If you don't cry or dislike when someone around you cries, does that make you cold hearted? That's just one of the concerns that our listener wanted to tackle this week, as Helen and Katie explore her past childhood experiences and the lasting impact it's had on her ability to express her emotions. TW: Physical abuse of a child You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own family, but is this possible if her mother is still the centre of her world? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Suicide Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the self-described "CEO of the household", she fears that if she steps back, the spinning plates she's been carrying for so long will come crashing down. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in ways she never expected. Listen as Helen and Katie unpick the relational trauma and shame that needed to be shed before Maggie could silence her inner critic and become the parent she wished she had. •⁠  ⁠Do you hate saying no? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help… •⁠  ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else? •⁠  ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?  If that sounds like you, Building Change can help you change all that, whilst giving you a community to do it with. Coming soon - join the waitlist here. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Confused by the family dynamics growing up and the blurred lines between parent and child, our guest this week describes a deep need to understand her past before she can fully move forward. She questions whether she was the golden child or the scapegoat within the family that should have protected her all along. Despite going no contact, she shares her fear of an unexpected run-in or being pushed to reconnect by family members minimising the abuse she experienced. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 65 episodes today on our Patreon page including how to identify if you were the scapegoat, golden child or invisible child in your own family. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) When you've spent your life feeling like you're an 'empath' who's an expert at spotting a lie, what do you do when you can no longer trust your instincts? And is it instinct, or is it trauma? That's the dilemma our guest is facing this week, as she asks how she can trust the opinions and actions of others, when she can no longer trust her own. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're honoured to have been joined by Matylda live this week, who's asking for help with understanding the dynamic of her relationship, and asks how she can avoid the internal despair she feels at the first sign of conflict. Listen to Helen and Katie share their thoughts on respectful disagreement, unpicking conflict and power dynamics, and the importance of repairing the relationship afterwards.  We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our community is front and centre this week, as we answer YOUR questions! From diagnosing a narcissist to how best to support a sibling, we've loved this opportunity to help our lovely Patrons with the questions that are most important to them. Thank you to everyone that asked a question, we wish we could have covered them all! Fancy asking your own question or even a chance to guest-star on the podcast to read your letter? Look out for more info on your exclusive subscriber-only feed over on our Patreon page. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) We're delighted to be joined by ADHD expert and host of the 'I Have ADHD' podcast Kristen Carder this week as she returns to share her personal story of surviving emotional abuse. We talk about how it feels to be forced into a box that simply doesn't fit, and the key takeaways from thousands of hours of therapy that have helped her reconnect with herself and help thousands of clients. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Whether it's because you're no longer fuelling their ego or you're standing up to their manipulative behaviour, being discarded by a narcissist is one of the most devastating things to experience. Originally released exclusively for our Patreon subscribers, we're sharing the 'Discard' episode of The Freudian Slip to everyone this week.  Enjoyed this episode and want to hear more about the cycle of abuse, family roles, healing strategies and so much more? Unlock instant access to over 60 more in-depth episodes just like this one over on our Patreon page. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Calling all people pleasers, this one's for you! This week we're replaying one of our community's favourite episodes, originally released back in January 2023. If this episode is a refresher for you, we'd like to ask you to reflect on what's changed for you over the past 18 months as you listen - we hope this is a valuable exercise for you, and enjoy the episode. Original: The listener this week is struggling to know whether to stay in her relationship. Feeling unseen and unheard but so in love with her partner, she can't make sense of what's acceptable or not.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mention of childhood illness Stuck in a cycle of breaking up and making up, our listener this week reflects that her upbringing may have led to her missing some red flags in her relationship. But as her patience wears thin and she finally breaks away, the situation is complicated by sharing a workplace. Fearful of what he may be saying about her to their colleagues, she asks if it's possible to stay professional and protect herself at the same time. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Find What My Bones Know here (aff link) and the recommended exercise on the trauma bond here. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: mentions of physical abuse, disordered eating and cancer With a family unit split down the middle, our listener this week questions why she was punished simply for not being the same as her sister. Each parent picked their favourite daughter and pitted them against each other, in a competition that was rigged from the start. After adding physical distance and being left all but emotionally abandoned, she asks if her family should have done more to repair their relationship, or is she expecting too much? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: physical abuse, abortion, assault, stalking From reading childhood diaries to mocking her physical appearance, this week's listener was shamed and belittled by her family at every opportunity. Even after reaching milestones her parents never thought her capable of, she's still grappling with the feeling that despite her own beautiful family, she will never be able to let go of the deep sadness that's still holding her back. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Sexual abuse, self-harm This week we hear how our listener is coming to the realisation that she may have been subjected to covert sexual abuse at the hands of her parents. Despite being expected to run the household as a teenager as well as keep her younger sister safe, she's now struggling to connect with her own feelings. Was it really abuse, or is she just being sensitive? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Domestic violence article referenced: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/experts-reveal-how-spot-emotional-33201421 We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) A move back to the family farm soon becomes a nightmare for this week's listener. She describes her demanding mother in law causing a scene at birthday parties, arriving unannounced in a fit of anger and refusing to listen to reason. Despite her husband reaching the end of his tether and cutting ties, our listener asks why she's the one wanting to fix things for the sake of her children. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Violence To those on the outside, our listener's mother has always been the generous, kind and loving parent that's been unfairly denied access to her precious grandchildren. But dig deeper and there's a lifetime of shaming, gaslighting and even excusing physical abuse. Our listener has been given expensive gifts, huge public displays and fancy holidays, but what's the true cost to her and her family? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen joins us on the podcast again this week, this time we're talking about children and grandparents. Do "grandparents' rights" exist? And how can a child be protected from manipulation at the hands of a bitter ex-partner? Find The Legal Queen on TikTok. Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) From spotting insidious emotional abuse in the courtroom to surviving divorce proceedings against a narcissist, we're hearing practical guidance and legal insights from family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen!  This week we're focusing on how to protect yourself during divorce and separation, but fear not - Tracey returns next week to chat about the rights around children and grandparents. Find The Legal queen on TikTok. Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: child loss, sexual assault This week our listener describes living in the shadow of her stillborn sister, as the "replacement child" that didn't stand a chance in a toxic household. Between manipulation and weaponising her disability, her mother has continued to spread the narrative that our listener is volatile, cruel and hateful. She asks if by going no contact, does she really have to lose the family connection she craves? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener begins to spot red flags in her brother-in-law's behaviour, including massive invasions of privacy and public shaming of their children. She's worried his ultra-religious views and need for control have not only traumatised his wife, but her children are at risk too. Our listener asks if her sister is somehow enabling his abuse, and more importanly how can she protect her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can't help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can’t be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she’s questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken’? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week recalls a family conversation about her grandmother’s toxic behaviour. However, her mother is oblivious to how she displayed the same behaviour, and the lasting effects it had on our listener. Despite her mother’s difficult relationship with alcohol and emotional manipulation, our listener doesn’t want to rock the boat by saying how she’s feeling and asks, can there ever be healing in confrontation? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone that doesn't believe they deserve protecting? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) TW: Pregnancy loss Despite a history of cold, abusive behaviour from her mother leading to a trail of broken family bonds, our listener is haunted by the notion that 'life is short'. She is questioning whether she was right to go low contact, or will she regret her decision in the future? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) This week we break from the usual format to talk about one of the most surreal weeks we've had, embarking on a whistlestop media tour of Ireland to launch YNTP! Plus, we make In Sight history as we are actually recording in the same room for the first time - catch the video on YouTube! We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links) As her father prepares to reconcile with her abusive mother, our listener feels like she's at breaking point. Her father begs her to put their differences aside for a family wedding, but she can't put her mental health at risk again. For the sake of her father she asks whether a narcissist is capable of change, or is this yet another spin on their Merry-Go-Round relationship? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ here! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at www.InSightPodcast.com.  

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we chat with previous guest Harriet Shearsmith, author and host of Unfollowing Mum. After Harriet's exclusive early access to 'You're Not the Problem', we hear how the book has impacted her, what she's learned from it and how things have been since we last caught up! In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter  

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we're sharing one of the most popular episodes of our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. As part of our series examining family roles, we take an in-depth look at the child that ISN'T the golden child. We explore the background and the ramifications of this role - enjoy! Content warning: mention of medical procedures/pain   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener explains that no matter the situation or her part in it, she always feels like the problem. She describes her husband as a good man with a warm heart, but struggles to communicate with him in a way that helps him understand her needs. She asks, is it simply different love languages, or something else?  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Content warning: mention of suicide attempt In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener struggles to come to terms with how differently he is treated compared to his sibling. Despite his brother leaving a trail of chaos and personal attacks, their parents seem to do everything they can to avoid holding him accountable. Our listener asks, what happens now? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener describes how she managed to break free from a life dominated by her abusive father under the guise of religion. Despite breaking free, she found herself at the mercy of abusive relationships and being silenced by her enabling mother. As she tries to move forward, she asks how to make peace with the traumatic events of her past. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is questioning whether her husband is emotionally abusive, or are the wounds of her childhood blurring the lines? After years of control and debilitating illness, our listener asks if she should leave - and can she make it on her own if she does? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know how to manage her relationship with her mother. She feels completely invisible, and thinks of herself as an invisible child, but is she? And how does she move forward? Can she have one and hold boundaries? Or is it impossible? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener is struggling to know who she is outside of who she's been told to be. After being in a push pull relationship with a mother who both engulfs and ignores she's left asking...who am I without her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Our listener this week shares some harrowing stories from her childhood and describes the lasting effects she's spent years processing in therapy. Tired of playing happy families to protect the public image, she asks for help envisioning a future where she can be authentic without having to rewrite her past for someone else's benefit. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie catch up with previous letter writers to find out how they're doing since the had their letter read out.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please visit https://insightpodcast.com/podcast/#submit-your-letter

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie interview Casey Smith, social media creator, and host of the podcast 'It's Not Normal', where she explores her own experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it's affected her now. In this episode she asks 'How do I learn to lean into my autonomy after being punished for it for so long?'  Find Casey on all the platforms by clicking here. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon How do you protect children from a father who's diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but there's a court order that says they have to visit? Listen as Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation and how our listener might cope. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Katie and Helen help a listener try to understand what happened in her friendship that became romantic and then became toxic. Can it be saved or is this the end? In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie are releasing an episode from their Patreon show The Freudian Slip. This episode focuses on the Scapegoat child role, and is part one of 4.   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen and Katie break from format again and discuss tips and exercises on how to heal from narcissistic abuse.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week as Helen and Katie get ready for Christmas, they re release episode 41, released this time last year which talks about how to handle gift giving in toxic families at Christmas. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we have a change! Helen and Katie aren't reading a letter, and instead will be discussing about how to survive Christmas in toxic families. Enjoy!  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener  describes a childhood where she was completely invisible unless she was helping her mother. Now as an adult she's struggling in social settings, not sure if she's getting it right, and worrying that her parents were right; she's just oversensitive. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener describes a relationship with her mother where she's completely invisible. After numerous slights, and outrageous behaviour around her father's death, she hasn't seen her mother for 8 months and doesn't know how to move forward. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon After a lifetime of control and manipulation at the hands of her mother, our listener asks why her grandparents are seemingly blind to the abuse she's suffered. Is it possible to keep her family together, and how can she protect her own child from the fallout? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US (affiliate links) For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Why won't this listener's parents stop sending cards, despite the boundaries set. The intrusion and insistence is causing our listener to hide in fear of seeing her father hand deliver the card. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon After years of working on herself through therapy and learning healthy communication, our listener notices a disconnect in her marriage and finds herself walking on eggshells. Is she really triggering her husband, or is there something deeper going on? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks how to date after years of being alone, and an abusive childhood. How do you let someone in when your guard is so up? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

PRE ORDER 'YOU'RE NOT THE PROBLEM' HERE! AMAZON UK, AMAZON US For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks 'they all get along fine, am I missing out?'. After a horrible childhood, with her mother exhibiting a lot of narcissistic traits, her sister seems to have forgiven all and is now controlling the narrative. Our listener is desperate to belong to a family, but at what cost? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! For news, tips and tricks, sign up to the newsletter here :) We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon After suffering years of emotional abuse, and torment by her parents, our listener went no contact. But as her life flourishes she wonders how she will explain to her children about their grandparents and the reason they don't know them.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon What do you do when your narcissistic mother is showing signs of dementia but your enabling father refuses to take her to the doctor? Should you step in and give up your boundaries and potentially suffer the wrath of a parent who has always been quick to find an excuse to attack? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener was abused by her mother, and now realises her mother is abusing her son. She asks how to go no contact? Should she explain or should she just ghost her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener tells the story of her mother stalking her son, her brother and father enabling it and asks 'is there any hope of a relationship with my brother or son?', and how to help her golden grandchild son grieve the loss of his still living grandmother due to her behaviour. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks us how to accept and spot genuine friendship after years of toxic friendships. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Counselling For Toads Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener's mother seems to be changing. Taking responsibility, apologising, and listening to all the listener's complaints. So was she ever toxic, or has our listener been wrong about her all along? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  "Healing The Shame That Binds You" - John Bradshaw Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks 'how can I be closer with my sisters?'. After years of triangulation, and with mum still playing favourites, can they ever be close? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  "Healing The Shame That Binds You" - John Bradshaw Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen & Katie are on holiday so over the next two weeks are sharing their favourite episodes. This week it's Katie's turn, episode 25 - Poisonous Breadcrumbs This week Katie and Helen look at the difference between a narcissistic (not diagnostic) father at home and in public, and the impact that has on a child growing up. And they ask Who is Mum protecting? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  "Healing The Shame That Binds You" - John Bradshaw Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen & Katie are on holiday so over the next two weeks are sharing their favourite episodes. This week it's Helen's turn, episode 4 -  Autism or Narcissism Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  "Healing The Shame That Binds You" - John Bradshaw Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! In Sight's Amazon Store! We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here. 

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Helen & Katie help a listener understand how she can help her Golden Child brother and if it is even possible? Is there hope and how can our scapegoat listener protect herself? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  "Healing The Shame That Binds You" - John Bradshaw Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week Katie & Helen hear from a listener who feels as though she is betraying her parents by writing to into the podcast, but desperately wants to know to know how to keep herself as the adult in the presence of her parents? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now!   We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks whether she won't be free of her parents until they die. Struggling with that feeling, and worried it makes her seem that she wants them to die, she asks for help understanding the relationships, and what sort of person she could be for feeling this way.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Listen to Helen on Woman's Hour here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener tries to understand her colleague's behaviour and what she can do to manage the situation.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener wants to know how to hold boundaries around money with her mum, without getting discarded. Is it even possible?   Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks if she should go no contact with her enabling mum. But is mum an enabler, or is something else going on? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week we are releasing an episode of the Freudian Slip our Patreon show because we are on holiday! Have a listen and if you want to here more and belong to our patreon, please click here. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener struggles to know if she's being two faced for taking financial support from her mum despite having strong feelings about the way her mum has treated her.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener wants to try and keep a relationship with her mum and grandma, but after a life of boundaries being broken, emotional abuse, a sister who has gone no contact, is it possible to do so without jeopardising her own mental health? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Our listener this week asks if after a lifetime of being ignored, rejected, left alone with her dying father - is she justified in ghosting her mother? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener tries to understand how nobody seems to challenge her mother's behaviour, or even see it. After a life of neglect, abandonment and abuse, our listener stepped away until the death of her mother's partner pulled her back in. Observing the situation, she couldn't help but notice that in spite of mum's toxic behaviour, everyone seemed to love her. Why? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks 'if I'm the one that's changing, is it me that's the problem?'. After a difficult childhood staying invisible but bound by family loyalty, a mother running up debts in her name, and facing single parenthood unsupported at 18years old, our listener got married. Now with another child, and having worked on herself, her marriage has shown in a new light. Whenever there's conflict he tells her 'you're a psychopath, you need help'. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks 'Why do I find sex so difficult?' After a lifetime of intrusion our listener now freezes when sex is intimated.  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks Katie and Helen to untangle the confusing feelings she has towards her mother in the wake of her father's death. How can she feel such anger and such love at the same time? Was her mother a victim of dad's narcissism or a colluder of abuse? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week our listener asks whether she should go no contact after describing a lifetime of emotional abuse from what she suspects is a narcissistic mother. But what about her dad? A cancelled wedding, a declaration of loyalty, but ultimately, the greatest betrayal. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon This week the lovely Harriet Shearsmith (host of Unfollowing Mum podcast, author of 'Mummin' It' and Toby&Roo on instagram) join Katie and Helen to read her letter, and answer the question 'does the healing ever end?' Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon What do you do when your stepmother insists you treat her as though she was your biological mother? After her mother died when she was 2, our listener's dad married a woman who insisted she was called mum, and everyone pretend that she was the bio mum. Years of emotional abuse follow, and now our listener asks how she can detach herself from her parents. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon After years and years of emotional abuse our listener faces a dilemma. Now her mother is in a care home and her health is failing, she has no feelings at all. However, she doesn't want to abandon her brother to look after their mother alone. How can she manage this situation without hurting herself or others? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Helen and Katie are having a little break so are sharing an episode from their bonus show 'The Freudian Slip', available on Patreon. Learn all about triangulation and how to expose it. For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener asks what's happening in her marriage and is she unreasonable to want to leave? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener struggles to put boundaries in with her father who always acts hurt and wounded when she does. After a lifetime of being depended on emotionally by him, she asks, how can I have healthy boundaries with him? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  For our bonus show The Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

TW: Covert Sexual Abuse/Shaming of sexuality This week our listener is trying to answer the same question so many of us ask....should I just get over it? Are they right? Kicked out at 19 for being with a same sex partner, our listener describes a childhood full of contol and shaming.  Now as an adult when she tries to put in boundaries around contact, her mother flies off the handle and rages at our listener for trying to do so. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen answer our listener's letter asking about what went wrong with her friend. From being 'soulmates' to keeping secrets that wounded her, our listener struggles to separate her responsibility and her friends'. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.  

This week, Katie and Helen interview Jo Reader and Cat Chappell, two amazing therapists who are experts on and trainers in Fatphobia.  Listen as they discuss how fatphobia exists in society, and how narcissistic parents exploit it to dominate and control their children, and hopefully to help you start challenging some of those narratives yourself.   Find more information and sign up to workshops with Jo and Cat by clicking here. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener has a very difficult decision to make. Should she invite her mother to her wedding to protect her sisters, or should she maintain her 7 years no contact to protect herself?  Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult decision from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.  For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.  

This week our listener asks for help navigating the relationships with her sisters who seem to exclude and belittle her, and aren't sharing her joy for a long tried for pregnancy. Katie and Helen look at what's going on and offer advice and insight in trying to move forward.  For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Our listener this week is fighting to get away from her narcissitic mother who has been demanding our listener pays for her living expenses. Katie and Helen look at what's been going on since childhood and offer insight on how to escape.    For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Or is she a narcissist? This week Katie and Helen look at our listener's letter to help understand narcissistic behaviour and traits. Listen in as they give insight into healthy and unhealthy communication and behaviour.  For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Does their trauma justify their behaviour? This week our listener asks if she should break no contact, due to understanding that her parent's behaviour is driven by trauma.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

The listener this week is struggling to know whether to stay in her relationship. Feeling unseen and unheard but so in love with her partner, she can't make sense of what's acceptable or not.  Katie and Helen pick apart what's going on, where it came from and how to move forward.    In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener asks how to help her son, the golden grandchild cope with her choice to go no contact with her mother, his grandmother.  We explore how our listener's mother destroys boundaries over and over again, and how she prioritsed her image above her daughter's safety, and her grandchildren's safety. When things come to a head because the mother sides with our listener's abusive ex husband our listener has no choice but to go no contact with her mother. Feeling certain she's doing the right thing, she's now faced with supporting the grief of her son who misses the 'loving grandma' who adored him, but ignored his siblings. What can she do? In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.  

TW DISCUSSION OF SUICIDE. This week Katie and Helen explore what demands the decision to go no contact? Our listener is trying to decide whether to go no contact with her mother before she tries for a baby after realising her mother has completely supressed her growth and identity, smeared her father, and enmeshed our listener completely.  Now realising how toxic mum has been, our listener is fighting the FOG to find herself and protect her future family, and future self. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.  

This week we are releasing an episode of The Freudian Slip all about the enabling parent, what it looks like and how to come to terms with the grief of realising that the safe parent perhaps wasn't what they seemed.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week we discuss how to make changes that stick, how comparison is the thief of joy, and general observations about the traps we fall into over the New Years expectations and demands we make upon ourselves. We also look at how you can beat January blues and get throught the worst month of the year.   In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week instead of reading a letter, we are looking at how to survive Christmas with toxic families. We talk about meeting your own needs, saying no, and facing the grief of Christmas whether from bereavement or isolation due to the smear campaign.  In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing new cookbook Enjoy here now! Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Is it rude to reject gifts? Is it rude to say 'thanks for thinking of me, but this isn't really to my taste?' Katie and Helen discuss this weeks letter and where the social rules and boundaries allow people to victimise us through gift giving. Our listener this week is asked for expensive gifts but given broken, used and unusable gifts each year. Now, as her small child is being given gifts that are dangerous and age inappropriate, she asks us, am I being rude? Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Our listener this week was constantly side swiped by news about her absent father's new children, and relied on heavily by her mother to parent her younger siblings. Now as an adult with a life and career of her own, still supporting her youngest sibling we answer the question - How do we live with the grief of estrangement, and how on earth do we build a lasting sense of self-worth and self-esteem. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen look at what happens when a scapegoat is forced to comply with the demands of narcissistic family members, running a business they didn't want, being punished for doing it well, and expected to ignore vile treatment from her father, and host Christmas dinner. Join us on facebook! - A private group for support and community Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen read a letter from a listener who thinks she's a scapegoat, but is she? As ever they offer their insight and advice on how to cope with the situation. Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen answer a letter describing a therapist who shows complete disregard for the therapeutic boundaries, leading to feelings of confusion, guilt, shame and abandonment from our listener who asks - was my therapist abusive? Katie and Helen discuss the situation and offer ideas on how to move forward, and explain what a healthy therapeutic relationship looks like. To find a qualified therapist please use the following websites: UK: BACP UKCP Ireland: IACP.ie Helen's therapist directory Helen's Amazon Store - for book recommendations and mindful activities We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener is an only child trying to find a way to manage boundaries with her 'relenteless' parents. Their constant disrespect of her needs and boundaries, and total disinterest in her life has our listener desperate for a different life with them.  Katie and Helen discuss the situation and offer ideas on how to move forward. Helen's Amazon Store We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

The invisible child is the rarest of family roles, and this week Katie and Helen identify a listener who may be just that. Listen to understand how the narcissistic parent impacts relationships past and present.  Helen's Amazon Store We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen are sharing the recording of the live Q&A they did earlier this month. Questions were submitted by attendees. Enjoy!  Helen's Amazon Store We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen look at whether our listener's mother is also showing signs of narcissism, and the difference between overt and covert traits. Helen's Amazon Store We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week we loook at how a mother relies on her daughter to manage dad's feelings. Our listener has spent years believing she's the golden child, but is she? Gabor Mate - The Body Says No The Body Keeps the Score We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week our listener asks is it trauma or narcissism? Katie and Helen answer the question and look at what's going on and how to manage it. Link to the book I'm glad My Mom Died We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen look at the relationship between a Mother and Daughter in Law, and how the Daughter in Law is being scapegoated by her MIL for 'stealing' the son.  They look at where the boundaries are and how to change the dynamic. We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Katie and Helen answer one of the most common question survivors ask themselves. The listener is struggling to understand the relationships in her family and what her part is in the dynamic.  We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

This week Helen and Katie answer questions put forward by the Patreon members! To join the patreon see below!  We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

Our listener this week struggles to understand the dynamics of their relationship.Denied children because she wasn't a good enough stepmother, and called 'sexless' for not making more effort with intimacy. As she hides part of herself to keep the peace she asks us: Are her expectations too high? Is she being emotionally abused? And will she be responsible if she leaves and he hurts himself? As ever, psychotherapists Helen Villiers & Katie McKenna explain what's happening and how to move forward. **** TW: This episode discusses suicide and the threat of suicide as a manipulation tactic in relationships**** We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] This episode is edited by Sam Atkinson you can contact him here.

How can one little boundary spark total abandonment? This week our listener asks whether to tolerate her mother's behaviour for the sake of her young son, after her mother abandoned her for saying no.  We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen look at the difference between a narcissistic (not diagnostic) father at home and in public, and the impact that has on a child growing up. And they ask Who is Mum protecting? We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight! And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen answer the question 'can two narcissists marry?' and what that looks like. We look at what happens when one parent is loudly abusive, and when the other is quietly so.  TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses suicide. We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight!

This week Katie and Helen answer a letter about workplace bullying, and how a pattern in childhood is repeated with a boss.  We're writing a book!! Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight!  

This week a listener asks Helen and Katie where's the line of being supportive versus being exploited. The listener asks how she can prevent herself getting into another abusive listener, to which Katie and Helen hand out some brutal truths. Heard the big news? Sign up here for more information as it comes! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. Mugs, Bags, Hoodies all from In Sight!

She thought he was her soulmate. And then her attention was pulled elsewhere, and his true colours started to show.  This week's listener is struggling with separation from her partner who turned out to be someone completely different to who she thought he was. Katie and Helen look at what's happening and what the listener can do in her situation.  This week's episode is sponsored by Libsyn! The podcast host we use to publish. They're brilliant! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon For Etsy click here. If you have a problem accessing the shop please come back later! Thank you :) 

Our listener this week has her boundaries constantly eroded by her mother, her children are weaponised against her and she is constantly fighting for fairness. Katie and Helen reflect on the listener's attempts to hold her ground, and offer support and advice on how to set boundaries with what appears to be a narcissistic mother.   This week's episode is sponsored by Libsyn! The podcast host we use to publish. They're brilliant! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon

Our listener this week was constantly put in the impossible position of having to choose between which parent to take sides with to keep her safe. We look at the behaviour then and now, and how being raised by these parents is jeopardising her emotional safety and relationships now.  This week's episode is sponsored by Libsyn! The podcast host we use to publish. They're brilliant! We now have Instagram! Click here to follow, and send messages to be read on the show. For the Freudian Slip and to support us please go to our Patreon

This week, Katie and Helen answer a letter from a listener who helped raise her siblings, and is now struggling without support from her mother to raise her own babies. Suffering huge abandonment, the writer is struggling to break the cycle of parenting inflicted on her to be the gentle parent her children need. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] Helen's You Tube

This week Helen and Katie look at what happens when anger isn't given room to breathe, and when it's misplaced. We help the listener understand her unresolved anger and where it comes from, and how to heal it. This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901 To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] Helen's You Tube

This week it's all about the smoke and mirrors the narcissistic parent uses to control and dominate their children. We look at their self awareness and how they use the little they have to manipulate those around them.  This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901 To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] Helen's You Tube

This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901 This week we are sharing with you an episode of The Freudian Slip - the show normally reserved for our Patreon. This episode is about Gaslighting, but by joining the patreon (click here) you can get episodes on: Motivational Empathy, Love Bombing, The Trauma Bond , Stonewalling, Hoovering, and Triangulation. Episodes are released every other monday. To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] Helen's You Tube

This week Katie and Helen look at what happens when one person is giving everything, and the other person refuses to move in relationships. The repeating pattern of servitude to men set in childhood by a narcissistic father plays out in the listeners current relationship.  This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901   To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected] Helen's You Tube

This week Katie and Helen discuss what happens when your parent tries to keep you too close. This episode discusses covert sexual abuse, please be cautious if necessary.  This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901   To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

TW: This epidsode contains discussion of Sexual Assault and Suicide. Please look after yourself. This week Katie and Helen look at how noticing one toxic relationship reveals many more around us, and discuss the impact of seeing these patterns and how to cope with the changes.  This week's episode is sponsored by Hello Fresh! Find your discount here: https://hellofresh-uk.648q.net/c/3408033/651733/7901   To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

What's in a name? Katie and Helen have their first fight! (Don't worry it's all okay in the end!) This week they deconstruct perfection, answering a listener's letter about finding her feet with her family in it's new presentation, and how to protect happy occasions from negativity. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen answer a listener who is venturing into their first relationship after leaving a narcissistic family. They talk about sex, body autonomy, boundaries and finding love after being raised in a toxic family system. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen discuss the impact of growing up with a parent who doesn't allow any emotional responses that aren't aligned with their own; and discuss the right to be angry. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen address forgiveness and whether it's important to healing.  To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen look at the impact of becoming a mini therapist to a mother, dealing with a father leaving and only staying in touch with the golden child sibling, all at the age of 10.  They look at the desire for freedom, and mum's refusal to grant it; the listener's husband's lack of support; and the hope and bravery shown by the listener. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To view our merch go to our brand new Etsy shop!  To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week Katie and Helen look at a familiar story. From the outside our listener grew up privilege - private school, horses and a nice house. But from the inside, it was a facade. The listener describes the loneliness and fear in childhood, the need to defend her father and brother, and the fight with enmeshment and hope for change now. Listen as Katie and Helen explain how financial privilege often facilitates abuse, and how the listener can start to protect herself.   To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week our listener struggles to find the boundaries with her brother, 16 years her junior. When he was born she was a second mother to him, and now she's unsure of what her role is to him. Katie and Helen look at the impact of the responsibility imposed on the listener, and how she might learn to sit in a new role - his sister.  To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week a listener asks is it Autism or Narcissism? Katie and Helen discuss and explain why and how Autism is different to Narcissism and use the examples in the letter to show the difference. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]    

This week Katie and Helen answer a listener's question about how the growing up in their family affects their current relationships, both personally and professionally.  TRIGGER WARNING: This episode mentions suicide, suicide threats, physical, verbal and emotional abuse. To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

This week, Katie and Helen look at a letter from a listener who feels the boundaries in relationships are blurred and where their feelings are invalidated and derided by friends and family. Is this tough love, or something else? To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

S struggles to vocalise her thoughts and feelings in argument with her husband. Katie and Helen look at why that might be and how it might be changed.  To support us, and for bonus content, please explore our patreon (click here) To find us on facebook click here (https://www.facebook.com/InSightThePodcast) And to submit your own question, please email [email protected]

It's coming! The first episode will be released on 11/3/22 8am GMT