Sara Dimerman in conversation with Farhana Adatia. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Trauma and betrayal, especially in regards to couples relationships Some physical and emotional symptoms of trauma following betrayal The most common forms of betrayal in couples relationships Some of the ways that one can be helped by a professional following betrayal How to respond to a friend who has been betrayed Whether or not an individual, or couple, can ever reclaim their relationship as it once was, or make it even better Books/resources that can help

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Phyllis Taylor. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Phyllis Taylor and what led to writing her book How well equipped Ontario's prison system is to rehabilitate offenders Issues that prisons seem either well or poorly equipped to handle Whether prisons are best suited for certain offenders and not the right place for others With crime on the rise, what Phyllis recommends in regards to keeping our streets safe

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lesley Rosenthal about saying goodbye to a beloved pet. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How saying goodbye to a beloved pet is different to or the same as saying goodbye to a beloved human family member or friend What to keep in mind when making the decision to euthanize Whether to include children in the decision to euthanize your pet Knowing when the time is "right" to say goodbye Some options when euthanizing one's pet Whether or not children should be present for the euthanasia Some options in regards to burial or cremation of one's pet, for example What's "normal" in regards to your feelings in the days, weeks and months following the passing of your pet Some ways of memorializing or honouring one's pet If there are other pets at home, what changes might you see in them following the loss of their companion Resources: University of Guelph's Ontario Veterinary College guide for coping with the loss of a pet Midtown Mobile Veterinary Hospice Services

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Alexandra Jai about about drumming out our feelings. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Alexandra's personal journey and how drumming allowed her to express her feelings and heal when she needed it most Mindful breath, mindful movement and mindful hand drumming and how, by integrating breath, body and beat we may experience rhythm bliss Finding one's rhythm zone and how to clear the unhelpful chatter in our heads

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Kimberly Gawne about homeschooling. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What homeschooling means Whether there's an age or grade at which it's best to begin homeschooling Whether homeschooling is the right choice for every child and family The benefits of homeschooling Whether there are any drawbacks to homeschooling, including the possibility of less socialization Whether or not one needs to have a background in education or working with children in order to homeschool them Whether or not children who are homeschooled typically continue with homeschooling into high school How older teens, entering college or university programs after being homeschooled, fare, socially and academically, for example

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Stephanie Gutnik about how recent grads can prepare themselves for the working world. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether it's normal or not to feel fearful about what lies ahead? Whether or not most people find that "right" job and one that they love right away Whether the work culture as we now know it - often hybrid or completely remote - is a detriment to young people going into the working world or of benefit to them Whether or not there's a difference between a "job" and a "career" How much should monetary compensation be taken into consideration when accepting a job What Stephanie wishes others would have told her when she first began working

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Carol Mott about the power of perseverance in one's healing process. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What took place on April 21st, 2022 when Carol suffered a spontaneous hemorrhage in her spine which caused paralysis from the waist down What happened in the days and weeks following that very sudden and shocking experience What impact her state of mind had on her recovery Some of the most notable factors that contributed towards her persevering each day Support systems that helped her most The power of perseverance in her healing process

Sara Dimerman in conversation with medical student Tera Armel about her personal journey on retraining her brain to manage chronic pain. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Neuroplastic pain What happened to Tera during her final year of undergrad at university and how her life changed after that Interventions to manage pain and how they helped or didn't How mental health is impacted by chronic pain Additional resources: The Way Out, by Alan Gordon with Alon Ziv Curable Mayim Bialik and Alan Gordon

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Rich Padulo. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Treat Accessibly, when and how it got started and its future goals How Treat Accessibly has grown over the years and the support it is receiving from communities and organizations How you can learn more about Treat Accessibly and what you can can do to get involved

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Larissa Mills. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why cell phones should be banned at school Whether, other than school, they should be banned elsewhere The impact of putting cell phones in the hands of toddlers or pre-schoolers The impact of cell phones on children's physical, psychological and social growth Whether it's ever too late to turn things around ie how parents can work towards breaking their child's dependence on cell phones or technology, in general How parents and schools can work together for the betterment of children's health

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Laura Loli-Dano. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The five universal WHO (World Health Organization) QualityRights Standards and why they matter in the context of self or a loved one receiving care How being fully aware of people's human rights, in the context of health care systems, no matter how burdened the health care systems are, helps make informed and people-centred decisions The importance of increased awareness of quality rights - on the part of people receiving care, their loved ones', and health care personnel, especially in settings such as the mental health sector where people's exercising of their rights is often limited or infringed upon What we can do to make sure that human rights are at the heart of care in an overburdened health care system

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Sandee Sharpe. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What the word "retire" conjures up for most people Whether retirement is different now to what it was like decades ago What most people typically look forward to Some of the more typical concerns that people have as they move closer to retirement How we can begin to navigate changes successfully The impact on others such as when a couple retires together or one retires while the other continues doing what they’ve been doing for years Some dos and don'ts to consider in one's retirement phase of life

Sara Dimerman in conversation with psychologist Sarah Chana Radcliffe. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What a tic disorder means The connection between a tic disorder and Tourette Syndrome Whether there is a typical age at which tics present themselves Whether or not gender is a factor Why tics occur Typical treatment approaches for tics and by whom Sarah Chana's latest book, No More Tics and how to use it Some dos and don'ts when you're around someone with a tic disorder

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Registered Social Worker Clarissa Kennedy. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What a food addiction means Whether or not it differs from other addictions, such as to alcohol or gambling, for example Whether or not it is recognized as an addiction in diagnostic manuals that mental health professionals refer to If food addiction falls under the same category as an eating disorder and how it differs from other eating disorders such as binge eating Whether or not some people might be more vulnerable when it comes to developing an addiction to food and why Some signs that one might be grappling with a food addiction How to manage a food addiction Some of the ways in which food addiction is treated What special training someone with an eating addiction should look for in a therapist when they are seeking help Resources: The Hunger-Satiety Scale Food Addiction Institute Sugar-Free For Life Support: I'm Sweet Enough Sugarbomb in your Brain Sugar and Carbs Anonymous (SCAA) (Molly) Sugar Sober Support Group Fridays at 1pm EST Hunger Scale Hunger Gauge

Sara Dimerman in conversation with author Julie Starr. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Julie's personal story with the intention of helping other women feel less alone, to know that what they are feeling is normal and to prepare them for what lies ahead. Practical advice for women who are also parents, how to break the news of a separation to kids and how to manage one's feelings towards an ex when you're around them. How to live your better life after divorce Tools for transitioning from being in a marriage to living without your partner.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with author Ailsa Keppie. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How Ailsa's journey into another culture and customs helped her to become more aware and sensitive towards cultural differences How her experiences helped her when working with others as a healer What Ailsa believes are the most compelling messages throughout her book Why she chose to leave the culture she adopted and return home

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Riina Bray. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What Multiple Chemical Sensitivity (MCS) means The difference between an allergy and a sensitivity Some of the signs and symptoms of MCS How to go about getting this confirmed and the benefits of knowing that you have MCS Whether most people who are sensitive to one chemical are likely sensitive to more or all Some of the more common chemical sensitivities The impact that having MCS has on one's physical, social, emotional and psychological well being The impact that MCS has on one's relationship with a partner or children Whether there are any known causes or triggers for MCS Where people with MCS may go to get help or treatment Options available to help people with MCS Whether most people with MCS eventually live so called "normal" lives

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Alex Korb. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The difference between being sad versus depressed The varying degrees of depression Some of the most typical symptoms of depression How to go about figuring out if you are clinically depressed or not What causes one to be depressed The connection between depression and anxiety The connection between depression and sleep Whether or not someone can experience periods of depression even if they are typically not prone to being depressed Best treatment approaches How family members can help someone living with depression Hope after depression

Sara Dimerman in conversation with author, Lynda Faye Schmidt, on healing: from the inside out. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Lyndas' book, The Healing, and how closely her life resembles that of Cate's - the main character who leaves an abusive marriage after 26 years. What Lynda experienced in her first marriage and how she found the strength and courage to leave. The mixture of emotion that Lynda felt when leaving her home and city, especially since her youngest child, then 18, was remaining behind with his father. How Lynda's children were able to show compassion and kindness towards their father, despite being exposed to their parent's dysfunctional relationship. How Lynda's exposure to living with loved ones with mental illness has impacted her personally. How writing, along with other factors such as building close relationships and travel have contributed to her healing.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Psychologist, Dr. Jemma Helfman, on what we know about selective mutism and how to help children overcome it. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What selective mutism means How it differs from mutism Some of the reasons that children become selectively mute Whether there's a typical age at which selective mutism occurs Whether selective mutism is something that most educators and parents are familiar with and if not, what they might think is happening with their child or student when they don’t talk Whether children with selective mutism typically don't talk both at home and school The best approach to treating selective mutism The availability of therapists who treat selective mutism across Canada What parents can do to help Whether it's advisable for a child to be told about his/her diagnosis Dr. Jemma Helfman recommends: The Feelings Place Confident Kids Camp Toronto Selective Mutism Association Dr. Steven Kurtz in New York is one of the leaders in the field and there are lots of videos for parents on his website. Confident Kids Camp Michigan

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lisa Tabachnick, about the impact that being a Highly Sensitive parent has on you and your kids. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What being a Highly Sensitive Person or parent means Some of the characteristics of being a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) The difference between being sensitive and highly sensitive How identifying and owning this trait helps you help yourself How it helps you understand how it impacts your kids Whether or not it's a good idea to share being an HSP with your kids Additional resources: Dr. Aron's web site. All her books and other resources are listed on the site. Workbook for highly sensitive people Lisa's private Facebook group for HSP Parents Lisa's Facebook page, KidsAndMentalHealth

Sara Dimerman in conversation with anger management specialist, Nicole Ali, about how to manage your anger rather than letting it manage you. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether or not anger is a "bad" emotion. How to distinguish between when we're feeling frustrated and agitated, for example, versus when we're feeling angry. Physiological triggers for feeling angry such as hunger, for example. Whether or not an angry temperament is inborn or learnt. The difference between being aggressive and assertive. Some of the most typical environmental triggers that lead to anger in everyday life. Whether or not other people have the power to make you feel angry. How we can tell that our anger is managing us rather than the other way around. Some steps and strategies for managing anger. More about The Anger Managers and how they can help.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with psychiatrist and author, Dr. Joan Tucker, about finding your way back to work after a mental health break. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether there's been a change in the number of people who are taking a mental health leave from work during the pandemic When taking time away from work, what is recommended so that this time off is as productive as possible Taking time away from school due to mental health concerns Whether or not most people return to work or school after taking a mental health leave Exploring options other than a return to what one was doing before Joan's books and how they can help

Sara Dimerman in conversation with video gaming addiction expert and author, Elaine Uskoski, about how to successfully battle video gaming addiction. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Some of the red flags that you or someone you know may be addicted to video gaming The best approach if a parent suspects that their teen or young adult may be addicted to video gaming Factors that may contribute to someone developing a gaming addiction How to successfully battle video gaming addiction and maintain sobriety Support and information around managing technology from the time that children are very young Elaine and her son's personal journey How Elaine's books can help Supports for video gaming addicts and their families Elaine's resources: www.gamequitters.com CAMH for 8 week group: Problem Gambling and Technology Use Treatment Services Intenta

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman about the impact of stopping and starting school during the pandemic. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The impact that this has had on parents, students and teachers. Some of the most challenging aspects of both having kids at home with their parents 24/7 in addition to online learning. What parents and teachers can do to help support kids when they are asked to stay away from school. whether there will be gaps in learning or whole years worth of learning lost as a result of how going back and forth to school has been managed. How parents can best equip themselves to help their kids prepare to go with the flow. What strategies, plans and resources can be put in place to support the current climate of education - in Ontario, Canada and around the world. Janyce recommends these additional resources: WindowSwap - New name for this now VERY popular site. Anyone can join in and broadcast their own view for free if they wish. Here's the backstory which really contextualizes it: What is WindowSwap?. Toddler who sees world through hand sanitizer stations... really says it all!

Sara Dimerman in conversation with sexual health educator and consultant, Carly Basian about how to promote healthy sexual development, from toddlers to teens. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why it's important that teachers and parents understand how to promote healthy sexual development in children. How young is too young to begin communicating in a way that supports and promotes healthy sexual development in children and ways to do so in everyday life. Stages of development - from toddlers to teens - and how each stage requires something new or different in order to continue to promote positive and healthy sexual development. What a parent should be on the lookout for in their teenager – for reassurance that they are going in the right direction in regards to healthy sexual development. Some warning signs or red flags that there are gaps in children's sexual development and how to fill them. How parents and teachers can work together in fostering what children need to know when developing sexually Resources for parents and educators Additional resources: Photoshop transformation ("Dove Evolution" - this was part of a campaign Dove put out) Resources on Carly's website Planned Parenthood Ophea (Ontario Physical and Health Education Association)

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lauren Barrett about how to live through loss. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The different kinds of loss that we are likely to experience in our lifetime How unexpected or sudden loss differs from loss that is anticipated Emotions experienced by most human beings after someone close to them dies Whether or not it's typical for people to expect to overcome their loss within a certain time frame The guilt that people may feel for being alive and for continuing to live and potentially feel joy after losing someone very significant in their lives and how they can work towards experiencing some happiness again The discomfort that one might feel when talking to someone who is mourning a loss and some of the best ways to comfort them

Sara Dimerman in conversation with dating coach, Damona Hoffman, on the do's and don'ts of dating. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The role of a dating coach Whether dating is different in your fifties or sixties compared to your twenties or thirties, for example How dating is different now compared to decades ago Whether or not men and women approach dating differently How dating is different now that we are living through a pandemic How people can continue to grow their relationship, despite Covid Whether or not soulmates are a real thing Some do's and don'ts of dating

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Brent Edwards, about helping newcomers understand Canadian business culture. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How Brent Edwards got to where he's at in his career today and more about how he helps people who have recently immigrated to Canada What most surprises newcomers to about Canadian business culture The value of networking and how it's done Important things for newcomers to note when adapting to Canadian business culture

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Giselle Bloch, about understanding the transgender world, from a parent's perspective. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Understanding words used in the LGBTQ+ community and beyond, such as transgender and cisgender, non binary and pronouns they/them. The difference between gender identity and sexuality. Giselle's personal experience as a parent of a transgender son. The stages of transition for transgender folks. Some of the uncomfortable questions people have asked Giselle along the way and advice on a sensitive way to discuss a child transitioning with their parent. How to guide a transgender adult child to advocate for themselves and how to educate family members - grandparents, for example, who might not understand or might be judgemental. Support systems that are in place for transgender youth and their parents/families. How actors such as Jeffrey Tambor who played a transgender role on Transparent, Laverne Cox on Orange is the New Black and reality TV stars Caitlyn Jenner and Jazz on I Am Jazz helped to raise people's awareness of what being transgender means.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Jayni Bloch, about how to tap into your creative and intuitive self. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Jayni, her work and some of her creative endeavours What tapping into one's creative and intuitive self means Whether the creative and intuitive parts of one's self are connected and if so, how Whether everyone has the potential to tap into these parts of oneself and if so, how What a therapist can do to facilitate this and why it's helpful for oneself and interpersonal relationships

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Shir Azari, about how song soothes the soul. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Shir's journey, from a young child to where she is today How song soothes Shir's soul, why she thinks song soothes others' souls and what it is about music that inspires or evokes emotion in us Supports in Shir's life and whether being able to pursue her passion has been impacted by having them in her life Shir's mental health concerns and how this inspired her to write her recently released song, Not Alone Shir's future plans

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Jane Doucet, about finding your recipe for career satisfaction. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Jane's career path Her ingredients for career satisfaction Her books, why she became an author and wrote her books in particular Whether it matters where you're living or who you're living with in regards to career satisfaction Whether someone can be equally as satisfied with their career when they start out as when they're thirty years older, for example What Jane recommends to someone who is not satisfied with their career

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Allison O'Connor, about her journey towards adopting a child internationally. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Allison's life before adopting Cameron Whether an international adoption was what she had always planned on How old Cameron was when she adopted him and some of her experiences before and after he was born Cameron's growing up years and what he's up to now How she shared Cameron's story with him and at what age What it was like for them to meet his birth mother in 2019 What not to say to a parent of a child who may have been adopted Supports in place for parents and children who have been adopted internationally Allison's Dreams Come True Music Studio in London, Ontario

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Samantha Kemp-Jackson about parenting through pain. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Samantha's parenting and career journey as the mom of four An incident that led to her being physically incapacitated and how this impacted her ability to parent as she once did How Lupus has made parenting more challenging Resources that have been helpful How to tell the kids about your pain as a parent and typical ways in which they respond What impact parenting with pain has on children and family Samantha's recommendations to other parents who may be challenged by physical or mental health conditions or living with chronic pain

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman about how students, parents and teachers are adjusting to the "new normal" of learning. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The challenges that students and teachers are facing such as eye strain, irritability and fatigue Mid-term difficulties as a result of students switching back into the classroom after being online and vice-versa Some of the social concerns students are facing, both online and in the classroom The confusion over symptoms such as a runny nose or fever that may necessitate or be considered when evaluating whether to keep kids that are going to school, home Changes to testing and homework policies How to plan ahead and adapt to the "new normal" Empowerment and how important it is for parents and teachers to let kids know that their voices are being heard during these challenging times Janyce recommends locallove.ca: Your guide to living well and doing good.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Brittany Shields about helping post secondary students find the "right" career path. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How typical it is for graduating high school students not to know what they want to do when they grow up, so to speak How typical it is for undergraduate students who are considering taking further steps by applying to a Masters or post graduate program, to still not know what they want to do with the rest of their lives Whether a "gap" year is sometimes a good idea and how students can be most productive during this time off so that they are better equipped to apply to a program of choice or go into the working world at the end of the gap period How typical it is for post secondary students to leave their program part way through and some of the reasons this happens What to do when someone has few interests and a low level of motivation What to do when someone has too many interests, ideas and possibilities and how they can fine tune their direction How students who know what they want to "be" can figure out what will get them there How important it is that one be university or college educated in order to be successful, feel productive and have career satisfaction Some ways students or young adults can figure out their career path

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Ann Douglas about strategies to support your family's mental health this Winter. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Ann's personal journey and how this impacts what she writes about Ann's work as a mental health advocate Why our mental health is more affected by the Winter months Why this is especially relevant during Covid Some strategies to support your family’s mental health this Winter How to make the best of the holiday season despite not being able to partake in activities with others or do what we typically do

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Suzy Rosenstein about helping women manage midlife masterfully. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How Suzy came to work with women in midlife, and why What is midlife and does "crisis" always have to happen? Some of the issues that women encounter around midlife The positives to midlife and how to manage it masterfully

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Naomi Nurgitz about how to live in the moment. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Best approaches to slowing down and feeling more grounded in the present Why it's so important for our mental health to live in the now How long it may take to get good at learning how to live in the moment

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Amy Kung-Oliver about the human-animal bond. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The path that Amy walked down to where she is today as the owner and operator of an alpaca farm Her experience when children with special needs come to visit the alpacas at her farm Her bond with the other animals on her farm and the relationship she's seen between the volunteers at her farm and the animals that live there The benefits to bonding with animals

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Heather Skoll about simple solutions to everyday stressors. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why the Reset Zone app was created How to use the app What it provides for people coping with everyday stressors

Sara Dimerman in conversation with science fiction writer, Robert J Sawyer. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What led Robert towards writing science fiction books after he graduated from Ryerson The difference between being a science fiction writer and a futurist Why research is so important when writing science fiction, in particular Why some people are feeling like they're living in a science fiction novel Whether any of Robert's books predicted Covid or something similar to it Robert's prediction for our future

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Leonard Carr about how to tolerate and live with uncertainty. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why it's so difficult for people to live with uncertainty What emotions does living with uncertainty typically cause people to feel Some practical ways for people to live with uncertainty How learning to live with uncertainty can allow us to become more resilient and able to handle disappointment

Sara Dimerman in conversation with her daughter, Chloe, on managing changes on campus due to Covid. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What's different about campus this school year - in regards to learning, going to the gym, socializing How students are coping with the changes The pros and cons of these changes

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman about how Covid has changed schools and classroom learning in our "new normal". Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The main changes that students and teachers are experiencing this school year in the classroom, across the school and learning in general How parents can help their kids make the best of this new normal whether they are attending classes in person, or doing the "online school at home" option How tutoring organizations are working differently now than in previous years Some tell tale signs that kids are not coping well with these changes and what parents and teachers can do to help them Some evolving or upcoming concerns parents might watch out for as the year unfolds and how they can prepare for these in advance

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lori Pearlstein. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How children and adults play differently Why adults forget how do play and why it's important for them to be reminded how The benefits of improvisation and how one can apply this to everyday living

Sara Dimerman in conversation with a href="https://www.helpmesara.com/podcast-experts/#amm">Anna-Marie Musson about how to stay out of court when divorcing. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The difference between the typical adversarial approach we often think of associated with divorce, versus a collaborative approach Whether there any situations, such as when the situation is highly conflictual, or where there is child abuse or domestic violence, where collaboration or mediation does not work or is not recommended Some of the top reasons that a couple (and their children, if there are any) would benefit from staying out of court When it comes to mediation, what happens when the couple hit a roadblock Whether or not mediators or collaborative family lawyers continue to work with clients when they enter into court proceedings, and if not, why not?

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Noah Lazar. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether or not OCD is a form of anxiety The age at which OCD is typically diagnosed The difference between an obsession and a compulsion Some of the more common groups of behaviours and thoughts that we see in people diagnosed with OCD Whether OCD is inherited or learnt Other disorders that are on the OCD spectrum, such as trichotillomania and hoarding The most common approach to treating OCD and how this works The role of medication when treating OCD

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Vera Roncon. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether there is a difference between ADD and ADHD Whether ADHD shows itself differently in kids versus adults If its inherited or learnt Some of the most common characteristics of this disorder How a spouse or partner is impacted by living with another adult who has ADHD How having ADHD impacts how one co parents How to manage ADHD - with and without the help of medication

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janice Goldmintz. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How and why the loss of a child is the same or different as other losses Some "normal" responses to losing a child How the loss of a sibling impacts children in general The impact of losing a child on the parents relationship Resources & supports available What not to say to a bereaved parent Whether a parent ever "gets over" the loss of their child

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Laura Tarcea. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Some of the more common areas of conflict that arise when separating couples are considering the needs of their children and how to manage these Parenting plans – what this means and whether parents can create this on their own or if they need professional help when doing so How to help children feel heard after their parents separate or divorce What happens if a child resists spending time with either parent Lawyers that are specifically appointed to represent the child and when this may occur Tips for parents in regards to the best way in which to make the process of separating the least stressful for their children

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Francis Atta. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Francis Atta's story - from living a life of academic failure, involvement with gangs and the law, living in homeless shelters and not feeling a sense of belonging within his family - to rising above it to become as successful as he is today Francis's book, The Flip, and the messages he offers to youth to help guide them in a positive direction The important ways parents and teachers can behave towards children and youth to build a relationship that inspires open communication and connection

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Eleanor Silverberg. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Some of the tell-tale signs that aging parents are more in need of a helping hand than before Some of the feelings that the awareness of this change elicits for both adult children and the aging parent The best way for an adult child to approach their aging parent when offering help? And what if the aging parent refuses? Some practical caregiving options when stepping in to offer help The difference between the Alzheimers and dementia? How Eleanor's 3A Coping Framework and mindfulness meditation exercises can help both caregiver and parent

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The different ways in which students typically learn, according to grade and stage of development, beginning in pre school through to post secondary The "new normal" in regards to learning How students and parents can begin to prepare for September right now, before school begins How parents can best help their children adapt to this "new normal" How parents and teachers can work together to make this as successful as possible

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Cecilia Arscott, and her son Matthew Melchior. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Cecilia and Maarten's meeting and how their deciding to marry was received by their families How the messages they received growing up impacted their lives today as an inter racial couple Whether Cecilia has raised her bi racial children any differently than she might have if she was married to a Black partner How Matthew has been impacted by being "mixed" Advice for other inter racial parents and their children

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Thomas Verny. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Dr. Verny's book, The Secret Life of the Unborn Child and how things have changed in the field of pre and peri natal psychology since its publication in 1981 What types of stress have the most impact on an unborn child What a pregnant woman/couple can do to mitigate the impact of stress on their unborn child and on themselves How parents can communicate with their child in utero and the positive impact of this on the unborn child and after birth

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Katharine Love. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Katharine's growing up years and how they impacted her – for better and worse How she overcame an eating disorder and learnt to embrace her heavier self How she learnt to live a more authentic life despite obstacles along the way How her diagnosis of Moebius Syndrome helped her understand herself better How she practises radical acceptance in order to find peace Why she wrote her memoir, Perfectly Flawed, and what it's all about How you can benefit from her life lessons and learn to embrace and accept yourself too

Sara Dimerman in conversation with realtor, Valerie Chubey. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How buying and selling a home has changed over the years, and especially during and post pandemic The key players on your team to make buying and selling as stress free as possible and how to find them Market trends regarding pricing, best time of the year to buy/sell and facts about how many times people move during their lifetime The psychological and emotional impact of leaving one's home and why it is often so difficult Tips for decluttering, moving and settling in

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Suzanne Dennison. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The difference between seeking help from, for example, a psychotherapist, counsellor, social worker, psychologist, psychiatrist or Medical Doctor who provides counselling services Who the governing bodies for these professionals are and why they exist How to find a therapist Why some therapists call their sessions a 50-minute hour The difference between seeing a therapist in private practise versus one who works in an agency setting, for example Employee Assistance Programs (EAP) and how these may help Whether all therapists charge a fee and what the typical fee may be How extended health insurance coverage can help cover the fee Whether a therapist is allowed to put someone's name on a receipt if that person is not present at the session What consent to treatment means Whether everything that you discuss with a therapist is confidential, and if not, what the limits to confidentiality are

Sara Dimerman in conversation with occupational therapist, Therese Oldfield. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What driver anxiety means How and why this type of anxiety impacts not just drivers, but passengers and pedestrians too Some of the reasons people develop this anxiety Treatment approaches to helping overcome driver, passenger or pedestrian anxiety Factors that impact the success of a program that helps this type of anxiety Whether other professionals play a complementary role when helping someone with these anxieties

Sara Dimerman in conversation with executive coach, corporate trainer and author, Kathleen Redmond. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What a healthy workplace environment looks like The relationship between character and culture The key players in an organization and their role in creating a healthy work environment How important communication is in the workplace and how it is best encouraged How leaders can maintain contact with colleagues working from home and why this is important

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Psychologist, Donna Jacobs. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The most common types of anxiety, such as Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety and Panic Disorder How to tell the difference between when you're feeling "normal" nervousness about something versus when there are signs and symptoms of a diagnosable anxiety condition Why some people are more anxious than others Treatment approaches to helping you manage or cope with anxiety Whether medication is an effective method for treating anxiety Resource books, programs and Apps that can help you learn more about anxiety and how to manage it

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Emmy award winning writer and producer, Susan McLennan. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What we mean by helping little children make sense of their big world and why this is so important Some of what little kids have to make sense of now compared to when we were growing up Who Susan and Mike are and the work that they do to help children and their families What parents can do to help their children make sense of the big world when they sometimes can't make sense of it, themselves

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Kathy McCoy. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether or not estrangement mostly occurs between adult children and their parents, or as regularly between siblings or other family members, and why How estrangement may filter from one generation to others Whether or not estrangement is typically mutually agreed up or unilateral How the "abandoned" person might respond to feeling hurt How acceptance plays a role in coming to terms with family ties that are broken Whether blood is truly thicker than water, as the saying goes How breaking ties with someone in the family might be a "good" thing

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lisa Freud Goldman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What a crisis means What happens to our mental and physical health when we're going through a crisis? Some of the signs and symptoms that the crisis is taking a toll on us Lisa's Lifestyle Lessons as a way of guarding ourselves against getting physically or mentally unwell during periods of crisis Factors that affect how well we are able to cope with a crisis or a critical event  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Colin Chan. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What trauma or being traumatized means What PTSD - post traumatic stress disorder - means How one can tell if they've been traumatized or have PTSD What causes one to be traumatized Whether the effects of being traumatized can go away on their own or if one always needs treatment Some treatment options and who is best suited to treat someone who has been traumatized When treated in a support group, how one can guard against being re traumatized when hearing others stories How one can tell if the effects of trauma are still lingering, even 10 years later, for example If there's hope after trauma

It's normal to be influenced and affected by what we think or know others want from us. Sometimes, we do and say things in order to make others happy, and in turn, sacrifice our true selves. This may be unintentional, especially since we don't always know our authentic selves or what will make us feel most fulfilled or purposeful. Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Mary Filice, as you begin your journey towards self discovery or finding your "gift"... Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What it means to be one's authentic self At what age one should begin exploring their true calling or purpose What we can do to figure out who we really are if we're not so sure Some of the signs that you that we may not be living our authentic selves Why some people are fearful of being their authentic selves What happens, in the short and long term, when we push our authentic selves as Additional resources: Gabor Mate: When the Body says No Victor Frankl: Man's Search for Meaning Richard Rohr: Contemplative and founder of Center For Action and Contemplation. He has numerous books and videos Edith Hall: Aristotles way: How Ancient Wisdom Can Change Your Life Enneagram info: internationalenneagram.org Best Enneagram Books for a beginner: The Wisdom of the Enneagram by Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stabile The Complete Enneagram by Beatrice Chestnut The Enneagram in Love and Work by Helen Palmer

Top of the new year resolution list for many people is losing weight or going on "diet." Now that I've spoken to Registered Dietician Shauna Lindzon, I am inspired to change that item on my list to read "Change lifestyle for healthier living" rather than "lose weight to look better." Listen here to be inspired yourself. Sara Dimerman in conversation with Shauna Lindzon. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why diets don't work So what does work and for what end goal? Whether dieting is a world wide phenomenon or more of a North American mindset? What kinds of diets are most popular? Has this changed over the years? Whether women are more inclined to follow diets than men and whether there is a gender difference in regards to losing weight as we age? Some ways for people to set themselves up for success in regards to getting off the dieting roller coaster. Why 'mindfulness' is important when considering a change in diet for a healthier lifestyle.

Times are not what they used to be. Gone are the days when you could safely wait until your children were just about to hit puberty to talk to them about sex and sexuality. Now they either stumble across pornography or seek it out. Often, the messages they get and the images they receive portrays sex in a way that can be traumatizing. Psychologist, Dr. Jillian Roberts, has helped children and their parents navigate the complex sexualized digital world in which we live. Through this podcast, she will help you too. Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Jillian Roberts. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What to do and say when your kids stumble upon pornography, participate in sexting, engage in or are victimized by sexualized bullying and feel confused about what consent means. What impact all of the above has on them. Whether "The Talk" is still something parents should prepare themselves for, and if not, how to share important information about sex and sexuality with your children and at what age. How parents role has changed over time, especially in regards to helping protect our children from being prematurely exposed to sexual content or from getting involved in sexualized behaviour at too young of an age. Dr. Jillian Robert's "seven point parental compass" and why knowing more about this can help create a foundation from which effective communication and a strong parent/child bond can be formed.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Ann Douglas. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why parents need distractions Whether technology is what distracts us most these days and why The impact that being a distracted parent has on our children, ourselves and on the development of our relationship with our child How we can become more mindful about modelling intentional distraction  

It's easy to label oneself or one's child a "procrastinator" and to assume that once one, always one. But is procrastination part of one's personality or a choice and are there roadblocks that stand between procrastination and productivity? For answers to these questions, I turned to Dr. Joanne Foster. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What procrastination means Whether procrastination is a choice or part of one's personality What causes procrastination Techniques and strategies to help one move from procrastination to productivity How parents can understand the causes of procrastination and help their children or teens become more productive  

Many people, despite having goals, feel that there are roadblocks in their way. I contacted Gorett Reis, a life and career coach, for her views on what may be keeping them from moving forward, and what they can do about it. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: Top traits, identified as roadblocks, for people who feel that they are unable to reach their life or career goals What being a perfectionist looks like, why and how this may get in the way What people pleasing looks like, why and how this may get in the way What over achieving looks like, why and how this may get in the way Some practical ways for people to prevent perfectionism, people pleasing and over achieving behaviour from standing in their way  

I have always been a fan of Dr. Ross Greene's work. I have read his books and attended several of his workshops and lectures. Most recently, I participated in a two day conference, led by him, in Toronto. I was inspired and grateful to learn more about his collaborative approach to working with kids of all ages, and honoured that he agreed to join me as a guest on this podcast, in order to impart some of his wisdom to you, too. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: The choices parents have when they're faced with needing to deal with a situation related to their child's "difficult" behaviour. Whether punishments such as suspension from school or time out at home solves the problem and if not, why not. Whether natural and logical consequences unilaterally imposed on children who do not "follow through," solves the problem and if not, why not. How to implement Dr. Ross Greene's Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model, including: Effective ways to understand the problem and invite collaboration from a child How to move away from looking through the lens of seeing the child as having a problem behaviour and instead identify the problem as one related to lagging skills and unmet expectations The crucial steps that a parent or teacher, for example, would need to take in order to understand why the child is "stuck" and how to solve the problem The age or developmental stage at which a child can be included or involved in this process and whether there are any children who may not be able to participate in the process as well as others what to say and do when a child says "I don't know" when trying to engage him in helping you understand the problem How the CPS Model can change the lives of parents, teachers and caregivers so that neither punishment nor consequence needs to be imposed again Resources that can help you learn even more  

I invited Amanda Cupido to connect with me on the topic of producing a powerful podcast. Her enthusiasm is contagious and her concise, informative way of sharing what she knows will help you get started or grow. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: What a podcast is The different types and genres of podcasts Whether or not there is a magic length for a podcast The essential ingredients/tools required for a powerful podcast Where podcasts are best posted/published How podcasts are best marketed and to whom  

In conversation with Katharine Love as she candidly shares her journey from self loathing to self loving. Over the course of this podcast, you will learn more about: Katharine's early beginnings and how she was shaped by her family's response being "different" What the word "crooked" means to her How her diagnosis of Moebius Syndrome changed the path she was on What else contributed towards her self loathing and how this manifested itself When and how she managed to take "control" of her life and see herself through a different lens Positive changes have taken place over the past few years Resources and inspiration so that you too can go from self loathing at the worst to self loving at the best  

  Janyce Lastman and I have previously collaborated on several podcasts. So when she approached me about this one, I was glad because, with recent news headlines related to happenings in a well private school in Toronto, this is more timely of a topic than ever. Janyce offered to help parents explain, contextualize and cope with incidents such as those in the news and to help parents learn how to reduce the chances that their children will be subject to extreme bullying, hazing and abuse in school going forward. In addition, I asked her to lend her expertise in regards to exploring different kinds of schools, how the culture of each is determined and by whom. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: How to tell the difference between a "good" versus not as "good" school Whether private always means better The difference in culture from one school to the next Who or what determines this culture Whether or not there is a difference in the culture between same sex or even same religion schools versus more heterogeneous schools Bullying/hazing at schools and whether this is more common in certain schools/programs than others How parents can help to explain bad incidents at school to their kids and how they can cope In addition to listening and learning from this podcast, Janyce offers the following links to great resources: Canadian Centre for Child Protection She particularly likes: Kids in the Know And for teens: NeedHelpNow plus Cybertip This FREE and really well written materials hard copy by order (same organization) And free downloadable material She says that the following is also a great site for overall media smarts which addresses some of the issues discussed in our podcast: MediaSmarts

Now that marijuana has being legalized in Canada, what changes, other than the obvious, will this bring about? How can we make sure that we are as knowledgeable about the impact of weed on our bodies and our brains as possible, and how are we going to ensure that our beliefs and behaviours are modelling the responsible use of drugs, so that our children do not get the message that just because something is legal, that its safe. I invited Psychologist, Dr. Jonathan Stea, to join me to discuss this important topic. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: The physiological and psychological impact of using marijuana, in particular, on us Whether marijuana is addictive or not and whether it impacts our ability to make good, safe decisions Whether different forms of marijuana affects us differently Whether marijuana that is dispensed through legally approved centres are safer and what might happen to the black market Whether the legalization of recreational marijuana will encourage children under the age of 19 to use (for the first time or more than they already do) Whether parents using or growing at home will normalize its use or make children less inclined and how parents can discuss marijuana with their children  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Daniella Astorino. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Different kinds of headaches and how common each is Some of the ways we can manage each of these - On our own? With the help of a health practitioner? The difference between a headache and a migraine? How migraines are treated? Some red flags that our headache may be more than one of the typical kinds, and then what to do?  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Sheri Van Dijk. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What emotional regulation means Why some people experience problems managing emotions Why it's so important that we learn to regulate our emotions as we grow Some of the warning signs that someone has not learnt how to regulate their emotions The consequences of not being able to regulate our emotions Strategies and treatment options when learning how to better regulate our emotions  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. David Kanawaty. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What's "normal" or healthy in regards to length and continuity of sleep for children, teens and adults What interferes with good sleep hygiene and what the potential risks associated with not getting enough sleep are Some of the indicators/symptoms that someone is in need of a sleep lab or specialist to help them determine why their sleeping habits or patterns are not typical of someone their age. For example, is snoring always an indicator that the person has apnea and in need of a sleep study? How to gain access to the services of a sleep lab or specialist What to expect at the sleep lab Some of the most common diagnoses following a sleep study Treatment options for sleep disorders such as apnea and insomnia The risks associated with not treating a sleep disorder  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Andrea Garson. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What are some of the traits or behaviours that employers find most valuable in their employees? What are some of the traits or behaviours that employers find most worrisome in their employees? What are some of the warning signs that your employer may not be happy with your performance or that you're at risk of losing your job? How can you best handle talking to your employer if you're unhappy with the tasks you're being assigned, but want to keep your job? What are some of the most common reasons that employees lose their jobs

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Heidi Barrett. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What gender fluidity/gender non conforming means Whether a child should be a certain age or reached a certain level of maturity before listening to their beliefs about how they want to express themselves (regarding their gender) Whether gender non conforming children are born "who they are" or become non conforming as a result of being raised by non conforming parents (gender or otherwise) How we can model acceptance, sensitivity and increased tolerance towards people who are gender non conforming What happens if a parent imposes certain gender stereotypes when raising girls and boys What happens at school/in other environments where children are not encouraged to be "who they want to be" Whether being gender fluid/non conforming is just trendy or whether it has been suppressed over the years and in certain cultures until now How to advocate and educate on behalf of your gender non conforming child (and how to help your children advocate for themselves too) How to manage environments that are more gender specific, e.g. gender specific washrooms, boys vs. girls clothing sections at a store or when teachers separate boys and girls and a boy in a skirt goes to sit with the boys Supports and resources including: Gender Born, Gender Made: Raising healthy non conforming children by Diane Ehrenfast Raising My Rainbow by Lori Duron Rainbow Health Ontario The 519  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The difference between a quiz, test and exam and how to prepare differently for each How standardized tests (such as EQAO in Ontario) are different from "regular" tests and why they are important The amount of time and how often students need to study in order to see a successful outcome How students can make the best use of their time and what to do when preparing to study (and how parents can help too) How to avoid experiencing test anxiety and why it happens Whether cramming pre test or exam is ever a good idea How and where (in bed or at a desk, for example) to study for tests and exams Whether one can study well with music or other distractions around them How lack or disruption of sleep impacts studying effectiveness and how to manage this Things to keep in mind for the night before, day of the test or exam and afterwards What "accommodations" are, who they are given to and why  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The best age at which to begin helping children develop successful work habits How work habits and styles develop and change over the years and why this is important How to best model "good" work habits to students How to determine what works best for your child Whether every student needs to sit at a desk or in a structured environment in order to be successful The "bad" consequences when "good" work habits are not established  

In this episode, Sara chats with Domenico Capilongo. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: The role that teachers play in preparing kids for life post secondary school Whether this is different to the role that parents play and if so, how? How students can help prepare themselves for life post secondary school What life after secondary school looks like What constitutes a successful launch into life post secondary school and what makes the difference  

In this, part 1 of 2 related to putting your best foot forward, Sara chats with Andrea Garson, Human Resources consultant on how to make a good impression at a job interview. Over the course of this episode, you will learn how to prepare for a job interview, including: Preparing your resume - tailoring/editing/layout Choosing what you'll wear/how to look Thinking about answers and examples to possible questions How to behave in an interview - do's and don'ts How to prepare for a "not in person" interview (e.g. via Skype/phone) Preparing questions for your interviewer in advance Preparing references in advance Following up after an interview Part 2 of this series coming soon.

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Laura Plant, Director of Student Banking at RBC. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: What financial literacy means and why it's so important The steps that parents can take, at various ages and stages of their children's lives, to model becoming and being financially literate The value of giving your child an allowance The ways in which parents can prepare their teenagers and young adults towards becoming more financially independent Resources to help families on their journey  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Brenda Whiteside. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: The biggest changes or challenges students face when transitioning from high school to a post secondary school program How living away from home - on residence, for example - affects the way in which a teen manages the transition to a post secondary program How students and parents can expect to feel at first How long the transitional phase typically lasts Resources and programs most Universities and Colleges have in place to assist the student What students can look forward to once he or she is more settled into residence or in their program of choice Do's and don'ts for parents to consider - prior to, during and following the adjustment phase  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Endre Gabori. Over the course of this episode, you will learn more about: How going on a date once you have been living together or a married couple for a while, is different to single life dating The roadblocks to organizing a date with your living together or married partner Why its so important for living together or married couples to go on dates with one another What may happen to their relationship if they don't Some points to keep in mind when planning a date with ones partner What else it might mean when married couples don't find the time to go out on dates with one another  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Michael Gibben. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether parents' concern about their kids' brains going to mush during long breaks from school is a valid concern Ways for kids' brains to remain active during long breaks from school How parents can use every day items and toys/games that they have around the house in order to encourage thinking and learning "Essential" every day items/games to help Whether there is any value to video gaming/computer play and whether this should be restricted How parents help inject fun into learning How parents can continue with all of the above after kids return to school  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Sarah Lindsay. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Sarah's personal journey before and after being diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder How she is helping others learn from her experience Ways to monitor one's own mental health Ways to get assessed and treated How to advocate on behalf of your mental health needs  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with author Robin Rinaldi. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The definition of open marriage What happens when one partner wants an open marriage and the other does not Why couples adopt this lifestyle The benefits and negative effects of an open marriage on a couple's relationship How society tends to view open marriage  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Ann Douglas. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What inspired Ann Douglas to write Parenting Through the Storm What parenting through a storm means Ann's personal journey and where she and her family are at today The dangers of not taking care of oneself as you parent through the storm and ways in which you can be kinder to yourself How stress and difficulties within a family affect a couple and how they can work together at making things better  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Gary Hyman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The most commonly used social media applications including Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn What makes them more popular than others and why The power of social media to help grow a business or brand Time saving tips when using social media The best way to approach getting your business noticed on social media Whether social media is really free How advertising works on social media How to measure your return on investment on social media How to grow an email list and generate leads from social media For great information to helpful links and tools, visit http://www.garyhyman.com/helpmesara/

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Author Robin Rinaldi. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether or not most women share a basic maternal desire to bear and raise children Why some people (male or female) may not want to have children of their own The impact that having or not having children has on a couple (as a couple and for each individual) What happens when one partner wants children and the other does not How society tends to view people who choose childlessness  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Meagan Solomon. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The age at which many children begin experimenting with drugs and/or alcohol? Some of the reasons this happens Signs that they may be using drugs or drinking alcohol The best way for a parent to approach his or her child about their concerns so as to encourage open, ongoing communication Whether it is realistic for a parent to expect compliance after forbidding his or her child from using drugs or alcohol Whether or not its ever a good idea for parents to allow their under age children to drink in their homes with them? Their friends? How parents can access information to share with their children about the dangers of drinking and using drugs, and how to go about doing so What parents can do if they feel that their children are addicted to drugs and/or alcohol Supports and programs to help  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Lana Feinstein, Executive Director of LOVE (Leave Out Violence). Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The organization, Leave out Violence (LOVE), and the services they offer to youth How to define bullying and it's different forms (physical, emotional and relational) Whether bullying is rampant (especially in schools) and why this is What causes someone to act like a bully and why The effects of bullying on children and what parents can do to help What "bystander" means and how bystanders can be helped to be become witnesses instead The role that schools and communities need to play in preventing and resolving bullying behaviour and ways in which they can be most effective  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Dr. Laurie Betito. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What's normal? What's not? in the sex dept of a relationship and who cares anyway? The definition of a "sexless" marriage The difference between a lack of interest and low sexual desire Whether or not women are really not as interested in sex as men The real reasons people avoid having sex with one another How to create an environment that will stimulate desire and enhance sexual experience Whether its possible to re ignite a flame thats gone out and if so, how The importance of foreplay and what it means Physical and physiological changes to our body that affect sex over time and how we can accept and help ourselves rather than fight them The benefits to having regular sex Which relationships are most vulnerable to infidelity  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with family law lawyer, Lisa Gelman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: First steps towards formalizing a separation Whether the process is different depending on whether the couple is legally married versus living common law What separation means and whether a couple actually needs to be living in separate places in order to be considered legally separated Whether there is a period of time that has to lapse before a couple can file for divorce and whether they need lawyers in order to do this Some of the most common issues that couples need to work through on the legal front once separated or divorced eg. child custody, division of assets What lawyers will typically ask each of the partners to provide in order to create a legal document The difference between a mediator and a lawyer and when to use one or the other What collaborative law means and when its best to work with a collaborative lawyer Some good questions to ask a lawyer when making the decision as to whether he or she is the right fit How long of a process one can someone expect from the time of separation until divorce and what kind of cost each can expect during the legal process How to try to maintain an amicable relationship during the legal process  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Goldie Plotkin. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The laws of Yichud Whether these laws are explicitly shared with children as they are growing up or woven into the parenting fabric Whether these laws actually have to be presented as such or if they can just be applied as common sense rules when guiding your children as teens or young adults How, when applying these rules, girls and women, in particular, are kept safer Whether these laws also protect boys and men Whether now, more than ever before, we need to be considering ways to protect ourselves and our children from unwanted sexual advances The incidents have have raised our consciousness and gotten us talking about these concerns  

In this podcast Sara Dimerman chats with Simon Zelcovitch, a Toronto graphologist, about handwriting analysis and how he can help you. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Graphology and why people want to have hand writing analyzed Some more common strokes and styles of writing (e.g. size, slant) that almost always depict certain characteristics in a person Whether analysis varies depending on age, gender and hand preference How teaching a student to write a certain way can affect his or her behaviour  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Sarah Chana Radcliffe. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why the start of school is a particularly anxious time for kids, parents and teachers Tips to ease anxiety and make the transition back to school easier After how long a period of adjustment should a parent be concerned and when to seek professional help  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Una Wright. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How parents can establish a relationship with their children (before they are teens) so that they will feel safe to open up and communicate with them Some of the fundamental building blocks when creating a foundation from which a parent/teen relationship is ideally created The difference between daily communication eg how was your day? versus communication about bigger issues eg bullying, depression and low self esteem Effective tips for helping to empower teens to find their voices and why some teens lose their voices or maybe never find them Some of the biggest concerns/issues that youth are dealing with today  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Andrew Rodie. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The pros and cons of selling and buying cars privately Why not just go through a dealership if that's the safer route? What can go wrong when buying or selling a car privately What one needs to do in preparation for a private sale or purchase How people can protect themselves to reduce or completely eliminate risks when buying or selling a car privately  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Paul Saunders. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether there has been a change in the kinds of foods (and environmental triggers) that children have shown sensitivity to over the years What signs and symptoms to watch for as indicators of sensitivity Whether these symptoms differ depending on the age, race or cultural background of the child The earliest age at which children show food and environmental sensitivities and what these may be attributed to Whether or not parents can take any preventative measures to minimize these sensitivities from occurring Whether certain children may be predisposed to sensitivity and why Whether it is wise to completely avoid certain foods at different stages of development or if avoidance heightens sensitivity Whether diets that are gluten free or dairy free, for example, are fads or if there is true merit to avoiding foods that contain these ingredients Where a parent can go to more properly assess their child's food and environmental sensitivities The different roles that a medical and naturopathic doctor play in assessing and helping to manage these sensitivities  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Samuel Waldner. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The definition of alcohol addiction Some signs to watch out for that social drinking, for example, has become a problem Whether alcohol addiction is typically an inherited or learnt behaviour The most common ways to treat this addiction The importance of finding a therapist who has specific training in alcohol addiction when seeking help The consequences of alcohol addiction on other relationships Whether alcohol addiction is easily treatable  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Christine Hoheisel. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Ways to cut costs as a family such as: Clipping coupons - where to get them and how to organize them so that they are readily available when you are. Reward and points programs - what works best and how to make the most of them. Ways to enjoy travel while sticking to your budget How to model cutting costs to your kids and ways they might respond to these measures  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Fiona Roche. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What sex addiction means Signs of sex addiction Whether or not this is primarily a male related addiction Types of assessment used when determining if someone has a sex addiction Whether this is typically an inherited behaviour? or learned? The most common ways to treat this addiction and predictors for success The consequences of sex addiction on a couples' relationship Whether or not it's a good idea for spouses to receive concurrent support Whether sex addiction is more prevalent now than in previous years and if so, why Where research into sex addiction is headed  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Joey Dimerman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What events or conditions might prevent one from earning an income? Whether or not most people have a rainy day fund set aside in case this occurs? How else one can plan ahead in the event of an accident or catastrophic illness The probability of someone being so ill or disabled that he or she is unable to earn an income The difference between disability and critical illness insurance What 'return of premium' means and how an insurance policy can also function as forced savings  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Les Kotzer. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: At what age or stage of life one should consider creating a Will and why What words such as executor, estate, assets, guardians, probate tax & power of attorney mean Whether do-it-yourself Wills are good enough. Why or why not? Whether or not you need a lawyer with special training to write your Will How often and when Wills should be revised and why What happens to your property and assets if you die without a Will in place What happens to your children if you die without a Will in place  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Nia Vardalos. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Nia's honest and heart moving account of the journey towards adopting their daughter The importance of grieving the loss of what might have been Whether the internet is a good place to begin when researching adoption The bumpiest spots on the road to adoption The ecstasy and challenges once a child has been adopted Why Nia chose to write Instant Mom and how it is helping other families navigate through the adoption process  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Tiffany Chow. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The age at which adult children typically find their roles with their parents beginning to reverse Age related factors that influence this change in role Other special circumstances that might accelerate this role reversal (eg alzheimers, dementia, stroke) The difference between dementia and alzheimer's disease The age at which older adults typically need more care Encouraging geriatric assessments and with whom? What to do when an aging parent is resistant to or in denial about needing extra help Why its best to avoid certain words such as "dementia" when talking to an aging parent Support services for aging parents and their adult children Whether our communities/provinces are well equipped to deal with mental and physical changes for our aging population The importance of getting extended family involved in caring for an aging parent/relative What to look for when exploring options for increased care  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Marc Saltzman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How technology has evolved over the past decade Gadgets and gizmos that are particularly appealing to children? teens? adults? Whether males or females are more drawn to technology than the other gender Why there is such a fascination with technology today How technology has enhanced our lives and how it has made them more difficult Whether or not there is a correlation between violent video games and aggressive behaviour How and why parents should set limits on children and technology Where technology is headed Pause: Get out of the Game is an informational campaign targeted at teens with the purpose of raising awareness about the dangers of video game addiction. As a way of speaking their language, the creator of this game encourages teens to download and play this game so as to understand the impact of addictive video game playing on their lives.. It mimics the life of a video game addict as they play at the cost of ignoring their family, friends, responsibilities and personal health.

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Alison Tedder and Diane Flacks. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Whether children being raised in same sex relationships typically see themselves and their family structure as being different to their peers How children may voice their feelings and how same sex parents can prepare for their questions How acceptance from extended family eg grandparents, impacts on the adult children and grandchildren, for example Whether male same sex parents have a more difficult time with societal expectations and stereotypes than female co parents Whether and how school administrators and teachers accommodate for the difference in family structure within families of children being raised by same sex parents How same sex parents can advocate on behalf of their children and family to raise awareness -within schools and communities - and offer suggestions for change if necessary Local and national supports for same sex parents raising children  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Henry and Valerie Kerr. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Their life stories When Henry discovered his creative talents Henry's prolific poetry writing skills How they re discovered love in their late eighties and nineties respectively how love has enhanced their lives The secret to remaining vital, nimble minded and interested in all that life offers Learning to live life to its fullest and maintaining a positive attitude  

Drinking & Driving is a deadly mix. Certain times of the year we especially need to be reminded of this. Drinking alcohol on one's own time in the comfort of one's own home is your business. However, if we drink and drive, others can be affected. MADD Canada is one of the best known organizations of it's kind in Canada. They aim to support people who have been victims of impaired driving and to educate us about the lethal consequences of driving while impaired. Please listen to this podcast, no matter your age, because drinking and driving crosses all age barriers. However, if you know a youth that drives, please especially encourage him or her to listen too. You can save lives. Sara Dimerman in conversation with Denise Dubyk. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: When, where and why was MADD Canada created? By whom? Mission statement? Aside from the obvious, why is it never a good idea for people to drive while impaired? What are some warning signs that you may have had a few too many? Are personal breathalyzers a good idea? What are the legal and moral responsibilities of someone serving alcohol - a private party host, restaurant or bar owner What are some proactive measures parents and educators can take to prevent injuries and fatalities that result from driving while impaired? How can communities come together in fighting against driving while impaired?

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Melanie Gross. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The physical and emotional benefits to clearing your clutter The side effects of disorganization/clutter The most challenging aspects of clearing your clutter and why Nature versus nurture - are some people predisposed to being disorganized or is this behaviour learnt? Whether change is typically permanent after your clutter is cleared Some simple tips to get you started and to help your children get organized  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Tara Sermer. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How a family can come together in making the decision to become a pet owning family Some of the key factors to consider when deciding to bring a pet to live in your home Red flags that your home or family may not be pet friendly Making an informed decision about the right breed of dog or cat for your family Whether dogs and cats can co exist. Less commonly owned domestic animals Helping children and adults cope with the loss of a pet. Resources/where to go to to do more research on owning a pet. Dr. Sermer also recommends: TV show: CMT Pick A Puppy Book: Cesar's Way by Cesar Milan. Book: Perfect Puppy in 7 Days: How to start your puppy off right by Dr. Sophia Yin Book: Before & After Getting Your Puppy by Dr. Ian Dunbar  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Cherie MacLeod. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Signs and signals that may indicate your child is attracted to same sex peers The age at which children typically show attraction to one sex over the other The best way to approach your child if you think he or she is gay or lesbian What reaction to expect from your child after being approached Whether it is typical for a child to approach his or her parents with the awareness of a difference in sexual orientation Understanding/exploring sexual diversity and identity, e.g. bisexuality, transgender, transsexuality, pansexuality Why some children are more comfortable questioning or expressing their differences openly Common parental reactions when his or her child "comes out" How a parent can best support his or her child How parents can find support for themselves and their children  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janyce Lastman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why  parents sometimes feel that their children's needs are not being met at school The difference between public versus private schools What parents can do when they disagree about which school their children should attend The factors/issues that parents often don’t consider but should when choosing a school The pros and cons of changing schools or school systems – and the  best (or worst) time to do so Some things parents might not typically think of doing that could help improve a difficult situation at school –  social, academic or behavioural Some of the more common conditions that require accommodations at school, e.g. learning disability Some other less obvious conditions that may require special attention, e.g. anxiety, conduct disorder Options for teens who  don't fit  regular high school programming Some newer or non-traditional options parents might consider for students who wish to continue an education after high school More intensive or specialized resources for at risk youth Resources and supports for parents  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with J.M. Kearns. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How our "How can I be your lover when I'm too busy being your mother?" book came to be The Mother Syndrome and how big of a problem it is the connection with feeling and acting like a mother to one's partner and the lack of intimacy an overview of our book and what one will learn from reading it How a couple can implement our step by step plan what to do if one partner is not on board  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Betty Cornelius. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What is a kinship family? How common is it that children are being raised by their grandparents? What is CANGRANDS? How does CANGRANDS reaches out to and helps grandparents. How and why are grandchildren typically raised by their grandparents? What is different about raising a grandchild compared to raising a child of ones own? What special requirements need to be in place? What if the grandparents don't have the resources to provide for their grandchildren? How does raising ones grandchildren typically affect the dynamics How are grandchildren typically affected - both positively and not as positively by being raised in a kinship family? CANGRANDS Hearts & Hands Quilt project How the rate of kinship families compares between Canada, the USA and other countries. How kinship families from around the world can connect with one another.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Liana Lowenstein. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What are some of the more common loss experiences for young children? Less common? Do young children grieve? What are some of the different ways in which children cope with loss? What factors determine how well or poorly child deals with loss? What are some of the warning signs that a child is not coping well How should we, as parents, help our child deal with loss? what should we be careful of doing or saying when our children are dealing with loss? What if we are coping with the same loss? should we hide our pain from our children? why or why not? what about if children are not showing any difficulty after a loss? might it still be beneficial to talk or receive therapy from a professional? What are some resources for children coping with loss? Books recommended for parents and children?  

Sara Dimerman In conversation with Rick Kelly. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What restorative/restorative justice means? How long the restorative justice model has been used and how it evolved? Other options for dealing with bullying issues How the restorative justice model works Who facilitates this process in schools The benefits of being with the right facilitator in a safe, supportive environment The risks of being with a facilitator who is not trained/certified How parents can familiarize themselves with the model being used in their children’s school in relation to bullying How teachers and administrators can encourage the restorative justice model as an intervention and form of prevention  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Barbara Lebo. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Possible causes of autism Signs to look for in recognizing that your child may be autistic The roller coaster of emotions when raising a special needs child The impact that raising an autistic child has on the family Treatment options when caring for an autistic child How to advocate for your autistic child at school What to consider regarding school placement – mainstream or a specially contained classroom How  treatment programs can be integrated into the school/educational system Practical strategies that can make a difference – at home and school Resources and supports for parents and children Related links: An Unexpected Life: A Mother and Son's Story of Love, Determination, Autism, and Art  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Janet Nezon. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What a "healthy eater" means At what age children become more discerning in regards to taste and texture of food Whether children's tastes and eating behaviour change as they grow Tips for parents on guiding their children towards healthy eating habits What and who the most important influencers on a child's eating behaviour are Whether its okay for children to skip meals, eat "junk" food and not eat the vegetables on their plate Tips on how to eliminate meal time power struggles eg getting children to try new foods and refusing what has already been prepared What a "picky eater" means and how to deal with one Working as a family towards healthy eating behaviour  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Kate Davidson and Carol Y. Barber. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How to identify signs that your child may be more distractible, inattentive or hyperactive when compared to the average child his/her age. Reasons why your child may be distractible, inattentive or hyperactive. What steps to take in order to have your child assessed and by whom. Why a formal assessment may be key to getting your child the help he/she needs The tests that may be used to assess your child. Treatment approaches to dealing with children who are distractible, inattentive or hyperactive. How to advocate on your child's behalf at school and outside of school Dos and don'ts when dealing with a child who is distractible, inattentive or hyperactive. What resources and supports are available to you and your child.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Karen Leitner. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What changes to expect in behaviour and attitude from your 12-18 year old. The most powerful influences on your tween/teen during this stage of life. What you can do to keep your adolescent connected to your family. Setting limits and what to do when your child goes against them. What to expect and how to respond if your child is using drugs, alcohol or engaged in sexual behaviour. How to promote healthy self esteem in your tween/teen. How to detect the early stages of an unhealthy relationship with food or body image and what you can do about it. How to detect self injurious behaviour such as cutting and what you can do about it. How to detect depression or other mental health issues in your child and what to do about it.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Debby Zweig. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How to identify signs that your child may be more anxious than an average child his/her age What steps to take in order to have him/her assessed and by whom The different kinds of anxiety disorders e.g. phobia, separation anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder and what this all means Different treatment approaches to dealing with anxiety in children Your emotional reaction to learning that your child has an anxiety disorder How to advocate on your child's behalf at school and outside of school Dos and don'ts when dealing with an anxious child What resources and supports are available to you and your child  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Deborah Moskovitch. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: The normal range of mixed emotion you will experience after the separation. The most common mistakes that parents unintentionally make with their children after the separation. The most important factors to keep in mind in order for your children to be least affected by the changes to your family. The best ways to respond to your children's most common questions such as "will daddy ever come live with us again?" and "do you still love mommy?" How to cope with the changes to your social life: what's there to do when you're feeling lonely on a Saturday night. The domino effect: how to deal with friends and family who are feeling the impact of the changes too. When, where and how to introduce your children to a new partner. Resources and supports available to you.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Helena Zajdeman. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How to identify signs that your child may have a learning difficulty. What steps to take in order to have him/her assessed and by whom. Why a formal assessment may be key to getting your child the help he/she needs. The standardized tests that may be used to assess your child. Whether your child may be stigmatized as a result of being diagnosed Learning Disabled. Your emotional reaction to learning that your child has a learning difficulty. How to advocate on your child's behalf at school. What resources and supports are available to you and your child.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Dr. Nicky Cohen. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How to identify signs that your infant, toddler or preschooler may be manifesting more sleep related difficulties than the average child his/her age. Reasons why your child may be having sleep problems. Steps to take when dealing with a variety of sleep related issues such as: a child who refuses to fall asleep on his/her own a child who wakes at night and calls out to you a child who is experiencing daytime sleep difficulties a child who may be waking up earlier than the norm a child who is experiencing sleep terrors or nightmares The pros and cons of the family bed. What is sleep training? The pros and cons of sleep training. Dos and don'ts when dealing with sleep related difficulties. What resources and supports are available to you.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Rhona Feldt-Stein. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What is a developmental delay. What are the warning signs of a developmental delay. Types of developmental delays and the areas/skills the child may experience difficulties with (e.g. self-care, play, sensorimotor, fine and/or gross motor, cognitive, social skills). Possible reasons why your child may be developmentally delayed. How a developmental delay is identified Why a formal assessment may be key to getting your child the help he/she needs What are early intervention services and why is early intervention important. The OT (Occupational Therapy) assessment(s) that may be used to assess your child. OT (Occupational Therapy) treatment approaches to addressing the areas of difficulty in children with a developmental delay. Your emotional reaction to learning that your child has a developmental delay. How to advocate on your child's behalf at school/daycare and in the community. Dos and don'ts when dealing with a child who has a developmental delay. What resources and supports are available to you and your child.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lana Feinstein. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: What defines a normal parent Whether or not "normal" is all that its cracked up to be What thoughts, feelings and behaviours you share in common with others What percentage of parents feel bad (guilty) when they're mad and what you can do if you're one of them What percentage of parents tell their children "I'll be there in a minute" but really take ten or more and whether or not this is such a bad thing How many parents feel that they are slaves to their children and unappreciated. What you can do if you're one of them and want to turn things around. How many parents feel judged by others and if you're one of them, what you can say and do when you feel this way. What percentage of parents struggle to find time for their children, other adults and themselves and if you're one of them, how to balance things out. How many parents have a hard time deciding where to draw the line between being protective and over protective and if you're one of them, how to figure it out. How many parents threaten with punishment but then don't follow through and how to become more consistent. What percentage of parents give in because of peer pressure and whether this is ever okay.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Lana Feinstein. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: Why children misbehave. The many influences on our children and how to combat them. Who has the most power and influence on our children. How individual temperament, personality and genetics play a role in "bad" behaviour and whether this can be changed. Why children who are demanding, stubborn and strong willed may be better off in the long run than obedient, passive children. Why using the word "bad" is no good. How a parent's self fulfilling prophecy can lead to positive or negative behaviour. The difference between praise and encouragement and which works best. How even negative role models can provide learning opportunities to develop positive behaviour. How to build character (strong morals and values) in your children and your family. How to cope with some of the more common behavioural concerns e.g. not getting up for school or going to bed on time, not telling the truth, homework hassles, breaking curfews. Whether or not it's important that both parents (together or divorced) be on the same page when parenting.  

Sara Dimerman in conversation with Rozanne Israel. Over the course of this episode you will learn more about: How to identify signs that your child may be speech/language delayed compared to the average child his/her age. Reasons why your child may be experiencing speech/language difficulties. What's the difference between a speech versus a language concern. What steps to take in order to have your child assessed and by whom Why a formal assessment may be key to getting your child the help he/she needs The tests that may be used to assess your child Various types of speech/language delays or difficulties e.g. stuttering, voice disorders, receptive language delay, expressive language delay, phonological delay, articulation difficulty, motor speech disorder Treatment approaches to dealing with speech/language delays or difficulties in children. Your emotional reaction to learning that your child has a speech/language delay or difficulty. How to advocate on your child's behalf at school and outside of school Dos and don'ts when dealing with a child who has a speech/language delay or difficulty. What resources and supports are available to you and your child.  

Hello, I am wanting to move out of my own house lately or buy a shed for my daughter to live in. She never has a polite tone towards me, is always arguing with absolutely everything, doesn't seem to care about anyone but herself. This is extremely difficult for her older aspergers sister and younger brother. I understand where she is coming from but she doesn't even try to change. I am at my wits end so to speak. Please help, I know she needs to feel important and she is special but doesn't think so because her siblings are more needy and take more time away from her. It is only me here to try to give everyone a fair share of myself. Eeeeeek! Thanks for anything you can help me out with. I have no supports, can't seem to find and/or keep any and no family to speak of. I am trying everything! Signed, Feeling Helpless

Hi Sara, I am a 25 year old mother of a 4 year old little girl. I am running out of ideas on how to discipline her properly and have her understand she has to listen or else there are consequences. I have tried time out in the corner and her room, taking things she enjoys away, quiet time etc. She is very bad because I let her get away with things for too long and now I feel its too late. I also have trouble with sticking to disciplinary actions that I am trying to enforce and I give in way too much! She says bad words at day care and hits and yells and also has been saying "I hate you" or "I dont love you!" to people when she doesn't get her way. I explained, as did her daycare, that these things she says are unacceptable and hurtful to people around us. People we do in fact love and care greatly for. I just dont know what else to do. I am panicking because she is going to start pre-school next year and I want her attitude fixed, but I want to do it right. Can you give me any ideas or pointers?

Recently my daughter wanted to have a sleepover with a few friends. Both of the friends she wanted to have over had iPhones, iPads and cell phones. We dont feel our daughter has any need for this as of yet. We have, in the past, found that these friends bring these devices and then text other kids instead of engaging with friends often leaving each other out. I'm not sure if its ok to ask kids to leave their cell phones and iPads at home or check them at the door. I have spoken to their parents to ask how they feel, but they dont seem to think there is any reason for concern. Please help, I need some advice.

Hi Sara, I am a first generation Canadian Born Chinese and my wife had immigrated to Canada and has Canadian Citizenship. We both live in Vancouver, BC and have two kids.My first child is about to start Kindergarten and my second child is still in preschool. I want my kids to speak more English at home so that they can do better in school but my wife disagrees and wants them to speak more Chinese at home.From my past experience, when I was elementary school, I had problems with English grammar. My teachers said to my parents that I should speak more English at home to improve my English skills to do well in school and since then my parents have been speaking English at home.My wife is accusing me of killing our cultural identity saying that I'm teaching our kids to forget their mother tongue. Now I'm in a flood basement scenario, help!

Hello Sara, I am a mother of two. My son was born a month ago and my daughter is almost 3 and half. She's unravelled and thus so have I.I thought I prepared her but unfortunately for all of us she has a very defiant and jealous streak. I'm not sure who needs the therapy me or her. I feel like I'm failing her as a parent. Her tantrums, defiance, disrespect is making me fall to pieces. I'm shocked and angry. Everyone keeps saying it will pass and she will get used to her new brother but I can't help but think that although the time will pass and she will adjust, something within her is drastically changing and our bond is being affected.I used to watch episodes of The Nanny and think "How could things get so bad?". Well, in the last three weeks suddenly my reality has totally changed to one of those embarassing episodes.Please help.

Hello Sara, I was listening to CBC radio the other day and heard your discussion on divorce. I am recently separated and my ex is very angry, bitter and does not say nice things about me in front of our 10 yr old daughter. I make a conscious effort not to do this about her dad, however he did it even before we separated. My question to you is what would you recommend I do in this situation? Also what book could you recommend? I really enjoyed listening to the radio program although I did not catch it from the beginning. Thank you for your assistance.

Hi Sara, I'm so glad I found your website! I had alot of unanswered questions and your article about children & a new partner gave me comfort. I need some advice on how a 5 year-old can accept someone else in place of their father. Although she isn't attached to her father she might be jealous but then again its not the right time to introduce anything at the moment right?? I just need some brief advice, anything will do :) Thx for your time, appreciate it!

I am a grandmother for the first time and simply adore my little granddaughter who is now 17 months. My problem is that I am very nervous when she sleeps overnight. I have tried it twice - once when she was 6 weeks and once at 5 months - and I get so nervous that I get the runs and cannot sleep at all. I worry that I will be too tired to look after her all night and all day. How can I just relax and be myself with her and not worry so much when I take her all night? I love looking after her during the day or even in the evening while her parents are out (I KNOW they are coming home eventually so I'm okay). ANY suggestions would be so helpful as my daughter-in-law has again asked me to take her overnight or for the whole weekend and I'm in panic mode!!! Lori

Hi Sara, please help me. I'm a mother of 2 children who are 3 and 4 years old and a stay home mom. My 4 year old goes to school from 9am to noon and my 3 year old is at home all day. I want to get a job but I have to consider my husbands work schedule - from 4pm to 2am (or even until 6am if they're really busy). Everytime we fight this becomes the issue, following the money issue. I also have a jealousy problem and my husband did something stupid that he thought it would help me but it just made me crazy. If you could give me advice I would really appreciate it.

Hi Sara, I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over 2 years now. During the past year my five year old son and my boyfriend have been hanging out at least once a week, no sleepovers yet. My son likes my boyfriend but whenever he is around my son misbehaves - he whines, cries and just isn't himself.My boyfriend wants us to move in with him eventually but if their relationship doesn't improve I dont see it happening. How can I get my son to behave appropriately around my boyfriend? I think my son views him as a friend and someone to play with. Your thoughts?

Hi Sara - I would really appreciate some feedback on this topic. My maternity leave has ended, and so I started looking into home care & daycare providers. I myself had a bad experience with a babysitter when I was younger and, as my husband likes to say, I'm an "overprotective" mother.I'm having real trust issues when it comes to leaving my daughter as well as an overwhelming feeling of guilt. It seems like no one is good enough to watch her unless they're a close relative; and even then my cell phone is always in my hands or beside me. I'm tempted to stay at home but money would be extremely tight and I've been considering home care but alot of people say it's really hard work, and I should do it because I want to, not because I have to.Do you have any suggestions as to how to make up my mind and feel confident and happy with my decision in the end?

Hi Sara,We have a great but extremely talkative boy who will be 5 in June. He has a great vocabulary, but doesn't possess any natural shyness. When on elevators, in the store, no other child is safe from him chattering endlessly about his toys, likes or talents. Other kids often just stare, mouth agape, not knowing how or where to begin. He scares away potential friends, which scares me. I want him to be well-liked and know how to relate to others, as he will begin primary school in the Fall. How should I address this issue without squashing his exuberance?

Dear Sara, My son is 19 and is overweight (275 lbs). He was consistently in the honour roll during high school and graduated as an Ontario Scholar.He received a scholarship during his first term at university in September 2009, which was also his first time living away from his family. When his grades were released we found out that he failed his 3 core courses. He told us that he was overwhelmed with his first university experience and had procrastination problems. He had also gained more weight and told us that he was always sleepy. He retook the courses but he again failed those same 3 core courses. He told us that he could not explain what happened, he knew what he needed to do but was just too lazy to do more. He also mentioned high expectations from us and we told him that we only expected him to pass this term. We told him to find a summer job and to find a way to get out of the rut he is in. We know that addressing his weight problem is the priority and are having his health assessed. We are scared to go for counselling because we don't want our son to simply be diagnosed as depressed and then prescribed medication.We just want to help our son and stop this downward slide as early as possible. We are thinking about boot camps so that he will develop self-discipline skills. We are also thinking about enrolling him in diet clinics so that he can lose weight and not feel too sleepy. Do you have any suggestions on how to deal with our problems best?Thank you in advance and more power to you.

I have been divorced for 11 yrs from my daughters Dad. We still do a lot of holidays and birthdays together and had another child who is 3 years old.We never remarried and parted 1 year ago. I found someone who is 14 years younger and my daughter wont have anything to do with him. She doesnt know him but tells me that she doesnt feel comfortable around him. They've met 3 times and I have known him for about 2 years. How can I help her get to know him? She tells me if I choose him then I can only see her every other weekend!I don't know where to start with this...

My eight year old daughter is already paying a lot of attention to her private parts, especially with the shower head, she said it is because it tickles.Is this normal for her age?

I have a 4 1/2 yr old son and an 8 yr old daughter. Both are great kids except they cry at the drop of a hat and my husband & I are at the end of our rope! My daughter is getting better as she gets older but my son cries because his pants are too short or because he's not as good at Super Mario Wii as his friend. I try to tell him that it doesn't matter and he will get better with practice but he doesn't believe me and says he'll never be good. If he gets into a fight with his sister and we have to step in they both start to cry. When they get angry they end up crying. When they are frustrated they start to cry.The other day I was going out to the store with my daughter and my son was going to stay home with my husband. When I told my daughter to get ready I looked over and my son was sobbing. I asked him why he was crying and he said "because I'll miss you" and he said he wanted to go with us. I said no, he had to stay home with his dad and they would probably watch TV. He's trying to stop sobbing and wiping away his tears as he says, in this sad little voice, "but what if I start to cry?".I mean he's already thinking that he's going to cry and nothing's happened!I know we shouldn't get mad, but we've just had enough! Any comments or suggestions would be greatly appreciated.Regards,Mom who's really starting to worry

Sara, I have no idea where to turn anymore when it comes to potty training. I think we have done it all and our patience with our 3-year-old son has run out. I am expecting my second child any day now and my plan was to have my oldest son trained before the arrival of this baby. My sitter is wonderful and has had great success in the potty department with my son. I believe he has been going for her since he was around two. To make life easier for her I started buying Pull-Ups and he never seems to wet them when he is at her house. So to keep the pattern going I asked her what it is she does at her home. She simply calls him and says "Owen go potty". He drops whatever he is doing and goes all by himself. At home we have tried to do the same but it has failed. We have tried bribes (smarties, stickers, etc...), we have taken him shopping to pick out "big boy underwear" recently but he wore them and dirtied them.It seems that if we let him run around without anything on he will go potty by himselfbut as soon as he has anything on, pull-up, diaper or underwear, he will do his potty in that. Is there anything else that we can do?I have sat with him and explained that when wearing his Thomas underwear he cannot pee or pooh on Thomas. I don't know if he actually understands. I am almost ready to give up on potty training altogether sometimes. Any advice you can give would be helpful. We have also noticed that when his friends visit and they go potty with their parents he will go too. Having other kids around seems to make it easier for him.Kellie

I am a new mum and gave birth to a beautiful baby boy last month but I am already worried about how to bring him up and knowing if he is developing normally, especially with his speech. My question is how do I know that my childs language is normal?

Hi Sara, my name is Jennifer, I might be in a hard situation and was wondering if you can give me some advice. I have a 2 and a half year old son whose biological father left me when I was 2 months pregnant. He has never called to find out how his son is, has never seen him. I have been with my fiance for over 2 years now and we have an 8 month old together. My older son has been calling my fiance his daddy, and thinks he is his dad; my fiance and I would like him to adopt him. My son doesn't know anything about his biological father and I'm scared to tell him about him. My dad ran into my sons biological uncle recently and was told that my sons dad, after almost 3 years apart, wants to see him. I am very upset about the whole thing and am terrified for some stranger to just walk into my sons life like that. Would you know anything about what we need to do in order for my fiance to adopt my son?Please and thank you,Jen

Sara, I love my kids so much more than any regular father. My wife and I were the primary care givers and took good care of the kids since day one but my wife laid false criminal charges against me and has blocked all types of communication between me and my kids. I am going crazy here. We have been separated since September 3rd 2009 and I've only been able to see them twice since then. We have not been able to get a court date earlier than March 10th 2010 and the judge does not like to bring an emergency motion for access before a case conference. Please tell me what to do. I wake up in the middle of the night crying for my kids. My kids are my life and can not live without them. They need me more than anyone else. Please advise me.