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The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door

English, Cultural, 2 seasons, 86 episodes, 2 days, 6 hours, 17 minutes
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The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door tells the story of a suburban, middle class girl who was trafficked and sexually exploited for decades starting even before the age of 6 years old
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Advocacy and Abuse in a Church Environment

In this episode we have a conversation with Abbi Nye and April Sochia about CFCtoo. CFCtoo is an organization committed to creating a safe space for survivors of Christian Fellowship Church in northern New York State. CFCtoo is also advocating for the passage of legislation requiring faith leaders to be mandated child abuse reporters in NY State.
8/19/202444 minutes, 4 seconds
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Conversation with Kimberly Haight from NY State Children's Alliance

In this episode we have a conversation about the current state of NY State laws regarding child abuse and the need for reform
7/19/202452 minutes, 53 seconds
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What is CONSENT and why does it matter?

In this episode we speak with Joyce Short who is the author of Your Consent – The Key to Conquering Sexual Assault and a TEDx Talk Presenter and Nina Lucas who lead Consent Awareness Network (CAN). Joyce and Nina are on a mission to educate the public and legislators about the critical importance of having consent defined in our laws. Click the link to visit CAN's website https://consentawareness.net --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/29/202441 minutes, 37 seconds
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Cork Board

In this episode, we talk about the reality of the web of the network of offenders in organized sexual abuse and how difficult it can be for victims to break free. Listen to our raw and real feelings following the creation of the cork board. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/13/202430 minutes, 11 seconds
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The Ethics of the Podcast

In this episode, we unpack in detail the ethics of the decision to move from social worker-client to podcast partner then to non-profit partner. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
4/6/202437 minutes, 57 seconds
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Response to Liberty University Title IX/Clery Act Fines

In this episode we share an unscripted…sometimes raw…perspective on the Liberty University Clery Act settlement of $14 million dollars (plus $2 million in new campus safety improvements) --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/7/202430 minutes, 9 seconds
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Why Don't You Just Move?

In this episode we address a question that is asked frequently....sometimes with concern...sometimes with curiosity...and sometimes with a hefty dose of skepticism. The question is Why Don't You Just Move? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/1/202438 minutes, 45 seconds
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Making an Impact with PowHERhouse Nicholle Overkamp

In this episode we have a conversation with Nicholle Overkamp of PowHERhouse Money Coaching and Wilcox Financial Group about her upcoming "Becoming PowHERhouse" Summit on March 8th....International Women's Day. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
2/21/202441 minutes, 19 seconds
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Conversation with Lisa Goldblatt Grace Co-Founder and Director of My Life, My Choice (MLMC) Boston

In this episode we have a conversation with Lisa Goldblatt Grace, LICSW, MPH who co-founded MLMC in 2002 after a teen was murdered by her exploiter. Join us as we talk through the factors that make a difference in the lives of the victims and survivors as well as the lives of the helpers. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
2/16/202448 minutes, 10 seconds
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Building the Bridge While Working Against the Tide

In this episode we share how Mezzo Allies is growing in spite of the continued efforts made by the offenders, their flying monkeys and the naysayers. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
1/20/202448 minutes, 42 seconds
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We Keep Going…..still

Truth moment….we’re tired….and we’re determined….we’re bold and we’re stressed. In this episode we talk about the momentum and the ways organized sexual abuse networks work to make that momentum hard to maintain. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/22/202332 minutes, 27 seconds
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Fear of the Podcast

In our last episode, we encouraged us all to be willing to be uncomfortable….to be uncommon. In this episode, we talk a bit about what it takes to be a person who makes a difference to the status quo or to an individual person. Spoiler alert….it does not include being MORE afraid of being called out on the podcast than failing to stand for the vulnerable. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/10/202325 minutes, 42 seconds
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be uncomfortable

In this episode we encourage….and challenge….ourselves to be willing to be uncomfortable in the pursuit of showing up for those around us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
11/29/202331 minutes, 10 seconds
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...so others don't need a podcast

WE'RE IN BOSTON, MA!!! In this episode we share about our experience in Boston, MA sharing information with child protection staff and leaders about the reality of Family Controlled Exploitation and Organized Sexual Abuse. Thank you for everyone who has made this possible! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
10/26/202327 minutes, 38 seconds
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Counting the Cost

Trigger warning: In this episode we have a conversation about Gretchen who was abused within the same network as Kait and was was lost to suicide on New Year's Day 2023. We are joined by Margaret, Gretchen's sister, and Emily, one of Gretchen's closest, long time friends. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
10/6/202353 minutes, 57 seconds
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Suicide Prevention Month

**Trigger Warning** In this episode we talk about September’s Suicide Prevention month, the statistics and Kait’s journey --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
9/22/202331 minutes, 47 seconds
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Introducing Mezzo Inc.!

We are so excited to announce the beginning of our new endeavor….Mezzo, Inc.….the space between victim and survivor --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/2/202327 minutes, 59 seconds
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Abuse in a Caregiver Relationship

In this episode we explore the short and long term impact of abuse that happens at the hands of the primary caregivers in a child's life. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
5/6/202350 minutes, 46 seconds
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Where is Law Enforcement?

In this episode we will explore this frequently asked question.....where is Law Enforcement? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
4/29/202335 minutes, 25 seconds
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Child Abuse Prevention Month

In this episode we explore the question of the long term impact of unresolved childhood trauma. Specifically we consider how difficult it can be for people with unaddressed trauma to really show up for a child who is vulnerable. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
4/21/202333 minutes, 34 seconds
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Whiplash

That whiplash feeling… --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
4/14/202324 minutes, 57 seconds
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Conversation with Miranda Pacchiana of The Second Wound

In this episode we talk with Miranda Pacchiana who is the author of many of the posts we have shared from The Second Wound platform. Join us as we talk through the impact of the failure of people to hear the disclosure of victims and survivors and support them well. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/31/202334 minutes, 33 seconds
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My ACBC Experience

In this episode we share Kait's personal experience with ACBC "counseling" --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/25/202319 minutes, 56 seconds
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Corroboration

In this episode we respond to the claims by Cornerstone that there has never been corroboration offered to support Kait’s allegations…..complete ridiculousness. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/24/20234 minutes, 11 seconds
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Introducing… YouTube!

Today we are sharing about our new youtube channel- The Ugly Truth About the Girl Next Door. We will use this platform for longer videos to share information about family controlled trafficking. Check it out! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/10/20235 minutes, 10 seconds
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How Can We Help?

In this episode we explore the question of how to be the person that can help a child get help and how to show up for a survivor. We specifically look at the gap in awareness of family controlled sex trafficking. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
3/4/202340 minutes, 45 seconds
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Happy Anniversary to Us

How can this be? One year ago on February 11, 2022 we launched our first episode. In this episode we unpack the journey from then to now…..and the bright world/dark world reality of “anniversaries” --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
2/10/202344 minutes, 50 seconds
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….and then there were two

In this episode we have a conversation with Emily who was Kait’s childhood friend. Emily shares her own memories of abuse and experiences with Cornerstone Church and some of the people there. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
2/3/202349 minutes, 53 seconds
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Trigger Warning: I Am Not Alone Part Two

In this episode we continue our conversation with Alicia Cohen, familial sex trafficking survivor and advocate. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
1/27/202327 minutes, 14 seconds
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Trigger Warning: I Am Not Alone

In this first episode in a two part series, we have a conversation with Alicia Cohen who is a survivor of family controlled sex trafficking and the founder of SAFE (Survivors Against Familial Exploitation).   Join us as Alicia shares her experience of sexual abuse and exploitation at the hands of her father who who used the church to hide his crimes.  Alicia also unpacks her very frustrating attempts to leverage the criminal justice system to address the very real ongoing safety concerns for current day victims.   --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
1/20/202331 minutes, 40 seconds
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Majoring on the Minors

In this episode we unpack the phenomenon of 'staring at a pebble while the parade passes by'....otherwise known as 'majoring on the minors' or being distracted from what really matters by details that are irrelevant to the central message. Updated since we have to triple and quadruple think every single word and sentence --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
1/12/202345 minutes, 30 seconds
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Where Did It All Begin?

In this episode we will talk through the churches involved and some of the offenders there. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
1/7/202326 minutes, 29 seconds
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The Good Shepherd

In this episode Laurie has a conversation with Darrin Folger, former Executive Pastor of The Well in Amherst, NY about what God has to say about a shepherds response to a predator among the flock --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/30/202248 minutes, 58 seconds
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How is this so hard….part 2

In this episode we share how the investigation has been going….or not going. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/17/202251 minutes, 56 seconds
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The Paths to Safety and Justice

In this episode we talk through some of the potential paths to safety and justice and how these paths can intersect and happen in parallel. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/13/202228 minutes, 44 seconds
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Naming Names

In this episode we address the questions about naming names….Why now? What are the factors that affect the decision for us to name an offender and what is next? --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
12/4/202242 minutes, 1 second
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Tear Down This Wall of Silence

In this episode we hear from Pastor Dale Ingraham who challenges the church to be who God calls us to be….a people who boldly stand for the vulnerable and bring hope to the hopeless. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
11/18/202251 minutes, 56 seconds
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Why Is This So Difficult??

In this episode we share an authentic and sometimes raw look at what it is like to keep pressing forward when so many forces seem to be pushing against us --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
11/16/202224 minutes, 45 seconds
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The Eye of the Storm

Also known as the messy middle….in this episode we will address some recent events and more about the reality of what it’s like for survivors trying to get help. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
11/12/202241 minutes, 20 seconds
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Decades of DARVO

In this episode we address recent events….and the repeating pattern of DARVO and it’s impact --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
10/19/202248 minutes, 21 seconds
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Hopeful and Afraid Part Two

In this episode we continue the discussion of how investigations feel to the survivor. We will specifically be addressing private/non-law enforcement investigations and their emotional impact on the survivor. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
9/19/202245 minutes, 15 seconds
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Hopeful and Afraid Part One

In this first part of a two part series, we unpack how a criminal investigation is experienced by the survivor. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
9/17/202225 minutes, 25 seconds
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Step Up

In this episode we unpack the painful….and empowering….reality of how regular people make the difference. Thank you to the Butfalo Bills for taking a stand for the vulnerable even if it means a sacrifice….Go Bills! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
9/5/202247 minutes, 3 seconds
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Conversation with Kait’s husband, Patrick

Listen as Kait and her husband, Patrick, talk about what it’s been like for him as he has walked this road with Kait. They share a little insight into their dating life, premarital counseling, and marriage❤️ as well as how it has been for him as the puzzle pieces have come together and the boxes have opened. If you are a spouse or loved one of someone who has experienced trauma, this is a good one to listen to! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
8/23/202251 minutes, 8 seconds
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Conversation with Christiana💜

In this episode we talk with Christiana Christiano about her own experience with the church that much of Kait’s abuse happened in, her own sexual abuse story, and her choice to get involved in The Ugly Truth About The Girl Next Door. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
7/31/202259 minutes, 16 seconds
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Q&A: Part 2

Listen as we continue talking about and answering many of the questions our listeners have asked. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
7/25/202247 minutes, 18 seconds
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Q&A: Part 1

You asked and we are answering! In this episode we answer some of the many questions we have gotten from our listeners since starting the podcast.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
7/11/202248 minutes, 47 seconds
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What makes family-based sex trafficking different? Part 1

In this episode we start to unpack the unique realities of familial sex trafficking --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/19/202225 minutes, 46 seconds
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DARVO

Deny, Accuse, Reverse Victim and Offender (DARVO)….the playbook for responding when you’re accused of sexual abuse --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/11/202238 minutes, 39 seconds
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The Science of Deception

In this episode we interview Zachary Carr, PhD and consider how the science of deception informs our understanding of sex trafficking --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
6/3/202248 minutes, 9 seconds
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Entanglements and Connections

In this episode we share more details about the enormity of the sex trafficking organization in WNY and the bits of information that have come to us from listeners corroborating Kait’s experiences. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
5/28/202243 minutes, 39 seconds
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The Second Wound

In this episode we address the issue of The Second Wound. This happens when instead of support and protection, a survivor experiences victim blaming, denial and other damaging responses when they come forward with their trauma. Survivors are left feeling re-traumatized, confused and isolated. Listen as we unpack this very real and harmful phenomenon and discuss many of the second wounds that have occurred in Kait's story.  --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
5/22/202251 minutes, 48 seconds
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Conversations with John Gannon

Listen to John Gannon (Kait’s father in law) talk about his perspective not only as a dad, but also as a long time member of The Chapel. John has been a volunteer, board member and staff member at The Chapel and gives some great insights into what this has been like as he has watched it all unfold. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
4/17/202237 minutes, 32 seconds
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Podcast Preview

In this episode, we share a high level overview of the whole of Kait’s experience leading up to the creation of the podcast. This is a great place to start for newcomers and an opportunity to share the basic overview with others. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/traffickednextdoor/message
2/1/202243 minutes, 48 seconds