Why did God design our bodies the way He did? Is our gender more than our bodies? What does it look like to live out our male and femaleness? Dr. Abigail Favale, author of “The Genesis of Gender”, joins Juli to talk about why our bodies matter and how to cultivate a deep and rich theology around sex and gender.     Guest: Dr. Abigail Favale     Abigail’s website: abigailfavale.wixsite.com/home  Book: The Genesis of Gender by Dr. Abigail Favale   Learn more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

When we struggle with sexual sin, what is God’s ultimate hope for us? Is it that we stop our sexual sin? Or does it go beyond that to addressing our sinful nature and hearts, bringing us to a place of submission and surrender? Jackie Hill Perry shares how God drew her to Himself and brought her out of a lesbian lifestyle.   Guest: Jackie Hill Perry     Book: Gay Girl, Good God by Jackie Hill Perry   REGISTER FOR RECLAIM: SURRENDERED SEXUALITY! Learn more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do we root our identities in Christ and help our children do the same? Jonathan Holmes, Executive Director at Fieldstone Counseling, shares with Juli how we can avoid identity traps and teach our kids to do the same. Guest: Jonathan Holmes Jonathan’s Instagram: @akjonathanholmes Book: Grounded in Grace: Helping Kids Build Their Identity in Christ by Jonathan Holmes   Get more info about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Many men and women experiencing same-sex attraction struggle to imagine they can be loved by God and live a life of real freedom. Is there a future where you can be free and fulfilled? Laurence Koo, guest speaker at our upcoming Reclaim Conference, joins Juli to share what freedom looks like when you experience same-sex attraction.   Guest: Laurence Koo   authenticintimacy.com/reclaim2024   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

The vast majority of men didn’t get a sufficient sex education. Besides a handful of condoms and advice to not get girls pregnant, wasn’t there more they needed to know about women, sex, and romance? Sam Jolman, LPC, author of “The Sex Talk You Never Got”, joins Juli to talk about what men didn’t learn about sex growing up.   Guest: Sam Jolman, LPC   Sam’s Website: samjolman.com Sam’s Instagram: @samjolman   Java with Juli: #275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires Blog: Purity Culture Failed Men Too   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Female sexuality is complex, with numerous factors weighing into how a woman may feel about sex at any given time. Obstacles run the gamut, from parenting young kids, to demanding jobs, and sexual pain. What about the lesser-explored reasons why a woman might not feel excited about sexual intimacy with her husband? Dr. Jennifer Degler joins Juli to share her thoughts and observations.     Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler     Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com Jennifer on Instagram: @drjenniferdegler     Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy Donate to Authentic Intimacy!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Are we supposed to battle our sin or surrender it to the one who has already defeated it? Juli and Hannah discuss the difference between struggle and surrender, the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives, and what happens when we resist God’s leading in our lives instead of embracing it.     Co-host: Hannah Nitz     Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Book: Absolute Surrender by Andrew Murray   Find out more about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality Claim your free sex and culture resource!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Studies have shown that churches are often among the first places people turn when they are experiencing domestic abuse, but unfortunately churches aren’t always well-informed when it comes to how to help victims. Chris Moles and Stacey Womack, who work independently in organizations PeaceWorks and Abuse Recovery Ministry Services, join Juli to talk about what churches need to know when it comes to helping abuse victims.     Guests: Chris Moles and Stacey Womack     Chris’s Website: chrismoles.org PeaceWorks Podcast Website:PeaceWorks Podcast PeaceWorks Live: Peaceworks Live 2024 Stacey’s Website: Abuse Recovery and Ministry Services National Domestic Violence hotline Sign up for Second Cup! Learn more about Authentic Intimacy membership.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Discussing sexuality with children can be intimidating. As a Christian parent you long to give your kids a faith-based sex education and you want to do so without shame, but often the very first step towards this is the most challenging. Thankfully, there are more and more experts providing support and guidance in this area. Dr. Julia Sadusky, author of “Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex” and “Talking with Your Teen about Sex”, joins Juli to provide wisdom on age-appropriate sex education and give some practical parenting tips for Christian families seeking to engage in healthy conversations with their kids about sex. Guest: Dr. Julia Sadusky Julia’s Website: juliasadusky.com Julia’s Instagram: @drsadusky   Book: Start Talking To Your Kids About Sex by Julia Sadusky Book: Talking with Your Teen about Sex by Julia Sadusky   Get your free resource: 10 Answers to Questions Your Child May Ask You About Sexuality   Sign up for an Online Book Study!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do you help your kids develop a healthy relationship with social media, avoid the traps and pitfalls, and learn how to connect with peers safely and authentically? Pastor James Talbert from Citizens Church Akron joins Juli to share what he’s learned through ministry about the good, the bad, and the ugly of social media.   Guest: James Talbert   Website: citizensakron.com Instagram: @citizensakron   Get your free resource on answers to questions your child may have about sexuality!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do you set the pace for a dating relationship? What kind of expectations should you have? How do you break up with someone without disrespecting them? Kait and JJ Tomlin from Heart of Dating join Juli to help singles navigate the ups and downs of modern dating.   Guests: Kait and JJ Tomlin   Heart of Dating website: heartofdating.com Heart of Dating Instagram: @heartofdating @kaitness @jjtomlin Book: Thank You for Rejecting Me by Kait Warman Tomlin Podcast: @HeartofDating   Get the free Heart of Dating Boundaries in Dating Guide Sign up for the School of Dating first dibs list for first dibs at registration and the lowest price!   Sign up for Second Cup here! Learn more about becoming a member!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Wondering how to improve your sex life? Beyond the general relationship advice and intimacy tips you might have found online, there’s an unpopular argument you might not have heard: that the key to improving your sexual connection lies with you. Christian Sex Therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about three underrated ways couples can boost their sexual and emotional intimacy.   Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma Michael’s website: intimatemarriage.org   Java with Juli: #516 Don’t Skip Foreplay! (and Other Advice from a Christian Sex Therapist) Explore more resources on Sex in Marriage   Find out more about Online Book Study groups here!   Ladies, check out our upcoming Online Coaching Intensives: Dr. Jennifer Degler: Sexuality for Wives Lyschel Burket: Hope and Healing for Wives for Sexual Intimacy After Betrayal Click here to learn more and sign up!   Register for Second Cup on August 20th!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

In this special re-release, Troy and Melissa Haas of HopeQuest join Juli to answer the question: Can a couple’s sexual relationship survive and thrive after infidelity? While they were serving as missionaries, Troy’s long-term addiction to pornography was revealed. As hard as this was on their marriage, Melissa soon realized she had her own issues around sexuality too. They join Juli to tell her what was wrong, and how God helped them heal and find restoration.   Guests: Troy and Melissa Haas   Instagram: @hopequestgroup Website: hopequestgroup.org   Sign up for Reclaim now and save $20! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Have we lost our vision for loving relationships outside the context of marriage and the nuclear family? What was the greatest love Jesus described in the Bible? Was it romantic love, or a different type of sacrificial love? Rebecca McLaughlin joins Juli to explain how we’ve minimized friendship and overemphasized sexual relationships.   Guest: Rebecca McLaughlin   Rebecca’s Website: rebeccamclaughlin.org Rebecca’s Instagram: @rebecc_mclaugh   Book: “No Greater Love” by Rebecca McLaughlin   Register for Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality FREE with code: JWJ24* *code only works for first four registrations   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Abuse and the trauma it creates run deep. How can survivors begin to move forward? In this episode we explore a deeply personal journey of recovery from decades of sexual, physical and emotional abuse, discussing how embracing the fatherhood of God can transform your life. Author Jennifer Michelle Greenberg shares how her heavenly father and a healthy marital relationship helped her heal from her  painful past.     Guests: Jennifer Michelle Greenberg and Jason Greenberg   Website: Jen’s website Instagram: @jenmgreenberg Book: “Not Forsaken” by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg Book: “Defiant Joy” by Jennifer Michelle Greenberg   Java with Juli: #512 Friends Who Hurt Us: How To Recognize Unlikely Sources Of Abuse Java with Juli: #92: When the Woman You Love Was Abused Blog: I Was Sexually Abused. Now, God Is Restoring My Identity     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Struggles with pornography are incredibly common within the Church, and the problem isn’t going to go away on its own. What can churches do to be an environment where it is safe for congregants and leaders to admit struggles and get the support they need to overcome them? How can those going into ministry receive sufficient discipleship and care so they can heal from past traumas, win the battle, and walk closely and authentically with Jesus? Sam Black, Director of Life Change Education at Covenant Eyes, and author of “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It”, joins Juli to discuss what the church at large can do to address the issue of pornography. Guest: Sam Black Website: thehealingchurch.com Website: covenanteyes.com App: The Victory App Instagram: @covenant.eyes Book: “The Healing Church: What Churches Get Wrong about Pornography and How to Fix It” by Sam Black Book: “Her Freedom Journey” by Dr. Joy Skarka and Dr. Juli Slattery Get your free 5-day guide to finding freedom from sexual sin! Check out Authentic Intimacy’s partner ministry, Sexual Discipleship®!     Be Broken Ministries Pure Desire Samson Society SheRecovery   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Introducing “Her Freedom Journey”, Juli and Joy’s brand new book! In this very special podcast episode, Joy and Juli talk about the lack of discussion around female sexuality in the Church, and particularly around issues like pornography and masturbation. Joy shares some of her personal story, and together she and Juli talk about the heart behind the new book.     Guest: Dr. Joy Skarka     Website: joyskarka.com Instagram: @joyskarka   Listen to the episode where Joy tells her full story.   Get your free copy of “Her Freedom Journey! Email [email protected] with your name, address, and why you love listening to  Java with Juli. First 10 senders will get a free copy.*   Pre-order “Her Freedom Journey” here!   Be Broken Ministries SheRecovery   *Open to those in the US only.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

The way we are brought up has a significant influence on the way we form attachments with others. There are few relationships in which this is as pronounced or as obvious as marriage. Kay and Milan Yerkovich, authors of the breakthrough book, “How We Love”, want to empower couples to become more aware of the ways in which their early years formed them, and to acquire the skills to develop secure attachments for healthy, long-lasting relationships.     Guests: Kay and Milan Yerkovich   Book: How We Love by Kay and Milan Yerkovich Website: howwelove.com Instagram: @howwelovebook   Get your free resource on marriage conflict resolution! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

In Jesus there is hope for healing and transformation, but that doesn’t mean that in this life we won’t experience hardship and brokenness. Brenna Blain, renowned speaker and new author, knows this better than most. Experiencing same-sex attraction and fighting her own mental health battle from around the age of 14, Brenna joins Juli to explain how coming to the very end of herself led her to a place desperate enough to long for God Himself, and not just His healing.   Guest: Brenna Blain   Brenna’s Website: brenna-blain.vercel.app/ Brenna’s Instagram: @bunonmyhead   Help is available. If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline.   Explore more resources on healing. Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community and available resources. Partner with Authentic Intimacy.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

My spouse keeps acting out, why won’t he stop? Is my wife still keeping secrets? How do I know if my spouse is truly repentant after betrayal?   Infidelity changes everything, and relationship recovery is extremely challenging to navigate. What signs of change are you supposed to look for? How do you build trust after cheating Jeremy Smith, LPC and founder of the Marriage Recovery Course joins Juli to discuss the unique approach he’s developed to help couples heal their marriages and achieve deep, lasting change as individuals and together.     Guest: Jeremy Smith, LPC     Website: Smith Counseling Website: Marriage Recovery Course   Java with Juli: #480 How to Heal and Rebuild Trust and Sexual Intimacy After An Affair Explore more resources on healing   Find out more about becoming a member     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Have we the Church lost our way when it comes to living in unity? What would Jesus say about Christian cancel culture and the many threads on social media where people criticize one another in the name of Christianity? God’s Word says, “Behold, how good and pleasant it is when brothers dwell in unity!”, and yet, in the modern American Church, unity can often be hard to find. Join Juli and co-host Hannah Nitz as they discuss: The need for a biblical perspective of the Church as Christ’s bride How to extend God’s mercy, grace, and forgiveness to others and ourselves How to cultivate a true Christian response to disagreements within the Church Why maturity in the faith requires engagement with those with whom we disagree How we can use the churches of the New Testament as a model to work through disagreements and pursue unity   Co-host: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Book: “Until Unity” by Francis Chan Check out more resources on Sex and Culture and get your free download!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

When a marriage ends through divorce, it makes sense that the people involved would experience deep grief. So how do we care for those walking through it? What is a Christian approach to divorce-care and helping divorced individuals in the church? Laura Petherbridge, who suddenly found herself divorced at 29, joins Juli to share her experience as a divorcee, discuss the work she is doing, and explain how the Church can be a place of healing and empathy for those mourning the loss of their marriages.      Guest: Laura Petherbridge     Laura’s Website: thesmartstepmom.com Laura’s Instagram: @​​laurapetherbridge     Java with Juli: #376: What Does God’s Word Actually Say About Divorce and Remarriage? Java with Juli: #409: Divorce & Remarriage (Abuse, Infidelity, Porn & All the Hard Things)     DivorceCare Celebrate Recovery Single Again   Sign up for an Online Book Study!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Widowhood presents profound challenges, with loneliness permeating every aspect of life, including the realm of sexuality. The loss goes beyond losing a life partner; it extends to losing a sexual companion as well. In this week’s Java with Juli, Dr. Carol Tanksley, who became widowed after just seven years of marriage in 2016, delves into the complexities faced by widows, and sheds light on the emotional and psychological hurdles they face. She also shares her personal experience of surrendering her sexuality to God in widowhood. Guest: Dr. Carol Tanklsey   Carol’s website: drcarolministries.com Carol’s Instagram: @drcarolt   Book: Sexpectations by Dr. Carol Tanksley Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder   Java with Juli: #407 Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us! Blog: Masturbation: Is It Wrong? Blog: “Is Masturbation a Sin?” You May Be Asking the Wrong Question Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Why are we all so lonely? Why is it that at a time when we are more connected than ever, many of us find ourselves feeling lonely and isolated? Jeff Kemp and Juli explore what’s making us feel lonely, how to bring more vulnerability and honesty into our relationships, and why understanding our identities is pivotal when it comes to cultivating deep, long-lasting friendships.   Guest: Jeff Kemp   Jeff’s Website: jeffkempteam.com   Book: Receive: The Way of Jesus for Men by Jeff Kemp Book: Level 5 Friendship Playbook (download through the pop up on his website)   Register for Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality with code: JWJ24* *code only works for first four registrations   Find out more about Reclaim: Surrendered Sexuality Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Married sexuality has its challenges, internal and external, and it can be tempting to quit having sex or step outside the marriage, but there are ways to address some of the issues and overcome them as a couple.   Christian sex therapist Dr. Michael Sytsma joins Juli to talk about: How to manage mismatched libidos Why foreplay matters What to do if you experience symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction Why sex is important in marriage How to re-enter holy sexuality and eroticism after abstaining without it becoming sin Guest: Dr. Michael Sytsma Website: Building Intimate Marriages Instagram: @buildingintimatemarriages   Explore more resources on Sex in Marriage   Sign up for Second Cup!   Learn more about becoming a member.     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What do your attractions say about you? Do they say anything about you? Is attraction always about sex, or are there more layers to it than we tend to think? Hannah Nitz joins Juli for a conversation all about attraction and desire. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz   Blog: 3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction   Partner with AI! Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

For most marriages, the most challenging years are the earliest ones. Marital problems can come in any number of forms, but sometimes the most difficult to navigate are those you don’t see coming. Few know this better than Chris and Stephanie Teague, the duo behind Out of the Dust, who experienced divorce suddenly after only three and a half years of marriage. The couple join Juli to discuss exactly what happened before their marriage fell apart, and what God did in both of them to put it back together. Guests: Out of the Dust (Chris and Stephanie Teague)     Website: outofthedustmusic.com Instagram: @outofthedustmusic Check out the new album from Out of the Dust, releasing April 26th!     Q&A: Where do I begin healing? Explore more resources on healing     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Gender dysphoria is becoming more and more common, and parents with kids who are struggling are at a loss at what to do. Should they affirm their kids? Should they approve hormone blockers?  In this week’s episode of Java with Juli, Juli is joined by Dr. Miriam Grossman, a child psychiatrist and author who has testified before congress about some of the hidden dangers behind transgender activism. Guest: Dr. Miriam Grossman, MD Book: "Lost in Trans Nation: A Child Psychiatrist's Guide Out of the Madness" by Miriam Grossman M.D. Book: “You’re Teaching my Child What?!” by Miriam Grossman M.D. Java with Juli: #507 What You Need To Know About The Gender Conversation Java with Juli: #508 What Does Healthy Masculinity Actually Look Like?   Check out more resources about sex and culture!   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

While many of us are familiar with the concept of abuse, we are typically familiar with the conventional stereotypes around abuse. We typically picture a younger, weaker party who is taken advantage of by a dominant person. It’s rare we picture a friend, mentor or someone we trust harming us.   Unfortunately this is what happened to Tricia Lott Williford. In the same 72-hour span in which she experienced the sudden and unexpected death of her husband, she experienced sexual assault from someone she considered a friend and a mentor.   Tricia and her therapist, Jana Richardson, join Juli to talk about how to recognize, fight, and recover from abuse in all its forms.     Guests: Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson     Website: tricialottwilliford.com Instagram: @tricialottwilliford   Book: You Are Safe Now by Tricia Lott Williford and Jana Richardson, MA, LPC, EMDR Book: And Life Comes Back by Tricia Lott Williford   Java with Juli: #497 Trying to Heal? Here’s Why Knowing Your Story is Essential Blog: How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog: As Christians, How Do We Respond to Abuse Allegations in the Church?   If you're a member, we’ll be discussing this episode in more depth and taking your questions, live, during Second Cup tomorrow, April 9. Members, sign up for Second Cup here! If you're not a member you can learn more here.   Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Is laughter important? Why did God give us the ability to laugh? Laughter might not be top of mind when it comes to how we live as Christians or how we live in relationship with others, but laughter is a gift God has given to us, and there are many reasons why. This week, comedian, author and Pastor Ted Cunningham is Juli’s guest, and he explains the health and relational benefits of laughing much and laughing often.   Guest: Ted Cunningham   Website: Woodland Hills Church   Book: A Love That Laughs by Ted Cunningham Blog: Your Marriage Should Be Fun   Partner with Authentic Intimacy   Join the Love Like You Mean it Cruise in 2025!     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Accidental influencer and author of “Forever Home”, Anh Lin, shares her story of journeying through trauma and brokenness to a place of healing.   You’ll hear Anh talk about: Her unlikely encounter with Jesus How she medicated her pain and grief with partying and alcohol Experiencing rock bottom, even after finding Jesus     Guest: Anh Lin     Anh’s website: girlandtheword.com Anh’s Instagram: @girlandtheword Book: “Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life” by Anh Lin   Blog: How Do I Know If I’m in an Abusive Relationship? Blog: Don’t Waste the Pain   Sign up for Second Cup on April 9th! Learn more about the Authentic Intimacy member community   This is the last episode you’ll be able to listen to on your Google Podcasts App. If you usually listen to Google Podcasts, don’t worry, our episodes are still available on YouTube and Spotify, or if you’re an iPhone user, you can find us on Apple Podcasts as well. Make sure to subscribe to us on Apple Podcasts, on YouTube, or on Spotify.   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness

David and Terri Sumlin are the founders of Marriage Life Ministries, a ministry that helps couples improve their marriages through a focus on communication, conflict and intimacy. Years ago, when their own marriage was on the brink of divorce and rocked by a 3-month affair, this ministry was exactly what they needed. Join Juli, David and Terri, as the couple talk about how God’s intervention saved and restored their marriage.     Guests: David and Terri Sumlin     David and Terri’s Website: marriagelifeministries.com/ David and Terri’s Instagram: @marriagelifeministries   Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder   Find out more about becoming an Authentic Intimacy member!   Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.       Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

What can we learn from close examination of the lives of the men we read about in scripture? These were real people,who the Bible reveals had their own very human struggles, battling insecurity, pride, deception, and lust. This week’s podcast guest, Chase Replogle, is a pastor at Bent Oak Church in Missouri, and is the author of “The Five Masculine Instincts". The  book covers the lessons we can learn from male Biblical figures like Samson, Moses, and Cain. This is a great episode that discusses some common motivators for men (and women), and offers guidance on how to address inner motivations that push us further from God’s heart and calling on our lives.     Guest: Chase Replogle     Website: chasereplogle.com/ Instagram: @thepastorwriter   Find out more about becoming  an Authentic Intimacy member!   Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube.     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.  

Is there a theological approach or framework to understanding gender? Is there scriptural support for the messages we receive about gender from movies, books, and institutions? And what does it mean for us to live as ‘lights on a hill’ within a culture that continually evolves in its discussions about gender and sexual issues? Join John and Sarah Stonestreet from the Colson Center as they join Juli in exploring some of the underlying beliefs surrounding sexuality in our culture, and talk about how we can embrace and pursue the good and beautiful narrative found in scripture.   Guests: John and Sarah Stonestreet   Website: The Colson Center Website: identityproject.tv/   Instagram: @thecolsoncenter   Google Podcasts is closing at the end of March. Make sure you’re subscribed to Java with Juli on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube. Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

Ed and Lisa Young, founding pastors of Fellowship Church, join Juli for an honest and faith-filled conversation about their journey through grief. The couple’s oldest daughter, Lee-Beth, passed away a little over two years ago after an ongoing battle with poor mental health and alcohol abuse, and in this powerful interview, they share about the unexpected comfort and hope they discovered as they wrestled with their pain, loss and sorrow and held their faith in tandem.     Guests: Ed and Lisa Young     Website: Fellowship Church Book: A Path Through Pain by Ed and Lisa Young   Blog: How To Heal And Grow: Four Surprising Pathways To Christ-Likeness Blog: God’s Healing Stinks     Sign up for Second Cup Become a Member

For too long, many Christians have heard and believed the misconception that living in God’s freedom and redemption means they’ll never struggle with sin or temptation. This is one of the things the Bible is pretty clear on. The heroes of the faith like Paul, David, Moses, and Abraham loved and new God and still lived imperfectly. Maybe it’s time for us to recognize that being saved doesn’t mean we’ll never sin again, but that it means we’re on a journey of loving Jesus, pursuing Him, falling short and returning to Him. This week’s podcast guest, Lina Abujamra, knows this well. She joins Juli to talk about what it looks like to spend a lifetime struggling with lust and sexual temptation, and still choose Jesus.     Guest: Lina Abujamra     Book: Don't Tell Anyone You're Reading This by Lina Abujamra Website: livingwithpower.org/   Q&A: What Is the Difference Between Sexual Integrity and Purity? Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Workbook: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery   Become a member!

What does it look like to let God reclaim sex in your marriage…when sex is painful? Or when it feels like an obligation? Or when your spouse wants to engage in BDSM? In this special Live Q&A episode from Reclaim 2022, Juli is joined by Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma as they provide biblical, practical answers to questions on sex that some of us are too afraid to ask.   Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler and Dr. Michael Sytsma   Jennifer’s Website: jenniferdegler.com/ Mike’s Website: intimatemarriage.org/   Website: (American Board of Certified Sex Therapists) abcst.org Website: mycounselor.online Website: (International Society for the Study of Women's Sexual Health) isswsh.org Blog: 3 Reasons Why “Faking It” is Making Your Bad Sex Life Even Worse   Register for Reclaim! Become a Member

It’s one thing to hear someone say secrets and sexual addiction are destructive to a marriage and a family, it’s another thing entirely to experience it. Phil and Priscilla Fretwell understand this more than most. One afternoon, while her husband was at work, Priscilla got a call from the video store enquiring for an overdue video. Shocked and confused, she called her husband to ask him about it. His only response was: ‘I’m coming home’. Many years, tears and miracles later, Phil and Priscilla have seen God move in their hearts and in their marriage in ways they could never have imagined.   Guests: Phil and Priscilla Fretwell   Instagram: @savagemarriageministries Website: savagemarriageministries.com Podcast: The Savage Marriage Podcast Book: Savage Marriage: Triumph over Betrayal and Sexual Addiction   Java with Juli: #482 Trying to Overcome a Sexual Addiction? Here’s Why You Can’t Do It Alone Blog: 5 Healthy Ways to Respond to Your Husband’s Porn Problem   Sign up for Second Cup! Become an Authentic Intimacy Member! Register for Reclaim 2.0!

Pregnancy has its ups and downs, but where the rubber hits the road for most is postpartum. If you’re a woman who has had a baby or you’re a man married to one, you understand that there are fairly common challenges specifically around postpartum sex. There’s a lot to navigate—changing bodies, new responsibilities, challenging hormones, it’s no wonder women struggle to figure out how they feel about sex and couples are hard pressed to find a new sexual rhythm. In this much-needed and highly requested podcast episode, Juli is joined by pelvic floor therapist Heather Marra, and Dr. Jennifer Degler as they explain why sex is so different postpartum, and what wives and their husbands can do about it.     Guests: Dr. Jennifer Degler, and Heather Marra, PT, MPT   Jennifer’s website: jenniferdegler.com/ Heather’s website: onesimplestep.today/   Jennifer’s Instagram: @drjenniferdegler Heather’s Instagram: @onesimplesteptoday   Sign up for Reclaim 2.0!   Blog: What If I Hate Sex? Java with Juli: #484 Duty Sex, Feeling Objectified, and Other Reasons Women Don’t Enjoy Sex in Marriage   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

How do we move from a faith that is shallow and superficial to one that is rooted in relationship? What does it take to take a prayer life that feels like a duty and make it into one of delight? Author, teacher, and poet Jackie Hill Perry joins Juli to talk about the inspiration behind her latest book, “Upon Waking”, and why God isn’t looking at the amount of time we spend with Him so much as He’s looking at the condition of our hearts. Guest: Jackie Hill Perry Website: jackiehillperry.com Instagram: @jackiehillperry Book: Upon Waking by Jackie Hill Perry YouTube: With the Perrys   Register for Reclaim 2.0   Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery – Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness.

We’ve all heard it said many times that marriage can be tough. But it’s possible we don’t discuss enough how good, sweet, and awesome marriage can be! Scott Kedersha, marriage pastor and author, joins Juli to share some of the things he’s learned in almost two decades of marriage ministry. In this episode, Juli and Scott discuss: How couples should handle sexual history and ongoing issues What qualities to look for in a potential spouse When to call off an engagement The role of prayer and spirituality in the dating relationship   Whether you’re married, engaged, dating or single, this is an eye-opening episode guaranteed to help you navigate your intimate relationships with Godly wisdom and intention.     Guest: Scott Kedersha Website: scottkedersha.com Book: Ready or Knot: 12 Conversations Every Couple Needs to Have Before Marriage by Scott Kedersha Book: The Ready or Knot Prayer Guide: 100 Prayers for Dating and Engaged Couples by Scott Kedersha   Java with Juli:  #494 Purity Culture, Men and Sexual Entitlement Blog: 4 Lies the Movies Told Us About Sex and The Truths You Need to Know     Are you ready to claim your 1-year membership? Click here to visit the website and enter your code. Free membership code: Java500 Discount membership code: JJ10     Java with Juli with Dr. Juli Slattery - Christian Discussions on Marriage, Sex and Singleness

If you caught someone in sin, how would you respond to them? Tim Ross was 18 years old when his mother caught him watching porn. Her response was to ask one question: “What are you doing?” and then to turn, walk away, and pray. 30 years later that night remains seared in Tim’s memory as the night grace, mercy and truth reached in and pulled him out of darkness and into light. Tim tells Juli: What finally prompted him to share what he had been through How a faith-filled response led him to more vulnerability What he did to overcome his addiction to porn, and Why honesty and vulnerability are so necessary for our healing   Guest: Tim Ross   Tim’s Website: upsettheworld.com/ Tim’s Podcast: The Basement   Register for Reclaim 2.0

What’s getting in the way of you becoming more like Christ? Could it be that while your knowledge of God is good, you haven’t embraced how He has designed you on your journey to become more like Him? Author and consultant Michel Hendricks is the first guest of 2024 for Java with Juli. He shares what he has observed from his years working as a Pastor of Spiritual Formation, and what he has learned from adopting a more right-brained approach to discipleship and formation. His advice may surprise you.   Guest: Michel Hendricks Book: The Other Half of Church by Michel Hendricks and Jim Wilder Website: Life Model Works   Sign up for an Online Book Study

When was the last time you took time to reflect on your story? As you reflect on the year you’ve had, why not take some time to think more about your past and do some healing work? Cathy Loerzel, co-founder of The Allender Center and co-author of “Redeeming Heartache” joins Juli to talk about why sharing and hearing our stories helps us heal from past trauma and is crucial for cultivating emotional and spiritual maturity.     Guest: Cathy Loerzel Website: cathyloerzel.com Cathy’s Instagram: @cathy.loerzel   Book: Redeeming Heartache: How Past Suffering Reveals Our True Calling by Cathy Loerzel and Dr. Dan Allender Java with Juli: #479 More Than Just Behavior: Why Your Struggles With Sexual Sin Run Deeper Than You Think   Donate

Join Juli and Hannah as they revisit some of the common themes, topics and questions from this year’s Java with Juli episodes.   Juli and Hannah address some of the following questions: Can God reach the LGBTQ+ community? When did culture begin to emphasize sexual identity and pronouns? Have we made an idol of marriage and forgotten the dignity of singleness? Grab your coffee, get comfortable, and explore some of the common themes and lessons from 2023.   Guest: Hannah Nitz Hannah’s Instagram: @hannahnitz Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com   Java with Juli: #448: When Did Sexual Identity Become a Thing? (and Why Are We Obsessed With It?) Java with Juli: #455 How God Changed My Heart (Even After I Changed My Gender) with Laura Smalts Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol Java with Juli: #464 Why We Need to Remember The Dignity of Singleness Java with Juli: #454 Mismatched in Sexual Desire? You May Be Closer Than You Think Java with Juli: #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story   Sign up for our Virtual Conference Reclaim 2.0! Donate

What are the stories you’re telling yourself about who you are, about who God is, and about what life is supposed to look like? We’re all telling ourselves stories all the time. And those stories matter, because we interpret our experiences through them, and those narratives really heavily influence the choices we make and the people we become. Author Jennifer L Holberg joins Juli on the podcast to discuss her book, “Nourishing Narratives”, and explains why we need to challenge the narratives we’re given, embrace the metanarrative of scripture, and see how the stories we believe shape our faith.   Guest: Jennifer L Holberg   Book: Nourishing Narratives: The Power of Story to Shape Our Faith by Jennifer L Holberg Festival of Faith and Writing Java with Juli: #412: Is There a Better Way To Read the Bible? (Episode with Marty Solomon)   Become a Member!  

We all know the purity narrative had its downsides for women, but what about men? Is it possible the purity narrative failed men too? What were men taught to do with feelings of lust? What harmful ideas were passed on in an effort to protect purity? Noah Filipiak, author, pastor, and founder of Beyond Ministries, joins Juli to unpack some of the messages men heard, and provide insight on where things need to change.   Guest: Noah Filipiak   Noah’s Instagram: @noahfilipiak Noah’s Website: noahfilipiak.com Website: Beyond Ministries Book: Beyond the Battle by Noah Filipiak Book: Sacred Rhythms by Ruth Hayley Barton Book: Secrets of the Secret Place by Bob Sorge   Register for Reclaim 2.0 Sign up for Noah’s Online Coaching Intensive

Is God really good? This is a question many people today are left asking as they consider biblical values on sexuality. The Bible comments on everything from same-sex attraction, the heart of marriage, singleness, and the cost of discipleship, and in this episode Juli and her guest, author and pastor Sam Allberry, unpack these topics. Sam is a frequent guest on the podcast who talks with honesty, humility, and wisdom about a lot of the hot button sexual topics of our modern culture. Guest: Sam Allberry Sam’s Website: samallberry.com/ Book: God's Signpost: How Marriage Points Us to God's Love Book: Is God Anti-Gay? And Other Questions About Jesus, the Bible, and Same-Sex Sexuality Blog: Sexual Discipleship®: What Is It, and Why Is It Important? Blog: 3 Subconscious Beliefs You May Hold About Living With Same-Sex Attraction   Learn More About Giving Tuesday

Even with all the scriptures tell us of God’s capacity for miracles, many of us still often wonder, “Is God able to heal me? Is He really greater than the challenges I face?” There aren’t many things that show the depths of sin and brokenness in humanity like the horror of human trafficking. If you’ve watched a documentary on human trafficking or know someone personally impacted by it, it’s clear there is so much brokenness in both the victims and their perpetrators. Thankfully, God is greater than all that needs healing, mercy, and grace in all of us. Charles Martin, author of fiction trilogy “The Keeper” Series joins Juli to unpack some of the realities of human trafficking, what it means to be broken, and what it takes to find freedom. Whether you’re struggling with shame about your sin or struggling to reconcile God’s mercy and forgiveness with the sins of others, this is for you.   Guest: Charles Martin   Book: It is Finished by Charles Martin Book: Anything is Possible by Joby Martin and Charles Martin   Books from “The Keeper” Series: Book: The Water Keeper by Charles Martin Book: The Letter Keeper by Charles Martin Book: The Record Keeper by Charles Martin   Website: charlesmartinbooks.com   Webinar: Human Trafficking in Your City Java with Juli: #296: An Insider’s Story of Human Trafficking   Donate

Are men and women called to have the same kind of roles? Are women supposed to support men but not lead them, or lead alongside them? This is a sensitive ongoing discussion in the American Church. In this episode, author and esteemed theologian Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall joins Juli to discuss why this debate misses God’s heart for how men and women should relate to each other in the family of God.     Guest: Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall     Book: Neither Complementarian nor Egalitarian by Dr. Michelle Lee-Barnewall Java with Juli: #470 Why Did We Start Hating Men? The Toxic War on Masculinity with Nancy Pearcey Blog: What Submission Isn’t Blog: So What Exactly Is Biblical Submission?

On the journey of healing and recovery, it can be easy to wonder if things will “always be this way”, or feel like the challenges “will never stop”. The reality is that it often takes more than we expect to go from death to life. While the Bible says that real and lasting transformation is available to us, it can be hard to understand what part we have to play and where God is doing the work. Jonathan Daugherty, founder of Be Broken Ministries, will tell you true transformation is grace-led. He joins Juli to discuss his new book where he explores and outlines how God uses our pain, restores our identity, and renews us along our healing journeys through the miraculous power of His grace.     Guest: Jonathan Daugherty   Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries Website: Be Broken Ministries   Book: Grace-Based Transformation by Jonathan Daugherty Blog: God’s Healing Stinks Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard? Java with Juli: #438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus Interested in becoming a member? Join us for Open House Already a member? Register for Second Cup Sign up for Jonathan’s Coaching Intensive

In marriages where one or both partners are unhappy, divorce is a very real consideration. But imagine that you sit down with a divorce attorney, tell her you and your spouse argue all the time and can’t see eye to eye, and after nodding quietly, she gives you the following advice: before you split, take inventory. Sound unconventional? This is the advice from divorce attorney Toni Nieuwhof, who, along with her husband, pastor-turned-leader-coach Carey Nieuwhof, has seen many couples walk through marital trouble and divorce. Whether you’re walking through a tough season in your marriage or are currently contemplating divorce, this is a podcast episode that can encourage you and create fresh motivation to nurture your relationship with your spouse.     Guests: Toni and Carey Nieuwhof     Book: Before You Split by Toni Nieuwhof Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship? Java with Juli: #466 Enough is Enough: Recognizing and Combating Abusive Relationships Book: When Sorry Isn’t Enough by Gary Chapman and Jen Thomas Join us for Reclaim 2.0 Virtual Conference!

Do you actually have a Biblical sexual ethic? Do you know what the scripture says about your sexuality? Or have you simply made assumptions about what the Bible says about sex based on what you’ve heard others say? In this timely and necessary special edition bonus episode rounding out our series on various topics around God, sex and intimacy, Rachel Gilson joins Juli to discuss why it’s more important than ever to maintain a high view of the Bible, and know what the Bible actually says about our sexuality.     Guest: Rachel Gilson Rachel’s Website: rachelgilson.com Book: Born Again This Way by Rachel Gilson Java with Juli: #312: Born Again This Way: Rachel’s Story Blog: How to Have Tough Conversations Become a Member!

Preston Sprinkle, author of “People to be Loved,” joins Juli on the podcast to discuss his latest book “Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage?” and tackles arguably one of the most sensitive and hotly discussed topics of our time. Knowing what God’s Word says is growing increasingly important, and in this conversation Juli and Preston examine some of the beliefs and arguments surrounding sexuality through the lens of biblical truth. Guest: Preston Sprinkle Preston’s Twitter: @PrestonSprinkle Preston’s Instagram: @preston.sprinkle Preston’s Website: prestonsprinkle.com Book: Does the Bible Support Same-Sex Marriage? by Preston Sprinkle Book: People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle Blog: Can I Be Godly and Gay? Join us for Open House!

As embodied, integrated beings the experiences we have, positive and negative alike, affect our souls, our bodies, and our minds. This means that regardless of whether a trauma you experienced was physical or emotional trauma, it leaves a mark on all of you. Susie Larson, author, speaker, and radio show host,  joins Juli to explain how what we experience in life affects every part of us, and provides insight on how to journey toward healing when the scars run deep.     Guest: Susie Larson   Susie’s Instagram: @susielarsonauthor Susie’s Website: susielarson.com   Book: Fully Alive by Susie Larson Book: Surprised by The Healer by Linda Dillow and Dr. Juli Slattery Java with Juli: #411: The Unlikely Means God Uses To Bring Beauty From Ashes Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard? Blog: Why We Must Be Surprised by the Healer Become a Member!  

How do you cling to your faith in God when life gets hard? What does it look like to have an unshakeable faith? And how do you cultivate it? Michele Cushatt, author, speaker, Bible-teacher, and 3-time cancer survivor, joins Juli in this honest, gritty, and hope-filled episode about knowing a God who meets us in our most painful places, and holding onto Him with all our hearts.     Guest: Michele Cushatt   Michele’s Instagram: @michelecushatt Website: michelecushatt.com Book: A Faith That Will Not Fail by Michele Cushatt   Java with Juli: #311: Where Is God When We Suffer? Java with Juli: #438: How Your Story Becomes Sacred in the Hands of Jesus Webinar: When You Feel Like Quitting (Member Exclusive)

When it comes to educating kids about sexuality, a ‘one and done’ conversational approach is just not enough to equip them with the knowledge and understanding they need to make sense of sex and gender in our cultural landscape. So if that doesn’t work, what should we be doing? As we continue our series working through different themes around God and sexuality, Juli and Hannah Nitz sit down in this special edition bonus episode to explain what it looks like to teach your kids about biblical sexuality in our current cultural moment.     Guest: Hannah Nitz     Looking for more resources on talking to kids about sex? Click here Blog: Talking to Your Kids About Sex: Why, When, and How Blog: 5 Reasons You’re Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and How to Overcome Them) Blog: Sexual Integrity: The Heart of Sexually Discipling Your Kids Java with Juli: #486 Teaching Sexual Discipleship: How to Walk in Truth and Love with LGBTQ+ Kids

How do we embrace the truth of God’s word while loving those He also calls us to love? What are some of the practical challenges of that when those we’re disagreeing with are our children? In this episode, Kelly Urbon, founder of Walk With Them, discusses the work she is doing in counseling and coaching parents and families of those who identify as LGBTQ+, and explains why it is so necessary.     Guest: Kelly Urbon     Website: Walk With Them Java with Juli: #285 Loving Without Compromise (Member exclusive) Q&A: How Do I Love and Serve My LGBTQ Friends Without Being Offensive? Book: People to Be Loved by Preston Sprinkle

When Dave Wilson’s wife Ann told him she no longer had feelings for him, there are a number of responses he could have had. The one he chose might surprise you. Rather than lashing out in disbelief, Dave experienced the conviction of the Holy Spirit and went straight onto his knees in repentance. As God touched His heart, He touched Ann’s as well. Could it be that many of us are missing the supernatural element of our marriages? What would happen if we allowed God to do the work He seeks to do in us, so that He can heal our marriages? Join Juli and her guests Dave and Ann Wilson in this special re-air episode as they share how God transformed them and their marriage from the top down. Guests: Dave and Ann Wilson Book: Vertical Marriage by Dave and Ann Wilson Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband, Revisited by Dr. Juli Slattery Website: Family Life Today Blog: I Love Being Bitter: How We Grow Bitter and 3 Ways to Overcome Java with Juli: #208: The Forgiveness & Intimacy Link

When you’re  trying to diagnose what’s missing in your marital relationship, chances are you probably won’t  attribute challenges to a lack of grace. But what if grace is the missing piece?   Brad and Marilyn Rhoads of Grace Marriage join Juli to share their story. They unpack how God showed them the key role grace had to play in their marriage, how it brought them closer, and how it helped brace their relationship through challenging emotional seasons.     Guests: Brad and Marilyn Rhoads     Grace Marriage’s Instagram: @grace_marriage Grace Marriage’s Facebook: Grace Marriage Website: gracemarriage.com Book: The Grace Marriage: How the Gospel and Intentionality Transform Your Relationship Java with Juli: #253: Making the Gospel Beautiful Through Relationships Blog: Forgiveness is Hard, Grace is Harder Blog: The Challenge of Grace

If you’re a married person feeling like there’s a giant chasm between the level of sexual desire you and your spouse experience, this special re-air episode is for you. Through over two years of research and work, Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma surveyed and documented numerous married couples, examining the way they connect around sexual intimacy in their marriage. They investigated trends, causality, and correlation all in a bid to help couples bridge the gaps they experience in their sexual intimacy, and their findings might just surprise you. Guests: Shaunti Feldhahn and Dr. Michael Sytsma     Book: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma Website: Building Intimate Marriages Explore more Authentic Intimacy resources on Sex in Marriage Partner with Authentic Intimacy!

It’s week three of our 7-week series exploring different themes around God, sex and intimacy, and this week, it’s all about sex in Marriage. Every couple wants a healthy, satisfying sex life, but achieving one isn’t always straightforward. What does it look like to build sexual intimacy when your spouse has a lower drive than you do? What is the most effective way for you to pursue your spouse? And is having sex with your spouse more frequently the answer to their porn addiction? Juli is joined by J Parker and Bonny Burns, the hosts of the podcast “Sex Chat for Christian Wives”, as they provide biblical, practical insight on the challenges Christian wives face in the marital context. If you missed last week’s episode, click here.     Guests: J. Parker and Bonny Burns   Podcast: Sex Chat for Christian Wives Book: Unlock Your Orgasm by Bonny Logsdon Burns Blog: Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm & Intimacy Check out our Online Coaching Intensives!

If God made you sexual and you’re single, what are you supposed to do with your sexual desires? It’s true that the path to sexual integrity for the single believer has long been a rocky one. When a Christian man or woman experiences attraction and rising hormones, is he or she supposed to ignore or suppress their sexuality? Or is there more to being a sexual being than we’ve previously given thought to? In this special edition bonus episode, Juli is joined by the late Dr. Doug Rosenau, and they discuss different types of sexuality, the priority people place on them, and what we’re supposed to do when we experience desire.     Guest: Dr. Doug Rosenau   Book: Soul Virgins by Dr. Doug Rosenau Blog: What Do I Do With My Sexual Desires? Blog: You Can Be Single & Sexual

Join Juli and her guest Dr. Danielle Treweek as we kick off week two of our 7-week series exploring various themes around God, sex and intimacy. This week we look at singleness and ask the question: Have we as the Church misrepresented and misunderstood singleness? Dani is the author of “The Meaning of Singleness,” a book which seeks to help individuals and the Church recover a biblically accurate theology of singleness. Get ready for a conversation filled with grace, passion, and truth as Dani discusses some of what the Church has gotten wrong about the high calling of singleness. Guest: Danielle Treweek, PhD Dani’s Instagram: @danitreweek Dani’s Twitter: @danitreweek Book: The Meaning of Singleness by Danielle Treweek Website: danielletreweek.com Website: Single Minded Ministry Blog: What’s the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

Have you ever given thought to what drives people towards pornography? While for many the initial introduction to porn is due to curiosity, it might surprise you to know that there are many different emotional and cognitive reasons people continue to turn to porn and struggle to break the addiction. In this special edition bonus episode, revisit Juli and Jonathan Daughtery of Be Broken Ministries as Jonathan shares some of his story, and what he believes to be some of the many reasons people keep returning to “lustland.”     Guest: Jonathan Daugherty   Be Broken Ministries on Instagram: @bebrokenministries Be Broken Ministries Sign up for Jonathan Daugherty's Online Coaching Intensive! Blog: Porn Affects You, Even If You Don’t Look At It

This is the first episode in a 7-part series on different themes around God, sex, and intimacy, and is focused on how we can find freedom from sexual sin. In this episode, Juli is joined by podcaster, author, and former pastor Nate Larkin, as he shares about his journey breaking free from an addiction to pornography that almost destroyed his marriage. Website: Samson Society Wbsite: The Sarah Society Podcast: Pirate Monks Podcast Java with Juli: #241 Women Struggle With Porn Too Blog: What Should You Do If Your Husband Looks at Porn? Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn? Become an Authentic Intimacy member!

10 years of Java with Juli!   It’s been 10 years since Java with Juli launched, and there have been over 400 podcast episodes aired in that time. Juli has talked about it all: divorce, porn and masturbation, same-sex attraction, discipling kids in biblical sexuality, gender identity, painful sex, and building marital intimacy.   In this very special celebratory episode, Juli and Hannah sit down and talk about the heart and mission of Java with Juli, what Juli has learned over the last 10 years, and how she hopes to see it grow in the next decade.   Grab your java, find a comfy spot, and dive into this 10 year celebratory episode. Guest: Hannah Nitz   Hannah’s Website: hannahnitz.com   Java with Juli: #1: Is This Thing On? Java with Juli: #407: Masturbation: The No. 1 Question You’re Asking Us! Blog: Sexual Discipleship®: What Is It, and Why Is It Important? Join the Authentic Intimacy member community! Got questions for Juli? Join her for Second Cup on September 5th!

Why do people cheat? And is it possible to reconcile after you or your spouse has been unfaithful?   In this episode, Juli is joined by Jessica McDaniel, LPC, as they discuss the roles of disclosure, honesty, patience, and commitment in repairing a marriage that has been affected by infidelity. Infidelity hurts everyone involved, and as Jessica shares, it takes everyone working together to overcome it. Guest: Jessica McDaniel, LPC Jessica’s Instagram: @mcdanielcounseling Jessica’s Website: mcdanielcounseling.org Hope Rising Conference Affair Recovery Affair Recovery First Steps Bootcamp Affair Recovery Small Groups Java with Juli: #274: Vulnerability, Infidelity & God's Redemption Java with Juli: #364 How to Work Your Way Back to Sexual Intimacy After Infidelity Blog: How Do I Rebuild Trust After Betrayal?

What if your sexual desires and struggles could help you achieve deeper healing? In this episode, Juli hosts author and licensed mental health counselor Jay Stringer. Jay is deeply curious about the inner workings of our minds, and he loves to help people connect the dots between their sin struggles, the challenges they face, and the places they need healing in their hearts. Join Juli and Jay as they discuss how research helps us make sense of our sin and equips us to free ourselves from unwanted desires and outcomes.   Contribute to Jay's Pioneering Research Jay is now exploring the far-reaching, deep-seated topic of human desire. He needs your help to find some answers. The Holistic Desire Survey is anonymous and your honest responses will contribute to the healing of so many individuals and couples who are facing desire problems.  There are two versions of the survey: A survey for individuals and one for couples. To take the individual survey, click here, and if you'd like to participate in the couple's survey, click here to email the research team and recieve your personal link to the survey. Please complete the survey by August 31st 2023.     Guest: Jay Stringer, LMHC Jay’s Website: jay-stringer.com/ Jay’s Instagram: @jay_stringer_ Website: The Holistic Desire Survey Java with Juli: #275: Finding Freedom from Unwanted Desires Java with Juli: #211 Understanding Pornography Addiction Java with Juli: #452 Porn Addiction in Marriage: How to Let God Redeem Your Story Q&A: Is there any hope for me in my struggle with porn? Q&A: How do I get past the shame of sexual sin?

How do you parent your adult children well after they've left the nest? What does it look like to hold steadfast to your beliefs while loving an adult child who has chosen to live differently? And are your children's choices your fault? These are some of the questions Juli asks in today's interview with guest Jim Burns, a well-known teacher in the field of marriage and family, and the president of the organization HomeWord. Jim shares from both his experience and his expertise, and has a lot of encouraging advice to share.   Guest: Dr. Jim Burns   Jim’s Instagram: @drjimburns Jim’s Twitter: @drjimburns Jim’s website: HomeWord.com   Blog: Three Things To Remember About Sexual Sin & Grace Java with Juli: #159 When Your Child Struggles With Gender Webinar: How to Love Your Prodigal Child Become an Authentic Intimacy member and get your free book!  

Is there a difference between loving parental guidance, and overreaching parental interference? How can a couple set boundaries with their in-laws? And how can in-laws give their adult children the space they need to establish strong foundations for their marriages? While many of us are familiar with the verse about leaving and cleaving, the practicalities of doing so can be challenging when there are parents and wider family who long to provide support in an important new phase of life. Juli invites her friends, Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley, to speak about why boundaries with in-laws are important, and how they can be established with love. Guests: Dr. Greg and Erin Smalley   Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage Greg and Erin’s Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast Book: Ready to Wed by Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley Java with Juli:  #13 Insights on In-Laws Become an Authentic Intimacy member and get your free book!  

Seasoned Christians know that while our perfection is in process, we still live in the tension of the weakness of our flesh and the hope of becoming fully like our Savior. What does that look and feel like when you have lengthy and ongoing struggles with your flesh? This is Julia’s story, and it’s the story she shares in this honest, insightful and hope-filled podcast episode. Julia is a part of the Authentic Intimacy team, and joins Juli to discuss sexual sin, God’s love and kindness, and the cultural challenges of singleness in the American Church.     Guest: Julia Mitchell   Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol Java with Juli: #464 Why We Need to Remember the Dignity of Singleness Blog: A Road Map to Sexual Integrity in the Midst of Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell Blog: 3 Reasons I Can Run To God With My Sexual Brokenness by Julia Mitchell Sign up for our OBS interest list!

It isn’t uncommon for a couple committed to God and committed to each other to struggle to build intimacy. While it might seem like the issues and challenges you’re facing are all external, it’s often the case that there’s internal work that needs to be done. Sean and Lanette Reed join Juli in this episode to discuss how humility, faith, and empathy, helped them bridge gaps to create true intimacy. Guests: Sean and Lanette Reed Sean and Lanette’s Instagram: @seanandlanettereed Sean and Lanette’s YouTube: Life with Sean and Lanette Sean and Lanette’s TikTok: @Seanandlanette Book: Marriage in Transition by Sean and Lanette Reed Website: seanandlanette.com Podcast: Marriage in Transition Blog: Why Is Healing So Hard? Java with Juli: #223 A Christian Counselor and a Little “Grit” Can Take You a Long Way Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband by Dr. Juli Slattery Second Cup

What does it look like to live life as a Christian counter-culturally? How are we called to be in the world but not of the world when it comes to engaging with others, sharing the gospel, and addressing our own sin? In this interview, Juli hosts author and professor Sean McDowell as they discuss his new book, "A Rebel's Manifesto." The book serves as a call and challenge to today's Christians, urging them to revisit God's Word and rethink what it means to be salt and light. This conversation is crucial for all believers as we examine our blind spots and motivation, and examine the ways in which God is calling us to look more like Him and less like our world. Guest: Dr. Sean McDowell   Sean’s Instagram: @seanmcdowell Sean’s Twitter: @Sean_McDowell Sean’s TikTok: Sean_McDowell Sean’s Website: seanmcdowell.org Book: A Rebel’s Manifesto by Sean McDowell Blog: How We Love Each Other Java with Juli: #423 How to "Rethink" Issues in Our Church Culture Around Sexuality & Abuse Java with Juli: #203 Navigating Different Views on Sexuality

What does it actually look like to accept the invitation to reclaim God’s design for sexuality in your life? Is the path straight, wide, and flat, or narrow, bumpy, and full of twists and turns? In this episode of Java with Juli, Juli hosts guests Cole and Caitlin Zick of Moral Revolution as they discuss their polar-opposite experiences embracing their sexuality as God intended. Guests: Cole and Caitlin Zick   Cole’s Instagram: @colezick Caitlin’s Instagram: @caitlinzick Moral Revolution on Instagram: @moralrevolution Website: moralrevolution.com Java with Juli: #420 Bonus! What Redemption and Sexual Intimacy Look Like in Real Life Blog: Purity Culture: Lose the Lies, Keep Your Faith Book: God, Sex and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

It can often be tempting to push through the uncomfortable feelings that come with loss and try to just keep calm and carry on. But is that what we’re called to as followers of Christ? If Christ Himself took time to grieve, shouldn’t we? Dr Greg and Erin Smalley join Juli on this episode of Java with Juli as they discuss the need to face and make sense of our pain so we can embrace real joy.  Guests: Dr. Greg Smalley and Erin Smalley   Greg and Erin on Instagram: @focusmarriage Greg and Erin on Youtube: @focusonthefamilymarriage Greg and Erin’s Podcast: Focus on Marriage Podcast Java with Juli: #173 Lessons I Learned from Grief Java with Juli: #265 The Hard (and Hopeful) Truth About Losing a Spouse

There are always differences in relationships – differences in culture, differences in family of origin, differences in communication and conflict style – but what if you and someone you love just think differently? The thing is, while we may live in a world designed for neurotypical people, the world is full of people who are neurodivergent; those of us who process, learn, experience and interact with the world in ways not considered typical. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Kelli Willard joins Juli in an enlightening episode of Java with Juli as they talk about why a broader understanding of neurodiversity is so important when it comes to building strong and healthy relationships in marriages and in families. Guest: Kelli Willard, LMFT   Kelli’s Instagram: @love_all_the_brains Kelli’s Practice: Love All The Brains (Note: Kelli is not accepting new clients at this time) Book: Neurodiverse Couple Therapy: A Practical Guide to Brain-Informed Care Blog: The Challenge of Grace

When did it become normal for us as a culture not to like men? In this episode Juli’s guest is Nancy Pearcey, esteemed scholar, and author of “The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes”. She joins Juli to discuss the roots of toxic masculinity, what it means to be a good man, and how to combat the negativity around what it really means to be a man.  Guest: Nancy Pearcey   Nancy’s Twitter: @NancyRPearcey Nancy’s website: nancypearcey.com/ Book: The Toxic War on Masculinity: How Christianity Reconciles the Sexes by Nancy Pearcey Book: Love Thy Body: Answering Hard Questions about Life and Sexuality by Nancy Pearcey Book: Total Truth: Liberating Christianity from Its Cultural Captivity by Nancy Pearcey     Blog: Manhood on a Razor's Edge Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead Book: Finding the Hero in Your Husband Image by Brooke Cagle via Unsplash

Did you know that on average, each year, around 463,634 Americans are victims of sexual assault? That’s a heartbreaking statistic, and it reveals a very real source of pain and trauma in contemporary American culture. What causes people to commit sexual assault? Is there a way to stop it? Dr. John Foubert joins Juli to discuss some of the reasons these numbers are so high, and what can and needs to be done to prevent sexual assault from happening.   Guest: Dr. John Foubert     John’s Twitter: @JohnFoubert John’s website: johnfoubert.com/ Book: Protecting Your Children from Internet Pornography: Understanding the Science, Risks, and Ways to Protect Your Kids by Dr. John Foubert Book: How Pornography Harms by Dr. John Foubert John’s Non-Profit: One in Four Book: Unwanted by Jay Stringer Find a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)   Java with Juli: #334 What Your Pastor Needs to Know About Porn Blog: Porn Affects You, Even if You Don’t Look At It

How do we teach kids that God made their bodies and that He made their bodies good? Are there creative and intentional ways to connect with kids and help them develop a Biblical theology around their bodies? In this episode, Juli connects with her friend Francie Winslow, a mother of six on a mission to imprint upon the hearts of her children the beauty of God’s design of their bodies and vision for their sexuality.   Guest: Francie Winslow     Francie’s Instagram: @franciewinslow Francie’s Website: franciewinslow.com/ Podcast: Heaven in Your Home Album: Heaven in Your Home Family Music Blog: 5 Reasons You're Not Talking to Your Kids About Sex (and  How to Overcome Them) Java with Juli: #460 How to Have Mini and Many Conversations About Sexuality With Your Kids

While it may be the case that many people view marriage as a periphery issue, Juli’s guest, Pastor John McGee, argues that the way we love one another in marriage is one of the ways in which our faith is truly evident — “Marriage teaches us about the gospel, and the gospel teaches us about marriage.” Tune in to today’s episode of Java with Juli to discover some of what is missing in common teaching on marriage, and how leaning into the truth of the gospel equips us to love better, not just in marriage, but in all our relationships.   Guest: John McGee John’s Instagram: @johnkmcgee John’s Twitter: @johnmcgee Website: Re|Engage Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Marriage? Java with Juli:  #430 Marriage Can Be Hard, Here's Why the Work Is Worth It Check out our Spanish resources here!

Is there a difference between a bad relationship and a harmful one? How can you spot the difference, both in your own relationships and those of your friends and family?  Join Juli and Dr. David Clarke as they discuss how to recognize abuse patterns of behavior, how to set boundaries, and when necessary, how to get out and create safety elsewhere.   Guest: Dr. David Clarke Website: davideclarkephd.com/ Book: Enough is Enough: A Step-by-Step Plan to Leave an Abusive Relationship with God's Help Focus on The Family Christian Counselors Network Java with Juli: #372 How To Recognize Domestic Abuse Blog: How Do I Know If I'm in an Abusive Relationship?

If you’re a husband or wife who finds sex dull or monotonous, it may be time for you to revisit the way God designed marital sex. The truth is that God desires for you to enjoy building sexual intimacy with your spouse, not just endure it. In this podcast episode, Juli and guest Dr. Jennifer Degler talk about how God gives the gift of sexual play to couples, and the practical (and fun!) ways you can connect with your spouse. Guest: Dr. Jennifer Degler Jennifer’s Instagram: @drjenniferdegler Jennifer’s Websites: jenniferdegler.com cwives.com marrieddance.com Book: authenticintimacy.com/god-sex-and-your-marriage-workbook Java with Juli: #234 We Can Do THAT in the Bedroom? Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom?

Is it possible your view of singleness and marriage is less than Holy? Is it possible to find contentment, not in whether we are single or married, but in Jesus Himself? Juli and Sam Allberry discuss the dignity of singleness, finding contentment in Christ, and the key to true friendship. Guest: Sam Allberry Sam’s Twitter: @SamAllberry Sam’s Instagram: @SamAllberry Sam’s Website: https://samallberry.com/ Sam's Book: 7 Myths About Singleness Java with Juli: #450 Breaking the Marriage Idol Book: Rethinking Sexuality

When it comes to discussions around sex, historically the church has stayed quiet. As more and more pastors, authors, and psychologists within the church begin writing and talking about sex, the challenge becomes how to make these discussions accessible, nuanced, grace-filled, and Bible-based. In this episode, Juli speaks again with author and pastor Joshua Butler, as together they examine the challenges surrounding talking about sex from within the church.     Guest: Joshua Butler Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/ Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything Java with Juli: #462 Beautiful Union: How Our Sexuality Reveals God’s Heart for Covenant Love Blog Post: When Cancel Culture Invades the Church

What if sex and gender are not as arbitrary as many people tend to think? Is it possible that God has woven holy significance into our very DNA as gendered, sexual beings? In this episode, Juli sits down with author Joshua Butler to talk about his book, “Beautiful Union”, and the ways we can see God’s gospel message evidenced in everything from the beauty of a sunset to our own sexuality.   Guest: Joshua Butler Josh’s Instagram: @joshuabutlerphx Josh’s Twitter: @butlerjosh Josh’s Website: https://joshuaryanbutler.com/ Josh's Book: Beautiful Union: How God's Vision for Sex Points Us to the Good, Unlocks the True, and (Sort of) Explains Everything Join Juli for Second Cup Java with Juli: #313 The Greatest Love Story Blog Post: What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really?

Juli Slattery and Jonathan Pokluda tackle tough questions about how to find freedom from the sin that we hate, the difference between regret and self condemnation, and how the gospel is good news for all of us.  Guest: Jonathan "JP" Pokluda Show Notes: Why Do I Do What I Don't Want To Do? by Jonathan Pokluda Why Is Healing So Hard? (Juli's blog) Absolute Surrender by Brother Andrew More from JP, #429 How to Find Love When Dating Has Changed (member exclusive)

How do you talk to young kids about sex? Keep conversations small and have them often. Justin and Lindsey Holcomb are back to share insights on talking to your kids about their bodies, God's design for sexuality, and the boundaries of healthy touch. Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb Show notes: Java #459 How Sexual Abuse Affects You (And Why God Is Still Trustworthy) with Justin and Lindsey God Made All of Me by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb God Made Me in His Image by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb God Made Babies by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb Parenting Through Weakness (Juli’s blog) Java #316 Sorry Mom & Dad, the "Sex Talk" Doesn't Work (exclusive content)

"What happened to me wasn't rape." "I didn't stop it right away." "I shouldn't have been at that party in the first place."  If you've ever had thoughts like these, about yourself or someone else, your definition of sexual abuse is too narrow. Join us to learn what sexual abuse is and what consent isn't. (And, if you've never been a victim of sexual assault, trust us, you know someone who has. This conversation is for you, too.) Guests: Justin and Lindsey Holcomb Show notes: Join an online book study Rid of My Disgrace by Justin and Lindsey Holcomb More resources from Justin & Lindsey Holcomb  

In the last ten years, some 16 million women have stopped going to church. Are you one of them? Join us for a conversation about why we've been rethinking church—and why it may be time for you to go back. Guest: Ericka Andersen Show notes: Spring online book studies are open! Register here. A Reason to Return; Why Women Need the Church and the Church Needs Women by Ericka Andersen Church Is Good for You. It's Time to Go Back (Juli's blog)    

Take the guess work out of your sex life and learn how to tell (or show) your spouse what feels good in the bedroom. Guest: Dr. Corey Allan Show notes: Apply to join the Coaching Intensive for Wives Struggling with Sexual Pain The "Passionately Married Podcast" with Dr. Corey and Pam Allan Java #407 Masturbation: The No.1 Question You're Asking Us (exclusive content) Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (en Espanol) (Juli's blog) What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog) Your Sexual Differences Can Make You Better Lovers (Juli's blog) Five Things You Need to Know About Women, Orgasm, and Intimacy (Juli's blog) The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner* *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Kia Stephens knows many women (like herself) who looked to the arms of other men for the affirmation they longed to receive from their fathers. You'll love her humor, wisdom, and vulnerability as she shares how she traded the pain of what her earthly father couldn’t give her for the perfect love of her heavenly Father.  Guest: Kia Stephens Show notes: Overcoming Father Wounds by Kia Stephens Take the Father Wounds Quiz Leave us a rating and review

Tired of having the same fight with your spouse—over and over again? Are you stuck in a place of shame or grief or bitterness? Juli sits down with Greg and Erin Smalley today to encourage you to find a Christian counselor to help you get, well, unstuck.  Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley Show notes: God, Sex, and Your Marriage workbook, by Dr. Juli Slattery How to Choose a Wise Counselor (Juli's blog) The FOTF Network of Christian Counselors Fight Your Way To a Better Marriage by Greg and Erin Smalley* *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

For most of her childhood, Laura wanted to be a boy. In her 20s, she began hormone therapy, had surgery and lived as Jake for nine years. But she could never quite shake the feeling that none of it was real. "I remember looking at the photo on my driver's license and saying, 'I'm not as happy as I think I am.'" In this episode, Laura shares her remarkable story of desperation, hope and transformation. Guest: Laura Perry Smalts Show notes: Transgender to Transformed by Laura Perry Smalts* Java #396 Diverse Gender Identities: How to See the People Behind the Issue Java #397 How to Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity Become an AI Member *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Are you sexually mismatched in marriage? Do you feel like you're in "drive" all the time while your spouse is in neutral (or putting on the brakes)? Here's good news: You're likely closer than you think. Join us to learn about the two types of desire, "receptive desire" and "initiating desire," and how to build a bridge between to the two. Guests: Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Systma Show notes: Secrets of Sex and Marriage: 8 Surprises That Make All the Difference by Shaunti Feldhahn & Dr. Michael Sytsma* Dr. Sytsma's practice: Building Intimate Marriages Join Juli for Second Cup *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Teen girls and LGBQ+ youth are experiencing more sadness, hopelessness, and violence than ever before. Join Juli and Dr. Mark Mayfield, an expert in suicide prevention, to learn what you can do to help the teens in your life feel seen, loved, and valued. Guest: Dr. Mark Mayfield Shownotes: The Path Out of Loneliness Dr. Mark Mayfield Help! My Teen is Self-Injuring (PDF) Connect with your teen using tools from Axis.org* From the CDC: U.S. Teen Girls Experiencing Increased Sadness and Violence *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

More than 50 percent of wives of sex addicts experience symptoms of betrayal trauma. Today Dannah Gresh shares how her husband's addiction affected her marriage, mind, and body.  Hear how the power of Jesus, and the right balance of biblical and clinical care, brought more than just recovery—it brought redemption.  Guest: Dannah Gresh Show notes: Happily Even After by Dannah Gresh* How to Choose a Wise Christian Counselor (Juli's blog) Find a Christian counselor near you (FOTF Network of Christian Counselors) *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

When it comes to porn, the gender gap is closing. Women (Christian women, too) are using porn and feeling alone, ashamed, and trapped in their addiction. Join us to learn why overcoming porn and sexual shame is not about changing your behavior but about allowing Jesus to transform your identity.  Guest: Jessica Harris Show notes: Quenched:Discovering God's Abundant Grace for Women Struggling with Pornography and Sexual Shame by Jessica Harris* Leave us a Rating & Review on Apple Podcasts or your favorite app. Learn more about the God,Sex, and Your Marriage workbook *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

We're just gonna to say it. There's an unspoken assumption in the Church that if you're single there must something wrong with you—and that marriage can fix it. Are you guilty of having this thought? Join the converstion about how we've idolized marriage and how we can do better. Guest: Dr. Kutter Callaway (www.kuttercallaway.com) Show notes: Breaking the Marriage Idol by Kutter Callaway* Sex & the Single Christian: What Kind of a Gift Is Sexuality if I Can't Have Sex? Sex & the Single Christian: How To Ditch the Counterfeits and Find True Intimacy Become an Authentic Intimacy member and get access to the webinar series Java #443 Is Your View of Sexuality and Marriage Gift-worthy?   *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Juli and her guest share wisdom and encouragement to help you give clear answers to your kids' questions about their gender and the way God created them. Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch Show notes: Celebrate Kids, www.celebratekids.com Start with the Heart by Dr. Kathy Koch* Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog) Java #396: Diverse Gender Identities: How To See the People Behind the Issue with Mark Yarhouse Java #397: How to Help Families Navigate Questions About Gender Identity with Mark Yarhouse *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Sexual identity has become a common phrase, a personal choice, a political cause and, for many, the way we present ourselves to others (used even by tweens and teens who’ve never had a sexual experience)—and it feels like it all happened overnight. Do you ever wonder how we got here? Grab your Java and join us. Guest: Dr. Carl Trueman Show notes: Strange New World by Dr. Carl Trueman* The Rise and Triumph of the Modern Self by Dr. Carl Trueman* Sexual Discipleship: What Is It and Why Is It Important? (Juli's blog) *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Juli Slattery opens the Authentic Intimacy inbox and tackles questions like: Should my spouse be my best friend? What do you do when your husband can't stop looking at porn? And, did God create sex primarily for men? Co-hosts: Linda Dillow and Yvette Maher Show notes: Juli's blog series on prioritizing sexual intimacy. My Husband Isn't My Best Friend (read the blog) or (listen to the podcast) Join an online book study

Juli Slattery and Gary Thomas share wisdom and insight to keep your marriage together when the storms of life threaten to rip it apart. Grab your Java and join us! Guest: Gary Thomas Show notes: Join an online book study Making Your Marriage a Fortress by Gary Thomas* Sacred Pathways by Gary Thomas* Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas*   *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.  

Juli shares her thoughts on 2022, on having hard conversations about sexuality, and how to ask God to use your painful circumstances to grow your character. How much more of your sexuality will you let Him reclaim in 2023? Co-host: Mike Slattery Show notes: Make a donation to Authentic Intimacy Join an online book study with Authentic Intimacy God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Seeing the good in all things does not mean ignoring the bad. Rather, as we approach the hard things, we see the goodness of God. Is your cup half full or half empty today? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Show notes: Make a donation to Authentic Intimacy What's It Like to Be Married to Me? by Linda Dillow* Satisfy My Thirsty Soul by Linda Dillow Say "Hi" to Hannah over at the There's More Podcast   *Affiliate link. AI may earn fees.

Open the gift that allows you to experience true intimacy. Our long-awaited Savior came to set us free from sin and shame. Will you exchange your heart for His? Co-host: Hannah Nitz Make a donation God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Passion Pursuit by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow Surprised By the Healer by Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow Join an online book study

When marriage is simply about getting our needs met, we end up playing whack-a-mole with the symptoms of sin and brokenness. Knowing God's purpose for your marriage and sexuality brings richness and purpose to seasons of struggle. Co-host: Hannah Nitz Show Notes & More Resources: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery Make a year-end donation to Authentic Intimacy Why Does Sex Matter in Marriage? Pt. 2 (Juli's blog) What's the Purpose of Your Sexuality, Really? (Juli's blog) Q&A: Is Homemade Porn OK in Marriage? (video) Say "Hi" to Hannah Nitz over at the There's More Podcast  

Linda Dillow shares about the loss of her daughter during the pandemic. Join us for this incredible story of how the Lord answered her cry, "God, please don't waste my pain!" Guest: Linda Dillow Show notes: Calm My Anxious Heart by Linda Dillow Make a year-end donation at authenticintimacy.com/give Java #147:How To Find Fulfillment at the Feet of Jesus with Linda Dillow (exclusive content)* A Sacred Sorrow: Reaching Out to God in the Lost Language of Lament by Michael Card* *Affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees.

Are you ready to end that toxic relationship in your life — your love-hate relationship with food? No more regret, frustration and shame. God's Word is inviting you into a different, more nourishing rhythm. Guest: Erin Davis Show notes: Fasting and Feasting by Erin Davis* Java #71: Body Image and the Bedroom (exclusive content) Give an Authentic Intimacy membership to a friend *Referral link. AI may earn fees.

Are Christians a prickly audience when it comes to sharing our brokenness and pain?  Let's change that. Join us to hear why God cares about all the things we think we're not supposed to talk about. Guest: Blake Guichet Show notes: Confessions of a Crappy Christian by Blake Guichet* The Confessions of a Crappy Christian Podcast Gift an AI Membership at www.authenticintimacy.com/gift Apply to be join the AI Team   *Affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees.

Nearly 3 out of 4 women experience pain during or after sex. If that's you, we have good news: a pelvic floor therapist can help. There's a lot to learn, grab your Java and listen in! Guest: Heather Marra, PT Show notes: Start watching Sexual Pleasure: How To Get Your Mind and Body to Work Together or buy it here. Join an online book study with AI Find a Pelvic Floor Physical Therapist The Married Guy's Guide to Great Sex by Cliff & Joyce Penner* Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner* The Celebration of Sex for Newlyweds by Dr. Doug Rosenau* Sex Without Pain by Heather Jeffcoat* Apply to join the AI Team *Affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees.

Glenn Packiam joins Juli to talk about how the biblical metaphor of ordinary table bread reveals God’s extraordinary story of redemption and healing in our (ordinary) lives. Guest: Glenn Packiam Show notes: Blessed Broken Given by Glenn Packiam Why We Must Be Surprised By the Healer (Juli's blog) Java #405:How to Be Broken and Used by God (At the Same Time) (exclusive content) Surprised By the Healer by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow *Affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees.

If you expect life to always be easy, you won’t resist the comfort of pornography. Or you'll bail on relationships once the feelings begin to fade. That's why this conversation is absolutely critical to sexual discipleship—not just for our children, but for our own sexual integrity as well. Guest: Dr. Kathy Koch (pronounced "cook") Show notes: Resilient Kids by Kathy Koch* www.CelebrateKids.com Parenting Through Weakness (Juli's blog) Leave us a rating and review *This is an affiliate link. AI may earn referral fees from qualifying purchases.