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Dear Adult Daughter

English, Education, 2 seasons, 146 episodes, 16 hours, 25 minutes
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A bite-sized podcast for women who wish to use the difficult relationship they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth Reveal patterns. Heal shame. Transform legacies.
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3 things I do to free myself from shame

Shame School starts September 10⁠⁠. I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min⁠⁠⁠⁠ to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered ⁠⁠⁠Click here to receive Love Note from me⁠⁠⁠.
8/26/20246 minutes, 31 seconds
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Breaking a cycle I didn't think I could break

Shame School starts September 10⁠. I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit ⁠⁠⁠https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min⁠⁠⁠ to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered ⁠⁠Click here to receive Love Note from me⁠⁠.
8/7/202410 minutes, 7 seconds
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The Dichotomy of Shame And Self-Acceptance

Shame School starts September 10. I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit ⁠⁠https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min⁠⁠ to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered ⁠Click here to receive Love Note from me⁠.
7/9/20246 minutes, 21 seconds
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A posture of kindness

FREE EVENT June 13, 2024: A conversation about healing the shame pass down through our maternal lineages (⁠click here to register⁠) I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit ⁠https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min⁠ to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered Click here to receive Love Note from me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/13/20243 minutes, 38 seconds
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Taking the easy way out (and an invitation)

FREE EVENT: A conversation about healing the shame pass down through our maternal lineages (click here to register) I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/30/202410 minutes
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this is not the Mother's Day podcast episode I expected to record

I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/12/20247 minutes, 55 seconds
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When she's not a nasty, abusive mother

I help adults navigate and heal from complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live unshamed. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/22/20245 minutes, 29 seconds
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True or false: "I'll only have peace when she's dead"

I help women navigate complex relationships with their mothers (narcissistic or not), so they can live the lives THEY want, not the lives their mothers think they should have. I also have a place in my practice for mothers who want to repair the relationship they have with their adult daughters (although I can't guarantee how your adult daughter will respond). I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/10/20245 minutes, 3 seconds
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Of COURSE you take it personally...

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to: quiet the Inner Critical Mother take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers step out of the dysfunctional dynamic altogether and not be miserable in the process I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/26/20247 minutes, 57 seconds
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Adult children are not responsible for their parents' emotional lives

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to: quiet the Inner Critical Mother take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers step out of the dysfunctional dynamic altogether and not be miserable in the process I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/19/20245 minutes, 51 seconds
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The truth about "toxic" mothers

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to: quiet the Inner Critical Mother take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers step out of the dysfunctional dynamic altogether and not be miserable in the process I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://karenclanderson.as.me/30-min to schedule a free 30-minute call to get your questions answered --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/5/20248 minutes, 49 seconds
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Is it time to quit this job?

Mentioned in this episode: subject/object/narcissistic tendencies Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to: quiet the Inner Critical Mother take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers step out of the dysfunctional dynamic altogether step into their power and not be miserable in the process I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://www.kclanderson.com/coaching to learn more about working with me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/12/20243 minutes, 9 seconds
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She called me hellcat

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to: quiet the Inner Critical Mother take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers step out of the dysfunctional dynamic altogether and not be miserable in the process I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://www.kclanderson.com/coaching to learn more about working with me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/30/20248 minutes, 42 seconds
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What to do when your elderly mother (whom you're estranged from) needs help

Mentioned in this episode: #1 Healthy Boundaries Do Not Require You To Do These Things (podcast episode) or read it here: https://kclanderson.ck.page/posts/healthy-boundaries-do-not-require-emotional-pain #2 The Powerless Position You Put Yourself In (And How To Take Yourself Out) podcast episode or read it here: https://kclanderson.ck.page/posts/the-powerless-position-you-put-yourself-in-and-how-to-take-yourself-out Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://www.kclanderson.com/coaching to learn more about working with me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/20/20245 minutes, 10 seconds
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When the shame you experience impacts your relationships

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://www.kclanderson.com/coaching to learn more about working with me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/12/20245 minutes, 51 seconds
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3 untruths to leave behind in 2023 and 3 questions to bring with you into 2024

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] or visit https://www.kclanderson.com/coaching to learn more about working with me --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
12/29/202311 minutes, 11 seconds
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Cultivating safety and security

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
12/19/20236 minutes, 32 seconds
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Naming abuse is how we begin to change what's actually wrong

Mentioned in this episode: The Dark Room: A Memoir of Triumph, by Claudia Chotzen Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/30/202311 minutes, 26 seconds
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Estranged on both sides?

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me at [email protected] to get the writing prompts I mentioned in this episode or to enquire about working together. Subject/Object --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/15/20236 minutes, 29 seconds
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What happened when I handed it back

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me: [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/6/20234 minutes, 8 seconds
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It's called "walking on eggshells" for a reason

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me: [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/12/20234 minutes, 42 seconds
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You do not have to hold her stuff for her

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Email me: [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/3/20231 minute, 52 seconds
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We gotta talk about the comparison that happens amongst adult daughters

What To Say At Her Funeral Book: You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠⁠ Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠⁠ #2 ⁠⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠⁠ #3 ⁠⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠⁠: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/12/20236 minutes, 41 seconds
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What it actually looks like to take care of yourself in the relationship you have with your mother

You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠⁠ Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠⁠ #2 ⁠⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠⁠ #3 ⁠⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠⁠: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/3/20235 minutes, 51 seconds
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What your mother intends versus what you experience

⁠Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠⁠ #2 ⁠⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠⁠ #3 ⁠⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠⁠. ⁠⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠⁠: Choose Your Own Adventure! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/30/202312 minutes, 56 seconds
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it might feel extra hard for you to forgive your mother because of this

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/13/20238 minutes, 48 seconds
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A very special episode

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/8/202312 minutes, 49 seconds
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When she zings you with those snide comments

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/21/20239 minutes, 16 seconds
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Simultaneously Furious and Full of Dread

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/12/20236 minutes, 47 seconds
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One way to handle non-apology apologies

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/3/20233 minutes, 55 seconds
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Setting boundaries with your mother is not a crime

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/28/20237 minutes, 50 seconds
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What reframing your "mother story" ISN'T

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame⁠! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 ⁠Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters⁠ #2 ⁠The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal⁠ #3 ⁠Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic⁠ ⁠Subscribe to read my Loves Notes⁠. ⁠Book 1:1 coaching with me⁠. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/22/202310 minutes, 36 seconds
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You might forget this when setting boundaries

Click here to purchase my brand new book, You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to both quiet the Inner Critical Mother they have in their heads, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their actual mothers, and not be miserable in the process. I got you. Three books that can help: #1 Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters #2 The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal #3 Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/14/20234 minutes, 46 seconds
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subject / object / narcissistic tendencies

Pre-S: Click here to pre-order You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to release the shame they received from their mothers, step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/4/20239 minutes, 9 seconds
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On overcooked rice and shame

Pre-S: Click here to pre-order You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/19/20234 minutes, 23 seconds
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What's Worth Celebrating?

Pre-S: Click here to pre-order You Are Not Your Mother: Releasing Generational Trauma & Shame! Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/14/20232 minutes, 19 seconds
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To visit or not to visit (and what to do with the inevitable uncomfortable feelings that arise when you decide)

Pre-S: Speaking of being a good mother to ourselves, I am delighted to participate in the reMothering Masterclass. This free event starts May 6, and you can learn more and register here. Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Book 1:1 coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/5/20237 minutes, 26 seconds
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The dog that ate my sock and the big lie about mindset

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/14/20237 minutes, 29 seconds
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Grab Your Machete!

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/9/20237 minutes, 7 seconds
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What a sunflower taught me about being true to myself

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/30/20237 minutes, 33 seconds
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Glowing with the energy of a thousand suns

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to #1 overcome the shaming they received from their mothers, #2 step out more confidently into the world and do what they came here to do, #3 take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, and #4 not be miserable in the process.   I got you. Three books that can help:  Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/19/20235 minutes, 21 seconds
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You Do Not Owe Her This

Dear Adult Daughter is a podcast for those who want to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers, who want to experience that relationship differently, and not be miserable in the process.   I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Experience coaching with me. ​The Mother Lode is a safe, personalized, nurturing coaching container to get support in taking better care of yourself in the relationship you have with your mother. To reconnect you to the parts of yourself that you may disconnected from. To love and trust yourself more. Along the way you will cultivate an inner command over how you feel and react, no matter what she’s doing or saying. You will maintain the boundaries you set, and not override them. You will feel safer when expressing anger. You will be able to separate yourself emotionally from her so you know where she ends and you begin. You will find yourself able to be with and process feelings like guilt, regret, shame, and fear. Your mother will no longer be the subject the sucks the life out of you. You will know what to do in the moment "when your mom is going loco on you." You will become the leader in the relationship. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/14/20231 minute, 21 seconds
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The difference between "calm" and "regulated"

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. ​The Mother Lode is a safe, personalized, nurturing coaching container to get support in taking better care of yourself in the relationship you have with your mother. To reconnect you to the parts of yourself that you may disconnected from. To love and trust yourself more. Along the way you will cultivate an inner command over how you feel and react, no matter what she’s doing or saying. You will maintain the boundaries you set, and not override them. You will feel safer when expressing anger. You will be able to separate yourself emotionally from her so you know where she ends and you begin. You will find yourself able to be with and process feelings like guilt, regret, shame, and fear. Your mother will no longer be the subject the sucks the life out of you. You will know what to do in the moment "when your mom is going loco on you." You will become the leader in the relationship. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/8/20235 minutes, 12 seconds
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This one is dedicated to Bella

Indulge me as I talk a little bit about Bella the cat, whom, if you've listened to this podcast before, you've probably heard. My husband and I helped her die last Sunday. Click here to see her photos. ~~~ You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/26/20235 minutes, 35 seconds
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When the relationship you have with your mother affects your other relationships

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/18/20234 minutes, 8 seconds
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Estrangement isn’t the disease but it can be the medicine

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or adult daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/12/202313 minutes, 18 seconds
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What's yours...and what's not yours

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/5/20235 minutes, 11 seconds
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Unhelpful assumptions about why adult daughters go no-contact, and what's more likely

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/29/20239 minutes, 54 seconds
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The fury-devastation-shame cycle

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process.  I got you.  Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/22/20238 minutes, 39 seconds
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Becoming the person who would have protected you as a child

Word Of The Year Mini-Workshop (a live, in-person event in Southeastern Connecticut) You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. Two books that can help: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters and The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.   Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Experience coaching with me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/15/20236 minutes, 33 seconds
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This one is for mothers who don't know what to do

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother (or daughter) or you wouldn't be here, yes? Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. I got you. If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. Ready to do some hands-on work? Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. I offer 1:1 coaching ONLY at various price points. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
1/8/20235 minutes, 58 seconds
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anger that's powerless and anger that's powerful

I am taking a small break from the podcast. Will be back after the start of 2023. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
12/12/20223 minutes, 38 seconds
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Got guilt? Here's a little secret...

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​ Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​ The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
12/4/20221 minute, 30 seconds
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Disrupting the status quo even more than I have already

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​ Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​ The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/27/20223 minutes, 57 seconds
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On Anger and Shame: confronting the bully on the school bus

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​ Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​ The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have three spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/20/20224 minutes, 49 seconds
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"Negative" emotions are not boundaries

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​Ready to do some hands-on work? Spend a day with me 1:1 in a Mother Lode Intensive! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​ The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/13/20222 minutes, 31 seconds
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There Are Some Things You Can't Think Your Way Out Of

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first. Subscribe to read my Loves Notes.  Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast. Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​Ready to do some hands-on work? Register for the Healthy Boundaries Workshop, taking place Saturday, November 12.​ ​ ​Want to spend a day with me 1:1? Mother Lode Intensives! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
11/6/20224 minutes, 18 seconds
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How to change the way you experience the relationship

You want to change something about the relationship you have with your mother or you wouldn't be here, yes? ​ Also, you don't want to be miserable in the process. ​ ​ ​I got you.​ ​ ​If you haven't yet read Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, do that first.  Subscribe to read my Loves Notes. Continue listening to the Dear Adult Daughter podcast.  Or check out my Tiktoks. ​ ​Ready to do some hands-on work? Register for the Healthy Boundaries Workshop, taking place Saturday, November 12.​ ​ ​Want to spend a day with me 1:1? Mother Lode Intensives! These day-long 1:1 coaching sessions will be held on Fridays, starting January 6, 2023. Click here to learn more and schedule yours. ​ ​The Mother Lode 20-week 1:1 coaching program is, of course, still an option and I have four spots open. This is my signature offering, but do not mistake it for a template or formula that I run every client through. This is a custom process designed for you and your specific challenges. Click here to schedule a consult with me and we'll chat about what you're wanting to accomplish and if working together is a good fit. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/30/20223 minutes, 25 seconds
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sometimes standing up for yourself doesn't look like you think it will

Read the the post I refer to here: Advanced Boundary Setting  Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for those who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/23/20225 minutes, 27 seconds
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Silence is a complete sentence

Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for those who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/16/20221 minute, 51 seconds
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Shifting shame

Books on sale! Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration; The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal; and Overcoming Creative Anxiety are part of Amazon's Prime Early Access Sale, which starts October 11 and runs through October 12. Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for those who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/9/20223 minutes, 25 seconds
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How To Make Setting Boundaries Less Confrontational

Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for those who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/2/20224 minutes, 42 seconds
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The best kind of anger

Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/25/20225 minutes
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What the boundaries memes tend to get wrong

Healthy Boundaries Workshop: click here to learn more Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/18/20222 minutes, 47 seconds
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It's not always a matter of not taking it personally

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/11/20226 minutes, 40 seconds
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Revealing patterns associated with our mothers

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
9/4/20223 minutes, 59 seconds
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When you still feel like a child

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/28/20223 minutes, 19 seconds
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Freeing yourself from this dynamic is the real flex

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/21/20222 minutes, 50 seconds
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Healthy boundaries DO NOT require these things

With gratitude to Luis Mojica of Holistic Life Navigation. Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/14/20224 minutes, 51 seconds
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What emotional pain and physical pain have in common

When Chronic Pain Becomes Who You Are Your Self-Concept  Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
8/7/20229 minutes, 5 seconds
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Notice when you have the urge to explain, defend, or prove

Have a question for Karen? Click here. Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/31/20229 minutes, 30 seconds
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Boundaries troubleshooting

Click here to learn more about your nervous system and some simple regulating techniques. Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/24/20225 minutes, 33 seconds
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Two of the most exhausting words in the English language...

Click here to learn more about Possessing Worthiness: A Shame Resilience Workshop Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/17/20224 minutes, 1 second
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This is the work that breaks cycles

Click here to learn more about Possessing Worthiness: A Shame Resilience Workshop Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/10/20229 minutes, 51 seconds
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Creating safety

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
7/3/20227 minutes, 38 seconds
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What you are not responsible for

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/26/20221 minute, 20 seconds
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About gaslighting

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/19/20227 minutes, 59 seconds
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What are your red flags

Click here to read the Love Note referenced in this episode. Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/12/20224 minutes, 12 seconds
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When you want revenge

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/5/20226 minutes, 58 seconds
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Cultivating shame resilience

Click here to learn more about Possessing Worthiness: A Shame Resilience Workshop Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/29/20228 minutes, 54 seconds
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When you put your judgement in her mouth

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/22/20224 minutes, 33 seconds
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"What do I say at her funeral?"

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/15/20227 minutes, 18 seconds
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My abortion story

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who's work is for women who wish to be the leader in the relationship they have with their mothers. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/8/20227 minutes, 58 seconds
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What is estrangement here to teach us?

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/1/20226 minutes, 31 seconds
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5 ways to deal with narcissistic behavior

Get the boundaries guide here. Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/24/20224 minutes, 35 seconds
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One way to take yourself out of the guilt/resentment loop

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/17/20223 minutes, 57 seconds
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Dear mothers of adult daughters

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author. Difficult mother-daughter relationships are her jam. Her coaching practice is trauma-informed and based on intersectional feminist principles. She recognizes that what's possible personally is what's possible collectively and that the Mother Wound is not actually about mothers but about systems and structures that oppress all women. She understands that adage "hurt people hurt people" but prefers to say "people who are unaware of their hurt sometimes hurt other people" while acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy doesn't mean you have to hang out with hurt people and that healthy boundaries (up to an including going "no contact" even if just temporarily) are at the heart of healthy relationships. Interested in learning more? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/10/202211 minutes, 40 seconds
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Three Truths

Clarification: it wasn't the previous episode in which I mentioned the three truths, it was this episode: Being Sensitive Isn't A Problem Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
4/3/20223 minutes, 42 seconds
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6 ways to deal with shame

Book mentioned: The MindBody Code by Dr. Mario Martinez Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/27/20226 minutes
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Ripple Effects

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/20/20224 minutes, 12 seconds
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complexity and contradiction

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/13/20222 minutes, 52 seconds
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Being sensitive isn't a problem (+ 3 things to do when she is cruel)

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
3/6/20225 minutes, 50 seconds
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Why letting go can be hard

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author for women who have difficult relationships with their mothers (or adult daughters). She helps them improve their relationship by getting clear on what they value, setting and maintaining boundaries that actually work, and re-mothering themselves.. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/27/20221 minute, 9 seconds
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When it's your daughter who is the difficult one

I will be a speaker at this year’s Moving Beyond Family Struggles Summit. This is a free online 4-day event taking place between March 2nd-5th, and includes 25 other experts in the fields of family relationship struggles, trauma, loss and overcoming adversity. Click here to register. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers (or daughters)…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/21/20227 minutes, 33 seconds
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141

Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/20/20221 minute, 9 seconds
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"Am I Wrong?"

Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/13/20222 minutes, 24 seconds
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The definitive guide to setting healthy, mature boundaries with your mother (without music)

(in which I revisit everything I've ever written about boundaries, add some new information, and put it one place...because boundaries are the #1 subject you ask about...to get the written version of this guide, with the nervous system regulating practices, send me an email: [email protected]) Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/9/202214 minutes, 13 seconds
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The definitive guide to setting healthy, mature boundaries with your mother

(in which I revisit everything I've ever written about boundaries, add some new information, and put it one place...because boundaries are the #1 subject you ask about) Karen C.L. Anderson helps smart, creative women take care of themselves in the relationship they have with their mothers…and to use that relationship as a catalyst for growth, creativity, and wisdom. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 mentorship program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what’s possible personally is what’s possible collectively, and that “the Mother Wound” is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” but prefers to say “people who are unaware of their hurts sometimes hurt other people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not mean you have to hang out with hurt people, and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing. Interested in working with Karen? Click here to schedule a free call with Karen. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/6/20229 minutes, 50 seconds
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For you, if you dread Mother's Day

Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/8/20212 minutes, 58 seconds
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An invisible dynamic that keeps you stuck in misery with your mother...and how to get out

Mentioned in this episode: Beyond Victim Consciousness by Lynne Forrest ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a master-certified life coach and author who has helped thousands of smart, creative women use the difficult relationships they have with their mothers as a catalyst for growth. Author of Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters: A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018); The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal (January 2020); and Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices For Disarming Your Inner Critic (June 2020), Karen incorporates story-telling, journaling, awareness tools, shadow work, and simple energy and somatic practices in her Mother Lode 1:1 program. Her approach is safe, fun, and effective. Karen recognizes that what is possible personally is what is possible collectively, and that what is often referred to as the Mother Wound, is not actually about mothers, but about systems that oppress all women. She understands the adage, “hurt people, hurt people,” while also acknowledging that cultivating compassion and empathy does not necessarily equal access and that healthy boundaries (up to and including going “no contact”) are at the heart of healing.  Interested in working with Karen? Click here to answer a few questions and she will be in touch! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
2/10/202111 minutes
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A brave, middle path

A Woman Is No Man by Etaf Rum ~~~ Click here to schedule some time for a virtual coffee date (via Zoom) so we can explore what you’re wanting to accomplish. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
10/30/20205 minutes, 7 seconds
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Stamina and Humility

"The beauty of anti-racism is that you don't have to pretend to be free of racism to be an anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it's the only way forward." ~ Ijeoma Oluo Free five-part course from Resmaa Menakem: Racialized Trauma For a deeper dive: My Grandmother's Hands A Letter To My White Male Friends Of A Certain Age  Other resources can be found at the end of this blog post: Stamina And Humility ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: :: After (The Before & After) (2011) :: The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) :: Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) :: The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) :: Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) :: Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (July 2020) Karen is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
6/8/202013 minutes, 47 seconds
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Let's connect more directly!

Learn more about and sign up for The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity here. Learn more about and sign up for the Overcoming Creative Anxiety book club here. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.  You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question.  Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/27/20205 minutes, 23 seconds
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Does “doing the work” mean you eventually realize it was your fault all along?

I am hosting a special community project in the month of June. The Mother Lode: A Conversation About Emotions, Power & Creativity is a free month-long event in which 20 women will share their stories about what they've learned (or didn't learn) from their mothers about emotion, power, and creativity, and how they use what they learned in support of their work in the world. Learn more and join us by subscribing here. ~~~ Don't forget to send me your questions. I will answer them in an upcoming episode, anonymously, of course.  You can also click the +Message button on the podcast homepage to send me a recorded comment or question.  Subscribe to my email Love Notes. ~~~ Karen C.L. Anderson is a writer, author, and master-certified life coach who helps women use the troubled relationships they have with their mothers and/or daughters as a catalyst for growth, leadership, wisdom, and creativity. She is the author of: After (The Before & After) (2011) The Peaceful Daughter’s Guide To Separating From A Difficult Mother (2015…no longer available) Difficult Mothers, Adult Daughters, A Guide For Separation, Liberation & Inspiration (March 2018) The Difficult Mother-Daughter Relationship Journal: A Guide For Revealing and Healing Toxic Generational Patterns (January, 2020) Dear Adult Daughter, With the Emphasis On Adult (May 2020) Overcoming Creative Anxiety: Journal Prompts & Practices for Disarming Your Inner Critic & Allowing Creativity To Flow (June 2020) Karen runs the Make It Real membership community (for women who want to “make real” the concepts in her books) and is at work on a memoir, A Letter To The Daughter I Chose Not To Have. She lives on the Southeastern Connecticut shoreline. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/kclanderson/message
5/15/20205 minutes, 51 seconds