It's Time to Get Holy Is the path to spirituality sitting cross-legged on a windy mountaintop, miserably chewing on stale bread and gagging on sips of murky water? Nope. Not by us. Hashem has blessed us with a world full of delicious gashmius, and it’s there for your enjoyment. Mmm. But there’s one crucial caveat that can’t be ignored. You need to know how to use pleasure without turning it into a gigantic, yellow-fanged monster that will dominate your thoughts and actions every waking moment of your life. And if that sounds scary, that’s because it is. In this Shmuz, you will learn how to get the monster in your mind under control. You’ll discover how to use the pleasures of this world to draw closer to Hashem. And you’ll finally understand how to deal with your wealthy brother-in-law’s geshmake kiddushim, without losing sight of who you are. Sounds good? Listen now. 

Session One: The Descent into Slavery  We know that contemplating the events of Yetzias Mitzrayim is central to our avodas Hashem. Recognizing that this house has a Master, and internalizing our knowledge that Hashem exists, is the very purpose of our life in this world. It is therefore our holy obligation to learn as much as we can about Pesach and gain a detailed understanding of the events that transpired. In the first session of Living Through the Makos, Rabbi Shafier explains how Klal Yisroel went from being a privileged nation in Egypt to tortured slaves. He discusses the rise of anti-Semitism amongst the Mitzri, and how their hatred of others ultimately led to their hatred of themselves. Packed with valuable life-lessons, this series is guaranteed to give you the ultimate in Pesach preparation and elevate your Sedarim like never before.

Shiurim on shmiras haloshon aren’t popular. Like exercise or keeping healthy, most think 'yep. I know this. Shouldn’t do it. Not sure I need to listen to a whole shiur about it...' Unfortunately, the parameters of lashon hara are not what you think. Just like eating treif or being mechalel Shabbos, it is one hundred percent forbidden. And it’s easy to see why- we all have stuff in our history that we wouldn’t want ‘out there’.  But there’s more: it’s relatively easy to stop talking lashon hara. You see, lashon hara is mostly due to a lack of awareness. And so by becoming more attentive to what the Torah demands of you, you can start amassing a serious amount of s’char for yourself. Ready to start building a beautiful olam haba? Watch now.

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Hashem wants marriages to flourish. So why is it so hard?😫 Even the smartest of couples don’t realize how dangerous mistakes are to their marriage. And unfortunately, guidance on shalom bayis is needed today more than ever before. The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is a complete system for creating a successful marriage. Available in Jewish bookstores and on www.TheShmuz.com, it gives both young and experienced couples a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work ✅ 

Rabbi, I know I should want Moshiach to come…but the truth is…I’m not sure. What’s in it for me? Listen now to Rabbi Shafier’s surprising response 

Scary thought: Many people don’t become a fraction of what they could be 

Let’s face it…some people just have it easier than others. Why is that? 

Emunah and Bitachon: Do You Understand the Difference? Do you believe in Hashem, but sometimes feel that He’s out to get you? Then you have emunah, but lack bitachon. You see, it’s not enough to simply recognize that Hashem runs the world. As frum Jews, we are also meant to internalize that Hashem is directly involved in our own lives and knows what is best for us. Too many of our problems in bitachon stem from the fact that we think we know better than G-d. Too often we assume we know the bigger picture, and feel abandoned by our Creator. In this Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier shares some practical ideas on how to make Hashem real. Pick a method that speaks to you, and transform your life into one of genuine trust and menuchas hanefesh. 

Most of our difficulties in emunah stem from this common error.This clip is from *The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Shemos*. You can watch the full version here: https://bit.ly/3yEmDQB  

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re 💯% sure that they will live in married bliss forever 🥰 Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong 😭 If only they had read The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. Filled with practical advice and straight-talking techniques, it’s the ultimate must-read for every new home 🏠 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is available in Jewish bookstores and www.TheShmuz.com 

‘Hashem Loves Me’ is a nice sentiment…how am I meant to actually believe it when things are tough? This clip is taken from *The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Shemos*. You can watch the full version here: https://bit.ly/3yEmDQB  

There’s no protectezia in the world to come. No short cuts, no excuses. There is only one criteria for judgement: how much of YOU did you become? This clip is taken from *The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Vayechi, A Ben Olam Haba*. You can watch the full version here: https://vimeo.com/382927076 Have an amazing Shabbos! 

This is one of those big-deal concepts that, if you stop to think about it, can straight-up change your life. Prepared to think deeply? Listen to this. 

There are many proofs for the Torah…but what does your heart tell you? 

This short reminder may be just what you need to hear right now. 

Imagine for one moment what life would be like if you had a clear vision of olam haba. Wouldn’t you feel rich? Just picture it. Every mitzvah that you do, every kind word that you say, would appear in front of you, a precious diamond to keep forever. It would certainly change your perspective, wouldn’t it? The topic of what it means to be a ‘ben olam haba’ is discussed in this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha. Listen now and transform your Shabbos. 

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re 💯% sure that they will live in married bliss forever 🥰 Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong 😭 If only they had read The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. Filled with practical advice and straight-talking techniques, it’s the ultimate must-read for every new home 🏠 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is available in Jewish bookstores and www.TheShmuz.com  

Imagine for one moment what life would be like if you had a clear vision of olam haba. Wouldn’t you feel rich? This clip is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Vayechi, A Ben Olam Haba. You can watch the full version here: https://vimeo.com/382927076 

Aahhh Shabbos…aside from being a day of yom menucha did you ever wonder WHY Hashem wants us to spend 1/7th of our life in this way? Watch now for a beautiful quick vort for your Shabbos table! 

Imagine if you succeeded in all of your self-development goals…your body, your middos, your thoughts, your actions- completely under control. What would life look like? Rabbi Shafier’s answer may surprise you. 

If you don’t have this single cognition, you will spend your entire life in a state of miserable confusion. 

If you're looking for a tried-and-tested method to get your marriage back on course, you need The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage- without the 💰💰💰 of expensive marriage therapy.Get your copy at www.TheShmuz.com or any Jewish bookstore 👍 

If Hashem created this world to give, why isn’t it more pleasurable? 

In this week’s parsha we learn of Yosef’s impeccable honesty, going above his obligation as viceroy and personally overseeing each and every sale during the years of famine. Although his behavior went above and beyond, as Torah Jews we can certainly use Yosef’s yashrus as an inspiration for our own business dealings. In this shmuz, Rabbi Shafier discusses some common pitfalls that can occur when in the workplace or handling money, and has a sobering message for those that think they could never be guilty of gezel. 

Everyone does it. But that doesn’t make it ok.This video was taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha on Parshas Vayigash. Watch the full Shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/381903080  

The land of Israel is replete with miracles. In this Chanukah Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier describes in detail the incredible nissim that have occurred for us, both during the times of the Hashmonaim and in modern-day history. You may think you know the Chanukah story. But how familiar are you with the continuation of those miracles? Prepared to be astounded as Rabbi Shafier brings to life some of the little-known events that have happened during the past seventy years.  

Does Hashem need you to save His world? This clip is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeishiv here: https://vimeo.com/379579384 Chanukah sameach! 

Ever noticed how an arrogant person is desperate for your approval? Why is that? 

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I'd love to be able to thank Hashem- just one small problem. My life stinks! 

Think the World to Come is irrelevant to your life right now? You’re dead wrong. Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeishiv here: https://vimeo.com/379579384 

Wherever you are, Hashem is there. With you. Have a wonderful Shabbos Watch the full shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/378108198 

You’re a spiritual entity...have you said hello to your neshama today?Watch the full shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/378108198 

Terrible at decision making? This is for you 

😱“Can I Ask My Wife To Lose Weight?”😱 Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make! Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable 😍 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is available in Jewish bookstores and at www.TheShmuz.com 

Yaakov walked with Hashem. He achieved an enviable closeness with Ha Kodesh Baruch Hu, understanding that He is present and involved in every aspect of creation. How can we integrate this truth into our own lives? How can we speak to Hashem and really feel that He’s listening, that He’s real and right here with us? In this hands-on shmuz, Rabbi Shafier presents us with an irresistible idea on how we can reach incredible heights in our own avodas Hashem. He also gives us three actionable suggestions on how to improve the quality of our davening and provides plenty of chizuk to get us started. 

Your eyes should be closed during Shemoneh Esrei. Want to know why? The answer will transform your davening 🕮 Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayishlach here: https://vimeo.com/378108198 

The Rabbi forgot his drasha and gave the listeners a lesson they’ll never forget... Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on ParshasVayeitzei here: https://vimeo.com/376691736  

There’s only one way to navigate this thing called life, and that’s 100% reliance on Hashem. 

When things are difficult, it’s normal to ask the following question- ‘Hashem, what do I need this for?’ Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s perspective.  

Hashem I can’t do this...I need You. It’s at that point when you begin to get it.Watch the full Shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/376691736 

We learn in this week’s parsha that Yaakov Avinu was saved from Lavan’s murderous intentions in the merit of his hard work. Not because of his unfathomable yiras shamayim, not because of his avodas Hashem, not because he was the son of Yitzchak and the grandson of Avraham. Hard work. Something we can all relate to. Something that occupies many, many hours of our time throughout our lives. Why does Hashem see work as such a zechus? Why weren’t we created with our needs easily met, allowing us to focus purely on mitzvos and limud haTorah?In the Merit of Work unravels how the everyday challenges of the workplace are no accident. Those late paychecks, irritating colleagues and daily grind are all designed to test us, strengthen us and move us forward in our ruchnius. This week, discover how your workplace can become the perfect place for spiritual prosperity and growth. Your nine to five will never be the same again. 

Here’s an empowering thought to take you into Shabbos. 

Married? This is brilliant advice.Find out why The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes has sold over 20,000 copies. Check it out here: https://book.theshmuz.com/first-step1643379519788 

The more talented you are, the more humble you should be. 

Eisav was a lover of luxuries. But what’s that got to do with me? Am I not entitled to spoil myself a little? 

If you don’t appreciate it, you may as well not have it. Isn’t that a disturbing thought? Of course, appreciation is at the core of kibud av v’eim, a mitzvah that Eisav HaRasha excelled in. Think about it. By the age of fifteen, Eisav had already killed a man, lived with a married woman, denied the Torah and renounced mitzvos, techias hameisim and olam haba. Devoid of morality, it seems puzzling that he was so careful to honor his father Yitzchak. In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, Rabbi Shafier takes a deeper look as to why kibud av was so instinctual to even a lowlife like Eisav. Ready to gain a golden ticket to happiness and meaning? Listen now  

Don’t give up on your dreams. This simple hack will get you focused and ready to succeed 

If you’re busy comparing your accomplishments to others, you may just be missing out on your mission in this world. 

People always wonder- why does life have to be so hard? Why can’t Hashem just let me learn, daven and get closer to Him, without all these difficult distractions?  

This common syndrome has the potential to ruin your life in this world and the next 

In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, Rabbi Shafier delves into the ultimate tafkid of Sara Imeinu. In spite of her incredible accomplishments, we learn that Sara Imeinu’s role was primarily to become the mother of Am Yisroel through Yitzchak Avinu. Let that sink in. It wasn’t until she was ninety years old that she started fulfilling her purpose in this world. For our own lives, this delivers some powerful lessons- the futility of comparing ourselves with others, the fallacy of judging those around us and the freedom to accept the stage of life that Hashem has placed us in. Seize this opportunity to learn something about the Parsha this week- it contains powerful life lessons that we all need reminding of. 

Does it seem that most of the world lacks clarity, direction and drive? Why is that? Watch now for Rabbi Shafier’s startling response. 

Here’s a mindblowing vort to enhance your table this Shabbos 

What is the purpose of pain? Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s comforting perspective. 

Want to know the most empowering thought a person can have? Listen to this. 

Akeidas Yitzchak. An event that continues to shape the Jewish People, giving us endless zechuyos and molding our collective character for all time. What sets the Akeidah apart from, l’havdil, some of the death cults of our enemies? What was the purpose of the test? Why was Avraham’s response so mind blowing? Think about it. He got up early in the morning to kill his child. The answers to these questions give us the direction we need in our own challenges. In The Shmuz on the Parsha, Rabbi Shafier offer a practical, three point survival guide that you can use to step up to any difficulty. Entitled ‘The Anatomy of a Nisayon’, this shmuz will give you clarity, chizuk and understanding, no matter what you are going through.

Transcending Physicality: An important reminder during these challenging times Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeira here: vimeo.com/372264229 

Are you the type of person who does a mitzvah…feels good for about second…and then…’yeah but it wasn’t exactly lismah…you only did it for kavod…it wasn’t really done with kavannah’ If this sounds familiar, you need to listen to this! 

Believe in yourself, in your Torah, and in the value of your mitzvos 

Challenges are not just tests to see if we can survive. They’re hand crafted for our growth. Listen now for 51 seconds of pure chizuk

If you’re not sure what life will be like after Moshiach, listen to this for Rabbi Shafier’s reassuring response. 

Ever wonder WHY you need such trouble in your life? And then the 9 days start and you can’t even take a long hot shower… Listen now for a paradigm shift. You got this! 

The Three Weeks can sometimes feel like ‘Uh-oh, better watch out for Hashem’s big stick...get through the Nine Days... then aaaaah go on vacation.’ It doesn’t have to be that way. This short clip will give you a new perspective. 

It’s time to stop spinning your wheels, and start focusing on where you want to go in this world. Have a wonderful week! 

You’ve asked daas Torah. You’ve gathered as much information as you can. How can you reassure yourself that you’ve made the right decision?

Recognizing your inherent potential doesn’t have to mean compromising your humility. Listen to this powerful clip to learn more.

If you’re ready to stop playing games with health and your future, listen to this.

Are you an addict? No? You sure about that?

Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s grounded response. To ask a q to Rabbi Shafier, please email [email protected]

It’s time to stop spinning your wheels, and start focusing on where you want to go in this world. Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

What can you achieve in the moments before Moshiach? Wishing you an easy fast 

Our life right now is not normal. A long time ago we forgot what life is supposed to be like. We forgot about what living a life of clarity means. Imagine, for a moment, a world without confusion, without doubt. We may not feel this acutely, but Hashem does. He feels our pain and is longing for our return. If you feel that the sorrow of Tisha B’Av is difficult to relate to, take the time now to ponder what we’re living without and just how broken our world is. This Shmuz will bring home the relevance of this moment of reflection and mourning, and show us in practical application what we can do to bring Hashem into our lives once more. 

The world that we live in isn’t the way it’s supposed to be. Tisha B’Av gives us that moment of reflection, the opportunity to consider what we are missing and how we can begin to rectify what has been lost. Like children born into darkness, we can’t even comprehend what life should look like, how we are meant to enjoy this world and use it as a tool to become closer to Hashem. This Tisha B’Av take the time to reset your perspective. Realize what we are missing, and mourn. 

In shidduchim? Looking for the sign that he’s the right one? This might be it. 

A damaged sense of self will play havoc with your relationships with others. Want to become a whole person? Catch the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

“I just love it when my carefully laid plans go completely haywire” Said no one ever. If you sometimes get frustrated, irritated or down right angry when things don’t go your way, welcome to the club of being human. Want to know what to do about it? Listen to this. 

The fact that the Ramban talked about the Big Bang 800 YEARS AGO is pretty astonishing, wouldn’t you say? Want to watch Rabbi Shafier's Wonders of the World Series? Go here: https://theshmuz.com/wonders-of-the-world/ Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

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The magic moment comes when you realize how powerless you are. 

If you’re married, you’ve probably asked yourself this question. Looking to bring more appreciation to your marriage? Go here: http://bit.ly/40dh09m 

Deep down, you may feel like G-d is making poor choices when it comes to your life. But before you go and rate Hashem, listen to this. 

Here’s one way to live a miserable life: base your sense of self around what others think of you Watch the full class here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

Listen now to make your Shabbos davening a little more AWEsome 

Challenges are not just tests to see if we can survive. They’re hand crafted for our growth. Listen now for a shot of pure chizuk 

DANGER! Being judgemental can seriously damage your spiritual health The audio is not great on this clip. But the message is so important that it’s still worth putting it out there 

If you’re one of the 20,000+ people who have read The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes you know that Rabbi Shafier is very insistent about not trying to change your spouse. Not satisfied with that? He’s the one technique he does recommend. This recording is from The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book! Check it out on TheShmuz.com! 

You’ve told yourself this so many times: “Hashem loves me”“Hashem wants my success” “Hashem is doing this for my good” Just one problem: How can I bridge the gap between knowing… and really feeling it? Listen now for the answer. 

Feeling like the post-Shabbos clean up never ends? This idea can help you reframe. Have an amazing week! 

Here’s your erev Shabbos reminder that you’re not in control…and that’s ok. Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

Listen to this if you’re dating: How many shadchanim should I call? For practical, helpful advice on the dating process download Rabbi Shafier’s Dating Seminar here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ 

If you’d like to solve 80% of your philosophical problems, the solution is simple: stop playing G-d. 

Bitachon isn’t learnt from a book. Sure, you can learn the concepts, the theory. But genuine bitachon? That comes from real life. Think your bitachon leaves a lot to be desired? Watch this. 

”Rabbi, are you seriously telling me that the entire universe was created just for a bunch of two legged-creatures?! Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s amazing response- especially if you’re in need of a hashkafic deprogramming. 

In this powerful Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier discusses the spiritual forces that cause cognitive dissonance and shows us how we can have a chance at living a more authentic and truthful existence. If you want to have the clarity to move forward through this thing called life, you need to understand what motivates and drives you. This shmuz will change everything you ever thought about yourself. 

Parenting is hard. How can you get your kid to listen?  

On behalf of wives everywhere, he’s a little reminder for the husbands Have an amazing Shabbos! 

Looking to daven with more kavannah and less blah? This simple technique can help. If you’d like to get serious about improving your conversation with Hashem, check out Rabbi Shafier’s Tefillah Project. It’s a 5 hour investment of your time, divided into 10 actionable chunks. Stream or download for free here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-tefilah-project/ 

I’d be the first to thank Hashem…if I had anything to thank Hashem for. Ever feel like that?  

Feel like you’re in a never ending cycle of trying to get your hands on bigger, brighter, better? Then it could be that the American Dream is ruining your life. If this video resonates with you, it’s time to make a change. 

Most middos are incredibly difficult to change. Aside from this one. This one is 100% doable. So why not try it out? 

Arrogance and lack of confidence both have root in the same issue- a damaged sense of self. Listen now to safeguard your emotional health! Want to learn how to be confident- without being arrogant? Get the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/series/humility-arrogance-and-self-esteem/ 

How fragile is your ego? Do you know someone who will never admit to being wrong? They will stubbornly refuse to acknowledge the facts and stick to their story as if their very lives depend on it. Unfortunately, this quirk is not just limited to hardened criminals and pathological narcissists. Within all of us is the overwhelming desire to protect our ego and soothe our sense of self. It’s very unpleasant to admit you could be wrong. Unpleasant and humbling. Ultimately, your very purpose on this planet is to work on your middos and become the very best version of yourself. And that version includes being truthful. It includes courageously learning humility. And it includes developing the psychological fortitude to be ok with being wrong. Ready to face up to who you really are? Listen now.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s _normal_ to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s _normal_ to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR! ✨Get your copy of the 10 Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book with free bonuses and free shipping from http://bit.ly/40dh09m 

One of the hardest parts of a nisayon is trying to wrap your head around the why. Here’s an insight from the Mesilas Yesharim that may help. 

Hashem wants you to succeed this week. Read that again. Hashem wants YOU to succeed this week. 

Your neshama has been waiting all year for Shavuos. Spend a few minutes now to remind yourself what it’s all about. 

Thinking of inviting a couple over for yomtov? Listen to this first… 

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Short clip for Shavuos: The guidebook for happiness was written by our CreatorGo beyond the cheesecake this year. Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s series on Kabbolas HaTorah here: https://theshmuz.com/series/at-the-foot-of-har-sinai/ 

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Believing that you're better than someone else feels delicious. Problem is, you’ll be hated for it. Watch this video on arrogance and get that middah under control. 

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Feel like you might just fall into Shavuos? It’s not too late to learn some powerful Torah right now! 

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‘We don’t have the same outlook or goals on life. We were pushed into marriage without discussing important topics. Does the fact that Hashem allowed them to get married mean the potential is still there?’If you’re looking for a place where you can achieve success in your shalom bayis, have your questions answered and experience a deeper, more loving relationship right off the bat- you need to join the Chosson Chabura. It’s every Monday night at 8pm. Click here to join! https://chat.whatsapp.com/C0fTC3Hru0lBnQo0ueZ0jY 

You need stability. There are bills to pay, obligations to meet. But what about the needs of your neshama? If you neglect your soul, do the repercussions scream out?  

“I’ve been dating someone for a few weeks now. He’s ready to go forward but I’m not. How will I know when it’s the right one?” Listen now if you’re looking for guidance in the dating process. Looking for more? Rabbi Shafier’s dating seminar, *Finding and Keeping Your Soulmate*, is available for free audio download here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ Pass on to anyone in the parsha! 

בשבילי נברא העולם Isn’t just a nice platitude. It’s meant to give you an inherent sense of self-worth and meaning to your life. Listen to this if you need to feel like you matter today. 

If you believe it all ends at the grave, there are no answers… Have a wonderful Shabbos 

There’s one question they will ask you when you leave this world. Curious? Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s life-altering response. 

“I know people talk about this all the time, but I feel like right when we got married we were so close and it was so much fun, and now with so many more responsibilities in life we’ve lost that passion. How do we bring it back?” If this is a question you’ve sometimes wondered, listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s on-point answer. Make sure your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Learn how to avoid The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. Get your copy of Rabbi Shafier’s new Video Book exclusively at www.TheShmuz.com 👍 

Ever wondered why most of the world is fundamentally unhappy? Listen to this. To hear The Shmuz on the Parsha for Parshas Emor, go here: https://vimeo.com/416973865 

Let them become holy. The command that has echoed throughout our history and enjoins us to be separate and unique, a beloved holy nation that will forever stand apart. But how special can I be, when I’m just one out of seven billion people on this planet? In the third* class of the series, Rabbi Shafier empowers us to recognize our inherent closeness to the Ribbono Shel Olam. When we fully internalize that whatever we experience, Hashem experiences as well, we gain a glimpse into His love for us and His belief in us. Those that stood at Har Sinai saw with complete clarity their unlimited ability to achieve, to grow, to accomplish. We have the same power within us. By tapping into the messages of Shavuos, we too can learn how to unleash our potential and can continue the year with a renewed sense of energy and purpose. *Go to TheShmuz.com for the second class

Did your spouse do something irritating this past Shabbos? If you’re in the 1% who never finds living with another person difficult, you don’t need to watch this video. For everyone else, this short clip can offer a refreshing perspective Didn’t get your copy of the Ten Really Dumb Mistakes video book yet? You can purchase your copy from http://bit.ly/40dh09m with free extras and added bonuses 

Every pleasure has its limit. Why is that? 

Here’s a clip in time for Sefira: How to respect anyone 

Respect is the basis of every meaningful relationship. How could it be that the choshuve talmidim of Rabbi Akiva fell short on this crucial middah? In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, Rabbi Shafier takes an in-depth look at the Torah approach to respect. Where did the talmidim trip up? The answer can stop you making those same mistakes in your own life. Want to deepen your marriage, your friendships and your interactions with others? Listen now

We have a mitzvah to remember Har Sinai. In order to do so, we must firstly understand with depth and clarity what happened on that momentous day. At the Foot of Har Sinai will take you through the majesty and awe, giving a fascinating account of the events that transpired. Although it is hard to imagine the miracles the Bnei Yisroel lived with, we can begin to appreciate why they experienced such tremendous joy after contemplating the explanations from our mesorah and discovering the incredible details of kabbolas HaTorah. In this introductory class, join Rabbi Shafier as he guides us through the defining moment of our history, and learn how the experience of Matan Torah continues to shape our own destiny until today. 

‘I saw a video from Rabbi Shafier about not being a pleasure seeker…since when does Yiddishkeit ban enjoying life?’ Listen to this for the answer, have a wonderful Shabbos and enjoy the challah! 

If you had to deal with a difficult person over yomtov, this clip is for you. 

Shiurim on shmiras haloshon aren’t popular. Like exercise or keeping healthy, most think ‘yep. I know this. Shouldn’t do it. Not sure I need to listen to a whole shiur about it...’ Unfortunately, the parameters of lashon hara are not what you think. Just like eating treif or being mechalel Shabbos, it is one hundred percent forbidden. And it’s easy to see why-we all have stuff in our history that we wouldn’t want ‘out there’. It makes sense that talking about even true events could cause serious damage to another Jew. But there’s more: it’s actually relatively easy to stop talking lashon hara. You see, lashon hara isn’t driven by passion, by desire. It’s mostly due to a lack of awareness. By becoming more attentive of what the Torah demands of us, we can start amassing a serious amount of se’char for ourselves. All it takes is for us to become more mindful and aware of what we’re saying. 

If you’re married, you can relate to this. Still haven’t got yourself a copy of Rabbi Shafier’s best selling Video book? Go here to learn what all the hype’s about: http://bit.ly/40dh09m 

So here’s an idea. Pause for a moment and think about all of the many, many mitzvos you did over Pesach. Think about the kedusha you created. The changes that were made in the upper worlds. The impact your actions had. And now consider what you’d like to do next, what gains you would like to make in your avodas Hashem. We’re on the countdown to kabbolas haTorah. Whatever goals you set in ruchnius, are in your reach. Let’s go! 

A gut moed! Hopefully, your yomtov is going beautifully. If it isn’t, this short video can offer some direction and perspective  

Hey, did you ever consider that the Mitzrim saw the exact same miracles as we did? So why did they keep denying Hashem? Listen to this super short clip to get a powerful glimpse into human nature 

Living Through the Makkos A four-part, in depth look at יציאת מצרים through the eyes of our מפרשים Kick off your Seder with confidence, knowing you have a full pocket of dazzling דברי תורה to share Go Deeper with an accessible look at the major מפרשים, you’ll be able to rise above a kindergartener’s knowledge of the מכות Prepare to see your kid’s eyeballs pop when you tell them what really happened in מצרים Your journey out of מצרים begins now! 

Gut erev Shabbos hagodol! Here’s a fundamental yesod. The more you think about it, the deeper it gets. Try it out when you’re preparing for yomtov! 

You know that the whole point of Pesach is to strengthen your Emunah and know Hashem loves you, right? If you want to make it real to you this year, this Shmuz will take you step by step on what you need to focus on. 

Erev Pesach can be a stressful time. Be nice!Want a copy of Rabbi Shafier’s best-selling marriage book? Go to www.TheShmuz.com to learn how you can snag yourself some life-changing yt reading! 

Living Through the Makkos A four-part, in depth look at יציאת מצרים through the eyes of our מפרשים Kick off your Seder with confidence, knowing you have a full pocket of dazzling דברי תורה to share Go Deeper with an accessible look at the major מפרשים, you’ll be able to rise above a kindergartener’s knowledge of the מכות Prepare to see your kid’s eyeballs pop when you tell them what really happened in מצרים Your journey out of מצרים begins now! 

Living Through the Makkos A four-part, in depth look at יציאת מצרים through the eyes of our מפרשים Kick off your Seder with confidence, knowing you have a full pocket of dazzling דברי תורה to share Go Deeper with an accessible look at the major מפרשים, you’ll be able to rise above a kindergartener’s knowledge of the מכות Prepare to see your kid’s eyeballs pop when you tell them what really happened in מצרים Your journey out of מצרים begins now! 

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Taking Our Marriage to The Next Level - The Roles and Responsibilities of The Husband & Wife 

If you’re feeling disconnected from Hashem, this short video can give you a new perspective. Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

Ok, I think even the most relaxed amongst us are starting to think about Pesach now...and you know what’s *just perfect* to have playing while you’re cleaning or packing up? Living Through the Makkos of course! 

The word ‘vayikra’ is written in a sefer Torah with a small aleph. Our mesorah tells us that Moshe Rabbeinu was uncomfortable with the Torah recording that Hashem called out to him, and begged Hashem to alter the wording of the posuk. When Hashem refused, Moshe Rabbeinu wrote ‘vayikra’ with a small aleph instead. The Baal HaTurim comments that this is a sign of Moshe’s incredible level of humility, yet it begs the obvious question: a humble man listens to his Creator and obeys His commands. Against this backdrop, Rabbi Shafier guides us through the often misunderstood middah of anavah, and discusses what it means for our own sense of self and emotional wellbeing. We are all gifted with incredible talents and abilities-how can we utilize our inherent potential whilst still remaining grounded in humility and gratitude?*This is the link to watch*:https://bit.ly/3pMjcnO  

It’s easy to fall into the arrogance trap. Don’t be that guy! This is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha, Parshas Vayikra. Watch the full Shmuz here: https://bit.ly/3pMjcnO  

30sec clip: The Greatness Within Me You know this. But sometimes, we all need a little motivation. 

You get to talk to the Creator of Heaven and Earth. Isn’t that pretty amazing? Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

If you feel like you’re living moments before Moshiach, remember this: Hashem is the one keeping everything in existence.  

In this week’s parsha, we come to the making of the kiyor, fashioned from the mirrors of the Jewish women. Moshe Rabbeinu was initially reluctant to accept this offering, wary that something that was used for female beautification would be inappropriate in the Mishkan. Hashem replies that these mirrors are actually the most beloved. Why did Moshe think Hashem wouldn’t want the mirrors? What does this week’s parsha teach us about the role of female beauty? Listen now to discover the role of attraction in marriage, some fundamental differences between men and women and how to achieve pure love with your spouse. 

This is something that requires a constant reminder 

Everyone knows men and women are different. Until they get married. This clip is taken from Shmuz on the Parsha: *Parshas Vayakel: Men are from Mars*. Watch the full shmuz on Parshas Vayakhel here: https://vimeo.com/397772107 

How much do you value yourself? If it’s based on your financial net worth, you could find yourself in trouble. 

What brings more happiness- winning the lottery or becoming paraplegic? This clip is a total paradigm shift. 

In today’s society, you are relentlessly bombarded with two fallacies: One, that money equals happiness and two, that your sense of self should be defined by your net worth. The Torah rejects both of these ideas. Yet we see from this week’s parsha that attraction to money is something inherent in the briah. In this uncomfortably relevant Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier encourages you to take a long hard look at how you judge yourself and others- are your attitudes towards money in line with Torah hashkafa? Or are you constantly pursuing the next best thing, hoping that it will give you the elusive satisfaction for which we all crave? 

Got post-Purim regret? This video can help 

In the fourth session on Megillas Esther, Rabbi Shafier brings the conclusion of the Megillah dramatically to life. From Haman’s sudden demise to our own swift salvation, this class will explain the final perakim with additional insight and depth. Discover why Purim is considered to be greater than the kabbola at Har Sinai, how Haman’s unchecked arrogance inevitably led to his downfall and what forced Mordechai to leave the Sanhedrin. If you’re looking to reach a higher madreiga this Purim, having an understanding and appreciation of the words of the Megillah is essential. Tune in here and go beyond the externals this Purim with The Shmuz. 

This simple technique will stop you from becoming arrogant. Listen now to keep your middos in check! 

Reminder: ‘I failed’ doesn’t make you a failure This is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Tizaveh here: https://vimeo.com/394790017 

Know an arrogant person? This clip is for you This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Tizaveh here: https://vimeo.com/394790017 

Esther stands at the threshold of the throne room, prepared to forfeit her life in this world and the next. Instead, she is assisted by three melachim, achieves ruach hakodesh and is the catalyst for Klal Yisroel’s eventual salvation. Aside from the obvious message that Hashem can always flip things around in an instant, there are many other life lessons to be learnt. Firstly, Esther’s people skills are exemplary. Want to ask for a raise? Just follow Esther’s three point plan on how to submit a request. Need chizuk in following daas Torah? Use Esther as an example. And if we want a clear warning on how not to behave we need look no further than Haman. His relentless drive for kavod shows us how if a person doesn’t control his middos, he’s destined to be utterly miserable in this world. It’s all here. Genuine, Torah-true hashkafa and timeless messages laid open for you this Purim. 

This week's parsha is about the creation of the menorah. The menorah was destined to be made through miracles. So why did Hashem give Moshe instructions on how to make it? What was the purpose of Moshe's effort? Knowing the balance between bitachon and hishtadlus is something we all struggle with. Health, shidduchim, parnassah...how much effort should I do? What if too much histadlus is driving me crazy? Wouldn't a real baal bitachon leave it all to Hashem? In this clarifying shiur, Rabbi Shafier exposes some crucial misconceptions. If you're wondering how to balance your life according to the Torah, this Shmuz is for you. You'll learn how to set goals, make money and pay those bills- without losing sight of the ratzon Hashem. 

This dvar Torah will give your Shabbos table plenty to think about. Have a beautiful Shabbos! 

The one gemara the satan doesn’t want you to know may just change your life. 

It’s easy to believe in Hashem when you’re broke. What choice do you have? It’s when you succeed that things get sticky.This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Terumah here: https://vimeo.com/393308196  

Mordechai’s timings were extraordinary. He demanded that Esther risk her life and approach Achashverosh, even though Achasverosh was imminently due to summon her. He refused to delay a national taanis, and instead called for Klal Yisroel to fast from the first day of Pesach, forgoing the zechus and mitzvas aseh of achilas matzah. What was Mordechai’s cheshbon? And what does his reasoning teach us for our own lives? In the second class on Megillas Esther, learn why Mordechai’s rebuke is so on point. Grasp the posukim like never before, gain a heightened awareness of the Megillah and prepare to go into Purim with an elevated sense of joy and gratitude. 

In the first class on Megillas Esther, Rabbi Shafier explains how the Megillah begins-the history, the context and the background of the story. Learn why Achashverosh was reluctant to kill his queen, the motivations behind Haman’s bizarre marriage advice and how incredible hashgacha pratis was evident from the very beginning. This perek-by-perek series will transform your experience of krias Megillah and give a new depth of knowledge to a familiar tale. 

Live your truth. Love is love. You do you. You’re worth it. Just do it. These are some of the phrases common in today’s culture. The problem is, they are completely at odds with Torah hashkafa.   Lo sachmod beis rayecha. Lo sachmod aishes rayecha. Do not desire your friend’s house. Do not desire your friend’s wife. In fact, don’t desire anything that belongs to him. So says the aseres hadibros in this week’s parsha. But why not? Society cries. ‘How can I deny my feelings? Why should I oppress my love for this person? Why shouldn’t I have the house I want, the car I want? Afterall, I can split the payments, put it on the credit card…’This week's Shmuz on the Parsha invites you to embrace a complete paradigm shift. The Torah tells us we can and must control our thinking, our emotions and our actions. We are held accountable to a high standard. How can we train our brain to become more elevated, more holy and simply nicer people? Catch this week’s shmuz and prepare to become a better version… of yourself. 

This may be Judaism 101, but how often do we stop to think about it, and allow it to impact who we really are? Catch the full Shmuz on the Parsha here: https://vimeo.com/390295113 

If everything is determined by Hashem, can I take credit for my hard work? This question bothers many of us. Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s response. 

Are you a hedonist? A pleasure seeker? A foodie? Know how to ‘enjoy the good things in life?’ Rabbi Shafier has a little mussar drasha for you… 

Wondering how to increase your bitachon? Cut down on your angry outbursts? Stop feeling so jealous? Have more happiness in your life? There is a simple formula that can shape you into how you want to be. For more, check out the full video on this week’s parsha here: https://vimeo.com/390295113 

This powerful dvar Torah is sure to elevate your Shabbos table. Want to hear the entire Shmuz? Click here: https://vimeo.com/388858703 

Secular culture wants you to believe that everything is random. They’re dead wrong. 

How is it that someone can study the complexities of creation and not be blown away by the greatness of Hashem? The answer? I’m not married to the facts. This clip is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Beshalach here: https://vimeo.com/388858703 

If you’re feeling far from Hashem, this simple cognition can help Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

Couldn’t resist posting two clips on the Rambam on Parshas Bo, because it’s simply mind blowing to think about!

This is one of those big-deal concepts that, if you actually stop to think about it, can straight-up change your life. Prepared to think deeply? Listen to this. 

Sometimes we give power to *things*, like they’re outside of Hashem’s control. And we all do it. Be honest, have you been putting your faith elsewhere? This is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Bo here: https://vimeo.com/387328650 

We know that there are unhappy situations that cannot be changed. Sometimes, there are no easy solutions and we’re forced to live with the reality that Hashem has given us. When we’re confronted with a challenge, we’re given the choice: accept the master plan or cause ourselves endless suffering. How do we make the choice that can lead to more happiness? How can we learn to let go of the hurt and anger we may feel deep inside? In the final class of the Pursuit of Happiness series, Rabbi Shafier offers a fresh direction in strengthening our emunah and bitachon for when we need it most. 

Hashem wants marriages to flourish. So why is it so hard? 😫 Even the smartest of couples don’t realize how dangerous mistakes are to their marriage. And unfortunately, guidance on shalom bayis is needed today more than ever before. The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is a complete system for creating a successful marriage. Available now in Jewish bookstores and on www.TheShmuz.com, it gives both young and experienced couples a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work ✅ 

There are many proofs for the Torah…but what does your heart tell you? 

This short reminder may be just what you need to hear right now. 

Why should a rasha like Paroh be deserving of respect? Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s interesting answer! This is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Va’eira here: https://vimeo.com/385869178 

Did you know that making a happy marriage is not intuitive? Most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home 😢 They’re not even aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life! 😫 Make sure your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Learn how to avoid The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable.Get your copy now at www.TheShmuz.com or in any Jewish bookstore 👍 

Thoughts lead to feelings. But it’s not so easy to change our thoughts. Even if we are leading a life filled with purpose and meaning, negative thought patterns can hold back our happiness. Rabbi Shafier offers practical guidance from a Torah perspective in this indispensable class. 

Hey, only fools pay taxes, right? Why should government officials line their pockets at my expense? Listen now for a fundamental lesson on integrity and honesty. This is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Va’eira here: https://vimeo.com/385869178 

Aahhh Shabbos…aside from being a day of yom menucha did you ever wonder WHY Hashem wants us to spend 1/7th of our life in this way? Listen now for a beautiful quick vort for your Shabbos table!  

Imagine if you actually succeeded in all of your self-development goals…your body, your middos, your thoughts, your actions- completely under control. What would life look like? Rabbi Shafier’s answer may surprise you. 

Most of our difficulties in emunah stem from this common error.This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Shemos. You can watch the full version here: https://bit.ly/3yEmDQB  

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re 💯% sure that they will live in married bliss forever 🥰 Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong 😭 If only they had read The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. Filled with practical advice and straight-talking techniques, it’s the ultimate must-read for every new home 🏠 _The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make_ is available in Jewish bookstores and www.TheShmuz.com  

‘Hashem Loves Me’ is a nice sentiment…how am I meant to actually believe it when things are tough? This video is taken from *The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Shemos*. You can watch the full version here: https://bit.ly/3yEmDQB  

It’s easy to focus on the negativity and to overlook the good. We know that we have so many blessings in our lives, but we don’t feel it and it doesn’t make us happy. In this shiur, Rabbi Shafier explains to us how appreciation is a skill-a skill that must be learnt like any other. An essential class that will teach you how to appreciate in an authentic way-and feel happier as a result.  

There’s no protectezia in the world to come. No short cuts, no excuses. There is only one criteria for judgement: how much of YOU did you become? This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Vayechi, A Ben Olam Haba. You can watch the full version here: https://vimeo.com/382927076 Have an amazing Shabbos!

If you don’t have this single cognition, you will spend your entire life in a state of miserable confusion. 

If you're looking for a tried-and-tested method to get your marriage back on course, you need The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage- without the 💰💰💰 of expensive marriage therapy. Get your copy at www.TheShmuz.com or any Jewish bookstore 👍 

If Hashem created this world to give, why isn’t it more pleasurable?

Imagine for one moment what life would be like if you had a clear vision of olam haba. Wouldn’t you feel rich? This video is taken from *The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Vayechi, A Ben Olam Haba*. You can watch the full version here: https://vimeo.com/382927076 

Give Elsie the cow a field and some grass, and she’s happy. Completely content. But Man doesn’t work that way. No matter what a man has, he is always aspiring for more- looking for a better deal, a bigger house, a more fulfilling career. It seems that man is never satisfied. In this shiur, Rabbi Shafier discusses why it is that Hashem made us crave more, and how we can use this desire to achieve real fulfilment. 

Everyone does it. But that doesn’t make it ok. This video was taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha on Parshas Vayigash. Watch the full Shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/381903080 Have an amazing Shabbos! 

Parshas Vayigash- An Honest Man is Hard to Find In this week’s parsha we learn of Yosef’s impeccable honesty as he personally oversaw each and every sale during the years of famine. Although his behavior went above and beyond, as Torah Jews we can certainly use Yosef’s yashrus as an inspiration for our own business dealings. In this shmuz, Rabbi Shafier discusses some common pitfalls that can occur when in the workplace or handling money, and has a sobering message for those that think they could never be guilty of gezel. 

Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make 😱 Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable 😍 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is available in Jewish bookstores and at www.TheShmuz.com  

If you’re looking to keep the inspiration of Chanukah going in your life, this simple strategy can help.  

We’ve become numb to the abundance that surrounds us-and even though we live better than Kings, we’re still unhappy. This shiur will teach you how to really enjoy our modern day luxuries, feel truly rich and lead a life of joy. 

If you think that the path to spirituality is upon a mountain top subsisting on only bread and water, you’d be wrong. Hashem has filled this world with enjoyment-He wants us to find satisfaction in His creation. In this shiur, Rabbi Shafier makes the case for experiencing the joys of this world, and shows us how to use those pleasures to become closer to Hashem. 

This clip is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeishiv here: https://vimeo.com/379579384  

Ever noticed how an arrogant person is desperate for your approval? Why is that? 

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s normal to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s normal to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR! ✨ Over 20,000 copies sold! Get it in your local Jewish bookstore or www.TheShmuz.com  

I'd love to be able to thank Hashem- just one small problem. My life stinks! 

Think the World to Come is irrelevant to your life right now? You’re dead wrongUncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeishiv here: https://vimeo.com/379579384 

We run after pleasure-whatever hits the spot for us, we indulge in it, spend money on it and wish for more. But what happens when our normal pleasures can no longer satisfy us? If you’ve ever over-indulged and regretted it, this shiur is for you. Rabbi Shafier clearly explains the role of pleasure in our life, and how to have it without guilt. 

Wherever you are, Hashem is there. With you. Have a wonderful Shabbos  

You’re a spiritual entity...have you said hello to your neshama today? Watch the full shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/378108198 

Terrible at decision making? This is for you 

😱“Can I Ask My Wife To Lose Weight?”😱 Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make! Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable 😍 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is available in Jewish bookstores and at www.TheShmuz.com  

Are You Happy? Despite living in the relative luxury of the first world, many people feel as though their life is mediocre at best, and downright miserable at worst. In his introduction to The Pursuit of Happiness, Rabbi Shafier begins by challenging the listener to self-reflect on their own satisfaction with life, and offers some new insights as to what being ‘happy’ really means in our society. 

Your eyes should be closed during Shemoneh Esrei. Want to know why? The answer will transform your davening 🕮 Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayishlach here: https://vimeo.com/378108198 

The Rabbi forgot his drasha and gave the listeners a lesson they’ll never forget...Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on ParshasVayeitzei here: https://vimeo.com/376691736 

Disappointed in #BFCM? Here’s something that is guaranteed to add REAL value to your life: The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make with incredible extras! Get yours now from https://marriage.theshmuz.com/marriage-book  

There’s only one way to navigate this thing called life, and that’s 100% reliance on Hashem. 

When things are difficult, it’s normal to ask the following question- ‘Hashem, what do I need this for?’ Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s perspective.  

The Pursuit of Happiness: A Torah approach to inner contentment - Join Rabbi Shafier as he unveils Chazal’s ancient secrets on how to attain true happiness - Learn how wider society bombards us with messages that bring us down-and what we can do to protect ourselves - Practical strategies and Rabbi Shafier’s insightful advice will give you the tools you need to move past negativity and into fulfilment. 

Hashem I can’t do this...I need You. It’s at that point when you begin to get it.Watch the full Shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/376691736 

Here’s an empowering thought to take you into Shabbos. IyH The Owner’s Guide to the Soul will resume next week. Have a good Shabbos and a gut Chodesh! 

The more talented you are, the more humble you should be. Wishing you a wonderful Rosh Chodesh Kislev! 

Married? This is brilliant advice. 

Eisav was a lover of luxuries. But what’s that got to do with me? Am I not entitled to spoil myself a little? Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Toldos here: https://vimeo.com/375262685 

Don’t give up on your dreams. This simple hack will get you focused and ready to succeed 

If you’re busy comparing your accomplishments to others, you may just be missing out on your mission in this world. Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

People always wonder- why does life have to be so hard? Why can’t Hashem just let me learn, daven and get closer to Him, without all these difficult distractions?  

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s normal to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s normal to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... *LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR!* ✨ Available in your local Jewish bookstore or www.TheShmuz.com with free bonuses! 

This common syndrome has the potential to *ruin your life* in this world and the next 

Does it seem that most of the world lacks purpose, direction and drive? Why is that? Listen now for Rabbi Shafier’s startling response.Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Chaya Sora here: https://vimeo.com/373772153 

Here’s a mindblowing vort to enhance your table this Shabbos. Enjoy! 

Want to know the most empowering thought a person can have? Listen to this. 

Challenges are a fact of life. Here are the 3 ways to overcome every nisayon Hashem gives you. 

If you find yourself chronically miserable*, the consumer generation may have something to do with it. Want to learn how to break free? Check out The Pursuit of Happiness: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-pursuit-of-happiness/ *This is not a reference or a solution to mental illness 

Sometimes our hardest challenges are faced alone. Why is that? Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayeira here: vimeo.com/372264229 

Do you consider yourself a FAILURE? Maybe you’re just human. And understanding the difference is what will give you a healthy sense of self, or, chas v’shalom, ruin your emotional wellbeing. This clip is taken from Shmuz on the Parsha, Lech Lecha. You can watch or download the full version here: https://theshmuz.com/series/ted-talk-on-the-parsha/  

The Sugyah: An in depth, Inyan shiur via Zoom. Learn more here: https://bit.ly/3DZnsYs

There are 5000 types of beetles Ever wonder why that is? If you look at the natural world, say to yourself ‘hey, that’s pretty impressive’ and then stop there- you’ve lost an opportunity for growth. 

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You’re not a physical body having a spiritual experience. You’re a spiritual entity experiencing the physicality of this world. And when you understand that, you view yourself and the world in a totally different way. 

Challenges are not just tests to see if we can survive. They’re hand crafted for our growth. Listen now for 51 seconds of pure chizuk 

Are you the type of person who does a mitzvah…feels good for about second…and then…’yeah but it wasn’t exactly lishmah…you only did it for kavod…it wasn’t really done with kavannah’ If this sounds familiar, you need to listen to this! This clip is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha, Parshas Lech Lecha: Watch the full Shmuz here: https://theshmuz.com/series/ted-talk-on-the-parsha/ Starting tonight! The Sugyah- an in depth learning program for guys who want to make serious progress in their learning. It’s not too late to register, go here to sign up: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/optin1666209677527 

I'd love to be able to thank Hashem- just one small problem. Hashem never listens to me! 

I didn’t daven on Rosh HaShanah. I didn’t say a single al cheit on Yom Kippur. I spent the entire Tishrei looking after other people” Is your year ruined? Listen now for Rabbi Shafier’s response! 

As an honored member of Klal Yisroel you don’t need to spend time groping in the darkness trying to figure out who you are. Baruch Hashem, we have an array of mind-blowing sefarim that give us the answers to life's most challenging questions.  And that’s what this new weekly shiur is focused on. It’s a compilation of the Derech Hashem and the Mesilas Yesharim, along with other seforim that will get you in a good head space for Yomim Noraim and may also just change your life.Just imagine with me for a moment. A life driven by meaning and purpose. The abolition of doubt and second guessing yourself. Ever wondered why talmidei chachamim are happy all the time? It’s because they know life’s answers. Now you can too.  

Reality check. How much do you really understand? (Ok, so I don’t know a lot of things. So what?) Because it’s only through humility that you have any chance of growth. 

We just had a month of kedusha. Do you know what you did? What you achieved in the Upper Worlds? Do you realize how great you are? 

Now here’s a life skill that most of us lack: *How to control the chatter* Watch this and think about it- if you could control your thoughts, how much better would your life be? Didn’t get the book yet? Go here: https://book.theshmuz.com/first-step1643379519788  

I’m a baal bitachon! I know that every single thing Hashem does is for the best. Until...until the slightest little curve ball has me screaming. Can you relate? This clip is taken from Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch or download the full version here: https://theshmuz.com/series/ted-talk-on-the-parsha/  

Confused about the whole gadlus ha adam/ anavah dynamic? Not sure whether your sense of self is coming from a healthy place? Rav Aharon Kotler ztl has the answer... Check it out! 

Does Elsie the cow ever wonder what she’s doing with her life, out on that field, chewing the cud? Funny isn’t it, how only humans have these sort of existential questions. You can try and push them away, but your soul wants answers. Do you know how to respond to your neshama’s demands? 

“I wish I’d had the money for a luxury succah…designer clothes for the kids…fabulous food like my neighbors did.” If you’re feeling bad about your finances motzei yt, this clip may help. 

At this time of year, there are NO LIMITS The only question is- Are you willing to embrace your unlimited potential? The Owner’s Guide to the Soul will resume after Succos iyH. 

This short clip will show you how to tap into the wonder and opportunity of Yom Kippur. May we all be sealed in the book of life! 

Gain clarity and understanding about Sefer Yonah, as the story of the opens up in front of you!Sefer Yonah brings powerful lessons about teshuvah and about life—lessons that can be enduring, meaningful and serve as a powerful bonding tool between us and Hashem. Gain answers to these fundamental questions: Why was HASHEM so concerned that Ninveh do Teshuvah?What was the real reason that Yonah run away?Why did HASHEM arrange for a huge fish to swallow Yonah?What lessons are we supposed to take from Yonah? This is a 5-part series with in-depth, behind-the-scenes facts, which will allow you to understand the events as they unfold, with crystal clarity. In the words of one listener: “It is unsurpassed in its scope, its simplicity and its depth… more than anything I have heard before.'

Do you want to feel inspired, feel prepared and feel connected with Hashem this Yom Kippur?  On Sunday night Rabbi Shafier shared how Hashem is waiting for your teshuva. It’s time to stop being bored in davening, feeling uncomfortably disconnected and waiting for it to be over! 

Without this single understanding, it’s very difficult to do a real teshuvah. Looking for a full teshuvah Shmuz? Go here: https://vimeo.com/603872242 https://jewishpodcasts.fm/theshmuz/22634 

Gain clarity and understanding about Sefer Yonah, as the story of the opens up in front of you!Sefer Yonah brings powerful lessons about teshuvah and about life—lessons that can be enduring, meaningful and serve as a powerful bonding tool between us and Hashem. Gain answers to these fundamental questions: Why was HASHEM so concerned that Ninveh do Teshuvah?What was the real reason that Yonah run away?Why did HASHEM arrange for a huge fish to swallow Yonah?What lessons are we supposed to take from Yonah? This is a 5-part series with in-depth, behind-the-scenes facts, which will allow you to understand the events as they unfold, with crystal clarity. In the words of one listener: “It is unsurpassed in its scope, its simplicity and its depth… more than anything I have heard before.'

Stuck on what to say to Hashem on Yom Kippur? This short clip can help. 

Gain clarity and understanding about Sefer Yonah, as the story of the opens up in front of you!Sefer Yonah brings powerful lessons about teshuvah and about life—lessons that can be enduring, meaningful and serve as a powerful bonding tool between us and Hashem. Gain answers to these fundamental questions: Why was HASHEM so concerned that Ninveh do Teshuvah?What was the real reason that Yonah run away?Why did HASHEM arrange for a huge fish to swallow Yonah?What lessons are we supposed to take from Yonah? This is a 5-part series with in-depth, behind-the-scenes facts, which will allow you to understand the events as they unfold, with crystal clarity. In the words of one listener: “It is unsurpassed in its scope, its simplicity and its depth… more than anything I have heard before.'

Listen now to make your Shabbos Shuva a little more AWEsome 

Gain clarity and understanding about Sefer Yonah, as the story of the opens up in front of you!Sefer Yonah brings powerful lessons about teshuvah and about life—lessons that can be enduring, meaningful and serve as a powerful bonding tool between us and Hashem. Gain answers to these fundamental questions: Why was HASHEM so concerned that Ninveh do Teshuvah?What was the real reason that Yonah run away?Why did HASHEM arrange for a huge fish to swallow Yonah?What lessons are we supposed to take from Yonah? This is a 5-part series with in-depth, behind-the-scenes facts, which will allow you to understand the events as they unfold, with crystal clarity. In the words of one listener: “It is unsurpassed in its scope, its simplicity and its depth… more than anything I have heard before.'

“At this time of year I try to connect…I’m just not sure how.” You’re not the only one who feels that way. If you want more meaning and connection during the Aseres Yemei Teshuvah, listen to this. 

Gain clarity and understanding about Sefer Yonah, as the story of the opens up in front of you!Sefer Yonah brings powerful lessons about teshuvah and about life—lessons that can be enduring, meaningful and serve as a powerful bonding tool between us and Hashem. Gain answers to these fundamental questions: Why was HASHEM so concerned that Ninveh do Teshuvah?What was the real reason that Yonah run away?Why did HASHEM arrange for a huge fish to swallow Yonah?What lessons are we supposed to take from Yonah? This is a 5-part series with in-depth, behind-the-scenes facts, which will allow you to understand the events as they unfold, with crystal clarity. In the words of one listener: “It is unsurpassed in its scope, its simplicity and its depth… more than anything I have heard before'

The highest form of pleasure in this world can be yours. And right now, it’s even easier to access. 

Wishing you a kesiva v’chasima tova and a gut gebentched yor. Rabbi Shafier and the Shmuz team 

So many issues are decided on Rosh Hashanah: who will live; who will die; who will be healthy; who will be sick; who will be successful; who won’t. . . Since we accept and understand this, one would assume that we would be deeply moved by the davening on Rosh Hashanah. Logically, we should spend the day in reverence and awe. Yet that seems to be very far from what actually happens. Why is it so difficult for us to feel the reality of being judged, and what can we do about it? This Shmuz deals with understanding some of the basic issues that are decided on Rosh Hashanah, and gives us practical advice on how to use it to the utmost. 

As an honored member of Klal Yisroel you don’t need to spend time groping in the darkness trying to figure out who you are. Baruch Hashem, we have an array of mind-blowing sefarim that give us the answers to life's most challenging questions.  And that’s what this new weekly shiur is focused on. It’s a compilation of the Derech Hashem and the Mesilas Yesharim, along with other seforim that will get you in a good head space for Yomim Noraim and may also just change your life. Just imagine with me for a moment. A life driven by meaning and purpose. The abolition of doubt and second guessing yourself. Ever wondered why talmidei chachamim are happy all the time? It’s because they know life’s answers. Now you can too. 

Are you ready to recognize the opportunity called LIFE? 

'I know I should be doing teshuvah but thinking about how bad I am isn't good for me' If you’re thinking this way, listen to this. 

Rosh Hashanah is less than a week away. Are you ready to spend it with your Best Friend? This video was taken from The Owner’s Guide to the Soul. Join Rabbi Shafier live on Wednesdays at 8pm EST on Torahanytime.com  

If you’re wondering about what to take on this Rosh Hashanah, this might be a good place to start.

Ever wondered where you’re holding in your Yiddishkeit? Rabbi Shafier’s simple test may surprise you. 

“Dip the apple in the honey, have a good sweet new year.” We teach our children that touching song, and that is what we all wish for: a good sweet year with bracha and hatzlacha in all that we do. But that often isn’t the case. If we look back on previous years we see many things that were sweet, but also things that weren’t. Some parts of our lives are downright bitter and we wish they’d never occurred. This Shmuz is a highly focused, mature look at the issues decided on the Day of Judgment and tells us what we can do to change the decree. 

Every time I get motivated…it wears off. How can I achieve my goals if inspiration doesn’t last forever? 

You heard an amazing speaker. You read a motivational quote. You decide- that’s it! This year is going to be different. Now what? 

The main focus on Rosh Hashanah is to be Mamlich HASHEM-- To recognize HASHEM as the king. This Shmuz deals with what this concepts in practical terms, and provides the understanding and inspiration to apply it to our lives. 

You don’t have to be married to gain from this!

As an honored member of Klal Yisroel you don’t need to spend time groping in the darkness trying to figure out who you are. Baruch Hashem, we have an array of mind-blowing sefarim that give us the answers to life's most challenging questions.  And that’s what this new weekly shiur is focused on. It’s a compilation of the Derech Hashem and the Mesilas Yesharim, along with other seforim that will get you in a good head space for Yomim Noraim and may also just change your life. Just imagine with me for a moment. A life driven by meaning and purpose. The abolition of doubt and second guessing yourself. Ever wondered why talmidei chachamim are happy all the time? It’s because they know life’s answers. Now you can too. 

The only reason why you think your deeds are insignificant is because you don’t fully appreciate how great you are. Get the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/the-lost-art-of-teshuva/  

So you got inspired this Elul! Wonderful. How are you going to keep it up until YK? How can you remain realistic? Answer: Starting right now, make one small, lasting change.  

It’s easy to get discouraged. It’s normal to get distracted. This Elul, focus on why Hashem created you. Yes, you. Not the other guy, the one you think is doing a better job in this world. Focus on you, and everything YOU can become.

Every.single.mitzvah that you do changes the upper worlds and changes you. Do you believe that? Do you believe your actions are *important and significant* in this world? It’s time to start recognizing how amazing you are! 

As an honored member of Klal Yisroel you don’t need to spend time groping in the darkness trying to figure out who you are. Baruch Hashem, we have an array of mind-blowing sefarim that give us the answers to life's most challenging questions.  And that’s what this new weekly shiur is focused on. It’s a compilation of the Derech Hashem and the Mesilas Yesharim, along with other seforim that will get you in a good head space for Yomim Noraim and may also just change your life. Just imagine with me for a moment. A life driven by meaning and purpose. The abolition of doubt and second guessing yourself. Ever wondered why talmidei chachamim are happy all the time? It’s because they know life’s answers. Now you can too.

Are you ready to feel Hashem’s presence? Are you ready to experience Hashem in a way that is totally unthinkable any other time of the year? It’s not just for tzadikim- that’s the yetzer hara talking. Listen now if you want to get excited for Rosh Hashanah!  

Using the event of how Eliezer Bar Dudia gained the title of “Rebbe,” we are introduced to one of the greatest acts of tshuvah ever achieved. We witness his rise from the depths of depravity to the heights of spirituality in the course of a few hours. Through the story of his life, we see what a man accomplished in but a day – and we are brought to a new appreciation of the great potential of human beings. 

If you’re looking for more motivation to work on your middos this Elul, this is it right here.

Listen to this to learn of an effortless and enjoyable way to increase your yiras Hashem! Have an amazing Shabbos! 

I’m not saying I’m perfect but...isn’t all this teshuvah talk a bit excessive? Elul isn’t about ruining your self-esteem. Listen now to get a healthy perspective on change. Get the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/the-lost-art-of-teshuva/  

Why do I need to do so much hishtadlus to find my bashert? Can’t I just daven? Looking for some straight-talking marriage advice? Rabbi Shafier’s Dating Seminar is available for free download here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/  

What would you say is the most dangerous middah of them all? Anger? Laziness? Jealousy? Listen now for Rabbi Shafier’s chilling response! Wanting to work on your middos this Elul? Check out how to become more shaleim with Rabbi Shafier’s series on Becoming a Whole Person. You can listen or download here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

I want to be confident...but not arrogant. I want to work on my personal development, but cheshbon hanefesh is demoralizing. I know Hashem gave me my talents and abilities- so can I feel proud of my achievements? There are many contradictions when it comes to working on yourself, your middos and your self esteem. In this incredibly practical and uplifting Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier explains how you can discover the golden middle way within yourself. If you’re ready to accept who you are and move forward towards greatness, this Shmuz is for you. 

“My husband leaves seder early” What advice would you give this dissatisfied kollel wife?  Buy The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make from www.TheShmuz.com 

Hashem is guiding you and watching over you every second of your day Want more Elul inspiration? Go here: https://theshmuz.com/lets-go-elul/  

Aren’t you just a little bit curious as to why there are so many unhappy people today? Here’s one explanation right here. Go deeper with your parsha know-how this week. Listen/watch/download the full shmuz here: https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=121409 Have a wonderful Shabbos and a gut Chodesh 

If you’d love to know what it takes to have a happy marriage, check out The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make. It answers all the questions you’ve been waiting to ask about what it takes to build a happy, Torah home. It’s never too late to start: https://book.theshmuz.com/first-step1643379519788 

Here’s the single most effective way for curing arrogance. Can’t relate? This video will still give you a refocus on what life’s about. Catch the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

Maybe you’ve had these thoughts: ✅I feel like so many things make no sense ✅I wish I could feel Hashem in my life more ✅I know nothing’s random but it sure does feel like it sometimes Can you relate? If so, today’s clip will interest you. Don’t miss it! 

“I don’t need to do my hishtadlus. Hashem knows my address. When He’s ready to send the right one, He’ll send it” If you’re ready to stop playing games with yourself and your future, listen to this clip. Looking for some straight-talking marriage advice? Rabbi Shafier’s Dating Seminar is available for free download here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/  

I say every morning ‘sheasah li kol tzarci’- Hashem, You have provided me with all of my needs. Three times a day I remind myself that You open Your hand and satisfy every living thing with its desire. I know You want me to be happy, to enjoy Your world, to keep mitzvos and do Your will...so if that’s the case, WHY AM I SO BROKE? In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, take a closer look at this apparent contradiction. Listen now and learn how to: Free yourself from the unhappiness caused by unfulfilled desires Start really enjoying the good things in life Handle every nisayon like a baal bitachon and get more resilient to life’s challenges . Even if you’re more comfortable than Jeff Bezos, you’re going to find this week's Shmuz very relevant.  

In shidduchim? This is how you know when it’s a ‘no’.If you’re looking for crystal clear dating advice, download this: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ 

For the average frum family, summer can bring a lot of extra expenses. What should you do if you and your spouse see finances differently? 

Don’t listen to the mean voice inside. It’s the voice of the satan. You are important. What you do matters. 

Do your clothes define you? This powerful short clip will leave you with plenty to think about.Watch the full class here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

We tend to think that our brain is our best friend- we rely on our thoughts to tell us right from wrong, good from bad and truth from lies. So what happened with Korach? How could he be driven to stage such a catastrophic rebellion? The answer is that your brain is a handmaiden to your ego. It’s not always your friend. Listen to this Shmuz to protect yourself against making crazy decisions and gain a deeper insight into who you are. 

Here's how to live your life without regret. Taken entirely from this week’s parsha and other Torah sources, this Shmuz promises to deliver a complete paradigm shift on how to view the consequences of your choices. Do you find yourself ruminating over times when things didn’t work out as planned? Or are you the type to give yourself a big high-five when you’re successful? Decision Making Made Easy will give you the appropriate Torah hashkafa on how to make choices, how to live with every decision with serenity and ultimately how to recognize Hashem in every aspect of your life. 

What’s your limiting belief? Can you let go of that and start shooting for the stars? Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

Ok guys, here’s some mussar *you might not want to hear* (even though it’s 100% true) 

Got 51 seconds? That’s all you need to get right perspective on whatever’s bothering you right now 

The summer isn’t always sunshine and rainbows...watch now for Rabbi Shafier’s grounding advice on how to take an insult 

This time of year can make for a lot of unpleasant comparisons. Listen now to refocus! 

For almost 2,000 years, the Jewish people have been driven from land to land across the globe. Exiled from our home with the destruction of the Bais Hamikdash, we have been forced from continent to continent and country to country – tortured, oppressed, and banished. For a short while, we find haven in one country, only to be kicked out again and chased to the next place in a never-ending series of tragedies. This reality brings many questions: Why is the Jewish people so oppressed?Why is it that the other nations stand up to destroy us in every generation?Why is it that the one universal law of history is that everyone hates the Jew? But, there are even bigger questions to be asked, and those are about ourselves:What have we learned from this long and bitter exile?Have we become wiser?Have we become better?Do we understand the message of galus? This Shmuz puts two millennia of Jewish history into perspective and deals with the major questions of our belief system. 

Since the time that we were young children, we were taught,“We want Moshiach now!” And so, we daven for Moshiach.We sing songs about Moshiach. We wait for Moshiach.This Shmuz focuses on what life will be like in the times of Moshiach,why we anxiously await his appearance, and what we can do to hasten his coming.

On Tisha B’Av, we are expected to mourn many things: the devastation that happened to our people long ago; the almost two thousand years of expulsions, bloodshed, and torture that we have suffered through since then; and finally, the influence on our mindset and lifestyle picked up by living in exile all of these years. While it takes work to actually feel the pain, the issues aren’t that distant, and most of us can relate to them. There is, however, another aspect of the tragedy that is more difficult to relate to: the loss of the Bais Hamikdash itself and our inability to do the avodah (temple service). The problem is that performing the avodah is something that we have never experienced. How can we recognize what it is? How can we realize what we are lacking? And how can we possibly mourn its loss? This Shmuz brings us closer to relating to what the Bais Hamikdash was and what it was like to experience being inside it. 

Listen now to discover new insights on how our current golus permeates our lives-and what we can do to bring the geulah we so desperately need. 

Our understanding of Hashem is often based on a limited interpretation of human nature. Can Hashem get angry with me? Is He punitive, lacking rachmonos? It can sometimes feel that way, as we struggle to understand the Holocaust, the Churban and modern-day tradegies. What is the pain of Hashem? That He wants the geula more than you. That He is waiting, with endless patience, for us to get it right. This Tisha B’Av shmuz will straighten out any crooked thinking, show you where you need to improve and give you hope for the future. 

The world that we live in isn’t the way it’s supposed to be. Tisha B’Av gives you a moment of reflection, the opportunity to consider what you are missing and how you can begin to rectify what has been lost. This Tisha B’Av take the time to reset your perspective.

Tisha B’Av 5782 Here are three meaningful resources for you this Tisha B’Av: 1. Rabbi Shafier has prepared this powerful, 8.5 min recording. It will give you a shot in the arm of focus and yearning- guaranteed! 2. Rabbi Shafier is speaking at around 1pm/chatzos Tisha B’Av day as part of the TorahAnytime/Chazaq livestream. Check out their incredible program on Torahanytime.com 3. There are also plenty of shmuzin on theshmuz.com that are focused around Tisha B’Av and the Three Weeks. May this be the last time Rabbi Shafier ever has to speak about this! Wishing you an easy and meaningful fast, The Shmuz Team 

Here’s a super quick video to offer some straight perspective for erev Shabbos Chazon.  

Ever wonder WHY you need such trouble in your life? And then the 9 days start and you can’t even take a long hot shower… Listen now for a paradigm shift. You got this! 

The Three Weeks can sometimes feel like ‘Uh-oh, better watch out for Hashem’s big stick...get through the Nine Days... then aaaaah go on vacation.’ It doesn’t have to be that way. This short clip will give you a new perspective. 

It’s time to stop spinning your wheels, and start focusing on where you want to go in this world. Have a wonderful week! 

Here are the top 5 Shmuzin for the 9 Days and Tisha B’Av: #250 Moshiach: What’s in it for me? https://theshmuz.com/shmuz/18823/ #275 What are we missing? https://theshmuz.com/shmuz/tisha-bav-5779-what-are-we-missing/ #271 It’s not the way it’s supposed to be https://theshmuz.com/shmuz/its-not-the-way-its-supposed-to-be/ #274 Tisha B’Av from Hashem’s perspective https://theshmuz.com/shmuz/tisha-bav-from-hashems-perspective/ #246 A world unraveling https://theshmuz.com/shmuz/tisha-bav-a-world-unravelling/  

“For many years I thought I was giving my wife good advice. Just one problem- it wasn’t my advice she wanted” If you’re not willing to settle for a mediocre marriage, get yourself a copy of Rabbi Shafier’s 10 Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book. It’s over 3 hours of entertaining content that may just change your life: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/10-really-dumb-mistakes  

Short Parsha video: Hashem, Help Me Change! The magic moment comes when you realize how powerless you are. 

How Can I Get My Spouse to Appreciate Me? If you’re married, you’ve probably asked yourself this question.Looking to bring more appreciation to your marriage? Go here: https://book.theshmuz.com/first-step1643379519788  

Deep down, you may feel like G-d is making poor choices when it comes to your life. But before you go and rate Hashem, watch this. 

Here’s one way to live a miserable life: base your sense of self around what others think of youWatch the full class here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

You can tell Hashem how big your problems are. You can also tell your problems how big Hashem is. Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

What can you achieve in the moments before Moshiach? 

The amazing thing about The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes is that it’s just so relatable. Hands up if you know a Shayna or a Bentzi!The new 10RDM Video Book is selling out fast bH! Not sure what the hype’s about? Learn more here: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/10-really-dumb-mistakes  

If you saw the new images from space last week, you may have found your inner niflaos haBorei. Or maybe you kept scrolling. Either way, the fact that the Ramban talked about the Big Bang 800 YEARS AGO is pretty astonishing, wouldn’t you say? Want to watch Rabbi Shafier's Wonders of the World Series? Go here: https://theshmuz.com/wonders-of-the-world/ 

In shidduchim? Looking for the sign that he’s the right one? This might be it. 

A damaged sense of self will play havoc with your relationships with others. Want to become a whole person? Catch the full series here: https://theshmuz.com/humility/  

If you're looking for plenty of practical, hands on advice on how you can improve your marriage, this three part seminar is for you. Wherever you’re holding (iyH in a good place) these sessions will enhance your marriage- guaranteed!   

Missed Wednesday’s Marriage Seminar? You can still get the replay by registering at theshmuz.com This clip is taken from Rabbi Shafier’s brand new Video Book- limited copies available! Go here to get the marriage of your dreams: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/10-really-dumb-mistakes  

If you're looking for plenty of practical, hands on advice on how you can improve your marriage, this three part seminar is for you. Wherever you’re holding (iyH in a good place) these sessions will enhance your marriage- guaranteed!  

If you're looking for plenty of practical, hands on advice on how you can improve your marriage, this three part seminar is for you. Wherever you’re holding (iyH in a good place) these sessions will enhance your marriage- guaranteed!  

You want an amazing marriage… You Know Rabbi Shafier’s Best-Selling Book Would Help.Just One Problem. You’re Not Really A Book Guy (Or Gal)…*Introducing…The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book!*After a long, tiring day it’s hard to pick up a book and learn. Your brain is craving relaxation and entertainment. Sound familiar?*The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book* gives you a marriage manual in a set of short, upbeat animations that are fun to share together. Watch on the couch with your spouse or when you’ve got a spare three minutes.Now you can unwind AND learn something worthwhile at the same time. Take that, yetzer hara! Learn more here: https://shafier.clickfunnels.com/10-really-dumb-mistakes  

Deep Meaningful Conversations is a podcast for frum women by Alex Fleksher and Rivki Silver. In this episode they discuss Rabbi Shafier's best selling book, The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make. Mrs Kayla Levin builds upon some of the principles of the book as well as offering some of her own insightful thoughts on shalom bayis.

“I just love it when my carefully laid plans go completely haywire” Said no one ever. If you sometimes get frustrated, irritated or down right angry when things don’t go your way, welcome to the club of being human. Want to know what to do about it? Listen to this. 

Missed Wednesday’s Marriage Seminar? You can still get the replay by registering at theshmuz.com 

We are all familiar with the characteristics of the arrogant man. He’s argumentative, obnoxious, judgemental and small minded. In this class, Rabbi Shafier explains another hallmark of someone who is haughty- their deep unhappiness and dissatisfaction with life. You see, a baal gaiveh constantly has sunburn on his ego- he is forever seeing himself as slighted, dishonored disrespected. In contrast, a humble man is free to enjoy this world. He can appreciate simple pleasures, get along with people and maintain happy, fulfilling relationships. Ok, so you know which one you want to be. How do you get there? Whilst removing arrogance from our hearts may be a lifetime job, in this essential shiur, Rabbi Shafier explains where to start. Listen now to get the motivation to attain genuine humility and live a life of meaning and satisfaction. 

If you’re one of the 15,000 people who have read The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes you know that Rabbi Shafier is very insistent about not trying to change your spouse. Not satisfied with that? He’s the one technique he does recommend. This is from The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes Video Book! Check it out on TheShmuz.com! 

You’ve told yourself this so many times: “Hashem loves me” “Hashem wants my success” “Hashem is doing this for my good” Just one problem: How can I bridge the gap between knowing… and really feeling it? Listen now for the answer. 

Feeling like the post-Shabbos clean up never ends? This short clip can help you reframe. Have an amazing week! 

Here’s your erev Shabbos reminder that you’re not in control…and that’s ok. Have a wonderful Shabbos!P.S. If you would like to receive the replay of the first part of the Marriage Seminar, go to www.theshmuz.com to register your email. 

Session 4: Life Brings Humility In previous classes, we learned how the cornerstone to all middos is humility. In Life Brings Humility, Rabbi Shafier builds upon this fundamental principle by exploring the devastating influence of arrogance. We all agree that arrogance is ugly, but our mesorah goes further: arrogance will inevitably lead a person to forget Hashem. Afterall, when we’re so sure of our own competence and independence, we don’t need a Master. We are in this world to serve Hashem, but when we are consumed by gaaveh, our avoda is ruined, because our intentions define every action. Arrogance will make us hated in this world and empty in the World to Come. It’s the essential work of a lifetime to rid our hearts of it completely, but where do we start? In Life Brings Humility Rabbi Shafier gives us practical tools that are guaranteed to cut through our illusions of grandeur, maintain our sense of self and reconnect to our ultimate Master and Benefactor.  

If you’d like to solve 80% of your philosophical problems, the solution is simple: stop playing G-d. 

Bitachon isn’t learnt from a book. Sure, you can learn the concepts, the theory. But genuine bitachon? That comes from real life. Think your bitachon leaves a lot to be desired? Listen to this. 

'Rabbi, are you seriously telling me that the entire universe was created just for a bunch of two legged-creatures?!” Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s amazing response- especially if you’re in need of a hashkafic deprogramming. Have an incredible Shabbos! 

Parenting is hard. How can you get your kid to listen? 

Our ego, left unchecked, will run rampant with delusions of grandeur. It’s so soothing to genuinely believe that I am better than others, I am successful, important, incredibly talented and more than that- the way I am now will last forever. In this candid shiur, Rabbi Shafier picks apart the anatomy of arrogance, showing us where our thinking becomes illogical and driven by our need to feel good about ourselves. Does that mean we should negate our abilities and squash our victories? Absolutely not. But as Torah Jews striving to live an authentic life, we have a responsibility to get real about ourselves and start acknowledging that our talents are gifts from Hashem, given to us to fulfill our role in this world. 

Looking to daven with more kavannah and less blah? This simple technique can help. If you’d like to get serious about improving your conversation with Hashem, check out Rabbi Shafier’s Tefillah Project. It’s a 5 hour investment of your time, divided into 10 actionable chunks. Stream or download for free here: https://theshmuz.com/series/the-tefilah-project/ 

Listen to this if you’re dating: How many shadchanim should I call? For practical, helpful advice on the dating process download Rabbi Shafier’s Dating Seminar here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ 

I’d be the first to thank Hashem…if I had anything to thank Hashem for. Ever feel like that? Have a wonderful Shabbos 

In the second session of Becoming a Whole Person, Rabbi Shafier deconstructs the middah of arrogance and shows you how to break this distasteful middah once and for all. Listen now to discover:  why some character traits are so difficult to break  what drives you, deep deep down  what you need to do to live a happy and fulfilled life.

Feel like you’re in a never ending cycle of trying to get your hands on bigger, brighter, better? Then it could be that the American Dream is ruining your life. If this clip resonates with you, it’s time to make a change. 

Happening next week: Stand with 40,000 fellow women and reaffirm your commitment in upholding the Kedushah of Klal Yisroel. Listen to this for more information and go to thekinus.org to book your ticket and transportation. 

Most middos are incredibly difficult to change. Aside from this one. This one is 100% doable. So why not try it out? 

We don’t marry for love- but love is the glue of a successful marriage. The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is trusted by our Gedolei Yisroel ✔️ as well as hundreds of community Rabbonim ✔️, chosson and kallah teachers ✔️, marriage therapists ✔️, shadchanim ✔️ and dating coaches worldwide ✔️ It’s already sold over 10,000 copies!Go to www.theshmuz.com to get yours now 😀😀😀 

One of the hardest parts of a nisayon is trying to wrap your head around the why. Here’s an insight from the Mesilas Yesharim that may help. Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos 

These few simple words are the hardest to say. They also lead to the biggest growth. 

NEW SERIES It's time to begin your journey towards a balanced and healthy sense of self. Listen to session one to learn the Torah's view of humility and learn how to finally embrace your strengths and talents.

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s normal to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s normal to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR! ✨Get your copy with free bonuses and free shipping from www.TheShmuz.com  

Your neshama has been waiting all year for Shavuos. Spend a few minutes now to remind yourself what it’s all about. 

Believing that you're better than someone else feels delicious. Problem is, you’ll be hated for it. Watch this video on arrogance and get that middah under control. 

 Sometimes we can feel like we’re not cut out for Torah. We’re not smart enough, dedicated enough, focused enough. Shavuos is for talmidei chachamim...those types that actually enjoy losing a night of sleep! But me? I’m just a regular person!   What we need is motivation.  I’ve recorded a mini-Shmuz, entitled ‘Heros- Aspiring forGreatness’’. It’s not just about role models. It’s about being a role model toyourself. On how to become the great person you are destined to be this yomtov. I hope you find it meaningful, Rabbi Shafier  

Gut chodesh! You have a unique role and purpose in this world. Embrace it! 

Short clip for Shavuos: The guidebook for happiness was written by our Creator Go beyond the cheesecake this year. Listen to Rabbi Shafier’s series on Kabbolas HaTorah here: https://theshmuz.com/series/at-the-foot-of-har-sinai/ 

Thinking of inviting a couple over for yomtov? Listen to this first… 

בשבילי נברא העולם Isn’t just a nice platitude. It’s meant to give you an inherent sense of self-worth and meaning to your life. Watch this if you need to feel like you matter today. 

“I’ve been dating someone for a few weeks now. He’s ready to go forward but I’m not. How will I know when it’s the right one?” Listen now if you’re looking for guidance in the dating process. Looking for more? Rabbi Shafier’s dating seminar, Finding and Keeping Your Soulmate, is available for free audio download here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/ Pass on to anyone in the parsha! 

Ever tried to function on less sleep? Less food? Less water? Things start feeling rough very quickly. The guf knows how to make its needs known- loud and clear. What about the needs of your neshama? If you neglect your soul, do the repercussions scream out?  

How to be a mentsh in less than 60 seconds 👆 Join The Shmuz Whatsapp Group! Text ‘add me’ to +1(845) 216-9330 Have an amazing Shabbos! 

*Presenting: Becoming a Whole Person* Over the next few weeks, we will be sharing audio clips that promote self-esteem, confidence and how to achieve a healthy sense of self. Listen to the full series here on The Shmuz site: https://theshmuz.com/series/humility-arrogance-and-self-esteem/  

New video in time for sefira: How to win any argument!

“I know people talk about this all the time, but I feel like right when we got married we were so close and it was so much fun, and now with so many more responsibilities in life we’ve lost that passion. How do we bring it back?” If this is a question you’ve sometimes wondered, listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s on-point answer. Make sure your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Learn how to avoid The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. Get your copy now at www.TheShmuz.com or in any Jewish bookstore 👍 

On behalf of wives everywhere, he’s a little reminder for the husbands Have an amazing Shabbos! 

The footsteps of Moshiach are getting louder and louder. Living at the end of time isn’t easy. This clip will give you plenty of encouragement and hope for the future 

Did your spouse do something irritating this past Shabbos? If you’re in the 1% who never finds living with another person difficult, you don’t need to watch this video. For everyone else, this short clip can offer a refreshing perspective Didn’t get your copy of Ten Really Dumb Mistakes yet? You can purchase your copy from www.theshmuz.com with free extra s and added bonuses 

‘I heard the podcast you posted earlier about not being a pleasure seeker…since when does Yiddishkeit ban enjoying life?’ Listen now for the answer, have a wonderful Shabbos and enjoy the challah! 

If you had to deal with a difficult person over yomtov, this clip is for you. 

Are you a hedonist? A pleasure seeker? A foodie? Know how to ‘enjoy the good things in life?’ Rabbi Shafier has a little mussar drasha for you… This clip is taken from Shmuz on the Parsha: Kedoshim, Holy Pleasures. You can watch or download the full shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/424496144 

The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes is essential reading for every marriage couple. But how can you make sure you marry the right one to begin with? Listen to this quick clip on how to find your bashert. If you’d like to hear more dating advice from Rabbi Shafier, go here: https://theshmuz.com/dating-seminar-part-1/  

So here’s an idea. Pause for a moment and think about all of the many, many mitzvos you did over Pesach. Think about the kedusha you created. The changes that were made in the upper worlds. The impact your actions had. And now consider what you’d like to do next, what gains you would like to make in your avodas Hashem. We’re on the countdown to kabbolas haTorah. Whatever goals you set in ruchnius, are in your reach. Let’s go! 

 Learning to Love Hashem  ThisShmuz is the ultimate ‘pick me up’. From the wonders of Creation to Hashem’sintimate involvement in our lives, Rabbi Shafier gives chizuk, inspiration andclarity on our purpose in this world. Listen to this to learn how wonderful itis to be alive. 

Gut erev Shabbos hagodol! Here’s a fundamental yesod. The more you think about it, the deeper it gets. Try it out when you’re preparing for yomtov! 

Working on your marriage is hard. Not working on your marriage is even harder. Over 10,000 copies sold! Get YOUR copy of The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes at theshmuz.com 

 Shiurim on shmiras haloshon aren’t popular. Like exercise orkeeping healthy, most think ‘yep. I know this. Shouldn’t do it. Not sure I needto listen to a whole shiur about it...’ Unfortunately, the parameters of lashonhara are not what you think. Just like eating treif or being mechalelShabbos, it is one hundred percent forbidden. And it’s easy to see why-weall have stuff in our history that we wouldn’t want ‘out there’. It makes sensethat talking about even true events could cause serious damage to another Jew.    But there’s more: it’s actually relatively easy to stop talkinglashon hara. You see, lashon hara isn’t driven by passion, by desire. It’smostly due to a lack of awareness. By becoming more attentive of what the Torahdemands of us, we can start amassing a serious amount of zechar for ourselves.All it takes is for us to become more mindful and aware of what we’re saying. 

Rabbi Shafier was recently featured on Kayla Levin’s podcast How to Glow. Learn more here: https://kaylalevin.com/how-to-glow-podcast/

You know this. But sometimes, we all need a little motivation. So…here it is 

If you’re married, you can relate to this.Still haven’t got yourself a copy of Rabbi Shafier’s bestselling book? Go here to learn what all the hype’s about: www.theshmuz.com  

If you’re married, you can relate to this.Still haven’t got yourself a copy of Rabbi Shafier’s bestselling book? Go here to learn what all the hype’s about: www.theshmuz.com  

Did you over indulge on Purim and now your davening just feels…off? This video is a total ‘aha’ moment. Have a wonderful Shabbos 

What should a woman do when her husband comes home…and they have nothing to talk about? 

In times like these, there’s only one option. Just. Keep. Learning.  

Still cleaning up from Purim? You have 2 choices. Have an awesome Shabbos! 

This clip is for anyone who’s ever been insulted. It may be a good idea to listen before any potential awkward interactions this Purim… 

Mishloach manos came out perfect? Purim seuda menu out of this world? Pretty sure you're the guy giving the most matonos levyonim? Make sure your mitzvos of Purim stays on course this year. 

This is something that requires a constant reminder 

When you feel like you’re living moments before Moshiach, remember this: Hashem is the one keeping everything in existence.  

👍 2 WONDERFUL PEOPLE ✖ 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES 😢1 MISERABLE MARRIAGE “My husband has no idea how to meet my basic emotional needs.” “My wife is always looking to start a fight.” “I feel like there’s something missing in our marriage.” What if that something is basic information about what it takes for a marriage to succeed? 📣 You need the The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make!  Rabbi Shafier’s best selling book will give you a deeper understanding of what makes a marriage work. Looking to bring a new level of intimacy and ❤️ into your marriage? You need this book. Order now at www.theshmuz.com  

You get to talk to the Creator of Heaven and Earth. Isn’t that pretty amazing? Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s _normal_ to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s _normal_ to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s _normal_ to wonder if you married the right one... *LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR!* ✨Now available in your local Jewish bookstore or www.TheShmuz.com  

How much do you value yourself? If it’s based on your financial net worth, you could find yourself in trouble.  This clip is taken from Shmuz on the Parsha. Which the full shmuz on Ki Sisa here: https://vimeo.com/396295896 

What brings more happiness- winning the lottery or becoming paraplegic?  

Are you able to face your shortcomings and not feel terrible about yourself? Ok awesome! For everyone else, this video can give a lot of chizuk Have an amazing Shabbos! 

This awe-inspiring video is sure to get your hashkafas right back where they belong 

Know an arrogant person? This is for you This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Tizaveh here: https://vimeo.com/394790017 

“I know my husband is attracted to me but I don’t feel he expresses it enough” Listen now to hear Rabbi Shafier’s grounded response  If you're looking for a tried-and-tested method to get your marriage back on course, you need The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make.  It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage- without the 💰💰💰 of expensive marriage therapy. Get your copy at www.TheShmuz.com or any Jewish bookstore 👍

“Because if you don’t appreciate it, you may as well not have it” R.S. Have a beautiful Shabbos!

This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Terumah here: https://vimeo.com/393308196  

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. 

👍 *2 WONDERFUL PEOPLE* ✖ *10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES* 😢 *1 MISERABLE MARRIAGE* “My husband has no idea how to meet my basic emotional needs.” “My wife is always looking to start a fight.” “I feel like there’s something missing in our marriage.” What if that _something_ is basic information about what it takes for a marriage to succeed? 📣 *Introducing _The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make_* Rabbi Shafier’s newest book release will give you a deeper understanding of what makes a marriage work. Looking to bring a new level of intimacy and ❤️ into your marriage? You need this book. Order now at www.theshmuz.com  

Have you ever come across one of those self-proclaimed coaches on social media, who talk non-stop about how amazing it is to be fabulously wealthy? All you need to do is shift your mindset, pay them a ton of 💰💰💰 and your problems will be over! Wow! There’s just one tiny problem… Wishing you a wonderful Shabbos… filled with *genuine* happiness  

Is it my job to fix the world? Does Hashem need help? This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Mishpatim here: https://vimeo.com/391807899 

The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is trusted by our Gedolei Yisroel ✔️ as well as hundreds of community Rabbonim ✔️, chosson and kallah teachers ✔️, marriage therapists ✔️, shadchanim ✔️ and dating coaches worldwide ✔️ And now finally, this groundbreaking marriage manual is also available to the wider public through your local Jewish bookstore or The Shmuz. Go to www.theshmuz.com to get your copy now 😀😀😀

This is one of those big-deal concepts that, if you actually stop to think about it, can straight-up change your life. It’s so important that every single Shabbos, we have a mitzvah to remember this. Are you prepared to think deeply? 

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. 

Wondering how to increase your bitachon? Cut down on your angry outbursts? Stop feeling so jealous? Have more happiness in your life? There is a simple formula that can shape you into how you want to be. For more, check out the full video on this week’s parsha here: https://vimeo.com/390295113 And The Mussar Vaad here: https://theshmuz.com/the-mussar-vaad/  

Live your truth. Love is love. You do you. You’re worth it. Just do it. These are some of the phrases common in today’s culture. The problem is, they are completely at odds with Torah hashkafa.   Lo sachmod beis rayecha. Lo sachmod aishes rayecha. Do not desire your friend’s house. Your friend’s wife. In fact, don’t desire anything that belongs to him. So says the aseres hadibros in this week’s parsha. But why not? Society cries. ‘How can I deny my feelings? Why should I oppress my love for this person? Why can’t I have the house I want, the car I want? Afterall, I can split the payments, put it on the credit card…’ This week's podcast invites you to embrace a complete paradigm shift. The Torah tells us we can and must control our thinking, our emotions and our actions. We are held accountable to a high standard. How can we train our brain to become more elevated, more holy and simply nicer people? Catch this week’s episode and prepare to be empowered to change your basest desires and become a better version of yourself. 

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re 💯% sure that they will live in married bliss forever 🥰 Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong 😭 If only they had read The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. Filled with practical advice and straight-talking techniques, it’s the ultimate must-read for every new home 🏠 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is now available in Jewish bookstores and www.TheShmuz.com  

This astonishing Ramban is guaranteed to elevate your Shabbos. Enjoy! 

Dating? Consider this. Married? Let us know if you agree. Leave a comment on our Instagram page, @the_shmuz 

 Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the samedreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will livein married bliss forever.  Until they aren’t. 

How is it that someone can study the complexities of creation and not be blown away by the greatness of Hashem? The answer? I’m not married to the facts. This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Beshalach here: https://vimeo.com/388858703 

Hashem wants marriages to flourish. So why is it so hard?😫 Even the smartest of couples don’t realize how dangerous mistakes are to their marriage. And unfortunately, guidance on shalom bayis is needed today more than ever before. The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is a complete system for creating a successful marriage. Available now in Jewish bookstores and on www.TheShmuz.com, it gives both young and experienced couples a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work ✅ 

If you’re feeling far from Hashem, this simple cognition can help Have a wonderful Shabbos! 

Sometimes we give power to *things*, like they’re outside of Hashem’s control. And we all do it. Be honest, have you been putting your faith elsewhere? This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Bo here: https://vimeo.com/387328650 

Did you know that making a happy marriage is not intuitive? Most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home 😢 They’re not even aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life! 😫 Make sure your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Learn how to avoid The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. Get your copy now at www.TheShmuz.com or in any Jewish bookstore 👍 

 No less than nineteen mitzvos focus on Yetzias Mitzrayim.From Mezuzahs to Tefillin to Shema, we are commanded toremember the events in this week’s parsha. Why does it form the bedrock of ourfaith? As the Ramban explains, Hashem isn’t in the business of making everydaymiracles. There was one moment in history where we clearly saw Hashem as real,present and maintaining every single aspect of existence.      This is deeply relevant to you. By learning how Hashem is incontrol of the big picture you can also come to see His involvement in thesmall details of your own life as well. Discover the fifth and sixth levels ofemunah and be prepared to:       step away from your physical confines  see beyond the limits of nature  begin to view Creation in a dramatic new light  

Hey, only fools pay taxes, right? Why should government officials line their pockets at my expense? Watch now for a fundamental lesson on integrity and honesty. This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Va’eira here: https://vimeo.com/385869178 #purpose #meaning #meaningful #focused #motivation #inspiration #theshmuz #rabbishafier #parsha #jewishwisdom #davening #prayer #jewishprayer

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re 💯% sure that they will live in married bliss forever 🥰 Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong 😭 If only they had read The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make. Filled with practical advice and straight-talking techniques, it’s the ultimate must-read for every new home 🏠 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is now available in Jewish bookstores and www.TheShmuz.com 

Aahhh Shabbos…aside from being a day of yom menucha did you ever wonder WHY Hashem wants us to spend 1/7th of our life in this way? Listen now for a beautiful quick vort for your Shabbos table! 

Hashem Loves Me’ is a nice sentiment…how am I meant to actually believe it when things are tough? This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Shemos. You can watch the full version here: https://bit.ly/3yEmDQB

If you're looking for a tried-and-tested method to get your marriage back on course, you need The Ten Dumb Mistakes Very Smart Couples Make.  It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage- without the 💰💰💰 of expensive marriage therapy. Get your copy at www.TheShmuz.com or any Jewish bookstore 👍

There’s no protectezia in the world to come. No short cuts, no excuses. There is only one criteria for judgement: how much of YOU did you become? Have an amazing Shabbos!

If Hashem created this world to give, why isn’t it more pleasurable? Want to receive this clip as a video? Join The Shmuz Whatsapp Group! Text ‘add me’ to +1(845) 216-9330

Imagine for one moment what life would be like if you had a clear vision of olam haba Wouldn’t you feel rich? This video is taken from The Shmuz on the Parsha: Parshas Vayechi, A Ben Olam Haba. You can watch the full version here: https://vimeo.com/382927076

The straight-talking marriage book that Klal Yisroel has been waiting for is finally here. Order yours at www.TheShmuz.com and get: ✅ Free shipping in the USA ✅ Free audio book ✅ Free e-book ✅ Free Marriage Transformation Course

If you’re looking to keep the inspiration of Chanukah going in your life, this simple strategy can help 

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. 

Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make 😱 Avoid these ten fundamental errors and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable 😍 The Ten Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make is now available in Jewish bookstores and at www.TheShmuz.com

Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage.Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. 

I'd love to be able to thank Hashem- just one small problem. My life stinks! 

THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. OR YOUR SPOUSE. OR THE MATCH BETWEEN YOU. It’s normal to feel frustrated with your spouse It’s normal to think your spouse doesn’t get you It’s normal to wonder if you married the right one... LEARN THE 10 REALLY DUMB MISTAKES THAT SMART COUPLES MAKE AND WATCH THE MAGIC REAPPEAR! ✨ Now available in your local Jewish bookstore or www.TheShmuz.com A freilichen Chanukah! 

This might be a powerful way to kick off your Chanukah. Picture yourself experiencing every mitzva as if it is changing the world. Because it is. 

The Marriage Seminar: Introduction https://theshmuz.com/series/the-marriage-seminar/ Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage. Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. The Marriage Seminar: Love is the Glue https://theshmuz.com/series/the-marriage-seminar/ Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage. Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. The Marriage Seminar: Respect and Love https://theshmuz.com/series/the-marriage-seminar/ Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage. Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. The Marriage Seminar: Equal Partners, Different Roles https://theshmuz.com/series/the-marriage-seminar/ Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage. Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. The Marriage Seminar: Men are from Mars https://theshmuz.com/series/the-marriage-seminar/ Every smart young couple starts their marriage with the same dreams, goals and ideals. They’re one hundred percent sure that they will live in married bliss forever. Until they aren’t. Until the bickering, fighting and loneliness become second nature and they are left wondering where they went wrong. Unfortunately, making a happy marriage is not intuitive, and most couples make the same fatal errors when trying to build their Torah home. They’re not aware that these minor infractions are ruining the most precious relationship of their life. The Marriage Seminar will give you a new level of understanding of what makes a marriage work. It will coach you on the practical techniques you need to bring a new level of intimacy and love into your marriage. Make sure that your marriage doesn’t succumb to the same mistakes that Rabbi Shafier has seen so many others make. Listen to The Marriage Seminar and build the most satisfying relationship imaginable. 

In this week’s parsha, Rashi explains how the lives of tzadikim, beloved to Hashem, are described in detail in the Torah. This is in contrast to reshaim like Eisav whose lives are not dwelled upon. Rashi compares the reshaim to ‘rocks’, something that is discarded when searching for a gem in the sand. The implication is that a life of evil is as worthless as a rock. What is the value of a human life? Although the chemical composition of man is worth little more than $980, in the Torah’s eyes, a life is invaluable. But are we living our best life? How we can we ensure we’re not ‘living like a rock’, going through the motions of life but not adding anything of lasting value? Our potential in ruchnius is unlimited. We are neshamos with infinite potential. This shmuz gives us the focus we need to ensure our actions are purposeful and our lives are ones of meaning.  

Wherever you are, Hashem is there. With you.  

Guard Your Tongue is a practical and engaging guide to the laws of shmiras halashon. Using gripping cases from Chazal and powerful examples from everyday life, this series will inform and inspire you to guard your tongue. 

You’re a spiritual entity...have you said hello to your neshama today? Watch the full shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/378108198

Yaakov walked with Hashem. He achieved an enviable closeness with Ha Kodesh Baruch Hu, understanding that He is present and involved in every aspect of creation. How can we integrate this truth into our own lives? How can we speak to Hashem and really feel that He’s listening, that He’s real and right here with us? In this hands-on shmuz, Rabbi Shafier presents us with an irresistible idea on how we can reach incredible heights in our own avodas Hashem. He also gives us three actionable suggestions on how to improve the quality of our davening and provides plenty of chizuk to get us started. 

Your eyes should be closed during Shemoneh Esrei. Want to know why? The answer will transform your davening 🕮 Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Vayishlach here: https://vimeo.com/378108198  

Guard Your Tongue is a practical and engaging guide to the laws of shmiras halashon. Using gripping cases from Chazal and powerful examples from everyday life, this series will inform and inspire you to guard your tongue. 

Hashem I can’t do this...I need You. It’s at that point when you begin to get it. Watch the full Shmuz here: https://vimeo.com/376691736

The Rabbi forgot his drasha and gave them a powerful life lesson instead... Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on ParshasVayeitzei here: https://vimeo.com/376691736

HASHEM said: If i assure him of bread, he will have NOTHING TO ASK FROM ME.

Guard Your Tongue is a practical and engaging guide to the laws of shmiras halashon. Using gripping cases from Chazal and powerful examples from everyday life, this series will inform and inspire you to guard your tongue. 

Eisav was a lover of luxuries. But what’s that got to do with me? Am I not entitled to spoil myself a little? Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Toldos here: https://vimeo.com/375262685

By the age of fifteen, Eisav had already killed a man, lived with a married woman, denied the Torah and renounced mitzvos, techias hameisim and olam haba. Devoid of morality, it seems puzzling that he was so careful to honor his father Yitzchak. In this captivating Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier tackles the subject of appreciation, analysing why kibud av was so instinctive to Eisav, how we can get better at it in our own lives and why genuine hakaras hatov is our ticket to a happy and meaningful life. 

Guard Your Tongue is a practical and engaging guide to the laws of shmiras halashon. Using gripping cases from Chazal and powerful examples from everyday life, this series will inform and inspire you to guard your tongue. 

If you’re determined to be perfect, you may just be missing out on your mission in this 🌎.

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In Actors on the Stage of Life Rabbi Shafier delves into the ultimate tafkid of Sara Imeinu. Despite her incredible accomplishments, we can learn from the Chumash that her role was primarily to become the mother of Am Yisroel through Yitzchak Avinu. For our own lives, this delivers some powerful lessons-the futility of comparing ourselves with others, the fallacy of judging those around us and the freedom to accept the stage of life that Hashem has placed us in. 

Does it seem that most of the world lacks purpose, direction and drive? Why is that? Listen now for Rabbi Shafier’s startling response. Uncover fresh insights and groundbreaking ideas against the backdrop of the weekly parsha. Watch the full Shmuz on Parshas Chaya Sora here or stream the audio: https://vimeo.com/373772153

Emunah in the Workplace: The Merit of Work Earning, spending and saving from a Torah perspective 

Akeidas Yitzchak. An event that continues to shape the Jewish People, giving us endless zechuyos and molding our collective character for all time. What sets the Akeidah apart from, l’havdil, some of the death cults of our enemies? What was the purpose of the test? Why was Avraham’s response so mind blowing? And why is it not considered Yitzchak’s trial as well? The Anatomy of a Nisayon provides the answers to these questions, as well as a thought-provoking analysis of the reasons and purpose of the challenges we face in our own lives. In this Shmuz Rabbi Shafier explains his practical, three point survival guide, giving us much needed clarity, chizuk and understanding to withstand the darkest moments of our lives. 

Out of the ten trials of Avraham Avinu, his descent to Mitzrayim is described by the Ramban as a ‘great, unintentional sin’. In fact, throughout the Torah, we see many instances of the Avos and Imahos challenged and even criticized by our Mesorah. What are we to learn from these so-called ‘mistakes’? Why do we value failings more than those that lived completely righteous lives? In contradiction to popular thinking, Rabbi Shafier urges us to face our own faults head on, and shows us how to improve and grow whilst keeping our sense of self intact. It’s an essential shmuz for anyone confused by guilt, unsure of their value or looking to become a better person. 

Earning, spending and saving from a Torah perspective 

One hundred and twenty years. That’s how long it took Noach to build the teivah. He grew the trees. He cut the trees. He built the boat. He warned people again and again to do teshuvah, to change, to try and prevent catastrophe.Noach, a perfect tzadik, a Navi...and yet he’s described as lacking emunah. How does this make sense? Is it possible to be busy in avodas Hashem, and for it not to be real? We all know the answer, and it’s painful to admit. We also go through the motions, think one way and act another. In this powerful Shmuz, Rabbi Shafier shows us how to realign the heart and the mind, to make emunah more than lip service, and to recognize the drives that fight within us. 

The halacha shmuz, this is the fundamental guide to the ins and outs of what exactly teshuva involves and how to make sure we get it right. Includes many practical examples on how to get the most out of this auspicious time. 

In this shmuz Rabbi Shafier brings examples from Chazal to show us how even the lowest of people can do a full teshuva-and even get rewarded for their actions. 

 Focus. That’s what we need right now, inthe days that are leading us to Yom HaDin. In this shmuz, Rabbi Shafier givesus that clarity to focus on the incredible gift that is teshuva, and thedevastating consequences should we fail to make us of it.  

 What is holding you back? We have the potential to be higher than Melachim, and yet we often arrive in shul thinking about those same old mistakes. In this shmuz Rabbi Shafier will show you how to stop limiting yourself and start actualizing your amazing, unlimited potential. 

This shmuz will show you how it is possible to come through Yom Kippur a vastly different human being-for all eternity. Essential preparation for the Yom HaDin. 

 Ever felt like you wanted to:  Make more time for important relationships  Get healthy  Do real teshuvah…  And then, three months later:  Whaddaya know, date night got pushed off...again  The treadmill became a coat stand  Um kavannah is still a major challenge??  And you wonder, ‘what on earth happened to my resolve? My commitment? My burning desire to change? Is there any hope for me and my ruchnius?’   In this transformative Shmuz, join Rabbi Shafier as he shows you how to convert your dreams into definable goals. You see, motivation isn’t enough. For eternity, it’s what you do with it that counts.  

If you’re overwhelmed by fire and brimstone droshos, this shmuz is for you.Full of chizuk and encouragement, it discusses how we are all ‘diamonds’-andwhat we can do to polish up those scratches. 

 Now that Elul’s here, there are no more excuses. We need to get real with ourselves about who we are- a powerhouse of unlimited potential and strength, capable of achieving genuine greatness in this world and thenext. Sounds like the other guy? You’re wrong. Listen now and be convinced thatyou really are awesome. 

In this introduction to teshuva Rabbi Shafier explains how Rosh Hashanah impacts us all-from the largest cosmos in our universe to the smallest news headline. Listen to this first to really get into the spirit of Elul. 

 They say that the only guarantees in life are death and taxes. Yet it seems that something else is guaranteed: no matter what, there is always something to pray for. It could be successlearning or davening, finding a spouse, earning a living, getting along with neighbors and coworkers, or living in peace and safety. And once you have children, there is no end of things that seem to go wrong.  

 Parshas Re’eh: If Hashem Wants Me to be Happy, Why Am I So Broke?  I say every morning ‘sheasah li kol tzarci’- Hashem, Youhave provided me with all of my needs. Three times a day I remind myselfthat You open Your hand and satisfy every living thing with its desire.I know You want me to be happy, to enjoy Your world, to keep mitzvos anddo Your will...so if that’s the case, WHY AM I SO BROKE? In this week’s Shmuz on the Parsha, we will take a closerlook at this apparent contradiction. Listen now and learn how to:   Free yourself from the unhappiness caused by unfulfilled desires   Start really enjoying the good things in life  Handle every nisayon like a baal bitachon and get more resilient to life’s challenges    Even if you’re more comfortable than Jeff Bezos, you’re going tofind this week's Shmuz very relevant.  

It was July of 1969, when Neil Armstrong landed on the moon, took his first steps, and announced, “It’s a small step for a man, a giant leap for mankind.” With those words he entered history as the man who walked on the moon. Yet how much of the credit goes to him? Buzz Aldrin stepped down but a few moments later, and no one remembers him. But even more, it took thousands of men, hundreds of year to develop the science and technology to put a man into space. So how much is him and how much is he but a cog in the wheel? 

Bitachon can’t be learned from a book. We can learn the theory, get a grip on the fundamentals of our hashkafa and think we know that we trust in Hashem. But until we are really tested, we have no idea whether our bitachon is real or not. Being naturally optimistic or anxious isn’t an indication of where we’re holding in bitachon-that’s nothing more than a reflection of our personality. To acquire genuine bitachon is a growth process, an emotional reality that goes beyond an intellectual understanding. In this candid shmuz, Rabbi Shafier explains ‘what happened to my bitachon’ when we find ourselves in a difficult situation and suddenly discover that we don’t have so much menuchas hanefesh afterall. How can we make what we learn a real part of our emotional reality? Listen to this shmuz and get the tools to see Hashem in your life and bring theory into reality. 

The world that we live in isn’t the way it’s supposed to be. Tisha B’Av gives us that moment of reflection, the opportunity to consider what we are missing and how we can begin to rectify what has been lost. Like children born into darkness, we can’t even comprehend what life should look like, how we are meant to enjoy this world and use it as a tool to become closer to Hashem. This Tisha B’Av, take the time to reset your perspective. Realize what we are missing, and mourn.

 Remember when we had to watch a ton ofHolocaust movies to feel any stirring of emotion on Tisha B’Av? Remember whenwe had to drag ourselves out of our pampered comfort zones to think about whatit must have been like to suffer at the hands of the Romans? It wasn’t easy toimagine what a dangerous, frightening, unpredictable world meant.    Is it still hard? I don’t think so. Even thesceptics agree with the Chofetz Chaimztl, who said before Moshiach comes, it will feel like the world is spinningfaster and faster and faster.    When will it stop?  

Have you ever heard the three rules of criticism?  1. Don’t do it  2. Don’t do it  3. Don’t do it  Ok, everyone knows how it feels to be criticized. Everyone agrees that it’s damaging to our most precious relationships. Some people have lived under the shadow of criticism their whole life, and have the arduous task of trying to rebuild their self-esteem and confidence. So if it’s so incredibly obvious as to why we shouldn’t do it- why do we? In this week’s Shmuz Live, I’ll be deconstructing the science behind the scorn, and give some real-life, practical advice on how to overcome this destructive habit.  

Parshas Pinchas: How To Restore Balance, Focus and Meaning to Your Life In this week’s Parsha, Pinchas is given the bris shalom after defending the honor of Hashem. Four hundred years ago, The Seforno explained that as a result of this gift, Pinchas was granted longevity. By living ‘at peace with himself’ Pinchas was able to live a longer, healthier life. Would you like to live more at peace with yourself? Be less stressed, more grounded? It’s hard to know where to start. How can I restore an equilibrium between my inner conflicts and desires? How can I achieve a healthy work-life balance, when I feel pulled in so many conflicting directions? And how can I stop myself feeling so frazzled, even when I know it damages my immune system and makes me miserable and tired? As always, the lessons of the Parsha offer us all a startling perspective. Want to hear more on how you can make lasting changes to improve your life, get healthy and enjoy your time in this world? This Shmuz is for you.

The episode of Bilaam and the donkey is often viewed as something comical. Bilaam’s donkey won’t move, Bilaam gets angry and the two of them have a conversation about it. A man arguing with his donkey isn’t exactly an everyday occurrence-why doesn’t he stop and acknowledge the outright miracle that he’s experiencing? And whilst this may be a humorous part of the parsha, if you fail to see beyond the pshat you’d be missing an incredible life lesson. You see, it often happens that we go through stuff, and don’t see the reason. In fact, we might even get upset, annoyed or even angry at Hashem when things don’t turn out the way we want them to. So what’s a better way to cope with the curve balls of life? In this straight-talking shmuz, I’ll be giving clear direction on how to maximize moments of frustration into opportunities for everlasting growth.

Understanding and Integrating the Difference Between Emunah and Bitachon Do you believe in Hashem, but sometimes feel that He’s out to get you? Then you have emunah, but lack bitachon. You see, it’s not enough to simply recognize that Hashem runs the world. As frum Jews, we are also meant to internalize that Hashem is directly involved in our own lives and knows what is best for us. Too many of our problems in bitachon stem from the fact that we think we know better than G-d. Too often we assume we know the bigger picture, and feel abandoned by our Creator. In this week’s Shmuz Live, Rabbi Shafier will be sharing some practical ideas on how to make Hashem real. Pick a method that speaks to you, and transform your life into one of genuine trust and menuchas hanefesh.

How Much Hishtadlus Should I Do?* You know that your year is decreed on Rosh Hashanah. Every aspect of your life is carefully designed by your Creator. You also know that you’re commanded to do your hishtadlus and daven that Hashem rewards your efforts. But how much hishtadlus is too much? How am I meant to tell when Hashem’s answer is ‘no’ or whether He wants me to keep up with the effort and tefillos that I’m investing in? In this incredibly practical Shmuz, I’ll be addressing your common bitachon dilemmas. Make sure to join me on Thursday to learn how to find that elusive balance between genuine hishtadlus and trusting in Hashem.

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