Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?If so - this episode is for YOU!I'm covering:Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking spaceHow to regulate your nervous system and create inner safetyHow to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fearMentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditation

Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?Then this episode is for YOU!I'm discussing:The reason why we challenge our thinkingWhen fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decisionHow the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thoughtInterested in 1:1 coaching?Email: [email protected]

Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?If so - this episode is for YOU!Don't forget to leave a review or a rating if you found this episode useful!

Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!Then this episode is for you.We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. 

Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.Ready? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in this episode:MYFR - 8 week coaching programme - INFOMYFR - SIGN UP NOW

When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...- What if they break up with me?- What if they're mad at me?- What if they're lying to me?- What if they leave me?... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.In today's episode, I'm talking about:Why rejection seems so terrifyingWhat we're actually afraid ofHow dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our sufferingAND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secureReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Sign up to the FREE master class: How to become rejection proofInformation on the 8-week group coaching programme: Master Your Fear of Rejection

Do you tend to take things personally?Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.Mentioned in the episode:How to become rejection proof - FREE master classMaster Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme

Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?In today's episode, I'm talking about:Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughtsAnd the two key components to creating unshakable confidence Mentioned in this episode:Self Esteem Building Kit

When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism? Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'? When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'. And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap. Mentioned in this episode:The Self Esteem Building Kit

There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.But how do we actually go about asking for what we want? In this episode, I'm discussing:What do we really mean by 'need'?Why we often don't just ask for what we wantWhy need entitlement causes issues in relationshipsHow to see needs as a collaboration How to meet your own needs when your partner can'tReady?Mentioned in this episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict?Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection...Then this episode is for YOU!I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficult conversations and some practical tips for showing up as your best self. AND how to make the conversation a SUCCESS - regardless of their response.Mentioned in the episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them...Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them...If so - this episode is for YOU!We're going to talk about:Why answering the question isn't cut and dry Why we're so obsessed with it in the first placeA better question to focus on in your relationships insteadMentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building Kit

Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?Your partner, your friends, your family members...Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do?Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships.Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips for how to stop.Mentioned in the episode:Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.We talk about:The manuals and expectations we have of our friendsFriendship breakupsWhen friendships change due to life circumstancesMaking new friends as an adultWhy it's really all about our thoughts about ourselvesMentioned in this episode:1:1 coaching - Email: [email protected]

Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!We're going to cover:Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with usCompromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will lookManaging your anxious brain and processing your emotionsThe fears that often come up in long distance relationshipsFeeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfectAND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contactReady? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Processing emotions meditationQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheet

In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships.Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing?Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids?Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don't really serve you, but you're not sure why?Are you super hard on yourself? And feel like you're never meeting the standard you (or others) have set for you?If any of these things relate, this episode is for you.I will also be sharing 6 common beliefs I see screwing with my clients' brains and offering ways to challenge them.Mentioned in this episode:Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet1:1 coaching - email [email protected]

Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better?Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue?Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work?Thought work is the practice of working with our thoughts to change our emotional experiences. As you may have heard before - our thoughts create our reality!But often we can be so unaware of the thoughts creating our pain that we prevent ourselves from being able to address the real issue. This episode is going to talk about moving past your surface-level thoughts to find the thoughts really creating your suffering.Ready? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in the episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheetEmail about 1:1 coaching - [email protected]

Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships?And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important?You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap...Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in. In this episode, find out:What the 'They don't care' trap isWhy we end up thereThe problems it creates in our relationshipsAnd most importantly... how to get out of it!Mentioned in this episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires?Do you tend to make decisions on what's more likely to be approved of, consciously or subconsciously trying to avoid the risk of people being mad at you?If so - you're probably already familiar with the term 'People pleaser'.And in today's episode, I'm talking about the different types of people pleasing, why we do it, AND why being willing to risk rejection will change your relationships for the better.Ready? LISTEN NOW.Mentioned in this episode:Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned?Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster...Put a load of laundry on sooner...Throw round a duster for once in their life?!Living with another human being with a totally different brain than you is no joke.But in this episode, we're going to:Uncover how socialization plays a huge part in the way each of us approaches responsibilitiesClean up your thoughts about what their habits mean about you and your relationshipTalk about how you can be direct and confident in asking for what you want And how you can step out of frustration and resentment, and create the peace of mind you truly desireMentioned in the episode:Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including:What self-acceptance really isWhy we struggle to love and accept ourselvesThe excuses we make to not accept ourselvesHow to make shifts towards unconditional self-acceptanceMentioned in this episode:Self Esteem Building KitQuestioning your thoughts cheat sheet

Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how?Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it tend to end in a huge argument?Then this episode is for YOU.Mentioned in this episode:Processing Emotions MeditationQuestioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you feel overly impacted by other people's bad moods?Like if your partner is grumpy after work - YOU automatically feel annoyed or irritated?Or if your friend is being a little short with you - YOU automatically feel anxious?If so - this episode is for you!I'm going to teach you why other people's moods are never what's actually determining the way you feel, what actually is, AND how to take back control over your own emotional experience.Mentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions MeditationQuestioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet

Do you find yourself feel resentful in your relationships?Feeling like you need other people to change so that YOU can feel better?If so - you need to listen to this episode!Mentioned in the episode:MYRMD - Group coaching detailsMYRMD - SIGN UP NOWEmail - [email protected]

Do you find yourself worrying about what your partner might do on a night out? Or getting paranoid and anxious about their new co-worker?Or ruminating about what if they cheat with that old family friend of theirs? Constantly being triggered and worrying about situations that could lead to them cheating on you or leaving you? In today's episode - find out WHY are brains are doing this and how you can finally stop making it YOUR job to stop them cheating on you.Mentioned in this episode:MYRMD - 12 week coaching programme - InformationMYRMD - SIGN UP NOW

In today's episode - listen to me chat with dating expert, Talia Koren - host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, about all things dating & mind drama!We cover a range of juicy topics, including:How to enjoy datingBeing in a rush to meet someoneRejectionApps vs meeting people in real lifeOutdated dating rulesAnd so much more!Mentioned in the episode:Sign up for the FREE Facing Your Fear of Rejection master classInformation on the group coaching programmeMeet Talia Koren:InstagramDating Intentionally podcast

Are you terrified of your partner cheating on you or leaving you... because you're convinced you could NEVER be happy with someone else?Does your brain tell you the dating pool is too small? Or you'd be too old to find someone else?Or that no one would EVER be as good as your partner?These scarcity beliefs fuel so much anxiety in our relationships.And in this episode I'm going to discuss them in detail AND offer you 3 new beliefs that will help you break out of scarcity thinking.Mentioned in the episode:Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - group coaching programmeMy email address: [email protected]

We're often told we need to validate ourselves - and not rely on our partners or friends to validate us.But.... how do we actually do that?In this episode I'm talking your through 4 simple steps for validating yourself in any situation - so that you can stop relying on other people to say the right things in order for you to feel good.Ready? Mentioned in this episode:My email address: [email protected] - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist

Ever find yourself wondering if what you're asking of your partner is 'reasonable' or 'unreasonable'? And asking 10 friends their opinion about who's right and who's wrong in an argument you're having?Do you and your partner have different opinions about a certain situation and you're stuck debating which one of you is in the right? Or who's to blame?Then this episode is for YOU!I'm going to teach you something that changes the way you think about 'reasonable' vs 'unreasonable' and help you decide on purpose how you want to think and feel about any situation in your relationship.Mentioned in the episode:My email: [email protected] - group programme - Waitlist and info

Are you continuously feeling pretty terrible in your relationships, knowing you need to change the way you think, but have no idea where to start?Are you showing up in ways you don't like and want to get address the root cause?Or have you been following this podcast for a while and feel like you need a little more help on actually changing the thoughts creating your pain?Then this episode is for you!Mentioned in the episode:Drop me an email: [email protected] - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist

Are you going through a breakup right now? In this episode, I chat with amazing break-up coach, Lucy Price, on all things HEARTBREAK.We talk about:The common thought errors that come up during breakupsCalling out your brain's painful storiesGetting closureProcessing and allowing your painSupporting yourself (even when your circle of friends aren't being supportive)And how to take back control and write the next chapter of your storyFind out more about Lucy:Website: www.shiftyourstory.netIG: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.m.price/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucy.m.pricePodcast: Shift Your Story 

Do you find yourself getting anxious about...Who your partner follows on social media?How often they like your pictures?Whether they like certain other people's pictures?How often they post about you to their social channels?Or some other kind of variation...If so - this episode is for YOU!I'm calling out one of the main thinking errors that creates this kind of anxiety and teaching you how to coach your brain around it.Mentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building KitMYRMD - Group coaching waitlist

Ever feel like everything is going fine - then something happens and suddenly it's like a mist has fallen over you?You feel overwhelmed with negative emotion - maybe anxiety, or frustration - and then you start acting in ways you don't particularly like? Creating unnecessary drama and arguments in your relationships?We've all been there!In this episode I'm talking you through 5 steps of what to do the next time you feel triggered.Mentioned in the episode:MYRMD - Group coaching waitlist & info

Do you ever feel powerless and resentful in your relationships?Believing you have to feel miserable and frustrated until they change?Or do you have arguments that seem to go on forever, spiralling out of control, and creating more and more disconnection? Learning that the way we feel and show up in our relationships is ALWAYS a choice - is one of the most empowering things we can do.And in this episode, I discuss 8 key choices we make regularly in our relationships - and which ones will serve you, and which won't.Mentioned in this episode:MYRMD waitlist 

Do you often find yourself spiraling in fearful thoughts about whether your partner is... THE ONE?!Do you question whether they're the 'right' person for you?And find yourself nit-picking and finding fault in every moment that you're together, from a place of anxiety and fear?If so - this episode is for you!Tune in to listen to me and the wonderful relationship anxiety coach & host of the You Love and You Learn podcast - Sarah Yudkin - talk all things THE ONE.Find out more about Sarah:You Love and You Learn podcastFind her on Instagram

In this episode - I'm talking about some of the most common mind dramas that come up around Valentine's Day... And 7 key truths about love that will transform the way you feel in your relationships.Whether you're single or in a relationship - this episode has something for YOU.Mentioned in the episode:Self Esteem Building KitMYRMD - May waitlist

In this episode - I'm answering 5 questions written in by listeners!Topics include:Dealing with a partner's flirty personalityAnxiety about someone you're not officially datingCatastrophising about a child's behaviourEnjoying a relationship for what it is vs settling for lessAnd investigating red flagsMentioned in the episode:MYRMD waitlist - May 2024

In this episode I'm talking about the dramatic stories and thoughts our brains love to tell us - and why believing them isn't always useful... AND I'm offering you a simple technique to snap your brain out of any intense, scary, or painful story - so that you can start to see things through a more helpful lens.Ready? Mentioned in the episode:MYRMD - Group coaching - Waitlist

In today's episode, I chat with sex & intimacy coach - Morgane Horn.We're going to cover things like:Navigating differences in sex drivesWhat is the 'right' amount to be having sex?Does it matter who initiates?How to keep your sex life alive in long-term relationshipsAnd how to feel sexy and desirable, regardless of what your partner is doing (or not doing)If you're having mind drama in (or out) of the bedroom - this episode is for you!Find out more about Morgane:Beyond Great Sex podcast: https://podcast.ausha.co/beyondgreatsex Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganehorn_/Website: https://www.morganehorn.com/

Do you find yourself thinking over and over the same thing - and struggling to get a handle on your thoughts?Does it almost feel compulsive? And like a cycle you can't break?Then this episode is for YOU.I'm going to be introducing you to the concept of thought defusion and some techniques from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - that will help you separate yourself from your brain and defuse the power of your thoughts.Mentioned in the book: Russ Harris - 'The Happiness Trap'Links:MYRMD - Group coaching info

Ever find yourself wondering what is just an anxious story in your head and what is your intuition at play?Does debating this back and forth make you feel even more anxious and out of control? And less able to show up to the situation in front of you? If you answered YES - this episode is for you.Tune in to learn: What is intuition? What is anxiety? And how to navigate our brains around both. Mentioned in the episodeSign up to MYRMDFind out more info on MYRMD

In today's episode, I talk about one of my all-time favourite books - 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by Susan Jeffers - and some of the amazing concepts she teaches, which blew my mind! If you feel a sense of anxiety and fear following you around in your relationships...Constantly worrying about the worst-case scenario and feeling on edge...This podcast is for you!Mentioned in the episode:Sign up to my email listMYRMD - Group coaching info

In this episode - I'm outlining the 6 key shifts in thinking we have to make in order to create lasting security and confidence in our relationships.Struggling with feeling insecure in your relationships? This episode is for YOU!Mentioned in this episode:MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist

If your partner has cheated or behaved in a way that goes against your expectations of them in your relationship - it is bound to be extremely painful.And we can often feel unsure about what to do next...Whether we want to stay and give them another chance or choose to leave.In this episode, I'm going to help you make sense of your mind and emotions and come to a decision that feels right for YOU. Mentioned in this episode:Processing Emotions MeditationMYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist

Feeling a sense of dread about the Christmas season as we enter December?And a looming feeling of pressure about the expectations of your loved ones? Or do you find the behaviour of some relatives pretty tough to deal with?Then this podcast is for YOU.I'm talking about people pleasing, why saying no is so hard for us, AND how to set boundaries in a way that never fails. Mentioned in this episodeMYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist

Do you ever find yourself in decision paralysis? Unsure what the 'right' thing to do is?And wishing you could just know for sure everything would be okay, before making that next move?Whether it be choosing to stay or leave a relationship, taking the next step with your partner, or something totally different - this episode is going to help you make decisions confidently - knowing you have no idea how they will pan out.Mentioned in this episodeMYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist

Ever find yourself saying, 'If they really loved me then they'd.... [insert thing]'Maybe it's - they'd take out the recycling when I asked.Or maybe it's - they'd tell me they loved me every morning when we woke up.Whatever it is, your brain likely has a manual for how the people in your life should show they love and care about you.And when you don't notice this, you might be creating a lot of unnecessary disconnection.Mentioned in this episodeMYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist

Are you having a lot of anxiety or frustration about your partner's ex?Whether they're in the picture in some way, or you're just obsessively stalking and comparing yourself to them... this episode is for YOU.It's going to cover:Where our insecurity comes fromHow to handle itAnd where boundaries come into playMentioned in this episode:MYRMD group programme info and waitlist.Self Esteem Building Kit.

In today's episode - I talk about some of the most important aspects of thought work and the biggest errors I see my clients making when learning to manage their minds.Listen to find out the key DO's and DON'Ts - and how to take your self-coaching to the next level.Mentioned in this episode:MYRMD group programme info and waitlist.Processing emotions meditation.

Are you guilty of acting out and rejecting other people when you feel hurt and rejected yourself?Do you often feel like simple misunderstandings or disagreements can escalate into full-blown arguments - where both people are just continuously rejecting the other?I came up with the term 'Knee-jerk rejecting' to describe what I see so many of my clients doing in their relationships.And it creates so much unnecessary disconnection. Tune in to find out what knee-jerk rejecting is and the stop, watch, and question technique to help you put an end to it!Mentioned in the episode: MYRMD group coaching waitlist.

Ever feel like it doesn't matter how much 'love' you receive from others, you just can't help but feel unworthy and unloveable?Like no amount of reassurance, affection, or acts of kindness would convince your brain you are in fact cared about by your friends, family, or romantic partner?If so - this episode is for YOU.In this episode, I'm going to share an idea called 'Love intolerance' and talk about how your subconscious mind may be acting against you within your relationships. Mentioned in the episode: MYRMD group coaching waitlist.

Going through a breakup? Or have you struggled a lot with them in the past?This episode is for YOU!We're going to discuss:The one thing that makes breakups so much worseClean vs dirty pain - and how to clean up your own thinking around your breakupStepping into your future selfAnd why you don't need closureMentioned in the episode:Processing Emotions Meditation.MYRMD group coaching waitlist.

Currently dating and getting fed up? This episode is for YOU! We will be looking at why managing our thoughts around dating is so important, and the shifts we need to make to create the results we want.And whether you're currently single and dating, single and not dating, or in a committed relationship - this podcast is going to be useful for you!Because you can apply these teachings to any goal you're struggling to achieve and any situation in your life that currently fills you with dread.Included in the episode:Loveability podcast episode.MYRMD info & waitlist.

Struggling in one of your relationships right now?I can guarantee, whoever the person is, your brain likely has a story about them. A narrative about them, the situation, the past - that's impacting the way you think, feel and respond to them in the present. Tune into this episode to find out:Why our brains create stories about other peopleThe impact these stories may be having in your relationshipsHow to challenge and change them to help YOU create the experience you wantAs mentioned in the episode:- FREE processing emotions meditation- Sign up to the MYRMD waitlist

Do you want to show up as a trusting, present partner - but feel this urgent need to check your partner's phone?Or maybe it's in their Instagram followers list... or the likes they're getting on their pictures...Whatever it is - there is a reason your brain is doing this, and there is a way to handle it that allows YOU to be back in control. Listen to find out:Why we get the urge to checkWhat we're really trying to escapeHow to overcome the urge AND how to face and tackle the causeClick here to join my email list for weekly mind management and relationship anxiety support!

So in this week's episode - I have asked people on my email list to send in questions and relationship problems for me to answer and coach on.If you're not on my email list - WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR.Click here to subscribe.Topics include:Whether we can 'make' someone feel insecureThinking about your exDealing with your partner's ex fiancé and co-parentingAnger at partner over splitting parental rolesStaying married for the sake of a childHow long thought work takes to 'work'AND what to do when someone dislikes you

Ever get called needy?I used to as well! And the truth was... I was needy. I needed other people's attention, approval, and affection so badly - that I felt I couldn't feel secure and okay without it. So in this episode, I'm going to talk about what's really happening in our brains when we feel NEEDY and how to coach our minds out of that place of lack - and to a place of confidence and security. UPDATE ON GROUP PROGRAMME:The are no longer any spaces left in Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - my 12 week group coaching programme.Click here to get on the waitlist for January's round.

How we show up in our relationships is pretty damn important.And yet, when we're operating from an unmanaged mind - we end up acting in ways we don't like very much, and in ways that often create so much unnecessary disconnection.Tune into this episode to find out:How to take responsibility for your actionsQuestions to ask yourself before you take an actionHow to stop reacting to emotions that tend to get you in troubleMentioned in the episode:SIGN UP to MYRMD (group coaching programme)Find out more about MYRMDProcessing emotions meditation 

Do you spend a lot of your time worrying about other people's thoughts about you? What if they're mad at me?!What will they think of me?!What are they going to say about me if I don't [XYZ]As humans, we're wired to worry about what other people think about us.And in this episode, we're going to talk about why that is and how to finally shift your brain's focus to what you CAN control. Which is always your thoughts about YOURSELF.Mentioned in the episode:FREE taster session - Facing your fear of rejection - SIGN UP.

Ever feel like you and your partner just see things differently? And can't seem to get on the same page?Ever find yourself feeling hurt, offended or rejected because your loved ones didn't something in the way YOU predicted they would or the way YOU would have done it? We each have a unique brain with it's own beliefs, assumptions and default thought patterns. And we can often create so much unnecessary pain and suffering from what we make other people's ways of operating mean.Mentioned in the episode:Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

Feeling like you just WISH your partner or friends or family members would behave differently? Do you wish they'd give you more affection, or text you more, or show more support, or be more open about their feelings?Or maybe you wish they'd be more committed or do the things you'd enjoy doing?Whatever it is - this episode is for YOU!Mentioned in the episode:Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

Are you going through a tough time right now? And feeling like you're struggling to deal with all the negative emotion you're experiencing? Maybe it's a break-up, some bad news, or or a situation coming up you just never wanted to have to deal with...Whatever it is, in this episode I'm talking about how we can handle these challenging periods - making space for the negative AND challenging some of the unhelpful thoughts that may be making things 10x worse.Mentioned in the episode:FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

Ever feel really justified in feeling angry or hurt by something someone has said or done?Sometimes we can feel justified in thinking about things in a way that creates so much pain and suffering. So in this podcast episode, I'm going to talk about the quesiton 'Am I justified in feeling this way?' AND suggest a better question for you to ask yourself instead.Mentioned in the episode:FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

In today's episode, I'm talking about my journey being alcohol-free for 3 years and the lessons I've learnt while giving up alcohol. If you have no interest in giving up alcohol - DON'T SKIP THIS EPISODE. The lessons are still valuable and important for everyone, and really tie into my journey with this work and the tools and concepts I teach you.Mentioned in the episode:Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

Feel like you can feel totally calm and secure when around certain people - but then that one slightly more avoidant partner or friend sends your anxiety into overdrive?You are not alone.In this episode, we're going to look at the real reason why that is and talk about how to overcome it so that you can create calmness and security, regardless of what other people are doing.Mentioned in the episode:FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.FREE Self Esteem Building Kit - click here.Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.Information about the programme - click here.

We are often told that compromising is important in any healthy relationship.But what does that really mean? Is it always true?When is it okay to not compromise and how do we make that decision?In this episode we're going to be talking about the reasons we choose to compromise and what we make it mean when other people won't compromise for us.As discussed in the episode, here's the link to sign up to my group coaching programme, Master Your Relationship Mind Drama, waitlist.And here's a link to all the details about the programme!Come find me on Instagram at rebeccaorecoaching. 

Do you find yourself thinking about things in the past and feeling a lot of regret?Or do you find yourself trying to make a decision and feeling paralysed with fear about making the 'wrong' one and regretting it?Then this episode is for you!And as mentioned in the episode, here is the link to sign up to the MYRMD group coaching programme waitlist. And here's a link to all the programme details.

What is your relationship like with yourself?Do you find yourself loveable? Likeable? Do you not like yourself very much?In this episode - I'm going to teach you a concept taught to me by one of my all time favourite teachers which is going to change the way you think about your loveability. AND I'm going to tell you how you can create more love for yourself and those around you.Here's the freebies mentioned in the episode:5 steps for when you're spiralling master class - CLICK HERE.Self Esteem Building Kit - CLICK HERE.

When two people want the same things in a relationship - that's a want match. But often in our relationships we build so much resentment and frustration when the people in our lives don't appear to want the same things as us. In this episode we dive into this concept and talk about :How to get clear about the wants you have in your relationshipsMaking sure you love your reasons for wanting those thingsCommunicating those wants with the people in your lifeAnd accepting and moving forward when you realise you and the person have different wantsTo download my free '5 steps for when you're spiralling' master class, click here.

Having some friendship drama?Is one of your friends not behaving in ways you like? Or do you find yourself feel anxious and insecure within your friendships?Then this episode is for YOU!We're going to talk about the point of friendship, and how you can begin to love and accept your friends, and creating amazing relationships - without needing them to change a think.For the '5 steps for when you're spiralling' master class: CLICK HERE

Are you currently blaming somebody else or a situation in your life for the way you feel?There's nothing more disempowering than believing we aren't the ones controlling our emotional experience. And nobody ever teaches us that we are!In this episode, we're going to look at 3 common examples of victim mindsets and how they may be impacting your relationships. And then you're going to learn how to challenge them and step into a position of POWER. 

Do you have a very fearful, anxious voice in your brain? One that's constantly looking out for danger on the horizon and ways everything could go wrong? This voice is a pro at freaking out. And the worst thing you can do is FREAK OUT with it. So in this episode, we look at how you can become the calm, compassionate parent of that voice. And guide and support it during it's times of panic.Click here to join my email list. 

We think all our thoughts are just accurate interpretations of the world around us.A healthy relationship looks like [this]If they like me they'd do [this]A good friend will always [insert thing]We mistake our brain's optional opinions for facts - in ways that can sometimes be so harmful to our relationships and general experience of our realities. This is why questioning everything you think you KNOW is one of the most important skills for anyone learning to manage their mind and live a more intentional life.This is NOT about gaslighting yourself.It's about observing your brain and it's assumptions with an open mind and curiosity.And it WILL change your life. Want to join my email list so you don't miss out on more freebies and opportunities to work with me? CLICK HERE.

In this episode I talk about the 7 lessons I had to learn to overcome my relationship anxiety and I share some personal stories from my own experience. PLUS find out more about my 12 week group coaching programme.Click here for more details on the programme.Here to grab your spot.And drop me an email at [email protected] with any questions!Click here for the processing emotions freebie.

Wondering if you should end a relationship in your life?The truth is... I don't have the answer. But this episode will help you work through your own thinking so that YOU can best make that decision for yourself.Master Your Relationship Mind Drama, 12 week group coaching programme - SIGN UP NOW!Processing emotions meditation - Download here

In this episode, I answer 6 questions from listeners on a range of juicy thought work topics. Connecting with a partner with a different cultural backgroundTaking responsibility for other people's feelings (about our actions)Self love after a break upHow long it takes to believe a new thoughtResisting and reacting to negative emotionAnd feeling needy when you don't get a text backHere's the bits I mentioned in the podcast:Self Esteem Building KitProcessing Emotions MeditationInformation about my group coaching programmeSign up for the free taster session

Do you often label the people in your life as 'good' or 'bad'?Do you feel like your either feeling madly happy with somebody or incredibly unhappy and resentful? Our black and white brains love to be dramatic - but this episode will help you notice where you're doing this and challenge it.To join my email list: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/subscribetoemaillist

Do you feel like the behaviour of the people in your life has the power to make you feel TERRIBLE about yourself or AMAZING? Do you find yourself feeling very insecure in your relationships and wishing people would change so you could feel better?When we base our self worth on the way others think, feel and act towards us - we naturally end up using them as validation vending machines... wanting them to spit out validation and make us feel 'good enough' whenever we want them to. Listen to this episode for how to overcome this. And here's the 'Self Esteem Building Kit' freebie mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit

Do you ever reflect on the past things you've done and said and feel immense shame?Do you feel scared of making decisions because of how mean you're going to be to yourself if you make the 'wrong' one?Improving your relationship with your past self is a great way to create a more loving and compassionate relationship with your present and future self.

Do you constantly feel on red alert for signs something might go wrong in your relationship?Do you tell yourself its important you spot all the red flags and look out for signs your partner might be 'bad' so that you can protect yourself from future pain?Then this podcast is for you.Get my free 25 minute training on '5 steps for when you're spiralling' here.And to sign up to my email list, click here.

Do you find yourself often feeling jealous in  your relationships? And does it result in you showing up in ways you don't like?This episode is going to look at what jealousy is, the 3 thought errors that create it, and how to deal with it. Don't forget to sign up to my email list for more support <3 You can do this via the link below:www.rebeccaorecoaching.com

Do you feel a little resistant to the idea of taking responsibility for your own emotions? As if that means letting the people in your life 'off the hook'? Do you feel a little resentful that YOU'RE doing this work on your own brain, and they're not changing anything at all?Then this episode is for YOU. Model example [as mentioned in episode]C: Partner says 'I will be late home'T: They don't care about spending time with meF: UpsetA: Withdraw, don't ask them how their day was when they get home, make passive aggressive comments, don't be curious or loving towards themR: I don't act like I care about them

Do you tend to assume the worst of other people? And maybe expect them to behave in ways you aren't always perfect at doing yourself? Do you ever get called out on your double standards?Then this podcast is for you!

This two part episode looks into the expectations we have of our partners and how to manage our minds around them. AND how to manage our minds if we're single and having A LOT of thoughts about that as the 14th approaches. Whichever camp you're in... you're going to learn:The real source of your negative emotionHow to take back responsibilityHow to feel the way you want to feel NO MATTER WHAT

Looking to increase the number of friendships or relationships in your life? But feel like the mean voice in your head always stands in your way?This episode is for you.I'm going to share 7 tips for how to approach creating your dream connections.As mentioned in the episode, here is the link to my Self Esteem Building Kit freebie: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit

Do you find yourself feeling anxious when you want to do something you know someone else won't be happy about?Do you feel like you're constantly trying to 'keep everyone happy' at the expense of what you really want?Then this episode is for YOU!Click here to join my email list: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/subscribetoemaillist

Are you constantly finding yourself debating whether your partner or friends care ENOUGH.If so, tune into this episode!We'll be discussing the anxiety behind this question and more empowering questions we can ask instead.

Do you often hear people say 'Don't take it personally'... but struggle to take it anything BUT personally? Do you find yourself feeling insecure about a lot of things - things people say, do, and perhaps the things they don't say or do?This podcast episode is for YOU.Mentioned in the episode:1) Self Esteem Building Kit: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit2) Thoughts to practise about this teaching:Other people’s behaviour is a reflection of their own inner worldsI am a neutral circumstance in other people’s modelsA hundred people would have a hundred different responses to meI actually have no idea what’s going on in their brainWhat might be going on for them that my brain’s not considering?How is this nothing to do with me?3) Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - Group coaching programme: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoaching

Does your brain often offer you terrifying WHAT IF thoughts that leave you spiralling for hours?And does trying to convince yourself that thing won't happen never really work?If so - this episode is for you!

Did you know that voice in your head is actually not YOU? And did you know that a lot of the time it's actually full of sh*t? In this episode, we talk about the nature of our minds and how being aware of the unreliableness of your brain's constant chattering could help create a different experience of your relationships.At the end of the episode, I talk about my group coaching programme - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama. Here's the links to find out more about the programme, and to sign up to the FREE taster session on January 5th.Course info: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoachingFree taster session sign up page:  https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/zvrdry60ey

Arguments in relationships happen. But often our primitive brains can create SO much unnecessary drama and disconnection - preventing us from reconnecting and moving forward after a disagreement.In this episode, we'll talk about how our ego and desire to be 'right' can prevent recovering after arguments and how we can begin to argue and mend after arguments in a more productive way.

Do you find yourself getting stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others?Are they prettier? Richer? Funnier?Is there relationship 'better'? Is there partner more romantic?Whatever it is - this episode will help you understand WHY we feel the need to compare and how we can break out of the habit.To join my email list for even more relationship tips and support, visit: www.rebeccaorecoaching.com

Once we learn that other people don't exist to 'make' us feel good and validate us, some clients tend to ask... 'so if my partner isn't supposed to make me feel secure and validate me, what's the point of relationships?'If you wonder this yourself, you're in luck!This episode talks about the way we're socialised to think about relationships, validation, and the reasons you may or may not choose to be in a romantic relationship. 

In this episode - I look at some of the common errors we make when trying to set boundaries, what a boundary actually is, and why it doesn't require anything from anybody else for it to be a huge success.Struggled upholding boundaries in the past? This episode is YOU!

Do you often find yourself feeling anxious if you sense a change in mood in your partner, friends, co-workers, or family members?This was probably one of my biggest struggles that I’ve really worked on during my own coaching journey. I would feel like in my relationships I was just constantly on red alert, monitoring if other people were ‘okay’ with me so that I could feel safe and secure.Listen to this episode to find out how you can start overcoming this today! 

Do the things that happen in your life just constantly throw you and leave you feeling like an emotional boomerang? Feeling like you need things to change...Your partner to changeYour job to changeYour weight to changeThe world to change!!.... so that you can start feeling BETTER. Then this podcast is for you.

Find yourself feeling angry about the way other people act? Or maybe you feel rejected, hurt or disconnected when people don't behave in the ways you thought they would.Our brains naturally make assumptions about what other people's behaviour means - snap judgements that we rarely pause to question, and that cause so much havoc and disconnection in our relationships.In this episode - we're going to talk about how curiosity is the secret weapon that will help you create more connection in your relationships.

If you're trying to improve your relationships in any way - DO NOT SKIP THIS EPISODE.Your thoughts are what create the way you feel, which drive the way you act - which means they're verrrrrry important. And improving your relationship to your thoughts is something that will massively help you manage your mind, emotions and create relationships you love.

Do you find yourself wishing you could just get your partner or friends or family members to just STOP doing that thing, or START doing something else?Do you wish you could just write them a guide for how they SHOULD act? Wouldn't it make life so much easier?!In this episode, you're going to learn all about the concept of MANUALS. And why learning to let go of your manuals for others is the key to creating the most amazing relationships.

In today's episode, I answer six questions written in by people on my email list. If you're not on my email list already - head to www.rebeccaorecoaching.com and get on it!Topics in this episode include:Getting over an abrupt breakupDealing with cheating paranoiaHow to manage a spiralling mindIs he a narcissist or just an a$$ holeAnd more!

Do you HATE feeling anxious? Do you often react to your emotions in ways that create more drama in your relationships? Do you feel like your brain and emotions are the boss of you, and wish that you could be the boss of them?Then this podcast is for you. I'm going to teach you how to stop reacting to, avoiding, and resisting negative emotion so that they no longer have to ruin your life.

Does somebody not liking you fill you with fear? Does the idea that they might be mad at you make you extremely anxious?Do you try and people please everybody so that EVERYONE will be 'okay' with you?Then this episode is for you!Here is a link to the Self Esteem Building Kit mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/selfesteembuildingkit 

Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!Then this episode is for you.We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF. 

I believed for most of my 20's that other people were the source of my negative emotion. Thank god I was wrong! Listen to this episode to find out:The real source of your anxietyWhy trying to control them won't helpHow to take responsibility and create changes

My very first podcast episode is here! This is a quick introduction to me, what I do, and how this podcast is going to help you finally master your relationship mind-drama.