I had prior to recording for the podcast. We didn't intend for this to be heard, but it was so good I had to share! Hear it at <a href= "http://patreon.com/sgrpodcast" target="_blank" rel= "noreferrer noopener" aria-label= "patreon.com/s

tl;dr We are talking vaginal discharge, FGM or genital cutting scars, cheating when a partner has Alzheimers, and how to teach your kids the importance of pleasure with food. Power in Pleasure, my 5-week online course all about pleasure is now enrolling. The next cohort starts March 22nd, so do not miss it! Especially now with the news cycle and the fear. Spending some dedicated time for 5 weeks, plus 6 intimate group calls, to explore pleasure and safety is sooo important. Check out the details and enroll now. F

tl;dr Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food & sex is so important. Part 2 of 2!   I am so excited to share Part 2 of this 2 part conversation with the incredible Christy Harrison! If you haven't heard Part 1

tl;dr Christy Harrison of Food Psych is here to talk about pleasure, happiness, weight stigma, what it means to be anti-diet, and why trusting our hungers around food & sex is so important. I am so excited to share Part 1 of this 2 part conversation with the incredible Christy Harrison! Christy is an anti-diet dietitian, host of the Food Psych Podcast, and she just published a book that we are exploring here called, "Anti-Diet: Reclaim Your Time, Money, Well-Being, and Happiness Through Intuitive Eating". Before we get into my chat with Christy, I have a few important things: First, at Alex's suggestion, I turned my answer from <a href= "https://www.dawnserra.com/ep295" target="_blank" rel= "noreferrer noopener" aria-label

tl;dr Are sexual preferences changeable? What if someone really just doesn't like short men or fat women? And what should a lesbian do if she wants sex with men? First up - BE SURE TO SIGN-UP FOR THE BODY TRUST SUMMIT!!! It's going to be incredible and challenging and so so so powerful. I'm not only a speaker but I'm also working behind the scenes with Alex to produce it for Be Nourished. Seven days of talks on healing our relationship with food and body? Yes please. Register, for free, now because it's entirely online and kicks off March 11th. <p

tl;dr Inka Winter from ForPlay Films joins us to talk about making porn and why sexual healing and sex education is an important part of her work. Patrons who support at $3 and above, don't miss my bonus chat with Inka at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Inka shares about her experience growing up in a cult in Austria where sex was mandatory and why that informs so much of her work at ForPlay Films. In this episode, Inka and I talk about the very real challenges of what it's like to create erotic film. We talk about how Inka got started, how generous her friends in Hollywood have been at volunteering as cinematographers and support staff, and even why most of her films to date have featured friends instea

tl;dr Can you change who you're sexually attracted to? Is someone gay for getting blowjobs from a guy? Is it OK to cheat with a sex worker?   Patrons who support at $3 and above, this week's bonus is several Am I The Asshole posts over at <a class= "_4X_-components-SimpleRichTextEditor-components-LinkSpan--linkSpan" href

tl;dr Bringing more racial nuance to sexual assault conversations, how to do oral sex when you struggle for breath, and how to deal with regret and hurt after a threesome.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there are TWO bonuses this week at <a class= "_4X_-components-SimpleRichTextEditor-components-LinkSpan--linkSpa

tl;dr STIs and how to protect ourselves, men who want masturbation buddies, shame and fat bodies, plus Kobe Bryant's death.   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at <span data-offset-key=

tl;dr How to have with someone in a wheelchair, being scared of sex and not knowing how to jump in. Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. We are diving into the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse - the behaviors that indicate a relationship is in need of repair and heading for trouble and what we can do about it. This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements. An important article on abortion plus I also am sharing two interesting posts about men and testosterone and men and sexual desire by psychotherapist Eric FitzMedrud. There's some really intere

tl;dr When the sex stops after you move in together, non-binary pregnancy, and why sex with fat folks is not revolutionary. Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Let's explore some of what we want to let go of and what we'd like to bring in for 2020, plus the most magical gift list I've ever read. This week’s episode is you and me and your emails. Before we get to that, a few announcements. First, you must read this ma

tl;dr Abuse in polyamory. Can squirting cause incontinence? Are there men who don't like sex? How to have sex with someone with large breasts?   Patrons who support at $3 and above, there's a new bonus at <

tl;dr Darcey Steinke on menopause, changing bodies, & a new way forward   MENOPAUSE! It's a thing loads of us go through that's fraught with misinformation, silence, shame, and PATRIARCHY.   <div class

tl;dr Can someone explore their bisexuality while being in a monogamous relationship? Do things get better after you've been raped? How can you balance body positivity with Hashimoto's and how can you tell a potential date about your health issues? Patrons who support at $3 and above, you're invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell's "How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy", so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Also, your bonus this week is some fun journal prompts and questions about food and pleasure. Be sure to grab it! On with this week's episode. TJ has be

tl;dr Kai Cheng Thom on consent, healing, & pleasure This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners, save 30% off your first month's subscription of period products (tampons, pads, and liners) and sex products (ultra thin condoms, lube, and wipes). This week it's me and Kai Cheng Thom. I AM SO EXCITED! Kai Cheng and I talk about so many things from how easy it is for sex positive educators to default to a mechanized view of sex and why checklists around consent aren't enough to why sex is always political and why Kai Cheng is so committed to uplifting our humanity. We dive into healing, trauma, transformative justice, courage, pleasure, and Kai Cheng's vision for a post-apocalyptic world. <!--

tl;dr How to vulnerable and honest, is cheating bad, and what to do about a big penis? News! Patrons who support at $3 and above, you're invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell's "How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy", so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. Let's take a touch inventory. Who in your life can you share touch with? Not just sexual or romantic, but platonic, comforting, or familial touch? I've been thinking a lot about the ways we're so touch-starved here in the U.S. and Canada, and then an article came across my feed this week

tl;dr Relationship green flags (healthy relationship behaviors), community accountability, and play party etiquette. News! Patrons who support at $3 and above, you're invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell's "How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy", so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. How are you doing? No really. How are you? Share with me, if you'd like, and send in your questions because I'd love to hear from you. Send me a note using the contact form in the navigation above? W

tl;dr Is squirting embarrassing? How can I find a fat-friendly therapist? What if my marriage is falling apart? News! Patrons who support at $3 and above, you're invited to join the Explore More book club. We are meeting in December to discuss Jenny Odell's "How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy", so check out my new post at patreon.com/sgrpodcast. This week, it's me and you! An awesome video called <a href= "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AhANo6wzBAA" target="_blank" rel= "noreferrer noopener" aria-label= ""How to Support Harm Does in Accountabili

tl;dr What should you do with sexy pics of your ex and what if you still get off to them? How can you have more pleasure if you have herpes and your partner does not? And what should you do if you can't stop thinking of someone who drifted out of your life?   News! <ol class="public-DraftStyleDefault-ol" dat

tl;dr Nurturance culture, rape culture, accountability, and boundaries with Nora Samaran. Don't miss the October cohort of Power in Pleasure, my 5-week online course dedicated to exploring your pleasure. Details are at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Enrollment closes soon! This week, I'm joined by Nora Samaran, author of the essay, "The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture" and the recently published book, Turn This World Inside Out: The Emergence of Nurturance Culture, out by AK Press. Gr

Radical love, resilient community, and never being discarded with Andy Izenson I am so excited to replay this episode with Andy Izenson. When it first aired, I received loads of emails as a response, and since I'm taking this week off to tend to me, it felt like a beautiful offering to tide you over until next week. I first saw Andy speak several years ago at a closing panel for Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and I was in awe. You'll see why when you tune into our rich conversation. After reaching out to Andy, asking if they'd like to talk about restorative and transformative justice as well as building resilient communities on the show, Andy also said they were thinking a lot about: -- the way orthodoxies of capitalism and scarcity infuse polyamorous community// polyamory should be inherently anti-capitalist -- the way the state is conspiring with your trauma -- disposability and anxiety and the fiction of moral purity</

tl;dr Why coming forward about sexual assault doesn't "ruin" lives, what to do when you're deeply ashamed of masturbation, & does loving penises make a straight man gay?  News! The October Cohort of my 5-week online course, Power in Pleasure, is enrolling NOW. We kick off Sunday, October 14th and it's going to be amazing. Learn more and enroll here: dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse (it costs as much as a single coaching session but includes six live calls and five weeks of daily emails bursting with powerful prompts and questions). Join us! This week, it's me and you! <!-- wp:para

It smells like man and cow, and it's hot as hell. Dawn & Dylan hit the Mid Atlantic Leather conference in Washington, DC. Ready for a complete, and VERY kinky, run down of everything we saw? Let's talk sadism, spanking, leather, dildos, and hundreds of sweaty, gay men. For more information about Mid Atlantic Leather, visit leatherweekend.com In this episode, Dawn & Dylan: Talk about all the things they saw at Mid Atlantic Leather. Laugh over the smell of all that leather and man ass. Watch a sadistic display and fondle some dildos. Listen and subscribe to Sex Gets Real: Listen and subscribe on iTunes <a h

Anne Hodder-Shipp joins us to talk sex ed, entitlement in relationships, and sex after recovery and while sober. News! If you could use some support around your relationship to your body, to pleasure, to sex and desire, I have a few spots available for in-person coaching in Vancouver and in my online virtual practice. Check out the Work With Me page for details. Patreon supporters - Anne and I spent some time recording a special bonus chat for you all about d

tl;dr Anne Hodder-Shipp joins us to talk sex ed, entitlement in relationships, and sex after recovery and while sober.   News! If you could use some support around your relationship to your body, to pleasure, to sex and desire, I have a few spots available for in-person coaching in Vancouver and in my online virtual practice. Check out the Work With Me page for details. Patreon supporters - Anne and I spent some time recording a special bonus chat for you all about dream work and sex dreams. Head to <a href="http://patreon.com/sgrpodcast" target="_blank" rel="noreferrer noopener" aria-label= "patreon.com

tl;dr Creating community memories of abuse, why giving advice is a double-edged sword, attending ACA meetings, and wanting to cuckquean when you have trauma and no body confidence.   News! <ol class="

News! I am on episode 4.2 of the Secret Feminist Agenda podcast. Tune in as I talk all about the Sex Gets Real podcast, how I got into this work, and much more. Save 40% off your first subscription with LOLA and your pads, tampons, wipes, condoms, and more can be discreetly delivered right to your door on YOUR schedule. They are generously sponsoring this episode. Listeners save 40% when they go to mylola.com and use promo code SGR at checkout. First up, I want your questions! I zoomed through so many of your amazing stories and emails this summer, that I'd love to hear more from you as I line up the podcast for the fall. Where are you struggling around sex, love, pleasure, and bodies? What would you love to know more about? How can I support you around the places

News! I am going to be on Secret Feminist Agenda podcast. The episode drops Friday, August 30, 2019 and if you haven't checked out this rad podcast yet, do it here. The next cohort of Power in Pleasure starts October 14th and enrollment is now open. If you'd like to learn more and join in this rich exploration of pleasure, hunger, and desire, head to dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. To get us started, I came across two threads all about love and the simple ways we care for each other. I'd love to hear from you one the little things people in your life do that make you feel loved and what made you think "yeah, I want this human in my life for awhile". Platonic, creative, sexual, romantic - it doesn't matter. Let's start a love fest. Email me with

News! I am now taking in-person clients in my coaching practice. If you're in the Vancouver area, I will working out of Allura Sex Therapy Centre on Fridays. Head to dawnserra.com to reach out to me if you're interested in grabbing a spot. The next cohort of Power in Pleasure starts October 14th and enrollment is now open. If you'd like to learn more and join in this rich exploration of pleasure, hunger, and desire, head to dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. This week's episode is all about you and your questions. First up, there have been updates on #polyamorysmetoo and I wanted to pass those along. Head to sexgetsreal.com/ep274 for all the links you need. You can also check out the <a href= "https:/

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Before we jump into my conversation with Tristan, I want to take a few moments to share an important piece called: Dildon’t Disrespect Black Femmes: Our Personal Experiences With Wild Flower Sex Shop This piece, written collectively by Ev'Yan Whitney, Ashleigh, Karmenife, La'Shaunae, VenusCuffs, and Cameron Glover, is an important account of ongoing exploitation and abuse that these Black Femmes experienced at the hands of Wildflower Sex shop. I

News! I am now taking in-person clients in my coaching practice. If you're in the Vancouver area, I will working out of Allura Sex Therapy Centre on Fridays. Head to dawnserra.com to reach out to me if you're interested in grabbing a spot. The next cohort of Power in Pleasure starts October 14th and enrollment is now open. If you'd like to learn more and join in this rich exploration of pleasure, hunger, and desire, head to dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. It's you and me this week because I have so many amazing questions from you that I wanted to answer a few before next week's epic episode with Tristan Taormino. So what's on tap for this week? Teacup Half Full wrote in because she is engaged to an amazing man named George. He makes her so happy. But she also has

LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final DAY to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and learn more at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Touch. The erotic. And healing. Chris Maxwell Rose is here from The Pleasure Mechanics and we geek out about touch, changing bodies and how our relationship with the erotic changes over time, touch hunger, and much much more. The Pleasure Mechanics have a bunch of fantastic online courses, so if you want to check those out this is my affiliate link. A few of the things we discuss include: The many touch stones that we have in our life that h

LAST CALL The July cohort of Power in Pleasure starts July 21st, so this is the final week to register before it closes. You deserve pleasure. You deserve to honor your hunger. Your power is tied to your pleasure. Explore with us and learn more at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Sinclair Sexsmith and rife are here to talk 24/7 power exchange First up, you can hear me on two podcasts this week talking all about pleasure, bodies, and sex. I chatted with Chris Maxwell Rose of The Pleasure Mechanics all about pleasure, hunger, and the relationship between sex and food. I was also on Rebecca Scritchfield's podcast <a href= "https://www.bodykindnessbook.com/2019/07/08/podcast-122-sex-is-a-social-skill-how-to-have-open-sexual-co

Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Welcome to this week's episode, it's a very special treat, but first! Did you know you can support the show? You can, on Patreon. The show is entirely self-funded, so every single dollar makes a huge difference for me. If you support at $3 and above each month, you get exclusive weekly content you can't find anywhere else and if you support at $5 per month and above, you can help me answer listener questions. This week's bonus is my chat with Adiposivity's founder Substantia Jones for the Explore More Bodies summit. We talk all about her project of photographing fat, naked bodies all around the world. Don't miss it! Head to patr

FULL TRANSCRIPT AT sexgetsreal.com/ep267 Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. Welcome to this week's episode, full of your questions and some thoughts and questions I have in response. First up, a few years ago, Jasmine Kyon wrote an essay about why coming out is not the best option as the child of an immigrant family and how often the coming out narrative is white-centric and cis-centric. It's beautiful and important. Check it out here. Then, several of your awesome questions. Brooke struggled with wanting sex as she grappled with disordered eating

Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My chat with Sinclair Sexsmith and rife got postposed, so this week's episode is just me and you. First up, I share about three new articles/resources that came across my feed this week. Head to sexgetsreal.com/ep266 for all of the links mentioned in the episode. Then, we dive into two important questions from listeners just like you. Peter is a cis man who is a virgin. He has been listening to older episodes of the show and was confused by a conversation I had with a Dirty Lola in response to a cis woman who was a virgin asking about boundaries. Peter feels he shouldn't have boundaries if he ever meets someone who is willing to have sex with

Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. This week's episode is just me and you. First, I get on a soapbox about the bullshit that is "straight pride" and how it's really just like white pride and men's rights activists. We've got to call this stuff out and do better. Listener Rick wrote in to share some changes he's experienced in pleasure since really listening to his wife. AMAZING! Next up, Confused Cookie has a problem. The love of her life keeps breaking their agreements and lying to her. This is not what ethical non-monogamy or polyamory are about, folks. If someone is breaking agreements, hiding things, and lying, that's unethical regardless of the dynamic. CC deserves so much better and I have suggestions for what to d

Your pleasure matters. Join the July cohort of  my 5-week online Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. This week's episode is just me and you. First up, some updates from the survivor pod around Franklin Veaux and hearing from more of the women. Definitely check out polyamory-metoo.com and Aida Manduley's twitter thread for some good stuff. You can also check out the Reddit thread with the comments I read here. Centering the stories and experiences of the women Franklin harmed is th

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. My coaching practice has a few new spots available. If you could use support around the places where you feel most stuck, I'd love to support you. Details about my coaching practice are here: dawnserra.com/work-with-me . In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Three of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Aida Manduley. In it, we are building on the previous two episodes which included a conversation with Eve Rickert and Samantha Manewitz as we explore emotional abuse, accountability, and different ways of being in

Want to work with me? Join the July cohort of the Power in Pleasure course. Check out details and pre-enroll at dawnserra.com/pleasurecourse. In a Sex Gets Real first, this episode is Part Two of a THREE part series featuring Eve Rickert, Samantha Manewitz, and Aida Manduley. This episode is my conversation with therapist Samantha Manewitz. We build on the conversation I had with Eve Rickert in Episode 261, exploring emotional abuse and gaslighting in relationships. One of the things Samantha stresses in this conversation is how normalized gaslighting is in the world right now. We have the highest levels of power (the US President) gaslighting an entire nation, and none of us are immune. We also explore some things that help reveal behaviors that might lead to emotional abuse and what one word can change the way we enter into relation

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It's time to deepen your relationship with pleasure. Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 29, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. NEW: Transcript available at sexgetsreal.com/ep258 First, I apologize that this episode is so late. Between traveling, funerals, and getting caught up, it took a few extra days to get this uploaded and out to you. This week, it's your questions! We start with an email from Violet. She was in a relationship that was committed and kinky that turned emotionally abusive. She is working with a therapist to heal, but she's worried about getting back into the kink scene and about healing from the abuse.

Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 29, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. On with the show! Anonymous shares how exploring and communicating with a partner can help open new possibilities to feeding your life and your relationship. Miss Submissive is hiring a professional Dominatrix and she would love some help learning how to be a bratty sub. Are there any resources for how to get started both as a submissive and as a brat? Some of the resources I share include Kink Academy's Brat series, <a href= "https://www.sugarbutch.net/2015

Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. M'kali-Hashiki is here! Let's talk about erotic healing and more. M'kali-Hashiki works with people's erotic wounds and erotic breathwork. She has such wisdom and experience in exploring the erotic and also being with our bodies in meaningful ways. Our conversation explores the ways we touch our genitals, the ways we become erotically wounded, what presence and breathwork can offer us in reconnecting with our pleasure and erotic sources. We also dive deep into the concept of safety and why safety isn't available to everyone. When we begin to exami

Is your relationship with pleasure complicated? Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. On with the show! I received a doozy of an email recently all about a partner who watches porn and the damage that's caused to their relationship. The story of their relationship is long, complicated, and full of problematic behaviors, so this week, I spend a large portion of the episode slowly breaking down the email and what it looks like when we try to control our partner's behavior. We'll explore: Why snooping and looking at a partner's phone and emails never OK What to do when a partner comments on our bodies and tells us

NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. On with the show! First up, Graeme Seabrook's latest blog post popped up in my feed a few times this week and caught my eye. It's titled, "Stop Grading Your Husband On A Curve" and spoke so deeply to so many of the questions I receive and the coaching that I do. Check it out, for sure. What would it look like to have everyone in a relationship show up and take 100% responsibility for the household, the chores, the management of scheduled? What would it mean if the wome

NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. On to your emails! Adam wrote back after hearing his email on the show with an emotional thank you. Beginning Gusher and Waterboarding Victim both wrote in with the same question from opposite perspectives. How can you prevent squirting? I share some thoughts and advice from other sex educators before weighing in with my thoughts. Essentially, our bodies are going to do what our bodies are going to do, and instead of stopping something natural from happening, a better question is what ELSE can someone do that feels pleasurable and connecting that might not lead to squirting if it

NOW ENROLLING! Check out my new pleasure course which is enrolling now through April 22, 2019 (we'll enroll again in June!). It's called Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy and runs for five weeks online. I'd love to see you there. On to your emails! Kim wrote in with a sweet note about hearing a trauma story on episode 246 and how much it reminded her that she's not alone in her healing and trauma. Thanks for the support, Kim! Katie has a request. As someone who is a sex researcher and who does a lot of work around sex, the thing that shocks people the most is that she didn't have intercourse for the first time until she was 30. She'd love to hear more conversations about people who don't have sex until later in life and the benefits and struggles that presents. I have so many thoughts which include n

Two important things before we get started: Register for Explore More Summit, my free online conference! It starts February 25th, 2019 and the theme this year is PLEASURE. You do NOT want to miss it. Check it out here at exploremoresummit.com. Support Shine Louise Houston's crowdfunding campaign for her new erotic film, Chemistry Eases the Pain. Details are here. On to your emails! First up, CuriousMom was raised with a lot of sexual shame and body shame. As a mom of two daughters, she is doing her best to raise them in a sex positive way (and it sounds like she's doing a GREAT job), but she doesn't know what she doesn't know. Where can she find resources and support on raising kids in a sex positive home?

Before we get started there's a huge thing you should know about: Explore More Summit 2019 is HAPPENING! The 4th annual free online conference is all about pleasure this year. You do not want to miss these conversations. They are incredible. Check out the line-up and register FOR FREE at exploremoresummit.com. Embodiment as our path to pleasure What are the ways we can access pleasure? What if pleasure isn't accessible to us? And how does trauma impact the body? Sage Hayes is here to tell us all about embodiment, trauma, healing, safety, and the phenomenal pleasure available to us when we learn how to listen more deeply. It's a beautiful, deep exploration of what it means to be in a body in a world that isn't very kind to bodies. We also talk about the wisdom of our coping mechanisms, why leaving the body is wise, and ways we create feelings of dange

ONE BIG THING before we get started: Register for Explore More Summit! It starts February 25th, 2019 and the theme this year is PLEASURE. It's free and online, and you do NOT want to miss it. Check it out here at exploremoresummit.com. On to your emails! First up, where can people go for alternatives to Tumblr now that it's banned porn? I found two articles with many of the same recommendations. Check out the Refinery29 piece and the Cosmo piece (this one is by Elle Chase, known as Lady Cheeky). As always, pay for your porn! Francis wrote in because they are struggling with being on top during sex. Is there

Before we get started there are three HUGE things: This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners get 40% off their subscription at mylola.com using discount code SGR. Have organic cotton pads, tampons, wipes, and even condoms delivered discretely to your door at exactly the interval you need for your body. When you use the discount code it helps the show so so much. We hit 5 MILLION downloads and to celebrate, I made a little video plus a huge giveaway. Three lucky folks will be randomly selected to win three different prizes. Watch the video and put your name in the hat to win at sexgetsreal.com/five. Explore More Summit 2019 is HAPPENING! The 4th annual free online conference is all about pleasure this year. You do not want to miss these conver

Before we get started there are three HUGE things: This episode is generously brought to you by LOLA. Listeners get 40% off their subscription at mylola.com using discount code SGR. Have organic cotton pads, tampons, wipes, and even condoms delivered discretely to your door at exactly the interval you need for your body. When you use the discount code it helps the show so so much. We hit 5 MILLION downloads and to celebrate, I made a little video plus a huge giveaway. Three lucky folks will be randomly selected to win three different prizes. Watch the video and put your name in the hat to win at sexgetsreal.com/five. Explore More Summit 2019 is HAPPENING! The 4th annual free online conference is all about pleasure this year. You do not want to miss these conver

Two things to get started: Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show's newsletter which is going to be crucial as social media networks purge sex education from their pages. Enter to win "Girl Sex 101" and "Bad Dyke" by Allison Moon to celebrate the New Year! One lucky winner will be selected at random on January 15th, so enter now. U.S. and Canada folks only. This week's Patreon bonus is some yummy poems (including one that ends with "Yes Mistress"), what it means to be an unchaste woman, and a super exclusive invitation for patrons to share their art for a project that's coming up this sp

Enter to win “Girl Sex 101” and “Bad Dyke” by Allison Moon to celebrate the New Year! Cut off for entries is January 15, 2019. One lucky winner will be selected at random , so enter now. U.S. and Canada folks only. Also, if you're looking for support around healing your relationship with your body, deepening your relationship with a partner, unpacking your desire, and finding more pleasure, I'd love to work one-on-one with you. Learn more at dawnserra.com. ALOK is here. It's time to question everything. ALOK is someone I've long admired and learned so much from. Their talk at Explore More Summit 2018 was a fan favorite by a landslide. And for good reason. ALOK is not only an incredible thought-leader, but they are utterly transparent about the violence, harm, and vulnerability of living in the world as

Three things to get started: Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show's newsletter which is going to be crucial as social media networks purge sex education from their pages. Enter to win "Girl Sex 101" and "Bad Dyke" by Allison Moon to celebrate the New Year! One lucky winner will be selected at random on January 15th, so enter now. U.S. and Canada folks only. See me speak FOR FREE about leaving my day job and starting life as an entrepreneur at the True Freedom Symposium starting J

Have you grabbed the Sex Gets Real official book list yet? Not only do you get all of the show's most recommended books, but you'll join the Sex Gets Real newsletter which is becoming more and more important as all sexuality discussions are banned on social media. Grab your goodie and stay in touch by heading to sexgetsreal.com/books Also, if you're looking for support around healing your relationship with your body, deepening your relationship with a partner, unpacking your desire, and finding more pleasure, I'd love to work one-on-one with you. Learn more at dawnserra.com. Chronic pain, erotophobia, non-romantic love, and community-only spaces Andrew Gurza was kind enough to connect Cameron Glover and I recently, and I have to admit as soon as I started diving into the work Cameron is doing, I was e

Grab the official Sex Gets Real recommended reading list now! Not only will you have access to my most recommended books, but it will add you to the show's newsletter which is going to be crucial as social media networks purge sex education from their pages. You can also enter to receive a Merry Clitmas card from me to you. Ten lucky winners will be drawn soon. What a great week of listener questions! I can't wait to dive into these with you. But first, the episode ends with a beautiful fat acceptance poem by Angela Braxton-Johnson, who I met at the Body Trust Provider retreat a few months ago. Angela generously agreed to read her poem for the show and to share more about what it means to take up space and find pleasure in a fat body. You do NOT want to miss it. You can learn more about Angela a

Want me to mail you a holiday card? Well, enter the Merry Clitmas card giveaway before December 18, 2018 and if you are one of 10 lucky names randomly drawn, I'll be hand-writing fun holiday cards and mailing them out the next day. Check out the details at sexgetsreal.com/holiday/ Welcome back, Andrew Gurza! When Andrew reached out to me asking to come back on the show, I immediately said yes. We always have so much fun chatting, AND I was delighted that it was an excuse to get to see his new documentary, Picture This. You can see it, too, for free here. Andrew and I talk about what it was like to have his life filmed, coming out to his mom about hiring sex workers for his sexual pleasure, creating sex toys that are truly for disabled people designed by disabled people, toxic masculinity in

Sign-up to stay in touch with the show if we get banned from social media and iTunes. Sex Gets Real Book List: http://sexgetsreal.com/books/ Explore More Summit: http://exploremoresummit.com Enter the holiday giveaway for a hand-written Merry Clitmas card: http://sexgetsreal.com/holiday/ Sweeping bans to social media means no more sex education. A number of sex educators have already had content flagged and banned on Facebook and Instagram. It may become nearly impossible for sex educators and podcasters to share their content on any social media platform because of FOSTA/SESTA. If you want to stay in touch if the show gets banned across the board, please subscribe using the links up above.

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. It's me, my anxiety, and your emails. This week's selection includes advice on coming out, BDSM research, long distance love, and unprotected sex and herpes. At the top of the episode, I mentioned Ella Dawson's new piece, "In Case I Am Ever Murdered By a Man" and you can check it out here. Later in the

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. It's you, me, and your emails.We're tackling gender, virginity, & being a man. First up, I came across this super helpful article in The Advocate titled "15 Signs You're a Gay Misogynist". Misogyny in gay men's spaces is rampant, so if you're a gay dude, you might want to check out this list and s

If you've been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. The Fourth Trimester with Kimberly Ann Johnson Kimberly Ann Johnson is here this week to talk about birth injury and birth trauma, postpartum healing and nurturing, what cultures from around the world do to tend to folks after giving birth, and so much more. We explore changing bodies, cultural myths about "pre-baby body", and sex after baby. We also dive into her work around activating your inner jaguar - which is all about tapping into both prey and predator energy, healthy aggression, and shifting your relationship with anger. As I note in the intro to the episode, most of Kimberly's work is with cis women in heterosexual relationships, so you

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Frustration, fear, and feeling stuck? Your questions, answered. I'm at the Rehoboth Beach Film Festival, which means it's time for listener questions!  But first, if you're curious about coaching support, head to dawnserra.com - I have a few spots left before the end of the year. girl out wrote in because her girlfriend hasn't been comi

If you've been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. This episode is sponsored by Simple Health, a new online service for birth control. You can have an online consult with a physician, get a prescription for birth control (even if you've never had one), and get your contraception mailed to you at no additional cost exactly when you need it. Listeners, you can get the $20 prescription fee waived by heading to simplehealth.com/sgr or by using promo code SGR at checkout. Talk to kids about gender, sexuality, and social justice with Lindsay Amer You've p

If you've been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. Healing, survival, resilience, and how pleasure heals with Staci Haines Every once in a while, I have a conversation that brings things into focus. This week's conversation with Staci Haines one of those special experiences. I've long had Staci's book, "Healing Sex" on my shelf and used it as a resource for healing around sex. But speaking with her was a rare treat. We talk about trauma and oppression, surviving, and then move into a beautiful exploration of what it means to heal, having compassion for the ways we survived, and developing a practice around resilience and pleasure. Why is pleasure so important? How can we invite intentional rituals

If you've been thinking about working with a coach around your desire, relationship, body, or shame, I am now accepting new clients and my rates are increasing January 2019. Learn more at dawnserra.com/work-with-me. Why story hijacking and advice are rarely what the people we love need. Kate Kenfield is back and setting a new record for the show with her third stint as a guest. As a sex educator who is now diving deep into empathy, feelings, emotional intelligence, and self-care, we adore having brain sex and geeking out about all the things. Plus, Kate is joining us this week to celebrate a huge announcement - her Tea & Empathy cards have been turned into a Kickstarter campaign. If you've been wanting to grab some cards for yourself, the prices are awesome AND you can help Kate get this incredible resource out to even more people with your support. Check out <a hre

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Jes Baker on Mormonism, sex, changing bodies, and saying "fuck it". If I had to point to a single person who caused my entire life to pivot and open up, it would be Jes Baker. She is the reason I even started questioning the stories I'd been given about my body. It was her blog, her fierce truths to fat folks, that was the catalyst for my own journey towards healing, towards being more curious about my pleasure and

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Listener questions on destroying a pussy, pleasure, and book lists. Brett Kavanaugh was confirmed for the Supreme Court the day I recorded this, so we start there. Howard Zinn's op-ed from 2005 speaks loudly to where we are today. And I read Monica Raye Simpson's letter to SisterSong

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Ev'Yan Whitney on sensuality, the erotic, and body hair I've followed Ev'Yan on Instagram for quite a while and been enchanted by the ways she shares and expresses herself there. As soon as she said yes to being on the show, I was excited. We talk about sensuality and how Ev'Yan struggled with the ways sensuality and sexuality were bound together culturally. Her process of teasing out her sensual self and sep

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Donna Zuckerberg on pickup artistry, Red Pill, and the classics The last Harvard University Press book I had a chance to review for the show was "About Abortion" by Carol Sanger, which was such a spectacular experience. So, I was incredibly excited when HUP sent me a copy of Donna Zuckerberg's new book, "Not All Dead White Men." Not only do we take a critical look at pickup artistry, Red Pill communities, and

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Listener questions, pleasure, and reproductive justice with Monica Raye Simpson of SisterSong. DeeLo wrote in with an a-ha moment around Hannah Gadsby's "Nanette" and something I said a few weeks ago. Yay bodies and rewriting stories. Julie wanted to offer some thoughts around mindfulness, anxiety, PTSD, and working with a professional after hearing Dr. Lori Brotto's episode a few weeks ago. Co-signed! <p

Pleasure can be complicated, hunger can feel like a betrayal, but our bodies were built for pleasure and it's time for you to reconnect with what it means to feel good, to prioritize what brings you delight and joy, and to unpack the old stories that keep you stuck in shame and guilt. My new online course, Power in Pleasure: Reconnecting with Your Hunger, Desire, and Joy, will start enrolling soon, so join the notification list now and get first dibs on the course. Developing body trust, examining masculinity, and exploring pleasure with Aaron Flores. This episode is generously brought to you by Casper sleep solutions. Get $50 toward select mattresses by visiting Casper.com/SGR and using SGR at checkout. Terms and conditions apply.  I had the delight to hear Aaron Flores speak at the ASDAH conference i

Have you been feeling stuck in your relationship, frustrated with your body, or totally disconnected from your pleasure & desire? One-on-one coaching spots are available in my private practice and rates are going up January 1st, 2019, so now is the perfect time to book a discovery call and learn more about how coaching might help you. Check out the clients I work with and my rates today.   The power of mindfulness on our pleasure, connection, and desire. In person interviews are some of my favorite, and Dr. Lori Brotto was able to pop over for this in-person conversation all about her 15 years of sex research on the power of mindfulness, which she's turned into a fabulous book called, "Better Sex Through Mindfulness." So, this episode is  all about what mindfulness is, how it affects our levels of libid

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What if period sex is awful? How can we find different kinds of people sexy? And why so many men feel attacked when people talk about...well, men. There was a little change of plan at the last minute, which means this week I'm fielding a bunch of your emails. Want to hear your question read on the air? Just hit Send a Note in the navigation! We start with Alyssa, who wants to know where to find a trusted sacred intimate. I get this question pretty frequently, so I offer a few tips and tidbits about starting your search. Eric wants me to know that I sound bitter, broken, and sad when I talk about #NotAllMen, which leads me to gushing about <a href= "http://www.sceneonradio.org/seeing-white/

Have you been feeling stuck in your relationship, frustrated with your body, or totally disconnected from your pleasure & desire? One-on-one coaching spots are available in my private practice and rates are going up January 1st, 2019, so now is the perfect time to book a discovery call and learn more about how coaching might help you. Check out the clients I work with and my rates today.   Communicating with ease about sex, love, and fantasies with Stella Harris. Stella Harris is a powerhouse in sex education. Her writing has long been something I've admired, and her vulnerability and storytelling are beautiful things. If you haven't seen her Bawdy Storytelling, go check it out. So, this week's chat, to discuss Stella's new book, "Tongue Tied: Untangling Communication in Sex, Kink, and Relationships" is one I'm super excited about. You've heard me mention again and again

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. What even is the friendzone, how can a man come to terms with his submissive desires, and questioning desirability politics. This week it's just you and me before we have another tsunami of awesome guests.  First up, Angela wrote in with a question about friendzones. Why are they even a thing? Why did her friend suddenly close her out after she denied his advances without any conversation or warning? Friendzones are bullshit, so I weigh in on the lies that are "friendzones". Plus, WendyCorduroy's Tumblr post on what the friendzone rhetoric has done to her is powerful stuff. R

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is now available on demand. Grab your spot today.  Dating. Sex. Boundaries. Fat bodies. Virgie Tovar must be here! Virgie Tovar always makes me think and this chat is no exception. Holy smokes I love Virgie's brain, and she is going to take us into some BIG feels. Let's talk about dating while fat. Let's talk about misogyny and sexism. Let's talk about access to pleasure and delighting in our bodies. Let's explore the ways diets and dieting impact our ability to say yes and no in bed and in relationships. Virgie has a new book about to hit shelves and it is small but VERY mighty in scope, so be sure to <a href= "https:/

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is now available on demand. Grab your spot today.  Body trust, queer identity, pleasure in a fat body, and losing attraction for a partner with Sarah Thompson In a few days, I head to Portland for the ASDAH (Association for Size Diversity and Health) conference which will happen over my birthday weekend. The next few weeks will be all about body trust, rejecting diet culture, research around health at every size, celebration, and fat acceptance. I could not be more tickled, especially because this week Sarah Thompson, the Resilient Fat Goddess, is joining us to talk about how everything changed for Sarah - access to pleasure, setting

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is now available on demand. Grab your spot today.  Radical love, resilient community, and never being discarded with Andy Izenson I am so excited by this week's chat with Andy Izenson. I first saw Andy speak several years ago at a closing panel for Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, and I was in awe. You'll see why when you tune into our rich conversation. After reaching out to Andy, asking if they'd like to talk about restorative and transformative justice as well as building resilient communities on the show, Andy also said they were thinking a lot about: -- the way orthodoxies of capitalism and scarcity infuse polyamorous co

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. A passionate lover. Body trust. Trans sex woes. Self-harm scars. Hello from Portland! I am here for BeNourished's Reclaiming Body Trust Intensive and it is hitting me hard. I'm still processing so much, and while I talk about the experience a bit this week on the show, I have some REALLY JUICY TIDBITS about trauma, bodies, trust, and healing in the Patreon bonus for the week. If you support the show at $3 and above, you get access to this truly special bonus and all the other bonuses, too. Check it out. A huge thank you to the two generous sponsors of this week's episode: TomboyX is gender-neutral, size-inclusive

Are you ready to sign up for Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop? Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. Intersex-inclusive language. Resentment in relationships. Questions from YOU! I am loving answering your questions this summer, and I'm so glad I'm getting a chance to get caught up on the backlog. Resentment is something that comes up a lot in my coaching practice. People tend to harbor all kinds of resentment without realizing it. A friend recently posted that whenever she feels resentment come up she asks herself, what aren't you saying?  And it's true - resentment breeds in the spaces where we silence ourselves, where are aren't witnessed and understood or heard and validated. When you're tolerating something, it's the launching pad for resentment. As soon as we stop being generous tow

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is now available on demand. Grab your spot today for just $37. Ten lessons, ten worksheets, a lifetime of shifting how you feel about boundaries. Tender masculinity, condom expirations, and your questions answered. I recently came across an article called "In Praise of Tender Masculinity, the New Non-Toxic Way to Be a Man" by terra loire. You know I adore examining the ways gender show up in pop culture and the stories it teaches all of us about how to live our lives - who is failing and who i

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is now available on demand. Grab your spot today.  Nadine is saving comprehensive sex ed Ontario Canada recently elected a conservative leader named Doug Ford. One of his campaign promises is to roll back the comprehensive sex education program for Ontario schools. Nadine refuses to let that happen, so she decided to do something about it. Check out her Go Fund Me campaign and donate here. We talk all about what's in the comprehensive sex ed program and why life-long sex and relationship education is so crucial. What scares people and why do people w

Heard about it on the show? The Sex Map game is just $9 and can be purchased here. Your questions. Answered. Katie has a new fat fling. She really likes him, but he talks about diets and weight loss a lot. She's been learning about diet culture, health at every size, and fact activism, so she needs help on how to set some boundaries with him to prevent discussions about the very things she's trying to overcome. Loving Husband has lost his sex drive. On top of that, his wife only wants sex in the missionary position, and he feels so bored and uninspired by the sex they do have. Could that have an impact on his sex drive? And how can he talk to his wife about making things more interesting? A listener from a previous episode was very angry with my response and sent several angry, pissy emails to me as a result. So I take a few minutes to talk about my process and how grateful I am

Guess what? I'm still in China. Because if you're going to travel halfway around the world, you want to stay a bit. Here is a yummy Pride-related replay of my fantastic chat with Riley J Dennis. Riley J Dennis is someone I’ve been watching on YouTube for a little while and completely admiring. I adore her passion for anti-oppressive work, talking about feminism, politics, sex, trans issues, and a bunch more. So, I decided to reach out and invite her on the show. When she said yes, I immediately went to work watching as many of her YouTube videos as I could find. Some of the most fun homework because I spent hours geeking out over the topics and rolling around in her facts and super logical approach to things that a lot of people really hate. We not only talk about trans identity policing, trans porn, and being visible online, but we also explore what it’s like to be so hated in the online space and why Riley’s sex toy video for trans folks completely melted my heart. I

I'm in China on vacation, so this week we are replaying a popular episode from the past. This one is Lola Davina on thriving in sex work since it was International Whores' Day on June 2nd. How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expect you to heal them?  Lola Davina is here to help us answer those questions and more. Her new book, “Thriving in Sex Work,” is like a big sister’s guide to caring for yourself as a sex worker.  We talk about the unrealistic expectations clients often come in with, being financially responsible, setting boundaries and trusting your gut, creating rituals to celebrate small and big wins, and a whole lot more.  It’s fascinating and practical. It’s one of my favorite chats, and I think you’ll hear why.   <e

Do you struggle to say no without over-explaining? Do you feel hurt when people you love set boundaries that disappoint you? Are you looking for ways to stop apologizing and to start taking up more space? Well, Take Up Space, my online boundaries workshop, is releasing soon. Grab your spot today.  What if honesty isn't the best policy for rebuilding trust? Shadeen Francis recently spoke at Explore More Summit, and her talk was one of the fan favorites for the entire conference. Her formula for trust challenged many and offered new language and feelings of YES! That's it! So, in this episode, Shadeen shares all about how she became a therapist, why sex is crucial for our well-being, how Shadeen's relationship with self feeds her erotic experiences and how it ties to the work she does, and then we dive into relationships. We talk about trust, the difference between honesty and tra

Three links to get you started: Ready to pre-order my boundaries workshop? Check out details for "Take Up Space: A Workshop on Boundaries, Self-Worth, & Strengthening Your Relationship With Self" Want free feminist porn? Enter this week's giveaway here. Deadline is Saturday, May 27th. The Sex Map game is just $9 and can be purchased here. Your questions. Answered. Bug has a funny sex toy story and wanted to share it. Beware of Pop My Cherry, folks. Regis looked up the definition of orgasm and it includes anal contractions. Regis' ex did it when she came, but their current partner's ass doesn't visibly spasm. Aren't they orgasming? Isn't this a tell-tale sign? NO. It is not. Find out why. <

Dreaming of quitting your day job to start your own business? Join the free virtual training, True Freedom Symposium: The When, What, Why, and How to Quit Your Day Job and What's Really On The Other Side, starting May 14th. It's free, online, and I'm a speaker alongside Modern Family's Ed O'Neill, Dinner and a Movie's Paul Gilmartin and the amazing Pam Slim of "Escape From Cubicle Nation." Sign up here. Your questions. Answered. Ana just started graduate school. She's working on becoming a sex educator, and needs a side hustle to make more money. She was thinking about a sex toy party business, but wants to find a company that is ethical and offers body safe products. Any recommendations? Anonymous wants his wife to have more sexual pl

Did you miss Explore More Summit 2018? Not to worry. All of the talks are available for you to bring home, plus some yummy bonuses! See your options and explore your more in life, love, and sex: exploremoresummit.com. It's time for more listener questions. You know I love talking with super smart awesome folks on the show, and I also adore fielding your questions. So that's what we're doing this week - your questions. Jon thinks he might be bisexual. What should he do? Pete wants to try pegging, but he is up in Alaska without any shops nearby. Where can he and his partner get everything they need for newbie pegging? Of course, I recommend the SpareParts Joque and also dildos by Tantus.  Ronman7 wrote in because he is in love and feeling happy with the woman in his life. The problem is he has a secret fantasy and he doesn't know what it means. Should he act on it? H

SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 is happening now. It ends May 2nd, so grab your all-access pass for free before it's too late. exploremoresummit.com. What is changing in the wake of the #MeToo movement? How do we talk about sex and power? Amy Jo Goddard is joining me this week to talk about BIG things. Amy Jo is a powerhouse of change, fierce and uncompromising in her commitment to sexual liberation and social change. I've been working with her on her Sex, Power, and Leadership Conference - which is a free online conference all about liberation, social change, pleasure, and the world in a post #MeToo movement. It. Is. So. Fucking. Good. So, this episode is us geeking out about sexual liberation, tolerating touch in relationships, the importance of pleasure activism if we wan

SIGN UP NOW! Explore More Summit 2018 starts in just a few hours and runs for the next 10 days. It's free and online. Grab your ticket now at exploremoresummit.com. What if we could not only write ourselves whole after trauma, but write our way into the erotic and desire? This week, Jen Cross, author of "Writing Ourselves Whole: Using the Power of Your Own Creativity to Recover and Heal from Sexual Trauma," is here to talk about healing and the power of the page. Let's start with the giveaway! Jen generously provided me with a signed copy of her book to offer as part of a giveaway to SGR listeners. If you'd like to put your name in the running, there's a handy-dandy entry form here. Jen and I talk about trauma and the ways it can impact us, plus the power of writing and storytelling to mo

Eager to sign-up for this year’s Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. It's your questions this week, folks, and there are so many amazing ones to get to. KiltmanFL wrote in about AC's question in episode 203 wanting kink classes in Florida. Kiltman has some great resources for all you Florida listeners. Bee wrote in with a long thank you note, but basically Bee was inspired to have some really scary conversations with her partner and now some much-needed changes are happening in her relationship. Yay for courageous conversations. A listener wrote in with a subject line of Virgin. You know I love these. This listener doesn't want to have sex until marriage but her girlfriend wants to have sex before marriage to make sure it's a good fit. How can she talk about sex when she's had zero experience? Among other

Eager to sign-up for this year's Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. What is intersectional sex ed? What does sexual liberation look like? This week, I'm joined by Roan Coughtry, a super rad sex educator who believes in having big conversations about how our pleasure and our bodies are impacted by the larger systems of our culture. We talk about Roan's beautiful personal statement for Trans Day of Visibility and how Roan started finding language for their gender and identity. We also explore what it means to be masculine and femme. Then, we roll around in intersectional sex education and what it brings to the table beyond comprehensive sex ed. Because we all know whatever's being taught now isn't working. And, sexual liberation - what does that mean to Roan? What can we imagine beyond where we a

Are you joining us for the 3rd annual Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23, 2018 and it's free and online. Grab your spot now at exploremoresummit.com. We did it. We did a live recording of the show with about a dozen of you joining in the fun. So, this is your chance to not only hear me fielding questions live, on the spot, but you'll also hear other people's thoughts and perspectives, too. I had a blast and I hope we do it again soon. So what did we chat about? DL has found that pleasure, sex, and embodiment aren't really talked about in the context of sobriety. How do they regain sensation? Why isn't anyone talking about this? On the call, I offered a few resources for DL, but afterwards, I reached out to my networks and asked for more. Head to sexgetsreal.com/ep207 for the full list of recommendations. Emily has trouble with her body and specifically her belly. How

Eager to sign-up for this year's Explore More Summit? It kicks off April 23rd, 2018 and you can enroll for free at exploremoresummit.com. Are you a witch, a slut, or a feminist? Then this episode is for you because Slutist founder Kristen J. Sollée is here to chat with me, Dawn Serra, about her new book by ThreeL Media, "Witches, Sluts, Feminists: Conjuring the Sex Positive." I'm not sure how much I've talked about it on the show, but I spent several years in my early twenties in a very close-knit witches coven. We met weekly, we did rituals for self-growth and world peace, and it was one of the most profound times of healing in my life. So, this book delighted the witch-of-old in me and the sex geek of now. I mean, you have to hear what "flying on a broomstick" really meant. It involves dildos. When w

LAST CHANCE to grab your seat for the online, live taping of Sex Gets Real to celebrate our 200th episode. Enter to join us here. It happens on March 22nd at 5pm Pacific, so this is your last chance. This week Dawn Serra is chatting with author Juniper Fitzgerald and artist Elise Peterson who created the book, "How Mamas Love Their Babies" - published by Feminist Press. The book is the first children's book to feature a sex worker and it's brilliant. So, Juniper, Elise, and Dawn talk about sex working mothers, the realities of being a new mom, why this book is so important, and what they learned along the way. Sex work should not be stigmatized and you are not a better feminist for not consuming sex work. Let's talk about why. Want to hear the funny bonus chat about Juniper and Elise's favorite memories from sex work? Well, pop over to Patreon and if you support the sh

Joanna Angel is joining the show this week and she's excited to talk about her new book, "Night Shift: A Choose Your Own Erotic Fantasy." We discuss how she came up with the story, the nostalgia of times past, feeling awkward and sexually inexperienced, and how some of Joanna's favorite memories of sex shop tours inspired so much of the book. You'll also want to check out the bonus reading on Patreon from Joanna's new book. Patreon supporters at the $3 level and above get access, so head over and listen now. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Joanna and I also talk about porn and what people get wrong about the industry, how she stays creative making 24 movies a year, how porn (and all of entertainment) is changing, and what's next for her literary adventures. I'm also doing a super soft launch of the 2018 Explore

Patreon supporters - this week's bonus is a big ol' rant after a listener wrote in with some pretty problematic arguments around why coercion isn't rape and that relationships are about persuasion and convincing. Um....you KNOW I have thoughts. So what's up for this episode? AC wants to know where to find a kink expert that might teach at a private party about bondage and flogging. I recommend Fetlife to get started. Drowning in Relationship Theory is so stressed. Her and her husband decided to open their marriage so she could explore her bisexuality. She's met a lovely woman, her husband is on board, but she's been listening to lots of poly experts who all say hierarchical poly is unethical and that prioritizing her marriage is wrong. Can she be ethically polyamorous while treasuring her marriage?  I have several thoughts, and also recommend <a href= "http://amzn.to/2FcgyT6" targ

Don't forget to grab your seat for the LIVE taping of Sex Gets Real to celebrate our 200th episode. Enter to join us here. This week, I am joined by the incredible Bianca Palmisano from Intimate Health Consulting. Bianca specializes in training medical doctors, nurses, and staff to be more inclusive when treating marginalized folks, especially around sexuality and gender. So, we go there. We talk about all the ways doctors fail us and the emotional labor we often have to do to train doctors on how to treat us well. We also talk about how Bianca gets into their offices in the first place and how she's received. Then we geek out over the medical conferences we've both attended because good god, is there a problem with the research being done. Ugh. And of course big pharma spends loads of money at medical conferences attracting doctors. There's NO MONEY in giving people b

There are still spots available for the LIVE recording of Sex Gets Real on March 22nd at 5pm Pacific/8pm Eastern. If you want to help celebrate the 200th episode, just complete this little entry form - I would love to see you there! Patreon supporters - this week's bonus is a thinky-thoughty exploration of love and romance. I am now pre-enrolling three new on-demand workshops that you can take from the privacy of your own home, entirely online. They are affordable, fun, and will give you an opportunity to learn new things and engage with new ideas, either on your own or with a new partner. Head to dawnserra.com/courses to see all of the courses that are available. So what's up for this episode? Mary wro

HAPPY EPISODE 200! If you want to enter to win one of 49 spots on the online live recording of Sex Gets Real, complete this little entry form. Must be 18 or over to enter and be available March 22nd at 5pm PT/8pm ET. A random selection will be made on March 10th & winners will be notified via email. And Patreon supporters - this week's bonus is all about being heartbroken and how to deal with the tears & the pain. I also want to hear about how you've navigated heartbreak. Did you eat ice cream in your PJs and cry over romcoms? Did you go out with friends and have revenge sex? If you're a Patreon supporter at $3 and above, you can tune in and weigh in. So what's up for this episode? You all have been sending me some TERRIFIC questions lately, and I was eager to dive in. Aussie Gal wrote in from

Formidable Femme, aka Sarah B Holliday, is here this week talking about sex toy companies, the ethics of selling sex toys, rejecting the perfect survivor narrative, healing from trauma, plus we field a listener question about abuse. Sarah is deeply committed to changing the way the sex toy industry operates, and she has loads of ideas about what makes for an ethical company in this field and where companies often fail. Let's stop gendered toys and the marketing we use to promote them and instead center marginalized identities and bodies to make sex and pleasure truly inclusive. We also discuss Sarah's terrific advice to sex toy companies, plus a few books for navigating trauma including "The Body Keeps the Score" and <a href= "http://amzn.to/2FK4GDB" target="_bla

Welcome to this week's episode of listener questions! And Patreon supporters - this week's bonus is me reading you a little queer erotica. Go listen now! First up, Love All of Him sent an update. Find out what happened after they followed my advice and what lead to them having PIV sex for the first time. Leo from Scotland wrote in. He's had digestive issues for a few years and now his butthole is kind of saggy. He feels ashamed and doesn't know what to say to potential partners. Internalized ableism sucks. The good news is most people have no idea what buttholes look like, so let's about genital diversity and sharing vulnerable stuff about our bodies. Soldier0510 is a service member stationed in South Korea with a wife back home in the US. She asks about keeping the heat burning while long distance, especially since they are both new and curious and BDSM dynamics. In addition to lo

Talking to other sex educators, researchers, and experts is one of my favorite things in life, especially when the conversations are rich, personal, nuanced, and challenging. I met Cavanaugh Quick through O.School (where we both live stream sex ed for free), and the first time I saw Cavanaugh talk about feminist porn, I knew I wanted to have them on the show. This episode is incredibly beautiful and real. From the reality of being awkward to practicing being aroused in public, from consent and non-verbal body cues to kink and getting your first vibrator, Cavanaugh offers a warm, kind, thoughtful perspective that feeds my soul. You'll also want to check out our bonus chat on Patreon all about using techniques Cav learned for managing chronic pain to induce pain during sadistic kink play. SO FUN. Patreon supporters at the $3 level and above get access, so head over and listen. <a href="

What do butt play, pegging the patriarchy, non-sexual Dominance & submission, strap-ons, and sex clubs have in common? Why, Luna Matatas, of course. She is joining me this week to talk about all the delicious, yumminess that is kink and pleasure. As a fellow O.School Pleasure Professional (check out her Fuck Like a Goddess weekly live stream), she loves talking about sex club etiquette, anal and how to seduce the anus, pee play, and strap-ons. We go all the places, plus we field a few listeners questions while we're at it. Plus, we have a yummy bonus chat all about piss play exclusively for Patreon supporters. Not yet a supporter of the show? Head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to join the fun. If you want to grab my latest workshop on ethical porn and how to use porn in your relationship or any of my other online courses and workshops, you can check that out at <a hre

Mona Darling is here to talk all things kinky. As a former pro Dominatrix with over 20 years of experience dominating folks in the kinkiest of ways, she has some fantastic advice on how to get started in kink, the skills most people overlook that actually make kink juicy and meaningful, and how to find your inner Domme if you're just getting started. She has a new kinky activity book that's soon to be published and helps me field listener questions on how to do punishments and rewards in a 24/7 dynamic and also for newbie Daddy/Little Girl dynamics. It's a fun, kink-tastic chat. Plus, we have a yummy bonus chat exclusively for Patreon supporters. Not yet a supporter of the show? Head to patreon.com/sgrpodcast to join the fun. Psst - looking for more details on working with me? Check out my coaching detai

If you're looking for a unique way to kick of 2018, check out all of my online workshops and DIY goodies. They can make amazing gifts and they're all around $5-30 each. Pop over and see what's available now. Happy New Year! This is dropping on New Year's Eve 2017, so let's shuffle 2018 in in style. I got myself a gift of a new vibrator. I'll be reporting back with my thoughts over on Patreon for supporters there. You can support the show, too! On to listener questions! A listener wrote in saying her hottest fantasy is having her boyfriend fuck another woman. But, there's a catch. She is super jealous and doesn't think she can handle it in real life. What can she do? Patreon supporters Cadessa and Seductive Verse have lovely advice about taking it in stages, and then I add on my thoughts. Sometimes fantasie

If you're looking for a last minute holiday gift or you want to start your 2018 with a bang, don't forget you can grab my online on-demand workshops now! From porn to anal, from games to relationship charters, you'll find all sorts of fun, inviting goodies to help you level up. Want to hear my mini round-up of things I loved in 2017? Head to Patreon and support the show. You can hear exclusive content, including my own recap of the year when you support at any level. On to this week's show! JoEllen Notte is here to talk about her favorite things of 2017, as well as some of the tips and ideas she explored around sex, depression, and resentment. We talk about her love affair with the Doxy wand vibrator, how she decides what makes her Favorite Things list, why we both hate the phrase "porn for women", and why

Don't forget to grab 25% off your RXBAR order at RXBar.com/sgr using promo code SGR at checkout. They've generously sponsored this week's episode. Perfect little delicious snacks for your post-sex nibbles. Also, if you're looking for a unique holiday gift, check out all of my online workshops and DIY goodies. They can make amazing gifts and they're all around $5-30 each. Pop over and see what's available now. And away we go... Brandon wrote in because he used to find it super hot to spy on girls, like the scene in the movies Porky's. But now, as a father and adult, he finds it creepy and repulsive. What gives? Kev is lost and needs guidance and acceptance. He thought he was straight, but just started having sex with men and now he can't get enough. He wants to end up with a wife and kids, but

My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now streaming. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Here's that funny article I was giggling over called, "20 Things Guys Have Actually Said to Me In Bed." Now, on to your questions. Brittany wrote in seeking sexy kink events near her. The best place to go for kink events is Fetlife.com. You'll want to keep an eye out for munches and conferences. Because Brittany is in Massachusetts, she might also want to check out The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health in Rhode Island for workshops. Plus, Joellen Notte lists Oh My! Sensuality Shop and Good Vibrations in Massachusetts on her <a href= "http://www.redheadbedhead.com/s

Did you hear last week? CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It's free and online, so sign-up today. We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up for the summit and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. And if you want to see a VERY HOT scene with April and Milcah, head to CrashPadSeries.com and join today. This week, Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg are here! Which means it's basically an hour of me laughing hysterically. We talk about their new sex podcast, American Sex, and some of the guests they've had - like the grapefruit lady and a guy whose fetish is death and sex. Ken talks about how his relationship to kink has c

I am so excited. CrashPad Series is sponsoring the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition AND they sent me an exclusive audio clip of April Flores and Milcah filming a recent scene. You can hear the juicy details in the show this week. HEAR THE PORN!  If you want to hear more from April about porn and fat sex, she's speaking at the summit which starts December 4th. It's free and online, so sign-up today! We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up for the summit and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. And if you want to see the VERY HOT scene with April and Milcah, head to CrashPadSeries.com and join today. This week, Barbara Carrellas joins me to talk all about tant

Two things! Sign-up for the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition at exploremoresummit.com. It's free and kicks off December 4th. Prepare to be challenged and cracked open. My porn workshop, Hands Down: A Workshop on How Porn Can Heal, Connect, and Be Ethical, is now enrolling. Check out the details at dawnserra.com/porn. Let's talk about the porn! Now, on to your questions. GR wrote in asking how porn stars and people in non-monogamous relationships protect themselves. How does safe sex work with multiple partners? It's such an important question. Ultimately, it depends on each of us. We all have different needs, different requirements around risk and prevention, so the answer is really all in how you negotiate it with a partner. The most important this is to remember we always default to the person who

Don't forget, the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition kicks off December 4th and it's totally free. We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. This week, Jaclyn Friedman is here to talk all about her new book, "Unscrewed: Women, Sex, Power, and How to Stop Letting the System Screw Us All." It is a powerful, comprehensive examination of all the ways our ideas about sex intersect with things like media, racism, justice, toxic masculinity, patriarchy. Basically, all my favorite topics wrapped up into one. We geek out about why sexual olympics and hedonism will NOT set everyone free. What it means to have "fauxpowerment" aro

First up, I am so excited to announce the Explore More Summit: Bodies Edition. It kicks off December 4th and it's totally free. We'll spend 5 days going super deep into body politics, self acceptance, fat activism, diet culture, weight stigma, and shedding body shame so we can center our pleasure. To see the line-up and to enroll, pop over to exploremoresummit.com. Also, I am taking new coaching clients, so if you're at a point where you want to unpack some shame, get unstuck, or ask for some personalized advice, head to dawnserra.com. This week we are talking about technology, innovation, and sex education. Andrea Barrica is here, the founder of O.School. She has long been in the tech industry, working with the titans in Silicone Valley, and it's clear that the internet is not designed for sex education or for safety. Andrea is on a mission to change that. She wants people to hav

Your questions have been pouring in. And of course, if you want to practice being the sexpert, folks who support the show on Patreon at $10 get to offer their advice for the show, too. So, where are we going this week? Emma has been seeing someone for a few years who keeps disappearing and ignoring her. They have amazing chemistry and great sex, so what can she do about the way he behaves?  The truth is the way he's behaving is abusive and all about control and manipulation, and not at all about honoring this relationship. I dive into the why and how of what I think Emma should do next. Maddy and another listener both wrote in recently asking for help about how to raise sex positive kids. I have a bunch of resources to share from books to websites and big concepts that I think set us up for more success as teens and adults. Also, Nadine Thornhill talked about this on episode 109 of t

This week's show is sponsored by RXBar. You can grab 25% off your first order at rxbar.com/sgr with promo code SGR at checkout. You want to know what's in your lube, and now you can see what's in your snacks! I am absolutely in love with this week's chat with Dalychia and Rafaella from Afrosexology. We talk about their mission to bring sexual liberation and agency to the Black community. We explore pleasure and how to center it in our lives, why masturbation is a powerful tool to finding our power, and why it's so important to focus on pleasure in sex education, especially for the Black community and POC. We also geek out about their spectacular Instagram account filled with beautiful bodies, genders, and erotic acts, all by Black artists. It's rich, deep, and powerful. Ready to hear it? Let's go... Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRPodc

Welcome to this week's show! We're talking books, housework & resentment, and cheating. Oh, and I just started watching Big Mouth on Netflix which is an absurd, bizarre cartoon all about going through puberty. You might want to check it out. Cadessa wrote in about her non-existent sex life and how listening to the show changed everything. Sarah has a girlfriend who refuses to help with housework and now she has deep resentment about always being the one to do it or to have to remind her. Is this a silly thing to be angry about? Or is this a big deal? Steph, a Patreon supporter, weighed in with her thoughts, and then I weigh in with mine. We have to remember that emotional labor is so real. When we are treating a partner like a child (either because they refuse to step up and help or because we have control issues), of course our libido is going to take a nose dive. You deserve support, it just depends on what that sup

Hello, from New Orleans! Hurricane Nate meant I was stuck in Louisiana for an extra day, but it also meant more time at SisterSong's "Let's Talk About Sex" conference. I share a little about what that conference brought up for me and then...it's your questions and my answers. You can see some of the videos from the conference at the show's Patreon page: patreon.com/sgrpodcast You can also see all of the permissions slips folks wrote in my workshop on Twitter if you look at my feed under #LTAS17. Horny Virgin needs help with navigating safer sex conversations when you're engaging in casual sex. How can HV have sex and feel safe? How do you talk about testing and barriers? And, how do you even have sex?  Ali wants to know if she kink-shamed a woman she hooked up with after this woman asked to be seriously injured during their sex without any kind of warning or conversation ah

An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards. For the past few months, one of my favorite things on Instagram has been Maggie West's gorgeous nude photo series for Amber Rose's Slut Walk. The colors, the confidence, the variety of bodies. So, of course, I had to invite her on because her massive stained glass installation is available today in Los Angeles for Slut Walk. We talk about art, nudity, her body fluids series which jump started her relationship with Christophe Zeischegg (who was on a few weeks ago).  Plus, I field a listener question all about being in love with your current girlfriend, but still being a little obsessed with an ex. Is it OK to check up on exes on Facebook, even if you've moved on? Here we go! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a hre

An updated Patreon you say? Why yes. Yes it is. Check out the sweet new rewards (that I can actually deliver). What happens when two sex educators get together and geek out? You get this spanking new episode featuring Bex Caputo from the Dildorks podcast. If ever there was an episode that covered all the things, it's this one. We talk about piss play and watersports. We giggle over fisting. We talk about kitten play and puppy play which leads us into talking power exchange and being a good submissive. But it doesn't stop there. We also talk about the incredible awesomeness that is platonic kink - a thing that way too many people don't know is a thing. Then there's sex labs and practicing sexy stuff before you want it to BE sexy and the stunning advice Bex received when considering going on testosterone. What if you don't have to wait to be miserable to want to change your body or

Guess what? LOLA is sponsoring this week's episode. You can get pads, tampons, and liners delivered to you, via their rad subscription service, at 60% off your first order when you subscribe. Just use promo code SGR when you visit mylola.com and get started. This week it's you and me and all your emails. But before I answer your questions, let's talk about the Seattle Erotic Film Festival and Dan Savage's HUMP! Festival, both of which I attended this week. The Seattle Erotic Film Festival had a lot of films that really weren't my cup of tea. Which is OK, but it did tell me a lot about what I enjoy watching and what I don't. I mentioned "Cake" by Anne Hu, and you can see the trailer here. It was truly delightful. Boner Loaner and How to Date a Couple were also favorites. Oh, and two films with s

What happens when you get a herpes diagnosis? And more importantly, what happens if you begin hiding that you have herpes? Dr. Sheila Loanzon, an OBGYN who gives amazing PAP smears, is here to talk about her very personal story and new book, "Yes, I Have Herpes." From advice on how to deal to details about what herpes really is, Dr. Sheila has practical advice as well as powerful personal stories about why she didn't tell her partners about her herpes for many years and what it was like to go back and tell them the truth. We also talk about why it's so important to work on ourselves if we want healthy relationships, how to set yourself up for a successful PAP smear, tips for trauma survivors and trans folks to find a good doctor, why ALL vulvas are beautiful, and the strangest question Dr. Sheila has ever had from a patient. You don't want to miss this. Oh! Don't forget: Patreons

How can you thrive as a sex worker, navigating the fact that you have no real safety while also performing erotic fantasies and sex at the same time? How can you care for yourself as clients bring in their pain, shame, and fear and expect you to heal them? Lola Davina is here to help us answer those questions and more. Her new book, "Thriving in Sex Work," is like a big sister's guide to caring for yourself as a sex worker. We talk about the unrealistic expectations clients often come in with, being financially responsible, setting boundaries and trusting your gut, creating rituals to celebrate small and big wins, and a whole lot more. It's fascinating and practical. It's one of my favorite chats, and I think you'll hear why. Oh! Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squ

Guess what? Christopher Zeischegg is here this week. You may know him as porn performer Danny Wylde. I had a chance to read his book, "The Wolves that Live in Skin and Space," and we talk all about his writing, the horror genre, leaving porn, bi-phobia within the porn world, why he's grateful to be in a monogamous relationship, how he got involved in creating a hot sauce called Wyldefire and a whole lot more. Oh! Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on <a href="http://instagr

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week it's you and me and all your emails. Let's dive in. Ariyanna wrote in about how the show changed her life. Coleman, too! Yay for learning from this show. Jess needs help finding BDSM porn that isn't extreme or just about the fucking. She wants sensual, intimate, connected porn that is also kinky. Where can she turn? I have a few suggestions, including EroticFilms.com. That's my affiliate link, and all the films on the website are curated by Erika Lust, so most of them are super sensual. Also, check out Jackie St. James, Crashpad, and Madison Young. Johnny wrote in wanti

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast I wanted to open this week's episode with a note about racism and white supremacy in light of the Charlottesville crap that's recently unfolded. I mentioned a bunch of places where you can donate money to help fight racism and support the folks on the ground doing the work. Find them here and here. On to this week's episode... This week I'm joined by author Rachel Hills and model Jennie Runk to talk about Rachel's book "The Sex Myth" and the new play by the same nam

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Riley J Dennis is someone I've been watching on YouTube for a little while and completely admiring. I adore her passion for anti-oppressive work, talking about feminism, politics, sex, trans issues, and a bunch more. So, I decided to reach out and invite her on the show. When she said yes, I immediately went to work watching as many of her YouTube videos as I could find. Some of the most fun homework because I spent hours geeking out over the topics and rolling around in her facts and super logical approach to things that a lot of people really hate. We not only talk about trans identity policing, trans porn, and being visible online, but we also explore what it's like to be so hated in the

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Guess who's here this week? Cooper S. Beckett from Life on the Swingset. It's been 2 years since he was on the show, way back when Dylan was still here, so it's wonderful to catch up and hear about his latest adventures. We geek out about live sex demos and the Swingset takeover at Desire resort, which is coming up in a few months. Plus, things get existential and deep as Cooper contemplates all of the ways his life has changed since he first started on his swinging adventures. We talk about the fragility of love, the lies we tell ourselves in relationship, his views on polyamory and labeling himself, and a lot more. Then we dive into a listener email from David all about his

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Zena Sharman, editor of "The Remedy: Queer and Trans Voices on Health and Health Care," is here talking about queer and trans health issues, community-based care, and oppression within the medical community. We geek out about trauma-informed care and talk about why cis straight men are really suffering inside these systems, too, based on the statistics. What does it look like to have healthcare informed by community, disability justice, racial justice, fat justice, and trauma? Zena has some stories and amazing ideas to get the activist in all of us going. How do we start asking, "Who are you and what's impor

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast I know tons of you are either kink lovers or kink curious, so I have a feeling you're going to enjoy this chat with rope expert and rope love Emily Bingham. She recently published an erotic memoir all about her kinky, erotic bondage adventures. It is SUPER hot. So in this episode we talk about how she got into rope, some of the wild things she's done as a rope model and rope lover, and why she decided to write the book. We also geek out about teledildonics and a new strap-on that lets the person wearing the strap-on experience sensation. YES. There are some amazing episodes coming up, too, so stay tuned and enjoy. Follow Sex Gets Real on <a href="h

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week it's just you and me, working our way through some rad listener questions. It starts with some listener love from an episode I did around the election last year. Sometimes I feel a little nervous to share political stuff - like the oppression episode and the abortion episode, but I trust you to hold space even if we disagree. I will be having a vendor booth at the Vancouver Dyke March. YAY! Of course, I got love for Amarna Miller's interview in Episode 168 and Ruby Bouie Johnson's polyamory chat on Episode 166. Gavin appreciated Amarna's views on ethical porn and her deliberate choice to share herself on film. Me, too! It's so frustrating to me that we still need to

Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast As for this week's episode? Amarna Miller is here and we talk all about ethical porn and why it's different from feminist porn, why she feels so committed to doing mainstream pornography, polyamory, and Iceland. Amarna also shares why she'd rather talk to a group of sexist men than to a group of like-minded feminists and what it's like to travel to places like Columbia and her home of Spain to talk about feminism and porn. It's a fun, charming episode and I can't wait for you to hear it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRpodcast" target="_blank"

Guess what? If you love the show, folks who support on Patreon with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Whew! Let's dive into this week's episode because Wendy Strgar is here from Good Clean Love. We're chatting all about her new book, "Sex That Works," and we also dive into keeping sexual passion alive in monogamy, cultivating sexual freedom and sexual responsibility, what love and healthy relationships look like, the importance of choosing a body-safe lube, and much much more. Ready to go? Let's do it! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on

Guess what? Supporting the show on Patreon is easy AND if you support with just $3 per month, you'll get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast On to this week's show with Ruby Bouie Johnson, the Black Sex Geek herself.  This is an episode entirely about polyamory. It's raw and funny, and so so real. This is a no-holds-barred chat about the good, the super bad, and the beautiful parts of poly communities. Ruby talks about how polyamory healed her in deeply personal and liberating ways, but only after expressing some mindblowing thoughts about the sexism, ageism, racism, and oppressive BS that's so common in poly communities around the country. Plus, she shares her thoughts on the folks who are constantly on the hunt for that perfect unicorn and why it's so exhausting as a poly educator

This week it's just you and me, working our way through some rad listener questions. Dave wrote in with one of the best complimentary emails I've ever received AND threw a few bucks my way on Patreon. Lala just found out she has HPV. She's brand new to dating after divorce and spending many years focusing on her kids, and she wants to know - is her sex life over? Can she find romance and love and great sex if she has HPV? I have so many thoughts, including checking out Ella Dawson and Ashley Manta as rockin' folks to follow who have amazing sex lives while navigating the world with an STI. Lovely J listens to the show with her honey. They can't remember the name of an author I recommended a while back (it was most likely Barbara Carrellas). Also, Lovely J is an inexperienced Dominant and her partner really wants her to dominate them. She's read some books, but how can she get some hands-on prac

This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Bridget Phetasy, Playboy's advice columnist on sex and relationships, is here to talk about her controversial arti

This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Curious about what has Dylan been up to? What's changed in her life? BIG THINGS, but only Patreon supporters will

This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace. Listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. This week's episode is very special to me. I want to thank all of the brave souls who responded to my call for abortion stories. To read their powerful words, visit sexgetsreal.com/ep162. In fact, start there before you dive into this chat with Carol Sanger about her new book, "About Abortion: Terminating Pregnancy in 21st Century America". Abortion can be a ridiculously charged topic in the United States, which is unique among countries with legal abortion. Carol's book is a fasci

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast I am constantly on the lookout for people who are doing amazing, inspiring, fun things in the world of sex and relationships. So, you just know I had to reach out to Feminist Press when I saw they were publishing a children's book with the title, "Tell Me About Sex, Grandma." And what better time to celebrate kids and parenting and sex and div

This week's episode is brought to you by Talkspace. And listeners get $30 off their first month of therapy with coupon code SGR, so check it out and spread the word to support the show. Don't forget: Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Andre Shakti is BACK! She has a new project called I Am Poly and So Can You, and we go deep into non-monogamy and polyamory this week after geeking out over Erotic Film School. When did Andre figure out she was non-monogamous, what advice does she wishes existed when she was a teenager, a

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week Jaclyn Friedman is here. Known for her incredible work around sexual assault, sexual violence, consent, and sex education, it is a really intense discussion that I can't wait for you to hear. We talk about sexual liberation and why sex positivity must include conversations around sexual violence if it hopes to achieve it's aim. We dive

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast NW Mom wrote in with her confession about the mess she's in with a married man. Can she find her way out? She's lonely, she just discovered her sexual pleasure after a 20-year marriage, and yet, this amazing man can't be there for her. He knows it's not easy on her, so ending things shouldn't be a shock for him. Jess wrote in about her improved sex life

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast I am reading a devastating, lyrical book called "Abandon Me" by Melissa Febos. I'm desperately working to get her on the show soon to talk about her memoir (and her former work as a dominatrix). In the meantime, this week's show is a fun, informative interview with Siouxsie Q. We dive into her work with the Free Speech Coalition combatting harmfu

Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Plus, some news about my personal life. I'm moving to Canada, FINALLY. Also, my Bartholin gland flared up - and I had to take my own advice around new ways to experience sex and touch when intercourse and masturbation were off the table for several weeks. Ugh. Bodies. This week's show features a listener confession from S about a mess she had in her lif

  Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Andrew Gurza is here this week talking all about sex and disability. We geek out over Orphan Black, talk about his hashtag #diSAYbled, dive into body politics and ableism, and explore his experiences with sex and masturbation. It's such a delightful conversation full of giggles and the kind of awkwardness and realness that I adore.  We also talk

If you missed the Explore More Summit, you can still grab all of the talks for as little as $1.20 each plus loads of bonus materials. This weekend I am in San Francisco attending Madison Young's Erotic Film School. I'm learning how to make porn. YAY! If you want to see some of the behind the scenes pictures and videos of Andre Shakti and James Darling, all Patreon supporters at $1 or more will have access. It was fun to be the director and to a

Reid Mihalko is here this week and our conversation goes deep. We start by geeking out over Reid's latest adventures into anti-oppression work, learning about emotional labor as a cis white guy, and he even tears up over just how important it is for dudes to level up in these spaces, even if it's just 10 or 20%. Then, we dive into listener emails. First, Lauren writes in wanting to know if her recent interest in lesbian porn means her sexual orientation is changing. Is she no longer straight? Jenny needs some advice around polyamory. Her and her partner have discussed it, but Jenny isn't feeling like her

I am eyeball deep in the Explore More Summit. Day 5 is unfolding today (March 12th) and you can sign-up for the Explore More Summit here. It's free and goes until March 17th. Anyway, because I'm so busy summitting, today is a hit it and quit it. First, I rant about a new piece of wearable technology that tracks penis thrusts and calories for condom wearers. Or, in other words, it is all about measuring all the wrong things and promotes bad sex - NOT sex that is about pleasure and communication. So terrible and frustrating. Then, I share

It's a very special episode this week because you are getting to hear exclusive, never before heard clips from nine of the Explore More Summit talks. You'll hear from Tristan Taormino, Allison Moon, Virgie Tovar, Melissa Toler, Dirty Lola of Sex Ed a Go Go, Cyndi Darnell, Betty Martin, Aida Manduley, and Orpheus Black. I also field listener questions on pussy slapping, pegging problems when your guy is 14 inches taller than you, foursomes where erections never happened, and ethical porn. It's a packed week of goodies and advice. Be sure to

Enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with 30 incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It all starts March 8th, 2017. This week, Madison Young is here to talk all about porn, submission, motherhood and sex, and her Erotic Film School, which I'm attending in a few weeks.

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It's been incredible creating these talks, so I hope you'll check it out. It all starts March 8th, 2017. This week, I'm so excited that Matie Fricker and Hunter Riley from Self Serve Sexuality Resource Center are here. We talk about community sex education, sex toy testing fatigue, and how they make their sex store welcoming

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. You are the first in the world to know that enrollment for the 2017 Explore More Summit is OFFICIALLY open. The summit is free, runs for ten days, and features interviews with SOO many incredible thought-leaders. You can sign-up at exploremoresummit.com. It's been incredible creating these talks, so I hope you'll check it out. It all starts March 8th, 2017. And... Because I've been conducting so so so many intense, deep interviews, I wanted to take a break and make this week nice and easy - you and me, powering through a ton of listener emails and keeping it casual and intimate. So, what are we talking about this w

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Elle Chase is back, which delights me to no end (though, I'm wrong in the episode - Kate McCombs was the first repeat guest!). I adore this chat despite some audio issues, because we get so personal - sharing sex stories and awkward moments and keeping sex so very real, especially for folks who are fat and curvy. Her brand new book, Curvy Girl Sex, just hit stores, and of course, I use her beautifully curated LadyCheeky.com anytime I want to turn myself or my sweetie on. Rawr. So, here we are talking fat tummies and fat butts and bad backs and awkward sex noises and all the glory of anything-but-elegant sex. <a hr

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast Sometimes, you luck into an incredible opportunity. That happened to me when I heard Mariya Karimjee's story on The Heart or This American Life. It's about her experience with female genital mutilation and having part of her clitoris removed when she was a young girl. I reached out to Mariya and invited her on the show to talk about being an FGM survivor, what it's been like in her life since her story went global, and she also brings some voices of other survivo

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Patreons who support with just $3 per month and above get exclusive weekly bonus content, too. Literally, every pledge sends me into an excited squeal of delight. patreon.com/sgrpodcast This week there are two listener confessions - one at the beginning of the episode and another at the end after the interview. And who am I chatting with this week? The incredible Erika Lust about being an erotic filmmaker, the porn industry, evoking powerful performances from her actors, and her new non-profit helping parents to talk about porn with their kids. Of all the erotic filmmakers doing ethical porn in the world, Erika's

As you know, January's theme this year for confessions is FIRSTS. It felt wonderful to be able to have Amber Keyser, author of The V-Word, join in the fun this week as her book is an anthology of 17 stories all about first time sexual experiences. But what does first time sex mean? The V-Word explores that with beautiful depth and diversity, including trans voices and queer voices among the many stories. We dive into virginity and what a dated, patriarchal concept it is. Amber even has a phrase I've become obsessed with: the cult of virginity. We talk about teenagers and sex, resources for young people that offer possibilities rather than prescriptions about what sex should be, and dive into her new novel. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://faceb

This week, we have our first listener confession from CK all about the first time she ended a relationship. Heads' up that it contains themes of abuse within BDSM. Then, Sarah Pappalardo from Reductress is here! If you haven't seen Reductress yet, get thee over to their satirical site immediately and be wowed. We talk about media literacy, mainstream feminism, white feminism, and all the ways feminism has been co-opted by commercialize and media. Sarah talks about using satire and comedy to confront a Trump presidency, companies like Dove with their empowerment branding, and when satire goes too far. There is a ton of laughter and misandry mixed in with the very heartfelt and serious topics we dive into. Plus, what are Sarah's thoughts on Amy Schumer as a feminist? Sarah's response is incredible, and something all of us should be more aware of in our "feminist

It's New Year's Day, 2017. It seems appropriate to start the year off with an intimate show between you and me, including a diary entry of my very first kiss. If you'd like to share your own confession on January's theme of FIRSTS, then scroll to the bottom of this week's episode page for details. So many of you have written in with heartfelt thanks, and I share a few of them this week. Then, in response to Embarrassed's email from a few weeks ago, listener Hannah writes in about the trauma of her labiaplasty and Sarah from yaysex.ca shares her struggle with accepting her vulva appearance. I also field listener questions about consent and what consent looks like if you need a partner to talk you into sex, whether to stay in a relationship if your partner never wants sex, and what kind of

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. It's Christmas Day! What better way to celebrate a holiday than with a sexy, fun chat with not one but TWO fellow sex educators? And from New Zealand, no less. Kate McCombs and Louise Bourchier are here to help me answer questions from you about getting started with anal sex after a bad first experience, dealing with big emotions after losing your virginity, feeling sexually frustrated in a relationship after moving in with your boyfriend, the importance of empathy, and a whole lot more. These two women are smart, kind, and endlessly fascinated in sexuality and communication. I adore them both. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRPodcast" target="_blank"

Rain DeGrey and I have been trying to make this interview happen for over 2 years, and it's FINALLY here. I thought it would be a perfect pre-holiday episode so everyone who is traveling for the holidays could have a fun little distraction. As you'll hear, Rain does not hold back on all of the things she loves doing with her body when it comes to BDSM and exploring her edges. She loves intensity and pushing herself to the limit. There may be some things discussed in this episode that are a bit intense, so settle in and prepare yourself for talk of being buried alive, black eyes, injuries, wrestling, needing CPR, breath play, and much much more. Plus, what it's like to have zero fucks to give and why more of us should stop worrying and start living. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Fa

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. I have a ton of listener emails in the queue, so I was happy to get to a few this week on munches and online handles, pubic hair trends, and finding a sex position therapist. Plus, if your wife says she can get a bunch of sex toys for super cheap, does that mean they're bad? I weigh in on how to find affordable sex toys that are body safe. Then, I chat with Lora Ivanova from myLAB Box, an at-home STI testing service for folks in the United States. She has soooooo much information on STIs, tests that doctors often miss, and ways to reduce stigma around something over 30% of us experience in our lives. You can get 20% off STD and HIV test through myLAB Box until December 31, 2016 using code GIVETHANKS16. <h5 style="te

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Save 5% with code SGR5off. Content note: talk of suicide. I always love when I get to have nuanced conversations about topics like sex work, porn, consent, and polyamory. So, when Kitty Stryker said she'd come on the show, I knew the discussion would be a gritty one. Kitty is currently working on an anthology book all about creating consent culture that comes out in 2017. We dig into what that looks like and how she's centering marginalized voices. Then we talk about what consent means within the context of capitalism and work. If you can't leave sex work because traditional employers won't hire former porn performers and you have to remain in sex work even if you're ready to leave, can you truly be consenting to the work? If we started focusing more on labor issues and capitalism, could we bridge the gap between ant

This episode is sponsored by HotelsByDay. Use promo code SGR5off to save 5%! Alex was the first person to ever share an Oh Joy Sex Toy comic with me. I was immediately enamored. Erika Moen's weekly sex education comic is full of so many wonderful topics, reviews, and done with such an approachable spirit. I've shared TONS of her stuff on social media because who doesn't love a comic about watersports featuring cute wolves or a fat-bodied review of the latest vibrator? In this episode, Erika and I talk about how she got started as an artistic sex educator, and roll around in some of her favorite issues and guest artists. We talk about visiting a porn set, why reviewing sex toys is so damn difficult, how sometimes you have to sacrifice nuance to get a conversation started, and pole dancing. Sit back, relax, and enjoy the show. <h5 style="text-ali

Hello, from Salt Lake City! Thanks for all of the feedback on last week's episode, post-election. So many of you had so many thoughtful and kind things to say. I appreciate it more than you know. This week, I field questions about sissification and being a masculine dude who loves feminine things, a gay guy who is having his first vulva sex in a few days, and a listener who is deeply ashamed of her vulva appearance. What makes a super skilled sexual partner so good at sex? Why are gender norms so deeply ingrained in our experiences? It's a fun week and I'm so glad to be rolling around in all of your questions and comments after a few weeks of chaos and moving. Also, YOUR GENITALS ARE NORMAL AND AMAZING. I had to get that off my chest. Make sure you're on the newsletter list, too, because I have some free online talks and a few workshops coming up. Follow Sex Gets Real on <a href= "http://twitter.com/

What a week. Between moving from DC to Salt Lake City and the U.S. election, I've had so many big emotions and huge feels. This week's episode is a little different. It's not everyday we have an election and a public response like the one that happened a few days ago. So, instead of a big interview or an hour of answer questions, this week is a short, vulnerable little note from me to you about the world we live in. Specifically, how our sexual freedom and the way we love and do relationship is so deeply tied to racism, sexism, transphobia, ableism, and all systems of oppression. (Shout out to Conner Habib!) It's short. It's political. It's me laying in bed, feeling exhausted, and sharing some thoughts about the world and the work we need to do. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRPodcast" target="_blank" rel="noopener

One of the perks of my job is getting a chance to read a lot of books about sex, sexuality, kink, and relationships. Some are terrific, some are OK, but it's always fun to learn new things and take on new perspectives. I recently had a chance to read Mike Domitrz's new book, "Can I Kiss You?" and one of the things that most delighted me was the fact that the book is simple enough for teens to understand it but deep enough to be relevant for folks who have been married for 3 decades - all while being entirely gender neutral. So, this week, Mike and I had a lovely talk about consent, respect, rape, sexual assault, dating, hook-ups, why married folks in 40 year marriages need consent as much as teens dating for the first time, and we even roll around in Donald Trump and Rush Limbaugh. Mike's examples are approachable and realistic - it's clear he has dedicated his life to rewriting the rules we hav

Grab a cup of tea, settle in, and prepare to be amazed. When Kate Lister, creator of Whores of Yore, agreed to come on the show, I did cartwheels. And it's pretty evident why as you listen to this fascinating and hysterical episode all about the history of sex, porn, and sex work. Kinky Victorians who loved spankings and piss play? Check. Medieval monks drawing trees full of dicks and women making strap-ons out of bread to fuck each other? Yep. From the oldest recorded dildo in history to Kate's research on sexual violence in contemporary media, you will learn more about the history of sex than you ever knew possible, and you'll giggle all the way. Plus, you'll gain a whole new perspective into Game of Thrones! Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's t

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It's October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. When I think about my sex educator heroes, Allison Moon is one of the folks who has had a tremendous impact on the way I approach and talk about sexuality and sex. Her own journey through lesbian identity to queer identity is very reminiscent of my own, and her approachable and matter-of-fact methods of talking about sex always inspire. So, when a pain-filled email came in from a listener who identified herself as A talking about her journey from religious conservative who married young to a sex positive, liberal, queer feminist who feels like her queer identity is suffocating inside a monogamous marriage to a cis hetero man, I knew Allison was the expert I needed to help field this rich discussion. Her perspective on wanting to dive into our ne

Sign-up for my live, online anal 101 class! It's October 26th and going to be amazing fun. Learn more and register now. This week is a fun chat with The Butters All Natural Lube creator and sex educator Jerome Stuart Nichols. We talk about lube and creating your own sex stuff, being a sex educator, STIs, and we answer two listeners questions. One of those questions absolutely broke my heart, so I was very thrilled Jerome could join me to help field it - how can a Black man with a smaller penis ever hope to find confidence and a lover who is pleased with is body? The racial stereotypes about penis size and the masculinity myths we are all drowning in can create a toxic situation for so many of us.  Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRpodcast" t

Ready for that online anal workshop? Head to sexgetsreal.com/butts to check it out and sign-up. Marcia Baczynski, creator of the Good Girl Recovery Program and co-founder of Cuddle Party, is here this week, and there were SOOO many nuggets of inspiration and amazing suggestions that I had a hard time not quoting the entire thing in my notes. We talk about asking for what we want in bed, setting boundaries, saying no gracefully so you're clear without being cruel, and how your happiness is being compromised by all of the things you're tolerating. We also field listener questions about rape fantasies and Marcia gives the most amazing advice to people who are about to try their first swinger party or sex party. Get your notebook handy and share this episode with a friend. It's full of incredible wisdom that you'll want to hear again and again. Fo

This week is a little different from the normal show.  First up, I field a few listener questions about finding out you may have herpes and hepatitis C after a partner cheated and how to become a sex educator. NRE isn't only for relationships - we can also get high on our dreams and take huge risks when we're caught up in the excitement and desire. Then, the tables are flipped and I get interviewed by Parijat Deshpande about navigating sex and connection when you have a physical situation like a high-risk pregnancy where intercourse is off the table for a period of time. It's a fun chat that has lots of great information that can apply to chronic illness or post-surgery situations, even though we're specifically talking about pregnancy. I offer lots of script examples to help having difficult conversations, so grab a notepad and jot down some notes on how to have those conversations. Follow Sex Gets Real on <a href= "ht

Erotica has played a significant role in my own sexual exploration and development - from teaching me about my own desires and fantasies to understanding the depth of other people's sexual landscapes. It's a yummy and delicious space to play in. That's why I'm so excited to be joined by Rachel Kramer Bussel this week, who has edited over 60 erotica books and who currently has 2 open calls for submissions. So listeners - if you are at all interested in getting some erotica published, take a look at the links down below. Rachel talks about what makes for good erotica, how we can use erotica to not only arouse but to heal, ways to make erotica political and transformative, and all the ways she wants to challenge the narrative around conventional beauty in the stories she writes. Where are the fat men and the bald men and the short men and the body diversity? We even talk about necrophilia, which may be a first for the show.  Plus, Rachel teases us with a few

Sinclair Sexsmith (you might know them as Sugarbutch) is here this week and we are talking ALL about kink, BDSM, and power dynamics. We take a look at Sinclair's journey from submissive to Top to Dominant to Daddy and Master. What is it like to live in a 24/7 Master slave dynamic? How can people learn more? We also discuss using BDSM to heal trauma and depression - it's a fine line, but it can be a powerful practice. Plus, what is Submissive Playground? Sinclair shares the details. I am so excited to share this chat with you, so settle in and let's do this. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook. It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode <a href="ht

In the DC area? I'm teaching kink, anal sex, thriving relationships, blowjobs, and more in October and November. Check out the details at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page.  How does traditional consent education fail us? What do you do if you're in a new open relationship and it just isn't working for you? Can someone really orgasm without having their genitals touched? This week, Yana Tallon-Hicks joins the show and we roll around in all those questions and more (don't miss Dawn's story of aiming a penis). It's a fun, laughter-filled talk and it's clear why TEDx invited Yana to do a talk on sex education recently. The listener questions this week are particularly delicious, especially the final question from Lady Lilly - both Yana and I are near tears as we listen to the pain and heartbreak of her question.</p

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October “From Curious to Kinky” isn’t up yet, so check back soon if you’ve got your eye on that. Sometimes I get intimidated or nervous about speaking with a guest. Other times I feel excited to dig in with a colleague or friend. But this week? The only word I had was delight. Karen BK Chan delights me with her words and thoughts and ideas. The way she questions our cultural stories and makes sense of them astounds me. I could listen to her talk for hours, honestly. So, when she agreed to come on the show, I didn’t know what to do with myself. How do you talk about all the things when you only have an hour? We go deep in this episode. Where we start off talking about kindness and consent, we quickly end up eyeba

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page.  What can I even say about an episode that not only has Dylan, as the celesbian guest this week, but Dylan singing Rihanna? Yep. It was amazing having Dylan back on the show, beer in hand, for a fun, frank discussion and answering listener questions. She has been working so hard that we've had virtually no time to catch up.  On this episode, we dig into strap-on sex, sex positions, cuckholding and sharing the fantasy, plus how to find your voice as a submissive and what to do if your new hook-up only likes one position. There's a lot of laughing and over sharing, but you knew that. Follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a hr

In the DC area? Sign up for my workshops at Secret Pleasures Boutique by popping over to their workshop page. The October "From Curious to Kinky" isn't up yet, so check back soon if you've got your eye on that. We all have those people that we admire to the point of fandom, and for me, one of those people is Emily Nagoski. Her work has had a deep impact on my personal life and my professional life. She single-handedly changed the way I work with clients who have low desire or libido they aren't happy with. And her blog? It's one braingasm after another. So, needless to say this week was a dream come true for me. Because I've already spent so much time gushing over her book, "Come As You Are," on previous episodes, we don't actually spend a lot of time talking about it in this hour. Instead, we talk about pleasure and joy as political rebellio

Conner Habib generously agreed to jump on the phone with me at the last minute for this week's episode, and our conversation is incredibly political and philosophical in ways you don't often hear on the show. This is my second time interviewing Conner and both times we've chatted, I've felt challenged and inspired to think bigger.  Strap on your thinking cap and get ready to feel stretched by some of Conner's ideas about feminism, sex work, consent, and oppression. I also invite you to listen to the entire conversation before forming your ideas and thoughts about some of the radical things Conner has to say. He often makes me uncomfortable with his visionary approach to sensitive subjects like consent, but as you'll hear, he is as self-aware and thoughtful as he is provoking. Sit with any discomfort that comes up and then let me know what you think. Follow Sex Gets Real on <a href= "http://twitter.com/sexgetsreal" target="_blank" rel= "noopener

There is something so delicious in talking about something that I have so little experience with. This week's chat with Princess Kali is just that - a fun, playful talk about erotic humiliation, objectification, mastering kink, and being a Dominatrix. It's rich, it's approachable, and it's terribly intriguing. Throughout the episode, Princess Kali drops truthbomb after truthbomb. I adore her story of how she got started as a stripper and Dominatrix. It's not often you find a woman who recognizes that men will be objectifying her simply because she's a woman, and so decides to make a profit off of that behavior. We dig into what humiliation is and why people crave it, how you can tap into your inner Dominant, and what happens when people stifle and ignore their deep sexual desires. Plus, tips for getting your submissive involved in scene planning! As Princess Kali says, kink is a team sport. I can't wait for you to hear this chat. Follow Sex Gets Real

It's just you and me this week. No guest. No interview. Just your questions and emails and me savoring every single one of them. We're talking transsexual fetish sex, pegging, exploring sex with a partner who is a rape survivor, what it means to be bad at sex, Hollywood myths about how sex should look, and ALL the ways to communicate with the folks we're fucking so that we can all be more successful in the sack. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook? It's true. Resources discussed in this episode "Radical Ecstasy" by Janet Hardy and Dossie Easton "Cyber Infidelity" by Dr. Eve SpareParts Joque harness - want on

This week's chat is one of my favorites. Andre Shakti is an absolute delight. The first time I saw her in person at Sex Down South last year, I was in complete awe. She is this vibrant, powerful force to be reckoned with, and when she said she'd come on the show I was completely tickled. We dive into sex work, fetish wrestling, porn, and more. One of the things she mentions during our chat is how we do not have any resources in the world on how to be a good consumer of sex work or of porn. She draws an parallel between Julia Roberts and porn performers that is fantastic. Plus, we talk about the importance of letting go of goals in sex and instead, getting to know your body and celebrating what it's capable of, instead of obsessing over what you wish it could do.  Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRPodcast" target="_blank"

Body positivity is something I constantly bring up on the show - not only because it's an important part of my own story, but because I'm constantly getting questions from listeners about their own body shame and struggles. That's why I am so excited by this unapologetic and energizing look into pole dancing and burlesque with Kaila Prins. Not only did she use both to help her work through an eating disorder, but she has also discovered what it means to be embodied and to live in a deeply consensual place, as a result. From controlling the gaze of the audience to sharing what it's like to get naked on stage for the first time, we roll around in gender, safe spaces, embracing 'ugly' as a by-product of feeling empowered and attuned to your body, and so so much more. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href="http://facebook.com/SGRPodcast" target="_blank

A listener question sent me on a quest to find some folks who could share their coming out stories, specifically cis men, and that quest led me to TT Baum. Several colleagues had the most amazing things to say about him, and when we finally connected, I adored his calm energy and beautiful openness. This episode has so many tender moments - from his coming out story to his thoughts on sex education for youth to his journey to becoming a sacred intimate. I wanted to listen to him talk for hours. So, settle in and get ready for a great chat with TT Baum. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook? It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on Instagram. Resources discussed in this episode <a href="

Trigger warning: talk of suicide From the early days of queer porn to managing sex positive feminist shops to getting internet famous for her epic orgasm quest, Crista Anne - the rainbowiest of rainbow people - joins the show this week. One of the things I've admired about Crista Anne for so long is her fierce, unapologetic approach to sharing her own struggles. She doesn't hide behind the internet and try to craft a perfect image. Her vulnerability and courage when it comes to her struggles with orgasm and depression caught my attention a while back, and I'm excited she's bringing that spirit to the show this week. Plus, some of THE funniest quotes we've had on the show in a while. Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and Facebook? It's true. Oh! And Dawn is on <a hre

Are you ready for a mastery level version of Sex Gets Real? Good. Because this week, Sarah Mueller from Smitten Kitten joins the show to share her research on lube, as well as her findings around herpes and STIs. Did you know some lubes (like KY) actually INCREASE the likelihood of STI transmission because the lube damages your genital tissue? And why does silicone lube damage silicone toys but condoms filled with silicone lube don't? We also field a question from a listener about bacterial vaginosis, which takes us down the rabbit hole of just how little the medical community knows about this condition as well as STI diagnoses. This is an episode you'll want to listen to more than once because the information is so damn important. Settle in and prepare yourself! Psst...did you know you can follow Sex Gets Real on Twitter and <a href= "http://facebook.com/SGRPodcast" target=

JoEllen Notte is a sex educator powerhouse - she is revolutionizing the discussion about sex and depression, and also has a beautiful blog all about sex positivity, sex toys, and introversion. She recently reached out to me and asked if she could come on the show to talk about sex positivity versus sex performativity. Or, as we discuss in this episode, the way sex positive folks often exclude people by their actions and behaviors in a way that makes spaces feel unsafe. Sex positivity has been an incredible response to our sex negative culture, but it's also just that - a response to the existing paradigm. Not everyone wants to have all the orgies or flirt all of the time, and that gets overlooked a lot. So in this episode, JoEllen and I have a really frank discussion about some of the ways sex positive communities are failing us, and then we field two listener questions about using inclusive language and not being a creep at sex toy stores when you have question

Elle Chase joins the show this week, and it is such an incredible discussion. LadyCheeky, Elle's very famous Tumblr, is a resource that I mention regularly on this show. Lady Cheeky is not about getting off, but rather about getting aroused and sitting in those erotic experiences a little longer, savoring the sensual. We dive into the back story that brought her to this point with a world-renowned porn site. This episode is all about fat sex, fat bodies, and finding your own way to pleasure. Elle's approach to embodied consent is glorious, and her advice to a listener who can't orgasm without a vibrator is definitely worth a listen. Don't forget: Dawn just revamped her one-on-one coaching packages and spots are filling up. If you need some help around sex, your relationship, and connecting with a loved one, you can check

Because it was such a huge week, I wanted to spend a little quality time with you. Despite having so many incredible interviews lined up and ready to go, I really wanted to field a few terrific emails and get cozy with you. Oh, and be sure to pop over to Kickstarter to check out the new sex game Weapons of Mass Seduction. It looks awesome and inclusive. In this episode, Dawn: Answers a question from Britt about wanting to toss her husband's salad (aka analingus) but being afraid of poop in her mouth. What can she do? Shares a little confession after audiophile wrote in commenting on some sound issues. Helps a vegan pain slut to track down some delicious and kinky retailers in the U.K. for cruetly-free BDSM gear like floggers, whips, and crops. (Links to all the sites mentioned are down below.

Masturbation May. Just a few days left to pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys. Treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Showtime's new late-night show, Submission, is all about BDSM. We follow Ashley, a woman coming out of yet another sexually unsatisfying relationship, as she begins to explore her desire in the realm of power exchange and BDSM. Written and directed by Jacky St. James, who has taken the feminist porn world by storm, the show offers us a more complex, empowered, dynamic, and accurate look into the world of pleasure, pain, psychological play, and more. On this very special episode of Sex Gets Real, I sit down and chat with Jacky St. James and the show's lead actor, Ashlynn Yennie. We talk about how the show came to be, what it was like for porn director Jacky to shoot a mainstream show about sex, and how Ashlynn jumped int

Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. This week, August McLaughlin shares a little about her battle with anorexia and body dysmorphia, plus how that led her to creating Girl Boner. We also field some wonderful questions from listeners on the way our bodies and genitals look, plus struggling with orgasms. In this episode, August and I: Laugh and cringe over the sad state of sex education in the United States. Rarely is pleasure ever mentioned to young people, but if it is, it's usually reserved for folks with a penis, while the only info we get about vulvas is that they have cramps and periods. Explore August's eating disorder and body dysmorphia and how that led her to heal her relationship with her sexuality. Dig in

Masturbation May. Have you gotten yours on yet? If not, pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Nadine Thornhill is someone I admire greatly. Not only was she part of the Explore More Summit, but her approach to parenting and talking to kids about sex is revolutionary. And this week, we're going deep into consent, kids, teens, being a parent, talking about porn, and much more. I truly believe that future generations will be so much more consent informed and emotionally intelligent because of work like Nadine's. If all of us are better able to express ourselves and receive rejection gracefully, we'd have drastically healthier relationships and sex for it. You can find Nadine at NadineThornhill.com. She's also on <a href="https://

Masturbation May is in full swing, so pop over to our exclusive sale with podcast-approved toys and treat yourself to something deliciously naughty. Victoria Rosa, from Open and Awesome, joins us this week. She shares stories from her journey with tantra and sacred spot massage. Then we dive into listener questions. First up, a listener shares that her husband is horrible at oral sex and yet he thinks he is god's gift to her pussy. What can she do when he doesn't take direction well? Orgasmically Challenged also needs help. Her sweet boyfriend cums before she orgasms and she is getting super frustrated. Between their anxieties and shyness, is the relationship doomed? Hearing from you is the best, so here's how to contact the show: Contact form: <a href= "http://sexg

MASTURBATION MAY is here! And we are celebrating with an exclusive Sex Gets Real sale: njoy, Magic Wand, Lelo, Sliquid. Check it out now. Only happening for the month of May. Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for a second HIQI. Listener Dannyle wants to know how to talk to the guy she's dating about the fact that she can't orgasm from partnered sex. She cums on her own, but when she's with someone else, it just doesn't happen. How can she share that without turning it into a challenge? Then, Stage Fright, a listener who has been in a friends with benefits situation for 12 years, wants to know being in a FWB for that long is normal. Dawn still has spots available for one-on-one sex and relationship coaching, so if you're interested pop over to her site to find out

From BDSM to broken penises, from virgin stories to rope bondage. It's a packed week. Dawn has some new client openings for sex and relationship coaching. Want to check it out? Pop over to her coaching page and jump on it ASAP. This week is full of juicy questions. One listener reveals he has a broken penis and after being shamed by a few partners, needs help getting over the fear. How can he embrace his penis? Another listener is eager to try rope bondage and wants stories from Dawn, plus resources on how to safely get started. A virgin is super excited to write in with her first juicy story, even if it wasn't ideal. Also, where can you find BDSM conferences like the ones Dawn always goes to? Oh, and one listeners received a prostate massage from two massage professionals that ended in orgasm, and how his wife feels like he cheated. What can he do?</p

Dawn woke up feeling like she wanted an intimate chat with you. There's also a follow-up from a listener who wrote in recently about sex with vibrators. Plus, a 20-year-old virgin just got her first vibrator and wants help on working on internal orgasms. A mom also has some thoughts on safer sex kits for college kids. There are a few free replays from the Explore More Summit this week, so check it out at http://exploremoresummit.com. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: Click here

Sarah and Brian from YaySex.ca join in the fun this week. Since they recently started teaching an anal sex class, we start off with a question about anal sex myths. A listener who wants to study sexuality asks for book recommendations and we have quite the list (see below). Plus, a heartbroken listener is tired of his wife's interest in fast fucks and quickies. He wants lovemaking and slow sex. What can he do? In this episode, we mentioned a ton of resources. Here are the books we discussed with links! Esther Perel's "Mating in Captivity" Mark Thompson's "Leatherfolk" Allison Moon's "Girl Sex 101" Christopher Ryan's <a href="http://amzn.to/1qeqLly" targe

What if you're already in love before the sex happens? Comedian and 4-Play Baltimore host, Prescott Gaylord, joins us for the first of two HIQIs. First, we hear from Sophie about college hook-ups and how she worked all her FWBs on campus. Then, Katie writes in because she is about to have sex with her girlfriend of one year for the first time. But she's never been in love before having sex and needs advice. We weigh in. Also, Prescott makes lots of t-shirts. Want to check out Dawn's Facebook community? Pop over here. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: Click here

Dirty Lola joins us this week! First up, there is a free webinar on March 28th all about intimacy in relationships as you explore non-monogamy and opening an existing relationship up. Register here! Second, Dawn is an expert speaking at the Love Detox online event that starts April 4th. Learn more here: http://www.thelovedetoxseries.com/dawn This week's co-host is Dirty Lola, a sex toy extraordinaire at Shag in Brooklyn, and also the creator and host of Sex Ed a Go-Go. After hearing all about Lola's new Daddy Dom, we jump into two listener questions. One listener wants to know how to prepare for experimenting with their girlfriend's vibrator. We have lots of thoughts. Another listener is sexually inexperienced and wants to know - how d

Dylan's official last episode and we talk blowjobs. If you have any parting messages for Dylan, just use the email down below to send them to Dawn and she'll pass them along. On this Hit It and Quit It, we heard from a listener about some horrible advice that Anna Faris and Adam Corolla recently gave on Anna's podcast, Unqualified. Just because your partner wants to watch you have sex with someone else does NOT mean they want a divorce. Ugh. Also, a listener wrote in feeling horrible about how grossed out she gets with blowjobs. Do we have any thoughts? But (butt?) of course we do. Also, we have an ask! Can you review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just search for us in iTunes and leave a review. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: C

100 episodes of Sex Gets Real!!! Wow. 100 episodes. What an amazing 2+ years it's been. And it also seems appropriate that today is the day Dylan is announcing she's leaving the show. As sad as Dawn is about the news, Dylan has an opportunity that is amazing and something she's been wanting for a long time. The show isn't going anywhere though, so don't worry. We'll be having loads of amazing guest co-hosts and contests, so episode 100 is simply a chance for us to try something new with our next 100 episodes. And this episode doesn't disappoint - questions about threesomes and unicorns and ass sex and precum and much much more. Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just click the iTunes link below. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: <a href= "http://sexgetsreal.c

CAN YOU TAKE THE PLEASURE?!?! It's OK to change your mind, just like Dawn did at a recent BDSM class. A few listeners write in with stories and thanks. Plus, our listener Dirty Daughter has a very embarrassing story to share about how her father responded to seeing her sex toys. And the age old question, should you tell him if he sucks in bed? Dawn and Dylan share their perspective, which may surprise you. Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, even if you listen on Spreaker or Spotify. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: Click here

Dawn attended a BDSM conference for Valentine's in Canada and tried several new things. Dylan scored a ton of presents. We have a backlog of listener emails, too. One listener wants to give his girlfriend a vibrator but she's inexperienced and he isn't sure where to start. Another listener is a virgin and wants to know, should she just have sex and get it over with? How do you even start? What's sex like? It's a lot of laughter and lots of fun this week, plus some sweet texts from new listeners. We love you, too! Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. Just click the iTunes link below. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: Click here

That fits where? It all starts with an article about modesty and how women should expect to be treated poorly based on what they wear. You know Dawn can't let that go. So, let's put on our ranty pants and rage against the sexist notion that what you wear has anything to do with your value, intelligence, or ability. Then, we jump into a fun question from a listener who thinks she wants to try her fantasy. What is it? Fisting! We talk about lube and gloves and communication, plus why mainstream porn is NOT the place to go if you want to learn what it's about. Don't forget to leave us a review on iTunes, even if you listen on Spreaker or Spotify. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Contact form: Click here

Dawn got her hands on a new sex toy that's a clitoral stimulator. She wants to give it a few more test drives, but offers her first impression. Then, we field listener questions on Bad Dragon dildos, taking money for sex off a craigslist ad which leads us to ranting about sex work laws, and a question about lesbian bed death. If you can't talk about sex with a partner, you probably shouldn't be having sex. And don't expect sex to be what you want it to be if you can't talk about it. It has to start there. Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here</

Butt stuff. It's all about the butt. Over 3,500 people turned in for the Explore More Summit. Hundreds of reviews poured in and people loved it. If you want to check out the 30 interviews for yourself, you can still buy them for just over $1 per talk. A listener needs advice on how to get started with anal. He has a new boyfriend, and he'd like to find a way to practice the sex. So, we talk butt plugs, fingers, dildos, and prostate massagers. Plus, what's with the bad anal experiences? Oh, and Dylan thinks she pulled a muscle shoveling all that damn blizzard snow. Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email:</str

This is what happens when we have coffee and record first thing. Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews. We're a little hyper this time around because we recorded SO early in the morning, but what can you do? We talk ass hooks, porn, clown sex, intersex, and...a listener wrote in from the country of Iran and he is having some shame around masturbation and porn. So, we weigh in. Can you ever know everything there is to know about sex? Do you WANT to? And what if you're raised in a community or a culture that is very sexually repressed? Let's see where we end up. Also, we have an ask! Can you go review us in iTunes? We are trying to move up in the ratings charts. You know we lov

Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews. Dawn has a new coloring book that is all gay men and group sex. Dylan loves it. Mike wrote back about the rape that he witnessed. And our listener Marcella wants to know which book Dawn recommends for new techniques for pleasing a penis. A few of the suggestions include: "Urban Tantra" by Barbara Carrellas "The Sex and Pleasure Book" by Carol Queen "My Life on the Swingset" by Cooper Beckett You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

Register for the summit! As of January 17th, there are over 600 people signed up for the Explore More Summit that Dawn created. Ready to join in the fun? Head to exploremoresummit.com. It's free, and Dawn has 30 interviews for you to watch over the course of 10 days, starting January 28th. It's amazing and even has celebrity guests. We've got listener stories about sex, a question about why a group of swingers needed SO MANY DAMN TOWELS at this hotel, a transphobic politician trying to make horrible laws in Virginia, and a lot more. One listener writes in saying he tried to talk to his wife about group sex and it went really poorly. Is it him? Why did it go so wrong? Dawn and Dylan have LOTS of ideas on this one. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply)

Dawn has a HUGE announcement.  Head over to Explore More Summit at exploremoresummit.com to register for Dawn's free 10-day online summit. She's been slaving over it for 3 months, in secret, and you do NOT want to miss all of the experts and celebrities she interviewed. It all starts January 28th, 2016, but if you see this after the event, you can still check out the interviews. A listener asks about what it's like when we watch cam sites and porn. Then, we talk about Buck Angel and his awesome vagina, trans bodies, intersex folks (they're SO much more common than anyone realizes) and the trauma of being non-binary and trying to go to the bathroom. Oh, and Dylan doesn't like Salon.com's suggestion that we all use gender-neutral pronouns, but Dawn is a huge fan. We discuss. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us <s

Well, Dylan is sick now, but we're still recording because we missed you. Listeners write in about getting caught by their parents giving a blow job and getting picked up by lesbians at a conference. Dawn gets a new remote controlled vibrator and has some fun with it. More on James Deen and Stoya. Plus, Cooper Beckett is offering a special on his new book, A Life Less Monogamous. And finally, we have a really intense discussion about a listener who witnessed a friend get raped at a play party. What was his responsibility in all of it? What can he do to move on? It's such a tough topic, Dawn reached out to some sex educator friends for their thoughts, as well. Next week Dawn has a HUGE announcement, so stay tuned for that. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <li

  Yes, we're on a break for the holidays, but Dawn just couldn't take it. To tide us over until January 3rd, here is a short little erotica reading called "Pink" by Helena Black. Talk to you in 2016! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

A listener wants us to be really real. Just how messy is anal play? She wants to try it, but she's psyched herself out over the poop. That sends us off on a bender on all things butts - from hair to the doorbell technique to Dylan getting REALLY excited about all the things she likes in her butt. And of course, loads of practical advice and personal stories on real butt sex and the mess factor. Dylan closes the show with a little victory statement about Rhonda Rousey losing her fight after the lube fiasco of a few weeks ago. Have a great holiday season, everyone! We had an amazing 2015. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Straight guys having sexing with straight guys? We want to start the episode by saying that we stand in solidarity with Stoya after she named James Deen as her rapist. It takes tremendous courage to speak up, especially when the person you're naming is so popular and beloved. Let's talk about the psychology of victim blaming. Let's also talk about supporting victims and focusing on healing. Bondage Bands sent us a free sample of their bands, so Dawn has Dylan try them out on-air. Hilarity ensues. A listener wants to know if their straight fantasies mean they are cheating or less queer. Plus, listeners write in about self-sucking. Finally, what's with straight guys having sex with other straight guys? Is this is a thing? Does that mean you're gay? We dig in. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply)</l

Sex. The scariest thing in the world? Dawn really loved this conversation about STI stigma. A recent article in The Atlantic (link below in the show notes) talked about some research findings that show people are terrified of sex. People judge someone more harshly for transmitting a mild case of curable chlamydia than killing someone with swine flu. Why? Because someone with chlamydia likely had prior sexual encounters and people see that as completely unforgivable. Unfortunately, our abstinence-only focus on teaching kids how super scary sex can be - STIs can kill and pregnancy can ruin your entire life - means that as adults we simultaneously crave and vilify sex. It's a recipe for lying about STI status, taking huge risks to avoid shame, and driving behaviors into the closet. Plus, Dawn got a new therapist to help with some relationship feels and it's blowing her mind. Permission to be messy: granted. You know we love he

We're finally back on track after losing some episodes a few weeks back. We revisit a listener email about self-sucking. Should he introduce his talent to his wife? The thought kind of turns him on. Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about masturbation being a sin along with a new superpower: zombiefying vagina goo. Scary stuff. If you like a cushy, gel-like lube for anal, what's a body safe option? Online dating and hook-ups - it's SO easy to send a horrible first message. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Dawn & Dylan take a moment to talk about the Paris attacks, plus the lack of visibility on attacks in Beirut, Baghdad, and when the violence is against people of color. We wish peace for all us, but if we want human rights to be upheld, we need to acknowledge when racial justice issues arise. Dawn is in the process of creating a badass online summit that will be free with some of the world's leading experts in sex, relationships, sensuality, and body love. So, a listener wrote in with a question for the summit experts. Dawn and Dylan dig in a bit. Should a man married 14-years to a super monogamous spouse just accept that he can't have non-monogamous experiences or does he need to end the marriage with someone he loves in order to have these sexual adventures? Plus, a kid on a bus does the jerk off motion AND throwing the spooge on cars passing by, including Dawn. She reacts. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us</p

We have a full episode for you this week. From listener stories about fingering circles as a teenager to warnings against soapy blowjobs, our listeners are certainly adventurous. Plus, one listener wants to know what can be done now that his wife has had a full hysterectomy and has zero desire for sex. Is there any hope? Dawn talks pubic hair, and Dylan horrifies us all with a story about a woman using a sausage to pleasure herself in a public bathroom. No, folks. Just no. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click her

Dylan is back from Hawaii. Basically, it was really hot and there was boob sweat. Dawn attended Sex Down South where she saw a hand sex demo, did a masturbation circle, and generally had an amazing time learning from Tristan Taormino and Amy Jo Goddard. Plus, we have so many listener emails - a sex newbie wants to know if she should carry condoms. A swinger reports back on her latest adventures. Peoria Illinois apparently had a rad Pride. And what if your boyfriend ONLY wants to do reverse cowgirl anymore? You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Dawn had a shitty week. Not only was she battling Strep, but she fried her laptop and lost this week's episode. So, we're doing a HIQI in place of our longer episode and we'll be back on track in 2 weeks. So, what are we talking about this week besides Dylan's vacation to Hawaii? Well, a listener, who is a special needs dad, wrote in with some feedback about the interview we had on sex and disability. Sex and a child with a social or developmental disability gets really complicated? What's right for them? How do you protect them from abuse? Can you? And when is medical treatment actually eugenics in disguise? It's a tough conversation full of some ableist language, but we have to start somewhere. Also, retirement communities and STIs. Teach your grandparents and parents about safer sex! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates app

We've reached a new level of gross, folks. So many listeners stories and confessions - from a new gross word for spooge to a story about an orgy in high school, our listeners are adventurous to the max! And, one listener wants to know if she went too far with her sister...was it OK or did it cross the line? We can't stress enough, either, how much we don't want unsolicited dick pics unless they're from Benedict Cumberbatch or Joseph Gordon-Levitt or George Clooney or something. And even then, an ask would be nice. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

If you're in the Atlanta area, also be sure to check out Sex Down South, a brand new sex conference happening October 15-17. Dawn will be there representing the podcast, and a ton of awesome folks are speaking on everything sex positive, kink, and racial justice. We are so excited to have Amy Jo Goddard joining us today to talk about her new book "Woman on Fire" and talking all things sexual intelligence, erotic empowerment, and pleasure. From finding your voice to staying adventurous, Amy Jo is so eloquent and wise when it comes to exploring and growing your sexuality. We talk about identities and finding community, being endlessly curious, and giving yourself permission to define your yes in a world that tells us sex is all of these no's. It's one of our favorite interviews we've done on the podcast, and you can find Amy Jo at womanonfiretheb

Listeners, if you're in the DC area and you're a sex educator of some sort, you HAVE to join Dawn at Tristan Taormino's Sex Educator Bootcamp on October 18th. Our listeners get 25% off with code "deal25". Check out details and register here. Dawn and Dylan are back in the studio after being apart for a month. We talk about the sex adventures we've had over the past few weeks, including some yummy Domme'ing in L.A. that Dawn did. A listener, Baby, wrote in asking for our advice on how to ask her Dom to be more controlling and demanding, so we talk about all the fun ways you can play with asking for what you want in a relationship that has a power exchange. If you're in the Atlanta area, also be sure to check out Sex Down South, a brand new sex conference happening October 15-17. Dawn will be there represe

Pegging, porn, and prostitution. A listener wrote in with a terrific message and mentioned pegging. Which sent us off on a bender about butt sex. Then, Dawn and Dylan talk about the new pink Viagra pill and why that name is so misleading. Flibanserin/Addyi is not what they're claiming it is, and there are better ways for most people to stimulate low desire. Dawn ran across a fun article about Pornhub viewers that found women (yes, it's heteronormative) watch more hardcore porn than men. We discuss. Finally, after nearly a month, we talk about the amazing Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit. With amazing talks by Charlie Glickman, Joan Price, Monica Raye Simpson, and more, it was a powerful weekend of sex and human rights.   You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: info@sex

George O'Keepe was on to something Pussies are beautiful. Vulva are spectacular. And the problem is that too many vulva owners don't realize this. After reading an article on the alarming demand for reconstructive surgery on labia, Dawn and Dylan weigh in on the gloriousness of pussies. Also, a listener writes in with a confession and we talk dick pics. Again. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

If you live long enough, you'll become part of the club. Robin Wilson-Beattie joins us this week to talk all about sex and disability. So often people with disabilities are seen as asexual, but that is so wrong. Robin shares her journey with her body as an incomplete quadriplegic, sex and BDSM, ableism, and abortion as a disabled person. It's juicy stuff. Oh, and her BDSM scene at the end is so fun to picture. Rawr! If you're looking for more information on sex and disability, or you just want to connect with Robin, check out her website, Sex Abled with Robin WB, and also follow her on Twitter. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected]

What does sex positive mean to us? Dawn explores one of her super embarrassing fantasies. Sometimes taking the risk of sharing the scary stuff pays off. Oh Joy, Sex Toy recently did a comic on water sports, which gets us talk about peeing on folks. Plus, at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Lotus Blooms asked us to talk about what sex positive means to us. Let's explore this and see where we land. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Camping, public nudity, face licking, and more. This episode is definitely a rainbow of all the things. We've got some listener emails talking about the Hitachi Magic Wand, face licking, and a really deep question about a spouse who claims that being put up on a pedestal is killing her libido. Dawn reports back on Sex Geek Summer Camp and the interesting things that unfolded there.   Plus, Dawn recently visited a Sacred Intimate for some hands-on healing work. Hear all the details of what happened and how profound the experience was for her.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

A listener calls us out. Small penises...they're the butt of many jokes, the catch in many commercials, and even featured on SNL as a reason to kill yourself. So, when a listener writes in to call us out that small penises really are that bad - after all, he's been broken up with four times specifically for his small dick - Dylan and Dawn take a step back and contemplate what it means. Hear our feedback and why the worst thing in the world may not be quite so bad. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

We are so excited to have the powerful, the fabulous, the game-changing Feminista Jones on with us this week. We talk about sex-positive feminism, BDSM, Dom/sub dynamics, how the term vanilla has become a slur, street harassment, birth control, how sex and body autonomy are the key to liberation and freedom for Black women, and so much more. If you want to check out all of Feminista's amazing work and her superstar bio, you can find her at FeministaJones.com. She is also on Instagram and Twitter, so check her out there, too. The Women's Freedom Conference that she's organizing is also on Facebook and <a href=

What happens when everyone learns about sex their whole lives? A listener writes back about their group sex situation. Dawn experiences a lovely display of empathy. Wouldn't it be amazing if we were allowed to have bad days? Plus, the Netherlands start sex ed at the age of 4 and carry it through their entire lives. What do the statistics show? What could we do better? What can go wrong? Let's discuss. In the DC area in August? Then join Dawn at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit from August 13-16. Learn more on their website.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

This week is packed full of good random stuff. We talk about a fun article pontificating which famous fictional men have been pegged. Then we explore erogenous zones and where on our bodies we like sensual touch. A listener writes in with a sexy story about getting caught masturbating by her husband and the punishment that ensues. And, three leading relationship experts in the world all agree on this ONE thing that is destroying our relationships and our sex lives. Are you doing it? We can guarantee that you are. In the DC area in August? Then join Dawn at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit from August 13-16. Learn more on their website.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact f

Mutual masturbation is rad. Let's discuss. Two listeners write in with sexy stories about Spring Break and titty play. Plus, there's a new Johns Hopkins study showing men who are confident and empathetic (sensitive) have more satisfying sex. Boom!   And of course, we have to get our hands dirty by talking about the beauty and pleasure of mutual masturbation. Seriously, it's one of those things that is so often overlooked but can be totally rad in so many situations. In the DC area in August? Then join Dawn at the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit from August 13-16. Learn more on their website.  You know we love hearing from you

We've got a sex geek to blow your mind this week.  We have the amazing Kate McCombs on the show today. Sex and communication are her bread and butter. She is incredibly skilled at helping people develop communication skills in their relationships, so that they can have better sex. From empathy to kangaroo vaginas to blowjobs with a cold rock on your anus, we have a really fun and informative chat with her. Kate can be found at KateMcCombs.com and also on Twitter and <a href="https://i

Dawn has a new experience with her wand.  Interested in attending Dawn's live Q&A all about relationships on Thursday, July 16th? Pop on over and sign-up. She'd love to have some listeners in the audience. Dawn talks about her new toy and an intense new experience. No, it's not squirting. A listener writes in with some fun 6-word stories and wants to know if what her and her husband are doing is swinging or poly. Listener Rob the Love Robot entertains us with his sex super power. Plus, we are so excited that next week's e

Listener questions galore.  Interested in attending Dawn's live Q&A all about relationships on Thursday, July 16th? Pop on over and sign-up. She'd love to have some listeners in the audience. One listener wants to know what to do after seeing someone she knows in a porn clip. Another listener isn't feeling so sexy in her body anymore and to top it off, her partner is bringing ex girlfriends into the bedroom with them and she doesn't like it. Finally, our listener in Minnesota has a small dick, a wife who won't touch him, and now she's started deleting text messages and will disappear for 3 hours at a time. Is it time to end the marriage? Oh. And one other thing - we love getting updates from listeners after we talk about your stories online. So report back with updates on stuff that happens. We love that.   In the DC area in August? Then join Dawn

Sex super powers. Let's have fun. Dylan is back. This makes us happy. So, a question came up about sexual super powers. Dawn and Dylan start imagining all the things you could do if you had a sex super power. What would yours be? You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

We talked to a bunch of people at the gay pride parade. Dawn discovers that more and more young people are coming out to the gay festivities. This year we hit the street to do interviews of random folks, asking about the weirdest things they've ever done in bed. Plus, a listener writes in with a question about BDSM and whether this guy's behavior is normal. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Dawn tries her hand at exhibitionism. Vancouver, you'll never be the same after you hear what Dawn did on a recent trip to your beaches and downtown condos. Show off much? Dylan isn't as brave, but she might get wild once she retires.  And a listener writes in with some great 6-word sex memoirs. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Prepare to be disgusted. In the DC area? Join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. Dawn makes Dylan almost throw up over waffles and cream pies. Twitter may ban all porn, Tinder is abundant with dick, & what would you buy in a sex vending machine? You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

A new service in Australia will break up for you. In the DC area? Join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. Breakups suck for everyone. Letting someone else do it for you is super wrong, but funny. We explore some of our breakups on this Hit It and Quit It. Dylan wins for worst breakups by a landslide. So much lesbian drama! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Two vaginas and a sex conference. Boom. Dawn and Dylan discuss SEXx Interactive and all of the awesome talks and workshops. Dawn calls the show out on being too poly and oppressive to monogamous folks. Plus, listeners write in with sex confessions and someone wants to know about ball stretching. Dylan is horrified. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Dawn's mind is blown. In the DC area? Join Dawn for her relationship communication bootcamp on June 11th. Check it out here. The Queer Porn Film Festival in Brooklyn was incredible. Dawn learned more than she could have imagined - she saw Jiz Lee, Courtney Trouble, Jacqueline Mary, James Darling, Chelsea Poe, and so many other porn performers and producers. Head to SexGetsReal.com to see some of the films that were screened along with some clips from a few others. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a href= "http://sexgetsreal.com/talk-to-us/"

Cooper's here! Cooper's here! We are so excited to talk about his new book, My Life on the Swingset. If you haven't read it yet, get it now.  We talk about hour long prostate orgasms and the importance of having no end game and what happens when your cock doesn't perform and how constricting labels can be and how men need to up their game and about Cooper's first time experiencing subspace. All the things!!! Want to listen to Cooper's podcast or find all of his awesome stuff? You can find him at Life on the Swingset, or at Swingset.fm, or at CooperSBeckett.com, or on Twitter at <a href= "https://twitter.com/swingsetlife

Get on our mailing list to help with Dawn's sex toy store. Just pop over to sexgetsreal.com and sign up for our newsletter to get exclusive updates and specials as she plans her launch. Also, teen sex. It happens. Abstinence only and slut shaming don't work and create horrible  messages for teens as they navigate the world of sex. So how can we measure the success of a sex ed program? What does sex ed mean? Plus, Dylan shares a story about teen pregnancy that affected her recently.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Help name Dawn's new vulva puppet! Pop over to her Instagram and comment on the picture with your suggestion.  Listeners write in about a foursome, a threesome, and asking for advice on pubic hair. Which launches us on a pubic hair bender. Dawn can't be the only one who likes petting hers while watching Game of Thrones. Speaking of Game of Thrones, masturbating to your favorite TV characters is totally hot, especially when your partner incorporates them into your sexting. Oh, and what to do if you're marriage is falling apart but you really want a baby. Don't forget SEXx Interactive is around the corner in Philly in early May. Head to sexxinteractive.com if you're in the area. Dawn will be there! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-

Dawn has a few firsts and shares a few details. A few weeks ago, Dawn attended CatalystCon East. While the conference was amazing and deserves it's own episode, that same weekend she also attended a pink puja (or a sensuality workshop) and went to her first play party. Dylan wants all the details about all the sex. Will she be disappointed? Also, Dawn and Dylan are interviewing Cooper Beckett from Life on the Swingset next week. If you have questions about swinging or poly or Swingset-y, let us know ASAP. Near Philly? SEXx Interactive is May 7-10 and Dawn will be there. Head to sexxinteractive.com for details. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a href=

What do we need to know about sex into our 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond? Joan Price joins us for a funny and really informative chat on sex as we age. What changes? What should we prepare for? What's it like? And so much more. Don't forget SEXx Interactive is in early May. Head to sexxinteractive.com if you're in the Philly area. Three days of talks and workshops on sex and inclusivity and kink and all that good stuff. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

A listener wants to know our favorite lesbian sex positions Episode sponsored by Yes Please, More Please - - the art of seduction through food. Don't miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. Scissoring? Mutual masturbation? Strap-on sex? Lesbian sex positions often end up looking like any other sex position with any other gender or body. Though we do have one or two tricks up our sleeves... And since Dylan hates vibrators and Dawn's ex partner didn't like them either, we don't have any wild and crazy stories of vibes taped to inner thighs while hanging upside down from the ceiling. But wouldn't that be awesome? ;) SEXx Interactive is a few weeks away. Check out the line up and grab your tickets at sexxinteractive.com. Dawn will be there! You know we love hearing fro

From penis size (again) to pinball machines, from jealousy to one-hit wonder orgasms - plus a special guest Episode sponsored by Yes Please, More Please - - the art of seduction through food. Don't miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. We have a very special in-studio guest this week (who happens to have a sore ass, courtesy of Dawn). We revisit penis sizes and balls, plus listener advice and confessions from previous episodes. One listener, Alexa, needs help with falling into old habits when it comes to communication styles and wanting to work on removing jealousy. Another listener claims to be a one hit wonder with her orgasms. Can she find a way to come in other positions? Don't forget SEXx Interactive is around the corner in Philly in early May. Head to sexxinteractive.com and jo

What Google data reveals about our sex for sex Episode sponsored by Yes Please, More Please - - the art of seduction through food. Don't miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. We were fascinated by a NY Times article on what people are searching for on Google.  Guys are obsessed with cock size. Women are worried about how they smell. We're all worried about how to be better in bed, why our partners won't have sex with us, and how to say harsh things in a nice way.  Curious about SEXx Interactive in Philly? Then go to sexxinteractive.com and check it out! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected]

We talk about ALL the things! Episode sponsored by Yes Please, More Please - - the art of seduction through food. Don't miss their Mexican Aphrodisiac dinner in Washington, DC on April 4, 2015. Episode 50! Wow. Halfway to triple digits. Well, this episode is a delightful cornucopia of sex. First up, Dawn tests out her new quartz yoni egg for practicing kegels and finds she has a lot of work to do. A listener has a confession about outdoor sex, while another listener wonders how she can work on her jealousy. Twitter bans revenge porn and Dylan, of course, gets sassy. Also check out SEXx Interactive. It's May 7-10 in Philly and Dawn will be there. sexxinteractive.com You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging r

Guys, stop worrying about being too small. You should be happy you aren't too big! A listener has sweet, caring boyfriend. There's only one problem - his dick is too big and she can't take it all. How big is too big? And what can she do to help ease the way? When you have a partner who is understanding and patient, you have options. Dawn and Dylan weigh in on some things she can do to try and prep for sex with her huge guy. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

AJ, a sex educator at Portland's sex positive toy boutique, SheBop, joins us. From phthalates and toxic toys to how to sterilize silicone and wood toys, AJ educates Dawn and Dylan on all things toys and sex. She also teaches an anal class called Back That Ass Up, so we dive deep into starting with anal play and pegging. We also talk about the rumors around how the Fleshlight was invented, and explore how to remain ethical when you're opening up a relationship.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

Sex toy shopping horror story. Dylan tells a horrifying story of what happens when some friends of hers go into a sex store and face something awful. Which leads Dawn into a rage.  We also want your nightmare encounters in sex toy stores. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us

Gina Senarighi on relationship counseling and the keys to making relationships work in the long run Holy crap. We have the fabulous and amazing Gina Senarighi from Amplify Happiness Now and Uncommon Love PDX on the show for a killer interview on relationships, kink, poly, jealousy, shame, sex, and all the things she sees in her therapy practice with couples who are struggling with so many things we all struggle with. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Click here

**Congrats to Heavy B for winning our one-year anniversary giveaway!!!** Would you sleep with a virgin? And what does virgin even mean? After a fabulous dinner, courtesy of Yes Please, More Please on all things aphrodisiac and sexy when it comes to food, Dylan and I discuss one of the topics that dominated the dinner party: virgins. What is a virgin? What does it even mean, if anything at all? Is it just an oppressive social construct that doesn't actually have any meaning in a sex positive world? Is it something experience sexperts want to deal with? Dylan certainly is ready to take anyone's V-card. Dawn isn't so sure... though, there might be certain fantasies she has... What do you think about the label "virgin"? Is it a big deal? Is it penis in vagina sex? Does it require the presence of a hymen in women? Have things changed to the point where virginity is

ONE YEAR. BEST OF. BOOM. Make sure you sign up for the Healthy, Authentic Relationship Summit that is on February 12th and 13th. It's free and you get to listen to two days' worth of experts weighing in on all things relationship. Dawn's talk is on Thursday, February 12th at 6pm Eastern. RSVP here. Second, head to sexgetsreal.com and scroll to the bottom of the page to enter our One Year Anniversary sweepstakes to win a personalized gift from us. The giveaway ends February 7th, 2015, so get thee over there now!  On to the episode... We had a phenomenal first year with Sex Gets Real. This is a compilation of some of our favorite and most ridiculous  moments - from Dylan's burps and stories about being a total player to Dawn's rants about safe sex and her struggle with c

Dawn and Dylan are kicking off their one-year anniversary with a KICK-ASS giveaway. Check out the Sex Gets Real Facebook page to enter and for details (US residents only).  They also went back to Mid Atlantic Leather and all of the naked gay boys with their leather vests and floggers and flagging and BDSM. It was a smelly good time. Plus, don't miss Dylan's giggles over the Vagankle. If you're a foot fetishist, you're going to love this find. 

Dylan talks about being a total sexist at a motorcycle show. A listener wants to know where to go for classes on sex and BDSM. Dawn and Dylan also discuss dildo etiquette, female condoms, how to find your strap-on cock confidence, and Pornhub's new report.   Be sure to listen to the end for a random and exciting update from Dawn on a sweepstakes that starts next week for our U.S. listeners. The winner scores a free book on sexual fantasies, and it will be signed by Dawn and Dylan!

We birthed a sex podcast. Here's how it came to be. It all started with Dawn being a total stalker at a lesbian club... No seriously, it did. That's just the beginning. And then of course, with a few glasses of champagne in her, Dylan goes on a bender about all the action she got as a DJ at the dyke bars way back in the day. Things spiral. But in the end, it all comes back to us starting the podcast and loving all of you and Sex Gets Real was born. Ta da. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: Sex Gets Real website (anonymous submissions accepted)

A listener shares a few tidbits on his public sex adventures, a new listener goes back through previous episodes and asks questions about jealousy and ending a relationship that's at the height of NRE, and a couple seeks help on finding a 3rd or playing with another couple. Plus, a story about arousal pills, questions on precum, and Dawn talks about her latest adventures (it involves fisting and pegging). You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; l

Dawn and Dylan embark on a scarring adventure into the world of flavored sex novelty items. Condoms and Bijoux natural body paint aside, everything is...horrific. Scarring. And, one item literally turns us into old school Oompa Loompas. Find out which it is...that shit lasted 2 days! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; col

We've got a few listener questions and confessions. Dirty perverts. We love it. Plus, a listener wants to know more about demisexuals, so we dig in and explore it. Plus, TinderNightmares on Instagram and a funny video on Buzzfeed about dudes trying sex toys for the first time. Then, Dawn & Dylan weigh in on Bill Cosby and Jian Ghomeshi. Down with victim shaming! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) <s

Hear what happens when Dawn wakes up and reads some bad sex advice. Sacred sexuality and tantra are beautiful practices, but too many gurus try to make their personal journey into advice for others. And Dawn isn't taking it anymore. Watch out - rant ahead! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Hel

Dawn and Dylan interview Frozen Meursault, a BDSM educator and sadist. He fields questions from listeners on everything from why pain or fear are interesting at all to rough body play like punching and rape fantasies.  He also breaks down the important of consent as the foundation for all play, and gives listeners practical tips for finding ways to incorporate some of the edgier, more risky play into their bedrooms.  Important links include http://kinkacademy.com, http://kinky.com, http://stefanosandshay.com, and http://frozenmeursault.com. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach

Dawn and Dylan help a listener come up with new places to engage in public sex with his wife. Also, Dawn discovers a phrase for man cum that turns her stomach. And what happens when Dylan does some new landscaping? Listen to find out! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-se

Dawn and Dylan interview erotica writer, narrator, podcaster, editor, and all-round expert Rose Caraway from The Kiss Me Quicks.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a style="color:

A listener asks what kind of strap-on harness his wife should get if he wants to be pegged. And, how can she rock some clit stimulation when she's banging him? Dawn and Dylan weigh in. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.159999847412

A pro Domme weighs in on our advice about fetishes. A sassy listener says she adores 69. And what happens when you catch your parents doing something surprising? Plus, Dawn reviews the Crave Vesper vibrator, while Dylan is horrified over some really bad kissing. Finally, what should you do if the people you're attracted to never find you attractive in return?  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) <str

Dawn recently visited Toronto and took nearly her entire arsenal of sex and BDSM gear with her in a carry-on. Let's just say some security agents at the airport have a few new stories to tell. Plus, Dylan's little bag of dicks. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-se

IPCookieMonster joins us in the studio for all things threesomes, foursomes, and moresomes. From tips for avoiding mediocre group sex to how to overcome the "lesbian sheep" moment in an FFM threesome (female-female-male), IPCookieMonster keeps us laughing and intrigued. Plus, listener questions on dorm orgies, titty overload, the virtue of female condoms, the best foursome positions, and what to do when the all-too-common uncooperative dick invades a night of fun. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-fa

Hashing. Never heard of it? That's probably because it's a super secret drinking society  for people with a running problem. Secret identities. Copious amounts of booze. Highly sexual names. And, it all ends in a dance party where you just KNOW naughty things are bound to happen. Hear all about Dylan popping her cherry with the local hashing group.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email:<

A listener wants advice on whether she should arrange a double blowjob for her boyfriend. Dylan reviews a new finger toy and talks about getting DP'd.    Other listeners write in - what if you have a super ticklish asshole? And what do you do if you're accused of cheating when you didn't do anything and now your wife has gone off the deep end? Dawn has some strong opinions on this one.   You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. <d

Dawn and Dylan discuss how to get started with tantra. What is it, can it be done with same-sex couples, and what if you're kinky? Plus, can guys separate orgasm from ejaculation? You betcha. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.15999

Who actually likes scissoring? A listener claims it's worse than 69. Is that possible? A boyfriend just wants to massage his girlfriend's feet, but she won't let him. Does he give up? And what the heck is the difference between making love and getting your nasty on? Dawn has a new wearable vibrator, and Dylan takes issue with her dick. Hands off, people!  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email:

Dylan and her wife break out the mirrors and flashlights to look at their vulvas, urethras, and more. Plus, how can you tell when someone is fully aroused just by looking at their vulvas? Oh, and have you ever felt your clitoral shaft? How about your perineal sponge? So many places for pleasure!!! Let's get anatomical. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "

Dawn has a small issue crop up with her labia (did you know about the Bartholin gland?). Dylan fills us in on what "soaking" is. A listener wants to know the definition of sex. Plus, we see some very unsafe sex at a play party and discuss pussy cleaning basics.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans

Hear all about Dawn's experiences with strippers in Vegas. Plus, sex work is so much more than stripping, porn, and street economists (prostitutes). Dylan teases us with her stripper stories. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.15999

To prepare for her lover coming into town, Dawn has an ass wax fail. Then, so much sex - female condoms, pegging, whipping, flogging, and more. Plus, Nina Hartley, Buck Angel, and the Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit where we learn about sex worker rights and food as sex metaphors. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-

A listener gives us a juicy threesome confession. Dawn talks about threesomes and unexpected jealousy. Hey, it happens to the best of us! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a style

Dawn's got a pissy pussy, plus some serious ass pain. Find out about a guy who tried to smuggle an entire toolbox in his ass into a prison. Plus, listener questions on what's the difference between being a player and having multiple lovers, and a boyfriend who won't introduce you to his family. NRE junkies are REAL - find out how love is like cocaine. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: inf

Dylan marvels over "pet guys" from Korean soap operas. Basically, submissive men who are shamed by what they do. Plus, Dawn talks about a new pussy exerciser called kGoal. it's like a Fit Bit for your girl parts. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px;

Dawn and Dylan go to a sex & play party in DC and spill the beans on everything that happened (hints: loads and loads of sex). A woman wants to know if texting an old boyfriend is cheating. Plus, what do you do if your girlfriends pussy tastes horrible but she wants you to go down on her? You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #2224

Dawn attends a Black Rose class on violet wands and using electricity in the bedroom. Dylan boycotts. Plus, what not to do with electricity and how to scar your penis until it's broken.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.1599998474

Kait Scalisi of Passion by Kait joins Dawn and Dylan to talk about sex when you or a loved one are dealing with chronic illness, such as cancer or diabetes. Plus, self-care to feel sexy, wet pussies and the importance of lube, and passionate monogamy. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetic

Can New Relationship Energy be a fetish? What is a fetish, anyway? Plus, Dawn and Dylan talk about getting busted playing doctor as kids.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a styl

Dawn and Dylan discuss whether a listener should tell her lovers about each other, dig into whether cum facials are degrading and how to get a girlfriend to be more open to the idea, Dawn attends a rope bondage demo, plus - what if your wife keeps shutting you down? How do you get her to open up? And, butt sex. Lots of butt sex. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <

In this short 15-minute episode, hear about Dawn's craigslist experience that went from finding male models to watching two dudes fuck. Plus, Dylan gets a new butt plug and goes anal on us. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.1599998

Dawn and Dylan answer a listen question about obligatory blowjobs. Plus, hear about the g-spot and female ejaculation class Dawn attended in Portland, what it's like to be a first-time Dominatrix, and the wrong reason to open up a relationship.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Ari

Have you ever had a horny high? Dawn discovers a new way to cum (anal!) while Dylan and her wife have a guest in the bedroom.  Plus, Dawn's review of a caning class, how to make a rope vibrator, and the ugliness of jealousy.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-seri

Dawn and Dylan talk to the gorgeous and talented Lance Hart, a fetish porn star and producer. He tells us all the dirty secrets behind filming porn, getting started in pegging, and what it's like to get started in adult films. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a style="color: #22242f;" href="http://sexgetsreal.com/talk-to-us/" ta

Dawn and Dylan talk about closure and going crazy post break up. Plus, listeners ask how to overcome exhaustion, why does sex have to be so icky, and what to do if you get fat to prevent yourself from cheating? Plus, Dawn bangs a young stud. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial,

Dawn and Dylan dive into the sting of being rejected. Plus, how does a bi-curious woman find ladies to hook-up with? Is female ejaculation real? And why do feminist women have rape fantasies?  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.1599

Don't forget! If you love the show, you can support us at patreon.com/sexgetsreal! Dawn and Dylan lay out how to give amazing blowjobs, the practicalities of navigating an open marriage (where? and how? and when?), and how to get started in kink. Plus, Dawn talks about her butt plug tail. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a style="color: #22242f;" href="http:/

Dawn and Dylan discuss what to do if you cross a line or violate someone's consent. Also, tips on how to let go during sex and how to have a fun, responsible threesome. Kind of.  You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.15999984741211px;"

Dawn and Dylan tackle the delicate art of how to eat pussy like a champ (hint: it involves a bib). Plus, barebacking in the gay community, cock rings, and the worst/best first date ever. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size: 12px; line-height: 20.1599998474

Dawn and Dylan hit up the Dark Odyssey BDSM conference. Hear about all things kinky - from Fist-a-Palooza to orgies to rape play and so much more. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] Contact form:

Dawn and Dylan take on strap on sex, playing during your period, sex work, and whether a man watching porn without having sex with his partner is a major problem or not. Plus, we want your stories about Valentine's Day! You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial, sans-serif; font-size:

Find out how to talk to a friend in an open relationship about how she does it, ways to introduce kink to a super vanilla partner, the down-low on STDs, and then we ponder just how important self-pleasure is when it comes to a great sex life. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Call or text: 747-444-1840 (standard messaging rates apply) Email: [email protected] <p style= "padding-top: 12px; color: #22242f; font-family: 'Open Sans', Helvetica, Arial,

You can support the show on Patreon! Check out patreon.com/sexgetsreal. In this first ever episode of Sex Gets Real, Dawn & Dylan hit the Mid Atlantic Leather conference and give a full, and VERY kinky run down of everything they saw. Let's talk sadism, spanking, leather, dildos, and hundreds of sweaty, gay men. You know we love hearing from you, so here's how to reach us. Email: [email protected] Contact form: <a style="color: #22242f;" href="http://sexgetsreal.com/talk-