Non-subscribers, take note: new episodes will now be dropping every Wednesday and Friday at 6 AM EST. Now that business is taken care of, there's a trending breakup J&J need to discuss: Jason Tartick and Kat Stickler. They analyze their breakup announcements, plus discuss societal pressures and expectations put upon celebrity couples. Next, a 31F is having trouble with same-day date cancellations, leading J&J to explore the nuances around when and how to cancel on a date. Then, brace yourself for an Awkward Encounter about a college kiss gone horribly wrong—it still haunts our listener to this day! The second advice email is seeking a masterclass in becoming a more effective PITA (Pain In The Ass). J&J delve into the importance of negotiation in relationships and wielding strong opinions as an advantage. The episode wraps up with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” about a surprising pet, a boyfriend who selectively shares, and a date who insists on getting all the cash back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Welcome to the inaugural Friday episode! Jared and Jordana are still at Spotify HQ, gavels in hand, ready to tackle Couple's Court. This week, they dive into a sh*tty dilemma from a listener who's struggling to get her boyfriend to clean up his bathroom blow-ups. Jordana passionately sides with the listener, while Jared shares how we can do better as a country when it comes to bathroom supplies. Next, a 30F listener without social media feels uneasy that her 32M boyfriend—who posts frequently—has no pictures of her on his feed. Is it weird that he's leaving her out of his posts even if she was there for those moments? J&J give her tips on how to address the issue with a vulnerable approach instead of an accusatory tone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are coming to us from Spotify HQ, and Jordana is realizing she doesn't know NYC as well as she thought. First, they tackle a listener's email about men on dating apps giving her unsolicited advice. J&J discuss how to nail the art of roasting without going off the rails. The Awkward Encounter is a two-parter including a train platform romance gone wrong. Then, another listener needs help validating jealousy after her fiancé shares a compliment he got from a coworker. J&J try to give her perspective and decide if couples should even be sharing the compliments they receive outside their relationship. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a pocketed dirty condom, a mom with a vendetta and a light show at 3 AM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off this last Sunday Special with a round of “Petty or Prudent?”. They tackle a homemade sign a listener hung in her neighborhood, calling out her ex for his deceitful ways. It’s her bold move to retaliate against a liar and cheater, but J&J have some clever suggestions for delivering her message with a bit more finesse—no neighborhood drama required. Next, J&J give advice to a listener whose boyfriend is still grappling with the emotional fallout from his recent divorce. Despite their amazing adventures and great chemistry this couple might have, J&J focus on the passive aggressive ways he has been downplaying their relationship and wonder if he’s even ready for someone new. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve got an update! The Oversharing segment Jared and Jordana disagreed about two weeks ago has extra context, and now Jared feels like apologies are owed (kind of). Then, J&J answer an email from a listener who is considering re-matching with a guy she’s dated before on the apps but she’s worried that he won’t remember her. J&J give her the pep talk she needs to pull the trigger and swipe again. Next, an Awkward Encounter turns a new relationship into a family reunion. The second email is a two-part problem: a listener’s boyfriend is still friends with his exes and she also has a situationship she cannot shake. J&J break down the issues and figure out why we might keep our exes around. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a first date foul, Eras tour tickets lie, and a tacky gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's one of our last Sunday Specials before we move to Fridays (read: Thursdays, if you're a subscriber)! J&J kick off with a round of Couple's Court about deleted nudes. Our listener got a weird feeling (iykyk) about her bf, so her gut told her to look through his phone. It looked clean at first until she found deleted nudes of him--and another woman, but here's where it gets strange: he told her that it was just a porn subscription, and the porn star requires him to exchange nudes on Snapchat. When you're done rolling your eyes, listen and get ready to weigh in on whether this is truly an open and shut case. Then, J&J help another listener navigate whether she should consider getting back together with her ex or walk away. He clearly had commitment issues when they were together, but now that they're apart, he took her advice to go to therapy. J&J discuss the boundaries she needs to set moving forward and if his decision to go to therapy is enough to open the door again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spooky Season has officially started and Jordana kicks us off with an update about the odd happenings in her apartment building. Then, Jared recounts his own bizarre experience that happened the night before. Plus, they weigh in on WalletHub's "Best and Worst Cities To Date In 2024". The Awkward Encounter turns a listener's kink into an ick. Next, a listener who wants to know why men always seem to always settle down after they end a situationship where they couldn’t commit. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” in partnership with Netflix, including a shared bathroom debate, a long-distance situationship with friends who are possibly too persuasive, and a vegan surprise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are easing into another Sunday Special with a quick check-in on the current states of their minds. Jared shares how his new hobby, golf, is one way to watch a man’s insecurities unveiled. Plus, Jordana is going stircrazy in her temporary home while she’s waiting for her house to finish major renovations. Next, they play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a first date to a nude beach. Afterward, a 29M listener writes in concerned about the trajectory of his relationship. He and his fiancée are feeling less compatible as their relationship goes on, but is he stuck because he already proposed to her? Jared and Jordana take issue with the focus of his email and discuss the importance of communication and knowing when to call it quits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re navigating second-guessing today! Jared tells Jordana about his latest trip to Boca, when his parents started dissecting why he’s still single, and Jordana pulls him out his own head. Afterward, they get an email from a listener concerned that her boyfriend is too much of a green flag. She spent her 20s dating toxic “boys,” so why isn’t she satisfied in a stable relationship with a mature man? The Awkward Encounter is a funny story that’ll have you clearing your Google search history. Then, a woman writes in after getting disgusted by her aunt’s reaction to meeting her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Angry Orchard, about sharing locations, a killer dating app DM, and TikTok thirst traps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re coming full circle as actress and filmmaker, Heather Graham joins J&J for an extra special Sunday episode. 2 years ago in a Benefits episode, Jordana shared the story of how Heather Graham’s list for manifesting the perfect partner led her and several friends to meet their husbands in a matter of months, and Jared made a list of his own too. Fast-forward to present day where a listener wrote in to announce she’s getting married and those episodes helped her find her man too, so it was finally time Heather Graham knew her impact on the U Up? World. After J&J bring her up to speed on her unknown history with the pod, she shares her affirmations, how her friend group wills what they want into their lives and the ways she’s learned to make better choices than what may feel familiar to someone with a dysfunctional past. The episode ends with a lightning round of “Firsts & Worsts.” For more from Heather Graham (@heathergraham), see her sophomore directorial project, “Chosen Family” on October 11, 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and with the way the U Up? world works, it’s still Jordana’s birthday. They get excited about everything fall has to offer, from dating and the NFL to fall fashion. Plus, a subscriber helps Jordana amend a remark from last week’s chat about Chappell Roan, and Jared gets a touching message from a fan. The first email comes from a 31F listener who’s starting to feel like she’s mothering her 26M partner. Is this a slight play at weaponized incompetence, or just a serious lack of awareness? The Awkward Encounter is a building ick as a 35F listener is struggling to deal with her BF’s snoring or morning kisses while he’s wearing a mouthguard. Next, a listener feels like she won’t get out of her own way when it comes to great matches she’s met on dating apps. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about backrubs, a surprise home visit, and unsolicited business advice, in partnership with Angry Orchard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are reminding us of the “disgustings” they are in today’s Sunday Special, but you’ll forget all about that by the time you hear how unhinged the advice email is. After catching up, they play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that throws us back to the topic that inspired this segment: sharing streaming services. Is it petty or prudent to kick an ex off of your streaming accounts after a breakup? The episode ends with an advice email from a 40M listener hung up on sex in past relationships despite hearing “wedding bells” for his current partner. Looking beyond the red flags being waved, J&J sense something more problematic going on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana is back from her trip to "Fra" and we’re getting a full recap, which includes her very own Britney Spears moment. Then, in a strange turn of events, we get a dramatic reading of a Chappell Roan song from Jared. Next, we hear from a listener who has an unwanted third person in her relationship: her boyfriend’s brother. J&J try to read between the lines and figure out what this actually means for her relationship. Then, an Awkward Encounter from a listener whose mom opened a very private package. Finally, a love story from a listener who met her dream guy at the Renaissance faire. Is it too far-fetched to travel to another state to pursue her (maybe) knight in shining armor? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” in partnership with Angry Orchard, including a partner with a very sexy hobby, a kiss with a childhood crush, and a first date who chose an interesting seat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who has been engaged not once, not twice, but three times without ever making it to the altar. Is anyone ever 100% certain before walking down the aisle? First, Jared shares a recent plane mishap that has him thinking that he'll make a good boyfriend one day. Next, they receive a "Couple's Court" from a listener who has beef with her boyfriend's beard, reminding Jordana of a constant grooming conversation she has with her husband. J&J recreate the conversation they think this listener should have to get exactly what she wants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long intro lovers, rejoice! Jared and Jordana are kicking off today’s episode with some well-deserved random rants. The first email comes from a listener unsure if she should tell the guy she is currently dating that she hooked up with his friend in the past. Should the new guy even care if she's a "homie hopper"? J&J discuss the double standards when it comes to men and women in this situation. Next, the Awkward Encounter is about a first date that took the phrase “honesty is the best policy” a little too far. Then, J&J help a listener whose partner likes to include others in the bedroom, but she’s not sure if that’s for her. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, featuring an epic ghosting story and a woman who needs to improve her kissing strategy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the first Sunday Special of September meaning cuffing season hasn't arrived yet, so until then, Jared and Jordana are reminding single daters what they should be doing to make the most of dating this fall. Then, the "Icky or Picky?" submission includes one of the most unhinged Hinge voice memos of all time. Next, we hear from a listener who is in a pickle (in more ways than one). While her boyfriend is working overseas, she finds herself falling for her pickleball partner. J&J talk her through the rom-com storyline her life has become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is full of realizations. First, Jared and Jordana help a listener who downloaded the apps before moving and unexpectedly fell in love. While helping her through a potential long-distance dilemma, J&J agree on a new dating principle they think all single people on the verge of a move should follow. Next up, an Awkward Encounter where a listener is determined to get her jeans back after hooking up with two roommates on the same night. Then, an upset listener writes in after noticing her boyfriend changes into a different person when he’s around his friends, even though he warned her this would happen. Jared puts himself in her boyfriend's shoes to try to understand his reasoning. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, about needing emergency services mid-hookup and getting pranked during an awful date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special, Kaitlyn Bristowe (@kaitlynbristowe), host of the "Off The Vine" podcast, reunites with her friend Jared and finally meets Jordana for a U Up? crossover we've all been waiting for. Having been the Bachelorette at a pivotal point in the digital era and a year past a relationship so public it warranted a breakup announcement post, Kaitlyn reveals how boundaries with social media have evolved in her career and personal life as a public figure. Then, J&J grill her with a game about what she’s looking for in her next partner. The episode ends with an email from a listener wondering how to navigate the mutual friend group after a breakup. Kaitlyn can relate, sharing a time when someone else from Bachelor Nation confronted her about a date, and the three discuss how important it is to have open communication within a close group. For more from Kaitlyn Bristowe, check out the "Off The Vine" podcast (@offthevinepodcast) where Jared and Jordana will join her soon.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are closing out the summer with what's weighing on our minds. They discuss the significance of hometown heroes and ask the important questions like, what’s a bigger deal: getting a street named after you or having your name on your town’s Wikipedia page? Next up, they do a lightning round full of questions submitted by listeners, from how to compromise with your football-obsessed partner this fall to whether you should hook up with your handyman and, on a more serious note, how long can one ethically date multiple people before they let their partners know? The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, where Jared and Jordana both share a time they found themselves a little flushed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s Sunday Special, we’re revisiting a tried and true segment: the deal reveal. But before diving right in, J&J mourn the end of summer and discuss their remaining plans. Afterwards, the two hold a "Couples Court" to discuss a long debated argument between an engaged couple from early on in their relationship. Next, J&J dissect a “Deal Reveal,” where they decode texts between a confused listener and their date. If their date was so great, why won’t the other person adjust their schedule to have another? J&J use the texts to figure out if this is a friend-zoning situation or if the other person is really just too busy to compromise Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are putting themselves in the shoes of listeners who are facing tough situations today. But before diving right in, they caught up with their producer Belle about her bachelorette party and wedding prep. Then, the first email is about the pros and cons of auditioning for a dating show. Next up, an Awkward Encounter from a listener who searched through her dates wallet and found a lot more than she bargained for. Then, we hear from a listener who needs help deciding if they should break their personal rule they set for themselves and move in with their partner before getting engaged. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about first date etiquette, avoiding a post-BJ kiss, and a shocking message a listener found on her BF’s phone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is full of disconnects today, but before diving in, J&J take us to Plug City to talk you through where they were right before the recording. They spent the first part of their day at Albert’s Bar after the owner (a subscriber!) reached out claiming his spot was great for a first date. They took in the ambiance during a special project for the pod and ended with lunch to get the full experience so they could assess for themselves. Afterward, they read an “Icky or Picky?” about a trip to Jared’s second home, the Comedy Cellar, but our listener wasn’t laughing. She was out with her boyfriend for a fun date night, and one joke made him laugh so hard, a mix of the ick and embarrassment came over her. Next, an Aussie listener writes in about her relationship going downhill ever since she let her BF know how her parents felt about their relationship, and now distance is getting added to the mix as he moves closer to work. Are the obstacles all in their heads or can nothing be done? J&J give their two cents to help her out of the hole she’s in. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are diving right in because Dr. Naomi Bernstein, Jordana’s sister and co-host of Oversharing, is in the studio to ease us into this episode. Plus, her husband Jeff tagged along, so we got both sides of their story as they take us back to dating in 2006. Afterwards, Jared sneaks in a mini session about his “hoodfishing” issue on the apps. The first email is from a listener struggling with talking to her boyfriend about grief. She recently lost her dad, but her boyfriend’s obvious discomfort has her holding back, so J&J get some help from Dr. Naomi on how she should proceed. The Awkward Encounter is one single mom’s “what happened in vegas” story. Then, we hear from a listener needing J&J to help her decide whether to give her BF a heads up that her ex will be at a wedding they’re attending soon. Her BF doesn’t want to know about exes, but they’re both in the wedding party, so should an exception be made to avoid an awkward moment? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about repeating a couples trip to Italy, getting grossed out by period sex, and bizarre eating habits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re kicking off the first Sunday Special of August with not-so-unique dating experiences. J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a seemingly flirty line that rubbed one listener the wrong way. Then, an email comes from a listener who keeps getting what he calls the “hero treatment breakup,” a breakup involving loads of compliments leaving you alone and confused. Jared and Jordana have played both sides of this breakup style and lend perspective over what they think is happening. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is full of red flags and awkward moments, starting with a guy in his late 20s unsure of how to give green flag energy. Before diving in, Jordana is celebrating her husband’s birthday soon so they discuss thoughtful gifts and Jared plans a date for them. Then, a listener asks how to show girls he’s interested without being overwhelming or pushy. The Awkward Encounter is a truly wild escape from “the Bear.” Next, a listener is struggling with her partner wanting to abstain after they already had a child. They’ve successfully parented for a year now, so where is her ring? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about rating your SO, mixed messages, and a date at a membership lounge. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are unraveling relationship problems, from an impending fight to a friend wondering whether she should voice how she really feels about her bestie’s latest relationship. Before diving into emails, J&J caught up about Jordana’s double date and Jared’s time spent with older singles in Boca over the last weekend. Next, they weigh in on a “Couple’s Court” about whether it was weird that our listener’s boyfriend revealed he still had access to his Bumble months after they’d been exclusive. Jared and Jordana come to differing conclusions from the emailer, plus Candice interjects with a third possibility. The episode ends with an advice email about a listener concerned with her friend’s serial dating pattern. She’s built the case on why she should and should not voice her opinion, but leaves it up to J&J to ultimately decide where she goes from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before diving into emails, J&J get caught up in the sitcoms of the 90s. Plus, they follow up on a recent "Petty or Prudent?" after a YouTube comment schools them on the difference between kinks and fetishes. Then, the first email comes from a listener concerned her guy friend’s intentions may be more flirty than friendly. The Awkward Encounter will make you think twice about where you hide your sex toys. Next, a listener is her boyfriend’s first girlfriend and that’s been noticeable as their relationship continues, but how much onus is on her to help him mature? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about whether kissing gay friends counts as cheating, a traveling quirk, and a lack of boundaries with coworkers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is a dream brunch group as J&J are joined by Keltie Knight, Becca Tobin and Jac Vanek of The LadyGang podcast. They start with learning the famous toxic ex origin story behind The LadyGang’s formation before J&J get into relationship icebreakers and questions that will tell you exactly how everyone’s relationship style differs. Then, they play a round of Firsts and Worsts, for a lightning round catchup on The LadyGang’s past and present relationships. Plus, Jared is outnumbered being the only one both single and male in the chat. Keltie, Becca and Jac each share differing marriage dynamics and perspectives on their past, and Jordana relates to one more than anyone else. The episode ends with a “Petty or Prudent?” about a male listener on the brink, wondering whether he should skip being his girlfriend’s wedding date to avoid being part of her family’s memories if a breakup will happen any day now. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long intro lovers, today is your day! J&J have a lot to unload this week, from the one quality Jordana’s husband isn’t in love with to Jared’s weekend in the Hamptons with Hannah Berner, and a one-and-done take on this season of Love Island USA and that Casa Amor shakeup. Next, J&J get an email from a listener four years into her relationship and itching to know whether I do’s will ever be in their future. The Awkward Encounter is a trip down memory lane. Then, a male listener writes in wondering how his female coworker is getting so much attention on Hinge (no offense). The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about changing dating app photos, misused prompts, and an uncomfortable date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re deep into summer and Jared’s in a bit of a rut. He talks Jordana through where his mind’s been while he’s been on the road. Then, they kick off the Sunday Special with a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a secret kink. Our listener stumbled upon her date’s Reddit and saw his activity in fetish communities online and, after witnessing what he was into, she felt turned off. Next, J&J answer an email seeking redemption for revenge. Our listener is happily married, but still pining over the perfect way to tell her ex off. Jared and Jordana speak about the attempt at winning in relationships and seeing beyond the traumas of the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double-standard debates in the dating world are weighing on us today, specifically those that are more of an issue for women than men. Before diving into emails, Jared and Jordana discuss the backlash to a Forbes article, “Are We Still Not Ready For A Mixed-Weight Romance On Screen?”, and the topic of mixed-weight relationships in general. Next, the first emailer wants to know how to let a guy know that you aren’t interested in hanging out when you still have to work – or be stuck in some capacity – with him. The Awkward Encounter is a dating don’t when you’re feeling anxious. Then, the second emailer needs help navigating her way out of a sticky situationship. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about prolonging the talking stage, living with an ex, and leaving out an important detail post-sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After Jordana dished on some UK setbacks, it’s Jared’s turn to share what happened after he left Cannes including a scary solo travel experience en route to Ibiza. Plus, Taylor Warning: Swifties may not like what Jared has to say about Travis Kelce's Eras Tour cameo, but if you take Taylor out of it, he’s got a point about the dire state of today’s dating world. Next, J&J receive a Couple’s Court asking them to decide if it’s fair for a listener’s fiancé to hire a stripper for his bachelor party despite her discomfort. Then, we receive an email about dating non-negotiables. A listener’s booty call keeps mentioning his “list” and, while she’s not interested in seeing him seriously, her curiosity is getting the better of her. Jared and Jordana break down what is wrong with this scenario, and the sign that she needs to walk away. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Listeners are in for a double rant to kick off this week, but if you thought it’d be from Jared, guess again. After Jordana gains a new commercial enemy, Jared makes a request to single listeners for this 4th of July: take advantage of the fun holidays. The first email comes from a confused listener after a man drove 3 hours to surprise her and quickly lost interest after. The Awkward Encounter comes from a single mom who met a man in France, but had to work through logistics for a hookup while traveling with her daughter. Then, the next emailer is worried she’s scaring men away by being too upfront about what she wants. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about men in thongs, annoying sayings, and changing thermostats. Plus, Taylor Warning: Swifties may not like what Jared has to say about Travis Kelce's Eras Tour cameo.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re balancing out the seriousness with a lot of laughter as comedian Rachel Feinstein (@rachelfeinstein_) joins J&J on the pod for this Sunday Special. She’s married to a firefighter, but didn’t mean to be, so she recounts bad dates, awkward dumpings, and the lessons learned from dating through her 30s that got her to find the right guy. Then, J&J read a “Petty or Prudent?” about wanting custody of a neighborhood after a breakup. The trio discuss post-breakup boundaries, both physical and emotional, as well as whether our listener or her ex were in the wrong.For more from this episode’s guest, visit rachel-feinstein.com or follow @rachelfeinstein_ on Instagram! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Let’s get vulnerable! This week’s episode is full of listeners reaching out regarding intimacy, awkward conversations, and heavier topics. Before they get into it, J&J delve into differing life stages after Jared hears from a friend in full dad mode. Then, the first email comes from a male listener whose relationship seems to be teetering into the friend zone after 2 years with his girlfriend. The Awkward Encounter includes a throwback to a memorable Awkward Sex Encounter from July 2019. If you ever wondered what happened with Tampon Guy and the mortified woman who wrote in, she’s back with an endearing update! The next emailer asks how to disclose diagnoses affecting your life when you’re dating. She’s dealt with anorexia for a decade, but when does that get brought up if she wants to get serious with someone? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about coupled U Up? listeners, pet parents, and a common Hinge question. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s an extra special Sunday because we’re letting you in on some office goss. Divya, a Betches staff member, joins J&J for a debrief about her neighbor. She met a cute guy in her building during cuffing season and, at the time, Jordana warned her that dating a neighbor is a risky move, but also gave some helpful advice on how to proceed. Now that summer is in full swing, J&J are dying to know if the risk was worth the reward. She retells how the situation came to be, the dates they shared along with in-the-moment advice Jared and Jordana gave, and how it all ended. With that situation in hindsight, Divya, Jared and Jordana reflect on the red flags, and J&J share what would’ve worked to spare the issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are questioning narratives today, starting with what happened to romcoms. After seeing Jared’s criticism of “Anyone But You,” Jordana wants to discuss thoughts on Sydney Sweeney, Glen Powell, and the state of romcoms in 2024. Then, we hear from a listener who can’t figure out how to get a guy out of Instagram DMs and into exchanging numbers. Their mutual friends advised her that he’s just “playing it cool,” but it’s starting to feel intentionally avoidant. Next, J&J receive a long email that’s both Awkward Encounter and an ask for advice after a guy friend professed his love at the airport. Our listener is pansexual and feels a tinge of betrayal with her confusion, but J&J don’t think she’s seeing enough of the other side. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about texting habits, hating travel, and wearing the same shirts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The perfect episode to tune in ahead of a Father’s Day brunch, J&J are back with another bite-size Sunday Special. They start with a “Petty or Prudent?” about sending an obituary after someone ghosts you, but they also saw a red flag before our listener got to the point of being ghosted. The episode ends with an email about another TikTok dating trend. Several fun #DatingTok videos are telling single people to try dating with an expiration date, but our listener didn’t have fun with the concept at all. Is it just not for her, or did she do it wrong? The hosts weigh in and advise the workaround for her and anyone else wanting to give this a try. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are tackling nuance in the modern dating world. Before jumping in, Jordana recounts her Sonoma vacation and her driverless ride reminds Jared of dating apps’ impact on society. Plus Jared has feedback for a fan that shot her shot for an upcoming tour date, and his reasons for what was wrong with her approach tie into the first email. A listener has a crush on her fitness instructor, but is there a way to shoot her shot without making it awkward if he wants to pass? In true U Up? fashion, John Mayer enters the tangent fray, but first, J&J have an introduction to make. Then, the Awkward Encounter involves a situation going from flirty online to uncomfortable irl when a listener finally meets her colleague at graduation. Next, J&J answer an “Are We Dating?” about a long-distance connection growing between traveling work trips. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about seatbelts, professional Tinder pics, and IG explore pages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are getting pumped for their trip to Cannes, but they have to get a few things crossed on their list before they go. First up, Jordana needs answers on what the f*ck is up with Jared’s beard? Next, they read a wedding note from a subscriber before delving into a “Petty or Prudent?” about a SIL asking to share a wedding anniversary date. The episode ends with an advice email for a listener’s mom. He’s tried helping her navigate dating after her divorce, but she has excuse after excuse on why no one is right, so he needs help from J&J on how to get through to her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are taking on complicated relationships and realizations in this week’s episode, but first, they catch up on Jordana’s latest trip, get excited for their voyage en France, and Jared vents about the unknown era he’s navigating. The first email comes from a listener looking to collect $1,000 her ex owes her. He’s gone radio silent and it’s been a year, but J&J think she’s making a mistake with her ask. Then, our final “Friends to Lovers” submission takes a turn when a listener found her lover’s Grindr messages. TRIGGER WARNING for our next email, we talk about animal abuse. J&J receive an email about an impending breakup, a heartbroken woman, and her dog at the center. She thought he was “the one,” but her dog’s reactions as their relationship progressed caused major issues, and Jared thinks her concern and focus are in the wrong place. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about dating your ex’s twin, tattoos of faces, and a questionable bachelor party game. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are joined by Olivia O’Brien ahead of the release for her upcoming EP, “Love and Limerence,” but before they get started, Jordana and Olivia fill Jared in on what limerence means. Then, Olivia shares the struggles with being vulnerable in her songwriting and dating other public figures, and Jared can relate for why he’s cautious with the real experiences he puts into his work. Plus Olivia shocks J&J with the aftermath of her song with gnash, “i hate u, i love u,” blowing up on the charts in 2016, they talk double standards of women being vulnerable, the difference in LA and NYC social scenes, and why Gen Z might be more open to casual relationships. The episode ends with answering a listener’s email about being on the hook and not knowing whether she should just walk away before she gets hurt. She’s been happily seeing someone for two months, but he’s now up for a job that would take him overseas indefinitely. They have yet to DTR, but she’s certain she doesn’t want to juggle a long-distance situation. Jared, Jordana and Olivia weigh in. For more from our guest, listen to “Love and Limerence” by Olivia O’Brien (@oliviaobrien) on June 21. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The pod is buzzing this week, and we’re starting with Jordana’s NBA experience seeing the Knicks play (and lose) Game 7 against the Pacers reminding her of a relationship falling apart and Jared’s fired-up morning after a workout. After catching up, they jump into an email from a listener reeling over getting stood up. She had an online relationship with a man in another state for 8 years, but when the stars aligned and she found herself in his area, he blocked her. Is she wrong for wishing he would’ve communicated he didn’t want to meet anymore, or does he not owe her anything because they’d never physically met? Next, we get another “Friends To Lovers” submission from a Canadian man about a woman he met in a workout class. Afterward, a military man asks how to navigate dating when his career’s constant moves have been the subject of several breakups. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about white lies, jorts on a plane, and a special update from a fan-favorite milk debate from our 2020 episodes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special delves into boundaries, appropriateness, and x, but first, J&J are catching up with Emma Willmann (@emmawillmann). The conversation from Emma’s last time on the pod gets a quick update with where it continued with a sex therapist on Emma’s podcast, Ask Men Anything. Then, Jared needs the insight of women he knows for his latest TikTok finds. Next, a male listener thinks his personality is to blame for his lack of dating life. He’s friendly and chatty, but the consensus of his friend group is that these characteristics could be “gay-coded,” so is the solution to become closed off? The episode ends with a “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup reaction after our listener comes out to her boyfriend as queer, but it’s not the reaction to her sexuality that she’s concerned about. Jared, Jordana and Emma add some extra layers of perspective she may be looking past. Listen to our last episode with Emma, "Was This A Red Flag Or Is My Internalized Homophobia Showing?" from February 21. Listen to Emma's follow-up conversation on Ask Men Anything, "Asking Dr. Justin Lehmiller Anything" from February 27. https://youtu.be/AMPqjOcuAg8 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are finding the balance in a few debates, from ideal thermostat temps to awkward callouts. The first email asks if there’s a limit to how much an ex is brought up during a date. Jared and Jordana don’t initially agree and weigh both sides of the conversation. Next, in a segment sponsored by Netflix, they get a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission that's out to motivate other listeners to make a move. The second advice email is looking for the line between going for what you want and seeing what the person you’re dating is willing to do. There could be truth to “If he wanted to, he would,” but doesn’t that go both ways? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about being overly communicative, being put in an awkward situation pre-date, and disagreeing about the best sex you’ve ever had. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are jumping right into this week’s Sunday Special, kicking off with an “Icky or Picky?” about a delayed Hinge response. Our listener’s match explained that he took so long to get back to her because he only likes to focus on one match at a time, but she can’t decide if it’s unfair of her to be put off or if that was indeed too much too soon. Then, they get an email from a listener struggling to forgive herself for giving her ex a second chance despite problematic circumstances. J&J discuss who she's really mad at and what needs to change so she can move on in peace. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late 30s looking for long-term love and frequently finding short-term romance. He’s been quick to cut things off once he realized he and his dates weren’t looking for the same thing, but is he missing out on great experiences by doing so? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about sleep farts, childhood homes, and splitting the check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until his ex made a film about “the ups and downs of ‘young love’” based on their former relationship. She confronted her about the film and, when the ex claimed it was more about love in general, she asked for tickets. Her friends are egging her on to attend, but would that be petty? Next, we hear from a 35-year-old woman struggling with the men she’s meeting on the apps. She finds them all so…boring. She asks J&J a series of questions to adjust her approach (i.e. Should she lessen her expectations? Are these incompatibilities a deal breaker?), but they feel like she’s sidestepping an obvious factor in her problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Is it petty or prudent to use your life experiences with others in your life’s work? What if you’re one of the biggest pop stars in the world? Before dissecting listener emails, J&J dish first thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album, “The Tortured Poets Department.” The first email comes from a listener disputing her latest breakup after her ex questioned whether they truly had long-term compatibility. To her, you have to invest in a relationship first in order to build compatibility, so she leaves it up to J&J to chime in and decide. The Awkward Encounter gave us all the ick. Then, the next email is from a listener who can’t decide if she should follow her heart or the advice of her loved ones. She’s seeing a friend of a famous rapper who flies her out and makes her feel special, but her family disapproves and wants her to come down from cloud nine. Is there a chance for something real to blossom with a lifestyle like his? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about picky eaters, invasive date questions, and threatening to break up after an argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is a full debrief as Dulcé Sloan (@dulcesloan) joins J&J in the studio, catching them up on the dating stories she’s telling publicly for the first time, why she doesn’t call romantic interests by their names, and what she’s learned looking back. She takes us back to the time she was seeing “The Mechanic,” breaks down what they had and why it went on for so long, and confronts Jared about what he's looking for. You may know her as a comedian and host of The Daily Show, but Dulcé is also Jared’s friend and ready to be yours too with her new book, “Hello, Friends! – Stories of Dating, Destiny, and Day Jobs”. For more of her dating stories and lessons learned in life, get your copy of Dulcé’s book here: https://amzn.to/44gUGxW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before we dive into another peak dating season, it’s time to ask yourself what you want and why you need it. In today’s episode, we hear from a few listeners going through frustration and anxiety, but first, you’ll never guess what Jordana has to do. Then, J&J hear from a 32-year-old listener who is convinced that at this point, she and other women are doomed in today’s dating society. Jared levels with her, but before we let her take everyone down too, our hosts discuss the importance of what you want your story to be. The Awkward Encounter is a confusing situation phoned into our hotline. Aligned with second-guessing from the previous two, our next emailer is dating someone, but she’s not sure she made the right call backing out of a date if it would mean meeting some of his family members. Does that mean they were taking the next step, or is she making a movie night more than he meant it to be? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a third-wheeling puppy, revealing a potential deal breaker before the date, and lifestyle changes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Can a couple be successful in a professional and personal relationship? We’re finding out with this Sunday Special’s guests Nick and Elyse Oleksak, known for bringing their business Bantam Bagels to Shark Tank and selling for millions. The episode starts with learning how our guests came to know Jared, then J&J delve into their success and how the inner workings of their business played a role in their relationship. How do they turn off work mode and incorporate date nights? Has business been beneficial to their marriage dynamics? And what the f*ck happens if they were to split? Nick and Elyse open up about the personal elements behind the personas that made a life-changing deal. For more about our guests, read “A Shark Ate My Bagel,” by Elyse Oleksak (@elyseoleksakofficial), available here: https://amzn.to/3QaN6PR Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring is here, but while we’re waiting for the weather to catch up, we’re discussing early dating to get you back out there. An email from last week about accidental sexts reenters the chat when our first email asks about strange messages from men on dating apps. Are there really that many creeps out there, or is she doing something to attract them? The Awkward Encounter is more of a reassurance ask about where a situation left off. The next email comes from a man who met a woman IRL. He’s not attracted to her now, but she seems cool and he saw an old pic of her, so would it be wrong to date her with a secret mission of turning her into his physical type? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about first date convenience, refollowing an ex on IG, and body counts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring cleaning time is here, so we’re heading into April ready to clean out, refresh, and reinvigorate our mindsets with the help of one of our listeners! Jeannette Cieszykowski, Feng Shui consultant and owner of Elemental Clarity, reached out to Jared after hearing a Benefits episode about how his apartment was holding back his dating life. This Sunday Special, she joins J&J to talk about feng shui, the energies we hold in our homes, and how simple changes could help us succeed in our dating intentions. Learn more about Jeannette's work at elementalclarity.com or follow her on Instagram @elementalclarity Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the Wednesday before the big weekend – Jordana’s birthday getaway and Jared’s time to shine as his brother’s best man. Before diving into the episode, they tease what they’re anticipating ahead of their travel days, then spill into Jared’s TikTok encounter and the big debate going on with Oversharing. The first email comes from a divorced listener feeling insecure about blame her ex-husband placed on her when it came to words of affirmation. Now that she’s in a new relationship, she wants to do better, but how do men like to be complimented in the first place? The Awkward Encounter validates a recent “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a surprise strand of hair. Next, the “Are We Dating?” submission may be a case of overthinking a man’s removal of Bumble. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” featuring texts about a strange favor, women with successful careers, and recovering from sending a sext to the wrong person. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dreams are coming true today– Jordana’s #1 guest, mental health icon, and host of “Where Should We Begin?,” Esther Perel is making this a standout Sunday Special. We get started with the existence of situationships, spill into her findings about eroticism and sustaining relationships, plus the universe affected when an affair occurs. The episode ends with a listener's email about a devolving sexual connection with her boyfriend, leading to her finding something unsettling from his past relationship. Should she confront him with what she found? J&J ask how Esther would advise, and you may be surprised to hear her answer. Find Esther Perel on Instagram @estherperelofficial or listen to her podcast, Where Should We Begin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Spring is in the air, and we’re ready to welcome all the fun that comes with more sun and warmer weather. Before diving into emails, J&J both have exciting plans to come, plus they receive another listener’s wedding invitation! Next, they hear from a male listener who just got stood up on a second date but met someone new while he was waiting. His original date ended up reaching out, so does he owe her another shot or would it be OK to call the girl he ended up meeting instead? The Awkward Encounter is why you never go back for seconds on Hinge if it didn’t work out the first time. Then, the “Are We Dating?” submission comes from a divorcee exploring the dating world. Her email stumps Jared because it’s a bit of a role reversal from what we usually hear, so J&J need your help landing a decision. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about seating choices, smelly genitals, and a potentially common risk when dating a teacher. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

If you’ve cheated or been cheated on, this Sunday Special is for you. Before diving in, Jared has some pre-wedding thoughts as we get closer to his brother’s big day. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about removing social media posts with your ex. Is that an unspoken rule of breakups, or is it OK to let posts of your past stay up? Next, we hear from a listener who’s just cheated and come back to the wreckage his ex left at home after she found out. He asks Jared and Jordana how he can apologize and what next steps he should take from here, but they think he’s missing something if he truly wants to change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nature is healing this week! Jordana is tan and refreshed from her trip to St. Kitts, JetBlue made amends, and Jared brought gifts for himself! Next, a new listener intrigued by an AITA about lying to have sex with someone wants J&J’s take on consent and morality. The Awkward Encounter leads to impromptu dramatic performances. Then, J&J answer a listener email in Better With Age segment sponsored by Lee. Our 29-year-old listener has been hit hard by her breakup and, despite her ex being the issue, can’t see herself finding love again. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about TikTok pranks, free drinks, and chin hairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re getting to the bottom of an on-again, off-again relationship in this Sunday Special! One of our listeners, Natalie, knows she’s dating a man she’s been seeing since September, but he keeps backpedaling on the seriousness of commitment. They’re in their 40s, she knows what she wants, and he claims to care for her, so what is the hold-up? When she listens to our podcast, some of Jared’s answers resonate with the way she perceives this man to be, so she wants answers from Jared and a reality check from Jordana. Is he just not that into her, or does he just need some more time before he gets tired of playing games? J&J give her some perspective to see a future for herself on the other side of this relationship, and help Natalie draft a text to follow up on their most recent hangout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J have a lot to discuss this week! Jordana is finally about to get her vacation fill, but it’s going to take a JetBlue flight to get to her destination. Then, Jared retells the story that his followers (and Jordana) were convinced was a meetcute, and explains why it wasn’t a romcom setup in his mind. Plus, after meeting Rob at his Boston show, Jared gives an update on our SOS caller. Next, he and Jordana are asked about the rules around your parents’ involvement in your dating life. Should you wait for labels or a certain time to let them know you’re seeing someone new? The Awkward Encounter proves that some men never change. Then, we receive an “Are We Dating?” submission that ends with J&J drafting a text for our listener. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about dating types, app omissions, and a pet portrait. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is a birthday gift to Jared! Joey Grazadei, the Bachelor and the internet’s newest boyfriend, is in the studio and ready to face Jordana’s questioning. We get asked endlessly about the two types of men, so we’re putting Jared and Joey to the test. Is a single man ready to get married pretty similar to a single man seeing how it goes, or are there questions to emphasize any polarizing differences? We’re pulling back the curtain and breaking down the perfect Bachelor image to see who the real Joey is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Worst Month of the Year is wrapping up, but before it ends, we’ve got a lot of off-air moments to recap from the past week! Since last week’s recording, we surprised Jared with his apartment tour, hosted our first mixer, he had back-to-back sold out NYC shows, and now his birthday has finally arrived. Then, we hear from a listener who needs Jorge’s perspective on a guy she’s dating. Is she only uncertain because she’s used to dating Jareds? The Awkward Encounter is encouraging more listeners to join in on our dating challenge. Next, there’s an update to the “Are We Dating?” email from Valentine’s Day. The 95% girlfriend heard our advice, acted on it, and let us know what happened next. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker? about a black eye, Valentine’s Day card, and yet another story about peeing in weird places. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Hopeful season is on the horizon, but for now, J&J are getting you through the bleakest part of winter with another Sunday Special! The episode kicks off with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a V-Day breakup. Is it automatically petty to break up with someone on Valentine’s Day, or was our listener within reason? Next, J&J hear from a listener whose biggest issue with her talking stage is the repeated breaking of her boundaries. Is her perspective skewed from being recently out of a long-term relationship, or is this guy being f*cked up? J&J read the texts and weigh in on why these red flags should be a deal breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s the Worst Day of the Year, which happens to be the day Jared Freid was born! The episode starts with reflecting on Jordana’s unhinged rant that gave today its special name and how he feels entering his personal new year. Then, Emma Willmann, host of Ask Men Anything, returns and shares revelations she's gained as a lesbian questioning men on everything. Next, they hear from a listener in need of guidance on an internal debate. After having sex with the guy she’s been dating, he casually mentions being queer, and she wonders why he would not be direct about such a big part of his identity. Is it internalized homophobia making her question a non-issue, or was there a better way to go about this conversation? Jared, Jordana, and Emma debate all sides of a relatable issue in today's modern dating world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Still in awe of Tracy Chapman’s reemergence at the GRAMMYs, J&J’s pre-show talk spills into the start of this Sunday Special. Next, they jump into “Petty or Prudent?” about blocking your ex after a breakup text. Do you owe them a chance to respond, or nothing at all once a breakup is done? Then, a listener explains why her boyfriend seeking therapy is a growing problem for her and their relationship. What’s appropriate to share with your partner from sessions, and when is it OK to push back on what you’re being told? It’s his therapist she has an issue with, but J&J have a bone to pick with him too. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Valentine’s Day! Today’s episode has something for everyone – lovers, new listeners, singles, and anyone struggling in a situationship. J&J have a dating challenge to share, but first, Jared kicks off with a pep talk for anyone alone on Valentine’s Day. Then, Jordana speaks on TikTok coming for her over last week’s Pookie and Jett debate. Next, a listener is starting to get back into dating, but just isn’t feeling it. Does she just need more time to get the spark back, or is there a deeper issue at play? The Awkward Encounter is an all too common issue of being on a date that isn’t a date. The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about your SO misspelling your name and thinking your friend is hot, and pranking a SO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Valentine’s Day gets closer, we’re anticipating make-or-break reveals hitting a high, but there’s a silver lining: J&J explain why this V-Day is perfectly placed for single people in 2024. Next, they dive into “Icky or Picky?” about a lackluster conversation starter in the DMs. Then, the episode ends with an email about how to get a could-be relationship out of a weird place after the holidays. Communication isn’t what it was in December and our listener isn’t sure she can get them back on the right track without using “masculine energy,” but does that really matter? J&J read the texts she shared and weigh in on where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and Jared is in a mood. He reads the DM that’s been stewing in his mind before they look into TikTok’s new favorite couple. Jordana unleashes her thoughts on Pookie and Jett Puckett, but Jared’s opinion changes mid-conversation. Then, the first email is spiraling over a guy she likes still being active on the apps. If they’ve had two good dates, then what the f*ck is he doing on Bumble? The Awkward Encounter comes with excuses, but J&J are not having it. Next, they read an “Are We Dating?” submission that meets the definition of complicated. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a family death, fitness accessories, and nicknames. Credit: TikTok @campbellhuntpuckett Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are too many icks and options stopping you from finding love? Jay Shetty, host of the On Purpose podcast, is back in the studio with hot takes on today's dating cruxes. J&J dive into the parts of Jay we have yet to know, from his favorite drinking game to his bad days. Plus, having sat down with everyone from Kobe Bryant to Kendall Jenner and Michelle Obama on his own show, he shares insights from some of his most famous guests. Jared, Jordana, and Jay find common threads connecting their lives, and end the episode with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a quiz our listener had to pass to be asked out on a date.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve finally made it to the end of January, but Jordana can’t get into this week’s dating topics until she addresses the change on Jared’s face. Plus, J&J give updates on what’s going on in their lives. Then, #DatingTok is bringing up doubts for our first emailer: is it the man’s job to confirm a date the day-of, and what does it say about her if she doesn’t hold dates to social media’s current standard? The Awkward Encounter is a piss-take memory from being stuck on the road with a new boyfriend. The second email is about falling for a guy back home when the circumstances can only make it complicated. J&J talk through whether liking someone is enough of a reason to go for it in spite of the odds. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about briefly leaving a date, not sharing food, and photo IDs. Photo Credit: Phil Provencio Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re overdue for an SOS episode so this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Rob, one of our listeners, to talk through his current situation with an ex. He takes us through their dating timeline, the breakup, and how, two years later, she started to come back into his life via social media. Now, they’re on friendly terms, but what is this all for? To build a friendship? Reignite their relationship? And, most importantly, why is he playing along? J&J push Rob to figure out what he wants, call out the grey areas in this situation, and tell him what he needs to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s a debate day in the studio this week! Winter freeze is in full effect, and J&J are coming in hot with reality checks about settling and where you may stand with your situationship. The first emailer is wondering whether she should stop trying to date new guys and seriously consider settling for her high school ex. J&J play out the scenario of reaching out to an ex with the intention of rekindling. The Awkward Encounter shines a light on a weird moment that led to great sex. Then, J&J take the first submission for our new “Are We Dating?” segment. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about bad breath, a gross habit, and a lame first date move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

January is slowly trudging on and J&J are already counting down to one month from now–the Worst Day Of The Year. As Jared’s next birthday creeps closer, he’s finally feeling age catch up with him. Then, a listener has a philosophical question made for the U Up? Podcast: what is “the ick” and where does it come from? The episode ends with an email about a Hinge match that went from interesting to way too intense in a matter of messages, and we have the DMs to prove it. J&J read the messages and have a request for the listener's match. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are coming in hot with a debate on the difference between “seeing” someone and “dating” someone. They put dating stages on a scale of 10 and, as the singleton of the studio, Jared calls it like he sees it. Next, the first emailer is preparing to meet someone from her boyfriend’s past and needs help on how to deal. But, should someone he slept with once before they met even matter? The Awkward Encounter involves a red flag revelation of a first date’s past. Then, another listener needs some clarity on dating etiquette. Is it customary to watch what you order when you aren’t the one paying, or is your date’s spending none of your concern? The episode ends in a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about kissing on the first date, men following thousands of women on Instagram, and texting patterns. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s un-cuffing season and we’re talking all about whether or not it’s time break up. J&J start with a preview of their upcoming travel plans — milestone birthdays and wedding speeches are already in the works — followed by a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a hot moment gone cold. Then, they hear from a 27-year-old listener who’s concerned that she and her boyfriend are less and less involved in each other’s lives after 7 years together. Is it a case of the seven-year itch, or should their differences be taken as signs that they should break up? Jared and Jordana put themselves in her shoes and raise some important points to coax her out of her own head. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio for their first recording of 2024, starting with a New Year’s Eve recap and their own thoughts on Jared’s post-date episode. They hear from a listener who is five years into a dead-end relationship and in need of a breakup plan. How do you spot a “sunk cost” in your own relationship? The Awkward Encounter is a leftover from the holidays, featuring a cringe-inducing moment with a guy and his mother. The next emailer is happy in her relationship, but is having trouble getting “what if’s” about another guy out of her mind. Is there a secret to getting over your own “Mr. Big” when you’re with someone new? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about foot preferences, STD tests, and impatience on a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are solving couple's conundrums in today’s Sunday Special. Comedian Rosebud Baker joins the pod and gives a breakdown of the reveal that led to being engaged within 6 months, having COVID while pregnant, and how she always knew her husband would make a good dad. Then, they play a new game called “Couple’s Court” to give ruling on a sleepover issue in a listener’s relationship. They both have the same side of the bed, so isn't it only fair that they trade off when they sleep at each other’s places? The episode ends with an advice email about struggling with the stability of a relationship when you’re used to toxicity. Is it too good to be true, or is our listener settling for what's right rather than what's right for her? Rosebud relates and weighs in with J&J about codependency, healing, and the red flags they see in the email. @rosebudbaker Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with a very exciting episode to ring in the New Year. Jared breaks down how he was feeling before, during, and after his blind date with a U Up? listener and how it has made him reevaluate his post-date process. Then, his date Nora joins the show to give Jordana all the details from her POV. Later, Jared rejoins the convo to review The Seville as a first date spot and chat with Nora about how he could improve his first date skills. Jared and Jordana wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about table manners, lying about what you’re looking for on the apps, and birthday surprises. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are saying goodbye to 2023 with today’s Sunday Special and, from Oxford’s acknowledgment of “rizz” to Taylor Swift’s TIME honor, they’re starting off with big moments of this year. Next, they discuss dating predictions for the new year before diving in to the advice email. Our listener told her BF that she wants to be engaged by the time she turns 30, but now that the year has arrived, she’s not sure she’s ready after all. How does she talk to her SO about it without setting off alarms about second thoughts? J&J talk through the situation, the anxiety she’s experiencing, and how she should talk to her boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Twixmas time (the days between Christmas and New Year’s–it’s a thing) is here, and J&J are winding down 2023 with a regularly scheduled episode. The first email is about a compromise issue: our listener’s love language is quality time, but her husband spends several hours gaming. J&J, with input from our producer Jorge, debate whether this falls under a hobby or an addictive habit, and what it could be a red herring of. The Awkward Encounter is a gross memory with a sweet ending. Then, the second email is riddled with guilt after our listener snooped through her husband’s phone and found something she didn’t like. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about momma’s boys, weird outfits, and ordering for your date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

‘Twas the episode before Christmas and in the spirit of holiday fun, Santa Claus and Mama Elf are stepping into the studio to do this one. They kick off with a talk about Christmas traditions and funny tales from the past, then it’s time to put some toxic exes on blast. There’s a round of “Petty or Prudent” about an ex’s gift for sale, but how does that compare to what he did to make her bail? The episode ends with a special segment called “Naughty or Nice” that serves as a lesson for overbearing moms to think twice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

 J&J are switching things up for this episode because Jared has a date with a listener and, in this episode, they figure out who that will be. They start with the top date contenders, as decided by the Betches office, and narrow down the prospects. Then, they get back to solving dating with an email about trying to date in the same small town as an ex. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about using a Tide Pen on a date, the mention of “the one that got away,” and an unsolicited sexual audio message. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special and the senioritis of 2023 is hitting. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a breakup over religious differences. Then, J&J respond to an email about overcoming the sensitivity around rejection. Plus, they get the rundown on why TikTok is talking about Zach Braff being a terrible date and give their takes on the story. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are ready to dive into another episode, but first, they have a very New Yorker debate and give a preview of the “Win A Date With Jared” submissions. Next, the first emailer has a conundrum. Guys see her as a “cool girl,” which is great, but she’s not too cool for a relationship. How can she overcome that placement in their minds? The Awkward Encounter is what happens when one person tries to force romance. Then, the second emailer is reeling from a breakup while battling a diagnosis. Was her ex wrong for breaking up with her while she’s sick? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about saying “ILY” early on, OnlyFans models, and appearance modifications for men. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is all about settling debates between couples, but first, there are some clarifications to set about the eligibility to win a date with Jared. Jumping into the episode, J&J play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about baths. Then, a listener writes in about a tiff with her boyfriend. She hangs out at his place more than he comes to hers. He raised the issue that she isn’t contributing to the upkeep of the apartment, but does she have to if she doesn’t live there? Jared and Jordana talk through their dilemma, from how the argument was handled to getting down to the true issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before J&J can solve dating, Jared explains how he ended up in a Turkey Trot and on “Celebrity Row” in MSG. Then, the first emailer has her eye on a cute guy she’s sharing a ski house with, but the friend group already has plans to set him up with someone else. Should she still make a move or back off? The Awkward Encounter is a take home tale about a bad date. The second emailer doesn’t care to be engaged right now, but she really wants the ring. J&J extract the big issue behind the ring request, and it all has to do with The Reveal. The episode ends with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s our first Sunday Special of December, and Jordana gifted Jared a tarot reading to kick it off. Kelley Knight, owner of Modern Mystic Shop and recommended tarot reader of the Girls Gotta Eat hosts, joins J&J to read what’s happening with Jared. Guided by questions from Jordana, Kelley pulls cards that predict Jared’s love life. Plus, Kelley pulls an interesting set of cards regarding someone from Jared’s past. @kelley__knight, @modernmystic_shop Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Now that we’re heading into December, J&J are ushering in F*ck It Season with this week’s episode. The first emailer likes the guy she’s seeing, but after posting him in a Facebook group, she’s a little freaked out. How much weight should she give to strangers in the “Are We Dating The Same Guy” space? The Awkward Encounter is a reminder to up your standards ahead of a first date. Then, the second emailer is stuck in an addictive situationship. J&J give her advice on breaking the cycle before ending the episode with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love a special guest for our Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Vir Das takes a break from his international tour to join J&J in the studio. He walks J&J through his background from India to Nigeria to the US, and how he ended up in comedy. Then, Vir shares the relationship obstacles he overcame, why meeting his wife pre-fame was a key to their bond, and his thoughts on arranged marriages. @virdas Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Thanksgiving Eve and your favorite dating hosts are reminding you to beware of that holiday hookup text. In this week’s episode, J&J are ready for the holidays to hit full swing. They kick off with a flashback to high school days. The first emailer asks if he’s a f*ckboy, causing Jared to do some self-reflection. Then, the Awkward Encounter goes from a funny story to an off-the-rails comment that leaves Jordana choked up. Next, an emailer needs to know if she’s got a real shot with her best friend ahead of their return home for Thanksgiving. The episode ends with a hygiene edition of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Therabreath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re bringing back a beloved segment! In SOS episodes, rather than reading an email, a listener joins the pod to talk out their issue. This Sunday, Rianna joins J&J to explain how hard dating has been since she returned to the apps for the first time since college. Is it because she’s gained weight? Is it her new city? J&J help her identify non-issues, address a bigger problem they’re foreseeing, and give a homework assignment to get over her dating slump. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another episode, and with Thanksgiving only a week away, J&J are getting some holiday asks out of the way early. The first emailer wonders if she and her BF are really on the same page about their future, or if his jokes are meant for more than a laugh. Next, J&J take on a mini-lightning round about how to prepare for your first Thanksgiving with your SO or handle the tough questions from your family post-breakup. Then, the second emailer doesn’t want to spend Thanksgiving with her BF’s family, but he feels a type of way about that. Jared and Jordana debate who is in the right before the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about body odor, eating etiquette, and bad breath. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for our anniversary Sunday Special, and this year is extra special because it marks 500 episodes of the U Up? Podcast! J&J are back in the studio celebrating the latest milestone and reflecting on the last 6 years of solving dating on this podcast. They reflect on how they got here, the best and worst guests, and their most personal episodes. Plus, they play back “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” segments from years past and guess where they stood. The episode ends with J&J sharing what they want for the pod's future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared has a bone to pick with Jorge. Next, a listener is doing just fine in her relationship but wonders what experiences are needed to get her to an engagement. Jordana shares how she and her husband made it past that point, and what hesitations she sensed from the email. The Awkward Encounter is more unhinged than hazardous. Then, another listener is unsure if she should compromise plans with her besties for an important night to her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about bringing up an ex at awkward moments, a SO’s closeness with their ex, and lacking a taste for adventure. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special, but we’re switching it up with a special game. J&J are joined by U Up producer, Jorge Morales Picó, to find out if men think differently when they’re in a committed relationship versus holding single status. Jared and Jorge face off for a series of questions as Jordana puts them to the test. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's Halloween, so Jordana came ready to get messy while Jared showed up buzzed–but not in the way you’d think! First, J&J kick off with a pop quiz on spooky season dating terms. Then, a listener asks how he can get his long-distance girlfriend to communicate more. J&J discuss what this could mean for his relationship. The Awkward Encounter involves coworkers too close for comfort and reminds Jared of an awkward encounter of his own. Next, a newly single listener wonders how and when she should address her baggage. Her last relationship ended with infidelity and a divorce, but does every date need to know? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about food gifts, calling someone “hot,” and using group pics on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, J&J are joined by comedian Sam Morril. He talks unhinged exes and shares a recent text exchange with someone from his past. Then, the trio play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about appetizers on a dinner date. The episode ends with an email asking for validation on a breakup. A listener thought she did her due diligence in breaking up with her ex, but after time had passed and she ran into him, he accused her of not being honest enough because she found a new relationship soon after. Should she have mentioned her crush, or does it not matter if the relationship was on its last leg? Jared, Jordana, and Sam discuss. @sammorril Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Something major happened and J&J are kicking off this week by announcing the news! After Jordana spills what’s new, a listener writes in asking about how much having a “type” hurts her chances of finding a true match. Then, J&J switch things up from an ordinary episode and make an awkward request. The episode ends with a visit from Jaz Zepatos, a member of the Betches team. She talks to Jared and Jordana about her open relationship, from how it came to be to how she continues to maintain a strong marriage. @jaz_zapp Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s Sunday Special fits double the podcasts into a bite-sized episode as Jared and Jordana reunite with Girls Gotta Eat podcast hosts, Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine. With one host single and the other in a relationship, they discuss their experiences dating in NYC and LA, and the DM slide that led to Ashley’s relationship. Then, J&J ask how not wanting kids has affected dating including when and how this decision is addressed and the stigmas surrounding women that don’t want kids. @girlsgottaeatpodcast, @rayna.greenberg, @ashhess Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week’s episode, J&J settle a few doggy debates among our listeners. Is it worth telling a SO that you hate their dog? Would sharing joint custody with an ex hurt your dating life? Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter turns out to be pretty wholesome. Jared and Jordana also hear from a listener dealing with ghosting regret, but they think she’s ignoring part of the picture. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about asking your ex for a post-mortem favor, stealing groceries, and social media stalking ahead of a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back for a Sunday Special and, while the weather is shifting, some things never change. The episode starts with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about what happens to sex toys after a breakup. Then, we hear from a listener about a classic issue: dating app fatigue. She’s stuck in an up-and-down cycle of being on and off the apps and, while she’s self-aware that this might be affecting her dating success, she feels like this is an individual problem. Jared and Jordana share a reality check, hard truths, and assurances about this listener’s situation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

A lot has changed since J&J were in the studio a week ago: Jared and Jordana had a first in their friendship, someone wasn’t happy about Jared’s Benefits episode, and Bumble added a new approach to dating on the apps. The first email is about backing out of a talking stage after Jared’s voice gets in her head. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes in hot. Then, the second emailer questions how she can get her boyfriend to spend quality time with her outside of dates. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a date night don’t, recycling sexts, and lying about your age. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are joined by comedian, Emma Willmann! They start with talking about the stereotypes between straight and gay relationships, how she and Jared became friends, and what her new podcast, Ask Men Anything, is all about. Then, a listener wonders whether it’s why people keep asking, “How are you still single?” As a 30-something, gay man, is this meant to be a compliment or a red herring? Jared, Jordana, and Emma discuss. @emmawillmann Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are ready to solve dating again, but first, Jared feels garbage about a post-show interaction with fans in Atlanta and Jordana recalls humbling experiences from the early days of Betches and U Up? Live. The first email is a commitment conundrum that one listener is having with her boyfriend. Why does he keep agreeing to plans only to back out last minute? The Awkward Sexual Encounter blows in more ways than one. Then, the second email questions how logical it would be to continue pursuing a relationship with a man 7 years older and much further ahead in life. J&J end with a round of “Red Flag, Green Flag, or Gold Flag?” about living situations, date preferences, and celebrations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special and, this week, comedian Nimesh Patel stops by the pod. J&J engage Nimesh in a “Petty or Prudent?” debate about answering your SO’s ex on their behalf. Then, Nimesh shares his experience with interracial relationships before they dive into a lightning round about interracial dating questions sent in from Instagram. @findingnimesh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s one question that has stumped our universe for centuries: Why do men? Emma Willmann is on a quest to find out the answer in this podcast from Betches Media. Each week, Emma is inviting some of the funniest and most interesting men she knows into the studio and pulling from the Ask Men Anything inbox to ask your biggest, weirdest, and most pressing questions of earth’s most mysterious beings. Check out a preview from Jared's episode here, and then go over to the Ask Men Anything feed to hear the rest of their conversation. Tune in every Tuesday and subscribe now so you don't miss an episode! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J have the honor of sitting down with Gerry Turner, the Golden Bachelor, himself! But first, Jordana is catching us up on married life in the ‘burbs and Jared is excited to see Huntington firsthand. The first email asks whether wanting to be “virtually courted” is holding her back on the apps. Then, the Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of firsts. The second email is from a listener who just heard from her cheating ex after almost a decade. Is she right to feel upset? J&J wrap up with an interview with ABC’s first Golden Bachelor where he shares his red flags and dating rules, then plays a round of “Red Flag, Green Flag, Gold Flag”. @goldengerryturner Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Seasons are changing, and so are dating norms! This Sunday Special, J&J kick off with excitement about what’s to come–cool weather, new reality dating shows, and Halloween. What Jared feels for football is what Jordana feels for Bravo shows, but with the latest Summer House drama, she’s noticing a new pattern amongst love stories playing out on reality TV. Then, they discuss an email about catching feelings ahead of a 3-week international trip. How soon is too soon to suggest a European getaway? J&J discuss how to decipher heightened senses from true feelings, and if our listener should go with her gut. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fall is officially days away, and J&J are predicting a shady season ahead. They take a trip to Plug City before reminding single listeners what the goal for meeting IRL should be. The first email retells a bad date, wondering when and how she could’ve left early. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is full of sweat. Then, a listener needs tips on how to tell her husband he’s a bad kisser after 7 years of marriage. Is it too late for her, or can she teach him how to improve? The episode ends with a new game of “Red Flag, Green Flag, or Gold Flag,” in anticipation of the Golden Bachelor on ABC. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are ready for another Sunday Special, and we’re starting off with a “Petty or Prudent?” about an invoice being sent after the breakup. A listener scratched her ex’s car while they were together, and offered to pay for it then, but her ex didn’t ask for the cash until they were over. Who is in the wrong? Then, an email comes in asking how to handle a big family trip after a breakup. J&J give tips on how to get around grandma’s persistent questions and the stress of being single again when your family thought you would be next to be engaged. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and it’s Jordana’s birthday eve! Before they jump right in, Jared shares a recent text exchange between him and a woman he dated years ago so Jordana can give her impartial opinion. Next, they read an email questioning why a neighbor gave his info and expressed interest if he never intended for anything to happen. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets messy. Then, the second emailer is trying to get out of the “family zone” with her best friend’s brother. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram Stories, wedding dates, and stealing date ideas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special has Jared heated! The episode starts with a “Petty or Prudent?” submission about an ex’s mom asking for her gift back. Then, a listener reaches out about a difficult choice: should she marry her boyfriend who could give her the life she wants, or should she give life a second go with her ex-husband? Jared and Jordana talk through the messy situation, including a message directly to one of the people involved–and it’s not the listener. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Before solving dating again, J&J are catching up after a short break. Jordana gives the rundown of her week in Italia, and Jared talks about the big star he got to meet after his Netflix debut. The first emailer is debating whether they should use dating business cards to market themselves to potential singles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter gets too hot to handle. Then, the second emailer wonders what say she has in her boyfriend’s lack of involvement in his toddler’s life. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about height, holding hands on a first date, and STI test results. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re ushering in September with a Sunday Special, and J&J are dubbing fall as the better season to be in the dating game. We know all too well that communication is a core element in dating successfully, and this episode focus on getting lost in translation. They play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a misplaced passport. Then, a listener questions if she’s been doing dating all wrong after she called out a fizzled dating prospect, and he fired back. If it seems like they both ghosted, who's at fault? Jared and Jordana read the texts and take sides. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are celebrating summer’s end with a Lightning Round episode, but first, Jordana has a surprise for Jared. Still reeling from his special’s Netflix debut, Jared shares his appreciation for the outpouring of support he’s received from all of you. Then, J&J get back to saving dating with a range of topics from sex talks and whether you should be dating at all to long-distance relationships and how to keep cultural differences from impacting your parents’ first impression. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week, they’re starting with a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that pissed Jared off the more he thought about it. Next, an emailer asks if she should be worried about the past indiscretions of a guy she’s seeing. Can a cheater be reformed or is she at risk of the same fate? J&J discuss her worries, red flags, and how to address the elephant in the room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and, this week, they’re both on a high! Jordana is fresh off her biggest move to date and Jared is mere hours into his Netflix debut. The first emailer is questioning whether his ghosting habit got him banned from Hinge. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a case of mistaken identity. Then, our second emailer wants to start a family in the next few years, but her boyfriend is a few years younger and unsure of where he's at. Should a mismatch of timelines be an immediate deal breaker, or is there time to figure things out? The episode ends with a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about overzealous pickup lines, canceling a date due to a cold, and helping with a move. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Comedian and actress Sasheer Zamata joins J&J for this Sunday Special. She and Jared both released comedy specials this month, so they trade insights from the comic’s perspective. Then, Sasheer shares elements of her comedy background. Next, they play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about exes’ pics on dating apps, keeping gifts, and returning cards. Guest: Sasheer Zamata, @thesheertruth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, we’re talking big life moments professionally and personally! Jordana is officially a homeowner and moving into her new house. Meanwhile, Jared is showing up on Netflix streams worldwide. Then, our first email asks about etiquette in couples’ quarrels. Is it a red flag to curse at your SO in the heat of the moment? The Awkward Sexual Encounter will have you wary of nosy neighbors. Next, our second emailer needs clarity on whether she’s really met her match or if the little things are worth a deal breaker. The episode ends with a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about song lyrics, wingmen, and love letters.  Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo 24/7 line for Emotional Abuse: Text HOME to 741741 to connect with a volunteer Crisis Counselor Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special marks the start of a big week for the OKPs! We’re only a couple days away from Jared’s special release on Netflix. Plus, our new game has J&J reflecting what kind of person they become post-breakup. They jump into a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about giving your ex a joke gift. Then, a listener worries that her current situation is setting herself up for heartbreak. Should she call it quits while they're still having fun, or is it possible to avoid catching feelings? J&J discuss her predicament and how they would handle it. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are clearing the air about age gaps. Is it only weird if the woman is older? After hearing from an “old soul” and another listener worried she’s a cougar-in-training, they share their take on the dating trope. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter leads J&J into a debate about intimacy. Then, one listener asks about a setup technique going around her inner circle. The episode ends in a round of “Thirsty or Nah?” about approaching someone at a library, routine pickup lines, and doggy dates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and Jared and Jordana are jumping right into our first round of “Petty or Prudent?” with a submission about selling your ex’s stuff. If your ex never came back for their belongings, at what point would it be OK to get rid of their stuff? Next, an American listener writes in about her current situation with an Australian SO. Where he’s from, they don’t DTR, but isn't the “talk” necessary to establish whether they're on the same page? J&J discuss what they would do if they were in her shoe Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are settling into a change of pace, whether it’s walking in the suburbs versus a city, or having to let go of their expectations for this summer. Jordana is moving again, but it’s not the big move, so she has another one coming. Meanwhile, Jared is easing into the last couple weeks before he enters the Netflix realm. Then, one listener had a deal breaker when her potential SO didn’t have her back. Was it too much to ask before they were in a relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter ends with a messy finish. Next, a listener asks for help as her relationship is spiraling. J&J wrap up with a round of Thirsty or Nah about texts after a first date, the cute guy at your local yoga studio, and a barista making a move. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re getting serious about the future in today’s Sunday Special, but first, Jordana’s brother came up with a new game for the pod, “Petty or Prudent?” Then, a listener writes about the financial fear threatening a happy future with his girlfriend. He chose a career path that would afford a comfy life for his future family, while she chose to pursue her passion even though it doesn’t pay well. Will a future together come at his expense? Is it even OK to question this? J&J talk through both sides. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J have a lot going on, but they’ll always make time to solve dating! Jared is beaming as we get closer to his upcoming Netflix special, and Jordana is caught in the throes of buying a home. Next, a listener needs help getting over a breakup from a loving relationship that just wouldn’t work. The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes as a shock. Another listener questions whether she’s being too sensitive about her boyfriend’s playful comments. Then, they finish with a round of Thirsty or Nah, presented by Stanley, all about selfie likes, dancing at the club, and buying drinks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are joined by Robyn Schall, comedian and host of the “Call Waiting” podcast, to talk about what it’s like to get feedback from your exes. She and Jared go way back to their early days of comedy, and Jordana admits to finding Robyn to be an enigma of positivity. Everyone has a raving review to share about her–even Robyn’s exes! They find out why she decided to call 4 exes on her podcast. Then, they listen in on Robyn’s call to an ex she had no contact with for 7 years. He’s credited with causing her biggest heartbreak.. but is it possible that the breakup acted as a catalyst to her career? Plus, J&J consider what it would be like to get a call from their own exes. Can you imagine? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, but first, Jared has big news! Then, J&J give their takes on the trending buzz around Keke Palmer and Jonah Hill’s respective relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rescue and a tip for a simpler way to dabble with BDSM at home. Next, we hear from a listener who just had another male coworker confess his feelings for her. Is it possible for straight, single men to befriend women without wanting more? The episode ends with a round of Thirsty or Nah, a new game in partnership with Stanley, about Close Friends stories, tricking someone into texting you, and buying Taylor Swift tickets for a first date. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo10:28 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Drew, one of reality TV’s favorite experts and dating pioneers. They interview Dr. Drew about his expertise in both relationships and addiction, including how addictive tendencies can manifest in love and sex lives. Why are women more prone to love addiction, and what drives a sex addiction? Plus, Dr. Drew shares his theory on why more young men are dropping interest in dating. The episode ends with Jared, Jordana, and Dr. Drew lending advice to a listener that just found out her boyfriend kept his nicotine addiction a secret for the past year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are talking about how to be happy while single, an awkward first time hookup and how to get back into the dating world when you’ve never really had to be in it. Before diving into emails, Jared gets excited about summertime in NYC before the second half goes by, and Jordana recaps a Fourth of July weekend with the OG Betches. Then, we hear from a new listener that’s started questioning and comparing her single life. If everyone’s wondering why she’s still single, should she be doing something about it if she doesn’t have an issue? Brace yourself for the kind of Awkward Sexual Encounter we all feared would be our first. Last, we hear from the friend of a newly divorced man whose phone call preference is hurting his dating game. Is he doomed in the digital dating generation? J&J finish up with a round of Flip or Flop about a date follow-up, making plans and nicknames. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re back for a Sunday Special, and J&J can’t believe it’s already July. Jared is waiting for the weather to be good enough to fit his summer vibe, and Jordana has a light month ahead. After talking about being late on the trends, they hop onto the topic of beige flags. Are they a TikTok trend, here to stay or just not necessary? Then, a listener early on in a relationship is concerned that his girlfriend’s constant asks for assurance and compliments are pushing him to be someone he’s not while also disregarding what he wants from their relationship. Are her insecurities his responsibility? Jared and Jordana weigh both sides of his issue and offer advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after wrapping the U Up? Live tour, and Jordana’s feeling sick. But, marriage is in sickness and in health, so her tale of a trip to the ER with Mike at her side highlights how different we become when one SO is sick and the other is playing caretaker. Then, after a former match's words got back to him, Jared disputes the real reason he unmatched. The first email comes from a listener who noticed past emailers might consider him a major red flag. He’s 37 and his longest relationship was only 2 months. Should he lie about his dating history for a better chance at finding the one? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a very cheesy Netflix and Chill tale. The second email is about a road rage incident that brought safety, security and serious anger issues into question. The episode ends with a round of Flip or Flop about texting, testing your date, and being too attached to your SO. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and J&J are joined by sex expert, podcast host and author, Dr. Emily Morse to discuss her new book, “Smart Sex.” While learning more about her new book, Dr. Morse shares the nuances and negotiations of sex, along with how you and your partner can get what you want. Next, Jared and Jordana ask questions sent in by you about mismatched libidos, performance issues and navigating intimate conversations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week’s conversations have everything to do with age, sex and a special message for Nick Viall. Jordana asks Jared what’s his age limit for dating and hookups. Next, our first emailer wants to know if she’s in the wrong for turning down dates once she’s not sexually interested. Could she create a romantic connection and focus on sex later? The Awkward Sexual Encounter inspired a new career for Jared. Then, a new divorcé writes in wondering whether he should reach out to former flings now that he’s ready to seriously date again. The episode ends with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the line between creepy and cute, bad pickup lines and love bombing. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J kick this Sunday episode off with an update from a fan favorite SOS episode, so you’ll want to listen to “Husband or F*ck Off” from February 19th to get caught up! Our listener lets us know what happened with her dream job and her SO since we last spoke, and it was more than we could have imagined. Next, we get a deal reveal from a listener in Sweden. She hears from a past hookup annually, but he doesn’t make any moves. Does he want to sleep together again, or is this just a running joke with no satisfaction? Jared and Jordana analyze the text exchange and guide our listener on what to do next. Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio and with summer wedding season in full swing, they’ve got some tips for all the single wedding-goers out there. Jared ended up at the “discards table” last weekend, and he tells us why he wears his discard-badge proudly. Next, we hear from a listener whose long-term boyfriend agreed to get engaged by the end of the year… but not knowing when her ring will come is driving her crazy. How long should you wait for him to finally propose? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for anyone planning to gather around a bonfire this summer. We hear from a listener whose sleep habits are being affected by his girlfriend’s late-night snacking needs. Finally, they close things out with a new game called Flip Or Flop, presented by motorola. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor motorola! Reimagine the possibilities of what a flip phone can do and check out the new motorola razr+ now at motorola.com/us Become a UUp? With Benefits subscriber today at: subscribe.betches.com Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are joined by Betches’ favorite stylist (and Jordana’s BFF) Liza Lieberman for the Sunday Special. Before getting into your questions submitted via Instagram, they debate the influences of fashion on dating, and Liza shares lessons learned from her first date outfits worn at the start of her serious relationships. Next, they take on your questions ranging from first date outfits to hatfishing, whether Matchmaker Maria’s “Green Theory” really works and how comfortable you should be getting once you’re already in a relationship. They end the episode with a date outfit makeover of first date outfits worn by Liza, Jordana, Jared and submitted by you! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The U Up?: With Benefits subscription is getting a glow up! Go to subscribe.betches.com and sign up for the annual subscription before the end of July to lock in the promotional rate. (If you're already subscribed on Spotify, our old platform is getting phased out, so act fast and don't miss an episode!) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are decompressing after spending the past weekend at different weddings. They dish out their views on the perfect reception, Jordana confesses an embarrassing moment she had, and Jared feels the pressures of being a great brother and best man for his brother’s upcoming “I Do's.” Next, a listener writes in wondering how to save her relationship. It’s important to her boyfriend to have a partner that can keep up with his social justice interests, but if her heart isn’t in it, will their demise be her fault? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken wedding hookup. Then, another listener emails wants to know how to kindly reject matches on the apps. The episode ends with J&J playing a new game called “Express Your First Date Thoughts.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week starts with an update from our 5/14 episode! A lawyer crushing on her colleague, but unsure if their differing sexualities, longtime friendship or distance between them would be issues, took their advice and reports back. Next, a listener reaches out with a deal reveal that’s still bothering her a month later. If everything seemed fine and they both want to be in a relationship, does that mean she was the problem? J&J discuss the confusion, pain and lessons hidden in the fine print of rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this week’s episode, J&J are reflecting on how their realities fits into the lives of their loved ones. Jordana realizes her nieces and nephews will eventually learn she’s not “Auntie JoJo” to the public and, during a reunion with his high school lacrosse team, Jared noticed he was the only single, childless alum in attendance. Next, they catch up on new love languages and discuss a Bumble match using pop culture to vet her dates. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a memory between college sweethearts. The second email asks for advice on living with your SO. Lastly, the episode ends with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about misleading job titles on the apps, celebrity crushes, burping and J&J share their own faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special and this week starts with Jared sharing more about his Euro trip… from hotel preferences to a w/Benefits tease about his dry spell. Next, a listener shares her concern over whether Jared’s so-called “10-monther timeline” is becoming her reality, or if she and her boyfriend are in it for the long haul. She has professed her love — and he hasn’t — but she’s still convinced that she sees it in his actions. So, how does she tell if he’ll come around or if the end is near? J&J break down the telltale signs of when all isn’t as it seems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio after weeks of travel and touring to talk about the word on everyone’s minds and TVs: Scandoval. Jordana gives Jared the highlights of the Vanderpump Rules finale and reunion, and they debate the toll of being cheated on in such a grand scale. Then, they jump into an email about a guy having a great time seeing a fellow grad student, but he’s about to move across the country for 5 months. Is it fair to bring titles into play, or should they put a pause on the relationship potential between them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter pulls the plug on the breakup sex that could’ve been. Then, our second emailer shares a bizarre request from a one-night stand. J&J finish with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about a shitty date, manners when you meet the parents, and settling the debate on whether a S.O. should take an upgraded seat when flying as a couple. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with a Sunday Special and, this week, they’re joined by comedian Heather McMahan. Heather and Jared have only known each other digitally until this point, so the trio kick off with a discussion about online energy vs energy IRL. Next, they dive into a problem commonly hidden in the fine print of some relationships: how do you address a shift in your friendship when one of you is no longer single? Our emailer has happily been in a relationship for over a year, but as it continues to progress, she’s noticed one of her friendships regressing. Jordana and Heather are both married, so they’re able to delve into how their friendships transitioned over the course of their relationships, while Jared is able to give the perspective of the single friend. Plus, as a bonus, you can catch J&J on Heather’s podcast, “Absolutely Not.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As Mental Health Awareness Month comes to an end, this week’s emails focus on how you view yourself playing a role in your relationships. First, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who’s a few months into being single again. She started off feeling single and free, but day by day, loneliness has crept in and made her feel like she’s not meant to be single even though she’s not ready for a relationship. Next, our Awkward Sexual Encounter is a tale that will be stuck in our minds for eternity. Our final email comes from a woman concerned about her partner’s body image issues taking a toll on his mental health and their relationship. J&J close with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about peeing in public, ChatGPT texts and voice memos in the DMs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s time for another Sunday Special, and this week, Jared and Jordana hear from an emailer confused about where she stands with a guy she’s dating. He went out with coworkers and invited her to join, but because she’s in the middle of a move and has a busy week coming up, she chose to stay home. First, he’s understanding, and suddenly, he’s calling it all off. So, what just happened? Do people in the early stages toward a relationship have to accept every invitation, or is the issue with his anxious approach? J&J add an additional perspective on their situation, and where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana are recording from home and they kick off with the joys and goals of being moderately effective, from daily living to dating. Then, they dive into hurdles in your dating life and those around you. Our first emailer noticed her dating life tends to die around the 3rd or 4th date, and Jared is able to share hesitations he’s had with getting into somewhat serious territory. The Awkward Sex Encounter is a treat for pet owners. Then, our second emailer hates her best friend’s boyfriend, but given that it’s not her relationship, does she have the right to do anything about it? J&J end with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about social media etiquette, keeping gifts from an ex and sentimental details your first date might be keeping from you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with a Sunday Special. This week, our email is about a friendship that spans nearly a decade, beginning at law school and still going strong between two busy lawyers in different towns. Our emailer is a queer woman whose interest in her friend has intensified recently, but is lust worth risking her friendship? Her friend is a straight man with a history of dating women that don’t look like her, so has he ever even considered the thought? Jared and Jordana help guide her through the next steps to breaking down the platonic barrier without throwing out her friendship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are discussing the stages of relationships this week, from starting out to starting families, and what that means for your dating life. Before jumping into advice, Jared’s date gets postponed for an indisputable reason, so he and Jordana discuss the best excuses to back out on short notice. Next, our first email is about the talk before “The Talk,” the stop in between casual dating and “DTR.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter will make you think twice about what you bring to sleep over for the first time. Then, our second emailer is ready to become a parent, but wonders if becoming a single mom will ward men off from wanting to date. J&J end with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about tracking down a ghost, keeping used condoms and using AI to write sweet messages. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and they’re kicking off with a chat about the subtle yet surreal reminders of being all grown up. Jordana is finding these more as she settles into suburban life, and Jared is prepping for a royal stint in Europe. Then, they share a listener email about being in limbo with a busy lawyer early on. Has he lost interest, or is he just busy? Jordana understands the direct approach in getting clarity, while Jared breaks down why that tactic was averted. They give advice on how to get out of this stalemate. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are diving into the hurdles holding back your situationship from evolving into a relationship. Our first listener found a spark in a former high school classmate, but she’s fresh out of a long term relationship. Will time bring them together or fizzle out the chance of a flame? The Awkward Sex Encounter is a moment more wholesome than horrifying. Our next listener admits she may have shared too much with her friends, accidentally swaying them into disapproval of the guy she’s dating. Jared and Jordana end with a round of Red Flag or Dealbreaker about an ex climbing the family tree, greeting cards and being a little too direct in dating app DMs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Sunday Special, J&J hear from a male listener who’s grown confused and frustrated with being branded as a “good guy” from dates that have dumped him. He’s divorced, in his mid-thirties and ready to find love but wonders what about him is “too much of a good thing.” Should he change who he is, or hold back from his dates? Jared has had this problem in the past, and Jordana understands the struggle of turning down a good guy if the connection doesn’t feel great. Listen in as our hosts come together to find a common ground to help the good guy get a good ending. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is full of common dating faux pas and how to steer clear, from the matches that only text but don’t really talk to guys unwittingly becoming the subject of an invasive TikTok trend. Jared and Jordana give great advice on easy mistakes to make and necessary boundaries to have with new matches. Plus, brace yourself–this week’s Awkward Sex Encounter is a spring break classic. J&J finish with a round of Faux Pas or Nah featuring diplomatic duties, fake teeth, and not-so-little white lies. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Picture this: you match with someone cute on an app, have great conversations and agree to go on a date… but on the day of, they cancel. Jared and Jordana are back with a Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener decipher what went wrong before the first date that never was. Did he foresee a disconnect, or did she misinterpret a message? J&J break down the text exchange and talk navigating the road to a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J break down Jordana’s recent move to – gasp – the suburbs! The first emailer is weighing whether the potential hurdles of different religious backgrounds is worth falling further in love, or if her current happiness isn’t worth the future risk. Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter will change the way you look at lube. Then, J&J reassure a listener who confessed their love but didn’t get the response they’d hoped for. The episode closes out with a round of Sweet or Corny covering dating firsts. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are joined by a surprise guest on this week’s Sunday Special. Julia, a Betches team member and friend (you may know her as Adam Pally's fake fan), gives the run down on a guy Jordana set her up with and where they stand now. Why would he reach out again just to change his mind after she made it clear she wanted a relationship? Where do his actions cross the line when it comes to set ups by a friend? J&J get extra personal with their advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana cover dating advice we’ve all needed through the stages of starting out to getting serious. The first emailer has first date jitters so intense, the solution is borderline self-sabotage. The Awkward Sexual Encounter served up secondhand embarrassment when they broke the rules of a one-night-stand. Our next emailer is ready to take their relationship to the move-in level, but would ending a roommate-ship ruin a friendship? J & J close out with a few rounds of Faux Pas or Nah? about dating app moves, selfie-obsessed partners, and rebound red flags. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener about how much your resume matters on the dating apps. Is judging someone by their job title or alma mater shallow or valid? Later, Jesse Metcalfe joins the pod to talk about his new movie On A Wing And A Prayer and break down his dating history. J, J, and J answer an email about a guy who led the emailer on for months, only to reveal his feelings once she was already in a relationship. Is this just an ego trip or does he actually want to make it work? Plus, Jesse shares his best advice for a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is the “mean with purpose” special, starting with a story about a recent unhinged DM Jared received. The first emailer asks if her insecurity is making her a bad girlfriend after her boyfriend told her he was going to help a friend’s friend make an “Only Fans-ish” website. If he’s not getting paid, what does he even get out of this favor? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an elaborate sorority house seduction. J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny or Sweet about pet names, moms, and snack preferences.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about whether or not bachelor and bachelorette parties are on their way out. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana their opinions on a Reddit thread asking men “What mistakes do single women who want a serious relationship make?” Are any of these mistakes valid? Or are these posters bitter guys who just got dumped? Plus, they talk about how men view sex through the lens of the recent “Sex Week” on The Bachelor. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a deep dive into Jared and Mike’s snacking habits. The first emailer asks how to get over her fear of being blindsided in a new relationship after her last one ended suddenly. Should she open up to the new guy about how she’s feeling? Later, J&J are joined by their favorite fan Rebel Wilson to talk about her new dating app Fluid and play a round of Faux Pas or Nah. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another SOS episode, and this week they’re joined by Alysha to figure out whether or not she’s just friends with the guy she’s been going on dates with. After a few makeouts, he asked her to help set him up with a mutual friend but then invited her to go on vacation for his birthday. So what does he want out of this relationship? Does she even know what she wants? Plus, Alysha shares her pet peeve as a flight attendant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

No you didn't press play on the wrong podcast, Jared and Kay are covering Love Is Blind Season 4! Every single week on the Betchelor podcast, you will be hearing their thoughts on the pods and what comes after. For this special crossover episode, they covered episodes 1 and 2. They give their first impressions on all the pod people, and predict what is to come. You don't want to miss it. For more Love is Blind episodes every week, head over to the Betchelor podcast and follow @thebetchelor on Instagram and Twitter to stay up to date on all reality tv! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start by breaking down a recent Raya experience that started from Jared’s love of complaining. Is it time for him to delete the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a spit take. Later, an emailer asks if she should move to be closer to her boyfriend or move on after the financial conditions of the move changed. Is him being unwilling to help with rent a sign she needs to end it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Corny Or Sweet about first date flowers, dating app openers, and forehead kisses. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Spesh and this week they’re joined by comedian and actor Adam Pally. They start with a chat about his new movie Who Invited Charlie? and the story about how he met his wife. Then they dive into an email from a guy who claims he found the one but can’t stop swiping on the apps. Is there any justification for this behavior? Can he still redeem himself in this relationship? Plus, Adam shares nuggets of wisdom from 13 years of marriage. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared starts with a story about being on his phone at the bar. The first emailer asks how she can slow down the pace of dating. How can she get out of the cycle of going from first date to “Willy Wonka grandparents” with the guys she’s dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter comes back to haunt the emailer years later. Later, a listener asks why situationships breakups are so painful, even if the relationship is short-lived. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about lap-sitting, getting recognized from the apps, and using ChatGPT to hack dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they’re joined by podcaster and meme queen Violet Benson. They start with a conversation about why Violet doesn’t sleep with anyone unless they’re in a relationship and how she frames that conversation to keep the ball in her court. Later, an emailer writes in to ask what to do after snooping on her boyfriend’s phone and finding suspicious messages with a woman on Instagram. Should she feel guilty about reading his DMs? Is he on the verge of ending the relationship anyway? Plus, Jared, Jordana, and Violet break down the best way to confront him about what she saw. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are coming in hot this week with a lot to unpack. First, they break down the recent Vanderpump Rules cheating scandal and what people’s reactions to it say about them. Then they dive into a recent New York Times article all about #DatingTok. How is the virality of these bad date videos affecting the power balance in dating? And how is what Jared and Jordana do on the podcast any different? The Awkward Sexual Encounter takes place at a grandmother’s house. Later, an emailer asks how she can avoid losing herself when she moves in with her long-distance boyfriend. J&J finish the episode with a new game called Sweet Or Corny, presented by Angie’s BOOMCHICKAPOP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they get their first SOS call from a male listener. Danny joins the pod to ask how he can make first dates feel more flirty and less like an interview. Is a kiss necessary to bring the romantic vibes? How much planning is too much planning? Plus, Jared and Jordana give him some questions to use on his next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker scenario from Jared’s own dating life. Then, they get into a recent New York Times article about modern dating terms. J&J dive into the definitions and admit which ones they’ve done themselves. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost and found condom. Later, a listener writes in asking if she was love bombed after the guy who was actively pursuing her changed his mind once she was interested. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about showing up to a date sweaty, becoming exclusive, and deleting the dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/limerence Does love at first sight really exist? And what’s the difference between love and limerence? On this excerpt of the latest Oversharing podcast, Jordana and her sister Dr. Naomi Bernstein have a conversation about the concept of limerence and why romantic obsession doesn’t always lead to lasting love. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and Jared is in the hot seat this week answering an email about why men say things they don’t mean. But first, they analyze the “bangers” of Les Mis through the lens of modern dating. Then, they dive into the email from a listener about a guy who said all the right things only to ghost a few weeks later. What went wrong? And why do men allude to future plans they don’t intend to keep? Plus, they give advice on what you should say to a “we should” guy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round Episode, and this week they start by discussing the highs and lows of Jared’s 38th year and revisiting the infamous clip that made his birthday The Worst Day Of The Year. Then they jump right into your questions submitted via our Instagram story with topics ranging from how men feel about situationships to talking about STIs before a hookup to trying to get romantic with a coworker. Plus, they talk about the difference between “the chase” and playing games. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another SOS call from a U Up? listener on this week’s Sunday Special. Nicole joins Jared and Jordana to decide whether she should prioritize her new relationship or her career. They talk through the pros of taking the dream job and moving away vs staying in her current job and with her boyfriend of 6 months. Will she end up resenting him if she doesn’t take this opportunity? Should he know for sure if he wants to marry her by now? Plus, Jared proposes a few romcom endings. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s Dad’s birthday party plans and how everyone goes a little crazy this time of year. The first emailer writes in about a guy who put a fake story on his dating app profile. He doubled down on the lie during their date but later called to admit that he stole the story from a friend. Should she go out with him again? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a wild night in Vegas. Later, a listener asks how to deal with her and her boyfriend’s different views on drinking. Her boyfriend and his family are big drinkers but heavy drinking makes her anxious and emotional. Is this lifestyle difference a deal breaker? J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive drinks, fake teeth, and single pillow households. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a special gift this Valentine's Day, J&J are diving into the archives and revisiting our Valentine's Day episodes past. In these throwback clips, Jared and Jordana talk through their Valentine's Day plans from 2019, 2020, and 2021 and give advice on navigating Valentine's Day at different stages of a relationship. Plus, they break down how to spice things up in the bedroom on Vday without feeling awkward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Jay Shetty to talk about his new book “8 Rules Of Love” and his journey from monk to best-selling author and podcaster. Then, they answer an email from a listener wondering which side of dating TikTok to listen to. Should she treat dating like a job to find a relationship or will it happen when she least expects it? Plus, J,J, and Jay talk about how absence really does make the heart grow fonder. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a chat about Valentine’s Day and how weird it is at different stages of a relationship. The first email comes from a listener in situationship limbo. How can you get to the next step of a relationship if neither of you have time to really hang out? When are relationships supposed to go from “me” to “we”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise visitor. Later, a listener asks if it’s normal to feel embarrassed about a past rejection. Does she need to tell her new boyfriend how upset she was about her last breakup? J&J finish the episode with a game called Who Comes First? presented by Bumble. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about not drinking on dates. The emailer writes in about a breakup with a younger guy. Things were progressing well until a few months in when he revealed he was scared to get into a serious relationship and needed time alone to work on himself. Is this a legit excuse? Jared and Jordana break down what she should’ve done differently and why you should negotiate like Judge Judy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Maddy (AKA the person reading all your emails) to talk about what 25 year olds do on their birthdays, and Jared recaps his brother’s engagement. The first emailer asks if it takes longer to “click” with someone when you’re in your 30s. Is it actually harder to settle as you get older? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was a hookah bar hookup. Later, a listener asks if she’s a cheater after a steamy dance floor moment on vacation. Does she need to tell her boyfriend about it? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mid-date haircuts and pizza syllabi. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by a real listener to break down her break up LIVE for our first U Up? SOS episode. Jess was blindsided by a breakup after a solid start to her new relationship, and then 2 days later, he tried to take the breakup back. Was the excuse he gave the real reason for the breakup? Jared explains the spiral he probably went through, and they advise her on what to do if he reaches out again. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how girls' trips evolve as you grow up and a TikTok poking fun at men who say they want someone who “doesn’t take life too seriously” on the dating apps. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is a deadbeat or if she’s being too hard on him. Are lifestyle differences a deal breaker? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a repeat offense. Later, a listener asks if she has to justify her texting style to guys who interpret her slow responses as lack of interest. J&J finish the episode with a round of Faux Pas or Nah about expensive tabs, dog behavior, and fart etiquette. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't miss this special crossover episode between Oversharing and the U Up? podcast. To hear the full episode and enjoy more great Oversharing content go to: https://betches.co/jared In an Oversharing first, Jordana invites her Jared on for a dating therapy session with her sister, Dr. Naomi. They walk through Jared’s dating challenges, including why it’s so hard to get past the first few dates, and where his mind goes to when it’s time to end things. Plus, they talk about his dating habits and history, how his role as a podcast host affects his decision-making, and whether or not people are as upset about ending things after 3 dates as they are after 3 months.  Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love a Sunday Special, and this week, Jared is in his Samantha Jones era. This week’s email comes from a guy getting mixed signals from a barista. She keeps saying they should hang out, but when he tries to make plans, she flakes. Why even bring it up in the first place? Plus, J&J talk about the problem with being a people pleaser in dating. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back in the studio for this week’s new episode, and they’re starting with a conversation about Jared’s recent spa experience and Jordana’s upcoming girls trip. The first emailer asks how she can revive some of her old dating app matches since her chat archives are full of guys with potential. Is it desperate to message someone on the apps months after the conversation ended? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a series of unfortunate events in Jared’s least favorite place. Later, an emailer asks how to get her husband to improve his hygiene. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about familiar faces, coupons, and “breast friends.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared gives his weekly dispatch from Boca. Then, J&J read an email from a Pilates instructor who went on a few great dates with a client before getting a text saying he wasn’t in the right mindset to date. She accepted the break up, so why did he reach out again a few weeks later? How much does his relationship history factor into this behavior? Plus, Jordana explains the most annoying parts of what he’s doing. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jared’s big week on the dating apps before NYE, including a date he went on in Boca. The first emailer asks if she should let her guy best friend out of the friend zone. They’ve been going on dates and expressed romantic interest, but she just can’t imagine having sex with him. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprising discovery. Later, a male listener who keeps getting the “you’re so great, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection” text after first dates writes in to ask what he’s doing wrong. Is his problem that he’s actually being *too* romantic? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about shower frequency, middle names, and date plans (or lack thereof). Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about Jared’s struggle to get to the fifth date. The emailer asks how to set boundaries with a friend she tried to date but ultimately decided wasn’t the match. She was really upset by their breakup, but she’s trying to play it cool which ended in them drunkenly making out (shocker). How can she set a boundary with this guy without making it weird for their friend group? Plus, J&J explain the problem with being the “cool girl.” Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a detailed discussion about ice luges and Jordana’s most recent fan interactions. The first emailer writes in asking if “cute if you’re into it, creepy if you aren’t” is valid in all situations after she saw this explanation all over the comments section of a woman’s TikTok about a bad date. Is it really men thinking about it this way or just men on the internet? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very oblivious emailer. Later, an emailer asks how to handle taking out her Invisalign liners on first date. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about the Batmobile, subtle insults, and bad cooking. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with the first episode of 2023, so they start by reflecting on 2022 and making resolutions for 2023. Then, they dive into the Deal Reveal about a miscommunication early in a relationship. The emailer explains that the guy she’s been seeing stopped communicating with her after she made a joke about having another date. When she calls him out on it, he comes back with a lot of excuses, including misunderstanding her joke. How much do his excuses matter? Was her joke really the problem here? Plus, Jared and Jordana critique her original call out text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Australia and a conversation about the magic of December in NYC. Then, they talk about why it’s so hard to keep dating momentum going during the holidays. The first email asks how to get to a first date when you’re not on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a broken table and an attempted robbery. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about happy places, cousins, and ferrets. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with a full rundown of Jared’s sushi order (just what you wanted for Christmas, we know). This week’s emailer asks how soon is too soon to talk about mental health in dating after a guy asked to reschedule their second date due to an episode of depression. Is she wrong to be turned off? Plus, Jared and Jordana talk about what real emotional availability and vulnerability looks like. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Santacon in NYC and a follow up from the Awkward Sexual Encounter from our 12/7 episode. The first emailer asks if men are getting cheaper after more of her recent first dates accepted her offer to split it. Are these guys into equality or just not that into her? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sisters with a lot in common. Later, a listener asks J&J’s opinion on a Curb Your Enthusiasm theory about non-single people “safely” flirting with other non-single people when their significant others aren’t around. Is this type of interaction as harmless as it seems? They finish the episode with a round of holiday-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog holiday cards, ugly Christmas sweaters, and NYE kisses. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with special instructions for shouting them out in public and a story about how Jordana doesn’t “respect sleep.” This week’s email is from a woman asking if her situationship ended because she doesn’t play games in dating. Did time apart over Thanksgiving get in the way or was the breakup text coming either way? Plus, Jared breaks down how men see the “men are like cabs” analogy from Sex and the City. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a boutique coffee shop cautionary tale. The first emailer asks how to make her new relationship more romantic now that they’ve gone from just friends to dating. Is this the right relationship for her to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very amateur diagnosis. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they find appealing about the “marriage to suburbs pipeline.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sexting, and dad-speak. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another bite-sized Sunday Spesh, and after a brief sidebar about TJ Maxx’s slogan, they’re jumping right into the episode. The emailer writes in about a situation going back 5 years that started with a first date that turned into a platonic relationship until last year when they both expressed romantic feelings. Once she got invested in the idea of them being together, he called it off, blaming the 4 hours distance between them. Is that the real reason he backed off? Plus, they ask the listener to think about whether or not she actually wants to date this guy. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Jared and Jordana start with a Thanksgiving recap and Jordana’s belated anniversary gift to Jared. The first emailer asks why a woman who didn’t want to go on a date with him is now responding to his stories on Instagram. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing tampon. Later, a listener asks if she’s setting her expectations too high when making her list of traits she wants in a partner (inspired by Jordana’s list). How specific do you need to be on your list? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about kids' toys, sharing beers, and roommate situations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Emily Nagoski, sex researcher, educator, and author of Come As You Are. They start with a discussion about spontaneous vs. responsive desire, and Emily explains why she believes we need to center pleasure in your sex life instead of desire. Then, they answer an email from a listener who says she can’t have an orgasm and feels like she can’t ask for things in the bedroom because she won’t come anyway. Emily breaks down all the stories the emailer is telling herself and advises her on how to have a conversation with her boyfriend about it. Plus, they talk about how the cultural scripts we’re given based on gender are getting in the way of our sex lives. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode is coming to you virtually from Jordana’s apartment and Jared’s parent’s pool house. Jared gives a breakdown of his experience being the main character of his family’s Thanksgiving. Then, J&J dive into Bumble’s dating trend report for 2023. They compare Bumble’s statistics to the results from our Instagram polls and talk about why this whole survey feels a little bit like propaganda to keep people on the apps. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a marina makeout gone wrong. Later, an emailer asks how she’s supposed to date while living in the suburbs. Should she lie about her location on the app to get more matches? Is she better off trying to meet people IRL? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mixing up dates, changing the subject, and bathroom talk in a relationship. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Thanksgiving is over, and the Board Lord and the Tree Betch are back. This week they’re helping a listener interpret some strange messages from her ex talking about “their song” and then his engagement photos with his new fiancé. J&J break down why he might be sending her these things and tell her what she should say to cut off this weird behavior. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a coaching session for Jordana’s gift-receiving reactions and a pep talk for listeners going out on Thanksgiving Eve. The first emailer asks how important a sense of humor is to a relationship. The guy she’s seeing checks a lot of boxes, but is it doomed if she cringes at his jokes? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another almost fairytale in the streets of Rome. Later, a listener asks if you have to live together before getting married. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about biking manners, bad breath, and art gallery etiquette. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start about how Jared is feeling about dating now that cuffing season is fully underway. This week’s emailer asks how to move forward after one of her boyfriend’s friends called her a 3/10. Should her boyfriend “dump” him as a friend? Do guys even have friend breakups? Jared and Jordana unpack why he would say that and how to handle him going forward. Plus, Jared shares a story where he offended a friend with a joke about sixes. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s U Up?’s fifth anniversary, and J&J are celebrating with a special episode reflecting on 5 years of the podcast and sharing U Up-Dates from previous emailers. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a surprise quick change. Later, an emailer asks J&J when a couple should celebrate their anniversary. Is it the first date or when you DTR? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about names, DM slides, and nerdy decor. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We love a Sunday Special, and this week J&J are answering an email from a listener who’s struggling to bond and set boundaries with her boyfriend’s family. After an awkward dinner with his family where they left her with more than half of the bill, she’s wondering when she can have a conversation with her boyfriend about her inability to relate to them. How much can she expect her boyfriend to defend her? Plus, Jared talks about how he handled similar issues in his own relationships. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start with a recap of their Halloween weekends and a warning to single people with the new iPhone. The first emailer asks how to handle a breakup with her boyfriend of 5 years when neither of them can afford to move out. J&J dish out the hard truths of the situation and her responsibilities as the dumper. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a study abroad adventure. Later, a listener asks why his friends won’t set him up. As the resident set up expert, Jordana gives some potential reasons they’re not telling him, and Jared breaks down how his attitude toward dating might be playing a role. J&J are joined by Fortune Feimster to finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about exes on Instagram, Hinge profiles, and the wrong times to bring up your mom. Big Steve Fundraiser: https://www.gofundme.com/f/the-passing-of-big-steve-bouncer-at-comedy-cellar?member=2[…]campaign=p_na+share-sheet&utm_medium=sms&utm_source=customer Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a conversation about Jared’s run-ins with Al Roker and the “seven year itch.” The emailer asks if you have to reply to a breakup text after she gets one from a guy she was dating exclusively for four months. Jared and Jordana break down each line of the breakup text, and Jared shares some relevant experiences from his dating life. Plus, they tell the audience exactly what *not* to say in a breakup text. Check out our latest promo codes here: https://betches.com/promos Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with the first episode of November. They start with a discussion about Jared and Jordana’s favorite holidays and break down what it means when people say they’re “so single.” The first emailer asks if a guy not asking any questions about her is a reason to end the relationship. J&J rephrase her email to help her see this situation clearly. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some improper condom disposal. Later, a listener asks why old situationships pop back up once you get into a relationship. What are they hoping to get out of this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about mice, cash gifts, and cheating friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are are joined by special guest Delaney Rowe for a spooky Halloween Special. They start with some horror stories about UTIs, DM slides, and the meanest comments they’ve gotten online. Then they dive into Delaney’s dating life and how her career has impacted it. In the spirit of spooky season, they answer an email asking whether or not it’s ghosting if both people stop texting. Is “ghosting” overused in general now? Plus, Delaney asks Jared why men make promises they don’t intend to keep. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start by launching Jared’s presidential campaign to fix Halloween scheduling and giving some Halloween dating tips. The first emailer asks if “He’s Just Not That Into You” holds up in 2022. If the guy she hung out with once wanted to see her again, wouldn’t he just make a plan? What do people actually mean when they say “if he wanted to he would”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a cautionary tale for sports bar hookups. Later, a listener asks how to recover from the first fight with her boyfriend. They made up, but she’s still feeling self-conscious in the relationship. Is this just the end of the honeymoon phase? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about “crepe-fishing,” flossing, and concert etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re joined by Ramit Sethi, author of “I Will Teach You To Be Rich.” They start with a conversation about Ramit’s work with couples to change their mindsets on money, and he gives an exercise for couples to open up the conversation about their finances. Later, they answer an email from a listener wrestling with an income difference in her relationship. She’s moving in with her boyfriend who makes $300k more than her, and she can already feel the resentment building. How should she handle his snarky comments? Plus, they talk about how important non-monetary contributions are to relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a recap of Jordana’s weekend with her entire family and Jared’s bloody mary tour of Milwaukee. The first emailer asks if she’s gotten too comfortable being single after a friend told her she feels like she’s giving up. Does she need to put herself out there more or should she continue focusing on herself? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a “king size” man and a CPAP machine. Later, J&J listen to a voicemail asking how to approach dating apps when you definitely don’t want kids. Should she avoid guys whose profiles say they do want kids? Is she too worried about wasting her time? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nosey friends, football obsessed boyfriends, and couples costumes.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they're talking about being friends with exes. Jared and Jordana share their own experiences trying to be friends with exes and how that idea changes as you get older. Then, they dive into the email detailing a listener’s relationship with her ex from college. They broke up but stayed in touch through their friend group, and they eventually ended up in the same city again. When she told him she was thinking about getting back together, he said he wanted to stay friends, but now that she’s dating someone else, he tried to make a move. Why is she so committed to being friends with this guy anyway? Plus, J&J discuss the hard truth behind every breakup and the problem with romanticizing your exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Hawaii and a look into her family dynamic with 9 siblings. Jared updates Jordana on his dating goals from his latest U Up? With Benefits episode. The first emailer asks if guys care less once the relationship becomes official after noticing her new boyfriend has been putting in a lot less effort. Should she “match his energy” or speak up about her annoyance? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a Lizzie McGuire style escapade. Later, J&J read an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over exes who seemed to disappear after the breakup. She’s in a happy relationship, so why can’t she stop trying to keep tabs on them? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about missing teeth, bluelight glasses, and dating app openers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re tackling the age-old “right person, wrong time” question. The emailer sends in screenshots of the very nice breakup text she received after two great dates. He didn’t want to keep dating because he was moving but told her to let him know if she was ever in his new city. Fast forward a year, and she’s moving there for work, so should she ask him to grab a beer? J&J break down all the possibilities she should think about before she reaches out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s episode starts with a big shame on Jordana for straying from Delta Airlines for her trip to Hawaii and the Bach By NoonTM plan for Park City. Then they dive right into the second half of your Lightning Round questions about everything from moving in with your long distance S.O. to making a coffee date actually feel like a date. Plus, Jared gives the world’s saddest pep talk. Detours include planning where Jared would move for a date and Jewish mom erotica. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with our first Sunday Special of October, and they start with a chat about Jared’s trick or treating observations from last year and Jordana’s days as a babysitter in the city. Then, they dive into the email from a listener whose husband wants her to lose weight. They’ve both been on their own health journeys, but she’s healed her relationship with her body and he’s still struggling. After he revealed he prefers a thinner body type than hers, she asks if she should try to lose the weight for him. Would that solve any of their issues in the long run? Plus, they talk about the best way to address it without putting him on the defense. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are answering your lightning round questions submitted via Instagram, but first they’re breaking down Jared’s adventures in Buffalo and the recent cheating accusations against Adam Levine. Then, they get into your questions ranging from how to stand out on dating apps to how to meet people IRL as an introvert. Plus, they discuss the old line that “the best relationships are when the man loves the woman more than she loves him” and give advice for disgustings cohabitating with non-disgustings. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are getting right into it on the Sunday Special, and this week’s email is about a “somewhat-unsuccessful” trip to visit a long-distance situationship. They go into what you should expect when you’re taking a chance and getting on a plane to meet up with someone. The first night of her visit went great, but the next night felt off and he made excuses to not see her again before she left. She says she got the ick after he needed too much reassurance that she liked him, but J&J aren’t sure that’s the full story. They break down the games he’s playing and why this trip was a little weird from the start. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about interpreting comments from strangers on the internet and getting set up by Jared’s mom. The first emailer writes in to ask if she’s jumping into a commitment too quickly after a long term relationship ended. Should she stick with her goal of staying single for at least a year even if she really likes the guy she’s seeing? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves way too much tongue. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s smoking habit. She wasn’t bothered by him smoking weed before they lived together, but now she’s majorly turned off. How much can she expect him to change his lifestyle? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about backhanded compliments, early “I love you”s, and plumbing problems. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and they start with a chat about how to enjoy dating on football Sundays. This week’s email comes from a male listener who keeps finding himself in the same dating situation. After about two months of dating someone, he gets a text saying he’s a really nice guy, but they don’t see it going anywhere romantically. Jordana gives the honest version of these texts that he’s not getting. Is there anything he should do differently or is this just a normal part of dating? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss the ways men and women break up differently. Subscribe to our channel on YouTube! www.betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back in the studio on Jordana’s birthday to record the first episode for our new YouTube channel. They start with a discussion about happy birthday etiquette and. Then, J&J discuss a New York Times article all about dating app burnout and how to avoid it. Have dating apps done more damage than good over the last ten years? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very large man in a very small bed. Next, they answer an email from a listener asking if how her boyfriend talks about his exes is a red flag. Is it possible that all of them really are “crazy” or does he just not want to talk about it? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about checking yourself out in the mirror, liking friends on dating apps, and keeping the Christmas tree up year round. Link to the article: https://www.nytimes.com/2022/08/31/well/mind/burnout-online-dating-apps.html?smid=url-share Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a refresher on the “reveal” and what being “exclusive but not in a relationship'' actually means. The emailer writes in about how she regrets responding poorly to a reveal from a guy she was dating. She tried to make up for it, but he ended the relationship a few weeks later. Did she ruin it with her original response to his reveal? Or is she just more attracted to him now that he’s pulled away? Plus, they talk about how people with secure attachment styles respond to rejection. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start with a chat about the start of fall (aka hookup season), Jordana’s birthday plans, and her gift to all of you. The first emailer asks if she should go out with a guy who previously canceled their first date because he decided to be exclusive with someone else. Should she still go out with him if she feels like his second choice? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a one night stand gone wrong. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks how to handle birthday gifts in a new relationship. Does she have to buy him the gift he’s been dropping hints about? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about nicknames, sleep routines, and poop stories. Check out the brand new U Up? YouTube channel by visiting: betches.co/youtube Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks why she keeps falling for her long distance coworkers. She explains that she quickly hit it off with a coworker she only knew via Zoom, but he ended things after she visited him in his city to meet IRL. Now, she feels herself falling into the same pattern with a different coworker. Should she go for it? Is there a deeper reason she’s in this situation all over again? Jared and Jordana break down where she’s being too hard on herself and what she should do differently this time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Charleston and Jared’s side hustle as a bachelorette party planner. Then, they talk about an article that exactly 3 people sent to Jordana called “The Rise of Lonely, Single Men.” The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a barnyard bang. Later, a listener asks if her f*ck buddy of 5 years could possibly turn into a real relationship. Why does she suddenly want something more with this person? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about screenshotting selfies, holding hands with your mom, and surprise condoms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out by planning Jordana’s trip to Charleston. The emailer asks Jared and Jordana how much she should believe drunk texts from a guy saying how much he likes her. Are drunk texts sober thoughts? Does it matter that he’s followed new girls on Instagram since they met? They finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle to the tune of the Full House theme song. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about a recent date Jared went on where he might be the red flag. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on “Are We Dating The Same Guy?” Facebook pages popping up in many cities. Are these groups empowering for women or a slippery slope? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is less than eye-deal. Later, a listener writes in about her fiancé’s underwhelming proposal. How can she ask him to make up for it without seeming like she’s not excited to marry him? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cockroaches, bad manners, and going barefoot. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jordana’s dorm mistakes and the vulnerability of being a little clueless. The emailer sends in screenshots of a text exchange where a guy vetted her by asking about deal breakers before the first date. If someone gives an extensive list of deal breakers before a first date, is it even worth it to go? J&J discuss what you actually need to know about someone and how much texting is too much before a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared is back from his French adventure and ready to give Jordana the full recap of the trip and responses to his social media coverage. The first emailer asks J&J’s opinions on a “Singles List” she encountered at a recent wedding. Is it a fun way to meet people or is it a little presumptuous of the bride and groom? The listener forgets her underwear in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. The next email asks how to deal with snoring in a relationship. Are the listener and her boyfriend doomed to sleep in separate bedrooms? Would that even be so bad? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about scary movies, duvet covers, and handshakes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they’ve got the screenshots from a listener who’s confused by the lack of communication from a guy she’s dating. He told their mutual friends that he’s into it, so why won’t he initiate any texts even after she brought it up? Is she confused about whether or not he likes her or does she just not like him? J&J translate the texts to what the emailer and this guy would say if they were both being completely honest. Plus, they talk about how there’s two sides to every date and why “I don’t know why” is the most annoying excuse. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about how every family has a “lazy one” and why they need a travel agent. The first emailer asks how to trust your gut on whether or not you like someone. She lists several reasons she doesn’t think they’re a match, but is she being too judgmental? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual accessory. Later, a listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend never had a “hoe phase.” Do men even think about dating phases like that or is he trying to warm her up for a breakup? J&J advise her on how to address it with him which leads to a conversation about “relationship talk” and emotional maturity. Finally, Jordana is joined by Zoey Deutch to chat about her new movie “Not Okay” and play around of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying on your profile, seeing ghosts, and ordering off the kids’ menu. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are fresh off the flight from the U Up? Live show in Chicago and ready to solve dating with another Sunday Special. The listener writes in about a situationship with (debatably) 22 years of history. She explains that they didn’t want to date long distance, but now that they’re finally going to be living in the same city, she’s not sure what to expect. Should she be worried that things will move too quickly since they’ve known each other for so long? Plus, J&J talk about how they might not know each other as well as they think. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” The first emailer asks how often she should be initiating text conversations with guys she’s dating. Is 60% of the time too much or is she just overthinking all of this? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost sacrilegious. Later, a hotline caller asks how to non-awkwardly break out the lube during sex with a new partner. Do guys care about this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about condom disposal, posing nude, and profile photo faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation about what has changed about dating over the course of Patti’s career and being “dickmatized.” Later, they answer an email from a listener who’s having a hard time being attracted to her boyfriend because of his height. Should she try to overcome her own insecurity of feeling “huge” next to him? Or is feeling this way a deal breaker? Jared, Jordana, and Patti all share wisdom from their mothers and reveal their own superficial deal breakers. Plus, Patti takes a turn solving dating for Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vacation can turn you into a monster. The first emailer writes in to ask how to deal with her fiancé continuing to follow women from before their relationship. She says she trusts him, so is her “ick” valid? How much can she negotiate his following count? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate bathroom break. Later, a listener emails in about her pattern of getting cold feet in long term relationships. Is she wasting their time or is this a normal part of dating? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about white lies, well done steak, and gifts from exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for 5 years. Now they’re finally living in the same place, but they’ve only managed to get together twice, both with no kiss. Did they miss their dating window? Or is he just more interested in making friends in his new city? Plus, they discuss the person you go on one date a year with because you don’t trust your former self. J&J finish the episode with a new rap jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ring when she knows she won’t be getting engaged for at least a year. J&J explain how social media plays a role here. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about promotional pens, sleeping habits, and dating app photos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the third date. Was the kiss more meaningful than either of them are letting on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an accidental AirPlay. Later, a listener asks if it’s possible to be too in control in her dating life. Looking back on her last relationship, she realized that she was the one initiating all of their next steps. Did she miss a red flag that he wasn’t bringing up these conversations? What do men actually mean when they say they’re not ready for a relationship? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about close friends lists, group chats, and lookalikes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turned off by guys who go to therapy. Does being in therapy mean they’re not ready to date? Are they bringing it up to be vulnerable or because they saw a TikTok saying that women want to date guys who go to therapy? Later, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about messy cars, dating profile updates, and gift shopping. Link to the How I Met Your Mother video from today's email: HIMYM Crazy/Hot Scale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some tough love and translate exactly what he means by “I like you as a friend.” Plus, they talk about how to approach dating when you’re feeling extra lonely and listen to a listener’s jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties. Later, an emailer asks how to get over the ick in a relationship. How can she kindly get her girlfriend to stop using baby talk? Is baby talk actually the problem here? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about manipulative behavior, video texting, and post-sex peanuts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she wants to hear? Plus, they talk about how to spot guys who give convenient answers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Below Deck. Later, a hotline caller asks what guys think when you block them. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about holding hands, post-sex hygiene, backpacks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-opener. Later, an emailer asks if her idea to hand out flirty business cards is dumb or genius. Will she come off as confident or desperate? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about elevators, name mix ups, and restaurant tips. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or is he jealous of her success? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Faux Pas canned cocktails, all about disappearing dates, unsolicited advice, and going barefoot in the airport. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook up regrets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not having more sexual experiences before they settle down? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about ball scratching, happy hour, and elaborate jokes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jared’s upcoming Ted Talk and our new segment for the live tour called “Set U Up?”. The first emailer asks how she’s supposed to respond when dates ask “how are you still single?” Jared explains why guys ask this question, and Jordana shares her past anxiety about it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very confused sister. Later, a listener writes in about how her TikTok following is ruining her dating life. Is there a way to explain this part of her life to guys without turning them off? Or are male TikTokers her only options? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about crying, comfort water bottles, and ice cream eating methods. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener whose boyfriend drunkenly told his friends he was relieved that she wasn’t as hot as his ex. After looking up his ex on Instagram, she started feeling insecure, and her boyfriend didn’t help by overcompensating. Can their relationship move past this? Is he ready to be in a new relationship in the first place? Plus, Jared gives a definitive ranking of the Kardashian family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of the best day of the year for a birthday and how the internet can be a fickle friend. They read a follow up from the listener who wrote in on May 8th, 2022 about Tony the contractor which leads to a discussion about women making the first move. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a wet pair of trousers. Later, an emailer asks if she did herself a disservice by throwing out her old pros and cons lists about her current relationship. Is needing to make a pros and cons list in the first place a bad sign? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about peeing after sex, customer service voices, and sharing medical records. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with a Sunday Special, and they start out with a chat about the summer dating season. Next they listen to two new listener jingles which leads to a conversation on how “Les Miserables” is a f*ckboy story. Later they introduce a new segment called The People’s Courtship where Judge J&J will decide who is wrong in a dating situation. This week a listener called the hotline to ask if it was weird for a guy to bring her “grocery store flowers” on a first date. Plus, they talk about how judgmental is too judgmental when it comes to dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about how to keep dating momentum going while you're traveling for work. The first emailer asks about the difference between taking things slow and getting strung along. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a condom balloon. Another emailer asks how much white lies matter after her boyfriend lied to her about going to a strip club. Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by U Up? With Benefits subscriber Rebel Wilson to talk about her dating life and her new movie “Senior Year.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding etiquette and recycled playlists. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and her almost contractor to decide whether or not he’s interested in her. Should she shoot her shot one more time or is a "k" text the kiss of death? Later, J&J introduce a new segment called Rate My Date where they review creative date ideas submitted by listeners. This week’s submission is a triple date straight out of a fever dream. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with a very special episode recorded from the Pizza Hut struggle bus in Athens, GA. The first emailer asks how to deal with her boyfriend’s controlling mother. Should she take out her nose ring to please her? Is the nose ring really the issue here to begin with? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a pet octopus. In the next segment presented by Pizza Hut, J&J answer a listener voicemail from the Hut-Line to solve some college dating struggles. The caller asks how she should address moving from college to the real world in her relationship. Is it better to leave the college bubble single? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cult leaders, ear wax, and pet tarantulas. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor! Whenever you’re riding the Struggle Bus, order Pizza Hut for carryout or delivery at pizzahut.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reviewing Netflix’s newest dating show “The Ultimatum.” They break down why they think each person is actually on the show and how fear of commitment and fear of loneliness come into play. Later, Jared and Jordana explore why marriage isn’t as enticing for men as it is for women and whether or not any of these people are old enough to get married anyway. Plus, they play two new U Up? Jingles submitted by listeners. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Dallas and a discussion about how Jared’s feeling now that he’s a year out from his breakup. The first emailer writes in about how she always has a good time on first dates, and it leaves her (and her dates) feeling confused about whether or not they have a connection. Can you be too good at first dates? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a steamy bar bathroom encounter. Later, a listener asks if she should finally meet up with a guy she’s been texting since November 2020. Is it possible for the connection to live up to her expectations? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Ohio, dating app openers, and homemade bidets. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! (Use presale code BETCHES when checking out to get them before everyone else) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they answer an email from a guy who has been disappointed by his recent dating experiences. He says he’s looking for a relationship, so where are all the women supposedly looking for commitment? Is he just coming in too hot with what he’s looking for? J&J show him how he’s going about this the wrong way. Plus, they explain how to show you’re looking for a relationship instead of telling. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

IRL Spring is officially here, and Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s move and a very exciting U Up? Live announcement. Jordana does a dramatic reading of a text a listener sent to our hotline instead of sending to their ex, and Jared helps to analyze it. The first emailer asks how to not get too excited about every dating prospect when she feels like she doesn’t have many options. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a “wrong hole” situation. Later, a listener asks what she should do about her boyfriend not being supportive of her desire to drink less. Is this a sign that they’re just not the match? Finally they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about sales calls, honeymoon crashers, and Chipotle orders. U Up? Live Tickets: Head to https://uuplive.betches.com/ to get your tickets before they sell out! (Use presale code BETCHES when checking out to get them before everyone else) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special, but first they listen to a couple jingles created by listeners. Then, the emailer writes in about a “bizzaro” story of being stood up for a first date, and J&J break down the texts in completely accurate accents. Should she believe his unlikely story? And how can she avoid situations like this in the future? Plus they discuss why you have to embrace being a pain in the ass. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a very exciting Betches announcement plus discussions about Jordana’s love of moving and Jared’s Deux Moi fame. Then, they break down some of Jared’s recent dating app dilemmas and talk about how dating apps are like being at a party where half the guests are on shrooms. A massage goes terribly wrong in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, an emailer asks J&J what they think of marathon first dates. If her date had a good enough time to stay for 6 hours, why wouldn’t he want to go on a second date? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthday dinners, being “gross,” and holding on to old clothes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week the emailer asks if she’s too independent to be in a relationship. She explains that things often fizzle after guys see her house and make comments about how much money she makes. Are men really intimidated by women’s success? Plus, they discuss how to convey that you’re willing to change your priorities for a relationship without sounding despy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are reunited in the studio for this week’s episode, and they start out with a recap of Jordana’s honeymoon and a few luxury lounge complaints. Then, Jared fills Jordana in on everything that’s been happening in his dating life, including redownloading the apps and getting tired of them again all in a 3 week span. Later, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about grocery shopping, self-help books, and unconventional pajamas. Plus, they listen to some of the jingles submitted by audience members. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, the emailer asks Jared and Jordana to help her understand what’s happening with her “best guy friend” who said he wanted to try dating her but kept canceling their dates. Is there any truth to their romance or is she just prematurely writing the “Our Story” page? J&J give her a reality check and discuss whether or not men and women can actually be friends if they’re attracted to each other. They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about headphone etiquette and dating app pictures. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with an email from a listener who doesn’t know how to tell her boyfriend that she used to hook up with her coworker. Does he really need to know or is ignorance bliss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves canine voyeurism. Later, a U Up? Hotline caller asks why she can’t seem to get past the 3-monther. Finally, J&J wrap up the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Plan B, abs, and potentially armed robbery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special episode, and this week they answer an email from a listener who wants to know if we’ve created a whole other monster by shaming f*ckboys. She tells a story about how a guy she’d only been going out with for a few weeks asked her on a date to break it off. Did he really think this was better than just sending a text? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about mediocre dating app prompts and dating outside your city. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s honeymoon plans and their favorite jingles. The first emailer wants to know what the “bare minimum” actually is, and J&J craft an elaborate metaphor comparing dating to apartment hunting. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a stinker. Later, an emailer asks how she should handle her boyfriend delaying the engagement ring shopping appointment. Is it still romantic if she has to bug him about it? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about hairstyles, Apple Watch interfaces, and packing for vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to date seriously when you travel for work. The emailer submitted screenshots with a guy she was seeing while living in his city for 13 weeks, and it’s pretty clear he’s not interested in extending her stay. How should she bring up her work situation to avoid guys who only see her as a short term hook up? Plus, Jared shares his experiences dating when traveling all the time. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about name mix ups and the future of dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a story about how Jared accidentally ended up on a 2-on-1 date. The first emailer asks if she should break up with her boyfriend or Instagram after a fight over him not posting her to his account. Would his response have been better if she expressed her concerns differently? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a goose-fueled romcom. Later, a hotline caller asks why women always want to change men. Is he going to have to give up his video games no matter what? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about couples trips, Hinge locations, and credit card roulette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by comedian Taylor Tomlinson to solve dating and chat about her new Netflix special. They start out with a discussion about Taylor’s dating life, mental health journeys, and hate mail. Later, they answer a listener's email about men’s lack of planning skills. Can he really not make a plan or does he just not want to? Plus they discuss whether or not “if he wanted to, he would” is an empowering point of view. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jordana’s friend’s wedding and a discussion about how men and women look at life stages differently. The first emailer asks if she’s wrong to be turned off by her matches asking for a FaceTime or phone call before the first date. Is this the new normal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves some unwanted help from the caller’s mom. Later, a listener asks how to go from first dates to dating. Can you really progress a relationship when you’re only seeing each other once a week? Sebastian Stan and Daisy Edgar-Jones join J&J to chat about their new movie “Fresh” and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about burner phones and food sharing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she went on a date with while visiting a friend in the city where she plans to move. After a couple weeks of non-stop texting, he sent a text saying he didn’t want to keep talking until she moved. Is it really about timing or was he just not feeling it? They finish the episode with a round of J&J’s Final Say about serial killer jokes and texting chemistry. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and this week they start out with a discussion about Jared’s birthday reflections and why he doesn’t want to “do drinks” anymore. The first emailer asks how she should tell her boyfriend about her nose job. Will it impact how he sees her? Next, J&J are closing the sexting gap with some help from the sext-y nurse from our February 16th episode. Later, a guy writes in asking how to stop feeling threatened by his girlfriend’s exes. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cold sores, the “talking” stage, and going to hell. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she almost overlooked on the apps because of his “weird” profile, but she was pleasantly surprised by how much she liked him. After their 5th date she suggested he follow her on Instagram since she would be leaving town, but he declined. Is this a red flag? Is he self-conscious about his own profile? Plus, they discuss how she should address it. They finish the episode with a Breakup Breakdown featuring the voicemail story of a listener who was dumped via the Golf Channel. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by discussing Jared’s plan for the worst day of the year (AKA his birthday) and his recent foray into van life. Then they discuss the Netflix documentary “The Tinder Swindler” about a man who fooled his Tinder dates into giving him thousands of dollars and what these extreme circumstances can teach the average dater. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nosey little brother. Later, a listener asks how to stop being a “cool girl.” They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker (including our very first voicemail submission!) about guys trips, sports superstitions, and living without wifi. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Fuckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. The emailer writes in about a guy she met before the holidays. He acted very “coupley,” but a few weeks later, he bailed on their plans and her friend saw him on a date with another woman. Jared and Jordana weigh in on which of his actions actually mean something and give her advice on how to deal with the “we should” kind of guy. Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about how much you owe someone after a first date and sweaty sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are talking all about how to keep dating fun in the winter. The first emailer asks if it’s worth it to date now or if she should just wait until spring, and J&J give her some tips to spice up her swiping routine. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very sexy nurse. Later, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she’s not comfortable with him using her phone all the time. Is she right about it being an invasion of privacy? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birthdays and cat dads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start with Jared’s love letter to Tom Brady. Then, they break down the texts between a listener and her guy friend. They went on a date, but both agreed they were better off as friends. So why is he now calling her a GILF (grandma I’d like to f*ck)? J&J discuss his motivations and how she should move forward. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round episode, and this time it’s all about Valentine’s Day. They answer 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers and break down exactly what you should do for Valentine’s Day whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between. They walk us through whether or not you should try to “Define the Valentine” around February 14th, and how to go about it if you do. Plus, they discuss why you should lean into the clichés of the holiday and the gift that every guy wants. Send your questions and messages to the podcast by calling: (212) 589-8903 Thanks to our presenting sponsor, Harmless Harvest! Grab your big spoon and try Harmless Harvest today. Check out SpooningSeason.com to improve your spooning skills and learn more. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are talking all about the first season of And Just Like That. They start out by discussing the glossy legacy of the original Sex and the City and how the creators betrayed its true fans. Where were all the brunch table dating breakdowns? Then, they talk about Carrie and Big’s relationship and how the message was bad for its young, single viewers. Plus, they give their opinions on each and every character. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s entry to TikTok and how it differs from Instagram. Then they chat about a long-awaited first date that Jordana set Jared up on. The first emailer asks if the classic Sex And The City quote comparing men to cabs is accurate. Do men actually end up with the first woman that comes along when they decide they’re ready? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a game of musical bunkbeds. The next emailer writes in about how her relationship with her “work husband” is impacting her dating life. How can she back away from this relationship without affecting her work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about cheapskates and open relationships. Thanks to our presenting sponsor Impossible Foods! Visit ImpossibleFoods.com to get with Impossible today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about Jared’s favorite sandwich in LA and how to date someone with a heavy personal life. The emailer writes in about a guy she really likes except that he routinely takes over a week to respond to her texts. When she called him out on it, he revealed that his mom is dying and that’s why his communication has been slow. Can she pursue this relationship without compromising on what she wants? Later, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about whether or not you should tell on a cheater and unfortunate dating app prompts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of how Jordana’s husband feels about her most recent U Up? With Benefits episode. Then, they talk about a full-blown presentation someone DM’d Jared to try to set him up with her friend. Should PowerPoints be a requirement for a fix up? J&J go over each slide to tell you exactly how to make a presentation for your own friends. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a visit from a raccoon. Later, a listener asks how she should deal with her boyfriend not wanting to sext while they’re doing long distance. Is it a deal breaker if she won’t talk about it? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Impossible Foods, about fantasizing to Instagram pics and COVID comfort. Thanks to our presenting sponsor Impossible Foods! Visit ImpossibleFoods.com to get with Impossible today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with an emergency Sunday Special all about West Elm Caleb, a New York guy who’s blowing up on TikTok for ghosting, love bombing, and sending unsolicited dick pics. Maddy gives the timeline of how this all started, and Jared and Jordana discuss the extent of his offenses. Does he really deserve all of this public shaming? Plus, they talk about how the power dynamics on dating apps play into these issues. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the most annoying person on vacation and Jared’s conflicted feelings about dating apps. The first emailer asks how to navigate the early stages of dating a sober person. Should she address it before planning the first date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter was thwarted by a full moon. Later, a listener asks how to deal with their partner being a workaholic. Is there room for compromise or are they just not the match? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about leftovers, white lies, and Jared’s alleged doppelganger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana answer an email from a listener asking if her situationship fizzled because of an awkward sexual encounter. They went on four good dates, but when they finally had sex, it was a letdown. He started being distant afterwards, so she texted him to ask what was up. J&J break down the texts to try to figure out what happened here. Was it really about the sex? And does it really matter either way? Finally, they play a round of J&J’s Final Say about dating rules and dog pics on dating apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about how we’re all living in an episode of Curb Your Enthusiasm and what it takes to really be excited for a first date. The first emailer asks if she’s crazy for wanting to marry her first serious boyfriend. Is FOMO from her single friends a sign that she needs to date around more? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very needy puppy. Later, an emailer asks how to make it clear to her guy friends that she’s not romantically interested in them. Are they even her friends in the first place? Finally, J&J give justice to The Original Cottage Inn and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about birth control and dating app ghost writers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she’s seeing casually. They talked about making plans for the weekend, but he wasn’t sure of his schedule and said he would let her know. When she didn’t hear from him she assumed he just wasn’t interested, but when he reached out later, she gave him a piece of her mind. Is she wrong for expecting him to follow up on plans even though they were keeping it casual? Plus, they discuss why pretending you don’t care doesn’t work. They finish the episode with a game of J&J’s Final Say to settle the debate on parental approval for moving in together and bad dating app profiles. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about their New Year’s resolutions. Then, they answer an email regarding a TikTok that lists questions you should ask on a first date to avoid wasting time. Do those questions actually help you get to know someone? Is anything really a waste of time in dating? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a chicken suit. Later, an emailer writes in about setting boundaries with her boyfriend’s ex. Is an ex ever calling just to “catch up”? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about never-nudes, first date hygiene, and chain restaurants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about money and dating. First, they answer an email from a listener who makes ten times more than her boyfriend. Should she decline his offers to pay for dates? Then, Jared and Jordana are joined by Kurt and Steven, the stars of Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer, to discuss the new show and how much money matters when it comes to love. Finally, they debate some unpopular opinions about jobs, money, and dating multiple people at once. Joe Millionaire: For Richer or Poorer premieres with a two-hour event on Thursday, January 6 at 8/7 Central on FOX Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by reflecting on this year of the pod. The first emailer asks if she’s being too picky or not picky enough when it comes to dating. Should she swipe right on fewer people or give those matches more time to develop a connection? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing condom. Later, a listener asks if guys like her less because she offers to pay for dates. Is it a turn off to men? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about masturbation, shirtless selfies, and New Year’s Eve. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a discussion about being single around the holidays. Then, they dissect the breakup texts between a listener and a woman he went on two dates with. Why would she keep flirting with him after saying she doesn’t want to go out again? Plus, they discuss why she says he’s too sweet for her. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As a special holiday gift, we present to you an excerpt from Jordana’s wedding, as read by J&J on the latest U Up? With Benefits. To hear more, subscribe now on Apple Podcasts or Spotify and check out the episode entitled “Jordana’s U Up? Themed Wedding”. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion of Jared’s first appearance on @deuxmoi and how men approach commitment differently than women. Then, an emailer asks how to break up with someone she’s never even met. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a fast and furious adventure. Later, a listener writes in about a situation with her long distance boyfriend who doesn’t want to move to be near her. What does his resistance mean for their relationship? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about SAT scores and love languages. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener submitted screenshots from a guy who rescheduled a date because he was sick. He kept the conversation going for a while but eventually left her on read. Why would he put in the effort to keep texting her to ghost later? Should she ask him what went wrong? Finally, they play a new game called J&J’s Final Say where Jared and Jordana weigh in on Instagram polls about bringing your S.O. home for the holidays and using dates to move on from a break up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On today’s episode Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s new favorite first date spot and Jordana’s first date shirt. The first emailer asks if the number of people you’ve slept with matters in a relationship. Should she be concerned if her boyfriend initially lied about his “body count”? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unexpected guest. Later, an emailer asks how she should approach dating while freezing her eggs. When should she bring this up to guys she’s dating? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about French kissing and car decorations. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about Taylor Swift and the ten minute version of All Too Well. Jordana shares how her own dating experiences have informed her perspective on the song, and they discuss the nuance that is missing from the Jake Gyllenhaal conversation. Plus, they talk about how failed 3-monthers can actually make you a better dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s wedding and her feelings about being married. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a trip to the emergency room. Later, a listener writes in asking if guys are no longer approaching women in bars post-lockdown. Is this a new trend in the dating world or are these guys just not into her? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Photoshop and charcuterie boards. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s trying to get her stuff back from her ex. What is his motivation to hang on to these things? And what items should you just let go of in a breakup? Plus, they discuss how the reasons for a breakup get spun by each side of the relationship. Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries about fish pictures and goat DNA. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode by planning a full night out for the U Up? Live show. The first emailer asks if she’s the asshole for swiping left based on height. Should she stick with her preference or try to be open in case she misses out on a great match? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roommate that didn’t realize what she was walking in on. The next emailer asks how she can make it clear that she’s networking and not flirting with men she meets at events. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about wedding dates and meeting the parents. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start out this week’s Sunday Special with a discussion about Thanksgiving plans and traditions. Then, a listener asks if she was the f*ckboy in the situation and whether or not the guy’s response was justified. Is it ever okay to send a Venmo request for a meal you originally agreed to pay for? Finally, they play a round of Sunday Swiping Scaries featuring overly sexual and overly earnest prompt responses. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the brand new Betches office recording IRL. They start out with a discussion about two NY Post articles about “golden penis syndrome” and divorce rates among couples who met on dating apps. Then they discuss the new Hinge voice recording feature and whether or not they would use it on their own profiles. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves shower sex and a flooded pool table. Then they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about lying about your location, dog Instagram accounts, and bedtime routines. Be sure to visit highnoonspirits.com to find out more about their delicious hard seltzer! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are helping a listener who’s going through a break up with a coworker. After a pretty rough break up on her birthday, he’s been completely avoiding her at work and making things uncomfortable. How should she reach out to him to end the awkwardness? Plus, they discuss his motives for ignoring her. Finally, they play Sunday Swiping Scaries with dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about dating during the holiday season with topics ranging from buying gifts to dealing with nosey family members. Plus, they discuss deciding where to spend the holidays when you’re in a relationship, keeping dating momentum going during the holiday season, and tips for bringing someone home for the first time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re analyzing the texts between a listener and a guy who keeps canceling because he’s busy and exhausted. Will he want to date when the time is right or is he just looking for a hookup? Later, J&J play a new game called Sunday Swiping Scaries where they discuss dating app prompts submitted by our Instagram followers and decide whether to swipe right or left. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a discussion about the differences between Jordana’s eating habits and her fiancé’s. The first emailer asks if walking away to get a guy to commit ever works. Does it actually mean anything when guys come back? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a misplaced piece of gum. Another emailer asks if being disinterested in sex is a sign she should end her long term relationship. Finally, J&J are joined by comedian Ricky Velez to discuss his new HBO special and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about concerts, creepy exes, and TSA pre-check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Berna Anat, the host of Betches’ new financial podcast Money Please. They start with a discussion about how Berna ended her long-term relationship and how they mixed and unmixed their finances. Then they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend is resisting starting a savings account with her. Is his hesitation about his relationship with money or his relationship with her? Plus, they discuss how money is tied to our emotions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s final weeks of wedding planning and whether or not dating is easier for guys. The first emailer asks if her boyfriend is too close to his mom. Will she ever be his go-to for advice and support? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a hat-fish situation. Later, a listener asks how seriously she should take other women’s warnings about a guy she went on three great dates with. Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about seat belts and Androids. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, they start out with a discussion about why they love Halloween and their costume plans. This week’s emailer asks if you can set your standards too soon. In her relationship with a self-proclaimed avoidant dater, she tried to call him out for keeping her at a distance and asked if he saw their relationship getting more serious. It didn’t go as she hoped, and now she’s wondering how things would’ve gone if she had waited to set her standard. Plus, they discuss why people date with no purpose in mind. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about the updated Betches office and a recent dating app interaction Jared had. The first emailer asks if “we weren’t exclusive” is the new “we were on a break.” Is exclusivity a technicality? And are there different expectations for people you meet IRL versus on the apps? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a drunken disaster. Later, a listener asks why she feels the need to “win” the break up with her ex. Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about dog dads, mama’s boys, and wine etiquette. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener is trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to is flirting or just being friendly. J&J dissect their texts and DMs to decide. Should she make a move? Plus they discuss why men love vague relationships and what they get out of them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s braces and a discussion about how dental customer service relates to dating. The first email is from a listener who wants to know how to get her boyfriend to put in more effort in bed. How should she bring this up to him in a constructive way? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nose bleed and an unfortunate roommate run in. Later, a listener asks if she should get back together with her ex. Is getting back together ever a good idea? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about cringe-worthy hobbies and third wheels on the first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s ever worth it to “chase” someone. After three dates, she felt like his communication became inconsistent and he always had excuses to not meet up, so she sent a text to set her standard. Jared and Jordana debate the effectiveness of her text and analyze his response. Should she keep pursuing this guy? Plus, they discuss why guys don’t take the out when you give it to them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about generational differences in wedding customs and why everyone loved The White Lotus. The first email is from an admittedly analytical listener asking how you actually know when you’re in love. Could research ever find you an answer? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a close call with a friend’s parents. Later, a friend group asks how to deal with making more money than most of the guys she ends up dating in their small hometown. How should they talk about money with their dates? And how should they handle men who are intimidated by this wage gap? Finally they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about siblings, private social clubs, and LinkedIn stalking. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week, a listener wants to know if he’s in the wrong for asking for less communication. After a girl he was newly seeing started texting him a lot, he asked to dial it back, but her reaction was not what he expected. How should he have handled this situation? Plus, they discuss when, if ever a text is better than a phone call for a serious conversation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jared’s decision to download Hinge and what makes someone good at using dating apps. The first emailer asks what the difference is between love bombing and the honeymoon phase. Does love bombing always have to be toxic? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an OB/GYN in training. Later, an emailer asks how to deal with going out with her friends and getting more attention from guys than they do. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about first date selfies, indigestion, and rule followers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week a listener wants to know if she’s the f*ckboy. After being ghosted by a f*ckboy, she doesn’t believe the romantic things he says when he comes back into her life, but she continues to hook up with him anyway. Is she leading him on now? Plus, J&J discuss relationships that drain your dating battery. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about Jordana’s wedding decision process and all the reasons you should come to the U Up? Live show on December 8th. The first emailer asks how much information is too much in a breakup. Is it helpful to give someone the specific reason you’re ending a relationship or is it just cruel? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blow job mishap. Later, a listener asks how she should balance wanting to date with loving her consistent routine. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about business dinners, Kim Kardashian, and shower schedules. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re helping a listener who saw something suspicious on her boyfriend’s phone. Should she be concerned by this message? How should she bring this up to him without breaking the trust in their relationship? Plus, they discuss how to deal with his potential reactions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with an update on Jordana’s orthodontic journey and an exciting announcement. The first email asks how to know if you’re someone’s rebound. If they constantly bring up their ex, does it mean they’re not over them? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unusual request. Later, a listener asks if a guy she’s seeing is doing too much too soon. Is he weird or is she just not into him? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaccination cards and Instagram pictures. U Up? Live is coming back this winter for a one-day show on December 8 in New York City! Tickets are available for pre-sale starting September 22nd. Visit betches.co/uuplive21 and use code BETCHES between now and Friday before tickets are made available to everyone! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week’s episode is all about navigating political and cultural differences in dating. They start out with a conversation about how heightened political differences have manifested on dating apps. Then they answer an email from a listener about a guy she’s been seeing who has different opinions on heavy topics like guns. Do their differences mean they’re doomed? Plus they discuss how you should broach conversations about these topics. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by recapping Jordana’s birthday celebration. An emailer writes in asking how to flirt IRL. How should she express interest outside of texting and social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a very hot car. Later, they answer an email from a listener asking how to be vulnerable with her partner about her insecurities. Finally, J&J are joined by Violet Benson, host of Too Tired To Be Crazy, to discuss her dating life and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about roommates and squatty potties. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another F*ckboy or Nah? on this week’s Sunday Special. An emailer describes her situationship with a guy she met last October. At first he says he didn’t want a relationship and she was fine with that, but they continued to hang out and hook up. Eventually they have a DTR talk and he says he can see them dating in the future, but he needs to figure his own life out. Is he a f*ckboy for giving her hope for the future? Or should she have taken him at his original word? Plus they discuss how to know what being in love feels like. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out by answering an email from a listener who’s perfectly happy with her boyfriend except that she’s not physically attracted to him. Can attraction grow over time? Is it a deal breaker if it doesn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a bloody nightmare. Later, an emailer asks if she can recover from letting her “crazy” show too soon. Should she address it or just move on? Finally, J&J are joined by Love Is Blind star Giannina Gibelli to chat about life after the show and play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about making plans, serial daters, and wedge salads. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special. This week, an emailer writes in asking if long response times over text are always a bad sign. Do long messages make up for taking 48 hours to respond? Are these long waiting periods okay at any point in a relationship? Plus, they discuss what enthusiasm actually looks like over text. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a recap of Jordana’s trip to Greece, an update on Jared’s week of shows in Chicago, and Jordana’s feelings on the first Betches baby. A listener emails in asking if you can be too busy to date. Is it even worth it to schedule a date two weeks away? Or does she need to reprioritize? The awkward sex story involves a misplaced naked man. Later, an emailer asks how to go back to “real” dates after you’ve done a “hangout” date. Is there a more serious version of the hangout date? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leaves them asking, “How many plants is too many plants?” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Logan Ury, author of How To Not Die Alone and Director of Relationship Science at Hinge, is back to share more wisdom with Jared and Jordana. They start out with a discussion about post-pandemic dating from Logan’s research at Hinge and how it might be different from what “shot girl summer” predicted. Then, they discuss why we often look over the consistent, “nice” person and tips for going on dates the right way. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who isn’t sure if she wants to stay with her boyfriend of 5 years, and Logan gives advice on how to know if you’re settling or not. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with your comprehensive guide to social media and dating. They answer 10 questions submitted by @uuppod Instagram followers and give real solutions to all of your social media issues, from how to craft the perfect DM to when to make your relationship Instagram official. Plus, they discuss which social media behavior should be a red flag. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special episode. A listener shares screenshots of texts between her and a guy she had been dating for about 3 months. They met through mutual friends, but he was sketchy about her meeting his other friends. After an awkward situation where neither of them made the move to say hello in public, she decided to call it off. Did she overreact? Or did the situation prove that they’re looking for different things? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a chat about Jordana’s upcoming trip to Greece. Then, J&J answer an email from a listener for our newest segment, F*ckboy or Nah? Does honesty make someone exempt from f*ckboyhood? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a mystery for Jared and Jordana to solve. Later, they answer an email about money etiquette when on vacation with your boyfriend’s family. Should you make an effort to pay for something or enjoy the hospitality? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about moms on Facebook and Close Friends on Instagram. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. The listener’s first date with a guy she met on a dating app went well, but the second date was rescheduled and the third was canceled. She sent a text setting her standard for following through on dates, and they ended up deciding to take things slow and keep it casual. Over a few weeks of being friends with benefits, his communication gets more and more inconsistent, and he ultimately tells her they can’t hook up anymore. Why would he want to end a casual but consistent hookup? Plus, J&J discuss the expectations in a casual relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about the wedding industry and the fear of being judged. The first email asks how to juggle dating multiple people at once. When does she have to choose one guy to focus on? Does she need to tell them she’s dating around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a dangerous food fetish. Later, J&J answer another email from a listener asking how she should bring up that she’s unsure about having kids. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about poetry, social media comments, and picky eaters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to end it with a friend with benefits. A listener shares screenshots from her FWB who won’t take a hint that she’s no longer interested. Did she lead him on? How can she cut ties without feeling guilty? Plus they discuss the female version of a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana discuss a DM Jared received asking whether or not a guy is a f*ckboy, which prompted the question: “What is a f*ckboy anyway?” J&J break down what actually makes someone a f*ckboy and where a lot of people get the definition wrong. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an infection in an unexpected area. Later, an emailer asks how to break off a relationship with her professor without getting anyone in trouble or impacting her grades. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about unconventional living situations and going viral. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special all about love languages. Jared starts by explaining why he doesn’t like them, and then they answer an email from a listener who asks how to get more words of affirmation from her husband. Is it annoying for her to keep asking? Plus, Jordana shares a similar issue she had with her fiancé and how she dealt with it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a discussion about what makes a good first date. The first emailer asks if she should change one of her Hinge prompts. Will some guys always try to make it sexual or is her prompt putting out that vibe? A listener’s romantic vacation goes to sh*t in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose boyfriend of 10 years cheated on her. Can they still make it work? Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that leads to a conversation about bedroom decor, weight loss, and outfit choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Dr. Meg Jay, author of The Defining Decade. They start out with a discussion about how the phrase “30 is the new 20” has affected twenty-somethings’ mindsets and how gender stereotypes play into dating problems. Later, Dr. Jay explains how the “strength of weak ties” can help you meet your match. Finally, they answer an email from a listener who asks if it’s even worth it to date in your early twenties when so much of your future is still up in the air. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about Jordana’s pre-wedding feelings and prep. The first email is from a listener whose ego is bruised after a guy she thought was really into her updated his dating app profile. They’re not exclusive, and she’s still using the apps, so why does it still feel personal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate butt dial. Later, an emailer asks how to set boundaries when her boyfriend lives with his parents. Should he be more independent from his family? And is it rude to ask to spend less time with his family? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Instagram hashtags, former friends with benefits, and unread text messages. Get the brand new "IRL Summer" hat by going to: shop.betches.com/collections/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana break down the text messages between a listener and a guy she met through mutual friends at a wedding. After 3 dates, he sends her a text saying he’s not ready for a new relationship after his last ended, but that he’ll let her know when he’s ready to “pursue.” Is there still hope for something in the future? Or is he just letting her down easy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round answering 10 questions submitted by our Instagram followers all about summer dating with topics ranging from group dates to vacation communication. Plus, they discuss how to meet people off the apps and whether or not serious relationships are possible during IRL Summer. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. A listener shared screenshots of her conversation with a guy she was seeing long-distance for about two months. It was supposed to be casual, but she caught feelings and his reaction was confusing. If he says he didn’t want to end things, why would he still be using Tinder? Can she still bring this up even if they haven’t put a label on it? Plus, they discuss what it actually means to use someone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start out with a recap of Jordana’s bachelorette party. The first emailer asks how she should respond to her friends’ concerns about a guy she’s seeing. Why won’t they elaborate on their warnings? And should she give him a chance to explain himself? A listener’s fiancé confesses a dirty little secret during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Then, a listener asks if you can get back together if the breakup was for mental health reasons. Should he reach out or let it go? Later, Jared and Jordana are joined by Iliza Shlesinger and Margaret Cho to chat about their new movie Good on Paper and the real-life story behind it. Finally, they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker inspired by the movie. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by psychotherapist and author Lori Gottlieb. They start out with a discussion of what type of relationship issues Lori sees in therapy and how COVID has impacted them. Then they get into Lori’s book Marry Him and what you should actually look for in a long-term partner. Later, they answer an email from a listener who is anxious about planning a future with her boyfriend. Is it normal for her to feel she should date around more? How can she stop feeling like the grass is greener on the other side? Plus, they discuss how our pasts play out in our dating choices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jordana and Jared start out with a tale about Jordana’s phone and her plans for her bachelorette party. Then they answer an email from a listener asking if a f*ckboy can change his ways. Does him not wanting to hook up mean he’s more into her or less? The Awkward Sexual Encounter almost ended with penis surgery. Then (content warning) at around the 49 minute mark, a listener shares a story about being harassed by a stranger and asks how to turn down men when they hit on you in public. What should you do to stay safe in this situation? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about pregnancy paranoia and unexpected erections. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are breaking down the texts between a listener and a guy she ended things with after six weeks because he never wanted to sleep over. Did she end it too soon? Or did she never really like him in the first place? Plus they discuss miscommunication when it comes to dating expectations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, J&J start with an email from a listener asking how to keep the dating momentum going while you’re traveling. Should she try to keep in contact while she’s out of town? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a dinner disaster. Later, a listener asks how to deal with being stereotyped by people she’s dating. Are stereotypes the real reason this guy doesn’t want to take her hiking? Finally, Jared and Jordana are joined by Jared’s college ex and author Ashley Bisman for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about multi-level marketing companies and Shrek. Check out Ashley's brand new book: Chasing Butterflies Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J answer an email from a listener about how to deal with breadcrumbing. Should you call the breadcrumber out? Are you also a breadcrumber for continuing the conversation? Plus they discuss how to take control of your dating life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about freezing your eggs and what it means for dating. Then they answer a listener's email about sliding into someone’s Twitter DMs. Can Twitter DMs be used for dating like Instagram? What should she say to make her move? An emailer finds a surprise in her sink during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, a listener asks how to compromise on decor when moving in with your significant other. What can differences in decor style tell you about a relationship? Finally, J&J end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a conversation about phone contact names for parents and bumping into dates while they’re on other dates. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by relationship and sex columnist Dan Savage. They start out with a discussion of how Dan’s advice has evolved over the past 30 years and his thoughts on monogamy. Later, they answer an email from a listener whose ex-boyfriend left her for the same woman they had a threesome with. How should she approach threesomes in her current relationship? Plus, they discuss how to develop trust and boundaries in an open relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a conversation about the world opening back up when you’re single versus when you’re in a relationship. Then they read a break up contract sent to a listener by her now ex-boyfriend. Can you take a long-term relationship back to a short-term relationship? How do finances play into a breakup? A listener learns about blue balls in the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, J&J answer an email asking exactly how to have a hot girl summer. Finally, Dylan Hafer, host of Betches’ new podcast Pop Alarm, joins J&J for a round of celeb-inspired Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Deal Reveal on this week’s Sunday Special. This week’s emailer wants to know if her ex actually wants to be friends or if there’s another reason for him staying in touch. Is it ever a good idea to stay friends with an ex? J&J break down why he’s holding onto the friendship and what she should do about it. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode Jared and Jordana are back with another Lightning Round, answering 20 questions submitted by our Instagram followers with topics ranging from first date conversations to spicing up long-distance relationships. Plus, they discuss the best pictures to use on dating apps and how to correct someone’s kissing style. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are back with another Sunday Special all about personality types and how they factor into dating. They answer an email from a Type A listener with a Type B boyfriend who doesn’t know how to deal with their differences. Do these personality types actually determine compatibility? Do opposites attract or are their differences in cleanliness and punctuality a deal breaker? Plus, they discuss how to assess which qualities are most important to you in a partner. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a pep talk for going back out into the world. Then they answer an email from a listener who doesn’t know if she should ask someone out at their workplace. Is there an appropriate way to show someone you’re interested without making them uncomfortable? A listener gets an unpleasant surprise during the Awkward Sexual Encounter. Later, they weigh in on an email from a listener wondering what it means for her relationship that she actually enjoys dating long distance. Finally, J&J are joined by Wipeout Host Camille Kostek for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about skincare, unconventional living situations, and Instagram captions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re reading texts from a listener who thinks she might have ruined her chances with a dating app match by drunk texting him. The emailer describes her previous pattern of drinking too much and scaring guys off with her drunk texts, but she got it together during quarantine and finally feels ready to get back out there. That is until a night out with her coworkers. How should she address the drunk texts? And should she tell him she’s working on her relationship with alcohol? Plus J&J discuss when it’s time to talk to a professional. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s relationship status. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a 69 gone wrong. Later, they answer a listener email about a guy who wants to be in a one-sided open relationship. Is it a red flag that he wants her to sleep with other people? Jared and Jordana finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about vaping, voice messages, and airport hygiene. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Tinx, and they start with a discussion about the differences between dating in NYC, LA, and San Francisco. Then they dive into Tinx’s dating life and her Box Theory about the right time to sleep with someone you’re dating. Later, they answer a listener’s email asking if she should tell her best friend she has feelings for him, and Tinx shares her personal experience of falling in love with her best guy friend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another episode, and they start out with a discussion of the viral video of Ben Affleck shooting his shot with a woman who unmatched him on Raya. The first email asks how to deal with going back to the office when her boyfriend wants to continue their nomadic pandemic lifestyle. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves three condoms and a dog. Later, J&J try to figure out why a guy bailed on a listener in the middle of their first date. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about Chick-Fil-A and a recycled pick-up video. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special episode, Jared and Jordana are joined by Matchmaker Maria. They start out with a discussion about how Maria got into matchmaking and how she applied her matchmaking strategies to meeting her own husband. Maria breaks down how the matchmaking process works, the types of guys who hire matchmakers, and how men and women differ when it comes to matchmaking. Later, Maria explains when to have sex with someone new using her 12 date rule, and they answer an email asking about how to set up your friends the right way. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about experimenting with your look. The first email asks about the etiquette of orgasms. Is it ever okay to fake it? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost too gross to believe. Later, an emailer asks J&J to sort out her boyfriend’s shady phone behavior. Is it always a bad sign if your S.O. doesn’t want to share their passcode? Finally, they finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about someone’s history of cheating and peeing in cups. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts from a “verbose fuckboy.” The listener received some very lengthy text messages from someone she was dating essentially saying, “it’s not you, it’s me.” Does his long explanation and apology mean he is being genuine? Or is he just like other guys who run at the first sign of a serious relationship? Plus, they discuss what actually makes someone a f*ckboy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the energy in NYC and the post-pandemic dating scene. The first email asks how to have casual relationships without feeling disrespected. Are they always just about 2AM booty calls? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bed wetter and an early morning streak across a college campus. Later, a listener writes in hypothesizing that you shouldn’t date someone who’s new to your city if you’re looking for a serious relationship. How should someone who just moved to town position themselves if they are looking for something serious? Finally, they finish the episode with a new segment called What Would J&J Say? to ghostwrite a listener's text to her ex-boyfriend. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking all about relationships with coworkers. An emailer writes in wanting to know if her work crush is flirting with her or just being friendly after their first Zoom meeting felt more like a first date and he offered to help her move. Should she make another move after her initial ask for drinks fell through? Plus, they share their general advice for navigating romantic relationships at work. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a conversation about the paid bonus features on dating apps and if using them makes you look desperate. Would you be turned off by someone sending you a Hinge rose? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter is surprisingly nutritious. Later, an emailer writes in asking how to find an “ass-smacking nice guy” after not feeling the sexual chemistry on first dates. Is there a middle ground between the guy who’s too shy to make a move and the guy only looking to hook up? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about verified check marks and Alexa devices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re dissecting texts between a listener and a guy who keeps rescheduling their dates. The emailer thinks the chemistry is there but worries he’s only looking to hook up. How many chances should you give someone to schedule a real date? Should she give him another chance if he reaches out again? Plus, they discuss how to know if a guy is taking you seriously. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about adult braces and sharing your space with a significant other during quarantine. An emailer sends in a screenshot of a dating app conversation where she sets her standards of looking for a relationship, but she isn’t sure if the response is sincere. At what point does the “what are you looking for?” conversation actually matter? During the Awkward Sexual Encounter, a listener gets nostalgic about a water bed mishap. Later, an emailers asks for advice on how to handle meeting her boyfriend’s parents when they’re already biased against her for her age and ethnic background. How should her boyfriend be responding to this situation? Finally, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker that sparks a discussion about Cheesecake Factory and first date locations. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing when you can assume exclusivity with someone you’re seeing. A listener writes in after her DTR conversation with a long-distance romance did not go as she hoped. Was she reading the signs all wrong? Plus, they talk about the clues that someone is a lazy dater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana change things up with a lightning round of questions submitted by our Instagram followers. Instead of our usual email format, they answer 20 questions with topics ranging from how to get excited about using the dating apps, to running into exes, to how to get your S.O. to go to therapy. Plus, they give their best tips for moving in with your partner, making a dating app profile, and reaching out to a fling that ended because of the pandemic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to your S.O.? Plus, J&J talk about the benefits of marriage today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another emailer asks for advice on getting back together with an ex whose family doesn’t like her, but J&J see some bigger problems with the relationship. Finally, they finish up the episode by playing Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about zodiac compatibility and LinkedIn affairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty call without addressing his feelings? Plus, they talk about the best way to be honest about your intentions for a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another listener asks about girl code surrounding dating app matches. Is it fair to be mad at your friend for going out with a guy you matched with first? Finally, they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about dog custody battles and bad tattoos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than your average sex-scapade. Another emailer writes in for advice on how to tell her boyfriend that he’s not invited to her family vacation until he puts a ring on it. Do you need to be engaged before introducing your significant other to your extended family? Finally, they close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breakers all about trust with special guest Victoria Justice to discuss her new movie Trust, out March 12th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their partner. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she and her boyfriend will ever be sexually compatible if they weren’t on the same page in the first place. Then another emailer asks how to deal with a clueless sexual partner, especially when he shows no interest in offering her pleasure after he orgasms. They close the show with a conversation about giving directions to someone and not just expecting them to anticipate your needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a UTI and a stained toilet. Another emailer asks how to break up with her uncommunicative boyfriend after moving in together. Is it ever worth staying in a relationship if you can't afford your apartment lease on your own? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, which leads to a conversation about whether or not you should tell your partner when someone else hits on you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out of the public eye. Is there a difference between being private and secret? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker with Mike, leading to a debate about how to make a proper excuse when you have a bathroom emergency on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want them to ease up their restrictions (so you can just enjoy a bottle of wine together) without discouraging them from achieving their goals? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and relationships. Then a listener writes in to ask how to move on in the midst of a pandemic after calling things off with her boyfriend of two years. Is it normal to feel ‘frozen’ after a devastating breakup? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about getting stuck in a guy’s bathroom the morning after a one night stand. Then another emailer asks how to tell her college boyfriend that she wants him to focus on getting a new job for the sake of their shared future. Is it fair to expect him to prioritize their future immediately out of college, or should she move on from the relationship altogether? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a revelation about Jared and Jordana’s love of Benihana (even on a first date). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hooking up with asked if he could keep the conversation going even though they’ve made it clear they’re not looking for the same things. Is he hoping she will change her mind about hooking up casually even though she’s told him otherwise? J&J read the back-and-forth text exchange and explain where both parties stand. Plus, they tell us why guys will keep trying to circle back to see if your standards have changed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into the Christmas spirit the way they did as children. Then they answer an email from a listener who is devastated to find out that her ex is already back to dating his college girlfriend just a month after they split. How do you get over having someone move on to a new relationship so quickly? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a female condom that went missing in action. Then another listener writes in to ask why her ex-boyfriend didn’t give her the response she was looking for when she tried to rekindle their relationship after breaking up with him. Finally, the J's are joined by comedian and actor Bo Burnham to talk about the new movie Promising Young Woman and to play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including one about sharing a meal-prep promo code on a dating app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text exchange with a guy who failed to plan another meetup and won’t come to her city this time around. Is he intentionally keeping her on the hook without letting things get serious? Finally, they talk about why it’s important to figure out what you actually want out of the relationship in order to understand what to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should tell a guy about her drastic weight loss before hooking up, especially if she’s feeling insecure. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an exchange of “I love you’s” and some embarrassing oral sex. Then another listener asks if her boyfriend is looking to break up with her or just setting expectations for the future. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker featuring a conversation about whether it’s harder to date someone that’s a total grinch or way too into the holiday spirit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine fling. Is he really interested in finding out “how you’re doing” or is he just looking to hook up again? Plus, J&J talk about whether or not people ever want someone to check in out of the blue, and why no one is ever straightforward about their motives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk about Jordana’s destiny as a Christmas tree connoisseur. Then they answer a listener email about how to tell the guy she started seeing that she wants to be exclusive for the sake of covid safety. How do you broach the subject without coming off as "too much" to someone you’ve only been dating for a month? Another listener asks how to safely connect for a casual meetup in the times of covid closures. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a passionate hookup and an accidental 911 call. Then another listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she expects a pricey engagement ring. How do you explain that you care about the marriage but also care about the ring? Finally, they finish things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including a debate about backseat driving. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.” Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

To celebrate the three year anniversary of the U Up? podcast, Jared and Jordana are back to answer another listener email. This time around, the emailer found nudes in her boyfriend’s Snapchat messages and isn’t satisfied with his explanation. Should she give him the benefit of the doubt that he “didn’t know it was a real person” and cut things off after some back and forth? Plus, they talk about his history with cheating on an ex and whether or not she should hold it against him. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about cringe-worthy behavior from influencers (and review Jordana’s charcuterie board). Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she’s been dating for cancelling plans at the last minute, even though she discovered the lie using his dating app location. How much deception should we ignore early in the dating process? Plus, another emailer asks if using the dating app geo-locator after matching with someone counts as spying. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween hookup and a chance run-in with his parents the next morning. Next, a listener asks whether or not she should be concerned that her long-term boyfriend is talking about getting a dog even though she doesn't approve. Does this mean that he’s not thinking of her as being part of his life in the future? Finally, they close things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about whether or not you should date a former reality show contestant. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, it’s time for another Deal Reveal as the J’s help a listener that says she started messaging with a former coworker who turned out to be in a relationship. Why would he like all of her photos and watch her IG stories if he is already with someone? They talk about connecting over a kinky dating app, and discuss whether or not this guy is just being up front about his open relationship, or shutting her down entirely. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show by asking whether or not it’s a deal breaker if someone wants to see your Instagram before going on a first date. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that the guy she matched with immediately asked to take the conversation off the app and to Instagram DM. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bunk bed, a bloody nose, and a sudden interruption. Then another listener asks if she should be concerned that her partner unplugged the dog camera when she wasn’t home. Should she be worried that he has something to hide, or is this a violation of his privacy? Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about splitting the check on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday’s Deal Reveal, the J’s respond to a listener who is confused why the guy she was seeing got freaked out the moment she asked if they were “on the same page” as one another. They read the last text exchange between the couple and try to decipher what it all means. Do guys stop texting because they’re afraid of commitment, or is it something else? Finally, they discuss whether or not this girl should have played things differently, drawing comparisons to the situation in How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared start the show with a conversation about Halloween and dating. A listener writes in to ask if her boyfriend secretly has a crush on his roommate, and whether or not it’s weird that he and the roommate are doing a couples costume for Halloween. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a Halloween costume, a circus theme, and some spontaneous role play. Then another emailer asks if she should hold off on dating again after a difficult breakup. At what point do you admit that you might never get closure and start dating again? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including one about using coupons on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J talk about waiting to have sex and whether or not people will lose interest in the relationship if you wait too long. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing called things off after four dates (despite great chemistry), and whether or not it really boils down to the fact that she said she wanted to wait longer before having sex. Plus, they discuss the proper etiquette for calling things off and why people try to soften the blow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about whether or not moving to a new city will improve your dating life. A listener writes in to ask if she should just pick up and move to a new city to improve her odds of finding someone. Is the city ever really the cause of your dating woes? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a mid-sex pause to return a text. Another emailer asks whether or not she should confront her boyfriend after snooping on his phone and finding unanswered late-night texts to an unknown number. How are you supposed to react when you snoop and find something suspicious? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about what it means if the person you just started dating doesn’t follow you back on social media. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, the J’s return with yet another deal reveal. A listener writes in to share a text exchange that suddenly fell silent with no explanation. Should he have given her excuses in order to fade out slowly instead of abruptly ghosting her? J&J read the texts and tell us exactly what happened here, along with insight into what this guy was actually thinking when he ghosted. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and talking about how hard it is for single people to not drink on dates. Two different listeners write in to ask how to maintain a normal dating life if you’re not a drinker. Will people judge you on a first date if you don’t order alcohol? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a secret work hookup. Then another emailer asks how to react when the guy she’s been living with declares that they aren’t officially dating. Why do some guys go out of their way to avoid putting a label on the relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who make instagram accounts for their dogs. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Dr. Jed Kaminetsky, Urologist at NYU, to talk about the various potential problems guys face in the bedroom. They start out by settling a debate from a recent Awkward Sexual Encounter regarding peeing during an erection. Then they read an email from a listener whose boyfriend experiences erectile dysfunction and is afraid to seek treatment. When a guy can’t get it up, is the problem more likely to be mental or physical? They also discuss guys who have a problem staying erect, as well as those who orgasm too quickly. Finally, they close the show with some surprising information about infertility in men. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared return and start the show with a conversation about learning to tolerate your partner’s work personality. A listener writes in to ask how she should react to her partner crying over the stress of work, especially now that they are stuck working from home in the same space. How do you help a partner who won't help themself? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who doesn’t think girls fart and a ruined hookup. Then another emailer asks if it’s fair to expect his partner to continue working when they get married even though he can afford to support them financially. Do people really care if their partner is “ambitious” or is it actually all about the money? Finally, they play some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about guys and their fantasy drafts. Get your tickets to the U Up? Live show at: betches.co/uuplive Thanks to our sponsors: HelloFresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get $80 off on your first box, including free shipping. Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are back with another deal reveal from a listener who was rejected over text by a guy she was dating. They start out by reading both sides of the text exchange, and weigh in on whether or not the guy’s explanation was sufficient. Does it feel better or worse to get the “I’m actually dating someone else” excuse or nothing at all? Plus, they discuss whether or not you should ever give someone another chance if they come back around and try to go on another date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J return and start the show with a conversation about the Netflix show Dating on the Spectrum, and what it can teach us about dating cues. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was dating selected the “don’t know” option in the “what are you looking for” menu of a dating app. How honest should your dating profile be about what you’re actually looking for? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and a piece of mint gum. Then another emailer asks why the girl he was seeing broke things off the way she did. When someone seems sad to be ending things, does that mean the door is still open for a relationship down the road? Finally, they close the show with some RF or DB, including a conversation about how to react when a guy doesn’t plan anything for the first date. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Ship: Update Ship today and let your friends take control of your dating life – because let’s be honest, we all could use a little help in that department. Download Ship in the app store to start getting matched today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are talking about reaching back out to someone after they ghosted you in the past. They examine a listener’s texts after she stopped getting messages from a guy she liked. Did he stop responding because of the pandemic, or because he didn’t want to see her anymore? Plus, they talk about when it’s appropriate to shoot your shot one last time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone to delete your nudes after you break up. Then a listener writes in to share her concerns about an ex holding onto the pictures she sent while they were dating, and asks whether or not she should just ask him to delete them altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a friendly hookup, a used tampon, and a Gatorade bottle. Then another emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her partner to continue with their plans for marriage and kids even during a pandemic. Is it okay to admit that your biological clock is not pandemic proof? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about social media turn offs. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive Market: Join Thrive Market at ThriveMarket.com/UUP and get up to $20 in shopping credit toward your first order. Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s return with a deal reveal about breakup texts. First, they take turns reading each side of a long text exchange about pandemic comfort levels and going your separate ways. Then they decide whether or not this guy mansplained his overly detailed excuse for why he doesn’t see things working out. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about all the things diet culture and dating culture have in common, and why people just want to be told what to do. Then a listener writes in to ask how to keep the new guy she’s dating from losing interest in her when he goes on vacation. Is he bound to forget about her if she doesn’t make an effort to keep his attention? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a daring maneuver, a missed target, and an embarrassing fall off the bed. Then another listener emails to ask whether or not the relationship labels conversation needs to be explicit. Is it fair to assume you can call each other boyfriend and girlfriend without first discussing it? Finally, they finish with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone who wants to be an influencer. Go to shopbetches.com/collections/uup and check out our latest show merch! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, the J’s are joined once again by Jordana’s sister (and fan favorite), clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about the biggest challenges couples have been facing since the pandemic began. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should insist her partner cut back on his recreational spending so that they can save more for their future home. Is it fair to expect him to sacrifice the same way she does? Finally, an emailer asks if it’s normal for her boyfriend to continue staying at his family’s vacation home even though they just moved in together. Is it fair to ask him to spend more time at home so that she doesn’t feel so lonely? You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about sharing passwords in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if she should be concerned that her boyfriend refuses to share his social media passwords, especially considering that he has been caught texting other women in the past. Should it be assumed that you share passwords in your relationship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a neck injury and a massage gun. Then another emailer is frustrated that the guy she has been talking to is only a late-night texter and refuses to acknowledge that he won’t make time for her during the day. Is it time to call it quits or should she continue to pursue a relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about sharing a dog with an ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Ashley Hesseltine and Rayna Greenberg of Girls Gotta Eat podcast. They start with an update on Ashley and Rayna’s dating lives, including tips for signaling to guys that it’s okay to approach you in public. Plus, they talk about hooking up during quarantine and posting IG stories that are targeted at one person in particular. Then a listener writes in to ask whether it’s fair for her brother to request that she stop dating his close friend. Should she continue the relationship or respect her brother’s feelings? Finally, they close out the show with a great game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a discussion about differing pandemic precaution levels in a relationship. A listener writes in to ask how she should handle her boyfriend’s stress level and anxiety when she still wants to maintain a social life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a lit candle, a poorly positioned pillow, and a moment of panic. Then another emailer asks what it means if a guy shows too much interest too early. Should she be concerned that he expressed strong feelings at the beginning, or should she take it as a positive sign? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, which leads to a conversation about buying expensive gifts when you’re newly dating. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday’s episode, the J’s are joined by Aparna Shewakramani of the hit Netflix series Indian Matchmaking. They start out with an explanation of how real world matchmaking differs from the way it was presented on the show. Plus, Aparna talks about why her preferences were ignored, how the public has reacted to her portrayal, and what her dating life is like right now. Finally, they close the show with a surprisingly forgiving round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start this week with a conversation about post-engagement nerves and the way people reacted to the news that Jordana is getting married. Plus, Jordana makes another exciting announcement. Then a listener writes in to ask if her own boyfriend will ever come around to the idea of marriage, and whether or not she needs to just move on. How long should you wait for someone to get on the same page about marriage? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves begrudging oral sex, a hair in the throat, and an overly dramatic response. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a heated debate about how to properly give directions to your partner in the car. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special episode of the U Up? podcast, the J’s receive an email from a listener who can’t stop obsessing over her boyfriend’s ex and wants to know more about their relationship. Why can’t she get over it, and will her insecurity inevitably damage their relationship? Plus, they talk about how hard it can be to join their friend group when the ex was so entwined in their crew. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a conversation about the Netflix show Indian Matchmaking and a conversation about getting to know your future spouse. Then a listener writes in to ask why her ex suddenly stopped watching her IG story even though they recently hooked up. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a tampon, marathon sex, and an overly talkative doctor. Another emailer writes in with a scenario about a guy blowing off a date and getting spotted in public that night with another girl. Should you meet up again to ask for an explanation, or just call it off entirely? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about filtering people based on education, and a question about hanging onto old keepsakes from a previous relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are back with a deal reveal. A listener writes in to ask about a guy who called things off out of the blue after the third date, leaving her wondering whether or not he’s being genuine. J&J read both sides of the text exchange and reveal the truth behind his messages, leading to a conversation about following up for an explanation after things end. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s get this week’s episode started with a conversation about turning your sexting penpal into a real relationship. A listener writes in to ask how to move the conversation from sexting back to serious. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a pack of discarded birth control placebos and an uncomfortable conversation. Another listener asks how to react if the person you matched with on a dating app shows up to the first date with a beard they didn’t have in their profile. How much are you willing to accept if someone's appearance differs from their pictures? Finally, they finish things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a debate about whether or not to reschedule a date if someone falls asleep and stands you up. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J return for a Sunday Special episode with some big news… Jordana just got engaged! They tell us how it went down, when exactly the engagement conversation got started, and how it feels to go from dating to engaged. Jordana shares how she went about helping to pick a ring and passed the information along to her fiancé. Plus, they talk about the pitfalls of telling your friends the engagement is coming soon, and close the show with all the details on how he popped the question. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin this week with a conversation about the increase in date cancellations during covid. Are people cancelling more often than they used to? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bent penis and an unpleasant trip to the ER. Another emailer writes in to ask why the guy she just became exclusive with keeps insisting that they wait to have sex. How does she tell him she’s ready without coming off desperate? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, leading to a conversation about how early in a relationship you can start leaving things at your partner’s place. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with conversation about why some people always seem to be the ones who get dumped, while others are doing all the dumping. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a puddle on the ground, an embarrassing fall, and a misunderstanding about fluids. How are some guys still so clueless about female anatomy? Another emailer writes in with a story about going on a first date and getting cornered in the bathroom with a message from her date's ex. Is it a dealbreaker if someone warns you about the way they've treated partners in the past? Then a listener asks whether or not she should be worried that her boyfriend’s attractive neighbor has gotten so close to him since he moved in. What are the boundaries on guy/girl friendships when you’re in a committed relationship? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about living near your ex. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a debate about whether or not guys like women with curly hair, and a conversation about how you’d react if your partner payed someone on an OnlyFans page. Then, a listener writes in to ask how to reach out if your date hasn’t texted you after a while. Is it possible to make the next move without coming off desperate? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a movie soundtrack, constant interruptions, and an uncomfortable amount of Lord of the Rings talk. Another listener writes in to ask whether or not the “just joined” label on dating apps gives people the impression you’re just looking for rebound sex after a breakup. Should you be up front about the fact that you’re fresh out of a relationship? Then an emailer asks how early in a relationship you should tell someone that you’re bisexual. Finally, they finish things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what it means when someone you’re dating sends a subpar birthday text. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Glossier: Get that glowy, dewy skin for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and you’ll get 10% off your first order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the show with a conversation about the wave of Karen videos going around and why people can’t help but watch them. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should start following a guy that she met briefly and developed a crush on at work on Instagram. What does it signal to a guy if you initiate the IG follow? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing vibrator and a desperate quest to retrieve it. Another listener writes in to ask why some people always seem to be in a relationship and others are perpetually single. Next, an emailer asks if she should agree to put her relationship on hold for the sake of their careers, and whether or not it’s best to cut off all communication during a break. Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a debate about using liquor bottles as decor. Thanks to our sponsors: Thrive: Go to thrivemarket.com/UUP to start your risk-free membership and get up to twenty dollars toward your first order! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a conversation about the return to in-person dating now that many states have started to at least partially re-open. A listener writes in to ask how long is too long to talk to someone from a dating app before meeting them. Are the stakes higher than a regular first date when you’re meeting out of quarantine? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a parked minivan, a dead battery, and a dad with jumper cables. Another emailer asks whether or not she should be concerned that her boyfriend’s ex is still Facebook friends with his mom and likes everything she posts. Next, a listener wants her boyfriend to give her more compliments but doesn’t know how to bring it up. Finally, they finish out the week with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about people who allow the restaurant to ‘surprise’ them with their meal each time they order. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the show with an email from a listener whose girlfriend watched footage of his ex’s wedding and made fun of the people from his hometown. Is it a dealbreaker if someone doesn’t respect where you're from? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a dog, a tongue, and some misplaced blame. Another emailer asks if she’s reading too much into her boyfriend choosing to buy a house without including her in the process. Then a listener writes in to ask about a series of confusing texts she got from a guy that broke things off over a year ago and is using Covid to get back into her good graces. Finally, they close things out with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, leading to a conversation about whether or not you can ask someone you’re dating to quit smoking. Thanks to our sponsors: Hello Fresh: Go to HelloFresh.com/80uup and use code 80uup to get a total of $80 off, including free shipping on your first box. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the week with a conversation about how to talk to your partner about a hygiene issue that could offend them. A listener writes in to ask how she can encourage her new boyfriend to address his earwax problem without making it a big deal. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who won’t have sex on the first date but is open to it the morning after. Another emailer asks how to feel about her boyfriend’s response to the Black Lives Matter protests. Should she be concerned about their compatibility if he’s not willing to post publicly about the movement? Then a listener asks whether or not premium options on dating apps actually give you a better chance of finding a partner. Is the ‘super like’ a turn on or an act of desperation? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including a debate about changing your name to please the person you’re with. Thanks to our sponsors: Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Prose: Take your free in-depth hair quiz and get 15% off your first order at Prose.com/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with an email from a listener who was blindsided when she found out her ex-boyfriend moved on so quickly, and in such a public way. What does it say about your former relationship when your ex moves on too fast? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves fresh sheets, embarrassing facial expressions, and a misunderstanding about the pillow. Then another emailer writes in about a new relationship that suddenly became long-distance due to the pandemic, derailing her plan to get serious and come out to her family. Next, a listener asks for advice dealing with a former fling that reached back out after a long period of no contact. Did she shut the door on the possibility to check back in with him to see where they stand? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a debate about people who constantly ask if you washed your hands. Thanks to our sponsors: Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/  Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin this week with an email from an avid milk drinker who is turned on by a past listener’s love of milk. What do the things you love say about your values? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a burning candle, an impromptu massage, and a huge misunderstanding. Then another emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should feel judged by a guy who called things off after she admitted to occasionally smoking weed. Next, an emailer asks why the guy she’s talking to is quick to respond to Snapchat messages but hesitant to take things to text. Did she make a mistake by telling him she was only looking for something casual? Finally, this week’s game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker features a debate about what kind of person actually wants to be on the show Four Weddings. Thanks to our sponsors: Mercari: Sell or buy almost anything on Mercari. You can find Mercari on the App Stores or on Mercari.com StoryWorth: Give your dad the most meaningful gift this Father’s Day with StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at StoryWorth.com/uup. Vizzy: Upgrade your hard seltzer with Vizzy. Go to vizzyhardseltzer.com to find out where you can purchase. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J get the show started with a conversation about people shaming each other for the extent to which they’re social distancing. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should call out the guy she just started seeing after he sent a screenshot that ‘accidentally’ included a popped up snapchat with another girl’s name. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a missing pair of testicles and a doctor’s explanation. Another emailer asks if it’s reasonable to ask a quarantine fling to remain exclusive for as long as you keep hooking up, even if you’re not actually dating. Next, they respond to a listener who is struggling to be happy for her friends getting engaged when her boyfriend hasn’t proposed after dating for much longer than other couples. Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a discussion about people who lose their phone when they’re drunk. Thanks to our sponsor: HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about couples who moved in together for quarantine, and whether or not it’s okay to go back to living apart once this all ends. They offer advice to a listener whose boyfriend moved in for just this reason on how to navigate the transition back to “normal” life. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a guy who doesn’t know whether or not he’s circumcised. Is it a huge red flag if your partner doesn’t know their own anatomy? Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should be alarmed that the guy she just started seeing hasn’t mentioned that he was married before. Another listener asks whether or not the quarantine-hookup in her building is using his past relationship as a cop out for getting more serious. Is it possible that he’s genuinely not ready for a relationship, or is she just a quarantine distraction? Finally, they finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about dating with strict food restrictions. Thanks to our sponsors! HBO Max’s Love Life: Start watching Love Life, starring Anna Kendrick, now at https://www.hbomax.com/love-life/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana & Jared get the show started this week with details about the upcoming U Up? Live At Home show and a conversation about social media etiquette when it comes to liking photos. Then they dive into a listener email about what to do when your best friend keeps hitting ‘like’ on photos posted by your ex. Is this a violation of some sort of unwritten rule of friendship? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week involves a foot fetish and an unsatisfying finish. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she was DMing with never called or texted when she gave him her number. Was she too eager to take the next step or is she just overthinking things? Another listener asks how to start a conversation about finances during quarantine with her significant other. Is it fair to ask your partner to take on more of the financial burden when you lose your job? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about whether or not it’s weird to have a roommate of the opposite sex. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start things off with a conversation about quarantine sex and whether or not the frequency has changed for couples since getting trapped indoors. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s okay to move in together without getting engaged first. Do people underestimate the importance of the move-in as a milestone? This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted golden shower and an apologetic Taco Tuesday. Then a listener asks if it’s messed up for a guy to be mad at her for not wanting to meet up in person during quarantine. Another emailer asks if it’s a bad idea to go straight from living in your parents’ house to living with your boyfriend. Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a conversation about people who get angry at strangers who aren't social-distancing. We’re hosting our first ever U Up? Live At Home on Thursday, May 21st at 8pm ET/5pm PT! Grab a drink, gather the group chat, and get your tickets NOW before they sell out at: betches.co/uupathome Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the week with a conversation about who gets to decide where you quarantine as a couple. A listener writes in to ask whether her boyfriend of five years should feel obligated to come quarantine with her in her parents’ home. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a random flip into the air, a pair of bunnies, and a strange invitation. Plus, Jared shares a hilarious story about a spontaneous flip ruining his night. Then they’re joined by Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, to talk about his new audiobook Love Is Not Enough. They start with a conversation about the concept of ‘f*ck yes or no’ and why sometimes it’s best for people to just admit it’s time to move on. Together, they answer another emailer’s question about a guy she’s been seeing during the pandemic, and whether or not it will all end the moment quarantine is over. Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about someone you dated adding you on LinkedIn. Thanks to our sponsor! 1-800-Contacts: Order online at 1800contacts.com, through their 5-star rated app or calling 1-800-Contacts (1-800-266-8228) Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with an update on quarantine dating, and a conversation about whether or not video chatting before in-person dates will become the new norm. Then a listener writes in to ask how to tell if you’re bored of quarantine or just bored in your relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a late night fart and a discussion about the proper etiquette for being gross around your partner. Another emailer writes in to ask if it’s unfair to invite her boyfriend over during quarantine even though she’s not comfortable with her roommate having friends over. Is this a double standard, or is she in the right to see it as two separate things? Then another listener asks for help with texts from a guy who keeps flaking on her but continues to ask for another chance. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about dating someone who has never left their hometown. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J get things started this week with a conversation about avoiding fights with your significant other when you’re stuck trying to work and coexist in the same living space. Then they discuss the reasons why some men are resistant to going on a Zoom date, and an emailer asks what to do when you’re fed up with quarantine dating altogether. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves Gucci in the bedroom, a Gucci bathroom, and a suspicious deodorant choice. Plus, Jared makes a shocking confession. Another listener writes in to ask why the guy who refused to commit to her is still sending casual Snapchat and Instagram messages. Then another emailer asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend hides (and deletes) his text conversations from her. Is there any reasonable explanation for why he could be hiding his messages? Then they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, and a conversation about what your hopes and dreams say about who you are as a person. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin the show by talking sh*t about the first photo Instagram challenge. Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not it’s weird to follow someone on Instagram the moment you match on a dating app. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a half-naked man, grandparents at the front door, and a strange text months after the fact. Next, they offer advice to a listener who confronted the guy she’s seeing after he updated his dating profile. Then they’re joined by comedians Sam Morril and Taylor Tomlinson to talk about how the new couple is handling quarantining together just six months into their relationship. They talk about how to avoid fights, activities couples can do together, and whether or not it’s expected to continue living together once social distancing ends. They give advice to a listener asking how to deal with a resentful boyfriend whose pandemic related stress is testing her relationship. Finally, they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a debate about liking thirst traps and where to draw the line. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a conversation about dating when you’re stuck inside, and discuss the fact that people are finally willing to try FaceTime dates. Plus, they talk about how the quarantine has forced people to reassess their relationships. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves sexy lingerie, a wad of toilet paper, and a disappearing act. Next, a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to be upset with your partner for giving up on seeing each other during the quarantine. Should your significant other be willing to forgo social distancing rules for the sake of your relationship? Then they’re joined by Nicole Byer, comedian and host of Netflix’s “Nailed It!” to talk about dating in this weird and confusing time. They respond to a single listener who feels like a loser right now and needs advice for dating without seeing people in person. Finally, they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and Nicole tells us whether or not it’s okay to move into your partner’s childhood home together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared moving in with his girlfriend and how living together affects your relationship. Then a listener writes in to ask what the correct etiquette is for reaching out to an ex when one of their loved ones passes away. How do you check in without giving the impression that you have ulterior motives? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex, a piece of gum, and a strange conversation. Next, an emailer asks how to get her weekends-only boyfriend to spend more time with her. Are they using the “love language” conversation as an excuse not to compromise? Then another listener asks if the guy she’s moving in with really wants to live together, or if he’s just doing it to please her. Is it common to have cold feet about moving in together? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including one featuring a difficult Bachelor/Bachelorette scenario. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s begin the show with a conversation about opening lines on dating apps and how to ensure you get a first date. Is it possible to come off too eager with a dating app opening line? The Awkward Sexual Encounter features a children’s show theme song and a cringeworthy post-sex routine. Next, a listener writes in to ask if she made a mistake by asking the guy she is seeing if he is open to something more serious. They read a series of texts from her and discuss what to do when you get a direct answer, but it’s not the one you’re looking for. Another email writes in to ask what it means when a guy says he needs time to himself. Should you assume he really just wants to break up? Then they’re joined by Betches’ own Alicia Angeles to share her story of being in an on-again/off-again toxic relationship for over a decade. A listener writes in about a similar experience and asks how to get over the resentment of being treated so poorly for so long. At what point in a relationship do you admit to yourself that he’s not going to change and it’s time to move on? They close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring someone who declines your Instagram follow request. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J begin the show with a conversation about trying to maintain a dating life during the coronavirus crisis. They talk about getting quarantined with someone you can’t stand, trying to date when you’re supposed to be practicing social distancing, and whether or not you’d rather spend this time solo or with someone you just started dating. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy with sangria d*ck and a pre-worn condom. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s just using her casual hook up to distract herself from pursuing a real relationship. This leads to a conversation about the biological reasons why emotion is so important for good sex. Then another listener writes in to ask about a series of texts she received from a guy she was dating for months. When a guy says he needs time to himself, should you assume he really just wants to break up? They close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about Uber etiquette on a date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start off this week’s show with Jared’s dating dilemma involving one first-class plane ticket, and one upset girlfriend. Should men feel obligated to give up the superior seat to their significant other? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves bad aim and an embarrassing climax. Next, they answer an emailer whose worst fear is dating someone in debt. How far into a relationship is it okay to bring up finances? Another listener writes in to ask how long you should wait for someone you’re texting to finally book a first date. Is there a certain amount of time after which you should cut someone off? They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and decide whether or not getting banned from a dating app should get you blocked IRL. Thanks to our sponsors! WOO: Go to woomoreplay.com and use promo code UUP for for 20% off your order of WOO SHIP: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this special “Where Are They Now” episode, J & J receive an update email from a listener who was dating a guy that wouldn’t call her his girlfriend. First, they listen back to their original advice from the March 27th, 2019 episode titled “Is Refusing To Define The Relationship A Dealbreaker?" Then they read her full update, telling us whether or not they're still together, which predictions they got right, and why people find it so hard to take good advice. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back with a special pop-up episode *spoilers ahead* all about the hit dating show Love Is Blind. They start off with a conversation about which parts of the show worked, which fell flat, and why viewers are so invested in these couples. Then they dive into each of the couples that made it past the pods, starting with the most boring couple of all, Kelly and Kenny. Next, they discuss Carlton withholding info about his sexuality from Diamond before proposing, and the fallout that ensued. They talk about the constant toxic energy between Giannina and Damian, then dive into the love triangle Barnett found himself in despite being a classic f*ckboi. Plus, they cover Jessica’s relationship with Mark, including her constant obsession with their age gap. Finally, they talk about what they would change about the show, and what it says about dating in general. Thanks to our sponsors! Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP MeUndies: To get 15% off your first order, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/uup Glossier: New customers will get 10% off their first order by going to Glossier.com/podcast/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a conversation about Jared’s birthday and the difference between how men and women celebrate. Then an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she is seeing insists on using a condom every time they have sex even though they’re exclusive and she has an IUD. Is this a sign that he’s hiding something, or is he just overly cautious? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a night of shots and an ugly-cry. Why are guys judged more harshly for showing emotion in a relationship? Next, a listener asks why her office-party hookup hasn’t asked her on a date yet, and whether or not they’re ever going to go out. Another emailer asks whether or not it’s fair to judge a guy she matched with on a dating app who was going bald but didn’t disclose it until the first date. They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring the age old question: what do you do when your boyfriend accidentally calls you mom? Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start off this week’s show with a viral tweet involving a girl who cancelled her date at the last minute and the negative reaction she got from the guy she was supposed to meet. Is there a double standard when it comes to rescheduling a date? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a set of messy sheets and an embarrassing personal hygiene story. Next, an emailer writes in to ask if she’s reading too much into her newly-exclusive boyfriend getting tagged online by other women. Is it okay to call him out for who he was hanging with, or should she just leave it alone? Another listener writes in to ask how to avoid ending up in a friends-with-benefits situation. Will guys put you in a certain category if you hook up too soon? They close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about ordering an Uber pool on a first date. Thanks to our sponsors! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect fitting bra and get 15% off your first order Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J begin the show with a conversation about Valentine’s Day and what to do when you don’t have a date. They debate whether or not you should expect a Valentine’s date with someone you’ve been hooking up with for a month. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she has been seeing for weeks still hasn’t kissed her. Is this a sign that he’s not interested or that he just can’t pull the trigger? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week features a guy who accidentally sexted an entire group chat. Then, an emailer sends in a deal reveal involving a guy who keeps trying to suggest a group-date scenario after only one drink together. Another listener asks whether or not she should be okay with her longterm boyfriend going on a solo-vacation to South America. Is it a sign that they’re not in the same place in the relationship and should break up? Finally, they play a round of Valentine’s Day-themed Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thank you to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Ship: Finding a date is more fun when you do it with friends - go to betches.co/ship to start finding matches today! Shop Betches: Get 15% off the U Up? collection at Shop Betches by going to shop.betches.com/collections/U-UP and use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a debate about the importance of having a TV show to watch with your partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not there are rules for which pictures you can and can’t use on your dating profile after a breakup. Is it okay to use a picture you like even if it has your ex in it? Next, the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen encounter and a boyfriend naked from the waste down. Then, they discuss setting expectations before ‘dates’ with the opposite sex. How do you clearly signal to someone you met offline that you're interested in seeing them romantically? Another listener asks how to make things work with his new girlfriend even though she lives an hour away. Is it okay to tell someone you want to date but don’t want to travel to see each other as much as they’d prefer? Finally, they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a conversation about guys who don’t understand the importance of soap. Thanks to our sponsor! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J start the show with a debate about whether or not it’s okay to be on your phone when you’re watching a movie with your significant other. Do they have a right to get annoyed if you’re not paying attention to the screen? Next, a listener writes in to ask whether or not she should stay together with her boyfriend just for an expensive vacation. Is it unfair to take advantage of the trip if you’re not planning to stick around? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a naked stranger and a carpet fire. Next, an emailer asks why her long term hookup keeps trying to reconnect with her despite having a girlfriend. After, they’re joined by Jordana’s very own sister, clinical psychologist and licensed therapist Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They start with a conversation about couples in therapy, trying therapy before you get married, and figuring out when it’s time to admit things aren’t working. Then they answer a listener email asking whether or not it’s okay to hide evidence of her troubled past on a first date. Do they have the right to know up front about your past struggles, or is it fair to save that for down the road? They finish out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a debate about how long you should wait to text after the first time you sleep together. You can find out more about Dr. Naomi Bernstein at naomibernstein.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick things off this week with a reaction to Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston’s viral backstage photos from the SAG Awards. What does it say about you if you’re rooting for Brad and Jen to reunite? Next, they respond to a listener question about what to do when the person you’re dating constantly brings up their ex. Should you be okay with your partner talking about their ex, or is it okay to expect them to move on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a New Year’s hookup, a gun next to the bed, and a weird clothing request. Next, an emailer writes in to ask why the guy she’s seeing isn’t trying harder to spend time together. Is he trying to send the signal that he no longer wants to see her? Then they’re joined by Countess Luann de Lesseps of The Real Housewives of New York City to talk about her own romantic history, what she’s looking for in a man, and taking her cabaret show on the road. A listener writes in to ask if it’s weird to sleep in separate bedrooms from your partner. To close the show, Luann joins Jordana and Jared for a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about hitting the three-month mark in a relationship and asking yourself where things are going. Is it a sign that you need to break up if you don’t see a long term future after three months? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about saying the wrong person’s name during sex. Next, a listener asks for a “Judge J’s” ruling on a case involving a last-minute date cancellation and a text admitting that he just committed to be exclusive with someone else. Then an emailer writes in to ask if she should continue to revive a long distance relationship even though the guy doesn’t seem to think it’s worth the trouble. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a frightening listener text exchange. Thanks to our sponsors! Me Undies: To get your 15% off your first pair, free shipping, and a 100% Satisfaction Guarantee, go to MeUndies.com/UUP Ship: Download our dating app at betches.co/SHIP to start finding matches today Care/of: For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter promo code UUP50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down. Thanks to our sponsors! Fabletics: Go to Fabletics.com/uup and get 2 leggings for only $24 (a $99 value) when you sign up for a VIP Stitchfix: Get started today at Stitchfix.com/uup and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Moxy Hotels! Find out more at: http://moxy-hotels.marriott.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a conversation about never having attended a wedding. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Check out the new podcast Sibling Revelry from Kate and Oliver Hudson! Click here to listen: Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson & Oliver Hudson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message that may or may not be asking for nudes. At 15:50 they help a listener looking to repair trust with a 4 month fling who was sexting someone else while they were out on a date. At 41:00 a listener writes in asking for an opinion about using the mute feature on Instagram to banish an old flame that was haunting her story views. At 47:20 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features an audible out of a blow job and into a solo masturbation. At 1:10:00 a listener writes in wondering if she’s reading too far into a Facebook profile picture of her college boyfriend and another girl. At 1:09:50 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.   The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now at Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wondering what the best way to let her dates know she’s admittedly high maintenance. At 31:50 they talk about their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a trip to Tulum, some roadway felatio and a slamming door. At 44:05 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her inferiority complex with her friend. At 59:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do after finding snapchats to an ex on her bf’s phone. At 1:05:50 they play a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker”. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour #Entertainment    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the question “what’s the best way to be broken up with?” At 15:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 29:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker”. At 43:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” At 55:15 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter. Thanks to our sponsors! Head to PRIVACY.COM/UUP to sign up and get $5 to spend on your first purchase. Go to CAPRI-BLUE.COM and use code UUP get 20% off your entire purchase and have your space smelling like the Betches office today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

As we say gabagool to F*cktember and head into F*cktober, Jared and Jordana are back to talk about taking serious steps in a relationship and transitioning into cuffing season. At 30:40 a listener asks for advice after her partner freaked out about how fast things were moving. Is he afraid to commit, or just afraid to commit to HER? At 47:55 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about running into a guy’s mom in the hallway the morning after a hookup. At 54:40 an emailer writes in to ask if she has the right to be mad that her boyfriend swapped Instas with a girl he met at a bar. Then at 1:08:00 another listener asks if the third date is the right time to bring someone back to your apartment. At what point do you stop going for drinks and just invite them over? At 1:14:05 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and ready to bring in everyone’s favorite month, fucktober. At 21:50 they break down the science behind the ‘walking date.’ What does it mean for a future relationship and should you be scared? At 38:30 a listener shares their awkward sexual encounter which features a sorority house, a forgotten condom, and some head banging on the dashboard of a car. At 47:00 they share their advice for a listener worried about the ex girlfriend posing as her boyfriend's cat on his Netflix account. At 1:08:05 they respond to a west coast tech guy who feels he’s no longer datable. At 1:18:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Agora Theatre in Cleveland. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 14:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Brandon Zingale. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js ride again and following Jordana’s 30th birthday, she wants to speak to the manager. At 12:45 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a guy that she’s seeing and his semi soft noodle dick. At 25:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a hexagon, sleep talking and a happy ending. At 34:35 a listener writes in wondering if she should delete all of her instagram pictures with her now ex-boyfriend. At 50:00 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. At 1:07:35 they’re joined by Travis Mills and Rachel Lindsay of MTV’s new show “Ghosted” to discuss being on The Bachelorette, getting catfished in Las Vegas, and what actually constitutes being ghosted. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are here to wrap up the summer and kick off fall hook up season. At 10:00 they discuss when the exact start date of cuffing season should be. At 17:00 they breakdown what guys think about vibrators. At 32:00 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter featuring hookup persistence despite a knocked out tooth. At 37:50 a listener writes in wondering how to deal with the pressure of getting physical on a first date. At 1:17:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Is it a deal breaker if someone tells you they hooked up with someone else in their dreams? The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a conversation about the best way to ask your significant other for spontaneous plans. Does your partner have the right to be upset when work is your number 1 priority? At 14:50 this week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a guy who uses a condom for an unorthodox purpose. At 24:00 a listener asks how to respond to an ex who texted him after they saw each other in public without saying hello. What does the phrase “I have love for you” even mean? At 34:50 they’re joined by Tyler Cameron of The Bachelorette to talk about suddenly becoming a major celebrity and dating after the show. He talks about his move to New York City and current living arrangement. They talk about his dating history and what he’s actually looking for in a woman. At 46:15 Tyler helps with an email from a listener who wants to know if it’s a bad look to leave right after a hookup. At 51:30 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a conversation about how important it is for your partner’s parents to like you. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J kick off the show with a conversation about sliding into someone’s DMs after you miss the chance to connect on a dating app. What’s the right way to start a conversation via DM? At 26:25 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who played dead the moment after he finished during sex. At 38:45 a listener writes in to ask if it’s safe to have a threesome with her long-term boyfriend. Is there any way to bring in a third person without somebody getting jealous? At 55:00 another emailer asks if she comes off as desperate when she initiates the first date with guys she has matched. Is it important to make guys chase you or is it better to just take charge? At 1:02:45 they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and ask how you should deal with an insincere complimenter. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Vic Theatre in Chicago. At 9:25 they ask the question “how do I handle the guy who wants to take things slow?” At 16:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for 2 audience members. At 51:10 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Diggy Moreland. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a preview of tonight’s live show from Chicago. At 9:10 they discuss an argument that was set off by a dangerous hypothetical question. At 25:20 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lost condom and a ruined set of sheets. Should you come clean when the condom gets lost in the most embarrassing place possible? At 35:15 a listener writes in to ask if it’s normal that her boyfriend has paid strangers for nudes on Snapchat. Does it count as cheating if he’s getting pictures from amateur porn stars? At 50:20 another emailer asks if she should be alarmed that her fiancé asked if the deposits for their wedding are refundable. Does this mean he’s having second thoughts about marriage or just asking an honest question? At 1:14:20 they rank the best and worst months of the year to be single, then close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th! Get your tickets by visiting betches.co/nycf Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Would You Rather Be The Dumper Or The Dumpee? J and J start the show with an announcement about U Up? LIVE coming to the New York Comedy Festival at Town Hall. At 5:45 a listener writes in to ask if women are better off ‘dating down.’ At 22:45 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a roll in the grass, a new sex toy, and a surprise they didn’t see coming. At 29:25 another listener writes in to ask why her boyfriend is still following a girl he hooked up with when they were on a break. At 47:25 an emailer asks if it’s okay to be upset that the guy she just started seeing didn’t invite her out to join him on a Friday night. Then at 1:03:10 they play a game of Would You Rather all about whether you’d prefer to be the dumper or the dumpee. They close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. U Up? LIVE is coming to the New York Comedy Festival on Friday, November 8th at 9:45pm! Get your tickets before they go on sale to the public by visiting betches.co/nycf and using the promo code CNYCF Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a conversation about money in relationships. At 18:55 a listener asks if it’s fair to expect her boyfriend to cover the majority of the expenses on vacation because he makes more than her. Who should pay for the couples vacation? They also debate who should have to sit in the middle seat on a flight. At 36:50 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a rushed hook up and bad aim. At 43:30 another listener writes in to ask if the ex-boyfriend she was hooking up with just ghosted her. At what point should you admit that you’re keeping someone around because you’re comfortable together? At 54:45 an emailer asks if her love for her sick dog will an obstacle for finding a relationship. Then at 1:11:30 they are joined by the Season 16 winner of American Idol, Maddie Poppe. Jared tells the story of how they first met and Maddie talks about dating someone she met on the show. Does it put pressure on a couple if your relationship is public? They close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring Maddie’s take on expressing your love via Instagram. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an explanation of why men love The Rock and women are obsessed with Beyoncé. At 17:45 a listener writes in to ask why people choose to unmatch on dating apps. Also, how late is too late to cancel a date? At 35:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a messy apartment and an air mattress. Is a messy apartment past a certain age a deal breaker? At 49:00 another listener asks if it’s okay to be mad at her boyfriend for sitting on another girl’s lap. Is a grown man sitting on someone’s lap too weird to ignore? At 56:50 an emailer asks if it’s acceptable to tell her boyfriend what to wear to a formal wedding they’re attending. They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker all about being comfortable. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick off the show with a conversation about Jared’s trip to Napa and how hard it is to fulfill your partner’s expectations. Is everyone just comparing their own relationship to the people around them? At 18:50 a listener writes in to ask what your drink order says about you. If someone cares about what you drink, should you second guess dating them? At 28:42 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a towel and a weird habit in the middle of the night. At 43:40 another listener asks if for advice after messing up his vacation plans with his girlfriend. Is she the one being unreasonable, or should he have planned ahead? At 1:00:20 they give some advice to an emailer who’s in a relationship with someone that never wants to sleep over. Is she putting too much pressure on him to live up to the standard of her former relationship? They finish the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a very weird Would You Rather. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour   Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a debate about what counts as the first date when calculating your anniversary. Should you start counting from your very first date even if you kept seeing other people early on? At 14:20 they respond to an email about what to do when somebody constantly threatens to break up with you. Is this purely manipulation or just their way of slowly getting out of the relationship? At 25:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a nightmare scenario with a tampon and a trip to urgent care. At 40:40 a listener writes in to ask if she should leave her boyfriend for withholding an important piece of information about his past. At 58:20 an emailer thinks her boyfriend might be gay. Is it ever okay to ask a guy about his sexuality? They finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with a recap of their weekends and give tips on how to make the best wedding speech possible. They talk about what to do when your significant other is suspicious of something on your clothes or body. Does every bruise deserve an explanation? At 23:34 they respond to an email about what to do when the person you’re dating never wants to travel to your neighborhood. Is it okay to expect your significant other to travel to you even if you live in a worse area? At 34:55 a listener shares a story about a guy who stayed the night and masturbated after she left for work. Another listener writes in to ask what she should do after finding out her friend is dating the same guy she matched with. Should they come clean or keep living a real life episode of the Bachelor? At 1:08:42 they close out the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Fabletics: Get 2 leggings for only $24 ($99 value) when you sign up for VIP by going to Fabletics.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a listener DM about a friend who constantly responds to her boyfriend’s Instagram stories. Does she have a right to be upset with her boyfriend for not shutting it down? At 24:10 they respond to an email about what to do when you don’t like a close friend’s significant other. Is it ever okay to tell them that the person they’re dating sucks? The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a broken window and an unpaid bill. At 42:50 a listener asks why guys on dating apps aren’t willing to have a back-and-forth convo anymore. Another listener writes in to ask about her first long-term relationship and whether or not she should stick it out. If you’re happy 90% of the time, should that be good enough? At 1:12:20 they close out the show with a Red Flag or Deal Breaker about literally sleeping like a baby. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! Flamingo: Visit ShopFlamingo.com/UUP for 25% off the Flamingo Bare Bundle! Function of Beauty: Go to FunctionofBeauty.com/UUP to get 20% off your custom formula! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J kick off the show with the latest details on the U Up? LIVE national tour, including how you can get your chance to be part of the show. At 10:40 they answer a question about whether or not it’s okay to put your IG handle in a dating app profile. At 23:00 they talk about the iMessage double tap and what it means if a person you’re dating uses it. The Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a tray of vegetables, ranch dressing, and a bop on the nose. At 40:30 a listener asks what it means when a friend says that you can “do better” than the person you’re dating. What are you even supposed to do with that information? Another listener writes in to ask whether or not she should give her boyfriend a marriage ultimatum. When is it okay to ask a guy for a timeline? At 1:16:10 they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a ‘Would You Rather’ involving PDA. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Thanks to our sponsors... Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP! ThirdLove: Go to ThirdLove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an exciting announcement... UUp? LIVE is going on a national tour! They share the list of all 20 cities the show is coming to this year. At 15:10 they dive into a conversation about texting in a relationship, including how to tell if you’re really being ghosted. A listener writes in to ask how to avoid coming on too strong over text after just three dates. At 35:35 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features shower sex that went so bad it resulted in circumcision. At 46:15 they respond to an email from a guy who struggles to connect with new women he meets. Do girls ever really want to be approached in public? Another listener writes in to ask why a guy ghosted her after a great first date. Do we need to redefine what it means to be ghosted? At 1:07:55 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE tour is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets on pre-sale before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour and using promo code UUPLIVE Thanks to our sponsor... StoryWorth: For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/UUP when you subscribe! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J start the show with an impromptu conversation about outside pressure to get engaged. Why is the default conversation for so many women to ask each other when the proposal is coming? At 17:20 a listener writes in wondering when it’s okay to ask someone if they’re open to being in a relationship. Is there ever really a good time to ask, or is this the wrong approach altogether? At 40:00 they answer an email from a guy who blew it on the first date and immediately got put in the friend zone. Can you ever recover once you’re put in that category? Another listener asks why she can’t seem to get guys to date her despite being “intimidatingly attractive” and successful. Has anyone ever been too hot to date, or is she just kidding herself? At 1:00:10 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Away- For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/UUP and use promo code UUP during checkout! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and start the show with a conversation about girls taking on the role of vacation planner in a relationship. Why does it seem like it’s always on women to keep things exciting? At 17:30 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week features a latex glove and a lot of confusion. At 34:35 a listener writes in to ask if it’s weird that her boyfriend refuses to share his phone passcode. Does this guy have something to hide, or is he just protecting his own privacy? At 49:45 they play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Then at 59:07 they’re joined by Dr. Helen Fisher, Chief Scientific Advisor to Match.com, to talk about how the way millennials are dating differs from generations before them. They discuss the “slow love” dating trend that results in longer lasting and more committed relationships. Why are people sleeping together faster and falling in love slower? Dr. Fisher explains why first dates are less common today and seem to carry more weight than they did in the past. At 1:20:00 they talk about the best way to approach dating apps and close the show with a conversation about the difference between how men and women set their friends up. Thanks to our sponsors! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick off with news about the Red Flag or Dealbreaker card game, and Jared reveals where he’s headed for the long holiday weekend. At 16:30, the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a guy who came over for dinner and just wouldn’t leave. Is the second date too soon to cook dinner for someone? At 24:55 a listener writes in to ask how to pass a guy she's no longer interested in dating off to a friend. Does any guy really want to be set up by someone they’re hooking up with? At 35:20 they’re joined by comedian Ronny Chieng of Crazy Rich Asians and The Daily Show. They dive into the concept of sexual racism and discuss why people are so resistant to acknowledging their biases. What’s the difference between having a “type” and just being flat out racist in your sexual choices? At 105:30 they react to a listener-submitted text exchange that’s mildly racist and definitely inconsiderate. Is this guy rude or just really into his body? At 1:25:00 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Check out Ronny’s Daily Show story about sexual racism here: Sexual Racism: When Preferences Become Discrimination Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about Jordana’s trip to Mexico and Jared shares a family rule for weekend beach trips. They tell us what you should and shouldn’t put on the bachelorette party itinerary. At 15:00 they ask whether or not you need to tell the person you’re with about past hookups. This leads to a story about Jared’s ex having a weirdly close friendship with a guy friend. At 47:05 the Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week starts with a guy carrying home street furniture and ends with him cutting a chunk of his date’s hair off. At 1:02:45 a listener writes in to ask if a relationship can survive a dramatic body transformation or do insecurities get in the way? Another listener asks if she should be concerned that her boyfriend follows a stripper on Instagram and likes all her pictures. At 1:21:00 they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, and play a new game called Would You Call Off the Wedding. Thanks to our sponsors! Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back to talk about moving in together with your boyfriend. Is the end of your lease a good enough reason to talk about getting a place together? At 25:10 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves a ‘Hey Arnold’ DVD, bad kissing skills, and a guy who can’t get it up. When is it time to just admit that a hook-up isn’t going well? At 40:50 a listener writes in to ask if she is being too picky with guys on dating apps. At 53:20 another listener asks if she says “I love you” too often to her boyfriend. At 1:04:35 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return to declare cuffing season officially over. They start by talking about the new phenomenon of guys making their location status on dating apps their office in the city when they actually live in the suburbs. At 27:50 they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the Week which features a passionate make-out, a peanut allergy, and an emergency trip to the pharmacy. At 39:10 a listener writes in wondering how to reintroduce condoms into a sexual relationship with a guy who she’s not exclusive with. At 50:45 a listener writes in wondering why dating app compliments lead to guys being too sexual on dating apps. At 1:01:35 they play red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Cameo- Browse through more than 10,000 celebrities and get a personalized video shoutout on Cameo.com. Use promo code UUP for 20 percent off! Cheers- To order, visit CHEERSHEALTH.COM and enter promo code UUP at checkout to Get 10% off your first order, plus a free gift! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back asking the tough hypothetical questions. Is some amount of jealousy in a relationship actually healthy? At 20:40 they breakdown their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a new relationship, a hometown trip, and a 3AM switcheroo. At 34:00 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend is sexually distant because he’s nervous about their impending move in together. At 46:40 they’re joined by Vinny Guadagnino of MTV’s “Jersey Shore” and “Double Shot At Love” to talk about performing at Chippendales, sex without kissing and dating 20 women on national television with his pal, DJ Pauly D. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Order today and get 15% off your purchase for a limited time at leesa.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Myro- Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5! Visit mymyro.com/UUP and use promo code UUP. Cameo App- For 20% off site-wide, visit Cameo.com and enter promo code UUP. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back asking the tricky question, how do we ask for more sex in relationships? At 14:45 an undersexed listener writes in wondering what to do about his girlfriend’s sex drive not matching up with his. At 32:25 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a lack of protection, a blowjob, and an inconvenient nap. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s doing something to repel men from dating her more seriously. At 50:50 a newly single listener writes in wondering if he’s scaring dates away because he gives off too much of a relationship vibe. At 59:25 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsor! Third Love- Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra... and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J are back to defend all the basic bitches in the world. Obviously people are going to Iceland because it’s fun, what’s there to be embarrassed about? At 22:20 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to see her BF in one of his female friend’s profile pictures. At 37:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a wearable vibrator, an uncooperative Alexa, and fumbled attempt at ass play. At 48:10 a listener writes in wondering what is the proper way to break up with someone after having her engagement cancelled via text message. At 1:03:00 a listener writes in wondering if she should help her financially strapped BF pay for her engagement ring. At 1:14:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of- For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Cheers- To order, visit Cheershealth.com and enter promo code UUP at checkout to Get 10% off your first order and a free gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J return to give you their latest opinions on Netflix’s hit show “Dating Around”. At 25:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a hot bowl of ramen and a blow job. At 31:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after discovering that a guy she’s dating has some very well documented legal troubles. At 40:25 a listener writes in wondering if she should keep a potential relationship option open because a guy still follows her on Instagram. At 48:30 a listener writes in wondering if a girl who’s “not looking to date right now” is really just not looking to date him. At 53:20 they play red flag or deal breaker. Check out our red flag or deal breaker video! www.youtube.com/watch?v=scXh8k5x-DM&t=23s Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J return and they both need a little “me” time. Jordana tries to anticipate some issues she might run into once she moves in with her boyfriend. At 13:00 they discuss how to handle having a friend tell you they saw your significant other on a dating app. At 28:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a mysterious floating turd and a very unsexy naked cleanup. At 39:40 a listener writes in wondering how long she should have to wait for a guy that’s dragging his feet to define their relationship. At 55:40 they’re joined by Nev Schulman and Laura Perlongo who give dating advice through the eyes of a married couple and play red flag or deal breaker. Check out our red flag or deal breaker video! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=scXh8k5x-DM&t=23s Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today. Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back to talk about erectile dysfunction. They discuss Jordana’s bachelorette trip to Colombia and her upcoming move-in plans with her boyfriend. At 27:45 a listener asks how to deal with dating a guy who can’t get it up. Is there any right way to react when this happens? At 41:00 the awkward sexual encounter of the week involves vomiting during oral and a questionable ‘courtesy tap.’ At 59:35 they answer a listener’s email asking why she can’t find a relationship that sticks, and another from a listener who questions if she should invite a guy to be her plus-one to a destination wedding. At 1:12:45 they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back and they’re talking about Netflix’s classy dating show “Dating Around.” Jared has a full breakdown of the dating adventures of Luke, the basic bitch of NYC men. At 37:35 they dissect their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a series of very loud queefs, and absolutely no bodily control. At 53:27 a listener writes in wondering when, how and where is the best time to say “I Love You” for the first time. At 1:07:20 a listener writes in wondering how to date while living abroad in a place where she doesn’t want to live long term. At 1:15:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. It only features the best spots. Download in the app store today. Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! Lola- For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter UUP when you subscribe! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back and they’re asking a question that has been tough for women for a long time, “how do you hit on a guy at the gym?” Jared insists that a single man is never bothered by a female approaching him. At 22:19 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week that includes a long trail of hints around an apartment that leads to intercourse. At 39:55 a listener writes in wondering how to decipher a coded text from her BF to his ex that hints at a secret hookup. At 54:20 a divorced listener writes in wondering when the right time is to tell a new girl he’s dating that he’s had a vasectomy. At 1:15:15 they play red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Starz- Tune in to 'Now Apocolypse' March 10th on Starz! Skorch- Skorch makes it fun and easy to find the best places to go. It's not like a regular app, it's a cool app. Go to the app store and download Skorch today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J return to answer the question that has plagued a generation, “how long should you wait to sleep with someone you’re dating?” At 35:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a trail of red flags, several apologies and some dentures. At 47:20 a listener writes in wondering what guys will think of a woman in her 30s who lives with her parents. At 1:03:20 a listener writes in wondering how to avoid feeling jealous about her BF taking a boys trip to Greece. At 1:11:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $29.99. Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVESt.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J return to close out cuffing season by asking the age old question “what makes a guy decide to settle down?” Jared insists it’s all about instinct. At 27:20 they break down their weird sexual encounter of the week which involves fingers, a vagina, and a caliente jalapeño pepper. At 33:00 a listener writes in wondering what she did to get ghosted after dating a guy for 3 months. At 49:10 a listener wonders if she’s wrong to ask an ex if he’s with someone new after seeing a new girl in his Instagram story right after the split. Thanks to our sponsors! Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Cove- Got migraines? With Cove, there’s finally a way to get the help you need when you need it. And when you use our link you’ll get your first month of treatment for free. Go to WithCove.com/uup . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Murmrr Theatre in Brooklyn. At 5:20 they ask the question “how honest should we be during a softcore breakup?” At 21:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 36:15 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Yamaneika Saunders. At 57:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back just in time for Valentine’s Day. While Jordana has planned a romantic magic show/dinner for her BF, Jared hasn’t made plans and is riding the excuse train into the station. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering if there’s a non-cliché way to be sexy in lingerie after buying a teddy to turn on her BF. At 26:25 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features dirty tampons and a period fetish. At 41:40 a listener writes in wondering if she was out of line for being upfront about her preference to keep a relationship casual. At 54:20 a listener writes in wondering if she’s overreacting to being blown off by a mom recommended set-up. At 1:03:30 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. Thanks to our sponsors Fab, Fit, Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! Flamingo- Get a set with all your shave essentials from Flamingo, a $22 value, for just $16 plus free shipping today when you visit shopflamingo.com/UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Underground Arts in Philadelphia. At 4:40 they ask the question “how do I deal with an office hookup gone awry?” At 15:30 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 30:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker” with special guest, Ghee Funny. At 48:10 they tell some hard truths when deciphering text messages in a “Deal Reveal.” A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared return to talk about Valentine’s Day anxiety. Is Valentine’s day the most romantic day of the year, or is it really a deadline for deciding whether you’re in or out in a new relationship? At 17:00 they debate if it’s better to send V-day flowers to a girl’s office or her apartment. At 25:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a forced dental flossing. At 38:50 a listener writes in wondering how to transition out of drinking-only dates to ones with a larger variety of activities. At 1:00:30 a listener writes in wondering how a guy she was dating who knows her mom could feel so comfortable ghosting her. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker. A Huge thank you to our sponsors! Fab Fit Fun-Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVEST.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at Sixth And I in Washington, DC. At 7:40 they ask the question”why do women keep getting stuck dating guys who aren’t ready for a relationship?” At 24:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:25 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker." At 57:10 they dissect their enigmatic “Deal Reveal”. A huge thank you to our sponsors Ship- Download Ship at https://itunes.apple.com/US/app/id1448104758?mt=8 Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pourri before you go toilet spray today at www.poopourri.com/ Kendra Scott- Go to https://www.kendrascott.com/ and use promo code “Betches” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J have returned from their live tour! They start by talking about what a low-key blessing it is to be a third wheel in social scenarios when you’re a single person looking to meet someone. At 20:20 they talk about why a guy would un-match a girl on a dating app. At 28:10 they do a Rom Com breakdown focusing on whether or not Jim and Pam have a healthy relationship on “The Office.” At 42:33 a listener writes in wondering if guys will think she’s a loser because she only has 3 friends. At 59:55 a listener writes in wondering which one of his new girlfriends to invite to his housewarming party. At 1:06:50 they play some Red Flag or Deal Breaker with some listener submitted scenarios. Thanks to our sponsors! Just Fab-NOW is the time to sign up as a VIP because right now, you’ll get your first JustFab style for as low as $10! Go to JUSTFAB.com/UUP NOW to get this exclusive VIP offer. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Fab Fit Fun-Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared are back with a huge announcement! Not only are they coming to DC, Philly and Brooklyn this weekend, but Betches has finally launched their new dating app, Ship! It’s the latest avenue for you to meet your awkward sexual encounter with the help of your friends. This week a woman writes in who created a website to market herself in lieu of using the dating apps. At 25:30 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which includes so much blood (from some dude’s nose). At 35:40 a listener writes in wondering if she’s out of line for not wanting her BF to be a groomsman in a wedding where she won’t know anyone. Another listener wonders how a guy she was dating could break up with her out of nowhere after an amazing weekend together. At 1:05:00 they play red flag or deal breaker. Check out Ship at betches.co/ship Thanks to our sponsors! Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared return with a Jared undergoing a personal dating dilemma. What should you expect when you ‘come out’ as a couple on Instagram? At 21:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week featuring a fresh pubic shave and an ungraceful assisted masturbation. At 39:30 they are joined by comedian Chris Distefano who helps them understand the world of dating as a single parent. At 1:15:20 Chris sits in on some “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” games. Thanks to our sponsors! Daily Harvest- Go to DAILY-HARVEST.com and enter promo code UUP to get three cups FREE in your first box! Kopari- Go to KOPARIBEAUTY.com/UP to make the safe switch today, and save five-dollars off your first order when you subscribe! FabFitFun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s return with famed influencer, Violet Benson of ‘Daddy Issues.’ They start by talking about the differences between the Los Angeles and New York dating scenes. At 10:00 Violet talks about her experience dating professional athletes. At 17:45 a listener writes in wondering how to get better oral from a selfish lover. At 31:20 they dig into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes clown makeup, some rope, and tickling. At 40:50 a listener writes in wondering what to do after a guy took a picture of her naked without her consent post hookup. At 55:15 a listener writes in wondering what to make of a boyfriend’s cryptic Venmo payment to a model/stripper after a bachelor party. At 1:06:15 they play ‘Red Flag or Deal Breaker’ including “their friends don’t like you.” Thanks to our sponsors Care/of- Take advantage of this month’s special New Year offer! For 50% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, go to www.TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP50 Fab,Fit,Fun- Check out www.FABFITFUN.com and use the code "UUP" so you can save 40% off your first box, making it only $29.99! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are here to help you shake off your 2018 hangover. They start by answering a DM that Jared received from a listener wondering if guys are turned off if you have too many thirst traps on your Instagram. At 17:00 a listener writes in wondering how important of a role religion should play when you’re considering dating someone. At 28:15 they take on their awkward sexual experience of the week in which a woman finds out her hookup has a fetish for diaper play. At 39:20 a listener writes in wondering if her boyfriend only likes her because she likes sports after receiving a horribly ugly sports sweatshirt from him as a gift. At 49:00 a listener writes in wondering how to get back the power after hooking up with a guy who refused to date her. At 60:00 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “they constantly roast you in front of your friends,” “they read the whole iTunes privacy update,” and “they Venmo request you after every meal.” Thanks to our sponsors! Skorch- Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch. Thirdlove- Go to thirdlove.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and the Christmas break isn’t slowing them down. At 7:20 a listener writes in asking if lying about your age on dating apps is acceptable. At 22:30 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week in which a listener breaks her nose on black ice but continues hooking up anyway. At 30:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s weird to update a dating app profile picture while casually dating someone. At 53:00 a listener writes in wondering if it’s mean to give a guy her phone number in an attempt to be nice even if she has no intention of meeting up with him. At 1:08:40 they play red flag or deal breaker including “they show you pictures of people they used to hook up with on a third date” and “they speak with unidentified European accent but they grew up in NJ.” This episode is presented by Skorch! Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back just in time for Christmas. At 6:50 they discuss the best way for a single person to approach the dreaded New Year’s Eve kiss. At 14:50 a listener writes in wondering if she should give her bf permission to get a happy ending massage while they’re on vacation…together. At 33:50 they analyze whether or not the Carrie/Big relationship from Sex & The City is a healthy one? Is it a great love story or is Big just a douchebag? At 48:15 a listener writes in wondering how to tell her long distance hookup that her commute to see him is making her broke. At 1:02:35 they play some games including a new one called “sane or psycho”. This episode is presented by Skorch! Skorch is a new platform that shows you only the best spots. Get Skorch in the App Store and follow Skorch on social at @GetSkorch. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and joined by author of the cover story for The Atlantic’s December edition, “The Sex Recession”, Kate Julian. Kate’s research led her to the conclusion that millennials are having less sex than older generations. At 3:20 they talk about the Japanese phenomenon of sex through artificial intelligence and whether or not the trend will spread across the planet. At 11:55 they dissect whether or not sex is also down amongst married couples. At 16:20 they discuss whether the Me Too movement is affecting the downward trend in sexual encounters. At 30:50 they talk dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week where a guy’s partner says another man’s name during sex. At 42:30 a listener writes in wondering if moving to a new city might lead to an instant relationship with someone out of comfort. At 1:05:55 a listener writes in wondering if it’s a red flag that she’s never had a boyfriend at the ripe age of 23. At 1:18:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including- “everything is perfect but they’re obsessed with sitar music” “the person is absolutely perfect but when they have kids they would like to feed them like a baby bird (where someone chews up their food for them and feeds it to their child)” “ALL of their friends are of the opposite sex. Girl with all male friends, guy with all female friends” and “Only watches Netflix with the subtitles on”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Zola-To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Storyworth-For $20 off, visit storyworth.com/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back. This week they start the show with a question from a listener who asks if it’s possible to date without social media in 2018. Jared thinks that someone who quits social media usually does it because they’re going through something. At 31:00 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which includes a soft core hookup and an R. Kelly smash hit. At 46:40 a listener writes in wondering how to bring up weight gain to a significant other in a relationship. At 1:03:00 a listener writes in wondering if a guy that she’s seeing is not that interested in her because their text/social media interactions don’t seem enthusiastic. At 1:14:45 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They love stupid and cringey graphic tees and wear them 99% of the time.” “they celebrate Santa-con at the age of 30 or older.” and “they run a very active celebrity Instagram fan account”. Thanks to our sponsors! Hydrant- Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off Care/of- For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP Be A Hero- To learn more and watch the video visit www.beyondbatten.org/hero Text HERO to 501501 to donate $10 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back. With the holiday in their rearview, they wonder, is Thanksgiving Eve the best night of the year to hookup? At 10:15 they discuss their first classic rom-com scenario breaking down the iconic Ross/Rachel break argument from “Friends.” At 29:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which features a blowjob, weed infused honey, and a slice of buffalo chicken pizza. At 42:50 a listener writes in wondering if she’s giving off a vibe to married men that she’s mistress material. At 56:10 a listener writes in wondering how to handle a problem with ED after a pivotal first sexual encounter with a new girlfriend. At 109:40 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “their dad is their roommate during the week,” “they insist on recording all dates or outings on insta stories starting with “hey everyone” to their 103 followers,” and “they frequently get into fights on facebook in the comments of popular videos.” Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Lola- For 40% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter UUP when you subscribe! Ritual- Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and they’re coming to a city near you! With upcoming shows in Brooklyn, DC, and Philadelphia the audience has some questions. At 6:30 a listener writes in wondering if it’s too soon to bring her new BF to UUp Live. At 25:05 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week which features the story of a hookup that ended with the man taking his soiled condom with him after sex. At 40:20 a listener writes in wondering why a guy who seemed into her the night before would disappear and unfollow her on Instagram. At 49:40 a listener writes in wondering if her BF is thinking about sex way too much. At 1:01:10 they play red flag or deal breaker which includes : “they’re scared of flying and refuse to go near an airport”, “has Christmas decorations in their apartment in October”, “they have political signs of everyone they’ll vote for and leave them up weeks after the election”. Thanks to our sponsors! Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Hydrant- After drinking you pee out a ton of water, and also a ton of electrolytes (you don't just sweat them out!). Maximum Strength Hydration with the right balance of electrolytes will help you rehydrate, be healthier the next day, and ultimately feel better. Go to drinkhydrant.com/uup for 25% off. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back and ready to talk about affairs. After reading Esther Perel’s “A State of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity” Jordana explains the hypothesis of why cheating and relationships have changed from generation to generation. Older generations seem to have settled and gotten married younger leading to a ton of cheating whereas millenials live a lot more life and date tons of people before they settle down. At 37:00 their weird sexual encounter comes from a listener who had a sleepover with a bed wetter. At 53:00 a listener looking for a spark with a new guy writes in wondering how long you can continue to date a guy while still being on the fence about him. At 1:01:40 a listener writes in wondering if it’s worth it to work out a relationship with a boyfriend who has turned cold and mean. At 1:11:50 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “everything is perfect but they live above, or in a funeral home”, “everything is perfect but they’re a mascot for a semi pro-sports team.” Thanks To Our Sponsors Leesa- The Leesa mattress is the product of 30 years of experience and hundreds of hours of rigorous product testing. Designed for body contouring and pressure relief, the Leesa mattress is perfect for all sleepers. Shop conveniently online with free shipping and 100 nights to try the mattress in your own home. Get $150 off the Leesa mattress + a free pillow at leesa.com/UUP Teami Blends- Teami Blends Detox Mask has ingredients like matcha, and bentonite clay and it smells like a spa. Get yours today and use promo code UUP25 at checkout for 25% off any order. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and they’re joined by award winning journalist and director/producer of “Swiped: Hooking Up In The Digital Age,” Nancy Jo Sales. Nancy’s documentary explores the landscape of dating in the era of swipe apps and social media for better or for worse. They discuss the morality of the apps from their invention to their execution and the culture built around it. At 1:00:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a new relationship that may become long distance very soon. At 1:10:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including: “They refuse to pay for Spotify premium”, “facetiming someone before you’ve even met,” “he’s on the Buzzfeed hottest mugshot list.” Thanks to our sponsors! Zola- Zola, the wedding company that will do anything for love, is reinventing the wedding planning and registry experience to make the happiest moment in couples' lives even happier. To start your free wedding website and also get $50 off your registry on Zola, go to ZOLA.com/UUP Thirdlove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering our listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Happy Halloween from the J’s. Jordana is planning to force her bf into a couples costume, which believe it or not, Jared is opposed to feeling that couples costumes are all about ownership. At 12:45 they discuss a controversial article proclaiming that dating without texting is the absolute best. At 32:35 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week which could be either a bad joke or a Freudian disaster. At 38:30 a listener writes in to ask if she can bring her boyfriend home for the holidays despite his abysmal table manners. At 53:13, an overworked betch with no time to go out writes in looking for advice on how to meet guys since the dating apps have been letting her down. At 1:05:10 they play Red Flag Or Deal Breaker including, “you’re on a first date and find out it’s their birthday”, and “they have $200,000 in student loans”. Thanks to our sponsors: Leesa-Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Ritual-Whether you’re living life—or creating it—why not add some good looking science into your daily routine? Visit ritual.com/UUP to start your ritual today! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back. Jared is looking for the party, but Jordana confesses that she doesn’t go out anymore, unless she’s going to a wedding. They agree that weddings are much different for single people than they are for couples and it affects whether or not people will have fun at them. At 18:00 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week as a listener writes in wondering if it’s hot or gross when a guy licks and swallows his own bodily fluids. At 27:30 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her husband who is still texting an old ex-girlfriend. At 44:40 a confused listener writes in trying to figure out if a guy she’s talking to likes her despite his inconsistent texting habits. At 1:00:02 Johnny Bananas joins the show to talk about “The Challenge”, dating on reality TV and play “Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.” Thanks to our sponsor Leesa! Get up to $160 off the Leesa mattress or $235 off the luxury Sapira mattress and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/UUP Thanks to our sponsor Care/of! For 25% off your first month of personalized Care/of vitamins, visit TakeCareOf.com and enter UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back and this week the show’s theme relates to initiating romantic contact with a guy without coming on too strong. At 13:25 a listener writes in asking how to make a romantic introduction with an old college crush who she has always had chemistry with. At 35:50 they talk about their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener who is wondering if he was gaslighted by a girl who tricked him into thinking he finished sexually without knowing it. At 47:00 a listener writes in wondering what to do about a girl he’s dating who’s hoping for exclusivity, but not a relationship. At 58:30 they take a letter from a listener who is going on a vacation with an ex that she recently broke up with. At 1:05:30 they play red flag or deal breaker including “he/she writes inspirational quotes on their wrists” and “they want to have ONLY joint social media accounts after you get married.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live in Dallas, TX. At 8:15 they talk about the best opening lines to use on dating apps. At 22:00 they do the lord’s work and conduct a dating app profile makeover for a listener that needs some help. At 39:00 they are joined by Raven Gates of “The Bachelor” to play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker. At 55:40 they dissect their “Deal Reveal” wondering why guys get off the hook for playing dumb after things get intimate. At 1:07:35 they talk about the “Awkward Sexual Encounter Of The Week” and it gets a little messy. At 1:17:20 they are joined by Poo Pourri VIP of creative, Nicole Story, to uncover some “Poo-tastrophes” from the audience. At 1:24:00 they go into the audience and listen to some of their horrible dating stories. A huge thank you to our sponsor Poo-Pourri! Pick up your Poo-Pouri before you go toilet spray today at https://www.poopourri.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back with an ep you won’t want to miss. This week’s topic is longer term relationships and they discuss The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. They discuss the question of what it means to love someone versus being “in love” with them. At 34:30, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy gets off to a very specific part of his body being licked. At 44:44, they take a letter from a listener dealing with a toxic ex who keeps making contact. At 53:00, they a letter from a listener who tells a guy he can spend the night, but she won’t sleep with him. He proceeds to take his phone out and show her a group chat where him and his boys share pics of women. What gives? After they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “you have to spend all major holidays at their parents’ house” and “they don’t believe in vaccines.” Thanks to our sponsors! Fab Fit Fun- Use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. ThirdLove- ThirdLove knows there’s a perfect bra for everyone, so right now they are offering listeners 15% off their first order! Go to THIRDLOVE.com/UUP now to find your perfect-fitting bra… and get 15% off your first purchase! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back, hot off their live show in Dallas. They briefly discuss how men ask a few close friends about new partners, while women get opinions from around 70 people. At 15:05, they take their first email from a listener who notices her friend’s boyfriend’s Tinder profile is up with a fresh profile pic as soon as she goes on vacation. At 24:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a listener finds that sex is ruined by an affectionate canine. At 34:37, they take another letter from a listener asking about her boyfriend who drinks too much. His drunken episodes are becoming a pattern, but she’s not sure what to do about it. At 45:55, they are joined by Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine of Girls Gotta Eat podcast to respond to listeners and play some games. At 47:49 they take a letter from a listener who meets a guy at a wedding and it seems like love at first sight. He buys a non-refundable flight to visit her, but then bails at the last second. What gives? They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: their favorite movie is Paul Blart: Mall Cop. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J squad is back with another ep you won’t want to miss. At 15:15, a listener asks what to do about a friend whose new guy is clearly a bunch of trouble, but she just won’t react to a ton of red flags. At 25:50, they take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy puts a girl into a sex position that seems straight out of Cirque du Soleil. At 35:50, they take an email from a listener who occasionally hooks up with a guy, but he texts her every single day and it’s getting to be a bit much. What should she do? At 47:14, they take another letter from a listener who was badly burned by a girlfriend of three years who left him for her coworker. He can’t seem to shake it. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears the same thing on your first ten dates and is really mean to waitstaff but leaves a 50% tip. Thanks to our sponsor, FabFitFun. Listeners to U Up? can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js are back. They briefly discuss an article that says 18-year-old women get the most swipes and the most responses on dating apps. At 19:42, they take an email from a listener whose friend decides to like all of her crush’s pics on Insta using her account. Now, he's gone cold. At 37:20, they take another email from a recently single listener who can’t stop Insta stalking her ex even though he has a new girlfriend. At 43:38, they are joined by Corinne Fisher of Guys We F*cked and Two Less Lonely Girls. They talk about slut-shaming and then take the Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a DJ who has some wild role playing requests. At 1:10:00, they wrap up with some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: a burglar breaks into your home and they run into the closet without you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The duo of Js returns with another bonus ep from their unreal night at the Comedy Cellar’s Village Underground. It’s a wild one. The topic this time around: what to do if a guy booty calls you after a date? At 8:08, they read an email about a Hinge date that went well but then he seemingly just wants sex. She is looking for a response that doesn’t make her look like a “ho”. At 16:55, they do a dating app makeover where they go through a girl’s profile and discuss the various kinds of bikini pics - and whether it’s OK or not to have one. At 32:50 they bring on their special guest, HBO star and Host of the White House Correspondent’s Dinner, Michelle Wolf. At 39:41, they do some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including: “makes instagrams for his cars”, “loves shitting at public restrooms” and “has 5 roommates.” At 57:50, they do a deal reveal, where they read a letter from a listener who has been friends with a guy for 6 years and finally decides to give it a shot. He’s acting weird so what’s his deal? At 1:18:00, they begin taking questions from the audience and things get wild. Don’t miss the story at 1:23:50 where a girl hurts herself during sex in an unbelievable way and is debating Venmo-ing the guy for the hospital bill. Thanks to our sponsors P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP Beau Undies: Sign up at beauundies.com using our special promo code BETCHES to try it out and get your first undie for just $3! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Js return with an episode about meeting your S/O’s friends. At 11:17, they take an email from a listener who has gone on a few great dates, but then ends up at loud bars surrounded by her date’s friends. Is this normal? Also when is it OK to leave? At 20:00, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week that ends with a trip to Planned Parenthood. At 36:22, they take a letter from a listener talking who can’t get over her insecurity and jealousy. At 45:07, they take another letter from a listener who split with her boyfriend, but noticed that he left pictures of the two of them on Instagram. Could this mean anything? At 1:05:33, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Deal Breaker: gets all their dating advice from their mom. Listeners to the U UP? Podcast can use coupon code "UUP" for $10 off your first box at www.fabfitfun.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J Squared is back with a bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: How to be an excellent stalker. At 6:02- A listener writes in wondering if it’s flattering to find out that your current hookup is stalking your ex. At 22:00 Hillary from Hoboken joins J and J for a dating app makeover. She’s looking for the Jewish boy of her dreams. At 37:00, they are joined by Matteo Lane. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "they put their credit score up as a picture on their dating app" and "insists you call their parents mom and dad as soon as you meet them." At 56:00 they re-enact their Awkward Sexual Encounter of the week. A listener encloses a full Bumble conversation and wants to know why the guy she was messaging suddenly disappeared from the app. At 1:17:10 they are joined by audience members looking for dating advice. Thanks to our sponsors SKORCH: Click https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/skorch/id1001454679?mt=8 to download the app today. P.VOLVE: Get 30 days free access to P.volve’s streaming service by visiting http://my.pvolve.com/offer/betches and typing in the code UUP SMART SWEETS: Go to SmartSweets.com and get free shipping on your first order of $30 or more using code “Betches” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jor and Jar return for an amazing episode about going deep into peoples’ social media profiles. Jared says you know you’ve gone too far when you hit a bar mitzvah. At 16:57, they take a letter from a listener who went on several dates with a guy only for him to bail on one because he “needed to nap.” After some stalking, the listener discovers he was liking food pics on Insta. What gives? At 31:14, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a dental student stuck his finger in a girl’s mouth in an unsexual way. At 40;11, they take a letter from a listener who's displeased with her merely financially adequate boyfriend. He doesn’t have the drive to earn more. What should she do? At 53:25, they take another letter from a female listener who’s hooking up with a guy and he decides things are moving too fast. He says he wants to start from scratch and cut the sex out of the picture. Is this a thing? After they wrap up on some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including “still believes in the tooth fairy” and “has his own place, but he still has glowing stars on the ceiling.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale! Extended now through September 13: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at Leesa.com/UUP and enter promo code UUP at checkout. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dub-J are back with an episode you don’t want to miss. At 3:54, they take an email from a listener who went to block a male creeper, but when she saw her blocked list, there were several girls only her BF of a few months could’ve put there. This segues into a brief discussion of those moments when your friend breaks up with their S/O and you are inclined to sh*t-talk them, but know there’s a real chance they’ll get right back together and you’ll be cut out forever. At 30:21, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a guy’s phone goes off during sex. If he answered it and took the call, that would’ve been OK, but what this listener describes is far more weird. At 41:15, they take another email from a listener asking about "GU guys," geographically undesirable dudes. This listener seems interested and hesitant at the same time about one such man. At 50;32, a male listener writes in who can’t seem to keep a woman for longer than two to four months. Is he being too hard on himself? At 1:00:13, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: “when meeting their parents, they get into a huge screaming fight with them” and “they tried out for The Bachelor five times, but they never made it on.” This episode is brought to you by Leesa. Don’t miss Leesa’s limited time Labor Day Sale: Get up to $235 off and free shipping on the Leesa mattress at leesa.com/uup Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J squared are back. They start off discussing "Attached" by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller, a book that casts people into three groups: the anxious, the avoidant, and the secure. At 30:04, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl describes an encounter with a guy who strategically refused to remove his pants. At 50:14, they take an email from a listener who asked a guy she's been dating for four months to attend a wedding with her. He refused. Now what? At 57:34, they take another letter from a girl listener whose date keeps letting her pick up the tab. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: wears a fanny pack un-ironically and gets food all over their face on a first date. This episode is presented by Leesa. Go to Leesa.com/uup or use the promo code UUP at checkout to receive $165 off your purchase of a mattress, or $235 off your purchase of a Sapira. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back. At 3:00, they take their first email about when to double text - if ever. Is sending five iMessages in a row the same as two texts? This segues into a general discussion about texting strategies. At 19:12, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a girl hooks up with a guy in her living room and subsequently locks her door. He ends up knocking on her roomie's door and it only gets weirder. At 28:11 they take their third email from a girl who is back on the apps and goes lukewarm on a guy. Yet, he seems to want to keep it together. What's really going on? At 44:53 they take another email from a listener whose BF drops that he doesn't want kids. Do guys know what this really means? Jared says they sure do. At 54:44, they wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Doesn't own a TV and they have no friends, but they're very close with their family. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After a brief discussion of "k" texts, J squared agrees that "Kk" is polite while "k" is extremely aggressive. At 12:37 they take a letter from a listener who is unsure if he should continue small talk with a suitor on a date that's a week in advance. This leads to a more general discussion of scheduling dates and how to broach small talk around them. At 38:40, they take a letter from a female listener who finally decides to swipe right on someone she knows IRL. After seeing him in a group setting after he swiped right back, she's unsure how to proceed. At 46:50. they take a letter from a listener who learned her boyfriend used to hook up with a 20-year-old when he was 30. She's a bit uncomfortable with it. Is he out of line? After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: he or she has a framed selfie of themselves in their room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back. At 3:11, they take an email about a boyfriend who has yet to post a picture of her on his Instagram. The thing is he posts A LOT. At 18:55 they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man wearing a retainer seems to misunderstand its role in sex. At 24:58, they take another email where a girlfriend goes through her boyfriend's texts and what she finds shakes her to the core. At 38:15 they take another letter from a listener whose friends' new guys went on vacation and upon their return, ghosted them. She's worried she'll suffer the same fate. At 51:35 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they have a tattoo of Daffy Duck pushing a lawnmower through their pubes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana talk about the general state of U Up? which is now recommended by some therapists. Jared tells the story of a good friend who is in a bit of an Insta situation. He thinks a girl might be into him but then she seemingly hid her Insta stories from him. At 24:22 they take a letter from a listener whose boyfriend is a lifelong friend. After a year of dating, however, he's not putting in any effort. At 38:22, they take a very literary Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. At 42:02 they are joined by Justin McLeod, the founder of Hinge who has brought with him some serious dating tips generated by Hinge's data scientists. They talk about the history of Hinge, a new feature called "Most-Compatible", and the best time to double text someone. You'll never guess how many NYT Wedding Announcements mentioned Hinge in the last year. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J are back with an amazing 90 minute episode. At 4:40, a listener writes that she was “blindsided” by her boyfriend’s choice to end their relationship because he did not feel “needed." She asks what’s the right balance between being chill and needy? At 39:11, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a man asks if his girlfriend's strange sexual technique is a thing. At 48:30, a listener is perplexed about a guy who sent her a dick pic before they'd ever even dated. Should she still go out with him? At 57:34, a listener wants to know the right time to introduce your new boyfriend to your friends. They wrap up at 1:07:19 with a couple rounds of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including "showers once every three days" and "only eats at restaurants with a Michelin Star. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J Squared is back with another bonus ep. from their epic night at the Comedy Cellar's Village Underground. The topic this time around: how to deal with the early period of dating. At 2:51, they take a letter from a very busy female listener, asking what to expect in terms of confirming dates. And what should you say in texts, anyway? "Looking forward to it," that's more for HR and "Kk" is gold. At 24:44, they play a round of Douche Detective where a girl gets a handwritten letter from a guy who went way out of his way to tell her that she was the best sex he ever had. At 37:10, they are joined by Liza Treyger. They play some Red Flag or Dealbreakers including "sneezes in their own hand twice and does nothing to clean it" and "asks how much money you make on the first date." At 54:11, they do another round of "Douche Detective" where a wishy-washy guy repeatedly creates the "illusion of planning." At 1:03:09 they take some general questions from the audience, including a woman whose boyfriend calls her "a long-term partner" but often says that he doesn't believe in monogamy. Don't miss the Q&A question at 1:07:00, where a girl asks what her trip to Thailand with her ex (of seven years) should really be about. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Everyone's favorite Js are back discussing early date activities. At 5:39, they take a letter from a listener asking about what's "too much" to ask for on a second date. Are there certain date activities you should hold off on until later in a relationship? At 21:48, Jared poses an interesting question: what's the ideal day of the week for a date? At 28:08, they take their Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week. A girl describes an encounter where during 69, her jaw gets stuck wide open, taking on the appearance of the person in Edvard Munch's 'The Scream.' It's a story that must be heard, but surprisingly leads to a serious and meaningful question. At 42:47, they take another letter from a listener who recently had an abortion and tells a recent suitor. He freaked out. Are all guys weird when it comes to this topic? At 52:50 they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: believe the Earth is flat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's summer fling and fun season. The Js start things off fast this Independence Day. At 3:40, they take a letter from a girl who's 6'1" and thinks she falls higher on the attraction scale. Are guys really intimidated by her height? This segues into a more general discussion about how to state what you want on dating websites. At 18:25, they take a Weird Sexual Encounter of the Week where a female listener talks about a guy who leaves his undies on during the act. At 27:47, a guy writes in about dating a girl where things are going well, but he knows that she's not the one. Is this a break up situation or should he wait it out and see what happens? At 44:56, they take another letter from a listener who gets set up with a guy who keeps referring to his roommate as "they" and it turns out, she's his ex. They wrap up on some games including Would You Rather: date someone with customized ring and text tones or someone who has ZERO contacts saved in their phone? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Don't miss this very special bonus episode of U Up? where Jared and Jordana take letters and play games in front of a sold-out crowd at NYC's legendary Comedy Cellar. Jordana starts things off with a story of being on a date when a homeless man asks if her and boyfriend of three months are together. He replies that she's his girlfriend. At 9:37, they take a letter from a listener who has been single for 5 years in the city and keeps getting stuck with noncommittal guys. Is her life just a classic case of "who wants to buy the cow when they can get the milk for free"? At 19:00, they do a dating app makeover for a 30-year-old New York girl who's "very single" and has been on the apps for six years. At 30:30, they are joined by former Bachelorette, Andi Dorfman, to talk about some of her dating experiences including a guy who wouldn't stop flirting and texting the bartender in front of her. At 37:29, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their email is [email protected]. Don't miss the final segment, Douche Detective, at 51:22. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are buzzing after their sold-out live show. They talk about a Twitter thread by a girl describing the perfect behavior from the perfect first date. Is high-fiving your dog a likable gesture or a romantic fairy tale IRL? They discuss social media gestures at large like praising your significant other or mother in a post. The Weird Sexual Encounter of the week involves a man who starts masturbating out of nowhere. After they take a letter from a male listener who met a “gorgeous Tinderella.” They hook up and go on a few dates, but then she seems only willing to talk on the phone or DM. What’s the deal? A second letter comes from a female listener on her way to marriage. An ex reaches out and she finds herself reaching back. They wrap up playing games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: Showed up on a date wearing a shirt that says, “Drive Fast, Eat Ass.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana deem guys who get into relationship mode too fast, "the male thirst trap." At 6:33, they take a letter from a listener on the topic who has dealt with guys who want to hold hands or kiss foreheads immediately. At 16:11, they receive their weird sexual encounter of the week - where a fajita-breathed man finishes himself off during a bathroom break while they're having sex. At 26:10, they take another letter from a listener, a girl who keeps letting her guy friends buy her dinner. Is letting guys pay merely accepting kindness or is she off the mark? At 34:54, another listener asks about her partner who keeps dissing her family. She likes his family, but does that have to mean her family sucks? At 49:20, they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: their family takes an annual trip to Disney Land. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking about Instagram thirst traps. Do they come off as desperate? Do they work? After, they debut a new segment: Weird Sexual Encounter of The Week where a guy describes a balloon situation that is truly bizarre. Another listener asks how to handle her ex of 5 years (who she's still close with) seemingly entering into a new, serious relationship. Another letter asks about proper blowjob etiquette. They wrap up on some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: shows up to brunch in Hollister/Abercrombie sweatpants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared talk about the Dobler-Dahmer Theory from How I Met Your Mother. The theory states that a big romantic gesture is either creepy or amazing based on how into the person you are. This segues into a poem-letter a listener received that is decidedly Dahmer. After they take a letter from a listener who wants his fiance to do molly with him. She's not into it. They're then joined by Taylor Strecker of the Taste of Taylor podcast. They talk about lesbians, the sexual spectrum, and when to break various things to a partner. After, they take another letter from a listener who recently discovered her bisexuality and doesn't know how/if she should broach with a guy she's been on three dates on. After they play some games including Red Flag or Dealbreaker: they go for runs in NYC wearing a helmet. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared talk Plan B, condoms and more in this particularly intimate episode. They take a letter from a listener who has been using the pull-out method and is having some issues. She breaks it to her partner that she’s not on BC. His reaction: priceless. Literally, he didn’t offer to pay the price for Plan B. A listener writes in wondering if he has to disclose that he’s cheated on a past girlfriend in a new relationship. In another letter, a listener’s boyfriend suspects her boyfriend is going to cheat on her during a bachelor party. They wrap things up with Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including “only eats McDonald’s or Burger King.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J and J talk about U Up? live shows (be sure to follow @uuppod on Instagram for updates and ticket info). They take a letter from a listener who had his heart broken using the apps in the NYC dating scene. He’s unsure how to regain his confidence without being an asshole. Another listener asks how you should answer the “How many people have you slept with?” question. Another person writes in dealing with a boyfriend who’s invited her to plenty of family events. She happily attends. Unfortunately, he’s not reciprocating. At 52:20, Jordana and Jared are joined by Andy Cohen who discusses his dating strategies, app philosophy, and more. Love Connection premieres Tuesday, May 29 at 9/8c on FOX. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana take a letter from a listener asking about the right time to start posting pictures with a new partner. A listener asks how to get out of the block/unblock cycle with an old fling. Another listener asks how to handle "the first fart" milestone in a relationship. After Jax Taylor comes and discusses a variety of issues, including dating in the entertainment business. They also play a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker, including "They tell their mother all about your sex life." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jar-dana get a letter from a listener who is the only single person in a friend group of couples. Another listener feels stuck in a pen pals situation. When does the texting stop and the real life action start? When should you quit texting back? Another letter asks when it's OK to re-follow your ex on social media. Don't miss some fire red flag or dealbreakers including their house is covered in Batman memorabilia and they sincerely insist their ex is worse than Hitler. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana's returned from Coachella. jared's decided that the people who hate on Coachella have officially become more annoying than the people who go. After a tangent into how much Jordana loves tans (a lot, but only natural) a listener asks how to extend the vacation hook-up with a dude in Costa Rica. Can a fling be resurrected? Another listener (who calls J&J Jar-dana) is curious about the right time to explain their mental health history. They wrap up on some red flags or dealbreakers, including being obsessed with Coachella, and putting artificial sweetener in wine publicly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jor and Jar start with a listener asking if it's a red flag that dudes always ask her for a pic over the apps. A girl in a new relationship asks for the protocol on her suitor of one's month's birthday - is that a gift or a dinner sitch? A pretty boy writes in to ask why his constantly complimented looks aren't translating to catching more fish in the sea. Finally, a listener writes in to ask about her roomie's new fling where her BF comes over and massages her feet - while all three of them are watching a movie. Don't miss some great red flag or dealbreakers including "had sex with an animal." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jor and Jar talk about scenes in different cities like comedy, music, and magic (are there magic open mics?). After they move on to the complications of hooking up with an ex, they take a letter from a listener who likes her new guy, but has serious qualms with his dog. Another listener asks about guys who have that "creepy Asian fetish." Finally, a woman writes in complaining about how a guy she’s dating can't seem to make the most basic of plans. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jor and Jar are joined by hilarious comedian, Matteo Lane for this special ep. Matteo brings a new perspective to the pod as someone who's seasoned at "trolling Grindr." They take a letter from a listener whose friend is convinced that her boyfriend "sleep-texted" his ex, and that he would never actually sext unfaithfully. Another listener is confused about how to handle a long-distance potential suitor; he lives 45 minutes away, does that entitle him to play the field or what? They wrap up on some games including "would you rather date an extremely cheap person, or someone who spends insanely frivolously?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J-Train and Jordana answer an email from a listener who is struggling with their virginity. Double J explain that it's just not as big of a deal as it may seem. Jordana advocates not even necessarily telling his suitor. A second female listener is a sports fanatic and can't seem to find a guy who's into it. After, a 23-year-old asks a question relating to a GF who has massive jealousy issues and is worried "anything with a vagina" is out to steal him. The Js wrap up playing a game of "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" with "singing for money on the subway" and "believing in spanking their kids." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared field a letter from a listener who wonders why past boyfriends refused to put their relationship on Facebook. Another letter asks what to do if you're hooking up with a guy but you have your period. A guy asks how to handle the apps after breaking up with his GF after three years, is it OK to start going out and to use pictures she took on his dating profile? She even did the filters... Finally, double J is joined by Hannah Bronfman, DJ and founder of HBFIT, who discusses the importance of horoscopes and married life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana field a letter from a listener who is both weirded out by the guy who doesn’t ask for the date on a dating app and the guy who asks too soon. Another letter asks how prominent weed should be in her dating profile (esp. when it’s part of her lifestyle). After a fan describes the pod as, “a Yom Kippur sermon without the guilt,” they take a question about sending exes a happy birthday text. Then they play some games including Red flag or Dealbreaker: person who signs their text messages like “Hey good to see you last night -Jared.” Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start with a letter from a listener who sent a "Red flag or dealbreaker" as an opening line on a dating app and revealed he doesn't respect girls who put out on the first date. Jared talks about his tendency to post pics of his insane messages to girls. This segues into a conversation about how best to open on dating apps (and how to deal with the inevitable rejection/non-response). Another listener hooks up with a smoker, but she's not sure if she can deal with the habit since her grandmother just had lung cancer and surgery caused by cigs. A self-described "binge-listener" writes in to inquire about a bf who is adamant about attending strip clubs (though he hates porn) for access to fresh T&A, but he doesn't want an open relationship or anything. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana discuss their partying and drinking habits. J&J agree on rose. Jordana confesses to being the type of drunk that loves to start fights. After they take a letter from a listener asking why girls talking about boob jobs is so taboo. Finally, an "independent betch" asks how to deal with her needy boyfriend (at least, that's how she sees it). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared has an awkward hook up after masturbating 700 times. A listener tells the story of watching a gay porn and hearing familiar music, namely the 'U Up' theme song. Another fan asks when the right time to add a dating partner on social media might be. J&J then take a letter about a guy who requested a Venmo refund for a cheeseburger after a first date that went nowhere. Also, is sleeping with a dude on the first date always a bad move? Probably, especially if it's with the guy whose dating profile pics were all taken by his ex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared start off talking about the heart DM on Instagram (is it sincere?). Then they take a letter from a compulsive planner who is curious how far ahead it's appropriate to plan in a dating context. After a listener asks what he should if he's in a long-term relationship (over two years), but he doesn't see it going anywhere. They wrap things up answering whether a dating partner who kisses their family on the mouth is a "red flag or a dealbreaker." Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

After talking about various verbal dealbreakers such as “golly” and “oh my gosh,” Jordana and Jared take a letter from a listener asking how to act if she runs into a 25-year-old college student after he ghosted her. They talk about Instagram stalking and other weirdos that linger in the “viewed by” section of social media apps. At 0:47, Jordana is joined by Whitney Cummings. talking about her new film, The Female Brain, and how men and women differ. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana talk about how to handle Valentine’s Day as a single person, having reasonable standards, and what men and women have to gain from marriage. After, they discuss people who are resistant to “the apps.” Do you live in the Now? It’s time to get better at dating online— though they’re not sure which gender has it better in our Hinge-driven world. They also respond to a letter from a listener caught between a girlfriend and a dream crush. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared have a fascinating discussion about exes, matchmaking, and being nosy about people's relationships. They take two questions posed by listeners. The first comes from a distressed lover scorned by someone who randomly started bringing up their ex. Number two deals with a bizarre boy who switches from smooth Romeo to college frat bro who doesn't want anything serious. And don't miss a classic would you rather: date someone who smokes pot everyday or someone who does crystal meth once a year?" Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jordana and Jared discuss micro-cheating and whether or not men and women can really be just friends. They answer questions from a listener whose boyfriend turns into a caveman when he gets angry and another listener who is offended by the fact that her boyfriend watches porn. They play games involving dating someone with cats and a ‘Live Laugh Love’ sign in their room. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jordana and Jared discuss how long you should wait before putting the person you’re dating on social media. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know if she should stop having sex with a guy because he’s a Trump supporter and another listener who wants to know what the etiquette is for confirming a first date. They play "Shoot, Fuck, or Marry" and "Red Flag or Dealbreaker" about people who want to be stay at home parents, live off their parents, and have weird voices. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jared and Jordana discuss if it’s possible to not drink while dating. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why the guy she slept with texts her all day even though he lives in in another state. They also respond to a listener who is tired of dating girls who are overly sarcastic and not sweet enough. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving calorie counting, over-ordering, and being a messy eater. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jordana and Jared discuss why a girl might not have sex with a guy she lets sleep over. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know why guys Snapchat her more than they text her and a guy who wants to know if it’s okay to dump a girl he’s been seeing for 4 months over text. They play 2nd Date Dealbreaker involving STIs and farting. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jared and Jordana discuss why guys like Instagram Models’ photos. They answer questions from a girl who’s anxious she won’t get a New Years kiss and other listeners wondering when an appropriate time to initiate exclusivity is. They play games involving dating a bad tipper and dating a closed mouth kisser. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jordana and Jared talk about what girls and guys think of oral sex. They answer questions from a listener who wants to know how many times is normal for a guy to not be able to get it up and a male listener who is ashamed of his lack of sexual experience. They play a game called “would you go on a second date” where they discuss dating dealbreakers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week Jordana and Jared discuss lingerie and who should text first after a first date. They answer questions from a listener trying to move on from a 10 month relationship and another one who has an issue with guys no longer being interested after 3-4 dates. They play red flag or dealbreaker about messy apartments, still living with your parents, and posting inspirational quotes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana discuss who should pay on dates, and what you “owe" someone you’re having sex with in terms of honesty. They answer a listener’s question who wants to know what it means when a guy who ghosted you keeps liking your Instagram picture and another guy who wants advice on how to hit on girls at bars. They play red flag or dealbreaker involving being loud in movie theaters, dating someone who has done porn, and dating someone who has never said ‘I love you.' Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana discuss why girls fake orgasms and what the best solution is to get them to stop. They answer questions from a male listener who doesn’t want a relationship but finds himself doing “relationshipy” things with girls he’s hooking up with and another listener who wants to know how to define her relationship. They play Shoot Fuck Marry and Red Flag or Dealbreaker involving crying in public and taking your shirt off while having sex. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana discuss how to be put yourself out there on dating apps and whether or not a guy can ever truly be 'not in the mood.' The give advice about how to ask a guy out in a low key way and how to let go of your boyfriend's transgressions from years ago. They play red flag or dealbreaker regarding eating habits and same-sex infidelity. They debate texting vs calling and personal grooming. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In their premiere dating podcast, Jared and The Betches discuss how your dating app profile picture can affect what kind of guys or girls you attract and what types of photos you should avoid. They answer questions from a listener who wonders if a visiting hook up was just using her for her bed and another who wonders why her new boyfriend rarely wants to have sex. They play red flag or dealbreaker with a few dating scenarios. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices