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Dear Future Wifey

English, Education, 806 seasons, 181 episodes, 2 days, 13 hours
Journey with me as I discover, uncover, and recover love. From interviews with singles, married, divorcees, and those in polyamorous relationships, we promise every episode to be L.I.T. (Living Intentionally and Transparently).
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Love Lives On (Guest: Judge Lynn Toler)

How can emotional resilience help you during times of grief and hardship? In episode 804, host Laterras R. Whitfield is joined by Judge Lynn Toler, who opens up about her life, love, and the lessons learned from her grieving journey. Judge Lynn Toler shares insights from her marriage of 33 years, her experiences growing up in a family with mental health conditions, and the transformative power of love and understanding in the face of life's challenges. From being on TV to building a solid marriage and saying goodbye to her husband, this is a powerful story on resilience and how learning in life is a never ending journey. [00:00:00-00:04:43] Intro [00:04:44-00:07:41] The power of telling the truth[00:07:42-00:13:51] How did Judge Lynn meet her husband?[00:13:52-00:18:45] Sharing the grief journey [00:18:46-00:28:45] Emotional Intelligence in relationships[00:28:46-00:45:02] Mental health in the family context[00:45:03-00:58:24] The influence of family in your vision[00:58:25-01:06:30] Processing love and loss[01:06:31-01:13:54] Lessons of being married 33 years[01:13:55-01:18:59] Being on TV [01:19:00-01:27:18] Embracing life’s roller coaster[01:27:19-01:34:46] Judge Lynn’s books and podcast[01:34:47-01:38:59] Closing segment[01:39:00-01:41:01] Laterras letter for his Dear Future WifeyKey quotes:"You can't stay mad and stay married." - Judge Lynn Toler"The destination has always been happy. We didn't pick this ship, but since it's the ship you're on, we're going to help paddle it." - Judge Lynn TolerCONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Judge Lynn Toler - UP FOR OUR MAILING LIST HERE: intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Support this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
1/31/20241 hour, 40 minutes, 58 seconds
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My Forever Love (Guests: Gregg & Shakela Matthews)

Can love survive after decades apart? In episode #803, Laterras sits down with Shakela and Gregg Matthews to recount their remarkable love story. Facing divorces, infidelity, and a journey of forgiveness, this story will take you from their initial teenage romance through personal struggles, marriages to others, and eventual reunion. Kela and Gregg's union is a testimony of commitment, forgiveness, and the power of timing. This conversation offers deep insights into dealing with betrayal, the importance of emotional healing, and the resilience of true love.[00:00:00 - 00:02:21] Intro [00:02:22 - 00:14:55] Early romance and heartbreak[00:14:56 - 00:20:33] The cost of a misunderstanding[00:20:34 - 00:30:46] Reconnection attempts[00:30:47 - 00:35:43] Gregg’s spiritual journey[00:35:44 - 00:52:44] Facing infidelity[00:52:45 - 00:59:38] The power of forgiveness[00:59:39 - 01:04:11] Allowing yourself to be loved again [01:04:12 - 01:08:42] Back together after 24 years[01:08:43 - 01:11:25] Kela’s message for women [01:11:26 - 01:13:16] Greg’s message for men[01:11:26 - 01:14:52] Prayer for restoration[01:14:53 - 01:16:57] Kela’s Book [01:16:58 - 01:24:20] Impact on family and friends[01:24:21 - 01:30:02] Closing segmentKey Quotes:"It was 24 years before we got back together. When I saw him again, he had always been there." - Shakela Matthews "I'm intentional about loving her because now I understand that I was able to be free in loving me." - Gregg Matthews CONNECT WITH OUR GUEST:Shakela Matthews - Matthews - UP FOR OUR MAILING LIST HERE: intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Our Sponsors:* Check out eHarmony: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
1/24/20241 hour, 30 minutes, 2 seconds
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Truth About Love | (Guests: Montell & Kristin Jordan, Dr. Cindy Trimm, Christian Keyes, Lamman Rucker, Lisa Wu, Alton Walker, Russel Tomlinson & Lavon Lewis)

Christian Keyes, Lamman Rucker, Montell Jordan, Kristin Jordan, Russell Tomlinson, Dr. Cindy Trimm, Lisa Wu, LaVon Lewis, and Alton Walker discuss modern relationships and marriage. Laterras R. Whitfield guides the panel through a variety of topics like dating dynamics, how couples met their spouses, the journey to marriage proposals, the role of intimacy, handling arguments and differences, and more. This episode is a must-listen for anyone who wants to take their relationships to the next level in 2024.[00:00:00 - 00:08:28] - Introduction & opening segment[00:08:29 - 00:16:45] - A discussion on dating [00:16:46 - 00:26:29] - How the Jordans met[00:26:30 - 00:39:29] - How Lamman met his wife[00:39:30 - 00:46:11] - Understanding how a man thinks[00:46:12 - 00:49:23] - A discussion on managing arguments[00:49:24 - 01:08:15] - How Russell and Dr. Cindy met[01:08:16 - 01:14:00] - LaVon's Reality TV breakup[01:14:01 - 01:16:03] - The value of marriage[01:16:04 - 01:23:35] - Loving like Christ[01:23:36 - 01:27:25] - Christian’s Takeaways[01:27:26 - 01:31:53] - Marriage Masterpeace[01:31:54 - 01:48:44] - Listener Q&A[01:48:45 - 01:58:55] - The next great revivalKey Quotes:“Since I chose you, I have to love you like Christ loved the church.” - Alton Walker“You cannot define for your husband who he should be as a man” - Dr. Cindy TrimmCONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:Montell & Kristin Jordan - Trimm - Tomlinson - Keyes - Rucker - Wu - Walker - Lewis - intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code wifey50 for a great deal: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
12/27/20231 hour, 58 minutes, 55 seconds
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Thankful for Love | Pt.2 | (Guests: The Campbells Jr., The Campbells Sr., Shanta Atkins, & Jorél Quinn)

What does it take to build a marriage that lasts for decades? In this special live episode, Laterras sits down with married couples Warryn Jr. and Erica Campbell and Warryn Sr. and Sandra Campbell, married for 48 years, as well as Shanta Atkins and Jor él Quinn to complete a two-part panel on being thankful for love. They talk about the different types of love, share stories and wisdom from nearly five decades of marriage, discuss dating and relationships in today’s world, offer encouragement to singles, and more.[00:00 - 08:35] - Opening Segment and Introductions[08:36 - 10:37] - What does “thankful for love” mean?[10:38 - 20:54] - Campbell Sr. story of “real” love[20:55 - 26:17] - What it means to be a husband[26:18 - 39:26] - Warryn Jr. learnings from parents[39:27 - 56:40] - Jor él & Shanta’s take on dating[56:41 - 01:04:37] - Why Warryn Sr. pursued Sandra[01:04:38 - 01:13:56] - Praying against toxic spirits[01:13:57 - 01:15:49] - The enemy of love[01:15:50 - 01:20:17] - Ignoring the “good parts”?[01:20:18 - 01:23:07] - “My truth” vs the truth[01:23:08 - 01:54:58] - Q&A from the audience[01:54:59 - 02:00:37] - Closing SegmentKey Quotes:"Love covers a multitude of sins.” - Warryn Campbell Sr.“Find you a woman who's willing to change your diapers because oftentimes we're looking for superficial things in these women” - Laterras R. WhitfieldDONATE TO CALI WORSHIP'S MEDIA DEPARTMENT WITH OUR GUESTS:Shanta Atkins - Campbell - Campbell Jr. - Campbell - Campbell Sr. - él Quinn - intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code wifey50 for a great deal: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
12/20/20232 hours, 37 seconds
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Thankful for Love | Pt.1 | (Guests: The Campbells, The Fredericks, Essence Atkins, MC Lyte, & Jor él Quinn)

Have you ever wondered what makes love last through all of life's ups and downs? In this episode, Laterras facilitates a dynamic panel discussion with power couples and singles at the Cali Worship Center on maintaining authentic, evolving love. Transparent testimonies and wisdom are exchanged on staying rooted in patience, purpose and faith when navigating the unpredictable waters of dating, marriage and personal growth. From rediscovering your voice in long-term relationships to the impacts of social media, no stone is left unturned in this profound conversation.[00:00 - 11:15] - Opening Segment and Introductions[11:16 - 26:17] - What does “thankful for love” mean?[26:18 - 35:28] - Having patience with partner’s growth[35:29 - 37:16] - Dating as a Christian[37:17 - 39:09] - Social media’s effects on dating[39:10 - 41:45] - Stealing someone’s partner[41:46 - 45:42] - Learning about yourself post divorce[45:43 - 55:42] - The shame of singlehood[55:43 - 01:12:00] - Finding love after divorce[01:12:01 - 01:27:17] - Q&A from the audienceKey Quotes:"When you keep God in the center, I think it's easy for you to date in a healthy way." - Erica Campbell"Love will wait for you. Love will extend grace and make you feel safe no matter what state you're in." - Essence AtkinsCONNECT WITH OUR GUESTS:Essence Atkins - Campbell - Campbell - Fredericks - Fredericks - él Quinn - Lyte - intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code wifey50 for a great deal: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
12/13/20231 hour, 27 minutes, 17 seconds
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Spin the Block (Guests: Marcus & Harriet Speed)

This episode follows entrepreneurs Marcus and Harriet Speed, who rebuilt their marriage after divorcing. Though together only 6 months before marrying, they built several businesses over 10 years of marriage. Putting the past behind them, they have reconciled and launched a new restaurant. They now run a thriving business while cherishing family and planning their next venture. Despite the storms, Marcus and Harriet found partnership and purpose in each other. Their remarkable resilience is a testament to the power of forgiveness and the endurance of love.[00:00 - 03:01] - Opening Segment[03:02 - 09:07] - Background on relationship history[09:08 - 13:22] - How Marcus and Harriet met[13:23 - 17:52] - Their early business success[17:53 - 22:29] - The couple’s humble beginnings[22:30 - 26:25] - Lessons learned from prison[26:26 - 30:19] - Early marriage financial struggles[30:20 - 39:18] - What caused the divorce[39:19 - 45:24] - Their personal aftermath from the divorce[45:25 - 49:37] - Protecting kids in a divorce[49:38 - 01:04:15] - Starting a new chapter together[01:04:16 - 01:08:30] - Kingdom Royale Segment[01:08:31 - 01:10:45] - Letter to Dear Future WifeyKey Quote:"Sometimes you just gotta really believe that it's all gonna work out for the greatest good." - Marcus SpeedConnect with Marcus & Harriet:Marcus @ IG - @ IG - Nutz @ IG - intentionally transparent with the latest merch at Our Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code wifey50 for a great deal: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
12/6/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 45 seconds
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Blended Families (Guest: Naja Hall)

Are blended family conflicts unavoidable? Naja Hall joins Laterras to offer hope in the storm. After detailing how she fell in love fast with a divorced dad of three, Naja unpacks the mental health impacts and anxiety triggering events stemming from high conflict with her husband's ex. From boundary setting tips to a revelatory distinction between child-centered marriages and divorces, Naja provides vulnerable testimony and hard-won wisdom so others might walk an easier path. Ultimately Naja issues a gentle challenge—can we break cycles of generational trauma and instead choose generational healing? The possibility of blossoming in the ashes exists, but we must commit to do the work.[00:00 - 07:37] - The challenges and importance of amicable co-parenting[07:37 - 15:22] - How Naja and her husband met [15:22 - 20:18] - Early relationship challenges around blended family dynamics[20:18 - 34:00] - An incident revealing the severity of conflicts[34:00 - 37:09] - Coping with anxiety from conflict [37:09 - 41:23] - Establishing personal boundaries [41:23 - 50:31] - Perspectives on causes of conflict[50:31 - 01:03:29] - Tips for mitigating blended family conflicts [01:03:29 - 01:10:20] - Final Thoughts & Wrap UpKey Quote:"I've seen 0% of child centered marriages work. I've seen 100% of child centered divorce divorces work." - Naja HallConnect with Naja:Naja Hall IG - and Black - Stepmom - Sponsors:* Check out Factor 75 and use my code wifey50 for a great deal: this podcast at — Inquiries: & Opt-Out:
11/29/20231 hour, 10 minutes, 20 seconds