Secret Self-Sabotage Podcast is for women who look on the outside as though they have it all, but feel like something is missing and are full of self-loathing, shame and guilt. You wish your life could be happier and more fulfilling and that you could get it together. You're holding on to a secret of feeling unworthy and unhappy. You are ready to let go of the dark, low vibe energy that's keeping your stuck. This podcast gives you the confidence, courage and self-compassion to take back control from a loving, heart-centred place, release your negativity and build the foundations of a life you love. This show is nurturing, needed and necessary to address how you feel right now, before it contaminates your relationships and the rest of your life. Hosted by Jessica Cuatrecasas, a life coach who is over 10 years clean and sober, she'll share that a life of happiness, fulfilment and love is out there for you, and it's not that far away. This is one to listen to if you're ready to re-spark your life and let go of your secret self-sabotage.
023 The True Value of Time
Today's episode will be the last installment of the Secret Self-Sabotage podcast. Thank you so much for tuning in, listening, reaching out, and appreciating how the content is transforming your life. To mark this huge milestone, we'll be discussing the true value of time, and how you can channel your energy into something positive when negativity comes calling. What You'll Learn: - Why you need to stop wasting time on negative thinking - Ways to have more time - What to do when you feel stuck in a dark place - Embracing the free flow of possibility - The power of journaling and seeking your inner guidance - Loving ways to overcome your fear <
24/10/2022 • 28 minutes 2 seconds
022 Why We Sabotage Our Dreams and How to Stop
We've just moved from Q3 into the final quarter of the year. It's time for that final push to achieve the dreams and aspirations you had at the beginning of this year. Unfortunately, most of us already gave up on those dreams. Interestingly, what we lack is not the ability to dream big but the commitment to create a plan and stick with it. You see, it's quite easy to think big, but it's even easier to act small. In today's episode, I go through practical ways of identifying how we sabotage our dreams and what we can do to stop these self-sabotaging habits. What You'll Learn: - Why we sabotage our dreams and how to stop - How to create an intentional plan for your life - What is the "Passion Test?" -
17/10/2022 • 25 minutes 59 seconds
021 How to Find Forgiveness to Free Up Your Life
Forgiveness is hard when the other person doesn’t recognise how much they hurt you. This is why instead of forgiving the people who wronged us, we cling on to the pain and the burden of betrayal. The big question is, is it possible to let go? The simple answer is yes, but it won’t be easy. To help you understand how forgiveness can free up your life, today’s episode is all about self-forgiveness and how letting go of resentment can lead to physical, emotional, and spiritual freedom. What You’ll Learn: - How to find forgiveness and free up your life - You are not responsible for other people’s actions - Why you need to forgive and let go of the pain - How to work through anger and resentment - Ways to
10/10/2022 • 26 minutes 16 seconds
020 3 Ways to Re-Set, Re-Align and Re-Emerge Stronger After Confrontation
The internet is full of guides on how to reset and live a more meaningful life. However, none of them talk about resetting and re-emerging stronger after a confrontation. Confrontations, especially with toxic people, can become so overwhelming that you just want a fresh start. But moving on doesn't just happen overnight. The true power of resetting your life lies in understanding you cannot do it alone. In today's episode, I'll go through three practical ways to reset, re-align and re-emerge stronger after a confrontation. I'll also share the benefits of embracing our innate feminine energy in this masculine world that we live in. What You'll Learn: - How to reset your life after a confrontation - Why you need to trust your feminine intuition - How the fear of u
03/10/2022 • 25 minutes 38 seconds
019 How to Help Your Child Build Confidence After Being Bullied
There's nothing worse than discovering your child is being bullied at school. A bully can turn something as simple as taking the bus or going for lunch into a nightmare for kids. If your child is being bullied, the first step is to address the bully because bullying won't go away on its own. We're at the beginning of a new academic year, and your child has every right to feel safe and confident in school. Today, we'll go through practical steps to help your child overcome bullying and help them understand that being bullied is never their fault. We'll also tackle how you can boost your child's confidence and rebuild their self-esteem once the bullying has been addressed. What You'll Learn: - What to do when you learn your kid is a victim of bullying - Signs your kid is being bullied <span styl
26/09/2022 • 31 minutes 13 seconds
018 How Helping Others Helps Us, Too (In Honour of Queen Elizabeth II)
The fascinating thing about having purpose in life is that we all crave the need to help others. But serving others should not be a planned act; it should stem from a place of awareness and compassion. The late Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II is a prime example of this. She lived a long and meaningful life, fulfilling her commitment to serve until her very last breath. I decided to dedicate today’s session to show my appreciation, love, respect, gratitude, and honour for everything she stood for and valued. What You’ll Learn: - Why we ought to honour Queen Elizabeth II - The power and beauty of living a life of service - Why you need to learn to serve people without expecting anything back - Service is not sacrifice <span style="font-
19/09/2022 • 26 minutes 38 seconds
017 How to Say No to a Narcissist and Know Your Inner Voice
Dealing with a narcissist is hard, but saying no to them is even harder. Their self-importance and entitlement will make your life frustrating and emotionally challenging. What makes narcissists toxic is that they believe they're 100% awesome - and you're not. This is why learning more about narcissistic traits and the ways to deal with them can help you honour your boundaries. In this episode, we'll go through what it's like to deal with a narcissist, how their behaviour might affect your self-esteem, and what you can do to put yourself first and care for your own emotional wellbeing. What You'll Learn: - How to say no to a narcissist - Signs someone is gaslighting you and what to do about it - The benefits of avoiding confrontation whenever possible <span style="font-weight: 4
12/09/2022 • 29 minutes 9 seconds
016 How to Stop Being Your Own Worst Enemy
Are you your own worst enemy? Do you constantly sabotage the opportunities and joys that life presents to you? Maybe you feel like deep down you don't deserve success, joy or love. I know that feeling, and it can be frustrating to feel as though you're working against yourself. So what do you do when you find yourself seemingly working against your own best interests? Tune in to learn the practical steps you can implement today to overcome the roots of self-sabotaging behaviours and stop being your own worst enemy. What You'll Learn: - How to stop being your own worst enemy - Understand that you are responsible for your own happiness - Actions that make you your own worst enemy - How to uncover self-sabotaging behavi
05/09/2022 • 18 minutes 15 seconds
015 What is Toxic Positivity and How to Change It
Having a positive approach to life is good for your mental health, and that's a fact. We all want to live in this perfect utopia full of joy, happiness, and satisfaction. But the reality is that life will sometimes be full of painful emotions and experiences. These emotions will be unpleasant, but they are important and need to be embraced with openness and honesty. In today's episode, we'll take a deep dive into the world of toxic positivity, how to avoid it, and the consequences of trying to suppress emotions that aren't happy or positive. What You'll Learn: - What is toxic positivity? - Understanding the things that make positivity toxic - Valuing happiness versus prioritising positivity - Why it's okay to be negat
29/08/2022 • 25 minutes 53 seconds
014 Why People Do the Things They Do
Six fundamental needs drive human behaviour. Although we all share those same six needs, each of us values them differently, and we have varied processes when trying to satisfy those needs. If you'd like to have the best possible summer and make the best possible memories, you need to understand people's needs and the reasoning behind why people do the things they do. Listen in to learn the motives that drive people's actions and tips on how to better understand your needs by creating new action patterns. What You'll Learn: - The 6 fundamental human needs - The link between needs and people's actions - Understanding the reasoning behind people's actions - The underlying patterns for all emotions, beh
22/08/2022 • 43 minutes 12 seconds
013 How to Detach with Love from the Pain of Others
If you're constantly worried about a loved one, or feel like your life revolves around them doing well, you've got an attachment problem. The only healthy way to let go of this attachment is to detach with love. This involves caring enough about others to allow them space to learn from their mistakes. In today's episode, we'll go through effective strategies on how to overcome codependency, and detach with love from the pain of others. What You'll Learn: - How and why to detach with love - Why detaching is good for you and your loved one - The benefits of setting appropriate boundaries - Recognising that your feelings and needs are valid - How to express your own opinions and feelings <sp
15/08/2022 • 27 minutes 57 seconds
012 How to Turn Your Day Around
Life can be funny. Some days are great, a few days are okay, and then we have some days where everything is just wrong. So how can you change a bad day, when you've started off on the wrong foot? How do you stop the unease from ruining your entire day? When a bad day happens, you only have two choices: you can either stay miserable or do something to turn the day around. Listen in to discover some easy-to-implement strategies you can use to turn around a bad day, no matter the reason behind it. What You'll Learn: - How to turn around a bad day - Why you need to stop feeding negative thoughts with more negative thoughts - Accept that there will always be something that can trigger you - Living in the f
08/08/2022 • 26 minutes 49 seconds
011 How to Find Family Harmony this Summer
Summer! The season for pulling energies back into the family and outdoor activities. But there is a problem; most of us want to compensate for the last few summers we missed due to the pandemic. Everybody feels this massive pressure and desire to make this summer one to remember. So what can you do to balance boundaries and the need to get things done, but still have a great time? Tune in to this episode to learn strategic tips that may help encourage family harmony, enjoy the much-needed break and stay grounded when things don't go according to plan this summer. What You'll Learn: - How to find family harmony and create balance between happiness and boundaries this summer - How to see things from the eye of a child - Why you need to be less reactive and more proactive this summer
01/08/2022 • 22 minutes 31 seconds
010 Free Yourself from Anything!
Is there an area in your life that has been held back because of your fear? It might be the fear of getting on an airplane, or the fear of public speaking? While you can choose to just avoid your fears whenever possible, you’re just doing a disservice to your growth. In this episode, I reveal a belief that had imprisoned me for as long as I can remember. I also share practical steps I used to unearth and release this fear that has been holding me back from growing as a professional. What You’ll Learn: - How to free yourself from anything - The law of attraction and manifestation - How to escape the rut of self-denial - Why more negative thoughts mean more limiting beliefs - How to find clear and clea
25/07/2022 • 21 minutes 34 seconds
009 Selfishness or Self-Care
The word self-care is everywhere at the moment. Everyone's using it from marketers, influencers, coaches and just everyone. Although it's understandably and rightfully used when talking about mental health, a lot of people are using it for the wrong reasons. If you're all about being intentional about self-care but are unsure where to draw the line with selfishness, this episode is for you. What You'll Learn: - The difference between self-care and selfishness - Why you should always take care of your needs first - How to overcome the "I'll be happy when…" mentality - The three primary levels of a relationship - Understanding what is self-love and what it'
04/07/2022 • 15 minutes 55 seconds
008 How to Free Yourself from Irritation
Is there someone in your life that you find really irritating? You feel drained of energy, exhausted and even angry whenever you're around them. Although I understand your frustrations dealing with these kinds of people, most of us won't go through a whole day without encountering at least one irritating person or thing. Fortunately, you don't have to react to all the negative things you encounter, sometimes letting it slide is far better than reacting. What You'll Learn: - How to free yourself from irritation - Embrace the freedom of a clutter-free life - How to identify the main irritants in your life - Your ego is addicted to negative thinking - The benefits of writing down your resentments</
30/06/2022 • 15 minutes 40 seconds
007 How to Know if Your Heart is not Healed
Healing an emotional wound, just like healing a broken bone, will take time, self-compassion and lots of patience. If the emotional experience left you depressed or anxious, it can be hard to recognise when your heart is actually getting better. If you're having trouble recognising whether or not your heart is healed, this episode is for you. I’ll go through three tips to help you identify if you're getting better, and what you can do to overcome the psychological hurt that's bothering you. What You'll Learn: - How to know if your heart is 100% fixed - What it's like growing up in a home devoid of unconditional love - How childhood traumas manifest in adult life - The first step to loving yourself unconditionally <span style="font-w
27/06/2022 • 17 minutes 45 seconds
006 Finding Your Femininity
Deep inside every woman lives a Queen. A Queen that is confident, strong, resilient, caring, and has power over her feminine energy. Unfortunately, society has overthrown this Queen and taken over the endless possibilities that are rightfully hers. If you’re tired of constantly dismissing yourself and your desires, I’m here to tell you that the era of the masculine woman is over. It’s now time for you to be a Queen and lead with the strong femininity your life badly craves. What You’ll Learn: - How to create the life you desire by reclaiming your feminine power - Understand that you deserve a life of purpose and pleasure - The path to developing unshakeable confidence in your abilities - Effects of being out of alignment with your feminine energ
24/06/2022 • 15 minutes 35 seconds
005 How to Trust in the Universe
Today I'm going to touch on something which has been key to my transformation and my journey into peace and serenity. I know this might trigger some people, but I believe trusting in the Universe can help set you free. Unfortunately, society today places more value on staying in control and living an organized, structured and planned life. This is where we go wrong, because the Universe has the power to dictate how we exist in this life. What You'll Learn: - The first step to connecting with your spirituality - The difference between religion and spirituality - Understand that sometimes not getting what you want is a gift - Overcome the overwhelming win/lose mentality - How to trust that the universe
23/06/2022 • 22 minutes 34 seconds
004 Finding Self-Acceptance
Do you love and accept every aspect of yourself without any bias? This might sound like an obvious question, because who in their right mind would not be okay with who they are? As it turns out, most people have trouble loving themselves inside and out. Being okay with all the various pieces of yourself can be hard. But with some practice, you too can find true self-acceptance. What You'll Learn: - The process of finding self-acceptance - How to overcome the "I'll be happy when…" mentality - The main stages of the self-acceptance journey - Embrace the things that make you unique - How to let go of the things you cannot change - How to use self-acceptance to
22/06/2022 • 20 minutes 5 seconds
003 How to Stop Spiraling Thoughts from Consuming You
Have you ever been exhausted, longing to go to bed, and when you put your head on the pillow, your mind starts racing, and one terrible thought leads to another, and soon your thoughts become a nightmare. I experienced this quite a lot during my healing journey, and I know overcoming spiraling thoughts is not easy. But no matter how valid each of your thoughts feel, they are simply thoughts, and you can choose to change them whenever you want. What You'll Learn: - How unchecked negative thoughts lead to uncontrollable spiraling thoughts - Understand the momentum train and how you can stop it - The Emotional Scale and how it works - How to break the cycle of spiraling negative thoughts - Conscious awar
21/06/2022 • 22 minutes 41 seconds
002 You Are Not Alone with Your Feelings
I remember when my healing journey first began, I had no idea what a healing journey was. All I knew was that something was missing within me and I needed to find it. That piece was my authentic self, and it demanded patience, practice and the endurance to face the difficult moments that lay ahead. Whether you've just started or have been on a healing journey your whole life, remember you're alone with your feelings. Today's episode will help you become more consciously aware of your feelings, move on and become a better, stronger person. What You'll Learn: - How to start the journey to conscious awareness - What it's like to really hit rock bottom - Finding the freedom and love that comes with self-acceptance - How to live free of self-sabotaging crutches<
15/06/2022 • 12 minutes 27 seconds
001 What is Self-Sabotage?
“What’s wrong with me?” “Why do I keep repeating the same old mistakes over and over again?” I used to ask myself these questions when I felt trapped in behaviours that created problems in my life. Although I tried to disrupt these habits and behaviours, somehow I always ended up in the same black hole. If you can relate to such a situation, you could be secretly sabotaging yourself. In today’s episode, we’ll go through what secret self-sabotage really means and how you can take control of the habits and behaviours that are ruining your life and making you miserable. What You’ll Learn: - What is secret self-sabotage? - Critical steps to identifying and overcoming secret self-sabotage - How habits and behaviours of sec
15/06/2022 • 14 minutes 2 seconds
000 Welcome to the Secret Self-Sabotage Podcast!
Quick question: do you find that, when you want to move to the next level in life or quit a bad habit, there's always something getting in your way? Have you ever considered that that "something" could be you? I'm Jessica Cuatrecasas, a certified life coach and a secret self-sabotage slayer. My mission is to help high-achieving women go from that secretive self-loathing and subtle self-sabotage to open self-acceptance and strength. Self-sabotage is a pattern of habits and behaviours that people engage in, often without even knowing it, that prevent them from achieving their goals. For a good period of time I struggled with self-sabotage, always finding fault in myself. I was only able to escape my self-sabotaging tendencies when I realised it was my brain's way of trying to protect me from emotional pain. What You will Learn on this Podcast:
