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Higher Thinking With Ashley And Bar

English, Social, 1 season, 49 episodes, 1 day, 21 hours, 26 minutes
On I Need Wine, we talk about everything from relationships, sex, friendships, parenting, trauma, careers, and so much more (like conspiracy theories because who doesn't love those)! Two women, talking over wine and being raw and honest about things that women go through and how we manage to stay sane (or not) through it all!
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Should you apologize to your children ?

Just a married couple taking sh*t
11/22/202248 minutes, 58 seconds
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Casey Anthony is GUILTY

Just a married couple talking sh*t
11/18/202243 minutes, 53 seconds
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Americans Are Annoying

Everything reality tv this week
11/7/20221 hour, 39 minutes, 47 seconds
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In todays podcast Ashley and her mom address everything. If you’ve seen it on social media, they are giving the backstory. From TMFR to shady family members, this is an episode you won’t want to miss.
9/14/202256 minutes, 59 seconds
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It’s a miracle that we are here!

This week Ashley and Bar discuss everything on their mind. Ashley talks about school and what may be her biggest downfall. Bar is stunned that his favorite childhood actors are getting old. The world is spinning faster, and life could be falling apart lol.
8/12/202255 minutes, 29 seconds
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Introducing a sexy motherf*****

This week Ashley chats with Bar about his past life and what he’s learned abroad. They discuss trying/seeing new things and how that changes a persons perspective on life. Finally, Bar talks about having 57 siblings lol.
8/5/202251 minutes, 12 seconds
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What is grafting ? Where is Britney Spears. Who is a clone ?!

This week Ashley and Bar discuss changes in their life and why the podcast had been briefly abandoned. They also discuss new tv shows and movies that are sparking conversations on social media. What would be the first thing you do in a zombie apocalypse? Close the blinds , according to Bar !
7/28/202245 minutes, 42 seconds
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"Do You Know You're Having Twins??" with Lex

This week Jessica talks with Lex as she shares her story on finding out she was having twins, having a high risk pregnancy, and more! Jessica then shares her twin pregnancy and birth story as well. Follow @lex.ginger on TikTok and Instagram to follow her twin mama journey!
6/22/202257 minutes, 23 seconds
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Home Decor Trends, When To Buy A Home, Special Guest: Samir

This week Ashley and Jessica talk about the home decor trends that we so often feel the need to keep up with! Farmhouse to modern to minimalism, it's just a way to get our coin! Ashley talks to Jessica about being ready to buy a home but not knowing if it is the right time or not. We then get to talk to our special guest Samir (@samir, @zillowgonewild, @kalesalad) about the crazy homes people send him on @zillowgonewild, the celebrity homes he reviews on YouTube and how the butt measurement system can help you design a kitchen!
6/15/202253 minutes, 4 seconds
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If You See Me Hitchhiking...

This week we have Ashley back with us and the girl's just catch up on last week's episode. They also talk about everything from preschool graduations, gas prices, the earth being ghetto and the reason why we tip certain professions? 
6/8/202236 minutes, 52 seconds
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Childhood Trauma, Toxic Relationships, People Suck

This week Jessica talks with our friend Ebony about everything from childhood trauma, toxic relationships, self-worth and more! We get into the heavy stuff but as always, add in some laughs because laughs fix everything, right? 
6/1/202256 minutes, 23 seconds
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"I'm Pretty Sure There Is Crack In This"

This week Ashley & Jessica talk about Jessica growing up as a Mexican-American and not being "mexican enough". Have you ever felt like you weren't accepted in your culture? Ashley also speaks on Bar relating and feeling that way because he is mixed. Then they get into how hard it can be to watch friends, family members, or significant others struggling while not being able to help them. The girls also give each other updates on school and what their plans are in that department. 
5/25/202244 minutes, 49 seconds
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"I'm Not A Dumb Flunky"

So this week the girls discuss the "reunion drama" and what loyalty means to some. For Ashley, removing herself from that was the best course of action because it was just a little too messy. They also discuss their fitness journey and how working out and eating right can be SO difficult for them. Ashley & Jessica also touch on their beauty studio opening and dinner which was unfortunately filmed but not shown this season. They reflect on all of the hard work that Ashley put in during that difficult time in her life and how it was unfortunately overshadowed. They finish up this episode answering some questions from the viewers/listeners!
5/18/202248 minutes, 2 seconds
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Teen Mom 2 Finale, Growing In The Public Eye

This week we are doing a recap of the Teen Mom 2 season finale. We go through Ashley's season and recap what was going on, how she was feeling, what was filmed vs. what was aired. We then do a recap and share our reactions to what things the other girls were going through. Hang with us while we share our unfiltered thoughts.
5/11/202258 minutes, 35 seconds
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Met Gala, Drinking Each Other's Blood, Step Parents

This week we get into the looks of the Met Gala and how some people did or didn't impress us. All of the Kardashians being invited to the Met Gala was the big topic of conversation, how did you all feel about their looks? We also get into the fact that MGK and Megan Fox drink each other's blood for "ritual purposes". How do we feel about that? We finish up this episode by speaking on the topic of step parenting, bonus parents, deadbeat dad's and more! 
5/4/202257 minutes, 4 seconds
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Team Johnny, Can You Really Trust Anyone, If we were kidnapped

This week we start off with an update on the Johnny Depp & Amber Heard trial. Then we speak about how hard it can be to find people you can really trust, especially if you’re someone in the spotlight. Then we get into some true crime recommendations and some scary what if scenarios! *also, apologies for the audio being different. We are out of town and it picked up EVERYTHING including Jessica’s gum & background music. Back to normal next week guys, we love you and thank you for dealing with our dumb mistakes*
4/27/202248 minutes, 48 seconds
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Johnny Depp/Amber Heard, Idolizing Celebs, Pro-Choice

Live episode this week! We discuss everything from the Johnny Depp/Amber Heard trial to idolizing celebs, clickbait articles, being pro-choice and more!
4/22/20221 hour, 8 minutes, 21 seconds
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Kidless Vacations, Teen Mom 2 Reunion, Wedding Update

This week the girls update each other on Jessica's trip to Austin and Ashley's trip to LA for the Teen Mom 2 Reunion. Have you taken a kidless vacation? Jessica talks about how much moms want a break but then when you get one, you can't help but miss your babies. She's not alone, right? Ashley tells Jessica about the reunion and if it went smoothly or not because reunions usually get a little crazy. Then they speak about wanting to make sure that they help their kids make those amazing "core memories" and that vacations and experiences are more important than toys and gifts. This episode wraps up with an exciting wedding update for Ashley & Bar and how Ashley decided to change things up. 
4/13/202246 minutes, 58 seconds
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Doomsday Prep, Meanings of Dreams, Adulting Sucks

On this week's episode, Ashley brags about going to the Bridgerton Ball, hello? Where's the invite? Then we go down the rabbit hole of doomsday prep, underground bunkers and canned chicken? Are we the only ones that have these thoughts or? Next, we both speak on recurring dreams and whether they have meaning or are just random? We want to know. We finish up by reminiscing of being a kid watching PBS, Disney channel and riding your bike to the corner store and discuss the fact that our kids will never be able to do some of the things that we did!
4/6/202253 minutes, 23 seconds
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The Oscars, Teen Mom 2, Social Media

On this week's episode we HAD TO talk about the slap of the century. We discuss how we feel about the Will/Jada/Chris debacle and whether we support the smack or not. Jessica is taking a social media break and they speak about how it can be beneficial at times to just unplug and reflect. Ashley then opens up about how she feels about this week's episode of Teen Mom 2 and how hard filming can be when it comes to the heavy, real life situations. 
3/30/20221 hour, 18 minutes, 14 seconds
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Trauma Can Define You: A Dive Into Euphoria

So this week we get a little heavy and speak about the show Euphoria. We do issue a trigger warning for this week's episode because of the content that is discussed. We dive into each character, give a brief background of them as well as get into some of their struggles/decisions/traumas. This show talks about taboo subjects that many of us have had some encounter with throughout our lives. This show highlights the struggles of the "it girl", the "bad bitch", the "star quarterback", the "addict" and many many more. Ashley and Jessica both speak on how they feel about the characters as well as how they can relate to many of them. 
3/23/20221 hour, 16 minutes, 52 seconds
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Special Guests: Leah & Jaylan From Teen Mom 2

This week we talk to Leah & Jaylan from Teen Mom 2! They give us all the details on their current relationship status and how they fell in love! We speak about Leah feeling guarded in the beginning and how Jaylan was able to make her feel comfortable with opening up and allowing him into her and her children's lives. How does he get along with the girls? How does he get along with Corey & Jeremy? Are they living together? Is marriage in the cards? They answer all of those questions and so much more!
3/16/202251 minutes, 13 seconds
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Special Guest: Kim from 90 Day Fiancé

KIMBAAAAAALY is here with us this week! Ashley & Jessica speak on the whole idea of 90 Day Fiancé, how the cultural differences can sometimes change things and if they could possibly fall in love like that. Ashley makes it very clear she needs that physical connection before any kind of commitment (can't blame her). Then they bring on their special guest Kimberly from 90 Day Fiancé where she talks about her and Usman, their connection, misconceptions, and of course, some tea is spilled regarding the playstation, laptop, and so much more!
3/9/202243 minutes, 54 seconds
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TMFR Finale Recap, Virtual Reality, "Mom, I'm Bored"

In this week's episode we dive into Teen Mom Family Reunion and Ashley's thought on the end of the season. What did she think of the experience? Will she do it again? Then we get into Ashley's new favorite toy, the Oculus she bought for Bar for his birthday! Why does virtual reality seem so real when you know it isn't? We finish today's episode talking about kids, preschool, and something we can all relate to, telling your mom you are bored and having instant regret while you scrub baseboards!
3/2/202252 minutes, 17 seconds
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Special Guest: Mackenzie McKee, What's The Tea?

On today's episode we sit down and talk to Mackenzie McKee from Teen Mom OG. We openly try to find out who Mackenzie is on and off of the show and where she has been? We get into ALL of the tea regarding Teen Mom Family Reunion, was she invited? Did she choose not to come? We also get into the the possible reason/reasons for her being MIA. We then get into how losing her mother has affected her, her move to Florida, and an update on her and Josh. 
2/23/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 44 seconds
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Special Guests: Jessica & Amber From Jesssfam & FrescoFam

On today's episode we have special guests, Jessica and Amber who have a cool story that they tell on YouTube as well as their podcast, Famtastic Four. Hear all about their "untraditional" friendship and family stories! We talk about their backstories, parenting, twin mom life, social media and so much more! 
2/16/20221 hour, 17 minutes, 47 seconds
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Farrah on TMFR, All Things Sex, Our TV Show Rundown

Today's episode we dive right into the Farrah situation on Teen Mom Family Reunion and all that happened on camera and behind the scenes! Also, would you sell your poop? We respect the hustle but thats a no from us dawg. Then we start with the NSFW talk and Ashley shares the news about the leaked celeb sex tapes going around at the moment and let's just say that we were both flabbergasted. Of course that just led us to all things SEX (toys, sex clubs, and everything in between). We finally wrap up the sex talk and move onto something a little more PG and discuss some of our favorite tv shows and how we can sometimes get so invested into the characters.
2/10/20221 hour, 31 minutes, 57 seconds
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"Getting things off our chest" Submissions/Discussions

*Trigger Warning* This week's episode gets a little heavy as we discuss listener submissions as well as our own experiences. We discuss submissions (anonymously of course) about relationships, parenting, trauma, and mental health. Sometimes just being able to talk openly about something can make it a little less stressful because you no longer feel as alone. Thank you so much for all of your submissions and we send love to all of you going through things and feeling alone because we have all been there in some way. 
2/3/202252 minutes, 9 seconds
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Kanye's New GF, Deep Friendships, Healing From Trauma

So today's episode we started talking about Kanye's new girlfriend and how we feel about that whole ordeal/media frenzy. We also discuss how deep friendships/relationships can offer so much to your growth as a person because those connections can allow you to have an outsider's perspective on your behavior. You can learn from that so long as you don't get defensive and understand they are coming from a genuine place. Then Ashley asks Jessica if she would rather take the blue pill (in the matrix) or the red pill (unplugged from the matrix) and we take a minute going down that rabbit hole. We end on an important topic of using trauma as an excuse to hurt others vs. trying to heal so you don't end up being in the "hurt people, hurt people" scenario. 
1/26/202255 minutes, 28 seconds
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Q&A with Ashley & Bar

On this week's episode Jessica asks Ashley & Bar questions submitted by you, our listeners! We went through all the questions about their relationship, future plans, babies, marriage and everything in between! Jessica also gives some insight about their relationship from her point of view as their close friend vs. what everyone sees on tv. 
1/19/20221 hour, 7 minutes, 36 seconds
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Special Guest: Kailyn Lowry

Ashley & Jessica talk with Kailyn Lowry from Teen Mom 2. We cover everything from if she is dating, her perfect partner, Teen Mom Family Reunion, Goals for 2022 and more! 
1/12/20221 hour, 10 minutes, 22 seconds
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New Year, What To Watch, Tristan At It Again

Damn it's 2022 already? Listen to us talk about everything New Year like resolutions, what we want to accomplish and things we'd like to work on. We also go down the rabbit hole of some shows we are currently watching like Why Women Kill, Emily In Paris, Handmaid's Tale & more! Then we get to Tristan Thompson (I know we all saw that apology). Do you think enough is enough and she will walk away or is this just another bump in their road?
1/5/20221 hour, 2 minutes, 59 seconds
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Christmas Talk, Reminiscing About Being a Kid, Moving Away/Buying Land

It's almost Christmas!!! This episode we talk about Christmas, gift buying, and what matters the most. We also speak about how fast time goes and do some reminiscing on our childhoods. We all miss eating oatmeal/cereal and watching our shows right? We talk about buying land and potentially moving out of state as well. Also, we hit on politics, media and the state of the world tearing friendships and families apart and learning how to navigate people thinking differently than you.
12/22/20211 hour, 2 minutes, 22 seconds
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Teen Mom Tea, Toxic Relationships, Unrealistic Expectations On Social Media

In this episode we discuss the little coupon code filled drama with the Teen Mom Family Reunion between Jenelle and Ashley. We also discuss reality tv in general and how there are misconceptions of whats scripted, edited, etc. Also we get into the fact that maybe some things that are "toxic" for some are normal and okay by others and to not be ashamed of that. Not everything is perfect and no one should have to pretend that it is. We talk about social media changing the way that we look at life, relationships, money, etc and it making it very hard to just be imperfect. *also sorry, our audio cut out right before our outro so as always, thank you for listening and we will talk to you guys next week!*
12/11/202146 minutes, 41 seconds
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Thanksgiving, Comments About Weight, Setting Boundaries

Hope you all had an amazing Thanksgiving! We are happy to be back this week! We talked about how our Thanksgiving went and had a heated discussion about whether using Velveeta in mac n cheese is a big no no and whether putting black olives in potato salad is ok. What do y'all think? Ashley also speaks about people commenting on her weight and how people will have something to say regardless if you are "too small" or "too big" (she also has a big announcement). We also got into setting boundaries with family, friends, and everyone in your life. Sometimes it takes years to learn how to stand up for yourself but always stay true to yourself and express your feelings whenever you feel you need to, no matter who you are speaking to. 
12/1/202151 minutes, 13 seconds
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Britney Is Free, Cultural Appropriation, Respecting Eachother

In today's episode we discuss Britney Spears being free from her 13 year conservatorship and how her life could change moving forward as well as the trauma that could have stemmed from being controlled for that long. We also got into heavy topics and discussed cultural appropriation, cancel culture, and being respectful of other people's cultures and experiences. We discuss the importance of wanting to come together and learn/grow as a society and how anyone who isn't willing to do that could hold us back from moving forward.
11/17/202146 minutes, 30 seconds
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Tragedy At Astroworld, Botox/Surgery, Social Media Turning Us Into Bigger Consumers

This week on I Need Wine we discuss the extremely heartbreaking circumstances surrounding the Astroworld Festival and Travis Scott. How much is he to blame? We also speak on getting botox, deciding to get surgery vs. just trying to workout and how social media can change those decisions. We talk about wanting to show our kids the value in things other than clothes, bags, cars, etc. We've all likely struggled at some point with comparing ourselves to others on social media and really having to take a step back and really see what is important. 
11/10/202157 minutes, 31 seconds
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Brian Laundrie, Adoption Fraud, Listeners' Confessions

Our first official Wine Wednesday! We speak about the crazy storm we had in Northern California and all of the flooding, etc. We also give a little update on Brian Laundrie since there was an update given right after we recorded last week's episode! Ashley speaks about the Tara Lee adoption scandal and we touch on human trafficking as well. We end today's episode with our reactions to some of our listener's crazy confessions!
10/27/202159 minutes, 8 seconds
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Where Have We Been with a Splash of True Crime

Back from a little hiatus and we jump right into some true crime (our favorite)! We discuss Gabby Petito, Scott Peterson, and a couple other cases. We also talk about the importance of being able to call your parents if you're drunk or in trouble and that we want to be those parents that remember that we were kids once too. Because imagine the bad things that can happen if you don't feel safe enough to call your parents in fear of getting in trouble.
10/23/202146 minutes, 3 seconds
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Parenting/Child Support/Men's Birth Control

In today's episode we start by getting into the whole old school parenting vs. new school parenting. Which is better? Should we fully break the cycle or just do some tweaking? There seems to be a thin like with parenting and as we all know, there is no handbook and can also depend on how your kids need to be parented individually. Is it still okay to smack your child's hand? That leads us into the question of "why aren't men on birth control?" and why does the burden have to be on us in that way? Yet they have the nerve to try and speak on abortion or the NERVE to be a deadbeat dad. And child support, is it always fair? Of course in everything we talk about today, these are just our opinions and also depend on certain situations. Thanks for listening!
7/27/202143 minutes, 29 seconds
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Follow Your Dreams

In today's episode we talk about starting our business called Aries Beauty Studio! We have been talking about opening up a beauty studio for a while now and BOOM, we're making it happen. Jeff Bezos is going to space, why can't we open a studio? Don't ever let someone make you feel insecure about your decisions to follow your dreams. We speak on having to filter out all the "how are you going to do all that?" and the "that's gonna be hard" comments because yeah, no sh*t it's going to be hard. But you can be a mom, a wife, a friend and a damn business owner or a nurse or a MF rocket scientist if you want to. All you have to do is put in the work and shut out people's negativity. 
7/23/202150 minutes, 27 seconds
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Q&A With Us

This episode we decided to do a Q&A where we answer all of the questions that you all asked! Some juicy, some about relationships and everything in between. We had fun answering some questions and of course, as always going off on tangents about who knows what. 
6/29/202150 minutes, 55 seconds
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Marry F**k Kill, Celeb News, Double Standards

So we start off this podcast right with listeners MFK submissions which was so much fun. You guys requested that we do some celeb news and current events stuff so we also get into that and our initial thoughts about a few topics in the media right now. That evolved into to us talking about some double standards with celebrities as well as between women and men. Is it fair that after a break up, if the woman moves on she is shamed and when the man moves on quickly it's no big deal? We don't think so but that is definitely one of the double standards that we face as women.
6/22/20211 hour, 4 minutes, 41 seconds
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Epstein's Plane, Serial Killers, Spoiling Your Kids

During today's episode, let us just first apologize for all of the cat meowing and children playing in the background. We normally don't record with all the kids home, so if you hear them playing in the backyard, apologies in advance but they were having fun. But in this episode we went down the conspiracy rabbit hole for the first time on this podcast. We speak about Epstein's plane, the ALLEGED activities that Michael Jackson was involved in, and of course, serial killers because we all love some true crime moments. Also we get into spoiling your kids with material things vs. spoiling them with experiences such as traveling. What is more important and does social media tend to influence how we think we should or should not spoil our kids?
6/16/202158 minutes, 34 seconds
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Teen Mom "Drama", Self Confidence & Childhood Memories

On today's episode we of course had to do a little recap on the Teen Mom drama that transpired over the last few days. Ashley and her fake ass house, GIRL BYE. We also touch on how social media and everyone's judgement can make being confident very hard. Sure you wanna wear that swimsuit but immediately start to think "what will people say?" and talk yourself out of it. We also damn near dropped tears singing the Out of the Box theme song, which if you never watched that show, did you even live? Finish off this episode with speaking on Drake, G-Eazy, Bay Area rappers, etc.
6/12/20211 hour, 43 seconds
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Not Just a Mom

In today’s episode we talk about how being a mom can sometimes be overwhelming and take away from just being you. Sometimes you just wanna be alone and not be a professional fruit snack fetcher. Sometimes you wanna shake your ass and take some shots and that’s okay! We also talk about being a mother in the adult industry as well as significant others watching porn, having only fans, etc. Is that okay or would you be jealous?
6/4/202151 minutes, 48 seconds
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No New Friends?

On today's episode we talk about whether "no new friends" is a good thing or not? Spoiler alert, we think that's trash advice. We speak about how growing and evolving can cause you to lose friends and that is okay. New friends can teach you new things and open your mind. Outgrowing friends doesn't mean you are a bad friend or that you are disloyal, it just means their season in your life is over. 
5/28/202142 minutes, 34 seconds
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Teen Mom 2 & How Social Media has Changed Everything

In today's episode, we discuss the premier of Teen Mom 2 and how the transition has been. We also speak on how social media has changed the way our children will grow up, how it affects anxiety/depression and so much more. How did we go from staying out until the street lights on to the world we live in now?
5/6/202151 minutes, 14 seconds