Send us a textEp. 190 - The two of us grew up at the height of the purity culture movement. We read the classic "I Kissed Dating Goodbye" and every other Christian book on courtship. We dated intentionally, wore our purity rings religiously and saved our kisses for marriage. Do we regret wearing our purity rings? What was the impact of purity culture in our lives? How are we going to raise our kids? Let's jump in. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the showJOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Send us a textEp 189 - We’ve had other YouTube creators reacting to us since we posted our very first official vlog/YouTube video on May 25, 2016 titled “Is it okay to be Obsessed with Guys?” I think it’s time for the two of us to react to that video ourselves. We’re going to be releasing two new YouTube videos every month where we react to our earliest / most controversial YouTube videos. We’re going to be brutally honest with ourselves (and you) and share what we still agree with and what we wish we’d never said. No video is off limits. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" WATCH THE YOUTUBE VERSIONSupport the showJOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Send us a textAfter 3 miscarriages and 12 years of infertility, having a baby seemed like an impossible dream.Then, to my complete astonishment, God answered our prayer! In the summer of 2024, I gave birth to our precious daughter, Caroline Marie. Holding my daughter for the first time was a moment I will never forget. Here’s my birth story.WATCH ON YOUTUBE:https://youtu.be/8CXKWgTDTK4KRISTEN'S PREGNANCY STORY (Ep. 180): https://youtu.be/jI9B3PRfepQ?si=dvnMGKFbI-d5xNmeZACK & KRISTEN'S ADOPTION STORY (Ep. 036):https://youtu.be/8gjZ3U64bS8?si=njZEZOOt_0oFRU-aSupport the showJOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Send us a textEp 187 - Women have been told that men are the "standard of success" and we should do what they do. In the name of "equality" of course. Women have been pulled out of their homes, rejected their fertility, and are killing themselves to get accolades from their corporate bosses. What if you've been lied to about womanhood?What if you've been sold a bill of goods? In todays' conversation, we're talking to Suzanne Venker about the TRUTH of womanhood and what actually makes for a satisfying life. NEW BOOK: "Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity" Support the showJOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Send us a textEp. 186 - Alex Clark has risen to fame through her daily pop culture show, Poplitics. She's a conservative Christian woman with a deep desire to get married and start a family. Sadly, that hasn't happened yet. Despite going on dates and putting herself out there. I'm taking a deep dive into her life and asking questions like:Do you think men struggle to commit? Does singleness feel like a punishment from God? How can a woman put herself out there? Should women have higher physical boundaries when dating?Let's get the scoop! Follow Alex on her new Show "Culture Apothecary" MUST READ: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying RelationshipsFREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showJOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Ep. 185 - You're single, but you don't want to be. You want a man. You want a leader. You want a protector. You want a LOVER. So why isn't it happening? Why hasn't God brought marriage into your life? The nagging question for many... "Is it my fault I'm still single?" In today's episode, the two of us share our own experiences and offer practical encouragement with ways you can trust God AND attract a man at the same time. MUST READ: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying RelationshipsFREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.JOIN US ON PATREON FOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube

Ep. 184 - Modern women have been trained by culture to obsess over their bodies and everyone else's. We compare butts, boobs, curves, height and everything else. Many of us look in the mirror and cringe at what we see reflecting back. This is not okay for God's daughters. Let's discuss what it looks like to value the body God has given you and take care of it in a balanced way. Connect with Lainey Greer MUST READ: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 183 - Trusting God with the size of her family was something Catherine Segars NEVER imagined she would do. She was an actress pursuing a future of fame... not a SAHM. Get ready for a wild story of a woman who put radical trust in God. You are going to laugh, cry, and be convicted in ways you weren't prepared for. Let's jump in. Connect with Catherine MUST READ: Not Part of the Plan NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

182 - Have you every read a passage in the Old Testament and thought, "What?! Does God even care about women?" If so, you're not alone. As modern Christian women it's crucial that we dig deeper to understand the context, history, and culture of what is happening in ancient Israel. As we do, we'll see that God's laws are actually FOR women. Grab Katie's Book - To Be a Woman: The Confusion Over Female Identity and How Christians Can Respond NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 181 - Legalism seems to be a constant companion in many conservative Christian circles. The length of ones skirt can become more important than the character of ones heart. Leslie Ludy is joining us on The Girl Defined Show to cast a vision of what true biblical womanhood is all about. Connect with Leslie Ludy NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 180 - Dealing with the pain of unexplained infertility is something no woman wants to go through. Kristen and Zack have experienced thirteen years of this heartbreaking diagnosis. In an incredible turn of events God worked a miracle. Kristen and Zack are expecting a baby. This is a God story. Listen in if you want to hear about God's mighty faithfulness in their lives. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsMUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 179 - Kristen is pregnant and weeks away from maternity leave. Bethany is getting off of social media for the summer. The two of us want to inspire you to set some goals and make this summer count. Not in the "bucket list item" sort of way. We want to inspire you to grow as a Christian woman and pursue God with your whole heart. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsMUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 178 - Christian womanhood has been shoved to the ground and deemed harmful for modern women. Feminism has become the new definer of what's acceptable to embrace. In today's conversation, we're chatting with Anneliese from "Feminine Not Feminist" about God's true design for women and how to THRIVE in your femininity. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsMUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 177 - Marriage has been held up as the pinnacle of biblical womanhood. Get married. Have babies. Take care of your family. That all sounds great IF you're married. But, what if you're not married? What if you're single for a season or for a life time? Does that disqualify a woman from glorifying God in her womanhood and with her life? Madison Rudkin of the popular account Dear Single Woman joins us to expose the lies and bring forward the truth. Connect with Dear Single Woman Grab the book | "Requesting: How to seek marriage from a surrendered heart" NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsMUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 176 - Many Christian women have completely suppressed their sexuality and are pretending that they aren't sexual in any way.  This has created a generation of Christian women who believe their sexuality is more of a curse than a blessing. The switch didn't flip when they got married and sex within marriage is miserable as well. We're going to unpack why God's design for sexuality is actually a BLESSING and how to embrace your sex drive in a good God-designed way. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsMUST READ - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Connect with Pure Design Ministries Wedding Night Guide Support the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 175 - Choosing to stay home with your kids isn't the most glamorous job. In fact, there aren't promotions, raises, or a paycheck. You won't get an annual company party with other employees celebrating your achievements and patting you on the back. Most often the opposite is true. You're left exhausted by the end of the day. The accolades are few. The rewards aren't always visible. So why do women choose homemaking and motherhood? Is it possible that this path is even MORE fulfilling than most other career choices? NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the Show.Support the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 174 - Motherhood is one of the most beautiful and complicated callings in the world. You'd give your life for your babies and you feel like you're losing your mind at the very same time. That's when the lies enter your mind. It's crucial as Christian women to turn to God's Word for truth to guide our emotions. Connect with Catherine NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 173 - Are women bound to a life of misery if they take on this role in the home. Cooking. Cleaning. Caretaking. Sleeping. Wake up. Repeat. Is this brainless work?  The home can be either a prison or a gospel flourishing environment. When you create a space for people to build relationships, nourish their bodies, learn, grow and build one another up, it's a life-giving gift. Allow us to change your perspective in this conversation on the cooking, cleaning and the kitchen. NEW - The Biblical Womanhood Bootcamp FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 172 - At thirteen, after being abandoned by her mother one summer and left to take care of her younger brother, Harmon becomes susceptible to a relationship that turns out to be toxic, abusive, and ultimately exploitave. She eventually finds herself working in a strip club under the control of a pimp. Ultimately, she disposers the path to true freedom. Connect with Harmony and TREASURES NEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 171 - Imagine wanting to change your entire lifestyle because of what you see on social media. That is the reality for many women. We see. We want. We get anxious because we don't have. We do whatever we can to achieve that lifestyle. Repeat. Repeat. Repeat. The anxiety of trying to "measure up" on social media is too much. Let's discuss how we can be rooted in truth and have pease even when our lives are less than Instagram worthy. NEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 170 - Porn had a chokehold on Cortney's life. She longed for freedom and Christ brought that to her. Join us for this special episode brought to you by our friends at COMPELLED. Listen to other powerful testimonies from martyrs, addicts, prisoners, missionaries and more at CompelledPodcast.comContact Cortney directly at: CortneyBruketta @ gmail.comNEW GIRL DEFINED MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 169 - Politics has many American Christian women crippled with anxiety. The stress of voting and the ramifications of that vote are weighty. In fact, a few years ago Kristen actually begged her husband to run for president because she was so stressed about the current political climate of the day. How can we, as Christian women, find peace and rest in Christ during these unknown times? How can we put our TRUST in Him? Let's dig in. NEW MEMBERSHIP FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls31 Days of Praying for Your Husband Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 168 - Enjoy this replay. The whole idea of freezing your eggs is becoming more appealing to women each year.  Instead of being bound by her (God-designed) biological clock, women can delay having children until their 40s, without the worry of having to produce healthy eggs. The basic idea is that you freeze your strong eggs when you’re in your 20s, and then use them when you’re in your 40s.Women, young and old, are loving this new freezing technology because it frees them up from having to “settle down” too early. They can pursue their career, delay marriage, be independent, and still have a chance to be a mom – on their own timeframe.As Christian women, we have to view everything, including this egg freezing technology, through a Biblical worldview.Let's take a deep dive in today's episode. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsNEW: 31 Days of Praying for Your Husband Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 166 - Have you ever seen a Christian marriage where the man appears to be leading, but the wife is actually controlling everything from behind the scenes? Control has been the name of the game since Eve ate the fruit in the garden. Women over the centuries have wrestled with their controlling and manipulative nature. In todays episode, we're unpacking 5 ways women tend to control the man in their life. Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 166 - Paul and Morgan have been braving the world of YouTube for most of their marriage. They've been proclaiming biblical truth and working to point others toward Jesus. It's not always easy though. The pressure to create and produce can be overwhelming. Not to mention the constant pushback and negativity that comes with being in the online space. In today's episode, Paul and Morgan open up and show us a behind the scenes look at what it really takes to be a Christian youtube couple. FOLLOW PAUL AND MORGANNew Video ----> 24HRS WITH Bethany Beal FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 165 - Biblical submission has been misunderstood and abused by many throughout history. Should we toss the biblical term OR strive to understand it in the way God intended? Is biblical submission still relevant for modern women? In today's conversation, we brought on Shannon Popkin to help us with this difficult topic. She's a Bible teacher, wife, mom and amazing mentor to many. She brings truth and light to the reality of biblical submission in marriage. Connect with Shannon Control Girl Book FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 164 - Have you ever wondered if marriage will cure your ongoing struggles with porn, masturbation, erotica and other sexual sins? Many women have believed the lie that getting married will CURE their sexual struggles. In today's episode, we offer you a better way toward freedom. A way that is rooted in God's truth. Let's dive in. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 163 - The two of us used to be HUGE proponents of the "praying  for your future husband" concept. I, Bethany, wrote letters and prayers for my future husband from age 14-30 when I got married. That's a lot of time spent thinking and dreaming about someone that might not have even existed. Is it a good idea for single Christian women to focus on a future husband? In today's episode, we're going to unpack the pros and cons of praying for your future husband. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian Girls31 Days of Praying for Your Husband Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 162 - We've seen thousands of Christian women ditch their faith over the past several years. Many came face to face with issues like gay marriage and decided that "hate-filled" Christianity wasn't for them.  Is it possible to be a KIND Christian and disagree with others? Does God's Word really stand the test of time? In today's conversation, we unpack these hard questions with Alisa Childers. A woman who tore her faith down to the bottom and rebuilt it back up again. Let's figure out how to be women of conviction in an ever changing society. Connect with Alisa Childers: https://alisachilders.com/The Deconstruction of Christianity: https://alisachilders.com/the-deconstruction-of-christianity/FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying RelationshipsGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 161 - The sourdough biblical womanhood aesthetic is in full force. It seems milking your cow, collecting fresh eggs and wearing a flowy dress are the new standards for biblical womanhood. Is it though? What does the Bible actually say about biblical womanhood? Does God require us to be barefoot and baking to be a Proverbs 31 woman? Let's discuss. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 160 - Colleen Hoover has exploded onto the scene over the past few years. She is a multi New York Times bestseller and has even outsold the BIBLE. This author has captivated women across the world. Much of the controversy amongst Christian women has been around the erotic scenes in her books. Many say they're pornagraphic and downright sinful. If you've heard of or have read Colleen Hoover's books, this episode is for you! FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 159 - Marrying a man of godly character sounds great...but how can you know if he's ACTUALLY a godly man? You need answers to questions like, “What kind of character does this guy have?” “Where is his heart in regard to what God’s Word teaches?”“Does he genuinely love the Lord, and is this evident in his actions?” “Does he uphold God’s Word as the greatest authority in his life?”In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack what it takes to truly get to know a man so you can make a wise relationship decision.  GRAB THE GUIDE: How to Discern a Guy's True Character FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartGirl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 158 - It's easy to be a fearless Christian woman around people who agree with you. But, what about those settings where people disagree? Are you willing  to stand up for God's design at work, school, and on social media? Are you truly willing to live an unashamed life of the gospel of Jesus? It's time to link arms and live bold and courageous lives for Jesus. Let's unpack exactly what it takes to be a fearless woman of God. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartLove Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 157 - Enjoy this important replay. Christian women are notorious for giving "feel good" encouragement. It might not be true. It might not be biblical. But, it makes us feel good in the moment. "You're enough.""Your turn is next!""You'll get that baby soon.""Marriage is in your future.""Good things are coming your way."These all sound nice and great and make me feel good... but are they true? Are they biblical? In today's episode, we're unpacking why this "fluffy feel good" advice is more damaging than helpful. GRAB THIS RESOURCE: Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 156 - We surveyed hundreds of single women for our book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart. The answers were unanimous. Single women desperately need help, guidance and mentorship. They shared their struggles with porn, erotica, masturbation and said that they don't know who or where to turn for help. Married Christian women should be the FIRST ones to reach out with Biblical hope and truth. Married Christian women need to proactively mentor single women in this area. If we won't do it, the world will. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartThe Ultimate Sexuality Mentorship Course for Single Women The Ultimate Intimacy Course for Married Women Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 155 - Enjoy this replay. The word identity has become one of the biggest buzz words of our day. Our modern culture is passionate about spreading the message that our truest identity can be found within ourselves. We’re told that who we are has nothing to do with God, but everything to do with us. As we live in the midst of this popular narrative, we need to remind ourselves that our truest identity doesn’t come from within, but from within God’s design for us. If we want to experience true freedom and confidence in who we are, we must look to our Creator to define us. He is a good and loving Father and has a beautiful design for our femininity. At the end of the day, our greatest joy and purpose doesn’t come from within, but from knowing who we are in Christ, and then living faithfully in that identity for God’s glory.FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 154 - Is it okay to want to be married? Is there anything a single woman can do to make marriage happen? Candice Watters gives women permission to want Christian marriage and encourages them to believe it's possible. In today's conversation, we're giving you practical steps you can take to make marriage a more likely part of your future. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 153 -  We hope you enjoy this replay. Have you ever wondered anything like this: “How will I know when I meet my future husband?” Or, “How will I know if he’s the one I should marry?” Or, “What signs should I look for to figure out who the one is?!”These are popular questions. Chances are, you’ve probably asked some of them yourself. Trying to “figure out the ONE” is something we’ve asked ourselves over the years too.However, instead of looking for a magic sign or an overwhelming feeling, we’ve discovered a better way to go about this. We’ve come up with several practical and helpful questions for discerning “the one.”FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 152 - The booty pics. The cleavage pics. The showcasing the feminine form pics. We've all seen them. We may have even posted them. Some of us have even attached a Bible verse as the caption. The seductive selfie has become a staple for many women's social media feeds. These pics get the likes. They get the attention. It's no wonder many women love to post them. Should we as Christian women post seductive selfies? Let's dive into this question on today's episode. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 151 - The surrogacy industry has boomed over the past decade. The rich and famous have started to rent out the wombs of other women in order to maintain their bodies and fast paced lifestyle. Why carry your own baby when another woman can do it for you? There are some serious concerns about this new way of bringing babies into the world. The dark side of "womb renting" isn't something many are willing to be honest about. But, women deserve to know the truth. We brought on expert Ericka Andersen to share the truth about surrogacy. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 150 - When Kristen heard that Zack drank a beer while they were dating her jaw hit the floor. She was a staunch "no alcohol" girl and thought Zack was too (only a staunch no guy). This brought up some intense conversations and forced both of them to take a deep dive on what the Bible actually says about this subject. Let's discuss how we as Christian women should approach the topic of alcohol from a wise and balanced view point. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsRecommended Resource: Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's HeartPersonal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 149. - Do all men actually crave sex ALL of the time? Is a man UNHEALTHY if he doesn't want sex? Is it true that a woman's sex drive tanks after she gets married? The questions about sex and hormones are endless. That's why we brought on the "hormone whisperer" to help sort through all of the cultural stereotypes and assumptions about men and women. In today's conversation, Dr Patrick Flynn is bringing mind blowing truths about men, women, sex and hormones. NEW GUIDE: Finding Freedom From Masturbation (PDF Download)Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and IdentityPersonal Retreat Journal Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 148 - Modesty put Girl Defined on the map way back in the day when we first launched this ministry. Girls went crazy for our posts and videos on this topic. We ended up creating an ebook "Project Modesty" and hundreds of you bought it.  Fast forward a few years and all of our old modesty content has been removed (by us) and we've ghosted you on the topic. We're breaking the silence and sharing the honest truth about how and why we've changed. FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsBOOK - SEX, PURITY AND THE LONGINGS OF A GIRL'S HEARTSupport the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

When it comes to LGBTQ people and conversations, how often do you engage as a Christian? The truth is, most of us have NO IDEA how to engage in these crucial conversations in a way that's loving, thoughtful, Biblical, and truthful. And so we don't. Our guest today is here to HELP US. Andrew T. Walker is the author of the book, "God and the Transgender Debate: What Does the Bible Actually Say about Gender Identity?"He's the type of Christian who actually invites LGBTQ people out to coffee because he genuinely CARES about them. And he's going to show us how to do the same. Support the showSupport the ShowFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 146 - Enjoy this replay! Many Christian women wonder if being a virgin on their wedding night will be awkward. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really that great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for marriage and dig into these questions from personal experience. They also share multiple resources that are helpful in mentally, emotionally, physical, and spiritually preparing you for your own honeymoon one day. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, there's something for everyone in this conversation.FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsBOOK - SEX, PURITY AND THE LONGINGS OF A GIRL'S HEARTGIRL DEFINED WEBSITEAUTHENTIC INTIMACYJAVA WITH JULIINTENDED FOR PLEASUREDEAR YOUNG MARRIED COUPLESupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Do evil men exist? Yes. Are all men toxic? No. We live in a society that actually hates strong men. "Toxic manhood" has become a buzzword that now encompasses all forms of male strength, leadership, and masculinity. The feminist movement promoted this mindset by declaring men as the primary source of women's oppression and unhappiness. And the battle rages today.  But is this what we want? A society without any masculine and strong men? Dr. Owen Strachan doesn't think so.  In fact, he believes a society without strong men will become a society dominated by evil men. In today's conversation, we unpack how we, as modern Christian women, can use our influence to promote and encourage godly masculinity in the lives of the men around us. Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 144 - Enjoy part two of this replay series. The history of "the birth control pill" is something most women are not familiar with. Most women simply listen to their Dr. (without question) when they're told to get on the pill for one reason or other.  Oral contraception has become the go-to for preventing pregnancy with little understanding of the potential negative health impacts to the woman taking it. We've brought on expert, Dr. Leah Gordon to talk all things birth control, oral contraception and the history of the pill. This conversation will make you squirm and blow your mind all at the same time. Let's jump in and learn the truth about the birth control pill. Connect with Dr. GordonNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 143 - Enjoy this replay episode. It was so good we had to bring it back. Have safe sex. Don't get pregnant. And build your career. That's the mantra women have been told from the time they were teen girls. Birth control is the go-to prescription to assist in this process of raising career minded women who put family on the back burner. This entire way of thinking needs to be tossed out and rebuilt. That's where Candice Watters comes in. She brings a perspective to family planning that is sure to make you question everything you've though over the years. She takes you to Scripture and shows you why the world's way of doing things isn't best or God-honoring. It's time to rethink birth control, family planning, and when to have babies. Recommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 142 - Motherhood is a beautiful blessing and an incredible challenge all at the same time. Kristen opens up and shares about the past two years since adopting her boys from Ukraine.  She shares the practical things she does on a daily basis to disciple her boys in the Word and show them the love of Christ every single day. Motherhood has its hard moments and having a deep relationship with Christ is the key to loving well during those moments. Recommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 141 - Sexual struggles are rampant amongst christian women. Sadly, women are often left to fend for themselves and figure it out with google. The shame and embarrassment of feeling like she is "the only one" is not helping either. Women need answers. They need help. They need freedom. In today's episode, Kristen gets raw and real about her own past struggle with masturbation and shares the practical steps she used to find lasting freedom. The Ultimate Sex Mentorship Course for Single Women The Ultimate Sex Mentorship Course for Married Women Code: GDM for a discount NEW GUIDE: Finding Freedom From Masturbation (PDF Download)Book: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 140 - What does it mean to be a woman? Some have answered this question with a simple "an adult human female." Is that sufficient though? You were created to be uniquely different from a man. Every fiber in your body speaks to that reality.  You were made female on purpose and for a great purpose. Your gender speaks to God's beautiful calling in your life. Let's dig into the Word and discover exactly what that is. Recommended Resource: *NEW* Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 139 - Porn is rampant and destroying peoples lives. It can be extremely uncomfortable to discuss the topic of porn. Many wives don't want to know if their husband is struggling. It feels too big and too hard to deal with. Today's conversation is filled with guidance and direction from a husband who once found himself enslaved with sexual addiction. His story of freedom in Christ will bring you hope to your own relationship. Recommended Resource: Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality *NEW* Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 138 - Barbie has overtaken the world with her pink outfits, blonde hair, and handsome low commitment fragile blonde boyfriend. The trailers and teasers captivated the world causing the movie to explode opening weekend. The movie was definitely packed with surprises...and not good ones. The movie had a strong agenda and basically used barbie to get its message across. It was less about Barbie and more about very specific talking points. In today's episode, Dav and Bethany unpack the movie and share their pros and cons. Recommended Resource: *NEW* Embracing Biblical Womanhood (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 137 - Loneliness is a huge problem for thousands of christian women across the world. Have you ever felt left out, alone, forgotten or just excluded because of your beliefs? We live in a  world that is overly connected through the internet and under connect in real life. Christian women need in-person relationships and community to thrive in God's design. God made us to live with one another. Community is a part of God's good plan. In today's episode, we help you practically figure out how to develop genuine friendships with other christian women. Recommended Resource: Friendships: How to Make Friends When You Feel Left Out and Forgotten (PDF Download)Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 136 - One the most unique aspects of women all around the world is her uterus. This aspect of our anatomy sets us apart from men in a very clear way. We're reminded of this piece of our womanhood every single month when we're greeted by 5-7ish days of bleeding. Have you ever wondered why God created you with a period? In today's episode we're taking a theological look and your period and unpacking why it matters to God. BOOK: A Brief Theology of Periods Recommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 135 - Can you imagine being honored and rewarded for LIMITING the amount of children you have? This is the reality in America. Get this, "Prince Harry told British Vogue in 2019 that he and Meghan Markle would have two children maximum. Harry said it was an environmental choice, which was recognized by charity Population Matters. The couple were awarded $695 to give to a charity of their choice for their "enlightened decision."Is it really an enlightened choice to LIMIT having children? Let's find out. Recommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 134 - Men are under attack in our society. They're viewed as a cancer to be eliminated. Feminine GOOD. Masculine BAD. Are men really as toxic and evil as we've been told? Are there any respectable men left? In today's conversation we talk with Professor Nancy Pearcey about the TRUE war on masculinity and the insightful research that has been hidden away. Bottom line. There is hope. Good men exist. Listen to the conversation to find out why this is true. The Toxic War on MasculinityRecommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 133 -  While the Bible does not give a direct command on this subject, it does have a lot to say about marriage. Marriage is a covenant between one man and one woman forever before God. It is a picture of Christ and the church. A husband and wife become one flesh.Does that mean a woman should take on the man's last name though? Let's take a deep dive and figure this out  together. Recommended Resource: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 132 - Masturbation is a topic that Christian women typically do not discuss. Sadly, the silence surrounding this topic has only confirmed in women's minds that, "I must be then only woman in the world struggling with this!" That is not truth though. Kristen has also bravely shared her own story many times in the past to help you know that you're not alone and that freedom can be had. Let's take a deep dive and unpack this conversation and all of the nuance it holds. NEW GUIDE: Finding Freedom From Masturbation (PDF Download)Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart SINGLE WOMEN: Finding Freedom From Masturbation (PDF Download)Masturbation and the Christian Woman's Struggle to Find Freedom Sex and the Single Girl MARRIED WOMEN: The Ultimate Sex Course for Christian Women What's Okay in the Bedroom Heaven in Your HomeSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 131 - There’s a lie masquerading as truth that’s running rampant in our culture. It goes something like this: you are powerful enough to control your circumstances and create the life you want through positive thinking, solid planning, and dreaming big enough. But if you’ve ever tried to control your life or to strive your way to self-fulfillment, you’ve discovered what lies on the other side of this supposedly empowering message: frustration, exhaustion, and disappointment when things don’t go your way.In today's episode, Tara Sun explores why the quest for control is overrated—not to mention downright dangerous—and reveals the surprising, life-giving alternative: radical surrender to God. Tara's Book "Surrender Your Story" NEW Personal Retreat Journal Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

A new documentary series covering all things IBLP and the Duggar family has many people talking. The two of us are weighing in to share our thoughts. Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 130 - Women have become obsessed with physical perfection. Filters on social media are no longer "enough." Millions upon millions of women have decided to alter their physical bodies to achieve a certain look. Nose jobs. Lip fillers. Breast implants. Butt lift. Buccal fat removal. The list of procedures that women get done are endless. It's time to take a step back and take a look at cosmetic procedures from a christian worldview. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 129 - Target stores nationwide have fully embraced the gender confusion mania with their new "Take Pride" apparel line. I walked into a store this week to check things out for myself. I saw female-style swimsuits which offered a "tuck option" along with an extra wide crotch for biological males. I saw graphic tees geared toward teen girls featuring large print that said, "Busy thinking about girls." But the worst products by far were the rainbow colored BABY bibs and onesies with text like "I am PROUD of you always." How should we respond to this? How should we navigate this Biblically? As shocking as Target's bold displays are...what if this is simply the natural next step for a society that has rejected God as the Creator? Let's unpack this together.Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 128 - A prominent conservative recently made some comments about porn that got everyone talking. Many started discussing whether viewing porn was an okay substitute for actually going out and cheating on (committing adultery) your spouse. Do men  need sexual variety and therefore need porn as a way to handle their sexuality well? Is porn an okay addition if you and your spouse have a committed relationship? Should you be thankful your husband is viewing porn rather than sleeping around? Let's unpack all of this and more with Bethany's husband, David Beal. Connect with Bonny Burns: Strong Wives (Get Help with Sexual Pain and Hurt) Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 127 - Enjoy this replay. Finding purpose, worth, identity, and true joy are core desires of every woman. Sadly though, many of us are finding ourselves in a place that is void of the very things we long for. This is because we’re looking to ourselves and the world for answers about our purpose, worth, and identity as women rather than God’s Word.We need to remind ourselves that God is our loving creator and has an amazing plan for our lives as females. Our deepest desires will only be realized when we fully surrender our lives to God and get back to His timeless design for our womanhood.Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 126 - Many married women find themselves having intercourse with their husband physically, but they're a million miles away in their minds. Sexual temptation doesn't disappear when you get married. The lustful heart that was there before marriage is the same lustful heart that goes into marriage. This isn't a comfortable or easy topic. Opening up about sinfully lusting and fantasizing about other men isn't easy.Let's jump into this uncomfortable but needed conversation. God, Sex, and Your MarriageHow to Deal with Intrusive Thoughts During Sex Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 125 - Growing up in a family with five sisters gave us tons of room for comparison. We're all different heights, weights, body types and just look different. We all had to work hard to appreciate and THANK God for our differences. In today's episode, the two of us open up about our own insecurities and how we've handled body image issues as christian woman through the changing seasons of life. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 124 - The content subscription platform OnlyFans exploded in popularity during the pandemic. Many college aged girls found themselves home from school, out of work and desperate for money. This new London based platform promised easy money for sexy pics. Many young women decided to jump in and give it a go. Sadly, OnlyFans takes most creators MUCH further than they ever imagined they'd go. Many promising to never post nudes found themselves needing to post x-rated content to make ends meet. Let's unpack the negative impact this has had on many modern women. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 123 - Enjoy this replay. Gender pronouns are all the rage right now. Instagram has even updated their bio feature to include your pronouns as a feature of who you are. Youtube will kick you out if you do not refer to someone by their preferred pronouns. Commercials have resorted to actors verbally communicating their pronouns so that everyone knows who they are. Guess what? We're not a fan of this movement. We think the issue of pronouns is a big one. We need something more helpful than pronouns. Let's unpack what God's Word has to say and see if we can find lasting answers to the question "Who am I?"NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 122 - You've been here with us through our dating, to engagement, to marriage, to having babies and now to this. We've been pretty open about our marriage...but this is the MOST vulnerable we've ever been with you. We're answering these questions: Does it bother Dav that you talk so openly about sex online? What did you think of your age gap at first VS now?How do you resolve conflict and do you do it away from your kids? What do you and Bethany disagree on and how do you handle the difference of opinions? And more.We're excited to share our lives with you and hopefully encourage you in the process. Bethany's Resources: The Ultimate Sex Course for Married Women150 Questions To Strengthen Your MarriageGirl Defined Resources:  Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 121 - When it comes organizing and managing the home, most Christian women feel overwhelmed and underprepared for this daily task. As a result, we find ourselves constantly frustrated OR feeling indifferent to the piling dishes and never-ending laundry. Maybe what we all need is a little heart adjustment followed by a big dose of practical skills, tips, and training. As a self-made organizing guru, Deb VonBergen is here to help us all! Whether you're single, marriage, have kids or don't, this episode has something for every woman who desires to manage her space well. Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 120 - They met at a summer camp in the Carolina mountains at age 15 and 16 in 1978, then married four years later. Little did they know how ill-prepared they were for marriage and the first five years were horrific, with continuous disconnection and pain.It took MANY years of relational suffering for the Dr. Glenn & Phyllis to finally discover tools that worked for their marriage. They share their wisdom, expertise and hope-filled story in today's episode. CONNECT WITH DR. GLENN & PHYLLIS CODE: GIRL20FREE: Core Emotion Wheel Foundations Masterclass Late Night  Sex CourseNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 119 - I had been planning a home birth since I found out I was pregnant with Audrey.  The birth tub was ready to go and I felt mentally and physically prepared. I woke up on December 22nd to the exciting realization that baby girl was COMING. My water was breaking and I knew that meant her arrival was going to happen one way or another. The next twelve hours went nothing like I had planned. That's because absolutely nothing happened. My water broke... but that was it. No contractions. NO progress. Nothing. I was beginning to feel stressed out. Thankfully my midwife came over and we came up with a plan. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link OTHER LINKS: My 7 Hour Labor and Home Birth StoryBethany's Story of Miscarriage and Loss Over the Past Year RECOMMENDED BIRTH SOURCES: Ina May's Guide  to Childbirth  Pain Free Birth Christian Hypno Birthing The Business of Being BornSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 118 - She has 10 kids and is only 40 years old! She homeschools, writes books, potty trains, hosts a podcast, and still goes on weekly date nights with her husband. Say whaaat?? Meet Abbie Halberstadt, the woman behind the popular Instagram account called "M is for Mama." She's a mom on a mission leading thousands of women in a rebellion against mediocre motherhood. And she wants us to join her! Let's talk all things motherhood, raising kids, prioritizing marriage, getting in the Word, managing our homes, self care vs. soul care, and more! Whether you're a mom or not, you'll find this episode super encouraging. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 117 - Have you been wrestling with a specific sexual sin and can't seem to break free? No matter how hard you pray or read your Bible, the sin persists? As a Christian woman, this can feel extremely discouraging. You might even begin to doubt if freedom is  possible. If that's you (or someone you know), then this episode is for you! Although sin is strong...Jesus is stronger! Don't give up hope. Jesus wants freedom and victory for you. His power is made perfect in our weakness. By His grace, you can walk the path of freedom from sexual sin. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 116 - Growing up in a family with 19 kids and living most of her childhood on reality TV, Jinger Duggar Vuolo has a unique life to say the least. Millions of people loved watching the 19 Kids and Counting show, but often wondered why the Duggars had such strict rules about modesty, romantic relationships, and music. Most people had never heard of a man named Bill Gothard, but behind the scenes, his teachings were the driving force behind the Duggar's ultra-conservative lifestyle.   As an adult now, Jinger has been on a journey of her own, questioning the rules and theology of her childhood. Rather than throwing out her faith altogether, she's seeking to disentangle the lies from the truth. Today, we get to chat with Jinger firsthand and ask her all about her new book, Becoming Free Indeed: My Story of Disentangling Faith From Fear. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 115 - Imagine walking into a strip club for the first time with one simple goal - to share the gospel with the women who work there. This is exactly what a woman named Rachelle Starr has been doing for years now. Her heart is burdened and broken for the thousands of women who find themselves (for one reason or another) stuck in a repetitive cycle of working in the sex industry.  You will be blown away by what God is doing through Rachelle's work as the gospel of Jesus pierces some of the darkest industries on our planet. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 114 - Let's be honest. Valentine's Day isn't always what it's cracked up to be. Regardless of what we see on the Hallmark Channel, rarely do things turn out that perfectly. In singleness, we often feel bummed because we don't have that special someone. Then in marriage, we often feel bummed because our special day isn't turning out to be as romantic as we'd imagined! We can attest to feeling both of these ways. In today's episode, we're going to spill the beans and tell you about our worst and best Valentine's Days ever. Then, we're going to get honest about how we can all benefit from pursuing a more Christ-centered "Agape love" this Valentin'e Day and ditching the shallow version of "Hallmark Love."To take a deeper dive into all things love, romance, dating and marriage, check out our book, Love Defined: Discovering God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep.  113 - *Enjoy this replay! After ministering to singles for over a decade, JP Pokluda knows what it takes to date with success as a Christian. He’s seen the pitfalls and struggles firsthand and is here to offer you a radically better way to date. In today’s episode, JP brings powerful insight and wisdom directly to the Girl Defined Sisterhood! He covers everything from the pitfalls of modern dating, what to look for in a guy, how to know if you have the gift of singleness, how to ask your boyfriend if he struggles with porn, physical attraction, arranged marriages, and much more. Don’t miss this incredible conversation as JP helps you date intentionally and find love that lasts.NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your StoryGirl Defined BookMUST GET BOOKS: Love Defined BookSex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright DevotionalConnect with JP PokludaConnect with JP PokludaJP's Book: OutdatedSupport the showSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 112 - Married women have tons of burning questions about intimacy and sex. "Where did my libido go the second I got married?" and "I've never had an orgasm. How can I overcome this?" and "How to know what's okay in bed and what's not?" The list goes on. Christian married women need help, direction and hope in this area. Google isn't cutting it. We need real advice from a real sex expert. Join us today as we ask Francie Winslow many crucial questions about married sex. To learn more about God's design for sexuality, gender, and Biblical womanhood, grab a copy of: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart.NEW Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link CONNECT WITH FRANCIE WINSOW Heaven in Your HomeSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 111 - Today we're talking to Blake Howard, a man who was once a drag queen and living his life as an openly gay man. He shares how his homosexual relationships and drag performances provided temporary happiness and purpose, but ultimately left him feeling more alone and empty than before. Blake shares his journey of finding Jesus and ultimately leaving everything behind to pursue Biblical manhood instead.  To learn more about God's design for sexuality, gender, and Biblical womanhood, grab a copy of: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girls Heart.Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 110 - Enjoy this replay! It often feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism, and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't silent on these topics and neither should we be. In today's conversation, Professor Nancy Pearcey, brings her wisdom and expertise to the conversation. She unpacks what homosexuality, transgenderism, hookup culture and abortion all have in common. She shows us why our Designers intentional plan for our body matters. She tackles this tough topic with grace and love. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 109 - As Christian women of this modern generation, we breathe the air and ideology of feminism without even realizing it. What's normal today (sexual autonomy, gender fluidity, cohabitating) wasn't normal a few decades ago. Our view of femininity and womanhood has been radically impacted by feminist thinking in more ways than we often realize. In today's episode, we're taking a deep dive into this topic with popular author and Bible teacher, Mary Kassian.  Girl Defined Book: Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Mary's Book: Girls Gone Wise in a World Gone Wild Girl Defined Shop: SHOP 8 Week Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 108 - It's the most wonderful time of the year. This is the time where we get to celebrate the birth of our Lord and Savior. Where would any of us be without His amazing birth, life, sacrifice, and resurrection? This is why we celebrate big. Family. Traditions. Food. Gifts. All the things. This episode is filled with fresh ideas to make this Christmas season special. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 107 - It’s been over a year since Zack and Kristen brought their boys home from Ukraine and finalized the adoption. Life has been full, fun, and wild with lots of joys and some challenges. In this down-to-earth conversation, they share openly about how becoming an “instant family” has impacted their marriage, and what life looks like today as a family of four.NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 106 - Enjoy this replay. Almost every young Christian woman asks this question at some point in her life. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for marriage and answer this question from personal experience. They also share multiple resources that can be super helpful in mentally, emotionally and physical helping you prepare for your own honeymoon one day. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode every girl/woman won't want to miss.FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsBOOK - SEX, PURITY AND THE LONGINGS OF A GIRL'S HEART GIRL DEFINED WEBSITE AUTHENTIC INTIMACY JAVA WITH JULI INTENDED FOR PLEASUREDEAR YOUNG MARRIED COUPLESupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 105 - Enjoy this incredible replay. Same sex attraction is a topic we've been wanting to cover for a long time. Many of you have DM'd us asking us to bring biblical truth and gospel centered hope to this conversation. We know this can be a very sensitive topic... that's why we've waited this long to bring the right person onto the show. Ellen Dykas has spent years loving and ministering to women who are wrestling with this struggle. If you desire hope and freedom with your own same sex attraction, this episode is for you. Ellen Dykas spends the last portion of this episode answering your direct questions. We pray this episode points you to Christ and shows you the hope that is found in Him. BOOK: Not Part of the Plan Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Biblical Resources on Sexuality: Biblical Counseling Trusting God to Heal the Scars of Sexual AbuseHarvest Website Untangle Twisted Relationships When a Friendship Becomes Co-Dependent Toxic Relationships Can You Change if You're Gay?Sex and the Single Girl Sexual Sanity for Women: Healing from Sexual and Relational BrokennessSexual Faithfulness: Gospel-infused, Practical Discipleship for Women Girl Defined Resources: NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and TurSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 104 - Christian women often feel extremely uncomfortable talking about sex. It seems there is an unspoken rule to keep everything super "hush-hush." This is ridiculous. Most women have big questions about sex and we (as Christians) should be the first to talk about this area of life. God designed sex. There should be no shame in trying to understand the ins-and-outs of His good design. In today's episode, we're unpacking your biggest questions about sex & intimacy (all from a biblical worldview). Trusting God to Heal the Scars of Sexual AbuseNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 103 - Christian women are notorious for giving "feel good" encouragement. It might not be true. It might not be biblical. But, it makes us feel good in the moment. "You're enough.""Your turn is next!""You'll get that baby soon.""Marriage is in your future.""Good things are coming your way."These all sound nice and great and make me feel good... but are they true? Are they biblical? In today's episode, we're unpacking why this "fluffy feel good" advice is more damaging than helpful. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Feminism has been the loudest voice in culture for women. Feminism acts like ALL women want abortion, autonomy, careers, power over men and more. But is that really true for ALL women? No. We took a poll on Instagram and you all submitted things you DO NOT WANT. Things like "hustle culture" and "being a boss babe." If you value femininity, motherhood, and chivalry, this episode is for you. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Many Christian single women wonder if they have the gift of singleness. If marriage hasn't happened yet... maybe singleness is God's calling on your life. This is a legit line of thinking and one that deserves good/biblical answers. Join Kristen and Bethany as they bring clarity to this confusing conversation. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 100 - Lets celebrate the 100th episode with an extra special conversation. We've covered some pretty intense topics over the lifespan of this podcast. Masturbation, feminism, birth control, drag queens, marriage, biblical womanhood and more. It's time to take a little break and have some fun. In today's episode, we're answering your assumptions about us! Everything from "Bethany is the black sheep of the family" to "you two are leaving Girl Defined." Let's dive into what's true and what's not!NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 099 - The history of "the birth control pill" is something most women are not familiar with. Most women simply listen to their Dr. (without question) when they're told to get on the pill for one reason or other.  Oral contraception has become the go-to for preventing pregnancy with little understanding of the potential negative health impacts to the woman taking it. We've brought on expert, Dr. Leah Gordon to talk all things birth control, oral contraception and the history of the pill. This conversation will make you squirm and blow your mind all at the same time. Let's jump in and learn the truth about the birth control pill. Connect with Dr. GordonNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 098 - Have safe sex. Don't get pregnant. And build your career. That's the mantra women have been told from the time they were teen girls. Birth control is the go-to prescription to assist in this process of raising career minded women who put family on the back burner. This entire way of thinking needs to be tossed out and rebuilt. That's where Candice Watters comes in. She brings a perspective to family planning that is sure to make you question everything you've though over the years. She takes you to Scripture and shows you why the world's way of doing things isn't best or God-honoring. It's time to rethink birth control, family planning, and when to have babies. Candice Watters Book Start Your Family NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 097 - Purity culture gets a major bad rap amongst millennials who grew up in the church.  I get that. Purity culture had some major pitfalls and did a lot of damage. But, what about public health sex education? What about the sex ed class you took in school? It's time to give both purity culture and sex ed their fair evaluation. In today's episode we are chatting with public health expert and founder of Sex Ed Reclaimed, Kristen Miele. She's been in the public health space for over 12 years and has some major concerns.Connect with SexEd Reclaimed Follow SexEdReclaimed on IGNEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 096 - If you are familiar with our ministry you know that, we created GirlDefined Ministries to help girls “get BACK to God’s design.” As a whole, Christian girls are really struggling to understand what God’s design is for their lives and how to practically live that out.In short, we don’t believe feminism is the answer to our womanhood questions.Yes, feminism has done some good over the years, but by and large it has left women more confused and unfulfilled than ever before. Why? Because whenever you try to define the creature apart from the Creator, you end up with problems. Feminism is an entire belief system and worldview built by women in an attempt to redefine womanhood.Let's jump in to today's episode and unpack 8 reason I'm not a feminist and why you shouldn't be either. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 095 - Dating should always be done with intention and careful consideration. Dating should always work toward answering the question, "should we get married?" A successful dating relationship either moves forward toward marriage OR ends because you've discovered it's not the right thing. What questions should you ask to help you figure out if he's "the one?"Here's a list of the top ten questions to help you take your relationship to a deeper level. FREE LIST: 136 Questions to Ask in a Dating Relationships NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 094 - The two of us found ourselves without children for all of our thirties. That gave us plenty of time to focus on Girl Defined Ministries and all that running a non-profit entails. The past two years changed all of that though. We both became mothers and our lives suddenly looked very different. We wondered, "How can we balance both motherhood and running a ministry?"   It's been a journey of figuring it out. Here's what we've learned so far and how we balance it during this season of motherhood. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 093 - This wildly popular episode is back for a much needed replay. Dr. Rosaria Butterfield was an English professor at Syracuse University, specializing in queer theory, lobbying for LGBTQ+ groups, was in a committed lesbian relationship and living the life she thought would bring her true happiness. Until the day she was confronted with the true gospel of Jesus Christ. In an effort to prove Christianity wrong, Dr. Rosaria read through the Bible seven times looking for flaws and issues with the Word. The opposite happened though. Through the love of other believers and the power of the Holy Spirit, Rosaria’s heart was changed. In today’s episode, you’ll hear Rosaria’s testimony and the truth of the gospel that set her free and changed her life forever. TRUST FREEBIESex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined The Gospel Comes with a House Key The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely ConvertSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep 092 - Does life ever seem unfair to you? Do you ever wonder why certain people seem to get an extra dose of suffering? In today's conversation with Nicole, we're going to hear one of those stories of overwhelming suffering. Nicole opens up and shares about the raw and vulnerable moments in her life. The moments she wasn't sure she'd actually make it through. The moments she thought it just might be the end of what she could handle. Let's listen as Nicole shares her story of hope in Christ in the midst of the pain. Connect with Nicole BOOK: Take Back Your Joy TRUST FREEBIESex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined The Gospel Comes with a House Key The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely ConvertSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 091 - What is the deal with Drag Queens? It's like they've tripled in numbers over the past few years and have taken front and center on the stage. Even parents are taking their young children to hear drag queens read children's books.... and watch them twerk. This is NOT okay. Drag Queens are an insult to women and a complete mockery of God's design for womanhood. In today's episode, we're unpacking the many reasons why Christians should reject Drag Queens and take a bold stance against this movement. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 090 - This wildly popular episode is back for a much needed replay. If you’re a girl or woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day. And by God’s grace, many of them are finding freedom and victory over their struggles! I (Kristen) am going to be very open and transparent in this post because I want you to know that Christ has the power to help us overcome our sin and to find lasting victory. In today's episode, I'm going to share my story of struggle with masturbation and offer you the biblical truths that I believe can set any woman free. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 089 - It's time for a VERY exciting announcement. Many of you have followed my life journey here on Girl Defined. I started out talking about singleness and how to thrive in that season of life. I then took you on my dating and engagement journey with my now husband Dav. Motherhood followed shortly after marriage and you were right there with me. Sadly, three miscarriages came after that. Today, I get to share some amazing news with you. I am twenty weeks pregnant with my sweet baby GIRL! Jump into today's episode for all of the details. Bethany's Story of Miscarriage and Loss SINGLE WOMEN: Grab the Guide NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 088 - Modesty is one of those topics that most Christians won't touch with a 10ft pole. It's controversial. It's divisive. It's confusing. It's just hard to talk about.  We get it. That's why we haven't talked about it much over the past few years either. That all changes today though. We're jumping back in the deep and going there. We're having the hard conversation. Don't worry. We're not giving a list of "rights and wrongs" or "do's and don'ts." We're going deeper. We're talking about the heart. We're talking about the gospel. We're talking about when clothes were invented. Today's conversation is one you don't want to miss. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 087 - You read that right. A man has been nominated for the NCAA Woman of the Year award. This is a huge honor and one any biological woman would be honored to receive. But... no. There isn't room for real women any more. Men have entered the scene and they are taking over. They are literally erasing women before our eyes. In today's show, we're discussing the sad story of Lia Thomas. A Biological man who recently transitioned into a "woman" and is now competing in women's sports. Many women (including his teammates) are outraged. And for good reason. Let's unpack this from a biblical worldview. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 086 - Lust isn't a guy problem. It's a human problem. That means that Christian women struggle with sexual sin as well. Yes, Christian women struggle with addiction to porn. You may find yourself viewing porn on a regular basis and wondering if it's okay. You may find yourself viewing porn and desperately wanting freedom. Maybe you're not struggling at all, but you want a more biblical view of sex and your sexuality. In today's episode, we're taking a deep dive into the dangers and harms of porn. We're also unpacking practical ways women can find lasting freedom. This episode is hope-filled and one every woman can benefit from listening to. NEW Personal Retreat Journal Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 085 - At 19 years old, Kylie Bisutti became the number one googled person in entire world.She had just won a worldwide Victoria’s Secret Modeling competition, beating out 10,000 women to ultimately land the opportunity to walk the runway in a Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show.But, the glitz and glam wouldn’t last for long. Behind the scenes, Kylie began experiencing the emptiness, darkness, and corruption of the elite modeling industry. As a Christian woman, she felt constantly pressured to compromise. So, to the world’s shock, she made the incredibly courageous choice to walk away from everything. After leaving, she later posted a Tweet that simply said, “I quit being a VS model to be a Proverbs 31 wife.”Let's hear from Kylie as she shares her story with us today. Connect with Kylie:Instagram Connect to her blog Grab her book Connect with Girl Defined Ministries: Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 084 - The overturning of Roe v. Wade has sent shock waves throughout all of America. Shock in a good way and shock in a bad way. Many Christians are rejoicing and praising God for the lives that will be saved as a result of this decision. Many other women are grieving what they view as a loss to their basic human rights. Should we be celebrating? Should we be mourning? And what in the world does the overturning of Roe v. Wade actually mean for women? We brought an expert to help us truly understand how this monumental decision actually impacts women. Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link LIVE ACTION Students for Life Action Connect with Kristan Hawkins Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 083 - Miss Universe is the world's largest beauty pageant organization. You would think that they (above all other organizations) would be fighting for women and trying to protect them. Nope. Not the case. They actually released a post that suggests how to have more inclusive language when speaking about a woman and her period. The post literally encourages people to remove the words "woman" and "female" from their vocabulary. Is this healthy? Is this biblical? Let's jump in and unpack this from a biblical worldview. Personal Retreat Journal Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 082 - Rainbow flags have covered the nation and businesses have come out in full support of Pride Month. If you're a Christian woman, you're probably wondering how to love your neighbor without endorsing pride month. It's hard to know how to handle this "religious month long holiday" from a biblical foundation. The two of us are taking you on a deep dive of pride month. Let's unpack God's truth to gain a biblical response to this holiday. Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 081 - The whole idea of freezing your eggs is becoming more appealing to women each year.  Instead of being bound by her (God-designed) biological clock, women can delay having children until their 40s, without the worry of having to produce healthy eggs. The basic idea is that you freeze your strong eggs when you’re in your 20s, and then use them when you’re in your 40s.Women, young and old, are loving this new freezing technology because it frees them up from having to “settle down” too early. They can pursue their career, delay marriage, be independent, and still have a chance to be a mom – on their own timeframe.As Christian women, we have to view everything, including this egg freezing technology, through a Biblical worldview.Let's take a deep dive in today's episode. Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discover the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 080 - Get ready for some mind-blowing wisdom on marriage and motherhood. We're hearing from Susan Macias on today's episode. She is a wife of thirty-seven years, mother of seven, and grandmother to ten. Her passion is to help you understand God's amazing design for marriage and motherhood. You asked your most pressing questions and she gave amazing answers. This is Titus 2 in action. You don't want to miss this session between Kristen Clark and Susan Macias. Follow Susan on InstagramConnect with Susan Macias and check out her books Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 079 - We're sharing our journey of facing intense hate for our belief in Christ and unwavering stance on God's Word. It's been a CRAZY journey over the past eight years. We never could have anticipated the immense pushback we'd receive as a result for standing on biblical truth. The worlds ideas and beliefs are constantly changing. God's Word never changes. His truth is constant. If you desire to stand up for truth (no matter the consequence) this episode is for you. Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 078 - We are going there. We're having an open and honest conversation about sex as a newlywed couple. This has been a highly requested topic and we're excited to offer some practical, spiritual and insightful advice for this area of your marriage. Today is extra special. We brought Francie Winslow from Heaven in Your Home to share her best advice on sex. We also brought Clint and Charity from Restored 2 More on the show as well. They shared such helpful and practical advice on this topic. This is an episode you'll want to share with all of your married friends. It filled with  incredible biblical truth. Grab the Marriage Guide - 150 Questions to Strengthen Your Marriage SALE - Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookAdditional Links Mentioned in the Show Connect with Francie Winslow Connect with Clint and Charity Body Talk Basics Intended for Pleasure book Dear Young Married CoupleGirl Defined Resources Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Girl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 077 - Have you ever wondered anything like this: “How will I know when I meet my future husband?” Or, “How will I know if he’s the one I should marry?” Or, “What signs should I look for to figure out who the one is?!”These are popular questions. Chances are, you’ve probably asked some of them yourself. Trying to “figure out the ONE” is something we’ve asked ourselves over the years too.However, instead of looking for a magic sign or an overwhelming feeling, we’ve discovered a better way to go about this. We’ve come up with several practical and helpful questions for discerning “the one.”Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 076 - Sadly, divorce seems to be the go-to option for many couples in our modern day. That's why we are passionate about equipping couples with the wisdom and tools needed to make it the distance. What if we told you that pre-marital counseling has the ability reduce your chances of divorce by about thirty percent. It's true! Simply by working through issues and preparing before marriage can set you up for success. Today, we have therapist team Adam and Karissa King with us to share why premarital counseling is so crucial. prEquipped Premarital Course 50$ OFF Discount Code: GIRLDEFINED2022Connect with Dear Young Married Couple Follow DYMC on IG Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 075 - Don’t settle for a guy who isn’t interested in honoring God with his life.  No matter how cute or funny he is, it’s not worth it in the end. Settling is never worth it. Don’t lower the bar for a guy who’s cute and charming, but lacks godly character and a genuine love for God.⁣⁣Don’t allow yourself to fall for a guy who makes you laugh, but cares only for himself. Don’t stay with a guy who says he loves you, but constantly pressures you to compromise. ⁣As satisfying as it might feel in the moment to be in a romantic relationship, the infatuation won’t last forever. ⁣Wait for a man who will push you closer to Christ, rather than away.Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 074 - It was a terrifying day for everyone in the country of Ukraine. The people of Ukraine woke up very early to radio stations and TV channels announcing that Russia had invaded their beloved homeland. Our sister woke up to sounds of bombing not far from her house. It was (and is) a literal nightmare. We have the honor of hearing from our sister, Ellissa Petrenko, for her very first interview about that terrifying day (and the days that followed). Listen as she shares the five day journey of trying to escape the country, all while being nine months pregnant. This is also a great reminder to continue praying for all the people of Ukraine. Pray first and foremost that they would come to know Jesus  in a personal way. Follow Ellissa Petrenko on Instagram Support the Petrenko Family (sending them direct support through Venmo is great!) Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 073 - Guy drama is a HUGE issue for many women. It can quite literally tear good friendships apart. Women who were once the best of friends end up going their separate ways... over a guy! Kristen and Bethany are no strangers to the drama of who-likes-who and the comparison that plagues many friendships. In today's episode, they are going to unpack how to focus on and live for what truly matters. You don't have to let the good (or bad) going on in other peoples lives to ruin yours. You can thrive EVEN if your life isn't going the way that you wanted it to. Let's dig into God's Word and figure out how to live fully for Christ, even when it's hard. JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 072 - It’s been a long year. I (Bethany) never imagined I’d be sharing a story like this one. I knew miscarriages could be a possibility, but I never imagined I would have three back-to-back-to-back. My faith has been challenged in new ways. My relationship with my sweet husband has grown and deepened because of these losses. I know God is good. I know He has a plan. I trust Him. I don’t know what the future holds. I don’t know why I’m having these miscarriages. I don’t know the answer. But, I'm researching. I'm seeing a great Dr. I'm taking all the steps forward to try and figure this out. Learn how to TRUST God with me. Learn how to believe that He is GOOD even in the midst of the hard.  Let's unpack what it looks like to find joy in the Lord in the midst of loss. JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Biblical Counseling Link Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 071 - Imagine walking into a church and standing a few feet away from your future husband WITHOUT realizing it. This is Bethany's story. In 2010 she walked into a small church having NO idea she was about to meet her future husband. It would be years before God would bring them together. During those years of her knowing David, but having no idea he was her future husband, Bethany struggled with her singleness. She struggled to trust God. If you're in a season of waiting, this episode is for you. Join us as we uncover the purpose of each of our lives and unpack what it takes to truly thrive right where God has you. JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 070 - Let's jump back to the year 2014. This was the year that Girl Defined Ministries came into existence. Talk about a step of faith. We didn't know what in the world we were doing. We just knew that we needed to TRUST God and follow His leading. Is there something in your own life that you know you need to trust God with? Maybe it's taking a step of faith towards something. Or, maybe it's ending a bad relationship that should have ended a year ago. In today's episode, we're going to unpack what it looks like to TRULY trust God even when its hard. Even when the future seems scary. Even when you're not sure what will happen. Let's jump in. JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 069 - The moment was perfect. Kristen was in the getaway car heading to her honeymoon. Life couldn't get any better. The emotions were joy-filled. She thought to herself, "Wow! God, you're so good." Little did she know the intense grief and heartbreak that was in her near future. If you're wondering how to handle the highs and lows of your life in a biblical way, this episode is for you. Kristen opens up her story to offer hope to any woman who's wrestled with difficult feelings and hard emotions. This is Week 4 of the Not Part of the Plan Book Club! JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 068 - Hard moments in life cause many of us to ask the question, "God, are you even good?" or "How could a good God let such evil happen?" Those are legit questions. They need answers. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany open up about the difficulty their families have been walking through. They never could have anticipated the War in Ukraine would impact them so personally. But, it has. Their sister fled the country at 38 weeks pregnant. It's been scary. Hard. And heartbreaking. Listen as they share what has kept them and their families anchored during these terrible times. This is Week 3 of the Not Part of the Plan Book Club! JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 067 - I thought I was going to marry this guy. How could I move on? How could I imagine a future without him? Worst of all... how could I ever date again? Breakups can be one of the most devastating moments in a woman's life. Breakups can leave one lonely, grieving and anxious about the future. I know, because I've been there many times. My breakup left me worry-ridden. I become overtaken with the sin of worry. If you desire freedom from the sin of worry in your own life, I will show you how to get there. In today's episode, we're going to unpack what Scripture has to say about worry and how to walk in true freedom. This is Week 2 of the Not Part of the Plan Book Club! JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

A honeymoon is supposed to be the happiest moments in a couples life... right? That was not the case for me (Kristen). Yes, there were amazing parts! Don't get me wrong. But, there were several days that taught me some HUGE lessons about trusting God. If you desire to trust God in deeper ways, today's episode is for you. This is Week 1 of the Not Part of the Plan Book Club! JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

I'm sure you are well aware of the situation in Ukraine. We have been on our knees the past few days for our sister (currently 38 weeks pregnant) and the rest of her friends/family in that country. Here is a short update on how you can be praying for Ellissa and her husband Andrii. GO FUND ME (for Ellissa and Andrii) Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 065 - The unexpected loss of our baby brother was grief like we'd never experienced before. We  were teen girls at the time and had never faced a tragedy this personal. There's nothing in the world that can truly prepare you to watch your brand new baby brother pass away right before your eyes. It was devastating and heartbreaking. We had two choices: 1. We could run toward God - OR - 2. We could run away from him. This is our story of learning to trust God when life throws you something unexpected and devastating. This is your invitation to learn to trust God with your own losses and sorrows. Join us as we learn about the goodness of God together. JOIN THE BOOK CLUB Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 064 - We're bringing in the men to answer your questions. This is a special day and it calls for a special episode. Today we're hearing from Kristen, Zack, Bethany and Dav. They're bringing  us some married wisdom about all things love, romance, dating and sex. Whether you're single, dating, or married, this is an episode you will love .FREE VERSE CARDS Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 063 - Do you currently have a desire for love, romance, and marriage that's going unfulfilled? Sister, you're not alone. This is one of the hardest unfulfilled longings that single christian women face. You PRAY for God to give you a man, but it's just not happening. In today's episode, Bethany opens up about her own story of unfulfilled longings for marriage. She shares her crazy story of purchasing a wedding dress... only to have it collect dust for the next decade. Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 062 - The pressure on women to be all, do everything, accomplish much and achieve more is IMMENSE. It's honestly overwhelming. It's crucial that we slow down and ask ourselves where this message is coming from and if it's biblical. Everything in life should be filtered through the lens of Scripture. Even messages being shouted by prominent Christian's. In today's episode, we're going to share the own pressure we've felt to be THE BOSS and how that's lead us to worrisome and anxious places. If you desire freedom from the pressure to DO MORE, this episode is for you. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Book8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

This new movie has caused quite a stir amongst Christians. Some say it's a beautiful picture of biblical redemption. Others are saying it's way too steamy. The two of us have read the book, but have not seen the movie. We explain why in todays episode. Links mentioned in todays show: Paul & Morgan's take on the movie Phylicia Masonheimer's take on the movie PluggedIn Online Review Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Book8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 060 - Finding purpose, worth, identity, and true joy are core desires of every woman. Sadly though, many of us are finding ourselves in a place that is void of the very things we long for. This is because we’re looking to ourselves and the world for answers about our purpose, worth, and identity as women rather than God’s Word. We need to remind ourselves that God is our loving creator and has an amazing plan for our lives as females. Our deepest desires will only be realized when we fully surrender our lives to God and get back to His timeless design for our womanhood. 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 059 - The time is now. Our generation desperately needs Christian women who are willing to be BRAVE for God's glory. Women like Esther from the OT who say, "I am here for such a time as this. God, use me to make an impact!" Will you BE a brave woman for God like Esther?  Will you trust God at his Word and faithfully obey what he teaches? Will you follow Him even if no one else does? God is looking for women who will be brave in today’s society. Are you willing to rise up and show the culture the powerful influence a God-defined woman can have. We’re challenging you to be one of those women! 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep.  058 - After ministering to singles for over a decade, JP Pokluda knows what it takes to date with success as a Christian. He’s seen the pitfalls and struggles firsthand and is here to offer you a radically better way to date. In today’s episode, JP brings powerful insight and wisdom directly to the Girl Defined Sisterhood! He covers everything from the pitfalls of modern dating, what to look for in a guy, how to know if you have the gift of singleness, how to ask your boyfriend if he struggles with porn, physical attraction, arranged marriages, and much more. Don’t miss this incredible conversation as JP helps you date intentionally and find love that lasts.NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book MUST GET: Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright Devotional Connect with JP Pokluda Connect with JP Pokluda JP's Book: Outdated Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 057 - Adoption had never been something I (Kristen) saw myself doing. I always imagined I'd have biological children.  Little did I know that 10 years into my marriage, I'd only have three miscarriages,  dozens of doctors visits, and an unexplained diagnosis of infertility to show for it. Although I felt lost and broken, God had a perfect plan. I'll be totally honest. The thought of adoption scared me. I was extremely fearful  and often overcome with anxiety about the "what ifs." Thankfully God never left me. He never gave up on me. Through prayer, and a ton of support from family and friends, my husband and I stepped out in faith. This is my story of becoming mommy to my two sweet boys. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Over the years, we have received several emails and DM’s from christian women who have expressed their concern to us at Girl Defined Ministries, asking why we waste time writing about “secondary” issues rather than keeping the focus exclusively on the gospel. They’ve expressed disappointment that we take time to write about “minor” issues like romance, dating, modesty, and femininity. Let’s talk about this.Why do we take time to write about topics like love, romance, modesty and femininity? I mean, as Christian women, shouldn’t we focus on loving Jesus and loving others? Yes and absolutely. Loving Jesus and loving others are the greatest commandments (Matthew 22:36-40). This should be the engine that drives everything else in our lives. However, loving Jesus and loving others isn’t just a passionate feeling — it’s an action. True love for God should result in a heart change that ultimate leads to a life change. People don’t know we’re Christians by our inner desires…they know we’re Christians by the Fruit of our life (John 15, Romans 12:9-21). As followers of Jesus, we reflect the gospel and show our love for Christ through our heart-transformed actions. That's why each of these topics matter. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story MUST GET: Girl Defined Book Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookShine Bright Devotional LINKS True Love: What it is and What it isn't The Naked Truth about Why We Wear Clothes Choosing Feminine Faith in a Feminist World 5 Biblical Truths that Define Your Identity Recovering Womanhood from Toxic Femininity Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Gender pronouns are all the rage right now. Instagram has even updated their bio feature to include your pronouns as a feature of who you are. Youtube will kick you out if you do not refer to someone by their preferred pronouns. Commercials have resorted to actors verbally communicating their pronouns so that everyone knows who they are. Guess what? We're not a fan of this movement. We think the issue of pronouns is a big one. We need something more helpful than pronouns. Let's unpack what God's Word has to say and see if we can find lasting answers to the question "Who am I?"NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 54 - I’m sure you’ve had, or have, your own comparison trap. Maybe it’s with a sister or a cousin or a friend. Maybe you’re tempted to compare yourself with that flawless social media influencer. Or maybe it’s with that successful coworker who constantly seems to be two steps ahead of you. (Can’t she just quit already?) None of us can escape the fact that there will always be people around us living the life we desire. Which means there will always be opportunities for comparison.Thankfully, success (according to the Bible) isn’t about competing with those around us. It’s not about comparing and feeling proud that we’re better than the sister next to us. Not at all. The Christian life is about running the individual race God has set before us.Today's episode will equip you with truth to combat comparison and live a life of true joy. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 053 - The word identity has become one of the biggest buzz words of our day. Our modern culture is passionate about spreading the message that our truest identity can be found within ourselves. We’re told that who we are has nothing to do with God, but everything to do with us. As we live in the midst of this popular narrative, we need to remind ourselves that our truest identity doesn’t come from within, but from within God’s design for us. If we want to experience true freedom and confidence in who we are, we must look to our Creator to define us. He is a good and loving Father and has a beautiful design for our femininity. At the end of the day, our greatest joy and purpose doesn’t come from within, but from knowing who we are in Christ, and then living faithfully in that identity for God’s glory.NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Compelled Podcast Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional  Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 052 - The two of us strongly believe it is possible for single women to have male friends. With the right heart attitude, wise boundaries in place, and a true desire to honor Christ, guy/girl friendships can be encouraging and beneficial. The two of us would love to see more single guys and gals interact ing in Christ-honoring and mutually beneficial ways. When done with the right focus, for the right reasons, and in an appropriate way, being just friends with a guy can be a beautiful thing. If you're married, stick with us! Kristen and Bethany share how they've navigated the transition from "single life" to "married life" and what their friendships with guys currently look like. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BookGirl Defined Book Shine Bright Devotional FREE GUIDE: 136 Questions to Ask in a Romantic Relationship  Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 051 - We all have desires that go unfulfilled. We all have prayers that feel unanswered. We all have circumstances that we wish we could change. None of us can escape this reality of life. Kristen Clark and Morgan Olliges are no strangers to this conversation. They both open up the most raw areas of their lives with us today. Both of these women have wrestled with a deep longing for biological children. Neither have had that desire fulfilled yet. How do they deal with that disappointment? How do they avoid bitterness toward God? How do they remain hopeful in the midst of that emptiness? In today's episode, your heart will find strength and encouragement from these two stories. You will leave with a renewed hope in God and trust in His good character. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Follow Morgan on Instagram Paul and Morgan Youtube Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Sexual struggles are often portrayed as a "guy only" issue. This is a major disservice to women.  God created both men and women as sexual beings. One is not more sexual than the other. Both struggle with sexual temptation and addiction. Both need the help and hope of the gospel. In today's conversation, Joy Skarka shares her story of date rape in college and how the pain from that experience led her into sexual struggles of her own. Her story is one of healing, freedom and victory. If you desire hope for your own sexuality, this episode is for you. Not Part of the Plan Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girls Heart Book Connect with Joy Freedom From Porn for Women e-book Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

We hope you enjoy the first chapter of our brand new book, Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story. Not Part of the Plan Book Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 049 - The question we should be asking isn’t “Will I experience disappointment?” but rather “How can I still find joy in the midst of my disappointment when it strikes?” Over the past few years, God has been teaching Kristen and Bethany a lot about finding joy in the midst of their own disappointments. As they’ve walked through hardships, like infertility, miscarriage, singleness, an unworn wedding dress, the death of their baby brother, the deaths of grandparents, the sudden passing of a good friend, a sports injury that put them on the basketball bench in high school for months at a time, the unexpected loss of a pet, chronic illness and a broken friendship, God has shown them that it’s possible to have joy despite their circumstances.They've come to understand that true joy and real suffering can coexist. If you desire true joy in the midst of your own disappointments, this episode will offer you that hope. NOT PART OF THE PLAN BOOK Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

We have some gifts for you!! We’ve been working hard behind the scenes with our amazing publisher to bring you some fabulous gifts as our way of saying thank you for pre-ordering our new book, Not Part of the Plan. You may not realize this, but pre-orders of any book tremendously help it get into more stores (in-person and online). Retailers will decide whether or not to carry a certain book based on how well it does during pre-orders. So, if you’re considering grabbing a copy of our new book, you’d be doing us a huge favor by ordering it before October 12, 2021! We want this book to get into the hands of as many women as possible, and you can help us make that happen. Our pre-order gifts include:• Trust Verse Card Set • Audiobook Version • E-book of Girl Defined• Ticket to our Launch Day PartyTo get these bonuses, simply pre-order our book from ANY online retailer…then go to our website here (www.GirlDefined.com/Trust) and enter your info under the “Claim Bonuses” button. Then, we’ll send you these digital goodies on October 12th. Thanks so much for helping us spread the word!!! THE BOOK Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Same sex attraction is a topic we've been wanting to cover for a long time. Many of you have DM'd us asking us to bring biblical truth and gospel centered hope to this conversation. We know this can be a very sensitive topic... that's why we've waited this long to bring the right person onto the show. Ellen Dykas has spent years loving and ministering to women who are wrestling with this struggle. If you desire hope and freedom with your own same sex attraction, this episode is for you. Ellen Dykas spends the last portion of this episode answering your direct questions. We pray this episode points you to Christ and shows you the hope that is found in Him. NEW BOOKNot Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story RESOURCES: Harvest Website Untangle Twisted Relationships When a Friendship Becomes Co-Dependent Toxic Relationships Can You Change if You're Gay?Sex and the Single Girl Sexual Sanity for Women: Healing from Sexual and Relational BrokennessSexual Faithfulness: Gospel-infused, Practical Discipleship for Women Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 047 - Imagine purchasing the wedding dress of your dreams only to have it collect dust in the back of your closet for a decade. That's the story Bethany is sharing on today's episode. She saw her dream wedding dress when she was in her early twenties. She thought marriage would become her reality in the next two to three years and so she decided to snag the dress. Little did she know that her journey of singleness would last much longer than she ever hoped or dreamed it would.In today's episode, you will be challenged to consider what that "wedding dress" is for you. What dream has gone unfulfilled? What hope has been dashed? If you desire to find satisfaction in the midst of your unfulfilled longing, episode 047 is for you. Not Part of the Plan BookEp. 009 Long Distance Christian Dating with Ellissa BairdSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 046 - It’s been five whole months since Zack and Kristen brought their two precious boys home from Ukraine. Life has been full, exciting, wonderful, and challenging for them - all at the same time. Many of you have been asking questions like, “How are they doing? What are their biggest joys and challenges? How are the boys adjusting?” In this episode, Kristen opens up and shares her heart on how the adoption transition is going and what the past five months have looked like. Not Part of the Plan BookSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 045 - Nobody goes into a relationship hoping for heartbreak. The dream is that the relationship will draw you closer to each other and eventually end with a happily ever after fairy tale ending. Sadly, the fairy tale ending doesn't seem to always work out. Many of us are faced with the reality that the relationship isn't at all what we'd hoped it would be. For one reason or another the relationship ends. Hearts are broken. Friendships are severed. Sadness follows. If you're going through a breakup, or know someone who is, this episode is for you. In today's podcast, Kristen and Bethany open up about their own past breaups and share what helped them to survive those terrible moments. If you need hope and encouragement, you will find it here. Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 044 - God intentionally created each one of us to be sexual beings. From the beginning of time He made us with sexual desires. Sexual longings. Sexual yearnings. He designed us this way on purpose and for a purpose. He’s not a killjoy in the sky wanting to squash our sexual feelings. He’s a loving Creator who wants to help us steer our affections and desires in the right direction—all for His glory. Out of love, He’s given us beautiful parameters for how to embrace our sexuality in the right ways. He created our sexual design to teach us spiritual truths about Himself. He created us with an ache for intimacy to draw us into an authentic relationship with Himself. He created us to be relational because He is relational. He created us to be ultimately and completely satisfied in Him. Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 043 - Have you ever found yourself lying in bed at night, wide awake, with your thoughts racing with worry and anxiety? Or maybe you’ve found yourself sick to your stomach as fear consumed your heart? Kristen has been there herself, and knows how crippling and discouraging these moments can be. In this candid and honest conversation, she’ll share with you 3 Biblical truths that have personally transformed her life from being ruled by fear, anxiety, and worry, to instead finding complete freedom in Christ. PRE-ORDER: Not Part of the Plan FREE guide: TRUST Printable Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 42 - Life rarely turns out exactly the way that any of us thought it would. From unexpected loss, to unfulfilled desires, to massive disappointments, life can be really hard. Trusting God through those twists and turns isn't always easy. Many of us struggle to believe that God is good. Many of us question if His ways are really for our best. Many of us want to grab the reigns and trust in ourselves to lead the way instead of trusting God. Ever been there? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share personally how they've each struggled to trust God with their lives. If you want to know how to thrive exactly where you are right now, this episode is for you. New book, Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story FREE guide: TRUST Printable Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 041 - It's love story time! Today on the show you're going to hear from Dav and Bethany Beal. They're sharing how they met, fell in love, and eventually got married. Dav and Bethany had many obstacles in their way, mainly being 5 1/2 years apart (with Bethany being older). They met way back in 2011 while Dav was a teenager and Bethany was already in her twenties. Their friendship didn't begin to form until several years from this first meeting. Through years of friendship their attraction toward one another eventually grew. Slowly but surely God was weaving their lives together. You don't want to miss the end of this episode either. Dav has a surprise recitation of Shakespeare. It's a good one. NEW BOOK -  Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story FREE GUIDE: 136 Questions to Ask in a Romantic Relationship Love Defined Book Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Book VIDEO: Dav and Bethany share their engagement story VIDEO: Dav and Bethany's Wedding Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 040 - Dr. Rosaria Butterfield was an English professor at Syracuse University, specializing in queer theory, lobbying for LGBTQ+ groups, was in a committed lesbian relationship and living the life she thought would bring her true happiness. Until the day she was confronted with the true gospel of Jesus Christ. In an effort to prove Christianity wrong, Dr. Rosaria read through the Bible seven times looking for flaws and issues with the Word. The opposite happened though. Through the love of other believers and the power of the Holy Spirit, Rosaria’s heart was changed. In today’s episode, you’ll hear Rosaria’s testimony and the truth of the gospel that set her free and changed her life forever. TRUST FREEBIEShine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart The Gospel Comes with a House Key The Secret Thoughts of an Unlikely ConvertSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 039 - We have four godly men taking over The Girl Defined Show. They answer your most pressing questions about love, purity, dating and marriage. They even answer the much asked question, "Would a Christian guy date a girl who isn't a virgin?" You don't want to miss that answer. It was gold. Listen to Zack, Dav, Daniel and Gonz bring truth and encouragement to this conversation. Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Life is full of disappointment, unfulfilled longings, and heartbreaking moments. It's so hard to have hope when life feels so hopeless. It's hard to trust that God is good when you've been praying for something for YEARS and He never gives it to you. It's hard to continue on when you see everyone else laving out their dream and you're still struggling. In today's conversation, Kristen shares her own struggles with ongoing disappointment and unfulfilled longings. She opens up about her internal battle to trust that God is good. If you're wrestling right now, episode 038 is for you. Kristen will leave you hope-filled and encouraged to know that God is good...even when it doesn't feel like it. TRUST FREEBIEThe Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

The messages of self-love, follow your heart, and be true to yourself are permeating our culture today. But this formula of looking inward to find value within our own goodness isn’t working. Many of us are finding ourselves on a never-ending cycle of striving to be good enough but never measuring up. This is not what God intended for us. He never asks us to be enough or to love ourselves more. God sent Jesus to be enough for us. That’s what the Gospel is all about. That’s where true hope and lasting worth is found. If you desire to find lasting worth and identity in something, Someone, more sustaining than yourself, this episode is for you.BOOKS: The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart You're Not Enough (And That's Okay) Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Once a year the Girl Defined Sisterhood gathers in person for a time of encouragement, fellowship, worship and fun hangs together. The dates are set. The venue is ready. Join us in San Antonio, TX on July 30-31 for the 2021 Girl Defined Conference. We will be covering main stage sessions like: SESSION ONE: Living as a Daughter of the Light.SESSION TWO: Your Truest Identity Doesn’t Come from Within.SESSION THREE: Living for Christ in the Face of Cancel Culture.SESSION FOUR: Becoming a Girl Who Really Knows the Word.SESSION FIVE: Let’s Bravely Shine Bright Together. And a ton more...Tickets are on sale!!  Head on over to GirlDefined.com/conference to secure your spot today. TICKETS: In-Person TicketSimulcast Ticket Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 036 - With almost a decade of  marriage and unexplained infertility, Kristen and Zack struggled to trust God. Why would He withhold something so good from this godly couple? Why would He leave them searching with no answers? Doesn't God want godly couples to raise up godly children? If so, why isn't He blessing them with the desires of their heart? Little did they know that God had a perfect plan. In His perfect timing, God worked in Kristen and Zack's hearts and directed them towards international adoption. Their children were out there all along...they just didn't know it. After much paperwork and tons of planning, Kristen and Zack found themselves on an airplane to the country of Ukraine. They were on a trip to meet their sweet boys for the very first time. In today's episode, Kristen and Zack take you on their miraculous journey of adoption. If you have ever doubted God's faithfulness, this story is for you. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Book Recommended in Episode: Adopted for Life by: Russell Moore Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 035 - Does your happiness currently feel dependent on someone else's presence in your life? Do you feel like your world would fall apart if a certain person was no longer your friend? Are your thoughts consumed by this person day-in-and-day-out? If so, your relationship has become skewed.  We want you to find freedom before it becomes a relational prison.In today's conversation, Ellen Dykas asks you a few pointed questions that are sure to reveal if your relationship has turned toxic.  She gives you practical steps to find true freedom in Christ. Living in a relational prison doesn't have to be your story. There is hope. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Toxic Relationships: Taking Refuge in Christ Ellen Dykas Instagram Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 034 - Sex and sexuality are two of the hottest topics in society right now. With so many voices expressing opinions, it can be confusing to know what's truth and what's not. What did God actually say about our sexuality in comparison to what we're seeing happen in our society? If we, as Christian women, are not vigilant to discern lies from truths, we will will end up listening to whichever voice is shouting the loudest.  When we choose to embrace anything but God's good and original design for our sexuality, we buy into an inaccurate reflection of who God created us to be. That's why we're going to unpack 4 of the most popular lies permeating our society today. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 033 - In many ways, it feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't silent on these topics and neither should we be. In today's conversation, Professor Nancy Pearcey, brings her wisdom and expertise to the conversation. She unpacks what homosexuality, transgenderism, hookup culture and abortion all have in common. She shows us why our Designers intentional plan for our body matters. She tackles this tough topic with grace and love. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Books listed in the podcast: Love Thy Body Total Truth Saving Leonardo Author Website:www.nancypearcey.comSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 032 - When was the first time you really noticed a guy? What about your first crush? Most of us never take the time to figure out how we ended up where we are today. If you find yourself boy-crazy, how did you get there? When did it happen? In today's episode, Paula takes us on her own boy-crazy journey. She shares how her obsession with getting  guys to notice her, completely robbed her of true joy and satisfaction in Christ. Getting another boyfriend didn't make her happy, but more insecure and needy than before. Can you relate? If so, this episode is for you! Freedom from boy-craziness can be yours. You don't have to stay in this trap forever. You can have true satisfaction in Christ (no boyfriend needed). The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Paula Marsteller's Book: Confessions of a Boy-Crazy Girl Paula Writes Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Living out God's radically good design for womanhood doesn't just happen. You won't drift into biblical womanhood. You won't accidentally land into following God and His Word. It takes pursuit. Effort. Focus. And a willingness to humble yourself before God and submit to His design for your life. If you desire to learn more about your Creator's beautiful design for your life,  you must get serious about it. You must take action. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their journey of learning about biblical womanhood. They share the top 5 books that radically shaped their view on womanhood for the better. If you're up for the challenge, these five books can change your life as well. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Books listed in the podcast:  Lies Women Believe (Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth) What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us (Danielle Crittenden)The Feminist Mistake (Mary Kassian) Radical Womanhood (Carilyn McCulley) True Woman 101 (Nancy DeMoss & Mary Kassian)Podcasts: Revive our Hearts Set Apart Girl Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 030 - Getting married is one of the biggest moments in a woman's life. The engagement, wedding prep, premarital counseling, and honeymoon anticipation, is exciting and totally overwhelming. That's why it's crucial to enter those first few weeks of marriage with a solid biblical understanding of sex and intimacy. Instead of going into marriage based on what you've seen in the movies or learned from your peers, equip yourself with wisdom from a godly older couple who can guide you and your soon-to-be-husband from God's Word. In today's episode, we're chatting with Adam and Karissa King of Dear Young Married Couple.  They are a married therapist team who counsels young married couples on all things love, marriage, sex, communication, expectations and anything else you can think of. This conversation is packed full. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)SUMMER BOOK CLUB Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Dear Young Married Couple Card DecksDYMC Instagram Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 29 - What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy?This conversation with Gary Thomas on The Girl Defined Show will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even before you walk down the aisle. As Gary reminds us, a good marriage is not something you find—it’s something you make. The Girl Defined Conference (TICKETS)The Sacred Search 9 Must Have Conversations for a Doubt-Free Wedding SUMMER BOOK CLUB Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined  Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 28 - Growing up in a loving Christian home can often make someone feel invincible. Almost like the struggles of the world world will never be their own personal struggles. Gretchen Saffles knows what that's like. She remembers hearing about eating disorders and thinking to herself "that's something I will never struggle with." How did she go from thinking those thoughts, to finding herself in that very place only a few short years later? In this open and honest conversation, Gretchen Saffles from The Well Watered Woman shares her journey of legalism, eating disorders, shame and ultimately finding hope and freedom in the only place possible. Her love for God and His Word transformed her life. She encourages every woman to find hope in God as well. SUMMER BOOK CLUB Shine Bright Devotional 2021 Girl Defined Conference Girl Defined Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart The Well Watered Woman BOOKSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 027 - Social media is a tool that can be used for good or for bad. We've seen some amazing good come out of it (that's how we stay connected to most of you), but we've also seen it misused as well. Should we ditch it? Should we have it? Should we use it? In today's episode, we chat with Tara Snyder. She's the founder of Truth Talks with Tara and an avid promoter of God's Word through the avenue of social media.Her insight and wisdom in this conversation is priceless. Girl Defined Instagram 2021 Girl Defined Conference Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming Girl Defined by God Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Truth Talks with Tara Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 26 - Kim Jaggers has experienced more trauma, pain and heartbreak than most of us can even imagine. After being told that she might lose her son due to his extreme health issues, she was faced with the tragedy of suicide. While grieving the potential loss of her baby, she now had to grieve the loss of her husband. Being a single mom was never even a possibility in her mind. But that's exactly where she found herself. In today's episode, we jump into part 2 of Kim Jaggers life story. She opens up and shares the raw, honest, and heartbreaking moments of her story. She is a woman who has experienced the lowest of lows, but has still found hope in the gospel. If you need hope right now, this story is for you. Let's jump into Part 2 of Suicide and a Broken Life with Kim Jaggers.Truth to Hold Onto (BOOK) Kim Jaggers Website Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Defined by God Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity The Girl Defined Conference 2021 Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 025 - She had everything a young woman could dream of. The perfect house, dream husband, and a sweet little newborn baby. This was Kim Jaggers fairytale life. Her dreams were coming true and she was planning to live happily ever after. Little did she know that her entire world was about to turn upside down. Everything she knew and loved was about to get ripped away. In today's episode, we talk with author and speaker Kim Jaggers. She opens up and shares the raw, honest, and heartbreaking moments of her story. She is a woman who has experienced the lowest of lows, but has still found hope in the gospel. If you need hope right now, this story is for you. Let's jump into Part 1 of Suicide and a Broken Life with Kim Jaggers.Truth to Hold Onto (BOOK) Kim Jaggers Website Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Defined by God Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity The Girl Defined Conference 2021 Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 24 - Going on a first date can be super exciting and totally awkward at the same time. Let's talk about how to best prepare for a first date. Questions to ask. Things to look for. How deep to take the conversation. The goal of the date.  And more.  With the right questions and mindset in place, it's possible to figure out if you should even go on a second date with this guy. In today's episode, Bethany shares her experiences with first dates. She talks about what went right, the questions she asked, what she looked for, and how she determined whether or not to go on a second date. All that and more on The Girl Defined Show. Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming Girl Defined by God 136 Questions to Ask in a Romantic Relationship 2021 Girl Defined Conference Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying RelationshipsSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

With so much pressure to conform to cultural norms and popular trends, it’s hard to live out your faith each day.That’s why you need to stay connected to the source of truth and power. By staying grounded in your relationship with Christ, you’ll have the daily strength you need to live boldly as a Girl Defined by God.Our new devotional, Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Defined by God, is filled with encouraging verses, relevant topics, questions for reflection, and some good laughs, this sixty-day devotional helps you find your entire identity in Christ, equipping you to shine bright!Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Defined by God Girl Defined Instagram Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 23 - If you’re a girl or woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day. And by God’s grace, many of them are finding freedom and victory over their struggles! I (Kristen) am going to be very open and transparent in this post because I want you to know that Christ has the power to help us overcome our sin and to find lasting victory. In today's episode, I'm going to share my story of struggle with masturbation and offer you the biblical truths that I believe can set any woman free. Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming Girl Defined by God Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality 2021 Girl Defined Conference Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 022 - What’s the harm in dating a non-Christian guy? What if he’s a highly moral guy, but he’s not a Christian. Is dating okay? We love each other and love is bigger than religion, right? We get asked these questions and more on a regular basis.  Christian girls want to know if it's biblically okay for a christian girl to date a non-christian guy. The argument goes, "It's not like we're getting married. It's just dating." In today's episode on The Girl Defined Show, we dig deep into God's Word and unpack five reasons why we believe it's not wise for christian and a non-christian to be a dating relationship. 2021 Girl Defined Conference Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming Girl Defined by God Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 021 - Having the opportunity to sit under the wisdom of a godly woman is a huge blessing. Don’t try to figure life out on your own. Don’t look to social media, magazines, movies, or music to be your guide. Don’t only surround yourself with peers. Instead, take some time to begin praying and asking God to provide a godly older woman to mentor you. It’s been a huge help in our lives and we're convinced it will be the same for you. In today's episode, we're talking about the process of finding a mentor and how you can get one in your life. 2021 Girl Defined Conference Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming Girl Defined by God Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 020 - Do your emotions sometimes feel like a roller coaster of ups and downs? Do you ever feel so tightly wound up that you just want to scream? Do tears often seep into your pillow at night? If so, you’re not alone. For most of us as girls, emotions can feel like our greatest friend one minute and our deepest enemy the next. Thankfully, God isn’t surprised by this. He created us with emotions and wants to help us learn how to lead our feelings with the truth. In today’s episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack 5 biblical truths that will equip you to be a girl whose feelings are anchored in self-control, a sound mind, and rock-solid truth. 2021 Girl Defined Conference TRUST Free Product  Girl Defined: Discovering God's Design for Beauty, Femininity and Identity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 019 - I never thought  I'd wait until I was 30 to experience my first kiss on my wedding day. I made the decision when I was a teenager, but I thought I'd get married in my early twenties. God had a different plan though. A few weeks ago I posted a reel to Instagram of me and my husband kissing for the first time at the altar. For whatever reason, it sparked a ton of interest. Over 3 million people viewed that video and left a ton of love on it as well. Why do people find that video so fascinating? Why is it so intriguing? In todays show, I share with you the reasoning behind why I waited until I was 30 to kiss. I share the pros and cons of my thinking and what that journey looked like. GirlDefined WebsiteBOOK: Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart BOOK: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships FREEBIE: 136 Questions to Ask in a Relationship Why I'm Still Saving my First Kiss for My Wedding Day Purity is so Much More Than a List of Rules 29 Years Old and Never Been KissedBethany's Instagram GirlDefined Instagram Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 018 - Has your sexuality ever felt more like a curse rather than a blessing? Have you ever wondered why God gave single guys and gals a sex drive? Have you ever strived to truly overcome and find freedom from masturbation, porn, or some other habit? These are concerns and questions that most every single woman thinks or asks at some point in her life. They are important thoughts and they need to be discussed. That is why we brought Dr. Juli Slattery on to The Girl Defined Show to share her insight, wisdom and direction on these crucial topics. Dr. Juli has written a book for single women on the topic of sex. She’s talked and taught extensively on the topics of sex, purity, longings, sexuality and more. In today’s episode, Bethany Beal interviews Dr. Juli Slattery in hopes to get answers to your most pressing questions about sex and sexuality. Many of you submitted questions through the Girl Defined IG account for Dr. Juli and she answers them in today's episode. GirlDefined.comCompelled Podcast Authentic Intimacy Java with Juli Podcast Sex and the Single Girl Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Girl Defined Instagram Girl Defined Facebook Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 017 - Almost every young Christian woman asks this question at some point in her life. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for marriage and answer this question from personal experience. They also share multiple resources that can be super helpful in mentally, emotionally and physical helping you prepare for your own honeymoon one day. Whether you're single, dating, engaged, or married, this is an episode every girl/woman won't want to miss.FREE BOOK - Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsBOOK - SEX, PURITY AND THE LONGINGS OF A GIRL'S HEART GIRL DEFINED WEBSITE AUTHENTIC INTIMACY JAVA WITH JULI INTENDED FOR PLEASUREDEAR YOUNG MARRIED COUPLESupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 016 - As women, we ALL want to be happy, fulfilled, content, worthy, and loved… but so many women (whether Christian or not) find themselves feeling the opposite. In fact, in researching for Kristen and Bethany's first book, Girl Defined, they came across a study published in the UK Daily Mail which stated, quote: “Women are less happy nowadays despite 40 years of feminism. Despite having more opportunities than ever before, they have a lower sense of well-being and life satisfaction.”This is heartbreaking. Instead continuing down the same path and hoping for different results, let's ask some hard questions. Let's talk about why women are less happy and less fulfilled. Let's talk about the lies many women believe about their identity.  Let's talk about what the secular world teach about being women in today’s society. Let's talk about toxic femininity.In today's episode, Kristen Clark and Portia Collins are discussing God's good design for womanhood and offering hope-filled biblical truths to guide the modern girl. Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 015 - We’re talking about the hush-hush topic of porn and answering your question about whether or not you should date a guy who’s addicted to it. According to a recent survey, we're told that at least 75% of christian guys ages 18-30 view porn at least several times a month. Those are not encouraging statistics. So what are we supposed to do? How should we approach this topic? Are guys who struggle with porn on the no-no list"? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany address the often avoided topic of porn addictions and answer your question as to whether or not should date a guy who's personally struggling with it. Girl Defined Website Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart FREEBIE: 136 Questions to Ask in a RelationshipINSTAGRAM @girldefined Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

014 - You like him, he likes you...now what? How do you you show him you’re interested? Should you wait for him to ask you out, or should you take the first step? And if you do start dating, what should you be looking for in one another? How do you know if they’re the one?! Join Kristen and her husband, Zack, for this exciting episode as they share the nitty-gritty details of their relationship journey from friendship, to dating, to engagement, to marriage. Now, with almost 10 years of marriage under their belt, they’ll give you their best advice on dating and romance! Girl Defined Website 136 Questions to Ask In a Relationship (FREE PDF)Love Defined BookFollow Girl Defined:InstagramFacebookYouTubeSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 013 - Most women have big questions about guys, dating, marriage and emotions. Love and romance can be extremely challenging to navigate. That's why Kristen and Bethany have dedicated this entire episode to answering your most pressing questions. How do you get over a guy when I really thought he was the one?How do I deal with mood swings and crazy emotions? What do you think about Christian online dating? And more. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack the pros and cons of online dating, how to find the one, and dealing with crazy emotions. They share personally and encourage you through the wisdom found in God's Word. The Girl Defined Website BOOK: Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships FREE: 136 Questions to Ask in a Romantic Relationship Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 012 - When did Christians start talking about virginity and purity like it was the most important thing? When did sex become the big “no-no?” And how did purity culture become such a hot button issue? Kristen and Bethany both grew up in the height of the purity movement. Purity rings and true love waits were a part of their young adult years. They both had purity rings and both advocated for things like... saving your first kiss until marriage. Their insight on the issue of sex, purity and purity culture come from a unqiue perspective. Having grown up in the movement they speak from personal experience, as well as bring biblical insight to the table. In today’s episode, Kristen and Bethany debunk three false narratives about purity and unpack the truth of what God actually says about sex. Girl Defined Website BOOK: Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart FREEBIE: Battling Sexual Temptation: A Biblical Toolkit for Christian GirlsSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 011 - Do you find yourself struggling to be a girl of the Word instead of the world? Kristen and Bethany have found themselves in that place many times. There are constantly things pulling us, as girls, away from our greatest purpose, identity, and mission as Christians. We need to remember that we aren't just girls. We are Christian girls. And that should radically change everything about us. We should have a radically different purpose in our: GoalsRelationships Identity Sexuality Politics Family Social Media etc.Thankfully God is the one who gives His children the strength to live for Him despite opposition. Girl Defined Website Girl Defined: God's Radical Design for Beauty, Femininity, and Identity FREEBIE: 15 Verses to Give You Hope During Hard TimesSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

Ep. 010  - The struggle to get into God's Word on a daily basis is real. It seems like there are a million distractions and things pulling us away from being quiet before God. If we're totally honest, sometimes reading the Bible can feel like a boring chore or simply a box to check off.  Have you ever felt that way? Instead of continuing on with the same plan (or no plan) and hoping for different results, let's take a step back and rethink the entire purpose of the Bible. Let's ask ourselves, "why should I read my Bible?"In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack five strategies to help you create a plan to get into God's Word on a regular basis. They share their personal favorite Bible Study plans and resources to make Bible reading an exciting part of your daily life. https://www.girldefined.comwww.GirlDefined.com/Devotional https://bibleproject.comSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

009 - Long-distance dating is hard. It takes a ton of commitment and perseverance to truly get to know someone. Ellissa Baird knows this all too well. She's spent the past year getting to know a man who lives thousands of miles away from her home. The road wasn't easy, but it was totally worth it. Ellissa and Andrii are just days from getting married and spending their lives together. In today's episode, Ellissa shares her long-distance dating story. She opens up about the ins-and-outs of the dating phase and shares what it takes to truly get to know someone.https://www.girldefined.comhttps://www.girldefined.com/lovedefinedSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

008 - We are NOT feminists. Yes, we are women. Yes, we value women. Yes, we love the sisterhood and genuinely want to see every woman thrive in her life. We absolutely stand against anything that demeans women. Yes, we believe that God cares for women greatly and loves women deeply. But, we are NOT feminists and we never will be. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany dig into the ins and outs of what it means to be pro-woman without claiming the feminist title. They open up Scripture and use God's Word as their foundation. This is an episode you do not want to miss. www.girldefined.comwww.girldefined.com/mentorship www.girldefined.com/girldefinedbookSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

007 - A recent cover of Vogue featured Harry Styles wearing a dress. Yes, a dress. Is this a big deal or is it not? We see people responding on both ends of the spectrum. Some are applauding Harry as being bold, edgy, and forward-thinking. Others are appalled that a man is being praised for wearing women's clothing. The goal of today's episode isn't to discuss personal opinions. It's to figure out how we, as Christians, should we respond to this. Join Kristen and Bethany as they dig into God's Word and unpack what He says about our designs as male and female. www.girldefined.comwww.girldefined.com/mentorship www.girldefined.com/girldefinedbookSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

006 - The words "biblical womanhood" often bring up a variety of thoughts and opinions with them. Thoughts like, "biblical womanhood turns you into a wimpy doormat" or "biblical womanhood assumes you are less valuable than a man." Although those thoughts might be popular to believe, they are definitely not from God's Word. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack four popular myths about biblical womanhood and show you why God's design isn't nearly as dull or wimpy as many think. www.girldefined.com/shopwww.girldefined.com/devotionalwww.girldefined.com/mentorshipSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

005 - Kristen got married in her early twenties and felt like her life was a perfect fairytale. Little did she know that the next decade would hold great sorrow, grief, unmet longings, and a big question mark for her future. Three miscarriages and a diagnosis of unexplained infertility later, she’s left with more questions than answers. In today’s episode, we’re taking a deep dive into Kristen’s journey of heartache, loss, and how she’s fought to trust God with her future. If you’ve ever struggled to trust God with your life’s journey, this is an episode you won’t want to miss. www.girldefined.com/trustwww.girldefined.com/mentorshipwww.girldefined.com/shopSupport the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

004 - Most Christian girls feel like they are fighting the battle for purity on their own. The church is silent on the topic and other Christian women are silent as well. It’s time to break the silence and let girls know that lust isn’t just a guy problem. Lust is a girl problem too. In today’s episode, Kristen and Bethany get open and honest about the nitty-gritty sexual struggles most Christian girls are facing. The Bible doesn’t tip-toe around these topics and neither should we. It’s time to open up God’s Word and get the biblical truth needed to battle lust as a Christian girl. Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart: https://www.girldefined.com/the-booksFree 30 Day Devotional: https://www.girldefined.com/devotionalFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

003 - Do you struggle with being single? Do you doubt God's goodness and struggle to trust Him with your love life? Do you believe the lie that your life is on "hold" and will begin once you get married?  If so, you're not alone. These are the very questions and struggles that Bethany faced during her unexpected journey of being single. In this personal conversation, Kristen and Bethany share three lies they believed about their singleness and three truths that helped them to thrive instead. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts. 5 Strategies to Help You Thrive as a Single Girl: www.girldefined.com/singleLove Defined Book: https://www.girldefined.com/the-booksFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

002 - Have you ever thought to yourself, “if only I were prettier then I’d be happy?” Or, “if only guys would notice me, then I wouldn't be insecure?” Or, “if only I had more followers on social media, then I’d have influence?” In a culture that idolizes physical beauty, romantic relationships and success, it’s tempting for us, as Christian girls, to find our identity in these things. But if this is the answer, why are so many girls unhappy and discontent with their lives? In this honest and raw conversation, Kristen and Bethany expose three of the most popular places Christian girls misplace their identity and show you how to find your identity in Christ instead. Free 30 Day Devotional: https://www.girldefined.com/devotionalGirl Defined Book: https://www.girldefined.com/the-booksFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

001 - The pressure to measure up to an impossible standard of womanhood is something Kristen and Bethany have faced over and over again. Most girls have an internal checklist that they’re trying to find their identity and worth through. Whether it’s being perfectly skinny, getting married by a certain age, or having cellulite-free legs, most girls have an image of womanhood that they’re chasing after. In this down to earth conversation, Kristen and Bethany share the truth that transformed their lives and set them free from the constant battle to measure up. Free 30 Day Devotional: https://www.girldefined.com/devotionalGirl Defined Book: https://www.girldefined.com/the-booksFollow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/girldefined/Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest

What is God’s design for women? In a world that is constantly redefining our worth and identity, we need to know that the only one who can define us is the One who designed us. The Girl Defined Show is for Christian girls everywhere, offering a distinctly God-centered view of beauty, femininity, identity, and worth. Join Kristen and Bethany every Monday for a hope-filled, counter-cultural, and totally down-to-earth conversation about God’s radically better vision for femininity. https://www.girldefined.com/Support the showFOLLOW US:GirlDefined.comInstagram YouTube Facebook Pinterest