You’ve made it to Date Yourself Instead, a podcast intended to inspire you to become the best version of yourself. In 2021, social media personality Lyss started a self-love series on TikTok which amassed over 100+ million views on her videos and counting. In this podcast, she gets candid about her relationship experiences, and touches on other topics including business, beauty, wellness, and so much more. Welcome to the #dateyourselfinstead movement. Episodes every Monday.
You will BREAK down before you BUILD UP. Signs you are transforming.
On today's episode, I discuss some eerie things that happened to me as my life was breaking down and a big karmic cycle for me ended - I started seeing exes everywhere. God will break you down before he builds you up again and changes your reality for the better.
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10/21/2024 • 36 minutes, 10 seconds
God will NEVER give you peace in something that isn’t meant for you - my narcissistic abuse story
This episode is very vulnerable as I start to open up about my 4 year toxic on and off narcissistic abusive relationship that I had struggled with mentioning because I'm still in the process of healing from what happened. What this relationship taught me most is that the universe and God will never allow you to settle in a narcissistic, abusive relationship - let alone any toxic relationship that is holding you back from fulfilling your destiny.
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AND THE MIND BODY SOUL RESET - doors open soon!
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I love you. Thank you for being my best friends and the most amazing community. <3
10/14/2024 • 38 minutes, 55 seconds
How to break the cycle - SET YOURSELF FREE. Let go of your old self now.
SET YOUR SOUL FREE. You deserve to be happy. In this episode, I get vulnerable about my current situation and dive into some mental health issues surrounding the concept of truly feeling free and knowing when it's time to change your life.
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10/7/2024 • 48 minutes, 8 seconds
How to stop being "TOO NICE" - stop giving them chances (they showed you who they are!)
For the ones who are sometimes just "too nice" and passive when it comes to dating...
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9/30/2024 • 35 minutes, 42 seconds
How to stop being desperate - become obsessed with YOURSELF
There's nothing worse than desperate energy when you are constantly chasing after people or wanting them to be obsessed with you or validate you in some way, shape or form. In this episode, I talk about how you should focus on becoming obsessed with yourself and not tolerating BS from anyone around you. I also cover how to set your standards high and the boss a** b*tch that you truly are.
I have a detachment masterclass, as well as a new masterclass for health and wellness coming later this year.
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I love you, sending you all my hugs and healing energy as always -Lyss
9/23/2024 • 33 minutes, 7 seconds
How to set STRONG boundaries - don’t lift a finger for ANYONE who hasn't earned a place in your life
IN THIS VIDEO episode, I dive into all the tea about what really happened this summer in London with my last relationship...and why I've learned how important it is to take your time if you're looking to build a really strong foundation for a future with a partner. When newly dating someone it's very important to set boundaries and to remain in your feminine energy. This is ultimately my opinion, experience and perspective on how to approach future relationships.
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9/16/2024 • 40 minutes, 4 seconds
The right person WOULD WANT TO DATE YOU - if someone wants you, you will know.
On today's episode, I talk about how the right person for you WOULD WANT to be with you and date you. If someone wants to be with you, they will be with you. If a man loves you and IS your soulmate, he will commit to you. It should feel easy. It should feel good. It should feel RIGHT. If you are waiting on someone to DECIDE if they want to be with you, this episode is a wakeup call.
If you're loving the podcast, always send me a message @lyss @dateyourselfinstead on Instagram.
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9/9/2024 • 34 minutes, 47 seconds
My plastic surgery journey + the honest truth (botox, fillers, rhinoplasty & more)
I've had so many questions about the cosmetic work I've had done, and this episode is dedicated to full transparency about all of the procedures I've tried, have done, and still currently do.
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Doors open again soon, can't wait to see you there x
If you loved this episode or have any more questions, always feel free to dm me @lyss @dateyourselfinstead.
9/9/2024 • 34 minutes, 8 seconds
How to heal from a heartbreak (you deserve better and so do I)
It's time to end the toxic cycles. In this episode, I cover everything I know about going through heartbreak - and what I've learned over the years on how to recover quickly and how to move on. As I reflect back over the last two weeks, I feel like the rug had been ripped out from under me and at first I couldn't understand why...but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason - and the universe always remove someone or something in order to REPLACE IT with something better. Although I spoke highly of this person out of respect, after recording this episode and taking a step back, I recognize that I was mostly definitely love bombed, and no one should have to go through that.
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9/2/2024 • 48 minutes, 15 seconds
Your reminder to stop settling in your dating life and to love yourself first.
In full transparency, I recorded this episode back in July when I was still dating someone who I thought could be someone significant in my life. Although that relationship has recently ended, I still wanted to share this episode because everything I'm saying still holds the same truth to it - which is your reminder to never settle for basic behaviors in relationships. To experience someone who makes a genuine effort to see you, to spend time with you, and to focus on you - is what everyone deserves.
I LOVE YOU ALL and I'm so so grateful for this community.
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8/25/2024 • 31 minutes, 23 seconds
Work on yourself until they're not your type [REVISIT] - how to level up 100x and own your power
[REVISIT]
WORK ON YOURSELF SO much until they're not your type anymore. This week I'm resharing an episode from last summer as it's one of the greatest reminders to really own your power and remember your worth when it comes to dating someone. We often tend to lose ourselves in the thick of emotions when we really like or love someone, and this episode covers how to truly work on yourself in order to level up past a relationship that isn't right for you.
8/18/2024 • 25 minutes, 6 seconds
How to shift into a brand NEW REALITY. You deserve true love, abundance, and miracles.
Open your heart and your mind to a brand new reality. You deserve unconditional love and abundance.
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DOORS ARE OPEN FOR AUGUST.
I love you all so much x
8/12/2024 • 37 minutes, 48 seconds
How to DATE YOURSELF, love yourself, value yourself, and KNOW YOUR WORTH.
Dating yourself is the VIBE. It's the mood. It's everything. Dating yourself means knowing your worth. Dating yourself means YOU get to decide what and who makes you feel good. You get to choose what works for YOU.
Feel free to dm me if you loved this episode, @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
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8/5/2024 • 49 minutes, 10 seconds
My worst dating story times EVER in New York City - part 2
New York City dating is WILD. In today's episode, I'm giving you alllll the tea on my past dating stories and the crazy experiences I've had.
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7/29/2024 • 38 minutes, 54 seconds
How to become MAGNETIC and HARNESS YOUR POWER (become unstoppable)
Shifting your energy and focusing on YOU instead of on external factors, you become so magnetic and powerful. Stop telling everyone your dreams and goals, keep it to yourself and HARNESS YOUR POWER AND ENERGY.
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Super excited to have you! x
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7/22/2024 • 52 minutes, 19 seconds
This is YOUR life - NO ONE ELSE'S. YOU make the rules. LIVE YOUR TRUTH.
Who is stopping you from living your best life? This episode is your wake up call to live your life FOR YOU, and no one else. YOU get to create your reality. You make the rules. Step into your power. Live and speak your truth. Move forward in confidence.
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7/14/2024 • 45 minutes, 54 seconds
How to stop placing them on a pedestal
7/7/2024 • 31 minutes, 35 seconds
Why solo travel will change your life forever
Solo travel is such a life changing experience, and one of the most popular questions I get asked is, WHY do you travel alone and how? So, on today's episode, I wanted to dive into this topic of traveling on my own, what it means to me, the value in traveling independently and the lessons I've learned along the way.
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6/30/2024 • 33 minutes, 22 seconds
Love yourself enough to leave - stop abandoning yourself pls
Love yourself enough to leave. If it's not right for you and you know it, it's time to walk away. If this title resonates, I know this episode was made for you. I made this for the people who are scared to let go. If you continue to grasp at potential and it's taking away from your self love, YOU ARE ABANDONING YOURSELF. You deserve more out of love and life xx.
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6/24/2024 • 36 minutes, 20 seconds
10 things I'm letting go of this summer (AND FOREVER)
Summer is the perfect season to DETACH, LET GO AND CLEAN UP your life. It's a total reset for me, personally. Some things I'm letting go of include...
Self doubt
Negative self talk in my head
Anyone who makes me feel afraid to be myself
The fear of embarrassing myself (whoops)
Procrastination
Worrying about other people's opinions
AND MORE.
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6/17/2024 • 41 minutes, 24 seconds
GO AFTER WHAT YOU WANT (Taking a leap of faith into the unknown)
This episode is all about going after your purpose and your passion and not being afraid to take a leap of faith when it comes to your future. If you know you’re meant for something greater, why not go after it?
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6/10/2024 • 29 minutes, 30 seconds
HOW TO HAVE A MAJOR GLOWUP POST BREAKUP
IT'S TIME TO SHINE BABY. It's time to heal and GLOW from the inside out.
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DOORS OPEN JUNE 5, 2024. Can't wait to see you there.
6/3/2024 • 42 minutes, 42 seconds
IT'S A SELF LOVE SUMMER (Protect your peace and energy)
I'M BACK IN NYC! IT'S A SELF LOVE SUMMER. In this episode, I cover a variety of questions around dating and relationships. Most of the questions are focused around self-love and learning how to protect your peace and energy while navigating the dating world. As always, if you loved this episode, rate on Apple and Spotify and send me a message @lyss.
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5/27/2024 • 32 minutes, 30 seconds
THE ULTIMATE GUIDE TO MANIFEST YOUR DREAM LIFE (Step by step tutorial)
In this episode - I cover a WILD Bali dating story time that ultimately made me realize how much healing I have left to do and how I need to take this trip as a true opportunity to focus on myself! I also talk about all the steps I take to help my manifestations come to fruition, and I explain why manifesting your dream life is never too late. Keep in mind l'm 31 years old and I feel like my life is just beginning! So no matter what age you're at - you are capable of creating your dream reality through the power of your mind.
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5/20/2024 • 39 minutes, 45 seconds
IF YOU TRULY LOVE SOMEONE, LET THEM GO (Why love is freedom + The POWER of divine timing) - lessons from Bali
Hello from Bali! In this episode, I cover why trusting your intuition and trust in your higher self is always the best way to go when exploring a relationship that keeps you feeling stuck. I also dive into this concept of what true love really means to me and why excepting someone for who they are is the definition of love to me. I also explore the concept of freedom and how freedom ties into true, authentic love.
I love you, as always, if you feel called to send me a message on Instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead, I'm always here. x
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5/12/2024 • 42 minutes, 16 seconds
How to detach and let go of the outcome in relationships
The only episode on detachment you'll ever need to understand HOW and what it really means to let go. In this episode I dive into this concept of truly detaching from any situation in order to heal and evolve into your higher self.
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5/5/2024 • 26 minutes, 51 seconds
How to manifest 100x faster - LIVING IN THE END
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The Dare to Detach masterclass is all about letting go of the outcome, detaching, and stepping into this version of you that you KNOW you're supposed to be. It's time to manifest anything you want as well as let go of the bullshit in your life holding you back. Let's do this. You can use code "manifest" for 20% off the course.
4/29/2024 • 32 minutes, 51 seconds
What to do when they act distant, pull away or breakup with you
If you are in a situation right now where you feel like someone is acting distant, avoidant, or they are breaking up with you...or have broken up with you...this episode is for you. <3
Ready to uplevel, detach and change your entire life? If you're ready to fully let go and step into your power and reclaim your life, my masterclass is meant for you. It's designed to rewire your mind in just 4 DAYS. See all of the testimonials at the link below.
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4/22/2024 • 38 minutes, 10 seconds
How to trust your higher self and divine calling - a breakup pep talk
This episode discusses how to the process of your life and how to tap in to your higher self so you can live to your fullest potential. In this episode, I also dive into several story times about my past relationships and the lessons I learned over the recent solar eclipse. It's time to step into your power and really acknowledge that in her voice that's calling you to do more and TRUST in your future.
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4/15/2024 • 42 minutes, 49 seconds
Get over the fear of being alone NOW ft. Jemma Sbeg (Psychology of your 20's)
We're back again!!! Me and my beautiful Aussie friend and host of the top podcast Psychology of your 20's, Jemma Sbeg, are back with another episode conquering the topic of being alone. We discuss how to get over the fears associated with being single, being on your own, and dealing with the anxiety around "not having the one" just yet.
JEMMA'S SOCIALS: Her podcast - Psychology of your 20's
Her instagram: @jemmasbeg @thatpsychologypodcast
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4/7/2024 • 1 hour, 9 minutes, 35 seconds
How to radiate confidence, self love and power
The only episode you'll need to reclaim your power and feel confident, lovable and worthy.
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3/31/2024 • 29 minutes, 29 seconds
How to stop being attracted to the wrong people ft. Haley Hoffman Smith
I'm so excited to introduce you to my BFF and spiritual EFT coach, Haley Hoffman Smith. In this episode, we cover one of the most important questions - How do I stop getting attracted to the wrong people?
Attracitng the wrong people can be a COMMON pattern, and something that happens over and over again - to the point where you start questioning if it's your own doing. Haley dives into the power of our subconscious mind and how healing our subconscious can actually help us heal these toxic patterns.
Haley's social links:
Instagram & Tiktok and her podcast: Big Conversations
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Doors open again March 19th, 2024.
3/24/2024 • 54 minutes, 5 seconds
How to get over a situationship and find your soulmate
Situationships are the HARDEST to get over, from my perspective. Why? Because you're left feeling like you've had no proper closure, you couldn't live out the potential you've built in your mind about the relationship, and it can feel like the "what if" lingers over your head for a long period of time. In this episode, I cover how to properly move on from a situationship, why you deserve the absolute most out of life and your relationships, and how to find the person of your dreams. You don't need to settle any more.
If you've loved this episode, feel free to always message me on instagram @dateyourselfinstead.
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3/18/2024 • 41 minutes, 27 seconds
How to let go of the toxic cycle, set boundaries, and move on
You shouldn't have to threaten someone in order to stay with you. You shouldn't have to lower your values or your boundaries to stay inside of a relationship. You shouldn't have to compromise your own needs or give up parts of who you are for someone else.
In this episode, I dive into ways to let go of toxic relationship cycles, how to set healthy boundaries, and how to truly move on and be your best self.
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3/11/2024 • 40 minutes, 11 seconds
Your only competition is YOU - stop comparing yourself to other people
When you're truly insanely confident in the person that you're becoming and what you're working towards -- there is no competition. The only competition is you versus your future self.
Let's talk about it. If you loved this episode, always feel free to message me on instagram @dateyourselfinstead.
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3/4/2024 • 34 minutes, 23 seconds
I got sick from a toxic relationship + how I healed my PCOS naturally
A highly requested topic about how I got physically sick from being in a toxic relationship, and how I was able to heal my body naturally after suffering from PCOS for years and having irregular periods, mood swings, weight gain, and more. For years, I didn't feel good in my body, and I knew I needed to make significant changes.
DISCLAIMER: I am not a doctor and I am not here to provide concrete medical evidence, I am here to simply tell my story and share it with you.
2/26/2024 • 28 minutes, 36 seconds
How to master your emotions and remain in your power
Have you ever lashed out at someone and later regretted how you responded to a situation? Have you ever overreacted in your relationships and later realized things weren't nearly as bad as they seemed? To be honest, sometimes in the past I have tended to go off the rails in situations and later didn't really like how I acted. This episode is all about steps to make those changes to MASTER your emotions in the moment so you can remain grounded and in your power. That way, you can approach situations and conflicts from a place of calm, and make better decisions for your future.
8:00 - Being non-reactive and how to master your emotions.
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IF you’ve been holding onto someone who you know isn’t good for you, if you feel stuck in your life and can’t seem to figure out your “why”, if you feel held back by ANYONE or anything and you want to skyrocket forward into the new year, THIS course is it. This is the game changer and I am so insanely excited for you to join us!!! WHAT DO YOU GET?
4 days of videos instructed by me
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2/19/2024 • 44 minutes
My biggest dating icks + dealbreakers in 2024
Moving into the new year, I've decided that I have new boundaries and standards when it comes to dating, so here's a full episode about it. As always, send me a DM on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode.
ARE YOU READY TO DETACH? The Dare to Detach masterclass is officially OPEN with limited spots available this time around. If you’ve been holding onto someone who you know isn’t good for you, if you feel stuck in your life and can’t seem to figure out your “why”, if you feel held back by ANYONE or anything and you want to skyrocket forward into the new year, THIS course is it. This is the game changer and I am so insanely excited for you to join us!!! WHAT DO YOU GET?
4 days of videos instructed by me
detailed workshops on the power of letting go
the exact meditations I used to get over my breakup quickly
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unlimited access to classes (once you have it, it’s yours forever)
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2/12/2024 • 42 minutes, 52 seconds
10 BIG ways to improve your mindset & manifest your dream life
Having a healthy mindset is the key to ultimate success. There's been many times in my life where I've gone through periods of time where my mindset was not in a healthy place. In this episode, I discuss 10 big ways I've changed my entire mindset for the better and had major breakthroughs when it came to my mental health. If you loved this episode as always, send me a DM @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
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2/5/2024 • 32 minutes, 58 seconds
Get ready with me for a first date in London (VLOG)
A different type of podcast - vlog style. If you have Spotify, you can watch the video on the app, or watch the video on YouTube here. GET READY WITH ME FOR A FIRST DATE in London, one of my favorite cities in the world. This past December I decided to take a solo trip back to the UK to celebrate the holidays, have some good comfort food, and experience what it's like to use dating apps for the first time in A WHILE. In this particular situation, I ended up connecting with a guy on instagram, and then there was a major plot twist...enjoy!
If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to DM me as always on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.
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1/29/2024 • 20 minutes, 25 seconds
How to fall in love with YOURSELF in 2024
Fall in love with YOURSELF and your own life in 2024. Let me ask you a serious question. Would you want to date yourself? Would you want to get to know YOU? In today's episode, I cover the ways you can learn to love yourself deeply and like never before into the new year. I hope you enjoy! As always, feel free to message me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead if you're loving the podcast.
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1/29/2024 • 24 minutes, 16 seconds
Stop projecting a fantasy of what someone could be…THEY'RE NOT THAT PERSON.
Do you fantasize a lot about the potential of a person? Then this episode is for you. If you continue to try to change or mold someone into something that they're not, you're simply wasting your time and energy. Just listen! :)
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1/22/2024 • 35 minutes, 41 seconds
31 life lessons I learned before turning 31
Happy birthday to me! IT'S CAPRICORN SEASON! On this episode, I talk about 31 valuable life lessons I've learned before turning 31 years old. Enjoy!!!! xx
1/15/2024 • 37 minutes, 34 seconds
What to do when they pull away + the best dating advice EVER ft. Jemma Sbeg
NEW YEAR, NEW EPISODES! FINALLY, I have my very first guest on the Date Yourself Instead podcast, my dear incredible friend Jemma Sbeg, who hosts the Psychology of Your 20's podcast. In this episode, we discuss what to do when someone pulls away from you, and we also cover tons of widely popular dating topics + YOUR sent in questions!!!
If you've enjoyed this episode, feel free to always message me on instagram @lyss or on the podcast instagram @dateyourselfinstead.
Jemma's socials: @thatpsychologypodcast and @jemmasbeg
Be sure to check out Jemma's podcast here.
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1/8/2024 • 41 minutes, 50 seconds
Why going no contact WORKS.
GOING NO CONTACT IS THE MOVE IN 2024.
It is a PRIVILEGE to have access to you and your energy.
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Are you tired of constantly holding onto what or WHO isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade? Are you ready to become a new, more powerful, more fearless, more unstoppable YOU? Let’s do this.
It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. MY DARE TO DETACH masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. THERE'S NO MORE TIME TO WASTE.
1/1/2024 • 42 minutes, 24 seconds
How to manifest a specific person back into your life
How to manifest a specific person! Listen intentionally with caution. I want you to be happy overall, so I want you to manifest someone ONLY if you truly feel they were your person. Also I feel like I'm going to get cancelled for being a cold hearted Capricorn in this episode because I discuss my icks, but oh well. In this episode I also talk about my experience from dating apps recently and some fun life updates. Enjoy! :)
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It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. MY DARE TO DETACH masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. THERE'S NO MORE TIME TO WASTE.
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12/25/2023 • 31 minutes, 50 seconds
If they wanted to, THEY WOULD.
If they wanted to, they would...? Or maybe they just can't. Maybe they don't have the capacity to love you the way you love them. Let's dive into this topic together.
12/18/2023 • 34 minutes, 3 seconds
5 BIG ways to level the f*ck up in 2024
If you're ready to step into your POWER in 2024, this episode is for you.
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12/11/2023 • 41 minutes, 12 seconds
Decenter that toxic man now. YOU are the main character.
A reminder to focus on you, because you have one f*cking life to live. Stop making someone else the main focus of your orbit. You are the SUN. You deserve to be front and center in your own movie. Xoxo.
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12/4/2023 • 33 minutes, 1 second
DETACH to ATTRACT - how being detached helps you manifest faster
DETACHMENT SPEEDS UP MANIFESTATION. When you truly let go, miracles happen. I WANT YOU TO UPLEVEL. UPGRADE. DETACH. BE FREE. BE F*CKING HAPPY. Because...why not? If you need a little push or a sign from the universe, this episode is for YOU.
Detach to attract.
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With all the love and gratitude, Lyss
11/27/2023 • 38 minutes, 12 seconds
Feeling lonely this holiday season? I've got you.
Being alone during the holiday season or any celebration day in general can feel like sh*t, let's just be honest. HOWEVER, it can also be empowering and fun if you make it that way - which is why I created this episode. TIS THE SEASON to embrace yourself and love yourself even more. I love you lots. Here is the link to my masterclass, use code selflove for a discount. xx Lyss
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11/20/2023 • 26 minutes, 2 seconds
SEND THEM LOVE anyway - the ultimate healing guide
Send them love. They need it the most. When someone hurts you, it can be easy to hate them - but what I've learned is that healing works from the inside out by becoming an energetic vessel of LOVE.
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11/13/2023 • 31 minutes, 17 seconds
Stop procrastinating, your future self needs you
Why do we procrastinate? I was the queen of procrastination and I would always assume things would just happen for me, but YOU NEED TO take action to get results and become your best self. Stop putting shit off! ;) I love you. Much love. Xoxo, Lyss.
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11/6/2023 • 39 minutes, 20 seconds
It's time to upgrade, uplevel, and become f*cking unstoppable this fall season
Do you know how special and important you are??? Do you know how much you bring to the table? NO ONE IS YOU and that is your superpower. In this episode, I discuss ways to level up, create boundaries, know your worth and much more.
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10/30/2023 • 42 minutes, 13 seconds
How to handle rejection & move on
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Are you tired of constantly holding onto what isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade?
It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. This masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. Let's do this.
WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS COURSE:
4 DAYS OF MATERIAL - WORK AT YOUR OWN PACE. Each day is designed to reprogram your mind, help you let go, detach, and free yourself from anything that is no longer serving your growth.
A step by step guide on the art of detachment and learning how to love yourself in healthy, constructive ways
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10/23/2023 • 35 minutes, 14 seconds
The power of being direct and communicative (stop playing games)
In this episode, I talk about the power of being direct, forward and just communicating versus running from your problems - especially when it comes to dating.
Sometimes I've been anxious or afraid to speak my truth because of the fear of messing things up. But, as of recently, that changed. Here's everything I've learned
about being honest and direct about my feelings. If you enjoyed this episode, always dm me @lyss and let me know your feedback. Love you xx.
10/16/2023 • 33 minutes, 51 seconds
Dare to Detach
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Are you tired of constantly holding onto what isn't good for you? Are you feeling stuck and discouraged because you KNOW your higher self is calling for a massive upgrade?
It is TIME to uplevel into the most amazing version of you. This masterclass is designed to help you let go and set yourself free so you can UPGRADE YOUR LIFE baby. Let's do this.
WHAT YOU'LL GET FROM THIS COURSE:
4 DAYS OF MATERIAL - WORK AT YOUR OWN PACE. Each day is designed to reprogram your mind, help you let go, detach, and free yourself from anything that is no longer serving your growth.
A step by step guide on the art of detachment and learning how to love yourself in healthy, constructive ways
Workshops including reprogramming your subconscious mind to level up and a shadow work integration to help your healing process
A private and exclusive community group chat
TOTAL VALUE: $1,199
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I'M READY TO UPLEVEL
10/16/2023 • 1 minute, 35 seconds
Mastermind - how to get anything or anyone you want
Become a mastermind and manifest anything or anyone you want with just a simple mindset. Trust the process baby. You've got this. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me on instagram and check out the new masterclass, Dare to Detach, coming October 11th!
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10/9/2023 • 34 minutes, 53 seconds
If you can't match my energy, BYEEE (masculine vs. feminine energy)
If I'm dating you, you better bring the same vibes and energy to the f*cking table. If you don't reply to me for days, it's not the vibe. If you could go 48 hours without a reply...it's a no. Here are some of my dealbreakers, my opinions on matching energy in dating, and alllll the coverage on masculine versus feminine energy. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me @lyss and feel free to share it - it helps the pod grow. I appreciate you xx
10/2/2023 • 52 minutes, 20 seconds
5 signs you need to breakup + my views on sex & casual hookups
If you're in a sticky situation where you are attached to someone but you just can't seem to let them go, this episode covers the major warning signs and red flags that I personally feel could make or break a relationship. These are some of my dealbreakers that I find are helpful when deciding when to leave a relationship. In the second half of this episode, I talk about my views on sex and intimacy for the first time ever on the pod, and my perspective on casual hookups. If you enjoyed this episode, dm me @lyss! xx
9/25/2023 • 39 minutes, 2 seconds
You deserve consistency. It should feel good - if it doesn’t, let that sh*t go.
Just listen. This is a goodie.
9/18/2023 • 44 minutes, 2 seconds
YOUR THOUGHTS CREATE YOUR REALITY
SURPRISE to the video episode :) It's the 1 year anniversary of DATE YOURSELF INSTEAD baby!!! Wow. I can't believe just one year ago I started the podcast and it became what it is today. In this episode, I discuss my mental health journey, as well as this idea of your THOUGHTS creating your reality. Thinking positively about your life and yourself, and your future...is SO essential in order to live the life of your dreams. I hope you love this episode, and let me know if you want more videos. Xoxo.
9/11/2023 • 47 minutes, 6 seconds
How to know if they're the 1 - GREEN FLAGS
Self love leads to true love. There is some wholesome loving content on today's episode. This is your reminder that you deserve true, deep, unconditional love. You deserve peace and safety. You deserve to feel secure in a relationship. Xoxo, Lyss <3
9/4/2023 • 28 minutes, 41 seconds
Stop diluting your power for a man
It's easy to lose focus when you're so fixated on someone else. But baby, you have to remember that YOU ARE THE MAIN CHARACTER. When it comes to relationships, we often dilute our power and give our energy away instead of directing it towards OURSELVES. Agree or disagree?
8/28/2023 • 33 minutes, 53 seconds
He's just not that into you
Signs that he's just not that into you. He's being hot and cold. Flaky with plans. Distant. A bad texter. Says he doesn't know where he stands or what he wants. In this episode, I dish the hard truth and the signs of when someone is just not...that interested.
8/21/2023 • 39 minutes, 14 seconds
Here's what to do when they pull away
When someone pulls away, it can be difficult to navigate. Often times we feel like we did something wrong to mess the relationship up. It can cause a lot of anxiety if we're not sure where the other person stands or why they're distancing themselves...when everything seemed to be going well. In this episode, I talk about what to do when they pull away from you - and how to handle it like a pro. You'll feel better in no time baby.
8/14/2023 • 38 minutes, 33 seconds
Why we broke up - the breakup that changed me forever
Why my ex and I broke up - the full detailed story. I wasn't sure if I would ever speak on this relationship and the breakup that changed me forever. In this episode, I am finally sharing my experience and more details about the breakup that inspired the Date Yourself Instead podcast. If this resonated with you in any way, I would love to hear your story as well. Always feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss.
8/7/2023 • 29 minutes, 17 seconds
How to raise your standards HIGH AF
Cause you deserve the best :-) I love you.
7/31/2023 • 30 minutes, 37 seconds
The POWER of solo traveling
Ahhhh. SOLO TRAVEL. One of the most highly requested topics I get asked to cover is my experience doing shit alone. And yeah, it can be intimidating, scary and crazy to go off on adventures completely solo. In this episode, I talk about a few experiences I've had solo traveling, the lessons I've learned, my honest thoughts on it, and a wild story time about my study abroad journey in Australia. I'll definitely be recording a part two. Xoxo.
7/24/2023 • 43 minutes, 39 seconds
How to master detachment
It's a detached girl summer.
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7/17/2023 • 29 minutes, 55 seconds
How to be unbothered, go no contact, deal with cheating, & more
It's official - I am HERE to answer all of your questions on this very juicy episode of Date Yourself Instead. In this episode, I discuss the art of being unbothered and how to live your truth, how to go no contact and my thoughts on blocking someone if you're broken up, my honest thoughts on cheating, and more.
7/10/2023 • 35 minutes, 48 seconds
The red flags you see now are the reasons you'll leave later
Self explanatory. If you see some major issues early on, my best advice is to get out while you still can. The red flags you see in the beginning are the reasons you'll most likely leave the relationship later - or they'll be the reason you're unhappy in a relationship. Yes, people can grow and change, however, I've noticed that my gut was always telling me to run prior to diving deeper into a situation with someone...yet I just ignored it. Let's talk about it.
7/3/2023 • 37 minutes, 36 seconds
How to really DATE YOURSELF INSTEAD
Dating yourself instead. What does dating yourself really mean? I'm in London right now, and I decided to push myself out of my comfort zone. Here's a full breakdown of how I've recently started to date myself, take myself out and dive into a brand new timeline to change my life and open my heart up to the idea of meeting new people. When you go through a breakup, it can be difficult to put yourself out there and learn how to be alone, so this episode covers everything you need to know.
6/26/2023 • 33 minutes, 18 seconds
How to trust the process of your life & manifest faster
Trusting the process of your life can be a scary thing to do when it feels like everything is falling apart. It's also harder when you're trying to manifest things and you just feel blocked, stagnant and not your best self. Here is my best advice when it comes to trusting your journey, and how to manifest and attract the best things into your life faster. If you loved this episode, would mean the world if you rated on Spotify and sent me a dm on instagram @lyss @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.
6/18/2023 • 41 minutes, 27 seconds
Work on yourself so much until they're not your type anymore
If you're overly consumed by the idea of a person instead of focusing on yourself, this episode is for you. We get so caught up and easily fixated on a new relationship, or a partner that isn't giving us the love we deserve, and it becomes an ultimate form of distraction away from who we are, our goals, and what truly makes us happy. This episode is really just a reminder to work on yourself and your goals, and find the passion that drives you, instead of focusing on someone that isn't showing up for you. Remember, if you loved this episode feel free to dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead, and be sure to rate it on Spotify.
6/11/2023 • 25 minutes, 6 seconds
The worst dates I’ve been on in New York City
You asked for it, and here we are. The worst dates I've ever been on in New York City. Dating can be a whirlwind, and an absolute mess - especially with easy access to dating apps. In my late 20's, I would go on dates for fun that often were either really fun or a total disaster. In this episode, I talk about some of the worst experiences I've had. If you enjoyed this episode, feel free to follow and dm me @lyss and stay updated with more content on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Love you.
6/5/2023 • 33 minutes, 55 seconds
How to avoid getting attached too quickly
It's easy to get attached to someone we've just met...because they're nice. Because they're attractive and treat us right. But how soon is too soon to get attached? Often times I'd become so fixated on one person early on, only to realize it was all smoke and mirrors. This person was not at all who I thought they were. So here's an episode talking about that experience, and how to avoid getting attached too fast. If you loved this episode, dm me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead and share it with a friend. Xoxo.
5/29/2023 • 38 minutes, 27 seconds
I was LOVE BOMBED - a dating story time
The first half of this episode talks about self worth, valuing yourself and to avoid jumping into a new relationship before you've processed a breakup. The second half of this episode talks about love bombing and a story time of a guy I dated super briefly that was fucking obsessed with me for a hot minute and then put me in a really uncomfortable situation, and THEN vanished off the face of the earth. If you liked or could relate to this episode, follow me and dm me on instagram @lyss and stay updated on the podcast account @dateyourselfinstead. Xoxo.
5/22/2023 • 38 minutes, 14 seconds
Stop being desperate & needy in love
I definitely have had my moments in relationships where I felt like I smothered my partner with desperate energy. I was needy and insecure because I didn't love or value myself enough to know who I truly was. I didn't know my worth, so I would project my insecurities often onto my boyfriends in hopes that would make them want to be with me more, but instead it often backfired and became messy. I also mention this amazing book, The Mastery of Love, in the beginning of this episode which has helped me through my healing process and has helped the relationship I have with myself. If you are loving the podcast, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
5/15/2023 • 34 minutes, 49 seconds
Stop giving SO much to someone you’re not even dating
In this episode, I dive into a storytime about a guy I was taking on dates around New York City. I was putting in an unreasonable amount of effort…and for what? When someone isn’t your boyfriend, you shouldn’t be the only one making concrete plans.
5/8/2023 • 23 minutes, 51 seconds
How to feel GOOD being alone
Being alone can be a scary experience at first, especially after a breakup. In this episode, I dive into my advice about being by myself and what I’ve learned from being my own company.
5/8/2023 • 21 minutes, 37 seconds
I did magic mushrooms in mexico - here's what I took from it
Psyliocybin. Magic mushrooms. Tulum. This experience changed my life and my perception of everything in the world. I was going through one of the worst depressions, and I met a Spirit Guide in Mexico who altered the course of my life permanently. She guided me through a magic mushroom trip that would ultimately lead me to creating the podcast, and free me from a great deal of trauma I had carried with me over the course of my life. In this episode I dive into the lessons this experience taught me and I hope this experience can help some of you.
5/1/2023 • 26 minutes, 30 seconds
Forgiving yourself when you've f*cked up
What happens when you're the problem? Forgiving yourself when you've made a mistake can be challenging. We all go through periods of time in our live where we're bound to make mistakes, but those mistakes can turn into valuable learning lessons. In this episode, I give various examples of how we can f*ck up and how it can be helpful to just own up to those mistakes and be honest with who you are. Don't beat yourself up too much, you're still human.
PS - if you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to send me a DM on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.
4/24/2023 • 27 minutes, 16 seconds
Not everyone is going to like you
Not everyone is going to like you or accept you - that's just how life is. The most important thing is that YOU like you. In this episode, I talk about my personal experiences with how people treated me poorly for no apparent reason at all - and what those experiences taught me. If you enjoyed this episode, always feel free to DM me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead.
4/17/2023 • 28 minutes, 12 seconds
How to know if you're with the wrong person vs. right person
Being with the wrong person can feel heavy on your heart and on your mind. It could feel like you're constantly trying to change for someone else or try to compromise your needs for someone else. In this episode, I dive into what it feels like to be in the wrong relationship, or in a relationship that needs some work. I also dive into what it feels like to be in a good and healthy relationship with a partner. I hope it can help guide you and make you feel less alone if you're currently in this type of situation. Always feel free to DM me as well on instagram @dateyourselfinstead or @lyss if you enjoyed this episode.
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4/10/2023 • 26 minutes, 36 seconds
Going through a breakup? Here's the ultimate best friend pep talk
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4/3/2023 • 21 minutes, 10 seconds
Twin flames and karmic relationships
Twin flames - are they a good or bad thing? In this episode, I dive into my personal twin flame experience and the valuable lessons I learned from dating mine. I reflect on how my twin flame taught me a lot about myself, and helped me grow & mature as a person. As always, if you enjoyed this episode, feel free to rate the podcast on Spotify, and send me a message on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead.
3/27/2023 • 25 minutes, 52 seconds
How to let go and move on because you deserve BETTER
This is the ultimate breakup guide and podcast for anyone trying to move on and let go, because you deserve better. You deserve someone who will commit to you and give you the world. Why are you settling? In this episode, I discuss my perspective on this topic and dive into my own emotions as well. Remember, you can always message me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode.
3/20/2023 • 27 minutes, 54 seconds
The power of walking away
Why are we so afraid to walk away from a toxic relationship?
Sometimes we're afraid to leave relationships for a variety of reasons, including:
Fear of being alone
Fear of the unknown
Fear of change
Children and family obligations
And so much more. In this episode, I talk about the power of walking away from a relationship that isn't serving you, and some useful tips to navigate a breakup. As always, you can DM me on instagram @lyss or @dateyourselfinstead if you enjoyed this episode!
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3/13/2023 • 28 minutes, 41 seconds
Love letter method - manifest your soulmate instantly
Surprise!!! I decided to release this one early because, well...I love you all dearly. Manifest your soulmate literally instantly, this works every time ;) This video is about how I manifested 3 different people into my life using a letter. It's simple, effective, and can bring magic and miracles into your life really quickly. Let's connect on my socials! If you decide to try this, let me know.
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3/10/2023 • 18 minutes, 38 seconds
50 ways to date yourself at any age
Dating yourself - what does it REALLY mean? In today’s episode, I dive into why I think Valentine’s Day is a scam, why learning to love yourself is important regardless of your relationship status, and 50 ways to date yourself at any age. Learning the power of self-love and treating yourself to a day of fun with or without a partner is always a good idea. PS - this Valentine’s Day, I’ll be treating myself to a romantic dinner for one. Feel free to message me on instagram @lyss and @dateyourselfinstead and tell me how you’re celebrating!
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2/13/2023 • 32 minutes, 5 seconds
How to manifest your soulmate
If you’re ready to receive someone into your life, this story may inspire you manifest it. Once, after listening to a podcast suggesting manifesting a love by writing a letter, I immediately met a new person. It’s easy to match someone’s energy for too long and lose yourself. Instead, you can use your positive thoughts to manifest someone that you can be your true self with.
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