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Charlie’s Toolbox

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Charlie’s Toolbox is a podcast for women rediscovering themselves after a heartbreak, a traumatic event, or simply wants to change. The moments after a hit to your self-esteem are some of the hardest. You want to feel confident, but you have doubt. You want to move forward, but your fear won’t let you. You want to feel like you again, but you are not sure if you can. If you are in this space, this podcast for you. In each episode researcher, Charlie Taylor will teach you how to overcome self-criticism, low self-esteem, self-worth issues and help you trust yourself again. While there are plenty of coaches that assist with these obstacles, Charlie’s approach is unconventional. She does not ignore structures like patriarchy, white supremacy, and homophobia. She provides steps that help the individual but also plans for societal structures.
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Walking While Female: The Constant Battle Against Street Harassment

In this episode, we explore the insidious ways in which patriarchy is entrenched in our society, particularly when it comes to women navigating the streets. Our host shares a personal experience of being yelled at by two men while walking her dog and how it reminded her of the constant labor and energy women are forced to give to men subtly and blatantly every day. From being harassed on the street to navigating men's emotional minefields, women are expected to abide by unspoken rules or face the consequences. Join us as we break down these small interactions and explore how they constantly drain women's energy and time. Don't settle for the ordinary when you can thrive! Sign up for our newsletter at charliestoolbox.com and embrace a life filled with empowerment, self-assurance, and endless possibilities.
5/8/202412 minutes, 48 seconds
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Ep. 85 Defining My Own Womanhood: Accountability, Joy, Spirituality, and Unconventionality

This episode explores what womanhood means to many of us and how we can redefine it for ourselves. For many of us, womanhood has been defined by our mothers and grxandmothers' experiences, and we have been conditioned to believe that men are the only way to find true fulfillment in life. However, we challenge this notion and redefine womanhood to mean accountability, joy, spirituality, and unconventionality. We believe that by shifting our focus away from men and our parents, we can discover what truly brings us joy and fulfillment. We dive into what it means to be accountable for our womanhood, why taking responsibility for our actions is essential, and how victimhood can hold us back. We also explore how womanhood can be enjoyable, even when society seems to emphasize suffering. We encourage you to reject traditional paths of womanhood and focus on what brings you joy and fulfillment. Join us in defining womanhood and taking full responsibility for your past, present, and future. Want to learn self-mastery? Go to charliestoolbox.com
5/8/202413 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep. 84 How to Use Emotional Intelligence Effectively at Work

Welcome to Workplace Wisdom, where we explore the power of emotional intelligence in professional settings. In this episode, "Maximizing Emotional Intelligence at Work," we uncover how this crucial skill can serve as your secret weapon, especially for those facing structural barriers like women, women of color, and trans individuals. Join us as we discover actionable strategies to navigate the corporate landscape, positioning yourself strategically for growth and forming meaningful alliances. Before we delve into our discussion, remember to like, subscribe, and follow us on social media @charliestoolbox. And if you haven't already, sign up for our newsletter to participate in our ongoing six-week happiness challenge, which is currently in its third week. Let's equip ourselves with the tools to thrive in the workplace!   Unlock the secrets of emotional intelligence with Charlie Taylor on this week's episode of Charlie's Toolbox. Discover how refining your emotional skills can transform your personal and professional relationships. - Learn the four pillars of emotional intelligence: social awareness, self-management, relationship management, and self-awareness. - Understand social awareness and its impact on navigating company culture effectively. - Explore strategies for better self-management and how they can improve your interactions and inner peace. - Dive into relationship management techniques for maintaining healthy professional relationships and inspiring others. - Gain insights on achieving self-awareness to assess your strengths and weaknesses accurately.   00:00 I struggle with assertiveness, but I learned valuable lessons. 04:55 Observing environment, cultural norms, social awareness, communication. 08:49 Being curious about others helps manage relationships. 11:47 Understanding emotions, seeking help to assess feelings.
4/25/202413 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 83 What Does it Mean to Choose Happiness?

Welcome to this week's episode of Charlie's Toolbox, where we tackle the profound question: "What does it mean to choose happiness?" Inspired by our forthcoming 6-part happiness series, we delve into the essence of this choice. Life is undeniably tough, and sometimes just living can feel like an uphill battle. But amidst the challenges, there's a conscious decision we can make – to embrace happiness, to actively pursue it despite life's adversities. Join us as we navigate the complexities of this choice. From the thoughts we entertain to the reactions we exhibit, from the feelings we nurture to the ideas we hold about ourselves and others – every aspect requires deliberate effort.  Through candid discussions and insightful anecdotes, we aim to decipher what it truly means to choose happiness in practice and how we can apply this wisdom to our daily lives. After this episode, we invite you, our valued listeners, to partake in our happiness series. Simply sign up for our newsletter on charliestoolbox.com to receive weekly emails. 
4/4/202415 minutes, 36 seconds
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Ep. 82 The Consequences of Devaluing Non-Romantic Love

In this episode of Charlie's Toolbox, we delve into the significance of nonromantic love and the repercussions of undervaluing it. Join us as we explore the conditions that lead women to accept deceitful behavior in pursuit of romantic fulfillment. - The impact of loneliness on craving love and affection - The problem with not valuing nonromantic relationships - The danger of believing that romantic love is necessary for fulfillment - How devaluing nonromantic relationships can lead to vulnerability - The importance of recognizing and appreciating nonromantic love
2/20/20246 minutes, 2 seconds
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Ep. 81 Growing Old Gracefully: Finding Joy in The Excitement of Aging

Welcome to today's podcast episode where we delve into the intriguing topic of aging. Join us as we explore societal attitudes towards the inevitable passage of time, showcase inspiring examples of graceful aging, and share valuable tips to help you maintain a positive self-concept as you navigate the journey of getting older. Tune in for an engaging conversation on Growing Old Gracefully: Finding Joy in the Excitement of Aging.
2/13/20247 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 80 How Recovering from Codependency Helps You Decenter Men

Welcome to a special episode of Charlie's Toolbox where we dive deep into the powerful journey of recovering from codependency and its profound impact on decentering men in our lives. In this episode, we explore the intricacies of breaking free from unhealthy relationship dynamics and reclaiming our autonomy. Join us for an insightful conversation as we share personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips to navigate the transformative process of overcoming codependency. This episode is a compass for those seeking to foster healthier connections, prioritize well-being, and embark on a journey of self-discovery.
2/5/20247 minutes, 56 seconds
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Ep. 79 Step Away from Self-Help

Discover the compelling reasons behind the necessity of stepping away from the self-help frenzy. Uncover how relentless self-help consumption may be breaking your spirit, fostering a sense of inadequacy, and diverting your focus from living your authentic life. Join us as we explore the subtle impact of constant self-help immersion and why it's crucial to reclaim your life. Tune in for insights, reflection, and a roadmap to break free from the self-help cycle.
1/23/20244 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep. 78 Why Do You Hesitate to Decenter Men?

Welcome to another thought-provoking episode of Charlie's Toolbox! In this week's installment, we delve into the intriguing topic of decentering men and the palpable hesitation that often accompanies such discussions. Our host has been immersing herself in the pages of "The Courage to be Disliked," exploring the concept of teleology. This philosophy interprets actions and behaviors based on the purpose they serve rather than the causes that trigger them. As we apply this lens to the theme of decentering men, our host reflects on the hesitations many women experience and asks the pivotal question: What purpose does this hesitation serve? Join us as we unravel three compelling reasons behind this hesitation, recognizing that this list is by no means exhaustive but serves as a catalyst for contemplation. It's a conversation that challenges norms and encourages introspection, empowering women to navigate the complexities of societal expectations. Tune in, ponder, and let's embark on this enlightening journey together. 🌟 #CharliesToolbox #DecenteringMen #Empowerment #PodcastDiscussion
1/8/202412 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep.77 Emotional Investments & Your Emotional Portfolio

Step into the world of "Emotional Investments & Your Emotional Portfolio," an episode that unravels the subtle dynamics of strategic emotional navigation. Join us on this brief yet impactful journey, where we explore the art of channeling your emotional resources with precision. In this episode, we share insights and practical strategies to guide you in making thoughtful emotional investments. From cultivating self-awareness to fostering meaningful connections, discover the key elements of building a resilient and fulfilling emotional portfolio. Tune in for a concise yet powerful exploration that empowers you to invest wisely in your emotional well-being.
12/31/20231 hour, 3 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 76 Holding onto Hope in a World of Darkness

In this thought-provoking episode of Charlie's Toolbox, we delve deep into the significance of holding onto the light in a world often overshadowed by darkness. Join me as I explore the reasons behind this timely discussion and the importance of maintaining hope amidst challenging circumstances. The inspiration for this episode is twofold: first, the topic is often overlooked, and second, it aligns with the ongoing humanitarian crisis in Palestine. We're bombarded daily with distressing news, making it increasingly challenging to maintain a positive outlook in a world seemingly overrun by wickedness. You might find yourself understandably disheartened, especially if you feel powerless, devoid of influence, or lacking the means to alleviate global issues. So, what do you do in such a situation? We'll discuss the alternatives, emphasizing the need to embrace the light as a catalyst for change and envision a brighter future.
10/30/202317 minutes, 45 seconds
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Ep. 75 Don’t Let Self-haters Dim Your Light

Welcome to another episode of Charlie's Toolbox, where we prioritize your needs and help you center yourself. In this week's episode, we discuss an important topic that affects so many of us: refusing to let others dim your light. We've all experienced hurtful behavior from others, but it's essential to remember that it has nothing to do with us. We should never let anyone dim our light, and we want to help you recognize this behavior quickly so that you don't waste your time accommodating it. Join us as we share our insights and practical tools to help you shine your brightest and stay grounded in your truth. Tune in to the latest episode of Charlie's Toolbox now!
10/23/20237 minutes, 12 seconds
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Ep. 74 Me-Supremacy: The benefits and cost of prioritizing yourself.

Welcome to this week's episode of our podcast! Today, we will be discussing the topic of prioritizing yourself and what it entails. In this episode, we'll explore the advantages and disadvantages of putting yourself first, allowing you to make informed decisions about how to best take care of yourself. By the end of this episode, you'll have a better understanding of what you can expect when you prioritize yourself and how it can positively impact your life. So, sit back, relax, and let's dive in!   Link to the transcript: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/post/me-supremacy-the-benefits-and-cost-of-prioritizing-yourself
10/15/202315 minutes, 16 seconds
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Ep. 73 What’s Zapping All Your Energy? Let’s Find Out!

In this episode, we explore how we use our energy on others and why it can make us feel drained. We'll break down the reasons behind this common experience and provide practical tips to help you manage your energy better, leading to a more fulfilling life.
10/10/202311 minutes, 20 seconds
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Ep. 72 How to Accept the Unlikeable Within

Welcome to this week's episode of Charlie's Toolbox! In today's insightful discussion, we're diving deep into a topic that's both universal and profoundly personal: self-acceptance. Many of us find it relatively easy to embrace our strengths and best qualities, but what about the aspects of ourselves that we wish were different? Those hidden facets we might be embarrassed to admit even exist? The qualities we observe in others and secretly yearn to possess? Today, we're peeling back the layers and exploring the often challenging journey of accepting every part of ourselves, even the ones we'd trade away in an instant to be something else. Join us as we navigate the complex terrain of self-acceptance, sharing personal stories, practical tips, and expert insights to help you embark on your own path toward embracing imperfection and becoming more authentically you. It's a journey of self-discovery, growth, and self-love that you won't want to miss. Tune in now!
10/2/202310 minutes, 48 seconds
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Ep. 71 Decentering Men: Why Your Motivations Matter

Discover the power of "Decentering Men" and why your motivations hold the key to true empowerment. Join us in this eye-opening podcast episode as we delve into the trending concept of decentering men and its underlying implications. Unravel the subtle nuances that arise when your motivation to decenter men is driven by the desire for a "better man." Join us as we challenge some motivators and bring to light the impact of subtly including men's expectations in decentering men. Remember, true decentering means liberating your thoughts from the influence of patriarchy, rather than seeking validation or appeal in the eyes of a better man.  
7/21/202318 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ep. 70 What to Expect In Your 30’s

Discover what to expect in your 30s as we delve into this exciting phase of life. This insightful video explores the significant changes, challenges, and opportunities of entering your 30s. Gain valuable insights on personal growth, relationships, and much more. Whether you're approaching this milestone or navigating through your 30s, join us to gain valuable knowledge and practical advice to make the most out of this transformative decade.  Don't miss out on this must-watch video!
7/6/202310 minutes, 20 seconds
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Ep. 69 Learning How to Cope after years of emotional neglect

In this episode, join us as we delve into the journey of learning how to cope after enduring years of emotional neglect. Discover effective strategies, personal insights, and empowering advice to help you navigate the healing process and find inner strength. Don't miss this empowering episode filled with valuable insights and encouragement.
6/30/20230
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Ep. 68 Recognizing Red Flags and Letting Go of Past Relationship Trauma

Welcome to another enlightening episode of Charlie's Toolbox! In today's fascinating discussion, we tackle a topic that resonates deeply with both women and men: distinguishing between relationship red-flags and the lingering fears from our past. Join us as we unravel the complexities of this common experience and shed light on a path toward healing and growth. Many of us have journeyed through the dark alleys of unhealthy or failed relationships. We've endured heartbreak, learned valuable lessons, and emerged stronger. However, as we venture into new romantic territory, we often find ourselves walking on a tightrope of apprehension and hypervigilance. Why is it that we struggle to trust again, fearing that history might repeat itself? In this episode, we delve into the intricacies of this phenomenon, acknowledging the internal conflicts that arise within us. Together, we explore the notion that our hypervigilance stems from an unhealed part of ourselves that still clings to past pain and trauma. By addressing these wounds head-on, we can gradually make peace with our past and free ourselves from the grip of fear.
6/21/202312 minutes, 24 seconds
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Ep. 67 Why You Shouldn’t Dim Your Light Around Friends

In this thought-provoking video, we delve into an important aspect of personal growth and self-expression: why you should never dim your light around your friends. Society often encourages us to conform, blend in, and downplay our achievements to avoid making others feel inadequate. But is that truly the path to happiness and fulfillment? Join us as we explore the reasons why embracing your brilliance is essential for your personal development and the well-being of your friendships. Discover how hiding your true talents, passions, and successes can inadvertently hinder your own growth and negatively impact your relationships. #EmbraceYourLight #PersonalGrowth #AuthenticFriendships
6/9/20239 minutes, 28 seconds
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Ep. 66 Preparing for a Pivot: Practical Steps for Success

In the previous episode, we guided you through introspective questions to ensure your pivot is driven by self-care rather than escapism. Now, in part 2, we delve deeper into the crucial skillsets required to not just survive but thrive during a pivot. Join us as we explore the transformative power of these skills and uncover why they are vital for your success. Get ready to embark on a journey of growth and empowerment!
6/4/202311 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ep. 65 Pivoting to a New Life: What You Must Know

Today we talk about creating a new life and the moments that inspire you to take that action. I thought this was a great topic to cover because it is something that I am currently going through and action that I have always taken my whole life. It’s also something my mother taught me. Whenever she felt stagnant, unhappy, or in need of new energy, she’d pivot. So, in this episode, I want to let you in on pivoting and how to ensure you are pivoting to do the work, instead of running away from your problem.
6/2/202314 minutes, 20 seconds
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Ep. 64 Why Performing for Men Will Hurt You

In this episode, we discuss the cost of performing for men.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...   #decentermen #dating #selfhelp.   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
5/3/202314 minutes, 28 seconds
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Ep. 63 Emergency Emotional Kits

In this episode, I teach you how to create a plan to make sure you are kind to yourself when you are feeling bad. Often we don’t naturally gravitate towards healthy, loving, or affirming actions while feeling low, so you will develop an emergency kit that shows you step-by-step what to do when you experiencing a low. Basically, you are developing notes like the parent who provides the babysitter with notes on how to handle the inner angry or sad child that are you. So, I want to teach you all how to develop that for yourself. For more tools on dating and centering yourself   on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... #decentermen #dating #selfhelp. Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
5/3/202317 minutes, 24 seconds
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Ep. 62 How to Have a Healthy Relationship with Rejection

We all know rejection hurts. It hurts so much that according to psychologist Sheila Robinson-Kiss rejection triggers the same area in the brain as physical and emotional pain. So, it makes sense that we want to avoid it at all costs, because who wants to feel that pain, and who wants to avoid the painful story our brain created to continue to crush us? In this episode, we discuss some strategies to help you feel empowered after rejection.   For more resources: Charliestoolbox.com     #datingadvice #rejection #decentermen
4/26/20238 minutes, 58 seconds
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How to Stop Seeking Male Validation Part 2.

Male validation makes us feel special, worthy, beautiful, desired, and like a full person because it was designed that way. Part 1. I discussed some of the reasons why we seek male validation. Part 2. I will some easy lifts to help you decrease your need for male validation.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... #decentermen 
4/18/202325 minutes, 12 seconds
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Ep. 60 How To Stop Seeking Male Validation Part 1.

In this episode, I investigate why we seek male validation.   In Part 2, I discuss options and exercises to help you stop seeking male validation. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/  Twitter:  https://www.charliestoolbox.com/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...  #decentermen #dating #selfhelp. Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on:  Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast:  https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast...  Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
4/13/202318 minutes, 38 seconds
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Ep. 59 Women Centering Themselves With Shelby Ivey Christie

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In this episode, we interview Shelby Ivey Christie, an American fashion and costume historian.
3/29/202331 minutes, 36 seconds
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Ep. 58 Women Centering Themselves With Tyler Young

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. We interview Tyler Young, a documentarian, screenwriter, producer, and director, in this episode.   Check out our YouTube : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCcoaZsMO2Inhy5vO8BNNqiQ
3/22/202339 minutes, 14 seconds
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Ep. 57 Covid Depression And My Fight To Be The Best Me

This episode is a little unorthodox. I’ve done a great job on Twitter and Instagram letting folks know that I am human. I like this because I don’t want to be placed on a pedestal. I just want to give you all the tools I learned on the way so that you can bypass a lot of heartbreak or bullshit.  So, I want to keep that same understanding on here and let you all in on what is going on with me…  
3/19/202319 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep. 56 Women Centering Themselves With Cate Young

It's Women's History Month and as promised I have another interview. This interview was filled with vulnerability and I hope that you see strength in it. Remember, there are many facets to centering yourself, and being your authentic self everywhere is the best way
3/15/202351 minutes, 2 seconds
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Ep. 55 Women Centering Themselves With Valese Jones

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In the first episode, we are interviewing Valese Jones public relations extraordinaire
3/8/202343 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ep.54 Women Centering Themselves With Amina Aweis

Every day I receive questions about what it looks like to center yourself. I also receive complaints about how hard it is or how much women struggle to make decisions for themselves. So, I thought it would be a great idea to interview women from all backgrounds to show you that centering yourself is not as complex as it seems. In the first episode, we are interviewing Amina Aweis, a former software engineer who advocates for web accessibility.
3/1/202341 minutes, 30 seconds
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Ep. 53 Emotional Boundaries While Dating

This episode is for the hyper-aware who is ready to leave at the slightest inconvenience and the overly invested who takes every part of the dating process so personally. These two groups suffer from the same affliction trauma from relationships or childhood and a lack of emotional boundaries to help them cope with their dating anxieties.
2/22/202332 minutes, 5 seconds
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Ep. 52 How to Build Your Self-Worth

In today's episode, we discuss the road to building your self-worth. I thought this would be a great topic because it is an area that we all struggle with. This episode will outline several steps to help you strengthen your muscle of Self-Worth. Please use these tips and add them to your life toolbox. 
2/15/202328 minutes, 54 seconds
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Ep. 51 No More Single-Girl Holiday Blues Make This Time Yours!

In today's episode, we discuss the single-girl holiday blues. Lately, there’s been an overall gloom single people bring to the holidays. Mostly it is because you all see the girls with their partners happy, joyful, and receiving gifts. Their joy does not have to make you feel bad. Instead, you can have a different attitude about the holidays and lighten the mood for yourself.  
2/9/202316 minutes, 34 seconds
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Ep. 50 Managing Setbacks: Life Hacks to Help You Survive

There has been so much that people have gone through these past couple of years. People have experienced death, isolation, disruption to their everyday life, heartbreak, political unrest, failure, and the loss of their job. These moments are earth-shattering and have a profound effect on every one of us. Though I cannot make these situations easier, with less grief, and sadness, I can help you process them and move forward in a hopeful and optimistic way. You should leave this episode understanding that life is hard, but to keep your joy, you must find ways to process losses, learn, and try to find the hopeful side of every experience.   Youtube and podcasts Description box   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...  
2/3/202324 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ep. 49 Learning to Love or Appreciate Your Body

The new year comes with weight and body goals. Along with those goals is an increase in criticism, self-loathing, and an internal dialogue that would quite frankly crush you. The objective of this episode is to steer you in another direction and provide you with a set of tools to inspire appreciation for your body.
1/17/202314 minutes, 50 seconds
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Ep. 48 Dating Safely

Welcome to this week’s episode of Charlie’s toolbox. Today’s topic is safety. Physical and emotional safety. This is an interesting topic because I’ve seeing tips typically used by experienced sex workers passed off as dating advice. I worry about this because sex workers are not naïve about men, but you all are, and your naivety is something that can be preyed upon, exploited, and used as an opening for violence. So, you need to be clear about what safety is and what it is not.  
1/11/202332 minutes, 34 seconds
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Ep. 47 How to Cope with Friendship Betrayal

This week we are going to discuss what to do when a friend betrays you. This is a timely discussion because there's been an upswing in videos discussing the heartbreak of losing someone you once thought was a friend. By the end of the episode, you should leave this with solid tips on how to cope with losing a friend you once loved. 
1/3/202334 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ep. 46 The Elements of a Good Friendship

In this episode, I discuss five elements required to create a good foundation for friendship. By the end of the episode, you should be able to articulate your needs and expectations for your friends. You should also send this episode to friends to help them tell their needs and expectations as well. The objective of this episode is to help you think clearly about friendships and to ensure you've laid the proper foundation for a loving one. 
12/13/202224 minutes, 32 seconds
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Ep. 45 There is No Cut-off Age for Joy

This episode is all about aging. We take a deep dive into aging what models we use to shape our new identity, and how difficult aging can be for women. You should leave this episode with a new model of aging, a deeper understanding of why we view aging in such dread, and tips on keeping your joy and hope intact while aging gracefully. Time Stamps: Intro:22 About Me:51 Song of the Week: 2:21 Main topic 3:30 Tips 12:24 For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/
11/5/202219 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 44 Suffering is Not Your Birthright Even if Your Parents Made You Feel Like It Is.

In this episode, I discuss how parenting impacts the way you see suffering. I help you understand why we should be more critical on parents because it impacts children so much. You should leave this episode knowing that suffering isn't your birthright and that your parents owe you more. 
10/28/202224 minutes, 24 seconds
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Ep. 43 Usefulness is Not How You Build Relationships

In this episode, I discuss why using usefulness to build relationships is not a healthy strategy for healthy relating. This episode shows how you develop this thought process. It walks through two parenting frameworks, and shows you how each framework shapes your relationship skills. Lastly, I provide tips to help you work on rewriting that thought process. At the end of this episode, you should know how  parenting frameworks show up in adults and impact their relationships.    Time Stamps: 01:15 What's going on in my world 07:40 Song of the week 08:43 Main Topic: Usefulness and Relationships  how we develop the framework of
10/14/202233 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 42 What does it look like when you are decentering men?

In this episode, I discuss what decentering men looks like. Unfortunately, there aren’t a lot of examples, and we don’t always discuss the steps it took to get to a space where men aren’t shattering or directing your life. After this episode, you should have insight into what decentering men looks like. What questions to ask yourself while in the process.  Also, you should use this episode to affirm the process you’ve already developed.
9/30/202229 minutes, 18 seconds
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Ep. 41 Cut it out, and Stop Entertaining Disrespect.

In this episode, I discuss the price of entertaining disrespect while dating. After this episode, you should have insight into what disinterest communicates to you. You should be able to see how hand-holding and guiding prospects through the dating process is harmful to your self-worth and disrespects you. Finally, I show what you are giving up when you try to coerce men through anger or tears into treating you with decency.  
9/16/202217 minutes, 34 seconds
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Ep. 40 Why You Should Never Betray Your Feelings

In this episode, I discuss your emotions, no matter how uncomfortable they may make you feel are you. They aren’t separate entities that you manage. They are signals that tell you what you enjoy, what’s pleasant, what you dislike, and what you don’t want around you. All of those things are what you choose friends from, community from, or hobbies from.  So, what do you think happens when you ignore them?
9/9/202223 minutes, 38 seconds
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Ep. 39 How Men Use Self-Help to Finesse Women

This episode discusses the new crop of narcissists using self-help tools to manipulate and exploit women.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...   #decentermen #dating #selfhelp.   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
8/26/202217 minutes, 52 seconds
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Ep. 38 Confidence: Cozy With Who I Am

In this episode, I discuss the elements of confidence, steps I took, the experiences that shaped me, the steps I suggest, and the results of the work.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
8/12/202224 minutes, 6 seconds
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Ep. 37 The Freedom of Letting Go of Pretty

In this episode, we discuss how consuming beautifying yourself becomes and the ways to subvert these standards and expectations so that you can feel good in your skin, as you are.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/       Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...  
8/8/202223 minutes, 12 seconds
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Ep. 36 Get the D!*k, But Only If You Want To

This week’s episode is good because we dive into the layered, delicious, and fun world of SEX. We talk about what happens when you decenter men and you want sex.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
7/22/202244 minutes, 56 seconds
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Ep.35 What Happens When High Functioning Women Realize They Are Depressed

In this week’s episode, I discuss high-functioning women, the moment they realize they are depressed, and what to do with those emotions after the realization.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
7/15/202226 minutes, 20 seconds
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Ep. 34 Choosing Yourself Is a Gift

In this episode, we explore the article "Confessions Of A Perpetually Single Woman" by Morgan Parker. I also discuss why you should choose yourself. Who you honor and who you dishonor when you don't. Finally, I discuss how to frame and accept the gift of choosing yourself.  For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/       Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
7/7/202230 minutes, 8 seconds
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Ep. 33 Three Types of Settling & How To Get Out Of It

In this episode, we discuss the three types of settling, what it looks like, and tips to get out of this habit.      For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... Tik Tok:https://m.tiktok.com/h5/share/usr/6959532984551425030.html?_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8w0wJKXmlRZ%2FvPqdpBTNCXiL6jls9SxIJ8GsG3xqIhCTHQwPwodhNTqYFn5V7Lby0LbEw6bNJqAD%2BVLt5GgA%3D&checksum=89c30396e9550d386ec9d3d221efac46c0b42c4076440679cdba272f7ad7e452&language=en&sec_uid=MS4wLjABAAAAVGCgLeqK-HC5jvm1VE0Sb6vfN2dAYsEJ6at6ruihL0wFhcJy1QjaW59KISfYsLz-&sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAVGCgLeqK-HC5jvm1VE0Sb6vfN2dAYsEJ6at6ruihL0wFhcJy1QjaW59KISfYsLz-&share_app_id=1233&share_author_id=6959532984551425030&share_link_id=FBC01DFA-4741-4736-AF19-471ECF0F5A05&tt_from=copy&u_code=did51k3hdhc8jb&user_id=6959532984551425030&utm_campaign=client_share&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=copy Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
6/30/202234 minutes, 3 seconds
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Ep. 32 Getting Back to You: The Art of Remembering Your Spark (Part 2.)

In part 1, we discussed the art of getting back to yourself. I asked you to acknowledge you are in a pandemic because that plays a role in your discontent or not feeling like you. I asked you to love your routine but also make space for spontaneity. Sometimes patterns can make your life feel dull. Finally, win small! Winning small feels like a jolt, and sometimes you need that jolt to make you feel good. To feel like you! Part 2. We will discuss your thoughts and your environment. There are particular ways they hinder you from feeling and being who you want to be.     For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... Tik Tok:https://m.tiktok.com/h5/share/usr/6959532984551425030.html?_d=secCgYIASAHKAESPgo8w0wJKXmlRZ%2FvPqdpBTNCXiL6jls9SxIJ8GsG3xqIhCTHQwPwodhNTqYFn5V7Lby0LbEw6bNJqAD%2BVLt5GgA%3D&checksum=89c30396e9550d386ec9d3d221efac46c0b42c4076440679cdba272f7ad7e452&language=en&sec_uid=MS4wLjABAAAAVGCgLeqK-HC5jvm1VE0Sb6vfN2dAYsEJ6at6ruihL0wFhcJy1QjaW59KISfYsLz-&sec_user_id=MS4wLjABAAAAVGCgLeqK-HC5jvm1VE0Sb6vfN2dAYsEJ6at6ruihL0wFhcJy1QjaW59KISfYsLz-&share_app_id=1233&share_author_id=6959532984551425030&share_link_id=FBC01DFA-4741-4736-AF19-471ECF0F5A05&tt_from=copy&u_code=did51k3hdhc8jb&user_id=6959532984551425030&utm_campaign=client_share&utm_medium=ios&utm_source=copy     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
4/28/202248 minutes, 32 seconds
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Ep. 31 Getting Back to You: The Art of Remembering Your Spark (Part 1.)

The pandemic has not only impacted many of us physically, but we've all experienced extreme grief that has caused many of us to lose the spark, the hunger, and the joy that once fueled us. This episode will discuss ways to navigate this feeling and tips to help spark some pleasure.      For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
4/7/202231 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 30 How To Process your Losses

In this episode, Charlie discusses ways to process your losses. When you fail, you keep all this doubt, pain, blame, or blame that looks like self-reflection, shame, and guilt inside. We don't have the tools or the space to learn how to accept our L's and move on from it without it impacting the hope of the future and the happiness of now. So, the question begs to be asked, how do we make peace with our past mistakes? How do we let go of shame? How do we move forward?
1/26/202213 minutes, 56 seconds
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Ep. 29 The Art of Choosing Yourself

In this episode, Charlie discusses the art of choosing yourself. Choosing yourself is an art that no one discusses. They do not tell you the how or the why. This episode will break down the steps to help you choose yourself.  I will also show you the benefit of that choice.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
1/5/202222 minutes, 2 seconds
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6 Types of Friendships That Can Make or Break You

No one talks about friendships or their dynamics, but friendships are not a one size fit all thing. Some fit a certain role. Some are worth keeping and Some friendships you have to close the door on it. So, how do you figure out which is which?   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo... Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
10/22/202120 minutes, 43 seconds
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Ep. 28 How to Decenter Men

Charlie discusses how to decenter men in your life.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0... #decentermen #selfhelp #dating
10/13/202113 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 27 Low Hanging Fruit and My Last Relationship

In this week, I discuss my past relationship. Every relationship we leave we find out how to strengthen a muscle that was weak or was never there. My last relationship was created for me to learn how to fully and truly honor myself. Listen here to find out what I learned....   Youtube and podcasts Description box   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
10/6/202114 minutes, 4 seconds
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Ep. 26 How To Be Ok With Not Being Liked

In this episode, Charlie discusses how to be yourself and not pay attention to what others think.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestoolboxx Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoolbox/   Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
9/29/20219 minutes, 24 seconds
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Ep. 25 Why Compassion is Necessary

In this episode, Charlie discusses the aftermath of a painful event and how compassion can aid in healing.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
9/22/202112 minutes, 44 seconds
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Ep. 24 Four Categories Of Women Who Love Men Too Much

In this episode, Charlie discusses women who love men too much and why they aren't good friends to have. She outlines four categories that you may have interacted with. She discusses what being their friend looks like. She also discusses why they won't be good friends to you. We may love women who love men too much, but those women don't always love you back.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...
9/15/202110 minutes, 33 seconds
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Ep. 23 Why We Perform in Relationships (Romantic and Non-Romantic)

In this episode, I investigate why you perform in relationships (romantic and non-romantic). I explore how that dynamic came to be. What it does to your spirit, and why you should let go of the performance. I hope you take something from this episode.  
8/25/202116 minutes, 53 seconds
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Ep. 22 Being Clear About Who You Are

I realized that sometimes, life gets the best of you. Sometimes there are big disruptive events that ruin your light or small mini-events that chip away at you. Sometimes you find yourself waking up in the morning dreading the day.  OR you wake up and replaying all the ways people have hurt you. Sometimes those things cause you to skew your vision of yourself and your future yourself. During those times you have to be clear about who you are, and use strategies to keep that person in tact.  For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
8/11/202121 minutes, 44 seconds
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Ep. 21 What Do You Do When You Are Tired Of Dating?

Dating is a hopeful game. Most of us do a good job at playing it cool, but underneath that indifference are people who really want to love and be loved. I am one of them and I'd like to discuss how sometimes hope is not enough.
8/4/202111 minutes, 52 seconds
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Ep. 20 Sometimes You Don’t Want To!

Pushing yourself to the limit is unhealthy. It does not mean anything to work till you have no energy. There is no beauty nor virtue in it. The only thing that is happening is that your body and mind are getting beat up. To stop that from happening, I've created an episode with handy tips to help you rest.  For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
7/28/202120 minutes, 54 seconds
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Ep. 19 The Difficulties of Embracing Peace

This week I want to discuss embracing peace and the struggle that shows up while embracing it.   What led me to this topic was my own life. Right now, my life is peaceful. I mean everything is going right. I am finding my passion in my work with Charlie’s Toolbox. The podcast is fun, the writing is fun, and the stories empower me. My dating life is peaceful. My relationships with my friends are peaceful. My family and I are for the most part peaceful. Everything is peaceful. However, though I am peaceful, I had this aching feeling that it would change. That once again I would find myself on the ground heaving, pleading to God to help me through it.  I could not fathom that peace could be mine, forever. Instead, I enjoyed my peace, while holding my breath. This episode discusses that feeling, why, and how to overcome it.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...            
7/14/202121 minutes, 38 seconds
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Ep. 18 Dear Over-Liker...

Dear Over-Liker why is liking someone such a bad thing? If you have self-respect, can you also give love freely? Can you feel excited about a new prospect and still live your life and not compromise your values? If you want to learn how, please listen to my podcasts...    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
7/7/202114 minutes, 38 seconds
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Ep. 17 How to feel stable while dating? Can you feel stable while dating?

Anxiety is natural. Anxiety about dating is natural. Everyone has it, but the difference between a person enjoying their date while being slightly anxious and the other who lets her anxiety ruin her dating experience is how they manage it. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
6/30/202117 minutes, 46 seconds
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Ep. 16 How To Make Your Life Magical

The truth is living in magic is harder than living without it. You have to decide if you want to live in magic, or if you’d prefer a different method. If you prefer to live in magic, you have to dedicate yourselves to even a glimmer of magic in life. So, how do we do that? How do we train our eyes, our hearts, and our souls to accept that magic can be found anywhere at any time and in any state of being? Listen to this episode to find out!  
6/23/202124 minutes, 20 seconds
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Ep. 15 Overcoming Self-Sabotage

Psychology Today defines self-sabotage as “Behavior that creates problems in daily life and interferes with long-standing goals. The most common self-sabotaging behaviors include procrastination, self-medication with drugs or alcohol, comfort eating, and forms of self-injury such as cutting.”  Many are not aware and don't know why they self-sabotage. In this episode, we discuss how to see your limiting actions and nurture them into actions that honor your highest self.   
6/15/202114 minutes, 16 seconds
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Ep. 14 Stop Worrying! It’s Just A Date.

The truth is…. Dating is hard, but it isn’t. It is hard when you are holding your breath, secretly waiting to be saved, validated by a partner. It is hard when one negative or ugly comment from a prospect sends you into a spiral. It is hard when you move your boundaries because this guy is GREAT! Even though you have no real way of knowing. It is especially hard when you feel that this is your only hope for happiness. However, It is easy when you’ve worked on yourself and know that this experience is for you. When you work on yourself, you don’t give weight to an opinion outside of yourself. When you know the experience is for you, you don’t audition instead you become the panel.   So, how do we date to make sure that dating is easy, listen here to find out!
6/10/202126 minutes, 2 seconds
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Ep.13 The Best Way To Understand Mistakes

This episode is dedicated to women who can’t quite make peace with their mistakes. In the next few minutes, I will go through tactics on how to better understand your mistakes. I will discuss the best ways to reframe them, find the lesson, and make peace with them.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
5/27/202116 minutes, 54 seconds
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Ep. 12 30-Year-Old Settling

30-year-old settling is subtle. Often only you know. Or your friends know, but love you too much to tell you this is not the best you can do. 30-year-old settling is not fully committing to mediocre, but sort of embracing it. Now, I understand that sometimes you just don’t have the fight in you, and good enough is well… good! But for those of you who want excellent, I have some tips to keep you going for when you just want to give up and settle. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...            
5/18/202113 minutes, 40 seconds
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Ep.11 Five Tips To Help You Construct Healthy Boundaries

This week we discuss boundaries. I thought this was a great topic to dive into because it’s one of those topics that you have to constantly reflect on and readjust. In this episode, I will provide a couple of gentle guidelines that will help you get started with enacting strong boundaries. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
5/12/202110 minutes, 44 seconds
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Ep. 10 How To Love Where You are In Life

How do you own your life, accept it, and even go so far as to find pleasure and joy in it? In this episode, I provide tools for you to own your life.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
5/4/202112 minutes, 4 seconds
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Ep. 9 How to Live a Self-Centered Life

A while ago I wrote a tweet that stated, “Girls, please be self-absorbed. I beg of you. It saves you from a lot of pain & heartbreak.” I had many women retweet, share on Instagram, and message me agreeing but asking how? In this episode, I will break down the contours of a self-centered life and by the end, you should have a full picture of what that looks like for you   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
4/30/202120 minutes, 19 seconds
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Ep: 8 Fearlessness

Fear is a powerful force. It is a response that warns or protects you from danger. Basically, its sole purpose is to help you survive. Fear is something we are supposed to have and it is extremely helpful. However, when exhausted and perverted, fear can be the very thing that stops you from enjoying life. In this episode, we will discuss methods to attack and confront fear.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
4/9/202111 minutes, 2 seconds
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Ep: 2 Planning for Vulnerability

This episode is for people who struggle with trusting themselves after a difficult breakup. Those folks who experience a traumatic heartbreak and decide to forego vulnerability because they suspect it is the cause of their immense pain. It is for the children of terrible caretakers, who weren't afforded the space to be vulnerable and loved unconditionally. It is hard to be vulnerable when this is your foundation. So, you have to do like you do everything else, plan for it. This episode is for the people who hate being vulnerable, don't know how to be vulnerable, and folks who are struggling with vulnerability. I teach you how to break down vulnerability so that you can trust that you will be able to do it and safely.        
4/9/202120 minutes, 52 seconds
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Ep: 7 Getting Up After Hardship

So many of us fail, but we don’t openly talk about it due to shame and embarrassment. A failure can have your stomach in knots. It can zap your energy and have you in a sunken place where you ask yourself “why bother?” So, the question begs to be asked how do you get up when you have no life force? In this episode, I hope to give you some strategies so that you can gain the energy back to be yourself or to be a better version of yourself.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...              
3/23/202122 minutes, 56 seconds
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Ep: 6 Carefrontation

In this episode, we discuss the topic of Carefrontation. We discuss its definition. When to use it and why to use it... Carefrontation is another way to understand confrontation. It is from a place of love. You love yourself so much that with every interaction and space you enter in, you notify those around you of how you want to be treated. For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...            
3/16/202117 minutes, 51 seconds
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Ep: 5 The Power of NO

When we learn about the power of no, we often do so by having it removed from us. We are either told it is unladylike to say no (aka boys won’t like you) or we are abused by the people closest to us and feel as if we have no choice (aka do this to keep the family functioning). As a result, we go along with things we hate. Date people, we don’t like. Develop no boundaries and allow people to impede on the things we need. In this episode, we are going to address some of these fears, teach you what no is, the cost of not saying no, and finally, we will go over strategies on how to say no or phrases that will help get you there.   For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
3/8/202117 minutes, 41 seconds
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Ep: 4 Choose an Authentic Life

Are you hiding who you are because you think people will not like you? Do you think the mask you put on is more likable? Why do you think that? Why do you think you are not worthy of being seen? Why must you put on a mask to be liked, cared for, or interested in? In this episode, we discuss the benefits of living an authentic life and the tools to take you there.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
3/2/202129 minutes, 58 seconds
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Ep: 3 Jealousy & Envy vs. Inspiration

In this episode, we discuss two emotions we are often ashamed of Jealousy and Envy. We look at the source, break down why. Finally, we are going to solve this dilemma and teach you how to draw inspiration instead.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
2/24/202124 minutes, 29 seconds
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Ep: 1 Mistakes, Core Belief, and Self-Esteem

In this episode, I talk about processing mistakes. I discuss where we learn to process mistakes. Where that framework shows up in life. Why it is harmful to your growth. Finally, we learn a healthier more productive way to process mistakes.    For more tools on dating and centering yourself on: https://www.charliestoolbox.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliestoolbox Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/charliestool... Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/charliestoo...     Listen to Charlie's Toolbox on: Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7cQHIKl... Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Google Podcasts: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0...          
2/9/202110 minutes, 21 seconds