To Hear Your Partner You Need To Stop Doing These 5 Things There are 5 mistakes we make when we are trying to listen to our partner's feelings. Learn what you need to stop doing so you can start listening to your spouse.   Don't Apologize Mansplain Promise Fix Ask Questions Hosts: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Advice on How To Find A Marriage Counselor Not all therapist, doctors, or counselors all specialize with marriage counseling.  And surprisingly, just because someone has a license as a Marriage and Family therapist, does not mean they know how to work with couples.  So, today we explore what to look for when looking for a good marriage therapist.     Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT   Email us: [email protected]  

Marriage Counseling is a Tool that Helps Any Relationship Grow Today we are going to talk about how most people only see counseling as an option when all other options are exhausted. Most couples go to counseling when it almost too late. Let's talk about how it may be better to see counseling like taking a class or going to college and how it could benefit any couple at any stage of their relationship.     Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner LMFT, and Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Learn How the Meaning You Bring Makes Your Relationship More Meaningful Build a more meaningful relationship by understanding the meaning you and your partner brings to your relationship. The word for the year, 2021, is going to be "Meaning", because it is understanding the meaning someone brings to a situation that help you understand who they are and how they are feeling.  It is also in being able to change what something means to you that you can change how you feel, think, and react to that situation.

Christmas Conflicts Between Couples Conflict and Christmas sees like two words that should never go together, but...they do too often.  Holiday relationship problems are often the norm and they happen more than any of us like.  Listen in as to why and what you can do to help end these unseasonal and unreasonable conflicts in your relationship.     Hosts: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT  

Do You Understand What Makes You Feel Loved?  Love is what we seek in our relationships, today we are going to talk about how to create feelings of love for others, but also for ourselves.  Think about it, wouldn't you like to know what it takes for your kids, your friends, and even your intimate to feel loved.  And how important would it be for you to understand what you need to feel loved yourself. Well, today we are going to share what happens, what are people doing that creates a feeling of being loved.     Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT  

Divorce Rate is Down- Even During the Pandemic In this episode Dr. Skinner and Brett Williams discuss current census data that shows that the divorce rate is at a 50 year low.  Hear the interesting results reported in a new study that came out of the Institute for Family Studies.  https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-us-divorce-rate-has-hit-a-50-year-low?fbclid=IwAR11RXuL7R-ikurHZhL3WSIoIIKu7HGQ0dk40MxjPH_oPY2ZUI5i4qUHae4 Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner LMFT and Brett R. Williams LMFT

Today's advice will focus on a simple tool to keep the conversation calm. This is the second part of the conversation around relationship conflict. In today's post we share how balance positive and negative statements to keep your cool around painful communications.     Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT

End your arguments and learn how to talk about difficult issue. In this podcast Dr. Skinner and Brett Williams will be sharing their advice on how to help you talk about the pain and problems that are facing your relationship.     Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT  

It's a horrible cycle where shame is avoided by numbing out with porn, but the porn produces more shame and the pattern continues.  You can't deal with any kind of porn problem without addressing the shame that it has created.   Please send us your thoughts and questions at [email protected] Host:  Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT    

Learn how to build intimacy in your relationship by learning the psychological elements needed Building a connection with those you love is essential to any relationship, and in today's episode we are going to talk about psychological intimacy.  This form of intimacy builds the foundation for all other forms of intimacy.     Hosts: Dr. Kevin Skinner LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT

How to Improve the Intimacy in Your Relationship (and we are NOT talking about sex) Think of intimacy as closeness.  The more intimate you are with someone the more closely you know them. The ultimate form of closeness would be physically, but there are many ways we need to build intimacy as well.  This podcast will focus you on learning to understand some of the other areas of intimacy in a relationship.     Hosts:  Dr. Kevin Skinner LMFT & Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Bringing Love Back to Your Relationship Dr. Skinner and Brett Williams want to help you learn 1) where the love went in your relationship, and 2) how to get the love back.  Listen in and hear how you can begin to bring the love you once had back into your relationship.  

Advice on New Ways to Communicate Because you can’t get to the deeper issue behind your conflicts you will loop and loop over the details of “who said what” or “who did what to who”, and nothing gets resolved.  Well, if you’ve had that argument, today, I am sharing advice on how to stop fighting. I want to share some new ways to communicate, with a simple phrase, “Tell me more.”   Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT and Brett R. Williams, LMFT Please email us at [email protected]

There is simple trust, which is simple to build, but then there is complicated trust, which is more of a struggle.  In this podcast Dr. Kevin Skinner and Brett R. Williams share how to build trust in more complicated situations like betrayal.   Contact us: [email protected]  

Relationship Builder Advice for Those Thinking of Getting Married Are you about to "tie the knot"? Do you know anyone who's getting ready for marriage. This podcast will provide some valuable advice as to how to best be prepared by learning to have some honest and maybe hard conversations.   Contact us at [email protected] Host: Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Bringing Love Back To Your Relationship. Learn about how to bring love back into your relationship by better understanding what is love and how to create it in your marriage, family, and even with friends.   Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT & Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Learn How to Talk with Each Other 80% of couples coming into therapy are seeking ways to communicate with each other.  What we fight about seems endless, but if we can learn effective ways to communicate then we can talk just about anything.   Learn from Dr. Kevin Skinner & Brett R. Williams. 

How To Set Boundaries and Why They Are Important.  Learn to set and keep good boundaries in your relationships. As Dr. Skinner will share, "Without boundaries then we only have chaos."   Hosts Dr. Kevin Skinner, LMFT & Brett R. Williams, LMFT

Letting Go of the Burden of Resentment Are you struggling with anger, frustration, hurt, and bitterness in your marriage. It maybe that those feelings are there for a reason, to protect you. Learn how the hear the deeper pain of your resentments. And by sharing your core beliefs you can free yourself and build your marriage. Hosted by, Dr. Kevin Skinner and Brett R. Williams Contact us at [email protected]

Build an Emotionally Corrective Experiences. You can save your marriage from conflict or neglect and rebuild your connection by learning how to create emotionally corrective experiences.  Dr. Kevin Skinner and Brett Williams are going to share a technique from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) that will help you build trust and safety in your marriage.     Contact us at [email protected]

Learn to Listen If you want a better marriage learn how to genuinely listen. Learn to turn toward your spouse and listen to what they are really feeling and thinking. By turning to your spouse and carefully listen you may be amazed at what you learn. Dr. Kevin Skinner and Brett Williams discuss how you can end the conflict in your marriage by listening more intently.     Contact us at [email protected]

It's just pornography, right? Discover some of the primary reasons that pornography is hurting relationships. Dr. Kevin Skinner and Brett Williams discuss the unintended consequences of porn use. While many couples want a deeper connection, learn how pornography can be limiting your deepest desires for connection.

Have you ever watched another couple and thought to yourself, “They really like each other.” In today’s podcast Dr. Kevin Skinner and his co-host Brett Williams discuss one of the most essential skills that successful couples use to stay connected. If you want to model your relationship after what successful couples do, learn how to apply empathy in your relationship. Today’s episode will show you the power of using empathy in your relationships.

During stressful times it is easy to turn to unhealthy patterns. Based on research findings on stress we often cope in ways that hurt relationships. Discover new strategies for addressing your stress and the stress in your relationship. Your relationship is more important than a virus. Learn how Dr. Skinner and Brett Williams suggest to deal with stress in your relationship.

What is love and how can we be better at creating the love we want? While we all long to have a deep committed relationship we often miss the “How” to create the love we long for. In this episode Dr. Skinner introduces his new co-host and friend Brett Williams. Together, these two experts discuss the how to increase the love in your relationships. In this episode you will learn how the power of attention can change your relationship.

Now more than ever we need to be strong. Discover what resilient people do to make it through difficult times. Today’s podcast focuses on Dr. Al Sieberts resiliency quiz. You can take the quiz and discover your current level of resiliency. Also learn three ways to stay mental strong during this difficult time.

During this pandemic we are all experiencing high levels of stress. Our normal lives have come to a screeching halt and we are faced with decisions that can be overwhelming. Learn three strategies to help you respond effectively to the stress you are facing.

The global pandemic has influenced nearly everyone’s life. In today’s podcast Dr. Kevin Skinner discusses three strategies for dealing with the feelings of grief and loss. Grief and loss can come from losing opportunities, financial concerns, or even changed marriage plans. Discover three strategies you can use to attend to your loss and grief.

The pandemic is forcing all of us to distance ourselves away from others. While social distancing is essential for our safety, what are the mental health implications of doing so. Learn three solutions you can use to combat the potential negative impact social distancing can have on you and those around you.

Welcome to The Relationship Builder Podcast. In this episode Dr. Kevin Skinner introduces the first tool for building successful relationships—Safety. The first principle for healthy relationships is creating an environment where you and the people around you feel safe. If you want to improve your relationships create and find safety in your relationships.