How often are the old you and the current you in complete alignment? I'm sharing a passage from Congratulations, The Best Is Over by R. Eric Thomas and a famous quote from writer Joan Didion. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG and on facebook Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The best episodes are book episodes and I am THRILLED to be joined for this edition of Best Books Lately by an author I have read and admired for years: R. Eric Thomas In this conversation, Eric and I discuss his new book Congratulations, The Best Is Over and also how he found his distinct writing voice. And then, of course, we each share a few of the best books we've read lately. We laugh, we fan out, and we talk about great books. Learn more about R. Eric Thomas Follow R. Eric Thomas Sign up for the Here For It newsletter from R. Eric Thomas FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Eric’s Best Books Lately:  Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar Good Material by Dolly Alderton Idlewild by James Frankie Thomas Drunk on Love by Jasmine Guillory The Intuitionist by Colson Whitehead Laura’s Best Books Lately: The Book of Love by Kelly Link The Michigan Murders by Edward Keyes Family Family by Laurie Frankel Related: Stephen King Summer Ep. 157: True Crime as Entertainment (A Victim’s Story with Amy B. Chesler) Secret Stuff Book Club Also Mentioned: Abbott Elementary on ABC Veep on HBO The Righteous Gemstones on HBO Dickinson on AppleTV+ Better Things on FX Tom Lake by Ann Patchett Commonwealth by Ann Patchett Bel Canto by Ann Patchett The Rachel Incident by Caroline O’Donoghue Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton Libro.fm This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel One, Two, Three by Laurie Frankel Crook Manifesto by Colson Whitehead Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead Chain Gang All-Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah John Henry Days by Colson Whitehead Apex Hides the Hurt by Colson Whitehead   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How could you possibly know what you don't know? How could anyone? Talking today about shame, grace, sarcasm, and expansiveness. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I'm answering listener questions like: Do you ever wish you'd had more kids? Is life in LA portrayed correctly on Real Housewives? Will you ever write another book and on what topic? JOIN SECRET STUFF for a few more BONUS (personal) questions about money, travel, and woo-woo stuff I've tried It's always fun to hear what's on your mind through the questions you ask. I hope this episode also gives you a few questions to ask around your own tables. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 210: My Favorite Things (Right Now) The walking pad I love College sweatshirt from The Great Nike by You   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have been following Myquillyn Smith's home decor advice online for years and am so happy to welcome her back to the show to talk about her new book HOUSE RULES. This new book from Myquillyn (aka The Nester) is not only gorgeous, it just lays it out bare in list form: these are the "rules" to create a space you love and want to be in. In our conversation here, we talk about our favorite house rules and I also ask her to dive deeper into some of the rules I didn't fully understand. Follow @TheNester on IG Follow @TheNestingPlace on FB Buy House Rules by Myquillyn Smith FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

"I learned to stop praying for patience, instead pray for resolution." From a post by JeriLynn Clifford, aka @the_hill_country_bon_vivant on IG Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Introducing a new series of the podcast called ONE THING where I host conversations with interesting people and ask the ONE THING they would tell you. I'm kicking the series off with my friend Amy B. Harris. Amy has been a producer, writer, and show runner on some of the most iconic shows of our lifetime. Her credits include Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, The Comeback, The Carrie Diaries, The Wilds, and more. She's also a mom raising her daughter in Hollywood, which is how we met and became friends. My conversation with Amy is packed with wisdom and insight, along with her behind-the-scenes perspective on helping to create entertainment that shifts the culture. Follow Amy Harris on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 200: What's the ONE thing you would tell? Childhood, Boyhood, and Youth by Leo Tolstoy The Devil's Candy by Julie Salamon   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Emotions like anger, fear, and anxiety are often rooted in a feeling of helplessness. These feelings may or may not be tied to facts that are hard to ignore or release, or they be feelings that are holding us back from walking down our best path. But today we're asking: What feels out of control? - Follow me @laura.tremaine Follow the show @10ThingsToTellYou Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Maybe it was a weird conversation or an offhand remark or a comment on a social media post, but whatever happened, you're spinning out. This circumstance has tapped into all of your securities and now you're filled with self-doubt or anger or unworthiness. How do you recenter yourself? I'm going to share 5 ways I've learned to quiet my mind amid chaos and guess what - I am NOT recommending journaling or meditation. I love both of those things (and they can be helpful), but I want to give you a few new tools to consider when you're having one of those days. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE RELATED to this episode: Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm Ep 193: 10 Things To Help with Grief and Loss Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense Ep 57: Is it Anxiety or Intuition Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for Right Now   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My 5 Friendship Philosophies are: Friendship is a TO DO Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend I explain these all in more detail in The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I also encourage the reader (and the listener) to find their own friendship philosophies. Rules to live by that will make your connections stronger and your mental load lighter. This Sunday, sit with these ideas and also come up with your own. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The first story I tell in my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs is called A Friendship Reckoning. In this chapter, I share about a painful conflict with a friend that almost led to the end of our deep friendship, and how we reconciled with one big, meaningful, conversation in my backyard. I chose to keep that friend anonymous in the book, but she revealed herself in an episode my Secret Tapes podcast series and I'm airing it publicly here for the first time. There is so much about this conversation that gets to the heart of what I was trying to convey in The Life Council. We talk about the origin of our friendship, how our friendship styles have changed over the last few years, and, of course, we finally delve into what went wrong that almost led her to ending our friendship, and how we decided to save it together.  The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs was released into the world one year ago this month! I'm celebrating that by sharing this beautiful conversation with my dear friend Patty. FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As much as I try to move forward and move on, the body remembers. So instead of pushing it aside, I'm doing a small exercise to honor where we were four years ago this week. This prompt works for any type of event anniversary, birthday, or ending. I remember... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is important for anyone with anxiety or anyone with a loved one who suffers from anxiety. Four years ago, in the earliest days of the Covid-19 pandemic, I stumbled across a video of clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy giving advice on how to manage the increasing anxieties of the lockdown. I asked her to be a guest on the podcast and we then recorded one of the most important conversations of my life. I aired that episode as a BONUS in March of 2020, and decided that I wanted to replay it now as the world continues to feel fraught and uncertain. We could all use Dr. Becky's reminder that anxiety always makes sense. Since we recorded this conversation, Dr. Becky Kennedy has become a household name in the parenting space. She has a podcast, a #1 New York Times best selling book, a Ted Talk, courses and seminars, and an informative and popular Instagram account. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Original BONUS Episode with Dr. Becky at Home: Anxiety Always Makes Sense Ep 18: 10 Thoughts on anxiety (my personal story around mental health) RELATED episodes: Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety Ep. 57: Is It Anxiety or Intuition? Ep. 86: 10 Thoughts on Therapy Ep. 145: Time Anxiety Ep. 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm Ep. 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy Ep. 188: Moms and The Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The whole concept of this show is predicating on TELLING things. But WHO do you tell? It's not always a simple answer. Mentioned in this episode: Joy Cho's reel about sharing your stuff Follow Oh Joy! on IG Ep 13: Who do you tell? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

One of my greatest teachers of the last few years is author, podcaster, and speaker Emily P. Freeman. I have learned so much from her work and devoured her latest NEW YORK TIMES best selling book How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away. Emily says, "Our whole life is like a house, and every commitment, community, role, and relationship is like a room." In this conversation, Emily and I continue her room metaphor and she asks 10 Questions from her book that we can use to discern our own sense of belonging, and our choices to stay or leave. The framework of these 10 questions is perfect for 10 Things To Tell You and I loved unpacking each of these questions and concepts with Emily. Find out more about Emily P. Freeman Buy How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away Listen to The Next Right Thing podcast Read Emily on Substack Follow Emily on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Did I choose this room or did it choose me? What are the corners, sections, people, or parts of this room that I’m avoiding?  What is good and beautiful about this room? Where are the caution flags? Is anyone or anything missing from this room? If so, who or what?  Who has the power in this room?  Who or what will be affected by my decision?  To what extent can I be myself in this room? If God is in this room, what is the action of the divine?  Do I want to stay in this room?    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

My daughter Lucy is 14 and has had a cell phone for about a year and a half. My son Finch is 12 and will get his first cell phone in just a few months. While we're in the transitional time as a family, I thought it would be a good time to sit down with them and talk through all the feelings, convenience, and concerns that comes with teen cell phone usage. This conversation surprised me. Both kids said things I'd never heard them say before. I hope that this episode is a fun peek into our family dynamics and also an encouragement to have your own conversations about cell phones and social media. GET THE TEEN CELL PHONE CONTRACT HERE FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 48: Should We Post Our Kids on Social Media? (with Nish Weiseth) Ep. 59: Marry the Person You Can Quarantine With (with Jeff Tremaine) Bonus: 22+ Things Our Family Watched During Quarantine BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From ONE YEAR of the Pandemic Ep. 138: 10 Questions to Ask Your Kids (with Lucy and Finch)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to a new series I've created called Sunday Stillness. A few minutes each week to meditate on one idea that will bring us closer to who we want to become. These few minutes are about gratitude. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Every few months I love to share with you my favorite things of the moment: what's bringing me joy, what's making me feel stylish or organized or peaceful, new discoveries or apps or anything that is making life just a little bit better. I share my favorite things because it's FUN (which is reason enough) but also because it's always an exercise in gratitude. I strongly encourage YOU to sit down and make a Favorite Things list this week. Favorite Things (Right Now): The walking pad The bag The video app The retro friendship act The blush The podcast The jumpsuit The astrology app The vitamin The weekend away FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Also MENTIONED: Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Ngoski and Amelia Ngoski Episode 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites with Jamie B Golden Merit Bronze Balm Nars bronzer Charlotte Tilbury blush Benefit Dandelion blush Co-Star astrology app Episode 49: Where are your bandaids? Links to Kendra, Bri, and Jamie (The Mastermind!) Kendra Adachi Website - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/  Podcast - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/lazy  Instagram @thelazygenius - https://www.instagram.com/thelazygenius/  Bri McKoy Website - https://brimckoy.com/ The Cook’s Club Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/cooksclub Instagram @brimckoy - https://www.instagram.com/brimckoy/  Jamie Golden Website - https://knoxandjamie.com/  B. Golden Substack - https://jamiebgolden.substack.com/  Instagram @jamiebgolden - https://www.instagram.com/jamiebgolden/  SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have followed photographer Kate T. Parker on Instagram for years now and continue to be inspired by her depictions of her fierce and dynamic daughters (and their friends). I love seeing her raw and authentic sports photos since I have two little athletes in my house. You'll probably recognize Kate's work from her books Strong Is the New Pretty and Play Like A Girl. In this BONUS episode, I wanted to chat with Kate about her origin story, her work, and especially her new book Force of Nature. Learn more about Kate T. Parker Follow Kate T. Parker on Instagram Buy her new book Force of Nature SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to a new series I've created called Sunday Stillness. A few minutes each week to meditate on one idea that will bring us closer to who we want to become. This episode was inspired entirely by an IG reel from Katherine Morgan Schafler, author of The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control (one of my favorite books of 2023 and a 2024 selection for the Secret Stuff Book Club). Click here to watch the original reel. If you enjoy this Sunday Stillness episode, please share it with friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters returns to the show so we can each share the best books that we've read lately. This conversation starts with a thoughtful discussion about reviewing books on social media (#Bookstagram #BookTok) versus being a literary critic and Sara makes some excellent points about the way we talk about books online these days. And then Sara and I each share four of the best books we've read lately, including a novel I just finished that may be one of my favorites of all time. SECRET STUFF MEMBERS GET BONUS MATERIAL FOR THIS EPISODE Sara shares a great backlist title and a celebrity memoir, and I share an interesting novel that flew under the radar last year and the book I'm flat embarrassed to recommend (but kind of loved). Follow Sara @fictionmatters on IG Sign up for Sara's newsletter Listen to Sara's podcast Novel Pairings SIGN UP FOR THE SECRET STUFF PATREON Secret Stuff Patreon members get an extended cut version of this episode that includes two more book recommendations coming out this spring and also Sara's new system for managing her TBR (To Be Read) stack, because who doesn't need help organizing all the amazing books we want to read? Also on Secret Stuff this week will be a deep dive on The Bee Sting by Paul Murray (because I just had to talk about this incredible novel with someone) Sara's Best Books Lately: The Custom of the Country by Edith Wharton The Laughter by Sonora Jha Best of Friends by Kamila Shamsie Run Towards the Danger by Sarah Polley Laura's Best Books Lately: The Bee Sting by Paul Murray All The Sinners Bleed by S.A. Cosby Big Swiss by Jen Beagin The Future by Naomi Alderman Also mentioned: Episode 107: 10 Reasons to Read (A Conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters) The Remains of The Day by Kazuo Ishiguro Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro Passing by Nella Larsen The Buccaneers by Edith Wharton Roman Fever and Other Stories by Edith Wharton Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby Home Fire by Kamila Shamsie Neapolitan Novels by Elana Ferrante Women Talking by Miriam Toews Fight Night by Miriam Toews The Power by Naomi Alderman FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's been awhile since we've talked directly about mental health, and I wanted to give a personal update about what I've noticed is different about my lifelong anxiety in the last few years. I attribute these changes to aging, and evolving lifestyle, and a few different habits that I have really prioritized since I turned 40. As always when I share on this topic, it is meant to be purely my own experience and is not medical advice. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome Episode 26: The Truth About Anxiety Sorta Awesome Episode 101: The Truth About Anxiety (Part II) 10 Things To Tell You Episodes by Topic (scroll to the mental health section) Episode 18, 10 Thoughts on Anxiety Episode 86: 10 Thoughts On Therapy Episode 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy Episode 203: Meditation for Beginners   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I always thought that a benefit to getting older was that I would settle into a signature style, but the truth is that my 40s has been sort of a fashion roller coaster. Maybe it's a changing body, maybe the pandemic led to some lazy dressing habits, or maybe our personal style is just always evolving. Alison Lumbatis is a professional style confidence expert and her tips on social media over the years have been so life-giving to me. (You also might remember her from Ep 134: 10 Tips To Wardrobe Confidence.) In this episode, she is sharing 10 tips for taking stock of your closet and building a functional wardrobe that serves your needs and also makes you look great. Learn more about Alison Lumbatis Follow Alison Lumbatis on IG and on TikTok Check out her Outfit Formulas FULL SHOW NOTES HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 177: How to Find Your Signature Style Outfit Formulas Quiz   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The tables are turned in this episode as author and podcaster Kelly Corrigan asks Laura 10 big questions: 1. Best live performance you’ve ever seen? 2. Last book that blew you away? 3. If your high school did superlatives, what would you have been most likely to become? 4. What’s your go-to mantra for hard times? 5. Is there anyone you would like to apologize to? 6. When was the last time you cried? 7. What’s something big you’ve been wrong about? 8. If you could pass one law or overturn one supreme court case... 9. If your mother wrote a book about you, what would it be called? 10.If you could say four words to anyone, who would you address and what would you say? Learn more about Kelly Corrigan Kelly Corrigan Wonders podcast Read Kelly Corrigan's books Follow Kelly Corrigan on IG FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Far From the Tree by Andrew Solomon Episode 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

10 Things To Tell You is now moving to THURSDAYS! Same great conversations, journal prompts, book talk, and introspection - just a different day. If you're already subscribed to the show, you don't need to do anything at all. If you want to make sure you don't miss a thing, make sure you've: Subscribed to the show in your favorite podcast app Signed up for episode emails to get the show notes straight to your inbox every week Follow the show on Instagram and on Facebook See you Thursday with another fantastic episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is not just for 10 Things To Tell You podcast fans, but for all podcast fans IN GENERAL. You might have heard rumblings about the state of the podcast industry, as popular shows get canceled and massive layoffs keep happening at some of the largest audio companies. It's true that podcasting as a whole is going through some growing pains, and this is not just at the corporate level. Big and small shows are affected by these changes and listeners (YOU!) might already be feeling it. In this episode, I'm walking through 10 things I want podcast fans to know. I'll share some backstory to how we got here, what is different about podcasting (and podcast listening) now, why your podcast ads sometimes sound wonky, and what I would tell someone wanting to start a podcast now. I'm also sharing a little announcement about a big change coming to 10 Things To Tell You! JOIN SECRET STUFF PATREON FOR BONUS MATERIAL FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Invisibilia podcast from NPR Heavyweight podcast from Gimlet Media More Perfect podcast from NPR/WNYC Studios Death, Sex, & Money podcast from WNYC Studios RELATED EPISODES: Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey Ep 73: I Wrote A Book! Ep 111: Behind the Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book Ep 166: How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps)   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published Jan 23, 2024 Didn't I Just Feed You? is such a relatable mom thought and is also the title of the popular podcast from my guests Meghan Splawn and Stacie Billis, two professional cooks with a collective 20+ years of experience in test kitchens, on television, at food publications, and more. They know their way around a kitchen, and want to make your life as the family cook easier. In this episode, Meghan and Stacie are sharing 10 Tips for Saving Your Sanity in the Kitchen. These women made me think, made me laugh, and made me actually WANT to cook for my family.  Download your FREE meal plan template here Listen to the Didn't I Just Feed You podcast Follow Didn't I Just Feed You on IG and on facebook   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook From Scratch by Stacie Billis Instapot >> Amazon | Target | Walmart AmiAmi SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published Jan 16, 2024 Mindfulness meditation has changed my life. It has helped with my anxiety, productivity, and inner peace.  But even though I'd been hearing about the benefits of this practice (and even read several books on it!), it took me years to get started. Mostly this is because I thought meditating had to be formal. I thought it required a certain amount of time or a certain personality type. But this isn't true! Anyone can meditate. You can start as small as one minute at a time.  In this episode, mindfulness educator Laurie Cousins walks us through 10 tips for the meditation-curious, those beginning a meditation journey, and anyone in need of a refresher for what a meditation practice can bring.  Laurie Cousins is our guest today and she leads the meditation group that finally got me to make this practice a regular part of my life. Laurie has trained at UCLA and USD and specializes in trauma and resiliency. She is also passionate about mindful parenting, and facilities several groups with this focus.  LEARN MORE ABOUT LAURIE COUSINS HERE FOLLOW LAURIE COUSINS ON IG   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN JOURNALING for GROWNUPS HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published Jan 12, 2024 My two week course JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS is back! The cart closes on Thursday, January 18th so grab it now.  JOIN JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS If you'd like to get the class for FREE you can become an annual member of SECRET STUFF at the Secret Keeper level ($84/year) and you'll get a discount code for 100% off.  BECOME A SECRET STUFF ANNUAL MEMBER Hope to see you in class! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Published Jan 09, 2024 Do you find goals motivational or defeating? Does all the hubbub around the first of the year feel fresh or frustrating?  In this conversation with professional goal coach Abbie Schiller, we unpack all the reasons that setting goals makes us groan, and why it doesn't have to be that way. Instead we can look at goals as a framework that moves us forward to create better lives. Abbie and I also discuss what happens when you don’t meet your goals, how to identify the obstacles that get in our way, and how to get unstuck when your “new year new self” aspirations meet the reality of carpool and errands. Learn more about Abbie Schiller  Follow Abbie Schiller on IG Abbie's "Change One Thing" webinar   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Jonathan Fields How To Live A Good Life by Jonathan Fields The Good Life Project Podcast SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Didn't I Just Feed You? is such a relatable mom thought and is also the title of the popular podcast from my guests Meghan Splawn and Stacie Billis, two professional cooks with a collective 20+ years of experience in test kitchens, on television, at food publications, and more. They know their way around a kitchen, and want to make your life as the family cook easier. In this episode, Meghan and Stacie are sharing 10 Tips for Saving Your Sanity in the Kitchen. These women made me think, made me laugh, and made me actually WANT to cook for my family.  Download your FREE meal plan template here Listen to the Didn't I Just Feed You podcast Follow Didn't I Just Feed You on IG and on facebook   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook From Scratch by Stacie Billis Instapot >> Amazon | Target | Walmart AmiAmi     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Mindfulness meditation has changed my life. It has helped with my anxiety, productivity, and inner peace.  But even though I'd been hearing about the benefits of this practice (and even read several books on it!), it took me years to get started. Mostly this is because I thought meditating had to be formal. I thought it required a certain amount of time or a certain personality type. But this isn't true! Anyone can meditate. You can start as small as one minute at a time.  In this episode, mindfulness educator Laurie Cousins walks us through 10 tips for the meditation-curious, those beginning a meditation journey, and anyone in need of a refresher for what a meditation practice can bring.  Laurie Cousins is our guest today and she leads the meditation group that finally got me to make this practice a regular part of my life. Laurie has trained at UCLA and USD and specializes in trauma and resiliency. She is also passionate about mindful parenting, and facilities several groups with this focus.  LEARN MORE ABOUT LAURIE COUSINS HERE FOLLOW LAURIE COUSINS ON IG   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN JOURNALING for GROWNUPS HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My two week course JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS is back! The cart closes on Thursday, January 18th so grab it now.  JOIN JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS If you'd like to get the class for FREE you can become an annual member of SECRET STUFF at the Secret Keeper level ($84/year) and you'll get a discount code for 100% off.  BECOME A SECRET STUFF ANNUAL MEMBER Hope to see you in class!

Do you find goals motivational or defeating? Does all the hubbub around the first of the year feel fresh or frustrating?  In this conversation with professional goal coach Abbie Schiller, we unpack all the reasons that setting goals makes us groan, and why it doesn't have to be that way. Instead we can look at goals as a framework that moves us forward to create better lives. Abbie and I also discuss what happens when you don’t meet your goals, how to identify the obstacles that get in our way, and how to get unstuck when your “new year new self” aspirations meet the reality of carpool and errands. Learn more about Abbie Schiller  Follow Abbie Schiller on IG Abbie's "Change One Thing" webinar   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Jonathan Fields How To Live A Good Life by Jonathan Fields The Good Life Project Podcast     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

2023 was an unexpected roller coaster for me, both personally and professionally.  I'm sharing 10 things I've learned in the last twelve months, from losing money in my business to a mistake I made in my parenting.  This episode is one of my favorites that I put together each year because it forces me to take a clear look at what's working and what's not in my life. I hope it's helpful to you to hear someone else process through some of these things as we start a new year together.  Happy 2024!   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 174: 3 Things I’ve Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole) Basecamp Secret Stuff Patreon    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

TWO HUNDRED EPISODES! It's a milestone worth celebrating.  We're going back to the roots of the show and asking ourselves, What is the ONE thing you would tell? Not 10 Things. Not 3 things. But the most important message you would share with others if given a pen, a keyboard, or a microphone.  I share the ONE thing that I want impart to others, and I'm joined by more than a dozen past guests of 10 Things To Tell You sharing their ONE thing.  Thanks for being here. Happy 200!  - So grateful for my special guests in this episode: Anne Bogel from What Should I Read Next? Emily P Freeman from The Next Right Thing Andrew Och is the First Ladies Man Kaytee Cobb from Currently Reading Bethany Winters Sarah Stewart Holland from Pantsuit Politics Mary Marantz from the Mary Marantz Show Dr. Christine Koh from Edit Your Life Meredith Monday Schwartz from Currently Reading Shawn Smucker  Miss Freddy professional photo organizer Elizabeth Passarella author of It Was An Ugly Couch Anyway Retha Nichole Business Coach Lindsay Lawler singer and soul sister Beth Silvers from Pantsuit Politics    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Final Episode of Sorta Awesome Episode 472: Awesome Ever After Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz) Episode 150: 10 Things To Tell You     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

It's one of my favorite conversations of the year!  I love books. I love lists. I love the end of the year. So naturally I LOVE the annual Best Books of the Year conversation with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.  We're back together for our SIXTH annual Best Books of the Year conversation. This one felt a little different from year's past because in 2023 we chose to do a mid-year episode called Best Books of the Year (So Far). In Episode 179 from back in June, we talked about many of the big, buzzy books that released in the first half of the year, which let us share other favorites in this year-end conversation.  LISTEN TO US DISCUSS THE BOOKS WE DIDN'T LIKE IN 2023 ON PATREON I hope you enjoy this monster episode!  Follow @yasminheartsbooks on IG Follow @stephanie_hypen on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack BetterHelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   JOIN THE SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB HERE   Laura’s Best Books of the Year: Shark Heart by Emily Habeck  We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman  Spare by Prince Harry  The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler  Search by Michelle Huneven  Happiness Falls by Angie Kim  How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key Hey Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and Other Lies Behind Multi-Level Marketing by Emily Lynn Paulson  How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix    Yasmin’s Best Books of the Year: You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith  Holly by Stephen King  The Center by Ayesha Manazir Siddiqi  Hot Springs Drive by Lindsay Hunter    Stephanie’s Best Books of the Year: Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano (mutual best pick)  The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride  Good Omens: The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett  The Humans by Matt Haig    Also Mentioned: Smartest Person in the Room series with Yasmin Little Women by Louisa May Alcott  Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano  Friends, Lovers and the Big, Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry  The Color of Water by James McBride  Deacon King Kong by James McBride  Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah  Mr. Mercedes by Stephen King  Misery by Stephen King  It by Stephen King  11.22.63 by Stephen King   Thursday Murder Club Series by Richard Osman  American Gods by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett  Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro  The Best Minds by Jonathan Rosen    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

It's my favorite time of year! Not because of the holiday season, but because I love getting reflective, looking back over the last twelve months and looking ahead to changing of the calendar.  The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: 10 Questions for Starting Over 10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything Journaling for Grownups Laura on Instagram   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.  I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.  My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Follow Brooke Romney on IG 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2 52 Modern Manners for Kids     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

A few times a year, I like to let you listen in on the conversations we're having in the Secret Stuff patreon community. Each month we meet twice over zoom to talk about something culturally relevant (we call this Symposium) or to talk about books (a pretty traditional Book Club). This Secret Stuff meeting was a bit of a mashup of the two.  When it was announced that icon and legend Britney Spears was releasing a memoir this fall, I knew it would make a splash in the publishing industry and in the celebrity world. And it did. The Woman In Me sold over a million copies in it's first week of release and there were a few bombshell's from the singer's life, most notably about her relationship with Justin Timberlake.  But what is just as fascinating about the content of the book is the way she chose to tell it, and that she was able to tell it at all. After 13 years in a conservatorship held by father, where everything she did was tracked and controlled, Britney is finally free to share her side of the story. As usual, the Secret Stuff community had smart, thoughtful, and compassionate takes on the memoir itself and on Britney's place in music history and our pop culture lexicon. To join in on our next Symposium meeting, JOIN SECRET STUFF NOW You can always check out a FREE TRIAL OF SECRET STUFF to see if it's for you.   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Woman in Me by Britney Spears Tell Me Everything by Minka Kelly I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey Takeaways from Britney Spears's memoir (NYT)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff.  But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well.  Carmen Rita Wong's memoir is called Why Didn't You Tell Me? and is a book about secrets and identity.  Learn more about Carmen Rita Wong Follow Carmen Rita Wong   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.  I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?  And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE We do have an extended cut version of this episode over on the Secret Stuff patreon page, where Matt and I talk about our shared Oklahoma roots and I'll also be releasing a personal episode over there this week about my time working in reality television in the early 2000s.  For all that bonus material, SIGN UP FOR SECRET STUFF HERE.  You can listen more of Matt on the Reality Gays podcast  Follow Matt Marr on social media   SPONSORS: Uncommon Goods // Go to UncommonGoods.com/YOU for 15% off your order   MENTIONED in this episode: Instagram Christopher Ryan Stamey - @christopherryanstamey  90 Day Fiancé on TLC  Real Housewives franchise on Bravo  RuPaul’s Drag Race on MTV  Passions Soap Opera on NBC  The Real World on MTV Duck Dynasty on A&E  Bittersweet by Susan Cain Indian Matchmaking on Netflix  Love is Blind on Netflix Married at First Sight on Lifetime  Pig Royalty on Amazon Prime Video  Nanny 911, now on Amazon Prime Video  Doggy Fizzle Televizzle on MTV  Crowned on FOX  America’s Next Top Model on UPN/The CW  Joe Millionaire on FOX The Swan on FOX  90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort on TLC  The Golden Bachelor on ABC    If you liked this episode you may like: Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes and How They Affect You   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.  Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.  Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned: Ep. 123: Intuition, Friendship, and The Future (from 12/1/2017) Ep. 26: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 1 (also known as the face shaving episode)( from 9/10/2015) Ep. 101: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 2 (from 5/19/2017) Ep. 54: Ten Friends Every Woman Needs (from 4/7/2016) Ep. 139: Resurrection: New Life on The Other Side of a Faith Shift (from 3/30/2018) Ep. 192: Heartbreak, Doubt, And Finding Faith Through The Storm (Rebekah speaks about miscarriage) (from 4/17/2019) Ep. 90: Exploring Hope and Healing for Postpartum Depression (from 2/24/2017) Ep. 56: Unpopular Opinions Ahead (A Group Show)! (from 4/21/2016) LISTEN TO THE FULL CATALOGUE of SORTA AWESOME     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome cohost Kelly Gordon Sorta Awesome cohost Rebekah Hoffer Sorta Awesome Hangout (facebook group) Serial Podcast Voxer app   SPONSORS: Daily Harvest // Go to DailyHarvest.com/TellYou for up to $65 off your first box BetterHelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8! This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.  #OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.  GET GRAPHICS, SIGN UP FOR REMINDER EMAILS, and LEARN MORE HERE Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day! Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023. 

This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.  The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.  Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief. CLICK HERE for the special resource for 10 Things To Tell You listeners Learn more about NEAR here Follow NEAR on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Jamie Golden is back!  This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.  FOLLOW @JAMIEBGOLDEN ON IG On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE GET THE EXTENDED EPISODE ON SECRET STUFF   More about Jamie: The Popcast with Knox & Jamie Faith Adjacent podcast  Jamie's new substack B. Golden Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019) Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021) Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020) Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)   SPONSORS: Check out the What Came Next podcast with Amy B. Chesler Sign up for the SECRET POSTS email newsletter Learn more about #OneDayHH   *Affiliate links included here. Sephora's Beauty Event Sale starts October 27   Jamie's Beauty Obsessions: Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant  Herbivore Phoenix Rosehip Anti-Aging Facial Oil  Charlotte Tilbury’s Magic Cream Moisturizer  Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Triclone Concealer Kosas Brow Pop Nano Feathering Eyebrow Pencil  Gucci Sun-Kissed Glow Bronzer  Crown Affair The Hair Towel   Laura's Beauty Obsessions: Dr. Gross Alpha Beta Peel pads  Living Libations Best Skin Ever Oil  Sunday Riley Power Couple  Cle de peu concealer  L'oreal Voluminous Curved Brush Mascara  Milk Makeup Lip and Cheek cream blush stick (in Rally)  Pat McGrath Trance Lipstick (in Full Panic)    FULL LIST OF EVERYTHING DISCUSSED CAN BE FOUND HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.  I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.  In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.  I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Wattpad Chloe In Letters  Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know Currently Reading Podcast  Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket  Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling  Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer  The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams  The Pearl by John Steinbeck  A Court of Thorns and Roses series by Sarah J. Maas  A Certain Hunger by Chelsea G. Summers  Bunny by Mona Awad  The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen  Less by Andrew Sean Greer  The Need by Helen Phillips  The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard  56 Days by Catherine Ryan Howard  Billy Summers by Stephen King    JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR MONTHLY READING ROUNDUPS   Alex's Best Books Lately: The Secret History by Donna Tartt  Cannery Row by John Steinbeck  Euphoria by Lily King  Pet Sematary by Stephen King    Laura's Best Books Lately: How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key Happiness Falls by Angie Kim  The Trap by Catherine Ryan Howard  The Great Work of Your Life by Steven Cope    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumePodcast.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.  I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.  But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.  In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go To HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who cares about tv and movies.  I have 10 things to tell you about the historic Hollywood strikes of 2023. The Writers Guild of America and the Screen Actors Guild have been fighting for wage increases, protection against artificial intelligence, and more. Think it doesn't affect you? Think again! Here are the 10 Things I talk through in this episode: What are the basics of the strike? What is the history here? What exactly do Hollywood writers do? How do they get paid? So why are they striking?  (And what does striking mean? Can they not work at all?) What does mandatory staffing mean? What is the AI threat? Some notable things that happened during this strike.  What was finally negotiated?  How does this all affect the viewer? I want this show to be about connection, conversation, and sharing our stuff. The Hollywood strikes are something our family cares about, so I'm sharing it here with you.  If this episode teaches you something, please share it on social media or with a friend.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Secret Stuff Episode with Jill Killington Smartest Person in the Room: Hollywood Series Deadline Hollywood Fran Drescher speech   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

This episode is for moms who are drowning in this season. After years of rarely talking about parenthood on this show, this topic suddenly continues to find me. I'm not sure if this because of my kids' ages (11 & 13) or just the season I'm in, but motherhood is something I want to talk about more now than I did when the kids were young.  My guest today is Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a highly sought after relationship expert, who has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, and The New York Times. Her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is out now. Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now. If you've been carrying the mental load in your family, I hope this conversation resonates with you and that you'll know you're not alone.  LEARN MORE ABOUT DR. MORGAN CUTLIP HERE FOLLOW DR. MORGAN CUTLIP ON IG HERE BUY LOVE YOUR KIDS WITHOUT LOSING YOURSELF    FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Come As You Are by Emily Nagowski Dr. Cutlip's free guide to talking to your partner about mental load     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

The episode is for anyone looking for an insider perspective on the rise of book bans in America. My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history. My guest is writer and librarian Emily Jones. As a former teacher and current librarian in Arkansas, Emily shares her perspective on the fear and concern around certain books that are available in these public spaces.  FOLLOW EMILY on IG FOLLOW EMILY on TIKTOK SIGN UP FOR THE 7-DAY FREE TRIAL of SECRET STUFF FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Origin of the Species by Charles Darwin Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood How To Be An AntiRacist by Ibram X. Kendi It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris This Book is Gay by Juno Dawson Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison Starring Sally J. Freedman as Herself by Judy Blume The Big Bath House by Kyo Maclear  Episode 183: 5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy) Episode 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023    SPONSORS: Lume // Go to LumePodcast.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who has (or wants) a Soul Sister.  In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old. In this episode, Lindsay and I talk about living in the dorms together, living in the Hollywood hills together, the ways we (accidentally) broke one another's hearts, and the ways we light each other up. Our bond and this conversation is a special one.   But the BIG reason I wanted to share this Secret Tapes conversation with Lindsay with you right now is that Lindsay is a singer and songwriter based in nashville and her latest album comes out this week! It’s called Peaches Holyoke and the first single Trying To Get Back To Texas is available on all streaming platforms now.  This is Lindsay’s first full length album in 8 years, it features 13 tracks, and you might also hear that new single Trying To Get Back To Texas spinning on OUTLAW COUNTRY on Sirius XM Channel 62.  I love Lindsay, I love her music, and after listening to this excerpt of our Secret Tapes conversation about our deep friendship for over 25 years, i think you will love her too.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 28: Motherhood Through Adoption with Lindsay Lawler Ep 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Business Besties Kendra Adachi, Jamie Golden, and Bri McKoy) Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Cyndi Finkle)    SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/50YOU for 50% off plus 15% off the next two months   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone interested in how the podcast sausage gets made. We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future.  I wanted to talk these results through with you because I value your feedback and want to involve you in the bigger picture of what we're creating here. I love making 10 Things To Tell You for you, and I also want to continue to make it helpful and entertaining.  I'm also sharing some of my personal thoughts on the state of the podcasting industry right now, and as a listener, you're part of that industry. So I'm giving a little peek behind the curtain of what's happening from the creator side, based on my own experience and from conversations with many of my podcast friends.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome podcast Smartest Person in the Room podcast Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer? Who do you see in the picture? 10 Ways To Feel Better Pay Attention To What You Skip Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh My! Sign up to get weekly episode emails JOIN SECRET STUFF   SPONSOR: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone looking to transition well between the end of summer and beginning of fall.  Whether you mark the end of summer by the school calendar, the weather, or football season, we have come to the end of the season.  In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 180: Four Metaphors For Turning 44 Ep. 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023 On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for cooking newbies, confident chefs, and everyone in between! Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniquest To Master Everyday Cooking, which launches this month.  Get THE COOK'S BOOK by Bri McKoy Get THE COOK'S BUNDLE preorder bonus  In this conversation, Bri shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things.  The Cook's Book by Bri McKoy comes out 8/29 and is so beautiful and useful, you will for sure want one for your own shelf and also one to give as a gift.  Learn more about Bri McKoy Follow Bri McKoy on IG   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 164: Are we friends or not? (a conversation with my business mastermind Jamie Golden, Kendra Adachi, and Bri McKoy) Ep 24: 10 Favorite Kitchen Tools (with Bri McKoy)  Come and Eat by Bri McKoy The Everyday Kitchen Masterclass   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for the therapy-curious and therapy champions. Ten years ago this summer, I was in one of the lowest points of my life. I had a toddler and a baby, was grieving the death of a loved one, the diagnosis of another loved one, and the near-fatal crisis of yet another loved one. My husband was away making a movie, so I was solo parenting and circumstantially very isolated during a rainy season that had flooded our home.  And also....I had just started therapy for the first time.  I needed the therapy. Making that phone call was one of the best decisions I've ever made. But as many people will tell you: it often gets (a lot) worse before it gets better.  In this episode, I'm sharing 10 Things About Therapy that I've learned or noticed or want to share after 10 years of being on this journey.  There are practical tips and also my personal stories. This is completely my own experience and not meant to be prescriptive or authoritative - just me, sharing my stuff.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.    SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/50YOU and use code 50YOU for 50% off plus free shipping Lume // Go to LumeDoedorant.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Kevin Miller is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others. After our fantastic conversation a few months ago on his show The Self Helpful Podcast, I knew I wanted to talk to him about his new book What Drives You.  One of the things I've been working on personally this summer is examining and resetting some of the systems in my life, mostly professionally related, but also personally. This book and this conversation came at the perfect time. Identifying what motivates you can be such a key to your success.  Learn more about Kevin Miller Listen to the Self Helpful Podcast Buy What Drives You  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

We're back with all new episodes!  I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.  My Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023: Birthday Journal NEST NY Himalayan Salt and Rose Water Candle Everyday Habits App Adult Friendship bracelets (the one I bought here) Taking loved ones on a trip of a lifetime Abbott Elementary The Retrievals Basecamp Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Event Culture  FULL SHOW NOTES (with everything I talk about) HERE   ALSO MENTIONED in this episode: TLC Book Club Drop Ins  Secret Stuff private podcast & membership community Book Soup Event with Emily Habeck    Books we’re reading in Secret Stuff: On Writing by Stephen King  On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen Monsters by Claire Dederer   Birthday Journal IG post  Fabled Bookshop  Commonplace Books OKC  NEST NY Himalayan and Rose Water Candle Everyday Habit App  Find What Feels Good App  Stretch It App  Ring Concierge Best Friends Bracelet  What we did in London IG post What we ate in London IG post Wimbledon IG post  Abbot Elementary  Succession The Righteous Gemstones The Retrievals podcast Basecamp Asana ClickUp Shark Heart by Emily Habeck Elizabeth Barnhill’s IG  Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

I met author Alli Worthington over a decade ago when we were both in the mommy blogging world, and I've long looked up to her as an entreprenuer and innovator in the online space. And while I was a mommy blogger back then who didn't write much about motherhood, Alli was creating conferences, writing books, and raising FIVE boys and a stepdaughter.  So of course with that kind of expertise, I am excited to share this conversation about motherhood that's aimed at the MOTHER. Alli's latest book Remaining You While Raising Them is the opposite of an instruction manual for parenting, which is what makes it so refreshing.  In this episode, Alli and I talk about mom guilt, real self care, and the different ways social media and the likes can make us feel like we’re not measuring up. We also talk about our identities as mothers, the magic question Alli wants women to get in the habit of asking themselves, and why it’s important to allow our kids to see us get angry sometimes. Learn more about Alli Worthington  Buy Remaining You While Raising Them Alli Worthington is known for her straight-talking encouragement and practical tools that help women reach their dreams in business and life. She is a speaker, podcaster, author, and life and business coach who launched Called Creatives, a cohort of women speakers and writers. Alli lives with her husband, Mark, and their five sons outside of Nashville with the only golden retriever who refuses to retrieve.  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  August feels like the second "new year" on the calendar. Even if you're no longer super aware of the school calendar as a student, parent, or teacher, it still feels like a fresh start after the summer and heading into the last half of the year. This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. In this replay episode from the end of 2019, I’m sharing my experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board for the future. Let me be clear that I am no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions. FILL OUT THE 10 THINGS TO TELL YOU LISTENER SURVEY HERE   Mentioned in this episode: Episode #6: Revisiting Judy Blume with Cara Pence Episode #29: What are your intentions? Wayne Dyer 2019 Word of the Year: RELEASE 2020 Word of the Year: TRANSLATE Article: Why Vision Boards Don’t Work Episode #38: Books for personal growth Episode #35: Ask me in 3 months Episode #41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos Episode #45: 10 Questions to ask at the end of the year   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.  The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media. FILL OUT THE 10 THINGS TO TELL YOU PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY   Mentioned in this episode: Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU50 for 50% off plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.  I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. FILL OUT THE LISTENER SURVEY HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:  BONUS EP: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my! Ep 46: Book Club 2019 Best Books of 2019 blog post Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski Gretchen Rubin (her podcasts and her books) The Next Right Thing by Emily P Freeman (her podcast and her book) Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal     SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com/YOU for 40% off your starter pack     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show. This episode is for you if you’ve ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped. This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.   FILL OUT THE PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY HERE   Mentioned in this episode: Episode #4: How do you connect to your body?   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.comYOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. Previously, she was the Global Editor-in-Chief of Women’s Health and Beauty Director of Allure. Amy is a thought leader in wellness, mental health, and beauty, having appeared as an expert on Today, Good Morning America, The Doctors, and Entertainment Tonight. She has OCD, and has been named a Friend of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for her journalistic work in mental health. In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles.  Learn more about Amy Keller Laird  Check out the MENTAL website   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Calm Strips Fired over zoom: what to do next 6 Reasons you might want to reconsider ADHD Is it ADHD? Or bipolar? Could it be both? How to find your best weighted blanket Poet Brianna Pastor Use Astrology to boost your mental health   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.  This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor. FILL OUT THE PODCAST LISTENER SURVEY NOW!   MENTIONED in this episode: Netflix docuseries REMASTERED: Devil and the Crossroads   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.  Of metaphors.  I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now: One Point (clap clap) At A Time There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road Accelerate through the turn You are not lost   I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working with a Business Coach  Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston JOIN SECRET STUFF for an exclusive invite to the Secret Stuff Summit     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023.  We talk about the best novels, memoirs, personal growth, and general nonfiction books that stand out, and even share some of the personal things going on in our lives that have affected our reading habits lately.  We also unintentionally talk a lot about Hollywood in this episode - where the three of us all live and work - discussing the writer's strike and multiple celebrity memoirs.  JOIN SECRET STUFF NOW FOR BONUS CONTENT Of course, we talked for hours. And there was still more we had to say. Check out the Secret Stuff bonus episode for even more book talk, including the books that haven't worked for us this year.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   LAURA’S FAVORITES: We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman The Perfectionist’s Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler Spare by Prince Harry Beloved by Toni Morrison I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai  Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld   STEPHANIE’S FAVORITES: Maame by Jessica George Burn It Down by Maureen Ryan Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson   YASMIN’S FAVORITES: Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry The Shards by Bret Easton Ellis  Everybody Knows by Jordan Harper You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith   OTHER BOOKS MENTIONED in this episode: Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer The Tender Bar by J.R. Moehringer (Prince Harry’s ghost writer) I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy Educated by Tara Westover The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai  Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin  Tales from the Boom Boom Room by Susan Antilla  Glamarama by Bret Easton Ellis Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld You Think It, I’ll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer  Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano    SPONSORS: Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% off your starter pack HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU16 and use code YOU16 for 16 free meals and free shipping Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com and use code YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

I am coming off of an intense season where the work-life balance scale was tipped firmly in the work direction. I know the ebb and flow of this equation and I have come to understand that sometimes imbalance is exactly what is needed while tending to something important. But none of us want to feel out of balance for long. This is why I loved chatting with my guest Tina Wells, author of the new book The Elevation Approach. Tina has had an entrepreneurial journey like no other and in the book she redefines this idea of work-life balance by introducing the concept of work life harmony. In this conversation we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey. Tina Wells is a business strategist, advisor, author, and the founder of RLVNT Media. Tina is also the author of 16 books, including the best-selling tween fiction series Mackenzie Blue and its 2020 award-winning spinoff series, The Zee Files. Her new book, The Elevation Approach, is out now. Learn more about Tina Wells Follow Tina Wells on Instagram Find her Elevation line at Target   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Elizabeth Passarella and I have a lot in common: we're both authors, and mothers, and both moved from small, southern cultures to big cities to become writers. I spent my twenties working in reality tv while she spent the same time period as an editor at the top beauty magazines.  And then, having never met but with many mutal friends and chasing similar literary dreams, we released both of our books just weeks away from one another - first in 2021 and then this spring of 2023. On such familiar paths but on opposite coasts, it felt like the most natural thing in the world to finally record a conversation together.  Elizabeth Passarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living and former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She has spent more than 20 years writing about food, travel, home design, and parenting in a variety of magazines. She is the author of two books, Good Apple: Tales of an Southern Evangelical in New York and her latest It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: and Other Thoughts On Moving Forward. She grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three children. Elizabeth and I talk about her experience  moving from the south to New York City, what happened when she bought an apartment in her building that belonged to a hoarder, and the ways she is able to write so honestly about her family. I truly enjoy Elizabeth and her writing and I know you will love this conversation too. Learn more about Elizabeth Passarella Follow Elizabeth on Instagram   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff Patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one? I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits.  JOIN SECRET STUFF FOR THE JUNE STYLE SYMPOSIUM In this episode, I'm taking away some of the myths of signature styles. They don't have to be forever choices. They don't have to be considered classic. They don't even have to be flattering. (Yes, really!)  Then I share three steps for finding your own signature style. (Hint: you start in your own closet.) FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (a conversation with Amber Haines) Ep 134: 10 Tips to Wardrobe Confidence (with Alison Lumbatis) Ep 123: How to feel pretty when you don’t  The Life Council Secret Tapes   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to get 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

When I sat down to write The Mentor chapter of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I thought I was going to reveal that The Mentor was the seat that has remained empty on my own life council.  But as I wrote, I realized that I have had mentors along the way, women who have lit the path the ahead of me and shown me who I wanted to be. Chief among those is my friend Cyndi Finkle - a woman who so greatly influenced me when I moved to Los Angeles that I can trace so many of my decisions to her and her example. GET THE SECRET TAPES NOW When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing. This conversation is part of my SECRET TAPE series - 10 episodes of conversations with some of the people I write about in The Life Council. The Secret Tapes were created as a preorder bonus for those who purchased The Life Council ahead of its release date, but I am opening the series back up for a limited time for those who only discovered The Life Council after it was published. GET THE SECRET TAPES NOW When you sign up for The Secret Tapes, it will put you on my email list called The Secret Posts. You can unsubscribe at any time.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

The third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1!  This year we're reading two books and watching two movies together.  We'll kick off STEPHEN KING SUMMER with a movie watchalong of The Shining on Sunday, June 4 and throughout June & July we'll be reading THE STAND.  Later in the summer we'll do a movie watchalong of The Dead Zone, and in August we'll be reading King's nonfiction work ON WRITING: A memoir of the craft.  JOIN STEPHEN KING SUMMER NOW Stephen King Summer is part of my Secret Stuff Patreon membership community that offers special programs a few times a year like this one. Secret Stuff is $7/month and Stephen King Summer runs June - August. Your total would be $21 (charged monthly). When you join Secret Stuff to participate in Stephen King Summer, you also get all the other Secret Stuff goodies like personal episodes, general reading roundups, and more.  All of the Stephen King Summer meetings will take place over zoom, and the book club discussions will be recorded and turned into podcast episodes so you can listen on the go if you can't make it LIVE.  CLICK HERE for more FAQs about STEPHEN KING SUMMER Nervous to dive in to Stephen King? Things are always less scary when we do them together! Listen to EP 121: Stephen King Starter Kit for more info on why I love this author and why I want you to read him Buy STEPHEN KING SUMMER merch HERE Hope to see you this summer for the third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

Over the last few months of talking about the many layers to adult friendship as I promote my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I've received so many questions about friendship conflict and how to navigate it with grace or end a friendship with love.  I've answered these questions to the best of my ability with my own life experience, but I also know when it's time to call in a certified expert. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. Her coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships. In this episode, Danielle gives us actual scripts for how to start those hard conversations with friends. I hung onto every word.  We all have friendship conflict sometimes and get tongue-tied or scared when we need to say the hard thing. These tips and thoughts from Danielle will give you concrete take aways for your next ackward yet necessary conversation.  Learn more about Danielle Follow Danielle on IG Listen to the Friend Forward podcast   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Laura's episode of the Friend Forward podcast Secret Stuff patreon (with bonus content from this conversation)   SPONSORS: Hello Fresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU16 and use code YOU16 for 16 free meals plus free shipping Lume // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use promo code YOU to save 40% off a starter pack   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

There is something about Mary Marantz’s story and writing that I just connect so deeply with. Her memoir DIRT was one of my favorite reads of 2021 (listen to our conversation about it here) and she is back on the show to talk about her newest book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots, which came out last fall. In this episode, Mary and I talk about striving to be the most put together person in the room in the pursuit of perfection and acceptance, feeling like we need to prove that we deserve whatever success or opportunity we have, and how our little girl selves would be so happy with who we have become. (And how even still we wonder what it would be like if our lives were different.) Follow Mary Marantz on IG Listen to The Mary Marantz Show   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Eighteen months ago I started working with a business coach. It was the end of 2021 and I was, frankly, falling apart in several ways. In an effort to make something (anything) work, I hired business coach Retha Nichole to help me figure out how to prioritize the various aspects of my online work. I wanted to feel less scattered and I wanted to make more money.  At first, I felt embarrassed that I needed outside help with my business. And it wasn't an overnight fix. It has taken me almost two years (and multiple launches) to see all that has come out of this relationship, both emotionally and financially.  In this episode, I'm sharing the three most important things I've learned while working with business coach Retha Nichole: How to prioritize How to plan How to make more money In turn, Retha shares the main reasons people reach out to hire her. This conversation is not meant to sound like an infomercial - I want you to listen as a way to opening your mind to outside help in areas of your life that aren't working.    Follow Retha Nichole on IG HERE   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Big Boo Cast with Sophie Hudson and Melanie Shankle (Patreon)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to get 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs came out last month, and one of the greatest pieces of feedback I've already received is that it would make a great book club pick!  I agree wholeheartedly - I envisioned both of my books being read with a friend, partner, or group. Which is exactly why I offered a book club as a preorder bonus and why I chose The Life Council as the April book club pick for Secret Stuff (my membership community).  JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE Today's episode is a live replay of the Secret Stuff book club meeting. (Recorded and replayed with permission.) All the meetings for Secret Stuff are held on zoom, with optional participation from members, and this the best work I'm doing online right now. We talk about all kinds of things together (not just books) and it's just so meaningful to connect twice a month with this community. So you can imagine how extra special it was to meet and discuss The Life Council. If you haven't read The Life Council, you'll still appreciate this candid conversation about friendship, including our struggles and joys. If you've already read The Life Council and are ready to talk about it, I hope this episode is a stand-in for the types of conversations I hope will come out of reading this book.   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Platonic by Marisa G. Franco   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free Jenni Kayne // Go to https://www.jennikayne.com/YOU to save 15% on your first order   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

As someone who has been writing and creating on the internet for over a decade, I know first hand all the challenges that one can face in their pursuit of creative work. The desire to create is there, but the obstacles are real, especially if you become a parent and feel like your time, resources and energy are limited. My guest, Ashlee Gadd, is the perfect person to speak to his as she has just released a book called Create Anyway: The Joy of Pursuing Creativity in the Margins of Motherhood Ashlee and I ended up talking for two hours about art and perfectionism, how it takes a village to create good work, and the social media of it all. We also took a tangent and had a fascinating discussion about paid communities (including Patreon - where I host Secret Stuff), and metrics and some of the more in-the-weeds parts of content creation. That part of the conversation will be available to Secret Stuff members only. JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE I felt so inspired after talking with Ashlee. You don’t have to be a writer or online creator to enjoy this conversation. All of us are wired for some sort of creative expression and life can always get in the way of that. You can buy Ashlee’s book Create Anyway wherever you buy books. I hope this conversation inspires you to pursue your own creative outlet with abandon. Ashlee Gadd on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ashleegadd Coffee + Crumbs on Instragram: www.instagram.com/coffeeandcrumbs Ashlee Gadd on Substack: www.ashleegadd.substack.com  Ashlee Gadd on Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/ashlee_gadd/   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep. 57: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)  The Social Dilemma documentary on Netflix Deep Work by Cal Newport Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way.  Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.  And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.  This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about: Place People Our bodies Our dreams Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.  This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Episode 68: Hometown: A conversation about race   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Welcome to the final episode in my Friendship Stories series.  My guest today is someone you might recognize if you've ever emailed or DM'd the show, or you've just heard me talk about her giant contribution to 10 Things To Tell You, my book launches, and all other behind-the-scenes operations around here: Caroline! In this episode about the serendipity of friendship, Caroline tells us the story of her longtime friend Judi. After Judi experiences a tragic loss, Caroline was there for her when she needed it most. This is a story about the gift of friendship and how friends help us navigate life’s ups and downs. Throughout the course of this conversation Caroline also shares about her twin sister, Jill, which is a friendship story in and of itself.  Caroline’s multiple friendship experiences were the perfect ones to cap off this Friendship Stories series because I think it highlights the width and breadth of good friendship and its importance in our lives. This episode concludes the Friendship Stories series, which I loved putting together as part of my research and then launch of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

It's time for another episode of Favorite Things (Right Now)! As a reminder, we do Favorite Things episodes because they're fun and also because thinking about what we're really into right now is another way of making a gratitude list.  Plus who doesn't love hearing and sharing awesome things?!   On this episode, I'm sharing a variety of favorites, including: The Life Council Book Tour New Favorite Alarm Clock The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler Neon Sign Big blanket Full Panic lipstick Dog trainer Laura Beth Davidson and also Jess Koehler Aura Judy Blume Forever   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE I'm also sharing some BONUS Favorite Things in the Secret Stuff community JOIN SECRET STUFF HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown Essentialism by Greg McKeown  BONUS Episode with Emily Ley: 5 Tips for Morning Routines   SPONSORS: HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU50 and use code YOU50 for 50% off plus free shipping on your first box   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  Carol and Gloria's friendship spans a few cultural differences, including race (Carol is Asian and Gloria is Black) and a large age gap (they have twenty years between them). In this episode, Carol speaks candidly about how these differences affects their friendship and bring both challenges but also beautiful gifts.  This conversation is also one about the importance of openness and vulnerability in friendship. I do want to say that as a white woman hosting this conversation, my job here was to listen to their lived experiences that are so different from my own. Carol and Gloria listened to this episode after we recorded it to make sure that their perspectives were represented.  Carol and Gloria’s friendship definitely qualifies as unique and I think you’ll enjoy hearing about it. The FRIENDSHIP STORIES series is a set of conversations I had while writing my new book The Life Council: Every Woman Needs.  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up. My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships. While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship. I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.   BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.  But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.  For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.  Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.  To listen to the full reading tangent Shauna and I take in this conversation, you'll have to join my Secret Stuff community.  LEARN MORE ABOUT SECRET STUFF You can learn more about Shauna here Follow Shauna on IG Follow Shauna on FB Subscribe to Shauna's Substack Reading & Eating   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED: Episode 112: Who was there? (a conversation with Shauna Niequist) Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine    

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series. The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled.  This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES. Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.  Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.  I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Listen to Pantsuit Politics Follow Pantsuit Politics on IG Follow Beth on IG Follow Sarah on IG Buy their book I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening) Buy their book Now What?   MENTIONED in this episode: The Pantsuit Politics Premium Episodes on Patreon   SPONSORS: LUME // Go to LumeDeodorant.com and use code YOU for 40% your starter pack ZocDoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

The Secret Tapes and all other ORDER BONUSES for my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs are back for a limited time! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Purchase The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your receipt number to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and get all of the order bonuses including the exclusive book club, the printable discussion guide with journal prompts, and the Secret Tapes private podcast series.  CLAIM YOUR BONUSES NOW The Secret Tapes are 10 episodes of conversations with some of the friends I write about in The Life Council. These are not just idle chats, these are insightful and meaningful conversations.  You do NOT want to miss out on these bonuses. You have until midnight Sunday, April 9 to go to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and claim your bonuses. 

I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).  BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.  In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES (which expire at midnight on 4/4) Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. (my first book) Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt of The Life Council)   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Get 10% off your first month by going to BetterHelp.com/YOU   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine BUY THE BOOK: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs launches in ONE WEEK! BUY THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW This episode is an excerpt from the audiobook version of The Life Council, read by me. The sections I'm sharing here are called A Friendship Reckoning and Five Friendship Philosophies.  If you like what you hear, and want more on this topic, THE LIFE COUNCIL is available in hard cover, ebook, audiobook, and paperback on April 4! And if you PREORDER one of those versions before midnight eastern standard time on release day (April 4), then you're eligible for all of my preorder bonuses, including my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, created especially for those who preorder The Life Council.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Just one short week until The Life Council is out in the world and I can't wait! The Five Friendship Philosophies: Friendship is a To Do Believe the Best Just Go Like Every Selfie Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!  Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.  In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship. * Preorder THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs  * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs comes out in just two weeks, and so I have writing on my mind.  PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW Becoming an author has been my life's biggest dream since I was in elementary school, but I was in my 40's and had been writing professionally for over a decade before it finally happened. And, truthfully, my first two books are not what I ever pictured myself writing!  I created this episode because I really wish someone had broken down the process of writing a book for me years ago. And because I think a lot of people want to write a book, but have no idea where to start.  Although the 10 steps I walk through here follow my own process of writing nonfiction, a lot of what I'm sharing here could apply to any sort of creative endeavor. I'm talking about preparation, mindset, rituals, and radical honesty.  How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps): Be honest about the WHY (and if a book is the best format to tell your story) Decide what you’re really trying to say Outline, outline, outline Give yourself a deadline Find your rituals Measure something Write for yourself, rewrite for your audience Use an editor and don’t take the edits personally Let the book become what it’s supposed to be Call it done   MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Ep 73: I wrote a book! Ep 111: Behind the scenes of publishing, marketing, and launching a book   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is BOOKS and two of my very favorite people to talk books with are Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast.  I've been such a fan of these two women and their podcast since it launched and it is always fun to chat with them about the best books we've read lately. PREORDER my new book THE LIFE COUNCIL GET THE PREORDER BONUSES HERE Meredith and Kaytee fall into both the Business Bestie and Fellow Obsessive seats in my framework for my new book The Life Council, and we talk more about their relationship and business origin story over on my Secret Stuff patreon. But for this episode, we wanted to go straight to the reading recommendations! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Make sure to follow @meredith.reads, @notesonbookmarks, and @currentlyreadingpodcast   MENTIONED in this episode: Kaytee’s books: Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson Emily Wilde's Encyclopaedia of Faeries by Heather Fawcett The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama   Meredith’s books: The Rook by Daniel O’Malley The Drift by C.J. Tudor Daphne by Josh Malerman   Laura’s books: How To Sell A Haunted House by Grady Hendrix Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck   Also Mentioned: Kindle Oasis Casebot Kindle Case Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots The Windsor Knot by SJ Bennett The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant The Chalk Man by C.J. Tudor The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck Birdbox by Josh Malerman   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Go to Zocdoc.com/YOU to download their FREE app Prose // Go to Prose.com/YOU for your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and 15% off your first order    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.  When I was young, I always dreamed of having a pen pal. It seemed like something straight out of a movie! Well wait until you hear Sarah's story...it really is like some magical fiction.  In the years before the internet connected us all, Sarah and her childhood pen pal exchanged hundreds of letters. But when they went to college, they naturally lost touch. A very serendipitous mutual aquaintance reconnected Sarah and her long lost letter writing friend and THEN....well, you just have to listen to find out.  I just loved this story of friendship evolving through pen and paper across the decades.  * The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.  PREORDER The Life Council now!  If you preorder the book in any format from any retailer before April 4, you're also eligible for my preorder BONUSES.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE. * SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

Back In 2019, I infamously said on this podcast that the women in my business Mastermind were not my friends. Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi are back to refute that claim and also take their offical seats on my Life Council as my "Business Besties," as I write about them in my book. PREORDER THE LIFE COUNCIL NOW In this conversation we tell our Mastermind origin story, share the biggest mistake we've ever made as a group, talk through our occasional professional jealousies, and dissect what makes an actual Business Bestie.  This conversation is part of my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, a free bonus available ONLY to people who preorder my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Preorder The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your order confirmation to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com and fill out the form to get your bonuses within 24 hours - including the FULL episodes of The Secret Tapes.  CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE Follow @jamiebgolden  Follow @thelazygenius Follow @brimckoy   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi) The Popcast with Knox & Jamie The Lazy Genius podcast Bri McKoy's recipes and more    SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs will come out on April and starting TODAY you can get all three of my PREORDER BONUSES with your proof of purchase.  CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES Preorder The Life Council in any format (hard cover, paperback, ebook, or audio) and take your order/confirmation number to this page and fill out the form to get these bonuses: Discussion Guide & Journal Prompts  Entry into The Life Council Book Club with live zoom meets and an exclusive FB group dedicated to all things friendship for the next two months Access to my private podcast series called THE SECRET TAPES - 10+ episodes with friends I write about in The Life Council.  Trust me, you do not want to miss these FREE bonuses and they will go away once the book is released - they're for preorders only!  Purchase The Life Council by going to your favorite bookseller like amazon, bookshop, barnes & noble, or your local indie and make sure and save your order confirmation number.  THEN CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES HERE After we confirm your purchase, you'll get an email within 24 hours delivering all the bonuses to you! Thank you for cheering me on as I launch another book into the world. I truly think these bonuses will enhance your reading experience and can't wait for you to read The Life Council!

You're not crazy - Episode 163 has been removed from the feed.  This is a short explanation for why.  In the meantime, make sure you don't miss: BONUS: 5 Tips for Morning Routines (with Emily Ley) Ep 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm Ep 159: Reading Roundup   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

You'll have to excuse my fangirling on this episode, but it's a full conversation about something I love to talk about (routines - especially morning routines) with someone I've long admired (Simplified founder Emily Ley) and I just couldn't contain my excitement.  In this conversation you'll hear Emily Ley talk about her 5 of her best tips for a successful morning routine and she's full of grace about the whole deal. As in: do what works for you! But also here are some fresh ways to think about it.  Learn more about Emily  Buy Emily's new book Sure As the Sunrise  Follow Emily on Instagram  Follow Emily on Facebook   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Loftie Alarm Clock It's One of Use by J.T. Ellison Essentialism by Greg McKeown Atomic Habits by James Clear Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

We all have seasons of overwhelm, whether it's a packed schedule, an insane To Do list, or events that require a lot of emotional processing. I've been navigating my own overwhelm in the last few months while juggling a larger-than-normal workload with travel and family obligations. So I sat down to make a list of the things that are helping me handle it.  Circumstances are often largely out of our control, but we can still find pockets of peace that keep us in the present and help us maintain a clear mind.  I made this episode for me, but I hope it helps you, too. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski   SPONSORS: Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm. So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.  Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com. I loved chatting with Toye and hope you take as much from this conversation as I did.  

One of my core friendship philosophies is that my spouse is not my best friend.  When I talk about this, people raise their eyebrows. Some assume our marriage is in trouble or that we're ill matched. It has become so common in romantic relationship culture to claim that you're married to your best friend that anything else seems unhealthy.  But while my husband Jeff is the most important person in my life, he is NOT my best friend. He's my partner. My co parent. My lover. I have best friends, and those relationships are different. Early in our marriage, when I tried to make Jeff be my best friend, the pressure for him (and me) to be all things to one another was too much.  We both needed and wanted lots of different types of relationships in our lives. Our marriage was stronger when we were closely connected to our friends. I write more about this in my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I wanted you to hear Jeff and I talk about it with each other. We don't have the exact same take on this topic, and our perspectives shift with age and in various seasons, as almost everything does. My hope is that this conversation will give you something to think about that counters the current cultural ideal that our partners have to be our best friends. Maybe it will become a talking point with YOUR partner or with your best friends.   FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: Prose // Go to Prose.com/YOU to take your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and get 15% off your first order HelloFresh // Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU65 and use code YOU65 for 65% off your first box plus free shipping   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

This is a conversation about infidelity.  Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.  In this episode, Melissa tells us about her best friend "Lauren." This story has several jaw dropping moments, but this isn’t a perspective only about scandal. There are also so many details here about those friends - or sometimes even acquaintances - who met Melissa in the moment, just when she needed it most.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   SPONSORS: Zocdoc // Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free Betterhelp // Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is books and while I will always have occasional reading episodes here as part of 10 Things To Tell You, did you know that I do a reading roundup every single month as part of my Secret Stuff membership?  Every month on Secret Stuff I share what I've been reading lately (the good, the bad, and the unfinished), and I wanted you to have a sneak peek to what one of those episodes sounds like.  In addition to the monthly reading roundup, when you join Secret Stuff you also get personal episodes, bonus content and merch, and TWO monthly zooms led by me!  CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT SECRET STUFF This episode is presented ad free like all Secret Stuff episodes.    FULL SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: Kindle Paperwhite vs. Kindle Oasis   What Laura Read: Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin Wilson The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora, M.D. We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng Spare by Prince Harry    On Laura’s TBR List: How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix  Elektra by Jennifer Saint  Toad by Katherine Dunn  My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones Signal Fires by Dani Shapiro    Books Coming Out This Year that Laura is Excited About: Exiles by Jane Harper I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai  You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith  Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld  Those We Thought We Knew by David Joy  Chain Gang All Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah  The Ferryman by Justin Cronin  Congratulations, The Best is Over! by R. Eric Thomas  The Cook’s Book by Bri McKoy The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  Also mentioned: Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson  Perfect Little World by Kevin Wilson  Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng  Geek Love by Katherine Dunn  The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones  The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai  Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah The Passage by Justin Cronin   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.  Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.  In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.  Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Learn more about Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz on her website Follow Dr. Gilberg-Lenz on facebook, Instagram, and YouTube Buy Menopause Bootcamp by Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz   SPONSORS: Apostrophe. Go to Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5. Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.  But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?  This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.  Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE MENTIONED in this episode: Amy B. Chesler's website Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler "Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix "The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist" Documentary on Netflix "Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Documentary in Netflix I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan Who killed My Daughter by Lois Duncan Something Was Wrong podcast Unsilenced Voices podcast "A Murder in Mansfield" documentary on Amazon Prime Dirty Money podcast Dirty John podcast   SPONSORS: Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Apostrophe.com/YOU and use code YOU to get your initial visit for just $5     SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

Introducing FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where we explore different aspects of one of the most important relationships of our lives. We're going to talk about friendships that work and friendships that end. We're going to hear about soul mates, infidelity, friendship breakups, rogue bridesmaids, and more. Last year when I was researching for my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I did dozens of interviews with women about their friendships. We talked about the best parts and the worst pain of adult friendship and these stories were fascinating. I am excited to share some of them with you over the next few months leading up to the release of The Life Council. PREORDER The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs We're kicking off the series with soul mates Christi and Cindy, friends who met at work over twenty years ago when they both had toddler daughters. Though they met when their circumstances were similar, things soon changed when Christi's husband joined the military after 9/11, and their family began a life adventure that took them away from their home in Louisiana indefinitely.  In our conversation, Christi and Cindy share why their friendship works and how their opposite personalities have shaped them into better people. We talk about their first big fight, the fact that they're jealous of each other's spouses, and how their friendship has survived the long distances. They also give excellent advice for making new friends.  I wanted to kick off the Friendship Stories series with a beautiful story, and Christi and Cindy are such an excellent example of what it takes to find and maintain a friendship soul mate.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   SPONSORS: This episode is sponsored by PROSE. Take your free in-depth hair consultation quiz and get 15% off your first order today!    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

I'm hosting a class this month called Journaling for Grownups!  SIGN UP HERE I'm going to teach you: WHY journaling can change your life MYTHS of what journaling is (and is not) FOUR ways to journal that can be effective in any season We're going to talk through: ETHICS of journaling when you're writing sensitive information about yourself and others SECRECY of having a journal with deeply personal thoughts that could potentially be read by others And together we're going to: Journal together with my guided prompts using the four journaling styles  Have a Journaling for Grownups community where you can post your questions and progress Journaling for Grownups starts SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET with a 90 minutes zoom gathering The second zoom gathering will be SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET for 90 minutes **Replays will be available if you can't attend LIVE** SIGN UP HERE  Journaling for Grownups is FREE for annual members of my Secret Stuff Community  Not part of Secret Stuff? No problem - you can buy Journaling for Grownups as a stand alone class for $30 www.JournalingForGrownups.com Hope to see you there!     

Happy 2023!  As we kick off a new year, it's natural to think about what we want to do differently going forward. For me, I want to return to some habits that promote work/life balance and I'm activitely working to shift some of my mindsets by using affirmations.  Somewhere along the way I got out of the affirmation habit (I really stopped doing my whole morning routine in general) and while it was fine for awhile, I'm definitely noticing it now. The simple repetitions that you write in a journal or put on a sticky note on your mirror really do make a difference to your self-talk.  So I'm sharing the 3 affirmations and 3 habits that I'm working on in the early days of this new year, and I hope these help you as you think about the changes you want for 2023.    FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod Episode 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW Episode 145: Time Anxiety Sign up for JOURNALING for GROWNUPS   SPONSORS: Journaling for Grownups by Laura Tremaine Zocdoc.com/YOU to download the Zocdoc app for free   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

The week between Christmas and New Years is one of my favorite parts of the year. I love the reflection, the final Best Of lists, the hope and excitement for the year ahead.  In the past, I've called this final episode of the year "10 TAKEAWAYS from 20__" but as I was journaling through all that had happened in 2022, I realized that (for me) it was all about the lessons learned.  From Covid wreaking havoc to writing my second book to welcoming two new members to our household, 2022 became a season of learning how to change.  I hope that listening back to the lessons I took from the year inspires you to think about the biggest takeaways of YOUR 2022.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode: jackass forever Max the Dog Trainer The Life Council (preorder!)    SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.  This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized! Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.  As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   Laura’s Picks: I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy The Measure by Nikki Erlick The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones   Yasmin’s Picks: Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari   Steph’s Picks: Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn Ghosts by Dolly Alderton Sirens & Muses by Antonia Angress   Also Mentioned: The Line that Held Us by Dave Joy Foster by Claire Keegan The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music by Dave Grohl Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary from Apple TV+ The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta Good Inside with Dr. Becky Podcast My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro We Are All Completely Besides Ourselves by Karen Joy Fowler Booth by Karen Joy Fowler Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other by Sherry Turkle Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle   SPONSORS: PREODER The Life Council by Laura Tremaine NOW Join SECRET STUFF by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and show notes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine  

I'm sharing my Favorite Things of 2022 including my favorite style choices, kitchen items, apps, and gadgets and more.  At the end of the episode, a few listeners share their favorites, too!  We share Favorite Things on this show because it's fun and as an act of gratitude. If you share your stuff on social media, make sure to tag @10ThingsToTellYou.    Sign up for the SECRET POSTS newsletter by 12/31/22 and get the annual Not A Gift Guide  FULL SHOW NOTES ARE HERE   MENTIONED in this episode:   Kindle Paperwhite Kindle Oasis Sunday Riley Power Couple Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First Secret Stuff patreon community Not A Gift Guide CEO Glow by Sunday Riley V-Line Lifting HydroGel and Collagen Mask Clarins V-Facial Intensive Wrap Chrysler Pacifica Minivan  Life 360 app Stubbs Brand Citrus and Onion Marinade Blue’s Hogg Smokey Mountain BBQ sauce MZ Wallace bags Think Royln bags Accupuncture Canvas Lamp Jennifer Zeuner gold Margaux hoops LISTENER Favorite Things: New Babies! NPR Podcast “Up First” Waterproof Trash Can for car Currently Reading podcast Caroline Winkler YouTube Channel Calm App Google Translate App   SPONSORS: Sign up for the SECRET POSTS newsletter by 12/31/22 and get the annual Not A Gift Guide  PREORDER The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and shownotes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

We all have to start over sometimes. A project, a job, a relationship, a new year.  And for me, this podcast! 10 Things To Tell You is BACK and this week I'm sharing 10 (oops, actually 9!) prompts that will help you think through anything you're starting over. Take these prompts to your journal, to a business partner, to significant other, or anyone who is walking alongside you in your fresh start.  NOTE: Your ears are not deceiving you - one prompt is missing from this episode. I accidentally skipped prompt #7. The question was meant to be "What are your top two priorities?" so add that one in as you're journaling.     MENTIONED in this episode: Sorta Awesome podcast  Smartest Person in the Room podcast Atomic Habits by James Clear   SPONSORS: Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine   SUBSCRIBE to 10 Things To Tell You so you never miss an episode! CLICK HERE for episode show notes FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group SIGN UP for episode emails, links, and shownotes JOIN the Secret Stuff patreon BUY THE BOOK: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine PREORDER: The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs by Laura Tremaine

10 Things To Tell You is returning to weekly Tuesday episodes starting December 6! At the beginning of 2022, I took a step back from weekly podcasting in order to focus on my family, my health, and more importantly to write my second book.  And I did that!  (Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs in all formats now.) I always knew I wanted to return to podcasting, but I wasn't sure if it would be 10 Things To Tell You or if I would be ready for a new project. After I turned in The Life Council this fall, I realized I still have LOTS of things to tell. And I just love what we've created together on the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. So I'm bringing it back! I've already recorded dozens of conversations for you for 2023, including a series on friendship that is fascinating. I can't wait for you to hear it. But I wanted to go ahead and relaunch in December because I love end-of-the-year episodes designed to make us think about how to end the year strong.  10 Things To Tell You will have a fresh look, new music, and renewed energy, but the concept will stay the same: sharing ourselves is the key to connection. Each episode will continue to give you a prompt that you can take to your journal or use as a conversation starter. Because sharing yourself will make you less lonely. Sometimes we just need a little nudge.  SUBSCRIBE to the show so you don't miss a thing! SIGN UP for episode emails so that the show notes, links, and advertiser discount codes come straight to your inbox. FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram FOLLOW @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook JOIN the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   It's good to be back!      

This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you: READ SHARE NOTICE MOVE DECORATE ARMOR UP DOCUMENT PRACTICE LISTEN THANK Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together. Laura Find me on IG: @laura.tremaine Find me on FB: @mslauratremaine www.lauratremaine.com

After the final episode of 10 Things To Tell You airs, you will still be able to find me talking about books and reading (my favorite topic) in these places: On my personal Instagram account: @laura.tremaine In my free email newsletter the Secret Posts In regular episodes of my SECRET STUFF Patreon This episode is an excerpt from the SECRET STUFF Patreon podcast where I share my top books of the year (10 fiction and 10 nonfiction).  If the book episodes will be the biggest thing you'll miss about the regular 10 Things To Tell You show coming to a close, consider joining the SECRET STUFF Patreon to get your monthly reading fix. We have a book club meeting and personal reading episodes every month.  I'll be sharing this "Best Of" list to the Secret Post email subscribers this week (it's free!) and also to social media. But this shared episode is the only place I talk through why each book made the list.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE  

I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.  On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight. And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.  Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year). My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.  Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU at checkout for 20% off your first mani system Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to get Honey for free Skillshare. Go to SkillShare.com/YOU for one month free premium membership * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

My real life book club is BACK with our annual conversation about the Best Books of the Year! Please welcome my friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith back to the show for our fourth annual Best Books of the Year episode. We talk about what our reading life looked like in 2021, and then we each share a few of the best books that we read in the last twelve months.  CLICK HERE FOR THE FULL LIST OF BOOKS FROM THIS EPISODE **Please note that my OFFICIAL and FINAL Best Books of the Year 2021 list won't be posted until the very end of December. I'll share that list online and on social media. SPONSORS Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase. Ana Luisa. Go to Shop.AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 20% off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

I'm working on my next book, and while I can't give you too many details yet, I would love your help on one particular aspect:  I want your unique friendship stories! This next project is all about friendship, and I'm collecting unique friendship stories that could potentially be used in the book or part of a podcast series on the same topic.  Here's what I'm looking for: Stories about a surprise in a friendship  The heartbreak of a friendship breakup Something very unusual about a friendship (a wide age gap, for example, or a workplace friendship, etc) Something dramatic that happened within a friendship (someone saved a life, a cult infiltrated a friendship, a friend married another friend's ex, etc.) If you think you have a unique friendship story that fits this description (or anything along these lines), I would love to hear from you.  Please fill out the form HERE: https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/friendshipstories And of course feel free to share this call out with anyone who might be interested.  I can't wait to hear from you!  

I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my: Education Marriage Business & Body As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.) At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode.) SPONSORS: Acorn.TV. Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code you (all lowercase) Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first order Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Have you ever had the thoughts: I don’t have enough time Time is passing me by I’m wasting too much time If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.) In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety. I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety. I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Ritual vitamins. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial Ana Luisa jewelry. Go to Shop.AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 20% off your order * * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

I hope that you hear exactly what you need to in this episode.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE My book: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. Join the Secret Stuff Patreon If your book club read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First., sign up here to request a zoom drop-in appearance SPONSORS: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for one month of free premium membership. Prose. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your order. Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to download the browser extension  * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

We're in the home stretch of 2021 and plans for 2022 are starting to take shape. So I am so excited to welcome Sarah Hart-Unger to the show to talk about planning (rituals, philosophies, and more) and planning tools (paper planners, apps, and books).  Planning and productivity is a side hobby of mine, but Sarah Hart-Unger is much more of an expert. She's a doctor, a mom, a blogger, and has not one but TWO podcasts on these topics. You can find her blogging daily at TheShuBox.com and on her podcast Best Laid Plans (all about planning tools) and as a cohost with Laura Vanderkam on Best of Both Worlds (all about time management and work/life balance).  We had a great conversation about ALL of these things, which left me excited for the year ahead in both work and family life.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Read more about Sarah Hart-Unger Follow Sarah Hart-Unger on IG   SPONSORS Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and enter promo code YOU for 20% off your first mani system. Ana Luisa. Go to ShopAnaLuisa.com/YOU to get 20% off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Well this episode is a bit of a departure.  One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.  So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.  In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.  My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Learn more about Nic and Infinity Aquariums Follow @infinityaquariums on IG SPONSORS Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU125 for $125 off your first order.  Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first purchase. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

My annual social media challenge #OneDayHH will take place on Tuesday, November 9th 2021.  This short, informative episode will explain a little more about what #OneDayHH is, how it works, and why it's so meaningful.  #OneDayHH stands for One Day Hour by Hour, and that's what we do: document ONE DAY in our life, hour by hour. Sharing the things that don't usually get shared, like routines and spaces and outfits and all that other minutia.  We do it because it's fun, and that's reason enough. But this minisode might give you a little more inspiration to jump in.  Follow me on IG @laura.tremaine to see MY day.  For more information go to: 10ThingsToTellYou.com/OneDayHH Can't wait for you to join in with this day-in-the-life challenge this year!   

This episode is for anyone who misses being a student.  I have a running list of classic novels that I want to re-read as an adult or read for the first time because I missed them in high school English class.  And so once a year or so, I force myself to pick up those novels that end up on All Time Best lists like this one. Or this one. Or even this one.  If you have the same literary burden, this episode is meant to help you choose a classic that won't be a total bore.  I'm joined by my friend and Patreon producer Colleen Powell, a former teacher and current audio editor outside of Chicago.  Colleen helps me with the Secret Stuff Book Club, and this winter we're reading a few classic novels starting this November with Little Women by Louisa May Alcott.  Join the Secret Stuff Book Club HERE.  In our conversations, Colleen and I are sharing both the best contemporary books we've read lately AND the best classic novels we'd recommend to anyone.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE  Best Books We've Read Lately: The Guncle by Stephen Rowley A Swim in a Pond in the Rain by George Saunders The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune Oh William! by Elizabeth Strout   6 Classics You Should Read:   Frankenstein by Mary Shelley Catcher in the Rye by J.D.Salinger The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough Native Son by Richard Wright Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte Little Women by Louisa May Alcott SPONSORS: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to sign up for your trial AcornTV. Go to Acorn.tv and use promo code you (all lowercase) to try it free for 30 days. Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10things for 10% off your first 3 months Other books mentioned: Mrs. Dalloway by Virgina Woolf Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole In Cold Blood by Truman Capote Franny and Zooey by J.D. Salinger Nine Stories by J.D. Salinger My Name is Lucy Barton by Elizabeth Strout Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout This spoiler-free (well, except for Jane Eyre) reading conversation has a ton of information and opinions. Enjoy! * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

It's the last Favorite Things episode of the year! I'm sharing some real biggies for my life right now, but we also have listener voices chiming in with their Favorites of 2021.  My list includes a new pair of jeans that made me feel great, two documentaries I can't stop thinking about, and some personal choices around my home and kids.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. Sponsors: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% off your first mani system.  Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership.  Audible. Go to Audible.com/THINGS to try it free for 30 days. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Well this MONSTER of an episode is brought to you by my inability to pick and choose among the great questions I got for this session of Ask Me Anything.  I'm sharing stuff about our new house, reading nonfiction, kids & tech, purposeful "no's", how I've changed, and vulnerability hangovers.  (I might have a vulnerability hangover after this episode!) Thank you to all who sent in such question questions - I'm sorry I couldn't get to all of them.  I let it all hang out here, but for some of the questions that are even MORE personal, I'll be answering those over at Secret Stuff later this week.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Other episodes mentioned: Ep 136: 3 changes I'm Making To Find Balance Ep 104: Old Friends/New Friends  Ep 34: The Robbery   Sponsors: Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to download Molekule. Go to Molekule.com and use promo code YOU to save up to $120 off your purchase. Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for $20 off your first purchase   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine    

Fall schedules are SO full around here, and this time of year our family can easily go weeks without a meaningful conversation.  I've created 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids that you can pick and choose, modify for your family dynamics, or toss up one at a time over a week or so in order to spark great conversations between kids and adults.  These questions work for all ages (as long as the child can hold a conversation) and are a mix of light, fun, and deep.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE After I share all 10 prompts, I have a short conversation with my own kids: Lucy, age 11, and Finch, age 9.  Sponsors Olive and June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use promo code YOU for 20% off your first mani system. Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and I have long wanted to have this conversation with my friend, stylist, and breast cancer survivor Bethany Winters.  Content Warning: Bethany speaks candidly about her experience in this episode. Please take care while listening.  In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy. In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."  This is a tender and important conversation.  Follow @BethanySWinters on twitter Follow @BethanyWin on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   SPONSORS Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first three months. Acorn.tv. Go to Acorn.TV and enter promo code you for your free 30 day trial. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

My health, hormones, and heart have been on a swinging pendulum and this fall I'm on a mission to get centered. We can't control everything that's happening in the world, but we can pay attention to our bodies and our homes and our rituals to create the best space for us to thrive.  I'm sharing 3 (small-ish) changes I've been making to navigate the logistics and emotions of the last year.  1. Less liquids 2. Monotasking + Margin 3. End-of-Day rituals FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Please do let me know if you're incorporating any of these (or other) changes in your life this fall as a way to find some equilibrium.  SPONSORS: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a one-month free trial of premium membership.  Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial today. Honey. Go to JoinHoney.com/10Things to download for free! * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone seeking a life change.  We cannot, of course, plan for many of the plot twists that life throws our way. Breakups, pregnancies, a PANDEMIC...there are many major life moments that can catch us totally by surprise.  But what if we WANT to shake things up? What if we're seeking a new direction in our story?  This conversation with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty from the Saved by the City podcast is all about purposefully creating our own life plot twist.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Listen to the Saved by the City podcast Follow Roxy Stone on twitter Follow Katelyn Beaty on twitter Sponsors Prose haircare. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your first order Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your first order Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU100 to get $100 off plus free shipping * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone who needs a little style boost this fall. Okay, so it's been 18+ months of sweatpants and work-from-home pajamas and I'm over it. I want to feel cute in my clothes again. But I'm not totally sure where to start. My body has changed, my style has changed, my wardrobe needs have changed. Thank goodness for Alison Lumbatis, CEO of Get Your Pretty On and author of the new book The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas.  In this episode, Alison walks us through 10 Tips for Wardrobe Confidence, and I basically needed every single one of these. I hope this conversation gives you the motivation to clear out the closet and put your best foot (shoe?) forward.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Learn more about Alison Lumbatis Follow Alison Lumbatis on IG Learn more about Get Your Pretty On Follow Get Your Pretty On on IG Buy The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas   SPONSORS: Olive & June. Go to OliveandJune.com and use code YOU for 20% your first mani system Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU to find your new favorite shoes today * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone overwhelmed with all their STUFF.  But rest assured, this isn't just another minimalist approach to your home. It's not even a get-rid-of-everything attitude. Allie Casazza has such a relatable story about the drowning days of early motherhood and how it led her to an AHA moment about all her STUFF. Eventually she created the online movement - and now book - Declutter Like a Mother. In our conversation, Allie and I talk about the myth of the hot mess mom, how much your space matters, and more. I really liked her fresh perspective on something I've been tackling in my own life for years.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Learn more about Allie Casazza Follow Allie on IG Buy Declutter Like A Mother   SPONSORS: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months. Acorn. Go to Acorn.tv and use promo code you.   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

Kicking off Self-Improvement September with writer, podcaster, and speaker Andrea Owen, author of the new book Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength.  Andrea's backstory of hitting rock bottom while also people pleasing and "powering through" was something I could relate to,  and the tips she gives in this new book were definitely something I needed to hear right now. Learn more about Andrea Owen Follow Andrea Owen on IG Buy Make Some Noise by Andrea Owen FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

This summer I read NINE books that I gave a 5-star rating. NINE. This is unheard of, to read such incredible books all in the same couple of months. But now I'm so excited to share them with you! Join SECRET STUFF, where you'll get access to: My list of Meh Bestsellers to Skip Stephen King Summer book club recaps Fall nonfiction book club Personal updates I don't share anywhere else List of books that I talk about on this episode: The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker Misery by Stephen King Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia Billy Summers by Stephen King Who is Maud Dixon? by Alexandra Andrews Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby The Paper Palace Miranda Cowley Heller   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Other Episodes related to this one:   Ep 107: 10 Reasons to Read (with @fictionmatters Sara Hildreth) Ep 119: Best Books Lately with Anne Bogel Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit Ep 126: Books We Wish We'd Written (with Shawn Smucker)   SPONSORS:   Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to start your trial Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free month of premium membership   * Thanks so much for listening to 10 Things To Tell You!    Rating, reviewing, and sharing the podcast really helps to grow the show.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Sign Up for Episode Emails   Join the Connection Group   Listen to SECRET STUFF   Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST.     

Content warning: Child loss and suicide  This episode is one of the most tender and important I’ve ever shared on this show, and I am just so deeply grateful to Amy Ortloff for having this conversation with me and letting me make it public.  In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.  As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.  Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.  This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.  If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.  Read Amy Ortloff's blog Keep Going Follow Amy Ortloff on Facebook here * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Please share this episode with anyone who might need to listen to Amy's story.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

I'm so happy to welcome fellow debut author Sarah Bragg to the show! Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself: What Parenting Taught Me About Life, Faith, and Myself is out this week. We have a great conversation about permission in motherhood and finding our voices.  Find out more about Sarah Bragg Follow Sarah Bragg on IG Buy Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself * Thanks for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

Making a Favorite Things list is an act of gratitude.  And I remind you of this every 10 episodes of 10 Things To Tell You by listing 10 of my favorite things that are always all over the map: gifts, books, beauty products, philosophies, whatever I'm using or loving or thinking about right now.  And I want YOU to take a few minutes this week and think about 10 things that are bringing your joy. And then I want you to share those things somewhere, either with a friend or social media, or just in your journal or planner.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE My 10 Favorite Things Right Now: 1. Bartesian 2. Shoes (Born sandals and Amanu custom sandals) 3. Grounded candle and lotion 4. Mailerlite  5. Reading with YOU (IG Reading Parties + Secret Stuff book club) 6. Trampoline 7. Getting back to things that tether you 8. Being an aunt 9. Eye stuff: StriVectin anti-wrinkle eye concentrate and Maybelline Sky High mascara 10. Tremaine fish tank   SPONSORS: Rothy's. Go to Rothys.com/YOU to find your new favorite pair of shoes Betterhelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Acorn.tv. Go to Acorn.tv and enter promo code you (all lowercase) to try it for free for 30 days * Thanks for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Sign Up for Episode Emails Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine Join SECRET STUFF Patreon

This conversation with Leeana Tankersley kicks off a series of BONUS author episodes coming through the fall. Hope Anyway is Leeana Tankersley’s sixth book, and it comes after Tankersley found herself sorting through immense grief following the unexpected end of her long marriage. Leeana Tankersley is funny and relatable and a great writer. I just loved our conversation that was full of vulnerable moments (me) and kind wisdom (her). Buy HOPE ANYWAY Learn more about Leeana Tankersley Follow @LeeanaTankersley on IG JOIN SECRET STUFF   Mentioned in this episode: Shauna Niequist #OneDayHH online challenge Learning to Walk in the Dark by Barbara Brown Taylor Ep 122: Don’t Give Away Your Power (10 Thoughts on Turning 42) * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB

Exactly 20 years ago, I was in the middle of the biggest year of my life. I graduated college, moved to Los Angeles, was grieving a devastating heartbreak, and the country was weeks away from the tragedy of 9/11.  In this episode, I am asking YOU to think about the biggest year of your life. The answer may not be so obvious from the outside; it may not be the year you moved or married or had a baby or changed careers. The biggest year of your life may be full of loss or transformation, or both.  Twenty years ago in 2001, I moved across the country with someone I barely knew. We rented an apartment together, figured out Los Angeles together, made friends together, and, eventually, worked on jackass the movie together (something that changed both of our lives).  This is the first time I've ever shared a public conversation with my old friend and roommate Dr. Megan, even though I've been talking and writing about our time together for two decades now.  * Mentioned in this episode: Ep 77: What's Your BIG Story? FULL SHOW NOTES HERE * SPONSORS: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial today * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Ready to bust out the air mattresses?  This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful. Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month.  Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups.  I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a one-month trial of premium membership.  Native. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU or enter promo code YOU for 20% off your first order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

My mom returns to the podcast with some new thoughts about how she feels having a daughter who shares herself on the internet, the advice she would give mid-life women, and a long ago conversation between us in the car when she realized there was something...strange...about me.  I love to feature real conversations with friends and loved ones on this show. My mom is one of my favorite people, and I'm grateful she's willing to make these conversations public.  This was a fun, sweet hour together and I encourage YOU to sit down with someone this week and have a meaningful chat.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: NOOM. Sign up for your trial at Noom.com/10Things Acorn.tv. Try Acorn.tv free for 30 days by using promo code you (all lowercase) * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF BUY Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

This conversation with my old friend Shawn Smucker is one of the best I've had in awhile. We talk about reading and ghost writing and self-publishing and (not) censoring what our kids read.  And we also talk about the books we wish we'd written. Somehow I shock Shawn with one of my answers! Shawn Smucker is the author of six novels, including his latest The Weight of Memory (which I devoured in a day). Shawn calls The Weight of Memory "a modern day fairy tale."  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE You can hear more about the trip to Sri Lanka where Shawn and I met in my Secret Tapes interviews (part of my Secret Stuff private podcast).  Sponsors: Prose haircare. Get 15% off your first order by going to Prose.com/YOU Molekule air purifiers. Save up to $120 off by going to Molekule.com and using promo code YOU * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Let's connect: Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to Secret Stuff Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for you and someone else. These 10 Questions are meant for couples, but this isn't a big sit-down heart-to-heart. This is meant to be FUN. Stay open to your own answers and don't assume you know your partner's answers.  Because the main point of these particular prompts is to build CONNECTION. The questions don't go too deep (in case you have a partner resistant to this type of conversation), but you should definitely come away from any discussion using these prompts feeling just a little bit closer.  Most of the prompt episodes like 10 Questions for the End of the Year or 10 Questions to Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything or  10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic are great for groups or families, but they also work well for your own introspection and journaling. THIS episode, though, this one is MEANT to be shared with someone else. And while I primarily had romantic couples in mind when I wrote the questions, they're definitely not lovey-dovey. If you don't have a partner, these prompts would also work well with a best friend or a roommate.  I share all 10 Questions with you at the beginning of the episode, then sit down with my husband Jeff Tremaine to use the prompts as a starting point for our own conversation.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE JOIN THE Stephen King SUMMER BOOK CLUB ON SECRET STUFF   Thank you to our sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months. Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off your entire order. Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/YOU100 for $100 off plus free shipping. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine      

Every now and then I like to show a little peek behind the curtain. Whether you’re a current podcaster, an aspiring one, or just a curious listener, I hope you learn something in this episode about creating a weekly podcast. I’m sharing my thoughts on producing a show, what equipment I use to record, editing episodes, hidden costs, and making money. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Mentioned: Stephen King Summer book club on Secret Stuff Ep 73: I wrote a book! Ep 111: Behind the Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book SPONSORS: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership.  * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to Secret Stuff Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

As you might imagine, this episode isn't all about vanity. We all know appearance isn't everything. But it's almost impossible to dismiss it entirely.  So this episode is a mix of practical tips and also some mindset shifts.  I made this episode for me. But I hope it's helpful for you.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU for your pair Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

June is my birthday month and so of course I'm feeling (extra) reflective.  In this episode I'm sharing 10 Things I Learned (or am still learning) in the last year. A year that included a worldwide pandemic, publishing my first book, and moving houses after a decade.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Related episodes: Ep 115: Taking Up Space (A conversation with Kate Kennedy) Ep 114: How To Feel Like YOU (when you don't) Ep 109: 8 Tips to Celebrate Yourself Ep 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic Ep 97: Top 10 Takeaways from 2020 Ep 87: 3 Mistakes I've Made Recently Ep 77: What's Your BIG Story?   SPONSORS: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% your first month.   * Thank you for listening to and sharing 10 Things To Tell You!  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Stephen King is a genius and I believe we will one day study him in academic settings like we do other literary giants.  (He's also my favorite author.) I'm making a case today for why YOU should read this master storyteller. He has created some of the most iconic characters and plot lines and imagery in history, but he gets a bad rap from casual readers because his most popular work is horror.  But horror as a genre might not be what you think it is. I believe you can handle it, or at least some of it. And I don't think readers should dismiss such an important author just because his work is deemed "scary."  In this episode we talk about: Why Stephen King matters His brief biography What stands out about his writing and his stories My personal favorites Where you should start CLICK TO SIGN UP FOR Stephen King SUMMER BOOK CLUB Join us in reading Carrie by Stephen King over on my private podcast SECRET STUFF where I'm hosting Stephen King Summer. Full show notes here Thanks to our sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off your entire order Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial today * Thank you for sharing the show! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Join the SECRET STUFF private podcast Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine   

One of the most personal and meaningful projects I’ve ever made was my podcast series called The Secret Tapes. It's a series of interviews I did with the people I write about in my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.  The Secret Tapes were released in January solely to people who preordered SYSIGF.  But now the Secret Tapes are a part of Secret Stuff, the private podcast I launched on Patreon. All eleven episodes of conversation and interviews are available as part of the Secret Stuff membership.  This BONUS episode is a snippet of the Secret Tapes conversation I had with my parents. Let's just say that their recollections of everything I wrote about in SYSIGF are slightly different.  If you enjoy this snippet and want to hear the whole thing (along with all ten of the other conversations), sign up for Secret Stuff now!  The Secret Tapes are now part of SECRET STUFF. Don't miss out.    

Favorite Things! Again! I'm sharing my current favorites: including home stuff, beauty products, travel outfits, what's helping me sleep, a new bra obsession, and what I can't stop giving as a gift.  In case you hadn't noticed, I moved the frequency of the Favorite Things (Right Now) episodes up from every twenty episodes to every TEN. This was in direct reaction to your feedback on the listener survey, so thank you for listening, sharing, and making this show better all the time.  And remember, the Favorite Things episodes are meant to inspire YOU to share YOUR favorite things (doesn't have to be 10). Post on social media, text a friend, start a great conversation over a meal. Share your stuff. (Literally.) FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free premium trial Native. Go to NativeDeo.com for 20% off your first order * Thanks so much for your support! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the SECRET STUFF Read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

The fabulous Anne Bogel of What Should I Read Next? returns to the show to talk about her 2021 Summer Reading Guide and the best books she’s read lately. Anne Bogel (aka Modern Mrs. Darcy) is one of my favorite people to talk books and reading with, and I look forward to her annual Summer Reading Guide each year. We talk about how long it takes her to make the guide, and what her reading life looks like after she’s done. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE I also share the best things I’ve read lately (thank goodness my reading life is mostly back to normal!) and of course I kick off the show with a little announcement about my latest project Secret Stuff. JOIN ME FOR SECRET STUFF HERE Follow @annebogel on IG Listen to the What Should I Read Next? podcast Get the 2021 Summer Reading Guide Here * SPONSORS: NOOM. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial ROTHY’S. Go to Rothys.com/YOU to find a new favorite pair of shoes NOTECUBE. Go to TheNoteCube.com and enter promo code YOU for 20% off * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your reviews and social shares mean so much to the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Listen to the Secret Stuff Read Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

I am so excited to let you in on a little secret: my latest project, a private podcast called Secret Stuff.  SIGN UP FOR SECRET STUFF HERE I am so excited to combine the ideas behind my podcast 10 Things To Tell You, my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First, and my newsletter the Secret Posts into SECRET STUFF. Secret Stuff will be a membership hosted by Patreon.  Monthly content will include: BONUS Books & Reading episodes (with all my honest reviews, Best Of lists, and secret content that didn't make it into the main podcast episode). EXTRA conversations with friends and guests. PERSONAL topics that are just too sensitive to throw into an IG caption. Each season there will be a SPECIAL program like: Stephen King Summer (let's read my favorite author together - don't be scared!) Journaling for Adults class  and more... To be clear, the 10 Things To Tell You podcast isn't going anywhere. I love making this show and it will stay free and weekly.  But if you're ready to go to the next level.... JOIN ME FOR THE SECRET STUFF More details here.... * Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB

We're kicking off the summer season with 10 Questions that will help make it successful.  Answer these prompts in your journal or with a partner, or go around the table with your colleagues or family. These questions are slightly summer-flavored, but really they could used at the beginning of any season.  Mentioned in this episode: SIGN UP FOR THE SECRET POSTS Ep 106: 10 Questions for 1 year of the pandemic Ep 95: 10 Questions for the end of the year Ep 76: 10 Questions to ask yourself in the middle of anything Ep 23: What are you measuring? FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Prose. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your first order. Hello Fresh. Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU12 for 12 free meals.   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings, reviews, and social shares mean everything.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine 

When I stumble across someone on the internet who is sharing themselves in a very vulnerable or very unique way, I take notice. And this is what happened when I found Danielle and Adam of Marriage and Martinis. Their podcast goes ALL THE WAY there. They talk about their relationship and also just LIFE in a way that I don’t think I’ve heard anywhere else.  In this episode, I talk with Danielle about the Marriage and Martinis origin story, why they've chosen to share their relationship in such an open way, and how their friends, family, and community have responded to their honesty.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Listen to Marriage and Martinis Follow Marriage and Martinis on IG Follow Marriage and Martinis on FB Buy their Date Night Questions Ebook   SPONSOR Green Chef. Go to GreenChef.com/90YOU for $90 off including free shipping. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings and shares help to grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'll GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine

One of the things we’ve never discussed on this show is MONEY. Even though I know it’s one of the topics that we wish people spoke more openly about. A lot of us are flying pretty blind in our money situation. Are we making enough? Are we saving enough? Are we spending or investing it right? How much money could I *actually* make if I started a side hustle? A year of the pandemic has made a lot people rethink their careers, and there’s a lot of interest in going full time freelance, pursuing a passion, or monetizing a creative pursuit. My guest for this episode is Katelyn Magnuson, aka The Freelance CFO, and she’s here to give us 10 Tips for Going Freelance. We start with some basics, but i’ve been in the freelance game for over a decade, and I still learned a lot in this conversation. Find about more about The Freelance CFO Katelyn Magnuson Follow @katelyn.magnuson on IG Follow @thefreelancecfo on FB   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% your first month AcornTV. Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code you (all lowercase) for a free 30 day trial * Thank you for listening and sharing 10 Things To Tell You! Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine

Now THIS is a topic I've been wanting to cover for a long time. Because whenever I do a social media challenge (like the currently running #OneDayMay) and I encourage people to post a selfie (as I often do), I scroll through tons of posts where women are APOLOGIZING for their self-portrait in the caption. There are many reasons both personal and cultural that we feel extra vulnerable about taking and sharing selfies on social media, but in this episode I’m talking about the three most common reasons I see: We’re unhappy with the way we look We feel like selfies are indulgent, narcissistic, and annoying We don’t mind being in photos, but we wish someone else was taking them I look at selfies from all kinds of angles in this episode, hoping that it leads away from selfie shame and into selfie empowerment. But I also want to talk about why we judge other people’s selfies, and my unpopular opinion about oversharing. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. SPONSORS: Rothys. Go to Rothys.com/YOU to shop (and HERE is the style I chose for myself) Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings and shares really help grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

Author Nora Zelevansky is my the very first novelist I've ever had on 10 Things To Tell You! We're discussing her new book (out May 11) Competitive Grieving, a darkly comic novel about the dynamics of friendship following loss. Competitive Grieving is inspired by true events in Nora's life, and we talk about the themes and and relatability of her fictionalized version.  Nora was one of the first friends I ever made in Los Angeles, and she's also one of the co-founders of the original book club I talk about so often. We have been friends, confidants, and cheerleaders for one another for almost two decades and I am so happy to welcome her to the show.  Competitive Grieving is Nora Zelevansky's third novel and this is a spoiler-free conversation.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE.  Follow @norazelevansky on IG Buy Competitive Grieving here * Thank you for listening and sharing 10 Things To Tell You. Ratings, reviews, and social media shares do so much to grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine  

When I first found Kate Kennedy's podcast Be There in Five, I just wanted Taylor Swift analysis. But I stayed for her series on Mommy Bloggers. Then I couldn't get enough of her pop culture commentary, hilarious tangents, and well-researched episodes about everything I wanted to talk about (that other people weren't talking about).  I also texted every podcast friend I have to ask, "Have you seen what Kate Kennedy is doing?" Because her show was defying all the rules. Be There in Five's episodes are often 2+ hours long, and mostly solo. It was empowering to watch a woman unapologetically take up so much space with her words and ideas and air time. AND be smart and funny on top of it.  So I was beyond excited to have this conversation with Kate about leaning into your skillset, finding your own personal "football game," and what "being authentic" means when you're one person online and another with your family. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE. Listen to Be There in Five Follow Kate Kennedy on IG Buy Twinkle Twinkle Social Media Star   SPONSORS: Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off wireless earbuds.   * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Your ratings and shares mean so much for the growth of the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine

I made this episode for me. But I hope you enjoy it, too.  A few thoughts on feeling more like yourself when you've been out of sorts.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your free trial. Storyworth. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off your order. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really help grow the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @Laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine

It feels high time for another social media challenge, right? To get us into the habit of sharing ourselves and simply for FUN.  As a spinoff of my popular annual challenge #OneDayHH and last year's quarantine challenge #OneDayCV, I'm introducing #OneDayMAY. Thirty-one mini prompts for every day in the month of May, designed to get us sharing.  Because I believe sharing is the antidote to loneliness and the key to connection. I also know that it doesn't come naturally to everyone. These social media challenges are happy, helpful prompts that get us to show up and be present.  You can view all of the prompts HERE.  I'll also be posting them daily on IG @10ThingsToTellYou And answering them for myself on IG @laura.tremaine See you on social media starting May 1! SPONSOR for the Bonus episode: Thirdlove. Go to Thirdlove.com/10Things for 20% off your first order.  

Good news! My reading rhythms are back, which means more book content than ever before. I am so happy to share this conversation with Sarah from Sarah's Bookshelves Live about the best books we've read lately.  Follow @sarahsbookshelves on IG Listen to Sarah's Bookshelves Live podcast FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first month. Molekule. Go to Molekule.com and enter promo code YOU to save up to $120 off your order plus free shipping. Best Fiends. Download Best Fiends FREE today. * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Your reviews and shares mean so much. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine  

Whenever I hear someone speak of a mentor or extra wise friend, I always think about my relationship with Shauna Niequist. We met working together at a summer camp when we were both young, and she then has offered me truth and guidance for more than two decades. Shauna Niequist is a NYT best-selling author of five books: Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, and Present Over Perfect. She lives in New York City with her husband Aaron and their two sons. I wrote about Shauna in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. in Chapter 2: Who was there? Shauna was there in one of the most important conversations of my life, when I called her heartbroken in Oklahoma and she answered the phone at exactly the right moment in Chicago.  In this episode, we talk about belonging, and magical moments, and books (because we both just love to talk about books). As usual, she left me with several things to ponder after we were done speaking, specifically about what we're actually saying when we share our pain.  Follow Shauna on IG Follow Shauna on FB FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Prose. Go to Prose.com/YOU for 15% off your first order. Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off your order * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Rating and sharing the show really matters to finding an audience.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @Laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone interested in the peek behind the curtain of the book publishing industry.  Back when writing a book was just a dream, I made a promise to myself that if I ever published, I would share the experience openly and candidly. I used to crave all the information about agents and book deals and publicity and marketing and all the things that it seemed like authors very rarely talked about. Back on Ep 73: I wrote a book! I shared about everything I knew up to that point: getting attention from agents, shopping a book proposal, and, of course, writing and editing my first book. Because I'm now on the other side of the book launch, this episode is a follow up to Ep 73. Here we're going to talk about mostly marketing: Are preorder bonuses a bribe? Is traditional publishing going the way of the dinosaur? Who pays for the publicity? How does getting paid to write a book work? I'm joined for this conversation by my friend Kelly Gordon, because I knew she would be a great person to talk through this topic. Kelly is a co-host of the Sorta Awesome podcast.  Follow Kelly on IG Follow Sorta Awesome on IG Also on the show, I mention two other places I'm doing a deep dive on the publishing process: The Big Boo Cast BONUS episode with Laura Tremaine Laura Tremaine as a Tuesday Teacher for hope*writers   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Native Deodorant. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order.  * Thank you for listening to 10 Things To Tell You. Rating and reviewing the show on iTunes and sharing on social media really helps to grow our audience.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'll GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine

It’s time for another Favorite Things episode! If Episode 100 was a Favorite Things HALL OF FAME, Episode 110 is back to my regularly scheduled Favorite Things RIGHT NOW. My current favorite reads, follows, apps, gadgets, beauty products, whatever I’m into currently lands on these Favorite Things episodes, and this one is full of great recommendations. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Remember to sign up for the episode emails if you want the show notes to come straight to your inbox every week. You can also sign up for the Secret Posts, which is my monthly-ish personal newsletter full of all the things I don’t share anywhere else. SPONSORS Noom. Sign up for your trial today at Noom.com/10Things Rothys. Check out Rothys.com/YOU Notecube. Get 20% off at Notecube.com with promo code YOU   * Thank you for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. Subscribing, iTunes ratings & reviews, and sharing really help the show. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @laura.tremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Sign Up for Secret Posts Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST. by Laura Tremaine

This is one of the best conversations I’ve had this year with the author of one of the best books I’ve read this year. Mary Marantz is a writer, podcaster, speaker, and the author of the book DIRT: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful. I read this memoir after I appeared on Mary’s podcast The Mary Marantz show and I was blown away by her writing and her story. In our conversation, Mary and I talk about our similarities growing up in the country and then choosing to flee from it, only to discover that our roots will always be a part of our soul. There are so many parts of Mary’s story that I relate to, things that I’ve never said out loud and things that I’ve never seen expressed so beautifully. At one point, I get choked up sharing something that I’ve never shared publicly. I hope you’ll enjoy this special conversation. Buy DIRT by Mary Marantz Follow @marymarantz on IG Listen to The Mary Marantz show FULL SHOW NOTES HERE   Sponsors: Ana Luisa. Get 10% off all products by going to AnaLuisa.com/YOU Hello Fresh. Go to HelloFresh.com/YOU12 for 12 Free Meals    * Thank you for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. Your ratings, reviews, and shares mean so much to the show.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine

This is not a suggestion to pour a glass of wine and take a hot bath. We're not talking self-care here. We're CELEBRATING.  Whether it's a milestone birthday, a promotion at work, or anything else you deem worthy of a major moment, don't wait on someone else to throw you a party. You can host your own event celebrating...YOU.  It's not weird. It's fun. And it's better than a pity party.  I'm sharing 8 tips for celebrating YOURSELF, from weekend trips to simple birthday dinners. Attitude adjustments and practical things to think about.  The world is starting to open back up again and it's time to celebrate.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Best Fiends. Download Best Fiends for free! Ritual. Get 10% off your first 3 months of Ritual vitamins. * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @laura.tremaine on FB Sign Up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine  

Not at all sorry to have two books & reading episodes in a row! Especially because my guests for this Best Books Lately conversation are two of my favorites voices in the book-ish world. Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb are the two women behind the Currently Reading podcast and I think that you will love their varied recommendations in our conversation. (I contribute almost nothing of value to this episode since my reading habits have been so out-of-whack, however I do talk about a few recent best sellers that just didn’t do it for me.) I hope hearing us talk about what books we’ve loved (or haven’t) so far in 2021 will spark your own conversations or that you share on social media. FULL SHOW NOTES (and book recommendations) HERE Where To Find Meredith & Kaytee: Meredith on Instagram // Kaytee on Instagram Currently Reading Podcast // Currently Reading Podcast on Instagram   Sponsors: Thirdlove. Go to Thirdlove.com/10Things for 20% off your first purchase. Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership. Ana Luisa. Go to AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 10% off your purchase.   * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast!   Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Follow @laura.tremaine on IG   Follow @mslauratremaine on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine 

In March of 2020, just three weeks into the global pandemic bringing Los Angeles to a standstill, we recorded a family episode called Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want to Quarantine With (the Tremaines Wave Hello).  And now we're back....only it's been ONE YEAR of the pandemic and we still haven't returned to school or work full time. Our family (me, my husband Jeff, our 11 year old daughter Lucy, and our 9 year old son Finch) returned to the couch and the microphone to talk about the last year has looked like for us.  We used the loose framework and questions from Episode 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic to talk about the challenges of joys of the last twelve months.  I hope that our family conversation sparks one of your own, whether you record it or not.  Further listening: Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want To Quarantine With (The Tremaines Wave Hello) Ep 69: 22+ Things We've Watched During Quarantine FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Listenable. Go to Listenable.io and use code YOU for 50% off a year of unlimited access Ana Luisa. Go to AnaLuisa.com/YOU for 10% all products * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter.    Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB   Follow @laura.tremaine on IG   Follow @mslauratremaine on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine 

Let’s talk about books that are NOT my book! In the last few months while launching my first book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First., my personal reading life has taken a major nosedive. For the first time in years, I’ve been unable to focus on reading any sort of fiction with consistency. But after I had this conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters and the Novel Pairings podcast, I suddenly had a renewed interest in my favorite hobby of all time: READING! Sara just brings that out in people. In this conversation, Sara and I each share 5 reasons we read fiction, why it has matters to us personally and how it changes the world. I just loved chatting with her and we could have talked for hours. I hope this episode makes you run to your bookshelves or sparks a great conversation about why reading fiction matters to YOU. Follow Sara on IG @fictionmatters Sign up for Sara’s Fiction Matters newsletter Listen to her podcast @novelpairings   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Click HERE to sign up for the 10 Books That Shaped Me freebie   SPONSORS ROTHYS. Go to Rothys.com/YOU RAYCON. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off NOOM. Go to Noom.com/10Things to start your trial   * Thanks for listening to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast! Your ratings, reviews, and shares really matter.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This month marks one year of the coronavirus pandemic really changing our lives. To mark that time, I’m offering 10 Questions for you to journal through or use as a framework for important conversations with friends, family, coworkers, or online. Let’s talk about the ways in which we’re different, and that we’re the same. Let’s talk about what we learned and what we regret. Let’s talk about what was reset, and what we’ll never again take for granted. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE SPONSORS: BetterHelp. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month Magic Spoon. Go to MagicSpoon.com/YOU for $5 off your first order * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone curious about vanity procedures for your skin.  At long last, Jamie Golden returns to the show! Jamie is responsible for the THE MOST DOWNLOADED episode of 10TTTY ever: Episode 14 Makeup & Skincare. This time she's back to talk about anti-aging, but less about products and more about procedures.  Jamie and I share our own experiences with botox, lasers, and filler (yes, filler) in our own faces, because we both wish women would dish on this stuff more often.  You might know Jamie from her popular podcasts The Popcast and the Bible Binge, or from her hilarious social media presence on IG & twitter.  Follow @jamiebgolden on IG Follow @jamiebgolden on twitter FULL SHOW NOTES FOR THIS EPISODE HERE Sponsors: Ritual. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% your first 3 months Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things for your trial membership * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the Connection Group Buy Laura's book SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST.   

I am super excited to welcome fellow podcaster and fellow February author to the show. Zibby Owens is the podcaster behind the popular show Moms Don't Have Time To Read Books, where she has some of the greatest author interviews.  But now Zibby herself is the author! This week she released Moms Don't Have Time To....A Quarantine Anthology, with essays about not having time to read, work out, eat, have sex, or breathe. All written by some of the fabulous authors that have appeared on her podcast.  Something extra special about the anthology is that all proceeds go to the Susan Felice Owens Program for Covid-19 Vaccine Research at Mount Sinai Health System.  Follow @momsdonthavetimetoreadbooks Buy Moms Don't Have Time To...A Quarantine Anthology FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsor: Thirdlove. Go to ThirdLove.com/10Things to get 20% off your first purchase * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine

This supersized episode is actually two conversations: the first with one of my oldest and dearest friends, Kimi Dallman, a bridesmaid in my wedding and childhood friend from summer camp and the second with a new-er mom friend, Tracy Herriott, a friend I've traveled with more in the last four years than anyone else in adulthood besides my husband.  Old friends and new friends have different benefits and fill really different spaces in our lives. I wanted to have these conversations with two women who mean a lot to me, and encourage YOU to reach out to the old friends who have been there through every season, and to feel gratitude for the new friends in your life who only know the most current version of yourself.  Kimi Dallman founded Switch Matt Dallman's BBQ is called Live Coals Tracy Herriott posts amazing photos on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Sponsors: Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free trial of premium membership Betterhelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group BUY Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This episode is for anyone who thinks journaling is just for heartbroken teenage girls.  I'm sharing 8 thoughts on Journaling for Grownups: What to ask yourself about journaling What to let go of (and what to cling to) Methods of journaling to try And the BIG tip that will give you journal freedom Mentioned in this episode: My BOOK! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.  Episode 9: 10 Ways To Journal Ep 88: Write Down Right Now (10 Journal prompts for this historic moment) Full show notes here. SPONSORS: Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off your order Native Deodorant. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up for episode emails Follow @Laura.tremaine on IG Get the Secret Posts Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.

My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. launches into the world this week!  This book was born out of this podcast. So if you enjoy this show, you will LOVE the book version.  I think it will spark deeper connections in your conversations and meaningful introspection within yourself.  But as much as I talk about SHARING on this show....I'm ready to talk a little bit about the STUFF part of "Share Your Stuff."  Because we all have baggage. Pain. Traumas. Triumphs.  And on this episode, I'm dipping into a few very vulnerable things that have happened to me over the last ten years that led me to a place to write this book. Times when I've been knocked down for my sharing. When I questioned myself because someone told me to be smaller.  This isn't something I've ever talked about online, but I think it is time to share it now. During launch week.  I'm going first.  * Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

This is an extra special episode, because I'm giving you a FREE chapter from my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.  In Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First., each chapter asks one BIG question (a lot like this show!) and then I answer the question in essay form.  Chapter 3 asks: What are you afraid of? I know this is a deep question to dig in on, and not every single question in the book requires vulnerability. But if I only let you read one thing, I wanted it to be about your fears. Because a lot of us have lived with a lot of fear in the past year, and naming it makes it less scary.  This chapter will also be a good sample of what to expect in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First., which releases on 2/2. BONUS: There's also an excerpt in this episode of the foreward to the book, written and read by my friend Jenna Fischer.  Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions to take your friendships to the next level.  If you purchase before 2/2, you're eligible for the book BONUSES. Sign up for those here.  Full show notes here.  SPONSORS: Molekule use discount code YOU for 10% off your first order. Ritual. Use this link to get 10% off your first three months. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Introducing The Secret Tapes, a private podcast series I created ONLY for people who have purchased my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. The Secret Tapes are conversations with the people I write about in the book, along with behind the scenes commentary about many of the stories I share in the pages of Share Your Stuff. You know how when you read a memoir, you always wonder what the author’s family and friends thought about what they wrote? You know how you always want just a little bit more? The Secret Tapes is the MORE. These conversations are hard and beautiful and funny and complicated, and these short little snippets gives you a taste of what you’ll hear in the episodes. Want to hear the full conversations? You’ll have to order Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. (It’s available on amazon, Bookshop, Target, Barnes & Noble, audible, or from your favorite local bookstore.) Take your receipt/order/confirmation number to the Share Your Stuff Book Bonuses page and fill out the form. You’ll immediately get an email with access to all THREE of the Book Bonuses, including the Secret Posts. Questions? Email [email protected] for tips or troubleshooting. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the Connection Group Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for the Secret Posts emails Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First: 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level  

Holy Moses it's episode 100!! We're celebrating this milestone with a Favorite Things Hall of Fame. These are some of my favorite things across these categories: Beauty Products Books & Writing Intimates Food Gadgets Online platforms & Follows Podcasts Shopping  Home  Journals & Planner I know...it's a LOT of favorites.  Many of these I've talked about regularly, but some might be new to you. And best of all: it's all in one place! FULL SHOW NOTES (with links) HERE * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB Sign up for the SECRET POSTS Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine * Sponsors: The Balanced Life. Go to TheBalancedLife.com/YOU to sign up for the free Pilates Strong 5-day challenge. Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free premium membership trial  

In this BONUS episode we’re talking about pelvic floor health, which is something I’ve been wanting to talk about on the show for a long time. I REALLY wish women talked more about this topic with one another, and understand the effects of pelvic floor health on our overall health, including our sex lives and incontinence. My guest is MaryEllen Reider, co-creator of the women’s wellness device YARLAP. The YARLAP is an FDA-approved device, and it recently won an Women’s Health FEMTECH award. (Please note: I have not tried it yet.) We talk about the importance of pelvic floor, what is happening in your body when you orgasm (or don’t), when you can’t control your urge to urinate, and more. MaryEllen offered a discount code to listeners, (enter Joy at checkout for 30% off) but I want to be clear that this is not sponsored, nor is it a partnership or affiliate. I just wanted to start this conversation among women. Learn more about Yarlap here. Follow @yarlap_otc on IG FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  

This episode is for anything who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult.  Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person? This conversation with Heather Adams about searching for a best friend is tender for both of us. I just became acquainted with Heather in 2020, because she is the CEO and founder of Choice Publicity, the firm helping me with the Share Your Stuff book launch, but when I heard her podcast episode on This Intentional Life about her quest for an adult best friend, I knew I wanted her to talk about it on 10 Things To Tell You.  FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @heatherdixonadams on IG Follow @choicepublicity on IG Listen to This Intentional Life podcast  SPONSORS: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Raycon. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% your first order. * Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST by Laura Tremaine Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group  

This episode is for anyone who wants to start a book club! **Have you purchased my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First? If so, SIGN UP FOR PREORDER BONUSES HERE.** People love the idea of being in a book club, but I think most of us would rather join an already formed group, with procedures in place and a warm and fuzzy vibe already established. But if that isn’t readily available to you, guess what the next best thing is? Start one yourself! GET MY BOOK CLUB BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS HERE It doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task. You don’t have to have a lot of people (really!) and you don’t have to have a perfectly articulated theme or objective. What you want to do is read, and then talk about what you read with someone else. It really is that simple. But beyond that, it’s nice to have some basics: Identify your WHY Choose members wisely Decide on some logistics (like how to choose a book, who leads the discussion) Set expectations early Have your first meeting Adjust as necessary Sure, there are some details that can be fun or tedious: choosing a schedule, consistent communication), but start with the fundamentals, keep it as simple as possible, and figure out what REALLY works for your group. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE     THIS WEEK'S SPONSORS: RITUAL. Go to Ritual.com/10Things for 10% off your first 3 months THE BALANCED LIFE. Go to TheBalancedLifeOnline.com/YOU to sign up for the FREE Pilates challenge * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign Up to receive episode emails    

This episode is for those who just can't get enough book talk.  On Episode 96, my real life Book Club shared our top 3-ish favorite books of the year. And while I loved that discussion, there are still so many great books from 2020 I wanted to share with you! So as promised, this is a BONUS episode with my full list of favorite reads in 2020. FULL BOOK LIST HERE. You can preorder my book! Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. And sign up for the PREORDER BONUSES.  * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Follow @laura.tremaine on IG Follow @mslauratremaine on FB

This episode is for anyone reflecting back on this bizarre year and trying to find some silver linings. Well, it’s been a YEAR, right? One for the history books. But in this episode, I’m not looking at what 2020 will mean for the world at large, but I am sharing my top 10 personal takeaways. What I learned in my business, in our family, how we consume entertainment, and so much more. I hope that hearing my main takeaways from this bizarro year makes you think about your own. What you’ll remember, what will never be the same, and the lessons that will bring you closer to the person you want to be. Mentioned: 10 Questions To Ask at the End of the Year 3 Mistakes I’ve Made Recently Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn What’s your BIG STORY? Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday   SPONSORS: SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU to try a premium membership EBY. Go to JoinEby.com and use code THINGS20 for 20% off your first order   FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Buy Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First by Laura Tremaine

This is always one of my favorite episodes of the year! My real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a long and lively conversation about some of our favorite books of 2020. We talk about how the pandemic affected our reading life and why our book club didn’t meet for 7+ months. Before we share some of our favorites, we also use the episode as a bit of stand-in for our regular meeting and you can hear us discuss our December book club pick A Burning by Megha Majumdar. Then we each share 3 or 4 of our favorite books of the year. Because I had already shared most of mine on earlier episodes, I was really excited to hear Yasmin and Stephanie’s picks, since they were outside the box of what we’ve already talked about on the show in the last few months. I do plan to do a BONUS episode in the last few days of the year, talking through a few more interesting books I read in 2020 that didn’t make it into this conversation. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE with all the books and links   EPISODE SPONSORED BY: EBY - Go to JoinEby.com and enter promo code THINGS20 to get 20% off your first order GREEN CHEF - Go to GreenChef.com/80YOU and enter promo code 80YOU for $80 off and free shipping BETTERHELP - Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU to save 10% off your first month   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things Connection Group   Preorder Laura's book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First: 10 Questions to take your friendships to the next level (out 2/2/21)  

10 prompts for self-reflection or good conversation as we near the end of the year. 2020 was nuts no doubt. There was confusion and loss and frustration and grief. But I hope we can all point to some moments of beauty as well. This episode asks 10 questions to help you come to terms with year. Take these questions to your journal or use them to spark a good conversation.  Full show notes here.  SPONSORS: Skillshare  Betterhelp Mentioned in this episode: Preorder book bonuses Ep 45: 10 Questions to ask yourself at the end of the year (2019) Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group PREORDER Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level by Laura Tremaine  

This episode is for anyone who has struggled in 2020 to listen to their intuition. These words are for myself as much as they are for you. In this year of uncertainty, of noise, of conflict in relationships, of missteps and self-doubt, I have come into this holiday season unable to tap fully into my own intuition. I’m sharing about: WHY we need to listen to our intuition now more than ever HOW to listen to our intuition when we’re new to the practice or need a reset ANXIETY and intuition and how it’s often hard to discern the two (but I have one failsafe method) RELATIONSHIPS and intuition MESSING IT UP and GETTING IT RIGHT Sponsors: BETTERHELP. Go to BETTERHELP.com/YOU for 10% off your first month EBY. Go to JoinEBY.com and use code THINGS20 for 20% off your first order Full show notes here. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group  

Big News Today! I'm revealing the 3 BONUSES you will receive if you preorder my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.  CLICK HERE to submit proof of purchase and sign up to receive the PREORDER BONUSES.  Also, the podcast and website has a whole new look! I worked with Braid Creative on a much-needed brand refresh. Check it all out here. Most of this episode is a long round of Ask Me Anything, where I take questions collected on social media. We cover a broad range of topics, from how I made friends with strangers on the internet, to coping with anxiety during the pandemic, to sharing my kids names online for the first time in eleven years. Full show notes here.  Sponsors: VISTAPRINT. Go to Vistaprint.com/YOU ACORN TV.  Go to Acorn.TV and use promo code YOU for a free 30-day trial * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group

This episode is for anyone who needs to get into the holiday spirit. I’m so excited to kickoff the season by talking about holiday movies with Mary Carver from Hooked on Holiday Movies. But confession: I’ve never watched a Hallmark or Lifetime holiday movie! So everything Mary shares with me is a pleasant surprise, and she might have even convinced me to give these movies a try. However, our conversation is framed around holiday movies, but we actually talk about so much more, including how we talk about romance stories with our children, and also diversity and inclusion in consumer Christmas culture. At the end of the episode, we hear a batch of listener-submitted holiday hacks - everything from keeping track of your gift list to carving out time for yourself. Looking for gift inspiration? My Not A Gift Guide gift guide comes out this week via the Secret Posts. Make sure you’re on the list! * Full show notes here Find out more about Mary Carver Follow @marycarver on IG Get Mary’s Hooked on Holiday Movies bundle! * Sponsors: VISTAPRINT. Go to Vistaprint.com/YOU STORYWORTH. Go to Storyworth.com/YOU for $10 off * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This is an important episode. In this conversation with Emily Lynn Paulson and Celeste Yvonne, we’re discussing the prevalence of the “mommy juice” culture, the jokes, memes, and idea that parenthood requires drinking for survival. Both openly sober for years, Emily and Celeste created the Sober Mom Squad, a community created during the COVID-19 pandemic that hosts weekly free virtual meetings to discuss motherhood and our transitions to new family dynamics and homeschooling. In the episode, Emily and Celeste share their (very different) personal stories, and offer tips and thoughts on coping through a pandemic and during the holiday season without using alcohol. Please note: I am not sober. I drink alcohol. But I have also become concerned with the motherhood culture that pushes drinking as a means to deal with anything hard. I originally recorded this episode as a BONUS, but decided it was such an important topic that I wanted it to land in as many ears as possible. What I’m hoping you’ll hear in this conversation with Emily and Yvonne is just an invitation to think about alcohol differently. Full show notes here. Find out more about Sober Mom Squad. Follow @SoberMomSquad Find out more about Emily Lynn Paulson Follow @highlightrealrecovery Find out more about Celeste Yvonne Follow @theultimatemomchallenge   SPONSORS SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/LAURA to get two months of premium membership free RAYCON. Go to Raycon.com/YOU for up to 20% off   * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the Connection Group  

This episode is for anyone looking to add to their To Read stack. For this fall book discussion, I’m joined by one of my oldest and closest friends, Dr. Cara Pence. You might remember Cara from Ep 6: Revisiting Judy Blume. We’re each sharing the best books we’ve read lately and talking through two recent best sellers. (One we loved, one we didn’t.) FREEBIE: The Books That Shaped Me Full show notes here. (With every title we discuss.) Follow @cpence on IG Sponsors: VISTAPRINT.Go to Vistaprint.com/YOU BETTERHELP. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group

This episode is for anyone curious about the impact and influence of the First Ladies of the past American Presidents.  It's election week in the USA, and so today we're turning to a piece of our past that we don't always think of when we have ballots on the brain: First Ladies.  Fun fact: There have been more First Ladies than there have been Presidents.  On this fun and informative episode, I'm joined by First Ladies expert, the self-proclaimed First Ladies Man, Andrew Och. Andrew is a speaker and author who focuses on the American First Ladies.  We have a wide ranging conversation about all the various roles and influence that First Ladies of the United States have had, from Martha Washington to Melania Trump.  Full show notes here. Learn more about the First Ladies Man Andrew Och. Follow @firstladiesman on IG Buy Unusual For Their Time: On the Road with America's First Ladies by Andrew Och SPONSORS: Go to SKILLSHARE.com/LAURA to get 2 months premium membership free. Go to Molekule.com and use promo code YOU for 10% off your first order.  * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the Connection Group  

This episode is for anyone who needs a little pep talk.  My college friend Sarah Nuse accidentally started a full blown company in the late 90's when we were both still living in a sorority house. Two decades later, Tippi Toes Dance has franchises all over the world.  In our fun and inspiring conversation, Sarah shares her trajectory from being a fired waitress to being a successful business woman. We talk about working with family (her parents AND her sisters work with her on Tippi Toes), letting life unfold, and leaning into your strengths.  Learn more about Sarah Nuse. Learn more about Tippi Toes. Buy Sarah's book Destined for Greatness. * Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the Connection Group  

In America, we are in the middle of a major historic moment. We’re 9 months into a global pandemic and 1 week out of a high-stakes Presidential election. This episode has 10 journal prompts meant for you to document YOUR feelings in this important era. Hopefully, this will something that will give you some clarity, and something to look back on in the future. We’re covering the pandemic and the election with thoughtful, simple questions that will mark this moment in time. We are in charge of writing our own history. Let's get to it. Full show notes here. Sponsors: SUNBASKET. Go to Sunbasket.com/YOU and use promo code YOU for $35 off your first order MODCLOTH. Go to Modcloth.com and use promo code YOU for 20% your purchase of $75 or more. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the Connection Group  

Mistakes. We’ve all made ‘em. In this episode, I wanted to share 3 mistakes I’ve made recently (personally and professionally) as a jumping off point for talking about missteps, how we corrected them, and what we learned. Of course, not all mistakes are equal. And we don’t always want to harp on things we did wrong. But it can be helpful to hear about other people’s mess ups, and talking about it can hold us accountable for our own actions. Because next time we’ll do it differently. Right? This episode features listener voices at the end sharing their own recent mistakes.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

The 8th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is Thursday, October 22, 2020. This short little episode will give you all the details, explanations, and logistics for my annual social media challenge #OneDayHH. #OneDayHH is a chance to document what a day-in-the-life looks like for us right now, in this season, in this year.  This is my favorite social media day of the year. I hope you'll join in! CLICK HERE for a full blog post further outlining #OneDayHH. Follow my personal account @laura.tremaine Follow the show @10ThingsToTellYou Follow on FB @10ThingsToTellYou Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up to receive episode emails

This episode is for anyone curious about therapy. October is Mental Health Awareness Month, and so I wanted to put together a few thoughts on the number one thing that has helped me navigate my anxiety: talk therapy. I’ve struggled with anxiety since childhood, but I didn’t try therapy until I was 35 years old, and drowning under the weight of new motherhood and postpartum. In this episode, I am sharing 10 thoughts on therapy, including how to find a therapist, how to pay for therapy, and some of the most important things I’ve learned in 6 years of regular therapy after decades of coping with my mental health alone. Please note: I am not an expert of any kind. Please talk to a doctor or medical professional if you are experiencing mental health struggles. This episode is only meant to share my own experience. Also note: I am talking about general talk therapy. There are many specialized treatments and therapists available for a wide range of issues dealing in trauma, relationships, etc. Always research the help you’re seeking. Full show notes here. Sponsors: Function of Beauty. Go to FunctionofBeauty.com/YOU for 20% your first order.  Native. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order. ** Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  

This episode is for anyone who has ONE BIG TASK they really want to get done before the end of the year. It’s October, which means we have less than three months until the end of the year. And while 2020 has been one of the weirdest years in modern history, we still somehow have normal life things that have slipped through the cracks. Those things that we just keep procrastinating: home improvement, emotional chores, creative projects. These aren’t goals, they’re just tasks, the ones that keep slipping to the bottom of the priority list. Let’s commit to choosing ONE thing we want to get done between now and the end of 2020 and share it as a way to stay accountable. Let’s make our future January 2021 selves super proud of how we finished the Wild West of 2020. Original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge Ask Me in 3 Months (2019) Full show notes here. Sponsors: SKILLSHARE. The first 1,000 people to go to Skillshare.com/LAURA will get a free trial of their premium membership. BRADDOCK. Go to BRADDOCKUSA.com and use promo code YOU for 25% off your first order. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  

Have you ever wondered how influencers are making money through their blogs and social media posts? Have you ever wanted to try and make some of that money yourself? In this BONUS episode, I'm pulling back the curtain a little on how I make money using affiliate links on my blog and social media posts. And one of the smartest women I know - Jessica Turner of The Mom Creative - is talking with me about her new course Affiliate Marketing for Influencers.  We're all being influenced every day, and sometimes we don't even know it. Jessica and I share how this works, and how to do it legally and with integrity.  Full show notes here Follow Jessica on her blog The Mom Creative Follow Jessica on IG Follow Jessica on FB Buy Affiliate Marketing for Influencers  * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This episode is for anyone curious to hear the other angle of an origin story. It’s our wedding anniversary! This week, my husband Jeff and I celebrate 13 years of marriage, and so I thought it would be fun to have him on the show to share HIS side of our relationship’s origins. This is something I’ve talked and written about for years, but (surprise!) he has a different take. This week I want YOU to talk a partner or best friend about your relationship’s origin story. Ask, “Where did we begin?” and “What do you remember about that time?” and “Tell me your version.” Even if you think you know what someone is going to say about your relationship’s origin, you might be surprised at what comes up. Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Posts. Reminder that in my Secret Posts emails, I share behind the scenes information, announcements, and all of the stuff I don’t want to live on the World Wide Web. It’s also a digest of my recent book reviews, style and makeup obsessions, and more. Episode Sponsors: Go to SUNBASKET.com/YOU and promo code YOU for $35 off your first order. Go to MOLEKULE.com and use promo code YOU for 10% off your order Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  

This episode is sponsored by EBY. I am proud to partner on this bonus episode with EBY, a seamless underwear membership co-founded by actress and entrepreneur Sofia Vergara and my guest today, entrepreneur Renata Black. In our conversation, Renata shares her passion about giving our everyday choices (like buying underwear) real power, and explains how a portion of every purchase of EBY panties or bras becomes part of their Microfinance program, empowering women around the globe with small loans. We also talk about underwear in general (ha!) and the soft, seamless technology that keeps EBY pieces in place all day. EBY is giving listeners 20% off their purchase or membership with code THINGS20.  Follow @JoinEby on IG Follow @JoinEby on FB  

This episode is for anyone looking for their next great book to read. It’s time for another episode about the best books we’ve read lately! This time I'm joined by Christine Koh, an author, speaker, blogger, podcaster, designer, and scientist. Yes, Dr. Christine Koh is all of those things, and on this episode she is sharing books that speak to the Asian American experience AND her newfound love of the romance genre. I'm sharing two books about cults, what I'm reading before I fall asleep at night, and the novel that took me totally by surprise.  So there is a LOT packed into this conversation. Full show notes here. Follow Christine on IG Listen to her podcasts Edit Your Life and Hello Relationships  Follow Laura on IG SPONSORED BY: BetterHelp. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month.  Native Deodorant. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU or use promo code YOU for 20% off your first order. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This episode is for anyone who struggles with her inner "good girl."  I read Break the Good Girl Myth: How To Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life by Majo Molfino this summer and the whole idea resonated with me: identifying as a good girl, wanting to be seen as a good girl, and simultaneously wanting to get out of that trap. Even at 40-something, I am still dismantling these parts of my identity, and I could see myself - and so many of my friends - in the five different types of “good girls” that Majo writes about.  In our conversation, Majo shares a little more about “Breaking your good girl myth MEANS” and I share the parts of me that still sees myself a good girl, where that feels healthy and where that feels woefully outdated. Buy Break The Good Girl Myth by Majo Molfino Find out more about Majo Molfino here Follow @MajoMolfino on IG  Listen to her podcast Heroine * Remember to SUBSCRIBE to the 10 Things To Tell You podcast so that you don't miss bonus content like this! Just hit the SUBSCRIBE button in your favorite podcast app. Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB   Sign up to receive episode emails here.  

This episode will motivate you to create a family yearbook (or any other kind of photo book). CLICK HERE TO FILL OUT THE LISTENER SURVEY Miss Freddy is back! Last year’s Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos with professional photo organizer Miss Freddy was so popular that I couldn't wait to have Casey (aka Miss Freddy) back on the show for more ideas about what to do with all the photos we’re drowning in. This time we’re focusing on family yearbooks, but Miss Freddy’s advice applies to any sort of digital photo book you want to create. She’s sharing the steps, the tools, and the mindset to create an album you’ll be so happy to have. Go to Miss Freddy’s Backup Bootcamp course and use code 10THINGS Go to Miss Freddy’s Family Yearbook course and use code 10THINGS See the full show notes This episode is sponsored by BETTERHELP. Go to BETTERHELP.com/YOU for 10% off your first month The episode is sponsored by FUNCTION of BEAUTY. Go to FUNCTIONofBEAUTY.com/YOU for 20% off your first order Follow @miss.freddy on IG Follow Miss Freddy on FB Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up to get 10 Things To Tell You insider info

Myquillyn Smith (aka The Nester) has influenced the way I think about decorating my home for years, through her blog, social media, and books. Her latest book Welcome Home is about decorating your home for the seasons without buying a bunch of expensive decor, and how you can signal the natural cycle of the year using scents and textures and sound. These concepts apply even when you live somewhere where the temperature doesn't change much!  Myquillyn gives me a little pep talk about creating a home that is the background for family memories, and she reveals a fairly genius way to decorate for the holidays that removes a bulk of the stress. (Why hadn't I thought of this before??) Buy Welcome Home Follow Myquillyn Smith @thenester on IG The Nester's blog + courses Full show notes here.

This episode is part pep talk, part permission, and part mindfulness around the nuance and energy of friendship. I'm sharing about loneliness, the benefit to shallow friends, the necessity of friends who make you talk, and the call to look closer at old friendships (and whether or not they're all serving you). Related or mentioned episodes: Ep 2: Are you lonely? Ep 49: Where are your bandaids? Ep 75: Who are you talking about? Full show notes here. SPONSORED BY: BetterHelp. Go to BETTERHELP.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. Sunbasket. Go to SUNBASKET.com/YOU and use promo code YOU for $35 off your first order.   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign Up for Episode Emails

It’s time for another round of Favorite Things! This episode is a list of my current favorite things, and as usual, my picks are all over the place. I’m sharing my new project management app (which has changed my work life), a podcast recommendation, interesting people to follow on Instagram, what I’m getting my husband for his birthday, a new (old) beauty product, and more. I hope this list encourages YOU to share your current favorite things! Full show notes here. This episode is sponsored by BRADDOCK face masks. Go to BRADDOCKUSA.com and use promo code YOU for an additional 25% off your first purchase. This episode is sponsored by NOTECUBE. Go to THENOTECUBE.com and use promo code YOU for 20% off your purchase. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group  

This episode is for anyone who needs a little help with their attitude and self-talk right now. I know I beat this drum regularly, but I really believe that the way we speak to ourselves shapes the way we move in the world. And these days, my self-talk can be all over the place. On this episode, I’m sharing my own personal current mantras and affirmations, and also just talking about how these things can work in your life. (Hint: it’s not magic. It’s brain science.) But the best part of this episode is hearing from the listeners who sent in THEIR own mantras. So many great words out there. Sponsored by: NOTECUBE. Get 20% off your order at THENOTECUBE.com with promo code YOU BRADDOCK. Get 25% off your purchase at BRADDOCKUSA.com with promo code YOU See full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This episode is for anyone interested in raising their hand. Jenna Arnold is an educator, entrepreneur, activist and mother who lives in New York City, and her new book is Raising Our Hands: How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Front Lines.  In this BONUS episode, Jenna and I talk through a few of the reasons white women statistically stay silent about important issues: perfection, performance, and peacekeeping.  I really liked Jenna's book and am excited to share this conversation with you.  Follow Jenna on IG Buy Jenna's book Full show notes here Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign up for episode emails  

This episode is for anyone who needs a good, long, catchup with girlfriends.  It's been awhile since we've had a huge dose of girlfriend chat on the show, but great conversations are the driving force of 10 Things To Tell You. In our long overdue conversation, Meg and I each share five things we need to catch up on. We talk loneliness, Real Housewives, true crime obsessions, the perfect amazon purchase, shoes, and intuition.  Meg Tietz created and hosts the Sorta Awesome podcast (where I'm a former co-host), and she just launched a new daily show called Awesome Today. She also runs the fantastic FB group called Sorta Awesome Hangout. Follow her on IG. Thanks to our sponsors: SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free premium membership.  RAYCON. Go to BuyRaycon.com/YOU for 15% off wireless earbuds.  Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection Group Sign up for episode emails  

This episode looks at your life like a movie.  What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story.  In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing that I arrange events into Before & After. I can't wait to hear yours. Buy my book! (Out 2/21) This episode is sponsored by BETTERHELP. Go to BetterHelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month. This episode is sponsored by NATIVE Deodorant. Go too NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group on FB

This episode is for anyone who could use an honest evaluation in the middle of something. (And maybe a reset.) In the beginning, we make plans. Set goals. Hope for the best. At the end, we evaluate how it went. We make notes for next time. We accept our trophies or don't. But what about in the middle? Don't we need to stop down and ask some hard questions in the MIDDLE? To see if we're on track? To make tweaks? To define what it means to "finish well"?  Here are 10 Questions to ask yourself when you're in the middle of anything. The middle of a project or the middle of a season, all 10 questions apply. For me, I'm answering from the middle of the year. It's hard to believe, but we are still in the very middle of 2020. And I have LOTS of feelings about the first half, and the tweaks I want to make for the months remaining.  Full show notes for this episode here. This episode is sponsored by BETTERHELP. Go to Betterhelp.com/YOU for 10% off your first month of online counseling.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group

This episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else. Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss. This episode is sponsored by SUNBASKET. Go to Sunbasket.com/YOU for $35 off your first order. Full show notes for this episode here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up to receive episode emails  

This episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk. We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind. I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for fall release.  Full show notes for this episode can be found here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up to receive episode emails Join the 10TTTY Connection Group  

This episode is a midsummer reading check-in.  It's time for another episode about BOOKS and this time I'm joined by my good friend Sarah Bessey. Sarah is a writer, speaker, and all around woman of wisdom. She is the author of Jesus Feminist, Out of Sorts, and the spiritual memoir Miracles and Other Reasonable Things. She is also the cofounder of the Evolving Faith conference.  On this episode, Sarah and I each share the best books we've read lately, including popular novels, Canadian authors that fly under the radar, and social justices resources. The full list of books discussed can be found in the show notes. You can also view them on Bookshop.org. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free premium membership.  Follow Sarah Bessey on Instagram and Facebook Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up for episode emails Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing.  I wrote a book! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First will launch in February 2021, but I'm taking some time this week to talk all about the behind-the-scenes details I've always been curious about with other authors.  I'm answering questions from the 10TTTY Connection group about how I got an agent, crafted a book proposal, signed a book deal with a publisher, wrote & edited the book, and chose a cover.  There is SO MUCH to say about this longtime dream coming to fruition, after years of uncertainty and rejection.  This episode is sponsored by NATIVE. Go to NativeDeo.com/YOU for 20% off your first order.  This episode is sponsored by MOLEKULE. Go to Molekule.com and use promo code YOU for 10% off your first order.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign Up to receive episode emails

This episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook.  Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers? The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences. Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share my own thoughts on this topic, as well as a few ways (some silly, some serious) that the internet has changed my perspective. At the end of the show a few listeners chime in with their thoughts. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Get two months premium membership FREE at Skillshare.com/YOU Full show notes for this episode here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up for episode emails

This episode is part friendship, part therapy, part work/life balance. I am so excited to share this conversation with my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) because not only do we talk about being “work friends” and how that narrow relationship title offers us freedom in our friendship, but Kendra also applies her Lazy Genius principles to my problem prioritizing work tasks. And I have kind of am embarrassing breakthrough.  This episode is sponsored by Care/Of. Get 50% your first order with code YOU50 Preorder Kendra's book The Lazy Genius Way Then get all of her preorder bonuses Follow Kendra on Instagram FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group Sign up for episode emails  

Please indulge me in a little birthday episode. I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This episode is half nostalgic nonsense and half preach-y. I guess this is what happens when I go off script.  This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the Connection Group on FB Sign up here to get episode emails

This BONUS episode is for anyone looking for something interesting to watch (for families and for grown ups). On roughly week 11 of the Los Angeles lockdown due to the coronavirus, I sat down with my husband Jeff and our two kids - ages 8 & 10 - for a lighthearted chat about all the movies, documentaries, and tv series we watched during quarantine since this season meant a LOT more screen time for our family than usual.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up HERE to get weekly episode emails Click HERE to join the Connection Group

This episode is for anyone trying to understand another person's experience.  I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead. LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, Danielle Williams and I grew up in Ardmore, Oklahoma, a town that sits on I-35 about halfway between Oklahoma City and Dallas. Population 25,000. Ardmore is 63.2% White and 10.2% Black. I am white and LaToyia, Monica, and Danielle are Black. As I’m learning more about the racial divide in our country, I wanted to ask these friends about their lives in our hometown. I wondered if they experienced discrimination, what was taught in their homes and churches, and what they think about America now versus when we were kids. I had no idea what they were going to say when I pressed record. Our conversation is vulnerable, honest, and imperfect. But the point of 10 Things To Tell You is to forge connection through conversation, and I believe that is what happened here. Full show notes here.  @10ThingsToTellYou on IG @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for anyone who has felt shamed or judgmental over choices made during the global pandemic. Admit it you’ve either hidden your own activity or judged other people’s choices in the last few months. I’m joined by blogger, podcaster, and author Kristen Howerton (who you may know from her blog Rage Against the Minivan or from her weekly self-care podcast Selfie) to discuss the social shaming that we’re doing and feeling during this unprecedented season of the coronavirus. PRE-ORDER Kristen’s new book Rage Against the Minivan (Out June 9!) This episode is brought to you by the Audioboom Original podcast FAM: For All Moms Full show notes here Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB Sign up to receive episode emails for 10 Things To Tell You Follow Kristen Howerton: Kristen Howerton on Instagram Kristen Howerton on Facebook Follow Laura Tremaine: Laura Tremaine on Instagram Laura Tremaine on Facebook Follow 10 Things To Tell You: 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram 10 Things To Tell You on FB

This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day. I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure.  On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic.  SIGN UP HERE to receive the brand spankin' new episode emails! Mentioned in this episode: Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts On Anxiety The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod  Ep. 9: 10 Ways To Journal BONUS Ep.: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my! The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron Full show notes HERE. * Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the FB Connection Group

This episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading!  I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy, podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know! Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It. You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide.  On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like during the global pandemic, how the Instagram #Bookstagram community has changed the way we share what we're reading, and, of course, we give a few recent reading recommendations.  Click here for the full show notes (with links to all the books we talk about). This episode is sponsored by Molekule. Go to Molekule.com and use code YOU for 10% off your order.  Follow Anne on Instagram Follow Anne on Facebook Follow What Should I Read Next on Instagram * Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group

This episode is for anyone looking for a quick, meaningful exercise to boost spirits.  I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues.  Mentioned in this episode: Radical Compassion by Tara Brach Ep 51: Masterminds: How To Structure and Maintain a Business Peer Group 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB Full show notes here. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Get 2 months of premium membership free at Skillshare.com/YOU Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB

This episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive.  My guest is Emily P Freeman, The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders.  We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplished, and how social media is making us feel right now when our main connection with the outside world is the internet.  Full show notes here. Find Emily: www.emilypfreeman.com Emily on Instagram Hope*Writers The Next Right Thing podcast The Next Right Thing book Also mentioned on the show: Ep #73 of The Next Right Thing: Design Your Rhythm of Work with Theme Days Ep #174 of The Next Right Thing: Reimagine Your Workday   Connect with 10 Things To Tell You: @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook 10 Things To Tell You Connection group on FB

This episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it. A friend messaged me to ask if she should keep or toss a stack of old journals. In a weird coincidence, I was in the middle of a project that required I pull out some of my old journals from decades ago. I’m sharing stories of rereading journal entries, the ritual of throwing old memories away, and what I learned from discovering a long ago letter. This episode is sponsored by SCENTBIRD. Go too Scentbird.com/YOU and use promo code YOU for 30% off your first month.  Full show notes here. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group on FB

This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything.  I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it.  Full show notes here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection Group   

This episode is for anyone looking for a little cheer and distraction.  It's another Favorite Things episode! My current favorites are definitely influenced by the current coronavirus quarantine, but there's a little something for everyone here: books, beauty products, kitchen items, and the few mindsets that are keeping me sane in self-isolation.  This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free membership! Full show notes here.  @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Join the 10TTTY Connection group on FB

This episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction.  The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time.  My husband Jeff and I start the show by answering questions from the 10TTTY FB Connection group, including: have we learned anything about one another during this time? How do we balance accepting one another while also pushing the other to grow? How are we connecting right now? Then our kids jump on for just a few minutes and share their thoughts on what spring break in self-isolation looks like.  This turned into a fun, family-centered show.  This episode is sponsored by BLINKIST. Go to BLINKIST.com/YOU for 25% off your subscription.  Mentioned on the show: Ep 8: Jeff Tremaine has 10 Things To Tell You Ep 58: 10 Ways To Write Your Own History Ep 34: The Robbery (1 year later) Full show notes here. @Laura.Tremaine on IG @Gorillaflicks on IG @10ThingsToTellYou on IG @10ThingsToTellYou on FB

This episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment).  As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself. I'm sharing 10 simple ways to write your own history, for your own private documentation or to share publicly. All of these methods are simple and easily available.   If you choose to document on Instagram, tag the show and use the hashtag #OneDayCV Full show notes here.  This show is sponsored by SCENTBIRD. Go to Scentbird.com/YOU and use promo code YOU for 30% your first month.  @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram 10 Things To Tell You connection group on FB  

This episode is for you if you need to understand and better cope with your anxiety. Dr. Becky from Dr. Becky At Home is a clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people cope with anxiety and stress. I found her on Instagram when someone shared one of her posts, and what followed is one of the best and most important conversations I’ve ever had on this show.   Dr. Becky encourages us to form a relationship with our anxiety, and our conversation includes all of the things I’ve always wanted to ask: what does self-talk REALLY look like? What does it mean if we really can’t find the source of our anxiety? How do we balance being “strong” in front of our kids while also letting them see us have natural emotions?   I am so excited to share this one with you. This will be a conversation I will reference for a long time.   DrBeckyAtHome on Instagram   DrBeckyAtHome website   *   Full show notes for this episode   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook  

This episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition.  As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference.  This episode is sponsored by AURATE. Click here for 15% off your first order. Use promo code YOU.  Full show notes here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB

This episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness.  Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities.  This is a fun conversation to have at a party or on a road trip. (Spring break, anyone?) But there are still insights and connections to be made with a pop culture topic.  This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Click here to get 2 months free.  This episode is sponsored by RITUAL. Click here to get 10% off your first three months.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB      

This episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year.  I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways.  We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living without a car and sending their kids to the International School. We talk about style and food in Amsterdam versus the United States. We talk about why life seems simpler and slower in this part of Europe, and how temporary absence can actually deepen relationships.  There are so many nuggets of wisdom and things to think about in this episode. It made me realize that sitting down with a friend and giving full focus to something big in their life isn't something I do enough.  Full show notes for this episode here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB  

This episode is for you if you can never get enough book talk. This Best Books lately episode ran longer than I expected and I didn't have time to tell you about all the awesome books in my MASSIVE To Read pile. I chose 10 of the books waiting on my kindle or on my bedside to share with you, and then listed the rest over on the blog. (You can find my full To Read list here.) I love hearing what YOU'RE reading lately, and so the last few minutes of this bonus episode includes listener recommendations, straight from their own mouths. So now my To Read pile is somehow larger than it was before I recorded this... * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things Connection Group on FB  

This episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies).  Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner, and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online).  In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Stephanie Newman-Smith to talk through the layers of controversy around the novel American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins. We talk about who can tell what stories, how the publishing industry is complicit in silencing non-white voices, and the bizarre marketing missteps around the novel that Oprah picked for her book club.  This episode is sponsored by Glossier. Click here for 10% off your first order.  This episode is sponsored by Bombas. Click here to get 20% off your first purchase.  Find Jessica Turner here. Follow Jessica on IG Follow Jessica on FB Follow Jessica's Book Snobbery IG account * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection group on FB!

This episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk. A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex?  On this episode, I'm sharing about the critical voices in MY head and why identifying them (instead of struggling to ignore them) is helpful to squash them for good.  This episode is sponsored by Glossier. Use this link to get 10% off your first order.  This episode is sponsored by Vistaprint. Use promo code YOU for free shipping on all business cards.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   10 Things To Tell You Connection group on FB    

This episode is for you if you're stuck on a decision.  This is simple. This is basic. But next time you're spinning out on making a decision (any decision), ask yourself: What would YOU tell you to do? This little exercise can bring immediate clarity when we're lost in a sea of Pro/Con lists and justifications.  On this episode, I'm sharing how this has applied to my own life, especially when I lost myself for a bit in my mid-thirties.  This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go too Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 free months of premium membership. Full show notes here. Join the 10TTTY Connection FB group. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB  

This episode is for you if you’re interested in creating a mastermind group to grow your business. In this episode, I'm sharing how to start a business mastermind, who should be in it, how to find those people, and ideas on how to structure your group.  After I give my thoughts, I'm joined in conversation with the three other members of my mastermind: Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi. They each share something important to think about when creating a mastermind.  This episode is sponsored by DERMA-E. Get 20% off site wide with promo code YOU. This episode is sponsored by RITUAL. Get 10% off a 3-month subscription here. Full show notes for this episode here.  Join the 10 Things To Tell You Connection FB Group Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook

This episode is for you if you forgot to self reflect about the new decade on New Years Eve.  Happy first birthday to 10 Things To Tell You! 🎉 We're celebrating one year of good questions and solid conversations. In the beginning of this episode, I share some of the best episodes of the past year (both statistically and personally) and reflect on making these first 50+ episodes.  After that we get down to the central question: Who were you 10 years ago? This is a great ice breaker question OR a chance to see if you remember the beginning of the last decade the same way your friends and family do. Who was 2010 YOU, and would she be happy with 2020 you?  This episode is sponsored by DERMA E. Use code YOU at checkout for 20% off.  Click here for the new FB connection group.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you're using a flimsy bandaid over something that needs stitches. Metaphorically.  On this episode I'm sharing three ways in which I have used a bandaid to cover up something that really needed more attention: a medical problem, a relationship strain, and a frustration in the house.  Sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Use link www.skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months of premium membership free.  Full Show notes Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB

This episode is for you if you’ve ever second-guessed posting photos of your kids online. Nish Weiseth - a friend I met through mommy blogging years ago - recently posted on Instagram that she was going to take a step back from posting her family online, because her kids are getting older and she started questioning her own motivations. I thought her take was really interesting, so I reached out and asked her to have a friend-to-friend conversation on this topic…publicly. The first half of this episode is about posting photos of our kids and why our thoughts have changed on it over the years, and the second half turns towards why we post online at all. We get really honest and vulnerable, but we don’t come to any conclusions. I get on my high horse at one moment and then admit I might be wrong. I hope our conversation inspires you to ask your friends and coparents about their feelings on posting family pics online, and their genuine motivation for posting on social media at all. This episode is sponsored by SKILLSHARE. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for 2 months free. This episode is sponsored by RITUAL. Go to Ritual.com/10THINGS for 10% your first 3 months. Full show notes for this episode here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB

This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day. I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk. This episode is sponsored by LOLA Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. On this episode, I’m sharing my (relatively recent) experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board. Let me be clear that I no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions. This episode is sponsored by VISTAPRINT. Use code YOU at Vistaprint.com to receive free shipping on any business cards. Full show notes HERE. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you are a reader! It's the most wonderful time of the year, when all the Best Of book lists come out. Of course I couldn't resist putting in my own two cents! Joining me on this episode are two friends from my real life book club: Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith. Listening to all our words here is like listening to our actual book club meeting. We talk about the buzziest books of the year, books that missed the mark for us, and important nonfiction reads.  In the last hour of the show, we each name a handful of books that stand out as favorites in 2019, and we purposefully tried to highlight books that aren't being discussed everywhere else.  Full show notes here (including a list of all the books we discussed, by category)  This episode is sponsored by Skillshare. Get 2 months free by going to Skillshare.com/YOU This episode is sponsored by VistaPrint. Get free shipping on all business cards with discount code YOU.  @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you enjoy end-of-the-year reflection and journaling.  It's the end of the year, and the end of the decade, and even though we're still a few weeks out from kissing 2019 goodbye and ushering in 2020, I'm posing these questions a little early so that you'll have time to think about your answers this month.  There are 10 questions in this episode meant to make you reflect upon on the last twelve months and get some clarity for what you want in the coming year. The prompts are a mix of light and deep, some to document a simple moment in time, others to help you grow.  Full show notes here. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   #10ThingsToTellYou

This episode is for you if you need a little encouragement during a busy season.  Thank you to listener Aimee who suggested this topic! On this episode, I'm sharing two things I'm doing well right now and two things I'm letting go of for the holiday season. But the real key to this prompt is using it to start a conversation with a friend or a group of friends.  After listening, shoot a text to someone and ask, "Hey, where are you killing it these days?" because when people pause and reflect on this just for a minute, it shifts your mindset. We're all doing okay.  Full show notes here.  This episode is sponsored by VISTAPRINT @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook  

This episode is for you if the social events of the holiday season are giving you anxiety.  On this mish mash of an episode, I offer two tips for handling social anxiety AND I answer a few listener questions. There’s also a little housekeeping at the beginning of the show, with some updates and reminders about recent episodes. In the Ask Me Anything section, I talk about how the book writing is going, my long ago jobs in reality television, and the one habit I started tracking that gave me immediate progress in working from home. This episode is sponsored by VISTAPRINT Full show notes for this episode here.  Sign up for the Secret Posts  @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you're looking for a little inspiration in the kitchen.  Sometimes I like to have people on the show just to inspire or share something cool they're doing. I am super excited to welcome Tieghan Gerard, because I have followed her food blog Half Baked Harvest for years now.  Tieghan started her (massively popular and insanely beautiful) website Half Baked Harvest when she was NINETEEN years old. Now she runs the whole empire with the help of her family.  She also has a new cookbook out called Super Simple: More than 125 Recipes for Instant, Overnight, Meal-Prepped, and Easy Comfort Foods.  In our short chat, Tieghan and I talk about what cooking and food should be, and how her new book is a direct response to her follower's requests for good food that is super simple.  I hope this conversation is just the shot of inspiration you need to get in the mood for holiday cooking and time around the table.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   @HalfBakedHarvest on Instagram   @HalfBakedHarves on Pinterest

This episode is for you if don't recognize the person in the mirror. On a recent girls weekend, my good friend Amber Haines and I got into a conversation about being uncomfortable in our skin lately. It's more than simply aging, we both feel like our personal sense of style (something we've been proud of in the past) has taken a back seat in the past few years during a busy life.  This topic is both shallow and not. We discuss body changes, hiding ourselves, the mental hurdles of buying new clothes, and the logistical aspects of getting dressed up for a day when you don't see anyone except your kids.  This is a no shame, no judgment, authentic conversation between friends. We plan our next steps to get our groove back - the emotional part, and the practical part - and will do a check in on this topic in 3 months.   Full show notes for this episode here.  Follow guest @AmberCHaines on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   **This episode is sponsored by LOLA, a company founded by women for women. LOLA feminine care products are 100% organic cotton with no added chemicals, fragrances, synthetics, or dyes.

This episode is for you if you are overwhelmed by photos.  My guest Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is here to give us 10 Tips on how to organize all our photos. We talk about how to get photos from your phone to one central place, which services to use as backup, and what to do with them all once they're wrangled.  We cover a lot of information on this episode, including why google photos and iCloud are NOT the best services to rely on, the things we should mentally let go of while we're organizing, and which photo books are the highest quality.  Full show notes for this episode HERE.  Click HERE for the listener discount and on Miss Freddy's BACKUP BOOTCAMP and use code 10THINGS at checkout. Miss Freddy's blog + courses Miss Freddy on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook 

The 7th Annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is happening on Friday, November 15th.  #OneDayHH is a yearly event on social media (mostly Instagram) where we document what a day-in-the-life looks like right now. One day, hour by hour. On this mini episode, I'm explaining how the challenge works and why it's special.  Read all about #OneDayHH here Follow my personal account @laura.tremaine See photos of the past #OneDayHH here Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook 

This episode is for you if you’re looking for tv & podcast recommendations, awesome people to follow on instagram, the latest skincare holy grail product, and more! I have a LOT of (current) Favorite Things to share on this episode, as well as a very special and personal announcement. But truthfully, the best part of this episode are the listener voices at the end sharing THEIR favorite things. I love having YOU on the show!   *   Full show notes with everything mentioned on this episode can be found here.    @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook    

This episode is for you if there's an area in your life you suspect you might be a little heavy-handed.  If we're heavy handed about something it's usually because we care about that thing. But often this is less effective than we intended. On this episode we're talking about everything from makeup, to relationships, to posting on social media.  What in your life could use a lighter touch? * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.   Get the Secret Posts here!   Shop the amazon store here.

This episode is for you if you're seeking books to expand your perspective.  Reading and personal development are two of my passions, and on this episode they intertwine.  I've broken down the books for personal growth into 4 categories: Introspection  Spirituality  Body Humanity  Or, put another way: Discovering ourselves, finding God, connecting to our body, and learning about others. On this episode, I'm listing a few books in each category that has taught me something and expanded my mind in some way.  Click here for the full show notes and list of all books mentioned.  @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook  

This episode is for you if you've ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.  This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.    Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you met your best friend at the office.  Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey are well known for their iconic roles as Pam Beesly and Angela Martin on one of the most beloved tv shows of all time, The Office. But in real life they are also best friends, and now they're business partners launching their new podcast Office Ladies.  On this very special episode, Jenna and Angela talk with me about one of my favorite topics: friendship. We talk about childhood friends, how hard it is to make good friends as adults, and the trickiness of friendship when the dynamics change.  Angela shares her biggest heartbreak with a friendship, and Jenna talks about a time when her feelings were hurt in a friendship. Plus I tell the story of the two VERY awkward ways I met each of these women, and they tell me the origin story of their friendship on set all those years ago.  This episode is PACKED with stories, laughs, and a few tears.  Make sure and subscribe to Office Ladies, debuting Oct. 16 Follow Jenna on Instagram Follow Angela on Instagram * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you were wrecked by Season 2 of the television show Fleabag. FLEABAG is a two-season television show created by, written by, and starring the incredible Phoebe Waller-Bridge. It swept the 2019 Emmys, winning SIX of the ELEVEN it was nominated for, including Outstanding Comedy Series, Outstanding Lead Actress, and Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series. I binged Fleabag last week and couldn't go one more day without talking about it. I recruited my friend Sueann Fortener to sit down with me so we could gush and cry and analyze all of our emotions around this spectacular season of television. * Sueann on Instagram and her organization Adopt Together Jamie Golden and The Popcast * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if there is something you want to get done before the end of the year.  Today's prompt came from the original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge.  We all have something that we just keep procrastinating. Let's commit to completing this task between now and January 1. I'm sharing two of the things that I really want to sit down and finish (both on my To Do list for literally years) and a few ideas for things you might want to be held accountable to in the next three months.  Also in this episode I talk about my favorite planner. (And here's the blog post where I talk about how I chose this planner after a million minutes of internet research.) * Full show notes here @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on Facebook Sign up here for episode emails    

This episode is for you if you've ever experienced something that could have been worse.  Last September, our home was robbed while I sat in the backyard. On this episode, I'm sharing the details of that day, as well as what followed.  I'm encouraging you to talk about the things that have happened to you that leave a mark.    Full show notes for this episode here Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on instagram Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Sign up to receive episode emails  

This episode is for you if you’ve had any recent revelations you want to share. If you’re a regular listener to this show, you are probably the type of person who is striving for growth, who aims to be self-aware, and who is paying attention. And if you’re paying attention, you’re learning. Always. So this week I'm sharing with you a few of my own personal recent revelations (some shallow, some deeper), and I am actively encouraging you to share your own. Not only privately or in your journal, this time I’m challenging you to share on social media. I want you to tell us a recent revelation you’ve had in your life. It’s an exercise in sharing of yourself AND I just want to see what people are thinking about these days. It helps me see the pulse of the listeners and create content for the show. Mentioned on this episode: Laura's personal Instagram account Sign Up for the Secret Posts Ep #21: 10 Thoughts on Turning 40    Thanks for listening! Click here to read the full show notes. @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook Sign up here to get episode emails    

This episode is for you if you have a pet.  This is the last show I ever thought I would do, but I just have to hand it to my dog. I'm asking you to reflect on what your pet brings to your life (now or in the past).  I'm sharing about why we got a dog when I was so opposed to it, and the role he played in a recent scary event in our life.  This episode is short and sweet. Like Kona Rocket. (That's right, he has his own instagram.)   Brought to you by the 10 Things To Tell You facebook page! Read the full show notes here.  Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram Sign up here to get episode emails.   

This episode is for you if you like HOURS of book talk.  We're talking the best books we read over the summer and our lists are LONG. My guest Alyssa Hertzig is chatting with me about the best novels, memoirs, and nonfiction books we've read in the last few months. Find Alyssa on her blog The Sparkly Life, and on Instagram. She also has a new bookstagram account @alyssaisbooked. Find all the books we mention in my new amazon store! Sign up for the SECRET POST emails. **SPOILER ALERT** While almost all of this episode is spoiler free, I did include a spoiler-full analysis of the novel The Need by Helen Phillips at the end of the show after the closing music.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook  

This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.  The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   @Laura.Tremaine on Instagram    

This episode is for your if you’re curious about how setting intentions works. If you’ve heard the phrase “setting intentions” and thought it was just a bunch of vague feel-good language, think again. In this episode, I’m sharing how setting intentions can lead to getting the most out of your day, your experiences, and your interactions with others. *   Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you or a loved one has ever struggled through the fertility process, or if you’re interested in the topic of adoption. I am so happy to share this conversation with one of my dearest friends, Lindsay Lawler, who recently became a mother when she adopted her baby girl on Thanksgiving Day 2018.  Lindsay shares the story of her experience with infertility, medical treatments, and adoption. As a reminder, neither Lindsay nor I are medical experts OR adoption experts. We both encourage you to do all your research when planning to grow your family. In this episode, we discuss: listening to your body finding out your egg count connecting with your doctor marriage strain how adoption should NOT be a last resort staying positive but also allowing yourself emotions finding an adoption agency trusting the outcome fears after placement   Full show notes can be found here. Follow Lindsay on Instagram Follow Laura on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Facebook

You asked, I answered. This episode covers everything from favorite authors, skincare updates, self-doubt, the big thing that happened to me earlier this year, and whether or not I'm making money on this podcast.  I also include a little Q&A with my mom at the end of the episode. This was not a show I was planning on doing, but apparently I have a lot of words to give your questions. Thanks for hanging in there with the change in format in this completely unscripted episode.  Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you've ever been in a partnership. (Any kind of partnership.) I’m talking about different types of partnerships and how calling out our partner's strengths can lead to bigger conversations about what’s working and what needs work. Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you're feeling a little unmoored right now. I’m asking you Where Are You? in three different ways: Where are you in your mind? Where are you on the timeline? Where are you in your space? In this episode I’m sharing a few mindfulness routines, reading from the anthology On Being 40-ish, and urging you take up space in a room and in a photo. * Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

This episode is for you if you need more motivation in the kitchen.  I'm in a cooking rut. After a season of convenience foods and lazy standbys, I'm ready to get back to the basics in the kitchen. My friend Bri McKoy is sharing the 10 essential kitchen tools that will inspire and motivate new habits for feeding my family.  We really just wanted to talk about cooking. But of course I tried to make it deep.  You can find Bri McKoy on Instagram and on her blog Our Savory Life. * Read the full show notes for this episode here.  Follow Laura on Instagram @10 Things To Tell You on Instagram @10 Things To Tell You Facebook

This episode is for anyone who has struggled with meeting a goal, or knowing what to prioritize.  We’re all measuring something, but are we using the right metric? Are we measuring time or result? Are we measuring our waist or our health? We can measure our social media or our water intake, but if we’re not setting ourselves up for success, then we’ll fail emotionally every time. In this episode, I’m musing over some measurements that caught me off guard, and how I’m shifting my perspective on some of the things I'm actively measuring. I’m asking you to give an honest assessment of the things in your life (big and small) that you’re measuring, and ask yourself if you’re using the right metric. Full show notes for this episode here.   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you've ever walked into a room. * Full show notes for this episode here. Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you've ever had a milestone birthday.  I'm turning 40 this week! I'm sharing all my wisdom, big feelings about that. From body changes to watching the clock tick, here's how I'm handling turning the big 4-0.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you're looking for recommendations on new podcasts to binge, books to read, or summer style choices.  These are a few of my favorite things right now. Take this prompt as a nudge to list out a few of YOUR favorites to share with others.  Full show notes for this episode can be found here. (Believe me, you're going to want the show notes for this one.) Nothing in this episode is sponsored. This is just me, sharing what I'm into right now.  * Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you've ever taken a trip.  What is the best trip you've ever taken? And what does "best" even mean? Was the best location, with the best people, was it simple or revelatory or both?  This prompt is a great conversation starter.  In this episode, I'm sharing some of my favorite trips of all time. And at the end of me rambling, there are 10+ travel tips sent in my listeners. That's the best part of the whole show! Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow:   @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram   @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anxiety or ever watched a loved one form coping mechanisms to handle their anxiety. I have more than 10 things to tell you about anxiety, but here is a place we can start the mental health conversation. In this episode, I'm sharing my lifelong anxiety starting in childhood, through the teenage and young adult years, after I had children, and into the present day.  I'm talking about what anxiety looks like for me, healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the things that have given me the most relief.  The goal of this type of episode is just to share a common human experience. I hope that it makes you check in with your own body, be honest about mental health struggles, and bring about some understanding of the anxiety that millions of people live with every day.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook.   Sign up to receive episode emails here.   *   This episode was brought to you by my newsletter the Secret Posts.   Sign up to receive the Secret Posts here.   

Content warning. The themes in this book include child abuse and sexual violence.  This discussion of Flowers in the Attic by VC Andrews is finally here! Meg Tietz and I sit down to talk about this cult classic novel that women of a *cough* certain age passed around among friends.  We thought we were in for a giggly conversation about a silly book. What we found between these pages surprised us both.  Full show notes here.  * Follow Meg Tietz on Instagram  Follow Laura Tremaine on Instagram Follow 10 Things To Tell You on Instagram  

This episode is for you if you've ever felt stuck in your roles.  This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor. * Full show notes for this episode here.   Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook.   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you've ever needed a mantra, to get through the day, a season, or your life.  What is your mantra? Do you have one? Do you need one?  On this episode, I share three different mantras that I've used over the years and that I still call upon when needed. We also hear from listeners who sent in their own life mantras.  10 Things To Tell You is an interactive podcast. Each episode has a prompt and a topic that I want you to take to your journal, text to your best friend, or answer on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.  Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook.   Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you want to learn more about taking care of your skin, or if you're always looking for new makeup recs.  Guest Jamie Golden is giving us a skincare education. If you have no idea what serums you need or how to make your face look more like it did 10 years ago, you are about to take notes.  Jamie is most well-known for her popular (hilarious) podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie, and The Bible Binge, but her personal obsession is skin care. Jamie's Instagram is full of beauty tips and recommendations.  On this episode, Jamie walks us through our basic skincare needs while Laura shares five or her favorite current beauty buys, from hair products to lipstick to a magical foundation.  Full show notes (with everything we recommend) here.  * Jamie Golden is on Instagram.  Jamie co-hosts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and the Bible Binge. Find The Popcast on Instagram and Facebook. The Bible Binge on Instagram. and on facebook. * Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.   

This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered “Who am I supposed to tell these 10 Things to….?” Every week I go on and on about how we all have 10 Things To Tell, but WHO do you tell?  Friends? A sibling? A partner? No one? This episode is about the people who deserve your trust. I'm telling you the 3 things that make me want to share with someone, and what happens if that trust is broken. There's one thing in particular I really want you to pay attention to.  I hope this episode makes you think about the relationships in your life that inspires you to share your stuff, in both new and lifelong friendships. * Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.  

This episode is for anyone whose life didn't turn out exactly as they expected.  Who did you expect to be? Not who did you *want* to be or who did other people want you to be? But WHO did YOU expect to be at this stage of your life? And are you that person? I've thought about variations of this theme for years, maybe even my whole adulthood. Because my life hasn't turned out at all like I expected. Okay, that's not entirely true.  * Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you're always looking for new reading recommendations.  I'm listing the best books I've read lately, including novels, memoirs, and self-help. These are the books I can't stop talking about.  And I'm asking YOU to share the best book(s) YOU'VE read recently. Post on social using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou for all of us looking for something great to read.  Click here for the show notes with the full list of titles I discuss in this episode.  . . Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.  

This episode is for you if you've ever been in a family. Family rules. We all have 'em. Curfews, screen time, don't wear shoes in the house, finish the food on your plate. In this episode we're talking about our most basic family rules and also the unspoken rules of a family that shapes our behavior.  Answer this question in your journal, with a friend, or on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou: What are your family rules? Full show notes for this episode here.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.

This episode is for you if you're interested in starting or keeping a journal.  On every single episode of this podcast, I've encouraged you to take the prompts to your journal. But what if you don't have a journal? This episode walks you through why I think having a journal is crucial for your personal growth, and can be a wonderful documentation of your life. I'm giving you 10 very different ways to approach journaling. From spiritual to quick to apps on your phone, there are so many ways to keep a journal of your thoughts. If you DO journal, please share your process on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou * Full show notes for this episode here. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. Sign up to receive episode emails here.  

This episode is for you if you've ever wondered the difference between a Hollywood director and a producer.  Every now and then this show will take a break from the personal introspection and hear from a guest who has something interesting to say. I'm kicking off that series with my talented husband, producer/director Jeff Tremaine.  In this episode we talk about his new movie The Dirt, a Netflix biopic about the rock band Motley Crue. Jeff shares why the film took nearly 10 years to make, and the most crucial decision he made in the beginning.  We also discuss how we stay connected in our marriage when apart for months at a time, and how he feels about making a movie that doesn't always align with his own values.  You can find all the show notes here.  Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and on facebook. 

This episode is for you if you've ever made assumptions about others that turned out not to be true.  Sometimes I assume that everyone else is killin' it at life and I'm the only one flailing around. Sound familiar?  In this episode, I share some of the silly things people have assumed about me and a few things that I assume about everyone else. (None of these things are true.)  Find the full show notes here. Take this topic to your journal, text your best friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and on facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails. 

This episode is for you if Judy Blume's novels made an impact on your childhood.  This is the first in the REVISIT series, where we're going to look at things from the past and see how they affected us then and how we feel about them now. Today's topic: Judy Blume. Specifically, her three novels:  Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret. Blubber and Starring Sally J. Freedman As Herself. My guest on this episode is my childhood friend Cara Pence, and we get a little emotional as we delve into the more painful themes of these books. This is a true conversation between friends. You can read the full show notes here. Take this topic to your journal, text your best friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails.  

This episode is for you if you've ever had a teacher who made an impact on your thinking and development.  Tell me about your teachers.    Today we're talking about the school teachers (or coaches, or activity instructors) who have made a difference in our lives in one way or another. I'm sharing the teachers who taught me how to think, trusted me, and even a few who left a mark I wish I didn't have. At the end of the episode, we hear from a few listeners.  You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.  See the full show notes here.  Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails. 

This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your own body.   This episode is NOT about weight or exercise. We’re talking about the mind/body connection and the spiritual awakening that can occur when you really tune into your body instead of living on autopilot.   I’m welcoming Pilates studio owner and movement teacher Kerri Campbell as my guest as we discuss and answer the question   How do you connect to your body?   Age, trauma, pain, and depression are just a few of the things that can cause us to disconnect from our body over time. In this episode we’ll talk about how to recognize if your brain and body have gone numb to one another and the mindset shift that will motivate positive change instead of constant self critique.   Read the full show notes here.   You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook. You can sign up here to receive episode news and notifications.

This episode is for you if you've ever thought about where you live and how it affects you.  Where do you live? This is one of the most basic, get-to-know-you questions, and the answer can vary. Our country, state, city, and neighborhood all say something about us, whether we like it or not.  On today's episode, we're not just talking about our zip codes, we're talking about how our location is currently affecting who we are. I live in Los Angeles, so I have 10 Things To Tell You about my little pocket of L.A.  You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.  See the full show notes here.  Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and facebook. You can also sign up here for episode emails. 

This episode is for you if you've ever felt lonely. Which means this episode is for everyone.    Loneliness feels like one of the great taboo topics of adulthood. But all around me, I see and hear people whispering that they’re profoundly lonely. In this episode I’m going to tell you about a time in my life when I was really lonely, and the two things I did that turned it around for me.    The prompt for this week:   Are you lonely?   Or    When were you lonely?   Take your thoughts to your journal, to a friend, or to social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.   Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook and Instagram.   You can sign up for episode emails and see the full show notes here. 

This episode is for you if you want tips on how to read more, or if you already have a reading habit. We're kicking off the 10 Things To Tell you podcast with my favorite thing: BOOKS! People are always asking me how I read so much, and mainly people want to know: WHEN do you read? HOW do you read? WHAT do you read? I’m answering all of those questions and so much more. I’m telling you my secret to reading (roughly) one book a week. If audiobooks count the same as reading a book you hold. And I confess my dilemma over rating books publicly. Read the full show notes here. After you listen to the episode, I want you to answer the questions for yourself. Text your reader friends and ask them about their reading routines. Or post on social media your reading habits and opinions using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure you tag the show on Instagram and Facebook if you post! Don't miss a thing. Sign up here for episode news & notifications. 

I’m Laura Tremaine, and I have 10 things to tell you.  Each episode of this new podcast will ask a question, and you're encouraged to take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media.