If you're like many ambitious women, you have big visions and deep desires for every area of your life. But if your RELATIONSHIP vision seems elusive, if you find yourself feeling frustrated, disappointed, and wondering “Is it me? Is it you? Or are passion and desire just doomed to fade over years together?” you’re not alone. But here’s the good news: You are not the problem, your partner is not the problem, and you CAN have the relationship you envision! Creating the love and sex you want simply requires a new mindset and practicing a few key skills and habits. Welcome to Sex. Love. Power. This is the only intimacy podcast devoted to helping powerful women create deeply satisfying love & sex in committed long-term relationships. I'm your host Michele Lisenbury Christensen. I've been helping high-profile couples create what they desire in love and sex for more than twenty-four years, and I’ve been through my share of joys and pains in my own twenty-plus year marriage to Kurt. Now, I’m here to help you get more peace, more connection, and more passion in your days and nights, so you’ve got the energy and attention left over to be the change you wish to see in the wider world. Everything you want in love and sex starts with YOU, and it starts right now. Let’s reignite your spark!
11 Surprising Libido Killers
So many women come to me wanting to turn up their libidos and experience more and better orgasms. I start by asking them 11 questions that, on the surface, don’t seem directly related to erotic desire. But the answers that women give me tell me a ton about their relationships with themselves, their turn-on, their bodies, their sensations, and with their capacity to contain embodied experiences, both desired experiences and not desired experiences.In this episode, I'm going to ask you those same 11 questions that tell me whether or not you are in a robust, joyful relationship with your own desires, receptivity, and pleasure. You’ll hear about:Why I ask each of these questions and the common answers I hear from clientsWhy and how these libido killers affect women specificallyHow to cultivate a desire in ways that have nothing to do with your partnerSimple practices you can add to your day to experience more turn-on throughout your lifeAnd more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.“Our capacity for pleasant sensations is always conscribed by our capacity for unpleasant, unwanted sensations, the things we fear, the things we're angry about, the things that we have grief about.”-Michele Lisenbury ChristensenHot Moments in This Episode:How you wake up matters [10:20]A note about dressing sexy [16:05]Why you need to put on your own oxygen mask first [25:36]What your inner pleasure goddess wants for you [31:15]I hope that these 11 questions help you see where you can build your capacity to delight in sensation. My wish is that you pick just one area to begin to shift today with the intention of deepening your relationship with yourself, your body, your felt sensations, your yes, your no, and your desire. If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.
6/15/2023 • 39 minutes, 46 seconds
Psychological Patriarchy
You may have heard the term “patriarchy” used to describe a social and political construct, but, as my mentor, Terry Real, explains, it is also a psychological notion. The way that patriarchy defines rigid gender roles becomes subconsciously embedded in the way we think and behave, which has deep implications for both partners inside a relationship. How can we recognize when psychological patriarchy is at play and what can we do to counteract it? In this episode, I’ll discuss:How our sense of ourselves as humans has been artificially bifurcated into masculine and feminine traitsWhy masculine traits are overvalued and feminine traits are undervalued. The painful consequences of psychological patriarchy.How Legacy Love takes couples through five levels of recovery from this deadening way of looking at ourselves and at one another.And more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.“We can't build deeper, sweeter relationships than we've had, than our parents have had, than all the ones we've seen around us without dismantling some of the structures that have been invisible to us, that have stopped us from having true partnership, true equality, true intimacy.”-Michele Lisenbury ChristensenHot Moments in This Episode:Terry Real’s three rings of psychological patriarchy [1:52]Why I tackle psychological patriarchy with couples coaching clients [11:21]The highest level of Legacy Love I’ve discovered [22:36]I hope that you give yourself grace as you begin to untangle all the deep and complicated beliefs about gender and relationships that are holding you back. It is my wish that you continue to heal from psychological patriarchy and grow in love together. If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.
4/13/2023 • 26 minutes, 1 second
100-Year Marriage
Kurt and I have been married for almost 23 years and we're planning on another 50 to 75 together. We think, in terms of taking care of our bodies, minds and spirits and given the way technology is going, we could each live to be well over a hundred which gives us an amazingly long time to grow in love together and to contribute in so many other parts of our lives. Today's episode is about how we think about what I call, for shorthand “The 100-Year Marriage” and how you could think about it too. In this episode, we’ll cover:Why you should think about the long-term plan for your relationshipThe areas of your life you should consider as you look at the next 50 or 75 yearsQuestions you can ask yourself and each other to help define your vision for long lives togetherResources that have helped expand my thinking about longevity and legacyAnd more. Join the conversation by listening, then share your story or response on our voicemail at 206-659-9865 or inside our free Conscious Couples' Circle on Mighty Networks.“You get to have any marriage, you're up for creating.”-Michele Lisenbury ChristensenHot Moments in This Episode:How to plan for retirement... or not. (11:30)The books that changed my outlook on life (13:40)How you are living as if your relationship doesn’t matter (27:46)I hope that your love can be a fountain that nourishes everything around it, an oasis that creates aliveness spreading out and out and out from you as a couple.RESOURCES OR LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: (if applicable)My Plan for Living to 156Cash Flow (game) by Robert KiyosakiThe 100 Year Life by Lynda Gratton & Andrew J. ScottFour Thousand Weeks by Oliver BurkemanOutlive by Peter AttiaLifespan by David A. Sinclair & Matthew D. LaPlanteBuilt to Move by Kelly Starret If the conversations on this podcast are resonating for you and you want to create the love, sex, and aliveness you desire with more ease, I invite you to enter a deeper relationship with me, through private coaching or my group mentorship program. Either way, you get powerful tools, conversation cheat sheets, meditations, and my loving and skillful attention every month. CLICK HERE to apply for a consultation.
