We support the writer's strike! Check out this recent article featuring Brittani about why queer folks should support the strike: https://www.out.com/gay-tv-shows/wga-brittani-nichols-writers-strike 33:36:31 As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some of us truly live for the applause, and this week's guest will not shy away from that fact. Comedian and performer Emily Dayton Evans joins us to talk about her journey from fragile human to saliva-swapping comedian. Did you know it was possible to grown up in Vermont without a driver's license? Are walkie talkies a couples' gift or intended for one person only? What's the hot goss with age gap relationships on TikTok? We cover all this and so much more. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

See Carolyn open for Sydnee Washington at Girls In Wonderland in Orlando on June 2. Listen to Liz Glazer's comedy album A Very Particular Experience Enjoy this episode of a FANTASTIC podcast, You Might Know Her From with Anne Rodeman and Damien Bellino featuring an interview with actress Jen Tullock (Interview starts at 14:56) As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Phil Corin's ep of Love's A Pitch. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We're makin' it NICE this episode with our fave L-Word reviewer and writer, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya! But we're not dyking out about Gen Q. We're dissecting the Real Housewives franchise for all the queer and queer-coded content it regularly serves up. These ladies are acting gay AND doing crimes, so what's more queer than that? And they're not just acting gay, some franchises have queer women amongst the cast. Also, we manage to make comparisons to The L Word. We make the case that The Real Housewives is a great show to watch with your significant other. Plus, we give our REAL gayest things from Provincetown. And we learn straight people will see what they want to see when reading your gay t-shirt. Finally, we end on one of our trickiest listener questions yet! As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The bird's the word on this episode with author and blogger Grace Bonney. Grace's love of watching birds is queer and contagious. So what's the big deal about birding anyway? How can it positively affect your mental health? What's the community like? Why does it feel so queer? Which birds seem most sapphic? Are all pigeons elder queers? We answer all these questions and nerd out about so much more. Plus, we also talk about Grace's latest book, Collective Wisdom, and what they learned in the process of writing it. Also, find out if the omicron variant hindered Carolyn and Melody's gayness this week. Finally, we strap in for a listener question about strap-on etiquette. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Might as well face it you're addicted to (things that actually aren't but can sometimes trick you into thinking it's) love! Actor/Musician/Comedian/Writer/Reader Rivkah Reyes joins us to dyke out about their recovery and journey to being spiritually healthy. Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Sponsored by Kikoff: Kikoff.com to get started! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. When it comes to making meaningful connections with people in the LGBTQ community, it can be brutal out there. But does it have to be? Love's a Pitch is a show about love, dating, desire, and ultimately, putting yourself out there. Each week, a new guest will pitch themselves to listeners, making their case for why they're a catch and joining the host in a conversation about all things love and dating. If you like what you hear, you can follow up and shoot your shot, or play matchmaker for a friend, or go do something nice for your partner so that they never leave you and you'll never have to put yourself out there like this. Hosted by comedian Carolyn Bergier from the popular Dyking Out and A League of Their Own Recap podcasts, Love's a Pitch is full of laughs, sincerity, and queer longing. Think you're a catch? Apply here for a chance to be on the podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

First, another update from Carolyn! Then, another favorite ep of ours! Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Breasts, boobs, boobies, knockers, tits, titters, titties, honkers, hooters, melons, jugs, tatas - whatever you call them, we're dyking out about them with the crazy talented and boobacious Michelle Badillo (One Day At A Time, Vida, The Bold Type). Michelle and Melody bond over the trauma and triumphs of having large breasts, while Carolyn struggles to relate to their shared nipple experiences. Whether they're big, small, or in between, are we all doomed to feel like we can't win with them? Or even without them? Plus, we geek out over Michelle's amazing career that's just getting started. And, we reflect on this Jenny Schecter of a year. You'll also find out if your hosts survived the holidays, are how much PDA they forced on their family members. Finally, we wrap it up with the perfect chaotic question to end this chaotic year. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. We are THRILLED to be joined by the astute and prolific Valerie Complex to talk about all things Portrait of a Lady On -- Er...Female Gaze. We definitely do not spend half of this episode talking about how much we love a certain sapphic film and instead talk about why it makes a huge difference to treat women as subjects, not objects, on screen. Valerie is a film critic and freelance writer, and also a member of Portrait nation. Oh no, we did it again. We swear that's not all we talk about. There's also much discussion about negative experiences we've had in France, like when Valerie went to Cannes and saw - you guessed it - Portrait of a Lady On Fire. After nerding out about or favorite femme-heavy flicks, we answer an interesting question from a listener who is hung up on a past fling! As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Let's talk about hand sex, baby! Ro White is the new sex and dating editor at Autostraddle, and they're here to get fist-deep into our topic. Though as we learn, fisting is about fullness, not depth. We dyke out about the benefits of digital stimulation, and the role it plays in queer sex. Period sex? Squirting? Fisting? Masturbation? We're rounding all the bases. Plus, Ro talks about how Autostraddle is truly doing the gay lord's work by bringing the queerest, inclusive content to help you navigate your love life. But first, Carolyn and Melody recap their first L Word watch parties as Henrietta Hudson. And, see if they can top those events for their gayest thing! Plus, we end with a different type of listener question that required a little extra prep. Enjoy, and stay sexy! As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Some more updates from Carolyn, and a re-release of a time-relevant episode: We've got a delightful mix of queer joy and cannibalism on the agenda with actors Liv Hewson and Jasmin Savoy (Yellowjackets on Showtime). First, we get all of our fangirling out of the way by asking about our favorite new show, as well as Scream, Santa Clarita Diet, and other projects these two talents have under their very gay belts. Then, we talk about their new podcast (Most Presents: The Homo Schedule) and what it means to spread queer joy. Also, we feel inspired to take a cue from our guests and bring a game into the ep, so get ready to play Gay Or Straight Agenda along with us! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who feels like they're out of love luck. Just in time for Valentine's Day. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Happy New Year! We've got a couple of updates and announcements from Carolyn, plus, we're sharing an episode that many of you will be interested in from friend of the pod Jess Rothschild. On this episode of Hot Takes and Deep Dives, Jess is joined by THE L WORD creator and show-runner Ilene Chaiken! Ilene discusses running Aaron Spelling's production company, her real-life version of The Planet, the head of Showtime wanting to cast Leisha Hailey as Shane, Jennifer Beals choosing Laurel Holloman as Tina, and Mia Kirshner's brilliant improv as Jenny. Also discussed: Ilene's original plan for Bette & Tina, contributions to Gen Q, is Gen Q canon, Sepideh Moafi as Gigi, the mistreatment of Daniel Sea (Max) on set, Holland Taylor as Peggy Peabody and a LOT more! Subscribe to her pod here. As a reminder, you can listen to past Dyking Off Topic episodes with Carolyn and Melody on our Patreon for $5/month. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Nutrafol: Get free shipping on every order and $15 off at Nutrafol.com with promo code "DO" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. The super hilarious Sabrina Jalees (Carol's Second Act) is letting us get all up in her jizzness as we dyke out about her queer family. Sabrina gives us all the deets into how Wolfie came to be, and why she's the daddy. We talk about how queer families are still sometimes othered, but we're also freaking out every time we see one in the wild. Plus, why are straight people always telling us who will steal our baby? And if that's not enough, we crack the code on how to signal to others that you're queer. We've got a whole lineup of gayest things to talk through this week as we are truly living our best lives. Finally, we end on a question from a listener who isn't really feeling her sweet pandemic boyfriend. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Madras shorts, Kangol hats, 'Menswear,' vests, bold blazers, purposefully bad dye jobs...the spectrum of style in our community is wide and varied. So what is the lesbian aesthetic? Writer and comedian Joanna Bradley (SNL, The Break with Michelle Wolf) reflects on her own style, and that of other queer women she's encountered over the years. Can you tell if someone is a lez just by looking at them? What's that thing that makes you see someone and think "they're on my team?" Are style choices just holdovers from previous decades, or are we just admiring the trends that came before us? Has our fashion always influenced the straights, or is TikTok making us mainstream? But first, Melody breaks down why Demi dodged a bullet, and Carolyn confesses her questionable lesbian fashion choice. Then again, isn't a utilitarian fashion choice the most lesbian of all? Finally, we end with a listener question that coincidently ties nicely into our banter about Demi's ex-fiance. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian/Writer/Actor and all-around queer darling Mae Martin joins us to dyke out about fluidity this week. You all know Mae from their show Feel Good (stream it on Netflix, Channel 4) and hilarious comedy. They often talk about gender and sexuality on stage, so we loved having the chance to dive in deeper into that conversation. We talk about the value of labels and how things are changing over time. Please stream Feel Good and check out Mae's book Can Everyone Please Calm Down. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If monogamy isn't for you, you never want to merge bank accounts with someone, but you're got a lot of love to give (and hope to receive it back), then perhaps solo polyamory is right for you! Comedian and writer Ashley Ray has been living that solo polyamory life (in a pandemic no less!) and joins us to correct common misconceptions about her love life. We talk about the funny and tragic red flags she sifts through when dating, how people react to her relationship structure, and why structure and communication are so important. Plus, she talks about her wild zodiac dating experiment which we hope gets made into a TV show. This episode just may leave you polycurious! Plus, Carolyn and Melody talk about Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, The DNC, The Chicks, and our polar opposite gayest things of the week! Finally, we end with a question from a listener who seems to be the victim of an emotional terrorist. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A dating episode in the midst of a global pandemic? If anyone can still have game when the world feels upside down, it's comedian Alysia Brown. From back-to-back dates to picking up audience members on Zoom shows and everything in between, Alysia does it all. She tells us about her dating life before COVID, during quarantine, and what she hopes to find for the future. We implore her to share her tips and go-to moves so that our listeners can learn from her experience. Plus, Melody tries to cheat with her pick for Gayest Thing Of The Week while Carolyn is on her way to becoming a Bernie Sanders meme. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who is questioning her sexuality but afraid of leading on another woman in case it turns out she isn't queer after all. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dykes just wanna have fun, and here to tell us all about it is herlarious comedian, performer, and artist Casey Jane Ellison! It's hard to put into words what makes being a lesbian so dang fun, but that didn't stop us from trying! Is it the sex? The freedom from the male gaze? Underwater waterfalls? THE SEX? Is every commercial featuring a person slo-mo running through a field just an ad for lesbianism? Maybe it is, MAYBE IT IS, Plus, Carolyn and Melody reluctantly make New Year's Resolutions, including a pledge that gets off to a Rosie- er...ROCKY start. Finally, we end with a questions from a listener who is nervous about upcoming physical changes in their partner. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more folks find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Our hearts are heavy with the tragedy at Club Q in Colorado Springs. We can't speak highly enough of all the rad humans who work tirelessly to create and maintain queer spaces, so this week we're re-releasing our episode with Jo McDaniel. Since recording this episode, Jo and her partner Rach/Coach have opened As You Are Bar in DC, so please go visit, tip generously, and keep your hands where Jo can see them. Believe it or not, we can't talk enough about saving our dyke spaces. And not even an attempted coup by domestic terrorists can stop us. Jo McDaniel, who runs A League of Her Own in Washington D.C., joins us to share what makes these spaces different than any other space. Jo has a long history of bartending and working in queer spaces in D.C.. From hiring femme security staff to conducting hand checks to mandatory consent, you'll learn the ins, outs, and challenges of creating a true safe space for our community. Plus, Melody gathers intel from scary websites, and Carolyn sounds like a straight girl...sort of. Finally, we end with a fun AITA-type listener question, which we would LOVE more of. Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Show up for this episode, and you might just learn how to better show up for those who could use your accompliceship. Activist Amber Hikes joins us for a thoughtful and fun conversation about how we can make our respective privilege work for others. What's the difference between an ally and an accomplice? And how do we know who we should be listening to for guidance? Plus, what does calling someone in have to do with food stuck in teeth? Also, Melody FINALLY comes around on flags. But before we get to the important stuff, your hosts talk Discord, scones, and cleavage. Finally, we answer a question from a listener who is at a crossroads in their relationship. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more folks find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Helix: Helixsleep.com/dykingout for up to $200 off your purchase Sponsored by Night Cap: Got to NightCapIt.com and use code DYKINGOUT for 20%off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

NOTE: This interview took place before Molly started using they/them pronouns. We're in the thick of Pride month and cooked up this TREAT of an episode with the super funny and wonderful Molly Kearney (Saturday Night Live). Molly lives their life loud and proud, and they make it seem so fun and effortless. What is this beautiful butch dyke's origin story? What gay things is this double-cannon wielding comedian up to? How did they survive being the meat in a triple bunk bed sandwich? Where do they buy their suits? This episode delivers the laughs we all could use right now. Plus, Melody gives a mini history lesson on the infamous Riis beach, and Carolyn goes to Twitter jail for the first time ever. Finally, we end with a listener question about what to do when you and your fiancée don't see eye-to-eye about having children. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more folks find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Helix: Helixsleep.com/dykingout for up to $200 off your purchase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Activist, speaker, and author Precious Brady-Davis joins us to share the life lessons she's learned about living authentically, as told in her memoir, I Have Always Been Me. Precious tells us how and why she's always lived fearlessly. She stresses the importance of finding a way to shine regardless of your circumstances. We also dyke out about manifesting the life you want, and how being true to yourself attracts love into your life. Could this conversation be any more gay??? Plus, Carolyn finds a way to bring up Ellen and Rosie, and Melody has a moral dilemma while watching a cishet man squirm. Finally, we end with a question from a listener who wants her dates to have an opinion. Is that too much to ask? -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more folks find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Helix: Helixsleep.com/dykingout for up to $200 off your purchase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It was recently announced that Jenna Lyons will be on the new cast of RHONY, so we're re-releasing the interview where we (Bravo Influencers) planted the seed: It's our first live recording in YEARS, and we couldn't be more thrilled to dyke out with the iconic and stylish Jenna Lyons! We sat down with Jenna on December 7, 2021 at The Wing Soho in front of an audience filled with our favorite listeners. We talk about Jenna's experience of being outed and the learning curve that comes with coming out later in life. Plus, she tells us what changed (and what didn't) in her business and personal relationships as a result. Also, we dive into the highlights of her expansive career at J. Crew, what she's been up to since, and how to get her on another reality TV show (1:04:40). If that's not enough, you'll find out just how much Melody hates the pride flag. Stick around for the audience Q&A, and then our listener question about how to get an aunt to come out of the closet. -We've got MERCH. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more folks find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Sponsored by BetterHelp Online Therapy: As a listener, you’ll get 10% off your first month by visiting our sponsor at betterhelp.com/do  Sponsored by Helix: Helixsleep.com/dykingout for up to $200 off your purchase Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get ready to process some feelings because we've got comedian Madelein Smith (Cheers For Queers podcast) here to talk about Couples Therapy! How does this topic make you feel? Whether you've done couples therapy, haven't had the chance, or actively avoid it, there's a lot to be said. Do we actually need couples therapy if our tendency is to over-process and over-communicate? Is it a helpful tool or a potential new source of conflict? We talk about our personal experiences with it, as well as when and why we've avoided it. Plus, we talk about some of the relationship difficulties that can be unique to comedians and artists. Also, Carolyn lets Melody pick her gayest thing from a long list, while Melody has Carolyn running off to YouTube. Finally, we end with a question that speaks to the experiences of both hosts. -Get extra content EACH WEEK, Ad Free episodes, support the pod, and get to know other listeners by joining our Patreon community. If you can't support the pod on a monthly basis, please consider tipping us through Paypal or purchasing 1-on-1s and cameos through Jemi. We truly appreciate it! -We've got MERCH. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram -Help more dykes find us and Leave Us a 5-star Review if you like what you hear! -Have a question that you need answered ASAP? Check us out on WISIO. -Theme song by There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Rita Brent joins us to talk about the trifecta of factors that fed her internalized homophobia. Even the most out and proud of us have face some form of this harmful feeling that can make us act against our own interests or even hurt those around us. Rita talks about how growing up in Mississippi, in the church, and enlisting in the military all shaped her views of her queer identity. We’ve also got Melody Kamali in the co-host seat this week to give Rita tips on her recent move to New York and how to connect with Connecticut audiences. Plus, we end with a listener question from South Africa! -Come to the next Dyking Out at Stonewall comedy show in NYC. Get tickets here. -Get extra episodes by joining our Patreon community or becoming a member on Himalaya. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -We’ve got new MERCH. -Like our theme song by There Is No Mountain? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Trying to bounce back from a broken heart can be fun, messy, and everything in between. Alyse Alyse Vellturo, who makes music under the name pronoun, joined us to dyke out about the different ways we try to get over one person by getting under another. Or how sometimes, you don’t need a person at all. We talk about what constitutes a rebound, how to communicate expectations, and when does a rebound stop being a rebound? Also, Sarah gives a very detailed example of a rebound gone bad in a series of hard-to-defend moves on her part. It’s a cautionary tale for our listeners. Before we get to the topic, Carolyn rants about how nobody under 30 seems to care about Madonna, and the dykes discuss how their pride week is going. Be sure to listen to pronoun’s album “i’ll show you stronger” and see when you can catch her on tour opening for Taking Back Sunday. -Get extra episodes by joining out Patreon community. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re cool with being in a long-distance relationship with many of our listeners, but for a romantic partner? That’s up for debate. And debate we do on this episode with comedian Katie-Ellen Humphries (CBC)! Katie loves LDR’s, but Carolyn’s past experience makes her wary, while Sarah wants…a boyfriend on the moon? What are the perks of not living in the same city as your partner? Are LDR’s better or worse than any other kind of relationship? What’s the ideal distance to have with a partner? Before we get to our topic, we dyke out about sex benches, Madonna and Vancouver Island (unfortunately those conversations are unrelated). And we finish with a question from a listener who is unsure about coming out to her very traditional mother. Happy pride month! -See us record a live episode for pride in NYC on June 23 at 7pm with special guest Kathy Tu. Tickets here! -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? Subscribe to our composer/mixer’s youtube channel for more beats and mixes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Feeling lonely? Let us keep you company! The one and only Aimée Lutkin (Jezebel, UCB, 2 Dates a Week) joins us to talk about dating, being single and loneliness in an episode recorded right before Halloween (Carolyn’s couples costume announcement will be old news). Fun fact: being in a romantic relationship does not shield you from feeling lonely. We talk about the different ways that people feel lonely, as well as the unfortunate pressures we put on single people who are just trying to live their damn lives. Also, Sarah temporarily swears off relationships while Carolyn rolls her eyes so hard, you can almost hear it. We also take a listener question about what to do when you bomb a date with someone you were into. -Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag. -For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! -Like our theme song? You’ll love the duo behind it: There Is No Mountain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The hilarious, smart, and talented Talia Lavin (The New Yorker, Village Voice, Jewish Daily Forward) joins us to dyke out about the everyday rage fire that is misogyny, specifically, how it plays into politics and how different parties deal with it. Talia drops some knowledge about fearless Stormy Daniels and her MMA fighter– er, lawyer, and she shares her thoughts on why it’s important to hold people accountable for misogynistic and abusive behavior. We also salivate over the movie Disobedience, praise Lena Waithe’s wardrobe choices, and Talia tells us about a sex toy that has her seeing sparks.Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!Check out Sudio, our sponsor for this episode. Use the code DYKE for 15% your purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Filmmaker Erin Greenwell – yeah, that’s right. We totally know people who aren’t comedians. Anyway, Erin Greenwell (Director, Writer, Editor of My Best Day which premiered at Sundance in 2012) joins us to talk about how queer representation has changed in movies over the years. We’ve come a long way from All About Eve…or have we? Why does every queer movie have to be a forbidden love story? As a film professor, Erin pushes her students to be true to their experiences in hopes that it translates to authentic stories that real people can relate to. Hopefully that will lead to more movies being made that Sarah will actually watch so that she knows what Carolyn and Karina are ranting about half the time. We also touch on all things Joy Reid and our excitement over Disobedience…even though it’s just another queer forbidden love story. We’ll see!Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Three cis-gendered queer women without kids walk into a podcasting studio to talk about challenging gender norms and raising children. What could go wrong? Comedian and child-caregiver Caitlin Ruppert joins us to talk about why we need to stop shaming and correcting kids who act outside of gender norms. Also, who decided that trucks are for boys anyways when, newsflash, women are allowed to drive them too (at least in this country). Are gender reveal parties strictly a straight person thing? Why are people obsessed with the romantic lives of babies? (It does sound a little bit adorable…) We also talk about the terrible people who love forcing other to drink shots. If that’s you, KNOCK IT OFF.Keep the podcast a-lez and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Three’s company in this episode all about threesomes. Comedian and recovering fundamentalist Brooke Arnold (Caroline’s on Broadway, Marie Claire, NYC Fringe Fest) dykes out with us about doing the deed with a party of 2. How do threesomes come about? Why do couples love asking lesbians to join them in bed? Is it possible for couples to have healthy threesomes that don’t ruin their relationship? Also, we expose Tall Texans for what it really is, a front for Lone Star dykes. And, Brooke spills the deets about her vagina dentata (sort of).Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sarah Pappalardo, co-founder of Reductress, joins us to dyke out about all of the queer women of Hollywood, youtube, and wherever else you see cool entertainers who also happen to be women. Why is coming out different for these ladies? How are they so cool? Are the days of coming out on the cover of Time magazine ancient history? Give a listen as we share our hopes and dreams for the futures of the young, queer, and famous.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Pansexual is no longer just the term once used to describe pixyland.org. It’s actually a sexual identity that an increasing number of people in the LGBTQ community identify with despite its anemic representation in mainstream media and pop culture. We’ve talked about it before, but wanted to invite quintuple threat Mindy Raf (TNT, VH1, MTV’s Girl Code) to dyke out about her pansexuality in more detail. We also revisit the topic of polyamory and do it much more justice than the first time around (sorry polys!). We hope you enjoy the discussion, and if not, then you can walk right out the fe-door-a (or just email us and tell us why). Plus, one of our hosts makes an exciting announcement that only her and her mom will probably care about! Tune in!Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

She plays the new girlfriend of the non-crazy ex-girlfriend on the CW’s Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, comedian Emma Willmann (Late Show, Sirius XM, NPR, HBO’s Crashing) drops by the Dyking Out studios to talk about sex…and comedy, and dating, and exes, and podcasts…but also sex. How do you figure out sexual boundaries? What role do toys play? What’s the right way to bring up STDs? Lesbian bed death? WHO’S THE MAN??? (SPOILER: It’s always Emma). Take a listen to this wild ride of an episode, and find out why Emma is a force on the comedy scene. Also…Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Because she’s no longer trapped in the closet, comedian Kelley Quinn (Upright Citizens Brigade) came to dyke out about what it’s like to have to keep your sexuality a secret. As many of us know, coming out is something that many in the LGBTQ community have to do over and over again. Can we envision a future where we no longer need to “come out” with our sexuality? What is the role of straight people in keeping us in the closet? Does anyone enjoy the closet? What about all the queers in Hollywood who keep dodging the issue? We also talk about whether or not a movie is an appropriate first date, and which cartoon characters were totes gay. Take a listen! Oh, and:Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s our first guest who has a movie based on her life! Alyssa Robbins is a Brooklyn-based singer-songwriter and the inspiration behind the movie Becks. We are thrilled that she joined us to talk about her side gig teaching sex education to adolescents. Listen and learn how far we’ve come from putting condoms on bananas! We make a pretty solid case for the importance of comprehensive sex education in schools, and also get Alyssa’s insight on what to do if you have a kid who masturbates way too much. Later on in the episode, we dyke out about our favorite LGBTQ movies and try to make “spreadin’ the jam” a thing. Plus, if you’re in New York City on March 17, 2018, be sure to come out to see Alyssa in concert at Pete’s Candy Store in Brooklyn at 9pm.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon, where you can get some sapphic swag.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fact: teachers make up 75% of the lesbian population – at least the lesbian population that Carolyn knows personally. We are thrilled to be joined by the incredible Pat Brown for this episode! She’s been on Late Night with Stephen Colbert, has been featured on AfterEllen.com, and has an amazing comedy album out now. We talk about the role of teachers in our lives and in the current political climate. Should they have guns at school? Do they know which kids are gay? Should they have guns at school knowing which kids are gay??? We also talk about Pat’s time attending the Grammy Awards! If we could have Pat on every week, we would. Take a listen and you’ll understand why.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian and dater of straight women, J. Fox-Jones joins us this week to tell us why some lesbians end up with women who used to exclusively date men. Do lesbians seek out straight women as a challenge, or are these ladies hunting us down while we’re just minding our own business? If you date a straight woman, does that mean you have to *GULP* watch The Bachelor????!!! Does she assume you’ll handle things like installing shelves and killing bugs? We also give tips on how to watch Black Panther with a queer eye, and Sarah comes up with a radical alternative to watching movies…that just happens to sound a lot like TV.Keep the podcast alive and gay by donating to our Patreon.For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Becky Chicoine (Comedy Central Comics to Watch, UCB) stops by the Dyking Out studio to talk about pets! Why do we get them? What happens to them when we’re going through a break-up? What makes a good pet name? Plus, learn what kind of gay lady you are based on your choice of pet as we play the game, What The Pet?!For related content, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review if you like what you hear!And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedy writer and proud gaytheist Nikki Palumbo (UCB, Above Average, Reductress) went to catholic school and lived to tell us about it. It turns out it’s not the lesbian underground we thought it was. How can one survive all the guilt and shame brought on by the church? How does a budding lesbian hide amongst the plaid skirts unnoticed? Are nuns even a little gay, and would they be offended that their calling is our backup plan when all else fails? We also dyke out about the super stressful experience of having to find a dude to go to prom with when it’s the last thing you want to be doing. Plus, Carolyn misremembers the plot points of one of her favorite movies.P.S. This episode was recorded on Jennifer Aniston’s birthday, and boy is that Aveeno lotion working wonders! We’d like to formally thank Jennifer for sending our new intern Karina our way! Don’t be a breeder, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! (kidding! breeders welcome!)And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We tried to hold out as long as we could, but alas, it’s time to talk about the show that – love it or hate it – revolutionized the way the LGBTQ women were portrayed on TV. Comedian and filmmaker Gwynna Forgham-Thrift (UCB Maude Night) recently rewatched the entire series and could not wait to dyke out with us about it. How does the show hold up? What did it mean to us? How realistic was it? Where did they go wrong? Which sex scenes made us feel uncomfortable to watch with our moms in the room? What are our hopes for the reboot? If you haven’t seen the show, take a listen anyway as we tackle topics still relevant to all things LGBTQ like consent, transphopia, biphobia, butchphobia…so many phobias! And if you have seen the show, this episode is your chance to relive some of the highlights without having to listen to that damn theme song.Hey there! Don’t be a breeder, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! (kidding! breeders welcome!)And if you love our theme song, check out the duo who created it, There Is No Mountain. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fresh off of her directorial debut at Sundance, writer/director/comedian/badass Kaitlin Fontana (The Box, A&E’s Black & White, Franchesca) joins us to let us know once and for all, what is the deal with straight women? Okay, maybe not once and for all because we barely scratched the surface of what it’s like for our straight allies out there drowning in a sea of dangerous dick. We ask Kaitlin what’s it like to have to play the role of girlfriend AND mother, and more importantly, what are men actually good for? The answers may just turn you straight! LOL JK. Kaitlin also enchants us with tales of polyamory and trying to find a sugar daddy. Tune in! Also, don’t be a breeder, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! (kidding! breeders welcome!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Former pro soccer player, would-be Bobby Fischer and current hilarious comedian Lorena Russi (Late Night with Stephen Colbert, Spotify) joins us to talk about taxes, Lena Waithe, nazi haircuts and finally, our topic for this week! We attempt to tackle the messy and smelly world of performative masculinity while questioning how much of what we do is putting on an act or an imitation versus being true to who we are. We also struggle to answer the question of why so many lesbians aspire to look like teenage boys. Lastly, we’d like to apologize to Jennifer Aniston in advance for this episode and hope she doesn’t take anything we said personally.Don’t be a breeder, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How much do you know about women who strip? Before this episode, we knew at least one thing: many of them date other women. But what’s it really like to be the subject of the male gaze for pay? Stand up comedian and podcaster Amber Rollo dykes out with us about her former gig as a stripper (we learned that exotic dancer is NOT the preferred term). Needless to say, this episode is quite revealing! We also talk about the Golden Globes, dead lesbians, and the newly minted #MineToo movement that we’re hoping will gain traction.If you like us, follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year! We’re back with an episode recorded in late 2017 but still very relevant. Many places in the South value tradition and religion, which means the region know for its hospitality is not so hospitable to the LGBTQ community. We’re joined by Augusta, Georgia native and comedian Jourdain Searles, and she dykes out about what it was like growing up as a queer black woman two hours outside of the more gay-friendly city of Atlanta. We also talk about Carolyn’s ongoing love/hate relationship with moviepass and how lesbian programming is the original Hallmark movie.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don’t pass over this slam dunk of an episode! Comedian and podcaster Veronica Garza joins us to dyke out about one of our favorite professional sports leagues, the WNBA. These players have talent, heart, and hustle, but the league is still young, so they don’t benefit from the same level of fame and fortune as their counterparts. But that doesn’t stop them from pushing forward and working harder than ever for their fans around the world. Oh, and did we mention a lot of the players are fellow lady lovers? If you love the WNBA, this episode is for you. If you don’t, listen anyway so we can make our case of why it’s great to be a fan. Also on the episode, Carolyn gushes about the new love interest in her life…a Dyson vacuum. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Alex Song (NBC’s Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, HBO’s Night of Too Many Stars, UCB) stops by to dyke out about the complicated relationship between lesbians and hats. Like a moth to a flame, our kind has been drawn to various hat styles. But what do a lesbian’s hat say about her? What if you don’t look good in hats, or like in Sarah’s case, your head is too damn big? What if feel the need to buy them but lack the confidence to wear them? You’ll find out all of this and more in our new segment ‘What the hat?!” We also discuss Moviepass and all the great movies out now. Plus, Carolyn reveals her #2 crush.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Claudia Cogan (Last Comic Standing semi-finalist) joins us to reflect on how the internet has affected the lives of lesbians – real lesbians. Not the ones on porn sites (though there’s a little mention of that). From AOL chat rooms to OurChart, the internet has allowed us to connect with other dykes (and maybe men pretending to be dykes) around the world, allowing us to explore our sexuality and develop a more rounded view of what it means to be a gay woman. But before we get to that, we also discuss the lesbian Starbucks cup controversy and why women are getting kicked off of Facebook for expressing their thoughts on men. And of course, we #namenames.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

From sodomy laws to gay marriage, to the right to use the bathroom that corresponds to your gender, legal cases have played a large role in the lives of LGBTQ people for centuries. While we’ve made many strides, there is still a long way to go to reach full equality under the law, and there are always those bigoted goblins looking to push us way the hell back. Lawyer Megan Harney joins us on this new episode to dyke out about current court cases that will have an impact on the community, and Carolyn finds a way to work Ally McBeal into the conversation. But before we tackle the heavy stuff, we dyke out about Legos, the movie My Girl, and Macaulay Culkin’s unmatched child acting skills. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do bisexuals have the best of both worlds, or the worst of all worlds? Reformed bisexual and comedian May Wilkerson (Someecards, Crazy; In Bed podcast, Caroline’s on Broadway) joins us to discuss her former life as a bisexual woman and why she now identifies as queer. We explore why bisexual people can’t seem to catch a break, and the many frustrations they face. What are the noticeable differences when comparing heterosexual and homosexual relationships? Also, are we just all one bad day away from being homeless? And what do women have in common with duck confit? All this and more in an episode that’s just craving attention and is probably just a phase.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

For many LGBTQ people, it’s easier to be out today than 20 years ago, but we still face alarming levels of suicide, mental illness, and substance abuse that often stem from systematic oppression and rampant bigotry. But it gets better, right? Comedian Marisol Brady joins us to dyke out about mental illness while Carolyn and Sarah self-diagnose themselves with ADHD. What’s it like to live with mental illness, and how do you support a partner who suffers from one? Does our society have unrealistic expectations of how we should think and feel that may lead to over diagnosis? Can you still walk around naked in your apartment if you have roommates? What is fan death? Listen to find out about all this and more! Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a weeklong hiatus filled with lobster and crying, we’re back to tell you we don’t need allies, at least not as they are currently defined. Comedian and rad activist (ractivist?) Elsa Waithe (This American Life) dykes out with hosts Carolyn Bergier and Sarah York about the ins and outs of being an real ally. Does calling yourself an ally make you one? What should allies be willing to sacrifice? How can you take take part in everyday activism? Also, Elsa fills us in on how two combine activism with picking up chicks. Tune in now!Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ever want to dyke out with someone for all of eternity? It’s not for everyone, but there are still a lot of people in the LGBTQ community who want to enter the traditional institution of marriage. Comedian Jess Salomon joins twice-married-Carolyn and will-marry-for-the-registry-Sarah to talk about same-sex marriage! Why do it? What’s the best thing about being married? We also discuss the fight for marriage equality in Australia (and how we think their political system works), super-predator Harvey Weinstein, and the pro-death culture of the United States.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. You are in for a treat this week as actor and standup Ashley Gavin (Gotham Comedy Live on AXS TV, FOX’s Laughs, SeeSo, SiriusXM Comedy Central Radio) dykes out with us about breakups! Should you try to be friends with your ex, skip a generation of exes, or cut them out like a cancerous tumor? Does the ‘winner’ or ‘loser’ get the stuff? How do you handle joint custody of pets? Could lesbianism saved Lindsay Lohan? We tackle all of this and more, as Carolyn questions her place in the studio with two alpha lesbians. Catch Carolyn and Sarah live at The Box Show’s season premiere at Littlefield in Brooklyn on Saturday, October 28, 2017.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We welcome stand-up comedian Jes Tom and dyke out about gender identity! Do gender roles exist in queer relationships? How do people react to different identities and what privileges come with them? But first, with so much to cover in current events, we spend a little too much time dyking out about Billie Jean King and Battle of the Sexes, the super gay Emmys, and how much republicans still hate gay people. Also, Carolyn finds a way to work Whitney Houston into the conversation, again. (hint: it has to do with Bisexual Awareness Week!)Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian Wanjiko Eke joins us to dyke out about friendship! Can women who love women be just friends? What’s it like to be a straight girl’s lesbian bestie? Do lesbians all fall for their straight friends? (They don’t). But before we get to our topic, we get derailed by dyking out over Edie Windsor and honorary lesbian Hillary Clinton. We also field a question from a listener about how parents can be supportive of their children if they come out on day. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We are joined by comedian Sydnee Washington to dyke out about the burden of the uninvited straight men in our lives. We also talk about Jay-Z’s mom, lesbians with roosters, and the new season of American Horror Story.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Note: This episode does not do a great job of discussing polyamory, and we will definitely revisit the topic again. Our Pansexuality episode does a better job for now. Stand up comedian Chewy May joins us to talk about her experiences with polyamory, and we debate whether or not Carolyn is cool enough to be in an open relationship (spoiler: she’s not). We also discuss gay rights in Louisiana, the female Lord of the Flies reboot, and what straight women are doing to their eyebrows. Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. We dyke out with stand up comedian and host of the Dwellin’ on Ellen podcast, Sarah Kennedy on the topic of coming out. We also reminisce about the gayest moments in MTV VMA history, talk about male feminists and the criticism of Joss Whedon, and share our theories on Taylor Swift’s sexuality.Follow us on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, and Leave Us a Review! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices