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RecoveredMan.com presents Porn Free Radio with Matt Dobschuetz. This is the podcast for motivated guys, who want to quit looking at porn, get hope and take action. Whether you have been at this a long time or just hit rock bottom, this podcast is for you. Matt Dobschuetz shares how his journey to being porn free started with being caught by his wife downloading pornography in 2001. What came out of that lowest point was a new desire to get free and a passion for helping others. Matt has practical advice and a plan for getting out of porn addiction. He gets it. He's been there and made mistakes, but now lives 100% porn free. Getting a system that works and is repeatable is the cornerstone of Porn Free Radio. Every time you fail you have an opportunity to learn what works for you and make the necessary changes to your plan. Whether your goal is improving your marriage, your career, or just making you a better dad- getting rid of the porn will free you to make it happen. Get hope and take action!
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331 - Calm vs. Stress

Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress.  On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to calm.  This is part 6 in our series, The Choice is Yours. http://recoveredman.com/331
4/11/202447 minutes, 22 seconds
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330 - Recovery vs. Relapse

“You're either working on recovery or you're working on relapse” ― Old guy at my recovery meeting  Coach Vern Tompke sits in on Porn Free Radio to talk about the line between recovery and relapse.  This is part 5 in our series, The Choice is Yours. http://recoveredman.com/330
4/3/202453 minutes, 39 seconds
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329 - Consistency vs. Intensity

MMA coach, Firas Zahabi, emphasizes that consistency in training beats intensity. Consistency is where we build skill and endurance without burning out. And our training volume over time leads to mastery. This powerful concept can be applied to our recovery. This is part 4 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/329  
3/28/202430 minutes, 44 seconds
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328 - Skills vs. Willpower

When you started recovery, the challenge was overwhelming (high) and your skill level was low. And chances are if you have not significantly changed your habits, the challenge feels about the same. For a long time the only tool in your tool box was willpower. Some version of "JUST SAY NO." But often willpower is easily exhausted. It gives out when we need it most. What if I told you success in recovery is not about increasing your willpower, it's about building skills. This is part 3 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/328
3/22/202442 minutes, 35 seconds
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327 - Solution vs. Problem

“Porn is not the problem for us,” I write in my book. “It’s the solution.” It may feel like the problem in your life that needs to be fixed. But if you’re using porn there is a need that is driving it. It’s a solution. This is part 2 in our series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/327
3/15/202438 minutes, 5 seconds
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326 - Owner vs. Victim

Author Steve Chandler often says there are two types of people in the world; owners and victims. Victims see themselves as victims of their situation or circumstance. Life happens to them. Owners on the hand while they can't control every situation and circumstance, they control their reaction to any situation. Learning the habits of thinking like an owner is essential to be porn free.  This is part 1 in our new series, The Choice is Yours. https://recoveredman.com/326
3/7/202447 minutes, 45 seconds
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325 - Don't Call It A Comeback: 13 Years Porn Free

Matt Dobschuetz is back with a fresh episode of Porn Free Radio. Sam Dobschuetz joins in-studio to discuss Dobber recently reaching 13 years porn free. Take hope and take action!  https://recoveredman.com/325
2/2/202457 minutes, 15 seconds
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324 - Is Your "Personality" Blocking Your Recovery?

“What we call personality,” Steve Chandler writes. “Is just a history of habits.” Fixed beliefs about who we are can block us from making the commitments that lead to transformation. On this episode, Sam Dobschuetz joins Matt to discuss. https://recoveredman.com/324
10/30/202341 minutes, 57 seconds
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323 - PFR Classic: 5-Minute Self Care Habits

Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. https://recoveredman.com/323
10/20/20231 hour, 4 minutes, 15 seconds
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322 - Eliminate Your Weakest Link

I asked a group of coaching clients recently, "what is your weakest link in your recovery?" Answers ranged from objectifying women to old iPads, from social media to working at home alone. Even feelings like rejection and entitlement were part of the mix. On this episode, I'll explain what's behind these weak links and how to eliminate them https://recoveredman.com/322
10/13/202349 minutes, 27 seconds
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321 - 17 Porn Free Pro Tips

Sam Dobschuetz joins Porn Free Radio for a super-sized episode. In this show, you'll learn Matt's 17 Porn Free Pro Tips. These powerful tips will help you level up your recovery. Many are brand new ideas. (#16 is a game changer IMHO.) https://recoveredman.com/321
10/5/20231 hour, 27 minutes, 27 seconds
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320 - Help, I'm Sick! How Do I Stay Porn Free?

Being sick brings many situations that can lead to slips. For example, feeling fatigued, out of routine, being alone, bored, entitlement, need to rest, entertainment/browsing, no exercise etc. In this episode, we talk about the tools we can use to get better without relapsing. https://recoveredman.com/320
9/28/202332 minutes, 40 seconds
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319 - PFR Classic: The 12 Commitments That Led To Mastery

In this classic PFR episode, I share the 12 commitments that led to mastery in my journey to quit porn.  Originally published January 24, 2018. https://recoveredman.com/319
9/18/202359 minutes, 17 seconds
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318 - It Takes Less Work To Succeed Than To Fail (Punk Episodes Pt. 4)

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series. Part 4 is reducing the effort and sacrifice required. It takes less work to succeed than to fail! https://recoveredman.com/318
9/11/20231 hour, 1 minute, 9 seconds
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317 - The 2023 NFL Preview Show

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2023 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., Matt “The Dobber” Dobschuetz and your host, Sammy D (Sam Dobschuetz.)  Join three coaches for our third annual episode about our shared passion, NFL Football. https://recoveredman.com/317
9/4/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 25 seconds
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316 - 10 Ways To Speed Up Your Recovery (Punk Episodes Pt. 3)

New to PFR... its our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series. Part 3 is about decreasing the time it takes for you to see progress and get to your end goal. https://recoveredman.com/316
8/28/202357 minutes, 30 seconds
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315 - Maximize Your Success (Punk Episodes Pt.2)

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series. Part 1 is about maximizing your porn free dream. Getting more clarity about where you're going. Part 2 is about increasing your perceived likelihood for success and building your confidence.  Part 3 is decreasing the time it takes for you to see progress and get to your end goal.  Part 4 is reducing the effort and sacrifice required. https://recoveredman.com/315
8/21/202346 minutes
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314 - Maximize Your Dream (Punk Episodes Pt.1)

New to PFR... it's our PUNK episodes.  A four-part coaching series. Part 1 of 4 is about maximizing your porn free dream. Getting more clarity about where you're going.  https://recoveredman.com/314
8/14/202340 minutes, 41 seconds
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313 - 2 Years Porn Free with Michael and Aaron

Michael and Aaron visit PFR to celebrate 2 years porn free. Both listeners reached this milestone earlier this Summer. In this episode, the guys share about life before the streak, their current recovery habits, and dealing with temptation. They also consider the future impact as a result of this transformation.  https://recoveredman.con/313
7/26/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 35 seconds
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312 - PFR Classic: Automatic Thoughts

In recovery we focus a lot on triggers. Avoiding them. Reducing them. Anticipating them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic, often prompt our behaviors. This PFR classic episode, from Oct of 2019, is about becoming aware of our automatic thoughts and how to change them. https://recoveredman.com/312
7/19/202330 minutes, 55 seconds
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311 - Assessing Problematic Porn Use w/ Bill Herring

In recovery circles we often use labels rather than descriptions. Words like sex addict or porn addiction are hastily applied or adopted. But often we miss getting a greater understanding of ourselves and the truth of our situation. Bill Herring, LCSW, CSAT joins Porn Free Radio to share his framework for assessing problematic sexuality. It can easily be used to assess problematic porn use. https://recoveredman.com/311
7/14/20231 hour, 11 minutes, 16 seconds
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310 – PFR Classic: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan

In this episode, you’ll learn how to create a hyper-focused 7-day recovery plan. Originally published March 1, 2017. https://recoveredman.com/310
7/6/202349 minutes, 45 seconds
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309 - Is There Hope For Me?

It’s another EPIC PFR crossover podcast. This time with Vern Tompke from Finding Traction.  In this episode we talk about hope for two types of guys: A guy new to recovery and realizing porn is a significant issue. He's wondering if real change is possible. A guy who's been at recovery a while, but has only experienced mixed success. For him doubts are starting to creep in. Whether you relate to one guy or the other, I share with you 5 ways to get more hope in your recovery. https://recoveredman.com/309
6/28/202359 minutes, 16 seconds
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308 – Finding Your Harmonious Passions

In PFR episode 307, we looked at problematic porn use through Dr. Robert Vallerand's passion framework. Dr. Vallerand proposes two types of passion; obsessive passion and harmonious passion. When letting go obsessive passions it is necessary to cultivate harmonious ones. On this show we talk about how to find your harmonious passions. https://recoveredman.com/308
6/23/20231 hour, 9 minutes, 12 seconds
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307 - Obsessive Passions and Harmonious Passions

Sam Dobschuetz, cohost of Coffee with the Dobber and the 2 Ramblers Podcast, joins PFR this week. On this episode, we discuss looking at problematic porn use through a passion framework. We compare the two types of passion proposed by Dr. Robert Vallerand (Université du Québec à Montréal) and some takeaways for transforming your passions. This was originally released as a Coffee with the Dobber, our exclusive podcast for contributors to PFR
6/14/202347 minutes, 23 seconds
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306 – PFR Classic: How Successful Guys Overcome Edging

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share how successful guys overcome edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. It's one of main habits that blocks long-term recovery and success.  And chances are if you don’t know what it is, you’re probably doing it. https://recoveredman.com/306
5/25/202332 minutes, 17 seconds
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305 - All Progress Starts By Telling The Truth w/ Jay Pyatt

Coach Jay Pyatt, from The Couple Cure, returns to Porn Free Radio for a discussion about lying. Matt has often said that lying was the "second addiction" he had to recover from. The habits around lying, hiding, keeping secrets, omission, and minimizing were just as strong as the porn was. Our long-term recovery depends on us building the skills of honesty. https://recoveredman.com/305
5/18/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 54 seconds
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304 - Recovery Lessons From a Golf Pro

Golf season is officially here in the U.S. and Texas golf pro, JR Bohn, joins us on Porn Free Radio. We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots.  We discuss the parallels between golf and recovery including building skills, the importance of your approach and set up, and recovering from bad shots. And for you guys who love taking care of your lawns, we talk grass and the secret to growing bent-grass greens in Texas. FORE! https://recoveredman.com/304
5/10/20231 hour, 1 minute, 21 seconds
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303 - Excuses Pt. 2: Overcoming Denial

In part 2 of our Excuses series, Matt shares some powerful questions to challenge the negative and distorted thinking revealed in our excuses. If you missed part 1, listen to PFR 302 – Excuses Pt. 1: The Top 50 Revealed w/ Vern Tompke and Jason George. All progress starts by telling the truth.” — Dan Sullivan https://recoveredman.com/303  
5/4/202349 minutes, 13 seconds
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302 - Excuses Pt. 1: The Top 50 Revealed w/ Vern Tompke and Jason George

In part one of a two-part series, Vern Tompke and Jason George join Porn Free Radio. In this episode, we discuss the top 50 excuses guys make for keeping porn in their life. In part 2, Matt shares some tools for overcoming denial and eliminating excuses in your recovery. https://recoveredman.com/302
4/26/20231 hour, 22 minutes, 14 seconds
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301 - Relapse is a State, Not An Event

Guys often see relapse as an event where a bottom-line behavior in engaged in. In this scenario recovery is measured by the absence of relapse events. It's more helpful to see relapse as a state that we can easily enter in and out of based on our thoughts and actions. It's full of hiding, unsound activities, and unhealthy living. https://recoveredman.com/301
3/9/202332 minutes, 55 seconds
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300 - Be Your Future Self Now with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

We celebrate episode 300 of Porn Free Radio with the return of Dr. Benjamin Hardy, author of Be Your Future Self Now. In this episode you'll learn about your "Future Self" and how you can leverage this powerful concept in your recovery today.  https://recoveredman.com/300
2/8/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 15 seconds
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299 - What can you do to guard yourself against temptation?

In this SUPER-SIZED episode, I'm hitting the Porn Free Radio mailbag and answering questions like... How do I watch TV during recovery? What can you do to guard yourself against temptation? Do you recommend any good books on forming good habits? What wisdom can you share with struggling teens? All this and more. https://recoveredman.com/299
2/2/20231 hour, 26 minutes
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298 - 10 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety

Getting long-term sobriety is similar to getting your car to go 300,000 miles. It's going to take really good maintenance habits.  On this episode, Matt shares 10 Keys to Long-Term Sobriety with REV Coach, Vern Tompke.   https://recoveredman.com/298
12/20/20221 hour, 19 minutes, 57 seconds
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297 - Silicon Valley Success, Porn Addiction, and the Road to Healing w/ Jason Portnoy

Jason Portnoy, author of the memoir, Silicon Valley Porn Star, shares his road to healing from porn and sex addiction in the midst of silicon valley success. https://recoveredman.com/297
11/9/202256 minutes, 9 seconds
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296 - Should We Track Porn Free Days?

In recovery, we often measure success with days, streaks, and sobriety dates. But should we? What's the value? On today's episode, Matt Dobschuetz is joined by REV Coaches, Chris White and Vern Tompke. https://recoveredman.com/296
10/12/202256 minutes, 1 second
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295 - PFR Classic: My 10 Porn Rules

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my 10 porn rules for my recovery. Now your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free. Originally published October 1, 2020. https://recoveredman.com/295
9/14/202245 minutes, 2 seconds
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294 - The 2022 NFL Preview Show

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2022 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Aaron W., and your host Matt Dobschuetz. Join three coaches for our second annual episode about our shared passion, NFL football. https://recoveredman.com/294
9/6/20221 hour, 2 minutes
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293 - Janice Dobschuetz Tells Her Story with Hope Ray

Porn Free Radio is full of Matt's porn and recovery stories. But for 292 episodes, one voice has been conspicuously absent; Matt's wife, Janice Dobschuetz. In this episode, Janice tells her side of the story. Together with Hope Ray, Janice recounts her memories of discovering Matt's porn use in marriage and the early days of recovery. She also shares her advice and hope for partners in the same situation now. https://recoveredman.com/293
8/31/202255 minutes, 38 seconds
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292 - PFR Classic: The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share 5 common lies I hear from guys trying to quit porn and 5 powerful truths to overcome them. https://recoveredman.com/292
8/24/202244 minutes, 49 seconds
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291 – Winning with Coach Eberflus’ HITS Principal

In early 2022, the Chicago Bears hired a new head coach. Matt Eberflus, previously the defensive coordinator for the Indianapolis Colts, has a philosophy that he instills in all his teams. In this episode, we apply Coach E's HITS Principal to our recovery. Bear Down! https://recoveredman.com/291
8/17/202238 minutes, 47 seconds
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290 - PFR Classic: Unwanted with Jay Stringer

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share my interview with Psychotherapist Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. Originally published July 2, 2019. https://recoveredman.com/290
8/3/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 28 seconds
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289 - Recovery Happens Best When You're All In w/ Nick Stumbo

Nick Stumbo, Executive Director for Pure Desire, sits in on Porn Free Radio Today. In this episode, Matt and Nick talk about being all in with recovery, basketball,  the 2022 Pure Desire summit, and our favorite decade, the 90's. https://recoveredman.com/289
7/27/202259 minutes, 1 second
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288 - The Road to Earned Secure Attachment w/ Dr. Jake Porter

Dr. Jake Porter, Founder & President of Daring Ventures, sits in on Porn Free Radio today. In this conversation, Dr. Jake shares about the powerful connection between attachment and recovery. You'll learn about the hopeful process of earned secure attachment, where as adults, we can learn to rebuild security and attachment in our relationships. https://recoveredman.com/288
7/20/202251 minutes
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287 - PFR Classic: The Most Satisfactory Years of Your Existence Lie Ahead

In this classic episode of Porn Free Radio, I share a vision for you. The hard work you're doing to be porn free today WILL lead to more satisfaction in your future if you embrace connection and fellowship. Originally published January 10, 2020. “The most satisfactory years of your existence lie ahead.” — Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) Chapter 11. p. 152 https://recoveredman.com/287
7/14/202238 minutes, 17 seconds
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286 - Questions Partners Ask w/ Hope Ray

Hope Ray returns to Porn Free Radio today and asks Matt the questions partners want to know.  Questions like: What do you teach men about accountability?  When should guys make out reach calls? What kind of attitude should guys have about being honest and vulnerable? What's the power of men connecting in a group? Will groups always be necessary? Does recovery for men ever getting easier? And more. https://recoveredman.com/286
6/29/202253 minutes, 37 seconds
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285 - How To Understand Your Sexual Fantasies w/ Drew Boa

Drew Boa from Husband Material, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today. He shares how understanding your sexual fantasies can lead to greater freedom in recovery. Drew is professional coach and podcaster who helps men outgrow pornography. He the author of Redeemed Sexuality and host of the Husband Material Podcast. Drew lives in Santa Barbara, California with his wife and two kids.  https://recoveredman.com/285
6/22/20221 hour, 6 minutes, 46 seconds
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284 - Questions Porn Free Men Ask About Their Partners w/ Hope Ray

Hope Ray, is sitting in on Porn Free Radio today and answering questions porn free men ask about their partners. Questions like: How can I build the skill of ongoing honesty if any confession is interpreted as betrayal? What can I do if my partner is uncomfortable with me being involved or leading a recovery group? And more. https://recovereredman.com/284
6/16/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 14 seconds
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283 - 10 Ideas To Electrify Your Summer

We often think Summer is a time for kicking back and taking it easy. But that kind of thinking flows towards our weaknesses. Building on PFR 282 - Reframing Summer, how can we create some fun growth opportunities this season? In this podcast: 10 Ideas To Electrify Your Summer designed to challenge and inspire you to action. https://recoveredman.com/283
6/2/202249 minutes, 49 seconds
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282 - Reframing Summer

Summer often brings with it challenges for guys in recovery. People wearing less clothes, triggering situations like beaches or pools, and changes to our normal routine (summer hours, vacations) can trip us up. But how we view these challenges can change how we experience them. On this episode, we talk about the essential recovery skill of reframing. https://recoveredman.com/282
5/27/202258 minutes, 24 seconds
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281 - Why Nice Guys Recover Last

Do you consider yourself a nice guy? Do you care a lot about what people think of you? Do you often put people's needs and wants before your own? Do you ever think if you could just eliminate porn from your life then everything would be okay? So what's so So what's so wrong about being a nice guy? Nice guys are inherently dishonest. They show people one version of themselves, the "nice guy" in order to get approval. They hide anything else they find unacceptable. This can include needs, flaws, mistakes, wounds, emotions, and desires. This practice fundamentally undermines the process of recovery.  On this episode, Jason George from the GRIZ podcast joins this episode of Porn Free Radio. The guys discuss integrity, "nice guy syndrome", and what's needed to live a whole, undivided life.  https://recoveredman.com/281
5/19/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 24 seconds
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280 - Aaron: 1 Year Porn Free (a PFR Listener Story)

Aaron, a 38 year-old married man, from South Carolina (by way of Staten Island, NY) joins us on the 1 year anniversary of being porn free. We talk about Wu-Tang Clan, the New York Jets, and Aaron's inspiring porn free journey. https://recoveredman.com/280
5/12/202252 minutes, 43 seconds
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279 - Craig Perra Straight From Coachella

Craig Perra, coach and founder of the The Mindful Habit, joins PFR for his record-setting 6th episode. Craig shares about his recent trip to Coachella, what's exciting him now in coaching, and he makes a big TV announcement. https://recoveredman.com/279
4/21/202254 minutes, 45 seconds
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278 - The Power of Groups w/ Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo

The hits keep on coming. It’s another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pure Desire Podcast. Trevor Winsor and Nick Stumbo joined me back in PFR 233 for a great discussion about recovery. On today’s show we talk about my book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn. We discuss self-rejection, connection in recovery, and the power of groups. https://recoveredman.com/278
3/31/202259 minutes, 5 seconds
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277 - Return of the Pirate Monks

It's another EPIC PFR crossover with the Pirate Monk Podcast. Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter joined me in PFR 214 for a great discussion about recovery. On today's show we talk about what the guys have been up to since 2019. We discuss my new book, music, and even skateboarding.  https://recoveredman.com/277
3/24/202254 minutes, 13 seconds
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276 - Unleashing The Man Within w/ Sathiya Sam

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with Unleash the Man Within with Sathiya Sam. Sathiya is a former pastor, coach, and author of the new book, The Last Relapse. https://recoveredman.com/276
3/17/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 9 seconds
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275 - The Opposite of Addiction

Twice a month, I have a REV Coach Meet-Up with Vern Tompke (ep. 266) and Chris White (ep. 270.) I learn a lot from these guys as we discuss leading our groups and life in recovery. So I asked them to come on PFR and do a live meet-up. We start by discussing the Johann Hari's quote that that "the opposite of addiction is not sobriety, it's connection" and we go from there. https://recoveredman.com/275
3/14/202251 minutes, 42 seconds
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274 - The Creativity That Comes in Recovery w/ Steve Chandler

Author and Master Coach, Steve Chandler, shares some of his biggest ideas for tranformation and growth. His own recovery from addiction became a springboard for reinventing himself and his habits. Steve credits much of the creativity in his writing and coaching practice to this process.  Grab a coffee and listen to my fun and relaxing conversation with Steve. It will inspire you! https://recoveredman.com/274
2/22/202254 minutes, 49 seconds
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273 - PFR - Beyond the Battle w/ Noah Filipiak

On today's show it's another EPIC PFR crossover podcast with The Flip Side with Noah Filipiak. Noah is a pastor and author of Beyond the Battle: A Man's Guide to His Identity in Christ in an Oversexualized World. https://recoveredman.com/273
2/6/20221 hour, 4 minutes, 1 second
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272 - Porn is Not the Problem. It's the Solution.

In this episode, I share one of the biggest take-aways from my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn (visit https://pornfreebook.com.) "Porn is not the problem for us," I write  "It's the solution." https://recoveredman.com/272
1/11/202253 minutes, 30 seconds
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271 - 10 Bold Recovery Ideas for 2022

New Years' resolutions generally fail for one of two reasons; they are either too BIG or too BORING. BIG resolutions often fail due to lack of commitment and a specific plan. It's easy to lose sight of the goal quickly and give up. BORING resolutions are usually based on a trying to adopt good habit the you think you SHOULD do. But they are rarely exciting or motivated. If you want to grow in 2022, consider something BOLD. In this podcast I present 10 Bold Recovery Ideas designed to challenge and inspire you to action. I'm also excited to announce the publication of my new book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man That Does Not Look at Porn. Available at https://pornfreebook.com. https://recoveredman.com/271
12/16/20211 hour, 8 minutes, 42 seconds
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270 - Doing Life Together w/ Chris White

Coach Chris White joins Porn Free Radio today. In this episode, Chris shares his experience growing up in the shadow of Shelley Manor in the beach town of  Bournemouth, England. He details his struggle with porn and the big shift he made when he joined a powerful recovery group. https://recoveredman.com/270
10/29/20211 hour, 16 minutes, 41 seconds
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269 - Find Your Why in 3 Steps

What's your single, motivating purpose for going porn free? We're looking to tap into is your own intrinsic motivation for recovery. I call this your WHY and it's the starting point for all of my paid clients. In this episode, I teach you the 3 steps find your WHY. https://recoveredman.com/269
10/19/202149 minutes, 44 seconds
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268 - Relapsed Again? Good.

After relapse we often feel dejected and confused. We sometimes begin to question our ability to fully recover. But what if we looked at relapse as a path to progress? What if our struggle could fuel our growth? https://recoveredman.com/268
10/15/202132 minutes, 9 seconds
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267 - Major X Flies Again

In PFR 242 – How To Avoid A Big Crash, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. To protect his anonymity and security clearance I referred to him as “Major X.” The main takeaway was how successful pilots avoid crash landings. Hint: it's all about their approach. “A stable approach usually leads to a good landing, while an unstable approach often leads to a bad landing. ” — Major X Well Major X is back, in person this time, with more recovery wisdom from flying. https://recoveredman.com/267
9/30/202157 minutes, 37 seconds
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266 - The Tipping Point for Long-term Success w/ Vern Tompke

This episode is all about the tipping point in recovery. The tipping point is the point at which a series of small steps becomes significant enough to cause a large more significant change. Coach and podcaster, Vern Tompke, joins Porn Free Radio this episode. https://recoveredman.com/266
9/23/202158 minutes, 21 seconds
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265 - Mapping Habits for Greater Freedom

If we define addiction as "an extreme version of a habit." Then recovery is the process where we transform our habits. But what new habits do we need to create to get free? In this episode, I will show you how to identify the areas that drive our cravings and porn use. Then how to map new habits for greater freedom.  https://recoveredman.com/265
9/15/202146 minutes, 57 seconds
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264 - The Gap and The Gain with Dr. Benjamin Hardy

Organizational psychologist and bestselling author, Dr. Benjamin Hardy, joins Porn Free Radio today. On this episode, we'll discuss the most empowering and healthy way to measure yourself from his new book with Dan Sullivan, The Gap and the Gain. If you get this concept it will lead to more happiness and fulfillment in your life and your recovery. https://recoveredman.com/264
8/29/202159 minutes, 33 seconds
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263 - The 2021 NFL Preview Show

The Porn Free Radio Podcast Network presents the 2021 NFL Preview Show with Vern Tompke, Kris Pavone, and your host Matt Dobschuetz. Join three coaches for special PFR episode about our shared passion, NFL football. If you’re not an American football fan, you might just be after you listen to this episode! https://recoveredman.com/263
8/22/20211 hour, 12 minutes, 38 seconds
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262 - Relapse Without Relapsing

Recently, a client of mine noticed a pattern. The day after a relapse he would have more clarity about his life and recovery. He would be aware of his feelings and some immediate actions he needed to take. Often he would feel prompted to reach out to another guy in his recovery group. All of these were positive benefits. So he asked the question, “How do I relapse without relapsing?” https://recoveredman.com/262
8/17/202139 minutes, 47 seconds
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261 - BS: Your Happiness is Determined By Your Life Conditions

This is the final episode of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this episode, we examine the outside-in belief that your happiness is determined by your life conditions. https://recoveredman.com/261
8/5/202142 minutes, 24 seconds
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260 - BS: Your Value Comes From What People Think of You

This is the third of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this episode, we examine the belief that our value comes from what people think of us. https://recoveredman.com/260
7/30/202139 minutes, 12 seconds
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259 - BS: Your Past Performance Indicates Your Future Results

This is the second of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this episode, we examine the assumption that your past performance indicates your future results. https://recoveredman.com/259
7/23/202137 minutes, 13 seconds
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258 - BS: Your Personality Is Permanent

This is the first of a four-part series on belief systems that can block our freedom. BS for short. Did you think I meant something else? On this episode, we examine the idea that your personality is permanent. https://recoveredman.com/258
7/8/202136 minutes, 21 seconds
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257 - Partner Focus Pt. 2 with Hope Ray

Therapist Hope Ray, from Hope Ray Therapy, joins Porn Free Radio for part 2 of 2 partner-focused episodes. https://recoveredman.com/257
6/30/202157 minutes, 27 seconds
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256 - Partner Focus Pt. 1 with Shawna Meek

Shawna Meek from Living Stones Coaching joins Porn Free Radio for part 1 of 2 partner-focused episodes. https://recoveredman.com/256
6/23/20211 hour, 13 minutes, 13 seconds
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255 - Loaded Questions

On today's episode, we tackle 3 loaded questions... If there was no moral problem with your porn use, would it be okay? If your partner was cool with your porn use, would it be okay? If your porn use was 100% ethical, i.e. - no one was harmed or misused, would it be okay? https://recoveredman.com/255
5/11/202134 minutes, 40 seconds
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254 - Relationships and Recovery w/ Brendan Burns

A mega-sized episode about relationships and recovery with Brendan Burns, coach and host of the Brendan Burns show. https://recoveredman.com/254
5/4/20211 hour, 18 minutes, 32 seconds
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253 - I’m not like these people. I’m different.

On today's show, we discuss how our sense of uniqueness and the stories we tell ourselves about our struggle can block our freedom and keep us isolated. https://recoveredman.com/253
4/9/202136 minutes, 20 seconds
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252 - Craving Is Not Something That Happens To You

On today's show, we consider the challenging quote, "Craving is NOT something that happens to you; it’s something you actively do." — The Freedom Model, p. 59. https://recoveredman.com/252
4/4/202136 minutes, 4 seconds
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251 - Why Do I Look At Porn (The Short Answer)

I get asked this question a lot; "Why Do I Look At Porn?" We think if we can figure out the root cause of why we look at porn it would help us quit. In this episode, I share the short answer of why. It's what Blaise Pascal calls "the motive of every action of every man." http://recoveredman.com/251
3/26/202127 minutes, 10 seconds
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250 - Perfectionism Pt. 2

We continue our discussion from episode 249 on perfectionism and our obsession with an acceptable image. In this episode, I share listener emails and a powerful resource to deal with perfectionism. https://recoveredman.com/250
3/1/202156 minutes, 1 second
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249 - Perfectionism Pt. 1

This podcast is about the other p-word in your life: perfectionism. If you don't identify with being a perfectionist now you may after hearing this episode. https://recoveredman.com/249
2/24/202131 minutes, 40 seconds
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248 - Personal Mastery Pt. 3: Create Your New Normal

In part 3 of our 3-part series on Personal Mastery, we talk about creating a peak state model of the world. The goal is to spend the majority of your time in life feeling centered, strong, and fulfilled. https://recoveredman.com/248
2/17/202140 minutes, 41 seconds
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247 - Personal Mastery Pt. 2: Learning To Leverage Triggers

In part 2 of our 3-part series on personal mastery, we discuss how you can change your state in challenging situations. In fact, the real Jedi mind trick comes when you begin to link your triggers to the actions that change your state. https://recoveredman.com/247
2/8/202136 minutes, 37 seconds
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246 - Personal Mastery Pt. 1: Change Your State

Over the next 3 episodes, we are discussing the 3 levels of Personal Mastery. In part 1, we discuss what shapes our decisions and how we get more control in our life. https://recoveredman.com/246
2/1/202148 minutes, 16 seconds
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245 - Accountability 2.0

"Get an accountability partner" is the default advice given to guys early in recovery. In this episode, I move past the common thinking about accountability and discuss a new way of thinking about this powerful recovery relationship. Shout out to Jason George, host of the GRIZ Podcast, who contributes monthly to PFR. He suggested this important topic. Thanks GRIZ! https://recoveredman.com/245  
12/3/202046 minutes, 23 seconds
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244 - The Power of Being 3% Better

Have you gotten stuck? Has your motivation slipped? Have you lost some of your desire to change? In today's episode, I share the 3% tool to shift your thinking and get you back on track. https://recoveredman.com/244
11/13/202027 minutes, 30 seconds
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243 - Understanding the Two Secret Instincts of Men

Seventeenth-century, philosopher and mathematician, Blaise Pascal argued that "there are two opposing secret instincts in men." The secrets confuse us and lead us to a search that can never be satisfied. https://recoveredman.com/243
10/28/202028 minutes, 49 seconds
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242 - How To Avoid A Big Crash

In this episode, I share recovery insights from a career pilot. You'll learn the secret of how successful pilots avoid bad landings. https://recoveredman.com/242
10/19/202028 minutes, 15 seconds
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241 - My 10 Porn Rules

In this episode, I reveal my 10 porn rules. Your rules may look different, but if you see one that could help you, try it out! It could be the difference between you going 10 days porn free and 10 years porn free. https://recoveredman.com/241
10/1/202039 minutes, 32 seconds
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240 - The Difference Between Failure and Results

In a follow-up to episode 239, I discuss the difference between failure and results in recovery. For more on the Owner/Victim choice described by Steve Chandler listen to PFR 213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim? http://recoveredman.com/213
9/23/202023 minutes, 37 seconds
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239 - Are you ALL IN?

In this episode, I talk about what it means to be ALL IN. "The decision had been made and all that was left to do was whatever it took. And that involved no consideration. There was no more deliberation." — Chris Dorris, ALL IN! https://recoveredman.com/239
9/4/202017 minutes, 16 seconds
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238 - Welcoming Being Misunderstood

In this episode, I talk about the fear of being misunderstood. The irony is we give so much energy, in life, to what people think and how we're perceived. But despite our best efforts we still are misunderstood.  https://recoveredman.com/238
8/26/202028 minutes, 17 seconds
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237 - Why Now Is The Best Time To Make Positive Changes In Your Life w/ Brendan Burns

In this episode coach and podcaster, Brendan Burns, hosts a crossover episode about why now is the best time to make positive changes in your life. This episode features Don't Trust the Cloud by Lee Rosevere. Visit http://leerosevere.bandcamp.com https://recoveredman.com/237
8/10/20201 hour, 19 minutes, 32 seconds
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236 - The Social Self Vs. the Authentic Self

Do you care a lot about what people think? Do you struggle with feeling good enough? Do you avoid conflict? When you relapse to you feel a lot of shame? If so you may be living life in what Steve Chandler calls the "Social Self." In this episode, we define the "Social Self" and contrast it with our goal in recovery, the "Authentic Self." http://recoveredman.com/236 PFR is sponsored by BetterHelp https://trybetterhelp.com/recoveredman
7/16/202038 minutes, 57 seconds
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235 - Reclaiming Your Creativity and Imagination

"I’m committed to being porn free because I’m sick and tired of living off of chicken nuggets and french fries and I want more ski slopes, Hulk rides, and BBQ in my life.” — The Epic Why Statement from a PFR Listener Is your recovery boring? Here’s how to start reclaiming your creativity and imagination today. https://recoveredman.com/235
7/2/202038 minutes, 26 seconds
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234 - Sobriety For What?

Guys in recovery are often focused on sobriety. But what is your sobriety for? What does it make possible? And in light of the recent tragedy, in Minnesota, how does our recovery journey inform our response to the situation. https://recoveredman.com/234
6/3/202023 minutes, 26 seconds
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233 - Pure Desire Podcast with Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor

Nick Stumbo and Trevor Winsor join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pure Desire Podcast. https://recoveredman.com/233
5/26/20201 hour, 5 minutes, 47 seconds
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232 - Avoiding Pain and Seeking Pleasure

In this episode, I discuss what Tony Robbins calls the two driving forces in life that motivate us. I also share a quick exercise you can use to take action on things you are avoiding.
5/21/202036 minutes, 12 seconds
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231 - The Myth of Unaccountable Time

For years I struggled with unaccountable time. The idea that there were situations where I was alone and not accountable. But it's a myth. All time is accountable. It's measured. It's limited. And we ALWAYS choose how it's spent. https://recoveredman.com/231
5/14/202038 minutes, 27 seconds
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230 - Your Recovery Advantage

The things you have learned from recovery can actually help you lead and serve others in challenging times. I'm excited to announce a new PFR sponsor: BetterHelp. To get 10% off your first month of professional counseling go to https://trybetterhelp.com/recoveredman.
5/1/202027 minutes, 35 seconds
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229 - The 5 Anchor Habits You Need Right Now

Jason George aka "The Griz" rides shotgun on this episode where I share 5 powerful anchor habits you can build into your recovery right now. https://recoveredman.com/229
4/24/20201 hour, 21 minutes, 59 seconds
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228 - Recovery Is Not About Making My World Small with Jay Pyatt

Recovery Coach Jay Pyatt joins me for the final episode of the coaches trilogy that started in PFR 226. We discuss current events, sheltering-in-place and Covid-19. Jay also shares some awesome recovery ideas from his own journey and from coaching others. https://recoveredman.com/228
4/9/20201 hour, 9 minutes, 44 seconds
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227 - How I Do One Thing Is How I Do Everything with Kris Pavone

Podcaster and Coach, Kris Pavone, joins me for a conversation about current events in early 2020. Kris is a teacher, former WWE Wrestler, and the host of the Kris Pavone Show. https://recoveredman.com/227
4/2/20201 hour, 5 minutes, 30 seconds
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226 - What Does This Make Possible with Brendan Burns

How can we reframe the challenges that come from disruption, travel restriction, and sheltering in place? Business and life coach, Brendan Burns, visits again for a cross-over podcast about Covid-19, recovery, and more. https://recoveredman.com/226
3/23/20201 hour, 14 minutes, 30 seconds
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225 - Welcoming Fear And Anxiety

We're facing a tsunami of feelings and emotions these days. How do we deal with emotions in a skillful way? In this episode, I share a powerful tool you can use today. https://recoveredman.com/225
3/18/202032 minutes, 44 seconds
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224 - By Endurance We Conquer: How To Deal With Uncertainty In Turbulent Times

In this episode, I talk about how to deal with uncertainty in turbulent times, 6 leadership lessons we can learn from polar explorer, Sir Ernest Shackleton, and the practical ways we can apply them to our recovery. https://recoveredman.com/224
3/12/20201 hour, 16 minutes, 29 seconds
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223 - The 4 C's of Recovery

How do we grow and transform in our lives? We have to go through the 4 C's of Recovery. And no one recovers without going through a period of courage. "Having courage and pursuing a goal despite fear," Dan Sullivan writes. "Is what moves us forward." In this episode, you'll learn the stages of recovery and why you may be stuck. https://recoveredman.com/223
2/27/202047 minutes, 6 seconds
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222 - Are We Powerless Over Porn?

Step One of any 12-step program says, "We admitted we were powerless..." But are we powerless? And if so how does it help us to admit this? https://recoveredman.com/222
1/18/202025 minutes, 9 seconds
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221 - The Most Satisfactory Years of Your Existence Lie Ahead

With each new year, we reflect on what happened in the past 12 months and wonder, "what's next?" Well, what if I told you that life will have more meaning and satisfaction for you this year. Today's show is about painting a vision for you in 2020 and beyond. Let's go! https://recoveredman.com/221
1/10/202035 minutes, 37 seconds
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220 - Forget About Goals

It's a New Year and it's expected that we talk about goals. But I am not going to do that. Because I see things a little differently...
1/3/202027 minutes, 17 seconds
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219 - We're Happy When We're Growing with Brendan Burns

Business and Life Coach Brendan Burns joins me for a crossover podcast. In this super-sized episode, we talk about recovery, sushi, sex, dating, relationships, and kicking ass in life. Learn more about Brendan at https://www.brendanhburns.com. https://recoveredman.com/219
12/18/20191 hour, 51 minutes, 48 seconds
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218 - Nobody Cares. Work Harder!

At some point in recovery, you have to put in effort and hard work to move forward. Internally we resist this. We see effort as pain and we want to avoid this fact. But our happiness and success ultimately depends on our growth. https://recoveredman.com/218
12/4/201940 minutes, 28 seconds
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217 - The Powerful Daily Habit You're Missing

On today's show, I share a powerful daily habit that creates focus, gives you more clarity in your thinking, and actually makes recovery easier. https://recoveredman.com/217
11/20/201932 minutes, 13 seconds
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216 - Who Do You Need To Be To Recover?

Does your personality or the way you define yourself get in the way of recovery? https://recoveredman.com/216
11/14/201947 minutes, 49 seconds
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215 - Why Fear-Based Recovery Doesn't Work

What is the motivation for recovery? If it's primarily fear we have a problem. Fear-based recovery can inspire action at first but eventually exhausts us. https://recoveredman.com/215
11/6/201937 minutes, 20 seconds
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214 - Dobber and the Pirate Monks

Nate Larkin and Aaron Porter join me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Pirate Monk Podcast.  https://recoveredman.com/214
10/23/20191 hour, 1 minute, 13 seconds
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213 - Are You An Owner Or A Victim?

When it comes to situations in your life, how do you often respond? Are you in habit of being an owner or a victim? Your ability to go porn depends on this... https://recoveredman.com/213
10/17/201944 minutes, 13 seconds
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212 - Why Do We Struggle With Commitment?

Today, I am asking some questions... why do we struggle with commitment and follow-through? Why do resist creating healthy boundaries? And finally, if "the opposite of addiction is connection" why do we avoid it? https://recoveredman.com/212
10/10/201938 minutes, 21 seconds
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211 - Automatic Thoughts

We focus on triggers a lot in recovery. Anticipating them. Avoiding them. Reducing them. But our thoughts, especially the ones that feel automatic often prompt our behaviors. This episode is about becoming aware of our thoughts and how to change them. https://recoveredman.com/211
10/2/201929 minutes, 42 seconds
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210 - The Most Unpleasant Success Principle In The World

In this episode, I share about one of my heroes, my rusty Buick, and the most unpleasant success principle in the world. https://recoveredman.com/210
9/12/201928 minutes, 31 seconds
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209 - Commitment Wanes; It Eventually Dies

What story do you tell yourself after a setback? That you're not disciplined enough? That you're lacking confidence? Or will power? The truth is we simply lack commitment. https://recoveredman.com/209
9/4/201935 minutes, 39 seconds
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208 - How Our Pain Is Transformed

Following up on episode 207, Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted, I answer the specific question of how our pain is transformed. "We are born in relationship, we are wounded in relationship, and we can be healed in relationship. Indeed, we cannot be fully healed outside of a relationship." — Harville Hendrix, Getting The Love You Want https://recoveredman.com/208
8/15/201933 minutes, 44 seconds
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207 - Pain Not Transformed is Transmitted

"If we do not transform our pain," Richard Rohr writes. "We will most assuredly transmit it." On today's show, I talk about how we avoid pain with porn and how the work of recovery is about transforming pain. https://recoveredman.com/207
8/8/201928 minutes, 35 seconds
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206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In Life

Our culture would have us believe that all we can't fully enjoy life if we choose recovery. But the opposite is true. When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to the rest of life. In this virtually coaching session, we talk about how you can begin to design a kick-ass life. https://recoveredman.com/206 The post 206 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 5: Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/31/201930 minutes, 52 seconds
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205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs

Do you have an idea of some actions you should take in recovery? Or is there a behavior that you know you need to eliminate? What's stopping you? In this virtual coaching session, I explain how our excuses reveal our beliefs. https://recoveredman.com/205 The post 205 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 4: How Our Excuses Reveal Our Beliefs appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/25/201930 minutes, 45 seconds
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204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal Experience

I have a stack of emails today and I'm answering your questions... What's the best way to tell my girlfriend about a relapse? Is a realistic goal to abstain from masturbation when there is no relationship in sight? Should I tell my accountability about the massage parlor? Can you help me understand my horrific, porn withdrawal experience? AND MORE... 1-on-1 Coaching Interested in having a custom coaching experience with me? Send an email to [email protected] with the subject "Coaching." https://recoveredman.com/204 The post 204 – My Horrific, Porn Withdrawal Experience appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/19/20191 hour, 5 minutes, 44 seconds
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203 – We Feel What We Focus On

Recently I was dealt a crushing blow. Because of a flight cancelation, I went from having a first class ticket to a middle seat in the back of the plane. On this episode, we talk about dealing with disappointment and why we feel what we focus on. https://recoveredman.com/203 The post 203 – We Feel What We Focus On appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/10/201933 minutes, 18 seconds
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202 – Unwanted with Jay Stringer

My interview with Jay Stringer, author of Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way to Healing. https://recoveredman.com/202 The post 202 – Unwanted with Jay Stringer appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/2/20191 hour, 11 minutes, 53 seconds
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201 – Being Kind To Yourself

Today's episode is about being kind to yourself, having compassion, and finding self-care. https://recoveredman.com/201 The post 201 – Being Kind To Yourself appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/28/201927 minutes, 45 seconds
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200 – Superfan Takeover

Superfan, Jon Jones, interviews Matt in a special show to celebrate 200 episodes of Porn Free Radio. https://recoveredman.com/200 The post 200 – Superfan Takeover appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/20/20191 hour, 19 minutes, 5 seconds
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199 – PFR: Behind The Music

Gentlemen, we're not alone in this. In this episode, we break down the ingenious PFR theme created by Adam the producer. https://recoveredman.com/199 The post 199 – PFR: Behind The Music appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/14/201954 minutes, 4 seconds
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198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage

The first step in recovery is exposure, whether it's from getting caught or getting courage. The exposure helps us press into honesty. In this episode, we talk about the why we avoid exposure and the gifts of being known. https://recoveredman.com/198 The post 198 – Getting Caught or Getting Courage appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/5/201935 minutes, 53 seconds
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197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me?

We draw big conclusions from the type of we've looked at. Feelings like we are unique. We are disgusting or abnormal. But these are tricks of our ego to keep us stuck. https://recoveredman.com/197 The post 197 – What Does the Porn I Look At Say About Me? appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/31/201921 minutes, 43 seconds
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196 – John Wick Focus

In today's episode, I share what we can learn about recovery from the John Wick saga. Get access to my new audio series, Coffee with the Dobber, on Patreon. Link: https://recoveredman.com/contribute The post 196 – John Wick Focus appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/24/201931 minutes, 27 seconds
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195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail

It's confession time on Porn Free Radio. My sobriety is intact, but I have been struggling with a mistaken belief in two areas of my life. And it's time to come clean. https://recoveredman.com/195 The post 195 – Mistaken Belief: If I Don’t Try, I Can’t Fail appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/16/201948 minutes, 27 seconds
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194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging?

On today's episode, your questions...How do you rebound after edging? What's the connection with porn addiction and depression/anxiety? And a crazy topic, I have never discussed on Porn Free Radio plus more. https://recoveredman.com/194 The post 194 – How Do You Rebound After Edging? appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/9/20191 hour, 21 minutes, 16 seconds
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193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2

In the second of 2 episodes, Matt finishes our discussion on the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192 The post 193 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/30/20191 hour, 45 seconds
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192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1

In the first of 2 episodes, Matt digs into the book, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, by author and Computer Science professor, Cal Newport. https://recoveredman.com/192 The post 192 – Digital Minimalism Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/26/201951 minutes, 18 seconds
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191 – Rejection

When we feel rejected we think, "Well, that proves once again that I am a nobody." Rejection is a huge trigger and can be an obstacle to healthy recovery. It keeps us isolated and alone. https://recoveredman.com/191 The post 191 – Rejection appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/24/201932 minutes, 39 seconds
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190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals

Need a boost? A 7-day stretch goal can help energize your recovery this week. In this episode, you'll learn what a 7-day stretch goal is, why it's important, and how to set one. https://recoveredman.com/190 The post 190 – 7-Day Stretch Goals appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/1/201919 minutes, 12 seconds
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189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2

In episode 113 of PFR, a listener named Jon wrote, "I'm becoming the type of man who does not look at porn." This idea has connected with many listeners since it posted back in 2017. Today, I read a letter from Rob who shares his inspiration for becoming the type of man who does not look at porn. https://recoveredman.com/189 The post 189 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/22/201936 minutes, 47 seconds
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188 – More Hope

Hope Ray, therapist and partner specialist, returns to discuss recovery, relationships, and more. https://recoveredman.com/188 The post 188 – More Hope appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/14/201949 minutes, 56 seconds
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187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate.

On this episode of Porn Free Radio, I open up my inbox and answer your questions: Should I get rid of anything that triggers me? If you’ve gone porn free for a few years before you get married do you have to tell your spouse about it? How much do I need to tell my wife after a slip? How do I help my (ex)boyfriend? What if I am addicted to something more addicting than porn alone? Help! I’m not sure what’s wrong with me… AND MORE. https://recoveredman.com/187 The post 187 – What I want to do, I can’t do. I do what I hate. appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/24/20191 hour, 25 minutes, 11 seconds
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186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life

Sometimes I focus on the struggle too much. It's hard walking in recovery. I want to be honest about that. But then I think what am I doing to kick ass in life? What excites me? What sparks joy? On today's show, we're talking about what it means to pursue a great life. https://recoveredman.com/186 The post 186 – Success Comes From 50% Recovery Work And 50% Kicking Ass In Life appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/11/201925 minutes, 51 seconds
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185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging

Most relapses start with edging. Edging is any unsound activity that mimics our old patterns with porn. In this episode, you'll learn to shift your thinking away from "this is not porn" mentality.  https://recoveredman.com/185 The post 185 – How Successful Guys Overcome Edging appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/4/201938 minutes, 26 seconds
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184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom

in this episode, we continue our Successful Guys series. We talk about boredom, distraction, and why cultivating solitude is important for recovery. https://recoveredman.com/184 The post 184 – How Successful Guys Overcome Boredom appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/28/201834 minutes, 42 seconds
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183 – How Successful Guys Overcome Relapsing

Continuing our successful guys series, I offer 3 powerful ideas for overcoming relapsing.  https://recoveredman.com/183 The post 183 – How Successful Guys Overcome Relapsing appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/21/201837 minutes, 58 seconds
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182 – How Successful Guys Overcome Shame

In this episode, we continue with our successful guys series by discussing shame.  C.G. Jung called shame a "soul eating emotion.” It's the corrosive state where our failure and flaws come to define us. Where we see ourselves as broken and unable to change. https://recoveredman.com/182 The post 182 – How Successful Guys Overcome Shame appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/13/201844 minutes, 1 second
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181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation

You want to change your relationship and habits with porn. You want motivation to do what has to be done. https://recoveredman.com/181 The post 181 – How Successful Guys Overcome Lack of Motivation appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/6/201857 minutes, 40 seconds
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180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving

A lot of importance is placed on triggers in recovery. Almost too much. Because its really the craving we need to learn to deal with. https://recoveredman.com/180 The post 180 – How to Overcome Triggers And Craving appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/29/201840 minutes, 7 seconds
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179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow

Are you overwhelmed getting started going porn free? Or have you been in recovery, a while, and gotten bored? Maybe you've lost some focus or feel apathetic. Join Matt for a cup of coffee and a discussion about the psychological concept of Flow. You'll learn why staying in a state overwhelm or boredom is not good for your overall success, satisfaction, and happiness. https://recoveredman.com/179 The post 179 – Coffee with the Dobber: Flow appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/15/201847 minutes, 17 seconds
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178 – Matt, What’s Your Plan Look Like?

In REV this week, I was asked to share my current plan. So my co-leader Jay and I went through Your PornFree Playbook and captured our current recovery plans.  https://recoveredman.com/178 The post 178 – Matt, What’s Your Plan Look Like? appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/1/201850 minutes, 28 seconds
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177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay

Brian, a PFR super fan, shares 10 quotes that impacted him from the podcast. He's joined by his accountability partner, Clay. Plus, you have to check out the original PFR song in this episode. It's amazing! https://recoveredman.com/177 The post 177 – Reservoir of Hope with Brian and Clay appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/24/201834 minutes, 42 seconds
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176 – There’s A Part Of You That Doesn’t Want To Give Up Porn

There's one thing you should know: there's a part of you that doesn't want to give up porn. It's your rebellious side that avoids responsibility and anything that feels like rules. But THIS podcast episode is made especially for that part of you. https://recoveredman.com/176 The post 176 – There’s A Part Of You That Doesn’t Want To Give Up Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/17/201842 minutes, 22 seconds
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175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership

If you ever thought, " I just need someone to hold me accountable." OR "I really need a good accountability partner.", this episode if for you. https://recoveredman.com/175 The post 175 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 3: Accountability As Ownership appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/11/201826 minutes, 20 seconds
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174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done

Are you committed to being porn free? Let me see your calendar. What does your calendar show me about your commitment to recovery? On this episode, I share the principal of what gets scheduled is what gets done. https://recoveredman.com/174 The post 174 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 2: What Gets Scheduled Is What Gets Done appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/3/201831 minutes, 27 seconds
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173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs

After a relapse have you ever wondered. "why did I do that?" Regardless of who we are we are all driven to meet six human needs. The first four needs show up commonly in our relapses and struggles. The last two needs emerge in our healthy recovery. https://recoveredman.com/172 The post 173 – Coaching Sessions Pt. 1: Six Human Needs appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/26/201833 minutes, 46 seconds
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172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem?

Have you ever thought, "Man, I'm hopeless..." Or "I'm not good with self-discipline..." Or when it comes to recovery, "If I can't do this perfect... I can't do it..." Maybe you have the thought that your brain is broken or the devil is out to get you. Or maybe deep down, you wonder, "If people really knew me they would be disgusted." If you have had those thoughts, you may have a B.S. problem. And here's the hard truth... you will never be porn free until you deal with your B.S. On today's episode, we talk all about... your B.S. https://recoveredman.com/172 The post 172 – Do You Have a B.S. Problem? appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/13/201853 minutes, 55 seconds
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171 – Love People Use Things with Noah Church

Noah Church joins me for an EPIC crossover episode with the Love People Use Things podcast. https://recoveredman.com/171 The post 171 – Love People Use Things with Noah Church appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/29/20181 hour, 19 minutes, 28 seconds
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170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation?

Are you waiting for motivation to take action in your recovery? In today's episode, I talk about why motivation doesn't work. It's important, but not the thing that moves us forward. https://recoveredman.com/170 The post 170 – Are You Waiting For Motivation? appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/22/201816 minutes, 39 seconds
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169 – Are You Living Fully Alive?

On this episode, I talk about my continued journey of transformation. If you're struggling with porn you need to listen. If you're struggling with porn AND your personal fitness - LISTEN TWICE. https://recoveredman.com/169 The post 169 – Are You Living Fully Alive? appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/16/201842 minutes, 16 seconds
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168 – Real Recovery Requires Transformation

Do you remember Pornfree Radio? On today's episode, we talk about why real recovery requires transformation and the 3 things we need to change. https://recoveredman.com/168 The post 168 – Real Recovery Requires Transformation appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/8/201838 minutes, 40 seconds
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167 – My Porn Free Philadelphia Trip Plan

On today's episode, I work out my porn free Philadelphia travel plan ahead of my trip to Podcast Movement 2018. http://recoveredman.com/167 The post 167 – My Porn Free Philadelphia Trip Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/25/201842 minutes, 39 seconds
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166 – Mindless Recovery

Have you every felt hijacked by obsessive thinking or porn behaviors? You react impulsively to moments of opportunity over and over again. In this episode, we discuss how you can re-engineer your environment and the power of mindless recovery habits. http://recoveredman.com/166 The post 166 – Mindless Recovery appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/23/201855 minutes, 46 seconds
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165 – Getting Back On Track After Relapse

It's BOGO Wednesday on Pornfree Radio. Two topics for the price of one. First up, I share a powerful tool you can use to get back on track after relapse. Second, I examine why we're tempted to disown our difficult stories in recovery, and why wholeness requires we integrate ALL of our experiences. http://recoveredman.com/165 The post 165 – Getting Back On Track After Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/11/201843 minutes, 21 seconds
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164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are Waiting

Years ago, I went on a men's weekend. The leader of the weekend, John, was fond of saying, "Decrease the hesitation gentlemen... men are waiting!" In the episode, I share the meaning of this phrase and how we can apply it in our recovery. http://recoveredman.com/164 The post 164 – Decrease the Hesitation… Men Are Waiting appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/9/201829 minutes, 42 seconds
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163 – How Long Does It Take To Recover?

How long does it take to recover? It depends. Are you willing to do what it takes? In this episode, I share about 3 cliches in recovery and why pressing into discomfort is the path to substantial recovery. http://recoveredman.com/163 The post 163 – How Long Does It Take To Recover? appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/28/201851 minutes, 52 seconds
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162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me

I discuss the way our mind plays tricks when we're in recovery. I share 5 common tricks we face and what the truth is. http://recoveredman.com/162 The post 162 – Mind Playing Tricks On Me appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/21/201848 minutes
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161 – We all have an intense longing for inspired masculinity

This week is Father's Day in the United States and so we're talking about masculinity, specifically inspired masculinity.  What it is and why is it important to our recovery. http://recoveredman.com/161 The post 161 – We all have an intense longing for inspired masculinity appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/13/20181 hour, 10 minutes, 16 seconds
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160 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 2

Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 2nd of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his recovery journey and why men in ministry struggle with porn.  http://recoveredman.com/160 The post 160 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/6/201856 minutes, 27 seconds
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159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1

Jason George from The Griz Podcast visits PFR for 1 of 2 episodes. In this episode, Jason shares his early years, his struggle with pornography, and his spiritual awakening. http://recoveredman.com/159 The post 159 – Jason George “The Griz” Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/30/201842 minutes, 24 seconds
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158 – Most Wanted Pt. 3: Single vs. Married

In part 3 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we talk specifically about your relationship status. I start by focusing on challenges the single man faces in recovery. Then I compare that with the challenges married men face. http://recoveredman.com/158 The post 158 – Most Wanted Pt. 3: Single vs. Married appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/24/201849 minutes, 32 seconds
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157 – Most Wanted Pt. 2: Fetishes and Going Porn Free

In part 2 of 3 Most Wanted topics, we examine how fetish addiction affects our goal of going porn free. In this episode, I explain the 4 stages of addiction as defined by Dr. A. Thomas Horvath. I also share 5 questions to engage your best thinking about how to deal with fetishes in your recovery. http://recoveredman.com/157 The post 157 – Most Wanted Pt. 2: Fetishes and Going Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/16/201839 minutes, 28 seconds
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156 – Most Wanted Pt. 1: Masturbation and Going Porn Free

In part 1 of 3, Most Wanted topics, we examine how masturbation affects our goal of going porn free. Get full show notes: http://recoveredman.com/156 The post 156 – Most Wanted Pt. 1: Masturbation and Going Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/11/201829 minutes, 54 seconds
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155 – Overcoming Addiction

Pornfree Radio turns 4 years old this week. PFR Episode 001 launched 4/30/2014. Thousands of emails and 154 episodes later, we keep things going by discussing how addiction can be seen as an extreme version of habit. Full show notes: http://recoveredman.com/155 The post 155 – Overcoming Addiction appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/3/20181 hour, 2 minutes, 13 seconds
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154 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 3 – 90 Days Plus

Part 3 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 3 - day 90 and beyond. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/154 The post 154 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 3 – 90 Days Plus appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/25/201817 minutes, 16 seconds
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153 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 2 – Days 31-90

Part 2 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 2, days 31-90. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/153 The post 153 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 2 – Days 31-90 appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/18/201812 minutes, 45 seconds
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152 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 1: First 30 Days

Part 1 of 3 episodes on Resistance In Recovery focuses on stage 1, the first 30 days. “Most of us have two lives. The life we live and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”  -Steven Pressfield, The War of Art http://recoveredman.com/152 The post 152 – Resistance In Recovery Pt. 1: First 30 Days appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/12/201814 minutes, 39 seconds
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151 – Up Late. Can’t Sleep. Uh-oh!

"I did something I did not expect myself to do last night," Andrew, a PFR listener wrote in. "I was up far too late, and could not go to sleep because I had this unsettling feeling in my body. I knew what I had to do..." You won't believe what he did! http://recoveredman.com/151 The post 151 – Up Late. Can’t Sleep. Uh-oh! appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/4/201835 minutes, 17 seconds
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150 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 2

In part 2 of 2 episodes, I share recovery insights from Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. (2016. In this episode, I focus on how ego affects guys at 3 different stages of recovery. Get the full show notes here: http://recoveredman.com/150 The post 150 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/28/20181 hour, 13 minutes, 54 seconds
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149 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 1

In part 1 of 2 episodes, I share a book I am reading called, Ego Is The Enemy by Ryan Holiday. I discuss how ego has influenced both my addiction and recovery. Get the full show notes here: http://recoveredman.com/149 The post 149 – Ego Is The Enemy Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/21/201821 minutes, 12 seconds
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148 – Greatest Hits of Pornfree Radio Vol. 1

Long time listener and fan of the show Will asks, "what episodes would you recommend for new listeners?" Here's my take on the “Top 5” greatest hits. Get the full show notes here: http://recoveredman.com/148 The post 148 – Greatest Hits of Pornfree Radio Vol. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/14/201833 minutes, 49 seconds
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147 – Working At Home Without Relapsing Pt. 2

In part 2 of 2 episodes, we continue to discuss Working At Home Without Relapsing. I share the 3 biggest threats to staying porn free while working at home. Then I share tools to deal with each threat contributed by Pornfree Radio listeners. http://recoveredman.com/147  
3/7/201858 minutes, 6 seconds
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146 – Working At Home Without Relapsing Pt. 1

Just curious... have you ever had to work from home? Maybe you have a flexible schedule that allows you to work at home. Or maybe it's a snow day or your home sick from work. Is that a threat? Is it a challenge for you to stay porn free? In part 1 of 2 episodes, we discuss how to work at home without relapsing.
2/28/201843 minutes, 20 seconds
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145 – Isn’t Self-Reliance the Goal of Recovery?

With the podcast's emphasis on personal responsibility, it's easy to think the goal of recovery work is self-reliance. That in order to be strong we need to become emotionally self-reliant. But this undermines our recovery work and delays emotional healing. In this episode, I discuss the true goal of recovery. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! http://recoveredman.com/contribute I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 40 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/145 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 145 – Isn’t Self-Reliance the Goal of Recovery? appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/21/201831 minutes, 9 seconds
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144 – Your Recovery Is Not Your Relationship…

Your recovery is NOT your relationship and your relationship is NOT your recovery. On this special Valentine's Day episode, I explain the common confusion guys have with recovery work and their primary relationships. This episode is aimed at anyone in a relationship or who wants to be. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! http://recoveredman.com/contribute I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 36 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/144 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 144 – Your Recovery Is Not Your Relationship… appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/14/201855 minutes, 58 seconds
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143 – Dave’s 5 Mistaken Beliefs About Porn

It's Wednesday! On today's episode, I share Dave's 5 mistaken beliefs about porn. Dave was featured in PFR 138 when he reached the 2-year porn free milestone. Earlier this week, he shared 5 mistaken beliefs he had with porn. I asked for his permission to share them with you now. 1.) The next change in my life will make it easier to quit porn. 2.) Porn compliments my sex life. 3.) Porn is a reward. It's "me time." 4.) Porn is a break from work. It's "a mind shot." 5.) Subscribing to porn sites is more efficient. Contribute to Pornfree Radio in 2018! http://recoveredman.com/contribute I'm committed to publishing new Pornfree Radio episodes every Wednesday through the end of 2018.  And over 35 listeners, just like you, have committed to Pornfree Radio this year. Join us. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/143 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 143 – Dave’s 5 Mistaken Beliefs About Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/7/201823 minutes, 18 seconds
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142 – Your Porn. Her Pain. How Partners Heal w/ Lori and Jay Pyatt

On today's episode, we follow the partner's journey. Lori and Jay Pyatt share their story of navigating porn addiction, betrayal, and recovery as a couple. Lori mentors women who are healing from effects of their husband's porn addiction and trauma. Jay works with men in recovery from porn addiction. Both Lori and Jay are BraveHearts Certified Mentors™ and offer couple mentoring as well. Contribute to Pornfree Radio Each Month http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/142 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 142 – Your Porn. Her Pain. How Partners Heal w/ Lori and Jay Pyatt appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/31/201859 minutes, 22 seconds
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141 – When does quitting porn get easier?

When does quitting porn get easier? Really? I get asked this all the time by listeners. This past week, marked 7 years porn free for me. In this episode, I share 12 milestones that happened on my journey after which things got easier. You'll learn: - My new commitment for 2018 - Why recovery doesn't get easier - The ease of a task is a sign of mastery - Why mastery doesn't come from a calendar - The 12 milestones in my journey that led to mastery Contribute to Pornfree Radio Each Month http://recoveredman.com/contribute Thanks for all your contributions. You donated over $3000 to Pornfree Radio in 2017! Thanks helping get this message out each week. SEE YOU NEXT WEDNESDAY!!!!!! Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/141 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 141 – When does quitting porn get easier? appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/24/20181 hour, 4 minutes, 43 seconds
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140 – My Amazing Porn Discovery!

Which came first? My intense sexual curiosity or porn exposure? The answer might surprise you. In this episode, I explore my early days of porn exposure and a new realization I had this week. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/140 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 140 – My Amazing Porn Discovery! appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/11/201824 minutes, 49 seconds
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139 – Pornfree Radio Live! New Years Day

Recorded live on January 1, 2018. Grab your coffee (or hot beverage of choice) as we welcome in 2018 porn free! In this episode: - 5 Resolutions You Can Keep This Year - A brave listener is interviewed about his January sprint plan - Q&A Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/139 REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/register Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 139 – Pornfree Radio Live! New Years Day appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/3/20181 hour, 3 minutes, 48 seconds
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138 – Thank You For 2 Years Porn Free

In this final episode for 2017, Pornfree Radio listeners share their milestones, thank-yous, favorite artists, and more. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/138 REV Group Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/register Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 138 – Thank You For 2 Years Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/26/201758 minutes, 29 seconds
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137 – 5-Minute Self Care Habits

Do you struggle making time for self care? Do you suck at being creative? In today's episode, we break down 15 self care habits that take 5 minutes of less. Now it's prescriptive- I try to match your problem or need to a corresponding habit.  And my hope is this will inspire your own creativity to see what's possible in recovery. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/137 Porn Free This Year - NEW! http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Get my free video training here. Build your recovery plan and go porn free in 2018. Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 137 – 5-Minute Self Care Habits appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/19/20171 hour, 5 minutes, 2 seconds
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136 – Looking At A Woman And Not Seeing

On this episode of Pornfree Radio we discuss a topic we've never discussed before: Purity. An unlikely subject for a podcast devoted to skipping Christian cliches about pornography and lust. And yet I was compelled to share because of amazing interview I heard with Christopher West on the Integrity Restored podcast, episode 56. You may re-think your definition of "Purity" when you hear this episode. Porn Free This Year - NEW! http://recoveredman.com/thisyear Get my free video training here. Build your recovery plan and go porn free in 2018. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/136 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 136 – Looking At A Woman And Not Seeing appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/12/201723 minutes, 53 seconds
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135 – Breaking Free with Michael Leahy, Author and CEO of BraveHearts

Michael Leahy, author of Porn Nation, joins Pornfree Radio to discuss his journey out of porn and sex addiction. Michael is the CEO and founder of BraveHearts a faith-based mentoring organization for men recovering from porn and sex addiction. Michael also shares about his upcoming Breaking Free Virtual Summit. Presenting 40+ speakers over 10 days. December 10-19, 2017. Buy the Summit All-Access Pass or attend for free (Sessions are only available for 48 hours.) http://recoveredman.com/summitpass Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/135 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 135 – Breaking Free with Michael Leahy, Author and CEO of BraveHearts appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/4/201749 minutes, 46 seconds
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134 – Motivation Pt. 3: The ONE Thing

Part 3 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the unpacks the ONE thing you need to take action. Motivation as we have discussed is triggered by making choices but how do we focus our action. In this episode, you learn: - What the ONE thing is - How you can use a focusing question to determine your next action - A simple strategy to take action this week on your biggest problem with porn Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/134 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 134 – Motivation Pt. 3: The ONE Thing appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/28/201715 minutes, 12 seconds
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133 – Motivation Pt. 2: Internal Locus of Control

Part 2 of 3 in our series on Motivation examines the concept of an internal locus of control found in Smarter Faster Better by Charles Duhigg. We build on this idea and unpack how motivation is triggered by making choices that demonstrate we are in control. In this episode, you learn: - What is the locus of control - What is the difference between an internal and external locus of control - Why training is helpful with motivation - How motivation is triggered by choices that demonstrate we are in control - Why it's important to tie something meaningful to your habits Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/133 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 133 – Motivation Pt. 2: Internal Locus of Control appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/20/201721 minutes, 15 seconds
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132 – Motivation Pt. 1: The Myth of Self Discipline

Part 1 of 3 in our series on Motivation starts with The Myth Of Self Discipline found in Gary Keller's book The ONE Thing. In this episode, you learn: - Why you don't need more discipline than you already have - What "disciplined" people actually have - What you need to choose get more control in your life - Why willpower is like your mobile phone - The best way to build habits Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/132 Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Facebook https://www.facebook.com/recoveredman Twitter http://twitter.com/recoveredman Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 132 – Motivation Pt. 1: The Myth of Self Discipline appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/13/201726 minutes, 3 seconds
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131 – Things were going so well and then you looked at porn again!?!

Have you ever had something good happen in your life? A promotion? A birthday party? A big win? Then you looked at porn and everything came crashing down. Maybe you got to a BIG recovery milestone like 30-days porn free. Only to look at porn again on day 31. Or you maybe relapsed, got current with your wife and accountability group. Reset. Felt stable. Then inexplicably relapsed the very next day. You may have an "Upper Limit Problem." In this episode, you learn: - What an Upper Limit Problem is - How it affects recovery - What are the mistaken beliefs it is built on - How to get past it You'll also learn 2 awesome tips from the guys in REV Group Coaching. Plus I weigh in on Harvey Weinstein and the #MeToo hashtag phenomenon.  Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/131 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 131 – Things were going so well and then you looked at porn again!?! appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/19/201753 minutes, 12 seconds
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130 – Back 2 Basics: What Is Self Care?

In this episode, I answer a common question from new listeners: "What is Self Care?" In this episode you'll learn: - What self care is - Why it's important - How self care is connected to needs - What Maslow's theory is - How to apply Maslow's theory to our recovery - What Self-Actualization means and what characteristics self-actualized people have Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/130 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 130 – Back 2 Basics: What Is Self Care? appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/10/20171 hour, 34 seconds
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129 – The 7 Lies of Hugh Hefner

Hugh Hefner was a callous, con man. He created the myth of “the playboy.” A rich man, who lived in his pajamas, worshipped by beautiful women. He sold his myth like Phillip Morris sold the Marlboro Man. It was sex without consequences. Where women give without taking and never grow old. And we bought into it one masturbation session at a time.  In this episode, I discuss his legacy and the "obviously wicked and destructive things" he left behind. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/129 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 129 – The 7 Lies of Hugh Hefner appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/3/201739 minutes, 51 seconds
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128 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2

In the second of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. - I share the final 3 steps you need to create your own plan - Common ways guys get stuck - And finally why this system doesn't fail Part 1 is found in episode 127. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/128 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 128 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/27/20171 hour, 13 minutes, 19 seconds
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127 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1

On a recent writer's retreat I challenged myself to: Capture the steps to being porn free (the actual steps) Design a system that doesn't fail Create a plan, that if followed, could work for anybody In the first of 2 episodes, I share my journey discovering the The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails. I share the first two steps and explain why it took 11 years for me to go from step 1 to step 2. It's 5 steps in all. Part 2 is found in episode 128 and it contains the last 3 steps. Enjoy. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/127 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 127 – The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails Pt. 1 appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/22/201747 minutes, 39 seconds
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126 – Road Trip: Porn on I-75

Back from a summer vacation with my family this week. I discuss traveling to Florida on I-75, Disney World, and getting sick. Also some timely fantasy football talk. Free Webinar: The Porn Free Plan That Never Fails w/ Matt Dobschuetz Tuesday 9/19 8PM Central  http://recoveredman.com/webinar Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/126 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 126 – Road Trip: Porn on I-75 appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/7/201734 minutes, 33 seconds
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125 – Know You’re Not Alone w/ Sam Dobschuetz

Sam Dobschuetz, Coach and Stay-At-Home Dad, visits the Pornfree Radio studio aka my basement.  Sam coaches youth group pastors and has a passion for helping guys get out of isolation, find community, and healthy self care. We talk about growing up, Sam's experience with porn, and what he has seen as a youth group pastor, and now a coach of youth group leaders. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/125 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 125 – Know You’re Not Alone w/ Sam Dobschuetz appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/18/20171 hour, 5 minutes, 44 seconds
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124 – How To Porn-Proof Your Home

In this episode, I'll show you how to porn-proof your home today. I share: - the actual tools I use - walk you through their set up - some awesome strategies that PFR listeners are using to manage content filters Also I share Gary Wilson's (from yourbrainonporn.com) response to episode 123. Show Notes Links and resources at http://recoveredman.com/124 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 124 – How To Porn-Proof Your Home appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/8/201741 minutes, 43 seconds
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123 – Start Before You’re Ready

My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions.  - Why do you say that porn addiction recovery has little to do with brain science? - How do you know when you're ready to help someone else in recovery? - How does porn affect dating? - What do you do to battle food addiction?  - And more! Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/123 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 123 – Start Before You’re Ready appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/31/201745 minutes, 1 second
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122 – 3 Questions To Laser Focus Your Recovery This Week

Several years ago I participated in a men's weekend. It was a deep-dive counseling intensive. I'll admit it, I did beat on a drum at one point during the three days. But it was an incredible experience. On Friday night, we had to answer 3 questions before the other men. I present the 3 questions for you now. Use these, this week, to lock in and focus your recovery. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/122 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 122 – 3 Questions To Laser Focus Your Recovery This Week appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/20/201732 minutes, 10 seconds
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121 The Hero’s Journey with Ben Fraser

In this episode, we discuss "The Hero's Journey" with Ben Fraser, film maker and creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares how he used the archetype of "The Hero" to reframe his experience of recovery.  Ben joined us first in PFR 24. He is a frequent contributor  to Pornfree Radio and is  now the Coaching Coordinator for Sprint Coaching and REV Group Coaching.  Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/121 Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Coaching With Matt Dobschuetz http://recoveredman.com/coaching Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 121 The Hero’s Journey with Ben Fraser appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/9/201738 minutes, 59 seconds
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120 – School’s Out Syndrome

Summer is here and it's a great time to talk about "School's Out Syndrome." It's that feeling we have on the last day of school.  A perverse freedom that comes in transition when we don't feel like we have any authority or rules. In this episode, you'll learn: - What "School's Out Syndrome" is - Why it's a dangerous lie to us in recovery - And 3 truths that counteract it REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/120 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 120 – School’s Out Syndrome appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/19/201720 minutes, 46 seconds
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119 – Riding the Recovery Roller Coaster

If you have been at recovery for a while you have probably had a "roller coaster week." It's where you have some good recovery activities and momentum, then a relapse. How do we make sense of these ups and downs? REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/119 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 119 – Riding the Recovery Roller Coaster appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/5/201740 minutes
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118 – Redefining Identity with Crystal Renaud

Coach and founder of Dirty Girl Ministries, Crystal Renaud, joins Pornfree Radio. In this episode, we discuss the importance of moving from away from negative labels (i.e. addict) in recovery. Crystal also shares her own story out of porn addiction and her recovery experience as a woman of faith. REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/118 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 118 – Redefining Identity with Crystal Renaud appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/30/201759 minutes, 18 seconds
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117 – 3 Common Mistakes Guys Make After A Relapse

How you're responding after a slip or a relapse can determine the long-term health of your recovery. In this episode, I share 3 common mistakes I routinely made after relapses and what you can do to avoid them. Get Access: Free Webinar - Monday May 29th The 5 Habits of Porn Free People http://recoveredman.com/webinar REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/116 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 117 – 3 Common Mistakes Guys Make After A Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/23/201726 minutes, 14 seconds
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116 – How To Deal With Pornographic Thoughts in Public

We've all been there. Whether it's at the mall, the grocery store, or even at church, we have these nagging lustful thoughts that come out of nowhere. Because of our history of porn use, we seem wired to sexualize people in our path. In this episode, Matt is joined by Scott from the Thursday night REV Group. We discuss real strategies you can use to deal with this pattern and find freedom. REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/116 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 116 – How To Deal With Pornographic Thoughts in Public appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/16/201755 minutes, 57 seconds
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115 – Warning: Matt Gets Fired Up

In this episode, I go off the dome, and respond to critical feedback from two listeners. Warning: I get fired up. The post 115 – Warning: Matt Gets Fired Up appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/8/201731 minutes, 4 seconds
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114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next

I get a lot of questions these days about Smart Phones and Smart TVs. Networked internet devices are the norm now. But they can also be a big threat to our sobriety. In this episode, I share a powerful metaphor you can use when making decisions about smart devices and how they fit with your recovery goals. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/114 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 114 – Smart Phones, Smart TVs, and Whatever Comes Next appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/4/201755 minutes, 39 seconds
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113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn

On this week's episode, I share an a-ha moment from a PFR listener. Jon shares how he's gotten to 81 days porn and masturbation free by making daily investment building his character. He writes, "I am inhabiting a place of becoming the type of man that does not look at porn. Instead of; practicing behaviors that keep me from looking at porn." 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/113 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 113 – Becoming the type of man that does not look at porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/25/201727 minutes, 29 seconds
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112 – Avoiding Failure

Are you avoiding failure in your life? Are you trying to escape negative thoughts, feelings, or emotions? This pattern of avoidance could be fueling your porn addiction and at the same time thwarting your recovery. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/112 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 112 – Avoiding Failure appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/6/201730 minutes, 28 seconds
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111 – The Top 3 Lies Partners Believe with Hope Ray

Hope Ray is back! In this episode, we discuss the top 3 lies that partners believe when their husbands or boyfriend's struggle with porn. Hope first joined us in episodes 70 and 74 of Pornfree Radio. She specializes in working with partners and couples who are healing from the effects of porn and sex addiction. Free Download from Hope Partner's Guide to Writing An Impact Letter by Hope Ray http://recoveredman.com/hope REV Group Coaching Application http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/111 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 111 – The Top 3 Lies Partners Believe with Hope Ray appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/28/201759 minutes, 24 seconds
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110 – Do I have to hit rock bottom to recover?

In this episode, I unpack the good and bad news about hitting rock bottom. The bad news is few people will be able to porn free unless they have hit rock bottom. But I also have some really good news... I also answer two burning questions from listeners. REV Group Coaching Application http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/110 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 110 – Do I have to hit rock bottom to recover? appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/21/201746 minutes, 14 seconds
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109 – What we live for is more important than what we give up

My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - Are there any porn free sexual acts? - Do you have any advice or specific tips for those of us who wrestle with same-sex pornography? - How can I move forward with abstinent dating? - Help! I've been struggling to find a decent consequence for relapse. - Is it unreasonable for me to want to see my boyfriend's phone? - What to do with extreme temptation? ... and more! REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/109 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 109 – What we live for is more important than what we give up appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/13/20171 hour, 10 minutes, 28 seconds
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108 – 110 Days Porn Free While Studying For The Bar Exam

In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like: - Any suggestions for parents of someone who doesn't seem to want to fight to be porn free? - Do you have any advice for a depressed, porn-addicted teenager? - How can a recovering porn addict can engage in good self care at different phases of life? - Is it normal to be scared to give up porn? - How should Christians think about participation in a 12-step program alongside their faith practice? Register Now for REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev Sign up for Build a 7-Day Porn Free Plan Webinar (March 13) http://recoveredman.com/107 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/108 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 108 – 110 Days Porn Free While Studying For The Bar Exam appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/9/20171 hour, 17 minutes, 45 seconds
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107 – Back 2 Basics: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan

In this episode, you'll learn how to create a hyper focused 7-day porn free recovery plan. This continues our "Back 2 Basics" series targeted at new listeners. "To go porn free for a month, you have to go porn free for a week." 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/107 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 107 – Back 2 Basics: The 7-Day Porn Free Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/2/201749 minutes, 40 seconds
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106 – Back 2 Basics: F.A.S.T.T. Check-Ins

Continuing our Back 2 Basics series, we review the tool of F.A.S.T.T. check-ins. This structured check-in process will anchor your recovery each week and improve your success. This check-in format comes from Dr. Milton Magness. Its original use was for sex addicts and their partners after disclosure. However F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins provide a great framework for any kind of ongoing accountability. The components of a F.A.S.T.T. Check-in include: - Feelings - Activities in Recovery - Slip Report (or Sobriety Check) - Threats - Tools 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/106 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 106 – Back 2 Basics: F.A.S.T.T. Check-Ins appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/20/201728 minutes
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105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking

How can we measure the health of our recovery daily? In this episode, I share a new tool for daily recovery tracking that was inspired by the National Hockey League (NHL). Download Daily Recovery Tracking Calendar here: http://recoveredman.com/105 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/105 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 105 – Back 2 Basics: Daily Tracking appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/13/201730 minutes, 18 seconds
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104 – How To Deal With Depression

In this uncut, unedited episode of Pornfree Radio, I share 5 things that help me deal with depression. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/104 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 104 – How To Deal With Depression appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/9/201718 minutes, 52 seconds
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103 – How To Take Massive Action

Do you want to jumpstart your recovery this week? Take massive action. Matt is joined by Steve, a Pornfree Radio listener, who took 10 actions last week and shares each of them here. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/103 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 103 – How To Take Massive Action appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/25/201728 minutes, 40 seconds
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102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety?

On my 6th anniversary of being porn free, I answer 2 recent questions; "How do you sustain long-term sobriety?" and "What does the struggle look like for you now?" 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/102 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 102 – How Do You Sustain Long-Term Sobriety? appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/17/201737 minutes, 40 seconds
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101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read

In 1939, the most important recovery book of all time was written. It has sold more than 30 million copies! However you won't find it when searching for "porn addiction" on Amazon. And chances are you have never read it. But it's a powerful recovery document and should be part of every guy's toolbox. In this episode, you'll learn: - About the "Big Book" - Why and for who it was written - How the allergy of the body and obsession of the mind leads to powerlessness - What it means to us as we recover from porn addiction 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/101 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 101 – The Most Important Recovery Book You’ve Never Read appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/10/201746 minutes, 8 seconds
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100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn

Celebrating 100 episodes of Pornfree Radio by putting the focus on you the listener. On this episode... Ben, a listener from the Pacific Northwest, joins Pornfree Radio and shares his story. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/100 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 100 – Nice to meet you, I’m addicted to porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/2/201752 minutes, 26 seconds
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099 – How do I start to feel again?

My inbox is full (again!) Time to answer your burning questions: - How do I start to feel again? - How do you address incognito with browsers? - Help! I'm a big sports fan and when my team loses, I relapse - Do you have any advice for me on how to pick up the phone? - Do you have any insight regarding the inevitable progression of the disease? - How did your wife get past the betrayal? - My accountability partner is not being honest... ... and more! REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/99 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 099 – How do I start to feel again? appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/26/201652 minutes, 37 seconds
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098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group?

In this episode, we open the Pornfree mail bag, read your letters and answer questions like: - Do you have any tips for finding a group? - How long is a reasonable time to think about opening myself up for possible dating? - How honest is too honest especially this early in our romantic relationship? - Guys keep dropping out of my recovery group, Help! - If he doesn't believe he has a porn addiction despite my objection and pain ... do I just have no choice but to divorce? - If you’re really about helping everyone... why are all your paid-for products so expensive? - My accountability partner fell of the wagon, what do I do? - My dad struggles with porn also, how can I help? - My wife won't have sex with me. Now what? REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/98 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 098 – Do you have any tips for finding a group? appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/19/20161 hour, 18 minutes, 42 seconds
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097 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 3: Your Tribe

Pornography is a habit that is practiced in isolation and in secret. Isn't it just common sense that to break that habit you need others? This is part 3 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017. You'll learn: - Why you need a tribe to recover - Why committing to a group is the single most powerful action you can take to go porn free - The 7 benefits of being in a strong recovery group REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/97 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 097 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 3: Your Tribe appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/12/201640 minutes, 35 seconds
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096 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 2: Your Plan

"Winners anticipate, losers react." - Tony Robbins. Listeners who have had success listening to Pornfree Radio have one thing in common. They have a plan. A custom recovery plan is essential to getting free from porn addiction. This is part 2 of our 3-part series for going porn free in 2017. You'll learn: - Why motivation is an exhaustible resource - Why anticipation beats reaction - The 8 components of a strong recovery plan REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/96 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 096 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 2: Your Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/5/201645 minutes, 31 seconds
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095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why

You need to know why you are eliminating porn from your life. The more clear you are, the better. It can't just be for your wife, your faith, your family, your job, etc. You have all those things now and you're still stuck. This is the first of 3 episodes on going porn free in 2017. You'll learn: - Why uncovering your true desire is essential to get free - The difference between external and internal motivation - A powerful exercise to reveal your why REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Contribute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/95 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 095 – Go Porn Free in 2017 Pt. 1: Your Why appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/29/201631 minutes, 29 seconds
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094 – My Intentions Are Good, But My Follow Through Sucks

In this episode, we talk about... Goal Setting. For years goal setting was something I resisted. But in recovery it's become a growing strength. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in. You'll learn: - Why setting goals matter and why it's essential to your recovery. - What it means to be a lazy perfectionist? - The 4 keys for follow through that doesn't suck (My Slacker's Guide To Accomplishing Goals.) Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/94 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 094 – My Intentions Are Good, But My Follow Through Sucks appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/21/201649 minutes, 52 seconds
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093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine

How does a morning routine help keep you porn free? That and more are the focus of this episode. Ben Fraser from the Brick House web series sits in. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/93 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 093 – Back 2 Basics: Morning Routine appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/16/201629 minutes, 34 seconds
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092 – Back 2 Basics: Edging

A topic that keeps coming up is edging. Edging are the little behaviors that mimic our old ways of acting out. Hashtags, images searches, channel surfing, second looks, all fall into this category. They seem innocent compared to our old addiction. But they can spell trouble. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series sits in and shares his thoughts. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/92 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 092 – Back 2 Basics: Edging appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/16/201631 minutes, 9 seconds
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091 – The Feeling Wheel

Matt shares a tool he has been using recently in 1-on-1 coaching to help clients identify the primary feelings in their life. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/91 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 091 – The Feeling Wheel appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/2/201631 minutes, 43 seconds
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090 – I’m Not Perfect…But I’m Good At Not Relapsing

"Matt, I'm not perfect. But you know what I am good at? Not relapsing." One of my friends, with many years of sobriety, once told me this. The secret is what you do when you start getting shaky. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/90 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 090 – I’m Not Perfect…But I’m Good At Not Relapsing appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/25/201621 minutes, 42 seconds
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089 – Social Recovery with Alex Lerza from rTribe

Alex Lerza from rTribe visits Pornfree Radio and shares why connection is the opposite of addiction. Alex by training is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. His work as a therapist has come out of his own recovery. His journey led him to create an app in 2015, with fellow therapist, Josh Kalsbeek, to help people recover for porn addiction. rTribe is a social recovery app for porn and sex addiction. It connects thousands of people each day who are working on recovery from porn. Download the app or visit rTribe.org for more information. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/89 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 089 – Social Recovery with Alex Lerza from rTribe appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/19/201648 minutes, 47 seconds
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088 – What I Found When I Searched for “Porn Addiction” on Amazon.com

When looking for help with porn addiction, books seem like a safe way to learn. Especially when ordered online. But what do the search results from Amazon.com tell us about our porn addiction? I saw some common themes in the books represented. I break down 3 types of the porn addiction books and ask the question: Do they help us recover or are they an excuse for not taking action? Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/88 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 088 – What I Found When I Searched for “Porn Addiction” on Amazon.com appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/5/201633 minutes, 1 second
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087 – A Man Divided Cannot Stand

Whether you're new to Pornfree Radio or have been listening from the beginning, there's a common journey we share. We all start divided with an external life we show people and a hidden life where our addiction lives. Our ultimate goal is to be whole. To have the inside and outside match. But how do we get there? Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/87 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 087 – A Man Divided Cannot Stand appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/29/201638 minutes, 32 seconds
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086 Missing In Action

What's missing in recovery? YOU. Are you showing up? Are you supporting others? Do you know the value of your presence? In this episode, we discuss why everyone should be in a group. Apply to REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com.com/rev Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/86 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 086 Missing In Action appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/13/201643 minutes, 19 seconds
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085 The Worst Men’s Group Ever

A year into my recovery, I attended the worst men's group ever. Nobody was having much success and I felt worse going home then when I got there. In this episode, I share what was missing and how you can revive a struggling group. Apply to REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/85 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 085 The Worst Men’s Group Ever appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/4/201640 minutes, 32 seconds
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084 More Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn

In episode 75, I shared 5 lies that keep us coming back to porn. This was one of our most downloaded podcasts of the summer. On a recent Reddit thread, I posted the original 5 lies and users contributed more lies in the comments. In this episode, I share the lies here and 5 powerful truths that help overcome them. Apply to REV Group Coaching http://recoveredman.com/rev Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/84 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 084 More Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/31/201636 minutes, 21 seconds
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083 Ask More Questions

Providing great accountability is more than just encouraging someone when they relapse. In this episode, we talk about 3 tools you can use to make your accountability stronger. These tools can be difference between a guy staying stuck and getting to the next level in their recovery. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/83 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 083 Ask More Questions appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/24/201631 minutes, 31 seconds
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082 The 5 Characteristics of Great Accountability Partners

Is your accountability partner a CHAMP? In this episode, we answer your questions about accountability and accountability partners. You'll also learn the 5 characteristics of great accountability partners. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/82 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 082 The 5 Characteristics of Great Accountability Partners appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/16/201634 minutes, 1 second
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081 Up In Your Business w/ Angus Nelson

Fresh off of Podcast Movement 2016, Matt welcomes Angus Nelson from the "Up In Your Business" podcast. On this episode, Angus opens up about his history with porn and gets vulnerable. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/81 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 081 Up In Your Business w/ Angus Nelson appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/8/201645 minutes, 4 seconds
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080 The 1 Habit You Need To Stay Porn Free

Matt shares two recent stories from coaching clients and the 1 consistent habit you need to stay porn free. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/80 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 080 The 1 Habit You Need To Stay Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/1/201632 minutes, 8 seconds
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079 The 3 Choices You Have When Dealing With Porn

There are three choices you have when dealing with porn. In this episode, Matt shares an embarrassing story and how it applies to your recovery. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/79 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 079 The 3 Choices You Have When Dealing With Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/25/201624 minutes, 52 seconds
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078 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn Pt. 2

In episode 4 of Pornfree Radio, we talked about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. This episode is one of our most popular and has been downloaded over 5000 times. In this follow up, I revisit the topic with some further thoughts with how guys get stuck. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/78 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 078 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn Pt. 2 appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/12/201641 minutes, 32 seconds
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077 Seven Deadly Excuses

In each Pornfree Radio podcast, a sale is made. Either you buy what I'm selling about being porn free or you sell me an excuse why you can't. In this episode, we talk about the seven deadly excuses that come up when trying to quit porn. DISCLAIMER: These excuses are not aimed at anyone specific. If they sound familiar it's because I hear them a lot. Get Access to Relapse Video Series http://recoveredman.com/relapse Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/77 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 077 Seven Deadly Excuses appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/27/201644 minutes
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076 The #1 Thing Porn Costs Us

I've talked to over sixty guys 1-on-1 this past year about their struggle with porn. When I asked what it has cost them, there is a common answer that comes up over and over again. But is it the whole story? In this episode, we look at what they said and dig deeper. In this episode: - The #1 thing we say porn costs us - How we dishonor our value with porn - How porn overrides our lives - How porn snowballs into the next day - Why it robs us of our presence Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/76 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 076 The #1 Thing Porn Costs Us appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/21/201654 minutes, 14 seconds
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075 The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn

There are 5 lies I hear over and over again from guys trying to quit porn. These are the mistaken beliefs that go through right before we act out. In this episode, I label the 5 lies and share 5 powerful truths to help overcome them. Contibute to Pornfree Radio http://recoveredman.com/contribute 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/75 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ Thanks for all your ratings and reviews in iTunes. If you haven’t had a chance yet please subscribe in iTunes and leave a rating or review because that helps get the word out. The post 075 The 5 Lies That Keep Us Coming Back To Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/13/201652 minutes, 14 seconds
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074 Hope Ray Returns: Partners’ Q&A

In episode 70, Hope Ray joined us from HopeRayTherapy.com to discuss the Partners' experience. Hope returns to answer questions from partners, wives, and girlfriends. In this episode, we answer: - How do I begin a conversation with my significant other about his porn use? - Do ultimatums work? - What if my husband is a brick wall? - What if he says he's sorry, but doesn't change? - What if my husband looks at teen porn? 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/74 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 074 Hope Ray Returns: Partners’ Q&A appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/6/20161 hour, 4 minutes, 17 seconds
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073 Ten Porn Free Hacks For Summer

Summer is here. And with it brings time off, vacations, new schedules, bikinis, and summer clothing. In this episode, Matt shares ten porn free hacks you can use this Summer to stay on the right track.  Don’t miss hack #8. It’s a new one that goes against popular advice. Sprint Coaching 3-Month Summer Special Fill […] The post 073 Ten Porn Free Hacks For Summer appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/1/201645 minutes, 27 seconds
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072 Can A Recovering Porn Addict Be An Artist?

Can I be a recovering porn addict and an artist at the same time? What about drawing nudes? Or what about art that is erotic? In the art world, the line between porn and art can be thin. In some cases, one person's "art" is another person's porn! How can one balance being an artist, viewing art, drawing from life and avoid being triggered? Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email [email protected] to ask a question. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/72 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 072 Can A Recovering Porn Addict Be An Artist? appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/25/201637 minutes, 48 seconds
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071 Why Men Look at Porn

The nagging question after any relapse is 'Why?" Why did I look at porn when I was committed not to? Why did I look at porn even though it's harmful to my relationship? Why did I look at porn and put my job at risk? There are two reasons that drive us to porn and they have little to do with brain science or our capacity for lust. Hope Ray (from Episode 70) returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email [email protected] to ask a question. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/71 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 071 Why Men Look at Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/15/201627 minutes, 5 seconds
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070 Hope for Partners, Wives, and Girlfriends with Hope Ray

It's been 2 years of Pornfree Radio and this is a show unlike any other. On this episode we focus on partners. We discuss disclosures, coming clean, check-ins, and the partners' experience. Counselor Hope Ray sits joins Matt for an informative discussion that will help both motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn and the partners who love them. In this episode: What and when to tell your wife The disclosure process What staggered disclosure is and why it's damaging F.A.S.T.T. Check-ins Hope Ray returns Monday, June 6th to answer your questions about recovery and relationships. Email [email protected] to ask a question. 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/70 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 070 Hope for Partners, Wives, and Girlfriends with Hope Ray appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/5/20161 hour, 22 seconds
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069 Sex In Recovery From Porn?

Opening the mailbag once again this week with a stack of questions from you the listener. In this episode: "Is sex in recovery okay?" "What about hard mode?" "What about sex when your older?" "What happens when you and your partner have a different sex drive?" "What if you're addicted to images that aren't traditional pornography?" 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/69 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 069 Sex In Recovery From Porn? appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/25/201648 minutes, 14 seconds
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068 How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn?

On this episode, Matt digs into the PFR mailbag and answers some questions listeners want to know. Questions covered: "Are you still doing the podcast?" "How long does it take to quit porn?" "What worse to relapse in porn or masturbation?" "Can you recover if you have not hit rock bottom?" "Where can you look for an accountability partner?" "We don't think our way to right action, we act our way to right thinking." - AA Recovery Quote 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/68 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 068 How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn? appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/19/201641 minutes, 4 seconds
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067 Killing The Passive Will

Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on porn. We want to be passive and put the responsibility of moving forward on someone else. But it's time to make a decision. In Episode 66, I asked the question, "Do you really want to fix this?" This episode struck a nerve with the audience. I received more email then I ever have before. Some guys were worried I was quitting podcasting. Several guys thought my sharp comments were directly at them. And many more shared the action they were taking as a result from this show. So I thought I would go deeper into what set me off. It's the passive will and a failure to take responsibility. In this episode, you'll learn: - The quote that almost got me in a fight - What we discover about our struggle - What the passive will is - About the decision we must make - What it means to decide "Sometimes we discover that we just plain want to hang on to the sinful behavior, and some of us even have to face the fact that we then hope to blame God for not "healing" us. We see right away when we are dealing with a passive will, someone who looks lumpishly to a counselor or minister of God to do what only he himself can do. All such things as these come to the fore, along with the memories of where the heart opened itself to envy, bitterness, lust and so on. Then in full confession of our sins of God, we acknowledge our rank foolishness and our propensities to pride and rebellion, and we make a decision about sin." - Leanne Payne, The Healing Presence 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/67 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 067 Killing The Passive Will appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/9/201634 minutes, 54 seconds
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066 IMPORTANT: Do you want to fix this?

This show resets the vision of Pornfree Radio. If you are new listener feel free to listen to some old shows. If you're a long timer, it's time to have an honest conversation: Do you want to fix this? Do you really want to fix this? 1-on-1 Coaching With Matt http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/66 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 066 IMPORTANT: Do you want to fix this? appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/15/201621 minutes, 11 seconds
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065 Not Safe For Work Pt 3: Getting Things Done

This is the final episode in a 3 podcast series about dealing with porn at work. We've identified in episode 63 the risks of using porn at work. In episode 64 we talked about how your leadership is compromised. In part 3, Ben from the Brick House Web Series, joins me to discuss strategies for eliminating porn at work and getting things done. If you don't pay appropriate attention to what has your attention, it will take more of your attention than it deserves. - David Allen, Getting Things Done In this episode, you'll learn: - What GTD is - Why you need to treat your work environment as a project - Why you need a plan for work - What are the unique emotional triggers, mistaken beliefs, and weak links at work - How to take action at work - Why we need a self care at work Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/65 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 065 Not Safe For Work Pt 3: Getting Things Done appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/7/201649 minutes, 52 seconds
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064 Not Safe For Work Pt 2: The Impotent Leader

This is part 2 of 3 episodes on porn use and the work place. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me again. This time we discuss the effect of porn use on your leadership at work. In this episode, you'll learn: - How porn steals your focus at work - How it - How it zaps your vision and erodes your confidence - How it compromises your moral leadership - Why even if people don't find out, they will experience the effects Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/64 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 064 Not Safe For Work Pt 2: The Impotent Leader appeared first on Recovered Man.
3/1/201629 minutes, 44 seconds
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063 Not Safe For Work Pt 1: Risky Business

According to a survey* conducted by the Barna Group in the U.S. in 2014: 63% of adult men have looked at pornography at least one time while at work in the past 3 months; 38% have done so more than once. It's a BIG issue. And there are HUGE risks to viewing porn at work. Ben Fraser from the Brick House Web Series joins me for 1st of 3 podcasts on porn use at work. *2014 ProvenMen.org Pornography Use at Work Survey (conducted by the Barna Group) In this episode, you'll learn: - About your personal risk of using porn at work - The jaw dropping stats of porn at work - What triggers work place porn use - The 4 main areas of risk - The harm of "working under the influence" - Why porn steals more than just your time Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/63 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 063 Not Safe For Work Pt 1: Risky Business appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/23/201645 minutes, 47 seconds
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062 A Bone To Pick

Matt is joined by Brick House web series creator, Ben Fraser. Ben first visited Pornfree Radio for episode 24 on Creativity and Recovery. In this episode, Matt and Ben discuss the second season of Brick House (now available on YouTube.) Then they turn their attention to a passionate letter from a listener. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/62 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 062 A Bone To Pick appeared first on Recovered Man.
2/16/201651 minutes, 7 seconds
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061 The Strength To Delete It All

Saying goodbye to your stash is hard to do. It's been with you a long time. It's like a security blanket. But it is something that has to be done if you want freedom. In this episode, we talk about the strength to delete it all. We also discuss the things to watch out for when you get close to 30 days porn free. You'll learn: - About my second chance offers for 2016 - The details of a listener success story - What it took to finally delete that old stash - 4 things to watch out for when your near the 30-day porn free mark 2016 Second Chance Offers http://recoveredman.com/secondchance Get access to Your Porn Free Playbook or 1-1 Coaching with Matt Dobschuetz at a great rate through February 5, 2016. Save $100 off Your Porn Free Playbook Course OR $300 off a 3-month coaching package. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/61 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 061 The Strength To Delete It All appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/27/201633 minutes, 28 seconds
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060 Going 5 Years Porn Free

In this episode, recorded on my 5th anniversary of being 100% porn free. I share the 5 biggest things that have helped me stay porn free since January 2011. In this episode you'll learn: - About my last relapse - Why I need consistent, transparent relationships with other guys - Why open communication and trust with my wife was key to my success - Why I eliminated dangerous media in my life - How I took a hard line on edging - How helping others helps keep me porn free Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/60 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 060 Going 5 Years Porn Free appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/13/201655 minutes, 37 seconds
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059 Fail Better Pt 2: Preventing Relapse

Continuing our discussion on relapse from episode 58. In this show we talk about the lies we believe and how to prevent relapse. In this episode you'll learn: - Matt's favorite character from Star Wars: The Force Awakens - Common lies we believe when in relapse - Warning signs of relapse - How to avoid relapse - Why bringing even small things into the light helps us - Listener Question: What do you do when you're trying to sleep and lustful thoughts keep pounding your mind? Take no part in the unfruitful works of darkness, but instead expose them. For it is shameful even to speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the light, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. - Ephesians 5:11-14 (ESV) Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/59 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 059 Fail Better Pt 2: Preventing Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.
1/7/201645 minutes, 23 seconds
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058 Fail Better Pt 1: Recovering From Relapse

I get a ton of email about relapse. Immediately after a relapse guys send me questions trying to figure out what went wrong. Or sometimes they are trying to figure out what series of behaviors constitutes relapse. All that and more as we spend the 1st of 2 episodes on relapse. In this episode you'll learn: - What relapse means - When it begins and more importantly when it ends - How we can take ownership - How to assess what happened - Why relapse can be a gift Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better. - Samuel Beckett Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/58 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 058 Fail Better Pt 1: Recovering From Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/21/201539 minutes, 2 seconds
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057 Go Porn Free in 2016

There is a part of you that doesn't want to listen to this podcast. Because to go porn free in 2016 you might have to do some things differently than this year. But you need to press through the resistance and embrace the process. In this episode, we discuss the 5 steps to going porn free in 2016. In this episode you'll learn: - What a sprint plan is - Why you need to be selfish - The 3 roadblocks to being porn free - The biggest mistake people make when quitting porn - The new habits you need this year - What activates your plan Free download: 2016 Monthly Worksheet and Checklist http://recoveredman.com/57 Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/57 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 057 Go Porn Free in 2016 appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/14/201543 minutes, 20 seconds
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056 A Letter From The North Pole

This time a year, we hear a lot of stories about sending letters to Santa. But on this episode Matt reads a letter he received, this week, from the North Pole. Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/56 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 056 A Letter From The North Pole appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/8/201527 minutes, 14 seconds
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055 I Just Completed a Massive Binge…

Fresh off the American holiday of Thanksgiving, where over indulgence is common, and Black Friday, America's shopping spectacle, Matt digs into one of the best letters he has ever gotten on PFR. Netflix with boundaries? On-demand without the junk? Watch movies your way with VidAngel. http://recoveredman.com/video (affiliate link) Select the content you don't want to see and VidAngel's smart streaming service removes it while you watch. No more surprises! Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/55 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 055 I Just Completed a Massive Binge… appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/29/201539 minutes, 46 seconds
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054 The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People

In this episode, we talk about The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People. We hosted a webinar a few weeks back on this subject and over 60 guys jumped on to watch. But many of you couldn't make it. If you have struggled going 100% porn free this past year it may be that you're just missing a 1 or 2 key puzzle pieces. So today I reveal the 5 essential habits of porn free people who go 30, 60, 365+ days without porn. Netflix with boundaries? On-demand without the junk? Watch movies your way with VidAngel. http://recoveredman.com/video (affiliate link) Select the content you don't want to see and VidAngel's smart streaming service removes it while you watch. No more surprises! Your Porn Free Playbook 2016 (Course) Take hope and take action in our course and private Facebook community. http://recoveredman.com/playbook Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/54 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 054 The 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/24/201545 minutes, 9 seconds
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053 How Do I Know If I’m Getting Better?

If everything I do is preventative, setting up filters, rules, boundaries,etc. -- how do I know if I'm recovering? Am I really getting better? What are proactive things can I do speed up my recovery? Register for our free Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST. http://recoveredman.com/webinar Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/53 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 053 How Do I Know If I’m Getting Better? appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/9/201536 minutes, 10 seconds
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052 What Does Your Smartphone Look Like?

Smartphones are the #1 threat to being porn free today. They are up to a 100x more powerful than computers we used a few years ago and sit on our nightstand. But smartphones are not the problem, it's our relationship with them. Register for our free Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST. http://recoveredman.com/webinar Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/52 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 052 What Does Your Smartphone Look Like? appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/2/201542 minutes, 25 seconds
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051 Slips Vs. Acting Out

Slips. Close calls. Edging. How do we define those little behaviors that are related to our old porn rituals? Matt tackles the age old recover problem: Did we have a slip or did we relapse? Register for our free Webinar 5 Essential Habits of Porn Free People Wed Nov. 11. 8PM CST. http://recoveredman.com/webinar Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/51 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 051 Slips Vs. Acting Out appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/28/201530 minutes, 24 seconds
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050 The Real Scandal Behind Ashley Madison

The real scandal behind the Ashley Madison hack didn't make headlines, but it has real implications for guys who want to go porn free. I'll share what we can learn from Ashley Madison and what it has in common with sites like Google,YouTube, and Facebook. Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/50 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 050 The Real Scandal Behind Ashley Madison appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/12/201533 minutes, 52 seconds
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049 Why Did I Binge After 30 Days of Success?

This summer my mailbox has been full. In this episode, I'll be answering questions from listeners. You can always email at [email protected]. I am the only one who checks that email box. Please include your first name. If there is anything you need to keep private please give me the heads up. Questions discussed in this episode: - Why did I Binge after 30 days of success? - How do you build more trust in your relationship with your wife? - What advice do you have for partners on the other side of porn addiction? - How do I not get conceded in my recovery, letting down my guard because I figured it out? Sprint Coaching Openings Are you getting stuck? I want to help you. I have openings for 1-1 Sprint Coaching. Sprint coaching is the fastest way to get a recovery plan in place and start taking action. Fill out an application here and we’ll set up a free 30-min session to see if Sprint Coaching is right for you. http://recoveredman.com/coaching Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/49 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 049 Why Did I Binge After 30 Days of Success? appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/5/201540 minutes, 59 seconds
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048 Home Alone Syndrome

Have you ever gotten home and realized you were alone with unaccountable time? And your next thought was, "Yippe I can look at porn." Or have you ever had 10 minutes of free time on your smart phone and thought no one will know if I do a quick search? Well you have experienced Home Alone Syndrome. It's that all too common trap we get in when we are alone. It can short circuit weeks of strong sobriety in minutes. In this episode we break down the 3 lies that surround Home Alone Syndrome. We also discuss 3 ways to counteract this dangerous pattern. Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/48 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 048 Home Alone Syndrome appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/28/201528 minutes, 16 seconds
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047 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 2: Craig Perra

This is part 2 of 2 episodes with Craig Perra from the Mindful Habit. In this episode, Craig continues to document his profound and emotional experience shooting the reality TV show, Living With the Enemy, where he lived with a porn star for 8 days. The show concludes with a powerful scene where Craig takes Emily back to the scene of his darkest moment. Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/47 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 047 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 2: Craig Perra appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/21/201538 minutes, 16 seconds
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046 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 1: Craig Perra

In early 2015, Craig Perra, life coach from the Mindful Habit, lived with a porn star, Emily Nicholson for 8 days. They were on the Lifetime reality series, Living With the Enemy. This is part 1 of 2 episodes with Craig where we get his take on the show and how it affected him. In this episode we talk about Craig's experience being on set at a porn shoot. The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape. Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/46 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 046 I Lived With A Porn Star Pt 1: Craig Perra appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/14/201540 minutes, 36 seconds
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045 Temptation Pt 2: The Way of Escape

The second of two episodes on temptation is all about the way of the escape. Temptation is common to all men. And we have the ability to make choices in the moment. It might feel automatic now, but you can disrupt the temptation cycle and find the way of escape. Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/45 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 045 Temptation Pt 2: The Way of Escape appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/7/201532 minutes
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044 Temptation Pt 1: Your Desire

Our first of two episodes on temptation is all about your desire. Before you learn how to deal with temptation, you have to first define what it really means. Then you have to see the temptation cycle and how your desire drives it. Now Available: Break Glass In Case of Emergency: 10 Ways to Deal With Temptation in the Moment Download my new guide on temptation. This document has 10 powerful exercises inside for dealing with temptation in the moment. Visit http://recoveredman.com/911 to get your copy. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/44 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 044 Temptation Pt 1: Your Desire appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/2/201526 minutes, 40 seconds
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043 Porn Addiction Side Effects

The phrase "porn addiction side effects" is searched in Google over 60, 000 times a month. Guys are looking for answers in attempt to self-diagnose things like, Porn-induced Erectile Dysfunction, depression, intrusive thoughts, dopamine headaches, fetishes, and escalating behaviors. In this episode, we look at the porn addiction side effects that are common to all of us who struggle. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/43 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 043 Porn Addiction Side Effects appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/16/201547 minutes, 49 seconds
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042 Getting Started Pt 3: Your Plan

Our final installment in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on your plan. "Fail to plan. Plan to fail.", is a true statement. Without a plan in place you continue to get triggered, go to unsafe places, and relapse. Again and again. At the end of this episode you will have the tools to build a simple plan that you can improve on as time goes on. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom and 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend to listen from the beginning. Show Notes Links and show notes at http://recoveredman.com/42 Facebook https://www.facebook.com/dobberco Twitter http://twitter.com/MattDobschuetz Google+ https://plus.google.com/+MattDobschuetz FEEDBACK http://recoveredman.com/contact-matt/ The post 042 Getting Started Pt 3: Your Plan appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/27/201540 minutes, 46 seconds
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041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend

The second in our three-part series on Getting Started, focuses on asking for help. Whether it's a phone call, a text, or a face to face meeting we need to bring others into our struggle with pornography. Pornography addiction thrives in isolation and the way out is making connection. See episode 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom to listen from the beginning. http://recoveredman.com/41   The post 041 Getting Started Pt 2: Phone A Friend appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/14/201533 minutes, 20 seconds
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040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom

Our first in a three-part series on Getting Started is all about hitting rock bottom and how your darkest moment can be a great gift in your recovery. http://recoveredman.com/40 The post 040 Getting Started Pt 1: Hitting Rock Bottom appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/7/201520 minutes, 22 seconds
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039 Avoiding The Porn Checkout Line

You ever wonder why stores place candy by the checkout counter? In this episode, we talk about what we can learn at the grocery store about our porn addiction. I also share three ways you can use reverse engineering to reinforce quitting porn. http://recoveredman.com/39 The post 039 Avoiding The Porn Checkout Line appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/29/201540 minutes, 39 seconds
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038 Where Are You Moving?

If we’ve left the country where porn controls our life, how can we still live in our old house there? For many the desire to change is followed by this struggle. We have packed up and moved for good and yet we still want to go back and try and live in our old house. We want to revisit old habits. Matt just completed an actual move so the metaphor is top of mind for our journey out of porn. http://recoveredman.com/38 The post 038 Where Are You Moving? appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/15/201539 minutes, 41 seconds
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037 The Fastest Way To Freedom

Looking back at my recovery process, I wouldn't change much. The missteps and relapses helped me strengthen my plan. I learned a lot from my mistakes. But I realize now there were something in those early days that I could of done which would of shaved years off of the process. Mind you it's not something easy. But if you can put in place and keep it, you're recovery will immediately go to the next level. http://recoveredman.com/37 The post 037 The Fastest Way To Freedom appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/1/201525 minutes, 48 seconds
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036 Finding Your Motivation

Pornfree Radio is for motivated guys who want to quit looking at porn. But how do you find motivation? Are there any bad motivations for quitting porn? Why does it help to get specific about what your primary motivation is? http://recoveredman.com/36 The post 036 Finding Your Motivation appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/25/201528 minutes, 53 seconds
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035 Rethinking 12 Step With Craig Perra From The Mindful Habit

Craig Perra, founder of The Mindful Habit, returns for a powerful conversation about 12 Step groups and the disease model for treating addiction. Together, we discuss some of the pros and cons of 12 step groups and the alternatives. http://recoveredman.com/35 The post 035 Rethinking 12 Step With Craig Perra From The Mindful Habit appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/18/201553 minutes, 8 seconds
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034 Hope for the Porn Addicted Christian

Christian guys make up the majority of my audience and Christians have some compelling reasons to want to eliminate porn from their lives. It's in direct conflict with the teachings of Jesus. In Jesus' most famous sermon he said, "You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Jesus equates this act of looking at a women with lustful intent as being the same as breaking the 7th commandment, "You shall not commit adultery." But knowing what’s right and doing something about are two different things. Christian guys bring some strengths to our porn free community and also some blind spots. I cover them both here and have some advice for taking action. http://recoveredman.com/34 The post 034 Hope for the Porn Addicted Christian appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/11/201546 minutes, 38 seconds
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033 Hope for the Porn Addicted Agnostic

When I started this podcast I wasn't sure who would join this community and go on this ride for me. I had been mostly doing this stuff with in my church and was used to working with Christian guys. But a good number of downloads came from guys who considered themselves non-religious. No mater what word you use, Agnostic, Atheist, Skeptic, Free Thinker, etc. there is hope for you to quit porn. http://recoveredman.com/33 The post 033 Hope for the Porn Addicted Agnostic appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/5/201539 minutes, 24 seconds
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032 Am I A Porn Addict?

The culture tells us porn addiction is made up. But we know different. There is something about this behavior that we have grown tired of. It is not serving us well. In this episode, Matt goes through a simple self-assessment of porn addiction. He also shares a simple definition of addiction that may change the way you define it. http://recoveredman.com/32 The post 032 Am I A Porn Addict? appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/27/201524 minutes, 29 seconds
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031 The Turning Point In My Recovery

Getting caught downloading pornography by my wife was not my rock bottom. In this episode, I tell the story of the most significant and scary night in my recovery. My personal turning point. Happy to be back after my hiatus. New episodes are coming each and every Monday along with new content and ways to connect. http://recoveredman.com/31 The post 031 The Turning Point In My Recovery appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/20/201526 minutes, 35 seconds
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030 Going Porn Free in 2015

Screw resolutions! You need a plan to go porn free in 2015. This episode is all about giving you steps to go 100% porn free for the WHOLE year. Make sure to download the free checklist and monthly worksheet at http://recoveredman.com/30 to help you get the most out of this episode. http://recoveredman.com/30 The post 030 Going Porn Free in 2015 appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/29/201447 minutes, 51 seconds
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029 The Wrestler

This is NOT a review of the 2008 Mickey Rourke film, The Wrestler. Instead, it's a metaphor of the porn free life. Matt digs into the parallels between our journey and the dedication required in the sport of wrestling. http://recoveredman.com/29 The post 029 The Wrestler appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/16/201419 minutes, 4 seconds
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028 3-Day Ditch and Porn Fantasies in the Bedroom

Matt hits the listener mailbag in this episode tackling questions about getting over the 3-day hump and how to deal with porn fantasies in the bedroom. http://recoveredman.com/28 The post 028 3-Day Ditch and Porn Fantasies in the Bedroom appeared first on Recovered Man.
12/3/201440 minutes, 56 seconds
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027 How Idiots Track Success

We have all been guilty of defining success solely in terms of the number of porn free days we have. In this episode, we discuss 5 alternative ways you can measure your success in overcoming porn addiction. http://recoveredman.com/27 The post 027 How Idiots Track Success appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/24/201443 minutes, 5 seconds
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026 Shame and Porn Addiction

Your problem might not be porn, it might be shame. Shame keeps us isolated and in the dark. In this environment, porn addiction thrives and grows like mold on forgotten left overs in the back of the fridge. http://recoveredman.com/26 The post 026 Shame and Porn Addiction appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/18/201416 minutes, 27 seconds
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025 The Pornification of Culture: Surprising Advocates

In this episode, Matt shares some surprising advocates in the mainstream with strong opinions about the harm of porn in today's culture. http://recoveredman.com/25 The post 025 The Pornification of Culture: Surprising Advocates appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/10/201427 minutes, 2 seconds
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024 Creativity and Recovery with Ben Fraser, Creator of Brick House

We discuss the relationship between creativity and recovery with Ben Fraser, creator of the Brick House Web Series about quitting porn. Ben shares about his own journey out of porn addiction and how he turned his struggle into a musical comedy to help others. http://recoveredman.com/24 The post 024 Creativity and Recovery with Ben Fraser, Creator of Brick House appeared first on Recovered Man.
11/3/201447 minutes, 11 seconds
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023 Our Greatest Trap in Life

Our greatest trap in life comes from a quote by Henri Nouwen. Hint: it's not porn or lust. This trap can undermine the recovery work you are doing and actually perpetuate your porn addiction. http://recoveredman.com/23 The post 023 Our Greatest Trap in Life appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/27/201431 minutes, 2 seconds
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022 The Biggest Warning Sign of a Relapse

There is one thing that precedes every relapse with porn. It's not a powerful trigger, a stressful day at work, free porn on your hotel TV, or a web link sent from a coworker. It's an internal action we CHOOSE. http://recoveredman.com/22 The post 022 The Biggest Warning Sign of a Relapse appeared first on Recovered Man.
10/20/201419 minutes, 3 seconds
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021 Feedback: Forgiveness, Nostalgia, and Voyeurism

This week we respond to listener feedback from Episode 19 and Episode 20. We revisit the metaphor of the "full pardon" in Episode 19 and dig more into the nostalgia and voyeurism tied in with celebrity nudity from episode 20. http://recoveredman.com/21 The post 021 Feedback: Forgiveness, Nostalgia, and Voyeurism appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/25/201433 minutes, 28 seconds
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020 Celebrity Nudes: How To Avoid Powerful Triggers

This show is ripped from recent headlines. The internet almost shut down a few weeks back when hackers released nude photos of a group of famous celebrities. This got me to thinking about our response as people committed to being pornfree. First, how should we think of this. Second, how can we avoid these powerful triggers. http://recoveredman.com/20 The post 020 Celebrity Nudes: How To Avoid Powerful Triggers appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/15/201437 minutes, 46 seconds
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019 My Wife Caught Me Looking At Porn. Now What?!?!

After being caught with porn, or after a relapse, how you talk to your wife about it could be the difference in saving your relationship and losing it. http://recoveredman.com/19 The post 019 My Wife Caught Me Looking At Porn. Now What?!?! appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/8/201419 minutes, 7 seconds
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018 Pornfree and Single

If you're single does it matter if you keep pornfree? In this episode, Matt tackles the issue of porn and the single guy. http://recoveredman.com/18 The post 018 Pornfree and Single appeared first on Recovered Man.
9/2/201424 minutes
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017 How To Stop Objectifying and Oogling with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit

Craig Perra, life coach and founder of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery, returns to teach a lesson from his exclusive online course on the stubborn habit of objectifying and oogling. http://recoveredman.com/17 The post 017 How To Stop Objectifying and Oogling with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/25/201448 minutes, 42 seconds
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016 Escaping Porn Addiction with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit

This is the first of two dynamic episodes with Craig Perra, life coach and founder, of The Mindful Habit method of porn and sex addiction recovery. http://recoveredman.com/16 The post 016 Escaping Porn Addiction with Craig Perra of The Mindful Habit appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/18/201445 minutes, 22 seconds
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015 Porn! Recorded Live in Indianapolis

There are things porn addicts know coming into recovery and more importantly things they need to know. This episode was from a workshop with Matt Dobschuetz recorded live for ministry leaders in Indianapolis, Indiana on August 9, 2014. http://recoveredman.com/15 The post 015 Porn! Recorded Live in Indianapolis appeared first on Recovered Man.
8/12/201443 minutes, 7 seconds
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014 Seven Things To Know When Starting a Support Group for Porn Addicts

As you start to look around in your own journey and recovery, you start seeing others who are a little farther behind who are making the same mistakes you did. And you start getting a vision for helping them. Here's 7 tips for starting your group. http://recoveredman.com/14 The post 014 Seven Things To Know When Starting a Support Group for Porn Addicts appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/28/201434 minutes, 58 seconds
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013 Top 5 Benefits From Helping Others With Porn Addiction

It may seem counter-intuitive to those looking for help with porn addiction. But early in my own recovery I started a support group and I actually helped myself. Could you start a group in your area in the next year? http://recoveredman.com/13 The post 013 Top 5 Benefits From Helping Others With Porn Addiction appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/21/201434 minutes, 41 seconds
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012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad?

The M-Word aka Masturbation is the 800 lb gorilla in the room in any conversation about pornography. Most people with a porn problem have a strong masturbation habit. So what happens with masturbation when we shut off the porn? http://recoveredman.com/12 The post 012 Is Masturbation Without Porn Bad? appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/9/201437 minutes, 39 seconds
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011 Technology and Porn with Luke Gilkerson of Covenant Eyes

A conversation with Luke Gilkerson, Internet Community Manager for Covenant Eyes. Luke is perhaps the most prolific blogger on the subject of porn and recovery on the internet with 1500+ posts. In this episode we start off talking about the relationship between technology and porn. We end by discussing the benefits of deep friendship in overcoming the isolation that comes with porn addiction. http://recoveredman.com/11 The post 011 Technology and Porn with Luke Gilkerson of Covenant Eyes appeared first on Recovered Man.
7/2/201427 minutes, 40 seconds
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010 Four Porn Pitfalls With Popular Media

Caution: Slippery Slope Ahead. In this episode, we discuss the four pitfalls with popular media that can lead us right back to porn if we are not careful. http://recoveredman.com/10 The post 010 Four Porn Pitfalls With Popular Media appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/26/201432 minutes, 7 seconds
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009 The Key To Successful Porn Addiction Recovery

There is one key in your recovery that is the foundation for living the rest of your life pornfree. Hint: it's not your days sober or how perfect you are. http://recoveredman.com/9 The post 009 The Key To Successful Porn Addiction Recovery appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/18/201433 minutes, 14 seconds
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008 Bonus Episode Father’s Day

Father's Day 2014. In this bonus episode, I discuss Reddit feedback from last week's episode, 007 What My Dad Didn't Tell Me About Porn. http://recoveredman.com/8 The post 008 Bonus Episode Father’s Day appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/16/201420 minutes, 58 seconds
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007 What My Dad Didn’t Tell Me About Porn

This week is Father's day and it got me to thinking about my dad. My dad was a loving father who modeled integrity and humility. However he was very silent on the issue of sexuality and pornography. My dad struggled to talk with me about the issue of porn even as an adult. So you can imagine how lost I felt has a teenager and young man as I got swallowed up in addiction. http://recoveredman.com/7 The post 007 What My Dad Didn’t Tell Me About Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/11/201432 minutes, 49 seconds
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006 Life After Porn Addiction: The Good Stuff

Life is not all about defensive strategies around porn addiction. In this episode, I share about 5 benefits from going pornfree AKA the Good Stuff. http://recoveredman.com/6 The post 006 Life After Porn Addiction: The Good Stuff appeared first on Recovered Man.
6/4/201425 minutes, 19 seconds
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005 Pornfree Travel, Hotel Tips, and Trip Planning

Staying pornfree while traveling doesn't happen by accident. It takes work. I'll give some of my best tips for travel and hotels. I'll also walk you through T-UP, a planning exercise I go through before each trip. http://recoveredman.com/5 The post 005 Pornfree Travel, Hotel Tips, and Trip Planning appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/28/201438 minutes, 1 second
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004 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn

This week we talk about the biggest mistake people make when quitting porn. I also share how I once spent $250/min to look at porn. http://recoveredman.com/4 The post 004 The Biggest Mistake People Make When Quitting Porn appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/21/201431 minutes, 16 seconds
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003 Dumb Smartphones and Master Locks

In Episode 3, we talk about dumb smartphones, Master Locks, and other stories about limiting access to porn. Little things can go a big way in breaking your addiction to porn. http://recoveredman.com/3 The post 003 Dumb Smartphones and Master Locks appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/15/201429 minutes, 46 seconds
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002 Unlovable

Continuing the conversation about coming clean about pornography addiction. In this episode we talk about some of the emotional benefits we experience when we are honest with safe people in our lives. http://recoveredman.com/2 The post 002 Unlovable appeared first on Recovered Man.
5/7/201428 minutes, 1 second
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001 – Coming Clean

Your first step to healing is coming clean about your problem with pornography and masturbation. What can you do this week to come clean? Take a risk and tell someone what's going on with you. Be concrete about what you are sharing. You don't have to be graphic but you should mention pornography and masturbation. Share the frequency and don't minimize or try to hide. Who could you tell? Your goal is be honest with yourself and others. Even if they don't have the best response. This is practice for you in learning to be honest on a ongoing basis. http://recoveredman.com/1 The post 001 Coming Clean appeared first on Recovered Man.
4/30/201425 minutes, 10 seconds