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Paired By The People

English, Social, 1 season, 65 episodes, 18 hours, 9 minutes
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Two episode types: One Mission - to bring back the art of the set up. We do this by bringing you actual setups and telling stories about the modern setup. We put pricey matchmakers and dating apps on pause by showing how we all have the ability to bring people together.
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#47 How to Date Like an Athlete (Without Playing Games)

What is dating was sport rather than a game? How would that change things and what kind of athlete are you? Lakshmi explores and develops and analogy that could change your "game". Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi   The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.    Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast.  Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
5/18/202416 minutes, 30 seconds
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#46: How to Think About Money & Compatibility

Season 2 Premiere: Is there another way to talk about and navigate money as a topic? Well, yes there is. There are so many different ways to think about and explore whether you have compatible ideas around the idea of money. Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067   Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi   The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.    Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast.  Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today And be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
5/10/202418 minutes, 4 seconds
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Season 2: Preview & Research Updates

A preview of forthcoming episodes, the tone of Season 2 and what we are researching now. Expect a season full of "How To" episodes now that the foundation has been set.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
5/3/202416 minutes, 43 seconds
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Dating Climate Change and The Why Golden And Later Are Different

If you have found value in The Later Dater Today podcast and if you believe that we need fun, relatable and useful content for dating during this part of life, please consider supporting Lakshmi and the show by buying her a coffee via the link below. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
4/24/202411 minutes, 27 seconds
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"State of Date" Meditation/Prep Talk

If you have found value in this podcast or in this meditation, please consider supporting and keeping The Later Dater Today ad-free here: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_lakshmi Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
4/13/20245 minutes, 35 seconds
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#45 How to Get Into a "State of Date"

Lakshmi is taking a one month hiatus. Want to support her milestone of 45 episodes and keep The Later Dater Today ad-free? Consider throwing her a few bucks. https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_LakshmiStay tuned for a Bonus Episode with the meditation pulled out for easy use. Later Dater today episodes referenced in this meditationEveryone's a Museum and Most of Us Stay in the LobbyRethinking Wasted Time In Dating I Don't Want to Repeat My PastBaggage Vs. Luggage : How To Think About Your Past Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 Help keep the The Later Dater Today podcast ad-free.https://www.buymeacoffee.com/later_Lakshmi The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
4/5/202413 minutes, 38 seconds
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#44 How to Play the "Mid-Range" Game

We assign moral judgment to ideas of how long or short a relationship goal is.  But what if distance has nothing to do with whether or not a trip is worth it? A great companion episode to this is "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger."  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
3/29/202417 minutes, 44 seconds
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#43 How To Do A "Crush Audit"

The companion episode to this is Episode 19: The Death of The Crush Crushes are an incredibly important part our heart's history. As a Later Dater you may not have looked closely at people at moments where you developed a crush. It's worth taking a minute to look closely as these as you embark or keep on keeping on in your dating journey. Ditch the vision board and try looking at the people and moments that already caught your attention.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
3/22/202423 minutes, 45 seconds
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#42 How to Set Yourself Up & The Lodge Line

This episode includes tips on how to help the people who want to set you up, describe you in way that is about more than simply how great you are. One that paints a picture that might stick with someone long before they meet you. For more detail and color on crafting a set up story listen to Lakshmi's interview on the Pivot Podcast!  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
3/15/202411 minutes, 50 seconds
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#41 The Unlisted Approach

It's understandable that we make lists to keep us organized and focused on what we want. But where does that kind of approach actually help and where is it actually inefficient? References in this episodeEpisode 39: Finding Connection In Contrast   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
3/8/202418 minutes, 30 seconds
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#40 "Will I Ever Feel That Way Again?": Listener Question from Gabe, 57

After 20 years of marriage, Gabe, 57 is a year into his dating journey and he's wondering if he'll ever feel "that way" again. Let's get clear on all the kinds of experiences, moments and feelings that you have to look forward to as a Later Dater. Breaking these down and getting clear can change how you date. Mentioned in this episode: "I haven't dated since 1999"  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
3/2/202418 minutes, 20 seconds
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#39 Finding Connection in Contrast and Differences

Share this with anyone who thinks that they "must" date someone who has the same relationship history as them (divorced, kids, didn't marry, widowed) etc. The best part about Later Daters today is the diversity of choices that were made by people. Listen in as Lakshmi  walks you through how you think about connecting even if you lived very different lives. Mentioned in this episode - a whole new way to think about baggage as a Later Dater. Check out the episode Baggage or Luggage: How To Think About Your Past    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
2/24/202421 minutes, 35 seconds
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#38 Ask For Focus Instead of a Relationship

Be sure to follow on Instagram as we begin bringing concepts from the podcast to life. https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayIn this episode we'll walk you through a plan for how to ask for focus - which might actually make more sense in today's world where our attention can be splintered across devices, screens, thoughts and yes, people.   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and follow us on Instagram for bite size servings of ideas from the podcast. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
2/16/202416 minutes, 8 seconds
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Valentine's Bonus: The Afterlife Set-Up

A much longer format and style than the Later Dater Today podcast, we bring you the true story of two 80 somethings who reconnected and fell in love during the pandemic after 40 years apart. This is more "Golden" than "Later" but a true and hopeful story has no age. Enjoy! To read more about the precursor podcast to The Later Dater Today, read Vanity Fair's review of Paired By The People.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
2/14/202432 minutes, 37 seconds
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#37 The Root of Finding the Right Person

It's been a big week and it will be a big week.  Why might it be more important to think of reasons to root for someone rather than trying to figure out if they're right for you? It's time to mention the relationship of the year without having them be the central spectacle. There is honestly something to be learned from the unfolding of their relationship. Mentioned in the episode: Lakshmi's interview with Scott Galloway on the Prof G podcast. Where she talks modern dating and reasons why we might think about height differently among other topics in modern dating. For more question ideas to uncover why to root for someone or what they're striving towards check out Ep 36: Signs of Success vs. Signs of Striving.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
2/9/202413 minutes, 6 seconds
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#36 Signs of Success vs Signs of Striving

Success seems like a quality we should look for in.people we date. But what is success and what if something like the quality of striving is more important now? Maybe you're wondering what striving is.  Listen in as Lakshmi talks about the difference and offers tools on how to assess the degree to which someone is striving in their life. Mentioned in the podcast Scott Galloway and The Prof G Podcast.  Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
2/2/202415 minutes, 37 seconds
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#35 Artificial Intelligence And The Later Dater

An important overview of what to expect as AI continues to unfold itself into modern dating culture. The Later Dater Today is about more than how to date today - it's also about understanding what's happening in dating and where it's headed so that you can navigate it all. To hear more in depth coverage of AI and the Future of Dating check out the work of me and Sangeeta Singh-Kurtz is Episode 6 of Land of The Giants: Dating Games   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
1/26/202422 minutes, 55 seconds
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#34 The Issue With Dating "Goals"

Listen in on a new way to think about the dating goals that matter today for a Later Dater. It was way less to do with how much you date but rather how you interact with the world - keeping your interaction and connection muscles strong. A few episodes are referenced to revisit and actually apply the lesson outlined in the episode in addition to simply listening.#3: Everyone Is A Museum And Most Of Us Stay In The Lobby#20 The Shape Of Your Heart Vs. Your Relationship History #19 The Death Of The Crush And Why Your Past Crushes Matter Today   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
1/20/202416 minutes, 38 seconds
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#33 Go Ahead and Age Yourself

Let's discuss one dimension of "age" culture around the idea of what it means to "age yourself". Lakshmi dives into these common expressions that can feel more like we should hide our rage rather than use it as a point of connection; especially between Later Daters. And you'll hear a practical way to rewire whatever you think about your age as she offers new ways to talk about your past in way that is grounded in the present.  And wait until you hear about the concept of a "Vintage Story".    Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
1/12/202418 minutes, 9 seconds
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#32 Organic Connections Today and The Power of Tupperware

Let's dive into the gradual decline of everyday organic moments instead of any "resolution" type content, This isn't meant to be a bummer, it's meant to remind you of things we've lost along the way.  It's not just tech and the pandemic. And if we understand a bit more about what happened we can tap into some of our 20th Century wiring:)   Lakshmi was named among the "Best Guests of 2023" on tech and culture podcast PIVOT with Kara Swisher & Scott Galloway. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/best-friends-of-pivot/id1073226719?i=1000639439067 The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
1/5/202428 minutes, 45 seconds
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#31 Rethinking Wasted Time In Dating

Conversations about modern dating can often revolve around an intense desire to "not waste time".  Let's dig into it. As we get older, we might feel like time is not on our side, but maybe it's on our side in a new way. If you have some time to think more about time, we recommend Episode 15:  "Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger"   The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Host, Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
12/29/202321 minutes, 30 seconds
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#30 The Heartbreak Plan For Later Daters

After many conversations with Later Daters, Lakshmi heard something to the effect of "I just can't get hurt or risk having my heartbroken as I date." We get it. So let's take a look at this common concern and talk about it before, instead of after, it happens.  The Later Dater Today is a podcast all about dating Later In Life but mostly the 45-59 window. This overlooked and often misunderstood part of the dating timeline is both under-discussed and wildly undervalued. Hosted Lakshmi Rengarajan has been trying to bring both innovation as well as an analog approach to how we date today for the past 15 years.  Episodes every Friday and we're working on doing more on Instagram. Follow us there: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd be sure to visit us at the The Later Dater Today.com , sign up for our email list and please send us your questions!  
12/23/202326 minutes, 49 seconds
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#29 What Gen Z Understands About Dating, Why It Matters and Why They Love Gen X

Between the introduction of Tinder and the 2020 pandemic we have a decade of swiping behind us. Tinder made its mark because it brought an influx of singles (20 somethings) into a dating pool that nobody ever thought they'd find themselves in. Now that same demographic but a different generation is rejecting it. What can we learn about how to better accept what dating apps have to offer by taking a closer look at why Gen Z seems to be rejecting them? Lakshmi brings her thoughts to the headlines. More on the decline in dating app usage:https://www.newsweek.com/dating-apps-decline-tinder-bumble-match-1842834Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.comFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
12/15/202314 minutes, 15 seconds
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#28 What Do You Find Attractive...Today?

Listen in as Lakshmi shares how Later Daters are rethinking and revisiting what they even think is attractive. This is about more than just exploring other "types" this is about taking a look at what might be attractive today...what attributes, traits and qualities matter to you more now? They may or may not be what they used to be. 
12/11/202315 minutes, 25 seconds
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#27 Beyond "The Gratitude" Question: A Thanksgiving Episode

Not to knock the tradition of asking "What are you grateful for?" at Thanksgiving but with all we now know about the importance of questions there's got to be something better. 
11/24/20238 minutes, 13 seconds
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The Role of Place And Space On A Date

Ever think: I need to come up with better date ideas? Before you begin googling "novel date ideas" first consider the role of space and how to make the circumstances around you work for you. In this short 9 minute episode Lakshmi discusses how environment might affect your ability to get to know people and how you can make this work for you.  
11/10/20238 minutes, 1 second
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#25 It's Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect: A Key Later Dater Insight

This simple but important insight lives at the center of The Later Dater Today: It's Become Easy To Meet But Harder To Connect. Later Dater Today Host, Lakshmi walks you through the difference between meeting and connecting and how simply understand this difference can make all the difference.  Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.comFollow us on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_todayAnd artist/new friend referenced in the episode? Right here: https://www.gabrielleguthrie.com
11/3/202317 minutes, 38 seconds
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#24 Meg Ryan's New Movie and Reconnecting With Someone From Your Past

What Happens Later Trailer, Starring Meg Ryan & David Duchovny https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zceSigCGWSQThe Afterlife Set-up: Two 80-somethings reconnect in the pandemic after being set-up by a spirit from the beyond. Hear the incredible story here:https://www.pairedbythepeople.com/featuredepisodes/project-three-x6djm-dz7ljWho's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
10/27/202314 minutes, 37 seconds
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#23 "I've Never Been Married And Feel Like It's A Mark Against Me": Listener Question from Susanna, 46

Why you should listen to this episode:  Not getting married isn't and shouldn't feel like a mark against you. But it's easy to feel or think that it is. But EVERY Later Dater can potentially feel like there is a label slapped on them (divorced, never married, widowed, married multiple times). It's what we make it mean that matters. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
10/20/202318 minutes, 34 seconds
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#22 Don't Date Someone You Like

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being so focused on "liking" someone might actually be getting in the way of connecting with them. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
10/13/202311 minutes, 42 seconds
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Later Dater "Stigmas": Common Labels And How To Move Beyond Them

Why you should listen to this episode:  Stigmas can be ways that we label and categorize people and ourselves in the modern dating world. But what are stigmas really and how can they be something that might even bring you closer to people you meet? Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
10/6/202310 minutes, 33 seconds
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#20 The Shape of Your Heart vs. Your Relationship History

Why you should listen to this episode:  As a Later Dater you might be looking for different ways and words to describe where you've been and what you're looking for now. The idea of taking a look at the "shape" of your heart might actually tell you more than the standard question "what's your relationship history?" Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
9/29/202310 minutes, 40 seconds
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#19 The Death of The Crush

Why you should listen to this episode:  As a Later Dater tapping into memories of crushes can offer clues to who you were and what you found attractive before a dating culture driven by dating apps. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
9/22/202315 minutes, 27 seconds
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#18 Top Traits of Later Daters Today

Why you should listen to this episode:  Being a great Later Dater means way more than building a good profile. We've become a culture so obsessed with marketing ourselves that we sometimes forget what it means to actually be good at dating. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
9/15/202311 minutes, 36 seconds
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#17 How Do I Meet Women If I Don’t Want To Use Dating Apps?: Listener Question from Graham, 56

Why you should listen to this episode:  The idea of meeting people outside of the apps is being asked more and more while it feels like there are fewer and fewer options for it. But as Later Daters you might actually have the skill and experience to be less reliant on the apps. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. 
9/8/202312 minutes, 37 seconds
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#16 "Being Open" as a Later Dater

Why you should listen to this episode:  It's worth taking the time to think about exactly what you mean by "being open" when it comes to dating.Otherwise, "being open" can turn into concessions you're willing to make rather than possibilities you're willing to invite.Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call 
9/1/202314 minutes, 29 seconds
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Longer Doesn't Always Mean Stronger; A Note For Later Daters

Why you should listen to this episode:  Length of time doesn't always equal strength and depth. Go ahead and have a little laugh, but this is an important thing to remember as a Later Dater so that you don't project to far into the future. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call  
8/24/202311 minutes, 10 seconds
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"I Haven't Dated Since 1999": Listener Question from Jennifer, 48

Why you should listen to this episode:  A tendency among Later Daters is to let numbers get in the way of moving forward. Numbers seem like facts and simple true statements until we kick them around a bit. Whether its age, height, weight or years, it's worth building a solid relationship with the numbers in your life. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call
8/17/202316 minutes, 19 seconds
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"I Don't Want To Repeat The Past": Listener Question from Mark, 52

Why you should listen to this episode:  A common thought and block among Later Daters is "Will I repeat the past?"  And while this seems like a smart high level strategy, it can actually keep you in confusion, swirl and wrap you in a nice cloak of judgmental energy. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call
8/10/202311 minutes, 30 seconds
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Heartbreak And The Later Dater Part 2: The Overlooked Value

Why you should listen to this episode:  In this 2nd part on heartbreak and heartache, Lakshmi goes into one of the easy-to-overlook benefits when you're moving through hurt and disappointment. Our culture talks more about heartbreak and heartache as things we must "get over" rather than things we might "get into." This refreshing perspective might have you thinking and feeling differently about how you want to use this period. Who's a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Book a free Discovery Call: www.thelaterdatertoday.com/discovery-call
8/3/202313 minutes, 21 seconds
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How to Listen to Someone Else's Less Than Perfect Past

Why you should listen to this episode: Lakshmi shares a strategy for Later Daters on how to skillfully listen and respond to a person's less than perfect past. Discover how to best build a connection when someone opens up about their perceived "baggage" and turn it into a connective experience you can feel good about.Who is a Later Dater? Anyone who feels they are dating later in life, or feels like they are just getting their head wrapped around how they want to date in today's world. Dating later in life has changed. And Later Daters often have the know-how and connection skills from pre-dating app days. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.Be sure to follow us on Instagram! www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today
7/28/20239 minutes, 19 seconds
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Heartbreak and The Later Dater: Part 1

In this episode, Lakshmi explores one of the most universal human experiences - heartbreak - and why it is different for a Later Dater.  Whether you're currently going through heartache or have in the past, this episode will provide insight and perspective for those looking to process and own this challenging and humbling experience. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Be sure to follow The Later Dater Today on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today/
7/20/202313 minutes, 49 seconds
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Baggage or Luggage? How To Think About Your Past

Lakshmi explores the idea of “baggage” in today’s dating culture and the sneaky way it can show up for Later Daters in particular.  Sometimes weighing people like an anchor rather than filling them up with momentum and excitement about the future. Even terms like divorce, widow, infidelity, never married; they're not just words, they can shape our experience and your ability to connect with others. As A Later Dater it's worth figuring out how you want to talk about your past in way that give people a glimpse into who you are rather than simply reaching for the nearest available description. Be sure to follow The Later Dater Today on Instagram as we reimagine and rethink what it means to date later in life.https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today/
7/14/202316 minutes, 18 seconds
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The Problem With "The Numbers Game"

You've probably heard it before..."You have to get out there and play the numbers game." Lakshmi sheds light on why this belief can actually hurt your chances in dating. Listen to learn a different numbers game worth playing that will truly help Later Daters. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com. Be sure to follow The Later Dater Today on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today/
7/6/202313 minutes, 7 seconds
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From Sitting To Swiping: A Quick History of The Dating Industry

Making the most of dating today as a Later Dater means understanding how we got here...in episode 7, Lakshmi offers a short 20 minute history of key watershed moments in recent dating history and why they matter. For a much deeper look at what's happened in the past ten years, listen to episode one of Vox Media's Land of The Giants: Dating Games, which is a comprehensive history of the key players and companies of which many people are not aware. https://open.spotify.com/episode/14OGONpt7YEIti2zf8E4h7?si=640a9d4604a84521 Be sure to follow The Later Dater Today on Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/the_later_dater_today/
7/1/202320 minutes, 23 seconds
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Intergalactic Dating Part 2

Dating has changed significantly in the past 10-20 years. Part 2 looks at an aspect of Intergalactic Dating that may be unique to Later Daters. 
6/23/202312 minutes, 38 seconds
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Some Advice on Dating Advice

When it comes to matters of the heart, conventional dating advice is not one-size fits all. It's so much more nuanced. In this episode, Lakshmi guides you to trust our own navigational system with decisions that align with your own unique experiences and desires. Learn more at the www.thelaterdatertoday.com.
6/14/202313 minutes, 25 seconds
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Intergalactic Dating: Part 1

In part 1 of this insightful 2-part series, Lakshmi invites Today's Later Daters to rethink the cosmic and often surreal experiences of modern dating through the lens of...Star Trek. Listen in on how lessons from voyaging in the vastness of outer space can help you better understand your own dating journey. Learn more at www.thelaterdatertoday.com.
6/8/202318 minutes, 23 seconds
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Everyone Is A Museum And Most Of Us Stay In The Lobby

Stop with the "Give People A Chance". Listen in to how this simple metaphor can change your perspective on dating. It's another foundational Later Dater insight!
6/1/202317 minutes, 33 seconds
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We're All Dating All The Time

Learn one of the foundational concepts for Today's Later Dater, "We're All Dating All The Time". Lakshmi walks you through this key principle she brings to all her work around connection but especially when it comes to dating. Dating is not just something single people do.
6/1/202311 minutes, 17 seconds
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The Later Dater Today: Who, Why and What To Expect

An exciting introduction to The Later Dater Today, who that is, why now and what to expect.
6/1/202316 minutes, 17 seconds
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Welcome To The Later Dater Today

Why The Later Dater Today and Why Now. Be among the first for the super soft launch of the Later Dater Today.
6/1/20231 minute, 49 seconds
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Goodbye and What's Next

A farewell to Paired By The People as we move on, but not away. Listen to hear what we're building next.
5/27/20234 minutes, 13 seconds
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Best of the Podcast Part 1

The moments I don't want you to miss because I almost missed them. We're learning SO much about this overlooked art. Hear as we go one layer deeper on a few moments from Episodes 6,8 5 and 2. 
4/29/202214 minutes, 23 seconds
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The Afterlife Set-Up

A set-up story for the ages. What would you do if you knew your time was coming to a close but your partner's was not? Listen to a set-up story that bloomed in the pandemic but has roots across five decades. It will have you rethinking how, when and where we might find romantic connections and how we might see the people in our lives in a new light. Episode Mentions:You May Want To Marry My Husband by Amy Krouse Rosenthal Don't miss our trailer to explore other episodes
2/1/202229 minutes, 44 seconds
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Start Here

What is Paired By The People and why should you listen? Give us 3 minutes to tell you why... Excerpts from Episode 6: We Were Set-UpEpisode 3: Set-Up All StarsEpisode 1: Chicago: Elizabeth and Mike Set-Up Josh Episode 5: How To Set Yourself Up  
1/16/20222 minutes, 51 seconds
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The Arranged Set-Up

Arranged: one word, lots of assumptions. In this episode we bring you two stories with the word "arranged" in their "how we met" stories. One from the recent past and one from 50 years ago.  We'll look at the embedded takeaways in these stories and what we might take from them and bring into today's dating world. 
12/28/202133 minutes, 17 seconds
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The Pandemic Set-Up

Three stories of setups that happened during, or even because, of the pandemic across its different points... The past 18 months have made us many of rethink how we do things, including how we date. Listen in on stories from people who blazed their own human paths for how they could meet someone. They're not ditching technology, but they're writing they're own script. Get inspired to write some of your own non-swipe storylines. Our first story is one we're calling, the preemptive parental nudge The second is all about tending to the branches of your network And our final one is just beginning his quest to be set up. If you'd like to learn more about Dan's search and reach out to him, you can do so here: https://noodler.substack.com/p/the-ball-and-chain-letter 
10/14/202123 minutes, 16 seconds
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Lauren & Cameron Hamilton From Love Is Blind & And Overlooked Lessons From Reality TV Dating

We sit down with Lauren and Cameron Hamilton, the stand out couple from the show who not only proved its premise but gave us all a tv pandemic hug when we needed it most.Love Is Blind wasn't just perfectly timed for our pandemic needs, it's an important message about what we might be missing in the modern dating world.  We talk to the couple about their recently released book "Leap of Faith" along with additional reflections on what we can learn from all the reality tv dating shows.  
9/3/202119 minutes, 14 seconds
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We Were Set-Up: Modern Set-Up Stories

Featuring the stories of six different couples, Episode 6 unpacks the people behind setup stories. From coast to coast we tell their stories and pay tribute to the modern setup. 
8/7/202123 minutes, 14 seconds
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Atlanta, GA: Marsha and Tom Set-Up Darnell

This time we head to Atlanta, GA. Longtime Atlanta residents Tom and Marsha met in 1978 and have been married for 43 years. They're going to set up a 27 year old Atlanta transplant named Darnell. We're a podcast dedicated to exploring the art of the setup from every angle. Follow us to see what episodes we're working on next. Follow us on Instagram Visit our website Some people things and places referenced in this episode...305 Fitness Peloton The Georgia Aquarium RuPaul's Drag Race    
5/1/202133 minutes, 28 seconds
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How To Set Yourself Up: A Conversation With Set-Up All Star Jenny Tolan

This episodes features Jenny Tolan in conversation with Paired By The People creator and host, Lakshmi Rengarajan. You'll hear about how she not only found a relationship for herself using a people-powered format, but insights and thoughts on how to make it work for you and be a part of other people's set up journeys whether you're single or not. 
3/9/202119 minutes, 35 seconds
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What The Modern Set-Up Sounds Like: Meet Some Set-Up All Stars

For Valentine's-ish time, we wanted to do a special episode that explored the voice and stories of folks who have been setting others up...whether it was 10 years ago or 10 weeks ago. What do set ups look like today and how can others take part in bringing it back? We'll hear stories from New York, to Atlanta, Chicago and Seattle, Washington along with inspiration of and thoughts on how to think about set ups in the pandemic and beyond. 
2/14/202121 minutes, 23 seconds
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Washington DC: Emily and Adrian Set-Up Tayo

For our 2nd episode we bring Paired By The People to Washington DC and specifically students at Howard University. You wouldn't think college students have a hard time meeting people, but what if you're going to college during a pandemic??  Listen in as our setup duo Emily and Adrian pair our featured single Tayo.
11/26/202028 minutes, 26 seconds
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Chicago IL: Elizabeth and Mike Set-Up Josh

The Pilot/Premiere Episode of a podcast about dating that is about way more than dating. Paired By the People puts dating apps and pricey matchmakers on pause by instead,  giving non-experts a chance to act on their natural hunches about which two people might get along. We're dedicated to reviving the art of the setup one episode at a time. Each episode features a new setup duo, a new set of singles and a new city. Hosted by Lakshmi Rengarajan Learn more about the thinking and mission behind Paired By The People at www.pairedbythepeople.comFollow us on social:https://instagram.com/pairedbythepeople/
9/23/202030 minutes, 7 seconds