This is the end. Or is it? In this episode, Justin and Blair reminisce about The Liberation Project...and all it has meant for them and the listeners. This is a no miss episode about "A Movement for Manhood" and all we should take away from the podcast.

All good things must come to an end. The Liberation Project, after over three years, is ending. It is a bittersweet announcement for us, and we hope you'll join us for the last few episodes. In this episode, we discuss some of your burning questions...and talk about what's next! 

In this festive episode, we dive deep into the psyche of the Stumvolls. It's lighthearted but deep. Intriguing but entertaining. Just how a Christmas episode should be!

Want to have an incredible holidays season!? Simple, just follow these keys for making the most out of your holiday...and time with friends and family. These straightforward steps will give you peace of mind heading into this hectic season!

It's that time...holidays! For some, it's amazing! For others, it can be pretty dang stressful. In this episode, we share ask some great questions and discuss entertaining stories–all to help you have a brighter holiday season!

In this episode, Blair and Justin (with guest Abi Stumvoll) discuss how to recognize your season, and when it is shifting! The Stumvolls discuss their difficult season, and how it switched...suddenly! Learn about navigating your season in life in this powerful episode.

All of us have needs. And most the time they go unfulfilled. In this episode, Laura Duncan teaches us how to get our needs met in healthy ways...and why most of us are walking around relationally starving!

It's a birthday miracle! No, not really. But it is a surprise birthday interrogation for Justin! Today, we ask Justin a lot of questions...hard ones, easy ones, funny ones. You'll want to listen so you can ask these questions to your spouse, friends, or maybe even yourself. Happy Birthday big guy!

Dating's not easy. For anyone that's been "in the game," you know that dating can be trying, confusing, challenging, AND exciting! In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss dating...and specifically Blair's dating life. Ummm, yeah, this is going to be good!

What does it take to be a leader? Do we have to be perfect? Are we all supposed to be leaders? What if I mess up? Or feel unqualified? In this episode, Justin and Blair tackle these monster questions!

Is happiness truly happiness if we’re just choosing to turn a blind eye to the painful reality that exists right before us? In this episode we join Justin Stumvoll and special guest Marcus Miller as they explore Marcus’ happy go lucky attitude that Marcus spent most of his life using to hide from his pain. If you’ve lived a life of never being affected by anyone then you might have a case of hiding in happiness that is nothing more than an illusion. Now is the time to find a life full of real happiness without all the denial.

The Carr fire has ravaged much of California. This time, it is Northern California dealing with destruction and tragedy...but it will happen to all of us at some point. In this episode, Justin and Blair share their personal experiences with the fire, and talk about how to respond well to difficult situations!

How do you feel about money? Frustrated, stressed, excited, scared? Most of us have STRONG feelings about money, but it's often talked about in black and white terms: good or bad. In this episode, we discuss what it takes to create and maintain wealth...but also how to continue being an incredible person while you do it!

Money is the no. 1 reason that relationships fail. In this episode, we discuss the role of money in our lives, and how it affects our relationships. We share strategies and stories on how to handle money in any romantic relationship!

Life can be hard. REALLY hard. What does it take to create an incredible life despite life's obstacles and setbacks? Willpower? Wisdom? Community? We answer this question and more in this transformative episode.

In this highly vulnerable podcast, Justin candidly shares his wrestling with his circumstances, opportunities, and calling. Through his story, you'll learn how to accept your own talents and embrace your destiny...even when it challenges the status quo or those you love!

Do you know you were "born for more?" Do you feel like you have a giant within you that needs awakening? In this episode, we discuss the factors necessary to break out of "playing small"! 

Justin and Blair rapid fire HARD questions at one another. This very lighthearted (and occasionally deep) episode will be sure to make you laugh, think, and reflect. Follow along to answer these questions for yourself, OR invite a friend or significant other to answer these questions with you! Don't blame us if you're shocked by some of our answers. We're just keepin' it real.

In this VERY candid episode, Blair talks about his own battle with shame. Justin and Blair discuss what shame is, how it affects us, and what to do about it!

We've all been affected by divorce...whether directly, or indirectly. In this episode, we take this topic head-on, and discuss how we can respond to divorce from a place of health and wholeness!

Life is incredible. But we can miss a lot of our lives if we don't value and appreciate the time we have. In this episode, we discuss the passing of a friend, and how to make the most of our lives.

The movie, Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution was just released. Amongst other themes, the movie follows the "hook up" culture revolving around spring break. In this incredible interview, we talk with the filmmaker, Benji Nolot, and the main person highlighted in the film, Shay Ryan. We discuss the culture, the purpose of the film, and if anything can be done to deter destructive decisions!

All of us hit a funk now and then...or have a low season come out of nowhere. But we don't have to stay there! In this episode, we share some simple steps to re-connecting with our happiness and zest for life.

Rarely do we get the privilege of hearing the inside story of how someone's life fell apart, and how they put it back together again. In this highly vulnerable episode, Tyler shares his personal story of mistakes, and the road back to creating a beautiful life!

All of us want to let loose our inner wild side! In this episode, we talk with real jungle living, adventuring wild-man Forest Kerbow. Learn what it takes to reignite with your inner-adventurer! 

No more resolutions! Just listen to this episode to define the real you and get connected to your authentic, powerful self. In this gut-wrenchingly funny episode, Justin walks Blair through the process of identifying his core self (your avatar), and teaches you how to do the same!

In this comical episode, Justin and Blair discuss how to best "handle" going home for the holidays. They also share how to make crucial adjustments to ensure that they leave the baggage from 2017 behind, and are prepared to make 2018 a stellar year!

We all have hard seasons. These seasons challenge us, frustrate us, and can often rob us of our hope for the future. In this highly vulnerable episode, Justin shares about his darkest season...and the steps he took to get out of it, and learn from it!

Have you ever heard of Laura Duncan? If not, you are in for a paradigm shifting episode. She describes, in detail, what happens when we go through pain, how it affects us, and what to do about it. In straightforward language, she explains how to alleviate stress, emotional pain, and breakdowns in our relationships. Don't miss this one!

We all have big dreams, but there are inevitably massive obstacles standing in our way. In this episode, we interview Hollywood Director Michael Carney about his challenges launching the major motion picture “Same Kind of Different As Me”! He shares his personal journey, what drove him, and how to tap into creativity and the motivation to push through our personal barriers.

Is your life out of balance? Have you found that you don't have enough energy, you're stressed, or your relationships are out of whack? In this episode, we tackle the primary areas where we lose life balance and how to regain it!  

Harvey Weinstein. Hugh Hefner. The shakeup in the movie industry. Something disruptive is happening, and it is bringing to light sexual exploitation and objectification as never before! In this episode, we share about healthy responses to what is happening, give some ideas of where these perversions come from, and most importantly what WE can do about it.    

We all have denial...about something. Locating our "denial areas" can be one of the most liberating and life-enhancing things we can do! In this episode, we point out the various forms of denial, and how to root it out of our lives!

Have you ever been curious about undercover work? This week, we interview a person who covertly worked in the Middle East de-escalating violent groups. He shares his process to 1.) Understand your authentic identity, and 2.) Teaches how we can be empowered to change culture when we walk in it! 

This week on Catalina Island we talk beachside with David Pope, an identical twin and brother to five other men. We explore the complexities of feeling invisible amidst a lot of testosterone, as well as feeling invisible when one of your brothers is famous... Join us as we tackle the steps it takes to step out the shadow of Hercules in order to find ourselves and discover who we were made to be. You for sure won't want to miss this one!

This week we talk with Pastor Brian Tome, a very direct man’s man, who pulls no punches about the reality of what it is to be a man. As a pastor, Brian is a relatable breath of fresh air who approaches life and his faith in an very non-religious way. Brian is the pastor of the Mega Church known as Crossroads based in Cincinnati, with a congregation estimated at over 22,000 attendees. With all his wisdom, insight, and realness, it’s no wonder that he leads one of the fastest growing churches in America. This is a MUST listen to interview that will challenge every man to the core.

Dr. Dan Allender is a nationally known psychologist with over 3 decades of experience. He is a leading voice in relational and emotional recovery as well as the author of over a dozen books. In this episode he lends his sage wisdom to our listeners as he shares practical and profound ways to get emotional healing for ourselves, and to lead others into the same! If you've had a struggle personally, or are struggling romantically, this is the episode you must listen to!  

Sometimes movies have a deeper, more profound meaning. In "The Heart of Man," we're invited into exploring our darkest desires, and a road back from our mistakes. You won't want to miss this candid interview the movie's producers! 

Having trouble getting the body you want? In this episode, Taylor Robbins shares the physical, emotional, and spiritual strategies to getting in shape. His insights, and unorthodox approach, is sure to give you new momentum in creating the healthy life you've desired!

Relationships are hard. A lot don't survive. However, most relationships that fall apart have similar characteristics. By identifying them, and removing them, we can have vastly improved relationships! In this episode, we talk about seven of relationship's "poison pills."

Compassion may be the most underrated emotional health tool. It has the capacity to improve our relationships, free us emotionally, and set us on a collision course for the lives we want. In this episode, we break down compassion and how to apply it!

Have you ever wondered what Hollywood is really like from an insider? In this episode, Pierson Fode, two time Emmy nominated actor, shares with us his insiders perspective of Los Angeles. You'll hear the good, the bad, and the ugly from someone inside the industry. You won't want to miss this candid interview!

In this episode, we interview one of our all-time favorite clients. She epitomizes someone who took ownership of her life, and was willing to do what it took to create the life she wanted! We wanted to understand her process, and how she was able to differentiate herself from so many other people! We uncover some pretty phenomenal secrets!

Does life feel hard? Or are you in a difficult season? In this episode, we discuss the different seasons we face in life, and how our handling of them determines if we are happy or unhappy. If we can discern our current season, we can enjoy the fruits and ride out the storms! You can learn how in this episode.

Bullying seems to be an epidemic. Whether it's a kid in school, or a boss or co-worker, it seems like bullying is everywhere. We're waking up to to the pain of bullying, but are we addressing the root causes? In this episode, we dive into bullying and explain where bullying comes from...and hopefully, how to stop it!

It's more and more common. The feeling of loneliness. Even when we are surrounded by people we can feel like we aren't really connecting. In this episode, we discuss the root causes of loneliness, and more importantly, what to do about it.

What does it take to be a "Liberated Man"? In this episode, we highlight stories from our recent conference that exemplify how to become a powerful man. We share insights and observations about men on the journey of becoming free and emotionally healthy. 

We've all been hurt by a romantic relationship, or lack thereof. In this episode, the guy's discuss Blair's recent breakup. It's a vulnerable conversation about the importance of love, and what happens when it hurts.  

All of us have a soldier within us...someone that is willing to fight for what we believe in, and protect those we love. In this episode, we talk with a Marine (Josh Cearbaugh) about his experiences in the armed services, and adjusting to life after service. 

Suicide seems to be prevalent. More and more people are either contemplating suicide, or attempting it. Are these people alone? Or is this something that is far more common than most people admit. In this episode, we share our struggles with suicidal thoughts, and a few encouragements for those people struggling and those who love them.

Do you know you're meant for influence? Are you confident that you're supposed to make a difference, but don't know how? In this episode, we discuss people who have created lasting changes, and the strategies that allow people to fulfill their potential.  

Sometimes a good life isn't about what we do or have...but what we don't include in our lives! In this ridiculous episode, we dissect some of the most poisonous, confusing, or just energy-draining things that we shouldn't keep in our lives. Join us to learn what to discard and to become "misery-proof" (That's a word now. Yes, it is. Don't argue).

Do you have any regrets? Of course. We all do. We might regret a business decision or the way a relationship ended. We might regret not taking more risks, or not having decided to "save money" a little earlier in life. Regardless of where you have regret, it's important to learn how to let it emotionally go, and move forward with your life. Otherwise, regrets can choke out intimacy, zest for life, and willingness to engage meaningfully in our work. This week, we share how to let regret go!

In this lighthearted episode, Justin and Blair fire "important" questions at one another. You'll probably laugh, you might get a little surprised...but you'll definitely have some good questions to ask yourself and someone you care about!

Often creating a great life comes down to the simple ability to say "yes"! Life has a way of dragging us along, swallowing up opportunities and causing us to say no...when we really want to say yes! In this episode, we discuss the importance of creating moments, going on adventures, and embracing all that life has to offer.

For many young men, playing in the NFL is a dream come true. The fame, fortune, and opportunities you could have by doing something you love so much is something few young men ever experience.  In this candid interview with former Seattle Seahawks long snapper, Clint Gresham, we take an inside look at the life of an NFL player who was part of a Super Bowl winning team.  What we find out is that winning isn’t everything. Success is riddled with ups and downs, victories and defeats, tears of joy and tears of pain. Join us as we talk seriously and laugh hysterically as we enter into the world of our dear friend Clint.

Success is elusive for most. All of our definitions differ, but we're all trying to attain something. For some, it's internal. For others, it's accomplishment or financial abundance. In this episode, we share what it really cost to create and sustain success.

Is the age of gentleman gone? It's been challenged, but is it dead? In this episode, we discuss whether being a gentleman is a good, or a bad thing. You won't want to miss this episode.

Surrendering is typically considered weak or passive. But is it? Is there a form of surrendering that actually brings freedom and empowerment? In this episode, we share how surrendering is actually key to a happy life and healthy relationships. 

Do you have vision for your life? Do you have something that you're willing to sacrifice for? Lose your reputation for? Or even die for? In this episode, we discuss the vision for The Liberation Project, but we also give examples and tips for how to find a deep vision for your life!

Sometimes, it's the little things that matter. In this episode, we give the "boots on the ground" advice to start creating an incredible life. You won't want to miss tip #4. Tip #6 is pretty good too. 

Grit is the indomitable spirit, the person who faces adversity and perseveres. He's someone you can rely on in a pinch, and isn't swayed by circumstances or intimidating situations. In this episode, we discuss the concept of "grit" and how guy's can get their's back or deepen the grit they already got.    

Is masculinity celebrated in our culture? Or is it demeaned and labeled "dangerous." In this episode, we discuss what culture and the popular media say about masculinity, and define the true definition of what it means to "be a man."   

To have healthy relationships, there has to be confrontation. We have to tell people how they've affected us, and give them permission to tell us how we've affected them. In this episode, we'll share how to "clean up" the messes that inevitably come from an intimate and healthy relationship.

Communication is hard. And it's especially hard with certain people (we're all probably thinking about a person or two!). In this episode, we give some specific tools on how to create healthy connection through phenomenal communication. 

Ever heard of human or sex trafficking? If so, you'll want to hear from someone that has investigated the epidemic from the inside. Director Benjamin Nolot shares his exploits through his documentaries, but in this interview, he shares his personal perspective of his experiences. This is a not-to-miss interview with someone that is confronting some of the darkest issues in our world today. 

This week we had the incredible opportunity to interview a real life action hero: actor Kellan Lutz! He's starred in Twilight, Expendables 3, Hercules and heckuva lot more. He shares his successes—and struggles—while taking action on his dreams. Start the new year right by listening to some wisdom from someone who is living his dreams and wants to champion you living yours! And be sure to check out National Vision Board Day on January 14th. Kellan was one of the founders of National Vision Board Day, and he describes the inspiration behind the movement in this episode.

It feels that controlling people are everywhere. Heck, we might even be one of those people. In this episode, we learn to recognize the signs of a controlling person, why "control" happens, and what to do about it!

For the last part in this series, we tackle the hardest question of all: "If God exists, is He really good?" We get deeply personal as we discuss our experiences with faith and spirituality. This episode will make you question your thoughts surrounding God, regardless of whether you are a Christian or not. 

Ever have questions about faith like, "is spirituality nonsense? Is God real? Is God good? Is he a distant entity in the sky somewhere, or is He accessible today?"  In this episode, we interview spiritual advisor to the stars Shawn Bolz. Several years ago Shawn launched a unique church in LA, Expression 58, and has been explaining a provocative view of God ever since! 

Ever wondered about the lifestyle of a rock star in a world famous band? Brian "Head" Welch, one of the founding members of Korn, shares his struggles, his victories, and his faith. This is a can't miss interview from one of the most intriguing rock icons anywhere.

It's time to get real about religion. In this episode, we share our raw experiences with the spiritual community, and how we processed through them. This episode is an invitation into confronting your viewpoints about faith and religion, and learning how to process any pain or confusion you may have felt.

What do you believe about spirituality? Do you think the "church" has represented your spirituality well, or does it leave you feeling dismissed and frustrated? In this episode, we have a very frank discussion about faith in America, and how it is affecting us, our relationships, and our communities!

We all have fears. It's universal. But did you know that your fears may be trying to tell you something? In this episode, we discuss the role of fears in our life, and how to understand and overcome them!

Sometimes you just gotta relax and have a chill night. In this episode, the interns for the liberation project came up with some creative questions to ask us. We recorded this episode while enjoying a few cigars around a fire pit. You're welcome to join us.

Ever feel like you are alone? As if, you are trying to create an incredible life and do something special...but feel like you don't have a community with the same goals?  In this episode, we discuss the steps to creating a community of people that connect, have depth, and are pursuing an exceptional life together.

Most of us stay in some relationships too long, and we bail on others too early. In this episode, we discuss how to navigate relationships healthily...and make amazing choices about who we do life with.

We've been told a thousand times to "forgive," but what does that really mean? And even if we are willing, how do we forgive someone completely—without having to revisit that forgiveness time and again? In this episode, we share the deep process of forgiveness that leads to transformation and restoration!    

We can feel like we're really healthy, until we visit home...and then we realize just how messed up we still are! What is it about family that brings out our brokenness?  A big part of stepping fully into a healthy life is becoming a fully powerful adult, which requires that we become peers to our parents. In this episode, we discuss how we can become equals with our parents.  

In relationships, what do you think is the root cause of confusion? A lot of people assume it is what is being "done wrong." But what if the source of confusion is actually what is being assumed? In most relationships, both individuals are making assumptions about the other person's expectations, reactions, and motivations. It's time we remove our pre-conceived judgments, and learn to connect with others for who they are...not who we believe them to be.  

Most of us have big dreams. We want to be in incredible relationships, have amazing jobs, and live out adventures. Over time, however, we can start to feel jaded about ever having our dreams fulfilled. Ironically, sometimes we must learn how to respond well to having our dreams fulfilled, as part of the process to having them fulfilled.  In this episode, Blair and Justin discuss what to do AFTER your dreams are fulfilled. They share how to enjoy their fulfillment, how not to sabotage them, and how to allow them to grow and multiply. 

We've had a good run. We've started a lot of conversations, and probably a few fights. But we've come to a crossroads. We love The Liberation Project, and the purpose behind it, but we're sensing a massive shift taking place.  In this episode, we invite you into the conversation about The Liberation Project's heart and soul, and if and how it should continue.

We all hit roadblocks. They are annoying, or sometimes devastating obstacles to our (success, relationships, creativity, financial breakthrough, or fill-in-the-blank). To finish out the creativity series, we decided to tackle this issue head on. We discuss what creates blocks—internally and externally—and what we can do about them. This episode is for anyone that is currently stuck, or has been stuck, or will be stuck...yes, it is for everyone.

Some people just seem to enjoy life. They like what they do, they like who they're around, and they like who they are. Julie Sequeira, a world-class artist, is one of those people. She's spearheaded several world-impacting trends, and her designs are always in demand. Not to mention, she's one of our favorite people in the world.  In today's episode, she's going to shed light on creating a life you love, and discovering your creative voice.

We all have creativity. Some of us are able to harness that creativity to follow our passions, and often, to produce a profit. Noah Elias, a world-class Fine Artist, is an expert at helping people monetize their dreams! He helps people understand what is fundamental to success, and how to align yourself for accomplishing your insights and inspirations. 

Is creativity just for artists and "free spirits" or is it supposed to be an integral part to everyone's life. in this episode, we discuss the importance of creativity to having an incredible life! If you haven't tapped into your deep creativity for awhile, this episode is for you.

Let's face it, the current generation of young adults is finding a hard time learning how to "adult." We want to keep our options open, and live life to the fullest! But when should we make the transition into becoming an adult...and is that really all that bad?

Millennials get a lot of crap. People think they're lazy, unmotivated, unrealistic, and idealistic to the point of being ridiculous. But is that the whole story? In this episode, Justin and Blair (with special guest Tom Crandall) discuss Millennials in a semi-balanced way. 

We've all been betrayed. It sucks. And often, we don't just get betrayed once...but a lot of times. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the various types of betrayal, and how to respond to it!

All of us, from time to time, need a little life direction. We need a little calibration from where we're heading, to where we should be heading. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss a few ways to know if you are in the sweet spot of life.

It seems with all of the controversy surrounding race and the police, people are almost forced to "choose a side." In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the idea of creating a middle-ground where every group feels heard, respected, and supported.

One of the most under-rated skills in our culture is asking amazing questions. It allows us to improve relationships, build rapport, and succeed in business...but so few people are talking about how to ask questions effectively.  In this episode, we bring on Abi Stumvoll to help us understand how to ask incredible questions!

We're pretty comfortable talking about female "body issue" problems, but what about men? Do men struggle with body issues...feeling athletic, losing weight, and feeling sexy? Heck yeah most men do. In this episode, we tackle this question head on.

Okay, guys, there are some fundamentals that are completely necessary for romance. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the pillars for creating fulfilling romance. It's not enough to "want" to romance someone, or to spend energy trying to romance someone, we must learn how to romance a woman. In this episode, we simplify the how.  

Often times, we don't step into the next season, because we are disqualifying ourselves. Not because we aren't ready, or don't have what it takes, but because we believe we are disqualified. It's time for us to give ourselves more credit, and to step into what we want...and what we are ready to do!

Comparison is death to our confidence. Regardless of how good we're doing, how many strengths we have, or what we've accomplished...there will always be people that are "ahead" of us. If we keep our eyes on others, we won't ever be able to embrace our own strength and unique qualities.   Highlights from the Show: Everyone compares themselves to someone. Sons often compare themselves to fathers. If I have a relationship with comparison, I will limit myself so that others aren't threatened by my success. Comparison divorces you from your personal authority. When you compare with others, you don't have energy to invest in yourself. When you have a relationship with comparison, it opens the door to envy and fear. We must separate the comparison version of us from the present version of us. When we compare ourselves, we can't recognize the benefits from the season we're in. When you can't embrace your current season, you trap yourself within it. Comparison opens us up to desperation. When we exhaust ourselves with comparison, we end up partnering with the "what's the point" monster.  

We all know a "Mr. Nice Guy." Heck, we might even be that guy. But it's true that nice guys finish last. It's time that we identify why we become a "nice guy," and how to get out of the mold...without becoming a jerk. This episode is for all the guys who want to break out of the friend zone (even in marriage), and all the ladies who have been waiting for guys to be powerful and confident.

Porn is a big topic. BIG. To handle this monster topic, we thought we'd bring in Abi Stumvoll to help us discuss it. This may be our most important episode to date, and you definitely don't want to miss some of the craziness that ensues. If you've struggled with porn, or have known someone who does...this episode is going to be groundbreaking for you. If you feel comfortable, please share this or send it to someone you care about!

Everybody and their brother tells us to forgive. But what the heck does that mean? Why is forgiveness powerful? In this crazy episode, Justin and Blair talk about what it really means to forgive...and why it can change our lives and relationships.     A few highlights from the episode: “Forgiveness is less about the other person, and more about restoring your inner world.” –BR “Forgiveness is not restoration of trust. Trust is earned, forgiveness is given.” –BR “Forgiveness is not giving someone another chance, it’s restoring the balance within you of the resentment that you are holding.” –BR “People who have felt wronged feel powerless.” –JS “I am going to forgive this person so their pain is no longer dictating my life's circumstances.” –BR “Unforgiveness is not keeping you safe, its’ drawing you into similar situations so you can get healing from places you feel unresolved.” –BR “Unforgiveness becomes an infection and is always projected on the world around.” –BR “Unforgiveness will not keep you safe.” –BR “Part of forgiveness is having a voice in the relationship.” –JS

We all deal with stress and anxiety. But can we eliminate the majority of our stress and anxiety? Is it necessary? In this episode, Blair and Justin share the main reasons we deal with anxiety, and how to reduce them.   Highlights from the Show: "People often have anxiety from feeling powerless but responsible." -BR “People that deal with anxiety get lost in the present.” –BR “Often times stress and anxiety is not rooted in the present, its rooted in a behavior learned in the past.” –BR “People are attracted to others with the same level of anxiety that you have.” –BR “Anxiety is insulation for intimacy.” –BR “Our stress and anxiety is not circumstantial, it’s internal.” “We have to determine the payoff of giving up anxiety in our lives.” “Whatever we are focused on will manifest in our life.” “When we are living in a position of stress and anxiety it’s proof we have issues with control.” –JS “Many people who deal with anxiety have an unhealthy relationship with control.” –JS “If you learn to manage your world, it’s our natural state to live in peace.” –BR “We are made to be at peace, and we have put on anxiety and stress.” –JS  

What do you think about faith and spirituality? Is it fundamental to us as men, or is it superficial? In this extremely honest conversation about faith, Justin and Blair discuss the role of faith in our lives, and share their personal journeys with spirituality. A few highlights from the episode: “What you believe is what you will become.” –BR “If you view God through the lens of your own experience, you will always bedisappointed.” –BR “Something shifts in our lives when something bigger than us wants to be involved in our lives.” –JS “So many people view God as having an agenda, but the truth is His goal is to love us.” –BR “Shame is the managing thing that has kept us from love in general.” –JS “Time doesn’t heal all wounds.” –BR “There is mystery in life, but mystery does not negate faith.” “If relationship is not a part of your faith, you should question your faith.” “We are created for relationship.” “Legacy is fundamental to faith.”

A lot of men are being called "boys" or "boyish." The separation between boy and man has been blended to the point that most people don't know when they "become men." In this episode, Justin and Blair interview Kris Wolfe (founder of Goodguyswag.com) about how to become a man. You'll be shocked at what you'll learn.

There are a few personality types that just get under our skin. Some people are abrasive, others are mean, still others can't keep a secret to save their lives. In this very special episode, Justin and Blair discuss the top ten personality traits that are difficult to deal with...and how we all have a little of these traits with us. More importantly, they explain what these traits are actually indicating about our strengths and talents. This is a pretty epic episode, so to get the "deep dive," we created a worksheet. You can download it at www.theliberationproject.com/personalitytypes. Here are a few top level highlights:  “Blissfully unaware person is usually fueled by shame.” –JS “The critique is rarely engaged.” –BR “Martyrs get their identity from sacrifice.” –BR “You cannot validate the victim enough.” –JS “Overachievers are visionaries who are trying to prove themselves.” “In the area of your greatest weakness is tied to your greatest strength.” –JS “People who overcome rejection have a beautiful gift of compassion.”

Want to make a big impact with your life? Do you want to create something that will continue after your death? Of course you do. We all do. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the concept of creating a legacy, and why a legacy is beyond just what you “give people” when you die. Highlights from the Episode:   Legacy is building something that lasts beyond ourselves. Legacy is as much about contributing to people in the present, as it is giving people something in the future. Short-term living is exhausting. Long-term living allows us to overcome obstacles and have direction for our lives. We must be able to see the “bigger picture” to deeply enjoy life. If you are living day-to-day, you are not building a legacy. Micro-investments every day contribute to major gain. Building momentum requires that we create a history of stewardship.When you get behind the curtain of successful people, they’ve always paid the price for years before their “overnight breakthroughs.”

Purpose is a big word. It can mean something different to everyone you ask. But universally, we want to have purpose in our lives...and we live richer lives when we have purpose. In this episode, Blair and Justin break down the meaning of purpose, how to attain a purposeful life, and what to do when you can't find it!   A Few Highlights from the Episode: “Purpose is a feeling, it’s internal.” –BR “If you find your purpose in the external you will never be satisfied.” –BR “When we come into rest, its natural that we will come into our purpose.” –BR “Our external world is a byproduct of our internal purpose.” –JS “So many of us are not willing to live in our external purpose because we aren’t willing to be present.” –BR “Don’t look for a grand purpose, rather look for the places in your life that is displaying who you really are.” –BR “The tree that remains will produce fruit over and over again.” –JS “Find an outlet to express your authentic self and you will naturally live from yourpurpose.” –BR

All of us wrestle with the concept of being powerful. What does it mean for us to be powerful, or powerless, as an individual? Blair and Justin discuss when we are giving away our power, when we are owning our power, and how we can step into being a powerful person!   Show Highlights: Being a powerful person includes the capacity to be intimate and powerful. Being powerful is a journey. It's never complete, and it should continue to grow as you mature. A powerful person has self-value. Their value is not sourced in their circumstances, but their person. Someone who doesn't have self-value can be influential, but not powerful. Power is an internal disposition. Powerful people have clear boundaries. A powerful person is a clear communicator. A powerful person isn't selfish. They are empathetic, sympathetic, and compassionate for others. A powerful person gives other people the benefit of the doubt. A powerful person takes responsibility over their lives. A powerless person blames everyone else for their circumstances.  When a powerful person is having a disagreement. They are willing to own whatever their part of an issue might be. Even if they believe it is 10% them, and 90% the other person, they are willing to own their 10%. A powerless person remains in difficult situations, because they are scared of making changes. A powerful person is always asking, what is under my control about my circumstance and my relationships? A powerful person is operates out of personal self-control.  Fear causes someone to manipulate and control others. If someone is afraid of another person's power, they will try to lie, manipulate, sabotage, or try to control another person. A powerless person has a zero-sum mentality.  Powerless people are always in survival mode, so they become selfish.  Someone in survival mode can never have vision for their life. When you think the world will overwhelm you, you feel a subconscious responsibility for everyone else...because you feel like others will adversely affect your world.  Powerful people are loving people. True power is when you can affect people by your presence. A powerful person has vision and hope for their lives. They are no longer thwarted by obstacles, they see them as part of the journey. Indicators of being powerless is anxiety, stress, fear, never being satisfied, and discord in relationships. Powerless people either live with a lot of drama, or become completely passive and checked out.

In this lighthearted episode, Justin and Blair reflect on a few of the reasons it's great to be a man. They remind men of why sometimes, it pays to be a guy. They explain a few of the perks of manhood, but also explain some of the deeper reasons that guys should be thankful of their role as a man.   A Few of the Highlights: “We get to pee standing up.” –JS “We have natural scarves for our face.” -JS “I can grow my own blanket.” -JS “We don’t have to give birth.” “I get the joy of getting to be a leader who gets to cover their wife.” –JS “I get to step into a role that calls me in from being a boy to a man.” –JS    

Most people are expending a lot of energy trying to help others feel loved. But most times, they aren't receiving the love the way it was intended. In this episode, Justin and Blair share how easy it is to love others, and have them FEEL our love.    

Male leadership is one of the most misunderstood, and controversial topics being discussed today. Everyone has an opinion, and most people are uncomfortable with the the idea that "men are supposed to lead the household." For the last generation, the idea has seemed toxic. In today's episode, Justin and Blair discuss what it means to lead, and frankly, what it doesn't.    A Few Highlights: Our culture looks at authority as dominating. –JS What does it look like to live balanced lifestyles where we all feel empowered? -JS Two powerful people is a relationship, one powerful person is a dictatorship. –BR The greatest leader is someone who is the greatest servant. This starts with ownership. –JS I want to take ownership of the hearts of the people inside this relationship.  –JS What is ownership?  It’s choosing to take all of I am and use this to promote your dreams and desires forward. –JS There must be a root of respect within our family structure.  –JS Fear is the driving force for people jumping into control. –JS There is a difference between positional leadership and influential leadership. –BR True leadership is relationally based.  It is based on character. –JS There are people who manage, and there are people who lead.  –BR Respect is something that is earned for the way we love and care for the person around us.  –JS People are leaders because people follow them, not because people obey them.  –JS A man of humility doesn’t think that his character is being questioned, when his actions are being questioned.  –JS There is a difference between modeling and managing. –BR What if we as men begin to seek to understand and find the strengths that are different than ours inside of the people around us and we push them forward into their greatness? –JS Leaders are the first to seek to understand, to ask for forgiveness, to lead in vulnerability, and model, not manage, the people around them.  –JS Leaders see past what other people see inside of themselves and call out what they can become. –JS Powerful people invite the promotion of the people around them.  -BR

Romance is a mystery to most men. We want to be good at it...but we just don't understand how to romance a woman effectively. In this episode, we invite Abi Stumvoll (Justin Stumvoll's wife) to explain how to romance a woman. We discuss how to romance throughout your relationship, and help your "significant other" to feel loved.   The “newness” of a relationship is replaced with safety and rest when love matures. There is an unconditional love that matures the longer you’ve been married. Fun and play is romance. When you are loved in your love languages, you are naturally provoked to love. When you create an “emotional connection” through sex, you’re drawn to having more sex. Create safety for the person your pursuing. Don’t make situations “high stakes.” Do things to let people know that you’re “thinking about them.” As men, we must be powerful and weak. If we don't have needs, a woman doesn't have something to offer a man. We must allow ourselves to have needs, to allow others to love us. In a relationship, we must continually seek to create win-wins. Love a lot. Find out if your love is working. If it's not, find a new way to love. If we only loved people on special occasions, they would continually fail.  Love consistently and learn how to love your woman the way she desires to be loved.  

Being anxious or depressed is the worst. In this light-hearted episode about depression, Justin and Blair tackle one of the biggest psychological hurdles...stress and depression. You'll find hope and inspiration for your journey, or learn how to communicate with people who are walking through depression themselves.   “Depression is emotions that have been back logged.” –BR “Hopelessness is a form of depression.” –JS “If you have an ‘I don’t care’ attitude about everything, you are probably avoiding pain.” –JS “If we can’t change our external, we have to find a way to find our power internally.” –JS “When we don’t believe we have the capacity to manage our inner-world, we feel out of control and easily disappointed.” –JS “When we don’t have purpose, depression is an easy exit ramp.” –JS “The idea of finding purpose begins with settling and enjoying the present moment we are in regardless of our present circumstances.” –JS “A lot of us are living in depression because we are self-focused and living isolated and outside of community.” –JS “Depression makes life feel like everything is too big.” –BR “Depression can be correlated with self-value.” –BR “Depression is when something else takes ownership of my life.” –JS “Gratitude is a really powerful tool to get us out of depression.” –JS

When men get older, they often find that they lose their passion for life, and often lose the ability to experience wonder. However, wonder is necessary to enjoy life and embrace creativity. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the relevance of wonder in a man’s life.   You have to be childlike in order to truly be a man. -BR There is a difference between childlike and childish. - BR The reason that men are shutdown and unhappy is that they have not let out the kid within. - BR If a man doesn’t have a creative outlet, they’ll start to die in life. -BR Childlikeness can be an adult that can enter into their kid’s world of adventure. -JS Being in a state of wonder is allowing yourself to be “in a moment.” - JS Being childlike allows you to create without trying to be productive. -BR Everything is not a task. -JS Children don’t live with limitation. To be childlike, we have to be restored to the idea of limitlessness. -JS We are starving for creativity and the ability to play. -BR Many people have stopped being creative, because disappointment has shut down our ability to hope. -BR We’ve learned to manage our lives so that we don’t get disappointed, and so we don’t disappoint others. - BR When we view life as an adventure, obstacles seem like part of the journey! - JS We should attempt to “make everyday a masterpiece.” -BR To embrace wonder, we must find ways to get lost in creation and to allow ourselves to embrace childlikeness. - JS

Does confrontation intimidate you? For most people, it's terrifying. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss how to confront with love. Confrontation is supposed to be an opportunity to grow in intimacy...but most often, it is used to divide. In this episode, you'll learn how to confront effectively.   "Confrontation shouldn't come out of nowhere." -JS "It takes a lot of self-esteem to healthily take feedback." -BR “Confrontation should be about connecting and restoring our relationships.” –BR “For most people, confrontation is high stakes and the biggest bull dozer wins.” –JS “If we make confrontation about the behavior rather than the person, we can work together to solve the conflict.”  -JS “The reason we project anger on another person is because we want them to feel our pain.” – BR “Our highest goal in confrontation has to be connection.” –JS “When powerless comes in we will do everything subconsciously to gain our power back.” –JS “The number one thing that keeps us from responding well in confrontation is shame.” –JS “Big emotions means there is big pain.” –JS “Our greatest desire as humans is to feel seen, known, and heard.” –JS

Is singleness a curse? Are you someone that wants to be in a relationship, or wants to enjoy your season of singleness? If so, this episode is for you. Justin and Blair focus on Blair’s perpetual singleness, and how to enjoy being single (and prepare yourself for a future relationship).   Show Highlights: Marriage is a holy season, but singleness is also a holy season. Don’t live for the life you will have, instead of engaging in the life you do have. -BR. When you fall in love with life, you are 10X more attractive. -BR Desperation is not attractive. -JS What you want will evolve. Choose for the long-term. -JS People are afraid of being satisfied while single, because they believe it will prevent them from getting married. - JS Who I want to become is who I will attract. -JS Spend time becoming the person you want to attract. -BR You’ll always find your someone with the same level of emotional health. -BR People always have equal levels of dysfunction, but it may represent differently. -JS We are attracted to people that will poke us in areas we need to grow. -BR You can choose to love being single. -BR When you are single, you can explore relationships in a way that you can’t when you are married. -BR Being ready for a relationship forces you to be willing to confront your fears about intimacy. -JS You are choosing to be alone every day that you choose to not take action to be a in a relationship. -BR If there is drama in your female relationships, you should push pause, and figure out what’s going on. -JS A girl becomes attractive when she views herself as beautiful. -BR What you need in relationship is attraction, a willingness to grow, and self-love. -JS To be happy single, go through a season of learning how to love yourself. -BR When you live for tomorrow, you divorce yourself from the pleasure of your current season. -BR Until you can feel satisfied living with yourself, you won't feel satisfied being with someone else. -JS

Sometimes we have to be fully transparent, instead of “shielding” our partner from our feelings and thoughts. In this episode, Blair and Justin discuss how to communicate vulnerable topics like being attracted to others, and when others are flirting with you (and you kind of want to flirt back).   Highlights from the Show: “Just because you get into a relationship doesn’t mean that you stop seeing beautiful people.”   “When someone gets into a relationship, they become more attractive.”   “By being transparent, you have the opportunity to have transformation.”    “Forgiveness isn’t sweeping poor behavior under the rug, but an opportunity to understand why someone is acting out…and get healing.”   “Trust is built through our cleaning up of our messes.”   “Ask yourself, how do my relationships reflect how I feel about myself?”   “We can’t control our partner's feelings.”   “When we respond poorly to our partners sharing their feelings, we are teaching them that they are not safe to share with us.”   “We are often attracted to the qualities that we want in our life.”   “When we flirt with others, it is a temperature-gauge for our primary relationship.”   “Before we are married, we shouldn’t treat people like our quasi-wife.”   “We should aim for a steak-relationship, not a hamburger-relationship.”   “Our core desire as human beings is to have connection.”   “I wasn’t head-over-heels, I was just horny."

Homosexuality, and homosexual rights, is a hot-button topic. It seems like everybody has a strong opinion about same-sex attraction, but is there a compassionate road to respecting people of differing opinions? In this episode, Blair and Justin discuss homosexuality in depth. Highlights:  "When I acted out as a child, I was convinced if people knew it would disqualify me from relationship and connection." -JS "Currently, in our culture we are at war. There is a line drawn in the sand saying you are born this way or you are wrong." -JS "Homosexuality is often a symptom that is representing something going on below the surface." -BR "We need to give people an invitation to go on a journey of self discovery and self-value." -BR "When you tell people they are 'born this way' you are taking away their voice and their freedom." -JS  "In order for us to find freedom we have to give ourselves permission to go on a journey." -JS  "How about we just see the person?" -BR  "The greatest gift we are given in life is the freedom of choice." -JS  "Healthy sexuality should be a connection: healthy love coming together." -BR  "We have created a culture where creativity has been divorced from masculinity." -BR/JS "A core piece of masculinity is the ability to feel and be connected to ourselves and the people around us." -JS  "There is an element of cowardice when you shame another person because you are so terrified of your own emotions." -BR  "Aggression has been utilized in a way to shame and degrade men." -JS  "Men living from a tender place have divorced aggression all together." -JS  "This is the invitation: You are a man, you have a man card."-BR "We embrace the characteristics you thought disqualified you." -BR  "There is a portion of men who think they are disqualified from masculinity because of their characteristics. That is a lie." -JS  "I want to say to you who have felt disqualified, I am sorry, and I welcome you to manhood." -JS "I am 100% man, I am 100% masculine and I reject anything that has told me I'm not." -JS 

There is a phenomenon called "The Needless Man." Basically, it is when men don't have a value for their desires or hopes. They walk through life like zombies, and are completely unaware of what they want anymore. In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss how most men don't know that they have needs, and know even less how to get them met.   Here are a few highlights: -The needless man is a person that doesn't have expectation or desires.  -Loving someone is not, not demanding anything from them. -Getting your needs met is not a demand from another person, but an invitation into intimacy. -Getting needs met is a two-way street.  -You can be a needless man or needless woman. -One of the reasons people don't "have needs" is because they don't believe there can be a balance...In other words, someone has to surrender. -Sometimes we are lying to ourselves about what we really need. -A few needs guys have is: recreation, getting their connection needs met, and to have a voice. 

Sometimes, days just suck. You can't deny it...it's just hard. So what do we do when we have a terrible day? Do we run? Sit in it? Invite people into it? In this episode, Blair and justin discuss the idea of having a crappy day, and how to respond.   A few highlights of the episode: - The most powerful way to love someone is to be present with them (not to fix them!). - We have to be vulnerable and empathetic when we are connecting with someone else's pain.  - Processing pain requires us to "get behind" the anger, and allow ourselves to feel sad or disappointed.  - We have emotions and they are going to be felt...it just matters how and when. - You must give yourself time to be present with your emotions. - If you sit in the present, your authentic emotions will emerge. - Create relationships where people can be present with you as you are going through emotions.

What is a bromance? Is it a ridiculous concept, or something that we need in order to be healthy and happy? In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss the idea of the platonic male relationship. They discuss what it takes to be close to other guys.   Here are a few highlights: - We need to have a list of traits we're looking for in male relationships. - We need to be intentional about finding and nurturing male relationships.  - It's important to have several male relationships, and not become overly focused on one.  - Most males are starving for male intimacy. - Bromances are actually just male friendships between two healthy people. - It's important to take baby steps when forming close male relationships.  - It's our responsibility to invite in healthy people and keep out toxic ones.  

Relationships are Two Powerful People is a breakdown on healthy connection between two people. Justin and Blair explain how most relationships operate (one-sided) and how relationships can operate (two-sided and enjoyable!).  The Liberation Project Notes Episode 12: “Relationships are Two Powerful People”   “Many people equate agreeing with each other as the same thing  as intimacy.” –BR “If your self value is wrapped up in your ideas, you will break relationships with people who disagree with you.” –BR “The only way two powerful people can exist inside a relationship is if there is an invitation to respect.” –JS “Respect can’t exist when I have something to prove.” –JS “If your identity is based in belief systems you will always feel powerless.” -JS “If you equate people agreeing with you as them caring about you then you can never institute respect because you will always feel disrespect in disagreement” –JS “When our value is established in agreement of opinions, when someone disagrees with you, you are also feeling controlled.  –JS “You have to have a higher goal of connection than the similarity of beliefs.” –BR “Modern segregation is: if I disagree with your beliefs then I have to separate myself from you.” –BR “We live in a current culture where we are reinforcing that thoughts and perspectives are an assessment of your value.” –JS “It easy to form community around a common enemy than to build unity around a vision.” –BR “For people that are the aggressor in the relationship you need to create a safe place by communicating with the other person that you want both parties to have a voice.”  -BR “You will know if there are two powerful people if you can both say: ‘we care enough to be wrong and okay with that.’” –JS                

  Are you ready to have better sex? Are you ready to have sex that both partners love and look forward to? In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss what it takes to feel sexy, have great sex, and to connect with your sex-mate. Yeah, we said sex-mate. Here are a few quotes from the episode: -I’m here because I choose you, not because I am taking from you or getting something I need. –JS -If you can manage your sexuality, and invest in the relationship, you are making decisions that will affect decades. –BR -When you have sex with someone, your emotions are telling you the relationship is something that it’s not. –JS -Your body is writing checks, your emotions can’t cash. –BR -There are people who learned to bond over sexuality rather than emotions. –JS -When you are your wife’s hero, sex becomes mind blowing. –JS -We need to diversify our portfolio when it comes to creating intimacy with our wives. And when we do that we’ll be more fulfilled, and they will be more connected and engaged. –BR -Women are being sold the idea that I catch a man by having sex with him. –JS   -If you want to get to mind blowing sex stop trying to be a mind reader. –JS -Have an open dialogue when it comes to sex. –JS Practical Notes for the Bedroom: -Don’t put high stakes or intensity on where sex has to go. –JS -The goal in being kind isn’t having passionate sex; it’s about loving the person. –BR -There are people who are unwilling to wear sexy. –BR -The reason people are hiding their sexiness is because something will be taken from them, or they will be rejected. –JS -Sensuality: I want to use my body to get you emotionally. -JS -Sexuality: is an ownership of one’s being. –JS

Are you a sport's guy (or girl)? Or do you not understand why they are so popular? In this episode, the guys discuss if sports are good for us, bad for us, or what role they should play in our culture. Regardless of how you feel about sports, this episode will be enlightening. A Few Quotes from the Episode: -Sports make men feel unified. –BR - What do people learn from sports? Trust: being on a team. BR -What do men love about sports?     -Ties you to history, or where you are from. BR     -Crowds of people all championing for the same goal. BR     -It gives them a sense of family. JS -Men don’t generally connect for the sake of connecting. We need an activity. Sports is are our best excuse. –BR -Healthy coaches should be calling out your best. –BR -The Dark Side of sports is vicarious living or self-identifying your value with it. –BR -I am not identifying with my team; I am rooting for my team. –BR -It’s a commonality that goes past sports, that people are identifying or placing their value in their child’s performance. –JS -Sports give me a purpose and discipline that I never would’ve had in life. –BR -Some men only know how to give love and connect by coaching their sports team. It’s a great opportunity for men to learn to father. –BR -Sports are the ability to sow into people’s life, have purpose, and connect. –BR -Can I get that need met without sports? –JS   The Invitation: -For the people who haven’t connected to sports, is there a wound there? BR -For men who do connect to sports, can you get your need met outside of it? JS

 All of us go through pain and difficulty. We get to choose, however, how we go through that pain. In this episode, Blair and Justin discuss how circumstances should not dictate our happiness, peace, and confidence.    -It doesn’t matter your circumstance, you can come alive where you planted.  BR -Coming alive where you are planted is determined by you being powerful over your inward heart. JS -Negative emotions choke your ability to think. BR -You need to see your emotions as a person and address the lies they are selling you.  JS -We use negative emotions because we think they are helping us. BR -Can love, peace and joy protect you? JS -We get to decide how to we want to experience this life. JS -The only way to heal bitterness is to learn to hope.  JS -We have to quit judging the world around us because of our fear.  JS -We become what we surround ourselves with.  JS

Are you ready for more adventure in your life? Do you need more risk? If your a man in our culture, your answer is probably a resounding YES! In today's episode, Justin and Blair discuss the reasons that risk is so crucial to a man's fulfillment and happiness.  A few quotes from this episode: -There is a natural longing in men’s hearts for adventure. When we disengage with risk, we begin dying inside. BR -Insert adventure in your life, or it will come out sideways somewhere else. BR -If you are in survival mode, what will cause you to risk and get out of your comfort zone?  JS -What is your threshold for risk, what is wisdom when determining how to risk, and how can you insert it into your life? BR

In this episode, Blair Reynolds and Justin Stumvoll discuss the concept of being a "self made man." They discuss why it is so popular, and what it really says about people that use the term.  If you are wanting to make an impact, and you want to do something noteworthy, this is the podcast for you. You'll learn how important it is to not do something on your own...or by yourself.   A Few Highlights from the Episode: -The concept of the self made man is an isolating one. It’s not a healthy concept. It is a concept that perpetuates the idea that we are alone. BR -Self made people have a concept of war.  JS -If I’m a self-made man that means what matters is what I have created outside of me.  JS -If you don’t have personal value that is separate from your circumstances, then you can’t have value for the people around you.  BR -You end up drawing people into their environment that are fighting to have value. JS -You get more done in team when you actually trust the person next to you.  BR -If you build something from a place of war, you have to maintain from a place of war.  JS -A king will bring enormous gifts to give away to other kings.  JS   How Do you know if you are operating out of an orphan mentality? Jealousy is the greatest indicator that you function in an orphan mentality. •Do you feel like you have to do everything on your own? •Do I measure what I have by what other people have? •Do you feel like you have to prove yourself?    

In this episode, Justin Stumvoll and Blair Reynolds discuss the most important aspects of being a "real man." They'll share some good ideas, and some really bad ideas, to build confidence in your masculinity.    Here are a few great quotes from the episode: •It takes an incredible amount of confidence to become self-aware. BR •What is actually going on inside of me? How are people experiencing me? JS •Self-consciousness is self awareness with insecurity. I am aware of what others think and they feel, and that gives them the power to dictate my value as a person. JS  •Self-awareness is a healthy person, wanting to extend health. It’s not dictated by, it’s dictated to. BR •Self-awareness creates the infrastructure for health.  BR •Selfish people actually aren’t taking care of themselves.  JS •They don’t believe that they matter or their needs matter.  JS •People who know how to connect to getting their needs met can give and get. BR •Taking care of  yourself looks like having time to be connected and having healthy relationships. BR •A man can confront.  A man is not pushed around and is not hiding.  BR •Someone who is bold is willing to stand up for what is right regardless of the consequence.  JS •Healthy confrontation is how I want to preserve intimacy and to continue to make the relationship feel safe. BR •We think the idea of being bold is aggression, but it actually often looks like vulnerability.  JS Being Present: •Authentic sacrifice is the balance of taking care of yourself while still giving to others.  •I have a value for myself and I am going to choose to sacrifice myself for another person. BR Integrity:  •If we water down the value of our word we are devaluing ourselves.  •We have to have something greater than ourselves to fight for.  BR

In this episode, Blair Reynolds and Justin Stumvoll go for the jugular regarding sex. They talk about our fear of being known, and our desire to escape. They discuss healthy connection, and why it is so difficult for many men (and women).  If you are ready for a closer connection with your spouse (or significant other) and for better sex...this is an episode that will open your eyes to what may be holding you back.   Here are a few quotes from the episode: -You are not to seek pain, you are just not supposed to run from it.  BR -A false version of yourself emerges when life beats you down, and you learn how to self protect and you start to live with a mask.  BR/JS -Put simply, men are afraid of emotional pain. BR -The Benefits of the Wall/Shadow Self: "You can’t reject me, you only are rejecting my Shadow Self." JS -Why would we ever want to come out of hiding? If we do, the world that you’ve created wants to knock you back down, because you had an unspoken pact with mediocrity. BR -You becoming healthy is putting a spotlight on me, so I have to choose health or get out of your life.  BR -Most people do not do what they are called to do because then they would be exposing their true self.  And if they get rejected in that place then their true self is rejected. BR -The courageous thing in this moment is being vulnerable.  BR -Healthy connection is what is necessary to be happy.  BR -If we decide we don’t want to feel any of pain, we have to shut down a huge portion of our heart.  JS -No one taught this generation to deal with pain.  JS -You aren't broken, you are whole and in process.  BR -There is a huge difference between entertainment and escaping.  BR -When your love tank gets filled you will feel the difference between healthy sex and using sex.  BR

In this episode, Justin and Blair discuss our sexuality as men. What are we really looking for in sex? They discuss pornography, connection, and many of the other concepts that accompany sex (both healthily and unhealthily).  Yours eyes will be opened to a whole new paradigm to sex and what it REALLY means to get our needs met.   A few quotes from the episode: -Sexuality is wrapped up in our greatest desire and our greatest shame.  BR -What are the things inside of us that drive us towards sexuality? JS -What about our emotional journey is also tied into sexuality? JS -We have been sold a lie that men are nonemotional creatures.  JS -As men, we are terrified of facing our emotional pain, so we have to come up with an excuse not to face it.  JS -Our culture says have sex and you'll be connected. What we need to think is, what are the needs that we need to be met, and then have sex.  And if we can correct the way we are doing this, sex becomes healthy.  BR -Pornography is the cheapest substitute for what we actually need.  BR -Pornography is a false connection.  BR -I don’t people have an issue with pornography, I think they have an issue with intimacy.  BR -We must ask ourselves, are there other things that are driving my sex drive?  JS

In the media, men are portrayed as caricatures of guys in real life. Men are seen as idiots, uber-stylish, or some other extreme. In this episode, Blair and Justin discuss why our culture characterizes men in this way, and how we should respond.

Our culture is awash with messages about "how to be a man." We're told to make more money, have more power, be an alpha, and have a ton of sex. Is that what really validates a man? Justin and Blair discuss this question, and more, in Episode 2 of The Liberation Project.

What does it mean to be a man? Is it what we've been taught by our parents or told by the media?  Justin Stumvoll and Blair Reynolds, hosts of The Liberation Project, answer these questions and more in this origin episode. They explain why there needs to be a "Movement for Manhood," and what to expect from the podcast. You'll learn the reason The Liberation Project started, and why you'll want to be a frequent listener.