In his early twenties, Dave never really felt like he wanted the same things that everyone else wanted out of relationships. During that time he was mostly single and would find himself breaking off relationships after a few months, before they got serious so nobody got hurt too badly. He wasn't really wanting to find "the one" even though that's what it seemed like he was supposed to be doing. In his mid-twenties he started finding communities that were at the intersections of sex-positivity, neo-tantra, and polyamory. The support of these various different intentional communities opened Dave's world up to a completely different way of forming relationships and connections. Today, while Dave identifies as a solo polyamorous person, he is much more focused on creating healthy intentional communities that support learning, living and loving authentically as the imperfect humans we all are. Dave Booda is a writer, musician and social entrepreneur. He is the co-founder of IntimacyFest and hosts The Darkness Experiment. He has led over 450 workshops on connection, touch and relationships and has consulted for and facilitated experiences for companies, communities, retreats, festivals, conferences, birthday parties, weddings, funerals, and gatherings of all kinds — with the intention to inspire authenticity, connection and group cohesion. He has published over 200 essays for boodaism.com and played over 1000 shows as a touring singer/songwriter. He is a former Naval Officer and graduate of the U.S. Naval Academy, currently serving on the board of directors for the Foundation for Intentional Community while living in rural San Diego, California. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Eve takes us all the way back to high school where she first learned about non-monogamy through some friends and even dabbled in a triad for a week or so. After college she got married and a few years later she and her husband started opening up their relationship. Since then, Eve has been on a 20ish-year journey to find what works best for her when it comes to love and relating to others. Today, Eve identifies as a queer, solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist who prefers a more parallel relationship dynamic as opposed to kitchen table polyamory... Like most of us, Eve learned a lot along her journey and we're grateful that she joined us today to share her story. Eve Rickert is also the co-author of More Than Two, Second Edition and is a Gen X, queer, solo polyamorous, relationship anarchist, neurodivergent cis woman living on unceded WSÁNEC and Lekwungen territory on the west coast of the place currently known as Canada. She is the curator of the More Than Two Essentials series and the non-monogamy resource site morethantwo.ca, the founder and publisher of Thornapple Press, and the founder and mastermind of the science communications firm Talk Science to Me. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

We are so excited about today's beautiful conversation with Mike! He's been questioning socialized norms that didn't feel right for most of his life... We get deep with him on his experiences uncovering his queerness, questioning monogamy as the best relationship model for himself, and how he navigates ambiguity in different connections. We also talk a lot about mental health, the life-changing impact of therapy for him, and the power of finding the strength to be yourself, especially when it means pushing against everything you've been conditioned with for your whole life. This is a powerful conversation and we hope you find it as meaningful and healing as we did. Mike is much better at describing himself and his work than we are and so we asked to use the bio from his website... Permission granted! Hey there, I'm Mike. I'm endlessly fascinated by and interested in people. Why we do what we do. Where we come from. How we choose to live our lives. What interests us. What our passions are. I love to listen. My goal, if we decide to work together, is to help you be the person you want to be, whether the things you want are related to your relationship(s), your career(s), or your life in general! I don't have a fancy degree, but I do have a certification (and am working on more). What I think is more valuable than a piece of paper is that I have a welcoming ear and quite a bit of life experience. I'm a thirty year veteran of the high-stress music industry, having worked everywhere from distribution to PR to behind the counter at a record store. Over the last decade, I've become involved in the mental health community as an advocate and a volunteer for various organizations. I've also become a sex and relationship educator, drawing on my experiences as a queer person whose relationship orientation leans toward CNM (consensual non-monogamy). I'm a second generation American with an Afro-Caribbean background, and have a wide variety of tastes, experiences and people in my community. I like to think I can relate to just about anyone in some way, shape or form. For the past three years and counting, I've also hosted and produced a podcast called Detoxicity, which focuses specifically on men and how we can work to move past the socialized behaviors that often handcuff us. How we can be more open, more caring, more sensitive, and be better versions of ourselves for the people in our lives and communities, and most importantly, for ourselves. I've spoken to and learned from over 150 men, from various walks of life, every race and ethnicity, sexual and romantic orientation. And I learn more every time I speak to someone. I'm in the process of learning every day, and I want to be a guide and assistant to your learning journey as well! Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Over the last three weeks you've heard Ava, Pinky, and Anthony tell their individual stories... Today, we bring them together to hear how three people with different backgrounds, experience levels, and relationship preferences come together to create a beautiful relational ecosystem that works for each of them... Even if it's not always perfect. Enjoy! Earlier this year Ava, Pinky, and Anthony started a new podcast called Three Shades of Grey where they talk about the ups and downs of exploring non-monogamy in three very different ways and how the three of them make it work together. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! This month's incredible questions come from our private community and are about moving at different paces when opening up a relationship and whether or not you should share your feelings with someone when your interests lie outside of the agreements of another relationship of theirs. Juicy stuff! Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Pinky lives life with a whole lot of zest and enthusiasm! And, as she describes it, sometimes a bit impatiently. Although, we might argue that her impatience could be attributed to some built up excitement! I tried writing more about Pinky but her bio over on her website at 3shadesofgrey.com captured it much better than I was able to: I was born and raised into a religious, and conservative family. Women were taught to not be heard or to put their needs and wants first. As I grew, I found myself in relationships with people who had similar beliefs to my family. I was in a nearly two decade relationship, with a man who had no interest in sex, my sexuality or my desires. I was made to feel guilty when I expressed my sexual desires. Outside of the bedroom, however, we built a solid family together. I stayed for my children, and then I decided, I needed to leave for myself. It was during this relationship that I first read the Ethical Slut, and it opened my eyes to what relationships could be. My ex and I attempted to have an open relationship, but that was very short lived. It wasn’t until I met my husband Anthony that I learned more, and realized this was something I wanted to explore further. That’s when I decided to do some research and further educate myself. I became more and more intrigued by the freedom and the voice that was give to women in the non- monogamous world. The education and conversations that my now husband and I had, built a strong foundation for a successful relationship. During our journey, we talked about things that most couples never even discuss, and we spoke about them open and honestly. Anthony and I now have an open marriage. I prefer polyamorous relationships, and some situational swinging. Truly I thrive the best on one on one engagement with open and like minded people who are willing to walk the road less traveled. As a sapiosexual I connect best on an intellectual level first, building a strong relationship, and then engaging physically. Earlier this year Pinky started a new podcast with her husband Anthony and metamour Ava. On the Three Shades of Grey podcast they talk about the ups and downs of exploring non-monogamy in three very different ways and how the three of them make it work together. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Today, Ava identifies as a polyamorous, kinky, swinger... Yet, for most of her life she worked really hard to play by the rules doing what she was "supposed to be doing." And then, in 2018, a friend invited her to an adult Christmas party. It turned out to be a life-changing party! We loved Ava's description of herself in her bio over at 3shadesofgrey.com and so we borrowed it to help give you a better idea this amazing human! Hello, my salacious friends, I am Ava Moore. I have been non-monogamous since 2018. Who am I kidding? More like 2012, but I didn’t have a name for it, or accept it back then. I called it “multi- tasking”, however, I was working very hard to be monogamous, and was successful, because I thought that is what I was supposed to do. I am a single mom. I love people. I love sex. I love connecting. While I have multiple partners, for the most part, I stay in what I call “my circle”. These are the 4 or 5 people who I trust most and who I am the closest to. We build friendships, relationships and we are there for each other. Now, there are times, I will let my hair down and go to a party, or dare I say, host a party for my favorite people. While I identify as a straight, curvalicious, plus size, single female, I do have my heteroflexible moments from time to time. Most importantly however, is that I am a Sapiosexual. Your brain and personality are what attract me first. I look forward to getting to know all of you, as Pinky, Anthony, and I embark on this wild journey together. To clarify that last sentence... Earlier this year Ava started a new podcast with her partner Anthony and metamour Pinky. On the Three Shades of Grey podcast they talk about the ups and downs of exploring non-monogamy in three very different ways and how the three of them make it work together. Anthony shared his story last week on Episode 357, Pinky will be on next week, and the three of them join us together in two weeks. Check out the full show notes here. Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Anthony has always felt like he was a bit different and questioned everything. Even questioning things so much that he was once asked to not return to Bible school as a child. Years later, while working as a club promoter he met a dominatrix who invited him to his first dungeon party and life hasn't quite been the same since... Even though his first experience was a bit traumatic for him, a new world of possibilities opened up and he began exploring. Over the last twenty-ish years Anthony has been exploring non-monogamy through swinging (partnered and solo), kink and BDSM (he eventually recovered from the first dungeon party), and polyamory (he's now married and has multiple committed partnerships). Join us today as Anthony takes us on his adventure and shares with us how he's learned, grown, and built an incredible community of partners and friends where he gets to be himself without being worried of getting kicked out of Bible school. But wait, there's more! Earlier this year Anthony started a new podcast with his wife Pinky and his partner Ava. On the Three Shades of Grey podcast they talk about the ups and downs of exploring non-monogamy in three very different ways and how the three of them make it work together. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Andrea grew up in a fairly conservative suburb and first came out in the queer and leather communities around 2000-2001 after joining the circus. For them, non-monogamy came as part of the queer and kinky package. Over the next decade-ish Andrea explored many different phases and configurations of kink and non-monogamy before a series of serious health issues turned their life upside down. These same health issues also robbed Andrea of their ability and capacity to relate in the same ways and to experience the same kinds of pleasure and enjoyment out of sex and kink as they had been able to for so long. Today, Andrea takes us on their beautiful and powerful journey of finding the queer community, embracing their queerness and non-monogamy, and currently finding themself single and embracing the joys of solitude while still identifying with the ideologies of non-monogamy and being open to it in the future. This interview is incredibly deep and vulnerable and we hope you find it as inspiring as we did. Besides hanging out on our podcast, Andrea is also an author. Rather than trying to recreate their bio, we have borrowed the following from their author page at Thornapple Press. Andrea Zanin, MA, is a white, nonbinary, middle-aged queer writer who lives in Tkaronto (Toronto, Ontario), on the traditional territory of the Mississaugas of the Credit, the Anishnabeg, the Chippewa, the Haudenosaunee and the Wendat peoples. Andrea’s writing focuses on nonmonogamy and BDSM/Leather. Andrea has written for theGlobe and Mail, The Tyee, Bitch, Ms., Xtra, IN Magazine, Outlooks Magazine and the Montreal Mirror. Their scholarly work, fiction and essays appear in a variety of collections. Andrea blogs at sexgeek.wordpress.com, where they created the 10 Rules for Happy Nonmonogamy and coined the term “polynormativity.” Their first book, Post-nonmonogamy and Beyond, is available from Thornapple Press and they co-authored the second edition of More Than Two. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

We always love when we get to bring guests back on the show for an update and today is definitely no exception! The last time we talked to these four was back in 2019 on Episode 71 and while so much has changed, the love between these four has only grown deeper. And it sure is a good thing because they all got matching tattoos pretty early on! Over the last five years they've transitioned to a long distance relationship and then back to living in the same city, they've broken up and gotten back together, they've come out to family (sometimes accidentally), and they've navigated a global pandemic. Quad dynamics are notoriously challenging and today we get an incredibly vulnerable look at how these four have made it work and how they've all grown together, and as individuals, along the way. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! However... This month we have a special guest! Today's questions are all about finances and money and we have an incredible author, coach, and fellow podcaster Laura Boyle joining us! Laura just published her second book, "Monogamy? In This Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory" and she's also the creator of readyforpolyamory.com where you can find more information about all of her fantastic work! Quick note and disclaimer... Laura, Meshai, and myself (Fin) are NOT tax or finance professionals. Please talk to a financial professional, CPA, or similar about your specific financial situation. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Today we get to hear an incredible New York Love Story like no other! Bear is a Black queer man of trans experience, born, raised and currently residing in Brooklyn, NY. Fifi is a first-generation queer, non-binary Puerto Rican born, raised, and also living in New York. And together they have forged a partnership that is uniquely theirs and is mutually uplifting while defying the status quo of what everyone says a relationship "should" be. They describe themselves as solo polyamorists who live together as a family and run a business together. They met over a decade ago at a party and since then have been loving and supporting one another on their individual healing journeys of coming out and embracing their authentic selves. Bear and Fifi also do incredibly powerful work in educating and supporting others in their own journeys. The following descriptions come directly from their website and capture who they are better than we could ever imagine doing ourselves. Please check out their website for more information on how to work with these two amazing humans! Before teaching adults, Bear taught poetry to youth in NYC public schools. He began his career as a coach and case manager in 2018, and has since serviced people of all abilities, backgrounds, and circumstances. During his time in a private residential treatment facility for adults with mental diagnoses and substance abuse disorders, he practiced crisis intervention, de-escalation tactics, and harm reduction protocols. He then managed cases at Callen Lorde community health clinic and trained in public health policy, gender affirming care, and safer sex. He also distributed housing and medical resources to NYC’s most vulnerable populations. Bear co-founded Bear & Fifi Coaching in November 2021 with his partner, and became an Urban Tantra certified somatic practitioner in November 2022. He authors all Bear & Fifi Coaching theory and curriculum, including the creation of accessibility conscious tools and exercises to support emotional/nervous system regulation, non-violent communication, vulnerability + connection, and erotic embodiment. Individually, Bear works with men and masc people of all experiences, members of the TGNC community and survivors of complex relational trauma and abuse. Fifi is a trained architect, social entrepreneur, and spiritual guide. Their lens is informed by their knowledge of design systems, Tantric embodiment + Kundalini yoga, 17 years of practicing and teaching meditation, and 12 years of continuous recovery from anxiety disorders. As a certified Urban Tantra practitioner, they coach people, particularly those socialized as women, seeking better relationships, deeper intimacy, and more authenticity in their lives. Whether by creating personalized rituals or guiding you through accessing your intuition, Fifi’s goal is to support you with using sensuality as a therapeutic tool and building foundations for a life beyond what you think you deserve. Fifi is also a non-profit executive serving communities in The Bronx and Harlem through social change and leadership fellowships, art enrichment programs, and historical-multicultural performance presentations. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

In her early twenties Mae repeatedly found herself in a cycle of getting into a relationship, developing feelings for someone else, fighting them off for a while and then ultimately cheating and blowing it up only to do it all over again. Then a friend invited her to a kink event which lead to her first dungeon party which changed her life forever... For about the next seven years Mae was consumed on an adventure exploring events, parties, connections, and what was possible in life, love, and pleasure. Today, Mae is exploring her own flavor of polyamory and non-monogamy. She has a primary partner along with other people that she dates plus she has some subs and perhaps even a few play partners. As Mae puts it... "If you're not having fun, you may want to question why you're doing it..." And no surprise, this interview with Mae is full of laughs and wild adventures. Mae also shares with us a bit about her powerful work and describes herself on her website better than we ever could... The Adorable Domme, Miss Mae Ling is a Los Angeles Dominatrix whose charmingly open and sweet approach to life draws out the best in others. Her motto in life is to have fun and enjoy the best of what life has to offer. She seeks to find the true person that is inside of you, cutting through all the exterior and relating with your desires and deepest emotions. The raw truth is what she is after. Check out all of her work and learn more over on her website! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jen identifies as a queer, pansexual, non-binary, relationship anarchist and has been living with their partner for over 12 years. However, that's not how things looked 12 years ago when they got together! Jen grew up in Ireland where cultural and religious norms didn't leave much room for being different in any way. Their first exposure to something new and different came during university... However, Jen's biggest changes started when they found an amazing therapist after moving to Scotland. Therapy was a pivotal moment in Jen's life and gave them space to start deconstructing so many parts of who they are after not having a sense of self for so long. This also led to Jen questioning what they wanted relationships to look like. Jen's experience in therapy was also their inspiration for becoming a therapist themselves! Today, Jen is a person-centred experiential psychotherapist whose approach is all about offering you a radically non-judgemental relationship where you can safely get to know yourself. You can learn more about Jen's incredible work on their website! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

"It's been a beautiful journey so far... But oh so messy!" Christa Lei and their partner originally opened their relationship into a "don't ask, don't tell" dynamic, even though neither of them ever acted on it. Eventually, they gave it a little more thought and made a shift to a more integrated kitchen-table poly dynamic, which is how they've now been exploring for the last few years. Christa's not here to pretend like everything is always easy and perfect. Navigating relationships can be really hard and they've found a lot of power and support in creating a care team for themself through their polyamory community. For Christa, polyamory is just as much about building community and support systems as it is about the dating and romance. Although, there's definitely some of that as well... Did they mention it can get messy? And... awesome for us, Christa sent over their own bio and so we just had to copy and paste! Woop woop! (Thanks, Christa!) Christa Lei (they/them/theirs) grew up on Native Hawaiian land as the youngest child of Filipino immigrants. Their professional experiences revolve around healthcare: patient advocacy, casework/care facilitation, and clinical research. Their intersectional identities as fat, neurodivergent, disabled, queer, polyamorous, and third-culture person inform their personal and professional work.  A multi-modal and experienced creative, Christa creates and facilitates spaces for interdisciplinary praxis via community care. Along with their lived experiences as a crip queer person, they are certified as a death doula by Going with Grace. In their spare time, they dance, sing, write, travel around the world, point out all the puppies on the street, preach the gospel of Shrek, and create shared futures with their chosen family of their loving spouse and two dogs in New York City. Connect with them via Instagram (@supchrista) or at christalei.me or their newsletter isthiswhatyouwant.org. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! However... This month we have a special guest! Today's questions are all about compersion and we have one of the world's leading experts on the subject joining us! Dr. Marie Thouin is a dating and relationship coach as well as the author of the new book "What is compersion?" You can learn more about Marie and her work at www.whatiscompersion.com. You can also save 25% if you order your copy of her book using the link and code below! "What is Compersion?" (Use code RLFANDF25 to save 25%) If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Today's interview with Flora and Andy is so full of love and zest for life! The last seven years have been full of adventure for these two... They met on Grinder in 2017, got married a few years later, and then a few years ago decided to open their relationship up after a series of infidelities. Today they practice their own form of non-hierarchical polyamory after trying out different flavors of non-monogamy along the way. They take us inside their partnership and share how they rebuilt everything in spite of the infidelities and all of the self-discovery and growth that they both did to get to where they are today. Flora and Andy also share with us how they've persevered and supported one another as a multicultural trans and non-binary queer couple exploring the world of sex, dating, relationships, and life. When they're not sharing their life story on our podcast, you can find Flora and Andy on Instagram where they do powerful work helping organizations and companies be more inclusive to queer communities. Please check out their work and enjoy this interview with Flora and Andy! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

From a very young age Sandy had lots of crushes, loved kissing boys, and felt very free. Unfortunately, she learned very quickly how judgmental people are when she started getting called names at school and the shame started to creep in. She learned to hide parts of herself in order to fit in during high school but then in college she learned that "being queer" was actually a thing. Sandy is an incredible storyteller and today's interview is full of love, laughter, and deep emotion. Sandy takes us on her powerful journey of discovering who she is and how to truly be herself while constantly fighting the shame from friends, family, and the world around her. Today, she describes herself as a queer solo polyamorous woman who is a queen bee with lots of little honey bees buzzing around her. She weaves so many fantastic lessons, tools, tricks, and strategies into her amazing story of life and adventure! Enjoy! Dr. Sandy Peace is a psychologist, sex therapist, trained sex educator, provides trainings for mental health professionals on working with polyamorous clients, and facilitates polyamory support/discussion groups. She presented her doctoral dissertation research – "Toward a Model of Polyamorous Identity Development" – at the first International Academic Polyamory Conference at U.C. Berkeley in 2012. To learn more about Sandy and to work with her, please check out her website! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to sign up our FREE Week of Visibility Workshop! Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Billy is a bit of a self-described hopeless romantic with a romanticized view of love and relationships. He tried out monogamy for about 14 months as a freshman in college, however, having lots of sex and sexual adventures was never really his goal (not that he's complaining). He would often find himself falling for women and when he'd share his feelings they'd express their interest in continuing to hookup, but not so much with the emotional stuff. We have some amazing conversations in this interview with Billy. He digs into how he cultivated an abundance mindset around sex, even though everyone in high school predicted he'd be a 40-year old virgin. We also talk about not getting boxed in by labels and identities, and we have a great conversation about all of the societal messaging we get about how to be a "good partner." Taken right from Billy's website... In 2014, comedian Billy Procida started interviewing his exes about sex, dating, gender…and why they didn’t work out. After being dismissed in his early 20s as a “manwhore”, he worried if he was already too slutty to love at 24-years-old. So he sought out answers from the source! Now, Billy hosts sex-positive conversations with comedians, sex educators, porn stars, actors, authors, dating experts, models and more! With millions of downloads, The Manwhore Podcast has been named a top sex/dating podcast by Esquire, Uproxx, and Men’s Health. Please head over to www.manwhorepod.com to check out all of Billy's work! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to sign up our FREE Week of Visibility Workshop! Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Our conversation today with Kathy is so beautiful, full of energy, and powerful. She is a vibrant 49 year old bisexual proud mother of a newly minted teen and she has been "officially" exploring non-monogamy for the last few years. Yet, as you'll hear, Kathy has always been a bit rebellious and unconventional. She loves to play and experiment, and she lives life very intentionally. Kathy is currently going through a "slow divorce" over the course of multiple years as she and her husband work together with a therapist to simultaneously heal and transition their partnership. During this process, their therapist has helped them both seek out what living authentically would look like... For Kathy, that meant finally exploring non-monogamy. She's always had a desire and preference for non-monogamy but put that desire aside to start a family under the assumption that it would happen sometime in the future. And now, the future is here and she's loving it! As unconventional and rebellious as Kathy is, she's had to heal many parts of herself along her journey. It hasn't been easy, and she takes us through her powerful and inspiring life story with such levity and vulnerability. We hope you enjoy this interview as much as we did. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to sign up our FREE Week of Visibility Workshop! Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about exploring swinging while also in a quad and whether or not size matters and impacts men's ability to find success in the lifestyle. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Michael and his wife have been exploring non-monogamy since just before they got married about seven years ago. The conversation initially came up after an infidelity which set them on a path of healing, rebuilding, and ultimately exploration. This week’s interview is a little different than our normal interviews as it focuses a bit less on Michael’s personal journey while we dig into how Michael and his wife used their early experiences in exploring the play party scene in LA to craft an interactive play party experience of their own that blends performance art into a sensually curated environment to create deeper connection. Michael is the founder and creative director of The Play in Los Angeles. Definitely check out the amazing work he is doing to take the play party experience to the next level! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to sign up our FREE Week of Visibility Workshop! Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Taylor and Kuran have been together since 2017 and have an incredibly unique and beautiful relationship dynamic. We talk with lots of people in mono/poly dynamics, where one person is monogamous and the other is polyamorous... However, it's rare to find a monogamous person in this type of relationship that's as enthusiastically supportive, excited, and full of compersion as Kuran is for Taylor! He initially brought up the idea of opening their partnership in 2021 as a way to explore his interest in hotwifing. However, Taylor quickly learned that she desires deeper connections. Over the last few years they've been on a journey together creating something that seems to defy nearly every single relationship norm and expectation imaginable. Taylor and Kuran share how their dynamic injects a spark of electricity into their partnership and how they fully support each other in being whole humans as they raise their four kids (all under the age of six!). We absolutely love this conversation and their enthusiasm and excitement for the life they've built! Check out the full show notes here. Click here to sign up our FREE Week of Visibility Workshop! Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Aria is a bisexual, demisexual, sapiosexual, polyamorous, queer woman who's been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. During our conversation she takes us through her beautiful story and how she's come to discover all of these amazing parts of herself along her journey. Her flavor of non-monogamy has gone through many iterations over the years and she shares many of the lessons and tools she's learned along the way. Aria is also a trauma-informed relationship coach and somatic facilitator, helping people practicing non-monogamy deepen self awareness, overcome insecurities and enhance communication skills to create more liberated relationships that feel expansive and nourishing. You can learn more about her work over at ariadiana.com. Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Bay Area Retreat - Sept. 13-15, 2024 Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Ally has been exploring non-monogamy for about the past eight years but her fascination with relationships and human connection started quite early in life. As she explains it, she never really had the "cooties phase" growing up. Yet, like many of us, she learned to hide her sexuality early on, as well. Up until 2016 Ally's primary relationship style was serial monogamy. This ultimately led her to have a conversation with a partner about opening their relationship. They came up with some agreements and when she had her first experience it turned out to be a test from him and ended the relationship. However, Ally learned a lot about herself through the experience which eventually led her into the sex and play party scene where her whole world opened up. This interview with Ally is full of beautiful stories, experiences, and life lessons. We have incredible conversations about compersion, chemistry, compatibility, and... How chemistry and compatibility are very different from one another. Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport 2 Pleasure, through which she offers concierge guidance and online courses and resources for couples and individuals exploring healthy non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016, committed to promoting consensual, empowered, and respectful interactions as a leader within the sex-positive space. As a certified consent and communication specialist and respected non-monogamy ‘sexpert’, Ally sits on the executive leadership board of one of LA’s most distinguished sex-positive nightlife events. She regularly shares her insights on podcasts and at live events, and has been quoted in numerous consumer and industry-facing publications, further solidifying her reputation as a knowledgeable and influential voice on the subject of non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Mrs. N and Mr. N have been together nearly twenty years and started fantasizing together early on in their partnership. Their rich fantasy life together eventually turned into a reality a few years into their relationship. Things moved very slowly for years and eventually they found their sweet spot exploring swinging and hotwifing, or as they like to call it... "The Naughty Hobby" Their journeys in non-monogamy have been powerful in many ways for both of them. Before meeting one another, Mrs. N suffered with extreme pain during sex for many years and it created an immense amount of shame in her around sex and intimacy. The openness and communication they've fostered has helped them both heal physically and emotionally as they've grown closer together while adventuring together! These two have also been busy helping others... They host a podcast and have written a book both under the name Vanilla to Vixen where they take listeners behind the scenes of their healing journey together. Definitely check out their podcast and pick up a copy of their book! Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about tips and strategies for navigating drop AND embracing mismatched libidos in a triad. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Like many of us, Brett started initially exploring non-monogamy before he had the language to describe it or a framework to understand it. Initially, he was in a long-distance relationship that had an agreement around being open. He eventually moved to the San Francisco Bay Area where his relational world opened up even further. Upon arriving in The Bay, Brett found himself living with a polyamorous couple, exploring the the vibrant play party scene, and getting involved with various Burning Man communities. All of these experiences helped open Brett up to a world of diverse relationship models that he continues to explore as he strives to hone a never-ending list of relational skills. In 2022 Brett founded the Organization for Polyamory and Ethical Non-monogamy (OPEN). OPEN is a nonprofit organization dedicated to normalizing and empowering non-monogamous individuals, relationships, and communities. More than that, they’re a movement of people working toward a future where romantic and intimate relationships between consenting adults are accepted and protected regardless of relationship structure, gender identity, or sexual orientation. Please check out the incredible work they're doing and find out how you can impact change as well! Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jessica is in her mid-thirties and has been practicing non-monogamy for over 11 years. From a very young age she decided she didn't want to follow the traditional relationship scripts and norms that most people do. When she started dating in college, she was very intentional about moving into non-monogamy with her partner from the very beginning of their relationship. Even though they were very intentional about what they were doing and how they were relating, they didn't have the words or language to describe it. In the beginning, they were pretty much making it up as they went. Jessica and her partner started off dating together and eventually learned about many different ways of being open. This led her to discover relationship anarchy and the relationship anarchy smorgasbord. Today, Jessica is open to the ebb and flow of life and relationships. She focuses a lot of her social energy on fostering deep friendships and community as she lets relationships take the form that makes the most sense for each one. Jessica's passion for community and helping others is inspirational and goes beyond her personal life. She also volunteers on the board for a Seattle-based non-profit called Evergreen Hearts. Their mission is to empower people who practice non-traditional relationship styles to build community and grow relationship skills through social functions, educational events, and educational resources. We encourage you to check out the incredible work they're doing to build and support community. Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Abbey and Liam have been together for over 12 years and in an open relationship for about 10 of them. They initially started by exploring the idea as a fantasy through talking and sharing sexy stories back and forth on a private Tumblr page. Eventually, the fantasy turned into "Hey... Ya know, we could actually do this." which inspired them to begin exploring the New York City swinging world as they slowly opened their relationship. Today, their flavor of non-monogamy is a fluid negotiation between the two of them depending on what life looks like and what they're both wanting and needing. In today's beautiful interview they share about the power of forming deep friendships and community, how coming out changed their lives and allowed them to be honest about who they are, and how they thrive at being loving parents to their kiddo while navigating multiple relationships! If you can't get enough of Abbey and Liam, you're in luck! For the last few years they've been creating a powerful resource called the Evolving Love Project where they explore the topics of authentic and open relationships, sex positivity, parenting and empowered birth through a podcast, events, retreats, writing, and community! Definitely check it out! Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Daniel feels he was born polyamorous but it took him until about eight years ago to stop conforming to monogamy. He was in a monogamous partnership for about 18 years which transitioned into a beautiful friendship that has lasted until today, instead of just blowing up in a spiteful mess. This was his catalyst to exploring different ways of relating and ultimately polyamory. At the core of Daniel's story is an incredibly beautiful journey of self-discovery, personal exploration and growth. This is a powerful and vulnerable interview and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! Today's questions are about how to persevere when it feels like it's been hard for a while AND what information is ours to share about our partners and how do we do it in a way that feels good for them. If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I also completed a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute in March 2024!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Megan and Brett have been together for over 18 years and have been married for over 13. The idea of non-monogamy marinated in the background of their relationship for many years before they sort of both leaned into it around the same time a few years ago. They opened their relationship in a slow and calculated way and now find themselves in the beautiful grey area where they're a little too swingery for the polyamorous people, a little too polyamorous for the swinging community, a bit too kinky to consider themselves vanilla, and a bit too vanilla to call themselves kinky! Today, they take us on their beautiful journey of growing together though both the great times and the more challenging ones. Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Kat is a polyamorous queer woman in her mid-thirties who has been pushing against the status quo her whole life as she strives to be her authentic self and live a life full of joy. Kat grew up in the Baptist Church and had even taken a vow of chastity when she was 14. Also, things aren't quite that straightforward... Her first make-out session was with a group of friends before they all went to the movies in high school, she came out to her mom as bisexual when she was 16, and her first time having sex was in a threesome while living in Europe. So, perhaps the norms aren't a good fit for everyone? Kat has truly lived a life of adventure. She's lived all over the world and explored a wide range of relationship styles from monogamy to various forms of non-monogamy and kink. Kat is also an LGBTQIA+, kink, and non-monogamy-affirmative therapist who provides online therapy for adults, romantic partners, and chosen family. She specializes in empowering people to work through shame, anxiety, depression, ADHD, coming out, and relational issues. You can learn more about Kat and how to work with her by clicking here! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Mara and Mike have been together for almost 25 years and married for almost 20 of them... They've also been in some form of an open relationship pretty much the entire time. Lucky for us, they've organized their relationship into six phases! They walk us through each phase as they share all of the different ways they've related to one another and with themselves. We cover everything from their early days of swinging, the challenging duality of being a professional and a parent while also being adventurous and slutty, processing shame, and adapting their relationship and communication styles to better fit who they are as a team, and as individuals. We're excited to share this beautiful journey with you and we hope you enjoy it! Check out the full show notes here. Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

We are so excited to have Dr. Evelin Dacker back after more than four years... And this time, she's here to tell her incredibly powerful personal story! Dr. Dacker takes us on her journey of self-discovery over the course of more than three decades of being in relationships. She remembers having compersion from a very young age, even if she didn't have the words for it, and she's always felt like she was non-monogamous. Yet, like many, she got swept off her feet and into a 20-year detour of monogamy. Then, in her mid-forties, she joined a roller derby team and made a very intentional decision to shift her life and relationship in an effort to not completely lose her sexuality... From her website www.evelindacker.com : I am a Mexican-American, bicultural, bilingual, trauma-informed,  Integrative Family Physician who specializes in sexual wellness, menopause and hormones, and vitality throughout life. My unique approach to health incorporates pleasure as an important aspect for healing trauma and illness. In addition to practicing medicine, I specialize in teaching a sex positive approach to sexually transmitted disease,  am the creator of the STARS Talk framework for intimacy communication, and work toward incorporating sexuality into primary care through educating health care providers on sex-positivity. In addition, I hold workshops on consent and sexual communication geared toward young adults to help reduce sexual assault on college campuses. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Romi has always been an insatiably curious person who questions the status quo. This combination has led him to a life full of incredible adventures and human connection. Romi describes the first decade of his marriage as "monogamous, yet adventurous..." and he takes us along for the ride as he tells his powerful story of self-discovery. Today, he's a father with multiple deep partnerships and is in a polyamorous marriage. Not only does Romi live a life of adventure for himself, he's also dedicated his career to helping provide spaces for people to explore who they are. This led to the creation of SoulPlay! SoulPlay aspires to create a world where every individual is celebrated. Where unique desires and needs are acceptable. Where people can be free to be themselves, express themselves, and interact in a way that feels nourishing to them without fear of judgement or shame. SoulPlay 2024 is June 6-16 and you can learn more and get your tickets at www.soulplay.co. See you there!! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Jules has explored a variety of relationship styles in her life and her preference would be to be non-monogamous. Yet, she has very intentionally chosen a monogamous life and partnership with her husband. We have an incredibly powerful conversation about the unavoidable grief that comes with nearly every choice we make in life. Jules also weaves her story with so many amazing communication and relationship tools. Juliane Taylor Shore, LMFT, LPC, SEP, is a therapist, author, and teacher who is creating spaces where people can move into more self-compassion, self-trust, empowerment, and integrity. She regularly teaches and speaks to people from all around the world and translates new understandings in neurobiology into practices that can support brain change. She came into the therapy world as a client who argued that feelings didn’t matter only to find herself all these years later having followed neuroscience to the obvious conclusion: we are really feeling and meaning making beings driven by our interdependence. She believes that embracing that reality is key to finding purpose and deep joy. She is the author of Setting Boundaries that Stick: How Neurobiology Can Help You Rewire Your Brain to Feel Safe, Connected and Empowered. She is an associate Instructor with the Coherence Institute and a core faculty member with Therapy Wisdom. She lives in Austin, Texas with her husband, Adam, their daughter, Stella, and their rescue pointer mix, Layla. When she isn’t thinking about therapy or reading the latest neurobiology research, she can be found watching the British Baking Show while creating art shoes for her dear friends. Find all of Jules' work, books, and podcast on her website www.julianetaylorshore.com. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Nikita grew up in India and came to the US about seven years ago when she was 19. As she began to embrace her queerness she started learning about new relationship structures and ultimately found non-monogamy through the kink scene in New York City. For the past few years she has been exploring solo polyamory and shares with us her beautiful, powerful, and challenging journey. For her, being non-monogamous is part of her identity and she sees it as an extension of her queerness. Nikita is also a community organizer, psychotherapist, and sex therapist based in NYC. Her website does a much better job of capturing the power of her work and who she is than we ever could. Please check out her bio below and visit her website for all of her incredible work. From Nikita's Website: I am a Mental Health Therapist-LP and Sex Therapist based in New York City. I graduated with my Master’s in Counseling in Mental Health and Wellness and a dual degree in LGBT Health, Education, and Social Services from New York University. I also hold a Bachelor of Arts degree in Psychology with a background in Women and Gender Studies from George Mason University. I identify as a queer South Asian immigrant woman. I’m also neurodivergent and non-monogamous. Aside from being a therapist, I have volunteered as a crisis counselor for the Trevor Project, worked as a graduate assistant for the New York University LGBTQ+ Center, and helped in the planning of social justice conferences. I have worked towards being a therapist for many years now and it is my greatest honor to arrive where I am. I grew up in Bangalore, a city in India where access to mental healthcare was limited and heavily stigmatized. We didn’t really talk about sex at all and the patriarchal culture often made it unsafe to embody our sexual selves. During my young adult years in Bangalore, I struggled to find a counselor who had a background in LGBTQ issues. The counselor that I talked to put me in a one size fits all box, bound by a traditional conception of heteronormative binary identities. The services I received seemed ingenuine and I felt alone. The counselor failed to understand the challenges that are faced by a queer woman in a conservative country. At that moment, a strong desire to uplift people who feel confused and alone was born. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jill and Jack are back and this conversation is so powerful! This interview stands on its own. You do not need to have listened to their first episode to get a ton out of this conversation. Their initial interview on Episode 97 was less than a year into their non-monogamous adventure together. They have spent the last four years doing absolutely mind-blowing work on themselves and their partnership. Today, they share how they have arrived in the best place they've ever been. Spoiler alert: It was a LOT of hard work! Jill and Jack have been married for over 22 years and open for about the last five. They come from a deeply religious background and are former Mennonites who made a pitstop as Baptists on their way out of organized religion about a decade ago. Their initial entry into non-monogamy came during the aftermath of Jack getting happy-ending massages while he was still a Deacon in the Baptist church. They go into much more detail, but the very short version is that Jill was like "Okay... No more lying. We're a team. And by the way, I want to know if other guys want me as well!" Today we get behind the scenes on how they worked together to improve their communication, came through another infidelity, overcame decades of resentment, smoothed out their gas and brake pattern, and are finding ways to be in the moment and enjoy life together. Seriously, don't skip it. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Today (February 28) is Metamour Day and we're so excited to be celebrating with Anna! While Metamour relationships are definitely a vibrant theme in this interview, we also dig into so much more! Anna is an incredible artist, writer, counselor, and storyteller who is filled with deep love, compassion, and joy... They bring all of this and more to our conversation in a beautifully vulnerable and gentle way. This isn't an episode to be skipping. Anna learned about non-monogamy during graduate school after having their heart completely shattered. They had very little sexual and dating experience and embarked on a powerful journey of self-discovery that continues today. Currently, Anna has been partnered with William for nearly 20 years, partnered with Joe for over a decade, and is exploring connecting with others in ways that honor each individual relationship. You can find Anna’s art on PositivelyPolyAnna.com, their counseling work at livelikelove.net, learn more about Metamour Day at MetamourDay.com, and support Anna’s work through their Patreon. AND! Don't forget to get your Metamour Day Postcards here and save 20% with the code "NNM"! Check out the full show notes here.   Get your Metamour Day postcards here!   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Kim is a psychotherapist with more than 20 years of experience helping clients work through difficulties with relationships and break-downs in communication, including issues of trust and infidelity. Along with her husband, she is also a swinger, a secret unknown to even her children or closest friends. Kim and her husband have been married for over 25 years and intentionally exploring non-monogamy and swinging for about the past eight. Their adventure started as bedroom talk and exploring through fantasy... Then, roughly 20 years ago they were on vacation and told their taxi driver they were looking for some adventure and he dropped them off at a sex club! Surprise! Their experience at the club carried them forward in and out of the world of swinging and non-monogamy for over a decade before eventually digging into the tools they needed to find a path that works for them. Throughout their journey they have been continually figuring out how to balance their own individual needs with the needs and agreements of their partnership. In a world where everything and everyone is continually evolving, they've learned the critical importance of having hard conversations and not shifting into autopilot. There's so much to Kim's incredible story! Unfortunately we couldn't pack it all into this interview... Luckily for you, Kim wrote a memoir called The Swinger in the Mirror! We highly recommend you check it out. Her story is full of incredible experiences and invaluable lessons. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Dedeker is back after more than four years and an entire pandemic! As always, there's so much to get out of this beautiful conversation without listening to round one first (Episode 104).  Dedeker digs into the transitions and shifts in her own relational journey, including a moment of monogamy and the journey she's been on rekindling a partnership from over a decade ago. One of the things we love about talking with Dedeker about is how seamlessly she weaves humor and wisdom together into powerful and relatable lessons for all of us. Don't skip this one or you'll miss out on all of that plus one of the greatest confessionals we've ever had on the show! Dedeker is one of the co-hosts of the Multiamory podcast, a relationship coach, writer, and advocate for polyamory and non-traditional relationships. She is the author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory: Everything You Need to Know about Open Relationships, Non-Monogamy, and Alternative Love and the co-author of Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships. Learn more about all her work at www.dedekerwinston.com. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Courtney is back after more than 150 episodes to give us an update on all the ways he's been finding himself and crushing life over the last three years! This is such an amazing conversation about how we are all constantly changing and evolving in how we relate to one another, and to ourselves. While we definitely recommend listening to Courtney's first interview on Episode 165, this conversation stands on its own and is so powerful. Enjoy! Also! Courtney is the founder and director of an incredible non-profit called Something Positive for Positive People. SPFPP is dedicated to supporting individuals living with herpes using holistic approaches. They focus on navigating the complexities of stigma and relationships associated with the virus. Their mission is to provide stigma-free communication skills and other resources to sexual health service providers, including therapists, nurses, sex educators, and public health professionals. And! Courtney is organizing a virtual Herpes Stigma Conference on May 23, 2024. Get your ticket here! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jess and Tyler have been together nearly a decade and have been married for about six years. A few years back, the idea of opening their relationship came up in quite an exciting fashion! Jess and Tyler take us through how they overcame their abrupt entry into the world of non-monogamy and how they used it as an opportunity to grow closer and to be more authentically themselves. What started out as a way for Jess to explore her sexuality grew into a whole new way of creating a partnership filled with love and expansiveness. Jess is also a licensed therapist and relationship coach who loves working with those who choose a less conventional path. You can learn more about her and her work on her website www.bothandcoaching.com. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month! If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here! We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back! Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement. Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy. You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Carrie has been married for over 17 years, has kids, and is in a polyamorous relationship… Yet, this conversation is less about where she is today and more about the beautiful and intentional path that led her there. Carrie takes us deep into her incredibly powerful journey of healing and truly getting to know and accept herself. The divorce from her first husband led her on a spiritual journey of healing and ultimately inspired her first open relationship in 2004. Later, when she met her current husband they shared openly about their mutual desire for a non-monogamous partnership, even though they set off on an intentionally monogamous path for the next decade as they built a home and family together. Then, a few years ago she met someone… Carrie Jeroslow is an international best-selling author, relationship diversity advocate, speaker, intuitive, and podcaster. She loves helping people learn the tools to relate consciously to themselves and others. She believes that when we learn and accept who we truly are, we are able to be more authentic in our relationships with others, which in turn brings an unparalleled sense of fulfillment to our lives as a whole. We highly recommend checking out all of her powerful work on her website www.carriejeroslow.com where you can find her podcast, books, and all of the other ways Carrie is changing the world! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Roy first came on the podcast with his partner Jessie back on episode 182 and now he's back to give us an update and to dig into his personal journey a bit deeper. This episode stands on its own and afterwards you can go back and listen to our first conversation. Today, Roy takes us through the changes the last few years have brought for him and we go deep in talking about solo polyamory and why it's the best fit for him right now. He speaks vulnerably about experiences from past relationships and the social conditioning that impacted his ability to speak up for his own wants and needs in relationships of all kinds. We also get to go behind the scenes to understand the work he has done to heal these parts of himself so he can show up better for himself and his partners. This is a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it. Roy is a relationship coach and counselor who offers support and guidance to individuals and partnered people both online and in-person. He uses a variety of methodologies he was trained in, along with his extensive lived experience as a multilingual and multicultural global citizen. Please check out more about his work on his website openrelating.love. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Princess and DD have been together for almost four years and have both been exploring non-monogamy for about a decade. They each began their non-monogamous adventures by exploring swinging with previous spouses and have since entered into the worlds of BDSM, Dom/Sub dynamics, and polyamory together. More specifically, Princess and DD are in a Daddy Dom Little Girl (DDLG) or Caregiver Little (CGL) dynamic. They share with us how this dynamic unexpectedly developed between them and we have a beautiful conversation about the importance of educating yourself and having honest conversations to negotiate whatever relational structure you want. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Noa and her partner met in 2008 and were initially friends and roommates during college. Their romantic partnership grew out of their foundation of friendship and often included sharing stories of their sex-positive and flirty adventures. As their relationship deepened, they were mostly monogamous but also kept a bit of the flintiness and openness with others.  Noa shares with us the beautiful journey of self-discovery and growth that she has been on through the last 15 years, both with her partner and on her own. We have really incredible conversations about how she has had to rethink boundaries for herself, her relationship to change and the fear of change, and how she and her partner are currently in a place of redefining the container of their relationship to hopefully reduce hurt and disappointment. You will also hear throughout her story the huge impact that finding a community where she feels she belongs has had on her life. Speaking of community… Noa is the CEO of the Bloom Community App! Bloom Community is the social and community building app for sex-positive and edge-of-culture communities (non-monogamous, kinky, queer, etc) that helps you meet people organically through shared events. We have been using Bloom for a few years and absolutely love their mission. As you will hear, it’s not just a job… Noa is incredibly passionate about community. We hope you enjoy this conversation and that you will check out Bloom! We’ll see you over there! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Rose and Spade met in middle school and have now been together for over 30 years, and married for more than 20 of them! They've had open minds and communication since very early on. Even back in high school they would throw kissing and hot tub parties. They "officially" got into the swinging lifestyle about 17 years ago, when they were in their early twenties. They were quite active for a few years and then life got in the way.... They had kids, they each went back to school, they had jobs, and life was busy. Their swinging adventures naturally faded away for about a decade and then a few years ago, life eased up a bit and they got back into it. However, things are a bit different the second time around and a decade later and we get to hear all about it! We hope you enjoy this lighthearted and beautiful conversation.  Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Evita is back after almost 100 episodes and we're so excited! She's been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade and brings so many different experiences and perspectives to this interview. Evita originally got into non-monogamy while swinging with her former husband. One of the main themes of this conversation is around how her approach to non-monogamy and relationships has shifted as a solo person without an anchor partner. She speaks vulnerably about the tenderness and care she needs to give herself on this journey to protect herself physically and emotionally. She also speaks to the power that comes from advocating for yourself and how hard it often is to do. Evita has also just released a new book! A Polyamory Devotional: 365 Daily Reflections for the Consensually Nonmonogamous is available now! Please grab yourself a copy and check out all of Evita's work and coaching on her LinkTree. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Sarah and George are back after more than two years! The first time they came on was on episode 169 under the pseudonyms Alice and Sam. But, never fear... You don't HAVE to go listen to that episode in order to get a ton out of this powerful conversation. They've been living together for over seven years and their relationship was open from the beginning. Non-monogamy was new to George when Sarah introduced him to it on one of their first dates. Since then, the journey of non-monogamy has taken many forms over the years. Today, they've arrived in a place where they're both exploring polyamory in their own way. This conversation digs into the really powerful work they have done to deepen their connection, while at the same time, fostering and supporting autonomy for one another. We absolutely love this conversation and hope you do as well. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jo and her husband have been together for 18 years and have been exploring swinging for 17 of those years. They initially opened their relationship as a way for Jo to explore her bisexuality and things evolved from there. They're primarily exploring the swinging lifestyle and yet, swinging has always been about way more than just sex for them. We love this conversation for a few reasons... The first is that we get a really incredible look at the early days of what getting into swinging looked like for Jo and her husband. At the same time, we get to see what the evolution has looked like for them over nearly two decades. And, lucky us, we also get to have an incredible discussion about the shifts and growth they're both in the middle of right now. Jo is also the host of The Confident Swinger podcast and she's a confidence and lifestyle coach who loves helping people turn their dreams into a reality. Please check out her podcast and work over at www.theconfidentswinger.com. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

This interview with Beth and Mark is such a delight! They met in college on a blind date and have now been married for over 30 years! They decided to open their marriage about five years ago, but it wasn't a fast or easy process. During our conversation they take us inside their process in a really vulnerable way. They share openly about what they wish they had done different and how they worked together to heal and repair their relationship, and themselves, along the way. Today, they primarily spend their time exploring the swinging lifestyle, but as you will hear, life is a journey of exploring growth edges for these two. What it looked like five years ago is much different than today, and tomorrow is a new day full of possibilities. Mark is also a relationship coach who works with couples and individuals to help them explore what they need in their partnerships and to find their own path to opening up, if that's the path they choose. You can learn more about Mark and his work at www.openingus.com. Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Today's interview with Adam is best summarized as an unforgettable, powerful, and transformative adventure. He describes it better than we ever could on the website for his new book "Seek The Risk" and so, we got permission to adapt his description slightly: Adam has spent most of his life pursuing adventure—climbing some of the world’s steepest mountains, snowboarding dangerous backcountry terrain, and BASE jumping off of cliffs. Then he met Jane... Jane was a sex educator with a PhD in psychology, a female sexuality empowerment activist—and a self-described slut, who rejected monogamy and the societal norms of what a sexually well-behaved woman should be. No stranger to extreme living and taking risks, Adam thought he could handle whatever his relationship with Jane threw at him. But the very publicly open relationship was more than his strong male persona could bear. Rather than walk away and protect his ego, Adam applied the lessons he had learned about fear while free soloing high up on rock faces and free diving a hundred feet below the surface of the sea to navigate an even more terrifying situation—the woman he loved having lots of sex with lots of other men. Neither a celebration of non-monogamy, nor a cautionary tale, Seek the Risk is a firsthand account of what one extreme sports competitor went through after falling in love with the “wrong girl.” His journey forced him to reevaluate his ideals about relationships, female sexuality, and his own masculinity. It was also the wildest ride of his life. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Tasha and David have been married for about five years and have been together for about a decade. They've had variations of an open relationship (primarily swinging) from the beginning and have done a lot of work to learn and grow together.   Tasha and David dive into how the 26 year age difference between them has impacted their relationship and how they view love and sex. David came out of a long-term monogamous marriage just before he met Tasha. For him, sex equals love. Or at least it used to. This wasn't exactly the case for Tasha.   Tasha and David are also in the middle of a beautiful and common transition in their non-monogamous partnership... They are exploring what opening up their partnership to connection beyond swinging and sex with others might look like. They have found themselves answering a very common question... What happens when swingers catch feelings?   Tasha is a Doctoral student who is studying relationship satisfaction across all relational dynamics. She would love if you would help her collect data to finish her thesis and dissertation. Here is a link to the confidential survey which takes about 10 minutes to complete. Thank you for helping her and for helping to normalize non-monogamy! (Note: Tasha is a pseudonym. The survey and her research is published under her legal name.)   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Mariana is a wonderful 31 year old polyamorous woman in Portugal who is in a mono-poly dynamic with her partner of five years and an additional partner of about a year. Consensual non-monogamy is a relatively new concept in her life but she has been pushing back against societal norms and scripts since she was a teenager.   She shares with us her beautiful and powerful journey of hitting rock-bottom in an abusive partnership before digging deep into who she is and what she really wants out of life and relationships. She takes us through the work she did for herself and with her partner to design the relationship she wants... And, it's everchanging.   Speaking of designing relationships... Mariana is a designer and worked with her therapist to adapt the tools she used with her partner into a stunning game. You can find The Relationship Design Game here on her website and you can save 10% when you use the code "EMMA" at checkout!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Jessica and David have been in many different iterations of relationship together for over twenty years... They were friends, they dated, they were friends again, they dated again, they got married, they had a child, they divorced, they became friends again, and now they're nesting co-parents who refer to themselves as "poly intimates" and life partners. This interview is a beautiful and vulnerable look inside what that journey was like for them together and as individuals, and how they arrived here. And, where "here" even is.   Jessica Fern is the author of the wildly popular book Polysecure. From her website: Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides nonmonogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.   She and David Cooley recently released their new book, Polywise. From her website: Using a grounded theory approach, they explore the underlying challenges that nonmonogamous individuals and partners can experience after their first steps, offering practical strategies for transforming them into opportunities for new levels of clarity and intimacy. Polywise provides both the conceptual framework to better understand the shift from monogamy to nonmonogamy and the tools to navigate the next steps.   To learn more about Jessica's work, please visit her website. Similarly, to learn more about David's work as a restorative justice facilitator, please visit his website.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Meshai and Fin team up together to answer amazing listener questions every fourth Friday of each month!   If YOU have a question, we'd love to hear it! Please, ask us anything by clicking here!   You likely know me (Fin) from over 300 episodes of Normalizing Non-Monogamy. Just in case you don't, I cohost the podcast with my partner Emma and we have been in an open relationship together for over 15 years. I am also working towards completing a sex and relationship coaching program through the Somatica Institute and will be finished in late spring 2024.   We are super excited to be partnering with Meshai for the Ask Us Anything episodes! She first appeared on the podcast on Episode 233 and we're honored to have her back!   Meshai is relationship coach with the team at Expansive Connection. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces of a couple's sexual energy together and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person.   Meshai is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) and is certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy, and she is trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Rachel's first appearance on the podcast was over 300 episodes, and five years ago. She originally shared her story on episode 8 with her partner and used a pseudonym. A lot has changed since then.   Rachel has been exploring non-monogamy for close to a decade. Initially, she and her partner were in a hierarchical relationship where they explored swinging, dating as a couple, and a bit of polyamory. As time went on, their dynamic shifted and they eventually found themselves in a pseudo-quad dynamic where there was much less hierarchy. More recently, she has embraced the concept of being her own primary partner, while investing in a committed relationship.   Rachel is incredibly eloquent and vulnerable in this interview. We have amazing conversations about maintaining friendship after transitioning a romantic partnership, rekindling romantic partnerships after a breakup, processing the grief and loss of a relationship, the power and vulnerability in asking for help and leaning on your support system, and we dig into capacity and healing around commitments and expectations. There is so much that is wonderful about this conversation.   If that wasn't enough... Rachel is also a licensed clinical social worker (LCSW-C) and an AASECT certified sex therapist (CST). She is kink, poly, and LGBTQ friendly with a wide range of experience working with individuals and couples on a myriad of treatment issues, including sexuality, communication, conflict, life transitions, lack of emotional or physical intimacy, depression, anxiety, trauma, and more. Please learn more at aliveintimacy.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

This conversation is beyond powerful. We say that often and we always mean it. This is no exception to the rule.   About a year ago Anna and Andy opened up their relationship after being together for over 30 years. They'd talked about it for a long time, and finally did it. They even had a plan and lots of agreements. And then, the first person they met was J! J has been exploring non-monogamy for about a decade in a wide range of configurations and now he, Anna, and Andy are in a V together with Anna as the hinge.   The power in this conversation comes from how these three vulnerably dig into the really beautiful work they've all have had to do to get here. Anna has ADHD and is Autistic, Andy has ADHD, and J is Autistic. Learning to navigate a hinge relationship while meshing multiple neurodivergencies has been revolutionary for all three of them. We talk a lot about the relief that comes from not having to mask anymore and at the same time, the challenges that come with it as well.   We also dig into healing from intense religious upbringings (Anna and Andy were both raised by parents who were pastors), deconstructing the patriarchy and ownership, and forming relationships with metamours. Again, this conversation is beautiful, powerful, and even full of laughs. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

This is such a deep, vulnerable, and beautiful conversation. Orit and her husband discussed opening their relationship fairly early on. However, personal history and trauma made the conversations scary and triggering for Orit.   She shares with us her powerful journey of healing over the last decade and how she and her husband currently explore polyamory together. She speaks elegantly about her path of healing trauma, transitioning and grieving relationships, holding multiple opposing truths at once, her brief experiences in swinging, and so much about new relationship energy (NRE). We absolutely love this one and hope you do, as well.   Orit doesn't just walk the walk, she also loves helping others. She is a Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist, a Licensed Creative Arts Therapist, and has a MS in Dance/Movement therapy with over 13 years of experience.   As she says on her website: "I call myself a Trauma and Relationship Expert because I’ve helped thousands heal from past wounds and improve their relationships. But to be honest with you – I’m still making mistakes in my own relationships. I’ve had 10+ years of therapy, coaching, and plant medicine journeys – yet, I’m still learning.   I’ve grown so much since the days I used to sabotage my relationships with uncontrollable jealousy and fear. A decade ago, I could barely stand the idea of my husband texting another woman. Now, we’re in a loving & stable polyamorous marriage. Healing does and can happen! I am living proof and it is my mission to share it with the world as best as I can.   This has been far more than a personal transformation. This is my calling."   Please check out all of her amazing work at www.oritkrug.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

"You have to do the work..." gets thrown around all the time these days in love and relationships. Never before have we heard a more powerful discussion of what "the work" is than this one with Bru and Mark. They talk through the raw and beautiful work they have both done individually, and together, to get to where they are today.   They're both in their mid-thirties and are high school sweethearts who have been married for over 18 years. They're also about two years into a very slow and intentional opening of their relationship. They opened, explored, paused, redesigned, and are now opening again.   Again, this conversation is incredible from beginning to end. Bru and Mark talk so vulnerably about their experiences growing up intensely Evangelical Christian, leaving the church, healing complex PTSD, and finding and rebuilding a loving and supportive community around themselves. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Rachel Lark is a bisexual, kinky, polyamorous, cis female musician, performer, and writer. And that's all before she's had her morning coffee! Raised by two sex-positive philosophers, Rachel tends to question most things, rather than blindly following the herd. In a similar fashion, this is one of our more philosophical interviews about non-monogamy. We absolutely love it and hope you do as well.   As we mentioned, Rachel is a musician and performer. What we didn't tell you is that she is an AMAZING musician and performer and you should definitely check out her website for more information on her work and her current fall 2023 tour!   One last thing... Many of the world's greatest creative minds and artists make their living $5 and $10 at a time by finding their most loyal and supportive fans. Please consider supporting Rachel's work by contributing to her Patreon.   It may seem crazy, and it's hard to explain how much getting a new Patreon supporter means to indie artists and creators. She has about as many supporters as we do in our virtual community and we know how much it makes our day when we get a new member. Emma and I still text each other immediately to celebrate. I imagine it's the same for Rachel. Here's that link again.   Check out the full show notes here.   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Quick episode announcing the our new Ask Us Anything episodes!   Fin is teaming up with Meshai from Expansive Connection coaching to answer all of your non-monogamy related questions!   Click here to record and submit a question!   Your question will be played on the podcast. Keep your question to 2 minutes or less. Do not use names or identifying information about people. Please be in a quiet place when you record. This helps ensure the highest audio quality possible. Thank you!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Submit a question for our Ask Us Anything Episodes!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

  This is one of those interviews you'll listen to over and over... Chaneé is absolutely full of incredible experience and wisdom. She is a 36 year old, black, pansexual, polyamorous mom, wife, partner, event planner, coach, and educator. She grew up in an evangelical Christian family and ultimately started questioning who she wanted to be in the world around the time she was 19.   Fast forward a few years and she and her now-husband opened their relationship pretty much from the beginning and then, accidentally found themselves in their first triad. Over the last decade, Chaneé has dedicated herself to researching, understanding, and teaching the world about polyamory and non-monogamy.   One of the things we love about Chaneé's work is that her teaching is not theoretical. It is extremely practical and pragmatic, as you will hear in this conversation when she talks about what "good communication" actually means. And how to practice it.   Please support all of Chaneé's work by checking out her LinkTree. And, please remember to pre-order your copy of A Polyamory Devotional!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Lauren and Lars have been together for about 20 years and decided to open their marriage about five years ago. They initially opened slowly at a pace they both felt safe with. They used their weekly date nights to read and study The Ethical Slut and they got super intentional about their relationship and getting connected before they dove in. And then... Dive right in, they did!   Lauren and Lars are pretty active in the swinging lifestyle and also blur the lines a bit between friends and more. One of the things we love about our conversation is how they embrace the power of human connection, regardless of labels. We also have some beautiful conversations about what the early days of opening up looked like for them when they weren't exactly sure what they were wanting, or what was even available.   Bringing it around full circle, Lauren is now a lifestyle coach who works with people of all orientations who are interested in the lifestyle and consensual non-monogamy. She's a trained co-active coach and has completed Gottman Level 1 Training, as well. Please check out her website to learn more!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Natalie and her husband have been exploring non-monogamy for over 25 years. They initially opened their marriage as they were redesigning it after it was rocked by an infidelity. For about the first decade they explored swinging and dating together. When her husband got deployed, they decided to give polyamory a try and it opened a whole new world for both of them.   Natalie shares honestly and vulnerably with us about the challenges, and the powerful beauty, of her decades long journey of exploring who she is through non-monogamy. She talks about how she's developed beautiful metamour relationships, built community so her partners aren't her only support system, and how she's built a home that now includes her husband's partner cohabitating with them.   Still not enough for you?! Perfect! Head over to Natalie's Medium account where you can read so much more about her adventures!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

We absolutely love this conversation! So much of this episode is about the never ending journey of trying to figure out how to embrace who you truly are and how to love others for who they are.   As Casey was growing up, she often had different interests than many of her friends and people around her. She learned quickly to stuff those desires down and developed a lot of shame around who she was.   Casey started dating and got into her first relationship when she was a junior in college. However, she found herself struggling to maintain monogamous commitments and often ended up cheating or pursuing serial monogamy. Neither of which felt good to her, or were the ways she wanted to be relating to people she cares for and loves.   About a decade ago, she entered into a partnership that was open from the very beginning. She and her partner worked together to open slowly in a way that worked for them and gave her the space to process some of the shame that she had been carrying for her whole life.   Casey is now embracing and exploring her queerness and her polyamorous journey in her personal life and in her professional life. Taken directly from her website www.caseycalvert.com, "I realized that I really liked the part of me that I tried to keep hidden from the world, and I wanted to share her with more people. So I started moving away from topless glamour shoots to fully nude fetish. But that wasn’t enough. The exhibitionist in me wanted more. Hardcore porn was the next step."   Besides being an inspiration in her personal and relational lives, she does the same as a porn performer, content creator, writer, director, and producer. She works closely with Erika Lust and ListCinema to produce fantastic feminist porn and sex-positive content. Her latest project is a series called Primary, which tells the stories of multiple people exploring polyamory in an honest and sexy way. We encourage you to please go check out and support all of Casey's work.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Bree is a queer, polyamorous, Chicana in her mid-thirties who is also a mother of two toddlers and has been married about a decade. Oh! And, she also has a boyfriend of almost two years. She's had a non-monogamous approach to relating as long as she can remember, but started being intentional about how she approached it when she met her now-husband in college.   Bree and her husband slowly opened their relationship and began exploring from the very beginning. The initial stages were mostly making out with friends and crushes, but over time it grew into polyamorous connections for them both. In this beautiful interview, she shares with us the benefits of having different types of relationships and how they meet different needs and allow her and her husband to experience more of who they are in ways they never had.   Bree is also an imagination coach, which is a title we absolutely love! She helps people and couples imagine what their relationships and lives can be through pulling together unique ways of looking at all aspects of who we are and challenging norms. Please go check out her work and learn more at www.baeleche.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

  Jeannie's story is an absolutely beautiful one. She had what she felt was an "average" or "normal" sex life until she was in her mid-twenties and then she felt her libido shut down. It became really apparent to her when she moved in with her boyfriend (now husband).   This set her off on a journey of trying to reclaim and unlock the sexual person she felt she was. We are so grateful for her vulnerability in taking us behind the scenes into the really powerful and hard work she has done both individually, and with her husband. Oh, and spoiler alert... Her boyfriend of two years plays a part in the story as well!   About a decade ago Jeannie and her husband started discussing the idea of non-monogamy and opening their marriage. After four years of talking about it, they took their first steps. They opened their marriage. Then, one of them unexpectedly fell in love and they ended up closing their relationship to do some more work together before opening back up. As Jeannie describes it, she went through a huge mindset shift in how she thinks about love, which opened up new ways for her to approach relationships.   One of the best parts of all of this... Jeannie wrote a memoir detailing the whole journey. It's a combination of powerful epiphanies and some super sexy and powerful experiences. You can find out more at www.summerofsexiness.com. We hope you enjoy her book and this conversation!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

We are incredibly grateful and delighted to have Chloe and Drew back on the show for a third time. This conversation is so powerful and we know you'll get so much out of it, even without listening to their previous two episodes (Ep 89 and Ep 156).   Chloe and Drew met in high school, got married shortly after graduating, and then had to grow up fast when their daughter passed away. Sadly, the grieving process opened the door for each of them to emotionally neglect their relationship. This led to an emotional affair, which ultimately ended with the two of them redesigning their entire relationship.   This conversation is a snapshot of where these two are at after years of intense work on themselves and on their partnership. Spoiler alert... They have made monumental changes in how they love through their relationship and life together. Not only were we struck by how much has changed, but this interview is full, from start to finish, with practical and actionable strategies they have used. The way the two of them used a seemingly stupid game on their phone to develop empathy for one another is so beautiful, as is how they approach boundaries, and communicating with their children.   Stop reading this and start listening. You will be glad you did. Enjoy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Nikki and Michael have known each other since they were teenagers, have been together 27 years, and married for 20. They've also both been in the performing arts community for over 30 years. Their initial exposure a few years ago to exploring sexuality and connection outside of their relationship came through incidental and even some accidental experiences they had as part of that community.   We love how Nikki and Michael take us through their journey in a very honest and vulnerable way. For them, it wasn't glamorous, romantic, or sexy in the beginning. In fact, the glamour wore off quickly for them as they realized it's about the human connection. It's about self-growth and learning about who you are, questioning your past and the scripts we're taught, and understanding the world around you. And, it can also be really hard, yet, extraordinarily beautiful and powerful.   Nikki and Michael also took their 30+ years of experience in theatre, combined it with what they have learned about themselves, consent, sexuality, and life through their experiences in non-monogamy, and created an interactive play called Compersion! While we have not had the opportunity to experience it ourselves, we highly encourage you to check it out! It sounds incredible and unlike anything we have ever heard of. You can learn more at www.steamyromantics.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Challenging Non-Monogamy Myths Workshop - August 2, 2023   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

  Fernanda grew up in Mexico and moved to the US in 2016. She knew about the concept of non-monogamy before that, but her first real-life exposure came when she met someone at the airport when she landed in New York City and lost her wallet. They became friends and he introduced her to his Burning Man community, many of whom are non-monogamous. She spent a few years exploring variations of non-monogamy on her own before she met her current partner about five years ago. He was, and still is, monogamous. She is not.   We have a wonderful conversation with her about how they slowly opened their partnership and how it has evolved over the last few years. We are so grateful for Fernanda's transparency and willingness to share how they navigate their version of a Don't Ask, Don't Tell (DADT) partnership and how they have co-created the rules and boundaries, even when it didn't always feel great to one or both of them.   Fernanda is also the host of the Polycurious podcast and a relationship coach who primarily works with people who are also exploring non-monogamy. The best place to find her work is on her Instagram page. Check it out!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Katie and Beau have an incredibly beautiful story and they are some of the most kind and loving people we've come across. This interview is truly a delight!   These two grew up near one another but never met until a mutual friend set them up on sort of a blind date while they happened to both be in Ireland many years later. Let's just say the first date went well and they essentially moved in together, in Ireland, not long after. That was about six years ago.   The foundation of their partnership is built on communication, integrity, and treating one another with love, respect, and trust. They had conversations about opening their partnership early on, but took some time to embrace it.   About a year ago they decided to revisit the conversation as a possible option to help them navigate some challenges they were facing. Then, a few months before their wedding, Beau fell for someone and the journey got a whole lot more real. Luckily, the foundation these two built has been crucial in how they have only grown closer through the experience and they are now happily married, and happily in love with, one another and their new partners as well!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

  Nick has been exploring consensual non-monogamy for about a decade and is the hinge in a cohabitating triad with Jace (Episode 254) and Sammy. He shares how he and his partners balance their time, find time for themselves, and how they co-create a beautiful home dynamic where they each bring their unique strengths. Nick is also incredibly honest and vulnerable about his challenges and growth throughout his journey.   We're also extremely grateful to Nick for sharing about his experience and journey of coming out. He grew up in a very religious Catholic home, played music in his church, and was married to a woman when he met and fell for his now husband, Sammy. His coming out changed his life in drastic ways and yet he feels like he is more able to be himself than ever before.   It's also no secret that music is Nick's life... Don't forget to check out Nick's incredible band, Brother Hawk. You won't regret it!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This interview with Liana is so much fun! Get ready to laugh... Liana describes herself as a "severely gay", queer, and polyamorous relationship nerd. Although, she admits the "relationship nerd" part is a bit newer and came as a result of being terrible at relationships when she was younger. We've all been there, right?   Liana recognized her queerness as a freshman in high school but struggled with Catholic guilt for a few years before coming out during her senior year. A few years later, as a senior in college she discovered polyamory and started down that road, as well.   Liana is super vulnerable in sharing about her journey of coming out multiple times and how they were linked but also very unique at the same time. We also have great conversations about being partnered through the process of coming out, making mistakes, and just being yourself. The takeaway today... It's okay to not know what you're doing!   Liana is also a queer relationship and love coach who works primarily with people in the queer and poly communities and is co-host of the Queer and Poly Podcast. Check out all her work via her Instagram page.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Joli and Ken have known one another since Joli was born. Then, somewhere around 14 years ago something clicked on the dance floor. (Not a euphemism) Since that night, these two have been on a powerful and beautiful rollercoaster ride together as they have learned about themselves, each other, and how to relate in a way that feels right for them.   Our conversation with these two is amazing. Not only are they super vulnerable about their growing pains, and sometimes just pains... But, they've done an astonishing amount of work to understand exactly what was going on for them during those times and how they can reflect on it with invaluable insights for the rest of us.   Joli has taken learning about how to make her relationships better to a new level. As she says "My way out of trouble has always been to dive in 100%, so I got my doctorate in depth psychology, a certification in sexuality education, and became a researcher known for my work on the archetypal experience of jealousy."   Lucky for all of us! Joli is now a relationship coach who works 1:1 and in groups to help people dream up and create relationships that work for them. Together, her and Ken also host the Playing with Fire podcast. Please check out all of their work at jolihamilton.com!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Frank and his fiancé have been together for about eight years and have explored a wide variety of flavors of non-monogamy. They opened up their partnership a few years back when one of his fiancé's former partners came to town and things just sort of happened. Since then, they've been figuring out what works for them.   Some of the major themes from this conversation are how Frank and his partner thread the needle of finding people to connect with and how they communicate their wants, needs, and capacities to ensure they're co-creating the right kind of relationship or friendship with people.   Frank is also the creator, writer, and star of Open To It! Open to It is a queer comedy series about a loving gay couple, who experiments with becoming a hot gay throuple. But threesome sex and open relationships come with more complications than limbs.   It's absolutely hilarious! Check it out!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Leah and Brady have been together for about five years and came to the partnership with different backgrounds in non-monogamy, Leah was pretty much brand new to the idea and Brady had been exploring non-monogamy for about 20 years. Together, they decided to open their partnership from the very beginning.   There are so many things we love about this conversation but there are a few things we extra love.! Leah and Brady are super vulnerable and honest about their struggles in finding a rhythm that worked for them. They're also really transparent about their individual growth journeys as they learned how to support one another, build a new family, integrate previous partners and kids, and create a partnership that works for both of them... Even if it's not 100% "equal" in how they approach it.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Sara has known she was non-monogamous her whole life but only found the words to describe it about seven years ago. She was initially introduced to non-monogamy when a partner of hers proposed the idea of swinging. However, she really got hooked when she discovered her love for forming deeper connections and delightful crushes!   Sara now sees polyamory as part of her identity and is practicing solo poly with a twist of kink swirled in. Sara's perspectives and experiences in navigating neurodivergence, love, communication, coming out, and frankly just living life are incredibly beautiful. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Check out our weekly peer support groups!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Ann and Charles are in their early thirties and found each other a few years ago. They both came to the partnership with backgrounds in non-monogamy.   Ann has been polyamorous her whole life but became self-aware of this about nine years back. Her experience was mostly in polyamory and the kink scene. Specifically, the DDLG/CGL (daddy dom little girl / caregiver little) communities. Charles on the other hand, came to the partnership with a few years of experience in the swinging lifestyle. Together, they have opened one another's eyes and worlds to new possibilities and adventures.   There is a third partner who is also part of the relationship and our conversation today: Jason. This interview was supposed to happen last year but sadly Jason was killed in a car accident. Our interview today focuses primarily on the partnership between Ann and Charles, but Jason is a big part of their lives.   We are so grateful to both Ann and Charles for sharing this powerful story and for offering to be a resource for anyone who may be experiencing a similar loss while exploring polyamory.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

We are thrilled to have all three co-hosts of the Multiamory podcast on this week. Or as they sometimes refer to themselves... "An emotionally bonded triad who are coparenting a podcast baby." All funny stuff aside, these three have an incredible story and have been in various relationship dynamics together including a quad, a triad, and *gasp* even monogamy. Along the way, they learned a whole lot.   Lucky for you (and us), they took many of those hard-earned lessons and have shared them over the last nine years on their podcast. And just yesterday, (May 23, 2023) they released their new book! Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships. We highly recommend it as a practical set of tools and strategies for improving your relationships of any kind.   We're delighted that in our conversation with them, they took some of these tools and wove them into their individual and collective non-monogamous journeys. We found it powerful to hear how some of these tools came to be and how they've personally field-tested them for us. This interview is packed with amazing stories and wisdom.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Terry has been exploring polyamory for about 50 years and we are so excited to help share her story with the world! And no, that's not a typo... Fifty years! During that time, polyamory took on many different forms for Terry and has been shaped by her rich personal connections and chosen family of polyamorous thought leaders. Our conversation today is a mix of her personal story and a polyamory history lesson, all rolled into one!   Her experiences over the years also helped inspire her new book: Fifty Years of Polyamory in America: A Guided Tour of a Growing Movement. Please check out her book and all of her work at Live The Dream.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Mariko has an incredibly powerful and beautiful story. She was born and raised in Japan and came to the US for her Master's degree at age 25. She spent most of her life (so far) as a married business woman seeking approval from everyone in her life. And then, everything changed a few years back... Mariko shares with us her journey of challenging nearly all of the beliefs she held in life and what can happen when you do. She's taken on the mission of approaching life with radical honesty and listening to herself above all else. This conversation is all about reclaiming your untapped power and we're so excited to share it with you.   Please go check out all of Mariko's work at mistressmariko.com (spoiler alert😜) and her LinkTree. Mariko has now completed a sex and relationship coaching program, become a certified Dominatrix, and is building a beautiful community. You can also watch her TEDx talk as well. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Libby and Tom have been together for over six years and for the last while have been making it work long distance. Their "coming together" story is absolutely amazing, and they both had very different backgrounds and experience levels in practicing non-monogamy and polyamory. Libby came to the partnership with a few years of experience. Tom was a bit newer than that... Pretty much brand new, to be precise. In this beautiful interview Libby and Tom dig into so much but we absolutely loved the conversations around self-care, the power that love can have in helping us see ourselves in a new way, and the strength it can give us to live the life we maybe never knew was possible.   One more thing! Please, go check out all of Libby's work at libbysinback.com. Libby is an incredible friend, relationship coach, educator, and content creator. If you'd like to hear more of her, we highly recommend her podcast "Making Polyamory Work."   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Non-monogamy has been a big part of how Elizabeth has related to others her whole life, but she's only recently put words to it. For her, life is made up of experiences and adventures that we learn and grow from. Together we have some amazing conversations about breaking rules, the difference between a "sex friend" and a partner, and the wide variety of different ways she has done non-monogamy. We love how she lives her life in a way where the labels are far less important than how we treat the people we love. Also, Elizabeth shares some amazing stories about living at a sex resort for two months!   Elizabeth is the founder of an amazing phone app! Amorus is the sexy games app for partners to bring the spice and fun back to texting! It's amazing and we're super excited to help her spread the word about it. We firmly believe the world needs more sexiness and Elizabeth is fighting the good fight!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Today we are super excited to have a beautiful and lively conversation with Kyrr, Libby, and Drew! We're thrilled to have a behind-the-scenes look into how three humans who live together co-create an incredible family. Our conversation is wide-ranging and we get to dive deep on how they approach living and parenting in community, collaboration, secondary parenting, and so much more. Less reading and more listening... Get in here and enjoy yourself!   Don't forget to go and check out all of Libby's work at libbysinback.com. Libby is an incredible friend, relationship coach, educator, and content creator. If you'd like to hear more of her, we highly recommend her podcast "Making Polyamory Work." Now... Get in here and listen!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Alyssa is an autistic trans woman who was first exposed to non-monogamy about a decade ago, and as she describes it, it was as if a chorus of angels were singing from heaven. For once, life finally made a bit of sense.   We love the bio from her website and think it's beautiful and describes her better than we ever could... "I'm a biology Ph.D. who knows how to write and speak on a stage. Whether it's highly technical scientific documents, psychological fiction about robots falling in love, an informative presentation on fish biology, or a heart-rending polemic about the reality of being transgender, I can put words together to meet your needs."   Speaking of words... Alyssa is also the author of the newly released book "Nonmonogamy and Neurodiversity"... Again, taken directly from the book's description: "This book is for neurodivergent people considering or practicing nonmonogamy. Its goal is to help neurodivergent people understand how well-suited they are to the polyamorous life, and to help them recognize and manage the challenges that being neurodivergent can bring to nonmonogamy. It is also for the partners and potential partners of neurodivergent people, to encourage them to understand different perspectives and to help them be understanding, accommodating and well-informed. Nonmonogamous relationships do not belong exclusively to the neurotypicals, but to us all."   Please check out all of Alyssa's work on her website: www.alyssacgonzalez.com. This conversation is absolutely incredible and we hope you enjoy it a fraction as much as we enjoyed having it.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Phoenix is obsessed with sex, relationships, intimacy, and how to make all of those things better. Those are their words, not ours. 😁 Phoenix has been exploring non-monogamy since their first year of college, roughly 20 years ago. Over that time, they've explored lots of different relational dynamics, explored their gender and queerness, and overall have had a wide range of powerful life experiences. The early days focused more on the BDSM side of things, but a few years in, it became clear that polyamory was actually part of their identity, not just a fun activity (although it can be that as well!). We hope you enjoy this fun and beautiful conversation!   Phoenix is also a sexuality educator and peer-to-peer coach who focuses on working with those in the ENM, BDSM, and LGBTQIA+ communities. Head over to their website at phoenixmandel.com to lean more about all of their amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Roderick is so full of energy and enthusiasm for life, and so is our conversation together! Roderick and his partner Jane have been together for about five years and decided about three years in to start exploring what it would mean to slowly open their relationship. For them, it's all about learning ways to improve their relationship and themselves, anything else is icing on the cake.   One of the things we love about this conversation is how open and transparent Roderick is about how Autism, ADHD, and OCD have impacted his life and how finding non-monogamy was like a beacon of light for him. Finding a community where people can show up and be their authentic selves, remove the facade and filters, and communicate openly has been life changing for him.   Another perk of Roderick's neurodivergence is that he is a creative genius... He's an award-winning filmmaker, artist, and writer. (Seriously, this time lapse of him painting is unbelievable...) On a related note... We recorded the video of this interview and it is going to be part of a documentary that Roderick is making called "Open: A Journey Through Love"... He has spent the past 6-8 months traveling around the country interviewing incredible people (including us) who are exploring non-monogamy in their own way. Please check out the short preview here and consider helping support the project through the Indiegogo campaign. Important note: Normalizing Non-Monogamy has not been, and to the best of our knowledge, will not be compensated in any way for our participation in this project nor will any of the funding from the Indiegogo campaign go to us.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Sign up for the "Dating Your Way" workshop on March 30!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

"It only takes one person to make change, and I'll try." Janiqueel's approach to love and life is so incredibly powerful and beautiful. Janiqueel started exploring non-monogamy about a decade ago and most closely identifies as solo poly. This conversation is essentially a master class in empathy, compassion, and having both while setting boundaries so you can live the life you want. It's definitely not easy, but it is amazing.   We also highly encourage you to go check out Janiqueel's work, blog, and social media. It is all so impressive and full of such positive vibes and love. You can find everything over at www.janiqueel.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Sign up for the "Dating Your Way" workshop on March 30!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This wonderful conversation with Laura has a little bit of everything! She's been exploring non-monogamy for over 15 years and has done so in a wide variety of polyamorous dynamics. Together we talk about her experiences co-parenting in a V-relationship, confronting guilt and shame, and consciously exploring sexuality. And of course, so much more. A bit more about Laura in her own words, copied from her website www.readyforpolyamory.com...   Laura Boyle is an advocate for relationship anarchy and educator on topics under the umbrellas of polyamory and consensual non-monogamy. She also offers classes on sex education, kink, boundaries and cooperative negotiation skills. She found polyamory at university in Montreal in the mid aughts. After returning to the States, where she found local polyam community while completing law school and building her family, she saw a void in relationship education. She began offering classes on the possibilities and pitfalls of different structures of polyamorous relationships. Chronic illness that advanced into disability (and a sprinkle of global pandemic) created the opportunity to pivot a part-time passion into her primary focus. In this time she launched the successful Ready for Polyamory blog and podcast, had several brain surgeries, and expanded her reach nationally and internationally. She published her first book, Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy in September 2021, has been privileged to support dozens of polyamorous individuals and polycules through various phases of their relationships for the past several years, and is excited to be teaching both digitally and in person. Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Sign up for the "Dating Your Way" workshop on March 30!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Life is an adventure... And that's exactly how Jill and Stephen live it. These two have been best friends since they met, married over 18 years, and adventuring together the whole time from exploring Europe to opening a bakery. They opened their relationship almost immediately, but moved slowly with it. To their cores, they truly just want the other person to be happy.   They've explored a wide variety of non-monogamous flavors, from swinging to polyamory, and mostly just try to embrace the freedom of letting each relationship be its own. We have great conversations on hierarchy, logistics, coming into your own, kids, and so much more. Also, you're definitely going to want to stick around until the end when they talk about the exchange between Stephen and his young daughter. It's beautiful.   Jill is also a Certified Death Doula and does some wildly powerful work. She talks about it towards the end of the interview and we also encourage you to go check out her work at End of Life Clarity.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Sign up for the "Dating Your Way" workshop on March 30!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This conversation with Brian is so amazing and covers so many facets of relating to other humans, regardless of your relationship dynamic. Brian is a cis, queer, polyamorous, sex and relationship educator who grew up evangelical Christian and came out as queer in 2004. He's been with his partner for over 14 years and they slowly opened their relationship about a year into it. And today, he is also one of the co-founders of queertheology.com!   One of the things we love about talking with Brian is how he weaves incredible learning moments into all of his experiences in life. We have great conversations on hierarchy, communication, rules and constraints, labels, the power of fluidity in relationships, and the intersection of spirituality and non-monogamy... All packed into one podcast!   A bit more about Brian that we borrowed from his website:   Brian G. Murphy is an activist, educator, and certified relationship coach. He studied film production and religion at the University of Southern California as a Presidential Scholar and was inducted into Theta Alpha Kappa, the national honor society for religious studies and theology.   Before turning to activism, Brian worked in Hollywood on a number of film and television projects and produced a pilot for a national broadcast network. He received nonviolence training through Soulforce, media training from GLAAD, and participated in the 2007 Equality Ride, engaging in direct action activism at anti-LGBTQ colleges in the USA.   Today he is the co-founder of QueerTheology.com, a resource hub, podcast, and online community, which explores how queerness and spirituality enrich one another; and Relationshift, a relationship coaching practice helping LGBTQ+ and polyamorous people build thriving relationships on their own terms.   He is co-author of Queers The Word and a sought-after speaker at colleges, churches, and conferences across the country. Brian has worked with GLSEN, Athlete Ally, Born This Way Foundation, and the Human Rights Campaign, as well as a number of local, grassroots organizations. His work has been featured in Vice, BuzzFeed, The Huffington Post, The Advocate, Upworthy, and NBC News.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Sara is an amazing, community-building badass! She's been exploring non-monogamy since 2006 when she and her husband decided to open their marriage after reading Stranger in a Strange Land. Fast forward to today and Sara has navigated opening a marriage, having a child, transitioning her marriage to co-parenting, solo polyamory, and nesting again with a different partner. Sara talks about her journey in a way that beautifully weaves her story with valuable learning opportunities around everything from codependency to the importance of community.   Sara is also the co-creator of Southwest Love Fest. She and Kate (Ep. 274) have spent the last four years building an incredible community-driven conference in Tucson, AZ. In short, Southwest Love Fest is an annual conference on relationships, identity, community, and non-monogamy. We are presenting a workshop at this year's conference. If you'd like to join us and save 10%, use the code EMMA at checkout!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We rarely recommend gathering your kids for one of our interviews, but here we are. We'll wait for you to wrangle the whole family. Got everyone? Good.   Susan has been exploring non-monogamy for over 30 years in a beautifully fluid dynamic that blends swinging, kink, and polyamory together. She elegantly weaves her personal story in with the powerful activist work she has done to make the world a better place for people in the ethically non-monogamous and kink scenes. Along the way we talk about building community, being outed, the power of labels, living life to the fullest, and adventuring! Did we mention this conversation is fantastic?   Non-monogamy isn't just a hobby for Susan... It's her life's work. She founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom back in 1997 and has spent the last 25+ years advocating for consenting adults in the kink and non-monogamy lifestyles by fighting discrimination and persecution through direct services. Please go support all of the critical work that Susan and the NCSF are doing.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kate was accidentally monogamous for a bit, but as long she can remember, non-monogamy has been who she is. She's a mother of two, a community leader and builder, a therapist, and an all around kick-ass human. We have some amazing conversations with her about her time at the Kinsey Institute, relating to metamours, how attachment styles manifest in her relationships, community parenting, and the power of community.   If all of that wasn't enough for you, Kate is also the co-creator of Southwest Love Fest! SWLF is an annual conference on relationships, identity, community, and non-monogamy. We highly recommend checking it out, not just because Kate is amazing, but because we'll be running a workshop there in April! For more info and how to save 10% when you sign up, check out the links below!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Libby and Cal have been playing music together for the last five years and about three years ago they stopped fighting their urges and embarked on a romantic partnership as well. On Libby's side, she has never been in an officially monogamous relationship. For Cal, he's always felt he was non-monogamous but didn't have the language or framework for it until about a decade ago when he got out of his marriage.   We have so many amazing conversations with Libby and Cal during this interview. They share with us how they were able to transition from a working relationship to adding a romantic one. We also talk about navigating polyamory as a very shy person. And, we touch on how these two balance everything in their lives. As Libby says, her life is "3 partners, 3 children, 4 chickens, and a cat!"   Libby and Cal are also incredible musicians! Their latest album has some non-monogamous undertones (and tones in general) and is called "If You've Given Up on Love then Let's Call it Something Else"... Check out and support their work on Libby's website! Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Casey and her husband have an absolutely incredible story. They met during a blind date threesome, ended up getting married a few years later, and are now exploring a hotwife dynamic together. However, the insight and power in this conversation reaches far beyond hotwifing and swinging. We don't dig into the sexy stuff together, we dig into the emotions, the feelings, and some really big challenges she, and they, have overcome.   Casey explored the swinging lifestyle for almost two decades as a solo female/unicorn before meeting her husband (who was also exploring the lifestyle as a solo person). After coming together, they crafted a dynamic that worked for them both. And then the world shut down and their world was turned upside down. At that point, she lost her sex drive and they had to tear their relationship down to the basics... Literally practicing holding hands and cuddling for months to rebuild their connection.   Casey is incredibly vulnerable with us about what her journey has been like exploring the swinging lifestyle for nearly twenty years. She talks about the emotional impact it had on her, the judgment and confusion she experienced, and how being a unicorn helped her to really find herself. She also talks about how the lifestyle has given her and her partner the tools to study one another and drive each other wild while experiencing new adventures through trial and error, and so much more. Truly, this episode is about so much more than being a hotwife...   If you need more Casey in your life, definitely go check out all of her work. She's written three books about her journey and she is crushing it on Only Fans as well. Here is a link to all of her work!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join us April 14-16 at Southwest Love Fest! Use code EMMA to save 10%!   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Cat and EJ are back after 252 episodes and almost a full five years! They first came on the show back on episode 19... Way way back! No need to go back and listen if you haven't yet, we'll catch you up and you can go listen afterwards. We promise you'll want to.   This conversation picks up Cat and EJ's journey where we left off back in 2018. They were just at the start of transitioning from a swinging-style approach to non-monogamy to more of a polyamorous dynamic. They were just learning words like "boundaries" back then! Hey, who isn't, these days?!   We get an amazing update on how the journey has been going and what other big life changes have happened along the way. There's a few! We also have great conversations on the boundaries we mentioned before, ask vs. guess culture, different types of desires, and how the pandemic impacted, and possibly even rejuvenated their relationship!   Another big change is EJ's career... He's now a Licensed Master Social Worker with a prior background of 20+ years in the military, followed by current experiences working with a diverse intersection of individuals and relationships, focused on improving their ability to communicate productively. Together with another former guest, they're hosting some incredible virtual intimacy workshops. Click here to learn more and to support their work!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Rose identifies as monogamish and her favorite relationship dynamic is a committed longterm partnership "with room to explore." She also identifies as a lesbian, but she's insatiably curious about all things sex, and so sometimes the boxes and labels don't align with her curiosity and desire to explore.   Rose is a legacy non-monogamist in a few different ways. Her parents are non-monogamous as well, and of course we have an amazing conversation on that. She's also our third interview with a lead orgy-nizer of the Yale Orgy Team. For anyone questioning whether Yale actually has an orgy team, they technically don't. But what else do you call an open-minded group of students who regularly organize sex parties? That sounds like a team effort to us!   Orgies really aren't the focus of our conversation, however... We talk about so many incredible things with Rose. She digs into discovering your desires through exploration and how to expand your comfort zone safely. We also have a great conversation about sexual health and safety. And yes, we get into some tips for creating a welcoming orgy atmosphere. Fin even dishes on some never-before-heard orgy stories of his own. If you were thinking about skipping a week, this isn't the week to skip!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Lara and John got married over 30 years ago, 9 months after their first date at the library... About 22 years ago they opened their relationship and started blazing their own trail without a script or resources. The initial catalyst was Lara's bisexuality, but there was so much more to it than that.   They've been tweaking the formula together and finding what works for them in the moment ever since. They started with more of a swinging focus and learned that polyamory with a bit more autonomy was a better fit. As is often the case, the lines get blurry when it comes to labels. For these two, the most important thing is supporting each other in their passions, dreams, and life.   These two have such a beautiful approach to living life together that hinges on a few core themes. One of which is "We just don't get all up in each other's space!" They love time together but they encourage autonomy and self-exploration.   It turns out Lara and John don't just foster exploration in each other, it's a core value of who they are. This is why we also get to answer the question "What happens when you're at a poly meetup and your son walks in with his new partner?"   Lara has also written a series of novels that are very loosely based on their experience together. Please go support her work on her website.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

As long as Stephanie can remember she's been attracted to, and curious about, lots of different people. Of course, most of us are conditioned for this to not be something to embrace and so she didn't know what to do with it all. She began exploring her sexuality in her twenties and ended up in a relationship where she was able to start dipping her toes into non-monogamy with a partner before diving deeper into solo polyamory.   Throughout this beautiful interview she shares with us how she has learned and grown along her journey. Not only does she share her intimate story with us, she made an incredible film that is loosely based on some of her experiences. Our conversation weaves in themes from the film as we discuss the crossover to her real life and what non-monogamy looks like for her.   Stephanie Sellars is a New York-based filmmaker, writer, and performer. Her award-winning debut feature film, Lust Life Love, premiered at the Berlin Independent Film Festival and was released by 1091 Pictures on worldwide VOD platforms. She has also written, produced, directed, and acted in many award-winning short films, and her jazz album, Girl Who Loves, can be found on Spotify, iTunes and other music platforms. She holds an MFA in film from Columbia University and an MFA in creative writing from Bennington Writing Seminars. Lust Life Love can be watched on many platforms, including Amazon Prime, Apple TV, Google Play and Tubi.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Maria is back! And! Steve is here with her for the first time and the conversation we have is beyond powerful. If you listened to Maria's first interview on Episode 239, you heard about how her infidelity was the catalyst for them to open their marriage. Today we have the rare opportunity to talk with both halves of a couple about their experiences facing, navigating, repairing, and healing from the breaking of trust and cheating.   We owe a ton of gratitude to both of them for how vulnerable and deep they go in this conversation. It's not just about cheating. It's about how they got to the point where cheating was even a consideration. It's about societal scripts and control. It's about undoing so much of what we have been told is the right way to do relationships. It's about how you can move forward in the face of adversity. It's also about chore lists... Listen and you'll see how something as simple as a chore list helped bring back the balance these two needed to not just repair, but to land in the best place they've ever been together.   A bit more about Maria from her personal bio: Maria Palumbo has her Master's of Social work. She began as a psychotherapist in community mental health. She studied trauma and its impact on creating an “eat your heart out” life and then took her findings and started her own business. She began creating programs that awaken the sex and heart. She is passionate about people owning the impact of trauma and creating a life of vitality and rich intimacy. Since beginning her business, Maria has helped hundreds of people (both virtually and in-person) realize that their vulnerability and truest turn on, makes them irresistible.    Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kelli and Conner opened up their relationship pretty early on as a way for Kelli to explore her bisexuality. For the last few years they have been on an adventure together to find ways to get each of their needs and desires met, both as individuals and as a couple.   However! As they put it, it's about way more than just sex... These two were on an amazing journey of self-evolution before they came together, and now they're taking life on as a team. We have so many beautiful conversations around self-work, expectations, owning your shit, communication, and maybe a threesome or two. We also have a ton of gratitude for both of them for how honest and transparent they were about their experience with In Vitro Fertilization (IVF)... So powerful.   Kelli and Conner run a podcast production company called Soulfire Productions. The also each host their own podcast as well... Kelli's is called OK, Babe and Conner's is Politically Homeless. Go check out all their work and send them some love!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This conversation is so much fun! So much! Eve opens this interview by saying "I'm a woman who does a lot... That means work-wise, and people-wise!" She is such a delight to talk to and our conversation is full of laughs that also weave in some beautiful and important lessons Eve has learned along her journey.   Eve has been in open relationships since pretty much her first adult relationship. How those relationships have looked has evolved over time as she has grown and learned more about herself. We have some incredible conversations about her personal growth, jealousy, transitioning relationships, and so much more... Eve also shares some absolutely hilarious stories with us from her various jobs over the years that are sex work-adjacent.   Eve is also the co-creator of The Secret Circus cabaret show that has expanded from the UK to LA! Definitely go check it out!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  In case you haven't listened to Episode 145... Here's the super short version, but you'll want to go back and get all the amazing details for yourself... Rah and Tom are wonderful humans who are married. A few years back, another wonderful human danced onto the scene, enter Mel. The three of them forged an incredible bond and throuple relationship. Again, there's so much more to it. But, that brings us to where this episode starts.   So what's changed? Well, they're still wonderful humans. Rah and Tom made a new human. They've all developed new relationships. The throuple is still a throuple, but the polycule has roughly doubled in size since we last spoke. Of course, it's been a flawless transition and they didn't have any learning or growing to do along the way. Or did they? Only one way to find out.     Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This conversation is incredibly powerful in so many ways! Elizabeth is in her early thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for over a decade. Things got off to a bit of an unethical start during college but she quickly decided to just take ownership of her wants and who she was. She didn't have any language for what she was doing or wanting but that didn't stop her from blazing her own trail. As she puts it... She sort of "wrecking balled" her way through polyamory for a bit.   The way she has approached non-monogamy over the course of her journey has evolved, but she has always shown up with as much integrity and transparency as possible. She shares with us in a deeply honest and transparent way about her struggles, her flaws, and her (hilarious) bloopers. At the same time, she balances it with the incredible amount of love and support she has surrounding her from partners, family, and friends. What's amazing to us about this conversation is how powerful it is, while at the same time, we laughed our way through the entire thing.   Elizabeth is also a relationship coach, primarily working with people in the polyamorous and queer communities... Her website bio hardly does her work justice, but it's better than we could write. So, here is a bit more about Elizabeth in her own words.   Love, Relationships, and Sexuality have always been something that Elizabeth has been passionate about. Ever since she was a kid she has been curious about how love, relationships and sexuality shape people’s lives. Especially, growing up in the Midwest where sexuality is not as talked about, she began asking herself and others questions that people had not been asked before about their sexuality and relationships. ​ She followed this passion and went to college at the University of Kansas where she earned two Bachelor’s Degrees; Political Science and Women, Gender and Sexuality Studies with an emphasis in Religion and a Certificate in Service Learning.   After college, she worked as a volunteer in Community and Outreach for the Willow Domestic Violence Center. There she co-started the SAFE Initiative, where her and a team went into the community and talk to kids ages 5 - 18 about self-esteem, bullying, healthy relationships, self-love, the power of language and more. She also lead and created trainings for other volunteers on privilege, What is Domestic Violence?, How to Recognize an abuser and Being Sensitive to Sexuality. During the three years at the Willow Domestic Violence Center she lead and created talks, lectures and discussions to people ranging from the ages of 5 years old to 85 years old.   Elizabeth moved to Seattle, Washington, in 2014. She realized that her work at the domestic violence center was important but ultimately not what she wanted to be doing. In the words of Mother Theresa, Gandhi, MLK and the like, what you speak into the world is what exists. She decided she wanted to be on the side of love and relationships where she was speaking love into the world. She wanted to make a difference with people before they came to a domestic violence center. In essence, she wants to put these centers out of business.   One of the biggest takeaways from college and her experiences lead her to believe that when people are empowered, the world works. So began her journey of self-growth and development. Using herself as her own guinea pig she began to learn as much about why humans make the decisions that they do.   In her journey discovering why people make the decisions that they do, why she has made the decisions she has made, she began coaching others. Organically, it grew into a coaching business. Over the years, Elizabeth has helped people discover where their mindset is limiting their potential in love and in life. It is her true calling to witness others transform their relationships to themselves and show up for others in the ways that they have always wanted to. It is who she is, what she stands for and it is her mission in life to expand the conversation of love in the world.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Wendy Strgar is an author and an award-winning social entrepreneur and the founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, a pioneer in the organic personal care product industry. Wendy started Good Clean Love in her kitchen almost 20 years ago and has since grown it into a multimillion dollar, certified B-Corporation. Wendy’s mission in life is to increase the quality and quantity of healthy, loving, relationships in the world. Married for over 34 years, her daily life has always been the laboratory for her work.   We cover a ton of different topics in this fantastic conversation with her. She talks about the inspiration behind starting Good Clean Love, how she's managed to nurture a 34+ year marriage, the importance of cultivating a fulfilling sex life for yourself, taking care of your sexual health, and advice for tapping into your sexual self... She also shares a lot of her personal stories and relationship journey as well.   As you can imagine... ALL of these pieces of her life are very interlinked and tied to what Good Clean Love stands for. It's an incredible conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did!   In addition to serving as Good Clean Love’s CEO, Wendy is a popular blogger, host of the renowned Dear Sex Podcast and author of two books. Sex That Works: An Intimate Guide To Awakening Your Erotic Life and Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy. A sexual health educator and loveologist, Wendy is the featured writer at the award-winning blog, Making Love Sustainable. Her writing has been featured on Eco Salon, Care2, The Huffington Post and Elephant Journal, among many others.   To save 10% off your order at Good Clean Love, use the offer code EMMA at check out!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This conversation with Rainey and Paco is incredible. We laugh, we cry, we laugh some more... Don't skip this one.   These two have been together for about six years, nesting together for two, and recently got married just a few months ago! A few years back, they decided to open their relationship and it's evolved over the years. Their particularly flavor of ethical non-monogamy falls somewhere between swinging and polyamory. It's not a clearly defined boundary but one thing is clear... "It's not JUST sex!"   They come from two very different backgrounds. They've both been married once before. Paco is Puerto Rican and has been breaking away from the "Latin Machismo" and rewriting what it means to be himself. Rainey comes from a very conservative religious background and is coming out of an abusive marriage.   They talk through how they've worked together to overcome jealousy, fears, and so much more to land in the best relationship they've ever had and are more themselves than they've ever been!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Taylor has been exploring polyamory, swinging, and all kinds of non-monogamy for over a decade at this point. She was married for 25 years, monogamously for about 12, and then Hedonism Resort made an appearance. Thirteen years after opening their relationship, her and her husband separated (not because of non-monogamy and she will prove it to you if you don't believe us) and now she's on her own solo journey and it is incredible.   Taylor can best be described by her own self on her website: www.organicloven.com   Amongst many things, Taylor (aka Mariposa) Sparks is a passionate erotic educator and sex goddess, certified in both holistic aromatherapy and human behavior. With over twenty years of experience in the natural skin care/cosmetics industry, Ms. Sparks launched OrganicLoven.com, one of the largest BIPOC owned online intimacy shops. Organic Loven specializes in improving adults’ sexual health/wellness and enhancing their sex lives via their organic intimate body products, body-safe sex toy materials, sex-positive books, erotic educational seminars and adults only luxury vacations.   Ms. Sparks’ expertise has contributed to articles in Bustle, Cosmopolitan, Glamour, Men’s Health, Oprah, Shape, Women’s Health magazines and more. Prior to launching Organic Loven she developed a line of 16 head-to-toe organic body care products for elite endurance athletes, called Skin Care for Athletes Tri-Body Products. These products were featured in Muscle & Fitness Hers and the ESPN Magazines, sponsored numerous triathlons, 5ks and marathons as well as 5 Olympian athletes in both the summer and winter Olympics.   As a leading facilitator in the adult travel industry for many years, Taylor has served as an Experience Advisor for thousands of international travelers, bringing joy and happiness to all she encounters. Taylor remains passionate about bringing people to new destinations and providing opportunities for amazing open-living experiences.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Elisa and Mike have been together about seven years and polyamorous for about four of them. Two years into their relationship, Elisa had an affair and that became the catalyst that led them to digging deep into their truest needs and rebuilding their relationship in an intentional way. They talk through a lot of their process of repairing and co-creating a dynamic that feels good to both of them. At the same time, in order to do this, they needed to go at their own pace, not compete with one another, and be open to growing together. This is an amazing and deep conversation.   Elisa and Mike also host the Poly+Amor=Us podcast! (Get it? "Polyamorous"... You get it.) They're on a mission similar to ours... Show people that they're not alone and provide more resources for going against the norm. Also, they interview her parents, which is amazing! Go check out and support their work!   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

If you are looking for a beautiful journey of what it can look like when you live intentionally and seek out your authentic self... Look no further. We often use this space to give a high-level overview of the relational dynamic our guests are in... There isn't a better way to describe this for Arielle besides that she is in a relationship with living an incredible life and giving love to those around her. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it.   A bit more about Arielle from her website: Arielle Brown is a teacher, facilitator, and ceremonialist specializing in energetic alignment, relational alchemy, and authentic communication skills. In her 1:1 private client work, Arielle supports men, women, and couples harmonizing their Masculine & Feminine energy flow in service to actualizing their creative potential, amplifying their impact in the world, and embodying greater levels of joy and meaningful fulfillment in their relationships, sexuality, and authentic expression of purpose and leadership.   She is founder of the Cosmic Tantra Community, a global online monthly membership for consciousness explorers on the awakening path seeking to anchor in the new paradigm of love, sexuality, and authentic human connection.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Taylor and Andrew... Wow, we love this conversation. They have been together for 13 years, married for 9, and have only been exploring ethical non-monogamy for a few months. Non-monogamy came up right around the time their son turned two and Taylor realized she had no idea who she was. She describes it as an identity crisis that lead her to becoming resentful of her husband and son. Then her and Andrew teamed up and dug in together researching and finding ways to support, repair, and connect with one another. This led them to the long and thoughtful process of being radically honest with one another and ultimately opening their marriage. It's been no easy task considering they both come from very conservative religious backgrounds, like very religious. (Andrew's father was a Southern Baptist Pastor) They have been very methodical about it all and share a beautiful journey and conversation with us.   Check out the full show notes here.   Join the most amazing community of open-minded humans on the planet!   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Gabrielle is back! It's been just over 100 episodes since we talked to her last on episode 151... You definitely don't have to listen to that episode to get a TON out of this one. She catches you up pretty quick and then we hit the ground running. Just a reminder... Gabrielle is solo poly and has been exploring non-monogamy for a few years. She takes us on a journey of how things have changed in her relationships and life as the pandemic has been shifting. We also talk about jealousy, anxiety, depression, the intersectionality of race and the sex-positive scene in New York City, and so much more. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it!    Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

CC and Steve are back! We first talked to them way back on episode 84! They're in their early fifties and have been together for over thirty years. They have a mismatch in libido, CC loves exhibitionism, and wouldn't you know it, Steve loves being a voyeur! They discovered this a few years ago and began exploring a hotwife dynamic together. In fact, we would say it's probably the "purest" form of hotwifing we've ever seen. At the same time, it's about way more than just the sex... We have a wonderful conversation about how they got here and what's changed over the last few years since we spoke. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Eka is from Portugal and is an AMAZING storyteller! This interview is really much better described as Eka sharing her life story with us and it is beautiful. She's in her mid-thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for over a decade. She has also just welcomed a new baby into her life! This conversation covers so many incredible topics, but the overall takeaway is to embrace life... We have no idea what's coming our way. Embrace it. Enjoy it. Live it!   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This episode is a behind-the-scenes conversation with our friend and host of the Podcast Growth Hacks podcast, Pat Cheung, about how we built our podcast and community from scratch. We share pretty much everything from our stats to our income.   Podcasting is an infinite game for us. . . We're not trying to beat anyone or take over. The more eyes we can open to the world of ethical non-monogamy and sex-positivity, the better. The more people we can help create meaningful and positive content in this space, the better. "A rising tide lifts all ships." We hope this episode helps some of you start your own podcast and community. Let's all grow and work together. Let us know if you have any questions!   A bit more about Pat! Pat is the host of Podcast Growth Hacks. He’s also the CEO & founder of PodInbox, an audience engagement platform that lets podcasters easily receive audio messages and donations from their fans.   He’s a serial tech entrepreneur, Techstars 2016 alum, and co-founder of Silversheet (acquired in 2019).   He was born in Hong Kong, grew up in Southern California, went to UC Berkeley, and now lives in Portland Oregon.   We had the honor of meeting Pat at the World Domination Summit, and he is an outstanding human. Please go support his work.   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jace has been out as a trans man for about a decade and exploring polyamory since right after he graduated high school roughly seven years ago. He's currently in a long-term nesting relationship with his two husbands and exploring a bit of dating on occasion as well. He sort of stumbled into polyamory without a framework and has been learning it as he goes. We have a wonderful conversation about his journey not only in polyamory, but in coming out as trans. Like many of us, personal growth and undoing codependencies has been a major part of the path for him.   Jace also earned his Master's in Mental Health Counseling and works with Anna Baxter (Ep 231) at Love Positive Counseling in Georgia. His passion is working with LGBTQ+ individuals, as well as those within the polyamorous and kink communities.   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Yana has been exploring non-monogamous relationship structures for over a decade and describes herself as solo poly in which her primary relationship is with her three year old son. She's also been in a relationship with a couple for over five years, designed a beautiful co-parent relationship, has some girlfriends, and perhaps a few other people in her orbit. Our conversation covers a lot of ground from hard lessons she's learned along the way to a wonderful conversation on the beauty and challenges of transitioning a nesting partner to a co-parenting partner.   Yana is also a couples & relationships therapist and a consent, sex & sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive & consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world. Check out all her work at yanatallonhicks.com and definitely go get a copy of her new book, Hot and Unbothered!   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Michelle and Ron are a couple of Americans living in Australia with their three young kids. They’ve been together for about ten years, married for almost nine, and exploring non-monogamy for about three. Michelle had some experience with non-monogamy before she and Ron got together and talking about those experiences was what helped crack the door open for them. They describe their dynamic as Hotwife blended with stag/vixen and our conversation goes far beyond that. They share a lot about their struggle to get pregnant, the impact it had on their relationship, and each of them individually. Ron also talks through a lot of how jealousy has been something he has had to navigate, even though at the same time he is usually excited and even turned on. This is an amazing and super fun conversation that blends some deep talks with lighthearted laughter. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Like many of us, Suzannah is on a journey of self-discovery. A few years back she was in a long-term relationship and cheated on her partner multiple times. In fact, infidelity was a recurring theme in her relationships until she found her way to the ethical and consensual side of non-monogamy. We have a great conversation with her about what that journey looked like and what was holding her back. She also shares with us the amazing impact that going to sex clubs and parties by herself had on her confidence and her social EQ. There are so many beautiful lessons weaved into this conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did.   Beyond being a badass in her personal life, Suzannah is crushing it on the professional side as well. She is a feminist writer with over 8,000 articles published, a board-certified sexologist, and she's a sex and relationship educator and coach. Find all of her work on her website at suzannahweiss.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This is Mel and AJ's second time exploring non-monogamy together. Their first time was in 2018 during a particularly challenging time in their marriage. They came very close to ending their marriage and ultimately pulled back from ENM to work on themselves and their relationship. Now they've been married about 10 years and have two kids together. In early 2021, they decided to give it another shot. However, this time they are in one of the best places they've ever been together and have done a ton of work on themselves. The conversation we have is super honest and vulnerable about how they got to this point... And it wasn't easy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Skip the ads and sign up for the Premium Feed!   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Happy Friday! Don't worry, it's just us!   We're excited to announce our Premium Subscription! We're always trying to find ways to grow and deliver incredible content to as many people as we can in an effort to drive forward our mission:   To inspire people to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.   We have a lot of exciting new things planned and this is the first step. We can't wait for what's to come!   So, what do you get by joining?! Ad-free episodes plus periodic bonus content! Brief community announcements in show outro so you never miss anything! Warm fuzzy feeling that comes from supporting independent content creators! Who knows what the future may bring!   How much is this going to cost you?   We'll leave that up to you! We LOVE the pay what feels good model and we're embracing it again. We don't know what value we bring to your life... Maybe it's a dollar, maybe it's $100!   When you sign up, you get to choose your monthly or annual contribution. The minimum monthly or annual amount is $2 (otherwise it all goes to processing fees). Other than that, the choice is yours!   Thank you for your support! It means the world to us! Click here to get your Premium Subscription!  

Pan is in his late thirties and has been exploring non-monogamy since his marriage ended a few years ago. He describes himself as a kinky, sapiosexual, and solo polyamorist who is excited to explore what life has to offer. Pan has done a ton of self-work on codependencies, being confident in who he is, learning about consent, and diving into BDSM. We have so many amazing conversations in this interview that rather than continue to read this, we suggest you just come on in and listen.   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This conversation with Bre is amazing! It's full of energy, love, and great vibes! Bre is in her mid-thirties and has done a bit of it all... She's explored swinging, poly, kink, and even did a burlesque performance at her baby shower! We talk about it all, plus we get into her experiences co-parenting in a triad, living intentionally, how her body and sexuality changed after having a baby, healing, and of course boundaries. We also have a wonderful chat about conscious play parties vs. swinging parties. Again, this conversation is fantastic and so much fun! Enjoy! Bre is also a relationship coach and you can find her work at Liberate Your Love.   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Kristin and Adam have been together about 20 years and have always loved exploring together. They discovered swinging early in their relationship but didn't really have a label for what they were doing. They were just kind of figuring it out and living life. By their own admission, it was messy. There have been lots of opportunities for learning and growing together. And that's exactly what they keep doing. They've circled back around to non-monogamy in the last few years and are continuing to figure out what flavor best suits them. They live in the blurry place between casual swinging experiences and seeking deeper connections that sometimes feel more polyamorous. We love their openness and vulnerability in sharing with us, and you. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Get your very own "Give Love" shirt, today! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Bex is back and this time we're digging into his personal story! We had Bex on a few months back to talk all about sexting and now we get a behind-the-scenes look at Bex's journey. As best he can remember, the last and only time he's had a monogamous relationship was in his early twenties. He has a vulnerable and honest conversation with us about how his attachment style and avoidance have impacted his relationships. We dig into hierarchy, jealousy, kink, and kitchen table poly. Bex also shares some beautiful thoughts on his own transition and how he's never hated his own body or felt like he was in the wrong body, even as a trans guy. We love this conversation and hope you do as well. After you listen, head over to Bex's website to check out and support all of his work, including the Dildorks podcast!   From his website, www.bextalkssex.com: Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, podcaster, and professional pervert. He’s been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since he insisted on being served his meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8. He’s a Virgo, a Hufflepuff, and a transmasc queerdo who grew up to be the pop punk skater boy he had a crush on in high school.   He’s also a huge nerd with ADHD, so every new interest he discovers comes with a strong desire to learn everything about it that he possibly can. As you’ve probably guessed, sex and kink were two of his earliest fascinations–and the more he learned about them, the more apparent it became that the rest of the world still had a lot to learn, too.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

The feeling of being alone when embarking on any new journey is so scary. Perhaps you can't talk to anyone around you about it, and the people you do talk to make you feel shamed or a bit crazy. Finding our community, our people, that feel like home, has been the single most powerful and supportive resource the two of us have for exploring non-monogamy.   In this fantastic conversation, we sit down with Mrs. and Mr. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast to talk about all things community and our personal experiences with finally finding ours. This episode was originally released on their podcast as Episode 98. In an effort to help more people find their home, we decided to release it here as well. Enjoy!   If you are interested in joining either or both of our communities, here are links to both: We Gotta Thing Normalizing Non-Monogamy   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This conversation with Kaitlin and Julian is one of our all-time favorites. Not sure if we're allowed to say that, but here we are. They met and fell in love on the school bus and now have been together for 16 years and married eight. The short version is that one day Julian brought home the Ethical Slut, they read it, and pretty much the next day decided they were polyamorous. It's slightly more complicated than that, but not much. A lot has happened since they read the book and opened up and we have so many amazing conversations about their journey. We dig into self-love, dating, imbalance, self-esteem, and the art of just jumping in. One of the things we love about their journey is that while they have definitely been on it together, they've also each been on their own path at the same time. This conversation is incredible and we hope you enjoy.   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Marla is back! And we're talking a bit about everything... Pregnancy, pandemics, parenting, polyamory, potato famines... I made that last one up. Or did I? Only one way to find out. We also talk about why poly isn't the best flavor of ethical non-monogamy for Marla, how she balances her life, her relationships, and most importantly... Herself. Get in here and listen and then go sign up for Sex Down South using the offer code EMMA to save $15... Bonus, you support our podcast when you do. Thank you!   Marla is a professional sexologist, intimacy/relationship/sex coach, speaker, and author. She is the owner of Velvet Lips, a sexuality education company, as well as Contract Liberation, a company focused on research for non-profit groups. As a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she teaches Sociology and Women’s and Gender Studies. As the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference, Marla aims to bring diverse groups together to learn and share their experiences in the essence of being authentic and fostering sexual liberation across communities. Marla has studied human sexuality for over 19 years, has educated over 20,000 people in over 13 years, given over 400 workshops, and have served over 100 clients in her private practice, all around the world. She has had her influence in the media, as well; she has written over 200 articles, featured in over 20 magazines and books, and has been on over 50 podcasts and independent television shows. She was featured on Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and VH1's Love & HipHop Atlanta. In addition, she also sits on the Boards for SPARK Reproductive Justice NOW! and is on the Community Advisory Board of the Diverse Sexualities and Research Education Institute. She also co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay (2020) with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly and co-edited An Intersectional Approach to Sex Therapy (2021). See all of her work at www.velvetlipssexed.com.   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Melissa and Tim are kind of a first for us on the show and we're super excited about it! They are in their mid-forties and have been together for about five years. What's unique about that? Well, Tim has been with his nesting partner for almost 30 years and Melissa identifies as solo poly. We love hearing how their individual origin stories come together for the beautiful relationship they have built together. Melissa got her start in non-monogamy during a previous relationship via swinging. Tim and his nesting partner slowly opened their relationship into a mono/poly dynamic over a decade ago. Over the last few years they have explored various aspects of polyamory together as well as what they lovingly refer to as "sex friends." We have so many amazing conversations in this episode... We hope you enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here.   Click here to order your very own NNM shirt! Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Serena and her husband are newly married and starting to explore a bit of what opening their relationship to non-monogamy could look like for them. Serena has a history of being in monogamous relationships but a few years back she took a break from dating and relationships to figure herself out. When she got back in the game, she realized most of the people she was drawing in were non-monogamous, including her now husband. He came to the relationship with a polyamorous background but they have intentionally kept their relationship closed to build security and determine how they want to do it in their own way. At the moment, Serena identifies most closely with being monogamish... They dabble and are open to exploring but it's still new and perhaps a bit scary at times.   Serena is also a sex and relationship coach with Sex and Love Co. She has been coach for a few years and is excited to weave her personal experience and journey into her coaching work. Her approach to life is as beautiful and peaceful as the birds chirping in the background during this recording... Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Alli + Gaylen have been "happily unmarried for 21 years" and were friends for a handful of years before they got together. They've also been living on a 37 foot sailboat for the last two years as they travel and play music together. These two have a beautiful energy between them and this conversation is about so much more than non-monogamy. It's about life. They started exploring swinging when Alli came out as bisexual but they quickly found traditional swinging wasn't really their vibe. Instead, they've been creating a flavor of non-monogamy that blends swinging and polyamory into something that feels best for them. Check out their work and follow them as they serenade their way around the world over at www.sailbumsmusic.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

How do you sext? What does sexting actually look like? How do I get it started? What do I say? How do I say it? When do I say it? How do I keep it going? Well, you've guessed it... Today we're talking all about sexting with our amazing guest, sex and kink educator, Bex Caputo!   From his website, www.bextalkssex.com: Bex Caputo is a sex educator, blogger, speaker, podcaster, and professional pervert. He’s been a proud and undeniable kinkster ever since he insisted on being served his meals in a dog bowl at the age of 8. He’s a Virgo, a Hufflepuff, and a transmasc queerdo who grew up to be the pop punk skater boy he had a crush on in high school.   He’s also a huge nerd with ADHD, so every new interest he discovers comes with a strong desire to learn everything about it that he possibly can. As you’ve probably guessed, sex and kink were two of his earliest fascinations–and the more he learned about them, the more apparent it became that the rest of the world still had a lot to learn, too.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Tom has been exploring polyamory for about the last 15 years, but has recognized it is who he's been his whole life. He was always forming deep friendships and relationships with the people around him but things never seemed to quite fit. A few years after having children, he brought up the idea to his wife and they gave it a try. He got his start back in the Craigslist days and it was a bit of a bumpy beginning but he and his wife have found a groove that works for them. As he says in the interview, their relationship is in the best place it has ever been. Tom is also the creator of the Colorado Poly Weekend. To learn more and find out how you can get involved, check out www.coloradopolyweekend.org.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Today's conversation with Maria gets into the weeds on breaking codependencies, rebuilding a relationship after an infidelity, sexual health, loving yours, and so much more. Maria and her husband redefined their relationship a few years back after she cheated on him. Part of that rebuilding was to open their relationship and begin exploring non-monogamy and polyamory. We hope you enjoy this beautiful conversation.   A bit more about Maria from her personal bio: Maria Palumbo has her Master's of Social work. She began as a psychotherapist in community mental health. She studied trauma and its impact on creating an “eat your heart out” life and then took her findings and started her own business. She began creating programs that awaken the sex and heart. She is passionate about people owning the impact of trauma and creating a life of vitality and rich intimacy. Since beginning her business, Maria has helped hundreds of people (both virtually and in-person) realize that their vulnerability and truest turn on, makes them irresistible. She leads workshops in person called Follow Your F*ck and has a luxury retreat coming up in October. Check out all of her work at www.mariapalumbo.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kate's journey into non-monogamy kicked off almost 20 years ago when she came home from work and her partner at the time proposed the idea of swinging to her. Since then, she has spent two decades figuring out and exploring what works best for her. Like many, a strict label of "swinger" or "polyamorous" doesn't really seem to fit. As Kate shares, the best label she has found for herself is simply "fluid." We hope you enjoy this deep dive into her personal journey.   Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.   In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Sunny has always questioned just about everything in their life. They realized they were bisexual by age 15 and by age 17 had started exploring their relationship to gender. Now, at the age of 25, Sunny is a delightful queer, non-binary human who has never had a monogamous relationship and is on a journey to be the happiest version of themselves! We love this wide-ranging conversation that covers so many beautiful topics. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jessica is a curator of brave spaces for people to own their power and awaken to their most expansive selves. Through her work as a coach and retreat facilitator, she realized it was people’s relationships that needed healing the most. That’s when she decided to launch her podcast, Open Late, a look at relationships through her lens of consensual non-monogamy. She wants to inspire people to create designer relationships filled with truth, vulnerability, intimacy and play.   In this amazing conversation she takes us on the journey of opening up her marriage about seven years ago. We get into so many fantastic topics including strategies around confronting shame, falling in love, evolving relationships, blending casual swinging-ish relationships with polyamory, and even the prospect of having a baby while in a triad. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jude is a queer, neurodivergent, non-binary, badass. They learned about non-monogamy roughly eight years ago and started exploring is for themselves a bit over a year ago. After much self-discovery, Jude is feeling the pull to move back toward monogamy but wants to bring what they learned along the way with them.   This conversation is fantastic and covers so many topics in a beautiful way. We talk about communal living, life partners, labels, gender identity, self acceptance, Jello wrestling, and living a life that just feels good to you. Jude is definitely doing life their own way and this episode is an inspiration in doing the same. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

William's first conversations and exposure to non-monogamy happened around 2003 while he was living in Louisiana. A few years later he and his partner moved to the San Francisco Bay Area and by 2014 the San Francisco Chronicle named William Winters the "de facto king of the East Bay polyamory scene."   In this wonderful conversation, William brings us along with him on the full journey from discovering and beginning to explore ethical non-monogamy (ENM) to founding the Bonobo Network and building an incredible sex-positive community, We love this conversation and the work the Bonobo team are doing! We hope you do as well!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Meshai and her husband have been married for 17 years but only in the last few years have they explored non-monogamy. For them, they oscillate between more of a casual swinging approach and something that looks more like polyamory. We have amazing conversations with her about living life to the fullest, how non-monogamy forces you to see yourself, and how she sort of ended up exploring her sexuality without really recognizing there was anything to explore. At least until everything clicked! Meshai also comes from a very religious background and she talks with us about how she approaches non-monogamy and religion. This is an amazing conversation and we hope you enjoy it!   Meshai is dually licensed and certified in both Trauma Therapy and Sex Therapy. She believes in the power of living as one’s authentic self, and the freedom that comes from changing perspectives. She loves putting the puzzle pieces together of a couple's sexual energy and aiding them in positive and explorative movement.   Her coaching work implements creative synergy, openness, self-expression, and the confrontation of challenges through self-determination. She helps individuals from diverse populations move forward with their goals while being fully aware that trauma can play on the whole person. To learn more about how to work with Meshai, head over to Expansive Connection.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We are so excited about this conversation with Gary that is all about the power of play in life and in relationships! Gary Ware is the Founder of Breakthrough Play, a corporate facilitator, keynote speaker, certified coach, and self-proclaimed Creative Catalyst. Gary has over 14 years of experience in the corporate world holding various leadership positions. Being a multifaceted individual Gary also comes with nearly a decade of experience as a performer in improv theatre. After experiencing burnout in his pursuit for success and happiness, he realized that what was missing was play. Committing to a life of play is what led Gary to discover his passion for facilitating. Gary uses the power of applied improvisation and other playful methods to assist people in unlocking creativity, confidence, and better communication. Gary was recently featured as one of the Top 100 HR influencers of 2021 by the Engagedly HR software platform. When Gary isn't leading workshops or speaking, you can find him learning magic or off on an adventure with his wife Courtney and son Garrett.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Pam and Jim are nudists who live in Florida and have been exploring non-monogamy together since they met about three years ago.   Jim is 83 and started exploring his sexuality a few years ago and identifies as a pansexual who loves crossdressing! He leans more towards the polyamorous side of things.   Pam is 69 and enjoys things a bit more casual. She identifies as the monogamous half of their mono-poly dynamic.   However, it's not so simple... Pam and Jim go to orgies together every few weeks and have an absolute blast! During this conversation they share with us how they ended up starting to explore non-monogamy in their sixties and seventies, and why it was the right time for each of them. They also dig into challenges they have faced along the way and how much closer swinging together has brought them. This interview is absolutely incredible, as are Pam and Jim. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This conversation with Anna is amazing in so many ways! They have been exploring non-monogamy and polyamory for over 12 years after coming from a background of serial monogamy and codependency. They're super honest and transparent about the work that had to be done there to show up in a more authentic way. We also have a great conversation about control in relationships that is quite impactful.   Anna is also the President of Atlanta Polyamory and the owner of Love Positive Counseling. They're passionate about providing a safe space for individuals, couples, poly units, and families to find their innate potential and achieve their dreams, regardless of gender, orientation, race, religion, or love-style. They feel called to help people find internal and external peace by living and loving more authentically.   Anna's experience includes 19+ years practicing BDSM, 12+ years loving polyamorously, and 9+ years of gender exploration. They received their Bachelor of Science in Psychology from Kennesaw State University and a Master of Arts in Community Counseling from Argosy University (Atlanta). They also received their LPC license in 2018 and my CPCS in 2020.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

CJ and her husband have been together for over 18 years, she has kids, a great job... She had it all. But, as she described it, she had it all and had a bit of a "mid-life crisis" around age 30! For the last few years, she and her husband have been slowly opening their relationship. During this wonderful conversation she shares the whole story along with some amazing strategies for how they approach difficult conversations, navigating boundaries, and bringing intentionality back to your relationship. She also leaks some spoilers for her new book "Into The Open." Enjoy this fantastic interview and then go grab a copy of her book!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This conversation with Evita is amazing from start to finish. She has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. She is incredibly honest with us about the challenges and the huge benefits that transitioning from monogamy to swinging to polyamory has brought her. This is one of those conversations that sticks with you for a while and that can so easily be applied to any relationship regardless of whether or not it is open. We talk about jealousy, transitioning relationships, boundaries, hilarious bloopers, and much more! After listening, go follow Evita on Instagram and Facebook for more amazing content and to work with her as a coach.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Layla was so focused on her business and other aspects of life that sex and relationships fell off the radar completely. She woke up one day after three and a half years of not having sex, with a plan... She came up with a bucket list and a one year plan to check as much off of it as she could. Her one year plan started six years ago and stuck. Not only did it stick, it transformed the way she approaches relationships and all aspect of her life.   She shares with us how she came up with her plan, how it played out, and what she learned along the way. She's incredibly honest and transparent about everything and it's really refreshing. After you listen to this interview, head over to check out her podcast, The Curious Girl Diaries, where she goes even deeper into her experiences.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jon met his current wife toward the end of his previous marriage after he and his ex-wife began exploring non-monogamy together. He and his current wife have been working together to slowly open their relationship as well. Jon talks about how different security levels and attachment styles shape the two relationships. We also have an amazing conversation about how relationships ending or transitioning doesn't mean the relationship was a failure. Jon is also the author of a new novel, I Am My Beloveds, that has non-monogamous themes throughout and is influenced partly by his own journey. This is an amazing conversation. Join us!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Today we're talking all about compersion with Marie! What is compersion? Where did this word even come from? Can we foster compersion? Is it possible to have a healthy relationship without compersion? Marie answers all of these questions and more in this amazing conversation!   Dr. Marie Thouin is the founder of Love InSight, a Mindful Dating Coaching practice where she helps people of all ages, genders, and sexual/relationship orientations navigate the path of intimate love—including couples transitioning to non-monogamy and/or alternative relationship structures.   Marie completed her doctoral dissertation on compersion in consensually non-monogamous individuals in the East-West Psychology department at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. She also serves as Editor at the International Journal of Transpersonal Studies, a leading peer-reviewed publication in the fields of transpersonal and whole-person psychologies. Learn more on her website: www.whatiscompersion.com   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

We're excited to bring Kate and Liam from the Monogamish Marriage back on the show for an update! The last time we talked to them on the podcast was for Episode 20 and so much has changed since then! Kate fell in love... Liam dove into exploring his sexuality.... They launched a podcast to accompany their amazing blog. We talk about it all and they even dish about that time the four of us met in person for the first time almost exactly four years ago. Definitely don't skip this one and after you're done, head over to their website, themonogamishmarriage.com, and check out all of their incredible work and beautiful photos!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Hilly is in her mid thirties and as far as she can remember, her only "traditional" monogamous relationship was in high school and lasted about two months. She has explored a wide range of different relationship dynamics including swinging and polyamory. She's also very involved in the kink scene and is the first age play advocate we have had on the show. She talks to us about how her dynamic works, what she's learned along the way, and shares with us a bunch resources for anyone who is interested in learning more.   Hilly is also an author, content creator, and runs a Facebook support group for people interested in age play. All of the links to find her work can be found in the show notes link below.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Hannah and Greg have been together for 13 years and actually took a unique approach to opening their relationship pretty early on. They would spend summers apart and during that time they gave one another the freedom to explore. They talk a lot about that experience and trying to navigate an open relationship without resources or a solid understanding of what they were doing or how to do it. More recently they have revisited the idea of non-monogamy and over the last few years have slowly opened their relationship in a much more tactical way. It hasn't been an easy road and they have learned a lot. We love how vulnerable they both are during this conversation. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Brooke and her husband began exploring swinging 21 years into their now 30+ year marriage. Swinging led to polyamory, and multiple attempts at quad dynamics before determining that the quad dynamic was not a good fit for them, even if polyamory was. Woven into this incredible story are some amazing conversations on letting go of blame and anger after an infidelity as well as setting boundaries and what happens when you don't. This is a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Milla is the Director of Marketing and Senior Size Specialist at ONE Condoms and myONE Custom Fit Condoms and she's with us today to talk all things condoms... She's been on a mission to improve sexual health education since her terrible sex-ed experience in high school and she is a blast to talk to. This isn't a boring sex-ed lecture, we promise. Bonus! Save 20% on your order at both ONE and myONE when you use the code NNM!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Chris identifies as a bisexual, polyamorous woman and has two partners. She feels as if she has been polyamorous since she was in her twenties but didn't have a framework for it. After navigating a series of infidelities on her behalf over the years, her husband approached her and asked to officially open the relationship. They explored a swinging dynamic for a few years until their relationship ultimately ended. Since then, Chris has been on her own journey to figure out what works best for her. We have a great conversation on a wide range of topics, as she shares not only the trials and challenges that she has faced but also the happiness and joy it brings to her life. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This conversation with Kate and Travis has so much depth, laughter, and love. It's amazing... There isn't much that's conventional about these two and we absolutely love how proud they are and how they support each other.   In a nutshell... They have been together 10 years and married for one. It all started when Travis' friend bet him that he couldn't hook up with Kate. But first, they became roommates. Kate moved in but not to her room... To Travis'. Then they started hooking up, then exploring with threesomes, then within four months Kate was pregnant. Then Kate moved out and they decided to try dating each other instead of just hooking up. Then... Surprise, a second baby! Years later, they're still going strong. Best friends exploring non-monogamy and living life to the fullest. It's a beautiful and fun story.   Last year, Kate and Travis decided to start documenting some of their journey on a podcast called She, My Wife, and I. Check it out to learn more and follow along as they adventure through life together!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Rachel started exploring non-monogamy in 2015 when she was in her late twenties and her boyfriend brought it up. Initially, they went down the hotwife path but through those experiences she realized she was seeking deeper connections. Over the last few years she has been exploring what it is she wants from non-monogamy and how to make it a reality. We have great conversations about confronting jealously from both sides (being the one who is jealous and being the one who is inducing it in a partner), sexual health, and going after what you want in life. It is a beautiful interview and we hope you enjoy it.   Rachel is also the author of the newly released book called Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy. Order it today, support her work, and go even deeper than we do in our interview.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.   For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.   Part 1 Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.   Part 2 Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.   Part 3 Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.   Check out the full show notes here. Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia Kelsia's Email: [email protected] Expansive Connection The Enneagram diagram we reference The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link) Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Franziska doesn't love labels but she's in her early twenties and identifies as a queer, bisexual, gender queer, kinky switch... She's shares with us how she was really first exposed to non-monogamy while living in Berlin and how her approach to relationships has evolved over the last few years.   She also talks about how non-monogamy has informed other aspects of her life beyond her relationships. This led her to join the team at Bloom. Bloom is a sex-positive and consent-forward dating and social community. We highly recommend you download the app and check out the incredible work that her, Luna from episode 212, and the rest of the Bloom team are doing. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.   For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.   Part 1 Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.   Part 2 Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.   Part 3 Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.   Check out the full show notes here. Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia Kelsia's Email: [email protected] Expansive Connection The Enneagram diagram we reference The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link) Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Whitney is a bisexual woman in her early thirties who grew up in the Mormon church and has been married for 14 years to her high school sweetheart. She has been "officially" exploring polyamory for about three years but has had non-monogamous tendencies throughout their entire relationship. She and her husband even tried swinging for a bit until she recognized she has a need for deeper connections.. This is a fantastic conversation that covers a lot of deep topics. We hope you enjoy!   Whitney is also finishing up her psychology degree and is starting to work with people in alternative relationships as a coach. You can learn more by visiting her website at www.theselfevolution.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

The Enneagram is a personality and motivation assessment. It is one of the most powerful and insightful tools for understanding ourselves and others at a deeper level. At its core, the Enneagram helps us to see ourselves at a deeper, more objective level and can be of invaluable assistance on our path to self-knowledge.   For this 3-part series, we've partnered with Enneagram coach Kelsia from Expansive Connection to help us understand our Enneagram types better. This three part series mirrors the Enneagram Experience she offers to anyone looking to understand themselves and those around them better.   Part 1 Kelsia explains the nine different personality types and then dives into the details of our specific numbers. We get into an emotional conversation about how all of the behaviors and motivations she describes are incredibly accurate and how they play out for us in our lives and relationships.   Part 2 Kelsia explains how we adapt in times of stress and times of calm. Our Enneagram numbers don't change but we take on traits from other types. The three of us talk about what this looks like for us specifically and how we can help support each other in times of stress and ironically, even in times of calm.   Part 3 Kelsia digs into the centers of intelligence and how to tap into yours. Listening to your body is incredibly important. She walks through an exercise with us to help us understand this better.   Check out the full show notes here. Sign Up For The Enneagram Experience With Kelsia Kelsia's Email: [email protected] Expansive Connection The Enneagram diagram we reference The website to take the $12 Enneagram test (not an affiliate link, just a regular link) Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Sarah is in her early thirties and has been exploring ethical non-monogamy for about five years. As she puts it, she just always had a feeling that monogamy didn’t feel right for her but it took her a while to figure out what to do about it. After a few attempts at opening relationships that didn’t work out, she finally feels like she is in a healthy open relationship and she’s loving it. Of course, it hasn’t always been easy and there have been growth opportunities. Throughout our conversation, Sarah shares with us how she has navigated difficult situations and worked to find security and balance in her life.   Sarah is on a mission to help people have the sex life they truly want through writing, activism, & education. Check out all of her work here and also sign up for her Alternative Relationship Summit on January 13-14!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Brittany and Chad have been together about three and half years but were best friends for almost seven before that. They got together after getting out of unhealthy relationships and decided to start exploring the idea of opening their relationship as a way to encourage Brittany to explore her bisexuality. We have great conversations about owning who you are, the evolution of non-monogamous dynamics over time, how comfort levels and rules change, and so much more. We love this conversation... Enjoy!   Brittany and Chad also host the Tangled Up Together podcast where they share more about their adventures in exploring the swinging lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy. Check it out and support the work they do!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Michaela and Paul have been together about three years and actually met while Michaela was exploring non-monogamy with her ex-husband. After they officially got together they closed their relationship down for a bit to establish some security and now are back out on the journey together. We have some amazing conversations about transitioning relationships, bisexual men in the swinging lifestyle, sexual health, and of course a few bloopers! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Misha has been exploring non-monogamy in varying forms since she was in her twenties when she kind of fell into a spontaneous triad. Since then, the journey has allowed her to explore sex parties, kink, and polyamory. We have some amazing conversations about attachment and what it means to be in a relationship and have a partner. We also get some bonus tips on creating better sex parties.   Misha also co-produces Bonobo Network with William Winters. Alongside William, she is passionate about supporting sex positive community and helping people create more pleasure for themselves. She teaches and consults individuals and communities to develop their consent culture with a harm reduction and transformative justice lens. Her private practice, Clearing Conversations, focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching and she loves supporting the sex positive community of the Bay Area and beyond in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Michaela is 27 and has been exploring non-monogamy for a little over three years. She is an acrobat and does acro-yoga and acro-burlesque. Two things we didn't even know existed until we talked to her!   Bryson is 28 and also an acrobat and acrobatics instructor. He's been exploring non-monogamy since he met Michaela about two and a half years ago.   This conversation we have with them is so incredible. They talk about their individual struggles over the years and how they have grown together. They also talk about how their relationship has changed over the last few months and how it led them to really look hard at what it means to be a partner and how they make their partnership work. There are so many amazing conversations in this interview.... Don't skip it. You'll thank us, we promise!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Luna is a 31 year old queer, polyamorous, kinky, badass who is on a journey to answer the question: How can software help people build meaningful relationships? She's been exploring non-monogamy for the last few years and shares with us what draws her to this approach to relationships and how it influences all aspects of her life. She also talks about how non-monogamy inspired her to develop an app called Bloom to help people build community. Bloom is a sex-positive and consent-forward dating and social community. We highly recommend you download the app and check out the incredible work that Luna and her team are doing. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

"Your life doesn't stop at age 60!" Judie is emphatic about this as she moves through her sixties and Eldon, his seventies. This interview is beautiful and covers a lot things we don't often get the chance to talk about... Everything from infidelity to Eldon waking up one day and walking away from religion after being a minister for 20 years.   Judie is an unashamed badass who seizes life everyday. It's amazing. A few months back Eldon brought the idea of opening up their marriage to her and well, as you can imagine, she has fully embraced it. They both have... Enjoy!   Judie also hosts her own podcast called Plus Size Polyamory. Check it out and support the work she is doing there.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Daev is in his early forties and has been exploring non-monogamy in various ways since about 2014. He was on the show about a year ago with his partner Shannon on Episode 166. Since our last discussion, a lot has changed... For one, Daev and Shannon are no longer together. His personal journey into solo polyamory has been very impactful for him in the last few months. We have a great conversation with him about the role having an open relationship played in their relationship ending plus how he has handled grieving the loss of the that relationship and how he is moving forward.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jenna and Wendi have known each other about eight years and have been married for three. Jenna is polyamorous. Wendi is not. These two share so much love, laughter, and life together and it is beautiful. In this amazing conversation they talk about navigating the imbalances in their "mono-poly" relationship, confronting insecurities, and how much respect they have for one another and their individual relationships. We absolutely love this conversation and hope you do as well!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Ali and Michael have been together since their high school days over 17 years ago. After their first year of college, Ali brought up the idea of opening their relationship and to her delight, Michael was up for it. Thirteen years, and many bumps and bruises later, they have dabbled in kink, swinging, and polyamory trying to find what works best for them. Right now, they've decided on the broadest description they could come up with: ethically non-monogamous. This conversation covers so much - from dealing with and basically overcoming shame, to how they created a beautiful throuple dynamic with a partner in Iceland. Definitely do not skip this one!   Ali is a travel and wildlife journalist. Her work can be found on Forbes, HuffPost, VICE, and Lonely Planet. She also writes about non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan. We were drawn to her work because she writes about non-monogamy from the first person perspective and for people in the non-monogamous community, not to create click bait exploiting it. Definitely check out her work here!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Red and Jay are in their early thirties and have been together about nine years and married for five. They consider themselves social swingers and started exploring non-monogamy right at the beginning of the pandemic… Perfect timing, right?! In this conversation with us, they discuss how they have navigated opening their relationship at possibly the worst time ever, how they navigate swinging when one of them is pretty introverted and one of them is an extrovert, plus, they even came prepared with a blooper or two! This is a super fun conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This is our second interview with Gabby this week… In case you missed it, Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In our first conversation with her, she shared with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. In this episode, we lighten things up just a bit. Gabby shares a bunch of amazing stories from her decade of experience and each one weaves in incredibly valuable lessons on trust, consent, boundaries, and even a bit of sexiness! We had such an amazing time talking with Gabby again and hope you enjoy this conversation as well!    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

  Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In this first conversation with her, she shares with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. She also talks a lot about how she navigates multiple relationships and gets support from her partners while also supporting them simultaneously. This is an amazingly powerful episode and we are so grateful to Gabby for her transparency and openness in talking with us. So much so, that we are bringing her back for a second interview in just two days!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jan is a 25 year old pansexual, neurodivergent, relationship anarchist from the Netherlands. He recognized at age six that he approached things a bit differently than his peers and relationships were no exception. We have a fantastic discussion on transitioning and healing damaged relationships as well as learning to set healthy boundaries.   Jan is also working with a group of people he met on Reddit to design a new flag to represent the polyamory community. Their goal is to crowdsource ideas and have the global community vote on the new flag. To learn more about how you can get involved and help support the project, please check them out at www.polyamproud.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Rosie started exploring and researching the idea of non-monogamy a while ago and even tried it out briefly while she had a platonic partner. She ultimately determined it wasn’t necessarily for her, however, she ended up bringing a lot of the mindset and skills she developed and learned through non-monogamy into her monogamous relationship with her fiancé. Rosie is also an award-winning comedian, the author of “Is Monogamy Dead?” and “The Breakup Monologues” as well as the host of the podcast by the same name. This conversation is an absolute delight… Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Wendy started exploring non-monogamy about six years ago as a way to save her marriage. Anthony and his wife got into it almost 20 years ago and have been in dynamics ranging from swinging to a polyamorous quad. A few years ago their forces collided. They share with us the story of how they came to be together and the challenges of coming out of difficult relationships while trying to form new ones. We also have a great conversation about negotiating a relationship from the very beginning.   Wendy and Anthony also volunteer at the Paradise Club in Pennsylvania to help lead the charge in education, community building, and making the experience for members as amazing as possible.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Crystal and Rich came out of their previous marriages knowing they wanted something different. They found one another and have been exploring a cuckold dynamic just about from the beginning of their relationship... At least having the conversations since the beginning. This is such a fantastic conversation that shows there is more to a relationship style than the name implies. Everyone does things a little bit differently and this is a beautiful example of exactly that.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Kacie and Marcus have been married for about eight years and exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for three of them. They started their non-monogamy journey when Kacie realized she had a crush on a coworker and decided to talk to Marcus about it. The conversation went way better than she expected and three years later they are continuing to evolve and grow together as they figure out what works best for them and how to navigate everything. This is an incredibly powerful conversation from start to finish. We hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Mason is an amazing queer transgender man who has been married for over a decade and exploring non-monogamy for the past five years. Everywhere Mason goes, he seems to drive change. He went to a private Christian university and went head-to-head with administration almost weekly regarding policies and treatment of the LGBTQ+ community. Now, as a sex educator who runs a business helping trans people find the best-suited sex toys for them, he continues to influence change by working with sex toy companies to make their toys more inclusive. Oh, and did we mention he got started by hosting sex toy parties at the private Christian school? We love this conversation and all of the work Mason is doing. Please check it out and tell everyone you know to help spread the love!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

  This conversation with Javay is absolutely incredible. It's full of amazing stories, information, and a ton of laughs. Full disclosure, the rest of this description is taken straight from her website at themillennialsexpert.com because she wrote it way better than we ever could!   From Javay: I am a Black, bisexual, sex educator. I use she/her pronouns. I was born in Washington, DC and grew up in PG County & Charles County, MD. I currently live in Bend, OR with my husband and our two dogs, Boris & Igor. I am a sex educator, content creator, writer, erotic model, and activist.   I went to James Madison University where I earned a BA in Media Arts & Design and a BS in Hospitality Management. After graduating undergrad I moved to Los Angeles, CA to work in the entertainment industry. While in LA, I started my YouTube channel with my first web series, The Honest Millennial. Throughout my time in LA I realized that sex was my passion. I began working at the sex shop, A Touch of Romance, and decided I wanted to continue down this career path. I launched my sex ed web series, In Bed With a Millennial, and decided to apply to grad school to become the best sex educator I could be.   I recently completed my Masters of Education in Sex Education at Widener University. I am starting my doctorate in human sexuality at California Institute of Integral Studies this fall to become an even greater sex educator and continue to educate people and bringing pleasure to everyone.   Javay is also the co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Emily is a screenwriter and script supervisor who does cosplay and designs geek clothing. She's also non-monogamous and kinky, which she discovered after her divorce. She's been exploring the kink scene and solo polyamory for a few years, and as most of us do, continuing to evolve and figure out what works best for her. This is a fantastic conversation with a seriously badass human! Enjoy!   Emily is also the creator and co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Jaret is partnered with Jamie who was a former guest on episode 184. This deep conversation with Jaret covers his experiences in healing from a traumatic brain injury, supporting his dad and partner, Jamie, through their transitions, and releasing expectations in relationships and life. This is a powerful episode in many ways, we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

In this fantastic roundtable conversation we bring Leanne, G, and Zach back on the show to talk more about their experiences creating safe and inclusive spaces to explore sexuality.  G and Zach were foundational members of the orgy club/team at Yale. Leanne was a member of Oxford’s Piers Gaveston Society and also has organized many of her own orgies.  We tap into their wisdom in how to build community and environments where people feel safe, welcome, and free to explore their sexuality. Some sexy stories are shared, along with exploring the deeper meaning behind fostering events like these, and we top it off with a few hilarious bloopers. Without a doubt, you do NOT want to skip this episode! Thank you again to Leanne, G, and Zach for sharing their voices and experiences with us.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Mandy is such a delight to talk to and is so full of positive energy! She is a bisexual badass who has been exploring solo polyamory and relationship anarchy for about four years. We have an amazing discussion about her journey, about navigating the complications of mono-poly dynamics, and of course, Fin's favorite topic... Unicorn hunting! Mandy is also the creator of the fantastic YouTube channel, Mainely Mandy. Check it out and support her work after you finish this incredible discussion. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Sonia and Gabriel have been together for over 19 years and have been practicing polyamory for about 10 years. They have a refreshingly honest conversation with us about where they are, how they've grown along the way, and the learning experiences that have brought them here. We also talk about what being queer and kinky (or not) means to both of them. We love this interview and hope you do as well.   Gabriel is also the director, producer, and editor of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this type of amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jacob is an amazing trans-masculine, non-binary human who is just about to turn 22. He (his preferred pronouns) has been exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for a few years and takes us inside the world of dating and relationships through his life experience and journey. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This interview with Izzy is absolutely amazing! They have been exploring polyamory for a little over three years but that is just the tip of the iceberg. This conversation is really about love, adventure, kindness, and living life. Izzy's approach to all of these is inspiring. We hope you enjoy this powerful interview.   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Sarah and Keith are in their early thirties and have essentially been together since they were 15, if we don't count that short break during college. They started exploring non-monogamy about six months ago after sort of stumbling across it while posting sexy photos of Sarah in various Reddit communities. They're looking to explore it all and see where the journey takes them. We love the energy and approach they bring to this adventure. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Brea is 30 years old, queer, nonbinary, exploring non-monogamy for the last ten years, outdoorsy, a forager, professional cook, gardener, and overall badass! We have an honest and extremely powerful discussion about their struggles and what they’ve learned throughout their non-monogamy journey. Also, Brea is a partner to Ryan from Episode 181, so after you listen to this episode, go back and check out that one!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Be unapologetically yourself! This is how Amy shows up in life and it is amazing and inspiring. She’s a former sex worker, an attorney, she owns multiple pole dance studios, and she is crushing it all. She’s also been exploring non-monogamy with her husband for about a year now and their story is beautiful. If you’re in the Bay Area, definitely check out Amy’s studios in Berkley, San Francisco, and Oakland! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Norm is incredibly positive and vibrant with a zest for living life. He has been in a “don’t ask, don’t tell” dynamic with his wife since they got married. Before that, he explored non-monogamy in a variety of ways. He has some amazing stories to share along with some fantastic strategies for navigating dating as a solo guy. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jacqueline is so many things... She's a mother, Latine, polyamorous, queer, pansexual, educator, organizational strategist, the co-host of the Curious Fox podcast and COO of the Curious Fox, and overall a super badass person! This discussion covers everything from raising kids in poly families to finding out your partner has been cheating on you a month before your wedding. This is a fantastic conversation and we are so excited to help support the work Jacqueline and the team at the Curious Fox are doing. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kelly has been exploring polyamory for over 30 years and as she says it “since before the word polyamory even existed.” Our conversation with her is beautiful and weaves together how she moves through the world inspiring others to be kind, take care of one another, and share love in the ways that make the most sense for themselves.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jamie’s story is beyond powerful. They are incredibly vulnerable with us about the adversity they have overcome and continue to work through around transitioning, being autistic, surviving a stroke, poverty, and being in a relationship they don’t really have words to describe. While powerful and moving, Jamie also brings levity and humor to their story which is amazing. This isn’t one to skip… We hope you enjoy it.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Phillip grew up in an extremely conservative household which influenced much of how he approached love, sexuality, relationships, and life. Since coming out in high school he has been pushing back and finding what works for him and the life he wants to live. Two years ago his boyfriend presented him with the idea/ultimatum of polyamory, something Phillip had no interest in. Rather than give up on the relationship he dove in and did a ton of research and work on himself to understand how it works and how he could approach it with his boyfriend. Today, Phillip is no longer with his boyfriend but he's continued to practice solo polyamory and is even about to launch a new podcast called Dear Poly! This is a super powerful discussion on so many levels and we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/    

Jessie is in her late twenties and has been exploring non-monogamy for about the past two years. Roy's been trying to turn 50 but Covid keeps getting in the way. He's been exploring polyamory for about ten years. Right near the start of Jessie's journey these two met and started on an adventure together. They share with us their individual journeys as well as what it has looked like for them exploring together while maintaining their independence and setting healthy boundaries.   Roy has also recently started working with non-monogamous people as a coach. His business is called Open Relating and can be found at https://openrelating.love.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Ryan's approach to life is to enjoy absolutely every second as much as possible and to have incredible experiences with all of the wonderful people around him. He lives in a house with five, or maybe it's six, (or sometimes seven, depending on the day), people and he welcomes the joy and organized chaos that comes with it. His story is full of twists and turns but more than anything it's full of love. We hope you enjoy it. Oh, and if you get lost, here is the map of his polycule. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

G joins us for what is quite possibly the most powerful discussion we've had on the show about self-discovery and knowing one's self. At only 25 years old, G has lived all over the world while building amazing communities and relationships that have helped them better understand who they are. Beyond that, their approach to life and relationships, both romantic and not, is beautiful. We both took so much away from this conversation and hope you do as well.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kitty is on a simple mission: To love and to educate. She describes herself as a cheating serial monogamist for the first 10-15 years of her dating life, and then she discovered consensual non-monogamy. For nearly the past 20 years she has been exploring non-monogamy with her husband and it has completely changed her life.   Kitty is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, author of The Jealousy Survival Guide, and a coach for people who are interested in and exploring non-monogamy. Check out all of her work at lovingwithoutboundaries.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Katt brings such incredible energy and positivity to this powerful discussion on personal growth and self-discovery. As she describes it, she grew up as a prude who was pretty much afraid of all things sex. However, in the last few years she has completely redefined her approach to relationships and sex. She is currently exploring solo polyamory and spending time with the people she wants to, when she wants to. You're not going to want to skip this one...   Katt and her best friend also host The V Spot Podcast which she describes as a vegan-ish survival podcast for best friends. If you love Katt's vibe, you'll love their podcast. Check it out!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Claire is in her mid thirties and always felt like a misfit in her relationships. That is, until she started exploring ethical non-monogamy about seven years ago... In this fantastic conversation, she shares with us how she and her partner navigated opening their relationship, how they manage their time and energy, and how she's grown since starting her polyamorous journey.   Claire is also a coach who works with people in non-traditional relationships to help them create a road map for a path that works for them on a deep level. You can find her at Intuitive Loving for more information.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20th Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Ams and Kat are the hosts of the 2HotWives podcast and are on a mission to create a community where like-minded women can explore their sexual interests and embrace great sex as the ultimate in self-care. We have an amazing conversation with them about their journeys into the swinging lifestyle with their husbands, what they've learned along the way, and how they've each grown individually and together.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Axel and his wife opened their relationship a few years ago after she came to him and let him know that she had fallen in love with another guy. This was a wakeup call that they had put their marriage on cruise control and that something had to change. Over the last few years they have rethought their entire approach to the relationship and their lives overall. Now they’re happily married and have found a way to blend swinging, polyamory, and BDSM into an intentional and dynamic relationship that is thriving. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did.     Axel has also written a book called Marriage and Beyond (Note: We said the incorrect name during the show, the book is not Rethinking Relationships), that will be published soon. He has taken all of the information he has learned throughout his journey, combined it with interviews from others who are exploring and studying non-monogamy, and consolidated it into an incredible resource for us all. Please check out his website to sign up for the pre-launch and support this incredible work   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This is a beautiful conversation about self-discovery, personal growth, and creating the relationship that works best for you regardless of what others think. Bella and Jase are high school sweethearts who have been together for over 13 years and opened up their relationship about six years ago while they were in their early twenties. They also have a podcast called 4OURPLAY and have created a series of ice breaker games. If you'd like to save 10% on everything on their website, you can use the code NNM. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Leanne is 22 years old and has been exploring non-monogamy in various capacities for the last five years. Her perspectives on love, life, and self worth are truly beautiful and we're so excited to be able to get her story and positive approach out into the world. One of the other things we love about this conversation is that Leanne is sort of at the forefront of a shift to creating more inclusive and diverse spaces for sex parties and events. She shares some of her incredible strategies with all of us! And, last but not least, she runs an amazing blog and Instagram account called Polyphilia, definitely go and check it out!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Sylvie and Jeff have been together over 17 years and exploring variations of non-monogamy for about four of them. They really jumped in with both feet after going to a sex club together while doing research for a book Sylvie was writing. They have a super fun story and bring such positive energy to everything they do. Sylvie is writing a trilogy called More. The first book, Fun, is out now and available on Amazon!    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Pearl is in her early thirties and has been exploring polyamory for a little over two years. She describes her introduction to non-monogamy as being poly under duress. Her ex-fiancé brought up the idea of threesomes and a triad and she felt she didn't really have much of a choice other than to go along with it. Two years later, she is on her own solo poly journey and has grown and learned so much about herself along the way. This is a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This conversation with Alice and Sam is absolutely beautiful. For them, life is about having incredible experiences with amazing people from all over the world. They have spent the last four years together globetrotting and building a global network of open-minded people using their Instagram account. Their open-minded approach to living life to the fullest and exploring together is enviable and something to aspire to. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we enjoyed having it. Remember to go find them on Instagram and keep up with their adventures.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Cooper is a polyamorous queer author and podcaster who has been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. He started the Life on the Swingset podcast with his close friend Dylan just nine months into his journey. It began with him and his wife both individually expressing to their therapist that they wanted to sleep with other people. Eventually they shared this scary revelation with each other and started an incredible adventure together. Over the last 10+ years his journey has evolved many times and as he puts it, opening his marriage was the single most impactful decision he's ever made in his entire life.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This is the final episode of the series in which all of the participants reflect back on the experience and talk about their takeaways and what lays ahead for them. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Anna and Groot met at a munch about four years ago while she was married and Groot was starting to explore non-monogamy. Since then, they have become primary partners and are currently in a mono - poly dynamic. They share some amazing insight with us into how this dynamic evolved and how it is the healthiest relationship either of them have ever been in. Groot also is a hobbyist writer on Literotica and wanted us to share this link to his work. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Laura and Casey on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 105. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Shannon and Daev started their relationship as part of a loose triad which quickly fell apart due to distance. The two of them stayed together and continued exploring swinging. They have recently began the transition to seeing if more of a polyamorous dynamic may be a better fit for them. Everything is still pretty new and they are very open and vulnerable about the challenges and difficulties they have faced together.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Amanda and David on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 53. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

Courtney is the founder and executive director of the non-profit Something Positive for Positive People. This organization serves as an intervention resource at the intersection of the sexual and mental health stigma that connects people who are navigating the trauma of an STI diagnosis to mental health resources. Courtney has also been exploring non-monogamy for about a year and shares with us his journey in doing so while navigating pandemics, stigma, and life. He is an amazing human and this conversation is incredible. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Check out the Romantic Chorus Documentary here (see Ep 163): https://romanticchorus.com/  Click here to sign up for the free Q+A  on 1/31 with the film team, hosted by us!   Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Jill and Jack on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 97 and Focus Fridays 1.7. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Lea and Mark met at a nudist camp 20 years ago while Mark was leading birdwatching tours. Since then they have slowly opened their relationship at different times while taking breaks for themselves and to raise a kid. Their calm and collected journey into non-monogamy is a great example for anyone who is apprehensive or nervous. It is a great discussion and we hope you enjoy it!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Check out the Romantic Chorus Documentary here (see Ep 163): https://romanticchorus.com/  Click here to sign up for the free Q+A  on 1/31 with the film team, hosted by us!   Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Felice and Bill on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 42 and Episode 130. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

Welcome to the Power of Witness Series!   This is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   This is the introduction episode to the entire series and is incredibly valuable on its own. Catherine lays the groundwork for how to witness and give feedback while the four couples introduce themselves and lay the foundation for the rest of the series.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

  We absolutely love Jeff's approach to life. You'll hear throughout the conversation how he is always up for new adventures and looking at the world in a new way. His positivity and willingness to learn new things is inspirational and extends far beyond his exploration of non-monogamy. We're really excited to get his story out into the world and hope you enjoy it.   Jeff is also a filmmaker and the director of a new animated documentary called Romantic Chorus that is premiering online the weekend of January 29 - 31, 2021. The film explores monogamy (and non-monogamy), sex, fear, and technology through the stories of 21 different people's lives. It is incredible and we hope you check it out and support this amazing work. Please note that this podcast is not being compensated in any way for promoting this film, we simply love supporting content creators who are doing amazing things for this community.   https://romanticchorus.com/ Click here to sign up for the free Q+A with the film team, hosted by us!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Tessa and Amir have been together for over 30 years and opened their relationship just about a decade ago. The discussion with them is all about enjoying the journey in life. Their first exposure to non-monogamy was when a friend told them they should check out a swinger's club because the dancing was great and the rest is history! Over the years their dynamic and approach has evolved but they haven't stopped enjoying the adventure together.   If you love what these two have to say, you're definitely going to want to check out their new podcast https://theopennesters.com!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Happy New Year everyone! We have a fun bonus episode for you all today that is full of listener bloopers, what everyone is thankful for in 2020 even with it being a difficult year, and how we all plan to crush 2021!   Thank you to everyone who left us voicemails. We hope you enjoy this and have a fantastic 2021!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Giselle is a free spirit who has lived a very full life of adventure and as best we can tell, she is just getting started! She's been exploring polyamory for close to 40 years and currently identifies as solo poly. This conversation is full of energy, excitement, and endless craziness. Boredom is not on the agenda for the next 90 minutes if you listen to this episode! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Krista and Brendan are a couple of 30 somethings who met at band camp in high school and have pretty much been together ever since. Early on in their relationship they began having conversations about non-monogamy and even had an occasional serendipitous threesome along the way. A few years back they dove in a little deeper and started having the conversation again which led them to exploring a variety of dynamics including swinging and friends with benefits before arriving at "kitchen table poly." Find out what exactly that means to them, how to build an incredible polycule, and much more in this amazing conversation.   If you love what these two have to say as much as we did you're definitely going to want to check out their blog over at https://www.polyinplace.com/ ! It's amazing work and a beautiful website as well!   Check out the full show notes here.   Please leave us a voicemail with your blooper or best part of 2020!! Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kristen and Austin started exploring swinging early on in their relationship after they got pregnant and she lost interest in sex. Her solution was to outsource the task. Since then, they have leaned on non-monogamy to help them navigate their mismatched libidos, which have persisted even after the pregnancy. Over the years their dynamic has moved fluidly across the spectrum of non-monogamy and at times completely back to monogamy. They are currently in a triad with a woman named Lindsey in which all three of them have independent relationships with one another. It's a beautiful story and we hope you enjoy it!   Check out the full show notes here.   Please leave us a voicemail with your blooper or best part of 2020!! Click here to join our January 16 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Fear doesn't stop death. It only stops life. Amazing insight straight from the Cheating on Fear website, as is the following bio (not because we're lazy but because we're efficient!). Dante is an anthropologist by training and has traveled the world diving, climbing, and conducting research. Beatrice is a kinesiologist by training and is an avid Brazilian Jiu Jitsu practitioner and educator. Together they have traveled extensively devouring life, culture, food, and libations. Join them on their journey of discovering new places and ideas that enhance their individual lives as well as their life together, and share how they can help you live a life without fear.   The discussion we have with these two is absolutely amazing and we hope you enjoy listening to it as much as we enjoyed recording it. We cover a wide array of experiences and topics including travel, adventure, infidelity, divorce, non-monogamy, maybe a little swinging, a touch of polyamory... You get the picture. Now get in here and have a listen! Click here to join our December 12 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jade self-describes as a cyborg who combines provocative thought with moving furniture. Clearly, you're in for an interview that blends a sharp sense of humor with a powerful story. Beyond cyborg, Jade is a comedian, performer, and artist. We're excited and honored to share with you this conversation that gives us a glimpse of exploring love, dating, relationships, sex, and life from a perspective few of us have. Jade is also featured in the upcoming animated documentary "Romantic Chorus" which will be released in the end of January.   www.jadetheriault.com Twitter: @thepaintedjade Instagram: @thepaintedjade   Romantic Chorus Film Instagram: @RomanticChorusDocumentary See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Swingfessions Comic Book A Color Named Love Kickstarter Click here to join our December 12 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Chloe and Drew were such amazing guests that we decided to have them back a second time! It's not critical that you listen to their first episode (Ep 89) before listening to this one but it will provide some context. Their first episode resulted in a handful of listener emails concerned for Drew's wellbeing in the relationship. In this episode they address those concerns and talk about the incredible amount of growth they have both experienced in the last year. We also have a few laughs and maybe a tear or two... Enjoy! See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our December 12 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Imani started exploring non-monogamy in 2013 when she was in a relationship that was fading out. Her and her partner decided to give it a try as a last ditch effort to save the relationship but it ended up not working out quite like that. Since then she has continued to explore and learn what works best for her. Her thoughtfulness and insight in this discussion is incredible and wide-ranging.   She is also the owner and creator of an online adult pleasure shop called Decadent d'Vices. It is incredible and we encourage you to check it out and use the offer code EMMA to save 20% at checkout!   Decadent d'Vices (Use offer code EMMA to save 20%!) Twitter: @DecadentdVices Instagran: @DecadentdVices   Romantic Chorus Film Instagram: @RomanticChorusDocumentary See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our December 12 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Mistakes are inevitable and when they happen, communication is critical. Mariana and Rob are a young couple from Brazil who share their amazing story with us and prove that if you can communicate there is nothing you can't accomplish together. One of the other things we love about these two is that they prefer not to define their non-monogamous dynamic. As Rob says, the just do things and they try to understand them together. Also! Mariana is the author of "A Color Named Love", the first children's book with polyamorous parents represented.  Meet Anna and her 4 parents in this book that celebrates polyamory and all the beautiful and valid forms of loving families! Mariana just launched the book on Kickstarter and you can be of the first to purchase it and support the book using the links below. Support "A Color Named Love" Kickstarter See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our November 13 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Scarlett is in her early forties and was married for 10 years before getting divorced a few years ago. Since then, she has started exploring just about everything under the sun! She identifies as solo poly and also has been loving the kinkier side of life. She even credits BDSM with helping her quit smoking! She brings incredible energy and personality to this powerful episode and we love it! Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our November 13 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing Poly Dallas Millennium A Color Named Love - Kickstarter https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Emily and Matt both thought they were broken and not meant to be loved like everyone else. Then they met and together decided to openly explore their sexualities and non-monogamy and everything changed for them. It has been an amazing journey but definitely not one without some bumps along the way. In fact, they describe their first experience as a "trial by fire" and it is full of learning opportunities for everyone. They are amazing people who have grown so much together and we can't thank them enough for their vulnerability and willingness to share their story.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our November 13 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Gabrielle grew up in Jamaica Queens with various forms of non-monogamy happening around her. She has been exploring it herself since the beginning of her dating life around age 17. Since then she has experienced a variety of dynamics and is currently happily identifying as solo poly. She is also a freelance writer who covers polyamory, sex, mental health, relationships, and the intersections of race. Her story is amazing as is her writing. We hope you enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our November 13 Virtual Meet and Greet! Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Rachael shares with us a powerful and beautiful story of self-discovery. She married at a young age and realized years later that she had never had the time to find who she was. At age 32 she had zero sex drive but figured that was just normal because she was "getting old..." Then she went to see the movie Wolverine and saw Hugh Jackman with his shirt off and it hit her that she needed to make some changes. Since then, she has separated from her high school sweetheart, learned a ton about herself, gotten involved in various polyamory and kink organizations, and even started her own publication on Medium called Polyamory Today. This interview covers so much ground and is super inspiring. Enjoy!   Rachael's Contact Info: Polyamory Today Fattitude Twitter: @rachael1013 Email: [email protected]   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our October 16 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

During college Wilson had a long distance relationship with a woman in Argentina. The two of them decided to open the relationship in an effort not to limit the other's physical needs. As he describes it, they had no idea what they were doing or that open relationships were even a "thing" that you could do. They just did it. It was a rocky few years and now he has done extensive research and discovery into what kind of non-monogamy he is interested in. This is a great discussion for anyone who is sort of unsure and just starting to figure things out. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our October 16 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

You're about to embark on one of our most powerful episodes to date. Marie gracefully blends her moving personal stories with humor as she takes us through how she deconstructed her religious upbringing and then monogamy. It truly is a beautiful story. Beyond her guest starring role on our show, she also hosts her own podcast called Everyone's Autonomous, she's a non-monogamy relationship coach, and she runs a humanist photography business. To sum it up, she's an amazing human doing powerful work and we're honored to share her story.   Marie's Website Everyone's Autonomous Podcast Markei Photo and Video   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our October 16 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This is a fantastic discussion tying together infidelity, a desire to live life to the fullest, and incredible growth and communication... Sophie and Brandon are in their mid thirties and have been married for four years. This is the second marriage for both of them and they have been "intentionally non-monogamous" for about three years. The way they share how they have overcome obstacles and how they have grown together is beautiful. We are incredibly grateful to them for sharing such a vulnerable and powerful story with us. See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our October 16 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This is a wonderful discussion about self-discovery, boundaries, standing up for yourself, and communicating with compassion. Leah is a self-proclaimed relationship junky but only recently dipped her toes into non-monogamy after accidentally matching with someone on a dating app. She didn't read the whole profile... Oops! She ended up going on a date with him and his partner anyways and had a great time but ultimately things didn't work out. She details the whole story and shares with us how her approach to relationships has shifted since this experience. Additionally, a few years ago after getting ghosted she created an Esther Perel Discussion group on Facebook that has grown to almost 12k members. See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our October 16 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Our first interview with a throuple! Woop woop! Not just any throuple either... These three are incredible humans and have such an amazing attitude towards life and relationships. It's no wonder they all fell in love with one another! Rah and Tom have been married for about 10 years and open for most of their relationship. About a year and a half ago they met Mel. None of them were looking for a serious relationship, yet, here they are today happier than ever. This is a fantastic discussion about how people's approaches to relationships can evolve and more than that, it's a heartwarming and beautiful story. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our September 19 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

At 22, Nicki is our youngest guest so far. She has recently started exploring non-monogamy with her partner and as she puts it, she's standing at the edge of the abyss looking in... And she's super excited about it. All of it! She has a very high EQ and talks about how her experiences in exploring non-monogamy have already helped her understand and confront her anxiety and perfectionism. She's also gained a better understanding of how being highly empathetic and an HSP (highly sensitive person) fit into relationships and self care. This is a fantastic episode and we hope you enjoy it!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our September 19 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This episode is such a ball of positive energy and good vibes that it should be titled "How to make Covid your Biatch!" Basically, it's like this: Christy is married to David and in a long term relationship with Jason... David is also in a long term relationship with Rebecca... Jason and Rebecca aren't technically in a relationship but hey, who doesn't like to have a little fun? Oh yeah... They also all moved in together at the start of the pandemic and then had some family join them. So, if you are in need of a little something to brighten your day and to give you some inspiration, look no further. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our September 19 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Rebecca's story is so amazing and inspirational! After a difficult breakup and being monogamous her entire life, she has spent the last 18 months (ish) rethinking everything. In that time, she has jumped into a non-hierarchical polyamorous relationship, started exploring kink, moved into a house with her polycule, and done an incredible amount of personal growth. This is a fantastic story and we hope you enjoy it.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our September 19 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Zach is an incredibly kind and loving human who is full of joy and ready to share it with the world! He’s only 30 but has had a wildly diverse array of experiences… He’s traveled the world, accidentally joined a French Poly Cult in Paris, couch surfed his way across Europe using OKCupid, and even founded a university sanctioned orgy club during his time at Yale. This list only scratches the surface of what we dive into during our discussion with him… Do NOT miss this one!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our September 19 Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jane and Jay are in their early-ish forties and have been exploring swinging for the last seven years. The call themselves social swingers and for them it’s all about making friends and going with the flow. They talk with us about how much of a miracle it is that they actually ever swing with anyone because of how bad they are at picking up on vibes from others. But their communication has evolved since they started their journey! Jane also documents their adventures in a super fun, sex-positive, and body-positive weekly comic strip called Swingfessions. We love the vibes these two are putting out into the world and highly recommend you check them out!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our August 22nd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Sky and Kody were destined to never be together... Or perhaps quite the opposite. Against all odds, Tinder somehow made it happen. Lucky for them and lucky for all of us who get to hear their journey! They are amazing humans who take communication and their approach to relationships to elite levels. They decided from the beginning of their relationship that it would be open but took the first few months to deepen their connection before starting to explore. As you will see, the whole journey for them is about sharing incredible experiences with one another and finding what makes them happy on an incredible adventure.    See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our August 22nd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Charita Marie is an incredible woman who is an unbelievable advocate and activist in the black, non-monogamous, and LGBTQ+ communities. To name just a few, she is a co-organizer of Poly Dallas Millennium as well as the Dallas lead for Black and Poly. Beyond that, she has an amazing story to share. We talk with her about a wide range of topics including navigating mismatched libidos and asexuality, nourishing relationships during Covid, raising sex-positive children, the importance of self-care, navigating the poly-mono relationship dynamic and so much more! This is a fantastic discussion and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our August 22nd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kat is a delightful and bubbly human whose journey takes us to multiple continents and is full of self-discovery and growth. She grew up very religious and was engaged at a young age before setting off on a trip to study in Argentina where her world opened up. She shares with us how she went from super religious, to engaged, to single, joined a band, got married, separated from her husband, and is now exploring solo polyamory along with dabbling a bit in some other forms of ethical non-monogamy. It's a fantastic story!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our August 22nd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Amanda and Thomas are in their very early thirties and have been exploring non-monogamy since the beginning of their relationship over five years ago. They have a fluid approach and keep things independent from one another (except for when the threesomes happen), yet, they don't hide things either. They share with us how they are able to find this balance, keep lines of communication open, and how they have been adjusting to spending a lot more time together since the pandemic showed up. It's a fantastic and lighthearted episode that we know you will enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our July 23rd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Jhen is a 30ish year old, hilarious, pansexual woman from Jamaica who has been exploring non-monogamy since she first shared a boyfriend with her best friend when she was six! In all seriousness, monogamy really isn't her thing and pretty much all of her adult-life relationships have been non-monogamous in some fashion. She shares a journey with us which spans multiple cultures and includes a fair amount of laughs!   She is also one of the co-creators and hosts of The Monogamish Pod podcast which focuses on ethical non-monogamy through the Black Caribbean lens.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our July 23rd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

  Kate and Chris are right at the start of their journey...Sort of. They have been discussing ethical and consensual non-monogamy for the last couple of months but have been forced to just keep talking about it due to COVID-19. The conversation came up after Kate asked Chris for a divorce because after her third emotional affair she concluded that she must not love him anymore since she was interested in someone else. Chris wasn't about to throw away 20 years of marriage that easily and after some long nights of talking it turns out that neither of them wanted to get divorced. Gasp! These two share the incredible journey they have been on together so far and have kindly volunteered to let us track the entire thing in a multiple part series over the next, well, hopefully 40+ years!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our July 23rd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We're honored to welcome Ruby Johnson, co-founder of Poly Dallas Millennium, to moderate our first panel discussion. As she mentions, this is not a race 101 discussion. While it is targeted towards the Black community, it is an invaluable resource for anyone who finds it. The amazing and accomplished panelists discuss difficult topics, share vulnerable stories, and do it all while weaving in humor and laughter. It's a very real conversation with four powerful friends.  Thank you again to Ruby Johnson, Charita Marie, Dr. Justin Clardy, and of course Jhen for sharing their voices and experiences with us.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our July 23rd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Marla's story and message are incredible, you do not want to skip this episode. She is a professional sexologist, intimacy/relationship/sex coach, speaker, and author. She is the owner of Velvet Lips, a sexuality education company, as well as Contract Liberation, a company focused on research for non-profit groups. As a Lecturer at Clayton State University, she teaches Sociology and Women’s and Gender Studies. As the Co-Founder of the Sex Down South Conference, Marla aims to bring diverse groups together to learn and share their experiences in the essence of being authentic and fostering sexual liberation across communities. Marla has studied human sexuality for over 19 years, has educated over 20,000 people in over 13 years, given over 400 workshops, and have served over 100 clients in her private practice, all around the world. She has had her influence in the media, as well; she has written over 200 articles, featured in over 20 magazines and books, and has been on over 50 podcasts and independent television shows. She was featured on Netflix’s Trigger Warning with Killer Mike and VH1's Love & HipHop Atlanta. In addition, she also sits on the Boards for SPARK Reproductive Justice NOW! and is on the Community Advisory Board of the Diverse Sexualities and Research Education Institute. She also recently co-wrote her first book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction & Foreplay (2020) with Dr. Jessica O’Reilly... Seriously, do not miss this one!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our July 23rd Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Mrs. and Mr. Jones from the We Gotta Thing podcast join us this week to share their story. "But can't I just go listen to their story on their podcast?" you might be asking yourself... You could. But rumor has it that we have never-before-discussed top secret material. These are of course just rumors. However, what we do have is a fantastic discussion that goes much deeper than their story. Our recommendation is you listen to this episode AND go listen to their podcast. Everybody wins, especially you.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our June 25th Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Felice and Bill are back for round 2! We originally talked to them in Episode 42 and they're back to give us an update on how things have changed for them in the last year and half. They discuss confronting an STI earlier in the year and how Coronavirus has forced them back into monogamy and impacted their relationship as well as their relationships with others. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our June 25th Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Chloe's story is powerful in so many ways. After opening their relationship at the end of 2019, Chloe and her fiancé ultimately ended up parting ways. Starting to explore swinging and polyamory exposed some underlying issues that they each needed to work on individually. Chloe takes us through the journey of discovery and the work she has done on herself over the last few months as she looks forward to how she wants to model future relationships.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes! Click here to join our June 25th Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Mel and Carson have been slowly dipping their toes in and back out of non-monogamy for the last couple of years. It has been a slow build up sprinkled with a few speed bumps and lots of learning for them both. This is a great episode for anyone who is in the early stages of exploration or perhaps has been exploring things but it hasn't gone as perfectly as they thought it would. These two take us through all of the work they have done together and how they have come out the other side ready to keep exploring.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our June 25th Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Today's episode is powerful in many ways. Perla and Chad are very vulnerable with us and share many of the challenges they have overcome in the last few years since they started opening up their relationship. Not only do they share their stories, they break down many of the feelings and motivations behind their actions in a way that is really helpful for anyone who may be struggling with similar issues. It's a fantastic discussion and we hope you take a lot from it.    See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our June 25th Virtual Meet and Greet!   Check out the all new inclusive and diverse AltPlayGround!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing    https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Irene shares a powerful and moving story with us this week. She has been exploring non-monogamy for a few years and initially got into it towards the end of an emotionally challenging relationship. As you will hear, she has really found herself since she started the journey and has come to be in an incredible place in life and stronger than ever before. She also talks a bit about raising her son as a single mother and how she exposes him to love and openness in a healthy and appropriate way. We hope this story is as moving for you as it was for us. Enjoy.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our very first Virtual Meet and Greet!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Laura and David share an experience with us that has never been discussed on the show... Simply put, they had a baby together. It's definitely much more complicated than that. You'll see. They have now been exploring consensual non-monogamy together for about five years and have watched their dynamic evolve in many ways over that time. They are incredible people that we're honored to call friends and they have an amazing story. You won't be disappointed if you have a listen. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   PolyCamp Northeast   Click here to join our very first Virtual Meet and Greet!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Michelle and Steve never really closed their relationship after they got together. Steve had explored non-monogamy in the past but this was Michelle's first time even hearing about it but it made so much sense to her that she was game to give it a try. After a few bumps, things smoothed out and they found their groove. Over the last few years they have been exploring various forms of swinging and polyamory all over Europe and have been having a blast. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our very first Virtual Meet and Greet!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Chels and Luc have been exploring non-monogamy for about seven years together and have seen the dynamic of how it works shift and grow over the years. As they say, it started off more about the bodies and has ended up being more about connections and making lifelong friends. They also own a meditation studio and work with couples who are exploring non-monogamy to help them improve their communication. Enjoy!   Learn more about them at www.chelsandluc.com   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our very first Virtual Meet and Greet!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Carrie and Jack started exploring non-monogamy, mainly of the hotwife variety, the day before we published our first podcast episode, exactly two years ago! Happy anniversary to them and to us! Over those two years they have had a LOT of fun! These two are an absolute blast and their sex-positivity and support for each other is incredible. They could easily have a spinoff show titled "The Adventures of Carrie" and it would be a smash hit. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Click here to join our very first Virtual Meet and Greet!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Aubrey and Jason share a beautiful story of growing their relationship and taking it to the next level after going through difficult experiences. They talk about healing from an infidelity, exploring swinging, making amazing friends, and even moving in with one of their partners. They are also the creators of the Meet The Mavericks blog where they talk about everything in their life, from their open relationship to raising their daughter and everything in between. They are an incredible resource and we highly recommend you check them out.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   https://meetthemavericks.com/   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This one is a ball of pure joy and fun! Tryst and Loq join us on their one year anniversary of the Livin' The Suite Life podcast to give us a behind the scenes look and share a laugh or twenty. They were high school sweethearts who went their separate ways and then came back together over ten years later. Since then, let's just say they have been having a blast exploring the world of swinging. I mean, they went to a swing club on their wedding night!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Check out Livin' The Suite Life Podcast   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This is an amazing and vulnerable story... Kerry and Andy's relationship started from a place of openness and honesty but wound up leading to an infidelity that spurred powerful changes in them both. Kerry shares the intimate journey her and Andy went on together to repair their relationship and it has ultimately led to an amazing dynamic that has left them in the best relationship either of them has ever been in. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

KamalaDevi and Michael have been exploring non-monogamy in various ways for almost 20 years. KamalaDevi is a self-described muse, mystic, and mentor as well as an author, coach, educator, and activist. Michael is a musician, environmentalist, actor and a co-founder of Tantra Theater. Together, they are dedicated parents, passionate ambassadors of sex-positivity and poly-visibility, and have starred in Showtime's docuseries "Polyamory: Married and Dating."   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 10 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. For this episode we had listeners leave us voicemails or email us describing how they brought up non-monogamy to their partner. We discuss these voicemails along with other tips for discussing non-monogamy with your partner with Catherine, a therapist and relationship coach who specializes in working with people in open relationships. The bottom line: it all comes down to being a team!   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Dana and Happy... So much to say... Self described pansexual, hedonist, sluts. Kinky. Polyamorous. Relationship anarchists. All around amazing people with fantastic energy and outlooks on life! They explored non-monogamy separately before meeting and have continued to explore as their lives have merged and their relationship evolves. We discuss it all in this episode...enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 9 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. Our guest today is Libby Sinback, a relationship coach, educator, and host of the Making Polyamory Work podcast. We have a fun conversation about a probably not-so-fun topic, transitioning relationships or... breaking up. We discuss lots of tips for breaking up with someone as well as lots of tips for the person being broken up with. Additionally, these strategies can be applied to many types of relationship transitions, including non-romantic relationships. The key is kindness, consideration, and always having an ongoing conversation about your relationship with the other person.   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

This is one of the most powerful episodes we have had the honor of sharing. After 30 years of marriage and kids, Mark came out to Denise as gay. Two years later, they're still married! The transformation and impact this has had on each of them and their relationship is incredible. We hope you take away as much as we did from this episode. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 8 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode we tackle the topic of sexuality with Angela and Bradford of the By the Bi podcast. This is a lighthearted conversation on a difficult topic. We start off with some general definitions and the conversation evolves from there. We hope you enjoy this one!   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Rapunzel is back to talk with us again and this time she brought a partner with her. She's been married twice and swore she wasn't going to do that nonsense again... Guess what? She was wrong! This episode is an amazing look at how two people with very different levels of experience in non-monogamy have been able to come together and build an incredible partnership.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 7 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode we continue our discussion on shame with Jill and Jack, a couple who grew up in a conservative Mennonite group and are now exploring non-monogamy. They have been working through all of the shame they have experienced in different religious communities and how to move forward. They have amazing advice for all of us and this is a heartwarming episode you won’t want to miss.   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

A few years back, while going through a very difficult and isolated time in her life, Katt's hairdresser suggested that she should check out Fetlife... Since then she has been experiencing huge personal growth and change in her life as she has been opening herself up to new ways of exploring life, relationships, and ultimately non-monogamy. This is a powerful and vulnerable episode and we hope you get a lot out of it.   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 6 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode we discuss the topic of shame with A.J. Bond, the host of the Discomfortable Podcast. We have an incredible discussion around what shame is, the difference between shame and guilt, and how to deal and sit with shame. We learned a lot from A.J. and know you will too!   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses  

Hazel and James started their relationship over a decade ago, but with a twist... Hazel was married. She talks about how she has reconciled the guilt from her infidelity and how she and James have used it as a catalyst to open their own marriage as a team. They have been exploring non-monogamy for a few years and in that short time they have covered everything from swinging to having a partner and her kids move in with them. This is an incredible story and these two are fantastic storytellers!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome to Episode 5 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode we tackle a potentially sensitive, but very important topic: consent. Our guests are Ginger and Ryan from the Life on the Swingset Podcast and the Intellectual Foreplay Podcast. We hope you take this message forward, make it your own, and help spread the word.   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Jamie was first introduced to non-monogamy during college when her and a boyfriend started to explore swinging. Since then she has been learning what her needs are and taking care of her relationship with herself. This has led her to discovering, and dare we say, fall in love with, polyamory. She now identifies as solo poly and has been working the last few years to create and grow amazing communities dedicated to helping people understand and safely explore non-monogamy on their own terms. If you're looking to find or build a community of your own, you don't want to miss this one!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome to Episode 4 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. Today we continue our discussion around sexual health with the Courtney Brame, the founder of the non-profit and podcast Something Positive for Positive People. Through his non-profit and podcast, Courtney is creating a resource to help people diagnosed with an STI feel less alone and less stigmatized as well as to let them know they have support in navigating dating and conversations around STIs. We discuss his story, including his diagnosis with herpes, tips for bringing up a STI diagnoses with potential partners, and how we can all help destigmatize STIs. You aren’t going to want to miss this one!   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Chanelle and Grant have been married for over 10 years and started exploring non-monogamy a few years back when their jobs kept them apart for extended periods of time. It has also helped them navigate mismatched libidos and to create a great network of open-minded friends after relocating. They have been on an amazing journey to find what works best for them, going to polyamory meetups, swinger clubs, and just about anything else they think sounds interesting! They bring a positive attitude and zest to the community and share some great tips and tricks for anyone interested in non-monogamy. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Welcome to Episode 3 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode we talk with Dr. Evelin Dacker, a family physician with her own practice near Portland, Oregon. She is also the executive director of Sex Positive Portland and created the integrative disclosure framework, STARS. We have a fantastic discussion on the misconceptions of STIs, viral vs. bacterial infections, empowering oneself, knowing your acceptable level of risk, bringing up sexual health with your doctor, and more. This is an educational discussion for all of us and information we’re excited to get out there!   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses  

Maria and Jory have been exploring non-monogamy since the start of their relationship about 15 years ago. As you will learn, they have found a blend somewhere in the middle of swinging and polyamory to be a great fit for them. Beyond that, they discuss how their relationship looks monogamous to most people but that they do not like to close themselves off to opportunities and experiences that life may present to them. It's a beautiful story with amazing people and we hope you enjoy it!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Episode 2 of Focus Fridays, a series of topic specific discussions with other contributors, and a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. Today we’re talking with Catherine, a therapist and relationship coach who specializes in working with people in open relationships. We discuss how to have intentional conversations with your partner. This is the framework around how to say what you want said and how to let your partner know you’re hearing what they are saying. The content is also applicable outside of romantic relationships and this episode could easily be on a business or parenting podcast. You can also contact Catherine through her business, Expansive Connection.   The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Sarah and Ed discovered swinging on a work trip to Desire a few years ago... Yes, for real, apparently that's a thing. They started exploring it slowly and have always taken a very laid back and casual approach to the whole thing. Their outlook is super refreshing and a great one if you are new to non-monogamy or swinging. Beyond that, they show how just being yourself is the best approach to swinging and honestly, all things in life. We love their positive and welcoming vibe and are excited to get their story out there. Enjoy!   See photos and more details of all our guests by checking out the Show Notes!   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Our first Focus Friday episode ever! These episodes are topic specific discussions with other contributors, a bit different from our traditional story-focused interviews. In this episode, we talk to some of our best friends, Jessica and Matt, who we came out to last summer. They have no background in non-monogamy, so we have a fun discussion with them trying to guess the meaning of vocabulary terms in the non-monogamy space and then us giving them the real meaning. This is a great episode for anyone to listen to, but especially if you’re new to non-monogamy. The remaining Focus Friday episodes will be released on our channel every Friday. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. Thank you for your support!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

Daniel grew up with non-monogamy being modeled for him from an early age and actually rebelled against it for quite a while. In this episode he talks about what caused him to give it a second chance and what his model of non-monogamy looks like. He also has a great approach to self-care as it relates to being in relationships of any kind. Check it out so you're up to speed when we have him back on... With his dad. Yes, for real.   Show Notes   Get a 20% discount at MyOneCondoms.com using the offer code "nnmpodcast"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Welcome to Season 1 of Focus Fridays!   This is a short trailer for a new project where we have collaborated with many content creators, sex educators, and professionals to have discussions on specific topics instead of doing our normal story-focused interviews. Don't worry, there will be no changes to our regular Wednesday show. Season 1 will include 10 episodes and be released every Friday starting January 31, 2020. Alternatively, if you can't wait, you can go and download all of the episodes by clicking right here, right now for free or by paying what feels good to you. We are super excited to get this content out there and can't thank all of the contributors enough!   Show Notes   Download all 10 Focus Friday episodes!   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/courses

If you are looking to introduce swinging or non-monogamy to your partner via podcast, this is probably one of the best episodes we can think of for doing that. Chris and Fred have an amazing approach to everything. Beyond that, Chris shares some vulnerable and beautiful insight into exploring swinging as a woman and just exploring what it means to be a sexual being who is a woman and mom. We can't thank them enough for reaching out and sharing their story with us.     Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Try BeachBody On-Demand free for 14 days!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This is a super fun interview with a partner of one of our previous guests. Rachel is married to Norm from episode 80 and she is here to share her perspective on their journey together and her own personal journey. She is a ton of fun and a wealth of information and experience. She's also our first guest who got started in this journey using a website specifically designed for people to cheat on their partners. This is a great episode for anyone looking to learn a bit about boundaries and personal growth, and it also provides another perspective on non-hierarchal polyamory. Enjoy!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   SafeMatch - Please fill out this short survey for SafeMatch to help improve them in their mission!   Try BeachBody On-Demand free for 14 days!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Laura and Casey cover a ton of ground in this extremely relatable episode. They are in their mid-30's and have been together for over 20 years. In that time, one of them definitely didn't nail it when bringing up non-monogamy to the other, they have shifted their approach a few times, seen powerful shifts in their confidence, navigated raising kids, and have been having a lot of fun! This one has a little something for everyone and we think you will love it! Enjoy!   Show Notes   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Try BeachBody On-Demand free for 14 days!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

In her early twenties Dedeker continually found herself wanting to cheat on her partners even though she loved them and still wanted to be with them. She never cheated, but after confessing this to a friend of hers one night, he pitched the idea of open relationships to her. After she was done being offended, she researched it extensively and began the incredible journey that led to the story she shared with us. Beyond that, her experiences and wisdom have helped her craft the incredible Multiamory podcast as one of its three co-hosts. This conversation literally takes us around the world and across pretty much the entire spectrum of non-monogamy. Enjoy!   Show Notes   Multiamory Podcast   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Try BeachBody On-Demand free for 14 days!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Claire and Phil met in high school but didn't end up getting together until a few years later. They've been together for over 10 years now and sort of stumbled into non-monogamy pretty early on after giving each other hall passes in college. Spoiler alert, it was a learning experience! Since then they have had some ups and downs and explored a blend of swinging and polyamory. Lately, it seems as if they're finding their groove and they are loving it!   Show Notes   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Join Our Patreon Community!   The Monogamish Marriage Blog   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Brian and his wife have been exploring non-monogamy in various capacities over the past few years and have ultimately decided to separate. To protect her privacy, they decided the best strategy would be for Brian to share the story on their behalf and we appreciate their vulnerability in doing so. It's a great example of how many people leap to the conclusion that non-monogamy caused the relationship to end but as you will hear, it's a lot more nuanced than that.   Show Notes   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Brandy and Will have been together less than a year and jumped into the world of swinging very early on! They both came out of long marriages and were committed early on to being wide open and transparent with each other which led to opening the relationship. If that wasn't enough, they also just started an online store to help people in the swinging lifestyle find sexy outfits and accessories for themed parties. Have a listen to their story and check out their online store and save 10% if you use the offer code "emma"!   Show Notes   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Friends of LS Website - Use offer code "emma" for 10% off your next purchase!   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Lee and Ron are the first same gender male couple that we have had the opportunity to have on the show and we're so excited to help get their story out into the world. They have been together about seven years and over that time they have both had the opportunity to explore things about themselves that have led to amazing growth and experiences. Their story is powerful in many ways and we hope it finds you at a time when you're looking for inspiration to be yourself and love your partner(s) for who they are. Thank you to both of them for sharing and being a positive influence on this community.   Show Notes   Fun MyOneCondom Holiday Survey!   Lee's Etsy Store - Save 10% with offercode "NNMPC10"   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

One of the esteemed hosts of the Multiamory podcast joins us this week to share a bit more about his personal story. He has been exploring non-monogamy in various forms for about 14 years and has some amazing insights and advice to share on top of his incredible story. Be sure to check out the Multiamory podcast as well for over 200 episodes of pure wisdom from Jase and the rest of the team!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Libby is a relationship coach and educator as well as a brand new podcaster! Emma said I can't call this the "Mom-isode" so I won't... But I will say that Libby has some incredible stories of how she navigated dating, community building, and networking as a new mom. Not a mom yourself? Me neither and I took a ton away from this episode. Libby is overflowing with positive vibes and life experiences that we can all learn from. Have a listen and then when you're done, go subscribe to her new podcast called "Making Polyamory Work."   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

This is an amazing and powerful story of two strong people who have come out of incredibly oppressive religious backgrounds and are working together everyday to overcome shame and find their way in exploring non-monogamy. We hope you find this story as useful and moving as we did. Enjoy!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Dawn and Dan have been together and exploring non-monogamy in a variety of ways for the past 20 years. Eleven years ago they started their podcast called The Erotic Awakening and have published over 500 episodes since then! They are here to share some insights and stories from their journey as well as some of the things they have learned along the way.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   The Erotic Awakening w/ Dawn and Dan   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Eliza and Scott have been best friends for 25 years, they may have also hooked up a few times over the years. A recent car accident awakened something inside of them and now they're married. Not only that, they have an open marriage agreement. Sound simple enough? Didn't think so.. And it's actually a lot more complicated than it sounds.   These two have an incredibly heartwarming story and a very deep love and admiration for one another. They're learning to navigate a whole lot of new things together and have been discovering that while it's not always easy, they wouldn't change a thing about it.   Trigger Alert... Grab a tissue. There are some emotional parts and maybe a few tears. :)   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Reagan is a 58 year old polyamorous, kinky, liberal, atheist, legal sex worker who has been exploring non-monogamy since her 20's! She is full of wisdom and life experiences that we can all learn from regardless of our relationship dynamic. She shares her beautiful and touching story with us and we hope you will enjoy it and take as much away from it as we did.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Amy and Scott started exploring non-monogamy fairly recently after Amy *technically* cheated on Scott... Luckily, it seems like the only problem Scott had was that he wasn't there for it! These two are so much fun and a great example of how introverts can successfully navigate swinging with a touch of polyamory!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Amanda and MC are a queer couple who were friends first and have now been exploring non-monogamy together for about two years. Amanda is a queer woman in her early 30's who has explored non-monogamy in past. MC is in their late 20's, queer, trans, non-binary and is exploring non-monogamy for the first time in their life. Together they tell a beautiful and diverse story!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Robert shares an emotional story with us that spans the 18 year relationship with his partner as they navigated non-monogamy together. Ultimately, the relationship did not work out and he talks with us about why that is and how he is moving forward after a very difficult situation. This is a pretty intense and powerful episode and we're touched that he was willing to share it with us. We hope you appreciate it as much as we did.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   6 Free Month Trial on Kasidie   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kathy is an author, nurse, counselor, and hypnotherapist... She has been exploring non-monogamy for over 50 years and talks with us about what it has been like on her journey and how she has seen things change over the years. This is a great conversation that covers a lot of ground. She also recently published a new book called "The Polyamory Breakup Book", so be sure to check it out as well!   Show Notes   Kathy's Website   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Chloe and Drew share an incredibly powerful and moving story with us this week. Their 10+ year relationship has withstood challenges that are hard to comprehend. Throughout the journey they have had to redefine who they each are, what their relationship team looks like, and how they take on all future challenges. Oh yeah, and they're not even 30 yet... We hope this interview is as moving for you as it was for us.   Also, the audio smooths out after a few minutes. It's never terrible, but it gets better after about 5 minutes. :)   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This week we get a fantastic look at how different partners can fulfill different needs in your life. Mark and Eliza have been together for a few years and have been exploring polyamory since the beginning. One of the best quotes from the episode is "We love each other and our relationship but it's not the most important thing in either of our lives."   We also recorded an addendum for this episode after Mark was recently diagnosed with HPV. They talk about how the diagnosis impacted both of them and shared a ton of amazing information. This is a super valuable listen for anyone facing an STI diagnosis, regardless of which STI it is.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Boom! Surprise bonus episode! Lara and Patrick are both in the third act of their lives and are living it up! They are loving exploring the world of swinging together and the amazing friends they have been making. Going to Desire last year with Life on the Swingset has supercharged their journey and they are super excited to do it again in approximately 30 days from now!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   The Swingset Takes Desire   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kenneth has one of the more fascinating backgrounds that we have ever heard and it is captivating. He spent over 30 years as part of the Amish community and has since found his way out. He now identifies as an Amish Atheist Polyamorist. A first for us, for sure! It's an incredible story and we hope you enjoy it as much as we do!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

You are going to laugh your butt off at the same time your heart is going out to these two amazing people. In their own words, Em and Steve proclaim that they are THE example of how not to get into swinging... We agree that their first steps out of the gate weren't the smoothest but we think they are a perfect example of how to correct the course and grow together. Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Try 3 Months Free on Double Date Nation!!   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Steve and C.C. are our first interview with a couple who is exploring the world of hotwifing! They got into it a little over a year ago and when you listen to Steve talk about how amazing their experiences have been, you'll be as happy for them as we are! These two have a great approach to hotwifing and non-monogamy in general. There are applicable life lessons in here regardless of your style!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Come meet us in person and help build an amazing community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Gina and Matt stumbled into the swinging lifestyle a little over a year ago... by accident. It was a super intense beginning and it has changed their relationship for the better since then. They both have a fantastic sense of humor and they tell a hilarious and heartwarming story. Plus, we cover some important cooking tips. You can't miss it.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Basically, here's what happened... Karen left her husband after 27+ years and went to a swinger's club the same week... She met Jim on the first night and now they are inseparable. There's a lot more to this amazing story and these two are so full of love and laughter that you will be glad you got in here for a listen. Hear how they navigate their relationship blurring the lines between polyamory and swinging at times but always keeping the communication in tip top shape!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Norm has an incredible story and is a fantastic storyteller... And he has some stories! He and his wife of 30 years started exploring polyamory a few years ago and have learned a lot along the way. So much so that they have created multiple discussion groups in the greater Washington DC area. He is a wealth of knowledge without being judgmental. This episode is full of good stuff.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Stephanie and Jason are brand spankin' new to swinging and are super excited about starting to explore lots of things. Not to mention, Jason just came out to his wife as bi-sexual! They share some incredibly vulnerable things about themselves in this amazing conversation that is going to go down in history as one of the best resources for new couples looking to explore swinging. They also took it upon themselves to write up a little bio as well!   Jason is an aspiring artist and graphic designer who is also working on normalizing male sexuality and the ability to be emotional and still be a man. You can find his art on Instagram at @ragnarok_industries_art And his male body positivity and his normalization work at @mrjz3k.   Stephanie is a body diversity blogger and sex positive lifestyle advocate who focuses on empowering people to own and take comfort in the skin they live in regardless of the stigmas attached to it. You can find her via twitter or Instagram under the handle @bopodiaries   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Save $25 on gifts at The Enclosed with offer code "Emma25"   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Michelle and Orlando join us for one of the best conversations we've had for anyone who is looking to get into swinging. They've been tinkering with the idea for years but went for it all out last fall by booking a trip to Desire with a group takeover. They talk through what it's like to explore a lifestyle resort as a relatively new couple plus we have one of the best STI conversations we have ever had on the show with a couple who got some less than ideal news a few days before their flight left for the trip!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Author O.M. Wills comes by today to share with us the difficulties he and his wife have had trying to break into the swinging community over the last few years. His wife is super pregnant so she didn't join us for the interview, but it is a story full of learning opportunities and things to be aware of as you navigate the world of non-monogamy and in particular, swinging. He is also the author of an erotic novel called ERTA The Complete Series.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Kelly joins us to tell the story of her and her husband Frank who is on tour and couldn't join us. They have been weaving in and out of non-monogamy since they started their dating lives around age 12. They're both in their late 20's now and Kelly shares all of the ups and downs they have struggled with while trying to find their own way in polyamory. They are incredibly kind and ethical people and it's a beautiful story that you're sure to find some lessons in. Enjoy!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Koe is an amazing bada$$ sex educator, speaker, artist, activist, and.... Author of the new book "This Heart Holds Many"! They talk with us about what it was like growing up in a polyamorous family, how to come out to family and friends, and navigating consent while keeping your flirt on. We also learn some new terms like "cometing" and "metaparenting"! Come check out the interview and then go find their book and give it a read! All the information you need is in the show notes below!   Show Notes   Koe's Website   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Suzie and Jay have been married for over a decade and started exploring non-monogamy less than a year ago. Since then they have mostly been exploring the swinging side of things but we're tasting notes of poly on the pallet as well. They share some amazing strategies and information as well as some hilarious stories. Have a listen and let us know what you think!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Whitney Miller is the former Miss USA 2012 but she's all about destroying stereotypes. One of her goals has always been to redefine what it means to be a pageant girl. This has taken the form of being a professional wake surfer, exploring Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and MMA, as well as backpacking around the world on her own after a breakup. Beyond that, she has been in a publicly open relationship with her fiance, Aubrey Marcus, for over seven years. She has a fantastic and empowering outlook on life and relationships and she shares it all with us!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Whitney's Instagram  

Christy and David took their relationship from monogamous to swinging to total non-hierarchical polyamory in a relatively short amount of time. They share with us the difficulties that come with putting their marriage on an equal level as other relationships. At the same time, the joy they experience together is amazing and they wouldn't have it any other way. Have your mind blown, give it a listen.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This one is really just a Friday fun day episode. We were able to get all four of the guests you heard this week together in one place for a wild ride of an interview. Really, it's just basically us asking them questions while they make out with one another. It's a super fun chat and we hope you enjoy!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Cait and Ken, the other half of the quad that we talked with on Monday joins us today to share their side of the story. Yet another case of swingers turned poly. Maybe the two aren't so different after all! These two are a ball of fun and we are super excited to let them share their story and get their perspective.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Shawn and Jess come back on 35 episodes later to share what's changed in their lives... Spoiler alert! It's kind of a big transition they have made. We talk about what happens when swinging turns into polyamory, even if you don't think it ever could! They also share a lot of insight on the benefits of forming friendships around the lifestyle. Give it a listen and also go back and check out episode 34. You'll be happy you did and so will we.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Our biggest plot twist yet and another unconventional start to non-monogamy! We absolutely can't recommend this episode enough. Sara and Pete are the authors of a blog called the Swinging Cajuns where they document their journey together. Their marriage has survived, and is now thriving in the face of an infidelity that would normally destroy a couple. They have a ton of insight for anyone who might be working through a similar situation and for the swinging community in general. Thank you to both of them for sharing such an important and difficult part of their lives with us, and with you.   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.swingingcajuns.com/ or on Twitter @MCajuns (Sara) and @SwingingCajuns (Pete)  

Ever considered that swinging can keep you young?! You may after this interview! Donna and Alex have been married for 32+ years and have been non-monogamous in different ways for over 20 of them. They share how they got into it and how it has kept them feeling younger than all their friends even after crossing into their 60's. It's an amazing listen for people of all ages and we're so happy to see the love between these two having so much energy!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Poly Finda Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Claire is a professional humanitarian aid working specializing in emergency response to natural disasters, mainly in Sub-Saharan and Eastern Africa. She is also an academic author and speaker focused on the intersections between ethics and aid. She manages to do all of this while balancing multiple polyamorous relationship spread across multiple continents and languages. Her story is truly unique and inspiring and we hope you'll have a listen. More information on how to contact Claire can be found at the show notes link below.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The legendary creators of the podcast "That Couple Next Door" and generic home improvement store bucket connoisseurs, Jay and Kay, share a brief summary of their 3-5 year (or whatever) journey into swinging and hotwife adventures. They also give a little update on the current state of their show and where they plan to go from here. These two are amazing podcasters and people and they are a riot to talk with. If you don't laugh 14% of the time you're listening, we will issue you a full refund. Enjoy!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

After 19 years of monogamy, Molly and Greg started to slowly open up their marriage. Molly said she had never been great at the monogamy thing and asked Greg if she could explore having an online relationship with a guy she met on Fetlife... It turned into much more and led them to re-evaluate their entire approach to their marriage. Have a listen to hear how they navigate polyamory, kink, and having kids!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The hosts of the radio show and authors of the blog "Sex Uninterrupted" join us this week. They have been exploring non-monogamy together since the beginning of their relationship a few years back and share some great insight on navigating the swinging lifestyle. We also have a fantastic conversation about disclosing STI status and handling jealousy, and we get a graphic narration of one of the most disturbing sex bloopers we've ever heard.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Polyfinda Dating App   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.sexuninterrupted.com/

Jamie and Brock have one of the wildest origin stories we've ever heard. They will be the first to tell you that it wasn't a great strategy, but it showed how resilient and strong their relationship was. Even better, it's stronger today. Don't believe us? Come listen for yourself.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   PolyFinda Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

It's been a year since we started the podcast and we had the honor to sit down with our close friends and very first guests ever on the show to get an update on their journey. Spoiler alert... A LOT has changed. No more spoilers, get in here and listen.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   PolyFinda Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Taylor and Ryan - Episode 2  

The esteemed hosts of the podcast Getting Into the Swing of Things with Steak and Tequila stop by for a super fun chat! They share some tips and tricks on meeting people as well as how they balance their work and life with meeting other sexy people and living it up. They also share what is possibly the bloodiest orgy story we have ever heard.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   PolyFinda Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Getting Into the Swing of Things With Steak and Tequila  

Religion had these two tightly locked in... Then they moved to France and slowly started opening up their view on sex. Fast-forward a few years and they are exploring swinging and non-monogamy! They had a few very intense experiences that caused them to step back a bit and re-evaluate before recently making the decision to go at it again with a much more strategic game plan.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   PolyFinda App   #Open Dating App   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

As Nami puts it, most of the things Bruce does in life are to help other people. Together, the two of them have created a new app called PolyFinda which is a dating and community resource for people living ethically non-monogamous lifestyles. They talk a bit about the app, but more importantly they share their amazing journey with us. These two are some of the kindest people we have met and we are so happy to be able to support their journey. Please check out their app and meet some amazing people, like us!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   PolyFinda   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Catherine and Ray stumbled into swinging on accident after a spur of the moment day trip to Temptation Resort in Cancun on their tenth anniversary. After a few years of discussing and research they decided to move ahead and dive in further. Beyond exploring non-monogamy together, Catherine is a therapist and relationship coach who specializes in working with people in open relationships. They drop some amazing knowledge and insightful stories on us this week. Check it out and definitely check her out if you are struggling or need someone to talk to about your own journey.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   www.expansiveconnection.com   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Tonia and Dylan of Life on the Swingset fame stop by to share their origin story! We talk everything from jealousy and scheduling to sexy board game nights. These two have been navigating non-monogamy in both swinging and polyamory for almost a decade. There is a lot of wisdom in here.   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   Scott's Cheap Flights   Atlanta Poly Weekend   Personal Capital   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.lifeontheswingset.com/  

Rapunzel has explored swinging and polyamory both while married and as a single woman. She has a great outlook on how all of her different relationship styles with many different people impact her life in such a positive way. She also shares some amazing advice on exploring the world of non-monogamy as a parent and more specifically, as a single mother. This interview will brighten your day and might even convince you it's time to start trying to figure out how to make your way to Desire in Cancun!   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   Scott's Cheap Flights   Personal Capital   Atlanta Poly Weekend   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

These two have the pedal to the metal! They have been best friends for many many years and finally took it to the next level. Now, they are exploring non-monogamy together and in the course of a few short months have gone from zero-to-orgy! They have a great attitude and approach as well as some fantastic advice on consent and implied consent. This one gets a little sexy so get in here and have a listen!   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   #Open Dating App   Scott's Cheap Flights   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The creators of the new dating app #Open stop by to share their story and to talk about the revolution they are trying to create in the world of dating and inclusivity. This is an amazing resource for anyone trying to meet people in the non-monogamy space and maybe their mission statement says it best: "Our mission at #open goes beyond just dating or hooking up—we're working to create a community where people can create genuine connections. And we're hoping to make the world a little better, while we're at it."   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Scott's Cheap Flights   Atlanta Poly Weekend   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.hashtagopen.com  

If you know Life on the Swingset, you know Ginger... If you know Ginger, you know The Prof. If you don't. You need to come in here and listen to two of the most amazing and well spoken humans on the topic of non-monogamy. These two are absolute legends and there is not much more to say about it. We cover just about everything under the non-monogamy umbrella from swinging to polyamory and even a bit of kink. Do yourself a solid and listen to this one.   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Scott's Cheap Flights   Personal Capital   Atlanta Poly Weekend   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.lifeontheswingset.com/  

If you look up compersion in the dictionary, there is likely a photo of these two amazing people! They found one another after both going through divorces a few years back and have set out on a journey to live life to the fullest in every way possible. They are just starting to explore non-monogamy but have already made it to the elusive "full swap." Since then, they have started to reconsider what they want out of it and are finding their way. Oh, by the way... They do all of this with like fourteen children. Well, maybe a few less than that. Either way, this one will make your day, come have a listen!   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Personal Capital   Atlanta Poly Weekend   Scott's Cheap Flights   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Rachel and Taytum are two college students in their early twenties who are exploring their sexualities and different relationship styles together. Fairly early in their relationship Taytum confessed she is interested in exploring what it's like to be with other people. However, she has no interest in breaking up with Rachel. After lots of hard discussions Rachel found our podcast and learned all of the different ways people make these types of relationships work. They are still figuring it out but they were anxious to come on the show and share their progress with us. This is an amazing and heartwarming conversation between two people are still in the middle of finding their way.   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Personal Capital   Scott's Cheap Flights   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   Atlanta Poly Weekend - June 7-9   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Tori and Soul are the Torrid Souls... A badass bisexual female-female couple who have been exploring the world of swinging for a few years. They share some amazing stories and insight with us, and you! Give it a listen and then go check them out on their own podcast!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Scott's Cheap Flights   Personal Capital   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://www.torridsouls.com/  

Christopher Smith has an amazing story he shares with us today. He was in the military, he was a pastor, he has multiple degrees in religious studies, he has a kid, and he is a speaker in the polyamory and non-monogamy space. He has a deep understanding, compassion, and empathy for his partners and people in general. We personally took a ton away from this interview. Check it out, you will too!   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   Join Our Patreon Community!   Personal Capital - Free Money Management   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This is one of the wilder interviews we have done! Kat and Tom are full of energy and life and they have a fantastic outlook on life and non-monogamy. They share a lot of amazing bits and pieces with us along with some insight into what they are looking for when they meet people in the swinging world. If you're looking for a laughing and learning experience, here is your chance!   Show Notes   Win a $50 STDCheck.com Gift Card   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating - Free 6 month trial   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This week's interview is really heartwarming. Vel and Jason are a couple who have been together for a few years and have essentially been open since the start. The love and compassion they have shown for one another through breakups, coming out to family, and even the death of a partner are very inspirational. Have a listen and let us know what you think. Our guess is, you'll love it.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating - Free 6 month trial   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Author, blogger, and speaker of all things polyamory, Kevin Patterson sits down for a wide-ranging interview with us this week. We talk gender roles, male stereotypes, navigating polyamory as a person of color and much more. Kevin also discusses a little bit about the two books he published in 2018: Love's Not Colorblind and For Hire: Operator. We had a great time talking with Kevin and know this won't be the last time our paths cross. Get in here and check it out!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Poly Role Models  

This week we have the honor of interviewing the hosts of the new-ish podcast, Front Porch Swingers! Brenna and Brian share some sexy stories with us along with their origin story and some of the other things that make them a unique pair in the swinging and non-monogamy worlds.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating - 6 month free trial   10% discount at myonecondoms.com with offer code "Emma"   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://frontporchswingers.com/  

Aleah is a young woman in her early 30's who has been pushing the confines of traditional relationship models for a few years. She has been exploring polyamory along with swinging with some of her poly partners. She has an amazing outlook on life and shares some excellent advice for how to view relationships and take care of the most important person in your life... You.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This interview blew our minds! These two have so much love for one another and their journey has taken some amazing twists over their 30+ year marriage. They got their start from a little nudge of infidelity and have turned it into one of the best things their marriage has ever seen. This episode is incredible and you need to get in here and listen.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We had the honor of sitting down at Desire in November 2018 with the one and only Tristan Taormino for a an interview in which she tells us things she has never spoken about publicly before. Her words, not ours. The author, porn director, podcaster, and all around bad ass human shares some amazing stories and wisdom with us. If you are thinking about skipping class today, think again.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://puckerup.com/  

An incredible interview with an amazing young woman from Argentina who is now living in Barcelona, Spain. She shares a moving story of growing up and exploring her sexuality and different relationship styles with multiple partners while dealing with some extremely traumatic experiences in her life. Most recently, these experiences lead to her falling in love and marrying her best friend who has been going through her own exploration of gender identity. This is is an incredible and moving interview that we are so honored to have been able to be a part of. Thank you to Mila for sharing and taking us along on her journey.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Okay, so these two bloggers are amazing! They travel the world, they dabble in swinging, they had sex for 400 consecutive days, and... They have done all of this while battling against a very strong upbringing in the Mormon church. This episode is a blast and we had a ton of fun talking with Clayton and Danielle and are happy to now call them friends. Have a listen and see for yourself!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.instagram.com/fight_boring_marriages  

Crystal has an incredible story that she shares along with some fantastic discussions around navigating the world of polyamory specifically as it pertains to being a person of color. She is the website editor for blackandpoly.org and has been non-monogamous most of her adult life. She also is on the autism spectrum and shares with us some strategies she uses to help her negotiate multiple relationships. This one is a must listen!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://blackandpoly.org/  

We have decided to call this episode "The Parenting Episode" because it is honestly one of the most amazing interviews we have heard about handling being a parent while swinging. It also has one of the craziest blooper moments ever happen in the middle, so give it a listen and you will NOT be disappointed.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The host and creator of The A-Slut Podcast joins us all the way from New Zealand for an amazing discussion about consent, BDSM, and polyamory. Give it a listen, but only if you like awesome things that are good for your ears.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://shows.pippa.io/thea-slutpodcast  

Our first (and hopefully not last) interview with a BBC bull who has been exploring the swinging lifestyle for many years as both a single person and while in a couple. It's a fascinating interview with tons of advice for any single guys out there looking to try and navigate the lifestyle. Come on, you know you want to try it. Just listen!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This week we have an interview... Duh! It's an amazing interview with a couple who has been exploring swinging for a little over a year and have some fantastic stories as well as one of the funniest coming out to parents stories we've ever heard. Come on, have a listen and a laugh.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Two of our Twitter Followers reached out and wanted to share their story with everyone. Of course, we wanted them to as well so that's what we did. They have been swinging together since high school and have an amazing attitude toward the whole lifestyle that you are going to want to hear.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Kat and Flick from the podcast On The Wet Coast join us this week for a diverse interview covering polyamory, swinging, and mental health within the non-monogamy space. Tune in to hear how they have both navigated the world of swinging and poly on and off for for most of their marriage.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://podcasts.onthewetcoast.com/  

We wrangled some of our sexy friends who are full of knowledge and experience to come on and share some hilarious and helpful stories from throughout their time exploring swinging. They don't really like to be called swingers but hey, I'm the one typing and they can't stop me! So, come listen to one of the funniest first nights at a swinging party we've ever heard and you can thank us later!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

This week a young couple starts exploring non-monogamy a little more seriously after she calls him up on the phone and has some pretty blunt things to share about her sexual desires. Give it a listen to see how he handles it and what they're doing about it now in this thriller of an interview!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We mix it up for a bonus episode this week! C and D from the podcast Swinging Downunder take over our show and interview us regarding some exciting things we are working on this year!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://www.swingingdownunder.com/  

Things get a little out of control this week when the hostesses of the Sapphic Swingers podcast drop by for an outrageous yet extremely valuable interview on what it's like being a lesbian couple in the world of swinging. Do not miss this one or you will forever regret it!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Sapphic Swingers  

This week we uncover one of the most unconventional and fascinating relationship dynamics we've had on the show. Christopher has been exploring polyamory with his wife for a few years and is even planning to turn it into a career in psychology. If you don't believe polyamorous relationships can work, you probably need to get in here and listen.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Our guest this week describes himself as "polyamorous with a dash of swing." Find out why and what that means to him. We also get some great tips on navigating the lifestyle as a person of color and for people looking to bring a person of color into their dynamic. This is a fantastic interview and we are excited to now call Vaughn a friend of ours and of the show!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

In this week's interview we talk with the hosts of the podcast 'Swinging Out West' about how they got into swinging, how they have dealt with jealousy, and how swinging has impacted their ability to parent children. Give it a listen to learn how swinging can also make you better parents as well!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Swinging Out West  

This week we have an incredible interview with a young woman who is exploring solo polyamory and has been for a few years now. She shares a lot of amazing stories and insight with us in an episode that you'd be a fool to miss.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

Another in person interview! We are ecstatic to sit down with some close friends of ours and discuss their journey into non-monogamy. They have kept open minds since the beginning of their relationship and can't stop going on adult vacations, even though they don't often play with others. We discuss jealousy, ghosting people, safety around STIs, and future fantasies! Also, we may have all been a tad tipsy for this fun interview! Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

We continue with our sex worker theme this week with an incredible interview with Bowie and Tristan of the podcast Two Married Sluts. They are both professional companions and involved in the swinging and polyamorous communities. Also, spoiler alert, they are not married to each other! We have a wonderful discussion about how they entered non-monogamy with their partners and their paths to becoming professional companions.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Two Married Sluts

Bonus episode! This week we sit down with Alice Little, the number one booking legal sex worker in the United States, who works at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch in Nevada. She is a sex worker's rights advocate, sexologist, and sex educator who has presented at over 50 kink events globally. We have a fascinating conversation about pending legislation on sex work in the US, working with singles and couples at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch, why she identifies as polyamorous, and how she navigates relationships while being a sex worker.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Alice Little's Website   Contact the Commissioners  

This week we sit down with the authors of the hit blog "The Monogamish Marriage" to discuss what being non-monogamous means to them, how they discovered it, and some of the amazing things they have experienced together. They are extremely open-minded and kind people and they share some fascinating stories and information with us.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://themonogamishmarriage.com/  

We're excited to have an awesome couple on today's show who has been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. For many years they were bouncing around different swinging scenes across the USA and more recently they have been identifying as poly. They also recently created a poly social group in the DC/Maryland area to bring together like-minded people.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Get ready to laugh... The lovely hosts of the Bed Hoppers podcast stop in for an entertaining discussion of their journey into swinging. We aren't really sure what they said because we can't understand them but we had a great time nonetheless! Mr. H even brought his damn ukulele to the party and played us a tune or two.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   Bed Hoppers Podcast  

Our first interview with someone practicing solo polyamory... Not sure what that is? We know a great way to find out. Have a listen to his journey to hear the ups and downs of navigating the world of polyamory after spending years wrapped up in religion.   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Our new podcast friends, Adam and Eve, from the Spiritual Swingers podcast come on the show and share some behind the scenes juice along with their journey. We hear how they stumbled into polyamory before getting out of it for over a decade and then switching gears to swinging. It's a fascinating story that you can't get anywhere else, at least not this week!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   https://www.spiritualswingers.net/  

This week we talk with an incredible young couple who balances kids, running ultra-marathons, and going to comic book conventions with swinging and polyamory. Swinging didn't work for her, but it did for him. Now the have found a nice blend between the two. Have a listen to hear how they do it!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The owners and creators of Club Euphoria in Toledo share their amazing journey with us! We talk about jealousy, bisexuality in swinging, and even how they broke up partly because of swinging and then got back together because of it! It's an amazing episode and you don't want to miss it!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   Pendulum Party Details   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

A behind the scenes look at a couple who met through swinging, then closed their relationship which led them to get into making their own porn. Now, they combine swinging and porn and create videos that have become extremely popular. Hear all about their journey on this week's show!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://peacockcouple.com/

An amazing bisexual couple shares with us their journey of discovering each other's sexuality, getting into swinging, and learning their rules and boundaries over the last 18 months. We talk about everything from coming out to body image so you do not want to miss this one! Plus, we answer our first ever listener question!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

A behind the scenes look with the hosts of the Priory Society Podcast! They share some great tips and tricks as well as some leaked content from upcoming episodes of their show. Have a listen to hear how you can not only be a better swinger but also tune your skills as an air traffic controller. Who knew the two were so similar?!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Not our first interview without pants but it is our first in-person interview! We sit down with some very close friends of ours to hear about their journey into, out of, and back into swinging again. All while juggling a new baby, careers, and life! Did we mention this is normal?   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Today we get an incredible behind the scenes look at the swinging journey of the founders of Kasidie! Nicoleta and Scott share with us how they got into swinging, why they decided to launch Kasidie, and share lots of advice for anyone looking to get into non-monogamy!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Today we have a fantastic interview with an amazing couple who identifies as both polyamorous AND swingers! We have tons of great conversation around the labels regarding each of these, as well as safety, being out to family, and much more!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The esteemed hosts of the podcast Swinging Downunder join us all the way from Singapore to explore the near utopia of swinging and share a behind the scenes look into how and why they got into it as well as some insight and tips for communicating within a non-monogamous relationship. Plus, we learn what's missing from the lifestyle... Non-sexual compliments!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://www.swingingdownunder.com/  

Two relative newbies were sent our way by the very first guests ever on the podcast, Taylor and Ryan from episode two. We talk about how they got into swinging, the lessons they've learned, and destroy all our hopes and dreams of running for political office!   Show Notes   Join Our Patreon Community!   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

The amazing hosts of the By the Bi Podcast beam in from Australia via Skype to share with us their experiences navigating the world of non-monogamy as both a bi female and a bi male. We also take you on a nostalgic trip along the Oregon Trail. Saddle up and come along! Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://www.bythebi.com.au/  

We sit down to talk with two of our good friends that we met at Desire in 2016. They share with us an amazing look into the marriage of an out and proud self-identified lesbian who marries a hot piece of man-ass. How they make it work and tons of other incredible sexy knowledge bombs in this week's show! Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Today we sit down with the amazing and 100% sober hosts of the fantastic podcast Monogamy Disrupted to hear how they have gone from zero to poly in six months while also narrowly avoid a divorce. Grab a drink and settle in, we had a blast with these two! Behind the scenes secret: About halfway through the show everyone took their pants off!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/   http://www.monogamydisrupted.com/  

Two good friends we met a few years back at Desire share their story of how they got into swinging. They take us on a journey of 10 years of rejection followed by "holy shit I need more of this" all in today's episode!   Show Notes   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

The very first episode of Normalizing Non-Monogamy! We updated this episode in November 2019. Don't worry, we still chat about our vision for the podcast, some notes about everything to come, and a bit of our 10+ year journey navigating the world of swinging and non-monogamy. However, it is also now in an interview format like the rest of our episodes! A.J. Bond, the host of Discomfortable, a podcast about shame, interviewed us about our experience with non-monogamy and we thought it was too good not to share on our channel too. This episode aired on his show in October 2019...   Show Notes   Check out A.J.'s Podcast Discomfortable   Discomfortable Episode 66: Getting Discomfortable with Non-Monogamy   $10 Off - Online STI Testing   Join Our Patreon Community!   Kasidie Online Dating   https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

Some highlights and exciting bits from the first few episodes we have recorded. We launch on May 2, don't forget to subscribe!

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A quick preview of what's to come... Launching May 2, 2018