In this excerpt, from one of our monthly VIP Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, Talent Agent Marion Campbell or Buchwald LA cuts straight to what young actors need to hear: what does it take to not just attract the right agent, but to help them help you? Who you are "has to be reflected on your headshot, and that has to be reflected in your demo tape... whatever it is that you're selling. So I get frustrated when an actor doesn't know what they are... I'm not going to be able to help them." If you're on the hunt for an agent, or looking for better representation, this is a MUST-LISTEN episode.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fine line between being respectful of others while also asserting one's own will and personality. We talk about it amidst the backdrop of being a guest star on a TV show, but it applies to any situation in life: figure out the dynamics of the room, work together with others to add value, but don't diminish yourself in the process.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, sometimes, just being is enough. Instead of worrying, and pushing, trying to convince everyone that we are one way or another (both as a character and in life), we can just live with the thought that we are enough. And many times, to our pleasant surprise, that ends up being way more than enough.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, our monthly VIP, Xavier Dean, shares some very specific branding and marketing knowledge that he used to go from homeless to owning a 7-figure real estate company, a branding company, and boasting an Instagram platform with 1.3M followers. He has taken what he learned in business and applied it to his newfound acting career which has far exceeded my expectations from when I met him. But underneath all of the mechanics is a simple philosophy he believes, exemplified through this quote, "Well, before we just help you create a brand, you need to tell us, how does the world perceive you? Because we can work around the brand on how you think the world perceives you but you need to go out there and ask random people, 'When you think about me, what're the first few things you think of?' Because that is ultimately your story, and that's how you start working your brand."Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, our monthly VIP, Buchwald Talent Agent Marion Campbell and I, talk about the art of the self-tape. She said some clients have nailed it. And then there are some clients that just can't figure it out. And they don't know how to do it correctly. Rather than describe it, I'll leave you this quote from Marion which sums up the kind of gold this episode is full of, "so many clients have said to me over and over again, I make all these self tapes and then I don't hear anything back and they go into the either. And, yeah, I think that a lot of that is happening. But I think a lot of the tapes go into the ether because the casting director is looking at them and they're like, 'I just can't show this to my producers.' And then they delete it and they're on to the next."Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, while we all (hopefully) aim to do our best work all the time, sometimes just showing up is your best that day. If we allow ourselves to skip training sessions, or anything in our life that we've prioritized, it can be a slippery slope. Sometimes just the act of not being completely absent is enough to get you in motion to the point where, eventually, inspiration kicks in. And if it doesn't, at least that day wasn't a total deficit. It may not have been glorious, but you can still chalk it up as a day that you won the battle of perseverance, and build on it the next day. If you don't show up for the audition, you're never going to get the gig.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss those occasional walls that you hit in life where you feel tired and exhausted with everything. Accepting those dips for what they are isn’t necessarily a bad thing. When former 10,000 NOs guest, Navy SEAL Jason Redman, took the time to publicly share about the need for people to ask for help instead of always grinning and bearing it, it was a reminder to the rest of us that we don't have to struggle alone on our journey. Asking for guidance, mentorship and help is not weakness, it is strength and it's a very smart move. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the idea of being present and how there is simply nowhere else to be. The past is gone; the future is our imagination; the only thing we have is right now. Many of us enjoy activities like surfing or riding rollercoasters, not realizing that the real thrill is that they force us to be present. So it’s in those moments that we are most fully alive. For many actors, on some subconscious level, that might be the reason we've chosen this career - as painful as it can sometimes be, it inherently forces us to be present.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the idea of taking matters into your own hands and giving yourself the right energy to build your own career. We realize that it's not about waiting for approval or following the crowd – you can create opportunities of your own and be in control of your destiny. For example, since joining the group, Insider’s member Bryce has created a short film that earned him his SAG card; an amazing achievement and an experience that now makes him a resource to other upcoming actors. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our monthly VIP Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, with Best-selling Author/Speaker/Mountaineer Alison Levine, Alison shares with us that climbing Mount Everest includes a lot of climbing down Mount Everest. In order for climbers to get used to the altitude to which they'll be ascending, they take several trips to camps at various heights on the mountain. But between each night at the higher camps, they have to go back down to basecamp (which took 10 days to hike to in the first place). The parallels between climbing Everest and so many feats that we mere mortals are attempting to "climb" are endless. Alison explains that progress does not always happen in one direction. Those periods where you think you're back-tracking are actually just times when you're replenishing and recovering and getting ready to reach higher heights.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDERALISON LEVINE OFFICIAL WEBSITE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the value of speaking your ideas out loud so that others can build upon them with you and help you create something even better. Despite most people's fears that their ideas are going to be stolen and they're going to be cut out of the mix, the truth is that the idea is nothing without great execution. The saddest thing is to speak to someone who has been holding on to a "great idea" for years, waiting for the perfect time to release it to the world only to find that someone else beat them to it. You've got to risk failure if you want any chance at success.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we talk about that thing that hangs most people up: procrastination. Rather than talking about doing something, just do it and you'll find that anxiety goes down and, magically, the thing that you're doing becomes more enjoyable. This discussion is ultimately about reminding yourself that activities you think of as obligations are actually gifts that can bring you joy once you get into motion. And the reward is that once you do something enough, and make it a lasting habit, it eventually just becomes a part of you.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we continue the eternal debate of how much to expose on social media. Questions arise about how much vulnerability is the right amount and how many of our wins can we appropriately share without alienating our audience as a braggart. What we come to, among other things, is that sharing some of our own weaknesses and inconsistencies (which we all have... yes, even you) helps others to get to know us and hop on to our journey as we take it. While you likely don't want to expose your deepest, darkest fears to strangers, ultimately it's up to each one of us to decide how to tell our story and where and when to pull back. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss how to approach big decisions in life that will have a larger impact on your career than you may realize when you first set out to chase your dream job. Primarily, we discuss logistics. For actors, this list includes decisions as seemingly simple as which city, how big of a market, which teacher to seek out to begin your training. While this may sound obvious to those of you in more traditional paths, for young people in a creative field, their passion can blind them from addressing the very big elephant in the room: how to sustain one's self through the lean years in a very fickle and competitive industry.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKSUBSCRIBE TO OUR (WEEKLY) NEWSLETTERFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALFIND OUT HOW YOU CAN BE A 10,000 NOs INSIDER Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that our biggest competition is not those that we are "up against". Whether you're an actor or in any other field, the most important competition you face is within yourself. Are you doing the things that need to be done to make you the best version of yourself? That's it. Don't concern yourself too much with those around you, let them fight their battles while you fight yours.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that it's so easy to get knocked off course by haters and slingers of cyber mud who make you feel self-conscious about whatever path you're on. But the fact is that, particularly if you're in a public position, someone is likely saying less than charitable things about you behind your back right now. Rather than let their opinion of you effect your actions, it's wiser to accept that the smack-talk exists but choose not to chase a stranger's opinion of you. If you feel good about what you're doing, and your trusted inner circle of friends who have your best interests at heart agree that you're on the right path, that's all you need.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we highlight one of our VIPs, Shane Savage, an actor, coach, producer, director and all-around creative dynamo in Vancouver, BC. Shane discusses the importance of discipline and the specifics of designing your life, and each day, to achieve your goals rather than just talking about a wish-list of where you'd like to be without anchoring it to tangible habits that will actually make it happen.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS SHANE'S LINKS:Follow Shane on InstagramShane's IMDb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, despite the popular opinion that obsessing is a terrible thing, it can also be used for good. As long as the obsession is not tied to results that are out of our control, it can be a way to constantly hone our craft and continue to progress. The trick is to use it to bring more joy rather than allowing it to trap us within a mindset where everything we value as "good" is "out there somewhere".Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, even though you may have made a big decision to "follow your passion", things will not be smooth right away. If you fail to give yourself enough time for the new dream/goal to incubate, you will kill your dream before it gets a chance to lift off the ground.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, while everyone loves to talk about the end results (red carpets, accolades, etc) you can only reach those milestones if you create boundaries for yourself long before anyone else can fathom the dream within your head as being a reality. People that surround you, even ones that love you, will usually not see the visions you hold for yourself in your heart until you will them into existence... which is a lot easier said than done. This discussion is a starting point.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, I addressed one of the young actors who was in a groove, explaining that when you are in a groove, you don't need a ton of instruction... instinct carries the day and almost anything you do will turn to gold. But when you hit those inevitable walls that we all hit, you need to do what our tech advisor on Wind River, a war vet, told me he did when he was fired upon and in jeopardy of being killed: fall back on your training. That requires training even when it's not the thing you want to do. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the elusive nature of success in a field like acting along with the structure we can impose on our career through discipline. We also delve into the myth of certainty and acceptance of what IS.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the yin and yang of both progress and our strategies of approach. Different people have different preferences and rhythms and what may work for your friend may not work for you.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, regardless of what is going on around us, we can choose to always be learning. Whether it is finding a new book to read, song to listen to, or film to watch, our search for knowledge is never-ending, even if it means rereading a book we read twenty years ago and seeing how it hits us differently.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gratitude for those who have given their lives for our freedom on this Memorial Day episode, led to the question of what we are giving of ourselves on a daily basis. Are you doing more than you're being paid to do? Needing something isn't enough to get it. If we were farming, we'd need to plant a seed, give it water and sunlight consistently and wait for a period of time before we see any harvest. The same rules apply for investing in a relationship or our career. Former guest, and Boston College Women's Lacrosse Head Coach Acacia Walker, who's team just played for yet another NCAA Championship yesterday, lends her wisdom to the subject with a quote from our 2018 conversation with her.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you feeling more swamped than groovy? Do you ever feel like the tail is wagging the dog (or like you're a dog chasing your tail... one of those dog metaphors)? With a lot on my plate, I've been feeling that way. With plans for new ways to serve people, especially young actors, with all of the existing 10,000 NOs content, I've decided to scale back on the podcast for the Summer by pausing the new releases of our long-form Friday interviews for a bit. In today's episode, I talk about sacrificing going wide in order to go deep. Hear how you can be better at fewer things rather than feeling like you're underperforming in a bunch of different areas.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Elisa Donovan has been a part of the pop culture zeitgeist for over two decades, starting with her work in the film Clueless, following that up with Beverly Hills, 90210 and the TV adaptation of Clueless, Sabrina the Teenage Witch... the list goes on. And while she's done that and so much more as an actor, along the way she realized that her real passion has lied in finding her voice through writing, including her soon-to-be-released book, Wake Me When You Leave. We get into a lot here, including why she serves on the board of The Collaborative for The Alliance for Eating Disorders, listening to your own voice in terms of pursuing passion projects and the overall concept of being comfortable with discomfort and realizing that struggle is not something we need to avoid, but actually it's the path to getting closer to our humanity.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:WAKE ME WHEN YOU LEAVE (NEW BOOK)IMDB (FILM/TV CREDITS)TWITTER (@REDDONOVAN)INSTAGRAM (@REDDONOVAN)WIKIPEDIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, despite most people's appetite for comfort and ease, many of the people we look up to in society are people with jobs or callings that require them to deal with conflict. It's not that these VIPs have less conflict than the rest of us, it's that they've learned how to deal with it better than most. And, for the artists among you, how many compelling characters have you been asked to play that are not in the middle of some upheaval or extreme challenge? While it may require effort, conflict is not the enemy.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Patrick J. Adams hit it big with his role as dropout turned unlicensed lawyer Mike Ross in USA Network's TV series Suits, garnering a nomination for Outstanding Performance by a Male Actor in a Drama Series at the 18th Screen Actors Guild Awards. Despite his thrust into fame in his late 20's, he recounts the lean years and the hard knocks that preceded Suits vividly in this overtly honest conversation. He and Matt talk about drive, ambition and the isolation success can bring when one holds on too tight to results and pins their identity on their professional profile. A father and husband now, Adams has learned to loosen his grip with equally amazing results, including his recent stint as iconic astronaut John Glenn on All the Right Stuff from National Geographic and Disney +.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:IMDB (FILM/TV CREDITS)TWITTER (@HALFADAMS)INSTAGRAM (@HALFADAMS)WIKIPEDIA  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss how everything from macro life decisions to acting in a scene, writing, filmmaking all require extreme presence. If we focus too much on what's coming down the pipeline we may very well miss out on the gold of the present moment. Actors, at this time of year, know this better than anyone: the sting of a pilot season that yields no fruit can cause one to think they're back to square one. But the truth is, at least in my career, most of the biggest breaks never come at the times of year when you expect them.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You probably know Steve as Bobby 'Baccala' Baccalieri from the Sopranos, or maybe you know him from his current role on Blue Bloods, but he is so much more than just an actor. Born and raised in a low-income household in Brooklyn, he eventually played collegiate basketball and graduated from Brooklyn College. He headed to Vegas and began working in night clubs where he met a multitude of comics and celebrities and was eventually bitten by the acting bug himself, much later than most. What you'll hear throughout our conversation is the extreme hustle and lack of ego that accompanied Steve's very quick rise to fame on The Sopranos. Even while remaining gainfully employed as an actor, he has always kept a side hustle, producing, pitching and creating shows as well as writing a best-selling books and co-hosting one of the most successful podcasts around, Talking Sopranos. His longtime marriage and successful raising of his daughters still remains his most proud accomplishment.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:IMDB (FILM/TV CREDITS)WIKIPEDIAINSTAGRAM (@STEVESCHIRRIPAOFFICIAL)TWITTER (@STEVENSCHIRRIPA)TALKING SOPRANOS PODCAST - YOUTUBESTEVE SCHIRRIPA BOOKS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this excerpt, from one of our weekly Live Zoom calls with the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community, we discuss the fact that, despite things not happening on your timeline, it is not helpful or smart to define ourselves by our worst dysfunction as many people do. That will only encourage people to place us into the smallest box in which they can put us while also convincing us that, "if it hasn't happened for us yet, it's never going to happen." This attitude is not only self-defeating, but can also prevent us from seeing that many times the slowness that we're experiencing is because we're being forced to learn something else that's actually going to serve us more than we ever could have planned.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOK10,000 NOs INSIDERSJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Despite being born with a rare form of dwarfism, Christophe Zajack-Denek has become an avid surfer, played drums in a rock band across the US and Europe touring with artists like Iggy Pop and pursued a career in Hollywood. He is also making an impact on the lives of little people by bringing guests to his podcast, I'm Kind of a Big Deal to de-stigmatize the experience that little people face. While his stature may be small, his attitude and journey are HUGELY inspiring.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, CLICK HERE to learn how you can make this experience 3D by joining our 10,000 NOs Insiders Community: access to a members-only Facebook group, intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends and more.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:OFFICIAL WEBSITEI'M KIND OF A BIG DEAL PODCASTARTICLE ON DWARFISM BY CHRISTOPHEINSTAGRAM (@CHRISTOPHEZD)TWITTER (@CHRISTOPHEZD) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

They say the difference between an amateur and a pro is that a pro shows up to do their job even when they don't want to do it. Today's episode is all about that: show up, one way or another, just put one foot in front of the other and get it done. Even when it's not pretty.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Top Self-Defense expert Tony Blauer returns to 10,000 NOs dispensing his hard-earned wisdom about applying fear management to much more than physical safety. With real-world applications, particularly after the challenges we all faced in 2020, we talk about managing fear in business, relationships and much, much more. Spending a little time listening to Tony can add more than a little time to your life.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:BLAUER SPEAR SYSTEM WEBSITEMAKING FRIENDS WITH FEAR (FREE GUIDE)GARAGE GYM SELF-DEFENSE (ONLINE TRAINING WITH TONY)KNOW FEAR PODCAST Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I heard this phrase in an interview on the Tim Ferriss Show and it made me think of the applications to anyone pursuing anything: we can talk about something 'til we are blue in the face, but it is only when we take action that we become something, or someone, different. Talking logistics implies that you know how to do something because you have actually done it yourself. Today's riff is a call to action for anyone who has been sitting on their couch dreaming of doing something new, but not matching their dream with the action required to make it a reality.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS RELATED LINK:THE TIM FERRISS SHOW: (#506) THE EPISODE OF EVERYTHING: BALAJI Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

One of Yahoo’s “Top Influencers to Watch and Follow in 2020,” Ali Levine used to say that “confidence is your best accessory,” but it has taken on new meaning for her after a dark bout with postpartum depression, the literal and figurative stripping of her old ways while shooting Bravo's hit reality show Stripped, and the trials and tribulations of motherhood. We cover a lot of ground: learning about business at a young age by tagging along with her Dad, feeling like an outsider in high school, starting at the bottom in new professions several times, screwing up coffee orders for Oliver Stone (she not only lived to tell about it, but earned Stone's blessing and received his help in entering the world of costuming) and finding your tribe by leaning into your flaws. Full of humility and heart, Ali drops nuggets of wisdom on a wide range of topics with as much sincerity as she had when she hosted me on her top-rated podcast, “Everything with Ali Levine”.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:ALI'S OFFICIAL WEBSITEEVERYTHING WITH ALI LEVINE (PODCAST)@ALILEVINEDESIGN ON INSTAGRAMALI'S BLOG (TOP 40 LA FASHION BLOG)   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Recently, we had former upper management from Google, Jennifer Murphy, as our VIP guest for the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community. Among many takeaways for our members, she told a story from early in her career, when she was first learning about sales. She was admittedly terrible (don't worry, she went on to become a superstar) but she didn't realize until her supervisor asked one simple question. After hearing Jen explain everything she was doing to make the sale (it was a lot), he simply questioned, "Are you asking for the order?" As seemingly obvious as that sounds, she realized that she was not. So with that one suggestion, she began asking potential customers directly for their business and the results changed the trajectory of her professional life and drastically increased the quality of her personal life.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jenny Mollen is still an actor. But over the course of experiencing her 10,000 NOs she pivoted to also become a two-time New York Times Bestselling Author with another book on the way. One of her books is being turned into a film by Warner Brothers with Anne Hathaway attached to star. She's also really funny and irreverent. Her marriage to actor Jason Biggs causes uproarious laughter in cyberspace on a daily basis as the couple playfully jabs at one another relentlessly on Instagram and Twitter. If you want to laugh, and you're not afraid of a little "adult" language while learning about dealing with the hard knocks of Hollywood and the literary world, this episode is for you.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:INSTAGRAM (@JENNYMOLLEN)TWITTER (@JENNYANDTEETS)IMDB FILM/TV CREDITSWIKIPEDIA  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Yes, you need the guidance of mentors and people that have been where you would like to go. But there is also a piece that too many people forget: relying on their own instincts. Whether it's picking winners for a March Madness pool, navigating a career, deciding the optimal time to send out a weekly newsletter or releasing a major Hollywood film, nobody has a crystal ball. There are trends and statistics, and ways to increase your chances of success, but ultimately the possibilities of your future are wide open and based upon your choices.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Chris Carminucci currently serves as a scout for Major League Baseball's Arizona Diamondbacks. Globally renowned for finding diamonds in the rough, Chris has signed several obscure players who have thrived in the Majors, including standout David Peralta. He also went to my high school and had my Mom as a teacher but, despite her love for him, he describes his younger self as “a trouble maker”. Since leaving John Jay he has certainly lived his dreams, and his life story plays more like a Hollywood screenplay. Not only did he get paid to play baseball himself, but he has coached, managed, worn mascot-suits and written a book, among other things. Carminucci has done it all, including coaching and co-owning a team with Bill Murray, Lorne Michaels and Jimmy Fallon, yet somehow retained his humble blue-collar work ethic. Whether you're a baseball fan or not, this one is a must-listen. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:CARMINUCCI SPORTS GROUPSIGN ME: THE UNDRAFTED BASEBALL PLAYER'S GUIDE TO THE INDEPENDENT LEAGUES (BOOK) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you don't work on your perception of the world when you're in a "bad" place, it won't much matter when you're in a "good" place. It's easy to get caught up in thinking, "I'll be happier when..." I win the medal/get the job/break the record, etc etc. But is that true? Maybe for a short period of time, but eventually the buzz wears off and you're back with yourself again. Knowing this will release the day after the City on a Hill Season Two Premiere, and three days after having its star, Kevin Bacon, on the podcast, I'm rhetorically asking, "So they're out. Now what?" My mood and happiness will only be as good as my outlook, and unrelated to accomplishments or release dates.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today's guest has been a fixture in our cultural fabric since 1984, when he danced his way into our hearts with Footloose. Since then, he has become known for stretching himself into such varied characters, both comedic and dramatic, in so many films, including an astounding number of them with the elite of the elite in terms of actors and directors, that he inspired a board game called "Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon". Using his fame to raise money for, and shine light on, issues that are near and dear to him, Bacon has not allowed it to interfere with his more than three decades-long marriage to actor Kyra Sedgwick and the raising of their children. He also has a deep love for music and joined forces with his musician brother in the mid-90's to form The Bacon Brothers. In this very candid, down-to-earth conversation, we get into all the above and more, as well as the virtues of hard work, longevity, and the surprising lack of certainty that fame and fortune bring to anyone who has committed to a life as an actor.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:IMDB FILM/TV CREDITSINSTAGRAM (@KEVINBACON)TWITTER (@KEVINBACON)SIXDEGREES.ORG    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's easy to get caught up in accomplishments and accolades, particularly in this day and age when everyone else's highlight reel (social media feed) is right in your face. But what do you do when the joy of accomplishing is overshadowed by the feeling of being a hamster on a wheel? As Anthony Hopkins once told Friday's guest, actor Jake Weber, sometimes "the moment of Nirvana is when you're doing the opposite of concentrating."Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jake Weber has worked with everyone from Sir Anthony Hopkins to Harvey Keitel to Robert Duvall and Brad Pitt so his many stories and acting takeaways from his journey are like a Master Class. I've been a fan of his work, from afar, for two decades and we finally got the chance to sit down and talk. We riff about NOs, acting, advice from the aforementioned greats (as well as Paul Newman and Gene Hackman), challenges of the industry, suicide, life, parenting... we cover a lot of ground in this very raw conversation that will prove to be extremely valuable for actors, and entertaining (and educational) for fans of TV, film and stage.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:OFFICIAL WEBSITEIMDB FILM/TV CREDITSWIKIPEDIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's easy to get sidetracked by seeing someone else, even someone you wildly respect, move more quickly than you. You can start to adopt their way of thinking and operating but, while that can be a good thing, it's important to give yourself enough space to really ask yourself what it is that you want. What are your highest priorities? What relationships do you want to nurture and what activities do you want to be engaged in? As always, I'm asking myself the same questions and I'm not always satisfied with my answers... but the goal is to keep it front of mind and keep striving to be better at it and more true to myself and my personal needs.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Actor Sebastian Roche has worked with the likes of Al Pacino, Julie Taymor, Heath Ledger and Jude Law. He has done it all, from Broadway, Off-Broadway and London's West End to television and film. Best known for his roles on The Man in the High Castle, The Young Pope, The Originals, Supernatural and The Vampire Diaries, his adventurous childhood exposed him to a life on the road when his father packed the family up, left his corporate job and took them around the world on a boat. Speaking five languages and full of resilience, Roche shares the pain of near misses and the mindset that has allowed him to not just survive, but thrive in one of the most difficult career paths one could choose. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:IMDB FILM & TV CREDITSWIKIPEDIATWITTER (@SEBROCHE)INSTAGRAM (@SEBASTIANROCHE) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I know a lot of people listening to this podcast are achievers with their eyes on the prize. And I also know that I spend a lot of time talking about how to chase down goals more efficiently while keeping our souls intact, but... Life is what's happening right around you while you're busy making plans. If you don't take a pause to acknowledge it, and be grateful for it, it's going to slip by while you remain too focused on your future.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I was jealous of Alyshia Ochse. I found out there was a podcast called That One Audition, searched for it and found the cover to reveal that it's creator and host was beautiful seemingly had her s#%! together regarding the branding. I looked at her list of guests and saw many familiar faces, stirring more jealousy. I listened to a solo episode titled "Wednesday Wisdom" and found her advice to be sound for young actors. I looked her up and realized that she has worked opposite some greats like Matthew McConaughey and Laurence Fishburne. Then I sat down to be on her show and all the jealousy went away because I realized she was on the same mission as me: to let actors know that they are not alone in their struggles, they are enough and they need to embrace their flaws if they have any hope of advancing in this crazy industry. Her heart is in the right place and so it is my honor to bring her to 10,000 NOs to shed a female perspective on the themes I've been ranting about since 2017.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:OFFICIAL WEBSITEIMDB FILM/TV CREDITSINSTAGRAM (@ALYSHIAOCHSE)THAT ONE AUDITION ON APPLE PODCASTS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you spending too much time going back and forth between tasks only to end up feeling like you came short with all of them? Try this technique on for size: chunking. I may not love the name of it, but I first heard it from Tony Robbins and have since been reminded of it by most of the people that get me tired just looking at all the activities they do and products they produce. It calls for focus and discipline, but it can 10X your productivity.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Actor Alvina August was born and raised in Zimbabwe. A strained relationship with her father led her and her mother to Canada prior to her attending University, on a path to being a doctor. But as life as a doctor came closer to being a reality, something within her balked. A powerful singer, her friend submitted a tape to Canadian Idol and she was one of five Canadians selected to audition. That went no further, but the realization that a life in the Arts was a possibility planted the seeds for what has eventually followed: she is a regular fixture on television who can currently be seen on NBC's Zoey's Extraordinary Playlist, exhibiting the pipes that got her there. Being mixed race, she weighs in on the challenges of differing skin color and moving halfway across the world only to realize that her biggest journey is the one to discover herself.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:IMDb FILM/TV CREDITSALVINA AUGUST YOUTUBE CHANNELINSTAGRAM  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever find yourself being nasty to those around you? Do you think you're in a foul mood because bad things are happening to you?  Or is it possible that the way you're framing the things that are happening is the real problem? Learn how to shift your thinking from "I have to do this..." to "I get to do this." And see how much this tiny shift will change your life, and your day, immediately.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When you're as stylish and classy as Art Williams, you can get away with an Instagram handle like @thedopeinfluencer. But survival was the only thing on Art's mind in the first twelve years of his life. Well, survival, football and, eventually barbershops. Now a staple in Portland's black community, Art is not only the owner of a successful barbershop that is extensively involved in charities and programs that help minorities level up, he does double duty as the personal barber to former 10,000 NOs podcast guest, Actor Aldis Hodge. A former professional football player, Art travels back and forth from far-off sets not allowing them to prevent him from being a major influence of stability in a formerly challenged community. When he's not busy cutting hair, he is constantly inspiring others to exceed the expectations of their given circumstances the way he did.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:@THEDOPEINFLUENCER ON INSTAGRAMVARIETY ARTICLE ON NEGLECT OF BLACK MEN'S HAIR Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When my friend and past guest Matt Long, one of the toughest guys I know who has been through more than most humans should go through, dropped by to speak to the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community at the end of January, he shocked the group. Expecting this former New York City firefighter turned Ironman turned Near-Death Crash Victim turned Speaker/Author to come in beating his chest, all the members were shocked by his central topic: Vulnerability. Despite popular opinion, being vulnerable doesn't make you "soft". The ability to show vulnerability is a sign of strength and the key to everything from relationships to parenting to career success. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To look at Santiago Arana now, one would think he was the luckiest guy in the world: great career, beautiful family and all the trappings of the good life. But looks can be deceiving. Coming to America from Bolivia with only $220 in his pocket, the clothes on his back, and a few other minor possessions, the only promise Santiago had was to stay on his aunt's couch for 8 months. A lot of hard work, plenty of risk and the love of an American woman proved to be the winning formula that brought him from washing dishes in a Santa Barbara restaurant without understanding a word of English to being ranked #1 in Los Angeles's most valuable real estate neighborhoods, west of the 405 freeway. A Principal and Partner of The Agency, he is ranked #8 among realtors nationwide, #3 in California and, for the second year in a row, #1 Latino Agent in the country for sales volume by the National Association for Hispanic Real Estate Professionals.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:THE AGENCYINSTAGRAM (@SANTIAGOARANA)TWITTER (@SANTIAGOARANA) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

That was the line made famous by the character of Miles, speaking to Tom Cruise's Joel in the 1983 smash it, Risky Business. He went on to say, "Make your move. Joel, every now and then, saying 'what the f#%!' brings freedom. Freedom brings opportunity. Opportunity makes your future." I couldn't agree more (within the boundaries of making sure you, and your family stay safe) and that's what today's episode is all about.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After playing football at Bowling Green State University, D.C. Crenshaw was working in pharmaceuticals until he lost his job in the financial crisis of 2008. Forced to pivot, he has since made a name for himself as a food and lifestyle entrepreneur and personality, publishes Fete Lifestyle Magazine and co-founded Little Diner’s Crew, a dining club for kids that expands kids’ palates beyond mac-n-cheese and chicken fingers. The Executive Producer and host of the two-time Emmy nominated docu-series Game Time Dine, DC combined his passions by showcasing professional athletes’ passions away from the game via dining. We talk about changing courses when needed and opening yourself to new possibilities.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERSGUEST LINKS:DC CRENSHAW WIKIPEDIAFETE LIFESTYLE MAGAZINE@DCCRENSHAW (TWITTER)@DCCRENSHAW (INSTAGRAM) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel like "everything is always getting in the way of your plans"? Things will always come up to thwart your intention or steal your time. That's a given. But the choice we have is to view it from a perspective that sees events as working for us, rather than against us. In today's Monday Morsel, I talk about my son's recent trip with me to Brooklyn to finish out my work on City on a Hill. While I gave up some of my "solo focus time", what I gained with him far outweighed any deficiency in work-time.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.If you dig the show, click the link below for our new 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to learn how you can make this experience 3D by hopping on intimate, weekly Live video calls with Matt, including monthly drop-ins with some of his badass past-guests & VIP friends. SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Joe Horowitz's career can be described as a combo of hit passions: music, travel, golf and linking souls. While I've heard him belt it out with well-known musicians like No Doubt's Adrian Young and he has played alongside musicians like John Oates, Joe Don Rooney (Rascal Flatts), Darius Rucker (Hootie and the Blowfish), Toby Keith and Pat Monohan (Train), what really got me was watching him bring souls together in cyberspace from his garage in Long Island when the world was deep in COVID Quarantine and needed something to believe in and someone to step up and be a leader with soul and humor. If you've been chasing a dream and it hasn't paid off yet in the way you imagined, sit back and let Joe remind you why you started your crazy pursuit in the first place: because you loved it.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS COMMUNITYGUEST LINKS:GOLF MAGAZINE FEATURE ARTICLE SAVE YOURSELF (MY FAVORITE SONG) ON YOUTUBE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It takes a special kind of bonehead to create a Monday Morsel episode on a Tuesday, accidentally post it, and then find out it's out in the world when someone posts about it on their social media the following day saying how needed it was for them today... 5 days prior to the intended Monday... on a Wednesday. That's what happened to us (and by "us", I mean me). So, to honor that flub, and lean into the pain of my idiocy... I give you today's raw/short Monday Morsel... but I still think you should go back and listen to Wednesday's if you haven't yet.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While most veteran writer/director/actors wish they could just get in to SXSW, Cooper Raiff won the whole thing in 2020 at the ripe young age of 23. His indie feature, S#!%house, was so good that I sought out his email address, stalked him, and got him to agree to sit down for 10,000 NOs. His secret? Not so complex: keep on charging, pivot when you need to, and really have something to say.“All I have that I have going for me is I really want to say something. The things that I'm making movies about, or writing about, it's obviously... it means a lot to me. And I think that if I got caught up in how good something is, or how good something is going to be, I’m just going to feel like I need to go to school for nine years before I start this back up.”It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS COMMUNITYGUEST LINKS:IMDb FILM/TV CREDITSINDIEWIRE, SXSW WINNER – FEATURE ARTICLE Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We've all been told things about ourselves that are less than charitable. Sometimes, without our being fully aware of it, these negative labels can stay attached to us for far too long, limiting our ability to believe we can achieve things far greater than some teacher, coach, parent or nemesis led us to believe by placing a label on us before we were fully formed. Hear how you can begin to learn from those limiting labels and also get beyond them by peeling them off and ditching them forever.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL10,000 NOs INSIDERS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If ever there were someone who turned Failure into Opportunity, it was Doctor Martin Luther King, Jr. Today, to honor him, we've brought back guest Aldis Hodge to talk about faith, apologizing for just being (and how to overcome that), how success is measured by the imprint you leave on the world and the importance of having the humility to let those around you shine their light as well as the boldness of allowing yourself to shine your light.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lorraine Bracco has been nominated for an Academy Award as well as multiple Golden Globes and Emmy Awards. She was a major force in one of the greatest films of all time, Goodfellas and one of the greatest TV shows of all time, The Sopranos. She has won multiple Screen Actors Guild Awards and even has her own show on HGTV, the hilarious and heartfelt My Big Italian Adventure. But at the end of the day, when I asked her how she's lasted the test of time in one of the toughest industries around, including weathering two divorces, she said, "you have to make the oatmeal every morning." I've known her for almost 20 years, worked with her on two shows and never caught even a pretentious millisecond from her. She's beautiful, makes me laugh, tells it like it is and gives me some backstory on Goodfellas before we exchange our own personal stories about the late, great James Gandolfini and his tremendous talent and heart. You don't want to miss this one.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIPGUEST LINKS:IMDb FILM/TV CREDITSWIKIPEDIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Playing Freshman football at John Jay Jr. High meant having this phrase seared into your brain and soul by Coach John Hurley. It is still used by me present day, to myself and my kids, as a reminder to never do the bare minimum. Can you cut corners and get away with it? Sure. But, you know who will see it every time? You. Ask yourself, "Is it worth it?"Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Lisa Marie Riley found out her husband had an aggressive 8lb tumor in his stomach after complaining of a stomach ache, her sister and friends set up an Instagram account for her and told her that, instead of texting them on their group chat (which she hated), she could just post videos to Instagram for them to see. One subsequent TikTok video went viral (5M views) and now she's helping a combined 500K followers across both platforms laugh their way through the "current s%#t show" of COVID as she fights to do anything besides cave into cancer in front of her husband and three kids. Full of expletives (ear muffs for kids please), hysterical rants and a moving revelation about her three year old son's morning ritual that forces her daily to rise to the occasion, this off-the-cuff conversation jettisoned past a long line of previously recorded episodes to be the first episode of our 2021 slate. If there's one thing we all need right now it's laughter.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIPGUEST LINKS:Instagram (@onefunnymommy)TikTok (@onefunnymommy) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As 2021 kicks off, are you exactly where you want to be? If, instead of spending so much time complaining about where we're not, we focus on what we love and what we claim to want, we will be a lot further along and a lot better at what we do by 2022. Maintaining the fierce discipline necessary to be at the top of your industry and keeping distractions at bay is not easy, but it is necessary. Make a pledge with yourself and keep it.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Couldn't help myself. No fancy opening music. No fancy closing music. Just little old me... and a mic. If you're out walking the dog, or running to the store for milk and you could use a 5 min pep talk to kick off your 2021... I'm your man. Enter at your own risk.Oh. And Happy New Year. How good does it feel to be out of 2020?It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At the end of 2019, none of us could have predicted the year we eventually got to know as 2020. It was unprecedented, cruel to many and a game-changer in some way, shape or form, for all of us. Somehow, though, we've all pivoted and most of us were required to shift into a new gear to deal with our new normal. Join Matt as he waxes poetic on change in general and 2020 specifically. He even assesses the draw of Christmas for him as a child and what made it so special as well as the gratitude he has to be able to see his family after his longest stint ever on the road.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When we released this inspiring conversation with Mark O'Brien back on August 16, 2019, he wasn't an Academy Award Winner. Now, he is... kind of. They call it the Canadian Screen Award, but it's the equivalent of our Academy Award and he won Best Actor for his performance in 2019's Goalie. 10,000 NOs was not shocked by this news because this is a performer who is not only massively talented as an actor, but also a dynamic writer and director with enough hustle to outlast any number of NOs. As this crazy year winds down, and you're evaluating your progress, be inspired by this "kid from nowhere" who figured out a way to make it.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIPGUEST LINKS:IMDb FILM/TV CREDITSWIKIPEDIA Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you tend to make things more complex than they need to be? Find that you're slowly being pulled away from the actual thing you were excited about in the first place because you got bogged down by logistics? Join the club. No, literally. Join the club. After an off-the-cuff riff about the online community he's been thinking about for a long time, Matt throws down the gauntlet and decides to do what he's been telling others to do forever: "Take Action Now, Course-Correct Later" by launching the 10,000 NOs Insiders Community to turn this podcast into a 3-Dimensional experience for those in need of more hands-on guidance (well, it's just for a small group of beta-testers starting in January, but once the kinks are worked out it'll open to a wider audience). If you're not interested in this, don't worry, you still get the same, impassioned Monday Morsel you've come to know and love, but you'll also be a witness to a decision to walk the walk instead of continuing to talk the talk. If you're interested in learning more about 10,000 NOs Insiders, regardless of when you stumble across this, email [email protected] for more information.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Henry Winkler, who burst onto the scene as the Fonz, has been a part of our American pop culture for so long I can't remember a time when he wasn't omnipresent on my TV. Despite severe dyslexia, which caused extreme challenges for him in school, Henry figured out a way to dominate show business and last the test of time (his current role on Barry won him an Emmy Award in 2018). He has also co-authored over 30 books and produced shows like MacGyver. And he's done all of it while remaining universally accepted as being one of the nicest guys in Hollywood. Unfortunately, when we released this conversation the first time it coincided with the world being locked down in a global pandemic so many of you missed it. Even if you heard it once, I guarantee revisiting it is worth the effort as Henry Winkler does not disappoint.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people can find this show and benefit from these conversations.SHOW LINKS:10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIPGUEST LINKS:HENRY WINKLER FILM/TV CREDITS - IMDbWIKIPEDIAHENRY WINKLER BOOKS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you exactly where you want to be in life? If not, is it because the world hasn't accepted you? Or because you have some deep-seeded belief that you are not worthy and the only way you'll receive any grace in your life is if you pay for it through hard work and suffering? Hard work and consistency are necessary components, sure, but we also have to receive the YES when it comes our way, which might involve accepting ourselves and claiming our space.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Heath Evans played fullback in the NFL for 10 seasons and has a Superbowl Ring to show for it, from his time with the New Orleans Saints. Four of those seasons were with the New England Patriots and football royalty Tom Brady and Bill Belichick, for whom he has tremendous amounts of respect and many lessons on leadership. So it's no wonder that he can talk about grit. But what may not be expected is that this tough guy would be so vulnerable, honest and forthright about his personal flaws or that facing down his own demons and surrendering to God would be more difficult than facing bone-crushing linebackers week after week for a decade. We riff on leadership, proving naysayers wrong, following a dream even when every external force seems to be trying to thwart it, owning up to mistakes and getting back on the trail to recovery and much, much more. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIPGuest Links   https://heathevans44.com/ InstagramTwitterNFL News  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

While nothing is perfect (ie.the COVID Thanksgiving we just experienced with loved ones joining us remotely on a computer screen, IF we were fortunate enough to have that technology), but how you frame your obstacles determines whether they really are obstacles or just opportunities in disguise. With an updated intro for present day, this rerelease from August of 2019, about a mice problem Matt had in his garage and house, reminds us that even mice can teach us something about our life. As one of our most-listened-to episodes that almost never existed, it also teaches us that, usually, the things we fear sharing about ourselves are the very things people value the most if we have the courage to share them.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 NOs... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get up, dust yourself off, and get back in the arena. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it and leave a 5-star review on Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen, so more people find this show and benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Opera singer Jennifer Finn had an idea: how can musicians and singers get more live practice of their craft while simultaneously bringing joy to underserved New Yorkers? What followed is the creation of the not-for-profit organization Concerts in Motion, which had NY1 naming Finn their “New Yorker of the Week”. In classic “10,000 NOs Failure is Opportunity” fashion, Finn is executing where most others merely dream or talk about pie in the sky ideas. Serving isolated elderly folks, underserved minority musical hopefuls and professional musicians and singers, Jennifer’s voice is filling more than just the opera houses she had hoped to one day play.  It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations.  SHOW LINKS: 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP  GUEST LINKS: CONCERTS IN MOTION CONCERTS IN MOTION'S JENNIFER FINN NAMED NY1 NEW YORKER OF THE WEEK - PART I CONCERTS IN MOTION'S JENNIFER FINN NAMED NY1 NEW YORKER OF THE WEEK - PART II   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt introduces this re-release of a solo episode from May of 2019, weighing in on why now was the time to bring you an episode where he riffs on the idea that what you do when no one is watching is what gets rewarded later in public. Revealing a guest request made by the staff of an Acting Coach to Oscar Winners and Nominees (now-past guest, Terry Knickerbocker) who turns out to be a passionate listener to 10,000 "No"s, Matt talks about the importance of maintaining standards and how you never know who's out there listening, watching you, or being impacted by you, both positively and negatively. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations.10,000 NOs: THE BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBEFOLLOW MATT ON SOCIALONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you missed Aldis Hodge's classic 10,000 NOs origin story episode from last week, you can listen to it here. Today’s episode was unplanned. When Matt and Aldis sat down, one of the first questions Matt asked was “what’s the biggest ‘no’, literal or proverbial, that you’ve had to overcome?” This led to what we deemed to be a stand-alone conversation about race in America and, particularly, in the film and television industry. Without holding back, Aldis brings truth, courage, humor, thoughtfulness and an articulate perspective on what he, and other minorities are forced to live through unbeknownst to others who do not share their ethnic background. Matt weighed in, from the perspective of his background, ethnicity and experiences as a white man in the world, and this industry. What followed is the conversation you are about to hear: two friends, colleagues, cast-mates trying to understand one another’s experience and find some answers amidst the large and difficult questions that arise around this hot-button topic. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations. SHOW LINKS: 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP GUEST LINKS: FOLLOW ALDIS ON INSTAGRAM IMDB FILM & TV CREDITS WIKIPEDIA RECENT HOLLYWOOD REPORTER ARTICLE  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve seen Jerry Maguire, you know what a Vulnerability Hangover is even if you’ve never heard that term. This week, Matt admits to the self-lacerating period that followed his book release on October 27th, and then discusses how he got out of it and how you can too. Taking a leap is a beautiful thing. And when it goes well, the benefits are beyond your wildest dreams. But, beware your ego and the critic in your head, who may force you into a vulnerability hangover before you can celebrate your wins.   Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations. 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To say Aldis Hodge's career is heating up right now is a massive understatement. This moment, for him, can be more aptly described as "being in hyperspace". He is currently shooting season two of Showtime's City on a Hill, where he goes toe to toe with Kevin Bacon. He recently wrapped a season of his rebooted TNT series, Leverage. And he is preparing to enter the DC Universe, opposite Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson, playing Hawkman in the highly anticipated comic-inspired Black Adam. He was on short lists for an Oscar nomination for his work in the death row indie film, Clemency, and his upcoming festival favorite, One Night in Miami is already on early Oscar watch lists for next year. Other notable roles include MC Ren in Straight Outta Compton, Levi Jackson in Hidden Figures and Noah on the WGN America series Underground. On top of all of that, Hodge's passion for horology led him to bet on himself as an entrepreneur, creating a watch company that aims to stand out from the crowd. But Hodge was not born on Easy Street. His victories have been hard fought and his struggles have been real, including a stint where he and his brother lived with their mother, out of a car. He does not mince words and he brought the same fierce truth, and humor, to our conversation that he brings to his work as an actor.  It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations. SHOW LINKS: 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP GUEST LINKS: FOLLOW ALDIS ON INSTAGRAM IMDB FILM & TV CREDITS WIKIPEDIA RECENT HOLLYWOOD REPORTER ARTICLE  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As Andy Dufresne, in The Shawshank Redemption, once said, “get busy living or get busy dying.” Change is happening all the time, whether you like it or not. You have two choices: try to resist it, or embrace it and grow. Matt riffs on change and unexpected twists of fate, from presidential election results to personal and career ups and downs, waxing philosophical on the ever-shifting pendulum of life.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations. 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In 2018, Matt sat down with Marshall Tuck after observing him speak off the cuff at a local fundraiser. Here is what he said about him back then: From Zimbabwe to South Central, Marshall Tuck has been making an impact on young people's lives through public education. If all goes well, he'll move the needle even more as California's next State Superintendent of Public Instruction.  Tuck lost that battle in 2018, but we are confident that he will restore your faith in public servants who have our children’s best interests front of mind when it comes to education so we decided to rerelease that conversation with an updated introduction as a reminder of the highest ideals of politics when they mesh with a candidate’s heart and excellence of character. His story reminds us that, while we all hear NOs, when we are led by a higher purpose we can weather any storm. It is not the critic who counts. If you’ve been knocked down... get back up, dust yourself off, and get back in the game. If you want to give back, share this with someone who could use it. Encourage them to take the next step and leave a 5-star review so more people can benefit from these conversations. 10,000 NOs: THE BOOK JOIN THE 10,000 NOs TRIBE FOLLOW MATT ON SOCIAL ONE ON ONE MENTORSHIP  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do the people that know you consider you a “doer”? If not, do you wish they did? It’s not some magical, philosophical musing that separates the doers from the non-doers, it is simply that one group does and the other group does not (get stuff done, take action, accomplish things, have an effect on others). Matt contemplates the benefits and drawbacks of being in either camp and riffs on different types of doers. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. ORDER MATT'S BOOK HEREJOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To celebrate the launch of Matt’s book, 10,000 NOs: How to Overcome Rejection on the Way to Your YES, this past Tuesday, we decided to put him on the hot seat. Through the generosity of Peter Rinaldi, host of Filmmaker Magazine’s Back to One Podcast, we were able to acquire their recent interview of Matt for the 10,000 NOs feed. Delving into some of the nitty gritty of Matt’s approach to acting as is typical on Back to One, Rinaldi also spends a portion of time linking the effects of writing a book on the art of storytelling in general as well as the interpretive work of an actor.   Listen to other Back to One EpisodesBack to One Podcast's Instagram Show LinksORDER MATT'S BOOK HEREJOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you find yourself getting jealous over the accomplishments of your friends?  Or, maybe not jealous, but their success puts you in the dumps? Answering the call of a young actor, Matt suggests that a better path to success and happiness is actually to find joy in the victories of your friends, and sometimes even those of your “sworn enemies”. He also celebrates the fact that his book publishes tomorrow and admits to feelings of vulnerability surrounding its release. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may be familiar with Hollywood stars such as Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, J.K. Simmons, James Marsden, Sylvester Stallone and Zac Efron, but you may not know the trainer that helped them build their incredible physiques, Aaron Williamson. Aaron went from Marine Corps, to being a celebrity trainer, to stunt man and now actor. But his path was far from smooth, he spent time living out of his car and overdosed at only 12 years old. He then transitioned to a personal trainer and after a chance encounter ended up working with Zac Efron for his role in "The Lucky One". Now he's moved on to being a stunt performer working on films such as The Purge, Birds of Prey, Dawn of the Planet of the Apes, to name a few...and now he’s beginning a new journey into the craft of acting.  GUEST LINKS https://www.facebook.com/aaronvwilliamsonhttps://www.instagram.com/aaronvwilliamson/https://www.tiktok.com/@avwilliamson SHOW LINKSPRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you had all the time in the world, how would you spend it?  If you, like most people, feel like you don't have enough time to do the things you want to do is it because you're not guarding yourself enough from the inevitable distractions of life?  Clarity of purpose and knowing that we are doing what needs to be done can alleviate a lot of guilt and anxiety about time. But it's easier said than done.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hrishikesh Hirway is a humble high achiever. He has just released his first Netflix Mini-series, Song Exploder, based on his wildly popular podcast of the same name. On it, he talks to musicians like Alicia Keys, R.E.M., Hamilton creator and star Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ty Dollar Sign. To say that it is huge, is an understatement. I met Hrishikesh when I was a guest on his other GIANT podcast that he co-created and co-hosted with my former cast mate from The West Wing and Scandal, Josh Malina – that podcast is The West Wing Weekly, yet another zeitgeist podcast.  Originally, though, Hrishikesh moved to L.A. to record music and score films, so... as wildly successful as he is now, for a long time he still identified himself as a struggling, or failed, musician. His humility, combined with laser focus and attention to detail is perhaps what inspired me the most.Note: This is the second part, if you would like to listen to the first part of the interview, you can find it hereGUEST LINKShrishikesh.cosongexploder.nettwitter.com/HrishiHirwayinstagram.com/hrishihirwaytwitter.com/SongExploderinstagram.com/songexploder SHOW LINKSPRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Everyone wishes they could just “get there” right now. But whether it’s finding the nuances of a character you’re playing, being a better parent or being at the top of your field, if it doesn’t cost you anything (time, effort, sacrifice, etc.) the chances are that it won’t be worth much.   Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hrishikesh Hirway is a humble high achiever. He has just released his first Netflix Mini-series, Song Exploder, based on his wildly popular podcast of the same name. On it, he talks to musicians like Alicia Keys, R.E.M., Hamilton creator and star Lin-Manuel Miranda and Ty Dollar Sign. To say that it is huge, is an understatement. I met Hrishikesh when I was a guest on his other GIANT podcast that he co-created and co-hosted with my former cast mate from The West Wing and Scandal, Josh Malina – that podcast is The West Wing Weekly, yet another zeitgeist podcast.  Originally, though, Hrishikesh moved to L.A. to record music and score films, so... as wildly successful as he is now, for a long time he still identified himself as a struggling, or failed, musician. His humility, combined with laser focus and attention to detail is perhaps what inspired me the most. GUEST LINKShrishikesh.cosongexploder.nettwitter.com/HrishiHirwayinstagram.com/hrishihirwaytwitter.com/SongExploderinstagram.com/songexploder SHOW LINKS PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you look at life as a zero sum game where your victories are dependent on other people failing?  In this excerpt from Matt's contribution to Christopher J. Wirth's COVID-era online forum, We Rise By Lifting Others Up, Matt talks about the power of encouragement and how helping others ends up helping you just as much if your heart is in the right place. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020)JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBEFOLLOW MATTBOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS)COACH WITH MATT Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Molly Fletcher is a trailblazer in every sense of the word– a rare talent of business wisdom, fiery passion for all she does and unwavering optimism. Molly spent two decades as one of the world's only female sports agents. She was nicknamed "the female Jerry Maguire" by CNN. She recruited and represented hundreds of sport’s biggest names, including Hall of Fame pitcher John Smoltz, PGA TOUR golfer Matt Kuchar, broadcaster Erin Andrews, and basketball championship coaches Tom Izzo and Doc Rivers. She is the author of four books: Fearless At Work; A Winner’s Guide to Negotiating; The Business of Being the Best; and The 5 Best Tools to Find Your Dream Career. As well as having her own Podcast "Game Changers with Molly Fletcher" and training programs, where she teaches her students how to close more deals faster, while strengthening the relationship.Guest Links: Molly's InstagramMolly's Game Changer Negotiation TrainingMolly's WebsiteMolly's BooksShow LinksPRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are there aspects of your profession, or your life, that you find yourself having to deal with every day?  Of course there are, but that doesn't mean you have to complain about them. They are the proverbial dog hair dusting that's necessary if you want to enjoy your dog (that's not hypoallergenic) and they will bug you a lot less if you accept them as "part of the gig". People think acting is glamorous, and it can be, but being told "No" is part of the gig, and unless you can accept that as a very real portion of "following your dream", you're going to be miserable every day. It's not the obstacle... it's how we view the obstacle that determines if it is, in fact, an obstacle after all.  And, PS. If you want to eat... you're going to have to clean the dishes (or do well enough that you have staff that takes care of them for you).  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I'm super psyched about this week's guest, none other than Emmy Award Winner Tom Skerritt. You might know him from his iconic roles in Top Gun, The River Runs Through It, Alien, M*A*S*H*, and Picket Fences. We chat about his humble beginnings in Detroit, to his first films with none other than Robert Redford, Sydney Pollack and Robert Altman. Tom's love for art and creativity have lead him to start the company Triple Squirrels and the EVRGRN channel, focusing on sharing stories that bring us inspiration, light and hope. This conversation is one that all young actors can learn from, about how to approach their art and how to keep a positive attitude in such an up and down career, as Tom says "just keep movin' kid, just keep movin'...."Guest LinksEVRGRN Channel – View on Demand: https://evrgrnchannel.com/VODTriple Squirrels Website: https://www.triplesquirrels.com/Twitter – EVRGRN: @EvrgrnCTwitter – Tom Skerritt: @TRSkerrittTwitter – Leslie Grandy: @GearheadgalShow LinksPRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

 Do you think you have a book inside you?  Or maybe not a book, but some dream that feels out of reach or insurmountable? Regardless of your line of work or life and career goals, creating the story of your life that empowers you is an unbelievably useful exercise that inevitably leads to massive growth. Slightly less than a month away from his book launch, Matt shares insights on what he learned from crafting his own narrative and putting fingers to keyboard to share his struggles and victories with others.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michele McPhee is an author, former talk radio host, screenwriter, five-time Emmy nominated investigative journalist (The Boston Globe, New York Daily News among others) and overall badass. And more recently a writer/producer on Showtime's City on a Hill.Michele has uncovered some of the highest profile cases & criminals in the United States. You're going to hear this for yourself, but she is not afraid to go after anyone, mobsters, FBI, anyone ... if they're in the way of her uncovering the truth on a story. She is unapologetically herself (including her awesome Boston accent) and what I really love about her is that, despite the fact that she literally puts her life on the line in the name of journalistic integrity, she is a total warm, softy. That's who she is: generous, real and seemingly connected to literally anyone who's anyone in Boston and beyond.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When's the last time you did an assessment to see how close your life is to the dreams you had when you were younger?  Have your goals changed?  If so, have you taken steps to get closer to your new goals and dreams?  While writing down your goals may not make your dreams happen overnight, like in the movies, it will do a lot to take something from an ethereal idea in your head and transform it into a reality that you, and others, can touch with your hands. Matt reveals both sides of this coin for his own life, with personal stories of some wins and losses. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

FDNY hero and Ironman Matt Long came back to a thriving life after doctors told his family he had a one to five percent chance to live. If you're feeling knocked down, and almost out, by life right now, this is the interview you need to hear. You will walk away feeling that the impossible is doable and that miracles can happen. You will also be reminded of this podcast's tagline, "Failure is Opportunity", as you hear how Matt' did not merely survive his near-death crash, when he was literally run over by a bus on his bike, he has thrived as a result of what he went through, now using his story to inspire others through speaking and coaching. He is a true, real-life hero. We planned on returning to our new releases after Labor Day until we realized that the very next Friday landed on 9/11. We could not be more honored to present one of the courageous men who put his life on the line on that dark day in American history as 9/11 marked the beginning of a new journey for Matt after losing so many brothers.  Never forget, never lay down and die, and remember what Matt told himself about walking (and running) again as he was sentenced to a wheelchair and attached to a colostamy bag: I WILL!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You're human. You get tired. You have bad days, unproductive days... no one is immune. There are motivational gurus out there telling you that you can always be on, but is that the truth? Yes, there are systems that can be put in place, and habits that can be learned, but you also listen to your body and your internal rhythms and go easy on yourself at times.  While grinding is admirable and necessary in many instances, acceptance and surrender can work miracles when the current is flowing against you. Count your blessings, and start over the next day.   Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue Hollis has every reason to be arrogant and obnoxious: she was a powerhouse corporate warrior for both British Airways and Qantas before realizing she wanted to make a bigger impact with her work. That's when she stepped down and co-founded TravelEdge, a corporate travel management company now valued over $250 Million, 20 years ago, making her one of Australia's Top 10 Female Entrepreneurs. But even that began to wear on her so she listened to her heart, stepped down from the CEO position and rode her BMW superbike solo around the Pacific Northwest for three months, eventually writing a book about the journey, “Riding Raw”, released in August 2018. Sue is now a coach and an "adventurepreneur" (a term she coined), based between Whistler, Canada and Sydney, Australia. When she came to my house she was coming from a motorcycle race track where she trains at speeds close to 200 mph... at 60 years of age!  She has raised two successful boys.  For all of her accomplishments, she could not have been cooler, kinder or more passionate and compassionate.  What I loved about her is that she lets her values define her, not her accomplishments.   I dare you not to love her and be inspired by her courage to listen to her heart and impact the world.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you slip back into your old patterns when you're around certain groups? While those old habits, procedures, stances may have helped you survive until now, they may not be what you need to thrive moving forward.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You can lose your Twitter account, you can lose your website, you can lose your email list but if you have your relationships, you're gonna be just fine. Even though you don't necessarily believe it."   Jordan Harbinger is the former creator/host of the wildly popular podcast, The Jordan Harbinger Show, which has grown to become a monster podcast with millions of downloads. A former Wall Street attorney and two-time kidnapping victim (yes, that's right), I caught Jordan as he transitions to his new podcast so we riffed about reinvention, how to look at sudden shifts in circumstances with excitement vs fear, and how to build an empire by following your bliss. Guest LinksInstagramJordan's WebsiteTwitterShow LinksPRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOK HERE (PUBLISHES OCT 27, 2020) JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Does fear have a grip on you?  Metaphorically and literally, whatever it is that you're doing, if you're a human being on this earth, you are potentially in danger of being killed by some unknown force at ANY time: car accident, bad diagnosis, natural disaster, financial disaster, terrorism, the list goes on... While it's true that danger exists, it is not true that it should be keeping you in a prison of your own making.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sarah Shahi is beautiful. But despite having graced the covers of countless magazines, it would be wrong to call that her defining quality. To sit down with her is to discover that she has humor, strength and grit that exceeds the average person. Perhaps her steel was forged in the fires of growing up one of the few Iranian immigrants in Texas, or maybe it was from surviving an abusive father who, addicted to drugs, held a gun to her head at the tender age of 6. Either way, this former Pageant Champion turned Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader had enough life force, and the help of an incredibly fierce mother and multiple women's shelters, to find a way out of Texas and onto our television and film screens since 2001. You may know Sarah from "City on a Hill", "The L Word", "Life", "Fairly Legal" and "Person of Interest", this is her story.Guest Links:InstagramTwitterSarah's IMDbShow Links:   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you died tomorrow, how would people honestly talk about you at your funeral? What would be on your tombstone, if you had one? Each day is a choice. Which self do you want to represent?  The one that springs out of bed, grateful for another day on earth? Or the one that rolls over, hits the snooze button and then bitches throughout the day about all the things that went wrong? I've done both. I urge you, and myself, to choose the latter.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. PRE-ORDER MATT'S BOOKJOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I got to sit down with New York Times Best Selling Author (“On the Edge - The Art of High Impact Leadership") and Captain of America’s First Female Everest Expedition, Alison Levine. Alison is also a highly sought after corporate speaker and has even served as a consultant to the US Military. Even the Terminator, Arnold Schwarzenegger, appointed her to be his Deputy Finance Director when he ran for Governor of California. But, like every other guest of 10,000 “No” s, what I love about Alison is that, despite her accomplishments, her Ego is tiny compared to her desire to serve others through education and inspiration.Our conversation includes...What it takes to LITERALLY climb any mountain. “Failing” so epically that you are the butt of Jay Leno’s opening monologue. How, even if you were born with a heart defect, you choose to climb the highest peak on every continent and ski both poles and succeed.Why backing down is not the same as giving up.Why you should treat others with respect and kindness. Guest Links   https://alisonlevine.com/InstagramTwitterAlison's TEDTalkShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you always wait for others to give you permission before starting a new venture?  Are you always wondering, "what would have happened if I had just tried..."?  If you want permission to give a new venture a shot, from something tiny like a backyard project to as big as writing a book, listen to Matt's short story about trimming trees behind his house and the lesson that came with it.   Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Siri Lindley is a World Champion triathlete and one of the sport's most accomplished coaches. Siri was the No. 1 ranked triathlete in the ITU World Cup Series in 2001 & 2002 and won the 2001 World Championship. She has coached her athletes, including Ironman champion Miranda Carfrae, to Olympic medals and World Championships in both long - and short - course racing.In this episode we discuss:The mindset and gratitude that propelled her to the top of her sport.How childhood sadness and isolation can be channeled into greatness. How to find your True Self, and the courage to be yourself How to live with extreme passionGuest Links:Instagramhttps://www.sirilindley.com/Twitterhttps://www.believeranchandrescue.org/Buy Siri's Book: SurfacingShow Links:   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is a re-release of an earlier Monday Morsel...After 15 interviews with uber-successful and articulate guests, I riff solo on what I've learned, what listeners are responding to, and where I plan to take 10,000 "No"s in the future. My conversation (with myself) includes: How my guests' courage to be vulnerable has helped many listeners with their own struggles, learning how to let go of control and delegate more, why most of us aren't AMAZING out of the gate with any new venture and why we have to leap. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mark Duplass is a man who wears many hats. He is an Actor, Writer, Director, Producer and Author along with his brother Jay Duplass. Mark managed to bridge the gap from Indies to a major Hollywood player. He's just been nominated for an Emmy for his role in the uber successful "The Morning Show" with Jennifer Anniston and Reese Witherspoon. Mark and I chat everything from collaborating with your brother without killing them, overcoming a lack of resources to create a mini-studio and betting on yourself.Guest Links   Instagram: @markduplassWatch The Morning Show on Apple TVBuy Mark & Jay's Book: Like BrothersTwitter: @markduplassShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Networking, it's one of those terms we toss around without fully understanding. This episode is a snippet of my producer and me talking about emails we received into the podcast. I hope that this episode gives you a little insight into the best way to approach any email, message or meeting with someone you'd like to build a professional relationship with. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sitting down with Jon Gordon, it became immediately apparent why he is trusted by Major League managers and players, asked to speak to NFL teams and sit down one on one with entire rosters of Pros to ensure that their minds are focused on the daunting tasks their jobs require. He is a force of positivity who doesn't just motivate but encourages with a warmth that few possess (he literally took his "Positive Warrior" shirt off his own back to give it to me when we finished our interview). While his faith in God is strong and apparent, there is nothing close to "holier than thou" in his attitude. Instead, he possesses a humble desire to serve, which is the central theme throughout all of his books on leadership, in and out of the business world, including all 6 of his best-sellers which have been read by millions.  When I think of the man I'd like to be, it's not far off from Jon Gordon, who has somehow managed to maintain a great family, a booming career and the ability to impact and help both strangers and friends. Show Notes are Available on our WebsiteGuest Links   Instagram: @JonGordon11Twitter: @JonGordon11Positive UniversityJon's YouTube ChannelWebsite: http://www.jongordon.com/Show Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What do Hamilton the Musical, Memento, Boiler Room, Austin Powers all have in common...Powerhouse producer Jennifer Todd. Though she is incredibly humble when talking about her career she is largely responsible for some of our favourite films. Jennifer is a go getter, down to earth and an inspiration to any young women who are looking to get their start in the film industry.Show Notes are Available on our WebsiteShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you feel overly scattered? Or do you feel overly specialized, but fear that you only have one iron in the fire?  If you're in one of these camps, you might need to consider taking your top two or three skills and aligning them in a way where each one feeds the other.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week's guest Michelle Gauvin is a talent agent and owner of Performers Management in Vancouver, Canada. 23 years ago she began Performers Management with a baby on her knee, in a basement suite. During our conversation we also take a deep dive into the acting industry too, so to all our listeners who are young actors, Michelle's insights are invaluable. Her tenacity, and unbreakable spirit really come through during our chat.Show Notes are Available on our WebsiteGuest Links   Instagram: @performersmanagementWebsite: https://www.performersmanagement.comInstagram: @insidetheagencypodcast Website: https://www.insidetheagency.comShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Seek like-minded folks who can push you, support you and encourage you. Find the right community for you to strengthen your resolve, sharpen your skills and reduce the chances of giving up on yourself.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

ELEW is an innovative artist who began his career as a jazz pianist, performing alongside Wynton Marsalis and Elvin Jones. A decade into his career he re-imagined his style of music, fusing his piano skills with modern rock music – creating rock jazz. ELEW has a huge fanbase including celebrities such as Leonardo DiCaprio, Halle Berry, Terry Crews and the list goes on. What really came through to me though was that ELEW lives and breathes music. You’ll hear him throughout the interview, singing, tapping out beats... his passion is infectious.Show Notes are Available on our WebsiteGuest Links   Instagram: @elewrockjazzTwitter: @elewrockjazzWebsite: https://elewrockjazz.com/Listen to ELEW's MusicELEW's YouTubeShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you checked a lot of the things off of your Life To-Do List but still feel like something's missing?  Does your life feel safe and protected, but not necessarily fully alive?  If your answer to those questions is No, that's great, but there's still probably room for improvement.  If the answer is Yes, consider going back to the root of your passion, dusting off some old dreams, and giving them a whirl.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are living in uncertain times. Anxiety and stress levels are high. Actor Josh Pais teaches you how to use acting principles to reduce your anxiety in times of crisis.  This is a shorter form episode, as I reached out to Josh on the fly. In addition to being a brilliant actor himself with a prolific list of credits, Josh runs a program called “Committed Impulse” where he teaches acting techniques to understand our emotions better. I hope you find this episode helpful and informative.Show Notes are available on our Website Guest Links   Instagram: @JoshPaisCommitted Impulse InstagramSpecial Committed Impulse Free Resource for 10,000 NOs ListenersCommitted Impulse Website for ClassesShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you're a Dad, is every day perfect with your kids? Not if you're telling the truth. In this special Sunday Morsel for Father's Day, we learned that firsthand as all of the audio from Matt's Dad, and kids, was lost at the 11th hour. But the show must go on, and rerecords are allowed, even if they're brief and rushed. We hope you enjoy the wisdom about fatherhood from three generations of Del Negro blood.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBEFOLLOW MATTBOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS)COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I always talk about the fact that nothing is overnight. Dan Cortese could be seen to be an "overnight success". He had a successful career on MTV, a hilarious part on Seinfeld and is now releasing his new book. But listen to how he got there, the things he did to set himself up and give himself that opportunity.   Show Notes are Available on our WebsiteGuest Links   Instagram: @dancorteseTwitter: @dancorteseWebsite: https://www.thedancortese.comBuy Dan's Book: Step Off, My Journey from Mimbo to ManhoodShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Being "good enough" is something we all grapple with, whether it be in our personal lives or our work lives. In this episode Matt answers the questions of a listener who wrote an incredibly detailed letter into the show. As she asks questions about pursuing her goals to becoming an actor.Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week.JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week’s episode was recorded before the events of the past two weeks and yet, like many of these conversations, applies to the current shift in culture. I interview John Porcelly, who has done everything from tour the world as a punk rocker to join a Yoga Ashram.We chat about why you shouldn’t judge others by their appearance, not going along with things just because “everyone else is doing it”, following your intuition and forging your own path. And most importantly, we discuss the importance of following your passion and your heart.Show Notes are available on our WebsiteGuest Links   Instagram: @thehardcoreyogihttp://www.truetilldeathmerch.com/Instagram: @truetilldeathmerchShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on TwitterJoin Our Mailing List If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com ⁣ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I certainly don't have the answers for everything that's happening right now. I acknowledge that it is a complex can of worms, I do believe that a great first step is for all of us to be better listeners.  And slower to judgment of "others". Our previously scheduled Monday Morsel, about following your passion, will be rescheduled for mid-July.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Out of respect for current events and a desire to amplify black voices I'd love to highlight a past conversation I had with my friend and fellow actor Kevin Daniels. In February 2018 Kevin and I sat down to chat about his journey in acting, as a gay, black man in a field that is inherently stacked against its willing applicants.I believe that Kevin's story, and the spirit in which he has pursued his dream and lived his life, will add value to the questions swirling around all of us right now: how do we retain our hope and dignity when the external powers that be are not providing us with as many opportunities as those whom we are competing for jobs.Follow Kevin on InstagramFollow Kevin on TwitterKevin's IMDbLearn more about #BLM Movement and How You Can HelpBlack Lives MatterCampaign ZeroShow Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on Twitter   Join Our Mailing List THIS EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY POO~POURRIAre you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds. But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it. Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need. And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you spend a ton of time searching for Triple A batteries and only realize you had a giant pack after you took a trip to the drug store to buy more?  Wouldn't you rather know where everything is in your house?  If you answered yes, you're not alone.  Luckily, home de-clutterer and breath coach, Lili Pettit did took over the pod today and she's got some organizational takeaways that will have you feeling lighter, even during COVID.  And 10,000 NOs listeners have a discount for her new Closet Cleanse Master Class (see the link below).  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT CLOSET CLEANSE MASTER CLASS (15% OFF WITH CODE:  DELNEGRO15) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kenny Loggins' career is embellished with many accolades, from Grammy's, Emmy's as well as nominations for an Academy Award, a Tony Award, and a Golden Globe. He has written hit songs for films like Footloose, Top Gun, and Caddyshack. Though as always, that's just the tip of the iceberg. Kenny was humble, open, and raw in this chat, letting all of us into the inner world of an artist. Show Notes are available on our Website  Guest Links    Instagram: @thekennyloggins https://kennyloggins.com/ Follow Kenny on Twitter Listen to Kenny's Music Show Links    Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram   Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on Twitter Join Our Mailing List  If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!    This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri  Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.   But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.   Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.   And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you completely in your head?  Constantly over-analyzing?  If you're looking for a way to change your state or get in touch with your emotional core, music is one of the most direct roots to get your there.  On the verge of bringing you Kenny Loggins, who was responsible for some of the biggest soundtrack hits of Matt's formative years, he riffs on the power of music in shaping our lives more than we may realize.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE  FOLLOW MATT  COACH WITH MATT  FOLLOW 10,000 NOS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you're an actor or entrepreneur, or anyone who is looking to embrace the chaos and uncertainty of these times we find ourselves in right now then today’s conversation is perfect for you. Anthony Meindl is an acting teacher, with studios in 10 cities around the world, he was an actor first, he's directed 3 films, including Where We Go From Here. And he is the author of four books, including best-sellers At Left Brain Turn Right and BOOK THE F***ING JOB! He has taught stars like Shailene Woodley of Big Little Lies and The Descendants, Trevante Rhodes of Moonlight and Bird Box, and pop star Camila Cabello.  Show Notes are available on our Website  Guest Links    Instagram: @anthonymeindl https://www.anthonymeindl.com/ Anthony's YouTube Channel Where We Go From Here Film Show Links    Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram   Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on Twitter    Join Our Mailing List  If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!    This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri  Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.   But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.   Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.   And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you letting fear freeze you?  Has COVID been causing you to envision the worst-case scenario about what will become of you?  If you're stuck in the Fear Loop, you definitely need to hear about how to manage fear from the guy who trains everyone from housewives to Navy SEALs through his company, Know Fear in this Monday Morsel Takeover.  Fear can freeze you or fuel you, which will it be?    Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. KNOW FEAR SEMINAR JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE  FOLLOW MATT  COACH WITH MATT  FOLLOW 10,000 NOS Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you get down on yourself cause you can't focus or commit to one thing?  Do you feel like you're failing when it comes to all the advice the gurus of society tell you you should be doing?  Meet Marie Forleo.  Oprah calls her "the thought leader of the next generation" and her mantra, as well as her New York Times Bestselling book, is Everything is Figureoutable.  Figure it out is exactly what she's done: as a bartender, a Wall Streeter, one of the first Life Coaches and Nike Elite Dance Athletes, the creator and host of the award-winning Marie TV with an audience that spans over 195 countries.  She used to feel like a freak who couldn't focus until she coined the term "Multi-passionate Entrepreneur", leaned into her strengths, and stopped apologizing for the gifts she was born with.  Now you can too.  Let Marie Forleo tell you why EVERYTHING is figure-out-able.  Show Notes are available on our Website  Guest Links    Instagram: @MarieForleo   Marie TV   Marie's Website   Get Marie's Book: Everything Is Figure-Out-Able  Show Links    Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram   Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on Twitter    Join Our Mailing List  If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!    This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri  Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.   But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.   Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.   And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you been putting yourself down for not measuring up to the people you admire?  Think your competition has attributes you'll never acquire?  If you're blaming yourself for you, you're wasting time and squandering valuable resources.  The very thing that's holding you back is what you need to put yourself on the map.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on the show's central topics & themes as food for thought to chew on throughout your week. JOIN THE 10,000 NO's TRIBE FOLLOW MATT BOOKS & THINGS (INCLUDING PAST GUEST CREATIONS) COACH WITH MATT Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jay T Maryniak took himself from rock-bottom, addicted to drugs and alcohol to being a leading voice in the fitness industry. He's a six-figure entrepreneur and owner of his own business JTM fit. Jay is an absolute beast, he's built like a Greek god, and he's also incredibly agile. He is living proof that if you’re ever down, it doesn’t mean you’re out. With hope and support, you are always able to get better, even in your darkest hour. Jay’s ability to be open, vulnerable, and raw about his experiences makes this conversation one we all need to hear.   Show Notes are available on our website   Guest Links   Follow Jay on Instagram   JTM Fit for Jay’s Fitness Programs  Show Links   Follow 10,000 NOs on Instagram  Tell Us Your Favorite Takeaway on Twitter   Join Our Mailing List   Buy 10,000 NOs Merch  If you love the show we’d be so grateful if you would consider leaving a review. It takes less than 60 seconds and really helps make a difference. Plus, I love reading what you guys have to say!   This Episode is Brought to You by Poo~Pourri Are you going crazy being stuck inside with your family...especially with the smell of their poos? Poo~Pourri is the solution for you, simply spray the bowl before you go, and a layer of essential oils traps bathroom odor before it begins. Poo~Pourri also offers hand sanitizer too: a moisturizing blend of coconut and lavender that kills 99.9% of germs in 15 seconds.  But it's not just about bathroom odor... here's why I love and endorse it.  Poo~Pourri liberates everyone from toxic thoughts & ingredients (not just the product, the company: that's their mantra), they do so much more for their community: 10% of profits are being donated to Texas charities and additional quantities are being donated to medical professionals in need.  And for 10,000 NOs listeners, you can use the code "DELNEGRO15" for 15% off your next order of $25 or more at poopourri.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Having great mentors and guides is great, and a necessary element to success.  But if you were lucky enough to have great guidance as you grew up, make sure that the guidance that served you back then is still applicable to your current day goals.   If you're operating from an old playbook you will not reach new goals.  While what got you here worked to get you to this moment, have you sought out the proper mentors and teachers to get you where you want to go now?    Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give you food for thought to chew on throughout your week.   Listen for free by subscribing to 10,000 "No"s on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Stitcher or visiting 10000nos.com     ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW: Instagram:  @10000nos Twitter:  @10000nos   JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE: Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch Coach With Matthew   SHOP FOR THE ITEMS THAT HAVE SHAPED MATTHEW AS WELL AS OUR GUESTS' CREATIONS: Matt's Favorite Items   FOLLOW MATTHEW: Instagram:  @mattydel Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Whether you’re an actor, musician, painter, or writer...if you’re an artist, there’s one thing we all have in common…a ton of creativity and a ton of rejection. You may know Annabeth Gish from Mystic Pizza, Wyatt Earp, or Showtime’s Brotherhood. Behind the glam, what you might not see is an authentic, down to earth Mom who deals with rejection just like you and me. In this episode, we talk about how we’ve dealt with rejection as actors and how now is the best time to get creative. SHOW NOTES are available on our website Let us know what you thought! Tweet @10000nos Never miss an episode: follow us on Instagram to stay up to date with everything 10,000 NOs  GUEST LINKS:  Instagram: @Annabeth_Gish  Twitter: @AnnabethGish  IMDB: More on Annabeth Article: #FreeRayShawn Starring Annabeth  Trailer: FREE RAY SHAWN    PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   Julie Benz: Dexter, How to Thrive Even After You've Been Killed Off     Melissa Ponzio: Teen Wolf's Mama McCall, Honesty and Authenticity on the Journey to Being a Professional Actor    Richard Schiff: Emmy-Award Winner, The West Wing & The Good Doctor   SPECIAL OFFER FROM MANDY.COM:  Mandy.com is the #1 Job Site for Actors, Crew & Creative Professionals in the World -- 10,000 "No"s listeners are being offered 2 FREE MONTHS of PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP to Mandy.com -- sign up and enter code 10000NOS at checkout to access you free premium membership Premium Members have the ability to: -apply to hundreds of jobs in film, TV, and theatre - Mandy features tons of jobs from Off-Broadway to Netflix to indie film to commercials and more! -access Mandy's agency database and contact agents who are currently looking to expand their rosters -utilize Mandy's resource list of headshot photographers, service providers, classes and more - many of which offer Mandy members special discounts -networking events and more! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Often when we have big goals, like being an actor, owning a business, or turning a passion project into a full-time business we become focused on reaching the end goal. This can feel like a huge mountain we have to climb and it's easy to lose sight of the summit. In this episode, I talk about why it's important to appreciate where you are right now and why the success you dream of is probably already yours.  Here's the trick:  remember that the joy of the journey is the learning, the progress, and the ability to overcome the new challenges that will keep on forcing you to dig deeper, no matter how high you may climb.     Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give you food for thought to chew on throughout your week.   ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW:  Instagram:  @10000nos  Twitter: @10000nos JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE:  Visit our website to subscribe to the mailing list Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch  Coach With Matthew   PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface FOLLOW MATTHEW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emmy Award-winning actor Dan Bucatinsky walks listeners through his journey of being told “No” in Hollywood, how to feel successful as an actor, and creating his production company with Friends star Lisa Kudrow.   Dan is known for his work on Shonda Rhimes’ Scandal and has a new comedy on ABC, Baker and the Beauty. His book “Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight” is a collection of funny stories about parenthood that obliterates the boundaries of gender bias.   "You finally make your way through that door, only to realize that there is an infinite number of doors, in an infinite number of rooms.”  Show Notes are available on our website GUEST LINKS:  Personal Website: Dan Bucatinsky  Instagram: @DanBucatinsky  Twitter: @DanBucatinsky  IMDB: More on Dan  Watch Dan's New Show: Baker and the Beauty  Read Dan's Book: Does This Baby Make Me Look Straight?: Confessions of a Gay Dad RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   ABC Scandal's Jeff Perry, on Acting, Love for the Work and the Origins of the Steppenwolf Theatre Company  Amanda Clayton, The Long, Long Road to City on a Hill  Actor Jere Shea, Don't Call it a Comeback   SPECIAL OFFER FOR MANDY.COM:  Mandy.com is the #1 Job Site for Actors, Crew & Creative Professionals in the World -- 10,000 "No"s listeners are being offered 2 FREE MONTHS of PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP to Mandy.com - sign up and enter code 10000NOS at checkout to access your free premium membership  Premium Members have the ability to:  Apply to hundreds of jobs in film, TV, and theatre -- Mandy features tons of jobs from Off-Broadway to Netflix to indie film to commercials and more!  Access Mandy's agency database and contact agents who are currently looking to expand their rosters  Utilize Mandy's resource list of headshot photographers, service providers, classes and more - many of which offer Mandy members special discounts  Networking events and more!  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

None of us is guaranteed another day on this earth so it's time to wake up and take action on our dreams and stop worrying about doing it "right".  Pull the trigger, let it rip, and then figure it out as you go.  If Matt chose to ignore the urge to start this podcast because he didn't think he was ready, it never would have led to his upcoming book.  And even though upcoming guest Dan Bucatinsky won an Emmy Award as an actor, that didn't happen until he took massive action as a writer and producer, including his best-selling book to survive long enough for his big break.  That'll be out this Friday, April 24.  Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give you food for thought to chew on throughout your week.   ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW:  Instagram:  @10000nos  Twitter: @10000nos JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE:  Visit our website to subscribe to the mailing list Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch  Coach With Matthew   PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface FOLLOW MATTHEW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Adrianne Haslet wasn't a runner on April 15, 2013 when a terrorist bomb detonated at the Boston Marathon.  Almost dying and losing a leg because she just happened to be near the finish line "wondering what all the cheering was about", the 3rd ranked ballroom dancer in the world was no longer able to dance professionally.  She shocked herself when she told Anderson Cooper on Live TV that she'd not only dance again, but take up running and finish the Boston Marathon.  Now she's changing history.  Show Notes are Available on our Website GUEST LINKS:  Personal Website: More on Adrianne  Instagram: @AdrianneHaslet  Twitter: @AdrianneHaslet  Boston Globe: Six Podcast Picks for Body, Mind, and Spirit  Video: The Schwartz Center - Adrianne Haslet Davis: From Tragedy Came Compassion   PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface   SPECIAL OFFER FOR MANDY.COM:  Mandy.com is the #1 Job Site for Actors, Crew & Creative Professionals in the World -- 10,000 "No"s listeners are being offered 2 FREE MONTHS of PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP to Mandy.com  Join now to get an exclusive offer for 10,000 "No"s Listeners: 10,000 "No"s Limited Time Podcast Partnership with Mandy.com  Premium Members have the ability to:  -apply to hundreds of jobs in film, TV and theatre -- Mandy features tons of jobs from Off-Broadway to Netflix to indie film to commercials and more!  -access Mandy's agency database and contact agents who are currently looking to expand their rosters  -utilize Mandy's resource list of headshot photographers, service providers, classes and more - many of which offer Mandy members special discounts  -networking events and more!    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review, and spread the word.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this surreal time of suspension, one of the best things you can do is reach out to loved ones, and sometimes strangers.  You never know where a "yes" will take you.  In fact, one of Matt's new connections will be this Friday's guest on the pod, pro-dancer turned marathon runner after being a victim of the 2013 Boston Marathon bombing, Adrianne Haslet. Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give you food for thought to chew on throughout your week. Listen for free by subscribing to 10,000 "No"s on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Stitcher or visiting 10000nos.com ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW: Instagram:  @10000nos JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE: Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch Coach With Matthew SHOP FOR THE ITEMS THAT HAVE SHAPED MATTHEW AS WELL AS OUR GUESTS' CREATIONS: Matt's Favorite Items FOLLOW MATTHEW: Instagram:  @mattydel Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At a time when resilience and survival instinct is at a premium, we revisit the indomitable spirit of Actress Melissa Ponzio.  Her track record as an athlete and an actor is a needed reminder that just because the current situation appears bleak, it does not mean that redemption and relief are not on their way.   GUEST LINKS:  Instagram: @MelissaPonzio1  Facebook: @OfficialMelissaPonzio  Twitter: @MelissaPonzio1  Personal Website: More on Melissa  IMDB: Melissa Ponzio     SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Limerence Link on Amazon Prime    WE ARE SUPPORTED BY MANDY.COM: Mandy.com is the #1 Job Site for Actors, Crew & Creative Professionals in the World -- 10,000 "No"s listeners are being offered 2 FREE MONTHS of PREMIUM MEMBERSHIP to Mandy.com Join now to get an exclusive offer for 10,000 "No"s Listeners: 10,000 "No"s Limited Time Podcast Partnership with Mandy.com Premium Members have the ability to: -apply to hundreds of jobs in film, TV and theatre -- Mandy features tons of jobs from Off-Broadway to Netflix to indie film to commercials and more! -access Mandy's agency database and contact agents who are currently looking to expand their rosters -utilize Mandy's resource list of headshot photographers, service providers, classes and more - many of which offer Mandy members special discounts -networking events and more!   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   Extreme Poverty to the Red Carpet, Toni Torres  Linden Ashby, Melrose Place to Teen Wolf  Juilliard, Dennis Leary & Everything Between, Actor Kevin Daniels    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Monday Morsels are the short-form companion to our Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s... brief riffs on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give you food for thought to chew on throughout your week.   Listen for free by subscribing to 10,000 "No"s on Apple Podcasts , Spotify , Stitcher or visiting 10000nos.com   ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW: Instagram:  @10000nos   JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE: Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch Coach With Matthew   SHOP FOR THE ITEMS THAT HAVE SHAPED MATTHEW AS WELL AS OUR GUESTS' CREATIONS: Matthew's Amazon Influencer Page   FOLLOW MATTHEW: Instagram:  @mattydel Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In the wake of chaos, Matt discusses why many of his, and others' biggest breakthroughs have come on the heels of, or because of perceived breakdowns.  When the walls come crumbling down, the ego is put on hold, allowing us to do whatever we need to do to survive... fertile ground for risk-taking and creation.    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Limerence Link on Amazon Prime    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act   Ep 131: Stay in the Moment  Ep 132:  F the Critic in Your Head  Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Henry Winkler is a legend that doesn't need much of an introduction.  It's likely you first knew him as "The Fonze" on Happy Days... or maybe you're a big fan of his current Emmy-Award Winning portrayal of Acting Teacher Gene Cousineau on HBO's Barry, or his equally hysterical performance as Barry Zuckerkorn, the Bluth family attorney, on Arrested Development.  But you may not know that he's the co-author of 35 children's books and one of the producers on MacGyver, or that he had to get over his self-assessment, as a kid, that he was a "dumb" outsider because he was dyslexic.  Despite his stardom and stature, he is full of humility, generosity and a love for the craft of storytelling.  His story is full of resilience and tales of overcoming his own 10,000 "No"s.    SHOW NOTES:  Henry's love and appreciation of being able to "do the work", (8:22). Growing up in Manhattan with parents that he disliked for being "severe", (11:30). Henry's relationship to education, being dyslexic, and how it has led him and his writing partner to write a series of books all about an outsider, (14:49). Henry discussing the chameleon-like talent of our mutual friend, Sam Rockwell, (16:40). Being a late bloomer and realizing that making a strong choice as an actor opened his imagination and enabled him to fly, (18:02). From age 7, he wanted to be an actor with no plan B, which hurt him when Happy Days ended, (20:20). Getting into producing despite his fear of being "dumb" because of his dyslexia, (22:22). The doing of something, producing, is what made Henry aware of what he was good at, (26:04). The real work that must be done on one's self, (27:04). "If I change, will I be accepted?", (27:43). A disastrous night at Neil Simon's house, (29:04). A chance at redemption with Neil Simon years later and how he almost sabotaged it out of fear, (31:38). Going to college despite not walking with his high school class, mostly due to his parents' desire for him to go to college, (35:57). Forgetting his Shakespeare monologue at the big TCG auditions and making it up on the spot, (37:17). A valuable lesson about owning his unique gift from a Prima Ballerina, (42:42).  The experience of Barry on HBO, where Bill Hader and Aleck Berg allowed Henry to bring his qualities to a role they imagined quite different from him, (44:09). A comparison of my relationship to my role on Huge in France and Henry's relationship to his role as the Fonze, "it's you they want", (48:10). A lesson about telling himself "no" while playing Scrooge in 1979, (49:16). On Inside the Actor's Studio Henry realizes the role of the Actor in the world - to hold a mirror to society, (51:24). Working with a young Sylvester Stallone on 'Lords of Flatbush' and realizing he was in the presence of greatness, (55:54). “If you know in your center that you’re on the right path, that this is the right thing… ya gotta keep going.", (1:00:09). A story about a pilot called Monty that started out hysterical and then was ruined by attempting to make it politically correct, (1:04:30) Working as a producer on MacGuyver, (1:09:38). Co-authoring 35 books despite feeling like he never could because of his dyslexia, (1:11:27). What Henry says to himself to get out a funk - you have to figure it out, (1:12:37).  Henry's love of fly-fishing, (1:13:38).  Henry's experience on Barry "everything you want it to be", (1:15:37).  Henry's advice to his younger self, (1:17:50)    GUEST LINKS:  IMDb:  Henry Winkler  Wikipedia:  Henry Winkler  Henry's Books on Amazon: Hank Zipzer The World's Greatest Underachiever 10 Book Slipcase Collection  Variety:  Henry Winkler Wins First Emmy: 'I Wrote This (Speech) 43 Years Ago'    A DEEPER DIVE INTO 10,000 "No"s:  Support the Pod With Your 10,000 "No"s Apparel Purchase Here  Shop Thru Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Inquire About Coaching With Matt    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 43:  Mark Duplass, Just Shoot It  Ep 53: Emmy-Award Winner Richard Schiff, of The West Wing & The Good Doctor  Ep 87: Erinn Hayes, How to Survive Being Killed Off a Sitcom Prematurely (by Scoring Lead Roles in TWO Netlfix Comedy Series)  Ep 118:  Actor Sarah Shahi, That Which Does Not Kill You Will Make You Stronger    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tyler Mitchell, alongside Brian Grazer and Ron Howard, is one of the forces behind the industry-upending Imagine Impact program.  Together, they have begun to successfully democratize access to the entertainment industry by changing the way studios, producers, directors and representatives connect to unknown writers from around the world, giving their material a legitimate shot at being the next great television series or film out of Hollywood. Before Tyler took the helm at Imagine Impact, he was Executive Vice President of Motion Pictures at Imagine Entertainment.  He has also written for television, co-writing two prime time shows for NBC – Kidnapped and My Own Worst Enemy as well as producing and co-writing the story for The Heart of Rock & Roll, a new musical inspired by the songs of Huey Lewis & The News, which is heading to Broadway after a record-breaking run last year in San Diego.    SHOW LINKS:  Instagram: @ImpactImagine  Facebook: @ImpactImagine  Twitter: @ImpactImagine  IMDB: More on Tyler  Website: More on Imagine Impact  Article: Screen Daily  Building on new Australia deal, Imagine Impact’s Tyler Mitchell eyes greater global reach    A DEEPER DIVE INTO 10,000 "No"s:  Support the Pod With Your 10,000 "No"s Apparel Purchase Here  Shop Thru Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Inquire About Coaching With Matt    FOLLOW MATT FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email [email protected] with feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 43:  Mark Duplass, Just Shoot It  Ep 47: Goliath Showrunner, Lawrence Trilling  Ep 61: Elite Hollywood Producer, Jennifer Todd    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a concerned Dad, Husband, Human and Artist who happens to have a podcast about resilience, I felt the need to use this platform to encourage others to remain hopeful in a time of uncertainty, look for the silver-linings, look out for others and figure out a way to use our own unique gifts to contribute to calm and resilience rather than fear and panic.  COVID AWARENESS RESOURCES: 15 min clip from Joe Rogan, How Serious is Coronavirus? Infectious Disease Expert Michael Osterholm Full Conversation with Michael Osterterholm, Ep #1439, The Joe Rogan Experience The Coronavirus Isn't Going Away from Deep Background with Noah Feldman What We Know About Coronavirus Spreads from Deep Background with Noah Feldman YouTube:  Journalist Goes Undercover at "Wet Markets" LA Times Op-Ed:  Italy is on a Coronavirus Lockdown ANNOUNCEMENTS, PROMO VIDS & MORE, FOLLOW:  Instagram:  @10000nos  Twitter: @10000nos JOIN THE 10,000 "No"s TRIBE:  Visit our website to subscribe to the mailing list Shop for 10,000 "No"s Merch  Coach With Matthew   PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface FOLLOW MATTHEW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: How to Reframe ANY "Problem" to Make it Help You Get Stronger   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amidst the current state of panic from the Corona Virus, I was told that past guest, Drago Sumonja had died of cancer. In the Fall of 2017 as his critically-acclaimed "Lucky", starring Harry Dean Stanton, was hitting the theaters.  Years before that, he had created the documentary film, "Character", with Peter Faulk, Dabney Coleman and many others in what I believe to be a must-see for young actors. This episode is a look back at what Drago left behind and a call to action for the rest of us to make bold moves with the time we are allotted.   MORE ABOUT OUR GUEST: IMDB:  Drago Sumonja Rolling Stone, Peter Travers: 'Lucky' Review:  Harry Dean Stanton Gets the Goodbye He Deserves   A DEEPER DIVE INTO 10,000 "No"s: Support the Pod With Your 10,000 "No"s Apparel Purchase Here Shop Thru Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.) Inquire About Coaching With Matt   FOLLOW MATT FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT: Instagram:  @mattydel Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 12: "Lucky" Screenwriter Slings Drinks by Night, Drago Sumonja Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com   If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jere Shea is a Tony Nominated actor who worked like a bandit right out of NYU's Acting Program.  But when he realized touring on stage throughout the country was going to prevent him from raising his kids in the manner he desired, he walked away from it all to put his family first.  After two decades, spent working in politics in Boston, Showtime came knocking on his door and, in a flash, he found himself acting across from Kevin Bacon on one of their hit shows.      SHOW NOTES:  Being out of the business for 2 decades, and returning to the stage with the musical, The Secret Garden, (5:55). “They said, ‘Are you going to stay over tonight daddy?’ They thought I was visiting. They didn’t know that I was living with them anymore. They assumed as preschoolers that I just no longer lived with them. I was gone too long.”, (6:57). Making the decision of wanting to help raise his children, (9:15). Gaining interest in ‘City on a Hill’, (11:30). Taking up offers of script readings whenever he was around, (13:46). Finding out about the death of his character on ‘City on a Hill’, (15:45). Returning back to acting after 14 years of working in fundraising, (19:05). “I’m really reintroducing myself in the business, and that is why it was so great to play Hank in ‘City on a Hill’.”, (21:16). Growing up in Hyde Park, Boston, (22:03). “It wasn’t always an easy place to grow up to, and at times, it felt like it was a good place to get out of.”, (22:29). Watching people running around and having fun on television at a young age, (24:39). “Ironically, I spent a lot of the time alone as a kid in a big family of kids.”, (25:46). Growing up during desegregation of schools, (27:50). Starting college on behavioral probation, (30:40). “Having taken 20 years out of acting, I never felt that I left the mindset behind.”, (33:25). Honing in on his acting career with attending NYU Tisch for his MBA, (36:55). Understudying with several well-known actors and actresses in Shakespeare in the Park during college, (41:02). Knowing his family was always his priority despite being nominated for a Tony Award, (45:00). “I was getting hired or offers to sign for a year in Canada. But you sign your life away and you just go. I knew enough not to sign a year to go out the country.”, (46:05). "The pressure to work to support them is intense for any person with a family. I wanted to stay busy, but I didn’t want to miss out on seeing them grow.”, (46:38). Feeling stability from his family and knowing there was a place he could return to, (48:57). “The notion an artist has to starve or suffer is bullsh*t to me. I tried that route and I did plenty of it. I starved. I had no money.”, (49:21). Finding common ground in the Protestant faith with his wife, (51:37). Maintaining a mindset of service from the Jesuit values of BC, (53:38). Defining ‘No’ as a ‘Not yet’, (57:20). “Finally realizing, ‘I have to let go some of my fears about this world and allow myself to be hurt.’ I don’t have to be such a hard guy anymore.”, (1:01:40).     GUEST LINKS:  Instagram: @JereShea  Facebook: @JereSheaOfficial  Twitter: @JereShea  IMDB: More On Jere Shea  Article: Jere Shea Provides Insight on his Character, Hank Signa    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 104:  City on a Hill Actor, Mark O'Brien  Ep 116: Showtime's City on a Hill Creator, Chuck MacLean:  How to Make it in Hollywood Even if You're a "Sh*tbum from Quincy"  Ep 125:  Amanda Clayton, The Long, Long Road to City on a Hill   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We are all subject to the voice in our own head who is saying "no" to us all the time.  It's time to acknowledge him or her, examine the poison they're putting in our bloodstream every day, and then make a decision to stop letting them control what we do and, more importantly, don't do as a result of their crippling advice.  If you feel like you're holding yourself back, driving around your life with the emergency brake pulled up, this solo episode will help you realize you have lots of company and it is possible break free from the slavery to which your inner critic has been subjecting you.    SHOW NOTES:  Walking to meet with his sister in Manhattan and recalling some past memories, (4:35). “That kind of bummed me out, to see people buried, and I myself find myself looking down at times when I should be looking up.”, (6:28).  “There is something to be said for going back to where you were at a certain point in your life and examining it in an objective way. Noting what you were thinking, what you were striving for?”, (7:37). Breaking down the specifics of a call for the 10,000 “No”s book, (10:07). “Where you go wrong, in my opinion, is if you let the past or the future trump the present moment.”, (12:36). “There’s so much noise coming at us these days – podcasts, shows, interviews, and self help. If it helps you stay in the moment and better about what you are passionate about, great.”, (16:56). “How are you bringing your unique combination of thoughts, feelings, emotions to whatever it is that you are doing?”, (18:30).    SHOW LINKS:  Simon Callow:  Stanislavski was Racked by Self-Doubt  Buy The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks from Matt's Amazon Influencer Storefront  How to Raise Your Upper Limit & Make Messy First Drafts (Cathy Heller)  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Limerence (Indie Film) Link on Amazon Prime    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App or on Spotify to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Looking back and taking stock is important for learning from your past.  Visualizing a crystal clear goal in the future keeps you on track.  But staying in the moment trumps everything when it comes to acting, parenting, sports, business or any other activities.  The virtues of a nostalgic walk through New York City and the upcoming time table of a Summer 2020 book release are weighed against the power of staying in the moment in this solo riff.    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)  Limerence Link on Amazon Prime    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App or on Spotify to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Former 10,000 "No"s guest Zander Fryer met his fiance, Maddy Applin from across the world after being pushed to post a Facebook Live in his Business Group in 2017 entitled "Help Me Find Love". He was in San Diego and she was in Australia.  They now live together in Encinitas, California.  You'll hear the details of how Maddy moved halfway across the world for love, but all you need to know right now is that your approach to life, whether in business or in love, determines the results you will get.  In keeping with our theme, if you're lonely this Valentine's Day perhaps you need to examine where you are limiting your own opportunities with internal "no"s that are preventing you from meeting the person of your dreams or creating the life and career that you desire.    SHOW NOTES:  Meeting together in 2017 from a Facebook Live event, (5:07). “This is something that a lot of people do. Once you’ve had your heart broken once, you never want to have your heart broken again.”, (9:55). “You can get really comfortable just crafting your craft, and that is the comfortable piece. I got really comfortable working on myself because that is the piece that I enjoyed and that made me feel good, but actually putting myself out there and going on dates is the really scary piece.”, (11:05). Maddy listening to a podcast and finding out about Zander and his work, (13:27). Making a commitment to yourself to get out of your comfort zone with bold requests, (15:09). Maddy persevering by reaching out again after a botched “second date”, (20:45). How Maddy works with her clients around belief systems and dealing with their subconscious limiting beliefs, (27:20). “They might have the outward success and everything they have dreamed of, but they still don’t feel successful.”, (28:16). How Zander’s approach unprograms our identities and beliefs that have created the problems we experience, (30:43).    GUEST LINKS:  Website: More on Zander's Sh*t You Don't Learn in College  Website: More on Maddy's Build a Millionaire Mindset    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 7: Train Your Brain, Hypnotherapist & Meditation Teacher Amy Budden  Ep 11: Panic Attacks to Perfect Life, Craig Ballantyne  Ep 46: Sh*t You Don’t Learn in College, Zander Fryer   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sam Apuzzo is one of the most decorated athletes in Boston College history.  During her career with the Eagles, Apuzzo helped lead the team to three consecutive national championship appearances and two back-to-back undefeated regular seasons during her junior and senior years. She holds the all-time program records for career points, goals and draw controls, and is tied with teammate Kenzie Kent for the fastest number of games to reach 100 career points (25). She ranks fourth all-time in assists. She holds the first, third and fourth single-season point records as well as the first, second and third single-season goal records.  Over her career, she had four 10-point performances, headlined by a nine-goal contribution against Navy and multiple eight-goal outputs.    Apuzzo reigns as BC's only Tewaaraton Award recipient (2018) - for those of you not familiar with this award it is the equivalent of the Heisman Trophy for NCAA Football or the Hobie Baker Award in college Hockey - it means she was voted the best of the best.  She was also a nominee the year before she won and a top-five finalist the year after. She also claimed the Honda Award for Lacrosse in 2018 and was a finalist again in 2019. She was a three-time IWLCA First Team All-America selection a two-time IWLCA Attacker of the Year, a two-time Inside Lacrosse Preseason All-American, a three-time NCAA All-Tournament Team selection, a three-time All-ACC First Team selection, a three-time All-ACC Tournament Team selection and the ACC Attacker of the Year honoree in back-to-back years but what I loved about her most when we sat down was that, despite all of this, at her core she is just a hard-working, polite and humble young woman with a love for the game that I once played at the same college, albeit not nearly as well as she did.  She made me proud to be a Boston College alum and, as you'll hear, in keeping with the 10,000 "No"s theme, while she has reached heights at a young age that many of us will never reach her accomplishments did not come without resilience and the ability to overcome setbacks and missteps.      SHOW NOTES:  Having to always be ready to play for the USA Lacrosse Team, (3:20 // 6:45). Describing her family upbringing with sports, (9:44). Attending a high school where a few other players have won the Tewaaraton Award, (14:13). Playing varsity lacrosse in 8th grade, (17:02). “She kind of really helped me through the whole thing. She told me, ‘They need you out there,’ which really gave me confidence when I didn’t really have much as a 13 year old playing on a high school field.”, (19:19). “I’m generally a quiet person. For me to yell at someone was a really difficult thing even in college too; I had a hard time with that. My coach always pushed me to say things or explain to the entire team to get me out of my comfort zone.”,(21:45). Coming really close to receiving a first place in several championships, (23:52). Receiving the opportunity to get the team to the Olympic Games 2028, (28:25). Looking up to a senior in high school who won the Tewaaraton Award, (30:12). “I think I’m still not where I should be. There’s always room for improvement. It’s weird to think I’m at the top of the elite lacrosse players now. I still think there are so many great players further above me.”, (32:16). Being an alternate for a World Cup in senior year of high school, (34:37).  “I wasn’t necessarily the top 25 of my class.”, (36:20). Gaining more confidence in making connections with others,(39:13). “It’s part of the lacrosse world, and it is part of the BC world. You don’t really think about it as much when you’re in the moment with all that stuff.”, (44:08).    GUEST LINKS:  Instagram: @Sam_Apuzzo  NCAA Video: Sam Scores Sudden Victory  Boston College's Sam Apuzzo wins 2018 Tewaaraton award  BC Sports: Sam's Lacrosse Stats    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 45: Boston College Women’s Lacrosse Coach, Acacia Walker   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On the verge of a big job and the heels of finishing the writing phase of his upcoming book, Matt warns about the dangers of expectations and how they can squeeze the life out of you if you're not careful.  Sometimes the most important thing is to get started.  Many times once you are obedient to that higher calling, people and situations arise from out of the woodwork to help you figure out the logistics.   SHOW NOTES: “It doesn’t matter what the external validations that happen to be going on in your life at that particular moment are. It is internal. It is your thought process. It is your choice to focus on the good and minimize the bad. It doesn’t mean to ignore the bad, but it means to not let it get a grip of you.”,(4:26). Recognizing the lack of gratitude in yourself, (5:05). “It started with this urge to express myself. This urge to use myself up in some way that did not require someone to hire me in order to do something.”, (9:40). Not knowing if your dreams will come true on any day, (14:00). Having people each step of the way who help with logistics, (16:25). Taking the leap to get things done, (18:08).   SHOW LINKS: Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)   FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW: Instagram:  @mattydel Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 73: Best-selling Author/Speaker/ Pro/College Sport & Fortune 500 Leadership Consultant,  Jon Gordon, on Grit, Attitude  & Faith Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com   If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Miki Agrawal was named "Fast Company's Most Creative People, "Young Global Leader" by the World Economic Forum and Inc's "Most Impressive Women Entrepreneurs".  She is the co-founder Tushy, Thinx and Wild Restaurants... which are valued at a combined $150Million dollars.  She is currently the CEO of Tushy.  She has found success by being a disruptive innovator - building each one of her companies by taking something that was challenging to her, and underserved in the market place, mostly because the topics they dealt with were considered taboo by the business world, and standing firm on her beliefs in the face of critics and doubters.    SHOW NOTES:   Facing high expectations from parents and gaining drive from knowing what they do is never enough, (4:37). “There’s a part of me that is chilled and laid back. I’m pretty intense and hardcore about everything – immigrant family mentality.”, (7:12). Desiring to genuinely chill out at times to calm her mind, (9:08). Spending her entire life as an entrepreneur and having a ‘getting after it’ mentality, (9:30). Playing soccer and badminton at a young age, (9:58). Being taken off the basketball team by her dad, (10:45). Having been the smallest people on the field with her sister, (12:57). “You lose a play, you have to get up, get back and your head into the game. I think it lends well into entrepreneurship.”, (13:27). Working summer jobs at LA for different film studios at 19 and raising nearly $10,000, (14:35). Playing D-1 soccer all 4 years at Cornell, (20:10). Quitting with her sister after her coach wanted to bench her last 2 games senior year, (18:37). “My sister and I found out the investment banks were holding first come first serve interviews for anyone in the communication and arts school. They pick one or two from the school to bring in a creative perspective.”, (20:38). Getting to the final round of interviews for every investment bank with her sister and receiving a job, (23:10). Starting her job at the investment bank in NYC during 9/11, (23:50). “It made me realize that life is so short. I calculated from 22 years old to the point you die, you only have 21,000 days to live. The average human dies at around 80-85. 21,000 dies to live and what are we going to do with our lives? Are we going to spend it chasing down money or are we going to follow our dreams or passions?”, (25:39). Making it into the New York Magic soccer team, (27:56). Working in the film business as a production assistant in NY after investment banking, (30:26). Wanting to create NYC’s first gluten-free, organic pizza in 2004 after giving up eating pizza, (32:09). Bringing together a group of people to start a business idea, (37:10). “I always lead with, ‘How can I help you first?’ before asking for help first.”, (37:35). “That is what I keep on telling people. Just DM people and tell them you want to work for them for free for a couple of months.”, (40:52). “You have to know what your zone of genius us. My zone of genius is definitely not operations. I’m a creative. I come up with the ideas, the campaign, the aesthetics and I find people.”, (46:00). Breaking down the stigmas of talking about reproductive health for women, (49:08). Delivering 3,000 pairs of underwear for women, (52:57). Not being allowed to say the word, ‘period’ on ads in NYC and made a full press story about it, putting them on the map, (56:00). Finding Hello Tushy from realizing the inefficiency of toilet paper, (58:00). “I find we live in a world where we overthink everything. No, we figure things out. We learn, we grow from them. What has been revealed to me?”, (1:17:38//1:05:58).    GUEST LINKS:  Website: Miki's Personal Site  Instagram: @MikiAgrawal  Twitter: @TwinMiki  Book: Disrupt-Her: A Manifesto for the Modern Woman  Book: Do Cool Sh*t: Quit Your Day Job, Start Your Own Business, and Live Happily Ever After  Website: Hello Tushy - Miki's Company    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 80: How to Build Your Own Empire When Others Don't Give You What You Want, Social Media Icon Simonetta Lein   Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Dr. Christopher J. Burns is a trauma surgeon in Boston and a member of Harvard Medical School’s faculty. Before that, he was a US Navy SEAL. But the reason he is on 10,000 “No”s is that before that he was one of my best friends at Boston College.   Burns’ life reads like the script of Forest Gump and this conversation runs the gamut from two old friends reminiscing and busting chops to ample amounts of wisdom being dropped by a man who has been exposed to the extremities of the human experience both as a soldier and a surgeon.  At the very least, it will leave you wanting to join us for linguini with white clam sauce in Boston’s North End.    SHOW NOTES:  Having a first impression of Chris as a leader while we met at BC, (5:15). Clarifying his role as an instructor of surgery at Harvard Medical School, (11:42). “There are certain phrases and teachings my dad has given me through the years, and he has always said, ‘You don’t actually know something until you can teach it.’”, (18:05). Describing his childhood activities and moments with family, (19:37). Recalling the start of his gymnastics team experience at age 6, (24:10). Knowing that he wanted to be a doctor since he was 5, (26:40). Discovering break dancing in his youth, (29:10). Completing over 20 operations on a Marines medic after taking a shot in Afghanistan, (36:36). Operating on pilots after being shot down by an RPG, (38:30). Being born with fluid in his ear making him hear almost as if he was underwater, (40:50). Relearning how to speak while seeing a speech pathologist, (41:30). “I had a problem and the surgeon fixed it. That was a very real tangible for me, and I thought I want to be a surgeon because I want to take a problem and fix it. I knew that at age 5.”,(44:06). Aspiring to become a fighter pilot prior to the release of Top Gun, (47:07). Describing how a SEAL officer leads from the front of the lines, (50:35). “I had my silly little reserve ID, and I said, ‘My name is Chris. I think I want to be a SEAL. Can I talk to someone?’”, (52:45). “These are not superheroes; These are just men who can do super things.”, (56:20). Relying on his religion to cope with encountering death in both the fields of a SEAL and surgeon, (1:03:46). “There are a few moments in my life where I have been privileged to be a fly on the wall. I happen to be in the room for a reason, but really I was a fly on the ball because I was basically irrelevant.”, (1:16:00). Recalling moments where he only listened to a conversation with SEAL Team 6, (1:16:20). “People talk about the new normal. By day 3, I’m getting my ego shoved down my throat and getting completely beat up. Walking through the front door isn’t as exciting anymore.”, (1:24:20). “Sacrifice hurts to the bone. To some degree, I may tell myself, ‘You have no idea how hard it is going to be because it is far harder than I thought it was going to be.’”, (1:41:58).    GUEST LINKS:  Website: Boston College  Website: Harvard Medical School  Website: Brigham and Women's Hospital  Website: South Shore Hospitalg    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 90: Melissa Ponzio, Teen Wolf's Mama McCall: Honesty and Authenticity on  the Journey to Being a Professional Actor  Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    Disclaimer:  Because of the nature of our relationship and the tenor of this interview, I cut Dr. Burns off many times.  Some of those times, he felt he was never able to get back to his original intent in bringing up the story. Wherever that happens, I take full responsibility.  At one point, near where Burns referenced a story containing the phrase "Pedro 66" he mentioned another helo accident where "everybody involved was killed"... he cannot confirm that everybody was killed but certainly many people died.  He failed to mention that, in addition to Brigham and Women's Hospital, he works at South Shore Hospital because I never gave him the opportunity to finish. As a sign of respect to his colleagues there, he felt it imperative to correct that.  I decided to keep the conversation very raw because I felt that it added entertainment value, but he did not want anyone walking away offended or upset that certain facts were not set straight. There were a few more discrepancies that concerned him, but in the interest of time, I ask you to just write into the show at [email protected] if you have complaints or want to get specifics worked out.  Thank you.    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amanda Clayton has hit her stride, with her latest portrayal of Cathy Ryan, the tough-as-nails wife of an armed car robber, on Showtime's City on a Hill.  But long before she was dazzling millions in their living rooms, she was grinding, first as an athlete and then as a waiter and theater actor.  She eventually nabbed a series regular role on Tyler Perry's television series, If Loving You is Wrong, where she did nearly 100 episodes, but it wasn't easy getting there.  We take a deep dive into the long grind of becoming a working actor.  Amanda admits to the sometimes infuriating, embarrassing and painful aspects of her journey, making this episode funny, heartbreaking and, ultimately redemptive.  If you're not in the entertainment business, this episode will entertain you. If you're an aspiring actor, wondering whether you'll ever get your break, this episode is a must listen.    SHOW NOTES:  “I told my mom when I was 3 years old that I wanted to live inside the television,” (4:13). Constantly being involved in sports and cheerleading with her 2 sisters, (8:22). Discovering theater will consume most of her time while in college, (10:41). “There was that thing about affecting people that was the truest, purest form of it. That 3 year old mentality *gasp* ‘This is awesome. I want to do this to somebody.’ I want everybody to feel this way. That feeling of want to cry so badly.”, (15:17). “I was so shy. As far as putting myself out there in front of anybody, I was an athlete and a cheerleader. I had a ton of friends and it was a wonderful experience in high school, but I was so reserved and embarrassed to put myself out there in front of anybody,” (16:54). Taking her mother’s advice on going into college as undecided with her studies, (22:32). “It was my first time taking this stand on my own. This is my time and this is what I want to do. I’m going to go with the theatre group and sign up for theatre classes,” (23:42). Seeking out acting opportunities in New York with family, (27:02). Leaving college and moved to NYC at 19 after convincing her parents that acting is her passion, (30:30). Watching the 9/11 attacks unfold from Brooklyn, (31:03). “I think that was oddly enough a big catalyst too, to be like, ‘Nothing is going to stop us from doing what we want to do,'” (32:37). “I bring it up too because without those things, I don’t think I would’ve believed enough in myself,” (35:14). “As actors in general, I think we always need that, ‘Hey, you’re doing great,’ because we are so wrapped up,” (37:58). Encountering pressure from parents to have a fallback plan, (42:57). “I had no idea whatsoever how to run my own business of being an actor. I had no idea of how to promote myself,” (46:30). Living in LA for 7 years and met an agent at the restaurant she was waitressing in, (49:34). “It was just waiting for the thing to come and then, I got into this really awful habit of waiting for something to happen,” (54:42). Losing her best friend to suicide in NY, (57:52). “Every opportunity I decided finally to just go, ‘Ok great, ok perfect. I’m doing this. I finally got that job,’ I started making money right away,” (1:02:25). Being approached by an agent, but they didn’t know what they were doing, (1:07:22). “And I started getting myself really ready to get into that door. Now I can do what I’ve always been able to do, but now I have to do it for the right people,” (1:19:29). Receiving a first audition for a sitcom to be a season regular, (1:20:37). “This is where I’m supposed to be, and I know it is the right time, so I sat down and no one acknowledged me. No one even looked up from a desk. Nothing at all,” (1:22:23). “I want to go in there and I don’t want to let them win. That is not fair. I almost gave up because of them,” (1:30:52). Making full use of her acting techniques, (1:38:27). Feeling an immediate connection to her City on a Hill character prior to her audition, (1:45:37). “I loved getting really to dive into a character in that way,” (1:50:09). “This sucks because I’m never going to do this again. I have to assume right here and now that this is never going to happen ever again in my career. That this is the most incredible role I’m going to get and it is never going to get better than this.”, (1:54:33). “The word ‘No,’ actually means ‘You’re welcome.’ (1:57:59).    GUEST LINKS:  IMDB: More on Amanda  Instagram: @TheAmandaClayton  Twitter: @MandaClayton  Interview: City on a Hill  Behind the Scenes: City on a Hill Setup    SHOW LINKS:  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter:  @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook:  Matthew Del Negro Fan Site  LinkedIn:  @MatthewDelNegro  Email us feedback, guest suggestions or to be added to our MAILING LIST     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 90: Melissa Ponzio, Teen Wolf's Mama McCall: Honesty and Authenticity on  the Journey to Being a Professional Actor  Browse Our Episode Archives at 10000nos.com    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. 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As we continue our holiday hiatus, we give you another one of last year's transformational New Year's interviews, this time with top strength coach and transformation specialist, Jay Ferruggia. If you are in the midst of beginning your New Year's resolutions, you don't want to miss this one.  Enjoy...    Jay Ferruggia is bald, jacked and tattoed.  So it's easy to be intimidated by him or judge him from afar, as I once did.  But scratch the surface and under the muscular build is a sensitive, inquisitive soul who has made it his life's work to strengthen others physically, psychologically and spiritually, as he did for me for a recent role.  Our conversation covers topics as specific as the benefits of sea salt and top training techniques, to Jay's systematic strategies to overcome his "introvert" label and become a super-connector.  Jay's transformation from a "skinny-fat" kid from Jersey to influencing tens of thousands of followers through his books, his podcast, his articles and his weekend retreat events is the stuff of movies.  You will come away knowing more about how to transform your body and, more importantly, your mind in order live up to your full potential.    SHOW NOTES:  How I judged Jay based on his appearance before ever speaking to him, (4:57). Growing up watching Stallone and Schwarzenegger, (6:41). Contracting tuberculosis during Sophomore year of college, (7:39). Creating one of the original underground gyms, (8:59). Writing for numerous health and fitness magazines, (10:53). The science behind fitness training, (12:44). Considering your stress levels, gut health and sleep before stepping into the gym, (14:12). Mastering technique in the gym, (15:11). Seeking out the information that is right for you, (16:47). Confusion around different types of diets, (17:51). “Science shows you need to train a body part or muscle group at least twice a week.”, (20:29). Training to become better, not sore, (22:14). Misconceptions around salt, (24:33). Moving out to Santa Monica 8 years ago to begin a transformation, (26:50). Urging others to reinvent themselves, (28:07). “You can’t preach and teach people, you just need to lead by example.”, (32:19). Being a Super-Connector, (37:01). Pushing yourself to do uncomfortable things, (39:07). Taking the reins with meeting new people, (42:32). Limiting the number of tasks in a day, (46:33). “Sometimes asking ‘Why?’ five, six, seven times is important.”, (49:31). Intertwining of masculinity and sensitivity, (54:47). “Now, I tell people when I have weakness and need help.” , (56:56). The Ben Franklin Effect, (57:16). Rewriting the narrative of needing alone time, (59:05).    LINKS:  Website: More on Jason  Instagram: @JayFerruggia  Podcast: Jason's Renegade Radio Podcast  Book: Jason's Renegade Diet Book    Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020)    Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show    Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:    Ep 11: Panic Attacks to Perfect Life, Craig Ballantyne  Ep 13: Dumpster Diver to “Overnight” Millionaire, Bedros Keuilian    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As we continue our holiday hiatus, we give you last year's New Year's day interview again because it is so inspirational in terms of Transformation.  It applies as much as we kick off 2020 as it did at the start of 2019.  Enjoy...   Charlie Rocket ran a multi-million dollar business where he managed hip-hop artists like 2 Chainz into Grammy Awards.  But he weighed over 300 lbs and was diagnosed with a brain tumor so he decided to do what he has done his entire life:  dream the biggest dream and then set about working toward attaining it, regardless of whether his family and friends thought he was crazy.  One of those dreams was to be a Nike Athlete, which came true when his fan-created commercial of his transformation from obesity to Ironman went viral and he was flown to Nike's headquarters in Oregon.  That trip led to Charlie being featured alongside Lebron James and Serena Williams in a commercial with Colin Kaepernick... something that Charlie had been writing in his journal for months prior.    His worldview has such simplicity that it is unique:  to remove the brain and allow himself to dream like a child.  But his follow-through and workmanship, fueled by these dreams, is what has so many people talking about him.  10,000 "No"s intended to be on a two month break for the holidays, but this inspiring conversation felt too pertinent to release on any other day of the year besides New Year's Day.  Launch into your 2019 with the wise words of Charlie Rocket!    SHOW NOTES:  Coming from a long line of vacuum salespeople, (8:11).  Getting fired by Soldier Boy at age 18 and deciding to rep musicians as a talent manager, (11:17).  "If you want to be successful, you have to be of servitude, (12:50).  Posting hundreds of MySpace comments for hours every single day to build an audience one person at a time, (14:00).   Driving the entire coast to 'Salute the DJ' and build an army of DJs who would ultimately help him and his artists win a Grammy, (14:45).  Serving DJs by making it easier for them to access their music better by building the biggest DJ website in the world for Urban DJs, DJservicepack.com, (16:41).  How Charlie executed these big dream ideas, (18:07).  "The key thing is, I shut down my brain...", (19:47).  Walking away from a very successful music career at 305lbs, with a brain tumor, to become an athlete, (21:41).  Why Nike was so special to Charlie from a young age, (25:17).  How Charlie turned his recurring journal entry of a year into a reality, (29:01).  Charlie's dichotomy of being a dreamer and a pragmatic practitioner, (30:46).  Being honest and asking for help from followers, (35:44).  Mobilizing a fan base to help launch a book, (37:13).  Shrinking the brain tumor through a diet of living foods, (39:45).  The word "no" really means "not yet", (40:46).   The "Buy, Cry or Die" theory, (41:01).  What Charlie learned about marketing from PDiddy, (42:39).  Bad relationship to spending money, "We spend it and get it back, we that invented that.", (45:29).  The negatives knock you down, but they're also the tools to your positives... so you can change anything, (47:49).  Charlie's lone regret about not spending enough time with his grandfather because he was chasing the flash of the music industry(48:31).    LINKS:  Website: More on Charlie  Twitter: @CharlieJabaley  Podcast: Charlie Rocket Show  YouTube: Fan Made Nike Commercial  YouTube: Nike's 30th Anniversary Ad  Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020)   Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 39: Unplug Meditation CEO/Founder, Suze Yalof Schwartz  Ep 43:  Mark Duplass, Just Shoot It  Ep 72: Jimmy Jam, Legendary Music Producer   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt was a guest on Brian Levenson's podcast, Intentional Performers on October 9, 2019.  Due to the holiday hiatus, and with the generosity of Brian, we are reposting it here on 10,000 "No"s.  Here is the description from Brian's feed...   Matthew Del Negro joins us on this week's episode of the podcast.  Matthew is an actor that has played a wide range of roles in features both on TV and in theater.  He has worked on TV shows such as Scandal, Sopranos, West Wing, Showtime's United States of Tara, MTV's Teen Wolf, and now he's on a show called Goliath on Amazon Prime.  He is a philosopher at heart, a deep thinker, and he will talk about how he's been reflective throughout his life and how that's led him to this journey of acting.  He's also a podcast host, and his podcast 10,000 No's has all kinds of incredible guests.  Matthew is on a journey and he's trying to find out how he can be a great actor and great at other parts of his life.  He is obsessed with adversity and hearing no, and how others have developed a relationship with adversity and how to turn failures or no's into opportunities.    SHOW NOTES:  In this episode, they discuss what he was doing in San Diego (8:19), what life was like growing up (11:41), the lessons he learned from sports (12:30), where turning no’s into yes’s came from for him (17:40), when lacrosse came into his life (19:58), what it was like playing lacrosse at BC (21:35), how he got into acting (26:00), the moment he decided he wanted to be an actor (29:10), how his parents reacted to him saying he’d be an actor (30:50), what his vision was like in his 20’s (29:00), how he’s changed as an actor (30:40), his religious framework (36:40), the similarities and differences between lacrosse and being an actor (41:40), the systems or processes he’s put in place to handle rejection (44:00), the priming he does before he performs (46:35), questioning of his identity (50:50), how he defines success (54:40), what makes a great story (58:30), how to cultivate connection (59:20), his mindfulness techniques (1:02:00), and what has most helped shape him (1:04:20)  Thank you to Matthew for coming on the podcast. We encourage you to check out his podcast, “10,000 No’s” at https://www.10000nos.com/. You can find him on Instagram @mattydel, Twitter @MatthewDelNegro, Facebook @delnegrofansite, and you can email him at [email protected].  Lastly, if you liked this episode and/or any others, please support us at Patreon or follow me on Twitter: @brianlevenson or Instagram: @Intentional_Performers.    LINKS:  Intentional Performers with Brian Levenson Podcast on Podbean  Pre-order Matt's Upcoming Indie Film, Limerence, on iTunes here!!! (available for streaming on all platforms Jan 7, 2020)  Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show  Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 92:  What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded for Later  Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As 2019 draws to a close and Matt writes furiously on his book to make a deadline, we preview some of our upcoming guests, including Henry Winkler, former Navy SEAL Chris Burns turned trauma surgeon Chris Burns and Sam Apuzzo who was the best player in NCAA Women's Lacrosse two years ago and now assistant coaching at Boston College. We also discuss the importance of improvising during the holidays in this short solo episode.   SHOW NOTES: Currently writing a book about 10,000 ‘NO’s with the end of the year deadline, (1:10). Planning to rerelease past episodes, (2:04). Laying out what is in store for future episodes, (3:40).   If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App or on Spotify to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a professional track and field athlete and Olympic Trials Qualifier, Steven Benedict has run in some of the world's most prestigious events. In addition to the Adidas Classic Diamond League and US Nationals, he spent two years running for Nike and was a Penn Relays Champion. Featured in 50 national and international magazines, such as Train, ESPN Magazine, Men's Fitness, Men's Health, and Fitness RX, Steven has expertise and contributions that extend far beyond the track.  But his story is that of a boy overcoming incredible odds to, not only compete on such a high level, but to just be alive.   Over the course of his first 8 years, Steven was moved between homes and motels with little certainty of what the next day would bring. At age 8, he and his brother were adopted by an incredible couple, who possessed traits of joy, humility, sacrifice and unconditional love. The time with these parents would be short lived, however, as both his mom and dad suffered untimely deaths within a few years of each other. The pain of these losses nearly ended Steven’s professional career but, once again, Steven defied the odds and continues to overcome his 10,000 "No"s.      SHOW NOTES:  Going back and forth between foster care and his biological mother’s arms at 4 months old, (4:35). “He saw fit to lay his hands on us and beat us when we were young. I was hospitalized.”, (6:15). Being forced out of childhood and into a father-figure role to take care of his brother, (6:35). “I felt that there was more stability for us going into foster care even though stability for us at that point was just to have a roof over our head, a warm bed to sleep in and a hot meal to eat.”, (7:51). Learning how observant of a person he was in foster home, (10:42). “My brother thought that was our permanent home and he was angry at my adopted parents for taking them away, thinking he was taken away from his family now.”, (11:55). Getting involved into sports, music and art with his adopted mother, (14:10). Joining track and field at summer camp when he was 9 and continued into high school, (15:20). “There’s always going to be somebody better and there’s always going to be somebody that has a little more natural talent, but I think where I make up for that is my work ethic.”, (18:45). Wondering a bunch of questions about his past, (21:21). “I had bottled up, unresolved problems from my past and that kind of overflowed in high school. I had to go see somebody to talk to about getting into fights and being hot-tempered.”, (22:15). Finding out his biological father was incarcerated and hung himself in jail, (24:15). “I took a whole year to take toll of who I was, who I was becoming and really clear up a bunch of stuff on the inside I was working through.”, (28:48). “We get angry over the smallest things, and then we let them build and accumulate into these mountains and we forget why were originally angry.”, (30:20). “I think we all evolve. If not, we’re just being stagnant, and that is one of the main things about humans is that if you’re not evolving, you’re just existing.”, (33:03). Tearing his hamstring while heading to Olympic trials in 2008 at the same time losing his parents, (35:27). “I feel like I’ve tackled all of these things so early that it has become the story. It’s not the story of just all the things I’ve come through. I’m not looking for it to be a crutch. It is more of a catalyst to me.”, (42:45). Engaging in track and field at the age of 35, (47:10). “I feel like for the first time, an actual coach is listening to the athlete and listening to me.”, (48:20). Believing in the importance of sleep, (52:21). “You have to do the legwork. You have to make a name for yourself. You have to be a brand on your own and you have to treat yourself as a business.”, (57:45). Aspiring to build a home for foster kids impacted by sports, (1:00:45). “You have to be able to accept the ‘No’, but you also have to be able to give a ‘No.’”, (1:04:15).   LINKS:  Website: More on Steve  Instagram: @steviey_b  Twitter: @benedict_steven  Interview: Training at Dragball by World of Wonder    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 74: Nike Athlete, Grammy Award Winner Charlie "Rocket" Jabaley  Ep 75: Strength Coach, Transformation Specialist & Super-Connector, Jay Ferruggia  Ep 83: Real Life Shawshank Redemption, Crossfit CEO Rob Grupe    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For this episode, released on Black Friday, the day after Thanksgiving, Matt riffs on thoughts from a recent work trip to Hawaii where he saw some movies he loved, some that disappointed and experienced a Catholic Mass that surprised him.  It includes several clips of Quentin Tarantino from a podcast he did with the folks who help him run the New Beverly Theater and the overall theme is that nothing is perfect so we must forgive the imperfections, find something to be grateful for in everything, and push on.  As is uttered at some point, "Everyone is trying their best, and everyone is falling short in some way," but that doesn't mean we need to throw in the towel.   SHOW NOTES: How a Catholic mass in Hawaii surprised me, (3:50).  "Everyone is trying their best, and everyone is falling short in some way", (7:54). A deep dive into Quentin Tarantino, (8:36).  "There's a whole history of cinema, and a history of the world, that is full of examples of things  that are not perfect", (9:20). "Don't give me a wish-list, give me a bridge with steel", (11:41). Great performances by Actors you don't know, (12:05).  Don't overcomplicate it, (14:30). If Quentin Tarantino can find the time to schedule the calendar at the New Beverly Theater..., (15:53).  A word of advice for artists who have a difficult time monetizing their passion projects, (17:58).  Great monologue about overcoming fear from Evel Knievel film in 1971, (20:17).    LINKS: Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show Wikipedia: Origin of the Term "Black Friday" St. Augustine Church by the Sea Parish, Honolulu, HI Pure Cinema Podcast: July 2019 with Quentin Tarantino IMDB:  Quentin Tarantino IMDB: John Milius IMDB:  George Hamilton IMDB:  Evel Knievel, 1971 Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 61:  Elite Hollywood Producer, Jennifer Todd Ep 92:  What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded for Later Ep 98:  How to Stop Analyzing & Act   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sarah Shahi is beautiful.  But despite having graced the covers of countless magazines, it would be wrong to call that her defining quality.  To sit down with her is to discover that she has humor, strength and grit that exceeds the average person.  Perhaps her steel was forged in the fires of growing up one of the few Iranian immigrants in Texas, or maybe it was from surviving an abusive father who, addicted to drugs, held a gun to her head at the tender age of 6.  Either way, this former Pageant Champion turned Dallas Cowboy Cheerleader had enough life force, and the help of an incredibly fierce mother and multiple women's shelters, to find a way out of Texas and onto our television and film screens since 2001.  From regular roles on Showtime's The L Word, NBC's Life, USA'S Fairly Legal and CBS' Person of Interest, to her brief but memorable performance opposite James Gandolfini in an Award-Winning episode of The Sopranos, she continues to turn heads.  Her portrayal of Rachel Benham on last summer's gritty Boston crime drama, City on a Hill, further solidifies her reputation as an actor with chops.  Here, she talks to me about everything from growing up as an outsider and using her pain for her art to how she manages to parent and stay connected to her kids despite an incredibly busy schedule that sometimes has her across the country from her loved ones for long stretches of time.   SHOW NOTES: Sarah's two burning desires as a kid:  being on stage or being a doctor, (3:20). Growing up Persian in Texas, (5:13). How doing pageants starting at age 10 proved to be a great training ground for an adult life as an actor, (6:37).  Playing a lot of sports as a kid and being a Tom Boy despite the fact that she was doing pageants, (8:43). How sports and doing pageants prepared Sarah for her eventual career, (10:07). Sarah's parents' volatile relationship and how they fled from Iran in the middle of the night, (11:24).  Sarah's father's darkness and perpetual addiction, (12:17). When Sarah's father held a gun to her head, wanting to kill her, himself and Sarah's Mom, (12:56).  Sarah's Mom as a Superwoman and Sarah's biggest inspiration, (14:36).  After Sarah's Dad left for a year, how her relationship with him morphed over the years, including a big break and him re-appearing in her 20's to demand money, (15:21).  Hating her father but then feeling like her dark side that she uses in her work is owed to him, (17:25).  "My mother and I, we spent about a year, on and off in the women's shelters until the time that I was about 5 or 6", (19:07).  Mom's thick accent caused people to try to take advantage of her, but if they did the claws came out, (21:45).  The trials and tribulations of growing up in Texas with the name Aahoo Jahansouz Shahi and how she landed on Sarah Shahi as her new name, (22:53).  Studying opera for 6 years, (24:14).  "My Mom always told me that if I wanted more I had to give to myself, she couldn't do it for me", (25:07).  Being the captain of her HS volleyball team despite being "fun size", (25:42).  Hated cheerleaders because they were popular and she wasn't but somehow, only 2 years after graduating HS, she graced the cover of the 99/2000 Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders Swimsuit Calendar, (26:49).  A crazy scheme to get to Hollywood that involved trying out for the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders first, (29:20).  How Robert Altman changed the trajectory of Sarah's career and life, (30:29).  "I quit everything: I quit the cheerleaders.  I quit school. I had a cherry red pickup truck and, yeah, I packed up my car and my Mom and I drove to California.  And then I never looked back", (32:29).  No Plan B, (33:23).  Hysterial first audition story, (34:11).  Kevin Hart, (36:58).   When asked if Old School moved the needle for her career, explains that she always feels like she's at the beginning and the hustle never ends, (38:06).  One episode of The Sopranos that had a greater effect on Sarah's career than years of other TV, (40:24).  The nature of being an actor and knowing that most of our work will go unnoticed by the majority, (42:05).  Looking at an audition as an opportunity to exercise her unique take on the material and do it differently than anyone else, (44:25). Acting is like Jazz:  it takes place between the lines, (45:13).  Doing City on a Hill was a big departure for Sarah, away from Network TV, (47:00).  Taking risks in our work still does not guarantee us rewards in our hoped-for timeframe, (49:31).  A longtime marriage in the entertainment world, (50:30).  Go with your heart, (51:22).  Parenting - trying to be an actor and a soccer Mom, (52:09).  Shonda Rhimes' book, The Year of Yes, (56:04).  Being there for your kids even when you're not in the same city, due to work, (56:56).  Coming from a mother who worked, (58:01).  Advice to younger self:  what age?  What advice?, (59:20).  "We've only got this lifetime", (59:43).   LINKS: Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show IMDB:  Sarah Shahi Instagram: @sarahshahi Twitter:  @sarahshahi Facebook:  Sarah Shahi IMDB:  Robert Altman Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.)   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 84: Poo~Pourri/Supernatural CEO Suzy Batiz Ep 4: Extreme Poverty to the Red Carpet, Toni Torres Ep 59: Fight Depression with Creation, Founder/CEO Melissa Bernstein, Part I    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. 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Jane Hanson has interviewed VIPs from Bishop Desmond Tutu to Presidents to Rock Stars, Pop Stars who turned out not speak English (you'll hear that funny story)... you name 'em, she's probably interviewed them.  And she's collected nine Emmy Awards over the years for her efforts.  She is credited as being the first person to announce on-air that the Twin Towers were struck by a plane on 9/11 - she recounts her version of that harrowing day and the professional battle it took to remain steady amidst so much emotion and horror.  While she is a big city gal now, her story began in a tiny rural town in Minnesota.  And, like every other guest on this show, it is wrought with twists, turns and No's that she has fought turn into Yes's.   SHOW NOTES: How growing up in a tiny town in Minnesota sparked Jane's curiosity to learn about the rest of the world, (2:50). The effect of Jane's father reading her the newspaper at age 4 and talking about what was happening in the world, (3:22). A fortuitous outcry for women in television when Jane got to college leading to a very quick, but dramatic, trajectory to New York City, (3:41).  The importance of the support and belief of a father in his daughter, (7:26). The power and motivation of having a huge family as an amazing support system, (8:19). The price you pay with your family when you branch out and do something very different, (11:13).  After being plucked to the big leagues, navigating the fine line of staying true to one's self and doing what is required for a higher level in a highly competitive industry, (12:24). The importance of modeling successful behavior from those who are ahead of you in your industry, (12:40).  When interviewing a President or rock star that had been interviewed by many famous journalists, the power of preparation to make sure her interview was special, (15:38).  The fun experience of New York Live, (16:40).  Controlling an interview's subject matter with the questions you ask, "You can take people places differently by asking them questions differently", (18:20).  The interview Jane will never forget:  while sitting on a park bench interviewing Desmond Tutu he is interrupted to find out he won the Nobel Peace Prize, (19:18).  The significance, and simultaneous lack of significance of being recognized with 9 Emmy Awards and how the awards really belong to her entire support team, (21:48).  Why some of the kindest people are actually the best interviewers, (24:39).  Why a journalist's obligation is always to their audience, not the guest, (25:46).  A very funny story about a interview with a wildly famous pop star that no one realized did not speak English, (26:50).  A story about interviewing a TV personality who got mad when Jane asked difficult questions, (28:09).  Jane's experience as the first journalist to announce the first plane going into the Twin Towers on 9/11, (31:14).  The horrific site Jane saw on 9/11 that forced her to tell her camera guys to pull out, (35:07).  The sadness associated with 9/11, (37:53).  The price that was paid for such success as a broadcaster, (39:32).  How concern for Jane's daughter led her to leave the early morning news and actually pushed her to start her own venture with Jane's New York, which was a "spectacular adventure" that would celebrate New York to revitalize it after 9/11, (40:24).  A particularly cool trip to Mongolia as a part of Jane's New York, (42:28).   The illusions of television and the movies, (44:28).  How 9/11 made Jane far more purposeful, (45:58).  How newsrooms, and other high stakes work environments, can get callous, (48:17).  Why people in intense jobs tend to bond with one another, (49:42).  Story about Jane getting shot at early in her career on an Indian Reservation, (50:27).  Story of Jane getting a bottle held to her neck during a live broadcast, (51:11).  Jane's present-day media coaching, (53:03).  Jane's go-to mantras when everything falls apart, "It's only TV" and "You're good at what you do.  Believe in yourself.  Keep it honest.  Keep it real.  Be authentic," (55:49).  Jane's advice to her younger self (age 40), give more thought to what's next, really reflect on where you are, (57:00).   LINKS: Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.) Jane Hanson Official Website Instagram:  @janehanson Twitter: @janehanson Facebook: JaneHansonTV LinkedIn:  JaneHansonTV   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 29: Dr. Drew, Infertility & the Making of a Social Media Giant, Emily Raiber Ep 2: Columbine to Sundance, Kimi Culp Ep 51: How to Transition from Child Prodigy to Mommy/Entrepreneur, Maria Sansone   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com           Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At 33 years old, Chuck MacLean has worked with some of the biggest talents in Hollywood like Brad Pitt and Antoine Fuqua.  Currently, he collaborates with major players Ben Affleck, Matt Damon, Tom Fontana, Jennifer Todd and Kevin Bacon with his critically-acclaimed Boston Cop Drama, City on a Hill.  What I enjoyed most in sitting down with him is his ability to say it like it is without worrying what others will think of him.  Sure, it might warrant an "explicit" rating (F-bombs abound), but you'll feel like you're back on the streets of Boston with this self-described "shitbum from Quincy" who pulled off "the biggest con of all" by hitting it big in Hollywood as a screenwriter.  If he can go from being bloody and chased by cops to creating a major hit in under 15 years, maybe you can too.  His "no" stories may just be funnier, and more dangerous, than yours!   SHOW NOTES: Wanting to write male-driven dramas but learning early on that no one wanted them unless they were placed within a genre film, (4:55). The culture shock moving from Boston to LA, (6:18). "It was thing where I realized, 'oh, to really make a successful story, you just need to care about the characters and the story can be kind of secondary.  Even if you're using a basic genre element, a basic genre structure... if the character's good, no one's really paying attention to that," (7:57). The whole City on a Hill story, starts with that movie 'Black Mass', (9:29). The joys of working with Ben Affleck as a producer, (11:05).  Being hired by for his particular voice by Ben Affleck, (13:50).  The best moment of Chuck's career, at Ben Affleck's house, (15:43).  The surreal quality of success in Hollywood coupled with the blunt truth of how hard the work is, (17:21). The best advice I got early on was that it doesn't cost anybody anything to call you a genius", (18:17). The effortless beauty of Kevin Dunn's acting, (19:22). The influence of Chuck's grandfather on his desire to be a writer, (21:59).  Story about doing grandfather’s eulogy, (23:28).  The responsibility of writing because he knew his parents were broke, (27:00).  Being terrible at everything else and falling back on writing, (27:24).  Chuck’s college experience, (30:04).  "The only thing that made me happy was getting myself out of trouble", (35:15).  Using people’s doubt as fuel, (37:24).  Realizing that normal people don’t get drunk on Friday nights and get into fights and how that freed up much more time to pursue a dream, (39:44). Chuck’s daily writing routine, (44:13). How Chuck approaches fictional stories, (46:55).  "So, like, if I'm gonna go write a cop show about Boston, right?  What does the audience expect that to look like? ...  'okay, well how do I come in from the left then?  And hit them sideways?'" (50:23). The pragmatic, almost mathematical problem-solving aspects of screenwriting, (52:21). “I usually do it based on whatever I’m going through, ‘cause that’s what I’m gonna be interested in writing about”, (54:52). Chucks massive body of work, including short stories, (55:34). “10% of my job is actually writing... 90% of it is just dealing with bullshit”, (1:00:28).  "Big time agent read it, guy's been around forever... he flipped out.  He sent it to an editor and that guy flipped out... they were so excited about the whole thing, and then... nothing ever happened.  It got shot down everywhere," (1:02:23).  Chuck’s “Sicilian” take on how the brain works, (1:08:09). “That’s what I would say to that kid, “believe it or not, it’s gonna work out kinda the way you think it is,”(1:20:14). Bonus Hollywood horror stories, (1:21:14).   LINKS: Purchase 10,000 "No"s Apparel Here to Support the Show Matt's Amazon Influencer Page (shop thru this site for items mentioned in interviews to support 10KNos at no extra cost to you.) IMDB: Chuck MacLean Film / TV Credits Instagram: @chiefj137 The Godwulf Manuscript (Wikipedia)IMDB: David Lowery (IV) Film / TV Credits   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 53: Emmy-Award Winner Richard Schiff, of The West Wing & The Good Doctor Ep 47:  Goliath Showrunner, Lawrence Trilling Ep 61:  Elite Hollywood Producer, Jennifer Todd Ep 104:  City on a Hill Actor, Mark O'Brien   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com           Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carrie Wilkerson went from twice her current size, weighing 266lbs and feeling lethargic, to being what I describe as "tiny" and an absolute ball of fire when it comes to energy. Learn how she created the life of her dreams, built a business from home and raised four kids.  Her father always taught her, "if you can find a way to get paid for talking, Baby Girl, you will have it made!" And she has taken that to the bank, speaking regularly in front of large arenas and smaller groups. Carrie sits down with me and brings tons of humor and multiple lessons about transformation, the balance of work and family, and the value of knowing your worth and demanding your proper price. Read the Show Notes on our Website GUEST LINKS: Carrie's Website Carrie's Motivational Speaker Site Carrie's Book: The Barefoot Executive Twitter: @CarrieWilkerson Instagram: @CarrieWilkerson If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review, and spread the word.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Most people want to do big things or start new hobbies.  But when they go to pursue them, they generally underestimate all of the resistance surrounding the pursuit and eventually lose their steam.  In this episode, Matt talks about how to feel successful in all areas of your life. Whether it's starting an acting career, a podcast or even becoming a better surfer... or anything else you may want to tackle. SHOW NOTES: "A man can't call himself a surfer until he stores his own boards", (4:59). Every decision comes from seeking pleasure and avoiding pain, on some level, but not in the way that sounds, (7:27).  "All of these little things... they're not just frivolous, they actually help the whole cause", (8:49). Resistence, (9:41).   Structure allows for Freedom, (11:03).  Even for people who seem to have it all under control, there may be some area of their life where they can relearn the most basic fundamentals of learning, achieving and being a better version of themselves, (12:53). “One:  Are you even aware of all of the things surrounding the pursuit you’re about to get into?  And, two:  Are you still willing… do you still want to go after that thing knowing all of those other things that you have to do to get it?", (16:23). How you can help support 10,000 "No"s, (19:00). LINKS: 10,000 "No"s Store  t-shirts and baseball hats available) Surfline (I've never used it, but my friends swear by it for all things tide-related) If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Michelle Walrath is an entrepreneur and restaurateur who has also Executive Produced several critically-acclaimed Documentary Films, including Tapped, Fed Up, The Devil You Know and Under the Gun through her Atlas Films.  But behind every endeavor she's tackled as an adult is her fierce Mom protection mode.  Unsatisfied with the choices she had to feed her children over the course of a summer of road trips, she teamed up with a friend to bring healthy, organic choices to the fast food space with their successful chain of restaurant, Organic Krush.  Two days prior to our conversation, they added to their four Long Island locations with a fifth location in Richmond, Virginia where she attended college with her husband.    SHOW NOTES:  The origin of Michelle's relationship to food, from a big Italian/Irish family and how it led to studying health in college, (9:00). "I started to see these pieces to health that, then contributed to the whole person", (9:55). Michelle's evolution to being involved with documentary films that seek out hard truths, (11:37). Tapped:  doc film about plastic and the water bottle industry, (12:50). Katie Couric's interest in the Tapped doc leads to a collaboration examining Obesity in America in the critically-acclaimed Fed Up, (13:40). "That's been a big part of all of our Atlas Films is 'what's going on that people aren't telling you and how are we going to get to the truth behind it and share that?'", (15:00). Body Burden concept:  the thread that led from her kid's health to the documentaries to Organic Krush, (18:55).   "I found myself working backwards over the years.  It really is a deep, upsetting question to me: 'Why are we getting so sick in society?  What's happening?  Why are so many people having health problems so early on in life?'  And when you start to work backwards, there actually are triggers and reasons why", (21:02). The Organic Krush restaurant chain, (21:55). The origins of Organic Krush - two decades in the making, (23:00). Lack of experience leading to trying to offer too many things, (26:55). How being the first to offer organic options rallied the Long Island community to support the store, (31:00). How satisfying customer demands dictated the direction of the restaurant to being costumer-centric, (32:55). Why, despite some demand, Organic Krush will resist major meal plan prep to stay focused on community, (36:45).  The rewards of having a purpose-driven business:  hearing the stories of change and improvement, (39:30).  The role of being the oldest in a family of 5 girls and the benefits of watching parents grind to make a living while also caring about health and spirituality, beyond just making a dollar, (40:50).  "I had a very connected upbringing where you did things because they mattered", (42:50).  Coming from big family, having a big family and now creating a "family" through the community-driven restaurants, (48:30).  Bearing the weight of everything that can go on in business all the time, (51:50).  The challenges of scaling a business, (54:20).  When you are driven by a calling, (57:40).  The challenges of following your own heart and bliss, (1:00:20).    LINKS:  Website: Organic Krush Restaurant  Article: Organic Krush's Recent Opening  Documentary: Tapped  More On Atlas Films  Amazon: Atlas Films    To support 10,000 "No"s, always do your Amazon shopping from amazon.com/shop/mattydel    RELATED 10,000 “No”s EPISODES:  Ep 44: Don Saladino, The Superhero's Superhero  Ep 54: Mindfulness Through Cancer, Author Paige Davis  Ep 59: Fight Depression with Creation, Founder/CEO Melissa Bernstein, Part I    Ep 84: Poo~Pourri/Supernatural CEO Suzy Batiz    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Mike Boyle is not your typical psychotherapist.  He's not your typical guy either, but he kinda used to be. A standout hockey player with aspirations to play in the NHL, Mike became critically depressed as a college athlete after suffering multiple head injuries.  He has since dedicated his life to healing and helping others thrive. He has worked extensively with people suffering from symptoms often designated as depression, anxiety, panic, bipolar, substance abuse and more.  He has two masters degrees in psychology, he has studied in numerous spiritual work and holistic health systems.  He keeps diligently abreast of cutting edge of neuroscience, and incorporates the best evidence-based methods into his work from both inside and outside the box, such as Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT).     While this all sounds fancy - which it is - what I really love about Mike is that, as evolved and well-read as he is, underneath it all he's still that kid from Boston that I knew as my college roommate's younger brother and a "wicked badass hockey playa":  He's a guy who, when he was teaching yoga, considered creating a course for men called “get your balls back yoga”, but he thought better of it.     Still, his saltiness and blue collar roots frame and ground his message in a way that makes it really accessible to "normal people"... particularly "Dudes" - if you've got a typical guy in your life, maybe your Dad, a brother, a boyfriend - the kind of guy that doesn't like talking about his feelings and you just can't get in there and crack him open - you're gonna want to send this episode to them.  He also works with couples who are seeking to try a new, more effective approach at achieving harmony at home in addition to his extensive work with Veterans.      SHOW NOTES:  Diving into what Mike does on a daily basis as a psychotherapist, (8:55). Growing up in New England with dreams of playing in the NHL, (11:55). “I have a distinct memory of a time when I was 5 years old sitting on my mom’s lap watching the news. I couldn’t deal with how much suffering I was seeing.”, (13:40). Learning that children can make decisions unconsciously, (13:52). Implications of numbing out the suffering with a macho attitude, (14:55). Smoking marijuana starting in middle school, (15:45). Falling into a depression in college, (17:00). Major catalysts to his spiral down, (20:10). Having arrogance as a college hockey player, (22:05). “They got into bed with me. 13 lacrosse, football, hockey players gave me a group hug.”, (23:45). Entering therapy and being introduced to meditation, (24:35). Catalyzing a process to alleviate suffering, (25:45). Balancing out being nurturing and tough, (27:25). Studying various sciences around emotions, (29:10). Taking time off from college and volunteering, (30:25). His Uncle Ed, a Jesuit Priest, as his biggest inspiration on spirituality, (31:40). Volunteering for the Jesuit Volunteer Corps and moving to a Native American Reserve, (32:10). “Why am I teaching these Native kids Christianity when they have this perfectly intact spiritual tradition.”, (33:47). Returning to the U.S. from Thailand without any savings, (39:20). Working tons of hours in the Union while studying in graduate school and supporting his own family, (41:05). “A 6-inch metal suspended from the ceiling of the Oakland Coliseum got unhooked and swung like a pendulum across the room. I had no idea that it was coming, and this thing hits me completely in the forehead.”, (42:05). “Now, I needed with conscious confidence to heal myself again with all the knowledge I had.”, (44:35). Explaining what reaching into a continuum is, (47:10). “With any trauma and when your nervous system is overwhelmed, there’s guilt and shame. We beat ourselves up.”, (48:48). “We can’t wait for the outer circumstances in our life to be what we want them to be in order to be who we are to be who we need to be.”, (53:02). Encouraging his wife, who is a musician, to remember to love of music, (55:15). Being grateful for encountering obstacles, (57:05). “If we are growing in psychological and spiritual maturity, we realize we can already surrender and let go without 10 years of struggle and 10,000 hits on the head.”, (1:00:28). Choosing to be your dominant influence of your life, (1:05:34). “Often times, therapy makes things worst because when we talk about problems even in the interest of trying to fix them, we actually light up all this neurology, biology and chemistry as the problem. So, we really have to spend time focusing on creating solutions rather than fixing problems.”, (1:10:08). Turning suffering into radiant virtues, (1:010:35). Advising to his 5-year old self to not shut down and be the compassionate human being he was born to be,(1:17:25).    LINKS:  Website: Mike's Energy of Mind  LinkedIn: Michael Boyle  National Veterans Wellness & Healing Center  Music: Chaman, Michael's Wife's Work    RELATED 10,000 “No”s EPISODES:  Ep 40: Make Pain Your Guru, Traver Boehm  Ep 57:  Shame, Addiction & Community, Professional Counselor Tim Craley  Ep 93: How to Regain Control of Your Life After Walking Through the Fires of Addiction, Sam Morris     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this shorter solo episode, Matt riffs on relationships, which sometimes start as work-related and then become friendships... and other times start as friendships and then become work-related... and how they had a huge impact on his past week's trip to the East Coast.  And, in general, on his life since 10,000 "No"s was launched.  Particularly in the past few months, including a forthcoming book deal with Wiley & Sons publishing, which will be an off-shoot of the podcast examining its principles through the lens of the ups and downs of Matt's journey as an actor.   SHOW NOTES: The power of relationships, (1:54). Matt's hang-ups with filming for the podcast and social media and why he's pushing himself past his comfort zone to do it anyway, (2:26).  "Truth is, I was getting pretty bold with the selfie videos over the winter and a friend of mine from back East kind of made fun of me", (2:55). The hard part of being a person who stands out that no one talks about, (4:58).   10,000 "No"s Store almost here - will be selling trucker hats and t-shirts from 10000nos.com as a way for supporters to support podcast production and build community around our tagline "Failure is Opportunity", (5:03).  No excuses!  You can reach out to experts anywhere, anytime with your phone or computer to turn your ideas into tangible realities, (6:31). Matt's new book deal with Wiley & Sons Publishing, (7:36). The book (10,000 "No"s) in a nutshell, (8:48). How an Epic East Coast trip - and 4 incredible interviews with 4 different dynamic females came simply from saying "yes", (9:26). The takeaway:  Don't compartmentalize work and play so much.  They can help each other more than you realize, (12:32).  Why I am encouraging you to ask yourself if there's something you can create, or a group you can join, or a workshop or retreat you can go do where you meet people that are going after the same things you're interested in pursuing... to "put yourself in the game", (13:32). How you can help support 10,000 "No"s, (14:38).   LINKS: Wiley & Sons Publishing STI Cares Foundation (for Student Transportation of America) Asbury Park Music Foundation Asbury Ocean Club Hotel Words Matter Podcast (Twitter Feed)   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 29: Dr. Drew, Infertility & the Making of a Social Media Giant, Emily Raiber Ep 73: Best-selling Author/Speaker/ Pro/College Sport & Fortune 500 Leadership Consultant,  Jon Gordon, on Grit, Attitude  & Faith Ep 92: What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded For Later   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue Hollis has every reason to be arrogant and obnoxious:  she was a powerhouse corporate warrior for both British Airways and Qantas before realizing she wanted to make a bigger impact with her work.  That's when she stepped down and co-founded TravelEdge, a corporate travel management company now valued over $250 Million, 20 years ago, making her one of Australia's Top 10 Female Entrepreneurs.    But even that began to wear on her so she listened to her heart, stepped down from the CEO position and rode her BMW superbike solo around the Pacific Northwest for three months, eventually writing a book about the journey, “Riding Raw”, released in August 2018.  Sue is now a coach and an adventurepreneur (a term she coined), based between Whistler, Canada and Sydney, Australia.  When she came to my house she was coming from a motorcycle race track where she trains at speeds close to 200 mph... at 60 years of age!  She has raised two successful boys.  For all of her accomplishments, she could not have been cooler, kinder or more passionate and compassionate.  What I loved about her is that she lets her values define her, not her accomplishments.      I dare you not to love her and be inspired by her courage to listen to her heart and impact the world.    SHOW NOTES:  Sue's current day pursuits as an Adventurepreneur, (4:00). Sue's journey from corporate warrior to doing her own thing, (6:20). Realizing that she couldn't make a difference in people's lives in the corporate world, even as a CEO, she knew she had to make a drastic change, (7:35). "As a mother, I wanted to be spending more time with my son.  I didn't want him growing up with me being on an aircraft constantly", (9:23).  “Our houses were so close in those days, we could literally knock on each other’s kitchen window...we would knock on each other’s window, pass business plans across the window and say, does this make sense?  And after a couple of weeks... we both looked at each other and went… let’s do something together,” (10:38).  The surreal quality of being considered one of the Top 10 Female Entrepreneurs in Australia, (11:58). “And I really wanted to create an environment where we could enable to be the best they could be, personally and professionally and then to do something amazing for clients.  Oh, and by the way, hopefully this makes money.  'Cause we were really doing it for us”, (12:53). The humble beginnings of a company that grew to $250 Million and beyond, (14:44). Two things: 1 - Letting go of ego, 2 - continuing to get up every morning and knowing that what we were doing was going to make a difference, (18:34). Sue's business coach, about her book, Riding Raw: “If it helps one person, would you write it?" Sue:  "Of course." Coach: "It'll help one person. Write the book," (23:29). The influences of early life on Sue's warrior mentality, (25:50). The realization that her warrior ways could only take her so far - the perils of perfectionism, (29:24). How Sue's body broke down to protect her from her own perfectionism, (33:23).  "Okay, girl, you are going to be slapped down and slapped down hard", (38:45). You only get to true happiness when you let go of control, (40:15). A new look at the word surrender, (40:50). The power of opening yourself up, (44:10). Sue's two interpretations of the word "No", (46:40). The joy of connectivity, (48:15). Intention and making conscious decisions to connect, (50:53). Advice to Younger Self:  in her late 20's, "You are not your business card.  That is your title, it's what you do, but not who you are," (52:00).     LINKS:  Website:  More About Sue   Twitter: @SueHollis  Riding Raw:  A Journey From Empty to Full (Sue's Book on Amazon)  Article:  SheSpark Magazine Feature on Sue    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 9:  Beyond Everest, World Class Climber & Best Selling Author Alison Levine  Ep 59:  Fight Depression with Creation, Founder/CEO of Melissa & Doug Toy Company, Melissa Bernstein, Part I  Ep 63:  Corner the Market with Social Media, Founder/CEO Marketing4Actors, Heidi Dean  Ep 66:  How to Be Happier Now, Happier Inc. Founder/CEO, Nataly Kogan  Ep 84:  Poo-Pourrie & Supernatural CEO Suzy Batiz, How to Create a $500 Million Empire & Make the World Believe Your Poop Doesn't Stink    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Launching a podcast was unchartered territory.  So was deciding to be an Actor.  But both have led to new, surprising experiences, relationships and opportunities that were nowhere in sight at the start.  In this short, solo episode Matt discusses the benefits of taking a leap and the number one takeaway of the entire show.    SHOW NOTES: "No matter what happens to you... the gig of being a human is you need to choose to not be a victim and to see everything that happens to you as an opportunity to grow, (8:15). It's okay to wallow in it for a little bit, but eventually you have to move away from anger and self-pity, (11:22). “How do I train myself to use everything to help me grow as opposed to shutting me down?”, (11:58).  People are craving leaping off and going to do something, and if you're one of those people, take the leap," (17:10).  "Does it get you more excited to wake up in the morning?  Or does it stress you out?  Let that be your guide", (17:42).   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   Ep 106: How to Reframe Any "Problem" to Make it Help You Get Stronger Ep 99, Refusing to Be Defined by a Disability, Ashley Longo Ep 4:  Extreme Poverty to the Red Carpet, Toni Torres Ep 34: FDNY's Matt Long, Ironman, Death's Door & Back Ep 83: Real Life Shawshank Redemption, How to Rebuild & Thrive After 7 Years in Prison, Twice-Bitten Crossfit CEO Rob Grupe   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jason "Jay" Redman is a retired naval officer and US Navy SEAL.  He also wrote the book The Trident:  The Forging and Reforging of a Navy SEAL Leader and his second book, Overcome:  Crush Adversity With the Leadership Techniques of America's Toughest Warriors, available wherever books are sold December 10, 2019.  But his story, while wildly heroic, is not without strife, setbacks and near death on a battlefield in Fallujah, Iraq 12 years ago the day of this release (September 13, 2007).  But before that, he was almost stripped of his coveted and hard-earned SEAL Trident due to behavior and decisions that were controlled by overconfidence.  In this thoughtful and humble conversation, Jay teaches us all about the power of humility and hard work, the necessity to "Get off the X" when you are amidst a "Life Ambush" (be it by gunfire, divorce, or financial disruption), and the potential for redemption after ANY disaster or misstep.  In the words that he speaks, you will hear why the sign he posted from his hospital room in 2007 caught the attention of then-President George W. Bush, went viral, and inspired millions to this day.  It is the honor of 10,000 "No"s to bring you this American Hero.    SHOW NOTES:  Growing up in a military family, (3:43). Finding out about the SEALs teams from his dad at 14, (5:30). “Something in me, there was just this drive and fire that I always had.”, (7:43). Enlisting at 17 while still in high school, (8:38). Stereotypical idea of Navy SEAL in reality and film, (12:23). “The biggest thing is we are human. We are not superheroes even though sometimes we are painted in that light.”, (12:55). Having more than just physical capabilities to join the SEALs, (15:35). “I am a failure and adversity expert. There are 3 things that enable you to overcome failure, massive adversity or crisis.”, (16:40). Overcoming mindset, preparation and training, and having balance, (16:50). “The bullets were just cracking all around me.”, (21:00). Waiting 35 minutes after being shot at to get medical attention, (25:40). Reconstructing wounds from battlefield, (29:07). “Everyone in life will encounter moments like this and they’re what I call life ambushes.”, (31:03). Overwhelming feeling of pain and grief from life ambushes, (34:35). Mentally preparing for hard situations in life with immediate action drills, (35:17). Evaluating what you have in that moment, (37:18). Assessing what the options and outcomes are, (38:17). “One of the hardest things when you do this is the situation may get worse before it gets better.”, (38:35). Failing as a leader and nearly getting kicked out of the SEALs, (41:56). “They were saying you will be a victim. In that moment, I was like, ‘Hell no.’ I’m not going to be a victim. I’m going to be a victor.”, (44:26). Derailing careers of young individuals with ego and arrogance, (49:38). “Instead of slowing down and saying, ‘I got to fix this,’ I stumbled and eroded my credibility.”, (51:36). Being asked to have his SEAL emblem be taken away from him, (56:15). “I went back to my room, pulled my pistol out and put it in my mouth and was getting ready to blow my head off. Thankfully, I had a picture of my wife and kids on the desk across from me.”, (57:18). Forging the overcoming mindset in these moments, (1:03:55). Supporting combat veterans at Head Strong Projects, (1:11:25).    LINKS:  Website: More About Jason  Twitter: @JasonRedmanWW  Facebook: @JasonRedmanWW  Article: Jason's Published Book  Support: Head Strong Projects    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 34: FDNY's Matt Long, Ironman, Death's Door & Back  Ep 74: From Obesity & Brain Tumor to Nike Athlete, Grammy Award Winner Charlie "Rocket" Jabaley  Ep 83: Real Life Shawshank Redemption, How to Rebuild & Thrive After 7 Years in Prison, Twice-Bitten Crossfit CEO Rob Grupe    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Many of you likely know Actor Jeff Perry as the strategically conniving, power-hungry, Cyrus Beane opposite Kerry Washington and Tony Goldwyn on Shonda Rhimes' smash it, Scandal or as Meredith Grey's father on Rhime's other smash hit, Grey's Anatomy.  What you may not know is that he is one of the founding members of the famed and respected Steppenwolf Theater Company, alongside High School pal Gary Sinise and college friends John Malkovich, Terry Kinney, Joan Allen and Laurie Metcalf.  One of the many things I learned from working with Jeff on Scandal is that he is deeply passionate about the work.  This conversation is full of his love for: stories that matter and a craft that he respects deeply.  Lessons on perseverance, following your bliss over a paycheck, and how to stay true to one's self are littered throughout our chat.   SHOW NOTES: How a passionate and encouraging Acting Teacher in HS launched Jeff and Gary Sinise's journeys as thespians at age 15, (2:43). The origins of Steppenwolf Theater Company, (4:03). More origins of Steppenwolf, "Seven of us got in a few cars and drove from Normal, Illinois to Highland Park..."(8:51). The effects of one passionate HS teacher on American Culture, (11:23). How the faculty of Illinois State influenced some of the greatest American Actors we have by training them not only to act, but to decide on which material they wanted to produce, (12:11). Being led by love of the work versus making money, (15:06). How lack of work led Jeff (and John Malkovich) to teach, which he loves, (17:06). How things shifted once Jeff started making bigger money, (21:11). The differences between stage work and camera work, (25:49). How disillusionment with a high-paying TV show that he didn't love sparked Jeff to launch the teaching arm of Steppenwolf 23 years ago, (28:06). How Steppenwolf's success in having shows moved to Broadway led to its members making a living as actors. (31:41). "Also in those years, from '82 to '89 the original, sort of people from the first and second generation of the company, started to get television and film work.  And I felt like I was one of the last to crack that,"(33:04). "After many attempts at landing that kind of job, that's when I finally landed one: when, when I knew that psychically and emotionally I had just said, 'I don't care'," (36:31). How Jeff got Scandal by way of Grey's Anatomy, (40:00). The Scandal Experience, (51:06). Shonda Rhimes' brilliance in her quiet introduction to Jeff's character Cyrus' homosexuality after several episodes on a mainstream hit show, (54:26).  The power of television and film in representing the under-represented, (56:51).  Jeff's go to mantras and ways of thinking to help himself, (1:03:33). "Took a lot of decades to be calmer and not second guess so many things", (1:06:12).   LINKS: IMDB: Jeff Perry Film / TV Credits Twitter: @jscandalp Steppenwolf Theatre Company   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 53: Emmy-Award Winner Richard Schiff, of The West Wing & The Good Doctor Ep 101: Dexter's Julie Benz, How to Thrive Even After You've Been Killed Off Ep 104:  City on a Hill Actor, Mark O'Brien If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Asking for help can be seen as weakness.  In this solo episode, Matt discusses that the true lack of courage is in NOT asking for help because it allows us to let ourselves off the hook.  Quotable:  “And I said, yeah, ask:  They had what you needed.  But because you weren't bold enough to ask for it, you didn't get it.  And instead, you suffered in silence.  And, yes, I was talking to my 12 year old son, but really I was talking to myself."    SHOW NOTES: "People don't want, ya know, wrapped up in a nice bow and shiny right now.  They just want the truth", (3:42). "There's always this feeling of I'm not enough. I don't have it yet. I don't have the resources I need to get it done...", (4:50). “Just speak from the heart and that's gonna do more for people than any kind of... trying to make yourself sound more produced than you really are, " (5:31).  “Everything we do, we're throwing stones out into the pond, and those stones will have ripples.  And those ripples can be for good, or for bad, depending on what our action is...", (6:46). “As long as you have humility and grace and you're not thinking 'It's all me,' I think there's something to be said for stepping into your power and realizing what you can do with your talents, and the impact that you can have,” (7:26).  Deep thoughts at Chipoltle, (8:41).  “And I said, yeah, ask:  They had what you needed.  But because you weren't bold enough to ask for it, you didn't get it.  And instead, you suffered in silence.  And, yes, I was talking to my 12 year old son, but really I was talking to myself,” (9:52).  “When you ask someone for help, you are basically setting up a relationship of accountability,” (11:14).  “If you don't ask for help, you are basically saying I'm not up to the task,” (12:24). A story about possibilities and my friend's Dad calling me out on copping out, (13:12).  “How much are you leaving on the table? How much are you suffering because you didn't have the courage to ask for something that you need?” (16:09).  The power of persistence, (17:30).    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 105: How to Reframe Any "Problem" to Make it Help You Get Stronger Ep 92: What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded For Later Ep 97: The Power of Consistency Ep 98: How to Stop Analyzing & Act Ep 75: How to Transform Your Body & Persona, Strength Coach, Transformation Specialist & Super-Connector, Jay Ferruggia   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at 10000nos.com   Follow @mattydel on Instagram and @MatthewDelNegro on Twitter and Facebook for more info and promos of upcoming episodes.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In an effort to keep it real, Matt opens up about a very mundane recent "battle" he dealt with. The key takeaway is that it is not the perceived obstacle in front of you that matters as much as your attitude toward it and reaction to it.  Reframing is not something that just applies to the macro challenges of impressive past guests... it applies to YOU in every second of every day.  What language are you using to talk to yourself about your current situation and how do you relay your situation to the world?  Are you playing the helpless victim?  Or are you taking action to overcome whatever is in your way and seeing that obstacle as a gift that was given to you to make you stronger?       SHOW NOTES: Technology connects us with anyone but it can make us impatient if we're not careful, (6:57). A story about mice, (8:06). “Why is this happening to me right now when I have so much other crap to get done?”, (10:23).  “And it’s as simple as that. It’s flipping a switch, and all the sudden this became this project that I was excited about. And I had energy toward it and I was fired up. And I was on the balls of my feet instead of on my heels. And feeling bad for myself.”, (13:04). “It sounds like it’s just minutiae and it's just little stuff but as people say, 'how you do one thing is how you do everything'. Well, when you conquer whatever it may be that's having you pull your hair out.... all the sudden you get momentum to go toward the bigger things,” (15:26).  “And the core of it is: don’t look at yourself as a victim...And don’t look the situations that come to you, that you have in your head as "bad", don't look at them as bad, look at them as a gift," (16:00).  “You can hear these amazing conversations, and that's cool, but not if you don't apply it,” (18:59).  “Look at your life like it's the movie that you're the star of, and make it go well.  Don’t be the movie where it’s just about, 'why am I always the victim?'  No one wants to watch that movie,” (19:20).  “Everyone’s in their own boat and everyone's boat has a couple of leaks,” (19:44).  “So stop feeling bad for yourself... ...stop complaining and just do something about it,” (21:19).  “The ball is in your court. My ball is in my court,” (21:49).   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Ep 92: What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded For Later Ep 97: The Power of Consistency Ep 98: How to Stop Analyzing & Act   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at 10000nos.com Follow @mattydel on Instagram and @MatthewDelNegro on Twitter and Facebook for more info and promos of upcoming episodes.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you've been watching City on a Hill this year on Showtime there is no doubt you've been riveted by Mark's portrayal of Jimmy Ryan, the slippery brother to Jonathan Tucker's Frankie Ryan.  But what you'll know after listening to our conversation is that, not unlike every other guest on 10,000 "No"s, the quality of his work is mostly the result of Mark's sheer will, passion and tenacity.      He's been a series regular on AMC's critically acclaimed Halt and Catch Fire, Amazon's The Last Tycoon, and did six years prior to moving to the US in his native Canada on the CBC series Republic of Doyle, for which he was nominated for two Canadian Comedy Awards for Best Actor in a Television Series as well as a nomination for Best Director of a Television Series (they let him behind the camera because he's also an Award Winning Filmmaker for several short films he's written, directed, produced, edited and starred in).  He's also starred in Denis Villenueve's Arrival, The Front Runner opposite Hugh Jackman directed by Jason Reitman, Noah Baumbach's next untitled project, opposite Adam Driver and Scarlett Johansson. But the real joy of this conversation is the wisdom and experience and the lessons that we can all learn from the journey Mark took from the tiny town of Paradise in Newfoundland all the way to Hollywood.    SHOW NOTES:    How Mark landed City on a Hill and why it’s such a special role for him, (4:05). “So I booked my own flight from Atlanta to New York, put myself up in a hotel for two days and literally just went over it and over it and over it and over it...,” (11:05). “I wanted a role like this for as long as I could remember...”, (11:41). “If things were coming easily to me... ... hand me anything.“ (14:13). “If there’s something more interesting you can do...”, 16:53). “Things seep in you sometimes don’t know where they come from...”, (18:20). Growing up in a tiny community with no connections to show business, (23:10). “We would edit with two VCRs... ... a way we can do it”, 25:08 – 26:08). After all of his filmmaking, not getting into film school and having to go with the flow, (28:20). With no agent and not much happening locally, Mark catches a crazy break.... that takes a year, (30:58). “I knew I could do it...”, (32:48). Going into massive debt to make movies when nothing was paying him, (35:30). Watching Edward Norton in Primal Fear and thinking, “oh, that’s a performance,” (38:10). “Eventually someone’s gonna think I can do it the way I think I can do it,” (39:34). PWI - Passion Will Inform, (40:02). “If you have passion, Will and information, you’ll be fine,” (43:11). The move from Canada to Hollywood, (44:10). Why American filmmaking can take more risks than Canadian filmmaking, (45:02). How fatherhood has changed Mark’s work and approach, (48:23). The advantages and disadvantages of two actors in the family (husband/wife), (54:30). How being a filmmaker has helped Mark understand “no”s as an actor, (57:36). The secret to Mark’s chamelian-like shifts with accents and vibe, (1:01:00). “Quote about Stella Adler and imagination and films with buddies”, (1:01:40 – 1:02:28). Discussion about Gary Oldman and choices as an actor to be big and bold, and sometimes quiet and invisible, (1:05:10). “I still find that you need to know your role in the movie,” (1:05:43). “Advice to younger self... ... the whole time,” (1:14:13 - 1:14:22).    LINKS:    IMDB: Mark O'Brien Film / TV Credits  Instagram: @MarkOBrienForeal  Twitter: @MarkOBrienNL  Video: How Mark Mastered the Boston Accent  Video: More on how Mark played his Hot-Headed "City on a Hill" Character    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:    Ep 53: Emmy-Award Winner Richard Schiff, of The West Wing & The Good Doctor  Ep 87:  How to Survive Being Killed Off a Sitcom Prematurely   Ep 88: Mad Men & Parenthood's Emmy-Award-Winning Casting Director,    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to 10,000 "No"s and thank you for being here again.  I know last week's episode was quick, for my birthday, but hopefully it home in terms of making you realize just how lucky we all are to be here.  This week's guest, Jake Thompson, feels lucky to be able to do what he does, which is coach, speak, design apparel, host a podcast and run a company.   His podcast is Compete Every Day and it's great.  I was on it a while back and really enjoyed his sincerity and what he's doing with this company.  He works with youth athletics, he writes a blog. I'm just very impressed with his whole operation.  And sitting down with him I was amazed to find something out about him that I never would have guessed.  But, again, like all of his work, it's something I didn't see because he has worked so hard to overcome it and succeeded.  He loves sports, loves to compete, but what you'll hear as we speak is that he has extreme compassion and generosity at the core of his being.    SHOW NOTES:   “What I do today is a professional speaker and coach, with a lot of emphasis on resilience, mental toughness”, (1:59). Have a long-term goal in mind to always keep you focused, (5:00). “You just have to bob and weave to get to where you want to go, don’t give up on your mission and vision”, (7:10). How his past experiences led to his desires for achieving success, (9:01). “Being a highly competitive person in general, I had to learn the difference between healthy competing and trying to compare compete with everyone”, (9:50). “I have ADHD, so I must be really good at wearing multiple hats and writing everything down, while staying consistent and on track”, (17:00). Running a business requires consistency and leadership because every decision you make will impact the team and company, (20:00). Read books and connect with people, (22:02). “It’s about not being afraid to test things and see what works and what doesn’t so you don’t really know what's going to fit your business and your personality until you give it a shot”, (22:58). Entrepreneurship is like a puzzle, it’s really intriguing but the best part is when you do not give up, and let your grow mindset help you rise and thrive, (26:07). The better I can do my job the more people I could help, if you want to succeed help other people succeed, (29:30). A winning competitor in life or someone that I can consider successful in life have grit, they have a growth mindset, they practice gratitude, they pursue greatness in everything that they do, and then they groom others, (31:15). Grit and growth mindset allows you to endure the “no’s”, the 10,000 “No”s they allow you to keep growing and getting better. Gratitude is what allows you to enjoy the process because without gratitude we lose sight of the why, purpose and the journey that is life. Greatness means are you consistently showing up, do you have that attention to detail are you giving your best to everything that you do. Finally, true leadership is not about the followers you have but the leaders you create. What are you doing as a mentor to give back and help build others around you? These make a successful life because you are building a legacy, (31:56). Never let a hard day win, (34:20). We tend to have a huge goal and not take it one step at a time, don’t let setbacks win, use that as motivation to keep going. All plans will unfold beautifully if taken one step at a time, (37:00). The biggest key for us, it’s not to get frustrated or demotivated by how far we have to go or how much we have to do, just take one step, because those little steps start to add up overtime. It’s when we decided it’s too far or too long that we quit and let one day into two, into weeks. Just treat it like a game of tag, (38:50). “The word no means not yet, keep competing, and don’t be as distracted by the opposite sex and don’t be afraid of challenges that are ahead of you, use them as opportunities to grow,” (41:20).      LINKS:  Podcast: Compete Every Day  Jake Thompson: The Team  Jake Thompson: Motivational Speaking  Instagram: @lifeisworthcompetingfor  Twitter: @JakeAThompson    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   EP 11: Panic Attacks to Perfect Life, Craig Ballantyne  Ep 73: Best-selling Author/Speaker/ Pro/College Sport & Fortune 500 Leadership Consultant,  Jon Gordon, on Grit, Attitude  & Faith  Ep 75: How to Transform Your Body & Persona, Strength Coach, Transformation Specialist & Super-Connector, Jay Ferruggia     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com        Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On his birthday, Matt riffs on the extreme odds of just being alive and why it's worth being grateful.       SHOW NOTES:  "I know you've all got challenges, as do I, that's part of life, but..." (2:35). The odds of a person being born to being the person that they are have been described as astronomical, (2:57). "Just you being here, warts and all, is a big deal.  It's a huge thing to be grateful for." (4:19). What makes life so precious is that it's not here forever.(4:49). Why you're lucky if you're listening to a podcast, (6:06).  "Take another breath, regroup, and march."(7:19).   LINKS:  Instagram: @mattydel Twitter: @MatthewDelNegro Facebook: Matthew Del Negro Fanpage  IMDb:  Matthew Del Negro Film/TV Credits   HuffPost Article: Are You a Miracle? Book:  The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Manson   RELATED PAST EPISODES 10,000 “No”s :    Ep 95:  How Celebrating Milestones Can Help You Stay On Track   Ep 34: FDNY's Matt Long, Ironman, Death's Door & Back   Ep 83: Real Life Shawshank Redemption, How to Rebuild & Thrive After 7 Years in Prison, Twice-Bitten Crossfit CEO, Rob Grupe   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Julie Benz is an actress.  She's been working steadily for a long, long time, but probably most recognizable as Dexter's wife, Rita, on Showtime's Critically Acclaimed smash hit, Dexter.  What you may not know is that Julie was a serious figure skater from the age of 3 to 13, on a high level.  Her rigorous training, from such a young age, has no doubt had a big effect on her career, perhaps mostly in the area of her mental game.  This is why she not only survived, but thrived after being killed off of Dexter in the 4th season's finale.  She claims to be lucky.  I beg to differ.  In my opinion, her success is the result of her ability to out-grind the competition, but you decide for yourself.    SHOW NOTES:  Growing up as a competitive figure skater, (3:20). Reasoning behind doing well on auditions for acting, (5:54). Transitioning from skating to acting,(9:05). Practicing discipline as a figure skater, (12:30). “I think the hardest part about what we do is when we are not working and when we do get a string of ‘No’s.”, (15:15). Coming off of Dexter and entering pilot season, (17:00). Testing for the show, Dexter, (19:55). “For me, it was freeing to take the mask away, but in the eyes of critics and Hollywood, I was so brave to go on camera with no makeup on.”, (21:32). Listening and reacting on set, (24:57). Learning to deal with being replaced, (26:21). Having to go to therapy after such trauma, (27:12). “It was the best thing to ever happen to me. The moment when I was killed off the show. The moment that everyone still talks about.”, (31:34). Suffering from panic attacks finding out her character’s death, (34:07). How Matt and Julie met, (36:55). “In the moments when I feel rejection, I have a method writing 10-20 things I’m grateful for.”, (38:27).  Experiencing a bad audition once in a while, (42:55). Recalling the story where everyone has a bad day, (43:47). Having much love for acting, the set and the crew, (45:57). “I’ve always loved being an actor. It was never thought I was going to do when I was a kid.”, (46:12). Realizing she wasn’t a natural actor early on, (47:35). Proving yourself over and over again in the acting industry, (50:52). Encountering mean producers on her first television series about her weight, (52:50). “The more secure you are with who you are is what resonates in a room.”, (55:47). Overall benefits of challenging yourself overtime, (57:30). Seeking out coaches and mentors, (58:05). Underlying theme of. “You are not alone.”, (58:17). Reframing the “No”, (58:38). Working at reframing her mind through exercises, (59:00).     LINKS:  IMDB: Julie Benz Film / TV Credits  Instagram: @JulieBenzMFT  Twitter: @JulieBenz  Vanity Fair: Dexter Q&A  Audition Self Taping: Jonathan's Hot Shots Self Taping    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Ep 87: How to Survive Being Killed Off a Sitcom Prematurely  Ep 90: Honesty and Authenticity on the Journey to Being a Professional Actor  Ep 94: The Go-to Acting Coach of Oscar Winners    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt revisits his very first episode of 10,000 "No"s, from 2017, to share with listeners how every new venture has things to be proud of and things to improve.  Topics covered include:  - Pulling the trigger - The benefits of "doing it wrong" - Course-correcting - Meeting and learning how to be better from Pros along the way - The essential ingredients to any new venture - How doing something that aligns with your values can help you sustain through the slow times and give you longevity - Why you're not alone if you're scared   SHOW NOTES:  "When you take on an endeavor like this, on your own at the start, you quickly realize that the John Wayne approach, going it alone, is really dumb.", (5:07). "The number one question I get from strangers, and people I know for that matter, whether it's about being an actor or having a podcast, is... 'How'd you get started?'"(6:25). A great lesson for any podcaster out there, (7:31). “You can't figure out anything from your desk, you need to do it.  And then, either you, or someone else, will realize, through trial and error, what works and what doesn't.(9:08). If you're feeling unqualified, this clip from episode 1 will make you feel better, (9:35).  "People will forgive your lack of technique in the beginning if your heart is in the right place.", (10:08). The benefits of "doing it wrong", (11:00). "Make sure what you're building is going to help someone else, that it's going to serve.", (13:32).   LINKS:  Instagram: @mattydel Twitter: @MatthewDelNegro Facebook: Matthew Del Negro Fanpage  IMDb:  Matthew Del Negro Film/TV Credits   RELATED PAST EPISODES 10,000 “No”s :    Ep 1: Introducing 10,000 "No"s, a Podcast About Getting Back Up   Ep 92: What You Do When No One is Watching is What You Get Rewarded For Later   Ep 97:  The Power of Consistency   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.         Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At 22 years of age, Ashley Longo just graduated Loyal University in Los Angeles and she's headed back there for Law school at the end of this Summer.  She's accomplished this and many other things, including mentoring a young girl in San Diego who is newly paralyzed, interning in Senator Diane Feinstein's office, playing basketball, performing in school plays, getting her Driver's license the day she turned 16, body-surfing red flag waves and skiing among others, despite having been paralyzed from the waist down since birth.  But being born with a spinal problem that is formally defined as a "bone abnormality" has done nothing to slow her down.  As you'll hear, she doesn't think of her life as withstanding 10,000 "No"s.  She just refuses to acknowledge the word "no" altogether.       SHOW NOTES:   "People may look at me and I might look a little different, but I don't even view myself as the girl in the wheelchair..." (3:05). Not seeing the physical challenge as "too big of a thing" because it's all she knew, (4:22). "I've kind of learned if you act like it's not a big deal, other people don't act like it's a big deal", (6:43). “I've had a lot of bigger obstacles that I've had to go through that I think, yeah, definitely has made me a lot stronger of a person...”, (9:38). "What was great is my parents never put me in a special school...", (10:13). How Ashley's family's decision not to baby her gave her confidence, (11:09). “No one wants to be around the victim, no one wants to be around someone that's feeling sorry for themselves all the time.", (13:37). "The way society views people with disabilities has been the biggest hurdle for me.", (14:54). Not wanting to be solely defined by a disability, (18:14). "You just have to go with the flow, you can't freak out and plan about that in the future...", (21:18). "I think surrounding myself with people that are able-bodied is what has made me who I am.", (24:13).    LINKS:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter: @MatthewDelNegro  Facebook: Matthew Del Negro Fanpage   IMDb:  Matthew Del Negro Film/TV Credits   Ashley's Instagram: @ohheyimashley     RELATED PAST EPISODES 10,000 “No”s :   Ep 4: Toni Torres, Poverty to Professional Actress  Ep 5: Rob Whitaker, The Mental Game of Dealing With Cancer  Ep 84: Poo-Pourri Founder/CEO Suzy Batiz, Poverty & Abuse to Forbes' America's Richest Self-Made Women List     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.        Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt answers some college students questions about staring into the abyss as they begin their journey into "the real world".  While he loves and encourages the self-discovery and reflection, he offers that there is no substitute for the learning process that comes from experience.  Referencing one of the World's Best Surfers, Laird Hamilton, he examines the role of uncertainty and our response to fear, offering that fear can be a great motivator.  SHOW NOTES:   "What are you bringing to the table every time out of the gate...?", (5:04). Transition issues for college students about to graduate and how they apply to all of us, (6:24). "There's also something that needs to be said for just doing.", (8:41). “Whatever direction you think it is that you think you're supposed to be going, you've got to step there and you've got to experience it.”, (10:09). "Before you make a grand decision and tell everybody, you need to go do it.", (11:33). "You can't figure it out without launching it.", (12:11). “Most of the people that I sit down with on this show... what sets them apart is that they took a big risk.”, (13:06). Laird Hamilton quote on how one can use fear, (14:06). "I've probably fallen more times than you've ridden" - Laird Hamilton, (14:58). Laird Hamilton on the preparation, assessment and calculation that is combined with faith when you take the leap, (16:20).     LINKS:   Instagram:  @mattydel  Twitter: @MatthewDelNegro Facebook: Matthew Del Negro Fanpage   IMDb:  Matthew Del Negro Film/TV Credits     RELATED PAST  10,000 “No”s EPISODES :   Ep 58:  Break Out of Your Comfort Zone    Ep 9: Beyond Everest, World Class Climber & Best Selling Author Alison Levine    Episode 34: FDNY's Matt Long, Ironman, Death's Door & Back    Ep 13: Dumpster Diver to “Overnight” Millionaire, Bedros Keuilian    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at 10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a quick riff, Matt discusses the role that consistency has played in his career and his health and offers that it plays a primary role in whatever it is that you're pursuing.      SHOW NOTES:  Recent chat with past guest, Bedros Keuilian, on staying fit, (2:05). “It’s consistency and it applies to everything that we do.”, (2:48). Varying in wanting to go to the gym from day-to-day, (3:19). “It’s better to get a small workout in than to do nothing because if you do nothing, you end up doing nothing.”, (3:36). Matt’s wife’s consistency with running, (4:02). Frustrations with scheduling interviews for 10,000 “No”s, (4:35). “If you’re having a down day, hour, week, month or year, don’t throw in the towel and let the whole thing go.”, (5:53). Allowing yourself to let it all go, (6:30). Being critical with yourself, (6:49). “How do you get through those inevitable down times? How do you speak to yourself? How do you keep yourself motivated to be creating things when things aren’t coming your way?”, (7:29).    LINKS:  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattydel/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/MatthewDelNegro  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pages/category/Artist/Matthew-Del-Negro-413048619139652/  IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0215682/    RELATED PAST EPISODES 10,000 “No”s :  Break Out of Your Comfort Zone - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-58break-out-of-your-comfort-zone  One Year Anniversary - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-52one-year-anniversary-lessons-learned-from-a-year-of-podcasting  New Beginnings, Feedback & Being Enough - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-25-new-beginnings-feedback-being-enough   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A self-described non-golf-lover, Matt reflects on the lessons listeners can learn from Gary Woodland's dramatic comeback from his previous 0-7 record when leading after 54 holes to win his first Major Championship, the US Open (and admits he may be changing his tune about golf).    At Pebble Beach, the major storyline at the start of Father's Day 2019 was Brooks Koepka's attempt to be the first golfer in 114 years to win the US Open in three consecutive years.  Gary Woodland, who was atop the leader board, was largely expected to stumble, given his inability close out a win when ahead in the past. Staring down his demons, he was able to transform from Choker to Champion in dramatic 10,000 "No"s fashion, leaving clues for the rest of us about our ability to change as long as we recognize that our story isn't over.      SHOWNOTES: The theme of the show and this episode is about pushing through adversities and taking one step in front of the other, (3:12). What’s the story that you tell yourself? (7:15). The story isn’t over, what happens next with any situation is yet to be determined, speak the best into existence, (7:35). Woodland took a risk that makes him the champion that he is today, (9:29). There’s  a difference between playing not to lose and playing to win, which path will you take? (9:45). “How much are we really going after our goals versus how much are we just trying to brace ourselves so that we could hold our positions, and a lot of times when you’re doing that, you end up losing the lead because you’re thinking so much about losing the lead”, (9:55). Whether you are a golf fan or not, Gary Woodland is living proof that the story is never over, don’t give up before the end, (13:15). The scoreboard isn’t the only thing that matters, giving it all you got is the message behind it all, (14:31). Are you doing everything that you can to ‘win’, what story are you telling, and do you still believe you can change the narrative from what the rest of the world see to what you envision? (14:47).   LINKS: About Gary Woodland: https://www.golfdigest.com/story/15-things-you-need-to-know-about-gary-woodland Stats: https://www.pgatour.com/players/player.31323.gary-woodland.html Woodland Surprising His Biggest Fan: https://www.today.com/news/gary-woodland-surprises-special-olympics-golfer-who-inspired-him-t156543 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gary.woodland/?hl=en Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GaryWoodlandGolf Twitter: https://twitter.com/GaryWoodland?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Winning Shot: https://www.pgatour.com/video/2019/06/16/gary-woodland-wins-first-major-at-u-s--open.html Highlights: https://www.golfdigest.com/story/this-compilation-of-gary-woodland-high-school-basketball-highlights-set-to-the-rudy-theme-song-is-pure-gold More About G. Woodland: http://www.espn.com/golf/player/_/id/3550/gary-woodland RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Acacia Walker: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-45-boston-college-womens-lacrosse-coach-acacia-walker?rq=walker Doug Emmet: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-6-paranormal-activities-of-shooting-film-cinematographer-doug-emmett?rq=patience Heather Hayward: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-48elite-results-coachheather-hayward?rq=practice Chip Taylor: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep67hall-of-fame-songwriter-chip-taylor?rq=practice   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After attending a 25th college reunion and a 5th grade graduation in less than a week, Matt riffs on the benefits of stopping to smell the roses and acknowledge the progress that one has made in this solo episode.      SHOWNOTES:   Sometimes you just have to take the risk and try something you’ve never tried before, (2:50). Celebrating milestones can help you keep on track, (3:25). Don’t knock down the opportunities to evaluate yourself and find joy and meaning, (4:50). There’s something really good for the spirit to rekindle some lost paths, (5:30). We must realize that it is important to celebrate the closing of one chapter and the beginning of another, it marks the progress of our growth and change, (7:41). There will always be a next step to life but you have to get your nose out of the ground and acknowledge your progress, (9:40). How can we make the celebration and the work, the same exact thing, if you can do that somehow, you’ve really succeeded, (10:45). Keep grinding but you also have to stop and smell the roses, (13:01). Strive to tell the most empowering story of yourself that you can, (13:10). There’s no need to be someone else but you, (13:40). “You’re going to learn some things, you’re going to forget some things, be good at some things, fail at some things, you’ll be up and down and all around, and just when you think you got the answer, you’ll be challenged by a new obstacle, but the most important thing you can learn is keep taking that next step. If you fall down, get back up, dust yourself off, keep going, (14:15). Dr. Seus said, “You'll get mixed up, of course, as you already know. You'll get mixed up with many strange birds as you go. So be sure when you step. Step with care and great tact and remember that Life's a Great Balancing Act. Just never forget to be dexterous and deft. And never mix up your right foot with your left”, (15:02).      LINKS:    Matthew Del Negro: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-92-what-you-do-when-no-one-is-watching-is-what-you-get-rewarded-for-later   Matthew Del Negro:    https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-91-how-to-let-go-of-a-no-so-it-doesnt-control-younbsp   Twitter: https://twitter.com/MatthewDelNegro   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattydel/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthew.delnegro2   More About Matt: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0215682/    Zander Fryer: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-46-sht-you-dont-learn-in-college-zander-fryer?rq=zander   Cathy Heller: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-69-dont-keep-your-day-jobs-purpose-finder-cathy-heller?rq=cathy   Rob Whitaker:   https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-5-cancer-schmancer-rob-whitaker?rq=rob     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com        Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For the past 20 years, Academy Award Winner Sam Rockwell has insisted on working Acting Coach Terry Knickerbocker to prepare for every one of his roles.  An actor himself prior to teaching, Knickerbocker studied at the Experimental Theater Wing at NYU before working on stage with an actor who's technique was so specific and consistent that Terry had to seek out the actor's teacher, the late William Esper.  Falling in love with the manor in which Esper worked after taking his two-year program, Terry began a 25 year stint teaching at the William Esper studio until 2015, when he ventured out on his own to open the Terry Knickerbocker Studio in Brooklyn, which offers a two-year Meisner program as well (you'll learn about the Meisner technique in the interview).  In addition to running his studio, Terry is highly sought after for private coaching with such respected thespians John Leguziamo, Emmy Rossum, Natasha Lyonne, Rockwell and Chris Messina among others.  So, while it was a huge surprise to me that Terry has been a passionate listener of 10,000 "No"s, once I got over the initial shock it made sense:  he, like me, is obsessed with process.  He is obsessed with the potential in human beings, whether they turn out to be future Oscar Winners or someone looking to hone their craft to the best of their own particular ability.  It was an honor to sit down with him and discuss the craft and the long and winding road to being considered one of the best of the best in his field.    SHOWNOTES:  Describing what he does as an acting coach, (3:37). Meisner’s definition of acting, “Doing truthfully under imaginary circumstances.”, (4:00). Coaching students to have them be “director-proof” on set, (5:05). “The worst thing is when you walk in not knowing. Time is money. There’s no time on set for learning. You have to walk in knowing what you’re doing.”, (7:05). Interviewing students to have them find their North Star, (11:08). Self-sabotaging through fear, (16:24). Growing up with parents who exposed him to culture, (18:22). “I was a total underachiever. I was a very depressed and anxious kid. I don’t think I had a happy childhood at all.”, (19:50). Hardships during his childhood, (20:36). “I was high all the time starting in 9th grade.”, (22:28). Lack of interest in academics into college, (22:44). Seeing an audition notice for an operetta during his first week in college, (23:20). “I didn’t know what the hell I was doing, but I kept on getting these parts. I think I reached a plateau here and I need to train.”, (24:35). Grasping what acting is while at NYU, (27:44). “We’d be in Washington Square Park doing scenes and there would be guide bringing the audience through and they would stop and watch us doing something.”, (28:30). Enjoying the risk of performing in public spaces, (29:50). “It turned out NYU had given me a lot of great experiences, but hadn’t given me a toolkit.”, (34:26). Winning a grant from the Drama League of New York for Emerging Directors, (39:36). “Ultimately to be a good director, you have to direct hit shows, something has to work... It just isn’t as pure to me as teaching.”, (42:05). Crafting the behavior that honors the script, (46:28). “My simple job as a coach is I will always listen and look at what they do firs, and then my job is to make it better.” (49:10). Believing all actors need to go to therapy to understand themselves, (51:15). Finding fascination in the idea of high achievement, (55:08). “ ‘What makes high achievement?’ That’s become my fascination since opening the studio.” , (55:22). Having a love for acting and telling stories to be an actor, (56:32). “If there’s no meaning in it, it’s just like empty calories.”, (59:15). Cultivating empathy for characters, (59:42). Having a playful spirit in the making of this art, (1:02:15). “The word, ‘No,’ means to me, ‘What else?’”, (1:06:36). Doing the work as an actor, (1:09:00). Keeping in mind, “F**k it.”, (1:09:40). Reminding ourselves to be playful and find joy in our work, (1:10:27).    LINKS:  Terry Knickerbocker Studio - https://terryknickerbockerstudio.com/  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/terryknickerbockerstudio/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/terryknickerbockerstudio/?hl=en  YouTube -https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLrucOCh7z9Lb7Y6jrdiTDA  NYU Tisch - https://tisch.nyu.edu/about/directory/drama/3560350    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Mark Duplass - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-43mark-duplass-just-shoot-it?rq=mark  Christian Olsen - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-26-ncis-las-eric-christian-olsen-choose-hope-over-fear?rq=Eric  Lawrence Trilling - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-47-goliath-showrunner-lawrence-trilling?rq=lawrence    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sam Morris came into this world with severe allergies that set him apart from his peers from the time he was born.  That very feeling of being an outsider is what made him so at ease on the tennis court, where he excelled.  The focus needed for the sport he loved kept him from drugs and alcohol until he was nearly 20 years old, but when the floodgates opened he found himself on the bad side of addiction.  With seemingly endless bouts with near-death experiences, and after watching his sister lose her life, Sam fought his way back to sobriety and clarity.  Now he's helping others walk through the fires of addiction and into a renewed life where they can pursue their highest purpose.    SHOWNOTES:   The challenges of re-entering life after rehab, (3:58).  A childhood of severe asthma and allergies, (6:31). The effects of social anxiety, (9:26). Sam’s athletic background despite drastic childhood sickness, (11:31).  How tennis was a life-saver for Sam, (12:42). Two isolated incidents with alcohol at the ages of 13 & 17, (14:51). How a terrible bout with mono led to college instead of the dream to play professional tennis, (18:04). Athletic background as a result of being "crazy" and needing focus, (20:18).  How losing the focus of tennis became the gateway to addiction, (21:40). "Alcohol worked for me until it didn’t”, (23:22).  Strategy to combat addiction: “You cannot forget the pain”, (25:25).  How alcohol can become a higher priority than food or survival, (28:53). A two month rock bottom, (30:44). A five year stretch in and out of rehabs, (30:45). Losing his sister to alcoholism forced him into focus on how he could help, (35:19). "When you start struggling, that’s your window of opportunity...”, (36:08). The role of synchronicity and “the force” in helping Sam survive his near-death experiences, (36:46). "My mindset sets me free”, (38:02). "So what.  Now what?”, (38:29).       LINKS:   Through the Fire Podcast:  http://throughthefires.com  Instagram:    https://www.instagram.com/teloslifestyle/  Facebook:   https://www.facebook.com/sgibbsm802   Twitter:   https://twitter.com/TelosLifestyle     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:    Tim Craley:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-57shame-addiction-community-hazelden-betty-ford-counselor-tim-craley   Heather Hayward:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-48elite-results-coachheather-hayward?rq=heather%20hayward  Amy Budden:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-7-train-your-brain-hypnotherapist-meditation-teacher-amy-budden?rq=amy%20budden    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App or on Spotify to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this solo episode, Matt riffs on the idea that what you do when no one is watching is what gets rewarded later in public.  Revealing a guest request made by the staff of an Acting Coach to Oscar Winners and Nominees who turns out to be a passionate listener to 10,000 "No"s, Matt talks about the importance of maintaining standards and how you never know who's out there listening, watching you, or being impacted by you, both positively and negatively.    SHOWNOTES:   “Envisioning and speaking positively into the world and to yourself, (3:22). “It’s a conscious choice to say the things to yourself that will encourage you and that will get you fired up to go after the things that YOU want to go after, (3:41). “You Don’t Know Who’s Listening”, (4:50). It’s important to always true to yourself even when no one is watching or listening, (5:40). When you’re in a rud, say ‘this is significant’, (7:53). Holding yourself to certain standards and knowing that it is not always about you, (9:04). What you do when no one is watching is what you end up getting rewarded for later, (10:00). “The enemy always attacks you at the passes, so he can keep you from going forward in your life”, (10:31). “Sometimes survival is success, just staying in the game, staying in faith”, (11:59). “It’s that Rocky Balboa mentality, just staying in the game. You’re not yet fighting the prize fight but you only will have a shot at the prize fight if you stay in the game, it means just not going through the motions because at some point the passion will go away, but pro’s stay up no matter what, (12:17). If you’re a parent and you’re listening and you’re being pretty honest, you’ll realize that you’ll do things that you are not proud of but making that constant change is what’s really significant, (14:14). “In your life, how do all of your actions land on and impact other people whether it’s good or bad? Hopefully we’re all striving for the better and to leave this place better than we found it, (14:40).     LINKS:  Matthew Del Negro: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-91-how-to-let-go-of-a-no-so-it-doesnt-control-younbsp  Steven Furtick & Bishop TD Jakes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=2&v=CzP23Zti-YI  More About Matt: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0215682/  Twitter: https://twitter.com/MatthewDelNegro  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mattydel/  Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/matthew.delnegro2    If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App or on Spotify to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this solo episode, Matt answers a passionate listener's letter that asks, among other things, “What if you can’t overcome it? And there isn’t anything better?  And you just have to gracefully let go of it?  What’s your advice for people for whom trying isn’t an option?  A “no” that isn’t a “not yet”, but a “never”.  Without sugar-coating it, Matt sites examples from past interviews with Matt Long, Suzy Batiz, Lynne Marie Morski, Heidi Dean and Amy Budden to explain that NO ONE has it easy... even the people who have "made it".  It's in the way we frame our experiences and react to them that we "win" or "lose".    SHOW NOTES:  “Who is to say that a ‘No’ is forever?” (5:22). Speaking from experiences as an actor, (6:44). Letting go is a form of acceptance, (7:52). Past guest, Heidi Dean’s story of "following the green lights", (8:20). Past guest,- Matt Long’s near-death comeback experience, (9:25). Don't have a victim mentality, (10:38). How sudden lack of work, while working on Scandal, led to this podcast, (11:15). Clip from Denzel Washington speech "Ease is a greater threat to progress than hardship", (13:11). When someone faces an accident and is living with a disability that prevents them from doing what they love, (14:07). Accepting a "forever 'No'," (17:00). “Getting over it is hard, and that’s one of the issues in today’s society: everybody wants everything right now.”, (19:18). Past guest Suzy Batiz’s pain with the complete loss she encountered after a suicide attempt and two bankruptcies, (21:42). “What takes the most faith is to be buried in the soil of uncertainty and keep growing”, (23:48). Redefining what "success" means, (26:34). “Everyone has pain, even the people who have overcome more obstacles than the average person.”, (30:31).    LINKS:  Heidi Dean -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/h54tlorn8vrajmhw05opvk28n1ysrj-8b8m8?rq=heidi%20dean  Lynn Marie Morski -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-82-how-quitting-can-sometimes-help-you-win-quitting-by-design-author-lynn-marie-morski?rq=lynn  Matt Long -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-34-fdnys-matt-long-ironman-deaths-door-back?rq=Matt%20Long  Amy Budden -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-7-train-your-brain-hypnotherapist-meditation-teacher-amy-budden?rq=Amy%20Budden  Suzy Baitz -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-84-poopourrisupernatural-ceo-suzy-batiz-how-to-create-a-500-million-empire-amp-make-the-world-believe-your-poop-doesnt-stink?rq=Suzy%20Baitz  Nataly Kogan -  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-66nbspnbsphow-to-be-happier-now-happier-inc-founderceo-nataly-kogan?rq=Nataly%20Kogan  Steven Furtick Episode with Bishop T.D. Jakes & Pastor Steven Furtick -   https://youtu.be/CzP23Zti-YI    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa Ponzio is best known to a younger generation for her portrayal of Melissa McCall, mother of Scott McCall, the central character on MTV's smash hit Teen Wolf.  She's also known for her runs on Army Wives, The Walking Dead and her ongoing stint on Chicago Fire.  On social media, her nearly 700K Instagram followers and over 600K Twitter followers are vehemently loyal to her because she leads from a place of authenticity and genuine outreach to those who do not feel heard. Here, she walks us through the incredibly long and arduous path she traveled from obscurity to the screen in your living room.  Full of fight, passion, honesty and integrity, this conversation will have rabid fans fall more in love with her and those who never heard of her respecting the 10,000 "No"s it takes to make it as a professional actor.   First official credits, (2:53). The beginning of the long, arduous journey of deciding to become an actor, (5:34). " ...Be nice.  Show up on time. Know your lines," (6:49). The joy of working with Melissa on Teen Wolf - warmth, grounded, honest, (7:43).  The rabid Teen Wolf fan-base, (10:10). Melissa's HUGE online following and how she has used social media to authentically help her fans with real impact, (12:11). Childhood origins and upbringing, (15:15). Athletic background as a result of being "crazy" and needing focus, (17:54). How the mental game of Melissa's swimming background has helped her in her acting career, (19:55). The importance of listening, (21:00).  Knowing who/what you are serving, (22:31). War story from Chicago Fire regarding a baby and a bad note from a director, (26:11). A few factors from childhood that led Melissa to acting, (28:36). Acting in college, but starting in news, (29:37). The grind of being an actor in the South-East, (31:35). Some of the crazy/funny gigs Melissa booked in the early days, (34:34). The difficult decision to leave a steady corporate job for only the hint of a recurring role on the Army Wives pilot, and how that paid off bigtime, (41:05). Getting her career-changing role on Teen Wolf, (43:53). Getting a call out of the blue for a role on The Walking Dead and the amazing homecoming experience it brought her after so many years of struggle, (49:32).  How Melissa turned yet another potentially quick gig into a long run on Chicago Fire, (55:10).  The word “no” actually means... not yet, (59:40).  "If it doesn’t matter in five years, it doesn’t matter”, (1:00:19). Melissa’s advice to her younger self, (1:00:54).   LINKS: IMDb:https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0690754/?ref_=nv_sr_1?ref_=nv_sr_1 Meet Melissa:  http://melissaponzio.com/about/ Instagram:  https://www.instagram.com/melissaponzio1/?hl=en Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/OfficalMelissaPonzio/ Twitter:https://twitter.com/melissaponzio1   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   Linden Ashby:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-8-linden-ashby-melrose-place-to-teen-wolf?rq=linden%20ashby   Kevin Daniels:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-22-juilliard-dennis-leary-everything-between-actor-kevin-daniels?rq=kevin%20daniels   Tony Torres:  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-4-extreme-poverty-to-the-red-carpet-toni-torres?rq=toni%20torres   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Tony Blauer's image has been gracing the covers of Martial Arts and Self-Defense magazines for decades, he teaches tier-one operators,  and he is a big deal in that world, but the reason I wanted to sit down with him for 10,000 "No"s is that his system, and the way he articulates it, is so personal, practical and applicable to each and every one of us.  Contrary to the stereotype that a tough guy would go around bullying people, Tony believes that violence, and his own application of violence, should be avoided at all costs.  When you hear this conversation it will not only make you more aware of your surroundings, but also more aware of your relationship to fear in all areas of your life.  His rise to the top of his field was not without tremendous resilience to overcome the naysayers who mocked his new approach to self-defense.  I encourage you all to not only listen, but following the episode, to check out the links in the show notes to get to know Tony's work in more detail and possibly even arrange to have him come to your community at some point.  It could be the difference between life and death.      SHOW NOTES:  Self-defense is a way of life, (2:52 ). Why people need to think about self-defense more carefully, (6:38). "I’m a life extension insurance salesman”, (8:38). “You want to never be near a situation where you might have to defend yourself,” (9:18).  When you start implementing introspective changes your mindset is shifts, (13:13). Understanding the timeline of violence, (18:05). Startle Flinch is our fastest human reaction, (25:45). "Fear will creep its way into all of our lives, however the ability to protect ourselves and our loved ones is arguably the single most important skill one can possess", (27:17).  If there were sudden violence happening around you, you don’t have the time to dial 911, you have to be aware before the conflict, (30:03). You have to be the first responder of your confrontation, (30:23). “Our (self-defense) system is entirely scientific, it’s a blend of physics, physiology, and psychology”, (35:11). “I can take any person, world class or beginner, and make them stronger in minutes by helping them understand (the system)”, (35:22). As soon as you break contact, you must run to safety, (42:23). “Don’t let ego and pride dictate your next strategy”, (43:00). Muscle memory isn’t a thing, it’s all neuro programming, (46:00). “My big quest is to get the world to understand that practicing for self-defense to deal with a violent encounter is emotionally and psychologically very different than practicing a martial art of a combat sport”, (46:37). How to improve your situational awareness, (53:50). “KNOW FEAR” is everything because we have to know fear and understand the psychological mechanism and how it hijacks our thoughts, (1:11:55). F**K FEAR, Face it, Understand it, Control it, Know it, (1:15:35).     LINKS:  Meet Tony - https://blauerspear.com/history                    https://panteao.com/instructors/tony-blauer/  Blauer Tactical Systems - https://blauerspear.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/tonyblauer/?hl=en  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/TonyBlauer.SpearSystem/  Spear University - https://vimeo.com/spearuniversity  Spear Store - https://blauerspear.com/spear-store  Know Fear Podcast - https://knowfear.libsyn.com/  Sign Up For Classes - https://www.regonline.com/builder/site/Default.aspx?EventID=1049457&    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:   Jay Ferruggia - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-75-how-to-transform-your-body-amp-persona-strength-coach-transformation-specialist-amp-super-connector-jay-ferruggia?rq=ferruggia  Bedros Keuilian - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-13-dumpster-diver-to-overnight-millionaire-bedros-keuilian?rq=bedros  Heath Evans - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-81nbspsuperbowl-champion-heath-evans-how-to-grind-prove-the-naysayers-wrong-amp-atone-for-our-sins-after-we-fallnbsp?rq=ferrugg  Sahara Rose - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-79-become-your-highest-self-top-ranked-spirituality-podcaster-amp-best-selling-author-sahara-rosenbsp?rq=ferrugg  Rob Grupe - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-83-real-life-shawshank-redemption-how-to-rebuild-amp-thrive-after-7-years-in-prison-twice-bittennbspcrossfitnbspceo-rob-grupenbsp?rq=ferrugg    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Carrie Audino won a Primetime Emmy in 2010 for Casting the critically-acclaimed series, Mad Men.  She was nominated another 5 times.  She also won the Artios Award, presented by the Casting Society of America and was nominated another 4 times, one of which was for her work casting the pilot of NBC's critically-acclaimed series, Parenthood.  But for all of the accolades, she is a workhorse, a grinder who feels compelled to "get it right" when it comes to choosing the right actor for the role, even if she ruffles some feathers along the way.  A no-nonsense, straight-talking tough chick from New Jersey, Carrie was an actor herself, having gone through the prestigious program at the Tisch school of NYU.  But, like so many other guests of 10,000 "No"s, Audino pivoted when she realized she felt more joy and gratification from casting than being cast.  Already juggling her demanding career with motherhood, she's now adding yet another title to her impressive resume, with the upcoming launch of her own podcast, "It's Not Personal", where she'll go in depth with well-known actors about their experiences being cast throughout their careers.    SHOWNOTES:  The experience of winning an Emmy, (4:08). Having a little baby during Mad Men, (6:17). What it's like to be a casting director, (8:25). “They don’t have to be good all the time. I think actors believe they have a bad day and they’re out. It’s a mutual relationship.”, (9:38). Audino’s upcoming podcast, “It’s Not Personal”, (10:28) Possessing qualities to be a good casting director, (12:15). Carrie's past acting experience prior to being a casting director, (13:00). When she was acting at NYU: “I was always thinking like a casting person without knowing it.”, (16:25). Interning at Liz Lewis Casting Partners, (17:00). Feeling relief after realizing she did not want to pursue acting, (17:52). Beginning to cast on her own in New York, (19:50). Moving out to California for work, (20:23). Growing up as an old soul, (22:10). “I was working 6 days a week, 18 hours a day. I loved it. I loved working hard.”, (23:30). Managing work and personal life, (25:19). “Socializing and small talk is hard. I don’t love it. I’d like to have a real conversation.”, (27:41). Hardships with moving back to New York for 2 years, (29:50). Landing the Angel’s Eyes pilot with Laura Schiff in LA before deciding to fully pursue culinary school, (30:45). The most rewarding thing as a casting director, (34:02). “I’m the person who shuts tests down. I’m the person that’s like ‘I don’t care if we shut down. Let’s make it right.’”, (35:00). Frustration with not having control, (37:02). Not taking a hard “No”, (39:25).    LINKS:  IMDB -   https://www.google.com/search q=Carrie+audino&oq=carrie+audino&aqs=chrome.0.69i59j69i60j69i65j69i60j69i65l2.1393j0j1&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8  Emmys - https://www.emmys.com/bios/carrie-audino  Casting “Mad Men” Backstage Article - https://www.backstage.com/magazine/article/casting-directors-laura-schiff-carrie-audino-create-mad-men-13824/  Casting Directors List-   https://castingdirectorslist.com/whoswho/schiffaudino-casting/    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Jennifer Todd - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-61-elite-hollywood-producer-jennifer-todd    Hot Seat with Matt - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-27-growing-up-del-negro-our-host-in-the-hot-seat    Mark Duplass - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-43mark-duplass-just-shoot-it?rq=MARK%20DUPLASS   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Erinn Hayes is funny.  There's no way around it, as I discovered at the table read of the newly released Netflix Comedy Series, Huge in France.  But less than a year before that day, she was inexplicably killed off a very lucrative gig, where she played the wife of Kevin James on his CBS sitcom, Kevin Can Wait.  They say that success is the best revenge and, after the initial shock and depression over the loss of a regular paycheck, Hayes picked herself up and got back in the game.  Not only did she succeed in landing the role of Vivian in Huge in France, but shortly after we wrapped Netflix decided to give her and Rob Huebel a spinoff of their cult-favorite Adult-Swim show, Animal Hospital, with the forthcoming Medical Police.  A real-life Mom and wife when she's not juggling her career duties or renovating houses, Erinn tears the notion of the "glamorous" Hollywood life down to the studs and talks about overcoming 10,000 "No"s. SHOW NOTES: “I’ve always been the performer kid, doing plays since I was young. I always knew that I wanted to act”, (2:55). She explains how she stumbled into an amazing theater program in college, (3:25). Once you get in certain doors there are doors that will continuously open for you, but it becomes increasingly harder to get the other doors open, (5:49). “You have to milk what you got and slowly chip away at that wall, until you get that one thing that maybe gets a little bit more views until people start to see you in most ways”, (8:50). Advises young innovators or producers that jump into the, “wait until this gets big” to take it realistically, (13:49). “What I care about is did I have fun on set, am I proud at my work, and did the check clear, 123, if those three things happened then everything else is bonus”, (14:06). You have to go in with the mindset of having huge hope in yourself but at the same time prepare for the worst, (17:29). “Wrapping my head around luck, and how much this business and any business is hard work, the talent to do the thing you’re working hard at and that element of luck, (21:58). Luck is one factor that is tricky to determine, (23:20). Speaks about being fired and learning from the experience and ego, (30:00). “I’d be a sitcom wife if it were her story, and where I have a sitcom husband”, (35:27). I guess the word “NO” just means find a different yes. Just let it go quickly and then move on, it means move on to the next opportunity, (36:18). If there’s some sort of defeat or some sort of “NO” take what you can from it, salvage it, and move on,” (37:10).   LINKS: Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/hayeslady/?hl=en Twitter:https://twitter.com/hayeslady?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor IMDb:https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0141613/ Childrens Hospital: https://www.forbes.com/sites/spikefriedman/2016/06/17/childrens-hospitals-erinn-hayes-on-the-best-job-of-her-life-and-charting-a-career-in-comedy/#4504fe7a1319 The Vulture: https://www.vulture.com/news/erinn-hayes/ Kevin Can Wait: https://www.vulture.com/news/erinn-hayes/ https://www.closerweekly.com/posts/who-is-erinn-hayes-143411/   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Mark Duplass: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-43mark-duplass-just-shoot-it?rq=mark%20duplass   Richard Schiff: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-53-emmy-award-winner-richard-schiff-of-the-west-wing-the-good-doctor?rq=richard   Bryan Callen: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-62-how-to-bet-on-yourself-comedianactorpodcast-host-tfatk-bryan-callen?rq=callen   Gad Elmaleh: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-86-gadnbspelmalehnbsphownbspto-go-from-being-huge-in-france-to-being-huge-everywherenbsp?rq=flow   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Gad Elmaleh has been voted the Funniest Man in France, named Night of the Order of Arts and Letters by France's Minister of Culture and named Night of the National Order of Quebec.  He's also worked with such giants as Steven Spielberg, Woody Allen and Al Pacino... but you may know him from his hugely popular Netflix comedy specials, Gad Gone Wild, or American Dream, if you don't know him as "the Seinfeld of France".  Tonight, April 12, 2019, he adds Huge in France, the scripted Netflix Comedy Series very loosely based on his life and comedy, to his repertoire.    Luckily for me, I had the great fortune of acting opposite Gad on Huge in France, where I learned that his attention to the craft of comedy and his philosophy on taking risks are two of the biggest keys to his immense success.  We talk about comedy, acting, hard work, risk, bombing on stage, starting over from scratch and much, much more.  We may or may not have a few laughs at ourselves for the ridiculousness of two guys sitting in a hotel room talking about themselves and their work.        SHOWNOTES:  “For me I want to ‘be in a box’ as a writer, a comedian, joke-teller, storyteller, (6:20). “Comic’s sometimes say ‘I’m a comic and I want to be taken seriously and want people to see that I can be moving”, but you don’t need that, you don’t need to be serious, just be funny,” (7:39). “The comedy I like are the real life comedies that is sincere, sad, real or accident, but I don’t like gags. I like to be touched by it because there is always a problem that is being solved”, (9:15). My dad was a mime and I was inspired by him, I used his influence even in my acting, (11:56). Sebastian Maniscalco is one of my favorite comics in America, his body language is almost a mime sometimes and you see everything that he describes, (14:06). I need to do new material, for the audience but obviously for myself too, I want to have fun. (15:24). "Maybe the thing I fear the most is to get bored", (15:44). Some people will say it’s being a workaholic but I'm just passionate about it, (17:01). “If you don't have the language, it's hard to be yourself.", (17:59). When I met you Matt, you were talking about “feeling saucy” what does that mean?, (22:05). It’s hard to do your job but not as completely as you want, I getting there little by little but it’s a process, (27:50). The great feeling is every time that I get a laugh, I would feel like I earned it, (28:30). “I wanted to go to law school but I failed the exam”, (31:40). “I was more interested in people, humans, history than pure political science,” (32:25). "I'm obsessed with obsession... I'm obsessed with observation. Sometimes when I do a movie and I get bored, I get more excited about observing the crew and speaking to them,” (33:50). Rock bands could relate to this, one day I woke up and had no idea where I was. Then I was wondering why I do what I do?, (40:35). I learned something about stand up comedy, do what’s the most organic, make it natural and go with the flow, (52:13). The word “NO” is the beginning of a very long process that I am not going to give up, (56:50). "You have to see yourself as the starting line, but never as the goal.", (57:50). "The only things we regret in life are those that we didn't do.", (59:13).    LINKS:  Instagram - @gadelmaleh  Facebook - Gad Elmaleh   Twitter - @gadelmaleh  Official Trailer for Netflix Comedy Series:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0AG7tsCshXI&t=79s  Official Trailer for Netflix Comedy Special, Gad Elmaleh: American Dream: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4YBTyzBDk_o  Official Website - http://gadelmaleh.com   Gad Elmaleh Teaches Jimmy the Moroccan Hip Thrust-  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=udpSQIaSVDg  Gad Elmaleh Points Out The Absurdities In The English Language - CONAN on TBS-   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1syXYTG4qVY    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Standup Comedian/Actor, Bryan Callen- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-62-how-to-bet-on-yourself-comedianactorpodcast-host-tfatk-bryan-callen?rq=bryan%20callen  Singer/Songwriter, Chip Taylor- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep67hall-of-fame-songwriter-chip-taylor?rq=chip%20taylor  Singer/Songwriter, Artie Tobia-  https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-78-chasingnbspthenbspdream-without-sacrificing-family-driven-singer-songwriter-artie-tobianbsp?rq=chip%20taylor    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For those of you who have been with me and the show from the beginning, you may remember Kimi Culp - Episode 2, my first guest back in 2017.  If you haven't heard that one yet, you need to go listen, but here are the highlights:  Kimi was a journalist of the highest quality, having had long stints working for Oprah, and then Diane Sawyer.  She got burnt out on the kinds of stories she was reporting on, had kids....  She then came back into the workforce to tell the story of one of her best friend's husband, former New Orleans Saint football player Steve Gleason, with the amazing documentary:  Gleason, about his emotional and inspiring battle with ALS (Kimi does nothing halfway - that film made a record sale to Amazon at Sundance and has made major waves).  And, now, she's reinventing herself yet again, with her new podcast, All the Wiser, which launched Wednesday, April 3rd.  The purpose of this conversation, originally, was to help get the word out so more people could experience Kimi's podcast.  But it's also a conversation about what it takes to launch something, the attention to detail required if you want something to be top-quality, the process of learning about how to do something new only by actually doing it, the power of being intentional... and the constant battle with your own inner-critic when it comes to exposing yourself in a way you've never quite done before.      SHOWNOTES:  Recap of first interview with Kimi, (1:46). Kimi’s podcast launch, “All The Wiser”, (3:39). Illustration of types of stories on the podcast, (5:10). Inspiring story of Matt Pohlson, CEO of Omaze, (6:35). Pohlson nearly dying at 40, (8:01). Making decisions on who to have on the podcast, (11:30). “For me, it is the story itself, and the ability to tell that story well.”,(12:12). Past experience of work, (13:30). Preconceptions of podcasting versus what she knows it to be now, (14:11). “I had a ton of fear. Now, I have to put myself out there.”, (15:31). Matt’s takeaways with making 10,000 “No”s, (18:09). “I really wanted to do it with storytelling and I knew a story could inspire somebody.”, (19:36). Having faith and hope of putting said stories out there, (20:05). Having a charity component as part of her podcast, (21:00). Raising awareness while listening to stories, (23:38). Differences in formality with interviews, (24:57). “What environment are you going to create that is going to allow for an intimate real conversation.” , (28:24). Learning what she took for granted as a producer, (29:55). Remembering to hit the record button, (30:10).     LINKS:  All The Wiser Podcast - https://www.facebook.com/AllTheWiserPodcast/  LinkedIn -https://www.linkedin.com/in/kimi-culp-7023806  IMDB - https://www.imdb.com/name/nm7109038/    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Kimi Culp Part 1 - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-2-columbine-to-sundance-kimi-culp?rq=kimi%20culp Suzy Batiz - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-84-poopourrisupernatural-ceo-suzy-batiz-how-to-create-a-500-million-empire-amp-make-the-world-believe-your-poop-doesnt-stink  Cathy Heller - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-69-dont-keep-your-day-jobs-purpose-finder-cathy-heller  Jennifer Todd - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-61-elite-hollywood-producer-jennifer-toddhttps://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-61-elite-hollywood-producer-jennifer-todd  Jessica Blank - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-76nbspnbspthe-power-of-story-the-exonerated-creator-amp-story-expert-jessica-blank     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Suzy Batiz has been featured by leading business publications including Forbes, CNBC, Fast Company and Entrepreneur. She has also been interviewed for Leaders Create Leaders, Modern Hero, Marie Forleo, Girl Boss Radio & The Skinny Confidential podcasts and has given presentations for HustleCon, Emerging Women, The Summit Series, Conscious Capitalism & the In Goop Health Summit.    But it wasn't until after she suffered through two bankruptcies, sexual and domestic abuse and a suicide attempt that she became the female entrepreneurial icon she is today.      And, while all of the above, is immensely impressive, what was far more moving was the incredibly intimate and alive connection that she brought to our conversation.  Hearing her walk me through her journey, sharing insights along the way, it was as though she didn't remember the storybook outcome until she arrived at it.  Refreshingly down to earth and engaging, Suzy Batiz is an important woman for young women in our culture to be emulating.  Choosing to be the hero of her story when many called her a victim, choosing to follow her heart and her "alive idea" when friends and family called her crazy, Suzy Batiz is now encouraging others to follow their intuition and to find happiness even when all is lost.      We chatted about intuition in business and elsewhere, executing on an idea from scratch, with no budget, and turning it into a $500million debt-free enterprise, how to bounce back from seemingly devastating circumstances, including being born into poverty and much, much more.    SHOWNOTES:  Realizing that "shit" was the through-line of her life and writing a spoken word piece about it for HustleCon, (4:15).  Childhood of poverty in Arkansas, (7:00). Suicide attempt at 21, (14:10). Being physically abused by her ex, (18:59). Creating controversy on a podcast when she claimed she started to have freedom only once she started claiming that she wasn't a victim, (21:45). Praying for an angel and meeting her husband, finally a good guy, (24:33). Always having a side-hustle, (28:10). A sure-fire idea matching a person's culture to a company's culture going from Life's biggest potential victory to the biggest bust when the stock market crashed, (28:37). "I'll never forget that sound of the tow truck..." after hitting rock bottom and having everything repossessed, (30:35). Hiding from the world and getting in touch with rage and real feelings after second bankruptcy, (32:40). Hypnotist to Suzy, "You know what your problem is?  You have no meaning in your life" leads to 'Man's Search for Meaning which leads to a course which changed her, (34:34). Finding Zen after reading 'Loving What Is' and taking a course, even in bankruptcy, (35:00). Being zinged by the idea for Poo-pourri, (38:20). Why you shouldn't ask everyone if your idea is good - if it's alive for you, don't worry if they think you're crazy, (39:30). The long haul from inspiration to profitable business, (40:37). "I didn't know anything", how Suzy figured it out as she went along with Poopourri, (41:33). The first sales of Poopourri and realizing what they might have, (43:17). The problems are only going to get bigger in business, (48:00). "That's what I want to teach people:  you have it within you," (49:10). Why it's so important that an idea is alive inside of you, (50:18). "We gotta go" - realizing the company needed to step it up to keep up with the demand for product, (52:17). Suzy's philosophy on instinct - feeling it in your body, gut feelings, (53:15). Why it's better to follow your gut, even if it goes against popular opinion, in the long run, (55:08).  The minute you say "no" that felt wrong, you feel the freedom of energy and that's how you know you were right, (57:55). "I commit to easy world where everything is easy" - looking for flow, (58:51). The word "no" means "not yet", (1:01:36). "Pay attention to your body and all the things that don't feel right," (52:55).    LINKS:  Website - https://suzybatiz.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/suzybatiz/?hl=en  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/suzy-batiz-0a35218  Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/SuzyABatiz/  Appearance on Marie Forleo Show, Marie TV -   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50n_7JapdR4   "Alive as Sh*t" Spoken word performance at HustleCon -   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUcNaixCUe4  Poopourri "Girls Don't Poop" commercial that went viral -   https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZKLnhuzh9uY  Book:  Man's Search for Meaning - https://g.co/kgs/MHTw8Y  Book:  Loving What Is by Byron Katie - https://g.co/kgs/5ndTTw    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Melissa Bernstetin - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-59-fight-depression-with-creation-founderceo-of-melissa-doug-toy-company-melissa-bernstein-part-i?rq=melissa  Nataly Kogan - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-66nbspnbsphow-to-be-happier-now-happier-inc-founderceo-nataly-kogan?rq=nataly%20kogan  Eric Christian Olsen - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-26-ncis-las-eric-christian-olsen-choose-hope-over-fear?rq=eric%20christian%20olsen    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. 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Rob Grupe is now the owner of one of the largest Crossfit Facilities in the country, leading men and women to be their best selves, inside and out.  But a 20 year prison sentence for a first-offense, after years of dodging danger while addicted to pain-killers and running drugs from Mexico, could have caused him to rot away in jail.  Instead, he made a decision, saying "This the reality, but I'm not going to let this define me."  Then he took action, going from 300lbs to 250lbs, kicking the Methodone he was taking to beat the pain-killers cold-turkey, reading voraciously once he was eligible for books, taking college courses and exhibiting exemplary behavior to reduce his sentence to 7+ years...  Like Andy Dufresne of Shawshank fame, he was helping the very guards who contained him, writing workout programs for them on request, while plotting the life he'd eventually live once he made it to the outside.    If you think you've been through trials and worry that you're beyond repair, THIS is the episode for you!    SHOWNOTES:  Describing what he does with CrossFit, (3:00). Rob’s coaching techniques and philosophy, (4:25). Growing up in Oklahoma City, (6:32). Getting beat up by a group of kids at a young age, (7:20). Making bad decisions during his childhood, (9:30). Getting a back injury from deadlifting (10:42). Selling weed as a teenager, (11:52). Taking painkillers prior to his back injury, (12:48). “Even through the painkillers, it was done. I didn’t know what to do. It really took my identity from me because everything connected to myself, my image was now gone.”, (13:38). Building an unintended business structure with selling steroids, Xanax and other drugs, (14:35). Not having interest in attending college, (16:51). Being caught by the police for having cocaine, (17:15). Attending court for his offense, (21:40). “This is the reality of the situation. I’m going to make every day count. There’s not going to be one day I can look back on and think, “Why didn’t I use this time more effectively?” and I’m going to change my life and help other people change their lives.”, (22:48). Taking full responsibility immediately after being placed in a medium to high level prison, (24:30). Going to a methadone clinic during his time in prison, (25:45). Challenges with getting through this part of his life, (28:30). “There’s no distractions. Just your thoughts. So, you’re forced to confront all of your demons.”, (29:00). Engaging in practices that helped free his mind, (29:30). Training other prison mates in groups as he moved through different facilities. (30:30). Receiving a letter from the mother of his daughter in prison, (32:15). Thinking about his daughter and using it as his driving force, (33:05). The current state of the relationship with his daughter, (34:00). Finding a sense of gratitude in prison, (36:20). “Any problems that come into your life, I look at them as gifts.”, (37:35). Reducing his original sentence to 7 years, (41:18). The day he was discharged, (42:15). Working as a personal trainer and later opening his own facility post incarceration, (46:30). “The only time you fail is if you give up.”, (52:55).    LINKS:  Website - https://twicebittencrossfit.com/rob-grupe/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/robgrupe/  LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/rob-grupe-882b484b  Facebook - https://m.facebook.com/robdogg32 Appearance on Craig Ballantyne’s Podcast, “Early to Rise” -https://www.earlytorise.com/090-from-prison-to-promise-a-transformation-redemption/    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Tim Craley - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-57shame-addiction-community-hazelden-betty-ford-counselor-tim-craley  Charlie Rocket - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-74-from-obesity-amp-brain-tumor-to-nike-athlete-grammy-award-winner-charlie-rocket-jabaley  Jay Ferruggia - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-75-how-to-transform-your-body-amp-persona-strength-coach-transformation-specialist-amp-super-connector-jay-ferruggia    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As a physician, attorney, speaker, author, and lifelong quitter, Lynn Marie Morski founded Quitting By Design, wrote a book about it, and is now on a mission to help people carve out a successful life through strategic quitting.  At first blush, this might sound like an odd pairing for a podcast about Perseverance, but the truth is that it wasn't until I quit playing Division I Lacrosse at Boston College, that I was able to discover acting, which became my life's passion and my career.     We talk about how quitting can help reveal your life’s purpose, how to maximize the benefits and minimize the challenges associated with major life changes, the number of ways in which quitting can lead to more success than you've ever had, why quitting has been stigmatized, the benefits of confronting your fears of being labeled a "failure" if you decide to quit something, and how to prepare yourself for a "successful" quit, whether from a job, a relationship or something else entirely.     SHOWNOTES:   “The difference between quitting and giving up is that, quitting is when you realize that something is just not in line with your passion your purpose and your values”, (07:28). “I don’t think I give up a lot, I quit when I realize that something is not for me, but it may not take me a long time to make that realization”, (09:08). I pass that along to a lot of people that I speak to who worry a lot about what other people will think when they quit and I point out that those other people have never been you they’ve never been in your shoes, and secondly, in today’s distractful society how long are they going to think about it period, (10:05). “A lot of times when you quit a thing people are actually proud of you, and think it’s a courageous move so they might think nothing...if they think negatively, how long until they swipe down on Instagram, they will think about it for such a short period of time while you have to live it 24/7”, (10:25). “If its a marriage that’s ruining your life, and you’re like ‘what will people think of me when I get divorced?’ people will think about it for 30 seconds, you’re living it 24/7, if it’s stressing you it’s taking years off your life, not theirs”, (10:46). “To continuously tell people to live their best life without giving them the tools to leave the other one is not really fair”, (12:56). “If you want to call it evolving, or whatever it takes us for us to destigmatize it [quitting] I will go down that path with you but the point is that you gotta stop what isn’t working and start a new thing”, (13:46). The strategic quitting plan has FIVE STEPS, the first is realizing that something needs to go. Step two is figuring out exactly what it is, or where the friction point is. The next step is identifying and overcoming any fear for leaving what you want to quit. Step four is preparing the logistics, and then the fifth step is enacting the quit in a way that preserves the relationship as best as possible and burns the fewest of bridges”, (14:33). “My first semester of college I changed my major four times”, (20:46). “A lot of people see this and they may say that it’s selfish of you to quit, but it is selfish of you not to quit. If you are in a position that you are not at your best and if your”, (31:20). If you learn anything from time spent in a relationship, educational endeavor, then it’s not a waste, even if the thing you learned is that you never want to do it again, (38:20). “The word NO means not right for you right now, or yes to something else”, (38:45). “That’s why the fifth step of quitting is really important because as long as you don’t burn bridges and you maintain those relationships, it’s a lot more likely that you’ll be able to go back to that other thing,” (40:00). MOTTOS: This too shall pass, this is all happening for a reason, this is all part of a plan, (40:44). I wish I could go back to 3-year old me and stop worrying, (42:00).      LINKS:   Website: https://quittingbydesign.com   Podcast: https://quittingbydesign.com/quit-happens-podcast/ Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/Quitting-Design-Lynn-Marie-Morski/dp/1641825375   LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/lynn-marie-morski-md-esq/   Fitness: https://medicalfitnesstour.org/speaker/lynn-marie-morski-md-esq/   Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/quittingbydesign/     RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “NO”s:     Jesse Bradley - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-77-how-to-find-faith-pro-soccer-player-turned-pastor-jesse-bradley?rq=PERSEVERANCE   Suze Yalof Schwartz- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-39-unplug-meditation-ceofounder-suze-yalof-schwartz?rq=perseverance    Colin Macintosh- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-23-hot-wings-to-hedgefunds-colin-macintosh?rq=quit    Heather Hayward- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-48elite-results-coachheather-hayward?rq=law   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. 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Heath Evans played fullback in the NFL for 10 seasons and has a Superbowl Ring to show for it, from his time with the New Orleans Saints.  Four of those seasons were with the New England Patriots and football royalty Tom Brady and Bill Belichick, for whom he has tremendous amounts of respect and many lessons on leadership.  So it's no wonder that he can talk about grit.  But what may not be expected is that this tough guy would be so vulnerable, honest and forthright about his personal flaws or that facing down his own demons and surrendering to God would be more difficult than facing bone-crushing linebackers week after week for a decade.    We riff on leadership, proving naysayers wrong, following a dream even when every external force seems to be trying to thwart it, owning up to mistakes and getting back on the trail to recovery and much, much more.    SHOWNOTES:  Starting to be aware of his own body at age 4, (4:20). “The leaders are the ones that need to lead by serving others.”, (4:52). Growing up in a non-labeled religious home, (8:57). Living a life all for ourselves, (13:11). “When you live for self-satisfaction, no amount of money makes you put your head in a pillow at night.”, (14:47). Tom Brady’s character, (18:38). The lack of character with the NFL on Deflate Gate, (20:23). “Loving, accepting and forgiving.”, (26:44). Starting to see many communities drop the victim mentality, (29:02). “The biggest lie of anything is to divide and conquer.”, (32:38). Wanting to always protect and honor his ex-wife and her experience with sexual assault, (34:05). Starting their non-profit together for children who have been sexually assaulted, (34:44). “The hardest thing about sexual abuse is that it wounds the soul.”, (35:23). Blowing his knee out from balancing his home lifestyle and football career, (36:09). 5-month spiral of self-pity and bitterness, (37:34). “Anger and forgiveness leads to bitterness and it doesn’t just corrupt us, but it corrupts everyone we love.”, (39:45). Discussing his journey to Auburn University football, (44:36). Experiencing constant rejection, (48:08). The challenges with being a leader, (50:09). “I believe we suffer these things, so we can comfort others.”, (53:46). Encouraging others with his new life motivation, (58:24). “It’s the failures that make the successes so sweet.”, (1:04:06). “It all starts with humility. Everything I learned about leadership whether if it is fatherhood, being a husband, being a fullback.”, (1:10:36).    LINKS:  Website - https://heathevans44.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/heathevans44/?hl=en  Twitter - https://twitter.com/heathevans44?lang=en  Views on Kneeling During the National Anthem - https://youtu.be/7xqgSOGUxpU  NFL News - http://www.nfl.com/news/author?id=0ap3000000531396    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Jesse Bradley - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-77-how-to-find-faith-pro-soccer-player-turned-pastor-jesse-bradley  Jay Ferruggia - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-75-how-to-transform-your-body-amp-persona-strength-coach-transformation-specialist-amp-super-connector-jay-ferruggia  Tim Cradley - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-57shame-addiction-community-hazelden-betty-ford-counselor-tim-craley    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's hard to imagine how Simonetta Lein accomplishes all that she does. She has over 1 Million extremely engaged Instagram followers who find inspiration in her messages of female empowerment and fashion. She's a successful model and journalist, and she runs a charity, The Wishwall Foundation, that helps others express and experience their wishes. But when we spoke, I learned that all of this was created as a reaction to something that happened to her when she was in her early 20's back in Italy. She and her now-husband decided to pick up their lives, leave their families and move across the ocean to reinvent themselves in America. Ten years later, she's calling the shots and she explains how you can too.We talk about how following your own moral code canprotect you from going down a wrong path, how hard work can be a cure-all, how something that starts out simple and close to your heart can become a huge movement you never expected and much, much more.   SHOWNOTES: “Philadelphia is not my original city nor is this country, but as an immigrant I was forced to find my own roots.”, (2:33). The internet gave a lot of people the access to just do it [create], (10:09). Always maintain a goal, a common theme that drives you, but do not be afraid to try new things. Life is happening while you are working towards your goal and that’s a blessing so enjoy it, it will lead you to something even bigger than you might’ve expected, (13:44). If you are like me and you have values, faith, and a vision for yourself just know that whenever you go halfway through a situation and not fight through it, you’ll never be happy, you have to give it your all, (26:57). Look at yourself in the mirror and say, ‘what am I doing? Who am I? Will someone remember my legacy one day? Build your own success, (27:30). “Learn how to rest and not to give up.”, (30:30). Be determined, master your own mind, mediate, read books, do sports and do whatever that you can do to help yourself and your career, (36:55). “You tell me ‘NO’, I say it’s a challenge to keep on trying.”, (37:37). “Do one thing at a time, finish the task and move on to the next one.”, (39:04). “If you have a possibility, just do it because the only thing holding you back is fear, (41:30).   LINKS: Website: http://www.simonettalein.com/http://thewishwall.org/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simonettalein/https://www.instagram.com/Thewishwallfoundation/ Business: https://ausoniapartners.com/ YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHpABEasYxL9TLySM_Qpdgw Twitter: https://twitter.com/SimonettaLein?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “NO”s:   Marc Duplass- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-43mark-duplass-just-shoot-it?rq=mark   Suze Yalof Schwartz- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-39-unplug-meditation-ceofounder-suze-yalof-schwartz?rq=fashion   Drago Sumonja- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-12-lucky-screenwriter-slings-drinks-by-night-drago-sumonja?rq=italy   Emily Raiber-https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-29-dr-drew-infertility-the-making-of-a-social-media-giant-emily-raiber?rq=media   Julie Wright- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-49-how-to-talk-to-your-kids-now-say-this-co-authors-heather-turgeon-julie-wright?rq=personal    Nataly Kogan- https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-66nbspnbsphow-to-be-happier-now-happier-inc-founderceo-nataly-kogan?rq=personal     If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sahara Rose is still only 28.  Which is why she had to overcome heaps of criticism en route to becoming the #1 Internationally Best-Selling Author of Idiot's Guide to Ayurveda.  But her fresh take on an Ancient philosophy is also why her podcast, Highest Self Podcast, is ranked #1 in Religion/Spirituality on iTunes.  Her story of seeking out Deepak Chopra is worth the listen alone.  In his foreword of her book, he wrote "Sahara Rose has successfully refreshed and revitalized the ancient knowledge without watering down its significance and depth..."   We talk overcoming overwhelming odds, helping others without thinking of the benefits to yourself, being prepared when opportunity knocks, resisting haters and much, much more.     SHOWNOTES:  Facing rejection during the process of receiving a book deal, (5:55). “None of this would’ve happened had I not had the courage to go up to a stranger.”, (12:14). The process with publishing her own book on Ayurveda, (14:16). Juggling between writing two books at the same time, (19:00) “In the publishing world, it’s up to you to make your own book famous.”, (20:26). Being inspired by her desire to share to others, (22:24). “It’s impossible to live our lives trying to please everyone because we’re going to wind up not pleasing ourselves.”, (24:15). Overcoming your own fear, (31:15). Describing the masculine and feminine, (33:54). “Most of us are afraid of the pause.”, (36:30).    LINKS:  Website - https://www.iamsahararose.com/  Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/iamsahararose/?hl=en  Idiot’s Guides: Ayurveda - https://www.iamsahararose.com/book  The Highest Self Podcast -   https://www.iamsahararose.com/highestselfpodcast    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Jay Ferruggia - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-75-how-to-transform-your-body-amp-persona-strength-coach-transformation-specialist-amp-super-connector-jay-ferruggia  Cathy Heller - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-69-dont-keep-your-day-jobs-purpose-finder-cathy-heller   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and  spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Artie Tobia is a prolific singer-songwriter, with a catalog of over 100 songs he has written over the past two decades, while performing over 200 nights a year. Continually working on his craft, his fourth album Aberdeen was the CD of the month pick by Thomas Greener of KVMR Los Angeles and and his 5th album, Driven, hit # 2 on the APD Americana National Album Chart in January, when it was released.  He has opened for the iconic Tanya Tucker Rock 'n Roll Hall of Famer, Dr.John, Kansas, Blue Oyster Cult, POCO and Kenny Wayne Shepherd, among others.  But what's most astounding is that he's managed to do all of this while raising three incredibly successful kids, holding a job in the New York City Public School system, where he is currently a Crisis Manger (in the Bronx) and getting his Masters degree as well as his Administrative License.  Oh, and he authored a book about classroom management called Chasing Down the C.A.T..  We talk work ethic, balance, focus, reality and how to work toward one's dreams by chipping away one day at a time until the dam breaks.     SHOWNOTES:  Process of making his new album, (6:24). Getting 14 songs in 15 hours, (9:19). “There’s a tendency to give away your creativity to someone who you think is an expert.”, (11:55). Ending up with a record with no regrets, (14:50). “Nobody else is responsible to fulfill my dream.”, (15:19). Having a certain sense to separate yourself from the product to produce yourself, (18:12). An abundance mentality, 20:26). Managing his time with recording an album, touring and taking care of his family, (23:22). “What drives me is that I want to make a difference for people and make an impact.”, (25:18). Playing a role in the education system, (27:29). Intensity of the work as a Crisis Manager in the Bronx, (29:28). Similarity between his roles as an educator and a musician, (29:51). Recognizing himself as a service-minded person with age, (30:36). Contrasting a disciplinary versus a behavioral specialist, (34:21). “The most important thing I’ve learned from both of my worlds is accept and forgive.”, (36:38). Possessing the ability to sit down and talk with anyone , (40:38). “Being an independent artist is hard work.”, (44:53). Having gratitude for the “Yes”s he receives as a musician, (48:27). “As long as I’m connecting with people that is a big part of it for me.”, (54:02).     LINKS:  Website - https://www.artietobia.com/  “Driven” Album - http://www.tobiamusic.com/driven/  Twitter - https://twitter.com/TOBIAMUSIC?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor  Facebook Page - https://www.facebook.com/ARTIETOBIABAND/  Performance Dates - https://www.reverbnation.com/artietobia    RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s:  Cathy Heller - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-69-dont-keep-your-day-jobs-purpose-finder-cathy-heller?rq=cathy%20heller  Jimmy Jam - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-72-jimmy-jam-legendary-music-producer-on-talent-work-ethic-amp-relationships  Chip Taylor - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep67hall-of-fame-songwriter-chip-taylor    If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and  spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jesse Bradley was a self-defined atheist from a family full of non-believers and mixed faiths, as a kid.  He dreamed of being a professional basketball player, but it never happened. He did, however, become a pro soccer player.  He also almost died, when soccer took him to Zimbabwe, where he was tutoring students as well. What he never imagined as a kid is that he'd end up a pastor, leading others with his strong faith. We talk gratitude, encouragement, faith and overcoming the hard knocks of life and growing as a result of them.    SHOW NOTES:  “Sometimes the greatest blessings and experiences in life are things that you didn’t plan or never seen coming,” (02:42). They’re seasons in your life when you just feel like you’re doing the right thing, you’re in the right spot, it’s so fulfilling, and that’s where I feel like I am right now, (03:53). “I think honest, humble conversations are so positive, I think in our country right now, being able to disagree and still love each other that’s something we need to enter into because whether it’s political or spiritual it’s important that we understand each other, value each other can go deep and still respect our differences,” (12:33). And that’s how it is in life with “NO”s, a door closes someone sees something in you a talent, or an ability comes alongside enters the picture and in your radar, (20:16). When that alignment from heaven, other people, and doing what you’re made to do, your heart can feel the healing and that’s when your healthy and persevering, (29:49). Being sincere is not enough, it has to be true and real, (37:46). The truth hurts but that’s when growth happens, the revealing happens before the healing and without the revealing there’s no healing, (39:10). For anybody going through a career shift or transition, start by looking for things that seem interesting to you, (40:33). Sometimes in our lives we’re going to have to make some sacrifices, however you could find the greatest joy and be at peace, (47:44). The word “NO” actually means it’s time to look for the best opportunity and time to get on your knees and start praying, (53:50). Rocky is a movie that stands out to me the most because of his perseverance and if I could tell the younger version of myself something it would be to not take myself too seriously, and have reassurance in God’s love, (57:03).     LINKS:   Podcast: https://www.oneplace.com/ministries/living-vine/   https://www.crosswalk.com/devotionals/activate-with-pastor-jesse-bradley/   https://www.twr360.org/speakers/view/id,347   Book: https://www.amazon.com/Rooted-Grace-Jesse-Bradley/dp/110551725X   http://www.lulu.com/shop/jesse-bradley/a-new-season/paperback/product-20743159.html   Twitter: https://twitter.com/JesseJBradley?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor      RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 "No"s: Jon Gordon: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-73-best-sellingnbspauthorspeaker-procollege-sport-amp-fortune-500-leadership-consultantnbspnbspjon-gordon-on-grit-attitudenbspnbspamp-faith?rq=god  Linden Ashby: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-8-linden-ashby-melrose-place-to-teen-wolf   If you like what you  hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and  spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes  at www.10000nos.com          Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In 2002, 'The Exonerated' took Off-Broadway by storm.  It was written by Jessica Blank and her husband Erik Jensen and I remember being riveted, as was everyone else, by the real-life transcripts of death-row inmates that were artfully spun into compelling monologues for actors.  Tim Robbins and Susan Sarandon eventually helped it become a feature film.  Here, I sit down with the amazingly multi-talented and articulate Jessica Blank to discuss the power of story and its uses, regardless of what walk of life one pursues. We talk structure, process, compassion, collaboration and more.  If you're in the arts, this is essential.  If you're not, this is fascinating and much more useful to you than you probably realize.   SHOWNOTES: “Everything that I do is in the language of story”, (03:56).  “A story is a technology for triggering empathy and just imagine what you can do with that”, (10:27). Talent doesn’t exist, it’s about craft and learning how to work with specific tools, (26:23). As actors, when something feels ‘playable’, it’s because the character has been constructed with ecological and psychological integrity, it’s all about the connection, (28:49). You never know when those other supportive factors are going to want to converge around your work, and they don’t if you don’t take the first step, (43:53). The word “NO” actually means I’ve got something better for you, (58:50). My favorite book is the Outsiders by S.E. Hinton because of her craft, skills, and authenticity, (59:25). LINKS IMDb:https://www.imdb.com/name/nm1264624/ https://www.jessicacblank.com/ https://www.jessicacblank.com/ https://www.theactorsgreenroom.com/jessica-blank-5week-film-and-tv/ Twitter:https://www.simonandschuster.com/authors/Jessica-Blank/21222623 Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/jessicacblank/   RELATED PAST EPISODES OF 10,000 “No”s: Mark Duplass - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-43mark-duplass-just-shoot-it?rq=MARK%20DUPLASS Lawrence Trilling - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-47-goliath-showrunner-lawrence-trilling?rq=LAWRENCE%20TRILLING Eric Christian Olsen - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-26-ncis-las-eric-christian-olsen-choose-hope-over-fear?rq=ERIC%20CHRISTIAN%20OLSEN Kimi Culp - https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-2-columbine-to-sundance-kimi-culp?rq=KIMI%20CULP   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and  spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jay Ferruggia is bald, jacked and tattoed. So it's easy to be intimidated by him or judge him from afar, as I once did.  But scratch the surface and under the muscular build is a sensitive, inquisitive soul who has made it his life's work to strengthen others physically, psychologically and spiritually, as he did for me for a recent role.  Our conversation covers topics as specific as the benefits of sea salt and top training techniques, to Jay's systematic strategies to overcome his "introvert" label and become a super-connector.  Jay's transformation from a "skinny-fat" kid from Jersey to influencing tens of thousands of followers through his books, his podcast, his articles and his weekend retreat events is the stuff of movies.  You will come away knowing more about how to transform your body and, more importantly, your mind in order live up to your full potential. SHOWNOTES: How I judged Jay based on his appearance before ever speaking to him, (3:10). Growing up watching Stallone and Schwarzenegger, (4:54). Contracting tuberculosis during Sophomore year of college, (5:52). Creating one of the original underground gyms, (7:12). Writing for numerous health and fitness magazines, (9:06). The science behind fitness training, (10:57). Considering your stress levels, gut health and sleep before stepping into the gym, (12:25). Mastering technique in the gym, (13:24). Seeking out the information that is right for you, (15:00). Confusion around different types of diets, (16:04). “Science shows you need to train a body part or muscle group at least twice a week.”, (18:42). Training to become better, not sore, (20:27). Misconceptions around salt, (22:46). Moving out to Santa Monica 8 years ago to begin a transformation, (25:03). Urging others to reinvent themselves, (26:20). “You can’t preach and teach people, you just need to lead by example.”, (30:32). Being a Super-Connector, (35:14). Pushing yourself to do uncomfortable things, (37:20). Taking the reins with meeting new people, (40:45). Limiting the number of tasks in a day, (44:46). “Sometimes asking ‘Why?’ five, six, seven times is important.” , (47:44). Intertwining of masculinity and sensitivity, (53:00). “Now, I tell people when I have weakness and need help.” , (55:09). The Ben Franklin Effect, (55:29). Rewriting the narrative of needing alone time, (57:18). LINKS: Website: http://jasonferruggia.com/ Website Blog: http://jasonferruggia.com/blog/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayferruggia/?hl=en Renegade Radio Podcast: http://jasonferruggia.com/podcasts/ Renegade Diet Book: http://www.renegadedietbook.com/   Related Past Episodes of 10,000 “No”s: Craig Ballantyne - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/master-discipline-author-coach-early-to-rise-ceo-craig/id1260829558?i=1000392571529&mt=2 Bedros Keuilian - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/dumpster-diver-to-empire-builder-entrepreneur-bedros/id1260829558?i=1000393148660&mt=2   If you like what you  hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes  at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlie Rocket ran a multi-million dollar business where he managed hip-hop artists like 2 Chainz into Grammy Awards.  But he weighed over 300 lbs and was diagnosed with a brain tumor so he decided to do what he has done his entire life:  dream the biggest dream and then set about working toward attaining it, regardless of whether his family and friends thought he was crazy.  One of those dreams was to be a Nike Athlete, which came true when his fan-created commercial of his transformation from obesity to Ironman went viral and he was flown to Nike's headquarters in Oregon.  That trip led to Charlie being featured alongside Lebron James and Serena Williams in a commercial with Colin Kaepernick... something that Charlie had been writing in his journal for months prior. His worldview has such simplicity that it is unique:  to remove the brain and allow himself to dream like a child.  But his follow-through and workmanship, fueled by these dreams, is what has so many people talking about him.  10,000 "No"s intended to be on a two month break for the holidays, but this inspiring conversation felt too pertinent to release on any other day of the year besides New Year's Day.  Launch into your 2019 with the wise words of Charlie Rocket! SHOWNOTES: Coming from a long line of vacuum salespeople, (6:30). Getting fired by Soldier Boy at age 18 and deciding to rep musicians as a talent manager, (9:36).  "If you want to be successful, you have to be of servitude, (11:09).  Posting hundreds of MySpace comments for hours every single day to build an audience one person at a time, (12:19).   Driving the entire coast to 'Salute the DJ' and build an army of DJs who would ultimately help him and his artists win a Grammy, (13:04).  Serving DJs by making it easier for them to access their music better by building the biggest DJ website in the world for Urban DJs, DJservicepack.com, (15:00).  How Charlie executedthese big dream ideas, (16:26).  "The key thing is, I shut down my brain...", (18:06). Walking away from a very successful music career at 305lbs, with a brain tumor, to become an athlete, (20:00). Why Nike was so special to Charlie from a young age, (23:36).  How Charlie turned his recurring journal entry of a year into a reality, (27:20). Charlie's dichotomy of being a dreamer and a pragmatic practitioner, (29:05).  Being honest and asking for help from followers, (34:03).  Mobilizing a fan base to help launch a book, (35:32). Shrinking the brain tumor through a diet of living foods, (38:04).  The word "no" really means "not yet", (39:05).   The "Buy, Cry or Die" theory, (39:30). What Charlie learned about marketing from PDiddy, (40:58).  Bad relationship to spending money, "We spend it and get it back, we that invented that.", (43:48).  The negatives knock you down, but they're also the tools to your positives... so you can change anything, (45:58).  Charlie's lone regret about not spending enough time with his grandfather because he was chasing the flash of the music industry(46:50). LINKS: Website: https://www.charliejabaley.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/charliejabaley?lang=en Podcast: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/charlie-rocket-show/id1443304944?mt=2 Fan Made Nike Commercial: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Davi60B5Iig Nike’s 30thAnniversary Ad: https://youtu.be/Fq2CvmgoO7I   Related Past Episodes of 10,000 "No"s : Jimmy Jam -https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/jimmy-jam-legendary-music-producer-on-talent-work-ethic/id1260829558?i=1000424860724&mt=2 Mark Duplass - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mark-duplass-building-empire-outside-hollywood-system/id1260829558?i=1000411160418&mt=2 Suze Yalof Schwartz - https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/makeover-fairy-godmother-turned-meditation-ceo-suze/id1260829558?i=1000408819893&mt=2   If you like what you  hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and  spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes  at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sitting  down with Jon Gordon, it became immediately apparent why  he is trusted by Major League managers and players,  asked to speak to NFL teams and sit down one on one  with entire rosters of Pros to ensure that their minds are focused on the daunting tasks their jobs require. He is a force of positivity who doesn't just motivate but encourages with a warmth that few possess (he literally took his "Positive Warrior" shirt off his own back to give it to me when we finished our interview). While his faith in God is strong and apparent, there is nothing close to "holier than thou" in his attitude.    Instead, he possesses a humble desire to serve, which is the central theme throughout all of his books on leadership, in and out of the business world, including all 6 of his best-sellers which have been read by millions.  When I think of the man I'd like to be, it's not far off from Jon Gordon, who has somehow managed to maintain a great family, a booming career and the ability to impact and help both strangers and friends. SHOW NOTES: I’m a writer, a speaker, and consultant. I speak to companies, sports teams, school districts on concepts that I write about, (6:40). There is no straight line, the key is to show up every day and stay positive through your struggles and adversities, we don’t know what the future holds but you have to show up every day and trust that the best is yet to come, (13:11). “Fear believes in a negative future, faith believes in a positive future, so if neither has happened yet why wouldn’t you choose to believe in the positive future?” (14:06). “Sometimes you have to lose a goal to find your destiny”, (14:35). Grit is the number one predicting factor of success, (14:45). “Keep your vision alive”, (15:20). “We don’t get burned out because of at we do, we get burned out because we forget why we do it”, (16:40). The things that are meant for you will really stick and the things that aren’t fade away, (19:18). If there was no struggle there would be no triumph, if there was no obstacle and no failure along the way, there would be no sense of victory, we have to go through the challenges to ultimately enjoy the outcome of the success, (20:34). “When there’s a NO, you have to believe that a YES is coming”, (29:29). Believe, act, then receive, (30:25). Failure doesn’t define you, it refines you to who you want to be, (49:00). “You’ll never regret going after your dreams”, (53:16). History remembers the one who withstood criticism to accomplish something great, (54:58). Finish your craft first and then you share it with the world, (1:02:10). Great leaders succeed not only because they’re great but because they bring out the greatness in others, (1:07:55). SHOW LINKS: About J Gordon: http://www.jongordon.com/                           http://www.jongordon.com/about-jon/ Podcast:http://positiveuniversity.com/ Twitter:https://twitter.com/JonGordon11?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor Amazon:https://www.amazon.com/Jon-Gordon/e/B001ILKHU8 Facebook:https://www.facebook.com/jongordonpage/ LinkedIn:https://www.facebook.com/jongordonpage/   RELATED PAST 10,000 “NO”s CONVERSATIONS: Roger Fishman: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-18-hanging-from-helicopters-adventure-photographer-roger-fishman?rq=roger%20fishman Steven Kane: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-68-tnts-the-last-ship-creatorshowrunner-steven-kane Nataly Kogan: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-66nbspnbsphow-to-be-happier-now-happier-inc-founderceo-nataly-kogan?rq=nataly%20kogan If you like what you  hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes  at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jimmy Jam, along with his producing partner Terry Lewis, has led to too many accolades and awards to mention here (see links in show notes below), but the highlights include 5 Grammy Awards, an Academy Award nomination, the most nominations for Producer of the Year, a star on Hollywood Boulevard's Walk of Fame, and several Billboard 200 No. 1 albums.  The duo was famously fired by Prince, early on in their career but, as with all 10,000 "No"s guests, this "failure" became an opportunity, setting them on the path to glory with a stronger bond and more clearly defined purpose.  Sitting down with Jimmy, I was shocked by his candid generosity in sharing stories about legends like Prince, Michael Jackson and Janet Jackson, among others.  Our conversation was raw and intimate, ebbing and flowing between these tales and incredible lessons on work ethic, the power of a positive attitude, the value of relationships and the ability to serve the story or project above one's own ego. SHOW NOTES: Receiving advice from Clarence Avant, (5:03). Shutting down for a minute, (7:15). “The advice we give is only as good as the people we are giving it to.”, (8:43). Unteachable lessons with experience, (11:26). Filling your toolbelt, (14:36). Exposure to the world with the music industry, (17:06). The ultimate language of music, (17:41). Getting fired by Prince, (22:15). Meeting Clarence Avant for the first time, (27:44). “Mentor is too small of a word for what Clarence was to us and still is.”, (34:14). Working with Michael and Janet Jackson, (37:25). “As soon as the beat hits, he starts dancing around the room.”, (45:04). Growing up with parents in the music industry, (51:00). Competing with Terry in different bands, (57:51). Mutual companionship with Terry, (59:10). “We each have the freedom to do what we want to do and what we are passionate about.”, (1:09:09). Prince as the greatest musician of all time, (1:12:54). “We thought we could contribute more if we knew more.”, (1:23:26). Outworking anybody no matter the talent level, (1:24:32) Doing what you love is not work, (1:26:04). Terry receiving a phone call to rejoin Prince’s band, (1:30:31). “We get told ‘No’ to this day.”, (1:31:32). Influencing his children with his music, (1:32:17) “Apply the hours to something you really love.”, (1:39:34). Significance around interning, (1:45:11). Listening and absorbing what is around you, (1:51:25). “I always say Terry and I have never had an argument.”,(1:53:54). Contrasting an argument from a disagreement, (1:54:05). Divinity of music, (2:07:03). SHOW LINKS: IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0005047/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/flytetymejam/?hl=en Rolling Stone Article: https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-lists/jimmy-jam-and-terry-lewis-our-life-in-15-songs-163941/ Billboard Article: https://www.billboard.com/articles/columns/pop/7348342/jimmy-jam-remembers-prince Soundness of Blackness – Optimism: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/optimistic/35504?i=35482 RELATED PAST 10,000 “NO”s CONVERSATIONS: Chip Taylor:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/creating-music-from-instinct-hall-fame-songwriter-chip/id1260829558?i=1000422622350&mt=2 Mark Duplass:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/mark-duplass-building-empire-outside-hollywood-system/id1260829558?i=1000411160418&mt=2   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Seek like-minded folks who can push you, support you and encourage you.  Find the right community for you to strengthen your resolve, sharpen your skills and reduce the chances of giving up on yourself. Monday Morsels are the new weekly companion to the weekly Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s podcast where Matt riffs for a short time on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give listeners some thoughts to chew on as they begin their week. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

With guidance from quotes from past guests, Acacia Walker, Bryan Callen and Elissa Goodman, Matt monologues about gratitude for his listeners and guests and discusses the importance of acknowledging our own good fortune, regardless of how it stacks up to our expectations.  He talks about the power of accountability to those we respect (and fear slightly) in the hopes of motivating you to reflect on your contributions to the world in 2018 and embrace the 10,000 “No”s you've endured as we approach a new year. SHOW NOTES: Inspiring quotes from past guests, (2:00). “If you listen to enough different stories, sometimes we are thick headed.”, (6:20). Overwhelming emotion during this time of year, (7:27). Turning the “I Have To” to “I Get To”, (9:14). Recognizing the privilege with having a job, (10:07). Holding yourself accountable, (12:18). Taking time out of the New Year to reflect on what you contribute to the world, (18:06). Faith presented with past guests, (24:24). “Allow faith to grow within you with things you control.”, (27:26). Applying lessons from the podcast to your life, (30:37). Reaching out and sharing your thoughts with Matt, (30:58). LINKS: Ep 42 – Elissa Goodman: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-42-beat-cancer-with-elissa-goodman Ep 45 – Acacia Walker: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-45-boston-college-womens-lacrosse-coach-acacia-walker Ep 62 – Bryan Callen: https://www.10000nos.com/episodes/ep-62-how-to-bet-on-yourself-comedianactorpodcast-host-tfatk-bryan-callen If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt thanks his listeners and riffs on the power of putting gratitude at the center of your life. He revisits lessons from past guests, particularly the recently deceased Rob Whitaker, Author/Speaker and CEO of Happier, Inc. Nataly Kogan and Global Philanthropy CEO Maggie Neilson. An abbreviated episode designed to send you into the holidays with an awareness of all that you already have in your life as you break bread with family and friends and give thanks. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you hem and haw?  Spend too much time talking and not enough time doing?  I do.  Usually. But not this time... and it led to REAL change in the form of financial support to the LAFD and victims of the Woolsey Fire 2018. Monday Morsels are the new weekly companion to the weekly Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s podcast where Matt riffs for a short time on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give listeners some thoughts to chew on as they begin their week. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Cathy Heller is the host of the popular podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, which was given the #1 spot on iTunes recommend list of shows for the 2017 New Year. In this episode, Cathy encourages you to find purpose in their life, celebrate your milestones and get paid to do what you love full time. She started out as a singer songwriter and first found success licensing her music to TV, film and ads. Quickly she became a stand out in her field and was featured in magazines like Billboard, Variety and the LA Weekly. After making a multi six figure living with her music, Cathy started a music agency and then she began teaching other artists to grow their own careers. Two weeks after her third daughter was born, she started her top ranked podcast. Cathy’s show has been featured in HuffPost and Inc Magazine’s “top 9 podcasts”. She’s been featured 5 times by Apple themselves and the fans are resonating with how genuine she is. Throughout the show, she has interviewed creative entrepreneurs like The Office actress Jenna Fischer, popular blogger Seth Godin, designer Jonathan Adler, make up artist Bobbi Brown, choreographer Mandy Moore, TEDTalk speaker Angela Duckworth, and Gretchen Rubin to name a few. When she’s not teaching or interviewing amazing guests for her podcast, you can find Cathy playing with her three little girls, writing her book, songwriting for TV shows and commercials, or enjoying a moment with friends. Cathy often says “purpose is the opposite of depression” and she is truly lifting others to be the happiest version of themselves. An incredible force of nature, Cathy gets very transparent with me about her flaws, doubts and fears and how living a life with purpose, and helping others find theirs, is what enabled her to combat the darkness of a childhood where she was abandoned by her father and forced to care for her mother, who was battling depression. Show Notes are available on our Website GUEST LINKS Cathy's Website Don't Keep Your Day Job Podcast Cathy's Twitter Creative Workroom Songwriting Course Variety Magazine Article Cathy Heller's Instagram PODCAST EQUIPMENT WE USE: Microphone Manfrotto Tripod Rode Microphone Stand Beats by Dre Headphones Focusrite Charlotte 2i2 USB Audio Interface FOR ANNOUNCEMENTS AND PROMO VIDEOS OF WHO'S NEXT, FOLLOW:   Matt's Instagram  Twitter Facebook LinkedIn Join Matt's Monday Morsels Tribe If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review, and spread the word.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you allowing yourself to be defined by others?  Or are you limiting yourself from being all that you can be?   Monday Morsels are the new weekly companion to the weekly Friday Interviews of 10,000 "No"s where Matt riffs for a short time on topics and themes covered throughout the show to give listeners some thoughts to chew on as they begin their week. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Steven Kane is nearing the end of an incredible run with his very successful post-apocalyptic drama, The Last Ship. But the path to being one of TV's "lucky ones" was anything but smooth. A native of New Jersey, who went to UPenn undergrad, Steven thought he had it made when his USC film school Master's Thesis, a short film entitled Heroic Symphony, garnered awards at film festivals around the country. Not so much. While he wrote plays (his collection of One Act plays, Out of Your Mind, had a successful run in Los Angeles at the GuerriLA Theater) and made his first feature film (The Doghouse, won him Best Director at the NY Indy Film Festival) nothing really moved the needle. And, despite getting early attention from legendary director James Cameron, when he was making Hollywood history with Titanic, Steven was eventually forced to pay his rent making corporate videos for a significant time. But like so many guests of 10,000 "No"s, his ability to frame that "opportunity" planted the seeds, and introduced him to people that he would later use as consultants on The Last Ship. Before this juggernaut, he gained a reputation for delivering quality scripts on many hits shows before landing a long-running gig as a writer and producer on The Closer (for which he received an Edgar Nomination). A chance encounter with an old colleague led to step in a different direction, as a higher-level writer on the hit comedy American Dad as well as writing an episode for cultural icon Larry David's Curb Your Enthusiasm. In 2016, Kane was given the Distinguished Public Service Award, the US Navy's top civilian honor, for The Last Ship. He learned many lessons about leadership and productivity from the Navy, and many more from the hard knocks he's sustained along his journey. And he shares these valuable life lessons with us here.   Show Notes: “One of the things that’s a testament to how things work is that you just don’t give up. If you don’t give up, you can still be here to give your story”, (00:26). “You have to do the hard work to prove to yourself and others that you can actually deliver. Do your homework and groundwork”, (12:25). “It’s easier to say no. Finding people to say yes because they believe you is the hard part, but if you can get past the ‘no’s’ internally as well, you can do great things”, (13:08). “Don’t let the no’s stop you, adapt and find another game plan”, (16:35). “Just take the 10,000 “No”s and file them away and say you’ll see, it’s easier said than done however”, (17:50). “If you have faith in yourself, things will come your way”, (32:53). “Everything is useful even if it feels like it’s awful”, (1:11:09). “My story isn’t that unique, it’s really just a quest of not giving up”, (1:11:38). “Life is long, you may have not become what you thought you’d be or you may be disappointed, but if I were now 25 listening to myself, I'd be inspired by the idea that it’s a journey that takes different paths. As long as you love what you’re doing and stay optimistic and keep your eyes open to opportunities and don’t be afraid to take opportunities when they come your way, great things will come your way”, (1:11:55). “The word NO means I don’t understand you”, (1:13:34).  Show Links: IMDb- https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0437442/ http://the-last-ship.wikia.com/wiki/Steven_Kane Last Ship TV- http://thelastship.tv/category/steven-kane/ More on Steven Kane- http://thelastship.tv/2017/10/08/message-from-the-bridge-steven-kane-interview/ Social Media- Twitter: @mrstevenkane Facebook: Steven Kane If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at 10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Often called "The Godfather of Americana", Chip Taylor's songs have been recorded by such musical legends as Frank Sinatra, Janis Joplin, Jimi Hendrix, Willie Nelson, Aretha Franklin, Linda Ronstadt, and many many more.  A 2016 Songwriter Hall of Fame Inductee, Chip's songs are feature in over 115 movies and TV shows.  His career spans over 5 decades and includes iconic hits like "Wild Thing" and "Angel of the Morning".  Since 2000, he has released nearly one album a year and has 2 new albums ready for release, in addition to the 27 albums already out.  Along with friends Kris Kristofferson and John Prine, Chip was one of leaders of the Alt-Country movement in the 1970's.  Early in our conversation I mistakenly commented, "so, you write poems and put them to music".  Taylor quickly stopped me to explain that was not, in fact, the case.  He shared that, since the first time he realized he felt music more than most people, at age 5, when he experienced what he calls, “The Chill Factor,” he has continued to follow that innate instinct.  He hears a tune, works through it, and eventually discovers that words will magically work their way into the tune.  Instincts run through the veins of Chip and his brothers:  brother Barry invented the formula that predicts when volcanoes erupt and Jon (Voight) is an Academy Award-Winning actor known for his instinctual character portrayals.  What ensued was a riveting conversation about trust in one's own instrument, refusal to try to "guess the market" in the arts and allowing one's self to produce an enormous volume of high-quality work by nurturing the soul and providing the space in one's life to always be able to create.  SHOW NOTES:   3 boys, 3 unique talents, (8:42). Parental encouragement, (10:38). “Right before school, my dad said, ‘What is this day going to bring us now? Let’s find out.’”, (10:50). “The Chill Factor”: using inspiration to write and perform, (14:34). Signing with King Records at 16, (18:53). “The real lesson is to not take no for an answer.”, (23:02). The power of being told he is ok for who he was, (35:05). Following your gut instead of the market, (42:30). “The writers that I liked best over time were intuitive.”, (44:10). Rituals and habits practiced while writing, (46:53). On being prolific: releasing 27 albums overall, (49:40). Writing a duet album with Carrie Rodriguez, (53:00). “When somebody says something, I usually don’t let it fall off the table.”, (56:16). Combining the beauty of people and attractions, (1:07:34).  SHOW LINKS:  Website: http://trainwreckrecords.com/artists/chip_taylor.html  IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0852118/  Duet Album with Carrie Rodriguez: https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/red-dog-tracks/1049337059  Time Waits for No Little Girls Uncovered Album:   https://itunes.apple.com/us/album/time-waits-for-no-little-girls-uncovered/1436724971  Artie Tobia Website: http://www.tobiamusic.com/  If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at 10000nos.com          Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you guilty of thinking or starting sentences with the phrase, "I'll be happier when..." I get my promotion, the market turns, my kids go to college, I graduate High School? When Nataly Kogan's family escaped the Soviet Union, they eventually landed in Detroit.  Not speaking the language, Nataly learned English by watching Alyssa Milano on Who's the Boss repeatedly.  A true survivor, she learned how to do more than just hang on, thriving in business as an entrepreneur, successfully leading four companies.  But it wasn't until after she had attained a large measure of success that she began to notice she didn't feel much better.  Curious for a cure, she began to ask herself how she could replace the phrase, "I'll be happier when..."  with "I'm happier now, because..." Now, she helps others ask that same question, through her company, Happier, her book, Happier Now and the relatively new mobile app, Happier.  Her vision and philosophy has benefitted from the many views of her popular TEDtalk in which she explains the value of placing Gratitude in the center of our lives.  If you're someone who has ever thought, or uttered the phrase, "I'll be happier when..."  this is the episode for you. SHOW NOTES: “My story goes back to the Soviet Union”, (02:21). “I learned that our emotional well being, our happiness is not an extra, it’s not a prize we get for working hard enough, it’s actually the foundation which we can build the most fulfilling life”, (09:15). It’s not about trying to feel perfect or positive all the time, it’s about finding joy in everyday moments and also learning how to get through the difficult times of life because we all have them, (10:29). The mentality of making the best of whatever circumstances that you’re given, I learned that from them (parents), (15:07). “Acceptance to me means that we’re able to witness our life as it is without putting a judgment on it. When we’re able to say ‘this is how it is’ we’re in the best position to make the best decision about how to go forward”, (16:46). “All of us struggle in some way, and that is part of life. It’s not about being positive all the time. Research shows that when we acknowledge our difficult emotions we get through them faster and with less intensity”, (22:39). Gratitude is such a perfect antidote, we should always practice active appreciation of tiny moments that are joyful in our days. Savor those little moments of life, (24:30). “We should talk about our struggles, not just those in the past but those in the today”, (41:45). The word “NO” actually means “Not right now” or “Not quite like this”, (50:55). “It is the little things in life that sometimes brings us the greatest joy”, (56:40). Don’t feel so rushed to get to the place that you think you want to in life, you will reach it, (59:29).                                      Show Links Happier Website- https://www.happier.com/about/ Author- https://www.happier.com/book/ Linkedin- https://www.linkedin.com/in/natalykogan/ TED Talk- https://tedxboston.org/speaker/kogan Personal Narrative- https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/inspired-life/wp/2018/04/22/i-thought-grit-would-bring-me-success-it-almost-killed-me/?noredirect=on&utm_term=.d8d93c1b257e More on Nataly- https://www.verywellmind.com/nataly-kogan-1717524 If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Matt Mayberry only has two chairs in his apartment.  That way, if a visitor chooses to sit down, they will be likely to engage in a deep conversation with their host.  If it sounds strange, he's in good company, as he later discovered famed philosopher Henry David Thoreau only had three chairs for the same reason.  This is just one of the residual effects of studying Behavioral Design, and applying it at Boundless Mind, where Matt currently runs business development.  They work both sides of the aisle, with the development of their new app, Space, which helps internet users wean themselves from social media apps designed to keep them addicted.  While also counting app developers among their clients, as they help them build apps that will have a greater chance of retaining their users through behavioral design.  Luckily for the world, they only work with developers they deem to be socially conscious and in need of help against the fierce competition of behemoths like Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.  Tune in for 60 minutes of a fascinating mind explaining how things you deal with every day, like the layout of every grocery store you enter, have been specifically designed to make you do things you may not be aware of and buy things you may not need. SHOW NOTES: The path towards pursuing the field of Behavioral Design, (6:50). “7 out of the 10 most common killers in the world are behavior-based diseases”, (13:20). Reasons behind choosing to participate in Behavioral Design, (15:05). The dictatorship of a few companies inspired the formation of Boundless Mind Company, (16:55). Creating the app, Space, to reduce reliance on social media apps, (19:22). "Intervention drives behavior change”, (24:34). Closed system of signing on clients to the program, (26:33). Technology forming good habits through digital high-fives, (27:54). Variable Reward Schedule brings delight to our brains, (31:04). “Looking back at your life, would you say you got the stick or the carrot more?”, (37:21). The endless scroll of social media, (43:49). “We don’t look at it as manipulation.”, (47:18). The power behind free will and the freedom to say “No.”, (49:46). “I’ve heard a lot of No’s every step of the way.”, (50:37). The 10,000 No’s he told himself, (51:41). Finnish idea of stoic determination, (53:27). The power of sharing emotional intimacy, (57:25).   M Mayberry Links  Boundless Mind: https://www.boundless.ai/about-us/ LinkedIn Profile: https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthewmayberry/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/mattmayberry SPACE – You Need a Breather App:  https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/space-you-need-a-breather/id1187106675?mt=8 If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How do you take a company from $300 Million in revenue to $3.5 Billion in just 5 years?  Ask Sharran Srivaatsa and he'll say it's simple:  come up with the target number you need to hit and then judge EVERY SINGLE DECISION YOU MAKE by whether or not it will help get you closer to it. Easy for him to say, he has a gift: he can spot anyone else's gift faster than most.  Whether that "anyone" is a person or a company is irrelevant, Sharran's incredible compassion and overwhelming desire to serve is at the center of his immense success.  Not only a whiz with management and numbers, this ex-Goldman Sachs Investment Banker is one of the genuinely kindest and helpful humans I've come across in my life.  SHOW NOTES: “If you could only do one thing and one thing alone, what would it be? (00:13). “When you spend time working on your weaknesses, you start having a bunch of strong weaknesses”, (02:57). How can I filter and do things that bring me joy? (03:25). My mom and dad sold everything that they owned for me to come to the US, (06:49). Be grateful for the Western World education that you have because the rest of the world is not like that, (14:22). "I have a gift of the 'analytical eye', I may not be as skilled as the other person, but I could find someone’s weakness", (16:50). "The joy of seeing someone else’s super power is so uplifting", (19:46). “Singularity of Focus”, (21:49). “Cadence of Accountability”, (22:40). “Good process drives good results”, (23:44). “If you have some kind of goal, plan, and execution, you’re automatically top 10%”, (29:53). Jason Ferruggia, (31:50). "If you’re stuck in a job where you’re being told how to execute things and you don’t like that, then you should start a blog, a podcast.  There are ways today where you can get your message out without a lot of investment”, (54:48). “Everything that we think is simple can be made extraordinary by cadence”, (58:35). When you pay, you pay attention, (1:09:41). The word “No” means, “Next Opportunity”, (1:12:24). “The artist in us is the artist that is going to create new things, (1:13:23). “The more kind you can be, the better you can be”, (1:15:10).   Make serving people your number one driver. Have singularity of focus. What is the one thing that drives you? Once you identify that one thing, you need to base everything that you do for that one thing.                                               Links Who is Sharran? Bio: -https://www.sharran.com/about/ -https://bedroskeuilian.com/an-inside-look-sharran-srivatsaa/   5 A.M. Club: http://www.sharran.com/5amclub/   Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharran   More Info: https://www.tomferry.com/blog/the-4-step-framework-for-earning-more-business/   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From the womb, Heidi Dean has always been a go-getter. Instinctual by Nature while Methodical by Nurture, Heidi has been able to transition from Childhood Actor to Adult Actor/Voiceover Artist to Entrepreneur, Baker and, ultimately, Mother/Social Media Master.  Her exuberance is contagious and it is aided by her lifelong practice of "following the green lights" when her life and career stumble upon traffic jams.  Her love for acting was never abandoned, instead it morphed into the sword that other actors now wield when they become clients of Heidi's company, Marketing4Actors.  Her ability to shift seamlessly between her right and left brains, and her incredible eye for detail (like figuring out EXACTLY who her, or her clients', audience is) has allowed her to corner the social media market for actors and weather storms like her husband's medical diagnosis, even when it meant giving up a successful Baking business to focus on family.  She is, and always has been, Firing on All Cylinders.  Heidi Dean... SHOW NOTES: Singing and acting while growing up, (4:35). “As artists, we take things more to heart than others.”, (7:57). Heidi’s Voiceovers for Disney, (9:34). Parental support, (10:53). “My mom taught me to be organized and to give 1000% to everything.”, (12:34). Organization as her best trait, (15:20). Deciding to stop acting and leave the business, (19:48). Social Media Manager for famous actors, (21:10). “Growing my social media tribe of actors.”, (25:52). Significance of social media for actors, (28:14). Knowing your audience, (38:05). “Change the way you look at social media.”, (44:58). The App, IFTTT, (46:25). Husband’s Celiac disease, (50:20). Rituals and practices, (53:56). Heidi’s weaknesses and flaws, (55:04). Future and scheduled plans and events, (1:00:01). H Dean Show Links  Website: https://marketing4actors.com/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/marketing4actor?lang=en IMDB: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm9672947/ If This, Then That App: https://ifttt.com/ Ultimate Social Media Checklist for Actors https://marketing4actors.com/ultimate-social-media-for-actors/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Bryan Callen tours the world as a standup comedian. As an actor, one of the original MAD TV cast-members, he will finally have his own show (Schooled, a spinoff from The Goldbergs).  And as co-host of the wildly popular podcast, ‘The Fighter and The Kid’, he is known intimately by millions of listeners. But it wasn’t always this busy. A believer in self-discovery and knowledge-seeking, Callen chose to bet on himself rather than waiting around to be hired. He is not afraid to speak his mind, and speak it he does. Callen riffs on the importance of podcasts because of their ability to expose people to new ideas.  He rails against “cancelled culture” and the dangers of political correctness.  And he gives his definition of humor.  Callen proves that having a point of view and expressing it, while sometimes polarizing, is the only way to figure out who is with you, and who’s against you. SHOW NOTES: I’m not used to having a steady job or making money, (2:24). I’ve been able to make people laugh, really, for a long time, (05:18). When someone says, ‘how did you get so successful?’, well it took me 23 years first of all, and I failed almost 95% of the time, (08:25). There’s nothing that’s worth it, that doesn’t take forever...you have to put in the work and deep practice, (12:04). You have to have a good ‘why’, (12:56). I believe in action, (14:39). Changing minds is how you’re going to change the world, (25:25). There are winners and losers in life and there is way to behave to become a winner, (27:38). Reality is where you are standing, (29:49). Power at the top is always going to corrupt you, (50:22). The individual is the only category that matters, treat people like individuals, (51:47). My job is to be a silly goose, not a tough guy, not an athlete, not a scholar, I’m a comedian, (57:56). Keep going for the right reasons, (59:58). LINKS Official Site:  https://www.bryancallen.com/ The Comedy Store: https://thecomedystore.com/ IMDb: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0130437/ Social Media: Twitter/Instagram: @bryancallen If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Jennifer Todd has been consistently executing on the highest level of Hollywood producing while maintaining her integrity, loyalty and incredibly understated work ethic.  While she has a hard time calling attention to her accomplishments, she is largely responsible for some of the films that have left an indelible impression on our collective conscious: Memento (for which she won an Independent Spirit Award), The Austin Powers Trilogy (which became part of our culture's humor reference), Boiler Room (with first-time Director Ben Younger, whom she teamed up with again to make Prime with Meryl Streep and Uma Thurman), Across the Universe (with Lion King creator Julie Taymour) among many more.  Jen has run Matt Damon and Ben Affleck's production company, Pearl Street Films, for the past several years and recently began working alongside Steven Spielberg at Amblin Entertainment.  She's only the third female to have produced the Oscars (she did it the last two years with Mike DeLuca and shares a great inside story about the infamous "wrong envelope for Best Picture" gaffe from the 2017 show).  Despite all of this, on most Saturday afternoons you can find her in her backyard hosting her kids' friends' and essentially making everything run smoothly while calling ZERO attention to herself... producing just as incredible of a life as the movies she makes.  SHOW NOTES: “I worked for a lot of people that taught me how I didn’t want to do things”, (9:38). Collaborating with Mike Deluca, (10:14). “My best talent in life is picking talented people”, (12:54). The challenges of Memento before Oscar nominations, (13:27). Rejection in the movie industry, (19:56). “Women make strong producers”, (22:34). Directing with tunnel vision, (23:16). Awareness of her role, (24:58). Fears while working on set or on a project, (25:17). Fear of making anything good again, (27:00). “People want to get out of the house”, (33:32). Inspiration at a young age, (35:17). Misconceptions about what she can do to help people, (37:57). Being a female in a business that has been infamous for uneven pay scale, (41:22). The rise of women in telling Action Movies, (43:28). “There are a lot of rejections.”, (46:54). Prime with Meryl Streep and Uma Thurman, (48:16). “You have to be half crazy”, (49:20). Escapism from her familial struggles, (51:45). Producing the Oscars, (56:13). Live television versus the movie industry, (1:02:14). “I think they [her children] have two parents who are working storytellers.”, (1:06:10). J Todd Links Biography: https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0865189/ Oscars:      https://www.vanityfair.com/hollywood/2018/03/oscars-2018-producers-jennifer-todd-mike-de-luca-jimmy-kimmel Memento Trailer: https://www.imdb.com/videoplayer/vi1368785177 Village Voice Article: https://geektyrant.com/news/2009/9/10/why-halo-screenwriter-josh-olson-will-not-read-your-effing-s.html   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Melissa Bernstein is a wildly successful entrepreneur. Along with her husband, she founded the incredibly prolific toy company, Melissa & Doug, which now has over 1,000 employees and has reposrted double digit growth every year.  She has been featured Good Morning America among other impressive media outlets and yet, our conversation was about so much more than success and toys.  In this second installment of our two-part interview, Melissa continues to be raw and honest about the dark thoughts that have haunted her since childhood... Part II begins with Melissa's brave decision to go public with her most intimate thoughts on a popular podcast.  She shares the response to her bold leap and how it changed the course of her life.  If you have ever thought that life was too overwhelming for you to go on, Melissa's words of wisdom will be the wind at your back.  She will help you realize that you are not alone and that it's possible to overcome feelings of depression. SHOW NOTES: Existential angst/depression, (3:30).  The scary choice to go public about depression, (5:00). Discovering how many others were going through similar feelings by receiving hundreds of letters of gratitude for having the courage to speak honestly, (9:15). Poem: “I’ve been searching for my people…”, (11:37). Bold choice leads to conversations with people all over the world, (13:00). Juxtaposition between day job creating toys and conversing with suicidal people, (14:07). The thing you fear the most, is the thing you need to do, (15:30). Too many expectations are placed upon children to live a “perfect” life, (22:31). Collaborating with husband building Melissa & Doug, (27:15). Structure vs. Intuition, (30:05). Pros show up even when instinct doesn’t strike, (34:00). Become as knowledgeable as you can about whatever it is you’re doing, (37:35). Society drowns out our answers, (41:15). Write down your thoughts immediately before they evaporate, (44:24). Thoughts can be like “incessant gnats” until we harness them, (45:10). Rejection Story: University intellectual called Melissa's writing “sophomoric, moronic and half-witted" which led her to stop writing for 20 years, (46:48). It is not the critic who counts…", (49:55). Focus on your audience, (54:56). We are our own worst critics, (56:35). Nothing is out of reach, (1:00:10). Act on what is eating at you, (1:00:47). Follow your own intuition (1:01:13). LINKS Company Website: melissaanddoug.com Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Melissa_%26_Doug Good Life Project Podcast with Jonathan Fields (Melissa's episode): https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/good-life-project/id647826736?mt=2  If you like what you hear, please pass on the word. You can also Subscribe through the iTunes Podcast App to have new episodes automatically downloaded to your devices as they are released. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  Melissa Bernstein is a wildly successful entrepreneur.  Along with her husband, she founded the incredibly prolific toy company, Melissa & Doug, which now has over 1,000 employees and has reported double digit growth every year.  She has been featured Good Morning America among other impressive media outlets and yet, our conversation was about so much more than success and toys.  In this first installment of our two-part interview, Melissa gets raw and honest about the dark thoughts that have haunted her since childhood and how she has transformed them into the fuel that has not only propelled a giant company, but also given birth to volumes of unheard poetry and songs that she has created.  If you have ever thought that life was too overwhelming for you to go on, Melissa's words of wisdom will be the wind at your back.  She will help you realize that you are not alone and that it's possible to overcome feelings of depression. SHOW NOTES: I was born churning, existential angst, "Why am I here?  What's the meaning of life?", (5:36).  Talking about mortality at 2 or 3 years old, (7:32).  Shared darkness, (12:26).  Not alone, (14:44).  "I never believed I had worth or value, turn dark to light, (15:96).  Last couple of years missing something, (20:25).  Ski clothes, shed layers, (22:36).  Mantra... "How did you do that?  Turn darkness into light?", (27:41).  Fear?  What fear?  What were the specifics?  "I will be gone at some point, (39:00) Logo therapy- existentialism, (52:00). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Are you afraid of risk?  Have you actually taken steps to break away from the pack and follow your instincts, or are you just waiting, allowing the critic in your head to rob you of your precious days on earth?  It's never too late to take the leap and start moving toward that old dream that's been locked away, stifled and prevented from seeing the light of day.  Or maybe there's a new mountain you've been itching to climb?  But you're too afraid to risk falling from the height to which you've ascended, so you remain on the safe plateau, knowing that you're not fully living the way you did when you rose to where you are today. In this episode, I talk about the times I've risked and been rewarded.  And the times I've been too scared to jump, and ended up stagnating, rotting in the pool of my own indecision.  I also discuss my mistakes, where I let my emotions get the best of me, and acted in a way that has threatened my dreams, nearly broken my spirit, and even fractured my bones. SHOW NOTES: A hidden Instagram DM from a stranger suggests more in-depth solo episodes for 10,000 “No”s  - you never know where good ideas will come from, (8:27).  If you have an idea/dream, or an instinct to try something... JUST DO IT, (9:13). Give it a whirl…what do you have to lose, (10:23)? Suit up and play the game, (10:38). Not enough people step out of their comfort zone and go after something, (13:32). People want to help, (14:34). Consistency is crucial, (14:41). Fear of “wasting time”…. the knockdowns are the stepping stones, (17:54). The failures and experiences make up the person we become, (18:18). The collective stories, (19:32). Excuses stop you from achieving your goals, (21:14).  Regret is good if it’s used as fuel…regret is bad if it beats you up, (21:25). We can all improve, (24:28). The people who are successful have the thirst to be the best version of themselves, (25:02).  Acting coach Kim: “Why did this script hurdle through the universe and land on my lap right now,” (28:37)?  What does it feel like to be famous, (31:43)?  Everybody has problems, it’s all relative, (32:10). Epiphany: limiting beliefs, (32:41). Don’t let fear protect you from a more colorful life, (36:56). Working through your “red tape”, (37:50). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Crack, cocaine, meth, alcohol... the list goes on and on.  It's ripping the very fabric of our society to shreds.  But it's not just drug addicts & alcoholics who can learn from these lessons of rehabilitation.  These methods of building individuals' self-esteem to the point where they can begin to believe they are enough, primarily through a supportive community, is something we can all benefit from.  Luckily, ex-addicts like Tim Craley have turned their pain into counseling for others.  Tim has spent 9 years treating addiction, mental illness and family issues with a specialty in treating addicted health professionals, pilots, lawyers and those who identify as part of the LGBT community.  And the wisdom and honesty he offers in our conversation may provide the help that you or a loved one, struggling in silence, needs. (Disclaimer: These are Tim's views alone.  He is not attempting to represent the ideas of Hazelden Betty Ford or any other organization including AA/NA or any other he references throughout our interview.) SHOW NOTES: Eventually its funny, we better be able to laugh at ourselves at some-point (5:45). Shame (6:27). “I’m not enough, somethings wrong with me” (8:00). Unconscious self-destruct mechanism (10:08). “It’s not about your beliefs, it’s about being in a room with other humans in the spirt of empathy (11:23). I don’t think I’ve ever wanted to go to a recovery meeting, but it’s like going to the gym (15:30). We grew up in an unsafe environment (21:10). Kids take responsibility for everything, and that’s where the shame begins (26:00). I knew that intimidation was powerful (29:00). I knew that when I mixed the alcohol and opiates the right way… I knew I’d do it everyday for the rest of my life (30:15). We are biologically designed to gather (33:50). Why is one sibling chemically addicted and the other isn’t? (34:30). “My father and I’s internal organization is almost exactly the same” (36:32). “I deep-sixed my baseball career” (38:38). I look at him (step-father) now as a sick person (40:50). We need others (42:15). Going to an AA meeting is a desperate act (43:36). AA is nothing short of a reparenting (44:09). It validated everything I knew about others that I wasn’t like them (49:19). That makes me a bad mother; I’m a piece of crap when I say I am (50:00). I have a narrative that I am wed to (53:20). What I start to hate myself for is what I’m good at (56:40). Unconditional love (58:30). Gratitude is the bedrock of the recovery program (1:00:20). It’s about control (1:00:12) You’re the worst part of my life (1:04:45). Ego Deflation (1:07:49). The hard part is to concede that someone else can teach you something about yourself (1:10:20). “Gentle” (1:13:22) Accepting the parts of ourselves that we loathe (1:14:50). The Shadow (1:18:38). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Isabel White's resume reads like something out of a superhero comic book for professionals:  After losing her mother to breast cancer as an early teen, she went on to play Division I Field Hockey and Softball at Yale, despite having blown out her knee in High School.  She worked for Bill Clinton in the White House, Harvey Weinstein at Miramax, and then spent two years in Costa Rica, where she discovered Yoga... and a husband... temporarily.  Complacent, she is not (the list of her other various careers is extensive, but you'll have to listen to find out).  Luckily for us, the self-deprecating humor she employs throughout our conversation also makes her accessible to the average human.  She doesn't take any of her accomplishments too seriously, which is quite possibly the exact reason she has been able to pivot so gracefully again and again. SHOW NOTES: Dealing with her mother's breast cancer diagnosis at 9 years old, (4:24).  Her mother's brief stint seeking treatment in the woods of Oregon with the Cult leader of the popular Wild, Wild Country in the late 1980's, (5:26).  Sitting with her mother as she died, the day Isabel was supposed to get her driver's license, (8:36).  What she said to her mother as her mother lay in a hospice bed in their basement and how it was the best thing for her, (9:55).  Why Isabel was much more prepared for her mother's death than her father's, later on in life, (12:00).  Blown out ACL knee injury was a big "no" to her athletic aspirations, (15:07).  First job out of college, in 1996, is advance work for President Clinton, (17:28).  Isabel's best traits that have led to all of her success in so many varied fields - collaboration & competence are top, (20:23).  Where and why Isabel has NOT always succeeded, (21:29).  Maturing and figuring out what you're willing to put up with, and where you can thrive, (24:24).  Working at Miramax, (24:43).  Why she chose to leave the entertainment business after achieving a relatively high level of success, (25:24).  Working on the political show, Cross-fire, (27:53).  Working for Harvey Weinstein at Miramax in 2001, (31 :56).  How a vacation to Costa Rica at age 29 led to a marriage and a two year dropping out of society, (34:20). A difference of opinion with the "millennials" who worked for her when she returned to politics, (41:35).  Nightmare story with her idol, Bruce Springsteen, (44:25).  Becoming a certified yoga instructor, despite already having a fulltime job, (48:37).  Examining the inability to relax and the drive that causes Isabel to pursue such a vast array of expertise, (49:46).  How being competent - a.k.a. having the ability to get sh*t done - can be a lure into too many pursuits, (51:09).  Becoming an equal partner in an incredibly successful personal stylist business, Dressed Inc., from home, after having children, despite being overwhelmed by it, (54:09).  The importance of relationship building, and its effect on Isabel's success, (59:58).  Isabel's latest position, alongside her stylist company, with news media company, Axios, from the people who created Politico, (1:00:43).  The importance of having reliable friends around who can give you counsel, combined with passion, (1:07:55). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

David Burkus is a best-selling author, a sought after speaker (his TED talk has been viewed almost 2 million times and he delivers keynotes and workshops at HUGE Fortune 500 companies that are household names), and a regular contributor to Harvard Business Review.  He's an associate professor of leadership and innovation at Oral Roberts University, where he was recently named one of the nation’s “Top 40 Under 40 Professors Who Inspire.”   In this special episode, I drop the usual format of discussing my guest's Origin Story to pick David's brain about the very useful and applicable concepts of his latest book, Friend of a Friend, instead.   You'll walk away with a new perspective on how to grow the community within which you work and live, and build key connections.  But you'll hear about the science of human behavior rather than cheesy, rote "networking" advice.  Above all, you'll realize that being a good person who looks to add value before getting value is the best way to become a better connector. SHOW NOTES: If you're trying to "do someone else's advice", it is not authentic to you, (9:40). Network Science vs. Networking: we don't "have a network", we exist inside a network, (10:25). Feeling dirty vs talking with a friend, (14:40). Number 1 Network Science Rule: be a good human being, (20:40). Nobody wants to have coffee with you, (23:43). Excuses, everyone has them. There is always something you can do to help your cause, even if it's small, (28:20). How to properly introduce Person A to Person B: Double opt-in: "Let me check with them" - make sure the expected action is stated, (30:20). Email lists, only good for fans/followers - not necessarily within your industry (40:35). Its too bad people think that "networking" is only about sales & job hunting, it's about caring about your network and who you can help, (41:45). Multiplexity: having more than one reason to hang with someone. More likely to find this when you have deeper conversations with people over longer periods of time, (43:10). Most "Personality" Tests do not accurately assess whether someone is an introvert or an extravert - most people are ambiverts, a combo of both, (45:25). Work friends make us more productive, except when they stress us out, (47:40). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  Author Paige Davis just released her memoir about her journey through a breast cancer diagnosis, Here We Grow - Mindfulness Through Cancer and Beyond.  She's an entrepreneur who has kicked ass with her green company, Blue Avocado and also talks to me about Universal Winks, those times when we are given signs from the universe that we can choose to act upon or ignore.  It's this dichotomy that sets her apart, and allows her to teach meditation in a corporate setting to people who sometimes view what she does with skepticism.  A triple threat who is so easy to talk to, I think you're all going to love and learn from Paige Davis... SHOW NOTES: It takes a village (5:55).  Never consistent with wellness before (8:33). What/why people connected with Paige's blog (10:14).  Body giving signs (12:02).  Paige's green company, Blue Avocado (12:52).  Fancy party while undergoing chemo, first time for self-love (15:52).  Self-love = deep connection (18:07).  Not "positive", present (18:49).  Choosing not to call it a "battle" or "fight" (21:09).  Oprah - spiritual guidance, turned Paige on to it at a young age (26:20).  "Universal winks", when the universe gives you a sign (31:00).  Meditation as daily practice (33:09).  Meditating at corporations, overcoming the cynics (40:54).  Mindful eating (44:10). Top Takeaway: "Daily practice" (consistency) is most important, and lack of judgment (on yourself - for doing it "wrong", and on others for "getting there" any way that works for them.... it's different for all of us). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Richard Schiff is possibly most famous for his Emmy Award-winning turn as White House Communications Director Toby Ziegler on "The West Wing" but he seems to be just about everywhere in film, TV and theater these days.    He's an Actor's actor.  Sitting down with him was a reminder of not only the intensity and intelligence required to portray characters so deeply, but the thirst for storytelling in multiple mediums, and the willingness to take risks, that leads to a career with such longevity. SHOW NOTES Participating on The West Wing Weekly podcast, (7:28). Richard's premonition of, and fear of, The West Wing's success when he began shooting, (12:28).  Juggling 3 shows at a time (The Good Doctor, Ballers and Counterpart) as well as movies, (16:27).  How to negotiate having options as an actor, (18:04).  Odd jobs:  drove a cab, worked in a factory, dropped out of society and moved to Colorado, cleaned Greyhound buses, (22:38).  Dropping out of college and subsequent unique night school experience, (27:34). Feeling lost leads to living in a hippy house in Colorado, (30:03).  Moving back to NYC, sneaking back into City College, finding the performing arts program and eventually receiving a Doctorate of Humane Letters, alongside Bill Clinton, (31:06).  How Toby Ziegler (Richard's West Wing character) helped City College's plight years after Richard graduated, leading them to give Richard a post-graduate medal alongside some of his longtime heroes, (32:48).  Being fascinated by acting, but never quite getting it, (36:49).  Not knowing what the future would hold made it hard to think about a future, (38:22).  Falling into being an actor by acting in a directing class with the intent of improving his writing.  And finding Earle Gister as a mentor, (41:32).  Going from more of a director to being "discovered" as an actor after a girlfriend dragged him to an audition, (47:20).  Too intense for his own good and sustainability, (48:35). Drawn to students of William Esper, which led to being mentored by him and eventually encouraged to be an actor, (50:06).  Meeting his wife, Actress Sheila Kelley, (57:01).  A reputation as a caged animal, (58:52).  Working with, and loving, Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson on HBO's Ballers, (1:11:43).  Set story about a manipulative actor and how Richard handled him, (1:17:24).  Writing for himself, (1:22:36).  How a young writer can lure Richard into their project, (1:25:23).      If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  In this special episode, Matt riffs raw from his car... 17 minutes, no music, no fanfare... just honest observations about the positive effects of taking a leap and creating something from scratch that hopefully leaves the world a little better than you left it.  Special thanks to EVERY guest, listener, encourager, helper (Sound Editor James Ede and Intern Eleanor Song) who has made this adventure possible. SHOWNOTES: Gratitude for a year's worth of interviews, (2:50).  Create an excuse for yourself to go do the things that you want to do the most, (3:57).  Go into "dream endeavors" knowing that it's still going to be a ton of work and stress and frustration, (5:59).  With great responsibility comes great power, (7:37).  The power of telling your story... creating your narrative, forcing yourself to step up in your own life (9:03).   Being humble enough to learn from others and grow while also not abandoning your own voice and vision, (12:52).  Consistency - the importance of sticking around and letting people know that you'll be here for a while, (13:43).  Stop creating little prisons for yourself, (14:18).  Break the rules - don't let the excuse that you're not "official" enough prevent you from taking a shot at something, (14:43).  Peaks and valleys,  when you're high, don't get too cocky... when you're low, don't get too down on yourself, (15:21).    Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At age 11 Maria Sansone quickly earned the title, "The Youngest Reporter in the History of Network Television" and soon found herself interviewing sports legends like Michael Jordan when most kids her age had yet to hit puberty.  Her meteoric rise put some strain on her adolescent years, causing her to leave the business through High School.  But junior year of college, she won a Nation-wide search to guest host with Regis Philbin on Live with Regis and Kelly and her career was reignited, eventually leading to a long-standing gig co-hosting the popular morning news show, Good Day LA.  But nothing is without hiccups, so Maria's eventual shift into motherhood led to her search to build a business that supports her top priorities.  She leaves tons of clues for the rest of us on how she's begun to build a successful brand on social media. SHOW NOTES: Being discovered at 11 years old, (2:55).  Being aware of the stakes, but too young to care, (8:16).  Playing life like it's a game, (9:31).  How a friend's birthday party, and wanting to be a kid, led to turning down Oprah at age 13, (10:53).  Being hated for being "the girl on TV", (13:07).  Getting into Syracuse University with no Plan B, (19:52).  Winning the lottery with Regis & Kelly, (22:34).  Having performance nausea for the first time at age 20, (24:49).  What is it that drives people to "chase dragons", (27:51).  Shifting gears after motherhood, (33:09).  Social media musings and strategies, (35:36). If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

  Nicky Weinstock is a player in Hollywood.  But, more than that, he's a good human who's genuine love of writing and helping to craft stories has led him to collaborate closely with such giants as Ben Stiller (he currently runs Red Hour Films with Stiller), Judd Apatow, Rupert Murdoch and Peter Chernin.  He's also helped shape shows like How I Met Your Mother and films like Pineapple Express and Forgetting Sarah Marshall.  He shares a great story with me about honing the story for Bridesmaids with Kristen Wiig and Annie Mumolo.  Tons of takeaways for creatives and anyone else looking to express themselves authentically.  SHOW NOTES: The changing landscape of Television and how content creators no longer need to appeal to everyone (7:15).  How Nicky's pure love of writing eventually paved the path to what he now does with Ben Stiller, and did with Judd Apatow, but also put him at odds with former co-workers (17:01).  How having kids led Nicky to say to a friend, "I need one of those jobs that gets me a suit" which led to his close relationship with media giants Rupert Murdock and Peter Chernin. (21:05) How Nicky's close relationship with Rupert Murdock made more of an impact on the world than he and his friends could have imagined (27:00)  Nicky's jump from Newscorp to Hollywood was not the chess move it looked like, Peter Chernin suggested it (29:29).  The story of shaping Bridesmaids into the movie we came to love (42:22).  Why you can't write to please the marketplace (51:27).  You have to fully commit (56:50).  The trap of being too precious about your work and why you need to have more than one iron in the fire (59:27).  Ben Stiller's multi-faceted talents & tastes (1:03:23)  If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Authors Heather Turgeon & Julie Wright came onto the Parenting book scene strong with their successful book, The Happy Sleeper.  Demand for their parenting tips led to a second book deal with the recently published, Now Say This.  Psychotherapists with specialization in babies, families and sleep, their work has been published in the New York Times & The Washington Post among other publications.  And Julie's Wright Mommy & Me classes are all the rage in Los Angeles.  Personal sleep consultants as well, Heather & Julie are secret weapons for any parent dealing with a tantrum-throwing child, or any human looking to communicate more effectively with their fellow man. The Three Step Approach:  Attune, Limit Set & Problem Solve. (7:04)  How these steps can help you, not only with your kids, but in ALL relationships. (9:04)  With sleep, a more gentle approach does not mean you're a pushover. (15:34)  Why Heather & Julie have tried to avoid the word "tantrum" but everyone else, including me, asks them about them. (28:20)  How to deal with your child when they throw a tantrum in a public place. (30:29)  How to deal with sibling rivalry and conflict. (36:56)  How to deal with whining (by helping your child focus on the positives of what they want). (41:30)  A general approach to family screen time. (42:25)  The dangers of reacting to incoming texts, calls and emails in front of our kids. (45:22)  The power of videogames and commercials and how to help your kids be less susceptible to that power. (47:22) If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My guest today, Heather Hayward is a results coach who is responsible for getting some of the brightest minds in business, law, surgery and the arts into their peak states of focus to not only perform at the highest levels, but also find fulfillment while doing so.  There are so many takeaways from our conversation, but my favorite may be her 3-minute reset, using breathing techniques to get our heart-rate to the tempo where we perform our best in pressure situations.  If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Lawrence Trilling is the Directing Producer and Showrunner of the critically-acclaimed Amazon Original Series, Goliath, starring Billy Bob Thornton.  Prior to Goliath, Lawrence was a major creative force on many hit shows, including Parenthood, Scrubs and Alias as well as the upcoming Condor for AT&T. Prior to that, he was delivering pizzas and teaching English as a Second Language.  Can't wait for you to hear us talk shop and discover why he's known as one of the greatest collaborators in TV today. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My guest today is High Impact Coach and founder of Sh*t You Don't Learn in College, Zander Fryer's story is one of risk for the sake of following one's soul.  He left a decent job in the corporate world when he realized that he only gets one go in this world and decided he'd rather spend his time doing what he really wanted to do.  Turns out his decision not only brought him more fulfillment but also more money... and a girlfriend.  That he met through a Public Accountability Challenge.  You'll have to wait for that whole story.  He also had the courage to contact Jack Canfield, one of the best-selling authors of all time, just after making his leap; a mentorship with a lasting effect.  The premature loss of his best friend from childhood is still front and center in his mission to help others live their fullest lives. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Boston College Women's Lacrosse Head Coach, Acacia Walker's accolades are so vast we can't begin to scratch the surface:  at 15, she was the youngest member of the World Championship U-19 Team that won Gold in Perth, Australia.  As a collegiate player herself, she was an All-American at the University of Maryland where she won the coveted James H. Kehoe Award.  As an assistant coach at Northwestern, she Won 3 consecutive National Championships.  Last year, in 2017, she was the National Coach of the Year, having led the Eagles to their best-ever season in program history and, as of May 18, 2018 her Eagles are still in the hunt for their first National Championship.  But what impressed me most was her attention to selflessness, lack of ego and team play, which has led her teams to excellence both on the field and in the classroom.  She is, in my humble opinion, everything that's right with sports today.... Acacia Walker. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ryan Reynolds, Hugh Jackman & Liev Schreiber have just a few of the Superhero physiques for which Super Trainer Don Saladino is responsible.  But, while that's all very cool, we talk about much more:  strategy, mindset, surprisingly doing LESS than you think you need to do to make massive changes in your results.  Don gives us the pillars of his social media strategy that have morphed him from trainer to gym owner to Fitness Brand.  As if he wasn't already coming off as a great dude, we had a surprise visit from Actress Blake Lively, another of Don's clients, who tells us first hand what makes Don among the best in the world at what he does while also dropping some salacious Hollywood gossip. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Writer/Director/Actor/Producer Mark Duplass, along with his brother Jay, has managed to jump the gap from indie darling to major Hollywood player, creating series like HBO's Room 104 and Togetherness as well as a massive slate of indie films, studio films and even documentaries like the wildly successful Wild, Wild Country for Netflix.  As of May 8th, Mark and Jay can now add "Author" to their long list of talents as Random House published their memoir, Like Brothers, everywhere books are sold.  Mark and I get down and dirty about collaborating with your brother without killing him, circumnavigating the Hollywood system, overcoming a lack of resources to create a mini-studio and betting on yourself. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nutritionist and cleanse expert Elissa Goodman is the author of Cancer Hacks: A Holistic Guide to Overcoming Your Fears and Healing Cancer.  I know it sounds serious, but we had some laughs while also hearing how she combined holistic alternatives with traditional treatments to beat cancer and how losing her husband to cancer prematurely led to her mission to save others from suffering the same fate.  Hear how Cafe Gratitude put her cleanse on the map and why WholeFoods, M Cafe and Erewhon Market wanted to be in business with her.  Turns out mindset is our number one weapon and Elissa is armed to the teeth with positivity and love. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ben Odell recently produced the successful comedy, How to Be a Latin Lover, which starred his producing partner, Eugenio Derbez alongside Salma Hayek, Rob Lowe, Kristen Bell and Michael Cera. And they are releasing a remake of the classic comedy, Overboard April 13th of 2018 where Eugenio stars alongside Anna Faris and Eva Longoria. Here, Ben opens up with stories of his journey, which take us from Philly to Connecticut to New York, South America, Paris, LA... like a great novel I didn't want to finish. I was so captivated we just kept rolling. I hope you find his stories as colorful and insightful as I did.  If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I call it... I'm a 'can't-notter', like... 'I can't not do this'." Traver Boehm has a riveting TED talk entitled "Make Pain Your Guru".  While I highly recommend it, I loved our much lighter conversation just as much, if not more. Maybe "light" isn't the right word, as we delved into the pain he experienced when his wife walked out on him shortly after a miscarriage, followed by his business partner saying they too should break up, a few days later. But we did have some laughs as well. His story takes us from Thailand where he was fighting MMA in cage matches to California, to Honduras, where he sequestered himself to a dark hut for 28 days with no human contact. It is so extreme, and his response to pain so unique, I dare you not to be blown away by his insights. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You know, I really do believe in the power of grit. And perseverance." In her past life, Suze was wildly successful as a fashion editor for decades and Executive Editor at Large of Glamour Magazine for almost 10 years.  The New York Times has referred to her as a "fairy godmother" for her makeover abilities.  She's been featured all over the press - The Today Show, Good Morning America, CBS's Early Show, The Oprah Winfrey Show, the list goes on and on. But when she moved to LA for her husband's job and found herself home with the kids, she discovered meditation. Which led her to create the world's first drop in meditation studio, Unplug Meditation.  In demand after loads of great press, Suze recently launched the Unplug Meditation App which has allowed her studio to reach people all over the globe.  If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"You can lose your Twitter account, you can lose your website, you can lose your email list but if you have your relationships, you're gonna be just fine. Even though you don't necessarily believe it." Jordan Harbinger is the former co-creator/host of the wildly popular podcast, The Art of Charm, which he recently left to venture on his own with The Jordan Harbinger Show, which is quickly becoming yet another monster podcast with millions of downloads. A former Wall Street attorney and two-time kidnapping victim (yes, that's right), I caught Jordan as he transitions tohis new podcast so we riffed about reinvention, how to look at sudden shifts in circumstances with excitement vs fear, and how to build an empire by following your bliss. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Cause I'm a firm believer that anyone can get their foot in any door now... the trick is to be so irresistible that that person doesn't want you to leave." Steve Sims simply doesn't hear the word "No". His company, Bluefish, gets people like Elan Musk and Richard Branson experiences that mere money can't buy. Find out why Forbes magazine called him "the guy with the coolest job in the world". But aside from his accomplishments, colorful take on life, and high end friends, he's a guy who gave me not just one shot, but two... as he agreed to sit down with me a second time after a technological breakdown during our initial interview. Luckily, Steve was just as interesting the second time around. He is also the author of Bluefishing: The Art of Making Things Happen.   If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Any difficult experience, tragedy, time in your life, I do believe it brings amazing opportunity." Maggie Neilson has impacted the world in a large way, helping people around the world with everything from Hurricane relief to Civil Rights to Sex Trafficking. And even though she works with some of the world's largest stars and business leaders, she has remained humble and never forgotten the values with which she was raised. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I'd just finished Grad School and I was like, 'Okay, I'm gonna be a screenwriter. And then, I got this letter and I was like, 'I'm gonna get a 'real job' and be an editor for ESPN because I need to pay off these loans." Hear what it's like to have your words spoken by The Rock, Kevin Hart, Mindy Kaling and Chris Messina... and what it's like to eat late-night leftovers from your roommate's table-waiting shift on lawn furniture in a crappy apartment in Hollywood. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"So after September 11th happened, I had every accessibility to the bottle and... life just got really tough, Matt, it really did." In November of 2005, having become an Ironman just months before, Matt Long finished the New York City Marathon with the 4th fastest time among all NYC Firefighters, qualifying for Boston the following Spring. A month later, he was impaled on his bicycle in Manhattan when he was run over by a bus while forced to ride to work during the New York City Transit Strike. World-renowned surgeons almost pronounced him dead, but Matt was far from done. Confined to a wheelchair for nearly a year, Matt almost gave up. But he not only learned to walk again... he completed the 2008 NYC Marathon and the 2009 Lake Placid Ironman. His comeback story is the quintessential 10,000 "No"s legend, documented by the likes of HBO Real Sports and Runner's World Magazine, among others. Matt received the CBS Arete Award for Courage in Sports and was named one of the World's 25 Fittest Athletes in 2010, 5 years AFTER his accident. He also met his wife and finally has the family he always dreamed of... he is the modern day Rocky Balboa, who has gone the distance. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"What's the difference between wannabe entrepreneurs versus real entrepreneurs? What's the shift, ya know? Really, the real question is, how do you go from dreamer to doer?" ## Benjamin Hardy has been successfully blogging for years, but he's also studying toward his PhD in Business Psychology, speaking on big stages, and raising three foster children with his wife. Much of his worldview comes from being raised by a drug-addicted father who is now clean and counseling others. Ben discovered the best way to give ourselves freedom and accomplish our goals is to implement more structure in our lives rather than relying on Will Power. His new book, 'Why Will Power Doesn't Work' will be available across all platforms starting March 6th, 2018.   ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"When you're open, about your own life, that's sometimes when the best things happen." Not many people can boast about working in the real White House and the fictitious one on Aaron Sorkin's The West Wing, but Eli's journey to both was unplanned. It was the result of a big, fat "No" in the form of possibly the most disputed Presidential campaign in the history of our country that led Eli out to the west coast to do something he had never really fathomed: write for TV and Film. A consummate gentleman and one of the brighter people I know, Eli has over-achieved in everything he's ever done, without realizing it, by working hard and seeing "No"s as a mere bend in the road. Our conversation includes...   ## What it was like to be NYC Mayor Dinkins' speechwriter at 25. ## Why Eli put Law School off forever. ## Inside stories on some of the inner workings of Washington. ## How to collaborate on speeches with politicians like Al Gore. ## How getting in touch with Aaron Sorkin isn't that difficult if you just finished working for the guy who was a few hanging chads away from being the leader of the free world. ## The motivation for writing and the difference between writing for others and creating your own content. ## Being led less by your head and more by your heart and soul to find your true voice. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How does one get to shoot the biggest names in Hollywood (and sports) as well as the biggest brands in the world? He packs up his car and drives to Telluride, Colorado where he learns to snowboard and fly fish and teach others to do the same for ten years. Then he moves to LA and works his arse off for some of the most demanding photographers in the world before he goes out on his own. Most importantly, he lives by the creed, "If I do what I love, I'll be good at it". I dare you not to like Jeff Lipsky! ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

From Zimbabwe to South Central, Marshall Tuck has been making an impact on young people's lives through public education. If all goes well, he'll move the needle even more as California's next State Superintendent of Public Instruction ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"And when I finally got pregnant, it was like... 'Okay, be calm!' 'But really, this is stressful!' 'But, be calm! Don't be so stressful I have to deal with this!!'" A lot of us remember where we were on July 16, 1999 when John F. Kennedy Jr. died tragically. Emily Raiber was a college kid, doing a summer News Internship out of Colgate University when she went in on a Saturday and happened to be "in the right place at the right time". Her actions that day led to a quick start on the career path, including a great stint with Dr. Drew a few years later, but she was slowed down by a cancelled show, an auto-immune disease and a delayed attempt at fertility. While she finally gave birth, motherhood shifted her perspective on how she wanted to spend her time, eventually leading her to the courageous decision to strike out on her own and put her producing skills to use in a more singular way that allowed her to spend time with her baby. She now manages the social media accounts of people whose followings surpass the amount of viewers of the shows she used to produce. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You may know him from Pitch Perfect, the Barbershop movies, The Mindy Project or Showtime's White Famous. Utkarsh Ambudkar is a cat. He's hip, he's cool and, according to him, most roles for young Indian males in Hollywood are NOT written as the hip, cool guy. While I knew, prior to our interview, that he used to do underground rap battles like Eminem in 8 Mile, I didn't realize that he considers rap the life-blood to his career. An NYU grad who has learned to reveal his authentic self in order to create his own niche, Utkarsh is full of wisdom that is bound to inspire you. Our conversation includes... ## Growing up with two PhDs as parents. ## Why Acting Conservatory is not for everyone. ## How rap saved Utkarsh and taught him that being himself, rather than his idols, was his super power. ## Utkarsh's collaboration with Lin-Manuel Miranda and his involvement in the creation of Hamilton. ## Blazing a trail for the next generation of Indian Actors. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Despite my hesitation, former guest, Adventure Photographer Roger Fishman (Ep 18) persisted in getting me to sit down to answer some of his questions about my life journey. Reluctant as I was, he convinced me that my listeners might want to hear it, and once we got going I fired away. Luckily for me, Roger took all my statements and transformed them into something that may actually motivate or inspire you. Our conversation includes... ## Growing up in a rural environment and its effects on my persona. ## My Mom's use of a Cow Bell. ## How sports taught me to be more than I could be. ## How a trip to Italy turned my life toward the arts, with the help of a gift from my sister. ## Why my brother likes all comparisons to Wayne from The Wonder Years. ## How supportive parents and friends have helped me weather the endless storm that is a career as an Actor. ## How my wife and kids have allowed me to keep taking risks and helped my work grow deeper with age. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

To most other Actors, Eric Christian Olsen's career is enviable. And he lives with extreme gratitude for the opportunities he's been given. But he also has a sense of humor about himself so when I asked him for some "No"s in his life, prior to our interview, he said, "Bro, just check my IMDb page. 95% of those jobs have been failures!" His adoption of Winston Churchill's quote, "The definition of Success is the ability to go from failure to failure without the loss of enthusiasm" is all over this chat. Our conversation includes... Knowing a person's character by how they treat a waiter. Using one's position and power for good, to help others. How to refuse to be defined by your job. How to assemble a team, multi-task and get more shit done than the average human. How to make decisions from a place of Hope rather than Fear. How to bounce back from disastrous results by placing more emphasis on your experience than the outcome. The most valuable lesson you can teach your kids: How to "figure it out" when things go wrong. If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this very brief episode I want to acknowledge all of the support and feedback that you've given 10,000 "No"s and give you a little story from my past and a lesson I learned from launching this podcast that can influence your 2018 plans. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Colin Macintosh is no stranger to failure. When he invested his own money, and that of his friends and family, in the Buffalo Wing business in New York City, he lost his shirt. And suffered from meningitis. But this former All-State Tennis player turned his luck around and made his money back the old fashion way, he earned it. A true grinder, Colin worked his way up in the Convertible Bond world, cashed in for yet another dead end stint in Entertainment, then reinvented himself again by co-founding Carbon Beach Asset Management Fund. Our conversation includes... ## A childhood story involving Colin's brother's best friend, and one of the biggest stars in the world. ## The links between making it in baseball and Hollywood and why Colin quit both but succeeded elsewhere. ## How to bounce back from meningitis and a re-possessed car to become wealthy just a few years later. ## The downside of putting one's own money into a start up business. ## How "Glengarry Glen Ross" taught Colin how to sell. ## Why failure is the ultimate fuel to success. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com       Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Kevin Daniels is a big man who grew up in Texas where HS Football is HUGE. But he decided after one season as a youngster that the stage and screen is where he wanted to be. He found success early with a paying gig in Dallas as a teenager. And got into the incredibly prestigious Julliard School in NYC because he was "too ignorant to realize he should be nervous" for the audition. His first gig out of school was at Lincoln Center with Helen Hunt and Kyra Sedgwick. When I met him he was one of the leads on Dennis Leary's "Sirens", but that went away unexpectedly after two seasons causing him to hit the inevitable wall that all actors run into at one point or another in a long career. But through it all, he leads with unshakeable faith and an infectious laugh that lets himself, and everyone around him, know that good times are on their way. Our conversation includes... ## How one relative's stories of travel and art turned Kevin on to Acting. ## Why, when you're "big and black" in Texas, everyone looks at you like you're nuts if you don't play football. ## How Helen Hunt's generosity and understanding of the Actor's plight got Kevin his first TV gig on "Mad About You". ## Working with Harrison Ford. ## The camaraderie of the cast of "Sirens" and how Dennis Leary and Bob Fisher ("Wedding Crashers") created the perfect work environment. ## The role of faith in fighting the demons of unemployment as an Actor. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Despite his self-deprecation about the title, @obd1212golf was, in fact, the Gatorade Player of the Year in Washington DC as a baseball player in High School. He followed that with a 4-year career at Northwestern University and then took his athletic prowess to the links. Scraping by while attempting to join the PGA tour, Ollie made the tour in Canada and had many successes despite missing his ultimate Brass Ring. Now he brings the lessons he learned from his "9,998 No's" to his kids and his clients, where he is a teaching pro in Los Angeles. Our conversation includes... ## Why golf is the perfect metaphor for life and how it has contributed to Ollie's parenting. ## How the right partner, or caddy, can keep us at peak performance by focusing our energy on the things that help us instead of our fears of incompetence. ## The very real struggle of trying to be a professional golfer. ## Why golf is more about mental strength than athletic ability. ## How Ollie lured me, and several other Dads and their kids, into his "surf club" with his slogan "It's not about the waves, it's about community." ## The dangers of "coffee club". ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. You can also listen to all episodes at www.10000nos.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When he was 7 years old, he took his first CPR class. By his teens, he was working as a first responder and teaching CPR. When his father died prematurely, his goal of being an MD shifted to being another kind of doctor, DC, Chiropractor and Massage Therapist. He is THE go-to guy for celebrities in Hollywood when it comes to breeched babies. But possibly most interesting is that didn't tell me til AFTER the interview that he was diagnosed with Facial Blindness (inability to recognize faces) and ADD at almost 40 years of age. Our conversation includes... ## Having a passion for something from as early as one can remember. ## How chiropractic work applies to everyone, but can be very useful to pregnant women. ## How Dr. Berlin and his wife went from fertility challenges and miscarriages in New York to 4 children in LA. ## The challenges of vaginal birth and why flexibility and elasticity are so important. ## Beautiful life lessons from participating in births so often. ## Podcasts, documentary films, TV shows and comedy shows - all on Dr. Berlin's resume. Spreading the message. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In his youth in Slovenia, Luka Hocevar was a self-admitted criminal. Basketball saved him. And the training he did to prepare for Pro Basketball in Europe turned into his life's passion. But he doesn't view coaching as something limited to the gym. His groundbreaking Fitness Center, Vigor Ground Fitness, in Seattle, Washington is just the first step toward building a community and environment that helps kids avoid the traps he fell into on the street and helps adults live the life they were meant to live. Giving back by giving your all, with Vigor. Our conversation includes... ## Being an outsider in a foreign land when you don't know the language. ## How being picked last led to playing Professional Basketball against the odds. ## The downfalls of being a gangster and the search for false status. ## Seizing an opportunity to train with world-class coaches as a teen. ## How one coach's questions led to choosing a better future. ## Why Pro Basketball isn't always what it's cracked up to be. ## Giving back - how Luka and Vigor Ground Fitness have thrown a charity event EVERY Saturday for over a decade. ## The power of a clear vision and the seeds of "Vigorville". ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word.   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Roger Fishman hangs out of helicopters when he's not at home being a doting husband and devoted Dad.  He flies around the world shooting extreme environments from 2,000 ft. above ground. Or he goes face to face with a pack of grizzlies in a running river if he's not standing in the path of a herd of elephants. But his life wasn't always so enviable. Our conversation includes... ## How growing up in a broken home with limited money turned out to be a gift. ## How responsibility at a young age translates to being a "logistics guy". ## Who ever heard of a candy enforcer? ## What to say to the Dean of your University when he refuses to let you graduate. ## How helium balloons can kick-start a high-powered career. ## "Live is like pinball. You just have to keep the ball in play." ## How walking away from a career others would kill for can save you. ## Choosing discomfort over comfort, managing your fears and staring wild animals in the eyes at close range. ## If you like what you hear, please Subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

After 15 interviews with uber-successful and articulate guests, I riff solo on what I've learned, what listeners are responding to, and where I plan to take 10,000 "No"s in the future. My conversation (with myself) includes... ## How my guests' courage to be vulnerable has helped many listeners with their own struggles. ## Learning how to let go of control and delegate more. ## Excerpts from Gay Hendrick's "The Big Leap" ## Why Mark Manson thinks we need to give less f*#!s. ## Why most of us aren't AMAZING out of the gate with any new venture and why we have to leap. ## How to stop letting the critic in our head call our shots. ## Why I want to go read "The Peaceful Warrior" by Dan Millman. ## If you like what you hear, please subscribe, leave an iTunes review and spread the word. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

When Lili Pettit left the fashion industry in 2011 to start her own company, @clutterhealing, it wasn't part of some master-plan she'd cooked up as a child. It was the result of a gift she'd begun developing to cope with instability and tension as a young girl being called upon. Once news of her gift was out, her business began booming and her willingness to explore led to a dual career as a Breath Meditation Teacher at Unplugged in Los Angeles. Our conversation includes... ## Why de-cluttering a house is way more involved than you realize. ## How a mindful touch puts clients at ease. ## How beauty and calm can come from chaos and tension. ## Why clearing space is essential to inviting new energy into a home and new possibilities into a life. ## Why it doesn't hurt when your first client is a celebrity and they like what you've done for them. ## How Meditation, and simple breath, changed Lili's life and work. ## Why some people don't like strangers looking through their underwear drawer and how Clutter Healing overcomes that. ## If you like what you hear, please leave an iTunes review and spread the word.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We've been hearing about sexual abuse in the news a lot these days, but to hear it from a survivor who has turned it into her cause is inspiring and gives us faith in humanity. Having grown up in poverty and suffering sexual abuse at the hands of a family member, Dr. Hernandez is on a mission to stop it from happening to her kids and yours. Our conversation includes... ## Empowering your children's independence without coddling them. ## Why parents are misreading the data when they only warn their kids about talking to STRANGERS. ## How an abused child becomes more susceptible to further abuse. ## How The Brady Bunch saved Dr. Hernandez. ## Why parents should know where their kids are and what they're doing. ## Why Angelica thought her Elite School colleagues said she was "East of Money". ## Fighting the good fight and turning your worst nightmare into your life's cause. ## If you like what you hear, please leave an iTunes review and spread the word.     Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, Brian Garrett is revered as the Managing Director and Co-Founder of Los Angeles’ most mature and successful Technology-based Seed-Fund, Crosscut Ventures, which mentors and partners with Entrepreneurs from small businesses and helps them grow to be giants.  But life wasn’t always so easy.  Witnessing his father’s fatal heart attack, at the impressionable age of 13, Brian was faced with a choice:  Be a victim.  Or choose to make the most out of the time he has on this earth.  He chose the latter.  And still, it hasn’t been easy.  Conversation includes… ## Why everyone thinks people “in Finance” are jerks. ## How Brian COMPLETELY bombed and miscalculated on one of his first assignments. ## Turning tragedy into an opportunity to make more of your life. ## How tough coaches can teach discipline that carries you to great achievement. ## Why Brian’s wife is the REAL hero of their family’s story. ## How many years of hell it takes before you come out the other side. ## How, even after you’ve “come out the other side”, your body can break down on you if you've pushed too hard. ## Why Brian wrote a 13 page “Book” to his 13 year old son for his Birthday. ## Why Crosscut Ventures is so good at what they do and how they’re more akin to Creative Mentors in the Arts than Gordon Gekko from ‘Wall Street’. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Few stories fit “The American Dream” plot like that of Bedros Keuilian:  After his father snuck his family out of Soviet-occupied Armenia, he and his brother would help their Dad scrounge for food by ‘dumpster diving’ for groceries behind Supermarkets.  A self-proclaimed “HoneyBadger” who is not afraid to out hustle his competition, Bedros’ work ethic is still overshadowed by his warmth and desire to teach and inspire others to find financial freedom and stay fit.  A true Rags to Riches story. ## Hear how Bedros’ father, a tailor, outmaneuvered the KGB to sneak out of the Soviet Union. ## It all started with a girl… and a prom... ## Bedros opens up about the near-collapse of his business and why there are websites devoted to calling him a Ripoff. ## Why Bedros’ first client called him an “order taker” before mentoring him in sales and entrepreneurship. ## Learning how to delegate so that your vision can be carried out with the help of others. ## How to hire the right people and build a sales-force of like-minded, inspired individuals. ## Why there is no substitute for being told “No” when it comes to learning. ## Bedros’ theory on going from Crop Duster (dabbling) to a Fighter Jet (being the best of the best), and how he built his multi-million dollar companies. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

A quiet soul with a big heart, Drago Sumonja is getting a second round of acknowledgement for his new film starring the late Harry Dean Stanton after toiling a way for a LONG time.  Our conversation includes: ## One night your film is the toast of the festival in Locarno, Italy.  The next night you’re standing behind three feet of mahogany, pouring drinks. How do you deal? ## Why Drago’s 2009 documentary, Char-ac-ter, is now required viewing for any actor who will listen to me. ## How many hours of unreleased interviews remain on the shelf and why only two made it into Char-ac-ter. ## Why sometimes going to a famous restaurant in LA can lead to people who open doors to your career (IF you’re not annoying) ## If you find a great co-writer like Logan Sparks, you can COLLABORATE and write a great script if you meet consistently, a few hours a day. ## Writing for an old-school star like Harry Dean Stanton - give him a great character, get out of his way and let him bring his magic. ## For more news on host Matthew Del Negro, follow him on Instagram (@MattyDel), Twitter (@MatthewDelNegro) or Facebook (Matthew Del Negro)   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Despite finding EXTREME success in the Fitness world, Craig Ballantyne found himself paralyzed by massive panic attacks while at the height of his earnings.  After suffering through immense fear and near-collapse, he decided to lean into the fear and came out on the other side with his life’s work dedicated to helping others find the RIGHT path for THEM, so that they wouldn’t suffer the way he did.  Finding fulfillment and purpose, he found, is TRUE success. ** Are you doing all you can do?  Being all you can be?  Chances are Craig can help you optimize your workflow and cut out the time-sucks that slow you down. ** Why your snooze button is your enemy (and hear how my college roommate removed mine in 1994) ** Can you wake up earlier and Dominate your Day before you drop the kids at school? ** I had the great fortune of attending one of Craig’s Perfect Life Workshops this summer and was blown away by his honesty, vulnerability, and ability to understand MY challenges and help ME focus on what counts most for me rather than try to impose some prefabricated, one-size-fits-all program onto my life.  I guarantee you’ll find at least one gem in Craig’s wisdom that will alter your life in some way. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Rory Cordial, one of the most soft-spoken yet articulate gentleman I know, personally cares for some of the Biggest Stars of Today, in both Entertainment & Pro Sports... but he's too classy to Name-Drop in public. ## The NUMBER ONE aspect of healing?  "Being present" ## What can Actors learn from Physical Therapists?  And how does the Body react to and relate to emotional trauma?   ## Why might Professional Tennis might be more taxing on the body than playing in the NFL? ## What's the secret to having no "No" s and how did Rory turn riding the pine throughout most of his Division 1 Football career into nothing but a positive experience full of opportunities? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Do you want to know what it takes to LITERALLY climb any mountain? ## Have you ever “failed” so epically that you were the butt of Jay Leno’s opening monologue? ## If you were born with a heart defect, would you choose to climb the highest peak on every continent and ski both poles? ## No pressure, but New York Times Best Selling Author (“On the Edge - The Art of High Impact Leadership")/Captain of America’s First Female Everest Expedition/Highly sought after corporate speaker Alison Levine can confidently answer “yes” to all of those questions.  In fact, she’s such a badass, even the Terminator appointed her to be his Deputy Finance Director when he ran for Governor of California.  But, like every other guest of 10,000 “No” s, what I love about Alison is that, despite her accomplishments, her Ego is tiny compared to her desire to serve others through education and inspiration. ## Listen in if you want to walk away feeling like there Ain’t No Mountain High Enough to keep you away from your dreams. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ever wonder who was told he was going to be the lead of A Time To Kill before he found out they were "giving it to a kid named McConaughey"? ## Ever wonder if Actors meet their spouses, and Breaking Bad's Walter White, on the sets of Soap Operas? ## Ever wonder if an Actor can say, "That's it. I'm out. I'm moving the family to Atlanta" only to be rediscovered there for the role that would resurrect his career and bring him a whole new legion of young fans? ## From the Soaps to Mortal Kombat to Wyatt Earp to Melrose Place and Teen Wolf, Linden Ashby has always kept his head on his shoulders (except when he didn't... and got fired. Or showed up at his loud neighbor's house with a shovel).  If you think your work-life is tumultuous, you will realize that you are not alone. You will realize that you can not only survive, but THRIVE (AND raise two beautiful, overachieving daughters from ONE marriage) if you've got the stamina and grit of Linden Ashby. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Amy Budden's booming resilience training business, Connect The Mind, came directly from sickness, stress and loss. It was through protecting her daughter from the harsh reactions to heavy doses of meds that Amy discovered the power of Meditation and eventually, with the aid of a decade of study, Hypnotherapy. Having stepped away from her post as one of Adam Sandler's go-to film editors to bear children, Amy "never could have written in a million years" that she would one day serve as a spiritual beacon to so many others, including one of her childhood celebrity idols. But eight miscarriages, a sick child and a painful divorce brought Amy the grief and, eventually, the strength to be able to guide others. From Actors to CEOs to Mothers and others from all walks of life, Amy leads people through their own painful experiences and out into the light of writing their own story by visualizing their desired outcome clearly and concisely. She knows from experience that sometimes everything needs to shatter in order for us to learn how strong we really are. Connect with Amy at ConnectTheMind.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

HBO, Adam McKay and Will Ferrell, Oscar Nominated Director Whit Stillman, Cannes Directorial Winner Matt Ross, The Duplass Brothers, Chris Messina... these are just a few of Doug's esteemed collaborators. To most Cinematographers over the age of 40 being honest about their feelings, 33 year old Doug Emmett's prolific career would be the source of much envy and jealousy. But to sit down with Doug to talk shop and hear about his journey to his current place in the world of Film & TV, is to love him. Articulate and humble, Doug was uneasy about being interviewed for a podcast called 10,000 "No" s, as he feels like he's lived a charmed life. But, as with anyone in any field, Doug's path to success has been paved with patience, a willingness to fail, a lot of hard work and the ability to overcome the challenges that can sometimes be presented by prickly actors or a sunset that refuses to wait for a particular film or TV show to "get the shot". Doug's journey began early, when at the ripe age of 7, his mother offered to get him and SLR film camera if he took on extra chores to help out his father, who had just suffered a hernia. That led to a mother/son mentorship, where she taught him about lenses and F-stops, and inspired him to go out and shoot videos of neighborhood kids with his brother. A great teacher encouraged him to start a TV show in HS on a local access channel which eventually led him to NYU Film School. But through all of the learning and the success, Doug's mantra has been to serve the story, serve the project and serve the director... which, as of late, sometimes means himself: see his directorial debut of the episode titled The Internet in Season 1 of HBO's Room 104.   10,000 "No" s is available for streaming or download in the podcast section of iTunes (search Matthew Del Negro and then "subscribe" to 10,000 "No" s with Matthew Del Negro), or at: http://tenthousandnos.libsyn.com/website   Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

At the age of 42, Rob Whitaker was diagnosed with Stage IV Colon Cancer. Not one to accept this news passively, Rob chose to wage his own war, with biting humor and a unique perspective on how to manage pain and setbacks. Rob's life with his wife and kids is enviable to most because he has chosen to live it to the fullest. Honest, tough and funny, Rob gets down to the brass tacks and talks about his hopes, his strategies and his fears. I'm not the only one inspired by Rob's words of wisdom, Nurses from Sloane Kettering and Doctors of Nursing up and down the Eastern seaboard have taken it upon themselves to print up the periodic email updates he sends to friends and family, and disseminate them to cancer patients and their loved ones as a guide of what to expect and how to handle the road ahead. It is my belief that these emails will some day become a book, which will inspire and encourage future cancer patients, their loved ones, and anyone looking to overcome any insurmountable obstacle. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Meet Toni Torres. If you don't know her now, you'll see her alongside me throughout Season 2 of the Amazon Original Series, Goliath. Her story of resilience starts in the ghettos of Cleveland. In the clutches of poverty, Toni, raised by two agoraphobic parents addicted to drugs, clung to her grandmother's unconditional love as her only lifeline. Seeing the Air Force as her only way out, Toni joined only to encounter sexual assault there as well. It wasn't until she was a single mother in Los Angeles that, almost by Divine Intervention, she was taken in by Tim Robbins' Theater Company, The Actor's Gang, where she found salvation and honed the skills necessary to call herself a professional Actor... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

World Champion triathlete and one of the sport's most accomplished coaches, Siri graced 10,000 "No" s with her pearls of wisdom about the mindset and gratitude that propelled her to the top of her sport. Siri was the No 1 ranked triathlete in the ITU World Cup Series in 2001 & 2002 and won the 2001 World Championship. (now just... I'm spittin' these things out like they're normal, but... I'm not even sure I'm the fastest person in my house, let alone the world). She has coached her athletes, including Ironman champion Mirinda Carfrae, to Olympic medals and World Championships in both long - and short - course racing. She lives in Boulder, Colorado (with her wife Rebekah Keat, another ridiculous triathlete I'll have on the show at some point) where she trains Team Sirius, her elite squad of pro and amateur athletes. She also saves innocent animals with her wife through their passion project, The Believe Ranch and Rescue, and is one of the warmest, most compassionate and generous-spirited people I've met, as well as the author of her memoir, "Surfacing". Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I got to sit down with Kimi, who cut her teeth in journalism working in high level positions for such little-known slackers as Diane Sawyer, Barbara Walters and Oprah Winfrey. Among other gems, Kimi shares how one of the pivotal moments in her career took place just before she graduated college when, as an intern, she was called to report on an occurrence that we would later come to know as The Columbine Massacre. She walks me through the ups and downs that eventually led her to the point where she left journalism to produce one of my favorite films of 2016, the critically acclaimed documentary, "Gleason" (if you haven't seen this, go watch it now - it will destroy you and inspire you) as a passion project to tell the story of one of her best friends. Gleason was purchased by Amazon after a competitive bidding war at the Sundance Film Festival and subsequently found itself on almost every shortlist for the Oscars. In her spare time, Kimi's underachieving work ethic helped her co-author the best-selling book, "A Letter to My Dog", which has sold eighty thousand copies around the world and has been translated into three languages. She's also raised three wonderful kids who never forget to say "please" and "thank you" to Mr. Del Negro (that's me, guys... I'm Mr. Del Negro. At least someone gives me that respect). Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this introductory episode, Matt shares how hearing the word "No" approximately 10,000 times as an Actor, coupled with having had some deep talks with impressive people throughout his life, led him to believe that he has something to add to the conversation of Perseverance.  While he's still not comfortable calling it a "show" just yet, he can tell you what you to expect.... from the types of guests, to the tone, to his hope that by digging deeper than surface soundbites from "successful" people, he and his guests can expose their own insecurities, neurosis and wrong turns to provide encouragement to listeners who may be struggling to keep moving forward. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.