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Freedom from Attachment

English, Education, 1 season, 556 episodes, 3 days, 22 hours, 56 minutes
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A lot of us live in our head, disconnected from our feelings and intuition. This podcast touches on releasing insecure attachment, accepting your authentic self and getting “unstuck” by connecting to how you FEEL instead of how you THINK. I’ve been there, and discuss sensitive subjects using my own experiences with a lot of laughs and even more empathy… because we’re all flawed humans.
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#759: What Temper Tantrum?

Freak out mode, ever experienced it? Emotional outbursts or shut downs, the ol’ silent treatment sound familiar? I know for years when things didn’t go my way–I was great at being a stone wall and ignoring. Just like most conditioning, the way we react when triggered may not have changed too much in those moments of stress or conflict. I know the feeling of fight, flight or freeze mode would automatically without thought propel me into a reaction. And then I’d feel bad afterwards or even while acting in this way, wanting to control the situation (yes, control). In this episode, Tracy Crossley explains why emotional maturity often lags behind intellectual maturity, tracing these reactions to early attachment patterns and unmet needs. She shares her own journey and offers a three-step process for emotional growth: awareness, feeling your feelings, and taking emotionally risky actions. By embracing discomfort, you can respond from a grounded, adult state instead of a triggered, childlike one. Tune into this episode to: • Learn why you still react like you are five when upset and the root causes • Gain actionable advice to grow up emotionally through self-work • Hear Tracy’s personal examples of her emotional immaturity and growth • Understand how to show up emotionally mature with difficult people • Get the 3 steps to end relationship intensity and anxious/avoidant patterns
5/14/202420 minutes, 56 seconds
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#758: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! With Dr. Karin Luise

Tracy hangs out with Dr. Karin Luise, an award-winning author, speaker, and spiritual guide on this episode. Together, they dive into personal evolution, spiritual awakening, and overcoming life's challenges. From unraveling childhood traumas to navigating spiritual gifts, Dr. Karin shares her story with humor and wisdom. Check out how to shed limiting beliefs, embrace your intuitive power, and step boldly into your most authentic self. Tune in to uncover: * Release guilt, destructive conditioning, and limiting beliefs * Signs from beyond that indicate your loved ones are trying to communicate * Why everything that happens is meant to lead you to radical self-love * How to tap into dormant inner wisdom when you feel lost or overwhelmed * The keys to recognizing your core essence as energetic “light” vs the heavy conditioning imposed on you
5/8/202444 minutes, 47 seconds
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#757: Fighting To Stay

Sometimes we don’t realize our only issue is our patterns. We fight to stay where we are, even while saying, “nooooo I want out or to change.” You can break free and feel totally different in the process. In this podcast, listen to the familiar trap of avoidance and emotional neglect that we are used to but may not be aware we are creating. Not only is it about drilling deep but what to do with your feelings as signposts for change. This episode is not just a listening experience but an opportunity to surrender and stop fighting to stay. In this episode, listeners will: * See how you cling unconsciously to situations that don't serve you * Pay attention to what an avoidance pattern looks like * Yes, your wisdom is tied into your feelings, so don’t suppress them * Why courage aligned with your highest self matters Feelings are not just emotions; they're signposts, guiding you to what’s buried deep within. ~ Tracy Crossley
4/30/202448 seconds
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#756: Moving On To A Healthy And Thriving Life! with Robbie Kramer

Tracy brings back Robbie Kramer, the mastermind behind revolutionizing the dating scene for men without the gimmicks. Robbie shares insider tips on turning simple interactions into a relationship while growing your inner confidence without the fluff. In this episode, you will be able to: * Master the art of building a social circle for dating success and expand your opportunities for meaningful connections. * Overcome avoidant attachment in dating and be ready for more fulfilling relationships. * Craft irresistible online dating profiles * Become a host for parties to create an environment for genuine connections * Becoming emotionally available and what it looks like
4/23/202439 minutes, 20 seconds
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#755: Are you important to the one who matters?

Everyone talks about how to value yourself. So how do you do it when it matters? Explore the liberating journey as Tracy breaks down your barriers of expectations and needing validations. Are you ready to dig into your feelings, wrangle deep-seated beliefs, and learn self-importance that doesn't rely on others? Then listen in today. In this episode, you will be able to: *Embrace fulfilling relationships (first with yourself). *Breakthrough barriers to love and for growth. *Attract and maintain healthy relationships. *Elevating self-importance for personal growth “You want to get to the point of feeling important because you breathe” ~ Tracy Crossley
4/16/202429 minutes, 32 seconds
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#754: When Life Appears To Be a Soul Sucking Vortex (REBROADCAST)

Most of us have periods in our lives where it feels like everything is a shit show. You feel like the universe is conspiring against you and no one is on your team. Even when people do try to help by offering advice, it annoys the crap out of you. Then, on top of it all, you feel wrong in your feelings because you think you should be able to rise above it. Society says to buck up and be positive! When life happens and you start going down the rabbit hole, it’s ok to stay there for a moment, but you do not want to get stuck there. Wallowing for weeks (or longer) is a victim pattern you need to look at because YOU are the one keeping yourself there. Your active participation in your life matters. When you blame other people, or the universe, for what’s happening, you stay buried in that hole. In this week’s podcast I share my personal experience with loss and my husband’s illness. During the last 18 months I have been challenged to surrender and find happiness even while surrounded by tragedy. It is not easy, but you can choose to accept what’s going on, take responsibility for your part, feel what’s happening and move the heck forward. It really is a choice, and I’ll show you what worked for me. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can be an action-taking victim, or you can decide to be an action-taking authentic human being who is happy.
4/9/202437 minutes, 19 seconds
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#753: “F” Expectations

Are you caught in the relentless pursuit of perfectionism, tirelessly trying to meet others' expectations at the expense of your own well-being? You're not alone. This podcast dives into the common struggle many face: the battle against the compulsion to please everyone but ourselves. It's a struggle that often stems from past traumas and the deep-seated need for external validation, which, in turn, obstructs our path to genuine emotional freedom and self-worth. Tracy offers insight, guidance, and support to those yearning to break free from these restrictive patterns and embrace a life of authenticity and emotional liberation. Let’s uncover the challenges of what it is to live authentically with emotional freedom and break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace freedom from attachment to unlock your true potential and live a more fulfilling life. * Overcome perfectionism and discover the joy of embracing your authentic self. * Cultivate self-worth and confidence to create positive change in every aspect of your life. * Understand the dynamics of relationships to build healthier and more meaningful connections. * Experience personal growth that empowers you to live a life aligned with your values and aspirations. The more "you" you are, the easier and more profound your whole life becomes. ~ Tracy Crossley
4/2/202426 minutes, 34 seconds
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#752: Moving On To A Healthy And Thriving Life! with Jaime Mahler

Jaime Mahler, MS, LMHC, is a New York-based psychotherapist behind the popular Recollected Self brand. Jaime shares her transformative journey from a turbulent young adulthood to finding her true voice, embracing self-compassion, and empowering others to do the same. Discover how facing one's past with courage can illuminate the path to authentic living. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace healing from trauma and toxic relationships for personal growth and empowerment. * Discover mental health education's impact on social media for a more informed and mindful approach to well-being. * Recognize the profound effects of cult-like experiences on mental health to understand and address their lasting impact. * Implement strategies for personal growth and self-compassion to foster a positive and resilient mindset. * Embrace critical thinking in therapy and coaching to empower informed decision-making and personal development.
3/26/202447 minutes, 35 seconds
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#751: Not being enough and the damage it causes

Does it feel like you're constantly striving to be enough but never quite reaching that point? Maybe you've been told that the key to feeling worthy is to keep achieving more and more, but deep down, you still struggle with feelings of inadequacy. The pain of not feeling like you're good enough can impact every aspect of your life, from relationships to work and your overall well-being. If you're tired of constantly chasing validation and want to experience greater self-acceptance and inner peace, then keep listening. In this episode, you will be able to: * Embrace self-acceptance and inner peace for a more fulfilling life. * Explore the impact of not feeling enough and unlock your true potential. * Begin your journey towards self-love and find inner contentment. * Address limiting beliefs for personal transformation and growth. * Discover the importance of emotional exploration and awareness for a more balanced life. "You're here to take up space, meaning to be you, to be with who you are right now in this moment. Why? Because you're opening your future up to be amazing then, because that is how magic happens." ~ Tracy Crossley
3/19/202425 minutes, 46 seconds
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#750: Moving On To A Healthy And Thriving Life! Courtney Elmer

Listen to a cancer survivor and former corporate employee who found her purpose through personal challenges. Join Tracy as she sits down with Courtney Elmer, the visionary behind The Effortless Life and the Antifragile Entrepreneurship podcast. Courtney reveals how she went from silencing her voice to reclaiming it, and how she leveraged entrepreneurial antifragility to create positive change. But here's the twist - she discovered her true calling in a way that you wouldn’t expect. In this episode, you will be able to: * Gain valuable insights on leveraging podcasts for business visibility and growth. * Discover the power of entrepreneurial antifragility in overcoming adversity and thriving in business. * Learn effective strategies for navigating career transitions and making a successful shift to entrepreneurship. * Uncover the transformative potential of finding purpose through personal challenges in your entrepreneurial journey. * Explore innovative strategies for increasing podcast audience engagement and building a loyal listener base. "When you're going through something difficult, we want answers. We want clarity. We want definitive yes or no. So we know how to move forward. It brings us relief. But a lot of times, the reality is we don't have that answer." - Courtney Elmer
3/12/202438 minutes, 11 seconds
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#749: "F" Stress

It’s that time folks! Tracy dives into a deeply personal journey of self-discovery and resilience. From unexpected life events to emotional struggles, Tracy shares her raw and unfiltered experiences, unveiling the surprising impact of stress on her life. While Tracy reveals her stuff around guilt, inner peace, and transforming her business, she will also lead you through an exercise in relieving yourself of stress. Join her for a newfound perspective on personal growth. In this episode, you will be able to: - Explore the depths of emotional well-being and relationships for a more fulfilling life. - Uncover the impact of stress on your well-being and how to effectively manage it. - Learn effective strategies for coping with life's challenges and emerging stronger. - Build resilience through the power of emotional processing for inner strength. - Embark on a journey of self-awareness to foster personal growth and empowerment. I don't need to be married to the stress just because shit is happening doesn't mean I need to be stressed by it. ~ Tracy Crossley
3/6/202430 minutes, 30 seconds
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#747 - My life is good, but something is missing

If you're feeling the nagging sense that something is missing in your life, like you're stuck in the same old patterns and stories, then you are not alone! Maybe you're telling yourself that your life is good, but deep down, there's a yearning for something more. You might have been seeking advice from others, asking for their opinions on decisions like dating or career choices, only to find yourself stuck in the same place, unable to break free from the obstacles you've created. It's time to uncover what's holding you back and take the courageous step towards authentic growth and relationships. In this episode, you will be able to: * Explore the complexities of human emotions and relationships for deeper understanding and meaningful connections. * Unlock the importance of self-awareness and personal growth for a more fulfilling life and authentic relationships. * Overcome self-deception to uncover your true potential and live a more authentic and purposeful life. * Cultivate courage and self-love in relationships to foster genuine and lasting connections. * Discover the power of soul plan readings for gaining self-understanding and clarity on life's purpose. So stand up and be in your own two shoes and commit to yourself. Because every time I'm vulnerable, I'm committed to myself. And that means that if I commit to myself, I can commit to other things as well. - Tracy Crossley
2/20/202423 minutes, 44 seconds
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#746: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marni Battista

Join Tracy as she welcomes Marni Battista, a powerhouse entrepreneur, author, transformational coach, and radical truth seeker. Marni's captivating stories of triumph, paired with her unique ability to drop wisdom that's as profound as it is humorous, will not only entertain but also deeply transform your perspective on life. With experiences ranging from heartwarming essays in prestigious publications to appearances on shows like Dr. Phil and Loveline with Dr. Drew, Marni shares her journey of radical living alongside her husband and two cats, Simon and Fergus Katz, as they traverse the globe. Don't miss this enlightening conversation that's bound to inspire you to stop merely existing and start living a life beyond your wildest dreams.
2/13/202444 minutes, 56 seconds
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#745: Just cuz you’ve worked on yourself doesn’t mean you’re not f—d up

If you're feeling like you're constantly blaming others for your unhappiness and not taking control of your own life, then you are not alone! Do you find yourself stuck in a cycle of self-punishment and unfulfillment, despite your efforts to work on yourself? It's time to break free from this pattern and take extreme self-responsibility for your own happiness. Let's explore how you can transform your life by embracing self-responsibility and finding inner peace. In this episode, you will be able to: * Cultivate happiness and self-responsibility for a fulfilling life. * Embrace vulnerability and self-reflection to unlock personal growth. * Release blame and excuses to reclaim empowerment and control. * Prioritize personal happiness and improve decision-making for a more fulfilling life. * Accept help and support to enhance well-being and success.
2/8/202427 minutes, 37 seconds
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#744: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life with Helané Wahbeh

Listen in to hear more about the nuances of intuition, the obstacles of ego, and the transformative power of love in our daily lives. Tracy speaks with Dr. Helané Wahbeh, a renowned naturopathic doctor and the Director of Research at the Institute of Noetic Sciences and an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at Oregon Health & Science University. Discover how Dr. Wahbeh's personal experiences and intuitive explorations led her to a career that seamlessly blends science with spirituality. They dive into shedding light on how our intentions can influence our physical world and well-being.
1/30/202443 minutes, 46 seconds
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#743: Believing You are Important Changes Everything

Stories, we all got them. How many of your stories are about you being the hero versus you being the loser? A lot of the stories that play as background music in our minds tends to be of the negative sort. What if she shows you how to dig deep into the power of self-validation? Tune into this episode as she talks about our focusing on problems, stops us from our dreams, and our potential. Let’s challenge the norms, and discover the joy of living a life that truly matters. Whether it's breaking free from unfulfilling jobs or toxic relationships, this podcast is your guide to reclaiming your self-worth and creating a life filled with purpose and happiness.
1/23/202426 minutes, 47 seconds
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#742: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Garret Yount

Join Tracy and Dr. Garret Yount, an expert in molecular neurobiology and consciousness research, as they dive into the fascinating intersection of science and the mind. Dr. Yount recounts his teenage clairvoyant experience that ignited his passion for exploring consciousness and its mysteries. The discussion navigates through the realms of gene expression, epigenetics, and the profound impact of emotions and thoughts on our health. Dr. Yount also sheds light on his research into external qigong healing and the intriguing concept of vibes. The episode wraps up with insights from his book "Why Vibes Matter," offering a beginner's guide to understanding and influencing vibes. Join this captivating journey into the depths of consciousness and its influence on our biological being.
1/16/202438 minutes, 52 seconds
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#741: Fear of Happiness (Rebroadcast)

Some people equate numbness with happiness. As long as nothing is poking at you screaming for your attention, you think all is right with the world, and you work hard to maintain this state. But when something triggers you, you can’t handle being out of control, so you scramble to get back to that safe space you THINK is happiness. Nope, it’s numbness, and it’s not where you want to live. Many people say they aren't control freaks, but their internal feelings tell a different story. If you feel anxious whenever you let loose, have fun or feel attracted to someone, that’s a sign of control. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to become more aware of this paradigm because many people delude themselves into thinking they’re happy when in fact they are just numb and trying to avoid being triggered. Happiness is not to be feared, but you need to let go of control in order to let it in. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can pretend numbness is peace and happiness or you can challenge yourself to lose control and have FUN, emotional intimacy and vulnerability! Uh yeah happiness!
1/9/202429 minutes, 22 seconds
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#740: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! With Joan Sotkin

Join Tracy as she interviews Joan Sotkin, the founder of Prosperity Place and a renowned author. Sotkin shares her intriguing journey from aspiring ballet dancer to a successful businesswoman and coach. She dives into her unique coaching approach, her experiences with healing, and her evolving understanding of health and diet. Sotkin emphasizes the importance of self-understanding and inner peace, offering valuable insights and resources from her website. Tune in for an episode filled with profound lessons on personal development and prosperity.
1/2/202440 minutes, 27 seconds
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#739: 3 Steps to Loving Yourself: You Are Not a Project!

Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive, or too ANYTHING? Basically, instead of being loved for your whole self, did you feel like you were simply tolerated? Maybe you wondered, throughout your life, if people even liked being around you because those too much/not enough beliefs were always with you. So, to move from tolerance to love, you worked hard to prove yourself worthy of someone else’s company. And did those people (intimate partners, friends, family members, etc.) treasure you for the wonderful human you are? Probably not. Why? Because you didn’t treasure you. Self-love isn’t simply about spa visits, eating healthy, working out, or treating yourself to a new outfit. It is attention, connection, and awareness to yourself. And you cultivate it by slowing down, feeling your feelings, and choosing what makes you happy. When you love yourself, you have compassion for who you are, what you are, and why you are. And that is where true love with someone else begins… because love from another person won’t feel good unless you feel it for yourself first. As the new year approaches, it's the perfect time to reflect and embrace this journey of self-love. In this week’s podcast, I’ll share three questions to ask yourself to shift from external “give-it-to-me” love to true self-love. You deserve more, but to get it, you have to step up and show yourself some love. Let's make this new year a turning point for embracing and celebrating your true self. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Self-love comes from all the in-between moments, not the pinnacles! Let this new year be your catalyst for a journey of self-discovery and genuine self-appreciation.
12/26/202327 minutes, 56 seconds
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#738: Focus On You — You Beautiful Thing!

You have spent your life doing for others, worried that if you don’t put them first, they’ll leave… or at the very least they’ll be mad at you. It’s exhausting, however, so you want to start prioritizing yourself and your growth. You know you’ll feel better, shed the resentment and have more energy, but what if the people in your life think you don’t need them anymore? What if they think you’re being selfish? It is NOT selfish to want to feel good. You are actually doing the world a favor by taking care of yourself because a happier you means a more pleasant person for others to be around. When you focus on how you feel, what lights you up and what you want, everyone benefits. How different would it feel to make decisions based on what you want rather than what someone else wants? How much lighter and energized would you feel? If you wait for permission to say no to someone else so you can say yes to yourself, you’ll be waiting forever. Stop believing people will leave in droves if you “selfishly” take care of yourself. The ones who do are a negative in your life, not a positive. You’re a kick-ass person who deserves to be happy. Decide you deserve your own love and attention. Do it selfishly and others will reap the benefits.
12/19/202331 minutes, 9 seconds
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Moving On To A Healthy And Thriving Life! with Arnaud Delorme

Join Tracy and Arnold Delorme, a pioneering scientist in brain dynamics and spirituality step into the intriguing world of consciousness Dive into his groundbreaking research on how meditation and psychoactive agents impact our neural pathways, and explore the complex relationship between the brain and consciousness. This episode also highlights Delorme's innovative work in neurofeedback and its transformative effects on meditation practices. Get a sneak peek into his latest book, 'Why Our Minds Wander,' offering practical strategies for managing the wandering mind during meditation. This episode also highlights Delorme's innovative work in neurofeedback and its transformative effects on meditation practices. Get a sneak peek into his latest book, 'Why Our Minds Wander,' offering practical strategies for managing the wandering mind during meditation.
12/12/202346 minutes, 20 seconds
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#736: From Attachment to Fabulous! (REBROADCAST)

Imagine what it would be like not to beat yourself up all the time, or to stop shaming yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. What would it be like to tell your inner critic to shut up, and instead make choices that feel good to you? I’ll tell you what it would feel like: it would be fabulous. I know this because that’s where I live now… although I used to have a very different address. I used to think my best life hinged on my partner. If things were great with him, my life would be peachy. Well, that’s not called fabulous; that’s called attachment. If you are making (bad) decisions because of the person you’re attached to, you are not living your best life. Those decisions come from fear of losing the relationship, not from love. They come from scarcity, not abundance. When you stay in attachment, your world becomes very small. In this week’s podcast I’ll help you identify what you actually want and start making decisions that feel good. Because you deserve fabulous!
12/6/202332 minutes, 43 seconds
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Moving On To A Healthy And Thriving Life! With Maz Dela Cerna

Join Tracy as she interviews Maz Dela Cerna, a bestselling author and energy healer. Born into poverty in the Philippines, she faced unimaginable hardships, including homelessness, abuse, and addiction. Despite her traumatic past, she found hope and strength through spiritual experiences. She discusses her personal growth, her discovery of the law of attraction, and her work in helping others overcome their limiting beliefs and energetic blocks.
11/28/202336 minutes, 27 seconds
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#734: The Art Of Attachment and S*x

Ever feel overwhelmingly drawn to someone that the physical attraction is just insane? Where you know you are powerless to stop the descent into what is probably going to be complex and messy, but that magnetism to them has you out of your mind? Tracy dives deep into the complex world of attachment styles and how each one - avoidant, anxious, and more - uniquely intertwines with our sexual lives, often in ways we don't consciously realize. Tracy also explores the misconception that anxious attachment is purely emotional, revealing how it often manifests in the heightened intensity of sexual encounters. This episode is a journey into understanding why we may feel a magnetic pull towards certain partners and how this attraction can be misleading, mistaking intense physical connection for emotional depth. Yeah, sorry about that…as much as you might want him or her to be your soulmate, it might just be a physiological response to your conditioning.
11/21/202329 minutes, 32 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life with Lynne McTaggart

Lynn McTaggart, an internationally recognized author and journalist known for her work on the intersection of science and spirituality joins Tracy. They take a deep dive into her journey from investigative journalism to spirituality, and her groundbreaking work on the power of group intention and consciousness. In this episode, she speaks about her experiments with scientists from various universities, which have shown significant positive effects. Lynn highlights the healing power of group intention, the importance of altruism, and the physiological effects of love. In addition to this insightful discussion, Lynn is launching a program called the "Intention Masterclass." It teaches intention mastery, by harnessing the incredible potential of intention in their daily lives. If you're intrigued by the idea of harnessing the power of intention and want to learn more about Lynn McTaggart's Intention Masterclass, you can visit her website at https://lynnemctaggart.com/courses/intention-masterclass/the-power-of-eight-intention-masterclass-2024/ .
11/14/202350 minutes, 7 seconds
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#732: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life with Jamie Scrimgeour

Tracy and Jamie Scrimgeour, the host of the chart-topping "The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast, tackle the nuanced realities of step-parenting. It’s all about setting boundaries, when to disengage, and the long-term commitment required to forge strong family bonds. Jamie shares her own experiences, around her blended family. Tune in for a conversation that's as real as it gets, and discover why Jamie's voice has become a leading one in the step-parenting community.
11/7/202337 minutes, 24 seconds
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#731: Find Your Spark; Get The Love You Want!

The key to everything you want is that “spark!”It’s time to put disappointment on a shelf and not wear it like a sweater. Whether it's a relationship that's lost its spark or a job that is dragging you down, Tracy will show you how to break free. The beauty of this episode is that the power to have what you want is in your hands, it’s not up to others. Start living from that spark inside, so you sparkle and shine everywhere you go no matter who you are with. Tracy shares real-life examples and actionable steps to shift your focus inward.
10/31/202319 minutes, 22 seconds
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#730: Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Nicole Walters

Need inspiration? Nicole Walters, a former corporate powerhouse turned multi-million-dollar business owner and author of the upcoming memoir 'NOTHING IS MISSING: A MEMOIR OF LIVING BOLDLY,’ sat down with me to talk about juggling. Juggling roles. Challenges women face in the entrepreneurial world, from work-life balance to money mindset are no joke. Nicole shares her game-changing tips on how to 'ask boldly,' monetize your gifts, and why you should never, ever work for free. Don't miss this empowering conversation leaving you ready to conquer your world, your way!
10/24/202337 minutes, 2 seconds
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#729: You Want To Change? How To Tell If You Are Actually Ready! (REBROADCAST)

For many people who are stuck, pain is what drives them to seek change. It could be a toxic relationship or yet another holiday spent alone. Maybe it’s wanting to finally escape not feeling good enough. But when anger and frustration are your only motivators, change isn’t very effective… and it doesn’t last. Especially if you’re changing yourself just to get someone else to change. Instead, you need to know why you’re not where you want to be, and have a deep desire to grow your self value. When you complain, blame and compare yourself to others, fear is running the show. And wanting to run away is often a sign that you need to stand still. In this week’s episode, I’ll share different questions you can ask yourself to evaluate your readiness for change. If you’re not there yet, that’s ok! Accepting where you are is an important first step. Once you are clear on what you want to change and why, you can start taking action in that direction. And THAT’S when meaningful change happens because there is a big difference between moving toward something you want, and moving away from something you don’t want.
10/17/202335 minutes, 46 seconds
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#728 - Breaking the Cycle: How Letting Go of Judgment Unlocks True Happiness

Do you notice judgment in your life? Whether it's a complicated relationship, a challenging work environment, or your own inner critic, judgment is the block to true happiness. It keeps you stuck while eroding your self-trust and confidence. It comes from a deep-seated sense of lack and fear. You can break free! Tune in to discover actionable steps to dismantle the judgment that's holding you back from happiness. Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll uncover in this episode: [1:25] Dive into the concept of breaking the cycle and discover how letting go of judgment can unlock your true happiness. [3:25] Learn why your judgments are keeping you stuck in dysfunctional relationships and clouding your clarity on what you truly want. [10:06] Explore the interconnectedness of fear, lack, judgment, confidence, and happiness, and how they shape your life. [12:09] Understand your soul's purpose: to have fun and expand, not contract out of fear. [14:09] Get real-life examples of how judgment impacts your relationships, business decisions, and dating life, and why awareness is the first step to overcoming it. [20:14] Trace back the roots of your judgments to your childhood and see how they're holding you back from your desires. [21:13] Realize that you often don't truly know others or even yourself, and learn the power of speaking your truth without blame. [22:05] Receive encouragement to let go of judgment, find the fun in life, and take actionable steps toward a judgment-free existence.
10/10/202323 minutes, 54 seconds
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#727 - Love Your Anxiety (REBROADCAST)

Anxiety isn’t the enemy—it sounds the alarm when fear comes up!. It provides a clue to your internal life. Where you lack trust, what you fear, what you don’t accept, etc. Forget solving it externally, it won’t work.  Even if the situation stops causing anxiety, that sleeping bear still lives inside you.  Anxiety grows when you hate it, disown it, try to reason with it and push it away. What’s the answer? Instead of running from it, sit with it. Check out this episode and in the meantime listen more deeply to what anxiety tells you.
10/3/202326 minutes, 24 seconds
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#726 The Answer to All Of Your Problems

I wonder if you know you’re in a ferris wheel cycle of problem-solving? Wonder why you're always focused on issues that get in the way of enjoying life? “He won’t commit, my job sucks, no matter how hard I try–something always gets in the way and so on.” In this episode, Tracy dives deep into the trap of living in "Problemville," where you're constantly seeking solutions but never finding peace. What's the real answer to all your problems? It's not another quick fix or strategy; it's a radical shift in perspective. Tracy challenges you to move from a state of lack to a state of abundance, from control to true awareness. Stop looking for problems and start living the life you truly desire.
9/26/202327 minutes, 52 seconds
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9.19.23 #725 Worrying About Trusting Others Is a MF; Focus On Trusting Yourself (REBROADCAST)

Do you believe trust must be earned? Like your partner showing you their texts to prove he/she is dedicated. Trust isn’t about controlling what another person says or does, and it’s not something to be exchanged, like money. In fact, trust isn’t about other people at all—it’s about you. When you don’t trust yourself to handle a situation, you decide the other person is the problem. Trust occurs when words and actions match, and trust is broken when they don’t. You expect that from other people, but do you practice it yourself? In this episode we’ll talk about how to become the trustworthy person you expect others to be. And how it’s better to trust that you can handle life than to expect other people to change. Here’s a glance at this episode… [01:25] Trusting Yourself is Huge: Focus on trusting yourself rather than worrying about trusting others. [02:27] Words and Actions Must Match: Understand that trust is built when your words and actions align. Emphasize the need to match your own words and actions. [06:11] Being Emotionally Resilient: Trust yourself to be emotionally resilient and handle disappointment, rather than constantly blaming others and feeling victimized. [10:57] The Importance of Self-Trust: Realize that trusting yourself is crucial for building close and bonded relationships and avoiding unnecessary anxiety and control. [12:44] Taking Responsibility for Trust Issues: Recognize that building trust is not about the other person, but about your own choices and actions in a relationship. [18:13] Choosing Yourself Over Attachment: Examine why you cling to someone who is not ready to commit and realize the importance of choosing your own best interest. [20:52] Trusting Yourself and Accepting Circumstances: Emphasize the importance of loving yourself and making choices based on feelings rather than intellectualizing, and accepting circumstances in relationships. [21:47] The Way to Trust Yourself: Understand the importance of trusting yourself to handle situations, being responsible for your own feelings, and making better choices in relationships. [22:52] Being in the Present Moment and Learning from Mistakes: Highlight the significance of being present, taking responsibility for your feelings, learning from mistakes, and building self-trust.
9/19/202326 minutes, 37 seconds
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#724 Activate Your Superpower

Ever daydream? You know where you find yourself the superhero or some other fantasy? It’s called escapism. By looking at what is a fantasy you feel powerful rather than the humdrum of focusing on what is missing from your life. This episode dives deep into the invisible chains of avoidance that hold you back from living your fullest life. Using your imagination as a visualization is not to be discouraged, but using it to stay stuck in wishful thinking never changes anything. What's the big secret to unlocking your superpower? Stop avoiding and start living. For those ready to elevate their consciousness and escape the clutches of "attachment hell," this is your roadmap to freedom. Your superpower isn't a figment of your imagination; it's the key to a life well-lived. Activate your superpower today and change your life forever.
9/13/202318 minutes, 34 seconds
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#722 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Carla Romo and Sherry Gaba

Join us in a riveting discussion on relationships, self-love, and personal growth with two exceptional women. Sherry Gaba, a licensed psychotherapist and life coach, is renowned for her expertise in codependency, love addiction, and trauma. As the author of "Love Smacked" and a frequent face on Vh1’s Celebrity Rehab, Sherry's dedication to mental health and recovery is unparalleled. On the other side, Carla Romo, a Professional Certified Coach and co-host of The Love Fix, transformed her life after overcoming toxic codependency at 24. With a passion for pushing individuals past their limitations, Carla's coaching has been recognized globally, from BRAVO to Cosmopolitan. Dive into their shared wisdom on modern dating, self-awareness, and the art of intentional relationships. Whether you're seeking love, understanding, or a fresh perspective, this episode promises enlightenment and empowerment.
8/29/202335 minutes, 2 seconds
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#721 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Steve Wiltshire

Join Tracy as she engages in a riveting conversation with Steve Q. Wiltshire, a former Mr. Oregon Body Building champion who battled and overcame a life-altering autoimmune disease. Discover the magic of produce, and the transformative power of customized wellness plans. Steve, founder of Body Temple Health & Wellness, shares insights from his three-decade-long journey prioritizing fitness, health, and mindset. From personal tales of resilience to actionable health advice, this episode is a treasure trove for anyone looking to reclaim their health and power. Tune in and be inspired by Steve's story.
8/22/202346 minutes, 4 seconds
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#720 Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Heather Allison

Heather Allison, a mystical guide and creator of Transformative Mystery Schools, joins Tracy for an enthralling conversation about embracing feminine and masculine energies and finding one's true self. Heather's remarkable journey takes us from the struggles of a toxic relationship to the awakening of her inner wisdom, redefining her life's trajectory. Dive into the mystical realms of your inner sanctuary, spiraling towards expansion and enlightenment. Join Tracy and Heather on this enlightening journey, unlocking your inner dreamer and embracing a life filled with authenticity and purpose.
8/15/202334 minutes, 20 seconds
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#719 Freedom From Attachment: Avoidants do have feelings

Avoidants have feelings, but they may not be what you expect. This episode shines a light on the complex world of avoidants, revealing how fear and control can mask genuine emotions. You ever notice how avoidants act nice but push others away? You ever notice that you could be one? Do you build walls when triggered? Yeah, it's not coldness (and if you’ve been accused then you know how that feels), it's fear. Tracy dives into the psyche of avoidants, sharing insights into why they behave the way they do and how they can break free. Whether it's understanding your own avoidant tendencies, learning how to interact with an avoidant in your life, or seeking a path to real love and connection, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to navigate these challenging dynamics. No more confusion or frustration—embrace a sincere journey towards empathy, understanding, and growth. Tune in to find the path to recognizing and addressing avoidant behavior, unlocking the potential for healthy, happy relationships.
8/8/202326 minutes, 58 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with María-Victoria Albina

Join Tracy Crossley and guest María-Victoria Albina. From her own battle with codependency to an unexpected shift from medicine to life coaching, Maria shares her unique insights and personal experiences. Listen as María-Victoria dives into the challenges and lessons of her life, from her struggle with perfectionism during college to her journey through an emotionally abusive marriage. Regardless of where you are in your personal journey, this episode offers valuable takeaways for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of themselves and the transformative power of love. Learn more about María-Victoria here: https://www.instagram.com/victoriaalbinawellness/, https://www.facebook.com/VictoriaAlbinaWellness, https://www.linkedin.com/in/victoriaalbina/
8/1/202339 minutes, 26 seconds
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Taming Your Ego to Have Your Soulmate

Having your soulmate may seem impossible or that it could happen, but with conditions. This episode shines a light on how the ego gets in the way because of its fierce pursuit of survival while spinning illusions of specialness. You ever notice how you make someone special when you are attached to the idea of them? You ever notice how you need to be special too? Yeah, its not love, it's ego. Tracy shares her personal journey to taming the ego, revealing a path to genuine love (not attachment) and inner peace. Whether it's a fulfilling love relationship, financial prosperity, or internal harmony you seek, in this episode, Tracy provides practical steps towards self-awareness to redirect your energy towards your true north star. No more hiding or forcing—embrace a sincere journey towards self-discovery, freedom, and joy. Tune in to find the path to having your soulmate through your authentic vibe to attract your desires.
7/25/202328 minutes, 39 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Olesya Wilson

Olesya Wilson, a certified nutritionist and holistic healer, joins Tracy as they dive into a captivating conversation about overcoming health issues and discovering the path to holistic healing. Olesya's incredible story showed how she broke free from limiting beliefs and unlocked her inner strength. Olesya challenges societal norms, redefining confidence as an inner essence and emphasizing the significance of self-love, self-care, and living in the present moment. Uncover the principles of self-value, self-care, and self-observation, shaping your relationship with money and overall well-being. Immerse yourself in the transformative power of the present moment, cultivating gratitude and contentment. Join Tracy and Olesya on this immersive journey, unlocking your inner power and embracing a life of holistic well-being. Learn more here: Website: https://olesyawilson.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindoverbody.me/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindoverbodyme/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@olesyawilson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/olesyawilson/
7/18/202341 minutes, 38 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani

Join us as we sit down with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani, co-founder of Mindvalley, for a thought-provoking conversation that will inspire and empower you. We begin by delving into Kristina's childhood dreams and how her journey into adulthood was shaped by the transformative events of the fall of the Soviet Union. Furthermore, we explore the transformative impact of everyday decisions. Discover the profound impact that seemingly small choices can have on our lives. Gain practical strategies to overcome decision fatigue and streamline your decision-making process, freeing up valuable mental energy for what truly matters. As we conclude our conversation, we explore the transformative practice of letting go. Get a glimpse into Kristina's new book, "The Art Of Being Flawsome," which offers guidance on releasing what no longer serves us, leading to a healthier, happier, and more fulfilling life. Tune into this illuminating journey with Kristina Mand-Lakhiani and unlock the keys to embracing your fullest potential. Learn more about Kristina here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristina-mand-lakhiani-73168414/ Website: https://kristinamand.com/
7/12/202331 minutes, 3 seconds
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Attachment is Not Just Conditioning; Check Out the Soul Contract

Your attachment to that person or finding yourself hitting repeat on the kind of relationships you attract? Perhaps it's more than just conditioning? Let’s uncover the hidden gems within attachment issues— they're not just conditioning, —they're actually opportunities for personal growth and transformation. Once we release the idea that attachment is everything, a whole new world of emotional and spiritual freedom opens up to us. Picture this: your soul contract is like a guiding light throughout your entire life, presenting you with contrasting situations that are designed to help you grow and discover the true essence of love. It's time to move beyond blame and shift our perspective. When we do that, attachments start losing their hold on us, and love becomes the ultimate game changer. Listen into the podcast to learn more. Ready to embark on this life-altering journey? Start by nurturing your awareness and consider exploring our mind-blowing metaphysical breakthrough sessions. They're like a compass, providing you with invaluable insights and guidance along the way. Come join us on this adventure of attachment and unlock the incredible power of soul contracts to create a life that's truly fulfilled, happy, and overflowing with love. Let's do this together!
7/6/202359 minutes, 48 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Ken Bechtel

In a world filled with external expectations and obstacles, it's crucial to tune into your inner desires and follow your "yes." Join Tracy in an enlightening episode of "Moving On" as she interviews Ken Bechtel, an acclaimed author, speaker, and mentor, who shares invaluable insights on the transformative power of following your divine guidance. Ken emphasizes the importance of embracing unexpected outcomes and trusting that every piece of the puzzle is there for a reason. During their conversation, Ken and Tracy dive into the topic of shame and its role as a catalyst for change. Rather than viewing shame as something to be healed, Ken urges listeners to identify its source and take proactive steps to prevent its recurrence. Discover how recognizing and working through shame can provide clarity on your next steps towards personal growth and self-discovery. Ken's book, Follow Your Yes provides further exploration of the concept of following your inner guidance and offers practical advice on navigating life's obstacles. Immerse yourself and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery. Let Ken and Tracy's empowering words resonate within you as they guide you towards staying true to yourself and fearlessly embracing life's intricate puzzle. By following your "yes" and embracing your inner guidance, you'll unlock the door to profound growth and fulfillment that await you. Learn more about Ken here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/followyouryes/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KenWBechtel Website: https://www.kenbechtel.com/
6/27/202332 minutes, 14 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Rachael Jayne Groover

Join us as we dive into the world of spiritual awakening with Rachael Jayne Groover, founder of The Awakened School and bestselling author of "Powerful and Feminine." Rachael takes us on a transformative journey, recounting her path towards inner peace and outer purpose. Discover the pivotal moments that led to her multidimensional seeing experience, as she courageously surrendered her image and followed her instincts. Through profound insights, Rachael unveils the profound ways her life has been reshaped since her spiritual awakening, and how she now guides others on their own spiritual paths through her work at The Awakened School. Unveiling the power of awakening to purpose, spirituality, and potential, this podcast will inspire you to become more receptive to the present moment and embark on your own awakening journey.
6/21/202334 minutes, 5 seconds
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Change Your Attachment Style to Attract What You Want

Most everyone on the planet has heard of the law of attraction. How about the law of attraction and insecure attachment? Well, you are always attracting the people, places and things to your life that you currently are experiencing today. Looking at who you are attached to or fear being engulfed by gives them more power over you, than you have of yourself in making choices that you want. Your attachment style may say “yes” to pain and “no” to happiness. Who you attract and how you act are reflected in why you magnetize what you do. And for some of us we look at the person we are attached to and feel some magic brought him or her to our lives. Join Tracy as she unveils the secrets to changing your attachment style and attracting the love and fulfillment you truly desire. If you're ready to break free from the patterns of insecurity and create a life of love and abundance, tune in to gain invaluable insights, practical strategies, and the inspiration to transform your attachment style.
6/13/202328 minutes, 4 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Ken Honda

Discover the path to financial harmony and genuine happiness in this captivating podcast episode. Tracy sits down with Ken Honda, a revered money and happiness expert and best-selling author from Japan, to explore the transformative power of reshaping our relationship with money. Through heartfelt childhood anecdotes and personal experiences, Ken shares how his father's wisdom molded his views on finance. He unveils the key to a fulfilling life: adopting a positive and grateful attitude towards money. Ken's philosophy is centered around using money as a tool for happiness and fulfillment, rather than a source of stress and anxiety. He empowers listeners to prioritize self-fulfillment, finding joy in their own lives before extending generosity to others. In his vibrant community, "Arigato a Living Community," individuals from 20 different countries gather monthly to explore the intertwined nature of money and happiness. Join Tracy in this insightful episode as Ken Honda guides you on a journey towards financial well-being and lasting contentment. Uncover the profound truth that money is not happiness itself but a means to unlock a more harmonious and fulfilling life. "Money is a tool for happiness. It's not happiness itself." "Life is to be enjoyed. You can spend money in a happy way, you can receive money in a happy way. If you focus on your relationship with money, you can change your life. So start appreciating both money coming in and going out.”
6/6/202354 minutes, 19 seconds
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Exchanging Anxiety Energy for Love

This episode dives deep into the topic of exchanging anxiety energy for love. Tracy sheds light on how anxiety is born from fear and signifies an insecure attachment, and she offers powerful strategies to shift that energy towards love, generosity, and happiness. Discover the importance of real feelings and effective communication in relationships, as Tracy guides you towards becoming free from the grip of anxiety. If you find yourself repeatedly attracting the same types of relationships, Tracy's expertise can help you uncover the root cause and manifest a healthy, happy connection. In addition to Tracy's insightful guidance in this episode, she offers transformative programs and coaching to support individuals on their journey to overcoming attachment anxiety and finding true fulfillment in relationships. Tracy's programs are designed to provide personalized support and tools tailored to each individual's unique needs. Whether you're seeking one-on-one coaching or prefer the dynamic of a group setting, Tracy's expertise and compassionate approach can help you break free from the grip of anxiety and create the loving, harmonious connection you desire. To learn more about Tracy's transformative programs and coaching offerings, be sure to visit tracycrossley.com. Take the first step towards a happier, more secure future by exploring the resources and guidance available to you through Tracy's empowering programs.
5/30/202329 minutes, 1 second
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Attachment Is Not What You Think It Is; Instead Learn How To Get What You Want From Love

Attachment and love are opposite countries. Embark on a transformative journey as Tracy delves into the profound nature of attachment in this captivating podcast episode. Drawing upon decades of experience in dealing with insecure attachment, energy work, and psychic sessions, we explore the spiritual side of attachment and how to get out of its clutches. Discover the power you hold to break free from the cycle of pain and insecurity and create a life filled with love, abundance, and joy. Through emotionally-provocative examples, we unravel the connection between attachment and karma, showcasing how releasing attachment can lead to profound personal growth and fulfilling relationships. With insights and guidance, you'll gain awareness and tools to speak your truth, liberate yourself from suffering, and embrace the love that you truly deserve. Are you ready to break free from attachment hell and embark on a journey towards emotional freedom and self-discovery? Tune in now and start your path to an empowered and meaningful life. (Note: This podcast episode explores the spiritual aspects of attachment and provides guidance on breaking free from pain and insecurity. It is recommended for those seeking personal growth, transformative experiences, and a deeper understanding of the self.)
5/23/202324 minutes, 46 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Erin Pash

In this episode, Tracy speaks with Erin Pash, a successful therapist and business owner, who shares her journey towards discovering and utilizing her emotional intelligence. From her classic teenage childhood to switching from science to psychology in college, Erin has always had a talent for emotional intelligence and helping others. Join us as we explore the nuances of empathy and emotional intelligence, and how they can impact our personal and professional lives. Erin also shares valuable insights about the spectrum of emotional intelligence and the importance of setting boundaries when helping others. We also delve into her personal experiences, including her blended family and navigating the challenges of marriage and divorce. As a therapist and business owner, Erin offers her perspectives on bad therapy as well as the importance of reflecting on mistakes and growing from them. Whether you're interested in mental health or looking to improve your own emotional intelligence, you won't want to miss this inspiring and insightful episode. Discover the power of emotional intelligence and how it can change your life for the better.
5/16/202338 minutes, 31 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Fleet Maull

In this captivating episode of the "Moving On" podcast, Tracy introduces us to the incredible Dr. Fleet Maull. A renowned growth mindset teacher, meditation guru, and social entrepreneur, Dr. Maull's journey of self-discovery and transformation is nothing short of awe-inspiring. From his childhood to his spiritual journey, Dr. Maull shares how he overcame numerous challenges and developed an unwavering sense of discipline, focus, and inner strength. His time in prison was a pivotal moment, where he embraced a disciplined life of a prison monk and devoted hours each day to meditation, study, and service. But Dr. Maull's journey didn't end there. He has developed a groundbreaking approach to healing attachment issues using neuro-somatic mindfulness and regenerative self-parenting. He believes that true healing begins with reconnecting with our hearts and becoming more heart-centered, a mission that he carries out through his Heart Mind Institute. Join Tracy as she dives into the life and teachings of Dr. Fleet Maull, and discover how we too can cultivate a growth mindset, transform our lives, and find our inner strength. This is an episode not to be missed!
5/9/202343 minutes, 53 seconds
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Attachment is a Different Energy Than Love

Join us as Tracy delves into the complexities of spirituality and non-attachment. Tracy shares insights on how to manifest the life you want by removing the layers of attachment that prevent you from reaching your full potential. Discover how projecting your own energy onto others can lead to misunderstandings and miscommunications, and how the ego can keep you trapped in familiar suffering. Through relatable examples, Tracy highlights the importance of self-awareness and understanding where attachment comes from. Learn how to read energy from a place of love and expand your heart to embrace a whole new way of being. You'll gain valuable tips on how to become aware of your own ego, and how to distinguish between attachment and genuine connection. Tracy also offers a simple experiment to help you cultivate a deeper understanding of your own energy, and how to use it to build better relationships. Tune in to discover the transformative power of letting go of attachment and embracing love.
5/2/202327 minutes, 40 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Jessica Higgins

Join us for a captivating episode where we sit down with Dr. Jessica Higgins, a psychologist and relationship coach with over 20 years of experience, as we delve into the intricacies of human connection and the importance of emotional growth and vulnerability. In this interview, we explore Dr. Higgins' own personal experiences with relationships and trauma, and how they have informed her approach to therapy and personal growth. We discuss the challenges that people often face when seeking help for their relationships, and why it's crucial to prioritize emotional intimacy, vulnerability, and differentiation in any healthy partnership. Dr. Higgins also stresses the importance of striking a balance between togetherness and autonomy, and why confronting past pain and trauma is essential for growth and healing. Whether you're single, in a relationship, or just curious about the dynamics of human connection, this episode is a must-listen to discover the keys to building strong, healthy relationships. Facebook: facebook.com/EmpoweredRelationship Instagram: instagram.com/drjessicahiggins Podcast: drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Pinterest: pinterest.com/EmpowerRelation LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/drjessicahiggins Twitter: @drjesshiggins Shifting Criticism guide: https://drjessicahiggins.lpages.co/shifting-criticism-for-connected-communication/ Empowered Relationship Podcast: https://drjessicahiggins.com/podcasts/ Website: https://drjessicahiggins.com/
4/25/202336 minutes, 20 seconds
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Lovebombing? How to Delete it From Your Life

Lovebombing. Ladies and gents–you want empowerment, you want emotional freedom and you want to feel you can choose better, this only happens when you let go of someone else having power over you. It’s what happens when we make others responsible for our emotional state and our own choices. Sometimes it's scary to give up the idea that someone else is to blame, because it feels like you have power or control. But it is the opposite, it leaves you a victim waiting for someone to come along who controls your emotions, because you made them responsible. This is part and parcel of our conditioning, so you aren’t purposely thinking this sounds like a day at the park! In this episode, we dive into the world of love bombing and explore how you can break free from its negative effects. Tracy shares valuable insights on taking personal responsibility, building self-worth, and growing emotional maturity. By examining your own contributions to the relationship and understanding any unconscious patterns or traumas that may be influencing your behavior, you can gain personal power and inner peace, paving the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships. Join us as we explore the transformative power of personal responsibility and the importance of building self-worth. And if you're struggling with love bombing or insecure attachment, we've got you covered with resources to help you on your journey.
4/18/202334 minutes, 13 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Christina Flach

On this episode of the Moving On podcast, join Tracy as she sits down with the accomplished Christina Flach, a renowned celebrity makeup and hair artist, the driving force behind Pretty Girl Makeup, and a dedicated philanthropist. As a mother to five children, Flach opens up about her journey in balancing her various roles, her commitment to charitable endeavors, and her remarkable ability to bounce back from personal hardships. She highlights the significance of prioritizing self-care, cultivating gratitude, and giving back to others. Tune in to hear her empowering advice on discovering your passions and turning them into a career, as well as valuable insights on makeup, wellness, and fitness. Follow Christina on IG: https://www.instagram.com/christinaflachmakeup
4/11/202330 minutes, 33 seconds
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Being Attached to Someone Outside of Your Relationship

Married and attached to someone else? Ring the drama bell! Being attached to someone outside of your committed relationship isn’t all others may think its cracked up to be. Often, the people who are attached to someone who is not their mate, find themselves going through a tough time. Whether the attachment is acted on or not, it can feel as though you are quite alone unless engaging with this person. Join me as two of my clients in this situation share their stories and we do a bit of Q&A on taking steps to feel they can make a loving decision for themselves.
4/4/202359 minutes, 24 seconds
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They Said They Love Me! Why Don’t They Act Like it?!

“He said he loves me! Okay, so why doesn’t he act like it!!” Oh man, the pain and agony of insecure attachment, even when your partner says those three little words. In this episode, we dive into the idea of attachment and unrealistic expectations that come with it. From focusing on struggle to telling ourselves stories and little white lies about what "I love you" or any meaningful statement, “I love how you drink your beer!” means, so that we can continually be in a state of pain and yearning. This episode will challenge your assumptions and help you take responsibility for your choices in relationships. By becoming aware of your thoughts and questioning your expectations, you can break free from the conditioning of attachment and start loving yourself. Don't miss out on this eye-opening discussion about the power of what your partner or date says and what it really means.
3/28/202324 minutes, 49 seconds
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Hiding How You Feel Among Judgmental People (REBROADCAST)

You wish you could be calm, cool and collected. Other people seem to do it—they can pull off being mysterious while your facial expressions always give you away. You feel like the weird emotional one, trying to tame whatever is brewing inside while everyone else stays calmly in control. You’re afraid if anyone knew how you really felt, they would judge you. But following the rules of what other people deem as “acceptable” will leave you disconnected from yourself and your life. If you want to be comfortable in your skin, you need to value your own truth and stop seeking outside approval. In this week’s episode I’ll show you how to pay attention to your insecurities, and identify which situations provoke them. From there you can practice showing up in those situations however you feel, and not expecting yourself to be different. Gauging how you’re supposed to act by watching the body language, words and actions of others is the opposite of authentic. Instead, take action from an internal desire for happiness and wellbeing. Over time your insecurities will fade and your confidence will grow! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Valuing your truth makes it easier to find true connection. Letting go of that fear changes your life.
3/21/202322 minutes, 42 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Brian Nickerson

Brian Nickerson is the Co-Founder and CEO of MagicLinks, an award-winning full-stack influencer marketing platform and the global leader in social video commerce. Built with over $1B GMV in eCommerce transactions across 25k+ video influencers and 30B views, Match IntelligenceTM, MagicLinks Secret Sauce, accurately predicts which influencers will drive the best outcomes for brands based on sales and reach goals. Nickerson earned his MBA from Harvard Business School and graduated from Dartmouth College with a Bachelor’s of Arts in Engineering and Economics. Prior to helping brands win big with influencer technology innovations, he helped the Los Angeles Dodgers win big as their third baseman in the minor leagues. In this episode, Brian shares his journey as a former professional baseball player turned entrepreneur, the importance of embracing failure as a learning experience, and the significance of delegation and scaling. He also gives insights on how to use high-performance index exercises to improve company culture and shares three key tips for business success. "I think great things aren't achieved unless you're willing to be bold." "Most change starts with awareness. If you don't know or don't understand that there's an issue, it's pretty hard to change it. But once you are aware of something, then the energy starts to flow in a way that can change." Learn more about Brian & MagicLinks here: MagicLinks: https://www.magiclinks.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magiclinks LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/magiclinks/ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@magiclinks Twitter: https://twitter.com/usemagiclinks Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/usemagiclinks
3/14/202331 minutes, 50 seconds
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Please Choose Me; Stop Chasing Being Special--Just Be You

I never thought I could be chosen, I thought I always had to be the one performing, showing I was worth it....until I chose me. Are you tired of constantly waiting for someone else to choose you? Do you feel like you're always stuck in the waiting game, hoping and praying that the other person will finally pick you? In this episode of our podcast, we're diving deep into the difference between commitment and attachment, and exploring how waiting for someone else to choose you can leave you feeling empty and in pain. But the good news is that you don't have to wait for somebody to choose you. You can choose yourself and start making healthy, happy choices for your life. We'll also explore the role of self-awareness in making positive changes in relationships and provide practical tips and tools for listeners who are ready to take control of their lives. So if you're tired of feeling stuck and want to start choosing yourself, tune in and join the conversation!
3/7/202320 minutes, 16 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jaime Filer

Jaime started dieting at age 11, was hospitalized for an eating disorder at age 15, had kidney dialysis at 17 and finally recovered at 24. It wasn’t until her recovery that she realized how much her childhood contributed. Before Jaimie was born, her father was diagnosed with Lou Gehrig’s disease, so she grew up with a father who loved and supported her, but couldn’t walk, talk, or breathe on his own. Food and exercise were two things in life Jaime could control, so she doubled-down on both. Join me for an uplifting conversation with Jaime who turned her scarlet “A” (for anorexia) into a way of inspiring others to find synergy between mental and physical fitness. As a coach and Instagram influencer, she helps women overcome overwhelm and reduce anxiety through fitness. “You can integrate your mental health into your physical health, and your physical health into your mental health.” Learn more about Jaime here: Website: Jaime Filer Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jaim91/
2/28/202328 minutes, 57 seconds
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Attachment Drama and The Great Equalizer!

You think love is hard work, you are so used to it being unequal, unfair and down right frustrating at times. In fact, you might be tired of feeling like you're stuck in a never-ending cycle of drama and pain in your relationships. Do you feel like you're always searching for love, but end up attached instead? If so, you need to tune into this podcast episode about Attachment Drama and The Great Equalizer! In this episode, you'll learn about the crucial differences between love and attachment, and how attachment can be incredibly unfair and draining for the attached person. You'll gain a deeper understanding of the world of pain that attachment can bring, and how to recognize the signs of attachment in your own life. But it's not all doom and gloom! You'll also discover the power of choosing love over attachment, and how to take baby steps to get there. You'll learn about the importance of awareness and taking action, and how to start living a life of love and fulfillment. With engaging anecdotes and practical tips, this podcast episode is the perfect guide for anyone who wants to break free from attachment and start living a life of love. So don't miss out – tune in now to discover the great equalizer and how to choose love every time!
2/21/202325 minutes, 8 seconds
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How to Really Be a Badass at Receiving Love! (REBROADCAST)

Are you holding yourself back from receiving the love you want and being your badass self? Or does your need for control and “giving to get” keep you stuck in the same paradigm? Let’s be clear: a badass is not someone who struts around, pretending they don’t need anyone. That’s a victim wearing a suit of emotional armor. A badass when it comes to love is open-hearted, trusting, courageous and vulnerable. A badass takes care of their own emotional wellbeing, and when they’re in a situation where someone doesn’t respect them or their boundaries… a badass removes themself from that situation. A badass is the REAL you. So how do you stop people pleasing and playing the role of the “good” partner in order to be comfortable as your badass self so you can receive love freely? First, look at what you say you want, and how your actions work against it. If you’re not sure what you want, tune in to today’s episode for a writing exercise that will help you identify your disconnects and help you uncover the motivation behind your actions. Receiving love requires clarity, honesty and openness. There is no magical genie who can grant you “badass” status. The only power capable of doing that is you.
2/14/202321 minutes, 55 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Kute Blackson

Kute had a rather unconventional upbringing. His dad was a spiritual leader who built 300 churches in Ghana and led a huge congregation in London. Everyday Kute would watch his dad, dubbed the “Miracle man of Africa,” heal people. Then, at the boyish age of 14, Kute was ordained as a minister and instructed by his father to take over. Although he was an empathetic kid and wanted to help people, this wasn’t what he wanted. After four years of depression and inner turmoil, he left the church and followed his soul to the US. What he would do there, he had absolutely no idea. He was 18 years old. Join me for Kute’s inspirational journey to understand life and listen to his inner wisdom (even when he didn’t know where it was leading him). He’ll share why, after incredible persistence and determination, he turned down an opportunity to realize his dream. Instead of following his ego, he surrendered to life…and he tells us how we can do that too. Today Kute is an inspirational speaker, author, teacher and next-gen personal development leader who inspires people to access inner freedom, live authentically and fulfill their true life’s purpose. “Life tends to unfold in ways that are way better than we could ever plan for ourselves.” —Kute Blackson Learn more about him here: Website: Home page Facebook: kute blackson Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kuteblackson/ Twitter: kuteblackson YouTube: Kute Blackson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kute-blackson-35755519/
2/8/202350 minutes, 40 seconds
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The Secret To Settling for Good Enough and Loving It! (REBROADCAST)

Settling, and the fear of missing out, is a reflection of not feeling good enough as you are right now. When you search for perfection—or even just better than you have—you’re looking for something that doesn’t exist. Many people who are attached struggle with this “not good enough” belief, driving them to sabotage their relationships and create obstacles to happiness. If you second guess your relationship whenever your partner tries to get close to you, listen in. In this week’s podcast I’ll share the secret to feeling enough so you stop freaking out about settling. It starts with two questions to ask yourself each morning. Do this consistently and you’ll start building your sense of value. Because the thing is, when you chase that greener grass, you bring yourself (and your belief of not being good enough) with you. Then the fear of settling starts all over again. Let’s break that cycle, shall we?
2/7/202326 minutes, 5 seconds
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The Sadness of a Healthy Relationship

I see this happen a lot: someone finally gets into a healthy relationship after struggling with insecure attachment (through a lot of work on themselves, of course), and they miss the intensity. They watch a passionate love scene on TV or hear about their friend’s romantic escapade and momentarily lament their “boring” relationship, wondering if this is what a healthy relationship is supposed to feel like. But then they realize, “Hey, I’m not constantly in pain! My stomach isn’t tied up in anxious knots. I can relax and be myself with this person!” Attachment is like a drug with extreme highs and lows, so giving up the lows also means giving up the highs. When we equate love with intense chemistry, then realize that’s not real love, it can be an adjustment. If this happens and you find yourself craving intensity in a healthy relationship, listen to this podcast. I’ll tell you what you can do to fill your emotional tank and focus on what you have rather than operating from a place of lack.
1/31/202321 minutes, 9 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with David Perry

In this episode Tracy sits down with David Perry to discuss the secret to his meteoric success. Perry is currently the CEO of Carro, a new e-commerce partnership network used by over 30k Shopify Brands. Prior to Carro, Perry had established himself as one of the best-known video game veterans in the industry. His previous company, Gaikai, was acquired by Sony PlayStation. He was also the Co-Founder & Chief Creative Officer of Acclaim Entertainment, and founded the game development company Shiny Entertainment, which was first acquired by Interplay, then again by Atari. Perry has spoken at TED, E3, Digital Hollywood, Stanford University, MIT, USC, UCLA and many others.
1/25/20231 hour, 3 seconds
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You Hurt My Feelings (And Other Inconsiderate Acts)

You’re in a heated argument with someone. Maybe you have unresolved anger from an earlier situation so it escalates quickly. Harsh words are exchanged, the jabs get personal, then bam—your feelings are hurt. You feel wronged, victimized, and unfairly attacked. You might assume they set out to hurt you and it’s all their fault. But how do you know their intention? That’s what we’re talking about this week. When someone says or does something that hurts your feelings, and you expect them to “fix” it because it’s their fault, you are at their mercy. It sounds harsh, but no one owes you anything…and it takes two to tango. Instead of putting all the blame on them, look at how you contribute to the situation and what you expect from them. YOU are responsible for your emotions, your actions and your reactions. And that’s good news because it means your emotional wellbeing is in your hands, not someone else’s.
1/24/202340 minutes, 22 seconds
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What Avoidants and Anxious Avoidants Don’t Know

Are you searching for a unicorn? I’m talking about someone whose specialness makes everything in life seem amazing. Someone you are (and forever will be) attracted to, who will never upset you or trigger you, who you’ll always have a deep physical connection with. Like unicorns themselves, this romantic idea you’re invested in is a fantasy. Love exists with another human who is flawed by nature. In this week’s episode we’ll look at what keeps you searching for unicorns (if you’re an Avoidant or Anxious Avoidant, pay particular attention). The kind of “perfect” love you’re looking for is only in the pages of a fairy tale. It’s a place where pain doesn’t exist… which is where many Avoidants like to live. You can continue searching for what is unrealistic, or you can look inside and deal with whatever emptiness, pain, and anxiety you’re feeling. Because unconditional love does exist. It’s just different from what you’re looking for.
1/17/202329 minutes, 36 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Kieve Huffman

Kieve is the founder and CEO of Engager Brands, where he combines music and cannabis to create authentic lifestyle brands like Heavy Grass, Neon Roots, and Clown Cannabis. Each has roots in music and resonates with the communities that align with them. With more than 25 years of experience in the music, cannabis and tech industries, Kieve leverages his knowledge and industry relationships to create these unique, cutting-edge brands. He was one of the founders of the leading cannabis media company, PRØHBTD Media, which built the first multi-platform video network. Join me for a spirited conversation about mindset and motivation as Kieve shares the secret sauce for his unique brand of success. www.engagerbrands.com https://www.linkedin.com/in/kievehuffman/
1/11/202341 minutes, 41 seconds
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That Narcissist Ruined My Life!

Labeling someone as a narcissist (or dysfunctional or whatever) often comes from a place of pain and lack. They hurt you, so you want to feel superior, but blaming them for the way they are and the way they treat you doesn’t boost your self-worth. It may temporarily feel good, but that puts you in the position of victim, and victimhood is powerless. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at how to let go of the idea that they’re a monster and you’re their victim. “Diagnosing” them gives you a sense of control, but you do yourself a disservice when you look for fault in others instead of taking responsibility for the decisions you make. It can feel crappy to admit you CHOSE this person, but it’s also empowering because that means you can make a different choice. You can make small, loving choices toward you.
1/10/202324 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ignoring Red Flags Because You See the Good (REBROADCAST)

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself seeing the false part of others. And it’s totally rooted in insecure attachment. Emotionally healthy people don’t sacrifice their own wellbeing for others. When you believe this martyr story and ignore or excuse red flags, you sell yourself short. You do NOT deserve a “broken” person who needs rescuing. That road leads to unhappiness because it’s an impossible journey, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for. Focusing on the other person means you’re avoiding yourself. In today’s podcast we’ll explore this story we tend to create, and how to change it. Ignoring red flags doesn’t make you noble. Let’s dispel that belief so you can shift to the real work: the work that begins with you. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You are your own red flag. Surrender to reality, stop the story and be that hero for yourself.
1/3/202325 minutes, 30 seconds
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You Are Not Worthless. How To Change Your Tune! (REBROADCAST)

Go ahead, buy that car. You’re worth it. Your well-earned promotion will finally show people you have arrived. How do you measure your worth? Is it by what other people label as important, or what you feel inside? Will chasing money, fame and success make you feel worthy and valued? Of course not. Some of the most successful people in the world have an enormous sense of lack, believing more accolades will eventually fill them up. Intellectually you know fulfillment doesn’t work this way, yet your subconscious still searches for validation over the next mountain. So where does your internal value come from? Much of it is learned in childhood from your parents’ feelings of worthlessness. Yep, it’s passed down, so to speak, through the generations. Of course you didn’t know this as a kid; you simply modeled their behavior and emotional responses. And instead of seeing the problem as theirs, you believed something was wrong with you. In today’s podcast we’ll look at how we search for worthiness externally, and how to cultivate it internally. Everything you avoid takes away your worth, so start by accepting where you are right now—even if you feel utterly worthless. Then, let resistance be your guide. What you most resist is often the pathway to a more fulfilling life. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt
12/27/202237 minutes, 2 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Treva Brandon Scharf

As a self-proclaimed late bloomer, it took Treva Brandon Scharf longer than most to find her direction in life. After attending multiple colleges, Treva moved from Beverly Hills to New York, then back to LA, racking up a string of relationships she was never fully committed to. It wasn’t until she hit her 40s that she realized she forgot to get married and have kids (oops). Join Treva as she shares her unconventional journey in love and life, going from copywriter to personal trainer to life coach, and from single to married for the first time at the age of 51. After years of trying to find a partner, Treva reveals what eventually led her to her husband. Today she writes about surviving singledom and finding love later in life on her blog, The Late Blooming Bride. She is also a dating coach, speaker, and podcast host. “Here is the key to the kingdom; this is the magic: surrender.” —Treva Brandon Scharf Learn more about Treva at: Website: https://trevabrandonscharf.com/ Instagram: @trevabme Twitter: @trevabme Facebook: http://facebook.com/treva.brandonscharf LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/trevabrandonscharf
12/22/202254 minutes, 50 seconds
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Breaking the Toxic Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle (REBROADCAST)

The same dance happens all the time in unhealthy relationships between an anxious and an avoidant. The anxious struggles with self-value so they perform: see me, pay attention to me! This neediness causes the avoidant to run. But then, when the avoidant is away, they miss their anxious partner. They want to feel that “closeness” again so the avoidant returns and the whole cycle goes on repeat with the anxious clinging and the avoidant running. The anxious partner tends to blame the avoidant for problems in the relationship because THEY did the leaving. Anxious see themselves as the emotional ones while their avoidant partners are robots. In truth, the anxious person is avoiding too. They are avoiding their feelings and avoiding responsibility. Both parties want control, blaming the other person so there is a winner and a loser. Where is the love in that?? In this week’s podcast we’ll dig into attached relationships driven by fear and anxiety. There are no winners and losers here—only losers. Whether you are the anxious or avoidant partner, learn how to break the cycle by focusing on yourself so you change the way you show up in relationships. There IS a better way! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Whether you are anxious or avoidant, it is about YOU, not the other person. And since it IS you, you can change your relationships NOW. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt
12/20/202248 minutes, 16 seconds
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I Adore You, I Want You in My Life (but Only as a Friend, Not a Lover!)

Let me set the scene: You’re dating someone and feel this incredible connection. Maybe you sleep together. Then, seemingly out of nowhere they say, “I adore you but I can’t give you what you want and hope we can hang out as friends.” Gut punch. It’s incredibly painful, especially when you thought things were going well. But what’s even more painful? Going along with it. You’re afraid that if you leave, you’ll lose your one and only chance at a relationship (hello, scarcity). Plus, when you do hang out “as friends,” maybe they hold your hand or give you some other mixed message that keeps you hanging on. But when you choose to stay, you wait for a someday that may never come while anger and frustration build. So folks, that’s what we’re talking about in this podcast—why this happens and what to do if you find yourself in this situation.
12/13/202222 minutes, 11 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Suzanne Adams

As a kid, Suzanne wanted to be famous. So it’s fitting that today she lights up whenever she’s on stage, inspiring people to reach their highest potential. But, of course, there was a dark area in between. When she had her heart broken at age 16, a wall went up that wouldn’t come down for many years. Instead of feeling her emotions, Suzanne waited for the clock to strike 5pm every day so she could pour a glass of wine. But in 2013, while waiting for 5pm to roll around, she had an awakening. “When you plug into infinite possibilities and let something bigger than you move through you, you will radiate.” --Suzanne Adams Join me as Suzanne shares her life before and after 2013, including an entire year that she dedicated to loving herself. Feeling alive and activated, she started learning about feminine and masculine energy and how to balance them. Today she is a thought leader in personal development, energetics and leadership. Suzanne’s latest book “Quantum Vibes” (inspired by her TEDx talk) demonstrates how the confluence of the Law of Attraction, spirituality and science can deliver contentment and success. Learn more about Suzanne: https://suzanneadamsinc.com/ Grab some free gifts: https://suzanneadamsinc.com/free-gift/
12/7/202231 minutes, 39 seconds
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Santa Claus F’d Us Up!

Growing up, did you have to people-please and perform to earn your spot on Santa’s “nice” list? For many of us, we learned that gifts had to be earned, and there wasn’t much room for a good person who screwed up sometimes (i.e. a regular ol’ human). We were labeled as either good or bad, worthy or unworthy. For a jolly fellow, there sure were a lot of strings attached. And we got the pleasure of carrying those beliefs into our actual relationships—who needs that gift? The point of this podcast isn’t to villainize Santa, but rather to acknowledge how our childhood impacts our current relationships so we can identify patterns of behavior. As kids, we bought into those stories about what we deserved and where to look for validation (under the Christmas tree), but as adults, we get to challenge—and change—them.
12/6/202219 minutes, 43 seconds
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Liars, Cheaters and Lack of Trust (REBROADCAST)

You don’t trust your partner. He/she is lying and cheating… or you’re afraid they are. Maybe you have an ex who cheated on you so you are hyper-aware of certain behavior. Like if you see your partner acting flirty with someone, which sends you into that crazy, anxious paranoid mode. This reaction, however, is more a reflection of your negative beliefs and how you don’t trust YOURSELF. You don’t trust that you would be able to handle the disappointment of the relationship ending. What if you never recover? What if you just attract another cheater? Staying in a relationship like this allows you to play the victim while assigning your partner to the role of perpetrator (can you say drama triangle?). You get to blame him/her while taking no responsibility for why you stay… and you may be doing this without realizing it. Being a victim feels strangely secure, but it’s a prison that you choose to be in. If you remain, pain and anxiety will be constant companions. To break the chains of disrespect, distrust, and lack of love for yourself, you have to connect with the buried feelings you are trying to avoid. Because staying in a relationship where there is a lack of trust is less about your partner and more about you. But that means you can do something about it.
11/29/202226 minutes, 50 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lola Berry

“I love failing and I don’t think it should be a dirty word.” —Lola Berry Lola Berry is one of those rare birds who runs towards what scares her and embraces failure, believing there is always something to learn. With every fail, fall, and drop, she builds her resilience and stands a little bit taller. As a kid, she wanted to be an actress, and today she is chasing that dream in Los Angeles. Born in Melbourne, Lola finally won her US green card… right after she met her boyfriend. Join me for a fun and connected conversation with Lola as she talks about her literal and figurative journey to where she is today—splitting her time between Los Angeles and Byron Bay, Australia (and how she makes her relationship work). In addition to being an actor, she is also a nutritionist, yoga instructor, podcaster, Instagram influencer, best-selling author and co-creator of a medicinal brain tonic called Lola Coffee. Her biggest piece of advice? Run towards what fills you up. Learn more about Lola: https://lolaberry.com/ https://www.instagram.com/yummololaberry/
11/23/202232 minutes, 51 seconds
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Feeling Desperate When it Comes to Attachment

When something doesn’t go your way in a relationship, or you don’t get what you want, insecurities can get triggered: I’m unlovable, I’m never a priority, this always happens to me, etc. And that can turn into desperation for what you’re not getting. You NEED it so you try to strategize how to get it... yet a feeling of powerlessness remains. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at what fuels this desperation. What stories do you have on repeat, and what beliefs are you perpetuating? What deeper feelings are you avoiding? I’ll also help you distinguish your true feelings from reactions because focusing on reactions can send you down a path of blame and victimhood. Once you start breaking down your stories and beliefs, you’ll find it much easier to get what you want.
11/22/202219 minutes, 11 seconds
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Moving On When There Are Still Emotional Triggers! (REBROADCAST)

Are you still stuck on a relationship that ended months, maybe even years ago? You’re still carrying this longing inside of you, always wondering what life would have been like if they had stayed. A part of you is still waiting for them to come back, to give you some kind of closure for the sacrifices you made. Looking back on your memories, you think you still love them. It may feel like love, but what you’re really feeling is attachment. To move past the emotional triggers that are still keeping you attached to your previous partner, you have to start by taking responsibility for your own emotions. Once you find your agency, you can empower yourself to make a change. In today’s podcast episode, learn 4 tips to let go of the pain of your past relationship and finally put it behind you.
11/15/202229 minutes, 47 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jen Riday

Jen is a mom of six with a PhD in human development and family studies. Growing up in Iowa to farmer parents, Jen was often in charge of her younger brothers—even cooking meals by age 8. She kept the house running and constantly questioned whether her bedroom was clean enough. This, unsurprisingly, led to perfectionism and over-achieving (ahem, PhD and six kids!), so by her mid 30s she was massively burned out. “You deserve to be happy and fulfilled. If you can start to believe that, it will have a trickle-down effect on how you interact and how you hold boundaries.” —Jen Riday Join me for a conversation with Jen where she talks about the day she decided to be happy no matter what. It happened to be Christmas, but the gift she received was not joyous or expected. It did, however, set her down a path that led to where she is today: supporting women (mostly moms) who have lost themselves. She helps them take care of themselves and set healthy boundaries so they can realign their identity with who they really are. In addition to her Feel It To Heal It Method and BE HER Morning Ritual, Jen hosts a podcast to help women love their lives again. Learn more about Jen at: www.jenriday.com https://www.instagram.com/jenriday/ https://twitter.com/jenriday https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCViTDZF6CrTktP_y7j30_eQ https://www.facebook.com/jenriday/
11/9/202229 minutes, 37 seconds
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How Avoidants Try To Avoid Pain (REBROADCAST)

Avoidants avoid—that’s what they do! And when they try to avoid pain, they remain stuck in a state of struggle (although they don’t know they’re in struggle). If you are an avoidant, your emotions are often left unbothered and undisturbed. You may go through life believing you’re happy because you have numbed the pain. But if a crisis hits and your emotions are out of control, you compartmentalize them, hoping someday you’ll feel better. You probably isolate yourself or shut down and avoid vulnerability in an attempt to protect yourself from pain. On the surface you look like you have everything together, but inside you’re filled with anxiety from trying to avoid your pain. If you’re the kind of person who bends over backward for a family member, yet gets frustrated because that person always complains, you may be avoiding a deeper pain. Maybe you don’t like to be criticized or do things wrong… but you don’t know that about yourself because you don’t allow yourself to “go there.” Instead, you bury those feelings and end up lashing out at your relative for being unappreciative. Trying to avoid pain won’t make it go away; it stays inside and creates a different kind of pain. Your emotions are running the show whether you pay attention to them or not. And when you try to ignore their existence, they can come out in uncontrolled ways. Instead of pretending pain doesn’t exist, or compartmentalizing it for dealing with “another time,” focus on it. The next time you feel yourself reacting, notice where you feel physical pain or tightness in your body. Just feel it. Practicing this will get you used to allowing the pain and you’ll come to realize it won’t kill you. In fact, it just may be the key to your happiness because you can’t feel joy without feeling pain.
11/9/202220 minutes, 49 seconds
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Addicted to Attachment

Oh how intoxicating chemistry can be. The high that tells you you’re alive; a combustible mixture of floating and anxiety that makes you believe you can’t live without drinking the other person in. You think you need the fireworks…as if that’s real life. It’s not. Those outsized moments have nothing to do with reality or a healthy relationship. And how often is that high followed up with panic and desperation when you don’t hear from your flame? Welcome to attachment hell where you feel like you’re possessed by something outside of you and it takes your sanity with it. It may feel good in the moment, but attachment addiction always has you looking for your next hit. If this sounds even vaguely familiar, don’t miss this episode for some questions to ask yourself about what’s missing or stagnant in your life. Because hum-drum reality can actually be a wonderful place to live and engage in a true, authentic partnership.
11/1/202218 minutes, 46 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marni Battista

When Marni was a kid, she knew deep down she wasn’t the favorite or the golden child, but she pretended it wasn’t true. As class president and editor of the school paper, overachieving was how she proved her worth. It wasn’t until after her failed marriage that Marni started looking for meaning that wasn’t attached to external achievements. “What are the things you’re pretending not to know that you know? They’re the truth.” —Marni Battista Join me for an enlightening conversation with Marni where she talks about engineering a dating process that made her “rejection-proof,” and why she sold her house to travel the country with her husband in a 400-foot RV. Today Marni is a transformational life, love, and relationship coach, as well as a podcast host and the founder of The Institute for Living Courageously. She has appeared on CBS, ABC, Dr. Phi and Loveline as a fill-in for Dr. Drew. Learn more about Marni at: Instagram: @datingwithdignity Instagram: @lifecheckyourself Youtube: Radical Living Challenge Pinterest: Dating With Dignity (datingwithdignity) - Profile | Pinterest Facebook: Life Check Yourself Facebook: Dating With Dignity - Marni Battista
10/26/202238 minutes, 16 seconds
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Worrying About Trusting Others Is a MF; Focus On Trusting Yourself

Do you believe trust must be earned? Like your partner showing you their texts to prove he/she is dedicated. Trust isn’t about controlling what another person says or does, and it’s not something to be exchanged, like money. In fact, trust isn’t about other people at all—it’s about you. When you don’t trust yourself to handle a situation, you decide the other person is the problem. Trust occurs when words and actions match, and trust is broken when they don’t. You expect that from other people, but do you practice it yourself? In this episode we’ll talk about how to become the trustworthy person you expect others to be. And how it’s better to trust that you can handle life than to expect other people to change.
10/25/202226 minutes, 37 seconds
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Is Your Attachment To Dieting Holding You Back?

This episode is for all the chronic dieters out there. That used to be me. I was just as attached to dieting as I was to finding the perfect partner. Yes, attached to dieting because attachment usually doesn’t restrict itself to one area of your life. Whether the object of your attachment is a partner or food, they both come from a state of lack; you need something (or someone) to fill you up. If you believe you’ll be worthy of love once you hit your ideal weight, you might be attached to dieting. If you use food to soothe yourself (then crash diet and berate yourself) because doing deeper emotional work is hard, you might be attached to dieting. In this episode I’ll point out the similarities between love attachment and food/diet attachment, plus a few steps to bring more awareness to what you’re doing and why. If you are constantly at war with food and it’s keeping you from living your life, this one's for you.
10/18/202223 minutes, 59 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Juliette Karaman

Juliette’s life has been peppered with grief and trauma, beginning around age 10 when her brother lit their garage on fire and the family moved from Holland to Texas (without the brother). At 15, she found her mom after having swallowed sleeping pills, then swiftly took her to the hospital. As an adult she experienced several close family deaths, and later uncovered a trauma that she had buried: being raped by multiple men. Join me as I uncover what Juliette learned from all of this, including listening to her body and emotionally moving through trauma. Today she is a coach, teacher and mentor who writes about relationships, trauma, healing, sex and intimacy. Her specialty is helping clients move on from sexual trauma to rebuild intimate relationships again. Learn more about Juliette and her programs here: www.feelfullyyou.com www.theembodiedleadershipacademy.com Instagram: @juliettekaraman
10/12/202236 minutes, 23 seconds
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The Journey of Attachment: Attraction to Unavailable People (REBROADCAST)

You attract people exactly where you are. If you’re unavailable, you will attract someone who is unavailable. To attract open, you must BE open. People who are attracted to emotionally unavailable people are attached to UNREALISTIC outcomes, and their idea of a good partner is narrow—as in they need to fit the perfect picture. Maybe you want to meet someone so you don’t spend the holidays alone, providing a very limited opening for what you will accept. Even people who have done work on themselves can be drawn to emotionally unavailable people because it’s familiar. It stems from our negative beliefs, particularly “I am alone” and “there is not really enough.” We often look for evidence our beliefs are true, so we attract painful partners. As with everything, the first step is awareness. To move toward available, notice what you’re normally drawn to. What checklists do you have? Forget your “type” and pay attention to how certain attractive qualities feel to you. Where do you feel connected when you are with someone? Look for what you usually dismiss (i.e. values). Get to know yourself while being with people (without expectations) and see how you feel about them. Have a conversation without it needing to lead somewhere. Trying to make something happen doesn’t work, so relax and catch yourself if you start picking people apart. You never know when someone will show up, so stay open to possibility. It’s not about control; it’s about surrender. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/11/202237 minutes, 58 seconds
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You Are Not Broken and No One Is Coming To Save You (Thankfully)

A lot of people are afraid of settling, and yet, those same people believe they don’t deserve what they want. They feel broken, hoping someone else will come along to fix them. To anyone who believes they’re broken, I offer this: it’s a lie. You are whole and have so much inside that is valuable. You just can’t see it… yet. When you feel broken, you end up sabotaging everything to prove you are, indeed, undeserving. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy driven by a lack of value. In this episode you’ll discover you’re NOT broken, that you don’t need someone to fix you (not that they could anyway!), and that the way to feel whole is to show your “broken” parts. Yep, it’s time to let that freak flag fly!
10/4/202223 minutes, 2 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Helane Wahbeh

Dr. Helané Wahbeh is part clinical researcher and part intuitive. When she went to a channeling at her grandparent’s house at the age of 10, she connected with the intuitive side of herself. Named after her great grandmother who was a midwife and healer, Helané’s intrinsic desire to learn about health and healing let her to become a naturopathic physician. After a few years of private practice, something called her back to research where she studied mindfulness meditation in combat veterans with PTSD. Through her interviews with these veterans, she was hit with all this “other” information she couldn’t talk about in meetings. “Everyone has the capacity to channel in one way or another, but the way it shows up for them is unique.” --Dr. Helané Wahbeh Feeling split between her researcher work self and intuitive personal self, Helané sought a way to bring those two sides together. Naturally, a few synchronistic events led her in that direction. Today she is the Director of Research at the Institute of Noetic Sciences which studies interconnectedness through science and direct experience. She is also an adjunct assistant professor in the Department of Neurology at Oregon Health & Science University and president of the Parapsychological Association. Join me for an enlightening conversation with Helané about intuition, channeling, quantum physics, meditation and more. Learn more about Helané and the Institute of Noetic Sciences here: Institute of Noetic Sciences: www.noetic.org Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrWahbeh LinkedIn: http://linkedin.com/in/drwahbeh/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drwahbeh/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DrWahbeh
9/28/202236 minutes, 44 seconds
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How Keeping Toxic People Away From You Doesn’t Matter

“Toxic” gets thrown around a lot lately as though it’s a disease we want to stay away from. “Get that toxic person away from me!” or “I only want positive people in my life.” When parents say something triggering, they’re toxic. When a partner or roommate has a meltdown over dirty dishes in the sink, they’re toxic. This is how we create distance. You are absolutely in charge of who you spend time with, but instead of writing them off, get curious about what they’re triggering in you. In this episode we’ll look at the difference between someone who triggers painful emotions and actual toxicity. What are your expectations of them and why? Labeling someone as toxic is disempowering because your emotional state is in someone else’s hands; they’re “making” you feel angry, annoyed, etc. There’s a better way. Use the trigger as an opportunity for growth, and trust you’ll be ok no matter what other people do.
9/27/202218 minutes, 8 seconds
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Attachment Denial: Can I Make It Healthy?

Oh denial, what a comfy, cozy place it can be. Especially when you’re in denial about being attached. It’s easier to dress it up to family and friends so it doesn’t sound as bad as it feels. It’s easier to lie to yourself so you don’t have to deal with disappointment. And maybe, if you deny what’s going on, you won’t have to face all those painful negative feelings, right? Wrong. Hoping and wishing for something to be different doesn’t make those feelings disappear or lessen over time. It just strengthens them, keeping you miserable. Denying your situation is the opposite of trusting yourself because it says you can’t handle it (which is not true). In this episode we’ll look at what you’re sacrificing to live in denial about your attachment, and what it’s ultimately costing you. Healthy relationships exist in reality. When you admit you’re attached, you’ll be one brave step closer to having the loving, happy relationship you deserve.
9/20/202219 minutes, 54 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Niyc Pidgeon

“Positive psychology and entrepreneurship are vehicles to activate and strengthen and thrive.” --Niyc Pidgeon Niyc Pidgeon is known as “the girl who made Elon Musk cry” because of her thought-provoking, emotional question to him about the challenges of entrepreneurship. But it was her own challenges that led her to study positive psychology. At a young age, Niyc was bullied in school for being academically advanced—particularly in math and science. This led to a pivotal moment that involved her mom’s medicine cabinet, an ambulance call and a change of schools…which all set her down a new path. Join me for an enlightening conversation with Niyc as she talks us through what drew her to positive psychology, and how her research was put to the test in real life through the myriad challenges she faced (rape and suicide among them). Post-healing, she moved from England to the US, wrote a best-selling book and made $1 million before she was 30. Today she is business coach, founder of the multi-million dollar brand Unstoppable Success and creator of The Positive Psychology Coach Academy Certification. Learn more about Niyc, and get a free copy of her book “Now Is Your Chance” here: https://www.nowisyourchancebook.com/free Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/niycpidgeon Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/niycpidge/ Website: https://www.niycpidgeon.com/home
9/14/202230 minutes, 30 seconds
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How Does Someone Become Codependent? (REBROADCAST)

Codependency can feel like an addiction. You surrender your own feelings to make another person happy, using them as a way to fulfill needs you should be fulfilling yourself. Maybe you can't even remember a time when a relationship didn’t feel like work. You're always sacrificing your own happiness to make someone else happy. But how did you get to this place? How does someone become codependent? Unfortunately, codependency is often a seed planted in childhood. It grows alongside you as you develop your identity and the way you communicate. In today’s podcast, learn how the relationships you observed as a child influenced your adult relationships, and learn how you can use this knowledge to break free of your codependent behavior.
9/13/202223 minutes, 18 seconds
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Don’t Beat Yourself Up! Tips on Stopping the Urgency of Attachment

I want you, and I want you NOW. Have you ever wanted someone so badly that you’ll run down anything that stands in your way? Maybe you think of elaborate ways to hook them, thinking he or she is the answer to your prayers. It’s an urgency caused by the intensity of illusion. Yes, illusion. That’s because this intense feeling disguises itself as love, but it isn’t love. It’s attachment, and unfortunately, attachment is what many of us learn from society. It’s a desperate desire to be loved, and when you don’t get it, you wonder what you’re doing wrong. In this episode we’ll look at the illusion you’re living in, where you believe the situation or the person you want will magically change (he’ll finally leave her; she’ll eventually see what a catch I am). You’ll learn that disappointment, which you’re trying to avoid, can actually be a great friend and teacher. Because despite what you might see in the movies, love isn’t urgent. That dramatic arc? That’s attachment. Being able to distinguish between the two is a critical step toward finding actual love.
9/6/202222 minutes, 30 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Alison Kay

Alison grew up in a rural area surrounded by nature, so she always felt connected to it, feeling a greater sense of life around her. Then at 12 years old, Alison’s mom pointed out that she had a natural understanding of people, and suggested she become psychologist. That resonated with her, so Alison pursued a psychology major in college, but dropped it after three semesters because she wasn’t learning how to be the happiest, most thriving version of herself (that would come later!). Then, while working in a high-stress political job to protect the environment, she strolled through a bookstore and a meditation book literally fell off the shelf. It was a sign. “If we in the west only valued what’s in the invisible and understood the science behind how consciousness and our subtle energy system works, we would have so much more thriving and so much less suffering.” –Alison Kay Join me as Alison shares her unconventional journey from environmental legislation to teaching in Taiwan to where she is now, which is a subtle energies practitioner and natural healer with a holistic approach towards helping others thrive in mind, body and spirit. She’ll also touch on the 20-year window of purging we’re currently in, and the opportunities that exist. Today her mission is to support the next higher evolution of the collective and create change for the health of this planet and those who are ready to unleash every part of the magic within them. Where to learn more about Alison: Website: https://www.alisonjkay.com/ Twitter: @ajkbliss Facebook: www.facebook.com/drAlisonJKayofVibrationalUPgrade Linkedin: @dralisonjkay
8/31/202230 minutes, 19 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Why Won’t He/She Commit? (REBROADCAST)

A lot of people have one foot in and one foot out… in all areas of life. In this podcast, however, I’m going to focus on commitment (or lack thereof) when it comes to long-term relationships, whether you are in one or want to be in one. We are often quick to point out someone else’s commitment issues while failing to see our own. Remember, other people are a mirror for you. Whatever you identify as a problem in someone else is likely a problem for you. As an example: When you think, “If my partner really loved me, he/she would marry me,” you’re focused on what you can get from them; you’re giving your power away. That statement comes from fear, not love. Marriage may provide temporary validation, but it can’t fill the emptiness inside of you. In dysfunctional relationships, we wait for the other person to change, because we think WE are the healthy one. Nope, not true. It takes two to tango so if you believe it’s all on your partner, you’re wrong. The question isn’t, “How do I get a commitment from my partner?” You need to ask yourself why you want the commitment, and why it’s more important than anything else. Dig deep, why must you have this commitment? What does it give you inside of yourself? Where do you feel insecure, and why do you think that will go away if this person commits to you? These are hard questions, but you need to be clear with yourself before you can have clarity with your partner… which is the next step. Have a conversation that isn’t an ultimatum. Say what’s true for you. Get vulnerable and express your fears. Commitment isn’t about the other person; it’s about honoring yourself and what you want on a DEEPER level.
8/30/202239 minutes, 38 seconds
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Personalizing Keeps You Stuck in a Dysfunctional Relationship (REBROADCAST)

Are you always reading into what your significant other is doing--or not doing? Every ignored text, every forwarded call becomes a sign of the way they feel about you. When you take every action personally, you are giving them authority over your emotional state. To fight this helpless feeling, you may have turned to the silent treatment. Whether you’re ignoring them as a punishment or a way to make them miss you, it’s giving you a false sense of control. The key to a healthy relationship is not to ignore them, but to communicate openly about your feelings. You have to stop focusing on what you think is about you and focus on what you can control--your own actions. In today’s episode, learn how to stop personalizing others and take control of your emotions.
8/23/202231 minutes, 32 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jeff Sammut

Jeff Sammut is a comedy writer, performer and host of “Canada Now with Jeff Sammut” on Sirius XM. Growing up, Jeff was surrounded by radio and fell in love with it at a young age. Lucky for him, he snagged his first radio job at age of 17… and 27 years later, he’s still working in it. Jeff admits he’s fortunate. Not everyone knows what they want to do, let alone make it happen and still love it decades later. But luck is only part of the equation—Jeff credits famed improv school Second City for changing everything. Not only did it break him out of his shell and challenge him creatively, but he also learned how to fail in front of an audience, which has been invaluable in his work and his life. Join me for a spirited conversation with Jeff about his self-awareness journey of accepting reality and learning to ask for help, plus why he prefers radio over TV and the role insecurities play in conversations about polarizing topics. “Take the leap. Make sure it’s calculated, but take the leap. Don’t think that you can’t do it.” –Jeff Sammut Learn more about Jeff: http://www.jeffsammut.com/ Twitter: @jeffsammut Instagram: @sammutjeff
8/17/202242 minutes, 14 seconds
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The Struggle of Attachment

Attachment is the most painful form of struggle. Attachment to a person, an idea, food, money, a negative belief… the list goes on and on. That attachment is driven by fear, and it’s learned in childhood. You watched how love was given or withheld, and what you had to do in order to get it. Growing up you became attached to the way you saw the world, and your place in it. If you felt empty, you would become attached to whatever might fill you up. Struggle felt normal because that’s what you knew. But when you choose struggle, you tend to attract more of it, creating a vicious cycle. And so it goes with attachment—the tighter your grip, the more it shows up. So how do you stop? In this episode I’ll challenge you to really look at what you’re doing, then ask yourself where it comes from (your childhood conditioning), why you are attached to it and what it keeps you from realizing. This will give you insight into your attachment so you can slowly break the patterns that created it. Choice by choice, action by action, you can get off the struggle bus.
8/16/202225 minutes, 46 seconds
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Forget The Story of You Cannot, Because You Can!

Who’s the good girl and who’s the bad? I was always bad and tried to be good. I just did not fit in with the idea of good although, I was not out in the world doing bad things 24/7. I just questioned authority. I questioned the status quo and at times I felt I could do a better job at my work or in saving the world than others. You too? Cool you’re in the right place! You may have felt this way, and yet there is a part of you waiting to be proven wrong. Not the mature adult you, but that old part that was conditioned to “girls need to fit in and take care of others first.” Among so many other messages that did not serve you. The obstacles you place in your way start with you having to be the leader—yes you…if you were like me you were president of all your childhood clubs, you were inventing clubs for people to belong to…you were director and lead actress of all your plays as a little kid and so on….I always had to be in control but who knew then what my trajectory was going to be? I did. I marched to my own band. I also saw things from a different perspective, as many female leaders do. The issue only became an issue when I had to get others on my team to get as excited about things, that is when I started to sacrifice myself and say sorry, or worry I was wrong or bad, because someone disagreed with how I did my job or ran my business. Yes, always waiting to be found out but let me apologize in the meantime.
8/11/202221 minutes, 10 seconds
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I’m Not Good Enough or Too Much or… Let it Stop Stealing Your Happiness

Negative beliefs have a field day in your head, but they also creep out to your interactions with others, to you looking in the mirror and being judgmental and a plethora of other ways you rain on your own parade. WHY DO YOU NEED TO BE ANYONE ELSE? You are YOU…more feminine or more masculine—there is no right or wrong, but the truth is so many of you judge how you are supposed to be and then the sinking feeling when things do not go your way hits and you feel too much or not enough. Feeling not enough or too much in the moment stops you in the middle of a conversation, in the middle of anything and everything inside of your body. That heaviness, may have you immediately switch course to find a way to hide out, or it may have you say things out of fear of losing whatever attention you have on you….those feelings influence your choices when you are not okay with them. The judgment stick you use is what makes it hard to do the things you really want to do. And if it is a relationship, a job, money, socialization or just getting out of bed, it will deflate your energy and have you play small. Keeping you hooked in the scarcity of whatever you fear.
8/9/202233 minutes, 1 second
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What Your Parents Chose To Do Had Nothing To Do With You (REBROADCAST)

When you’re a kid and your mom or dad reacted to you at times as though you had done something wrong, and you had not. You might have felt misunderstood or confused by their words or actions. In those moments, mom or dad were dealing with their own stuff and some of their frustration, anger, exhaustion, sadness, anxiety, etc was put on you. As an adult, do you still carry baggage leftover from your parents' choices? We are clueless as kids, we have no idea why mom or dad feel how they do and treat us how they do. They weren’t saying, “Hey, I am really frustrated by this problem at work and I am sorry I took it out on you.” Or maybe they ignored you, no matter how much you wanted their attention? And at other time they told you that you were too much, too difficult, or always doing something wrong. Whatever it was that created the idea that you were somehow responsible for how your parents felt, it was not a true observation, even if they said how they felt was all your fault. The truth is: Your parents projected their own insecurities and issues onto you. Their choices had nothing to do with you, in how they chose to treat you and everything to do with the qualities they were lacking in how to deal. It's time to put down the baggage you've been carrying. In this podcast episode, you'll learn how to break through your old thoughts of who you are through someone else's eyes, and become who you really are.
8/2/202229 minutes, 5 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Robbie Kramer

Robbie Kramer was popular in his small, private school growing up, but when he asked a girl out in 7th grade and got rejected, his confidence was crushed. It wasn’t until the end of his junior year of high school that he mustered up enough courage to try again. This time, it was successful and he continued his dating spree through college. After graduation, however, Robbie worked long hours at an investment bank and realized he didn’t know how to date in the traditional sense—when he wasn’t surrounded by college girls. This led him to study personal growth and attraction through books, workshops and mastermind groups. He discovered that attraction wasn’t just physical, and the act of attracting someone could be learned. Putting his new-found knowledge to the test, Robbie became the test subject in his own dating experiment. In 2006 he launched a blog that documented his crazy stories, growing his audience of men who wanted to crack the dating code themselves. In 2008, after losing his banking job, Robbie became a fulltime dating coach. Today he runs Inner Confidence, a coaching business that shows men exactly how to create the lifestyle of their dreams in a way that actually works. No quick fixes. No magic pills. Just tested, proven and easily implementable advice that works. Join me in this spirited conversation where Robbie shares dating tips from a male perspective, and learn what he did to take the pressure off dating, allowing him to take risks and ultimately build his own confidence. “There’s no way to escape the rejection aspect of dating…if you can get to the point where it’s not that big of a deal, you’re going to be way more confident than the rest of the dating pool.” –Robbie Kramer Learn more about Robbie at: Website: https://innerconfidence.com/ Instagram: @robbie_kramer
7/27/202243 minutes, 50 seconds
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Feeling Out of Control From No Text Response (or Wanting a Better One!)

You just poured your heart out to a friend or mate via text and got some annoying response like “sorry to hear that,” or no reply at all. What gives? Now on top of feeling vulnerable from what you just shared, you’re hurt, confused and angry. How dare they make you feel this way! Wait, how can someone MAKE you feel something? They can’t. No one reaches inside you and presses a button that causes your reaction. You feel this way because you’re attached to an outcome; perhaps you were expecting sympathy, validation, concern or something else from them. This is how insecure attachment works, folks. Wanting something from someone and not getting it can stir up anxiety and neediness, or it can cause you to shut down and run. Maybe both! The antidote? First, understand your intention. Second, speak your truth because truth isn’t attached to an outcome. It is a pure expression from your heart that expects nothing in return. That’s what we’re talking about in this episode because expectations like these are painful, and they can damage relationships.
7/26/202225 minutes, 14 seconds
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Insecure Attachment Affects Your Job and Money Too! (REBROADCAST)

The hard truth about insecure attachment is that it doesn’t just affect your personal relationships. It affects every part of your life, including your career. Whether you’re struggling with boundaries at work or micromanaging your coworkers to feel validation, all your behaviors stem from fear. You’re afraid that your colleagues will see you as a failure, or they will criticize you. I’ve been in your shoes, and I let my insecurity affect my work life for a long time. Despite being promoted, managing others, I was a huge people-pleaser and perfectionist, despite winning sales awards, I never felt fulfilled. I would swing from one management extreme to the next, micromanaging and then letting them fend for themselves. I held so many negative feelings toward my work, as I was truly disconnected from it, but I stayed there because I was afraid. This insecure attachment is costing you opportunities, money, and happiness. If you’re ready to make a change and start taking action in your work, listen to today’s episode. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/19/202239 minutes, 49 seconds
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Emotional Unavailability--What’s the Cure? (REBROADCAST)

Your relationship with yourself is reflected in your relationships with others. If you didn’t receive much unconditional love as a kid, you do not know what it’s like to give yourself love and attention. And if you don’t give those to yourself, others won’t be able to give them to you because you teach people how to treat you. Disregard your own feelings and other people will follow your lead. You also can’t receive what doesn’t already exist inside you, so if you’re looking for someone to fill an internal void, it won’t work. You will continue to struggle with your relationships if you do not become emotionally available to yourself first. So how do you become more emotionally available to yourself? Start owning and valuing your own feelings. This will be uncomfortable because you’ve probably spent your life avoiding and/or discounting them. But if you don’t value your feelings, no one else will. You will continue looking for people who give you breadcrumbs of love and attention because it’s what’s familiar. Your feelings matter—even the ones that seem silly, stupid or wrong. Accept and embrace ALL of them. Do that and you’ll build your value, which in turn will make you more open, loving and emotionally available.
7/12/202221 minutes, 16 seconds
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You Have the Ability. You Can Handle It!

Think about something in your life that you continually complain about. Maybe it’s a partner who won’t commit, or your inability to get past a first date. Do you feel defeated and/or concerned you can’t have what you want? As with many things, it boils down to a lack of self-worth. If you believed in yourself, you wouldn’t worry so much. By contrast, look at the things you don’t sweat. Maybe it’s constructive feedback at work or squabbles with a family member that happen over and over, but don’t get you down. Whatever it is, if it’s something you do well or aren’t afraid of losing, you’re usually not concerned about it. The areas where you DO get wrapped up in concern are what you want to pay attention to. In this podcast we’ll look at what you get hung up on, believing it’s elusive, and why. Awareness will help you stop the behavioral patterns that can lead to self-sabotage. Because you ARE capable of handing life, even when it doesn’t go the way you want.
7/5/202230 minutes, 54 seconds
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Choosing Partners To Ensure You Stay Anxious (REBROADCAST)

Anxiety and insecure attachment often go hand-in-hand. I’ve thought about this a lot recently because my boyfriend has no real concept of anxiety and that horrible feeling I used to have that I might die. Why? Because he’s securely attached. It’s helped me see how far I’ve come in my own growth because I don’t suffer like I used to, but at the same time I realize how much anxiety played a role in my life, especially with the partners I chose. I used to pick men who had their own issues around insecure attachment, which reflected all of my insecurities and perpetuated this cycle of unease. Healthy relationships based in secure attachment are NOT characterized this way, but I didn’t have a clue; I thought my relationship experiences were perfectly normal. If you’re not honest with yourself about who you’re choosing and why, you’ll keep focusing on people who reflect your own insecurities, increase your anxiety and aren’t available for emotional support. When in an anxious state, you don’t make choices based on what you want… you unknowingly make them out of fear. You choose relationships that enable you to relive childhood fears of abandonment, creating a constant state of insecure anxiety. To become more secure, you have to consistently connect with those out-of-control feelings. You have to stop engaging in behavior which perpetuates the cycle of making your problems worse, and look at where you are emotionally closed. When you’re able to get to the point where you’re no longer watching the other person to see what happens, it’s a sign you’ve loosened anxiety’s grip on you.
6/28/202232 minutes, 58 seconds
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I Can’t Let Go! My “Best Friend” Connection to My Ex (REBROADCAST)

Having trouble detaching from a toxic relationship that is over because you swear he or she was your best friend? You try “no contact” and focus on yourself, which is great until you hear from them and lose all the ground you gained. You get sucked back into the hope that he or she has become the person you believed they could be, you know the best friend you imagined them to be plus more (lover, partner, et al). You hold onto fantasies and expectations about the day they will finally wake up and get it. Does that happen? No, but you aren’t able to detach. It’s hard to commit to your own well-being when you can’t let go. No matter how many times this person has hurt you, you may still feel this “best friend” connection to them, which is a painful place to live; especially if they have moved on and are in a relationship with someone else. Don’t fight against your feelings—they are real and should be acknowledged—but look at what is actually happening. The more you see what’s true, the more clarity you’ll have around what you’re actually attached to. Ask yourself if you were putting this person on a pedestal and giving the relationship more meaning than it deserved. You want to matter enough to yourself to be able to move on so you’re not stuck in a situation where you receive breadcrumbs.
6/21/202218 minutes, 29 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Polly Bateman

As a kid, Polly wanted to be anyone other than herself. She felt like a weird kid and was uncomfortable in her own skin. Growing up in a tumultuous household with an aggressive and violent stepfather, Polly learned early on to tune into nonverbal cues, something that has served her well as a coach. As she got older, she naturally gravitated toward relationships with men who treated her poorly. Because of her low self-esteem, she put up with cheaters. She thought that’s what she deserved even though it broke her every time. Later she realized she let others treat her badly because she didn’t have a loving relationship with herself. “The level of empathy you have for other people directly correlates with the level of empathy you have for yourself.” Join me for some straight talk with Polly about how our experiences “code” us, how we reflect our intolerance onto others, how a picture of yourself as a child can be a powerful healing tool and much more. She’ll share a big wakeup call she had 11 years AFTER she started coaching that led to big shifts in her life and career. Today Polly works with entrepreneurs, C-suite executives, athletes and more to disrupt their beliefs and self-imposed barriers that limit their potential. She also created “The Grumpit,” a character and self-help storybook that helps children build self-esteem and grow their confidence. Learn more about Polly and her work: Website: https://thepollybateman.com/ Instagram: @thepollybateman Linkedin: @thepollybateman/
6/15/202241 minutes, 18 seconds
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From Attachment to Fabulous!

Imagine what it would be like not to beat yourself up all the time, or to stop shaming yourself for the mistakes you’ve made. What would it be like to tell your inner critic to shut up, and instead make choices that feel good to you? I’ll tell you what it would feel like: it would be fabulous. I know this because that’s where I live now… although I used to have a very different address. I used to think my best life hinged on my partner. If things were great with him, my life would be peachy. Well, that’s not called fabulous; that’s called attachment. If you are making (bad) decisions because of the person you’re attached to, you are not living your best life. Those decisions come from fear of losing the relationship, not from love. They come from scarcity, not abundance. When you stay in attachment, your world becomes very small. In this week’s podcast I’ll help you identify what you actually want and start making decisions that feel good. Because you deserve fabulous!
6/14/202232 minutes, 43 seconds
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Stop Fighting Your Attachment (REBROADCAST)

When insecurely attached to someone, you probably react to them in one of three ways (depending on your mood or day of the week): wanting to run away screaming, clinging like a piece of moss or numbing yourself so you don’t feel much of anything. This back-and-forth can make you feel crazy and out of control, like you are trying to cut an invisible cord between you and the other person. But you can’t cut it and you are stuck in struggle. Perhaps your partner says he/she will commit, but never does, so you keep looking externally for answers. Unfortunately, this doesn’t work and just perpetuates the struggle. Instead of fighting the anxiety and frustration of your current situation, stop. Struggle is a choice, so give yourself permission to be right where you are. You can continue going in circles or you can surrender to where you are right now and accept all of your feelings around it. It’s ok to feel stuck, it’s ok to feel frustrated, it’s ok to feel crazy. Allow all of it, then be curious about what you can learn. When you are able to say, “Ok, I am tied to this person right now but I’m going to dig deeper into what I am attracted to and why,” you will move away from struggle and eventually outgrow the situation.
6/7/202221 minutes, 53 seconds
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How Do I Love Me When I Am So Focused on the Idea of Others Loving Me?

You can picture it: that special someone loving you, supporting you, giving to you, doing things for you. You have a vision for how your life will be when that person is in it (and it’s a lot better than your life is now!). If it doesn’t happen, you imagine yourself crumbling into a million pieces. It HAS to happen. This can be a desperate feeling full of shame, believing if you don’t find that person, it means you’re worthless. You need them to love you so YOU can love you. But, my friends, that’s backwards. First you must focus on loving yourself. That’s not always easy, especially if your parents didn’t know how to show you love and affection. In this week’s podcast we’ll use a journaling exercise to explore the emptiness you feel, and what it would be like to have someone love you so you can start directing those things toward yourself. You can choose to live in a fantasy of what being loved would be like, or you can take steps toward creating it. Reality is available to you, and it’s so much better than the dream.
5/31/202220 minutes, 41 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Petia Kolibova

Petia grew up in the Czech Republic, and from an early age, she was a people pleaser. She learned from her abusive stepdad that everything had to be perfect. Petia washed dishes and cleaned the house while her little brother watched TV, yet her deepest desire was to be loved. Not getting the love she wanted, Petia developed an eating disorder at age 11 which she struggled with for two decades. At 18 she ran away from home and even attempted suicide. Gravitating toward what she knew, her relationships were often with abusive men who cheated on her. She went through life believing something was wrong with her, yet a deeper feeling tugged at her, telling her there was more. With the help of a mentor, Petia identified her core values and realized that her choices in life actually went against those values. She also saw how she lost herself in relationships, catering to her partner’s needs while ignoring her own. Join me for a lively conversation with Petia where we talk about self-love, surrender, manifesting (which is how she met her current husband), Human Design and more. Today she works as a transformational coach and podcast host of “Unapologetically Abundant,” helping women align with who they are and creating abundance in their lives. Learn more about Petia and her work here: Website: https://petiakolibova.com/ Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/petia-kolibova-coach/ FacebookGroup: https://www.facebook.com/groups/unapologeticallyabundant IG: www.instagram.com/petiakolibova
5/25/202234 minutes, 28 seconds
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When Your Whole World Goes to S**T, What Do You Do?

You find out your partner is cheating the same day your bathroom floods. Then you call your friend on the way to the hardware store and get rear ended. We’ve all had days like that (ok, maybe not exactly like that!), but those days or series of days where the world feels like it’s conspiring against you. And of course, the first question you ask is WHY? What did you do to deserve this? It feels like your life is falling apart before your eyes. We like to believe that if we’re good girls and boys, life will go our way. Unfortunately, that’s not how things work. Sometimes the s**t hits the fan. Not because you’re bad, but because life does life. I have been challenged with this lately with my husband in the hospital. I can control my thoughts, my actions, my feelings and my words, but I can’t control life. I can’t pick and choose the outcomes I want. In this week’s episode we’ll talk about that desire for control and letting go of it. How to look at what you’re holding onto and why. How to be emotionally present and process your feelings instead of avoiding them. Because you still have choices, even when it feels like life has turned its back on you. Maybe the way forward is different than you thought, but you can absolutely keep on truckin’.
5/24/202224 minutes
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Are My Thoughts Creating My Reality? If So, My Love Life Might Be Screwed! (REBROADCAST)

You have probably heard some version of “what you think, you create.” Meaning your thoughts create your reality. If your love life feels like a train wreck (or any part of your life, really), this can be a scary idea. Are you creating the situation you don’t want by ruminating on negative thoughts? By constantly thinking there are no “good ones” out there, are you actually making it true? Well… yes and no. Thoughts play a role, but they are not the only factor. Trying to simply stop the thoughts or replace them with positive affirmations doesn’t make them go away. It runs much deeper than that. In this week’s podcast we’ll talk about everything that exists between thoughts and actions, and where to focus if you want to change your situation. Believing your reality is only caused by your thoughts is limiting and untrue. If you want to change what isn’t working, you need to look at your emotions, beliefs, motivation, words and actions that stem from your thoughts. The good news is if you do this, you absolutely can change your life! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Don’t worry about what you think. Pay attention to your feelings, actions and motivation because THAT is creating your life.
5/17/202229 minutes, 25 seconds
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3 Steps To Loving Yourself; You're Not a Project (REBROADCAST)

Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive or too ANYTHING? Basically, instead of being loved for your whole self, did you feel like you were simply tolerated? Maybe you wondered, throughout your life, if people even liked being around you because those too much/not enough beliefs were always with you. So, to move from tolerance to love, you worked hard to prove yourself worthy of someone else’s company. And did those people (intimate partners, friends, family members, etc.) treasure you for the wonderful human you are? Probably not. Why? Because you didn’t treasure you. Self-love isn’t simply about spa visits, eating healthy, working out or treating yourself to a new outfit. It is attention, connection and awareness to yourself. And you cultivate it by slowing down, feeling your feelings and choosing what makes you happy. When you love yourself, you have compassion for who you are, what you are and why you are. And that is where true love with someone else begins… because love from another person won’t feel good unless you feel it for yourself first. In this week’s podcast I’ll share three questions to ask yourself to shift from external “give-it-to-me” love to true self-love. You deserve more, but to get it, you have to step up and show yourself some love. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Self-love comes from all the in-between moments not the pinnacles! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/10/202227 minutes, 56 seconds
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Stop Performing. You Have Value Because You Breathe! (Yes, You Do.)

What do you want from me? What do you need from me? How can I make your life easier (while draining myself)? If these questions, or some version of them, come out of your mouth frequently, your value probably comes from what you do, not who you are. Throw insecure attachment into the mix and you can become over-the-top nutty in what you’ll do to receive validation that you’re okay. And that need can feel like trudging uphill backwards, especially if it seems like someone always gets more than you. Like there are only so many pieces of validation pie and you have to fight for your slice. But what if you didn’t have to perform like a circus seal, and could feel valued simply for breathing? How weird would THAT be? In this week’s episode we’ll explore why you overperform and when it started (yep, probably childhood). Where did that urge to be “extra” come from, and when did it become your default setting? Then I’ll challenge you NOT to perform and sit with those feelings. Patterns are hard to break because the feelings are so uncomfortable, but if you can sit through them and see that you don’t die, you’ll be able to do it again. And again. Because the belief you don’t have value is simply untrue. It just became a pattern that needs to be broken.
5/3/202223 minutes, 58 seconds
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Help! I’m Dating an Avoidant! (REBROADCAST)

Are you in a relationship or dating someone who’s more robot than human; someone who intellectualizes everything and doesn’t show any warmth? Or what about someone who makes big promises all the time and never, ever follows through? Or maybe you’re with someone who appears and disappears without warning, pretending it’s normal, making you think YOU are the crazy one? These are signs of an Avoidant relationship. If you find yourself in one, you have to ask yourself… why are you there? Is it because you mistake those butterfly feelings for real love? Those feelings actually stem from a fear of abandonment. You’re trying to get the other person to cooperate with you and see your value, fearing they will leave you at any moment. It’s chemistry mixed with anxiety. There is also zero consistency in these relationships. So if you’re in a situation like this, realize it’s not healthy and look at how you got here. You made the choice to be with an Avoidant… which means you are also an Avoidant. Or an Anxious Avoidant. Securely attached people do not, I repeat do NOT, engage with people like this. Nobody who loves and accepts themself will put up with someone who is inconsistent and won’t emotionally commit. Period. In this episode I’ll show you how to identify what blocks you from giving to yourself and showing yourself love. Because this lack of self-love is what leads you to seek it from people who are unable to give it. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/26/202242 minutes, 39 seconds
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Secrets and How They Kill Relationships and Your Self-Esteem (REBROADCAST)

Are you living with secrets? Maybe you're hiding your shopping receipts from your husband, or maybe you're leaving out parts of your stories because you fear the repercussions. In some cases, you might not even be aware that you're withholding information from your significant other. All these secrets stem from one ultimate truth: you're afraid of change. You can't be 100% committed to someone if you're still hiding parts of your life. Keeping secrets may save you from ever having to change, but it also keeps you from experiencing a happy, healthy relationship. If you're ready to be courageous and leave secrets behind, listen to today's podcast episode.
4/19/202232 minutes, 19 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Zehra Mahoon

Zehra Mahoon had just moved to Canada from Pakistan with her husband and baby. Then her mother became terminally ill. And her husband had an affair. When they separated, her husband left the country and took his money with him, leaving Zehra in debt with no means of income. Knowing her options would be even more limited in Pakistan as a single mom, she vowed to stay in Canada and make it work… whatever that meant. “When you plan, you create attachment to the outcome.” Join me for Zehra’s story of tenacity and surrender, deciding to say yes to whatever the Universe presented without questioning it. Each step has led to where she is today, an example of what she now teaches: the Law of Attraction. She is the author of 12 books and the creator of the Unlimited 40-day Law of Attraction Workout. That debt she was left with? Zehra now owns multiple properties and has a thriving business, all of which she credits to trusting the Universe. Learn more about Zehra: Website: http://www.zmahoon.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/zmahoon/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/zmahoon/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/zmahoon Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCtQjGQsjoS4rbfv0JxyAn4A
4/13/202243 minutes, 3 seconds
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Money, Money, Money Is Your Lover

How’s your relationship with money? They don’t call it a relationship for nothing. Just like love, if you are insecurely attached, your money relationship is probably based in scarcity. Just like love, it mirrors what you believe you deserve. Just like love, you fear it will disappear. Having money isn’t the issue—many insecurely attached folks are financially successful. It’s the feelings and fears associated with money that create problems, just like an intimate relationship. If you are stingy with money, overspend, feel guilty spending (especially on yourself), fear losing it, avoid looking at your balance or just have general anxiety around money, you need this episode. Join me as I share the common threads between money and love, and how insecure attachment affects both. Just like love, healing your relationship with money starts with awareness. It involves commitment, connecting with your emotions around finances, making different choices and growing your self-worth. When you believe you deserve, scarcity gives way to abundance. It’s not about how much you have in the bank; it’s about feeling good regardless of your balance. Because when you have enough (money AND love), you stop the anxious search and celebrate what you have.
4/12/202226 minutes, 16 seconds
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When You’re Attached, There’s Only Room In the Relationship For You (REBROADCAST)

If you can’t live without someone, and are knee-deep in soulmate territory where you need them to “complete” you, you are very likely stuck in attachment. You have a picture in your head of what you want your life to be and how you want to feel, so you’re trying to fit them into it, regardless of how things really are. So you push and pull, trying to mold them into what you want. Perhaps you cherry pick the good moments to convince yourself they’re the one. But where are their feelings in all of this? Are you in this relationship together, or are you just focused on getting what you want? And are you even getting it? Attachment is self-absorption in many ways. Not because you’re self-centered or a bad person—not at all. You are simply reacting to your pain, which can be all-consuming. It’s an emptiness that needs to be fed, so you are constantly looking for ways to fill it. The quicker the better because you’re in scarcity land and it may disappear in a blink. Attachment like this can be an out-of-body experience where you are completely disconnected from your deeper feelings. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to look beyond yourself to see the other person for who they truly are—with empathy and compassion. This will help loosen that tight grip of yours so you ease anxiety and see your relationship a little more clearly. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Self absorption is attachment. Feeling your real feelings will help you connect better with others. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/5/202225 minutes, 6 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Allana Pratt

Allana grew up with a co-dependent mom and drunk dad, leading her to become a people-pleasing “yes” person who was completely disconnected from herself. Always spinning, never still, Allana jumped into her first marriage with a Wall Street guy who encouraged her to go to an ivy league college. Accomplishments made Allana feel safe, which was always her motivation, so she went to Columbia. Inside she was lost, but she worked hard to make sure no one found out how messed up she was. After divorcing her husband and moving to LA, Allana started exploring her intimate, spiritual side. Join me as Allana talks about her “failed” relationships, including one with her son, and how each was actually successful because of what she needed to learn. Her healing began with allowing, then curiosity, followed by compassion and eventually unconditional love. Today Allana is an Intimacy expert and author of six books who helps people live and love with an open heart. Her Heartmates Partnering App & Intimacy Training is the anti-dating app, designed to help singles become the one, find the one and keep the one. “It’s beautiful to come home to yourself.” –Allana Pratt Learn more about Allana here: Website: https://allanapratt.com/ Instagram: @allanapratt Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coachallanapratt Twitter: @allanapratt YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/user/AlanaPratt
3/30/202243 minutes, 43 seconds
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Avoidants: Don’t Hurt Me

I get a lot of questions about avoidants. People want to know if avoidant and anxious attachment styles can be happy together, and if there is any hope for their avoidant partner. Well, it depends on the amount of emotional work an avoidant is willing to do because this stuff runs deep. As children, avoidants learned to protect themselves from being hurt, which they carry into adulthood. Most avoidants are smart, successful people with a serious case of imposter syndrome. They fear being exposed for who they really are, so they avoid getting close to people. Their goal is not to get hurt (which they learned as a kid), but in return they sacrifice emotionally connected relationships. Join me for a deep dive into how avoidants avoid, both in relationships and in their own personal growth. Then we’ll look at how to deal with those shameful feelings of not being good enough and low self-worth to start removing the emotional armor, piece by piece.
3/29/202230 minutes, 20 seconds
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The Choice To Have (Or Not Have) Love Is Yours

Do you choose love, or are you waiting to be chosen? Maybe you believe love has forgotten about you, or it’s reserved for other, more “deserving” people. Instead of opening yourself up to it, you ruminate on what you don’t have, believing you’re being punished by some mysterious force. That, my friends, is playing the love victim. Love is actually a choice, but to get there, you have to see how your actions are working against you to create what you don’t want. Shame around being single, negative beliefs that say you’re not good enough and fear of abandonment all contribute to feeling like love isn’t available to you. And when that’s what you believe, you’ll pick partners who support that belief; it’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. In this week’s podcast I’ll challenge you to look at your situation as an observer to zero in on what you’re choosing to create. Yes, CHOOSING. Having love starts with owning your choices and deciding to make new ones. If everything is a choice, why not choose love?
3/22/202229 minutes, 12 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Gina DeVee

Gina DeVee is a published author, speaker, podcast host, business coach and self-made multimillionaire who built the women’s empowerment and lifestyle brand, Divine Living. But she started out as a broke, struggling, co-dependent psychotherapist who made $2,000 month working 75 hours/week and living with her parents. Gina grew up in the Detroit suburbs where money was scarce, so everything was “expensive.” If you wanted more money, you had to work harder. So that’s what she did… until she burned out and realized she had some internal issues to deal with, like her warped relationship with money and her desperate need to be loved and accepted by others. Listen in as Gina shares how she turned her wish, her hope and her dream of living a bigger life into reality while staying true to who she is. There were mentors, vision boards, serendipitous moments and leaps of faith along the way, plus a $3,000 investment in herself that changed everything. In 2021 her business went through a radical transformation that she resisted at first, but eventually surrendered to, and now she’s finding herself in places she never would’ve imagined. What hasn’t changed is her dedication to helping women connect spiritually, start profitable businesses and create wealth from a feminine perspective. “It’s not about knowing the next thing. It’s about creating the space so it can come to you.”—Gina DeVee You can learn more about Gina including her book, podcast, and online community here: Website: https://www.divineliving.com/ Instagram: @GinaDeVee Instagram: @DivineLiving Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/divinelivingpodcast/members Twitter: @ginadevee
3/16/202247 minutes, 14 seconds
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Was Your Mom a Narcissist? How This Affects Your Relationships (REBROADCAST)

Did you grow up with a narcissistic mom? Her behavior may have been unpredictable, and you never knew what was going to set her off. She might have been manipulative, always looking for your validation and sympathy. Whether she was a malignant narcissist or a covert narcissist, her actions shaped your current behavior and your relationship insecurity. Her criticism and inconsistency made you afraid of emotional intimacy. In many ways, she created your first codependent relationship. The good news is that, even though your mom instilled these behaviors in you from a young age, you can still change this cycle of insecure attachment. Listen to today’s episode to learn how your mom’s narcissism affects your current relationships and how you can finally end the fear and insecurity you feel. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/15/202230 minutes, 34 seconds
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Fear Of Intimacy (REBROADCAST)

While we may be aware of our distrust of love, we often identify our fears as negative (i.e. rejection or abandonment). But often it’s fear of positive emotions—more specifically intimacy—that keeps love elusive. Those of us who fear intimacy actually want it quite badly, but feel we don’t deserve it because our negative beliefs are always running in the background. We pick “safe” partners who don’t require vulnerability, enabling us to hide. Avoidance of intimacy usually goes back to childhood, when we felt an inconsistency of emotional care. Maybe we experienced rejection, neglect or emotional pain, causing us to shut down. We learned NOT to rely on others for connections because it was perceived as unsafe. Then as adults we tend to create a push/pull effect, pushing our partner away or hiding from their affection, but then pulling them closer if we fear them leaving. We try to make ourselves less lovable, withholding our desirable qualities, in an effort to create distance because deep down we’re afraid of being loved. Our subconscious is smart, protecting us from perceived harm, which is why we simultaneously crave intimacy but avoid it like the plague. Acting from this fear keeps our negative self-image alive, and we avoid experiencing the deeper connections of a healthy relationship. Opening yourself up to intimacy is a step-by-step process that requires emotional risk. It doesn’t happen all at once, so you have to be willing to stand in the discomfort of these feelings, both feet firmly planted in the fear. Keep them there and you’ll begin to open up to love.
3/8/202250 minutes, 10 seconds
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Being An Anxious Pursuer In Relationships (REBROADCAST)

“I attract avoidants” has almost become a mantra for anxious pursuers who are convinced they are only attracted to people who shun them. They believe relationships require a lot of effort, thus feeling a deeper connection to partners who reject them. If it comes easy, something must be wrong. This anxious pursuer is always focused on their partner, pushing, pulling and waiting for that “wake-up” moment that never comes. Let’s say you start dating someone who checks a lot of your boxes, but they rarely contact you so you do all the work. You create excuses to contact them, enticing them with sex or whatever carrot you think will prove irresistible. You live in the fantasy of feeling close to them, making the reality of rejection both painful and comfortable. The irony is that if they DO get close to you, you’ll distance yourself. This push/pull dance is a pattern, with fear of abandonment at its core. To break it you need to connect where it hurts, accessing those deep feelings you avoid like the plague. Instead of running from pain and anxiety when they strike, sit with it. Be with it. Do not react or discharge your pain on someone else. It is SO HARD to do and feels like walking through fire, but it will set you free.
3/1/202234 minutes, 22 seconds
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What Do You Mean I Look Happy? I’m Addicted to Feeling Bad! (REBROADCAST)

Complainers are addicted to feeling bad. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, believing everyone else is better off, are addicted to feeling bad. People who host weekly pity parties about everything that sucks in their lives are addicted to feeling bad. So why would you choose this over feeling good? Because it’s easier. It allows you to avoid your fears, blame the universe for your problems and not do anything differently. Choosing to feel bad let’s you off the hook so you don’t have to make changes (that’s the benefit). But it also keeps you stuck in a personal prison where everything remains frustratingly the same. You want your life to change, but you can’t see what you do to hold yourself in this “feeling bad” state. To do things differently is too scary, so you don’t do it. But that’s the path to feeling good: going through those fear walls and making things happen. The longer you stay victimized by your own thoughts and stories, judging your life by the outside, the longer you stay in your self-made prison. In this episode I’ll show you how to start breaking your addiction to feeling bad. It requires deep emotional work and a willingness to confront your fears. Your past does not define your present or your future. You get to choose how you feel from this point forward… so isn’t it time to start feeling GOOD?
2/22/202231 minutes, 7 seconds
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You Are the Prize! Winning on Being a Confident You

Do you say to yourself (or others) that you are the prize, and your partner is lucky to have you? And do you actually believe it, or is it just false bravado? Maybe you overcompensate for your true feelings that you don’t measure up by working hard to “be the prize.” Or you go the other direction and withdraw because deep down you not only believe you’re NOT the prize… you feel completely worthless. Whichever road you take, you’re causing drama and sabotaging your relationships. In this week’s podcast we explore what’s behind this diminished sense of value and how to build yourself up so you feel worthy and deserving of love. It starts with unraveling your shame and self-judgment, then feeling it instead of minimizing it (yep, you’ve gotta there). I’ll walk you through a few steps to get you started. Shame is a tough emotion to allow, but you are more resilient than you think. And it’s worth this deep work because once you start believing you really are a gem, you’ll attract someone who believes it to.
2/15/202222 minutes, 37 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Sarah Merrill

Sarah Merrill is the woman behind “Big Kid Problems,” a wildly popular Twitter, Instagram, blog and podcast about the daily struggles growing up and navigating the adult world. But, like many of us, this was not where Sarah expected to end up. The only thing she knew she wanted to do after graduating from college was leave Florida, which never felt like it fit. So off to New York she went, living on her friend’s couch, eating Cup O Noodles and dating so she could take a break from ramen! It was during this time of struggle that she started sharing her thoughts and experiences on Twitter in short, witty quips under the handle @BigKidProblems. “Nobody knows what they’re doing at any given time.” –Sarah Merrill Listen in on my conversation with Sarah as she shares her journey from broke and directionless to a comedic powerhouse who has been on the Steve Harvey show three times. What started as a hobby has become her full-time career, and it keeps expanding. A collection of her original jokes were published by Andrews McMeel in 2020, and Sarah is now chronicling her most recent adventure, pregnancy, through a new podcast. “Bottle Service” has the same raw, hilarious openness that drew people to “Big Kid Problems.” Learn more about Sarah and follow her here: Website: www.thebigkidproblems.com Instagram: @BigKidProblems Twitter: @BigKidProblems Facebook: @BigKidProblems Tik Tok: @BigKidProblems
2/9/202235 minutes, 45 seconds
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Love Doesn't Have To Be Painful (REBROADCAST)

Many of us associate pain with love. We may not consciously think so, but it’s beneath the surface of our desire for love and all its glory in our lives. We don't realize we actually bring pain into our relationships (because it’s what we've known). We don’t see it as a choice, but self-awareness can set you free. If you're an avoidant like me, it can keep you detached from relationships, in search of something that does not exist in the form of the perfect feeling (like you’ve imagined for years). It keeps you looking for that perfect feeling that will ensure safety outside of yourself because you don’t feel it inside. The mixture of pain and lack of safety keeps you from focusing on what you actually feel beneath the surface-level emotions, and believing something outside of you is the current cause for your pain. Your words will not match your desires when you are taking action from the belief that love is painful. You create this in your relationships, usually with someone who is matching you at the level of pain they are used to as well. It's a vicious cycle because the amount of emotional awareness you need to catch yourself is pretty intense, and hard to recognize if you have never paid attention to how you show up. Most of us think we’re fine and that it’s all about the other person. Nope! It is freeing to keep your heart open, then catch yourself when you try to invite pain where it doesn't belong. Join me for more of this Attachment Series to learn how to separate pain from love.
2/8/202219 minutes, 25 seconds
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How to Really Be a Badass at Receiving Love!

Are you holding yourself back from receiving the love you want and being your badass self? Or does your need for control and “giving to get” keep you stuck in the same paradigm? Let’s be clear: a badass is not someone who struts around, pretending they don’t need anyone. That’s a victim wearing a suit of emotional armor. A badass when it comes to love is open-hearted, trusting, courageous and vulnerable. A badass takes care of their own emotional wellbeing, and when they’re in a situation where someone doesn’t respect them or their boundaries… a badass removes themself from that situation. A badass is the REAL you. So how do you stop people pleasing and playing the role of the “good” partner in order to be comfortable as your badass self so you can receive love freely? First, look at what you say you want, and how your actions work against it. If you’re not sure what you want, tune in to today’s episode for a writing exercise that will help you identify your disconnects and help you uncover the motivation behind your actions. Receiving love requires clarity, honesty and openness. There is no magical genie who can grant you “badass” status. The only power capable of doing that is you.
2/1/202221 minutes, 55 seconds
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Impostor Syndrome in Relationships (REBROADCAST)

Do you know what impostor syndrome is? Perhaps you’re familiar with it in your professional life, it means the fear of being found out for being fake or phony. The you which you present isn’t really who you are or you feel others will not think it is who you are. For me, I always waited for people to find out I was a bad person, even though nothing about me is…it’s what I dreaded, personally and professionally. So, for those of you who have that feeling, guess what? It’s related to insecure attachment. Whether it’s in your career or your relationships, you never feel deserving of the love or praise you’re given and you worry about FIFO (Fear I’m Found Out). Despite working harder than anyone else to prove you’re worthy, it’s never enough. You’re a perfectionist, but nothing you do or say ever feels “perfect.” These feelings, like insecure attachment, stem back to the conditioning you received as a child. The good news is that impostor syndrome is a story you keep telling, a facade you can take down. In this episode, you’ll learn how to put down the mask, tackle your feelings, and finally be okay with being you in or out of a relationship. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
1/25/202233 minutes, 50 seconds
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Anxious Avoidant? Does This Look Familiar? Let’s Just Stop (REBROADCAST)

Are you stuck in an anxious-avoidant loop? No matter how much you “think” you want a relationship, you find excuses not to date or in a relationship, you look for problems with your partner. Oh wait! There’s more. You may find yourself dating, which you do trepidatiously, and voila there’s chemistry. You feel the pangs of anxiety and know you’ll be hooked by dinnertime. Whether you are the pursuer or the runner, each position for the anxious avoidant is all about emotional distance, even if on the outside it looks like you’re physically there. Fear has been there for years, but you might think it is normal—the way you’ve always felt. Trying to grasp control, you are used to strategies, so you do not become engulfed or stuck or available. Sometimes you believe it is really the other person, but the truth is you are the common denominator in your love life. And its good news! Because you can do something about it! This loop of avoidant behavior stems from your subconscious belief system. To make a change, you need the courage to challenge your fears. In today’s podcast episode, you’ll learn how you can shift your belief system and take emotional risks. Want to submit your question for Tracy's FB Live? Click here: bit.ly/2sQ4sJT and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9am PST. If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/18/202240 minutes, 55 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Karen Fagan

Karen Fagan struggled with insecurity, as many young women do, so when she was 13 years old she looked for a book on self-confidence. That led to 10 full years of reading about the subject… which unfortunately didn’t work. She hadn’t cracked the confidence code. Then life presented her with two pivotal moments where she was confronted with a question: Who did she want to be? Karen’s answer was simple. She wanted to be a confident, empowered woman, so she committed to it and started acting from that place. “Obstacles really are an opportunity—an invitation—for who we want to become.” –Karen Fagan Join me for a powerful conversation with Karen where she talks about the note her husband left the day he packed up his stuff and walked out… and the gift he gave her three months later when she found out why. When we’re afraid, Karen says we want to opt out. That’s the default. But if you use that fear to pull yourself forward instead, you can become the person you were born to be. As a teenager Karen felt crappy all the time. Now she makes the choice to feel good, and it is from that empowered place that she operates. Today she helps other women find their vision so they experience passion, pleasure, and purpose in life without settling. More is available when you simply decide to go after it. Learn more about Karen and her coaching program: www.karenfagan.com/ Instagram: @karenfagan
1/12/202227 minutes, 33 seconds
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People Pleasing And Why You'll Never Win (REBROADCAST)

Some of us people please to be liked or because we feel obligated. The problem with placing ourselves in this position is that it's not genuine giving, and it makes us feel disconnected from ourselves. We are trying to control instead of being who we are. We believe we can control how others perceive us, and create an image that we feel is acceptable, but doing so places ourselves in a prison of limitation by not being true to ourselves. Not only is people-pleasing a form of lying, it doesn't actually work. All that effort for no pay off. Only frustration, resentment and non-fulfillment. If we really saw ourselves through the eyes of others, we would have a mixed bag... and then what would we do? Be a chameleon? Better to turn inward and go with who we really are and what we want to do.
1/11/202259 minutes, 40 seconds
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The Secret To Settling for Good Enough and Loving It!

Settling, and the fear of missing out, is a reflection of not feeling good enough as you are right now. When you search for perfection—or even just better than you have—you’re looking for something that doesn’t exist. Many people who are attached struggle with this “not good enough” belief, driving them to sabotage their relationships and create obstacles to happiness. If you second guess your relationship whenever your partner tries to get close to you, listen in. In this week’s podcast I’ll share the secret to feeling enough so you stop freaking out about settling. It starts with two questions to ask yourself each morning. Do this consistently and you’ll start building your sense of value. Because the thing is, when you chase that greener grass, you bring yourself (and your belief of not being good enough) with you. Then the fear of settling starts all over again. Let’s break that cycle, shall we?
1/4/202226 minutes, 5 seconds
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Loneliness and Disconnection (REBROADCAST)

You don’t have to be alone to feel lonely. Loneliness is a sense of internal isolation which serves as protection. Instead of opening up and sharing your feelings, you retreat because it feels safer. This not only disconnects you from others, but also from yourself. True connection requires vulnerability, which is uncomfortable and the last thing you want to do. You probably feel something is wrong with you, so you put a lot of energy into pretending you’re ok. You wear your “party face,” but feel detached because you have abandoned yourself. No one would suspect you’re lonely because you do such a good job of hiding it, which isolates you even more. Let’s say you threw a party over the holidays and 20 people came, but you felt lonely and disconnected the whole time. The thought of interacting felt draining because you would have to pretend to enjoy yourself. As you watched others chit chat, you felt even more distance between you and them. You started to wonder why everyone else could have a good time, but not you. What’s wrong with you? Even though you were surrounded by people in a festive atmosphere, you felt terribly alone. Loneliness isn’t about what other people aren’t giving you. It’s your fear of connection and lack of self-worth. This can keep you stuck your whole life without understanding what you’re doing to create it. It isn’t an external problem that more friends or different social circles will solve; it’s an internal one. The first step in combating loneliness is to admit you’re lonely, and accept it as YOUR responsibility. Then it’s about digging deeper into your feelings of unworthiness and that desire to hide out. The next time you feel yourself withdrawing, take active steps to connect with someone. It may be the last thing you want to do, but vulnerable connection is the antidote to loneliness.
12/28/202121 minutes, 41 seconds
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Lack of Self-Love (REBROADCAST)

There are so many ways we don’t love and value ourselves—in work, relationships, etc. A lot of us don’t even know what it MEANS to love ourselves because there is no functional knowledge of what a healthy relationship is. We may think we know, but it’s usually based on unrealistic expectations. Our partners are actually a mirror for us; we attract people exactly where we are as far as emotional health and availability. If we’re closed off and look for someone who is more open, thinking they can help US be more open, we won’t find them because that’s not what we’ll attract. In order to attract and receive love, you need to have love for yourself. The focus needs to be you, not the other person. There are many ways to look at self-love, but when it comes to attached relationships, the best place to start is by dispelling the fantasy and looking at reality. Look at your choices and why you make them. Look at how you hold other people responsible for your emotions. See others for who they are, not for who you want them to be. Deal with the disappointment of your relationship not living up to your expectations. Self-love ultimately comes down to self-responsibility. Take a hard look at your role instead of feeling like a victim. That’s how you take care of you. That’s how you value you. That’s how you start down the path to self-love, which leads to truly, authentically loving others… and being truly, authentically loved in return.
12/21/202145 minutes, 20 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Mike Zeller

Mike Zeller is a serial entrepreneur. But when three of his businesses EACH lost more than $100,000 in a single year, he knew he needed to recalibrate and refocus. “Your setbacks are your setups to prepare you for your comeback.” –Mike Zeller Growing up, Mike learned the value of hard work from his immigrant father, so ambition always propelled him forward. Partway through college he became a Christian, which led him to pursue a Master’s in Christian Leadership. His first entrepreneurial pursuit followed: starting churches in Nashville targeted to musicians and creatives. The path ahead looked clear until he was turned down for a church job. That’s when an internal whisper led him toward new adventures. Mike has started several businesses including a car dealership, real estate firm, co-working space, fashion line, marketing agency, and mastermind/coaching. In 2018, things started falling apart; he lost a lot of money and closed most of his businesses. But this dark period of transition led to a lot of learning, self-awareness and a priority shift toward coaching and mentoring. Today he is an author, and helps high achievers align their purpose with both the business they want to build and the life they want to live while getting unstuck and shaking off limiting beliefs. Learn more about Mike: Mikezeller.com Instagram: @themikezeller Twitter: @themikezeller Facebook: @themikezeller Youtube: @themikezeller LinkedIn: @themikezeller
12/15/202128 minutes, 13 seconds
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All About Avoidants

Early childhood is where avoidant seeds take root. If you fall into this category of insecurely attached Avoidants, you probably developed a pseudo-independent identity, going to great lengths to prove you could take care of yourself. You acted like a little adult, holding yourself to pretty strict standards. This self-sufficiency carried over into actual adulthood where you had little or no desire to seek help and support from others. “I’m fine,” you’d say, when you were anything but. This self-containment becomes threatened inside intimate relationships. We avoid vulnerability because revealing our true selves may lead to rejection or abandonment. This results in not fully committing; we keep one foot out so we can focus on other distractions. Or we avoid relationships altogether, coping with our repressed emotions and asserting our “independence” by resisting vulnerability and intimacy. But then attachment needs kick in, activating anxiety over the fact we’re alone. What a painful pattern to live in, right? This is the Anxious/Avoidant attachment type at play. That was me for a long time—my mom actually used to call me her little soldier. But it IS possible to change. The pattern was learned, so it can be unlearned. What it really comes down to is your value. You may put on a brave, confident face (and wear your independent badge of honor), but underneath is the fear of being found out. You protect yourself by choosing safe partners who do not trigger you, therefore keeping your façade intact where your true self can remain a mystery. This doesn’t feel good or lead to a fulfilling existence. It just keeps you stuck in those old patterns and beliefs around your perceived value. In this podcast I’ll provide some tools to release you from this self-made prison so you can open up to receive the support every human needs and deserves.
12/14/202144 minutes, 4 seconds
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Self-Care + Self-Responsibility = Value (REBROADCAST)

Self-responsibility and self-care are critical to increasing your value. What is self-responsibility? Being responsible for ALL of your words, actions, choices and reactions. People often want to blame outside events and other people, but that makes you a victim. To be valued is to be fulfilled… to be your own best friend. If you take responsibility for yourself, you have power and authority in your life, which means you have value. Other people cannot give you lasting value, only you can by treating yourself with care. Self-care is about taking care of yourself emotionally instead of looking for someone else to do it. It is about healing what ails you. If you blame your partner for breaking up with you, that speaks to a lack of responsibility. It takes two to tango, so pointing the finger at him/her for all the problems in your relationship is a powerless position. How did you contribute? What can you own up to? You always play a role in how relationships unfold. When you feel the bottom falling out of any situation and want to blame someone or something, stop and ask yourself how you participated in getting here. EMPOWERMENT can only come through responsibility, never through blame. No one can give you something you refuse to give yourself. When you’re in charge of your choices and taking care of yourself, life is limitless; it can be as amazing as you want it to be. To take responsibility for your life, look at where you are angry or frustrated. Then look at the choices you made to get where you are. This is difficult if you don’t like your choices and have spent a long time blaming others. It’s easier to put that onus on someone else, but that’s not how you reach true happiness and joy. Owning the role you play in your own life is a much more empowering position because only then can you start to change what isn’t working.
12/7/202117 minutes, 35 seconds
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Dear Universe… Are You My Dad? And Other Weird Attachments

You blame the Universe/God/whatever for what goes wrong in your life, believing you are constantly being punished for not doing things perfectly. Other people are rewarded with what they want, while some force seems to work against you. You hold out hope that one day the Universe will come through for you while simultaneously expecting disappointment. Where the hell did this belief come from? If you’re like me, it may have come from a parent or caregiver who you relied on for love and attention… which you didn’t receive. You felt unworthy and undeserving despite working hard, so you transferred those beliefs onto something else: the Universe. If daddy won’t give me what I want, why should I expect the universe to cooperate?! In this week’s episode, we’ll dive into why you seek external validation and where it comes from. Failure and disappointment are not your fate. Once you identify these negative beliefs and their origin, you can shift to a more empowered perspective; one in which you DO get what you want. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Remember: you matter. You are worthy, and waiting for conditional approval is waiting for the 12th of never.
11/30/202121 minutes, 23 seconds
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Make-up Sex is B.S.

Some people think the best place to solve relationship issues is in bed. It feels intimate—a way to connect—but afterwards, are you really any closer? And do you ever find yourself picking fights with the goal of getting to make-up sex because it temporarily relieves your fear of abandonment? When sex is used as a way to manipulate others into sticking around, it’s not a path to emotional intimacy; it’s an obstacle. It’s a way to get lost in intensity so you can avoid your real feelings. Sex can give you a sense of control, relieve your fear of rejection or temporarily make you believe your relationship is healthy. But it doesn’t last, and it isn’t real. When sex is used as a tool, emotional suffering goes right along with it. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at honesty as the solution. It’s an opportunity to ask yourself why you fight, distance or separate from your partner to create the need for make-up sex… and what you get from it. When you allow yourself to be open and honest with your feelings instead of jumping in the sack, you’ll start to experience what TRUE intimacy is. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Awareness of your pattern will cut the cheap sex through emotionally risky action in favor of real connection.
11/23/202122 minutes, 8 seconds
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How to Guarantee Nothing Ever Changes in Your Life

People always want to know if they should leave their job or their relationship or whatever situation they are unhappy with. Shouldn’t they cut their losses? Isn’t it better to chase the next bright shiny object? The problem is, when people DO make that change, they tend to repeat the same pattern in their next job or next relationship, and they become increasingly frustrated that nothing ever changes. So what’s the solution? Stay longer than is comfortable. Your inability to stick with situations or relationships long enough to learn from them is what keeps you stuck. Without standing still and being present, you just perpetuate the pattern of cutting bait too soon, chasing what’s next, then convincing yourself this is just who you are. It’s a false story. In this week’s episode I challenge you to stay just a little bit longer than you want to. Because getting excited about the next possibility will eventually wear off and you’ll be in this same spot once again. When you’re curious about why you're here and why staying is so uncomfortable, you get to some deeper truths that open the window to change. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Give up the bright shiny object to stay with the old socks until you are deeply moved to grow by knowing what attracted you to the old socks in the first place.
11/16/202134 minutes, 20 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Kirsten Ackerman

Growing up, Kirsten struggled with disordered eating and body image. Although she didn't see the connection at the time, she later realized how much her family environment impacted her relationship with food. Her mom was a chronic dieter who talked negatively about her own body, and most of her extended family was diet-focused, so Kirsten picked up on those cues. In college she studied nutrition because food was such a focal point in her life, and she thought if she could just crack the code on eating, her struggles would be over. Of course that wasn't true, but Kirsten continued down this path, getting her Master's degree and becoming a registered dietician... while sneaking food and feeling like a fraud. "What is causing people to feel out of control around food is the fact that they're engaging in restrictive behaviors." --Kirsten Ackerman In this podcast, Kirsten shares the shift she experienced when she discovered intuitive eating, realizing she was NOT broken. She describes intuitive eating as a healing framework from chronic dieting where you return to your intuitive wisdom around food--before diet culture affected your relationship with food and body image. She is now an Anti-Diet Registered Dietitian and Certified Intuitive Eating Counselor. Her radical shift to "unconditional permission to eat" has helped so many stop the dieting roller coaster and permanently heal their relationship with food. Learn more about Kirsten: Website: www.theintuitverd.com Instagram: @theintuitive_rd Intuitive Bites Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/7giKBSPjO9aLktIUWjQOEM?si=ee323e7495c94169
11/10/202129 minutes, 53 seconds
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Fear of Happiness

Some people equate numbness with happiness. As long as nothing is poking at you screaming for your attention, you think all is right with the world, and you work hard to maintain this state. But when something triggers you, you can’t handle being out of control, so you scramble to get back to that safe space you THINK is happiness. Nope, it’s numbness, and it’s not where you want to live. Many people say they aren't control freaks, but their internal feelings tell a different story. If you feel anxious whenever you let loose, have fun or feel attracted to someone, that’s a sign of control. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to become more aware of this paradigm because many people delude themselves into thinking they’re happy when in fact they are just numb and trying to avoid being triggered. Happiness is not to be feared, but you need to let go of control in order to let it in. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can pretend numbness is peace and happiness or you can challenge yourself to lose control and have FUN, emotional intimacy and vulnerability! Uh yeah happiness!
11/9/202129 minutes, 22 seconds
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How Do You Know You Really Care For Someone?

Attachment and care are two different things, and mistaking one for the other can lead to chronic disappointment. When you have expectations about what someone should do, or how they should treat you to show you they care, your happiness is dependent on a fantasy. Are you afraid that if you don’t get what you want, your world will end? Focusing on what your partner does wrong and/or hoping you’ll feel better when they finally “get their act together” is not living in reality. And it’s not really considering their feelings; it’s more about how they can relieve your pain or create a momentary high that you THINK is love. Being wrapped up in expectations and putting conditions around other people's actions makes it hard to live a fulfilling life. In this week’s episode I’ll talk about slowing down so you can pay attention to what’s happening in the present moment. This will take you out of fantasy land where you believe it’s someone else’s responsibility to earn your love. The solution is not finding the “right” person who will always do what you want and make you feel good. When you treat yourself how you want to be treated and let go of expectations, you create space for a loving, caring relationship that goes both ways. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can look like you care when you don’t see yourself clearly… but do you feel like you care? To love another you really should love yourself.
11/2/202119 minutes, 18 seconds
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You Want To Change? How To Tell if You Are Actually Ready!

For many people who are stuck, pain is what drives them to seek change. It could be a toxic relationship or yet another holiday spent alone. Maybe it’s wanting to finally escape not feeling good enough. But when anger and frustration are your only motivators, change isn’t very effective… and it doesn’t last. Especially if you’re changing yourself just to get someone else to change. Instead, you need to know why you’re not where you want to be, and have a deep desire to grow your self value. When you complain, blame and compare yourself to others, fear is running the show. And wanting to run away is often a sign that you need to stand still. In this week’s episode, I’ll share different questions you can ask yourself to evaluate your readiness for change. If you’re not there yet, that’s ok! Accepting where you are is an important first step. Once you are clear on what you want to change and why, you can start taking action in that direction. And THAT’S when meaningful change happens because there is a big difference between moving toward something you want, and moving away from something you don’t want. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Rushing yourself out of the current pain can mean you don’t learn anything to contribute to permanently moving toward happiness.
10/26/202135 minutes, 46 seconds
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When Life Appears To Be a Soul Sucking Vortex, What Do You Do?

Most of us have periods in our lives where it feels like everything is a shit show. You feel like the universe is conspiring against you and no one is on your team. Even when people do try to help by offering advice, it annoys the crap out of you. Then, on top of it all, you feel wrong in your feelings because you think you should be able to rise above it. Society says to buck up and be positive! When life happens and you start going down the rabbit hole, it’s ok to stay there for a moment, but you do not want to get stuck there. Wallowing for weeks (or longer) is a victim pattern you need to look at because YOU are the one keeping yourself there. Your active participation in your life matters. When you blame other people, or the universe, for what’s happening, you stay buried in that hole. In this week’s podcast I share my personal experience with loss and my husband’s illness. During the last 18 months I have been challenged to surrender and find happiness even while surrounded by tragedy. It is not easy, but you can choose to accept what’s going on, take responsibility for your part, feel what’s happening and move the heck forward. It really is a choice, and I'll show you what worked for me. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can be an action-taking victim, or you can decide to be an action-taking authentic human being who is happy.
10/19/202137 minutes, 19 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Majo Molfino

Majo Molfino is the daughter of immigrants who grew up as a “good girl,” getting good grades and following the rules. After graduating from college, she got a grown-up cubicle job as one is expected to do, but something immediately felt off. She looked at herself in the mirror and felt like she was wearing a costume. For the first time Majo questioned what she was put on this planet to do. And the only answer she had at the time was: not this. A year into her job she finally quit, moved to California… and took a very similar job (growth isn’t a linear process!). But after quitting the second time, and having an awakening at the Burning Man festival, she realized her purpose was to guide and support women in their creative expression. “We’ve been socialized to be good, as women, instead of powerful.” –Majo Molfino This insight led Majo to Stanford where she got a Master’s in learning, design and technology. The design thinking she learned, coupled with her “good girl” upbringing, provided the framework for her coaching, podcast, book and IGNITE leadership program. Join me as Majo talks about transformation and change, which she believes is a combination of insights and action. Today she guides women toward more power and meaning through her blend of storytelling, design, psychology and mindfulness. Learn more about Majo’s IGNITE leadership program, Heroine podcast and book “Break the Good Girl Myth": https://majomolfino.com/ Instagram: @majomolfino Podcast: ‎https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/heroine/id1100949693 Book: https://www.amazon.com/Break-Good-Girl-Myth-Purposeful/dp/0062894056/ref=sr_1_1?crid=2ZNB19KXZ64J0&dchild=1&keywords=majo+molfino&qid=1617386382&sprefix=majo+molfino%2Caps%2C203&sr=8-1
10/13/202139 minutes, 44 seconds
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What Loyalty is so You Have Relationships You Love

Loyalty. What does that mean to you? And where did you learn it? As a kid, if you were around adults (particularly your caregivers) who lied, cheated, and/or treated others as disposable, you may have never learned what loyalty really is. As a result, you may have spent your adult life looking for greener pastures, or trying to determine when to cut bait because you don’t know how long the relationship will last and you’d rather leave before you REALLY get hurt. This doesn’t just happen with intimate relationships, either. When you lack a loyal role model, it impacts friendships and work situations too. And the bigger issue is that you don’t know how to be loyal to yourself! You break commitments to yourself and lack boundaries, diminishing your sense of value. In this week’s episode we will explore the concept of loyalty, how your early role models framed your perception of it and why it’s so important for healthy relationships. Then we’ll look at how to shift things. When you are clear on what you want, and believe you deserve it, you’ll put energy toward deepening connections with people instead of dropping them. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Having what you want is easy once you stop trying to sabotage intimate bonds with others.
10/12/202138 minutes, 3 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: How to Communicate With a Space Alien and Other Avoidants!

How do you communicate with an avoidant? And how do you determine if they are a narcissist, pathological liar, or have some other “malady”? I get questions like this a lot. People want strategies for dealing with partners they are quick to label. Here is the short answer: There is no special language for communicating with avoidants, and it is not your job to diagnose people. If you don’t believe you can have what you want (e.g. a healthy relationship), you’ll turn to manipulation. And yes, communicating in a particular way to get what you want is manipulative because it is not coming from an authentic, loving place. It is rooted in fear. In this week’s episode we’ll explore being “other” directed, and how labeling someone else is a way of distracting yourself from YOU. It’s not about figuring out how to deal with your partner, it’s asking yourself why you choose relationships that require mental strategies. Your happiness and wellbeing is not the responsibility of anyone but you, and as long as you diagnose others and try to manipulate them to get what you want, you’ll be miserable. Instead of searching for tips and tricks, look at the choices that got you here… and why you made them. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Focus on yourself. All parts of you. Trust that your choices are leading you somewhere—to another lesson or to your goals. It is the same road for all of us.
10/5/202119 minutes, 32 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: You Can’t Take It Anymore… Yet You Stay

You can’t take it anymore. You are stuck in a toxic relationship and you want the pain to stop. You want out. But instead of taking some sort of action… you do nothing. Resistance kicks in and your whole body says, “nope!” So you stay in your own personal hell, afraid of losing what you have, even though what you have is so far away from what you want. Why? Because it’s familiar. Because breadcrumbs of love and attention are better than nothing. But is “nothing” really the only alternative? This is not your lot in life. You are not the unlucky one who has to settle for a fraction of what you deserve. But believing you can have something meaningful and fulfilling is foreign because you have avoided intimacy your whole life. I know this pain very well because I lived it for many years. In this week’s podcast we’ll talk about empowering steps you can take to push past the resistance that keeps you stuck. Your situation is a symptom of something that is happening inside you. When you start exploring internally and connect with your feelings, you find the courage to get out of your pain. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Chemistry of love is not intense; it is not breadcrumbs. It is courage, freedom, care and deep connection!
9/28/202124 minutes, 13 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Megan Huber

Megan Huber grew up in a small, rural North Carolina town with a teacher for a mom. The classroom was what she knew, so when she graduated from college with no clue about what she wanted to do, she accepted her mom’s offer to pay for a Master’s degree in teaching. That landed her as a teacher in her hometown high school right alongside her mom. Although teaching resonated with her on some level, it wasn’t until much later that Megan realized she was living her mom’s vision for her life—not her own. “We all know the greatness that exists inside of us… and we have such a craving to let that version of ourselves run the show.” –Megan Huber When Megan's husband introduced her to a coaching program, it was her first real taste of personal development. There were parallels to teaching, but she still wasn’t sure how the pieces fit together or what her future looked like. She believed she had greatness in her, but it was locked inside so tightly that she had a debilitating fear of missing out on her life’s purpose. Listen to Megan’s story of individuation where she found her own teaching path (not her mother's), let go of approval-seeking and grew her coaching business from $0-$500k in just 12 months. Today she works with coaches and other service-based entrepreneurs to reach those same goals. Learn more about Megan and connect with her here: Website: www.meganjohnsonhuber.com Facebook: @MeganJohnsonHuber Instagram: @meganjhuber
9/22/202158 minutes, 5 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Passive Aggressive. Who Me? How To Stop and Get What You Want!

Passive aggressiveness is an indirect resistance to the demands of others, and an avoidance of direct confrontation (i.e., procrastinating, pouting, gossiping, etc.). Let’s say you hire someone and they don’t work out, but instead of having a difficult conversation about their performance, you make yourself unavailable. You don’t reply to emails and are always busy when they call. Maybe you even throw menial tasks their way—all to get them to quit. People complain all the time about passive aggressive behavior in others without acknowledging it in themselves. Walking on eggshells is a sign of passive aggressiveness. You’re not speaking your truth. And when that happens, people have trouble trusting or bonding with you. Listen to this week’s podcast where we look at what fuels this behavior: fear of loss and shame. Shame is a dream killer and it can keep you tip-toeing through life, holding your tongue and sending mixed messages. By accepting the parts of yourself you don’t like—including your passive aggressive behavior—and speaking your truth, your words and actions start to match. People don’t worry about you saying something negative behind their back. They trust you and feel connected to you because they know you’re a straight-shooter. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Accept yourself as being okay. The more you do, the less you fear loss, and that makes you the driver on your journey.
9/21/202122 minutes, 39 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: If You Only Contact Me When You Need Me, Find Someone Else To Fill the Need

Do you need to be needed by someone, believing you’re the only one who understands them? “Let me help! Call anytime… I’m always here for you.” You over-volunteer to the point of making yourself feel small and insignificant, and believe it’s the only way to keep people in your life. There is a scorecard in your head as you wait for recognition or reciprocity that never comes. And at the same time, you resent them for only contacting you when they need something. You feel angry and used, yet you don’t see how you are contributing to this dynamic. Believing you are the only one who can help, then cursing them for taking advantage of you, is not a peaceful way to live. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at why you say yes (what do you want in return?), and what it costs you. Giving with strings attached is an opportunity to look at your motivation. When you finally stop rescuing your partner, friend, etc., they will find others who are willing to step up. You can be there for them without sacrificing yourself. Generosity is giving because you want to, not because you have to. It’s a loving act that brings you peace, compassion and connection. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Connection is what you deeply desire. Ask yourself before you commit: Can I connect authentically?
9/14/202124 minutes, 7 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Ignoring Red Flags Because You See the Good

Yes, there is good in all of us. But that doesn’t mean you should ignore red flags in a relationship because you want to see the good in people. And it certainly doesn’t mean it’s your job to make those red flags go away; to shine that diamond in the rough! When you tell yourself what an amazing person you are for seeing the good in someone, that’s your ego talking. It’s the false part of yourself seeing the false part of others. And it’s totally rooted in insecure attachment. Emotionally healthy people don’t sacrifice their own wellbeing for others. When you believe this martyr story and ignore or excuse red flags, you sell yourself short. You do NOT deserve a “broken” person who needs rescuing. That road leads to unhappiness because it’s an impossible journey, and you’ll never find what you’re looking for. Focusing on the other person means you’re avoiding yourself. In today’s podcast we’ll explore this story we tend to create, and how to change it. Ignoring red flags doesn’t make you noble. Let’s dispel that belief so you can shift to the real work: the work that begins with you. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You are your own red flag. Surrender to reality, stop the story and be that hero for yourself.
9/7/202125 minutes, 30 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Hiding How You Feel Among Judgmental People

You wish you could be calm, cool and collected. Other people seem to do it—they can pull off being mysterious while your facial expressions always give you away. You feel like the weird emotional one, trying to tame whatever is brewing inside while everyone else stays calmly in control. You’re afraid if anyone knew how you really felt, they would judge you. But following the rules of what other people deem as “acceptable” will leave you disconnected from yourself and your life. If you want to be comfortable in your skin, you need to value your own truth and stop seeking outside approval. In this week’s episode I’ll show you how to pay attention to your insecurities, and identify which situations provoke them. From there you can practice showing up in those situations however you feel, and not expecting yourself to be different. Gauging how you’re supposed to act by watching the body language, words and actions of others is the opposite of authentic. Instead, take action from an internal desire for happiness and wellbeing. Over time your insecurities will fade and your confidence will grow! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Valuing your truth makes it easier to find true connection. Letting go of that fear changes your life.
8/31/202122 minutes, 42 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Problems, Complaints and Lack of Trust Will Never Get You the Pot of Gold!

How much time do you spend complaining about problems and/or fixing them? You finally join the country club, but you can never get the tee-time you want, the food is bland and all the members are annoying. Or you criticize your co-worker for doing a project “wrong,” then take it over and do it yourself because no one can measure up to you. This, my friends, is classic avoidance. When your focus is on problems outside of you, it lets you off the hook to address what’s happening INSIDE of you. When you don’t trust life or other people, you work harder to control things, including solving problems that don’t exist. And when you criticize everything under the sun, you are resistant to change and growth. These are signs of unhappiness. In this week’s episode we’ll look at your expectations of others and why they exist. You will also be challenged to stop solving problems for one day to see what happens when you allow life to unfold without judgment or control. Problems are everywhere, but they don’t have to become your problems. Instead of focusing on them, you can learn to trust that things will work out without your interference. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You can be a martyr or problem-solver, but neither will open you up to happiness.
8/24/202140 minutes, 26 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Scout Sobel

“Entrepreneurship and starting your own business is just one big personal development game.” Scout Sobel is a trailblazer in the media industry. She is the founder of Scout’s Agency, the co-host of Okay Sis Podcast, and the host of SCOUT Podcast. But growing up, she suffered from emotional paralysis, experiencing her first bout of anxiety in kindergarten. A depressive episode in high school led to therapy intervention, followed by paranoia in college. When she was eventually diagnosed with bipolar disorder at the age of 20, Scout thought her life was over. She painfully watched friends succeed while she failed to hold down part-time jobs as a college drop-out. It wasn’t until faced with losing her boyfriend that she started taking responsibility for the cards she was dealt instead of blaming God for giving them to her. She sought out resources for her mental illness, got a job and took community college classes. Her brain kicked into high gear when she started a magazine with a friend… leading her down the path of entrepreneurship. Listen in as Scout vulnerably shares how accepting, allowing and honoring her emotions has been critical to her success as an entrepreneur and as a human. Her first book, “Emotional Entrepreneur,” guides women through the emotional challenges of launching, running, and scaling a business. “I’ve made a contract with myself that no matter what happens or what emotion happens in that moment, I will love my life unconditionally.” --Scout Sobel Grab a copy of her book here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0578951754. Learn more about Scout and connect with her here: https://www.scoutsobel.com/ Instagram: @scoutsobel
8/19/202137 minutes, 8 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: The Gift of Gratitude

It’s hard to be grateful for misfortune, and the suffering that results. It’s much easier to wallow in “Why me? Poor me!” than to look for the gift. The truth is, you can find gratitude in every situation. It’s being thankful for some aspect of every situation rather than only focusing on the negative. When you surrender to reality and look for the blessing, you arrive at gratitude. It’s expansive and helps you see yourself more clearly. Let’s say you lose your job. You can dwell on the situation and be pissed off, or accept the reality and look for the gifts. Maybe your next job will be better or you can start the business you’ve always wanted. It’s also a chance to look at how you showed up for the job, using it as an opportunity for growth. Perhaps your discontent was reflected in your work, or you disconnected from your co-workers. With gratitude comes opportunity because you get to be the creator of your life rather than a helpless victim. This is not about being a Pollyanna and ignoring your pain. Feel all your emotions, then look for an opening, possibility or opportunity. It’s also not about giving lip service to gratitude—that does nothing. Gratitude is a feeling that you need to connect with. Once you do, you’ll be able to see the situation more clearly and your role in it. It’s a gift you give yourself and it’s ALWAYS available.
8/17/202117 minutes, 21 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Receiving Is Not a Weakness

You consider yourself a strong person. When a challenge presents itself, you tackle it head-on. People come to you for answers because you always seem to have them. You pick others up when they fall. You’re reliable and trustworthy. But to be that pillar of strength, you push your emotions aside because you can’t be someone else’s hero if they see a crack in your armor. And therein lies the problem. We have been brought up to believe that giving is strong and receiving is weak. But that’s backwards. Asking for help and being able to receive takes courage. Allowing others to see you as human is what strong people do. In this week’s episode I’ll challenge you to explore why being “strong” is important to you, and where you struggle to receive. Because you can’t give or receive love freely if you’re emotionally shut down. When you open your heart to others and allow them to see your vulnerability, you radiate strength. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) The hole in your suit of armor is inside of you. Allow it to exist without being strong so you connect with yourself and others.
8/10/202133 minutes, 21 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! Laurie Gerber

Born of a spiritual-seeking mother and knowledge-seeking father, Laurie Gerber grew up fascinated by the human experience and what makes people tick. She became an educational consultant who matched students with tutors, but realized she was less interested in helping students achieve academic success than she was in helping them deal with their suffering. To better define her goals and excel in her career, Laurie started working with a coach. That’s when she realized how much of her entire life—not just professionally—was spent anesthetized, simply going through the motions. Using The Handel Method, which is what she now teaches, Laurie saw the disconnect between her dreams and her reality. Join me as Laurie shares how she reconnected with her husband and what she envisioned for herself as a kid by getting vulnerable and speaking her truth. Today she teaches practical tools on how to dream, bust excuses, action plan for the future, build Personal Integrity® and, most importantly, the art of honesty. “If we are not being true to ourselves, we’re never going to be loved because WE will not be there to be loved.” --Laurie Gerber Take the free Current Reality quiz at: https://www.handelgroup.com/crq/ Learn more about Laurie and The Handel Group: https://www.handelgroup.com/ Facebook- @HGLifeCoaching Instagram- @Lauriegerber_coach Twitter- @HGLifeCoaching
8/4/202143 minutes, 25 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Your Dreams Aren’t Dead, They Might Just Look Different

What happened to your dreams? Did you give up on them? Or are you still waiting for them to happen, hoping that “someday” is right around the corner? Maybe what you wanted did show up, but it didn’t fulfill you. The thing about dreams is, they don’t always show up how and when you expect them to, and they don’t just fall in your lap. They require a combination of surrender and action. But not just any action; it has to be intentional, emotional action. Empty action, which is numb and devoid of emotion, may make your “dream” happen, but if you’re not connected to it, does it really bring fulfillment? Dreams evolve, and they are not reserved for the lucky few… or the young. You can be someone who makes your life what you want it to be by aligning your emotions and actions. In this week’s episode we’ll look at common obstacles to realizing your dreams, and what to do differently. I’ll share a writing exercise to reveal your patterns and where you place your focus. It’s one I have used in my own life. Your dreams are still viable and achievable. You may just need to change course a bit and keep your eyes open to what they look like now. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Dreams come true in different packages, at different times. And through allowing yourself to think, feel and be in a place you’ve never been.
8/3/202129 minutes, 21 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: I'm an Angry Buzzard When I Don't Get My Way. Can I Stop?

Do you get exceptionally angry when a restaurant server gets your order wrong, or when plans change at the last minute, or when customer service won’t fix your problem? We’re not talking mild frustration (those situations can be annoying!), but rather deep seated anger that is triggered into an explosion. Perhaps you yell at the other person, blaming them for what you’re unhappy with. Or maybe you’re one of those people who smiles on the outside while seething on the inside. Where does this anger come from? Can it be stopped? And who are you actually angry with? Blaming other people or circumstances for your anger is easier than dealing with your deeper emotions, but it’s not a peaceful way to live. It makes you a powerless victim and creates distance in relationships. In this week’s podcast we’ll look at how to deal with anger, including taking responsibility for your choices. Anger can be tough to admit, but once you own it, you can work on letting it go and take your power back. Releasing it will set you free. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Own your anger and then own your choices. You will find your peaceful self.
7/27/202128 minutes, 38 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: Are My Thoughts Creating My Reality? If So, My Love Life Might Be Screwed!

You have probably heard some version of “what you think, you create.” Meaning your thoughts create your reality. If your love life feels like a train wreck (or any part of your life, really), this can be a scary idea. Are you creating the situation you don’t want by ruminating on negative thoughts? By constantly thinking there are no “good ones” out there, are you actually making it true? Well… yes and no. Thoughts play a role, but they are not the only factor. Trying to simply stop the thoughts or replace them with positive affirmations doesn’t make them go away. It runs much deeper than that. In this week’s podcast we’ll talk about everything that exists between thoughts and actions, and where to focus if you want to change your situation. Believing your reality is only caused by your thoughts is limiting and untrue. If you want to change what isn’t working, you need to look at your emotions, beliefs, motivation, words and actions that stem from your thoughts. The good news is if you do this, you absolutely can change your life! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Don’t worry about what you think. Pay attention to your feelings, actions and motivation because THAT is creating your life.
7/20/202129 minutes, 25 seconds
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Moving On with Kristina Mand-Lakhhiani

Kristina Mand-Lakhiani was born in the Soviet Union where entrepreneurship was punishable by law and everyone was given the same “manual” for success. By the age of 40 she had an Instagrammable life with a husband, son and daughter, yet she became annoyed when people asked about her children or husband, as if she herself wasn’t important. Guilt followed because she had a great life and “shouldn’t feel that way,” a belief she finally started to question and explore. It took courage for Kristina to be honest with herself and discover who she was behind her mask of perfection, but the harder part was taking action, which meant separating from her husband and disappointing the people around her. “Society’s idea of success and your personal idea of your happiness are not the same thing.” --Kristina Mand-Lakhiani Today Kristina is an international speaker, entrepreneur, artist, philanthropist and mother. She also co-founded of Mindvalley, a science-based learning platform for human transformation and entrepreneurship. Join me as Kristina shares her insights on happiness, courage and authenticity. And don’t miss the wisdom nugget she received from the Dalai Lama when she asked him about happiness! Learn more about Kristina and Mindvalley: Website: home_ Website: Mindvalley | The Premier Personal Growth Learning Platform IG: https://www.instagram.com/kristinamand/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/kristinamand YouTube: Kristina Mand-Lakhiani
7/14/202153 minutes, 4 seconds
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Freedom from Attachment: I Have My Act Together, so Why Do I Feel Like Such a Mess?

You sure do have your act together. You look great, take care of yourself and project an air of confidence. Success has always been an important focus, and “slowing down” isn’t in your vocabulary. People may admire you and compliment your achievements, but there’s just one tiny little problem—you feel like an imposter. You’re afraid of people getting close to you because if they do, they might see behind the curtain and realize you’re way more of a mess than they thought. As a result, your personal life is either dysfunctional or nonexistent. Your drive isn’t actually success, it’s fear of abandonment. If people see your flaws, they might leave. And if you go a level deeper, you’ll discover there is actually something about yourself you find unacceptable. So the mask goes on and the charade continues. Unfortunately you can’t live a full life when you are emotionally hiding. In this week’s episode we’ll dive into the importance you place on your exterior, and what drives your fear. When you start confronting your fears instead of avoiding them, you dismantle them brick by brick. And what you uncover is emotional freedom. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Drop the façade and be you with no act, no barbed wire and a welcome sign to love!
7/13/202126 minutes
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Journey of Attachment: The Counterintuitive Secret to Being “Enough”

Do you surround yourself with cool, successful or impressive people to feel like you embody those qualities by association? How many of those friends do you stay in touch with and make plans to get together while they put forth little-to-no effort? When you don’t feel valued, one way to fill that emptiness is to work hard at relationships that would probably fall apart without your effort. Your pattern of trying to prove your worth exhausts you, and any feelings of worthiness are temporary. Unfortunately you can’t force yourself to believe you are enough. But you can recognize all the ways you don’t believe it by your actions… and then change your behavior. What are you doing and why? Is it authentic, or is it coming from a place of lack? Affirmations and simply proclaiming, “I am enough!” don’t work if you don’t believe it. Listen to this week’s podcast to learn what to do instead. It may be counterintuitive, but it will move you out of resistance so you can begin the deeper work. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Being enough is a decision, followed by more choices in your favor.
7/6/202128 minutes, 11 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: 3 Steps To Loving Yourself; You're Not a Project

Did you grow up feeling you were too much, not enough, too nice, too cold, too sensitive, too shy, too annoying, too inquisitive or too ANYTHING? Basically, instead of being loved for your whole self, did you feel like you were simply tolerated? Maybe you wondered, throughout your life, if people even liked being around you because those too much/not enough beliefs were always with you. So, to move from tolerance to love, you worked hard to prove yourself worthy of someone else’s company. And did those people (intimate partners, friends, family members, etc.) treasure you for the wonderful human you are? Probably not. Why? Because you didn’t treasure you. Self-love isn’t simply about spa visits, eating healthy, working out or treating yourself to a new outfit. It is attention, connection and awareness to yourself. And you cultivate it by slowing down, feeling your feelings and choosing what makes you happy. When you love yourself, you have compassion for who you are, what you are and why you are. And that is where true love with someone else begins… because love from another person won’t feel good unless you feel it for yourself first. In this week’s podcast I’ll share three questions to ask yourself to shift from external “give-it-to-me” love to true self-love. You deserve more, but to get it, you have to step up and show yourself some love. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Self-love comes from all the in-between moments not the pinnacles! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
6/29/202127 minutes, 56 seconds
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The Journey of Attachment: Attraction to Unavailable People

You attract people exactly where you are. If you’re unavailable, you will attract someone who is unavailable. To attract open, you must BE open. People who are attracted to emotionally unavailable people are attached to UNREALISTIC outcomes, and their idea of a good partner is narrow—as in they need to fit the perfect picture. Maybe you want to meet someone so you don’t spend the holidays alone, providing a very limited opening for what you will accept. Even people who have done work on themselves can be drawn to emotionally unavailable people because it’s familiar. It stems from our negative beliefs, particularly “I am alone” and “there is not really enough.” We often look for evidence our beliefs are true, so we attract painful partners. As with everything, the first step is awareness. To move toward available, notice what you’re normally drawn to. What checklists do you have? Forget your “type” and pay attention to how certain attractive qualities feel to you. Where do you feel connected when you are with someone? Look for what you usually dismiss (i.e. values). Get to know yourself while being with people (without expectations) and see how you feel about them. Have a conversation without it needing to lead somewhere. Trying to make something happen doesn’t work, so relax and catch yourself if you start picking people apart. You never know when someone will show up, so stay open to possibility. It’s not about control; it’s about surrender. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
6/22/202137 minutes, 58 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Guy Finley

Guy Finley is a best-selling author of more than 45 books and audios on self-realization, including his newest release, “Relationship Magic: Waking Up Together” which explores the purpose of relationships. His journey began when he was 12 or 13 years old, upon hearing a voice whose message formed the path of his entire life. Since then he has experienced a series of blows to who he was and who he thought he would be. In our riveting conversation, Guy shares his views on suffering, letting go, triggers, resistance, identity and so much more. He also talks about what he calls “peephole consciousness,” and how it limits our perspective of reality. Guy challenges us to ask what we can learn from each moment instead of focusing on what we tell ourselves about the moment. And also to stop thinking about what we are, and work to see what we are. He is full of wisdom, and I always enjoy talking with him. “Resistance is the revelation killer. You cannot resist anything in the moment, and hope to learn that lesson in the moment at the same time.” –Guy Finley You can learn more about Guy Finley, including his free online classes, at www.guyfinley.org.
6/16/202144 minutes, 32 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Selfish Is Not a Four-Letter Word (REBROADCAST)

People think “selfish” is a dirty word, so there’s a lot of fear around it. They’ve had it beat into them that being selfish is bad, which leads to people-pleasing. When you succumb to people-pleasing, you’re constantly at the mercy of the rest of the world to validate you. You think if you don’t give to someone else or do what they want, you’re being selfish. And being selfish makes you feel guilty! You become so focused on not wanting to be selfish you walk on eggshells, over-doing to avoid the label. Try as hard as you can to be a saint and it won’t matter—when you try to compensate for your negative beliefs, it comes back to bite you. The thing is, you’re never going to feel good when you go against yourself. You end up in this pattern of giving, thinking you’ll be seen as a good person and eventually get something in return. But when that doesn’t happen, you end up resentful… and then you try even harder. It’s a vicious cycle that’s not only painful, it also stops you from getting close to people. I know you’re afraid you won’t be likeable if you’re “selfish,” but if someone only likes you when you’re catering to their every whim, ask yourself if that’s really a two-way relationship. What are you getting out of it? Is it worth it? Taking care of yourself doesn’t make you selfish, but giving to get does. Yep, when you give out of obligation, you’re not coming from a genuine place. You’re manipulating to get something—be it attention, validation, acceptance, etc. That’s actually more selfish than taking care of yourself. So, if you want to feel good and stop putting others before yourself, embrace being selfish. You’ll find that when you allow it rather than resisting, you’re able to own it. Make “selfish” a positive word in your vocabulary; it means you’re taking care of yourself instead of always prioritizing someone else. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Only then can you truly give from your heart.
6/15/202118 minutes, 21 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: When You’re Attached, There’s Only Room In the Relationship For You

If you can’t live without someone, and are knee-deep in soulmate territory where you need them to “complete” you, you are very likely stuck in attachment. You have a picture in your head of what you want your life to be and how you want to feel, so you’re trying to fit them into it, regardless of how things really are. So you push and pull, trying to mold them into what you want. Perhaps you cherry pick the good moments to convince yourself they’re the one. But where are their feelings in all of this? Are you in this relationship together, or are you just focused on getting what you want? And are you even getting it? Attachment is self-absorption in many ways. Not because you’re self-centered or a bad person—not at all. You are simply reacting to your pain, which can be all-consuming. It’s an emptiness that needs to be fed, so you are constantly looking for ways to fill it. The quicker the better because you’re in scarcity land and it may disappear in a blink. Attachment like this can be an out-of-body experience where you are completely disconnected from your deeper feelings. In this week’s podcast I challenge you to look beyond yourself to see the other person for who they truly are—with empathy and compassion. This will help loosen that tight grip of yours so you ease anxiety and see your relationship a little more clearly. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Self absorption is attachment. Feeling your real feelings will help you connect better with others. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
6/8/202125 minutes, 6 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Why Does There Always Have To Be a Bad Guy?

How often do you look for the enemy in your life? Whether it’s a partner who can’t commit, a condescending boss or an entitled rich person, labeling them as the bad guy can make you feel better about yourself. After all, if they are the bad guy, that makes you the good guy, right? And when you’re the good guy, you don’t need to do anything differently; the responsibility to change or be different is all on them. But people and situations are not inherently good or bad—it is only your perception. Passing judgment on others is also a way to hide from your emotions and remain a victim. If everything is their fault, you don’t have to look at how you are contributing. Instead, perhaps you fantasize about what life would be life if your partner finally committed to the relationship or your boss started respecting you, but that fantasy does nothing to change your reality. In this week’s podcast I invite you to look at things from a different perspective. By dropping the labels and looking at what you’re avoiding (i.e. your feelings), you’ll be able see the situation a lot more clearly. Then you can take action based on reality instead of holding tightly to your hero/villain fantasy.
6/1/202130 minutes, 26 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Setting Boundaries (REBROADCAST)

You may think boundaries are set for the benefit of others, and get angry when they aren’t followed. But you probably go against your own boundaries all the time without realizing it. People take their cues from how you treat yourself, so if you’re upset about putting in extra effort despite expressing your need for help and you keep doing it, look at how you continue to pick up the slack. If your partner is constantly making plans with you at the last minute, despite you asking him/her to plan ahead, you have to ask why you stay in a relationship with yourself where you are disrespecting you which is then reflected in this relationship where you don’t feel like a priority. Even if you yell at them or punish them for their unacceptable behavior, you’re still allowing it to happen, because you are not respecting you. Boundaries are not the responsibility of others, they are yours. If your boundaries aren’t being respected, look at whether YOU are respecting them. Telling someone what you want or what is acceptable is not enough; you need to back it up with action in how you treat yourself. Show them, don’t tell them. If you have to tell someone you have to ask yourself again, “What am I doing here?” Start treating yourself the way you want to be treated. And if your actions DO support your boundaries but someone isn’t respecting them, it’s probably time to make a new choice in that relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/24/202119 minutes, 51 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: You Are Not Worthless. How To Change Your Tune!

Go ahead, buy that car. You’re worth it. Your well-earned promotion will finally show people you have arrived. How do you measure your worth? Is it by what other people label as important, or what you feel inside? Will chasing money, fame and success make you feel worthy and valued? Of course not. Some of the most successful people in the world have an enormous sense of lack, believing more accolades will eventually fill them up. Intellectually you know fulfillment doesn’t work this way, yet your subconscious still searches for validation over the next mountain. So where does your internal value come from? Much of it is learned in childhood from your parents’ feelings of worthlessness. Yep, it’s passed down, so to speak, through the generations. Of course you didn’t know this as a kid; you simply modeled their behavior and emotional responses. And instead of seeing the problem as theirs, you believed something was wrong with you. In today’s podcast we’ll look at how we search for worthiness externally, and how to cultivate it internally. Everything you avoid takes away your worth, so start by accepting where you are right now—even if you feel utterly worthless. Then, let resistance be your guide. What you most resist is often the pathway to a more fulfilling life. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/18/202137 minutes, 2 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Instead of Trying to Fix People, Try This Instead

Your partner is a narcissist or an avoidant or emotionally unavailable… or some other label you have assigned to him/her. You’ve read up about how to deal with people like that, and have taken it upon yourself to fix them. You want to show them how they can be better, so you as a couple can be better. But why is it their responsibility to change? What about your role? Beating them up for your relationship problems won’t solve the issues between you. So what’s the answer? Start with compassion. Subconscious patterns are hard to break. If you are working on yourself, you know this to be true. Your partner isn’t bad or broken. They are human, just like you. Putting energy toward telling them what they need to do differently is energy better spent on yourself. Maybe they don’t want to be “fixed.” And if they do want to change, it’s their journey… not yours. In this week’s podcast we will focus on acceptance and compassion—for yourself and your mate. And really, this applies all relationships, not just intimate ones. This shift will move you from a constrictive space where you feel powerless, to a loving and expansive place that brings you peace. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/11/202134 minutes, 45 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Marilyn Alauria

“I’m like Bewitched with a lot of vodka!” Meet psychic medium Marilyn Alauria. From the age of three she had psychic experiences, but she didn’t know that’s what they were. As a kid she was constantly told it was just her imagination and she was overly sensitive. Those messages, coupled with childhood abuse, led Marilyn to push her abilities aside. She turned to drinking and drugs in her early teens to quiet the feelings, voices and confusion she experienced—not knowing how to deal with it. It wasn’t until after college that she connected with a medium who encouraged her to use her gifts, which opened up a whole new world to her. Marilyn had finally come home. “I fell into my soul. I fell into my alignment. I fell into who I am—my home.” –Marilyn Alauria Today Marilyn is a healer, instructor, coach and world-renowned psychic medium. Through her Soul Finder Academy and Membership for your Soul programs, Marilyn helps people live a practical, meaningful and joyous life (no unicorns, flying carpets, or impossible routines required!). Join me as she shares the low and high points of her journey—from watching her dad shoot a gun at her mom to winning an Emmy award—to finally arrive at a place of alignment with who she truly is. Marilyn leaves us with three simple yet powerful exercises to connect with your soul that I encourage you to try! You can learn more about Marilyn at: Website: marilynalauria.com Facebook: facebook.com/marilynalauria1 Instagram: instagram.com/marilynalauria Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/5/202145 minutes, 22 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Feel Criticized? How To Let It Go and Be Happy

Someone makes an off-handed remark and you bristle. Or they criticize you and you go into full-blown defensive mode before you dissolve into a million pieces. Why does this happen? Why are you so sensitive to some things while others slide off your back? You react when there is some truth in what was said; a truth you don’t want to admit to yourself, let alone have it pointed out by another person. When they call it out you become awash with shame. Shame is a VERY uncomfortable emotion to deal with so instead of feeling it, you deflect, attack, avoid or blame. Maybe your friend says you can’t be alone, which is why you’re always jumping from one bad relationship to the next. If that’s not true, there would be no reaction. Nothing would be triggered inside of you. But if you strike back and/or want to crawl into a hole… that’s a sign. Shame is talking and it’s time to listen. In this week’s podcast we’re talking about how to deal with criticism and shame. It’s hard to see the unsavory or unlikeable parts of yourself, but acknowledging those parts is the road to self-love, self-acceptance and emotional freedom. When you own your actions and feel the shame, you open the door to healing. No one likes criticism, but it can be an incredibly powerful tool for growth. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Put on your cape and open yourself to all sorts of criticism. Own what’s yours and let it flow through you. Remember you have your magic cape! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
5/4/202125 minutes, 40 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Breaking the Toxic Anxious-Avoidant Relationship Cycle

The same dance happens all the time in unhealthy relationships between an anxious and an avoidant. The anxious struggles with self-value so they perform: see me, pay attention to me! This neediness causes the avoidant to run. But then, when the avoidant is away, they miss their anxious partner. They want to feel that “closeness” again so the avoidant returns and the whole cycle goes on repeat with the anxious clinging and the avoidant running. The anxious partner tends to blame the avoidant for problems in the relationship because THEY did the leaving. Anxious see themselves as the emotional ones while their avoidant partners are robots. In truth, the anxious person is avoiding too. They are avoiding their feelings and avoiding responsibility. Both parties want control, blaming the other person so there is a winner and a loser. Where is the love in that?? In this week’s podcast we’ll dig into attached relationships driven by fear and anxiety. There are no winners and losers here—only losers. Whether you are the anxious or avoidant partner, learn how to break the cycle by focusing on yourself so you change the way you show up in relationships. There IS a better way! WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Whether you are anxious or avoidant, it is about YOU, not the other person. And since it IS you, you can change your relationships NOW. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/27/202148 minutes, 16 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Did I Say Something Stupid? Examining Your Communication Style.

You just said something that pissed off your partner. But geez, you were only joking. Then your friend asked for your opinion about what they were wearing, and was hurt by what you said. It seems like you’re always stepping on landmines, then constantly defending what you said or going on damage control. Should you be honest or not? Why is everyone so damn sensitive? Maybe it’s not them. When you don’t own what you say, and instead blow it off by saying, “I call it like I see it!” or “That’s just how I was raised,” or “Can’t you take a joke?” you invalidate the other person. You’re not able to see beyond your own perspective to realize the impact it has on others. If you want to have relationships that you’re not constantly repairing, take a deeper look at what you say and why. In this week’s podcast you’ll be challenged to look at the motivation behind the way you communicate. What are you trying to achieve? Is it working? What negative beliefs are at play? This self-examination will keep you from running on autopilot so you catch yourself before putting your foot in your mouth. It’s a relationship saver. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/20/202132 minutes, 37 seconds
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The Journey of Attachment: The Not So Rare Avoidant/Anxious Attachment Type (REBROADCAST)

Insecure attachment issues are very painful. Some may be familiar with John Bowlby’s attachment theory on childhood development. I talked about these in Podcast #63: Your Attachment Style, and encourage you to listen to it for an overview. Here I take the Anxious/Avoidant style a step further. Based on my own experience, and talking with hundreds of clients, the supposedly rare style of an Avoidant/Anxious/Avoidant is not so rare. This is when an independent person (avoidant) thinks they’ve found their soulmate in another avoidant, then becomes anxious that he/she will leave. This may manifest in choosing someone who likes you more than you like them (how could they possibly leave you?)so even if you have a lack of interest--it gives you something, or trying to rescue/fix someone (how can they leave if they need you?), or any number of different scenarios. The problem is, these relationships keep you avoiding YOURSELF and that’s not a place you want to live. Learn more about this style of attachment and how to break the pattern plus I also cover what true avoidant and true anxious behavior are in terms of characteristics--so you can find your style and do something about it. There’s a lot of info, so listen closely! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/13/20211 hour, 23 minutes, 40 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jill de Jong

From a small village in Holland to the international modeling scene, Jill de Jong led an adventurous but exhausting life. At 17 she moved to Milan, working long days and sleeping on planes. After four years of missed birthdays and weddings, she tried to settle down and leave modeling, but restlessness bubbled up. She moved to NY with her husband where modeling continued taking a toll on her physical, mental, and emotional health. Constantly depleted with a lot of uncomfortable body issues, Jill dove deep into health and nutrition. “If you really need weekends to recover, you’re not implementing enough time to rest during the week.” --Jill de Jong As she healed her body, Jill’s relationship was falling apart. She lost herself while trying to “fix” her husband and make him happy. When the marriage eventually ended after 12 years, Jill saw an opportunity to design the life she wanted. She became a personal trainer and started sharing her knowledge of fitness and nutrition with others. Today she is retired from modeling, and happily married to the man she met just one day after she wrote down her goal to fall in love again. In addition to writing the book “Models Do Eat,” Jill hosts a podcast and coaches others on their health and wellness journey. Join me as Jill shares her thirst for life and adventure with an energy that’s palpable. Her life advice: Do one thing differently to spark a little bit of new energy. You can learn more about Jill at https://www.jilldejong.com/. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/7/202139 minutes, 5 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: The Search for Unicorns

Are you a unicorn hunter, chasing some magical fantasy as the answer to your problems? When you find your perfect mate, when you write your best-selling book, when you win the lottery. You think your unicorn is waiting for you “out there” somewhere, but it never appears because what you’re really searching for is what you lack inside: value, worthiness, acceptance, love, validation. You’re disconnected from yourself. As the saying goes, “Wherever you go, there you are.” When you feel like a deflated shell of yourself, it’s easier to focus on the magical moments that will rescue you rather than what’s going on internally. You look for an exit to avoid those negative feelings, believing there is a place where only positivity exists. A place where someone else sees your magic because you don’t see it in yourself. Searching is no small feat; it requires a lot of work and suffering… to what end? Disappointment is the real destination because you never do find what you’re looking for. In this week’s podcast, you’ll learn the chase only ends when you decide to deal with yourself. When you look beyond the fantasy in your mind to accept your reality. And reality is not as ugly as you may feel it is. It’s where life is lived. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Chasing unicorns will keep you chasing as a life pursuit. Be in your reality now and accept all feelings. Love yourself now. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
4/6/202127 minutes, 20 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Want To Have an Authentic Relationship With Someone

In your sphere of relationships—partner, friend, colleague, family, acquaintance, etc.—how do you show up? Are you trying to fit in, be liked or be respected? Do you want to be thought of as nice, smart, strong, reliable and/or helpful? And to achieve those objectives, do you act differently with different people? You might perform the way you think somebody wants you to without even realizing it. Yes, perform. When you are playing a role that is focused on how you want to be perceived instead of who you truly are, you’re performing. And it not only depletes you of energy, it also robs your relationships of intimacy because you are not being your authentic self. So why work so hard to be a chameleon? Most people behave according to someone else’s expectations (real or assumed) to avoid abandonment. If you show up as the perfect friend, co-worker, lover, son/daughter, etc., you’ll preserve the relationship. But the consequences are many. In this week’s podcast you’ll see how much you sacrifice by being a chameleon, and that relationships are far more intuitive than you think. I’ll walk you through a reframing exercise that focuses on the purpose of your relationships so you can experience how it feels to show up as YOU. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Valuing yourself means what’s NOT okay IS okay, and sharing it with the world. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/30/202126 minutes, 23 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: The Comfort of Dysfunction (REBROADCAST)

Attachment issues are big among my podcast listeners; there’s a reason I have an entire series devoted to it! But there is a difference between those who are ATTACHED to their attached relationship, and those who truly want to let go. You need to honestly ask yourself: Are you more comfortable with the devil you know, or are you willing to do the hard work needed to make a change? Deciding you have value and wanting to move out of a dysfunctional relationship is one of the hardest things to do. I remember being chained to a relationship I didn’t want, yet no matter how many times I broke up with him or refused to talk to him, it never made those attachment feelings go away. Fear keeps us stuck in these relationships, and it’s where I lived for a long time. I felt a total loss of control over myself and my relationship, like I couldn’t get a handle on either. Fear of commitment showed up too, as it often does. Attached relationships are perfect for those of us who don’t want to commit to ourselves because we never have to. I couldn’t see how much I was settling because I was more concerned with the safety of the familiar. I unconsciously hoped he would rescue me from the empty space inside, and I held onto that, waiting. It’s an illusion that keeps us stuck, not sure we’re ready to leave our emotionally comfortable, yet painful place. Because what if one day things magically change… While deciding you truly WANT a healthy relationship is the first step, the next step isn’t necessarily letting go of your attached relationship. Sometimes we do this prematurely and jump right into another one because we don’t take the time to learn. Check in with your feelings, notice your reactions, see what triggers your partner hits and where they come from. It’s also important to honor the dysfunctional space you’re in without beating yourself up. You CAN have a healthy, happy relationship. But you have to truly want it. Do you? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/23/202142 minutes, 33 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: What’s REALLY Going On?

The people in your life have heard you complain about the same problem over and over. It’s your relationship or your job or your money issues—whatever it is, you’re a victim. It’s someone else’s fault. You say you want to solve the problem, but you won’t “go there.” If someone tries to dig a little deeper to get to the root of it (a friend, a therapist, a coach, a partner), you get defensive. You’d rather steer the conversation away from anything emotional and focus on the problem you THINK is the real problem. So what’s really going on? Something much deeper. Something attached to fear, disappointment, shame or some other ugly emotion that’s too hard to look at. Instead, you double-down on trying to solve the surface problem over and over. But it doesn’t budge. You’re not actually solving anything. This week’s podcast is about how we bury our problems so deep, we end up hiding them from ourselves. If you’re beating your head against the wall, trying to solve a problem that won’t go away, stop. Open yourself to the possibility of something deeper going on—something you don’t want to look at. When you keep trying to control the conversation to avoid what’s going on inside, you stay exactly where you are. Want the problem to go away? Start looking at what’s REALLY going on. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/16/202135 minutes, 26 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Know What You’re Thinking, So Why Ask?

Does this conversation sound familiar to you? “So-and-so is mad at me.” “Oh really, did she say she was mad at you?” “No, I can just tell.” Or what about this one? “So-and-so doesn’t want to hang out anymore.” “Oh really, why do you think that?” “Because he found someone else to spend time with so he doesn’t need me anymore.” Ah, assuming. You get to feel self-righteous by making someone else the bad guy while you’re the victim who did nothing wrong. It’s an excuse not to communicate. When you create a story about what someone else is thinking or feeling, it keeps you insulated from all those “bad people.” Instead of asking questions or seeking the truth, you drive a wedge between you and the other person. It positions you as the suffering victim with them as the perpetrator, which means you have no power. In this episode I’ll show you why this is so damaging to relationships (you’ll never get close to someone this way), and how to catch yourself making up these stories. Because when you pay attention and catch yourself, you have a choice. You can take responsibility for your thoughts and seek the truth instead of assuming you know what’s going on with someone else. You can choose open communication that connects you to someone instead of made-up stories that create distance. Do you really want to make decisions based on assumptions that may not have a kernel of truth? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/9/202125 minutes, 36 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Joel Primus

Joel Primus is an author, speaker, filmmaker and serial entrepreneur. His first success, however, was as a runner, representing Canada at the World Youth Games. His identity as a runner was everything—then he blew up his achilles and that life was over. Trying to fill a void, he hitchhiked across Canada to make a movie—until his camera fell off a cliff. Third time’s a charm? While traveling in Peru, Joel found underwear that was so much better than anything he had worn before. His company Naked was born. Over the course of the next decade, Joel put everything into growing Naked. He raised $10 million and eventually went public, but he also suffered from terrible anxiety and depression. His marriage was on the brink. He knew he needed to make sweeping changes because, as it turned out, he never really stopped running. ”The journey begins with vulnerability. When we don’t allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we don’t allow ourselves to do the work.” –Joel Primus Once Joel stood still and focused on his inner journey, he noticed the same negative belief surfacing: I’m not good enough; I’m not worthy. He realized it framed his decision-making, and it started with his parents’ divorce. So he began questioning his choices, and why he cared what other people thought. As his self-awareness grew, his anxiety and depression lessened their grip. He reconnected with his wife. Listen to my inspiring conversation with Joel as he shares his path to letting go, and the opportunities that have come as a result. He reminds us that everything starts to unfold when you let go of the outcome. Today Joel lives on a farm with his wife and two daughters. His book “Getting Naked” was released in January 2021. Learn more about Joel at: Website: https://joelprimus.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/joel.primus/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Primusblog Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/3/202149 minutes, 39 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Need To Keep My Anxiety a Secret From My Mate

Anxiety is painful enough, but hiding it from your mate makes it even worse. Maybe you worry about where they are, or when they’re going to call, or why they ignored you. But instead of expressing that, you hide behind a façade of “everything’s just fine.” You’re afraid if your partner knew about these thoughts, he/she might freak out. Maybe you have even shown concern in the past, but he/she felt you didn’t trust them so you shut it down. How often have you asked yourself, “What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just be ok with the way things are?!” It’s scary and lonely to feel you have nowhere to turn. And that your feelings are unacceptable. As a kid, if you were shamed for how you felt or told you were too sensitive, you carried that over into adulthood. Now it creates problems in your relationships because you’re always holding back. In this week’s episode, learn to make friends with your anxiety and allow yourself to be what you fear. I’ll walk you through it. Anxiety won’t disappear overnight, but if you want to be connected to your partner instead of suffering in silence, you have to acknowledge what’s going on and work through your fears. Stop driving yourself crazy. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Holding it in hides it from no one. It makes you act weird. Let it blow, then let it go without blame. You deserve it! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
3/2/202130 minutes, 1 second
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Journey Of Attachment: Are We in a Relationship… or Just Dating?

You are hanging on by a thread. On the one hand, you have this amazing connection to someone. It feels almost unreal sometimes. On the other hand, you don’t see each other very often and you know he/she is probably dating other people. Seeing their profile all over dating apps is driving you crazy. BUT, he/she has been hurt in the past (or some other excuse), which makes getting into a relationship scary. You understand that and want to be patient because you see a potential future together. Part of you wants to confess your feelings, but you’re scared of pushing this person away. Meanwhile, you’re in anxiety hell. This is not a relationship—it’s a game. You try new strategies, but still end up losing. You may even be pissed at him/her for “doing this” to you, not realizing you’re here by choice. It’s a painful attachment you’re afraid of losing. So why do you prolong your suffering, settling for breadcrumbs from someone who is clearly not willing to commit? In this episode I’ll talk about this painful hell many insecurely attached people find themselves in, along with some hard truths to separate fantasy from reality. I’ll also share two important steps that will give you the strength to realize you can move on. But first, your desire to feel better has to be stronger than the pain you’re in. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/23/202123 minutes, 32 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Jessica Zweig

At 33 years old, Jessica Zweig had to ask her parents for $200 to pay her phone bill. Only a few years earlier she was living her “Sex in the City” life in Chicago, running a high-profile women’s lifestyle magazine. It was a sharp contrast to her uncool high school persona, proving to everyone she had finally arrived. But her business only looked successful from the outside; inside it was a financial mess. She could barely pay her employees and she suffered from chronic anxiety. A full-blown emotional breakdown soon followed, and in the midst of it she looked down at the tattoo on her wrist that read “simply be." It was an aspiration she had never achieved. An inner voice pointed out she was totally out of alignment with herself, and it was time to leave her business. It took Jessica a full year and a lot of coaching to finally walk away from her company. Everyone around her was thriving, while she was full of shame and self-loathing. Her road back to herself involved a lot of therapy, spiritual journeys, self-work and self-responsibility, but she eventually created her own personal brand and started showing up as her authentic self… every day. Now she helps others identify their personal brand through her agency, SimplyBe. Listen in as Jessica shares the one question she urges everyone ask 3-5 important people in your life. “What’s so critical on the path to self-actualization is accountability and responsibility for the part you played.” –Jessica Zweig Jessica recently added “author” to her brand identity with her book, “Be: A No-Bullsh*t Guide to Increasing Your Self Worth and Net Worth by Simply Being Yourself.” She has been named Crain's Chicago's 2020 Most Notable Entrepreneurs, and one of Inc.’s Top Digital Marketer to Watch in 2017. Learn more about Jessica here: Website: https://www.jessicazweig.com/ Agency: https://www.simplybeagency.com/ Book: https://www.amazon.com/Be-No-Bullsh-Increasing-Simply-Yourself/dp/1683646991/ref=sr_1_1?crid=26V7CFZMGCBGI&dchild=1&keywords=jessica+zweig&qid=1607016085&sprefix=jessica+zweig%2Caps%2C284&sr=8-1 Instagram: @jessicazweig Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/17/202131 minutes, 4 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Communication Isn’t About Winning

Someone says something to piss you off. In your head you think, “What a jerk!” In that moment, when you’re triggered, you can’t see how you’re responsible for your reaction (not the person who triggered you). You can’t see how you’re responsible for your choice to either strike back or shut down in response. In your head it’s a zero-sum game with a winner and a loser. If you blame the other person, the point goes to you. If you accept what they say, they have the upper hand. There is no space for communication based in grace, love or self-responsibility. Communication goes awry when there is defensiveness and a reluctance to accept responsibility. A fear of loss is also at play. Fighting dirty might feel good in the moment, but guilt and shame often follow, leading you to feel even worse. You ALWAYS have a choice in how you respond and what you say. In this week’s episode, we’ll look at how to change your communication goals from being the winner (which creates distance) to being vulnerable (which brings people closer). It’s a game-changer. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Communication can be challenging when you fear loss, but the thing you keep losing is yourself. Be open, honest and courageous—the rewards will come. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/16/202122 minutes, 28 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I’m an Ogre! Creating What You Focus On

You create whatever you focus on. If someone says, “Think about anything but a pink elephant,” what comes to mind? A pink elephant, of course. So why do you focus on your “flaws” or what you perceive to be negative about yourself? By feeding into what you don’t do well or don’t like about yourself, you constantly react to it… and just create more of it. If you believe you’re an ogre, you’ll constantly try to prove you’re not one. It all stems from childhood limitations and the stories you told yourself: Because I’m an ogre I’ll never amount to anything in life. Because I’m an ogre I’ll never be worthy of love. You don’t want this to be true so you work very hard to convince other people (and yourself) otherwise. You try to control their perception of you. But of course, by focusing on NOT being an ogre, you just perpetuate that story. In this week’s podcast I invite you to explore your own limiting stories and how you react to them. Where do they come from? Why do they exist? How do you keep them alive in your daily life? Once you’re aware of your negative story, and how you react to it, you can stop creating it. The problem isn’t being an ogre—we all are at times. The problem is disowning that part of yourself and trying to prove you’re not one. If you accept the ogre inside and stop focusing on it, it will sit quietly and leave you alone. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) You convey a medley of confusion by trying to control perceptions. Instead, let go, be aware and align with your true self. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/9/202127 minutes, 12 seconds
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What is a Toxic Relationship?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of healing, toxic relationships, and how to not stop yourself from feeling your feelings. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/5/202117 minutes, 46 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Feeling Good Is a Choice

What do you think you need to finally feel good? Do you believe you haven’t earned it yet? Haven’t suffered enough? Waiting for permission or a sign from the Universe? You may think feeling good (happy, content, joyful) is something bestowed upon you after you prove you deserve it. Once you hit that salary milestone or kiss 100 frogs. But when you wait for something outside of you, you give up your birthright to feel good. Yes, feeling good is a birthright. And it’s a choice that is always available to you. That means misery and struggle are also a choice, and they don’t go away with wishful thinking. Feeling good requires you to allow those uncomfortable emotions you’re sitting in; to accept everything as it is. It’s not about pretending everything is perfect. You can choose to be with all your feelings, or constantly beat yourself up trying to get to a false nirvana. When you no longer try to shield yourself from negative feelings, you can just be. Listen to this week’s podcast where I help you identify your obstacles to feeling good, and how to feel your way through it. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Feeling good is a choice, even if it is uncomfortable. Start small and smell the flowers, eat the dessert, smile at the stranger and open your heart. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
2/2/202121 minutes, 46 seconds
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Emotional Hunger Vs. Love

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of emotional hunger, letting go of a relationship, and patterns in relationships. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/29/202121 minutes, 11 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Your Sense of Lack is What Keeps You Struggling

People who have attachment issues aren’t just attached to other people… they are also attached to ideas. They are attached to how they are seen by others, and how they want things to look. This narrow window of possibility is born from lack—that feeling there is not enough. That THEY as humans are not enough. And if they don’t get what they want, the answer is to work harder for their piece of the pie. The focus is on the negative: what’s missing or not enough or unlikely to work out because of X,Y and Z. And yep, you guessed it, control plays a major role in this limited outlook. We actually create this sense of lack and scarcity by believing there is only one way to do something, so we struggle to make it happen. And then what? If you do achieve your goal, are you happy? Is it actually what you want? Probably not because the lack is still inside you. There is a lack of self-love, lack of self-worth, lack of trust in yourself. That doesn’t go away when you get the thing you’ve been struggling so hard to get. In this week’s podcast I’ll share how I let go of struggle, stopped leading from fear and opened myself to abundance. It really is magical what you can create when you let go and ALLOW. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/26/202124 minutes, 55 seconds
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How Do I Get Out of a Yo-Yo Relationship?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of yo-yo relationships, emotional commitment, and codependency. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/22/202121 minutes, 57 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Tracy Litt

Have you designed a conditional happiness model for yourself? Tracy Litt was 24 when she lost her mom, and 28 when she became an unemployed single mom. If life looks like a heart monitor, those were the two biggest dips in her life. But the second dip was the one that catapulted her out because her higher self finally spoke up. It told her crying self to get up and wipe her face; she had a whole life to create for her and her daughter. Tracy listened. “We all have the same exact depth and breadth of inner power. We all have a higher version of ourselves.” –Tracy Litt That voice spoke to Tracy again after 12 successful years in the corporate world. It said, “This isn’t it. You’re meant for something huge. Get up and figure it out.” The next chapter of her life started with a conscious, intentional decision. She started to pay attention to herself, knowing something had to shift on the inside. When she found coaching, she leaned in. Today her work has served thousands of women across the globe and has been featured in TEDx, Entrepreneur, FastCompany, Thrive Global, and Inc.com. She is the creator of “The Choice Method”: a powerful methodology that allows her clients to elevate happiness, prosperity, and fulfillment with ease. Listen to my powerful conversation with Tracy where she shares the question she asks herself every single day to connect with her higher self. It works 100% of the time. You can access her free 30-minute training video at feelthepowerofcalm.com, and find her at: Website: https://www.thelittfactor.com/ Facebook:@thelittfactor Instagram: @thelittfactor Youtube: @thelittfactor Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/20/202146 minutes, 19 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Why Do We Believe We Are Meant To Be Rescued?

You’re always hoping your next partner will be different; better. But what does that boil down to? What are you truly looking for? If you’re honest with yourself, you might be looking for someone to rescue you because deep down you want to be taken care of. You want someone to fill the emptiness you feel inside. It goes back to childhood, and it keeps intimacy at a distance because you’re waiting for something that won’t ever happen. If you grew up in a household with an Avoidant, vulnerability was scary and unwelcomed, but shame and blame were plentiful. No one took responsibility for their actions. That’s where your fantasies of being rescued were probably born. Avoidance creates a sense of lack, which you believe can only be filled by another person. But how does it make sense for someone to put all of their attention on you while you put zero attention on yourself? It doesn’t. And that crazy expectation leads to a lot of pain. Listen to this week’s episode where I talk about the rescue fantasy: how to acknowledge it, understand it and stop perpetuating it. Because that proverbial white knight who will save you from your current existence isn't coming. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/19/202124 minutes, 43 seconds
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How Can I Let Go of My Fantasy Situation?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of long friendships ending, letting go of fantasy situations, asexuality. Want to submit a question? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/15/202124 minutes, 38 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I’m Tired of Being Single, but I Don’t Want To Settle

You want to meet someone, but it feels like it’s never gonna happen. Where IS he/she already? When will my person finally show up? When is it my turn? People call you picky, but you’re just waiting for the right one. Why should you settle? The truth is, you will never find the perfect person. Humans are flawed, and having impossible standards is what keeps you single. Those standards aren’t there to avoid “settling.” They are about fear. Fear of being seen, fear of being rejected, fear of choosing the wrong person. Have you ever rejected someone because they were too nice or attentive, thinking something must be wrong with them? Your singlehood is not about everything that’s wrong with others—it’s about you. It’s about where you are closed off and don’t accept yourself. Until you can handle being fully seen, you will avoid a relationship. The cost of rejection is too high. In this week’s podcast you’ll learn more about what keeps you single, and how to approach dating differently. It starts with curiosity and my five-minute rule. Because there is no magical person who will sweep you off your feet and wipe away your insecurities. If you’re afraid of settling, ask yourself why you’re settling for singlehood right now? Staying where you are is a choice. Open yourself up to a different one. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/12/202125 minutes, 18 seconds
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How Does Attachment Relate to Childhood Emotional Neglect?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of childhood emotional neglect, thoughts of hurting yourself, and your programming being tested by life. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/8/202122 minutes, 5 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Laurel Hill

“Human Design is basically a map of who we came here to be; a blueprint of who we are.” --Laurel Hill Laurel Hill built a successful jewelry business in her 20s that she both loved and was skilled at—the perfect combination. It started organically and served her well for nearly a decade… until burnout set in. Her physical and mental health started to suffer, as did her relationship. How could the business she loved and envisioned for her future no longer be “it” for her? During this time of struggle Laurel heard about Human Design and started to investigate. The more she learned about herself and her aura (Projector), the more she realized how far she had strayed from her center. This allowed her to slowly let go of her jewelry business and transition to work in Human Design, which was not at all easy. Listen as Laurel shares more about Human Design, and why she needed to “kill her ego” to become the person she was designed to be. Today Laurel is an international Human Design guide, drawing from her knowledge of Gene Keys, NLP, Kundalini Yoga, Shadow Work, Embodiment and Reiki to provide holistic Self-Realization readings and guidance. Her clients are at a crossroads in life, or simply want to connect with their inner spark versus the heaviness of how life is “supposed to” look. Laurel helps people align with their own energy, release old conditioning and step into who they are. Learn more about Laurel at: https://thesouthernoracle.co/ Instagram: @laurelhillworkshop Facebook: @laurelhillworkshop Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/6/202137 minutes, 16 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Know My Issues, So Why Am I’m Still Stuck?

You’re a smart cookie and have developed a level of self-awareness from books, podcasts, courses, therapy, etc. Maybe you even share these discoveries with others, feeling enlightened as you recite your issues. You talk about how you always do this one thing on a date to ruin things, or your recurring pattern of being a hostage in your relationships. You know all of this and yet… nothing changes. With all of this self-awareness, why is life not cooperating? Why are you still stuck repeating the same patterns? This is what living in your head looks like. You can collect all the information you want, but knowing your sh*t is not the same as doing something about it. In fact, it can lead to feelings of defeat because you know what you’re doing “wrong,” yet you’re unable to change it. This cycle often starts with anger, then moves to frustration, spirals down to depression and ends with hopelessness. Not fun. You beat yourself up because you can see what’s happening, but you can’t get to the other side. In this episode I’ll talk about the critical step you’re missing (ACTION), and the common obstacles to taking it (fear, control, resistance, trust, collecting evidence). Life can’t be figured out in your head, and change isn’t at the end of your next book. Patterns break when you build trust in yourself, let go of control and have new experiences… even if you don’t know where they will lead. Don’t live your life on the sidelines as a passive observer. Participate. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Stop thinking and listening to your same old stories. Let your heart lead without conditions and DO what you have not yet done. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/5/202122 minutes, 20 seconds
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What Questions Should I Ask to Get in Touch With My Feelings?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of someone cutting you off, our conditioning, and getting in touch with your feelings. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
1/1/202121 minutes, 42 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: I’m the Black Sheep of My Family, Afraid of Being Kicked Out

Family relationships are tricky—especially with parents. And those primary relationships set the foundation for future relationships. So what happens when you feel like you have to walk a tightrope to keep those people loving you? When you feel like you’re one sentence away from being disowned? When you’re blamed for your mother’s or father’s or sibling’s actions, believing YOU caused them because you’re a bad apple? Well, it results in a lot of walking on eggshells, and often a waterfall of shame and guilt for simply being you. You may whine and complain, make a joke of it, or distance yourself from the toxic family member to cope. It’s heavy baggage that you probably carry into other relationships… tip toeing around and playing small so you won’t be discovered as the black sheep you believe you are. The thing is, NOTHING you say or do will change the person you walk this tightrope with. You can talk until you’re blue in the face to convince them you’re not in the wrong or they misunderstood, but it won’t matter because it’s not about you. It’s about them. Listen to this week’s episode where I talk about this painful family dynamic and how to deal with it. Once again my mother takes center stage, challenging me to focus on the only thing I truly have control over: me. WISDOM NUGGET (#wisdomnugget) Being you is not a prison sentence. To accept all of you, stop being your own worst critic and become your own fabulous cheerleader! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/29/202025 minutes, 58 seconds
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I’m Figuring Out What Makes Me Happy, but I’m Scared of What Other People Might Think

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of telling who’s more into who in a relationship, letting others’ opinions hold you back, and helping an avoidant. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/25/202022 minutes, 34 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Sue Hay

Sue was on a trajectory familiar to many of us—go to school and get a corporate job. She worked her way up in the design and branding field, ultimately managing a team of five people. She was “successful” but also busy, traveling too much, eating horribly and stressed out. This compounded over the years, resulting in stomach issues and back pain. Doctor’s couldn’t find the cause, so Sue started researching health and nutrition. Down the rabbit hole she went! She stuck with her job, but after changing her diet, her conditions disappeared. This moment of "wow" set her off on a new trajectory—if she could heal herself, she could help others do the same. “If you’re caught in that diet loop, it’s gotta be a mindset change first. You’ve gotta decide on healthy.” –Sue Hay Sue quit her job, retrained in nutrition and started Thrive magazine as a way to educate people about nutrition while cutting through the confusion. But health, she suggests, is more than just what you’re eating. It also includes where you spend your time, how you manage your stress and what your mindset is. People usually choose long-term health over diet fads when they’ve hit rock bottom. Listen to Sue share her own dietary transformation, and what’s important for each person to keep in mind on their quest to improve their overall health and wellbeing. Learn more about Sue and Thrive: Twitter: @thrivefeelalive Facebook: @thrivefeelalive Instagram: @thrivemagazine Magazine website:www.thrive-magazine.co.uk Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/23/202028 minutes, 15 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Going Down the Rabbit Hole

Life was feeling ok until the floor fell out from under you. Your mom called you selfish on the phone yesterday and your friend thought you were rude when you were trying to be funny. Then the person you’re dating suddenly canceled on you with no explanation. What gives? Why is everything suddenly turning to sh*t? This sequence of events triggers your feelings of unworthiness, making you want to crawl into a hole and dissolve into a million pieces. You’re sad and feel victimized. Maybe everyone hates you and you should re-evaluate the value you contribute in all areas of your life. You want someone to rescue you because when you go down the rabbit hole, it can feel impossible to climb out. But of course you have to get yourself out, and actually, come to think of it, it’s rather comfortable down there. It’s a way of escaping life. But what kind of life IS that? Not a very functional one. In this week’s podcast I’ll talk about what to do when you find yourself in this dark place… and no, it is not simply “climb out.” There are important questions to ask so you can stop yourself from further descent, and eventually avoid spiraling in the future. It’s not a fun place, but accepting where you are and using it as an opportunity for growth can turn a dark cloud into a shining light. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) As much as the rabbit hole is comfortable and familiar, climb through the inertia and speak your truth to the world. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/22/202021 minutes, 4 seconds
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I'm Being Triggered by My Partner... Am I Wrong?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of wanting to six a relationship with couples therapy, dealing with a partner living in fear and, getting triggered by your partner. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/18/202018 minutes, 43 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I want it so badly! Or do I?

We create vision boards, write letters, throw pennies in a fountain, set goals, pray and ask the Universe for what we want. Through hard work and determination, we will it into existence… whether it’s a vacation home in Tuscany, the corner office or a picture-perfect family with 2.5 children and a dog named Rover. Often, however, it isn’t the “thing” you actually want. It’s what it represents; the fantasy it fulfills; how it looks from the outside. So when you do get what you “want,” it’s kind of a dud. Then you set your sights on a bigger villa, another promotion, or even a different partner. But what you’re really looking for is nowhere to be found because you don’t know what that is. You just keep filling the hole. When will you stop forcing and start asking yourself why these things don’t deliver the happiness you seek? In this episode you’ll learn how to connect with your deeper motivation, which is key to understanding what you really want (vs. what you THINK you want). Security, health, love and acceptance all play a role. Through this exploration you may discover you’ve been chasing a red herring, and what you truly want is packaged in a totally different wrapper. Force and fantasy won’t give you what you want. Clarity, trust and letting go of expectations will. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Love yourself and connect there. Feel it and then choose—what do I want? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/15/202022 minutes, 33 seconds
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How Do I Stop Recreating My Childhood

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of recreating your childhood, aversion to intimacy, and not reciprocating someone's feelings. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/11/202025 minutes, 13 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lindsey Wilson

“Wellness is a constant evolution; that constant connecting and turning inward and listening to ourselves.” –Lindsey Wilson Lindsey Wilson is the founder of OWL Venice, a Southern California-based wellness company specializing in organic products for digestive health. Although her mother was a dietician and role model for healthy living, Lindsey resisted it growing up, especially in college where she made poor food choices. Then, in 2010, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and Lindsey realized she needed to make some dietary changes. If someone as healthy as her mom was susceptible to cancer—what did that mean for her? Lindsey also learned of her own kidney and GI issues, so she experimented with super foods, juice cleanses and other diets. Unfortunately her new-found interest made her feel isolated from her music industry community in Chicago, so she headed to an area better suited to her passion: Los Angeles. Through a lot of research and experimentation, Lindsey’s diet evolved, but she discovered a few staples that always nourished her body—bone broth and probiotics. She became more attuned to what her body was telling her, letting that guide her choices. She learned that when she felt like eating, it wasn’t always about hunger. In this episode Lindsey talks about nourishment and the benefits of an alkaline body, including how to guard against disease. She even has a simple lemon test you can do each morning to see how acidic/alkaline your body is! Today Lindsey runs a store front in Venice, CA where she sells her signature Bone Broth Elixirs and Reset Cleanse, among other wellness products like skincare and supplements. She also offers these products online at owlvenice.com. You can learn more about Lindsay and OWL below: OWL's Website: www.owlvenice.com OWL's Instagram: www.instagram.com/owlvenice Lindsey's Instagram: www.instagram.com/lindseyowl Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/9/202031 minutes, 30 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Put Down Your Phone!

No matter how digitally connected we are, loneliness is rampant. Our phones (and computers, tablets, TVs, etc.) are master distraction devices. How often do you scroll through your phone while sitting across from another human? Or while on a Zoom call? Or while on your computer with the TV buzzing in the background? What happened to focusing on one thing or one person with our undivided attention? If your focus is scattered and you are half in/half out, you’re not really anywhere. You feel disconnected. This creates a vicious cycle of needing attention or something to make you feel less lonely, which you seek through these connection tools, only to have your energy sucked dry by not being present. Distraction becomes a form of self-containment, causing loneliness. In this week’s episode we’ll look at why we use technology to distract ourselves, and the cost to our emotional health. We’ll also explore what to do when feeling compelled to pick up your phone. Much of this behavior is on autopilot, so simply becoming aware of how often you grab a device or mindlessly scroll can be eye-opening. When you reduce the distractions and make a conscious effort to be present, you feel more connected to yourself. And when you’re talking with someone, giving them your full attention, you’ll feel a lot less lonely because you’re in the moment together, getting the attention and connection you crave. So put down your phone and be here. Now. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) Crave simplicity. The more you allow it, and live it, the better you feel. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/8/202013 minutes, 44 seconds
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How Can I Tell When to Stay or When to Go

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing yourself, deciding how you want to feel, how to tell when to stay or when to go. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/4/202020 minutes, 45 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Is Your Love Life a Conspiracy Theory?

You think it’s fate. The “meant-to-be-together” signs are there, and you can’t wait to live happily ever after. But then the relationship you were betting on falls apart or evaporates into thin air. Why is the universe screwing you over AGAIN? You were doing everything right, believing you were being led in the right direction. The universe must be out to get you, wanting you to suffer. Maybe it’s seeking revenge for something horrible you did. Or it sees your fatal flaw and is saving you from revealing it. It is conspiring against your happiness. Just like the other conspiracy theories out there, yours doesn’t hold much weight in reality. You think your doomed love life is happening TO you, not BECAUSE of you. But guess what? The universe isn’t controlling your love life… you are. Instead of looking at the universe as the enemy, look at how you are the one conspiring against yourself. How are you sabotaging your relationships? If you want to attract healthier partners, look at who you currently attract and why. Is it coming from a place of lack? Learn more about why you attract the people you do in today’s episode, and how you can use that awareness to change course. As long as you blame the universe for conspiring against you, it will keep happening… because you are actually creating it. You have the power to shine a light on the truth and turn things around. I’ll show you how. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) You can have it all. Stop and look at your expectations, and how you are the one conspiring against you. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
12/1/202018 minutes, 5 seconds
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We Can Never Become What Someone Wants Us to Be for Very Long

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dealing with a dismissive person, having a crush on a stranger, and worrying about screwing up a new relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/27/202018 minutes, 53 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Bela Gandhi

Bela Gandhi was hit with her matchmaking intuition when she was a senior in college. While chatting with a guy at a party, she experienced a very strong feeling and blurted out, “You’re going to marry my roommate.” She set them up, and today they are married with three kids. But Bela’s path took a turn before she parlayed her dating intuition into a career. Using her degrees in Finance and German, Bela worked for 12 years as an executive at her family’s multinational corporation. She was successful, but her heart started tugging at her to start her own business. Three years of anxiety and fear of failure ensued before Bela started the Smart Dating Academy in 2009. Her first order of business was translating her matchmaking intuition into a process—the same process she used to meet her husband (they have been married more than 20 years and have two kids). “If you find yourself with heavy butterflies in your stomach, it’s your gut telling you to get the hell out!” –Bela Gandhi What’s Bela’s dating philosophy? It’s a lot like mine! A nice-but-not-great first date is preferable to fireworks. She believes we’ve been “Hollywood-ed” into thinking fireworks are what we should look for. That’s a mistake. “Love is a slow burn,” says Bela. She also dismisses the fallacy we should instinctively know how to date. People hire nutritionists, trainers, business coaches, therapists, etc.… why not hire a dating expert? I couldn’t agree more. Tune in to my conversation with Bela to learn the first question she asks clients (something you can ask yourself), and how to know if you are ready to date. Relationship intuition meets business training: it's a match made in heaven. Learn more about Bela and her Smart Dating Academy at: Instagram - @smartdatingacademy Facebook - @smartdatingacademy Twitter - @BelaGandhiLove Website - https://www.smartdatingacademy.com/ Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/25/202037 minutes, 29 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Design a Real Fairy Tale

Have you ever tried to manufacture a fairy tale? In it, you dream of being rescued by your prince or princess. It’s a fantasy love story that you play out in real life, except he/she is more like a villain in a thriller novel or the antagonist of a dark comedy. But no matter… you’ll endure the pain you’re in while telling yourself you’re living in a fairy tale. Playing the victim feels safe and comforting, but of course you don’t really see your character as a victim because your need to cling to a fantasy is stronger than your willingness to see reality. Fantasies are created when you can’t handle your own feelings of disappointment, shame, rejection, etc. It’s a way of avoiding reality, but it comes at a price: pain. And it is a pain you are choosing. You may not even notice, however, because you have grown accustomed to it. In this week’s episode you’ll learn how to be your own rescuer so you can rewrite your story into something that matches reality. And guess what? You can still have your happy ending! A REAL happy ending, not a manufactured one. Wisdom Nugget (#wisdomnugget) You are better than where you are. Listen for the voice inside who knows you are the hero or heroine… and write that story! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/24/202022 minutes, 56 seconds
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I Feel Lost Without My Partner... It's Like I Don't Even Know Myself

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like an outcast, feeling lost without your partner, and self-responsibility. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/20/202018 minutes, 28 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: If I’m Perfect, You Won’t Leave

How often do your edit yourself in a relationship so you won’t be kicked to the curb? You’re afraid of asking for what you need, or expressing how you feel because you’re afraid it will be too much to handle. You imagine your mate looking at you like a crazy person, then turning around and leaving. Or, if they stay, you think they will totally shut down and you will feel alone. If you have found yourself in this situation, why are you so focused on the other person’s reaction, trying to anticipate what they might do, rather than looking inside at your own feelings? Why does he/she matter more than you do? When you walk on eggshells and accept breadcrumbs for fear of being abandoned, you are disowning parts of yourself. Anger and resentment often build up because your “perfect” behavior isn’t being recognized and appreciated. It’s like looking for water in a desert; you will never find a healthy relationship this way. In this episode, we’ll look at these self-defeating actions and why you choose them instead of honoring and valuing yourself. It comes from a place of fear, so the first step is understanding what is going on and why you are allowing it to happen—without judgment. This is about acceptance and stopping the struggle so you can do the deeper work of valuing yourself and speaking your truth… no matter what the other person does. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/17/202022 minutes, 40 seconds
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I’m Putting in a Lot of Work Into My Relationship but My Partner Isn’t

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of detaching from a long-distance relationship, onesided relationships, and oversharing. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/13/202017 minutes, 27 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Monica Berg

Monica Berg was a precocious kid, having tea parties with God at the age of three. As she grew up, she lost that spiritual connection, until she found the kabbalah at age 17 and reconnected with that part of herself. She saw people around her chasing happiness and not finding it, so she looked to the kabbalah for guidance down a different path. On her journey, Monica discovered the importance of emotions, and how they are here to tell us something about ourselves. Emotions are also a form of energy that can be transformed into strength, which she drew upon during the most challenging events in her life: an uncle being diagnosed with schizophrenia, an eating disorder, and a son with Down’s Syndrome. The day she looked in the mirror and saw the skeleton she had become, realizing what she had done to herself, Monica started journaling about her shame and disappointment. Being kind to herself followed. When her son was born, she decided to lean all the way into embracing the unknown. She chose a proactive life instead of a reactive one, believing she alone was responsible for the quality of her life. Today, this self-proclaimed “change junkie” is an international speaker, spiritual thought leader and author of two books. She draws from the kabbalah and her personal experiences to remind us of our extraordinary potential… and pushes us onward. “Appreciate the opposition. It’s a gift.” --Monica Berg You can learn more about Monica at: Website: https://rethinklife.today/ Instagram: @monicaberg74 Facebook: @monicaberg74 Twitter: @monicaberg74 Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/11/202037 minutes, 37 seconds
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Journey of Attachment: Never Beg to be Loved (REBROADCAST)

This podcast title came from a meme that really resonated with me, “Never beg to be loved.” While it may not sound like something you would do, I see it quite often in insecurely attached relationships (it never happens in healthy relationships). Begging to be loved results from feeling misunderstood or not properly seen, and being so invested in the relationship that you need your partner to be in the same place you are. Your world revolves around him/her, and you’re terrified of not finding that again with someone else. The feeling is desperate and painful; like you might die if your partner leaves. And on top of your fear of loss is a big ol’ layer of shame. If anyone knew how you were acting in order to keep your partner, you would die all over again. This also happens a lot with break-ups. Your partner says it’s over, which sends you into a tail spin. You beg him/her to stay because when you look at the future, all you see is pain. The only thing you believe will ease that pain is to convince your partner it’s a mistake, and you’ll do whatever it takes to demonstrate how awesome and amazing you are. If you’ve ever been on the other side of this, you know it doesn’t matter what your partner says or does. When you’re done, you’re done. When you beg to be loved, it comes from an attached place of being chosen rather than choosing—a powerless position. Let me tell you something: there is NOTHING so flawed about you that you need to beg someone to love you. Nothing. Zilch. Believing that on an emotional level, however, can be challenging because your negative beliefs show up telling you you’re not good enough, not worthy of love, etc. So instead of fighting it, ride that emotional wave and accept where you are. Accept the shame and really FEEL it. Then, look deeper at what you’re afraid of losing. What do you think you can only get from this one person? Whatever that is, give it to yourself. When you’re filled up emotionally, you will never have to beg to be loved; that love will already exist inside. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/10/202018 minutes, 48 seconds
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My New Relationship Is Awesome... But I'm Feeling So Anxious!

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of judging family for their actions, having anxiety in a new relationship, and feeling insecure when your partner meets friends. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/6/202021 minutes, 58 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: But I’m Too Much!

I used to dim my light in relationships, believing I was too much: too strong, too masculine, too overbearing, too intimidating. It all went back to childhood, as these negative beliefs usually do. Instead of being myself, I tried to exude who I thought I needed to be. Not too much, not too little… jussssst right. Like Goldilocks. What an exhausting dance, not to mention inauthentic. Even with all that effort, I never did feel like I could get it right. But the point isn’t to get it “right.” The point is to connect with someone who thinks you are awesome exactly as you are. Your perceived flaws or “too muchness” is what someone else will be drawn to. Overcompensating for what you fear is too much (or even too little) stems from a fear of rejection. And it’s old. If your mom or dad used to say, “No one will like you if you do X,” or “You’re too much—who will ever be able to handle that?” it sticks with you. It can erode your sense of value so you start to believe that who you are is unlovable. But walking on eggshells does not equal true love. It is a barrier to intimacy and connection. So how do you live into your true self? That’s the topic of this week’s episode where I’ll challenge you to look at what you hold back from doing or saying. Once you identify where you aren’t being your authentic self, you can work on accepting those parts of yourself. Then, instead of contorting yourself into a not-too-much/not-too-little mold, you’ll let your light shine brightly and attract someone who falls in love with THAT! Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
11/3/202027 minutes, 27 seconds
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Why Do You Keep Choosing Against Yourself?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of fear of loss, the drama triangle, and choosing against yourself. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/30/202021 minutes, 32 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans had done a lot of personal development work, believing she had things figured out. It wasn’t until she married a narcissist, and had a subsequent psychotic break, that she was confronted with everything she hadn’t healed within herself. She thought he was the love of her life when they met—his delightful qualities making up for the lies, violence and other red flags she dismissed as outliers. Eventually, this smart, self-aware woman was hooked. He was her heroin addiction, and after about five years of marriage, she hit bottom. Suicidal and weighing less than 80 lbs., Melanie suffered a psychotic adrenal breakdown that she was told she would never fully recover from. Doctors said she would need three anti-psychotic drugs just to function. “You can’t think your way out of extreme trauma.” –Melanie Tonia Evans In this episode of “Moving On,” you’ll learn about the blinding clarity Melanie experienced shortly after her breakdown, where she saw her husband as a mirror for everything she hadn’t healed. She finally acknowledged her inner self and realized none of it was about him. She could heal herself, but she had to do it from the inside. Melanie never took those anti-psychotic drugs, and her revolutionary recovery process led to the creation of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP), which she runs today. Melanie’s work has touched the lives of over 15 million people from more than 100 countries, and her abuse recovery system is recommended by doctors, psychologists, therapists and renowned relationship experts from all over the world. You can find Melanie at: melanietoniaevans.com Instagram - @MelanieToniaEvans Facebook - @MelToniaEvans YouTube - youtube.com/user/MelanieToniaEvans Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/28/202041 minutes, 20 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Change Is Not Wrong or Bad Just Because You Don’t Like It

Change is hard no matter how you look at it, but your perception of change adds another layer. This often happens when you complain about someone, believing they need to do things differently. “Why do they always do X?!” or “Why don’t they stop doing X?” There is no room for them to be themselves and make their own choices. It can also happen the other way. Maybe someone in your life changed and you don’t like it. You swear they are wrong or bad, and you want them to go back to the way they were. In your mind, your perception is the only way. You can’t let go or accept anything different. But why do you personalize someone else’s actions, and feel the need to judge them? When you label someone’s lack of change (or their new way of doing things) as good or bad, you’re attaching your own story to it. You are not responsible for someone else’s path, and you can’t control what they do or don’t do. Sure it can be frustrating when people don’t do what you want, but instead of shaming them for being “wrong,” turn the mirror on yourself. Why do their actions make you uncomfortable? Why do you have such a rigid view of right and wrong? What are YOU clinging to? And what do you get out of being judgmental and self-righteous? In this episode we will dig into these questions and more because the only person you can change is yourself. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/27/202035 minutes, 54 seconds
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Thinking Your Feelings vs. Feeling Your Feelings

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of toxic people, intellectualizing your feelings, developing a sense of belonging. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/23/202022 minutes, 9 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: What Was I Thinking?! How Regret Robs You of Happiness

How often do you look back on decisions and cringe? It could be a relationship where your partner cheated on you, but you decided to stay. Then they did it again and you still stayed! Or it could be how you used to punish people for not living up to your perfectionist expectations. Most of us have regrets of some sort. This is especially true if you are working on yourself because the person you are becoming is much more aware than the person you used to be. And that’s a good thing! Your past choices aren’t the problem—it’s how you berate yourself now for what you did back then. You may even wonder how someone who made so many bad decisions could ever deserve happiness. This is a prison you build for yourself, which only serves to rob you of happiness. When you look back with regret and catch yourself saying, “How could I be so stupid?” or “What was WRONG with me?” take a step back and ask yourself how you felt back then. How much did you value yourself? Regret usually comes from a place of lack—lack of self-confidence, self-love, self-awareness, etc. But remember, you’re not the same person now, so looking for reasons to regret your choices will tie you to punishment. In this episode, learn how to release your shame and regret by accepting who you were at the time and owning the decisions you made. It’s really ok! Instead of focusing on your mistakes, be proud of how far you’ve come. Because you wouldn’t cringe if you haven’t grown. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/20/202034 minutes, 17 seconds
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Can I Just Be a Healthy Single Person Forever?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of lifelong healthy relationships, love vs. attachment, and coping after a breakup. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/16/202019 minutes, 58 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Zahara Zimring

Zahara has lived many lifetimes in her life. She was an elite martial artist at a young age until she had to have a spinal fusion surgery at 13. Despite being told she wouldn't come back, she did. She trained until she could walk, waled until she could run, run until she could kick, and trained to go to the Olympics until she was in her 20s. A double kidney infection took her out of the sport, and she had to shed her identity as an elite martial artist. She became the executive director of marketing for one of the biggest baseball agencies when she was 25. She let that job go after she discovered her passion for facilitating groups and holding space for people. She's been helping people finding what they're passionate about since then. Here's what we talked about: -Her elite martial artist journey -Her many death processes she has experienced in her life -How she became addicted to prescription drugs -Finding something to be passionate about in the darkest moment -Struggling with co-dependency -Rebirthing from nothing Here's more about Zahara: Zahara Zimring is a transformational coach, liberation artist, evolutionary astrologer and ceremonialist. She is the creator of the Liberation Dojo, a signature experience that shatters limitation and offers a safe space to expand beyond fear-based behavior patterns, while activating dormant gifts and being held in community. Once an elite martial artist and Olympic hopeful who ultimately overcame a debilitating spinal fusion, Zahara is passionate about helping others turn trauma into triumph and wounding into warrior wisdom. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/14/202042 minutes, 5 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: It’s My Story and I’m Sticking to It!

Do you ever find yourself saying, “This always happens to me,” or “I never get what I want?” or “I have the worst luck!”? You think they are truths, but they are just stories you tell yourself. Then you go around collecting evidence to prove they’re true. Maybe your story is that relationships are hard work, riddled with drama (that used to be one of mine). So what happens? You choose relationships where you have to work hard in order to prove your story right, although you’re usually unaware you’re doing it… or why you’re doing it. The sad part about these stories is they are self-limiting because you unconsciously decide what is possible for yourself. But when you become aware of your stories, you can change them. Humans have a hard time being neutral. Our biases and perspective, based on our childhood and life experiences, shape how we view the world. But if you step into someone else’s shoes, you can imagine a different perspective. Maybe you know someone who is lucky—things tend to work out for them. They have probably chosen a very different story about themselves, and you can too. This episode is about flipping your perspective and challenging your stories so you stop collecting evidence that they’re true. Once you do that, you can write a new one. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/13/202031 minutes, 30 seconds
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I’m Surrounded by People but I Feel So Lonely

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of breaking the cycle of dating the same kind of people, scaring people off by wanting to go deep, and being surrounded by people but feeling lonely. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/9/202018 minutes, 25 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Help! I’m Dating an Avoidant!

Are you in a relationship or dating someone who’s more robot than human; someone who intellectualizes everything and doesn’t show any warmth? Or what about someone who makes big promises all the time and never, ever follows through? Or maybe you’re with someone who appears and disappears without warning, pretending it’s normal, making you think YOU are the crazy one? These are signs of an Avoidant relationship. If you find yourself in one, you have to ask yourself… why are you there? Is it because you mistake those butterfly feelings for real love? Those feelings actually stem from a fear of abandonment. You’re trying to get the other person to cooperate with you and see your value, fearing they will leave you at any moment. It’s chemistry mixed with anxiety. There is also zero consistency in these relationships. So if you’re in a situation like this, realize it’s not healthy and look at how you got here. You made the choice to be with an Avoidant… which means you are also an Avoidant. Or an Anxious Avoidant. Securely attached people do not, I repeat do NOT, engage with people like this. Nobody who loves and accepts themself will put up with someone who is inconsistent and won’t emotionally commit. Period. In this episode I’ll show you how to identify what blocks you from giving to yourself and showing yourself love. Because this lack of self-love is what leads you to seek it from people who are unable to give it. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/6/202042 minutes, 39 seconds
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Being Authentic From The Beginning in a Relationship

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of saying “I love you” vs. “Love you”, long-distance relationships turning cold, and being scared of being authentic from the beginning in a relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
10/2/202020 minutes, 44 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: The Frustrating Struggle of Avoidants

Being an Avoidant is a constant struggle… a struggle for internal peace, a struggle to be understood, a struggle to tear down emotional walls. I know all of this very well because I grew up as an insecurely attached Avoidant, so my journey has been to understand myself on an emotional level (not intellectual) and do the opposite of what my patterns dictated. This is tough because Avoidancy shows up in so many areas of life—avoiding bills, conversations, people in the supermarket, situations where you don’t have control, etc. It’s a coping mechanism developed in childhood as a way to feel safe, which ends up walling you off from the world in adulthood. It results in numbing, disassociating, distancing, loneliness and being overly-sensitive. Yeah, being an Avoidant is no damn fun. So if you’re an Avoidant, what do you do about it? In this episode I list a bunch of Avoidant characteristics because the first step is awareness. If a few of these resonate with you, you are probably somewhere on the Avoidant spectrum. This can actually be a comfort because you realize you aren’t a freak of nature—there are lots of Avoidants out there! It’s like discovering the island of misfit toys and jumping for joy. But awareness of your self-protective (and self-destructive) patterns is just the beginning. You have to get out of “know-it-all” mode and open yourself up to learning about yourself on a deeper level. There is no quick fix to being an Avoidant. It’s a lifelong commitment to vulnerability, feeling your feelings and uncomfortable actions. But doing this will move you out of your small, protective foxhole into a world of connection, love and limitless possibility. It’s worth every painful step because contrary to what you might think, you are NOT better off alone. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/29/202031 minutes, 12 seconds
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I'm Afraid of Losing Her (Him)... But I Have Commitment Issues

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of emotional resilience, commitment issues, and not forcing yourself to feel something you don't feel. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/25/202021 minutes, 20 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: It’s Synchronicity! We’re Meant to Be Together

Everything is connected. But sometimes we get confused about what that means. We use moments of synchronicity to confirm our story, not reality. We put all this weight and importance on a few signs from the universe, assigning meaning based on what we want to see. This often results in a lot of waiting… and misery. It’s how people end up waiting for their “soul mate” to wake up and realize what has been right in front of them the whole time. Sadly it doesn’t happen. Connection is created through love and abundance, not fear and scarcity. If you ever dated someone who you really clicked with, then he/she started pulling away, perhaps you started to look for signs that you’re meant to be together. You know the same circle of people, like the same flavor of ice cream and grew up near each other. Your astrological chart even says you’re a perfect match. You’re so in sync… he/she must be the one! So you don’t date anyone else and you wait. For years, maybe. Does he/she ever come around? No. In this episode you’ll learn that synchronicity is an inside job, not a bunch of external signs. It comes FROM connection, not in trying to create connection to match your story. Before you pin your hopes on a series of synchronous signs, listen to this podcast. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/22/202025 minutes, 20 seconds
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I'm Afraid of All the Work I'll Have to Do to Have a Healthy Relationship

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of emotional resilience, being afraid of the work needed to have a healthy relationship, and being excited about dating. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/18/202024 minutes, 26 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Meghan Wallace James

Meghan's dad was very insistent on her getting a degree in engineering. She moved to New York to go to Parsons, where she met her ex-husband. They moved out to LA, and her life changed completely. She went from being a designer in New York from being a stay at home mom in LA. She started studying Reiki, and eventually, she discovered Feng Shui. After her husband asked for the divorce, she struggled financially and worried about being able to provide for her children. Her phone started ringing soon enough after friends and family started noticing her Feng Shui work in her own place, and her business has been growing ever since. Here's what we talked about: -Why her dad forced her to get an engineering degree -Being attached to outcomes -How she started her business out of pure necessity -Going through a difficult divorce -How Feng Shui aligns every area of life -How your house reflects the presence of sensuality in a home Here's more about Meghan: Meghan Wallace James, a Los Angeles–based feng shui consultant, has designed a modern take on the practice, with a particularly intriguing goal—it might help improve your sex life. She fell in love with feng shui three years ago, thanks to a trio of events: a cross-country move, a home renovation, and a sudden divorce. A former engineer and fashion designer, she created her technique with patience, time, and bold experimentation, making sure to listen to her home and possessions while researching the core principles. To test her process, she sent an email to the mothers at her son's preschool offering free consults. "Via those consults, I discovered that, one, I am a baby whisperer and can get kids to sleep through the night by rearranging their bedrooms, and two, that sensuality within a home is pivotal and primordial, for, in its absence, the energy is soggy and weak." It was those initial consults that allowed her to create her modern take on feng shui: a "passionate trifecta" of space, style, and sex, which applies to every one of her clients. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/16/202047 minutes, 55 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Stop Letting Insecurities Limit Your Life

What flaw are you constantly trying to hide? What holds you back from what you want in life? What do you beat yourself up about regularly? Maybe it’s your thighs, or your education level, or your salary, or the fact that you’re single. Insecurity is just another form of problem-solving. You believe if the problem (i.e. insecurity) were to go away, everything would be fine. The path ahead would be clear of obstacles: “If I just had a college degree, I’d be able to get a better job.” Uh… not exactly. Getting rid of your flaws does not bring you closer to happiness—accepting them does. When you focus on your insecurities, you actually create obstacles because it distracts you from achieving what you want. You miss out on the life you could be living because you’re so fixated on solving what you THINK is the problem. But what then? Will you automatically be happier when your thighs are skinny, or you finally get into a relationship? Nope, and you will find other insecurities to focus on. In this episode, you’ll learn steps toward accepting your flaws so you no longer use them as an excuse for not having what you want. It’s a powerful exercise in self-compassion and self-love. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/15/202035 minutes, 52 seconds
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I Can't Get Over That Thing I Did Years Ago

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of beating yourself up for our past behavior, mixed signals, and judging yourself when an ex moves on. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/11/202023 minutes, 11 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Stop Projecting Your Feelings Onto Others

How often do you make assumptions about how someone else is feeling based on how you would feel? Or believe you have them figured out based on past experiences? This is called projecting, and it’s one of many ways we create distance in relationships. You think you have people figured out, but the way you think, feel and act is not the same as other people. This happens a lot with texting. You receive a text and assign a bunch of meaning to it: why they reached out, their goal, their mood, their motivation. You come to a conclusion based on what you would do (“Oh yeah, I would totally lie in this situation”), or based on past experiences (“This is what so-and-so said before they broke things off with me!”). But… what if you’re wrong? What if this person’s intention is totally different than what you assume? When you assign blame without knowing the truth, your reaction contributes to the outcome you fear. So if you’re afraid of being rejected and assume that’s what’s happening, you’re more likely to create it. If you want to be close to someone, stop projecting your thoughts and feelings onto others. The simple act of asking creates connection rather than distance. In this episode, we’ll look at how your fear of disappointment drives this behavior, and how to stop assuming your way to the outcome you DON’T want. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/8/202033 minutes, 30 seconds
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Taking Responsibility for Your Own Happiness

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of people-pleasing in female friendships, taking responsibility for your own happiness, communicating from the beginning when dating someone. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/4/202021 minutes, 16 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dana Claudat

Dana felt like there was something wrong with her all the time in her twenties, and she tried everything and anything you can name trying to fix herself until she ended up in the hospital. No matter what she tried, she felt like there was something to fix. After coming out of the hospital, she vowed never to follow any other expert telling her what to do blindly. She found Feng Shui and decided to do it for her own personal gain but did not intend to make it a career at all. Eventually, she got to a place where she felt like nothing was missing, and she's been working with people ever since. Here's what we talked about: -Feeling like something is always wrong -Growing up with self-help books -Following trends and experts without doubt -Dana ending up in the hospital and how she recovered -How Dana found Feng Shui and why she decided to get certified -Enjoying something when there is no monetary gain behind it -The School of Intention and how it integrates Feng Shui into daily life Here's more about Dana: Dana Claudat is a Feng Shui Master, artist, and writer. She's the founder of The School of Intention training, where she shares her revolutionary method of modern Feng Shui-- based on Infinite Possibility, Creative Awakening and Intention. In addition, she's a speaker, writer and an Instructor at Mind Body Green. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/2/202044 minutes, 56 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Punish My Mate For Doing Nothing Wrong

Your partner is too short, likes you too much, has a job you don’t like or breathes too loudly. You hear the voices of other people in your head judging them, even if those people never say anything to you. You worry about your mate not measuring up, but this judgment is really your own self-judgment, stemming from a state of lack. You don’t feel you deserve someone who cares about you, but instead of dealing with those deeper feelings, you punish them. You’re like a porcupine, bristling and irritated for no reason (what did they do?!). The drama you create is triggered by your unconscious, causing you to withdraw and create distance. You’re stuck and frustrated, but also afraid your punishment might push them away. It’s an anxious dance. If you notice yourself doing this, ask yourself why you are choosing to be in a relationship with this person. Have they really done something horrible, or is it your own feeling of not being good enough? When you punish others, you are also punishing yourself and causing misery for the both of you. In this episode, learn how to check in with yourself when the anger or irritation bubbles up, then look inside to question where it comes from. The more you can connect with what’s really going on and own it, the less compelled you’ll feel to punish someone for simply being human. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
9/1/202025 minutes, 35 seconds
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I Don't Think I Can Handle Him Being With Someone Else

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling not good enough when an ex-partner moves on, self-sabotage, and giving mixed messages. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/28/202023 minutes, 52 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: What Do You Mean I Look Happy? I’m Addicted to Feeling Bad!

Complainers are addicted to feeling bad. Those who constantly compare themselves to others, believing everyone else is better off, are addicted to feeling bad. People who host weekly pity parties about everything that sucks in their lives are addicted to feeling bad. So why would you choose this over feeling good? Because it’s easier. It allows you to avoid your fears, blame the universe for your problems and not do anything differently. Choosing to feel bad let’s you off the hook so you don’t have to make changes (that’s the benefit). But it also keeps you stuck in a personal prison where everything remains frustratingly the same. You want your life to change, but you can’t see what you do to hold yourself in this “feeling bad” state. To do things differently is too scary, so you don’t do it. But that’s the path to feeling good: going through those fear walls and making things happen. The longer you stay victimized by your own thoughts and stories, judging your life by the outside, the longer you stay in your self-made prison. In this episode I’ll show you how to start breaking your addiction to feeling bad. It requires deep emotional work and a willingness to confront your fears. Your past does not define your present or your future. You get to choose how you feel from this point forward… so isn’t it time to start feeling GOOD? Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/25/202031 minutes, 7 seconds
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How To Stop Taking Rejection Personally

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of personalizing your children's behavior, knowing what you want, and taking rejection personally. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/21/202020 minutes, 52 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Audrey Hope

#495 - Moving On with Audrey Hope Audrey has had multiple of what she calls "karmic points" that have led her to change her path various times. After seeing firsthand the suffering that women experienced around their bodies, she started a show called Real Women to help stop the brainwashing that affected women and presenting positive role models. Another of those moments was responsible for her starting her healing work with people. After working extensively on healing herself for a relationship, she heard a voice telling her to get on Plenty Of Fish, where she ended up meeting her husband. Audrey is an excellent example of healing yourself and receiving guidance from the universe. Here's what we talked about: -Surrendering in moments of change -Asking for guidance and receiving it -Healing yourself to be able to manifest what you want -How you can see challenging moments as guidance to something better -The importance of letting go in healing and manifesting -Leaving her dad and the job at the family business -Accessing your psychic powers Here's more about Audrey: Audrey Hope, D.D. is an award-winning certified addiction therapist and holds a Doctor of Divinity degree, who uses her abilities as a clairvoyant psychic medium to heal patients from trauma. A multi-talented force in the healing arts for over 20 years, Audrey Hope's gentle-but-firm approach in addiction and relationships gets to the 'root of the root' to solve problems through spiritual modalities as she guides patients to freedom using a new frontier of healing to achieve inner peace. She has her own practice in the heart of Brentwood, CA, is the host of her weekly YouTube advice show "Hope For Relationships," and is also an addiction therapist at Seasons In Malibu rehab facility. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/19/202039 minutes, 51 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: To Feel Good, Let Your Negative Beliefs Shine!

Do you have personas for different situations to make sure you’re never “wrong” or out of place? When talking with other people, do you constantly gauge their reactions and make assumptions about what they think of you (i.e. you’re boring, you’re dumb, there is something terribly wrong with you)? Maybe you fear all hell will break loose if you show who you really are. Those assumptions are based on your negative beliefs, and trying to avoid them turns you into an anxious chameleon, walking on eggshells to avoid rejection (that’s quite the visual, isn’t it?!). Chameleons spend a lot of time and energy trying to disprove their negative beliefs. Putting on a circus act will show you’re not boring. No one will accuse you of being dumb if you always quote from scholarly books. But where are YOU in all this? By trying to prevent people from seeing your negative traits (which may be entirely in your head), you don’t allow yourself to feel your good beliefs. When you embrace your negative beliefs, an amazing thing happens. You start feeling the good you never allowed yourself to feel before. A compliment actually means something (you can feel it) because you’re not afraid of losing it. In this episode I’ll show you how to be the worst of who you fear you are… and own it. Only then can you be who you are wherever you go instead of constantly adapting to your environment. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/18/202038 minutes, 42 seconds
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I Can’t Stop Checking His (Her) Phone. What Should I Do?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of trust problems in relationships, affairs, and fear triggering you. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/14/202018 minutes, 48 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: What Your Parents Chose To Do Had Nothing To Do With You

When you’re a kid and your mom or dad reacted to you at times as though you had done something wrong, and you had not. You might have felt misunderstood or confused by their words or actions. In those moments, mom or dad were dealing with their own stuff and some of their frustration, anger, exhaustion, sadness, anxiety, etc was put on you. As an adult, do you still carry baggage leftover from your parents' choices? We are clueless as kids, we have no idea why mom or dad feel how they do and treat us how they do. They weren’t saying, “Hey, I am really frustrated by this problem at work and I am sorry I took it out on you.” Or maybe they ignored you, no matter how much you wanted their attention? And at other time they told you that you were too much, too difficult, or always doing something wrong. Whatever it was that created the idea that you were somehow responsible for how your parents felt, it was not a true observation, even if they said how they felt was all your fault. The truth is: Your parents projected their own insecurities and issues onto you. Their choices had nothing to do with you, in how they chose to treat you and everything to do with the qualities they were lacking in how to deal. It's time to put down the baggage you've been carrying. In this podcast episode, you'll learn how to break through your old thoughts of who you are through someone else's eyes, and become who you really are.
8/11/202029 minutes, 5 seconds
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How To Change Without Beating Yourself Up

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of one-sided relationships, how to change without beating yourself up, and dating someone who's stingy with their money. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/7/202018 minutes, 37 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Alexandra Roxo

Alexandra grew up shaping her life around a thesis rather than a career by following her intuition and making decisions that to others seem strange but to her felt like answering a call. Her artistic career extends to tv, movies, shows, photography, and now a book. She currently works with women by helping them heal and learn how to love themselves and make their lives a work of art through coaching and spiritual teachings. Here's what we talked about: -Considering our identity around the work that you do -Making decisions by following what's pulling you -The pain she carried with her after her parents' divorce -Maintaining love relationships while traveling -What the title of her book, F*ck Like a Goddess, really means -Loving all the parts of yourself Here's more about Alexandra: Alexandra's path to healing and storytelling began at a young age. With a career traversing genres, but with a through-line of exploration of the female body and the re-integration of the divine feminine into the collective narrative. Named a "modern spiritual leader" by Well + Good she sees clients in one on one coaching and mentorship, leads retreats around the world, and teaches monthly online in her online community Radical Awakenings. Her healing and coaching work and ideas on healing and spirituality have been featured in the New York Times, Harper's Bazaar, Vogue, The Guardian, Nylon, Playboy, and many other international publications. Her first book F*ck Like a Goddess: Heal Yourself. Reclaim Your Voice. Stand in Your Power is out now. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/5/202041 minutes, 8 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Why Can't You Allow He or She To Be Who They Are?

You feel like you need to "fix" other people. Do you spend a lot of your time and energy focused on the other people in your life? Maybe you rehearse what you need to say, so you get the reactions you want. You might even think there is an issue and plan out how you’ll react to them. Maybe you spend hours planning your actions, always trying to control the situation. Whether this happens behind a computer screen on social media or to your significant other, when you focus on fixing someone else's flaws, you're avoiding your own. Controlling someone else just helps you avoid what's going on inside. You can waste your life focused on someone else's or you can start to focus on your own and why you need others to be how you want them. In this episode, you'll learn how to take action for yourself, and focus on what you can do for YOU. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
8/4/202029 minutes, 58 seconds
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Should You Stay For the Kids or Should You Honor Your Feelings?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of choosing preferences vs. connection when dating, staying in an unhappy marriage for your kids, and introducing your partner to your family. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/31/202030 minutes, 29 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: If He or She is Nice to You, Can You Handle It?

Recently, by looking at myself and where I used to be, I've had a big realization: I've come so far in my journey of attachment. I listen to others who are trying to salvage relationships with people who it is “square peg/round hole” situations and the pain, the suffering and hope that this could somehow turn into something which feels good is a motivator. The big issue is that you aren’t being nice to yourself and I guarantee you may not feel your date or mate is being nice to you either. In my relationship, my husband cares about my feelings, and he does nice things for me all the time. At an earlier point in my life, I would've been waiting for the big reveal, for the moment he realizes that I'm worthless. Meanwhile, I would've done everything that I could to prove I was worthy of someone being good to me. All that work, all the time left me always feeling like I just had to do more; it was a constant push/pull. I've learned how to break my own patterns of self-sabotage and receive love and attention. As I have grown, I care about my own feelings, I care what I give and what I receive; I am all about feeling good and having that reflected by handling someone being nice to me. In today's episode, you'll learn how to love and accept yourself, so you can finally be ready for a happy, healthy relationship. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/28/202020 minutes, 55 seconds
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When Should You Not Be Vulnerable?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of letting go of relationships, believing someone will change because of you, and when you should not be vulnerable. Join my FREE Facebook Group for free monthly challenges and ongoing support from me and my coaches: https://bit.ly/2WRdKBt Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/24/202021 minutes, 54 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Lisa A. Romano

Lisa had to make the difficult decision of ending her marriage when she realized she was conditioning her kids to be dysfunctional just as her parents had programmed her. It killed her inside to see the effect of what she was doing in her children. Her therapist told her it would take everything she had to change it, but she knew she had to do it. After an ugly divorce, her personal trainer clients started to express their interest in her coaching them. She built her website and started writing about what she had learned and people responded! She eventually wrote her book ''The Road Back to Me'" and it became an Amazon bestseller. After that, the flood gates opened, she wrote more books and became a certified life coach. She now helps people to get out of the patterns they run and stop begin codependent. Here's what we talked about: -How Lisa found out she wasn't crazy but codependent -Getting into the wrong relationships because the new potential partner looks good on paper -People-pleasing as a result of feeling unworthy -Self-care being deemed as selfish by the people in your life -A marriage not surviving if both people don't grow together -Going from victimhood to empowerment -Codependency and the patterns we run over and over again -Understanding where you come from is the only way to change where you're going -Attachment vs. codependency Here's more about Lisa: Lisa A. Romano is a Certified Life Coach, bestselling author, and YouTube Vlogger specializing in codependency and narcissistic abuse recovery. Lisa is also one of the most listened to meditation teachers on Insight Timer and her podcast, Breakdown to Breakthrough ranks in the top 100 of the mental health category. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/22/20201 hour, 15 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: My Life is a Mess. No, It's Not.

Your life isn't a fairytale, who’s is? For some of us we have this sneaky little habit. It’s called looking for problems, all the time and you probably don’t even know it! Perhaps, you're someone who looks for problems as a distraction. If you were to look at your life objectively, do you really have any major problems? I get it if you do, absolutely! Sometimes things happen that are to be dealt with and you have no choice. But I am talking about where you do have a choice, where if you were to focus on the good in your life you would realize there is not a real problem. And that is where you want to have awareness, the awareness of how you create problems with impossible solutions to keep you from looking inside and figuring out what's really going on. With everything happening in the world right now that's out of your control, you might be feeling like a victim of circumstances. You might wake up every day afraid and anxious, watching the news, social media, anything that can feed right into how you feel these reactive feelings. Often though there is no looking beneath the reactions you feel, instead it’s an avoidance of what is really going on inside. It is how you avoid what triggers you or why you feel out of control on the inside, so it just keeps you in a cycle of repetition. Looking at the same reactions every day and calling that the problem rather than digging deeper to see what is really going on! In today's podcast, I'll show you that your life isn't really a mess, but a distraction. You'll learn to grow up and live your life without fear weighing you down. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/21/202027 minutes, 53 seconds
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I Feel Responsible for Sabotaging My Relationship

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of avoiding through distractions, feeling responsible for sabotaging your relationship, and creating problems that don't exist. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/17/202023 minutes, 11 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: The Self-Disciplined Avoidant

You want a relationship. In fact when you think about it, it sounds great! But the reality is that the only place it is functional is in your head. You want to connect with someone, but you hate the thought of being out of control of your emotions. Self-discipline matters more, you've built your whole life on control: what you wear, what you eat, how you look. Even when you find yourself attached to someone, you spend so much time trying to get your control back. You are an emotional avoidant, a self-disciplined one. In today's episode, you'll learn how to stop avoiding and invest in your emotional freedom. That's the only way you can truly live. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/14/202030 minutes, 11 seconds
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The Connection Between Feeling Your Feelings and Law of Attraction

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of the connection between feeling your feelings and law of attraction and trying to change your partner, fixing yourself before fixing your relationship. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
7/10/202017 minutes, 22 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Damona Hoffman

Damona Hoffman grew up in a predominantly white suburb in Michigan, and as a biracial woman, she didn't feel she was attractive enough to date at a young age. Once she was able to celebrate her unique characteristics and learned to love them, she found her ideal partner. Damona worked in casting and teaching actors when she started noticing the similarities between casting and online dating. After she met her husband online, people started coming to her for help with their dating profiles. Using her knowledge of how to get noticed from her years in casting, she helped many people meet their significant other. Here's what we talked about: -Her switch between shitty dating and good dating -Confusing initial chemistry in a date with love -The importance of mindset in finding an ideal partner -The visualization exercise she does with her clients -How she manifested her husband -How she became a dating coach after interviewing for 17 jobs and not getting any of them -Looking for signs and confirmations that you're on the right path Here's more about Damona: Damona Hoffman is a dating coach & media personality who starred in two A+E Networks' TV series: #BlackLove and A Question of Love. She's a regular contributor to The Washington Post, LA Times, CNN Headline News (HLN), BET.com, and more. She also hosts and produces the weekly podcast, Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617
7/8/202039 minutes, 42 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: You Matter: From Invisible to Knowing Yourself

At a young age, we learned to hide the parts of ourselves that made adults uncomfortable. It can feel like in your mind you will never be known. Some of us created a whole identity on not being known and our struggle to be seen and heard as who we were and are. It can create a great deal of shame, because it may be the feeling you try to avoid by hiding who you are. You may have been shamed for what you did or did not do because your parents didn't know how to deal with you. They may have been going through their own stuff, which limited how they were able to deal. The shame has carried through your adult life still with the identity and the feeling of will anyone ever really know me and stay? You've struggled to feel seen and to find value in yourself because your environment growing up did not give you an opportunity for anyone to see the real you. This struggle for validation is generational. To finally be authentically you, you have to learn to let go of the feelings your parents (and their parents, and their parents and so on) have projected onto you. In this episode, you'll learn how to break the cycle of generational shame, not being known and connect with yourself. The only way you find happiness is through self-acceptance. You have to learn to just be you. In this episode, you'll learn how to tackle your shame and break your cycle of perfectionism. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
7/7/202029 minutes, 43 seconds
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What is True Intimacy?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of the difference between emotional baggage and a rough patch, pointing out your partner's emotional baggage and true intimacy. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
7/3/202023 minutes, 54 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: I Can't Be a Better Person. What Does That Even Mean?

Are you always pushing yourself to try harder, to be better? Even when you reach the accomplishment you wanted, something is still missing. So you repeat the same cycle of needing to be better, to be perfect. Perhaps, you keep questioning yourself about current circumstances and feel you’ve done it all and still here you are, no movement. The little voice inside says you need to be better and you respond with, “But how?” Frustrating? Yes! The idea is it must be all your fault that things don’t change or that you are constantly going back to finger pointing the person in the mirror. This cycle of perfectionism is all about gaining control, and it can lead to many destructive behaviors. The truth is: you'll never be happy this way. The only way you find happiness is through self-acceptance. You have to learn to just be you. In this episode, you'll learn how to tackle your shame and break your cycle of perfectionism. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/30/202023 minutes, 55 seconds
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I'm Tired of Walking on Eggshells with my Partner

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of the fear of being alone, reacting to your triggers, and walking on eggshells with your partner. Want to submit your question? Email [email protected] and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/26/202023 minutes, 35 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Shanna Lee

Shanna Lee has, as she says it, a Ph.D. in moving on. In this episode, Shanna shares her story of chasing happiness in the wrong things. After questioning her actions, career, lifestyle, and much more, she had a spiritual awakening that led her to connect to her truth. She shares how her reality shifted after she started speaking about the changes she wanted. -Here's what we talked about: -How having a child can bring a personal awakening to parents -Fear-based relationships with family members -The process of deep transformation -How Shanna works on manifestation with her clients -How she reconnected with her intuitive abilities in adulthood Here's more about Shanna: Shanna Lee is an intuitive healer and celebrity manifestation coach. She is the #1 best-selling author of The Soul Frequency: Your Healthy, Awakened, and Authentic Life and the host of The Soul Frequency Show podcast, leading the conversation on raising your energy frequency and creating a life founded on truth and alignment. She is a speaker, businesswoman, and consultant to executives of Fortune 500 companies, celebrities, influencers, and fashion industry experts. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/24/202040 minutes, 12 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: They Have to Be My Soulmate!

Do you feel guilty or as though your life is ripped to shreds after a breakup? Do you blame yourself for them leaving, think there's something you could've done to make them stay? If only? Maybe you believe you can fix it now? You believe that they're your soulmate, and you just need to convince them that you've changed. But the truth is...you weren't in a healthy relationship. You're attached to the intensity of the relationship and the sexual connection you felt to that person. These are often mistaken for love. The person you think is your soulmate is a fantasy that you've created. In this episode, you'll learn how to look at reality and confront your emotional fears, so you can finally have a happy, healthy relationship. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/23/202029 minutes, 12 seconds
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My Boss is a Narcissist and a Control Freak. How Can I Feel Good at Work?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of dealing with a narcissist boss, navigating significant life changes, and putting a label on your relationship. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/19/202018 minutes, 50 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Gaining Weight and Having Sex During a Pandemic

Do you feel like you should have been doing things differently the last few months, specifically do you feeling shame or guilt during this pandemic? For many of us, the stress and unknown of the situation has diminished our sex lives, our ability to focus and put extra pounds on our waistline. Because of this, you might be feeling shame for not keeping up with your usual routines, but what about those routines? Did you like them or did you keep them up as a way of avoiding yourself or putting off what you wanted? So many of us have had a hard look at the way we have been living and may be dissatisfied but without a clue on what to do. We all cope with stress in different ways. Whether you've stopped working out or baked a few too many loaves of banana bread, you shouldn't feel guilty. In today's episode, you'll learn how to be okay with where you are right now and how to cope in times of change. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/16/202029 minutes, 18 seconds
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Why Do I Keep Getting Triggered When I Talk to My Ex?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of yo-yo relationships, why communicating with your ex is triggering you, and being too vulnerable. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/12/202021 minutes, 10 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Dr. Ish Major

Dr. Ish Major got into mental health from an early age. Today he joins me to share his story of becoming one of the top psychiatrists in the country. He shares the influence his parents had in his life and the hurdles he had to overcome after his medical practice failed. The opportunities he created during his most challenging time are remarkable and a true testament to the power of perspective. Here's what we talked about: -What he learned from his parents and how it shaped his decisions in life -The story of how his first attempt of setting up a practice failed -How he came back from a failed practice to appearances on TV -The difference between women and men when it comes to seeking out help -How his personal relationships have changed since his TV career kicked off -The impact his work has in his home state of South Carolina -His current work in Marriage Boot Camp and why he loves it Here's more about Dr. Ish: Dr. Ish Major has spent the last 15 years demystifying the male psyche and helping men and women navigate their way through the dating jungle. Educated at the University of South Carolina School of Medicine, Dr. Ish is a board-certified psychiatrist who specializes in women, children and families and all things dating, mating and relating. Dr. Ish was named to the prestigious list of America's Top Psychiatrists for the last three years and is recognized by the International Association of Healthcare Professionals as one of Leading Physicians of the World. As an on-camera expert, Dr. Ish is the co-host of WeTV's hit series Marriage & Family Boot Camp Reality Stars and is a frequent guest host on The Doctors and resident expert on Access Hollywood Live, Steve, and The Today Show. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/10/202055 minutes, 6 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Understanding What True Love Is (Rebroadcast)

Insecure attachment is a subject I have touched on in several podcasts, and in this weekly Tuesday series, I will include some moments from my own life, along with “how-to” tips for getting to your feelings and changing your attachment one piece at a time. None of my relationships were based in love; they were based in attachment. I didn’t know this at the time, however, because I had no means of comparison. I had the notion of love SO WRONG. How about you? I speak to people of all ages who have never experienced true, intimate love. They experienced what they thought was love, but was really just straight-up “can’t live without you,” or “devastation when met with silence,” or “abandonment with a constant state of anxiety.” These are not love. Looking back I see that my relationships were all about having it my way, even though I didn’t think so at the time. I was so busy people pleasing, trying to be perfect and keeping score that I left my mate little choice but to go along with it. And when he didn’t, I would blame him and build a case. Fear creates all sorts of issues around emotional availability, keeping you from taking responsibility in relationships, which translates into drama, pain and disconnection. Learn how to FEEL the feelings you’ve pushed aside, and how to navigate your emotions in a way that connects you to yourself for deeper, happier relationships. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/9/202033 minutes, 40 seconds
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I think I Overreacted, What Do I Do Now?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of being scared of starting your own business, what to do after overreacting, and moving too fast in a relationship. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/5/202020 minutes, 11 seconds
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Journey of Attraction: Fear is My Attractor

When I was a child, I attracted life based on fear. I was rarely able to have fun, always afraid of what lay ahead. I spent a lot of my time playing fantasy as an escape from the present. In my mind, if I could dissociate from the present moment, I was okay. Or so I thought. But I was only looking for safety. Running and hiding from anything which would trigger me into having to deal with reality. If you have a deep sense of fear that you hope will somehow go away, but you focus on being in a fantasy or not dealing with reality and you're continually fighting yourself and struggling, nothing will change. In today's episode, you'll learn how to change your relationship with fear and manifest less of it into your life. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
6/2/202035 minutes, 3 seconds
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I Constantly Feel Like I Should Be Doing Something Else...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of feeling like you should be doing something else, fixing people, and looking for validation from others. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/29/202018 minutes, 9 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Angela Foster

In this episode, Angela Foster shares her journey from leaving her corporate job as a lawyer after struggling with post-partum depression after having her kids. She had always loved fitness and decided to dive deeper to get healthier for herself and her kids. Here's what we talked about: -Feeling like a failure when you don't get everything done like you usually do when you're struggling with mental health -Feeling like you're not good enough as a new mom -Interrupting the patterns that enable us to sabotage ourselves -How stimulating your mind can help you -Your health is the fundamental pillar of your wellbeing -Focusing on recovery to become a peak performer -How Angela found spirituality and meditation Here's more about Angela: DNA Edge Founder Angela Foster left the world of Corporate Law to become a Nutritionist, Health, and Performance Coach after overcoming a serious illness. She started her journey by overcoming a PCOS, she then became a mom of 3 kids, her struggle with postnatal depression and double pneumonia simultaneously helped to find her mission "to inspire and educate others to live an energetic, healthful and limitless life." Website: https://angelafosterperformance.com/ Facebook: @AngelaFosterPerformance Instagram: @angelasfoster Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/27/202036 minutes, 9 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Freaking Out Over Everything, Your Relationship, and Your Life!

As humans, we react to change in a variety of ways. Some seek to understand, some ignore, some seek distractions and some just freak out!! For many it is to try to find control again. And for others they look for a solution, they look for a way back to the normal they know. I would be remiss if I did not mention those who just surrender, not give up, but choose to go with the flow if it and see what the change brings their way. This is true in our current world, but it's also true in your relationships. Are you in a constant freak-out mode in your relationship? You use the drama as your focus, even though it is a distraction, so you can avoid your inner feelings, and the apparent lack of control? In today's episode, you'll learn how to stop the cycle of avoidance and tackle your own feelings. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/26/202029 minutes, 27 seconds
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I'm Tired of Choosing Everyone Else but Me. How Do I Choose Myself?

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of experiencing anxiety after a breakup, choosing yourself in a relationship, and knowing when you're not attracted vs. when you're scared. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/22/202024 minutes, 51 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Shame of Getting Caught Being Wrong; How to Stop It

In our current world of social media, people post anything they want online--and expect no one to challenge them. When someone disagrees with their beliefs, they get defensive, angry. We see this behavior in relationships as well. You defend your feelings, or worse, you change them to match your partner's beliefs. You're terrified of being wrong, of feeling that shame, so you walk on eggshells. Running from the shame forces you to bottle up your feelings and never truly go for what you want. In this episode, you'll learn how to confront your feelings and fears. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/19/202028 minutes, 1 second
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I Should Be Farther Along By Now...

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of rescuing people, being exhausted of your emotional baggage, and being disappointed because you're not farther along that you're supposed to. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/15/202026 minutes, 45 seconds
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Moving On to a Healthy and Thriving Life! with Colleen McCann

Moving On! Yes, we have moved on from surviving to thriving as an interview style show and have landed here. Join me as we explore what guests have been able to leave behind to get to happier, healthier and more authentic lives! Each episode will include tips, tools and expert information, and today's guest brings it! Colleen McCann, Founder of Style Rituals & Author of Crystal Rx is a fashion stylist turned cultural mystic, who aims to bring clarity, guidance & self-care practices to her clients. Today she shares with me how she unexpectedly found herself going down a path she had never imagined. Her life took such a turn that she literally thought something was wrong with her, only to find that she was being called to a higher calling. Learn how she brought aspects of her old life into her new and some great tools for you to use in helping you to discover your own road to moving on! You can find Colleen at: Website: https://www.stylerituals.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/styleritualspage IG: https://www.instagram.com/style_rituals/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/style_rituals?lang=en Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/13/202043 minutes, 39 seconds
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Journey Of Attachment: Before You Were Programmed Into a Walking Reaction, Who Were You?

I received an email from a listener about being a walking reaction. We learned our behaviors as kids: right from wrong, manners, how to show emotions. Because of that, our decision-making is often just the reaction we're programmed to take. We're conditioned to feel a certain way. Most of us really aren’t our real selves and we have no idea who that is, and to want to meet ourselves is something we talk about, but rarely do anything to change. How do we break free of our programming? We have to connect with ourselves on a deeper level, to learn what our own motivations are. You can choose how you feel, but it starts with learning your triggers and why they exist. In this episode, we'll break down how to unlearn the reactions of your past and find your inner motivations. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you check out my Patreon page to see how you can do it. Plus, you get all kinds of cool rewards: www.patreon.com/tracycrossley
5/12/202032 minutes, 29 seconds
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Getting Over the Fear of Abandonment

In this special series, Tracy will be answering your questions around emotional baggage. This week she dives into the hot topics of taking criticism in a relationship, looking validation from others, and fear of abandonment. Want to submit a question? Click here: bit.ly/AskTracyCrossley and watch live on Facebook every Thursday at 9 am PST. Sick of being insecurely attached? Click here to get my free meditative insecure attachment release: tracy-crossley.mykajabi.com/pl/140617 If you would like to support the podcast, make sure you c