In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss shame from a different perspective. They talk about leaning into shame as the teacher and how shame can become your friend and not your keeper. If you are on your healing journey, then this is an episode you won't want to miss! Healing can be lonely and the last thing we want to feel is bad for exisiting. Shame isn't a useless or unhelpful emotion - shame can literally help you transform your life if you learn to listen to it correctly.    If you haven't already, please go and rate our podcast on Spotify, Apple, Amazon! We appreciate you!   TO JOIN THE ONLINE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

One of the hardest journeys is that of healing - especially when you don't have anyone to support you through the process. What we begin to recognize is that everything is a choice. We are far more capable than we give ourselves credit for and when we can look within and pull from that power nothing is unachievable. If you are struggling to believe in yourself and you feel that you just can't, then this episode will change that for you!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY CICK thiS LINK: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

Do you hold on to relationships out of guilt? Do you feel a sense of responsibility for family members even if they have hurt you? If these sound familiar, you won't want to miss this episode because you are NOT alone. In this deeply raw episode, Courtney opens up deeper to share some of her most vulnerable emotions surrounding this exact topic. Together, J gently leads Courtney down the path of pain while she shares some of the most intimate painful moments that she's had surrounding the relationship with her biological father. If you're hurting, and you're holding on to that person, this episode may give you the support and permission that you need to finally let go.    TO JOIN OUR HEALING COMMUNITY! -  https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this very special episode, J and Courtney sit down to have a deep conversation with Duygu Balan, LPCC, LMHC, and Dr. Yener Balan. Duygu is a psychotherapist and certified trauma professional, and for over a decade has cared for individuals and couples dealing with childhood trauma, attachment injuries, and grief. Yener Balan, MD, DFAPA is a board-certified psychiatrist and is currently the Vice President of Behavioral Health and Specialty Services for Kaiser Permanente, Northern California. The Balan's are the authors of the book, "Re-Write: A Trauma Workbook for Creative Writing and Recovery in our New Normal.  *TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: \https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public    

Are you struggling with parenting? Are you having a  very hard time watching your children make decisions that could "hurt them"? Are you always worried that you have to step in, solve, and fix their problems? Do you have this underlying fear that something bad is going to happen so you're always on edge? If so, you may find this episode very helpful. J and Courtney discuss Rescue Parenting - Something Courtney struggled with for many years that resulted from her own childhood trauma. This episode will help you better understand why you're parenting the way that you are with some helpful tips to get you feeling confident in yourself and your children's ability to navigate their own lives.      TO JOIN the healing Community:  https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the inner child but from a completely different perspective - a perspective not many talk about.  If you're on your healing journey, finding yourself triggered...ALOT, and just feel stuck then THIS is the episode for you! Healing is messy and won't be easy. As a matter of fact, it may be the hardest thing that you'll ever do. That's why we have this podcast and our healing community because no one should do it alone.  To join the healing community: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public   For podcast requests or if you'd like to be a guest, email us at: [email protected]    

Are you on your healing journey and just feel completely exhausted? You just don't have the energy or desire to do much of anything. When we are healing, we can get to this very poignant part of healing that Courtney calls, "Restful Healing" and it can be the most challenging place to be when you don't understand it. As a trained trauma counselor, Courtney has seen this in all of her clients and in her own personal journey.  In this very episode, J and Courtney discuss this concept in depth. If there's ever an episode that you will want to listen to, it is THIS one! It's real, raw, and relatable and will leave you feeling empowered.  TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY, go HERE: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public    

When we have trauma, we may find that we become highly reactive. This is why you just JUMP to the first emotion and ACT on it without having time to stop and think and DECIDE what your decision will be. In this episode, J and Courtney discuss reactivity on a very personal level. If you have trauma and are on your healing journey, this is going to be an upside that you'll want to save and listen to frequently. As we heal, our brains look at situations differently and we understand and integrate concepts much deeper.    TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public To find Courtney on other platforms: https://beacons.ai/ask.courtney

In this episode, J and Courtney recap the 4 agreements. This is the PERFECT episode if you're just looking to get a brief synopsis without all the fuss! Stay tuned because the next episode is on REACTIVITY! You won't want to MISS it!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss what it means to "do your best" based on the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they pull apart the agreement and discuss it at a deeper level. Our best will always shift depending on how we are feeling. Your best today may be different tomorrow. If you're on your healing journey, then this episode will resonate and give you permission to have more compassion and grace on those tough days.  TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney continue their quest to explore concepts from the book, "The Four Agreements". Together, they share their thoughts and experiences surrounding the concept of not assuming and how assuming will keep you stuck on your healing journey. When we assume, we base what we perceive as fact instead of information to process.  TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the importance of not taking things personally. Courtney, in the hot-seat, again...discusses how this has been one of the most challenging things to overcome. At times, she still struggles with it and is very candid about her journey with learning to let things go and be as they are.    Do you struggle with feeling as if everything is a personal attack? Does it feel like even positive constructive feedback hurts? If so, listen to this episode! Remember, we aren't ever alone - we are alone together!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

J and Courtney are back! It's been a while and they share what they have been up to and what to expect! They get into a conversation about the way in which we speak to ourselves and others - The Words We Use - and how IMPACTFUL our words are. If you're on your healing journey, or just looking to listen to a real, raw, and relatable podcast - this is for you! When we are on our journey, we are often left feeling alone, abandoned, and ore mistreated. It's truly important that we surround ourselves with others who are healing and learning - this way, we build a shared experience that truly adds value to the healing process.    TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherHealingCommunity?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this very special episode, J and Courtney dig deeper into shame. This is a great spin-off episode if you've listened to the one on Shame Vs Guilt AND if you're part of the healing community it went GREAT with the workshop and Newsletter. Shame is a universal emotion that we all have and feel but it can infiltrate our lives and truly prevent us from healing and walking in our authentic footsteps. This episode will help bring you clarity and solutions to working through and becoming stronger.    To join the healing community: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the meaning behind dreams and how you can pull a lot of insight from them. Courtney further discusses how dreams aren't always factual but actually metaphorically represent different parts of your waking life. This is an episode you won't want t sleep on!   LINK TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true&view_as=public

In this very interesting episode, Courtney breaks down the deep differences between Shame and Guilt - as they aren't the same. Together, J and Courtney have a discussion that brings to light moments in their own healing journey where shame presented itself. If you're on your healing journey, it's more likely than not that you are harboring deep shame - and that can truly affect your self-worth and your interpersonal relationships. Knowing the difference between shame and guilt will help you claim your life back! If you join the healing community, there's a workshop on July 24th, 2022 at 2 pm EST. Learn all about shame and how to actually start chipping away at it!    TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY:  https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this very special episode, J and Courtney discuss the cost of healing. They sit down and together discuss what really happens when you heal. They talk about the things that most people don't realize and explore healing from a whole new perspective.  TO join the healing community and get all the goodies from the Newsletter, Zoom calls, Feelings Wheel, Book Club, Workshops, and more CLICK this link: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true Everything that you need to heal is in YOU! 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the fundamental differences between feelings and emotions! Most people aren't aware that the two aren't interchangeable - and that in fact, they are completely different. Together, they share their experiences with their own personal struggles while offering key tips to help you start becoming more emotionally aware. *If you want the Feelings Wheel, join the healing community below!*   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true  

In this special episode, J and Courtney talk about what healing Really looks like. Together, they talk about the ugly side of healing - and what to truly expect. This is an episode that you won't want to miss!   TO JOIN THE HEALING COMMUNITY:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J and Courtney wrap up the trigger series by learning about how to disarm someone else when they are triggered! This is an episode that you won't want to miss. Both J and Courtney share their experiences with learning to disarm the other when a trigger has presented.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

This is the second episode in our Trigger Series and it's all about learning how to disarm triggers in yourself. If you haven't listened, we highly recommend listening to that episode before this one! Keep an eye out because the next episode is ALL on helping to disarm another when you notice that they are triggered.   TO SUPPORT the PODCAST & Join the In It Together Community, go here:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

Do you struggle with triggers? Do they pop up out of nowhere and "ruin" your entire mood/day? Do you find yourself struggling to recover after a trigger has occurred? If so, then THIS episode is for you! Together, J and Courtney explore triggers and the underlying reasons behind them. In a moment of vulnerability, Courtney becomes triggered and shares her process of working through it.    TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

If you struggle with managing your emotions and feel like you're triggered ALL THE TIME, then THIS is the episode for you! Oftentimes, we don't even know WHY we are so dysregulated and miss all the signs. Before we know it, we are flying off the handle, yelling, screaming, or shutting down. In this episode, J and Courtney dig into Emotional Regulation while sharing quick tips on how to start becoming more in control. You won't want to miss this!   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST:  https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true  

Happy 50th Episode!!! What an amazing milestone! In this very, very special episode, J and Courtney dig deep into the root of self-worth while exploring the many avenues one can take to start seeing their value and rebuilding their self-esteem.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this very special episode, Courtney and J discuss the topic of love languages. It's a topic we hear ALOT about, but it's also one that doesn't get much spotlight! Together, they discuss the 5 languages of love and how you can start identifying your own and your partner's. The journey to healing is complicated and messy at times, but it's having the knowledge of what you need that makes all the difference. When we know how we NEED to be loved - we can find emotionally available partners and friends - and THIS is how you start loving yourself.    TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

Do you struggle with Intrusive Thoughts? IF so, this is the episode for you! You won't want to miss this one! In this episode, Courtney breaks down where Intrusive Thoughts may originate, what they look like, and tips to start working through them.    TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

If you ever heard the term, "Body Doubling" and want to know more about it - then this is the episode for you! It's not just in the ADHD community, but we are seeing its positive effects in the trauma-healing community as well. In this episode, I discuss Body Doubling, what it looks like, and how to try it out for yourself.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true    

In this episode, Courtney & J discuss boundaries - more specifically, personal emotional boundaries. Before you can set boundaries with others, you must know your own. This episode will lay it out for you, help you understand where you need to tighten up and give some tips and tricks on setting them.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

Do you struggle with Black or White Thinking? Do you find yourself juggling one extreme thought to the next? If you do, then THIS is the episode for you. In this episode, I break down what Black or White Thinking means, where it comes from, how it presents in your life, and how to finally get a grip on it. You won't want to miss this one - I'm in the hot seat, again.   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true  

In this very special episode, J and Courtney candidly share their journey with reintegrating their inner children while providing a foundation for you to build upon. Together, they discuss creating reintegration plans and what steps you can take to start that journey for yourself.    PLEASE CONSIDER SUPPORTING THE PODCAST:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this very special episode, J and Courtney delve deeper into the psyche of the inner child but more importantly discuss how to start healing by learning to reparent yourself. You will walk away with some tools and tricks that will help you start the journey to healing the little version within.   PLEASE CONSIDER SUPPORTING THE PODCAST:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

This is the first Episode in the Inner Child Series. In this episode, Courtney and J discuss what the inner child means and ways to start reconnecting. You won't want to miss this one!   TO SUPPORT THE PODCAST:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

This is the final episode in our Attachment series! In this episode, J and Courtney discuss what secure attachment looks like in oneself as well as how it presents and manifests in a relationship.    To Support The Podcast: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J and Courtney explore Self-Validation and what it REALLY means. Courtney candidly opens up and shares her journey with self-validation and finding the power within herself.    SUPPORT THE PODCAST: https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss the Anxious/Anxious Relationship dynamic. Although rare, this combination is definitely one to explore! Together, they discuss what this duo would look like and ways to help bring functionality and balance to the relationship.   To support the podcast:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J and Courtney break down the Avoidant + Avoidant Relationship! Although rare, it happens and it's a relationship that many don't discuss. J, with Dismissive Avoidance Attachment, shares parts of himself as Courtney touches upon the Fear Avoidant style and how a relationship would look. Together, they discuss ways to work on the relationship and find harmony.   If you want to support the podcast, consider supporting us through Patreon:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J & Courtney dig deep into the topic of Parenticicaiton and how that can shape a person to then feel responsible for another person. Together, they explore the topic while sharing bits and pieces from their own journey.    Please consider supporting the podcast:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true   We greatly appreciate all the support!

In this episode, both J and Courtney candidly shared their struggles and growth as individuals and as a couple with having two different attachment styles. Courtney, once Anxious, and J, once Avoidant, talk about ways to help work through this dynamic. 

In this episode, it's J that is now in the hot seat! Together, they discuss the Avoidant/Dismissive Attachment Style and where it was cultivated. They also talk about how it's impacted their relationship along with ways that helped J improve upon it.   Support the podcast! https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, Courtney is put in the hot seat! She and J break down the Anxious Attachment Style while Courtney candidly shares her journey with it. You won't want to miss this one!   If you want to support the podcast:https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss RSD, or Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. If you have OCD, ADHD, BPD, or trauma - then this is the video for you! Courtney brings perspective from a therapuetic standpoint while J seeks further to understand. 

In this episdoe, J and Courtney get candid about how they've recently had to get more balance in life.    https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, Courtney opens up and candidly shares her fight with the "Superwoman Complex" - a term coined in the 1980's for women who feel like they have to do "Do it all." J brings an analytical approach and together they process through the complex. You won't want to miss this!     

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss happiness from what we think it is, to what it isn't. Together, they explore how happiness is subjective and it truly depends on how we view it. This is one you won't want to miss! To Join the Patreon Family:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast 

In this episode, Courtney shares a very candid experience when her body remembered trauma before she was consciously aware. It was an incredibly powerful experience that other's witnessed before she knew. You won't want to miss this!    If you want to be part of the In It Together family through Patreon - here is the link:   https://www.patreon.com/InIttogetherPodcast?fan_landing=true

In this episode, J & Courtney respond to a listener's request to share their most valuable life advice. You won't want to miss this one. 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss parenting, the different styles, and how trauma can directly interfer with parenting. 

In this epsisode, J and Courtney discuss what a trauma bond is, what leads to getting into one,  and how you can identify whether you are in one. 

In this episode, J and Courtney host a special episode dedicated to answering questions from their listeners. You don't want to miss this!

In this episode, J and Courtney dig deep into the actions behind processing. They take you from what processing is, through the benefits, and discuss how to implement it into your everyday life. 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss coping with loss. Courtney gets candid and openly shares her pain with some of her greatest losses. Together, they discuss the grief cycle and how one can support themselves. 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss trauma and how transforming your grief can change your perspective. Together, they explore trauma and the gifts it gives you.

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss fear and how it manifest in our lives. 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss R.A.D from what it is to some potential causes. Courtney shares, from a mental health perspective, what R.A.D behavior looks like and how it presents in adults.

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss Masculinity with special guest, Jaeson, from TikTok. They discuss Masculinity from different perspectives and seek to redefine it. 

In this episode, we discuss Infidelity from a different perspective. 

In this episode, J and Courtney discuss Religion and Mental Health. Can they coexist, or do they need a separate path?

In this episode, we discuss what Abandonment Trauma is, what are some signs, and how to process it. Both J and I share aspects of our own abandonment and how it presents within ourselves and our relationship. 

This is a special Q & A episode where Courtney and J answer the top 10 Ask.Courtney TikTok questions of the week.

In this episode, we explore familial relationships and the unconditional loyalty we have despite toxicity and our own traumas. We discuss the concept, "People are people", by exploring our own personal relationships, while having a thought provoking conversation. 

In this episode, we talk about Trauma and how it affects aspects of everyday life. 

In this episode, we have a discussion about Support Systems. We talk about what a healthy support system looks like while talking about some misperceptions. 

In this episode, we discuss Anxiety and how it manifest differently from person to person. Together, we identify Anxiety within ourselves, things to look for, and helpful tips. This episode is special and sensitive as Courtney openly experiences Anxiety while processing her emotions to get to a more balanced sense of self. 

In this episode, we talk about resolutions, appreciating the journey, and what's to come for this year. J and Courtney share their personal resolutions and offer tips to creating the best goals for yourself without setting yourself up to fail. 

In this episode, we discuss Mindfulness from what it is to how to become more mindful in your daily lives. Courtney shares how being more mindful has helped her work through feelings of shame, while J shares how practicing mindfulness has helped him recognize feelings of guilt.

In this episode, we discuss Childhood Trauma. We explore what it is and how it affects you in adulthood. At the end, we do a guided meditation to help you connect with your inner child. 

In this episode, we talk about toxic family, surviving the holidays, and offer tips for making your holiday your own. 

In this episode, we explore Self-Compassion from what it entails, to why someone would lack it, to the benefits of it. 

In this Episode, we discuss the foundations of a healthy relationship from communicating to conflict resolution. We explore the ways men and women view conflict, and give healthy tips on effectively tackling conflict within a relationship. 

In this episode, we have a special guest, Queen Burks, the passionate woman behind the Queendom. Entrpreneur, motivational speaker, and author - she shares her story from suriving to thriving. 

In this episode, we discuss Stress Management. We identify triggers and explore healthy and unhealthy ways of managing it. 

In this episode, we discuss Codependency from a couple's standpoint. Courtney also shares her own personal journey having been Codependent and offers insight into the reasons behind it, as well as tips for working through it. 

In this episode, Courtney & J introduce themselves, discuss the meaning behind "In It Together", and explore Narcissism.