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Lesbian Chronicles: Coming Out Later in Life

English, Social, 1 season, 261 episodes, 3 hours, 43 minutes
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Lesbian Chronicles is a podcast for people who’ve realized their true sexual identity later in life. Alli and Melisa share their own experiences of leaving their heterosexual marriages to be their true selves in an effort to help others find their own way and feel a little less alone in the process.
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Episode 257: Broken Hearts Club

Alli shares a life update -- and we discuss the importance of healing from heartbreak. 
7/14/202442 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 256: Meet KT from Stonewall Sports

Our friend KT joins the show to talk about how she got involved with Stonewall Sports and went on to become the National Director of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion for Stonewall Sports, Inc. KT also shares her very "But I'm a Cheerleader" coming out story!Learn more about Stonewall SportsJoin the QueenDom Athletix on InstagramMeet KT
7/7/202434 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 255: Meet Danie The Sexologist

This week we chat with Danie, a Sapphic Sexologist living in Denver, Colorado. We discuss how shame and guilt from a religous upbringing can continue to live in your body -- and bust the myth of lesbian bed death. To learn more about Danie's work visit her website at sapphicsexologist.com
6/30/202438 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 254: Using Alcohol to Numb

Our friend Ally joins Melisa and Alli to talk about how alcohol is often used as a coping mechanism and tools to get your life back on track. Books mentioned in this episode include: This Naked Mind, We Are The Luckiest, Easy Way to Control Alcohol, and Sober Curious
6/23/202456 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 253: More Unsolicited Advice

Alli and Melisa take on more unsolicited advice -- offering opinions on if she should tell a date it's your first time kissing another woman to if you should be friends with an ex. 
6/16/202436 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 252: Unsolicited Advice with Christine

Our friend Christine joins the pod to answer listener questions and give our very unprofessional opinions!
6/9/202443 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 251: Date Like A Grown Up

Happy Pride! This week, Melisa and Alli elaborate on some dating icks -- and the biggest ick of them all, not being a grown up and avoiding tough conversations! 
6/2/202429 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 250: Dating Icks

Alli and Melisa dive into dating icks -- and Melisa shares a list of "icks" that might prompt her to swipe left. 
5/26/202440 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 249: Healing While Parenting

Being a mom means your time isn't always your own -- which makes it really tough to find the time and space to focus on your own healing from heartbreak. 
5/21/202435 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 248: Meet Michele

Michele from the Live Out Loud podcast joins the show to share her views on navigating the dating scene and relationships. And how she's focusing on "dating her friends" and cultivating the relationships with people who are already in her life. 
5/12/202456 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 247: Coming Out While Married

This week we address a listener question about how to come out when you're still in a hetero marriage.
5/5/202433 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 246: I Don't Think About You At All.

Alli and Melisa share some quotes on letting go and how sometimes we cling to things in life that are no longer meant for us. 
4/28/202434 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 245: Well, The Jerk Store Called...

Melisa and Alli dive into what it's like raising kids as lesbian moms and how to handle possible bullying. 
4/21/202454 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 244: Everybody Pump the Brakes!

Why is everyone is such a rush to do all the things? Commit to a relationship? Meet the kids? Move in together? Combine finances? Our friend Heather joins us to discuss why we all need to just chill!
4/14/202436 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 243: Evolution of Attachment Styles

Melisa and Alli discuss JoJo Siwa's ever evolving image -- and why people should cut her some slack. We also dive into attachment styles and how they show up at different stages of a relationship. 
4/7/202442 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 242: Throw Out The Rulebook

This week we talk about the importance of throwing other people's ideals and expectations out the window! You do you! And also, a few tips on how not to get catfished on dating apps!
3/31/202424 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 241: Courtney Simpson on Dialectical Behavior Therapy

Psychologist Courtney Simpson joins us to talk about Dialectical Behavior Therapy and the coping skills that have helped her in her own coming out journey -- along with how she got comfortable with the lesbian label.
3/24/202433 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 240: Where My Over 50s At?

Are you an over 50 lesbian, feeling like there's no one out there for you so why bother even trying to date? You're not alone! There's so many people with a similar viewpoint -- but if everyone doesn't make an effort, won't it stay that way? 
3/17/202428 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 239: Rae on Shedding The Catalyst

Rae joins the show to share her coming out story of how she married her catalyst and how she is now working on developing better coparenting skills and shedding her co-dependent nature. 
3/10/20241 hour, 4 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 238: What Are You Really Afraid Of?

Alli and Melisa explore the topic of fear -- from phobias like snakes and drowning -- to one majority of people can relate to... the fear of being alone. Is that fear of being alone keeping you stuck in a situation that's no longer right for you?
3/3/202450 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 237: Update on Allie's Story

Allie joins us for a third time to give an update on her coming out process -- and why she's choosing not to date at this time and instead focus on her own well-being.
2/25/202457 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 236: Catalyst Commonalities

We've noticed a common theme about catalysts (first relationships) in many of our listener emails -- today we discuss possibilities as to why....
2/18/202457 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 235: It's Not Guilt, It's Wise Remorse

Alli and Melisa discuss a different take on guilt -- viewing it as "wise remorse." We also share some tips on manifestation from the great Mel Robbins -- and how the Netflix series "Love on The Spectrum" could help you learn how to human.
2/11/202436 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 234: Meet Dr. Kara Strauss: Pelvic Floor Expert

Dr. Kara Strauss joins us to talk about pelvic floor health and how it can impact so many aspects of your life. We also dive into grief and how mourning the end of a relationship is such a multifaceted process. You're not just mourning a person, you're mourning that future. For more information on Dr. Kara Strauss, visit the links below. Super Human TherapyDr. Kara Strauss on Instagram
2/4/20241 hour, 11 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 233: Meet Jodi

After becoming a mom at 18, then coming out at 29, Jodi felt she had finally met her perfect match -- only to have her new life turned upside down. Now Jodi is sharing her story to help others through their own mental health, sexuality, and relationship struggles. TRIGGER WARNING: S**ual Assault and S**cideConnect with Jodi on Facebook
1/28/202444 minutes, 43 seconds
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A Special Announcement

Big News for the Lesbian Chronicles Podcast! We have a website!!! LESBIAN CHRONICLES PODCAST
1/27/20244 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 232: What's Your Thing?

Melisa and Alli are joined by their lovely friend Malena to chat about how our past places a role in life today -- and how important it is to share with your triggers with your partner or potential partners.
1/21/202422 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 231: Meet Robin

Robin shares her story of processing her late in life sexuality realization -- which has included a new baby, the sudden passing of her father, divorce, and a career change!
1/14/202453 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 230: The Stanley Cup

Alli talks her return to therapy. We get confused about Stanley Cups vs. The Stanley Cup. And we chat about how sexuality is viewed by the younger generation. We also have a new submission to the Love Lounge!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
1/8/202442 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 229: Let's Bury Our Heads in the Sand!

It's the holidays -- which is a tough time of year for many people -- so this week, we're burying our heads in the sand and just keeping this episode light and easy! Stay tuned until the end to hear our first single lady for the Love Lounge! And attention to all listeners in Austin, TX -- there's now a support group in your city!!Email [email protected] to learn more! Instagram - Baby Gays ATXThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
12/24/202342 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 228: Happy Holidays!

This week Alli and Melisa talk about their ever evolving Christmas plans -- how to manage keeping things equal in a blended family -- Jillian Turecki's take on how rejection feels like abandonment -- and our plans for a new segment to get you singeles coupled up!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
12/17/202339 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 227: Meet Teddi

Our friend Teddi joins us for a conversation about coming out in the 90s, relationships, and her life running the coolest barbershop (A-HA Barbers) we've ever seen!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
12/10/202359 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 226: Breakup Toolbox Part 2

We had such a great response to our Breakup Toolbox request on Instagram we decided to share more knowledge from those who've been through the thick of it. We also chat about our younger years and how Alli may have committed a felonyMore book and podcast recommendations in this episode... Jillian On Love PodcastAnxious HeartsAttached (book)Shadow Work JournalBecoming The OneThe Journey from Abandonment to HealingLighter by Yung PuebloThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
12/3/202343 minutes, 40 seconds
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Episode 225: Breakup Toolbox

Breakups are rough. Especially when you're not equipped to handle it. Alli and Melisa share tools that have helped them -- and we hear breakup advice from listeners.Some books/podcasts mentioned in this episode... Dr. Nicole LePera - The Holistic PsychologistOn Purpose with Jay ShettyEmotional & Physical Pain Are Almost The Same - To Your BrainAbandonment Recovery Workbook by Susan AndersonThe Self Love Fix PodcastThe Mel Robbins PodcastThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
11/26/202334 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 224: Get Comfortable. Get Confident. Be Magnetic.

Alli and Melisa chat about the glorious celebration that was Melisa's birthday party -- and how being part of the LGBTQ community can be your path to figuring out your sexuality. We also talk about the importance of building confidence within yourself to attract great things (and people) in life!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
11/19/202339 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 223: It Gets Messier!

Alli and Melisa reflect more on the Messy Middle -- and we have another listener story from Molly, who was put through the wringer in her coming out, but has a positive message from the other side.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
11/12/202340 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 222: The Messy Middle Chronicles

The Messy Middle is a common theme for many late in life lesbians. That part where you've come out, but there's obstacles in the way -- finances, job, living situations, co-parenting, illness, a husband in denial. Gaberiella and Alexa share what their messy middle is/was like.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
11/5/202338 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 221: (Un)Happy Holidays

The holiday season is approaching -- and with that, a lot of anxiety for some of our LC listeners. Melisa and Alli share some encouragement for those facing the holidays alone -- or those who will have to see their former partners in the arms of another.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
10/29/202340 minutes, 38 seconds
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Episode 220: Dr. Caroline on Menopause

Dr. Caroline, OB/GYN talks the journey of perimenopause and menopause -- how the symptoms can impact your life -- and sometimes go unnoticed!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
10/22/202351 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 219: Meet Rosie O'Donnell

LESBIAN ICON -- The Rosie O'Donnell -- joins Melisa and Alli to chat about the joys of TikTok, the importance of sharing hard experiences and connection, and the lessons she's learning while raising a non-binary, neurodivergent child. She also confirms a storyline that was cut from the cult classic, "Now and Then."This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
10/15/202354 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 218: Friend Fight Club

Do you feel like you have to keep your straight friends and you LGBTQ+ friends separate? Are you worried about losing your straight friends by coming out? Alli and Melisa dive into this topic.... And stay tuned for the end where we share some BIG NEWS about our next episode!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
10/8/202342 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 217: Emily Cade on Dating with Chronic Illness or Injury

Therapist Emily Cade joins the show to talk about dating with chronic illness or injury.Emily Cade TherapyThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
10/1/202348 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 216: P!NK's Queer Vibe, Dating Age Gaps, And Jealousy Between Partners

Alli and Melisa discuss the wonder that is P!nk -- Shifting perspective on the age gap when dating, how therapy memes on social media cloud our brains -- And Dr. Jaime gives her two-cents on jealous feelings between partners.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
9/25/202349 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 215: Do You Need to Live with Your Partner?

In your 20s, you meet. You fall in love. You move in.But what happens in your 30s, 40s, 50s+ when combining two households isn't quite as easy? Is living together really necessary?This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
9/17/202344 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 214: Regret is a B*tch

Do you regret coming out? Do you miss your old life? Do you know your gay but wonder if this was all worth it? Alli and Melisa discuss the common feeling of regret that pops up when everything isn't quite going your way post coming out. We also have our first Ask Dr. Jaime segment!!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
9/10/202358 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 213: Meet Lindsay "The Queen of Meeting Lesbian Strangers"

Lindsay joins the show to share how she's utilizing TikTok and other apps to meet other lesbians.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
9/3/202344 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 212: Susan Bratton: "Your Passion is My Passion"

Susan Bratton joins the LC podcast for some very open talk about sex. Susan is an author, speaker and self-proclaimed "sexual biohacker and "orgasmanaut." Some links/products mentioned in this episode: Sexual Soulmate PactForia Arousal OilSusan Bratton's WebsiteThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
8/27/202343 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 211: Meet Christin of Tello Films

This week we're joined by Christin Baker. Christin is a Lesbian Filmmaker and the Co-Founder and CEO of Tello Films. We chat about her streaming service for LGBTQ content, her coming out story and what it was like to be front and center during the debate over gay marriage.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
8/20/20231 hour, 2 minutes, 51 seconds
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Episode 210: Dr. Jaime: Is it Ok to Not Love Your Partner's Kid?

Dr. Jaime joins us to talk about the difficulties of bonding with your partner's children -- and how to handle things when you just aren't feeling the love. We're also introducing an Ask Dr. Jaime segment where listeners can submit their questions to Dr. Jaime. Email us at [email protected] with your questions!This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
8/13/202337 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 209: Meet Stacey - Community Building Expert

Our friend Stacey joins us to talk about her very recent coming out -- and how she's worked to make friends in the LGBTQ community in Nashville.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
8/6/202345 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 208: Green Flags

We talk RED flags all the time -- but what are some GREEN flags in a relationship?This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
7/30/202336 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 207: Meet Kirsten Rasmussen

Actor, Writer, and Second City alum Kirsten Rasmussen (Slo Pitch, Odd Squad, Schitt's Creek) shares her coming out story.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
7/23/202339 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 206: American Gladiators Made Me Gay

Did American Gladiators make you gay? Because Melisa thinks it may be some data for her coming out late in life story. We discuss this 90s mayhem of a TV show and other movies that gave us the feels as kids. And then swap topics to talk dealing with rejection in dating.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
7/16/202337 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 205: That Defining Moment

What was the moment you knew you were gay? Listeners share their "defining moments"This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
7/10/202322 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 204: Meet Dawn DiMicco

Author, Speaker, and Coach Dawn DiMicco joins us to talk about her life as a conservative Catholic who came out later in life after being married to a man for 16 years.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
7/2/202343 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 203: The Shame Game

“Shame is that warm feeling that washes over us, making us feel small, flawed, and never good enough.” - Brené Brown We explore the topic of shame -- how it molds who we are today and how to overcome it's grip.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
6/25/202334 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 202: OUT: the LGBTQ+ Social App

Anna Harissis, Co-Creater and CEO of OUT: the LGBTQ+ Social App, joins us to discuss her amazing app that is helping the queer community connect and find safe spaces and resources throughout the United States.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
6/18/202339 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 201: Advice From a Husband

This week we share some advice a husband shared with us on what could make this process easier on them.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
6/11/202339 minutes
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Episode 200: Life is Too Short for Mediocre

It's Our 200th Episode!! Hard to believe that our little decision back in June 2019 to record a podcast sharing our experiences of coming out later in life would grow to be where we are today. We are so gratefult to our faithful listeners. This week we reflect back on what we've learned over the years and how we've grown.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
6/4/202339 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 199: Dating Women 101

Who asks for the first date? Who plans it? Who pays?? All questions we didn't really have to think about while dating men but here we are. Melisa breaks down the approach she has taken with those first initial dates with someone new -- and shares some tips from listeners.This show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5601514/advertisement
5/28/202322 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 198: Heartbreak Hotel

Coming out seems to be filled with heartbreak on multiple levels. This week Melisa and Alli discuss giving yourself permission to be sad (Yes, even over your divorce) and ways to cope when you're in the thick of it all. (Spoiler: It doesn't include texting your ex.)
5/20/202325 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 197: Perrie Voss on Queer Joy

Perrie Voss, Canadian award-winning actor, writer, editor, and producer, joins the show this week to talk about her award-winning series, Avocado Toast. She also shares what it was like to come out right as a global pandemic hit and her life now that she has found "Queer Joy!"
5/13/20231 hour, 3 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 196: Travel Guilt

Do you ever feel guilty for traveling without your kids? Alli and Melisa totally relate to that feeling. This week we talk about travel guilt and how to feel better about taking time for yourself.
5/7/202334 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 195: Where Do I Meet Women?

This week we're throwing out ideas on how to meet other people -- gay or straight. You never know who someone else might know, so hit up the dog park, theater, book store or take a cooking class! Get out there!
4/30/202328 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 194: Stacy Talks Dating After 50

Our friend Stacy joins Alli to talk about dating over 50 and finally meeting the right person at 52.
4/23/202336 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 193: The Messy Middle (Ali's update)

Ali joins us again to give an update on The Messy Middle as she navigates meeting women and coping with her husband dating someone seriously.
4/16/20231 hour, 6 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 192: If It's Not a Hell Yes, It's a Hell No.

Melisa and Alli chat about some TikTok drama and how there seems to be some patterns when it comes to your first same-sex relationship. NOTE: At one point, Melisa is talking about children in China and how they're very independent. The video she referenced seeing was actually children in Japan, not China.
4/9/202332 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 191: Blend It Up

Alli shares some things she has learned over the years blending a family of four children and how difficult it can be for all parties involved.
4/2/202346 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 190: Opportunity Knocks

Coming out can often feel very sexualized, this week we explore exactly why it shouldn't be and how coming out and living more authentic lives has created opportunties in other parts of our lives.
3/26/202336 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 189: Shady Sh*t

What qualifies as emotional cheating? And how do you protect your relationship with your partner and prevent a friendship from evolving into something that crosses the line?
3/19/202329 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 188: Meet Dariella (Second Friday ATL)

Dariella Blanco joins us to talk about Second Friday Atlanta and what it was like to grow up in Venezuela knowing she was lesbian.
3/12/202342 minutes, 40 seconds
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Episode 187: No Wrong Decisions

Are there truly any wrong decisions? Even when it feels like a decision might be the wrong one -- in the end it's the path you're supposed to be on.
3/5/202341 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 186: Neurodivergent Queer Coach

NeuroQueer coach Pasha Marlowe, MFT joins us this week to discuss the link between neurodiversity people and coming out later in life.
2/26/202332 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 185: Only the Lonely

Alli and Melisa catch up on life and reflect on how the fear of being alone can feel so heavy. Also, the time that Melisa bought a woman red roses for Valentine's Day only to learn that woman found red roses totally lame. Cool.
2/19/202337 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 184: Meet Ietta

Our friend Ietta joins us this week to talk Ghost Hunting, Marathon Running and her quest to find the right woman -- or not because Ietta is perfectly good going it alone!
2/12/202338 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 183: Meet Zeno

This week we are joined by Zeno! He shares his experience as a trans man and his evolving perspective on gender and sexuality.
2/5/202344 minutes, 5 seconds
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Episode 182: Investing 101

This week, we drop the coming out talk in favor of some financial advice. Alli shares her real estate investing knowledge and some tips to get you started on your own. (The mortgage lender mentioned in this episode is Carol Lynn Upshaw with Hyperion Mortgage)
1/29/202341 minutes, 16 seconds
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Episode 181: Perimenopause and The Messy Middle

This week we're joined by Aly to discuss how she and her husband are navigating the messy middle and how perimenopause played a role in her coming out.
1/22/202343 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 180: Dear Past Self

Melisa and Alli share advice from listeners on what they wish they could tell their past self prior to coming out.
1/15/202349 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 179: Justifying the U-Haul with Jaime Filer

We're kicking off 2023 with some advice from Mental and Physical Health Coach, Jaime Filer! Hear how your mental health plays into your physical health and how Jaime's move to U-Haul was a logistical decision.
1/8/202338 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 178: Welcoming the New Year w/Dr. Jaime!

Dr. Jaime Blandino joins Alli to kick off 2023 -- chatting about how the New Year brings new opprotunities!
1/1/202338 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 177: Holiday Pep Talk

Melisa is solo this week -- sharing stories of how people plan to spend the holdays and also taking space for those who might be alone this season. If you're feeling really down and need someone to talk to, contact the Suicide and Crisis Hotline by calling or texting 988.
12/18/202219 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 176: Love Bomb Take 2

Alli and Melisa revisit the topic of love bombing -- how do you know if it's manipulative or you're just falling in love?
12/11/202246 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 175: Talking Sexy Time w/Julia Hoffman

Julia from Bloomer's Society is back and we're diving deep into the sex talk!!
12/4/20221 hour, 5 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 174: Don't Let Your Past Dictate Your Future

Do relationships -- gay or straight -- truly have longevity? Melisa and Alli talk about the hardships couples face and how hard it is to commit to forever -- especially later in life.
11/27/202244 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 173: But Moooooom...

We branch off our conversation from last week about coming out to teenagers and why it's harder than coming out to the little ones.
11/20/202233 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 172: Nikki's Story

Nikki shares her coming out story and how she told her teenage daughters about her newfound sexuality.
11/13/202250 minutes
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Episode 171: Andrea L. Pino-Silva/The Curve Foundation

This week we chat with scholar, author, and activist Andrea L. Pino-Silva about her work to spread awareness about global gender based violence, working with The Curve Foundation and her own coming out journey as the daughter of Cuban refugees.
11/6/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 170: Imposter Syndrome

Coming out later often brings on the feeling of imposter syndrome, like we are somehow going to be found as a fraud in the LGBTQ community. Melisa and Alli discuss how they've felt this and how to overcome it.
10/30/202243 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 169: Julia from Bloomer's Society (Part 3)

Part three with Julia where we talk more about helping straight men through the process of their wife's coming out -- and balancing relationships with your biological kids and step-kids.
10/23/202232 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 168: Julia from Bloomer's Society (Part 2)

This week we have Part 2 with Julia from Bloomer's Society where she shares what it was like to tell her children about her divorce, and also that she's gay. (Spoiler Alert: One kid threw up a rainbow)
10/16/202232 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 167: Julia from Bloomers Society (Part 1)

A long awaited episode, we are joined by Julia Hoffman from Bloomers Society. She talks about her own coming out and how she started her own community to bring late in life lesbians together!
10/9/202235 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 166: Oya Turns It Gay (Part 2)

Part 2 with Oya from the band Fruit For All! She talks more about coming out to her Turkish family and what the future may look like!
10/2/202234 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 165: Oya Turns It Gay! (Part 1)

Our friend Oya joins us to talk about her band Fruit For All and their upcoming gig in Atlanta, along with the beginning of her coming out story which began after she moved to the US from Turkey!
9/25/202227 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 164: Should Your Kids Meet Your Girlfriend?

When is the right time to introduce your kids to someone you're dating? Alli and Melisa share their experiences -- and how the end of some of their relationships has impacted their children.
9/18/202236 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 163: Lesbian Orphan

This week we had the opportunity to chat with Lindsay, an artist and musician from San Diego. She shares the highs and lows of her coming out story -- along with details on embryo donation -- the method she and her wife used to get pregnant with their daughter!
9/11/202240 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 162: Debbie Downer

Not gonna lie, this episode is a bit of a downer. Alli and Melisa catch up on what's been going on in their lives -- including Melisa's trip to Croatia and Alli sending her first born off to college in NYC!
9/4/202233 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 161: Throw The Whole Life Out

Alli and Melisa reflect on how life has evolved since coming out... from being fearful of what was ahead to now feeling more and more settled financially and with our people. It gets better :)
8/21/202236 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 160: Dr. Jaime: Integrity Not Defined By Avoiding Hurting Someone's Feelings

Dr. Jaime talks about friendships that can feel like relationships and why the fear of hurting someone's feelings can make it so difficult to end romantic relationships.
8/14/202231 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 159: Dr. Jaime: Coming Out Is Not Black or White

Dr. Jaime is back! We talk parenting after divorce, dealing with limited time with your kids, the COST of admission and how the things after coming out aren't so black and white.
8/7/202231 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 158: Should I Come Out?

Do you really need to come out publicly? Or is just information you want to keep to your inner circle? We talk about how we go about sharing our relationship status -- and Melisa and her girlfriend share what it's like to be out in the suburbs of Atlanta.
7/31/202231 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 157: You Can't Go Home Again

What happens when your former person has a new person? Melisa and Alli talk about how our relationships with our exhusband's have shifted since our divorces -- and how both our mothers can't seem to understand our child custody schedule.
7/24/202236 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 156: Mormon No More (Part 2)

Lena and Sally from Hulu's Mormon No More talk blending families. And there's no shortage of kids here -- 7 kids in 7 years. Yup.
7/17/202227 minutes, 24 seconds
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Episode 155: Mormon No More (Part 1)

Sally and Lena from Hulu's Mormon No More share their stories of not only coming out later, but coming out of Mormonism.
7/10/202233 minutes, 33 seconds
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Episode 154: Tales from the Catalyst

We're talking catalysts again -- and how things that happened in those relationships have impacted other current relationships -- in positive ways too!!
7/3/202231 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 153: The Friendship Balance

We talk the massive news with Roe v. Wade, the new Disney/Pixar move, Lightyear and how to balance friendships and your relationship.
6/26/202247 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 152: The Inbetween Time

What does separation even look like? Alli and Melisa reflect back on how everything unfolded leading up to their divorces. 
6/19/202248 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 151: Melissa Lester from GROUP! (Part 2)

Part 2 of our conversation with Melissa Lester, LCSW who created the Group that truly saved Melisa and Alli in their coming out process.
6/12/202234 minutes, 27 seconds
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Episode 150: Melissa Lester from GROUP! (Part 1)

This week we welcome Melissa Lester, LCSW who created the Group that truly saved Melisa and Alli in their coming out process. 
6/5/202233 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 149: Hurricane Ari (Part 2)

Ari shares more of her coming out story and how she learned to let go of labels and "just be." 
5/29/202222 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 148: Hurricane Ari (Part 1)

Alli chats with her new friend Ari about how she came out later in life.
5/22/202236 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 147: Hilliary's Story

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions sexual abuse. Alli's neighbor Hilliary joins us this week to share her coming out story and how a traumatic incident with her first girlfriend led her to end the relationship. 
5/16/202231 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 146: Sonia Leigh

Music artist Sonia Leigh joins us this week to share her story about coming out in the 90s! 
5/7/202245 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 145: God Gives Very Little S***s

This week we're joined by Alexis aka The Queer Mom on TikTok. They are an Episcopal Priest with a Masters degree in Divinity. We discuss their take on religion and how they're working to bring queer people together via TikTok. 
5/1/202236 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 144: Christine's Story: Part 2

You're now part of the LGBTQ community -- but you feel like the new kid in class. Christine shares what it's like to be old, but new at the same time. 
4/17/202240 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 143: Christine's Story: Part 1

Our friend Christine shares her coming out story -- and the post-divorce pressure to prove coming out was worth it. 
4/10/202234 minutes, 23 seconds
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Episode 142: More Peaches (and avocados)

This week -- we do the impossible and dive into a how-to on eating peaches (and avocados, apparently) 
4/3/202246 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 141: Eat More Peaches

We're back! And we're talking initiating sexy time after a listener shared her struggles with putting the moves on her partner. 
3/27/202240 minutes, 1 second
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Episode 140: Say Gay!

This week we discuss the insane legislation proposed in the US about sexuality in schools -- and how not hearing the word "gay" growing up influenced us growing up.
3/13/202250 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 139: The Heartbreak of Divorce

Conflicting feelings come up in divorce -- you know you're gay... but also heartbroken over leaving your husband. Melisa and Alli talk about how these feelings can co-exist. And why getting over relationships with women is soooo hard. 
3/6/202230 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 138: Don't Be a Rubik's Cube

How do you know if you're truly attracted to someone? This week we talk about attraction and how dating men now has some questioning their own instincts. We also hit on a good way to let someone know you're just not into them. 
2/27/202244 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 137: Dr. Jaime: A Commitment to Yourself

Dr. Jaime Blandino is back, dropping more wisdom!! 
2/20/202245 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 136: Marina's Story Part 2

Marina's back! This week we talk about her relationship with her mother -- who hasn't been accepting of her sexuality. 
2/13/202239 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 135: Marina's Story Part 1

This week, we chat with Marina who was born and raised in Ukraine/Russia and moved to the US as a teenager. She shares how she went from being "boy crazy" to a heterosexual marriage to starting to date women in her 20s. Oh, she's also Melisa's girlfriend so there's that :) 
2/6/202239 minutes, 24 seconds
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Episode 134: Blending Families

Alli and Melisa share their experiences in blending families in new relationships -- from Melisa's trip to Disney with her ex to Alli's love for her partner's son. 
1/30/202235 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 133: Meet Mia

Mia shares her story of coming out 10 years ago and how things have evolved since then.
1/23/202237 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 132: Coming Out at 60

Laura shares her story of coming out at 60-years-old and how she’s helping others through her TikTok videos where she has nearly 45k followers!
1/7/202237 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 131: Coming Out Colton

This week we chat about the Netflix series, “Coming Out Colton” and how other people’s opinions and a religious upbringing can hold you back from coming out.
12/23/202134 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 130: Weight of Religion with our Catholic Deacon

Alli’s future father-in-law who is also a Deacon in the Catholic Church speaks about his experience having two gay daughters and his take on acceptance.
12/16/202134 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 129: Meet Your New..???

Melisa is back! She catches everyone up on what’s new in her life, including an impromptu vacation on the Melissa Etheridge Cruise!
12/7/202139 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 128: Laws of Attraction

Dr. Jaime Blandino and Alyssa are back with Alli this week to talk about sexual attraction vs romantic attraction
11/28/202145 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 127: The Wisdom in Stillness

Special guests this week… Dr. Jaime and Alyssa join the conversation about how people have found their true selves because of the pandemic
11/22/202151 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 126: Meghan’s Story

Meghan divorced her husband and dated women.  She went back to her husband before meeting her partner and beginning an authentic journey as a gay woman.  This journey includes moving in with her partner and blending a family.  
11/14/202135 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 125: Tonishia’s Story

Listener Tonishia shares her story about how she moved from dating men to women… and the struggle to put a label on herself.
11/8/202133 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 124: Sex Anxiety

Rachel from our Sleepless in Seattle episode joins us again… this time to talk about all the anxiety that comes with intimacy
11/1/202139 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 123: Part 2: How Did You Meet

We share more listener stories of how they met their person and share some ideas about how to navigate dating apps.
10/24/202130 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 122: How Did You Meet?

This week we share stories of how some of our listeners met their significant other!!
10/17/202129 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 121: From the Drafts

This week is an episode we recorded in August 2020 but never published. So enjoy this little bit of randomness with Melisa and Alli.
10/11/202130 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 120: Double Lives

When you’re in that odd in between of being out… but not to everyone.
10/7/202145 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 119: FOLLOW UP: Gay But Still Married

We catch up with Jocelyn who we spoke with last year about her plans to stay married. Things have changed.
9/30/202133 minutes
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Episode 118: It Feels Like The First Time Part 2

A continuation of Melisa and Alli’s conversation from last week
9/19/202142 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 117: It Feels Like The First Time

Alli and Melisa talk about a lot of things… like why do the lights have to be on during sexy time???
9/13/202135 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 116: Unattached with K.Deer

Another listener who wasn’t married but came out later, our friend Kristine Deer (founder of K.Deer fitness apparel). She shares her coming out experience and the art of being unattached to outcomes in life.
9/5/202139 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 115: Sleepless in Seattle

A highly requested topic… what is it like to come out having not been married? We chat with Rachel from Seattle about her shift from dating men to dating women.
8/29/202133 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 114:Talk Soup

You know you’re getting older when soup is exciting… Alli and Melisa talk about sobriety and how alcohol impacts other parts of your life.
8/25/202135 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 113: Blending Families

Alli and her partner Maria talk about how they’ve blended their families.. and the difficult parts of navigating life with four kids.
8/15/202148 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 112: The Best and Worst Part of Coming Out

This week we share what we’ve found to be the best and worst parts of coming out. And we hear from a few listeners about their own experiences.
8/8/202140 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 111: Late to Lesbian

We FINALLY chat with the woman behind the Late to Lesbian Instagram account!
8/1/202159 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 110: Beep Beep! Who Got The Keys to The Jeep?

This week, a chat about internalized homophobia and how it holds us back in life.
7/26/202136 minutes, 18 seconds
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Episode 109: Dating Someone Who’s Married

This week we tackle what it’s like to date someone who is married and not sure how to proceed.
7/18/202124 minutes, 36 seconds
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Episode 108: The Ever Evolving Sherri

Sherri’s back! This time we talk about how we are always changing and evolving as humans and learning who we truly are!
7/11/202138 minutes
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Episode 107: QWN of Atlanta

This week we sit down with Laura, the creator of Queer Women’s Network of Atlanta. She shares how she got the group started and The LO., an app she’s working on to help queer women build community.
7/6/202134 minutes, 14 seconds
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Episode 106: It's Ok to Stay

This week we give space to those who stay in their marriage -- because it's ok to stay if that's where your life is at right now. 
6/28/202144 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 105: Get Out The Map… So I Can Find That GSpot

We gotta give it to you like you’ve asked… more sex centric episodes!! We talk straight sex and how it sometimes misses the mark. Along with a lively conversation about undies!!
6/20/202141 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 104: Pride Month History Lesson

It’s Pride Month and as newly out members of the LGBTQ community, want to educate ourselves and our listeners. Historian Cassandre helps us do that!
6/14/202146 minutes, 4 seconds
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Episode 103: If You Build It They Will Come

This week we talk about how a group of our listeners are coming together to build community through the Bloomers Society.
6/8/202130 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 102: Check Your Vibe

This week we discuss how to keep your friendships from crossing over into relationship territory.
5/30/202131 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 101: “Live” from Piedmont Park

We celebrated Episode 101 with a meetup in Piedmont Park! We had a blast meeting everyone and hearing some amazing stories! Feeling the love for sure!
5/23/202152 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 100: Sherri’s Story Part 3

We wrap up the wild ride that is Sherri’s life!
5/16/202142 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 99: Sherri’s Story Part Two

We can’t get enough of Sherri’s story... this week she talks about gender identity and the start of a very intense relationship.
5/10/202135 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 98: Sherri’s Story: Two Marriages and A Cult

Buckle up! Because Sherri’s coming out journey is a wild one! This is Part One of Three so get ready!
5/4/202141 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 97: What If You’re Wrong

What if you’re wrong about your sexuality? But... what if you’re right?
4/25/202127 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 96: Meg the Catalyst

Ok, so the title makes it sound sinister but Meg is the absolute sweetest. She shares what it is like to be the “catalyst.”
4/18/202129 minutes, 10 seconds
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Episode 95: That Catholic Guilt Tho

Alli shares how her Catholic upbringing impacted her life and coming out.
4/13/202137 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 94: The Hard Lessons Make Us Who We Are Today

We discuss the hard lessons we’ve learned. And why we wouldn’t change our past.
4/4/202130 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 93: Whitney’s Coming Out Story

Whitney identified as bisexual at an early age... heterosexual norms drove her to two marriages to men. Now she identifies as a lesbian, is co-parenting with her ex and thriving in her new career.
3/30/202154 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 92: Lower Your Expectations, Not Your Standards

This week we talk dating and how to not get too excited about your dating prospects before you meet in person.
3/21/202129 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 91: Dr. Jaime on Attachment Styles

Dr. Jaime talks attachment styles and how your past relationships play a role.
3/14/202135 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 90: Dr. Jaime on Your Inner Child

Dr. Jaime Blandino talks about how your childhood impacts your actions and feelings in adulthood.
3/7/202141 minutes, 24 seconds
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Episode 89: Get Comfortable With Being Uncomfortable

Coming out means uncomfortable conversations. Learn how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s temporary.
2/28/202146 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 88: Bisexuality Defined

Admittedly, we are experts on nothing, so this week we bring on a guest who is bisexual... she shares what that means for her and how the bisexual label is often misunderstood.
2/21/202124 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 87: But I’m Bisexual

This week we discuss what to do if you’re discovering your sexuality later in life but you’re bisexual
2/14/202126 minutes, 28 seconds
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Episode 86: Getting to Knoooow You

You may have noticed an additional voice on the podcast in recent months. It’s Alyssa, our very own audio producer and “gold star lesbian.” This week, we get to know her a little better.
2/7/202132 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 85: When Your Husband Sucks

This week, we chat with Rosie.. an Australian listener who’s coming out and divorce was anything but easy.
1/31/202126 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 84: The Power Shift

This week, Melisa, Alli and Alyssa talk about how the power dynamic can change in your catalyst relationship as you begin to feel more comfortable with your sexuality and branch out on your own.
1/24/202145 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode Re-Boot: Dr. Jaime on Cheating and Love Bombing

Here’s an episode from November 2019 that we love... Dr. Jaime Blandino gives insight on cheating and love bombing. And also, why being with a woman for the first time can be so exhilarating!
1/18/202141 minutes
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Episode 83: Stephanie Gray: The Love Coach

This week we welcome Stephanie Gray, The Love Coach. Stephanie is a former international professional basketball player turned author, speaker and love coach. She shares how her life experiences have brought her where she is today... and how she helps others navigate relationships. Check out her book, The 10 Universal Rules of Love Plus One. https://www.stephanielgray.com/home
1/10/202150 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 82: Christmas isn’t Christmas

Alli and Melisa talk about how they spent their Christmas... and what a bummer it was.
1/3/202139 minutes, 17 seconds
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Episode 81: Dr. Rachel: Culture of Consent

This week we chat with Dr. Rachel Anne Kieran, Psy.D. on consent, polyamory and relationships.
12/27/202046 minutes, 45 seconds
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Episode 80: Molly Wizenberg and The Fixed Stars

Author Molly Wizenberg joins the show and shares how her own life experiences shaped her book, “The Fixed Stars.”
12/20/202051 minutes
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Episode 79: Mom Guilt

There is so much mom guilt surrounding divorcing and coming out. This week we talk about how we’ve coped with that aspect of our lives.
12/13/20201 hour, 4 minutes, 52 seconds
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Episode 78: This One’s For The Hubs

This week we talk with Mark who is in the midst of coping with his wife coming out and discuss how they’re moving forward in this process.
12/6/202030 minutes, 39 seconds
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Episode 77: Let’s Go to The Movies (and not have sex with your brother)

This week we chat about our Thanksgiving holidays and movies we’ve seen recently (including “Happiest Season”). And apparently sex with your husband can start to feel like sex with your brother 🤔
11/29/202053 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 76: Dr Jaime: Finding Your True North

We are joined by Dr. Jaime Blandino to talk about gaslighting, finding your true north and how to handle the holidays with family.
11/22/20201 hour, 6 minutes, 38 seconds
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Episode 75: Flip It and Reverse It

Alli, Melisa and Alyssa chat with Lisa, who’s longtime partner passed away... but she’s now found new love with a man. We explore how preferences shift... and how love can be about the person, not their gender. Lisa does amazing work for racial justice and healing through The Radical Optimist Collective!
11/15/202050 minutes, 48 seconds
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Episode 74: Show Me Your Oh Face

This week we talk about sex. Do we really have to say anything more?
11/8/202045 minutes, 52 seconds
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Episode 73: Gay But Still Married

This week we talk with Jocelyn... a listener who recently discovered her sexuality but is staying married to her husband.
11/2/202038 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 72: Your Intentions of Coming Out

This week we talk about what expectations we initially had in coming out to our husbands.
10/25/202044 minutes, 29 seconds
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Episode 71: The Big D (And not the good one...)

Melisa and Alli talk with Catrina, a divorce attorney in Michigan. She shares her insight on the divorce process, child custody and alimony. And fun fact: You can't lose your kids because of your sexuality. 
10/18/202044 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 70: I’m Coming Out! I Want the World to Know!

We’re a bit all over the place this week.. but we talk about National Coming Out Day and get to know Alyssa better!
10/11/202052 minutes, 30 seconds
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Episode 69: Dating Tips: "She Hasn't Even Sent Me a Full Body Shot Yet..."

Melisa and Alli dive deep into the world of dating apps and how people can improve their profiles. Also, how do you human during a first date? We share tips on how to improve your communication skills... especially after being out of the game for so damn long! (ANNND.. the freakin' boy band we couldn't recall during recording, ONE DIRECTION!) 
10/4/202046 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 68: My So-Called Past Life

This week we discuss how we refer to our "past life" and how it doesn't feel right to say we were "in the closet." Also, we talk about the clitoris because that's always fun. 
9/27/202042 minutes, 28 seconds
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Episode 67: Financial Repercussions of Divorce

Melisa and Alli talk the cost of divorce.. and how it’s a “luxury” some can’t afford to do. (And how that’s total bs)
9/21/202046 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 66: Sow Those Wild Oats

Melisa and Alli talk about sowing your wild oats as a newly out person -- and how that looks later in life. 
9/14/202043 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 65: Crocs, Chacos and Cargo Shorts

Alli and Melisa discuss how the type of women they're attracted to (and their own style) has evolved... Also, how people put out "lifeboats" in relationships. 
9/6/202034 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 64: Mind the Age Gap

Alli and Melisa talk about what it's like when your significant other has children. And dating when there's an age gap. 
8/30/202039 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 63: Are You Happier?

Alli and Melisa have turned their lives upside down to live their truth... Now they answer one of the top questions they hear from people --- are you happier? 
8/23/202031 minutes, 54 seconds
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Episode 62: The Hot Seat

Today’s episode is just for fun... Alli and Melisa are joined by some friends to answer questions in “The Hot Seat!”
8/16/202046 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 61: This Ain’t No Fairy Tale

Melisa and Alli talk about the hardships of dating and trying to meet “the one.”
8/9/202043 minutes
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Episode 60: Dr. Jaime Talks Mental Health

Dr. Jaime Blandino talks mental health
8/2/202048 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 59: Hey PEOPLE!

Alli and Melisa respond to a listener email and address ways to improve ourselves 😁
7/26/202054 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 58: Rewriting Your Future

Melisa and Alli talk about how to start over and move forward with your new life after leaving your marriage.
7/19/202037 minutes, 12 seconds
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Episode 57: Midlife Awakening

Melisa and Alli read listener emails/questions... and talk about how lucky we are to have this “midlife awakening.” Wake me up!!
7/12/202041 minutes, 20 seconds
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Bonus Pride Episode: LGBTQ+ Roundtable

The Lesbian Chronicles was recently asked to join a roundtable discussion with a few other LGBTQ+ podcasters. We chatted with MinoriTea Report, Tranna Wintour, She's Not Doing So Well and MIZ, The Podcast (who organized the whole thing!) Really cool group of people and a great discussion.
6/30/20201 hour, 18 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 56: The Long Haul U-Haul

Alli and Melisa chat with our friend Kelly who has been with her partner for almost 11 years! Awww
6/28/202042 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 55: Dating Over 50

Dating over 50
6/21/202040 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 54: Lesbian Bed Death

Melisa and Alli chat about the impending doom of lesbian bed death
6/14/202049 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 53: The Secret Episode

This is one we’ve held off on publishing. But to celebrate our 1st anniversary... here ya go! Alli and Melisa talk about when they were separated and attempting to navigate new relationships.
6/7/202030 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 52: Fear: Coming Out is Like Having a Snake Thrown at You

Melisa and Alli talk about the fears surrounding coming out later.
5/31/202030 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 51: What Am I?

Alli and Melisa talk about labels. Am I gay, bisexual, lesbian, queer? Or is a label even necessary?
5/24/202034 minutes, 20 seconds
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Episode 50: Blending Families

Alli and Melisa talk about blending families in new relationships. Also, what it’s like to date after 50.
5/17/202049 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 49: Alli’s Girlfriend in the Hotseat

Alli’s girlfriend shares what it’s like to be in a relationship with a late in life lesbian.
5/10/202028 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 48: Secret Love

Alli and Melisa discuss the new Netflix documentary “Secret Love.” We also talk about keeping the spark going in quarantine.
5/3/202035 minutes, 49 seconds
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Episode 47: What’s Your Fantasy?

Alli and Melisa share listener stories and fantasies! 😏😅🤤🔥🔥🔥
4/26/202045 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 46: Catalysts: For Better and Worse

Alli and Melisa talk about why relationships with catalysts turn volatile. We also share how people are finding ways to build community despite the Rona.
4/19/202036 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 45: Being the Catalyst

Alli and Melisa talk about our first listener Zoom call. And what it’s like to be the catalyst.. having to play the waiting game through someone else’s process.
4/12/202037 minutes, 42 seconds
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Episode 44: The Catalyst

Alli and Melisa talk about life during the apocalypse. And we get to that gritty topic of our catalysts!
4/5/202044 minutes, 38 seconds
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Episode 43: The Corony Crazy

Alli and Melisa talk about how to deal with being quarantined and still married. Bc it doesn’t sound fun.
3/29/202043 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 42: Dr Jaime Answers Listener Questions

Part two of questions from Dr Jaime
3/22/202029 minutes, 21 seconds
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Episode 41: Dr. Jaime Takes Listener Questions

Dr Jaime answers the question... but what if I change my mind about my sexuality?
3/15/202030 minutes, 9 seconds
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Episode 40: You Have One Job!

Alli and Melisa talk about what we’ve learned about ourselves since coming out. We also touch on how similar the dynamic between Alli and her partner is to Glennon Doyle and Abby Wambach.And we talk about a Texas teacher placed on administrative leave for “pushing the homosexual agenda.”
3/8/202021 minutes, 53 seconds
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Episode 39: Facebook Live

Alli and Melisa take questions on Facebook live
3/1/202048 minutes, 52 seconds
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Episode 38: Why Can’t I Google My Future?

How great would it be if you could google your future and know exactly what life will look like?? Alli and Melisa talk about how fear of the unknown occupies our brains and holds us back. They also discuss how hard it was to admit to their husbands they’re gay.. knowing the confession would end their marriages.
2/23/202032 minutes, 7 seconds
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Episode 37: Relationship Attachment Styles

Alli and Melisa give an update on their lives... including the recent lice infestation at Alli’s house. And we talk about different attachment styles in relationships.
2/16/202040 minutes, 35 seconds
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Episode 36: Evolution of Relationships

Alli and Melisa talk about how relationships develop... the bullet train or the slow burn.
2/9/202038 minutes, 56 seconds
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Episode 35: The Kids Are Alright

Alli and Melisa talk to Alli’s son, Owen, about what it was like when his mom came out... and how he actually beat her to the punch and came out before Alli! (You’ll also hear Melisa curse in front of a child, so.. win win!)
2/2/202030 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 34: I’m Gay! Sex Me Up!

Melisa and Alli talk about how much sex has changed since coming out. How we went from avoiding sex to loving it!
1/26/202043 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 33: Where My Girls At?

Dating... but how do you meet people??
1/19/202038 minutes, 57 seconds
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Episode 32: Make Me Another Damn Sandwich!

Remember Marie from Episode 3? Well, she’s back! This time with her real name and sharing her coming out story!
1/12/202034 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 31: Hetero Sex When You’re Gay AF

Alli and Melisa address what it was like to attempt to be intimate with our ex husbands after realizing we were gay. We also answer some listener questions and Alli educates Melisa on the Catholic Church and feeling the obligation to be intimate with your husband.
1/5/202035 minutes, 13 seconds
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Episode 30: Christmas Shit Show

Alli shares what it was like to have her parents, ex-husband, in-laws AND her girlfriend all over for Christmas. And Melisa discusses actively not dating.
12/29/201933 minutes, 15 seconds
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Episode 29: Coming Out at 27

Our friend Miranda shares what it was like coming out in her late 20s and how she came to the realization she was queer. She’s also like a walking Urban Dictionary so we get the lowdown on some queer terminology.
12/22/201944 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 28: Where Do Broken Hearts Go?

This week we channel our inner Whitney and talk about recovering from a breakup, the steps you can take to move on, and how to go about dating again and putting yourself out there. (“This seems I’m setting myself up to get my ass kicked.”) We also answer a listener question about coming out at work.
12/15/201936 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 27: Modern Family Christmas

How will we be celebrating the holidays this year?? Very much like we did pre-divorce!
12/8/201933 minutes, 32 seconds
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Episode 26: Elsa is So Gay! Hooray!

Melisa is convinced Elsa is so gay in Frozen 2. Alli talks about an encounter from her “past life.” We also chat about how lesbians have better sex which contradicts lesbian bed death rumors. And we get into what our lives look like lately and they heavy stuff that still weighs on us.
12/1/201935 minutes, 40 seconds
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Episode 25: Rev. Susannah Davis on Gayness and God

Rev. Susannah Davis of Kirkwood United Church of Christ joins Alli and Melisa to talk about reconciling faith with sexuality.
11/24/201933 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 24: Red Flag! Red Flag!

Alli and Melisa cover the warning signs that you’re in a not-so-great relationship. (Also, the audio in this episode sucks, but please bare with us. We’re amateurs but working to improve.)
11/18/201932 minutes, 37 seconds
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Episode 23: Dykes on Bikes Atlanta/Polyamory

Alli and Melisa talk with the President of Dykes on Bikes Atlanta about their organization and her experience as a polyamorous lesbian.
11/10/201946 minutes, 6 seconds
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Episode 22: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Cheating Guilt and Love Bombing

Does someone have cancer? Is someone being deported? Why the love bombing?? Another great talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino on why some people express love so quickly and how to handle the aftermath of cheating.
11/3/201940 minutes, 26 seconds
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Episode 21: Coping with Lifestyle Change and Hypersexuality

Melisa and Alli discuss how life looks different following divorce and coming out. We also talk about hypersexuality and how we both feel like 15 year old boys in the height of puberty. Soo fun times.
10/27/201929 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 20: Atlanta Pride 2019

Alli and Melisa chat about attending Pride in Atlanta and share ideas on building a community.
10/20/201934 minutes, 2 seconds
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Episode 19: Making It Work With Your Ex

Strategies that Melisa and Allison have incorporated for making things awesome their exes. Traveling as a Modern Family and finding friendship with your Ex husband. Also, being positive about your exes new relationship.
10/14/201932 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 18: Life After Separation

This week we talk about what our lives were like after separating from our husbands and dealing with the looming divorce. No FMK — instead we talk about the movie “Imagine Me and You” and some movies that stirred early “feelings” in our childhood. Fun fact: Alli wanted to be Ralph Macchio in “Karate Kid.” #halloweencostumeidea (But also, more recently Melisa was ready to hop in bed with a female robot from “Westworld.”)
10/6/201929 minutes, 31 seconds
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Episode 17: Dr. Jaime Blandino on Guilt

Alli and Melisa talk with Dr. Jaime Blandino about the guilt of leaving your heterosexual marriage. The price of admission is high. But the price of exclusion from your most authentic life is higher.
9/29/201928 minutes, 44 seconds
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Episode 16: Friendship Boundaries, Shower Sex and Centaurs

We talk about setting boundaries in friendships and how to avoid crossing the line. And we finally watched “Below Her Mouth” and we have a lot of questions... specifically about shower sex and centaurs 🤣
9/22/201932 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 15: The Aftermath

Alli and Melisa discuss the aftermath of coming out
9/15/201934 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 14: Manifesting the Life You Want

Today we talk about envisioning how you want your life to look in an effort to make it a reality. We also hit on hushing the noise and paying close attention to what you want versus what others think is right for you. FMK- “Girls” (Sorry, Hannah Horvath)
9/8/201928 minutes, 46 seconds
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Episode 13: All the Guilt

Alli and Melisa talk about how guilt weighs you down when coming out and divorcing... and how you’re not responsible for other people’s happiness. Our FMK today— Transparent! (Such a good show!)
9/1/201938 minutes, 22 seconds
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Episode 12: Bag of Dicks

Alli and Melisa talk the dirty details of lesbian sex.
8/25/201927 minutes, 25 seconds
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Episode 11: Listener Questions

This week we cover a few questions we’ve gotten from our lovely listeners. Then we go off the rails a little and end up talking Roombas, recycling and the pH levels of water.
8/18/201938 minutes, 55 seconds
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Episode 10: A Chat with Dr. Jaime Blandino

Melisa and Alli sit down with Dr. Jaime Blandino to discuss the shame that surrounds coming out.
8/11/201935 minutes, 34 seconds
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Episode 9: Living in Your Marriage

Alli and Melisa talk about staying married even when you know you’re gay or “not straight.” We also talk about Julianna Hough coming out as “not straight.” And today’s FM and *not* kill... the US Women’s Soccer Team.
8/8/201937 minutes, 36 seconds
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Special Segment: Alli talks to her teen daughter

Short interview with Alli’s teenage daughter regarding divorce and having a gay mother.
8/6/201913 minutes, 59 seconds
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Episode 8: The Master Doc

Melisa and Alli talk about a popular document viewed by women questioning their sexuality. And for FMK... we swoon over the lovely Jennifer Anniston!
7/29/201947 minutes, 43 seconds
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Episode 7: It’s Not About Sex

Alli and Melisa discuss the aspects to relationships with women ... and no, it’s about sex.
7/22/201930 minutes, 41 seconds
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Episode 6: The Dating Game

Alli and Melisa talk about the levels of difficulty to coming out at different stages in life. And the dating game! Where are the single ladies? Do you buy flowers for women?
7/14/201928 minutes, 19 seconds
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Episode 5: Grieving your Marriage

Alli and Melisa discuss the process of grieving your marriage and allowing yourself and your husband the time to do so. We also finally started to watch The Handmaids Tale!
7/7/201926 minutes, 58 seconds
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Episode 4: The Hard Conversation

Alli and Melisa talk about the difficulties of telling your significant other you are gay.
6/28/201927 minutes, 50 seconds
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Episode 3: Make Me a Damn Sandwich

Alli and Melisa here at Nashville Pride! We are joined by our friend Marie and we talk a lot about sex... and sandwiches.
6/23/201929 minutes, 47 seconds
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Episode 2: How did you know?

Alli and Melisa go into more details on when/how they knew they are gay. We also answer a listener question on keeping the peace between your ex and new girlfriend. And we bring Nicole Kidman back from the dead!
6/17/201928 minutes, 8 seconds
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Episode 1: From the Closet but not in the Closet

Alli and Melisa’s first Lesbian Chronicles episode.... recorded from Alli’s closet! Literally! We cover our stories about coming out later in life and how we are now safely on the other side. This is for anyone coming out be it as gay, lesbian, or transgender. Especially for those who are leaving heterosexual marriages/relationships.
6/11/201935 minutes, 40 seconds