The Social Skills Mastery Podcast is where High-Performance Social Confidence Coach and Corporate Trainer, Susan Callender helps professionals, business owners, and entrepreneurs stand out in competitive and often high-stakes situations, by raising social capital and using the power of polished people skills to make an impact. Weekly content encompasses what to do, what to say, how to maneuver tricky situations and get it right the first time.
202. Why Social Skills Are the Key to Career Acceleration
In today’s episode, we’re diving into the often-overlooked factor that directly impacts your career success—social skills. If you’ve ever felt overlooked, undervalued, or underpaid in your job, despite working hard and delivering results, this episode will show you how improving your ability to connect, communicate, and build relationships could be the missing piece. Episode Highlights: The importance of building trust and why consistency is the key to professional relationships. How to clearly communicate your value so that your contributions don’t go unnoticed by colleagues, bosses, or clients. Why being vulnerable—strategically—can actually help you build stronger, more authentic relationships. The power of creating a “signature interaction” that sets you apart and makes you memorable in any business context. Why managing your energy (not just your time) is crucial to showing up as your best self in professional settings. Key Takeaways: Consistency builds trust. Learn how small, consistent actions help you become reliable and indispensable at work. Communicate your value. Stop waiting to be recognized—start clearly showing the impact of your work. Vulnerability creates connection. Learn the art of strategic vulnerability to foster deeper relationships without undermining your credibility. Signature interactions make you memorable. Discover how small, unique gestures can leave a lasting impression. Manage your energy for success. Master the skill of aligning your energy levels with important social and business interactions. Whether you’re aiming for that promotion, want to get more recognition in meetings, or are simply looking to strengthen your relationships with clients and colleagues, this episode is packed with actionable strategies you can start using today. By the end of the episode, you’ll not only understand why social skills are crucial to your professional success but also how you can start making meaningful improvements in the way you connect with others. Tune in now to learn how you can ensure you’re never overlooked, undervalued, or underpaid again—simply by leveling up your social skills. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
10/17/2024 • 19 minutes, 19 seconds
201: The Who vs The How: Allowing Your Desired Self to Shine in Social Interactions
Are you constantly trying to fit into a mold, worried about saying the right thing, or doing the wrong thing? In this episode, we challenge the idea that social success is solely about mastering specific techniques or following a script. Discover the transformative power of “who” you are being and how focusing on who you are can lead to more meaningful connections and genuine interactions. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
10/10/2024 • 24 minutes, 25 seconds
200. Communicating with Humans: How to Function in Society and Excel in Your Career
In this episode of Social Skills Mastery, we dive into the essential skill of communication and how mastering it can help you overcome the fear of interacting with others, function smoothly in social situations, and excel in your professional life. Whether you're feeling stuck due to social anxiety, introversion, or just discomfort in social situations, learning how to communicate effectively is your key to stepping outside your comfort zone and thriving both personally and professionally. We break down the exact steps to improve your communication skills, including actionable tips you can use today, so you can engage with confidence, leave a lasting impression, and achieve your career goals. Key Takeaways: Why effective communication is critical for social functioning and career success. How to use simple techniques to initiate and maintain conversations with ease. The importance of active listening and how it can transform your relationships. Practical tips for breaking out of the isolation of working from home and becoming more comfortable in social situations. Strategies for navigating conversations in professional settings, from meetings to networking events, and standing out as a confident communicator. How improving your communication skills can reduce social anxiety and boost your overall sense of well-being. Actionable Tips: Practice Open-Ended Questions: Start with simple, open-ended questions that encourage others to share more, allowing you to keep the conversation going without overthinking. Master Nonverbal Communication: Body language speaks volumes! Learn how to use eye contact, facial expressions, and posture to communicate confidence and approachability. Use the 2-Minute Rule: Commit to initiating small conversations in social situations for just two minutes to build momentum and break the ice. Create a ‘Communication Ritual’: Develop a routine for socializing that makes interactions less stressful, whether that’s greeting colleagues every morning or joining a weekly networking event. Reframe Your Fear: See your social anxiety as an opportunity for growth rather than a roadblock, and start embracing new interactions as practice for becoming a better communicator. Quotes from the Episode: “Your ability to communicate effectively is directly linked to your success—both in your personal life and your career.” “You don’t have to be the life of the party to succeed socially, but you do need to learn how to navigate conversations with confidence and ease.” “Start with small steps—each conversation you have is a micro step toward becoming a stronger communicator.” Next Steps: If you’re ready to improve your communication skills and start feeling more confident in social situations, be sure to subscribe to Social Skills Mastery. In upcoming episodes, we’ll continue exploring practical tips to help you succeed in your career and life by elevating your social skills. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
10/3/2024 • 16 minutes, 26 seconds
199. Failing Forward: The Power of The Compound Effect When Building Social Confidence
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by the thought of improving your social skills? In this episode, we debunk the myth of overnight success and explore the power of small, consistent steps. Discover the concept of "failing forward" and how embracing setbacks can fuel your growth. Learn practical strategies to take micro-steps towards building your social confidence and skills. Key Takeaways: The importance of mindset: Shift your perspective from fear of failure to a growth mindset that embraces challenges. The power of micro-steps: Break down your goals into small, achievable steps to avoid feeling overwhelmed. The compound effect: Understand how consistent effort, even in small increments, can lead to significant progress over time. Overcoming obstacles: Learn strategies for dealing with setbacks and using them as opportunities for growth. Celebrating small wins: Recognize and reward your progress to stay motivated and inspired. Ready to start your journey towards social mastery? Tune in to this episode for practical advice and actionable steps. Remember, progress is a marathon, not a sprint. Take it one step at a time, celebrate your victories, and never give up on your goals. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
In today’s episode, we dive deep into the barriers that prevent us from forming meaningful connections and successful networking relationships. If the thought of walking into a room full of strangers makes your stomach churn or if you've ever found yourself tongue-tied during networking events, this episode is for you. Understanding these barriers and learning to navigate them will forever change the way you approach challenging social situations—whether you're at a professional event or a casual gathering. We’re here to help you transform your social confidence and take charge of how you connect with others. Key Topics Discussed: Common barriers to networking and connection: social anxiety, fear of rejection, overthinking, and imposter syndrome. How to identify the specific thoughts and habits that hold you back from building strong connections. Practical strategies for breaking down these barriers, from preparing in advance to managing nervousness on the spot. The power of body language and non-verbal communication in overcoming networking fears. How learning to navigate uncomfortable social situations can open doors in both your personal and professional life. Actionable tips for building authentic relationships that go beyond surface-level interactions. We all know that networking is essential for professional growth, but for many, it’s one of the most daunting challenges. By the end of this episode, you’ll not only have a better understanding of why networking feels so hard but also how you can shift your mindset and behaviors to make it easier and even enjoyable. Learning to overcome these barriers will fundamentally change how you approach any challenging social situation. Take Action: Are you ready to finally overcome your fear of networking? Start by identifying one barrier that resonated with you and try one of the strategies shared in today’s episode. Remember, social confidence is built one small step at a time. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
9/25/2024 • 26 minutes, 22 seconds
197. Tapping into Calm: Harnessing Hypnosis and EFT for Social Anxiety Relief
Feeling overwhelmed by social anxiety? Diana Sofia is here to help you discover the transformative power of hypnosis and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) in this episode. Learn how these techniques can help you: Understand the root causes: Explore the underlying psychological factors contributing to social anxiety. Break free from limiting beliefs: Challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. Manage physical symptoms: Learn relaxation techniques to reduce physical manifestations of anxiety, like sweating, blushing, and rapid heartbeat. Build confidence and assertiveness: Develop the skills to engage in social interactions with ease and confidence. Create lasting change: Discover how hypnosis and EFT can lead to long-term relief from social anxiety. Schedule a Session with Diana Sofia Connect with Diana Sofia Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
9/13/2024 • 37 minutes, 13 seconds
196. The 10 Most Common Mistakes Shy People Make (and how to fix them)
Tired of feeling held back by shyness, introversion, or social anxiety? In this episode, we dive deep into the 10 most common mistakes these individuals make and offer practical strategies for overcoming them. Discover how to step out of your comfort zone, build confidence, and connect with others on a deeper level. Key Takeaways: Overanalyzing every interaction: Learn to let go of the past and focus on the present. Comparing yourself to others: Embrace your unique personality and avoid self-comparison. Avoiding social situations: Take small, gradual steps to increase your exposure to social interactions. Appearing weak: Identify and celebrate your strengths to boost your confidence. Neglecting professional appearance: Prioritize physical and mental well-being for overall resilience. Overthinking potential outcomes: Challenge negative thoughts and focus on the present moment. Underestimating your own value: Believe in yourself and your contributions. Failing to seek help: Don't hesitate to seek professional support if needed. Ignoring small social victories: Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. Comparing yourself to others: Focus on your own journey and avoid comparing yourself to others. Ready to break free from shyness, introversion, and social anxiety? Start by implementing these strategies and taking small steps towards a more confident and fulfilling social life. You're not alone, and with the right mindset and tools, you can overcome these challenges. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
9/8/2024 • 18 minutes, 31 seconds
195. The Social Skills You Must Learn If You Ever Want to be Successful in Business
Episode 195 dives into eight social skills you must learn if you ever want to be successful in business and professionally, and how mastering them will make you an unstoppable people magnet. There are more for sure, but get started with these and master them, then add a few more to your repertoire. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
8/29/2024 • 23 minutes, 11 seconds
194. Self-belief vs. Self-defeat: Stop Worrying About What People Think
Today we dive into the mindset shift you need to stop worrying about what others think and start showing up as your authentic, powerful self. If you find yourself holding back in business or social interactions because you’re worried about being judged or criticized, this episode is for you. This episode is a must-listen for anyone ready to break free from self-defeat and step into self-belief, owning their space in any room with confidence and purpose. Tune in now to start living big and making the impact you’re meant to make! Key Takeaways: Break Free from the Fear of Judgment: Learn why worrying about others’ opinions keeps you playing small and how to shift your focus to your mission and purpose instead. Master Your Inner Dialogue: Discover how to challenge and rewrite the negative self-talk that’s fueling your self-doubt, and replace it with empowering beliefs that boost your confidence. Embrace Your Authentic Power: Understand why authenticity is your greatest asset and how leaning into your uniqueness can help you make a bigger impact and build stronger connections. Actionable Tips: Shift Your Focus: Prioritize your mission over others’ opinions. Rewrite Your Story: Replace negative self-talk with empowering beliefs. Own Your Uniqueness: Embrace and celebrate what makes you different. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
8/22/2024 • 28 minutes, 4 seconds
193. Believe to Achieve: Overcoming Self-Doubt for Success
Tired of letting self-doubt hold you back? This episode empowers professionals to overcome their inner critic and step into their full potential. Discover practical strategies to replace self-doubt with self-assurance, build unshakeable confidence, and achieve greater success in both your professional and personal life. Learn how to silence the negative voice, embrace challenges, and become the confident leader you aspire to be. Key Takeaways: The psychology behind self-doubt and its impact on professional and personal life. Proven techniques to challenge and reframe negative thought patterns. Practical steps to build self-confidence and resilience. Strategies for overcoming imposter syndrome and embracing vulnerability. The importance of celebrating small wins and setting realistic goals. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
8/15/2024 • 27 minutes, 8 seconds
192. The Stories We Tell Ourselves: Shaping Reality Through Our Inner Narratives
In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the concept that the stories we create in our minds ultimately shape our reality. Whether it's telling ourselves that we can't achieve something or convincing ourselves that we're not worthy, these narratives become our truth. The idea is simple but profound: the words and thoughts we repeat internally have the power to limit or liberate us. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
8/9/2024 • 23 minutes, 47 seconds
191. Trusting Your Gut: Using Intuition to Boost Social Confidence
8/1/2024 • 24 minutes, 18 seconds
190. The Self-Awareness Advantage: Elevate Your Social Interactions
In this episode of "Social Skills Mastery," we delve into the powerful role self-awareness plays in enhancing our social interactions. Discover how understanding yourself can lead to more meaningful connections and improved communication in both personal and professional settings. We explore practical strategies to increase your self-awareness and discuss how this awareness can transform the way you interact with others. Key Takeaways: · Understanding Self-Awareness: We begin by defining self-awareness and discussing its importance as a cornerstone of effective social interactions. Learn how being aware of your emotions, thoughts, and behaviors can help you connect more authentically with others. · Benefits of Self-Awareness: Discover the numerous advantages that come with heightened self-awareness, including improved empathy, better conflict resolution, and enhanced communication skills. We'll share real-life examples of how self-awareness can positively impact your relationships. · Practical Strategies for Developing Self-Awareness: We provide actionable tips to help you become more self-aware. From mindfulness practices to journaling, learn simple yet effective techniques that can be incorporated into your daily routine. · Self-Awareness in Professional Settings: Explore how self-awareness can boost your career by enhancing your ability to collaborate, lead, and network. We'll discuss how understanding your strengths and weaknesses can lead to greater professional success. · Overcoming Barriers to Self-Awareness: We address common obstacles that hinder self-awareness, such as fear of vulnerability and negative self-talk, and offer strategies to overcome them. Listener Challenge: This week, challenge yourself to engage in one activity that promotes self-awareness. Whether it's through meditation, reflecting on your daily interactions, or seeking feedback from a trusted friend, take a step toward understanding yourself better and watch how it elevates your social interactions. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer? Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
7/27/2024 • 22 minutes, 26 seconds
189. From Wallflower to Wow: Cultivating Charisma in the Workplace
In episode 189 we delve into the topic of charisma, exploring its value and how to develop this powerful trait. Susan breaks down the components of charisma and provides actionable strategies so you can enhance your personal magnetism. The episode addresses: · How to use charisma ethically to achieve your goals · Applying charismatic skills in various situations (meetings, networking, leadership) · Addressing the misconception that introverts can't be charismatic · Potential pitfalls of charisma and how to avoid them Listener Challenge: Choose one aspect of charisma to focus on and practice it daily for a week. Notice how it affects your interactions and feelings. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer? Send an email to: [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
7/18/2024 • 19 minutes, 14 seconds
188. [Bonus] Social Confidence Summer Camp: An Opportunity for A Unique Experience
Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? REGISTER TODAY for Social Confidence Summer Camp Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
7/12/2024 • 8 minutes, 58 seconds
187. Clear, Credible, and Composed: Self-Management in Meetings for the Socially Reserved
In today's episode, we're diving into a topic that resonates with many quiet and socially reserved professionals: managing yourself effectively in meetings. Meetings can be daunting, but with the right strategies, you can contribute meaningfully and feel more comfortable. Key Takeaways: Preparation is Key: Do Your Homework: Research the meeting agenda and participants. Understand the topics to be discussed. Prepare Points: Write down your thoughts and questions in advance. Having a few key points ready can boost your confidence. Set Intentions: Goal Setting: Define your objectives for the meeting. What do you want to achieve or learn? Personal Intentions: Decide how you want to present yourself and what personal goals you have, such as speaking up at least once. Use Non-Verbal Communication: Body Language: Maintain good posture, make eye contact, and use gestures to show engagement. Active Listening: Nod and use facial expressions to show you are following along. Leverage Your Strengths: Thoughtful Contributions: Your quiet nature often means you think deeply before speaking. Use this to provide well-considered insights. Listening Skills: Being a good listener is a valuable skill. Summarize key points and ask clarifying questions. Build Relationships: Connect One-on-One: Reach out to colleagues individually to discuss meeting topics beforehand. This can make it easier to speak up in the meeting. Seek Allies: Identify supportive colleagues who can encourage you to share your thoughts. Listener Challenge: For this week's challenge, try implementing one of the strategies discussed in today's episode. Whether it’s preparing a few key points before your next meeting or practicing deep breathing exercises, take a step towards becoming more confident in meetings. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
7/7/2024 • 20 minutes, 20 seconds
186. The Social Butterfly Effect
6/27/2024 • 27 minutes, 34 seconds
185. The Psychology of your Vocal Persona w/ Tracy Goodwin
Your voice is more than just words. It's a powerful tool that can convey confidence, warmth, or authority. In this episode, my special guest, Tracy Goodwin and I delve into the fascinating world of the Psychology of the Voice. Join us as we explore how subtle variations in tone, volume, speed, and pausing can dramatically shape how your message is received. You will learn how to use vocal techniques to cultivate a distinct persona that reflects your brand and resonates with your audience, and we explore the power of vocal delivery, from projecting confidence to conveying empathy. You’ll gain insight into how the human brain interprets vocal cues and the impact they have on perception. Ready to unlock the full potential of your voice? This episode equips you with the knowledge and tools to become a more impactful communicator and create a lasting impression. Tracy’s Instagram Captivate the Room Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
6/15/2024 • 35 minutes, 37 seconds
184. Making Your Way Toward the Spotlight and Becoming More Visible with Melanie Whittaker
Are you a hidden gem in your field? Do you have valuable insights but hold back from sharing them for fear of being visible? In this episode, we explore the power of personal branding and communication for professionals who want to step into the spotlight and become the front-facing voice of their business or area of expertise. My guest, Melanie Whittaker, a public relations expert, dives deep into: Overcoming common fears: We explore the anxieties that hold professionals back from speaking up, from imposter syndrome to stage fright. Finding your voice: Discover strategies for developing a unique narrative that resonates with your audience. Building confidence: Learn actionable steps you can take each day to boost your confidence and become a more compelling communicator. Hear tips for becoming more engaging that showcases your expertise, even if you're not a natural conversationalist. Beyond self-promotion: We also explore how personal PR and marketing can contribute to your industry and community, not just your own career. Ready to step out of the shadows and share your voice with the world? This episode equips you with the tools and strategies to become a confident and visible leader in your field. Additionally, here are links to Melanie's website and resources: Instagram www.instagram.com/youareyourmarketing LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-whittaker-836457224 Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/share/oreR4eKiKvCgwqze/ Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
6/7/2024 • 21 minutes, 7 seconds
183. Managing People-Pleasing and Perfectionism with Mindset Coach Kim Jarman
Kimberly Jarman, is on a mission to empower you to break free from self-imposed rules and the coping mechanisms that have followed you since childhood. Kimberly specializes in human potential from a unique perspective that integrates mindset, neuroscience, and biochemistry. She believes in dismantling the rules we live by and empowers her clients to create lives and careers that are meaningful and impactful. Her holistic approach leverages the mind-body connection, biohacking techniques, and a powerful mindset to propel her clients toward achieving their goals faster. www.kimberlyjarmancoaching.com TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kimberlyjarman IG: https://www.instagram.com/kimberlyjarmancoaching/ Don’t even know where to begin in improving your people skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
5/30/2024 • 23 minutes, 13 seconds
182. The Intersection of High Impact Leadership and People Skills with Chris Pienkowski
5/25/2024 • 36 minutes, 29 seconds
181. Common Social Skills Challenges of Smart & Accomplished Adults
In this enlightening episode, we dive deep into the social skills challenges often faced by smart and accomplished adults. Despite their professional success and intellectual prowess, many adults find social interactions daunting or awkward. We explore why this happens, common pitfalls, and practical strategies to overcome these obstacles. Whether you're a high-achieving individual struggling with social dynamics or simply curious about the topic, this episode offers valuable insights and tips to enhance your social confidence and connections. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
5/21/2024 • 17 minutes, 3 seconds
180. Moving Away from Procrastination and Toward Your Dreams with The Procrastination Coach - Dr. Christine Li
Thinking, spinning, and buffering will not help you overcome hesitancy and get you to your goal of super social skills. Today we’re fortunate to have Dr. Christine Li share some insight on how procrastination affects us and what we can do to eradicate it. Dr. Lee is a New York-based clinical psychologist and online she calls herself "Procrastination Coach." She helps people who are struggling with underperforming at home and work to begin taking action with ease and high levels of productivity. Her coaching process is a blend of mindset strategy, time and emotion management techniques, and a deep belief in the power we each have when we treat ourselves with love and good self-care. She is the host of the popular podcast "Make Time for Success" and the author of the book "5-Minute Self-Discipline Exercises: Stay Motivated. Cultivate Good Habits, and Achieve Your Goals." Social links: Website: https://procrastinationcoach.com Podcast: https://maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com Facebook Group: https://procrastinationcoach.com/facebook Instagram: https://instagram.com/procrastinationcoach TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@procrastinationcoach The Re-Energize Your Home Challenge: https://procrastinationcoach.com/susan Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email me at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
5/9/2024 • 33 minutes, 5 seconds
179. The Power of Rapid Resolution Therapy with Karen Seltz
My guest today is Karen Seltz, a coach and practitioner of Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT), which is a therapeutic approach designed to quickly isolate and resolve emotional and behavioral issues by targeting their root causes. Through guided conversation and exploration, RRT aims to uncover the underlying sources of social phobias and social anxiety, which may include past traumas, negative belief patterns, or unresolved conflicts. By addressing the core issues in a focused and efficient manner, RRT enables clients to experience rapid relief from their symptoms and facilitates lasting change Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Coach Karen Seltz Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Have a question that needs an answer. Email Susan at [email protected] LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
5/3/2024 • 27 minutes, 14 seconds
178. Finding Your Unique Link to Current Social Anxiety and Past Trauma
4/25/2024 • 17 minutes, 50 seconds
177. Managing Reactions to Unwelcome Feedback and Not Allowing Opinions to Get you Down
In this week's episode, I answer a listener's question about feeling criticized vs. receiving helpful feedback. We also discuss delayed trauma and how that bubbles back up to the surface in your professional life as soon as we're triggered. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your communication style? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Digital Business Card Blinq.AI https://blinq.me/ LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
4/18/2024 • 15 minutes, 38 seconds
176. Micro-Steps to Social Success When Your Job is On The Line
Episode 176 answers a listener’s question about why they may have been passed over for a higher level role. Numerous factors come into play, and taking the steps to modify your persona may be the best option. Don’t even know where to begin in improving your interpersonal skills? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Digital Business Card Blinq.AI https://blinq.me/ LinkedIn Instagram TikTok
4/12/2024 • 13 minutes, 51 seconds
175. Meet Click Connect - Network Your Way to Success
4/5/2024 • 23 minutes, 15 seconds
174. Become the Creator of Your Experiences Through Social Scripting
In episode #174 we explore the transformative potential of social scripting and visualization techniques in shaping ideal experiences. We delve into how crafting mental scripts and vividly imagining desired outcomes can enhance confidence, performance, and overall well-being. From job interviews to public speaking engagements, we discuss practical applications of these methods in various contexts. Join us as we uncover the science behind these practices and offer actionable tips for incorporating them into daily routines. Tune in to learn how to harness the power of your mind to create the experiences you desire. Top of Form Don’t even know where to begin in improving your communication style? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
3/29/2024 • 22 minutes
173. Social Risks Reap the Greatest Rewards: Stop Allowing Fear to Prevent Progress
In episode #173, we delve into the ways in which the fear of the unknown can hold professionals back from reaching their full potential. We explore how uncertainty about anything from new projects, and unfamiliar opportunities can breed anxiety and stifle progress. From the fear of failure to being in flight or fright mode, we dissect common challenges and their impact on professional development. Join us as we discuss strategies for embracing uncertainty, building resilience, and stepping outside of comfort zones to unlock new opportunities for growth and success in the workplace. Tune in and conquer your fears today! Top of Form Don’t even know where to begin in improving your communication style? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
3/21/2024 • 24 minutes, 29 seconds
172. Adopting the Best Communication Style to Shape Interactions and Relationships
In episode 172, we delve into the importance of selecting the right communication style for various situations. From assertiveness to passive-aggressiveness and aggression, we explore how each style shapes interactions and relationships. Learn how upbringing and social influences play a role in determining our default styles and how we can consciously adapt them for better outcomes. Discover practical tips for navigating conversations with confidence, setting boundaries, and creating healthy communication habits. It’s my goal to empower you to to make informed choices about your communication styles, enhancing connections, and resolving conflicts effectively. Tune in and elevate your communication game today! Don’t even know where to begin in improving your communication style? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
3/15/2024 • 22 minutes, 25 seconds
171. Masterclass in Social Scripting: Creating a Fresh Narrative
In episode 171 we uncover how the narratives we craft, both internally and influenced by society, shape the outcomes we experience in life. From personal self-talk to worry and anxiety, explore the cognitive links between our stories and the realities we manifest. Join us as we delve into practical insights and inspiring examples, revealing the profound impact of our narratives on our perceptions and the choices we make. Tune in to learn how rewriting our stories can lead to positive transformation and personal growth. Don’t even know where to begin? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
3/8/2024 • 20 minutes, 5 seconds
170. Habits: The Real Drivers of Social Dynamics
Social skills, be they good or bad, are often the result of ingrained habits that develop over time. These habits can include things like interrupting others, avoiding eye contact, or not listening actively. Sometimes, people may not even be aware of these habits because they've become a natural part of how they interact with others. It's important to recognize that poor social skills are not permanent personality traits; instead, they are learned behaviors that can be modified with awareness and effort. The good news is that social skills can be changed through conscious effort and practice. Just as good social habits can be developed, undesirable ones can be replaced with more positive behaviors. It starts with self-awareness—identifying the specific habits that may be hindering social interactions. Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
3/4/2024 • 31 minutes, 22 seconds
169. Speak Up and Be Heard: Building Confidence Through Social Risks
Feeling stuck in your comfort zone? This episode dives into the power of taking social risks and speaking up! We explore why stepping outside your comfort zone can lead to exciting opportunities, stronger connections, and even personal growth. Discover how to overcome anxieties, find your voice, and unlock the potential hidden within your social risks! Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
2/25/2024 • 19 minutes, 28 seconds
168. Balancing and Prioritizing Social Skills Over Hard Skills
If the thought of initiating and joining conversations brings you down, instead, think of social skills as the bridge between knowledge and your making an amazing impact. They let you explain complex ideas clearly, persuade colleagues, and build trust with clients. They help you navigate the "human side" of the equation, where teamwork, leadership, and communication hold the power to unlock true potential. Don't be fooled by the "soft" label. Mastering social skills requires dedication, just like any valuable skill. Active listening, empathy, and clear communication are muscles you can train. And the rewards? Stronger relationships, smoother collaborations, and ultimately, greater career satisfaction and success. Remember, the world needs problem-solvers with expertise, yes, but also individuals who can connect, inspire, and lead. So, polish your hard skills, but don't neglect the social ones. In the symphony of success, both play a beautiful and indispensable melody. Don’t even know where to begin? Are you ready to leave social stress behind and go from where you are to where you want to be? Book a Social Strategy Session HERE Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook
2/17/2024 • 20 minutes, 5 seconds
167. From Self-Doubt to Social Star: A Guide to Elevated Esteem
Building and maintaining healthy self-esteem is important for various aspects of your life, as it influences your mental well-being, relationships, and overall success. It helps you with everything from having positive mental health, to resilience, improved relationships, increased confidence, and daily motivation, just to name a few. It's important to note that building self-esteem is a continuous process that involves self-reflection, self-compassion, and personal growth. Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a Free “Social Strategy Session”
2/9/2024 • 17 minutes, 50 seconds
166. Selecting An Ideal Communication Style
Selecting an ideal communication style is crucial as it facilitates effective and authentic expression of thoughts, emotions, and ideas. Tailoring your communication approach to align with your personality, values, and preferences enhances clarity and ensures that your message resonates genuinely with others. A communication style that suits you promotes confidence, allowing you to articulate yourself with ease and engage in more meaningful interactions. It fosters better understanding and connection with those around you, leading to stronger relationships both personally and professionally. Additionally, an ideal communication style contributes to improved conflict resolution and problem-solving, as it enables you to convey your thoughts in a manner that suits your natural tendencies and strengths. Ultimately, aligning your communication style with your authentic self fosters a sense of self-awareness, fosters positive connections, and paves the way for more effective and fulfilling communication experiences. Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a FREE “Social Strategy Session”
2/2/2024 • 18 minutes, 12 seconds
165. Imagining You As Magnetic, Memorable, and with Limitless Social Presence
Improving your social presence involves a holistic approach that encompasses interpersonal skills and self-awareness. Cultivating self-confidence is crucial, as is maintaining positive body language, and dressing in a manner that boosts personal confidence. Being fully engaged in conversations, responding thoughtfully, and displaying genuine interest in others' perspectives creates a social environment that is ripe for connection. Additionally, enhancing verbal and non-verbal communication skills is essential. Clear, concise expression, appropriate body language, and mindful tone contribute to effective communication. That and so much more is discussed on today’s episode. Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a FREE “Social Strategy Session”
1/26/2024 • 18 minutes, 59 seconds
164. The Power of Being in Person: Loneliness, Isolation, and the Impact WFH Has on Your People Skills
Working from home clearly has its benefits, and it can also have negative implications when you know that it is in your best interest to improve your people skills. I get it — isolation and zero small talk have been a dream, but reduced face-to-face interactions that accompany remote work can also create negative side effects on your career. The physical separation from colleagues and the office environment can lead to a decline in spontaneous social exchanges, casual conversations, and collaborative interactions occurring naturally in a shared workspace. The isolation and reduced social exposure associated with working from home can contribute to a decline in social and people skills, potentially impacting professional relationships and collaborative efforts. Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a FREE “Social Strategy Session”
1/18/2024 • 19 minutes, 6 seconds
163. The Happiness Vibe: Elevating Your Mood and Mindset
Get ready to amplify your happiness quotient and become a magnet for positive connections. It's time to explore the power of choosing happiness on episode 163 of the Social Skills Mastery podcast. On today’s show we delve into the transformative power of choosing happiness and the magnetic effect it has on the people around you, including the psychology behind positive energy and the ripple effect it creates in social dynamics. Discover how your choice to embrace joy can radiate outward, drawing people towards you and enriching your relationships. Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a FREE Social Strategy Session
1/11/2024 • 23 minutes, 49 seconds
162. The Easiest Way Ever to Join Group Conversations
On today's episode of The Social Skills Mastery podcast, I share the simple secrets behind effortlessly starting conversations with anyone, anytime. Join me as we explore the art of breaking the ice, whether it's at a networking event, a social gathering, or even with a stranger at your local coffee shop. We'll delve into the power of small talk, debunking the myth that it's merely superficial. Discover practical tips for overcoming social anxiety, embracing discomfort, and reading social cues to determine the perfect moment to initiate a conversation. Between episode 162 and many others, you have a veritable toolbox of effective icebreakers suitable for various situations, accompanied by discussions on the importance of authenticity in choosing conversation starters that resonate with your personality. Learn how active listening can elevate your conversational skills and deepen connections with others. Whether you're a seasoned socialite or someone looking to enhance their communication skills, this episode has valuable insights to help you confidently break the ice and foster meaningful connections. Subscribe, share, and let the conversations begin! Free Guide: The Social Skills Playbook Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule a FREE “Social Strategy Session”
1/4/2024 • 11 minutes, 13 seconds
161. Social Success: Breaking It Down, Step by Step
12/28/2023 • 16 minutes, 22 seconds
160. From Passive to Powerful: Transforming Your Communication Style
12/23/2023 • 16 minutes, 40 seconds
159. Celebrating Quick Confidence Wins
https://www.socialconfidencepro.com/Celebrating small wins as you build your social muscle is important, and it can be a powerful strategy for building corrfidence in any area. Recognizing and acknowledging your achievements, no matter how small, provides several benefits. For example, celebrating small wins can boost your motivation by providing a sense of accomplishment, and this positive reinforcement encourages you to continue working towards your goals. It also reinforces positive behavior and habits, because it helps create a positive feedback loop that encourages you to repeat successful actions. Every single small win contributes to building your confidence. It's exactly what you need to be able to take on more significant challenges and also pushing yourself beyond your comfort zone. The key is to acknowledge and appreciate the effort and progress you've made, and this positive reinforcement can and will contribute significantly to your personal and professional development. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist for The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> The Social Skills Playbook - (Social Anxiety Edition)
12/14/2023 • 14 minutes, 26 seconds
158. How to Win Friends and Be More Interesting
To win friends and be more interesting to people, it is crucial to hone your active listening skills. Begin by giving your undivided attention to the speaker, maintaining eye contact, and eliminating distractions. Show your presence by resisting the urge to formulate responses prematurely, allowing the speaker to express themselves fully. Demonstrate empathy by acknowledging the speaker's feelings and perspectives. Utilize open-ended questions to encourage elaborate responses, fostering a deeper connection. Paraphrasing and summarizing what you've heard not only confirm your understanding but also convey a commitment to the conversation. Avoid interruptions and practice patience, allowing the speaker to share their thoughts without feeling rushed. Provide positive feedback and appreciation for their insights, creating a supportive and affirming atmosphere. Being non-judgmental and suspending immediate opinions fosters an open dialogue where individuals feel valued and understood. Remembering details from past conversations showcases your investment in the relationship, further strengthening the bond. By incorporating these elements, you can master the art of listening, ultimately winning friends and captivating people's interest through genuine and attentive communication. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
12/9/2023 • 13 minutes, 2 seconds
157. When to Pre-Plan and Prepare to Speak Up, Be Heard, and Avoid Stumbling
12/1/2023 • 17 minutes, 7 seconds
156. Turning Awkwardness into Advantage - Strategies for Success
Navigating awkward social situations can be challenging, but with some strategic approaches, you can turn discomfort into an opportunity for success. There are numerous strategies, including staying calm and positive, maintaining your composure and a positive attitude, especially when people call you out, and paying close attention to others so you can react in the moment to exactly what is being said. Addressing the awkwardness directly can lighten the mood, particularly when you share a lighthearted comment about the situation. Know that awkward moments are a natural part of social interactions. By approaching them with a positive mindset and employing the strategies in episode 156 of the Social Skills Mastery Podcast, you will be able to turn momentary discomfort into successful and meaningful connections. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/23/2023 • 15 minutes, 35 seconds
155. Social Sovereignty: Taking Charge of Your Feelings in Any Situation
Does everyone you know seem to be more outgoing, funny, and charismatic than you? Do you feel like no matter how hard you try your social skills are lacking? We all have the ability to feel socially inferior from time to time, and we can only feel that way if we harbor those thoughts about ourselves. Eleanor Roosevelt said “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”, and this holds true with social skills. Episode 155 will help you to see the destructive power of stinkin’ thinkin’ and how to see yourself as socially superior rather than inferior. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/16/2023 • 19 minutes, 9 seconds
154. How to Feel Less Nervous Today
Nervousness often comes from a combination of anticipation, uncertainty, and a heightened awareness of potential outcomes, and most importantly, it comes from our thoughts. It's a natural response to situations that are perceived as threatening or challenging. The body's "fight or flight" response kicks in, leading to increased heart rate, shallow breathing, and other physical symptoms. In episode 154, we will take a look at what managing nervousness involves and some psychological and physiological approaches. Know that it's okay to feel nervous. Accepting and acknowledging your emotions can be the first step toward managing them. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/9/2023 • 27 minutes, 11 seconds
153. What it Takes To Go from Where You Are Now to Where You Want To Be
Do you often wonder how the very best in the world do what they do? How do they achieve phenomenal success and inspire so many people? In episode 153 you will learn the top rules, habits, and the one thing high performers do daily to reach their goals and full potential and that you can put into practice today. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/2/2023 • 21 minutes, 22 seconds
152. Perfectionism Unveiled: The Anatomy of Social Anxiety
The need to be perfect in front of workplace peers can contribute to social anxiety. When someone strives for perfection in social situations, they often fear being judged or criticized by others. This fear of negative evaluation can lead to heightened anxiety, as they worry about making even minor mistakes or not meeting the unrealistic standards they've set for themselves. Perfectionism can also lead to a strong focus on performance. People may feel that they must excel in every aspect of social interaction, whether it's making a flawless presentation, having perfect conversations, or always appearing composed. This performance pressure can cause anxiety about measuring up to these self-imposed expectations. Episode 152 traces the correlation between the desire to be meticulous and the anxiety it can create. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
10/26/2023 • 24 minutes, 10 seconds
151. How to Stop Feeling Excluded and Find Your Tribe
Most of us have from time to time felt left out, but causes that feeling. It is because we are naturally wired to connect. You want to feel as if you are part of a group. To stop struggling socially you must make it a priority to be approachable and step into the group. We were made to be a part of a community, and in addition to feeling complete and fulfilled, we thrive when we have meaningful relationships. Naturally, we feel left out when we aren’t connecting with a group, and today’s episode will help you to connect better and feel better. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
10/19/2023 • 26 minutes, 11 seconds
150. Fearless Socializing: Your Path to Confidence
Social confidence plays a significant role in how you interact and navigate social situations. While it's important to feel secure and confident, it's equally important not to come across as overly insecure. That’s because confidence often attracts people, and if you appear overly insecure, it can be challenging to form and maintain meaningful relationships, whether they’re personal or professional. Social insecurity can hinder effective communication. If you doubt yourself too much, it can lead to hesitancy and difficulty expressing your thoughts and feelings clearly. Social confidence is not about pretending to be someone you're not but rather being the best version of yourself. Everyone has moments of insecurity, but the goal is to manage these moments so that they don't dominate your interactions and relationships.
10/12/2023 • 21 minutes, 35 seconds
149. Working Your Way to Mastery
The concept of mastery in interpersonal skills or in your field typically involves several stages of development and growth. While the specific stages may vary depending on the skill or domain, one generally begins the journey as a novice and climbs through the stages of mastery. The journey to mastery is not always linear, and you may move back and forth between these stages as you continue to learn and grow. Additionally, the time it takes to reach each stage can vary widely depending on the complexity of the skill or field, individual aptitude, and the amount of deliberate practice and effort put into the pursuit of mastery. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
10/5/2023 • 13 minutes, 23 seconds
148. The Thoughts Dominating Your Life and Dictating Your Future
9/30/2023 • 19 minutes, 15 seconds
147. How Social Reluctance Holds You Back and What to Do About It
Social reluctance can stem from a variety of sources, and it often varies from person to person. Some common factors that contribute to social reluctance include social anxiety, introversion, under-developed communication skills, and past negative experiences, to name a few. Social reluctance is complex, with numerous underlying causes, and it can be experienced to varying degrees. In episode 147 of the podcast, I share three different approaches to manage reluctance and hesitance so you can experience the joy and bliss of social confidence. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
9/23/2023 • 21 minutes, 45 seconds
146. The Perfection - Procrastination Paradox (And What Really Prevents You from Making Progress)
The relationship between perfectionism and procrastination is complex. One reason why people procrastinate is perfectionism. For example, socially reluctant perfectionists might be so critical of themselves for making perceived mistakes in the presence of others that they will decline to contribute to conversations to avoid dealing with the associated negative emotions. Similarly, procrastinating salespeople might be so worried about their offer being declined, that they will delay contacting potential customers. Episode 146 of the Social Skills Mastery podcast takes a look at the paradox and relationship between these seemingly dissimilar character traits and helps you identify how to break free from where you may find yourself on the continuum. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
9/15/2023 • 23 minutes, 10 seconds
145. How to Lay Down Your Armor and Positively Affect Someone's Day
Here’s a test for your self-confidence. When you enter a room, can you manage to entertain the thought " I know that everyone here can’t wait to meet me. I just don't expect them to realize it yet." You may not be at all certain that everyone in every room loves you, but you’ll find that pretending they do works nicely when you want to make someone's day. Rather than spending so much time wandering about armored against criticism and rejection, become aware that everyone around you may be wary of you. This emotional arms race drives people apart in every home, office, subway car, dentist's office, and corporate cafeteria on earth. But pretending other people need you flips the vicious cycle into a virtuous one. Imagine how you'd enter a conference room if you knew without a doubt that everyone in it adored you. How would you move? How would you look at people? What would you say? When you practice these empowering thoughts daily you become socially intelligent and better able to handle everything that comes your way. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" Chemistry Call The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
9/11/2023 • 15 minutes, 31 seconds
144. Tongue -Tied and Tripping Over your Words? How to Organize your Thoughts and Speak with Confidence, Clarity, and Credibility
8/31/2023 • 14 minutes, 42 seconds
143. Sherianna Boyle on Implementing the Emotional Detox Method to Ease into Interpersonal Excellence
Does the thought of being in the spotlight make you feel anxious, nervous, or worried? Emotional Detoxing is the brainchild of my guest, Sherianna Boyle. In this episode, Sherianna shares a wealth of information on how to calm your nervous system, and how can be a reset for the soul, flushing out negative feelings, clearing a path for new habits and behaviors, and energizing you to accept peace, acceptance, and pure joy. Sherianna is an author, the founder of Emotional Detox Coaching®, creator of the Cleanse Method.®, an adjunct Psychology Professor, and a cool and calm yoga instructor. She combines her skills to introduce us all to her methodology on the show. Sherianna's Books Sherianna's Instagram Sherianna's Facebook Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
8/24/2023 • 34 minutes, 48 seconds
142. Mind Over Matter: Mastering Psychological Resistance
Resistance, in various contexts, can refer to different things, but generally speaking, it refers to the opposition that you encounter when trying to achieve a certain goal or make a change. In terms of personal growth, learning, or self-improvement, resistance can come from psychological factors such as fear, self-doubt, and overthinking. Pushing past psychological resistance means stepping out of your comfort zone and facing challenges that can lead to personal development and growth. Overcoming these mental barriers can lead to increased confidence, resilience, and new skills. Pushing past resistance challenges you to step outside your comfort zone and confront your limitations. This process fosters personal growth, helping you become more resilient, adaptable, and capable of handling a variety of situations. Resistance is a natural part of personal and professional growth. Pushing past resistance can lead to enhanced skills, confidence, resilience, and a greater capacity to achieve your goals and contribute to personal innovation. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
8/22/2023 • 26 minutes, 43 seconds
142. The Social Skill of Remembering Names with Chester Santos
Remembering a person’s name is important for many reasons. It creates a better relationship; the other person you’re conversing with will feel more comfortable around you, and this skill allows them to feel that they have more of a connection to you. It makes people feel valued and encourages them to be more comfortable working or speaking with you. Remembering names helps create a comfort level and a more familiar relationship when meeting with people for the first few times. My guest today is International Memory Champion, Chester Santos. Chester freely shares his technique for recall so that you, too can develop this skill. Enroll in Chester’s Memory School and the first 100 people receive a $200 U.S. credit promo code SUSAN Chester’s “X” Chester’s Facebook Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
8/11/2023 • 0
141. Self-Perception and How You Show Up for Yourself
Our actions and behaviors reflect the self-perception we hold of ourselves in our subconscious. Most of the time, self-confidence is increased by having a positive self-perception. You don’t need to wait to hear what other people think of you. It gives you a sense of satisfaction in life. But sadly, we are all so dependent on other people’s perceptions of us these days that our self-perception is distorted. We strive to live up to the expectations of others around us in order to have our own positive self-perception. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
8/3/2023 • 25 minutes, 5 seconds
140. The Perception That is Created When You Hesitate and Hold Back
7/27/2023 • 22 minutes, 5 seconds
139. Critique Culture: The Impact "Being Real" Has on Your Social Success
7/20/2023 • 18 minutes, 33 seconds
138. Lessons in Growth: Navigating the Journey and the Pain on the Path to Achieving Success
Whenever we set a big goal, like deciding to be more assertive or to be confident speaking from the stage, there are bound to be some uncomfortable and discouraging moments along the way. Along the way we have a choice to backtrack and stay where we are with no clear results, or keep going forward, trudging through the brush, swimming in shark-infested waters, or any analogy you can imagine that makes it difficult to get to where you want to be, But that journey is where the growth takes place. That’s the hard part, because where you are now is comfy and cozy. And where you want to be, well, you don’t yet actually know what it will feel like to reach that destination. In each of these instances, we decide we want to change our current behavior, but we must go through the growing pains of actually doing the work. In the end, you will have accumulated numerous stories about the battles you fought on your journey, and how you are willing to do it again. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
7/13/2023 • 20 minutes, 36 seconds
137. Avoiding Mix Messages and Misunderstandings on Teams by Creating Your Personal Manual
There are several reasons why introverted and socially reserved professionals prefer to avoid working in teams. Introverts often appreciate having control over their work environment and process. They may prefer making decisions independently and working at their own pace. In a team, decision-making is typically a collaborative process, requiring compromise and consensus. Introverts may feel more empowered and productive when they can work autonomously and follow their own internal processes. Socially reserved professionals may experience social anxiety or discomfort in group settings. They may prefer to avoid situations that require constant interaction, such as team meetings or brainstorming sessions, where they feel pressure to contribute and engage with others. Working alone can alleviate the stress and anxiety associated with social interactions, allowing them to focus on their work without the added pressure of constant socialization. Creating and sharing a personal journal can help team members better understand the personalities they’re working with. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
7/8/2023 • 25 minutes, 18 seconds
136. Mastering the Lasting Impression: Personal Branding for Social Connection
Are you tired of hearing about the importance of your brand? Don't be, because it is increasingly difficult to distinguish yourself and stand out in professional and social situations. When you have a strong and memorable brand, people are more likely to trust you and believe in what you have to say. This can help you build credibility and authority in your field, which can lead to more opportunities. An attractive brand can help you attract new opportunities, like job offers, speaking engagements, and consulting gigs. When people know who you are and what you stand for, they are more likely to be interested in what you offer. If you're looking to stand out in your field and achieve your career goals, know that your brand is a powerful tool that can help you get there. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
6/29/2023 • 19 minutes, 5 seconds
135. Picture Perfect: Mastering the Skill of Socially Priming Your Mind
Social Priming can be a helpful tool for visualizing optimum interactions and alleviating social anxiety, self-doubt, and low self-esteem. Priming your mind allows you to create a mental image of a calm and peaceful situation. And by imagining yourself being socially confident, you can evoke a sense of relaxation and control, helping to reduce anxiety levels. This occurs first in your mind and then more or less kicks into gear in the real world. It creates a positive distraction from anxious thoughts and worries. And when you focus your attention on vividly imagining a pleasant social or business scenario, it can divert your mind away from anxious thoughts and help you meet more people and connect through conversation. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
6/24/2023 • 25 minutes, 51 seconds
134. Social Connection and Creating Respectful Professional Relationships
6/16/2023 • 21 minutes, 11 seconds
133. Finding Confidence in Safe Spaces: The Link Between Psychological Safety and Your Hesitation to Speak Up
When people feel safe to share their thoughts and take risks, it allows for greater innovation, problem-solving, and collective intelligence within a group or organization. A lack of psychological safety can cause a smart person to hesitate and not speak up. Psychological safety refers to an environment where individuals feel safe to take interpersonal risks, express their ideas, and voice their concerns without fear of negative consequences such as ridicule, rejection, or punishment. Smart people often have a deep understanding of complex concepts and may possess valuable insights or innovative ideas. However, when they perceive that their contributions might be met with judgment, criticism, or a hostile response, they may hesitate to share their thoughts openly. This hesitancy can arise from a fear of being perceived as incompetent, foolish, or having their ideas dismissed, which can undermine their confidence and willingness to speak up. Furthermore, smart individuals may have a heightened sensitivity to the potential risks associated with expressing their opinions. They may anticipate potential conflicts, resistance from others, or negative repercussions in their social or professional relationships. These concerns can lead them to second-guess themselves and withhold their ideas or perspectives, even if they possess valuable insights. Creating an environment of psychological safety is crucial for fostering open communication, encouraging diverse viewpoints, and promoting collaboration. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
6/8/2023 • 17 minutes, 56 seconds
132. Embracing Neutrality: The Surprising Social Benefits of Being Less Negative
In this episode, we explore the advantages of adopting a more neutral mindset and reducing negativity in our lives. Join us as we delve into the transformative power of neutrality and discover how it can improve various aspects of our well-being. From personal relationships and professional success to mental and emotional health, we'll uncover the positive impact that embracing neutrality can have on our lives. Get ready to shift your perspective and unlock a brighter, more fulfilling future. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
6/1/2023 • 14 minutes, 37 seconds
131. How to Increase Your Visibility Through Self-Promotion
Entrepreneurs and professionals who identify as shy and socially reserved professionals may find self-promotion challenging due to their introverted nature, but there are several reasons why they should still strive to become comfortable with it, including: Career advancement: Self-promotion helps to showcase your skills, accomplishments, and expertise to your colleagues, superiors, and potential employers. Recognition of skills and achievements: Self-promotion allows you to highlight your skills, expertise, and accomplishments, ensuring that others are aware of your contributions and recognizing your value. Building a strong professional network opens doors to new opportunities and provides support and guidance throughout your career. Overcoming imposter syndrome: Self-promotion can help combat imposter syndrome by reinforcing your achievements and reminding yourself of your skills and expertise. It allows you to internalize your accomplishments and boost your self-confidence. You can find ways to promote yourself that align with your personality and that allow you to come across as authentic and confident. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
5/25/2023 • 18 minutes, 42 seconds
130. Small Talk Strategies for Social Success
Simple guidance: Download this episode into your subconscious, visualize pleasant interactions, and start to experience confident and comfortable conversations. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
5/18/2023 • 22 minutes, 32 seconds
Create Social Capital and Self-Esteem with the Five Human Needs Theory
There are five categories of human needs that dictate our interactions and behavior, and social and communication skills are important for meeting many of these needs. Good social skills will help you meet your need for belonging by forming strong relationships with others. Communication skills can help you meet your need for social status and esteem by expressing yourself effectively and building confidence. In addition, social and communication skills will help you meet your need for self-actualization by interacting with others and sharing your ideas. This allows you to learn and grow, which leads to a greater sense of self-fulfillment. Some specific examples of how social and communication skills can help you build your social status include:: Physiological needs: Social skills can help you meet your need for access to resources and support, like group and 1:1 coaching, therapy, and classes. Safety needs: Social skills can help you meet your need for safety by providing you with a sense of belonging and security. Belonging needs: Social skills are essential for meeting the need for belonging. People who are able to form strong relationships with others are more likely to feel accepted. This leads to a greater sense of happiness and well-being. Esteem needs: Communication skills can help you meet your need for esteem by allowing you to express yourself effectively and build confidence. This can lead to a greater sense of self-worth and confidence. Self-actualization needs: Social and communication skills will help you meet your need for self-actualization by allowing you to learn and grow. This leads to a greater sense of self-fulfillment and meaning in life. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
5/11/2023 • 16 minutes, 51 seconds
128. Breaking the Hardwired Habit Loops Preventing You from Becoming Outspoken and Outstanding
5/4/2023 • 21 minutes, 28 seconds
127. Stop Overthinking and Show Up for Yourself
Overthinking is a common problem that can have a negative impact on our lives. It can lead to anxiety, stress, and depression. It can also make it difficult to make decisions, take risks, and live in the present moment. There are a number of things that you can do to stop overthinking and get out of your own way. Here are a few tips: Identify your triggers. What are the things that typically trigger your overthinking? Once you know what your triggers are, you can start to develop strategies for dealing with them. Challenge your thoughts. When you find yourself overthinking, take a step back and challenge your thoughts. Are they really true? Are you catastrophizing? Are you assuming the worst? Once you start to challenge your thoughts, you may find that they're not as scary or as overwhelming as you thought they were. Focus on the present moment. Overthinking is often about dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. When you find yourself overthinking, try to bring your attention back to the present moment. Overthinking can be a difficult habit to break, but it's not impossible. With time and effort, you can learn to stop overthinking and get out of your own way. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
4/27/2023 • 15 minutes, 40 seconds
126. The Link Between Speaking Up and Workplace Respect
Speaking up in the workplace can increase respect in a number of ways. First, it shows that you are confident and willing to share your ideas. This can make you seem more credible and trustworthy to your colleagues and supervisors. Second, speaking up can help to build relationships and create a more collaborative work environment. When you share your thoughts and opinions, you are showing that you are invested in the work and that you care about the success of the team. This can help to build trust and respect between you and your colleagues. Finally, speaking up can help to improve decision-making. When you share your ideas, you can help to ensure that all perspectives are considered and that the best possible decision is made. This can lead to improved results for the team and the organization as a whole. Here are some tips for speaking up in the workplace: Be prepared. Do your research and make sure you have a good understanding of the issue before you speak up. Be respectful. Even if you disagree with someone, it is important to be respectful of their opinion. Be clear and concise. Get to the point and avoid rambling. Be open to feedback. Be willing to listen to other people's perspectives and be open to changing your mind. Be persistent. Don't give up if your first attempt at speaking up is unsuccessful. Keep trying and eventually, you will be heard. Speaking up in the workplace can be challenging, but it is an important skill to develop. By following these tips, you can increase respect and improve your relationships with your colleagues. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
4/20/2023 • 21 minutes, 28 seconds
125. Creating a New Story and Personal Identity that Serves Who You Aspire To Be Now
How we construct our narrative, strongly affects our psyche, which is why making your story a positive one is so important. Your path and goal attainment depends on how you view your past, present, and future. For example, if you were teased, ridiculed, or even humiliated as a child, you may feel like it has broken you forever. Changing your story allows you to shift the focus from the suffering it has brought you to how it has made you a stronger person. What you repeat, you believe. If your story is one where you are a victim of your circumstances with no personal power, that is what you will believe. If you repeatedly tell yourself that you are the creator of your life and that you are capable to achieve the life you want to be living, you are indeed changing your life. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
4/13/2023 • 21 minutes, 45 seconds
124. Mirror These Traits of Power Networkers to Get What You Want
Many networking sessions and events aren't really about networking. If you want to make the most of your time, home in on what makes power networkers successful and leave the gossip and overindulgence of appetizers to the novices. Start by dressing appropriately, the being engaged. Open yourself up to new experiences and people, and be totally present and engaged when meeting and talking with others. When you are patient, intelligent, sociable, and connected, people will take time to talk with you. Most importantly, remember that you’ll be more likely to get what you want when you first give people what they want. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
4/6/2023 • 14 minutes, 24 seconds
123. Reframing Difficult Conversations to Create Better Communication
From time to time we all will face conversations that we anticipate to be difficult and that we want to avoid. A “difficult” conversation is one whose primary subject matter is potentially contentious and may elicit strong emotions that can be hard to predict or control. Initiating a difficult conversation can feel daunting and there is a natural tendency to delay taking action in the hopes that the issue will be resolved without our intervention. But this is rarely the case. Procrastination won’t make problems disappear and in fact, if issues are ignored they are likely to escalate and become even more difficult to resolve, causing negative consequences both for all those involved and for the wider organization. It is far better to reframe the problem at an early stage as this can help to nip problems in the bud, prevent the situation from deteriorating and maintain good communication and working relationships with colleagues. Episode 123 helps you reframe the communication, removing the thought “difficult” so you can move forward with clean thinking. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
3/30/2023 • 15 minutes, 26 seconds
122. The Benefits of Investing in a Social Confidence Coach (And How to Get Your Company to Pay)
No matter what level you’re at as a professional or an entrepreneur, a social coach can help you progress faster and farther than you would on your own. From providing a much-needed self-awareness check to helping erase blind spots and expand your network, a social coach can give you both the tools and perspective you need to go from where you are now to where you want to be. Especially for introverted, socially anxious, and overthinking types, it's easy to assume that no one notices your hesitating and not fully showing up and contributing to your highest potential. A social coach can provide the push you need to step outside your comfort zone, meet new people and try new things. Even extroverted businesspeople can be socially ineffective, and a coach can help you as well. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
3/23/2023 • 23 minutes, 40 seconds
121. The Often Overlooked Fundamentals of Effective Communication
3/16/2023 • 20 minutes, 7 seconds
120. How Shy Adults Can Create a Bold, New and Stress-Free Persona
The problem with being shy in business and socially is that it limits your opportunities to network and build strong connections with people. The real issue is that it’s virtually impossible to avoid people and social settings, so you suffer extreme discomfort on a daily basis and feel uncomfortable each time you have to attend a gathering. On episode 120 of the Social Skills Mastery Podcast, I share guidance on how to get out of your head and start to develop the courage to speak up and try bold new approaches to peck your way out of your shell. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
3/12/2023 • 30 minutes, 18 seconds
119. What to Do When You Suddenly Feel Insecure
3/2/2023 • 18 minutes, 32 seconds
118. How to Stop Revisiting Thoughts of Rejection and Start Living a Phenomenal Life
Getting rejected hurts. And even after the initial sting, we wonder what it is about us that made this person reject us. In a word: Nothing. Even though it doesn’t feel that way, being rejected is more about the other person than it is about you. Just changing your perspective on rejection can help you overcome your fear of it, and help you see that getting rejected is just another part of living. In episode 118 we’ll review the three thoughts behind all of the distress we feel when we get rejected. They start as one small thought and then snowball into a hundred thoughts all supporting your belief that these things are true. Your task in overcoming your fear of rejection is to get rid of your belief in one or more of these three thoughts. They are poison to your mind. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
2/23/2023 • 25 minutes, 28 seconds
117. Turning the Tables on Habitual Thoughts that Hold you Back
2/19/2023 • 21 minutes, 58 seconds
116. Stand Up for Yourself: Three Steps for No-Fail Assertive Statements
Assertiveness is an essential social and communication skill. Assertiveness helps you experience less anxiety, speak more effectively, and express your point of view. Not to be confused with aggressiveness, being more assertive will help you formulate your thoughts and do this while being respectful of others. In the end, it leads to higher self-esteem and increased respect from others. Free Course: The Assertiveness Accelerator Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
2/8/2023 • 21 minutes, 34 seconds
115. Mommy, Where Does Confidence Come From?
Nurture or nature — is confidence inborn or acquired? Confidence is largely born from experience and training – trial and error and repeating patterns – this is how we gain confidence. Even when you’re skilled in a given area, it is only with years of experience that you become confident in yourself and your accomplishments. But even with experience and peer support, confidence remains somewhat of an elusive mystery. Many experienced people who have all the support in the world may still be insecure and lack self-confidence. Others have deep self-confidence despite their lack of experience and affirmation. Episode 115 of the Social Skills Mastery Podcast will help you to see where your confidence comes from, why it is sometimes hard to find, and how to sustain it, anywhere, anytime, and with anyone. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
1/28/2023 • 24 minutes, 47 seconds
114. What to Talk About with Colleagues When You Want to Connect
Having "besties" in the business world isn't required to be effective and respected. You can connect with people just as quickly by asking good questions that allow others to appreciate just having you on the team and in the space. If you're having difficulty coming up with smart things to say that help kick-off conversations, this episode is for you. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
1/18/2023 • 25 minutes, 6 seconds
113. You Are What You Think - If You Want Social Success, Visualize Social Success
Your thoughts create your reality and shape your life. In other words, the conditions and circumstances of your life are the result of your thoughts and beliefs. Do you want to improve your connections? Do you want to be perceived as warm and not cold? To do so, you need to start with your thoughts. You need to get rid of the thoughts that make you stay where you are. You need to to start thinking different thoughts, so that your new thoughts become your reality. Since your thoughts become reality, you need to be careful of what you think. To create the reality you want: Become aware of your thoughts. Avoid the ones you do not want. When a negative thought occupies your attention, immediately replace it with a positive, high-value thought. And always avoid negative, repressing, and unhappy thoughts. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Get on the waitlist and be the first notified when we open The School of Social Mastery Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
1/7/2023 • 20 minutes, 2 seconds
BONUS - Social Confidence Winter Camp is Closing Soon
My quiet overthinkers, this is for you. Cue the cocoa with mini marshmallows Toss a log on the fire You asked for it, and I'm giving it to you! Social Confidence Winter Camp January 2nd to 31st Presenting... One full month of cozy, winter conversation, connection, and charisma coaching in a private, pop-up group where you get to… hang out and peel-off the anti-social layers air your fears, worries, and frustrations meet likeminded people hunkered down and hiding for the winter and get yourself coached! JOIN NOW This is for the overthinkers… This is for the silent spectators… This is for the coaching tire kickers & penny pinchers… This is for the socially anxious… This is for the coaching skeptics… This is for the “impostors” and the limiting believers… who are never quite sure if coaching will work for them. And this is for shy, introverted adults who think they’re stuck and will never change. Every Wednesday you show up for live coaching (or watch the replay). And I give you the EXACT assignment to accomplish every weekday. Thus, you will have unprecedented access to me for 30-days! Literally, for the first time ever, I am going tell you EXACTLY what to do for 30-days to blow your socially reserved mind and prove that you can speak up, stand out and GET WHAT YOU WANT. Use what you learn to be more assertive Use what you learn to initiate or quickly end a conversation Use what you learn for parties Use what you learn to book new business Use what you learn to ask someone out Use what you learn to ask for a raise Use what you learn to make small talk Use what you learn to speak up in a meeting There are probably a billion things you can do once you become socially confident. (If you’ve been a client of mine, you know I NEVER tell you exactly what to do, even when you hate me for it!) So… needless to say, this is something I’ve never done before. I want you to BELIEVE that your life can literally change in an instant. You will have access to the tools and concepts I've only shared with full-pay clients. My goal is to literally spoon-feed you the instructions to experience social confidence. Like, "Do this, and then do that. And then do this." Because I want to make it as easy as humanly possible for you to take the EXACT steps to experience a breakthrough. No stone will be left unturned. No one will be left wondering what to do next. But, do note.... The work WILL challenge you and push you out of your old patterns of overthinking and inaction... ... so if you’re like, “I just want to relax and be cozy in my blankie by the fire and not tax my nervous system” you'll want to skip this. But I will say, it will also be absolutely exhilarating and fun for those who WANT to do this work. And it’s just $197. I know. Totally crazy. But it’s actually crazier for you to stay in your shell. Not saying what’s on your mind. Not being fully seen, appreciated, valued, and making the money your talents deserve. If you’ve been challenged in coming up with the money to pay for Social Confidence Deep Dive Coaching with me, this is an opportunity to make some serious, no-excuses progress ;) Let’s put you on the FASTEST possible track to kick-starting 2023 and getting out of your comfort zone. Social Confidence Camp is for: Business owners and professionals who want to make a greater impact and more money People in business who recognize they’re playing small and on the sidelines Adults who need a pattern interrupt to their norm and a new way of thinking and approaching people in public What are you waiting for this time? Register now for Social Confidence Winter Camp See you inside… Your success is inevitable.
12/29/2022 • 3 minutes, 28 seconds
112. Lessons from a Lifetime of Limiting Beliefs
Does it feel like getting over a fear of speaking up in meetings or enjoying small talk is just not going to happen in your lifetime? Limiting beliefs surrounding social confidence starts early in life and grows with time. Some common beliefs that may be limiting you, too include the thoughts: “I can’t think of anything to say.” “I don’t think well on my feet.” “I stumble over my words.” “I’m afraid of speaking up in meetings.” “I’m afraid they will realize that I don’t belong here.” All of these limiting beliefs are most commonly related to self-confidence. They are generally untrue and probably developed because of an influence you had as a young child or a message you received at some point in your life. Social confidence coaching can help you overcome these beliefs and start to enjoy yourself rather than engage in self-criticism. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
12/24/2022 • 21 minutes, 4 seconds
Conversations with Purpose: Making Communications Count
Every time you speak is an opportunity to make an impact. You get to decide what that impact is. The first words you speak always sets the tone for the conversation and how the other person views you. When you talk with people, you define your relationship with them. Choose your words carefully and you will build trust and a positive reputation. Weigh your words before you speak. Don’t assume that you know everything about a situation before you respond. Ask questions and listen. When you approach each conversation with the right attitude, it will be easier to choose the best words, convey the right tone, and communicate with social confidence. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
12/17/2022 • 14 minutes, 57 seconds
110. Encore Episode: Feeling Like a Fraud and You Don't Belong? Let's Fix That.
Fraud Phenomenon refers to the experience of believing that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be, and that you are not ready to be at the forefront. This phenomenon has links to perfectionism and social anxiety. The phenomenon creates the experience of feeling like a phony—you feel as though at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud—like you don't belong where you are. Today's episode seeks to dispel those myths and help you be proactive in taking advantage of every great opportunity that comes your way. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System: The #1 Way to create your desired social outcomes Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
12/8/2022 • 20 minutes, 40 seconds
109. Leaving Old Stories Behind to Create a New Social Image
Who you have been socially for the better part of your life doesn't have to be who you are forever. You are not an inanimate, digitized product, which once programmed, cannot change or grow. Your life is shaped significantly by the character you create and the story you tell yourself about the kind of person you are, what you're capable of achieving and how you should behave. But what happens when we desperately want to take on more of a leading role socially, but your presence and persona are not in sync with that character? And what happens when your view of who you are holds you back? Is there something that would propel your social life forward, but that you just can't bring yourself to do? If so, it's time for you to create a different social image, a new story and a character who embraces every trait you've been resisting. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
12/3/2022 • 37 minutes, 20 seconds
108. The Social Skill of Creating a High-Value Professional Network
Building your network is essential in building a business or finding a job, and doing that well and with ease requires solid social skills. You can have the hard skills and the education, but without strong personal connections, it can be very difficult to grow in your career and maximize profitability. A lot of people have trouble building their personal network because they may be introverted or worry they are asking too much of people. The key is to keep it focused and highly valuable. You don’t need a lot of connections — just the right connections. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/25/2022 • 14 minutes, 41 seconds
107. Managing Your Thoughts to Reduce Social Anxiety
You know what it’s like to be nervous around new people and situations, whether you’re attending an event alone or speaking up and having everyone turn toward you. Fear is a normal reaction that warns our bodies to be careful. Social anxiety is a type of fear that stems from our thoughts, dealing more with worry about what might occur, rather than fearing something that is present. When fear and anxiety become a pattern in our lives, they become a problem. In today’s episode, we’ll discuss how fear and anxiety can come to the surface based purely on the words said to us by another person, and how to stop allowing others to hijack our emotional well-being and take back our personal control and self-management. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: School of Social Mastery Course Creation Call "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips: The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/21/2022 • 13 minutes, 31 seconds
106. The Benefits of Developing your Professional Presence
What comes to mind when you think of a person’s “presence”: Boldness, assertiveness, commanding attention, holding court, or owning the room? When you have “presence”, basically, when you speak, people stop and listen. And here’s something we can all agree on — excellent leaders have excellent presence. People who possess the simple, but rare quality of a Powerful Presence are naturally able to put people at ease, take charge during chaos, and instill confidence when things are changing. Today’s episode will explore the qualities of people with amazing presence. Professional presence is a must-have quality for entrepreneurs, business owners, and professionals who want to make the most of their skills, experience, and knowledge. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: School of Social Mastery Course Creation Call "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips : The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
11/4/2022 • 24 minutes, 49 seconds
105. Mastering Professional Manners - The Essential Etiquette You Need to Succeed
There are rules of conduct for how you go about your workday, be it in-person or virtual, and that is business etiquette. These rules are the accepted or required norms in your specific profession and/or workplace, and they may be very different and not come into play in an alternate setting or social community. The penalty for violating business etiquette rules can range from facing the disapproval of others in the organization, to losing contacts, customers, and monetary rewards. Upholding the accepted standards of business etiquette creates a professional, mutually respectful atmosphere and improves communication and connections, which helps people feel better about their respective roles, and when they feel respected, that translates into better relationships all-around. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro FREE Download: ---> Essential Business Etiquette Tips : The Definitive List of "Must-Know" social rules for success with co-workers, clients, and customers
10/30/2022 • 28 minutes, 15 seconds
104. Credibility, Confidence, and Becoming Socially Secure
Society and our workplaces place a high premium on being confident and feeling good. We all recognize that our success accelerates when we are confident. The reason is simple. Without confidence we revert to fear, and when we are fearful we don’t take any action. We hesitate, we delay and we procrastinate. When you can let go of fear, you take action more quickly and easily. But the question remains – how do I become more confident? The simplest answer is to become more competent. As we become more skilled at a task, our fear shrinks and our confidence grows. So these are two critical factors for our social success at anything (including any skill at work), and they are forever linked. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro
10/7/2022 • 23 minutes, 7 seconds
103. Social Intelligence & Office Culture with Peter Yawitz
Peter Yawitz is the author of “Flip-Flops and Microwaved Fish: Navigating the Dos and Don'ts of Workplace Culture”, a social skills book targeted toward new professionals in the workforce, however, anyone can benefit from the solid guidance mixed with a bit of humor as we wade into the somewhat mucky waters of post-pandemic hybrid offices. Our interview touches on myriad concerns and frequently asked questions that have many people perplexed and overthinking as to how to handle certain everyday situations, and also how to make in-the-moment decisions that leave you smelling like a rose and not like microwaved fish in the breakroom. Peter is also the brains behind the very funny and informative YouTube show Advice from Someone Else's Dad. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro
10/3/2022 • 35 minutes, 44 seconds
102. Tell Me About Yourself: Using Curiosity for Good Conversations
Curious questions are the most underrated, undervalued secrets of conversational success. They're how we gain a deep understanding of how we can meet or exceed the needs of our clients and customers. Ninety percent of conversations miss the mark. Ineffective conversations are frustrating, costly, and a waste of time. Miscommunication is a common fatal communication flaw. When you choose to not be curious in conversations, you stand to lose out on valuable information. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) The Social Priming System Social Confidence Pro
9/19/2022 • 22 minutes, 7 seconds
101. Socially Reserved? What To Do When Being Quiet is Mistaken for Lacking Confidence
9/9/2022 • 19 minutes, 40 seconds
100-B. Social Envy and the Rivalry it Creates
There’s no doubt about it — we live in the age of envy. Social media envy, career envy, kitchen envy, accomplished child envy, food envy, public speaking envy, hot body envy, conversation envy, You name it, there’s an envy for it. As humans, we have always felt what Aristotle defined as pain at the sight of another’s good fortune, stirred by thoughts that others possess that which we should have. Episode 100 of the Social Skills Mastery podcast looks at social rivalry, why it exists, and how to live your own fulfilled life without the need to create competition that does not exist. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Quick Coaching - 20-minute laser coaching sessions How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
9/1/2022 • 0
99. Becoming Your Best Social Self
Are you ready? Is this the time that you’ll finally go all in and take the steps to become your best self? Many people think they’re fine the way they are and don’t feel any need to change, improve, or master social skills. But in business and life, if you’re not improving continuously, then you will be passed by. Confident people are always willing to change—and also willing to make a thoughtful investment of time and effort in themselves. All of us who are privileged to run companies or work our way up in corporate should hold a commitment to constant self-improvement. Becoming a better version of yourself is worth doing because it can help you become more successful socially. We all have room for interpersonal skills improvement. This episode of the Social Skills Mastery podcast offers starting points for you to try in building a better version of yourself. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
8/25/2022 • 19 minutes, 52 seconds
98. Social Success - How to Be a Great Host
LinkedIn messages and Instagram Reels cannot replace the meaningful connections made through in-person communications and entertaining — also known as party or event hosting. Any individual or business that wants to create strong and lasting relationships needs to know how to produce professional events, even when it extends outside the office and into your home community. Taking the helm and hosting a social gathering allows you to strengthen bonds with current clients, employees, and partners while developing genuine connections and setting the stage for goodwill down the road. Whether hosting a product launch for 300 people or a team training for 30, the key is to approach each gathering with a goal in mind and work backwards from there. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
8/21/2022 • 22 minutes, 23 seconds
97. Breaking Up the Patterns that Create Social Anxiety
Social anxiety robs you of your right to live freely and comfortably. There are a number of techniques you can try to manage the thoughts and feelings that create anxiety. Remember that you are not your anxiety, nor are you weak or inferior. You have thoughts that create anxious feelings. In episode 97 help is offered for you to develop new thoughts and coping skills to help you identify your feelings, find a more positive perspective, and overcome your social anxiety so you can live the fun and full life intended for you. High-performance Coaching can help you increase executive presence and feel at ease socially so you can make the impact you have always desired. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
8/4/2022 • 20 minutes, 33 seconds
96. How to Accentuate Social Skills through Self-Talk
There’s no question that when you excel in a social situation, that is due to your positive inner monologue which is influenced by your subconscious mind. This inner monologue reveals your thoughts, beliefs, questions, and ideas. Your inner monologue can be negative and positive, and encouraging and distressing. If you’re the optimistic type, your inner monologue may be more hopeful and positive. The opposite is generally true if you tend to be a pessimist. Positive thinking and optimism can be effective social skills tools. Indeed, having a more positive outlook on life can provide you with relationship and connection benefits. If you believe you’re developing a negative inner monologue and that is the reason why people may not seek you out socially, today’s episode will get you back on the right track to social success. High-performance Coaching can help you increase executive presence and feel at ease socially so you can make the impact you have always desired. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
7/15/2022 • 18 minutes, 49 seconds
95. Increase Your Influence & Impact with Proper Introductions
Having the confidence to initiate introductions is an important social and professional skill, and you will benefit from learning the proper way to do this. Whether you are introducing two or more people to each other, or need to introduce yourself to a new acquaintance, giving a fair amount of preparation to this skill and practicing regularly will ensure that you feel more confident when the time comes to break the ice. In episode 95 of the Social Skills Mastery podcast, we discuss how to prepare and deliver a great introduction with lots of tips and examples. High-performance Coaching can help you increase executive presence and feel at ease socially so you can make the impact you have always desired. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session How to Make Introductions (mini guide) Social Confidence Pro
7/7/2022 • 26 minutes, 49 seconds
94. Being Quiet Harms Your Credibility (and what to do about it)
It won’t matter if I don’t offer my ideas. They already have a lot to think about. My ideas are not important It pains me when I hear a super smart, creative, and gifted person express the opinion that it doesn’t matter when they don’t offer their thoughts in meetings and social situations, and that their contributions are not important, therefore there is no chance they’re missed. Many people have trouble properly valuing themselves, for a variety of reasons. Work environments that encourage you to feel valued are more likely to function well in a crisis, as well as work better in an everyday way. To those who have trouble valuing themselves - let me just say – “Been there — done that!”. If you are someone who thinks that your opinions are not important, you know you’re not truly engaged, and therefore you inadvertently harm the organization by withholding your ideas and visions. High-performance Coaching can help you to correct this misperception of your role and its importance. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
6/19/2022 • 17 minutes, 57 seconds
93. The Telltale Signs You May Be Socially Insecure
Socially confident people believe in their ability to show up and make a contribution, provide value, or elevate the energy in a room. If you don’t believe in yourself, why should anyone else put their faith in you? If you’re still hiding on the sidelines and not speaking up and you want to walk with swagger and improve your people skills, listen to this episode where I share the telltale signs that your social confidence is not yet at the level it should be. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
6/9/2022 • 18 minutes, 20 seconds
92. The Social Skill of Becoming Likable
Long-lasting, fruitful relationships develop when you’re genuinely interested in the people you meet. People can smell whether you're authentic in your greetings and conversation. When you show sincere curiosity and concern for people, you become likable, and when you're perceived as being likable, the sky is the limit for what you can achieve. and they’ll respond willingly to your suggestions. Free Guide: The Ultimate Way to Start Conversations and Leave Them Wanting More Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
5/28/2022 • 17 minutes, 49 seconds
91. The Expressive Social Style - The Strongest Energy in the Room
Those among us with Expressive social styles are often the strongest energy in the room. They enjoy involvement, excitement and lots of interpersonal interaction. Moreover, they tend to make friends easily because they’re very sociable, they enjoy stimulating conversation, and they’re enthusiastic and good at involving and motivating others. Despite these admirable qualities, Expressives are often perceived by others as excitable, impulsive, undisciplined, dramatic, manipulative, ambitious, egotistical and overly reactive. Other than that — they’re great people. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
5/7/2022 • 12 minutes, 19 seconds
90. The Four Phases of Social Skills Mastery
Mastering social skills is an important part of growing and excelling in your business and career. Showing customers and employers you have mastered certain soft, hard, and people skills can help you earn promotions, raises, and new jobs. It can take some time and effort to master interpersonal skills, depending on your current level and the skills themselves. Today, we explain why it's important to master these skills and provide a step-by-step guide to becoming proficient in communicating with people.
4/28/2022 • 24 minutes, 8 seconds
89. The Pros and Cons of the Action-Oriented "Driver" Social Style
An individual’s social style is determined by behavioral patterns in the interactions with their peers. Some studies suggest that social style may influence the way in which an individual’s performance is evaluated. Drivers are action-oriented people who focus on results and outcomes rather than relationships. They can be seen as impersonal, practical and dominating by others. Knowing social styles can help strengthen relationships, improve communication, and predict behavior. As a businessperson and a professional, you can develop a customized approach to each one of your customers and team members based on their individual style. This will enable personalization and more desirable outcomes. Social styles are also an excellent tool for improving emotional intelligence and building relationships with your team. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
4/19/2022 • 11 minutes, 35 seconds
88. Social Ease and Getting Comfortable in the Spotlight
One of our most basic human needs is to feel seen, heard, and understood. While the workdays of entrepreneurs and professionals are filled with appointments, they can still feel cut off, as time for connections, conferences, and networking increasingly disappears. My clients have told me that one of the most valuable things they get out of their coaching is finding their voice and speaking up with confidence. That can help them make decisions that use their strengths to make connections, to build relationships, to sell, and meet their goals. So what can you do about this situation? You can start by being present for yourself. When is the last time you looked yourself in the eye and saw a special, unique person in the mirror looking back at you? Make an effort to identify opportunities where you can step into the spotlight and speak live — freely, calmly, extemporaneously. Show them you are an expert. Show them you are on top of your game. Show them the value you bring. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
3/31/2022 • 13 minutes, 47 seconds
87. Becoming a Social Connector
Social Connectors play an important role in our lives, and having even a small amount of this “gift” will serve you well. A connector is simply someone who is relationship-focused in her/his approach to life, to people, and to business. He/she has a certain way of thinking and behaving. They act and get results with ease because they have a level of credibility and trust in and from their network. Anyone can seek to be a connector. Learning these skills will make you more at ease and help to extinguish any feelings of social inferiority, as connectors are most often looked upon favorably. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
3/29/2022 • 9 minutes, 23 seconds
86. Social Styles part 2 - The Analytical Communicator
Our “Social style” is the persona we choose to use in interactions. Being aware of your own social style helps you to develop relationships, particularly in business. The analytical social style type is characterized as deep and thoughtful. “Analyticals” have a tendency to be serious and purposeful individuals. They set very high standards, so they have very high standards of performance, both personally and professionally. Analyticals are orderly and organized and don't mind taking time to over-analyze. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
3/13/2022 • 13 minutes, 43 seconds
85. The One About Your Voice and Cadence -- How You Speak Speaks Volumes
When speaking with others, your tone clarifies and conveys meaning. A phrase as simple as “I don't know” can be taken in a number of different ways depending on how you decide to express it. Your tone can not only affect how people perceive you but also their willingness to listen to you – especially in business. Today, I’ll show you how to use words and tone of voice to be the strongest energy in the room. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
3/2/2022 • 16 minutes, 46 seconds
84. Exploring Your Signature Social Style: The Amiable Style
If you manage or lead people, negotiate, or take the lead in bringing in new business, understanding social styles will be of great benefit. Your social style is the behavior you exhibit when interacting with others. identifying and becoming aware of the particular of your social style helps to develop good relationships and reach your desired goals with fewer distractions. Today’s episode is focused on the Amiable Style, which is generally kind, a deep-thinking and supportive friend, and an empathetic individual. People with an Amiable Style tend to appear less demanding and generally more agreeable than others. They’re interested in achieving a rapport with people who are also calm and easygoing. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
2/21/2022 • 15 minutes, 54 seconds
83. Social Perception & Understanding Communication Styles
Success in business starts with social perception. If people have a negative image of you, it’s a pretty good bet you won’t be getting many desirable contracts or a promotion anytime soon. That’s why it is so important to take charge of the way you are perceived in your organization through your chosen communication style, and it is equally as important for you to understand the communication style of others. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Quick Coaching - Brief, Laser-focused coaching Social Confidence Pro
2/15/2022 • 11 minutes, 28 seconds
82. How To Feel Socially Secure
It’s not all that unusual to sometimes feel as if you can’t seem to sound interesting and confident when meeting, leading, or trying to impress people. But feeling socially insecure about yourself all the time can take a toll on every aspect of your life, from your physical health and emotional well-being to how you perform professionally. Research shows that self-esteem and being socially secure impacts both you and everyone you come across. The good news is there are ways to easily become socially secure. While it won’t happen overnight, with the right strategies and mindset, you can take steps toward changing the way you feel about yourself and start to absolutely sparkle in your interactions. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
2/6/2022 • 14 minutes, 36 seconds
81. How to Confidently Speak Up in Groups
Too many people think that socializing in groups is something you’re either good or bad at. And while it’s true some people are born with a leg up at it, just like musical talent, anyone can learn the secrets. Socializing is a learnable skill, and communicating well in groups is something you can practice and develop. Introverts and extroverts alike can benefit from creating a socializing strategy focused on being outgoing, connecting people, contributing to conversations, and approaching clusters of people with ease. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
1/27/2022 • 12 minutes, 43 seconds
80. How to Calm Your Social Anxiety - Taking it from Zero to 60 and Back to Zero
Social anxiety can make everyday events extra challenging. You might feel a lot more self-conscious and scared than other people do in social interactions and may suffer from low self-esteem. To calm down the anxiety and make it disappear before it escalates into a panic attack, it helps to take charge, to realize that it is your thoughts that created the anxiety, and to bring those thoughts to a neutral state. This episode will show you how. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
1/24/2022 • 16 minutes, 17 seconds
79. Why Being Social Does Not Require Sipping Cocktails at Packed Parties
When you want to be more socially connected but you’re still finding it challenging to take the leap, it’s easy to work yourself into an insane kind of paranoia about where to go, what to say, and how to get it right the first time. Guess what, though? So does everyone else. Everyone — even the put-together-looking strangers you pass on the street — are facing these same challenges, with the difference being yours may be exacerbated by shyness and introversion. Yes, you do have to make an effort to meet people face-to-face, and in the interim, as the pandemic continues and there are fewer in-person social gatherings, several internet platforms and formats can provide you with more exposure than you could receive at a professional networking party. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
1/15/2022 • 19 minutes, 8 seconds
78. How Socially Reserved Businesspeople Can Become Highly Visible Without Attending Conferences and Networking
Why is it that we can feel confident about our work and contributions — that is until the red light goes on and we’re live. So many of us claim to want to stand out from the competition, but when the time comes to get seen and be heard, we freeze. We overthink, we sweat, we forget everything we were about to say, we forget to breathe, and sometimes we just up and walk away. I hear often from people who are super creative and talented and they’re bringing brilliant concepts to their market, but they struggle to share them because they dislike the spotlight. Maybe you fear others judging you and your work. Or you’re uncomfortable with self-promotion. Today’s episode helps you move past that fear. Start 2022 with a brand new, highly visible, socially confident demeanor and presentation. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
1/6/2022 • 14 minutes, 47 seconds
77. How to Make Friends as a Professional
It was so much easier when you were a kid. In college, you almost had to be trying not to make friends. And overnight you become an adult. You get busy with work. Your friends get busy with work. People get married. Have kids. And pretty soon being “close” means a text message twice a year. You’re not alone… Or, actually, the whole point of this is you really may be alone. But you’re not alone in being alone. These days we’re all alone together. In 1985 most people said they had 3 close friends. In 2014 the most common number was one. Episode 77 shares a few sound techniques for making friends as an adult and a professional. Start 2022 with a brand new, highly visible, socially confident demeanor and presentation. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro
1/4/2022 • 20 minutes
76. Removing the Sting of Social Rejection with Reframing and the Law of Polarity
Social rejection or the feelings that support it are an inevitable part of life. We are designed to be social beings with the intention to connect and link to and through one another continuously and through the varied paths of our lives. It is possible to be prepared for and comfortable with social rejection before it occurs, rather than feeling distraught. When you have your own back—meaning you have the ability to manage your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you can then be more effective than when you expect a particular response, feel rejected, and react in desperation. Episode 76 of Social Skills Mastery provides you with a method to remove the sting of perceived rejection by reframing it using the law of polarity, as everything is two things or has two opposing aspects. These tools are highly useful and provide the context to allow potential anger, anxiety, jealousy, or sadness to quickly become its polar opposite. Start 2022 with Social Intelligence and a socially confident demeanor and presentation. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" coaching and consultation session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" coaching and consultation session Social Confidence Pro website
12/25/2021 • 16 minutes, 16 seconds
75. Creating a Magnetic Personality That Attracts, Effortlessly
Personal Magnetism is one trait that is a must-have to attract others towards you. If you’re self-assured and comfortable in your own skin, then you have the energy to draw people in, and nothing can dampen your enthusiasm to win people over. Many people have the mistaken belief that possessing magnetism comes from natural, unteachable traits that belong only to a lucky few—the good looking, the fiercely social, and the incredibly talented. It’s easy to fall prey to this misconception. In reality, being magnetic is under your control, and it’s a matter of connection. Start 2022 with social confidence coaching. Schedule your: "Radiate Social Confidence Now" mini-coaching session Feeling anxious in unfamiliar situations? Schedule your: "Social Anxiety Solution" mini-coaching session Social Confidence Pro website
12/18/2021 • 17 minutes, 28 seconds
74. How to Stop Limiting Beliefs from Holding You Back from a Great Social Life
Are thoughts about what you can accomplish preventing you from being an interpersonal skills ninja? You are likely experiencing limiting beliefs, or pervasive thoughts about your capabilities that are a roadblock to social ease and success. Limiting beliefs, in most cases, are unconscious thoughts, which on the surface appear to be an aid in helping you avoid faux pas, frustrations, failure and disappointment. They are often tied to a time in the past where you may have suffered personally from an undesirable outcome, and now when you come face-to-face with a similar situation, your subconscious finds a way to try to block it. A good starting exercise to counteract limiting beliefs is to look for the root of the problem by finding the agent causing such negativity. Society imposes standards that generate limiting beliefs, and we tend to base our performance on the norm. What is more important is creating a standard that pushes you to reach higher and achieve more, but completely on your own terms and in accordance with your own rules. Social Confidence Pro – Work with a Coach The Quick Coaching Method The Social Priming System – free audio download
12/9/2021 • 21 minutes, 41 seconds
73. What They Think When Meeting You: Managing Impressions and Perceptions
Are you pitching potential investors, wooing a new client, or interviewing for a job? It is worth your time to first become self-aware and determine the impression you make and how you think others perceive you. This step must come first because you may miss out on a major opportunity simply by not modifying your demeanor to suit the situation. Modifying your demeanor does not mean being falsely genuine and sincere in who you are, but rather making sure to be situationally appropriate, dressing the part, and using the language and terms that best suit the setting. As much as we all wish that actual qualifications and the knowledge base we’ve amassed matters most, people are more likely to make quick decisions based on first impressions being an arbiter to our professional competence. And we can include ourselves as the makers of those same quick decisions when the tables are turned. Impression management is the practice of ensuring the message you wish to send is understood by the specific individuals or groups you want to reach. It also means influencing, through your dress, demeanor, and physiology how people interpret what you say, and what is said about you. Episode 73 of the Social Skills Mastery provides hearty food for thought that will help you become and remain highly aware of how critical managing your impression can be. Did you get your free Social Priming Audio download? It's right here! Everything that at one time scared me, I’m now doing. The biggest, over-arching reason why we don’t take action and the steps required to change is simply that we can’t be bothered to do so. It seems like so much effort to put yourself out there. It feels like there’s so much involved when you show up. And it’s just so much easier to stay at home, convincing ourselves that we actually like it this way. I look at life from both sides now. I can attest to the grass being greener on the socially secure side. Come join me! The Inner Circle is opening soon. It’s the absolute, no B.S., best place for entrepreneurs, startups, and personal brands who are supremely good at what they do but just can’t find the courage and confidence to shout it from their soapbox. I’ll show you how to speak up and stand out so you can make more money and create a bigger impact. Get on the list and you’ll be the first notified when the doors open. Have you considered one-to-one coaching to manage introversion, and move past your battle with imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, and the fear of criticism? Let’s Talk about how coaching can help you experience the joy and confidence you see in others and have always felt you too are not worthy. You are worthy! This is your time!
12/2/2021 • 15 minutes, 46 seconds
72. Why Your People Skills Aren't Improving (and what to do about it)
I’ve made some pretty big choices over the past several years; I’ve become a popular speaker in my niche. I’ve created a podcast. I’ve posted videos on all the big social platforms. I’ve done a TEDx Talk, viewed over 32 thousand times. I’ve powered through self-doubt. I’ve spoken first, rather than waiting for people to speak to me Everything that at one time scared me, I’m now doing. The biggest, over-arching reason why we don’t take action and the steps required to change is simply that we can’t be bothered to do so. It seems like so much effort to put yourself out there. It feels like there’s so much involved when you show up. And it’s just so much easier to stay at home, convincing ourselves that we actually like it this way. I look at life from both sides now. I can attest to the grass being greener on the socially secure side. Come join me! The Inner Circle is opening soon. It’s the absolute, no B.S., best place for entrepreneurs, startups, and personal brands who are supremely good at what they do but just can’t find the courage and confidence to shout it from their soapbox. I’ll show you how to speak up and stand out so you can make more money and create a bigger impact. Get on the list and you’ll be the first notified when the doors open. Have you considered one-to-one coaching to manage introversion, and move past your battle with imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, and the fear of criticism? Let’s Talk about how coaching can help you experience the joy and confidence you see in others and have always felt you too are not worthy. You are worthy! This is your time!
11/24/2021 • 20 minutes, 42 seconds
71. Fearlessly Taking the Reins as the Face of Your Business
An attractive logo won’t help you establish a strong connection with a potential customer. That’s why it’s important, especially when you’re the face of your business to communicate fearlessly, frequently, and without worrying about criticism. People will say things you don’t like, and that feedback must be filtered. When effective, criticism should be positively intended, specific, objective, and constructive in order to achieve desired results. If it feels like the comments were intended to hurt rather than help, then discount and ignore that particular individual. Make it a point to surround yourself with people who make you better in every way. The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here. Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!
11/11/2021 • 14 minutes, 8 seconds
70. Go First! S/he Who Speaks First Holds the Power
Being the first to offer a greeting as basic as “Hi” followed by your name is a total power move. When you are the first to speak and extend your arm for a handshake, you are seen as friendly, confident, and in control. That's attractive and impressive, primarily because most people wait for people to approach them first, not from a position of superiority, but from reluctance and fear of rejection. More importantly, acknowledging people in business and socially is a kind gesture. We all want to be seen, and when someone takes the time to step out of their bubble to say hello it creates a moment of shared humanity. The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here. Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!
11/4/2021 • 10 minutes, 23 seconds
69. The Hidden Link Between Emotional Intelligence and Professional Excellence
Learning to effortlessly develop meaningful connections with others is a large component of emotional intelligence. Even if you are somewhat reserved in business, you can begin first by listening, showing interest, and understanding the other person's energy so they feel comfortable, and you do as well. This skill goes far in building valuable connections. My guest today, Irvine Nugent, Ph.D. helps leaders engage with stakeholders and he will help you in understanding yourself, how you perceive, evaluate, and control others through emotional intellect, and effectively interacting and then using those skills to strengthen your personal and professional relationships. Irvine's YouTube Channel Irvine's Book Leadership Lessons from the Pub
10/13/2021 • 31 minutes, 11 seconds
68. Creating Self-Awareness Through Body Language
Have you wondered why conversations end a little too quickly, and people seem to walk away before you're finished speaking? It’s estimated that up to 80% of our communications are non-verbal. So, understanding body language enables better self-awareness and self-control too, for you and your conversation partner(s). The better we understand non-verbals, the better able we are to refine and improve what our body says about us, which generates a positive improvement in the way we feel, the way we perform, and what we achieve. Body language allows us to understand more about our own and other people's feelings and meanings, and that can make all the difference in the world when we feel as though we’re not being heard, the feeling we’ve been overlooked, or that we’ve been slighted. Our reactions to other people's movements and expressions and their reactions to ours contributes greatly to our mutual understanding, both consciously and unconsciously. The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here. Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!
10/6/2021 • 22 minutes, 59 seconds
67. The Never-ending Quest for To Make Conversation Comfortable
The quest for better conversations is always a top topic request, and that makes sense because it is one of the best ways to connect with other people. Having a conversation requires some skill because they’re often spontaneous and informal – meaning you need to be able to think on your feet. Because being a good conversationalist can make such a huge impact on your life, this is definitely a skill you want to work on. In your professional life, having good conversation skills can help you increase sales, your job performance, form positive working relationships, and gain new clients In your social life, being a good conversationalist can help you attract a mate and build (and maintain) relationships. In short, there is no downside to being at ease while in conversation. It is scientifically proven that rehearsing any upcoming scene in your mind will improve your performance when the time comes to step up and do that thing for real. The Social Priming System will help you practice ideal interactions and outcomes BEFORE they occur. You can download FREE social priming audios here. Social and “people skills” coaching will help you create new habits and overcome self-doubt. Sound intriguing? Let’s talk!
10/4/2021 • 15 minutes, 33 seconds
66. The Power of Kindness in Connecting with Donna Cameron
The power of kindness as a means to create meaningful connections between people cannot be overstated. It is part of a social cycle in which at least one dominant participant extends a visible hand or a virtual olive branch to gain trust and offer genuine, authentic assistance. When we truly understand that each of our lives is intertwined with few degrees of separation, kindness, compassion, and collaboration flow much more naturally in interpersonal interactions, socially, in the workplace, and extending into the community. In short, we are in this together. Kindness has everything to do with solid social or people skills, and when you work on perfecting the skill of selflessness, you will find it easier to strike up conversations, speak from your heart on stage, and connect with people with the power of a super magnet. Donna Cameron’s book is A Year of Living Kindly, and it will guide you in managing interactions with warmth and kindness. Donna's blog, quotes, resources, and more A Year of Living Kindly site Follow Donna on Facebook Donna Cameron on Twitter Donna Cameron on LinkedIn You deserve to be amazing, and coaching will get you there. Are you new to coaching? Try Quick Coaching where you will receive unlimited sessions for a year. You can check it out right here.
8/5/2021 • 32 minutes
65. Creating Higher Level Thoughts to Alleviate Social Anxiety
Most of our thoughts are prompted by our current environment, and we can’t help but think about what’s right in front of us. What we see and experience becomes what we think. The issue is our evolutionary training, or in other words, our brain’s propensity to keep us safe and out of harm’s way— and this can include showing up, speaking up, and doing things that our brain says may be scary. That is a big problem when you’re in business and you want to look good and be in the spotlight because every day your brain wants to keep you safe, but intellectually you want to excel, but you’re in a holding pattern. This week’s episode will help you better manage your mind to think better, higher quality thoughts and begin to work towards a life that is free of social anxiety. Did you know that every success (and failure) is first planned in your mind? Get your FREE social success audio download and learn how to plan optimal outcomes. Can Social Confidence Coaching help you feel less socially awkward? Schedule a free mini-session and find out.
7/30/2021 • 15 minutes, 53 seconds
64. Being Socially Visible in Business
It goes without saying that you want to make a profit, in business, but you can’t earn anything if people do not know about you. Increasing your visibility is essential to the success of your business or your job. As an executive or an owner, you might find yourself short on time to meet new people, and you could lose opportunities to grow your business. How you spend your time is as important as where you spend it. You can differentiate your brand from your competitors and stand out to customers in many ways. Your brand is what makes you memorable and unique. The visibility of your business depends on how you build up your personal brand. Social Confidence Pro Coaching
7/24/2021 • 19 minutes, 1 second
63. Creating Social Confidence with Conscious Connections
Everything we do is reviewed first in our brain then transferred to our motor skills. This is how we function all day and every day, and social skills, social anxiety, and fear of being visible, to name a few are very much included in those skills. Today we’re talking about Consciously Connecting with the people important to your business and your life. You’ll learn— How to bridge the gap between where you are now and where you want to be when you reach social confidence. How to start mentally rehearsing being your future self as you make daily decisions The reason visualizing your identity will get you further, faster Why mental mentally rehearsing desired outcomes and results is the key to achieving your goals Social Confidence Pro Free Audio Download - The secret to overcoming social anxiety.
7/11/2021 • 18 minutes, 24 seconds
62. BONUS **WELCOME TO SOCIAL SKILLS MASTERY
Welcome to the rebranded podcast. The name has been changed from "The Soft Power Podcast" to "Social Skills Mastery". The mission is similar, and that is to help entrepreneurs, personal brands, and professionals stand out in ultra-competitive business environments through the power of people skills. Social or "people" skills are essential for communicating and working with groups and individuals in your personal and professional life. People with strong social skills tend to build good relationships, blend in quickly, and can work well with others. They understand people through empathy and listening skills and have the ability to make corrections whenever necessary to make others feel seen, heard, and understood.
7/2/2021 • 3 minutes, 51 seconds
61. Wendi Friesen on Finding Relief from Social Anxiety and Creating a Life You Love through Hypnosis and NLP
For multitudes of businesspeople, being socially smooth and quickly connecting with customers, clients, colleagues, and even potential investors is an excruciating ordeal. Through hypnosis, social anxiety can melt away, creating new patterns which will enable you to experience real social ease and go beyond just putting on a good performance. Wendi Friesen is a phenomenal hypnotist. In this episode, we discuss using hypnosis, mental rehearsal, and NLP to ease the discomfort of social anxiety, improve interpersonal skills, and enhance your social interactions in conversations and attending social events. Wendi Friesen's Website Wendi’s Confidence Course Wendi on Social Media SocialConfidencePro Social Skills Coaching for Business
6/17/2021 • 32 minutes, 2 seconds
60. My favorite Coaching Tool to Overcome Anxiety and Create Social Confidence
Coaching methods and tools, when used properly, can change the direction of client’s lives and help them achieve continuous growth, prosperity, and sustainable success. Effective high-performance coaching goes beyond the ability to ask the right questions in the right order — in fact, that just won’t do! As an effective and committed (may I say, Amazing?) coach, I l am a highly trained expert in guiding my clients through the process of change. The method I use most often is The Model, and I use it to enhance and enable clients to reach their full potential, overcome roadblocks and help them to accomplish sustainable success. The Social Priming System — Free Audio Downloads for social success Social Confidence Coaching Social Confidence Pro
6/9/2021 • 25 minutes, 31 seconds
59. What They're Thinking When They See You
Having a commanding presence is a trait of soft power. We have to remember that power is energy and energy is not seen, per se but it is felt. A powerful or power-filled presence allows you to establish your personal brand in everything you do. You're developing a brand in everything you do, either intentionally or unintentionally. It's a part of how you present yourself, including how you dress and how you speak, and how you generally conduct yourself both in-person and online. You are consistently communicating to others who you are. and these are our areas of focus in today's episode. Your presence is comprised of a proper balance of these attributes. Rehearse your ideal outcomes with these FREE mental rehearsal audios Interested in coaching but too timid for a deep dive? Quick Coaching is for you.
6/2/2021 • 19 minutes, 34 seconds
58. Turning Desires into Reality Using Mental Rehearsal
Mental Rehearsal, or The Social Priming System developed here at Social Confidence Pro is a way to focus and guide your imagination to create a mental image of a future event. It harnesses the power of your brain to unlock your full potential in interpersonal situation where you tend to struggle and feel ill-at-ease, even when that feeling is imagined. When you learn to mentally rehearse a scene unfolding, just as an Olympic swimmer may visualize themselves diving into the pool and swimming their best laps all the way to victory, you perform just as you wish in a meeting, presentations and public speaking, networking events, and anywhere you feel that your involvement will pale in comparison to others. We teach you how to eliminate those fears and limiting beliefs for the rest of your life. Take Action Now! Click HERE for your Free Social Mental Rehearsal downloads Click HERE to see how Social Confidence Coaching can change your life, forever.
5/26/2021 • 13 minutes, 56 seconds
57. How to Overcome and Move Past Resistance to Being Social in Business
When it comes to resistance, too often we think in terms of what can potentially be lost, rather than what can be gained. When it comes to social skills, it’s all gain. To put it simply, putting yourself out there and exposing your psyche to judgment can be challenging. Overcoming resistance and trying something new means there is a possibility of failure. Most people prefer to stay in their comfort zone than venture into unknown territory. Choosing to make a change to one’s business-social standing is a win-win. It is absolutely necessary. It’s time to buck up and show up! Click HERE for Social Coaching Social Priming is a method by which you use the power of your mind to create an intense level of concentration or focused attention on interpersonal interactions and their desired end results. This process is practiced through the use of verbal cues and repetition, delivered via audio recording. Listening to a recording that details your social desires allows your subconscious mind to be more open and receptive to favorable outcomes. Your Free download is available HERE.
5/19/2021 • 16 minutes, 1 second
56. Social Priming Your Brain for People Skills Success
Social Priming is a method by which you use the power of your mind to create an intense level of concentration or focused attention on interpersonal interactions and their desired end results. This process is practiced through the use of verbal cues and repetition, delivered via audio recording. Listening to a recording that details your social desires allows your subconscious mind to be more open and receptive to favorable outcomes and to deflect the fears and avoidance tactics that permeate your conscious mind. Social Confidence Pro Coaching
5/12/2021 • 25 minutes, 2 seconds
55. Why Perfection Loses in the Social Skills Game
To be a productive and successful person, you have to learn from your mistakes; and to be able to learn from your mistakes, you have to be comfortable with making them. But in general, perfectionists are not. They tend to avoid making mistakes in every aspect of life, including in how they show up socially and feeling more guilt and shame than the average person when they do make a mistake. Perfectionism has been linked to a whole host of problems including depression and anxiety. Today's episode makes a case for why perfection is not necessarily worth pursuing, but showing up as the person you already are wins big. (Free) Social Priming Audio - Download to your smartphone
5/5/2021 • 19 minutes, 16 seconds
54. Setting Big Goals to Reach "Impossible" Outcomes
Have you ever had a desire that no matter how hard you tried, you couldn’t see yourself achieving it? Successful people are relentless goal setters. They break down larger milestones into smaller, more achievable tasks. One of the most challenging goals an entrepreneur can set is promoting a product or service, particularly when accustomed to avoiding the spotlight. Just as fit people have habits surrounding eating well and exercising often, entrepreneurs and personal brands have habits surrounding self-promotion with the soft power and always identifying ways to get seen, be heard, and stand out.
5/1/2021 • 20 minutes, 25 seconds
53. Revealing Your Blind Spots for Deeper Self-Awareness
Self-awareness and exposing blind spots is a primary area of focus in our coaching programs. A blind spot is something about yourself and/or your actions that you don’t see clearly or are hesitant to acknowledge. Blind spots surface out of a lack of self-awareness or simply a gap in information. When you are absorbed in your own needs and concerns, you may overlook clues suggesting that others may not be eager or willing to support you or your goals. They can show up as apprehension, a lack of willingness to share opinions, or unusual aggression. When you see and feel these things happening and do not feel it is warranted, check in with your honesty stakeholders to make sure your actions are appropriate and self-aware. With a future focus, coaching brings you outstanding results. Schedule a Free Session to see what it's all about. The Secret Sauce to Social Confidence pdf download
4/21/2021 • 22 minutes, 36 seconds
52. How to Raise Social Capital and Uplevel Your Life
Every professional and entrepreneur needs three kinds of capital to build true wealth: monetary, human, and social. While each is essential in business, social capital — the shared values that exist between people and which enable respect and cooperation is the focus of this episode of The Soft Power Podcast because it is the key to success. When you have built social capital, you can then obtain any other resources you need. It is almost a mystery to those in your presence whose balance is seemingly depleted, while yours continues to flourish. Creating social capital is indeed a skill worthy of building every day. Social Confidence Coaching may be just what you need to make your presence known. Schedule a clarity session HERE. Free cheat sheet: 11 Easy Steps to Stop Overthinking
4/14/2021 • 15 minutes, 6 seconds
51. How To Be A Total Head-Turner and an Interesting Person
What is it about power and presence that you can see it and feel it as soon as a person enters your shared space? What we know is that it's simultaneously invisible and very much real. When we meet powerful people we know it right away because there is something about their gravitas and perceived influence that has a magnetic pull that makes our head turn as we think or utter aloud “Who is that?” True power is silent— it’s soft, and it is perceived. In today’s episode, we break down what characteristics make a person a true head-turner and interesting, just based on their quiet persona. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Social Confidence Coaching may be just what you need to make your presence known. Schedule a clarity session HERE. Free cheat sheet: 11 Easy Steps to Stop Overthinking
4/7/2021 • 17 minutes, 40 seconds
50. How to Get Over Feeling Like a Fraud (Overcoming Imposter Syndrome)
Fraud Phenomenon refers to the experience of believing that you're not as competent as others perceive you to be, and that you are not ready to be at the forefront. This phenomenon has links to perfectionism and social anxiety. The phenomenon creates the experience of feeling like a phony—you feel as though at any moment you are going to be found out as a fraud—like you don't belong where you are. Today's episode seeks to dispel those myths and help you be proactive in taking advantage of every great opportunity that comes your way. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Introvert to Influencer 11 Easy Steps to Stop Overthinking Coaching makes you a superstar
3/31/2021 • 0
49. How to Get Over the Fear of Creating Live Videos
Live and recorded video is here to stay, so much so that it inescapable for anyone who wants to raise their grade and their professional profile. Producing your first videos can cause anxiety, and this is normal, so do not use that as an excuse to not face the camera and speak your truth and provide value to an audience who wants to hear from you. One of the good things about live streaming is people are more forgiving. They expect the live video to be raw and recognize you may not look flawless. Just be sure to select a topic you know very well so your audience can focus on what you are covering, and not be distracted by inaccuracies. Coaching can help you overcome the fear of social judgment. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Schedule a complimentary coaching session! Introvert to Influencer The Social Capital Club Facebook Group Social Confidence with Susan Callender on Facebook
3/24/2021 • 16 minutes, 14 seconds
48. How to Overcome Fear of Public Speaking
You've heard it all before. People fear public speaking more than they fear babies, chocolate pudding, and natural disasters. It's truly time to get over it and use the skills and expertise you have to catapult your career. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Business Class Coaching will change your life Join Introvert to Influencer
3/17/2021 • 14 minutes, 10 seconds
47. A Case for Keeping Conversations Brief (aka How to not be a long-talker)
A common misconception is that talking ad nauseam and being long-winded makes a person appear knowledgeable, and nothing could be farther from the truth. In fact, it’s often a telltale sign of nervousness and a lack of self-awareness. What happens is a thought enters your mind and before you’ve had a chance to fully process it or determine what, if anything should be said, you set off on a diatribe that includes every detail you know — and that’s overkill. And everyone recognizes it, except unfortunately the person committing the transgression. Today’s episode is all about creating clarity with conversation points and how to be both brief and the most interesting person in the room. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Business Class Introvert to Influencer Free Resources
3/10/2021 • 16 minutes, 7 seconds
46. How to Not Be the "Awkward" Person in the Room
It’s bound to occur from time to time, a little social awkwardness. Maybe it’s a co-worker. Hopefully it’s not you. When your professional reputation depends on your workplace social performance, awkward moments can seem difficult to overcome. Learn how to handle awkward interactions and move on, rather than dwell on an inadvertent transgression. Just acknowledge it for what it is, but learn from the experience. Today's episode shows you how to do just that—for 7 common, awkward business social situations. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Business Class Introvert to Influencer
3/3/2021 • 29 minutes, 3 seconds
45. Taking Control of Your Desired and Perceived Image
The self-image refers to the way you see yourself, both physically and mentally. It is guided by your subconscious and proves that thoughts really do become things. Comments and guidance from adults in our younger, more formative years have s tendency to stay with us for a lifetime. Self-image may be divided into four quadrants a) positive b) negative c) desired d) perceived. Your self-image is developed over time and influenced by the experiences they have encountered. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Introvert to Influencer Business Class
2/24/2021 • 20 minutes, 39 seconds
44. Taking Massive Action Through Your Mindset
Managing your mindset is the best thing you can do on a day-to-day basis to help you stay on track, reach your goals, and create opportunities for growth and change. It is far too easy to compare your performance and achievements against those of others, worry about what others may think, and ask questions that do not come from a place of self-empowerment or leadership. Mindset is not a woo-woo practice, it is who you are based on how you choose to think and perform. Your beliefs become your thoughts. Your thoughts become your results, and knowing that puts you in the driver’s seat. If you do not have a regular practice of evaluating and managing your mindset, I hope this episode gets you started. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Business Class Coaching Business Class Facebook Group Small Talk Superstar Facebook Group Post a podcast rating and review
2/17/2021 • 21 minutes, 7 seconds
43. Getting the Upper Hand on Limiting Beliefs
A limiting belief is that voice in your head convincing you that you can’t do something. The voice gets louder and louder every time you allow yourself to listen to it and refuse to take action as a result of it. Limiting beliefs are common for people who see more value in others than in themselves. Here are some of them: I will never be as skilled or as smart as I should be. People will only respect me if I’m successful. If I don’t do as well as others, it means that I am an inferior person. If I can’t do something perfectly, then there’s no point in doing it at all. The problem with limiting beliefs is that they can become deeply ingrained, to the point where your “beliefs” about yourself become “truths” about yourself. You can, however, break free from their hold on you. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". The Assertiveness Accelerator Business Class Coaching
2/10/2021 • 20 minutes, 12 seconds
42. The Best Kept Secrets to Camaraderie & Connection
We like ourselves—that is basic human nature. We are also more receptive towards others who appear to understand us quickly, and this is the secret to camaraderie and connection. Once you have camaraderie, there is a mutual liking, trust, friendship, and affinity. The benefits to creating camaraderie with someone are that they will be much more likely to want to do business with you, share information, recommend you to others, and support your ideas. Improved sales, productivity, and teamwork can all result from creating camaraderie with colleagues and clients. The bottom line is it helps you to establish good interpersonal relationships, which will open many doors for you. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". 11 Easy Steps to Stop Overthinking (and Finally Be More Social!) Susan's TEDx
2/3/2021 • 23 minutes, 20 seconds
41. Using Soft Power to Influence in Meetings
How you show-up and the perceptions others have of you also speaks to the power or lack thereof that you wield. The impression you make matters - always. When being quiet is what you’re best known for, it can be difficult to change that perception, especially when your co-workers are more outgoing. If you’re shy, reserved, or just quiet in general, you don’t want the spotlight on you. So how do you make a favorable impression without feeling awkward and uncomfortable? Today’s episode will help you to get noticed in a positive way. If you have trouble putting yourself out there, I share some tips that will help you make a good impression while simultaneously proving your value. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". The Secret Sauce to Social Confidence Business Class Social Confidence Coaching
1/27/2021 • 16 minutes, 31 seconds
40. Shyness, Social Anxiety, and Living a Full, Fun Life
Shyness and social anxiety are quite different maladies that are often conflated. Both are equally present in society, with social anxiety disorder being the most common form among all the anxiety disorders. A social anxiety disorder can affect anyone, regardless of gender and age, and it can be absolutely debilitating in business and social situations and prevent the sufferer to cease speaking, eating, making eye contact, being in a crowd, and numerous other normal, daily activities. On today’s episode, I share how to move past shyness and social anxiety, and what can be done to keep irrational fear at bay to ensure it does not interfere with living a full, fun life. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Introvert to Influencer POP Laser Coaching
1/20/2021 • 28 minutes, 46 seconds
39. The Power of Personal Magnetism
We all have internal super magnets that draw others closer or push them away. Working to increase this magnetism can help you to attract more positivity. Despite what some believe, it is possible to increase your personal magnetism and apply it to your life. If you want to extend your circle of influence you must learn how to bring the energy, and that energetic connection is magnetism. This episode of The Soft Power Podcast includes ways to use magnetism to your advantage and be a more effective people person: You can do this in straightforward but effective ways. For example, just remembering little facts about others demonstrates interest and positivity, and this way of connecting will attract people to you on intellectual, emotional, and spiritual levels. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". The Secret Sauce to Social Confidence Social Confidence Coaching
1/13/2021 • 16 minutes, 57 seconds
38. Becoming Socially Confident
Being socially confident benefits every aspect of your personal and professional life. If you are generally introverted, or reserved, it may feel overwhelming to develop these skills, but you will notice people have greater respect when you appear relaxed, at ease, and fully engaged. Whether it’s just hearing the sound of your own voice while engaging with passersby, making conversation, or recalling a person’s name, your ability to handle the situation with poise and gravitas makes a great impression on others. When you exude social confidence in business settings, you possess the power to build strong relationships and work well with others. Improve your social skills and become more socially confident with the tips presented in today’s episode. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". The Secret Sauce to Social Confidence Social Confidence Coaching
1/6/2021 • 22 minutes, 37 seconds
37. The Value of a Social Skills Coach and Connecting with Co-Workers
We’re living busy, socially distanced, professional lives, and trying to balance between work and networking, all the while ignoring the value of the people we work with every day. Often, our connections fall by the wayside. But connecting with others is more important than you might think. Connecting with people of similar interests and backgrounds can lower anxiety and depression, help us regulate our emotions, and lead to higher self-esteem. The reality is that we’re living in a time of true disconnection. While technology seems to connect us more than ever, the screens around us disconnect us from ourselves, and from others. Our inherent need for human connection doesn’t mean that every introvert must become a social butterfly and that every self-conscious person must learn to love Zoom. Having a human connection can look different for each person. And if you’re not sure where to start in finding a meaningful connection, that’s what this episode will do. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Schedule a Coaching Consult Business Class Social Skills for Professionals and Business Owners
12/30/2020 • 23 minutes, 6 seconds
36. Big Tips for Making Small Talk
Mastering small talk and confidently engaging in deeper conversations are essential for professional success and personal gain. Yet the thought of striking up a conversation makes you freeze because you do not know how to start or end a conversation while looking approachable and relaxed. You may even consider it trivial and a waste of time. From job interviews to team building, to a networking event where you know no one in the room, small talk functions as a way to make connections with people. There’s nothing pointless about small talk. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Laser Coaching Limited time offer BusinessClass.Expert Social Skills Coaching Free Checklist “The Secret Sauce to Being Social” “Just Listen” book
12/23/2020 • 18 minutes, 43 seconds
35. A Strong, Attractive, and Consistent Personal Brand is Priority #1
The competition for jobs, clients, customers, and raises is fierce, and with a few keystrokes, someone anywhere on the planet or just a few floors above you can quickly determine whether your brand is working for you and if how you’re positioned is going to help you get what you want. A well-crafted personal brand can help you clearly and consistently portray how you are differentiated among similar professionals, and allows employers and customers the ability to gain insight into what you are about as an individual. How would your co-workers, superiors, or clients describe you? Do you POP and stand out in your category? Get some feedback from peers you trust and never lose sight of the fact that your brand’s positioning and packaging precedes you. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". It’s time you worked with a high-performance coach, and we have just the package for you, with a special end-of-year price! POP Laser Coaching 17 Secret Social Tips Nobody Taught You Your Host's Personal Brand
12/16/2020 • 17 minutes, 22 seconds
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12/14/2020 • 2 minutes, 33 seconds
34. The One Where We Perfect Your Personal Pitch w/ Andrew Winig - The Elevator Pitch Coach
“If you’re waiting for in-person networking to make a comeback, you’ll be behind.” That advice as well as other golden nuggets, like “Everything good happens after the meeting.” are liberally served by today’s guest, Andrew Winig, Your Elevator Pitch Coach. If you’re working from home — you need a pitch. If you’re going to the office — you need a pitch. If you’re looking for a job — you need a pitch. If you want that client — you need a pitch. If you’re making small talk — you need a pitch. And no, it’s not necessary to be on an elevator to clearly and succinctly state what it is that you do in a friendly and compelling way. Andrew and I talk about the components of your pitch, the importance of working the breakout room on Zoom, and why it’s time to say “Buh-Bye” to those long, boring introductions by everyone in the (virtual) room. Andrew is a networking powerhouse and after today’s episode, you will take back control of your precious time in the networking room and be better equipped to discern whom to follow up with and when, and increase your circle of business “friends”. This is a valuable episode, and I hope you enjoy it. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". ImprovAndy.com (subscribe to Andrew's newsletter) Please rate and review The Soft Power Podcast in the Apple Podcast App. Instructions are HERE. Get the cheat sheet for professional people skills success: Secret Social Skills Tips Nobody Taught You
12/9/2020 • 31 minutes, 33 seconds
33. The One Where I Encourage You to Speak Up
It happens all the time. You're in the same physical or virtual room with people who see conversations as being easy-breezy. In fact, they don't give it a second thought. They’re comfortable and confident and say anything that comes to mind. Meanwhile, you, the quiet, reserved, overthinker take copious notes, analyze remarks the others make, and come up with some solid solutions for solving the issues being discussed. The only problem is that those ideas remain stuck in your head because you aren’t contributing to the conversation. Soft Power Society, it's time for you to be heard. Today's episode offers several tips for joining conversations already taking place and ways for you to add value, be respected, and heard. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Join the new Facebook group Small Talk Superstar Interested in one-to-one coaching? Schedule a free consultation Learn about Susan Callender and Business Class
12/2/2020 • 16 minutes, 29 seconds
32. Devin Marks, The TED Talk Whisperer, on Connecting with Your Audience and Changing Minds
Your conference presentation may have been planned for a hotel ballroom, and now it’s been relocated to Zoom. Does that mean you can relax? Presentations, speaking, and any form of public address are pivotal moments in your career, whether they are face-to-face or virtual, they always matter. Your colleagues and peers will take you as seriously as you take yourself. Therefore, if you try to wing-it when presenting, you may experience a fail that reverberates for years to come, each time your name is mentioned — even when you change organizations. You've likely already had to give an important speech at one time or another. Did you feel confident Was it well received? If not, where did you see room for improvement? With that said, could your public speaking benefit from an evaluation prior to hitting the stage, and perhaps some serious polish? Let’s start working now on getting it right the next time and build from there! Devin Marks, more popularly known as The TED Talk Whisperer is a top speaker coach and has helped countless executives, scientists, entrepreneurs, and budding thought leaders prepare for the hard to obtain and demanding TEDx stage, and make the leap to the big TED site. On today’s episode, he shares his perspective on what makes the best talks and how you can use the same techniques to ensure you hit it out of the park the next time all eyes are on you. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Devin wants you to ConnectToCompel Connect with Devin on LinkedIn The Top 3 Ways to Captivate Viewers Join Susan's Free Facebook Community, Small Talk Superstar
11/25/2020 • 35 minutes, 33 seconds
31. Compelling Ways to Sell Yourself and Influence Behavior with Dr. Nancy Zare
Despite their best efforts, some people consistently struggle to connect personally and professionally. Whether it's a job interview, co-worker, client, or customer relationships, there is a disconnect in how they click, link, and synch. How wonderful will your life be when you learn to quickly "get" people, and they in turn "get " you? Whether you're a professional or small business owner responsible for bringing in clients, or a marketer looking for the right words and approach that will boost sales for your clients, Compelling Selling helps you decipher the personality and buying style of the consumer, thus enabling you to spend both time and dollars more wisely. Today's guest, Dr. Nancy Zare is the author of Compelling Selling. The book provides the exact words to use to influence buying behavior, as the title infers, and also how to better communicate with clarity and confidence in everyday relationships. A psychologist and retired professor, Dr. Nancy Zare has dedicated her life to helping people communicate more effectively. She earned her master's and a doctorate from Boston College and is an Amazon best-selling author and past president of the National Speakers Association of New England. She originated the AlikeAbility™ System to teach business owners and service-based professionals how to open sales conversations, follow up, and get more business. Accredited in sales training and accelerated learning, Nancy turns education into edutainment. Her secret passion is to go racing on the Autobahn. Be ready to laugh, think, share, and be wowed as she drives home the idea of how buyers buy. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". https://www.businessclass.expert/ Schedule a FREE Session with Susan The Social Skills Secrets mini-guide Join the Small Talk Superstar Facebook Group DR. Nancy Zare's links https://RapportBuilderZ.com https://RapportBuilderZ.com/Book https://RapportBuilderz.com/Get-Hired Take Dr. Nancy Zare's Quiz: What's Your Major Selling Mistake?
11/18/2020 • 32 minutes, 19 seconds
30. Using the Power of Your Thoughts to Create Better Business Relationships
Thoughts create things, therefore, if you dread making connections with colleagues, you'll receive a lukewarm reception in return. The ability to keep up with the speed and rate of change in the current economy and marketplace may be more dependent on people skills than on technical or hard skills that may lose their relevancy over time. People skills are so crucial to success, it's hard to imagine how people skim over them. Not only must you know the right thing to do or say, but you must also be prepared to use the skills through forethought. Unlike technical skills that may only be relevant to a single company or industry—or even just for a specific period of time—people skills have lifetime value. Communicating well never goes out of style and is desirable 100-percent of the time. Because people skills are universally useful, they can help you make a smooth transition from one interaction to the next, regardless of the level or hierarchy. Take a closer look at the increasing value of people skills. Then determine if can you really afford not to invest in them. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". BusinessClass.Expert Schedule a Coaching Consult Small Talk Superstar Facebook Group
11/11/2020 • 16 minutes, 2 seconds
29. The Introverted Person's Guide to Perfecting Public Speaking with Kit Pang
It likely will not surprise you that many professionals do not look forward to presentations and peaking to large groups, and for shy and introverted people in business, it can be excruciating. Still, it's necessary if you want to stand out in your industry and in high-stakes situations. Whether it’s in an in-house meeting, an online conference, or somewhere in-between, you’re not going to be able to avoid the spotlight forever. With that in mind, you’re probably on the lookout for some strategies that you can use to calm your nerves and speak in front of others with plenty of confidence. Today, Kit Pang of Boston Speaks will share several strategies to help you become a good and confident public speaker. It may take time to completely eliminate the nervous energy that creeps up, but you’ll be far better at coping with them. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Small Talk Superstar Masterclass & Coaching http://businessclass.expert/ Kit Pang: Boston Speaks
11/4/2020 • 29 minutes, 30 seconds
28. How to Build Your Professional Network While Working Remotely
There are numerous benefits to working from home, and losing connection to your professional peers and potential job opportunities is not one of them. Networking while working remotely takes on a different level of urgency and necessity because it is far too easy to disappear and make yourself scarce when virtual calls are not scheduled,, and doing that a few too many times can be a disaster for your career in the long run. Episode 28 of The Soft Power Podcast gives you some solid options to get seen, be heard, and stand out while working remotely. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Small Talk Superstar Masterclass & Coaching http://businessclass.expert/
10/28/2020 • 15 minutes, 32 seconds
27. Always Bring Your "A" Game: The Illusive Power of Presence
Would you like to totally take command of a room, a meeting, or an interview? Well, that requires Presence. Presence is your unique, custom blend of poise, polish, style, and character that telegraphs to others whether you belong, whether they'll accept you, and how far you will be able to go in a given situation. Presence is less about you and more about what other people experience when they spend time with you. Do you leave people feeling good after connecting with you? If not, have a think about what you need to change so that other people feel great about each experience they have with you. This episode of The Soft Power Podcast will help you get there. As of April 10, 2021, the domain "BusinessClass.Expert" was changed to "SocialConfidencePro.com". Links and downloads mentioned in Soft Power Podcast episodes 1 thru 52 may be accessed by simply ensuring the domain in the link is "SocialConfidencePro.com". Small Talk Superstar Masterclass & Coaching http://businessclass.expert/