How do you navigate your politics and your pleasure? How do you handle age gaps and power dynamics? Why are activists messy in the sheets whilst marching in the streets? In this episode Tiff sits and chats with this feminist powerhouse about dating in these feminist streets and how it is sometimes so wild. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out The Feminist Bar on I.G: thefeministbarpodcast Tina on I.G: thefeministcreative On twitter: thefeministbar Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Do you have to date people forever? Should we explore different regions in our s*x lives? What happens when your holiday-bae and your mama are in a whatsapp group together? In this episode Tiff sits down with her birthday mate and new homie Kui to chat about dating in Senegal, having your mom get a very sensual photo of you and what it means to heal when you are in these dating streets. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Kui on Instagram I.G: kuithefish Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to just be in the streets after a break up, wondering why you constantly get dumped and being with younger people. Also gay p*rn, again. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

What is dating like in San Fran for a new queer? What sort of things to race and culture bring up? Should you go on a weekend away to a clothing optional retreat as a first date? In this episode Tiff sits down with the beautiful Kebone to discuss dating in a new country and city, dating across race and culture and how you really need to just get out there and explore when you are coming into your sexuality. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Kebone on Instagram I.G: kemomoloko Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to just be in the streets after a break up, wondering why you constantly get dumped and being with younger people. Also gay p*rn, again. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Why don't men chat about sex? How does your childhood trauma and drama turn up in your dating life? Why are people still pulling catfish vibes in this day and age? Seriously? In this episode we have our first cis-heterosexual man! Rix the poet sits down with Tiff to discuss masculinity, co dependency, dating and finding someone who is super compatible and how at men really need to chat about the more intimate parts of being between the sheets. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Rix on Instagram I.G: rixpoet and afromenpod Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around being with a lovely man but wanting to open up your relationship to get more s*x, the trouble that looking straight brings to queer dating and wanting to go down on a partner. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

In this follow up episode to the one before (which you should check out) Tiff and Siphu continue to discuss their relationship and how Siphu has been in these streets. Thinking through whether having someone at home helps with dating, what it means to be attracted to other folx and how sometimes home can bring comfort. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu on Instagram I.G: ithongomusings Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

How do you navigate the messy of your relationship? How long does it take to figure out being non monogamous? What is it like when your partner activates their nigerian man? In this episode Tiff sits down with Siphu to discuss how their non-monogamy has gone over the years, how money can affect a relationship and why being with other people can be messy. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu on Instagram I.G: ithongomusings Give us a 5 star review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around being polyam and queer in a monogamous hetero-presenting relationship, having a low key crush on women and being straight presenting. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

What happens to friendship groups when there is a break up? Why do gender roles always make a cameo in relationships? What are the heartaches of co-parenting when a relationship ends? In this episode I sit down with the awesome Pet and chat through a time in their life where parenting was a real thing and how that ended. Sometimes adulting can be so real. Check out the Instagram: basicallylife_pod Check out Petronella's on I.G - petronellatracy Check out her Twitter: queenyellowjuice Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

Has sex positivity failed our sex? Is there pressure to be f**kable and sexy? Have you listened to the Awesome new podcast from Adventures? In this episode Tiff gets to sit down with my big sister, mentor and the baddest of bad bads Nana Darkoa who chats about figuring out their sex positivity, the pressure to have a W.A.P, what it means to actively engage in one’s own pleasure and their brilliant new podcast along with their ride or die Malaka. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Nana on Instagram I.G and adventures on I.G: adventuresfrom Check out Nana on Twitter: nas009 and adventures on Twitter: adventuresfrom Go to the Adventures website with a bunch of great stories www.adventuresfrom.com Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to be watch gay p*rn, another person in love with a bestie but this time dating someone else and a partner who has not had an orgasm. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Why don't men Google what 'feminist' means? What happens when end up recycling swipes on Tinder? Why do we love us a Ben 10? In this episode Relebone chats about their time with a younger snack, figuring out their heauxtation and the love of Jazmine Sullivan's Heaux Tales (such an awesome album). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Relebone's on I.G - @relebone Check out her Bookstagram - @blackfeatherhideout Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

What is a vulva worship party? How do you balance addiction in a new relationship? How do you find yourself after years of depression? 'My orgasms still feel great, the sun still feels great on my body and that's what matters.' In this episode Safia sits down with our host to unpack their love, life and how addiction and healing plays into it. Also the sun feels good on their skin. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Saf on I.G: thccc_saf69 Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your favourite platforms.

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around wanting to be spanked in bed, telling a new lover you are polyamorus and telling a friend they are queer (and into them) Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Does going to therapy mess with your relationship? Should your partner be your therapist? Is being married easy? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Anthony on I.G: oluoch Find Anthony on Twitter: oluoch Go and listen to The Padded Cell podcast - https://soundcloud.com/padded_cell Like and share, give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

Its another cross over episode where Tina from the Feminist Bar podcast speaks about chatting s*x with their partner, figuring out what their intimacy means to them and how they are unpacking their coitus. Good times! Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out The Feminist Bar on I.G: thefeministbarpodcast Tina on I.G: thefeministcreative On twitter: thefeministbar Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around a partner finding out they have an STI whilst in a monogamous relationship, coming out to your parents after coming back from abroad and trying to figure out how to make your partner c*m. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Submit your questions here - forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

What is sugar daddy energy? What is dating like in Mozambique? Why do people follow a social-sexual script? In this episode we get to chat with this beautiful being from Moz about dating, friendship and turning 30. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Eliana’s I.G: elinzualo Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms! (Also share)

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around co-parenting after a bad break up, dating men to make your parents happy and tackling depression and isolation. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

This is a special bonus episode where Astrid run's your host through a pre- tie negotiation as well as a post tie debrief. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Embodiment CT on I.G: embodiment_ct Astrid’s gram on I.G: desirelinesbondage Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms. Links: - The Embodiment CT website - https://www.desirelinesbondage.com/ - Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage - https://www.autostraddle.com/shibari-101-japanese-rope-bondage-350309/ - Shibari Is a Sex Practice That’s a Lot Like Bondage—but Better - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a32240707/shibari-definition/ - Speaking BDSM: A Glossary of Terms Used to Describe BDSM - https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/speaking-bdsm-glossary-terms-used-describe-bdsm/ (Everyday Health) - 1 in 5 of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too? - https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/kinky-sex-bdsm (Healthline) - Starter Guide to BDSM: Rules, Core Values, and Words You Should Know - https://greatist.com/connect/bdsm-for-beginners#rules (Greatist) - A Beginner’s Guide To BDSM, According To Sex Educators - https://www.bustle.com/wellness/81383-how-do-i-get-into-bdsm-a-guide-for-beginners-because-the-most-important-thing-you (Bustle) - How To Properly Choke Your Partner During Sex - Practical tips for mind-blowing breath play - https://medium.com/sexography/how-to-properly-choke-your-partner-during-sex-a730bf49a27e (Medium)

How is rope a form of couple communication? Does rope make Astrid h*rny? Why are old white guys always in the mix with everything? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Embodiment CT on I.G: embodiment_ct Astrid’s gram on I.G: desirelinesbondage Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms. Links: - The Embodiment CT website - https://www.desirelinesbondage.com/ - Shibari 101: Let’s Talk About Japanese Rope Bondage - https://www.autostraddle.com/shibari-101-japanese-rope-bondage-350309/ - Shibari Is a Sex Practice That’s a Lot Like Bondage—but Better - https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/a32240707/shibari-definition/ - Speaking BDSM: A Glossary of Terms Used to Describe BDSM - https://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/speaking-bdsm-glossary-terms-used-describe-bdsm/ (Everyday Health) - 1 in 5 of Your Friends Is Getting Kinky — Should You Be Too? - https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/kinky-sex-bdsm (Healthline) - Starter Guide to BDSM: Rules, Core Values, and Words You Should Know - https://greatist.com/connect/bdsm-for-beginners#rules (Greatist) - A Beginner’s Guide To BDSM, According To Sex Educators - https://www.bustle.com/wellness/81383-how-do-i-get-into-bdsm-a-guide-for-beginners-because-the-most-important-thing-you (Bustle) - How To Properly Choke Your Partner During Sex - Practical tips for mind-blowing breath play - https://medium.com/sexography/how-to-properly-choke-your-partner-during-sex-a730bf49a27e (Medium)

Why are friendships so important? How do you navigate casual dating after years of being in serious relationships? What is a sex coach? In this episode we get to sit with a fave Kgothatso, who is my sweety baby and a whole sex- positive titan to speak about their love, sex and work. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Kgothatso’s sex coaching on I.G: yourpleasureadvocate Kgothatso on I.G: lyricnotic Give us a 5 star review, and subscribe on all your fave platforms! Links: - Why we need more platonic intimacy in our lives - Scary Mommy - https://www.scarymommy.com/platonic-intimacy-beyond-friendship/ - 18 Stories of Platonic Intimacy to Warm Your Heart - https://greatist.com/connect/examples-of-platonic-intimacy - What Does A Queerplatonic Relationship Look Like? - https://divethru.com/what-does-a-queerplatonic-relationship-look-like/ - Queerplatonic Relationships - https://lgbtqia.fandom.com/wiki/Queerplatonic_relationship

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sorting out issues when in a long distance relationship, trying out new things in bed without being pushy and dating a person who wants to also explore with men. Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously. 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

How does kink bring about community? How do you go from being fucky to fucking right? And is it OK to randomly take off your top in the middle of a recording session? In this episode I get to sit down with two faves to find out all about their journeys to be the s*x positive bad bads that they are, from navigating intimacy at a young age Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Chido's gram on I.G etanapatriot Check out Mamello's gram on I.G tswana_hippie Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

How do you write about s*x and sexuality? What is it like to date a white person? How do you handle group s*x? How should you act in s*x clubs? Are exes sometimes the absolute ghetto? (Yes.) We sat around and chatted about all things writing, race, books and relationships. An online conversation between Kim W., Efemia, Nakhane, Roche and your host Tiff around the themes in the book, their experiences with lovin', livin' and sexin' and also being a writer around sex. TW: Mention of emotional abuse. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Also check out: Efemia: @efemiachristiana Kim: @blazingnonbinary Nakhane: @nakhaneofficial Roche: @rochekester Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms! Links: - Want your questions about life answered? Submit your questions for HOLAA in a Hot Spot here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 - Purchase and review the book, Touch: Sex, Sexuality and Sensuality https://linktr.ee/TheTouchExperience - Download the free Touch Manual - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1S2Py-f_ccm1XkdYQcGNnhk-NCNW5r80p/view?usp=drivesdk

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around sending nudes in a new , figuring out where your partner learned that thing they did in bed and having a low s*x drive. Rules of the game: You can submit your questions anonymously Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Is yoni steaming just squatting over hot herbs? How do you heal after an abusive relationship? What is self love coaching and does it involve masturbation? Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Lwazi's gram on I.G itsabameslife Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Do I have a partner? How did we get together? Have I made her better? (Yes, yes I have) This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex love and living and I am your host Tiff Mugo bringing you a random garden chat, with my partner of 12 years. In this episode Tiff sits down with her boo thing and they have a chat. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Siphu's gram on I.G ithongomusings Dua Kilifi Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/duakilifi/ Free Touch Manual - https://drive.google.com/file/d/1S2Py-f_ccm1XkdYQcGNnhk-NCNW5r80p/view For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide / When the Rainbow Is Enuf - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/For_Colored_Girls_Who_Have_Considered_Suicide_/_When_the_Rainbow_Is_Enuf For Colored Girls Who Have Considered Suicide / When the Rainbow Is Enuf (Book) - https://www.amazon.com/Colored-Girls-Considered-Suicide-Rainbow/dp/0684843269 The Wildness with Tiff & Manda - http://smarturl.it/rd3lo3 Want your questions about life answered? Submit your questions for HOLAA in a Hot Spot here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

In this edition of HOLAA in a Hot Spot Tiff answers questions around touching yourself, hitting on women and coitus with a close friend. (and we shout out Thando’s Youtube) Rules of the game: 1. You can submit your questions anonymously 2. Just tell us where you are from so Tiff can give advice with context and focus. Links: Azania Realness YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/c/ThandoHlophe Submit your questions here - https://forms.gle/Jq2xEQM1EX9CoWng9 Follow the Basically Life Instagram on basicallylife_pod Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

How does long distance help your relationship? Why do folx really not understand the B in LGBTIQ? Why is it sometimes so hard to date men? In this episode I get to sit down with my amazing homie Ophelia and chat about dating, bisexuality and the wildness that is dealing with multiple genders. Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Ophelia's gram on I.G kemigisha Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms.

Is XY just a state of mind? What is classified as compulsory heteroexuality and why do we so often fall into its clutches? Do all transbodies somehow fall into the stigma of heteronormative society or does it change when you transition? This episode has the awesome awesome couple Lwazi (my brilliant producer for season 2) and Khanyi. the bae extraordinaire! Check out the Instagram: I.G basicallylife_pod Check out Lwazi's gram on I.G abuti.homebody Like, review and subscribe on all your fave platforms!

Last episode of season 1 fam! In this one we sit down with the incredible mind that is Siya Khumalo and answer 'what happens when you crash a dinner party and start chatting about sex? How do you marry the idea of Jesus dying for your sins and you being free in your sexuality? Have You Read You need to be gay to know God? (seriously, read it). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Siya' s gram on @siyathewriter #BasicallyQueer

How do friends help you plan a marriage proposal? Can you be masculine and wear lingerie and send nudes? Can you share your sexual experiences with another person with your partner? On this episode we sit down with long term loves Thatso and Ndumi to discuss all things relationshipping. These two have grown so much. (Also the sound quality is wild cause this was at a dinner party. Love us). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Ndumi and Kgothatso's grams on @ndumi_17 and @Lyricnotic #BasicallyQueer

What’s it like dating a violist? Why aren't I trying to f**k Efemia? Why was Efemia celibate for a year? Its another great episode with this writer and constant collaborator of mine (whose name I seriously said wrong for years. Still shook). Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Efemia' s gram on @efemiachristiana #BasicallyQueer

How is Kaz navigating her throuple? How do you find community in threesomes? What does a cross over collaboration look like? This is a special episode of Basically Life, a cross collaboration with The Spread Podcast, Africa’s biggest sex positive podcast. @karenkazlucas is greatness. The Spread Podcast: @TheSpreadPod Basically Life: @BasicallyLife_Pod

Why would you not want to be medicated? Can rope help with anxiety? Can you eat wings whilst recording a podcast? This episode has the awesome Thabile who is dropping wisdom on abuse, social currency, and dealing with chronic mental health issues. Also she brought so many snacks. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Thabile's gram on @shale_thabile #BasicallyQueer

Do couple friends rock? Do Pandemics stress us? How do you go from a kiss and run to actually being together? Also do you need a leather hoody to be a smoldering lesbian? These two will facilitate ANYTHING including couple drama. They are amazing. You never have to leave yourself at the door, whatever you come with... let's do it. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod *Note: Not our best quality*

Why do the gays not know queer women culture? What is Nandos full chicken? Does penetration mean power? This episode has the awesome Zante, a premium gay and writer. And long term homie. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Zanta's gram on @zanta_nk #BasicallyQueer

How do travel and trauma affect the talking stage? Can becoming celibate fix your dating life? you How the HELL have I been saying Efemia’s name wrong for nearly a decade? Also Efemia went on a reality dating show! Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Efemia' s gram on @efemiachristiana #BasicallyQueer

How does depressive bipolar affect sex? Is kink privileged? Why is mental health scarier to show your friends than lovers? This episode has the awesome Thabile who is dropping wisdom on abuse, social currency, and dealing with chronic mental health issues. Also she brought so many snacks. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Thabile's gram on @shale_thabile #BasicallyQueer

How do you make your pussy political? Why is dating white men such a damn stress sometimes? Can you sync your periods after not seeing each other for two years? Can you have wine with your demons? This episode has Uvania, speaking mental health, dating outside ones race and country and being a general super star. #BasicallyQueer

What is being an emotional tissue? Why does it take a village to raise and child and what happens when part of your village passes? Also, what the damn hell is an alpha femme? This episode has the awesome Nyami a digital entrepreneur, business owner and consultant and all round cool cat. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Nyami's gram on @nyaminess #BasicallyQueer

Why are heterosexual folx boring? Should straight men clap them cheeks? Do writers have demons? (duh of course they do) This episode has the awesome Zante, a premium gay and writer. And long term homie. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Zanta's gram on @zanta_nk #BasicallyQueer

What are fun names for sex toys? How do you handle being non monogamous? What is a 'monopoly'? Why is gender representation and sex so tricky? This episode has the awesome Anzio Jacobs co- founder and facilitator at Scope Facilitation, writer and activist. And a flame in five inch heels. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Anzio's gram on @imjoesir #BasicallyQueer

What is free bleeding? How does interactive s*x poetry work? Have you read they called me queer? This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex, love and living. This episode has the awesome Kim Windvogel, curator of The Called Me Queer, founder of Femme Projects and all round bad ass. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Kim's gram on @blazingnonbinary #BasicallyQueer

Why is relationshipping a scam? What makes you stop being a baby dyke? Should you ever delete a number? This is Basically...Life: looking at queer sex, love and living. This episode has the awesome Mbali Chosen Flower, a multi faceted artist and creator who runs, the media consultancy, Chosen Flower Collections. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Mbali's gram on @chosen.collections #BasicallyQueer

HOLAAfrica has a new podcast for ya! It is weird it. It is wild. It is queer. This podcast is all about the ways in which queers are livin', lovin, and f**kin' hosted by Tiff Mugo, curator of HOLAAfrica. Every episode Tiff sits with some friends and chosen fam to chat about queer things. Check out the podcast on instagram @basicallylife_pod

How easy is it for queer folks to get married in South Africa? Why is mental health super important to talk about in LGBTIQ+ spaces? What happens when your husband forgets to book a honeymoon? This episode has the awesome Anthony who is a podcast host and human rights consultant, also a jet setting husband. Check out the Instagram: @basicallylife_pod Check out Anthony's gram on @oluoch #BasicallyQueer