Our time and attention are the most VALUABLE resources we have in this life. Allocate it wisely."Experts widely recommend electronic time-outs: shut off your phone for a couple of hours a night or do email-free Saturdays or Sundays. You also want to dump any activity that “should” make you happy but in reality doesn’t."RESOURCE: https://time.com/4856925/be-happy-more-joy/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM +

Our time and attention are the most VALUABLE resources we have in this life. Allocate it wisely. "Experts widely recommend electronic time-outs: shut off your phone for a couple of hours a night or do email-free Saturdays or Sundays. You also want to dump any activity that “should” make you happy but in reality doesn’t."RESOURCE: https://time.com/4856925/be-happy-more-joy/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM

Luckily, with practice, we can learn to be happy. Today, we talk about how. RESOURCE: https://time.com/4856925/be-happy-more-joy/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/

are you really bored or do you just feel safe? we must do the work to heal so we're no longer mistaking security for boredom. Peace is loving but it can feel stagnant if you're not careful. Learn the difference. It's subtle but crucial.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/julie

ACCESS THE FULL EPISODE: https://www.patreon.com/posts/extended-episode-93912286?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&amp;utm_source=copyLink&amp;utm_campaign=postshare_creator&amp;utm_content=join_linkI tend to think boredom as a PAINFUL, unavoidable piece of humanity + I try to distract myself and relieve the pain through novelty + exploration. But here's the thing... Boredom is an emotion like any other. It doesn't define me. It defines a feeling. And feelings are there to communicate something. Let it communicate, listen, and adjust. Don't resist it.&nbsp;Sometimes the magic is lying right below the surface - and we have to allow ourselves settle in silence long enough to find it.&nbsp;Being bored is not a waste of time. It’s somethin

Stress is more common than a head cold, and it's important we learn to harness it's power and embrace what it's trying to teach us. With that, we can learn to fuel our future motions to improve our lives. Acute stress can temporarily improve your immune system. Let it. Don't stress ABOUT stress. Shift your interpretation of it. Let it communicate and adjust from there. Resources: https://www.ted.com/talks/kelly_mcgonigal_how_to_make_stress_your_friendGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener

WE MADE IT! We did 1000 episodes and we have only just begun. Stay tuned for heavier rants, more intense topics, and a more loving embrace of "down time." I think we earned it. Together. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noo

Taking care of our brain is a crucial part of our well-being. It's liberating to think that with repetition + mindfulness, we can develop neural pathways that we never knew we had. RESOURCE: https://www.atlassian.com/blog/productivity/neuroplasticity-train-your-brainand https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-brain-isnt-as-adaptable-as-some-neuroscientists-claim/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows

Consider the you tomorrow, consider the you ten years from now, and let them have a say in your today.Let yourself admit what you ACTUALLY want from this world.What would make you feel like a hero?How can you make decisions today to help that heroic vision of yourself tomorrow?RESOURCE: https://www.fastcompany.com/90519396/the-science-backed-future-self-strategy-can-pave-the-way-to-greater-successand https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg25834400-200-how-talking-to-your-future-self-can-improve-your-health-and-happiness/and <a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/20131

how is your relationship with your future self? do you look out for them? do you plan for them? do you ignore your current self in regards to them? I find being friends with my future self, like I would with any other friend, makes me a more conscious and present decision maker. a change in mindset alone can't change the world, but it can improve your perspective on it. RESOURCES: https://www.newscientist.com/article/mg25834400-200-how-talking-to-your-future-self-can-improve-your-health-and-happiness/ and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/happiness-in-world/201311/being-considerate-your-future-self

"Changeable optimists don’t&nbsp;shy away from criticism&nbsp;of the status quo. In fact, they’re often its fiercest critics. People often mistake pessimism for critical thought and optimism for pollyannaism. In reality, progress is built by those who can look critically at a suite of solutions, discard the bad ones, and find and sharpen the gems that remain. Pessimists use criticism as a wall, while optimists use it as a guiding door." - By&nbsp;Hannah RitchieRESOURCES: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23622511/climate-doomerism-optimism-progress-environmentalismGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a h

The right kind of optimism: "Changeable optimists don’t&nbsp;shy away from criticism&nbsp;of the status quo. In fact, they’re often its fiercest critics. People often mistake pessimism for critical thought and optimism for pollyannaism. In reality, progress is built by those who can look critically at a suite of solutions, discard the bad ones, and find and sharpen the gems that remain. Pessimists use criticism as a wall, while optimists use it as a guiding door." RESOURCES: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23622511/climate-doomerism-optimism-progress-environmentalismGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcas

how to get over your phone anxiety - call your reps. no really, it helps! &nbsp;it’s the elected government's obligation to listen to their constituents — meaning that you have a say in what they do.The United States Senate has a page on their website dedicated to helping you find your senator. Every state has 2. All you need to do is enter your ZIP code, hit enter, and the website will tell you who the Senators are for your state, which party they’re part of, and will link directly to their website, where their contact information will be listed.You can also call 1-844-USA-0234 (1-844-872-0234) and enter your zip code to be connected directly with your elected officials. You can find your local elected officials using <a href="https://myreps.datamade.us/" rel="noopener noreferre

it’s the elected government's obligation to listen to their constituents — meaning that you have a say in what they do.The United States Senate has a page on their website dedicated to helping you find your senator. Every state has 2. All you need to do is enter your ZIP code, hit enter, and the website will tell you who the Senators are for your state, which party they’re part of, and will link directly to their website, where their contact information will be listed.You can also call 1-844-USA-0234 (1-844-872-0234) and enter your zip code to be connected directly with your elected officials. You can find your local elected officials using My Reps. All you need to do is enter your address to f

via whitehouse.gov: how to send a letter to the White HouseHere are a few simple things you can do to make sure your correspondence gets to the White House as quickly as possible.If possible, email us! This is the fastest way to reach the White House.If you write a letter, please consider typing it on an 8 1/2 by 11 inch sheet of paper.If you hand-write your letter, please write as neatly as possible with an ink pen.Include your return address on your letter as well as on your envelope. If you have an email address, please share it with us too.RESOURCES: https://www.wired.com/story/opengov-report

"For some, healing might mean banishing madness. For others, healing might mean harnessing madness and putting it to good use—a readiness to rally the voices inside one’s head rather than silence them." - Dr. La Marr Jurelle Bruce&nbsp; RESOURCES: PDF for chapter 1: https://www.dukeupress.edu/Assets/PubMaterials/978-1-4780-1087-6_601.pdfBUY THE BOOK: https://www.dukeupress.edu/how-to-go-mad-without-losing-your-mind?utm_source=intro&amp;utm_medium=title%20page&amp;utm_campaign=pdf-intros-Apr21AUTHOR INFO: https://afams

"... mad methodology primes us to extend radical compassion to the madpersons, queer personae, ghosts, freaks, weirdos, imaginary friends, disembodied voices, unvoiced bodies, and unReasonable others, who trespass, like stowaways or fugitives, in Reasonable modernity. Radical compassion is a will to care for, a commitment to feel with, a striving to learn from, and an openness to be vulnerable before a precarious other, though they may be drastically dissimilar to yourself. Radical compassion is not an appeal to an idyllic oneness where difference is blithely effaced. Nor is it a smug projection of oneself into the position of another, thereby displacing that other. Nor is it an invitation to walk a mile in someone else’s shoes and amble, like a tourist, through their lifeworld, leaving them existentially barefoot all the while. Rather, radical compassion is an exhortation to ethically walk and sit and fight and build alongside another whose condition may be utterly unlike your own.

Dr. La Marr Bruce wrote "How to Go Mad Without Losing Your Mind" and defined madness in such a powerful way, I needed to share that information with you immediately. I hope you get as much out of his words as I did. RESOURCES: PDF of BOOK: https://www.dukeupress.edu/Assets/PubMaterials/978-1-4780-1087-6_601.pdfBUY THE BOOK: https://www.dukeupress.edu/how-to-go-mad-without-losing-your-mind?utm_source=intro&amp;utm_medium=title%20page&amp;utm_campaign=pdf-intros-Apr21AUTHOR INFO: https://afamstudies.yale.edu/people/la-marr-bruce

Learning a language is a lifelong challenge but worth the effort for the worlds it unlocks. That said, you're going to be far more successful if you learn to make learning fun, exciting, and specific to you. You're special. Your learning strategies should be, too! RESOURCES: https://www.fluentu.com/blog/fastest-way-to-learn-a-new-language/&nbsp;https://www.babbel.com/en/magazine/spanish-basics&nbsp;https://babbel.com/en/magazine/first-step-for-learning-a-language&nbsp;https://learning

Barry Lewis said: “If your priority truly is to speak, then speak already! Do other things too, as these are all part of the language learning experience and necessary to live a full life through the language, but speak! Speak NOW. Meet a native in person or online and show them what you’re made of, make mistakes and get through it – this is the best way to speak better quickly.”RESOURCES: https://www.babbel.com/en/magazine/first-step-for-learning-a-language&nbsp;and https://preply.com/en/blog/how-to-learn-spanish-and-succeed/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/e

as per we must embrace the way kids learn. The direct link between age and the ability to learn is tenuous, with some studies dispelling the myth that children are inherently better learners than adults. The key to learning as quickly as a child may be simply to take on certain childlike attitudes: a lack of self-consciousness, a desire to play in the language and a willingness to make mistakes. Plus, it helps to come in with fewer preconceived notions about what a language is and can be. Humans learn by making mistakes. As kids, we are expected to make mistakes, but as adults, mistakes are taboo. Think how an adult is more likely to say “I can’t” rather than “I haven’t learned that yet.” To be seen failing (or merely strugglin

KEY is repetition and regularity.habit forming is about focus, not time&nbsp;Aim to reliably trigger new desired behavior so it becomes second nature. Anchor it to an established habit. here is some some advice from Matthew Youlden, a polyglot who speaks nine languages: &nbsp;Don’t isolate your study of the language from the rest of your life — you’re not learning Spanish in order to talk about learning Spanish. Instead, think of Spanish as a new way to experience your everyday life: Change the display language on your computer to Spanish, find Spanish-language movies and TV shows to watch (with Spanish subtitles, not English), get your news or celebrity gossip fix from Spanish-languag

learning a new language has been the coolest thing I've ever done for myself. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica&nbsp;The opinions expressed by Juli

I'm on a plane as we speak, so I'll be back to recording this weekend! Thanks for being patient with me. In the meantime, enjoy this episode from season 2. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferre

Two more days til I'm home and back to the studio. Enjoy this past episode in the meantime. Love you!!!!GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica&nbsp;The opinions expressed

Just a few more days of re-releases and then we're back. That said, Guatemala is magical and you should come here and hang out with me???GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica&nbsp;

Hello friends! I still have limited service in Guatemala and should be back to the normal grind soon. That said, enjoy this rereleased episode from Season One while I figure out how to sucker someone into letting me use their wifi.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noo

Hello friends! I still have limited service in Guatemala and should be back to the normal grind soon. That said, enjoy this rereleased episode from Season One while I figure out how to sucker someone into letting me use their wifi.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noo

Hello friends! I have limited service in Guatemala and should be back to the normal grind soon. That said, enjoy this rereleased episode from Season One while I figure out how to sucker someone into letting me use their starlink. LOVE YOU Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

today I share a compilation of ways to make getting outside a little less intimidating - in case you're struggling to leave the house, like I have been. RESOURCE: https://www.nationalgeographic.com/travel/article/forest-bathing-nature-walk-healthGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" r

today is a compilation of fun facts I have been hoarding for months now. gems like: cows have regional accents, in 1887 the world's largest snowflake fell (15"), bees recognize people. the first webcam was for a coffee pot, you can't hum while holding your nose.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE:<a href="http://www.yo

I came to Guatemala for the coffee and all I got was this INCREDIBLE CULTURE + HISTORY!? Honestly, though, this place is magic. I can't wait to update you on more fun facts (+ my improved pronunciations!?)RESOURCES: https://www.britannica.com/place/GuatemalaAND https://thefactfile.org/facts-about-guatemala/2/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:

Scientists built the largest-ever map of the human brain and we have learned so much. That said, we've only just begun! HOW COOL IS THAT?RESOURCES: https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2023/10/16/1205780690/largest-ever-map-human-brain-atlas-3000-cells-alzheimers-schizophreniaGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https:

there are so many different "consequentialisms" out there + it's important to not get lost in the "sauce" of the different combinations, but focus on the perspectives you can manage now, ideally the ones that affect you, your community, and the world around you. RESOURCE: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/consequentialism/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad200

in South Korea, badass feminists are challenging standardized feminine beauty standards like I wanna also do, such as weekly boycotts of contributing to "beauty industry". I've already quit make-up as a "need" and it's greatly improved my confidence (and my bank account... and my ability to be on time.)RESOURCES: https://www.cnn.com/style/article/south-korea-escape-the-corset-intl/index.htmlAND https://www.npr.org/2019/05/06/703749983/south-korean-women-escape-the-corset-and-reject-their-countrys-beauty-idealsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast

despite being known for being more equitable than the rest of us, they had ONE QUARTER OF THEIR POPULATION SHOW THE FUCK UP to protest inequality and I have not been this fired up IN MY LIFE. RESOURCES: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/oct/24/power-of-the-masses-the-day-icelands-women-went-on-strike-and-changed-history AND https://www.theguardian.com/world/2023/oct/23/icelands-first-full-day-womens-strike-in-48-years-aims-to-close-pay-gapGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener nor

Ultimately, media literacy involves teaching that images are constructed with various aims in mind and that it falls to the individual to evaluate and interpret these media messages. When analyzing media messages, consider the following:Who created the message?What are the author’s credentials?Why was the message created?Is the message trying to get me to act or think in a certain way?Is someone making money for creating this message?Who is the intended audience?How do I know this information is accurate?OR consider these: Author:&nbsp;Consider who is presenting the information. Is it a news organization, a corporation, or an individual? What links do they have to the information they are providing? A news station might be owned by the company it is reporting on; likewise, an individual might have financial reasons for supporting a certain message.<

Assess your passion/skillsetPeaceful Protests and Demonstrations.Civil Disobedience.Noncooperation and Strikes.Occupations and Sit-Ins.Lobbying and Advocacy.Artistic and Cultural Expression.Peaceful Reconciliation and Conflict Resolution.Alternative Economies.Social Media and Information Sharing.Political Movements and Civil Rights.Environmental ActivismHuman Rights MovementsGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN

"Liberation isn’t a theory, it’s a necessity and a right that belongs to the humble people of the Earth. How will we make it happen? We will not turn away from opportunities to organize, agitate and build people power in spaces of state surveillance like prisons, child services, hospitals and classrooms that are designed to dehumanize and disempower the people. The state sets its targets on poor and working-class people because it knows they pose the greatest threat to its existence. We will not let the state steal our relatives or gut our power any longer. We must swarm the state, inside and out, multiplying the threat by millions until it crumbles. Our non-reformist reforms will come in many forms. They will look like grassroots Indigenous seed bank networks where thousands of sustainable farmers share, trade and feed their communities. They will look like successful runs for city council elections where left candidates implement a people’s platform for climate and social justice

optimism is typically fairly well founded, but we all have a lil bit of a tendency to be optimistic about things that can lead to riskier behaviors - and that can be good to check in on! RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-the-optimism-bias-2795031#:~:text=The%20phenomenon%20is%20also%20often,success%20than%20reality%20would%20suggest.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" r

Paying attention with a curious mindset is the way to embrace the world of magic that already exists around you without having to change anything (other than your perspective). Let's talk about how important it is to learn how to take your time + pay attention. Inspired by the book: On Looking: A Walker's Guide to the Art of Observation By&nbsp;Alexandra HorowitzRESOURCES: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/On-Looking/Alexandra-Horowitz/9781439191262GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodca

Mikaela Loach said: if we never challenge capitalism, then we'll be stuck with it. What can you do on an individual level? Join a union; contribute to strike funds, help make general strikes happen; allow yourself to imagine a multiplicity of futures and work out how to move towards them. Advocate for climate debt to be addressed and for existing Global South debt to be cancelled so that there can be a global transition away from imperialism. Get involved in work that is directed at tackling the producing class - the bosses and titans of industry - and work to take these corporations down. Call out their greenwashing to take down their social licences - a topic we will be covering in the next chapter. And importantly, build support and power in our communities and through our political systems so that the future we need can be won by the masses. We must build widespread support for an eco-socialist, post-growth future. The climate crisis makes the fight against capitalism more urgen

feeling like a dumbass feels pretty terrible. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica&nbsp;The

Nassim Nicholas Taleb popularized a theory in his book "The Black Swan: The Impact of the Highly Improbable," published in 2007. In the context of the theory, a "black swan" refers to an event that is highly improbable, has a major impact, and is often explained in hindsight as if it were predictable.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"

The Übermensch, or Overman, is the one who willingly accepts the challenge of eternal recurrence and lives in such a way that they would be content to relive their life, with all its complexities and imperfections, over and over again. This concept serves as a powerful philosophical tool for self-examination, self-improvement, and the creation of one's values and meaning in life. It encourages a profound and active engagement with existence.Embrace the idea that life may lack inherent meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create your own. Define your own values, goals, and purpose in life, even if it's in the face of apparent meaninglessness.RESOURCE: https://philosophy.stackexchange.com/questions/64941/what-is-the-meaning-of-life-in-the-myth-of-sisyphus AND <a href="https://en.wikip

Embrace the idea that life may lack inherent meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create your own. Define your own values, goals, and purpose in life, even if it's in the face of apparent meaninglessness.RESOURCE: https://philosophy.stackexchange.com/questions/64941/what-is-the-meaning-of-life-in-the-myth-of-sisyphus AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_SisyphusGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https:/

While absurdism is often associated with a sense of existential despair, it's possible for someone to approach it with a more optimistic perspective.Embrace the idea that life may lack inherent meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create your own. Define your own values, goals, and purpose in life, even if it's in the face of apparent meaninglessness.RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/AbsurdismGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.in

it is possible to believe that all the human mind has ever accomplished is but the dream before the awakening. apocalyptic thinking is normal. it's entertaining + validating + it makes sense. but at a certain point, it can be harmful. especially if we don't have anything to contradict it with. so, today, I come to you with a case for optimism. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com

"we live in capitalism. it's powers seem inescapable. but then, so did the divine rights of kings." - Ursula Le Guinapocalyptic thinking is normal. it's entertaining + validating + it makes sense. but at a certain point, it can be harmful. especially if we don't have anything to contradict it with. so, today, I come to you with a case for optimism.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon

rant alert: I've always been someone who switches lanes a lil too often but as long as I know what direction I'm heading, who cares if I can't decide who I want to drive next to!? The key - is deciding on the direction. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE

Be selfish when using social media. It should be social. Are you feeling like you're more social when you're engaging with the app? How can you make your experience more rewarding for you as an individual, so you're not just a pawn in a capitalist trade game that we never knew we signed up for!?RESOURCES: https://journals.ala.org/index.php/jifp/article/view/6787/9808 and https://www.theguardian.com/books/2018/jun/25/anti-social-media-how-facebook-disconnects-us-undermines-democracy-siva-vaidhyanathan-reviewTHE BOOK: Antisocial Media: Siva Vaidhyanathan's How Facebook Disconnects Us and Undermines Democracy (avail

I used uptime.app to check out the brief spark notes version of Antisocial Media: Siva Vaidhyanathan's How Facebook Disconnects Us and Undermines Democracy (available here: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/antisocial-media-9780190841164?cc=us&amp;lang=en&amp;) and he said "Facebook is a modern day Skinner Box" which sent me down a rabbit hole to understand what that meant. So today, I am sharing that with you! RESOURCE: https://www.simplypsychology.org/what-is-a-skinner-box.htmlGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/

another rant about capitalism but this one is important!!!!GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica&nbsp;<

The Easterlin Paradox refers to the idea that, on average, increasing income levels in a society do not necessarily lead to increased happiness or life satisfaction beyond a certain point. To avoid or mitigate the Easterlin Paradox and find greater happiness:Focus on Non-Material Sources of Well-Being: Prioritize non-material sources of well-being, positive relationships, personal growth, meaningful activities, and a sense of purpose.Practice Gratitude: Cultivate a habit of gratitude by regularly reflecting on and appreciating the positive aspects of your life.Invest in Experiences: Allocate resources and time to experiences rather than material possessions. Travel, hobbies, and social activities.Strengthen Social Connections: Invest in meaningful relationships and social connections. Engage in Activities with Intrinsic Value:</stron

The "Just One Thing" Approach: Tell yourself that you'll do just one thing related to the task. It could be writing one sentence, reading one page, or making one phone call. This reduces the initial pressure.The "Do Nothing" Technique: Counterintuitively, tell yourself you'll sit at your workspace and do nothing related to the task for a set period, such as 5 minutes. Often, once you're there, you'll naturally transition into work mode.The "No Distraction Zone": Create a designated workspace for focused work. Only allow work-related items in that space, and make it a rule not to do any non-work activities in that area.The "Mind Dump": Before starting work, jot down all the thoughts, worries, and distractions in your mind. This clears mental clutter and makes it easier to concentrate.The "Start with Research" Approach: If your task involves research, start by

John Cleese, British actor and comedian once said: “Nothing will stop you being creative so effectively as the fear of making a mistake. Creativity is not a talent. it’s a way to operate. an ability to play. And he described the most creatives (when in this mood) as being childlike. For they were able to play with ideas… to explore them… not for any immediate practical purpose but just for enjoyment. Play for its own sake.RESOURCES: https://www.forbes.com/sites/bryancollinseurope/2020/02/25/john-cleese-on-how-to-become-more-creative-and-productive/?sh=284675ea6857 and https://genius.com/John-cleese-lecture-on-creativity-annotatedGET AN

What year is it!? Oh yeah, the year of witch hunts for "fortune telling" but don't worry - we have TikTok now. And that makes me so happy. RESOURCES: https://www.tiktok.com/@thestitchingwitch/video/7286560031338761515https://exemplore.com/news/pa-police-suspicion-wiitchcraft-charges-2023https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-social-turmoil-has-increased-witch-hunts-throughout-history/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.mak

It's been 30+ years but... Sisterhood!? Magic!? COMMUNITY!? You know I had to do it. "Bullock and Kidman play sisters Sally and Gillian Owens, descended from a long line of witches. Raised by their aunts after their parents' death from a family curse, the sisters were taught the uses of practical magic as they grew up. As adults, Sally and Gillian must use their magic to destroy an evil spirit before it kills them." - WIKI RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Practical_MagicGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/epi

We need to remember that the "doom" we feel is part of the plan. They have made us fearful of change, but that's a trap. Change is liberation. Change is freedom. Change is justice. But we have to stop feeding into the narratives that everything we know and love will disappear if we don't have capitalism, because that's (quite frankly) bullshit. READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR <a href="https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby"

As Mikaela Loach says in her book, "It's Not That Radical," "many behavior changes are only made possible - or available to the masses - if there is infrastructure implemented to enable those changes and to reduce the growth obsession that makes the energy demand so vast." and with that in mind, we must remember it's not ONLY our responsibility but the responsibility of the collective to make change that works. READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoop

you are a microcosm of the universe but you also ARE the universe + nothing makes me feel more connected than that. we're in this together, and it makes me feel a lot better knowing you are here with me! GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: <a

when a hostage negotiator breaks down how to find common ground with people you're arguing with, you listen. Voss emphasizes the importance of empathy, active listening, and creative problem-solving in reaching successful agreements. OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libbyRESOURCES: Free PDF of the book: http://livre2.com/LIVREE/E1/E001005.pdf or synopsis: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christopher_Voss or <a href="https://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/book-summaries/business/never-sp

I've been the queen of procrastination lately and felt like complete shit about it. I think it's time we went a little easier on ourselves in the process. OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libbyRESOURCES: https://lunio.ai/blog/strategy/how-many-ads-do-we-see-a-day/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT</st

Ursula Le Guin said, “We live in capitalism. Its power seems inescapable. So did the divine right of kings. Any human power can be resisted and changed by human beings. Resistance and change often begin in art, and very often in our art, the art of words.”READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby<

As Mikaela Loach says in her book, "It's Not That Radical,": "Whiteness' is a social construct. The idea of race was created in the 1800's..." and I think it's important to dissect the concept before we go further - because generalizations can be dangerous.READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby

As Mikaela Loach says in her book, "It's Not That Radical,": "Whiteness' is a social construct. The idea of race was created in the 1800's..." and I think it's important to dissect the concept before we go further - because generalizations can be dangerous. READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdrive.com/apps/libby<p

"When it comes to climate action, reducing carbon emissions continues to garner most of the attention and resources. But we need to do much better at prevention: minimizing the tremendous costs of climate-related disasters and improving the supports that help people to adapt and become more resilient to climate shocks. This is especially importantly for Black people and communities because of their history of forced segregation, asset stripping, and imposed vulnerability." via https://www.brookings.edu/articles/the-case-for-climate-reparations-in-the-united-states/READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR <a href="https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538" rel="noope

Did you know that the term "carbon footprint" was coined by BP? The company which ranks 6th out of the 20 companies responsible for 1/3 of the carbon emissions to since 1965? Mikaela Loach did + when she told me that (in her book "It's Not That Radical: Climate Action To Transform Our World") my jaw hit the floor. Today is about reframing the fear into anger/action/retribution because spite is a very powerful motivator. READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538OR TRY FREE VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https:/

"For tribal nations, Land Back means much more than the physical return of land. It means the freedom to practice our ways of life and to heal our traditions. It means self-determination. It means that people continuously search for ways to give back to Indigenous people in their daily lives. We must have a reckoning of all that has been stolen from Indigenous people. Then, we must unite and engage in the healing process which entails land return and cultural restoration. Save your land acknowledgements until after self-determination has been fully restored. #LandBack" - by&nbsp;QUINN SMITH JR.What is Land Back? (Wellia Mag): https://sites.duke.edu/thewellianmag/2021/11/08/what-is-land-back/NDN Collective: <a href="https://ndncollective.org/" rel="noopener

I'm reading Mikaela Loach's book "It's Not That Radical: Climate Action to Transform Our World" and I can't tell you how much I've already destroyed this copy with highlighters and notes. It's giving me hope, at a time I didn't think I had much left, and that's priceless.READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538FREE BOOKS VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdr

Been on the struggle bus lately + I realized it's because I have been tapping out of everything to numb myself. The problem is, it's only a temporary salve that makes shit worse if you keep it there. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: <a hre

I'm reading Mikaela Loach's book "It's Not That Radical: Climate Action to Transform Our World" and I can't tell you how much I've already destroyed this copy with highlighters and notes. It's giving me hope, at a time I didn't think I had much left, and that's priceless.READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538FREE BOOKS VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdr

I'm reading Mikaela Loach's book "It's Not That Radical: Climate Action to Transform Our World" and I can't tell you how much I've already destroyed this copy with highlighters and notes. It's giving me hope, at a time I didn't think I had much left, and that's priceless. READ THIS WITH ME? https://www.mikaelaloach.com/ OR https://blackwells.co.uk/bookshop/product/Its-Not-That-Radical-by-Mikaela-Loach/9780241597538 FREE BOOKS VIA PUBLIC LIBRARY? https://www.hoopladigital.com/ OR https://www.overdri

Thousands of Acres of Koala Haven Forest to Come Under Logging Bans in New South Wales. RESOURCE: https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/thousands-of-acres-of-koala-haven-forest-to-come-under-logging-bans-in-new-south-wales/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://o

Ack! This was supposed to go out yesterday - but I forgot to hit public on it. Apologies, my friends! Enjoy this follow up to the last episode - on making adult friendships. RESOURCE: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10/01/well/live/how-to-make-friends-adult.htmlGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264d

Adult friendships are hard - but they should be fun. Focusing on unstructured "play" can put the fun back into hanging out with the people we interact with. As the sociologist Eric Klinenberg&nbsp;told&nbsp;The&nbsp;Atlantic, “You tend to enrich your social life when you stop and linger and waste time.”RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/08/childhood-friendship-benefits-play/675158/GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="

LIEBERMAN SAYS: &nbsp;We live in a world where everyone knows that exercise is good for you, and yet the vast majority of people have a hard time doing it. According to government statistics, only about a quarter of Americans actually exercise in their leisure time. For me, it’s clear we’re asking people to choose to do something that’s inherently abnormal in the sense that we evolved not to do it. Humans evolved to move. We evolved to be physically active. But exercise is a special kind of physical activity. It’s voluntary physical activity for the sake of health and fitness. Until recently, nobody did that. In fact, it would be a kind of a crazy thing to do because if you’re a very active hunter-gatherer, for example, or a subsistence farmer, it wouldn’t make sense to spend any extra energy going for a needless five-mile jog in the morning. It doesn’t help you. In fact, it actually takes away precious calories from other priorities. All in all, humans have these deep-rooted instin

We learn about time in such a rigid way. Through hours, minutes, seconds - or schedules and deadlines and timelines. There’s an inherent sense that we need to utilize every minute in order to be happy or reach our highest heights. And that is a stressful way to live - especially when we realize that time is more fluid than that. I’m sure we’ve all experienced the magic that lies in realizing how flexible time can really feel and be. Each of us have felt the fluidity of time - Whether moments that feel like seconds, or seconds that feel like days. I know I’ve experienced tedious days in a classroom or at work staring at a clock, fully aware of the sad fact that these seconds were much longer than they typically were. And I’ve had exciting moments fly by in a whirlwind. What feels like a blink of an eye and a whole year has passed. What is meant for you will not pass you. You’re not late for anything. Your timeline looks different than everyone else's because it’s supposed to.

ever since childhood we've been learning how to push down our hunger cues, our time out cues, our overwhelmed and overworked cues. it's time we learned how to listen to them again without letting them take over completely. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUB</st

When we get caught up working towards shit, it becomes really easy to forget that THESE ARE THE DAYS OF OUR LIVES. You can feel all the anxiety in the world but it’s not gonna change that tomorrow is coming, but on the other hand, you can feel all the peace in the world, and tomorrow is still gonna come. Wallowing about the past, does not change it - just like stressing about the future can’t either. Stay conscious of the here and now, in this very moment + pay attention to how much of that is not actually stressful when you’re involved in it, fully.&nbsp; Have you been really listening to me now? Or have you been planning ahead with what’s next for your day? No shade, either way - but I’m curious if your brain tends to wander as much as mine. I feel like I’m the queen of multi-tasking but I am also well aware of the reality that the more PRESENT i am in a moment, the more I tend to appreciate it + remember it in the future. Not to say you have to be grateful and positive to

You can't light yourself on fire to keep others warm.This is a remastered version of Episode 20. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastOR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"

The Overton window of political possibility is the range of ideas the public is willing to consider and accept.Public officials cannot enact any policy they please like they’re ordering dessert from a menu. They have to choose from among policies that are politically acceptable at the time. And we believe the Overton window defines that range of ideas.- Joseph LehmanRESOURCES: https://www.tiktok.com/@crutches_and_spice and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overton_windowand https://conceptually.org/concepts/overton-window GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="htt

The Overton window of political possibility is the range of ideas the public is willing to consider acceptable/the norm. It's how Trump went from TV persona to president. Sometimes, it's good! But when it's the strategy of political think tanks, we probably need to pay attention. RESOURCES: https://www.tiktok.com/@crutches_and_spice and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Overton_windowGET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episode

According to wikipedia: In&nbsp;politics,&nbsp;lobbying&nbsp;or&nbsp;advocacy, is the act of lawfully attempting to influence the actions, policies, or decisions of government officials, most often&nbsp;legislators&nbsp;or members of&nbsp;regulatory agencies, but also judges of the&nbsp;judiciary. Lobbying, which usually involves direct, face-to-face contact in cooperation with support staff that may not meet directly face-to-face, is done by many types of people, associa

If you have never had the chance to be alone - really alone - and you are presented with the opportunity, TAKE IT.&nbsp;Whether it be for only a few hours or over the course of several years, I suggest you take it.There is nothing more valuable than being afforded time to be all by yourself and solely charge of your own wellbeing. You will get the opportunity to return to your sensed of community, eventually but for the moments of solitude you do find - embrace them. Relax and breathe in the feeling of genuine freedom to discover and decode who you really are by making decisions for yourself, by yourself.We live in a world where choices are seemingly endless and&nbsp; Decision fatigue has become a genuine struggle for some of us. Spending time alone forces you to make decision after decision without distractions which can define important parameters for making said decisions in the future.&nbsp;Every time I am able to spend time alone -

Forgiveness is an essential part in finding your happiness. This&nbsp; doesn't mean to let everyone off the hook for hurting you or crossing boundaries. It simply means you aren’t harboring those toxic feelings about it, anymore.&nbsp;You must come to terms with the fact that people who love you will show love to you in ways that don’t feel like love sometimes. Sure sometimes people hurt us on purpose, but more often people will hurt us even though they love us, because they don’t know how else to show that love. It doesn’t mean to accept it as they present it, it just means you shouldn’t take it so personally when it isn’t done like you initially would have wanted or expected. Stop expecting you from other people. If you go in believing people typically mean well and don’t set out to hurt you - you will take a lot of that burden off of yourself - that expectation that everyone else will show up for you in the way you need without you communicating is unreasonable. It doesn’t

There is nothing wrong with you. If you pursue self help in the search of fixing yourself, you will never be satisfied because you aren’t a car - you aren’t broken and don’t need to be fixed. Self love shouldn’t be an aspiration. It should be the bare minimum. You are a miracle made of star stuff and if the bones and heart beating in your chest isn’t enough to impress you than the fact that you have survived in an often very overwhelming world should be. Stop waiting for others to validate you where only you can. Start treating yourself like the love of your life. Write love notes for you. Buy yourself the flowers. You have spent so much time waiting for someone else to show you the love that you show them - why not cut out the middle-man? Show yourself the love you crave so deeply. When you love yourself fully - you can give yourself space to heal properly but only when you remember you are not broken. You never were. You are as whole and perfect as the day you entered this world -

Utilize the asset that is reading energy. Study it. Learn it like a language, because that is exactly what it is. Begin to recognize who your energy shifts around. Notice when it changes and teach yourself how to adapt it. Unfollow anyone that makes you feel weird energy, unless it’s something you feel you should be challenged in. Curate your relationships, social media feeds, and home to reflect the energy that you would like to embody most often.&nbsp;Energy will ebb and flow but it is a valuable skill to be able to identify these shifts on a daily basis. This way you can ride the waves of action, build foundations, so when you need to rest and recharge, you can jump right back in where you left off - and return to that energetic place without starting from scratch. Energy is our most powerful and effective communicator. It passes messages much more quickly and subtly than our conscious mind could ever identify. This is why it is so important to pay attention. Learn to read

This may be hard to admit - but you deserve the occasional day off to just relax. To do nothing at all. To binge watch. To sit and waste time. Recharge and replenish. And then practice forgiving yourself for not being productive. We have been conditioned our whole lives to believe that productivity is the only way to be valuable in a society based on capitalism and industriousness. We have never been taught that rest is not a reward. It is work. A thing we must do. Especially if we aim to ever be productive. We are expected to perform every single day, regardless of our energy levels or anything that is happening in our lives, yet most of us still feel guilty when we take days off.&nbsp;Lions are the king of the jungle yet they spend 20 hours of the day - sleeping. Shit, computers need to go to sleep, and even shut down occasionally.&nbsp;You have been so hard on yourself even though the expectations are often unreasonable so You are exhausted. You often end up wasting more time tha

I’m not religious, but it isn't lost on me that most religions and even agnostic sects of spirituality center around some form of prayer or meditation or introspection. Regardless of your faith or lack thereof, it’s crucial to offer ourselves the space and time to decompress. Time away from screens, family, friends, work, and even away from your own thoughts. Plans, anxieties, fears can lead us to cycle in our mind and by practicing mindfulness, we’ll notice and can refocus back on our present moment. The present is where our power lies. That’s where the magic happens + if we can practice staying there, we can get better at it and need less of the redirection.&nbsp;Guided meditations are a great way to start, and tiny commitments like three minutes at a time are way easier to commit to than massive changes in your routine, meditating is less about clearing our thoughts and rather, learning how to sit with them comfortably.&nbsp;If we imagine our mind as the sky, each t

If your inner voice manifested into a human form today, would you be friends with it? I think a lot of us would have to teach our new friend some manners before going into the real world. Which is wild to think about - that the most common voice, our most reliable narrator, our internal operator is kind of an asshole? Is really sad to me. If the voice we live with, and listen to the most, is not nice? What does that mean?Negative self talk quickly trains your brain to believe that the criticisms of it are true. This is why it’s so crucial to train your brain that the good shit can be true, instead.&nbsp;If you cuss yourself out every time you drop something, or call yourself names when you make mistakes, I highly recommend this tactic:&nbsp;EVERY time you catch yourself thinking or saying something negative about yourself (or someone else) you MUST say OUT LOUD two unique positive things to counteract that thought. And take a second to absorb it and try to belie

We really gotta get over the fear of being seen. We should never feel bad for trying.&nbsp;The only people who feel comfortable criticizing others for trying are typically envious of your fearlessness, or washed up from their time in the spotlight, and they have nothing against you but everything against them for not being you at that moment. Excuse my language but FUCK EM. Every professional in the history of professions has failed and begun again and failed and begun again. Its between those failures where we define and find our own versions of success. Give yourself a chance to “fail” freely and eventually you’re going to redefine failure. Because you cant call something a failure that was simply practice. It’s not a failure til you quit. Until you give up, everything is just practice.&nbsp;GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" r

UNIVERSAL TRUTH: Just because it ain’t your fault, doesn’t mean it’s not your responsibility to deal with it.&nbsp;I think taking responsibility for your trauma gets lost in translation a bit. We often say, “everything happens for a reason” or “there’s a lesson in everything”; and while those may be helpful reframes for a select few, most people won’t benefit from those generalities, especially at a time of need.&nbsp;So yes, dealing with your trauma is your responsibility,&nbsp;in the immediate sense: when you have a negative experience (even if it’s in no way, shape, or form your fault) you have no choice but to respond to that experience. It’s unfair, unjust, and unfortunately - it’s a part of life that feels avoidable yet rarely is.&nbsp;The future sense: if it affects your behaviors in a way that may be harmful to yourself or others. Yet this should be done with an appropriately matched, qualified mental health profes

Excitement and anxiety fire up the exact same space in your brain, so if we can work on reframing our perspective, we may not even have to shake the anxious feelings at all! You’re not nervous because you’re going to talk in front of a large group of people, you’re excited because you get to feel like Taylor Swift???&nbsp;The thing we’re nervous about is starting, and a reappraisal can help.&nbsp;If you’re someone who can assess all the ways shit can go wrong, you owe it to yourself and everyone around you to assess all the ways it can go right, too!&nbsp;This way, you have a focus for excitement where there is also anxiety - which is especially helpful when staying calm isn’t an option.&nbsp; RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/comfort-zone/#google_vignette and <a href="https

DAY 9: COMFORT ZONES:&nbsp;Have you ever heard a term so much that it loses all meaning? I feel that way about comfort zones a little bit. Maybe because mine fluctuates from year to year or maybe cuz I’ve read “life begins right outside of your comfort zone” in too many public restrooms, but when I came back to revamp this episode about getting out of your comfort zone - I knew I needed to reevaluate my relationship with the term.&nbsp;According to Judith Bardwick,“The comfort zone is a behavioral state within which a person operates in an anxiety-neutral condition, using a limited set of behaviors to deliver a steady level of performance, usually without a sense of risk.”So while a comfort zone is both comfortable and safe, it is not a place where much growth can occur. Learning, growing, doing - can be an uncomfortable practice if you are not accustomed to it. So that’s why it’s crucial to understand our personal relationships w

A life without any indulgence is just plain sad AF.It’s not just me who says it - there are studies that demonstrate that some indulgence is as fundamental to a happy life as self-control is.&nbsp;Decades of research have shown that self-control is associated with many positive outcomes, including our overall well-being. But as self-control helps us to align our behaviors with our long-term goals (e.g., exercising to stay fit) it can often shield us from conflicting hedonic goals (e.g., relaxing) and because of these often contradictory wants and needs, it can undermine a lot of the positive effects of the long term goals (HELLO intrusive thoughts). So, next time your brain insists on stopping for pizza rolls, it’s not because it’s trying to sabotage you, it’s trying to remind you it’s okay to indulge once in a while. Some of us have been conditioned to resist things that feel good instantly, but even the science confirms:&nbsp;&nbsp;Self contro

&nbsp;A life without any indulgence is just plain sad AF.It’s not just me who says it - there are studies that demonstrate that some indulgence is as fundamental to a happy life as self-control is.&nbsp;Decades of research have shown that self-control is associated with many positive outcomes, including our overall well-being. But as self-control helps us to align our behaviors with our long-term goals (e.g., exercising to stay fit) it can often shield us from conflicting hedonic goals (e.g., relaxing) and because of these often contradictory wants and needs, it can undermine a lot of the positive effects of the long term goals (HELLO intrusive thoughts). So, next time your brain insists on stopping for pizza rolls, it’s not because it’s trying to sabotage you, it’s trying to remind you it’s okay to indulge once in a while. Some of us have been conditioned to resist things that feel good instantly, but even the science confirms:&nbsp;&nbsp;Self

You’ve showed up EVERY single day. Every shower you’ve taken, every tear you’ve shed, every laugh you’ve had, every connection you’ve made, you’ve been there for. And sure you didn't have a choice, I get that, it seems cheesy but eat up, rat friends. - because we spend so much time showing gratitude for our besties if we’ve got them. And I DO love appreciating a good community moment, it’s also crucial to show up and appreciate you. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href

seems cliché, but time is by far our most valuable commodity. Money comes and goes but time you can never get back. This is why we often feel so strongly about the things we’ve invested our time or money into - because we’ve invested we feel we’re losing our deserved payout if we bail. But just because we make an investment, doesn’t mean it’s always the right one for you. In fact, we’re often focused so much on recouping our perceived losses that we ignore the wins we could be making had we cut the costs earlier. Our time and effort are the most valuable resources we have. And if we’re wasting those valuable resources on things that are harmful to us, we need to pay attention to that - because only YOU can know if an investment is right for you. Sure there are “advisors” but deep down, we’re in charge of the way we handle our finances/our Be tactful with how you use your time. Divide it and budget it like you would your money. Respect your free time like cash in the hand. If

People rarely sustain the exact same routine forever, really. Habits are meant to be used as tools, and sure, some of them stick for many years, but more often than not, I drop habits like it’s bath night at the nunnery! Most things I begin, I give up on. Literal obsessions I have had over the years have given way to make space for new/updated experiences. &nbsp;Imagine if we clung SO tightly to everything we’ve ever loved or felt passionate about. Life isn’t one size fits all! Find what fits, feels right on YOUR body, and your current style, so you can get back to LIVING your life instead of constantly trying to change it!&nbsp;GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https:

Momentum is far more valuable than motivation. Motivation is inconsistent. Some days I feel like a superhero but most days I just wanna take a nap + eat hot chips. It seems silly to say to “just start” as if it’s easy - sure, starting may be simple, but it ain’t easy. That said, it is easier to stand up + start, than to tack on the additional labor of convincing yourself to stand up + start first, so I truly find the best way to get rid of dread is with action.Sometimes, taking ONE step is all it takes to see how vast the mirage of our overthinking was.&nbsp;Have you ever been stuck in bed without motivation self to do the tiniest piece of the puzzle, the rest falls into place without thought? I find that a shower clears my head of all the internal dilemmas that had me stuck in bed - over planning and hating every second.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/w

Momentum is far more valuable than motivation. Motivation is inconsistent. Some days I feel like a superhero but most days I just wanna take a nap + eat hot chips. It seems silly to say to “just start” as if it’s easy - sure, starting may be simple, but it ain’t easy. That said, it is easier to stand up + start, than to tack on the additional labor of convincing yourself to stand up + start first, so I truly find the best way to get rid of dread is with action.Sometimes, taking ONE step is all it takes to see how vast the mirage of our overthinking was.&nbsp;Have you ever been stuck in bed without motivatio self to do the tiniest piece of the puzzle, the rest falls into place without thought? I find that a shower clears my head of all the internal dilemmas that had me stuck in bed - over planning and hating every second.GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/ww

Life is a very nuanced and specific experience, so, I'm aware that some days, some messages might not feel relevant to you. Even if things don’t seem immediately relatable, keep an open mind but remember that even improvement seeking can be a trap. Moderation + balance is the key to creating harmony in ANY aspect of our lives, and everything can be abused if overused, including self care, health, and wellness. Keep your friends, information sources, and your perspectives diverse if you feel like things are feeling a little too black and white.&nbsp;Ideally, the goal is to learn and practice, so we can live life. Not to practice this until it becomes our lives. Remember, you must take breaks to truly benefit from anything.&nbsp;We create meanings based on our current perspectives. If you want to evoke a different meaning, you have to shift your perspective. Otherwise, just take whatever resonates and let go of what doesn't.<

DAY 1: Why should you make your bed?&nbsp;You have one! Gratitude is a scientifically backed way to improve well-being. Starting your day with genuine mindfulness can change the game.&nbsp;It makes your room look clean! Typically, the bed is the largest, most eye-catching item in your room and it’s a high pay off for very little tucking and straightening.&nbsp;&nbsp;It’s gratifying! A quick first task of the day, done in under 2 minutes? Sign me up. Plus, it sets a tone of ‘accomplishment’ that leads into the rest of your day.&nbsp;It instantly feels better! Makes us less tempted to climb back in + future-you gets to benefit from a few moments of getting your shit together.&nbsp;It’s unnecessary!&nbsp;I think that’s why it’s so powerful of a motivator for me, because it’s not essential, which feels like a luxury item.&nbsp;<

I can't believe it's been 900 days of this wild ride. We're just getting started, if all goes right. Thank YOU so much for being here. You're truly the most incredible piece to this puzzle and I don't think you understand how much I love and adore and appreciate you!!!! Also, please send me questions/prompts/ideas if you want to hear SPECIFIC episodes coming up. I'd love to do some personal stuff in the upcoming few weeks. GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href=

Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither a cheapskate nor a spendthrift., 4. Give as generously as you can., 5. Focus more on the transcendent; disregard the trivial., 6. True strength is a controlled temper., 7. Never lie, especially to yourself., 8. Stop struggling for your fair share., 9. Forgive others, and forbear their weaknesses., 10. Define your morality; live up to it, even in private. RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/

Life can truly be so very hard, but sometimes we can make it a little easier by facing the hard things with intention and purpose. Some things seem hard at first but pay off and make life so much easier later. Like discipline. Forgiveness. Honesty. Generosity. Radical Acceptance. (credit to Arthur C. Brooks) 1. Name your fears and face them, 2. Know your appetites and control them., 3. Be neither a cheapskate nor a spendthrift., 4. Give as generously as you can., 5. Focus more on the transcendent; disregard the trivial., 6. True strength is a controlled temper., 7. Never lie, especially to yourself., 8. Stop struggling for your fair share., 9. Forgive others, and forbear their weaknesses., 10. Define your morality; live up to it, even in private. RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/

We’re either too busy to nap, or feel so guilty about trying that we can’t. Then, when we can nap, we feel bad because we don’t like that we don’t wake up perfectly ready to make more productivity!&nbsp;Think about your own relationship with naps, how is it? If it’s bad, let me know because I bet I can source it back to capitalism somehow and if it’s good? Let me know because I want that for myself someday and could use the reminder that it exists.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://news.harvard.edu/gazette/story/2021/02/the-science-behind-those-afternoon-naps/https://lazyslowdown.com/how-my-relationship-with-naps-has-shifted/<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2022/10

anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be.RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-about-climate-change/621358/ and https://theconversation.com/why-fear-and-anger-are-rational-responses-to-climate-change-114056 GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.ma

anger can be a very powerful catalyst for action + change. but it's also dangerous for the person with the anger - if they're not careful, it can blow up in our face. so, spend time in nature, embrace the joy and hope when it comes, but don't lose sight of how valuable getting pissed (and sometimes petty) can be.RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/science/archive/2022/01/why-im-staying-angry-about-climate-change/621358/GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instag

"Never doubt&nbsp;that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has." - Margaret Mead RESOURCES:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Margaret_Mead and https://www.britannica.com/biography/Margaret-Mead and https://www.loc.gov/exhibits/mead/mead-shaping.htmlGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast

The neuroscience behind ADHD is complex and still not fully understood. However, research has shown that people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine in the brain. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that plays a role in attention, motivation, and learning. When people with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine, they may have difficulty paying attention, staying focused, and completing tasks.If you think you may have ADHD, it's important to talk to your doctor. They can help you assess your symptoms and determine the best treatment plan for you.GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_

ADHD is not an easy thing to cope with, but there are people out there sharing what's worked for them, and that works for me. And as the famous @the-majestic-cheese-turtle once advised: "waterproof clock in the shower, trash can with automatic lids, wall hooks for your regular hoodie, and clear bins so that things can be stored but aren't invisible." may be a great place to start. Also @earthtokk suggests we reframe our thinking of the process of chores as a thing to finish, and consider it a cycle we can jump in and out of as needed, and I really appreciated that. GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noo

Women have been chronically left out of important conversations for generations, but the science community is finally putting some effort into studying ADHD and the effects of a late-stage diagnosis. Today, I highlight a few of those.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7422602/https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autismhttps://www.therapyden.com/blog/adhd-statisticsGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer

key to challenging negative core beliefs is to start by identifying them, so we can understand them and critique them for their inconsistencies or harmful perpetuation of behaviors. Uncovering the hidden influences can help us remember our power against their impact! RESOURCES + LINKS: https://positivepsychology.com/socratic-questioning/GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + T

when we make assumptions, we are living within the walls of those assumptions.&nbsp;when we choose black and white, all or nothing thinking, we don’t account for the magic that lies in the color, and the gray. these deeply rooted interpretation of ourselves cause us to assume things are true when often they are not, but they also limit us to the (often bleak) filter we’ve been interpreting the world through.&nbsp;RESOURCES + LINKS:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706&nbsp;https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/&nbsp;<a href="https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Table-of-Common-Core-Belie

For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remember that we can sometimes rewrite happier through line, for certain stories that aren’t as helpful anymore.&nbsp;LINK:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706&nbsp;https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/&nbsp;<a href="https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-co

Weaponized incompetence refers to the deliberate use of ignorance, incompetence, or lack of skill in a relationship as a manipulative tactic to avoid responsibility, gain control, or shift blame onto the other person. This form of manipulation can be harmful and destructive to the dynamics of a relationship, leading to frustration, resentment, and a lack of trust. Understanding how weaponized incompetence manifests itself is crucial in identifying and addressing such behaviors.LINK: https://www.verywellmind.com/weaponized-incompetence-7553422GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <

balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental load with your partner. RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-loadhttps://camillestyles.com/wellness

balancing the gap between partners can be tricky because it's not going to be a 50/50, simple, black and white split down the center. there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, we need to figure out HOW. So today, we talk about potential ways to approach discussing the mental load with your partner. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42

fair play method by eve rodsky is a badass way to approach the imbalance of cognitive labor that needs to keep a household running. It may be hard to ask others to contribute, but if they're able - they should be pulling their weight. and addressing it doesn't have to be a conflict, with the right approach. RESOURCES: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ and https://camillestyles.com/wellness/mental-load/ andhttps://behavioralscientist.org/how-couples-share-cognitive-labor-and-why-it-matters/GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM M

there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today.LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN

there may be times when one partner is picking up more slack than the other, but because our lil ecosystems (homes) will need different things at different times, I felt it important to rant about the heteronormative piece of the pie for a few minutes, today. LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN

Emma Clit is ridiculously talented and everything I've consumed so far has been great and on brand, so I highly suggest going to check out her blog! LINK: https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/M

Today we're talking about the Baader Meinhof Phenomenon (the tendency to notice something more after noticing it the first time, leading us to believe we're seeing it more frequently) and why learning about the mental load can be painful if we're not careful. LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-laborand https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/ GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.mak

The mental load (aka emotional load or cognitive labor or worry work) is the invisible labor that it takes to manage a household and if it's not going unnoticed, it's being undervalued. Recognizing when we're taking on more than our fair share of the emotional/mental burden is the first step in recognizing why we're so exhausted, but then we need to do something about it... so it doesn't eat us alive.LINK: https://www.mindbodygreen.com/articles/what-is-the-mental-load and https://hbr.org/2016/09/managing-the-hidden-stress-of-emotional-labor and https://english.emmaclit.com/2017/05/20/you-shouldve-asked/

TW: mention of ED, diet culture, and poor body image.Lately, I've been in denial about aging and as a result, I've let my "self care" fall to shit. That includes eating vegetables, fruits, and moving (at all). But I'm figuring it out. One day at a time. In the meantime, I'm figuring out how to deal with the shame. GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener norefer

The term “quiet quitting” refers to employees who put no more effort into their jobs than absolutely necessary.LINKS: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/23/style/quiet-quitting-tiktok.html and https://www.investopedia.com/what-is-quiet-quitting-6743910GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast</a

Work, as we know it, its a recent construct.We must begin to think RADICALLY about the nuclear family and how we structure our lives and our goals and our sense of internal fulfillment. We’ve shaped our lives around work, and we must de-center the toxicity of work culture as a society if we want to escape it. If we decenter work we can prioritize communal spaces and sharing culture and the commons, in a way that prioritizes luxury for ALL people, not just the few. Plus, decentering the idea of work culture as we know it, we will automatically improve the perceived value of domestic labor and child rearing. That shit has never been respected, but it’s a full time job, and we should have the time to treat it like one.&nbsp;LINKS: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-

We've been indoctrinated to associate self worth with work ethic and alternatives have been suppressed and mocked for generations, but it's time we listen to the humanitarians and scholars who have been doing the work, so we can all have a better relationship with work. LINKS: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2018/jan/19/post-work-the-radical-idea-of-a-world-without-jobs andhttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Universal_basic_incomeGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAG

We MUST start prioritizing people over profits, but systemic changes are huge (and uncomfortable) however necessary bc the way it is now is uncomfortable unfair, unsustainable.&nbsp;It starts with&nbsp;imagination, because the people in charge of what we see and consume have a vested interest in keeping the status quo. So, it’s hard to imagine a future not dictated over growth/profits over it’s people.&nbsp;Laziness is a capitalist myth, made to make us feel shame for not producing capital or profits in a society that depends on it.&nbsp;We need to reframe our relationship with productivity so we can reassess what work is actually important.&nbsp;We pitch business ideas to friends, we ask kids what they’ll be when they grow up, we focus our identity around our work, CEO’s install nap pods and bars so you never need to leave work, we idealize gig economy and call it freedom but freelancing is, in practice, a24 hour a day job.&nbsp;<

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis.Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_WorldGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: </str

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:

critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis. Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:

She ain’t perfect, but I’ve started to come around to the gal. And like everything else, Barbie shows me that many things can be true at once. It also shows me that revolution can happen in big ways but it has been coming a long time in many small ways - AND when we can make an example of our revolutionary heroes before us, and assess them for the negative impacts they had, THAT on it’s own, is progress. So, it is a privilege to critique barbie as a community and actually be heard, even if it is just to help the market capitalize on our volume. The reality is, change is gonna come, but sometimes, it’s really fun to look back and notice where it already has.&nbsp; RESOURCES: https://www.marketplace.org/2023/06/29/barbies-dreamhouse-paints-a-picture-of-americas-housing-history/ and <a href="https:

playing with dolls can improve social skills and empathy, according to neuroscience. RESOURCES: https://www.forbes.com/sites/jenniferpalumbo/2022/02/08/how-a-new-study-shows-benefits-of-doll-play-through-neuroscience/ AND https://corporate.mattel.com/news/latest-findings-doll-play-prompts-children-to-talk-about-others-thoughts-and-emotionsGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INS

barbie has been both a feminist and an anti-feminist icon for decades. today, we dig into her impressive (and less impressive) marks on history. RESOURCES: https://www.harpersbazaar.com/uk/culture/entertainment/a44129282/barbie-real-history/ and https://www.latimes.com/opinion/story/2023-07-16/barbie-movie-feminism-doll-greta-gerwig-margot-robbie-ryan-gosling-mattel and https://www.britannica.com/topic/BarbieWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" r

(sorry for my head cold) but I wanna support the industry for doing the damn work! RESOURCES: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/business/business-news/writers-guild-actors-equity-sag-aftra-solidarity-1235535821/ and https://www.wgacontract2023.org/take-action/stand-with-writers and https://www.sagaftrastrike.org/stand-with-us and https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-writer-strike<a href="https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-

(sorry for my head cold) but I wanna support the industry for doing the damn work! RESOURCES: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/business/business-news/writers-guild-actors-equity-sag-aftra-solidarity-1235535821/ and https://www.wgacontract2023.org/take-action/stand-with-writers and https://www.sagaftrastrike.org/stand-with-us and https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-writer-strike<a href=" https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-

(sorry for my head cold) but I wanna support the industry for doing the damn work! RESOURCES: https://www.hollywoodreporter.com/business/business-news/writers-guild-actors-equity-sag-aftra-solidarity-1235535821/ and https://www.wgacontract2023.org/take-action/stand-with-writers and https://www.sagaftrastrike.org/stand-with-us and https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-writer-strike<a href="https://mashable.com/article/how-to-support-wga-

the curb cut effect takes note of the reality that when we design our infrastructure, laws, programs, and society to benefit the vulnerable, the rest of society benefits as well. RESOURCES: https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_curb_cut_effect https://uxdesign.cc/the-curb-cut-effect-universal-design-b4e3d7da73f5 and https://ssir.org/articles/entry/the_curb_cut_effect# and https://news.yahoo.com/curb-cut-effect-5-waysWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/show

Let's talk about the storm before the calm - and what that means for us as a society. Today's episode was inspired by Martha Beck - please check out their work.RESOURCES: https://marthabeck.com/2022/07/outlasting-the-extinction-burst/ https://study.com/learn/lesson/extinction-burst-psychology.html and https://www.parentingforbrain.com/extinction-burst/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY N

Let's talk about the storm before the calm - and what that means for us as a society. RESOURCES: https://study.com/learn/lesson/extinction-burst-psychology.html and https://www.parentingforbrain.com/extinction-burst/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <

society makes us feel safe in our mask, but we must embrace the times where it's safe enough to take it off (and practice taking it off once in awhile). that way, we get more comfortable and other people feel safer to do the same. RESOURCES: https://fangirltherapy.medium.com/taking-up-space-the-anxiety-of-being-annoying-27266f6a362cWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM F

sometimes I get so caught up in avoiding being perceived as annoying, that it backfires and I don't show up as myself at all. dropping the mask is challenging, but doable. you got this. RESOURCES: https://fangirltherapy.medium.com/taking-up-space-the-anxiety-of-being-annoying-27266f6a362cWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://op

a period of degrowth is our next step to climate salvation, and i am kind of excited to be a part of it. here are some examples of how to get started transitioning. RESOURCES: https://www.economicshelp.org/blog/164203/economics/degrowth/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast"

a period of degrowth is our next step to climate salvation, and i am kind of excited to be a part of it.RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DegrowthWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL

a period of degrowth is our next step to climate salvation, and i am kind of excited to be a part of it. RESOURCES: https://www.cnn.com/2022/11/13/economy/degrowth-climate-cop27/index.html&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" targ

have you tried binaural beats?RESOURCES: https://www.focusatwill.com/app/pages/science-of-focus-concentration https://www.asianefficiency.com/productivity/science-focus-music/&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.c

attention is difficult to sustain and though there is no magic remedy, there are ways to improve our flow state. one of my favorites is through music. RESOURCES: https://www.focusatwill.com/app/pages/science-of-focus-concentrationWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast"

setting a future you up for success is one of the most powerful ways to avoid procrastination. clearing to neutral is a great habit to build into your routines. RESOURCES: https://www.asianefficiency.com/habits/stop-procrastination-by-clearing-to-neutral/&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad20013

it's a common sales tactic to promise a metabolic improvement, but is it even possible? RESOURCES: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/can-you-change-your-metabolism1/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.in

we all know sleep is crucial but what about coffee? or naps? or coffee and naps?RESOURCES: https://www.asianefficiency.com/productivity/science-perfectly-optimizing-sleep/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.

hey y'all! I mixed up my travel days and realized my episode won't upload until tomorrow! I feel terrible about it but please enjoy this re-release of a past fave of mine (in a desperate attempt to not mess up your schedule as much as I messed up my own!!!)I'LL BE BACK TOMORROW!!!!WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<st

I recently finished the library copy of Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert - who you may know from Eat, Pray, Love fame - and if I’m honest I read it in college ish and was not a fan. I judged her hard, and because of it - I avoided content until recently when clips of her offering incredibly insightful thoughts I decided to give her new book - the one she was often promoting with these interviews - a shot. The book is Big Magic. And it’s a fairly short read about creative living and as is always the case with self-help type books, I have a few notes, but overall the book was really lovely and made me think - which is really all you can ask for in a book. It’s a book I’m sure I’ll return to - and may even buy for my own shelf eventually, because it’s about the spark + realigning with it - which as a creative, is a necessary part of the process every once in a while. This book doesn’t define creativity as pursuing a life that is exclusively or professionally devoted to the arts, rather i

You dont have to be the spokesperson for an entire community - but sometimes, you want to be. here's a resource. RESOURCES: https://www.liveabout.com/how-to-defeat-homophobic-arguments-1414925WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_bl

Sex education in the U.S. is rarely LGBTQ+-inclusive. These sex educators want queer youth to be prepared. Adapted from an article written by: Quispe López. RESOURCES: https://www.them.us/story/lgbtq-sex-ed-facts-expertsWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<

celebrating pride is an essential piece in creating a more equitable + accepting + loving humanity. RESOURCES: https://hrc-prod-requests.s3-us-west-2.amazonaws.com/LGBTQ-Guidebook-for-Action.pdfhttps://www.hrc.org/press-releases/for-the-first-time-ever-human-rights-campaign-officially-declares-state-of-emergency-for-lgbtq-americans-issues-national-warning-and-guidebook-to-ensure-safety-for-lgbtq-residents-and-travelers<a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-the-wild-things-are/202106/the-importance-prid

we grow up in a heteronormative society so it's no wonder we deal with confusion when it comes to sexuality, especially if it doesn't align with the "norm". RESOURCES: https://www.healthline.com/health/what-is-internalized-homophobia#learn-moreWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.inst

pride was a riot. RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stonewall_riotsWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/show

bell hooks "All About Love" has been a quick read and a game changer. I feel like i'll be coming back to this one for years. RESOURCES: https://www.harpercollins.ca/9780060959470/all-about-love/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www

It’s automatic. Our brains want to fill in the blanks for us. Especially the information we’re taking in is unclear in any way, we see what we wanna see, before we have time to second guess if that’s what’s happening. This is why I focus so often on positive mindsets and mantras, because from experience, perception can make your life around you go from trash to fun - without having to change anything but your mind.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://neuroscience.stanford.edu/news/reality-constructed-your-brain-here-s-what-means-and-why-it-matters and http://www.lifesci.sussex.ac.uk/home/Chris_Darwin/SWS/WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28

It’s automatic. Our brains want to fill in the blanks for us. Especially the information we’re taking in is unclear in any way, we see what we wanna see, before we have time to second guess if that’s what’s happening. This is why I focus so often on positive mindsets and mantras, because from experience, perception can make your life around you go from trash to fun - without having to change anything but your mind.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://neuroscience.stanford.edu/news/reality-constructed-your-brain-here-s-what-means-and-why-it-matters and http://www.lifesci.sussex.ac.uk/home/Chris_Darwin/SWS/WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28

If you’ve ever seen an optical illusion, and then been told what the illusion’s secret was and got a glimpse of the reality - or couldn’t unsee it, you’re experiencing what it is to watch your brain fill in the gaps for us.&nbsp;We bring our life history to these tiny perceptions.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://neuroscience.stanford.edu/news/reality-constructed-your-brain-here-s-what-means-and-why-it-mattersWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="no

This podcast is no stranger to the concept of our reality being based on our perception of it. It’s fairly common knowledge at this point that our perception shapes and influences our personal experience of reality.&nbsp;The lens through which you interpret the world is different than the lens I interpret the world; which means our experience of people, places, and things - are rooted in our personal realities and may not always reflect the same reality.&nbsp;There are days where my negative lens colors the way I interpret everything I see and do, and there are days where my positive lens colors the way I interpret everything I see and do. Even if the day offers the exact same shit, and I am the same me, I have the potential to have VASTLY different experiences within each of my “moods” and they are all valid, true, and REAL. But this reality - the perceived experience of it all - is not the only reality that exists. There are countless realities we can create

There are countless, valid reasons why we procrastinate. This means there are countless, valid solutions. Today we discuss. RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/ProcrastinationWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<

Pomodoro timers on the YouTube, or Real time Youtube work with me sessions, or on various lives you can often find work alongside people - but if you’re brave or craving human connection - there is always the library or if you’re in a decently populated area you may be able to find IRL meet ups or cafes, that works for novelty and reward in my experience - working alongside people who are doing their own thing always makes me feel more alive. Otherwise, binaural focus music or video game music playlists are sometimes a hit when I have to write or research stuff. If you need to learn something, engaging our physical body is really helpful with memory, and cognitive stuff in general and it can act as a bit of a physical reward, or sometimes even a distraction from distractions if you catch my drift.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management<

Once we learn how to prioritize the shit we need to do, we will feel more clear about the next steps we need to take to do them. This often leads to analysis paralysis or task paralysis like I’ve mentioned in the past. We tend to overanalyze and overthink which causes any decision making or forward momentum to seem impossible. Whether the situation be too complicated or not - the anxiety is enough to suppress our decision making in an unconscious effort to preserve the existing options.&nbsp;This is where time management SYSTEMS come in.&nbsp;&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE

Don't get down on yourself if you're unable to "visualize" your future + your goals. Focus on finding the feelings that drive you. &nbsp;RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management AND Pareto principle AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tickler_file&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" tar

Today we’re talking about prioritization:&nbsp;When it comes to getting shit done, it starts with deciding WHAT needs to get done. Major roadblocks are caused by a lack in clarity and direction. Give yourself a minute to figure out what we need to do before you try and figure out how and where and why and when and all that shit.Typically this begins with creating a to do list. That said, having a list of shit we need to do is different than knowing where to begin. Sometimes, excessive list making can leave us feeling like we have more to do than is even possible because we get caught up in the list creation mode. Naturally, we need methods of prioritizing the shit, once we list it.Methods discussed: ABCD, Eisenhower, POSEC, 43 Folders. &nbsp;RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management AND <a href="https://en.wikiped

some more strategies for getting unstuck. RESOURCES: www.getinflow.io/post/task-paralysis-adhd and psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-paralysis#summary + /www.instagram.com/crazyheadcomics/ + www.themindfriend.net/aboutWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/

instead of running face first into your tasks, RAN into them. Get it? You will, after you listen. The pun won't get better, it'll just make sense, which I always appreciate. RESOURCES: www.getinflow.io/post/task-paralysis-adhd and psychcentral.com/adhd/adhd-paralysis#summary + /www.instagram.com/crazyheadcomics/ + www.themindfriend.net/about WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica<stro

the comment section is a place I typically tend to avoid, but every once in a while, it's got some magic. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target=

In the final episode of the series, I bring to you: Signs of an Emotional Mature Person (TM). This is especially helpful when we're moving forward and establishing healthier relationships. Plus, it made me do a lil self-reflection on my own maturity (which I feel is a good practice on occasion). RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc2

PART 6 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

PART 5 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

PART 5 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

PART 4 || enmeshment vs. connection (and the slippery slope that separates them)RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/sho

PART 3 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

PART 3 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

PART 2 || people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow.RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener norefer

people are people, which means they're nuanced. not all good, not all bad. and it can be tough to look at our caregivers as people who had issues that affected us negatively, but it's essential if we want to grow. RESOURCE: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/adult-children-of-emotionally-immature-parents-lindsay-c-gibson/1121368782 + https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-ptsd/202211/how-emotionally-immature-parenting-affects-our-adult-livesWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferrer" ta

When it comes to actually being 'chill' there's more to it than not speaking up.RESOURCE: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7983950/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

Too many of us "act chill" as a way to seem cool, but we end up torturing ourselves internally because we're not comfortable communicating what makes us comfortable. Instead, we need to learn when it's time to speak up for ourselves so we can become that "go with the flow" person we've always wanted to be. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast</a

here's some of the standard practices I use when I'm meeting people from the internet. Let me know if you have others!WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener norefer

I've learned so much about myself by simply letting things get AWKWARD when they start to. Instead of interfering, I lean in, listen, and learn. And I've learned so much. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episod

been BINGING taskmaster and I feel like it inspired me more than it was supposed to??? like it's a comedy show???RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Taskmaster_(TV_series)WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodca

Here are some examples of how our inner child can cause chaos in our current selves. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/inner-child-healing/ AND https://ambitiouslyalexa.com/inner-child-journal-prompts/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acas

"inner child work" has lost all meaning to me because I heard it so much, but once I started thinking about it in different ways???? the game was changed. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/inner-child-healing/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" tar

Let's do a lil skill quiz to see which ones you're already equipped with, as well as the ones that may need a lil work. RESOURCES: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Skills-zine-3-pdf.pdfWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

You DO have skills to offer your community. I promise. Let's discuss em. RESOURCES: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/06/Skills-zine-3-pdf.pdfWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www

Collaboration, creativity, and confidence???? In this economy!??? This type of game reminds me that the joy lies in the journey of discovery. Let yourself play, dammit. RESOURCES: https://www.moma.org/collection/terms/exquisite-corpseWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noop

bringing back the parlor game*, starting with my favorite: FISH BOWL.*free stuff to do with my friends. RESOURCES: https://greatgroupgames.com/fishbowl and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mafia_(party_game) and en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parlour_gameWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdam

a lil good news about music therapy, working memory, and neuroplasticity RESOURCES: https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/practicing-and-listening-to-music-can-slow-cognitive-decline-in-healthy-seniors-by-producing-more-gray-matter/ and https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/music-therapy-helps-paralyzed-man-walk-and-talk-again-w-the-carpenters/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM

Today I'm going rogue from my standard style and sharing some direct quotes from the iconic Janelle Monae.RESOURCES: https://hbr.org/2020/09/lifes-work-an-interview-with-janelle-monaeWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydb

and I quote: "Isn’t this what we are all longing for, on some level? To be real with each other? To be a real person, consequences be damned? To be loved, and to love? To know what a vitally alive love-filled life feels like, and be living it, each blessed moment?"RESOURCES: https://psiloveyou.xyz/if-you-want-fulfilling-intimacy-try-subtext-free-relating-ccfc23baaf7bWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://ope

Unfortunately, we can't outrun ourselves (I tried, Confucius tried, it's hopeless) so we better get to work on the internal work before we get started on the external. RESOURCES: https://briefer.com/books/goWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/my

Experiencing hyper vigilance can make it feel impossible to relax. It's exhausting. Today, we discuss some ways to cope. RESOURCE: https://www.healthline.com/health/hypervigilance and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/202105/are-you-hypervigilantWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com<

I talk (often) about how important it is to learn how to read the room, but today I'm sharing "how" to practice the skill. This timely message brought to you by the realization I'm hypervigilant because of trauma not because I'm sooooo nice. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN O

How do you fight the feeling of internal/emotional isolation? My strategy is taking any type of action - but ooof it can hurt! WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel

Personal grooming is just that: Personal. Do what you want, when you want, for YOU. If you let society decide, you may end up with a long face and cat poop on your head (please listen to the episode for context.)RESOURCES: https://www.mic.com/impact/women-removing-their-body-hair-is-a-deeply-sexist-tradition-that-wont-end-16470015 AND https://rosie.org.au/blog/razors-lasers-internalised-misogyny-reflections-on-body-hair/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A M

If you tend to get defensive or want to negate arguments, these tools can come in handy: Ask questions&nbsp;– Get things moving with questions. They show you’re interested and help others contribute. Mirror feelings&nbsp;– Let others know you recognize what they’re feeling e.g. “I can hear that you’re upset about that” or “It sounds like you want to make a change.” Paraphrase to show understanding&nbsp;– Show you understand by putting what they’ve said in your own words e.g. “To make sure I’ve got this right; you want to…” Prime when you’re unsure&nbsp;– Make an educated guess when they give you nothing e.g.”I would feel sad about that. What about you?” Or there is the ABC method. This is one I am personally familiar with -&nbsp;Agree&nbsp;– Tell them what you do agree with. Build&nbsp;– Build on what they’ve s

If you tend to get defensive or want to negate arguments, these tools can come in handy: Ask questions&nbsp;– Get things moving with questions. They show you’re interested and help others contribute. Mirror feelings&nbsp;– Let others know you recognize what they’re feeling e.g. “I can hear that you’re upset about that” or “It sounds like you want to make a change.” Paraphrase to show understanding&nbsp;– Show you understand by putting what they’ve said in your own words e.g. “To make sure I’ve got this right; you want to…” Prime when you’re unsure&nbsp;– Make an educated guess when they give you nothing e.g.”I would feel sad about that. What about you?” Or there is the ABC method. This is one I am personally familiar with -&nbsp;Agree&nbsp;– Tell them what you do agree with. Build&nbsp;– Build on what they’ve s

Have you heard of the concept of a Fool's Choice? I saw a meme and looked it up only to end up in a deep dive into a likely incredible book that I’ll more likely never read in it’s entirety called but I encourage you to do so - it’s called "Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High" written by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler. Either way, I’ll share now what I found online in various places:&nbsp;According to the authors, The Fool's Choice is the false assumption that we must choose between telling the truth and keeping a friend or colleague.&nbsp;Today, we're talking about how to avoid this trap. RESOURCES: https://www.mheducation.com/highered/product/crucial-conversations-tools-talking-when-stakes-

Yesterday we practiced enhancing the mind-body connection through visualization, and today we're talking about how we can create a "vacation mode" sensation for easy access. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/epi

This may feel strange to imagine, but imagining yourself actually licking a wall can create a mind body connection that increases presence, gratitude, and our general well-being. Try it! or not. Do what makes you happy. LUH YOU. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="ht

Our language matters, but what happens when the only language we have is negative? RESOURCES: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/where-did-spinster-and-bachelor-come-180964879/ and https://www.bbc.com/worklife/article/20220405-single-shaming-why-people-jump-to-judge-the-un-partneredhttps://www.slice.ca/what-is-the-origin-of-the-spinster-how-society-villainized-the-single-woman/ and WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.yout

Less than a week ago I begged for more optimistic content and now I'm delivering with an incredible listener suggestion (and a terrifyingly good algorithm). RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/SolarpunkWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.insta

Do you workout better in a class? Or write more in a cafe vs. alone? If so, you may benefit from body doubling - or having someone sit with you to motivate you while you do a task you've been putting off. RESOURCES: https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/body-double-adhdWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/ww

People-pleasing can be manipulative because it involves trying to control how others perceive and behave towards us.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/toxic-relationships/201704/are-you-being-manipulatedWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/ww

To me, this idea that your brain can FULLY convince your body a fake treatment is the real thing&nbsp;is pretty fucking magical. Of course, it’s not magic and&nbsp;nothing is a cure-all. But that doesn't mean we shouldn’t stack the deck for ourselves as much as we can as often as we can. Improving the connection between our body and mind is a beautiful place to start as long as we remember that Placebos tweak our experience of symptoms, not their underlying cause.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.health.harvard.edu/mental-health/the-power-of-the-placebo-effectWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="h

Bee bonus fun fact: Melittin — found in the venom of honey bees — may prevent HIV. It’s also known that the substance can relieve pain in people who have rheumatoid arthritis. (I found this one after I recorded and wanted to include it) RESOURCES: https://www.nwf.org/Educational-Resources/Wildlife-Guide/Invertebrates/Beeshttps://beemission.com/blogs/news/22-amazing-facts-about-beeshttps://petpedia.co/bee-facts/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemeric

What if we practice radical acceptance through a healthy detachment to OUTCOMES so we could stay present and grateful for the present moment without dreading the "what if's" and "when will's" RESOURCES: https://stevenkharper.com/thiscupIsalreadybroken.html + https://www.marlaneainsworth.com/post/the-cup-is-already-broken + https://jackkornfield.com/the-wisdom-of-insecurity/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:

So next time your favorite metaphorical sweater rips on ya, maybe not all is lost + we can embrace the imperfections and our time we spent in it.“There is a crack, a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” ~ Leonard Cohen&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://visiblemending.com/ + https://www.bhg.com/decorating/do-it-yourself/fabric-paper-projects/visible-mending-basics/ + https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/KintsugiWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica</p

misery flourishes in company - but so does joy.&nbsp;Pity parties are meant to be short-lived. Eventually, you’ll need to start recognizing your victimhood in conjunction with your confidence. Don’t get me wrong, you don’t have to constantly be productive to heal, but you do need to make space for positive action if you want to get out of the rut that pity parties can often lead us into.&nbsp;It may help to remember that one of the best solutions for wallowing in self pity is with action. If resolution of the direct problem isn’t possible, or the situation is nuanced and it’s a more general malaise and sadness you’re dealing with - focus on realigning with the things that make you feel more in control and empowered on a more personal and minimal scale. You don’t have to change your life to improve your sense of self + confidence.WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noop

Accessibility is a human right.Resources: https://universaldesign.org/definition and https://www.washington.edu/doit/universal-design-process-principles-and-applications and https://accessibility.umn.edu/importance-accessibility/impact-people-disabilitiesWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www

Turns out, there's evidence that physical shaking can release tension and stored trauma. TRE is a formal strategy but there are plenty of ways to improve our relaxation through intentional release methods. RESOURCES: https://traumaprevention.com/what-is-tre/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

This really does... change everything - if we let it.RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/This_Changes_Everything_(book)WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM +

Listen, I like Black Mirror as much as the next guy but DAMN I am ready for a clear vision of the future with a sense of hope and optimism. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast"

What gets me the most fired up about Greta's work is how ANGRY she makes these corporations, because she's winning. Greta Thunberg is an inspirational reminder we all are capable of major change + we can take action now, where we are, with what we have. Mobilize, take action, and don't be afraid of criticism from the bad guys. RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Greta_Thunberg and https://www.biography.com/activists/greta-thunbergWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad200138

To prevent thrashing in both humans and computers, it is important to prioritize tasks, manage resources effectively, and reduce unnecessary overhead. By focusing on the most important tasks, breaking down large tasks into smaller, more manageable ones, and reducing distractions, both humans and computers can stay productive and efficient.RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thrashing_(computer_science)WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Laughter can have many benefits for both your physical and mental health including: reducing stress, boosting immune system, relieving pain, improving mood, enhancing social connections, and our cardiovascular health. RESOURCES: https://www.helpguide.org/articles/mental-health/laughter-is-the-best-medicine.htm https://online.uwa.edu/news/benefits-of-smiling-and-laughter/https://www.cnn.com/2021/07/01/health/science-of-laughter-scn-wellness/index.htmlWATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes

TW: Grief + pet loss (damn it) RESOURCES: https://www.cnn.com/2021/09/12/health/five-stages-of-grief-kubler-ross-meaning-wellness/index.html and https://www.verywellmind.com/five-stages-of-grief-4175361WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONT

Many of our natural responses are maladaptive. Though, they are here to protect we must be conscious of how they affect. SOME RESOURCES: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/anxiety-good-things_l_5ca78fc1e4b047edf959e2feWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https:/

The backwards law can be helpful to keep in mind when we're "desiring" something so intensely that we actually create "resistance". The key to being happy is discovering it naturally, rather than looking for it. SOME RESOURCES: https://aspiringfemale.com/what-is-the-backwards-law-understanding-the-paradox/and https://www.theknowledge.io/the-backwards-law/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.co

This is my final collection of thoughts on becoming an influencer. It makes sense we're all spoon fed the aesthetic/proactive/positive side of things and that means a lot of reality is lost to "behind the scenes" footage that is never shown. So, let's talk about nuance, today! SOME RESOURCES: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.htmlhttps://medium.com/to-the-pxint/the-problem-with-influencer-culture-in-2020-5a1008966ad6https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b5488f38-e9c4-4e0c-95e2-3002f47f88f8<

The reality is, all the good shit that makes us want to become famous influencers is really good - but all the bad shit is really bad. So, be realistic + find your "why" before you get lost in the sauce of the "social media" trap. SOME RESOURCES: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/03/24/well/family/child-social-media-use.htmlhttps://medium.com/to-the-pxint/the-problem-with-influencer-culture-in-2020-5a1008966ad6https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/b5488f38-e9c4-4e0c-95e2-3002f47f88f8<a href="https://www.psychologyto

HELLO CUTIE! I HAVE MISSED YOU SO MUCH. Today we're talking about the sexy siren song of the influencer culture + why it's not all sunshine and rainbows. RESOURCE: https://www.cbsnews.com/news/social-media-influencers-86-of-young-americans-want-to-become-one/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?

Automatic Negative Thoughts are common reasons we get stuck in negative loops - to get out, we have to address where our thoughts are working against us, rather than for us.RESOURCE: https://www.mindwell-leeds.org.uk/wp-content/uploads/2021/03/Automatic-Negative-Thoughts-ANTs-and-unhelpful-thinking-styles-Accessible.pdfWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

My pup is getting old and DAMN it's been tough to watch her change. I am having to address my ability to let others struggle for their own wellbeing - because I have a tendency to interject and "help" simply because I am uncomfortable watching others struggle. We're all learning, though.Also, don't be afraid to be the neighbor that checks in - even when it's a painful check. You never know how powerfully important that interaction can be to someone."While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality."WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica<b

"While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality."RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-spiritual-bypassing-5081640WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MER

"While spiritual bypassing may be less harmful than some other coping mechanisms, it can still lead to negative outcomes that hurt an individual’s ability to grow as a person and fulfill their potential. It can stifle emotional development and even stand in the way of fully realized spirituality."RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-spiritual-bypassing-5081640WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comB

Unfortunately, there is no way to avoid the reality that sometimes, shitty things are going to happen.&nbsp;What makes matters worse, when shitty things happen to us - we have a tendency to shame ourselves and almost exaggerate the impact of a negative outcome.Fortunately, though, we can formally restructure our interpretation of the event to reshape the way we experience the situation, so we can move forward with a new lesson rather than an unpleasant memory.&nbsp;Basically, by reframing how we think about our experiences, or by choosing what we will focus on, we can put our efforts into the more important things that we should focus on. Such as - taking accountability, learning a valuable lesson, moving on, and moving forward without being held back by our negative self talk.&nbsp;WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="

WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a hre

Becoming a problem solver is one of the most crucial foundational skills a human needs to get through life - so why not hone that shit?WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" re

I could rant about the education system for years, but instead of subjecting y'all to my critiques - I'd rather offer some potential actions we can consider taking to put the power back in individual's hands when it comes to their own learning journeys.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR

Many of us have a tendency to remember things more fondly than we felt about it in real time. A great coping mechanism but can also be restrictive if we're not aware of it. RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rosy_retrospection + https://effectiviology.com/rosy-retrospection-and-declinism/. + https://neuroleadership.com/your-brain-at-work/rosy-retrospectionWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: </s

I promise. Even when you fuck up, YOU are not a fuck up. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<

sometimes the shit we do is more automatic than intentional, so tiny shifts are not only simple but ENCOURAGED. RESOURCE: https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/takeaction/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=276

We got this, y'all. Just let your hair dry naturally when possible, compost, and use your freezer?!?! EVERYTHING WILL BE FINE. JK but FR we do "got this". and I genuinely believe that. RESOURCE: https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/takeaction/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener nor

You ever get so desperate and motivated to save the planet and then remember it's a big planet and give up entirely!? Oh, no? Yeah, no me neither... But if it does, I can offer you the beautiful gift of nuance/middle-ground/compromise. Once I figure out how to master nuance, I'll share with you - but in the meantime, here's a hopeful lil guide from the U (fricking) N - which is probably more reliable than anything I can create on my own (this is very obscure foreshadowing. because looking to others who are already doing the work is sometimes the best way to dive in to the cause you care about and not feel immediately overwhelmed). RESOURCE: https://www.un.org/sustainabledevelopment/takeaction/WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel

I didn't realize how little I thought about my walking form and how much it really mattered. Here's a lil wikihow moment to give us a few pointers so we can make our walking more conscious + ideally, more enjoyable. RESOURCE: https://www.wikihow.com/Walk-ProperlyWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank

I'm always looking for ways to "do less" and feel okay about it, and now - according to recent studies - I can! HELL YES. RESOURCE: https://www.goodnewsnetwork.org/walking-at-brisk-pace-for-11-minutes-daily-slashes-risk-of-death/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener

Not to harsh any vibes but the "bridal bootcamp" industry can be.. a lil predatory if we're not careful with figuring out our "why". WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel=

Sometimes it's nice to remember there is humanity in humanity, y'know? RESOURCES: https://mashable.com/article/2023-news-goodWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTE

Sometimes it's nice to remember there is humanity in humanity, y'know? RESOURCES: https://mashable.com/article/2023-news-goodWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTE

Existential dread is honestly, kinda to be expected?! But there are ways to get out of it. 1. Limit the causations - social media, news, etc. 2. stay in the present by honoring your fight, flight, or freeze response. 3, zoom in so you can eventually zoom out. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/meaning-lost-and-found/202108/existential-anxiety-and-4-ways-copeWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedp

Oh the beauty and tragedy that goes along with the belief we have free will. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CON

Putting our story Into words allows us to see new perspectives and shape our choices to rewrite future chapters.RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657<stron

According to https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ We can map our stories through asking: Characteristics and naming or labeling of the problemMapping the effects of the problem throughout each domain of life it touches (home, work, school, relationships, etc.)Evaluation of the effects of the problem in these domainsValues that come up when thinking about why these effects are undesirableThus allowing us to deconstruct + rewrite them to better serve our desired futures. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.make

According to https://positivepsychology.com/narrative-therapy/ Narrative therapy is a form of&nbsp;therapy&nbsp;that aims to separate the individual from the problem, allowing the individual to externalize their issues rather than internalize them.&nbsp;Reality is socially constructed, which means that our interactions and dialogue with others impacts the way we experience reality.Reality is influenced by and communicated through language, which suggests that people who speak different languages may have radically different interpretations of the same experiences.Having a narrative that can be understood helps us organize and maintain our reality. In other words, stories and narratives help us to

The reasons for not choosing a library card over a Netflix membership are endless, but there are countless ways to make cracking a book more attractive in general. I personally used audiobooks to figure out what I actually liked + used the Narrative Transportation Theory to get me there. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657<strong

People inherently WANT to love photos of themselves but go in with a very critical filter that makes them expect NOT to like it - which adds a whole nother level of discomfort that can have a tangible effect on the result.&nbsp;To me, the overthinking that happens is very much a metaphor for overthinking any of our insecurities in relationships. We end up nurturing the problem by honoring the insecurity instead of the reality.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-

The most important part of the show I think is so chronically overlooked in the breakdowns I have read is that we are constantly hearing about Joe’s crimes through Joe’s perspective. He stalks because he “cares” he kills because he “loves” he lies because he “protects” and the audience is now only attuned to the perpetrators perspective of the crime. If they made this part more clear, maybe we would know to not be so understanding or empathetic with his violence. It’s muddled because we’re stuck watching a violent act, from the violent actor.&nbsp;Violence is never love. Regardless of the root of your intention, if your effect is HARM in any way, physically, socially, psychologically, that isn’t love. Period, point blank, end of story. Violent acts rooted in love are not loving acts. &nbsp;RESOURCES: <a href="https://medium.com/@catrinframe/you-season-2-is-joe-goldberg-capable-of-love-netflix-series-9a600300114f" rel="noopener noreferrer" targe

If you have been listening a while, you know I am constantly adding disclaimers so that my messages aren’t misconstrued or taken out of context in a way that can promote harm or danger. That said, it’s nearly impossible to accommodate for every type of perspective that can be taken towards every message. But still, I try. I listen back and try to put myself in the shoes of a more depressed or more angry version of myself and I interpret the message with my worst intention just to ensure I’m not encouraging someone to do something potentially harmful or rash.&nbsp;But regardless of my futile attempts to accommodate all humans at all levels, I recognize the impossibility of this idea. Then I watched the finale of Netflix's YOU and realized just how futile and silly my attempts were...RESOURCES: h

Hack your body, to hack your brain, to hack your body.RESOURCE: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/stress-public-speaking-stanford-brain-hacks.htmlWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_

I read an article on elderly having trouble sitting, so practice squatting, I say if you’re having trouble sitting practice sitting. Train at it. I’m no physical therapist, and don’t get me wrong, do I believe that if I’m struggling to sit on a toilet I’m also OPTING for wall sits?! Absolutely the fuck not. I’m simply saying as someone who often makes lofty goals when I’m feeling like I need to change, and suddenly shifts personalities when it comes down to actually changing shit… I have spent a lot of time simplifying where I can and it’s really made a difference in my progress.&nbsp;Not to say you shouldn’t learn the squats, and if you progress past the seating and eventually you want to elevate the experience, get that shit moving, but in my opinion, training in the gym is all well and good, but finding movement that is healthy for your body, where your body is at this moment, is even fucking better. THAT is functional to me.&nbsp;RESOU

Make a list of all the shit you're good at + a list of all the good shit in your life + all the shit that bothers you about your life. Using the first two lists, attempt to solve the last list and bingo-bango you've got yourself a lil action plan template. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM

Did you know bonding over trauma is different than trauma bonding!?!? I surely tf DID NOT and was shocked to make the distinction. Subscribe on patreon to hear the rest of this SUPER SPECIAL BONUS* release. *still workshopping titles, submit suggestions to [email protected]: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a hre

the final stage of getting outta survival mode is all about taking that shit one step at a time. that said, it's all about balance. take your time, but do what ya NEED not what you THINK you should be doing. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/

if you’re trying to get out of a funk or like we’ve been discussing: escape the survival mode - there are different things that will work at different times.&nbsp;I think the foundation still stands:&nbsp;1. IDENTIFY sources and see if you can downsize stress. What can we delegate? What can we improve the process of? What can we switch up for the better? IDENTIFY - REDUCE - RESTRUCTURE - and then if you’re stuck with shit you still don’t wanna do - so REFRAME with gratitude and more positivity if you can. What can we change our perspective on to get more rewarding feedback or wisdom from it.&nbsp;I'm a RETREATER. What about you?WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodca

Sometimes, it's not about what we have to do, it's about how we have to do it. What can we restructure to make it less stressful? What can we reframe to make it more enjoyable or less intense?RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_

Recovery starts with a foundation of acceptance of where you are, where you've been, and where you'd like to go. I have faith in you, but be kind with yourself in the process. You got this, cutie.RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener norefe

Escaping the cycles of chronic stress... well... sucks. I often want to reach for things that further disconnect me, when in reality, the way out is through connecting more intentionally and deliberately with my current self in what is affecting me, how it's affecting me, and what I NEED, instead of want. If you're in survival mode, currently. I am with you. You got this, cutie.RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_bla

We're all under a TON of stress, and the best way to minimize it's affects is to pay attention to where it's coming from. Identify the source instead of tirelessly treating the symptoms. Four (main) categories of stress sources are: Emotional, environmental, relationships, + work related. RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www

Feelin' jumpy? foggy? on edge? reactive? disconnected? impulsive? exhausted? maybe you're in survival mode. RESOURCE: https://cgrc.org/blog/trauma-and-the-brain-signs-you-might-be-in-survival-mode/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.

I recently received a message from a listener saying they love the podcast but have been struggling to implement some of the stuff I suggest because they’ve been stuck in survival mode and can’t seem to get out of it, so they suggested I do an episode on how to get out of survival mode. As a person who is very experienced in this department, because I’ve been in and out of my own version of survival mode for a long time, I think it’s important to start by clarifying what I mean when I say ‘survival mode’&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104https://www.health.harvard.edu/staying-healthy/understanding-the-stress-response<a href="https://www.stress.org/are-you-a-stress-ad

been binging a lot of content as a way to disconnect and regroup, and Abbott elementary is the first show I've watched in years that has scratched the ITCH I have had for quality television with quality growth/characters/meaning/jokes. It's wholesome, it's funny, it's real. I love it. Don't watch it if you don't watch TV but if you've been looking for that right thing!? This may be your winner. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=276

Shout out to the kiddos who worked so hard on this powerful project! Check it out yourself (listen and/or donate): www.peptoc.netor call: +1 707-873-7862WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a

We're all on the struggle bus, so have some empathy, some mercy, and some grace with others, especially if they're a little "behind" ya. As Robert Anton Wilson says: “under the present brutal and primitive conditions on this planet, every person you meet should be regarded as one of the walking wounded. we have never seen a man or woman not slightly deranged by either anxiety or grief. we have never seen a totally sane human being.”WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/sto

I'm baaaaack (+ I'm really sorry) but I come bearing goodies (for your ears + brain)!!!WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.inst

we're bringing back the salon. here's a lil guide to how to act at one, without feelin' weird about it.RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering) https://www.artofsalons.org/howtohostWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=2

we're bringing back the salon. here's a lil guide to get started.RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering) https://www.artofsalons.org/howtohostWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" rel="noopener noreferrer" target

According to wiki, A&nbsp;salon&nbsp;is a gathering of people held by an inspiring host. During the gathering they amuse one another and increase their knowledge through conversation. These gatherings often consciously followed&nbsp;Horace's definition of the aims of&nbsp;poetry, "either to please or to educate" (Latin:&nbsp;aut delectare aut prodesse).RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Salon_(gathering)WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY

(PART 2) What I’ve noticed, is my ability to get stuck in the effort stage of a process - to the point where I can no longer see the process clearly, which leads to inaction. I am so hung up on the idea of struggle, that I struggle to get beyond the idea part.&nbsp;The best way to avoid this is to eliminate extraneous decision making. Limit your daily choices INTENTIONALLY.&nbsp;Where can you delegate, automate, or postpone tasks that don’t need your direct immediate attention? Where can you pre-plan and do some prep-work to avoid these moments that require immediate choices. Our capacity for making “good” decisions is limited based on a ton of factors - including how many decisions we’ve already made that day.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1018033108 and <a href="https://psychcentral.c

What I’ve noticed, is my ability to get stuck in the effort stage of a process - to the point where I can no longer see the process clearly, which leads to inaction. I am so hung up on the idea of struggle, that I struggle to get beyond the idea part.&nbsp;The best way to avoid this is to eliminate extraneous decision making. Limit your daily choices INTENTIONALLY.&nbsp;Where can you delegate, automate, or postpone tasks that don’t need your direct immediate attention? Where can you pre-plan and do some prep-work to avoid these moments that require immediate choices. Our capacity for making “good” decisions is limited based on a ton of factors - including how many decisions we’ve already made that day.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.pnas.org/doi/pdf/10.1073/pnas.1018033108 and <a href="https://psychcentral.com/anxiet

Figure we can all use a lil good news every once in a while, why not some from 2019?ORIGINAL ARTICLES: https://iheartdogs.com/heres-how-the-netherlands-has-become-the-first-country-with-no-stray-dogs/and https://mymodernmet.com/utrecht-bus-stop-bee-ecosystem/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com<

My relationship with sleep has been... complicated. But lately, I have to come to terms with some major changes. 1. No more snooze button. 2. Establish some routines?! 3. Avoid shame spirals by remembering bears exist. RESOURCES: https://www.cnet.com/health/sleep/serial-snoozer-heres-why-oversleeping-is-hurting-your-health/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: </str

27. Get comfortable in silence. Learn when it’s time to mind your business and when it’s time to speak your mind. You’re allowed to take up space but you’re also allowed to sit back and cease to be perceived. &nbsp;28. Every single human just wants to feel seen, valued, and loved. Be kind. Be open. Focus on the little moments with people + really listen. That said. Not all people deserves all access to you. You’re allowed to be private. You’re allowed to overshare but you’re also allowed to be private and say shit like “im not comfortable discussing that” or simply “no”&nbsp;29. Social media is a tool. It’s also a manipulative marketing addiction machine. Be careful with it. Set boundaries and check in with your emotions during and after your usage.&nbsp;30. Future you appreciates your attention, thoughtfulness, and love more than anyone. Intentional

More lessons that took me forever to learn but really made a difference for my mental health:22. Action is the remedy. The key to getting over cycles of worry and rumination and overthinking and fear is to focus on the next best step. Align with what you value most and start small. Consistency &gt; perfection. Failure is part of the process and the best way to get over a fuck up is to focus our attention on something new.&nbsp;23. Pain, uncertainty, effort are the three unavoidable aspects of reality we will all experience. Becoming adaptable and reflective is the best way to build up our resilience and ability to face things with a positive mind. Problems are inevitable, ideally we can upgrade our problems to better and more enjoyable problems to solve.&nbsp;24. Shoot your shot. Closed mouths don’t get fed. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. The most effective way to connect with someone is to learn

my take on valentines day varies from not giving a flying fuck to being charmed by the idea but most often disappointed in the presentation - that said, knowing YOU are my valentine this year!? Makes all the difference in the universe. You mean more to me than words could ever express but tune into this episode to listen to me try. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-b

Some more lessons for ya: You’re not doing worse than anyone. We never know where people had leg-ups, and we never know what invisible struggles people are experiencing. Focus on keeping you driveway clean and don’t worry about what’s happening on the other side of the street.&nbsp;People’s responses to your boundaries, wants, needs, values, etc. say more about them than you. But the same goes for your responses.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-

My list continued: 16.Giving yourself the love/attention/value you seek from others is the key to being open to actually receiving the love you seek.&nbsp;17. People show love in many different ways. At some point, we have to understand that just because someone isn’t capable of communicating love in a healthy way doesn’t mean they don’t love you. But it also doesn’t mean you have to put up with it.&nbsp;18. Romantic love is overrated. Smooch your friends, Hold hands, and give long hugs. 19. You’re not better than anyone. Noone is better than you.&nbsp;Being further ahead than someone doesn’t disqualify their wisdom. We have something to learn&nbsp;from and share with every living being on this planet.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica</p

My list continued: 11. You don’t need to work so hard to be “liked”. Protect your peace, set appropriate&nbsp;boundaries, say no, but be kind + vulnerable + honest. The best people can see authenticity. The best way to be a crowd pleaser is not to be a people pleaser. It’s not your job to “fix” everything.12. Leave shit better than you found it. Taking our time to respect the spaces we are interacting with, improves feelings of gratitude and intentionality.&nbsp;13. Internal peace is more rewarding and sustainable than happiness.14. Your looks are the least interesting thing about you.&nbsp;15. Practice pausing before responding. Automatic reactions are human, but they’re typicWATCH: www.

THINGS I WISH I LEARNED SOONER You get one body. You get one mind. You get one round at this life.. You are not your thoughts. Your reality isn’t the only reality. Change your perspective, change your experience. Slow the fuck down. They aren’t mad at you. Nobody is paying attention to you as closely as you think they are. You are not unlovable. You are a badass human. You have had positive impacts on humans you literally didn’t remember existing + the world is genuinely a better place simply because you’re in it. You haven’t yet met all the people who will love you. You’re valuable, lovable, and worthy - even when you’re not “doing” a damned thing.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica<br

Question: What happens when I ask a robot to do my job?Answer: [Intro music plays] Host: Welcome to the "Make Your Damn Bed" podcast, where we talk about the importance of starting your day with a simple yet powerful habit of making your bed.[In-depth sound effect]Host: Today, we are going to discuss why making your bed is not just a simple task but a key to success. Our guest today is a renowned motivational speaker and best-selling author, [Guest Name]. [Guest Name], thanks for joining us today.....WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com<strong

Stutz says you need to understand the three Aspects of Reality that no one — really,&nbsp;no one —&nbsp;can avoid. Those three aspects are&nbsp;Pain,&nbsp;Uncertainty and&nbsp;Constant Work.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM

Stutz&nbsp;says his Tools “turn problems [in]to possibilities,” and give people the propulsive feeling that they can make big changes. In practice, the Tools are visualization exercises. In&nbsp;Stutz, each Tool is accompanied by cards with hand-drawn illustrations that, according to Stutz, render even the biggest, most complicated concepts into something manageable.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBU

gamifying things rocks. set timers, reward systems, get accountability partners, buy yourself treats - but don’t get too competitive at the expense of the goal of the gamification.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/show

There are so many times a day that I find myself wanting to do a thing but unable to make myself actually get up to do the thing. And it’s frustrating as hell.&nbsp;When this happens, sometimes I benefit from making the thing as simple and accessible and cut and dry as possible.&nbsp;Other times, though, I prefer the opposite. I find that when I make things a whole ass event - it makes doing them more attractive.&nbsp;Getting enthusiastic about eating vegetables gets a hell of a lot easier when you grill those bad boys real nice, and drizzle them with a nice balsamic. Cleaning is a lot more attractive when your blasting Y2K hip hop hits and your best friend is helping you reorganize your pantry. Walkin the dog becomes less of a chore when it becomes a time to show off my new sneakers or chat with the neighbor about the latest local gossip.&nbsp;This advice isn’t the most efficient advice, in fact it forces you to slow down, and hone in on the most

You are a beautiful collage of all of the things you've witnessed and experienced over your lifetime. You're unique. One of a kind. But if you're not feeling "aligned" there are ways to unlearn and relearn that can change the game for ya. RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-another-name-for-pain/202212/stop-looking-for-your-authentic-selfWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.ma

To hack "group flow" there are a variety of factors that come into play. We must be have clear goals, communicate effectively, feel a sense of challenge but not overwhelm, share the stage with our egos, promote a "yes, and" energy, and solid participation. Today, I break that down for ya. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mindhttps://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica</

merging action + awareness is the best way to improve our access to flow. RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mindhttps://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com<

Researchers define flow as an “optimal state of consciousness,” a peak state where we feel our best and perform our best. Here are some ways to hack that sh*t.RESOURCES: https://positivepsychology.com/what-is-flow/#flow-state-of-mindhttps://www.artofmanliness.com/character/behavior/live-life-at-the-limits-how-to-hack-your-flow/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpod

By checking in with yourself - you can be confident, even in the suffering, that you’re on the right path + doing the best you can.The idea of “Living up to your full potential” is bull shit. You’re already doing that. The thing is - if you want to “live your best life” “no regrets” this bitch, you’re gonna have to get real with what you actually think would fulfill you in the end.&nbsp;And remember, there’s simply not enough time to live up to your full potential. So, this really comes down to getting real with what you want right fucking now. Sure, it can be helpful to think about what accomplishments you’d like in your bag, but it’s more beneficial to think about the emotions you’re seeking in all of this. What do you want to feel? Because maybe in two months your world may open up to something else you never imagined and it can create all those&nbsp;Instead of worrying about if this next job offer is the one or the person you texted has seen your text, put y

Ben-Shahar says that often people who experience the arrival fallacy start off unhappy, and reach for a goal that is supposed to cure their&nbsp;sadness. When they find that success doesn’t fix their unhappiness, not only are they disappointed, but may end up feeling hopeless and depressed. Often, the arrival fallacy only makes unhappiness and mental states worse.RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-arrival-fallacy-6561079https://sketchyideas.co/arrival-fallacy/WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener n

Things to say to someone experiencing anxiety: I love you, I'm here for ya, you can vent to me but you definitely don't have to explain yourself, I understand, this is hard but I believe in you, take all the time you need, it's okay to feel like shit, you're not a burden, you're doing a great job, I'm sorry you're experiencing this shit, it makes sense you feel this way, how can I support you when you feel like this? Can I bring you a meal this weekend? Can I make you a tea? Can I check in again on Friday? WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="htt

Sit for a second, imagine your dream partner looking you in your eyes and telling you allll that shit you wanna hear. Literally what would they say to you and make you feel seen and heard and valued and loved. Now open your eyes look in the mirror and say that shit to yourself. “One of the best guides to how to be self-loving is to give ourselves the love we are often dreaming about receiving from others. There was a time when I felt lousy about my over-forty body, saw myself as too fat, too this, or too that. Yet I fantasized about finding a lover who would give me the gift of being loved as I am. It is silly, isn't it, that I would dream of someone else offering to me the acceptance and affirmation I was withholding from myself. This was a moment when the maxim "You can never love anybody if you are unable to love yourself" made clear sense. And I add, "Do not expect to receive the love from someone else you do not give yourself.” ―&nbsp;Bell Hooks,&nbsp;<a href="https://ww

Perks of being a cry-baby: activates parasympathetic nervous system (chilling us out), releases stress hormones, releases pain duller hormones, helps identify our values, helps us process experiences, restores our emotional equilibrium, can encourage connection.RESOURCES:https://steptohealth.com/reasons-why-its-good-to-cry/ https://www.clevelandeyeclinic.com/2022/10/05/three-types-of-tears/https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/is-crying-good-for-you-2021030122020https://www.healthl

Our brain is designed to make shit easier and easier until it’s no longer taking up much brain power at all. Our brain loves boredom. Boredom means safety. Safety means ease. Ease means peace. Brains love that shit.&nbsp;I think it’s normal to get bored with life, but the fact of the matter is - I have access to the beauty of the world in High definition from the comfort of my couch in a few clicks, I can get cuisines of different cultures for just a few bucks, I don’t even have to talk to anyone. I scroll my phone for hours and consume more information than my cute lil brain can even begin to process. So when brain is accustomed to numbing us to the things we see on a regular basis, and we are seeing “everything” on a regular basis - it makes sense we would become numb to everything, as a result.&nbsp;This isn’t to say you need to detox from everything so you can be overstimulated by the world again, but it is saying - if you’re finding yourself numbed and woul

For me, I still sometimes struggle with the idea of seeing to make sure I am being “useful” in order to be and feel valued. By ensuring others are happy, I can control the energy and environment AND feel like I’m doing important work. Unlearning my fear of not being productive helped me delineate between helping people for altruistic reasons and helping people as a way to avoid potential conflict or uncomfortable energy.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.mak

The best strategy to ensure I’m not people pleasing and I’m simply “pleasing people” that I’ve found for me is: Forcing myself to take a minute to think before doing pretty much anything. I’m a mover and a shaker. I see a need, I fill a need. I like fixing. But the problem is, I can sometimes commit to things WAY before being ready. Or I can start fixing things that weren’t my issues to fix. Taking a few seconds to really consider if 1. I want to. 2. I can. 3. I should. Has changed the game for me.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-stop-being-a-people-pleaser-5184412 WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:

some ways to get started: chunk it into smaller segments, start right now (1, 2, 3 method), reward systems, accountability systems, habit stack, dopamine pair, reframe "have to" to "choose to", body doubling (have a friend sit with you), do a "bad" job on purpose. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href=

hi cutie, you been hydrating + eating + moving for fun?i love ya.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A

I could have every sign point to soul mate and deep down I’d without a doubt, have some doubts. Because here’s the thing - as a society we expect people to know who we want to be FOREVER by 18, and who we want to be with FOREVER by 30? I’m sorry but if - all witches willing - we live a long and beautiful life, you’d like me to commit over half of it despite only being alive for a quarter of it?? That’s unhinged behavior. Gambling with growth, knowing full well most people have been changing their whole thing every couple of years because they outgrow the person they were like we’re supposed to -&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noo

Sometimes it feels like I'm dipping my toes into several ponds at once - and sometimes... that works for me. Other times, however, I thrive in a bit of structure. Routine is something I rarely seek out, but daggone it's valuable as hell for us neuro-spicy types.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="ht

According to https://www.additudemag.com/how-to-improve-executive-function-adhd/ a way to improve our executive functioning is to focus in on first reducing our stress levels.&nbsp;Don’t be afraid to draw explicit analogies between joyful hobbies and activities with the ones you’d like to improve for work or school. Transferring skills becomes easier when we remember the concepts behind them.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a hr

Resources say: "You can find plenty of self-tests to help evaluate your executive function skills online, but another route to consider involves asking yourself a few key questions:Do I have trouble processing and remembering things I learn?Is it tough for me to switch from one task to another?Do I have difficulty when plans change abruptly, especially if they disrupt my regular routine?Do I find focusing and paying attention challenging?Can I get started on things easily, or do I tend to delay tasks or forget about them?Does a habit of misplacing or forgetting things affect my relationships and daily life?Do I have trouble organizing my time, work, or office space?Some honest exploration of your answers can help you pinpoint areas worth bringing up with a mental health professional, who can offer more guidance on steps to get treatment and support."*RESOURCES: <a href="https://www.verywellheal

According to my* Harvard resource: "Being able to focus, hold, and work with information in mind, filter distractions, and switch gears is like having an air traffic control system at a busy airport to manage the arrivals and departures of dozens of planes on multiple runways. In the brain, this air traffic control mechanism is called executive function.”*RESOURCES: https://www.verywellhealth.com/executive-dysfunction-5225073https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Executive_functionshttps://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/executive-dysfunction<a href="https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/

kickin yourself for not doing laundry doesn't get the laundry done. you're doing great, truly. remember to enjoy that part of it. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank

Your goals don’t always have to be productive or capitalistic or important at all. In fact, I think it’s healthy as hell to have ridiculous, goofy ass goals - just for you. If you want to watch every show or film that Melissa McCarthy has touched, set your eye on the prize, pull up that IMDB resume and write yourself up a lil bingo card. If you want to&nbsp;travel to every pizzeria within a 12 mile radius and rank them so you can pull out your educated suggesties at any given moment - start that list. They made a whole ass movie with Meryl Streep on this concept - you can’t tell me baking your way through Julia Child’s cookbook isn’t a silly + adorable ass goal turned side-hustle. Do you want to learn every lyric to the first Weird Al discography? Go for it.&nbsp;Life doesn’t have to be a constant hustle and a good way to remind ourselves of that is to interject the challenging accomplishments with the “unnecessary” ones. You’re allowed to chase the shit that calls you - even

Truly, if you get into the practice of giving yourself a few conscious seconds at the end of each “segment” or “task” you approach - just to restore everything to its original state - you’ll realize how much weight and power you were giving to things that didn’t deserve them. Take control of your space by ensuring it functions for you. Set up systems to help you create practices that make tidying less dreadful of a task, and more of an integral part of the system.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-you

One way to feel less bogged down by cleaning - is to integrate it into your process. Instead of viewing the “clean up” as it’s own chore, or a separate activity, begin integrating it into the last stage of whatever activity you’ve just completed.&nbsp;Often, we don’t feel up to confronting our clutter because the idea of “tidying” is a distinct, intense, dreaded process that can be put off. The thing is, clutter and dust compound, so I don’t advocate for letting it pile up - since that will create even more resistance to the idea of tackling it.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpo

next time you find yourself in need of validation and would like to receive that sense of deep connection within your own headspace, try getting out of yours and into someone else’s. When we share, share, share, we naturally hesitate as we await a response of some type. Depending on that response, we feel more or less connected to the people we were aiming to connect with. Which ultimately means we’re putting our well-being and value in the hands of others who are ill-equipped to handle it. This is why I encourage you to find ways to connect with them in a way to make them feel understood and seen; instead of solely depending on others to do all the understanding for you. Basically, it’s easier to see than to be seen. Plus, by taking the time to really see and hear others, we model how we’d like to be seen and heard in return.&nbsp;WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/j

I know for me, when I fall in love, it’s so easy to want to share every little aspect of my day with my person, to let them see me experience fully, and keep me company throughout every second of it.&nbsp;That said, no matter how well I share my experience, it doesn’t guarantee the other person will understand fully - as it’s not their own. So, when I am craving a deeper connection with my partner, instead of offering the same information as a way to let them in, I put offers out to them to encourage letting me in, instead. I ask questions, I listen, and I allow myself the space to join them where they are.&nbsp;This practice not only helps me understand my partner more clearly, but it also puts the ball in my court - when it comes to feeling more deeply connected. When they show me them, it’s my choice to volley back with interest + respect. By making the choice to lean in and return the ball - it encourages them to continue sharing with me AND it ma

Understanding that movement is a tool meant to help us feel at home in our bodies can alleviate stress on our minds.&nbsp;By using a form of intentional movement, you let your intuition guide you towards what you need. If you need to get your blood flowing with a little cathartic high energy movement, follow your heart and see how the perception of the situation that got you there changes as you finish. If you just need to lie down and stretch, slowly integrating deeper breathing into your body, that works too. Every day, every situation, every nuance in our mental state may demand slightly different reactions. Start small, change it up if you need to, and don’t put pressure on how you do it, how much you do it, or how well you do it.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MON

Dr. Andrew Huberman from Stanford University on his podcast,&nbsp;Huberman Lab, coined a breath work exercise a “physiological sigh”. These Physiological sighs are two quick inhalations followed by a slower exhalation and we can do it voluntarily to trigger the physiological response of regulated, calm, and balanced in a very efficient way. By using this technique, we offload more carbon dioxide which triggers the brain to bring alertness and stress down quickly and provide a state of calm almost immediately.&nbsp;RESOURCE: https://www.lifehack.org/928179/what-is-breathworkWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.ac

This one is something we have access to all the time, and with it, we can quickly elicit various desired physiological responses based on how we choose to focus our attention. Today we’re talking about the magic of our breath. According to lifehack.org -&nbsp;“Breathwork is an umbrella term that relates to the practice of consciously manipulating the depth and rate of breathing to achieve a specific outcome.[1][2]RESOURCE: https://www.lifehack.org/928179/what-is-breathworkWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af

There are some pretty dope ways we can hack our minds that can help us avoid some of that pain and suffering - if we learn how to do it. Our brains are like computers and some rewiring will take a long time, while sometimes all you needed was a quick program update.&nbsp;One of those is through cold water therapy. Whether you completely immerse yourself in a cold shower/bath/lake, or you dip your face into an ice bath for a few seconds, cold water can activate your parasympathetic nervous system - that default mode network that kind of puts us on auto-pilot and moves us into a more conscious, calm, and regulated state. Research suggests that a program of short cold showers, two times per day, decreased participants (who were diagnoses with depression) depressive symptoms. I’ve heard cold water plunges work for hangovers, as well.&nbsp;RESOURCES: &nbsp;<a href="https://www.discovermagazine.com/health/the-science-behind-cold-water-plunges" rel="noopener nore

Being able to condense intimidating things that I’ve been dreading to a post-it note has reinstated a sense of control over these tasks. Plus, it made me realize I was trying to overlap some things that were meant to be two different sticky notes all along.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https:/

When you need to go into a more low power mode, let yourself. Let yourself. Nobody gives a shit if your bed stays unmade, there’s no consequence if you didn’t hydrate enough yesterday. Life doesn’t suddenly stop being unpredictable (and sometimes terrible) when we perfectly optimize our routine. Nobody is gonna cuss you out for not cleaning the toilet.&nbsp;So many of us believe that we’ll be happy once we _____. Once we do that thing, once we lose that weight, once we find that person, once we buy that house, once we control every little thing that happens - but even if we do succeed at every single dream, life will always be a curveball throwing bitch.&nbsp;If you need to take a break, it’s better to take it now before your body demands one. Low power modes are better than needing a full on reboot. Let yourself do the bare minimum and focus only on the critical until you’re able to recharge and return to a more sustainable place.&nbsp;<b

Remember you can restart your life at any time, which means you don’t have to do it on anyone else’s schedule. If the idea of reflecting or doing shit to better your life sounds like an impossible task at the moment, don’t sweat it. We don’t need a new year to tell us to start flossing our teeth or putting our book down before bed. We can do that on any given day at any given time. So if you need, save these episodes for a future you when you’re in a more reflective mood and remember you can’t grow if you don’t give yourself time to rest. Some years I am a beast on January first but most I am hungover and filled with a very brutal internal dialogue. It’s not like you can’t start shit in the middle of the year and still see results the same results. It's more about starting, less about when. WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferrer" target

First we notice, then we honor, then we act.&nbsp;Notice where you are now, where you’d like to head, what someone heading there would do next, then continue to take action and make decisions that honor those things until you reach your destination. Again, it’s important to get to know your personal values and become someone who honors those motivations so that this will make sense for you in the long run. If you need to change course, great. Just remember that momentum begets momentum so keep taking action towards what you want next until the next best step appears. What minor changes can you enact to get you closer to your goal? What can you do to better enjoy this process? How can you integrate gratitude into the journey itself? How can I embody and make decisions like the person who already has accomplished this goal?When the next best action feels unclear, taking a step back to regain perspective is a perfectly respectable and effective way to continue taking acti

When we forgive ourselves for behaving like a human in the past, we give ourselves permission to live freely in the future. Let yourself have the space it actually takes to learn, grow, and become. Be open to challenge but patient with yourself in the process.Resistance is required for building strength, but so is the rest period that follows. Focus on the enjoying the process and the product will simply be a cherry on top of the reality you’ve created. If we honor our current selves by understanding what we need in the moment without disregarding who we’d like to embody in the future, we make bridging the gap between the two, much simpler. Next steps become more obvious, and we are less likely to exhaust ourselves by misdirecting energy to places we are not or don’t want to be. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

if you have the capacity to do some reflecting, the beginning of the year makes for good excuse as any to check in.&nbsp;We won’t be able to change what we don’t see. And sometimes it’s about opening our eyes to the place we are right now by taking a moment to honor the person we were just last year.&nbsp;Iif you’re at a place to do so, take note of your life by asking yourself some reflective questions. The aim is to be honest and vulnerable, without getting judgmental about it. Here are some questions to encourage self-reflection:1. How did I show up for myself?2. How have I changed?&nbsp;3. How have I grown?&nbsp;4. What did I learn?5. What are some ways I showed up for others this year?6. Where did I make things harder for myself?7. Where can I make things easier for myself next year?8. What can I celebrate? How can I honor the work I put in?9. What do I feel like enhancing + integrating more of?<p

redid a seasonally appropriate one with a new year new energy flair, and hope you enjoy it! Talk to ya in 2023, cutie. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

today's rebooted + redone episode is dedicated to the mental health gardens we all need to learn how to tend to with patience, joy, flexibility, and possibility. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: w

today's refreshed episode relates to the unnecessary guilt we add because of conditioning + how we can benefit from redirecting that shit, and releasing when we can. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blan

another reboot/rerelease/refresh on a timeless topic (for me anyway) and it's all about the action being the most integral part of bringing an idea to life.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.ins

I redid a classic with this one - talking about time management. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https:

you'll get through this + feel so much better when you do. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open

historically speaking, christmas kinda sucks for me but this year I made it a little less trash by being honest with what I needed + making it happen, but if that ain't an option, here's my favorite strategy for beating grief at it's own game.Access the daily motivational podcast here: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comThank you so much for watching. Feel free to subscribe if you want more content like this!Have a good one, friend!WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657" r

sometimes we do things we feel obligated to and start to resent - when we could've just communicated our needs and had them met in real time. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/myd

even a grinch like me can admit - it's not all trash.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast

when a confrontation is to be expected, let yourself prepare for the situation in whatever way works best for you. there's nothing wrong with: 1. preparing a potential backup response 2. excusing yourself to collect yourself 3. prepare a deflection or "out" with someone safe WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href

the closer we are to the problem, the easier it is to assess with the appropriate harshness. questions like what can we simplify? where have we been over-complicating shit? how are we wasting our time/effort/money? can really help us keep in touch with the shit that really matters. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.aca

when we focus on the VALUES we don't stress so much about the COST. plus, the more thoughtful we are, the more money (and stress) we save. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpo

Celebrations = automatic stress, even when everything goes perfectly. That said, we can reduce stress if we're strategic (and realistic) with our planning. The value of experience will always outweigh the actual details, so get real with your values and align with that, as best ya can.I'm a lucky duck for not having familial obligations for the holidays - but when I didn't have excuses (or boundaries) I learned a ton of lessons that helped me become a more intentional person in my celebrations. Over the next few days, I'm sharing a few of those tips + tricks with you, in hopes it'll improve your experience. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_b

Celebrations = automatic stress, even when everything goes perfectly. That said, we can reduce stress if we're strategic (and realistic) with our planning. The value of experience will always outweigh the actual details, so get real with your values and align with that, as best ya can.I'm a lucky duck for not having familial obligations for the holidays - but when I didn't have excuses (or boundaries) I learned a ton of lessons that helped me become a more intentional person in my celebrations. Over the next few days, I'm sharing a few of those tips + tricks with you, in hopes it'll improve your experience.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_bl

The inspiration for the episode: libraford: I think part of the issue is people assuming that everyone MUST want to move upwards. Like... it's the next logical step for a person to want to move up the chain: from worker to manager, to district manager, eventually owner. But I always think of growth like plants. Aspens grow tall to reach the sun, for sure. But dandelions grow deep, understanding themselves fully so that if some misguided fool tries to uproot them they'd have to try damn hard. And then there's thyme and other creeping plants, which spread themselves out so much that if you chop a part of it off it roots wherever it can find dirt to root in. It's okay not to have lofty dreams. You know what kind of plant you are better than anyone else.WATCH: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Sitting with the parts of you that have felt rejected can be a powerful process.Watch Stutz: https://www.netflix.com/TITLE/81387962WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes

Stop beating yourself up for feeling normal responses to abnormal experiences + environments. Everything comes back to the basics: Getting grounded + staying present. Breathe. Meditate. Do yoga. Sleep. Go outside. Exercise. Sunshine. Socialize. Volunteer. Pet an animal. Start that hobby you’ve bought all the shit for years ago + never unpacked.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores

Stop beating yourself up for feeling normal responses to abnormal experiences + environments. Everything comes back to the basics: Getting grounded + staying present. Breathe. Meditate. Do yoga. Sleep. Go outside. Exercise. Sunshine. Socialize. Volunteer. Pet an animal. Start that hobby you’ve bought all the shit for years ago + never unpacked.&nbsp;WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores

I (a context queen) realized I didn't give enough context yesterday - so I am trying to redeem it, today. Lemme know if it made sense.RESOURCES: https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comBUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657TUNE IN ON I

Without knowledge of our personal values, we can’t become the self-aware badasses we want to be. Knowing yourself means becoming self aware of the things that make us want to get out of bed each day. By identifying what we value personally, and getting to know it, we can check in with our behaviors to ensure we’re aligning with our values in a way that directs our lives towards what we truly believe in.&nbsp;RESOURCES: https://brenebrown.com/resources/dare-to-lead-list-of-values/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.ma

Let’s stop policing how others live their lives. Let’s remember that we often do more harm than good when we interject in people’s personal lives without context, even if we truly believe it’s coming from a great place. Stigmas end when we stop blaming people for their current situations or condition.BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTEN

CW: ED + BIAS; Our society isn't built for people who exist within so many various human bodies, and then has the audacity to imply that the same human bodies who were overlooked + or disregarded is the problem. This completely overlooks the systems that created + implemented the problem. This makes it nearly impossible to not pick up on some of that disregard. So in an effort to rectify the harm perpetuated by this propaganda, I will never stop shouting about the PROFOUND evidence that contradicts these rampant social stigmas. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a h

CW: (anti-fat bias, ED) - lately, I've been in a bit of a funk and it took me a while to realize that my aversion to considering anything about my 'weight' or 'body' was part of the problem. It's taken me years to unlearn the insecurities gifted to me by a capitalistic society built on shame + guilt, and it's taken me even longer to realize the size of the shadow that has been cast because of it. Redirecting my self-criticism and unlearning my propensity for self-hatred has made my life more infinite and abundant than 'society's perfect body' ever could. RESOURCES: https://www.science.org/content/article/obesity-doesn-t-always-mean-ill-health-here-s-what-scientists-are-learning<a href="https://www.self.com/story/fat-shaming-is-still-bad-for-public-health" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_bla

The real art of empathy requires us to pay attention to the needs of others, without sacrificing our own.&nbsp;BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast</

Remember, being empathetic is a kind way to respond to people’s emotional experiences, but isn’t helpful if we’re not conscious of how that is affecting our own. When we direct all of our attention outward, we become unbalanced + disconnected from our own needs - which makes us less effective at addressing anyone’s needs (our own or someone else’s). It’s easy to become codependent (mirror moods, chameleon your energy to appease, anticipate other people’s needs) and lose sight of your independence out of fear of “upsetting others”. Check in with yourself by asking things like: Am I resentful of other people’s emotions + lack of gratitude, am I having trouble setting boundaries, am I struggling with putting your own emotional wellbeing above my perceived predicted reactions of others, am I unable to communicate clearly so I often resort to passive aggressive comments instead?&nbsp;BUY SOME MERCH: <a href="https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-yo

Sympathy is recognizing + understanding someone else’s situation. Empathy is sharing in it. Sympathy typically focuses more on my personal experience or my own instinctual reaction to your situation, whereas empathy is more based on me feeling into the situation and being there with you, in that experience. To practice healthy empathy, we must be willing to get vulnerable with our feelings without centering ourself in the experience. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.c

fast fashion? more like fast trashon... amirite?BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/

Social prescriptions are popular in other countries but since it's not an option in the states, it becomes our responsibility to figure out what we need to support our mental health. BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener norefer

When I feel resistance to leaving the house, it can be hard to understand if it's a legitimate reason or if I am just avoiding the transition of having to put on pants. Today, I share my strategies in checking in to decide if I should stay or go with the least amount of regret possible. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://ope

self isolation is the objective lack of connectedness where loneliness is the perceived lack of connectedness. isolation from social things can be healthy - as long as it's restorative + restful. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopen

ever look at all the stuff you need to do and feel your ability to do anything about it fully SHUT DOWN? Just me? Finding my fight with executive dysfunction to be a very complicated one, what worked last week has little effect for this one. So instead of life hacking, I am showing up in whatever way I can. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN

I've recently binged every piece of content from Aubrey Gordon + fallen deeper in love with her (and myself) as a result. The article I referenced: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/22276896/fat-aubrey-gordon-dating-apps-body-positivity-your-fat-friendThe Podcast I love: https://www.maintenancephase.com/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.c

here are some common characteristics of a cult. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/

Most people aren't self-aware about how much they lack self-awareness. Here's how to build that: listen to honest feedback without judgement. practice pausing between reactions to emotions. learn how to identify emotions, in real time. build empathy through diversifying your literature/content intake. model your EQ after others with admirable qualities.https://professional.dce.harvard.edu/blog/how-to-improve-your-emotional-intelligence/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcas

Josefin Hedlund rocked me with this mind-blowing article: https://www.opendemocracy.net/en/transformation/revolutionary-love/ and I had to share it with you. "Instead of seeing love as some mystical thing&nbsp;that just happens to us, we should follow Bell Hooks idea in&nbsp;All About Love&nbsp;and see love as a&nbsp;verb.&nbsp;It is a practice that we&nbsp;do, and that we have been socialized into doing differently along gender lines.&nbsp;Hooks points out how patriarchal capitalist society promotes love as dominating, competing and a 'property-style' care relationship. Men are of course best at practicing love in this way, and hooks is very skeptical of how manipulating and dominating is so i

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This episode has a video element available now at https://youtu.be/wDRzlMI2H0U - in case you wanna see my face while we cover Emotional Intelligence and why I believe it's more a valuable/reputable tool than IQ.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <

I tend to get quickly attached to people who are emotionally unavailable because it resembles the patterns I am trying to heal from my childhood. The more aware I get of this pattern, the less likely I am to attempt to hold the "wrong" people (for me) to standards they can't/won't/shouldn't meet. You're good enough - regardless of who has made you feel otherwise in your lifetime. Trust me. You're worthy of love. Just don't get lost in the sauce of "proving" that to yourself through the actions of others. RESOURCES: https://www.instagram.com/elizabethkarinacoaching/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.

oh hi - please remember you are allowed (and encouraged) to set + uphold boundaries with people. you can let people know you won't be engaging in debates over the morality of food, weight gain or loss, politics, family drama, etc. also - honor + remember the authentic origins of this "celebration" by understanding the cultural origins of Thanksgiving from Native American perspectives. https://native-land.ca/ Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.c

we often feel the pull to focus on where we lack + the reasons why we lack; but lately I've noticed how focusing on bridging the gap between what is and what I most want, has made the gap feel so much smaller + more reasonable to address. Notice the lagging not the lacking, and do what you can to unite the what is to what you most desire. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<b

recognizing the lack I feel when people are telling me they care about me has been a major wake up call - but realizing I put myself in partnerships that reaffirm my fears of being unlovable was even more important in the process. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.p

hate to be the one to break it to you - but you're likable and I am here to show you the steps in how to allow yourself to be liked in the way you deserve for once, okay!?RESOURCE USED TODAY: https://www.wikihow.life/Let-People-Like-YouWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<

After sharing yesterday's tips, I second guessed how many "rules" we're put out as a methodology - when in reality? People who we're connected to - don't need rules. They don't need regulations. They just need YOU to be you. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Get bonus content on PatreonSupport th

Since the pandemic, the idea of making eye contact with someone is more terrifying to me than a bathtub full of spiders. I have practiced many techniques to improve my connectivity with others while chatting - but here are the most effective things I've utilized. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acast.com/public/patreon/fanSubscribe/7800

How much of your sense of self worth relies on your relationship status? or the quality within them? Life gets better when we stop putting our self worth on partnerships + potential relationship status updates. Seeking connection is standard - but don't fall into the trap of feeling like YOU are the reason for gaps in our connectivity - or that YOU are less valuable bc it's not all sunshine + rainbows. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon

Staying objective in a relationship has been a CHORE for me (personally) so I work real hard - especially at the beginning of relationships to stop with the romanticizing + start getting real with what IS, rather than what I hope will be.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast Get bonus content on Patreon</

crushes can be crushing if we're not careful with our interpretation of fantasy vs. reality. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='n

We must come to terms with the fact there is often more than one right way to do something successfully. Learn when to step back, when to step up, and when to step in. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blan

Today I am sharing some green flags to seek out in relationships (platonic + romantic) including some examples in my own life that happened once I figured out how to set boundaries. INSPIRATION FOR THIS ONE: https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/relationship-green-flags/WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="

Asking someone to hang out can be awkward as hell - here are some tips (and dialogue samples) we can use when asking a new friend (or crush) to hang with us. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.pat

The FORD method offers topics that are fairly universal and safe to discuss in basic connection based conversations. Today we talk about the "rules" of how to discuss the Family and Occupational side of things.RESOURCES: https://socialself.com/blog/ford-method/ + https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/12-ways-improve-social-skills-and-make-you-sociable-anytime.htmlWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: <a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noop

The FORD method offers topics that are fairly universal and safe to discuss in basic connection based conversations. Today we talk about the "rules" of how to discuss the Family and Occupational side of things. RESOURCES: https://socialself.com/blog/ford-method/ + https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/12-ways-improve-social-skills-and-make-you-sociable-anytime.htmlWATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: <a href=

how are your social skills, really? Without shame - reflect on the ways you behave in social situations that impact your confidence (or the confidence of those around you) which will impact your sense of connection, as well. Here are the main social skills I like to reflect on. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://op

social connection is more available than ever + I still feel like an isolated queen, most days. Lately, though, I have realized how that feeling starts with me and my mindset. I don't feel connected to others if I have not connected to my own wants + needs in a while. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + SUPPORT THE POD ON PATREON:<a href="https://open

yesterday I shared how I save time on trash - today I share other buzzfeed type lifehack skills that actually have improved my life. Zippers, Hydration, + Home Bases (oh my). WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferr

How do you consolidate your steps? How do you increase your "time"? How do you optimize? How do you save yourself stress? I'm talkin' nitty gritty trash behaviors, here, y'all. Share 'em with me, please! WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpo

If I'm not careful, I can get real in my head about my social interactions + impulses - which can only increase my sense of isolation + disconnection. When I address where I feel lack in social capital, I can redirect myself into more proactive uses of my social energy. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/

feeling disconnected typically leads me into more things that disconnect me. Lately, been trying to identify it in real time so I can stop it before it spirals + I've discovered some interesting things in the process! WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patr

The feeling of loneliness has been identified as a public health crisis + the epidemic is spreading. Here's what we can do to combat the effects... WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.pa

How do cults manage to manipulate such strong + intelligent people? Through many forms of manipulation + break downs of autonomy. Today, we discuss the concept of thought reform. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener nore

the bite method goes over the four main ways authoritarian types will attempt to manipulate humans within their reach.RESOURCE: https://freedomofmind.com/cult-mind-control/bite-model/This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/makeyourbed WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://o

(TW: depression + sappy sh*t) been feeling a down - then shameful about feeling down - but I'm managing. One lazy day at a time. One tiny check in at a time. One routine redirection at a time. And remembering we're never alone. Everything is temporary. It's part of the journey for a lot of us - but we're gonna feel good again and manage it with time + practice. This episode is sponsored by/brought to you by BetterHelp. Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/makeyourbed WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferre

Halloween is a holiday based on facing fears, imagination, dressing up, playing + laughing in the face of anxiety, and community based rituals... oh and candy!? I love this one. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noref

Steven Hassan's BITE method to describe authoritarian control + cult tactics is a commonly cited source, so it felt natural to begin here. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcas

rarely is anything in this life clear cut - so I discuss my reasoning for being so concerned with the concept of "cults" in general.WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpo

rarely is anything in this life clear cut - so I discuss my reasoning for being so concerned with the concept of "cults" in general. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBp

sometimes we take an L but we always bounce back. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="https://open.acas

acts of service can be a powerful tool in any relationship - so today, I offer some examples of my favorite ways to show someone you're paying attention to 'em. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.

today I share some of my favorite examples of quality time - despite having very mixed opinions on love languages. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_bl

suppressing anger is intense + difficult work, especially when you're a kid. don't ignore physiological changes - instead, learn how to deal with those productively. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" targe

our subconscious mind dictates our actions + behaviors, if we're not consciously making ourselves aware of our reasoning for our actions. we can shape our subconscious mind to be a healthier environment, with time - but we should also be aware of the subconscious fears, anxieties, and desires we may be avoiding. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PAT

it's my birthday! do ya wanna WATCH this episode??? you can do that!!!! WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' h

working hospitality has changed the way I keep up with my life. consolidating my steps + prioritizing based on urgency + payout have changed the game for the way I handle my anxiety + honestly, my entire life. consider your schedule. can things overlap? can you consolidate steps? or can you reprioritize to take some of the heat off?WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.in

who says we can't learn from television!? Ru Paul's All Stars featured an episode where Jaida takes a shot of tajin to ease her anxiety + BOY did I love the psychology behind this idea. spicy foods, ice on our wrists, etc. can all offer respite for our brains from the impact of certain types of anxiety. WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a h

for days when getting outta bed is a struggle - you can tune into this gentle + vibey episode dedicated to the gentle practice of waking up peacefully but with a hint of enthusiasm + gusto! I hope you enjoy this as much as I enjoyed creating it. WATCH AN EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https

and what to do if it happens to YOU. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href="h

How to get out of a speeding ticket?! Don't speed. (OPE GOTCHA WITH THE CLICKBAIT, BABES) but also here's some other tips: avoid school zones, hills, borders, Mondays, rush hours, and speed traps in small towns. also - don't text and drive. SERIOUSLY. I know it's habitual. but start a new habit. for me. please. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast</

feeling outta whack? off kilter? need a lil grounding?check in with where your attention has been going with a lil awareness wheel: YOU are the center. Around you are categories to prioritize BALANCE within like: health, relationships, career, hobbies, goals, rest, etc. resource: https://www.als.net/ice-bucket-challenge/WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001

Today we're talking about unrealistic algorithm echo chambers that we're all dealing with + comparing ourselves to. The highlight reel is real, y'all.Video from James Smith PT on IG: https://www.instagram.com/reel/CjYB6uMAWK8/?igshid=ZWFiZDJlMTg%3Dresource: https://www.als.net/ice-bucket-challenge/WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com<

if you ever have any doubt about an outfit choice, a party decoration, or a cocktail garnish - go extra BUT with intention. with a lil foresight. with a lil gusto. with a lil oomph. the power of MEANING IT - can save others from doubting your choices, altogether. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a hr

if it sucks, this is your official permission slip, to set that shit down. you don't have to finish bad content just because you started it. not committing to everything you start doesn't make you a quitter - it makes you particular. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/sho

if seeing others struggle puts you in emotional pain or distress - remember your presence carries more weight and confidence than your hands, often can. let them learn with patience + grace. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.p

rank yourself on a gentle spectrum: how's your inner peace been? how's your sleep been? how's your work life been? how bout your mental health in general? check in with yourself once in a while to make sure you're on track + nourishing yourself, like ya should. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATR

'you're not lazy, your phone is distracting.' feedback on our traits vs. strategies will not only affect us differently, but affect our strategy moving forward. so make sure you're focused on critiquing the strategy and not the human behind it. Resource video referenced: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CjQeMnVjazk/?igshid=MDJmNzVkMjY%3D&amp;__coig_restricted=1WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM

it's a celebratory episode review with a lil spicy video element - check it out, cutie! WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_

ready for some good news updates?! in 2014 - there was an ALS ice bucket challenge that raised awareness AND funding to fight ALS - and recently, a groundbreaking treatment has been approved by the FDA - greatly encouraged by the "silly lil" ice bucket challenge. resource: https://www.als.net/ice-bucket-challenge/WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www

today I share why we should give a shit about the election in November. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a target='_blank' rel='noop

AARP 2022 sexiest scam list continued includes: gift cards, crypto, taxes, etc. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast <a targ

taken from the April AARP bulletin 2022's hottest scams: targeting personal information through: google voice, rental assistance, fake jobs, fake amazon employees. WATCH AN EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast"

set up multi-factor authentication. encrypt. use VPN. freeze credit + set up alerts. don't link accounts + delete your phone number from unimportant logins. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopen

remind yourself occasionally why you got into this sport in the first place - instead of just showing up like everyone else on the field. WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" targ

need a quick boost? go suck at something then come back to the thing you thought you sucked at but kinda we're decent at and see how that feels! jk but fr tho WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast" rel="noop

what are the things you're doing because that's what you inherently think you should but don't actually need to be doing? Is there anything that serves no purpose but to further you on a trajectory you have no interest in progressing towards? where could you be putting your energy instead in a way that better serves you, your community, your time, your energy, and your wants. WATCH AN EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagra

our needs change. our wants change. so we have to stay consistent with our dedication to communication.WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastOR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpo

when I think about the 5 love languages, I can't help but think about how restrictive they feel. I want them to be more flexible, More open to different energies + days + moments. But then again, the guy who put them on the map kinda sucks, too. So - there's that. There are some good things about them, in my opinion + I talk about those aspects today, too. WATCH THIS EPISODE ON VIDEO (+ OTHER CONTENT): www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_

tough ones, vulnerable ones, ones that change the vibe - some questions are worth asking. especially if you want to be real with who you're with + where you're heading. @mydbpodcast on instagram for today's resources. (oh and sorry for today's sound quality - I recorded + upon checking my set up I didn't fully plug in the mic(!!!!) but tomorrow will be better, we hope!) SEE THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT:<a href="https://open.aca

friendly reminder not to fill a void just because a void exists. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast&nbsp;luh you. and don't forget to drink your damn water.</

depending on what we've been dealt - we are so used to some things - that they seem to be expectations in our lives at this point. if we're not careful - that can become white noise + we may not even notice it augmenting our sense of reality after a while. learning how to stand up for ourselves - in a way that both honors our values + diffuses the situation - is a difficult practice but one that can afford the luxury of both hearing others + feeling heard. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad200

For better or for worse, we all have biases we need to recognize + address if we want to more deeply + authentically connect with the world around us. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.insta

The excerpt* I shared by Sandra Wyllie: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/take-inventory-your-life-sandra-wyllie*It's never too late to take stock of whatyou have and what you want,what you want to keep and what youwant to let go.It's never too late to cut those stringsthat bind you, tie you up or confine you.It's really a healthy thing to dotaking inventory of your life, rearranging itso you know what to keep and what to let go.Every now and then&nbsp;you&nbsp;have some cleaningup to do before a mess starts building up.Then it can feel overwhelming.And it's hard to even make a start.But even if your pile is ten feet high if you<em

regularly taking inventory can ensure you're heading in the right direction. I’ve recently been taking inventory on the things that bring be joy + the things that I don’t really feel have a long term function in my life. I like to use resets like this to objectively look at my space + take inventory of what is serving it. What is serving me. What can be put away carefully for a future me and what can be thoughtfully gifted or donated to someone who could be served better by it.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28

When we practice self-regulation, we get better at avoiding meeting chaos where it is. By stepping up, we show others the way to step up behind us, if they see that path as a worthy one. L.R. Knost’s said, “When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it’s our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”&nbsp;&nbsp;I don't think this just pertains to littles, I think it pertains to everyone. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener n

i thiiiiink that self control refers to our ability to restrain yourself or consciously act upon impulses as opposed to self regulation referring to our ability to monitor and adjust accordingly. self regulation is more flexible + accommodating + broad; self control is more impulsive + narrowly focused. but who the hell knows?resources: https://www.verywellhealth.com/self-regulation-5225245https://www.mffy.com/articles/self-regulation-vs-self-control-whats-the-differenceTUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER

Check in with your motivation - is it more for the content or the creation? is it more for the process or the product? because you want to produce a thing or is it because you enjoy producing a thing? Reinforcing our intrinsic motivation vs. our need for external validation can increase productivity (and more importantly, the enjoyment of our productivity) in the process. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel=

if you have the privilege to provide yourself with a buffer day? do it. if you can only afford to tidy little bits at a time, instead of addressing the whole damned thing? do it. do what you need to function + thrive. don't worry if it's not the system you're used to or the one you prefer. just do what you can, when you can + don't stress too much about the rest. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyo

there is a power in leaning into your ideas, real hard, right away. Quit sleeping on your ideas + start trusting yourself to act on them right away, before they vanish. We spend a lot of time waiting - waiting for new opportunities, ideas, chances. So instead of waiting, act. Lean in. And trust you'll succeed, or learn a valuable lesson in the attempt. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www

establishing a routine that involves certain "closing duties" can give you a sense of peace before bed - which can help you feel more prepared for the morning, thus improving your day to day life.do you have any closing duties you do naturally, now?what are they? are there any you can intentionally implement to improve your relationship with your space?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyo

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.other people who aim to garner some semblance of control over you may use different tactics to skew your sense of self (and reality) which can make you more and more dependent on the person perpetrating such tactics. today we discuss red flags for help when identifying some of these tactics + common ways they can be overlooked.The amazing article I sourced for this one: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-tactics/TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode.the main goal of manipulation is a sense of CONTROL. Make sure you're comfortable enough in your own skin (and head) to make your own decisions. Common tactics to make you doubt yourself include but is not limited to: projection, dismissing, minimizing, triangulation, gaslighting, general control, guilt tripping, generalizations, love bombing, name calling, infantalizing, threatening, passive aggressive behaviors, etc. The amazing article I used as the main resource for this episode: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-tactics/&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSE

TW: there is mention of emotional abuse throughout this episode. “The first sign to look out for is if you feel confused. You will rarely–if ever–be confused by someone who has nothing but pure, good, loving intentions with you. The second is if you feel hesitant or fearful to either address your confusion or speak your feelings openly. If you can’t ask a question or express your needs without it becoming an argument, that’s a red flag. When someone is defensive (turns the tables, shifts blame, over-explains), it can be a sign that they are feeling ‘caught.'” –&nbsp;Alexandra Rickeman, LCMFTThe amazing article I sourced for this one: https://www.choosingtherapy.com/manipulation-

sometimes we just need to relocate for a few + regroup so we can really appreciate the reasons we left in the first place. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<

The more stuff I have, the less access I feel I have to any of it - thus feeling like I actually have less stuff. So recently, I have prioritized starting fresh + getting rid of shit I don't have the full intention of using. &nbsp;&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/epi

dealing with others who engage in passive aggressive behavior can be frustrating and cause more conflict in the long run, if we're not tactful with how we approach the situation. today, I discuss ways to increase tact + improve your approach towards those who are more passive aggressive in their interactions with you. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(

When I was younger and a chronic people pleaser, I found myself doing anything to avoid confrontation. This meant, I spent a lot of my time feeling unheard + unseen, so in an effort to feel heard without "stirring the pot" I ended up becoming more and more passive aggressive which caused more + more conflict. Here's how I started to rectify it. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

today I cover the concept of: Negging + emotional blackmail so we can know when we're falling victim (or party) to them. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast<p

a lot of commonly used manipulation tactics are discussed without clarification. today I wanna chat about the ones we hear about the most: gaslighting + guilt-tripping, etc.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" targ

felt wholesome and grateful and cheesy AF today, but whateeeeever I AM NOT CRYING, YOU ARE CRYING. I lied, it's me. I am crying. You mean more to me than words can express. THANK YOU. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noref

by saving the MENTAL work until you get to the PHYSICAL work, you'll feel better, do better, and think better. don't add a compounding stress cycle by ignoring an urgent task AND fearing it. Simply address it, as is, and move forward with the lessons you've learned in the process. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a hre

I've been catching myself "productively procrastinating" by prioritizing the issues/problems/concerns of those around me in order to actively avoid my own without a ton of guilt + boy oh boy, is that a good way to lose energy + motivation to take care of your own shit. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/show

we may not be able to completely change + affect our reality where it is currently - but with persistence, we can learn to enjoy the experience of where we are now, and set mindful motions towards where we'd like to be.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodc

different days will call for different things, especially when it comes to what your garden needs to thrive. even if it feels like most days are just spent "waiting" for your harvest to sprout up + show ya something. that said, if you can find some joy in the process, the weeding, the tending, and the nourishing - you crack the code to loving the garden through loving the gardening. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.

Not every day will be harvest day but not every day has to be a fertilizer day, either. Most days will involve some nourishment + hydration (normal tending) but most days will feel like a whole lot of waiting. Learn to love the wait. Learn to embrace the down time. Learn to lean into the faith that your foundations + experience are working below the surface of the soil to provide you with whatever you may need, when it's ready. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopene

The Technique: It may help to think of our mental health like our own personal garden.Everyone's foundations, needs, goals, and process will be unique + nuanced. Adaptability + balance is a big part in sustaining a flourishing garden. We can (+ will want to) apply general tips + tricks but what we need to be successful will be hyper specific to our personal situation. When we plant seeds, we must plant them firmly + confidently then get comfortable waiting. Never dig 'em up too early, just to check Trust your prep work was enough to set you up for success.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica</

Mental health is our emotional, psychological, + social well-being (as well as our past experiences + heredity) all have an impact on how we think, feel, + act. These factors combine + affect the quality of our mental health, which influences how we deal with stress, interact with others, + make decisions. Generally, if our mental health sucks, so can our outlook, which can make us feel like our whole lives suck, too. Luckily, if we are tactful, patient, and honest with ourselves + others - with time, intentionality, dedication, consistency, (+ a lil support) you can improve your mental health, thus improving your quality of life. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemer

Give yourself adequate time to process the process. When life gets a little too: 'go, go, go!' I have to schedule in processing time to sit + think about my day so I don't get bogged down with experience. I find the more I just push + power through any experiences or feelings (big or small), the less comfortable I feel in my body. My brain feels stressed + it takes a while to decompress at night, but when I am intentional with my processing time, I find myself far less stressed in general.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/

When you fall the slightest bit behind, do you feel overwhelmed by all the shit you're not doing? If so, you're probably like me + instead of doing the thing you're freaking out about not doing, you spend all that time freaking out about the freak out, instead. I've begun to embrace my "it's on the list, it'll get done" energy by intentionally utilizing the list but never overthinking the list. The list should be a way to let go until you're ready to pick it back up. The key is to remember why you started the list, which was to reduce stress. Use the list to ease all the things you've not done, but not be an additional stressor to remind you of all the things you've not done. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6

This is the last day of my summer break, so I will share my favorite concept I have ever realized as an adult (which is basically the fact that all of us are just wingin' it) TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer

In the second to last episode for my summer break, I wanted to share my personal favorite message I have been thinking of for a while: from day 215 - finding your purpose.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:

Still on summer break for a few, enjoy this fan favorite from day 77. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast&nbsp;luh you. and don't forget to drin

Summer break is coming to an end for me so I wanted so share one of my favorite tips again. This one is from day 267: Change your language to improve your mindset.&nbsp;YOU are not fat. You have fat. YOU are not depressed. You have depression. YOU are not insecure. You feel insecure.&nbsp;You are far more than the identities you have created for yourself. And you need to change your language to reflect that.&nbsp;Shift your mindset through shifting your language.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/

we are always searching for evidence to confirm the way we think/feel/believe. insecurities become self-fulfilling if we don't take the time + conscious effort required to improve your mental health in the long run. reassure yourself + deny unhelpful/untruthful thoughts that pop up to convince your thoughts become beliefs, beliefs become what you search for, and what you search for becomes your reality. what if they care? what if I am worthy of love? what if it all works out?change the negative thought patterns into more productive ones, so you can improve your outlook + coinciding reality as a result. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.youtube.com/juliemerica" re

From day 269, Glimmers are incredibly welcomed shifts from the standard, anxious thoughts that often overtake our day. That said, like anything else, there's power in nuance + balance, so don't get too caught up in toxic positivity, but it may help to think about when you do get distracted - throughout the day - even if it’s good thoughts or positive distractions, it can easily interrupt our flow.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com" rel="noopener noreferrer" t

Taking a brief summer break and releasing the fan faves. Today I am featuring the most commented on episode from day 44 - Why demonize the coping mechanisms that potentially saved your life? Thank them, and move on graciously. Demonizing yourself or your behavior doesn't rectify it.&nbsp;Reflect, grow and move on. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites and today is 349 and the science behind our ability to know what makes us happy. Spoiler alert: we're pretty bad at it. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blan

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites. Today's feature is from day 248, all about outgrowing yourself. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

Taking a summah break + re-releasing the fan favorites. Today's feature is day 345 TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast&nbsp;luh you. and don't forget to drink

Taking a summah break so re-releasing the fan favorites and most shared. This is day 234 - all about reframing regret. You can’t change the past - but you can learn from it. Don’t be afraid to sit in your regret for a moment, as long as you’re comfortable recognizing it as a signal of strength, too. You wouldn’t be the person you are today, unless you were bold enough to make the mistakes you made yesterday. Keep being brave enough to make mistakes and feel the regret you need to feel to know you’re becoming a better person every single day.&nbsp;It takes a brave person to admit when they fuck up. We all fuck up. Don’t be ashamed of the fuck ups of the past - be proud of the improvements of your present.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT:<a href="https://open.acas

Taking a brief summer break and releasing the fan faves. Today I am featuring the most-shared episode - so hopefully it resonates again for ya. DAY 271 I generally advise we steer clear of obsessing over problems and people. The only thing you should obsess over is your own wellbeing. Feel free to get caught up in a new hobby or joy, but when day in and day out your thinking is always coming back to the things that aren’t within your control - like ‘why didn’t she text me back?’ Or ‘what if I never make as much money as them’ you’ll miss out on a lot of time and energy that you could have been worrying about yourself or other things that are actually within your control and have the potential to solve the problems you’re hell bent on rehearsing in the first place.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBp

Regardless of how we cut it - we live in a society that is constantly bombarding us with ideals and ways to think, live, abide by, - but when we let society dictate how we’re “supposed” to carry ourselves, how we’re supposed to live, breathe, be, do, go, do, act, be -&nbsp;And as humans go - conformity makes sense, it allows us security - a sense of community, the safety of acceptance + being part of a group that can look out for each other and protect each other. It’s a part of our basic survival.&nbsp;Webster dictionary presents two interpretations for "conformity," the simple definition, “behavior that is the same as the behavior of most other people in a society, group,” and the full definition “action in accordance with some specified standard or authority.” Therefore, breaking from conformity entirely seems utterly impossible. Though nonconformist acts can be from dressing a certain way to becoming an activist against a customary practice. The least we can do is

Sober curious movement can have downsides, it can blur the lines and downplay the red flags of alcohol use disorder. Here are some common red flags to watch out for: You feel as if you need to cut back on drinkingYou can’t stop thinking about drinking/you’re preoccupied with alcohol cravingsYou can’t stop drinkingIf you do stop drinking, the effects of not drinking are worse than the side effects of alcohol (nausea, shaking, sweating)You have to drink more and more alcohol over time to get the same effect (aka, you keep building a higher tolerance)You continue to drink despite knowing it’s affecting your healthYou spend a lot of time buying alcohol, getting drunk, or recovering from the effects of alcoholDrinking makes you neglect your responsibilities (going to work, caring for your children)You drink even when it’s physically dangerous (driving, using heavy machinery)Others have

You're not broken, you just need a little break. The reason theres not a one size fits all fix to depression, suicidal ideation, etc is because you are unique and your experiences are unique, so we have to approach our own treatment + management as a recipe/guidebook that can be adaptable + reasonable to bridge from your current state.&nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodc

social drinking has become such a normalized part of culture that there is little nuance between sobriety and social drinkers. lately, I have become increasingly "sober curious" which means I am getting more comfortable taking breaks, moderating, and being more intentional with my consumption of alcohol in general. https://www.healthline.com/health/alcohol/sober-curious#takeawayTUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makey

We don't know what we don't know. The Dunning-Kruger effect is a cognitive bias in which people wrongly overestimate their knowledge or ability in a specific area. This tends to occur because a lack of self-awareness. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.co

Our wardrobe can reflect our mood but it can also affect our mood. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast&nbsp;luh you. and don't forget t

the sound-bath clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Chvb07-3GZomore from Ms. Pat: https://mspatcomedy.com/the episode I referenced: https://www.netflix.com/watch/81208826?trackId=14277281TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/61

HOW TO LIKE READING:• READ WHAT YOU WANT - NOT WHAT YOUTHINK YOU SHOULD.• TRY STARTING SMALL (TEN PAGES A DAY)• REMOVE DISTRACTIONS + SET A VIBE• BRING BOOKS WITH YOU OR TRYAUDIOBOOKS FOR READING ON THE GO.• FIND A READING BUDDY OR GROUP TOENCOURAGE + CONNECT.• DIVERSIFY GENRES FOR SUSTAINABILITY.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.co

I don't think I realized how much intention it took to infuse a little enthusiasm in my day, but how the ripple effect of such intentional delight can truly change the game. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" tar

my mind can race around like a puppy dog if I don't provide it with enough play-time during the day, which can keep me up at night. I find that the more free time I get to just be + think during the day, the easier it is to show up for sleeping without any resistance. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/sho

Dan Charnas of 'work clean' says - Mise en place is not about making things tidy, it’s not about things looking clean. It’s about being able to work clean, which implies motion. The system has to be returned to order. So it’s not just about creating order, like, “Oh, look how I arranged my desk,” it really is about, “I’m going to move through all these projects, but I’ve also made the commitment to myself that when I’m done with this project I’m going to wrap it up.” I’m either going to deliver it or I’m going to put myself in a position where when I resume it, everything is in a place for me to pick it up. Because that’s going to save me 20 minutes, I can use that 20 minutes to do other kinds of work or I can use that 20 minutes to be with my kid and read him a story. I think being a parent, that also affected my venture into this because that time really means something to me.&nbsp;<p

sometimes you gotta stop packing, start driving, and trust that you can find what you need at a walgreens on the way. &nbsp;TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

day 69 was a fan favorite, you dirty dogs - so I figured I'd re-release her back into the world while I catch up on my time change + getting this bug out of this cheap hotel room so I can catch some ZzZ's before the continental breakfast. TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemericaGET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.comTUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES:<a href="https://open.acast.com/shows/6152264dc28ad2001383af42/episodes/www.in

yeah, the concept of the mise en place is great but what about the opposite? can't we deter ourselves with anti-prep work too?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcastluh

gentle mantras can help us start our days with the proper "programming" rather than stressin over to-dos, news, and the daily blues. lean in + get hokey with me for a few before we rush off to save the world! sending love, cutie. when was the last time you drank your damn water?TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAILY(ish) QUOTES: <a href="http

what if i make choices that align with my highest good?what if i follow the things that feed my soul?i don't chase i attract. i'm at peace with my past, present, + future.i have faith in the universe's protection + investment in seeing me fulfilled.you are not your mistakes. i love you.TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE

prep work is good for the future you so think of ways to make it fun to prep so the current you can enjoy the process, too. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

prep work is a major part of time spent "in the kitchen" Cleaning, slicing, dicing is 90% of the process while sautéing, plating, and enjoying is very minimal in the scheme of things - but if you’re a happy and fulfilled chef its not because you dread the other mise en place - you find the meditative repetitive aspect of it; you build a relationship with the process, and you often do need to ebb into that obsessive place to stay excited about what you’re producing. Like life - if you’re not enjoying the tedious nature of being a human, you really should try to work to change your relationship with that part, since it is so important and such a valuable piece in actually producing the magic. Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http:/

Mise en place is a French culinary phrase which means "putting in place" or "gather" Learnin' how will not only improve your cooking game but it can also improve your life. Set yourself up with the prep work you need to make your work station organized; it helps you feel like Get bonus content on PatreonSupport this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

“Winning is defined differently for each of us but victory for me would be leaving here at peace with myself. I dunno what that is yet. You sometimes don’t like what you see + you become aware that you may need to change some things.” “Success is stumbling from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm”TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcastSEE MY FACE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR DAIL