Winamp Logo
Seeing Other People Cover
Seeing Other People Profile

Seeing Other People

English, Social, 1 season, 333 episodes, 5 days, 16 hours, 54 minutes
About
Modern dating sucks, but it shouldn't have to. That's why Ilana Dunn is here to help you feel less alone and more empowered in your dating life. On Tuesdays, Ilana interviews expert guests to answer your biggest questions about dating and relationships. On Thursday’s "Unfiltered" episodes, anonymous guests share what they have been through, how they got through it, and what they wish they knew when going through their experience. Follow @ilanadunn on Twitter & @seeingotherpeople on IG! Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD! Head to MindsetWellnessCBD.com & use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off.
Episode Artwork

10 Things I Wish I Could Tell My Single Self

On this solo episode, I open up about what I wish I could tell my younger, single, struggling self. I share insight from my experiences as a dater, dating coach, friend, and fiancé. We discuss knowing your worth, not letting someone’s disinterest impact how you view yourself, mindsets to approach dating with, future tripping, fixing people, and so much more. Book a coaching session, submit a question for the pod, and get in touch at theleap.co/creator/ilanadunn/ Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/28/202458 minutes, 55 seconds
Episode Artwork

Can Guys and Girls Be "Just Friends?"

My friends Sammy and Glenn met as coworkers and became close “friends with nonsexual benefits.” Sammy and Glenn share how they’ve helped each other naviate dating situations by providing the perspective of the opposite gender, talking one another off the ledge when they’re spiraling, and hyping each other up IRL. We hear how they’ve grown as daters, if they’ve ever argued or disagreed on how to approach a dating situation, how they’ve found the confidence to go to singles events & more.  Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/23/202454 minutes, 54 seconds
Episode Artwork

How We Knew They Were "The One"

Jen Lauren is back on the pod and this time, she’s engaged. We’re commiserating about wedding planning, discussing how to set and maintain boundaries, and appreciating the little things about our relationships. We answer your questions about how we know our fiancés were the one, how we balance(d) our side jobs with our full time jobs, and how we reduce stress during high stress times. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/21/202452 minutes, 37 seconds
Episode Artwork

"We Met & Broke Up At Work"

I’m joined by a 30 year old woman who opens up about spending a year and a half in a tumultuous on again, off again situationship with someone she met at work. She shares how things went from being blissful to confusing overnight, and how she never knew which version of him she would get when she would walk into work or spend time with him. We hear how her friends expressed their concern, how he ruined her 28th birthday, and how she found out he was seeing someone else while they were together. She shares what her healing journey has looked like, the difficulties of trying to move forward while having to see the person everyday, and what she’d learned from going through this experience. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/16/202444 minutes, 29 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Working With Couples Before Their Wedding Is Really Like

Maya Sank (AKA Maya Moves AKA wedding dance instructor extraordinaire) joins the podcast today to share her experiences working with couples before they walk down the aisle. We hear what dynamics Maya sees among her clients, what it’s like working with bridezillas and groomzillas, and what qualities she sees amongst couples she admires. We hear how she and her fiancé met and what it’s been like having a long engagement. Plus, we discuss being in different life stages than friends and how being a bridesmaid and wedding guest has prepared us for our own experiences.  Follow along and get in touch with Maya at @maya.moves on Instagram Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/14/202453 minutes, 45 seconds
Episode Artwork

"BRCA Means Planning Your Whole Future at 26"

Emily Kellman (27) opens up about how finding out that she is a BRCA1 gene mutation carrier has impacted her life. She shares what the testing process was like and how she felt when she “tested positive.” We hear how she, her family, and her doctors worked together to determine the best path forward, and what her fears and anxieties have been like along the way. Emily tells us how she’s had to plan for her future in her twenties to ensure she’s able to have the life and family that she wants. Emily shares how her friends have supported her, what resources have been helpful, and what advice she has for anyone else who may be going through something similar. Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/9/202443 minutes, 1 second
Episode Artwork

Carley Fortune: Female Friendships, Right Person Wrong time, and Happy Endings

To celebrate the release of her new novel, “This Summer Will Be Different,” my favorite author Carley Fortune joins the podcast today! Carley and I chat about what we’ve learned about love and relationships from the characters and love stories in her three novels. We discuss how her childhood experiences shaped the characters and settings in her books, how female friendships play a major role in relationships, and if “right person, wrong time” holds true. Carley tells us her transformation from award winning journalist to NYT best selling author, and we hear how she met her husband and how he’s supported her through various life changes.  Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/7/202448 minutes, 31 seconds
Episode Artwork

“He’s Marrying (One Of) The Girls He Cheated On Me With”

I'm joined by a woman who opens up about how her nine-year relationship with her high school boyfriend that was filled with infidelity and emotional abuse finally came to an end. She shares how she held onto the idea of what the person she wanted him to be vs the person he was, along with how she became stronger because of what she went through. We discuss dating after a breakup of this magnitude, what she learned from working with a life coach, and what she's looking for now. Plus, we chat about how we're all guilty of accepting less than we deserve and that you're never alone no matter how isolated you feel in what you're going through. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get 10% off a beautiful and impactful mindfulness bracelet at presentlybracelets.com promo code seeingotherpeople   Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/2/202452 minutes
Episode Artwork

Stop Trying To Find "The One" with Jennifer Teplin, LCSW

I’m joined by Jennifer Teplin, LCSW and founder of Manhattan Wellness, joins the show to talk about how we can own that your 20s might not be the best time of your life, and that’s okay. We discuss the idea of who we thought we would be vs who we are, how to embrace where we’re at, and why you should never compare yourself to anyone else’s timeline or life milestones. We chat about the pressure to find, “the one,” and answer listener questions about managing anxiety in the early stages of dating and relationships.  Check out @Manhattan.wellness on Instagram and learn more at https://manhattanwellness.org/ Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/30/202454 minutes, 1 second
Episode Artwork

"9 Ways My Dating Mindset Has Changed"

I’m joined by a 25-year-old listener who is wise beyond her years. She shares the various ways her dating mindset has changed over the past year (which she documents in a note on her phone). I don’t want to spoil them, but if you listen to one thing this week, let it be this episode! Disrupt your anxious spirals with Presently Mindfulness Bracelets. Head to https://presentlybracelets.com/discount/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and use the code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE for 10% off your order. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Fast and powerful relief is just a quick trip away. Find Claritin D at the pharmacy counter. Ask for Claritin-D at your local pharmacy counter. You don’t even need a prescription! Go to claritin.com right now for a discount so you can Live Claritin Clear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/25/202445 minutes, 54 seconds
Episode Artwork

Learning To Love Yourself (Or Like Yourself) with Kayla Kleinman

Kayla Kleinman, book lover, introvert, and realistic wellness content creator joins the SOP family today. Kayla and I chat about learning to be unapologetically yourself, the difference between being alone and being lonely, and how to differentiate your feelings vs. your anxiety. We chat living alone, enjoying your own company, saying no to plans you don’t want to do, and embracing the weird things you’re obsessed with. Kayla opens up about her experience in couples therapy and how it allowed her and her partner to successfully work through challenges they faced together. Finally, Kayla shares what she’s learned about love from books and what books are most representative of modern dating and relationships.  Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Get 10% off a beautiful and impactful mindfulness bracelet at presentlybracelets.com promo code seeingotherpeople  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/23/202448 minutes, 56 seconds
Episode Artwork

“Being Single Has Been Life’s Most Unexpected Gift"

My friend Emily joins the podcast today to open up about taking a leap of faith and moving across the country. She shares the mindset that she had that allowed her to meet other people, say yes to everything, and create the life she wanted for herself. We discuss dating in NY vs LA, comparing yourself to your younger siblings, and making new friends in your 30s. Finally, Emily tells us what went into her decision to freeze her eggs and how she feels now that she went through the process. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Get 10% off a beautiful and impactful mindfulness bracelet at presentlybracelets.com promo code seeingotherpeople  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/18/202453 minutes, 8 seconds
Episode Artwork

How To Manifest Your Future Partner

I’m joined by Carleigh Ferrante, writer and host of the dating and wellness podcast Mostly Balanced. Carleigh and I chat about how she went from being avoidant and fiercely independent to manifesting her now-boyfriend of over a year. We discuss how she maintained her independence in her relationship, why it’s important to look within when considering what you’re looking for, and how you can set yourself up for dating success. We answer listener questions about the ick, saving friendships, and making the first move. Follow @mostlybalancedpodcast on Instagram and check out the podcast on Spotify! Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Get 10% off a beautiful and impactful mindfulness bracelet at presentlybracelets.com promo code seeingotherpeople  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/16/202448 minutes, 56 seconds
Episode Artwork

"He Wasn’t Capable of Loving Me"

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman who opens up about the year long relationship she was in where her boyfriend was unable to love her due to trauma from past relationships. She shares how he continuously told her he wanted to get there, how she remained patient, and how it became an elephant in the room and often prevented her from expressing her love. We hear what finally led her to break things off with him, and how she’s working to move forward knowing that she’s worthy of love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/11/202452 minutes, 22 seconds
Episode Artwork

Getting Real About My Insecurities with My Brother Andrew

My oldest brother Andrew interviews me about my journey with Seeing Other People over the last few years. I open up about the imposter syndrome I've faced, my biggest challenges with my role, and what I fear people finding out about me. We discuss how I decided what parts of my life to reveal on the podcast, how I've grown from it over the years, and what the most rewarding parts of my job are. Andrew shares what the cringiest part of his sister hosting a podcast is, what it's been like seeing me build my brand, and what it feels like watching his younger sister find love and get married. Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/9/20241 hour, 2 minutes, 36 seconds
Episode Artwork

Maintaining Independence in a Long Term Relationship

Ava Nouri, RD and host of the Loving Wellness podcast, joins us to discuss how to approach dating and relationships in a more loving and intentional way. Ava shares how relationships should be a vehicle for self discovery and how we can stay in gratitude in our relationships and not take our partner for granted. We hear how Ava and her partner successfully survived their years of being in a long distance relationship, and she opens up about how she’s maintained hre independence in her relationship.  Learn more and get in touch with Ava at https://www.avanouriwellness.com/ Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/4/202452 minutes, 33 seconds
Episode Artwork

Why You Should Stop Over-Romanticizing with Minaa B, LCSW

Minaa B, LCSW and author of Owning Our Struggles joins the show to share her expertise on healing and embracing our past experiences. We hear how everyone has something they can heal from and the accessible ways anyone can begin their healing journey. Minaa explains how we often contribute to our own suffering in dating by over romanticizing, and she breaks down how the stories we create in our minds are more rewarding than reality, which leads to more pain when something doesn’t work out.  Follow @minaa_b on Instagram, learn more at minaab.com, and get a copy of Owning Our Struggles wherever books are sold.  Say goodbye to your anxiety and say hello to relaxation with Sunset Lake CBD. Head to https://sunsetlakecbd.com/coupon/sop and use code SOP for 20% off your order.  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
4/2/202457 minutes, 15 seconds
Episode Artwork

From Hopelessly Single to Happily In Love

Nearly 8 months after coming on the podcast to commiserate up about being in a dating drought, Erica Shea is back on to share how she found her person and has built a happy and healthy relationship. Erica shares what changed for her in her dating life and mindset leading up to meeting him, their romcom worthy meet-cute, and how going slow allowed her to feel more secure. She shares how they both knew it was right, and we hear what it’s been like introducing each other to their families and planning to move in together soon. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/28/202454 minutes, 1 second
Episode Artwork

The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored

I'm joined by Brianna McCabe, author of "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" to discuss why it's so important to consider our role in the things that happen to us. We chat about how our self-worth, friendships, and alcohol consumption all relate to the dating and relationship experiences we have, and why it's incredibly important to look within at our personal red flags. We discuss behaviors we've exhibited in the past that we're horrified about now, why the answers are always right there in front of us, and why college drinking and hookup culture has gotten out of hand.  Get "The Red Flags I Repeatedly Ignored" on Amazon!  Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/26/202457 minutes, 14 seconds
Episode Artwork

I Moved Abroad and Found Myself (& Found Love)

I'm joined by my childhood friend Jordan who made a sudden move from New York to Amsterdam, four years ago. Jordan shares why she took the risk to move to a new country, how her family and friends reacted to the news, and what it was like picking up and starting a new life in a new place. Jordan opens up about how she approached making friends, establishing roots, dating, and feeling comfortable and at home in a foreign country. We hear how she met her now longterm boyfriend and what her fears were surrounding meeting someone abroad and how that would impact her future. Jordan gives us incredible advice for taking chances, making the most of life, and not having any regrets.  Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/21/202450 minutes, 14 seconds
Episode Artwork

How To Accept The Timeline You're On

Emma Wilson, Life Coach and host of the Turning 30 Podcast, joins the show today! Emma and I discuss how to navigate feeling like you’re falling behind. We about the pressure we’ve felt at different phases of our lives to have it all figured out and get to that next stage, and why it’s so much better to wait for the right person rather than saying yes to one you don’t feel sure about. Emma opens up about breaking off a four-year long relationship at the age of 33 and how instead of setting her back, it set her free. Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/19/202453 minutes, 55 seconds
Episode Artwork

“Overcoming My Body Image & Self Worth Insecurities”

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image.  My friend Elana Rubin joins the show today to open up about how her struggle with disordered eating and body image has impacted her self-confidence, relationships, and dating life. She shares how a conversation with a boy when she was fourteen changed the way she viewed herself and had a lasting impact on her self-worth. Elana vulnerably discusses how she's worked through her struggles, what she's learned in therapy, and where she's at now.  Check out Elana's horror comedy short film Scalped and follow along on Instagram @scalpedmovie   Unlock Jennifer-Anniston-Approved hair at Lolavie.com and get 15% off with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at checkout Find your new uniform at Jenni Kayne with promo code SOP for 15% off jennikayne.com  Get 50% off Factor’s delicious, ready-to-eat meals with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE50 at factormeals.com/seeingotherpeople50  Get $10 off your Nutrafol subscription at nutrafol.com promo code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/14/20241 hour, 7 minutes, 1 second
Episode Artwork

The Irish Yank: Becoming Mentally and Physically Stronger Changes Your (Dating) Life

I’m joined by celebrity fitness trainer, Daniel McKenna, AKA The Irish Yank, to hear about how becoming mentally and physically stronger can transform your confidence and change your dating life. We discuss why fitness has the ability to get someone through a difficult time, and how to get yourself to go to the gym if you’re intimidated. Daniel shares what he’s observed from his female clients when it comes to their dating lives. We hear what he wishes women understood about men and what he sees women struggling with in dating. We debate whether couples who work out together, stay together, and how we can rewrite a healthier narrative for ourselves surrounding going to the gym and working out.  Follow Daniel @theirish_yank, learn more at irishyank.com, and download Daniel’s incredible at home workout app at irishyank.app.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/12/202458 minutes, 30 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Learning From Past Dating Mistakes"

On this week's Unfiltered episode, I’m joined by Mitchell, a 26-year from Minnesota who shares his experience starting a situation off casual, but later having it turn to more. We discuss how "box theory" doesn't account for how dynamic we are as individuals and how our feelings are constantly evolving. Mitchell opens up about learning from each dating experience and relationship he's had, and how he holds himself accountable for not making the same mistake twice. Finally, we discuss the pros and cons of dating as an introvert. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/7/202448 minutes, 54 seconds
Episode Artwork

What To Look For When Dating To Find a Life Partner

Remi Stern, life coach, and her husband Jonathan are cohosts of the "You're Allowed to Hate Your Hubsand" podcast. Remi and Jonathan join the show to talk about what they were looking for when they met each other, the expectations vs. realities of marriage, and how they view marriage as a dedication vs. "work." Jonathan shares how he thinks women can approach dating in a better way, and we discuss how we can shift our mindsets to have less pain and more success in our dating lives and relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
3/5/20241 hour, 4 minutes, 23 seconds
Episode Artwork

Are Guys Overthinking Everything, Too?

I'm joined by Jacob, a 28 year old in NYC who opens up about going from a tumultuous, long distance, on again off again relationship to now being one year into a healthy relationship with someone he met on Hinge. We hear what his frustrations were when navigating the apps for the first time, what stood out about his now-girlfriend's profile, and how they stayed in touch when she went away for a few weeks after their first date. He shares how guys vs girls in his life approach dating when it comes to texting and overthinking. Finally, Jacob and I answer listener questions about exclusivity, photos of exes on Instagram, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/29/202442 minutes, 11 seconds
Episode Artwork

First Date Conversations You Need To Be Having with Garin Flowers

I'm joined by Garin Flowers, writer, journalist, communications expert, and former Bachelorette contestant. We chat about how long you should wait to see if chemistry develops, how to talk about your values and dating goals on a first date, and whether or not a first-date kiss is a reflection on how the date actually went. Garin shares what he learned about dating and confidence from being on The Bachelorette, as well as how being a journalist has helped him navigate communicating on dates. We answer listener questions about moving in with your partner against your parents' wishes, dates ending after going deep, and always being the 5th wheel.  Follow Garin on Instagram at @garinflowers, TikTok at @garinflowers and subscribe to Garin's Youtube Channel youtube.com/@gflowers Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/27/202449 minutes, 27 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Reconnected With My Ex After 17 Years & Learned THIS"

This weeks unfiltered guest joins us to open up about reconnecting with two people from her past, almost two decades later. She shares what she learned from the experience, what surprised her, and if she would recommend reaching out to your ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/22/202449 minutes, 27 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Believe You're Good Enough For What You Want

TW: This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders and body image. Dr. Rachel Goldman, PHD Psychologist and Speaker, joins the podcast to share her expertise on how to overcome some of the biggest challenges that women are facing when it comes to dating, self love, and confidence. We discuss the pressures that society and social media put on us when it comes to how to look, what we're doing, and what our timelines are. Dr. Rachel explains why we should strive to feel "good enough" in our daily lives instead of perfect. Follow Dr. Rachel on Instagram at @drrachelnyc and learn more at https://www.drrachelnyc.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/20/202450 minutes, 57 seconds
Episode Artwork

So You Don't Think You Have Time To Date?

My maid of honor Julia (!!!) and her fiancé Luke join the show to share their experiences dating while Julia went through medical school and now her residency. We hear what drew them to each other on Coffee Meets Bagel and how their app date turned into a livelong love story. We discuss what how their relationship changed when Julia became a med student, what sacrifices and compromises they each had to make, and how they worked through Julia’s demanding schedule together. We chat about their move to LA for her residency and what it was like moving across the country and moving in together at the same time. Finally, they give their best tips for anyone navigating a relationship where one partner is in school or has a job that requires a lot of their time and energy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/15/202457 minutes, 1 second
Episode Artwork

How to Stop Overcomplicating Your Dating Life

Talia Koren AKA @dating.intentionally and I sit down to discuss why dating is so damn hard and what steps we can take to make it suck less. We hear about Talia’s recent engagement, how she and her now-fiancé built a strong foundation, why she was dating other people when she met him, and how she gave a chance to someone who wasn’t her usual type. We discuss the importance of experimenting with different dating styles, testing out dating advice, and finding what works for you. We chat about love bombing vs. general interest, accepting that you and your ex weren’t compatible, dating a bad texter, and more.  Check out Dating Intentionally on Spotify and follow Talia at @dating.intentionally on Instagram   https://intentionally.dating/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/13/202453 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

Going After What You Want, Healing From Toxicity & Learning Hard Truths

Kristina Kane, Actress and Host of Dirty Daytini, joins the show to discuss some hard truths she’s learned throughout dating. We discuss the differences in dating in LA vs NY, how we healed from toxic relationships, going after what we want,  tailoring our profiles to help attract the right person, and more.  Follow Kristina on Instagram @itskristinakane and listen to @dirtydaytini wherever you get your podcasts!  Watch the Tyler Perry “Let Them Go” video here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/8/202447 minutes, 52 seconds
Episode Artwork

How To Not Settle & The Key To Confidence with Victoria Alario

Victoria Alario, Confidence Coach and Host of For The Girls podcast, joins the Seeing Other People family today. We discuss what safety looks and feels like in a relationship, how to stop falling for a version of someone you created in your head, and why you need to focus on how you feel about them instead of how they feel about you. Victoria shares her expertise on how to become more confident, why you shouldn’t let someone’s disinterest shake your confidence, and how to develop standards that stop you from settling for less than you deserve. Later, we answer listener questions about self sabotaging and what to do when an ex continues to go to all of your spots. Follow Victoria @victoria.alario and @forthegirls.podcast on Instagram and listen to For The Girls wherever you get your podcasts!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/6/202456 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

“I Had My First Kiss At 25"

I’m joined by Linda Panda, a DC-based woman in her mid thirties who opens up about how being raised in Utah with Asian parents impacted her dating life. She shares that while she didn’t have her first kiss until she was 25, a series of whirlwind romance stories would follow. We hear about her mindset with dating, how she’s approached meeting people off of dating apps, and why she’s open to finding a sperm done if she doesn’t find a partner. Follow along with Linda's adventures at @wanderwithpandalove on Instagram!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
2/1/202449 minutes, 23 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Find And Keep A Secure Relationship with @thesecurerelationship's Julie Mennano, LMFT, LCPC

Julie Menanno, MA, LMFT, LCPC, AKA @thesecurerelationship (1M+) joins the show today to share her expertise on the role that attachment theory plays in relationships. Julie shares advice on how to improve communication in relationships, how to stay connected during conflict, and how to approach difficult situations productively and lovingly. We hear why couples have the same fight over and over, the most common relationship issues she sees in her clients, what steps we can take to achieve secure love in our relationships, and the importance of learning how to self-regulate your emotions. Finally, Julie shares how she, as both a parent and a professional, has approached raising her six children.  Follow Julie on Instagram @thesecurerelationship and check out thesecurerelationship.com and juliemenanno.com for more Julie's book The Secure Love is out now wherever books are sold  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/30/202453 minutes, 43 seconds
Episode Artwork

"My Career Kept Me From Dating & Now I Feel Behind"

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Stephanie, a 32-year-old who opens up about being a late bloomer with little dating experience. We hear about what has held her back from dating, what it feels like trying to date now, how she has navigated friendships changing as people enter different life phases, and what she wishes people understood better about late bloomers. If you want to come on an Unfiltered episode, email me! Send your story to [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/25/202436 minutes, 6 seconds
Episode Artwork

Is Honesty The Best Policy & Is Ghosting Ever Okay?

Tinah Ogalo, host of In Your Twentys Podcast, makes her return to the SOP stage after a long year and a half. We hear about how Tinah put dating on the back burner as she focused on her her career, what it was like navigating her FGirl phase, and how she now feels about reprioritizing dating and getting back on the apps. Tinah and I debate splitting the bill, if texting ruined dating, day vs night dates, if ghosting is ever okay, what decade we would most want to date in, and so much more.  Follow Tinah on Instagram @Tinah.Ogalo, on TikTok at @tinahx and follow @inyourtwentys on Instagram and listen to the podcast wherever you get your podcasts!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/23/202451 minutes, 46 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I've Never Been In A Relationship Before"

I'm joined by a New Yorker named Maddie who opens up about never having been in a relationship before, and why she thinks it's her biggest green flag. We discuss why someone can still have relationship experience if they’ve never been in a relationship, how to navigate dating and relationship advice with friends, and why you shouldn’t feel like you’re falling behind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/18/202450 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

Is Being A Hopeless Romantic A Bad Thing?

I’m joined by comedian Tess Tregellas to discuss whether being a hopeless romantic is a blessing or a curse. We chat about what makes a date epic, why you should always shoot your shot, meeting people IRL, and Tess’s best and worst dating stories. Finally, we hear about Tess’s upcoming 4th wedding and why we all need to be a part of it.  Get tickets to wedding crashers here  Follow Tess @tesstreg on Instagram and @tesstregellas on TikTok  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/16/202454 minutes, 55 seconds
Episode Artwork

"The Health Issue I Faced That All Women Should Know About"

My cousin-in-law Angie joins the podcast to open up about a very serious medical issue she faced earlier this year. When Angie started experiencing lethargy, excess bleeding during her periods, hair loss, and frequent urination, her doctors chalked it up to stress and anxiety, and she chalked it up to "being 32." As her list of symptoms got longer and more intense, Angie found herself going to a series of doctors to figure out what was wrong. Angie learned there was a Fibroid growing in her uterus that needed to be surgically removed. All the while, she was helping her brother through a tragedy, taking over her law firm, and planning her wedding. Angie shares how she navigated this medical crisis, what she wished she knew before ever knowing what a Fibroid was, how it impacted her relationship, and what she wishes she knew. Uterine Fibroidsaffect up to 80% of women by age 50. 25-50% of those are symptomatic. Approximately 25% to 50% of women with fibroids are symptomatic, experiencing heavy menses, reproductive issues, pain, increased urinary frequency, and anemia. There is a general lack of awareness of fibroids among women and their potential health impact. One survey documented an average of 3.6 years to seek treatment, and 41% saw at least two healthcare providers before diagnosis. Advocate for yourself, ask your doctors questions, and reach out to me if you’d like to get connected with Angie! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/11/202448 minutes, 32 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ask The Guys Anything: Texting, Commitment, GF Material & More

Backed by incredibly popular demand, Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for the 4th episode of "Ask The Guys Anything." They answer your questions about whether or not guys are actually bad texters, how they would feel if their friend dated someone they used to date, if guys "know" in 1-2 months, and if guys put girls in boxes (hookup box vs girlfriend box). We disucss unmatching, assessing chemistry, ending on good terms, what would make a guy actually want to commit, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/9/20241 hour, 19 minutes, 4 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Second Chances Can Change Your Life"

UPDATE: Tyler proposed to Nikki while skiing in Colorado just days after recording this episode! I'm joined by Nikki, a 28-year-old woman who shares her story of reconnecting with her now-fiancé years after their first few dates. We hear how their relationship unfolded and led to a few years of long distance followed by moving in together. We discuss how things change when you move in with your partner, why it's important to keep learning about each other and growing together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/4/202447 minutes, 25 seconds
Episode Artwork

F The Fairytale with Damona Hoffman

I'm joined by Damona Hoffman, host of Dates And Mates Podcast, contributor to the Drew Barrymore Show, NPR, and The Washington Post, and author of F The Fairytale, a brand new book that you should order right this minute. Damona shares the four biggest dating myths that we need to ditch to find and build healthy, lasting relationships. We debate if we believe in soulmates, what should and shouldn't be on your checklist, why we can't rely on – or ditch – the dating apps entirely, and so much more. Grab a copy of F The Fairytale at fthefairytalebook.com!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
1/2/202454 minutes, 5 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ilana and Jake's 2023 Time Capsule: Date #351 - Date #476

Bonus episode! I sit down with my fiancé Jake (and Barkley) for our first annual recap recording all of our dates from the year! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/31/20231 hour, 1 minute, 22 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Spent 8 Years Searching For Closure"

TW: This conversation may triggering for those with sensitivities around rape and sexual assault. be I’m joined by a 30-year-old anonymous guest who opens up about searching for closure for eight years after her five year relationship ended. She shares how she reconnected with him after not speaking for years, and hear how she learned that closure is something you can get from someone else. Finally, we have a serious and candid conversation about our experiences with sexual assault. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/28/202356 minutes, 5 seconds
Episode Artwork

Facing Fears, Finding Joy, and Setting Goals – Ilana Unfiltered

Welcome to the Third Annual End of Year Episode! I sit down with my Associate Producer, Camila Vola, to reflect on 2023 and look ahead to 2024. We discuss my highs and lows of the year, biggest wins and biggest challenges, accomplished goals, and more. We talk about wedding planning, favorite episodes and guests, New Year's resolutions, mindset shifts, how to best approach dating in the new year, and so much more. Thank you guys for the best 2023 ever. Cheers to a happy and healthy 2024! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/26/202353 minutes, 2 seconds
Episode Artwork

Guys Get Their Hearts Broken Too (Ask Him Anything)

I'm joined by a 25-year-old male listener from South Africa, who shares the painful dating experience he recently went through and how he's navigating his healing era. Then he answer your questions about what guys want to see on a dating app profile, what to do if you're a bad texter, whether or not men put you in a hookup vs date box, what his dealbreakers are, if it matters which gender says ILY first, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/21/202348 minutes, 38 seconds
Episode Artwork

If You Feel Like You're Falling Behind, Listen To This

I'm joined by Beth Gulotta, LMHC, Founder and Owner of NYC Therapeutic Wellness, and host of Quiet The Clock Podcast. Beth and I discuss the societal pressures that many women face to meet their person, settle down, and have children all by a certain age. We hear how Beth met her now-husband at 34 and why she's glad she didn't meet him any sooner. We discuss why we should challenge society's expectations and pave our paths, how to overcome the feeling that you're falling behind, what to do if you feel like you're in a different life stage than your friends, and what we wish we could tell our single selves.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/19/202349 minutes
Episode Artwork

Textual Chemistry, Friendships Changing, and Marriage Fears. Solo Q&A

On this solo unfiltered, I'm answering your questions about fears I have for marriage, fighting in relationships, people having photos of their ex on their Instagram, friendships changing, how I knew Jake was the one, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/14/202338 minutes, 13 seconds
Episode Artwork

This Is How You'll Know If It's Right

I'm joined by health and wellness creator, Jordanna Drazin AKA The Daily Schvitz! We hear how Jordanna met her long-term boyfriend on Birthright while she was dating someone else. We hear how they ended up reconnecting once she was single, and how she wasn't sure if their first date was actually a date or a catch-up as just friends. We discuss changing in your twenties, maintaining independence in relationships, dating in eating disorder recovery, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/12/202351 minutes, 30 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How a 66-Year-Old Makes The Most Of Each Date"

I'm joined by a 66-year-old divorcee who opens up about looking for love a third time around. She opens up what she learned from her first two marriages, what she say if she could go back and give her younger self advice, and what she's looking for now. We hear about her dating app experiences including which apps she's using, what points she's experiencing, and how she makes the most of each date. Finally, she shares some hilarious date fails along with the best advice she has for all of us.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/7/202346 minutes, 25 seconds
Episode Artwork

Splitting The Bill, Dinner vs. Drinks & Red Flags We Missed

I’m joined by Dara Pollak and Kunal Arora, hosts of You Both Suck podcast, to decide once and for all what the best type of date is: dinner, drinks, or activities. We chat splitting the bill, whether or not there is such thing as too much therapy, and what red flags we missed in our last relationships. We answer listener questions about navigating a situation where you realize you don’t want something casual with someone you hooked up with, and how to find out if someone you met IRL is in a relationship or not.   Check out You Both Suck on Spotify! No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
12/5/202359 minutes, 19 seconds
Episode Artwork

Guys Don't Talk To Each Other About Dating Enough

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by Jason, a 34-year-old from Cape Town living in London. He shares how men rarely open up about their dating lives and feelings to each other, which can lead to a feeling of loneliness when going through something. He takes us through situations with four women he met last year on dating apps that all ended in a similar way. We hear what he's learned from these experiences, how they've impacted him, and what he's hoping for moving forward in his dating life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/30/202354 minutes, 17 seconds
Episode Artwork

Staying Positive When Dating Sucks

I’m joined by Dani Kravette, a longtime friend and 27 year old navigating modern dating in NYC. We chat about being a “boyfriend girl,” feeling surrounded by friends in relationships, and debate if someone’s reason for ending things actually matters. We dissect her Hinge profile, chat about not drinking on dates, discuss her dealbreakers, and cackle over her hilarious dating stories. No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/28/202359 minutes, 38 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Don't Forget To Take Time To Heal"

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a 40-year-old woman who opens up about getting divorced after 15 years of marriage to her high school sweetheart. She shares how their relationship changed over time and how they were able to end things on positive terms. We hear what it was like to be independent for the first time ever in her mid-thirties and how she processed the divorce by moving to LA and taking time to heal. Finally, we hear what it was like dating for the first time and what's been going on with the relationship she has been in for the past year.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/23/202342 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Guys Hate About Modern Dating with Scott Erickson

TikToker Scott Erickson joins the Seeing Other People family this week! He opens up about what led to his divorce, how he and his ex-wife have managed to stay friends, and the good, bad, and ugly about dating after divorce. We chat about the hardest part of dating apps and dating, traveling for first dates, when you should move in with your partner, how the death of a loved one impacts your dating life, and much more.  Follow Scott on Instagram @scotterickson13 and TikTok @thescotterickson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/21/202354 minutes, 43 seconds
Episode Artwork

“How I Got Through My Breakup”

I’m joined by an anonymous 25-year-old woman who lives in NYC and recently got out of a four-year long-distance relationship. We discuss the pros and cons of long-distance relationships, how we firmly believe that long-distance relationships need an end date, and how being long-distance helped her healing process once they broke up. She shares what has surprised her about dating in NYC, and at the very end of the episode, she tells us one of the most profound things any Unfiltered guest has ever said.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/16/202348 minutes, 24 seconds
Episode Artwork

If You're Sad You're Single, Listen To This with Leeor Gal, LMFT

I'm joined by Leeor Gal, LMFT, AKA The Therapy Gal, to discuss dating burnout and feeling anxious about never finding your person. We discuss mindset shifts for when you're feeling down about your relationship status, what to say to your annoying relatives during the holidays when they ask why you're still single, how to navigate the anxiety around approaching someone IRL, and more. Follow Leeor at @thetherapygal on tiktok and @the_therapy_gal on IG and check out thetherapygal.com to inquire about therapy!   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/14/202352 minutes, 34 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Wrong Person, Right Time"

I'm joined by a woman who opens up about an emotionally abusive relationship she was in and how she was able to grow and learn from it, and break her unhealthy dating patterns. We hear how he "removed labels" from the relationship and the emotional impact it had on her. impacted her, how he begged to stay friends after she learned he was cheating, and how he later came back and expressed how he wished he could have loved her. She shares what she's learned from dating podcasts and how she's applied them to her dating life to ultimately find a loving partner.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/9/202358 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

Your Dating Life Doesn't Suck As Much As You Think

We're celebrating your dating wins in this very special solo episode! I talk about the importance of staying positive and finding little wins every step of the way when dating. Then, I highlight your dating wins about firsts, vulnerability, prioritizing yourself, breaking bad habits, and more. No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/7/202342 minutes, 30 seconds
Episode Artwork

"If I Hadn't Gone To Therapy, I'd Still Be Unhappily Married"

I'm joined by a 29-year-old woman who recently divorced her husband of five years. She shares how she and her ex-husband grew apart throughout their marriage, to a point where their lives and futures were no longer aligning. She talks us through her decision to go to therapy hoping to fix her marriage, but how her therapist helped her realize that fixing it may not have been the answer. Finally, we discuss what she's looking for now and what her experience has been like dating and using dating apps for the first time as a 29-year-old divorcée.   No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off. This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
11/2/202342 minutes, 57 seconds
Episode Artwork

Stop Looking For The Perfect Person

I'm joined by Rebecca Marcus, LCSW, to discuss why we find ourselves in unhealthy dating patterns and how to stop. We chat about the importance of putting in the work, taking accountability, and recognizing when something isn't working for you. We answer listener questions about what to do if someone isn't making time for you and keeps rescheduling, how much couples should challenge each other, and how to navigate a situation where someone ends things with you but still wants to be friends.  Check out rmpsychotherapy.com and follow Rebecca on Instagram @rm.psychotherapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/31/202349 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

Where Do Me And Jake Draw The Line?

Jake and I sit down for a dramatic game of Where Do You Draw The Line to figure out what our relationship dealbreakers are. We debate topics like sharing locations, talking about exes, cheating, finances, prenups and more. Play Where Do You Draw The Line on your next date, with your bffs, or during family dinner! Grab your box at wdydtl.com/buy and use code ILANA for 20% off! This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/26/202344 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

Becoming Securely Attached After a Bad Relationship

Dr. Morgan Coaching, relationship coach, attachment theory expert, and host of Let's Get Vulnerable joins us today to discuss going from an unhealthy or traumatic relationship to a healthy relationship. We discuss where our attachment styles can come from, what steps we need to take to heal them, and how the research around attachment theory has changed overtime. We open up about our past traumatic relationships, how they imapcted us, and how we were able to move past them and find loving, healthy relationships. Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/23/202353 minutes, 29 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How Therapy Changed My Dating Life"

On this Unfiltered, I’m joined by a woman in her early-mid 30s who opens up about her therapy journey and how it transformed the way she approaches dating. We hear about what led to the breakup of her four year long relationship, how she approached her healing process, and what she did differently when she got back out there. Finally, we discuss dating as an expat, what it’s like being so far away from your family, and making new female friendships in your twenties and thirties. Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/19/202346 minutes, 51 seconds
Episode Artwork

Can You Actually Fall in Love in Six Weeks?

I'm joined by Natasha and Justine, cohosts of 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose, to hear what they've learned about modern dating, love and relationships from our favorite tv shows. We discuss which shows are most accurately portraying modern dating, what shows have started important conversations that we need to be having, and which shows we should be watching if we want to actually learn and grow. We voice our opinions on whether or not love is blind, if giving an ultimatum is ever a good idea, can you fall in love in six weeks, and more.  Check out 2 Black Girls, 1 Rose on Spotify and follow on Instagram at @2blackgirls1rose Ways to support Israel No more boring dates! Take your dates (or your relationship, wine nights, family dinners & more) to the next level with Where Do You Draw The Line, the best icebreaker game of all time. Grab yours at wdydtl.com/buy and enter code ILANA at checkout for 20% off.  This episode is sponsored by Regain Couples Therapy by Betterhelp. Give online therapy a try at regain.com/SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE and get on your way to being your best self. Take your glow to go with my favorite clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA. Get 10% off with code seeingotherpeople at oseamalibu.com  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/17/202355 minutes, 5 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How I Learned to Love Being Single"

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by a woman who opens up about ending an eight-year relationship, during which, she felt like nothing was wrong but she wasn't truly happy. We discuss what finally led her to end the relationship and what it was like being single for the first time at 27. We discuss navigating career changes, solo traveling, and how she came to the realization that the traditional setup of relationships might not be suited for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/5/202349 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

Stop Accepting The Bare Minimum

I'm joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of Everyday Endorphins, to talk about embracing singlehood, developing an abundance mindset, and not needing someone else to complete you. We discuss how we spent years accepting less than we deserved, how we've learend to speak up for ourselves, why we no longer put up with the bare minimum, why the high highs are never worth the low lows, how to communicate with someone who has a different communication style, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
10/3/202343 minutes, 48 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Never Expected Getting Pregnant Would Be This Hard"

I'm joined by Keren Longo AKA @mama.in.the.burbs to hear about her fertility journey. She opens up about her struggles to get pregnant, her experiences with IVF and IUI, the complications that arose along the way, her recent miscarriage, and more. She shares how she overcame all of these challenges, what she wishes she knew when she started trying to get pregnant, and what has kept her going throughout all of the ups and downs. Follow her journey at @mama.in.the.burbs and don't hesitate to reach out to her on IG with any questions you have. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/28/202349 minutes, 31 seconds
Episode Artwork

You Can't Lose Someone Who Was Never There For You with Carrie Berkk

I’m joined by Carrie Berkk, TikTok star, journalist, and author of My Real-Life Rom-Com to discuss how important it is to learn from each relationship and situationship (no matter how short-lived it is). We chat about how social media has impacted dating, why we need banish the phrase "moving on" from our vocabulary, how you can’t lose someone who was never there for you to begin with, and more. Follow Carrie on TikTok and Instagram at @carrieberkk and buy her book today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/26/202351 minutes, 21 seconds
Episode Artwork

How I Overcame My Dating Anxiety

On this solo episode, I open up about the biggest dating anxieties I faced when I was single, and more importantly, how I overcame them. I reflect on where they came from, how they impacted me, and what steps I had to take and lessons I had to learn in order to feel more comfortable and confident in my dating life.  Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/21/202343 minutes, 46 seconds
Episode Artwork

Make The Most Of Your First Dates

I'm joined by Joe Feminella, Founder & CEO of First Rounds On Me. Joe and I chat about the biggest challenges our generation is facing on dating apps and what we can do to fix it. We discuss all things first dates including: how to take the pressure off, conversations you should and shouldn't have, how to make the most of a date when you know in the first five minutes that you're not interested, and more. Plus, we answer lister questions about confidence, how to tell if he's into you or if he just wants to hook up, and what it means if he says he doesn't want a relationship early on. Download First Round's On Me in the app store today!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/19/202350 minutes, 12 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Create Dating Rules That Work For You"

Anonymous from the episode "It's Not Always Your Fault, Even If They Say It Is" is back on the podcast to talk about her experiences dating for the first time as a 30-year-old divorced single mom of three kids. We hear what she thought dating would be like vs. how it turned out, lessons the hard way, and what she wish she knew when getting out there for the first time. She opens up about the highs and lows of dating as a single parent, misconceptions about single moms, and what boundaries she sets surrounding her kids when it comes to her dating life. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/14/202353 minutes, 45 seconds
Episode Artwork

How To Actually Move On with Tonya Carter

I'm joined by Tonya Carter, Marriage/Relationship Exit Strategist, host of Purposely Thriving, and author of Divorce Your Story, to talk about how to effectively heal from a breakup. We discuss why your ex is a non-factor in your healing, the importance of acknowledging that the "what ifs" did not happen, and how to make peace with the closure you received. We answer listener questions about whether or not someone's reason for wanting to end things is genuine or an excuse, getting over a situationship when they're in your friend group, and more. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Upgrade your wardrobe and find your forever date night pieces at jennikayne.com/sop and get 15% off with code SOP at checkout  Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/12/202356 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

If You're an Anxious Dater, Listen to This Episode – Solo Q&A

On this solo episode, I'm answering your questions about when to give someone another chance, how to save your friendship with your best friend of your desired sex who you hooked up with, what to do when someone keeps talking but never wants to meet up, how to navigate never having been in a relationship before, and more. Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/7/202341 minutes, 29 seconds
Episode Artwork

Are You Holding Yourself Back in Dating? with Talia Bombola

Talia Bombola is a Psychoanalytic LMFT, Professor, Speaker, and the host of Heal Through Humor, and theco-host of The Couple’s Guide Podcast as well as Between Two Clinicians. Talia and I chat about where our own self-worth stems from and how important it is to learn about who you are in order to set yourself up for relationship success. We talk about how to notice and break unhealthy dating patterns, how Talia overcame her anxious attachment, and the importance of communicating your needs. Finally, we answer listener questions about dating someone who doesn't text you enough, getting dumped by someone who wasn't looking for something serious only to see them in a relationship a month later, and if you should be financially stable when actively dating.  Enter your chef era with me! Go to hellofresh.com/50sop and use code 50sop for 50% off PLUS free shipping.  Smell better naked and gain confidence with Lume’s whole-body deodorant! GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code SOP at LumeDeodorant.com. Take your glow to go with clean, vegan skincare and body care from OSEA and get 10% off your first order sitewide with code SEEINGOTHERPEOPLE at OSEAMalibu.com Get free shipping on orders over $75 on my favorite pieces from the Skims Fits Everybody collection at skims.com. After you place your order, let them know I sent you! Select “podcast” in the survey and then click seeing other people in the dropdown menu that follows.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
9/5/202356 minutes, 44 seconds
Episode Artwork

Dating Droughts, Leaving Situationships, and Healing your Heart

Erica Shea is back on the pod to catch up with us about taking time off from dating and finding the strength to end her most recent situationship. We talk about how it's normal (and sometimes beneficial) to be in a dating drought, how she knew it was time to end the situationship instead of continuing in discomfort, as many of us do. Later we discuss mindset shifts and laugh off some hilarious bad date stories.   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/31/202351 minutes, 27 seconds
Episode Artwork

It's Never Too Late To End Things

I’m joined by Iris Jardiel to chat about why she broke off her engagement to her longtime partner, Luke, who proposed on Temptation Island Season 4. We hear why they decided to go on the show, what it was like having their relationship tested, and how she felt when he proposed. She shares how she caught him cheating and wanted to believe he could change, but after repeatedly being proven wrong, she eventually found the courage to walk away. Finally, we hear how her life has changed for the better since leaving him.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/29/202347 minutes, 50 seconds
Episode Artwork

"He Wasn't Ghosting Me, He Was In A Coma"

I’m joined by an anonymous 27-year-old woman who opens up about starting to date someone and suddenly not hearing from him for days. She shares how she thought she was getting ghosted and assumed he blocked her, only to find out via Instagram that he was hit by a car and was in a coma. We hear how she processed this news, how she was not in a position to get updates on his condition because of how recently they had met, and how what led them to getting back in touch, and how they navigated their new friendship turned relationship. Finally, we discuss inter-abled dating, and how we’re so quick to judge people and often have limitations in our mind about who we can and can’t date. Please consider donating to Cody’s GoFundMe or sharing it with your network. Anything helps! https://www.gofundme.com/f/donate-to-codys-recovery Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/24/202351 minutes, 37 seconds
Episode Artwork

The Biggest Mistakes Women Are Making in Dating with Evan Marc Katz

I’m joined by Evan Marc Katz, the world’s first dating coach (2003!), four-time author, and host of the Love U Podcast. Evan and I chat about where women are going wrong in dating when it comes to taking breaks from dating, going on dates, and getting into relationships. We learn which dealbreakers matter, ways to figure out if a relationship is right and how to know if it’s time to leave. Evan helps answer listener questions about getting over someone, whether or not you’re wasting your time, and more. Head to evanmarckatz.com/ilana to get gifted resources from Evan!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/22/20231 hour, 1 minute, 2 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How Family Dynamics, Religion, and All Girls High School Shaped My Dating Life"

I’m joined by Liz Mina to talk about approaching dating from a place of security and curiosity rather than the fear of being alone. We chat about dating as an adult after never having romantic interests in high school, why society should stop putting pressure on people to find partners at a certain age, how being an only child has impacted her dating life, and the importance of having vulnerable conversations on early dates. Finally, Liz shares what it’s like dating as a Middle Eastern woman and how religion and family values have played a role in her relationships.  Follow Liz on TikTok @lizmina5 and on Instagram at @liz.mina Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/17/202355 minutes, 3 seconds
Episode Artwork

29 Things I Learned Before Turning 29

In honor of my 29th birthday, I spent time reflecting on some of the most meaningful moments, the biggest turning points, and the hardest lessons learned in my 28 years. I put together a list and I'm so excited to share them with you in this special episode. We cover life, love, friendship, career, family, and everything in between. Thanks for being on this journey with me and cheers to 29!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/15/202349 minutes, 53 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Go On The Date, Even If You're Not In The Mood"

I'm joined by Rachel Schwab, AKA @justbecauseitspretty, to discuss what her dating life was like before meeting her person and how she ended up getting engaged to her first ever Hinge date. She shares how she felt going into her first date with her now-fiancé, whether or not she was anxious after it, why she's glad they talked about exes on their third date, and when/how they DTRd. We hear how they navigated long distances while he was also a full-time medical student and how they communicated their needs. Finally, we discuss Instagram vs. Reality of getting engaged! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/10/202350 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

Why Are You Still Single?

TW: Eating disorders & body image struggles. Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek, my friends and the cofounders of Fourplay Social, are back on Seeing Other People. We discuss why the question "Why are you still single?" is so problematic and how society perpetuates the belief that we aren't complete until we find our partner. Danielle opens up about her struggle with body image and weight gain, sharing how it's held her back in her dating life along with ways she's worked to overcome her insecurities. We talk about do's and don'ts for getting your personality across on your profiles, why you should not write people off too soon, and what we've all learned from each other.   Follow Fourplay on Instagram and TikTok!  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/8/202354 minutes, 7 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Found Out He Was Married From A Facebook Group"

I'm joined by a 36-year-old woman who opens up about the relationship she found herself in shortly after getting divorced from her ex-husband of 11 years (and the father of her two children). We hear how she and this man met, what their relationship started out like, and how they soon developed a dominant/submissive relationship. She shares how she later found out he was still married and that she was not the only "other woman." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/3/202350 minutes, 47 seconds
Episode Artwork

Learning to Be Unapologetically Yourself with Laura Belgray

I'm joined by Laura Belgray, author of the book "Tough Titties: On Living Your Best Life When You’re the F-ing Worst" to discuss how to let go of what other people and society expect of you. We chat about embracing your flaws, owning your timeline, not comparing yourself to others, how your worth doesn't need to be attached to someone else liking you, and more. Laura shares her dating mishaps and adventures from when she was in her 20s, the pressure she felt to want to have children when she wasn't sure what she wanted, and the beautifully uncommon story of how she and her now-husband met.  Learn more about Laura at talkingshrimp.com, get the book at toughtittiesbook.com, and follow her on IG @laurabelgray Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
8/1/202353 minutes, 25 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Why Modern Dating Is So Annoying"

I'm joined by my friend Carly, aka @kicksbycarly, to talk about the most frustrating aspects of modern dating. We chat about matching with someone you're excited about and then the convo never going anywhere, multi-yearlong situationships, dating someone who lives too close to you, whether or not athletes are looking for something serious, seeing your friends get into relationships and feeling left behind, and more.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/27/202346 minutes, 8 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ask The Guys Anything: Dating App Edition

Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are back for another round of Ask The Guys Anything! We chat do's and don'ts for profile photos, prompts, and starting conversations. We debate whether or not you should send roses, slide into someone's DMs after seeing them on an app, whose responsibility it is to send the first message, and more.  Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/25/20231 hour, 14 minutes, 51 seconds
Episode Artwork

"1 year, 70 dates, 26 guys"

I’m joined by a 31-year-old woman who shares a series of relatable dating sagas that she’s experienced over the last few years including a drawn out situationship, developing feelings for a best guy friend, dating someone who is always working, and more. We hear how she wished she cut things off sooner in many of these situations and how she’s finally learned to ask for what she needs and speak up when something isn’t right. Plus, we dive into her dating stats from the past few years as she’s kept track of how many dates she’s been on. Spoiler alert: 2022 included 70 dates with a breakdown of 26 guys, 2+ dates with 12 guys and 3+ dates with 5 guys. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/20/202352 minutes, 3 seconds
Episode Artwork

Trusting your Gut, Being the Only Single one in the Friend Group, Wedding Planning Updates & more. Solo Q&A

Thanks for sending in your questions for today’s solo episode! We’re chatting: moving in before or after getting married, insecurities around dating someone a similar size, whether or not the relationship is doomed if he changed his mind about moving in together, how long I was on dating apps before I met Jake, when should you trust your gut vs. give someone the benefit of the doubt, how to navigate being single when your friends are all in relationships or getting married, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/18/202343 minutes, 19 seconds
Episode Artwork

"It's Not Always Your Fault, Even If They Say It Is"

I'm joined by a 29-year-old divorceé and mother of three who opens up about the emotionally and financially abusive realtionship. We hear what their relationship was like as high school sweethearts and how it evolved overtime and once kids were involved. She shares how he made her think she was always at fault, but how she stayed because she was so blindly in love with him and wanted to make it work. Finally, we hear what led them to ultimately call it quits, and how coparenting has been. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/13/202354 minutes, 59 seconds
Episode Artwork

Dating App Tips, Breakup Advice, When to Walk Away & more. Solo Q&A

On this week’s episode, I’m answering your questions about navigating the free versions of dating apps, what questions o ask when checking in with your partner, if it’s a good idea to reach out to someone who you regret hurting, what to do when you meet someone great who doesn’t want to take things further, getting over a breakup when you can’t avoid the person, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/11/202340 minutes, 10 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How to Embrace Being the Single Friend"

I’m joined by a 28 year old woman from Miami, FL. We chat about how to not feel down on yourself for being the only single one in the friend group, and how to instead embrace it and use it as a time to learn from the relationships your friends are in. We discuss feeling confident going into first dates, whether or not it matters when you sleep with someone, and ways to stay positive when you’re feeling behind. Finally, we hear about how she met her now-boyfriend and how she knew they could build a healthy relationship together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/6/202347 minutes, 9 seconds
Episode Artwork

Mindset Shifts To Change Your Dating Life

In this episode, we're breaking down how to approach dating in a less anxiety-producing way. We discuss mindset shifts and reframes for dating app usage, going on first dates, texting, and assessing feelings. We end on a well-needed reminder that yes, dating is hard and no, you're not crazy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
7/4/202342 minutes, 32 seconds
Episode Artwork

Find Yourself First, Then Find Your Person

Sarah Taplin, formelly known as Sarah Sasson, is making her comeback to Seeing Other People after a two-year hiatus. She last joined us on the episode "Learning to Love Your Single Self" shortly before meeting her now-husband, Ben. We hear how her self-discovery allowed her to grow into the preson she was when she and Ben met, and she shares what felt different this time around that indicated this was a healthy potential relationship. We discuss how her journey to explore her Judaism impacted her dating life, how she found someone who accepted her exactly where she was at, and the importance of discussing non-negotiables in the early stages of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/29/202346 minutes, 19 seconds
Episode Artwork

Confident Girl Summer

Brianne Helfrich, host of Welcome to the Collective and Founder/CEO of Helfrich Collective, is on the pod today! We chat about the definition of a relationship, how her breakup fueled her to start her own clothing brand, and how we've never "gone with grace" after being broken up with. We hear how she approached her phase of being single and going on a ton of dates, how she met her boyfriend of 2+ years right before making a big move, and how they created a strong foundation based on open communication and vulnerability. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/27/202342 minutes
Episode Artwork

We Survived Our Friendship Breakup

My friend Jamie is here! Jamie recaps what the beginning stages of her now 4 1/2 year relationship were like. We hear how she navigated her fiancé's mixed messages and we discuss why it's important to give people the benefit of the doubt if it feels right in your gut. Jamie and I open up about a friendship breakup that we went through 4 years ago as a result of her new relationship, which was with my ex's best friend. We hash out what happened, why it happened, and how we both could have approached the situation differently. Finally, we reminisce on our single years and share hilarious dating stories and things we wish we knew when we were single. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/22/202344 minutes, 20 seconds
Episode Artwork

It Matters Where Your Dating Advice Comes From

Victoria Aron and Paulina Siegel, Licensed Therapists and hosts of Shit Talking Shrinks, join the show today. First, we hear about how Paulina went from planning her engagement to healing from a blindsided breakup. Then, we discuss the art or giving and getting advice. We chat about how who you get your advice from and what you do with it matters. Finally, we answer listener questions about texting cadence, porn consumption, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/20/202355 minutes, 58 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Be Careful who you Date"

On this Unfiltered, I'm joined by an anonymous woman who lives in Dallas, Texas. She opens up about meeting someone on a dating app who she gets to know over the course of a few months. We discuss how he seemed smart, mature, trusting and put together, but she ended up finding herself in a dangerous and horrifying situation, drugged and left stranded in the middle of the street with no phone and nowhere to go in the middle of the night. We discuss dating safety tips, why it's important to have these conversations, and how she took a terrifying situaiton and used it to fuel a period of growth and self-love in her life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/15/202342 minutes, 53 seconds
Episode Artwork

Owning Who You Are & Finding Love After Heartbreak

I'm joined by Sierra Michelle Green, former cohost of Fingers Crossed Podcast and bride-to-be! We shoot the shit about her seemingly epic bachelorette party and my *breaking news* decision to not have one. Later, Sierra opens up about how she met her fiancé shortly after going through a traumatic, emotionally abusive relationship. We talk about healing, reclaiming who you are, expressing how you feel to someone early on, learning your worth, and so much more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/13/20231 hour, 8 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Coworkers with Benefits"

I'm joined by an anonymous woman who opens up about her 2+ year long, on and off, friends with benefits situationship with her coworker. We hear how things started, what boundaries and rules they laid down in order to make it work, and if they really set themselves up for success. She shares how feelings started to complicate things, how they prioritzed their friendship, and if they ended up turning things into a relationship or cutting it off completely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/8/202344 minutes, 38 seconds
Episode Artwork

Don't Let Anxiety Ruin your Dating Experiences with Lillian Rishty, LCSW

I'm joined by Lillian Rishty, LCSW and Therapist at NYC Therapy Group, to discuss how to navigate your dating anxiety at every step of the dating process. We talk about ways to self-sooth your anxiety on the apps, before the date, after the date, as feelings get involved, when facing rejection, and everything in between. Lillian and NYC Therapy Group are accepting new clients! Check out nyctherapygroup.com for more info.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/6/202346 minutes, 8 seconds
Episode Artwork

Am I Too Independent to Find Love?

I'm joined by an anonymous 31 year old woman who opens up about her journey to find self acceptance in her single hood. She shares how she felt more pressure in her 20s to find her person, but as the years went on, her fierce independence and love for the life she’s built for herself became more apparent. We discuss the joys of singlehood, how she feels about the possibility of never finding a life-partner, her approach with going on dates, what led her to learn her worth and put herself first, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
6/1/202345 minutes, 45 seconds
Episode Artwork

Healing Your Heart & Learning to Love Yourself with Gabrielle Stone

Gabrielle stone, host of FML Talk podcast joins the show today. Gabrielle opens up about how getting cheated on by her ex husband and getting her heart broken shortly after led her to embark on a soul-searching, solo adventure to Europe, and then write her book, Eat, Pray, #FML about it. Gabrielle shares how she recovered from her trauma and heartbreak, why she had a fear of abandonment and how she worked to overcome it, what lessons she learned through her experiences, and how she embraced her past instead of hiding it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/30/202348 minutes, 36 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Dating in NYC: The Good, The Bad, The Ugly"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Amanda, a New York City dater who has a myriad of dating horror stories to share. We commiserate about the good, the bad, the crazy, the hilarious, and even the scary things that Amanda has encountered while navigating modern dating and dating apps. Most importantly, Amanda opens up about how she maintains hope that her person is out there.  Amanda’s DMs are open! Slide in @amandalgerard Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/25/202340 minutes, 24 seconds
Episode Artwork

The Art to Having a Roster

Allana Blumberg, lifestyle and wellness creator and host of Morning Rae podcast, joins the show today. Allanna and I chat shifting your mindset from focusing on dating to focusing on yourself, getting stuck in situationships, masculine vs feminine energy and how it impacts your dating life, whether or not you should have a roster (and how to build one), if there’s a difference between being in a relationship vs being exclusive, and more. Follow Allana on instagram @allanablumberg and TikTok at @allanablumberg and listen to Morning Rae wherever you listen to podcasts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/23/202354 minutes, 11 seconds
Episode Artwork

Deciding to DTR, Moving in Together, Wedding +1s and more. Solo Q&A

I’m joined by…myself! On this solo episode, I’m answering a bunch of questions that you guys sent in! We’re chatting life & wedding planning updates, how to feel if your partner doesn’t get included as a +1 on a wedding invite, how to prepare for and know when you are ready to move in with your partner, what to do when the person you’re seeing has a family bereavement or illness, if/when/how to tell the person you’re seeing that you’re a virgin, what to do if they want to be official but you’re not yet sure how you feel, and more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/18/202344 minutes, 23 seconds
Episode Artwork

Dealing with Rejection, Dating to Marry, and Sneaky Links with Carly Weinstein

I’m joined by Carly Weinstein, content creator and host of Hot Girl Talks, to chat all about the biggest pain-points in modern dating. We discuss whether not having a sneaky link is holding you back from finding the real deal, being single in college for the first time, whether or not her social media presence impacts her dating life, how to navigate feeling rejected IRL when your friends are getting approached at bars, and more. Follow @carly_weinstein on Instagram and @carlyweinstein on TikTok and listen to Hot Girl Talks wherever you listen to podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
5/16/202345 minutes, 12 seconds
Episode Artwork

You Don't Need Alcohol to Have Fun on Dates

I'm joined by Zoe Scurletis, host of Solace and the City, recent Sober queen, and soon-to-be therapist. Zoe opens up about making the decision to become sober, how it's impacted her mental health, and what it means for her dating life. We talk about situationships, what to do when someone says they're "not looking for something serious: or are working on themselves, closure, what we've learned in therapy, and more.
5/11/202349 minutes, 15 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ask the Guys Anything with Sam & Joey

Our favorite guys, Sam Panitch and Joey Lane, are back for another round of “Ask the Guys Anything.” This time we’re talking about who should pay (and if he wants you to reach for your wallet), what guys want to see on your dating app profiles, the right moment for a first kiss, and how to tell if he’s ghosting you. We discuss repeat matching with someone but never getting into a conversation, how to feel if your friend starts seeing someone from your past, the one that got away, and more.  Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast We’re celebrating Mental Health Month this May with Adobe Express. Click here to create your own mental health checklist or share a mental health reminder with a friend. 
5/9/20231 hour, 16 minutes, 21 seconds
Episode Artwork

The Jonas Brothers Episode

I can't believe I'm saying this...The Jonas Brothers are on today’s episode of Seeing Other People! I sit down with Nick, Joe, and Kevin Jonas to discuss their music, marriages, fatherhood, and brotherhood. They share the inspiration behind the lyrics and sound on The Album, their favorite memories as brothers and as a band, and which songs and venues they are most excited about performing on The Tour. We hear how becoming fathers has impacted them personally and professionally, how they overcame creative disagreements when working on The Album, what chapter of their personal growth journeys has had the biggest impact, and what relationship advice they would give us.
5/4/202339 minutes, 47 seconds
Episode Artwork

Building Confidence & Knowing your Worth with Gigi Robinson

Gigi Robinson, Chronic Illness Advocate, Creator Economy Speaker, and Author of A Kid’s Book About Chronic Illness, is back on the podcast a year and a half after her previous episode: “Chronically Single.” Gigi opens up about the inner work she did when she was single and for the spills the tea about her new relationship. We hear how she met her now boyfriend, what led her to feel comfortable with him, and what they’ve done to create a healthy foundation. We chat about building confidence, knowing your worth, balancing career and relationships, navigating insecurities, and more. Follow Gigi @itsgigirobinson on Instagram and TikTok
5/2/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 56 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Want to Be Known for Something Other than Who I'm Dating"

I'm joined by Bianca, a 31-year-old single mother, and career-focused psychiatric registered nurse. Bianca opens up about how her previous heartbreaks led her down a path of introspective work and healing. She shares how she’s worked through codependency and her anxious attachment styles, and how she’s shaped her now-positive and healthy mindset around dating. Follow Bianca at @biancakoko on Instagram.
4/27/202347 minutes, 38 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Move On from Someone You Loved with Natalie Barbu

Natalie Barbu, Youtuber, Founder of Rella, and Host of The Real Reel, joins the show today to talk all about ending a four-year-long relationship. We hear why things ended, her fears surrounding the breakup, and what it’s been like to get back out there. Natalie walks us through her healing process from day 1 through now, eight months later. She shares what helped her move on the most, moments where she had regrets about the breakup, and how she’s now having fun being single and enjoying her twenties without feeling pressure to find someone.  Follow Natalie on Instagram at @nataliebarbu and TikTok at @nataliebarbu
4/25/20231 hour, 1 minute, 17 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Lost Myself in my Relationship"

This episode my be triggering to those with sensitivities around domestic violence and acts of physical and verbal abuse. I’m joined by a woman who opens up about the abusive relationship that she was in. We hear how the relationship started, when things took a turn, whether or not she realized she was a victim of domestic violence, why she stayed with him for as long as she did, and what finally helped her leave. If you or someone you know is a victim of domestic violence, help is available. The National Domestic Hotline is here to listen with confidential support 24/7/365. Call 800-799-7233
4/20/202355 minutes, 11 seconds
Episode Artwork

Modern Dating Sucks – Here’s How We Fix It

We have a solo episode this week! I’m sharing what has been upsetting me about modern dating and what I would do to change it if I had a magic wand. Later, I answer listener questions about whether or not we are limiting ourselves off by having specific things we’re looking for in a person, how to navigate having feelings for your best friend, and what to do when someone comes back two weeks after ending it.
4/18/202347 minutes, 7 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Finding Love while Finding Yourself"

I’m joined by Taylor, a 24 year old woman living in Los Angeles who shares her experience dating with chronic health issues. Taylor’s life was turned upside down 2 years ago in a matter of 24 hours when she started experiencing what she now knows is long-COVID. Taylor opens up about dealing with her loss of identity, struggling to do certain physical activities on dates, having to reschedule dates because she’s not feeling well, and when/how to explain her diagnosis to someone new. Get in touch with Taylor @taylorrumm on Instagram!
4/13/202349 minutes, 15 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Do Men Really Want? + Q&A with The Guys

Sam Panitch and Joey Lane are here to provide the male perspective on your burning dating questions and confusing scenarios. Sam and Joey share what they wish they could change about modern dating along with misconceptions women have about men when it comes to finding love. We answer listener questions about liking thirst traps on Instagram, why he likes your stories but doesn’t text you back, how long it takes for a guy to know if he wants something serious with you, if guys and girls can just be friends, and the best and worst questions asked on dates. Sam and Joey share whether or not they want a girl to text them thank you after a date, if it’s okay for a girl to text a guy first, and what it means if they take a long time to text you back. We discuss reconnecting with exes, how to tell if you’re being strung along, what to do if they don’t know what they’re looking for, and more. Follow Sam @sam_p_Panitch and check out Elevation Nation Follow Joey @thejoeylane on IG and @Joeysmoke14 on Twitter and check out Drive The Lane Podcast
4/11/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 10 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How to Catch a Cheater"

Unfiltered: Anonymous joins the podcast to share her healing process from being cheated on, including what steps she took to recover and what finally led her to getting back out there. We hear how she meets her next boyfriend, how he's the polar opposite from her ex, and what green flags he gave off. She share how the relationship unfolds, suspicions she has along the way that he may be cheating, how he reassures her that he isn't, and why she stays. We talk about going through someone's phone, how many times can you give someone the benefit of the doubt, and why being cheated on is not about you. Lastly, we discuss how she's come to terms with her past but doesn't believe that just because her two exes have cheated on her does not mean that every other person she dates will.
4/6/20231 hour, 5 minutes, 18 seconds
Episode Artwork

This is Seeing Other People

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles.   Real people, real stories, real life.
4/4/202352 seconds
Episode Artwork

What to Do if You Miss Your Ex

We kick off the episode with some of this week's dating wins and an update on my wedding venue search! Then I'm joined by Carly Silverman to answer your questions about if it's still okay to ask someone to facetime before a date (and how to pop the q), when is the right time to move in with your partner, accepting a missed connection, what to do if you're talking to a bad texter, how to move on when you wish things hadn't ended, what to do if you're still thinking about your ex, and more. Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on TikTok!
4/4/202351 minutes, 48 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Stop Putting Pressure on Yourself"

I'm joined by a 28-year-old man who shares the story of a short-lived but very intense dating experience that lead him down a path of self-discovery and growth. We hear how their connection was off to a great start on the apps, how it felt like they've known each other forever on their first date, and how they each had a "second date curse" and "third date curse" that they wanted to overcome. He opens up about why she ended it, the feedback she gave, and what mistakes he made that he was able to see in hindsight. He shares his therapy journey, what he's learned, and how he plans to approach dating differently in the future.
3/30/202351 minutes, 32 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Stay Positive when Modern Dating Sucks with Carly Silverman

Carly Silverman is back on the pod to help me answer listener questions! We talk about why we're so frustrated by influencers making grand statements about how much sex you should be having, why we always question “what’s wrong with me,” how we get so in our heads and make wrongful assumptions, accepting that not everyone is going to like you, how to stay positive when you keep losing hope from the dating world, and more. Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on tiktok and @carlysilverman on Instagram!
3/28/202346 minutes, 9 seconds
Episode Artwork

"He Was Sleeping with His Ex"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by an anonymous woman who shares the story of a two year long situationship turned relationship filled with anxiety, manipulation, and infidelity. She opens up about why she gave him so many chances, why it was easier to stay in a broken relationship than it was to leave, and what finally pushed her to her breaking point. We hear about her healing process, how it impacted her mental health, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar.
3/23/20231 hour, 3 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

I'M ENGAGED!

My fiancé Jake (AH!) joins me to recap our proposal week! We answer your questions about when we knew we wanted to marry each other, if/when we talked about a timeline for getting engaged, and if he asked my parents’ permission. We dive into our ring-making process, what “ring shopping” was like, how far in advance he got the ring, and more. Finally, we talk about our proposal day, whether or not I knew, and how the proposal unfolded. Jake shares his thoughts going into popping the question, and I open up about how it felt in the moment when he got down on one knee. Thanks to everyone who has been a part of our love story and shoutout to our families for making this such a magical week. Shoutout to our amazing jeweler, Scott at Flawless Carat! Get in touch for the ring (or any jewelry) of your dreams https://flawlesscarat.com/ [email protected]
3/16/202349 minutes, 11 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Express Your Needs

I’m joined by Ariella Azaraf, LCSW, to talk about expressing your needs, setting boundaries, and managing your dating anxiety. We discuss the language to use when you want to communicate about your needs (or your needs not being met) to someone new, when and how to trust your gut and intuition, coping with being blindsided, and what to do when you’re fresh out of a breakup and are afraid to go to the places that remind you of them. Ariella shares her expertise on where your anxiety comes from, what to do in moments of high anxiety, and how you can work towards healing your anxious attachment. Ariella’s practice is currently accepting new clients! Check out www.ariellaazaraflcsw.com for more info and to get in touch.
3/14/20231 hour, 11 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Stop Overthinking

I’m joined by Sabrina Bendory, Author of “You’re Overthinking It” and “10 Things Every Woman Needs to Know About Men.” Sabrina shares insight into what men really want, red flags that you should never ignore, and how we can stop overthinking. We discuss how to stop obsessing over someone early on, whether or not you should date multiple people at a time, mistakes we made in our dating lives, and whether or not men marry the woman in front of them when they’re ready.
2/28/20231 hour, 2 minutes, 34 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Learning to Accept Myself"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Laurina Sachetti, host of Funny Girl Podcast to talk about her experience embracing her sexuality. We learned what led her to become pansexual (and what that means), what signs she saw and may have ignored, and how she began to experiment dating people of different genders and sexual orientations. Laurina shares how the queer community has embraced her, how she navigates telling someone she’s queer when on a date, and what differences she’s noticed between dating men and dating other genders.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
2/23/202354 minutes, 29 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Be a Better Listener

I’m joined by Orly Israel, founder of Orly’s Listening Table, to discuss all things listening and communication. We hear about why he started Orly’s listening table, what he’s learned from it, and the impact it’s had. We discuss how to practice being a better listener, when should you just listen vs offer advice, what to do when you disagree with someone who is venting to you, tips for spicing up communication in your daily lives, the craziest stories he’s heard while doing Orly’s listening table, and more.  Check out @orlyslisteningtable for more!  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
2/21/20231 hour, 18 minutes, 4 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Can Relationships End on Good Terms?"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Julia Mazur, host of Pretty Much Done and former Tinder employee, to discuss her journey leaving a toxic relationship, learning to love herself, what she’s learned from her recent breakup, how she overcame the societal / internal pressure to get married and start a family, and more. We hear how her she ended her previous relationship on good terms, what it was like working at Tinder, and more.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
2/16/202357 minutes, 23 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Dating in Different Countires"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by Kyla who shares her experiences dating people from all around the world during her solo travels. We hear what led her to start traveling on her own, how she went about meeting people, the differences in her dating experiences abroad vs in America, what she learned from dating in different countries, and more. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
2/9/202340 minutes, 18 seconds
Episode Artwork

Don't Believe What You See on Social Media with Hilary Weinstein, LCSW

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW, founder of HLW therapy to discuss what she has learned while going through the most difficult time of her life. Hilary opens up about getting engaged as her mother’s four year battle with ovarian cancer was coming to a devastating end. We discuss the lack of transparency on social media, how we compare ourselves and our lives to others based on what we see online, and how everyone’s high highs are on display while the low lows are kept behind closed doors. We chat about our fears surrounding being more transparent online, our individual struggles with social media, her advice to anyone going through a similar situation, and more.  Get your $25 credit for your inKind dining experience at https://inkind.vip/sop Head to athleticgreens.com/sop for a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 free travel packs with your first purchase of AG1 RSVP to our Galentine's Day Party today, Feb 7th and Fck Valentine's Day Mixer on Feb 10th Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
2/7/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

Blindsided Breakups, Dating App Tips & Meeting People IRL

I’m joined by Morgan Raum, Lox Club’s Head of Membership and creator of @tooomuchfoood. Morgan opens up about taking it slow at the start of a new relationship, the pressure of being their +1 at weddings in the early stages of dating, and the blindsided breakup she recently went through. We chat about the biggest mistakes people are making on dating apps and how to improve your profile. Finally, we discuss Morgan’s viral “I’m Single” series where she became known as the girl who walked around parks, concerts, and parties with a sign on her phone that said “I’m Single” as a method of meeting people IRL.  Get your $25 credit for your inKind dining experience at https://inkind.vip/sop Shop Morgan's "I'm Single" hat collection here RSVP to our Galentine's Day Party on Feb 7th and Fck Valentine's Day Mixer on Feb 10th Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/31/20231 hour, 17 seconds
Episode Artwork

When to Call it Quits & How to Get Back Out There

I'm joined by Rudy A, TikToker and host of the Rude Advice podcast. We discuss how he went from being happily married to having an affair, why he and his ex-wife decided to finally call it quits, and what going through his divorce was like. Rudy shares his advice for healing after a breakup or divorce, rediscovering yourself / rebuilding your life, and getting back out there. We answer listener questions about dating someone who isn't on the same page about wanting to get married, why someone would be cuddly after sex if they aren't planning to see you again, what to do after hooking up with your coworker, and more. RSVP to our Galentine's Day Party on Feb 7th and Fck Valentine's Day Mixer on Feb 10th Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/24/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 46 seconds
Episode Artwork

"My Ex-Wife Realized She's a Lesbian 14 Years into Marriage"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who tells the story of how his 14-year marriage ended because his wife realized she was a lesbian. We hear how he reacted to the news, and how he and his ex-wife created a wonderful co-parenting situation filled with gratitude, empathy, and flexibility. He opens up about falling in love, with a woman we refer to as “A,” soon after he dipped his toe back in the dating pool. He shares how this relationship was the best six months of his life, while also being filled with anxiety, guilt, and pain because she wasn’t okay with him remaining friends with his ex-wife. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/19/202348 minutes, 14 seconds
Episode Artwork

"When You 'Do Everything Right' & It Still Doesn't Work Out"

UNFILTERED: I'm joined by a man who went through a painful breakup in Mid-August. We hear how the situation spawned a lot of self-discovery and growth in the past four months as he's been healing, learning, and reflecting. We discuss how to read mixed signals, what to do when someone isn't ready to commit but you are, and how to process the feedback that "you did everything right," but it didn't work out anyway. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/12/202350 minutes, 33 seconds
Episode Artwork

Talk About Sex Before Having It

I’m joined by Tatiana Fogt, sexuality educator and host of Bedside, a podcast series & activist platform, where she explores sexual health & wellness in the digital age. We discuss having non awkward dialogues surrounding sex, setting clear boundaries, and assessing someone’s intentions. Tatiana answers listener questions about porn consumption, whether you should discuss how you would handle an unplanned pregnancy before having sex with someone, what to do if your sex drive and your partner’s sex drive don’t match up, and more. Head to athleticgreens.com/sop for a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 free travel packs with your first purchase of AG1 ILANADGIFT20 for 20$ off your order of $100+ at Lunya.co liquidiv.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off mindstewellness.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off glosslab.com free manicure for first-timers with referral code ILANA6E6F Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/10/20231 hour, 13 minutes, 33 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Surviving and Thriving After a Toxic Relationship"

I'm joined by a 30 year old woman who shares the story of her two year long toxic relationship involving cheating, manipulation, and emotional abuse. She shares how the relationship started off like a fairytale, but then became an endless cycle of explosive fights, and silent treatments followed by outpours of affection and apologies for his behavior. We discuss if the bad times were worth the good times, the red flags she now sees in hindsight, and what advice she would give to anyone going through something similar. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/5/20231 hour, 43 seconds
Episode Artwork

Adulting 101: Dating Mistakes, Losing Dream Jobs, and Friendship Breakups

On this episode, I’m joined by Carly Silverman and Dani Katowitz, two of my good friends who I met via social media in 2022. We discuss all things navigating your twenties from career to friendship to dating to mental health and social media. We open up about getting let go from our “dream jobs,” the pressure we put on ourselves to find boyfriends, how we realized that some of our friendship weren’t serving us, why we feel like we need to people please, what advice we would give to our younger selves and more.  Follow Carly @carlyrsilverman on Tiktok and Instagram Follow Dani at @hold_the_fries on Instagram and @dani.katowitz on TikTok  Enter to win a matchmaking membership with Three Day Rule Matchmaking by joining their database at threedayrule.com/ilana. The winner will be selected on 1/10 and will receive 1:1 matchmaking, a lifestyle photo session, and date coaching. Sponsors: Head to athleticgreens.com/sop for a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 free travel packs with your first purchase of AG1 liquidiv.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off mindstewellness.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off glosslab.com free manicure for first-timers with referral code ILANA6E6F Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
1/3/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 20 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ilana's 2022: Highs & Lows, Lessons Learned, My Struggles & More

I’m joined by my associate producer, Camila Vola, to reflect back on 2022 and look ahead to 2023. We discuss my highs and lows, what lessons I learned, who had the biggest impact on my year, challenges I overcame, and goals I accomplished (plus goals I did not). I open up about my fears, what I’m self-conscious about, and what my struggles are with this career path. We chat about favorite episodes, the best pieces of advice, what I want to accomplish in the new year, and more.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/29/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

Pressure & Expectations from Family & Culture

I'm joined by South Asian Therapist Fatema Jivanjee-Shakir, LMSW, to discuss the nuances of South Asian dating culture and how much emphasis our society places on marriage. We discuss the shame and secrecy around dating in South Asian culture, how individuals are expected to not date in their teenage years and get married in their early twenties, the intersection of food and body image with dating and relationships, and more. Fatema shares advice on how to become more confident in your own skin and identify your own values so you can live the life that feels most right for you. Follow Fatema @yoursouthasiantherapist on Instagram. Head to Jackpocket.com to download Jackpocket and use code PEOPLE at checkout to get your first lottery ticket free. Must be 18 or older to play. Jackpocket is not affiliated with any State Lottery. If you or someone you know has a gambling problem and wants help, residents of NY call 1-877-8-HOPE-NY; residents of OR call 1-877-MYLIMIT; all others, call 1-800-GAMBLER. Please visit jackpocket.com/tos for full terms of service. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/27/20221 hour, 3 minutes, 40 seconds
Episode Artwork

"I Caught Him Cheating and Took Him Back"

UNFILTERED: An anonymous listener shares the story of the relationship she was in over the last year where she caught her boyfriend cheating on her. We hear how the relationship began, when and how she found out he was being unfaithful, if she confronted him about it, and why she decided to take him back. She shares if she was able to truly forgive him, if the relationship was able to progress forward, how her loved ones felt about the situation, and how it impacted her mental health and self worth. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/22/20221 hour, 39 seconds
Episode Artwork

The Biggest Challenges that Couples are Facing + Listener Q’s

I'm joined by Zac Stern, Founder, and CEO of Official, the app for enhancing your relationships. We discuss why dating apps aren’t setting us up for relationship success, the biggest challenges that couples are facing right now, and why we’re so afraid to communicate with our crushes and partners. Zac walks us through what led him to start Official and why we’re more comfortable on our phones than IRL. We answer listener questions about date ideas, how to identify someone’s intentions, are they not interested if they didn’t ask for your number, can a girl change an fboy, are men honest when writing what they’re looking for on the apps, and more. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/20/202252 minutes, 41 seconds
Episode Artwork

So You Have a Crush on Your Coworker? with Kristen and Sam

I'm joined by Kristen and Sam, my friends who are getting married in 2023 who – you guessed it – met at work. We hear how Kristen was crushing on Sam from afar and what steps she took to assess if there was mutual interest and make her move. They share Sam's initial hesitations, how they navigated the early stages of figuring out what was between them while keeping things professional, and if they told their colleagues that they were together. We discuss getting over your work crush who isn't interested in you, handling breakups in the workplace, differentiating between work spouse feelings vs. romantic feelings, and more. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/15/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 47 seconds
Episode Artwork

Avoiding, Leaving, and Recovering From Narcissistic Relationships with Dr. Jaime Zuckerman

I'm joined by narcissism expert and licensed clinical psychologist Dr. Jaime Zuckerman. We discuss the difference between a toxic relationship and a narcissistic relationship, early signs someone might be a narcissist, the difference between love bombing vs. someone being really interested in you, if a narcissist can ever change, and what causes someone to become a narcissist. We discuss how to spot narcissistic characteristics in friends and family members, what to do if your friend is dating a narcissist, why it takes on average 7 attempts to leave a narcissistic or abusive relationship, and what to do if you realize you're in a narcissistic relationship. Check out Dr. Z's work at https://www.drjaimezuckerman.com/ and follow along on Instagram at @dr.z_psychologist.  Crush your holiday shopping list and find the best gifts for your parents at parentpresents.com Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/13/20221 hour, 1 minute, 25 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Neurodiversity in Modern Dating"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Hannah, a 28-year-old woman who shares her experience living and dating with ADHD. We hear when and how she got her diagnosis and in what ways her ADHD impacts her day-to-day life and her dating life. Hannah helps answer listener ADHD-related questions including dealing with a lack of texts, how your non-ADHD partner can best support you, when to mention your ADHD to someone new, how to avoid overpowering the conversation and interrupting someone, what to do when someone tells you ADHD isn’t real, and more. Listen now wherever you listen to podcasts. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
12/8/202252 minutes, 7 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Men Wish Women Did Differently in Dating with Tripp Kramer

I’m joined by Tripp Kramer, world-renowned dating men’s dating coach and host of the “How to Talk to Girls” podcast. Tripp and I discuss the biggest misconceptions that men and women have about each other and what men wish women did differently in dating. We answer listener questions from women about assessing interest, paying for dates, friend zoning, bringing up exclusivity, and nerves going into your first trip with a new significant other. We answer questions from guys about when to make a move, sending the post-date follow-up text, staying motivated when you’re having no luck, showing interest while still taking it slow, and relaxing through the process of finding love.  Try MacicMind at magicmind.co/seeingotherpeople & get 20% off of your one-time purchase or 40% off your subscription for the next 10 days with my code seeingotherpeople.  Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #Ad Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/29/202259 minutes, 21 seconds
Episode Artwork

Situationships, Approaching Someone IRL & First Date Anxiety

Happy Thanksgiving! In this episode I answer listener questions about how to enjoy the holidays when you're single, how to get over a situationship when you're in the same friend group, what to do if the idea of going on a date causes so much anxiety, tips for bonding with your significant other's family, advice for believing your healthy relatioship is real, what to do when things ended but you see them every time you go to the gym, and more. Schedule a 1:1 with me at https://direct.me/ilanadunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/24/202245 minutes, 50 seconds
Episode Artwork

Make Your Own Dating Rules with Eli Rallo

I’m joined by Eli Rallo, writer, content creator, host of the podcast Miss Congeniality, and Author of “I Didn’t Know I Needed This” coming out next Fall, 2023. Eli and I discuss how to create your own rules that work for you in dating, what to do if you get ghosted, and combatting loneliness and seasonal depression. Eli shares how she manifested her boyfriend and teaches us a Manifestation 101 lesson. We answer listener questions about making new friends in a new city, moving in with your partner, accepting that you went off on someone and said things you regret, and more.  Shop my favorite Ona New York beauty products here or at onanewyork.com Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #Ad Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/22/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

"How to Make a Relationship Last"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by my college professor, Keith Giglio, and his wife, Juliet Giglio, a husband-wife screenwriting duo who met cute in an elevator while attending NYU Grad Film school (and have produced films including A Cinderella Story, Return to Halloweentown, Disney’s Tarzan & more). We chat about their first novel and my personal favorite book ever, THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS, a holiday romcom that so many love stories can relate to. We hear about how they got married while still in school, how they supported each other in their careers, what led them to team up, and how they’ve navigated working together and raising a family all while maintaining a healthy and loving relationship. Keith and Juliet share their secret to staying together, early signs they’ve noticed that someone’s relationship won’t work out, what’s led to some of their friends getting divorced, and more. Grab a signed copy of THE SUMMER OF CHRISTMAS at P&T Knitwear in the Lower East Side or order one on Amazon! Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/17/202247 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

How to Tell if a Guy is Interested In You with Jake Tuff

I’m joined by my friend Jake Tuff who opens up about a breakup that he just went through. We hear what he’s learned from going through it, what his breakup recovery looks like, and if he has any regrets about how everything went down. He talks about moving to a new place and starting over when you don’t know many people, learning his love language, and how he navigates his many female friendships when he’s in a relationship.  Jake answers listener questions about what guys think of the phrase “If he wanted to, he would,” if guys are generally bad at texting, for sure signs that a guy is interested in you, if sleeping with a guy too early on makes them less interested in dating longterm, what it means if he’s suddenly avoiding your stories, and more.  Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Check out Adobe Express here #AdobeExpressAmbassadors #Ad Sponsors: athleticgreens.com/sop for a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 free travel packs with your first purchase of AG1 liquidiv.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off mindstewellness.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off allbirds.com code seeingotherpeople_15off for 15% off your purcahse glosslab.com free manicure for first timers with referral code ILANA6E6F Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/8/20221 hour, 1 minute, 42 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Dating an Addict"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 29 year old woman who opens up about her eight year relationship that ultimately ended because of her partner’s addiction to alcohol. She shares how his struggle with alcohol use went unnoticed during college as heavy drinking is common in greek life culture, but how it became more noticible post-grad, once they lived together, and when covid hit. She shares how she tried to support him and encourage him to be sober, how his alcohol use impacted her, and what it finally took took for him to get sober. If you know someone struggling with addiction, you don’t have to go through this alone. Resources and community are available through Al-Anon.org.  Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/3/202258 minutes, 29 seconds
Episode Artwork

Taking Breaks & Being Friends with Exes

I’m joined by Leslie Grant, host of Interstates and Heartbreak, to discuss taking breaks & staying in touch with exes. We chat about whether or not taking a break can work, what situations would allow for it to work, and when a break is just a precursor to a breakup. We discuss giving someone a second chance, criteria for being friends with an ex, whether or not you should text your ex on their birthday, and tips for dating in LA. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
11/1/202258 minutes, 32 seconds
Episode Artwork

Ilana's Childhood BFF Spills the Tea About her Dating Life

My childhood best friend Cristina joins me to answer listener-submitted questions about my past dating experiences. We cover all of my firsts, from my first crush to my first date to my first time being cheated on and everything in between. We discuss mistakes I made in the past, times I put boys before my friendships, how I handle rejection, ways I've grown in my dating life, whether or not I take my own advice, if there is a guy from my past she was rooting for, and so much more. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Sponsors: liquidiv.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off mindstewellness.com code seeingotherpeople for 20% off allbirds.com code seeingotherpeople for a free pair of socks with purchase athleticgreens.com/sop for a free 1-year supply of Vitamin D & 5 free travel packs with your first purchase of AG1 glosslab.com free manicure for first timers with referral code ILANA6E6F Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
10/27/202246 minutes, 54 seconds
Episode Artwork

Do You Really Find Love When You Least Expect It? with Erica Shea

I’m joined by Erica Shea, San Diego radio star on The Geena the Latina And Frankie V. Morning Show, and host of the podcast “Oversharing with Erica Shea.” Erica and I chat about dating while moving to a new city, meeting people IRL, and accepting the bare minimum. Erica tells us the crazy story of how she met her current partner (IRL!), why her mindset was different when she met him, and how they’ve made their long-distance relationship work. We discuss asking for your needs and whether or not there’s a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship.  Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
10/11/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 16 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Choosing to be Childfree"

TW: Suicidal thoughts UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a man who opens up about the longterm relationship he was in where his partner knew she wanted a child and he knew that he did not. We hear how they tried to work through this, how difficult it was to try and change their mind for the other, and how it ultimately lead to them breaking up. He shares what factors went into his decision to get a vasectomy, how his childfree lifestyle has impacted his friendships, and what navigating the dating world is like when you don’t want children.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
10/6/202251 minutes, 3 seconds
Episode Artwork

Setting Boundaries will Change Your Dating Life with Mariann Yip

I’m joined by Mariann Yip, host of the podcast The City Confessions and Author of “UN-HINGED what I Learned from Saying It’s You, It’s Not Me in the NYC Dating Scene.” Mariann and I discuss how therapy helped us navigate our dating challenges, why we should stop asking our friends to show us photos of their date/crush, the importance of looking for a growth-oriented relationship, and how much we have changed throughout our twenties. Mariann shares how she learned to set boundaries when dating, what kinds of boundaries she set, and how her boundaries have helped her filter through potential partners.  Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
10/4/202253 minutes, 36 seconds
Episode Artwork

"You Don’t Need to Lose Weight to Be Loved"

*This episode may be triggering to those with sensitivities around eating disorders. UNFILTERED; I’m joined by Jackie Shames, a woman who opens up about her long-term struggle with her body image and an eating disorder. We hear how her ED impacted her dating life and made her feel like she wouldn’t find love if she didn’t look a certain way. She shares how she’s worked through it, how therapy has helped her, and why she no longer feels like she needs to lose weight to be loved. We discuss whether or not you should date with an ED, if, when and how you should communicate about it to someone you’re dating, tips for feeling confident when going on dates, and much more. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
9/29/202253 minutes, 54 seconds
Episode Artwork

Q&A: Exclusive Vs. Relationship, Bringing Up Moving In & Getting Engaged, Age Gaps and More

My best friend Sara Curwin and I sit down to answer your questions! We discuss what to do when he invites you to his party but his other hookup is there and they are flirting, how to handle bad manners on a first date, whether or not there's a difference between being exclusive and being in a relationship, how to have conversations about longterm plans with your significant other, age gaps, breaking the ice when you match with someone you kind of know, when to let go of someone who seemed promising but can't commit, and more.
9/15/202235 minutes, 53 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Makes a Marriage Last?

In this episode, I’m joined by world-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher Rabbi Manis Friedman to discuss why people get married, what makes a marriage last, what intimacy really means, and what it means to be a husband or a wife. He explains why we shouldn’t date if we have no intentions of getting married within the next five years and why we need to be selfish when we date. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping.
9/13/202249 minutes, 44 seconds
Episode Artwork

"The Craziest Dating Stories You Will Ever Hear"

Get ready for the most jaw dropping, hilarious, and heartwarming Unfiltered episode yet! This week’s guest shares three wild dating scenarios she found herself in. No spoilers here!
9/8/20221 hour, 3 minutes, 4 seconds
Episode Artwork

Early Signs a Relationship Won’t Work Out with Hilary Weinstein, LCSW

I’m joined by Hilary Weinstein, LCSW and Founder of HLW Therapy, a therapy practice that is currently accepting new clients. We discuss the importance of taking time to reflect on your dating experiences, the most common mistakes women are making in dating, getting back out there after going through a traumatic relationship experience, and how to have a “Who do I want to pick?” mindset instead of a “Pick me!” mindset. We answer listener questions about early signs a relationship won’t work, if relationships should be easy for a certain amount of time, and what to do when you feel demoralized about dating because of your past experiences. Get your FREE 1-year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase of Atheltic Green's AG1. All you have to do is visit https://www.athleticgreens.com/sop– I know you'll love it as much as I do! Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople.
9/6/20221 hour, 6 minutes, 44 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Comparing Yourself & Staying Present"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by Stella Stephanopolous, host of the Everyday Endorphins podcast to discuss dating intentionally. We chat about focusing on how the person makes you feel, staying present on the date, why it doesn’t matter if someone has never been in a relationship before, how to stop comparing your timeline to those around you, forgiving yourself for not being where you want to be, how to end a bad date, and whether to reject someone at the end of the date or wait until the next day.
9/1/202259 minutes, 26 seconds
Episode Artwork

Expectations Vs. Reality of Marriage with Maya and Hunter

I’m joined by Maya and Hunter, high school sweethearts turned married couple who are breaking the internet by breaking gender norms. We discuss how Hunter became a “Stay-At-Home Husband” and why their reversal of gender roles is so important for our society to see. Maya and Hunter share how they navigated their most transformative years as they grew and changed both individually and as a couple. We chat about what goes into a successful partnership, the realities of taking a break, how social media portrays unrealistic standards of relationships, and the magical moment that recently happened as they were celebrating their first wedding anniversary.  Follow Maya and Hunter on Instagram (@mayaandhunter) and TikTok (@maya.and.hunter)!  Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
8/30/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 3 seconds
Episode Artwork

"Questioning Chemistry and Learning from Mistakes"

UNFILTERED: I’m joined by a 23-year-old man who shares his dating experiences over the past year. He opens up about putting too much pressure on himself to make potential relationships work out, misreading signs because of how much he wanted the connection to be there, and how overanalyzing and obsessing over someone fuels our anxiety. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
8/25/202235 minutes, 30 seconds
Episode Artwork

You’re Only as Needy as your Unmet Needs with Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick

I’m joined by Dr. Elizabeth Fedrick, PhD, LPC to discuss how our upbringing impacts our relationships. Elizabeth teaches us all about relational programming, how the way we grew up impacts who we choose as a partner, how we can move past our traumas to end up in healthy relationships, reprograming negative core beliefs, learning to differentiate what feels like a threat vs. what actually is a threat, understanding your triggers and more. Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Jackpocket is the app that let’s you play official state lottery games right on your phone. Go to jackpocket.com and use code PEOPLE at checkout for your first lottery ticket free. Must be 18 or older to play. Jackpocket is not affiliated with any State Lottery. If you or someone you know has a gambling problem and wants help, residents of NY call 1-877-8-HOPE-NY; residents of OR call 1-877-MYLIMIT; all others, call 1-800-GAMBLER. Please visit jackpocket.com/tos for full terms of service. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Get 25% off all Liquid IV products at liquidiv.com with code seeingotherpeople. Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
8/23/202257 minutes, 4 seconds
Episode Artwork

Being Friends with Exes, Dating After Addiction and Learning from Heartbreak with Emily Ruhl

I’m joined by writer, producer, actress & model, Emily Ruhl. We discuss sharing your fears and anxieties with the people you’re dating, learning from each heartbreak, loving and hating someone at the same time, and how the length of a relationship does not equal the emotional impact of the relationship. Emily shares her experience dating after addiction, being friends with multiple exes, and how she prioritizes maintaining her independence when in relationships. Check out Emily’s short film Blue Moon here or at publicschoolpictures.com. Get your FREE 1-year supply of immune-supporting Vitamin D AND 5 FREE travel packs with your first purchase of Atheltic Green's AG1. All you have to do is visit https://www.athleticgreens.com/sop– I know you'll love it as much as I do! Overcome your dating anxiety just like I did by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Happy gummy before a date and Calm gummy after! Grab yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 20% off and free shipping. Schedule a 1:1 with me at direct.me/ilanadunn Support the show by buying me a coffee at buymeacoffee.com/ilana.dunn Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
8/16/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 9 seconds
Episode Artwork

"When Religion is a Dealbreaker"

I'm joined by a 23 year old woman in NYC who shares her experience dating within the Jewish community. We discuss being raised Jewish, deciding to pursue relationships with other Jews, and filtering within the community for what we're looking for. She shares date fails and hilarious dating stories, which apps worked and didn't work for her, why she opted to go on shorter first dates, and how she met her current partner.  Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/seeing-other-people/donations
8/11/202251 minutes, 14 seconds
Episode Artwork

Should All Dates End with a Rose Ceremony? with Ed Waisbrot

We’re kicking off our Thursday episode series by catching up with Bachelor Nation’s Ed Weisbrot. We hear about Ed’s dating life since his time on Clare/Tayshia’s season and he shares how being on the show reinforced the importance of authenticity, vulnerability and communication. Ed talks about why he has chosen to stay off of dating apps, how he’s been meeting people IRL, and why Whole Foods is the best spot to find your soulmate. We discuss whether or not all dates should end with a rose ceremony, what the audience saw vs. what really went down throughout, and what really happened on that infamous night when he knocked on Chris Harrison's door. Finally, Ilana shoots her shot with Ed.  Pesented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com
4/1/202126 minutes, 7 seconds
Episode Artwork

Booty Call to Bride with Rishi Mathur

We're joined by comedian Rishi Mather who kicks off the episode by sharing how he’s been navigating his parents’ disapproval of his engagement. We discuss how some couples stay together even while being unhappy because of what society would think of them if they split up, especially in Indian culture. Rishi tells us how he met his now fiancé on Tinder (we love a dating app success story!) and spent four days building up the courage to send that opening message. What started out as a booty call ended up slowly developing into a long-term situation ship, and after months of unpacking each other’s pasts and learning everything about each other, they finally made things official. We close the episode out with a few rounds of ‘Save The Date’ to determine how you can bounce back from date-ruining scenarios including screenshotting their text and accidentally sending it back to them, unexpectedly blurting out “I love you,” and the unfortunate but classic stomach-issues-at-their-place debacle.  Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com
3/30/202159 minutes, 9 seconds
Episode Artwork

Coming Out at Twenty Seven

New Yorker and friend of the show, Derek Lindsey, joins us today to share his experience coming out in his late twenties. Derek opens up about his fears about coming out and shares what finally pushed him to do so. We dive into the differences between straight and gay dating on dating apps as well as specific nuances of gay vs straight relationships. Derek gives his advice for anyone who might be struggling with their sexuality or debating whether or not to come out. Later, we discuss how Derek’s family and friends reacted to the news, and Derek provides his insight on what he wishes people knew about how to navigate that conversation with a friend or loved one who is coming out. Finally, we answer listener questions about the spark disappearing, how long you should wait for someone to be ready to date after getting out of a relationship, and how to choose between wanting something fun and wanting something longterm. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com
3/23/202158 minutes, 47 seconds
Episode Artwork

Defining Dating with Jared Freid

We’re hanging (socially distanced…of course) with Jared Freid on this episode of Seeing Other People! We kick things off with a friendly reminder that social media relationships aren’t what they seem. We chat about how communication is easier said than done, because we all have different definitions of what each step of the modern dating process means to us. Jared shares what he would do to fix modern dating if he was cupid. Later, we play a game of “Save The Date” where we dissect potential date fail scenarios and come up with game plans to help you save the date in the moment if this ever happens to you. Jared helps us answer listener questions including: what to do if you don’t like your friend’s girlfriend, why guys bring up future plans while on the first date, and how to slide into the DMs. 
3/16/20211 hour, 22 minutes, 31 seconds
Episode Artwork

Don't Bring Work Home with You

We’re sitting down (virtually) with Jon and Rene Shapiro, husband and wife and founders Mixology and Mindset Wellness CBD. The Shapiros open up about the highs and lows of building a life, a family and a business together. They share how Rene supported Jon through his battle with anxiety and depression, how they struggled to separate not bringing work home with them, and why they decided to leave the fashion industry behind to build a CBD company together. Finally, we answer listener questions about what to do if you know someone might be cheating, how to navigate being stuck in the penpal zone, and whether or not you should let your new significant other know which friend(s) you have history with.  Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com
3/9/202158 minutes, 48 seconds
Episode Artwork

We Have History with Francesca Beauman

We're traveling back in time with Francesca Beauman, writer, historian, and the world’s leading expert in Personal Ads, to learn about how people “dated” throughout history. We discuss how we got to where we are in dating culture, and how society transitioned from arranged marriages and courting to the casual hookup culture of today’s modern dating world. We learn how advancements like transportation and technology impacted the way people date, and finally we chat about what dating might look like 100 years from now (and what people then think of how we dated in 2021.) 
3/2/20211 hour, 5 minutes, 23 seconds
Episode Artwork

An Unplanned Pregnancy

"Get an abortion" was not on her college bucket list. She never thought she would have to call her parents and say, "I'm pregnant." Our guest opens up about her experience getting an abortion her senior year of college. She shares everything from moment she found out, to the aftermath and trauma she's dealt with as a result. We learn how her friends and family helped her get through it, and we hear about what was going through her mind as she made important decisions including not telling the guy she had been sleeping with that she was pregnant. Whether or not this has or will happen to you or someone you know, we encourage you to listen and learn with an open mind and an open heart.  For more information about pregnancy, birth control, women's health, and more, please visit www.plannedparenthood.com. 
2/23/202137 minutes, 17 seconds
Episode Artwork

How To Get Over Someone feat. Amy Chan of Renew Breakup Bootcamp

We’re joined by Amy Chan, Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp and author of Breakup Bootcamp -The Science of Rewiring Your Heart. In this episode, we learn how to navigate what happens in your brain and your body when you go through a breakup. We discuss what steps you should take if you’re struggling to get over someone, how to identify when you’re ready to get back out there, and why you shouldn’t spend your time in bed with chocolate, ice cream, wine and rom-coms. Finally, we chat about the importance of friendship in getting over someone and how you can support a friend who is going through a breakup. 
2/16/20211 hour, 11 minutes, 39 seconds
Episode Artwork

V****tine's Day Survival Guide

Happy almost February 14th! AKA, the day that comes after February 13th and before February 15th. If this day makes you anxious, nervous, or sad, have no fear. We are here to walk you through being single AND happy on V****tine's Day. We chat about our past Feb 14th experiences, what to do and what not to do on the day, and we treat you to some hilarious listener-submitted date fails.
2/11/202145 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

Disagreeing with We Met at Acme

We’re going head to head with Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met at Acme, to debate some of the most common "rules" of dating, including girls shouldn't text first and whether or not you should send a "thank you" text after a date. We discuss what went down when we first met and went on a date back in 2019, and Lindsey gives us the low down on whether or not we're are astrologically compatible. Finally, Lindsey spills the tea on the time she crafted all of her friend's texts to a guy...for three months...
2/9/20211 hour, 6 minutes, 35 seconds
Episode Artwork

Thirty, Flirty and Dating with Zahra Sahebzada

Repeat after us: being thirty and single is OKAY. We're joined by Zahra Sahebzada who is here to discuss her experiences dating in New York City as an Afghan Muslim. Zahra breaks down what it's like to be the first in her family to not have an arranged marriage, how to not feel like there's something wrong with you if you haven't found your person by the age you hoped to, how stalking someone on social media before you get the chance to know them IRL can be misguiding, and more. We close out the episode by answering listener-submitted questions about intentions, communication, and at what point to give up hope on a conversation progressing. Follow @zahrasahebzada and @seeingotherpeople for more! 
2/2/202153 minutes, 56 seconds
Episode Artwork

The Dating App Episode

Why am I not getting any matches? Why are my conversations not turning into dates? What is the deal with all of the fish photos? If you've ever asked yourself any of these questions, we promise you're not alone. This episode is the ultimate guide to setting yourself up for success on dating apps starting with choosing the right photos and prompt answers, to having productive conversations, and getting out on dates. 
1/26/20211 hour, 20 seconds
Episode Artwork

What Guys Wish Girls Knew & What Girls Wish Guys Knew

On this week's episode, we're sharing our listener's responses to what they wish the people they were dating knew. It's the tell-all that you didn't know you desperately needed to hear.  Ladies, buckle up and get ready to find out what the guys out there are begging you to realize. Gentleman, tune in to hear what the ladies are really thinking and what "it's fine" actually means! 
1/19/20211 hour, 20 seconds
Episode Artwork

Anatomy of a F***boy with Dylan Farella

We're breaking down what it really means to be a f**kperson with the help of @dfarella, everyone’s favorite internet boyfriend. What are a f******y's true intentions? What do you do if you start sending f******y behavior from someone you're interested in? Are f******y misunderstood? Is there a little f******y in all of us? We answer all of these questions, and more.
1/12/202155 minutes
Episode Artwork

We're Getting Back Together

New year, new podcast! Hey guys, it’s Ilana and Jonah and we are back and better than ever! Today is Dating Sunday, the busiest online dating day of the year, and the perfect day to kick off Episode 1 of our brand new podcast, Seeing Other People. We’re catching up the status of our relationship, the current state of dating, what it’s been like to be single during quarantine, and SO MUCH MORE. Episodes will come out weekly on Tuesdays.
1/3/202152 minutes, 21 seconds