Hey lady! It's Terri and Dr. Dom here popping into your world with a short bonus episode. No matter how you found this episode, we're so happy you're here and we truly believe that you landed here for a reason. Okayyyy, we see you universe!Today we're talking about choosing faith over fear and we want to invite you to our live podcast show in Oakland, CA on July 8, 2023 at 7PM.Register here: https://bit.ly/herspaceinthebay or visit herspacepodcast.com to get your tickets!This event is for you if you are seeking:Opportunities to connect with like-minded womenA positive community (we don't do the mean girl vibes ova here!)Healing, inspiration, and lots of laughterA place where you can let your hair down and embrace your multifaceted self. We celebrate and acknowledge the bougie, classy, and ratchet parts of ourselves. We call it "blatchet."Although our brand is catered to Black women, all women and all people who love and appreciate Black women are invited to join us.The VIP experience will be exclusively available for folks who identify as female.Important Need-To-Know:This event is a 21+ event. No children or underaged folks will be permitted inside.Outside of meet and greet photos, we ask that no recording or pictures be taken. We will have a photographer and videographer onsite but want to respect the confidentiality and privacy of attendees in this safe space.Twerk church is voluntary when you purchase the VIP experience.If you decide to attend Twerk church, be sure to bring your favorite booty shorts, a tank top, and if you have knee pads, bring em' out!Register here: https://bit.ly/herspaceinthebayThis show is part of the Spreaker Prime Network, if you are interested in advertising on this podcast, contact us at https://www.spreaker.com/show/5470036/advertisement

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeBlack women can have an eating disorder. Black women can also have disordered eating habits. The reality is many of us have eating habits that could be problematic. Emotional eating. Mindless eating. Inconsistent eating. Most of this is brought on by the unfortunate inherent stress of being a Black woman. Know that you are not alone. For this important conversation, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by eating disorder expert, Dr. Tiffany Loggins. No matter your current eating habits, this conversation is for you.Quote of the Day:"I thought it was a white, rich, female, adolescent disorder."-Karla MosleyRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Dr. Tiffany Loggins:Private PracticeEssential Tools for Cognitive Behavioral TherapyLinkedIN: Tiffany LogginsRecovery Record AppWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, our guest today is truly an inspiration. Her origin story is one that will motivate you to choose you. Yes. YOU. Not your kids, partner, or mama and ‘em. YOU. Be intentional about the work and don’t let pain, anger, or denial be distractors. Reflect and unlearn to get to the place where you “Say hello to yourself.” In today’s episode, Yah Hughes joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share her journey to herself and how you can find you too. Betting on yourself is not an option, it’s a mandate.Quote of the Day:"Your goals, dreams, emotional well-being, life, situations will always be a WANT if you don’t do what you NEED to get to the other side!"-Yah HughesRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Yah Hughes:Cultivate WholenessIG: Yah HughesLinkedIn: Yah HughesWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe“No one should feel so insecure they cover up who they are.”  Jennifer Vassel is committed to making sure we learn to rise above our insecurities and recognize we are enough. The author of I Am Unique joins Terri and Dr. Dom to talk about nurturing our inner child and the importance of representation. Jennifer drops some infuriating statistics and provides us with tips that give us hope. This is an inspiring conversation that will definitely have you reflecting on how you are caring for your inner child and tapping into your gifts.Quote of the Day:"You are never given a dream without the power to make it come true."Jennifer VasselRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Jennifer Vassel:Jennifer VasselIG: @jenniferdvasselI Am UniqueWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe“It’s no fun if the homies can’t have some.” At Cultivating H.E.R. Space, this phrase means that life is not fun if our tribe is not winning with us. Terri and Dr. Dom’s business bestie, Attorney Ruky Tijani embodies this in everything she does. In today’s episode, Attorney Tijani shares with us the necessary resources all entrepreneurs need in their toolbox. Lady, get ready to take notes and listen closely because Attorney Tijani drops gems on top of gems that you have to really pay attention to catch them all.Quote of the Day:"It's time to own the change you make in the world"-Ruky TijaniGet your Cultivating H.E.R. Space Merchandise!Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Attorney Ruky Tijani:Firm for the CultureIG: @firmforthecultureLinkedIn: Rukayatu T.Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeGOAT. Goals are attained after trials. Based on that definition, Four-Time Olympian Chaunté Lowe is a GOAT. In this episode, she reminds us: 1) we are our first advocate; 2) the importance of not missing our appointments; and 3) what tests/screenings we should be requesting from our doctors. Chaunté’s story is one that is inspiring and empowering. The gems she drops are beneficial to us no matter our journey. Terri and Dr. Dom even have some with her during “Oh You Blatchet?”. Be sure to share this story with all of the female-bodied people in your life.Quote of the Day:"I'm a survivor. Keep on surviving"-Destiny's ChildRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Chaunté Lowe:CancerScreenWeek.orgIG: @chauntéloweLinkedIn: Chaunté LoweWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeIn our current state of the world, this is a conversation that speaks to experiences across professions and generations. While many of us grew up happy to see one Black person on a show or would readily support a project even if the story was not being told by us. However, today’s generation is demanding more. Today we want to see ourselves represented in all facets of life. In this week’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the multi-hyphenate Schele Williams to discuss how she is cultivating the culture she wants to see on and off-Broadway.Quote of the Day:“Diversity is still a huge issue. We need more people of color in positions of power to greenlight content. If you want to see content of color, then it has to be in the hands of people of color.”-Issa RaeRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Schele Williams:Schele WilliamsIG: @ScheleWilliamsYour LegacyWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeGiving birth is one of the most memorable experiences in someone’s life. Yet we know implicit bias and medical racism cause detrimental effects for Black women that can lead to many painful birthing memories. Therefore, who we have on our birthing teams are so important. On today’s episode Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the doula team, Bare With Me Duo, to dispel myths, share wisdom, and affirm why having a doula or midwife is our ancestral birthright ;)Quote of the Day:“If the dreams you have don’t scare you a little bit,then they’re probably not big enough.”-Stephanie DixonRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Where to find Bare with Me Doula Duo:Bare with Me DuoIG: @barewithmeduoWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeOur quote of the day is so appropriate for so many of our journeys but it is truly applicable for today’s guest, Grace Eleyae. Lady, if you're not familiar with Grace then you are probably familiar with her satin-lined caps. Today, Grace joins Dr. Dom and Terri to share with the ladies her journey of losing hair to running the multi-million dollar international company so many of us love. Grace’s story is one we can see playing out as a movie or miniseries, so grab your popcorn and tune in to her amazing journey.Quote of the Day:"Your beginning does not have to be your ending."-Anonymous***Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!***Where to find Grace Eleyae:Grace EleyaeIG: @graceeleyaeWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, this is more than a “New Year, New You” episode. We cannot get to the next level or see a “New You” when we are stuck in the same patterns. What is no longer serving you? How do we make room for growth? Today Terri and Dr. Dom guide us through multiple steps we can take to releasing baggage, setting intentions, and manifesting the life we desire. Remember that a “New Year” can occur at any point in the calendar year so be sure to bookmark this episode for any time you are needing a recharge, restart, or refresh.Quote of the Day:"Growth requires letting go of the parts of yourself that get in the way of who you want to be."-Nedra TawwabRegister here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop!Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeThis well-kept secret among the movers and shakers will no longer be a secret after this episode. Every billionaire you can think of is strategic about everything they do and astrology is their guide. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by Jhéanell Bloom to discuss our personal blueprints and why following horoscopes is not the best method. Lady, whether you are listening to this at the start of the year or any other time when you are looking to restart, learning about how to live your best life based on your birth chart will be a surefire game changer.Bonus: Jhéanell reads pieces of Dr. Dom’s and Terri’s birth charts.Quote of the Day:“Millionaires don't use Astrology, billionaires do.”-J.P. MorganWhere to find Jhéanell BloomWebsite: AstrohiveIG: @astrohiveWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, grab your favorite beverage and settle in for the vibe we are creating. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by She Speaks Bougie podcast host, Tennielle Clark. The ladies dive into the realness of adulting. The difficult moments that make us cry our longest tears; the funny times where we bust a gut laughing; and every emotional event in between. This space of self-discovery where we stand in the feelings we don’t want to feel is the sweet spot of growing into the evolved version of ourselves. How will you enjoy your evolution?Quote of the Day:"The strength in knowing who YOU are gives you the power to see that what is in the shadows won’t survive in your light."-Tennielle ClarkWhere to find Tennielle ClarkIG: @shespeaksbougiePodcast: She Speaks BougieEmail: [email protected] Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeBitcoin! Web 3.0! Cryptocurrency! Oh MY! Lady, while these terms may sound foreign, they need to become a part of your daily vocabulary. The evolution of the internet is leading us to all become our own experts in this new technology. Things are moving fast and we don’t want you to miss the train! In today’s episode, Daniel DiPiazza joins Terri and Dr. Dom to define the terms, give us the history, and put us up on game for the future. This is definitely an episode to share with your friends so we can all win!Quote of the Day:"Take advantage of the changing guard to even the playing field and collect your coins. This is most likely the biggest opportunity of our lifetime for you to start from absolute zero and create generational wealth through sheer self-education and timing."-Daniel DiPiazzaWhere to find Daniel DiPiazzaThe New Wave EntrepreneurWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeHow does one become a CEO when everything seems to be stacked against them? How does one carry on when life continues to send “obstacles” your way?  Arion Long knows exactly how. In today’s episode, Arion joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share her journey about the process of launching a much-needed business. Using your “anger to shake some tables” is only one way Arion is turning her pain into purpose. The KNOWLEDGE she casually drops through this episode is something you do not want to miss.Quote of the Day:"We don't 'get over' or 'move on' from trauma. We are forced to make space for it. We carry it. We learn to live with it. And, sometimes, we thrive in spite of it."-unknownThree tips to get your business funded: Find your tribe Know your industry and market Be ready so you don’t have to get readyWhere to find Arion:IG: @arionklongFemlyIG: @femlyWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe***Content warning***In today’s episode, we talk about a number of heavy situations related to abuse, sexual assault, and suicide. Remember to protect your peace and energy and feel free to fast forward through the trauma portions of this episode.April Hernandez-Castillo joins Terri and Dr. Dom to discuss her experiences with trauma and triumphs. Hailing from the Bronx, April shares her story of navigating Hollywood and motherhood. Her pregnancy journey is one that was life-changing for her and one many of us may have similarly experienced.Quote of the Day:"It's not how hard you hit. It's how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take, and keep moving forward; that's how winning is done."- RockyWhere to find April:IG: @aprillhernandezEmbracing MeAlmas’s WayWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, today is a powerful episode with an amazing woman. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Opal Franklin who shares with us part of her journey as a transracial adoptee.  Her complex and nuanced journey is unique while still having threads of commonalities with other multicultural and/or adoptive families. Opal’s story is one in which you will walk away learning something new and feel empowered to engage with others about their origin story.Quote of the Day:"There is nothing more delightfulThen you, My Love.Even though you do not think so,I hold you closerThan anything elseThat has entered my life."-F.S. YousafWhere to find Opal:MediumIG: @storynoirWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Rejection. Insecurity. Perfectionism. These are some of the reasons why we may be taking things personally. At different stages and seasons in life, we have all found ourselves in a space where we are asking, “What did I do? Why am I the target here?” Most of the time, it is not about you. However, your reaction is an indicator of something going on within you. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us explore why we take things personally and offer strategies to heal.Quote of the Day:"Don't get upset with people or situations. Both are powerless without your reaction."-UnknownTips to help us stop taking things personally: Consider the source Identify your triggers Choose your plan of action do you need to have a conversation? do you need to go within and do more healing? See #4 Address your unfinished business talk to your therapist create a personal SOP Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe“You should never not be the leader of your birth and in control of what happens to your body and your baby.” We have all seen the stories and some of us have experienced this first hand- knowing what we need from our doctors, asking for it, and either being ignored or dismissed. Lady, you know your body more than anyone else so let’s talk about the options and dispel the myths. In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by The Equipped Mama, Courtney Stallworth, to discuss how parents-to-be can be fully prepared for the birth and care of their new baby.Quote of the Day:" At some point, you have to stop prioritizing your busy day and start prioritizing your health."The Equipped MamaWhere to Find The Equipped Mama:IG: @theequippedmamaWebsite:  The Equipped MamaWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, are you or someone you know experiencing arthritis, fibromyalgia, long covid, migraines, or gynecological issues? Then you know what it is to experience chronic pain. For those who live with various forms of pain for periods longer than three months, sometimes it can seem as if no one can understand or relate. Or maybe you ignore it because you are prioritizing everything else- oh that’s just us? Cool. Cool. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom discuss chronic pain and ways to manage it.Quote of the Day:“People believe that they ‘understand chronic pain’ because they have also felt pain but it’s a completely different thing when it’s day in and day out for years,”-Monica C., Phoenix, Arizona, has fibromyalgia and chronic fatigue syndrome.source: https://creakyjoints.org/support/things-you-only-understand-if-have-chronic-pain/Tips for managing chronic pain: Weighing all options available Talking about what you are going through Reduce stress Eating a healthy diet Find ways to relax and fill your time to distract from the pain Be kind to yourself Seek professional helpWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeHow have your relationships been with white women? Tense? Apprehensive? Complicated? All of those terms are accurate. Or maybe you have not thought too deeply about your relationship with the white women in your lives. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri dive into the history and complexities of Black women’s interactions with white women. The ladies also provide tips on navigating those relationships. The ultimate goal: PROTECTING BLACK WOMEN!P.S. This is one aftershow you definitely do not want to miss!Quote of the Day:"Their internalized misogyny and (often subconscious) racism teaches them to use the backs of Black women as stairs they need to use to climb closer to the top of the white-male-made hierarchy."-Savannah WorleyTips for navigating complex relationships: Have a level of conscious awareness Engage in boundary-setting Identify your support systemResources mentioned in the episode:Savannah WorleyRachel CargleTamla HorsfordWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, what is your relationship with food? Is it one in which you feel nourished? Nah? Ok. No worries, sis. You are not alone. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by Vanessa Rissetto to discuss our relationship with food. Whether you are getting ready for all the holiday festivities or refining your spring/summer brunch game or trying to lose weight for that vacation or focused on new year new you, this is a conversation for you. Vanessa helps us get real with our eating habits so we can make choices that are best suited to our unique needs. She shares with us easily applicable super useful tips that will keep us happy and healthy.Quote of the Day:"Stop stressing about food, start living your life."-Culina HealthWhere to connect with Vanessa Rissetto:Website: Culina HealthBusiness IG: @culinahealthIG: @vanessarissettordWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeFaith. Family. Food. Those are the three pillars of Vincent Country. In today’s episode, Tommi Vincent joins Dr. Dom and Terri to share her gems around how faith, family, and food guide her family. As the CEO of her household, Tommi shares with us why she rejects the notion of “having it all” and how she recognized when she needed to turn to Jesus and therapy for her healing. Through her Stay A While Podcast and weekly IG lives, Tommi is blessing all of us with an understanding of the healing properties of good people and good food.Quote of the Day:"Take into consideration how people receive your message."-Tommi VincentWhere to connect with Tommi Vincent:Website: Vincent CountryPodcast: Stay A While IG: @cheftommivTwitter: @cheftommivWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

“Nobody is an overnight success. It costs them something.” Today’s guest embodies what it means to sacrifice along the journey to success. This super special guest is the homegirl you need in your life. Yvonne Orji is that friend who drops the important gems while keeping you laughing. In the midst of your laughter, all of the lightbulbs of insight will start flashing and keep you coming back for more of her wisdom. In today’s episode, Yvonne will keep you laughing as you take in important life lessons. Her journey of being Bamboozled by Jesus is something to which we all can relate and definitely do not want to miss.Quote of the Day:"God has custom-designed your life to magnificent, and by default, the magnificent is uncertain, daring, and downright scary."-Yvonne OrjiWhere to connect with Yvonne Orji:Website: Bamboozled By JesusIG: @yvonneorjiTwitter: @yvonneorjiWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

“When you come from something you don’t realize how powerful it is until you don’t have it anymore.” That thing is Ayurveda. The mother of all healing systems. No matter your current health practices, it is what you need to integrate into your life. Not exactly sure what it is? We got you! In today’s episode, Dr. Avanti joins Terri and Dr. Dom to show us how the wisdom is already within in you to practice Ayurveda. This is the conversation about finding the balanced healing you didn’t know you needed.Quote of the Day:“Health is more than the absence of disease – it’s the presence of harmony within you and with everything around you. I believe everyone can achieve it.”--Dr. AvantiDr. Avanti’s Top 5 Immune Boosting Strategies Get into a daily routine Regular meal time Regular sleep/wake cycle Natural sunlight every day before 10 am Get outside in nature every dayWhere to connect with Dr. Avanti:Website: Dr. Avanti Kumar-SinghIG: @avantikumarsinghWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe***Sensitive Content Warning***Lady, today we are having a much-needed and incredibly sensitive conversation about sexual abuse. If this is a conversation you are not ready for do not hesitate to skip this one. Please prioritize taking care of yourself. As discussed in this episode with Katherine Barner, we recognize that your healing is the top priority. When you listen, you will hear Katherine carefully and intentionally process with Dr. Dom and Terri the statistics around abuse and the most effective strategies for healing.Quote of the Day:"I don’t know who needs to hear this but the adults were supposed to protect you. You weren’t supposed to protect yourself. It’s not child’s job to take care of themselves emotionally, physically, or otherwise"--Nedra TawwabWhere to connect with Katherine Barner:Website: katherinebarner.orgIG: @mrskatspeaksTwitter: @mrskatspeaksWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeMany of us spend our lives taking the road that has been evenly paved and well-traveled. Some of us avoid the road less traveled because we are afraid of change or letting go of the known comfort or stability. However, when we take chances we open ourselves up to mind-blowing opportunities. In this episode, Abu Fofanah joins Terri and Dr. Dom to teach us how to use money to pursue our passion in the service of others. This is an episode full of gems and lessons that will definitely require note-taking.Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.Quote of the Day:"You keep creating more because you’re avoiding SELLING & Marketing your offer. Your problem is not the product or service it’s actually selling and marketing."--Abu FofanahWhere to connect with Abu Fofanah:Website: abufofanah.comIG: @abufofanahFacebook: abufofanahpublicWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeThe “behind the scenes” is everything. Part of what happens behind the scenes is defining your personal style. In answering that you have to ask several questions. What is your lifestyle? What are you attracted to? How do you want to show up in this world? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by FABULOUS stylist, Germanee G to discuss personal style. Her story and her work can teach us about so much more in addition to fashion. This is such a fun and informative episode that even Baby Zara had to make a guest appearance.Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.Quote of the Day:"Even on the hardest days, show up for yourself."-Germanee GWhere to connect with Germanee G:Website: GGandCoStylingIG: @germanee_gWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe“I can live with failure but I can’t live with regret.” Lady, are you living with regret, or have you taken charge of your journey? The blueprint of your life is yours to create- not your parents, partners, or friends- it is yours. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by the extraordinary Michelle Blue as she shares with us how to “go for it” in carving out your own path. While some may only show us the glamorous IG fabulous side of their life, there is beauty to be found in the transparency of the whole picture. Tune in to catch all of Michelle’s gems.Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.Quote of the Day:“There is so much power and growth in the 'Journey'. It's definitely not perfect and sometimes not pretty but that’s what makes us level up and become better versions of ourselves...You got this.”-Michelle BlueWhere to connect with Michelle Blue:Website: Journey with BlueIG: @themichelleblueWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeDid you know, “your passion can be your paycheck?” Are you doing what makes you happy? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by the energetic Starr Dawkins, owner of Cookie Wash. Her inspirational story is one that affirms the power of manifestation and pursuing your passion. Starr’s wisdom and the role changes in the movie of her life are incredibly powerful. Get your phone ready to share all of the quotable gems Starr is dropping.Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.Quote of the Day:"Always ask yourself: Is this person worth disrupting my vaginal pH for?"-Starr DawkinsWhere to connect with Starr:Starr’s IG: @starrdawkinzCookie Wash IG: @SweetCookieWashWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeAre you a sports fan? Tune in. Not so much into sports but have opinions about things happening in sports? Tune in. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Joy Taylor. In a field where women are often underestimated, misjudged, and mistreated, Joy, is one of the women who is thriving in the sports media industry. This conversation is one you do not want to miss as Joy offers her solutions on multiple issues in sports.Be sure to become a Patreon subscriber to watch the unedited version of this episode.Quote of the Day:"There's joy in hard work."-Brian Flores (football coach)Where to connect with Joy Taylor:IG: @JoyTaylorTalksTwitter: @JoyTaylorTalksWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, have you ever heard the phrase, “Making a mountain out of a molehill?” If that phrase applies to you then you may be an overthinker. *Stop it! Don’t put any more thought into the word.* We got you! In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom will discuss the concept of overthinking and some of the root causes. The ladies also help us develop practical strategies to make our thoughts more helpful, productive, and critical. Stay tuned till the end for the live coping exercise.Quote of the Day:"Overthinking: the art of creating new problems out of ones that never existed in the first place."-unknownHow to stop overthinking:-Set aside time to worry-Journaling/brain dump-Breathing exercises-MantrasTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeThis episode is a special day in Cultivating H.E.R. Space. In this episode, Terri’s current therapist joins Terri and Dr. Dom for a conversation about navigating life and finding peace when someone in your family is diagnosed with a psychological disorder. With so many of us knowing someone (maybe ourselves) who has anxiety and/or depression, we don’t often talk about those with severe mental illness. This is an episode you didn't know you had been waiting for. Lady, get ready to take notes as Eve Marie, drops some healing gems and “Words of Wisdom.”Quote of the Day:“ As humans, we tend to hold onto people and things we have a deep love for. Holding on, in general, is about us trying to have control. We hold on mostly because we don’t want to feel the pain and sadness that come along with letting go, so we do whatever we can to avoid those feelings, but pain and sadness are a part of our human experience.”-Eve MarieWhere you can find Eve Marie:Eve’s Place of PeaceTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

Lady, do you find stocks, cryptocurrency, and diversifying your financial portfolio overwhelming? Then you are not alone. For many of us, navigating the world of investments and trading, where currently only 3% of us occupy that space, can feel like learning a foreign language. Then there’s the emotional rollercoaster involved with the risks of gaining and losing. In today’s episode, Tiffany J shares with Dr. Dom and Terri why “We’re all we got!” in creating the community of Modern Blk Girl to help Black women navigate the world of trading.There are so many tweetable gems from Tiffany J. Capture them and be sure to tag @herspacepodcast and @modernblkgirlQuote of the Day:"Being in the market gives you a true chance at financial freedom and control over your life."Tiffany JamesWhere you can find Tiffany J:Modern Blk GirlTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeHistorically Black Colleges and Universities (HBCUs). Grown out of the need to provide higher education to Black students when white institutions would not let us in. Today, these institutions are the center of Black academic culture. Some of our favorite celebrities attended HBCUs (hey Meg Thee Stallion!). In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Grambling University alum, current Texas Southern University professor, and friend of the podcast, Dr. Jannis Moody to discuss life on a Black college campus.Quote of the Day:“HBCUs: where the whole campus is for you and not just that one building and that one event.”PBS Documentary: Tell Them We Are RisingWhere you can find Dr. Moody:Dr. Jannis MoodyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, are you mastering what you are doing in your career? Do you enjoy the work you do? Are you continuing to make an impact? Do you have a job or a career? Not sure how to answer any of those questions? No matter your stage in your career, today’s episode is for you! Kimberly Cummings joins Dr. Dom and Terri to share her own career journey and teach us all how to make the next career move the one you have been working toward.In our “Oh You Clatchet” segment, Kimberly shares some unexpected personal gems.There are so many quotable gems in this episode. Share your favorite gems with us on social media.Quote of the Day:"I am capable of bridging the gap between where I am and where I want to be"-Kimberly CummingsWhere you can find Kimberly:KimberlyBCummings.comIG: KimBCummingsBook: Next Move Best Move: Transitioning to a Career You’ll LoveTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

Do people describe you as kind or nice? Perhaps you use the terms interchangeably. Terri and Dr. Dom are here to encourage you to move towards kindness. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri provide us with the differentiation between being kind vs nice. The ladies also share why it is necessary to know the difference and the implications for choosing kindness over niceness.Quote of the Day:"Kindness is spreading sunshine into other people's lives regardless of the weather." -unknownStrategies for being kind and not nice: Become self-aware Focus on authenticity Set boundaries Navigate conflict constructivelyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeIs your last relationship in the rearview mirror and you’re ready to start dating again? Are you getting over one person by getting under another? Perhaps you’re unsure and the whole thing seems overwhelming and exhausting. Have you taken time to learn the lessons and get to know yourself?  No matter where you are in the process, in today’s episode Terri and Dr. Dom drop some gems and share stories in which we can all relate.Quote of the Day:“I’m thankful for my struggle because without it I wouldn’t have stumbled across my strength.”— Alex ElleTips for Getting Back Into the Dating Game After a Toxic Relationship: Know your goal Have clear communication about each person's wants/needs Listen to your body and instincts Get to know the personTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

You're listening to a live mini-episode that aired on Spotify Greenroom. Join us live by downloading Greenroom (spotify.com/greenroom), follow us @TerriLomax & @TheDoctorDom, and meet us every Friday at 1:30 PM PT / 4:30 PM ET. Be sure to also catch our weekly standard podcast episodes every Friday morning.

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, let this song lyric marinate, do some research on the meaning, and then etch this song in your spirit: “This little light of mine, I’m gonna let it shine.” Not sure what it means to shine your light? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri help us understand how we may be dimming our light through real-life examples. Now is the time for us to stop playing small and start “Shining, Shining, Yeah!”*For insight into the tips listed, be sure to subscribe to the aftershow*Quote of the Day:"Your playing small does not serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same."- Marianne WilliamsonSylvia Salow’s 6 Secrets to Stop Dimming Your Light1. Observe Your Body2. Bring your awareness to your energetic field3. Find Out Why You Dim Your Light4. Find out how you would shine your light if no one is around.5. Know Your Soul's Blueprint6. Fill Yourself UpTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribe“Something just ain’t right” and “I got a funny feeling” are more than lyrics in a song. It’s that feeling we get when there has been a shift in our relationship. How do you respond? Will it be your petty, passive, or vulnerable self showing up to the situation? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share common scenarios to help us determine how to address the funny acting people in our lives. For the actual tips be sure to check out the aftershow by becoming either an Anchor or Patreon subscriber.Quote of the Day:"One of the saddest things to realize is that certain people are just not who they used to be, that people you once considered best friends are now, at best, strangers."-Ashley FernTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeThink about the Black girls in your life. Really think about them. What are the words you would use to describe them?  Are any of those words ones you use to describe adults? Lady, if you are like most of us then at least one word is probably more appropriate to describe an adult.  In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand the negative impact of adultification in our Black girls. Listen in as they share their own experiences and provide tips on how we can protect our girls from adultification.Quote of the Day:"A little black girl yearns for the blue eyes of a little white girl and the horror at the heart of her yearning is exceeded only by the evil of fulfillment"-Toni MorrisonTips to protect your daughter from adultification: Use developmentally appropriate language Encourage freedom of self-expression (creativity + listening to them) Assign developmentally appropriate chores Advocating on her behalf with teachers, friends, and family Let our girls be girls- let them play, let them make mistakesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, when was the last time you gave yourself the same energy and love you give everyone else in your life? If you find yourself constantly giving everyone your all and carrying the weight of the world without breaking, then you may be experiencing Black Superwoman Syndrome. Not sure how to be anything other than Black Superwoman? Well, today, Terri and Dr. Dom help us identify Black Superwoman Syndrome, invite us to put down the cape, and reflect on how we can show up for ourselves first.Quote of the Day:"I'm not your superwomanI'm not the kind of girlThat you can let downAnd think that everything is okay"-Karen White from the song SuperwomanTips for Black Women Putting Down Their Capes: Set boundaries Delegate responsibilities Show yourself love and compassion End Toxic Relationships Ask for supportTips to Support the Black Woman in Your Life: Offer support and resources Speak up when there is injustice, bias, etc. Solicit and genuinely listen to her feedbackTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeMean Girls. We all know them. Perhaps, the mean girl is you. Not sure if it’s you? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri provide us with real-life examples of mean girls. Listening to their authentic conversation we learn to distinguish between awkward situations, normal conflict, and mean girl energy. Terri and Dr. Dom also give us strategies for navigating the mean girl situations and addressing our own mean girl behavior.Quote of the Day:"With any kind of mean girl or anyone who bullies anyone, there's always a reason for it. There is that sadness in them or insecurity that makes them feel like they need to act out or hurt other people."- Maiara Walsh7 Signs That You are a Mean Girl Struggle With Envy Status-Focused Trouble With Friendship Issues With Control Speak Unkindly To and About Others Leaves Others Out Don’t Respect BoundariesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeFriendships are a necessity for our survival. The longer the relationship the more likely the friendship will have experienced a variety of life transitions- weddings, children, death, etc. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explore friendship changes for new moms. Whether you are a new mom or the supportive friend, this is a conversation each of us can benefit from as we navigate the dynamics of our friendships.P.S. Listen carefully for an appearance by Baby Z :)Quote of the Day:“The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart.”— Elisabeth FoleyTips for Navigating the Change in Friendships for New Moms Flexibility. Make Mom Friends. Know Your Limits.TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeLady, do you subscribe to our Patreon page to get our Ask Dr. Dom segments? If not, you might be missing out on tips that you or someone you know can benefit from. Precarious situation with your partner? Difficult relationship with your in-laws? Then you may benefit from subscribing and submitting your questions to the Ask Dr. Dom Talkback Tuesday. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri review some of the submissions and offer suggestions on how to navigate the complicated circumstances.Quote of the Day:“It is so liberating to really know what I want, what truly makes me happy, what I will not tolerate. I have learned that it is no one else's job to take care of me but me."BeyonceTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeWe have been living through the COVID-19 pandemic for well over a year now. Everyone has had different experiences through this pandemic dependent upon your positionality and identities. As the country eases restrictions and tries to return to pre-pandemic life, how do you feel about engaging with people again? A lot of us are experiencing anxiety about a 2019 type of life. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri share their feelings and offer us tips on managing post-pandemic anxiety.Quote of the Day:“Worrying is carrying tomorrow’s load with today’s strength—carrying two days at once. It is moving into tomorrow ahead of time. Worrying doesn’t empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.”– Corrie Ten BoomTips for managing anxiety as the world re-opens: Acknowledge your feelings. Focus on what you can control. Go at your own pace. Stay informed. Stay positive and repeat affirmations. Practice gratitude.TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with TerriMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Who are the people we can work with? Who are the ones we need to workaround? When we identify what is within our control, we can expend our energy in ways that will capitalize on our efforts to make a change. Today Dr. Dom and Terri talk about the origins of cancel culture, the difference between calling out or calling in, and when to use which strategy.Quote of the Day:"Some people you can work with and some people you can workaround. "Loretta RossTips for determining whether to call out or call in: Does the offense break any laws? Does the offense violate your boundaries or values? Will you or someone you love be hurt by continued association?To get more behind-the-scenes content, become a subscriber. Click the link and please share with your friends: https://anchor.fm/her-space/subscribeTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Ever wonder how your therapist became a therapist? Or perhaps, you are considering becoming a therapist. Imagine being able to peek “behind the scenes” or “get the inside scoop” to learn about your therapist’s career journey or how your therapist approaches working with clients. You know, the information beyond what is on their website. Why did they become a therapist? What are their thoughts about certain client experiences? In today’s episode, Terri interviews Dr. Dom about her personal journey into becoming a licensed psychologist and some of the personal and professional experiences of being a mental health provider. Tune in for Dr. Dom’s pro tips.Quote of the Day:"Ideally, therapy is a sacred space where all of your worries and wishes are laid bare."-Dr. DomWhere to Find Dr. DomDr. DomIG: @the.doctor.domTwitter: @TheDoctorDomOccupational Outlook HandbookTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

In last week’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom explored the quiz from Dr. Ramani Durvasula about narcissistic partners. Today, Dr. Ramani joins the ladies for a more in-depth conversation to understand the key characteristics of a narcissistic partner like gaslighting, breadcrumbing, manipulating, and hoovering. If you wonder if you are in a narcissistic relationship, listen to the stages and traits to see if they resonate. Dr. Ramani will also share her strategies for ending and healing from the narcissistic relationship.Quote of the Day:“Narcissists will destroy your life, erode your self-esteem, and do it with such stealth as to make you feel that you are the one that's letting them down.”-UnknownIs Your Partner a Narcissist?This quiz from Dr. Ramani Durvasula of Should I Stay or Should I Go? can help you determine the answer.Where to Find Dr. RamaniDoctor-Ramani.comDr. RamaniIG: @DoctorRamaniTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Does your partner often think that people are out to get them or take advantage of them? On one hand this a valid experience of being Black but when combined with certain other traits this could be a sign of narcissism. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom take a look at some of the questions from Dr. Ramani’s quiz in her book, Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist. Listen in to see if you or someone you know fits this description and tune in next week to hear from Dr. Ramani on strategies to end the narcissistic relationship.Quote of the Day:We live in a world of romance and rescue, where many believe love will conquer all, and that the more we endure unacceptable behavior, the more likely that we can “fix” our relationships. It doesn’t always work that way—despite what the fairy tales tell us.-Dr. Ramani DurvasulaIs Your Partner a Narcissist?This quiz from the Dr. Ramani Durvasula of Should I Stay or Should I Go? can help you determine the answer.TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, are you ready to stop hustling for your worthiness and become the victor in your story? It is time for us to stop dimming our light and focus on shining and soaring! We are not defined by where we come from and as Bryan Stevenson notes, “ Each of us is much more than the worst thing we’ve ever done.” In today’s episode, listen in as Dr. Dom and Terri discuss how shame shows up in our lives. They also provide us with the internal and external compasses we can create to put shame in its place.Quote of the Day:"You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness."-Brene BrownHow to Put Shame In Its Place Bring shame into the light. Become attuned to the script of your inner dialogue. Develop greater inner compassion with yourself. Become a “witness to” and mourn your wounds. Forgive yourself for feelings, thoughts, or actions of your “former selves."TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

The mother-daughter relationship is a complex one. Some of us have beautiful relationships with our mothers in which they are one of the most trusted people in our inner circle. However, what happens if you have a complicated, distant, or estranged relationship with your mother? What are the feelings that come up for you? How can you support a friend who does not have a close relationship with their mother? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss Terri’s relationship with her mother and the steps she took to heal from the estrangement. “You can’t heal what you don’t reveal.”-TerriQuote of the Day:“In troubled families, abuse and neglect are permitted; it's the talking about them that is forbidden.”-UnknownHow to Be Happy and Whole When You are Estranged From Your Mom Be real about your feelings Establish boundaries Ritualistic clearing Grieving the vision you had for the relationship Filling your life with the mother energy your mom is unable to provide Remember that hurt people hurt people; your mom is humanTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

How do you define family? Is it based on your relatives, people you have chosen as family, or some amalgamation of the two? Today Dr. Dom and Terri are discussing the complexities of navigating familial relationships and what happens when we decide those relationships are abusive or not in alignment with who we are. The ladies also provide us with tips on how to cultivate community family or community when we are not physically and/or emotionally close to our family of origin.Quote of the Day:“Family is where you're meant to be most free. Don't let blood chain you down.”-UnknownHow to Cultivate Community When You're Not Close to Your Family Get clarity Identify your why Identify your ideal family Heal and forgive Work on your communication skills Meditate and manifest your chosen familyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Black don’t crack...or does it? What is your relationship with aging? What aspects of the aging process are within our control? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom examine the science, the common stereotypes, and our perceptions of the aging process for Black women. While this episode only scratches the surface, make sure you are consulting your spiritual, physical, mental, and financial health providers to ensure your aging process is moving in alignment with your values.Quote of the Day:Black don't crack... "This conventional wisdom opens up the door for ageism and discrimination based on looks under the guise of black empowerment."- Kimberly FosterTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, if you have any young people in your life this episode is definitely for you! Today Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the incomparable Dr. Alfiee to talk about the mental health issues of BIPOC youth, young adults, and young at heart. This is a conversation full of honesty and realness to not only understand the toxic systems mental health providers navigate to how these same providers prioritize being a safe space for youth and young adults. The powerful gems Dr. Alfiee shares with us are a small portion of the wisdom she provides through her various projects.Donate to the AAKOMA Project Quote of the Day:"If we stopped saying 'we know what works' (because we actually don't from the way we traditionally 'science') and started asking, 'what works for you?' THEN build TOGETHER from that shared understanding, then we'd see some real positive changes."-Dr. AlfieeWhere to Find Dr. Alfiee:@dralfiee and @aakomaproject  – on Twitter, IG and Facebook@couchedincolor – on Twitter and Facebook@couchedincolorpod – on InstagramAlfiee (Dr. Alfiee) Breland-Noble and AAKOMAProject - on LinkedInTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Are you protecting your brand and social impact? Unsure of how to effectively navigate the process of protecting your intellectual property?  Then this episode is definitely for you. Today, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the founder of Firm for the Culture, Ruky Tijani. She provides useful information on how to protect your contributions to the culture. Trust us when we say the gems Ruky drops will make you think differently about trademarking and copyrighting. Don’t sleep on this game changing information. Plus, you will gain more insight into our podcast name change.Quote of the Day:"If you have a brand making impact, you have a brand worth protecting."-RukyWhere to Find Ruky:Firm for the CultureIG: Firm for the CultureFacebook: Firm for the CultureTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, have you ever had your chakras line up with your partner’s? Would you know what it feels like if they did? No worries. Mother Earth provides us with everything we need so we got you today! Joining Dr. Dom and Terri this week is Eliza Boquin to educate us on the connection between chakras, energy healing, and sex. Eliza describes each of the seven chakras with examples and how to heal based on each of their functions. Of course, we get an answer to that question of what sex looks like when partners have their chakras aligned. This is such an informative conversation that we know will resonate.Quote of the Day:"Yeah, stamina during sex is cool but have you ever had your chakras line up with your partner's and have them vibrate together?”— Eliza BoquinThe 7 chakras:rootsacralsolar plexusheartthroatbrow (third eye)crownWhere to Find Eliza:The Chakras + Sex + Relationships PodcastThe Flow & Ease Healing CenterMelanin and Mental HealthIG: FlowAndEaseWithETwitter: Eliza BoquinFacebook: FlowAndEaseWithETalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

“We are all sex workers.” Let that one marinate.  “If you can’t do for you then you can’t do for others.” How does that question apply to sex? In this week’s episode Dr. Dom and Terri dive into that first statement and answer the previous question. Plus, so much more! Today on Cultivating H.E.R.Space, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Nenna Joiner. From sexual trauma to elder sexual pleasure to selling sex toys to sex workers to porn. The complexities of this conversation are representative of the depths in which our relationship with sex can exist. Nenna drops lots of gems so get ready for the lessons.Quote of the Day:“There's a form of sex or intimacy that you must have with yourself to bring your visions to life.”— Nenna JoinerPriorities for Healthy Sexual Expression Good mental health Positive body image Disconnecting from the worldWhere to Find Nenna:Feelmore510Feelmore AdultsIG: FeelmoreTwitter: FeelmoreFacebook: FeelmoreTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.comResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC

Lady, do you love only one person at a time? Most likely the answer is, no. If you love more than one person, you are, by definition, polyamorous. Say what now?! Now that we have gotten that out of the way, let’s talk about love with multiple people on the romantic level. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Kenya K. Stevens of the Progressive Love Academy to debunk some of the misconceptions about having multiple loves. This is a real conversation about the facts, nuances, and complexities of navigating romantic relationships. The Progressive Love Academy has something for everyone.Quote of the Day:"I reserve the right to love many different people at once, and to change my prince often"-Anais NinWhere to Find Kenya:Progressive Love AcademyIG: Kenya K. StevensTwitter: Kenya K. StevensFacebook: Kenya K. StevensYouTube ChannelTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

WARNING: Explicit Content. Not suitable for sensitive ears or the faint of heart. We are talking about sex, vaginas, penises, etc. and use other colorful descriptors for our body parts. Now that we have warned you, lady, today Dr. Dom and Terri dive into Jazmine Sullivan’s new album...Heaux Tales. If you have not listened yet we suggest checking it out and then coming back to the episode. Or...you can play it as you listen to this episode. This entertaining and informative exploration of the album is sure to  bring up experiences familiar for you or someone you know. Thanks to Jazmine Sullivan for telling the world about our complex relationship with our bodies and sex.Quote of the Day:"The thing is, dudes can’t handle if a woman takes the same liberties as them especially with regards to sex. Like our society teaches men to be so wrapped up in themselves and their own conquests that they forget we’re sexual beings as well. Plus, their egos are often way too fragile to ever handle a woman who owns and has any real agency over her body. And we’re to blame as well…’cause we’re out here telling them the p*$$y is theirs, when in actuality, it’s ours."-Antoinette’s Tale from Jazmine Sullivan’s Heaux TalesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

For this first installment of our 2021 Sexy Self-Love Series, we discuss qualities of a good partner. My love, what qualities are you bringing to the relationship table? Would you date you? What are you doing to make sure you are a healthy happy person? In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri explore some of the complexities around discovering the impact of our presence in relationships. While the tips mentioned are not an exhaustive list, they are a great start to a self assessment. As you tune in to the episode, be sure to scroll down to keep up with the tips.Quote of the Day:"In order to maintain a positive and secure relationship and to become a better partner, one should focus on becoming a better person."-Shamyra Howard-Blackburn, sex and relationship therapist7 Ways to be a Better Partner: Have a solid sense of self Heal from any trauma or past experiences Learn to communicate honestly, openly, and clearly Listen Show, don't tell Be considerate Accept your partner for who they areTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

What have you done to achieve your goals? Are you willing to make sacrifices, shifts, and changes to get what you want? Having a visceral reaction to the word sacrifice? No, well maybe we’re projecting, lol. Is it possible to be happy while you are sacrificing? How do you know if it is worth it? In today’s episode, join Terri and Dr. Dom as they reflect on their perceptions of sacrifice and their journeys to achieving great things.Quote of the Day:"Conviction and Convenience Don't Live on the Same Block."-Lisa NicholsQuestions we can ask ourselves in the pursuit of our goals: What am I willing to sacrifice to achieve my goals? What am I sacrificing and who is it for? How do I know when my sacrifice is in vain? How do you know when a sacrifice is bad?TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

If you have been watching the news then you know 2021 is already trying to test us. Well, no worries. Lady, here at Cultivating H.E.R. Space...we got you! At the time of our recording we did not know how important and timely this conversation would be for our community. In today’s episode we are going to build up our armor. Dr. Dom is going to guide us through a visualization to help us cultivate resilience. This is a time when you want to make sure you are in a comfortable distraction-free environment where you can freely pause, reflect, and make space to Cultivate Healing. Empowerment. Resilience.Quote of the Day:“Resilience allows us to tap into deeper resources in ourselves we didn’t even know we had, not just to overcome the obstacles but to be transformed by them.”-Arianna HuffingtonTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Welcome to 2021! Have you ever started something (a relationship, job, hobby, etc.) and after a while was no longer interested or things were no longer working in your favor? When those moments come up, what did you do? In January 2019, Terri and Dr. Dom launched the Healing Empowerment Resilience Podcast and have released a new episode every Friday. Now, after two years we are closing the doors on one chapter to make room for another opportunity. As you listen to this episode Dr. Dom and Terri will share with us situations they have walked away from and the new and exciting things in store. This is definitely an episode you want to listen to all the way through.Quote of the Day:"Although my plans may change, I will stay committed to my purpose.”-Season 8 mantra5 Signs It Is Time to Walk Away You’re always exhausted and no longer have interest in it/them When the only reason you haven’t quit is you’re worried about what other people will think When the only reason you are sticking with it is because you do not know who you are without it/them You are not able to visualize a positive outcome You are no longer clear on your whyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com

Lady, we made it! It is the last Friday of 2020! Let’s celebrate! What do you and your girls do when you gather? Drink? Smoke? Eat? Laugh? Cry? All of those are on the table for this Girls Night In. Join Terri and Dom with your beverage and snack of choice where we are playing a game of What Would You Do?. As with most Girls Night In conversations, any topic is up for discussion and we approach each topic with love, positive vibes, and pure intentions.***Be sure to subscribe to Patreon to get access to our juicy Aftershow where we'll keep this conversation going!***Quote of the Day:"Not all girls are made of sugar and spice and everything nice. Some girls are made of sarcasm, wine, and everything fine.”-UnknownTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

If you follow her on social media, then you have been inspired, empowered and enlightened by the daily quotes from our guest today,  Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis. Perhaps you remember when she was a guest on Season 3 Episode 12 in a discussion about healing intergenerational trauma. Or maybe you have listened to her Homecoming podcast. Well, today Dr. Thema returns for a much-needed conversation about mother-daughter relationships. Our mothers are individual adult beings and sometimes no matter the status of our relationship, it may be difficult to acknowledge mom’s identity outside of motherhood. In this powerful interview, Dr. Thema provides us with insight on navigating a healthy mother-daughter dynamic and how to have a difficult conversation. Get ready for the beautiful gems and ah-ha moments.Quote of the Day:"As your clarity grows, you recognize sometimes it's not about releasing but instead acknowledging what's already gone or what was never there"-Dr. ThemaHow to have a healing conversation with mom: Identify what you want Role Play and Practice Seek consent to engage in the conversation Naming the hurtful actions/events Share how they made you feel Ask for what you want Be open to feedbackWhere to Find Dr. Thema:IG:  @dr.themaTwitter: DrThemaDrThema.comTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Lady, do you feel like you are enough? Do you believe you are worthy? Who are you when you are not producing or doing something?  The socialization of being in competition with one another and the negative social comparison is  stealing our joy. While we are “stomping down the street like majorettes in the parade with no boots on and pulling the whole community behind us,” do not let anyone say you are not worthy. YOU. ARE. ENOUGH. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri engage Dr. Jannis Moody in a riveting conversation around acknowledging  our #BlackGirlMagic and cultivating affirming self-definition.Quote of the Day:"You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody"-Maya AngelouDr. Jannis MoodyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Pandemic, death, divorce, natural disaster, addiction...grief and loss is something we have all experienced. How we define and experience the loss varies. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom help us understand ambiguous grief. Lady, if you have experienced the physical loss of someone or something while still experiencing them psychologically or the inverse then this episode may give you the language you need to define your experience. Hopefully, this complex conversation between Dr. Dom and Terri will help cultivate the healing you need.Quote of the Day:"I wanted a perfect ending. Now that I've learned the hard way, some poems don't rhyme and stories don't have a clear beginning, middle, or end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it without knowing what's going to happen next."-Gilda RadnerTips for Navigating Ambiguous Loss: Utilize “both, and” thinking (ie., opposite of black/white, either/or) Set aside time to not think about the loss Reassign family roles Family therapy/interactions Community/group therapy/interactionsTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Romantic relationships can be complicated. Or maybe not. Are you a single woman hoping to find the love of your life or currently dating and not sure if they are the one? Perhaps, you are involved with someone and the relationship is lacking compatibility. Well, today’s guest will provide you the insight you may be seeking. Relationship coach, Alison Wellington joins Dr. Dom and Terri to discuss healthy romantic relationships. From identifying non-negotiables to lessons learned from previous relationships to being honest about who you are and what you bring to the table. Have your pen and paper ready to take notes. Also, share this with a girlfriend you know could benefit from hearing all these gems.Quote of the Day:"Stop shrinking yourself to fit within places you have outgrown!"-Alison WellingtonTips for Moving On: Accept that the relationship is over Not allowing them back in Get rid of their things Get off of their social media Take care of yourselfWhere to find Alison:Move on Sis!Align with AlisonIGFacebookYouTubeTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Have you considered leaving your life to pursue a different quality of life in another country? In today’s episode Terri and Dom are joined by Nikhol Rei. She takes us on her incredible journey of self exploration growing up on the East Coast of the United States to deciding to leave the US and learning how to live like a local in Honduras and Costa Rica. Along the way she dispels some of the misconceptions about moving to the tropics and shares info on how to make the move as an unprivileged person living off the land. If that were not enlightening enough, Nikhol Rei gives us an informative introduction into the power of shadow work.Quote of the Day:"Only in a severely unnatural environment would you have to keep constant tabs on your evolution and be punished for merely EXISTING."- Nikhol ReiWhere to find Nikhol Rei:YouTubeIGWebsiteTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Lady, what are you planning? Are you aligned with the process?  How are you keeping hope alive during the process? If you started listening to H.E.R Space from the first episode then you know the work Dr. Dom and Terri have invested into the podcast. What you may not know is some of the behind the scenes struggles. In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom share with us the milestones for the podcast but they also share some of their personal accomplishments and what it took to achieve them. The testimonies in this episode will hopefully motivate and inspire you. Thank you for riding along with us on this journey!Quote of the Day:"Whatever you’re thinking about is literally like planning a future event. When you’re worrying, you are planning. When you’re appreciating, you are planning… What are you planning?”- Abraham HicksTips and lessons for manifestation: Let go of control Act as if Practice patience Be optimistically realistic Be intentional about your support teamTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

S.A.D. The Standard American Diet. Lady, what do you eat? Is it actually food? Well, if we are what we eat then how does your diet correlate with your health? If we want to address our health we have to address what we are taking into our bodies. There is a science to the who what when where why and how of eating and the impact on our health. In today’s episode, we open up H.E.R Space to master herbalist Djehuty Ma’atra to share with us his path to healthy eating and healing his body. In our westernized socialization, some of today’s conversation may be hard to figuratively digest. We invite you to join Dr. Dom and Terri, in this judgment free zone, as they lean into curiosity to gain a different perspective on the impact of our diets on our paths to healing.Quote of the Day:"Disease did not come out of a bottle so the healing for the disease will not come out of a bottle."-Djehuty Ma'atraTop 5 Vitamins for Black Women: Red Raspberry Leaf Sarsaparilla Wild yam root Red Clover Squaw VineDjehuty Ma’atra HerbsTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

What is microeconomics and what is its role in our daily lives? It is not always directly about money. If you think about the access you have and cost of your healthcare, food, employment, and housing, then you are familiar with microeconomics. From family leave policy to double work day to maternal health to childcare to wealth gap we learn how the pandemic is really having a devastating economic effect on the Black community. This conversation is a start in connecting the dots and learning the language of microeconomics. Join Terri and Dr. Dom as they lean into curiosity to learn about this topic from microeconomist, Britni Wilcher.Quote of the Day:" A race that is solely dependent upon another for economic existence sooner or later dies. As we have in the past been living upon the mercies shown by others, and by the chances obtainable, and have suffered there from, so we will in the future suffer if an effort is not made now to adjust our own affairs."-Marcus GarveyTips for Changing Our Economic Outlook: Advocacy in healthcare Retooling ourselves for jobs in the future Hold policy makers accountable for what we needTwitter: @britniwilcherTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

This week in H.E.R Space, Dom and Terri are joined by Milah and Erica, the hosts of Good Moms Bad Choices podcast, for a juicy conversation around the impact of the father-daughter relationship. What is/was your relationship with your dad? What role does that relationship play in your life now? In this episode, we hear four different father-daughter experiences and the resulting effect on the daughter. It is a complex relationship that is important to unpack and understand to have healthy romantic relationships. This is a reflective episode sprinkled with fun and laughter.Quote of the Day:"They're Called Daddy Issues Because Your Dad Had Issues."- Caitlin Cantor LCSW, CST, CGTTips for Addressing “Daddy Issues”: Forgiveness and Compassion Writing Grieve Therapy Individual Family Couples IG: @goodmoms_badchoicesFacebook: @goodmomsbadchoicesPatreon: goodmomsbadchoicesGood Moms Bad ChoicesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Today you are in for a special treat. Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Dr. James Wadley to talk about sex. This is not the “birds and bees” talk you may have had with your parents. In a judgement free zone Creativity. Pleasure. Fun. all take center stage here. From discovering your erogenous zones and how to communicate with your partner, today’s episode provides insight on how to have some of those uncomfortable conversations about sexuality at any age. Dr. Wadley also share tips on how to develop sex positivity and healthy sexuality in children.Quote of the Day:"The best of sex is the best of you."-Dr. James WadleyEncouraging Body/Sex Positivity in Kids: Use medically appropriate language Understand the value of consent Discuss physical and identity changesIG: @phdjameswTwitter: @phdjameswDr. James WadleyTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Can Black people be racist? NO! However, Black people can be agents of white supremacy and anti-Black. Due to how we have been socialized chances are there are times when we may experience internalized racism. Throughout our socialization there have been systems in place to move us closer to whiteness and as a result, shunning people who do not align with white supremacist heterosexist classist patriarchal ideologies. While some of us have found ways to break free from some of these ideologies, others have doubled down in fully aligning with whiteness. Today, Dr. Dom and Terri discuss those who may look like us but are not for us.Quote of the Day:"Souls that inhabit white bodies can be allies and accomplices in the fight against oppression, in the same way that black folks can be agents and accomplices in promoting, promulgating and protecting white supremacy. As my grandmother once said, conjuring Zora Neale Hurston, “All your skin folk ain’t your kinfolk.” Meaning that you can inhabit a black body and be an agent of white supremacy."- Professor Lawrence WareQuestions that need answers: What do we do about skinfolk that ain’t our kinfolk? How do the real Black people unite? What does it mean to be Black? How do we hold Black celebrities and officials accountable?TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

We don’t need to bear witness to the event to know it is real and feel the effects. In today’s episode, Dr. Dom and Terri are joined by Dr. Candice Nicole for a conversation about the psychological and physiological effects of racial trauma and ways to heal. Would you believe your health conditions are related to racial trauma? Have you thought about how you have been socialized into anti-Blackness? This episode is sure to be one that is validating and informative. #BlackIsBeautifulQuote of the Day:"Black people don't need video evidence to know"-Dr. Candice NicoleTakeaways:Strategies for Healing Joy as Resistance Self Affirmations Therapy Physical Wellness Community Collective Care Sensual MomentsTwitter: @DrCandiceNicoleFacebook: @DrCandiceNicoleInstagram: @DrCandiceNicolewww.DrCandiceNicole.comwww.CenterForHealingRacialTrauma.comhttps://blackliveslouisville.org/TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/

Lady, how do you remain positive when everything around you is negative? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom reflect on times in which their peace has been disrupted and explore what they do to remain in a higher vibration when they are being pulled into negativity. The discussion around the coping tips is one that will build up our armor in managing the negativity. The real life examples are sure to be ones that sound familiar. Quote of the Day:"Peace is the result of retraining your mind to process life as it is, rather than as you think it should be."-Dr. Wayne DyerTakeaways:Tips for Protecting Your Peace 1. Don’t take it Personally 2. Find/Create a Sacred Space 3. Practice Gratitude 4. Create Positive Affirmations 5. Be Conscious of Your Thoughts 6. Journal 7. Set Boundaries 8. Find a Support System TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, how do you navigate the world of work? Are you focused on a career or job? Is your purpose aligned with what you are currently doing? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by Dr. Dom’s friend and mentor, Dr. Kimberly James to discuss navigating careers. From learning how to strategically manage your career...to distinguishing between a mentor and a sponsor and why both are important...to identifying what to focus on when you have been laid off or trying to change careers. The gems that are dropped in this episode are truly priceless.Quote of the Day:"Rent your title, own your character."-Thasunda DuckettTakeaways:Tips for Strategically Managing Your Career 1. Goal Setting 2. Managing Tasks 3. Securing a Mentor AND a Sponsor Tips for Playing the Game 1. Doing Your Job Well 2. Having Allies 3. Improving Your Skillset 4. Network 5. Self-care 6. Don’t Shutdown When Faced with Obstacles   Dr. JamesTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, what has your experience been with white people? Are you accustomed to being the only Black person in a space? Do you have very little interactions with white people? Most of us have experienced racism, microaggressions and other forms of racial trauma. Being Black in America can be exhausting despite how much joy you see. In the current racial climate some of the white people in our lives have been reaching out to engage us. In today’s episode Terri and Dom describe some of the uncomfortable conversations we may have with white people and how we can navigate those conversations with our best interest at the center. Quote of the Day:“Not everything that is faced can be changed, but nothing can be changed until it is faced.” -James BaldwinTakeaways:Tips for Having Uncomfortable Conversations with White People 1. Know your audience and context 2. Be open-minded 3. Think ahead regarding consequences of words and actions 4. Set ground rules or use safe words 5. Keep the focus of the conversation away from comforting the other person 6. Have a purpose or goal in mind 7. Use “I” statements 8. Lean into curiosity 9. Pour into yourself before and after the conversation Rachel Cargle TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResourcesMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, who is telling your story? The points provided encourage us to think critically about how media tells our history. Are we being fed the truth? What is the real message? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom dive into how the information we take in shapes how we see, think, and feel about ourselves. How do you define yourself and other Black people? Who told you to define us in this way? Remember, we can take control and own our narrative.Quote of the Day:“Until the lions have their own historians, the history of the hunt will always glorify the hunter.”-Chinua AchebeTakeaways:How to Consume Media in a Healthy Way 1. Know your sources 2. Ask questions 3. Limit news and social media TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, how are you feeling? We are eight months into 2020 and it is not anything we expected when we started this year. The universe has consistently tested our ability to “trust the process”. There are so many major “once in a lifetime” moments that have happened. Both horrific and extraordinarily wonderful. There is a duality in this year 2020. In this episode, Terri and Dom review some of the major events that have occurred and share ways in which we can continue to cope in healthy ways. Quote of the Day:“Note to self: every time you were convinced you couldn’t go on, you did.”-Unknown Episodes referenced:S5E1: Clearing your vision in 2020S511: The Coronavirus and More: Surviving and Thriving in Uncertain TimesS6E1: How to Maximize Your Time & Self-care Routine While Practicing "Social" Distancing S6E10: Dear Black People This Will Not Be Our UndoingS1E8: How to Find Your Own Self Care Routine Takeaways:3 Coping Tips 1. Suspending judgment of yourself and others 2. Prioritizing self care 3. Focusing on what you can control TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, are you living with A.I.M.-Authenticity, Intention, and Masterful execution? Not sure? No worries. You know Terri and Dr. Dom have your back. In this week’s episode, the ladies are joined by Farah Bernier, Human Resources professional and Founder & Principal Coach of Living Fabulously Fierce. Farah is a dynamic woman who is passionate about empowering women through executive coaching. No matter your current position, from entry level to CEO, there are tips and insight Farah provides that benefit us all. Grab your coffee/tea, pen, and paper to begin the work of upleveling your career and journey of self-discovery.Quote of the Day:"...In the choices we make, is the sweet spot of brilliantly arriving at the recognition of the truth that we are fearfully and wonderfully made..." -Farah BernierTakeaways:3 pro tips for the workplace 1. Give people permission to give you feedback 2. Take the feedback 3. Arming up IG: Farah BernierFacebook: Livingly Fabulously FiercePodcast: Living Fabulously Fierce Living Fabulously Open: Dr. DomLiving Fabulously Transparent: TerriTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, have you seen Black is King? Whether or not you are a Beyonce fan, this visual album is a work of art and art is meant to generate conversation. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom provide an overview of the commentary and controversy. While we acknowledge there are many themes that can be explored, Dom and Terri pride themselves on staying in their lane and will leave certain topics to the experts and your own research. But fear not, if you have been listening to H.E.R Space you know the ladies emphasize lifting up Black women. This episode will focus on highlighting some of the amazing Black women creatives involved in the project to make sure we know their names. Quote of the Day:"We have always been wonderful. I see us in the world's most heavenly things. Black is King. We were beauty before they knew what beauty was."-Yrsa Daley-Ward (Yersa)co-writer of Black is King and author of "bone" and "the Terrible"Takeaways:Creatives to follow:Zerina AkersTiwa SavageJenn NkiruYrsa Daley-WardWarsan Shire TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, what is your relationship with money? How did that relationship form? In today’s episode, the Debt Demolisher, Sophia Melone, joins Terri and Dom to share with us how she transformed her “dysfunctional” relationship with her finances. If you listened to Season 5 Episode 2 with Constance Carter at the beginning of the year, and you have not made any changes...then this episode may be the inspiration you need. Sophia goes even deeper into examining our relationship with money, identifying the various barriers and how to get additional support to make changes. No matter your income level there are strategies (i.e, HABITS) that will help you make the changes you desire. Remember, this is a journey that is not about how much money you make but what you do with it. Quote of the Day:" the real measure of your wealth is how much you'd be worth if you lost all your money"-author unknownTakeaways:Sophia’s Tips:CutAskAcquireProduce  1. Face the reality of the situation 2. Establish a budget 3. Pay yourself first Sophiamelone.comSmashdebt.comIG: IamsophiameloneTwitter: IamsophiameloneFacebook: Iamsophiamelone TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, are you living your life like a diversified portfolio? What makes you extraordinary? In today’s episode, Terri and Dr. Dom are joined by the dynamic Thasunda Brown-Duckett. From her role as mother to banking executive, she is the embodiment of living her life with purpose and owning her character. Using banking terms we learn why work/life balance is a myth and how to be more intentional with our time. Thasunda drops so many powerful quotes that will help us gain perspective and remind ourselves of who we are. After listening, scroll down for some of Thasunda’s tweetable quotes.Quote of the Day:"If you give all of your energy, commitment and passion to your life, you will almost certainly have a fulfilling professional and personal life journey." -Thasunda Brown-DuckettTakeaways:Thasunda Duckett’s Quotes:“I rent my title but I own my character”“Your character transcends your ego”“Ordinary person trying to do extraordinary things”“Live your life like a diversified portfolio and over time you will outperform this thing called life”“This is on the chest is not Superwoman...it’s Spent”“Three things you should never sacrifice: your health, family and character” Diversifying your portfolio:Write down what matters to you and allocate itIn the moment give 100%Permission to respond as the conditions change knowing over time you will outperform Otis and Rosie Brown FoundationExtraordinaryis.orgIG: Thasunda Duckett TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, are you in control of your life? In today’s episode, Jasmine Green joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us how we may not be in alignment with our purpose and steps we can take to get into alignment. No matter how your journey started, as we hear from Jasmine, does not have to be the route you continue to take. The internal experience of the entrepreneur we see is a powerfully vulnerable story and Jasmine shares with us how to transmute our energy. Through visualizations and personal examples we learn concrete steps to manifest the life we deserve.Quote of the Day:"You can only receive what you're actually ready for AND... You will only allow yourself to have what you believe you deserve."- Jasmine P. GreenTakeaways:Three phases of ManifestationTrue manifestation is when you master being it vs wanting it 1. I want it because I recognize what I don’t have 2. Close your eyes and visualize where you want to be ”this is mine” 3. Whatever you believe you deserve you can have- you have everything you need to get/receive it. FB: JasminePaigeGreenIG: JasminepgreenTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

LADY! Today you are in for an extra special treat! In case you have not heard, our very own Terri Lomax is releasing her book, How to Glow Up as You Grow Up on July 21, 2020. In this episode, Terri is in the guest seat as Dr. Dom guides her through sharing her story with us. If you think you know Terri...whew! This episode is guaranteed to reveal things none of us knew. The significance of 7/21. Her real name. Childhood Trauma. No matter your background there is some piece of Terri’s story that will resonate with you. Be sure to have a glass of your favorite beverage and the tissues as this episode will feel as though you are truly sitting on the couch having a ladies night in with H.E.R Space. Quote of the Day:"Grow through what you go through." -Terri Lomax Takeaways:How to Glow Up as You Grow UpTerri LomaxIG: TerriLomaxYouTubeTalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, what are you holding onto that no longer serves you? Are you living the life you want to live? No? Perhaps it is time to take inventory and make some changes. Today, King Ashley Ann shares with Terri and Dom the valley she was in and the measures she took to achieve the level of success she currently embodies. She drops specific tips on calculating her business worth so be sure to take notes. If you are not trying to start a business, this episode still has something for you. King Ashley Ann paints a clear picture and drops fun facts about our spending power. What are our demands of major corporations who depend on our dollars? This is an episode you want to pay attention to and share with other Black women. Quote of the Day:"The past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it or learn from it."-Rafiki in The Lion KingTakeaways: - Know your worth - You cannot be everything to everyone  - Free99 leads to Paid99Blackdollarblacklives.comIG: KingAshleyAnn TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, whether you are tuning in for the first time or have been rocking with us since day one...THANK YOU!!! The mission of H.E.R Space has been to create a space for Black women and it has blossomed because all of you are tuning in and sharing. The support has been humbling and encouraging. In this episode Terri and Dom reflect on the last six seasons- the growth, the feedback, and some of the lessons learned. Dom and Terri also share new beginnings for the new season including new questions for the fun “Oh, You Clatchet?” segment. Quote of the Day:Season 7 Mantra: I am not limited by any past thinking...I choose my thoughts with care.Takeaways:Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!Sign up for our Patreon account to get access to extra content TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Audre Lorde speaks about walking into a room full of Black folx and not knowing whether her skinfolk are really her people. That is what the episode this week is about. More specifically, this episode is about making space for Black Trans people. This week Terri and Dom are joined by one of Dom’s former students, Eryn Scott. They are a BIPOC LGBT advocate, freelance researcher and cultural worker. There is a lot many of us do not know and this conversation is an opportunity for us to open our minds and hearts to learn how to affirm the Black Trans folx in our lives. Take a listen. Share with your friends and family. Engage in the difficult dialogue. Quote of the Day:"It's annoying because I feel like the conversations I'm having with white people about the right to life for black people are the same conversations I'm having with black people about the right to exist for trans people." - Londoner Nic https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/33ab8fbd-792f-44ee-85de-5dd3894f60bfTakeaways:Organizations to donate to:ForThegworlstheokraprojectBlack Aids InstituteAudreLordeprojectProjectQDonate to Local Trans People!!!TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. DomWisdom Wednesdays with TerriH.E.R Space SanctuaryResources:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOCWhere to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We are the dreams and the hopes of our ancestors. On this day let us take time to reflect on one of the biggest lessons our ancestors could have ever imparted: finding joy. For centuries Black folx have experienced cruelties that are beyond what any human should ever have to endure. However, we have always found ways to celebrate us. In this episode, Terri and Dom explore the meaning of Juneteenth and ways in which we can continue uplift ourselves.   Quote of the Day: "Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave, I am the dream and the hope of the slave. I rise. I rise. I rise."  -Maya Angelou   Takeaways: Links to resources mentioned in today’s episode: https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/shop-black-owned-businesses-36759922 https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-owned-beauty-companies-to-shop https://www.juneteenth.com/history.htm https://thehoneypot.co/ https://aalbc.com/bookstores/list.php   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What does it mean to be a Black woman in America today? America has never been a safe place for Black women yet somehow we are truly the backbone of this country. We are the givers and doers.  #SayHerName and the current buzzword, Intersectionality, were both brought to our attention by Dr. Kimberle Cresnhaw- a Black woman. How many other contributions have Black women made that many do not know about? We will no longer be invisible. In today’s episode, we say the names of Black women who were killed by the police. We also say the names of a few of the many Black women who have contributed to the advancements of this nation. Lady, we want you to know showing up and being your authentic self is possible. Make note of the tips provided and let’s all use this time to uplift one another.  Quote of the Day: “Black women's lives have never been shown any value in America." - Patrisse Cullors, co-founder of Black Lives Matters   Takeaways: As Black women what are ways we can show up for one another: Support Black women-owned businesses Hold each other accountable with public shaming Random acts of kindness Compliment Black women you don't know   Invisible No More Little Leaders: Bold Women in Black History    TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, we are in distress and we have had enough. As if the current pandemic were not enough, our nation is facing another moment of reckoning. Violence against Black people persists. Racism and white supremacy are ceaseless. Racial trauma is real. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom name what is happening; identify what we may be feeling; what we can do to take care of ourselves; and what roles each of us can play in the revolution.    Quote of the Day: "Revolutions are the responses of people in distress." - Rachel Cargle    Takeaways: How We Fight the Black Plight: Political Workers Light Workers Investors and Funders Grid Protectors Hawks Teachers and Researchers   Next Steps: Researching grassroots movements in your area Advocating for defunding police to fund local and community safety efforts Holding businesses and organizations accountable Make sure your cup is overflowing Do your own research   Black Lives Matter Meditation Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome Unapologetic Guide to Mental Health TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is from our Zoom Live recording on Memorial Day 2020. Terri and Dom were joined by a few amazing ladies in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to discuss the Quote of the Day and what it means when Black women come together to uplift one another. In this episode, the ladies experience “in the moment” technology issues and we see how they adjust along with receiving tips on how we can all deal with the frustration that comes when technology won’t let us be great. Shout out to the special guests...all the amazing ladies that stepped into the sanctuary with Dom and Terri. Quote of the Day: “When women affirm women it unlocks our power. It gives us permission to shine brighter.” -Elaine Welteroth   Takeaways: Top 5 Tips for Dealing with Frustration: Recognize the moment of frustration Investigation Use breathing techniques Have a backup plan "Now that you have some clarity about what you want, it’s time to challenge yourself to view your predicament in a more optimal way. In other words, it’s time to shift your perspective of the situation and choose to view your frustrations as an opportunity or challenge to do things better. Your first objective is to identify what exactly has been working for you. There must be something that you have done well. Identify what that is and then also figure out the mistakes you might have made along the way. Now view those mistakes as helpful coincidences and use them as an opportunity for positive change." Shift your perspective  Think flexibly and creatively TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, how are you feeling about your partner? Has the pandemic caused you to reconsider some things? Why are you with this person in the first place? Is your relationship bigger than how you are feeling about your partner at this moment? If the answer is yes, then today’s episode will offer you guidance on how to keep your relationship healthy. Today, Terri and Dom are joined by Teleshia Delmar who goes in depth on her top 5 traits that have kept her marriage going for almost 20 years through the good and bad.    Quote of the Day: "Because we didn't quit when times got crazy hard, even when there were no feelings of love and respect for one another, our marriage is stronger than ever!" -Teleshia Delmar Takeaways: Top 5 Traits for a long lasting healthy relationship: Communication Conflict resolution- fix the friction Expectations Intimacy and sex Trust   https://loversbond.com/aboutus/   https://loversbond.com/   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KE-C7uN56dU TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Realistic expectations and radical acceptance. For who? Your parents. Yes. Them. Those people who hurt you that you have been spending all of your adult life trying to understand. Those people who will never see you no matter how many hoops you jump through trying to please them and earn their love. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ramani Durvasula. The ladies dive into how to identify the traits; the impact it has on you; and how to heal. This is sure to be a conversation you want to give your undivided attention. There are so many quotable gems and “Ah-ha!” moments that will cause you to pause and reflect.    Quote of the Day: “The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up.”- Dr. Ramani    Takeaways: 5 Tips to Recover from Being Raised by the Narcissistic Parents: Realistic expectations Radical acceptance Minimize your engagement Stop personalizing Therapy   Should I Stay or Should I Go?: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist "Don't You Know Who I Am?": How to Stay Sane in an Era of Narcissism, Entitlement, and Incivility  TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

No more Zoom meetings!!! No more Zoom meetings!!! Lady, if that exclamation resonates with you then you are among so many of us who are exhausted from all of the online meetings and gatherings. So many of us are longing for an opportunity to engage that does not involve staring at a screen. However, for the foreseeable future, a lot of our usual physical engagement will continue to be limited. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer up five realistic tips we can all implement to prevent Zoom fatigue and stay engaged.    Quote of the Day: “Imagine if you go to a bar, and in the same bar you talk with your professors, meet your parents or date someone, isn’t it weird? That’s what we’re doing now.“ –Gianpiero Petriglieri Associate Prof at Insead Takeaways: 5 Tips to Combat Zoom Fatigue: Use a different device and/or platform for school/work and social Center social activities around an activity Be intentional about scheduling Set a time limit Take a break in between and during meetings   Camera covers Microphone plug: https://amzn.to/2SMjEBK   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, we are not okay. You. Me. We. Us. How do you address your mental health? How does your family address it? How is it addressed in your community? Is it working? Why are we still doing what we have always done? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Rheeda Walker to discuss how we can develop psychological fortitude. Dr. Walker provides us with actionable steps that will allow us to function at our highest capacity. Not just individually but on a nationwide Black community level. This is a real conversation our community needs to have so we can all do the work to heal ourselves. We all we got!  Quote of the Day: “You will have to continually evaluate whether what you are doing is working for you in life or you will find yourself in a rut that is hard to escape.” -Dr. Rheeda Walker    Takeaways: Ways to Cope During This Time: Document this time What is it about this situation that is stressing me out the most What can I do about this situation? Identify what is within your control Give ourselves some slack Listen to our bodies and do what makes sense Identify a small project in the house to achieve a sense of purpose    Register for Terri's free podcasting masterclass here. The Unapologetic Guide to Black Mental Health: Navigating an Unequal System, Learn Tools for Emotional Wellness, and Get the Help You Deserve (Paperback) (Kindle)   Website: Dr. Rheeda Walker Twitter: @RheedaWalker TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Bodies. Black bodies. Black women’s bodies. In a world that is constantly telling us that we are not enough...how did you view yourself during adolescence? How has your body image changed over the years? What are the beauty standards you strive to fulfill? How have those standards evolved with societal trends? In today’s episode Terri and Dom dive into body image for Black women. The ladies discuss their personal journeys of developing a healthy body image. Listen in for tips on ways to love your body. Remember...You.Are.Enough.   Quote of the Day: "I was built this way for a reason, so I’m going to use it." - Simone Biles    Takeaways: Ways to Love on Your Body Have private parties with yourself (cue India Arie) Keep things in perspective Give yourself the same compassion and admiration that you give that cute cuddly baby or pet Affirmations Being healthy- whatever that means for you... Compare yourself to you and no one else   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Anything you love on will grow.” Whether we are talking about hair, business, or relationships, it takes love for that thing to grow and flourish. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri are joined by entrepreneur Sharie Wilson. This insightful woman from South Central LA was told she would not amount to anything. Fast forward to 2020 and Sharie has MULTIPLE business ventures. Listen in as she shares her story, the love she places in growing healthy hair and drops some real gems along the way.   Quote of the Day: "Once you master your subconscious mind anything is possible." -Sharie Wilson Takeaways: Dream Girls Hair Salon IG: Iamshariewilson IG: Dreamgirlshair Sharie Wilson TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Where you started is not where you have to finish.” Lady, how willing are you to shift and pivot into something different? In today’s episode, the ladies are joined by the dynamic Jenn Hammock. She appears to do it all...mommy, wife, first lady of the church, writer, coach, solopreneur, etc. How does Jenn manage it all? Listen in as she shares what it takes to prevent over-functioning and experiencing “mommy guilt.” Terri and Dom ask her some of the questions we all have that may be barriers to us answering our why.    Quote of the Day: “Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.” -Oprah   Takeaways: Support group for female entrepreneurs IG @Jenn_hammock Dream ChaseHer podcast Jenniferhammock.com   Book: The Emotionally Healthy Woman Wigs: https://bit.ly/terrisfavwigs   TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hope in the midst of turmoil. Lady, no matter what your current circumstances let’s take some time to assess what wholeness means to you. Over the last few weeks, most of us have shifted to “staying at home to stay safe.” In the adaptation to your new (and hopefully temporary) normal, the pull to be perfect and/or busy are real. Well, Terri and Dom are here to tell us that working on being whole may mean letting go of perfection and busyness. Listen in as the ladies share their perspectives on how to utilize this time to pour into ourselves.  ***If you are or someone you know is in need of assistance regarding partner violence please use the resources below: The National Domestic Violence Hotline RAINN National Network to End Domestic Violence Suicide Prevention Lifeline   Quote of the Day: “The challenge is not to be perfect...it’s to be whole.” -Jane Fonda   Takeaways: Self Care Be Still When is the last you did something for yourself? Describe what your 15-year-old self thought life would look like at this moment? How different is your current state? What do you want to change? What should stay the same? What are the things you are grateful for and why? Goal Setting Brain dump What am I optimizing for? Goal mapping workbook: https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Free podcasting masterclass: https://event.webinarjam.com/channel/terrilomaxpodcasting Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA Sticky notes https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 Journal https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Sign up for our IG live on April 10th at 5PM PST: bit.ly/herspacenewsletter   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, this first quarter of 2020 has been way too much in some not so good ways. However,  in this season of the podcast, Terri and Dom guided us through a theme of personal development with the foci of mental, emotional, relational, financial, sexual and physical health. Dom and Terri brought in some amazing guests including the first male guest to add their expertise to the conversation. Listen in as Terri and Dom read some listener reviews and share some questions they receive that have sparked ideas for future episodes. Moving into the next season, lady, we invite you to engage more with Dom and Terri through the H.E.R Space Sanctuary, TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom, and Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri. Takeaways: TalkBack Tuesday with Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri H.E.R Space Sanctuary   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, more than likely you will be at home for the next few weeks. Before you begin catching up on all of the missed episodes of the podcast, take a trip down memory lane with us. For those of you who were coming of age around the 99 year 2000, this is an episode for you. Join Terri and Dom as they dive into some of their fun memories from the 80s, 90s, and 2000s. From music to food to TV shows and so much more! Shout out to our New Orleans families and Philly natives! Be sure to join us on Instagram to share your memories, @HERspacepodcast.   Quote of the Day: "Recalling days of sadness, memories haunt me.  Recalling days of happiness, I haunt my memories." - Unknown Takeaways: Fresh Prince of Bel-Air Seasons 1-3 https://amzn.to/3cGDw1L   Gullah Gullah Island: Season 1 (3 Discs) https://amzn.to/2Izp9ys   Relevant Episodes: S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry   S4E7: Myths and Beliefs We Need to Unlearn Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, are you worried about COVID-19? Are there other things in life you are so focused on, it seems hard to think about or do anything else? If so, then this episode is for you. Listen as Dom and Terri provide practical tips on how to cope when life seems uncertain. Then scroll down to access the tips and links to helpful resources that will not only help you survive but THRIVE during these unpredictable times.    Quote of the Day: “What consumes your mind is what controls your life.” - Anonymous   Takeaways: Keep things in perspective Focus on what you can control Exercise Connect to a bigger purpose Get the facts Communicate with your children/family Keep connected Seek additional help   Sources: https://www.apa.org/helpcenter/pandemics https://theconversation.com/5-tips-for-surviving-in-an-increasingly-uncertain-world-125294   A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose (Oprah's Book Club, Selection 61)- https://amzn.to/3aLj9yj An exercising yoga mat  https://amzn.to/3cKMFpR   Resources: CDC WHO Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, when was the last time you took a long hard look in the mirror to examine the negativity you may bring to your relationships? We know that doing so requires hard work and often a level of vulnerability that some of us will readily avoid. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom offer us ways to identify when and why we are the toxic ones in our relationships. They also share some of their toxic ways. Within that sharing, the ladies also provide us with concrete steps to take if we are ready for making a change in our behavior patterns. Be sure to tune in and also scroll below for more information on tips and resources mentioned in this episode.    Quote of the Day: "Your toxicity in your relationships with other people is actually an extension of the toxicity in your relationship to yourself. What you have is not an issue with how you relate to others, but a fundamental trauma that is preventing you from being at ease within yourself. That is what you must address." - Brianna Wiest   Takeaways: Signs it's you: All of your problems are someone else's fault You take more than you give There's so much drama You have a major superiority complex You’re a Debbie Downer You only express love or admiration when you need something. How to make the change Watch how people interact around you Monitor your own thoughts and actions Apologize more and seek understanding Identify the root of the toxicity and what must be done to heal Will I Ever Be Good Enough?: Healing the Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers  The Self Compassion Deck   Relevant Past Episodes: S5E3: A Fresh Perspective on Receiving Feedback and Managing Defensiveness S5E4: How Your Words Are Creating Your Current Reality (Put Some Respect on Your Name) S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, we know that Black History IS American History 365 (well, 366 if it’s a leap year, lol). Today Terri and Dom are joined in conversation with historian, Dr. Candice Harrison. The ladies discuss what fuels Candice’s passion for history; the work she is doing at the University of San Francisco; where we can find accurate information about our history; how she processes all the trauma and beauty of history; and who are the unsung heroes we should acknowledge. Grab a glass of your favorite beverage (Hello sweet tea! We see you wine!) and join the ladies on the couch for this laughter-filled informative conversation.   Quote of the Day: "You can tell a great deal about a country and a people by what they deem important enough to remember, to create moments for — what they put in their museum and what they celebrate." - Lonnie Bunch, Founding Director, The National Museum of African American History and Culture    Takeaways: Ancestry DNA kit  https://amzn.to/380niN3 23 and Me DNA kit: : https://amzn.to/2T52iR3 Dr. Candice Harrison: [email protected] Ancestry.com Genealogybank   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Myla Bennett, a board-certified plastic surgeon in Georgia. She is not your typical plastic surgeon. Dr. Myla is “pro doing things to make you feel good but anti ignoring what is going on inside that is affecting what you want to do on the outside.” Your mental health is an important factor in your decision to have plastic surgery. Dr. Myla shares with us the “dark and dangerous” side of plastic surgery, the surgeries people regret and the impact it has on the individual and their romantic relationships. What are the red flags you need to avoid in a plastic surgeon? What do you need to consider in your life before having surgery? Listen in to Dr. Myla’s answers to those questions and more.    Quote of the Day: "Anytime an opportunity comes along and it violates unleashing a woman's inner and outer beauty, I'm not going to do it." - Dr. Myla Bennett   Takeaways: Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem https://amzn.to/31iRLV2 A Book of Daily Positive Affirmations https://amzn.to/32l11bS   DrMyla EderraBella Prettyskinrx   Relevant episodes S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence S1E8: How to Find Your Own Self-Care Routine   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, before you make plans with your boo for the weekend, you may want to listen to this episode. This week Terri and Dom welcome Dr. Joy Cooper back into H.E.R Space for a much-needed conversation. In this week's episode, the ladies dive into a different topic related to our gynecological health...STDs and STIs. If you remember what you learned in the sex-ed class in high school and the pamphlet in your doctor’s office... get ready because Dr. Joy is providing us with all of the updated terminology and statistics. Be sure to scroll down to check out the additional resources mentioned in the episode and links to contact Dr. Joy with your personal questions. Quote of the Day: "I called my best friend to tell her. We made a nickname up for it so we wouldn't have to use the words. We called it clouds." - Anonymous Takeaways: Dental Dams Female Condom Relevant Episode:  S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper thedrjoy Our Culture Care California residents: send a DM to Dr. Joy on IG… keyword “ourculturecare” Toast by Kofee Anybody by Burna Boy   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, today is a special day in H.E.R. Space. We have opened the doors to invite our first male guest. Listen in as Terri and Dom engage Zo Williams in conversation about relationships. This dialogue is much more than men vs. women. Get ready to hear some insightful ways to reconceptualize your understanding of heterosexual relationships; the roles each of us play; how we got to a certain place in our relationships; and how we can change if we desire to do so. Be sure to have your favorite note-taking device handy as Zo drops some gems on us.    Quote of the Day: "As long as people in stepping-stone relationships are committed to serving each other instead of misusing each other, there is no inherent harm in stepping-stone relationships." - Zo Williams   Takeaways: Zo’s books: Holographic Relationship Relationship Dismount Iamzowilliams.com Voice of Reason Radio  DashTalk X   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, today we are diving into an important conversation about the complicated feelings of grief. While most of the conversation centers around hearing about the news about Kobe Bryant’s death, his daughter Gianna and the seven other people on the helicopter, Dom and Terri also have a larger conversation about the other thoughts and feelings that come up when someone dies. How do you respond or how are you supposed to feel when someone who assaulted you dies? How is the family supposed to feel? How are those who are aware of the situation supposed to feel? What will it do to their legacy? Do you forgive them? Do you protect them in their death? Listen in as Terri and Dom help us think through how to process our complex feelings of grief.    Quote of the Day: “It’s uncomfortable to raise the worst thing someone has ever done when that someone dies, and when they are beloved. And I suppose it matters that I write this as someone who thinks that very, very few of us are all good or all bad; few of us are saintly, even fewer irredeemable.  We can admire aspects of a person’s talent without erasing the ways in which they also did irreparable damage.  We can be horrified and angry by what someone did without writing them off as worthless, without seeing them go away — to jail, to the grave — and saying “good riddance.”  We can — we must — assess the ways in which the rich and famous are able to exploit our admiration of their talents to pound into the ground anyone who might threaten their fame and reputation, how they so often bypass accountability and we just let them because, well, they’re so talented, or so attractive, or their politics line up with ours, or they handle a ball so well.” - Jill Filipovic   Takeaways: Smudging Kits On Death and Dying book feel all the feelings...they are all valid be kind to yourself...no judgments step away from social media set boundaries with those around you to get what you need utilize resources like therapy Relevant episodes  S3E10: A Fresh Perspective on Death You Need to Hear Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, today is a powerful episode. It may bring up strong emotions and some of you may be able to relate to Terri’s story. As you are listening, know there are resources available to help. Scroll to the bottom of this page for more information. If you are in the process of healing recognize the importance of your internal dialogue. Words have power. In today’s episode, we learn how to use words to heal, empower and build resilience.   ***If you or someone you know is being abused please see the resources below to get help.***   Quote of the Day: "If someone overheard your internal dialogue, what would they think? How you talk to yourself and how you talk about yourself is impacting the way you show up in the world. Put some respect on your name." - Terri Lomax   Takeaways: Be accurate and factual Allow your support system to support you “No one is 100% one hundred percent of the time.” -Queen Latifah Create positive affirmations Keep a thought record Write in a journal   National Domestic Violence Hotline Child Welfare Information Gateway   Resources: 1. Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem- https://amzn.to/2ZmoYxI 2. Break Up With Procrastination https://terrilomax.lpages.co/break-up-with-procrastination/ 3. Sticky notes for affirmations https://amzn.to/2ti7eb6 4. Journal to keep track of thoughts https://amzn.to/35YcXB7 Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Have you provided reviews or given professional feedback and wondered what they are really thinking about what you shared with them? Being behind the mic can be difficult to navigate the balance of privacy and openness. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri share their process with wrestling with some specific feedback they received from a listener. Through this process, Terri turns the interview tables on Dom and we find out if she has any “clatchet” in her. As you are listening to the episode if you want to know more about Terri and Dom be sure to connect on social media or email via the website.    Quote of the Day: “Trust the process.” -Dr. Dom    Takeaways: 1. Trust the process 2. Listen with an open heart and mind   Relevant episodes 👂🏽 S1E1: Welcome to HER Space Podcast S2E2: Play-Deprivation: What to Do When Fun Is Not Your Ministry  S2E9: So What's Therapy Like Anyway?   Resources: Their Eyes Were Watching God  Are You There God, It's Me, Margaret?   Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Our relationship with money has an impact on our quality of life. Having a million dollars in the bank does not automatically make us happy nor does being “poor” equal unhappiness. This week we have a special guest that will help us all think about what changes we need to make in our lives to not only get our finances in order but shift our family dynamics to what best serves us. Constance Carter, the CEO of Catalyst Real Estate Professionals joins Terri and Dr. Dom to share with us her journey to healthy financial wellbeing. This is not your ordinary interview about finances. Lady, we guarantee there is some aspect of Constance’s story in which you can relate. Quote of the Day: "When you say things like, “I’m broke” you're telling the universe to keep you in the state of lack and you’re programming your mind to keep you there. Your words are powerful and prophetic, and what you say becomes real. If you want to have more, you have to speak it into existence." - Constance Carter   Takeaways: Constance’s tips on changing your mindset: GTS: Google That Sh*t Just Do It Laugh  Lavish in the journey Find the good in everything “Balance is a myth but harmony is a must.” -Lisa Nichols Relevant episodes: S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion S2E12: Oh You Bougie, Huh? Resources: Constance Carter’s books recommendations: 1. The Secret to  Breaking the BROKE  Code: 5 Steps to Growth, Abundance & Overflow https://amzn.to/2Sn0XW0 2. Keeping Score: What You Need to Know to Make Your Credit Score Grow https://amzn.to/2Zt3n6N  3. Secrets of a Millionaire Mind https://amzn.to/36pIsV0   Where to Find Constance: Website: Constance Carter Weekend of Wealth Retreat Facebook: Nobodyworksharderthanconstancecarter Instagram: AskConstanceC Twitter: AskConstanceC   Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This is the start of a new year and decade. What comes up for you? Where were you 10 years ago? What has/has not happened? How do you feel about where your life is now? As we embark on this next year and decade, what are the things you want to focus on? In this episode, Dr. Dom and Terri share some of the goals they have had over the last decade reflecting on how some of those things have unfolded...or did not unfold. Listen in as Terri and Dom share with us how to establish our vision with the important questions to ask yourself and the tools to visually map it out. Be sure to scroll all the way down to check out ALL the resources available to you.   Terri’s Mantra for the Year: Flow Dr. Dom’s Mantra for the Year: Slow Down   Quotes of the Day: "As you become more clear about who you really are, you'll be better able to decide what is best for you - the first time around." - Oprah Winfrey   “If it’s truly meant for you, it will happen when you are ready.”- Dr. Dom   “When you find the why and you’re committed, everything else will fall into place.”- Terri   Relevant episodes Season 1- Episode 3:  How to Overcome Procrastination and Make Progress Fast S1E11: How to Create a Dream Team For Your Life and Business S3E3: 5 Tips to Help You Get Back On Track and Find Your Passion Takeaways: Goal setting/Vision board planning questions If you fast forward life to December 2020, how would your life be different? What is one word or phrase that will be your mantra for the year? Identify 5 people who can help you reach your goals Identify 10 people you can build up    Goal mapping workbook https://terrilomax.lpages.co/the-goal-mapping-workbook/ Whiteboard with markers https://amzn.to/2PoSHCX   https://amzn.to/2LZW7dn   Purple pens https://amzn.to/2MtqEAA   Cardi B song- Get Up 10 https://amzn.to/2QkwQgz   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, we have made it to the end of Season 4, 2019, and the first year of H.E.R Space podcast. THANK YOU and YOU and YOU!!! We could not have made it this far (over 225 thousand downloads) without your support. In this season Terri and Dom start off the season with a series of episodes that address health-related topics, including a discussion of fibroids. Following those episodes, the ladies offer us a series of healing episodes. Of course, the ladies could not end the first year without also addressing fake friends. Be sure to tune in to learn more about all of the exciting things coming from the ladies in 2020! Continue to download, share with others, and be sure to connect with us on social media by leaving us a message.  Takeaways: New adventures in 2020… Ask Dr. Dom Wisdom Wednesdays with Terri   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, can you believe 2019 is almost over? You have made 365 trips around the sun! Have you made any changes? Have you achieved the goals you set at the beginning of this year? No worries if you are feeling stagnant. This episode is an opportunity to engage in self-reflection. Listen in as Dom and Terri guide us through a series of questions to help us reflect on the past year. Be prepared to stop and start many times along this journey as you dive into answering the questions authentically. Not sure how to answer the questions? No worries, Terri and Dom answer the questions on air so you can see the range of emotions that may come up and the themes that emerge. Trust the process. ***Subscribe to the new H.E.R Space YouTube channel. Once we get 100 subscribers, we'll post a video we recorded for you!***   Quote of the Day: “The journey into self-love and self-acceptance must begin with self-examination… until you take the journey of self-reflection, it is almost impossible to grow or learn in life.” – Iyanla Vanzant Takeaways: 13 Questions to Ask If you had to describe the past year in 3 words, what would they be? What was a high point? What is the scariest/challenging thing you’ve done this year? Which of your personal qualities turned out to be most helpful this year? What was your most common mental state this year (i.e. stressed, at peace, excited)? Who hindered you? Who can you thank for their love, light, support or encouragement this past year? Did you make a mistake that you haven’t forgiven yourself for? What do you need in order to forgive yourself? How did your overall outlook on life evolve? What do you deserve a pat on the back for? What was the most important lesson you learned this year? What was the most surprising thing you experienced this year? What is your number one goal for next year?   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“From fibroids to fake friends…” The ladies have discussed fibroids so listen in today as they address fake friends. Lady, how many people in your life can you truly call friends? How long have you known them? Are they acquaintances or “ride or dies”? Many of us call the majority of the people in our life friends but all friendships are not equal. In this episode, Terri and Dom help us understand the different types of friendships and give us real-life examples of their highest level of friends and how to let go of the people whose friendship is no longer healthy.  Quote of the Day: "An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.” – Buddha   Takeaways: 4 levels of friendship: Level 1. Acquaintanceship Level 2. Casual friendship Level 3. Close friendship Level 4. Intimate friendship   How to spot a fake friend in your life: Fake Friends Are Selfish Fake Friends Thrive on Gossip and Drama They mock you and compliment you at the same time because…passive-aggressive. They gossip endlessly about others. They only see you as a means to an end. Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Linda Leu, the Executive Director of IMPACT Bay Area. In Spring 2019 Dom and Terri participated in IMPACT’s first self-defense class specifically for women of color. Linda led that course. In this conversation, the ladies reflect on that experience but more importantly, Linda shares information about self-defense techniques beyond the physical skills. She also explains what happens to many of us who experience the freeze response and how we can work our way through it. This is definitely an episode you want to listen through to the end.    Quote of the Day: “If you don’t respect her, you obviously don’t deserve her.”   Takeaways: “The best fight is no fight” 5 Best Practices for Self Defense Listen to your intuition  Use your voice  Practice using tools before having to use them Practice setting boundaries in small ways Do what you have to do to be comfortable    Resources: Website: Impactbayarea.org Instagram: @impactbayarea Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, do you ever wish that some of the things you do in life could be simplified? Yes? Us too. In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom share with us some of their favorite life hacks. From managing your meals to your appearance, listen in as the ladies break down each time saver and the practical ways in which they are used. Trust us when we say some of these life hacks are guaranteed to make your life easier.  Quote of the Day: "Life is really simple. We insist on making it complicated." -Confucius    Takeaways: Life Hacks Meal prepping  A travel set of basic necessities  Create a packing list for travel Scheduling self-care at the beginning of the month  Picking out your clothes the night before or at the start of the week Wear your hair in a way that saves you time and money  Natural colors when getting your nails done Get a fanny pack  Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Today’s episode is one that all of us experience but few of us actually talk about...jealousy and envy. Homegirl at the office stays winning. Your bestie in another city is getting closer to someone else. Which one is envy? Which one is jealousy? What other feelings come up? Often times they are used interchangeably and incorrect. Terri and Dom help us clarify what each term means. Then they walk us through multiple real-life examples to help us parse out what each word looks like when played out. What are the questions we need to ask to navigate each situation? Scroll down for some helpful tips. By the way, shout out to Meg Thee Stallion for those bomb-ass knees :)   Quote of the Day: “True confidence has no room for jealousy or envy; when you know you are great there is no reason to hate.” -unknown   Takeaways: Acknowledge the feelings Evaluate the situation with an open mind Identify the roadblocks (internal and/or external) What can you control? Remember to practice self-compassion Kill it with kindness Get support from community and/or therapy   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, were there things you were taught as a child that now as an adult you wonder why you believed it? Yep. Us too. Oh, wait. That’s not you? What about as an adult? There was nothing you have questioned? Still not you? So, no pyramid schemes? Certain religious beliefs? “Old wives tales”? Virginity/Hymen Testing? Today we invite you to listen with an open heart and mind as Terri and Dom provide us with an opportunity to reflect on what we have learned and question the messaging we have held to be true. What do I believe? Why do I believe it? In this episode, Dom and Terri explore why some of these myths or “lessons” came into being and how the messaging may have harmful lasting psychological effects.   “As life continues to evolve how we address situations need to evolve as well.” -Dr. Dom   Quote of the Day: “Unlearn.” -John Singleton Takeaways: Do your own research Ask questions Previous episodes that address healing from some of the myths and messaging: S2E1: Let's Talk About Sex with Eliza Boquin S3E12: Healing Intergenerational Trauma with Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis S3E13: Who Taught Us to Deny Our Sensuality? with Free the Cheeks Founders Breezy and Bobbi S4E3: The Burden of Fibroids for Black Women with Dr. Joy Cooper Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, are you ready? It's the holiday season 2019 edition. How do you usually feel around the holidays? For some of us, it is not the time of joy and merriment that seems to emanate from everything around us. In this episode, Terri and Dom give us some important signs to look for if we are experiencing the holiday blues. They also provide us with six healthy coping strategies and give examples of what it looks like in real life. Of course, infused throughout the episode Dom and Terri share with us some of their fond (and not so fond) holiday memories. Make sure to join in the conversation on social media and share with us what you’re grateful for and any of your holiday memories that may help someone else experiencing the holiday blues.   Quote of the Day “'Tis the season to be jolly But how can I be when I have nobody” - What do the lonely do at Christmas? by The Emotions   Takeaways 6 ways to manage the holiday blues   1. Volunteer 2. Maintain as much of your normal routine as possible 3. Find healthy ways to cope with a recent breakup 4. Let yourself feel the feelings 5. Set boundaries and be true to yourself 6. Be open to new traditions    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, can you believe it’s November? That means the holidays are upon us. It also means a new year is approaching. Here in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary, we believe that now is a great time to challenge ourselves to be thankful for all of our blessings. In this episode, Terri and Dom take us back down memory lane to share with us the lessons they received about gratitude. They also break down why gratitude is important and the benefits we can derive from incorporating it into our daily lives. Scroll down to access the article Terri mentioned on the seven ways gratitude can change your life.  For the entire month of November be sure to follow us on Instagram and share with us your daily gratitude    Quote of the Day: "Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have then you'll never ever have enough." - Oprah Winfrey Takeaways Article:  7 Crucial Ways Gratitude Can Change Your Life   Gratitude activities: Gratitude jar Daily gratitude journal Thank you cards/letters Gratitude videos Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What does relaxation look like for you? We know there are levels to this but we are talking about the relaxation that involves letting go and not thinking or stressing.  Have you ever actually had this experience? Maybe? No? Don’t worry. For all our Type A people this episode is for you. Know that relaxation is not sitting down watching a documentary or using your day off to organize your closet. Relaxation means that you are truly taking the time to bring your energy fuel tank from E(mpty) to F(ull). What does that look like? Listen in as Terri and Dom walk us through how to take notice when we are carrying stress or tension and strategies we can implement to engage in authentic relaxation.    Quote of the Day: "The most productive thing you can do is relax." -Unknown   Takeaways: Be intentional about what you take in (e.g., comedies) Laughter Bubble baths Meditation Focus on whatever it is that will help you decompress   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, if you have been listening to the podcast for a bit, you know in our introduction we mention we discuss topics ranging “from fibroids to fake friends." Today Dr. Joy Cooper joins us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary to drop her "TED Talk" on fibroids and its impact specifically on women of the diaspora. In this episode, Dom and Dr. Joy share their personal experiences with fibroids that many of us could either relate to ourselves or know someone who can. In this candid conversation with Terri and Dom, Dr. Joy dispels some of the myths about our gynecological health and encourages us to make informed decisions about our fertility. This is definitely an episode you will want to listen to and share with others.    Quote of the Day: “I think the number one thing Black women and all Black people should be paying attention to is our health.” -bell hooks   Takeaways: Advocate and seek a second opinion Do no harm  Know your normal  Your network determines your net worth    Instagram: @thedrjoy Daughters of the Diaspora  Culture Care   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Quote of the Day: “To anyone out there who’s hurting—it’s not a sign of weakness to ask for help. It’s a sign of strength.” - Barack Obama National Suicide Prevention Lifeline  1800273TALK Lady, have you ever felt like whenever you try to take two steps forward you get sent three steps back? At times it can feel really hopeless. Did you reach out for help? Was there someone or something that gave you hope? In today’s episode, Terri shares with us when she contemplated suicide and the obstacles she’s faced this year. On this journey in life, it’s okay to pull over on the side to pause, call for help, and keep your eye on your vision. Today the ladies help us build up our resilience muscle.  “You don’t know how strong you are until being strong is your only option." “If you can look up you can get up.” - Les Brown    Takeaways: Ask for help  Take mental health days  Keep your eyes on your vision    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Quote of the Day: "Connection: the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship." - Brene Brown    Welcome to Fall and Season 4 Lady! As we embark on the last quarter of the year one thing that comes to mind is the approaching holiday season. For many of us, that means work parties, family gatherings, charity events and all of the things that involve interacting with a crowd. If you are in school that means the end of the semester presentations and group projects. Did you hold your breath or feel your pulse quicken or maybe even a tightening in your stomach at the thought of any of those activities? Do you dread doing any of those activities for fear of judgment or ridicule? Then you may have social anxiety. Tune in to this week’s episode to learn how to differentiate between being shy, introverted, having a common response to a social situation, and social anxiety disorder. Terri and Dom share some of their personal experiences and provide some tips for how to face your social anxiety.    Takeaways: 3 Tips for conquering social anxiety  Set Small/specific Measurable Achievable Relevant/realistic Time-based goals  Get an accountability partner Reward yourself    13 Useful, Expert-Backed Tips For Dealing With Social Anxiety   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Just as we are (hopefully) saying goodbye to summer, Terri and Dom are wrapping up Season 3 this week. Join the ladies as they discuss the highlights of this season, from the dope women who appeared as guests, the lessons they learned, and the tech issues to the personal losses Terri experienced. This season also had a couple of great achievements. Not only did we have 20,000 downloads in July alone but by the middle of September y’all showed up and showed OUT with the downloads crossing the 125,000 mark for total downloads! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Continue to download, share with others, and be sure to connect with us on social media by leaving us a message.    Takeaways: ***Don’t forget to enter the Wedding Dress Giveaway. Deadline is Monday, September 30th***   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today Therapy for QPOC   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, what were you taught about sexuality and sensuality? Are you ready to relearn what you thought you knew? This week Terri and Dom are joined by dynamic sister duo Breezy and Bobbi (the founders of Free the Cheeks) and they take us to Twerk Church. This discussion dives into what’s really up with what women are taught about sex and sensuality. A lot of us were taught about respectability politics and socialized into participating in the patriarchy based on the traumas of our ancestors. Today the ladies name the ways that we can subvert the patriarchy. We will hold space and celebrate our wombs. Breezy and Bobbi share with us how they teach women about discovering the freedoms of their body and where they learned to respect and appreciate feminine bodies. Feel the joy. Feel the community. Get back to yourself. Regain your power. Create that vibration...free your cheeks!   Quote of the Day: "If any female feels she needs anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency" -bell hooks   Takeaways: From Niggas to Gods The Heart of Trauma   Freethecheeks.com @wehealdifferent   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Surviving is not the same thing as living.” Lady, how many times have people commented on how strong you are? How many times have you felt like you were falling apart on the inside but you refused to let others see it so you would not be perceived as weak? Take a moment and think about where you learned that pattern. Chances are you are living out a narrative that is not your own. You may be operating in a space conditioned to protect your wounds...shield you from your trauma. Trauma that was caused by someone behaving in reaction to their own wounds.  In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Thema Bryant-Davis, a licensed psychologist, ordained minister, and sacred artist. She encourages us to think about our pain in ways that many of us have never considered but will definitely bring us closer to healing. Gift yourself the time to sit and do nothing else but listen to this episode as Dr. Thema drops so many quotable statements. Your wounds will be so glad you did.   Connect with Dr. Thema: Website- https://www.drthema.com/ The Homecoming Podcast with Dr. Thema I Dance with God: A Cojourney in Prayer   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, when did you decide whether or not you wanted children? Were you socialized to tie your womanhood to being a mother? Have you thought about what you really want? Do you know what influenced that decision? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom discuss their decision on having children and what factors led to their choices. More importantly, the ladies dive into a conversation that many women experience but until recently have not openly shared. Infertility. Miscarriage. Let’s not be silent on these issues. If you have ever experienced any type of fertility and/or gynecological issues, know that you are NOT alone. As you are listening, if you have any questions scroll down as there is a list of resources that may help you. As a community, we want to be here for one another so please be sure to reach out to us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary.    Quote of the Day: "I just think, as women, we have to give ourselves room to be individuals. So when a woman makes a decision for herself, we as women shouldn’t set those hardcore boundaries for another woman. Just like we don’t want men setting hardcore boundaries for us.” -Jada Pinkett-Smith   Takeaways: Below are links to information on all the major terms mentioned in today’s episode  HSG  Unexplained infertility  PCOS IUI IVF DNC Egg freezing Resources: Ovia https://www.oviahealth.com/   What to Expect  https://www.whattoexpect.com/mobile-app/   Bare with my doula http://www.barewithmeduo.com/   The sacred doula  https://www.instagram.com/sacredbirthdoula/?hl=en   Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, we know you are reading the title of today’s episode and probably took a pause. What are the thoughts and feelings that come up for you? Fear? Unease? Are you ready to click out of this episode? Remember, when Dom tells us to trust the process? This is one of those times. TRUST. THE. PROCESS. We acknowledge this is a heavy topic and invite you to dive into this with us. Stop what you are doing and be present for this discussion. The first lesson: Live in the moment. Death is a fact of life for all of us. What can we do to honor ourselves and others while we are living? Listen all the way to the end to learn about the very special way Terri contributes to the legacy of herself and her family on a regular basis. But wait... There’s more! At the end, Terri reveals the details for a special giveaway.   Quote of the Day: “Living in the moment means letting go of the past and not waiting for the future. It means living your life consciously, aware that each moment you breathe is a gift.” – Oprah Winfrey   Takeaways: https://mochagirlspitstop.com/when_a_blogger_dies/   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What are you most afraid of? Have you shared that with anyone? What have you done to address the fear(s)?  No worries, if you have not taken any steps. Hopefully, listening to this episode will motivate you to take action. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Guryan Tighe. Guryan is Founder and CEO of, Fourage, that's courage with an F. As an Executive Coach who specializes in helping people address their fears, Guryan joins Dom and Terri to discuss fear and communication. Each of the ladies opens up about something they are afraid of and Guryan utilizes her expert coaching skills to facilitate the discussion and offer best practices. Then Guryan provides tips on how to engage in healthy communication with partners and parents. Some of her tips may surprise you and you will definitely want to take notes. Let’s make fear our greatest teacher.    Quote of the Day: "FOURAGE is courage spelled with an F. We believe your fear is the gateway to your courage." - Guryan Tighe Takeaways: Guryan’s general best practices: On having a conversation with your partner about setting boundaries with in-laws Get curious What do you want more of? What do you appreciate? What does an ideal scenario look like with the in-laws for you and your partner? Establish a safe environment where both people feel supported  Listen to listen/understand to create a shared agenda   Communicating about something annoying or unfulfilling your partner does Note that it may be more indicative of something happening internally Bring curiosity inward What are you feeling?   Toxic parents and having conversations about their bad behavior What do you feel lost around? What are you missing? Apply compassion to self and parent(s) Get your needs met in other places Connect with Guryan:  Fourage.io [email protected] Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

 Lady, have you ever had times where you’re sitting with a mentor, big sister, or someone you look up to and their presence just makes you feel at peace? Makes you want to ask ALL the questions and share ALL your business knowing there will be no judgment and you’ll be guided into making healthy choices?Well that’s what it was like for Terri and Dom this week as they were in conversation with Dr. Joy Harden Bradford. If you’ve been a part of the sanctuary for a while then you're already familiar with Dr. Joy.She is a licensed psychologist, speaker, and host of the wildly popular Therapy for Black Girls podcast. Listen in as she talks with Dom and Terri about her passion for improving the lives of Black women and their mental health; the importance of sisterhood; how she manages it all; and what song always gets her on the dance floor. Pour up your favorite summertime beverage, relax and join the ladies in the sanctuary for an enjoyable conversation you didn’t know you needed.  Quote of the Day:“Sometimes therapy is hard work." -Dr. Joy Harden BradfordTakeaways:The Short and Tragic Life of Robert PeaceYou can find Dr. Joy via:Twitter: @therapy4bgirlsInstagram: @therapyforblackgirlsFacebook: @therapyforblackgirlsEmail: [email protected]:Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black GirlsPsychology Today Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This week finds us in the aftermath of multiple mass shootings due to domestic terrorism. To be clear, these instances are fueled by hate and a result of white supremacy. Today Terri and Dom are joined by Rachel Cargle, an activist, writer, lecturer, and entrepreneur. Rachel’s work focuses on unpacking White feminism, confronting White supremacy and educating people on how Black women are frequently shut out of feminist spaces. The ladies discuss White supremacy by defining it; how it pervades multiple aspects of our lives; and its relationship with White feminism. Lady, as always, we hope after this episode you know you are not alone. Be sure to check out Rachel’s website for resources on navigating this racist society we live in.    Quote of the Day: "I don’t want your love and light if it doesn’t come with solidarity and action." - Rachel Cargle   Takeaways: For women of color...YOU. ARE. ENOUGH.  Notes for White allies and accomplices  "What are you without racism? Are you still good? Are you still strong?” -Toni Morrison It is never the job of the oppressed to educate the oppressors If love were the answer…  Black people love the hardest so we would’ve loved our way out of a lot of things by now.  We would never walk into an orphanage or homeless shelter and say “you should’ve loved your way into new parents or a new home." Love and words are not enough. Take ACTIONABLE steps!   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In a world that encourages and supports engaging with others on a constant basis, is there understanding for those of us that prefer to be alone? When you hear the word introvert how much does this describe you? Before you make that decision listen in as Dom dispels the myth of equating an introvert with shyness and answers whether social anxiety and introversion are equals. When, where and how you derive your energy clues you in to your introversion status. Not sure how that really applies to you? Terri and Dom will explain what the introversion/extroversion spectrum looks like and provide examples from their lives of where they fall on the continuum. Lady, you think you know Terri and Dom, but you might be surprised by how they rate their level of introversion. Stay tuned for information that you can reference for later use and tips on how to navigate being an introvert in an extroverted world. If you are more extroverted, this episode will help you understand your introverted sisters and remind you to not dim your light for the comfort of others. We are dynamic and varied in how we show up in this space. There. Is. Room. For. All. Of. Us.   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Assertiveness. When do you use your voice? How do you use your voice? What does it look like when you assert yourself? Where did you learn to use your voice? The answers to each of those questions gives you insight into how you express assertiveness. If you have listened to previous episodes on boundary setting and confidence then this week’s topic will add to your arsenal of being a woman living in authenticity. Terri and Dom will explore examples of assertiveness and also distinguish from assertiveness, aggressiveness, passiveness, and passive-aggressiveness. Asserting yourself may require risk but it will benefit you and everyone around you in the end. Be sure to scroll down to learn how to navigate situations that require assertiveness.  Quote of the Day: "I think of the next girl who is going to come along who looks like me, and I hope, 'Maybe, just maybe, my voice will help her.'" -Serena Williams Helpful resources mentioned: Tips to improve assertiveness identify the behavior; the impact; your feelings and what you want changed use "I" statements speak loudly and clearly avoiding pauses and "ums" own what you need aim for positivity and collaboration https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a28209579/serena-williams-us-open-2018-essay/  From Psychology Today: "Assertiveness is a social skill that relies heavily on effective communication, while simultaneously respecting the thoughts and wishes of others. People who are assertive clearly and respectfully communicate their wants, needs, positions, and boundaries to others. There’s no question of where they stand, no matter what the topic. From a cognitive standpoint, assertive people experience fewer anxious thoughts, even when under stress. From a behavioral standpoint, assertive people are firm without being rude. They react to positive and negative emotions without becoming aggressive or resorting to passivity. Individuals who are high in assertiveness don't shy away from defending their points of view or goals, or from trying to influence others to see their side. They are also open to both compliments and constructive criticism. Assertiveness is often associated with higher self-esteem and confidence. People can improve their assertiveness through practical exercises and experience."   https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/black-women-leaders-approved-for-assertiveness-in-the-workplace.html  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

This was week was a rough one for Dom and Terri. Terri found out that her grandmother passed away and had to abruptly leave San Francisco to head home to Philadelphia. It was still very important for them to produce an episode but they ran into quite a few challenges.   Despite the technological struggle, they had a quick conversation about stress, anxiety, and setting boundaries when life comes at you fast. Stay tuned because they'll have more in-depth conversation about these topics in the future.     Quotes of the day: "It's not stress that kills us, it's our reaction to it." -Hans Selye   "In times of stress the best thing we can do for each other is to listen with our ears and our hearts and to be assured that our questions are just as important as our answers." -Mr. Rogers     Hans Selye's General Adaptation Syndrome: Step 1: Alarm Step 2: Resistance Step 3: Exhaustion   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today General Adaptation Syndrome    Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We are more than halfway through 2019. Have you accomplished all of your goals for the year? While some of us use June and July to re-evaluate goals and resolutions we set in January, know that it is okay to establish new goals and hit reset at any time in the year. What about your life goals? Do you have things that you are passionate about? What gives you purpose? In today’s episode, listen in as Terri and Dom share their journeys to discovering their passions. What you hear is sure to enlighten you but it may also resonate and inspire you along your own path. One thing for sure is, like you, Dom and Terri have not had straight paths. If you are looking for ways to clarify your purpose or are just starting on a journey, check out the tips below to you started.   Quote of the Day: "Don't confuse who you are with where you are on your journey." Takeaways: Step 1- Have a vision and write it down Step 2- Identify your why Step 3- Find a source of inspiration and restore often Step 4- Sow where you want to go Step 5- Create a roadmap or find one   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ayyyyeee!!! Today is a special day...It’s our anniversary! One year ago today Terri and Dom met for dinner and decided H.E.R Space podcast needed to happen. Check out this bonus episode with clips that got left on the editing room floor.    Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome to Season 3 of the H.E.R Space Podcast! The beginning of Season 3 also coincides with National Minority Mental Health Month. One of the ways in which our mental health is impacted is by our relationship with sleep. Lady, are you someone who has trouble falling asleep? Or maybe you fall asleep easily but can’t stay asleep? What’s your relationship with sleep? In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom explore what their various sleep habits are and whether they have good sleep hygiene. Dom walks us through some of the causes of sleep issues- the good and the bad.  Then Terri and Dom provide tips on how to adjust our sleep routines which will, in turn, improve our overall physical and mental health.     Quote of the Day: “The only time I have problems is when I sleep.” -Tupac   Takeaways: The National Sleep Foundation   Tips to improve sleep: Create a space that supports sleep Only use bed for sleep and sex Have a good mattress and pillows Establish bedtime routine Meditation/prayer Deep breaths Taking a bath Reading  Gratitude journal No caffeine or alcohol Turn off bright overhead fluorescent lights Turn off the tv Put your phone away   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

2019, where have you gone? We are halfway through the year which means we're at the end of season two. This season brought us guest co-hosts who are experts in sex, sexuality, sexual orientation and queer identity. It also showed us to trust the process as the order of the episodes, while most were not intentional, all built upon one another. In this week’s episode Terri and Dom recap all of the previous episodes of this season, share some of the behind the scenes conversations and how Dom and Terri may be personally influenced by the topics. Lady, thank you so much for rocking with us and be sure to join us in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary on Facebook.  Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls  Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom talk about an often polarizing conversation...socioeconomic status and class. Being middle class and/or college-educated is often equated with being bougie. Well, what does bougie even mean? Is it wearing expensive shoes? Staying at four-star hotels? Going to acupuncture? Terri and Dom share their experiences with when and why people call someone bougie. Terri provides us with multiple examples of how people in our lives may call us bougie from a negative space and asks Dom to help us understand that person’s perspective and how to engage with them. Be sure to listen to the end because this is not the usual conversation on being bad and bougie. Remember to sound off in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary and share with us what bougie means to you.   Quote of the Day: Successful women still have their feet on their ground, they just have better shoes." -Oprah   Resources: Pew Research Center income calculator 10 Signs You Might Be Bougie Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today’s episode, Dom and Terri discuss hair. Now, this is not just a discussion on “Good vs. Bad Hair”, though the ladies briefly touch on it. This is a conversation that begins with a quick history lesson on the Tignon Laws of New Orleans and then moves into modern ways in which our hair is policed, judged, politicized, and criticized. The words we use to describe someone’s hair or the assumptions we make about one another based on how we choose to wear our hair can be hurtful and offensive. Terri and Dom share with us their hair journeys and how they have been impacted by the words of others.  Terri’s journey is one you particularly want to pay attention to as many of us can relate to her life-changing story. By the way, what is your hair journey? What are your favorite products? Who’s your stylist? Share it in the H.E.R Space Sanctuary.   Quote of the Day: "I am not my hair."-  India.Arie   "In case you somehow don't already know: It's never okay to reach out your hand and touch a Black woman's hair without permission — I mean, how was that ever even a thing?" - refinery29.com   Hair Documentaries: https://backtonaturaldoc.com/ https://shadowandact.com/2017/03/02/kickstart-this-natural-hair-the-movie-aims-to-pick-up-where-chris-rock-ended-with-good-hair/ https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lvw_PUbt1Fc https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WG3ej4R6TKc   Terri's 3 Episode Hair Transplant Journey: http://bit.ly/terrihairtransplantjourney   Resources mentioned in today’s episode: https://www.bbc.com/news/uk-england-merseyside-31438273 https://bglh-marketplace.com/2014/07/shocking-history-why-women-of-color-in-the-1800s-were-banned-from-wearing-their-hair-in-public/ https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/j5abvx/black-womens-hair-illegal-tignon-laws-new-orleans-louisiana https://scholars.org/brief/whats-hair-got-do-it-black-womens-bodies-and-traditional-look-success-american-politics https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/black-women-hairstyles-at-work https://www.naaf.org/alopecia-areata http://skinofcolorsociety.org/dermatology-education/traction-alopecia/ https://blavity.com/california-s-crown-act-officially-bans-race-based-hair-discrimination-in-schools-and-workplaces   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram:

In honor of Black Music Month, Terri and Dom open up the discussion of music. Who are your favorite artists? What are your favorite songs? What did music mean in your household growing up? Dom and Terri answer all of those questions and share some of their memories and emotions that remind us of the power of music. Make sure you queue up your favorite music platform and look up the songs and artists mentioned so that you can sing along. Then play along as Terri and Dom toss out various song lyrics from the 80s 90s and 2000s for you to guess. Now, while Dom spares us all by not singing, if you listen at the right moment you might hear a bit of Terri’s vocal game. What songs fill your spirit? Make you want to dance? Do a praise dance? Be sure to join Dom and Terri in H.E.R Space Sanctuary and share with the community the music that has resonated the most with you during pivotal important moments in your life. Quote of the Day: "Music is a world within itself, it's a language we all understand"- Stevie Wonder Artists Terri and Dom mentioned: Stevie Wonder Prince Gospel Gangstas DJ Jubilee Vesta Williams Kirk Franklin Michael Jackson Mary J. Blige Neyo India.Arie Janet Jackson Petey Pablo Pretty Ricky Maxwell TLC Lauryn Hill Al Green Marvin Gaye Patti LaBelle Beyonce Solange Nicki Minaj Cardi B Chris Brown Megan Thee Stallion Saweetie Migos   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

 Have you been considering seeing a mental health professional? Well, then today’s episode is just for you. Dom acknowledges that as a mental health professional she is biased so she turns to Terri to share her experience with therapy. Through Terri’s sharing of her varied experiences with therapy Dom asks her questions to help listeners determine things to look for; questions to ask; and how to advocate for you may need. The ladies also provide us with information on ways to get access to therapy outside of the traditional face to face therapy. Never been to therapy and are curious about what happens?  Dom walks us through what happens in the first session and explains some of the things that we can address with a therapist. Know that it requires working through the ugly to get to the beauty, but remember...trust the process. Quote of the Day:"When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary." - Mr. Rogers Resources:Mood tracker appTalkspaceHeadspacePacificaMelanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black GirlsPsychology Today Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: herspacepodcast.comEmail: [email protected] Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Anxiety is the number one mental health diagnosis in America and Black women experience it in ways that we often ignore...  In this week's episode, Terri shares that she has been in a reflective space and unapologetically experiencing ALL of her feelings. One of the things she noticed was anxiety. Terri notes that she wasn't able to acknowledge the experience until she knew what it meant. Dom provides us with descriptions on how anxiety may show up in our lives from the physical, mental and behavioral manifestations. Terri and Dom identify the instances in our everyday lives that cause anxiety for Black women. The ladies also know that they are not immune to anxiety and share examples of when they have experienced anxiety and what they did to address it. Then they provide us with tips on how we can all manage our anxiety. Tune in to find out if Terri and Dom list the way(s) in which anxiety may be showing up in your life.    Quote of the Day: “Anxiety’s like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it doesn’t get you very far.” -Jodi Picoult   Takeaways: Ways to Address Your Anxiety- Therapy Exercise Meditation Mindfulness Grounding/breathing exercises Healthy diet Ask yourself- "What can I control?"   Resources: Sharing Hope: An African American Guide to Mental Health provides mental health information in a sensitive manner through personal stories. Recovery is possible, and this booklet tells you where to find more information, seek help and be supportive.- NAMI   When The News is Triggering: Coping with Trauma in the News  Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] H.E.R Space Sanctuary: https://www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

“Girl, if I knew then what I know now.” How many times have you heard this or said this? In today’s episode, Terri and Dom address what they would tell their younger selves in regards to relationships, sexuality, career, finances, self-esteem, and womanhood. “Trust your gut” “Monetize your passion” “Your network determines your net worth” “MASTURBATE!” “Embrace who you are”  “It’s okay for us to be multidimensional beings” “You’re worthy” ...there are so many quotable moments in this episode so be sure to write them down and share them on social media.    Quote of the Day: "Your deep Mahogany skin may not resemble that of the others in your family, but it’s just as gorgeous and you’re just as worthy….One day you’ll appreciate how much your brown skin shines in the moonlight, glistens in the sun and ages ever so slowly." -Gabrielle Union   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected] Join the H.E.R Space Sanctuary!  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

QUOTE OF THE DAY: “When we face pain in relationships our first response is often to sever bonds rather than to maintain commitment.” “For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?” - bell hooks   In Season 2 Episode 5 Dom and Terri had a chance to interview a special guest, Dr. Ja'Nina Garrett-Walker and engage in conversation about being black and queer and how we can build a bridge between Black heterosexual women and Black queer women. The interview went well until the last 13 minutes. Terri and Dom were made aware of a few statements that were deemed problematic. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri invited Ja'Nina back on the show to model a healthy dialogue that will hopefully empower you to have your own healing conversations despite how uncomfortable or passionate they might be. Stay tuned to learn tips on what to do when you or someone you know fucks up...because it happens to the best of us.   TIPS FOR WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE: Notice it Slow down Don't make a big deal about it Acknowledge it Take responsibility Understand intent vs impact Listen with a different lens Reflection and introspection Humility Put ego aside Apologize   Resources: Gender: Ideas, Interactions, Institutions Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast   Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today’s episode, Terri and Dom are joined by Dr. Ja’Nina Garrett-Walker from the University of San Francisco. They engage in a conversation about how as a Black community we can all be better accomplices for the Black queer community. Dr. Garrett-Walker gives us some information on what it means to “deconstruct the binary” and the damage it does to the entire community when we focus on the binary. She also gives us lots of terminology that we all need to learn in understanding our queer community. Clutch your invisible pearls because she will also check us on ways in which we can do better in ridding ourselves of the homophobia, patriarchy, and anti-queerness we often engage in.  Be sure to take out your pen, paper or something to take notes with so that you can remember the terms. If you’ve had a question about the role of religion; how to be a better ally for the queer person in your life; or just wanting to understand, this is the episode for you. After the more serious questions, the ladies engage in a round of Oh You Clatchet?  And of course, at the end, Terri and Dom share their debriefing. Lady, knowing that so many of our queer brothers and sisters are more at risk for suicide, violence, and homelessness, it is up to us to be good accomplices in advocacy because if one of isn’t free then none of us are free.   Quote of the Day: “One of the ways that you can work for freedom is to change your mind and to move away from the space of binaries, of simplistic either/ors, and to be able to look at the picture that offers us complexity.” - Bell Hooks   Takeaways: Check Your Privilege Campaign Zami by Audre Lorde Human Rights Campaign GLAAD GLSEN Connect with Ja'Nina on Twitter: @j_garrettwalker   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Tension, pain, frustration, sadness, heart racing, butterflies in your stomach, sweaty palms, stress. Any of those things sound familiar? Those are some of the feelings that come up when we experience conflict. Lady, you’re going to want to grab something to take notes because Teacher T steps into H.E.R Space and helps us to explore what is conflict resolution and why is it important. In today’s episode, Dom and Terri use real-life scenarios to show us how to disagree with someone effectively. With the use of these tips, we can all become better communicators and see improvements in our relationships with friends, families, and coworkers.   ***Please note that Terri and Dom are not actresses and the role plays in today’s episode are just that. Role plays. The content of the role plays do not reflect their actual views, thoughts and may not reflect actual facts.***   Don’t forget to join the H.E.R Space Sanctuary: www.facebook.com/groups/herspacesanctuary/   Quote of the Day: “People will forget what you said, they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”  - Maya Angelou   Takeaways: Here are a few nuggets to keep in mind when you’re faced with a conflict or tense situation... Focus on Facts Don't Get Personal Recognize the Good Remember to Listen Use "I" Statements Know When to Move On Establish Ground Rules Before an Intimate Discussion   Resources: Dale Carnegie book Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Exclusive Facebook community: H.E.R Space Sanctuary Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady, you are ENOUGH. Let that sink in. Say it out loud. “I AM ENOUGH.” Now take a deep breath in, slowly let it out and get ready to dive into today’s episode. This week Dom and Terri discuss the narratives that reverberate in our brains that influence our confidence and self-esteem. Our confidence is situational and subjective. It's also different from self-esteem and both may fluctuate with the various phases of our lives. Terri and Dom share their self-esteem and confidence journeys with Terri taking us back to turbulent adolescent middle school years while Dom goes allllllll the way back to kindergarten. Dom then offers us some tips on how to improve our self-esteem and confidence and Terri testifies to the effectiveness. What has been your journey towards your glow-up? Or are you (like most of us) still in progress? Be sure to step into H.E.R Space and share your story.   Quote of the Day: “I need to see my own beauty and to continue to be reminded that I am enough, that I am worthy of love without effort, that I am beautiful, that the texture of my hair and that the shape of my curves, the size of my lips, the color of my skin, and the feelings that I have are all worthy and okay.” - Tracee Ellis Ross   Takeaways: Identify your strengths Feed yourself a positive narrative Get a win and celebrate it Be compassionate with yourself    What Is Confidence? And How YOU Can Get More!- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/what-is-confidence-and-how-you-can-get-more/   3 confidence boosters for that time of the month- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/3-confidence-boosters-for-that-time-of-the-month/   2 Things Every Woman Should Start Doing to Boost Confidence & Self-Esteem- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/2-things-every-woman-start-boost-confidence-self-esteem/   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Research has shown that there can be healing in humor. Belly laughs from way down deep can be so good for our souls. Lady, when was the last time you laughed? Not that polite laugh, but the real authentic one. When was the last time you tapped into your imagination and chaired the fun ministry? With so much sadness and seriousness, Terri and Dom take a break from the heaviness to have a lighthearted episode telling some corny jokes and share some ways in which they tap into their inner child. Join them as they also discuss happiness- what it looks like, some of the barriers to achieving it, and how to tap into it. What are the ways in which you get in touch with your inner child? Make sure to do one of those activities this week and share with us via pics and videos on social media.   Quote of the Day: “Growing up is acting less childish and being more child-like." -Lizzo   Takeaways: Tap into your inner child and share with us on social media https://www.happify.com/hd/happiness-by-the-numbers/   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today’s episode we’re diving into a topic that’s taboo for many but oh so necessary to a fulfilling and joyful existence...S-E-X. Joining Terri and Dom is the first of many expert guests in H.E.R Space.  Eliza Boquin, is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Relationship Therapist, and Sexuality Expert. She’s the owner, founder, and primary psychotherapist of The Flow and Ease Healing Center and specializes in working with relationship & sexuality challenges. But wait, there’s more... she’s also the Co-founder of Melanin and Mental Health and co-host on the podcast, Between Sessions. In her work Eliza helps people heal from shame & trauma so they can have healthier, pleasure-filled, mutually-satisfying relationships…. Tune in for all the “wow” moments and a few other special surprises!   Quote of the Day: “Let’s talk about sex baby. Let’s talk about all the good things and the bad things that may be. Let’s talk about sex.”- Salt N Pepa   Takeaways: For more information on how to heal from trauma, where to find Eliza and more information on sex, please check out the videos, books, and websites below: Dr. Peter Levine explains trauma, sexual trauma, and somatic experiencing (extended video) (short video) Courage to Heal Book and Workbook Come As You Are Flow and Ease Healing   Resources: Melanin and Mental Health Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Lady! We did it! We made it through 13 episodes! That means we have finished the first quarter of 2019! Can you believe it? Whether you've been rocking with Terri and Dom since Day 1 or just tuning in...know that this week's episode will give you a quick recap of each episode and shout out some folks. Also, Dom and Terri offer additional insights, commentary and follow-ups. But wait...if you enjoyed season 1 you CANNOT miss what we have in store for season 2! As always, thank you for tuning in lady and please join us in conversation on our social media channels.   Quote of the Day: “I release what no longer serves me to manifest what I desire." -Season 1 Mantra Takeaways: Shout to you, you, and you! For following us on social media, subscribing, texting, emailing, calling and sharing our baby with your networks. Your continued support means more than you could ever know. Stay tuned as we continue on this amazing journey! Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

We all know what it feels like when someone violates our boundaries but how do we know when we are the boundary violator? Have you ever... offered unsolicited advice? Gossiped? Said what you would do if you were in someone’s situation? Asked personal questions? Interrupted someone in the middle of a conversation? Touched someone’s hair? Touched someone on the shoulder? Asked a coworker where they lived? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you, like most of us, have been a boundary violator. In today’s episode, Terri and Dom take us through multiple situations (including current events from pop culture and a subscriber question) in which we may be unintentionally invading someone’s personal space and offer us tips on how to navigate those situations.   Quote of the Day: "R-E-S-P-E-C-T...find out what it means to me!” - The Queen, Aretha Franklin   Takeaways: What to do if we violate the boundaries of others Apologize Be willing to listen Don’t take offense Ask for permission   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Ever wonder, “How did I get here? I’m not as good as everyone else here. What’s going to happen to me when they find out I’m not as smart as them?” If you answered, “yes” then chances are you have experienced Impostor Phenomenon or Imposter Syndrome. This experience was initially coined to describe the experiences of White women who believed their achievements were a result of happenstance; lived in fear of being taken as a fraud; and setting sometimes unrealistic high standards of achievement. This syndrome may be more exacerbated in people of color, particularly women, who often receive societal messages of not belonging or not good enough.  (Cokely, K., et. al., 2013).   In this week’s episode, join Dom and Terri as they discuss Imposter Syndrome/Impostor Phenomenon, its effects on our well-being and ways to combat it. Terri begins with a story and unintentionally ends up “on the couch” with Dr. Dom who challenges Terri to re-examine how she describes herself. Keep listening and you’ll get tips (through Dom and Terri’s own experiences) on how to check yourself and remind yourself that you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Quote of the Day: “At the end of the day, remember this: You are here for a reason. In this job, your business, your life, you are worthy. You are better than you think you are. You are smarter than you think you are. You know more than you give yourself credit for. Remember that. Remind yourself as often as you need to.” - Megan Dalla-Camina   Takeaways: Ways to Conquer Imposter Syndrome/Impostor Phenomenon: Be realistic about your strengths and weaknesses Alter your narrative/Reframe your thinking Celebrate your accomplishments Recognize these feelings are normal Access your support system Resources: Clance, P.R. (1985). The impostor phenomenon: Overcoming the fear that haunts your success (p. 25). Atlanta: Peachtree Publishers. Cokely, K., McClain, S., Enciso, A., Martinez, M. (2013). An examination of the impact of minority status stress and impostor feelings on the mental health of diverse ethnic minority college students. Journal of multicultural counseling and development, 41, 82-95. Craig, L. (2018). Are you suffering from imposter syndrome? Ways to identify and deal with feelings of self-doubt in grad school. https://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2018/09/imposter-syndrome.aspx Robinson, A. (2017). Overcoming imposter syndrome. How to stop feeling like a fraud. https://www.apadivisions.org/division-28/publications/newsletters/psychopharmacology/2017/11/imposter-syndrome.aspx?_ga=2.218253150.610534608.1538685330-364524485.1533165585 Weir, K. (2013). Feel like a fraud? https://www.apa.org/gradpsych/2013/11/fraud.aspx   Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook:

Terri and Dom switch things up a bit in this episode. Dom starts us off with a quick story about how she came to realize she has a team. If we want to live our best life then having a team will get you there. Who do you need on your team? How can you create a team with limited finances? Terri and Dom share with us some of the people they have on their teams and how they navigated finding coaches when they did not have the money. They also discuss their “co-parenting relationship” for H.E.R Space and some of the qualities of the teamwork that makes the dream work. Dom and Terri also shout out (Heyyy girl, Hey!) some of their built-in team members and how meaningful those relationships are. As we’re all evolving in this journey called life, outline your health goals (mental, physical, spiritual, financial and social) and create a team that can support you in each of those areas. Quote of the Day: "Look for people who will pull you forward, put you on your tippy-toes, and will inspire you to reach higher. And once you find them, keep them close to you. They are your voice of reason, your direction, and your sounding board." - Lisa Nichols   Takeaways:   Creating Your Team and Making Meaningful connections   How to find a good therapist What to look for in an accountability partner How to find a coach How to find a mentor Ways to workout for FREE! How to find a financial advisor Growing Beyond a Solopreneur: Hiring a Strong Team SCORE | Free Small Business Advice   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Life is good...like REALLY good. In fact, it’s LIT. You’re “blessed and highly favored.” To the casual observer, everything on the outside appears to be wonderful. But on the inside...you feel empty. Lady, is this you? If so, you may be experiencing depression. What we know for sure is that ALL of us will experience symptoms of depression related to many normal life events like a relationship breakup, grief over a loss, or other stressors. For most of us, the feelings of sadness last for a few days at most. For others, if the symptoms last more than a two weeks we may be experiencing a major depressive episode. Today Terri and Dom discuss what depression looks like; what are some causes; and why we need to reduce the stigma so that we can take care of ourselves. Terri shares with us pieces of her journey with depression and Dom addresses the uncomfortable topic of suicide.   Some Common Signs and Symptoms of Depression: Sadness Anger Loss of interest or pleasure Changes in sleep, weight, appetite   Quote of the Day: “I don’t think people understand how stressful it is to explain what’s going on in your head when you don’t even understand it yourself”- Anonymous   Takeaways: Take 5 minutes a day to pour into yourself (meditation, walking, talking with your support system) Check on your friends- especially the strong ones Mood Tracker app If you or someone you know ever has thoughts of suicide please contact National Suicide Prevention Hotline   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

No! In case you were wondering, no is a complete sentence. Use it without hesitation. Nike! (Just do it!) Know that using it is an act of self-care. Can you think of a time when you’ve had to say no or struggled to say no? Who have you had to say no to? How do you feel when you have to say? These situations are boundary testers and using “No” is a way for us to outline our rules of interaction. Terri and Dom offer us ways to say "No" within real-life situations, including instances in which they were successful, someone was clear with them on a boundary, and times when they struggled with saying "No." If you want to stand up for yourself in those uncomfortable moments, practice in the mirror, in the shower, in the car and remember... “No." It’s a complete sentence. I said what I said and it does not require justification or explanation.   Quote of the Day: "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." – Brené Brown    Resources: 20 Ways to Say NO- http://lifegetsorganized.com/2016/04/18/20-ways-to-say-no/   How to Say No And Why You Should Say It More- http://mochagirlspitstop.com/how-to-say-no/   49 Ways To Say No To Anyone (When You Don’t Want To Be A Jerk)- https://www.careerfaqs.com.au/news/news-and-views/how-to-say-no-to-anyone   Therapy for Black Girls   Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]    See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

It’s the day after Valentine’s Day. How did you spend the day? Were you focused on others or did you take time to care for yourself? Or was it just another day for you? Hopefully, you did something that made you feel good. In this week’s episode, Dom and Terri dive into the importance of self-care...doing the things (whatever they are) that make you feel good. While self-care is a phrase that seems to be tossed around a lot lately, do we know what it really means? How can we engage in it when we have been socialized to believe that doing so is selfish? Per usual, the ladies provide us with real-life examples from their lives and give us practical ways we can apply it to our own. Self-care is not going to look the same for everyone and shout out to all the ladies finding creative ways to pour into themselves! Remember...equate self-care with what they teach us on the plane- put your own oxygen mask on before you assist others.   Quote of the Day: “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” - Audre Lorde   Takeaways: “Taking care of yourself = keeping your cup full. If you don’t do things to keep your cup full, you have nothing left to give or share with others.” – Paige Burkes Self-care is not selfish. Just because everyone else is consuming a certain type of content doesn't mean you have to do it. Self-care is unique to each person. It's your decision to figure out and communicate to those around you. Let's not judge others on the self-care tactics they choose.   If you need ideas on how to establish a Self-care plan, take a look at this link here.   Resources: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Rainn.org   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this week’s episode, Terri and Dom invite you to join them for a live recording they held with several amazing women at the Womxn of Color Conference at the University of San Francisco. Just in time for Valentine's Day, this episode focuses on dating and relationships. No matter your current relationship status, ask yourself the questions Dom asked the live audience: “What are three things you look for in a relationship?” and, “What is your idea of a perfect date?” Asking these questions can help us begin to assess our relationship needs. Through three different stories, Terri shares with us how she learned to assess and address her relationship needs. As Terri and Dom answer questions from the audience they finally answer the question that made you tune in… “How to play by the rules so you don’t get played.”   Quote of the Day: “We love because it’s the only true adventure”- Nikki Giovanni   Takeaways: Dom and Terri did not answer all of the questions so a future episode will be dedicated to answering all of your questions so make sure you send questions via email, herspacepodcast.com.   If you or someone you know is in (or has been in) an uncertain situation and would like some help, go to rainn.org for tons of resources.   Resources: rainn.org Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

On the first day of Black History Month, Dom asks us to examine what it's like to be Black in America. Terri and Dom dive into a discussion about colorism, good hair vs. bad hair, representation, how we talk, and lots of other factors that could tear down one’s self-esteem depending on how we perceive it. Dr. Dom drops some knowledge about the Clark doll study, the original experiment that illustrates how we've been conditioned to view ourselves as bad. Terri shouts out her husband’s books that showcase Black boys in a positive light. Initially, it seems as if they’re complaining or focusing on the negative things but just keep listening...They want all Black women to embrace #BlackGirlMagic, celebrate their uniqueness, and live out our ancestors wildest dreams!   Quote of the Day: “I am my ancestors wildest dreams” -BMike   Takeaways: In honor of Black History Month, Terri and Dom encourage you to learn about Black history, art and culture in a way you haven’t done before (books, museums, documentaries, etc) and then share it on H.E.R Space social media pages. Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today StudioBe "When I Grow Up I Want to Be” trilogy http://www.royallymelanated.com/product/super-series-3-in-one-book-pre-order/ Why Isn’t There a White History Month? http://mochagirlspitstop.com/white-history-month/ 29 Quotes About Black Women That’ll Make You Proud of Your Melanin http://mochagirlspitstop.com/proud-of-your-melanin/   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Terri is scrolling down her social media timeline and noticed everyone else’s life was lit while hers seemed stagnant. She felt overwhelmed instead of inspired. Dr. Dom reminds Terri of her #BlackGirlMagic but noted a bigger issue...what happens when we don’t reach certain adulting milestones? We tend to engage in negative social comparison (your day 1) based on the highlights of someone else’s life (their day 100). We let other people tell us what we should focus on even if it’s not bringing us fulfillment. Dr. Dom and Terri point out some of the milestones many of us are expected to achieve (the good, the hard, the annoying, the fun) and the strategies we can utilize to be comfortable in our own path. Find your fire and make your own life LIT! Quote of the Day: "Don’t set sail on someone else’s star." - African proverb  Takeaways: Your life is yours to create. It won’t look like anyone else’s and that’s okay. Appreciate the good things happening to you in the moment Revisit Your Why & Your Master Plan Don’t Despise the Days of Small Beginnings Realize Why Successful Black Women Should Be Celebrated Motivate Yourself & Create a Game Plan 4 Ways to Stay Motivated When Everyone Else’s Life is Lit   "Where you will sit when you are old shows where you stood in youth." — Yoruba proverb   Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal Mapping Workbook   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Terri shares with us a reader question about leaving a toxic relationship. We’ve all been there or know someone who’s been there. Terri talks about her healing from a toxic relationship- the ups and downs of it all, including having “friends”. What are your options? While there are many, Dom wants us to use the time to focus on healing ourselves- our in the meantime. What does time with ourselves really look like and is it even possible? Dom and Terri share with us some pretty cool ways to spend time with ourselves. They also gives us some important things to consider as we’re healing- with no deadline for completion. Our quote queen shares multiple nuggets that you’ll definitely want to share with your girls.   Quote of the Day: ‘...I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started and those that bring you back. But the  most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.’ - Carrie Bradshaw from Sex and the City   Takeaways: Ways to dive into yourself: Journal your thoughts and feelings Invest time in your hobbies Let yourself feel the feelings- but don’t act on them Spend time with friends and family Seek the support of a mental health professional   Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Terri and Dom continue the conversation started in last week’s episode this time focusing on goal setting and overcoming procrastination. We all have been guilty of procrastination and Terri lets us in on when she realized she had to stop procrastinating to help reach her goals. What’s keeping you from following through and being accountable? They ask us, “what does try really mean?” and how does that affect the accomplishment of our goals. Then Terri and Dom use real life and personal examples to walk us through using SMART goals to get things done. As always, they give us some other invaluable “Pro tips and Game Changers”. Be sure to log on to the website to check out the goal setting worksheet that will put you on the path to achieving your dreams.   Quote of the Day: “I used to want the words ‘She tried’ on my tombstone. Now I want ‘She did it’.” – Katherine Dunham   Takeaways: SMART GOALS Specific Measurable Achievable Results-focused Time-bound   Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal Mapping Workbook   Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In today’s episode Terri and Dom discuss time management and procrastination. They ask some tough questions like, “How do we allocate our time? Do we know the difference between urgent and important or reactive vs. proactive?” Dom shared with us how she managed her time when she was working a 9-5 and trying to complete her dissertation to graduate on time. Terri gives us a game changer in her time management.  Then they pull out their top 7 tips from a Business Insider Article that outlines how successful women manage their time. As they are sharing these tips they also give us real life examples that work for women like us.   Quote of the Day: "Most of us spend too much time on what is urgent, and not enough time on what is important." - Steven Covey   Takeaways: Make time for exercise Toughest tasks for early in the morning Take real breaks Take advantage of unexpected moments Plan ahead Don’t watch too much tv Multitask the right way Resources Mentioned: Therapy for Black Girls Psychology Today Goal mapping workbook Self reflection journal Article Pomodoro technique     Where to find us: Twitter: @HERspacepodcast Instagram: @herspacepodcast Facebook: @herspacepodcast Website: herspacepodcast.com Email: [email protected]  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Welcome! Start here to learn more about your hosts Terri and Dom, get more insight into why they created H.E.R Space, what scared them about the process, and why they pushed forward to release this podcast in the midst of fear and uncertainty.   See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.