Here come the questions and here comes cuffing season. Lets' talk about how to enter this season with a helpful mindset!

How does a Godly man act? Who should I be to attract a Godly Man?Both good questions that Tamika answers in this episode!All socials: @ tamikathomas Website: tuesdaywithtamika.com

Ghosting is not the move. In this episode Sonata talks about how and why to let people down gently.

Jay speaks about his book called Unwanted that is informed by his understanding of the gospel and his own clinical work addressing unwanted sexual behavior from a very loving and gracious approach. Jay's Info: https://jay-stringer.com/ Social Media: @Jay_stringer_ The Parallel: @theparallelpod DM "God's Plan"Godly Pleasure Event Pre-Event Call: https://calendly.com/sonata-allison/preevent

When we allow our insecurities to choose our romantic partners it will always leave us disappointed and unsatisfied. Link for Pre-Event Call: https://calendly.com/sonata-allison/preevent Socials: @theparallelpod Hope to chat soon!

Shelly shared her woe to woman having premarital sex as well as her testimony of how turning back to God can turn a hard situation into a story of God being ever-present and his provision.

Have you ever thought that you might be using masturbation as a coping skill? 🤯 When we understand the root of our sexual behavior it is easier to respond in healthy ways.

We've all heard to words "six figures" thrown around a lot. Might there be a better goal in mind to achieve what you are really asking for? In this episode:- We talk about what you might really be saying when you say "He has to make six figures". - What might actually be more of your hearts desire-Having money doesn't always equate to financially wiseSocials:@laurenmatheus

You NEED to be here. There are many reasons the Lord put you on this earth and when you dont beleive this truth, you miss opportunities to love God, love others, and love yourself.

Destanee speaks about her abortion story and the role the Lord played in her life after she made that decision. Destanee's Socials : @powerintheprosepodcast@zestofdes

Than what? Than everything....yes, even sex! When the Holy Spirit reminded me of this one thing, my life became so much more peaceful.

In this episode Sonata speaks with Ngina Otiende about what abuse is, red flags to look for, and Ngina shares a lot of helpful resources as well. Resources below:Helpful communities and resources for those in chronically problematic marriages1. (free) Find out if you’re in an emotionally abusive Christian marriage by taking the free emotional abuse quiz. By Natalie Hoffman, Flying Free www.emotionalabusequiz.com2. (free) Explore the different categories of mistreatment and danger that are all part of abuse and Domestic Violence. Free resource by Sarah McDugal https://www.wildernesstowild.com/is-it-abuse3. (For pastors and leaders) Is your church as safe as you think it is? Safer Churches seminar https://www.wildernesstowild.com/safer-churches-seminar4. (free) “Is this Abuse?” The 6 Step Guide to Uncovering Hidden/Covert Abuse by https://www.confusiontoclaritynow.com/guideSafe websites/pages for learning about abuse and trauma (or just how a healthy marriage ought not to look like(- Patrick Weaver Ministries https://www.facebook.com/patrickweaverministries- Bare Marriage https://baremarriage.com/- Marg Mowczko (theology website) https://margmowczko.com/- Psalm 82 Initiative training churches to recognize abuse and care for the abused https://www.psalm82initiative.org/Books I mentionedThe Great Sex Rescue (Amazon)She Deserves Better (Amazon)Systems of Abuse: A Guide to Recognizing Toxic Behavior Patterns www.wildernesstowild.com/systems-of-abuse-a-guide-to-recognizing-toxic-behavior-patterns/wmurs

Your confidence can be rooted in things that will never change and truths about yourself that you may struggle to believe but will never cease to be true.

Sonata spoke about different skills that go into loving others romantically and platonically.

Spoke with Sarah Sorenson about how she handled sharing her mental health while dating , how her now husband responded to it and how it's effected her marriage.

Has God promised you something and its taking so long that you have started to question God or if you even interpreted it correctly in the first place? You're not alone. There are so many people in the bible that have experienced something similar to that and can understand the struggle in the waiting.

Can Christians dance with each other...? Is Dancing a sin? For whatever reason some churches have different views on dancing. In this episode, we talk about dancing in scripture and how dancing can reflect communication and relationships. Lauren's Socials: @laurenmatthuesWebsite: Laurenmathues.com

If you are a human you know how hard it is to wait. This episode is somewhat of a lament but hopefully an encouragement in the wait.

A chat about the evolution of woman reading their word, where to start if you haven't, and different resources to help.Wiggy's Socials : @thewordwithwiggyYoutube: WiggyTV

When we have a better understanding of what to expect from life and from the world it can make things more bearable and id even say easier. One of those things we have to understand is suffering. Socials: @theparallelpod

In this episode Corey & Kiana speak about the transition to abstinence, how they prepared for marriage, and newlywed adjustments. Socials: Instagram & Tiktok : @clhgreene & Keekz.coBooks to Prepare for Relationships: https://www.amazon.com/shop/clhgreene?ref_=cm_sw_r_apin_aipsfshop_aipsfclhgreene_VVFHXS11DQTX4DXYB5K7

The answer should be no...but why? Knowing the "why" behind things helps with follow through so thats what we'll be talking about today. Socials: @theparallelpod

Michaela shares her story of how her sexualized childhood shaped her worldview and how the Lord redeemed it all. Michaela's Social Media: @michaelanikolaenkoParallel : @theparallelpod

Wisdom is always looking to be found and with wisdom comes wise decisions and less opportunity for unnecessary heartbreak.Socials: @theparallelpod

Your beauty is not for your gain alone but an opportunity to attract people to Christ.PARALLEL MERCH - https://theparallelpod.myshopify.com/collections/all Follow - @theparallelpod

Christians should be having the best sex because it was literally made for us. In this episode, Angela speaks about how to cultivate a healthy sex life for all stages of marriage and even conversations before. Angela's social : The Christian Sexpert Tiktok: @thechristians_xpert

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Indulging in the same sin struggles is not an activity to do with your Christian friends. It's a wasted opportunity to be the church to each other. To love well, to hold each other accountable.

In this episode myself and the HILARIOUS Shama Mrema speak about his success, discipleship in dating, kite flying and morehttps://www.shamamrema.com Shama Mrema's Socials : @shama4realz

Christian can be so scared of sinning that we miss out on appropriate ways of being intimate without having sex. In todays episode I speak about a few ways to cultivate non sexual intimacy.@theparallelpod

Yes, the wait for anything is hard but could it be more bearable if we keep our eyes on the one who is shepherding us through it all?

The garden on Eden is where it all started and the bible uses metaphors that relate to our lives and how we should live to gardening. We speak about how Jerrold came to have this talent and how it's impacted his relationship with the Lord.@beyondorganicgardening

There are questions that need answers and I speak about the most important questions to be asking early on in Christian dating. Tik Tok Dating Questions - https://www.tiktok.com/@theparallelpod/video/7151479170688716075?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=7124034749036168747Link to @girldefined questions - https://www.instagram.com/p/CivlMyaPAi8/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

"God told me we shouldn't date" The Christian dating space can help filter out some of the unfit bachelors...but it can also be as toxic as any other dating space.Detox Christian Dating - https://www.amazon.com/Detox-Christian-Dating-Examination-Detoxification/dp/0578935988/ref=asc_df_0578935988/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=564689542723&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=5153585037336475686&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9011759&hvtargid=pla-1463537013984&psc=1

Even in the striving to be more like Christ in every way, in a world that derives worth from work, we are still called to rest...Song List: Communion - Maverick and Steffany Gretzinger , Finally Found It - Austin David, “A God Who Sees” by Jason Upton , Closer - sang by Amanda Cook, My Soul Sings - Dante Bowe, Safe Retreat by Kings Kaleidoscope Spotify Playlist - https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1WWkwF5UEdceb7MwNT3oXA?si=6c015b45932245ea

This episode addresses Meghans mindset behind having an abnormal number of kids in this day and age and different things that come with the territory...and we get a cute interruption at the end of the episode haha Socials - @meghanjoytoday Blog - Meghanjoyyancy.comVisual episode https://youtu.be/tOoHL3MPqtA

Might there me more to "waiting" than just saving yourself sexually? The bible speak about guarding your heart and I think saving yourself emotionally is just as saving yourself sexually.Socials: @theparallelpod

In this episode I speak to childlikemanny about his talent and how he uses it to honor the Lord but also about what he wished he knew sooner about christian sexuality.Follow HIM @childlikemanny

Pleasure was God's intended design for his children, and the world we live in, but the devil delights in the confusion and warped understanding of that. Socials: @theparallelpod

Money issues are in the top 5 reasons that people get divorced and if you're wondering what this has to do with sexuality, when couples start to have conflicts, sex is one of the first things to go. Your relationship with money is an important topic to speak about before marriage, so let's talk about it.Video episode: https://youtu.be/7uCMlLDZgEICherie's socials: @thelittlecpa@theparallelpod

Could you be playing a part in the role that temptation plays in your life? In today's episode, I speak about different areas to assess and some food for thought. Socials: @theparallelpod

Is Vulnerability supposed to be scary? Does Every relationship have some level of hurt? Lets talk about it.Visual Episode: https://youtu.be/S-WKAkwtm3gAmanda's social: @theetherapistbae

I think naivety has caused a lot of Christians to enter into long term relationships prematurely but if you are mindful of these 5 standard you'll be better off. Also side note, I HIGHLY recommend pre-marital therapy.Socials: @theparallelpod

Got to chat with Maxine who created "We Met IRL" a singles mixer made with POC in mind. We speak about the development of the idea, the christian mixer, and what to expect from @wemetirl Visual Episode: https://youtu.be/zslZ7dipEng

Are you forfeiting opportunities because you're fearful it will hinder you from finding your husband or just simply been too focused on finding a man that its become your main priority in life? Let's chat about it. Anonymous Question link - https://ngl.link/theparallelpodYoutube - https://www.youtube.com/user/natajoy95/featured

Dating can be hard in general so I imagine that being a single parent on top of that might add some difficulty. We speak about young fatherhood, premarital sex, and baby mothers.Visual: https://youtu.be/Qsh5uTeA0T4

I think if your view of worship is skewed it is way easier to compartmentalize your life and to misunderstand the blessing of sex in the correct context.Socials: Theparallelpod Visual epidodes : https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCvphOgFC60T4kBS-lNNDXiA

We spoke about how lack of sex education can effect marriage and also how there is always opportunity for growth. We discussed what a marriage needs to last...as well as a birthday massagevideo link: https://youtu.be/wDZaFhJhbJwGuests Socials: Beleaf in Fatherhood How Married Are YouEmail Blasts : Honor Self Beauty

I think a lot of the time we get caught up in our lack that we forget that we still serve a God who provides for us in other ways and is always working everything for our good.Socials: @Theparallelpod

Some christians treat abstaining from sex as the key to a successful marriage but is there more that is required? Stay tuned.Video link: https://youtu.be/iiiG_xdBN-M Tik tok & Instagram : @Theparallelpod

Sometimes being obedient can save you from a lot of heart ache. There is always room for grace but there is also always room for self-control. The parallel socials: @theparallelpod

We spoke about sexual abuse from the male perspective and the role that advocates can play.You can join the survivors circle here : https://www.facebook.com/groups/survivorscircle/?ref=share Rich Griffis: https://www.crowned-life.com/https://www.facebook.com/griffis336/ (or search Rich Griffis)De'Quon H. White - on FacebookMentor & Writer - @Robertmarshalljr on social media

When is it time to go to therapy and what can you expect? We discuss that in todays episode!Socials: @theparallelpod

Have you ever wondered what the conversation about sex and relationship looks like after having a baby? Tune in to this great conversation. Sex after the baby, reassurance in marriage, and healthy conversationsvideo episode: https://youtu.be/q8uMD8SWpdM

Empathy is not the only important aspect to emotional intelligence. This episode speaks about the 4 factors to emotional intelligence.Book: Emotional Intelligence 2.0 by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves Socials: @theparallelpod

Did you know you are allowed to have sexual boundaries within your marriage and committed relationships as well? A lot of church rhetoric has taught that woman just have to give themselves to their husbands every desire and we'll talk about that in todays episodeSocials: @theparallelpod

Men are stuck between "don't cry" and "be more caring and vulnerable" and in this episode we speak about that dilemma, how we got here, and how men can navigate emotionality.Socials: @theparallelpodYoutube: The ParallelPod

I love the 5 love languages but I think there are deeper love languages that speak to the heart of love more directly and allow for more productive conversations.Socials: @theparallelpod

This is for all the woman struggling to overcome porn addiction. Hopefully, this will provide some clarity and a reminder that you are still loved in the midst of it.https://www.stormandarmor.com The Parallel socials: @theparallelpod

Have you confused people pleasing with being "nice"? This thought process may be hindering your success in relationships. Socials: @theparallelpodPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Have you ever wished that you can meet a Christian man in person but considering the odds of him just walking up to you in public slime to none, you've kind of given up on the whole idea? Well that's why I love the idea of IYKYK.Dating. Listen for more info. Socials: @IYKYK.dating

It's sinful to have sex before marriage but it it sinful to think about it? Listen to this weeks episode to hear more. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Listen to hear Jo and Blaze's redemptive story of how the Lord stepped into their individual lives to create a beautiful union. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodSocials: The Parallelpod

Do you ever feel shame when you talk to God about your struggles? In this episode, I speak about how appropriate lamenting is in the life of a mature Christian.

In recent years feminism has taken a front seat in a lot of conversations. But I think it leaves the question, what effects has it had on masculinity? I speak with George Hines about it in this weeks episode.Video audio is more clear than this episode https://youtu.be/RZ1Bs2iyBg0insta and tik tok @theparallelpod

Providing a different perspective on modesty than the familiar don't cause your brother to stumble reasoningPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Young, Black, Christians Facebook Group : https://www.facebook.com/groups/965337533908535/Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodVideo Episode: https://youtu.be/wdHXhtIo3M4

In this episode we speak about important things you can't overlook in the dating process. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodSocial: @theparallelpod

Is chivalry dead? In this episode we address some practical ways that men can exhibit desired characteristic that would make a man a gentleman. Patreon:

Do you know the difference between shame and guilt? Knowing the difference may change your relationship with sin. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodSocial Media: Theparallelpod

The penny story highlights the issue of human sex trafficking in a way that is understandable and Kendall speaks about practical ways we can help. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodKendall Phillips Socials: @thepennystory & @kendallaphillipsThe Parallel Socials: Insta & Tik Tok @theparallelpod

How can you know you are asking for too much or too little from your significant other? Let's talk about it. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Do you want to have deep conversations that develop organically? These questions will help cultivate good conversation and understanding of the story behind the person. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodRob Howard socials: @mrhoward365

Can conversation about sexual attraction be common amongst dating Christians? I think so, and this episode explains why. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Are you tried of the advise from people in relationship? Let's talk about the proper response to the single struggle. Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/TheparallelpodFriendly Reminder! The Parallel will be taking a break for the month of December and will be returning January 4th!

Do you know your genitalia? I speak with Christian Sexologist Brittany Broddus-Smith about the importance of Christians getting to know their bodies and more...Where you can find Brittany:Social Media: @Theintimacyfirmhttps://www.theintimacyfirm.comPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

Are you spending most of your singleness waiting or serving the kingdom?Patreon : https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

In this episode, Sonata speaks to Magdala about her experience of same sex attraction, how she feels all Christians should have a "coming out" moment, and how the church should handle such topics. Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

In today's episode Sonata speaks about different things to consider before cohabitation with your significant other. Patreon link: https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

In this episode Sonata speaks about the different types of accountability and the benefits. Sonata also announced The Parallel's Patreon 🎉 Click the link below to join! https://www.patreon.com/Theparallelpod

In this episode, Sonata speaks about the negative stigma on being a helpmate and the honor of being a true helpmate.

Relationships are more than hot dates and words of affirmation, sometimes you have to give to receive.The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller https://amzn.to/2ZUVOKH

In this episode, Sonata has a conversation about opposite sex relationships with male guests as a remake to the original conversion on episode 14.

In this episode, Sonata speaks about Proverbs 31 from a different perspective of proverbs 31 not only being about the kind of woman that is sought after but the kind of man as well. New Morning Mercies Devotional:Hardcover: https://amzn.to/3hGJmmNLeather: https://amzn.to/2SVSxaUThe Holiness of God by R.C. Sproul https://amzn.to/3qWwJbB

In todays episode, Sonata speaks about codependence from a Christian perspective and how it effects how we relate to others as well as to Jesus. Attachment styles are discussed and how securely attach to others.

In this episode, Sonata speaks with George Hines, the author of Strong Boys, Fragile Men, about passive men, how to be a confident man, and how to build a confident man.

In this episode Sonata speaks about the possibility that your real desire is to be touched and the root is not sex.

In this episode we speak about navigating dating apps as Christians, normalizing some experiences and talking about funny/weird ones.

In this episode Sonata speaks to guest Sarah about her unique experience with abuse, the church, and how the Lord allowed her to see her experience in a new light.

In this episode Sonata speaks to Amy and Josh about something that unexpectedly shook their marriage but created perseverance and growth in their relationship.

Sonata speaks about what it means to forgive and shares a perspective that will help you navigate forgiveness in a healthy manner. Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process For Resolving Anger and Restoring Hopehttps://amzn.to/3lmMrvZThe Parallel Hubhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/199767318451065New Morning Mercies Devotional:Hardcover: https://amzn.to/3hGJmmNLeather: https://amzn.to/2SVSxaU

In this episode Sonata speaks about how to navigate opposite sex friendships as Christians.The Parallel Hubhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/199767318451065New Morning Mercies Devotional:Hardcover: https://amzn.to/3hGJmmNLeather: https://amzn.to/2SVSxaU

In this episode, Sonata reviews a book called 7 Myths about singleness by Sam Allberry that gives a different perspective that will be helpful to the Chrisitan single person from any walk of life.7 Myths About Singlenesshttps://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1433561522/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=1433561522&linkCode=as2&tag=theparallelpo-20&linkId=c4619dda6de58b09b73270df7586e24a The Parallel Hubhttps://www.facebook.com/groups/199767318451065

In this episode Sonata discusses the effects of pornography on your relationship with yourself, others, and your relationship with Jesus.Resource for Fighting pornography addiction:Fightthenewdrug.org Other resources will be shared on instagram @theparallelpodBradford's instagram: @Gotthememo407New Morning Mercies Devotional:Hardcover: https://amzn.to/3hGJmmNLeather: https://amzn.to/2SVSxaU

In this episode Sonata speaks about the parallel between earthly parental relationships and how they effect our relationship with our heavenly father.New Morning Mercies Devotional:Hardcover: https://amzn.to/3hGJmmNLeather: https://amzn.to/2SVSxaUThe Holiness of God by R.C. Sproul https://amzn.to/3qWwJbBThe Parallel Social Media - Instagram & Facebook: @theparallelpod

In this episode Sonata speaks about how to gain stable confidence and the importance of self love for the Christian individual.

This week sonata is speaking with John & Rebecca about their ability to save sexual intimacy until marriage and how you can do it too. Link to Detangling Brush: https://amzn.to/3wWIiC1 Follow The Parallel on instagram & Facebook : @theparallelpod

In this episode Sonata speaks about healthy confrontation and provides tools to help you improve your communication styles in relationships.

Sonata speaks about the relationship we can have with our bodies and the necessity of being comfortable speaking about sexuality.

Sonata speaks about the importance of being equally yoked from a unique angle. Being equally yoked to the people in your life is important but most importantly, are you equally yoked to Jesus? Instagram: @theparallelpod

In this episode Sonata normalizes sexual desire and addresses the complicated topic of masturbation.Follow The Parallel on instagram & Facebook- @theparallelpod Thank you for listening, I pray this episode blesses you.

Sonata and Shelby speak about different aspects of being a virgin including temptation, legalism, and the idea of being "hidden".The Parallel Podcast Instagram: @theparallelpod

Sonata speaks about the importance of being intentional with platonic relationships and how maintaining platonic relationships can lend to the health of romantic relationships. The Parallel Podcast Instagram: @theparallelpod

Kim Moore is a public speaker and author. She recently released her book called Unlock the Secret to Lasting Intimacy that does a deep dive on the Song of Solomon. She shares about her research on the marriage bed and the celebration of sex in this episode. You can order Unlock the Secret to Lasting Intimacy on the website below:Website:  https://kimmoore.net/  Kim Moore's socials:Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/KimMooreAuthorSpeaker Twitter: https://twitter.com/romanceit  LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kim-moore-62a535178/

In this episode Sonata speaks about the true meaning of purity and the concept of chastity.

Sonata speaks about what you can expect from the podcast and the "why" behind it.