I listened to a podcast episode this week that floored me. It was on Theo Von’s podcast, This Past Weekend. He had complex trauma specialist, Tim Fletcher on, and together they talked about what complex trauma looks like as a kid, and then as an adult. I always love learning about the brain and how it works. And if you do too, that episode is for you! I also share some of my other favorite resources that have taught me so much about how our brains work. Hopefully you love them as much as I do! See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

In this weeks episode we dive into the mail bag. I explore three different scenarios in three listeners marriages and try to give insight and guidance to help them make a decision that feels good and empowering to them. First up we chat about feeling disconnected from your spouse when you’ve got little kids at home. The second scenario is about supporting a spouse with mental illness, and how to drop resentment and judgement so you can get back to loving. The third is about wanting to end a marriage and how to know when it is time. I love doing these mailbag episodes, so if you’ve got any situations you need my advice on, you can always email me at [email protected] See you inside💥 Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

“By using our attention we learned a whole reality, a whole dream. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe; what is acceptable and what is not acceptable; what is good and what is bad; what is beautiful and what is ugly; what is right and what is wrong. It was all there already — all that knowledge, all those rules and concepts about how to behave in the world.”   Ruiz, Don Miguel. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book Book 1)   Nothing in this world has anything to do with us. Nothing we do has anything to do with anyone else. It all has to do with the way we were raised, and what we were taught to believe.   I started reading The Four Agreements, and one of the agreements really stood out to me, Don’t Take Anything Personally.   As I heard this and then went out into the world looking for evidence that it is true, I have been blown away by how often this truth reveals itself.   In todays episode I dive into how this shows up for me, and for some of my clients. In hopes that you can find places in your life where you’re taking things personally that have nothing to do with you… or, where you might be hurting someone who is taking your actions personally, even though it has nothing to do with them.   Tune in and then let me know where you are able to find this truth in your own life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

You know by now that our thoughts create our feelings, which cause us to take action, and those actions produce our results. So the life you’re living right now is a result of the thoughts you were thinking 3 months ago. If you want to create a different life, you have to think like your future self now. Like you’ve already achieved that thing you want. Because when you think like her, you feel like her, then you act like her. You don’t need to wait until: Life slows down The kids get older You have more followers You’ve lost the weight The timing is perfect   Because it doesn’t have to do with any of those things. Think the thoughts that your future self will think NOW, and that is how you become her.   Join me as I share exactly what this looks like, so you too can create the life your future self will thank you for!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Making friends as an adult can be hard… but doesn’t have to be. Losing weight with joy and ease can be hard… but doesn’t have to be. Finding a life partner can be hard…. but doesn’t have to be.   What if, the things that you really want but are telling yourself is too hard, aren’t hard at all?   In today’s episode, I share how my perspective on what is hard has changed, and how to have fun doing the things I previously believed wee difficult and exhausting.   Join me and uncover what is actually stopping you from achieving that thing you want, and how to get out of your own way to finally get that thing.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Sometimes its a relationship we want to leave. Sometimes its a job. Sometimes its a friend group.   We think that if we leave, we’ll be happier. But, happiness isn’t created from jobs, relationships or people… its created from our thoughts.   In this weeks episode I dive into how to know when it is time to go, and how to do it so that it serves you best. And of course, its probably not what you think.   Make sure you listen in so that you can lean into your power, increase your resilience, and take control of your life.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Its a fact of life that some people are not going to like what you have to say or what you do. We’re all driven by different things, we were taught how to behave by different parents with different value systems.   It is also a fact of life that your brain is wired to look for the threats and pay more attention to the boos. But, just because there will always be people who don’t like that way you’re doing it, doesn’t men you shouldn’t.   In todays episode I talk about how to let the doubters and haters be there, but train your brain to focus on those cheering for you to win. Nothing has gone wrong when your brain focuses on the negative, that is what our brains were designed to do. Its kept us alive for all these years. But, most of these “threats” aren’t actually a matter of life and death. So, can we re-direct our brains to focus on the fans you’ve got?   You can stay in your cozy cave where nothing can hurt you, but you miss out on the big beautiful world awaiting you when you step outside your cave and risk being disliked, made fun of, or boo’d. Its up to you to decide what is worth it to you.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Todays episode is a listener write in. She wrote about an issue she was having when it came to confidence around intimacy, and how it was impacting her life and relationship.   This might not be an issue you have, but even if it isn’t, I think you’ll find something for you in this episode.  Because every one of us has a deep fear or insecurity around something, and it is always caused by our thoughts.   I walk you through where these thoughts come from, the results they are creating in your life, and how you can pick a thought that feels better and gets you closer to experiencing the result you want.   If you want my advice on your situation, please email me at [email protected] If you want to work with my 1:1, you can find my packages at ashliemolstad.com/lifecoaching   And if nothing else, please listen in, leave a review, share this episode with a friend or tag me on social. It means so much that you keep coming back!   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

When you think about your life, what you want to be remembered for, what contributes to it being a good one, who you love, how you spend your time, what your legacy is… those are the things that truly matter to you.   But, what is it you’re thinking about? The catty co-worker? The number on the scale? How you said that dumb thing at the party two weeks ago? That the guy never called you back?   We spend so much time thinking about things that don’t matter, that we’re wasting our life away focused on the wrong things. At least that has been the case for me.   Yes, I have been in a tough season lately, but I am making it tougher because of the stories around what has gone on. I’ve been indulging in self loathing about things that don’t. fucking. matter.   So, tune in to todays show as I share how we can reconcile this and get back on track with our thinking, so that we can live a life we’re excited to wake up for.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Its no secret I’ve been weathering a brutal storm lately. And it got me thinking about how every storm I’ve ever experienced before has been in my favor. Always.   There is always a lesson that is there in the pain. We can’t always see it, especially when we are deep in the suffering… and this is hen we need to rely on the KNOWING that this too, is happening FOR us.   In today’s episode I walk you through some of my past tough seasons and what I learned from them, in hopes to inspire you to dig into your own tough seasons and see how you came out the other side better. And, if you haven’t come out the other side yet, my hope is that this episode will open up some space for you to look for the lesson, to find the growth that comes with the growing pains.   Hang in there, and keep growing, keep evolving, keep raising your own bar. Thats what all this is for after all.   Love you, mean it!   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Well, we made it through the holiday season. Some of us loved every second, and some of us were barely holding on through the chaos… all of us are on the other side of it now. And perhaps, if you’re like me, you picked up a habit or two that aren’t serving you right now.   Maybe you’re drinking more than you’d like, maybe you’re eating more sugar than you’d like, maybe you aren’t moving your body the way you’d like… so, in today’s episode I walk you through how to hit the reset button and regain control. And I like to call it 24 HOURS OF INTENTION.   Focus on your goal/habit for 24 hours. You can do anything for a day. And then, anticipate a temper tantrum in your brain, feel the pain associated with standing up to your primal brain and honoring your highest self… and then, do it again.   No more going through the motions, or walking through life with our brain turned off. Bring intention back, and cultivate a you that you like and love.   If you’re looking for accountability or something a little more structured, I am running a group with my functional nutritionist. It will be a 30 day group, with a 14 day detox in the middle. We’ll cover the art and science of internal wellness (aka, the mind and the body), as well as do live coaching to help you through and get out of it what you want! You can find details for the group/detox here: https://oohwownutrition.practicebetter.io/#/5ef686352a9c2410c45a3958/bookings?c=65943a218958940133970260&step=course   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

I love rituals. And I love believing in magic and something higher than me. I love trusting that I am not alone, and that everything I go through I asked for.    I heard about this ritual that puts a bow on this year we just lived, and brings anticipation for the year to come. The idea is writing down 13 wishes you want for yourself in 2024, but they all need to be something that you would feel comfortable making come true.   I dive deeper into the details of this episode (along with some other sideline stories, because you know me…) and I can’t wait to see how this pans out for you!   If you resonate with this episode, or any, please consider leaving a review and/or sharing this podcast on social. It truly means the world.    Thank you for being such a bright spot in my 2023. I can’t wait to see how we evolve and expand together in 2024! See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Its been a minute since I’ve shared a live coaching call with you. I’ve been having a lot of deeply personal conversation with my clients that have felt best kept private. But, this is a portion of a group coaching call I had in my membership.   This brave woman has been battling a bit with who she is, and thinking perhaps she is too difficult, too emotional, too much for people. I’ve been going through several of these same thoughts lately, so getting to coach her was also a bit of the coaching I needed to give myself.   Join us as we chat through what her brain actually believes and wants, and some through strategies you can employ the next time your brain decides you’re not too special or great either.   I hope you’re taking care of yourself this holiday season and loving you as best you can. It means so much that you’re here with me, doing this work, and trusting in me to help guide any part of it.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Its the most wonderful time of the year, right? So why have I been feeling so low?   A couple weeks ago my depression came on, and it came on strong. There were a few things that seemed to be the catalyst for it, but regardless of why its here, in todays episode I want to share with you what I am doing to manage through it.   I have 8 tips that I have been deploying during this season that help me make sure I am taking care of me and not adding to the list of reasons my brain has for not being good enough.   I do want to make it clear, I am not a medical professional and this isn’t medial advice. If you are experiencing depression (or any other mental illness) I encourage you to reach out to your doctor, or a therapist, and get help. You don’t have to white knuckle it through alone. Asking for help doesn’t make you weak, it makes you STRONGER THAN MOST.   Also, if your emotions and mental health are not in a space where it can handle a discussion about depression, please protect your peace and table this episode for a time when your brain is feeing more open to this.   Lastly, you are loved. You are good. You are absolutely here on purpose. You will get through this.  And I love you so much.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

As we grow, comfort zones and requests grow and change with us. Change is hard. Our brains don’t like it, and the people who are effected by us changing can often struggle with how it impacts them.   As we begin to prioritize ourselves and insource our lives, we might need to pull out of commitments we once were all in on, or set a boundary that had never been enforced before, or create discomfort for people we care about as a result of prioritizing you.   And this feels HARD. But, hard doesn’t mean we’re doing it wrong. As we journey inwards, hard often means we’re finally doing it right… we’re dealing with the right kind of hard.   In todays episode I share what holding space looks like, and why it is such an important piece of growth. Space for you, and space for those around you.   We can’t all think the exact same, nor would we want to. But if we’re not careful, these differences can lead to frustration and resentment… which is never something I’m going to sign up for.   Join me as we walk through the mind a bit on what it means to hold space for change, for other people’s experiences of our change, and for ourselves as we learn and unlearn who we want to be.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

On the surface our fears sound reasonable… I am afraid of confrontation, I am afraid of public speaking, I am afraid of what they’ll say or what they’ll think. You talk to your friends about your fear and mot can relate.   BUT, what if what you’re afraid of isn’t actually what you’re afraid of at all?   In todays episode I offer a different way to look at your fears, to dig deeper, to peel back the layers and see what is hiding underneath that surface fear. And, spoiler alert, its your THOUGHTS.   We’re not *truly* afraid of what’s going on outside of us, as much as we’re afraid of what could go on inside of us. And when we can see and recognize that, it takes some of the power from that fear.   Because with the work we’re doing here on this podcast, and in the world, we know that we are the only masters of our mind. And if our fear is of ourselves, then we have control over it. And man, there is so much power in that!   Join me as we take a look at what your subconscious might be offering, that your conscious mind is actually totally cool with.   See you inside💥   Website: ashliemolstad.com Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad

Episode 49: A Pause for Jane My husband's mom died on Saturday, and nothing has felt right since. I will do another episode on managing though and processing grief at some point, but today I just want to share with you something that has helped me in past times of grief, and I hope that it also brings you some amount of comfort, even if tiny, as you wade through the wreckage of saying a final goodbye to a loved one. Thank you for tuning in. This week, my ask of you is to call your parents, or book the trip, or plan the dinner. I know it's cliche, but these people are so precious, and tomorrow isn’t guaranteed.  Love you, now go love your people (and yourselves) well.  Xo

We all have a lot on our plats. Being busy has been glorified for so long; the hustle culture is strong; rest has been positioned as weakness.. its no wonder we’re all feeling pulled in a thousand directions at any given time.   But, feeling overwhelmed don’t have to be our default operation system. In fact, for nearly all of us, overwhelm isn’t even coming from our to-do lists, but the thoughts we’re thinking.   In todays episode I walk you through how to overcome your overwhelm. How to change the way you’re thinking about what you do, and what you don’t do, so that you can feel more at peace with where you spend your time.   And also, get really clear on the stories you’re telling yourself around how you’re showing up. Because, while you’re believing “I can’t do it. It’s too much. It’s overwhelming.” You’re actually here, DOING IT. You’re showing up, and being a mom, and growing your career, and figuring it all out. You’re fucking doing it. You’re just doing it without any acknowledgment for yourself. Its time we changed all that.   See you inside 💥   Email: [email protected] IG: @ashliemolstad Website: ashliemolstad.com

Welcome to the Insource Podcast - Coming December 1! Together, we’re going to stop being told how to think, look and feel- and instead, go within and BEGIN. I get it. I’ve been there. I’ve gone through life checking the boxes the world told me to - college, smaller body, marriage, house, Botox. I trusted that I was always just one box away from true happiness until I realized it was a fucking hamster wheel. Once I stopped listening to the “experts” and decided the only true expert on me is me, my entire life changed. The Insource Podcast is about learning how to recognize and lean into your internal voice; to learn who YOU are and honoring your discoveries. Get ready to take your journey inside and watch your outside world align to where it was always meant to be. see you inside 💥