Hope, Healing, & Freedom for those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships is the mission of my work. Our guest today understands my work, maybe better than most. She has also worked with many who have some out of toxic relationships. She see too that oftentimes they were drawn to the same type of relationship over and over again. Bela helped them change that and find wonderful partners that made them happy. Bela Gandhi is a nationally acclaimed dating & relationship expert. Her business, The Smart Dating Academy offers the best tips to start dating smarter to help you find real and lasting love. Bela is a sought out correspondent and works with all major networks including Steve Harvey, NBC, ABC, FOX, CNN, JET, Essence, Forbes, WGN, and more… She is THE dating expert for Good Morning America and The Today Show and has regular appearances on both shows. Today she tells us about her work and how she began in the relationship realm. She also expands on how she guides her clients though the dating process, no matter their background so they find what they are truly looking for. Get to know her more by listening to her podcast. https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/podcast

How did I end up here? Good question because when I was where you are, I was asking the exact same thing. I knew the decision to be in that relationship was not a good one. I knew it from the very beginning.  How did I know? I could feel it. I knew something felt off but I could not put my finger on it. Listen to todays episode and follow the pattern described. Does this sound like you and your situation. If you are looking to take the TPA that was mentioned in the episode you can do that here on my website. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ If you are looking for answers as to why you are finding yourself in something that is not comfortable for you or you are suspecting may even be toxic for you, do not feel ashamed to ask. I didn't ask and it took me a long time to get where I am today. However, I am here today to be the person that I needed when I was trying to understand how I got there; for you. To see all my offered services to educate, to empower, to support you click here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Why are these relationships so confusing? Why is it so hard to make a decision? Why do I find myself questioning if I have tried hard enough? Do you find that you are asking yourself these same questions?  Well, in truth there are a number of reasons as to why these relationships are so confusing, why we leave and go back, and why we question our decisions. In this episode I cover 10 reason why toxic relationships are so confusing. Take a listen and see if you can relate to the same thing within your relationship. Dr Heidi is dedicated to helping you understand the situation you are in so that some of the confusion can be cleared. To find out more about the services offered follow this link: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Or go to https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) and see if your relationship may indeed be unhealthy for you.

Always follow your intuition they say. Ok, what if we don't know how to recognize our intuition amongst the convoluted words of others. Your body has a built in defense system but overtime it seems to stop working for our good. What are some signs that you could be receiving from you defense system headquarters? Well, you may feel tense, have circular thoughts, a pit in your stomach, or the sense you should avoid something, some place, or some person All of these signs (different for different people) may indeed be your bodies natural defense system attempting to keep you safe. It would be easier to see if it came with a flashing light or an electric shock and then an arrow pointing to the right choice, but it doesn't. Your intuition always comes in neutral, and does not tell you what to do. WELL UNFORTUNATELY NEITHER THE FLASHING LIGHTS NOR THE ELECTRIC SHOCK HAPPENED IN MY SITUATION AND TADA... I MISSED IT. Trusting your intuition is something that is learned. There may be mistakes, wrong decision, and opposite directions before you learn how to follow the safe route it is showing you. Looking for guided support in your healing from unhealthy relationship? The services offered by Dr Heidi can be found in the link below. She has walked through the fire and now helps others do the same. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

The Priority…Me!!! Retreat Is back, but this time available to any and all without travel or time off work. It Is scheduled Monday, May 13 through Friday, May 17, 2024.  By using your PODCAST PATRON DISCOUNT CODE: ILISTEN15 you will receive 15% off when register. (Code excludes the hardship payment option) For more information and registration https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page Guest speakers include 3 of my latest podcast guest.. can you guess who? After years of doing the up and down, back and forth, taking care of myself, giving it up for others, then back to taking care of myself, I have learned and am thankful to tell you that what I discovered was this…. I ACTUALLY HAVE WAY MORE CONTROL THAN I THOUGHT IT DID.  When things were not going well, I would look to others to support me through it, to fix it for me, and possibly take the blame for it. However, in the end it has always been a result of me slacking in the area of self care and prioritizing myself.  The other thing that I learned the hard way was that is was MY responsibility no one else’s. (That part hurt for a while, I was tired, I didn’t want to carry it anymore…..but when you have no other option than to rely on yourself …. You will figure out a way to do it.)  3 DAYS PUTTING MY ATTENTION BACK ON MYSELF AND wallah! 

Professional home organizer Cass Henry tells of her recent experience with decluttering her life by “throwing out” a relationship that was taking up too much space. She is an inspiration to all she encounters. Though just recently free, she is encouraging others to follow her lead and let go of the things that are cluttering up your life. Find Cass at transformedspaces.ca If you are wanting more details on the mentioned Priority…Me!!! Online retreat you can find those details along with all the other services offered by Coaching with Dr Heidi here. https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

After spending her first 40 years in the cultish Evangelical world, picking up many layers of cPTSD from family, religion and marriage. Charlotte is rebuilding her new life as a single mom of five kids (who has stopped homeschooling by the way.... tough decision) Single moms usually work, but in 2020 with complications from long covid she developed brain injuries along with some nervous system damage. She lost the entry level jobs she attempted to work and was unable to keep up with her long-time usual pace. This is a glimpse of her journey. Through an unhealthy marriage (arranged by the church) the leaving her evangelical upbringing (with its magical, mystical promises), She has learned God doesn’t pay your loans for you or stop abuse even if you make a covenant with Him. There is work to be done on your own part to break free of false hopes and lies in order to find your true self. Today Charlotte carries her message through her very own podcast "Crooked Little Girl" Take a listen: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/crooked-little-girl/id1697643420 Charlotte has been a long time listener of this podcast, It's Not Normal It's Toxic, and has been a member of my online support group for many years. (https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Her mission is to speak on the spiritual abuse she endured and warn others of falsities within religion where the teachings are... well abusive.

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

Sabrina Magnan is a Food Freedom & intuitive Eating Coach who helps chronic dieters heal their relationship with food & their bodies and develop lasting health-promoting habits so that they can find true authentic health, free from the obsession and guilt. Sabrina has a website as well as a podcast if you are looking for more information. https://sabrinamagnan.com/ https://sabrinamagnan.com/podcast

In this episode I will speak with 3 people that I have gotten to know very well over the last few years, they are all members of Strength Within. "Strength Within" is the support group that I run on facebook for those seeking understanding in your situation. The 3 guest today will be answering questions about how their lives would be different today if they had not gone through what they went through. These are some strong, determined, and now happy people who once did not feels as if they were. I hope this episode is as encouraging for you as it was for me while recording. Here is the link to the "Strength Within" facebook group if you are searching for a community that understands. https://www.facebook.com/groups/drheidistrength Looking for a deep dive? All services provided can be seen here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

 I know that you are going through times of adversity in your life, the high demands of your relationship and just plain keeping life in balance often seems like more than you can handle. Today you will be listening to me speak with a guest who has also had her share of adversities. Fiji McAlpine, today's guest is a yoga virtuoso who turned personal adversity into a global movement. After a debilitating back injury at 21, Fiji discovered the transformative power of yoga. Not just a remedy for her physical pain, yoga became her lifeline out of anorexia as well as an unhealthy marriage. This was an eye opening episode for me to record as she calls out many things that I KNOW I need to be inplimenting into my journey of healing and self discovery. She even calls me out and gives me a challenge, join me in the 14 day Yoga challenge that can be found on her website here: https://www.doyogawithme.com/content/14-day-yoga-challenge Without changing something our adversities grow, the more they pile up the more impossible making a change feels. Where body and mind connect is where Fiji has found her "Possible" Looking for a community to support you through learning, healing, and growing after a toxic relationship? Check out the We're INNIT Together Growth & Support Community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

The “Just Enough” Relationship is a devistation that almost no one ever sees coming. The just enough relationship is one that gives you “just enough” to keep you invested in the relationship, but not enough for you to feel safe, accepted, or appreciated.We tend to lower our standards as we accept less and less from those who are giving “just enough”. Real effort is not given unless the relationship is threatened.One is giving the least amount they can get away with giving and the other gives until they are desperately drained. You can become used to the way the “just enough” relationship is and accept not being valued or settle much less than you deserve.Relationships do not have to have huge flaws in order for you to justify leaving or changing one that is not right for you. How long have you stayed in the "just enough" relationship, at the "just enough" job, in the "just enough" friendship because you grew used to the poor treatment.

We all know that divorce is hard. It is something that affects everyone who is in the lives of those who are separating. With so much going on many do not realize the impact these changes have on the children that are caught in the middle. Those going through an amicable divorce can usually navigate things well so the children adapt with everyone else, but for those who are going through a high conflict divorce the storyline is much different. As a family law attorney and GAL for the state of Pennsylvania Elle Barr, has dedicated her life to making sure when there are kids involved she keeps her focus on them. Listen how she got into this work and how it has become her passion to protect those who are not able to protect themselves as "mom & dad" try to settle their differences. Learn more about Elle Barr here: https://ellebarr.com/ Be sure to follow her on social media: https://www.linkedin.com/in/elle-barr-252b14104 insta: @elle.barr.galGroups & programs currently available to you through Coaching with Dr Heidi are listed here: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

How many time have you gone back and forth between, "I should leave this relationship" and "maybe it's not that bad"? More than you care to remember I am sure. Making this decision is not easy, I know this because if it was easy, you would have already made it. If you are anything like me when I was in your position, then you are trying to make this difficult decision with only half of the information. You are the only one who can make this decision, but we don't realize it. Instead what we do, is allow their mood to make that decision. If they are in a good mood, we choose to stay, and when they are in a bad mood or treating us badly we will choose to leave. The problem with that is, it is never consistent, it is always unpredictable. So we swing back and for from staying and leaving almost on a daily basis. If you are one that can relate then this podcast is for you and my newest program is for you too. "On the Fence!" is a 3 month program that will give you the information you need to make the decision that is very best for you, and, you will make that decision with confidence. You can not decide anything with only half of the information. THE "ON THE FENCE!" 3 MONTH PROGRAM IS STARTING: Feb 5, 2024 This is an intense program lead and taught by Dr Heidi. IF YOU COULD FIND THE ANSWER TO THIS CONTINUALLY WEIGHING QUESTION, HOW WOULD IT CHANGE YOUR LIFE. All the information you will need to start moving forward. Its time, and it's your turn! FOR MORE INFORMATION ON THE GROUP AND ALL OF DR HEIDI'S SERVICES CLICK HERE: https://drheiditoxicrelationshipsupportgroups.start.page

Dr. Debi Silber is the founder of the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute and is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset and personal development expert. Over the last 30+ years, she has supported thousands of people to heal physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.She is fully dedicated to this mission because she believes that betrayal is one of the most painful experiences one could ever have. She knows because she has been there. It was her own betrayals, first from her family and then from her husband, that shattered her heart, trust, and life as she knew it. Betrayal can be something you carry around for a very long time without even realizing it. There is more than just one stage of betrayal, which one are you? Post betrayal syndrome will carry over into all aspects of your health and your life. Dr Debi walks with others through each stage giving the support that she knows her clients will need in order to stay focused and value the changes that the act of betrayal brought into their lives. Learn more about Dr. Debi and her work by visiting her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Follow Dr Debi on facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform or instagram https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Looking for a support group? Looking for answers? Are you confused about your relationship? Don't know where to begin? I am here to help. Visit my website for some tips on how and where to begin your journey to freedom from the toxic relationships is your life. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

2023 is coming to an end. I can not believe another year has come and gone. This year was a years of... UGG.. learning, digging, admitting, understanding, & growth for me. I had an indescribable year. If there is an emotion out there... I had it! If there was a feeling...I felt it! If there was a doubt...I questioned it! If there was trust... I tested it! And if there was change...I resisted it! 2023 wore me slick out, but in the end, it was incredible. I NEEDED IT! Dr Heidi Instructions for life that you will hear in this episode were born out of this year of transformation. They will not all resonate with you, but that is to be expected.... They are "MY" instructions for life. I hope you enjoy and I hope you take the time to reflect and write your own. Here is to another beautiful year.! Thank you for your continued support and trust in me! - Dr Heidi

Are you going through yet another holiday season, that does not all resemble the one you once had pictured in your mind. When you have relationships in your life that are not healthy for you, where controlling behaviors are present, or where that has been betrayal the supposed "Peace on Earth" doesn't seem so peaceful. Rather than spreading your "Joy to the World" you would rather "Deck someone's Halls". How do we navigate this time of year while attempting to balance all our normal responsibilities plus the added holiday demands while the toxic people in our lives go off the rails to ruin it all for us. We know they do this because your focus is not all on them like it normally is. This caused discomfort to their security and thus causes new, changed, or amplified behavior. Needing some tips to get you through the next couple weeks? Listen as our "betrayal expert" Dr Debi Silber shares with us how to juggle the painful devastation of betrayal while still longing to enjoy your holidays. Dr. Debi Silber is the founder the PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) institute. Learn more about Dr. Debi and her work by visiting her website: https://thepbtinstitute.com/ Looking for a support group? Looking for answers? Are you confused about your relationship? Don't know where to begin? I am here to help. Visit my website for some tips on how and where to begin your journey to freedom from the toxic relationships is your life. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

Today I was able to speak with fellow podcast hosts to get their perspective on the toxic relationship when there are narcissistic behaviors present. Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D, a mental health clinician, & Tara Blair Ball, a certified relationship coach, together are the hosts of the podcast "Breaking free from Narcissistic Abuse". The long term effects for those involved in toxic relationship are devastating. Those around you will not understand which will lead you to feel isolated to protect yourself. Kerry & Tara discuss how the brain changes when you are in relationships requiring survival from day to day. Why we see things differently than many and how to overcome the challenges that face us post toxic relationship. Some misconceptions about the toxic relationship are debunked giving some insight on how to heal yourself. You can find them here on their website or on social media sites @breakingfreefromnarcabuse. If you are seeking support for your situation check out the communities available at Coaching with Dr Heidi. We're INNIT Together Support Community Listen now!

Masking our personality is something that we all struggle with. It is easy to want to cover up who we really are around people who may not like us, around those who make us feel unsafe, or around those who we are threatened by. We change who we are in certain environments so our vulnerable ares and weaknesses do not show. Why would we do this? To gain approval/acceptance of others - To avoid conflict - To lessen fear - To gain love - To make others happy. I am not pointing fingers at anyone because I myself had perfected the art of mask wearing when I found myself facing the shame of being in an emotionally abusive relationship for many years. I did not realize the damage that had been done to my emotional health until years later. In order to hide my past I began to wear masks to that I would not have to explain to others anything about the shame I felt. I am not sure that anyone knew the true Heidi for many many years. What masks do you wear? Want to know where to go next? What is the best thing to do first? Click here and see how you are feeling right now and lets get started on throwing your masks out the window. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/work-with-me

Why is it that with the toxic relationship comes the art of minimization? To minimize is to take significant things, either good or bad, and lessen the importance or degree of them. In a nutshell minimizing makes the good things seem not so good and the bad seem not so bad. When we learn to minimize in a unhealthy relationship it allows us to avoid dealing with our emotions and our feelings. Do you minimize the things you should be celebrating? Are you minimizing abusive behavior? Learning how the emotionally abusive relationship can change so much in us just out of our need to survive. If you want more information about my services go to:https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/ If you are looking for a group for guidance & support check out the We're INNIT Together Community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Whether we like it or not transformations show up in our lives, sometimes at the most inconvenient times. We can fight them, but that will only make them last longer. The transformations in your life are there for a reason. We were not meant to stay the same person, we were meant to grow, to learn, to be our true self. With each transformation, even the painful ones, you will see that they are working for your good and for a place of higher peace in your life. To learn more about my mission and my work in the toxic relationship realm go to: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/

Unhealthy relationships change us, rewire us, cause us to adapt in order to survive. Being in a longstanding toxic relationship changed my view of myself, my life, and the things that I deserved. I forgot that I was important too. I put all my energy in to making the relationship “feel” safe and in the end, I lost myself which doesn’t feel safe at all. We, as individuals have certain rights. You had them given to you the minute you were born, yet they seem to disappear when surviving each day becomes your focus. Listen to this episode to hear the things you are entitled to just for being a person. Most were lost for me, ignored, or forgotten during my time in an unhealthy relationship. This episode will remind you of those rights and possibly open your eyes to the reality that you have been unable to execute them. If you are looking for a list of the rights that were read in this episode you can either search “personal bill of rights” or follow this link: https://www.etsu.edu/students/counseling/documents/stressgps/personalbillofrights.pdf As always if you are looking for further support https://coachingwithdrheidi.com will get you to my website where you can schedule a session or join the membership support community where you will find the support to make the changes you did not think you could make.

I direct people daily to specific podcast episodes they need to hear according to the situation they are in right now. Last week I featured the top episode for those seeking validation. This week I would like to suggest some to those who have made the choice for themselves to leave a relationship but who now may be struggling with self doubt or guilt. If you are feeling alone and uncomfortable now when you thought you were ready… it’s ok, it is normal to feel this way for a while. The following episodes may help explain why. If you feel you need more support you can always head over to my website and schedule a session with me I would be happy to support where I can. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/consult-page You are not alone on this journey!

I talk to a lot of people in a week, and I find myself referring them to the podcast episodes that I feel resonate with what they are needing right NOW. For those who are seeking validation that it is not all your fault, that you are not crazy, that you have tried your best; for those who have just begun there journey of learning what an unhealthy relationship can look like, these are for you. The top 4 most recommended (by me) It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic episodes for those seeking validation. If you are just beginning your search for what is not normal I challenge you to head over to my website https://coachingwithdrheidi.com and take the Toxicity Profile Analysis. It is a great tool for those whom toxic behaviors have come to be normal. Also while you are these take a look at the online support community where guidance and acceptance go hand in hand.

Get a sneak peek into a live session in the We’re INNIT Together Membership Support Community. See how it works, see if you like it. I is an example of how the live sessions go. How we interact, and what you can expect when joining the online membership support group. If you think it would be a good fit for you register here and we will see you there! https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community?sfw=pass1683508208

Rejection is a part of life, we all have times when rejection of a job, a date, or a social circle for example that may set us back a bit but with time there is often growth from the experience. Living in an environment where rejection  happens frequently the feeling of unacceptance can overtake ones confidence and self worth.Being rejected cause a reaction to hang on tighter to whatever is rejecting us. The worry of losing someone or something is more powerful than accepting the fact that you are being rejected.The toxic personality will use rejection as a manipulation to get those in their lives to hang on tighter. This draws attention back onto them and they feel more in control and secure in the relationship. Check out the Support community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

We all need the support of others whether we are in a toxic relationship, removing ourselves from a toxic relationship, or healing from a toxic relationship. This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you.

We soon figure out that the person from the beginning is not the person we now see in the relationship, that was because of love bombing. However, many are surprised at the behavior of thank you toxic personality when you are trying to exit. It seems strange, confusing, and sometimes hard to believe. I am here to tell you it is believable because it is normal for this to happen during the detachment from a toxic relationship. Listen again to what hoovering is, how it is used, and how to keep your focus while it is happening.

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband    I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us.     He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace. Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship? The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband    I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us.     He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace. Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship? The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband    I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us.     He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace. Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship? The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

I would like every one to meet Jeremy aka: My Hot Husband    I am not sure that our story is any bigger or better than anyone else's but it is bigger and better to us.     He found me at a time in my life when I was but a shell of who I am now. He gave me the feeling that even if it wasn't with him, there was something better out there for me. I am grateful everyday for this man and thankful that God sent him to me when there was no happiness, no laughter, and no direction in my life. I had given up on the hope that my future would be any different than my past and present, and then there he was my glimmer of hope. He loves me inspite of my past situation, my perceptions, and my insecurities. He has supported me in becoming the person I am today and helped me see that I am perfect in the eyes of the heart that was meant to love me. In this 4 part series my husband and I share our perspectives on the experiences, struggles, disappointments, joys, and realities that came with our relationship. With commitment to our love, dedication to each other, and a rule that we must laugh every single day, we have become not only partners in life but also best friends. As always, he stands unwavering by my side on my continued journey to finding my peace. Have you been looking for a support group? Looking for help making the choices that are best for you? looking for guidance from someone who has been in this exact situation? Needing to make a plan so that the next steps do not feel so frightening? Looking to rediscover yourself after the trauma of a toxic relationship? The We're INNIT Together Membership Support Community is soooo much more than a support group, so if you are ready to make some changes with the guidance needed to do so, check out the details for the community here: https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Life is about change, we all know that, but we want change that is happy, that moves us forward, that makes us grow. What happens when that change is unexpected and takes us in the opposite direction? How do we deal with that? We spend our time and energy trying to put things in place to welcome the change that is coming, yet sometimes the bottoms falls out from under us leaving us destitute and hopeless. Maranda is a woman of incredible strength. She had overcome, she had worked hard and she had survived, but when her daughter stepped out of her life all her efforts seemed in vain. What was her direction now? For so long loving and caring for her daughter is what she held on to as her life's purpose. With that swept away she had to refocus on herself and her own life. She had to value herself enough to carry on. Heartbreak and sadness covered her yet she has found her way to inner peace. She has become a guardian of her own soul having to accept the things that she can not control.

People talk about triggers, we are aware of triggers, we can understand some of them, but the triggers I am speaking of in this episode are the triggers that we can't seem to get away from. The ones that lay silent for a time and then suddenly turn our lives upside down. I have spent almost 15 years thinking I could "fix" all the negative effects toxic relationships had on me, but through frustration and shame I have had to come to terms with the fact that perhaps not all is "fixable". The acceptance of this was difficult. I felt flawed, broken, and beyond repair for so long that acceptance at first felt like I was giving up, in the end though I did not give up....I LET GO! Letting go is such a relief for me, I don't have to live under the pressure of hoping it doesn't happen or predicting when it may happen again because I know it will and I won't know when. I accept that they are part of me, and rather than denying it, I can move through them rather than fight them.

Once she removed from a toxic relationship, a single mother of two young boys found herself coping with the fear, stress, and loneliness with an occasional glass of wine. As the fear and stress continued so did the 'wine-ing' and it was no longer occasional. She found herself into a bottle of wine every night without the ability to control it. At an all time low, hopeless and depressed she begged for help. When no one came to help she helped herself. Helped herself into an online sobriety support group, helped herself into a sobriety class and helped herself into a new career of supporting others who are using alcohol as a way to cope with life. Today, she is working full time as an Alcohol Free Life Coach and Certified Professional Recovery Coach. She is the founder and CEO of SobahSistahs Sobriety, where she supports and empowers women to follow her lead, help themselves, and live a life free from the chains of alcohol. Learn More about SobahSistahs Sobriety here: Email:[email protected]:Sobahsistahs - Health Coach, Nutrition, Sober Coachingwww.sobahsistahs.com Ready to learn more about toxic relationships? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Rock bottom is a place that no one wants to find themselves, yet most of us do at some point. It is said that the good thing about hitting rock bottom is that there is only one way to go and that is up. ⭐️ Donavan ⭐️ is an example of just that. Life for him had many ups and downs, many sacrifices, and many struggles. Like all of us, he powered through thinking “I got it”, “It’s fine”, “I can handle anything”…. Until he couldn’t. Listen to this man’s inspirational journey and how hitting rock bottom was the best thing that could have happened to him. Thank you Donavan for taking the time and thank you for always being encouraging to others.

As we know being in relationships that are not healthy for us cause us to find ways to cope, some of the ways we do this may not be the best for us either. My guest today has firsthand experience in just that. Kay Allison helps professional women break their drinking habits and get free… free from booze, free from shame and free from anxiety. Breaking free from the things that tie us down is the only way to be truly free. We can cope with one by using another and possibly cope with that one by yet finding another, but in the end we are still held captive by all.

Kate Anthony, a divorce specialist helps women (especially with children)decide if they should stay in or leave their marriages. Join Kate & I today as we discuss a bit about divorce and the co-parenting that goes with it. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Welcoming back today Suzanne Falter, a writer and podcaster who tells us of her story of healing. Losing her daughter suddenly, at a very young age was a heartbreaking trial on Suzanne’s strength. Today she is a different person thanks to the guidance by her daughter after her passing. Trauma, no matter the type, requires self reflection, learning, and growth. Listen now to one woman’s story of growth and recommitment to what really matters.

“After many failed attempts, I finally regained my strength and never looked back” -Chantelle Branch. Today’s guest is a domestic violence survivor who has like myself turned her past into her passion as she leads others to ditch their “stinking thinking” as a Self-Love Specialist. She encourages love to be redefined through mind transformation and addresses the realities of the healing journey. Listen how one woman’s recovery has lead to a message of hope for future generations. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

There are many things that I gave up about myself when I was in an unhealthy relationship. If I would have known then what I know now I would have protected myself with all my strength. Instead, I began changing myself to become what someone else needed me to be in order for them to feel safe. I did not see that I was losing everything that was good about myself to prove myself worthy of another's love. I fell victim to what I call toxic identity theft and soon there was nothing about myself that I could even recognize. With that I also gave up my worth, my self acceptance, and my values. Do not let this happen to you, and if it already has start rebuilding today. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Those who have been through a toxic relationship will tell you that there were things that they thought were true about the situation, and now looking back with a clear mind realize they are not true at all. The years we spend thinking these are true become a long continual cycle of us not realizing that we keep doing the same thing over and over, thinking maybe this time it will work and the relationship will feel more comfortable. Here are the 5 things that many believe to be true at some point during the course of their unhealthy relationship. See if you have been thinking the same thing..... I know I did! Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Toxic Relationships are confusing and when we are trying to understand them and learn how to operate within them we often fall into behaviors that we believe will help make the relationship feel better. Many times these behaviors, not knowing they are "mistakes" cause continued confusion and become more and more difficult to remove yourself from. We would never know that we were making mistakes until we can look back on them. Ready to learn more? Join me in the "We're INNIT Together Community" https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/we-are-innit-together-community

Many are afraid to leave toxic relationships. We have become comfortable because we have learned how to survive within them, but what happens when we leave? When I left, I thought that's all there was to it. When I got into this relationship my life became disastrous and chaotic, so it would make sense that when I leave this relationship things will become less disastrous and less chaotic... Right? I don't think I even realized that there was a healing journey that needed to happen. Boy did I find out quickly that the toxic relationship had changed so much of me that I did not even know where to begin. Yes, there is a healing journey, and yes parts of it are painful, and yes I made it. I'm of course still healing but I am understanding more and more about myself everyday. Don't be afraid of the pain because the person that comes out of it makes it all worth it. We are formed by the things we go through, we are always going through something, and we are always on the journey.

I was never asking about tocix relationships or emotional abuse I was always asking what “I” needed to do to fix it. What are you asking yourself about your relationship?

We hear these terms all the time, Love Bombing & Hoovering. Today let’s dive a bit deeper into the similarities and the differences between them as it relates to the toxic relationship and why these behaviors show up when they do. Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Those who have been in toxic relationships will find that they are on a continual path of learning, growing, and self acceptance. I am no different. My January was tough, I am tired of fixing myself, trying harder, and being better. I gave that up this month. Thank you for your patience with me. -Dr Heidi Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Actress Anna Kendrick is quoted in an article by Kaitlin Reilly on 12/29/22 “her partner did not harm her physically, which made her question her perspective on the relationship. In this episode I will expand on emotional abuse, what it actually is, what it looks like, and what it feels like. How do you really know for sure? Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Understanding the goal that the toxic person has when having a conversation will help you understand and better manage those 3 hour unproductive conversations that you get looped into with the toxic person? Here’s why! Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Big eye opener for the listeners when this episode was published. Understanding why we see things the way we do really helped people make the decisions that they needed to make for them to be free. The BIG question, Why do I feel so sorry for the toxic person in my life? It has kept me trapped, I need to understand! Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Not a surprise that this ranked in the top 3 of 2022. We are all looking for people to understand and to be there for us on our journey but as many know, if someone has not been through it the dynamic as a whole is hard to grasp. This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you. Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Dr. Heidi talks about attending your kids Christmas events... Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Dr. Heidi talks about drinking when you don't have your kids..   Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Dr. Heidi talks about whether or not to get a Christmas card...   Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Dr. Heidi shares tips for getting through the holidays with a toxic partner. Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

Did you ever wonder what the children see when there is toxicity between their parents? How do they make sense of it? How to they learn to navigate? What affect does it have on the way they see the world and their future relationships. Today, sharing her experience and perspective on growing up in an unhealthy environment. …….There are many questions that arise about the children, about co-parenting, about how best to support them and each situation has its own specific dynamics that goes along with the children. On Dr Heidi’s NEW MEMBERS ONLY PODCAST you can get those very specific questions answered. Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com to join the membership and submit your questions.

Many times toxic relationships include an element of financial abuse and fraud. Listen as Tracy Coenen, Forensic Accountant shares how and what to look for when suspecting financial dishonesty in your relationship. Take her “Red Flag Assessment” Here: https://www.fraudcoach.com/a/2147522699/Vcr3YEey. Get more information on “The Divorce Money Guide Program” Here: https://www.fraudcoach.com/a/2147518094/Vcr3YEey

Being in a toxic relationship seems like the worst thing ever. Saying that, I agree partially because I would never want to be in another one.... Ever. When I look back, I am extremely Thankful for all that the toxic relationships in my life have done for me. Everything happens just the way it is supposed to. My mom used to say that to me when I was in the depths of the toxic cycle. As it turns out she was 100% right! Thanks mom! 🙋‍♀️ Want to ask Dr. Heidi a question about your toxic relationship?   Join our members only group at: itsnotnormalitstoxic.com 

Happy Thanksgiving! What are you thankful for? There is so many reasons to be thankful, my guest today is one of the people that I am the most thankful for! Join me and my daughter as we talk about what we are thankful for in this chapter of our lives. 🙋‍♀️ Want to ask Dr. Heidi a question about your toxic relationship?   Join our members only group at: itsnotnormalitstoxic.com 

Thanksgiving brings out the worst in our toxic partners.   Here's a helpful explanation of why they act this way, and how you can handle it better. 🙋‍♀️ Want to ask Dr. Heidi a question about your toxic relationship? Join our members only group at: itsnotnormalitstoxic.com And for this week only, use code THANKSGIVING22 to get 33% off of membership (only $10 per month)

Many of us experience toxic relationships but do not realize the truth about them until we can look backwards. We lose so much of who we are trying to fit better within the relationship. Today’s guest tells how she learned to function within it, accept it, and live it, until ….. she understood it. That was the day things changed for her. Want Dr. Heidi to answer your questions? Go to itsnotnormalitstoxic.com

The 4 pillars of my work, as symbolized in the 4 sections of my logo are the foundation to one's journey of healing. Listen as my friend and former client reveals how her EDUCATION on the toxic personality lead to her UNDERSTANDING how she and her life had been affected. This understanding gave her the EMPOWERMENT to move into a place of FREEDOM. Seeing things from a new perspective was all she needed to become clear on what living for herself actually meant. Thank you T'ra for sharing. 🙋‍♀️ Want your questions answered by Dr. Heidi? Go to ItsNotNormalItsToxic.com

👋 Hey everybody, it's Dr. Heidi. I get so many questions from followers, and over the years I have answered the same exact question many times over, which can only mean that many of you have the same questions.  These were the same questions I had when I was going through it. I'm also a big believer in learning from others, so I've decided to start answering these questions on my new members-only podcast. Now, as we know, most toxic people behave very similarly, so hearing the answers to other people's questions and the recommendations that I make for their future could be very helpful for you if you're trying harder to understand your personal situation. If you'd like to become a member to hear questions answered, you can go to: toxic.supercast.com and become a member there. You can also submit questions that you may have.   It's only $15 a month. And in addition to the questions and answers, it's also going to include tips on dealing, and tips on healing. And I, Dr. Heidi, for the first time, am going to be sharing much, much more of my personal journey. ✅ Go to toxic.supercast.com to become a member and submit your questions.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com We hear it all the time, "you just need to love yourself more", yet no one gives us an instruction manual on how to do that or how to even begin. Time and energy are worn thin when you are in a toxic environment with all of our attention on others and very little attention on ourselves. Here are 5 things that you can do today to begin the process of loving yourself just a little bit more.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?   Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com There were many reasons that I stayed in an unhealthy relationship for so many years (see episode “8 Reasons We Stay). Listen now to the 8 reasons that I finally left the toxic relationship of my past. They may sound similar.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Join me today with Rob with WTF Divorce. He found that navigating divorce was much more difficult than he thought it would be. He has established a solid following helping many make this journey with the support that they need.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Why do we stay in unhealthy situations so long? I asked myself that many times. These were some of the reasons that I stayed too long where I didn’t belong. Can you relate?

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com As always mid year I do a recap of the episode that made the biggest impact on the listeners. Here is the episode that ranks #1 as the most popular episode.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com As always mid year I do a recap of the episodes that made the biggest impact on the listeners. Sometimes I am surprised at the results. Here is the episode that ranks 2nd in the most popular episode of all time.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com As always mid year I do a recap of the episodes that made the biggest impact on listeners. Sometimes I am surprised at the results. Here is the episode that ranks 3rd in the most popular of all time.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Many struggle with the toxic parent. The guilt, the obligation, the dedication to them giving you life. What do we do when a parent is controlling aspects of your life, our emotions, our outside relationships, and our own view of ourselves? You actually do have permission to choose yourself. You are not punishing them when you do this, you are freeing yourself from the toxicity they have and are bringing into your present life. Listen now how one woman chose herself and her own life over the constant demands of a toxic mother.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com You know those 3 hour unproductive conversations that you get looped into with the toxic person? Here’s why!

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Self care expert Suzanne Falter joins us today to share how her life path gave her no other option but to focus on self care. As a business women, toxic relationship survivor, and a loving parent, Suzanne was forced to choose self care when there were no other options. She is now an amazing leader in self care and a mentor to many.

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Today my guest Chelsea Leigh Trescott shares her story about how disappointments in her life have lead her to where she is today. A break up coach. There are so many things that we need to “break up” with in our lives, relationships, negative self talk, others opinions, old habits, you name it Chelsea has got the silver linings for you!

🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com Join me with Lori Paul, a certified Family Recovery Coach, as we unravel how addiction causes much cloudiness within a toxic environment. She is amazing!

Red Flags can be confusing at the beginning of a relationship. Are you questioning some yourself? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?    Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com 

Amy Natalie is an empowerment coach and embodiment guide for conscious women, spiritual seekers, and feminine leaders. She has inspired thousands of women around the world with her work, centered on reconnecting women with their feminine energy and stepping into their Feminine power. Listen as she tells us how she stepped over fear and doubts to discover her true self and how she has attained the passionate life that she was intended to have. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

3 years ago I did an episode about how abuse escalates. It was with a dear friend of mine. A self defense instructor, domestic violence advocate, mother, friend, and pillar of strength to many. She allegedly lost her life last fall to the very thing she stood so strongly against. Rest In Peace My Friend. I promise when the time is right I will tell your story to the world. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

The BIG question, Why do I feel so sorry for the toxic person in my life? It has kept me trapped, I need to understand! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Today’s guest is a survivor of an unhealthy relationship. Listen as she tells her story and how she and her children had to face not only the reality of escaping the environment but also survive the unexpected turn their life would take after that. She is a pillar of strength and although she is still healing there is no doubt that her story will touch many of you close and other of you even closer. 💚💚💚💚💚 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Another great episode featuring some of the members from our Strength Within community. Hear their stories, their struggles, and their victories. “Strength Within” is a private facebook support group run by Dr Heidi. It is a place where people understand, know how you feel, and can encourage you along the path in and out of a toxic relationship. 💚💚💚💚💚   🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?   Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com

Valentine’s Day is tough for those within unhealthy relationships. Just wanted to remind you what Love is really like. (Originally published 2/16/2020) 💚💚💚💚💚   🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?   Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com

Boundaries are a tough subject in the lives of those in as well as those recovering from toxic relationship. Join me with Divorce coach Wendy Sterling as we talk about how to become confident in re-establishing your personal boundaries. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com 

Today I turned 50. I have never really learned to celebrate ME! Today I will share 50 things that I have learned over the last decade through my healing and journey to self discovery! Healing is hard, it takes energy but looking back over the last 10 years, I finally love who I am! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?   Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:   https://toxic.supercast.com 

This episode is for you to forward to those who are wanting to support you but do not understand the dynamics of a toxic relationship. Educating those who love and support you will equip them to stand stronger beside you. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?  Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:  https://toxic.supercast.com

Understanding sex is hard but understanding sex within a toxic relationship is even harder. Why is it so good? Why is it so bad? How can it be so good and so bad at the same time? Looking at sex in a toxic relationship is no different than looking at the relationship itself. Are the goals the same, or are the goals of the act different? Relationships are based on the goals of those involved, sex is a part of that. Let's take a closer look! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Life in a toxic relationship will always feel out of balance. We can not focus on ourselves when they demand our time and attention. 2022 is a new start! Give yourself some of your precious time and energy this year instead of giving it all away! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How one woman has learned to keep her peace on earth even when having to co-parent through the joyous holiday season. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Like yours, my life did not go anything like I had planned. In the end, it happened just the way it was supposed to…. And for that, I am Truly Thankful. Happy Thanksgiving to all! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join me with Cristina, a abuse survivor, as she shares how she made the journey from the fear that toxic relationships bring to having freedom in a life all her own. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Can someone just tell me what to do? Many times there are people in our lives who may not be healthy for us yet, we are unable to to fully remove them from out lives. Co-parenting, work relationships, families, and social circles are hard to just walk away from. Here are some ways you can Keep Calm & Carry On in Toxic situations. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

When you begin to learn about toxic personalities and the tactics they use, you begin noticing these things everywhere. It makes us wonder if everyone in our life is toxic. Listen now to learn how to decide if those around you or even yourself is using traits in a toxic manner. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Stepping back a bit and heading back to the basics for a while. Many are seeking answers, many have just began the journey, and many are questioning both the relationship as well as themselves. Let's go back to the beginning and simplify things for you. If you are new here, great, if you are a return listener this will be a great reminder and reflection. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Listen as Dr Heidi speaks with a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist on the pros and cons to going through therapy with a toxic personality. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Being in the mental health profession as well as experiencing toxic relationships in her life, Laura talks about the constant steady push to healing. The emotional roller coaster of healing makes many feel defeated. Laura talks about her own journey of healing and how it has transformed both herself and her work. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Get a different perspective on the religious and spiritual ties that may be keeping you in a relationship that is not healthy for you. Today's Guest Jerry Wicker, a certified lay minister, understands the importance of keeping the scripture in context when the toxic cycle and abuse is an issue within a relationship. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Listen as she tells us how both addiction and trauma bond played into her personal journey when she found herself in a toxic relationship. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

After years of not allowing myself to take breaks, I have learned that I am much better for everyone, when I do. You will be too! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Toxic people are addicted to chaos and drama, Why? When they stir up chaos the attention of others goes to them. When they can demand your attention, time, and energy for their chaotic situation you have no attention, time or energy to put into yourself. They feel power and control when those around them have chaos in their lives. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This episode has made a huge impact on many of my listeners! Hope you enjoy! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Hearing from others who are going through the same thing can be an inspiration to us. Knowing we are not alone in this journey is essential in getting the support and encouragement you need as you travel this journey. Listen to others who are going through similar situations and how they have found their Strength Within. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Isolation is something we don't always notice until it is too late. Toxic people intentionally isolate you from the people and things that support you the most and bring you fulfillment. Listen to find out why this is so detrimental to our wellbeing and we don't even realize it is happening. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Today I want to introduce you to Matthew Phifer, another toxic relationship specialist who has reached many through his social media talent. His experience and passion guides his dedication to those who struggle with abuse of many kinds. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Kate Lacroix lives in Boulder, Colorado with her two hilarious daughters runs STOCKED, a pantry-building service that teaches women how to save money on their grocery bill and invest the savings. As a proud dual Canadian-American, she is happy to be working on food and finance solvency issues and her work has taken her everywhere from the Rachael Ray Show to the halls of congress. You can reach her at [email protected] or @sheisstocked on instagram. Dr. Heidi listeners may sign up for the free or paid subscriber version of her newsletter here. https://stocked.substack.com/ 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We are superheroes! We can get anything done! No matter the ask, we got it! Why? We run ourselves ragged for the unrealistic expectations of the toxic personality without even a question. They say it we do it! That is how it has become. Why again? We respond to their needs to avoid conflict, criticism, disapproval and disappointment. Unrealistic Expectations are a form of emotional abuse when used on a continual level within a relationship. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Guilt is an emotion, guilt can NOT make you do or not do anything, yet guilt seems to have a power that we can’t control. You are actually in control of your own emotion of guilty. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Many struggle with the reality of self sabotage after leaving or within an unhealthy relationship. Is it really “self” sabotage or is it possibly “induced” sabotage? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Stuck in a toxic relationship? Ask yourself why? What is keeping you from making changes? Where do you start? Those and many others answered here! I’m here for you-Dr Heidi 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How is it that we can feel so lonely when we are not alone? Toxic Relationships do not provide the things that bring us support, joy, and companionship and at the same time isolate us from the people and things that do. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We talk about NO Contact, but why is it so hard.... because all the toxic person needs is contact in order to remain feeling in control. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We have all felt it, the shame that goes with the toxic relationship experience. How to deal with it and leave it in the past! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What is it that keeps us there? Lots of things, but one of them is because we develop toxic relationship amnesia. Meaning we forget the bad things in order to survive within it! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why the silent treatment and why is no contact so important? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This man has had quite the journey, he has changed his life by learning how his toxic past has affected him. He wrote this letter for all who are still struggling. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Trying to raise children with a Toxic Former Partner? I don’t have all the answers but I can tell you what to expect and suggest a few things that may help! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We are told over and over the “relationships are work” but are you working towards the same goal? Because if you are not you are working in vain. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Worried that you are going to spend yet another year in a place that is not healthy for you? Listen now for some tips on how to move forward to a happy healthy you before another year quickly disappears. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Are you finding that your health is declining? Living in environments with chronic stress will cause the human body to adapt to keep itself going. Learn what the signs and symptoms are so that you can identify if your toxic situation could be affecting your health at a deeper level than you may realize. Dr Heidi has a full adrenal fatigue recovery program available and has walked many back to a healthy balance after living in emotionally unhealthy situations. Listen Now. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Listen now to the 2nd most popular podcast of 2020. Why is it so hard to leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments? Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why does it seem so hard to walk away from those we know are unhealthy for us. Logically it should be easy.... however it is anything but easy. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This is a replay of one of the most popular podcast episodes. The Holiday season brings with it some of the hardest days of the year to those involved with or dealing with people who carry toxic personalities. Listen again to prepare yourself for the upcoming weeks. If you know it is coming and know why it is happening it is not as hard to deal with when the erratic holiday behaviors present themselves. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What is the difference between being accepting in a relationship and settling in a relationship? A bit cloudy but there is definitely a difference. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why do we need so much validation that a relationship is not healthy for us? There are many reasons... Listen and see if you can relate. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Many of you have asked how to start back to dating again after the toxic teardown. Today on the show we have an expert to give us some forward steps you can take to get yourself back out there. Welcome to Kimberly Seltzer, another woman who has turned her past into her passion by helping others move forward with confidence in their dating lives. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

It should be simple right? Why do we not feel the peace we expect waiting for us after leaving a toxic environment? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Toxic relationships are not only found in intimate settings. Friendships are relationships too and many of them are not what you think they are. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Married into the bliss of a toxic family? Every family had different dynamics but maybe just maybe you can get some tips. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How did I end up here? It seemed to be good in the beginning, or at least seemed like something that had the potential to get better. Now here I am wondering how I got here. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Answers to questions that have been submitted by listeners and support group members. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

To be the person that I needed when I was going through it is my mission. I dedicate this episode to the person in my life who did that for me. I Love You! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Toxic People are identity thieves. The less you are in tune with yourself the easier it is for them to remain in control 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why is it so hard to move forward once we leave, cut off, or distance ourselves from toxic environments. Why is it that the happy free feeling I thought I would have is not there? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join me and my guest Lesley, Host of the Mighty Talks Podcast, as she talks about her recover from life trauma and a chronic illness. She talks about the strength she gained as she turned her healing into a mission to help others. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join me and my guest who has not only disconnected from the toxic people in his life but also found the strength and motivation to change his whole perspective on how he lives his life. He is now in the driver’s seat! He is free! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Are you having symptoms of emotional abuse fatigue/adrenal fatigue? Listen now to hear the symptoms that you may be having that are caused by living in the chronic stress of a toxic relationship. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This is dedicated to a listener who has had to go no contact with her mother. She is struggling on how to deal with it moving forward as it is still causing her to struggle with her past. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We are emotional beings, we want to believe what others say. Be aware that toxic people say and do whatever they need, to get what they need, when they need it. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Listen as Dr Heidi visits with her first ever Toxic Relationship Client. Taylor was a huge inspiration and validation that I move forward with this work. Thank you Taylor for Sharing your Story. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We call it moody but this is a whole different type of moody. How can they be nice one minute, then awful, and the next day nice again. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

CHANGE! YIKES!! Who doesnt like the thought of change? If so why are we so resistant to actually making it? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Raised to feel that you have to be loyal to those who have mistreated you? Is Blood Really Thicker than Water? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How security and insecurities play a role in relationships. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How and why does it go from so good to so bad so fast? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

I get asked all the time how I did it. How I was able to leave, heal, and move forward? Truth be told....... I don’t truly know, all I know is that I did not stop. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We spend much time looking at the toxic people in our lives wondering if they are really toxic or not. This episode lets look at you and how toxic prat is of others may be or have affected you, how you feel, how you act, how you see yourself. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Are you experiencing higher than normal conflict with your toxic person. There is a reason for that. The situation in the world is out of everyone’s control including the toxic people. They need control to feel secure so if you are one that is feeling the increase in the heat...... here is why. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Trauma Bonding explained and why it is so hard to understand the difficulty in leaving unhealthy situations. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This state of national emergency has my heart going out to those who are in toxic situations. This is going to be a tough couple weeks. You can do it! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We are trained by repetition and reprimand to accommodate to the toxic personalities needs. How do we untrained? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Put the cloudy thoughts away and put LOVE into perspective. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How one determined person persists in her struggle to understand toxicity in relationships and in the importance of finding and living for oneself. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Pop up Podcast with Dr Heidi talking off the cuff and answering listeners questions. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

My guest today has a podcast of his own, he is an ever growing dream of leadership and direction, but he also has experience with toxicity in many areas of his both business and personal life. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join us for a look into the religious/spiritual angle of riding your life of those who are unhealthy for you. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What is your life satisfaction rating? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What do you want your life to look like 366 days from now. How do you move forward when you feel so stuck? Episode #1 using your strength to move you forward! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why is it that what are supposed to be the happiest of times end up being some of the worst memories we have. How is it that every holiday season ends up in disappointment? There is a reason that toxic people and holidays do not mix. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

When will this what seems to be a struggle end? I feel like I have served my time!!! Truth is you are on a journey and you have already been healing. You have already survived everyday that you thought you wouldn’t . You are already moving and growing! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

When you hear or see that the are not doing well, out of control, or reckless, what is your responsibility.? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

There are many reasons that you ma be feeling like you are the one who is bringing toxic traits to the relationship. We are all capable of being toxic but we are not all “toxic” 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Dr Heidi featured in Forbes: https://www.forbes.com/sites/stephanieburns/2019/10/17/4-tips-to-handle-toxic-co-workers#639c65774960 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

We hear it all the time, “you really need to love yourself more” ..... easy to say hard concept to grasp. Let’s talk about ways you may not be owing yourself so you have a place to start! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Many experience the silent treatment when they are in unhealthy environments. What does it mean and why does it happen? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Many wonder why no contact is so important when removing yourself from a toxic situation. Here are a few of the reasons why I stress the importance of the concept. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Triggers pop up at the most inconvenient times. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

I have been blessed to help others through the fire of toxic relationships, in doing so I am coming from a place of understanding. Why because I was there and I remember.. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Your letting go you are to loosing, you are not giving up and you are not weak. Let go! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

The only person you are destined to become is the person that “you” decide to be! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why do I feel like I am “in love” with someone that I know is not good for me? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Making changes in life is exciting but I found that changes in my life were also very scary. Why do we resist change.... usually the fear factor! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How to digest the changes in the social circles and friends when leaving a toxic environment. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Today I am talking off the cuff. I felt the need to let out whatever decided to come our today! Not to bad! Let me know what you think!!!! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Dr Heidi and her ideas .... 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Today you will here from Joe, a male who has stepped out of his past of repetitive unhealthy environments and into healing himself by discovering who he was really meant to be. Toxic relationships do not discriminate and Joe has made it his mission is to take a stand for the males who may be struggling in this area. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

There are so many feelings to processs when leaving a toxic environment it can become overwhelming. How and why we have them! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

taking care of ourselves goes by the wayside when we are involved with toxic people. It is easier to put ourselves last on the list than to have conflict of fight for ourselves. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Removing yourself from a Toxic environment is easier said than done. We all know that there are people around us who do not understand, they just don’t get it! I do!!! I was there. Looking back on my journey to freedom....Wow is would not want to do it again but what I have learned and knowing who I am now makes it total worth it! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How does someone who says they “love” me treat me this way? Toxic people do not love the way we do.... the end! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Have you felt the pain, the panic, the numbness after learning of infidelity in your relationship? Remember toxic people get what they need at the expense of others. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Intertwined in the many types of abuse is the control and often withholding of the financial resources. Why is this apparent in most all types of abuse? Control!!! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Toxic relationship in our lives can be with things other than people. The guest on todays podcast can tell you why. Addictions of any type are toxic relationships in hiding. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Have you been betrayed with no way to recover? Betrayal is devastating because it can only happen with someone you trust. What now? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Oh the dreaded decisions, who want to be the one to make a decision? Not me! It is easier to allow others to make them for me so I don’t have to worry that it is the wrong one. Making decisions is a part of life, it gives you independence. Toxic people steal your decision making ability as a form of control. Take it back. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi?  Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast:  https://toxic.supercast.com

Mother’s Day... Ugg.... is it Happy? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Everyone is different but many struggle with the aftermath of leaving a toxic situation. Learn a few tips that a may help you through the transition. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

IF you have been feeling that “something is wrong” or “something is not right” here is a quick relationship scan that may get you to thinking about your situation. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join me and my guest for an encouraging perspective of healing from a toxic relationship and how at a young age she was able to see clearly the damage it was causing. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This episode features a group of those just getting ready to finish up the group coaching program here at Coaching with Dr Heidi.... you should have seen the transition that I was able to see between the first class and today. They know now that if someone is not healthy for you, you are allowed to vote them off your island. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Are you listing reasons or making excuses. There is a fine line between the two. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What are we running from? Recap of the 2019 It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic Conference. What a perfect group of people!!!! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How is it that abuse grows within a personal relationship? Join us to understand what is truly violent and abusive behavior. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Walk through a journey with someone who knows how difficult the struggle is to move on from what is “normal” to what is truly normal. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Laughing is the best medicine..... 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Who do you see when you look in the mirror? Who would you like to see? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Triggers!!! Yuck... How do we get rid, over, around and through them? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Being lonely is a fear that keeps many in and causes many to go back to toxic relationships. Why is it so scary? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Surprise testimonial! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Join me in an interview with a client that has great insight on what to expect while raising children with a Toxic person! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Your body is adaptable and just like adapting to a stinky room your body adapts to stressful situations which make them seem not so stressful. Why because they become normal to us. What effects on your health may be from living in a chronically stressful environment? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

What to expect when finding yourself in the middle of a smear campaign and what you should do about it. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Last week when Melissa and Angela asked me questions that made me think about myself I realized how much we don think about ourselves. This is a fun interactive podcast to get you thinking about yourself and your life. Have fun! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Many have asked to know a little bit more about Dr Heidi so here your go! Melissa and I (Angela) cornered her for an interview. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Have you done research on toxic relationships, emotional abuse and narcissistic behavior and found that you had to then do research on words and phrases within your research? It is VOCAB time!!! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

My logo is a representation of the 4 steps that I moved through in my own healing process. It is also the 4 steps that program presents. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Thinking about you and your life goals, values and dreams is not easy when you are in a toxic relationship. Let’s start building you from the inside out! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

This is the live recording of the HO HO Hopeful Webinar if you were not able to attend. Long awaited Announcement Revealed!!! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

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Should I call the toxic person out on being toxic? What do I do about the anger I have? Are the toxic people in my life aware they are this way? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Looking back there are so many things that I am grateful for that may not make a whole lot of sense to others. I am grateful for everything that my past has lead me through. As it turns out the years I thought I was struggling I was actually in training to help others experience in the same or similar situations. I am grateful for the listeners who have shared my podcast with others who are struggling to heal and remove form toxic relationships. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Hear what others have to say! Hi this is Angela, Dr. Heidi’s administrative assistant/general badass. I hijacked the podcast platform today because I think you all need to hear some of what Dr Heidi’s clients are saying about the work she does and her dedication to it. She is actually quite amazing! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Welcome back Melissa! Your questions about obligation and guilt answered here. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

How do we decide what is in our control and let go of what is not? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Why do we stay in an environment that is unhealthy for us? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Toxic relationships warp our sense of what a healthy relationship may look like, listen to get an idea of how it may be different than one that is not healthy for you. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Improve with Melissa on our way back after visiting her home in Ohio 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Take the feel the Freedom challenge today. Stand in your power 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Introducing the team at coaching with dr heidi ... we are here for you! 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

Are you too sensitive? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

A stroll down Instagram lane 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

My guest Dr Morgan 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

To good to be true? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

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Easier Said than done. 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

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Criticism 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

New beginnings: Education & Self Discovery 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

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Why do they act nice in public and mean at home? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

They make me doubt myself, how do I deal with that? 🙋‍♀️ Want your question answered by Dr. Heidi? Join our NEW members-only It's Not Normal, It's Toxic podcast: https://toxic.supercast.com

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Welcome to It's Not Normal, It's Toxic with Dr. Heidi. If you have a question for Dr. Heidi, you can ask at: toxic.supercast.com

I’m Dr Heidi, your toxic relationship awareness and healing specialist. I did not have anyone who really understood what I was going through when I found myself in an unhealthy relationship. With that on my heart I set out to be the person that I needed when I was going through it, for others. It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic is a podcast featuring the things you may be missing and misunderstanding about the difficult relationships in your life. My life experience allows me to deeply connect with others who are walking a path similar to mine. I am here to help you see what you can not see from where you are now. Episode #144 would be a great place to start on your path to clarity. If it resonate please subscribe so you don’t miss any important information that may help strengthen you to make a change. Visit my website and take the time to submit the Toxicity Profile Analysis (TPA) and see how the toxic traits of others may be affecting your life as well as check out more information about me and my mission. https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/toxicity-analysis?sfw=pass1692382502